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In this episode, Dr. Rena Malik is joined by Dr. Justin Lehmiller to explore the health benefits of masturbation. They discuss how masturbation can aid stress relief, improve sleep quality, and potentially lower the risk of prostate cancer. The conversation also touches on how it can enhance self-esteem, particularly in women, and potentially help alleviate menopause symptoms. Additionally, Dr. Lehmiller highlights the challenges of accessing masturbation benefits as individuals age and the role of creativity in maintaining a satisfying sex life across the lifespan. Become a Member to Receive Exclusive Content: renamalik.supercast.com Schedule an appointment with me: https://www.renamalikmd.com/appointments ▶️Chapters: 00:00 Health Benefits of Masturbation 00:57 Menopause and Masturbation 02:14 Challenges and Accessibility 04:38 Sex Furniture for All Ages 05:16 Expansive Definition of Sex 05:42 Dr. Lehmiller's Current Research 09:36 Personal Habits and Life Hacks Stay connected with Dr. Justin Lehmiller on social media for daily insights and updates. Don't miss out—follow him now and check out these links! Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/justinjlehmiller/?hl=en X - https://x.com/justinlehmiller?lang=en Sex and Psychology - https://sexandpsychology.com Apple Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-and-psychology-podcast/id1505460817 Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/6DCIGjOUaenoKdY71N7NqI?si=2320ebe17787443a&nd=1&dlsi=f0648d0cb03746ae American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) - https://www.aasect.org/ Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life - https://amzn.to/3QvZ6Ls The Psychology of Human Sexuality - https://amzn.to/3QGv9YV Let's Connect!: WEBSITE: http://www.renamalikmd.com YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@RenaMalikMD INSTAGRAM: http://www.instagram.com/RenaMalikMD TWITTER: http://twitter.com/RenaMalikMD FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/RenaMalikMD/ LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/renadmalik PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/renamalikmd/ TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/RenaMalikMD ------------------------------------------------------ DISCLAIMER: This podcast is purely educational and does not constitute medical advice. The content of this podcast is my personal opinion, and not that of my employer(s). Use of this information is at your own risk. Rena Malik, M.D. will not assume any liability for any direct or indirect losses or damages that may result from the use of information contained in this podcast including but not limited to economic loss, injury, illness or death. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode, Dr. Rena Malik and Dr. Justin Lehmiller explore the complexities of infidelity and communication in relationships. They discuss the role of attachment styles in perceiving infidelity and emphasize the importance of addressing personal insecurities before making accusations. Dr. Lehmiller sheds light on the diverse motivations behind infidelity, indicating that even those in happy relationships might cheat due to personal quests for self-identity. They also highlight the potential red flags of cheating, such as changes in behavior and secrecy, recommending constructive communication over accusations to address concerns. Become a Member to Receive Exclusive Content: renamalik.supercast.com Schedule an appointment with me: https://www.renamalikmd.com/appointments ▶️Chapters: 00:00 Concerns about infidelity 02:14 Reasons people cheat 03:44 Relationship turmoil indicators 04:47 Overcoming infidelity 07:06 Importance of communication 08:03 Tips for discussing sex 10:24 Enhancing intimacy and connection Stay connected with Dr. Justin Lehmiller on social media for daily insights and updates. Don't miss out—follow him now and check out these links! Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/justinjlehmiller/?hl=en **** X - https://x.com/justinlehmiller?lang=en Sex and Psychology - https://sexandpsychology.com Apple Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-and-psychology-podcast/id1505460817 Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/6DCIGjOUaenoKdY71N7NqI?si=2320ebe17787443a&nd=1&dlsi=f0648d0cb03746ae American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) - https://www.aasect.org/ Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life - https://amzn.to/3QvZ6Ls The Psychology of Human Sexuality - https://amzn.to/3QGv9YV Let's Connect!: WEBSITE: http://www.renamalikmd.com YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@RenaMalikMD INSTAGRAM: http://www.instagram.com/RenaMalikMD TWITTER: http://twitter.com/RenaMalikMD FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/RenaMalikMD/ LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/renadmalik PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/renamalikmd/ TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/RenaMalikMD ------------------------------------------------------ DISCLAIMER: This podcast is purely educational and does not constitute medical advice. The content of this podcast is my personal opinion, and not that of my employer(s). Use of this information is at your own risk. Rena Malik, M.D. will not assume any liability for any direct or indirect losses or damages that may result from the use of information contained in this podcast including but not limited to economic loss, injury, illness or death. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode, Dr. Rena Malik and Dr. Justin Lehmiller explore the complex world of sexual fantasies, focusing on the kink of cuckolding. They discuss how these fantasies manifest differently in men and women, with men often being more voyeuristic, while women lean towards exhibitionism. The episode also delves into the psychological aspects of humiliation and masochism, explaining why some people find these sensations appealing. Dr. Lehmiller emphasizes the importance of understanding the role of sex education, or the lack thereof, in shaping young people's sexual behaviors and fantasies, touching upon the rise of kinky practices like sexual choking in younger generations. Become a Member to Receive Exclusive Content: renamalik.supercast.com Schedule an appointment with me: https://www.renamalikmd.com/appointments ▶️Chapters: 00:00 Cuckolding 03:23 Humiliation and Masochism 04:24 Chastity Devices 05:14 Gen Z and Kink 06:52 Porn as Sex Education 11:26 Introducing Novelty in Relationships Stay connected with Dr. Justin Lehmiller on social media for daily insights and updates. Don't miss out—follow him now and check out these links! Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/justinjlehmiller/?hl=en **** X - https://x.com/justinlehmiller?lang=en Sex and Psychology - https://sexandpsychology.com Apple Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-and-psychology-podcast/id1505460817 Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/6DCIGjOUaenoKdY71N7NqI?si=2320ebe17787443a&nd=1&dlsi=f0648d0cb03746ae American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) - https://www.aasect.org/ Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life - https://amzn.to/3QvZ6Ls The Psychology of Human Sexuality - https://amzn.to/3QGv9YV Let's Connect!: WEBSITE: http://www.renamalikmd.com YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@RenaMalikMD INSTAGRAM: http://www.instagram.com/RenaMalikMD TWITTER: http://twitter.com/RenaMalikMD FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/RenaMalikMD/ LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/renadmalik PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/renamalikmd/ TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/RenaMalikMD ------------------------------------------------------ DISCLAIMER: This podcast is purely educational and does not constitute medical advice. The content of this podcast is my personal opinion, and not that of my employer(s). Use of this information is at your own risk. Rena Malik, M.D. will not assume any liability for any direct or indirect losses or damages that may result from the use of information contained in this podcast including but not limited to economic loss, injury, illness or death. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode of the Rena Malik, MD Podcast, Dr. Rena Malik welcomes Dr. Justin Lehmiller to explore the intriguing world of sexual fantasies and desires. They discuss the prevalence and nature of various fantasies like multi-partner scenarios, taboo desires, and kink, while also addressing the psychological nuances behind these fantasies. Dr. Malik and Dr. Lehmiller emphasize the importance of understanding and expressing one's fantasies to enhance communication and intimacy in relationships, offering listeners enlightening insights into the complexities of sexual desire. Become a Member to Receive Exclusive Content: renamalik.supercast.com Schedule an appointment with me: https://www.renamalikmd.com/appointments ▶️Chapters: 00:00:00 Introduction 00:02:43 Most Common Sexual Fantasies 00:05:02 Sexual Fantasies 00:11:53 Fantasy and Pornography 00:16:28 Cuckolding 00:21:04 Humiliation 0030:00 Novelty 00:38:06 Infidelity 00:44:59 Becoming a Good Kisser 00:49:52 Health Benefits of Masturbation 00:57:20 What's something you know now that you wish you knew earlier? Stay connected with Dr. Justin Lehmiller on social media for daily insights and updates. Don't miss out—follow him now and check out these links! Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/justinjlehmiller/?hl=en X - https://x.com/justinlehmiller?lang=en Sex and Psychology - https://sexandpsychology.com Apple Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-and-psychology-podcast/id1505460817 Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/6DCIGjOUaenoKdY71N7NqI?si=2320ebe17787443a&nd=1&dlsi=f0648d0cb03746ae American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) - https://www.aasect.org/ Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life - https://amzn.to/3QvZ6Ls The Psychology of Human Sexuality - https://amzn.to/3QGv9YV Let's Connect!: WEBSITE: http://www.renamalikmd.com YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@RenaMalikMD INSTAGRAM: http://www.instagram.com/RenaMalikMD TWITTER: http://twitter.com/RenaMalikMD FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/RenaMalikMD/ LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/renadmalik PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/renamalikmd/ TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/RenaMalikMD ------------------------------------------------------ DISCLAIMER: This podcast is purely educational and does not constitute medical advice. The content of this podcast is my personal opinion, and not that of my employer(s). Use of this information is at your own risk. Rena Malik, M.D. will not assume any liability for any direct or indirect losses or damages that may result from the use of information contained in this podcast including but not limited to economic loss, injury, illness or death. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sexual fantasy is at the top of the list when it comes to taboo topics. My guest, Dr. Justin Lehmiller is a social psychologist, an award-winning educator, a prolific researcher, and is the host of The Sex and Psychology podcast. He is also the author of The popular book, Tell Me What You Want_ The Science of Sexual Desire and How it Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life based on his survey of sexual desire in America, including how fantasies change as women age. The most common sexual fantasy If people intend or desire to act out their fantasies How differences in fantasies are predicative based on Gender Sexual Preference Religion Political Party Age Length of relationship WHO people fantasize about WHICH celebrities and politicians appear most commonly in women's fantasies How fantasy helps relationships and sexual experience Justin Lehmiller PhD Sex and Psychology Podcast: https://www.sexandpsychology.com/podcasts/ Tell Me What You Want book: https://amzn.to/40wGSzl Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/justinjlehmiller/ BlueSky: https://bsky.app/profile/justinlehmiller.bsky.social Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/psychologyofsex COME AGAIN- a new podcast from Dr. Streicher, is coming soon! Dr. Streicher is on SUBSTACK Substack.com/@DrStreicher · Articles · Monthly newsletter · All podcast episodes · Monthly News Flash Reports on recent research · Monthly Zoom Q and A Webinar · Ability to COMMENT on posts and podcasts · To SUBSCRIBE to Dr. Streicher's Substack Lauren Streicher, MD is a clinical professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Northwestern University's Feinberg School of Medicine, and the founding medical director of the Northwestern Medicine Center for Sexual Medicine and Menopause and a Senior Research Fellow of The Kinsey Institute, Indiana University. She is a certified menopause practitioner of The Menopause Society. She is the Medical Director of Community Education and Outreach for Midi Health. Dr. Streicher is the medical correspondent for Chicago's top-rated news program, the WGN Morning News, and has been seen on The Today Show, Good Morning America, The Oprah Winfrey Show, CNN, NPR, Dr. Radio, Nightline, Fox and Friends, The Steve Harvey Show, CBS This Morning, ABC News Now, NBCNightlyNews,20/20, and World News Tonight. She is an expert source for many magazines and serves on the medical advisory board of The Kinsey Institute, Self Magazine, and Prevention Magazine. She writes a regular column for The Ethel by AARP and Prevention Magazine. DrStreicher.com Instagram @DrStreich Facebook @DrStreicher YouTube @DrStreicherTV LinkedIn @DrStreicher Sign up to receive DR. STREICHER'S FREE NEWSLETTER Books by Lauren Streicher, MD Slip Sliding Away: Turning Back the Clock on Your Vagina-A gynecologist's guide to eliminating post-menopause dryness and pain Hot Flash Hell: A Gynecologist's Guide to Turning Down the Heat Sex Rx- Hormones, Health, and Your Best Sex Ever The Essential Guide to Hysterectomy To Find a Menopause Clinician Midi Health www.Joinmidi.com Midi Health is a telehealth company that provides high-level menopause care and takes insurance in all 50 states. Dr. Streicher is Midi's Medical Director of Education and Community Outreach and is familiar with their medical protocols, which are all regularly updated and set by the top academic menopause experts in the country. The Menopause Society- Certified Menopause Practitioner List Menopause.org To find a menopause practitioner: https://portal.menopause.org/NAMS/NAMS/Directory/Menopause-Practitioner.aspx Put in your zip code and designate NCMP or CMSP to get a certified menopause practitioner. While all people on this list have passed a competency examination, Dr. Streicher does not vouch for every one of these clinicians. Most are excellent. Major Medical Centers It also may be helpful to check with major medical centers in your area. Many have menopause clinics or lists of doctors with an interest and expertise in menopause. If you are in the Chicago area, the center founded by Dr. Streicher: The Northwestern Medicine Center for Sexual Medicine and Menopause Sexmedmenopause.nm.org Dr. Streicher's Inside Information podcast is for education and information and is not intended to replace medical advice from your personal healthcare clinician. Dr. Streicher disclaims liability for any medical outcomes that may occur because of applying methods suggested or discussed in this podcast.
In this episode of The Penis Project Podcast, we're thrilled to welcome Dr. Justin Lehmiller, a renowned research fellow at the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University and one of the leading voices in the field of human sexuality. Dr. Lehmiller, author of Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life and The Psychology of Human Sexuality, shares groundbreaking insights into the fascinating world of sexual fantasies and desire. Dr. Lehmiller discusses key findings from his research, including the results of the largest-ever survey of sexual fantasies in the United States, which reveals what Americans are fantasizing about and how these desires reflect societal shifts in attitudes toward sex and intimacy. Topics Covered in This Episode: Future Directions in Sexuality Research: Dr. Lehmiller highlights underexplored areas in the field and shares his vision for advancing the study of human sexuality. Consensual Non-Monogamy: We dive into his research on CNM relationships and discuss the cultural and structural changes needed to support diverse relationship styles. Cultural and Demographic Variations: Learn how factors like age, sexual orientation, and cultural norms shape the nature and prevalence of sexual fantasies. Research Inspiration: Dr. Lehmiller shares what sparked his passion for studying human sexuality and how his role at the Kinsey Institute has influenced his work. Sexual Fantasy Trends: Discover the societal and psychological insights behind the most common sexual fantasies, and how open communication about desires can strengthen relationships. As the host of the Sex and Psychology blog and podcast, and a guest expert featured on platforms like Netflix's Sex, Explained, Dr. Lehmiller brings a wealth of knowledge, humor, and empathy to this thought-provoking conversation. Tune in to uncover the science behind sexual desire and learn how to navigate your fantasies with greater confidence and understanding. Links and Resources Mentioned in the Episode: Dr. Justin Lehmiller's Blog and Podcast: Sex and Psychology Connect with Us: Don't forget to subscribe to The Penis Project Podcast and leave a review! Share this episode with someone who could benefit from fantasy, doesn't everyone? Websites: https://melissahadleybarrett.com Men's health only https://rshealth.com.au/ All genders http://www.menshealthphysiotherapy.com.au/ http://prost.com.au/ Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett YouTube: Melissa Hadley Barrett Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/ TEDX https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA
In this episode, hosts Dr. Kevin Chu and Dr. Justin Dubin dive into the world of sexual relationships, exploring topics such as friends with benefits, condom use, and sexual fantasies. They are joined by guest Dr. Justin Lehmiller, who holds a PhD in social psychology from Purdue University and is a research fellow at the Kinsey Institute. Dr. Lehmiller is the author of "Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life," bringing a wealth of knowledge to the table. The discussion is lively, addressing common questions and misconceptions about fetishes, including the often-cited foot fetish. The hosts also tackle the dynamics of friends with benefits relationships, discussing what the data reveals about their success and failure. Whether you're curious about sexual psychology or looking to spice things up in your love life, you won't want to miss this conversation. Tune in now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Amazon, and YouTube.
DB sits down with Dr. Justin Lehmiller to talk sexual fantasies, threesomes, and the impact of porn on our sex lives. Gain psychological insights into why we do what we do in the bedroom, and learn strategies for expressing your sexual fantasies to a partner. Plus, don't miss DB and Justin's advice to a listener hoping to improve their body image! 16:02 Improving relationships through sexual Ffntasies 25:46 Debunking the myth of porn addiction 29:53 Psychological insights into human sexual behavior 36:31 The fantasy and reality of threesomes 47:28 Listener voicemail- how do I improve my body image? Dr. Justin Lehmiller is a social psychologist and Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute. He runs the Sex and Psychology blog and podcast and is author of the popular book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher who has published more than 50 academic works, including a textbook titled The Psychology of Human Sexuality that is used in college classrooms around the world. —— Do you have a silly sex story to share, need some advice, or have thoughts on the episode you just heard? Send us a voicemail for a chance to be featured on the podcast! —— Follow Sex Ed with DB on: Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdbTwitter : @sexedwithdbThreads: @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube: Sex Ed with DB Rep your favorite sex ed podcast with our brand new merch! Sign up for our newsletter with BTS content and exclusive giveaways here. Are you a sexual health professional? Check out DB's workshop: Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand. Want to get in touch with Sex Ed with DB? Email us at sexedwithdb@gmail.com. —— Sex Ed with DB, Season 10 is Sponsored by: Lion's Den, Uberlube, and Magic Wand. Get discounts on all of DB's favorite things here! —— About Sex Ed with DB: Sex Ed with DB is a feminist podcast bringing you all the sex ed you never got through unique and entertaining storytelling, centering LGBTQ+ and BIPOC experts. We discuss topics such as birth control, pleasure, LGBTQ+ health and rights, abortion, consent, BDSM, sex and disability, HIV, sex in the media, and more. —— Sex Ed with DB, Season 10 Team: Creator, Host, Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) Producer: Sadie Lidji Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen Marketing Coordinator: Mitch Coburn Social Media Coordinator: Emm-Kirsty Fraser
Ep 252: Exploring Fetishes Confessions Hand Fetish, Daddy Dom, & Foot Fetish. Fetishes are strong kinks, they are sexual desires we have for a particular object, item of clothing, part of the body, or feeling. It's a natural desire for something that is either already in a person's mindset or it acquired. They can grow from early experiences, new experiences/exploration/exposure, and can even stem from something traumatic. It's a fixation that may or may not deviate from the masses. In this episode guests share a hand fetish, a Daddy Dom fetish for power exchange, a foot fetish, and I share a few as well at the end of the episode.Thank you to all the contributors! Affiliate links in post: purchases made through links may result in an advertising fee to be awarded to the podcast at no added cost to the purchaser but which helps to support the podcast, thank you. Need beard or manscaping products? Get 20% OFF @manscaped + Free Shipping with promo code RUANWILLOW20 at https://www.manscaped.com/! #ad #manscapedpod The Hand Fetish speaker: Ellie Desyre. Find Ellie's work here: http://elliedesyre.com/ elliedesyre.comeroticfantasies.caOn social media @elliedesyreDaddy Dom Fetish: Master's Voice. Find his work here: https://tinyurl.com/ListenToMastersVoiceFoot Fetish Speaker: Jacque Gerard. Find Jacque's work here: The Barefoot Burglar https://amzn.to/3K9TB2E And on Medium: https://medium.com/@jacquesgerard52Mentioned in the podcast Micheal Castleman from his article https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/all-about-sex/202107/the-7-most-popular-and-powerful-sexual-fantasiesReferencing the book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How it Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life https://amzn.to/3K9vNvMListen to Micheal's interview on this podcast here: https://ohfckyeahwithruanwillow.buzzsprout.com/1599808/10270612-ep-130-sizzling-sex-for-life-the-world-s-most-popular-sex-writer-micheal-castlemanConnect with host Ruan Willow and find all her erotic books and NSFW audiobooks: https://linktr.ee/RuanWillowRuan's newest book: The Hide and Seek Sex Challenge, Book 4 of 6 in The Sex Challenge Series https://amzn.to/3Jifk87Anna and Brad enjoy their fourth round of sex game challenges.Try Audible FREE and 2 FREE AUDIOBOOKS (affiliate links where this podcast may receive an advertising fee from purchases/signups at no added cost to the pur Kiiroo Toys for Men and Women Ruan is a Kiiroo Ambassador: Get 10% OFF a purchase of $69 with the code RUANWILLOW10Support the showSignup for Ruan's Newsletter: https://sendfox.com/ruanwillowRuan is a Manscaped Ambassador.Get 20% OFF @manscaped + Free Shipping with promo code RUANWILLOW20 at https://www.manscaped.com/! ad manscapedpodMalehanger ad for Non-Invasive Male Enhancement for a larger penis. Get 10% OFF with code OFY10 https://www.malehanger.com/
Sex researcher Justin Lehmiller's unfiltered tips on having the best sex of your life, communicating your desires, and tapping into what turns you on. the most common fantasies people have (+ the top fantasies of introverts vs extroverts, Republicans vs Democrats, and more) what our fantasies say about our needs and personalities how to know when/if you should act on your fantasies a complete guide to having successful threesomes, including how to talk about it, where to find a third, and more what to do when your sexual desires don't line up with your partner's whether science supports casual sex whether porn can be part of a healthy relationship the one practice you should do twice a year for way better sex how to have a better sex life even if you're tired or busy how to have quicker orgasms and so much more! For more from Justin, check out his book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life and follow him on Instagram at @justinjlehmiller. To join the Healthier Together Podcast Club Facebook group, go to https://www.facebook.com/groups/healthiertogetherpodcast. This episode is sponsored by: AG1 by Athletic Greens: visit athleticgreens.com/healthiertogether and get your FREE year supply of Vitamin D and 5 free travel packs today. Paleovalley: head over to paleovalley.com and use the code LIZM for 15% off. Olive and June: visit oliveandjune.com/HEALTHIER20 for 20% off your first Mani System. Healthier Together cover art by Zack. Healthier Together music by Alex Ruimy.
Justin Lehmiller, author of Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How it can help you improve your sex life. He is a social psychologist and a research fellow at the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University. Why research Fantasy? Should we normalize fantasy? So many people feel shame or like they are cheating. Are there hormones correlated with sexual fantasy? What are Americans Fantasizing about? Shame about fantasy – and who feels more ashamed. Our our fantasies actually truth and should we act on them? The difference between fantasy and desire. Just because you have a fantasy about a threesome – should you do it? Humans are poor predictors of future emotional states – Justin Lehmiller What do people mean when they talk about “getting the spark” back. And is there a role for fantasy. Sex quality versus quantity. In his book Dr. Lehmiller talks about self disclosure and building trust….but it can seem fraught with backfire potential. Should you share your fantasy with you partner? How do you know if it is safe? Novelty – seems so simple but people have the same sex week in and out. Research shows couples who engage in the most acts of novelty tend to be the most sexually satisfied and the most successful at keeping the passion alive. The most common fantasy and the one that doesn't work out well when done in real life – threesomes. Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life https://amzn.to/3ZkDW5K Sex and psychology podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-and-psychology-podcast/id1505460817 Did you get the You Are Not Broken Book Yet? https://amzn.to/3p18DfK Join my membership to get these episodes ASAP when they are created and without advertisement and even listen live to the interviews and episodes. www.kellycaspersonmd.com/membership
Quicky #14 is an exerpt from Season 1 Episode 15: What Do Men Fantasize About? (with Dr. Justin Lehmiller) On this episode of the podcast, I chat with Dr. Justin Lehmiller, a social psychologist and Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute. He is author of the blog Sex and Psychology and the popular book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher who has published more than 50 academic works, including a textbook titled The Psychology of Human Sexuality that is used in college classrooms around the world. Dr. Lehmiller is a much sought-after voice in the media on sexuality research and education. He has been interviewed by The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, and CNN, and he has appeared on dozens of international radio, podcast, and television programs. We discuss his research about fantasies and particularly about what men fantasize about, as well as how to healthy explore your desires.
Dr. Justin Lehmiller studied the sexual fantasies of thousands of Americans for his book "Tell Me What You Want" - The Science of Sexual Desire and How it Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. And through that extensive research he learned a lot about cuckolding! He joins Venus on this special pre-Cuck Week episode and dives into the stats, the discoveries, and all of the what we've learned about cuckolding fantasies so far - it's totally fascinating!LinksCuck Week Events - https://www.venuscuckoldress.com/eventsSex and Psychology blog and podcast: https://sexandpsychology.comTell Me What You Want: https://www.amazon.com/Tell-Me-What-You-Want/dp/0738234966?ref_=ast_sto_dpInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/justinjlehmiller/Twitter: https://twitter.com/JustinLehmillerAbout Dr. Lehmiller:Dr. Justin Lehmiller is a social psychologist and Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute. He runs the Sex and Psychology blog and podcast and is author of the popular book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher who has published more than 50 academic works, including a textbook titled The Psychology of Human Sexuality that is used in college classrooms around the world. Dr. Lehmiller is a much sought-after voice in the media on sexuality research and education. He has been interviewed by The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, and CNN, and he has appeared on dozens of international radio, podcast, and television programs.Apps mentioned in the episode:X Confessions - https://apps.apple.com/us/app/xconfessions-the-couples-app/id1318649256Own Your Sex - https://www.ownyoursex.app/ Venus Connections is a private matchmaking service for singles looking for a loving cuckolding relationship. Curious to learn more? Visit VenusConnections.comSupport the showDestination Links for Venus - https://linktr.ee/venuscuckoldress
This week, I'm featuring some of the incredible work, insight, and knowledge of relationship experts I've had on. This is a great episode if you're pressed for time, looking for a variety of answers, or just want a taste of what the ManTalks podcast has to offer. I hope you enjoy! Over the last decade, Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT has become one of today's most trusted relationship teachers. Elizabeth is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Clinical Fellow of The American Association of Marriage & Family Therapy. She is the Head Therapist at Actually, where she is working to make relational wellness mainstream & accessible. Elizabeth is also the host of Hash it Out on Good Risings where she offers advice to everyday relational conundrums. She is frequently asked to talk about relationships with media outlets like Mind Body Green and The Huffington Post and has been featured on numerous podcasts. Relationship expert and sought-after coach Jayson Gaddis is the founder of The Relationship School, an impact-based company dedicated to helping people work out their differences and have fulfilling long-term partnerships. Jayson is considered a world leader in love, conflict resolution, and interpersonal relationships. He's the host of an extremely successful podcast with almost 3 million downloads (and over 250 episodes) and has interviewed the very best in the world including Dr. Dan Siegel, Dr. Gabor Mate, Dr. Stan Tatkin, Dr. John Demartini, The Gottmans, Pat Ogden, and Bessel VanDerKolk. Dr. Justin Lehmiller received his Ph.D. in Social Psychology from Purdue University. He is a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute and author of the book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher and scholar who has published more than 50 academic works to date, including a textbook titled The Psychology of Human Sexuality (now in its second edition) that is used in college classrooms around the world. Sheleana Aiyana is the founder of Rising Woman, a growing community of more than 3 million readers. Her training and immersion in couples facilitation, inherited family trauma, family systems, conscious relationship, somatic healing, and plant medicines inform her holistic approach to seeing relationship as a spiritual path. She lives with her husband, Ben, on xʷənen̕əč, the unceded land of the Hul'q'umi'num' and WSÁNEĆ peoples, now known as Salt Spring Island, BC. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they're looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Welcome to part two of our series on Sexual Fantasies. We are GenX and we aren't afraid to discuss these delicate matters in front of you, our listeners. You even get to hear Marc describe on of his own. Or is it a joke? It's hard to tell sometimes. So let's get freaky. “A Billion Wicked Thoughts | Ogi Ogas | Talks at Google.” n.d. Www.youtube.com. Accessed August 25, 2022. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p-A8GvUehq4&t=877s. 2022. Thepowermoves.com. 2022. https://thepowermoves.com/a-billion-wicked-thoughts/. Magazine, Salon. 1996. “Nancy Friday.” Salon. July 15, 1996. https://www.salon.com/1996/07/15/books_4/. Ogas, Ogi, and Sai Gaddam. 2011. A Billion Wicked Thoughts : What the World's Largest Experiment Reveals about Human Desire. New York: Dutton Adult. Archive, View Author, and Get author RSS feed. 2018. “What Your Sexual Fantasies Say about Your Personality.” New York Post. June 28, 2018. https://nypost.com/2018/06/28/what-your-sexual-fantasies-say-about-your-personality/. Lehmiller, Justin J. 2020. TELL ME WHAT YOU WANT : The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex... Life. S.L.: Da Capo Press. Schober, Justine M., and Donald Pfaff. 2007. “The Neurophysiology of Sexual Arousal.” Best Practice & Research Clinical Endocrinology & Metabolism 21 (3): 445–61. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.beem.2007.04.006. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/marc-snediker/support
What turns us on and why? Marc and Kristina examine this subject in a fun but thoughtful way. Do men and women fantasize about different kinds of things? They sure do. We explore this both through big data and also personal interviews. Trigger warning: Unsurprisingly, this episode deals frankly with sex acts and sexuality. Sources “A Billion Wicked Thoughts | Ogi Ogas | Talks at Google.” n.d. Www.youtube.com. Accessed August 25, 2022. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p-A8GvUehq4&t=877s. 2022. Thepowermoves.com. 2022. https://thepowermoves.com/a-billion-wicked-thoughts/. Magazine, Salon. 1996. “Nancy Friday.” Salon. July 15, 1996. https://www.salon.com/1996/07/15/books_4/. Ogas, Ogi, and Sai Gaddam. 2011. A Billion Wicked Thoughts : What the World's Largest Experiment Reveals about Human Desire. New York: Dutton Adult. Archive, View Author, and Get author RSS feed. 2018. “What Your Sexual Fantasies Say about Your Personality.” New York Post. June 28, 2018. https://nypost.com/2018/06/28/what-your-sexual-fantasies-say-about-your-personality/. Lehmiller, Justin J. 2020. TELL ME WHAT YOU WANT : The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex... Life. S.L.: Da Capo Press. Schober, Justine M., and Donald Pfaff. 2007. “The Neurophysiology of Sexual Arousal.” Best Practice & Research Clinical Endocrinology & Metabolism 21 (3): 445–61. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.beem.2007.04.006. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/marc-snediker/support
What we fantasize about sexually can say a lot about...well, a lot. Our insecurities, our identity, our culture, the list goes on. And what you might think is some strange niche only you hang out in might be more common than you think! This is the conversation the incredible Justin Lehmiller brought to the table, and I'm excited to share it with you. If you're with a part of any variety, listen in together for some great insights. Dr. Justin Lehmiller received his Ph.D. in Social Psychology from Purdue University. He is a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute and author of the book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher and scholar who has published more than 50 academic works to date, including a textbook titled The Psychology of Human Sexuality (now in its second edition) that is used in college classrooms around the world. Dr. Lehmiller's research focuses on topics including casual sex, sexual fantasy, sexual health, and friends with benefits. His studies have appeared in all of the leading journals on human sexuality, including the Journal of Sex Research, Archives of Sexual Behavior, and The Journal of Sexual Medicine. Connect with Justin: -Website: https://www.sexandpsychology.com/ -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/justinjlehmiller/ -LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/justinlehmiller -Google Scholar: https://scholar.google.com/citations?user=r3pNkRoAAAAJ -Twitter: https://twitter.com/justinlehmiller -Book: Tell Me What You Want: https://amzn.to/3x1vmvU -Podcast: The Sex and Psychology Podcast: https://www.sexandpsychology.com/podcasts/ Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they're looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dr. Justin Lehmiller is a social psychologist and Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute and the author of the book "Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life". He received his Ph.D. in Social Psychology from Purdue University. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher and scholar who has published more than 50 academic works to date, including a textbook titled "The Psychology of Human Sexuality" (now in its second edition) that is used in college classrooms around the world. Dr. Lehmiller's research focuses on topics including casual sex, sexual fantasy, sexual health, and friends with benefits. His studies have appeared in all of the leading journals on human sexuality, including the Journal of Sex Research, Archives of Sexual Behavior, and The Journal of Sexual Medicine. He has been featured on Vice, Netflix (sex explained), Playboy, Dr. Phil, CNN, Psychology Today, The New York Times, etc. To connect with Dr. Justin Lemiller click https://www.instagram.com/justinjlehmiller/ (HERE) To connect with Tori click https://www.instagram.com/nurse.tori_/ (HERE) To connect with Sam click https://www.instagram.com/heysamanthaa/ (HERE) To connect with Cellfie Show click https://www.instagram.com/cellfie_podcast/ (HERE) Check out our Cellfie Show collab sock!!! https://www.upatdawn.co/collection/cellfie-show-x-up-at-dawn-collab (SHOP UP AT DAWN X CELLFIE SHOW CLICK HERE) https://www.cellfiepodcast.com/ (Cellfie Show ) https://www.cellfiepodcast.com/shopcellfiemerch (Cellfie Podcast Merch) Produced by: Tori + Sam THIS EPISODE IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY WOO MORE PLAY (Code Cellfie) 15% OFF COCONUT LOVE OIL! Our favorite flagship product to spice up your bedroom! “Lube makes sex better”, said by legit every sex expert ever. 100% organic ingredients, so natural you could eat. Perfect texture: non-sticky, long-lasting, smooth, and moisturizing. Free from shitty ingredients, like parabens, petroleum, silicone, or glycerin. Made specifically for the brilliant-but-complicated vagina. Doubles as massage oil! https://wooessentials.myshopify.com/?rfsn=5837610.194b9d (CLICK HERE) THIS EPISODE IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY HYDROJUG (Code CELLFIE) 10% OFF Join the HYDRO movement! The HydroJug is designed to help you drink more and stay hydrated! It holds ½ gallon of water, so you won't be wasting your time re-filling your water bottle. The wide-mouth opening makes it easy for you to clean, add supplements, or ice. The HydroJug comes in stainless steel, glass, or high-grade BPA-free dishwasher-safe plastic and a variety of colors from Mint, Pink, Lavender, and more. With the wide mouth, you can fill it with ice with no problem and wash it out easily too! https://www.thehydrojug.com/discount/Cellfie (CLICK HERE)
Do you have a favourite sexual fantasy? Dr. Justin Lehmiller asked over 4000 people to answer this question and many other fantasy related questions in the largest study on fantasies ever done. In this episode, Justin talks about his research on people's favourite sexual fantasy, which he explores in his book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How it Can Improve Your Sex Life.Listen in as I ask him what we need to know and what we misunderstand about sexual fantasies. And you can find out if your top fantasy is in the top 3 he found in his research.Fantasies! What do we know? Do we know things? Let's find out!Find Dr. Justin Lehmiller on InstagramSex and Psychology BlogFind the script for this episode here.Hosted by Dr. Lisa Dawn Hamilton, psychology professor and sex educator.Music and editing Jeremy Dahl https://www.palebluedot.ca/Script assistance by Matt Tunnacliffe See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
#400: Dr. Justin J. Lehmiller is an American social psychologist and author. Lehmiller is a research fellow at the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University. Lehmiller has authored books such as Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life and The Psychology of Human Sexuality. Today Dr. Lehmiller joins us to discuss sexual desire, fantasies, threesomes, and how sex can strengthen our relationship bonds. To connect with Dr. Justin J. Lehmiller click HERE To connect with Lauryn Evarts click HERE To connect with Michael Bosstick click HERE Read More on The Skinny Confidential HERE For Detailed Show Notes visit TSCPODCAST.COM To Call the Him & Her Hotline call: 1-833-SKINNYS (754-6697) Check Out Lauryn's NEW BOOK, Get The Fuck Out Of The Sun HERE This episode is brought to you by The Skinny Confidential The Hot Mess Ice Roller is here to help you contour, tighten, and de-puff your facial skin and It's paired alongside the Ice Queen Facial Oil which is packed with anti-oxidants that penetrates quickly to help hydrate, firm, and reduce the appearance of fine lines and wrinkles, leaving skin soft and supple. To check them out visit www.shopskinnyconfidential.com now. This episode is brought to you by Wealthfront No One is great at something the first time they try it. And if you're unfamiliar with investing, getting started can be intimidating. Wealthfront does the work for you, so you can invest like an expert from the beginning. Wealthfront creates automated investment portfolios of diversified, low-cost index funds personalized for you. To open your account all you need is 3 minutes and $500 to invest. Right now you can visit www.wealthfront.com/skinny to get your first $5,000 managed for free. This episode is brought to you by Bite Toothpaste Bite is reinventing personal care by making products that are good for you and the planet. Bite's hero product is their dry tooth paste tablets that come in a reusable glass jar and the refills come in home compostable pouches. You just pop one in your mouth, bite down and brush, it will foam up just like regular toothpaste but with no plastic tube or messy paste. Bite is offering 20% off your first subscription order. Go to www.trybite.com/skinny or use code SKINNY at checkout to claim this deal. This episode is brought to you by BEV Bev is a female-first canned wine brand that was founded to change not only the way a product is consumed, but the way an industry and culture have operated for generations. Their wines are dry, crisp, and a lil' fizzy, super refreshing and delicious. They have ZERO sugar and only 3 carbs and 100 calories per serving. We've worked out an exclusive deal. Receive 20% off your first purchase plush free shipping on all orders. Go to www.drinkbev.com/skinny or use code SKINNY at checkout to claim this deal. Produced by Dear Media
Bondage, multiple partners, role play, Batman... All of this and more in today's episode where I chat with Dr. Justin Lehmiller, author of "Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life" to learn more about the most common sexual fantasies, the reasons behind them, and how to effectively discuss yours with your partner.
Cami Hurst and Braxton Dutson are back with another book review. This month's book is Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life by Justin J. Lehmiller. This book contains some of the most extensive research on American sexuality to date. Tune into hear Cami and Braxton's take on this book about sexual fantasies. You can support this show and all of Cami's amazing work at https://www.patreon.com/sextherapy101
Tune in to hear Braxton and Cami review Secrets of a Passionate Marriage by David Schnarch. You'll find invaluable communication strategies, self-soothing strategies, and conflict resolution strategies in this episode. Tune in next month for a review of Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life by Justin Lehmiller
For better or worse, the COVID-19 pandemic has impacted the sex life of many couples throughout the U.S., leaving either partners locked together indoors to revitalize their carnal knowledge or long-distance lovers to search for pleasure elsewhere. It seems that the upward trend of sex tech couldn’t have come at a better time. A 2019 report from Research and Markets predicted the $30 billion industry would balloon to $52.7 billion by 2026. With the pandemic tapping into people’s intimate loneliness, many sex toy shops are experiencing that peak in sales a little earlier than expected. According to a 2020 consumer behavior report by e-commerce company Ella Paradis, over ¼ of individuals say their sex life has gotten worse since the pandemic and nearly 93% of those surveyed have used sex toys during the pandemic. New sex tech and intimate products are just beyond the horizon of affordability. Among the new innovations are a kissing device that transmits lip locks to a partner abroad, VR technology that allows for customization and sex dolls that heat up to human touch. But as with any innovation, there are some legal and ethical risks. Today on AirTalk, we explore the future of the sex tech industry. Have you invested in sexual devices? How has the pandemic fared for your intimate relationships? Give us a call at (866) 893-5722. Guest: Justin Lehmiller, social psychologist and research fellow at Indiana University’s Kinsey Institute; author of “Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life” (Hachette Go, July 2020); host of the “Sex and Psychology” podcast; he tweets @JustinLehmiller
Age-appropriate sex education is the name of the game in the Netherlands. Bryde and Jeremie chat about the kid's TV show 'Ultra Strips Down", where an audience of kids aged 11-13 are able to ask questions of adults standing naked before them, as a means to promote healthy conversations about bodies! This week's guest Dr. Justin Lehmiller is an expert in sexual fantasies, and his book "Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life" normalizes our desires and suggests ways we can embrace and work with them in partnerships to have more fulfilling, less shameful sex lives. JOIN US FOR OUR LIVE EVENT: Human Connection Through Touch $5+ PATRONS: check out the video version of today's whole episode! This episode and more have been transcribed thanks to Thisten: https://thisten.co/event/wmu9l See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Welcome to part 4 (of 6) of our Bulletproof Radio Sexual Energy Series! We’re bringing you lots of new information about sexual health, wellness, research, devices, and performance. We’re combining that with special offers, discounts and all kinds of resources on the Dave Asprey blog. Be sure to scan the show notes below for details!In this episode of Bulletproof Radio, my guest is Justin Lehmiller, Ph.D., one of the leading experts on human sexuality and author of the popular blog “Sex and Psychology.” He’s been named one of 5 "Sexperts" You Need to Follow on Twitter by Men's Health and one of the "modern-day masters of sex" by Nerve. He’s also a social psychologist and Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute who’s published more than 50 academic works on topics like casual sex, sexual fantasy, sexual health, and friends with benefits. “Sexuality is so much more complex than we think that it is,” Justin says. “There's more fluidity than people might realize or like to believe.”His popular book, “Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life,” is based on the largest and most comprehensive scientific survey of Americans' sexual fantasies ever undertaken.“People tend to think that their fantasies are weird, abnormal, strange, or unusual,” Justin says. “No matter what their fantasy was, my participants underestimated how common that fantasy was. The rarer they thought it was, the more shame, guilt, embarrassment, anxiety they felt, and that's really what holds people back. They're worried about what other people will say or think, and they don't accept themselves for the interest that they have.”Justin studied the sexual fantasies of 4,175 Americans who came from all 50 states. They ranged in age from 18 to 87, come from very diverse backgrounds and completed his 369-question survey. His work helps us better understand the incredible diversity of human sexual desire. “I think so much of it is, we have this lack of education about what's normal when it comes to sex,” he continues. “That leads to the shame and that leads people to bottle everything up. Before you can get to that point of actually sharing your fantasy with a partner, there's some work that we need to do on ourselves to get that level of self-acceptance that's going to open the door to having productive and healthy conversations.”And there are a couple of apps for sexual fantasies that could help, too. Enjoy! And get more resources at Dave.Asprey/podcasts. Got a comment, idea or question for the podcast? Submit via this form. WE APPRECIATE OUR PARTNERS. CHECK THEM OUT!Light Therapy: https://joovv.com/pages/dave-asprey; use code DAVEMood Control: www.hapbee.com/dave and get $50 off the Hapbee deviceHigh-Performance Leadership: https://www.humanpotentialinstitute.com/coach-training/ DAVE ASPREY’S NEW BOOK!“Fast This Way: Burn Fat, Heal Inflammation, and Become the High-Performing Human You Were Meant to Be”
Welcome to part 4 (of 6) of our Bulletproof Radio Sexual Energy Series! We’re bringing you lots of new information about sexual health, wellness, research, devices, and performance. We’re combining that with special offers, discounts and all kinds of resources on the Dave Asprey blog. Be sure to scan the show notes below for details!In this episode of Bulletproof Radio, my guest is Justin Lehmiller, Ph.D., one of the leading experts on human sexuality and author of the popular blog “Sex and Psychology.” He’s been named one of 5 "Sexperts" You Need to Follow on Twitter by Men's Health and one of the "modern-day masters of sex" by Nerve. He’s also a social psychologist and Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute who’s published more than 50 academic works on topics like casual sex, sexual fantasy, sexual health, and friends with benefits. “Sexuality is so much more complex than we think that it is,” Justin says. “There's more fluidity than people might realize or like to believe.”His popular book, “Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life,” is based on the largest and most comprehensive scientific survey of Americans' sexual fantasies ever undertaken.“People tend to think that their fantasies are weird, abnormal, strange, or unusual,” Justin says. “No matter what their fantasy was, my participants underestimated how common that fantasy was. The rarer they thought it was, the more shame, guilt, embarrassment, anxiety they felt, and that's really what holds people back. They're worried about what other people will say or think, and they don't accept themselves for the interest that they have.”Justin studied the sexual fantasies of 4,175 Americans who came from all 50 states. They ranged in age from 18 to 87, come from very diverse backgrounds and completed his 369-question survey. His work helps us better understand the incredible diversity of human sexual desire. “I think so much of it is, we have this lack of education about what's normal when it comes to sex,” he continues. “That leads to the shame and that leads people to bottle everything up. Before you can get to that point of actually sharing your fantasy with a partner, there's some work that we need to do on ourselves to get that level of self-acceptance that's going to open the door to having productive and healthy conversations.”And there are a couple of apps for sexual fantasies that could help, too. Enjoy! And get more resources at Dave.Asprey/podcasts. Got a comment, idea or question for the podcast? Submit via this form. WE APPRECIATE OUR PARTNERS. CHECK THEM OUT!Light Therapy: https://joovv.com/pages/dave-asprey; use code DAVEMood Control: www.hapbee.com/dave and get $50 off the Hapbee deviceHigh-Performance Leadership: https://www.humanpotentialinstitute.com/coach-training/ DAVE ASPREY’S NEW BOOK!“Fast This Way: Burn Fat, Heal Inflammation, and Become the High-Performing Human You Were Meant to Be”
NOTE: This episode contains some adult discussion which includes topics of sexual assault and abuse.Have you ever wondered about the secret and sometimes dark world of a human's "special" desires? Dr. Wendy asks Kinsey Institute's Dr. Justin Lehmiller if scientists have discovered an evolutionary basis for our fantasy worlds and fetishes. Oh, yeah, and a whole lot more!Lehmiller is a social psychologist and the author of "Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life." His writing can also be found at sexandpsychology.comContact Dr. Wendy and Mating Matters at matingmatters@iheartmedia.com or (323) 207-8277.If you feel like you need to talk to someone about sexual assault or abuse, call the RAINN Abuse Hotline: 800-656-HOPE (4673)
Thank you for listening to Mormon Sex Info. This episode is an archived episode and is only now becoming publicly available. Mormon Sex Info relies on contributions. To contribute, please visit: mormonsex.info Dr. Justin Lehmiller joins Natasha Helfer Parker on this episode of Mormon Sex Info. Dr. Lehmiller recently published his new book, “Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire” and discusses the book with Natasha, specifically how fantasies play into sexuality. Dr. Justin Lehmiller is researcher, writer and public speaker about Sexual Health and sexuality. He received his Ph.D. in Social Psychology from Purdue University. He is a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute and author of the book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher and scholar who has published more than 40 pieces of academic writing to date, including a textbook entitled The Psychology of Human Sexuality (now in its second edition) that is used in college classrooms around the world. Dr. Lehmiller’s research focuses on topics including casual sex, sexual fantasy, sexual health, and friends with benefits. His studies have appeared in all of the leading journals on human sexuality, including the Journal of Sex Research, Archives of Sexual Behavior, and The Journal of Sexual Medicine. Dr. Lehmiller has run the popular blog Sex and Psychology since 2011, and it now receives several million page views per year. He has been interviewed by numerous media outlets.
INTERVIEW: Have you ever been curious about your sexual fantasies? What do they mean? What do they say about us or our partners? Today I’m in conversation with Dr. Justin Lehmiller, a social psychologist and Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute. Dr. Lehmiller runs the Sex and Psychology blog and podcast and is author of the popular book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. He's an award-winning educator, and a much sought-after voice on sexuality research and education. On this episode we dig deep into the science of sexual desire, as well as sexual fantasies — what they mean, and why they’re there in the first place. Dr. Lehmiller shares his research findings, and we talk about what sex is really looking like in isolation — backed by the facts, not the headlines.
This show is all about sexual fantasies! Tristan Taormino talks to Dr. Justin Lehmiller about his book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life and his research which includes the largest study of Americans’ sexual fantasies. We review the seven broad categories he divides them into: multi-partner sex; power, control, and rough sex; novelty, adventure, and variety; taboo and forbidden sex; partner sharing and nonmonogamous relationships; passion and romance; and erotic flexibility. Plus, we discuss other findings about gender, sexual orientation, body image, and what percentage of people want to make their top fantasy come to life (hint: it’s surprising!). How do we shape our fantasies and our fantasies shape us and why do fantasies matter? Dr. Justin Lehmiller is a social psychologist and Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute. He is author of the blog Sex and Psychology and the popular book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher who has published more than 50 academic works, including a textbook titled The Psychology of Human Sexuality that is used in college classrooms around the world. Dr. Lehmiller is a much sought-after voice in the media on sexuality research and education. He has been interviewed by The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, and CNN, and he has appeared on dozens of international radio, podcast, and television programs. This show is possible because of the generosity of Calm and Trivia Star by Super Lucky.
Topics: Andrew Gillum says he's bi; Trump implodes; Republicans call for martial law; Will you riot if the GOP steals it?; Will Democrats even fight for democracy? Does America deserve what Trump has done to it? ; Sex and power; And meeting your comedy idols Guests: Sex Expert, Dr. Justin J. Lehmiller from The Kinsey Institute, author of “Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life” and “The Psychology of Human Sexuality”; Comedy Writer Alan Zweibel, 5 time Emmy Award winner – original SNL writer- It’s Garry Shandling’s Show, Curb Your Enthusiasm, latest book is “Laugh Lines- My Life Helping Funny People be Funnier”; Sex Educator, Comedian, Politician, Baby Mama and Activist Kelly Stone; Jackie “The Joke Man” Martling; Pete Dominick, host of “StandUP! with Pete Dominick”; Comedian Aaron Berg, whose latest special “25 Sets” is streaming on Amazon and iTunes; Mark Breslin, founder and president of Yuk Yuk’s, the largest comedy chain in North America; Screenwriter Dave Sirus, whose latest movie is “The King of Staten Island” starring Pete Davidson, Marisa Tomei, and Bill Burr and directed by Judd Apatow; PETA Podcast’s Emil Guillermo; Down with Tyranny’s Howie Klein, founder and president of The Blue America PAC; Dr. Harriet Fraad, host of “When Capitalism Hits Home” and "It's Not Just In Your Head"; Professor Adnan Husain who teaches Medieval Mediterranean and Islamic World studies at Queens University in Ontario, Canada; Professor Harvey J. Kaye author of “FDR on Democracy”; Covid Town Hall with The Irritable Immunologist and Immunobiologist Henry Hakamaki. Time Code: Dr. Justin J. Lehmiller (1:57) Kelly Stone (30:35) Alright Fine (Biden) (1:05:14) Dan In The Newsroom (1:07:35) Dr. Harriet Fraad (1:26:16) Professor Adnan Husain (1:49:18) Professor Harvey J. Kaye (2:32:00) Covid Town Hall with The Irritable Immunologist and Henry Hakamaki (3:34:07) Alan Zweibel (4:34:30) Pete Dominick (5:02:00) Aaron Berg (5:33:00) Mark Breslin (6:04:00) Dave Sirus (6:36:02) Emil Guillermo (7:09:14) Howie Klein (7:35:46) I'm On My Way (8:12:25) Jackie The Joke Man Martling (8:15:00) Music: Alright Fine (Biden) written and performed by The Covid Players who are Lance Jeffries, Tom Webber and Kathleen Ashe; I'm On My Way written and performed by Professor Mike Steinel
On episode 15 of the podcast, I chat with Dr. Justin Lehmiller, a social psychologist and Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute. He is author of the blog Sex and Psychology and the popular book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher who has published more than 50 academic works, including a textbook titled The Psychology of Human Sexuality that is used in college classrooms around the world. Dr. Lehmiller is a much sought-after voice in the media on sexuality research and education. He has been interviewed by The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, and CNN, and he has appeared on dozens of international radio, podcast, and television programs. We discuss his research about fantasies and particularly about what men fantasize about, as well as how to healthy explore your desires. Key Points: - Dr. Lehmiller introduces his research - The most common fantasies - Differences between men's and women's fantasies - Men's fantasies and pressure to be a certain way - Shame about our fantasies - The origin of sexual fantasies - Underlying emotional needs - Dr. Lehmiller's dial analogy - Advice for exploring sexual fantasies Relevant Links: Dr. Lehmiller's website: www.lehmiller.com
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Everyone has sexual fantasies.People generally feel shame about their fantasies and think they're “weird” or uncommon. Research shows that having and exploring sexual fantasies and talking about them in the context of your relationship leads couples to have the most satisfying sex lives.Here are a few tips to set yourselves up for success:- Do your own work around shame by educating yourself and normalizing your fantasies- Communicate with your partner and go through the learning curve together- Integrate fantasy in small ways, instead of jumping into the deep end of the pool right away.In this week's episode, we're talking to Dr. Justin Lehmiller, a preeminent sexual fantasy researcher, about what's “normal,” the role of fantasy, and how we can incorporate it into couples' sex lives. We covered the 7 most common types of fantasies, how to communicate with your partner about yours, and how incorporating fantasy can be enriching and broaden your sexual repertoire. Dr. Lehmiller's book, Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life, is an excellent educational resource for couples looking to get started.
Dr. Justin Lehmiller received his Ph.D. in Social Psychology from Purdue University. He is a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute and author of the book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher and scholar who has published more than 50 academic works to date, including a textbook titled The Psychology of Human Sexuality (now in its second edition) that is used in college classrooms around the world. Dr. Lehmiller's research focuses on topics including casual sex, sexual fantasy, sexual health, and friends with benefits. His studies have appeared in all of the leading journals on human sexuality, including the Journal of Sex Research, Archives of Sexual Behavior, and The Journal of Sexual Medicine. https://www.lehmiller.com/
Dr. Justin Lehmiller received his Ph.D. in Social Psychology from Purdue University. He is a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute and author of the book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher and scholar who has published more than 50 academic works to date, including a textbook titled The Psychology of Human Sexuality (now in its second edition) that is used in college classrooms around the world. Dr. Lehmiller's research focuses on topics including casual sex, sexual fantasy, sexual health, and friends with benefits. His studies have appeared in all of the leading journals on human sexuality, including the Journal of Sex Research, Archives of Sexual Behavior, and The Journal of Sexual Medicine. https://www.lehmiller.com/
What are the most common sexual fantasies in America? Where do our fantasies come from, and what do they say about us? And how can we communicate more effectively with our partners about our fantasies? In order to answer these questions, I conducted the largest and most comprehensive study of sexual fantasies ever in the United States. I surveyed more than 4,000 Americans from all 50 states ranging in age from 18-87 and wrote a book about the nature of sexual fantasies in the U.S. today, titled Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. In this episode of the podcast, I describe some of the key things I learned from this research, while also telling you the story behind the book. I also share how writing this book completely changed my life.
What are the most common sexual fantasies in America? Where do our fantasies come from, and what do they say about us? And how can we communicate more effectively with our partners about our fantasies? In order to answer these questions, I conducted the largest and most comprehensive study of sexual fantasies ever in the United States. I surveyed more than 4,000 Americans from all 50 states ranging in age from 18-87 and wrote a book about the nature of sexual fantasies in the U.S. today, titled Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. In this episode of the podcast, I describe some of the key things I learned from this research, while also telling you the story behind the book (it was a long process!). I also share how writing this book completely changed my life. I'm excited to announce that the paperback edition of Tell Me What You Want comes out this month and is available for purchase through Amazon and your favorite booksellers. I'm offering some bonus materials to those who order the paperback edition, including an extra chapter that delves into the psychology behind some of the less common sexual fantasies, as well as some fun infographics. Learn more and claim your bonus here. Tell Me What You Want is also available as an e-book and an audiobook (narrated by yours truly—and I talk about what the experience of narrating an audiobook was like in this week's podcast). I'm also pleased to say that there is now an interactive exhibit based on this book showing at the Erotic Heritage Museum in Las Vegas, so if you ever happen to find yourself out that way in the future, but sure to check it out!. For a behind-the-scenes look at the exhibit, check out my Instagram page. *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Reddit to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, Google, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: LEGIT Audio (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos and book covers used with guest permission.
Your sex life doesn't have to suffer just because you're cooped up at home every day. Researchers say that sex is a healthy way to calm the anxiety of pandemic, even if you live alone. Virtual dating, masturbation, and coronavirus-related porn are more popular than ever. Some sex researchers think our desire for sex in the middle of a pandemic is one way we cope with the prospect of our own mortality. But not everyone reacts in the same way. Some lose their desire for sex, especially when you pile on added stressors like losing a job, having kids home from school, or working in a higher-risk job. Also this hour: How will coronavirus change the way we think about touching others? We take a look at sex, dating, and relationships in the shadow of coronavirus. GUESTS: Justin Lehmiller - A research fellow at the Kinsey Institute, the founder and editor of the Sex and Psychology blog, and the author of Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life Lisa Bonos- Writes about dating and relationships for the Washington Post Amy Weissfeld - A somatic sex educator and masturbation coach Cathrine Jansson-Boyd - A consumer psychologist at Anglia Ruskin University Join the conversation on Facebook and Twitter. Colin McEnroe, Cat Pastor, Catie Talarski, Gene Amatruda, TJ Coppola, and Joe Coss contributed to this show.Support the show: http://www.wnpr.org/donateSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Your sex life doesn't have to suffer just because you're cooped up at home every day. Researchers say that sex is a healthy way to calm the anxiety of pandemic, even if you live alone. Virtual dating, masturbation, and coronavirus-related porn are more popular than ever. Some sex researchers think our desire for sex in the middle of a pandemic is one way we cope with the prospect of our own mortality. But not everyone reacts in the same way. Some lose their desire for sex, especially when you pile on added stressors like losing a job, having kids home from school, or working in a higher-risk job. Also this hour: How will coronavirus change the way we think about touching others? We take a look at sex, dating, and relationships in the shadow of coronavirus. GUESTS: Justin Lehmiller - A research fellow at the Kinsey Institute, the founder and editor of the Sex and Psychology blog, and the author of Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life Lisa Bonos- Writes about dating and relationships for the Washington Post Amy Weissfeld - A somatic sex educator and masturbation coach Cathrine Jansson-Boyd - A consumer psychologist at Anglia Ruskin University Join the conversation on Facebook and Twitter. Colin McEnroe, Cat Pastor, Catie Talarski, Gene Amatruda, TJ Coppola, and Joe Coss contributed to this show.Support the show: http://www.wnpr.org/donateSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Episode 271: Dr. Justin Lehmiller received his Ph.D. in Social Psychology from Purdue University. He is a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute and author of the book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher and scholar who has published more than 40 academic works to date, including a textbook entitled The Psychology of Human Sexuality (now in its second edition) that is used in college classrooms around the world. His research focuses on topics including casual sex, sexual fantasy, sexual health, and friends with benefits. His studies have appeared in all of the leading journals on human sexuality, including the Journal of Sex Research, Archives of Sexual Behavior, and The Journal of Sexual Medicine. Show notes: Candor is a company fiercely devoted to being radically honest. Madelyn's go-to morning beverage is their nootropic Matcha Coconut drink: it warms up her spirit and provides sustainable energy throughout her entire workday. Go to www.choosecandor.com/maddy and use code "MADDY10" for 10% off your next order. Dr. Justin Lehmiller led the largest sexual fantasy study in the United States with 4,000 people. What led him to do this research? What are paraphilias? Where does sexual fantasy shame originate from? What is allowing for sexual openness in more recent times? Dr. Justin Lehmiller's religious thoughts and background. 2-3% of people don’t have any sexual fantasies. The way we perceive ourselves in our own fantasies and why we change ourselves. Women typically don’t put as much emphasis on the other people in their fantasies, whereas men do. Women see themselves as the object of desire, whereas men see themselves as acting on their desire. Women often don’t see a specific person in their fantasies—women just want to be desired. Heterosexual women often have fantasies about being with other women. The research around threesomes and why they’re the most popular sexual fantasy. Sexual fantasy vs. sexual desire How to determine when we want to act upon a sexual fantasy. Common sexual fantasies—including sex in public places, fetishes, the rap fantasy. How do you navigate the rape fantasy situation when you’re actually a victim of rape? Generally, people enjoy sexual submission more than sexual dominance. Defining: “consensual non-consent” Most people are fantasizing about the same things. People who share their fantasies generally are happier and healthier in their relationships. Connect with Justin: Website Twitter Facebook Book: Tell Me What You Want
Episode 271: Dr. Justin Lehmiller received his Ph.D. in Social Psychology from Purdue University. He is a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute and author of the book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher and scholar who has published more than 40 academic works to date, including a textbook entitled The Psychology of Human Sexuality (now in its second edition) that is used in college classrooms around the world. His research focuses on topics including casual sex, sexual fantasy, sexual health, and friends with benefits. His studies have appeared in all of the leading journals on human sexuality, including the Journal of Sex Research, Archives of Sexual Behavior, and The Journal of Sexual Medicine. Show notes: Candor is a company fiercely devoted to being radically honest. Madelyn's go-to morning beverage is their nootropic Matcha Coconut drink: it warms up her spirit and provides sustainable energy throughout her entire workday. Go to www.choosecandor.com/maddy and use code "MADDY10" for 10% off your next order. Dr. Justin Lehmiller led the largest sexual fantasy study in the United States with 4,000 people. What led him to do this research? What are paraphilias? Where does sexual fantasy shame originate from? What is allowing for sexual openness in more recent times? Dr. Justin Lehmiller's religious thoughts and background. 2-3% of people don’t have any sexual fantasies. The way we perceive ourselves in our own fantasies and why we change ourselves. Women typically don’t put as much emphasis on the other people in their fantasies, whereas men do. Women see themselves as the object of desire, whereas men see themselves as acting on their desire. Women often don’t see a specific person in their fantasies—women just want to be desired. Heterosexual women often have fantasies about being with other women. The research around threesomes and why they’re the most popular sexual fantasy. Sexual fantasy vs. sexual desire How to determine when we want to act upon a sexual fantasy. Common sexual fantasies—including sex in public places, fetishes, the rap fantasy. How do you navigate the rape fantasy situation when you’re actually a victim of rape? Generally, people enjoy sexual submission more than sexual dominance. Defining: “consensual non-consent” Most people are fantasizing about the same things. People who share their fantasies generally are happier and healthier in their relationships. Connect with Justin: Website: https://www.lehmiller.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/JustinLehmiller Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/psychologyofsex Buy his book Tell Me What You Want: https://amzn.to/31HHpxb [Tweet "Are you ready to talk about sexual fantasies? The more conversation we have around this, the better. Let's normalize our fantasies. #mindbodymusings"] COACHING: receive personalized, 1:1 coaching from Maddy Moon to create your own feminine and masculine embodiment. Heal your heart, build confidence, create an online business (if that’s a goal!) or simply feel happier. Apply here: http://maddymoon.com/coaching FEMININE SPIRIT SCHOOL: this school is the one-stop-shop for all things feminine energy! If you’ve been wanting to embody the feminine but feel stuck on the how, this program will take you through the entire realm from start to (well…we’re never really finished, are we?). Learn about the feminine/masculine, shadow sides, ancestral healing, boundary setting, empowerment, sensuality and sexuality, sovereignty and so much more. Sign up here: http://maddymoon.com/feminine-spirit EMBODIED ARCHETYPE RETREAT: unlock parts of yourself that you’ve ...
Cuckolding: it seems everyone’s doing it but no one’s talking about it! On episode 85 Dr. Justin Lehmiller shares the science and research about this taboo fetish. You’ll learn how cuckolding has roots in evolutionary biology; the surprising correlation between the conservative lifestyle and cuckolding; gay cuckolding vs hetero scenarios; complimentary fetishes like forced bi, chastity, feminization & cross-dressing; how to tell your partner about your cuckold fantasies and incorporate them into your sex life; and the alt-right adaptation of “cuck” & how it’s affected shame and confusion about this fetish. We also answer a listener question about cross-dressing and mismatched libido plus Justin tells us about his latest research on dick pics-- specifically who sends them and what motivates these folks to keep sending them. Over on Patreon Justin tells us a story about an unexpected encounter he had at a vanilla professional event. Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com To support American Sex podcast, please visit patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!) Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter or texting MEGATRON to 444999 Sunny & Ken, xo! ____________________________________ Episode 85 Links Dr. Justin Lehmiller Sex and Psychology Blog https://www.lehmiller.com/ Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life https://amzn.to/2STirXD Dr. Justin Lehmiller upcoming events including May 2019 appearances in Chicago, L.A. & New York https://www.lehmiller.com/public-speaking Dr. Justin Lehmiller Twitter https://twitter.com/JustinLehmiller Dr. Justin Lehmiller Facebook https://www.facebook.com/psychologyofsex Dr. Justin Lehmiller Reddit https://www.reddit.com/r/psychologyofsex Dr. Justin Lehmiller Instagram https://www.instagram.com/justinjlehmiller/ Dr. Justin Lehmiller YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCm8JQt7it3re8SypKf-mT2Q Dr Justin Lehmiller American sex Podcast episode 74 about the science of sexual fantasy http://sunnymegatron.com/justin-lehmiller-sexual-fantasy-podcast/ Sunny Megatron Instagram (please help us get to 10k to unlock more business features! We’re sooooo close!)http://instagram.com/sunnymegatron American Sex Podcast new subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast Episode 85 Sponsor, Affiliate & Giveaway Info Get $45 off your first month of online/tech based therapy with Talkspace by using code SUNNY at http://talkspace.com CalExotics Instagram giveaway (ends 4/26/2018) https://www.instagram.com/p/BvsyuR8hc4R/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link Get 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more)http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts Sunny & Ken’s classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric & http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation 15% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bed http://bit.ly/sunnyearlytobed At least 25% on BDSM gear & sex toys with Stockroom’s daily deal (there’s a new product each day!) https://www.stockroom.com/dailydeal/?acc=7c590f01490190db0ed02a5070e20f01
What are the most common fantasies people have? Where do they come from? Why do we have them? And how do I talk to my partner about my fantasies? How can we bring fantasy into real life? Dr. Justin J. Lehmiller received his Ph.D. in Social Psychology from Purdue University. He is a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute and author of the book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher and scholar who has published more than 40 pieces of academic writing to date, including a textbook entitled The Psychology of Human Sexuality that is used in college classrooms around the world. Dr. Lehmiller has run the popular blog Sex and Psychology since 2011 and he has published articles in numerous media outlets, including Playboy, USA Today, VICE, Politico, and New York Magazine. To learn more visit sexandpsychology.com We also answer a sex question: I’m a straight man engaged to a beautiful woman, but I never crave sex. For some of our favorite sexy products: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com Drink a glass of delicious natural wine while listening to us by visiting marginswine.com We are a proud member of Pleasure Podcasts network
This episode might just change your life-- especially if you've ever wondered if your sexual fantasies are too “weird.” Dr. Justin Lehmiller surveyed over 4,000 Americans about their fantasies and what he discovered is absolutely fascinating and reassuring. It turns out all of our sexual fantasies fall into seven major categories. Dr. Lehmiller tells us which are the most popular and why, if people of different genders fantasize differently, why suppressing our sexual fantasies can be damaging, why group sex is so appealing, why Republicans tend to have more taboo sexual fantasies, and how to use the information he uncovered to make your own sex life better. He even tells us a few things from his study that didn't make it into his latest book, Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. ___________________________________ Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com To support American Sex podcast, please visit patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!) Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter or texting MEGATRON to 444999 Sunny & Ken, xo! ____________________________________ Episode 74 Links Dr. Justin Lehmiller Sex and Psychology Blog https://www.lehmiller.com/ Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life https://amzn.to/2STirXD Dr. Justin Lehmiller Twitter https://twitter.com/JustinLehmiller Dr. Justin Lehmiller Facebook https://www.facebook.com/psychologyofsex Dr. Justin Lehmiller Reddit https://www.reddit.com/r/psychologyofsex Dr. Justin Lehmiller Instagram https://www.instagram.com/justinjlehmiller/ Dr. Justin Lehmiller YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCm8JQt7it3re8SypKf-mT2Q Sunny Megatron Instagram (please help us get to 10k to unlock more business features!) http://instagram.com/sunnymegatron American Sex Podcast new subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast Episode 74 Sponsor, Affiliate & Giveaway Info Get 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts Sunny & Ken’s classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric 15% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bed http://bit.ly/sunnyearlytobed
Chris chats with sex researchers Dr. Justin Lehmiller and Roni Wiener about sexual fantasies, thinking oneself to orgasm, the importance of sex research, and much more. Justin also speaks at length about his book, Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life, which is based on the responses 4,175 American adults gave to a 369-question survey about sexual fantasies. Check out his excellent blog sexandpsychology.com for more of Justin's musings on sex and science. You should also consider filling out Roni's diverse orgasm survey. Learn more about Roni's classes and workshops at sundragonrising.com. And for more on the “replication crisis” in science check out this episode of Vox's The Weeds and this episode of You Are Not So Smart. Always feel free to email Chris about anything at chris@sexwithstrangersshow.com. You can also tweet at him: twitter.com/sexwithchris. Find him on Snapchat: ChrisSowa. And message him on Fetlife: Chris Sowa. Go to sexwithstrangersshow.com to find links mentioned in the show.
Chris chats with sex researchers Dr. Justin Lehmiller and Roni Wiener about sexual fantasies, thinking oneself to orgasm, the importance of sex research, and much more. Justin also speaks at length about his book, Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life, which is based on the responses 4,175 American adults gave to a 369-question survey about sexual fantasies. Check out his excellent blog sexandpsychology.com for more of Justin's musings on sex and science. You should also consider filling out Roni's diverse orgasm survey. Learn more about Roni's classes and workshops at sundragonrising.com. And for more on the “replication crisis” in science check out this episode of Vox's The Weeds and this episode of You Are Not So Smart. Always feel free to email Chris about anything at chris@sexwithstrangersshow.com. You can also tweet at him: twitter.com/sexwithchris. Find him on Snapchat: ChrisSowa. And message him on Fetlife: Chris Sowa. Go to sexwithstrangersshow.com to find links mentioned in the show.
"People who share their fantasies are the happiest and most sexually satisfied in their relationships." //What’s the different between a fetish and a fantasy? What are the benefits of communicating our deepest desires? What are the most common fantasies among Republicans versus Democrats? These and many more questions are address by social psychologist Dr Justin Lehmiller's new book Tell Me What You Want, for which he surveyed 4200 Americans on their erotic fantasies. //Dr Lehmiller and Tina chatted about why we want what we can't have, or what we've been raised to believe we're not supposed to want in the first place, and much more! //Dr. Justin J. Lehmiller received his Ph.D. in Social Psychology from Purdue University. He is a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute and author of the book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher and scholar who has published more than 40 pieces of academic writing to date, including a textbook entitled The Psychology of Human Sexuality (now in its second edition) that is used in college classrooms around the world. Dr. Lehmiller's research focuses on topics including casual sex, sexual fantasy, sexual health, and friends with benefits. His studies have appeared in all of the leading journals on human sexuality, including the Journal of Sex Research, Archives of Sexual Behavior, and The Journal of Sexual Medicine. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Welcome to episode 97 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to be joined by Dr. Justin J. Lehmiller who talks to us about sexual fantasies, the influence culture has in this area and understanding the difference between sexual fantasy and sexual desire. Dr. Justin J. Lehmiller received his Ph.D. in Social Psychology from Purdue University. He is a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute and author of the book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher and scholar who has published more than 40 pieces of academic writing to date, including a textbook entitled The Psychology of Human Sexuality (now in its second edition) that is used in college classrooms around the world. Dr. Lehmiller's research focuses on topics including casual sex, sexual fantasy, sexual health, and friends with benefits. His studies have appeared in all of the leading journals on human sexuality, including the Journal of Sex Research, Archives of Sexual Behavior, and The Journal of Sexual Medicine. Dr. Lehmiller has run the popular blog Sex and Psychology since 2011, and it now receives several million page views per year. He has been interviewed by numerous media outlets, including The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, The Chicago Tribune, The Boston Globe, CNN.com, The Atlantic, The Globe and Mail, and The Sunday Times. He has been named one of 5 "Sexperts" You Need to Follow on Twitter by Men's Health and one of the "modern-day masters of sex" by Nerve. Dr. Lehmiller has appeared on several episodes of the television program Taboo on the National Geographic Channel and has been a guest on numerous podcast and radio shows, including the Savage Lovecast and the NPR programs Radio Times and Airtalk. He is a popular freelance writer, penning columns and op-eds for major publications, including Playboy, USA Today, VICE, Psychology Today, Politico, and New York Magazine. In addition, the articles he writes on Sex and Psychology have been syndicated on major websites, including Business Insider, Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Thought Catalog. In this episode, you will hear: Findings about sexual fantasies Justin’s found from a recent survey The similar sexual themes that emerged across various age groups The influence culture has on sexual fantasy How political leanings can influence sexual fantasy Understanding the difference between sexual fantasy and sexual desire Creating emotional safety around fantasies Learning to communicate with your partner to please each other’s fantasies Resources https://sexandpsychology.com https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care https://twitter.com/oasis2care https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio
On today’s show, Emily is joined by Dr. Justin Lehmiller – a leading expert on human sexuality – to talk about his book, Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How it Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. They discuss sexual fantasies, what they mean, and why it’s totally okay to have them (psst, we all do). Plus, they get into the benefits of sharing your fantasies with your partner, what the top ones are around the U.S., and the difference between men and women – and the similarities, too. Thank you for supporting our sponsors who help keep the show FREE: Hot Octopuss, Womanizer, Fleshlight, Adam & Eve Follow Emily on all social: @sexwithemily Follow Dr. Lehmiller on Instagram: @justinjlehmiller For more of Dr. Lehmiller, visit: sexandpsychology.com For even more sex advice, tips & tricks, visit: sexwithemily.com
In Episode 42, Dr. Justin Lehmiller returns to talk with Dr. Zhana and Joe about sexual fantasies and what they say about us! Most people have sexual fantasies, and some fantasies are not as rare as you might think. What do our fantasies mean? Should we act on them and if so how? Dr. Justin Lehmiller talks about his new book https://www.hachettebookgroup.com/titles/justin-j-lehmiller/tell-me-what-you-want/9780738234977/ (Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life.) Listen to find out which are the most common sexual fantasies, how our fantasies differ according to our age, gender and political beliefs, as well as the ways we can normalize sexual fantasies and potentially make them realities. About our Guest https://scienceofsexpodcast.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/09/G84A8173.jpg ()Dr. Justin Lehmiller is a social psychologist, Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute, and author of the new book Tell Me What You Want. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator and a prolific scholar who has published more than 40 pieces of academic writing to date. Dr. Lehmiller’s research focuses on topics including casual sex, sexual fantasy, sexual health, and friends with benefits. Dr. Lehmiller has run the popular blog Sex and Psychology since 2011 and he is a popular freelance writer, penning columns and op-eds for major publications, including Playboy, USA Today, VICE, Psychology Today, and New York Magazine. He has been named one of http://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/5-sexperts-you-need-follow-twitter (5 “Sexperts” You Need to Follow on Twitter) by Men’s Health, and is a go-to expert on sex for several major media outlets. Visit his https://www.lehmiller.com/ (website). Or follow him on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/justinjlehmiller/ (@justinjlehmiller) or on twitter https://twitter.com/JustinLehmiller (@JustinLehmiller.) Don’t miss this week’s foreplay… A new study shows that it takes just a third of a second to realize you are attracted to someone and only a quarter of a second to recognize a person’s gender. Spotting attractiveness and gender so quickly could better increase our chances of finding a mate. We associate attractiveness with intelligence and better health which helps us make snap judgments about potential mates. https://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-6197557/amp/Falling-love-takes-just-second.html (Click here) to find out more. Before Next Time… Remember to like The Science of Sex Podcast on https://www.facebook.com/ScienceofSexPodcast/ (Facebook), https://twitter.com/ScienceofSexPod (Twitter), and check out our http://scienceofsexpodcast.com/ (website at scienceofsexpodcast.com!) Check out Dr. Zhana at a comedy variety show Wednesday October 3rd at 8 pm! http://www.fnlbk.com/events/2018/10/3/the-fine-show (Click here for more details.) For more in-person sex science, check out Dr. Zhana at the Touchpoint Town Hall on October 15th, for her seminar on How to Be In An Open Relationship. See the event live at the Assemblage, or listen in on the Touchpoint Podcast. https://howtobeopen.splashthat.com/ (RSVP here to reserve your ticket for this free event!) Check out Dr. Zhana’s next Sex Science Social: Debunking Sex Myths That Ruin Lives, on October 18th. She will be discussing some common myths that get pushed around that can be detrimental to relationships! https://sexmyths.eventbrite.com/?aff=podcast (Click here to reserve your tickets for the event!) Remember to submit comments, questions, and everything in between on our https://scienceofsexpodcast.com/contact/ (Get in Touch Page)! Do you love The Science of Sex Podcast and all the work Dr. Zhana does? Support her by becoming a monthly https://www.patreon.com/drzhana (Patreon Supporter)! Facebook Twitter Google+ Pinterest LinkedIn 29Shares
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