Podcast appearances and mentions of ashley merryman

Ashley Merryman is an author, speaker, and expert in human behavior, best known for her work on the science of achievement, motivation, and parenting. She co-authored NurtureShock: New Thinking About Children and Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing. Ashley has also contributed to major publications such as The New York Times, The Washington Post, and Time Magazine, and has appeared on numerous national television programs to discuss her work. Through her writing and speaking, she helps individuals and organizations understand the nuances of human behavior and the science behind making better decisions, whether in the home, workplace, or broader society.Topics-Myths and Misconceptions about competition and performance-Why some people get turned on while others get turned off by competition-The role of environment in competition-How genetic make up and response to stress impacts competition-Gender differences in competition-Threat vs. ChallengeDownload my FREE top 40 book list written by Mindset Advantage guests: www.djhillier.com/40booksSubscribe to our NEW YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@MindsetAdvantagePurchase a copy of my book: https://a.co/d/bGok9UdFollow me on Instagram: @deejayhillierConnect with me on my website: www.djhillier.com

Welcome to the first of a multi-part series where I cover brief and not-so-brief highlights from many of my favorite podcast guests, starting with Dave Rossi, who offers an invaluable perspective on redirecting your thoughts and actions when you experience stress, as well as some parenting tips. You'll hear some more parenting tips from Ashley Merryman, like the importance of emphasizing and praising effort made toward improvement, and truly fantastic advice from Thais Gibson to help you overcome self-sabotage. I've also included some of my favorite clips of Dr. John DeMartini talking about following your inspired purpose and from Dain Heer on formulating a healthy perspective. You will also learn how thoughts manifest cellular function from Bruce Lipton and how to overcome dopamine addiction with Dr. Anna Lembke. Finally, Luke Storey teaches us about manifestation and Don Goewey discusses self-awareness. Some of these personal growth insights are quite short and some are more lengthy, but what they all have in common is their wisdom and ability to stay with you and help you improve your life.    TIMESTAMPS: As Brad shares some of his favorite excerpts from some of his many podcasts. He firsts asks “Should I be doing this right now?” (Dave Rossi) [01:57] About parenting, Rossi says, “When talking to the kids, have good eye contact and constant affirmations of love and support.” [03:15] It is not necessary to praise the child for athletic ability, beauty, or smarts, it can sometimes be detrimental to their self-esteem. [08:05] Be honest with your feedback. Praise the effort toward improvement. [11:36] Thais Gibson used Brad as a subject by which she could describe her work as a personal growth expert.  When there is a conflict between your goals and behaviors, that is the definition of self-sabotage [14:12] Manifestation usually does not work because our mindset cuts us off from the potential power that it might have. {20:52] Don Goewey describes a four-step process to become more self-aware and well-adjusted. [24:39] What do you do spontaneously every day that requires no motivation and brings you joy and fulfillment and makes a positive contribution to the world? [27:16] If you don't empower your life, other people will overpower you. [33:54] When you get frustrated, ask yourself a question. Who does this belong to? [34:45] Bruce Lipton believes that our thoughts affect the cellular function in our bodies at all times. The messages we get in the first seven years of life continue on into our adult subconscious.  [40:20] When you change your thoughts, you can change your energy level and interest in your situation. [47:37] There are three ways to reprogram your subconscious and change your life. [49:11] The powerful pull of hyperconnectivity has landed just about everyone in the category of addiction. [52:54] The routine things you do in daily life can take on epic proportions, but it doesn't mean you have to get to the top of the mountain. [57:16]   LINKS: B.rad Whey Protein Isolate Superfuel - The Best Protein on The Planet! Available in Three Delicious Flavors: Vanilla Bean and Cocoa Bean and our Newest Flavor, Peanut Butter! NEW: B.rad Superfruits - Organic Freeze-Dried Exotic Fruit Powder! 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Z tego odcinka dowiesz się: Jak często rodzeństwa się kłócą? Z jakich powodów dochodzi do kłótni rodzeństwa? Czy to, że dzieci często się kłócą może mieć jakieś konsekwencje dla ich relacji w przyszłości? Co rodzic rodzeństwa może robić, kiedy jego dzieci się kłócą, czy biją? Jak rozmawiać ze skłóconymi dziećmi? Wspomniana książka: Po Bronson, Ashley Merryman, Rewolucja w wychowaniu. Chcesz lepiej wspierać relację swoich dzieci? Sprawdź szkolenie: „Jak wspierać relacje rodzeństwa?” i pomóż swoim dzieciom (przynajmniej) się polubić! https://mamologia.pl/rodzenstwo/ _____________________________ Rodzeństwo | Relacja rodzeństwa

This episode looks at “Law Films You Won't Want to Miss,” a recent list of "the most captivating legal themed movies," published in U.S. News and World Report.  Which movies are on the list? Which didn't make the cut? And what does the list tell us about “law movies”—and of great law movies? One film on the list may be something of a surprise: Miracle on 34th Street (1947) written and directed by George Seaton, from a story by Valentine Davies. In this Christmas holiday classic, the events director of Macy's Department Store in NYC, Doris Walker (Maureen O'Hara) hires an old man named Kris Kringle (Edmund Gwenn, who won an Oscar as best supporting actor) to serve as Macy's Santa Clause after the prior Santa is fired for being a drunk. Kringle not only closely resembles Santa Clause but believes he is Santa. Kringle is welcomed into Doris's home and makes a favorable impression on Doris's daughter Susan (Natalie Wood).  Kringle also makes an impression at work. He advises one customer to go to another store when Macy's can't fulfill her son's request for a particular toy instead of trying to sell her something else. This turns out to be a public relations stroke of genius, demonstrating Macy's concern for and loyalty to its customers. But Kringle's success at Macy's doesn't last. He gets into a dispute  with another employee who insists Kringle be fired and put into a mental hospital. A civil commitment hearing takes place, where the question centers on whether Kringle's belief that he is Santa Clause shows he is insane. Miracle on 34th Street raises timeless questions how law should treat beliefs.  I'm joined by Ashley Merryman, the author of the list, “Law Films You Won't Want to Miss.”Timestamps:0:00     Introduction4:21     The top law movies5:16     What makes a great law movie9:19     Witness for the Prosecution and other favorites16:16   Erin Brockovich and why great law movies aren't always courtroom dramas22:54   Some also-rans29:45   Why Miracle on 34th Street made the list31:53   A take on how politics informs courts and trials35:34   Proving Santa Claus through a federal postal regulation39:47   The legal realism of Miracle on 34th Street41:40   When holiday movies were released in the spring45:34   When courts are the arbiter of beliefs 51:04   Fun facts in compiling the best law movies list57:29   Introducing the new Q & A segmentFurther reading:Davis, Kevin, "The 25 Greatest Legal Movies: Expanding the Boundaries," ABA Journal (Aug. 2018) Merryman, Ashley, “Law Films You Won't Want to Miss,” U.S. News & World Report  (Feb. 1, 2024)Minnow, Nell, “An Idea Is a Greater Monument than a Cathedral: Deciding How We Know What We Know in ‘Inherit the Wind,'” 30 U.S.F. L. Rev. 1225 (1996) Olear, Greg, “‘Miracle on 34th Street': Best Christmas movie ever,”? Salon (Dec. 24, 2012) Law on Film is created and produced by Jonathan Hafetz. Jonathan is a professor at Seton Hall Law School. He has written many books and articles about the law. He has litigated important cases to protect civil liberties and human rights while working at the ACLU and other organizations. Jonathan is a huge film buff and has been watching, studying, and talking about movies for as long as he can remember. For more information about Jonathan, here's a link to his bio: https://law.shu.edu/faculty/full-time/jonathan-hafetz.cfmYou can contact him at jonathanhafetz@gmail.comYou can follow him on X (Twitter) @jonathanhafetz You can follow the podcast on X (Twitter) @LawOnFilmYou can follow the podcast on Instagram @lawonfilmpodcast

Ashley Merryman is an expert on the science of winning and has helped Olympic and professional athletes, Fortune 100 execs, and military leaders compete more successfully. Here, she reveals strategies that have transformed the world of elite performance — including how to thrive under pressure, benefit from a loss, and more.She is the co-author of Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing.

April is Sexual Assault Awareness and Prevention month. It's a time—recognized by civilian and U.S. military communities—intended to promote the prevention of sexual violence, especially in U.S. armed forces. In light of Sexual Assault Awareness and Prevention month, Lawfare Associate Editor Katherine Pompilio sat down with author and attorney Ashley Merryman, who previously served at the Pentagon as Special Advisor for the Department of the Navy's Sexual Assault Prevention and Response Office. They discussed the prevalence of sexual assault and harassment at U.S. military academies, the dangerous shortcomings of the Pentagon's “lowest level” policy to address sexual harassment, how the policy came to be and why it persists, and policy recommendations for the future.Listener discretion is advised. This episode contains discussion of sexual harassment and assault.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/lawfare. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The MAP boys sit down to discuss the results of their MindVue profile assessments they took after MindVue founder, Brian Davidson, was a guest on the show. The assessment looks at 13 different skills including grit, resilience, hope, etc. The boys talked about how enlightening the process was and they try and shed some light on the importance of recognizing that this is just a snapshot and not a fixed score. Other topics include: upcoming guests, Ashley Merryman and Brian Johnson from Heroic.For more information about MindVue and the assessment: www.mindvue.com Have a question or comment for the show: podcast@mentaladvantage.netWant to work with John Cullen: john.cullen@mentaladvantage.netTo reach Brandon Allen: brandon.allen@mentaladvantage.net

Ashley Merryman (www.AshleyMerryman.com) changes the world's dialogue. She finds the science essential to understanding what makes people tick—what motivates us, what inspires us—from individual quirks to institutional phenomena. Then she explains how to use these insights to transform our lives. The best place to get them is to subscribe to her newly reborn newsletter www.thesherwoodreport.com  Her book NurtureShock, co-authored with Po Bronson, has become one of the most influential books about children ever published. On the New York Times bestseller list for more than six months and an Amazon Top Nonfiction 100 book for over a year, it has been translated into 20 languages. Their follow-up, Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing, was another instant New York Times bestseller with foreign translations around the world. Since its publication, Top Dog has revolutionized the world of elite performance. Coaches of professional sports carry it in their bags. Olympians have described themselves as “Top Dog athletes.” In addition to cover stories and more for Newsweek and New York, Merryman has had bylines in the New York Times, Time, the Washington Post, CNN.com, the Guardian, ESPN Magazine, and others. Her media appearances include: CNN's Anderson Cooper 360; Fox and Friends; CBS This Morning; @KatieCouric; John Stossel; ESPN's Outside the Lines; HBO's Real Sports with Bryant Gumbel; Red Bull's Visions of Greatness; BBC's World News and Sports Hour; and NPR's On Point. She is also a contributor to Chronicle Books' bestselling 642 Things to Write About. (And she once delighted “Mr. Wonderful” Kevin O'Leary with an on-air explanation of how science could predict his success, while Stephen Colbert devoted a segment of The Colbert Report to her take on kids and competition.) REGISTER NOW! The 2023 Way of Champions Conference will be held August 4-6, 2023 at Colorado Academy in Denver, CO. Click here to learn more and register.  You can save $100 until April 1 by entering EARLYBIRD at checkout, as well as get access to the best hotel rooms right across the street from Colorado Academy. Its going to be amazing to be back in person in 2023!  This week's podcast is brought to you by our friends at Sprocket Sports.  Sprocket Sports is a new software platform for youth sports clubs.  There are a lot of these systems out there, but Sprocket provides the full enchilada. They give you all the cool front-end stuff to make your club look good– like websites and marketing tools – AND all the back-end transactions and services to run your business better so you can focus on what really matters – your players and your teams.  Sprocket is built for those clubs looking to thrive, not just survive, in the competitive world of youth sports clubs.  So if you've been looking for a true business partner – not just another app – check them out today at https://sprocketsports.me/CTG. Become a Podcast Champion! This weeks podcast is also sponsored by our Patreon Podcast Champions. Help Support the Podcast and get FREE access to our most popular online courses, a $300 value. If you love the podcast, we would love for you to become a Podcast Champion, (https://www.patreon.com/wayofchampions) for as little as a cup of coffee per month (OK, its a Venti Mocha), to help us up the ante and provide even better interviews, better sound, and an overall enhanced experience. Plus, as a $10 per month Podcast Super-Champion, you will have access to never before released and bonus material, including: Downloadable transcripts of our best podcasts, so you don't have to crash your car trying to take notes! A code to get free access to our online course called “Coaching Mastery,” usually a $97 course, plus four other courses worth over $100, all yours for free for becoming a patron. Other special bonus opportunities that come up time to time Access to an online community of coaches like you who are dedicated listeners of the podcast, and will be able to answer your questions and share their coaching experiences. Thank you for all your support these past four years, and a special big thank you to all of you who become part of our inner circle, our patrons, who will enable us to take our podcast to the next level. https://www.patreon.com/wayofchampions

On this episode of The DEB Show, host Debra Eckerling talks about Winning with guests Ashley Merryman, "Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing;" Leadership Results Coach and Consultant Jeannette Seibly, and Kris Ward, "Win the Hour, Win the Day." This conversation covers three sides of the "winning" coin. Ashley specializes in the science of winning, Jeannette's focus is on bragging, and Kris believes winning goes hand-in-hand with your quality of life we cover all three. Plus, Ashley, Jeannette, and Kris share their takes on winning - and some of their wins, tips for winning, and much more.

In today's episode, we cover the science of competition with Ashley Merryman. Ashley is the Non-Resident Senior Fellow for the Joint Special Operations University and author of Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing.Competition can be healthy and unhealthy, so how do you know the difference between healthy and unhealthy competition, what are the differences between how introverts and extroverts handle competition, and how does gender play a role in competition?What to Listen ForIntroduction – 0:00What are the biggest myths surrounding competition and trying to be number one?What are the benefits of competition?Healthy vs Unhealthy Competition – 9:00 What is the difference between healthy competition and unhealthy competition?Where does the fear of failure come from?Overcome Fear of Failure – 15:30What is the difference between a challenge and a threat and how can one lead you to failure while the other leads to success?What can you do to overcome the fear of failure when you know people are watching you?Don't Think About Pink Elephants – 29:40What can you do to start being competitive again after a severe loss?What are the differences between men and women when it comes to competition and competitive environments?What role does gender play in competition?Introverts vs Extroverts in Competition – 56:20Why do introverts and extroverts approach competition differently and how can you use that knowledge to improve your ability to compete whether you are an introvert or extrovert?Competition can be a powerful motivator, but it's important to make sure that you are using it in a healthy way. When competition becomes destructive and fear-based, it ruins our relationships and keeps us from achieving our goals. By understanding your own tendencies and working on overcoming your fears, you can learn to use competition in a positive way that unlocks your full potential.A Word From Our SponsorsDo you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. Join today and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it's a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that's in your way.Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalog when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using our link? That's 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month!Running out of things to say in conversation… and still struggling to get people interested in you? That's an uncomfortable position to be in. Don't want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone? Check out Conversation Magic now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere!Resources from this EpisodeTop Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing by Ashley MerrymanAshley Merryman's websiteAshley Merryman on TwitterCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube

The MAP boys sit down to discuss feedback from the previous episode with Ashley Merryman and her book "Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing." They also review some questions sent in by long-time friend of the show, Sean O'Neil, who shared some questions relating to the role of ego and momentum in competition. The boys breakdown the difference between playing to win vs. playing not to lose. They share some great personal development questions and strategies to be used in habit forming and goal setting.To write the show: podcast@mentaladvantage.netTo write John Cullen: john.cullen@mentaladvantage.netTo write Brandon Allen: brandon.allen@mentaladvantage.net

The MAP boys sit down with Ashley Merryman, the co-author (along with Po Bronson) of "Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing." Their book, "NurtureShock", has become one of the most influential books about children ever published. Both books are New York Times bestsellers. Merryman has written for the NY TImes, Time, the Washington Post, CNN.com, the Guardian, ESPN Magazine, and others. She has made appearances on CNN's Anderson Cooper 360; Fox and Friends; CBS This Morning; ESPN's Outside the Lines; HBO's Real Sports with Bryant GumbelAmong other topics, she discusses the importance of competition in development - difference in types of competitors - the impact TEAM can have on competitors - how the way you set up a competition can have influence on the competitors - difference between genders in competition, etc.To view more from Ashley -- go to her website: www.ashleymerryman.com Questions or comments for the show: podcast@mentaladvantage.netTo contact John Cullen: john.cullen@mentaladvantage.netTo contact Brandon Allen: brandon.allen@mentaladvantage.net

  Today's guest is Ashley Merryman the best selling author of Nurture Shock. As a social science writer of distinction, she has written for Newsweek, Time, the New York Times, the Washington Post on various topics related to parenting and children. Her work has been cited as a research authority in 80 academic journals and 260 books, and it is being used as text in universities around the world. Educational stops included a Bachelor of Fine Arts from the University of Southern California's School of Cinematic Arts, a J.D. from the Georgetown University's Law Center, and a Certificate in Irish Studies from Queen's University, Belfast, Northern Ireland. What she really is is a great speaker on the hard topics of science and social existence. This is a one hour journey through 2 major topics. Please enjoy my conversation with Ashley Merryman, Dr. M

On this Heard Tell Good Talks, we follow up on the story we covered last week about Veterans Affairs and the bureaucracy that is failing our vets, especially older vets who need care the most with author Ashley Merryman. This story is personal to her as she uses the example of her own family member, explains why those stories break through where the statistics do not, and why we have such a bad record of improving things at the VA. Ashley also points out that while government moved heaven and earth with COVID-19 relief, no such measures where taken for veterans even as COVID-19 protocols prevented their care and slowed their applications for benefits.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/heard-tell/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Heard Tell for February 7th, 2022, is turning down the noise and getting to the information we need about the emerging Mike Pence vs Donald Trump feud that is bubbling up with the former Vice President's recent comments. But why is Pence saying that now, and what does it mean for the future. Also, with what we know about the Amir Locke shooting in Minneapolis there are some troubling trends, all-too familiar issues, and the usual running to the pre-established ramparts over policing. We follow up on the story we covered last week about Veterans Affairs and the bureaucracy that is failing our vets, especially older vets who need care the most with author Ashley Merryman. This story is personal to her as she uses the example of her own family member, explains why those stories break through where the statistics do not, and why we have such a bad record of improving things at the VA. Ashley also points out that while government moved heaven and earth with COVID-19 relief, no such measures where taken for veterans even as COVID-19 protocols prevented their care and slowed their applications for benefits. We also talk about how the supply chain is now affected cook books, and a special young lady gets a helping hand from an NFL player. All that and more on this Monday edition of Heard Tell.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/heard-tell/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Dr. Kristen Dieffenbach (@DrDCoachScience) is an associate professor of Athletic Coaching Education, director of the Center for Applied Coaching and Sport Science at West Virginia University and president of the United States Center for Coaching Excellence. She is an Association of Applied Sport Psychology certified consultant, public relations and outreach head on the AASP e-board and president of the United States Center for Coaching Excellence. Dieffenbach is a professional coach with a category 1 (elite) USA Cycling license and Level II endurance specialization from USA Track and Field. She has coached for more than 20 years at the high school, collegiate, recreational and elite levels and works with coaching education at all levels of performance. Dieffenbach's teaching interests include coaching techniques, professional development and professionalism in coaching, ethics and moral development in coaching, coaching theory, training theory, long term athlete development, long term coaching development, coaching education, sport psychology for coaching and gender and sport. In our discussion today we touch upon an oftentimes controversial yet incredibly important topic for coaches: is there is difference between coaching boys and coaching girls? We discuss the research, the cultural differences, and so much more. There is a reason this is one of our most popular episodes ever.  Resources/People/Articles Mentioned in Podcast Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls by Mary Pipher  Link The Beauty Myth: How Images of Beauty Are Used Against Women, by Naomi Wolf Link The Beauty Myth, by Naomi Wolf  Link Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys, by Michael Thompson Link Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions into Adulthood, by Lisa Damour Ph.D  Link Boys Adrift, by Leonard Sax Link Taking the Field: Women, Men, and Sports, by Michael A. Messner Link Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing, by Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman, Link US Center for Coaching Excellence www.uscoachexcellence.org Dr. Kristen Nash John Kessel, USA Volleyball Connect With Dr. Dieffenbach Website: https://www.uscoachexcellence.org/ Twitter: @DRDCoachScience  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kristen-dieffenbach-b926843/ This week's podcast is brought to you by our friends at Sprocket Sports.  Sprocket Sports is a new software platform for youth sports clubs.  Yeah, there are a lot of these systems out there, but Sprocket provides the full enchilada. They give you all the cool front-end stuff to make your club look good– like websites and marketing tools – AND all the back-end transactions and services to run your business better so you can focus on what really matters – your players and your teams.  Sprocket is built for those clubs looking to thrive, not just survive, in the competitive world of youth sports clubs.  So if you've been looking for a true business partner – not just another app – check them out today at sprocketsports.com. Become a Podcast Champion! This weeks podcast is also sponsored by our Patreon Podcast Champions. Help Support the Podcast and get FREE access to our most popular online courses, a $300 value. If you love the podcast, we would love for you to become a Podcast Champion, (https://www.patreon.com/wayofchampions) for as little as a cup of coffee per month (OK, its a Venti Mocha), to help us up the ante and provide even better interviews, better sound, and an overall enhanced experience. Plus, as a $10 per month Podcast Super-Champion, you will have access to never before released and bonus material, including: Downloadable transcripts of our best podcasts, so you don't have to crash your car trying to take notes! A code to get free access to our online course called “Coaching Mastery,” usually a $97 course, plus four other courses worth over $100, all yours for free for becoming a patron. Other special bonus opportunities that come up time to time Access to an online community of coaches like you who are dedicated listeners of the podcast, and will be able to answer your questions and share their coaching experiences. Thank you for all your support these past four years, and a special big thank you to all of you who become part of our inner circle, our patrons, who will enable us to take our podcast to the next level. https://www.patreon.com/wayofchampions

V dnešní epizodě podcastu Rodičovská posilovna si psycholožka Ivana Štefková povídala s psychoterapeutem Janem Vávrou. Řeč byla o lhaní dětí rodičům a celkově o lžích a jejich významu v lidském vývoji a nejčastějších důvodech proč děti lžou rodičům, ale také o tom, jak můžeme podporovat upřímnost v rodině, a lžím předcházet. Inspirováni byli tentokrát knihou Paula Ekmana – Why kids lie – How parents can encourage truthfulness, ale také kapitolou knihy Nurture Shock od Po Bronsona a Ashley Merryman, která pojednává o výzkumech lží. Tyto výzkumy provádí především Dr. Victoria Talwar a informace o nich jsou na www.talwarresearch.com. Honza a Ivana spolu připravují kurzy odolnosti a Rodičovskou posilovnu – www.rodicovskaposilovna.cz

How do you get someone to say - YES? There is a simple phrase or two you can add to any request that will increase the chances that almost anyone will do you the favor you ask. This episode begins with what those phrases are. http://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/10510974.2012.727941?journalCode=rcst20 Certainly one of the appeals of watching professional sports is knowing you are watching the best of the best play the game. So how did those players get to be the best and what can you learn from that so you can get to the top of your game in your chosen field? What separates the very best from the “pretty good?” Ashley Merryman, co-author of the book, Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing (http://amzn.to/2CiopYU) reveals some fascinating stories and research that you can use to improve your chances of winning in whatever you choose to do. There isn’t a soul alive who hasn’t gotten an email or 2 (or perhaps thousands!) offering male enhancement pills, creams and lotions. The problem is, none of them work. And there is even a bigger problem with these fake potions. Listen and discover what it is. http://healthland.time.com/2013/05/16/the-dangers-lurking-in-male-sexual-supplements/ Are people becoming ruder? Sure seems that way to me. So where did this need to be “brutally honest” come from? Danny Wallace, author of the book, F You Very Much (http://amzn.to/2HeCzxV) looks at the origins of this new lack of civility as well as what it is doing and how we can stop it. The Washies: Here is the link to our new podcast I mention in this episode called The Washies, on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-washies/id1549712920 PLEASE SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS! Discover matches all the cash back you earn on your credit card at the end of your first year automatically! Learn more at https://discover.com/yes M1 Is the finance Super App, where you can invest, borrow, save and spend all in one place! Visit https://m1finance.com/something to sign up and get $30 to invest! The Jordan Harbinger Show is one of our favorite podcasts! Listen at https://jordanharbinger.com/subscribe , Apple Podcasts, Spotify or wherever you enjoy podcasts. Athletic Greens is doubling down on supporting your immune system during the winter months. Visit https://athleticgreens.com/SOMETHING and get a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! https://www.geico.com Bundle your policies and save! It's Geico easy! Now you can file a simple tax return for free and get free advice from a TurboTax Live expert until February 15! Please visit https://turbotax.com today for more information! You deserve to know what’s in your multivitamin. That’s why Ritual is offering my listeners 10% off during your first 3 months. Visit https://ritual.com/something to start your Ritual today. Helix is offering up to $200 off all mattress orders AND two free pillows for our listeners at https://helixsleep.com/sysk Backcountry.com is the BEST place for outdoor gear and apparel. Go to https://backcountry.com/sysk and use promo code SYSK to get 15% off your first full price purchase! Let NetSuite show you how they'll benefit your business with a FREE Product Tour at https://netsuite.com/SYSK Check out Dan Ferris and the Stansberry Investor Hour podcast at https://InvestorHour.com or on your favorite podcast app. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this weeks Coach's Road we welcome on Oliver David, Head Coach of the USHL Dubuque Fighting Saints. It was a great conversation this week with Oliver and we dive into his career, the core principles in his team and why he won the USHL Coach of the Year award in 2019-2020 season. Oliver shares a lot of great ideas and thoughts and creates a great open conversation in this weeks episode. We hope everyone enjoys the conversation with Oliver! Oliver has been on a few other podcasts including the USHL Podcast and the Glass and Out Podcast. Check out the links in our drive: http://bit.ly/t-c-r-drive. He also recommended some books in the episode including "The Best: How Elite Athletes Are Made" by Mark Williams and Tim Wigmore and "Top Dog" by Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman. Make sure you connect with Oliver on twitter @coachodavid and the show on social media @thecoachsroad. Thanks for listening and check out our other episode today with Tobias Johansson!

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Ashley Merryman is the author of two New York Times bestsellers: NurtureShock: New Thinking about Children and Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing. In this episode we discuss why she’s a Nationals fan (5:20), the power of sports and the community it builds (7:20), why she cares so deeply about excellence and competing (10:37), “flow” (14:15), emotional agility and grit (18:53), Angela Duckworth (25:40), differences among children and self-fulfilling prophecies (28:04), being perfectionistic in preparation and adaptable in performance (33:55), the importance of technical skill vs mentality (40:35), Ashley’s introduction to growth mindset (43:02), if her thoughts regarding growth mindset have changed at all over time, and the idea of fixed mindset vs growth mindset (48:12), if she believes people have innate “gifts” (56:15), epigenetics (1:01:25), if a fixed mindset could be helpful in performance (1:08:26), knowing your audience (1:17:43), strengths, weaknesses, faith, humility, and modesty (1:22:30), the humble leader vs the arrogant leader (1:30:25), why she became a lawyer and not a psychologist (1:36:38), the “challenge vs threat” concept (1:42:49), the value and process of competition (1:53:20), the relationship between growth and competition (1:54:40), and participation trophies (1:59:03). Thank you so much to Ashley for coming on the podcast! You can check out Ashley’s website here. Also make sure to follow her on twitter @AshleyMerryman. I wrote a book called “Shift Your Mind” that was released in October of 2020, and you can order it on Amazon and Barnes and Noble. Additionally, I have launched a company called Strong Skills, and I encourage you to check out our new website https://www.strongskills.co/. If you liked this episode and/or any others, please follow me on Twitter: @brianlevenson or Instagram: @Intentional_Performers. Thanks for listening. -Brian

Sometimes truths about parenting go against the grain—against what we assume is natural or normal. Ashley Merryman loves to find research that debunks conventionally held truths. Learn about the problem with praise, and what are some of the best ways to respond to kids. If you enjoyed this episode, and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram stories, and tag me @mindfulmamamentor. Have you left a review yet? All you have to do is go to  Apple Podcasts or  Stitcher (or wherever you listen), and thanks for your support of the show! Takeaways: Kids who are overpraised underperform. Little kids lie because they don’t want to disappoint. You can catch bad behavior from others. With Po Bronson, Ashley Merryman is the New York Times bestselling author of NurtureShock: New Thinking About Children and Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing. Get Hunter's book, Raising Good Humans now! Click here to order and get book bonuses! ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is a mindful mama mentor. She coaches smart, thoughtful parents on how to create calm and cooperation in their daily lives. Hunter has over 20 years of experience in mindfulness practices. She has taught thousands worldwide. Be a part of the tribe—we’re over 25 thousand strong! Download the audio training, Mindfulness For Moms (The Superpower You Need) for free! It's at mindfulmomguide.com. Find more podcasts, blog posts, free resources, and how to work with Hunter at MindfulMamaMentor.com. Be sure to check out this deal from this week’s sponsor: Get your first PAIR for $48 when you use code Hunter on paireyewear.com

Anna est éducatrice Montessori depuis 13 ans et travaille dans une ambiance 3-6 ans dans une école Parisienne. Anna partage son parcours et son expérience en France, en Californie, en Chine et en Italie. Dans son école Parisienne, des activités extra-scolaires sont proposées en milieu-fin d’après-midi. Cela évite aux parents de courir pour déposer et reprendre leurs enfants. Si vous avez des pistes pour proposer cela dans nos écoles en France, je suis preneuse. Et voici le titre du livre dont parlait Anna : Nurture Shock by Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman

In this second part of our interview with Victoria Zimmerman, we will talk about Victoria's experience with her pregnancy, her TTC journey, experiencing a miscarriage and pregnancy after loss, and some her ideas about parenthood. This episode originally aired June 16th, 2019. In this episode we explore: 2:01 How is Victoria's pregnancy going so far 2:53 The most challenge thing about her pregnancy 4:14 Vegan diet during pregnancy and pregnancy cravings 6:16 Nuggets of wisdom for first time pregnant mamas 8:00 What she didn't expect during pregnancy 10:58 Traveling while pregnant 12:16 Pregnancy items she swears by 14:16 Preparing for the arrival of baby while practicing minimalism 18:14 Victoria's miscarriage experience 23:36 Getting pregnant after loss 27:51 Dealing with the fear and anxiety when pregnant after a miscarriage 29:34 Victoria's TTC (Trying to Conceive) Journey 32:00 Boosting quality cervical fluid 34:58 Managing expectation each month of TTC 37:33 Parenting philosophies 39:56 Will they raise baby vegan? 40:54 Will they homeschool their children? 42:32 Traveling with a baby 43:36 Balancing family life with Youtube/Business 45:27 Dealing with criticism during pregnancy and with children 47:14 Book recommendations for pregnancy and parenting 49:48 Where you can find Victoria Show Notes: * Victoria's pregnancy playlist on youtube www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLo…k9Bee9dmlVWklPeZj * Things I didn't know/understand about pregnancy youtu.be/xU1qEf_bVe4 * What I wish I had known before trying to get pregnant youtu.be/0hZueizMptM * Things I did before I got pregnant youtu.be/yidEv8DWADo * Boosting Your Cervical Fluid blog post femmehead.com/blog/2019/3/1/boos…ng-my-luteal-phase * Bringing Up Bébé by Pamela Druckerman amzn.to/2IGNAcJ * The Importance of Being Little by Erika Christakis amzn.to/2MRjWGY * NurtureShock by Ashley Merryman and Po Bronson amzn.to/2MOszSV * The Kind Mama by Alicia Silverstone amzn.to/2KN3mp0 * Birthing From Within by Pam England and Rob Horowitz amzn.to/2RgJ7RU * Victoria's bookshelf femmehead.com/bookshelf About Victoria: Victoria is the creator of Femme Head, a platform empowering women with the knowledge and understanding of their menstrual cycle. She has build a growing community of over 80,000 subscribers on her youtube channel. She's also vegan and is a minimalist and also shares videos on those topics. She's currently in the 3rd trimester of her pregnancy. She is now sharing her vegan pregnancy journey on her Youtube Channel. Find Victoria Zimmerman/FemmeHead FemmeHead YouTube www.youtube.com/femmehead FemmeHead website femmehead.com/ Victoria’s Instagram www.instagram.com/thefemmehead/ Victoria's Vlog Channel www.youtube.com/user/victoriajones3647 Find Blooming Mamahood www.bloomingmamahood.com www.instagram.com/bloomingmamahood www.youtube.com/channel/UCjVfmdrY57kzAXDJvTj-jGg/ Find Laurie Lo www.instagram.com/_laurielo youtube.com/LaurieLo

Diving into what goes on behind the psychology in competitions. Super Bowl is a great example to show the truth behind the science of winning and losing later out in the book Top Dog by Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman. Enjoy! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mdrnac/message

Diving into healthy competition and an over view of what we will be covering in more sessions to come on Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman’s book Top Dog, the science of winning and losing. Enjoy! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mdrnac/message

In this second part of our interview with Victoria Zimmerman, we will talk about Victoria's experience with her pregnancy, her TTC journey, experiencing a miscarriage and pregnancy after loss, and some her ideas about parenthood. In this episode we explore: 2:01 How is Victoria's pregnancy going so far 2:53 The most challenge thing about her pregnancy 4:14 Vegan diet during pregnancy and pregnancy cravings 6:16 Nuggets of wisdom for first time pregnant mamas 8:00 What she didn't expect during pregnancy 10:58 Traveling while pregnant 12:16 Pregnancy items she swears by 14:16 Preparing for the arrival of baby while practicing minimalism 18:14 Victoria's miscarriage experience 23:36 Getting pregnant after loss 27:51 Dealing with the fear and anxiety when pregnant after a miscarriage 29:34 Victoria's TTC (Trying to Conceive) Journey 32:00 Boosting quality cervical fluid 34:58 Managing expectation each month of TTC 37:33 Parenting philosophies 39:56 Will they raise baby vegan? 40:54 Will they homeschool their children? 42:32 Traveling with a baby 43:36 Balancing family life with Youtube/Business 45:27 Dealing with criticism during pregnancy and with children 47:14 Book recommendations for pregnancy and parenting 49:48 Where you can find Victoria Show Notes: * Victoria's pregnancy playlist on youtube https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLorz8Ic76UANGalHk9Bee9dmlVWklPeZj * Things I didn't know/understand about pregnancy https://youtu.be/xU1qEf_bVe4 * What I wish I had known before trying to get pregnant https://youtu.be/0hZueizMptM * Things I did before I got pregnant https://youtu.be/yidEv8DWADo * Boosting Your Cervical Fluid  blog post http://femmehead.com/blog/2019/3/1/boosting-cervical-fluid-quality-improving-my-luteal-phase * Bringing Up Bébé by Pamela Druckerman https://amzn.to/2IGNAcJ * The Importance of Being Little by Erika Christakis https://amzn.to/2MRjWGY * NurtureShock by Ashley Merryman and Po Bronson https://amzn.to/2MOszSV * The Kind Mama by Alicia Silverstone https://amzn.to/2KN3mp0 * Birthing From Within by Pam England and Rob Horowitz https://amzn.to/2RgJ7RU * Victoria's bookshelf http://femmehead.com/bookshelf About Victoria: Victoria is the creator of Femme Head, a platform empowering women with the knowledge and understanding of their menstrual cycle.  She has build a growing community of over 80,000 subscribers on her youtube channel. She's also vegan and is a minimalist and also shares videos on those topics. She's currently in the 3rd trimester of her pregnancy.  She is now sharing her vegan pregnancy journey on her Youtube Channel. Find Victoria Zimmerman/FemmeHead FemmeHead YouTube https://www.youtube.com/femmehead FemmeHead website http://femmehead.com/ Victoria’s Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thefemmehead/ Victoria's Vlog Channel  https://www.youtube.com/user/victoriajones3647 Find Plantiful Mama https://www.plantiful-mama.com/ https://www.instagram.com/itslaurielo/ https://www.instagram.com/plantiful_mama/

Kristen Dieffenbach is an associate professor of Athletic Coaching Education and the director of the Center for Applied Coaching and Sport Science at West Virginia University. She earned her PhD in exercise and sport science with an emphasis in sport and exercise psychology and is an Association of Applied Sport Psychology (AASP) certified mental skills consultant (CMPC).  Kristen is currently the president of the United States Center for Coaching Excellence and is the director of coaching for WVICL. Her research interests focus on professionalism, ethics and moral decision making in coach development and long term athletic talent development. Learn more about here and her work at the US Center for Coaching Excellence (www.uscoachexcellence.org).   Announcements: Way of Champions Conference date and location coming soon!   Visit us on: Web: https://changingthegameproject.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/ctgprojecthq Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangingTheGameProject/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ctgprojecthq/   Show Highlights Min 7: When sport and physical education went separate ways Min 14: What can we do better for coaching education? Min 17: Empowering older athlete to coach younger athletes  Min 20: The difference between coaching boys and coaching girls Min 24: The ethics of admitting there are differences between boys and girls  Min 32: Sport Specific Research and Resources  Min 37: Long Term Athletic Development, (right age, right stage) Min 39: Real live example of what happens when we think we can do the same drills for boy and girls and get the same result Min 46: When a coach tells a female athlete “You score too much” Min 48: Why did they wear skirts in “A League of Their Own”? Min 50: Dr. Dieffenback responds to the cliche: "Women need to bond in order to compete and men need to compete in order to bond” Min 52: The difference between men and women when it comes to politics, applying for jobs, and coaching Min 59: Dr. Dieffenback responds to the cliche: "Men are hard to catch, but easier to manage. Women are easier to coach and harder to manage.” Min 1:01: Coaching Middle School athletes  Min 1:07: Coaches, you are old now…it is not your cultural landscape. Learn what is important to them, now Min 1:10: US Center for Coaching Excellence   Resources/People/Articles Mentioned in Podcast Anson Dorrance, North Carolina Soccer Coach Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls by Mary Pipher Link The Beauty Myth: How Images of Beauty Are Used Against Women, by Naomi Wolf Link The Beauty Myth, by Naomi Wolf  Link Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys, by Michael Thompson Link  Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions into Adulthood, by Lisa Damour Ph.D  Link Boys Adrift, by Leonard Sax Link Taking the Field: Women, Men, and Sports, by Michael A. Messner Link Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing, by Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman, Link  Book by Ashley Merrimen   US Center for Coaching Excellence www.uscoachexcellence.org    Coach Development Summit June 17-19 Colorado Springs Dr. Kristen Nash John Kessel, USA Volleyball Connect With Dr. Dieffenbach Website: https://www.uscoachexcellence.org/ Twitter: @DRDCoachScience  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kristen-dieffenbach-b926843/

Welcome to Amy Alkon's HumanLab: The Science Between Us, a weekly show with the luminaries of behavioral science and the therapy world. Competition can be seen as ugly and divisive but it’s actually an essential element in driving us to do and be our best. My guest tonight, New York Times best-selling science writer Ashley Merryman, will lay out the science of winning and losing, including how we can figure out the kind of competitor we are (to help ourselves avoid choking), the differences between how men and women compete, and ways to rejigger our thinking so we use competition in ways that serve us instead of defeating us.Her excellent book, co-authored with Po Bronson, that we’ll be discussing tonight, is “Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing.” Join me and all my fascinating guests every Sunday, 7-8 p.m. PT, 10-11 p.m. ET, at blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon or subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher.Please support this show by buying my new science-based and darkly funny book, Unf*ckology: A Field Guide to Living with Guts and Confidence.

What can a mindset coach to professional athletes teach us about business? Turns out...a lot! Today we sit down with Dr. Bhrett McCabe to learn tactical lessons to make networking, authority positioning, confidence, and self-publishing work in our favor as we become more powerful communicators and the leaders we aspire to be in our fields. A Few Highlights and Mentions:- Build Your Network podcast with Travis Chappell in Episode 121 - How Bhrett struggled in baseball - From a business major on the path to becoming a lawyer to becoming a clinical psychologist - Why do medical professionals wear white coats? (Hint: signs of authority and presence) - Why Bhrett decided to write a book. - Champ vs. Chump - Fascinating stories from Bhrett's podcast. - How do you communicate authority without coming off like a jerk? - What is the key to happiness? Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs? Nah...all humans just need these three things (accomplishment, stability, social acceptance) - Winning the 101st wrestling competition (great story) - Is competitiveness a good thing for business? - Top Dog (book) by Ashley Merryman and Po Bronson - Story of Noah Galloway a soldier, double amputee, and Dancing with the Stars favorite (video clip) - Book advice for first-time authors - Why Bhrett likes self-publishing but does it so it looks like a traditionally published book - Why NOT to use bright white paper for your book. - Bhrett's "sexy" alter-ego (sans 'h') ;) - Episode 107 "Your One Word" quick copy tip Bhrett's Book - The Game Plan: Managing Your Champ & Chump (The MindSide Manifesto Companion Series) - The MindSide Manifesto: The Urgency to Create a Competitive Mindset Our Guest Dr. Bhrett McCabe is the founder of The MindSide and a Licensed Clinical Psychologist holding a Ph.D. degree in clinical psychology from Louisiana State University (LSU), with an emphasis in behavioral medicine having completed his internship at Brown University in Providence, RI. While an undergraduate at LSU, Dr. McCabe was a 4-year letterman on the baseball team and was a member of 2 National Championship teams, 3 SEC championship teams, and 3 College World Series teams. Dr. McCabe is a practicing Sports & Performance Psychologist who works with numerous athletes from the PGA and LPGA Tours, NFL, NBA, MMA, and serves as the sports and performance psychologist for the University of Alabama Athletic Department. Dr. McCabe has recently authored The MindSide Manifesto: The Urgency to Create a Competitive Mindset in order to help athletes, coaches, and leaders compete to the best of their ability. Dr. McCabe has published several academic journal articles, presented numerous scientific presentations, as well as provided insight and authored articles for trade magazines such as GOLF Magazine, Golf World, Golf Week, and ESPNW, among others. Dr. McCabe has also made several appearances on The Golf Channel’s Morning Drive and The Golf Fix.   Great Quotes from the Podcast Episode “You sometimes have to listen to the universe and know when something's not speaking to you." - Dr. Bhrett McCabe "This mental stuff is really powerful and we aren't tapping into it." - Dr. Bhrett McCabe "Be confident in your answer." - Dr. Bhrett McCabe "You have to learn how to communicate." - Dr. Bhrett McCabe "The most brilliant people connect humans, regardless of how they speak." - Dr. Bhrett McCabe "If I can give my instructions to an 8-year-old or a 15-year-old, and they can understand it -- wonderful!" - Dr. Bhrett McCabe "Everybody has a story." - Dr. Bhrett McCabe "We can learn so much by listening to and being connected to others." - Dr. Bhrett McCabe "Mediocrity -- the statistical average -- has a lot of people that want you to stay there." - Dr. Bhrett McCabe "Everyone has a cell phone that creates their own media company today." - Dr. Bhrett McCabe "I love self-publishing because I like having control of everything that I do." - Dr. Bhrett McCabe "Don't be embarrassed about promoting your own work." - Dr. Bhrett McCabe  

This week, one for the hardworkin' parents out there, as Glenn Murphy and wellness guru Howard Jacobson address the challenges, similiarities, and reciprocal benefits of Systema and parenting. Along the way, we delve into: what Systema can teach us about being good parents command and conquer vs engage and redirect parenting the role of movement in managing overwhelming emotions avoiding the traps of stubbornness and pride why too much praise is harmful to kids, and to Systema trainees Mentioned in this episode:The Whole Brain Child by Daniel Siegel and Tina Bryson
http://www.drdansiegel.com/books/the_whole_brain_child/ Nurtureshock by Pø Bronson and Ashley Merryman
https://www.amazon.com/NurtureShock-New-Thinking-About-Children/dp/0446504130 Leading with Emotional Courage by Peter Bregman http://bregmanpartners.com/books/leading-with-emotional-courage/Enjoy! As usual, your feedback welcomed.  Thanks for supporting the podcast.

My guest this week is Tim Crothers, a journalism professor and a freelance sportswriter. He has written three books on leadership from a coaching perspective. I became interested in his book The Man Watching after my interview with Tom Chaby when he mentioned his favorite book Top Dog by Ashley Merryman. I loved that book, and in it there are several pages dedicated to Tim Crothers and his work on the dynasty of women’s soccer created by the coach Anson Dorrance at the University of North Carolina. I decided to ask Tim Crothers to come on to the show. I encourage you to listen to this interview, as you will learn so much about how to lead you millennials and work new ideas and approaches into your leadership style. I hope you enjoy this interview as much as I did! In this interview we discuss: Leading with stats and numbers that don’t lie Coaching adaptability Recruiting outstanding talent Power of creating an emotional connection Competitive cauldron Giving girls permission to compete The Man Watching, poem by Rainer Maria Rilke that is behind the name of the book Mia Hamm’s story Gift of fury is discussed @41:11 Queen of Katwe movie trailer Offense versus defense mindset Make practice harder than games Make mistakes and work out a unique formula for your team in order to create your own competitive cauldron A part of being a leader is to understand that you can’t lead everybody the same way. About Tim Crothers Tim Crothers is a former senior writer at Sports Illustrated who is currently a journalism professor and a freelance sportswriter. He is the author of The Man Watching, a biography of Anson Dorrance, the legendary coach of the University of North Carolina women's soccer team, co-author of Hard Work, the autobiography of UNC basketball coach Roy Williams, and author of The Queen of Katwe, the story of a 16-year-old female chess champion from the slums of Kampala, Uganda. Crothers lives with his wife and two children in Chapel Hill, North Carolina. How to get in touch with Tim Crothers More information about Tim Crothers can be found at his website: http://www.timcrothers.net/ Published Books: The Queen of Katwe: One Girl’s Triumphant Path to Becoming a Chess Champion The Man Watching: Anson Dorrance and the University of North Carolina Women’s Soccer Hard Work: a Life On and Off the Court Important Links and Resources: Queen of Katwe movie trailer The Great Santini (1979) movie trailer Tim Crothers talks about his transition from his days at Chapel Hill to writing about Africa: VIDEO Tim Crothers speaking at UNC about Queen of Katwe book: VIDEO This episode is sponsored by the CIO Innovation Insider Council. Credits: * Outro music provided by Ben’s Sound Other Ways To Listen to the Podcast iTunes | Libsyn | Soundcloud | RSS | LinkedIn Leave a Review If you enjoyed this episode, then please consider leaving an iTunes review here Click here for instructions on how to leave an iTunes review if you're doing this for the first time. About Bill Murphy Bill Murphy is a world renowned IT Security Expert dedicated to your success as an IT business leader. Follow Bill on LinkedIn and Twitter.

This month we review a book that explores the many factors involved with our triumphs, failures, and the results of competition in our lives. TOP DOG by Po Bronson & Ashley Merryman.

Ashley Merryman is the best-selling author of Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing, and Nurture Shock: New Thinking About Children, and she recently wrote about how our President’s incivility can infect society like the flu (https://wapo.st/2HOT5IO). She joins Brian to discuss what social contagion is, whether or not the internet and social media's making this worse, and what, if anything, social media companies should be doing to combat this? More about Ashley: https://www.ashleymerryman.com/ More on our host, Brian: bit.ly/cdtbrian Attribution: sounds used from Psykophobia, Taira Komori, BenKoning, Zabuhailo, bloomypetal, guitarguy1985, bmusic92, and offthesky of freesound.org.

Welcome to Amy Alkon's HumanLab: The Science Between Us, a weekly show with the luminaries of behavioral science and the therapy world. Competition can be seen as ugly and divisive but it’s actually an essential element in driving us to do and be our best. My guest tonight, New York Times best-selling science writer Ashley Merryman, will lay out the science of winning and losing, including how we can figure out the kind of competitor we are (to help ourselves avoid choking), the differences between how men and women compete, and ways to rejigger our thinking so we use competition in ways that serve us instead of defeating us.Her excellent book, co-authored with Po Bronson, that we’ll be discussing tonight, is “Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing.” Join me and all my fascinating guests every Sunday, 7-8 p.m. PT, 10-11 p.m. ET, at blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon or subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher.Please support this show by buying my new science-based and darkly funny book, Unf*ckology: A Field Guide to Living with Guts and Confidence.

Want to be more persuasive? There is a simple phrase or two you can add to any request that will increase the chances that almost anyone will do you the favor you ask. I’ll tell you what those phrases are.If you’ve been watching the Olympics, you’ve seen THE best athletes in the world competing against each other. So how do you get to be the best? And what separates the very best from the “pretty good?” Ashley Merryman, co-author of the book Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing (http://amzn.to/2CiopYU) reveals some fascinating stories and research that anyone can use to improve your chances of winning in whatever you choose to do.There isn’t a soul alive who hasn’t gotten an email or 2 (or thousands!) offering male enhancement pills, creams and lotions. The problem is, none of them work. And there is even a bigger problem with these fake potions. Listen to discover what it is.Are people becoming ruder? Sure seems that way to me. So where did this need to be “brutally honest” come from? Danny Wallace, author of the book F You Very Much (http://amzn.to/2HeCzxV) looks at the origins of this new lack of civility as well as what it is doing and how we can stop it.

Ashley and Po Bronson's book, Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing, discusses the science of competition and reveals why it's important to experience defeat — on and off the field. Competition allows us to better gauge our abilities by identifying strengths and weaknesses, and reveals what needs improvement. Without the contrast of winning and losing, there's no motivation to push to maximum potential. You can find growth and opportunity in every loss if you position your mindset to learn from your mistakes. Listen in as Ashley and Jake discuss some of those powerful mindset shifts and approaches that can help you to be better than you were yesterday.

Ashley and Po Bronson's book, Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing, discusses the science of competition and reveals why it's important to experience defeat — on and off the field. Competition allows us to better gauge our abilities by identifying strengths and weaknesses, and reveals what needs improvement. Without the contrast of winning and losing, there's no motivation to push to maximum potential. You can find growth and opportunity in every loss if you position your mindset to learn from your mistakes. Listen in as Ashley and Jake discuss some of those powerful mindset shifts and approaches that can help you to be better than you were yesterday.

Why are we wired by God to spend one third of our lives essentially doing nothing?How can one simple key enhance spiritual formation, combat childhood obesity, improve children's school performance, combat neurodegenerative disorders like Alzheimer's disease, along with decreasing clinical depression in teens and adults? One thing??What is it?Healthy sleep…The importance of sleep from a spiritual, physical, and emotional health perspective. The latest brain research is bringing new insight into sleep research and we are discovering good sleep may be the missing key ingredient to the overall health of people today. Using the latest brain and sleep research, with special insight from "The Good and Beautiful God," James Bryant Smith, and "Nurture Shock," Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman, I speak on the benefits of sleep for adults and children.

Louisville basketball coach Jeff Walz ranted on ESPN about participation trophies for losers. Guest: Ashley Merryman, author of Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing and NurtureShock: New Thinking About Children See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This is author Ashley Merryman - on the Finding Mastery podcast with Michael Gervais - shedding insight on the differences between how men and women react to competition. Full podcast available here: http://www.findingmastery.net/ashley-merryman

Author Ashley Merryman discusses what factors separate the elite from the rest of the pack.

The origin of the word "compete" emphasizes the notion of striving together (as compared to striving against). Author Ashley Merryman takes a deep dive into the science of competition - and reveals practical strategies people can use to "become better." There's an art to bringing the mechanics of science to life, and Ashley uses storytelling to illuminate the application of good science. Show Notes: 12:11: The quest to always be better 16:27: How she became interested in what she does today 21:19: Extroverts vs. introverts 27:58: Different types of risk-taking "Women are really good at calculating their odds of success and men are really good at ignoring them." 32:36 "The benefit of competition isn't the win...the benefit of competition is improvement... it's improvement in the moment" 37:23 44:01: Why competition is important 50:58: Relevant neurotransmitters for competition "I always thought that motivation was sort of the gas in your car that got you to your goal" 53:12 1:03:43: Why trophies shouldn't be given away for participation 1:12:18: Challenge and threat "It's not whether or not I'm going to be successful with the task, it's can I learn from this? And if I can learn from this, it should always be a challenge" 1:20:18 1:24:31: Putting in work to become skilled in a certain thing and viewing it as a challenge rather than a threat 1:30:40: Most important mental skill for competitors 1:44:25: Defining mastery "Pursuing and acquiring technical skill but using everything in your arsenal, psychological, cognitive, physical, peer support to help you achieve those goals" 1:45:14

Ashley Merryman wrote New York Times best-seller Top Dog: The Science of Winning & Losing. She's on OPP talking competition, handling stress & learning from failure.

Amy Alkon's Advice Goddess Radio: "Nerd Your Way To A Better Life!" with the best brains in science.*NOTE: "Best Of" replay. Live shows again starting in July!Competition can be seen as ugly and divisive but it’s actually an essential element in driving us to do and be our best. My guest tonight, New York Times best-selling science writer Ashley Merryman, will lay out the science of winning and losing, including how we can figure out the kind of competitor we are (to help ourselves avoid choking), the differences between how men and women compete, and ways to rejigger our thinking so we use competition in ways that serve us instead of defeating us.Her excellent book, co-authored with Po Bronson, that we’ll be discussing tonight, is “Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing.” Join me and all my fascinating guests every Sunday, 7-8 p.m. PT, 10-11 p.m. ET, at blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon or subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher.My show's sponsor is Audible.com. Get a free audiobook download and support this show financially at no cost to you by signing up for a free 30-day trial at audibletrial.com/amya (It's $14.95 after 30 days, but you can cancel before then and have it cost you nothing.)Please support the show by ordering my book, the science-based and funny "Good Manners For Nice People Who Sometimes Say F*ck," -- only about $10 at Amazon. 

Amy Alkon's Advice Goddess Radio: "Nerd Your Way To A Better Life!" with the best brains in science.*NOTE: "Best Of" replay (for Superbowl Sunday). Live shows again starting next Sunday, Feb 8!Competition can be seen as ugly and divisive but it’s actually an essential element in driving us to do and be our best. My guest tonight, New York Times best-selling science writer Ashley Merryman, will lay out the science of winning and losing, including how we can figure out the kind of competitor we are (to help ourselves avoid choking), the differences between how men and women compete, and ways to rejigger our thinking so we use competition in ways that serve us instead of defeating us.Her excellent book, co-authored with Po Bronson, that we’ll be discussing tonight, is “Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing.” (Barnes & Noble ships faster.)Join me and all my fascinating guests every Sunday, 7-8 p.m. PT, 10-11 p.m. ET, at blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon or subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher.My show's sponsor is Audible.com. Get a free audiobook download and support this show financially at no cost to you by signing up for a free 30-day trial at audibletrial.com/amya (It's $14.95 after 30 days, but you can cancel before then and have it cost you nothing.)Please support the show by ordering my book, the science-based and funny "Good Manners For Nice People Who Sometimes Say F*ck," -- only about $10 at Amazon. 

Brad continues his fascinating interview with Ashley Merryman, where he explores her new ideas on parenting and competition. Ashley picks up the commentary on the topic of competition as presented in her New York Times bestselling book, Top Dog. She and her co-author, Po Bronson, offer an assortment of interesting insights that challenge our conventional notions of parenting and competitive success. She will be presenting at the next Primalcon in Oxnard next September.

Host Brad Kearns talks with New York Times bestselling author Ashley Merryman (author of Nurture Shock and Top Dog). Ashley offers an assortment of interesting insights that challenge our conventional notions of parenting and competitive success. She will be presenting at the next Primalcon in Oxnard next September. Ashley relates the disparate challenges of focusing on writing and research versus the ambitious efforts to lecture to live audiences. Unlike many keynote speakers, Ashley makes the effort to create a customized presentation based on the nature and interests of her audience.   

Amy Alkon's Advice Goddess Radio: "Nerd Your Way To A Better Life!" with the best brains in science.Competition can be seen as ugly and divisive but it’s actually an essential element in driving us to do and be our best. My guest tonight, New York Times best-selling science writer Ashley Merryman, will lay out the science of winning and losing, including how we can figure out the kind of competitor we are (to help ourselves avoid choking), the differences between how men and women compete, and ways to rejigger our thinking so we use competition in ways that serve us instead of defeating us.Her excellent book, co-authored with Po Bronson, that we’ll be discussing tonight, is “Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing.” (Barnes & Noble ships faster.)Join me and all my fascinating guests every Sunday, 7-8 p.m. PT, 10-11 p.m. ET, at blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon or subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher.My show's sponsor is Audible.com. Get a free audiobook download and support this show financially at no cost to you by signing up for a free 30-day trial at audibletrial.com/amya (It's $14.95 after 30 days, but you can cancel before then and have it cost you nothing.)Please order my new book, the science-based and funny "Good Manners For Nice People Who Sometimes Say F*ck," -- only $9.48 at Amazon. 

"Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing"; Jack gets medically diagnosed via the text line; New shoe bomb terror threat; Sitting may be bad for you; USA in the lead for medals at Sochi

Kathryn interviews New York Times bestselling author Ashley Merryman on her book “Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing”. The joy of victory and the character-building agony of defeat - testosterone and the neuroscience of mistakes - Olympians carry Top Dog in their gym bags and it are in the briefcases of Wall Street traders and Madison Avenue madmen. Merryman's work is featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, Newsweek, and Time. Kathryn also interviews award-winning journalist Melinda Blau, author of “Family Whispering: The Baby Whisperer's Commonsense Strategies for Communicating and Connecting With the People You Love and Making Your Whole Family Stronger”. Blau is the blogger behind Consequential Strangers and has written more than ninety magazine pieces and a dozen books including the New York Times bestselling Baby Whisperer series

Kathryn interviews New York Times bestselling author Ashley Merryman on her book “Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing”. The joy of victory and the character-building agony of defeat - testosterone and the neuroscience of mistakes - Olympians carry Top Dog in their gym bags and it are in the briefcases of Wall Street traders and Madison Avenue madmen. Merryman's work is featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, Newsweek, and Time. Kathryn also interviews award-winning journalist Melinda Blau, author of “Family Whispering: The Baby Whisperer's Commonsense Strategies for Communicating and Connecting With the People You Love and Making Your Whole Family Stronger”. Blau is the blogger behind Consequential Strangers and has written more than ninety magazine pieces and a dozen books including the New York Times bestselling Baby Whisperer series

According to your parents, you can do anything. This sort of over-compensating encouragement presents a number of challenges for adults doing stuff in the world. Sam and Simon discuss this and other things.Stuff mentioned in this conversation:Google’s gay doodle.Sherlock.Carol S. Dweck.Talent is Overrated by Geoff Colvin.NurtureShock: New Thinking About Children by Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman.Benjamin McLane Spock.Vladimir Putin.Krav Maga.Sochi’s hotel disaster.Mitchell and Webb’s Football, Football, Football and also Peep Show.Zen Pencils.Slack: Be less busy.22seven for Android.Buzzfeed.

Working with the best - whether you're hiring or hoping to be hired - is the topic of the conversation this week. More or less. Sam and Simon talk about talent and how to find it, along with partridge hunting and some other stuff. Things mentioned in this episode: We spent a whole lot of time talking about the The Hybrid Traits Model. BOOKS Talent is Overrated by Geoff Colvin The Examined Life - Stephen Grosz The Happiness Hypothesis by Jonathan Haidt Nurtureshock by Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman The 7 Day Weekend and Maverick by Ricardo Semler MOVIES Fight Club. STUFF Medium. FutureLife.

Kathryn interviews relationship expert and psychotherapist Christina Steinorth MA, MFT on her book “Cue Cards for Life: Thoughtful Tips for Better Relationships”. According to her research, Steinorth found that the number one thing aging parents wanted from their kids was to hear from them. Steinorth shares 7 simple ways to improve the lives of aging parents, covering everything from activities and exercise to safety and quality of life. Steinorth has been featured in the Wall Street Journal, USA Today, and Fox News Magazine. Kathryn also interviews NYT bestselling author Ashley Merryman on her book “Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing”. After researching everything from NASCAR brawls, ballroom dancing, CIA spies, and pilot flight training, Merryman and Bronson offer game-changing insights to the core of every great triumph and every tragic failure. Merryman is an attorney with previous experience in the Clinton administration and has written for TIME and the Washington Post.

Kathryn interviews relationship expert and psychotherapist Christina Steinorth MA, MFT on her book “Cue Cards for Life: Thoughtful Tips for Better Relationships”. According to her research, Steinorth found that the number one thing aging parents wanted from their kids was to hear from them. Steinorth shares 7 simple ways to improve the lives of aging parents, covering everything from activities and exercise to safety and quality of life. Steinorth has been featured in the Wall Street Journal, USA Today, and Fox News Magazine. Kathryn also interviews NYT bestselling author Ashley Merryman on her book “Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing”. After researching everything from NASCAR brawls, ballroom dancing, CIA spies, and pilot flight training, Merryman and Bronson offer game-changing insights to the core of every great triumph and every tragic failure. Merryman is an attorney with previous experience in the Clinton administration and has written for TIME and the Washington Post.

We hear over and over again that cooperation and teamwork are the keys to 21st century success. Yet we  live in a competitive age. We are reminded daily that success in the office, or on the field, or in the world, requires competition and competitive advantage. How can we better understand and prepare for that competitive environment? Why are some people so much better at it than others? As Vince Lombardi said, “winning may not be everything, but wanting to win is.” So what are the biological, physiological, genetic and social underpinnings of competition and how can they be approached to created a kind of modern day survival of the fittest? These are just some of the question that Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman take up in Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing My conversation with Po Bronson:

Ashley Merryman is the co-author of the New York Times bestseller NurtureShock: New Thinking About Children. The central premise of the book is that modern society’s most popular strategies for raising children are in fact backfiring because key points in the science of child development and behavior have been overlooked. Listen as Ashley and I discuss: Praise Lying Sleep Takeaway – specific thing you can do as a parent with good results Does your child lie? What do you do when your child lies? Consider leaving a comment or subscribing to the feed to have future interviews delivered to your feed reader. Sign up for our newsletter to receive upcoming info and newsletter only promotions. Connect with Ashley book website twitter facebook music Christine Kane – Virginia smiling, The post Ashley Merryman appeared first on howshereallydoesit.com.

NurtureShock – New Thinking About Children is one of today's hottest books on parenting, kids, and education. In it, our guest, Ashley Merryman and co-author Po Bronson use the latest science to debunk much of the conventional wisdom that is behind the way we raise and educate our kids. For example, we think praising our […] The post 30 Minute Mom – NurtureShock – New Thinking About Children – Meet co-author Ashley Merryman! appeared first on WebTalkRadio.net.

In this week's CampNation Dan, Gab, & Travis talk about the news in the world of summer camps. We were thrilled to have Scott Arizala (http://www.thecampcounselor.com/) join us from the TriState Camping Conference.   He and Dan recorded while huddled around Dan's computer at the hotel.   We took advantage of Scott's experience to discuss one of the topics that he had presented just that morning. Links - News about the camping/recreation industry (Dan) US survey finds sharp drop in children's bullying (Travis) OKGo video as Camp activity  (Gab)  DNTO (Definitely Not the Opera) episode with Chris Thurber. The interview takes place early on in the hour, about 1/5 of the way in.  Discussion - You're Fired (and other difficult management conversations) Picks Of The Week - A tool that will make you a better camp director Dan -  Good to Great by Jim Collins Gab - Afternoon slump?  Use peppermint and cinnamon to help keep your staff alert Scott -  Nurture Shock by Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman Travis - Rubbermaid Farm Cart Your Hosts: Dan Weir – Frost Valley YMCA (New York) Gabrielle Raill – Camp Ouareau (Quebec) Scott Arizala - The Camp Counselor.com (Oregon) Travis Allison – Our Kids Media

We're kicking off the fifth season of The Mojo Mom Podcast!  We wish a fond farewell to co-host Sheryl Grant who is starting grad school full time.  Amy welcomes her new co-host Patty Ayers.  Amy and Patty have worked together behind the scenes for many years and are excited to talk about current issues together on the podcast.  In this episode they talk about Patty's empty-nester move to Mexico (you can see photos on Patty's blog) and then discuss the controversy that erupted this week about a breastfeeding mother who was fired by the Totes/Isotoner corporation for taking "unauthorized" breaks to pump her milk.Then Mojo Mom talks to Po Bronson, co-author of NurtureShock:  New Thinking about Children.  In this important new book, Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman bring to light new scientific findings that can change the way we view child development.

Ashley Merryman on why kids lie. Hosts: Megan Morrone and Leo Laporte Guest: Ashley Merryman Full show notes available on Megan's blog, JumpingMonkeys.com. Bandwidth for Jumping Monkeys is provided by Cachefly. The Jumping Monkeys theme is by Paul Minshall.

Wh a t a n honor to meet this meg a -bestselling a uthor in person in Los A ngeles a nd cr a nk out a n interesting podc a st! Ashley has be en spreading the word about her two very important books for over a decade , speaking and consulting internationally to sports teams, business leaders, and parent and school groups. She also operates a cool non-profit tutoring program for inner city kids in LA. Her books , written with Stanford professor Po Bronson, have rocked our world and make us rethink the most basic notions about parenting and the nature of healthy competition. Interested researchers and readers are transcending dated and harmful cultural values and embraced the new possibilities comm unicated wonderfully by Ashley and Po. The first book was called Nurtureshock : New Thinking About Children. The world of Carol Dweck , Stanford professor and author of Mindset , was highlighted. The idea that this effusive praise, obsession with boosting self-esteem, and helicopter parenting to ensure kids don’t suffer or fail was called into question. Kids need healthy struggle and setbacks to grow and develop resilience and determination. They benefit from adopting a “growth mindset,” where the emphasis is on effort and improvement rather than results. The research from Nurtureshock was the inspiration for the next book, Top Dog. If you are interested in competition and peak performance in any area (business, athletics, parenting), this book will provide lasting insights and strategies to be the best you can be, and not succumb to the dangers of a lame, ineffective approach to competition. Interestingly, Ashley relates that she has been rethinking the emphasis placed on effort and instead prefers to focus on improvement. We all know how misdirected effort may not lead to improvement and can even be unhealthy—such as with an overtrained athlete or the college student who pulls all-nighters and eats Top Ramen in the name of delivering maximum effort. In these examples, excess effort or a narrow focus on effort alone will not lead to success or happiness. Reference my podcast about the Japanese Soccer Team ( https://www.bradkearns.com/2018/08/21/breather-the-japanese-soccer-teams-clean-locker-room-and-evolved-competitive-spirit/ ) and the Japanese cultural ethic of doryoku , translated as honorable effort. You could infer this means dispensing effort in a focused and productive manner to stimulate improvement. Ashley garnered attention years ago for stating that the long-standing practice of giving every kid a trophy is a bad idea. After much reflection and controversy, Ashley is more certain than ever that this is a really bad idea! Listen to her go off about the many ways in which our cultural trophy policy cheapens the experience for everyone. We also get into the groundbreaking article that changed my mindset and approach to parenting on the spot when I first read it in 2007. It’s called the Inverse Power of Praise and I did a blog post about it that I send to anyone who will listen. This article led to the NurtureShock book project. The article calls into question the self-esteem movement that has led to the widespread concerns about helicopter parenting today. Ashley talks about how to set rewards to generate optimum outcomes for competition. A local 5k promoting a healthy community (everyone gets a finisher medal, that’s fine), versus a contest to discover the most distinguished performers. A college application process for an Ivy League admission could be a good example: many competitors, few prizes. You will love this show and be compelled to grab these books and go in for a deep immersion. Following is some details about Ashley and Po’s work, and accolades, to get you excited about Ashley and Po’s work: Ashley and Po have won nine national awards for reporting. Merryman's been on countless radio and television shows, while email, Facebook, and Twitter are filled with demands to read her essays, such as "Losing is Good for You," "How Not to Talk to Your Kids," and "Creativity Crisis." Among the awards for Top Dog was a "Best Book of the Month" by both Barnes & Noble and Amazon, while Salary.com said it was the #1 book that every entrepreneur must read. Top Dog is an astonishing blend of science and storytelling that reveals what's really in the heart of a champion. It's about the thrill of victory and the character-building agony of defeat. Testosterone and the neuroscience of mistakes. Why rivals motivate. How home field advantage gets you a raise. What teamwork really requires. It's baseball, Wall Street financial analysts, the SAT, sales contests, and Linux software. How before da Vinci and FedEx were innovators, first, they were great competitors. Olympians, professional athletes, and their coaches are already carrying Top Dog around in gym bags. It's in the briefcases of Wall Street traders and Madison Ave. madmen. Professional risk takers - from Silicon Valley venture capitalists to Vegas gamblers - are racing to master its ideas, while educators and philosophers are debating it the halls of academia. Merryman and Bronson's previous book, NurtureShock : New Thinking About Children, is also a New York Times bestseller, translated into sixteen languages to date. But beyond that, it has become one of the most influential books about children ever been published. With impeccable storytelling and razor-sharp analysis, Merryman and Bronson demonstrate that many of modern society's strategies for nurturing children are in fact backfiring--because key twists in the science have been overlooked. Merryman has written for Newsweek, Time , the New York Times , the Washington Post, New York, the Guardian, and many more. A frequent commentator on radio and television, Merryman has appeared on shows such as: Fox & Friends; CNN's AC 360 and CNN Newsroom; The Charlie Rose Show; The Tavis Smiley Show; @ KatieCouric ; Canada AM; BBC World News; NPR's Tell Me More and On Point; and many others around the world. Honors for Merryman and Bronson include: the PEN Center USA Literary Award for Journalism; the American Association for the Advancement of Science (AAAS) Award for Science Journalism; an "Audie" from the Audio Publishers Association; and two Clarion Awards. And their work is considered so substantial that scientists themselves rely on their reporting. Their work has been cited as a research authority in 80 academic journals and 260 books, and it is being used as text in universities around the world. You'll find references to their work in publications by the White House to speeches by politicians around the globe. Merryman lives in Los Angeles, where she has directed a small all-volunteer tutoring program for inner-city kids for 15 years ; in that time, her program has helped over 800 children. For her civic involvement, she received commendations from both the Clinton and Bush Administrations. An attorney, Merryman previously served as a speechwriter in the Clinton Administration. Merryman holds a Bachelor of Fine Arts from the University of Southern California's School of Cinematic Arts, a J.D. from the Georgetown University's Law Center, and a Certificate in Irish Studies from Queen's University, Belfast, Northern Ireland. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-get-over-yourself-podcast/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

*An interesting mix of questions gives an opportunity to sound off on important insights covered in previous shows.* First, a cross country skier says hills and altitude causing elevated heart rates can require possibly more dietary carbs? I say find a way to slow down - same for me on the mountain bike! Gabrielle the super mum from Aussie land references the great show about Ashley Merryman and Po Bronson’s insights about effort-based praise in the book Nurtureshock ( https://www.amazon.com/NurtureShock-New-Thinking-About-Children/dp/0446504130/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=Nurtureshock&qid=1592426009&sr=8-1 ) and the epic 2007 New York Magazine article, The Power (And Peril) Of Praising Your Kids ( https://nymag.com/news/features/27840/ ) , that changed my approach to parenting forever. Gabrielle makes great points about separating specific praise with declarations of love and also being proud of a child’s character instead of achievements. I mention how I’ve had incredibly disparate guests on the show, like vegan advocate Rip Esselstyn ( https://www.bradkearns.com/2019/11/12/ripesselstyn/ ) and carnivore leaders Dr. Paul Saladino ( https://www.bradkearns.com/2019/05/28/saladino/ ) and Dr. Shawn Baker ( https://www.bradkearns.com/2020/03/24/dr-shawn-baker-carnivore-for-healing-and-athletic-performance/ ). I reflect that I’m not an “in your face” host getting into controversy with my guests, as I prefer to cultivate an open mind and willingness to appreciate alternate points of view. Obviously, Rip and I have drastically disparate positions on healthy eating, but during our show and with our friendship, I prefer to focus on the incredible work he has done to motivate and inspire people to be healthy, and the common ground that we do share about healthy eating and living. Hopefully if I need to be badass at some point I will step up, we’ll see! Another commenter remembers the great show with boy wonder health expert Matt Maruca ( https://www.bradkearns.com/2020/03/10/matt-maruca/ ) , founder of RAOptics.com, and how he is taking Matt’s message to his adult kids and himself. He also notes his excitement for my next venture into food, Brad’s Macadamia Mix, a combination of superfoods blended together to form the most delectable, nutrient rich nut butter. Seriously, this stuff is so delicious you will be eating it straight out of the jar. Stay tuned for that, and keep the questions coming - I love receiving, and reading through such compelling commentary, so email ( getoveryourselfpodcast@gmail.com ) your feedback and any and all questions you have. *TIMESTAMPS:* Wade, a Nordic skier, has a question about maintaining heart rate.  Is a low carb diet approach consistent with the extreme metabolic demands of this athlete?  [06:12] Even with altitude and hills, it’s important to continue to maintain the heart rate under the aerobic maximum. [08:39] What is the role of carbohydrates in the lifestyle of a high performing athlete? [10:10] Females need to pay particular heed in order to be fit for reproduction. [14:31] Gabrielle asks about the parenting podcast where the message is:  When praising kids, saying you’re proud of them specifically on their achievement is ill-advised. [18:01] Should you tell your daughter she is pretty, when our culture tends to traffic on looks? [19:53] Be careful connecting “I love you” with the talent, rather than the effort, as this damages self-esteem.  [22:14] Brad is suggesting we keep an open mind on vegan, vegetarian, carnivore diets. [23:31] John is getting back into triathlon and working on getting competitive while staying healthy. [28:41] *LINKS:* * Brad’s Shopping Page ( http://www.bradkearns.com/shop/ ) * *T* ry LGC ( https://www.letsgetchecked.com/us/en/home-male-hormone-test/?clickid=sf20yjt3gxyotqx0rhqk3xrkukiyystjryjiyw0&irgwc=1&utm_campaign=8695&utm_content=male+hormone+category+page+_text_link_&utm_medium=affiliates&utm_source=impact&utm_term=1723458_ ) * Autophagy ( https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/autophagy ) * Dr. Tommy Wood podcast ( https://www.bradkearns.com/2019/12/03/tommy-wood-3/ ) * Ashley Merryman podcast ( https://www.bradkearns.com/2019/03/12/merryman/ ) * Matt Maruca podcast ( https://www.bradkearns.com/2020/03/10/matt-maruca/ ) * Rip Esselstyn podcast ( https://www.bradkearns.com/2019/11/12/ripesselstyn/ ) * Dr. Paul Saladino ( https://carnivoremd.com/ ) * Nurture Shock ( https://www.amazon.com/NurtureShock-New-Thinking-About-Children/dp/0446504130/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&gclid=Cj0KCQjwoaz3BRDnARIsAF1RfLft1oU_kQhO8udtX878GJi_CEWyDoLicNZtYtljpEOkhOZTtzElo4saAm09EALw_wcB&hvadid=241582573437&hvdev=c&hvlocphy=9031175&hvnetw=g&hvqmt=e&hvrand=9974782778629216077&hvtargid=kwd-13631051471&hydadcr=15492_10339794&keywords=nurture+shock&qid=1592511316&sr=8-1&tag=googhydr-20 ) * CarnivoreMD ( http://carnivoremd.com ) * MeatRX ( http://meatrx.com ) *Quotes:* * “The essence of modern life is overfeeding of the cells. When your cells are depleted of energy, that’s when your cells start to do better at recycling old material, repairing, rejuvenating, rebuilding, and you become a more efficient human being - the same with fasting. So if you put those two together, you’re achieving the same goals to the extent that it’s possible to overstress the body and stimulate a flight or fight response.” * "Don’t pile on too many stress variables particularly if you’re a female - fasting and low carb is just too much." Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-get-over-yourself-podcast/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

With the launch of my Male Optimization Formula with Organs (MOFO), I present to all MOFO’s out there a comprehensive lifestyle plan to fight the battle against epidemic testosterone deficiency in hectic modern life. Did you know that the average American male testosterone level has declined at a rate of one percent per year since the 1980s! That’s crazy, and it’s time to fight back. MOFO is a unique supplement made with nutrient-rich animal organs from 100 percent grass-fed cattle from New Zealand. It’s designed to naturally boost your testosterone production, increase daily energy levels, and help replenish your body at the cellular level. However, for a testosterone boosting supplement to have a maximum beneficial impact, you must implement a comprehensive lifestyle plan to avoid the major stressors of modern life and give your body the food, exercise stimulus, rest and recovery, and emotional stability it needs to thrive. This recording could change your life, as it details 10 lifestyle tips that form the foundation for the MOFO movement. Here are the 10 lifestyle objections from your MOFO mission, as reprinted from the MOFO website ( http://bradkearns.com/mofo ). I’ll provide further details and inspiration for each item of the assignment. It will take some focus and discipline to correct some of the flawed patterns and bad habits you have fallen into, but everything on this list will feel natural and easy to maintain because it will give you more energy and peace of mind. * *Sleep is #1:* Health, vitality and peak performance all flow downstream from getting outstanding sleep. Minimize artificial light and digital stimulation after dark, perhaps the worst genetic disconnect in modern life. * *Clean Up Your Act:* Ditch toxic foods, toxic relationships, toxic substances, and toxic energy in your life. Summon the courage to face life’s challenges and take action, instead of drift into familiar–but dysfunctional–routines and ruts. * *Eat Ancestral Foods:* Eat sustainably raised animals in a “nose-to-tail” strategy, complemented by nutritious whole foods such as vegetables, fruits, nuts and seeds. Establish a zero tolerance policy for refined grains, sugars, sweetened beverages, industrial seed oils, heavily processed crap, and inferior quality feedlot animals. Emphasize superfoods like grass-fed liver and other organ meats, pastured eggs, oily cold water fish, and fresh local berries. * *Pound The MOFO!:* Take six capsules per day for at least three months to fully replenish and rejuvenate your energy and help optimize male hormone function. This is honoring our ancestors by putting back in, what the modern world has left out. Guaranteed extra bounce in your step or your money back! * *Move Frequently:* JFW— Just F—ing Walk— is the key to healthy fat metabolism and stable daily mood, appetite and energy levels. Take frequent walking/stretching/exercise breaks during the workday. Sprinkle formal movement practices (yoga, Pilates), calisthenics, and flexibility/mobility drills into daily life. Humans are meant to move! * *Hit It Hard!:* Challenge your body with brief, intense strength training sessions and all-out sprints. Explosive efforts will prompt a spike of testosterone and human growth hormone in the bloodstream with tremendous adaptive, anti-aging benefits. A couple formal sessions a week lasting 10-30 minutes is plenty. Also include “micro-workouts” where you haul off a single set of deep squats in your office, or a set of pullups when you walk through the bathroom door. These really add up over time. * *Take Control:* Overcome nonstop digital stimulation and distraction by focusing, prioritizing, and powering down with unwavering discipline. Implement proactive daily rituals, such as morning exercise before you reach for a bloody screen and kick into shallow, reactive brain function. Daily exposure to cold makes you more resilient to all other forms of life stress. * *Avoid Estrogens:* Eliminate all plastics touching your food or drink; use stainless steel or glass containers instead. Ditch soy, flax, and corn-based foods; they have 100x more phytoestrogens than other plants! Use all-natural skin and personal care products, such as castile soap, zinc sunscreens, and eco-friendly home cleaners and laundry detergents. * *Rest Like A MOFO:* Slow down and reclaim the lost art of down time. Try a midday outdoor stroll, a park bench meditation, or afternoon power nap. Rest and recover with the same focus and dedication as your ambitious workouts. Integrate more days off, easy aerobic sessions, foam rolling, breathing practices, and temperature therapy. * *Quit Being A Dick To Your Wife/Girlfriend:* Real MOFO’s display emotional stability, kindness, and vulnerability. Relationship expert Dr. John Gray ( Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus ) says your primary biological drive is to protect your female from danger, but in the modern world her main threat is your own anger and emotional outbursts ! Remain calm, cool, collected, and clear thinking amidst the daily stresses of life. “Don’t speak if you have a negative emotional charge,” commands Gray. Dudes, these are the marching orders of life and the time to start is right now. As you can read in detail on the website, if you fail to accept this MOFO mission, you can experience a slippery slope effect with dynamics such as prolonged periods of stillness and adding a lil’ spare tire around the midsection as you age. When your day includes long periods of sitting — commuting, office job, and digital entertainment leisure time, you become insulin resistant and glucose intolerant. This leads to sugar cravings and fat storage. When you pick up a bit of spare tire, known as visceral fat, it secretes inflammatory cytokines into the bloodstream that inhibit fat metabolism and make you more likely to increase the size of your spare tire. If you are occasionally a bitchy boy with your wife/girlfriend, it tends to happen more and more often. Why not instead become a full-time, full-on MOFO? *TIMESTAMPS:* How are you going to get your MOJO back? No matter how busy you are, no matter how stressed you are, you can do it. [02:50] Making an effort and improving is the secret to self-esteem. [04:45] Sleep is of number one importance. A dark room is a must. [05:29] When we are in constant summer mode, we are in constant fat storage mode. [07:00] Our hormonal processes are calibrated to wake up with the rising sun. [11:21] Make sure your bedroom is as totally black as possible. [14:11] You want a cool temperature in your room for optimal sleep. [16:59] Clean up the toxic portions of your life.  [17:55] Just getting rid of the crap (processed foods, feedlot animals and sugars) in your diet puts you way ahead of the game.  [19:55] Get your MOFO (male optimization formula with organs) to get your body rejuvenated. [22:09] Four pillars of human nutrition are organ meats, meats on the bone, fermented foods and fresh foods. [23:38] Get up and move throughout the day.  It makes your body work better and brain work better. [26:02] Brief explosive efforts don’t have to be long duration.  Hit it hard! [29:55] Take control of technology. Connect with nature. [33:27] Get rid of the estrogen in the environment. Avoid all plastics touching your food or drink. [38:16] Rest; not just talking about sleep. We are talking about downtime.  [41:11] In modern life, the male’s anger and emotional outbursts are a threat to the female. You need to get into testosterone balance. [44:16] Brad summarizes the ten points for getting your MOFO. [48:21] *LINKS:* * Brad Kearns’ Morning Routine ( https://www.google.com/search?aqs=chrome.1.69i57j0.4991j0j7&ie=UTF-8&oq=Brad+Kearns%E2%80%99+Morning+Routine&q=brad+kearns+morning+routine&sourceid=chrome ) * Brad Kearns.com/MOFO ( http://www.bradkearns.com/MOFO/ ) * Brad podcast with Ashley Merryman ( https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ashley-merryman-rethinking-parenting-strategies-understanding/id1430171257?i=1000431617588 ) * UVEX lenses ( https://www.amazon.com/Uvex-Blocking-Computer-SCT-Orange-S1933X/dp/B000USRG90/ref=sr_1_10?keywords=orange+lens+glasses&qid=1579889155&sr=8-10 ) * Deep Nutrition ( https://drcate.com/the-four-pillars-of-world-cuisine/ ) * Brad Kearns Cold Therapy ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AF6d9ngxnDo ) * Active Couch Potato Syndrome ( https://blog.myfitnesspal.com/curious-case-active-couch-potato/ ) * Brad podcast with Jamieson ( https://www.bradkearns.com/2019/01/29/joeljamieson/ ) * Brad podcast with John Gray ( https://www.bradkearns.com/2019/02/15/johngray/ ) *QUOTES:* * "Making an effort and improving is the secret to self-esteem." * "Go for the SMASH foods. (Sardines, Mackerel, Anchovies, Salmon and Herring)" Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-get-over-yourself-podcast/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

*The Get Over Yourself podcast is branching out into the topic of parenting tips, whoopee!* In 2007, I read a landmark article in New York magazine called, "The Inverse Power of Praise—How Not To Talk To Your Kids." ( http://nymag.com/news/features/27840/ ) It forever changed my perspective about parenting and I referenced the insights on a daily basis for years after. You might be surprised to learn that you actually have less of an influence on your kid’s success than you think, considering there are so many other influences, like their peers, along with their own innate qualities, that factor in much more than you do! Some of these suggestions will be shocking and deeply thought-provoking. Your mind may be blown to realize that lavishing effusive praise might do your kid more harm than good; that innocent comments like, “You’re a great athlete,” or, “You’re so smart,” can make your kid become averse to challenge and progress. It sounds crazy, but when you try too hard to set your child up for success, you’re kind of doing the opposite, and instead setting them up for failure. Of course, we all want our kids to know that we see their best qualities, but acknowledging those things too much and focusing only on what it is that is “remarkable” about them will never do them any favors. Instead of praising the end result, praise the effort that went into the process - your child will respond and react to that kind of positive reinforcement in a way that’s much more productive for their growth. This episode will give you some great tools and tips to improve your parenting skills and emphasize the research-proven effective strategies like praising effort that leads to improvement over end results. Also, check out my previous show ( https://www.bradkearns.com/2019/03/12/merryman/#1537804290528-70f55232-6bc6 ) with New York Times bestselling author Ashley Merryman for related details. *TIMESTAMPS:* You have less influence on your kid’s success than you realize. [03:00] Sometimes we don’t realize the damage our good intentions cause. [04:44] Should every kid get a trophy? [08:30] The kids often attach their self-esteem to a compliment you’ve given. [09:33] Kids are smart.  They learn early on what attributes they have. [12:18] Allow your kids to fail and encourage them to keep trying. [15:53] When so say, “I’m proud of you” to your kid, you are taking the accomplishment away from him or her and turning it on to yourself. [16:37] Make your praise specific and sincere because general praise often has the opposite of the intended effect. [18:30] Sometimes it’s best to be silent until the kid wants to talk. [23:00] Comparing one kid to another is probably the worst thing you can do. [26:15] Overpraised elementary school kids who equate success with innate ability instead of effort, struggle. [28:31] Experiencing failure is a good learning experience because it builds resilience. [34:41] Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-get-over-yourself-podcast/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands