Figuring Sh!t Out

Integrating our Healing through Transformation + Finding Pure Alignment.That is the theme of this month on Figuring Sh!t Out. It asks you to ask yourself: "What would my life look like if I showed up for myself fully? If I believed myself capable? If I argued with my limitations and went beyond them? How am I clipping my own wings? What is my true potential?” We find the answers to this through Shadow Work - bringing the dark to the light with loving awareness & curiosity. Where the past self, the higher self, and the present self unite to bridge the gap between what we know and how we can move what we know into our lives, creating change. When we were young, we were all dreamers. This episode asks you - "What did you dream about when you were young? When did you stop dreaming? And how can you start again?"This episode is part of a Shadow Work Series, episodes that use Shadow Work in the focal point of discussion as a vehicle to self development & growth. Linked below is part one, which covers the foundations of shadow-work and inner child healing. It's not necessary to listen to this first if you haven't, unless you have no idea where to begin when it comes to shadow work, but is encouraged! The first episode takes you through meeting your inner child and shares my experience with healing. Shadow-Work Series Episode One:Episode 21: Shadow-Work Series, Part 1: A Beginner's Guide to Inner Child Healing, Forgiveness, and Self-Discovery In case you missed it, listen to last week's episode on Igniting Transformation & Facing Discomfort to Break Cycles-- If you liked this episode, please rate the podcast on your preferred streaming platform, let me know your thoughts below, & reach out over socials!!

A new chapter. A new beginning. Season Two.A new theme: Almost always done, because we never will be.Never complete, because our wholeness isn't found outside of us.And on this episode, we cover how to find more of that wholeness. The only thing we should question -- is our limits.Confronting our comfort zones with the courageous act of taking ownership of our lives and lovingly accepting self-responsibility is the only way to create lasting, actionable transformation.This episode calls for an integration of all parts of ourselves - with wholeness, with love, with compassion, and with the strength of accountability.For the last month and a half, that is the journey I've been on.I intentionally stripped myself of all comforts and headed into the woods of Northern New Hampshire over this break to face shadows and feel the catharsis of letting go.On this episode, I take you through my journey and give you insight into what I've learned - and how that expansion has led to enrich the path of self-exploration here - in V2 of Figuring Sh!t Out - the podcast AND the brand.In our collective journey of self-discovery and growth, the topic of this new season and episode is evolution:Fully stepping into newness through lovingly shedding layers of what we no longer need and being honest with ourselves about what it is that we do need.I am so excited to be back. Thank you for listening.If you liked this episode, please rate the podcast on your preferred streaming platform, let me know your thoughts below, & reach out over socials

We are always changing. Whether we resist or allow. Change happens, with or without us - But always within us. It is necessary to let ourselves let go of what we no longer need, bid farewell to what doesn't serve us any longer, and step into an unknown future with bravery and hope. To all who have been on their journey of Figuring Sh!t Out in 2023, with or without me — give yourself credit, let yourself rest, and let your shedding skin & growing pains remind you:That there is so much left for you to learn. There is so much left for you to love. There is so much more fun for you to have. & There are so many more realizations to come to you that will feel like homecoming moments of eye-opening clarity. On the last episode of Season 1, never done before & as a gift to all of you on this journey with me — I guide you through a visualization & meditation that allows you to shed burdens, trust the process, and trust in life's serendipity - meeting your future self who has traversed the path you walk upon now. I ask you to do nothing, but listen and surrender to the divine timing ahead, slow down, savor the unfolding of life, and give grace to your resilience and unwavering spirit - which has always carried you through every moment of your life. Thank you for listening, thank you for being on this journey with me, and thank you for making this space so full and so bright. Figuring Sh!t Out was once a confused dream, and through this Season and this year, has become a precious space for my heart & soul. There is so much in store in 2024. All that you've asked me for is in the works & I am so excited to share with you more details when SEASON TWO (2!!!!!) launches in January. Kiss 2023 goodbye with strength, you brave, beautiful souls TikTok: butterflyfountainYoutube: Vanessa Fontana xxIF YOU LIKED THIS EPISODE OR LOVE THE POD, PLS RATE THE PODCAST ON YOUR LISTENING PLATFORM & LET ME KNOW YOUR THOUGHTS! (Feel free to reach out on my socials above or let me know your thoughts below in the episode prompt!

Imagine the freedom of living unencumbered by the fear of others' opinions, feeling rooted, grounded, and connected to yourself, your truth, and your exploration of life - where your worthiness is not a question, but a statement. What would you do? How would you act? How would you move?As we end 2023, many of us are thinking about what we want to release and leave behind, and what we want to take with us and transform into in the New Year. Today's episode is a beacon and an ode to that- illuminating how to recognize patterns of people-pleasing and survival mechanisms and step into who you want to become - with actionable steps to move forward.The path to "confidence" is often misunderstood and misconstrued. Many of us think of confidence as a type of extroversion, being able to take up space and be heard, seen, witnessed. But many times, confidence can be quiet. It can be simple. Being magnetic is not about other people, it is always about you. How you hold your space, speak to yourself, show up for yourself - is how you move into the world and reflect and receive energy.On this episode, I talk about: (00:00) - Reclaiming Power and Building Confidence - Holding space for yourself unapologetically, stopping people-pleasing, misconceptions of confidence, what "beauty" truly is.(16:53) - Embracing Authenticity and Self-Confidence - Social Anxiety, Fear of being Perceived, Judgement, Projections of others, & Moving into Self-Acceptance(26:47) - Choosing Authenticity and Letting Go - The importance of self-discovery, Looking back on the year, Looking inwards into yourself(30:51) - Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth into the New Year - Finding Your Inner Alignment, Affirmations for your strength, and Journal Prompts/Questions for you to sit with if you feel called

We've all been there: one thing goes wrong, then another, then another - and we feel like a slave to our conditions, a slave to our mind's negative thinking patterns, unable to wake ourselves up or shake ourselves out of the rut we're in, and sometimes, the rut we are falling further into.How do you get out of that place? The one that feels so dark, so sticky, so dreary.How do you go on and show up with presence for yourself, the people, the responsibilities in your life when your thoughts are so loud that you get lost in them, and when they feel so much more powerful than you?The only way out is through. But you must know a few things before you embark upon the process of moving through it: You are not your thoughts, your feelings, or your life situation. We hear this a lot, but in this episode, I talk about the true meaning of this and explain the concept using the book "The Power of Now," by Eckhart Tolle with some references from "The Untethered Soul" by Michael J. Singer (Highly recommend both of these books!)You must extend a kind, patient, and gentle hand to yourself as you go through the flux of life. To get mad at ourselves for being in a dark place, is just another mechanism to deepen that dark place. Treat yourself the way you would a loved one, connect with your inner child and give them what they need and what they are asking for, and treat yourself with love -- it will make it all the more easier to see the light at the end of the tunnel.You are not stuck. You are never stuck. The only "stuck" that you can be is the endless loop of incessant worry and darkness that you feel trapped in. But you are not trapped. As counterintuitive as it sounds, we can be addicted to our suffering, addicted to the mind's stories about it and the need to justify our feelings - but we must create the space to see illusion from reality - and separate ourselves from the stories we no longer need to carry with us.Sometimes, it takes time for us to wake ourselves up. Give yourself that time. In this episode, I talk about how I woke up on the wrong side of the bed and wound up in one of these funks. And how I used it as an opportunity to see if I could move myself out of it.And what do you know? It worked.I give you my step-by-step guide for getting out of a funk, whether this be an hour-long practice that you use to just go about your day when the day feels too heavy to comprehend, or an extended process that you move through at your own rhythm.Creating a practice to surrender to that brings you back to yourself, back to Earth, and allows you to have the patience to create space around your feelings - is sometimes all we need to get through the other side. You are exactly where you are supposed to be. And sometimes, where you are doesn't feel good. Sometimes, it's not supposed to. We learn so much from darkness, so much to transmute into light.More than anything -- we learn that we are far more powerful than we know in becoming conscious, aware, and getting ourselves out of feeling stuck.Be patient with yourself as you learn.xx This episode is part of the December Mini-Series - 4 shorter episodes to close out the year and to end Season 1 of Figuring Sh!t Out.There is so much coming in the New Year that I am so excited to share!! Stay tuned with me on - SOCIALS: Podcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitoutPersonal Instagram: @222vgfSpiritual & Self-Help Advice -> TikTok: butterflyfountainYoutube: Vanessa Fontana - More like this to come

This episode was recorded back in September of this year, but I found it in my audio-files and as I listened to it, I couldn't help but know that it was never published for a reason.It felt as though I spoke directly to myself in my current situation — in the space between this September & this December, I have found myself amid quite a bit of career confusion, not having any answers or knowing what to do, and how to move forward with the unknowing.And it's a reminder that sometimes - we have to remember how far we've come, how much we know, and how much we've forgotten as we get lost in the throws of life. You'll never solve a problem in crisis mode — and taking a step back will always let you see a much bigger picture that you didn't have before.So, as we get into the finality of this year, it is time for reflection, for rest, and to allow ourselves to evolve. To sit with what we really want, balance it with what makes sense for us, and allow the path to be carved for when we know how to walk upon it.On this episode, I give you the run-down on my experience through my educational studies and choices, college, and moving to New York City to figure the rest out. I had a very non-traditional experience through this part of my adolescence, and as hard as it was — it taught me more than I know to be grateful for. I'm still along the journey of Figuring Sh!t Out, as we all will be for the rest of our lives — and this topic is to likely be revisited when I find more answers I didn't have before. But in the mean-time, I will have fun finding them — because in the end, If you spend your whole life trying to get your act together, you don't have a life. You have an act. xxSo much news coming in the new year! Figuring Sh!t Out Season 2 & so much goodness to share very soon TikTok: butterflyfountainYoutube: Vanessa Fontana - Posted a new Video last week!! More like this to come

Are you brave enough to let yourself change?To let yourself be taken out of the box of ideas and beliefs you cling onto, and gain clarity of consciousness, and the simplicity of presence? This episode is a note on allowing yourself to evolve, to expand, and holding space for the liminal space between where you are now, and where you are going.To hold space for mystery, and find empowerment in letting old ideas, dreams, and beliefs that we no longer identify with, leave us as this year soon will.And the true power of your unique, individual expression, with the connection of the collective world and magnetic landscape of humanity that we are inextricably apart of.We often forget the shared universal human experience. We often forget that we all know confusion. We all know breakthrough. We all know love and heartbreak and pain and peace. We all know embarrassment and fear and comfort and joy. We forage in isolation, on our own, living in a dream world - squeamishly trying to find more air in our breath.We sit on trains and planes and walk through the streets of the world, heads down, phone in hand - one million pulses and heart-beats around us, yet - we choose to be set apart from the beat of humanity. Our clarity of consciousness is our greatest superpower. It can be sharpened to be the lens that we live most of our lives through, but the consequence of humanity is that we will never have clarity, all of the time. The moments where we have the gift of reprieve from passing thoughts and extraneous worries, the moments where we are present enough to observe life happening, with or without us – is where we are able to sit in the liminal space between worlds, and know that our unfolding is inevitable. So, if your unfolding is inevitable, do you wish to live in your own isolated dream, unable to see the birth of that new world that you have created, unconsciously? Or do you wish to be conscious? Life will always be struggle. And yet, it will always be expansive. Your power, is not to choose whether your struggle or whether you expand, but to choose what you struggle for, what is worth expanding for, where you focus, and what influences you let into your waking life. The question is not - “Will you create?”The question is always - “What will you create?” and“What have you already created?”xxSOCIALS: Podcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitoutPersonal Instagram: @222vgfSpiritual & Self-Help Advice -> TikTok: butterflyfountainYoutube: Vanessa Fontana - Posted a new Video last week!! More like this to come

We all have a sense of timeless urgency. Are we running out of time? Should we be somewhere else at this stage of our lives? What's left to do? What's next to accomplish?An urgency that we humanly attempt to fill with more material things, and more material dreams of material things.The importance of integrating gratitude into our daily routines is something that's been talked about time & time again. Having a gratitude journal, finding more to be grateful for, we hear it all the time -But this isn't about ticking off an item on your daily to-do list, it's about feeling and embodying gratitude.Gratitude — true, sincere gratitude, expands your focus and retrains your neural networks to expand the scope of goodness in your life. It has profound impacts on our physical and psychological well-being. We often get tangled in the web of wants, the web of material possession & achievement, forgetting that life is transitory, fleeting, and our tendency to clutter our lives with material possessions and achievements keeps us from the feelings of true wholeness and abundance. It seems in every book or guide or how-to that complicates the simplicity of life - there is an underlying basis of shifting our mindset to the survival-state of lack and suffering, to that of abundance and light. But the shift will not happen by following steps or writing lists, attempting to emulate a wheel that has been created and recreated, time and time again. The shift happens in deep presence, where you realize - all that you have now, is all that you need, and somewhere in time – was all that you wanted. On this episode, we venture into a conceptual analysis of gratitude, and why it's so hard to integrate fully into our lives, delving into the realms of our mindset, and evaluating our perceptions of abundance and scarcity. Uncovering how gratitude, from a psychological perspective, can forge stronger connections with others, with ourselves, reshape our narratives, and break us out of limiting beliefs. xxYoutube: Vanessa Fontana - Find the Full length Read of my Piece "The Fallacy of Immaterial Fulfillment - here.)xxPLS RATE THE SHOW ON YOUR PREFERRED STREAMING PLATFORM, & LET ME KNOW YOUR THOUGHTS ON THIS EPISODE

When our lives begin to brim with chaos, when we are facing deadlines and urgency and getting ready for life's momentous next moments, we often feel endlessly confused, as if there is an incessant thought-loop that never ceases to let us know that we will never have the answers. These are the moments when we need breath, perspective, and patience. Knowing that there is an older, wiser version of ourselves holding our hands as we rise and fall through this life, and in the panorama of our confusion - there is the beauty of experience embedded into everything we have yet to know. In the shortest episode to date of Figuring Sh!t Out, I give you context into the background of my life recently and share about my own journey regaining perspective, reflecting on how far FSO has come since it was created.This podcast has become the space where I meet my higher self. I get on this microphone and I always find more clarity than I had before. I thank you for being alongside me as we go on the endless journey of Figuring Sh!t Out, realizing again and again that to "figure" anything out - was never the point at all. I love you !!

To create true change in our lives, to become the version of ourselves that we wish to be, to shift our mindset from one of lack and scarcity to one of of abundance - it starts with the little actions we take every single day. The minutes that compound into hours, the hours that compound into days, the days that compound to weeks, then months, then years. If nothing changes now, then nothing will change.And most often, it is not a radical shift -- we will not change overnight & we do not need to force ourselves out of where we are. It is the act of one step at a time, one day at a time, and the willingness to be patient with oneself as we learn and evolve. How do you enjoy the process of growth? And how do you consciously begin growing?In this episode, I give you direction, guidance, and tips on how to create a daily practice of fostering connection with yourself, grounding yourself, and creating space for yourself. Intentionally practicing self-care & self-preservation as you grow, accomplish, and achieve -- will allow you to be present in the experiences of your life - and save you from burn-out.Having a practice that allows us to take a step back and see how far we've come, as well as evaluate how we are spending your time, and how we would intentionally like to move forward allows us to be a friend to ourselves.To look at ourselves, without judgement, and create time and space to pour back into our own hearts, souls, and energy.This is how you become aware - day by day, so that you are not controlled by the unconscious narratives in your mind. You choose to see what you see -- but if you're not conscious of it, you will see what you have been programmed to see. You do not have to live in a program anymore. --- EPISODE MENTIONS/LINKS:FOR 10% OFF YOUR FIRST GUIDED JOURNAL, USE MY CODE: FSO10 HERE! (https://www.insidethenout.com/FSO)Guidebook mentioned in Episode 26 (Intuition vs anxiety), with my AM routine + tips for Meditation

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We all have an intuition that is bravely, uniquely, and quietly our own.An unexplainable inner wisdom, a sixth sense that can hardly be articulated.Our acquaintanceship with our own intuition is deeply connected to how much we know and trust ourselves.To listen to it - we must have a certain solitude with the self, a practice of discernment with our mental activity to know what is intuition and what is fear.We must strengthen the muscle of listening to our inner wisdom, and understand the ways we have silenced the voice that softly protects us from danger, warns us from impulsive action, and guides us into our destiny.This episode is a step-by-step guide for you to re-find your inner voice, and covers:The difference between Intuition & AnxietyThe ways in which you may have silenced your intuitionPractices to help you re-find & listen to your intuitionThe importance of intentional silence (meditation), and how a daily practice can help you feel centered in your knowingDeciphering emotional reactions, impulsive instincts, from an intuitive urgencyGuiding questions (towards the end of the podcast) to help you remember your own intuitive compass, and reconnect you to the wisdom within youIntuition whispers before it screams. In this episode, I ask you the question --Where is your intuition starting to scream?What are you not facing, not admitting, not acknowledging?How often do you second-guess what you know, what you feel, what your knowing tells to you?And how can you begin to practice listening?-----I decided to use this episode as a first test for upcoming guidebooks!You can find it here:FSO Episode 26 Post-Episode Guide-Book It breaks down the episode with an introspective element to help you tap into your intuition, with guided practices towards the end, and prompts to help you connect with your intuition. Please let me know your thoughts on this one + if it helped you, as it is a first draft

This episode calls for redefining discipline in our external world and understanding when it's necessary to retreat in order to continue expanding.What can you give when your natural energy stores are depleted? Who are you when you have nothing left for yourself, because you've spent hours and days and weeks saying yes - against your natural knowing of what you need? What sacrifices  do you make to be what you find "valuable" in the world, turning off the intuitive compass that calls you to rest, to joy, to surrender into calm solitude? How do you find a balance? We rush through this life, making moments a means to an end. Self discipline as a form of self-love -- but not the discipline to do, to act, to force -- Discipline to rest, to say no, to set boundaries, and to take time to come home to ourselves when we feel the call to do so. The importance of staying in sync with our inner selves while pursuing external goals is a harmonizing of listening to our inner voice and knowing how to find it. To live an intentional life, we must align our intentions with our needs -- or we will lose ourselves along the way.--------- Questions for you to reflect on if you feel called to do so

This episode serves as a guide to understanding your limiting beliefs, shattering those illusions, and how to identify and live in alignment with what you want and who you want to be. Last week, we covered letting go of the past. Now, we forge a new future. This requires one thing - an overlapping element from last week's episode and an underpinning of Figuring Sh!t Out:Honesty with the self.In order to deepen our relationship with ourselves and honor who we really are, we must face ourselves.No more hiding. No more living in victimhood. No more shaming ourselves. This could be seen as a manifestation technique - but underneath all manifestation is shadow-work - we cannot magnetize what we do not believe we deserve. And we tell ourselves what we deserve - through our actions, through the way we live our lives, spend our time, and talk to ourselves. Are you living in alignment with who you want to be? Do you find harmony sometimes, and fall off others? How can you make the commitment and stick to it?In this episode, you're walked through a step by step process on how to understand how your behaviors and actions tell the external world and yourself what you believe yourself to be worthy of - and how to step fully into your highest ideal of self by understanding our psychology & identification with the ego-self.It covers: - Making the unconscious conscious and using it to our advantage, a Carl Jung philosophy- A reading from "Atomic Habits" by James Clear on changing your identity to change your behaviors (Revising our Self-Concept)- How to unearth your individual identity & self-concept through thoughts of your inner child + current joys in life- How to positively fuel your self-concept and "ego"-based identity, while still holding a notion of surrender & spiritual groundedness in your life- Dissecting the role our ego plays in personal development, knowing when we're in harmony with ourselves- Shining a light on the importance of recognizing when you're in alignment with your ideal self and when fear or guilt is creating dissonance- Staying present and finding joy in our journey - sharing some notes of my own experience with this technique & what I'm finding along the way IF YOU LIKED THIS EPISODE, PLS LEAVE A REVIEW & TELL ME YOUR THOUGHTS!(&let me know if you'd be interested in guide-books associated w/ episodes

In this episode, I take you through my last few weeks of navigating life & what it has taught me about:  Moving on. Moving forward. Facing an unknown future with a bit of fear but a lot of relief - in knowing what you are leaving behind.  Saying goodbye to your pain and to the stories it wishes to perpetuate.We cannot avoid feeling what we wish not to face.  They teach us the most valuable lessons. They bring us higher. We are only as wise as what we learn from our suffering.  Give yourself the permission of patience. Give yourself the permission to feel.  To start over. Thank what your painful experiences have taught you, and wish them farewell. You can let go. It's okay to let go. The other side will be more beautiful than you can fathom. xx IF YOU LIKED THIS EPISODE, PLS LEAVE A REVIEW & TELL ME YOUR THOUGHTS!Spiritual & Self-Help Advice -> TikTok: butterflyfountainPodcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitoutPersonal Instagram: @222vgfYoutube:  @figuringshitout (Vanessa Fontana / Butterfly Fountain) - THERE WILL BE A VIDEO 4 THIS EPISODE! Will link here when it's up

"It is truly a great cosmic paradox that one of the best teachers in all of life turns out to be death. No person or situation could ever teach you as much as death has to teach you. While someone could tell you that you are not your body, death shows you. While someone could remind you of the insignificance of the things that you cling to, death takes them all away in a second. While people can teach you that men and women of all races are equal and that there is no difference between the rich and the poor, death instantly makes us all the same.Death changes everything in a flash. That's the reality of the situation. If all these things can be changed in an instant, then maybe they aren't so real after all" - The Untethered Soul, Michael J. Singer // While we all wish to create our lives with joy and poetic romanticism - there are often harsh and cruel truths that we cannot blind ourselves from. Life is a series of ups and downs, highs and lows, deaths with rebirths, and deaths without them.  In my 23rd year, I've witnessed more death than ever before. And what it has done, above all of the grief and loss and trying to make sense of it, is made me feel immense gratitude for the preciousness of what I have, who I have, and what is real.In the throes of grief, we often find ourselves grappling with the unpredictability of life and the preciousness of each moment. In this episode, I share my experience with losing loved ones and watching those I love lose theirs.How do you make sense of any of it? What can it teach you? What does it show you?Attempting to give a voice to those disorienting moments is challenging in navigating the labyrinth of loss, but in as much honesty as I can - in this episode, I try. And we come to find, trying - to define the undefinable, to go on with honor and gratitude after those we love are no longer here -Trying is all we can ever do.----- There may not be an episode next week!! But you can find updates & follow me here: Spiritual & Self-Help Advice -> TikTok: butterflyfountainPodcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitoutPersonal Instagram: @222vgfYoutube:  @figuringshitout (Vanessa Fontana / Butterfly Fountain) Support the show~~Apologies for any background noise - was not recording in my usual place amid travel~~ See you soon xxSupport the showSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/figuring-sh-t-out/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

This episode takes you through the critical aspects of inner child healing, from understanding the influence of our environment on the inner child, to releasing the pain of rejection and judgment. It's a deeply personal look into the struggles of independence, difficult relationships, and the desire for self-acceptance. This episode is part one of an embarkation on shadow-work, a series to guide you through Shadow-Work & Self-Discovery,  the necessary uncovering of our unconscious selves that can lead us into the light of consciousness. We start at the very beginning - and learn how to acquaint with our inner child. Before we delve into the depths of our shadows and learn more about our triggers, attempt to heal them by and unlearning patterns that no longer serve us - we must begin with the ability to have compassion for ourselves - All parts of ourselves. Acceptance. Forgiveness. Discovery. This is the groundwork & foundation for uncovering our unconscious selves.In this episode, I define what our inner child is and why it's so important to begin the process of healing with this image of our most pure and impressionable selves. I ask you to picture your version of who they are to you, and sit with these questions as you hold their image: What is it that you need?What is it that makes you feel happy?What makes you feel loved and secure? What was your first memory of feeling rejected? Alone? Shame?When did you start putting up walls around your heart?What did it feel like before you had them there?-- I share my story of my own inner-child healing and how I've learned what I share today. From moving to New York City at 21 and being ignited with an unexpected healing journey to re-processing and transformative acceptance with EMDR therapy. ---- If you liked this episode, please rate the podcast & leave a review/tell me your thoughts! SOCIALS: Spiritual & Self-Help Advice -> TikTok: butterflyfountainPodcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitoutPersonal Instagram: @222vgfYoutube:  @figuringshitout (Vanessa Fontana / Butterfly Fountain) -Support the showSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/figuring-sh-t-out/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

What would happen if we could trust that the chaotic tower moments were our divinely lit turning points for our own evolution? How much faster would we grow to see the sun if we could know that it would always rise again, after even the darkest of days? How many blessings in disguise have you uncovered? How many bullets have you dodged? How many times have you looked back at yourself in shambles of the past, and wanted to whisper in your ear from your present-day self, “Just wait, you don't know what's in store for you.” We don't know what we don't know, and we never will until the time comes, where we realize with gratitude how divinely led our bumps in the road were. Forehead Kisses From the Universe - that is what those life-altering moments are.------- This episode begins with an expression of gratitude for each & every one of you who've supported & given me your beautiful insights into the podcast thus far!! If I spoke to you 1:1 this week over Instagram, thank you! If not and you're listening anyways, thank you! I discuss how Episode 20 went awry, recording an hour and a half on a different topic and then losing it all, and how I used this as an opportunity to decide how I was going to feel and surrender into redirection, instead of allow an unexpected event to control the rest of my day. I talk at length about: 1. The three steps to building resilience in the face of change or inconvenience:- Recognition & Acknowledgement - feeling what you need to feel, - Surrendering & Accepting - it is what it is,- & Deciding how to move forward - it is what I make it& The ways I experimented with this for this episode.2. How to change your perspective with a simple question your brain will automatically try to answer: "How is this a good thing?" & a challenge for you to implement this in your life this week as unexpected bumps in the road occur, no matter how big or small. 3. How our perspective shapes how we see unexpected change and pain in our lives & how to empower yourself into the freedom of surrender 4. How this Podcast began in the face of a "Tower Moment" & how I have learned throughout my life how to turn pain into opportunity ---- I invite you to survey your life and all of the moments that felt impossible to get through, and ask yourself how they were blessings in disguise, what you have or can learn from them, and how they made you a stronger version of who you are today.I invite you to begin this practice by starting small, with the minor inconveniences that occur in your day-to-day, and see how much resilience you can build with the simple question "How is this a good thing?"Feel free to share with me your experience on socials!IF YOU LIKED THIS EPISODE, PLS LEAVE A REVIEW x RATE THE PODCAST X TELL ME YOUR THOUGHTS TikTok: butterflyfountainPodcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitoutPersonal Instagram: @222vgfYoutube:  @figuringshitout (Vanessa Fontana / Butterfly Fountain) Books Referenced: Untethered Soul, Michael J Singer Support the showSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/figuring-sh-t-out/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

It starts with you. And it ends with you. Always and forever. With the image casted upon us from Storybooks & Fairytales of the Damsel in Distress & the Knight in Shining Armor, we often feel in the depths of our pain and confusion, that we are to wait to be rescued by an unknown savior on horseback to break us out of the dungeon of affliction and into freedom.But this is an illusion. For that Knight In Shining Armor, who frees you from all of the stagnant anguish - has always been + will forever be: You. If you wait for someone or something to come rushing in and break you out of captivity, you will be waiting forever.No one will ever know you, like you know you. No one has ever woken up with you every single day and gone to sleep with you every night, other than you. No one else, and nothing else, has access to your mind or your memories. The loving people in our lives can only guide us, support us, and give us what we need - when we know what it is  we need and can ask for it.You don't have to heal, you get to heal. You don't have to rewrite your story, you get to pick up at any point and decide with love that it is your story to write. And while it can feel heavy, it is the most profound privilege, honor, and responsibility that you have in this life. Your ability to create the life you want starts with your ability to accept your life and yourself now, to accept your responsibility in every step you take, and lovingly redirect into what you get to define. xxIn this episode, I cover: Becoming the artist of your own life. Using confusion as a launching point for self-responsibility.How to overcome absorbing other people's energies+feelings.EMDR therapy - my experience, what it is, & how it's helping to heal long-held conditioned beliefs rooted in trauma and survivalUnlearning survival instincts, rescuing your inner child, reparenting yourself.Seeing self-care & healing as a privilege. The dissonance between who you are and who you want to be: "Manifestation” without necessary shadow-work. How your commitment to healing & self-worth will guide you to create the life you want. Looking at loved ones who help us through hard times as guide-posts, but taking the credit and responsibility in your own healing.A note on my own realizations with this + the empowerment that's come from it. Journal Prompts:If your younger self could tell you what they needed, what would they say? How can you give that to them?Do you have a tendency to resent others for not being there for you? If so, how may you be abandoning yourself?How can you give some credit to yourself for getting through hard times, instead of others?xxIF YOU LIKED THIS EPISODE, PLS LEAVE A REVIEW x TELL ME YOUR THOUGHTS TikTok: butterflyfountainPodcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitoutPersonal Instagram: @222vgfYoutube:  @figuringshitout (Vanessa Fontana / Butterfly Fountain) Support the showSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/figuring-sh-t-out/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

The long, dreaded, and almost habitual cycle of Burn Out. Why? We desensitize our bodies and our brains to the overstimulus in this world of force and we are left physically exhausted, emotionally empty, and mentally overwhelmed. We blink our tired eyes awake and say yes when we know that we shouldn't.We strive, we push, we obtain - for what? For whom?How much is your worth based on how "good" you're doing? How much is your sense of self based on how much you can do or have gotten done? How much is your happiness based on how many boxes you've checked off of your to-do list or how much you've accomplished?  "Doing" holds a lot of weight - it is essential in nature, but when out of balance with the simple act of being, when out of balance with rest, we find ourselves dry and bleak and numb. Burnt.This Sunday, I share my story of recent burn-out and the hold it's had on my life for too many years, and how I am overcoming it with introspective and necessary reprioritization. You are never too busy to rest. You are never too busy to have fun or to laugh. You are never too busy to spend time with the people you love and who love you. The arbitrary timeline you've placed on yourself to succeed is forcing you into conditional love with yourself,  confining you into believing that you are not worthy - just as you are. You are inherently valuable. No matter what you do or don't do, no matter what you can give or cannot give. You deserve to rest, you deserve to let yourself be - and you will be happier, more fulfilled, and more successful because of it.xx------------------------ IF YOU LIKED THIS EPISODE, PLS LEAVE REVIEW TikTok: butterflyfountainPodcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitoutPersonal Instagram: @222vgfYoutube:  @figuringshitout (Vanessa Fontana / Butterfly Fountain) - (there will be a YT video shortened podcast with this episode coming the first week of August

Imposter syndrome impacts the greatest legends, experts, actors, writers, "knowers" and "do-ers" of all time. And yet - the biggest premise of feeling like an imposter, is feeling like we are the only ones hidden in disguise, waiting to be found out. "I have written 11 books, but each time, I think, 'uh oh, they're going to find me out. I've run a game on everybody, and they're going to find me out." - Maya Angelou"The exaggerated esteem in which my life's work is held makes me very ill at ease. I feel compelled to think of myself as an involuntary swindler." - Albert Einstein What would have happened if Maya Angelou allowed her fear to overcome her, and never picked up the pen to write? What had happened if Mr. Einsten himself let his fear overcome him before he forever changed the world of physics and the philosophy of science?We stumbled blind into life and into the hoax that we were supposed to have the map, the plan, the words to say - and that those who seemed to have the blueprint were not too, just making it up as they went. You do not have to earn the right to exist, or take up space. You do not have to earn the right to not know the things you do not know yet, or learn the things you want to learn. There is something beneath the illusion of it all that has wisdom beyond your means. If you can release the illusion that you are the only unknowing one, you can learn how to quiet the noise. That wisdom will guide you - and that wisdom, is not an imposter. The more you learn, the less you know. The more that you follow your own truth, and this wisdom, the more you feel confident in the not knowing.Your birthright is your evolution.You are you & That is your power. -  In this episode, I discuss: - What Imposter Syndrome is & Symptoms of It - The importance of everyone (even the "greats") in some way, shape, or form feeling self-doubt & why this is important to know to overcome it- How it is deeply tied to our own limiting beliefs and ideas of self-worth- How to overcome it, not let it hold you back, & begin to take the steps in growing confidence- The illusion of separation and how life is a mirror which reflects back to us that which we are  - My own journey & struggles with imposter syndrome and how I have learned to quiet the noise, take chances, and follow my authentic desires (literally..... this podcast.)- Realizing the uniqueness and inherent value of YOU. Journal Prompts / Guided Questions to sit with on this topic:(Good for the new Aquarius Full Moon coming up Aug 1!)  - What is it that you want to do? Be honest without limitation. - What's stopping you? Is it comparison, is it your belief in your ability? - Who do you admire and why? What is your highest ideal?- What compliments do you find the hardest to accept? How has imposter syndrome held you back?- What have you accomplished, and how can you give yourself credit for it? xx---------------------------------------------------IF YOU LIKED THIS EPISODE, PLS LEAVE REVIEW TikTok: butterflyfountain Podcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitoutPersonal Instagram: @222vgf Youtube:  @figuringshitout (Vanessa Fontana / Butterfly Fountain) - (there will be a YT video shortened podcast with this episode coming the first week of August

Get real with yourself.  Are you treating yourself the way that you want to be treated? How are you showing up for yourself? Truly, sit with what type of love that you want - think about how you want to be treated, with no limitations. Think about what type of life you want to create, with no limitations. For a moment, let yourself dream. And then, start treating yourself that way. Take care of yourself the way that you would your own child. Nurture yourself, nourish yourself, love yourself enough to be HONEST with yourself. Start waking up with intention, knowing that you are the creator of your life. Whether you choose to take that creation and spin it into victimhood, or self-mastery. That choice is yours. Would you tell someone that you love, a friend, that you'd be there for them, and then not show up in their time of need? Would you make a promise to someone, and then senselessly, mindlessly break it? We give advice. Great advice. To our friends, to our loved ones, to our family. But we do not take our own. We show up for others, so easily, so availably, and forget all about ourselves.We don't realize how big of an impact it has on our self-esteem, our worth, our ability to receive love - when we make promises to ourselves that we do not keep. When we do not treat our word as valuable. So really, ask yourself, how often are you breaking your own promises?How often are you breaking your own heart?Is that what you believe you deserve?Is that what you want?Your ability to receive the unconditional love you deserve requires you to give the unconditional love you deserve to yourself, first. In this episode, I share the importance of mastering your mind, overcoming limitations, and treating yourself with care. Be easy about your life. And treat your heart with care. xx --------------------------------------------------- (Recording from the floor of my bedroom this week, my mouth may be a bit close to the mic in some parts - apologies!) IF YOU LIKED THIS EPISODE, PLS LEAVE REVIEW TikTok: butterflyfountain  Podcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitout Personal Instagram: @222vgf  Youtube:  @figuringshitout (Vanessa Fontana / Butterfly Fountain)Support the showSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/figuring-sh-t-out/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

You can micromanage your life and your personhood all that you want, you can lose your voice screaming at the sky for the answers and reasons of why you were born -  but you cannot micromanage your soul.Do you realize how much you are holding yourself back from your blessings by demanding they come in right here, right now?Do you realize how much you may be blocking answers and guidance by yearning for them with an acute desperation, eyes unknowingly closed to what is right in front of you? If you feel like you are on a constant search for answers, clarity, or guidance on how to get to where you want to go or where you should even be going at all - I have one piece of advice, Stop searching. Learn to sit in the silence of your heart. You will find all you need there. You are here in this life, to experience this life.  Remove the need. Remove the pressure. Silence the monkey in your mind that whisks you away into a painful introspection bordering on existentialism, craving for you to do, to force, to complete.For if you don't, You will miss the moments that are open-doorways for portals of transformation, right in front of you, by scouring for answers when you could simply be allowing them to make their way to you. Let yourself be what you were born to be - Here -Now./In this Episode, I cover: Incremental Progress & Conscious LivingHow to enjoy the process and the unfolding of your path and your life with more easeThe power of authenticity, of what you can create by showing up as you are Practical Tips for Consciousness & Presence How to become conscious of your unconscious thoughts, actions, habits, and behaviors See what is holding you back The importance of Meditation & How to Begin Alpha Brain Wave State  Morning/Alpha State Questions for Guidance"What is the highest ideal of myself that i can be today?"Not getting out of bed until you feel like this person"Can i begin to keep my energy up the entire day?"And if I do it properly, then I will be open to opportunities and possibilities that weren't there before.""Could I sustain brain and heart coherence so that the intelligence within me giving me life, opens a door for me to see intelligence in my world?"Night Time Guidance "What went well today?"Scanning for the good, appreciating moments you did not appreciate when they deserved to be honored"How did I do today?" (Not from a place of judgement but pure observation, and holding yourself accountable)"What got under my skin? What made me frustrated, angry upset? How did I react? & How will I react differently next time?""Was I present?" "How can I be better tomorrow"Visualization - REALIZING YOUR POWERBooks & Resources for this episode: (Where I've learned these things!) Eckhart Tolle, Power of NowAtomic Habits, James Clear Joe Dispenza on Jay Shetty's podcast 'On Purpose' Episode Title: How to Chemically Teach your Body to Focus on Healing & Vibrate at a Higher FrequencyShort Video on Power of Meditation: YT Abraham Hicks, The Pleasure of Meditation The simplest: LITERALLY GOING,,, OUTSIDE and BEING THERE.IF YOU LIKED THIS EPISODE, PLS LEAVE REVIEW TikTok: butterflyfountainPodcast Instagram: Support the showSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/figuring-sh-t-out/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Who are you, when no one's watching? and when they are watching - what are you trying so hard for? Where are you lying to yourself? Craving to be understood, but fearful of being perceived? What an oxymoron.You crave to be understood, but fear being perceived - because you believe that people won't understand you, won't see you, won't get you. And you let that matter. You let that move you. And then you're standing on broken legs and wondering why it's so hard to walk. Wondering why you can't let another person who wants to love you, love you.Wondering why you can't pick up the pen or the paintbrush or the camera and find the spark to light the fire. Wondering why you've sat back on all of the dreams your inner self is thirsty for, but you won't let yourself admit - because you shut the light off in the room that the child that once was you, that still lives in you - illuminated. You told yourself you weren't worthy. You told yourself you couldn't. You told yourself it was too frightening. And you believed it. The cage is open - you can walk out any time you want. Why are you still in there?------- In this episode, I cover: - How to overcome the internal struggle of wanting but fearing love, and how it relates to our ability to see and accept ourselves unconditionally- Why we do this, where it comes from- How projecting a sense of isolation/separation in your own internal pain and experience will keep you lonely, craving, and searching- Taking a peak under the hood at our own worthiness & limiting beliefs - How this translates into how we feel about ourselves and our ability to share ourselves with the world- How to face yourself & feel the necessary feelings to become at one with your authentic self - How to lead with an open heart in all love, relationships, and creativity - starting with the most important relationship you'll ever have (the one YOU have with YOU.) - Breaking out of the idea that love is static - or to be feared - accepting the flux that is this life, accepting our constant evolution- Healthy communication and honesty with yourself, which will translate to others----- IF YOU LIKED THIS EPISODE, PLS LEAVE REVIEW TikTok: butterflyfountain Podcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitoutPersonal Instagram: @222vgf Youtube:  @figuringshitout (Vanessa Fontana / Butterfly Fountain)Contact: contactbutterflyfountain@gmail.comVIDEO ADDITIONS TO THIS EPISODE WILL BE ON YT!! YOUTUBE CHANNEL: @/figuringshitout Name: Vanessa Fontana / Butterfly Fountain Title of Video: who are you when no one is watching? fearful of being perceived, craving to be understood. SHORTENED VIDEO PODCAST TO THIS EPISODE UP SOON

it's time to learn how to say no & not feel bad about it. in this episode, learn how to reclaim your power, time, space, and energy by learning how to protect your boundaries with grace & vigilance. sacrificing your boundaries in the name of love is not a noble, empathetic act. it is martyrdom. it is self-abandonment. and it is reinforcing the falsehood that you are not worthy of love as you are, unconditionally, without needing to overextend yourself in order to receive.where did we learn to include sacrifice in our definition of love? where did we learn to belittle the desires of our own hearts to feed other people's? learning how to set boundaries starts first, with the words we tell ourselves. in the promises that we make to ourselves which we often-times flippantly break, we are showing the world around us, and ourselves, that our boundaries are breakable.in nourishing yourself, in watering your own seeds, you make room for the capacity to give to others without sacrifice or self abandonment. you nourish yourself and by default, the relationships in your life, when you honor your your own space, energy, and time. in this episode, i cover: why setting boundaries is an act of self lovewhat happens when you show up for others in abandonment of yourself rather than out of available space why we struggle to set boundaries and how it reflects our belief in how worthy we are to be loved learning how to say no and break out of the idea that love is conditional how honoring your own word & boundaries to yourself reinforces your ability to set boundaries with others reclaiming your power, time, space, and energy and learning how to protect it with grace & vigilance how setting boundaries will bring the right people into your life and nourish your relationshipshow to self soothe & take responsibility over your own happinessVIDEO PODCAST TO THIS EPISODE IS LIVE ON YOUTUBE

Inside of all of us, there is a voice. A quiet, guiding light handed to us from evolution and survival - through our primal selves to our modern selves, we have carried it through our bones. And with a culture that places more importance on logic, reason, reality, and physical evidence - we have become profoundly disconnected from it. This voice is our most powerful asset, it is our internal compass, our sixth sense, our key to freedom within ourselves to explore the outside world free of fear - It is our Intuition. And in this episode, I help you learn how to rediscover it. Back from my week journeying the mountains of Asheville, North Carolina, named one of the three spiritual “vortexes” in the U.S. -  I share some profound learnings I had in my time of full-circle presence while away. I speak on:  Trusting your path & learning to trust yourself What freedom truly is, and how we define it How we often mistake freedom for controlled independenceThe ways we limit our own freedom & silence our intuition by: Overvaluing logic, reason, and what looks good “on paper” (not that this isn't important, but too much of it leads to silence within our own internal knowing)Looking to other people for advice and guidance instead of trusting ourselves Looking to the world for approval, or only trusting ourselves when we're “doing well” in life Keeping ourselves attached to our own pain & victimhood Keeping ourselves in environments or around people we may have outgrown / not being able to “let go” for fear of loss & How to learn to trust yourself and your own intuition through Acting out of alignment and then leaving the rest - surrendering to the unknown Letting go of the need to control/force outcomes, people, situations, and thingsLetting go of fear/what-ifs Being open to discovery and your intuition by quieting your mind Not letting other people have more influence over you than your own internal knowing apologies for the NYC noise & cabs in the background - they wanted their moment :,) ---------------------------------------------------------VIDEO PODCAST TO THIS EPISODE IS LIVE ON YOUTUBE TikTok: butterflyfountain Podcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitoutPersonal Instagram: @222vgf Youtube:  @figuringshitout (Vanessa Fontana / Butterfly Fountain)Contact: contactbutterflyfountain@gmail.comSupport the showSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/figuring-sh-t-out/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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This episode is a walk-through my journey of awakening and some of the precious lessons I've learned throughout it. Lessons not isolated to a journey of awakening, but lessons so intertwined with life, that we all seem to learn them at some point or another, in our own way. We are not separate and we never were. The light you see in others is too within you - and your access to it comes from a willingness to learn. To be open.In this episode, I talk about - Interconnectedness. My own journey.What death has taught me. Learning to trust the sixth sense, gut instinct. How to trust your intuition & not talk yourself out of your dreams.The inevitable impermanence of it all. Detachment. Learning to trust that every step and mis-step on your journey, every cataclysm, every burst of being, is for your evolvement. Surrender & Relinquishing of control.We are all just here. Walking each other home. -----------------------------It seems like everything that could have gone wrong with this episode, did. Recording was loud and clumsy. My camera was set to slow motion and didn't pick up any audio. As I found flow editing, I lost a folder with all of my cut-down clips. I spent an hour trying to find it. Searching through files, downloading recovery software. In the sake and name of what this episode is, I figure it makes a lot of sense. ------ Soul Consciousness.I was 14 when I watched my grandfather take his last breath. It was the first time I remember having an inner inclination that the life force within us cannot simply dissipate and fade away into nothingness.That there just might be something more. Somewhere, I knew that he was not really gone. Irregardless of if he traveled upon a plane of existence unbeknownst to my mortal humanity, I felt his life's blood through me. I felt his lived experiences in my heart and in my bones, and I knew that as long as I was alive, he would be too - as he lived through me and with me, whether it was all that he gave to me in this physical realm and the patriarchal fortress he built upon our family, Or somewhere very far away yet, not far away enough to be a point of guiding light in the ambiguity of my life. ----- Relinquishing control & surrendering to the flux of it all, knowing that sometimes things just don't end up the way we want them to, and no amount of willing can surmount the inevitable forces that may just be redirection. Or maybe not. But maybe that's not ours to know. The challenges, the tests, the lessons - the ones that never stop. Even once when we awaken to them, when we can spot the patterns and be an objective dimension in our own lives. We are here to learn. To remember and to forget. Over and over again. From darkness I have found light - I think that's the only way. I found a home in my spirit - which is not so different from yours. ---- SOCIALS: Spiritual & Self-Help Advice -> TikTok: butterflyfountain Podcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitoutPersonal Instagram: @222vgf Youtube: @figuringshitout (Vanessa Fontana / Butterfly Fountain)Support the showSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/figuring-sh-t-out/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Covet your being and your breath for they have been with you since your birth into life.Center yourself back home.Step outside of your mind.Detach from, connect to. You are the witness.“If you want to be happy, you have to let go of the part of you that wants to create melodrama. This is the part that thinks there's a reason not to be happy. You have to transcend the personal, and as you do, you will naturally awaken to the higher aspects of your being. In the end, enjoying life's experiences is the only rational thing to do. You're sitting on a planet spinning around in the middle of absolutely nowhere.Go ahead, take a look at reality. You're floating in empty space in a universe that goes on forever. If you have to be here, at least be happy and enjoy the experience. You're going to die anyway. Things are going to happen anyway. Why shouldn't you be happy?You gain nothing by being bothered by life's events. It doesn't change the world; you just suffer. There's always going to be something that can bother you, if you let it."- Untethered Soul, Michael J. SingerSOCIALS: Tell me what you want to hear next & follow for updates!Spiritual & Self-Help Advice -> TikTok: butterflyfountainPodcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitoutPersonal Instagram: @222vgfYoutube: @figuringshitout (Vanessa Fontana / Butterfly Fountain)Contact: contactbutterflyfountain@gmail.comSupport the showSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/figuring-sh-t-out/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Knowing that there will always be more to know, more to learn means that every moment in your life has the potential to be transformative.Our drifting awareness, our tendency to take the path of least resistance by being less than fully awake to the present moment, creates a void.The time-bound mind, which has been designed to be a useful servant, compensates by proclaiming itself master.-------This episode is inspired by Eckhart Tolle.This episode is inspired by the Present Moment.This episode is inspired by the first principles of Figuring Sh!t Out - the oxymoron that we simply never will.------The pathway to peace is presence.You come back to the Now & you come back to all there is.Escape the illusion of fear, the psychological condition that is divorced from any concrete, true, immediate danger.Give yourself grace in healing.Break out of the need to define.In the moments between breath, you receive.XxSOCIALS:Tell me what you want to hear next & follow for updates!Spiritual & Self-Help Advice -> TikTok: butterflyfountainPodcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitoutPersonal Instagram: @222vgfYoutube: @figuringshitout (Vanessa Fontana / Butterfly Fountain)Contact: contactbutterflyfountain@gmail.comSupport the showSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/figuring-sh-t-out/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Free yourself. Find a treasure in knowing that you have been at the rise and fall of every single one of your days, that you have surmounted all aspects of your pain, risen from it, and are in a continuous evolvement of being. You and only you. You weren't given a voice to not use it. Let go of the need to please, to listen to the inner-critic in your mind and satiate it by staying quiet. By looking to others for external validation. When you look to others for approval, you make yourself their prisoner.In this episode, we cover how to find your voice & release self-doubt by connecting with the need, ability, and inherent nature to express.  Minimize the thoughts, opinions, judgements of other people - break out of the illusion that life needs to be taken so seriously, that you need to be anything other than what you are - to connect to the authentic truth within you that quietly, yet formidably desires to be spoken.Creative callings born out of childhood often suffer from silence in adulthood. A constant judgement of ourselves. Constant pressure on our shoulders. Release them. Free yourself.Rewrite the narrative. You are the only one who can.xx SOCIALS: Tell me what you want to hear next & follow for updates!Spiritual & Self-Help Advice -> TikTok: butterflyfountainPodcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitoutPersonal Instagram: @222vgfYoutube:  @figuringshitout (Vanessa Fontana / Butterfly Fountain)Contact: contactbutterflyfountain@gmail.comSupport the showSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/figuring-sh-t-out/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

There is a bundle of nerves in our brain-stem responsible for affirming our internal beliefs. It is called the Reticular Activating System.It is the neuroscience behind self-fulfilling prophecies, connecting our subconscious inner world to our conscious outer world.It is a feedback loop of incessant validation for your own internal belief systems.It is why we are able to sort and sift through millions of stimuli, of external data, and organize it into meaningful bits we live our lives by.On part 2 of the Law of Attraction series, we talk about rewiring our brains to look for the good and claiming internal power by stepping away from the normal chat around transcendental spirituality and grounding this portion of the series in logic, reasoning, and psychological underpinnings.In ways that our brains can understand.So that we can step outside of them. So that we can create presence, right where we are. So that we can be okay, right where we are.How can we learn from other people? How can we learn to, instead of feeling envy, feel inspiration? How can we learn to live our lives solely for ourselves and step away from the perceptions of others?How can we learn to be okay where we are? To enjoy where we are?It's not about denying the hard moments, or pretending that they don't exist. It's about knowing that those moments are simply that --- moments in your life. They are not your life.You get to choose what defines your life.You get to decide.You get to enjoy.You get to create.To be lucky, simply - we wake up.xxSOCIALS: Tell me what you want to hear next & follow for updates!Spiritual & Self-Help Advice -> TikTok: butterflyfountainPodcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitoutPersonal Instagram: @222vgfYoutube: @figuringshitout (Vanessa Fontana / Butterfly Fountain)Contact: contactbutterflyfountain@gmail.comSupport the showSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/figuring-sh-t-out/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Part one of a series on Law of Attraction. You are a powerful creator.You may believe that manifestation, the law of attraction, and intentional creation is a spiritual concept outside of the binds of your brain. That you don't know anything about it, that you don't know how to do it, that you don't know where to start or how to learn.I have news for you.Every moment, of every single day, you are manifesting. You are creating. You are tipping the scales, knocking over the energetic dominos on the playing field of life, causing a chain reaction. This chain reaction is, most times, the state of your life.The world is a mirror - you attract what you are. Going from a mindset shift of "Why did this happen to me?" to "Why did this happen FOR me?" is the start of a simple practice that can turn our doubt into trust and blossom our power to intentionally create.There are intuitive cycles among us, within us, around us. If we can learn how to tap in and tune our energetic frequencies to the living, breathing world around us, we can learn how how to surrender and in that peace, create.Episode Breakdown: - The natural world around us, what we can learn from the energy of nature (Spring, Solar Eclipses, Seasons outside, Seasons Inside)- Divine Feminine & Divine Masculine- Energy exchanges- Psychology of the subconscious mind - if you look for it, you'll find it- Letting go of need, lack, and "forcing." Nature does not force.- Sharpening your Intuitive Power- Frequencies - "good & bad" feelings are simply information- Training your brain to look for the good- You're not here to struggle!!- Surrendering to the Divine Timing & Stepping into Acceptance- You're a powerful being!!- Believe you're worthy, believe you're lucky.- It's never a no - it's "not right now" or "something better" : You don't know what you don't know- Story Time ~ How I unintentionally manifested the life I have nowResources Mentioned in this Episode: Women who Run with the Wolves, Clarissa Pinkola Estes Abraham Hicks SOCIALS: Tell me what you want to hear next & follow for updates!Spiritual & Self-Help Advice -> TikTok: butterflyfountainPodcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitoutPersonal Instagram: @222vgfYoutube: @figuringshitout (Vanessa Fontana / Butterfly Fountain)Contact: contactbutterflyfountain@gmail.comSupport the showSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/figuring-sh-t-out/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

People can only see you as far as they see themselves, and maybe that's not their fault. Why do we attract the same people, the same pain, the same dynamics, over and over again? Why do we feel we need to strive for, work for, or sacrifice for love? Why is it so hard to walk away when you know you're being hurt? This pain that can follow us through our relationships seems to be a right of passage in living life. Does it have to be?How do we navigate love in all of its various forms - family, friends, romance - when love is what drives us, hurts us, and ignites us? This episode, 1 hour and 11 minutes long, spans how to move through relationships as a conduit to loving yourself. In it's entirety, it covers: Why we attract the same people & relationships over and over again How your self worth influences your relationship choices & decisionsBuilding trust in yourself & becoming empoweredHow your upbringing & parents influences your relationships as you grow upHow forgiving & understanding your parents may help to heal your current relationshipsThe power of our subconscious mind in relationshipsHow we look to actively perpetuate our own pain without even knowing itForgiveness towards those who've hurt youCo-dependencyTwin Flame & Karmic RelationshipsAttachment Styles (Book referenced - Attached, the New Science of Adult Attachment by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller)Loving people at a distance - setting boundariesHow to move through challenging friendshipsHeartbreak How walking away from a toxic relationship will deepen your connection to yourself if you let itInfatuation Vs Love & The Roles we Play in relationships (Book Referenced - A New Earth, Eckhart Tolle) How embodying love and learning to love yourself will allow love to flow more easily to you in all of your platonic, romantic, and familial connections SOCIALS: Tell me what you want to hear next & follow for updates!Spiritual & Self-Help Advice -> TikTok: butterflyfountainPodcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitoutPersonal Instagram: @222vgfYoutube: @figuringshitout (Vanessa Fontana / Butterfly Fountain)Contact: contactbutterflyfountain@gmail.comSupport the showSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/figuring-sh-t-out/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

To decide what kind of life you want to live and to step into who you want to be - start backwards. Who are you living for? Where was this born? What is your ego? Why is acknowledging and accepting it a necessary part of growth? Why do you want the things you want? What's holding you back from loving yourself? In this episode, there are a lot of moving parts, a foundational escrow of understanding the influences that made you, your ego, and what the ego even is in its various enigmatic definitions. How do you begin transmuting the pain and letting your ego move you into consciousness? How do you use your ego as a tool?Life, in many ways, is a mirror. And so are people. Why you can recognize love, is because you know love. You are love. Why you can recognize the opposite - is because that too, is also within you. Love is the most infinite presence in the world - and if you look for it, you will find it. But that is also true for the opposite. There is a dynamic polarity to everything. And with that, a radical acceptance in realizing that you live what you are. You become who you want to become, by embodying it - with full breadth.In this episode, I talk a bit about my journey in discovering that I was living my life out of alignment with what I truly wanted and some of the learnings I've gathered from literature on the Ego, Mimetic Desire, & Generational Trauma. I talk about how you can break out of the conditioning and understand what is holding you back to be empowered in strength to overcome it.Book Recommendations Mentioned in this Episode:1. Power of Now - Eckhart Tolle2. Wanting: The Power of Mimetic Desire in Every Day Life - Luke Burgis2. Untethered Soul - Michael J Singer3. It Didn't Start with You - Mark WolynnSOCIALS: Tell me what you want to hear next & follow for updates!Spiritual & Self-Help Advice -> TikTok: butterflyfountainPodcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitoutPersonal Instagram: @222vgfYoutube: @figuringshitout (Vanessa Fontana / Butterfly Fountain)Contact: contactbutterflyfountain@gmail.comSupport the showSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/figuring-sh-t-out/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

How do we overcome the existential nature that is so much of this life? How do we find meaning in the presupposed meaninglessness? Know that, the point is, most of the time - to simply not know. Welcome to Figuring Sh!t Out - a podcast born out of a desire to conversationalize navigating the human experience. In this episode, the room is warmed for the dialogue to follow - soul consciousness, law of attraction, the inseparability of love & pain, forgiving yourself, trusting yourself, generational trauma, overcoming heartbreak, finding yourself - the whole fun lot of it all. If we can accept that it is all one - the love, the pain, the fear, the joy, the truths that we know and the truths that we uncover - how can we make peace with the inherent oneness? What can we do with the teeny tiny bit of this life that we have control over? How can we step into our power and forge our own way?Support the showSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/figuring-sh-t-out/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

To every light, there is darkness. An equal and an opposite balance that transmutes the most harrowing experiences into the ones filled with invariable growth. To embark on the journey of healing, we must ask ourselves - what needs to be healed? Where did it all start? In this episode, I talk about what an inner child is - the deepest parts of ourselves, yet the most pure, which shoulder all of the limitations born out of early experiences that inevitably hold us back from attaining our highest inner truth. To heal, to grow, to face yourself - I believe this is where it begins. Knowing yourself, accepting yourself, understanding yourself - all parts of yourself. And along the way, you may realize - it's not as scary as it seems. Support the showSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/figuring-sh-t-out/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy