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We all experience trials and challenges. Guest, Tanisha Bankston, a young woman who went through storms and hail came out on the other side to tell about it. Author of MY PAIN IS MY POWER and Founder of 'I Believe You, LLC', Tanisha is the mother of 3 and survivor of rape, molestation, incest and childhood abuse. Raped at the age of 5 and not believed, she instantly lost her inner voice and went into a shell that took 27 years to come out. Living in silence 27 years, she found her voice at 32. Suffering from anxiety, depression, PTSD, nightmares and flashbacks, after being healed, God spoke to her in a dream and said now go tell the world what I did for you. Tanisha will share her story and how she helps others through her private support group I Believe You' on Facebook for survivors of sexual assault and domestic violence. She empowers people to choose Faith over Fear. She wants people to know that they too can get through what they've gone through or what they're going through and there is HOPE. Join us for this intriguing and inspirational episode.

Tonight's special guest is Tanisha Bankston. She's a mother of 3 children, from Grenada Mississippi. She is a survivor of rape, molestation, incest, childhood sexual abuse, bullying, domestic violence, and Narcissistic Abuse. She's an author and speaker. She was raped at the age of 5 and not believed. She instantly lost her inner voice and went into a shell that took 27 years to come out of. She was taken from her mom, separated from my siblings, and adopted by my aunt. The broken judicial system failed her and she became a teen mom at age 14. One of her brothers died from a drug overdose. She was in toxic and dysfunctional relationships until she found her inner voice. She wrote and self-published my book “My Pain is My Power” on May 21, 2021. I created a private support group for survivors of sexual assault and domestic called “I Believe You” on Facebook. I have started a nonprofit organization called I Believe You Inc. Her podcast launched on April 1, 2022, and it's called “My Pain is My Power Podcast.” I co-authored a book called “Joy Comes in The Morning.” I want people to know that there is HOPE! Her email address is mypainismypowerllc@gmail.com; website is www.mypainismypower.com; Facebook is Facebook.com/Tanisha Bankston Facebook.com/Mypainismypowerllc; LinkedIn/Tanisha Bankston Instagram Instagram.com/Tanisha Bankston; Instagram.com/Mypainismypowerllc. ~~ Everyone's invited to engage in tonight's show. ~~ Please visit the NAASCA.org  website or call 646-595-2118 to be a part of our live panel.   . . .   . . .

Welcome back, everybody. This is a last-minute episode. I usually am really on schedule with my plan for the podcast and what I want to do, but I have recently got back from vacation and I have been summoned to jury duty.  For my own self-care, the idea of going to this master plan that I created for all of the other episodes that I do a lot of planning and a lot of prep and really think it through today, I was like, “I deeply need this episode to land on my own heart.” This is as much for me as it is for you, and it is a community effort, which also was very helpful for me.  As you may know, I'm a huge proponent of self-compassion, which isn't just having bubble baths and lighting a candle. It's actually stopping and asking, “What do you need in this moment?” And I really dropped in and I was like, “I need this to be really simple, really easy, and I need this to be also something that will land.” Let's do it.  Today, we're talking about the 14 things you should say to a loved one with anxiety. I asked everyone on Instagram to weigh in on what they need to hear, and the response was so beautiful, it actually brought me to tears.  I am going to share with you the 14 things that you should say to a loved one with anxiety, and I'm also going to talk about, it's not just what we say. I was thinking about this the other day. When we're anxious, the advice we get can make us feel very soothed and validated, or it can feel really condescending. Saying “stop worrying” can be really condescending. It can make us enraged. But if someone so gently says, “Listen, don't worry, I got you.” You know what I mean? The tone makes a huge difference.  For those of you who are family members or loved ones who are listening to this, to really get some nuggets on what they can do to support their loved one, remember that the tone and the intent are really 80% of the work. That is so, so important. Here we go. Let's go through them.  I AM HERE FOR YOU. The first thing you should say to a loved one with anxiety is, “I am here for you.” The beauty of this is it's not saying, “How can I make your discomfort go away?” It's not saying, “What should we do to fix this and make you stop talking about it and stop having pain about it?” It's just saying, “I'm here, I'm staying in my lane and I'm going to be there to support you.” It's beautiful.  HOW CAN I SUPPORT YOU? The second thing you could say to a loved one with anxiety is, and this is actually my all-time favorite, this is probably the thing I say the most to my loved ones when they're anxious or going through a difficult time, “How can I support you?” It's not saying, “What can I do?” It's not saying, again, “How can I fix you?” or “Let's get rid of it.” It's just saying, “What is it that you need? Because the truth is, I don't know what you need and I'm not going to pretend I do because what may have worked for you last week mightn't work this week.” That's really important to remember. How can I support you? YOU ARE NOT BAD FOR EXPERIENCING THIS. The third thing you could say to a loved one with anxiety is, “You are not bad for experiencing this.” So often when we are going through a hard time, we're having strong emotions. We then have secondary shame and blame and guilt for having it. We feel guilty, we feel weak, we feel silly, we feel selfish, we feel juvenile for struggling—often based on what we were told in childhood or in our early days about having emotions. We can really start to feel bad for having it. Or for you folks with OCD or intrusive thoughts, you might feel bad because of the content of your obsessions.  Now let's pause here for a second and be very clear. We also have to recognize that we don't want to be providing reassurance for our loved ones with OCD and intrusive thoughts because, while giving them reassurance might make them feel better for the short term and might make you feel like you're really a great support person, it probably is reinforcing and feeding the disorder and making it worse.  So in no way here am I telling you to tell your loved ones like, “You're not bad. You're not going to do the thing that you think you're going to do,” or “That fear is not going to come true.” We don't want to go down that road because that's going to become compulsive and high in accommodation. Those two things can really, really make your OCD and intrusive thoughts much, much, much worse. But we can validate them that having a single emotion like anxiety, shame, anger, sadness does not make them a bad person. So, so important. THINGS WILL GET BETTER... THIS WILL NOT LAST FOREVER. The fourth thing you should say to a loved one with anxiety is, “Things will get better,” and another thing that the folks on Instagram said is, “This will not last forever.” This was something that was said many, many times. I pulled together the main common themes here. But what I loved about this is they were bringing in the temporary nature of anxiety, which is a mindfulness concept, which is, this is a temporary experience that this anxiety will not last forever. Again, pay attention to the tone here. Telling them “This won't last long” or “This won't last forever” in a way that devalues their experience or disqualifies their experience, or invalidates their experience isn't what we're saying here. What they're saying is, they're really leading them towards a skill of recognizing that yes, this is hard, we're not denying it. Yes, this is hard, but things will get better or that this won't last forever.  The thing I love about “Things will get better” is, so often when we have anxiety, and we recently did an episode about this—when you have invasive anxiety all the time, you can start to feel depressed about the future. You can start to feel helpless and hopeless about the future. Offering to them “This will get better with steps and together we'll do this and we'll support you and we'll take baby steps,” that can really help reduce that depressive piece of what they're experiencing.   YOU HAVE GOTTEN THROUGH THIS BEFORE. The fifth thing you should say to a loved one with anxiety is, “You have gotten through this before.” Now, that reminds them of their strength and courage. Even if they've never done this scary thing before, chances are, they've done other scary things before or other really difficult things in their life. Often I'll say to patients when they're new to treatment, “Tell me about a time where you did something you actually didn't think you could do.” It's usually things like, “I ran a marathon,” or “I rode a bike up this really steep hill and I couldn't do it forever. And then one weekend I built up and I could,” or “I never thought I would pass this one exam and I'd failed it multiple times and I finally did.” It helps us to really see that you are a courageous, resilient person, that you've gotten through hard things before.  Again, we're not saying it in a sense of urgency like, “Get up and do the hard things because you've done them before.” We are really dropping into their experience. We're really honoring their experience. We're not rushing them too much.  I have learned as a parent of a kid who hates needles, this is the biggest lesson for me because I'm an exposure therapist. I'm like, “Let's go, let's face our fear.” I've learned to trust my child. When we go in to get vaccinations or immunizations, my child says, “Mama, I'm going to do it, but you have to let me do this at my pace.” I was like, “Wow, you're quite the little wise one.” It was so profound to me that I was pushing them too fast, going, “Let's just get it over with. Once you're done, you'll feel so much better.” They really needed to slow it down and be like, “I'm going to do it. It's just going to be at my own pace.” I digress.  I AM PROUD OF HOW HARD YOU ARE TRYING. The sixth thing you should say to a loved one with anxiety, and you don't have to say all of these by the way, but number six is, “I am proud of how hard you are trying.” I loved this because it, number one, validates that they're going through a hard thing. It also encourages and recognizes that they are trying their best.  Often we make the mistake of saying, “You could be doing a little better.” The truth is, yeah, you will be doing better in the future, but you're doing the best you can right now with what you have, so do really say, “I'm proud of how hard you are trying.” One thing I've also learned, and I learned this from another clinician once, is this clinician taught me. She says, “I never tell my patients how proud I am of them.” She says, “I always say, you must be so proud of how hard you are trying.” She said that because that gives them ownership of being proud. It gives them permission to be proud. I have learned in many clinical settings with patients to say that. Not all the time, sometimes I just straight up say, “I'm so proud of you.” I don't think there's anything wrong with that. But you might even want to play around with this nuanced change in this sentence of, “I'm so proud of how hard you are trying and you must be so proud of how hard you are trying.” So powerful the use of words here.  LET'S LISTEN TO STORIES OF OTHER PEOPLE WHO HAVE GOTTEN THROUGH THIS. The seventh thing you need to say to a loved one who has anxiety is, “Let's listen to stories of other people who have gotten through this.” The person who wrote this in, I loved it because they actually gave some context of them saying, “In a moment where I don't think I can do the scary thing, sometimes hearing other stories of people who have done this work is exactly what I need to remind myself that I can do this hard thing.” This is how they did it, and I have the same skills that they do. I'm the same human that they are. They're no better or worse than me.  If you go back, there's tons of stories and OCD stories that you can look at on Your Anxiety Toolkit podcast or OCD stories or other podcasts, or even IOCDF live streams of other people's stories that can be inspiring to you. I WILL DO THE DISHES TONIGHT. The eighth thing you should say to a loved one with anxiety is, I loved this one, “I will do the dishes tonight.” I loved this one. They actually put a smiley face emoji after it because really what they're saying is, “You need a break and I'm going to be the break you need.” It's not to say, again, that we're going to accommodate you and we're going to do all your jobs and chores for you. All they're saying is, “I can see anxiety's taking a lot of space for you. As you work through that—not to do compulsions, but as you work through that and navigate that using your mindfulness and your ERP and your willingness and your act and all of the skills you have—as you do that, I'm going to take a little bit of the slack and I'm going to do the dishes tonight.” I just loved this. I would never have thought to include that. I thought that was really, really cute.  YOU ARE ALLOWED TO TAKE THIS TIME AND THIS SPACE. The ninth thing you should say to a loved one with anxiety is, “You are allowed to take this time and this space.” I thought that was really a beautiful way. Quite a few people said something similar like, “You're allowed to struggle at this time. It's okay that you're having this discomfort. I'm going to give you some space to just feel your feelings. Be uncomfortable if that's what you're doing. Bring on the loving kindness and the compassion, and I'm actually going to give you space to do that. You're allowed to take this time. You're allowed to take up this space with these emotions.” As somebody who, myself, struggles with that, I feel like I should tie my emotions up and put them in a pretty bow. I really felt this one really landed on me. It was exactly what I needed to hear as well. Thank you, guys.  YOU DO NOT NEED TO SOLVE EVERYTHING RIGHT NOW. YOU CAN PACE YOURSELF THROUGH THIS. The tenth thing you should say to a loved one with anxiety is, “You do not need to solve everything right now. You can pace yourself through this.” There's two amazing things I love about this, which is number one, reminding us that we can be uncertain, that we can be patient, that we can let this one sort of lay it down, sit down. We don't have to tend to it right now, we can just let it be there. We're going to go about our time. Absolutely. And that you can pace yourself in that.  Often I get asked questions like, “I just want to get it all done right now. I just want to get all my exposures done and I want to face all my fears and I want to have all the emotions and get them over and done with.” You can pace yourself through this. I think that's so important to remember.  WHAT'S IMPORTANT TO YOU RIGHT NOW? The eleventh thing that you should say to a loved one with anxiety is—this is actually not something you'd say, it's actually something you would ask. They'd say, “I need them to ask me, what's important to you right now.” I think this is beautiful because instead of supporting them, you're really just directing them towards their north star of their values. “If you're anxious, let me just be a prompt for you of, what's important to you right now.” So cool. It's really helping them, especially you guys know when we're anxious, we can't think straight. It's so hard to concentrate, it's all blurry and things are confusing. Sometimes being given a prompt to help direct us back to those values is so, so important. I BELIEVE YOU. The twelfth thing that you should say to a loved one with anxiety is, “I believe you.” Really what we're saying here is, “I believe that this is really hard for you. You're not trying to attention seek. I believe that you're struggling.” This was a big one, especially for those people who have a chronic illness. As someone with a chronic illness, so many people kept saying, “Are you sure it's not in your head? Are you sure it's not anxiety? Maybe you're seeking attention.” For people to say, “I believe you, I believe what you're experiencing. I believe that this is really hard for you,” I think that that is so powerful and probably the deepest level of seeing someone authentically and vulnerably. All right, we're getting close to the end here guys. You have held in strong.  YOU ARE STRONGER THAN YOU THINK AND YOU HAVE GOT THIS. The thirteenth thing you should say to a loved one with anxiety is, “You are stronger than you think and you have got this.” So good. Again, similar to what we've talked about in the past, but it's reminding them of their strengths, reminding them of their courage, reminding them of their resilience.  Sometimes when we're anxious, we doubt ourselves, we doubt our ability to do the hard thing. They're saying, “You've got this. Let's go. Come on, you've got this.” But again, not in a way that's demeaning or condescending, or invalidating. It's a cheerleading voice.  I KNOW YOU CAN RESIST THESE COMPULSIONS. The fourteenth thing you should say to a loved one with anxiety, but I do have a bonus one of course, is,” I know you can resist these compulsions.” This is for the folks who have OCD and who do struggle with doing these compulsions. Or if you have an eating disorder, it might be, “I know you can resist restriction or binging or purging,” or whatever the behavior is. Maybe if you have an addiction, “I know you can resist these urges.” Same with hair pulling and skin picking. It's really reinforcing to them that, “I know you can do this. I know you can resist this urge or compulsion, whatever it may be.”  Again, it gives us a north star to remind ourselves what are we actually here to do. Because when we're anxious, our default is like, “How can I get away from this as fast as possible?” Sometimes we do need a direction change of like, “No, the goal is to reduce these safety behaviors.” BONUS: IT'S A BEAUTIFUL DAY TO DO HARD THINGS. These are so beautiful. I'm going to add mine in at the end and you guys know what I'm going to say. We almost need a drum roll, but we don't need a drum roll because I'm going to say that the 15th thing that I always say to any loved one, including myself with anxiety, is, “It's a beautiful day to do hard things. It's a beautiful day to do freaking hard things. It's a beautiful day to do the hardest thing.” I say that because it reminds me to look at the beauty of it, to look at the reward of it, and to remind myself that yes, we can do hard things.  My friends, thank you for allowing this to be a nice, soft landing for me today. I know I have to rearrange all the schedule and my podcast editor and my executive assistant is going to have to help me with all of the mix-up and mess around. But I'm grateful for the opportunity just to slow down with you this week.  Take a deep breath.  Drop into what do I need. I hope you're doing that for yourself. I will see you next week back on schedule and I cannot wait to talk with you there.  Have a wonderful day everybody, and talk to you soon.

This week, we talk with Karen about her story of surviving abuse at the hands of her stepfather. The idea of that to be loved means to experience abuse was a common story told to her not only by her abusive stepfather but by religious leaders.  Karen has had to reframe her story to become one about love for herself, how the abuse is not her shame to carry and  the work she is doing in  finding self love and grace. 

In this episode we are joined by Amanda as she talks us through her stories of survival, why she has kept her stories silent  and how she ended up in litigation against a powerful ride share company. This episode is a wonderful example of how we can still be in our pain and going through it and know that when we talk to safe people they will believe and see us, not shame and silence us.  There is no perfection or finished when it comes to processing an assault, so sometimes we just have to start talking and know that our community will help carry the weight of what happened with us.You are not alone and if you need help or want to talk to someone please reach out to the National Sexual Assault Hotline,  Available 24 hours: 1-800-656-4673 

It is never easy to find your voice or feelings when a story feels outside of you. We talk with Will, a secondary survivor who is on a journey of understanding the impact that abuse has had on his mother's life and their relationship.  As he feels his own pain through knowing what she want through, he is finding new ways to connect with her, empower her and help her break her silence even further. The biggest thing we can do as secondary survivors is to create the space for ourselves and the survivor to talk through the experience if and when they are ready.

This week we chat with Lori Poland, Executive Director of EndCAN and author of I Live Here: learning to heal through embracing your own storyWhen Lori was kidnapped at the age of 3, her world and the world of others turned upside down. Her journey has been one of finding her voice in a tragedy that was mostly told to her and trying to understand what it means to have "joint custody" of your story. We don't always get to choose what our story means to others or even to ourselves, and sometimes the process of healing means feeling the mess and the wonder simultaneously.If you would like to learn more about the work EndCAN does please go to their website 

Tonight's special guest is Carol C. Boyce from Sacramento, California, a child abuse survivor and an accomplished author, child advocate, and speaker. Her passions for child abuse prevention. Carol's book is, 'First, I Believe You; A True Story of Healing from Hidden Memories'. She has written about her resiliency and courageous battle to learn the truth of her past, ending her traumatic amnesia and family secrets. Carol says, "'First, I Believe You' walks the reader through my recovery from Complex PTSD and shows my healing from this horrible diagnosis. My trauma also occurred over a long period of time and is the devastating result of childhood sexual abuse." She explains, "We were the best family on the block as many saw it. But something was very wrong, something that I couldn't identify." Carol says, "In my thirties, with two young children, my life began dissolving." With nightmares and increasing moments of sheer terror and panic attacks, I knew I was losing my grip. But I had children to raise. I had vowed early on that my children would be raised in an emotionally healthy home as if my life depended on it." She searched for help from endless and clueless psychotherapists, but no one had any idea of what was causing her problems. As the terror continued and the eating addiction grew, she was finally able to put all of the pieces together. "I had been molested by my father and had had absolutely no memory of it until I was thirty-six. Upon that horrifying realization, the terror I'd lived through as a child began to pour out of me." She goes on, "Though my father denied all he'd done, labeling me a liar, and my siblings have refused to believe or support me, my own family thrived."

PODCAST #76: Get comfortable with discomfort Experiences recently of feeling uncomfortable.   Max, not my story to share, but feeling their pain and struggles.  It is not the most comfortable to listen to someones raw pain.  But it expanded my mind, my perspective and most of all my heart.  I learned how to love better.   Suicide prevention month.  September is often filled with social media posts about statistics and such surrounding suicide.  That is great, but only if it brings awareness and inspires action.  That is the easy work with suicide prevention.  Suicide is not an easy topic to bring up, its dark and messy and complex.   It feels scary to talk about.  It feels scary to talk about with your kids.  But doing the real work isn't comfortable, because it's not a comfortable topic especially for those who are suffering.  it is sitting with people in their pain.  It is allowing them to share their darkest thoughts with you.   It is sitting in the discomfort and supporting someone in their lonliest places.  Because I promise you that the discomfort you are feeling surrounding it, is nothing compared to the hell people are going through who are living with those dark thoughts and the pain that they would be better of not being on this earth.   I listened to a podcast yesterday by Glennon Doyle and her team with Dr. Becky Kennedy who I know as drbeckyatgoodinside on Instagram.  It was mind blowing.  I highly recommend listening (language warning).  They talk about how as parents we don't like to feel uncomfortable, our kids behaviors trigger us and we don't like to feel that way.    Why do we not like feeling uncomfortable?  I have found that many of us were raised not being allowed to express our sadness, anger, frustration.  We were sent away to our room or punished or told that we just needed to smile and be happy.  None of these things taught us that our emotions and discomfort is okay and its part of being human.  So when our children express their own big emotions, it feels SUPER uncomfortable for us and sometimes we don't know how to process it or support them.   Society and church and family can really discourage us from showing our difficult emotions because it's uncomfortable for them.  Because if we had more faith or optimism or positive mental attitude, then we could just be happy!   Well the purpose of life isn't just to be happy.  The purpose of life is to feel the wide range of emotions.  ONe of the most important things we can teach our kids is how to feel and process those uncomfortable feelings. I have asked many parents I have worked with what their job is as a parent and many have said it's to make sure their kids have a happy life.  Well guess what?  That isn't you job because you can't control their emotions.  We need to realize   It is OKAY for them to be sad, disappointed, angry etc.  If we don't like seeing them that way, then we need to dig deep internally about why that is.  I'm guessing its a childhood wound we can work on healing.  We didn't have people who validated us and saw us and could sit in our pain with us (which is indicative of their emotional wounds)   Dr. Becky talks about how to parent in connected, respectful ways AND how to hold boundaries.   Our kids are going to feel disappointed, mad, frustrated with us A LOT.  That's okay, it's okay for them to feel it.  It's okay for them to express it…even in uncomfortable ways like I HATE YOU, YOU'RE THE WORST PARENT EVER (5/5 of my kids have said those things to me).   Instead of sending them away or punishing or screaming back at them.  We can say something like,  “It sounds like you are having a hard time and feeling some big emotions.  Its okay to feel that way.  I am here for you when you want to talk about it.”  Staying calm (which isn't comfortable or easy), validating them and supporting them in their struggle is so key. Dr. Becky says the most important words a parent can say or convey are I BELIEVE YOU.  Or I see you. Another example for teenagers could be wanting to go to a party or out with friends you don't feel comfortable with.   1.  Validate…wow it sounds like you are excited about this party.  I believe you taht all the cool kids will be there and that is sounds like fun.  2 AND (the power of and) I'm not comfortable with you going because I've heard about some of the things that happen at those parties and I don't think its safe.  3.  Partner with them (this may have to be later after they feel their feelings about telling them no.)   What are some other options this weekend to hang out with your friends?  I know you enjoy being with people and having fun on the weekends. i'm happy to have them over here and get pizza or take you bowling or something.  Let me know. I would say the most important skill we can learn as parents is EMPATHY,  listening to our kids, believing them, recognizing they are struggling and digging deep and embracing them.  A few years ago I set a goal to read books that were written about people vastly different than I am.  I read books of people from different races, countries and cultures, about addicts, people in different religions and sexual identities.  It wasn't always comfortable for me, but it was eye opening and heart expanding.  Reading and especially really  listening to people's stories of struggle, of heartache, of pain, of self discovery, of addiction etc.  isn't always easy but the rewards are incredible. Books are great for this, as are podcasts, but the real reward comes from sitting face to face with someone and looking them in the eyes and saying I BELIEVE YOU, I SEE YOU.  I am willing to sit in my discomfort to witness yours and ease your burdens.  I am so thankful for my journey of not only reading about people who are different from me, but really sitting and listening to them face to face.  Sitting in their pain with them, allowing the discomfort to pass through me to get to the connection that comes when we are willing to open our hearts and minds.  Vulnerability is key being vulnerable to pain and discomfort is such a mind and heart expanding experience.    You don't have to look far for people who need someone to sit in their pain with them.  They may be right in front of you, in your own home.  They may be a next door neighbor or a long time friend or a church member or your mom or sister.  It isn't easy especially at first.  YOu may want to solve their issue, you may want to give advice, you may want to tell them how to do their life differently.  However that's likely not what they need unless they ask you for it.  Bite your tongue and listen, even if it's hard to hear.  Even if they are pushing against your core beliefs, even if they are making choices you don't appreciate.  Listen to your kids when the only way they can express their pain and struggles are to tell you they hate you.  Recognize it's not about you and when things are calm, find time to connect with them and talk about better ways to communicate.  Let them know you can handle their pain This is called true empathy and those empathy muscles can be strengthened by listening to others, not judging and being willing to be uncomfortable.  Brene Brown the queen of empathy says this, “Empathy is communicating that incredibly healing message of “You're not alone.” I challenge you this week to just listen to someone.  When your child is having a hard time, don't preach, don't try to be right, don't dismiss them.  EMPATHIZE.  LISTEN.  Help them know they aren't alone.

In this episode, we change things up as  Alli gets interviewed for the first time. Brittany, Alli's wife, helps Alli explore her stories and how they have influenced her in creating Breaking Silence. We walk through how Alli sees her stories of abuse today, what she continues to struggle with and what she hopes this podcast and Breaking Silence brings each of you!

Alli sits down with Cody to learn about his experience of surviving a sexual assault at a pivotal time; when he was defining his identity and sexuality. Cody guides us through his experience of meeting an older man online who violated his sense of safety, his sense of community and his sense of self. We talk through believing in the power of his words and how this moment sent him on a journey of healing and growth

In this episode we talk with Anaya who walks through his story of being sexually assaulted by his partner, in which the assault ends in a pregnancy.  At 16, Anaya knew that having a child that resulted from a rape was not what he wanted so he sought abortion as a step in his healing process. We talk through this process, the significance of inclusive language especially in the abortion space for those that identify as trans and how being a little kinder with our words and energy changes the world.

Alli and Max, a gay male who worked in the escort sex work industry  sit down to debunk the stereotypes of the industry, how access to safe sex can strip down our shame, and the power of consent. We hope this vulnerable and honest conversation will start the conversation around the sex work industry so that we can all be better informed and more empathetic   

In this episode, Tanya, a treatment provider for those who have committed sex offense sits down with us to talk through what that treatment looks like, the roll that accountability plays in her work and how we can all be a part of the healing process for those in our lives.

In this episode, Alli sits down with Katie a survivor of rape. Katie tells us her story of surviving the assault at the hands of a friend, the price of healing, and how she is working to build a community where all survivors are heard and supported.If you or anyone you know needs further support please visit our resources page or reach out to the rape crisis hotline directly at 1-800-656-4673

TALK ABOUT TRADITIONAL COUNRY, WELL,,,, HERE IT IS MY FRIENDS.  ERNEST TUBB,RAY PRICE THEN AND RAY PRICE NOW.  HOW ABOUT GEORGE JONES  AND OF COURSE HANK WILLIAMS, STONEWALL JACKSON AND PORTER WAGONER. EVEN EARLY MARTY ROBBINS AND  WILF CARTER. AN IN DEPTH INTERVIEW WITH ONE OF THE MOST FAMOUS WOUNDED WARRIOR, OUR FRIEND AND BROTHER, THE "BURNT COMMEDIAN" BOBBY HENLINE. I BELIEVE YOU'LL NOT FORGET HIS WORDS. THERE'S A COUPLE MORE SURPRISES SO STAY TUNED. DON'T FORGET TO CHECK "LIKE" AND SHARE WITH SOMEONE YOU LOVE. LIFE IS GOOD.

Today's Out of the Ordinary Book: Too Small to Ignore, Wes Stafford Key Conversation Points: How did Lisa-Jo and Christie's recent trip to Lancaster, PA remind Christie of Narnia? A Virtual Event is coming! Listen for details about this incredible unique celebration to see into Christie and Lisa-Jo's friendship and life. We must believe children in what they tell us about abuse. "I BELIEVE YOU!"  Wes Stafford writes that there's an invisible war raging over our children but Satan and God don't forget they exist. What's a way to open up your home to children without having them in your home?  Christie says, "If I have three children, then at the very least I should sponsor a child [with Compassion] for each one. If our family grows, then our Compassion family will grow."   Find out how you can have access to French food with raspberries, lemon and chocolate. Podcast links: YOU'RE INVITED! On July 22 at 8pm EST TO A LIVE VIRTUAL EVENT with Christie and Lisa-Jo talking books and cooking from Louise Penny's cozy mystery series. Click here for all the details. Click here to sponsor a child with Compassion International Click here to join the conversations we have with listeners every week around the podcast. _______ Sponsor appreciation: We're so grateful to partner with show sponsors that keep making our work possible. Click here to join over 1 million people taking charge of their mental health through the online counseling offered by BetterHelp. Get 10% off your first month by visiting www.betterhelp.com/ordinary Click here to go to GreenChef.com/ordinary100 and use code ordinary100 to get $100 off including free shipping! Click here to visit HookedOnPhonics.com/ORDINARY, and receive your first month for just one dollar. Click here to visit Nutrafol.com and use promo code ORDINARY to save $15 off your first month's subscription to Nutrafol, and grow thicker, healthier hair. This is their best offer anywhere and it is only available to US customers for a limited time. Click here to sign up for your own digital Paper&String care package curated by Christie, Lisa-Jo and friends.

Nicole will discuss her experience inside the military justice courtroom concerning the lack of knowledge when discussing the anatomy of a vagina and sex related crime terminology. -Find sexual assault information and resources here: https://www.rainn.org. -Find the power and control wheel here: http://www.ncdsv.org/images/PowerControlwheelNOSHADING.pdf. -Find domestic violence information and resources here: https://www.thehotline.org. -Find the Consent Tea video here: https://youtu.be/oQbei5JGiT8. -Progressive sex ed info (for kids) here: https://nowtoronto.com/lifestyle/education/progressive-sex-ed-resources-online. -Title from “I Believe You” by FLETCHER. -Follow us on Instagram for updates & new content @vaginastories_pod. -Join our Facebook group for connection on women’s issues and women’s empowerment “If My V Could Talk Support”. -Rate, Subscribe, and SHARE! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Voice Actor, Rapper, Music Producer Joseph (J. Etienne) Harrison serves God and loves his wife above all things. That lens is what fuels and informs his art. He approaches writing from the standpoint of "if I had only one message to tell people before I die, then this is it." Music should inform people. It should cause them to think, to self-reflect. Challenge them to be different. To grow. He is based in Atlanta, GA.  Find more of Joseph: Instagram: @jharrisond2d  Twitter: @jharrisond2d Website: https://www.josephetienne.com/ A statement from Joseph: "All Glory be to God!" ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Created during a time of quarantine in the global Coronavirus pandemic, A Moment Of Your Time's mission is to provide a space for expression, collaboration, community and solidarity. In this time of isolation, we may have to be apart but let's create together.  Created by CurtCo Media Concept by Jenny Curtis Theme music by Chris Porter Follow Us: Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Sacred Hearts Rising Interview Series with Daphne McDonagh and Alexis EllisAired Monday, April 13, 2020 at 9:00 AM PST / 12:00 PM ESTI Hear You, I Believe You!One person can change your life, if you let them.Are you willing to let one person hear your story so that you can step into the light that will set you free?Hear from 2 incredible beings who accepted an ear that opened thousands of hearts. Today’s episode will show you how far sharing your story can take you. Are you ready to consider your own transformation?These Sacred Hearts Rising co-authors share their stories that truly demonstrate and encourage every person who listens to believe that a different life awaits them and can become a reality.Daphne McDonaghRehabilitation & Wellness PractitionerIntuitive Healing Energy CoachUniversal Sphere PractitionerAnimal CommunicatorCrystal and Cold Laser TherapistAura Reading Translatorhttps://www.facebook.com/daphne.mcdonaghAlexis EllisAuthor and Global InfluencerMs. Metro Vancouver Canadian AmbassadorMiss Galaxy Surrey 2020Miss Infinity British Columbia 2020/2021Advocate for LGBTQ and educator of Cerebral PalsyAlexis is sponsored by:The Skin GirlsMalary’s Fashionshttps://www.facebook.com/alexis777cdnBeyond the Chapter – Sacred Hearts Rising Interview SeriesSecrets are told and pasts are revealed to create bigger, better and brighter lives, to never live in the shadows of shame. Sacred Hearts Rising Anthology Series has inspired a global movement where we are all encouraged to stand up and say it’s time to break free from the shadows of trauma and abuse.During this interview series you’ll hear from co-authors who have faced and survived profound trauma, loss, and pain and who have discovered great strength, personal determination and deeper understanding. They chose to seek out something better than where they were.Through their interviews, you will hear about both the ease and the challenge involved in finding the wings a person needs to take flight, out of suffering and into a bigger and brighter future.Each episode serves as a reminder that*You are not alone in your struggles*That there is hope for you,*That you can find your wings and rise It can be scary to share but*you will undoubtedly find yourself in one or more of the co-author’s shoes or know someone who has a similar story*You may feel what some of the co-authors have gone through and understand others*You will discover how they came out the other side: whole and freeThroughout this series including, 5 interviews with Publisher/Author and 8 co-authors, you’ll feel the Inspiration, the Honesty and the Courage of true life stories that nobody wants to voice out loud but certainly wants to hear about.The stories vary from abuse, mental illness, suicide to life as an lgbtq but every co-author tells you how they made it through. It’s time to live openly and freely and live in our own light.Week 1 Brenda HammonWeek 2 Debbie Bibaud / Elizabeth GagnonWeek 3 Daphne McDonagh / Alexis EllisWeek 4 Nadine Hanchar / Jennifer GrenierWeek 5 Rachael Dyer / Stephanie LeachVisit the Light on Living show page https://omtimes.com/iom/shows/light-on-living/Connect with Lisa Berry at http://www.lightonliving.com/#DaphneMcDonagh #AlexisEllis #LisaBerry #LightOnLiving

Welcome to the Idries Shah Foundation podcast, practical psychology for today. This weekly podcast features selections from Idries Shah books, as well as original recordings. It has been made available by The Idries Shah Foundation, and is voiced by David Ault. This episode features the stories A Great Thought, There is a Different Time-Scale, Strange That You Should Ask... I Believe You are Right, The Karkorajami, The King Spoke to Me, and The Chickens, by Idries Shah

Sexual Violence. There, we said it. Not a fun topic and one we would rather not discuss, even better if it didn’t exist. However, unfortunately it does exist and since the many victims of this horrific crime can’t ignore it, neither will we. In today’s episode we interview *Linda, a survivor of rape. Linda bravely speaks to us about her experience and shares her story of healing. During the follow-up conversation we attempt to put the scope of the problem in perspective with information taken from the RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network; www.rainn.org) website. Please send comments on today’s podcast to: earringsoff@gmail.com.*Name has been changed to protect the victim’s identity.

Sammie and I continue our conversation of her story of growing up with a father who sexually assaulted her and the additional abuse and coverup behind the mask of religion from those in authority - the very ones who should have come to her rescue. She shares how her father's life consisted of generational dysfunction including drug and sex abuse even among siblings. But with strength and determination, good therapy, and the decision to not be a victim to shame and secrecy, she boldly shares her story to gain her own freedom and to, hopefully, give a voice to the voiceless and empowerment to others who have lived this nightmare. 

I have the honor of being able to call Samantha Horton my friend and fellow Enneagram type 7. I had the privilege of being able to sit with her as she shared her open and brutally honest story of growing up with a father who sexually assaulted her. But the story became one of even greater abuse and coverup behind the mask of religion and those in authority. This is part one of a two-part interview with Sammie. The details are hers to share, so I am asking you to listen to her words, her voice.  Samantha Horton on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mom2table/ Samantha on Twitter: https://twitter.com/sammierhorton?lang=en  

https://essenceofvali.com? Valerie Bennis, founder and president of Essence of Vali is creating blends that smell beautiful and are used in a sensual and healing way as a creative expression of who she is. Not only is she certified but after several more years of training and study she recieved her diploma.  Now her influence and voice has risen to new heights to raise awareness for women victums of sexual assault through the song and video I Believe You on Youtube. Let's welcome her to the edge Brains

Meet our Guest Kristin RaworthKristin is a sexual violence survivor and advocate who uses her voice and experiences to speak to audiences about sexual violence and works towards changes in provincial and federal legislation to better support survivors. She has provided presentations to the Edmonton Huskies football team, various businesses and was the spokesperson for the Government of Alberta’s “I Believe You” campaign in 2017. Kristin helped organize a beyond “#metoo” rally in March, is a founding member of Alberta Vanguard, an organization devoted to ending sexual harassment and assault in the service industry as well as a contributor to McCleans Magazine, Vice News and has appeared on CBC’s the National, Global, City TV and CTV News. She is also a United Way Community Impact Speaker and on the Capital Region United Way Cabinet.Thank you to AWSN for the technical support on this episode. www.AWSN.orgResources:https://openparliament.ca/bills/42-1/C-337/?page=1https://www.nationalobserver.com/2019/06/04/news/rona-ambrose-endorses-amendments-bill-sex-assault-training-judgeshttps://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/calgary/robin-camp-sexual-assault-trial-judge-reinstated-lawyer-1.4674420https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/saskatchewan/aggravated-sexual-assault-trial-plenty-of-fish-app-1.5005644https://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/life/judge-gave-stanford-sex-attacker-brock-turner-6-month-jail-sentence/https://www.theglobeandmail.com/canada/article-nova-scotia-judge-who-said-clearly-a-drunk-can-consent-cleared-of/https://www.cbc.ca/news/politics/gladue-supreme-court-indigenous-barton-trial-sexual-consent-1.5139137

Bristol born vocalist and songwriter Lauren Aquilina found her start with her honest songwriting, piano-led ballads and a loyal fanbase who stuck with her through a trilogy of formative EPs. Supported by BBC Introducing, The Line Of Best Fit, Popjustice, The Independent among other tastemakers, this chapter of her career saw her hand-picked by Taylor Swift as an opener for the 1989 tour and culminated in the release of her debut album ‘Isn’t It Strange’ through Island Records in 2016.Following the release of the album and an open struggle with depression, Aquilina decided to put her career as an artist to one side, and focus on life as a songwriter. During her first year of writing for others, she co-wrote American singer/songwriter Fletcher’s single “I Believe You” which was inspired by her own #MeToo experiences, and has been working alongside some of pop’s hottest names.Now it’s September 2018 and Aquilina has taken almost two years to compose, create and evolve her sound and she’s making the best music of her career. Taking inspiration from the raw emotion of Alanis Morissette mixed with the soaring pop melodies of Robyn, comeback single ‘Psycho’ sees an artist coming into their own and suggests that Lauren Aquilina is well and truly returning for good. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Amy Irvin is the executive director of the New Orleans Abortion Fund and served as the first intake coordinator. She has worked at abortion clinics in New Orleans and Atlanta, and was recognized as the Volunteer of the Year by Planned Parenthood of Kentucky in 2006. She earned her Master of Science in Social Work at the University of Louisville where she researched the impact of parental consent laws for minors at the ACLU of Kentucky Reproductive Freedom Project, and a Bachelor of Arts in Philosophy from Agnes Scott College. After undergraduate school she taught English as a Second Language, coordinated World Refugee Day activities, and developed a refugee childcare program at the International Rescue Committee. She's also a former union organizer with the United Food and Commercial Workers, organizing grocery store workers in Arizona and Indiana. The New Orleans Abortion Fund challenges the inequalities of class, gender, race, and immigrant status by providing financial help to people who cannot afford the full cost of an abortion. NOAF affirms a person's right to control their body and work to ensure that everyone has access to quality medical care. Jessie Nieblas, co-founder of the New Orleans Abortion Fund, received her Master of Public Health from Tulane University in the Department of Global Community Health and Behavioral Science and her Bachelor of Arts from the University of California at Santa Barbara in Women's Studies. In her 10 years of work on sexual violence prevention and intervention, reproductive health and rights, and health care access, Jessie has designed, implemented, and evaluated programs; conducted outreach and engagement efforts with diverse communities; and raised funds through direct appeals, grants, and events. She has served as co-chair of Take Back the Night at UCSB, volunteered on RAINN's Online Hotline, and currently works at an anti-sexual violence organization. The mission of Women With A Vision is to improve the lives of marginalized women, their families, and communities by addressing the social conditions that hinder their health and well-being. We accomplish this through relentless advocacy, health education, supportive services, and community-based participatory research. The People's Assembly Protesters stage a 'die-in' over proposed abortion bill in Louisiana Maternal Mortality in Louisiana Sex Education in Louisiana Shout Your Abortion is a decentralized network of individuals talking about abortion on our own terms and encouraging others to do the same. Following the U.S. Congress's attempts to defund Planned Parenthood in 2015, the hashtag #ShoutYourAbortion became a viral conduit for abortion storytelling, receiving extensive media coverage and positioning real human experiences at the center of America's abortion debate for the very first time. SYA quickly evolved into a grassroots movement, which has inspired countless individuals to share their abortion stories through art, media, and community events all over the country. Lindy West is a contributing opinion writer for the New York Times and the author of the New York Times bestselling memoir Shrill: Notes from a Loud Woman (2016, Hachette Books) as well as the upcoming essay collection The Witches Are Coming (2019, Hachette Books). In 2018 she adapted Shrill as a half-hour comedy for Hulu, set to air in 2019. Her work has also appeared in This American Life, The Guardian, Cosmopolitan, GQ, Vulture, Jezebel, The Stranger, and others. She is the founder of I Believe You, It's Not Your Fault, an advice blog for teens, as well as the co-founder of the reproductive rights destigmatization campaign #ShoutYourAbortion. Open Access is a bi-weekly web series produced by the New Orleans Abortion Fund, aims to engage advocates from local and statewide organizations about their work through casual conversation. Exploring the role of women in leadership, the possibility of collaboration between issue groups, and how reproductive rights fits into a larger framework, Open Access explores activism and advocacy in our community, and invites community members to become involved. ProFrequency on WHIV The New Orleans Abortion Fund's OutLoud is a new initiative that seeks to amplify experiences with abortion. From patients who have undergone the procedure to clinic escorts on the frontlines of anti-choice propaganda, abortion stories are everywhere.NOAF OutLoud aims to bring these narratives to the surface and ignite discussion about abortion by sharing stories at small house parties of friends. These informal gatherings utilize video, writing and conversation to explore our personal and professional experiences with abortion, and enlighten our understanding of reproductive health, rights and justice. Louisiana Abortion Stories Project: In conjunction with NOAF OutLoud, the Louisiana Abortion Stories Project seeks to address abortion stigma at the individual and community levels through recording first-person narratives. The project explores decision-making about abortion care; experiences with sex education; and the impact of community values and religious perspectives on reproductive health, education, and public policy, as well as a deeper examination of the social, logistical, and financial barriers in accessing abortion care. “1 in 4 U.S. woman will have an abortion by age 45.” Shrill is an American comedy web television series, based on the book Shrill: Notes from a Loud Woman by Lindy West and starring Aidy Bryant, that premiered on March 15, 2019, on Hulu. Our Bodies, Our Doctors “tells the story of a rebellion in the field of medicine as a cohort of physicians faces abortion stigma within their own profession and confronts religious control over health care decisions. Their fight takes them into a larger struggle over the heart and soul of American medicine.”

Download the Song of the Week, "I Believe You," from our March 23, 2019 show (originally from October 6, 2018). The band: Chris Thile, Mike Elizondo, Chris Eldridge, Alex Hargreaves, Dave Palmer, and Ted Poor.

     This is the fourth and last chapter of Chris Moose Holidays. (for kids and families)  Makes sense to listen to them in order, and then you grown-ups might want to listen to the 4 chapters of Ebenezer's Make Over: Songs from the Feminist Men's and Women's Movement.  Just click on the title and it will stream to you.  More shows coming in January!  Please share with your friends.  Happy Holidays.  Peter Alsop CHRIS MOOSE HOLIDAYS Chris Moose(3:22) Little Tree(9:44) The Gift(2:40) Daddy's Roll(2:39) Christmas Cheer(1:42) Buy Me Something!(2:45) When Jesus Was A Kid(4:14) The Night Before Hanukkah(2:44) G-Gee, It's Warm Out Here(2:42) I Believe You(2:05) The Tooth Fairy, Easter Bunny, Santa & God(2:43) Pass It On!(1:30) Clean Out The Attic(3:37) Earthsong(3:57) CREDITS: Produced by Peter Alsop Music Engineer: Greg Hilfman Recorded & Mixed at Barely Sound Studios, Topanga, CA Teletalent, Hollywood, CA, and LaRocque Studios, N. Hollywood, CA   Peter Alsop - vocals, guitars, jingle bells, autoharp, spoons, bass, jaw harp, tambourine, triangle, washboard, Greg Hilfman - synthesizers, keyboards & all other sampled insturments, background vocals(14), elf, orchestra bells(1), autoharp percussion (4), Mr. Leibovitz Joachim Cooder - dumbeks Miriam Cutler - clarinet, background vocals(7) Shelby Flint - background vocals Ellen Geer - background vocals Willow Geer-Alsop - lead vocal (3, 7, 11) Brette Gentry - lead vocal (4) Michael Hamilton - engineer Roger LaRocque - engineer, percussion & drum programming(7) Melora Marshall - background vocals (10, 14) Marshall McDaniel - lead vocal (5, 11) Tosha Scarfe - lead vocal (11) Nick South - bass (13) Cory Thompson - lead guitar (11) Bill Buerge - cover art Terri Asher - layout Kids:  Kailani Ector, Willow Geer-Alsop, Brette Gentry, Chenoa Hernandez, Abe Hilfman, Jacy Hernandez, Kai Hernandez, Marshall McDaniel, Tosha Scarfe, Talia Wabnig Thanks to Chris Fletcher & Bill Harley   P., C., 1994, Moose School Music, Box 960 Topanga, CA 90290 All songs written by Peter Alsop, Copyright 1994, Moose School Music (BMI) unless otherwise noted. (10) Copyright 1992, & (7) Copyright 1991, Moose School Music (BMI)

     In Chapter 2 the kids and I sang about the problems with smoking, over-eating, drinking alcohol and even shopping compulsions, …  now here's Chapter 3! CHRIS MOOSE HOLIDAYS Chris Moose(3:22) Little Tree(9:44) The Gift(2:40) Daddy's Roll(2:39) Christmas Cheer(1:42) Buy Me Something!(2:45) When Jesus Was A Kid(4:14) The Night Before Hanukkah(2:44) G-Gee, It's Warm Out Here(2:42) I Believe You(2:05) The Tooth Fairy, Easter Bunny, Santa & God(2:43) Pass It On!(1:30) Clean Out The Attic(3:37) Earthsong(3:57) CREDITS: Produced by Peter Alsop Music Engineer: Greg Hilfman Recorded & Mixed at Barely Sound Studios, Topanga, CA Teletalent, Hollywood, CA, and LaRocque Studios, N. Hollywood, CA  Peter Alsop - vocals, guitars, jingle bells, autoharp, spoons, bass, jaw harp, tambourine, triangle, washboard, Greg Hilfman - synthesizers, keyboards & all other sampled insturments, background vocals(14), elf, orchestra bells(1), autoharp percussion (4), Mr. Leibovitz Joachim Cooder - dumbeks Miriam Cutler - clarinet, background vocals(7) Shelby Flint - background vocals Ellen Geer - background vocals Willow Geer-Alsop - lead vocal (3, 7, 11) Brette Gentry - lead vocal (4) Michael Hamilton - engineer Roger LaRocque - engineer, percussion & drum programming(7) Melora Marshall - background vocals (10, 14) Marshall McDaniel - lead vocal (5, 11) Tosha Scarfe - lead vocal (11) Nick South - bass (13) Cory Thompson - lead guitar (11) Bill Buerge - cover art Terri Asher - layout Kids:  Kailani Ector, Willow Geer-Alsop, Brette Gentry, Chenoa Hernandez, Abe Hilfman, Jacy Hernandez, Kai Hernandez, Marshall McDaniel, Tosha Scarfe, Talia Wabnig Thanks to Chris Fletcher & Bill Harley   P., C., 1994, Moose School Music, Box 960 Topanga, CA 90290 All songs written by Peter Alsop, Copyright 1994, Moose School Music (BMI) unless otherwise noted. (10) Copyright 1992, & (7) Copyright 1991, Moose School Music (BMI)

    Today in Chapter 2 of Chris Moose Holidays, we pick up with our discussion about Santa Claus.   CHRIS MOOSE HOLIDAYS Chris Moose(3:22) Little Tree(9:44) The Gift(2:40) Daddy's Roll(2:39) Christmas Cheer(1:42) Buy Me Something!(2:45) When Jesus Was A Kid(4:14) The Night Before Hanukkah(2:44) G-Gee, It's Warm Out Here(2:42) I Believe You(2:05) The Tooth Fairy, Easter Bunny, Santa & God(2:43) Pass It On!(1:30) Clean Out The Attic(3:37) Earthsong(3:57)  CREDITS: Produced by Peter Alsop Music Engineer: Greg Hilfman Recorded & Mixed at Barely Sound Studios, Topanga, CA Teletalent, Hollywood, CA, and LaRocque Studios, N. Hollywood, CA  Peter Alsop - vocals, guitars, jingle bells, autoharp, spoons, bass, jaw harp, tambourine, triangle, washboard, Greg Hilfman - synthesizers, keyboards & all other sampled insturments, background vocals(14), elf, orchestra bells(1), autoharp percussion (4), Mr. Leibovitz Joachim Cooder - dumbeks Miriam Cutler - clarinet, background vocals(7) Shelby Flint - background vocals Ellen Geer - background vocals Willow Geer-Alsop - lead vocal (3, 7, 11) Brette Gentry - lead vocal (4) Michael Hamilton - engineer Roger LaRocque - engineer, percussion & drum programming(7) Melora Marshall - background vocals (10, 14) Marshall McDaniel - lead vocal (5, 11) Tosha Scarfe - lead vocal (11) Nick South - bass (13) Cory Thompson - lead guitar (11) Bill Buerge - cover art Terri Asher - layout Kids:  Kailani Ector, Willow Geer-Alsop, Brette Gentry, Chenoa Hernandez, Abe Hilfman, Jacy Hernandez, Kai Hernandez, Marshall McDaniel, Tosha Scarfe, Talia Wabnig Thanks to Chris Fletcher & Bill Harley P., C., 1994, Moose School Music, Box 960 Topanga, CA 90290 All songs written by Peter Alsop, Copyright 1994, Moose School Music (BMI) unless otherwise noted. (10) Copyright 1992, & (7) Copyright 1991, Moose School Music (BMI)

         Today’s show is the first chapter of CHRIS MOOSE HOLIDAYS, which was originally released in 1994 as one of my albums.  I have Christian and Jewish friends who tell me it’s part of their holiday ritual to sit together, and listen to this story every year.  Amazing!  I know. CHRIS MOOSE HOLIDAYS  -  CREDITS Chris Moose(3:22) Little Tree(9:44) The Gift(2:40) Daddy's Roll(2:39) Christmas Cheer(1:42) Buy Me Something!(2:45) When Jesus Was A Kid(4:14) The Night Before Hanukkah(2:44) G-Gee, It's Warm Out Here(2:42) I Believe You(2:05) The Tooth Fairy, Easter Bunny, Santa & God(2:43) Pass It On!(1:30) Clean Out The Attic(3:37) Earthsong(3:57) CREDITS: Produced by Peter Alsop Music Engineer: Greg Hilfman Recorded & Mixed at Barely Sound Studios, Topanga, CA Teletalent, Hollywood, CA, and LaRocque Studios, N. Hollywood, CA    Peter Alsop - vocals, guitars, jingle bells, autoharp, spoons, bass, jaw harp, tambourine, triangle, washboard, Greg Hilfman - synthesizers, keyboards & all other sampled instruments, background vocals(14), elf, orchestra bells(1), autoharp, percussion (4), Mr. Leibovitz Joachim Cooder - dumbeks Miriam Cutler - clarinet, background vocals(7) Shelby Flint - background vocals Ellen Geer - background vocals Willow Geer-Alsop - lead vocal (3, 7, 11) Brette Gentry - lead vocal (4) Michael Hamilton - engineer Roger LaRocque - engineer, percussion & drum programming(7) Melora Marshall - background vocals (10, 14) Marshall McDaniel - lead vocal (5, 11) Tosha Scarfe - lead vocal (11) Nick South - bass (13) Cory Thompson - lead guitar (11)  Bill Buerge - cover art Terri Asher - layout                  Kids: Kailani Ector, Willow Geer-Alsop, Brette Gentry, Chenoa Hernandez, Abe Hilfman, Jacy Hernandez, Kai Hernandez, Marshall McDaniel, Tosha Scarfe, Talia Wabnig Thanks to Chris Fletcher & Bill Harley  P., C., 1994, Moose School Music, Box 960 Topanga, CA 90290 All songs written by Peter Alsop, Copyright 1994, Moose School Music (BMI) unless otherwise noted. (10) Copyright 1992, & (7) Copyright 1991, Moose School Music (BMI)

Chris Thile's Song of the Week, "I Believe You," from our October 6, 2018 season premiere, with Mike Elizondo, Chris Eldridge, Alex Hargreaves, Dave Palmer, and Ted Poor. We’re back with new shows! Check out our season schedule at livefromhere.org/tour.

It was October 15, 2017. Alyssa Milano Tweeted If you’ve been sexually harassed or assaulted “me too” as a reply to this tweet. You can argue that’s there has been progress.As of this recording, September 20, 2018, 24,099 Retweets. 52, 488 Likes.There have been men that have been fired, suspended, and arrested Men like Harvey Weinstein, Louis C.K., Marshall Faulk, Kevin Spacey.But yet, it is also fair to say we have a lot of work too do.One of the names that was mentioned Louis C.K made a “comeback” stand up routine.And this week.Jian Ghomeshi wrote a an article in the New York Review of Books. Editor Ian Buruma, stood by this decision and is out.Edmonton Northlands and North American Midway Entertainment-Canada Co. said an incident in July of 2008 13 year old girl who reported being sexually assaulted and left in a ditch in K-Days “ought to have known”.And of course, Brett Kavanaugh. Palo Alto University, Christine Blasey Ford has accused Supreme Court Nominee Brett Kavanagh. She has faced questions and tweets and challenges of her claim. Including from President Trump.Our guest today is someone who has come forward. Kristn Raworth.In January, she came forward with an accusation of sexual harassment against former federal cabinet minister Kent Hehr, prompting others to go public with their own allegations. Ms. Raworth says she was told by a member of the Prime Minister’s Office that her allegation was “deemed 100 per cent founded” by an independent investigation, the results of which were kept secret. Political geek. Advocate for Sexual Violence survivors. #ibelieveyou Vice Chair GoA United Way campaign Proud partner of @albertavanguard From your perspective, tell us your process.-Support System-Why don’t we believe you? -Language-Partisanship-Talking to political parties-Election issues-Workplace environment-Social Media conversarions.-Where do we go from here?For more on the Bill.https://www.parl.ca/LegisInfo/BillDetails.aspx?billId=8783394&Language=EFollow Kristin@KristinRaworthFollow meFacebook:Kevin Olenick Agree or Disagree:The PodcastTwitter:@kevoleSpreaker:@kevoleYou Tube:Kevin OlenickITunes: https://itunes.apple.com/ca/podcast/agree-or-disagree-the-podcast/id1434649568?mt=2

Rebecca is finally back in Chicago and might feel empty?? Thankfully she’s joined by the hilarious and lovely Ashley Ray this week, so things can’t be that bad. She’s telling Rebecca about RAMSEY, the cool new kid at her high school. Rebecca is talking about “MARIO”, a slightly aspirationally popular crush. How was Ashley the Meredith Grey of her friend group? Why did social boys make us feel like losers? How did we use musical journalism to woo hotties? There’s many things to quickly unpack. PLUS: beach blowjobs, boys who ghost and still engage with your friggen online content, being fetishized but also being horny for Boston accents, and so much more. This ep is short and sweet, just like most of Rebecca’s romantic endeavors. Perhaps sweeter, tbh. Follow Ashley on Twitter at: @arayyay Follow Rebecca on Twitter at: @AlmondMilkHotel Follow the show on Twitter at: @ClassroomCrush MUSIC DISCUSSED IN THIS EPISODE: Okay, I Believe You, But My Tommy Gun Don’t - Brand New Motorcycle Drive By - Third Eye Blind Jane Says - Jane’s Addiction Classic Girl - Jane’s Addiction

On this episode, we tackle the culture of unbelieving surrounding cases of sexual assault. First, wee discuss the origins of the #MeToo movement. Then we speak with Debra Tomlinson, the CEO of the Association of Alberta Sexual Assault Services (AASAS), about improving responder education with the #IBelieveYou movement, and the importance of believing survivors of […]

#MeToo and #Timesup: Speaking Out – At Your Own Pace. On this week’s Sparking Change, we look at the growing impact of the #MeToo movement, and why survivors of abuse of power can find it difficult to speak out. In her editorial, Dil discusses the new #timesup campaign, and looks to some words of wisdom from Oprah Winfrey’s Golden Globes speech – get ready to feel empowered! We are joined by writer, activist and musician Eoin O’Faogain (5:10), who was one of the 5 men to speak out against comedian Al Porter, as he shares his story in audio for the first time with Dil, and discusses sexual assault culture in Ireland. Later, we are joined by a panel of therapists from Insight Matters (43:36), who discuss the center's new #IBelieveYou support group, as special-guest baby Xavier reminds us of the importance of letting our feelings out! Our panelists explain how the group is a safe space, where survivors of bullying, sexual assault and harassment, and abuse of power in the media industry can seek help and understanding, and reassure listeners that group therapy need not be intimidating.

This week more changes come to our format as we delve into the concept of the moral compass and how it relates to power in our lives and in Washington*Kaepernick and the NFL*Weinstein Blues*Bialik Steps In it*Guys Like TMZ*On the Iran Deal*Obamacare and Subsidies*Pelosi And Knowledge100 percent of the money pledged thru Patreon.com will go toward show costs such as advertising, server time, and broadcasting equipment. If we can get enough listeners we will expand the show to two hours and hire additional staff.

This week more changes come to our format as we delve into the concept of the moral compass and how it relates to power in our lives and in Washington*Kaepernick and the NFL*Weinstein Blues*Bialik Steps In it*Guys Like TMZ*On the Iran Deal*Obamacare and Subsidies*Pelosi And Knowledge100 percent of the money pledged thru Patreon.com will go toward show costs such as advertising, server time, and broadcasting equipment. If we can get enough listeners we will expand the show to two hours and hire additional staff.

This week, Ken Steele completes his countdown of the ten biggest trends impacting North American higher education in 2015, with the top 4: from political correctness and personal safety to major demographic shifts. If you missed part 1, check it out first: https://youtu.be/bziLQbNEXcI 4) Indigenous Content: Even before the recommendations of Canada’s Truth and Reconciliation Commission, institutions began announcing new mandatory indigenous content in their curricula. Students at the University of Winnipeg proposed mandatory courses in indigenous history or culture. Lakehead University announced that it would introduce indigenous perspectives into courses across all faculties. UBC’s Sauder School of Business and the UBC Okanagan School of Nursing both announced that they would be integrating Aboriginal content. The new president at the University of Saskatchewan declared that he would make indigenization his top priority. And the Law Faculties at UBC and Lakehead had both established mandatory courses in Aboriginal Law and intercultural training. 3) Zero Tolerance: Last year we saw significant mainstream attention being paid to microaggressions on campus, and ongoing debate about trigger warnings for the curriculum. Faculty, most of whom are Baby Boomers or Gen Xers, are alarmed by the rising tide of political correctness and its potential to undermine academic freedom and free speech on campus. Generation Y students, on the other hand, take free speech for granted, but in a social media era have learned to retaliate against even the subtlest prejudice with a firestorm of outrage. Last year, several top comedians declared that they would no longer perform on campuses because students just couldn’t take a joke. A controversial prof at Laurentian asked his students to sign a waiver acknowledging coarse language in his lectures. Universities introduced microaggression training in their faculty orientations, collective agreements, and more. The Justice Centre for Constitutional Freedoms ranked Canadian universities and gave 15 universities and 26 student unions grades of “F”. 2) Sex Assault Protocols: Although long-term trends in the incidences of sex assault on campus are debated, we saw an immense public spotlight focused on the issue last year. First there was the fallout of a discredited campus rape story published (and then retracted) by Rolling Stone magazine. The release of The Hunting Ground, a full-length documentary about Ivy League schools covering up rape to protect their brands. A Columbia student carrying a mattress with her everywhere on campus, including to her graduation. Task force recommendations at the University of Ottawa, in the wake of a sex assault that resulted in the suspension of its men’s hockey team. Rape allegations at Royal Military College. And then there was the CBC’s ranking of colleges and universities based on sex assaults reported in the previous 5 years. Across the country, presidents announced task forces and new policies and protocols, student unions and mental health services launched awareness campaigns and bystander intervention programs. There are even smartphone apps designed to secure affirmative sexual consent in the heat of the moment. Full official trailer for The Hunting Ground: https://youtu.be/GBNHGi36nlM Full ad for Alberta’s #IBelieveYou: https://youtu.be/VruBjg_dc2Q 1) Peak Campus: Most significant of all, last year there was just no denying that enrolment was plateauing or declining at many campuses across North America. In the US, the National Student Clearinghouse Research Center reported that college enrolment declined in 2015 for the third straight year, particularly at 2-year community colleges and for-profit institutions. The University of Phoenix had lost half of its students between 2010 and 2015, a whopping 250,000! The Council of Ontario Universities reported declines of about 5% in applicants province-wide over 2 years – and more remote institutions like the University of Windsor or Lakehead saw drops of up to 19%. The Maritime Provinces Higher Education Commission reported a 1% decline in enrolment after 4 consecutive years of growth, and smaller campuses in Nova Scotia and New Brunswick were particularly hard hit. Check out Ken’s white paper, Peak Campus, for more detail: http://eduvation.ca/2013/09/peak-campus/ Next time we’ll round up the top higher ed headaches of 2015. For exclusive preview access, a week early, to future episodes of "Ten with Ken", be sure to subscribe to Eduvation's "in the loop" email newsletter, at http://www.eduvation.ca/subscribe/

This week, Ken Steele completes his countdown of the ten biggest trends impacting North American higher education in 2015, with the top 4: from political correctness and personal safety to major demographic shifts. If you missed part 1, check it out first: https://youtu.be/bziLQbNEXcI Trigger Warning: The topics of trigger warnings and sexual assault may be disturbing to some viewers. Discretion is advised. 4) Indigenous Content: Even before the recommendations of Canada’s Truth and Reconciliation Commission, institutions began announcing new mandatory indigenous content in their curricula. Students at the University of Winnipeg proposed mandatory courses in indigenous history or culture. Lakehead University announced that it would introduce indigenous perspectives into courses across all faculties. UBC’s Sauder School of Business and the UBC Okanagan School of Nursing both announced that they would be integrating Aboriginal content. The new president at the University of Saskatchewan declared that he would make indigenization his top priority. And the Law Faculties at UBC and Lakehead had both established mandatory courses in Aboriginal Law and intercultural training. 3) Zero Tolerance: Last year we saw significant mainstream attention being paid to microaggressions on campus, and ongoing debate about trigger warnings for the curriculum. Faculty, most of whom are Baby Boomers or Gen Xers, are alarmed by the rising tide of political correctness and its potential to undermine academic freedom and free speech on campus. Generation Y students, on the other hand, take free speech for granted, but in a social media era have learned to retaliate against even the subtlest prejudice with a firestorm of outrage. Last year, several top comedians declared that they would no longer perform on campuses because students just couldn’t take a joke. A controversial prof at Laurentian asked his students to sign a waiver acknowledging coarse language in his lectures. Universities introduced microaggression training in their faculty orientations, collective agreements, and more. The Justice Centre for Constitutional Freedoms ranked Canadian universities and gave 15 universities and 26 student unions grades of “F”. 2) Sex Assault Protocols: Although long-term trends in the incidences of sex assault on campus are debated, we saw an immense public spotlight focused on the issue last year. First there was the fallout of a discredited campus rape story published (and then retracted) by Rolling Stone magazine. The release of The Hunting Ground, a full-length documentary about Ivy League schools covering up rape to protect their brands. A Columbia student carrying a mattress with her everywhere on campus, including to her graduation. Task force recommendations at the University of Ottawa, in the wake of a sex assault that resulted in the suspension of its men’s hockey team. Rape allegations at Royal Military College. And then there was the CBC’s ranking of colleges and universities based on sex assaults reported in the previous 5 years. Across the country, presidents announced task forces and new policies and protocols, student unions and mental health services launched awareness campaigns and bystander intervention programs. There are even smartphone apps designed to secure affirmative sexual consent in the heat of the moment. Full official trailer for The Hunting Ground: https://youtu.be/GBNHGi36nlM Full ad for Alberta’s #IBelieveYou: https://youtu.be/VruBjg_dc2Q 1) Peak Campus: Most significant of all, last year there was just no denying that enrolment was plateauing or declining at many campuses across North America. In the US, the National Student Clearinghouse Research Center reported that college enrolment declined in 2015 for the third straight year, particularly at 2-year community colleges and for-profit institutions. The University of Phoenix had lost half of its students between 2010 and 2015, a whopping 250,000! The Council of Ontario Universities reported declines of about 5% in applicants province-wide over 2 years – and more remote institutions like the University of Windsor or Lakehead saw drops of up to 19%. The Maritime Provinces Higher Education Commission reported a 1% decline in enrolment after 4 consecutive years of growth, and smaller campuses in Nova Scotia and New Brunswick were particularly hard hit. Check out Ken’s white paper, Peak Campus, for more detail: http://eduvation.ca/2013/09/peak-campus/ Next time we’ll round up the top higher ed headaches of 2015. For exclusive preview access, a week early, to future episodes of "Ten with Ken", be sure to subscribe to Eduvation's "in the loop" email newsletter, at http://www.eduvation.ca/subscribe/

Loretta McNary Live, The Radio Show is the internationally syndicated "go-to" show bringing together some of the world’s greatest visionaries, change agents: best-selling authors, empowerment speakers, leading-edge technology influencers, eco- friendly advocates and educators, world-renowned spiritual leaders, gospel performers, filmmakers, artists, and professionals and lay persons that encourage and support individual and community growth, and want to make a meaningful difference. Our guest today is 4 Times Grammy Nominated Dorothy Moore. Her song "Misty Blue" is on the 2015 movie, Black or White, starring Kevin Costner and Octavia Spencer soundtrack. And is receiving rave reviews! Her career took off with several ballads for Malaco Records. Her version of the song “Misty Blue” (1976) reached number 1 on the R & B Chart and “Funny How Time Slips Away” (also 1976) reached number 7 on the R&B chart and number 58 on the pop chart.  “I Believe You” was number 5 on the R&B and number 27 on the pop chart in 1977. She has been inducted into the Mississippi Musicians Hall of Fame, Drum Major for Justice MLK Award 2008, Lifetime Achievement Award Monterey Bay Blues Festival, James Brown Heritage Jus Blues Award 2009, The Blues Foundation Board of Directors Award 2006-2012, nominated for two Blues Music Awards 2013, Mississippi Arts Commission Achievement Award, Mississippi Blues Trail Markers.