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If you've ever been accused of being too sensitive, undoubtedly by someone who's too judgmental, this edition of Doing What Works is for you!Here are your show notes…Pamie Ribon hails from the world of roller derby.Crying is a release.NurtureShock offers new thinking about children.When I Stop Talking, You'll Know I'm Dead author Jerry Weintraub suggested you not ask colleagues how they're doing.
Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2374: Jay and Heather Harrington highlight the importance of praising children for their effort rather than innate abilities. Drawing from research, they explain how "process praise" fosters a growth mindset, intrinsic motivation, and helps kids prioritize meaning over happiness. This approach encourages long-term resilience, helping children navigate challenges without over-relying on external validation. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.lifeandwhim.com/first-moments-blog/raising-well-adjusted-motivated-children-3-reasons-to-praise-the-process-not-the-pers Quotes to ponder: "When we praise children for their intelligence, we tell them that this is the name of the game: look smart, don't risk making mistakes." "Process praise celebrates kids for effort and the processes they use to learn and grow." "Meaning and happiness are not the same thing. People who lead meaningful lives tend to be happy, but these two qualities do not always correlate." Episode references: Carol Dweck's "Growth Mindset" Theory: https://www.mindsetworks.com/science/ Nurture Shock: https://www.amazon.com/NurtureShock-New-Thinking-About-Children/dp/0446504122 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2245: Dr. Laura Markham highlights the importance of modeling healthy conflict resolution for children, emphasizing that respectful disagreements followed by affectionate reconciliation can teach valuable lessons. Even non-yelling conflicts can be upsetting to children, but showing resolution and repair helps them understand and cope with conflicts constructively. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.peacefulparenthappykids.com/read/fight-with-partner-learning-modeling-for-child Quotes to ponder: "It's never appropriate to dump anger on another person, in front of your kids or not." "If we handle our disagreements with respect and good will, looking for solutions instead of blame, children will recover." "Anyone can get angry, but we can take responsibility for our own emotions, apologize, and re-connect." Episode references: Nurture Shock: https://www.amazon.com/NurtureShock-New-Thinking-About-Children/dp/0446504122 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This month we are enjoying our first Author Series. When I asked Lauren MacLean, author of Me and My Sit Spot, about what inspires her, she said, "I LOVE to read!" Throughout this podcast episode (27) she highlighted several books.This answer inspired me to go to my bookshelf and pull out 10 books that I want to read and re-read this summer. 1. Green Teaching: Nature Pedagogies for Climate Change & Sustainability by Clare Warden2. Balanced and Barefoot by Angela Hanscom3. Children's Special Places by David Sobel4. Nurture Shock by PO Bronson & Ashley Merryman5. Vitamin N by Richard Louv6. Free to Learn by Peter Gray7. Last Child in the Woods by Richard Louv8. Asphalt to Ecosystems by Sharon Danks9. The Walking Curriculum10.The Open Air Life by Linda McGurkI have been having a blast with the Outdoor Classrooms Podcast and completely inspired by all the guests that have joined me. Thank you! Please let me know which authors you would like to hear from and I will reach out and have them on the Podcast on your behalf.
Ashley Merryman (www.AshleyMerryman.com) changes the world's dialogue. She finds the science essential to understanding what makes people tick—what motivates us, what inspires us—from individual quirks to institutional phenomena. Then she explains how to use these insights to transform our lives. The best place to get them is to subscribe to her newly reborn newsletter www.thesherwoodreport.com Her book NurtureShock, co-authored with Po Bronson, has become one of the most influential books about children ever published. On the New York Times bestseller list for more than six months and an Amazon Top Nonfiction 100 book for over a year, it has been translated into 20 languages. Their follow-up, Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing, was another instant New York Times bestseller with foreign translations around the world. Since its publication, Top Dog has revolutionized the world of elite performance. Coaches of professional sports carry it in their bags. Olympians have described themselves as “Top Dog athletes.” In addition to cover stories and more for Newsweek and New York, Merryman has had bylines in the New York Times, Time, the Washington Post, CNN.com, the Guardian, ESPN Magazine, and others. Her media appearances include: CNN's Anderson Cooper 360; Fox and Friends; CBS This Morning; @KatieCouric; John Stossel; ESPN's Outside the Lines; HBO's Real Sports with Bryant Gumbel; Red Bull's Visions of Greatness; BBC's World News and Sports Hour; and NPR's On Point. She is also a contributor to Chronicle Books' bestselling 642 Things to Write About. (And she once delighted “Mr. Wonderful” Kevin O'Leary with an on-air explanation of how science could predict his success, while Stephen Colbert devoted a segment of The Colbert Report to her take on kids and competition.) REGISTER NOW! The 2023 Way of Champions Conference will be held August 4-6, 2023 at Colorado Academy in Denver, CO. Click here to learn more and register. You can save $100 until April 1 by entering EARLYBIRD at checkout, as well as get access to the best hotel rooms right across the street from Colorado Academy. Its going to be amazing to be back in person in 2023! This week's podcast is brought to you by our friends at Sprocket Sports. Sprocket Sports is a new software platform for youth sports clubs. There are a lot of these systems out there, but Sprocket provides the full enchilada. They give you all the cool front-end stuff to make your club look good– like websites and marketing tools – AND all the back-end transactions and services to run your business better so you can focus on what really matters – your players and your teams. Sprocket is built for those clubs looking to thrive, not just survive, in the competitive world of youth sports clubs. So if you've been looking for a true business partner – not just another app – check them out today at https://sprocketsports.me/CTG. Become a Podcast Champion! This weeks podcast is also sponsored by our Patreon Podcast Champions. Help Support the Podcast and get FREE access to our most popular online courses, a $300 value. If you love the podcast, we would love for you to become a Podcast Champion, (https://www.patreon.com/wayofchampions) for as little as a cup of coffee per month (OK, its a Venti Mocha), to help us up the ante and provide even better interviews, better sound, and an overall enhanced experience. Plus, as a $10 per month Podcast Super-Champion, you will have access to never before released and bonus material, including: Downloadable transcripts of our best podcasts, so you don't have to crash your car trying to take notes! A code to get free access to our online course called “Coaching Mastery,” usually a $97 course, plus four other courses worth over $100, all yours for free for becoming a patron. Other special bonus opportunities that come up time to time Access to an online community of coaches like you who are dedicated listeners of the podcast, and will be able to answer your questions and share their coaching experiences. Thank you for all your support these past four years, and a special big thank you to all of you who become part of our inner circle, our patrons, who will enable us to take our podcast to the next level. https://www.patreon.com/wayofchampions
On this week's episode of Currently Reading, Meredith and Kaytee are discussing: Bookish Moments: DNF progress and a new way of enjoying a book Current Reads: five books we're excited to talk about and one that might cause some clutched pearls Deep Dive: the books we know are terrible but are our secret pleasures The Fountain: we visit our perfect fountain to make wishes over our reading lives As per usual, time-stamped show notes are below with references to every book and resource we mentioned in this episode. If you'd like to listen first and not spoil the surprise, don't scroll down! New: we are now including transcripts of the episode (this link only works on the main site). These are generated by AI, so they may not be perfectly accurate, but we want to increase accessibility for our fans! *Please note that all book titles linked below are Bookshop affiliate links. Your cost is the same, but a small portion of your purchase will come back to us to help offset the costs of the show. If you'd prefer to shop on Amazon, you can still do so here through our main storefront. Anything you buy there (even your laundry detergent, if you recently got obsessed with switching up your laundry game) kicks a small amount back to us. Thanks for your support!* . . . . 1:43 - Bookish Moment of the Week 6:59 - The Times Comprehensive Atlas of the World (Amazon Link) 9:45 - Current Reads 10:01 - Perfect on Paper by Sophie Gonzales (Kaytee) 14:25 - The Lamplighters by Emma Stonex (Meredith) 16:04 - Blackwell's 18:00 - Descent by Tim Johnston 18:01 - The Current by Tim Johnston 18:18 - The Lighthouse Witches by C. J. Cooke 18:19 - The Novel Neighbor 19:17 - When Thoughts and Prayers Aren't Enough by Taylor S. Schumann (Katyee) 23:35 - Masterminds and Wingmen by Rosalind Wiseman (Meredith) 24:02 - Queen Bees and Wannabes by Rosalind Wiseman 25:51 - NurtureShock by Po Bronson 28:15 - The Black Friend by Frederick Joseph (Kaytee) 30:24 - How to Be an Anti-Racist by Ibram X. Kendi 31:44 - CONTENT WARNING FROM HERE TO THE FOUNTAIN. LITTLE EARS AND MINDY ARE NOT RECOMMENDED. 32:36 - The Dragon's Bride by Katee Robert (Meredith) 38:34 - Deep Dive: Books We Want to Hide While Reading 39:27 - The Kiss Quotient by Helen Hoang 41:03 - Blackout by Candace Owens 45:12 - The Dragon's Bride by Katee Robert 45:27 - Twilight by Stephanie Meyer 45:30 - 50 Shades of Grey by E.L. James 50:37 - Meet Us At The Fountain I wish that everyone had access to a great library card collection. (Kaytee) 51:04 - Libby 51:29 - Libro.fm I wish everyone could experience fall reading to its fullest extent. (Meredith) 53:15 - Plain Bad Heroines by Emily Danforth 53:23 - Shadow of the Wind by Carlos Ruiz Zafron 53:30 - All Things Cease to Appear by Elizabeth Brundage 53:41 - The Lamplighters by Emma Stonex 53:48 - The Name of the Wind by Patrick Rothfuss Connect With Us: Meredith is @meredith.reads on Instagram Kaytee is @notesonbookmarks on Instagram Mindy is @gratefulforgrace on Instagram Mary is @maryreadsandsips on Instagram Roxanna is @roxannatheplanner on Instagram currentlyreadingpodcast.com @currentlyreadingpodcast on Instagram currentlyreadingpodcast@gmail.com Support us at patreon.com/currentlyreadingpodcast and www.zazzle.com/store/currentlyreading
The MAP boys sit down with Ashley Merryman, the co-author (along with Po Bronson) of "Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing." Their book, "NurtureShock", has become one of the most influential books about children ever published. Both books are New York Times bestsellers. Merryman has written for the NY TImes, Time, the Washington Post, CNN.com, the Guardian, ESPN Magazine, and others. She has made appearances on CNN's Anderson Cooper 360; Fox and Friends; CBS This Morning; ESPN's Outside the Lines; HBO's Real Sports with Bryant GumbelAmong other topics, she discusses the importance of competition in development - difference in types of competitors - the impact TEAM can have on competitors - how the way you set up a competition can have influence on the competitors - difference between genders in competition, etc.To view more from Ashley -- go to her website: www.ashleymerryman.com Questions or comments for the show: podcast@mentaladvantage.netTo contact John Cullen: john.cullen@mentaladvantage.netTo contact Brandon Allen: brandon.allen@mentaladvantage.net
On this week's episode of Currently Reading, Meredith and Kaytee are discussing: Bookish Moments: new merch and a comfort read Current Reads: some books that were directly recommended by readers and ended up being big hits Deep Dive: our bookish confessions, in which we essentially play strip poker with opinions Book Presses: a book that is singular in its execution and an old school favorite As per usual, time-stamped show notes are below with references to every book and resource we mentioned in this episode. If you'd like to listen first and not spoil the surprise, don't scroll down! New: we are now including transcripts of the episode (this link only works on the main site). These are generated by AI, so they may not be perfectly accurate, but we want to increase accessibility for our fans! *Please note that all book titles linked below are Bookshop affiliate links. Your cost is the same, but a small portion of your purchase will come back to us to help offset the costs of the show. If you'd prefer to shop on Amazon, you can still do so here through our main storefront. Anything you buy there (even your dishwasher detergent!) kicks a small amount back to us. Thanks for your support!* . . . . 1:40 - Currently Reading Patreon 2:20 - Currently Reading Mighty Networks 4:35 - Bookish Moment of the Week 4:48 - Currently Reading Zazzle Store 5:48 - Meredith's “Scary Books are my Jam” mug 8:09 - Legends and Lattes by Travis Baldree 8:40 - Current Reads 8:45 - Open Water by Caleb Azumah Nelson (Kaytee) 13:39 - A Gentleman in Moscow by Amor Towles 14:00 - The Son by Philipp Meyer (Meredith) 17:03 - Olympus, Texas by Stacey Swann 18:06 - East of Eden by John Steinbeck 18:08 - Lonesome Dove by Larry McMurty 18:55 - Frankie and Bug by Gayle Foreman (Kaytee) 19:24 - If I Stay by Gayle Foreman 19:25 - Where She Went by Gayle Foreman 22:30 - Razorblade Tears by S.A. Cosby 22:40 - These Silent Woods by Kimi Cunningham Grant 23:17 - NurtureShock by Po Bronson (Meredith) 27:00 - Black Birds in the Sky by Brandi Colbert (Kaytee) 28:11 - Dreamland Burning by Jennifer Latham 30:25 - Love and Saffron by Kim Fay (Meredith) 32:07 - Storybound Subscription from Fabled 35:53 - 84, Charing Cross Road by Helen Hanff 36:32 - Deep Dive: Our Bookish Confessions 55:37 - Arya Winters and the Tiramisu of Death by Amita Murray 57:29 - Books We'd Like to Press Into Your Hands 57:55 - Girl, Woman, Other by Bernadine Evaristo (Kaytee) 58:03 - Open Water by Caleb Azumah Nelson 58:23 - How High We Go in the Dark by Sequoia Nagamatsu 59:47 - Blackwell's UK 1:00:53 - What Should I Do With My Life by Po Bronson (Meredith) Connect With Us: Meredith is @meredith.reads on Instagram Kaytee is @notesonbookmarks on Instagram Mindy is @gratefulforgrace on Instagram Mary is @maryreadsandsips on Instagram currentlyreadingpodcast.com @currentlyreadingpodcast on Instagram currentlyreadingpodcast@gmail.com Support us at patreon.com/currentlyreadingpodcast
Today's guest is Ashley Merryman the best selling author of Nurture Shock. As a social science writer of distinction, she has written for Newsweek, Time, the New York Times, the Washington Post on various topics related to parenting and children. Her work has been cited as a research authority in 80 academic journals and 260 books, and it is being used as text in universities around the world. Educational stops included a Bachelor of Fine Arts from the University of Southern California's School of Cinematic Arts, a J.D. from the Georgetown University's Law Center, and a Certificate in Irish Studies from Queen's University, Belfast, Northern Ireland. What she really is is a great speaker on the hard topics of science and social existence. This is a one hour journey through 2 major topics. Please enjoy my conversation with Ashley Merryman, Dr. M
V dnešní epizodě podcastu Rodičovská posilovna si psycholožka Ivana Štefková povídala s psychoterapeutem Janem Vávrou. Řeč byla o lhaní dětí rodičům a celkově o lžích a jejich významu v lidském vývoji a nejčastějších důvodech proč děti lžou rodičům, ale také o tom, jak můžeme podporovat upřímnost v rodině, a lžím předcházet. Inspirováni byli tentokrát knihou Paula Ekmana – Why kids lie – How parents can encourage truthfulness, ale také kapitolou knihy Nurture Shock od Po Bronsona a Ashley Merryman, která pojednává o výzkumech lží. Tyto výzkumy provádí především Dr. Victoria Talwar a informace o nich jsou na www.talwarresearch.com. Honza a Ivana spolu připravují kurzy odolnosti a Rodičovskou posilovnu – www.rodicovskaposilovna.cz
You already know how important a good night's sleep is. But how much is enough? This episode begins with some startling information about how just 15 minutes more sleep per night can make a big difference. https://conservancy.umn.edu/handle/11299/162769 We all want pleasure in life. In fact, most of us have a lot of pleasure. Maybe too much pleasure. And all that pleasure can make you miserable according to Dr. Anna Lembke. She is a psychiatrist and medical director of the Stanford Addiction Medicine and author of the bestselling book Dopamine Nation (https://amzn.to/3BahOhY). Listen as she explains how humans are not designed to have unending pleasure whether it's technology or food or anything else. She has some interesting thoughts about why this is such a problem and how we can best deal with all this pleasure. What if credit cards were called “loan cards” instead? Chances are you wouldn't use them as freely according to Eesha Sharma a marketing professor at San Diego State University. Eesha's research revolves around financial wellbeing and how people react to perceived scarcity and deprivation. Her research as appeared in top journals and publications. Listen as she offers some great insight into how we think about and use money that I think will surprise you. Eesha's Twitter handle is @EeshaSharma. Most parents feel good if their kids watch “educational” TV or video programs. Yet one study found something that parents might find a little disturbing. In fact it was so disturbing that some of the researchers changed their kids' viewing habits after seeing the results. Listen as I explain. Source: Po Bronson author of Nurture Shock (https://amzn.to/3mGwu4h). PLEASE SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS! We really enjoy The Jordan Harbinger Show and we think you will as well! Check out https://jordanharbinger.com/start OR search for The Jordan Harbinger Show on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or wherever you listen to podcasts. T-Mobile for Business the leader in 5G, #1 in customer satisfaction, and a partner who includes benefits like 5G in every plan. Visit https://T-Mobile.com/business JUSTWORKS makes it easier for you to start, run and grow a business. Find out how by going to https://justworks.com For more information on fire safety products, safety tips and educational activities you can do at home with your family visit https://firstalert.com/firepreventionmonth https://www.geico.com Bundle your policies and save! It's Geico easy! Visit https://www.remymartin.com/en-us/ to learn more about their exceptional spirits! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Let's have a different conversation.....about race! Conversations about race are incredibly uncomfortable, which is exactly why we ought to have more meaningful conversations about it. Why on a mental health podcast? Because your discomfort is a sign you have work to do on yourself and this is a way to do just that. So let's dig in and have a different conversation about race, especially us white people who avoid them the most as many studies have shown. When we show up better when we show up where it's uncomfortable.....we grow, expand and elevate our life experience. Here is a link to the book that I am referencing in this episode - Nurture Shock: https://www.amazon.com/NurtureShock-New-Thinking-About-Children/dp/0446504130 The Belonging Blueprint Connect with your host Ross Leppala! Instagram: ross.leppala Facebook: Ross Leppala Email: theakleprechaun@gmail.com Intro and Outro music credits: "Lost in the Woods" by Gaelynn Lea from the album "Learning How to Stay" Gaelynn Lea: Violin, Vocals Dave Mehling: Guitars, Keyboards, Organ & Auxiliary Percussion Al Church: Electric Guitar, Acoustic Guitar, Piano & Auxiliary Percussion Martin Dosh: Drums Andrew Foreman: Electric Bass Haley McCallum: Vocal Harmony
Sometimes truths about parenting go against the grain—against what we assume is natural or normal. Ashley Merryman loves to find research that debunks conventionally held truths. Learn about the problem with praise, and what are some of the best ways to respond to kids. If you enjoyed this episode, and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram stories, and tag me @mindfulmamamentor. Have you left a review yet? All you have to do is go to Apple Podcasts or Stitcher (or wherever you listen), and thanks for your support of the show! Takeaways: Kids who are overpraised underperform. Little kids lie because they don’t want to disappoint. You can catch bad behavior from others. With Po Bronson, Ashley Merryman is the New York Times bestselling author of NurtureShock: New Thinking About Children and Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing. Get Hunter's book, Raising Good Humans now! Click here to order and get book bonuses! ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is a mindful mama mentor. She coaches smart, thoughtful parents on how to create calm and cooperation in their daily lives. Hunter has over 20 years of experience in mindfulness practices. She has taught thousands worldwide. Be a part of the tribe—we’re over 25 thousand strong! Download the audio training, Mindfulness For Moms (The Superpower You Need) for free! It's at mindfulmomguide.com. Find more podcasts, blog posts, free resources, and how to work with Hunter at MindfulMamaMentor.com. Be sure to check out this deal from this week’s sponsor: Get your first PAIR for $48 when you use code Hunter on paireyewear.com
In this episode Lauren and Abby run down the news from the past week + talk about the basics of base training. While this podcast is dedicated to news in elite + professional distance running we felt that it would be remiss not to mention Ahmaud Arbery's death and how it has prompted us to think about how we respond going forward. We want to make sure that we are bringing light to stories that need to be told and amplifying diverse voices through our platform. Below are some resources that have been recommended to us and that we thought would be helpful to share for those of you that are reflecting on your response to Ahmaud's story. - @diversewerun is doing a live IG chat with @natrunsfar about diversity and inclusion 5/12 @ 8:30EDT - Ahmaud Arbery and Whiteness in the Running World, Outside Magazine - Books: So You Want to Talk About Race / Nurture Shock - ch. 3 Why White Parents Don't Talk About Race // Why Are All the Black Sitting Together In the Cafeteria, And Other Conversations About Race Things We Talk About In This Episode: - Learn more about ALysia Montano + Molly Dickens' non-profit to support Dream Maternity, &Mother - Read Deena Kastor's article for Women's Running reflecting on her own adoption - Dani Jones joins Team Boss - Watch ESPN's "4 Minutes" movie about Roger Bannister history-making race - Dathan Ritzenhein announced his retirement - Boston cancels parades + large events through at least Labor Day // Illinois' Plans for Reopening Post-COVID - Learn more about Saucony's Endorphin Pro Hand Off: I'll Have Another Episode 248 with Chris Turner // Citius Mag with Dani Jones Follow Up + Running on Instagram here and on Twitter here Follow Lauren + Abby on Instagram Learn more about Up + Running Coaching here
EQ: What should white parents do to equip their children to understand the functions of race in order to combat racism?Guest: Malia Jacobsen, author of the column “Beyond Tolerance” for ParentMap. Malia Jacobson is an award-winning health and parenting journalist and mom of three who contributes regularly to more than 120 national and regional publications and has written two books on sleep.In this episode, we sit down with Malia Jacobson to talk about the importance of intentionally talking about race with white children. Highlights include:Malia’s journalistic work at Parentmap, a resource for parents and families in the Puget Sound region.How white parents respond and shape the conversation around gendered toys (specifically her work writing about toy guns).How the new generation of parents has to come into talking about race in their own way (and not opting out).How children are born into this racial environment and parents have to coach them to be ready (Nurture Shock--the environment IS the lesson).“Talking to Your Kids About Racist Relatives“From Color Blind to Color Brave.”Fiction Teaches Kids About EmpathyDo Your Fudging Homework:Annie: Anti-Racism Resources for Parents and Teachers from the Barefoot Mommy Blog. Hope: Race, Ethnicity & NationalityMalia: Better w/ Books Melissa Hart
Introduction Welcome. Doc Smo here, your pedcast host. I had an amazingly gratifying experience recently that I want to share with you, especially if your child is struggling in school. In today's pedcast, we are going to talk about some simple parenting task that is bound to help your children. Curious about what those tasks could be? Then stay tuned to learn more in today's installment of Portable Practical Pediatrics. Musical Introduction A Routine Talk Turns Extraordinary Recently, I was asked to speak to a group of parents of “at risk children” who had come to a family education evening to talk about how to maximize their children's performance in school. We talked about the research that has been discussed on this blog many times. Specifically, I wanted to stress the factors that parents have control of that have been shown to improve a child's academic achievement; -Keeping TV's out of a child's bedroom and limiting screen time -Getting an adequate amount of physical activity and unstructured play -Having a diet rich with unprocessed foods -Getting an adequate amount of sleep. Well, the night this event occurred was actually the second time I had spoken at this church and talked about this topic. A Testimonial I thought my first talk with this group of parents had gone pretty well but I had no idea of how well. At the onset of my next visit with these parents, an amazing thing happened. Before we got into the talk, an older gentleman raised his hand and told me he had a testimonial to share. That's what he called it, a "Testimonial". He told the audience and me that he and his wife were raising their grandson who was currently in 4th grade and not doing very well academically. He said that he and his wife had decided, after hearing my first talk, to try getting their grandson a structured regular bedtime, free of screens and junk food to see what would happen. Specifically, they wanted to get him to bed early enough for him to get up the next morning without a fight. That was their goal. To do this, they completely restructured his bedtime: they removed the TV from his room and cut off screen time after 7pm. they insisted that he was to eat all of his food at dinner and was to get nothing no more after that. Bedtime was set at 8pm and enforced. Lights out and time to sleep. After doing all of this, they said the transition was nothing short of miraculous. He almost immediately stopped fighting about getting ready for school in the morning and actually woke up in the morning on his own. He also stopped fighting about going to sleep. And the best thing is that his grades showed an immediate improvement. Whereas he had been struggling to keep up in school, now he was getting good grades! They said even his personality was more pleasant. They attributed all of this great stuff to him having a regular bedtime and adequate sleep. They had no idea that not having a structured bedtime, letting him play video games late into the evening, eating junk food at night, and falling asleep in front of screens was so detrimental to him. An Amazing Statistic Some of you may have read the book Nurture Shock. I wrote a book review about it a few years ago. Listen to this shocking statistic that the authors of Nurture Shock discovered: a school aged child who has a one hour sleep deprivation on a chronic basis will, on average, perform 2 years younger than their chronologic age cognitively. That means that a 6th grader will perform like a 4th grader academically if they get 1 hour less sleep at night on a chronic basis. Clearly, sleep deprivation is having a major impact on a young child's brain. Case closed and the young man in this story was probably a good example of sleep deprivation that was cognitively impairing. Whatever it was, it is great to see him doing so much better in school. A Parents Call to Action So here is my call to action for parents who have not developed a structured an...
This week, one for the hardworkin' parents out there, as Glenn Murphy and wellness guru Howard Jacobson address the challenges, similiarities, and reciprocal benefits of Systema and parenting. Along the way, we delve into: what Systema can teach us about being good parents command and conquer vs engage and redirect parenting the role of movement in managing overwhelming emotions avoiding the traps of stubbornness and pride why too much praise is harmful to kids, and to Systema trainees Mentioned in this episode:The Whole Brain Child by Daniel Siegel and Tina Bryson http://www.drdansiegel.com/books/the_whole_brain_child/ Nurtureshock by Pø Bronson and Ashley Merryman https://www.amazon.com/NurtureShock-New-Thinking-About-Children/dp/0446504130 Leading with Emotional Courage by Peter Bregman http://bregmanpartners.com/books/leading-with-emotional-courage/Enjoy! As usual, your feedback welcomed. Thanks for supporting the podcast.
Introduction Welcome. Doc Smo here, your pedcast host. I had an amazingly gratifying experience recently that I want to share with you, especially if your child is struggling in school. In today's pedcast, we are going to talk about some simple parenting task that is bound to help your children. Curious about what those tasks could be? Then stay tuned to learn more in today's installment of Portable Practical Pediatrics. Musical Introduction A Routine Talk Turns Extraordinary Recently, I was asked to speak to a group of parents of “at risk children” who had come to a family education evening to talk about how to maximize their children's performance in school. We talked about the research that has been discussed on this blog many times. Specifically, I wanted to stress the factors that parents have control of that have been shown to improve a child's academic achievement; -Keeping TV's out of a child's bedroom and limiting screen time -Getting an adequate amount of physical activity and unstructured play -Having a diet rich with unprocessed foods -Getting an adequate amount of sleep. Well, the night this event occurred was actually the second time I had spoken at this church and talked about this topic. A Testimonial I thought my first talk with this group of parents had gone pretty well but I had no idea of how well. At the onset of my next visit with these parents, an amazing thing happened. Before we got into the talk, an older gentleman raised his hand and told me he had a testimonial to share. That's what he called it, a "Testimonial". He told the audience and me that he and his wife were raising their grandson who was currently in 4th grade and not doing very well academically. He said that he and his wife had decided, after hearing my first talk, to try getting their grandson a structured regular bedtime, free of screens and junk food to see what would happen. Specifically, they wanted to get him to bed early enough for him to get up the next morning without a fight. That was their goal. To do this, they completely restructured his bedtime: they removed the TV from his room and cut off screen time after 7pm. they insisted that he was to eat all of his food at dinner and was to get nothing no more after that. Bedtime was set at 8pm and enforced. Lights out and time to sleep. After doing all of this, they said the transition was nothing short of miraculous. He almost immediately stopped fighting about getting ready for school in the morning and actually woke up in the morning on his own. He also stopped fighting about going to sleep. And the best thing is that his grades showed an immediate improvement. Whereas he had been struggling to keep up in school, now he was getting good grades! They said even his personality was more pleasant. They attributed all of this great stuff to him having a regular bedtime and adequate sleep. They had no idea that not having a structured bedtime, letting him play video games late into the evening, eating junk food at night, and falling asleep in front of screens was so detrimental to him. An Amazing Statistic Some of you may have read the book Nurture Shock. I wrote a book review about it a few years ago. Listen to this shocking statistic that the authors of Nurture Shock discovered: a school aged child who has a one hour sleep deprivation on a chronic basis will, on average, perform 2 years younger than their chronologic age cognitively. That means that a 6th grader will perform like a 4th grader academically if they get 1 hour less sleep at night on a chronic basis. Clearly, sleep deprivation is having a major impact on a young child's brain. Case closed and the young man in this story was probably a good example of sleep deprivation that was cognitively impairing. Whatever it was, it is great to see him doing so much better in school. A Parents Call to Action So here is my call to action for parents who have not developed a structured an...
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Dr. Reedy completes his series on Nurture Shock, talking about the chapter on The Science of Teen Rebellion. Neuro-biological issues as well as how parents can reconsider the value of conflict and oppositionality in a child's development are discussed.
In the second part of his review of "Nurture Shock," Dr. Reedy discusses why children lie and how parents can best encourage honesty.
Dr. Reedy discusses the first chapter in Nurture Shock: "The Inverse Power of Praise." Self-esteem, growth mindset, and how to and not to praise children to increase resiliency, frustration tolerance, and effort are discussed.
Why are we wired by God to spend one third of our lives essentially doing nothing?How can one simple key enhance spiritual formation, combat childhood obesity, improve children's school performance, combat neurodegenerative disorders like Alzheimer's disease, along with decreasing clinical depression in teens and adults? One thing??What is it?Healthy sleep…The importance of sleep from a spiritual, physical, and emotional health perspective. The latest brain research is bringing new insight into sleep research and we are discovering good sleep may be the missing key ingredient to the overall health of people today. Using the latest brain and sleep research, with special insight from "The Good and Beautiful God," James Bryant Smith, and "Nurture Shock," Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman, I speak on the benefits of sleep for adults and children.
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The American Academy of Pediatrics just updated its screen time recommendations – and, for the first time, we can actually see and understand the research on which the recommendations are based. They’re a bit more nuanced than the previous versions, so join me as we walk through what the recommendations mean for parents of babies and toddlers – whether or not your children have been using screens until now. We’ll look at the impact particularly of TV on cognitive development, obesity, and prosocial vs. antisocial behavior. News flash: if you’re not watching and discussing shows WITH your child, he may be learning antisocial behavior from even the most innocuous of PBS programming. This is the first in a two-part series on screen time. Here we focus on what science says about the impacts on development. In the second part we’ll examine what we can do about mitigating these impacts and on harnessing some of the good that digital media can do for our kids, since they are growing up in a world where the use of digital media is a fact of life. References Alade, F., Rasmussen, E., & Christy, K. (2014). The relation between television exposure and executive function among preschoolers. Developmental Psychology 50(5), 1497-1506. Full article available at: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/259845495_The_Relation_Between_Television_Exposure_and_Executive_Function_Among_Preschoolers (https://www.researchgate.net/publication/259845495_The_Relation_Between_Television_Exposure_and_Executive_Function_Among_Preschoolers) American Academy of Pediatrics (n.d.) Media and Children. Retrieved from: https://www.aap.org/en-us/advocacy-and-policy/aap-health-initiatives/Pages/Media-and-Children.aspx?rf=32524&nfstatus=401&nftoken=00000000-0000-0000-0000-000000000000&nfstatusdescription=ERROR%3a+No+local+token (https://www.aap.org/en-us/advocacy-and-policy/aap-health-initiatives/Pages/Media-and-Children.aspx?rf=32524&nfstatus=401&nftoken=00000000-0000-0000-0000-000000000000&nfstatusdescription=ERROR%3a+No+local+token) Barr, R. (2013). Memory constraints on infant learning from picture books, television, and touchscreens. Child Development Perspectives 7(4), 205-210. Full article available at: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/259074650_Memory_Constraints_on_Infant_Learning_From_Picture_Books_Television_and_Touchscreens (https://www.researchgate.net/publication/259074650_Memory_Constraints_on_Infant_Learning_From_Picture_Books_Television_and_Touchscreens) Beales III, J.H., & Kulick, R. (2013). Does advertising on television cause childhood obesity? Journal of Public Policy & Marketing 32(2), 185-194. Blankson, A.N., O’Brien, M., Leerkes, E.M., Calkins, S.D., & Marcovitch, S. (2015). Do hours spent viewing television at ages 3 and 4 predict vocabulary and executive functioning at age 5? Merrill-Palmer Quarterly 61(2), 264-289. Bronson, P. & Merryman, A. (2009). Nurtureshock. New York: Twelve. Christakis, D.A., Gilkerson, J., Richards, J.A., Zimmerman, F.J., Garrison, M.M., Xu, D., Gray, S., & Yapanel, U. (2009). Audible television and decreased adult words, infant vocalizations, and conversational turns. Archives of Pediatrics and Adolescent Medicine Journal 163(6), 554-559. Full article available at: https://sites.oxy.edu/clint/physio/article/AudibleTelevisionandDecreasedAdultWordsInfantVocalizationsandConversationalTurns.pdf (https://sites.oxy.edu/clint/physio/article/AudibleTelevisionandDecreasedAdultWordsInfantVocalizationsandConversationalTurns.pdf) Gentile, D.A., Coyne, S., & Walsh, D.A. (2010). Media violence, physical aggression, and relational aggression in school age children: A short-term longitudinal study. Aggressive Behavior 37, 193-206. DOI: 10.1002/ab.20380 Halford, J.C.G., Gillespie, J., Brown, V., Pontin, E.E., & Dovey, T.M. (2003). Effect of television advertisements for foods on food...
On this episode we introduce the podcast’s new book reviewer (#BookTalkwithBeth) and talk about her current favorite parenting reads. Plus, Whitney gets real about some postpartum mental health experiences and we ask all of you to grade Drew on a scale of 1 to Donald Trump. Resources & Links: -- Follow Beth’s adventures: http://instagram.com/mrs.simon -- Beth’s book picks: How Toddlers Thrive (http://www.tovahklein.com/), The Read Aloud Handbook (http://www.trelease-on-reading.com/), Nurtureshock (http://www.nurtureshock.com/) -- Whitney’s pick for Person Place or Thing: public meetings http://tiny.cc/u70hfy -- Drew’s pick: thoughts on Columbus Day from Native Americans http://tiny.cc/o7rjfy Just a Phase is produced by Whitney Crispell. Theme music is “Urbana-Metronica (wooh-yeah mix)” by spinningmerkaba, and used under a Creative Commons license. Find us online at http://justaphasepodcast.tumblr.com or @justaphasepodcast
Host Brad Kearns talks with New York Times bestselling author Ashley Merryman (author of Nurture Shock and Top Dog). Ashley offers an assortment of interesting insights that challenge our conventional notions of parenting and competitive success. She will be presenting at the next Primalcon in Oxnard next September. Ashley relates the disparate challenges of focusing on writing and research versus the ambitious efforts to lecture to live audiences. Unlike many keynote speakers, Ashley makes the effort to create a customized presentation based on the nature and interests of her audience.
Working with the best - whether you're hiring or hoping to be hired - is the topic of the conversation this week. More or less. Sam and Simon talk about talent and how to find it, along with partridge hunting and some other stuff. Things mentioned in this episode: We spent a whole lot of time talking about the The Hybrid Traits Model. BOOKS Talent is Overrated by Geoff Colvin The Examined Life - Stephen Grosz The Happiness Hypothesis by Jonathan Haidt Nurtureshock by Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman The 7 Day Weekend and Maverick by Ricardo Semler MOVIES Fight Club. STUFF Medium. FutureLife.
Another listener request: We discuss napping and the IDEAL napping arrangement. Is nap time for the kids or the adults? Why not let kids sleep when they need to sleep? Are infant swings overused? Should child care centers have space for staff to nap? Thanks for listening! Like the show? Consider supporting our work by becoming a Patron , shopping our Amazon Link, or sharing it with someone who might enjoy it. You can leave a comment or ask a question here. Click the links for more Jeff or Lisa.
Segment A: NurtureShock Modern strategies for nurturing children are producing unexpected - and often unwanted - results. In this HearSay Classic, Cathy talks with Po Bronson, author of "NutureShock," about the counterintuitive truths science is unveiling about today's parenting strategies. Segment B: Your Musical Child Does your child complain when it's time to practice their piano? What is the best way to encourage children to choose to an instrument - and then stick with it? On this HearSay Classic, we'll talk about the best ways to bring music (without tears) into your home.
NurtureShock – New Thinking About Children is one of today's hottest books on parenting, kids, and education. In it, our guest, Ashley Merryman and co-author Po Bronson use the latest science to debunk much of the conventional wisdom that is behind the way we raise and educate our kids. For example, we think praising our […] The post 30 Minute Mom – NurtureShock – New Thinking About Children – Meet co-author Ashley Merryman! appeared first on WebTalkRadio.net.
Segment A: A tired child is a cranky child. It's nothing new to parents, but some scientists say they're finding children with chronic sleep problems have a raised risk of developing a mental illness later in life. "The brains of children are far more plastic and amenable to change," says Dr. Candice Alfano, assistant professor of psychology and pediatrics at Children's National Medical Center in Washington, D.C. Dr. Alfano is also the director of the center's Child and Adolescent Anxiety Program and she will join us to talk about recent studies and programs at the center and the importance of a good night's sleep for your child. Segment B: In bestselling author Po Bronson's new book, "NurtureShock," the central premise is that many of modern society's strategies for nurturing children are backfiring because key twists in the science of it have been overlooked. The book covers a variety of counterintuitive topics, and relates to all stages of childhood, from toddlers to teens. During this half-hour, we'll talk with Po Bronson about his new book and take your calls at 440-2665 or 1-800-940-2240.
In this week's CampNation Dan, Gab, & Travis talk about the news in the world of summer camps. We were thrilled to have Scott Arizala (http://www.thecampcounselor.com/) join us from the TriState Camping Conference. He and Dan recorded while huddled around Dan's computer at the hotel. We took advantage of Scott's experience to discuss one of the topics that he had presented just that morning. Links - News about the camping/recreation industry (Dan) US survey finds sharp drop in children's bullying (Travis) OKGo video as Camp activity (Gab) DNTO (Definitely Not the Opera) episode with Chris Thurber. The interview takes place early on in the hour, about 1/5 of the way in. Discussion - You're Fired (and other difficult management conversations) Picks Of The Week - A tool that will make you a better camp director Dan - Good to Great by Jim Collins Gab - Afternoon slump? Use peppermint and cinnamon to help keep your staff alert Scott - Nurture Shock by Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman Travis - Rubbermaid Farm Cart Your Hosts: Dan Weir – Frost Valley YMCA (New York) Gabrielle Raill – Camp Ouareau (Quebec) Scott Arizala - The Camp Counselor.com (Oregon) Travis Allison – Our Kids Media
We're kicking off the fifth season of The Mojo Mom Podcast! We wish a fond farewell to co-host Sheryl Grant who is starting grad school full time. Amy welcomes her new co-host Patty Ayers. Amy and Patty have worked together behind the scenes for many years and are excited to talk about current issues together on the podcast. In this episode they talk about Patty's empty-nester move to Mexico (you can see photos on Patty's blog) and then discuss the controversy that erupted this week about a breastfeeding mother who was fired by the Totes/Isotoner corporation for taking "unauthorized" breaks to pump her milk.Then Mojo Mom talks to Po Bronson, co-author of NurtureShock: New Thinking about Children. In this important new book, Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman bring to light new scientific findings that can change the way we view child development.
Wh a t a n honor to meet this meg a -bestselling a uthor in person in Los A ngeles a nd cr a nk out a n interesting podc a st! Ashley has be en spreading the word about her two very important books for over a decade , speaking and consulting internationally to sports teams, business leaders, and parent and school groups. She also operates a cool non-profit tutoring program for inner city kids in LA. Her books , written with Stanford professor Po Bronson, have rocked our world and make us rethink the most basic notions about parenting and the nature of healthy competition. Interested researchers and readers are transcending dated and harmful cultural values and embraced the new possibilities comm unicated wonderfully by Ashley and Po. The first book was called Nurtureshock : New Thinking About Children. The world of Carol Dweck , Stanford professor and author of Mindset , was highlighted. The idea that this effusive praise, obsession with boosting self-esteem, and helicopter parenting to ensure kids don’t suffer or fail was called into question. Kids need healthy struggle and setbacks to grow and develop resilience and determination. They benefit from adopting a “growth mindset,” where the emphasis is on effort and improvement rather than results. The research from Nurtureshock was the inspiration for the next book, Top Dog. If you are interested in competition and peak performance in any area (business, athletics, parenting), this book will provide lasting insights and strategies to be the best you can be, and not succumb to the dangers of a lame, ineffective approach to competition. Interestingly, Ashley relates that she has been rethinking the emphasis placed on effort and instead prefers to focus on improvement. We all know how misdirected effort may not lead to improvement and can even be unhealthy—such as with an overtrained athlete or the college student who pulls all-nighters and eats Top Ramen in the name of delivering maximum effort. In these examples, excess effort or a narrow focus on effort alone will not lead to success or happiness. Reference my podcast about the Japanese Soccer Team ( https://www.bradkearns.com/2018/08/21/breather-the-japanese-soccer-teams-clean-locker-room-and-evolved-competitive-spirit/ ) and the Japanese cultural ethic of doryoku , translated as honorable effort. You could infer this means dispensing effort in a focused and productive manner to stimulate improvement. Ashley garnered attention years ago for stating that the long-standing practice of giving every kid a trophy is a bad idea. After much reflection and controversy, Ashley is more certain than ever that this is a really bad idea! Listen to her go off about the many ways in which our cultural trophy policy cheapens the experience for everyone. We also get into the groundbreaking article that changed my mindset and approach to parenting on the spot when I first read it in 2007. It’s called the Inverse Power of Praise and I did a blog post about it that I send to anyone who will listen. This article led to the NurtureShock book project. The article calls into question the self-esteem movement that has led to the widespread concerns about helicopter parenting today. Ashley talks about how to set rewards to generate optimum outcomes for competition. A local 5k promoting a healthy community (everyone gets a finisher medal, that’s fine), versus a contest to discover the most distinguished performers. A college application process for an Ivy League admission could be a good example: many competitors, few prizes. You will love this show and be compelled to grab these books and go in for a deep immersion. Following is some details about Ashley and Po’s work, and accolades, to get you excited about Ashley and Po’s work: Ashley and Po have won nine national awards for reporting. Merryman's been on countless radio and television shows, while email, Facebook, and Twitter are filled with demands to read her essays, such as "Losing is Good for You," "How Not to Talk to Your Kids," and "Creativity Crisis." Among the awards for Top Dog was a "Best Book of the Month" by both Barnes & Noble and Amazon, while Salary.com said it was the #1 book that every entrepreneur must read. Top Dog is an astonishing blend of science and storytelling that reveals what's really in the heart of a champion. It's about the thrill of victory and the character-building agony of defeat. Testosterone and the neuroscience of mistakes. Why rivals motivate. How home field advantage gets you a raise. What teamwork really requires. It's baseball, Wall Street financial analysts, the SAT, sales contests, and Linux software. How before da Vinci and FedEx were innovators, first, they were great competitors. Olympians, professional athletes, and their coaches are already carrying Top Dog around in gym bags. It's in the briefcases of Wall Street traders and Madison Ave. madmen. Professional risk takers - from Silicon Valley venture capitalists to Vegas gamblers - are racing to master its ideas, while educators and philosophers are debating it the halls of academia. Merryman and Bronson's previous book, NurtureShock : New Thinking About Children, is also a New York Times bestseller, translated into sixteen languages to date. But beyond that, it has become one of the most influential books about children ever been published. With impeccable storytelling and razor-sharp analysis, Merryman and Bronson demonstrate that many of modern society's strategies for nurturing children are in fact backfiring--because key twists in the science have been overlooked. Merryman has written for Newsweek, Time , the New York Times , the Washington Post, New York, the Guardian, and many more. A frequent commentator on radio and television, Merryman has appeared on shows such as: Fox & Friends; CNN's AC 360 and CNN Newsroom; The Charlie Rose Show; The Tavis Smiley Show; @ KatieCouric ; Canada AM; BBC World News; NPR's Tell Me More and On Point; and many others around the world. Honors for Merryman and Bronson include: the PEN Center USA Literary Award for Journalism; the American Association for the Advancement of Science (AAAS) Award for Science Journalism; an "Audie" from the Audio Publishers Association; and two Clarion Awards. And their work is considered so substantial that scientists themselves rely on their reporting. Their work has been cited as a research authority in 80 academic journals and 260 books, and it is being used as text in universities around the world. You'll find references to their work in publications by the White House to speeches by politicians around the globe. Merryman lives in Los Angeles, where she has directed a small all-volunteer tutoring program for inner-city kids for 15 years ; in that time, her program has helped over 800 children. For her civic involvement, she received commendations from both the Clinton and Bush Administrations. An attorney, Merryman previously served as a speechwriter in the Clinton Administration. Merryman holds a Bachelor of Fine Arts from the University of Southern California's School of Cinematic Arts, a J.D. from the Georgetown University's Law Center, and a Certificate in Irish Studies from Queen's University, Belfast, Northern Ireland. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-get-over-yourself-podcast/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
*An interesting mix of questions gives an opportunity to sound off on important insights covered in previous shows.* First, a cross country skier says hills and altitude causing elevated heart rates can require possibly more dietary carbs? I say find a way to slow down - same for me on the mountain bike! Gabrielle the super mum from Aussie land references the great show about Ashley Merryman and Po Bronson’s insights about effort-based praise in the book Nurtureshock ( https://www.amazon.com/NurtureShock-New-Thinking-About-Children/dp/0446504130/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=Nurtureshock&qid=1592426009&sr=8-1 ) and the epic 2007 New York Magazine article, The Power (And Peril) Of Praising Your Kids ( https://nymag.com/news/features/27840/ ) , that changed my approach to parenting forever. Gabrielle makes great points about separating specific praise with declarations of love and also being proud of a child’s character instead of achievements. I mention how I’ve had incredibly disparate guests on the show, like vegan advocate Rip Esselstyn ( https://www.bradkearns.com/2019/11/12/ripesselstyn/ ) and carnivore leaders Dr. Paul Saladino ( https://www.bradkearns.com/2019/05/28/saladino/ ) and Dr. Shawn Baker ( https://www.bradkearns.com/2020/03/24/dr-shawn-baker-carnivore-for-healing-and-athletic-performance/ ). I reflect that I’m not an “in your face” host getting into controversy with my guests, as I prefer to cultivate an open mind and willingness to appreciate alternate points of view. Obviously, Rip and I have drastically disparate positions on healthy eating, but during our show and with our friendship, I prefer to focus on the incredible work he has done to motivate and inspire people to be healthy, and the common ground that we do share about healthy eating and living. Hopefully if I need to be badass at some point I will step up, we’ll see! Another commenter remembers the great show with boy wonder health expert Matt Maruca ( https://www.bradkearns.com/2020/03/10/matt-maruca/ ) , founder of RAOptics.com, and how he is taking Matt’s message to his adult kids and himself. He also notes his excitement for my next venture into food, Brad’s Macadamia Mix, a combination of superfoods blended together to form the most delectable, nutrient rich nut butter. Seriously, this stuff is so delicious you will be eating it straight out of the jar. Stay tuned for that, and keep the questions coming - I love receiving, and reading through such compelling commentary, so email ( getoveryourselfpodcast@gmail.com ) your feedback and any and all questions you have. *TIMESTAMPS:* Wade, a Nordic skier, has a question about maintaining heart rate. Is a low carb diet approach consistent with the extreme metabolic demands of this athlete? [06:12] Even with altitude and hills, it’s important to continue to maintain the heart rate under the aerobic maximum. [08:39] What is the role of carbohydrates in the lifestyle of a high performing athlete? [10:10] Females need to pay particular heed in order to be fit for reproduction. [14:31] Gabrielle asks about the parenting podcast where the message is: When praising kids, saying you’re proud of them specifically on their achievement is ill-advised. [18:01] Should you tell your daughter she is pretty, when our culture tends to traffic on looks? [19:53] Be careful connecting “I love you” with the talent, rather than the effort, as this damages self-esteem. [22:14] Brad is suggesting we keep an open mind on vegan, vegetarian, carnivore diets. [23:31] John is getting back into triathlon and working on getting competitive while staying healthy. [28:41] *LINKS:* * Brad’s Shopping Page ( http://www.bradkearns.com/shop/ ) * *T* ry LGC ( https://www.letsgetchecked.com/us/en/home-male-hormone-test/?clickid=sf20yjt3gxyotqx0rhqk3xrkukiyystjryjiyw0&irgwc=1&utm_campaign=8695&utm_content=male+hormone+category+page+_text_link_&utm_medium=affiliates&utm_source=impact&utm_term=1723458_ ) * Autophagy ( https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/autophagy ) * Dr. Tommy Wood podcast ( https://www.bradkearns.com/2019/12/03/tommy-wood-3/ ) * Ashley Merryman podcast ( https://www.bradkearns.com/2019/03/12/merryman/ ) * Matt Maruca podcast ( https://www.bradkearns.com/2020/03/10/matt-maruca/ ) * Rip Esselstyn podcast ( https://www.bradkearns.com/2019/11/12/ripesselstyn/ ) * Dr. Paul Saladino ( https://carnivoremd.com/ ) * Nurture Shock ( https://www.amazon.com/NurtureShock-New-Thinking-About-Children/dp/0446504130/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&gclid=Cj0KCQjwoaz3BRDnARIsAF1RfLft1oU_kQhO8udtX878GJi_CEWyDoLicNZtYtljpEOkhOZTtzElo4saAm09EALw_wcB&hvadid=241582573437&hvdev=c&hvlocphy=9031175&hvnetw=g&hvqmt=e&hvrand=9974782778629216077&hvtargid=kwd-13631051471&hydadcr=15492_10339794&keywords=nurture+shock&qid=1592511316&sr=8-1&tag=googhydr-20 ) * CarnivoreMD ( http://carnivoremd.com ) * MeatRX ( http://meatrx.com ) *Quotes:* * “The essence of modern life is overfeeding of the cells. When your cells are depleted of energy, that’s when your cells start to do better at recycling old material, repairing, rejuvenating, rebuilding, and you become a more efficient human being - the same with fasting. So if you put those two together, you’re achieving the same goals to the extent that it’s possible to overstress the body and stimulate a flight or fight response.” * "Don’t pile on too many stress variables particularly if you’re a female - fasting and low carb is just too much." Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-get-over-yourself-podcast/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands