Journey Tribe Podcast

00:01.75 Priscilla Horton Welcome everyone. I'm so glad you're joining me again for another episode of the Journey Tribe podcast. um Today's episode is inspired by a book that I recently read and it completely shifted the way that I view my mind and my relationships with my thoughts. 00:22.89 Priscilla Horton You all know I'm huge into mindset, anything that has to do with the brain and rewiring it, reframing it. All the things. and this book was such an easy read, very quick, and it is called Don't Believe Everything That You Think by Joseph Nguyen. He pronounces it Nguyen and it's N-G-U-Y-E-N. 00:54.28 Priscilla Horton If you've ever felt trapped by your overthinking or weighted down by a constant stream of thoughts, This episode is for you. i think we've all kind of been there and one point of our life or another. 01:11.12 Priscilla Horton Maybe you're you're there right now and this may help you. No matter what, I encourage you to go and either listen to the book or read it yourself. 01:25.98 Priscilla Horton He really does do a very good job writing. breaking things down and helping you to understand the difference between your thoughts and thinking. So we're going to dive into a pretty powerful distinction that the author makes. 01:51.85 Priscilla Horton So I'm going go over a little bit about the differences that he shares between thoughts and thinking. And we're going to explore how understanding this can bring more clarity and peace into your own life as it did mine. 02:15.69 Priscilla Horton The book's core idea is 02:19.91 Priscilla Horton pretty simple when you think about it, but so profound. Most of our suffering comes not from our circumstances, but from our thoughts. 02:33.09 Priscilla Horton And not just our thoughts, our thoughts about them. So the author, Joseph Wynn, really invites us to question the validity of our thoughts and detach from overthinking. 02:52.96 Priscilla Horton One of the quotes that he shares in the book is that you are not your thoughts, but the awareness behind them. Isn't that crazy? Like if we think about our thoughts, basically they're like these little clouds and we can just let them float by or we can focus all of our attention our awareness on the one cloud that's there. 03:19.39 Priscilla Horton There can be these white clouds everywhere, but we see the one dark cloud and we want to hone in on it. We want to we want to focus on it. 03:33.06 Priscilla Horton So let's talk a little bit about the difference between the thoughts and thinking. And I actually had to read through this a couple times because it was so fascinating when he was sharing it that a thought is just one single mental event. 03:53.28 Priscilla Horton It's spontaneous and it's neutral nature. It doesn't really come with any feelings, no nothing, right? But thinking is the active process of attaching your meaning, your stories, and your emotions to that thought. 04:11.58 Priscilla Horton So there's a whole slew of things that create this thinking, right? This is when it typically becomes a problem in our life because we're attaching our value. We're attaching the meaning. 04:28.56 Priscilla Horton We're attaching a belief to it, a story, intense emotions. But the thought itself is just neutral. 04:41.85 Priscilla Horton It's one single mental event that happens. 04:51.67 Priscilla Horton I don't know. Somebody mentioned years ago, our thoughts are kind of like those clouds just like passing by and stuff. And so I can't ever think of it differently now. I'm like, i see the image as these thoughts being these, these clouds and you know, they come and they go and they, they are there and then they're not. 05:13.88 Priscilla Horton But sometimes we can keep them around much longer by focusing all our attention on it. 05:24.34 Priscilla Horton So 05:35.27 Priscilla Horton so let's just keep that that visual of the thoughts being like a cloud. Because those clouds are going pass along in the sky. 05:48.16 Priscilla Horton they They rise naturally, right? Without effort. 05:55.75 Priscilla Horton Thinking is when we grab onto that cloud and we start spinning stories about it. 06:08.51 Priscilla Horton Like maybe a thought could be, have a lot to do today. But then thinking is, I'll never finish it all. I'm so behind. 06:19.32 Priscilla Horton Why can't I be more productive? And let's just keep going on and on and on and on and on. And our thinking won't stop until we choose to stop it. 06:38.35 Priscilla Horton So the author, Joseph, when he teaches that suffering doesn't come from the thought itself, which kind of blew my mind actually. 06:51.08 Priscilla Horton But it actually comes from ah habit of overthinking and believing the stories that we create about it. 07:07.77 Priscilla Horton I know that my thinking over the years has caused a lot of suffering in my own life. It has caused suffering in my relationships. 07:20.34 Priscilla Horton When i i just kind of lasso one of those, those thoughts and I start creating stories about it in my head. 07:31.74 Priscilla Horton And i did this a lot with, you know, my own sense of belonging and relationships with people. I did this in my own marriage, 07:43.26 Priscilla Horton And when you allow yourself, like I did, to create these stories over and over and over again and keep building on them, 08:03.98 Priscilla Horton it just begins to spiral out of control. 08:10.58 Priscilla Horton because the actual thought itself had no deeper meaning than the thought itself, right? But we put the depth in it, because we we create all of the emotions that come with that. And so you may be able to think of, you know, scenarios that you've played out in your head. 08:29.40 Priscilla Horton And it just continues to spiral over and over and over until you like, you know, got your fists clenched up and, and, you know, you're wearing the anger on your face and your blood is boiling and your heart is pounding. 08:45.83 Priscilla Horton This is what we can do when we think too much about the single thought that is in our head. 08:58.04 Priscilla Horton And now we can do the same thing with positive thoughts as well. 09:05.04 Priscilla Horton That's why meditation is so great and so important because it causes us to to visualize the life that we want, visualize the person that we desire to be, visualize what success looks like for us, what a healthy relationship looks like for us, what a healthy lifestyle looks like for us. 09:23.18 Priscilla Horton And we can create these stories which create the feelings and the emotions when we think about it a lot. 09:43.56 Priscilla Horton So after I listened to this book, I and did it on Audible, which I love. I was actually snowblowing and got through quite a bit of it. 09:58.70 Priscilla Horton But as i was even listening to this book, these thoughts were popping into my head. And I would pause and ask myself, is this a thought? or Am I thinking? 10:15.77 Priscilla Horton Am I overthinking? 10:18.95 Priscilla Horton I hear people say all the time, I'm i'm an overthinker. I'm an overthinker. Well, let's be careful about what you're speaking on your life. 10:30.95 Priscilla Horton Because when you attach an I am to the front of anything, you live up to that standard. So I want to remind you how powerful your words are. 10:44.54 Priscilla Horton So I was, ever since I read it or listened to it, i have been trying to be very aware in my mind of identifying, am i am i dwelling? Like, am i am i actually 11:03.34 Priscilla Horton thinking too much about this? And it actually happened to me over the weekend. I started to kind of get into my head about some things and I had to, um it took me a little bit to realize it and what was happening. And then I was reminded of this book again. And I'm like, I have so much more power than even realize. 11:25.94 Priscilla Horton So I identified it and I was, I started to shift that story that I was telling myself because we have the power to do that. 11:44.48 Priscilla Horton The author also suggests that treating, if you continue to three, they all 12:06.11 Priscilla Horton we can notice the thoughts, but don't hold onto them. 12:12.31 Priscilla Horton And like I said, meditation or mindfulness can help in this area. My daughter even came up to me the other night and she was asking about meditation. And I was telling her, this is a time where we get to really see our thoughts as those clouds. 12:32.75 Priscilla Horton And we get to have that control and learn how to master our thoughts and our thinking. 12:46.64 Priscilla Horton Something that you might be able to practice um in the weeks to come and the days to come is is that awareness. Instead of engaging with your thoughts, practice being ah an observer. 13:00.87 Priscilla Horton You know, how many of you like to people watch, right? We're the observer. at restaurants, sometimes we just sit and we'll kind of people watch. Or when we're at theme parks or whatever. Sometimes it's just we watch, right? 13:19.17 Priscilla Horton But we can do the same, we can have the same awareness and we can be observers of our own thoughts. 13:35.12 Priscilla Horton It is your true self that is noticing a thought, not the thought itself. 13:48.69 Priscilla Horton And this is something that was also in the book that I have spoke about ah ah couple years ago, maybe three years ago, about the power of questioning the thoughts that come into your head. 14:05.12 Priscilla Horton Is it true? 14:11.64 Priscilla Horton More often than not, and this is what was cool that he described, is that it's really just a passing perspective. Isn't that cool like to think about? It's all these little thought clouds going by. They're just passing perspectives. 14:34.19 Priscilla Horton It's not an ultimate truth. 14:37.87 Priscilla Horton And that is a very, very helpful way to see our thoughts. 14:47.72 Priscilla Horton So next time you're caught up in overthinking, write down the original thought. Where did it stem from? What was it? 15:00.90 Priscilla Horton And then write down the story that your mind created around it. How long did that take? Because oftentimes it doesn't take very long. 15:11.31 Priscilla Horton And then challenge yourself to really let go the story And return back to that neutral thought. This was pretty cool for me to practice this past week. 15:26.17 Priscilla Horton I'm actually quite fascinated by it. I'm fascinated by anything mind related. um i think it's just so incredible that our brain has so much power. 15:38.37 Priscilla Horton And we can use it for our advantage. 15:42.92 Priscilla Horton But oftentimes people don't. 15:49.41 Priscilla Horton So maybe practice this a little bit. 16:10.34 Priscilla Horton Three of my favorite takeaways from the book that just really stood out to me were that your thoughts are not reality. They're just fleeting events in the mind. 16:24.29 Priscilla Horton They are not facts. They are not your truth. 16:30.02 Priscilla Horton They are one single thought. We are the ones that make the stories. 16:41.36 Priscilla Horton You are not your thoughts. You are the awareness behind them and the observer of your mind. I thought that was so cool. 16:54.94 Priscilla Horton An inner peace comes from detachment. I have worked on detaching myself from people and things and ideas and beliefs and all kinds of stuff for the past handful of years. 17:09.64 Priscilla Horton And This is a cool new concept of doing this with our thoughts. The less that we engage with those thoughts and the less that we believe those thoughts, the more peaceful that our minds become. 17:27.41 Priscilla Horton And who wants a peaceful mind? i do. i want to be at peace. I want to sleep in peace. 17:38.03 Priscilla Horton i want to rest when I'm home. i'm home I want to be detached from things that are out of my control. i want to stop doing a job of making up stories that aren't even true. 18:02.03 Priscilla Horton So I wanted to offer a reflective journaling prompt. 18:09.64 Priscilla Horton for all of you. um Journaling prompts have kind of been ah fun, like more recent thing that I've been doing just because it's, if you want to get some thoughts out, sometimes we need a little something to help spark that creativity in our minds. And so I've just really appreciated journaling prompts. So if you would like to do this, 18:35.87 Priscilla Horton The journaling prompt would be what's one reoccurring thought that you have been overthinking. Take some time to write it down and then even ask yourself, what's the story I've been telling myself about this thought? 18:54.10 Priscilla Horton And how would it feel to let that story go? remember remember everything that you've learned here about it, go back, go and listen to the audio book, read it. It's just a real short listen, short read, wonderful, wonderfully written. 19:20.58 Priscilla Horton And so helpful. It's such a great guide to help us to overcome a lot of our own mental suffering. 19:33.71 Priscilla Horton So just a quick recap here. The difference between a thought and thinking 19:41.77 Priscilla Horton is pretty subtle, but powerful. But by learning to observe your thoughts instead of identifying with them, you can free yourself from unnecessary suffering and live with more peace and clarity in your life. Can I get an amen? We all desire that. 20:02.96 Priscilla Horton We all want to be at peace. 20:07.55 Priscilla Horton We all want to not have any more unnecessary suffering in our life. 20:22.67 Priscilla Horton I would love to hear what your biggest takeaway was. And if you decide to read the book, also let me know, like, what was it that really stood out to you? I think the whole thing is fascinating. 20:33.83 Priscilla Horton i would love to hear your thoughts on it. You can DM me ah or share in the comments. 20:43.70 Priscilla Horton You can DM me on Instagram. You can email me at PriscillaHortonCoaching.com. 20:53.00 Priscilla Horton No. 20:55.38 Priscilla Horton Priscilla Horton Coaching at Gmail. 21:10.78 Priscilla Horton I invite you to go deeper with this. 21:15.48 Priscilla Horton Explore ideas 21:19.25 Priscilla Horton on how you can improve this, how you can 21:24.94 Priscilla Horton Utilize this in your own life. How you can challenge those thoughts. 21:33.80 Priscilla Horton How you can challenge your thinking. 21:42.09 Priscilla Horton I know this was a quicker episode, but I wanted to share this book so bad with you. this was supposed to go out last week. So there will be two episodes this week. 21:53.43 Priscilla Horton So stay tuned 21:59.10 Priscilla Horton for the next one And remember, you're not your thoughts. You are the winner awareness behind it. You are infinite and free. 22:15.46 Priscilla Horton Free to think what you desire to think. 22:21.59 Priscilla Horton And believe what you desire to believe. 22:26.71 Priscilla Horton Have a beautiful week, everyone. We'll catch you next time.  

Podcast Episode: Creating the Life You Desire: A Life by Design, Not Escape 00:02.45 Priscilla Horton Have you ever felt like you were just surviving instead of living? Maybe you catch yourself fantasizing about escaping your life. Maybe it's quitting your job, running away to an island, or hitting reset just to start all over again. But what if the goal isn't to escape your current life? What if the real goal is to build the one that you want 00:32.24 Priscilla Horton What if the real goal is to build one you don't want to escape from? Today we're talking about it. We're talking about creating a life by design, not default. A life that really feels intentional and aligned and fulfilling. This isn't about waiting for the right time or the perfect circumstances. This is about making the decision that your life as it is right now, 01:02.13 Priscilla Horton is something that you have the power to shape. So let's and dive in. 01:14.78 Priscilla Horton I feel like there's this myth of escaping versus the power of designing. When I first got into real estate years ago, they talked a lot about creating the life that you want to be in. And they would always refer to the life by design, live a life by design. And I didn't understand it for the longest time until one day it just clicked. And realizing that we have the power to create so much of what we experience in the future is mind blowing. 02:00.70 Priscilla Horton when you realize that you can shape your future, that you can create a life that you want to live in, it's a game changer. 02:16.05 Priscilla Horton I feel like there is this illusion of escape. So many of us think that we need to completely escape our lives to be happy, right? If it was, if we only had this, if we only had that, 02:31.20 Priscilla Horton It looks better on the other side. 02:35.94 Priscilla Horton We imagine if we could just be somewhere new or have a new relationship with someone that things would change for us. If we just left certain people behind or we landed that dream job or got what we wanted, everything would magically fall into place. 03:01.66 Priscilla Horton I feel like we've all lived this illusion, right? When we're struggling, when we're feeling a little down on ourselves, those thoughts start to creep in and this illusion of a life that could happen if we left all of this here or if we were there or if we only had this relationship. But escape, 03:31.57 Priscilla Horton is often just a temporary relief from a deeper problem. If we don't address the root, like our mindset, our habits, our beliefs, then we will create the same patterns wherever we go. So if your relationship sucks right now, instead of focusing on the deeper problem, oftentimes it's a much easier thought for us to jump ship, get into another relationship, then the same thing happens. And we, we continue to create this same life that we don't want to live because we're chasing a feeling instead of figuring out the solution to this deeper problem. 04:29.36 Priscilla Horton we just get deeper and deeper into this problem. So do you see that illusion that takes place and happens when, um 04:58.50 Priscilla Horton um, 05:03.58 Priscilla Horton So do you see that illusion? you you might be able to even You might be able to even think about the illusions that you've bought into. I know I have my own. 05:23.10 Priscilla Horton And here's the truth about a life by design. It means that you're not running from something. 05:32.89 Priscilla Horton but you're intentionally creating something better for yourself, for your future. 05:44.68 Priscilla Horton Living a life by design, it means that you're taking ownership of what you want and making conscious choices, even in the small things, even in those everyday moments. 06:02.27 Priscilla Horton You're owning yourself. You're choosing wisely. It's amazing actually how many choices that we make in a day. But we're also making these subconscious choices that can you know lead us back to that illusion, right? 06:31.10 Priscilla Horton So in the same way, we can create these conscious choices that become our subconscious later on so that we're just always choosing wisely. 06:48.84 Priscilla Horton So let me ask you, when you think about your ideal life, are you running toward something meaningful Or are you just running away from something painful? Are you trying to escape your life? If you've ever said any of those things, I just want to be stranded on an island. I just want to go where nobody knows me. 07:25.66 Priscilla Horton then you may be in that, that illusion and you're running from something that's painful. That's, I want you to know that that is a normal brain function though. Okay. Our brain is protecting us and, and does want us to escape pain. So we will pay lots of money to be out of pain. 07:52.68 Priscilla Horton Right? Nobody wants to feel pain. So we think of all of the things that we could do to keep us from pain or to get us out of pain and running away from it is one of those things. 08:23.59 Priscilla Horton So let's talk about this life that you love. This is life that you've designed and you actually want to live. You know, I've said this before, I look around and it just seems like there's dead dead men walking everywhere. And it's because people aren't truly living. They're stuck. 08:49.14 Priscilla Horton They're stuck in this illusion. They're stuck in their fears. They're stuck in complacency. They're stuck in just accepting life as it is and not realizing that they actually have the power to create the life that they love living. 09:11.54 Priscilla Horton And this has been a wake-up call for myself. You know, I was the product of my own suffering for years. I lived out these illusions. I used to tell myself these lies of if I just could go here, if I could just, and I can't tell you how many times I said, I just want to move. I just want to move away from here because I was like, it's a clean slate. It felt like a clean slate. I could start over again, but guess what? I knew when I thought about it, 09:46.55 Priscilla Horton Nothing would change because I hadn't changed. I would continue to take everything that I was then into the new place, the new spaces, the new relationships, the new job, whatever I went into at the time. 10:09.39 Priscilla Horton And 10:13.48 Priscilla Horton I would again be creating a life that I didn't want to live. 10:24.48 Priscilla Horton So one of the first steps that I believe that we can take in creating this life that this life by design is to get crystal clear on what you want. That is something that I did at the beginning of the year, this year, and I've done it for the past few years. Get crystal clear, write it down. What life do you want to live? How do you want to feel every day? What does that look like? What would you be doing? What would your perfect day look like? 11:04.33 Priscilla Horton You see, what happens is many of us know exactly what we don't want. But when someone asks you what you truly want, you'll hesitate. Oh, that's a really good question. I've never considered it. I don't know. 11:31.01 Priscilla Horton So what do you truly want? I think this this actually takes quite a bit of time to consider it because It's much easier for us to focus on our lack. It's more easy for us to focus on the things that we don't want. 11:52.37 Priscilla Horton So we'll just continue through life, staying away and staying clear of all the things we don't want, but what are we running to? This is just us avoiding. This is this is us running away from, but what are we running to? 12:13.75 Priscilla Horton Ask yourself if there were no limits right now, no fear and no guilt and no shoulds. What would your dream life look like? 12:32.83 Priscilla Horton Even close your eyes if you have to. What does this dream life look like? Are the people that are currently in your life there in that dream life of yours? 12:45.27 Priscilla Horton If not, I think that you should probably be questioning some things. 12:57.31 Priscilla Horton What does your ideal day look like? How do you feel when you wake up? What kind of work do you do? How do you take care of yourself? What do you eat? You cannot create a life it 13:15.74 Priscilla Horton without a design. 13:20.53 Priscilla Horton A builder does not just start building a house for somebody based on what's in his head. He sits down with the client and starts creating this design for this home, this dream home that these people want. 13:43.23 Priscilla Horton a design has to be put in place. So every day you are actually designing your life and you don't even realize it. I asked a question on my Instagram page on Groundhog Day because I love Groundhog Day. It has just been such a a neat holiday for me. And I, my first podcast was about Groundhog Day, my own personal Groundhog Day. But the question was, is if you had to live today on repeat. So you had your own Groundhog Day. So this day right now, if you had to live in on repeat, would you change it? 14:39.58 Priscilla Horton Would you love it or would you change it? And everyone except one person said that they would change it. And why is that? Because most of us are living a life by someone else's design. 15:08.72 Priscilla Horton You wake up. think thinking the thoughts that you wake up in autopilot, you go about your day and it's the same mundane thing all the time. 15:37.10 Priscilla Horton So here's an action step that you can actually take right now, if you want to, ah write down, I encourage you to write down one thing that you would change right now if you had the power to. 15:55.23 Priscilla Horton And then when you write that down, I want you to tell yourself, I have the power to do this, because you do. You actually have the power 16:09.32 Priscilla Horton to change things for yourself right now. 16:21.49 Priscilla Horton Another important step in creating the light the life that you desire to live is to rewire your brain around what's possible. 16:39.44 Priscilla Horton Many of us don't even pursue, many people, 16:48.83 Priscilla Horton if you've ever read the book, The Five Most Regrets of the Dying, if you haven't, I encourage you to read it, but if you have and you know, most people, 17:09.59 Priscilla Horton go to their deathbed, not living the life that they desired to live. 17:19.46 Priscilla Horton Most people do not pursue the life that they want because they've already told themselves that it's not possible, that it's not in the cards for them. 17:36.94 Priscilla Horton Think about some of the common limiting beliefs. Maybe even you have around pursuing this life that you want. Maybe, maybe it's selfish. Maybe you feel like it's selfish. Maybe you really feel like that you're not qualified. You don't have enough time that it's too late for you. 18:02.74 Priscilla Horton All of those things are holding you back. They are keeping you 18:09.42 Priscilla Horton from living an incredible life. And that is always sad to me. I literally get so heartbroken when I see somebody go to their death bed, not living the life that they dreamed of. 18:32.87 Priscilla Horton And actually this morning, 18:37.45 Priscilla Horton I had some heartbreaking news that one of my aunts had passed away. And this is an aunt that I was close to for for a very long time who had helped me get through a lot of pain and rejection that I felt for a long time. She came in and she, she saw me. 19:07.57 Priscilla Horton She understood me. She poured into me. And what saddens me about the whole thing is that she didn't get to live the life that she dreamed of. And I see this over and over and over again in people's lives. 19:35.62 Priscilla Horton I check in with myself quite often. Am I living the life that I desire? I know that I'm not. Now, did I dream of this over what I had even five years ago? Absolutely. I'm doing much better than I i was eight years ago. I'm in a completely different place in my mindset. Eight years ago, I wouldn't have been podcasting. Eight years ago, I wouldn't have been creating programs and 20:08.33 Priscilla Horton challenges for other women. 20:16.14 Priscilla Horton Because I didn't think I knew enough. And I still don't think I know enough. But here's the thing is I've reframed it. I don't let that thought stop me anymore because I know that when it does, I'm not truly living. 20:35.04 Priscilla Horton So reframe whatever those limiting beliefs are that keep coming up, that keep telling you that you are not capable of living a life by design. Catch yourself when you say things like, I can't. 20:56.40 Priscilla Horton Or it's just not possible. 21:10.74 Priscilla Horton And step number three in creating this life by design is to start small and take action to today. A life by design doesn't require you to change everything or overhaul everything in one night. That's not possible. 21:38.81 Priscilla Horton It really starts with small choices. One of my favorite books is The Compound Effect and by Darren Hardy, and he talks so much about the small things that we do every day, the the habits that we do every day over time, compounds, and it becomes who we are and what we do. 22:13.97 Priscilla Horton You know, part of when I was in Oregon, I think this was back in 2019, I went to this tower, super tall. I forgot how many steps, like, I don't know, 200, maybe more steps. But I just remember looking at this tower, like standing at the bottom of it before we went in and started to climb. And I was just like, oh my gosh, am I going to be able to do this? And I did it. And how did I do that? One step at a time, right? 22:54.93 Priscilla Horton I'm sitting here and I'm looking at one of my quotes from February 3rd and it reads, a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. How fitting that that was still open as I'm recording this podcast. How cool. It really does. Don't look at the, the bigger picture when we see it is only for us to 23:25.04 Priscilla Horton to see what we need to do to make that dream happen. And then other than that, we are looking at the steps, the habits, the little things that are going to get us there. So it starts with all these small choices. 23:44.93 Priscilla Horton So what can you do today? 23:50.81 Priscilla Horton If you want a healthier lifestyle, what can you change about your current lifestyle, your current health today? Maybe it's drinking one less soda. Maybe it's five minutes of movement today. 24:10.01 Priscilla Horton If you want to have your own business, work for yourself. Research one step that you could take in that direction today. Learn more about what that skill is. 24:24.55 Priscilla Horton If you want to live a more happier, fulfilling life, then maybe that's listing a few things that you're grateful for right now. Maybe it's pointing out some of your favorite qualities about yourself. 24:48.37 Priscilla Horton And I'm just going to drop the biggest truth bomb right now. 24:55.65 Priscilla Horton You don't need to wait for permission to start creating your dream life. The first step right now is deciding that it's possible, that it's possible for you, that it can be done, that you hold the power, that you have everything you need inside of you. You don't need permission. You don't need a perfect opportunity. You don't need the perfect timing. 25:25.21 Priscilla Horton You can start designing this life right now. 25:32.35 Priscilla Horton Go to pen and paper. Start writing the blueprint for this life that you desire to live. 25:56.78 Priscilla Horton I know a quote that has been out and it's a really hard one to swallow because our brain always wants us to have an excuse. And the quote is, and in hear me out, like you're gonna, you may have your own feelings toward this, but I do believe this wholeheartedly that what we're not changing we are choosing, plain and simple. What you're not changing, you are choosing. 26:40.18 Priscilla Horton You have so much power in your court. 27:07.73 Priscilla Horton Think about your own life right now. Maybe you are feeling stuck. You're feeling like escaping. 27:25.36 Priscilla Horton You didn't listen to this episode by chance. 27:37.89 Priscilla Horton It's time to start designing the life that you don't feel like you want to escape from, but a life that you want to live. 28:04.07 Priscilla Horton Like I said earlier, I, when I first heard this concept in real estate and they talked about it for so long, I was, I just felt stuck. I didn't understand it. What do you mean? I can't design this life without a bunch of money. And see that's, that's seen the whole staircase instead of the steps. 28:38.68 Priscilla Horton And so when it dawned on me, when I had gone through some mindset work and it had dawned on me, oh my gosh, I totally missed the whole purpose of what they were saying. It was my decisions, the decisions that I was making every day, the way that I was getting up, the thing the things that I was choosing to spend time on, all of those things, 29:09.07 Priscilla Horton We're creating a life, whether good or bad. And I'll tell you, I was creating a life I really didn't want to be in. 29:27.52 Priscilla Horton The cool thing about mindset is that we can shift it. That the cool thing about the brain is that we can rewire it. Are we willing to do it? Are you willing to do it? 29:39.53 Priscilla Horton Are you willing right now to say yes to your future, yes to you, yes to this life that you desire to live? 29:58.69 Priscilla Horton This starts with the belief. What do we believe that we're able to do? 30:09.11 Priscilla Horton And it starts with those small steps, those small changes, those bite-sized pieces that become the whole design, that become the whole house, that become the whole life. 30:34.78 Priscilla Horton You see, think of somebody right now who inspires you. It could be an actor, it could be a podcaster, it could be a friend, it could be a family member, someone that you go to church with, somebody that you work with. What is it about their life that you love? 30:55.13 Priscilla Horton I want you to know that if it's possible for them, it is possible for you. There is nothing more special 31:08.80 Priscilla Horton about them than you. Don't buy into that lie. The problem is is that most people don't want to take action. They don't want to put in the hard work because it is work. It is work to create the life that you want to live in. 31:34.97 Priscilla Horton But wouldn't you rather spend the next two years creating that life and live the rest of your life in a life that you enjoy? Or would you rather not do anything and live the rest of your life miserable, feeling like you're lacking something? 31:54.92 Priscilla Horton I know that I don't want to give up on my dreams. I don't want to give up on this life that I desire to live. 32:07.14 Priscilla Horton And so every day, whatever that means for me, instead of going to the TV, I'm gonna put in some work. I'm gonna pour into myself. I'm gonna figure out a couple of steps that I need to move forward. 32:34.67 Priscilla Horton You are not meant to live a life that feels like a constant cycle of burnout and frustration or waiting for the weekend. You know, you hear people say like, thank God it's Friday. And then Monday comes and it's like, Monday sucks. Well, that's a mindset issue. Nobody wants to live that life, that that constant cycle. 33:02.02 Priscilla Horton You are meant to build a life that excites you, that fulfills you and gives you purpose every single day. And the best part of it is that you get to choose. You get to choose. 33:20.72 Priscilla Horton I hope you all got so much out of this episode and it resonated with you. If this is the case, I would love to hear from you. Take a screenshot and tag me on it on Instagram at Priscilla Horton Coaching. I would love to see how this has impacted you. 33:48.88 Priscilla Horton And if you haven't yet, make sure you hit subscribe so you don't miss the next episode. Also, I appreciate reviews. I would love to have a star rating and a review if that feels good to you. But until next time, remember that you are not here to escape your life. You're here to build one that you love.  

Living a weightless life is something I think we're all after.  We don't want to carry things that we don't need to.  In this episode we dive into the weight we carry that is our choice to carry or put down.  

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Confirmation Bias is the tendency to seek out, interpret, and remember information that confirms what we already believe.  In other words, we pay more attention to things that back up our views, and we conveniently ignore anything that challenges them.  This bias can affect everything-from the decisions we make in our daily lives, to how we interact with people who have different perspectives.    

Release the Holiday guilt:  One Day won't derail your progress   Happy Thanksgiving!  Wherever you're at and whomever you spend it with, enjoy it.  Fully enjoy it.    I'm sure we're all in shock that the holidays are upon us already.  While they are a time for connection and joy, they can also bring up a lot of guilt and shame around food and fitness.   Letting go of guilt around enjoying holiday meals and the truth about falling off track for one day.    We're diving into how to approach the holiday season with grace and confidence-because you deserve to enjoy it.   Truth about 1 day: There is not a single meal, day or even 1 week that will change your body.  Whether it's weight gain or loss, it's consistency over time that matters.   “I shouldn't eat this, I'll need to work this off tomorrow, ugh I”ve ruined everything.    I used to have this kind of guilt, especially when I knew that I hadn't been very active or health conscious that year.  It's like we think that we have to punish or shame ourself during the holidays for the things we didn't accomplish during the year.  Like-wises, you may be one who has made great health choices and has stayed active and you see the holidays as something that has to be earned.  Or perhaps it's a no-go all together because you don't want to fall off track.  I have been all of these scenarios because I think the most common trip to take as a human is a guilt trip.  No matter what we do or don't do, guilt seems to show up at our events.    Again, there isn't a single meal that is going to make things better or worse for you.  It' is consistency.  Weight fluctuations after a big meal are temporary and mostly due to water retention, sodium and digestion-NOT fat.  I was reading that it takes roughly 3,500 extra calories to gain a single pound.  Most thanksgiving meals won't even come close to that.  This should comfort you a little.    Now, when we continue to eat like this daily, it will compound over time and our weight will increase.  Like-wise, if this is occasional and you make health conscious choices the majority of the year you will maintain a healthy lifestyle.  Long term habits, NOT one-day choices, dictate progress. Think of your health like a marathon.  One mile doesn't define the whole race.    Your body is resilient and adaptable.  It's designed to handle the occasional indulgence-it's what you do most of the time that shapes your results.      What guilt does:  Let go of the guilt:  Guilt doesn't encourage sustainable behavior change.  It' only steals the enjoyment when you're eating what you were going to eat anyway.  This just fuels the eat-repent-repeat cycle.  This isn't to say that you won't occasionally regret the choices you make. Drain mental energy, taking away from moments that are meant to be joyful.  You're not just ruining the meal-you're also missing out on the memories and connection that come with it.   Guilt leads to a negative spiral:  Overeating>guilt>restriction>overeating again.   I was on a very restrictive diet due to some blood work that showed various food proteins in it.  I went all in with it and it just wore on me.  I noticed I kept saying “I can't” every time there was a food in front of me that was on the “no” list.  Well, what happens when we only tell kids no??  They want to rebel because it seems like everything is off limits.  They may as well shake things up a bit.  That's how I felt.  So when I would finally give in, I would feel like a failure after.  The restriction to me felt like pain or punishment.  But then I would punish myself with guilt after I ate things deemed off limits to me.  You see, guilt turns food into an emotional enemy instead of a source of nourishment or joy.   Reframing guilt:  Shift the focus from punishment to self-compassion.  Guilt doesn't change the past.  What it does is rob you of joy in the present, with those you love.  You are more than what you eat.  Your worth isn't tied to how much pie you enjoy. Would you want your kids or loved ones to feel bad for enjoying a holiday meal?  Then why would you do that to yourself? Here's what I encourage you to do to let go of guilt.  Mindful eating:  Slow down during meals.  Take smaller bites, chew slowly, and savor the flavors. Tune into fullness cues:  Am I enjoying this bite as much as the first?  I know for me, if I get too full I feel terrible.  It can actually make me feel tired, drug out, heart pounds, makes me feel anxious etc.  Same with eating too much sugar.  I think about how I will feel but don't limit myself anymore.    Stop thinking that you are going to have to work your meal off, instead realize that this is a part of a balanced lifestyle.  Focus on connection instead of food.  “I will enjoy my favorite foods guilt-free and focus on connection.     If guilt starts to creep in, take a moment to breathe and assess your thoughts.  Pause, take a deep breath and observe what you're feeling without judgement.  Acknowledge that our food choices do not define your self-worth.  By reframing your mindset, you can celebrate with peace and release unnecessary guilt.      This holiday meal is not something that you have to earn.  It's not a cheat day, it's part of the balanced plan.  You're allowed to enjoy food without earning it.    Remind yourself that this ONE day.  You're allowed to nourish not just your body but your soul.    Avoid the punishment workouts the next day.  If you have been in this guilt cycle, I see you.  I've been there too.  I'm here to remind you-it doesn't have to be this way   As I wrap up this holiday episode, I want to remind you that health is a long-term journey, and holidays are a small and important part of it.  One day of indulgence isn't a setback; it's a chance to celebrate life, family and all your hard work.    Enjoy your meal mindfully Ditch the guilt-it serves no other purpose than to make you feel like garbage.  Return to your routine the next day with grace, not punishment.   I encourage you to spend some time reflecting on what you're thankful for Share your favorite part of this episode on social media or tag me in your holiday post.  Would love to hear how this episode or any other episode has impacted you.    This Thanksgiving, let's choose joy, connection, and freedom over guilt.  You deserve it. 

Having and enforcing boundaries can be so challenging during the holidays.  So many people dread the holidays for numerous reasons that can oftentimes be prevented by just putting the right boundaries in place.   Boundaries are limits you set to protect your time, energy, and emotional well-being.  They're not about shutting people out.  They're about letting people know how they can engage with you in a healthy way.     During the holidays so many people and things seem to demand our time.  Christmas parties, family gatherings, church events, school programs........No wonder people dread them so much.  What if there was a way to create a more joyful holiday for you?   There is.. Boundaries!   When you feel obligated to attend every party, dinner or event that comes your way, what happens after is your choice.  We have many options throughout our day, and we get to decide which ones are priorities and which ones we will need to pass on.  It's important to prioritize the people and things that really matter to you.  "I really appreciate the offer, but i'm keeping my schedule lighter this year for my own sanity.  Thank you for understanding."   What about family guilt??  Noone takes you on the biggest trip like a family guilt trip, right?  They have these big expectations of you, or they shame you for saying no.  This is where you have to stand firm.  You can still be kind and firm at the same time.  Acknowledge their feelings, of course, but be firm.  "I hear that you're disappointed we won't be staying the whole week, but this is what works best for us."   Here's another......So many financial expectations.  Feeling pressured to overspend on gifts or activities, charities etc.  Don't want to leave anyone out so you keep getting gifts for anyone you may come in contact with during the holidays so you don't look bad.  "We're focusing on meaningful gifts this year rather than expensive ones.  I hope that's okay!"  Or "I'll be attending but going to skip out on the gift exchange or secret santa this time. "     Say you decide to attend.  There is always that one person that seems to open their big mouth and offer unsolicited opinions or criticism.  They may comment on your life choices, parenting, body, etc.  "I'm not comfortable discussing this topic.  Let's focus on enjoying our time together instead."   Helpful tips: Don't forget to make yourself a priority during the holidays.  Workout.  Do some things that bring peace, fun and enjoyment to you.   Write down non-negotiables and stick with them. Communicate early on and directly to those this will effect.  Use "I" statements such as " I feel overwhelmed when my schedule is packed, so i'll need to skip this event." Stay firm but compassionate:  "I've already made my decision."  "I understand this is difficult for you, but this is what's best for me."  

  Do you ever feel like there is this invisible force keeping you from accomplishing the things you desire to accomplish?  Do you start to doubt yourself when a new idea comes to mind?  What about freezing up when you get ready to step out of your comfort zone?  limiting beliefs. These are the subconscious stories we tell ourselves about who we are and what we're capable of—and they often hold us back more than any external obstacle could. So, if you've ever felt stuck, overwhelmed, or convinced that ‘this is just the way things are,' stick around. We're going to uncover where these beliefs come from, common ones that might be affecting you, and powerful strategies to break free from them and start embracing a growth-focused mindset.   What Are Limiting Beliefs? Limiting beliefs are assumptions or ideas we hold about ourselves and our potential. These beliefs shape our perception of what's possible, and they often aren't even based on actual experiences. Instead, they come from what we've internalized from society, family, or past experiences. According to a study by the National Science Foundation, about 80% of our thoughts are negative. So, it's not surprising that many of us have self-limiting beliefs that keep us from achieving our true potential. Quote: “Whether you think you can, or you think you can't—you're right.” - Henry Ford Examples of Limiting Beliefs: “I'm not good enough.” “People like me don't succeed.” “I can't handle rejection.” “I'll never be able to make a lasting change.”   Where Do Limiting Beliefs Come From? These beliefs often start early. A parent's well-meaning advice, a teacher's casual criticism, or a moment of failure can all plant seeds of self-doubt. Limiting beliefs can also be reinforced by social norms or cultural expectations. For example, if society constantly tells women that they have to ‘choose' between a career and a family, it's easy to internalize the belief that they can't successfully have both. These subtle messages create a mental framework that can be very hard to escape. Stat: According to a survey by Dove, only 4% of women globally consider themselves beautiful. Imagine the impact of such a limiting belief on self-worth and confidence.   Common Limiting Beliefs and Their Impact Let's take a look at some of the most common limiting beliefs. See if any of these resonate with you: “I'm not talented/smart/experienced enough.” This belief creates a fixed mindset, which makes it harder to take on new challenges. Studies show that people with a fixed mindset are more likely to give up in the face of obstacles. “I don't have enough time/money/resources.” This belief keeps us from even trying. We assume that success requires the ‘perfect conditions,' which often aren't realistic. “I've always been this way.” This belief can be incredibly disempowering. Believing that change is impossible keeps you from ever stepping out of your comfort zone. “I'll fail, so why even try?” Fear of failure is one of the most paralyzing limiting beliefs. However, research shows that failure is an essential part of growth—people who fail frequently tend to develop more resilience and achieve long-term success.   Shifting from Limiting Beliefs to a Growth-Focused Mindset Now that we know what limiting beliefs are, let's talk about how to overcome them. Here are some steps that can help you shift from a limiting mindset to a growth-focused one. Awareness and Recognition Start by identifying your limiting beliefs. Try journaling to pinpoint recurring negative thoughts. Ask yourself: ‘What stories do I tell myself about my abilities and potential?' Recognizing these thoughts is half the battle. Once you're aware, you can challenge them instead of accepting them as facts. Question Your Beliefs Take one limiting belief and ask yourself: ‘Is this really true?' For example, if you believe “I'm not good at speaking in public,” ask if there's any evidence supporting that belief. Think of counterexamples where you succeeded or improved over time. This process of ‘debunking' helps you see your beliefs in a new light. Quote: “If you hear a voice within you say ‘you cannot paint,' then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced.” - Vincent Van Gogh Replace Negative Beliefs with Positive Ones After challenging a limiting belief, replace it with an empowering one. Instead of “I'm not good enough,” try, “I'm a work in progress, and I'm improving every day.” Psychologists call this “cognitive restructuring,” and it's a proven way to rewire the brain for a growth mindset. Visualization and Affirmations Studies have shown that visualization can improve motivation, coordination, and even actual performance. Visualize yourself succeeding and embodying the growth-focused mindset you want. Affirmations can also help. For instance, saying “I am capable of change, and I welcome challenges” daily can reshape how you think about yourself over time. Surround Yourself with Positivity Surrounding yourself with supportive people can significantly impact your mindset. If possible, seek out friends, mentors, or a coach who can encourage you to stay on the growth-focused path. According to research by social psychologist Dr. David McClelland, the people you spend the most time with can significantly influence your mindset and behaviors. Take Small, Consistent Action The best way to break a limiting belief is through action. Start with small, manageable steps that challenge your belief. If you think you're “not athletic,” start with a short workout every day, and gradually increase your activity. Small wins will reinforce the belief that change is possible.    Real-Life Examples and Success Stories Let me share a quick story. One of my clients came to me believing she could never stick to a workout routine because she ‘never had before.' She'd tried everything, but her belief that she was ‘inconsistent' kept sabotaging her. We worked together to reframe that belief, focusing on small, achievable wins. Today, she's not only consistent with her fitness routine, but she's also taken that new sense of resilience into other areas of her life.   The Power of Breaking Free So, here's the takeaway: Limiting beliefs might feel like facts, but they're simply stories we've told ourselves for too long. By identifying, questioning, and reframing them, we open ourselves up to a world of possibility. Imagine what your life could look like if you truly believed that you were capable of anything you set your mind to.  

Have you ever thought about the things you tolerate in your life?  Perhaps it's disrespective, people overstepping your boundaries.  Maybe it's that you tolerate your own excuses, negative self-talk.     What if, instead of, tolerating negative things, you learned to tolerate good things.  Things like more joy, compassion, self-love, good energy, love, acceptance, belonging??     This impacts your mindset and your confidence.  How often do you just receive a compliment?  How often do you receive joy without turning around and self-sabotaging yourself? Practical Ways to Begin Tolerating More Good   • Evaluate Relationships: Surround yourself with people who uplift and inspire you. Choose to tolerate friends and colleagues who push you toward growth, not those who hold you back or drain your energy.  You'll discover that the more that you grow, the more your sphere begins to change.  Better quality relationships begin to happen. • Self-Care as a Priority: Replace “bare minimum” self-care with practices that genuinely nourish you. Eat foods that make you feel vibrant, exercise for mental clarity, and sleep in a way that recharges you fully. • Setting Boundaries Around Positivity: It's okay to say no to people or situations that don't align with your vision. Choose to tolerate more positivity and make space for it by removing what doesn't serve you.   It's time to step into this abundant life that awaits you.  You just have to be open to receive.  Do you have your receiver on?      

The courage to pave a new way:  Breaking free from the old patterns of life to embrace your true path Sticking to a familiar path is comfortable and safe right?  This is the very reason that most people will remain stuck their entire life because it takes courage to go toward the unfamiliar.  This is unfortunately a big reason why many people stay in abusive homes.  I heard a young teenager, who was in an abusive relationship tell me that she stays because she believed she wouldn't ever find anyone else that would like her.  There are homes that are conditioned to believe that you must be controlled in order to enter into the kingdom of God.  Homes where manipulation is king of the household.   Then there are the homes where no-one ever took care of their health so it seems easier to continue eating unhealthy so you and deal with the damage that occurs as it comes.  There are so many examples of how our human nature is to stay with what's familiar even if it's bad for us.      If you look closely, I'm sure you will see similar patterns in your life.  Family paths you have been walking down because it's all you know and familiar seems easier than plowing a new path.  Trust me, I get it. Limiting beliefs and fear of failure can paralyze us, keeping us from pursuing what truly lights us up.  Fearing how relationships may be affected by our transformation can keep us stuck. It's like being afraid of leaving a sinking ship, even when you know there's solid land waiting for you.  Deep down, we often know when it's time to break away and evolve but we ignore it out of fear.     When the pain of staying on the familiar path becomes greater than plowing a new one, that's when freedom takes it's course.  That's when big things begin to transpire.  This is that awaking moment that we get.  Instead of being willing to plow before all of that happens we have to feel enough pain to want to get out of it in order for us to take action. Perhaps, you are the one in your family or home that had the courage to plow a new path.  Congratulations!  It's not easy.  But it's much easier than staying where you were.  There may be some of you that are desiring for generational traumas in your family to end with you. Maybe you keep feeling that nudge to put your hands to the plow but you've been afraid of what that might look like.  You're afraid of the repercussions.  You're afraid of how it may alter relationships close to you.  You're afraid of not having support.  Afraid of going at it alone.  This is where the plow comes in.  I promise you though, when you put your hands to the plow, you begin to find others along the path with plows in their hands as well.  You find support that you never knew existed but it's going to take you being brave.  Brave enough to pack your lunch and get moving.      My family has been those that made the decision to stop generation crud and pave a different way.      Then there was the time that I decided to Take a completely different path podcasting and life coaching.  No-one close to me or in my family has done anything like it.  I was being prompted to break away from the familiar and plow a new path.  Not just with these 2 things but many others.  All the doubts swirled in my head.  Why?  Because I didn't have a road map.  I didn't have all of the answers.  And also, when others don't understand you're dream, they're not as passionate about it as you are. It can feel lonely and even isolating.  Naturally, we want to know everything, which is something that I am working on not having to have in order to plow through.  With podcasting and coaching, I felt it deep within.  I felt like it was something that I needed to explore and begin breaking ground on.  It started as a vision back in about 2007.  I was on my way home from a bible study and this overwhelming  vision came upon me.  I saw myself speaking to thousands of people.  Boldly, charismatic, passion.  My heart started pounding with excitement.  That has always sat somewhere inside of me and sometimes misplaced over the years.  A vision that got dusty.  And after a decade of hardships, life, discouragement, pain, life experiences, I wondered if it would ever happen.  I kept feeling the pull occasionally.  It was in 2018/19 that I found a glimpse of the buried vision again.  I went to lunch with an acquaintance who I felt drawn to.  Over lunch and story time she asked me if I had ever considered life coaching.  I didn't even know what it was at the time, but it got me curious.  She shared some podcast to listen to (didn't know what that was either).  With each podcast episode I listened to the more dust came off of that vision.  I began to learn more and more over the years.  Lean into this unfamiliar and the discomfort that came with it.  Then I realized, I had been life coaching my entire life and didn't even know it.  It's a gift I had and for years I could only describe it as an encourager.  My hand had been on the plow for years but I didn't know how to use it.    Doesn't doing anything different than people around  you feel like that.  You have tools and don't know how to use them.  It's like getting a gift and when you open it you're grateful but aren't sure what to do with it?   It's time to find your inner strength to release what no longer serves you- old beliefs, relationships, habits, old ways of thinking, patterns, generational stuff.   Know that you are worth it.  The future you is counting on you to pave a new way.    Don't wait until life is too painful to bare.  Start taking action today.  For you, for the people you will help a long the way.    Although, I kind of feel like you already know what you need to do.  What has been on your heart but I do want to offer a little bit of guidance to help you start paving your own path.   It is helpful to reflect on what's no longer serving you and what you're ready to let go of.  Really reflect.  How do you feel on a daily?  What relationships bring you down or discourage you?  What habits are causing you more harm than good?  What do you truly believe?    Visualize the new life you desire to create.  Who do you want to be?  How do you want to feel?  What is she requiring of you?   Set clear, aligned intentions for what you want to bring into your life.  Perhaps journal or use voice notes.    Find support communities that will support your growth and aren't afraid of change.    Even if none of the stuff I said today sticks, remember this, YOU have the ability to create a life that's authentically yours.  You have everything you need to break generational garbage.  You don't have to stay the same.  You don't have to continue living a life you were raised to live.  It can stop and start with you.  Even if no-one in your family has been to college, doesn't mean you can't be the first.  Just because no-one in your family ever had a proper wedding, doesn't mean you shouldn't.  Just because no-one in your family has ever made a lot of money doesn't mean you shouldn't.  Take courage, today!!  Put your hands on that plow and get to work.  You deserve this! https://www.instagram.com/its_priscilla_h?igsh=MXRuZzNlYmFmdjB5bg%3D%3D&utm_source=qr https://www.betonyoucoaching.com/link-in-bioikj4r70c

Breaking Free from the Need for Outside Validation: How often do we find ourselves waiting for approval from others before we feel worthy or capable? Explore the roots of validation-seeking: common triggers:    - Social media comparisons   - Fear of rejection or failure   - Seeking praise in relationships or work   The Impact of Relying on Outside Validation: - It creates a constant cycle of needing more validation to feel good, which can leave us feeling empty or unfulfilled.   - You end up living for other people's expectations instead of your own desires.   - It stifles personal growth because you're afraid to take risks that others might not approve of. - Mental and emotional effects:    - Anxiety and stress over trying to meet expectations.   - A lack of confidence or never feeling “good enough.”   - Struggling to make decisions without outside input. How to Break Free from the Need for Validation: Shift your mindset to self-validation**:    - The first step is recognizing that your worth doesn't come from others—it comes from within. Learn to appreciate your own value and accomplishments, even without external praise.   - Practice self-awareness: When you feel yourself seeking validation, pause and ask, "Why do I need this approval?" Recognize the trigger and consciously shift the focus back to yourself. - Set internal goals:    - Instead of chasing external approval, focus on what YOU want to achieve. Set goals based on your desires and values, not on what others expect of you. - Develop self-compassion:    - Treat yourself with the kindness and understanding you often seek from others. Celebrate your small wins, even if no one else notices.   - Affirmations: Start your day with affirmations that reinforce your worth and ability. - Build resilience to external criticism:    - Not everyone will approve of or understand your path—and that's okay. Learn to separate constructive feedback from opinions that aren't serving your growth.   - Trust your intuition and decisions without constantly second-guessing yourself based on others' reactions.    Practical Tips and Daily Practices: -Gratitude practice -Journaling -Detox from external noise- Take regular breaks from social media or environments that push you to seek validation. Spend time doing activities that bring you joy without needing to show it to anyone else. Surround yourself with supportive people: Choose friends, mentors, or coaches who encourage you to trust yourself rather than depend on their approval. https://www.betonyoucoaching.com/link-in-bioikj4r70c https://www.instagram.com/its_priscilla_h/  

Key takeaways:  The Benefits of Prioritizing Yourself More Energy & Better Health: Through movement, proper nutrition, and self-care  Improved Mental Health & Clarity:  Through mindfulness, journaling, or simply sitting with your thoughts, you'll find greater clarity in what you really want and need. Increased Confidence:   Confidence to set boundaries, say no when necessary, and truly own your time. When you stop letting the world dictate your schedule and goals, you become more in control of your life. Stronger Relationships:   By focusing on your own well-being, you actually strengthen your relationships with others. When you take care of yourself first, you'll be able to give more love, attention, and support to others because you're not running on empty. How to Start Prioritizing Yourself:   1.  Shift Your Mindset:  The first step to prioritizing yourself is giving yourself permission to do so. You have to believe that you are worthy of time, care, and attention. Challenge any guilt or self-judgment that comes up when you start focusing on yourself. It's okay to say no to others and say yes to yourself. 2.  Identify What's Truly Important to You:   Sit down and reflect: What's missing in your life? What would make you feel more fulfilled?  Identify the areas in your life that need more attention, and set goals that are aligned with your true values. 3.  Set Boundaries:  Saying no to things that drain your energy or take away from your personal time. It's about carving out space for yourself and protecting that space unapologetically. 4.  Create Daily Rituals/Routines:  Routines create consistency and structure around self-care. Set up a simple morning or evening routine that's just for you. It could be 10 minutes of journaling, stretching, or enjoying your coffee in silence before the day starts. These small acts signal to your brain that your well-being is important. 5.  Take Action on Your Health:  Regular exercise, nourishing food, and proper rest are foundational to feeling your best. Start with small, achievable steps—add a 10-minute walk to your day, focus on drinking more water, or try a new healthy recipe this week. When you feel good in your body, it's much easier to show up for yourself and others. 6.  Accountability:  Find a community or a coach—someone who can encourage you, remind you of your goals, and celebrate your progress. Surround yourself with people who support your decision to prioritize YOU.   I'm here to help! I offer one-on-one coaching for women who are ready to create lasting change and make their health and mindset a priority.   Click the link below to set up a complimentary call with me! https://www.betonyoucoaching.com/link-in-bio6jqfxi8g

This episode I am re-launching the podcast that has sadly set still for a year and a half.  What have I been up to?  Find out inside this episode.   Burnt Ship:Episode 65 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/journey-tribe-podcast/id1555408451?i=1000585761971

So often, we repeat things over and over again verbaly or within our thoughts.  Our mind wanders to what we're lacking in life.  There is power in what we choose to focus on.  There is expansion in the things we spend an abundant amount of time focusing on.  Today's episode talks about various things you can focus on to bring positive expansion in your life.  

So many of us set out to grow. To be different.  Sometimes, despite our efforts, we can feel stuck and left wondering what that next step is in our life.  We leave behind the things that no longer align with where our life is actually heading and then you realize that nothing around you is aligning anymore.  That's when you know, that, it's no longer about setting things aside, but it's setting fire to your old life, that ship, that you have been standing on.  It's time to jump in to the unknown, without a clear picture.  Take the risk.  Take the leap.  

It can be frustrating when you are unable to figure out what is going on in your body.  Priscilla had been experiencing breathing issues and stomach problems and back pain for years.  She finally made the decision to try The Wellness Way.  Their motto is "we don't guess, we test."  And that is exactly what they did.  Through various testing she was able to get some answers and begin a journey of healing.   Gallbladder Complex The Wellness Way Store Live Glandular The Wellness Way Store

Sometimes we get lost in our emotions or feelings and we become stuck.  And sometimes we meet that place again and again and get stuck again.  When you get to a place of realizing that pattern, sometimes it is one word or one positive action that can shift things for us.  Our brains are in search for an answer or a reason to everything we experience and it will associate that with a feeling/emotion.  The key is recognizing this pattern and reframing your belief about it.  Priscilla shares a common feeling of rejection in her own life that would arise.  She finally was able to see what was actually happening and reframe her belief about what the truth was vs. this false truth she believed for years.   Ripple Effect Rocks Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100086492472361  

Priscilla and guest, Melissa Sweeney chat about something beautiful coming from their struggles of belonging, acceptance and not knowing what the next step for them was.   It's difficult when you're in the funk to see it's purpose.  When you make it to the other side of it is when you can see what it's purpose was.   Through trials and tears, these two came together and eventually figured out a way to create the community their hearts longed to be a part of.  

For years Priscilla tried to conform her dreams around what other's had already accomplished.  Oftentimes, we don't realize how much of our decisions are based on what others think or how they do things.  We're afraid to stand out because it doesn't look like most.  You were'nt created to fit in to someone else's mold.  You were designed to bring you.  That is a big enough gift!  Let's let the creativity out.  

Do you desire to be yourself?  Like, really, who you are deep within.  So much of our authenticity is burried for fear of what others might think or even say.  We hide our talents, gifts and uniqueness for fear of it not being recieved as such.  Let's uncover the gold burried in each one of us.  Let's be free to be truly who we were desiged to be which is not like everyone else, it's like us.  

When?  Such a common question when you don't know what's next in your life.  You feel stuck.  You feel the desire to do something different and be someone different, yet you're left asking yourself, "where do I begin?"   It's what happens in the waiting that is key to a lifetime of positive changes.  How are you utilizing the time that you have while you are unsure of that next step?  This episode is about the waiting and what you can do during that time to benefit your life.  It's not about the waiting itself.  It's what you do in the waiting that can transform your life.  

Priscilla is back for season 4!  What has she been up to?  Well, on this episode she talks about what a new normal summer is for her and her family.  Her and her husbands business endeavor led them to a way to help support their income as she stays home with her kids.  

Do you ever feel like things are so loud??  On today's episode, Priscilla talks about the importances of creating the time and space to usher in rest and peace in your every day life.  It is the very thing that brings renewal.  She challenges you to find that one thing each day that you can do that gives you the time to listen, wait and allow your mind to rest.  

We unknowingly have a need for permission before we take action.  Host, Priscilla, speaks about giving yourself the permission to heal, love, find joy etc.  She shares her need for permission and gets vulnerable regarding her upbringing and how she needed to usher in that healing and see her scars in a different way.  

Today's episode is a quick one.  Priscilla talks about how the impact of other people and the great examples of their friendship has helped her start showing up for people in a better way and acting on needs instead of letting the fear of being shut down keep her from blessing someone.

Are you tired of feeling like you are constantly overlooked, not good enough, not heard and walking in someone else's shadow?  So often we subconsciously are searching for outside approval.  We unpack a bit on why feeling the need for other peoples approval is toxic.  

Remember Episode 6 where Priscilla talked about vulnerability and how important it is in your life?  Well she is back to share some of the symptoms that come with a certain level of vulnerability.   https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/journey-tribe-podcast/id1555408451?i=1000515342747 journeytribepodcast@gmail.com https://www.facebook.com/groups/615606919766404/?ref=share Instagram: Journey Tribe Podcast    

Let's talk health and fitness!  Priscilla talks about her journey to Health and fitness and about her health coaching.   journeytribepodcast@gmail.com https://events.williams-syndrome.org/team/421965?fbclid=IwAR3eMeD5n-i874Po_oD10suyTA93f4CQ3-Rvs2RqyDY0st6-QBHuKm0BOYQ ​​​Priscilla Horton (@journeytribepodcast) • Instagram photos and videos ​​(2) Journey Tribe | Facebook  

Health Coach, Cayle Alldredge is here to talk about how the busy family can more easily incorporate healthier food choices and habits into their crazy, every day life.   Caylie's Instagram:  https://instagram.com/caylealldredge?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y= www.caylealldredge.com https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cayle-alldredge-healthier-habits-for-busy-families/id1596532448    

Integrative Health Coach and Mineral Balancing Practitioner, Shannon Martin is on to educate us on the environmental toxins that can have a significant impact on our health.  She shares what some of those toxins are, symptoms of exposure and what you can do to aliminate them from your body and life.   To get 15% off of hair test go to www.bewellandgreen.com  code:TOXSICK https://instagram.com/toxsick_podcast?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y= Join the tribe! ​​​​(2) Journey Tribe | Facebook ​Priscilla Horton (@journeytribepodcast) • Instagram photos and videos Email me: journeytribepodcast@gmail.com

Women's Auto-immune Coach, Thirmanda Zavala gives helpful information on Auto-immune diseases, how she got answers and stepped into her own healing.   www.facebook.com/groups/awomanworthhealing/ https://instagram.com/thirmanda.zavala?igshid=YTM0Zjl4ZDI= https://vm.tiktok/ZTdbWKhE2/ https://anchor.fm/thirmanda-zavala Thirmanda's email: TZHealthCoach@gmail.com May is National Williams Syndrome Awareness month.  You can donate to Team Daphne's "Walk for Williams" here:  https://events.williams-syndrome.org/team/421965?fbclid=lwAR3eMeD5n-i874Po_oD10suyTA93f4CQ3-Rvs2RqyDY0st6-QBHuKm0BOYQ    

Shana brings us the unique perspective of being a Mom of a child with Williams Syndrome.  You will learn how she found out and how her child was diagnosed.  She shares some of her joys in parenting  her daughter and also talks about some of her frustrations.  As we prepare to come into May, take a listen.  May is William Syndrome Awareness month.  Here is where you can support Team Daphne for the Walk for Williams.   Episode: 41 Becky Carlson https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/journey-tribe-podcast/id1555408451?i=1000553548660  

Today, career coach and podcaster of the Creative Commute podcast, Jen Liss is in the house!  If you are ready for some fun and laughter, you are in the right place.  Jen encourages listeners to see the bright side of each day and to jump into the world of creativity.  In 2020, in her search for something that would scratch the itch she was having she decided to use her creativity to bring light into the scary times we were in.  That's where The Creative Commute Podcast was birthed.   creativecommutejen@gmail.com https://instagram.com/chromaticjenn?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y= https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-creative-commute/id1527878347  

After letting some of her walls down, Priscilla realized what she was allowing herself to be available to.  We keep the good things out as well when create a wall to protect us.  Priscilla removed the walls, got vulnerable and opened herself up to a world of opportunity and people.  She talks about how this one thing has enriched her life.  

Tracey Shaw Crowder | Facebook Jeff Crowder | Facebook Listen as Jeff and Tracey take us on their faith journey and calling that God has placed on their life.  You will here How their lives have changed, how their faith has been stretched and what you can do to be a part of the solution.     Refuge | Facebook ​​HOME | MysiteFoster Care | Refuge | United States (connectwithrefuge.org) Journey Tribe | Facebook ​​Priscilla Horton (@journeytribepodcast) • Instagram photos and videos

Jeff and Tracey Crowder take us on their Journey from the begining of when they were called to become foster parents.  Listen as their story begins with a longing and vision to a reality.  This couple is truly beautifully authentic.  You will laugh and maybe even cry.   Jeff's Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/jeffreycrowder Tracey's Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/tracey.s.crowder Refuge Facebook page:  https://.com/supportrefuge/ HOME | MysiteFoster Care | Refuge | United States (connectwithrefuge.org)

**This topic is for a mature audience.  Some of what is talked about may be difficult to hear.** Guest, Tiara Fourkiller shares a vulnerable part of her life.  She opens up about her teenage years.  Her desire to want to fit in and her need to have a male figure in her life, eventually led her down a road of sexual abuse.  https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPd5XxnGt/ https://www.facebook.com/tiara.fourkiller.5  

Shanna Steven dives into a raw conversation about Endometriosis and how it effected her life for years.  She touches on what Endometriosis is, symptoms, and what you can do to get the help you need.  Don't suffer alone! https://l.facebook.com/l.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.spokanejournal.com%2Flocal-news%2Fphysician-duke-aims-to-end-endometriosis-misconceptions%2F%3Ffbclid%3DIwAR2ViGmGe2moVAtSgRJt3QrUmoj2CjF8gVUyzf7woMxeazmnclx7T1aCMRo&h=AT1rrIsDfGjFjnTE1u-TTybLqXohgZsGRIAtLLhdZ-Lqy8IV1-24-Y6IWRDI0WgzwKMLfTjK24oiSJOW3NED8MQ0FsbMklPw9lMjuyriUyKuhzi9sLn4W2kbkQ4Q2BDRzIY https://www.facebook.com/groups/NancysNookEndoEd http://endopaedia.info/  

Today we have the unique opportunity to hear  the perspective of someone who has lived her entire life with Williams Syndrome.  She shines a light on some of the challenges that she has faced and currently faces.  Becky Carlson shares her heart to advocate for people with special needs and to educate others on how to treat and be there for people with disabilities.  She shares one of her big dreams with us! Williams syndrome | Genetic and Rare Diseases Information Center (GARD) – an NCATS Program (nih.gov)

Priscilla and her Aunt Chris share their perspectives on Priscilla's journey to healing and growth.  Chris was a voice of wisdom and reason for Priscilla while she navigated through some long, challenging seasons in her life.  

Happy Anniversary, Tribe!  We made it!  One whole year in the books.  

This is the final episode of the 4 part series of Andy and Priscilla's Marriage/relationship story.  They get honest with their feelings and struggles.  

In part 3 of Priscilla and Andy's relationship story, they share some of the challenges that they have had together.  

This is part 2 of our Marriage series.  On Todays episode, Andy and Priscilla chat about meeting the parents, wedding, wedding night and honeymoon.