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This PBSE episode (275), inspired by a listener's vulnerable question, dives deep into the emotional complexity of intimacy in long-term relationships—particularly when one partner has struggled with pornography addiction. The woman asks how her husband can look “past” her aging body and be genuinely aroused by real love. Her question reveals the pain of feeling invisible or undesired and touches on the widespread cultural belief that sexual attraction is rigid and solely tied to youth or physical perfection. The article dismantles this myth, showing that arousal is not a static, uncontrollable instinct, but a moldable response shaped by years of influence, experience, and personal choices.Mark and Steve, speaking from their own journeys of recovery and their work with countless clients, explain how pornography warps the arousal template, training the brain to see only surface-level stimulation while disconnecting from emotional and spiritual depth. But through consistent personal work, emotional vulnerability, and intentional connection, that template can be rewritten. Real-life examples—like a therapist who found arousal in his wife's post-mastectomy scars—illustrate that true desire comes not from ignoring reality, but from embracing it. The physical becomes more meaningful, not less, when it's rooted in shared experience, loyalty, admiration, and love.Ultimately, the article reframes arousal not as something to “look past,” but as something to “look through”—to see the fullness of a partner, body and soul. It calls both partners to re-engage in intimacy with eyes wide open, choosing to cultivate love through emotional connection and shared meaning. The grand takeaway is that authentic, meaningful love is not only enough to spark desire—it's the most powerful and lasting form of arousal there is.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to: How Can He "Look Past" My Body & Be Aroused by Real Love?!Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at: Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at: Reclaim Counseling Services
This PBSE Podcast Episode 274, centers on a partner's heartfelt account of feeling objectified and emotionally disconnected during sex with her spouse, who is in recovery from porn addiction. Though he has given up porn and masturbation, their intimacy remains one-sided, leaving her feeling like a replacement for his addiction rather than a true partner in connection. Mark and Steve explore how sobriety alone isn't enough—emotional growth, mindfulness, and a complete rewiring of sexual expectations are essential for healing.Through neuroscience, they unpack how porn addiction distorts the brain's wiring around sex, creating a dopamine-driven pattern that prioritizes climax over connection. Recovery, then, requires more than behavioral change; it calls for a transformation of mindset, unlearning toxic scripts, and rebuilding intimacy through vulnerability and presence. The metaphor of “remodeling” becomes central: couples must tear down broken patterns and collaboratively design a new vision for their sexual relationship.Ultimately, the article calls couples to take back authorship of their story by replacing silence, shame, and autopilot sex with curiosity, honesty, and shared desire. With intention and effort, couples can elevate their sexual connection from a mechanical act to a space of mutual pleasure and deep intimacy—if they are willing to write that new narrative together.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to: Sed Isn't Mutually Pleasurable in our Relationship. Howe do We Elevate the Experience?Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at: Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at: Reclaim Counseling Services
This PBSE episode #268, we talk about how recovery is an intensive and transformative journey that goes beyond breaking free from addiction and trauma—it is about rediscovering authenticity, self-worth, and emotional resilience. The process involves patience, self-compassion, and an openness to growth, allowing individuals to step into a life that is vibrant and unshackled from past wounds. Through recovery, people transition from survival mode, where they expend energy on hiding, escaping, or maintaining a façade, to truly living with presence, purpose, and a deeper appreciation for life's possibilities.At the heart of recovery is self-love, which serves as the foundation for long-term healing. Many individuals struggle with feelings of unworthiness, shaped by past traumas and destructive behaviors, but learning to nurture oneself through self-care, self-acceptance, and emotional vulnerability creates a newfound sense of empowerment. When individuals cultivate self-love, they develop resilience, set boundaries, and form healthier relationships that are built on authenticity rather than fear or dependency.The ultimate goal of recovery is not just to avoid relapse but to build a life rich with meaning, joy, and fulfillment. By reclaiming personal power and embracing growth, those in recovery discover a life that is worth fighting for—one where they are no longer prisoners of their past but architects of their future. The journey may be challenging, but the reward is an existence filled with deeper connections, genuine happiness, and the freedom to create a future rooted in purpose and authenticity.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to: "What is All This Recovery & Healing Work For? Is it Worth It? Why?"Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at: Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at: Reclaim Counseling Services
The inspiration for Episode 259 comes from a heartfelt submission we received from a betrayed partner. Her words encapsulate a struggle that many couples in recovery face. She wrote:"It has been 18 months since D-Day, and my husband has been sober for six months. Recently, he went on a work trip, which already triggered a lot of anxiety for me. While he was there, I received a receipt for a movie he watched that contained nudity and sexual content. Even though I trust that he skipped the raunchy scenes, the issue is that there was no consideration for how this would make me feel.This has been a common theme in our marriage. I have so much compassion for how he got here, but it doesn't seem to go both ways. His sobriety is there, but the selfishness and entitlement don't seem to be shifting. I've asked for an in-home separation because I can't keep living like this. How can I get him to understand how much this hurts?"These words hit home for so many couples navigating recovery. Sobriety may be present, but without consideration—the conscious choice to think about your partner's feelings and anticipate their emotional needs—the pain lingers.Consideration is a vital element in the recovery and healing process, going beyond sobriety to rebuild trust and foster emotional safety. It requires intentional, proactive efforts to understand and empathize with a partner's emotional world, especially in the context of betrayal trauma. Through actions that reflect care and awareness, such as pausing to think about how decisions may impact a partner, consideration demonstrates that their feelings matter. This practice bridges the gap between sobriety and intimacy, as shown in the story of a husband whose thoughtful choice to prioritize his wife's emotional safety became a turning point in their marriage.Despite its importance, practicing consideration is challenging due to significant barriers. Addicts often struggle with emotional awareness, fear of vulnerability, and habits of selfishness rooted in their addiction, while betrayed partners face fears of being hurt again, hypervigilance, and difficulty trusting changes. Both partners may also lack healthy examples of consideration from their past, making it harder to implement. Overcoming these barriers requires consistent effort, including pausing to reflect, validating a partner's feelings, and taking proactive actions that demonstrate thoughtfulness and care.When practiced consistently, consideration transforms relationships by fostering trust, collaboration, and emotional connection. It allows betrayed partners to feel valued and chosen, while helping addicts break free from selfish patterns and grow emotionally. This practice turns recovery into a shared journey, where both partners link arms and work together to create a healthier, more fulfilling relationship. Programs like Dare to Connect offer tools and guidance to integrate consideration into daily life, enabling couples to experience the profound healing it can bring.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to: "The-powerful-potential-of-consideration-in-recovery-the-betrayal-trauma-healing-process"Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at: Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at: Reclaim Counseling Services
In PBSE episode 254, Mark & Steve respond to a heart-felt submission by a man who has been married for 45 years and for many of those years, the sexual relationship between he and his wife has been very broken. The reasons are multifaceted and very complex. These include—the horror of emotional and sexual abuse his wife endured during her growing up years; an extremely rigid and shame-based religious culture which they both grew up in and continue to participate in; his periodic use of pornography; his anger and emotional abuse towards his wife; and other factors. He desperately wants to repair the damage he has done and find a way to heal the emotional and physical relationship in his marriage. Mark & Steve not only address the issues that this listener submitted, but the most common issues couples face in connection with healing sexual wounds, creating sexual safety and building a truly healthy sexual relationship. This PBSE listener and his partner's situation is very complicated, with a lot of moving parts:Her past abuse/betrayalTrauma and betrayal within the relationshipRigid religious backgroundShame surrounding sex; lack of open communicationMisinformation surrounding sexSexual secrecyAlthough this situation does have some unique elements, it brings up a lot of common struggles for couples, both in and out of recovery:The changing physical dynamics of sexual expression/reciprocation in an ongoing, long-term committed relationshipThe constantly evolving state of a relationship as a wholeThe need for ongoing, vulnerable discussion in a coupleship regarding the various elements to intimacy, including the physicalWe all have existing “sexual paradigms”—what sex or different sexual acts mean; how critical it is; how it impacts the rest of the relationship, etc. Are willing to step back to openly assess where these paradigms come from; challenge them; be flexible; etc?Really exploring a coupleship's sexuality means backing up from preconceived “norms” around sex acts and forms of physical expression:As a coupleship, you have the right/obligation to determine how and what you would like your physical and sexual relationship to look like, as well as what it means and represents. Mark gives the real-life example of an acquaintance whose wife had a stroke and was permanently paralyzed from the chest down—after tenderly caring for her for a decade, he said it was the most intimate, loving and connected 10 years of their marriage.YOU are the sole architects of your own relationship—you get to collaboratively build it into what YOU want!For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to: "Sex in Our Marriage has Always Been "Broken." How do we Repair and Heal it?"Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at: Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at: Reclaim Counseling Services
Catch this episode of Leadership Now with Dr. Aaron Rock as Aaron reveals why and how God's design for sex within marriage is superior to all other form of sex. More Resources: More resources at Beachhead Media's website: https://beachheadmedia.ca/ Beachhead Media YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTRwY4I8_rSQ7Z6I05k8lkA
Catch this episode of Leadership Now with Dr. Aaron Rock as Aaron reveals why and how God's design for sex within marriage is superior to all other form of sex. More Resources: More resources at Beachhead Media's website: https://beachheadmedia.ca/ Beachhead Media YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTRwY4I8_rSQ7Z6I05k8lkA
Catch this episode of Leadership Now with Dr. Aaron Rock as Aaron reveals why and how God's design for sex within marriage is superior to all other form of sex. More Resources: More resources at Beachhead Media's website: https://beachheadmedia.ca/ Beachhead Media YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTRwY4I8_rSQ7Z6I05k8lkA
In this episode, number 247, Mark & Steve discuss a situation and questions submitted by the betrayed partner of a porn/sex addict. She does a great job presenting a balanced description of their situation, while also being very direct, vulnerable and authentic. Her addict partner has struggled with porn addiction nearly his whole life and when all the "trickle truths" started coming out, it nearly finished off their marriage. But, they both got into therapy and did a lot of hard work individually and as a couple for over a year. She describes their marriage as "feeling a lot safer and stronger." At the same time, there are still some significant struggles. Here's how she describes it—The issue that continues to arise for me, is that my husband seems to “need” sex every 4 days, or he will feel that he is too distracted by women and his sexual desires which impacts his recovery. This also impacts my ability to feel that I am in full control of my own body as well as feeling wanted and chosen, as opposed to just being the object of a selfish need. I understand that men are biologically more inclined to feel sexual desire more often, but is he limiting himself in his healing journey by assuming that this need is normal and biological (his words). He does have some sort of goal to increase the amount of days by using self discipline, but it seems that he believes it's a biological need for men and specifically for himself because he feels too much physical and mental discomfort when he pushes it off. He has not masturbated in around 8-10 months (other than 1-2 slips, and a recent relapse) but we have created a plan where he has the option of masturbating after 7 days of no sex if he feels he “needs” it. My question is—does this sound like something that is limiting the recovery process or is each person an individual case and this plan can be something that is helpful for him and helpful for me to feel full control of my own body, while he does his own recovery work?Mark & Steve directly address this couple's situation and this betrayed partner's questions. They discuss the critical importance of the addict taking charge of the healthy wiring and management of his brain's "pleasure/reward system" and how this impacts his recovery. They address the "need" for sex vs. a healthy balance in a WHOLE relationship. They speak raw and real about "his side of the street" and what he is response-able and account-able for in this situation. They also speak directly to what this betrayed partner needs for her own "body sovereignty" and for a path of true healing. In addition, they speak to what is needed to make consistent deposits to the relationship trust account and what true "holistic intimacy" looks like vs. a narrow focus on physical sex. Also discussed are healthy sexual boundaries and what it means for an addict in recovery to evolve, mature and transform. For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to: https://www.pbsepodcast.com/post/my-porn-addicted-partner-has-adhd-he-insists-i-must-manage-his-recovery-for-him-to-succeed-is-thisLearn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at: Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at: Reclaim Counseling Services
Sex isn't just about attraction and desire in marriage. Sex is a mixture of playing with power dynamics, avoiding rejection, and learning what true intimacy is. We are unpacking some of this in this episode. And it's a good thing to unpack this because wouldn't it be great to be able to enjoy a fun fulfilling sex life?Welcome to Your Turned on Desire where Jamee talks about the lessons she learned when she decided to stop avoiding sex and look forward to and enjoy sex instead. She also shares how she uses the same lessons to help other women do the same in her private coaching program.Article by Celeste Davis: The Men Who Like Women and The Men Who Don't. Yes We Can Tell.https://open.substack.com/pub/celestemdavis/p/men-who-like-women?r=1tvcj9&utm_medium=iosArticle by Celeste Davis: Can Men and Women Really Be Just Friends? God I Hope So. https://open.substack.com/pub/celestemdavis/p/can-men-and-women-be-friends?r=1tvcj9&utm_medium=iosLink to details about my private coaching program and links to schedule your free consultation with me:Private Program | Your Turned on DesireSexual Success for Husbands online course (lifetime access, do at your own pace, I update and add curriculum as needed). Private calls with me are also included in this offer:https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/sexual-success-for-husbandsLink for my free download, “Switching off your stress response and turning on your rest response”:https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/my-downloadable-39807I tried everything to change my sex life for the better. And it wasn't when I was on a fancy vacation in Hawaii where I decided all the things I was trying weren't going to work because my husband and I had been lied to and we needed to address these lies before things would change for the better for us. Read about that story here:https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/newsexlife?fbclid=PAAabM_AE3_5FfmI5t4wk6UDTtN58QRud3YsTLcOexXXfql9bOVFBbZkVB41g_aem_AcW5A0fihOVZF1WrXMNHqOD8B5QiWHBR6C22WjBHZ3uSLe_imBQNqjg5P8anNXz65G0
Today, I want to talk about something that often comes up in my sessions with clients: those small, "silly" conflicts that you might feel embarrassed to bring up. You know the ones—the minor disagreements over chores, daily routines, or little misunderstandings. It's easy to dismiss them as unimportant, but the truth is, these small conflicts are golden opportunities for growth and learning.These seemingly insignificant conflicts are actually perfect for practicing the conflict resolution process! In Episode 173: Transforming "Silly" Conflicts into Powerful Learning Opportunities, I share a 4-step process that will have you perfecting conflict resolution so you can start addressing those more "serious" arguments!Remember, no conflict is too small to learn from. Every disagreement is an opportunity to understand each other better, improve your communication skills, and strengthen your relationship.Wishing you all peaceful and productive conflict resolution,ChristineCBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving RelationshipDownload my Love List Method, a free resource designed to reignite your love and revolutionize your marriage. More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/Join my AwakenYou newsletter for weekly marriage tips and early announcements of upcoming offerings.Book your free Courageous Love Conversation here.InstagramFacebook
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It may not top your list of priorities, but there's almost zero chance sex isn't top of mind for your husband. If you need motivation moving sex off the back burner, don't miss today's classic Deep Dive podcast on why marital sex matters. Call 1-800-DR-LAURA / 1-800-375-2872 or make an appointment at DrLaura.comFollow me on social media:Facebook.com/DrLauraInstagram.com/DrLauraProgramYouTube.com/DrLaura
It may not top your list of priorities, but there's almost zero chance sex isn't top of mind for your husband. If you need motivation moving sex off the back burner, don't miss today's classic Deep Dive podcast on why marital sex matters. Call 1-800-DR-LAURA / 1-800-375-2872 or make an appointment at DrLaura.comFollow me on social media:Facebook.com/DrLauraInstagram.com/DrLauraProgramYouTube.com/DrLaura
Have you ever felt like your sex life was struggling? Since intimacy challenges are very common between husband and wife, you are not alone. But what can we do to revive it?Listen in as we explore a few common mindsets of husband and wife and how they could be having a negative impact on the sexual aspect of your marriage. Discover how life-coaching ties into the reviving process and 5 easy tips that can help. Schedule a FREE Discovery Session at www.shellie.andersoncoaching.com.
Welcome to another special episode of the Spit or Swallow podcast!Today, Hausa Chocolate is joined by talented creatives, William and Ayo Lawal.Together they discuss marriage, infidelity, assumptions and misconceptions about monogamous marriages, Madonna-Whore Complex, sexual safety, contraceptives, keeping sex spicy and so much more.Themes: Long Term Relationships, Infidelity, Madonna-Whore ComplexEnjoyy!Don't forget to rate us and share!Stay connected with us on:- Instagram: @spitorswallowpod- Twitter: @sospodofficial- TikTok: @spitorswallowpodListen to a new episode here: https://linktr.ee/spitorswallowpod Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving RelationshipDownload my Love List Method, a free resource designed to reignite your love and revolutionize your marriage. More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/Join my AwakenYou newsletter for weekly marriage tips and early announcements of upcoming offerings.Book your free Courageous Love Conversation here.InstagramFacebook
As we embark on another episode of the AwakenYou in Your Marriage podcast, I'm thrilled to dive into a topic that's both nuanced and pivotal: Intimacy Regulators.In Episode 166, titled "Navigating Intimacy: Understanding Distance and Intimacy Regulators," we'll explore the intricate dynamics at play when it comes to fostering closeness in relationships. Drawing from real-life scenarios and insights gleaned from my coaching practice, we'll uncover how intimacy anxiety and the fear of closeness can manifest in unexpected ways, often leading to the creation of distance between partners.Along with identifying these regulators, we'll also equip ourselves with strategies to navigate them effectively. From fostering awareness and understanding our emotional cues to gracefully opening up and communicating with our partners, we'll embark on a journey towards deeper connection and intimacy in our marriages.Additionally, I have an exciting project in the works that I'd love your input on. I'm creating free offerings tailored specifically for women who find themselves longing for a more fulfilling marriage but aren't sure how to bridge the gap. If you're interested in sharing your insights and experiences to help shape these resources, please reach out to me via email or social media. Your voice is invaluable in guiding the direction of this endeavor.As always, I encourage you to engage with the content and reflect on how it resonates with your own experiences. Whether you find yourself identifying with the examples shared or gaining new insights into your relationship dynamics, I'm eager to hear your thoughts and observations.Thank you for being a part of this supportive and growth-oriented community. Together, let's continue to cultivate awareness, compassion, and connection in our marriages.CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving RelationshipDownload my Love List Method, a free resource designed to reignite your love and revolutionize your marriage. More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/Join my AwakenYou newsletter for weekly marriage tips and early announcements of upcoming offerings.Book your free Courageous Love Conversation here.InstagramFacebook
Questions answered this episode: I'm struggling with the line between desire and lust in the context of marriage. Can I watch my wife shower and not fall into lust? What is it about marriage that makes desires and actions that, if otherwise took place outside of it would be sinful, not sinful? Will heaven get better after the end times? Will heaven be lacking something when only our souls are there awaiting our reunion with out glorified bodies? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II's beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body.
In Episode 214, Mark and Steve respond to a PBSE listener who finds herself in an all-too-common situation. After several years of marriage, her spouse has owned up to his porn addiction and is in active recovery. However, during their entire relationship, his porn addiction ruined what could've been healthy, connected, mutually-satisfying sexually intimacy. Now, they both want things to be very different going forward. Here are the questions she submitted to PBSE—- In what ways could we reset our dating and early stages of marriage?- We have discussed trying to redo our dating experience by doing a partial separation and cutting out sex so that we can both have a time period of “dating” that we can look back on and be happy with and commemorate the ending of our dating redo by coming together sexually in a way that is mutually desired. Is this a bad idea?- Do we just need to accept that our dating, wedding, and first months of marriage were terrible and entirely shaped by my husband and his pornographic desires?- Our sex life has always been about him and what he wanted and was never a safe place for me to explore my own wants and/or desires. How do I learn to enjoy and desire sex with my husband after he criticized everything I did sexually before and after marriage?Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program—"Dare to Connect!" You have live access to Mark and Steve in 3 one-hour sessions every week—addicts, spouses and couples! And live support groups on weekends, facilitated by Mark and Steve! To try a free, 2-week trial, visit—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at: Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at: Reclaim Counseling Services
Episode 211 is in response to a very raw and heart-felt submission by a PBSE listener. She is about to turn 40, is married to a guy who struggles with porn/sex addiction and they have 3 children. About 10 years ago, she found out that he had been regularly viewing porn for the first decade of their marriage. She was devastated and let him know she considered it cheating. In the years that followed, every time she would bring it up, he promised to stop but never did. He gaslit her and claimed it was "normal" behavior. Then over the last 12 months or so, he engaged in a "trickled disclosure" about just how bad his porn/sex addiction has been their entire marriage. Finally, about a month ago, he started into serious recovery. But, over that same year, she was so deeply impacted by his betrayal that she went to every possible length (money, time and energy) to try to modify her body to compete with or match up to what he had been seeking in his porn use. This even drove her to struggles with anorexia and a complete mental breakdown. She realized she could never win this competition/contest! At the end of the detailed recounting of all she's been through (which was heart-breaking), she asked the following—"Will his addiction keep him from seeing me the way I so desperately want to be seen in his eyes? Or are all the signs pointing to me just never being able to be enough?" - Why is sex and sexuality such a high priority and singular focus in our culture?- What does it mean to be "sexy" and "sexual"—what are the deep needs behind these?- Why is it unrealistic, inauthentic and unhealthy to seek to compete with sexual fantasies?- After more than 20 years working with partners suffering from betrayal trauma, what have Mark and Steve found that these individuals actually and truly want/need from their addict partners?- How has our culture confused sex/sexuality and true, human intimacy?- For the partners of porn/sex addicts—In what ways can your partner choose, pursue and create safety for you? How can your partner authentically meet your wants and needs on a consistent basis? Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program—"Dare to Connect!" You have live access to Mark and Steve in 3 one-hour sessions every week—addicts, spouses and couples! And live support groups on weekends, facilitated by Mark and Steve! To try a free, 2-week trial, visit—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at: Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at: Reclaim Counseling Services
On today's Bible Answer Man broadcast (10/06/23), Hank answers the following questions:I talked to some Christians who believe that Hebrews 13:4 permits any kind of sexual acts in marriage. What do you think? (0:50)What is your opinion of Peter Popoff? (3:27)Are tattoos and body piercings acceptable? I can't find anything in the Bible about piercing. (6:38)If someone was divorced and remarried, are they in a perpetual state of adultery? (8:43)Can you address Dr. David Jeremiah's view on the end times? Are the 144,000 mentioned in Revelation going to evangelize the Jews during the Tribulation? What is going to happen to the Jews? (15:14)
It may have stopped mattering to you, but, 99.9999 percent of the time, it doesn't stop mattering to your husband. Even when your lives are uber-busy with children and responsibilities.Email questions or comments: drlaura@drlaura.comParticipate on the radio program: call 1-800-Dr-Laura / 1-800-375-2872 or make an appointment https://www.drlaura.com/make-an-appointment. Follow on social media:Facebook.com/DrLauraInstagram.com/DrLauraProgramTwitter.com/DrLauraProgramPinterest.com/DrLauraYouTube.com/DrLauraBecome a Dr. Laura Family Member: https://www.drlaura.com/ See https://www.drlaura.com/privacy-policy for privacy information.
It may have stopped mattering to you, but, 99.9999 percent of the time, it doesn't stop mattering to your husband. Even when your lives are uber-busy with children and responsibilities.Email questions or comments: drlaura@drlaura.comParticipate on the radio program: call 1-800-Dr-Laura / 1-800-375-2872 or make an appointment https://www.drlaura.com/make-an-appointment. Follow on social media:Facebook.com/DrLauraInstagram.com/DrLauraProgramTwitter.com/DrLauraProgramPinterest.com/DrLauraYouTube.com/DrLauraBecome a Dr. Laura Family Member: https://www.drlaura.com/ See https://www.drlaura.com/privacy-policy for privacy information.
I know there's something you want to talk about with your spouse but haven't, or when you have, it hasn't gone well. This is for you!You know that communication is the foundation of a strong and healthy marriage, but discussing sensitive topics can sometimes be challenging. Well, I'm here to help you navigate those tricky conversations with grace and understanding.This week I dive deep into effective communication in your marriage. I'll talk about types of difficult conversations, why they're difficult and then I will share eight steps to help you get your tricky conversation started (and get you on the path to resolution).Discover how to approach sensitive topics, manage emotions, and create a safe space for both of you to express your thoughts and concerns. I cover a range of subjects, from financial matters and parenting styles to intimacy and decision-making, ensuring that no stone is left unturned.Don't let those difficult conversations keep you from strengthening your bond, coming to a unified agreement, and building a loving partnership. Learn how to break the silence and foster deeper connections with your spouse.Whether you're newlyweds, in a long-term relationship, or simply seeking valuable insights, this episode is a must-listen!Don't miss out on this week's empowering Episode 127, Breaking the Silence: Navigating Tricky Conversations in Your Marriage! Subscribe to the AwakenYou in your Marriage podcast today, and get ready to transform your marriage by mastering the art of tricky conversations. Together, we can create stronger, more fulfilling relationships!Episodes referenced:Ep 35: Emotional Regulation in Your Marriage CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving RelationshipDownload my free Love Affirmations Mini-Course to help you to start thinking and feeling in a way that feels more like love. More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/Join my AwakenYou newsletter for weekly marriage tips and early announcements of upcoming offerings.Book your free Courageous Love Conversation here.InstagramFacebook
Are you doing it enough? Founder of Mama's Still Got It Louise Boyce cracks open sex in her marriage and tells it like it is. Her recent poll showed hardly anyone married is at it like rabbits. But that there's still a way to retain intimacy outside of ‘birthday blow jobs' and fleeting gropes by the dishwasher. One of the most open and honest chats so far, this episode is, perhaps, sexually healing for anyone worried about their sex life.
You could totally believe that being married to the same person over time will lead to boredom in the bedroom. How empowering does THAT belief feel?Here are some words we could exchange for unempowered: blocked, limited, prevented, stopped, constrained...It's NO WONDER so many couples are unhappy with their sex life! Of course, there is always more to it than this societal belief that boredom in the bedroom is inevitable with a long-lasting partner, but can we start with understanding how much this belief is creating this reality?!?You will NEVER create a fun, exciting, passionate sex life with your partner from a place of feeling blocked, limited, stopped, constrained, and unempowered. Never. Yes, I have a lot to say about this topic, and if you want to hear just a slice of my rampage, then check out this week's AwakenYou in your marriage episode. Episode 121: Sex Over The Timeline Of Your Marriage might be what you need to hear to start questioning your belief and creating your own view about what is normal regarding sex in your marriage.Tap on the image above or right here to listen.CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving RelationshipDownload my free Love Affirmations Mini-Course to help you to start thinking and feeling in a way that feels more like love. More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/Join my AwakenYou newsletter for weekly marriage tips and early announcements of upcoming offerings.Book your free Courageous Love Conversation here.InstagramFacebook
In this episode Mark and Steve address a super common question—if "sex is optional" in a relationship, then how can a couple possibly stay connected?! This question actually came in recently from a PBSE listener. Here's how she asked it—"Hi, I've been binge listening to your podcast for a few days now to try to understand my partner's addiction. I have been able to take away a ton of great stuff, but I have a question. You often say that sex is optional. I think I understand the sentiment, but is it truly reasonable that a couple can sustain a relationship without physical connection for the rest of their lives?"- Yes, it IS possible for sex to be optional in a relationship!- Sex is "part" of physical connection, NOT the "be all, end all." - A couple can be "sexual" while not achieving "intimacy." - In the "True Art of Intimacy," there are 8 areas of intimacy, only one of which is "sexual." - We can build a relationship based on sex and hope that the rest of our intimacy follows—OR—we can first build an emotionally-intimate/vulnerable relationship and allow the physical side of the relationship to "reflect" and naturally flow from the emotional intimacy foundation. - What does "sex" and other forms of physical intimacy "mean" and represent for you in your relationship? If sex were to be removed from the relationship would your overall connection and intimacy still be fulfilling; would it be enough? Why or why not? Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program—"Dare to Connect!" You have live access to Mark and Steve in 3 one-hour sessions every week—addicts, spouses and couples! And live support groups on weekends, facilitated by Mark and Steve! To try a free, 2-week trial, visit—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at: Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at: Reclaim Counseling Services
We have all suffered from "communication trauma" in our life experiences! This can too easily get in the way and/or sabotage healthy communication and connection in our current relationships. Here's how a PBSE listener expressed the challenge she is having with her partner who is an addict in recovery—Hi. I was wondering if you could do a podcast on communication. My partner is a recovering sex addict and he has a hard time with communication and working on fixing issues that come up because he basically freezes and doesn't know what to say. With years of verbal abuse from an old employer, plus the life of addiction that he's battled- he learned to not argue or say anything to avoid confrontation. This becomes a battle for me as I'm really trying hard to work on communicating with him and making it a priority for myself. This is something we are battling and I don't want to lose out on what is an amazing relationship (even with the addiction) just because we can't communicate effectively. Even simple things as asking for help with something he's struggling with can be to much, and then he's just angry because he's struggling but won't reach out to me and it causes conflict.- What are the potential "causes" of Communication Trauma?- What is the first step to shifting into healthy communication styles?- Why finding "safe" people to share with is CRITICAL!- How to begin daring to engage in the SCARY process of "Collaborative Confrontation/Conflict."- What are some simple "healthy communication" tools and strategies? - How to PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE!Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program—"Dare to Connect!" You have live access to Mark and Steve in 3 one-hour sessions every week—addicts, spouses and couples! And live support groups on weekends, facilitated by Mark and Steve! To try a free, 2-week trial, visit—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at: Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at: Reclaim Counseling Services
Is sex really that critical to a healthy marriage? Here's why I ask. I'm having a disagreement with my spouse. He tells me that sex is a "sacrament" and "a holy mystery," and that it needs to be central to our relationship. He even uses Ephesians 5:30-32 to support these claims. I don't agree. After all, there's a lot more to marriage than just sex. Besides, the Bible itself (in 1 Corinthians 7:3-5) seems to suggest that sex is basically a sort of functional "chore," not a deeply meaningful "spiritual" experience. I get the feeling that some believers think sex is more important than the Bible says it is. Do you agree?
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Is sex really that critical to a healthy marriage? Here's why I ask. I'm having a disagreement with my spouse. He tells me that sex is a "sacrament" and "a holy mystery," and that it needs to be central to our relationship. He even uses Ephesians 5:30-32 to support these claims. I don't agree. After all, there's a lot more to marriage than just sex. Besides, the Bible itself (in 1 Corinthians 7:3-5) seems to suggest that sex is basically a sort of functional "chore," not a deeply meaningful "spiritual" experience. I get the feeling that some believers think sex is more important than the Bible says it is. Do you agree?
In this episode, Mark and Steve respond to a scenario and question from a PBSE listener—"Since my husband and I have gotten into recovery I struggle with still feeling like we are supposed to be having sex every three days or my husband will fall and it will be my fault. I still struggle with his decreased libido now that he isn't hyper-sexualize and can't help but feel triggered that he must be acting out, I'm ugly or there is something wrong with me. I can confidently say he is in good recovery and he is not echoing the things I am feeling.So how do I come to terms with this healthier sexual norm? How do I move through feeling like I wasted my sexual "prime" and now have to be ok with sex once or twice every two weeks? We both enjoy sex together but with work, kids, responsibilities it's hard for us to get good connection time in that can open the door for healthy physical intimacy."Mark and Steve take this topic HEAD ON, including the VERY important principle of "engaging in holistic intimacy which can then lead to sex, vs. using sex as the way to attain healthy intimacy."Learn more about Mark and Steve's new online program—"Dare to Connect!" You have live access to Mark and Steve three times a week--addicts, spouses and couples! Visit—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at: Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at: Reclaim Counseling ServicesCan your marriage survive sex and porn addiction? Check out this article to learn more—https://www.reclaimcounselingservices.com/can-marriage-survive-porn
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In this episode: Relationship Advice Siri is created, Nico tries to make sense of modern dance shows, and Jack creates a new way to trick package thieves and a new way to go on honeymoons.
There are plenty of situations where an addict spouse wants to have sex all the time. There are situations where the spouse suffering from betrayal trauma does not feel safe having sex with their sexually addicted spouse, even when that spouse is in successful recovery. But what about a situation where a spouse is yearning for the healthy connection of sex, but her husband in recovery will NOT engage with her sexually? In this episode, Mark and Steve address a PBSE listener who submitted a question about this very scenario that is taking place in her life and marriage. Learn more about Mark and Steve's new online program—"Dare to Connect!" You have live access to Mark and Steve three times a week--addicts, spouses and couples! Visit—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at: Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at: Reclaim Counseling ServicesCurious about "why" porn/sex addicts do the kinds of things they do? Check out this article—https://www.reclaimcounselingservices.com/brain-science-porn-sex-addictionWant to learn more about how to move out of "toxic sex" in a marriage relationship and into "True Intimacy"?—https://www.reclaimcounselingservices.com/true-intimacy-vs-sex-in-marriage
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:My best male friend has – out of the blue – confessed that he loves me. I have never thought of him that way. I love him as a friend but I'm not sure I can move him from the ‘friend basket' into the ‘boyfriend basket'? Is it really possible for that to happen? We've been close friends for over four years. Should we take it slowly or dive right in there with sex? What if the sex is awful and I only want him as a friend. What then?My wife of 20 years and I love each other dearly. We share the same values. We have similar likes and dislikes. But not when it comes to sex. We are very different sex types. I'm adventurous; she's conservative. I adore foreplay; she wants to go straight to intercourse. I'm a giver; she's a receiver. She likes sex in one position; I crave variety. If I'm honest she's a rather selfish lover. We've talked a lot about it and I've read a lot about it and I don't think things can or will change. But I couldn't leave her as despite all this I really, really do do love her. Recently she said that she doesn't mind if I do my own thing sexually and have the adventure I feel I need, provided I practice safe sex and don't tell her. My question is should I take up this offer and if so what, how and where?What are your thoughts on this?! It's been bugging me forever and I can't get it out of my mind. This guy and I had a thing for years on and off and while having the most passionate sex, he would gladly accept a blowjob from me but wouldn't go down on me at all. I am the cleanest person ever and don't understand why he would refuse when I asked him to. I'm thinking maybe because he would only do this to his wife and nobody else? Or he's just not experienced. Thoughts? And offers her sex tip of the week!To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously on zibbyowens.com/sex.Want a copy of Tracey's book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
In working with people all over the world, we often get questions from couples regarding what IS and what is NOT healthy and connecting in their sexual relationship. In this episode, Mark and Steve get really DIRECT about WHY we bring certain expectations, practices, attitudes, etc., to the bedroom and HOW to begin opening up an authentic, vulnerable, healthy dialogue as a couple to take your Sexual Intimacy to a truly healthy and connected place. Learn more about Mark and Steve's new online program—"Dare to Connect!" You have live access to Mark and Steve three times a week--addicts, spouses and couples! Visit—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at: Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at: Reclaim Counseling ServicesHere's an article about what "Healthy Sexuality" looks like in a marriage relationship—https://www.reclaimcounselingservices.com/true-intimacy-vs-sex-in-marriage
In this episode, Mark and Steve address a HUGE issue many partners struggle with. Here's how a PBSE listener expressed it—My question is with all the porn videos and images he has seen how does the wife know what he is thinking while having sex with the wife? By this I mean how do we know, even after getting help, which he is not in any recovery, that he is not still bringing some porn scene, scenarios or acts he's seen, into the bedroom?The raw answer is: "You don't know!" and you CAN'T control what he does or does not think about. So WHAT do you do with that reality??? HOW can you ever have a healthy relationship or healthy sex KNOWING this is true??? Learn more about Mark and Steve's new online program—"Dare to Connect!" You have live access to Mark and Steve three times a week--addicts, spouses and couples! Visit—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at: Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at: Reclaim Counseling ServicesHere's an article about what "Healthy Sexuality" looks like in a marriage relationship—https://www.reclaimcounselingservices.com/true-intimacy-vs-sex-in-marriage
Do you have questions about faith? That’s ok! Questions help us learn and grow. Jesus welcomed and answered questions. In this message, Pastor Jamie Nunnally answers part 1 of questions that were submitted by the VFC church family. If Adam and Eve were the first people, where did Cain’s wife come from? Genesis 4:17 If Jesus died on Friday and wasn’t there on Sunday morning, how was He died for 3 days? Matthew 12:40 How can I share about my faith when I have such a bad past, filled with guilt and shame? Doesn’t it make me look hypocritical to people that knew me before? 1 John 1:7-9 What did Jesus mean when he said you will do even greater things than me? John 14:12 Why do some versions of the Bible leave out certain scriptures? Should we steer clear of those versions? (Formal equivalence and dynamic equivalence, Byzantine and Alexandrian manuscripts) Is it ok for Christians to drink a glass of wine for the sole purpose of relaxing? Ephesians 5:18. A better question is “Should I drink?” Is there an actual hell that burns and tortures people for all eternity?Eternal conscious torture:Matthew 25:46, Mark 9:48, Revelation 14:11 Conditional immortality (annihilationism):Revelation 20:14, John 3:16, Matthew 10:28 What does it mean to “take your thoughts captive”? 2 Corinthians 10:5, Romans 12:2 What are the limitations on sexual activity within marriage? One man one woman, married, consensual. 1 Corinthians 7:2-5 When we die, do we go straight to Heaven, or do we have a waiting period? What’s the process when we die? 2 Corinthians 5:8 A question for you: Will you trust God with your questions?
Today's expert interview is with Amanda Louder. Amanda is a Certified Life Coach who helps women from conservative Christian backgrounds love their sex life. She helps women embrace their sexuality to help them strengthen their relationship with themselves, their spouse, and God.In addition to being a coach, Amanda has been married to her husband Kevin for 8 years. They have a blended family of 5 children ages 12-21 and live in Salt Lake City. In her spare time, she enjoys reading, watching her kids play sports, traveling, fishing, and camping.You can find Amanda on her website: Amanda Louder CoachingSex for Saints PodcastInstagramFacebookAmanda's resource page Join my AwakenYou newsletterVisit my website: https://christinebongiovanni.com/Show webpage: https://christinebongiovanni.com/loving-your-sex-life-with-amanda-louder/
Heidi Haddad answers Twitter questions about lack of sex in a marriage, life's uncertainty, and "what if"s.
Heidi Haddad answers Twitter questions about lack of sex in a marriage, life's uncertainty, and "what if"s.
3 plot/application points from this lesson: 1) A Command for Marital Sex; 2) The Sanctifying of Non-Believing Spouses; and 3) Singleness & "He Must Belong to the Lord."
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Talking about sex is really hard in any given situation, let alone when it's with your life partner and you're both speaking into a literal megaphone about your perceived failures as a couple. In this conversation, Riley and I hit on pretty much every pain point I could personally think of, when it comes to our shared intimacy: his perception of not feeling wanted by me, my perception of the world viewing me as a terrible wife, and the broader cultural norms that we both have to wade through every damn day, which tend to prioritize Riley's pleasure over mine, and which are a real mind f*ck to dismantle in your own head, even when your partner is supportive as hell. On a personal level, I hope that this terrifyingly vulnerable conversation makes at least one other person feel a little bit less alone. Figuring out how to prioritize your own pleasure can often feel like an impossible battle, given what a challenge it can be to understand what makes your pleasure clock tick to begin with. AcknowledgmentsThanks as always to our wonderful family and friends who have helped along the way. Specifically, our muse @floriandelomme for his generosity in allowing us the use of his Tulum sunset in our cover art; @anka1027 for her knowledge of all things podcasting; her renaissance husband @gnarliehewson for our highly rad intro and outro music; and, of course, @mollylophotography and @edwardslater, whose empathy and talent are on display in every photo of our wedding (and could be for yours—message them directly or visit their website).
This weeks episode is For Adults Only. Rated PG. This week we are being really candid and quite explicit and talking about the realities of sex from our perspective Some of the things we are discussing, you will/may not hear anywhere else. Not even in marriage counseling.
Kevin Hart jokes about doing better in his Netflix special "Irresponsible".
In this episode Mark and Steve openly discuss the differences between healthy and toxic sex in marriage—What are the differences between a healthy sex drive and a lust/fantasy focus in marriage? You can trigger the "addiction cycle" or the "connection cycle" through the sexual relationship in your marriage—which one do you want?What do you know if you're engaging in "lust" or "healthy attraction"? How lust can be a "poison" in the bedroom. How your spouse can be a "lust trigger" and why "toxic sex" is possible in marriage. When it comes to healthy physical intimacy—"intention" is EVERYTHING!Great sex is all about what you do OUTSIDE the bedroom and then bring with you into that setting. How to talk openly and intimately as a couple about your sexual relationship.Find out more about Steve Moore at: Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at: Reclaim Counseling ServicesWhat is the difference between "True Intimacy" and "sex" in a marriage relationship?—https://www.reclaimcounselingservices.com/true-intimacy-vs-sex-in-marriageWondering if your marriage can survive porn and sex addiction? This article will give you some hope—https://www.reclaimcounselingservices.com/can-marriage-survive-pornHow can you "heal" your marriage relationship?—https://www.reclaimcounselingservices.com/how-to-mend-your-marriageReady to STOP Keeping Secrets in your marriage?—https://www.reclaimcounselingservices.com/no-more-secrets-in-your-marriage
On this weeks show of Marriage Monday's with The Kings, the Kings' are talking about intimacy in marriage? The Kings' have heard many woman complain that all men want is sex. On the other hand, women have also mentioned to them that they would like to be held more. The questions that they have been asked is if intimacy and sex is the same thing? Can you have intimacy without sex? What does the Bible say about this? Why do so many get intimacy and sex confused? Is sex really for married individuals? There are so many questions and the Kings' have so many answers. Listen in and feel free to share with others. Blessings.
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Do married people use condoms? Like, seriously? I wonder.......(Recorded July 8, 2019)
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What happens when two very different, very broken people come together in marital sex?
The Pairadocs discuss a common struggle for couples, different libidos. How should a couple handle this? How should they discuss this with each other? Jimmy and Josh answer these questions and more in this episode.
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The fourth session of the Redeeming Sexuality Conference with Gordon Bals.
God cares greatly about your marital sex life
God cares greatly about your marital sex life
Join us as we talk about marital sex with experts Brad and Kate Aldrich. Together they will explain the necessity and the joy of monogamous sex.
Join us as we talk about marital sex with experts Brad and Kate Aldrich. Together they will explain the necessity and the joy of monogamous sex.
Dr. Beth (www.drbetherickson.com) first interviewed family studies researcher Dr. Peter Larson (www.prepare-enrich.com), co-author of The Couple Checkup, on some of the 15 to 20 abilities that couples in happy marriages possess that make them successful, compared with unhappy couples. Then Dr. Beth elaborated on remaining three factors that time didn’t permit her and her guest … Read more about this episode...
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