The Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show

In this fiercely tender episode, Quinn explores sisu—a powerful Finnish word that describes the inner grit that rises when there's nothing left to give but you keep showing up anyway. Drawing from their own ancestral roots, Quinn reclaims the kind of strength that isn't about pushing harder, but about remembering who you are when the world goes quiet.This is not about hustle. This is about sacred perseverance. This is not girlboss strength. This is sisu.Through stories, reflection, and a closing guided meditation, Quinn offers practical and soulful ways to reconnect with your own unshakable strength after divorce—especially when you're tired of being the strong one.In this episode, you'll hear:Why “I'm tired of being strong” is not a weakness—it's a thresholdThe history and soul of sisu, a Finnish concept of embodied resilienceHow to make meaning from pain (Viktor Frankl-style)The power of ancestry and generational strengthMain character energy vs. passive survivalA somatic practice to locate your sisu in your bodyHow rest can be revolutionary—and part of your strengthA beautiful grounding meditation to closeQuotable Moments:“Sisu is the decision to keep showing the fuck up—even when no one's clapping.” “You don't have to earn rest. You are already enough.” “Sisu begins where perseverance ends.” 

In this raw, reflective, and empowering episode, Quinn opens up about the emotional terrain of fear—how it creeps in post-divorce, shows up in our relationships, careers, and even in the state of the world. They share deeply personal moments of walking into the unknown: moving during COVID, raising six kids alone, and heading back to school to become a nurse.With wisdom from Pema Chödrön, Stoic philosophers, and Gavin de Becker's The Gift of Fear, Quinn unpacks the crucial difference between fear that saves your life and fear that steals it. You'll learn how to identify healthy vs. unhealthy fear, work with your body's intuition, and use simple yet powerful tools like the Stoic Pause and the "So What?" drill to regain clarity and take action—even when you're afraid.You'll hear about:Quinn's journey to school, single parenting, and starting overThe two kinds of fear women are facing in 2025Fear as a signal vs. fear as a storyWhy the mind prefers the familiar—and how that sabotages your growthWhat healthy fear feels like in the bodyTools to sit with fear, question it, and move forward anywayWhy women often mistake fear for wisdomAnd the mantra that could change everything:“Fear is just information. It's not instruction.”Quotables:"Courage isn't about being fearless. It's about acting with discernment—despite the fear."“You don't need to kill the fear. You just need to stop letting it drive.”“Is this a sacred warning—or just a dusty-ass lie?”Resources Mentioned:The Gift of Fear by Gavin de BeckerPema Chödrön's quote: “Fear is a natural reaction to moving closer to the truth.”Stoic philosophy on perception and responsePostDivorceGlowUp.comEmail: quinn@postdivorceglowup.com

In this juicy, heartfelt episode, we're talking about the orgasm—yes, your orgasm. Whether you're self-partnered or dancing with a new lover, this episode is your reminder that pleasure is not a luxury—it's your birthright.We'll explore:Why orgasm is one of the most effective ways to calm your nervous systemThe difference between how men and women respond to porn and masturbationWhat science says about the health benefits of regular climactic releaseHow sexual shame, bad sex ed, and religious messaging have kept women in the darkThe truth about your body's ability to bloom, with or without a partnerTools, resources, and rituals to reconnect with your pleasure—todayWe're talking Dr. Emily Nagoski, Audre Lorde, Dr. Natasha Janina Valdez, personal stories, client breakthroughs, and some real talk about being fingered by a Mormon boy.

Episode Summary: In this powerful episode, I talk about rewriting your self-concept after divorce—not by looking back, but by imagining forward. Drawing on the work of Benjamin Hardy (Personality Isn't Permanent), Maxwell Maltz (Psycho-Cybernetics), Dr. Joe Dispenza, and Gay Hendricks (The Big Leap), I break down how identity isn't fixed, how to start thinking and acting like your future self, and why joy can feel so damn scary when you've been stuck in survival mode.I also share my personal story of going from believing I wasn't “cut out” for school to scoring in the 99th percentile on my nursing entrance exam, and how this transformation had everything to do with my self-image—not my circumstances.Plus:The trap of personality testsA tool called the “creation walk”A client story about upper limits after loveHow I completely changed my parenting story post-divorceHow to start living as your future self todayAction steps inside this episode:Write a letter from your future selfUse 3 daily reminders to ask: “Am I being her?”Practice nervous system regulation when joy shows upTry a “creation walk” to rewire your self-imagePostDivorceGlowUp.comEmail: quinn@postdivorceglowup.com

Motherhood is complicated, and it gets even more complex after divorce. In this deeply honest episode, I dive into something that many moms feel but rarely talk about—grieving the life we didn't get to live because we had children. Whether you had kids due to religious pressure, cultural expectations, or a desire that later felt different in reality, this conversation is for you.We talk about the messy, conflicting emotions of loving our kids and grieving our lost autonomy. We also explore the guilt, resentment, and cultural expectations that tell moms they must always be grateful—while completely ignoring the exhaustion, loneliness, and sacrifices that come with the role.If you've ever thought, "Would I have done this differently if I had known?" or "I love my kids, but this is really hard," you are not alone. This is a safe space for the truth.What's Inside This Episode:

Ever feel like you're constantly passing the buck to “future you”? Skipping workouts, putting off tough conversations, avoiding finances—only to leave tomorrow's self cleaning up today's mess? In this episode, I introduce a powerful concept: being your own Aide-de-Camp (ADC)—the personal assistant to your future self.I'll share a hilarious story about my daughter and a schoolyard showdown, drop some Stoic wisdom (Marcus Aurelius, I see you

I received news from a friend about her divorce being finalized. It begged the question, what skills does a newly divorced women need? The episode is my answer. PostDivorceGlowUp.comEmail: quinn@postdivorceglowup.com

My daughter's panic attack and what it taught me about emotional flashbacks and healing.Main Topic: Getting to NeutralThe Problem: Why jumping to “you're fine” or forcing positivity doesn't help in moments of distress.Emotional Flashbacks: What they are, how they show up unexpectedly, and how past trauma lives in the body.How I Handled It Differently:Allowing emotions to run their course rather than pushing them away.Encouraging her to feel rather than fight her fear.Why neutrality is often a better goal than positivity.Neutral Thinking Over Positive Thinking:Instead of “just think positive,” focus on what is true and actionable.Example: Rather than saying “You're fine,” acknowledge, “This feels really scary, and you're allowed to feel it.”Emotions Are Temporary:Like a toddler throwing a tantrum, emotions burn out if you let them run.We don't have to fear feelings—we just need to feel them.No Drama, Just Data:Negative thinking adds unnecessary weight.Neutrality means stating facts: “This is happening. What do I want to do next?”Don't Let the Past Predict the Future:Divorce trauma doesn't define you.Just because you felt unsafe then doesn't mean you have to live in fear now.For Divorced Women: How to Apply Neutral ThinkingWhen an emotional flashback hits, focus on the present reality: Where am I? Am I safe?If supporting a friend or child, hold space instead of forcing solutions.Instead of spiraling into “Why is this happening to me?” ask, “What is my next best step?”Closing Thoughts:Neutral thinking doesn't erase pain, but it keeps us from getting stuck in it.You don't have to force a silver lining—just take the next step forward.Let's normalize feeling ALL the things without fear.PostDivorceGlowUp.comEmail: quinn@postdivorceglowup.com

Valentine's Day is around the corner, and if you're staring at your phone, debating whether to text your ex, take a deep breath and listen to this episode first. This time of year stirs up nostalgia, loneliness, and a whole lot of selective memory, making it dangerously easy to romanticize the past. But before you hit send on that "Hope you're doing well..." text, let's unpack what's really going on.In this episode, we'll cover:

Hey girlfriend, let's have a real talk. Today, I'm sharing a personal story about loneliness—the kind that sneaks up on you even when you're surrounded by people.My sister, a widow, recently told me she feels completely alone. I get it. I know that feeling well. I see it in my clients all the time. But today, I want to challenge that thought. Because sometimes, "I'm all alone" isn't a fact—it's a story we're telling ourselves.In this episode, we'll cover:✨ The difference between circumstance and story—what's really happening vs. what we tell ourselves✨ How loneliness isn't just a divorce thing (spoiler: you can feel lonelier in marriage than out of it)✨ How the "symptoms" of loneliness can create more isolation.✨ Practical ways to shift your mindset and see the support you already have

It's my fourth divorceversary, and I wouldn't change a thing. Divorce was just the beginning of my transformation, and in this episode, I'm sharing four lessons I've learned along the way.

Let's talk about what it means to go after your big, scary dreams. In this episode, I'm getting personal about my journey back to school at 50 to pursue my goal of becoming a midwife. Spoiler alert: it's hard, and my brain hurts! But here's the truth—living with unfulfilled dreams is even harder.This week, I share a conversation with a client chasing her own dream of becoming a composer. She's feeling the weight of self-doubt, and I had to remind her—and now I'm reminding you—that hard doesn't mean wrong. Hard means growth.Together, we explore:Why living your worst-case scenario is often the wake-up call you need.How humans are wired to thrive on the process of pursuing goals, not just achieving them.The lies we tell ourselves to stay comfortable (but miserable) and how to call BS on them.What to do when you don't trust yourself to follow through.Whether your goal is to get back to school, start a new career, or simply live into the life you've always dreamed of, this episode will remind you that the hard path is the meaningful one.Timestamps:[0:00] Personal check-in: Going back to school at 50[3:45] Why pursuing your dreams feels scary (but worth it)[8:15] A client's journey: Living her worst-case scenario[12:30] The dopamine secret: Why striving is where the magic happens[16:00] What if you fail? (Spoiler: You'll survive!)[20:10] Divorce as comedy and tragedy—and the beauty in both[24:00] Rebuilding self-trust: Why your past doesn't define your futurePostDivorceGlowUp.comEmail: quinn@postdivorceglowup.com

In this heartfelt episode, I share my journey navigating custody decisions after divorce and the lessons learned along the way. From letting go of control to fostering an environment of peace and self-trust, I discuss:The emotional challenges of custody decisions.My personal story of letting my son choose where to live.How creating a thriving environment for yourself can benefit your children.Insights from my clients who are navigating similar decisions.The importance of reframing stories of "abandonment" to empower yourself and your children.Whether you're dealing with custody questions or simply seeking inspiration for your post-divorce journey, this episode will remind you that it's possible to show up bravely for yourself and your family.Tune in for real talk, practical advice, and encouragement for your next steps. You've got this, brave woman.

Hello, my friend! As we dive into the new year, I'm reflecting on an unusual but powerful resolution: the importance of being willing to disappoint others to stay true to yourself.In this episode, I share:A heartfelt conversation with my daughter about her fear of disappointing a close friend as she embarks on a semester abroad.Why so many of us, especially women, feel a deep need to avoid disappointing others, and how this stems from societal and cultural conditioning.Personal stories, including how leaving my marriage and religion required me to face others' disappointment so I could thrive authentically.Practical strategies for navigating those difficult conversations where you choose yourself over others' expectations.We explore why sparing others' disappointment is not only impossible but often harmful to your own growth. I challenge you to ask yourself:Why is their disappointment a problem?Am I willing to have difficult conversations to avoid difficult relationships?Plus, my daughter's surprising insights from watching Millionaire Matchmaker (yes, that binge was totally worth it!) and how it inspired her vision of the confident, self-assured woman she wants to be.This episode is a rallying cry for everyone who's ready to stop bending over backward to keep the peace and instead honor their own needs, dreams, and happiness.Resources Mentioned:Millionaire Matchmaker on Netflix (for inspiration and some laughs!)Call to Action:Let's start this year strong by choosing authenticity over people-pleasing. If this episode resonated with you, hit that Follow button and share this podcast with a friend who needs to hear it!And if you'd like to get in touch, email me at quinn@postdivorceglowup.com. (Yes, the website is under construction, thanks to my Netflix binge!)Stay true to yourself, and I'll see you next week!

Happy New Year, and welcome to 2025! In this episode, Quinn dives into the magic of new beginnings and the importance of slowing down, being present, and exploring the unconscious to create a life you truly love.What's Inside This Episode:2025 Goals: Why being present unlocks deeper emotions and clarity.Understanding the Unconscious: Inspired by Carl Jung's insight: “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”Tools to Explore Your Unconscious:Dream work and journaling.Active imagination through writing or art.Body-centered practices like yoga, dance, or drumming.Symbol systems like tarot and archetypal storytelling (Women Who Run With the Wolves).Parts Work (Internal Family Systems) to heal and integrate inner conflicts.Why It Matters: Gain clarity, overcome self-sabotage, and reconnect with your intuition to become unapologetically “full of yourself.”Closing Thought: The unconscious holds your deepest wisdom—it's time to trust yourself and let your light shine.Connect with Quinn: Email Quinn@PostDivorceGlowUp.com for coaching and support on your journey to becoming your fullest self.

In this special Christmas Day episode, Quinn reflects on how her approach to the holidays has evolved over the four years since her divorce. She discusses the importance of managing expectations and focusing on connection and relaxation. The episode further delves into strategies for personal growth post-divorce by providing examples from her coaching practice. The common theme among her clients is identifying and focusing on one impactful goal that can create significant positive changes in their lives. She emphasizes that concentrating on one thing, whether it be health, career, relationships, or self-discovery, can lead to exponential personal growth and fulfillment.00:00 Welcome and Holiday Reflections02:26 Balancing Life and New Beginnings03:36 Client Journeys and Common Themes08:49 The Power of Focusing on One Thing11:40 Personal Transformation Stories17:33 Setting Goals and Taking Action24:33 Coaching and Accountability27:21 Final Thoughts and Contact InformationPostDivorceGlowUp.comEmail: quinn@postdivorceglowup.com

In this heartfelt episode, Quinn  reflects on the importance of living a sensual, embodied life post-divorce. She discusses the concept of sensuality as fully engaging with all five senses and the journey of reclaiming this aspect of life without shame. Drawing from personal experiences and insights from thinkers like Brene Brown and Glennon Doyle, she addresses overcoming societal and religious stigmas around women's bodies and desires. Quinn encourages you to honor your senses, create sensory joy lists, and give yourself permission to savor life fully. The episode underscores the necessity of filling oneself up with sensory pleasures to lead a more fulfilling, connected, and joyful life.00:00 Introduction 01:50 Embracing Sensuality Post-Divorce02:56 Living Sensually: Engaging All Senses07:19 Overcoming Shame and Guilt11:26 Practical Steps to Sensual Living22:58 Permission to Savor Life24:53 Conclusion PostDivorceGlowUp.comEmail: quinn@postdivorceglowup.com

Quinn discusses her personal journey of redefining traditions after a divorce. She shares how she balances religious and secular celebrations, focuses on creating meaningful and joyful traditions with her family, and emphasizes the importance of traditions for emotional resilience, identity, and community. Through practical tips, she encourages starting small, involving children, harvesting the good from past holidays, and being consistent but flexible. The episode highlights the significance of traditions in cultivating a new, fulfilling life post-divorce.00:00 Introduction and Holiday Context01:26 Navigating Traditions Post-Divorce02:50 The Psychological Benefits of Traditions03:56 Creating New Traditions06:49 Why Traditions Matter13:48 Tips for Establishing New Traditions22:51 Involving Community in Traditions24:22 Conclusion and Holiday WishesPostDivorceGlowUp.comEmail: quinn@postdivorceglowup.com

Quinn explores the distinction between being nice and being kind, emphasizing the importance of setting clear boundaries and honest communication. Sharing personal anecdotes, including a situation with a lifelong friend and navigating divorce, she highlights the emotional costs and the manipulative nature of being nice. Inspired by teachings from Brene Brown and Tara Brach, the episode discusses practical steps for applying kindness in relationships and personal growth, urging listeners to prioritize self-compassion and authenticity. Practical advice on recognizing self-critical thoughts, setting boundaries, and nurturing true self-worth is provided to help listeners transform their interactions and emotional wellbeing.00:00 Introduction and Personal Story02:36 The Difference Between Nice and Kind08:30 The Cost of Being Nice15:35 Breaking Free from the Trance of Unworthiness29:41 Practical Ways to Be Kind, Not Nice32:50 Client Story and ConclusionPostDivorceGlowUp.comEmail: quinn@postdivorceglowup.com

Quinn reflects on her journey of personal growth and empowerment since her divorce. She shares a recent experience of obtaining an order of protection against her ex-husband, emphasizing the importance of setting boundaries and protecting oneself and one's children. The episode also delves into the concepts of 'the gap' and 'the gain,' encouraging listeners to focus on their progress and accomplishments. With a mix of personal anecdotes and coaching insights, the host offers support to others dealing with harassment and provides a reminder to stay present and grateful during the holiday season.00:00 Introduction and Thanksgiving Greetings01:06 Seeking an Order of Protection02:17 Reflecting on Personal Growth04:31 The Gap and the Gain06:27 Embracing Your True Self08:42 Navigating Post-Divorce Life11:14 Practical Advice on Protection Orders13:09 Staying Present During the Holidays16:52 Conclusion and Thanksgiving WishesPostDivorceGlowUp.comEmail: quinn@postdivorceglowup.com

Quinn addresses the persistent fears many experience post-divorce, particularly those involving threatening interactions with an ex-spouse. She shares a recent personal incident where an unsolicited, threatening letter from her ex triggered intense fear. Offering practical advice, she discusses essential steps for maintaining physical and psychological safety, such as keeping court orders, legal resources, and recording interactions. She emphasizes creating a safe environment through physical distance and mindfulness, and focuses on the importance of feeling and processing fear. Tips for handling stressful communications and building a support network are also provided, offering a comprehensive guide for navigating life after divorce with resilience and confidence.00:00 Introduction: Facing Post-Divorce Fears01:40 Unsolicited Letter from the Ex06:02 Dealing with Physical Safety13:20 Ensuring Psychological Safety15:04 Facing and Managing Fears29:02 Building a Support Network31:53 Conclusion: Finding Safety and Moving ForwardPostDivorceGlowUp.comEmail: quinn@postdivorceglowup.com

Quinn shares her journey of making new friends post-divorce, especially in the run-up to 2025. She discusses the importance of friendship in healing and offers practical tips on how to re-establish a social circle after a significant life change. From leveraging past connections and using apps like Bumble BFF, to engaging in community activities and local events, Quinn provides a comprehensive guide to building meaningful relationships. She also emphasizes the importance of being a good friend and offers strategies for nurturing these new connections. Whether you're recently divorced, new to an area, or just looking to expand your social network, this episode is packed with actionable advice.00:00 Introduction and Goals01:19 The Importance of Friendship Post-Divorce03:11 Tips for Making New Friends03:57 Reconnecting with Past Friends05:32 Leveraging Kids' Social Circles06:17 Using Apps to Find Friends07:24 Exploring Local Groups and Hobbies08:59 Volunteering and Community Involvement10:38 Joining Classes and Sports Leagues13:35 Tips for Maintaining Friendships24:32 Conclusion and Personal InitiativesPostDivorceGlowUp.comEmail: quinn@postdivorceglowup.com

Quinn reflects on the significance of the year's end, encouraging listeners to set goals and embrace change. She offers advice on being honest with oneself,  tackling issues like fear of solitude, self-discovery post-divorce, and navigating financial stability. The speaker emphasizes the importance of setting realistic goals, being open to new experiences, and shifting negative narratives to foster a positive and fulfilling future.00:00 Introduction and Seasonal Reflections01:41 Setting Year-End Goals05:14 Honesty in Self-Reflection07:52 Addressing Post-Divorce Challenges19:41 Rewriting Negative Narratives31:06 Taking Action and Moving ForwardPostDivorceGlowUp.comEmail: quinn@postdivorceglowup.com

In this episode, the Quinn shares her personal journey of self-discovery and empowerment post-divorce. Triggered by a letter from her ex-husband, she reflects on the strength required to navigate life after marriage. She delves into the concept of being 'intentionally self-partnered,' distinguishing it from simply being single or alone. Through her experiences with Britta Jo's community and her own coaching practice, she outlines a framework consisting of healing, exploration, and play. Emphasizing the importance of self-compassion, self-reflection, and the joy of new experiences, she offers guidance on how to build a fulfilling life centered on knowing and loving oneself deeply.00:00 Introduction and Personal Reflections02:19 The Concept of Intentional Self-Partnering05:42 Healing After a Relationship13:50 Exploration and New Experiences20:31 The Joy of Playfulness24:02 Conclusion and Embracing Self-PartneringPostDivorceGlowUp.comEmail: quinn@postdivorceglowup.com

In this episode, Quinn and Britta dive into life after divorce and all the changes that come with it.

Navigating Divorce: Empowerment, Safety, and GrowthQuinn & Britta discuss diverse challenges and personal growth experiences related to post-divorce life, particularly for parents and children. They delve into emotional and financial fears, single parenting, co-parenting dynamics, and the importance of both emotional and physical safety for children. They emphasize personal development through coaching and mind management, reflecting on the gains from overcoming adversity. Topics cover societal and gender expectations, reevaluating motherhood, children's emotional wellbeing, and the benefits of diverse family environments. The narrative also highlights the creation of supportive communities for women and the intricacies of launching group initiatives, demonstrating collective resilience and empowerment.00:00 Introduction and Guest Announcement01:22 Technical Difficulties and Triumph02:34 Discussing Kids and Divorce03:28 Fears of Ruining Children's Lives05:57 Emotional Distress and Adjustment Challenges07:36 Single Parenting Fears and Realities11:38 Financial Concerns Post-Divorce25:28 Legal and Safety Concerns51:22 Parental Role Double Standards01:00:45 The Burden of Being a 'Good Mother'01:02:08 Childhood Trauma and Control01:03:15 Redefining Good Parenting01:04:27 Personal Stories of Divorce and Parenting01:08:25 The Impact of Divorce on Children01:27:11 The Benefits of Divorce for Kids01:47:30 Creating a Supportive CommunityPostDivorceGlowUp.comEmail: quinn@postdivorceglowup.com

In this  episode, Quinn discusses the pervasive issue of marital rape, highlighting a recent high-profile case in France, and expanding on how this issue resonates with her clients' experiences. She delves into the history and misconceptions around marital rape, consent, and coercion, specifically in the context of marriage, including legal and cultural barriers. The episode aims to redefine consent, debunk myths, and offer strategies for healing while encouraging women to reclaim autonomy over their bodies and find a supportive community. She also shares personal anecdotes and insights into how women can begin the journey of recovery and personal empowerment after experiencing marital rape or coercion.00:00 Introduction and Podcast Overview01:45 The Case of Giselle Kott: A Shocking Story04:21 Personal Stories and Client Experiences06:02 Historical Context and Legal Background10:56 Understanding Consent and Marital Coercion23:57 Healing from Marital Rape: Strategies and Support33:02 Emotional and Physical Healing36:15 Reclaiming Your Narrative and Moving Forward42:49 Conclusion and Call to ActionPostDivorceGlowUp.comEmail: quinn@postdivorceglowup.com

In this episode, Quinn discusses her personal journey of changing her name post-divorce, sharing valuable insights and practical tips for others considering the same. Topics covered include reasons for and against changing your name, the emotional and cultural implications, and a detailed step-by-step guide on how to navigate the legal and bureaucratic processes in the United States. The episode emphasizes the empowerment and personal transformation that can come with choosing a new name and offers encouragement for anyone in a similar situation.00:00 Welcome and Personal Update01:22 Developing New Skills03:15 Introduction to Name Change After Divorce05:42 Reasons to Change Your Name11:43 Reasons to Keep Your Ex's Name15:58 Choosing a New Name24:02 The Legal Process of Changing Your Name32:13 Tips and Pitfalls in the Name Change Process39:26 Final Thoughts and EncouragementPostDivorceGlowUp.comEmail: quinn@postdivorceglowup.com

In this episode, the Quinn explores the concept of internalized misogyny through the stories of three different women coping with post-divorce challenges. By discussing societal standards that devalue women's contributions, the episode aims to provide insight and practical advice for women to reframe their self-worth and roles in parenting, financial independence, and personal relationships. She also shares valuable resources and encourages listeners to get curious about their own beliefs and seek support if needed.00:00 Introduction and Fall Break02:27 Client Stories: Overwhelmed Single Mom03:41 Client Stories: Career Sacrifices and Self-Worth05:17 Client Stories: Healing and Moving On06:51 Understanding Internalized Misogyny07:26 Satirical Piece and Internalized Misogyny12:12 Revisiting Client Stories with New Perspective12:26 The Good Mom vs. Good Dad Standard20:02 Valuing Women's Contributions Post-Divorce27:44 Dating After Divorce: Overcoming Internalized Misogyny38:03 Conclusion and Call to ActionBurned Haystack Dating Methodhttps://burnedhaystack.substack.com/I Want a Wife - Essayhttps://www.thecut.com/2017/11/i-want-a-wife-by-judy-brady-syfers-new-york-mag-1971.htmlPostDivorceGlowUp.comEmail: quinn@postdivorceglowup.com

In this  episode, the host shares her transformative day filled with client interactions and personal growth milestones. She emphasizes the power of redefining oneself after divorce, citing inspiring stories of Tina Turner, J.K. Rowling, Eleanor Roosevelt, and Elizabeth Taylor. Through the lens of these remarkable figures, Quinn encourages listeners to identify and take consistent action towards their passions and dreams, pushing past limiting beliefs. The episode culminates with a heartfelt invitation to lean into one's potential and create a life that feels truly aligned and fulfilling.00:00 Introduction and Personal Reflections02:16 The Power of Alter Egos03:31 Embracing Change Post-Divorce08:34 Inspiring Stories of Resilience18:37 Taking Action Towards Your Dreams23:26 Final Thoughts and EncouragementPostDivorceGlowUp.com

In this episode, Quinn discusses the importance of slowing down to process emotions, especially for women recovering from divorce. Using personal anecdotes and client experiences, she highlights how acknowledging and integrating emotions like anger and frustration can lead to significant personal and professional growth. Practical tips for emotional processing and the benefits of having an empathetic witness are emphasized. Listeners are encouraged to visit her website for personalized coaching sessions.00:00 Welcome and Warm Wishes01:13 Dreams and Visions Post-Divorce01:45 Three Transformative Experiences03:22 Slowing Down to Process Emotions07:10 The Power of Emotional Release13:05 Practical Steps to Slow Down18:38 Encouragement and Final Thoughts21:27 Invitation to ConnectPostDivorceGlowUp.com

Quinn and Britta face down fear, that fiery emotion that many of us try to avoid but inevitably can't. They discuss why embracing fear as a tool for growth and self-awareness is the path forward.They dive into why anger isn't something to fear - it's a powerful teacher and could be the best tool to use for the transformations you seek. Sharing personal stories and insights, they show how embraving anger can lead to breakthroughs, healing, and life that is more authentic and empowered. If you've ever felt like anger is too much or might hurt those you love, this episode is for you. They'll guide you through practical ways to channel that energy into something constructive - because you deserve a life that honors your deepest truths. 

In this episode, key topics include the emotional recovery timeline, the impact of self-reflection, rebound relationships, and considerations when children are involved. Quinn emphasizes the importance of individual readiness, healing, and the unique journey of self-discovery through dating. Listeners are encouraged to reflect deeply on their own needs and circumstances while navigating post-divorce life.00:00 Introduction and Personal Experience02:17 The Importance of Dating After Divorce03:04 Understanding the Healing Process07:33 Self-Reflection and Personal Growth10:53 Guidelines for Dating Post-Divorce15:06 Considering Children in New Relationships17:01 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Quinn discusses the prevalence of depression among women and outlines both the emotional and physical symptoms that may occur. The importance of sleep, muscle contraction, and having a supportive listener are emphasized as key strategies for managing depression. The speaker draws distinctions between therapy and coaching, highlights the significance of intentional thinking, and encourages viewers to embrace the introspective period following a divorce. Practical tips for self-care and proactive measures to avoid severe depressive episodes are also shared.00:00 Introduction and Personal Updates01:15 Keyword Research and Post-Divorce Depression01:59 Understanding Post-Divorce Depression02:42 Physical and Emotional Symptoms05:47 Navigating the First Year Post-Divorce08:27 Preventative Self-Care Strategies08:53 The Importance of Sleep12:01 Exercise and Muscle Contraction13:42 Finding Support and Reframing Depression18:42 Therapy vs. Coaching21:29 Embracing the Journey and Final Thoughts

Quinn shares personal reflections on the positive impacts of divorce, contrasting societal beliefs that divorce destroys families. She discusses the joy of family reunions with her children and debunks the myth that divorce is detrimental, instead framing it as an opportunity for restructuring and growth. The conversation highlights the benefits for both parents and children in post-divorce dynamics, promoting the notion that healthy, happy parents lead to healthy, happy children. The host emphasizes self-awareness, intentional healing, and evolving relationships, drawing on research and personal anecdotes to support her views. She encourages listeners to challenge negative thoughts and embrace new beginnings.00:00 Introduction and Family Reunion01:48 The Misconception of Divorce Destroying Families05:16 Restructuring and Growth Post-Divorce06:48 Benefits of Divorce for Parents and Children10:28 Challenges and Misconceptions About Post-Divorce Life15:34 Scientific Insights on Divorce and Family Dynamics19:42 Embracing Change and Self-Care21:47 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Quinn delves into her summer goal of fostering a better co-parenting relationship with her ex-husband, especially after a frightening health scare involving their son. She outlines the qualities of good and toxic co-parenting, recounts her attempts to improve communication and friendship with her ex, and ultimately discusses how their unresolved conflicts led them to court over a seemingly minor issue of phone access for their children. Despite the legal battles, she emphasizes the importance of maintaining her own standards of effective communication, reliability, respect, cooperation, and focusing on her children's best interests, irrespective of her ex-husband's actions. 00:00 Introduction and Personal Updates01:01 Learning Fortnite and Pickleball02:12 The Goal of Co-Parenting Friendship03:18 Challenges and Past Experiences06:34 Defining Good Co-Parenting09:22 Identifying Toxic Co-Parenting13:22 Personal Story: The Phone Issue20:34 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

In this episode, Quinn discusses how important it is to move from survival mode to establishing a long-term vision for life after divorce. She reflects on the challenges of post-divorce life, including the sudden re-marriage of her ex-husband and the impact on her children. She emphasizes the significance of having a future vision that aligns with one's values and aspirations, sharing her own journey of deciding to pursue a career as a midwife while balancing her current responsibilities. She encourages listeners to seek clarity and set meaningful goals to create a fulfilling and purpose-driven life. The episode concludes with an invitation to participate in her post-divorce coaching program to help women rebuild and thrive.00:00 Introduction and Pet Names01:47 Clarity Calls and Coaching Focus03:17 Survival Mode After Divorce05:06 Personal Divorce Experience07:41 Shifting to a Long-Term Vision10:39 Exploring New Dreams and Goals15:07 The Journey to Becoming a Midwife23:06 Encouragement and Coaching Program26:22 Conclusion and Call to Action

In this episode, Quinn shares her journey of finding happiness after divorce, emphasizing the importance of internal mindset over external circumstances. She draws parallels between the classic horror film 'When a Stranger Calls' and the internal battles many face post-divorce. The discussion includes insights on self-compassion, mental discipline, and the limitations of external sources of happiness, backed by research. She also offers practical advice, including an unconventional but effective tool to quiet the mind, and highlights the role of coaching in overcoming self-doubt and cultivating a fulfilling post-divorce life.00:00 Introduction and Gratitude for Divorce01:15 Horror Films and Childhood Memories01:58 The Classic Horror Line: 'The Call is Coming from Inside the House'03:52 Marriage, Divorce, and the Pursuit of Happiness05:34 The Role of the Mind in Happiness13:26 Tools for Managing a Spinning Mind15:10 The Importance of Coaching and Self-Love18:01 Conclusion and Invitation for Support

In this episode, Quinn discusses her personal dating journey, highlighting the differences between her avoidant attachment style and Britta Jo's anxious attachment style highlighted in the last podcast. The episode covers her experiences with first dates, challenges faced, and growth from being judgmental to curious and open. She emphasize the importance of dating apps, overcoming fears, and the value of supportive friends and coaches. Future episodes will explore topics like CPTSD in dating and the 'burned haystack' dating method. The goal is to help listeners discover themselves through dating.00:00 Introduction and Recap of Britta Jo's Journey01:36 My Dating Journey Begins03:19 Transition from Judgment to Curiosity04:45 Experiences and Lessons from Dating08:33 Breaking Up and Emotional Challenges13:18 Evolving Beliefs About Dating19:31 The Role of Attachment Styles21:06 Advice for Navigating the Dating World24:48 Conclusion and Future Topics

In this insightful episode, Britta Jo shares her personal journey of dating after divorce. As the former coach and current BFF of Quinn, Britta discusses her initial feelings, the healing of her anxious attachment style and CPTSD, and the lessons drawn from various relationships. The conversation also touches on the dynamics of modern dating apps, the challenges of achieving secure attachments, and the impact of dating on their children. Britta and Quinn reflect on the notions of 'good goodbyes,' breakups, and their evolving beliefs about relationships. This episode provides valuable guidance for anyone navigating the complexities of dating after divorce and emphasizes the importance of personal growth, self-trust, and genuine connections.00:00 Introduction to Britta Jo02:03 Britta Jo's Background and Dating Experience03:40 Understanding Attachment Styles08:12 Quinn's Background and Dating Experience17:52 Dating with Children23:50 Navigating Dating Apps25:58 Challenges and Mindsets in Dating30:15 Why Date?35:19 First Date Stories47:56 Intentional Use of Dating Apps48:42 A Soft Landing with Bill51:41 Crazy Date Stories53:52 Navigating Breakups58:54 The Good Goodbye01:04:51 Staying Friends After Dating01:12:30 The On-Again, Off-Again Relationship01:24:52 Evolving Beliefs About Dating01:34:30 Why Date? The Journey to Healing

In this episode, Quinn discusses the exciting opportunities for personal growth and learning new skills that come with life after divorce. Drawing inspiration from Josh Kaufman's theory that one can achieve basic proficiency in nearly any skill with just 20 hours of dedicated, deliberate practice, Quinn outlines a step-by-step process to master new hobbies or talents. Key steps include committing to 20 hours, deconstructing the skill, practicing intentionally without distractions, and obtaining feedback. Examples include learning to play an instrument, building a social network, or picking up new hobbies. The host emphasizes the importance of overcoming internal barriers and encourages listeners to embrace this transformative period post-divorce to explore new interests and enrich their lives.00:00 Introduction: Embracing Life After Divorce01:39 The 20-Hour Learning Principle03:48 Key Concepts for Effective Learning08:39 Applying the 20-Hour Rule to Social Skills11:03 Overcoming Barriers and Practicing Intentionally15:19 Conclusion: Transform Your Life with 20 Hours

In this episode, Quinn discusses a common mistake many make when trying to implement change: diving straight into action without proper preparation. She introduces an alternative approach called the Trans Theoretical Process of Change, which includes stages such as pre-contemplation, contemplation, preparation, and action. Quinn uses personal experiences and a client's story to illustrate the importance of thorough preparation, self-reflection, and internal work before taking action. Emphasizing the necessity of building a strong foundation, she shares how this method led to significant improvements in her own life and in the lives of others. The episode encourages listeners to consider their values, develop self-compassion, and prepare internally for sustained success. Finally, Quinn invites listeners to seek  help in achieving the life of their dreams through a more supportive and effective approach to change.00:00 Introduction: A Common Misstep01:13 Understanding the Process of Change01:45 The Stages of Change02:44 Personal Story: From Obesity to Strength15:13 Client Success Story: Katerina's Journey21:11 The Importance of Preparation24:47 Conclusion: Achieving Long-Term Success

E:8 This episode explores the concept of the alter ego as a tool for  transformation, especially post-divorce. Quinn explains how our self-identity is shaped by the stories we tell ourselves and introduces the theory of narrative identity by Dr. Dan McAdams. Highlighting examples like Beyonce's Sasha Fierce and client stories of Sarah, Lisa, and Emily, the video demonstrates how creating an alter ego can help access different parts of oneself, overcome limiting beliefs, and embrace new opportunities. It provides steps to create and embody an alter ego, encouraging viewers to intentionally craft a new narrative to enhance their lives.00:00 Introduction: Discovering Your Alter Ego01:41 Understanding the Self and Narrative Identity02:38 The Power of Rewriting Your Story06:41 Embracing the Alter Ego Concept08:21 Client Success Stories: Transformations Through Alter Egos14:29 Steps to Create Your Own Alter Ego20:17 Conclusion: Embrace Your New Narrative

In this episode, we explore the captivating narratives of strong women, both real and fictional, focusing on their heroic journeys and transformations. Quinn reflects on her childhood influences from female superheroes like the Bionic Woman and Wonder Woman, discussing how these characters and their origin stories inspired resilience and strength. The episode delves into the parallels between these heroic tales and the lives of divorced women, highlighting the unique superpowers they develop through their struggles. The discussion emphasizes how divorce can catalyze remarkable personal growth and empowerment, from independence and deep empathy to visionary thinking and shameless parenting. Listeners are encouraged to see their challenges as the crucible that forges them into heroes, ready to step into a new chapter with confidence and courage.00:00 Introduction: Celebrating Strong Women01:52 Nostalgia: Female Superheroes of the 70s04:12 Understanding Origin Stories06:23 Wonder Woman: Stepping Out of Comfort Zones08:53 Black Widow: Redemption and Courage11:43 Superpowers of Divorced Women19:45 Embracing Your Superhero Transformation21:46 Conclusion: Your Story is Just Beginning

This  episode features an enlightening conversation between Quinn Otrera and Britta Jo about Quinn's transformative journey through marriage, divorce, and personal growth. Quinn shares how coaching helped her evolve from resistance to self-empowerment and make the difficult decision to leave her marriage with love and acceptance. The discussion also covers Quinn's transition to becoming a coach for divorced women, promoting personal transformation and a fulfilling life post-divorce. Additionally, the script highlights the launch of Quinn's new podcast aimed at inspiring women to redefine their lives, with hints of future collaborations and mutual promotions between Quinn and the speaker. Their friendly banter underscores their strong friendship and support for each other's empowering missions.

E5: Consistency Before IntensityIn this episode of the Post Divorce Glow Up Show, Quinn discusses the importance of building consistency before pursuing intensity, especially in the context of personal growth and transformation. Drawing from her own experiences and those of her clients, Quinn explains how consistency lays the foundation for sustainable progress, helps form lasting habits, prevents burnout, enables continuous learning and adaptation, and builds trust in oneself and others.IntroductionWelcome to episode number five of the post divorce glow up show....The Value of ConsistencyIt is so important to build consistency before intensity....Sustainable Progress vs. Quick ResultsFirst of all, consistency provides sustainable progress....Habit Formationconsistency creates habit formation....Preventing Burnoutreduce the risk of burnout....Continuous Learning and AdaptationConsistency allows for continuous learning and adaptation....Building Trust with Yourself and Othersconsistency allows you to build trust with yourself as well as others...

In episode four of the post-divorce glow up show, the focus is on achieving a physical transformation following a divorce. The host expresses mixed feelings about prioritizing physical changes, emphasizing the importance of inner work as the foundation for any external transformation. Drawing on Maxwell Maltz's 'Psycho Cybernetics', the host elaborates on how self-image and mental blueprints dictate our actions and limits. The episode also covers the host's personal journey and principles for a sustainable physical glow up, which include starting with small, sustainable habits, focusing on strength training, increasing willingness to feel emotions, and prioritizing recovery. These principles are presented as a pathway not just to physical transformation, but to enhancing self-image, mental health, and overall life satisfaction.00:00 Introduction to the Physical Glow Up Journey00:59 The Importance of Inner Work for a Physical Transformation03:01 Influential Lessons from Psycho Cybernetics08:33 Applying Psycho Cybernetics Principles to Physical Glow Up10:00 Sustainable Habits for a Lasting Transformation13:11 The Role of Emotions in Physical Health16:00 Recovery and Consistency: The Pillars of Physical Strength24:23 Conclusion and Next Steps

This episode delves into the complexities of personal growth post-divorce, emphasizing the importance of not leveraging this growth as a vendetta against one's ex-spouse. The host shares insights into the negative feedback and misconceptions surrounding post-divorce transformations, highlighting the additional pressures faced by women. Through personal anecdotes and references to literature, the episode explores the dangers of harboring resentment and the powerful impact of self-compassion and unconditional love on healing and rebuilding one's life. The episode concludes with practical advice on handling emotional challenges, emphasizing the significance of thought experiments, self-awareness, and choosing love over vendettas to foster a healthier post-divorce life.00:00 Welcome to the Post Divorce Glow Up Show!00:58 The Personal Impact of a Post Divorce Glow Up02:02 Transforming Pain into Power: A Personal Journey03:50 Navigating Emotions and Vendettas Post Divorce19:59 Exploring Self-Compassion and Unconditional Love26:37 Choosing Your Path: Compassion, Love, and Letting Go

In this episode of the Post Divorce Glow Up Show, the Quinn shares a deeply personal story about being falsely accused of murder by her ex-husband after their divorce. The accusation revolves around the tragic death of their son in 2003, which her ex-husband exploited to tarnish her reputation by sending a detailed email to family and friends. Despite the horror of these allegations, the host emphasizes the importance of moving forward without letting anger or revenge consume one's life. She provides listeners with a four-step process, inspired by Pete Walker's Complex PTSD from Surviving to Thriving, to cope with such traumatic experiences: Angering, Crying, Verbal Ventilation, and Feeling. Through her story, she illustrates the healing power of acknowledging and processing difficult emotions to overcome betrayal and falsehood, especially during a post-divorce transformation.00:00 Welcome to the Post Divorce Glow Up Show: A Murder Accusation Story01:38 The Shocking Accusation During a Time of Celebration05:59 Unraveling the Truth: The Tragic Story of My Son's Death11:39 Navigating the Aftermath of Accusation in a Post-Divorce Journey13:26 Healing and Moving Forward: Strategies to Overcome Trauma20:18 Embracing the Full Spectrum of Human Emotion22:27 Conclusion: The Power of Sharing and Healing