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EPISODE SUMMARY In this episode, Emily sits down with Todd Baratz—sex therapist and author of How to Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind—to challenge everything you think you know about relationships. Todd dismantles the fairy tale myth of "the one" and reveals why our obsession with diagnosing every difficult person as a narcissist is keeping us stuck. From exploring how oral sex can make or break your relationship to understanding why some people view emotional depth as "too much," this conversation reframes love as messy, complicated, and beautifully imperfect. T In this episode, you'll learn: • Your relationship "shoulds" are sabotaging you—every rule you've internalized about what partners should text, do, or provide creates unnecessary conflict and anxiety; letting go of these expectations (especially "the one" who fulfills all your needs) is the first step to realistic, sustainable love • Not everyone is a narcissist—our tendency to diagnose and label ourselves and others amplifies anxiety rather than solving problems; sometimes people are just incompatible, not disordered, and that's okay • You're not "too much," you just need the right match—if someone views your emotional depth and authenticity as intensity, it's because they lack the capacity to handle genuine connection; finding someone who can meet you where you need to be met is about compatibility, not fixing yourself • Sex is really about connection—when you're craving sex, you're often actually craving intimacy, vulnerability, touch, and being truly seen; understanding this deeper need helps address desire discrepancies and creates more fulfilling sexual experiences • Dating people who can't connect emotionally—approach them with compassion and curiosity, try to create space for vulnerability, but if they can't or won't open up, accept that they might not be your person and walk away without trying to force everyone to do the work you're doing More Dr. Emily: • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily's favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you'll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let's get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let's text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. This episode is sponsored by… Bellesa EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast" Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 2:03 - Letting Go of "The One" & Outdated Relationship Rules 5:22 - How We "Should" All Over Our Relationships 7:26 - Understanding Your Intergenerational Trauma Story 10:23 - Growth Happens in Relationships, Not Just Self-Love 13:12 - Why We Keep Dating the Same Type of Person 17:16 - How to Connect With Men Who Struggle to Connect 22:38 - Listener Questions: Situationships & Communication 5:01 - Oral Sex Should Be Reciprocated (Period) 29:04 - The Truth About Mismatched Desire in Long-Term Relationships 32:46 - Five Quickie Questions with Todd Barrets 34:04 - Turnons: Emily & Erica Discuss Childhood Patterns 47:02 - The Connection Between Mental Health and Sex
EPISODE SUMMARY In this episode, Emily sits down with Amy Chan—founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp and author of Breakup Bootcamp: The Science of Rewiring Your Heart—to explore why we keep choosing the wrong partners and how to break the cycle. Amy shares her revolutionary 12-person dating experiment that forces clients to date outside their type, revealing how our "type" isn't about physical traits but the emotional patterns we unconsciously repeat. From spotting unavailable partners to understanding the difference between passionate love and companionate love, this conversation reframes dating as a discovery process rather than a high-stakes audition. Amy breaks down why great daters often struggle in relationships, how to recognize your recurring emotional patterns, and why your best friend you want to make out with might be the person you've been overlooking all along. In this episode, you'll learn: • Your "type" is an emotional pattern, not a physical one—by identifying the five main emotions from your last three relationships, you can spot the cycle you keep repeating (like anxiety from chasing unavailable partners) and consciously choose different experiences • The dating experiment that rewires your brain—dating 12 people outside your type without getting into a relationship removes the pressure of finding "the one" and trains you to be present, recognize how you actually feel with someone, and notice who genuinely treats you well • Why passionate love fades and what replaces it—the neurochemical high of early romance naturally transitions to companionate love, and understanding this shift helps you stop mistaking familiarity for incompatibility and start building the deeper intimacy that sustains long-term relationships • The dating funnel approach—treating early dates like lead generation (just asking "Am I having fun? Do I want to see them again?") instead of evaluating someone as your future life partner eliminates job-interview energy and lets authentic connection emerge naturally • Stop performing, start choosing—moving from "waiting to be chosen" to actively selecting partners based on how they make you feel (not just how they look on paper) puts you in control of your romantic life and attracts people who appreciate your authentic self More Dr. Emily: • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily's favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you'll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let's get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let's text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. This episode is sponsored by… Bellesa EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast" Bathmate- https://bathmatedirect.com/sexwithemily/v4/podcast Timestamps:
Emily breaks down her 2025 Holiday Gift Guide through the lens of the five pillars of sexual intelligence—embodiment, health, self-knowledge, self-acceptance, and collaboration. She explores how shifting from performance to presence can transform your relationship with pleasure, offering curated tools and practices that help you slow down, feel your body, and understand yourself as a sexual being. This episode is for anyone ready to move beyond quick fixes and embrace a more holistic approach to sexuality, turning intimacy into something that nourishes your whole system. In this episode, you'll learn: • The five pillars of Sex IQ create a holistic framework for understanding your sexuality and taking responsibility for your pleasure—moving you from performance to presence • Embodiment practices like breathwork and sonic wave toys help you overcome the mind-body disconnect during sex by bringing you back to physical sensations instead of staying in your head worrying about how you look or what you need to do • Self-acceptance isn't about waiting for your body to change—it's about recognizing and reframing the pleasure thieves (stress, trauma, and shame) that tell you you're unworthy, and actively replacing negative thought patterns with affirmations that honor your body right now More Dr. Emily: • The 2025 Sex With Emily Holiday Gift Guide • Apply for Emily's 1:1 Coaching Opportunity HERE or reach out to enrollment@sexwithemily.com for more information • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily's favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you'll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let's get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let's text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Shop the Holiday Gift Guide now! (See the full Gift Guide HERE) Embodiment: • LELO SONA 3- Use code EMILY20 for 20% on top of ongoing sales at lelo.com • Common Confidential Massage Butter- Use code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off at Commonconfidential.com. • Cornbread Hemp - Use code SWE for a discount at cornbreadhemp.com/swe Health: • Bathmate Hydro Pump- Use SWE10 for 10% off your order at bathmatedirect.com • HigherDOSE Infrared Sauna Blanket- Head to higherdose.com • V-Health Vaginal Rejuvenation Gel- Use code EMILY10 for 10% off at getvhealth.com • Kroma Wellness Beauty Matcha Latte - Use code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off at kromawellness.com Collaboration: • Promescent Delay Spray- Head to promescent.com • LELO F2S- Use code EMILY20 for 20% on top of ongoing sales at lelo.com • Crave Leather Handcuffs- Head to shop.sexwithemily.com/crave Self- Knowledge: • Magic Wand Mini - Head to shop.sexwithemily.com/magicwand • Je Joue Hera Flex Rabbit Vibrator - Go to sexwithemily.com/hera and use code EMILY20 for 20% off • SmartSX- Head to sexwithemily.com/smartsx Self- Acceptance: • The Class - Head to theclass.com • Droplette- Head to droplette.io This episode is sponsored by… Biolouve- Get 15% off with code EMILYPOWERMOVE @ https://biolouve.com/ Timestamps 0:00 - Introduction 1:25 - The 5 Pillars of Sex IQ Framework 2:36 - Pillar 1: Embodiment 10:23 - Pillar 2: Health 17:52 - Pillar 3: Collaboration 24:44 - Pillar 4: Self-Knowledge 29:39 - Pillar 5: Self-Acceptance 34:21 - Wrap-Up
EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Try Timeline today! Text “EMILY” to 57237 and claim your FREE 3-day Trial of Gummies. Your cells will thank you! Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Episode Description In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily sits down with Chelsey Goodan—the teenage girl whisperer whose new book "Underestimated" is revealing what happens when we actually start listening to the demographic we've been underestimating for generations. The surprisingly simple question that gets teenage girls to open up after years of shutting everyone out—and why the adults in their lives have been approaching these conversations completely backwards (hint: it's the same reason your last "how was school today?" got a one-word answer). Why teenage girls can spot your hidden agenda from a mile away, and the radical honesty approach that creates trust faster than any parenting book you've read—even when you think you're being subtle with your "protective" white lies. The age that girls start dieting that will make you rethink every compliment you've ever given a child—and the unconscious behavior women are modeling that's sabotaging the next generation's relationship with their bodies before they even hit puberty. That thing you keep saying is "fine" when it's absolutely not fine, and how the people-pleasing patterns you picked up as a teenage girl are still running your sex life, your relationships, and every dinner party you've ever thrown. The connection between your relationship to sex and your actual power that nobody talks about—and why embracing your "weird" might be the permission slip you need to stop performing and start feeling. Plus: why giving girls agency doesn't mean abandoning your role as a parent, and the one body-related comment you should never make to a teenage girl, even when you think you're being helpful. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 2:24 - The Power of Radical Honesty in Building Trust 7:00 - Why Perfectionism and People-Pleasing Start in Teenage Years 11:44 - Sexuality, Consent, and the Double Standards Girls Face 18:14 - Slut-Shaming: How It Wounds Girls and What We Can Do 21:04 - Teaching Girls Their Anatomy: Why "Vulva" Matters 24:20 - Breaking the Cycle of Shame Around Sex 29:04 - Gen Z Friendships: Girls Supporting Girls Instead of Competing 32:35 - Healing Your Inner Teenage Girl as an Adult 38:43 - The Performance Trap: Why Girls Can't Get Out of Their Heads During Sex 43:09 - Overcoming Sexual Anxiety: Practical Advice for Women 46:24 - Body Image Wounds: How Moms' Self-Criticism Impacts Daughters
EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Sponsored by Je Joue https://www.jejoue.com/products/hera-flex-rabbit-vibrator?utm_source=SWE-HeraFLEXPODCAST&utm_medium=SWE-HeraFLEXPODCAST Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Episode Description Jordana Abraham and Jared Freed from the U Up? podcast join Dr. Emily for a lively conversation about navigating modern dating without losing your mind. They kick things off with dating horror stories—including Jared's epic backwards fall off a patio chair that took out a sandwich board and a heat lamp. The conversation dives into why so many dates feel like obligations instead of opportunities. Jared and Jordana explain the "sure, I'll go" trap—how settling for matches that are just "fine" leads to boring dates and dating burnout. They emphasize trusting your gut and only going on dates when you're genuinely excited, not just because you feel like you should. They tackle dating app fatigue, discussing why some people thrive on apps while others find them soul-crushing. The key insight: it's about how you use them. Treating apps like a binge-worthy Netflix show instead of something you check in on intentionally (like one hour a week) kills the fun and makes everything feel transactional. The episode includes a listener question about a toxic long-distance relationship where a 22-year-old woman keeps breaking up and getting back together with an insecure boyfriend who constantly asks "are you still into me?" Jared and Jordana break down why this is a mismatch built on drama rather than trust, why her friends are right to be concerned, and how to choose which friends to actually listen to when it comes to relationship advice. They wrap with quickfire questions about turn-ons, turn-offs, what makes good sex, and the number one thing everyone should know: just because the sex is good doesn't mean the relationship is good. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 4:32 - Why "Sure, I'll Go" is Ruining Your Dating Life 10:09 - Dating App Profile Tips That Actually Work 12:43 - The Truth About Casual Sex on Dating Apps 18:13 - Are You Too Picky or Protecting Your Peace? 20:15 - The Ick Factor: When Small Things End Relationships 24:24 - Friend Zone Reality Check: When They're Not Into You 30:20 - Age Gap Sex Anxiety: Why He's Holding Back 33:24 - Toxic Long-Distance Relationship Red Flags 37:40 - Five Quickies: Turn-Ons, Turn-Offs & Sex Advice
WELCOME TO PART 2, b*tches! :)We ended Part 1 with how to give your man a good head and the #1 Oral Method to make a girl c*m. Now listen up as Emily shows me the best way to find the REAL G-Spot. We end the episode with tips to not c*m too fast, hilarious fan sex stories and how I ended up in the ER after a fingering gone wrong.Connect with Dr. Emily Morse:WebsiteInstagramSex with Emily PodcastConnect with me on:InstagramYouTubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Sponsored by Je Joue https://www.jejoue.com/products/hera-flex-rabbit-vibrator?utm_source=SWE-HeraFLEXPODCAST&utm_medium=SWE-HeraFLEXPODCAST Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Episode Description In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily sits down with Liz Moody—bestselling author, podcast host, and the woman who turned her life around from severe agoraphobia to help others level up their lives with science-backed strategies. The morbid exercise that Liz swears by for making better decisions in bed and everywhere else—and why thinking about your 85-year-old self might be the permission slip you need to stop worrying about how your thighs look in those pants. Why "friends with benefits" might mean something completely different to you than it does to your partner—and the crucial conversation most couples skip before slapping labels on their relationship (spoiler: this applies to marriage too). The biggest myth about what makes someone "good" in bed, and why Liz believes your sex life can transform no matter where you're starting from. That one body part you've never considered an erogenous zone—until Liz reveals hers and suddenly you're rethinking everything you thought you knew about turn-ons. The real reason habits fail (hint: it's not about willpower)—and why letting go of routines that once served you doesn't make you a failure, it makes you self-aware. Plus: the conversation starter deck that's saving marriages by getting couples on the same page about money, desire, childhood trauma, and the question "how much do you need to feel safe?" that revealed way more than Liz expected. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 2:00 - The 100 Ways Framework: Spring Cleaning Your Life 5:00 - Think About Your Death: The Power of Zoom-Out Perspective 8:07 - Micro Workouts: Movement for Mental Health, Not Body Size 9:55 - Rewire Your Brain for Happiness: The 5-Second Joy Practice 16:00 - Be the CEO of Your Household: Weekly Relationship Meetings 18:30 - Sex Starts When You Wake Up: Micro Intimacy Throughout the Day 21:47 - Why Communication Makes Sex Better After 15 Years 28:12 - Let Your Partner Surprise You: Breaking Free from Old Resentments 30:00 - Your Personal Bill of Rights (Including Sexual Rights) 32:05 - The Orgasm Gap: Why 20 Minutes is Normal 36:24 - Body Confidence: Your Body is for Living, Not Looking 42:01 - Boundaries as Energy Protection (Not Just Saying "No") 49:51 - Friends with Benefits to Dating: Defining Your Relationship 56:28 - Lightning Round: Biggest Turn-Ons & Sex Advice
EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Try Timeline today! Text “EMILY” to 57237 and claim your FREE 3-day Trial of Gummies. Your cells will thank you! Magnesium, multiplied. 10 forms for total support. Go to https://qualialife.com/SEXWITHEMILY to get 50% off and save an extra 15% with the code SEXWITHEMILY. Sponsored by Je Joue https://www.jejoue.com/products/hera-flex-rabbit-vibrator?utm_source=SWE-HeraFLEXPODCAST&utm_medium=SWE-HeraFLEXPODCAST Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Episode Description In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily and producer Erica tackle your trickiest relationship and sex questions—and some of these situations are messier than you think. The wife having sex 5+ times a week who's being pressured to set midnight alarms so her husband can wake her up for more—why this isn't about frequency at all, and the real need he's actually trying to fill. That guy who insists oral sex should only happen "on special occasions" because it gets "taken for granted": what this scarcity mindset reveals about his past relationships, his skill anxiety, or his actual preference—and whether this is a dealbreaker you're discovering early. The biological reason men wake up ready for sex in the middle of the night while their partners are deep asleep—and why disrupting your sleep hygiene to feel "desired" is a Band-Aid on a much deeper issue. When your partner believes doing something too often creates expectations they can't meet: the philosophy problem that shows up in bed and everywhere else, and what "taken for granted" really means about their view on compliments, effort, and intimacy. Why oral sex as foreplay is the norm, not the exception—and how to navigate a partner who sees it as the main event that loses its magic with repetition. Plus: the conversation framework for exploring where your partner's sexual beliefs actually come from, and why the first few months of dating are just data collection on whether you're actually compatible. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 1:01 - Question 1: Rejecting Partner's Advances in the Middle of the Night 6:42 - Understanding Nocturnal Erections and Gender Differences in Arousal 10:10 - Question 2: Feeling Done with a Sexless Marriage After 7 Years 16:20 - Question 3: Getting Upset When Partner Doesn't Want Sex (Mismatched Libidos) 21:28 - Question 4: Dealing with Low Libido and Performance Anxiety at 42 25:10 - Question 5: Wanting Oral Sex Every Time, Not Just Special Occasions 32:52 - Closing Thoughts and How to Connect with Dr. Emily
From getting your taco licked to c*mming EVERY time, this week's episode is SO good, I'm giving you TWO parts.Welcome to part 1 besties :)I have Renowned sex therapist Emily Morse join us to teach you how to cum over and over again, so take out your notepad and get ready to take some notes. We discuss how to, love your body and vageen, get your man to go down on you, tips for giving a wifey blowie, facts vs myths about intercourse, the #1 ORAL METHOD THAT WILL MAKE YOUR GIRL C*M EVERY TIME, and more!!!TUNE IN NEXT WEEK FOR PT. 2!!! And don't forget to leave a 5 star review on the apple podcast app!Connect with me on:InstagramYouTubeConnect with Dr. Emily Morse:WebsiteInstagramSex with Emily PodcastToday's episode is brought to you by:Bellesa: EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibeTM OR a FREE Rose toy with any WhisperTM order! CLAIM YOUR FREE GIFT HERE.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Episode Description In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily takes live listener calls and answers the questions you're dying to ask but won't. A caller discovers she can only finish one very specific way—what's really happening in your pelvis when your legs are straight, and why changing this pattern might unlock entirely new pleasure. The masturbation habit that's secretly limiting your orgasms—and the exploration technique that expands your body's repertoire without any pressure to "fix" yourself. Why one couple finds anal more pleasurable than vaginal sex, what this reveals about nerve endings you didn't know you had, and the specialist who can actually help if penetration hurts. Plus, what happens when you stop chasing what you think should feel good and start discovering what actually does. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 1:57 - Orgasming with Straight Legs: Finding Positions That Work for Your Body 7:42 - Why Having One Way to Orgasm Is Completely Normal 8:38 - Dating After Loss: Navigating Chastity Play & Delayed Ejaculation 16:21 - Male Chastity Explained: Pleasure Beyond the Dominant Role 17:43 - Erotic Lactation: A Surprisingly Common Intimacy Practice 24:15 - When Anal Sex Feels Better Than Vaginal: Understanding Different Pleasure Pathways 27:40 - The Clitoris Extends Internally: Why Anal Orgasms Are Possible 29:37 - Dealing with Vaginal Pain: You Don't Have to Live with Discomfort
EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymo... Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Sponsored by Je Joue https://www.jejoue.com/products/hera-flex-rabbit-vibrator?utm_source=SWE-HeraFLEXPODCAST&utm_medium=SWE-HeraFLEXPODCAST In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily brings on sex educator Dr. Emily Nagoski for a live conversation—and they get brutally honest about their own sex lives falling apart. Why even bestselling sex experts lose their desire—and how Dr. Emily's nervous system was so shot she didn't even want orgasms. The myth that kept her terrified to stop sex once it started: believing "blue balls" required hospitalization—and the truth that you can stop and start anytime. A parent worried their college-age kids aren't having sex or relationships—the questions to ask instead of pushing sex on them, and why nobody dies from not having sex but people do die from loneliness. The most important thing parents can do around sexuality: unlearn your own shame first—because your embarrassment when they ask questions teaches them more than any words ever could. The reframe for anyone struggling with desire: what you actually want when you want sex (it's not orgasm—you can do that alone), and what you don't want when you don't want sex. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 2:10 - The Five R's Framework for Difficult Conversations 4:58 - How Phones Are Destroying Teen Connection & Intimacy 7:08 - Talking to Kids About Porn: The Social Justice Approach 10:12 - What to Do When Your Kid Watches Porn (Real Parent Story) 14:34 - The Power of Repair in All Relationships 20:30 - Navigating Gender, Pronouns & Sexual Identity with Kids 28:26 - Why We Need to Stop Gendering Empathy 34:00 - Raising Sexually Healthy Humans Without Being Weird 38:30 - My Teenager Found My Vibrator: What Now? 39:46 - Five Quickfire Questions on Sex & Relationships
EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily brings on sex educator Dr. Emily Nagoski for a live conversation—and they get brutally honest about their own sex lives falling apart. Why even bestselling sex experts lose their desire—and how Dr. Emily's nervous system was so shot she didn't even want orgasms. The myth that kept her terrified to stop sex once it started: believing "blue balls" required hospitalization—and the truth that you can stop and start anytime. A parent worried their college-age kids aren't having sex or relationships—the questions to ask instead of pushing sex on them, and why nobody dies from not having sex but people do die from loneliness. The most important thing parents can do around sexuality: unlearn your own shame first—because your embarrassment when they ask questions teaches them more than any words ever could. The reframe for anyone struggling with desire: what you actually want when you want sex (it's not orgasm—you can do that alone), and what you don't want when you don't want sex. Timestamps: 0:00 – Introduction 1:26 – Sex Experts Lose Desire Too 7:24 – The Pleasure Thieves 17:53 – Why It's Okay to Stop During Sex 20:20 – Cold Feet and Orgasms 25:50 – The Role of Shame 30:17 – Navigating Social Media Censorship 35:41 – Teaching Kids About Sex 38:47 – The Patriarchy Problem 39:49 – Closing
EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily sits down with celebrity dating coach Damona Hoffman to dismantle the fairy tales keeping you stuck in your dating life. Why your mile-long partner checklist (six feet tall, specific job, perfect abs) is sabotaging your search for real compatibility—and the question you should ask instead: "How do I want to feel?" The difference between dating for superficial traits versus shared life goals—why wanting a yoga partner matters way less than wanting the freedom to pursue your own interests in a relationship. A caller who's getting ghosted on dating apps wonders if women have too many options—the real reason your profile isn't working, and it has nothing to do with competition. The "three C's" that'll transform your dating profile overnight: strategic color to stand out, context that tells your story, and character that shows who you really are (no sunglasses photos—we need to see your eyes). Why "chemistry at first sight" is actually lust, and you can't know if you love someone the minute you look into their eyes—the three-date rule that gives real connection time to build. The reframe that takes the pressure off: stop trying to be liked and start being upfront about what you want—it'll filter out the wrong people and attract your actual match. Timestamps:
Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily brings back holistic psychologist Dr. Scott Lyons for live caller coaching sessions that'll change how you think about sex and dating. A woman married 10 years whose husband won't explore sexually at all—why "I want to try new things" might sound like "what we're doing isn't good enough" to a partner raised in a conservative home. What "deepthroating" really represents when your partner grew up being told sex was wrong—and the outside-the-bedroom conversation they need to have before anything changes in bed. A woman terrified about her first date after a breakup because she thinks the sex will be "unwilling"—the breathwork practice that gets you out of your anxious mind and into your confident body. Why a first date is just a "warm-up" to see if you're having fun, not an audition for marriage—and how to tell if someone's worth seeing naked just by watching how they treat wait staff. The reframe that takes all the pressure off dating: ditch the checklist, get present in your body, and remember you're the gatekeeper with all the power. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 2:11 - Growing Up Conservative: How Family Beliefs Kill Your Sex Life 6:39 - The Compliment Sandwich: How to Ask for What You Want 9:46 - Antidepressants Killed Our Sex Life: Now What? 12:44 - Medical Issues vs. Sexual Needs: Finding Balance 16:03 - The Power of Hope: Changing Your Sexual Dynamic Instantly 19:03 - Beyond Penetration: Alternative Ways to Stay Connected 24:57 - Dating After Great Sex: Overcoming Fear of Bad Partners 29:44 - First Date Anxiety: Embodiment Practice Before Going Out 34:47 - Stop Performing on Dates: Be Your Authentic Self Instead
Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily and producer Erica dive into your questions about sex and relationships. A woman who's been living with her partner for over a year and can't stand his unsexy pecks on the lips anymore—why moving in together kills sexual tension and the surprising move she needs to make instead of waiting for him to change. The listener who ended a relationship because their partner refused to give oral sex—why sexual dealbreakers are valid and the one question Dr. Emily wishes she'd asked before walking away. A man in England with a specific fetish whose girlfriend gets "nasty and defensive" every time he tries to talk about sex—the cultural shame around sex talk that's blocking exploration and whether therapy books can replace actual therapy. Why "I don't want to seem pushy" is code for "we have a communication problem"—and the difference between a fantasy you'd like to explore and a fetish that's a requirement for arousal. The real reason your partner gets defensive when you bring up sex (spoiler: it's not about you). Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 3:14 - Why Living Together Kills Sexual Tension (And How to Fix It) 8:43 - Dating Someone with Herpes: What You Need to Know 10:32 - The Truth About Herpes Transmission and Risk 15:00 - My Partner Won't Give Oral: Should I Break Up? 17:43 - How to Have the Difficult Oral Sex Conversation 21:56 - When Your Partner Won't Explore Your Fetish 23:15 - Defensiveness in Sex Talks: Red Flag or Fixable? 25:54 - When Sexual Incompatibility Becomes a Deal Breaker
EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily tackles why starting intimate conversations early matters more than waiting for the "right time"—and how your sex life begins long before you get to the bedroom. A 51-year-old in Spain has been dating someone gorgeous for six weeks with incredible chemistry but zero penetrative sex—discover why having the "are we ready?" conversation over dinner (not after making out) prevents months of unnecessary confusion. Someone married for years realizes they're bisexual but fears coming out will end everything—learn the gradual approach that starts with general sex conversations, not dropping identity bombshells. A long-term couple has never discussed desires or fantasies despite years together—find out why waiting until there's a problem to talk about sex means you've already waited too long. Timestamps: EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily tackles why starting intimate conversations early matters more than waiting for the "right time"—and how your sex life begins long before you get to the bedroom. A 51-year-old in Spain has been dating someone gorgeous for six weeks with incredible chemistry but zero penetrative sex—discover why having the "are we ready?" conversation over dinner (not after making out) prevents months of unnecessary confusion. Someone married for years realizes they're bisexual but fears coming out will end everything—learn the gradual approach that starts with general sex conversations, not dropping identity bombshells. A long-term couple has never discussed desires or fantasies despite years together—find out why waiting until there's a problem to talk about sex means you've already waited too long. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 1:17 - When to Have "The Sex Talk" in a New Relationship 3:26 - Building Sexual Anticipation vs. Rushing Into Sex 5:25 - How to Talk About Sex Before You've Had Sex 8:14 - Faking Orgasms: Why It Hurts Both Partners 11:31 - Reader Question: Navigating Painful Sex & Communication 16:42 - Creating Safety When Past Experiences Were Painful 20:38 - The Importance of Lube and Going Slow 24:16 - Reader Question: Coming Out as Bisexual in Marriage 28:36 - Starting Conversations About Desires & Fantasies 30:38 - Living Your Sexual Truth at Any Age 32:24 - Practical Steps for Difficult Conversations
EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily breaks down why the sex positions everyone asks about aren't actually the secret to great sex—but learning to move your body intentionally might be. A 21-year-old people pleaser can't stop until her boyfriend finishes (even when exhausted) but worries constantly when he's pleasuring her—discover why treating sex like a finish line kills orgasms. Someone's uncomfortable being on top because she feels exposed and on display—learn the slow-motion approach that makes cowgirl about grinding pleasure, not bouncing performance. A woman's boyfriend has a strongly curved penis causing discomfort, plus he can't orgasm during sex despite being fine alone—find out why curved penises are actually G-spot advantages and why sex lasting "too long" damages vulva owners. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 1:04 - People Pleaser Advice: Breaking Sexual Double Standards 2:46 - The Importance of Being Present During Sex 3:40 - Reframing Sex as a Dance, Not a Finish Line 5:04 - The 69 Position: Practical Tips & Variations 6:25 - Side-by-Side 69: The Game Changer Position 11:42 - Doggy Style Deep Dive: Angles & Modifications 18:09 - Missionary Reimagined: Why It's Underrated 25:07 - Cowgirl Position: Taking Control of Your Pleasure 28:02 - Debunking the Coconut TikTok Trend 29:15 - The Lotus Position: Intimacy & Tantric Connection
EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, wellness educator Lauren Roxburgh explains why Western medicine discarded the body system that might be blocking your orgasms—and how to bring it back online. Lauren reveals fascia: the communication network your body uses to record trauma, send arousal signals, and feel everything. Medical schools in the 1900s threw it away as "packing wrap" without studying it. Now we know it's your sixth sense, and when it's congested, you age faster and feel less. A woman with a tilted uterus faces sudden stabbing pain with her well-endowed partner after a decade of great sex—discover why the diagnosis isn't the whole story. Someone's tried every technique for premature ejaculation with zero results—learn why most solutions create the opposite effect and what pro athletes know about lasting longer. A post-menopausal woman on hormones still bleeds during painful sex—hear which ancient practices work when Western medicine falls short. Lauren teaches the reverse Kegel (why opening beats squeezing), how stress clenches your pelvic floor without you knowing, why Brazilians walk differently than Westerners and what that reveals about sexual energy, and the breathing pattern that pumps toxins from your brain while awakening sensation below. If pain during sex, premature ejaculation, or post-menopausal dryness have stumped your doctors, this reveals what they're missing. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 1:16 - What is Fascia? The Body's Communication Network Explained 5:05 - Why Western Medicine Ignored Fascia Until Now 9:36 - How Fascia Impacts Sexual Pleasure and Embodiment 15:03 - Releasing Trauma Stored in Your Body's Tissues 21:27 - The Blood Flow Problem Behind Sexual Dysfunction 27:34 - Pain During Sex: Understanding Your Pelvic Floor 30:24 - The Reverse Kegel Technique for Better Orgasms 33:40 - Painful Sex with Tilted Uterus: Solutions Beyond Positions 38:38 - Fixing Lifelong Premature Ejaculation with Body Work 43:07 - Postmenopausal Pain: When Hormones Aren't Enough
EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Dr. Emily answers the questions keeping you up at night: Can bodies be trained to orgasm only one way? When does a kink cross from preference to problem? Is interactive masturbation cheating? Someone orgasms easily alone but never with partners in her open marriage—the neural pathway explanation might surprise you. A husband discovered a humiliation kink after 20 years and his wife doesn't understand why degradation equals arousal—learn what core erotic desires reveal about childhood and why shame keeps most people silent. A woman caught her boyfriend on interactive sex sites after they'd set boundaries—discover when getting curious works better than getting angry, and whether online encounters count as infidelity. Someone raised in sexual repression feels guilty choosing masturbation over partner sex—hear why solo pleasure threatens no one and why that guilt isn't really yours. Then there's the couple having sex twice daily but she rarely orgasms—find out why more isn't better and how to ask for what you need without killing desire. The episode tackles when preference becomes selfishness, why communication about kinks matters more than understanding them, and how bodies get wired to expect certain pleasure patterns. If you've been wondering whether your desires are normal or your boundaries are valid, this gives you permission to stop wondering. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 1:15 - Charlie's Question: How to Orgasm with a Partner 2:34 - Understanding Your Body's Neural Pathways 4:08 - Teaching Multiple Partners Your Pleasure 6:32 - The Value of Mutual Masturbation 7:56 - Ricky's Question: Small Penis Humiliation Kink 10:32 - Understanding Core Erotic Desires 13:33 - Erica's Question: Partner Using Chatterbait 16:24 - Setting Boundaries Around Interactive Sex Sites 20:40 - Rachel's Question: Guilt About Masturbating in Relationships 23:35 - Why Solo Sex Matters Even When Partnered 25:05 - Giovani's Question: Sex Twice Daily But Not Orgasming 27:11 - Quality Over Quantity: Prioritizing Foreplay
EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Dr. Emily and producer Erica judge whether you're the asshole when sex drives don't match, and the verdicts might surprise you. A woman daydreams about affairs while her older husband's libido fades—but is desire actually the problem? A man's wife refuses both sex and therapy because he doesn't earn enough—discover why money complaints are never really about money. Someone only wants to receive pleasure, never give it—where's the line between preference and selfishness? Then the hardest question: what do you do when you've tried everything for a decade and still have sex twice a year with someone who recoils at your touch but swears you're their person? Dr. Emily delivers tough love about the "everything but sex" trap, why refusing therapy while refusing intimacy is relationship sabotage, and the brutal truth about waiting for people to change. She breaks down the progression from frustration to resentment to contempt, and issues a wake-up call about the information you're ignoring right now in your own relationship. If you're walking on eggshells, wondering if your needs are unreasonable, or waiting for things to magically improve, this tells you what you need to hear. Timestamps:
EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Sex educator Susan Bratton reveals why the #1 complaint in heterosexual relationships—"she can't orgasm during intercourse"—isn't about broken bodies, but broken information. With techniques that have her inbox flooded with exclamation points, Susan dismantles everything you thought you knew about penetrative sex. Discover why rushing is killing your pleasure, what ancient Daoists knew about rhythm that porn never taught you, and the counterintuitive move that makes orgasm easier (hint: it's not what you're doing now). Susan explains the arousal gap nobody talks about, reframes the vagina in a way that will change how you touch it, and teaches the "Heart Tongue" approach that transforms mechanical sex into connection. A 50-year-old man asks why his girlfriend can't climax during sex despite trying everything. A 25-year-old wonders if she's ever actually had an orgasm and why "squirting" feels like nothing. Susan guides both through tissue activation, sacred self-pleasure, and why the entrance to the vagina needs to be courted, not conquered. Susan claims her best sex ever and credits specific practices for looking a decade younger than her peers. She shares the "Lips-Nips-Clit Axis," why opening matters more than tightening, and her most-thanked technique involving a 10-count that toggles the nervous system. If you've been chasing sensation instead of connection, this episode rewrites the playbook. Timestamps:
EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily Q&A episode, Dr. Emily and producer Erica tackle listener questions about fantasies, relationships, and navigating sexual compatibility. They explore cuckolding—one of America's most common fantasies—discussing why partners want to watch their significant other with someone else, the importance of comprehensive pre-negotiation, and why "one and done" promises rarely hold true. A listener living with his ex-boyfriend learns why moving on sexually is so difficult when you're still sharing space, and gets permission to stop pressuring himself during the healing process. The conversation addresses adult baby/diaper fetishes, distinguishing between core erotic desires that are requirements versus nice-to-have fantasies, and explores creative solutions like working with specialized sex workers when partners aren't compatible. Finally, they dissect a toxic relationship pattern where one partner constantly shifts between attraction and rejection, helping a listener recognize when it's time to walk away. Throughout, Dr. Emily emphasizes that early relationship sex fueled by new relationship energy doesn't last forever, the importance of understanding your own pleasure rather than just servicing a partner's wants, and why we need to stop dating people based on their potential to change. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 1:25 - My Boyfriend Wants to Watch Me Have Sex with Another Man 6:02 - Why Cuckolding is One of America's Most Common Fantasies 8:55 - How Do I Move On When I'm Still Living with My Ex? 14:59 - My Wife Thinks My Fetish is Demonic - Is This Marriage Over? 20:53 - He Says I'm Not Attractive Enough Anymore - What Do I Do? 23:29 - Red Flags: When Your Partner Wants You to Change Your Body 26:10 - Closing Thoughts: Stop Fighting for Approval, Start Honoring Your Needs
EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily's first guest in the new studio is psychologist Dr. Scott Lyons, author of Addicted to Drama: Healing Dependency on Crisis and Chaos in Yourself and Others. Dr. Lyons reveals how drama addiction isn't just obvious chaos—it's overscheduling, inability to tolerate stillness, and sabotaging intimacy when vulnerability feels threatening. He explains the biology: drama provides energy, numbs pain, and creates sensation that makes us feel alive. Listener questions address a 21-year-old spiraling after her boyfriend called an actress sexy, and a 30-year-old wanting kinkier sex but getting triggered. Dr. Lyons and Dr. Emily emphasize distinguishing sensation-seeking from authentic connection, coming back to the body when triggered, and recognizing how childhood patterns shape adult sexuality and relationships. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 3:32 - The Hidden Signs of Drama Addiction You Might Be Missing 9:24 - How Trauma Lives in Your Body and Shapes Your Behavior 13:36 - Why Drama Shows Up in Your Relationships and Sex Life 15:37 - Why Do I Feel Terrible When My Partner Comments on Other People? 27:35 - The Currency of Love: How Childhood Chaos Affects Adult Relationships 33:48 - I Want Freaky Sex But My Body Keeps Freezing Up 42:52 - Understanding Dissociation and Finding Your Way Back Home 50:00 - How Drama Addiction Blocks True Sexual Pleasure and Intimacy 52:32 - Five Quickie Questions with Dr. Scott Lyons
EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily and producer Erica answer listener questions covering intimate challenges from anal play to mismatched libidos. The episode addresses a woman whose boyfriend wants to try receiving anal rimming but can't relax into it, examining masculinity myths around pleasure. They cover penis cage safety during chastity play and what to watch for during extended use. Listeners also hear from a woman whose partner never initiates sex despite therapy, someone experiencing numbness during oral sex, and a recently divorced woman struggling to reclaim her sex drive. Throughout, Emily emphasizes communication outside the bedroom, understanding our bodies' responses, and reclaiming sexuality as something we own for ourselves—not something tied exclusively to our partners. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 1:15 - Helping Your Partner Feel Comfortable with Anal Play 6:38 - Penis Cage Safety & Chastity Play Guidelines 13:49 - When Your Partner Never Initiates Sex 18:45 - Numbness & Tingling During Oral Sex Explained 23:07 - Reclaiming Your Sex Drive After Divorce
EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily teams up with anthropologist Dr. Wednesday Martin to tackle pornography—one of modern sexuality's most polarizing topics. From addressing listener concerns about partners who need porn to climax, to exploring how porn shapes our sexual behaviors and expectations. The episode examines real listener scenarios including a woman feeling inadequate because her boyfriend requires porn and dirty talk about other women to orgasm, and another struggling with her partner's search history filled with degrading terms. Emily and Wednesday also dive into the research on porn's actual impact on sexual aggression, the rise of choking and other behaviors in mainstream sexual culture, and the difference between ethical porn and typical productions. Throughout the discussion, they emphasize that porn itself isn't the problem—it's often a communication issue. The episode explores how couples can use porn as a tool for sexual exploration and self-knowledge rather than a source of shame or conflict, while acknowledging the legitimate concerns about how mainstream porn represents sexuality and consent. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 4:27 - Historical Context: Porn Has Always Existed 8:23 - First Porn Experiences 17:20 - Research Findings: Porn's Actual Impact on Behavior 27:47 - Case Study: When Porn Becomes a Relationship Issue 37:32 - Ethical Porn vs. Mainstream 41:56 - Using Porn as a Learning Tool for Self-Discovery 50:42 - Communication Strategies: Talking About Porn Preferences 57:17 - Final Thoughts
EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. 7 Signs of Sexual Compatibility: https://sexwithemily.com/7-signs-of-sexual-compatibility-2/ SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Episode Description: In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily and producer Eric tackle listener-submitted "Am I The Asshole" scenarios focused on sex, dating, and relationships. From a wife refusing threesomes her husband demands to fix their struggling marriage, to a boyfriend dismissing his girlfriend's painful sex as exaggerated. The episode examines a daughter's shock at discovering her mother's 24/7 BDSM collar and addresses sexual compatibility deal-breakers, including a five-month relationship ending over asexuality versus mismatched libidos. They also tackle friendship boundaries when a well-meaning friend reveals intimate details about someone's sexual past to their new partner. Throughout these scenarios, Emily emphasizes that most relationship conflicts stem from lack of sexual education and communication skills rather than malicious intent. The episode reinforces the importance of honest self-reflection, clear boundaries, and recognizing when patterns aren't serving your relationships. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 1:21 - Threesome Pressure in Struggling Marriage 4:45 - Why Threesomes Don't Fix Relationships 8:03 - Dismissing Partner's Sexual Pain During Sex 11:04 - Understanding Vaginismus and Vaginal Pain 14:09 - Anal Sex Pressure Despite Clear Boundaries 17:15 - The Importance of Consensual Partners for Anal 18:46 - Discovering Mom's BDSM Collar Bombshell 22:00 - How to Have Healthy Sex Conversations with Kids 24:46 - Breaking Up Over Sexual Incompatibility 28:18 - Sexual Compatibility by 5 Months Rule 30:33 - Oversharing Friend's Threesome History 33:14 - Never Share Others' Sexual Stories
EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily sits down with Violet Benson. Violet opens up about her intentional decision to step back from penetrative sex while working through attachment patterns that clouded her judgment in relationships. How do you know when sex is creating unhealthy emotional attachment versus genuine connection? Violet shares her realization that sleeping with someone too quickly led her to ignore red flags and chase unavailable partners who mirrored her childhood feelings of being "not enough." The conversation dives into Violet's egg freezing experience, including the intense hormonal and emotional effects that doctors failed to prepare her for. Violet takes Emily's Sex IQ quiz from the book Smart Sex, reflecting on how much her relationship with her body and pleasure has evolved. They tackle a listener question about pursuing someone with major red flags just for physical chemistry, with both hosts emphasizing the importance of honest self-reflection over justification. The episode explores embracing "clinginess" in dating, why vulnerability beats playing games, and how foreplay truly starts outside the bedroom. Throughout, Emily and Violet reinforce that understanding your patterns is the first step to breaking cycles that don't serve you. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 2:13 - Violet's dating hiatus 5:42 - Turning fears into boundaries 8:37 - Understanding attachment styles and childhood trauma in relationships 11:43 - Egg freezing experience 16:17 - Managing mental health during hormonal changes 21:00 - Sex IQ Quiz 26:31 - Listener question: Detaching emotions from physical intimacy 30:30 - Why being vulnerable beats playing games 35:41 - Why people are having less sex and connection 38:15 - Top 3 tips for authentic dating and better relationships 40:42 - Rapid-fire questions: Turn-ons, turn-offs, and relationship advice
EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Episode Description In this Sex with Emily hotline episode, Dr. Emily answers honest questions about sex, relationships, and pleasure. Ben struggles with intrusive thoughts about his girlfriend's sexual past—how do generational differences in sexual norms play a role, and what can he do when his mind won't stop wandering? A caller whose day-long fantasies about his wife cause premature ejaculation wonders if this is actually a problem. Emily explores when mental foreplay becomes too much of a good thing and how to approach these conversations with your partner. For finding thirds for threesomes, what's the safest way to meet like-minded people? Emily discusses the essential conversations couples need to have before inviting someone into their bedroom. Nathan worries his girlfriend only orgasms with toys despite her past relationships not requiring them. Is this about his performance, her anatomy, or something deeper about emotional connection and letting go? Finally, how do you rebuild your relationship with your own sexuality after a major life change? Emily helps a caller navigate solo pleasure during divorce when motivation is low and old fantasies no longer serve. Throughout, Emily reinforces that sexual satisfaction looks different for everyone. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 1:29 - Dealing with Partner's Sexual Past 5:42 - How to Replace Negative Thoughts with Positive Relationship Focus 11:45 - Premature Ejaculation from All-Day Mental Arousal 17:07 - Starting Sexting in Long-Term Relationships 20:04 - Finding a Third for Threesomes 29:52 - The Field Effect 34:13 - When Emotional Connection Changes Physical Response 40:13 - Prioritizing Solo Pleasure During Divorce and Life Transitions 46:44 - Closing Thoughts and Resources
EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Jennifer Freed reveals why true sexiness comes from daring to be authentically yourself—not trying to imitate anyone else—and how confidence means being good with yourself without waiting for approval. Then sex educator Shani Hart shares her game-changing tip for staying aroused during oral sex (hint: it involves a Magic Wand), her mission to bring quality pleasure products to underserved communities, and why she tells customers that if their partner controls their toy purchases, it's a major red flag. Dr. Freed and Emily explore the difference between sexiness and preferences, discussing how we can find attraction beyond our usual type when we recognize someone's soul. Through Shani's journey from pop-up girlfriend to certified sex educator, Emily and Shani tackle the lack of diversity in the sex toy industry and why quality pleasure products should be accessible to all communities. Shani breaks down her four essential blowjob tips—enthusiasm, wetness, communication, and technique—explaining why "it's called a job for a reason" and sharing her favorite products for enhancing pleasure. They also dive into CBD's benefits for sexual wellness, from reducing anxiety and increasing blood flow to helping rewire the brain's association between sex and pain for people with conditions like endometriosis. Shani discusses her favorite current toy (the Womanizer Duo with smart silent technology) and why she believes your own pleasure should be a priority. Timestamps: 0:28 - Intro 1:48 - Authenticity vs Performance in Relationships 3:26 - Overcoming Impostor Syndrome in Dating 5:41 - Why Hiding Your True Self Kills Intimacy 10:26 - Sexual Preferences vs What Makes Someone Sexy 13:42 - Being Present During Sex Creates New Experiences 17:22 - From Sex Shop Employee to Certified Sex Educator 20:26 - Creating Quality Sex Education in Underserved Communities 24:43 - When Partners Control Your Pleasure (Red Flags) 27:48 - Magic Wand Multi-Use Tips for Solo and Partner Play 29:33 - Four Essential Oral Sex Techniques That Actually Work 31:45 - Racism and Exclusion in the Sex Toy Industry 36:02 - CBD for Better Sex: Anxiety, Pain Relief, and Enhanced Pleasure 38:48 - Quick Fire Questions: Biggest Turn-Ons and Turnoffs
Emily Morse, popularly known as 'Sex with Emily,' has over 20 years of experience, best-selling books, and the Smart Sex Membership, shares her expertise on the complexities of female sexuality, particularly during menopause. The discussion covers how menopausal women can reconnect with their bodies, understand and reclaim pleasure, and enhance their sexual lives through various means such as solo sex, pelvic floor health, and the use of innovative sexual tools. Emily focuses on the importance of self-compassion, pleasure as a daily practice, and the unexpected journey towards better health and creativity through a mindful approach to sex. To view full show notes, more information on our guests, resources mentioned in the episode, discount codes, transcripts, and more, visit https://drmindypelz.com/ep305 Emily Morse is a doctor of human sexuality and the host of the award-winning sexuality podcast, "Sex with Emily," which has been on air for nearly two decades. She is a MasterClass instructor on sex and communication and was previously a radio host and executive producer on SiriusXM. She has been profiled in The New York Times, Forbes, and Men's Health and has been featured by The Today Show, Conan, Entertainment Tonight, Glamour, Cosmopolitan, Bustle and elsewhere. Check out our fasting membership at https://esetacademy.drmindypelz.com. Please note our medical disclaimer.
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EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, psychiatrist Dr. Will Siu reveals why he went from atheist to spiritual devotee in 20 minutes during his first psychedelic experience—and how that breakthrough taught him that anger is actually a mask for feeling weak. Will shares his journey from achieving external success while feeling internally miserable to discovering the profound connection between emotional healing and sexual satisfaction. He breaks down his six fundamental emotions framework and explains why "You're not getting angry because you're tough—you're getting angry because you feel weak," a revelation that changed how he approached both therapy and intimacy. Through candid stories about religious sexual shame and the universal male experience of measuring penis size with a ruler, Will demonstrates how vulnerability can actually increase attraction. The conversation tackles why less than 5% of therapy clients discuss sex directly, how working on general insecurities often improves bedroom experiences more than focusing on sex itself, and practical steps for finding partners who can hold space for authentic emotional expression. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 2:03 - From Harvard Success to Internal Misery 7:43 - First Psychedelic Experience 12:14 - The Six Core Emotions 15:08 - The Truth About Male Anger 18:07 - Why Women's Anger is Suppressed and Its Sexual Consequences 22:02 - Male Penis Insecurities 26:01 - The Power of Authenticity Over Vulnerability in Relationships 29:22 - Finding Examples of Healthy Relationships in Modern Culture 32:17 - Building Male Mentorship and Emotional Communities 36:05 - Quick Fire Questions
EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Yes, No, Maybe Checklist: https://sexwithemily.com/swe-guides/SWE_YesNoMaybeChecklist.pdf In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily explores praise kink—the trending phenomenon where sexual arousal comes from receiving verbal affirmation and approval during intimacy. She breaks down how this differs from simply enjoying compliments and connects to deeper psychological needs for feeling worshipped, special, or desired. The episode introduces core erotic desires—the fundamental feelings we seek during sex that stem from our experiences and shape what turns us on. Whether involving feeling powerful, nurtured, transgressive, or humiliated, understanding these desires is crucial for sexual satisfaction. Through listener questions, Emily tackles complex dynamics: a man missing the intense connection with a kinky ex despite his fiancé's willingness to participate, a woman who shut down after an embarrassing bondage moment, and someone questioning fantasies about their partner with others. She normalizes these experiences while offering practical communication strategies, including her "Yes, No, Maybe?" checklist for exploring new sexual territory with partners, and emphasizing that sexual fantasies and messy moments are normal parts of intimacy. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 1:46 - Understanding Kinks vs Conventional Sex 5:14 - Praise Kink and Submissive Energy in the Bedroom 7:04 - How Praise Kink Helps with Body Image Issues 9:09 - Core Erotic Desires: What Really Turns You On 11:48 - Different Types of Core Desires (Worship, Humiliation, Power) 15:07 - Mining Your Fantasies to Discover Your Desires 17:07 - How to Talk to Your Partner About Your Fantasies 19:47 - Listener Question: Missing Kinky Ex vs Current Partner 24:42 - Listener Question: Embarrassing Moment Killed the Kink 30:34 - Listener Question: Is My Cuckolding Fantasy Healthy?
EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily breaks down the dynamics of toxic relationships—why we get stuck in them, how to spot the red flags, and what it takes to step into something healthier. She explains how cycles of fighting and making up can become addictive, why perfectionism and unrealistic expectations sabotage intimacy, and the subtle ways emotional unavailability shows up through gaslighting, breadcrumbing, and avoidance. The episode also explores the deeper psychology behind repeated patterns: why we're drawn to unavailable partners, how our own fears and defenses play into toxic dynamics, and why real change only happens when both people are willing to do the work. Listener questions and calls highlight unmet needs, long-term relationships starved of affection, and the painful realization that sometimes love isn't enough to sustain a partnership. Alongside this, Emily offers clear strategies for breaking toxic cycles, communicating needs without blame, and deciding when it's time to stay, seek help, or walk away. With candid stories about gaslighting, perfectionism, and emotional neglect, this episode is a raw but empowering guide to recognizing what doesn't serve you—and finding the courage to choose relationships that do. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 3:04 - When High Standards Destroy Love 6:35 - Signs of Emotional Unavailability You Need to Know 11:04 - How Long Will You Stay in an Unfulfilling Relationship? 13:34 - 8 Years of Unmet Needs and One-Sided Love 20:18 - Words vs Actions 25:36 - Anniversary Disappointment After 28 Years of Marriage 30:59 - Having the Difficult Conversation Your Relationship Needs
EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this powerful episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily tackles one of the biggest barriers to great sex: fear. From fear of rejection to body image anxieties, this episode explores how our sexual fears hold us back and provides practical strategies for overcoming them. Dr. Emily opens with the fundamental truth that fear is often "false evidence appearing real" - we create rules around what we're afraid of and then live by them, preventing ourselves from having the sex we truly want and deserve. Throughout the episode, Dr. Emily addresses common sexual fears from farting during sex to penis size anxieties to performance worries, emphasizing that we're all perfectionists when it comes to sex despite reality being much messier and more human. The episode concludes with the empowering message that facing our fears is the path to becoming our own best sexual advocate. When we ask for what we want authentically, we either get our needs met or gain valuable information about compatibility, because we all deserve pleasure and shouldn't put ourselves last in our own sexual lives. Timestamps:0:00 - Introduction 0:23 - How Antidepressants Affect Your Sex Life 1:15 - Female Sexuality and Cultural Double Standards2:30 - Wetness Myths: Arousal vs. Lubrication Explained 6:26 - When You're "Too Wet" - Solutions and Normalizing 8:17 - Understanding Arousal Beyond Physical Signs 9:06 - Kegel Exercises for Better Orgasms 13:15 - Caller April: Relationship Stress Killing Sex Drive 17:00 - Communication Red Flags in Relationships22 23:40 - Prozac and Orgasm Difficulties 26:31 - Switching from Lexapro to Wellbutrin Success Story 28:40 - Why Medication Doses Differ for Women
In a culture that still teaches us to deprioritize desire, Dr. Emily Morse encourages us to embrace sex as an act of wellness. As a renowned sex therapist and host of the #1 relationship podcast “Sex With Emily,” Emily has been leading the pleasure revolution for nearly two decades. In her new book, Smart Sex, she guides us through expanding our sexual intelligence and owning our desires.In this episode, Emily introduces a radical new paradigm called sexual intelligence (Sex IQ). Classified into five pillars—embodiment, health, collaboration, self-knowledge, and self-acceptance—she creates a framework for how to re-educate ourselves about pleasure and honor our sexual wants. Morning Microdose is a podcast curated by Krista Williams and Lindsey Simcik, the hosts and founders of Almost 30, a global community, brand, and top rated podcast.With curated clips from the Almost 30 podcast, Morning Mircodose will set the tone for your day, so you can feel inspired through thought provoking conversations…all in digestible episodes that are less than 10 minutes.Wake up with Krista and Lindsey, both literally and spiritually, Monday-Friday.If you enjoyed this conversation, listen to the full episode on Spotify here and on Apple here.
EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ This episode tackles one of the most misunderstood topics in sexuality with two leading experts: Dr. Charlie Glickman, co-author of "The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure," and Dr. Hernando Chavez. Together, they bust the biggest myths surrounding anal play, from the damaging idea that learning from porn is effective (spoiler: it's like "learning to drive from watching a car chase movie") to misconceptions about sexual orientation and hygiene. The conversation transforms anal exploration from anxiety-inducing taboo into approachable pleasure education. Charlie breaks down the real anatomy behind prostate stimulation and explains why men who receive anal play often become better lovers, while Hernando addresses cultural barriers and shares how that forbidden factor can actually enhance arousal. They dive into practical preparation techniques, revolutionary lube innovations, and why starting with external play removes performance pressure. Whether dealing with complete curiosity or recovering from painful past experiences, this episode provides the shame-free guidance needed to explore backdoor pleasure safely and successfully. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 1:16 - Anal Play Discussion 2:57 - Why Anal Sex Isn't for Everyone 4:47 - Prostate Massage for Men: Breaking the Stigma 7:47 - How to Find and Stimulate the Prostate 11:41 - Benefits of Anal Play for Couples 15:23 - Anal Play Tips and Toy Recommendations 18:03 - Pegging Basics and Prostate Stimulation 21:22 - How to Bring Up Anal Play with Your Partner 25:58 - Discussing Anal with Your Wife 36:18 - Common Anal Sex Myths Debunked 42:08 - Personal Stories and Learning Experiences 44:27 - Preparation and Hygiene for Anal Play 47:06 - Essential Lube Tips and Product Recommendations
EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this thought-provoking episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily welcomes linguist and author Amanda Montell ("Word Sl*t: A Feminist Guide to Taking Back the English Language") explore how patriarchal language controls our sex lives. They reveal why terms like "penetration" frame intimacy from a male perspective, how medical language describes vaginas as "organs that receive the penis" while penises get weapon metaphors, and why violent bedroom slang reflects power imbalances. The discussion covers language reclamation strategies, from using "vulva" instead of "vajay-jay" to how transgender communities create new sexual terminology. Dr. Emily addresses listener questions about safe sex conversations during hookups, overcoming conservative shame around oral pleasure, and breaking toxic relationship cycles. This episode shows how conscious language choices can revolutionize sexual experiences, moving from patriarchal frameworks toward more equitable intimate expression. Timestamps: 0:22 - Introduction 4:21 - Why "penetration" frames sex from a penis perspective 7:56 - Medical definitions: "the organ that receives the penis" 11:16 - The problem with "vajay-jay" 18:02 - Mission to reclaim slurs 28:15 - Safe sex conversations during hookups 31:58 - Learning to enjoy giving oral pleasure 39:24 - Breaking recurring relationship explosion patterns
This is a Fan Fav episode. Emily Morse is the sex expert and host of the wildly popular podcast, Sex with Emily. If talking about sex is super uncomfortable and embarrassing for you, or if you can't talk about it enough, Emily is the go to sex therapist and sex educator of this generation. Removing the shame of sex and giving people the information they need to have consensual, healthy, fulfilling sexual experiences with themselves and others is what she does best. ORIGINAL AIR DATE: 6-13-23 Emily breaks down the untold truth about sex and exposes the unsexy lies we're told like a pro: *Why we're in a sex recession *Messaging around sex that makes it shameful and dirty *How to re-educate yourself about sex, pleasure, and the power dynamic of sex between men and women *Myths about human sexuality told for centuries *Fantasies men have that sex is all about size and penetration *The “rubik's cube” type complexity of female sexuality that will even shock women *We want you to prioritize having a healthy sex life, deeper intimacy, and stronger connections with others and yourself. Check out Smart Sex by Emily Morse here: https://www.amazon.com/Smart-Sex-Boost-Your-Pleasure/dp/0778387100 Follow Emily Morse: Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/sexwithemily Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily Twitter: https://twitter.com/SexWithEmily CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to https://www.vitalproteins.com and entering promo code IMPACT at check out Allio Capital: Macro investing for people who want to understand the big picture. Download their app in the App Store or at Google Play, or text my name “TOM” to 511511. SleepMe: Visit https://sleep.me/impact to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code IMPACT. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping. Tailor Brands: 35% off https://tailorbrands.com/podcast35Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/impactHims: Start your free online visit today at https://hims.com/IMPACT. Even Realities: Smart glasses, real style https://evenrealities.bio/6e396d What's up, everybody? It's Tom Bilyeu here: If you want my help... STARTING a business: join me here at ZERO TO FOUNDER SCALING a business: see if you qualify here. Get my battle-tested strategies and insights delivered weekly to your inbox: sign up here. ********************************************************************** If you're serious about leveling up your life, I urge you to check out my new podcast, Tom Bilyeu's Mindset Playbook —a goldmine of my most impactful episodes on mindset, business, and health. Trust me, your future self will thank you. ********************************************************************** Join me live on my Twitch stream. I'm live daily from 6:30 to 8:30 am PT at www.twitch.tv/tombilyeu ********************************************************************** LISTEN TO IMPACT THEORY AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS: apple.co/impacttheory ********************************************************************** FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tombilyeu/ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tombilyeu?lang=en Twitter: https://twitter.com/tombilyeu YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TomBilyeu Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this powerful episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily tackles one of the biggest barriers to great sex: fear. From fear of rejection to body image anxieties, this episode explores how our sexual fears hold us back and provides practical strategies for overcoming them. Dr. Emily opens with the fundamental truth that fear is often "false evidence appearing real" - we create rules around what we're afraid of and then live by them, preventing ourselves from having the sex we truly want and deserve. Throughout the episode, Dr. Emily addresses common sexual fears from farting during sex to penis size anxieties to performance worries, emphasizing that we're all perfectionists when it comes to sex despite reality being much messier and more human. The episode concludes with the empowering message that facing our fears is the path to becoming our own best sexual advocate. When we ask for what we want authentically, we either get our needs met or gain valuable information about compatibility, because we all deserve pleasure and shouldn't put ourselves last in our own sexual lives. 0:00 - Introduction 4:13 - Common Sexual Fears We All Face 6:43 - Period Sex Anxiety 17:50 - Fear of Rejection in the Bedroom 23:25 - Sexual Trauma & PTSD 32:38 - Dreams About Your Ex: What They Really Mean 44:01 - Body Image Fears & Sexual Perfectionism 47:23 - Becoming Your Best Sexual Partner 50:04 - Role Playing to Overcome Sexual Fears 54:05 - Closing the Orgasm Gap Together
EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this enlightening episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily reunites with the legendary Carol Queen, sexologist, author, and co-founder of the Center for Sex and Culture in San Francisco. Carol, who's been Good Vibrations' staff sexologist for over 30 years and has been speaking publicly about sexuality for 50 years, returns for an essential conversation about revitalizing routine sex, navigating physical challenges in intimacy, and finding your sexual community. This episode tackles everything from making masturbation part of your self-care routine to creative solutions for mobility challenges in the bedroom. Carol breaks down how sexual discourse has evolved from underground feminist publications to mainstream media, while emphasizing that there's no "normal" sex life everyone must follow. We explore practical techniques for spicing up routine encounters and dive into the importance of finding consensual spaces for all types of sexual expression. We take listener calls from Jess, who wants to elevate his hookup routine with temperature play and atmosphere, Tommy, who's seeking advice on approaching older women, Jake, who's looking for safe spaces to explore exhibitionist fantasies, and John, whose wife's knee problems require creative positioning solutions. Carol's decades of experience shine through as she emphasizes that variety and difference make sexuality beautiful, not something to be ashamed of or conform to arbitrary standards. 0:00 - Introduction 1:20 - Caller Question: Spicing Up Gay Male Hookups & Avoiding Boredom 7:13 - Dating Older Women: How to Start Conversations & Build Confidence 10:05 - Preventing Recurring UTIs: Practical Tips & Product Recommendations 13:45 - Interview with Sexologist Carol Queen: 50 Years of Sexual Liberation 16:15 - How Sexual Discourse Has Changed: From Underground to Mainstream 20:32 - The History of "Pegging" & Educational Porn vs Entertainment 31:14 - Sex Positions for Physical Challenges: Knee Problems & Alternatives 41:03 - Quick Fire Questions with Carol Queen
Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this fun and informative episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily welcomes sex educator and author Elle Chase for a summer-themed exploration of mindful sexuality, body-positive positions, and creative outdoor adventures. Plus, psychological astrologer Dr. Jennifer Freed returns to help you align your sexual energy with cosmic guidance. We dive into mindfulness techniques for sexual anxiety, including 4-count inhale, 6-count exhale breathing to calm the nervous system and 5-senses grounding exercises to stay present during intimate moments. Elle shares creative summer sex ideas from car sex nostalgia to pool noodle hacks for outdoor comfort, plus body-positive positions like "Threading the Needle" and "The OM Position" that work for all body types. The episode features listener questions from Trevor about threesome safety, Michael seeking position alternatives for plus-size couples, and Bill concerned about his wife's upcoming hysterectomy. Dr. Emily provides medical advocacy advice about getting second opinions and exploring less invasive alternatives like uterine artery embolization before major surgery. Dr. Freed's astro forecast highlights courage as this month's theme, with personalized guidance for each sign—from Aries learning to pause and attune to others' desires, to Capricorn embracing daily masturbation for stress release. We also explore alternative intimacy techniques like yoni/lingam massage and the importance of breaking the "penetration as goal" mindset for deeper pleasure exploration. 0:00 - Intro 8:27 - Sexual Liberation & Breaking Free from Negative Self-Talk 9:41 - Threesome Planning: Communication & Boundaries Guide 16:00 - Body-Positive Intimacy Tips 23:00 - Hysterectomy Alternatives: Getting Second Opinions 27:37 - Summer Sex Ideas 32:00 - Massage for Connection 37:22 - Female-Friendly Visual Content & Arousal Discussion
Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this enlightening episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily welcomes Sarah Sloane, sex and kink educator from the Hashtag Open app, for an essential conversation about consent, sexual communication, and finding partners who truly align with your desires. This episode tackles everything from making consent conversations sexy to navigating ethical porn, kink exploration, and the realities of dating after divorce. Sarah breaks down how to make consent attractive rather than awkward, emphasizing that consent is temporary and can be withdrawn at any time. We explore the "hell yes" versus "hell no" standard for enthusiastic consent and practical ways to slow down sexual encounters for better awareness and communication. The conversation addresses how to teach consent early through body autonomy and why being honest about your boundaries actually makes you more attractive to compatible partners. We dive into listener questions from Matt, who's navigating dating after an abusive marriage with no prior dating experience, and Christi, whose 20-year marriage is strained by concerns about her husband's porn use. Sarah offers guidance on video dating as the pandemic norm, using apps like Hashtag Open for specific interests, and the importance of yes/no/maybe lists for discovering preferences without shame. Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction & Sarah's Early Life 03:41 - Discovering Kink & Initial Curiosity 07:38 - Power Exchange & Emotional Safety in BDSM 11:59 - Consent, Boundaries & Clear Communication 16:13 - Self-Worth, Validation & Identity 20:46 - Shame, Judgment & Cultural Programming 26:17 - Healing from Trauma Through Play 31:03 - BDSM & Somatics: Embodiment Work 36:42 - Rewriting Scripts Around Pleasure & Worthiness 43:20 - Advice for Beginners & Empowered Exploration
Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this empowering episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily Morse sits down with writer, producer, and self-care advocate Tara Schuster to talk about the journey from self-abandonment to self-worth. Through laughter, honesty, and raw storytelling, they explore emotional healing, sexual empowerment, and the small rituals that create lasting change. Tara shares her background of emotional neglect and how she hit rock bottom; leading her to build a "re-parenting" plan with daily rituals like writing down wins, lighting candles, and journaling to create inner safety and structure. They discuss how unresolved emotional wounds often show up in the bedroom as self-doubt, people-pleasing, or disconnection from pleasure, and how Tara learned to stop abandoning herself in relationships by asking "Do I actually like this person?" instead of "Do they like me?" They dive into how pleasure, including sex, isn't frivolous; it's essential to well-being, and how we must unlearn shame and guilt around joy in order to thrive. Featured Resource: Yes/No/Maybe List - A sexual communication tool mentioned by Tara that helped her explore new experiences and communicate openly with a partner about desires and boundaries. This structured approach allows individuals and couples to indicate their interest levels in various sexual activities, facilitating honest conversations about preferences and limits. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction: Setting the Stage for Healing & Self-Worth 3:08 - Tara's Rock Bottom Moment: The Call That Changed Everything (hitting rock bottom at 25 and the decision to save her own life) 7:42 - The Desert Breakdown: When Success Isn't Enough 14:02 - The Spite Method: How Reluctant Healing Actually Works 19:19 - Body Gratitude Revolution: From Shame to Self-Celebration 22:58 - Self-Worth & Sex: Why Healing Yourself Transforms Intimacy 39:15 - Trauma-Informed Solo Practice: Safe Sexual Exploration 49:23 - The Yes/No/Maybe List: Tools for Sexual Communication
Join the SmartSX Membership: https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this vulnerable and honest episode, Dr. Emily Morse answers listener questions about intimacy challenges, porn use, mismatched libidos, and fears around vulnerability. Whether you're dealing with long dry spells, sexual disconnection, or the impacts of pornography, this episode offers real advice for navigating modern relationships with more compassion and clarity. We explore the difference between healthy porn use and problematic patterns, it becomes an issue when it's used to avoid intimacy or sets unrealistic expectations. Emily encourages honest conversations and mutual understanding around porn preferences while addressing mismatched libidos and long dry spells, including one listener who hasn't had sex with his wife in four years. She suggests slow re-entry into intimacy through sensual touch, non-goal-oriented connection, and therapy if needed, emphasizing that curiosity and care open the door to reconnection. The conversation tackles performance anxiety and shame cycles, where anxiety about sex or fear of "failing" often creates a negative loop. Emily reminds listeners that pleasure doesn't need to be performance-based. Focus on feeling, not impressing. We also address women feeling pressured to perform porn-like roles, with Emily advocating for authentic expression over performing and emphasizing mutual consent and emotional check-ins. You're not broken. Whether you're questioning your libido, struggling with porn use, or feeling disconnected from a partner, there are tools to rebuild trust; starting with yourself. Drop the pressure, release the shame, and start with honest conversations. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 1:26 - Why Online Dating When Lonely Makes Things Worse 10:00 - Dating App Photo Disasters 18:15 - Can't Orgasm with New Partner After Amazing Ex 24:20 - Military Deployment: Managing Porn Use & Intimacy 27:00 - Breaking Through Sexual Communication Barriers 31:30 - Rebuilding Trust After Cheating
Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this illuminating episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily Morse sits down with Dr. Will Cole, a leader in functional medicine and author of Gut Feelings, to explore how emotional and physical health are deeply connected, and how addressing both is essential for a thriving sex life, better relationships, and holistic well-being. Dr. Cole explains the "shameflammation connection"; how repressed emotions like shame, guilt, and stress can cause chronic inflammation, impacting libido, energy, and connection. He breaks down this mind-body cycle where emotional stress manifests as physical illness and offers somatic tools for healing, emphasizing that nervous system regulation is crucial to breaking this loop through breathwork, stillness, and rituals that bring people back into their bodies. We dive deep into the gut-brain connection and its major role in mood, hormone balance, and sexual health. Dr. Cole reveals how processed foods, sugar, and unresolved trauma can hijack desire and performance, while discussing silent inflammation and hormone imbalances that often show up as low libido, fatigue, or anxiety. He uses advanced lab testing to find hidden causes when patients say "I don't feel like myself." The conversation addresses shame around pleasure and sexual identity, highlighting how culture often teaches us to suppress pleasure or disconnect from desire. Both Emily and Dr. Cole agree that reclaiming sensuality starts with removing shame and practicing compassionate self-awareness. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 2:57 - What is Functional Medicine? 8:24 - The Science Behind "Gut Feelings" 13:37 - How Emotions Become Physical Symptoms 22:27 - Foods That Don't Love You Back 32:07 - Testosterone, Estrogen & Sexual Health 39:04 - Where to Find Functional Medicine Support 46:25 - The Missing Conversation 52:18 - Self-Respect Over Obsession 54:29 - Quickfire Round
Dr. Emily Morse of SEX WITH EMILY joins Kelly LIVE to take all of your pressing sex questions. Dr. Emily answers your calls about foreplay, communication, lubrication, and exploration. She advises on how open relationships work, how to get the spark back, and all those alphabet spots in the body! Plus you won't want to miss a famous couple (Jerry O'Connell and Rebecca Romijn) call in to get some advice about their sex life!
Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this special crossover episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily welcomes Amy Baldwin and April Lampert, sex educators and hosts of the Shameless Sex podcast, for a deep dive into shame-free pleasure, boundaries, kink, and creating more satisfying intimate relationships; whether you're single, coupled, monogamous, or open. We explore what "shameless sex" really means and how shame disconnects us from pleasure and authenticity. Amy and April share tools like self-inquiry, somatic practices, and sexual experimentation for healing and self-acceptance, emphasizing that communication is the gateway to better sex. They stress the importance of "owning your desires" using non-judgmental language and practicing "seductive honesty" before clothes come off. The conversation covers kink, BDSM, and open relationships, including consent, negotiation, aftercare, and how to safely explore. Amy shares insights from her open relationship about navigating jealousy and building emotional resilience. April, with years in the sex toy industry, busts common myths like "vibrators desensitize you" and "sex toys replace partners," while discussing quality materials, inclusivity, and why most toys are still designed for cis men. This episode is packed with top tips for more shameless sex: normalizing solo exploration, not judging your fantasies, exploring full-body arousal beyond genital touch, and being curious rather than performative. Whether you're questioning your desires, confidence, or worthiness in bed, this conversation offers validation and practical tools for embracing your authentic sexual self. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 6:02 - Breaking Down Sexual Shame 8:21 - Personal Stories 15:25 - How to Identify Your Sexual Needs and Desires 21:59 - Real Communication Example 28:16 - Listener Q&A 36:03 - Helping an Anxious Partner Become More Present During Sex 40:55 - Open Relationships 49:52 - Five Quickie Questions 51:00 - Where to Find Shameless Sex Podcast and Book Details
Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily Morse tackles the myths, insecurities, and real-life situations that often come with high sex drives, mismatched libidos, and performance anxiety. Alongside co-host Anderson, she answers listener questions and offers heartfelt, humorous, and sex-positive advice on topics ranging from post-baby confidence to breakups and virginity. We explore whether wanting more sex is actually a problem (spoiler: it's not), how to navigate mismatched libidos without shame or labels, and why performance anxiety during first-time experiences is completely normal. Emily addresses a new mom struggling with body confidence and low libido postpartum, offering practical advice on patience, mindful touch, and rebuilding sexual energy through Kegels and self-care. This episode also dives into breakup survival, including how to live with an ex, resist "revenge sex," and create your own closure rather than expecting it from someone else. We tackle the age-old question of whether you should share your sexual history with partners (Emily's answer: probably not) and explore why "body count" doesn't determine sexual skill. Communication, presence, and adaptability do. Timestamps: Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 4:29 - Breaking Dating Patterns 10:04 - Sexual History: Should You Share Your Number? 15:11 - High Sex Drive Mismatch 22:04 - Living with Your Ex: Survival Guide 24:10 - Post-Baby Body Confidence Crisis 31:02 - The 31-Year-Old Virgin's Performance Anxiety 36:39 - Breakup Sex Fantasy: Why It's a Bad Idea 39:17 - Wrap-Up