Podcast appearances and mentions of peter bregman

Listening to music with air pods or headphones can damage your hearing. To prevent this, you need to understand the common causes of hearing loss. This episode begins with an explanation so you can avoid the problem while still enjoying your favorite music. https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/hearing-loss/symptoms-causes/syc-20373072 How many times have you heard people say, “You can't change other people!” Well, that's not exactly true according to my guest, Peter Bregman. Peter is a well-known consultant, coach and author who believes you CAN get other people to change if you do it right. While his method may not work all the time, it can increase your chances of helping other people make important, positive changes. Peter Bregman is author of the several books including You Can Change Other People (https://amzn.to/3GGpgUh).  Science can explain a lot. And as you listen to this episode, you are going to hear scientific explanations regarding everyday things in your life like plastics, old book smell and what makes a food a superfood. It's interesting stuff from my guest Dr. Joe Schwarcz. Joe is director of McGill University's Office for Science and Society and the author of several books. His latest is, Superfoods, Silkworms, and Spandex: Science and Pseudoscience in Everyday Life (https://amzn.to/3Zoc3ei). You have likely heard reports that people who have pets are healthier and live longer. But what's the connection? How does having a pet do that? Listen as I explain the several ways pets are beneficial and how having a dog could save your life as well as improve your child's social skills. https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/326609#Dogs-an-important-factor-in-rehabilitation? PLEASE SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS!!! INDEED:  Get a $75 SPONSORED JOB CREDIT to get your jobs more visibility at https://Indeed.com/SOMETHING  Support our show by saying you heard about Indeed on this podcast.  Terms & conditions apply. AURA: Save on the perfect gift by visiting https://AuraFrames.com to get $35-off Aura's best-selling Carver Mat frames by using promo code SOMETHING at checkout! SHOPIFY:  Sign up for a $1 per-month trial period at https://Shopify.com/sysk . Go to SHOPIFY.com/sysk to grow your business – no matter what stage you're in! MINT MOBILE: Cut your wireless bill to $15 a month at https://MintMobile.com/something! $45 upfront payment required (equivalent to $15/mo.).  New customers on first 3 month plan only. Additional taxes, fees, & restrictions apply. HERS: Hers is changing women's healthcare by providing access to GLP-1 weekly injections with the same active ingredient as Ozempic and Wegovy, as well as oral medication kits. Start your free online visit today at https://forhers.com/sysk DELL: It's your last chance to snag Dell Technologies' lowest prices of the year before the holidays! If you've been waiting for an AI-ready PC, this is their biggest sale of the year! Shop now at https://Dell.com/deals PROGRESSIVE: The Name Your Price tool from Progressive can help you save on car insurance! You just tell Progressive what you want to pay and get options within your budget. Try it today at https://Progressive.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

One of the things I love about being an executive coach and organizational consultant is how creative I get to be and how many different things I get to try.Every year, at least 10 or 20 pretty significant books on related topics get published. They talk about personal performance, about how to get people to change, how to get teams to become more effective, and how to get organizational culture to shift. Helping clients navigate change is definitely fun, but it can also feel like an infinite candy shop. It's hard to choose a single approach as the right one, and hard to combine a bunch of different approaches into anything resembling a coherent strategy and action plan. And the truth is, when you look at the field of consulting and coaching, we don't have a great track record. As in, there's a lot of stuff that people do that seems nice—and just doesn't work. I remember when I first went back to graduate school for public health. I had this naive idea that anything that had a good message was good. So I thought that DARE—Drug Abuse Resistance Education; the drug education program where police would come into the community and tell kids not to do drugs—was great. And then I started looking at the research that DARE just didn't work. The kids who went through DARE were using drugs at least as much as kids who'd never been exposed to it. And then I started looking at abstinence-based sex education and realizing that there were more teen pregnancies there than in communities where kids were taught how to use birth control and how to talk to each other about sexuality and sex. Stuff that seemed like it was obvious, wasn't. Those revelatiopns made me realize how badly we need science in the social sciences to inform what we do. And that is all by way of teeing up today's guest, Dr. Richard Boyatzis, who's written a book called The Science of Change.It's a guide for changemakers, for practitioners, for scholars, for academics, for community organizers, for honorable politicians, and for activists.It explores key questions relating to how we bring about change.What's the recipe? What are the intructions. What are the key elements, and what are the tipping points to pay attention to?In other words, how do we put it all together and lead change effectively and not just creatively and heartfeltly. It's not an easy book. But it's for you if you really want to understand how to create change the most micro level—the personal—and in concentric rings outward, to the familial, communal, societal, and national levels. LinksThe Science of Change, by Richard E BoyatzisHelping People Change, by Richard Boyatzis, Melvin Smith, and Ellen van OostenI Heard There Was a Secret Chord, by Daniel LevitinThis is Your Brain on Music, by Daniel LevitinYou Can Change Other People, by Peter Bregman and Dr Howie JacobsonOutliers, by Malcolm GladwellStart with Why, by Simon SinekThis is What It Sounds Like, by Susan Rogers and Ogi Ogas

====================================================SUSCRIBETEhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCNpffyr-7_zP1x1lS89ByaQ?sub_confirmation=1=======================================================================EL FASCINANTE LABORATORIO DE DIOSDevoción Matutina para Adolescentes 2024Narrado por: Mone MuñozDesde: Buenos aires, Argentina===================|| www.drministries.org ||===================03 DE NOVIEMBRECON LA MIRADA EN EL FUTURO«Finalmente le preguntó: "¿No tienes más hijos?". "Falta el más pequeño, que es el que cuida el rebaño" respondió Jesé» (1 Samuel 16:11).¿QUIÉN QUIERES SER EN EL FUTURO? ¿DÓNDE QUIERES ESTAR? Según Peter Bregman, (experto en liderazgo y escritor de varios libros sobre el tema) estas preguntas son esenciales para que podamos ser realmente productivos. Al fin y al cabo, la productividad no consiste en hacer mucho, sino en hacer aquello que te ayude a alcanzar tus sueños.Normalmente, dedicamos gran parte de nuestro tiempo a atender lo que es urgente, pero si no comenzamos desde ahora a prepararnos para el futuro que deseamos tener, nunca alcanzaremos nuestros objetivos. Por ejemplo, si quieres hablar inglés con fluidez, tienes que reservar tiempo para practicar desde ahora. Si quieres ser un profesional de éxito, tienes que aprovechar las oportunidades del presente para poder alcanzar ese objetivo. Necesitas poner en acción hoy mismo a tú «yo» del futuro.Cuando Dios envió a Samuel a ungir a David, no veía al David del presente (solo al pastor que cuidaba de las ovejas de su padre), sino al David del futuro: al gran rey de Israel. Dios no solo ve lo que somos hoy, con nuestros defectos y nuestros pecados, sino lo que podemos llegar a ser si nos dejamos guiar por él.Sin embargo, para que Dios nos convierta en todo aquello que desea que seamos, debemos dejar que el Espíritu Santo nos transforme hoy mismo. ¿Te gustaría que así fuera?Deja que Dios guíe tu vida, sé proactivo y toma buenas decisiones junto a Jesús. ¡De ese modo, ¡tu futuro será increíble! 

Peter Bregman is the founder of Bregman Partners and was named the #1 executive coach in the world by Leading Global Coaches. He has coached C-Suite executives in premier companies such as CBS, Mars, Citi and is also the Wall Street Journal bestselling author of multiple books, including his latest, You CAN Change Other People. In this classic episode of the Elevate Podcast, Peter joined host Robert Glazer to discuss how leaders can affect positive change in others, help people break out of stagnation, and much more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week on the podcast, Chloe is talking all about personality and workstyle assessments. No, she's not going to tell you which one is the best (because “best” is relative to what your needs are), but she is going to tell you all about the ways in which using assessments can help you and your team, the limitations of these types of assessments, how not to use them, and what to look for when deciding what assessment might be right for your needs. If you'd like to have a conversation about how and which assessment can best support you and your team's or business's needs, you can schedule a consultation with Chloe directly here.Here are the articles referenced during the episode:Is Personality Fixed? Personality Changes as Much as "Variable" Economic Factors and More Strongly Predicts Changes to Life Satisfaction; Boyce, Wood, and Powdthavee, Social Indicators ResearchPersonality Stability From Age 14 to Age 77 Years; Harris, Brett, Johnson, and Deary, Psychology and Aging, Should Personality Assessments Be Used In Hiring? Sherrie Haynie, ForbesThe Problem with Using Personality Tests for Hiring; Whitney Martin, HBREmployees Can't Be Summed Up by a Personality Test; Peter Bregman, HBRAnd don't forget! We're hosting a challenge from today, June 12th, through Friday June 16th for leaders of small businesses and organizations to prioritize their well-being using our CoCreate Work well-being framework! It's not too late to sign-up! Get all the information and sign up on our CoCreate Work Leadership Well-Being Challenge page. We hope you will join us for this challenge to prioritize your well-being!Resources: We're launching a Culture Certification Course this year! Are you ready to learn the step by step process for building great culture?! You can learn more here! Our Shared Purpose, Mission, and Principles Audit is a great opportunity for you to make sure you have the compass you need to provide purpose-driven direction, create an inclusive culture, engage team members, and make purpose-aligned decisions. At CoCreate Work, we believe in asking great questions. Click here to receive our guide to 40 Powerful Questions to accelerate your growth. Check out our hiring course, Hiring the Right Team for Your Business, and be sure to subscribe to our email list so you'll know when it's available for purchase. We would love to connect with you! Instagram - CoCreate Work on Instagram La'Kita on Instagram Chloe on Instagram Visit our P...Resources:Our next session of the Culture Crash Course is currently open for enrollment with the course starting on April 29th and running through May 10th. For more information, please visit cocreatework.com/crashcourse. Early bird pricing is available through April 16th. Enroll today!Additionally, we will be launching our CoCreate Work Leadership Book Club on May 1st. Stay tuned for more details! Rolling admission is now open for The Culture Certification from CoCreate Work. The Culture Certification is an 18-week live, virtual intensive that empowers human-centered leaders with actionable strategies to shape the future of work in any organization.Are you ready to learn the step by step process for building great culture?! You can learn more here!Our Shared Purpose, Mission, and Principles Audit is a great opportunity for you to make sure you have the compass you need to provide purpose-driven direction, create an inclusive culture, engage team members, and make purpose-aligned decisions.At CoCreate Work, we believe in asking great questions. Click here to receive our guide to 40 Powerful Questions to accelerate your growth.Check out our hiring course, Hiring the Right Team for Your Business, and be sure to subscribe to our email list so you'll know when it's available for purchase.We would love to connect with you!CoCreate Work on InstagramLa'Kita on InstagramChloe on InstagramVisit our Podcast PageQuestions you would like us to answer on the podcast? email us at podcast@cocreatework.com

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There's a difference between being a great leader in theory and actually being one in practice.As a CEO, you face a lot of challenges that aren't actually business-related or professional in nature at all. They're just often disguised as such. But they're really emotional challenges that require something to bridge the gap. That something is called “emotional courage.”What does that entail, though? I've been exploring this idea of emotional courage in female leaders and came across best-selling author, emotional courage expert, and CEO advisor Peter Bregman in my research. According to him, it boils down to this: if you're willing to feel anything, you can do anything.In this episode of the Time to Level Up podcast, you'll learn about what emotional courage is, what it looks like in practice with examples, and how it affects you in business and in life. I'll also teach you about Bregman's three elements to being a great leader and how you can start taking on those elements within yourself right away.5:54 - How Peter Bregman defines emotional courage and its effect on your goals9:31 - What happens when you try to stuff your emotions down12:28 - The difference between feeling vs. expressing an emotion.13:50 - Bregman's three critical elements for powerful leadership (and why you need all three simultaneously to be a great leader)20:20 - Ways you can develop each of Bregman's leadership elements starting right now26:13 - The approach to emotional courage that will make you unstoppableMentioned In Emotional Courage: Becoming an “I've Got This” Leader18 Minutes and Leading with Emotional Courage by Peter BregmanAndrea's LinksI've Got This CoachingRunway to Freedom

In today's episode of The Plant Trainers Podcast we talk to Howard Jacobson, PhD all about Staying Motivated In Tough Times. It seems that people are finding it harder to stay motivated to live healthy, stay happy and balance life. Howie talks about connecting motivation to transformation. Wanting to be healthy isn't enough of a motivator for most people to actually reach their goals and and sustain them. We explore different options for higher level motivations, how they work, what they look like in practice, and how we can connect with them and use them. Josh LaJaunie comes up a lot in this podcast as he is a big inspiration for Howard's thoughts on motivation; so if you have not yet listened to PTP105 with Josh LaJaunie, you should consider going back and having a listen to that first. This episode with Howard Jacobson is also a two part podcast as the conversation was just too good to cut short. So please click here for the second part of the episode.  Howie Jacobson, PhD, is an executive coach to clients ranging from startup founders to established and rising Fortune 100 leaders. He's also a health coach, and co-founder and lead instructor at the WellStart Health Coach Training Academy. Howie is coauthor of You Can Change Other People, with Peter Bregman; Whole, with T. Colin Campbell, PhD; Sick to Fit, with Josh LaJaunie; and Proteinaholic, with Garth Davis, MD. In this episode we discuss: Vegan vs plant-based Writing with Dr T. Colin Campbell and Dr Garth Davis Motivation The influence of Josh LaJaunie Waiting for tragedy Wanting to do things vs choosing to do them Behavioral economics Pain & pleasure – cost/benefit Pain threshold and instant gratification

Prior to the pandemic, life was on fast forward. Work was nuts, bars and restaurants were jammed, schedules were packed, traffic was bad and getting worse. There was not enough time on our days to do it all.  And then, COVID-19.  The world stopped. And so did we. We now find ourselves sitting alone with our thoughts. Scrolling through Facebook or binge-watching Netflix series after Netflix series. We're doing a whole lot of nothing. But there's a lot we can learn about ourselves and the world around us when we embrace nothingness. In today's episode, I discuss the importance of doing nothing and why it's a muscle or skill you can build and hone. I discuss how nothingness encourages creativity and innovation, creating both contrast and focus in our lives while allowing us to face the truths of our current reality. I discuss how businesses and organizations can benefit from encouraging their employees to take time off to ‘just be' and do nothing. I also discuss how the quietude forced upon us during the COVID-19 pandemic has created a profound opportunity for personal growth, placed a spotlight on humanity, and challenged us to learn how to create from within without requiring external forces to define the trajectory of our lives.   “We all have the capacity to create something from nothing. The key is a combination of courage and time.” - Chris Colbert   This week on Insert:Human ●     Society's perspective on worthiness●     Harvard Business Review contributor, Peter Bregman's perspective on the ‘white space' in life, why it's important, and why he believes it's a muscle you can build●     The importance of encouraging your staff to stay home and do nothing●     Addressing unfounded fears and feelings of discomfort around doing nothing●     How to embrace doing nothing and how it can help eliminate the stress and worry of our daily lives●     How the world has shifted from ‘pull' to ‘push' and how the blank space it creates has impacted us and our children●     Why learning how to deal with nothingness is hard, but not impossible●     How the COVID-19 pandemic has shined a spotlight on humanity and created a profound opportunity for personal growth  Our Favorite Quotes: ●     “What if the best life preserver is not doing more - but rather, doing less? In fact, doing nothing.” - Chris Colbert●     “To do nothing, we must find the courage to let go of all that we think we have to do - and replace it with a silent contemplation of what we could and should do.” - Chris Colbert●     “When the omnipresence of pull recedes to be replaced by push, we feel a quiet desperation emerge in ourselves and our children.” - Chris Colbert●     “That is what makes these unprecedented times a form of opportunity, of profound opportunity - the chance to change the context of our lives from pull to push.” - Chris Colbert  Resources Mentioned: ●     The Importance of Doing Nothing article●     Not Enough Time? Try Doing Nothing by Peter Bregman, Harvard Business Review●     From Push to Pull: How to Manage Our Time in Disquieting Times article    Insert:Human - For a Better Life & Better World Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Insert:Human. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe to the show and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts.  Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more seekers and problem-solvers, like you.  Join me on Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin. For more exclusive content and to claim your free copy of the first chapter of my upcoming book, Technology is Dead, visit my website.

Wouldn't life just be easier if everyone did what we wanted? Of course it would! Peter and Howard will share what they've learned over the years working with leaders of organizations on changing culture and changing behavior. Join us for what's sure to be a lively discussion. If it isn't lively enough, I'll challenge them […]

To mark the half way point, instead of chatting to a guest I'm sharing six book recommendations from my 2022 reading challenge Reclaim Time To Read, comprising three business or other non-fiction books and three novels. Show notes are at www.helenbeedham.com/podcast. 4m 53s - Book 1, The Lonely Century by Noreena Hertz 8m 29s - Book 2, The Culture Code: the secrets of highly successful groups by Daniel Coyle 11m 42s - Book 3, Four Seconds by Peter Bregman 18m 5s - Book 4, Machines like me, by Ian McEwan 20m 11s - Book 5, Girl, Woman, Other by Bernadine Evaristo 24m 8s - Book 6, Tinker Tailor Soldier Spy by John Le Carré

In this episode, I visit with Corey Walker of Ncite Partners about best practices when it comes to interviewing.  Corey tells us why it's important to know your audience before the interview, how long a resume should be, about the workplace complaining epidemic and how it affects us and our productivity.  The source material is from the Harvard Business Review's article, The Next Time You Want to Complain at Work, Do This Instead by Peter Bregman.  You can read it here https://hbr.org/2018/05/the-next-time-you-want-to-complain-at-work-do-this-insteadHelp support The Scott Townsend Show via Buy Me A Coffee  www.buymeacoffee.com/scotttownsend► Subscribe to my Youtube channel --- https://bit.ly/3iV8sOTYou can look for these episodes every week, so please hit SUBSCRIBE to stay in the loop for each new show!The Scott Townsend Show Merchandise https://teespring.com/stores/tsts-2Resources and Links--------------------------------------------My contact info:LinkedIn https://bit.ly/2ZZ4qweTwitter  https://bit.ly/3enLDQaFacebook   https://bit.ly/2Od4ItOInstagram  https://bit.ly/2ClncWlSend me a text: 918-397-0327Transcribe your podcasts and videos with Otterhttps://otter.ai/referrals/ICNJ76HUExecutive Producer:  Ben TownsendCreative Consultant:  Matthew Blue TownsendShot with a 1080P Webcam with Microphone, WebCam USB Camera, Computer HD Streaming Webcam for PC Desktop & Laptop w/Mic, Wide Angle Lens & Large Sensor for Superior Low Light-wb-4 https://amzn.to/32gfgAuAudio by Blue Yeti Nano Premium USB Mic for Recording and Streaming - Shadow Grey https://amzn.to/2Zuh0UUFollow The Scott Townsend Show podcast onSpotify  https://spoti.fi/3eDwLgGiTunes  https://apple.co/3jAwCyuStitcher  https://bit.ly/3gYaDiOTuneIn  https://bit.ly/2OzlH9VVoice Actor:  Britney McCulloughLogo by Angie Jordan  https://blog.angiejordan.com/contact/Theme Song by Androzguitar https://www.fiverr.com/inbox/androzguitarFor media requests or interviews, please reach out toscotttownsend2400@gmail.com

Help support The Scott Townsend Show via Buy Me A Coffee  www.buymeacoffee.com/scotttownsendTo hear the entire episode, go to https://thescotttownsendshow.buzzsprout.com/ or wherever you listen to your favorite podcasts.In this episode, I talk about the workplace complaining epidemic and how it affects us and our productivity.  The source material is from the Harvard Business Review's article, The Next Time You Want to Complain at Work, Do This Instead by Peter Bregman.  You can read it here https://hbr.org/2018/05/the-next-time-you-want-to-complain-at-work-do-this-instead► Subscribe to my Youtube channel --- https://bit.ly/3iV8sOTYou can look for these episodes every week, so please hit SUBSCRIBE to stay in the loop for each new show!The Scott Townsend Show Merchandise https://teespring.com/stores/tsts-2Resources and Links--------------------------------------------My contact info:LinkedIn https://bit.ly/2ZZ4qweTwitter  https://bit.ly/3enLDQaFacebook   https://bit.ly/2Od4ItOInstagram  https://bit.ly/2ClncWlSend me a text: 918-397-0327Transcribe your podcasts and videos with Otterhttps://otter.ai/referrals/ICNJ76HUExecutive Producer:  Ben TownsendCreative Consultant:  Matthew Blue TownsendShot with a 1080P Webcam with Microphone, WebCam USB Camera, Computer HD Streaming Webcam for PC Desktop & Laptop w/Mic, Wide Angle Lens & Large Sensor for Superior Low Light-wb-4 https://amzn.to/32gfgAuAudio by Blue Yeti Nano Premium USB Mic for Recording and Streaming - Shadow Grey https://amzn.to/2Zuh0UUFollow The Scott Townsend Show podcast onSpotify  https://spoti.fi/3eDwLgGiTunes  https://apple.co/3jAwCyuStitcher  https://bit.ly/3gYaDiOTuneIn  https://bit.ly/2OzlH9VVoice Actor:  Britney McCulloughLogo by Angie Jordan  https://blog.angiejordan.com/contact/Theme Song by Androzguitar https://www.fiverr.com/inbox/androzguitarFor media requests or interviews, please reach out toscotttownsend2400@gmail.com

We've all heard the phrase, “You can't change others. You can only change yourself.” It's really frustrating when the people we care about are behaving in self-defeating ways (especially with their health and well-being), and when we try to talk to them about it, we just make things worse. Our guest today, Howie Jacobson, is here to tell you, you CAN change people - not by force, shame, or guilt - but by becoming a supportive ally. You may know Howie as the long-time host of the Plant Yourself podcast, and he's also the co-author of some groundbreaking books including Whole by T.Colin Campbell, Proteinaholic with Dr. Garth Davis, and Sick to Fit with Josh Lajaunie. His most recent book, “You CAN Change Other People: The Four Steps to Help Employees, Colleagues—Even Family—Up Their Game,” co-authored with Peter Bregman, outlines four steps to helping people change. If you care about people around you who are eating poorly, not taking care of themselves, or not reaching their potential, Howie is here to help. Episode Timestamps 11:22 People don't resist change. They resist BEING changed. 12:55 What does it mean to really help people change their behavior? “We can use techniques and approaches to allow people to make different decisions.” 14:05 Step 1: Shift from a Critic to an Ally - "I'm here to help you if you want my help." -empathize -express confidence in them -ask for permission 22:50 Be prepared for them to say, “No thanks.” 25:25 Step 2: Find the Positive Outcome - What would you like to happen? What would it look like? 31:30 Step 3: Find a Golden Opportunity - What can you do right now? 41:06 Step 4: What's the Plan? Episode Resources Watch the Episode on YouTube Episode Web Page Order You Can Change People: The Four Steps to Help Your Colleagues, Employees—Even Family—Up Their Game Plant Yourself Podcast Ask Howie - Business Coaching Website To stock up on the best-tasting, most convenient, 100% PLANTSTRONG foods, check out all of our PLANTSTRONG products HERE. Give us a like on the PLANTSTRONG Facebook Page and check out what being PLANSTRONG is all about. We always keep it stocked full of new content and updates, tips for healthy living, delicious recipes, and you can even catch me LIVE on there! We've also got an Instagram! Check us out and share your favorite PLANTSTRONG products and why you love it! Don't forget to tag us using #goplantstrong

Making a difference in the market doesn't always have to be through real estate. Sometimes, all it takes is genuine efforts to improve those in your community. In today's episode of Women Who Lead, our host Teresa is joined by three powerful women who put in the effort to advocate on behalf of diversity initiatives for others both inside and outside the real estate industry. Meet the Advocates: Martha Mosier, President and General Counsel of Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties Kathleen Rebhan, CEO and Owner of Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Elite Properties Gretchen Rosenberg, President and CEO of Kentwood Real Estate Having a passion for your community: Working for a luxury brand, Gretchen believes that “luxury” means treating everyone as vital, and the client's definition is often something else. She thinks it is essential to give back by building housing for the situationally homeless. Martha's agents had a passion for DEI, so they created an impact council. One of the initiatives they started was a first-time homebuyer fair that helps marginalized communities understand the path to homeownership. It's challenging for people to fill the requirements to meet government-sponsored programming. Women should join organizations to find a network of women who can help them understand what they need to do to reach their desired path. Leadership for women in real estate: The path for women in leadership is more available than ever. However, there are still glass ceilings we need to be mindful of when determining our actions. To be successful in real estate, you must have passion. Of course, you'll fail while juggling multiple obligations. However, you just need to pick them up and move on. Question your motives. If you want to enter leadership purely for the salary, you'll encounter many problems and challenges you might not be ready for.  Be patient. Set out the intention of being a managing broker at an office, network, work hard, and the opportunity will come. The importance of mentorship: Great mentors are the reason successful people become successful. When you have a support network, you can do and overcome more.  Once you arrive at a certain place in your career, take the elevator back down to bring more people up.  As leaders, it is our responsibility to ensure other women are afforded the same opportunities we were given.  Overcoming biases in the professional world: When you get started in business, there's a youth bias, but put in the work and be patient, and you'll overcome it. There's a gender bias in almost every position, and how you approach that matters. You can either reeducate their biases or determine it isn't worth your time.  Instead of becoming angry by the bias you encounter, use that to fuel and motivate you to prove them wrong. What advice would the advocates give to women today? Don't judge yourself based on what society said you should be. Instead, be prepared to work hard because success isn't handed to you. Have a passion for what you do. Many people go into things for money, but they quickly burn out. Do something you have a passion for, and economic success will come. Don't follow the monetary world, and don't throw yourself into a career at the expense of what matters - your family and friends. Instead, spend time with those you love. Book recommendations for listeners: Any book by Patrick Lencioni Power Branding by Steve McKee Leading with Emotional Courage by Peter Bregman. Remember, always bring women up the ladder with you as you climb to the top. For more great content from Teresa, connect with her on LinkedIn, join her Women Who Lead Series on Facebook and subscribe to her YouTube channel. You can find more episodes of Women Who Lead on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and anywhere else podcasts can be found. This episode is brought to you in part by Venus et Fleur. Are you looking for a great way to show appreciation to family, friends, or even customers? Give them a floral arrangement they won't forget anytime soon. These beautiful arrangements make the perfect closing gift for any realtor to stay top of mind. Visit venusetfleur.com and use code “hsoa20” when ordering for 20% off.

In this episode of the HR Leaders podcast, I'm joined by my guest, Howie Jacobson, Executive Coach, Author, ultimate Frisbee Player, Behaviour Nerd and host of the Plant Yourself Podcast.Howie is co-author, with Peter Bregman, of You Can Change Other People, and the author of Google AdWords For Dummies. Also, with Peter Bregman, he is co-author of the Coaching for Performance chapter in the AMA's Certified Professional in Management Body of Knowledge series. His writings have also appeared in Fast Company, Harvard Business Review, CNN, and Market Watch. We discuss: Body Language Secrets To Win More NegotiationsThis episode of the HR Leaders Podcast is brought to you by AceUpIf there's a lesson in everything, what did the pandemic teach us about work, leadership, and the role coaching can play in our future? Download the report to access a collection of highlights to help you shape a post-pandemic workplace that works for everyone: https://bit.ly/381qQF5

Meistens haben wir zu viel zu tun. Und doch verlieren wir uns häufig in den Aufgaben. Das ist gut und schlecht zugleich: Denn das heißt ja vielleicht, dass wir im Flow sind. Mit der Schattenseite, dass wir eben zu lange bei einer Aufgabe bleiben und dann plötzlich die anderen Aufgaben nicht mehr schaffen. Hör dir in dieser kurzen Folge einen Quicktipp an, der dir genau dabei hilft: Der Zeitmanagement-Boxenstopp. Links: Informiere dich jetzt über meine „Arbeite klüger Membership“. Folge 335: Zeitschätzung für Aufgaben, deren Dauer unklar ist Peter Bregman, 18 Minutes: Find Your Focus, Master Distraction and Get the Right Things Done (Affiliate-Link)

Have you thought about changing people? Maybe, the way they hand in reports. Maybe, it's the way they show up for a meeting. Now the question becomes, can you change people? That isn't so easy to answer and definitely isn't easy to do. Howie Jacobson joins Kevin to discuss resistance to change. He says change is just a discontinuity of the past. The hard part is the change we can't control. He talks about the powers we need to activate and to remember it's not about us. Key Points Howie discusses why people resist change. He shares 4 powers to help change, which include: Ownership Independent capability Emotional courage Future proofing He talks about the 4 steps to help others get to change. Meet Howie Name: Howie Jacobson His Story: Howie Jacobson is the co-author, with Peter Bregman, of You Can Change Other People: The Four Steps to Help Your Colleagues, Employees—Even Family—Up Their Game. He is an executive coach to clients ranging from startup founders to established and rising Fortune 100 leaders. He is Director of Coaching at Bregman Partners, and Head Coach at the Healthy Minds Initiative. Worth Mentioning: Howie hosts the Plant Yourself Podcast, where he interviews remarkable people engaged in healing at the individual, institutional, and planetary level. Howie earned his M.P.H. and Ph.D. in Health Studies from Temple University and his B.A. from Princeton University. He lives in rural North Carolina with his wife, where he writes, gardens, plays Ultimate Frisbee, runs, fiddles, and loads the dishwasher correctly. This episode is brought to you by… The Daily Email, daily inspiration for leaders sent Monday-Friday every week. Kevin writes a short message to inform, inspire, engage, and focus you on becoming the best you and the best leader you can be. Book Recommendations You Can Change Other People: The Four Steps to Help Your Colleagues, Employees—Even Family—Up Their Game by Howie Jacobson and Peter Bregman Sand Talk: How Indigenous Thinking Can Save the World by Tyson Yunkaporta Related Podcast Episodes Flourishing as a Leader and Coach with Lisa Zigarmi. The Coaching Effect with Bill Eckstrom.

Does listening to music on earphone cause hearing loss? Well, that depends. This episode begins with an explanation of the 3 causes of most hearing loss and how listening to music on headphones (or earbuds) can be a problem. Once you understand the problem, it will be easier to avoid it while still enjoying the music you love . https://www.rollingstone.com/product-recommendations/electronics/headphones-hearing-loss-headaches-1131746/ It is often said that you cannot change other people. Peter Bregman disagrees. Peter is a well-known consultant, coach and author who believes you CAN get others to change as long as you do it right. His method may not work all the time but it will increase your batting average in helping others in your life make important changes - especially when those changes are beneficial to both of you. Peter is author of the several books including You Can Change Other People (https://amzn.to/3GGpgUh). Listen as he explains how to create change in others and why it works so well.  Almost everything you do in your life has some scientific component to it. Why do you wash your hands? Science says so. What is the science behind the placebo effect? Is there really any science behind all the anti-aging advice you hear? To help answer these and other questions regarding the science in everyday life is Dr. Joe Schwarcz. Joe is director of McGill University's Office for Science and Society and author of a book called book called Science Goes Viral: Captivating Accounts of Science in Everyday Life (https://amzn.to/3HTPeFa) You've most likely heard that having a pet is good for your health. So how does that work exactly? Probably in lots of ways but listen as I explain how having a dog could save your life as well as improve your kids' social skills. https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/326609#Dogs-an-important-factor-in-rehabilitation? PLEASE SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS! We really like The Jordan Harbinger Show! Check out https://jordanharbinger.com/start OR search for it on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or wherever you listen!  Truebill is the smartest way to manage your finances. The average person saves $720 per year with Truebill. Get started today at https://Truebill.com/SYSK! Check out Squarespace.com for a free trial, and when you're ready to launch, go to https://squarespace.com/SOMETHING to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain. M1 Finance is a sleek, fully integrated financial platform that lets you manage your cash flow with a few taps and it's free to start. Head to https://m1finance.com/something to get started!  Grab a Focus Freak Milkshake for 3.99 or less! And use offer code ENERGIZE to save $1 when you order on the Sheetz app!  To TurboTax Live Experts an interesting life can mean an even greater refund! Visit https://TurboTax.com to lear more. To see the all new Lexus NX and to discover everything it was designed to do for you, visit https://Lexus.com/NX https://www.geico.com Bundle your policies and save! It's Geico easy! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Duffy Spencer talks with Peter Bregman and Howie Jacobson, authors of "You CAN Change Other People." They discuss moving from critic to ally, how to find out what‘s important to that person and looking for common goals. An examination of ownership and vulnerability.

Dr. Duffy talks with Peter Bregman and Howie Jacobson, authors of "You CAN Change Other People." They discuss how to change another person, the emphasis is on filling that person's needs and not one's own, in addition to demonstrating empathy.

Peter Bregman is an author and the CEO of Bregman Partners. Peter is recognized as the #1 executive coach by Leading Global Coaches.Howie Jacobson, PhD, is Director of Coaching at Bregman Partners and Head Coach at the Healthy Minds Initiative. He is the host of the Plant Yourself podcast, and contributing author of the New York Times bestseller Whole.Peter and Howie's book is available now: You Can Change Other People: The Four Steps to Help Your Colleagues, Employees—Even Family—Up Their Game.Read more about Peter and Howie at: bregmanpartners.com.Support the Show - Become a Patron!Help us grow and become a Patron today: https://www.patreon.com/smartpeoplepodcastSponsors:Athletic Greens - Get a FREE 1 year supply of immune-supporting Vitamin D and 5 FREE travel packs with your first purchase. All you have to do is visit athleticgreens.com/SMART.Tonic - Try Tonic and get 20% off your order. Visit tonicvibes.com/smartpeople.Donate:Donate here to support the show!

“People change all the time,” write Peter Bregman and Howie Jacobson in their new book, https://amzn.to/3FvJVdB (You CAN Change Other People). “They make big changes like starting businesses, getting married, moving, or getting a new job. And they make smaller changes like eating healthier, waking up earlier, or listening better. But people change when they choose to change. If they feel like you're trying to make them change? Forget it.” How do we help others make changes they actually want and need to make? Well, drawing on decades of experience helping leaders, employees, and others to change, Bregman and Jacobson offers a straightforward, proven, and repeatable four-step process for helping people make meaningful changes, and we get a taste of that in our conversation today.  We are always on the lookout for those books that offer us depth, give us specific takeaways and challenges, and also inspire us. Oh, and do all this without shaming us to do better or else we suck. And today's guests have executed on a book full of ideas that does just that. Be sure and stay tuned to the end for our Big Self Takeaway! Time Stamps: 2:10--So how did you all come to think of this and research this for the book? 7:00--Ally is the first step to shift from critic to ally 9:05--The first step in the process actually does begin with yourself when you step in as a supporter 15:30--What to do if you've asked for permission give feedback and they (on rare occasions) say, "No." 21:48--How do you handle working with shame with individuals 27:58--The people I most want to be in conversation with 33:27--Is there anything good in a person's "bad" behavior? 41:15--Develop a plan for people to track themselves 49:25--The Big Self Takeaway Leave us a review and https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-big-self-podcast/id1485907203 (subscribe on Apple iTunes). https://open.spotify.com/show/1yx9VzUCRcYezd7cUlSRn4?si=Xygeo5a7T0ePnX7IaHu0AQ (Subscribe on Spotify). Find us at the Big Self Community on Facebook.

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Can You Change Other People? We're continuing a series of episodes on the topic of change. Back in episode 339 we talked with Katy Milkman about her book How to Change, which provided some helpful insights into the behavioral science of change. Then we talked with Gary Lloyd in episode 343 about his book Gardeners Not Mechanics to get practical insights on how to lead change in organizations. I wanted to add one more episode in the series to focus on a key aspect of what we need to do as leaders: help others to change. Peter Bregman and Howie Jacobson have written a remarkable new book entitled You Can Change Other People: The Four Steps to Help Your Colleagues, Employees—Even Family—Up Their Game. Did you catch that title? You can change other people. Isn't there something about the phrasing that just seems wrong? Isn't it true that you can't change other people—you can only change yourself? Peter and Howie are going to challenge that idea today. They'll share why changing others might just be the most important capability a leader can develop. They'll share some examples of how NOT to try to get someone to change. More importantly, they'll give us a taste of what their four steps are and how to use them. It's a fun conversation with two people who are actively using these ideas every day to help people change. I can't wait to share this discussion with you. Learn more about Peter and Howie at BregmanPartners.com/change/. Join our Global LEAD52 Community Ready to take your leadership skills to the next level? LEAD52 is your 5-minute weekly pass to leadership intelligence. You get 52 weeks of learning, delivered right to your inbox, taking less than 5 minutes a week. And it's all for free. Join us at https://GetLEAD52.com. Thank you for joining me for this episode of The People and Projects Podcast! Talent Triangle: Leadership   Workout by Brian Holtz Music Link: https://filmmusic.io/song/8600-workout License: https://filmmusic.io/standard-license Urban Music by chilledmusic Link: https://filmmusic.io/song/8439-urban-beauty- License: https://filmmusic.io/standard-license

Michael's new book How to Begin: Start Doing Something that Matters is now available at www.HowToBegin.com. When I was in Lisbon recently, I had one of those lovely moments of meeting a kindred spirit. It's not the same as meeting someone who's interesting or lovely, instead, there's a recognition of ‘you and I, we are similarly weird and interesting.' I gave Steven D'Souza my book, and he gave me his new book, Not Being. It's a great book that tries to navigate similar big questions that I mull over. In one section, he wrote: “Now I find more truth in poetry than in prose; in nature than in classrooms. I've come to the point where I'm tired of the narrative of development, and exhausted by the imperative for self-improvement. I'm ending the search. I want to enjoy life on the other side of these personal development projects.”  You don't typically hear the first question I ask my guests; Who are you, what's your story? Sometimes people plunge into that with gusto, sometimes there's a bit of a nervous laugh - but Peter Bregman sat with this question longer than most of us, and revealed that he's more than his résumé of being a coach, teacher, and author. Get‌ ‌book‌ ‌links‌ ‌and‌ ‌resources‌ ‌at‌ https://www.mbs.works/2-pages-podcast/  Peter reads two poems; ‘The Invitation' by Oriah Mountain Dreamer [reading begins at 11:40], and ‘The Guest House' by Rumi. [reading begins at 14:40] Hear us discuss:  “I live my life in relation to emotion.” [16:51] | Continuing to be ambitious after achievements. [18:22] | You Can Change Other People: “We all are learning how to be honest without learning how to be helpful.” [20:46] | Acknowledging and responding to struggle: “If you can't empathise, you will never be an ally.” [23:55] 

There is a great little book out there by Peter Bregman called “18 Minutes; Find Your Focus, Master Distraction, and Get the Right Things Done". I read this book some time ago. When I came across the book again recently, I thought it was a good time to revisit it. "18 Minutes" is a book about how to find your focus, master distraction, so that you get the right things done. As we all know, getting the right things done can be a daily challenge for many entrepreneurs. So Who is Peter Bregman? Peter Bregman is a consultant, a national speaker, and he writes business columns for the Harvard Business Review, Forbes magazine, and other publications. He has definitely mastered time management in his own business. It's easy to see that his focus each day is on getting the things done that will help him achieve his annual goals. Peter has a lot of great suggestions in his book, and here are just a few of them. 1. Finding Your Focus In his book, Peter says you need to slow down your momentum; hover above your world and look around. See things as they really are, beyond what you expect things to be, while also focusing on your outcome. This is an extraordinary way to look at things. One other tip he has is to be open to extraordinary potential. How many times does our mindset limit our potential? We are all capable of that. These things will help you to tap into resources and talents that you may have forgotten were there. Next, ask yourself, what is this year about? What do you want to create? Are there things that are no longer working that you need to let go of? 2. The Three Day Rule; Getting the Right Things Done Peter has a “three-day rule” for getting things off your to-do list. Nothing stays on the list for more than three days. The author believes they will just get in the way of what you really need to get done if you leave everything on your list. Everything falls into one of these 4 categories after three days: Do it immediately Schedule it.  Put it on your calendar and commit to doing it so that things actually get done. Let it go if it is not enough of a priority. If you simply cannot do that (let it go), then he has a “someday/maybe list” that he looks at monthly. ( I have to admit that I have one of these lists.) Peter says he sleeps a little better knowing that these things are actually on a list somewhere, even if he probably will never do a lot of them. Eventually, the ones that are no longer relevant will get deleted. Some of those projects may ultimately go on your priority list next year. The real point he is making is that they come off your to-do list. You don't get weighed down by things that are not your priority now. 3. Creating A Daily Ritual In 18 Minutes Step 1. Your Morning Minutes. (5 Minutes)  Decide what will make this day highly successful. Ask yourself what can you realistically accomplish today. Begin your day with this exercise. Step 2. Refocus. (8 minutes - 1 Minute For Every Hour )  Set an alarm to ring every hour and start the work that is listed on your calendar. Manage your day hour by hour in order to maintain your laser focus. Step 3. Your Evening Minutes. (5 Minutes)  At the end of the day, take 5 minutes and review how your day went, and decide if there are any final things you can take care of. Is there anyone you need to update with a call or an email before you finish this day? Also, ask yourself how did I do? How can I make tomorrow better? And finally, take a few minutes and plan tomorrow. Taking these 18 minutes a day you can save yourself hours of inefficiency, and it will help you to choose your focus throughout the day. 4. Mastering Distraction. What is This Moment About? Peter has some good tips for mastering distraction, for holding on to your boundaries (we all need boundaries), and saying no convincingly.  It's often hard to say no even though we know we should. As he points out, sometimes we get in our own way like when we procrastinate. We let other things take the place of that important job we have avoided tackling. And since he is very human, he also shares some of his “slip-ups” in his own life. 5. Choosing Your "One Thing" After reading this book, you will probably have a lot of great ideas about what you should do differently whether it is structuring your to-do list around your annual goals and focus or stopping every hour to take a breath and refocus. Whatever it is, choose the one thing that you think will make the biggest difference in your life so that you see positive change year after year. Choose your "one thing" and do it. When you have mastered "your one thing", then choose another one. Rinse and repeat as some folks say. Wrapping Up... I would love to know what you do to help maintain your focus throughout the day. For those of you that have small children, if you have some secrets to share, I would love to hear those, and I'm sure other parents would love to hear those also. Love Books? I know I do. Check out another one of my favorites, "You Are a Badass" by Jen Sincero BY CLICKING HERE.  It's a good one!   Louisville Gal's Real Estate Blog Stop by the Louisville Gal's Real Estate Blog for more great content and some awesome freebies.       .

Contrary to the popular saying, “You can't change other people, you can only change yourself,” today's guests explain otherwise. Authors of You Can Change Other People, Peter Bregman and Howie Jacobson join the podcast today to share their insight and how true leadership is in fact changing others for the better. Peter Bregman is a globally recognized executive coach, the author of several books, a highly sought after keynote speaker, and the founder of Bregman Partners. Howie Jacobson, also an executive coach working with both startups and Fortune 500 companies, and Peter collaborated to bring us this wonderful read that I highly recommend.  In today's episode, Peter and Howie share their tips and strategies from a professional and personal perspective. What they have found is that these business and leadership methods of communicating and helping others are just as applicable to our personal lives as they both demonstrate through insightful anecdotes.  What We Talked About in This Episode: The Misconception of Not Being Able to Change Other People Professional Methodology in Your Personal Life Leadership is Changing People to Be Great A Leader's Role as Aligning People and Leverage Strengths The Four Steps in Changing Other People Shifting From Critic to Ally: The Do's and Don'ts The Importance of Authenticity Complaining is Not an Invitation to Give Advice Becoming Your Own Best Ally Taking Ownership of Decisions and Helping Others Do the Same The Distinction Between Motivation and Follow Through Plan for Pivotal Moments How to Build Emotional Courage Always Ask About the Outcome Intentionally Following a Process to Avoid Ineffective Habits Peter and Howie's Book Recommendations and Daily Rituals About Our Guests: Peter Bregman is the founder and CEO of Bregman Partners, an executive coaching company focusing on achieving success through people. Bregman Partners work in partnership with their clients to effectively execute their strategies or change initiatives all through strengthening their people. Peter is the author of several books including You Can Change Other People, Leading with Emotional Courage, and 18 Minutes: Find Your Focus, Master Distraction, and Get the Right Things Done. He is also the host of the Bregman Leadership Podcast.Howie Jacobson is an executive coach to clients ranging from startup founders to established and rising Fortune 100 leaders. He's also the director of coaching at Bregman Partners. Howie has coached and trained executives and managers across diverse organizations and industries and is the coauthor of You Can Change Other People. In addition to his business background, Howie is also a health educator and host of the Plant Yourself Podcast. Connect with Peter and Howie: https://bregmanpartners.com/ Links and Resources: Bregman Partners Website Peter Bregman on LinkedIn Howie Jacobson on LinkedIn You Can Change Other People by Peter Bregman and Howie Jacobson       Connect with John Murphy: LinkedIn Twitter YouTube Facebook If you liked this episode, please don't forget to subscribe, tune in, and share this podcast. Thanks for tuning in!

Contrary to the popular saying, “You can't change other people, you can only change yourself,” today's guests explain otherwise. Authors of You Can Change Other People, Peter Bregman and Howie Jacobson join the podcast today to share their insight and how true leadership is in fact changing others for the better.

I recently had a wondeful interview with the authors of a new book entitled "You Can Change Other People: The Four Steps to Help Your Colleagues, Employees―Even Family―Up Their Game,"  Peter Bregman and Howie Jacobson. Peter is a best-selling author and the CEO of Bregman Partners while Howie is the Director of Coaching in the same company. Can you change other people? Yes.  Find out how in this very engaging interview where we  talk about the 4 steps to help change other people and how to use them.  Also listen to the very helpful takeaways that they share in the interview.

Peter Bregman and Howie Jacobson In this episode I speak with Peter Bregman and Howie Jacobson, executive coaches and authors of, "You Can Change Other People," whose wakeup calls were wanting to help people change and being frustrated when their prior efforts didn't result in that. https://bregmanpartners.com/

In today's episode, we cover changing ourselves and others with Peter Bregman. Peter blends his deep expertise in business, leadership, and people to deliver quantifiable results in business, professional, and personal development, and is the bestselling author and contributor of over 18 books, including his newest book, You CAN Change Other People: The Four Steps to Help Your Colleagues, Employees—Even Family—Up Their Game. Changing other people is not easy, but there are steps we can take to make positive changes in other peoples' lives and do so in a high value cooperative way, so why do people resist change so much, what are the four things anyone needs before they will change, and how do approach people about making a change without coming across as the critic or the bad guy? What to Listen For Why do we struggle so much trying to change people – 1:53 Why do we readily accept changes we make for ourselves but strongly resist changes that other people try to make for us? What is the most important skill you can develop as a leader in your organization? What are the misconceptions we have about changing ourselves and people around us? The 4 things people need before they'll change – 8:30 What gets in the way of people making changes in their lives and how can we help them make the changes they want? What emotion do we experience that makes it so much harder for us to change? Strategies to manage emotions in high pressure situations – 30:31 How do you approach helping people improve themselves so you are viewed as a friend or ally rather than the enemy? Indicators of a thorough plan for implementing change – 46:13 What can you do to implement change in your organization if you are not yet in an official leadership position? Changing other people is not easy, and that's a good thing. If it were easy to change other people, that would make it easy for other people to change you. As individuals, we cherish our autonomy. We value our ability to be ourselves and resist the changes other people want us to make. With that said, none of us is perfect and we all have areas in our lives that could be improved and make our lives better. But in order for us to be open to allowing other people to help change us, there are four things we need. Once we have all four, we can come up with a plan and be held accountable by someone other than ourselves. A Word From Our Sponsors Do you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. Join today and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it's a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that's in your way. Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalogue when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using our link? That's 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month! Resources from this Episode You Can Change Other People by Peter Bregman Bregman Partners website Peter Bregman on LinkedIn Peter Bregman on Twitter Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube

How can we be a better leader for ourselves and those around us? In this episode we are talking with Peter Bregman. Peter is the CEO of Bregman Partners, Inc., a global management consulting firm which advises CEOs and their leadership teams. He speaks, writes, and consults about how to lead and how to live. He's also an acclaimed author, podcast host, and speaker. Peter is recognized as the #1 executive coach in the world by Leading Global Coaches, is ranked as a Top 30 thought leader by Thinkers 50 Radar and selected as one of the Top 8 thought leaders in leadership. He is ranked by Global Guru's as one of the top 30 best Coaches in the world and one of the top 30 best leadership speakers/trainers in the world. He is the award-winning, best-selling author and contributor of 18 books, including his newest book You CAN Change Other People: The Four Steps to Help Your Colleagues, Employees—Even Family—Up Their Game. He also hosts a top 10 leadership podcast called Bregman Leadership Podcast. In today's episode, we discuss Peter's personal journey and how he reclaimed his purpose after he lost his company in the dot com crash. We'll also talk about Peter's books 18 Minutes and You CAN Change Other People and how to incorporate the books' key takeaways about time management and leadership. We'll also discuss how to pivot from good and bad feedback, and how to build your emotional courage. If you've been wanting to amplify the leader within yourself, keep listening! Sponsored by -  Eight Sleep - Go to eightsleep.com/yap to check out the Pod Pro Cover and save $150 at checkout Jordan Harbinger - Check out jordanharbinger.com/start for some episode recommendations Kraken - Visit kraken.com/yap now to learn more or search for "Kraken" in the app store Social Media:  Follow YAP on IG: www.instagram.com/youngandprofiting Reach out to Hala directly at Hala@YoungandProfiting.com Follow Hala on Linkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/htaha/ Follow Hala on Instagram: www.instagram.com/yapwithhala Follow Hala on Clubhouse: @halataha Check out our website to meet the team, view show notes and transcripts: www.youngandprofiting.com Timestamps: 00:38: Peter's Origins and How He Got Started   12:40: What Peter Did After the Dot Com Crash 16:13: Peter's Book 18 Minutes  21:39: Productive vs. Unproductive Distractions 24:23: Peter's Advice for Organizational Focus 33:23: Peter's Personal Definition of Leadership 34:02: The Leadership Gap 41:53: How To Implement Emotional Courage 46:29: The Other Three Pillars of Leadership 48:58: Peter's New Book You Can Change Other People 56:43: Separating Good and Bad Feedback 1:07:49:Peter's Secret to Profiting in Life Mentioned In The Episode: Peter's Masterclass - https://bregmanpartners.com/masterclass/ Leadership Gap Assessment - https://bregmanpartners.com/where-is-your-leadership-gap-assessment/ Peter's Website - https://bregmanpartners.com/

In this episode we talk with Peter Bregman and Howie Jacobson, Ph.D. about their new book "You Can Change Other People: The Four Steps to Help Your Colleagues, Employees - Even Family - Up their Game".  Peter and Howie discuss how to disarm others' defensiveness and increase their confidence to act, how to shift people from complaining to problem solving, and what to do when there are slip ups in the change process.Peter and Howie take us through their four steps to helping others change: Shifting from Critic to AllyIdentifying an Energizing OutcomeFinding the Hidden OpportunitiesCreating a PlanWe also discussed how to help people move on from feelings of shame or being demoralized by their inability to change.Peter Bregman is the CEO of Bregman Partners. He coaches, writes, teaches, and speaks, mostly about leadership and about life. His sweet spot is as a strategic thought partner to successful people who care about being exceptional leaders and stellar human beings. Peter is recognized as the #1 executive coach in the world by Leading Global Coaches. He coaches C-level executives in many of the world's premier organizations, including Citi, CBS, Mars, Showtime, AMC Networks, Allianz, Electronic Arts, Pearson, and Twilio, to name a few. He is also a ski coach on the weekends in the winter (but not the #1 ski coach in the world). Peter is the bestselling author of five books including Leading with Emotional Courage and 18 Minutes. His work appears frequently in Harvard Business Review, BusinessWeek, Fast Company, Psychology Today, Forbes, CNN, and NPR. Peter created and leads the #1 leadership development program in the world, the Bregman Leadership Intensive, and trains leaders and managers on the Four Steps through the Bregman Leadership Coach Training program. Peter is the host of the Bregman Leadership Podcast, with over 1.5 million downloads. He has given four TEDx talks and regularly delivers keynotes for associations like SHRM and companies, including Coca-Cola, the Discovery Network, L'Oréal, Deloitte, and Fidelity, among others. Peter earned his M.B.A. from Columbia University and his B.A. from Princeton University. Peter lives in New York City with his wife, three kids, and new puppy, Maeve (his first dog ever). He reads, runs, skis, bikes, hikes, and tries to follow his own advice. More information can be found here: www.bregmanpartners.com. Howie Jacobson, PhD, is an executive coach to clients ranging from startup founders to established and rising Fortune 100 leaders. He is Director of Coaching at Bregman Partners, and Head Coach at the Healthy Minds Initiative. Howie is the author of AdWords For Dummies; co-author of Sick to Fit and Use the Weight to Lose the Weight, with Josh LaJaunie; contributing author to Whole: Rethinking the Science of Nutrition and The Low Carb Fraud, both by T. Colin Campbell, Ph.D.; and Proteinaholic by Garth Davis, M.D. Howie's writings have also appeared in Fast Company and Harvard Business Review. He hosts the Plant Yourself Podcast, where he interviews remarkable people engaged in healing at the individual, institutional, and planetary level. Howie earned his M.P.H. and Ph.D. in Health Studies from Temple University and his B.A. from Princeton University. He lives in rural North Carolina with his wife, where he writes, gardens, plays Ultimate Frisbee, runs, fiddles, and loads the dishwasher correctly.

In this episode, our dear friends Peter Bregman & Howie Jacobson, authors, executive coaches and consultants at Bregman Partners, discuss 4 four steps to a deeply compassionate and loving way of helping people in your life who are stuck, struggling, and self-sabotaging.###If you love this podcast please share it with friends, family and co-workers and leave a 5-star review! We would also love to hear from you on LinkedIn and invite you to join our online community We Thrive Together where we are creating a safe place to talk about anxiety and mental health at work. ###Your hosts, Adrian Gostick and Chester Elton have spent more than two decades helping clients around the world engage their employees on strategy, vision and values. They provide real solutions for leaders looking to manage change, drive innovation and build high performance cultures and teams. Their work is supported by research with more than a million working adults across the globe.They are authors of multiple award-winning Wall Street Journal and New York Times bestsellers All In, The Carrot Principle, Leading with Gratitude, and Anxiety at Work. Their books have been translated into 30 languages and have sold more than 1.5 million copies. They have been called “fascinating” by Fortune and “creative and refreshing” by The New York Times. Gostick & Elton have appeared on NBC's Today Show, CBS 60 Minutes, and are often quoted in Fast Company, Newsweek and the Wall Street Journal. Learn more about their Executive Coaching practice at TheCultureWorks.com. To book Adrian and Chester to keynote at your event, contact christy@thecultureworks.com ### A shout out to our wonderful sponsor, LifeGuides. LifeGuides is a peer-to-peer community that helps people navigate through their day-to-day stressors by providing a place of empathy, listening, wisdom and support with a Guide who has walked in your shoes, experiencing the same challenge or life experience as you. We have a special offer for A@W Community from LifeGuides. It's this easy -  Schedule a demo and drop Healthy2021 in the “Any Questions?” box and receive 2 FREE months service.goHappy Hub is the most inclusive and timely way to communicate and engage directly with your frontline employees and candidates with 95%+ open rates. Send text messages directly from corporate and enable permissions for your frontline leaders to communicate with their team - notes of gratitude, logistical updates, referral opportunities, LTO's, new hire introductions, learning content, celebrations and more. Easily get the right message to the right people with simple segmentation by location, job type, language, etc, and get feedback from the field in a structured, digestible and actionable way. For a 60 day trial, just tell 'em Adrian & Chester sent you!

What's the best seat in a movie theater? While people do have their own preferences, there actually is one “best seat in the house” at least for the audio. You see, theaters are calibrated for sound from one seat in particular. This episodes begins by telling you which seat that is and where to sit if someone is already sitting in it. https://www.vulture.com/2016/10/how-to-find-best-seat-movie-theater.html?mid=twitter_vulture Can you change your life in four seconds? Yes you can and that is just one of several pieces of advice you are about to hear from consultant Peter Bregman who is author of several books including Four Seconds: All the Time You Need to Replace Counter-Productive Habits with Ones That Really Work (https://amzn.to/31LQfJG). Peter has some powerful and what you might consider, counter-intuitive advice that will get you to think – including why you should take the blame when things go wrong because it will actually make you more trustworthy. Why is Halloween a holiday? Where did it come from and why do kids dress in costumes and go seeking candy? Halloween expert Lisa Morton author of The Halloween Encyclopedia (https://amzn.to/2BKMg5J) joins me to answer these questions and discuss how Halloween has changed over the years. While Halloween might be a time to be afraid – there are some things people are afraid of that they shouldn't be. This episode concludes with a list of things that may frighten you, but it turns out they are nothing to be concerned about at all. https://www.realsimple.com/work-life/life-strategies/everyday-dangers-not-to-worry-about PLEASE SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS! We really like The Jordan Harbinger Show! Check out https://jordanharbinger.com/start OR search for it on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or wherever you listen to podcasts.  You can grow thicker, healthier hair AND get $15 off at https://nutrafol.com Promo code: SOMETHING Make sure to follow and listen to Uncommon Ground on Amazon Music, Apple Podcast or wherever you listen. https://amazonprime.box.com/s/eug5mfyvdarwke0getizsup4iqqvhfm2 Omaha Steaks is the best! Get awesome pricing at https://OmahaSteaks.com/BMT Listen to Build For Tomorrow with Jason Feifer, our favorite new podcast, right here! https://apple.co/3rPM8La or visit https://www.jasonfeifer.com/build-for-tomorrow/ T-Mobile for Business the leader in 5G, #1 in customer satisfaction, and a partner who includes benefits like 5G in every plan. Visit https://T-Mobile.com/business Discover matches all the cash back you earn on your credit card at the end of your first year automatically and is accepted at 99% of places in the U.S. that take credit cards! Learn more at https://discover.com/yes JUSTWORKS makes it easier for you to start, run and grow a business. Find out how by going to https://justworks.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In You Can Change Other People, the world's number-one executive coach, Peter Bregman, and Howie Jacobson, PhD, share the Four Steps to help the people around you make positive change – even if they've been stuck for years. The post 393: You CAN Change Other People with Peter Bregman and Howie Jacobson first appeared on Read to Lead Podcast.

In You Can Change Other People, the world's number-one executive coach, Peter Bregman, and Howie Jacobson, PhD, share the Four Steps to help the people around you make positive change - even if they've been stuck for years.

Peter Bregman and Howie Jacobson break down their simple four-step process for encouraging others to change. — YOU'LL LEARN — 1) The critical question that opens others to change 2) The best thing to do when a person doesn't want to change 3) The perils of giving positive feedback Subscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep705 for clickable versions of the links below. — ABOUT PETER & HOWIE — Peter Bregman is the CEO of Bregman Partners. He coaches, writes, teaches, and speaks, mostly about leadership and about life. His sweet spot is as a strategic thought partner to successful people who care about being exceptional leaders and stellar human beings. Peter is recognized as the #1 executive coach in the world by Leading Global Coaches, the bestselling author of five books, and host of the Bregman Leadership Podcast. His works frequently appear in Harvard Business Review, BusinessWeek, Fast Company, Psychology Today, Forbes, CNN, and NPR.Howie Jacobson, PhD, is an executive coach to clients ranging from startup founders to established and rising Fortune 100 leaders. He is director of coaching at Bregman Partners and head coach at the Healthy Minds Initiative, as well as host of the Plant Yourself Podcast. He's written a bunch of books, and his mission includes helping kind and generous people grow their capability and scale their influence.• Book: You Can Change Other People: The Four Steps to Help Your Colleagues, Employees-- Even Family-- Up Their Game — RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — • Book: Crooked Kingdom: A Sequel to Six of Crows (Six of Crows, 2) by Leigh Bardugo • Book: Sand Talk: How Indigenous Thinking Can Save the World by Tyson Yunkaporta — THANK YOU SPONSORS! — • Storyworth. Give Dad a super meaningful Father's Day gift this year at StoryWorth.com/awesome.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Peter Bregman is the CEO of Bregman Partners. He coaches, writes, teaches, and speaks, mostly about leadership and also about life. His sweet spot is as a strategic thought partner to successful people who care about being exceptional leaders and stellar human beings. Peter is recognized as the #1 executive coach in the world by Leading Global Coaches. Peter co-authored “You Can Change Other People” with Howie Jacobson, Ph.D. Howie Jacobson is an executive coach to clients ranging from startup founders to established and rising Fortune 100 leaders. He is director of coaching at Bregman Partners and head coach at the Healthy Minds Initiative. An author of multiple books, Howie's writings have also appeared in Fast Company and Harvard Business Review. www.bregmanpartners.com

Is it possible to change other people for the better? Or should we just mind our own business, and concentrate on ourselves?

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Recognized as the #1 executive coach in the world by Leading Global Coaches, Peter Bregman coaches CEOs and senior leaders in many of the world's premier organizations. Having started his career teaching leadership on wilderness and mountaineering expeditions, Peter is CEO of Bregman Partners, an executive coaching company that helps successful people become exceptional leaders and stellar human beings. Peter is ranked as a top 30 thought leader by Thinkers 50 Radar and selected as one of the top 8 thought leaders in leadership. He is the award-winning, best selling author and contributor of 16 books, including, most recently, Leading with Emotional Courage: How to Have Hard Conversations, Create Accountability, and Inspire Action on Your Most Important Work. His book, 18 Minutes: Find Your Focus, Master Distraction, and Get the Right Things Done, was a Wall Street Journal bestseller, winner of the Gold medal from the Axiom Business Book awards, named the best business book of the year by NPR, and selected by Publisher's Weekly and the New York Post as a top ten business book. He is also the author of Four Seconds: All the Time You Need to Replace Counter-Productive Habits with Ones That Really Work, a New York Post “Top Pick for Your Career” in 2015, and Point B: A Short Guide to Leading a Big Change. Connect With Peter https://bregmanpartners.com/ Today's episode was brought to you by EBAY Canada. If you're a Canadian small business retailer or know someone who is, visit ebay.ca/upandrunning. Need a website? Visit tailorpage.com

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Recognized as the #1 executive coach in the world by Leading Global Coaches, Peter Bregman coaches CEOs and senior leaders in many of the world's premier organizations. Having started his career teaching leadership on wilderness and mountaineering expeditions, Peter is CEO of Bregman Partners, an executive coaching company that helps successful people become exceptional leaders and stellar human beings. Peter is ranked as a top 30 thought leader by Thinkers 50 Radar and selected as one of the top 8 thought leaders in leadership. He is the award-winning, best selling author and contributor of 16 books, including, most recently, Leading with Emotional Courage: How to Have Hard Conversations, Create Accountability, and Inspire Action on Your Most Important Work. His book, 18 Minutes: Find Your Focus, Master Distraction, and Get the Right Things Done, was a Wall Street Journal bestseller, winner of the Gold medal from the Axiom Business Book awards, named the best business book of the year by NPR, and selected by Publisher's Weekly and the New York Post as a top ten business book. He is also the author of Four Seconds: All the Time You Need to Replace Counter-Productive Habits with Ones That Really Work, a New York Post “Top Pick for Your Career” in 2015, and Point B: A Short Guide to Leading a Big Change. Connect With Peter https://bregmanpartners.com/ Looking to start your own podcast? Want to make $15K in your first year? If so, visit dailygrindpodcast.com and sign up for a FREE 15-min consult.

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I'm hungry for productivity. I want ways to get more done in less time. We all do. Time is one of our most limited resources in the day and age. The are thousands of articles, books, systems, workshops and products geared toward making us more productive. One of the things we all do to get more done is multitask. Whether it's geared toward increasing work output or just that we're afraid we'll miss something if we don't, we tend to multitask our way through life. We listen to podcasts or television while we cook. We scroll facebook while we watch Netflix. We talk or listen while we drive or walk. We listen to a webinar while we answer emails. We email while we're in a meeting. My son watches or listens to YouTube while he plays games on his computer. And he's not alone. Dr. Clifford Nass, a psychology professor at Stanford University, says (and I'm quoting from an interview on NPR), “the top 25 percent of Stanford students are using four or more media at one time whenever they're using media. So when they're writing a paper, they're also Facebooking, listening to music, texting, Twittering, et cetera. And that's something that just couldn't happen in previous generations even if we wanted it to.” Lest you think this is just a new media problem or a bash technology episode, it's not. This quote, “To do two things at once is to do neither.” Wasn't said by a 21st-century researcher. It's attributed to Publilius Syrus, a Roman slave in the first century B.C. Obviously, this issue of multitasking has been around long before smartphones. I routinely walked around with an open book in front of my face reading when I was a kid. I know this has always been an issue for me. Let's take the lid off though and see how effective it actually is. First, I need to say that you can go ahead and consider yourself a fantastic multi-tasker. You absolutely are. Supremely talented even. Because you're breathing, moving, walking, reaching, digesting your lunch, doing all sorts of things that are involuntary and second nature while you're accomplishing tasks that take more thought. It's the more complex tasks, the ones that take more thought that tend to trip us up, though. We think we can do several of those at the same time. But, we actually can't. I mean it might look like I'm listening to a podcast and cooking a new recipe for dinner, but I'm actually not multi-tasking. I'm switch-tasking. My brain is doing only one of those things at the same time. It's switching back and forth between the two tasks. It's doing so pretty quickly, but it's only actually processing information from one of those activities at a time. If I really think about that, I know it's true. If I'm doing something I don't use a recipe for, something like a stir-fry, where I'm just chopping vegetables and not measuring, reading a recipe or following a real instructional list, it's much easier to listen to something and cook. There's a good chance I'm more distracted than I think I am though because I'll routinely forget to include something I'd intended to. If I'm following a recipe, though, it's much tougher. I'll re-read. I'll lose track of where I am, I'll realize that I've either done one or the other thing. I've either read and understood the recipe or I've listened to the audio. I'll often miss audio while I'm paying attention to the recipe or have to re-read the recipe because I was paying attention to the audio. Generally, a loss in productivity or forgetting to put the mushrooms in a stir-fry just means dinner takes a little longer to cook and I have mushrooms for an omelet in the morning. But, that loss of productivity is a bigger deal at work. Conservative estimates are that we have a 40% loss in productivity when we multitask. We might think we're being more efficient, but we're not. A 40% loss. That's a big deal. Actually, the news is worse than that. Studies show that multitasking results not only in the 40% reduction in productivity, but also higher cortisol or stress levels, up to a 10 or 15 point drop in IQ (that's more than smoking weed by the way), more mistakes, decreased memory function, higher anxiety, impaired creativity, an inability to reach or maintain a flow state, and an inability to process visual input. So, I suppose, if you have more productivity, creativity, and IQ than you need, or if you could use more stress, mistakes, and anxiety, I'd say, go ahead. Multitask to your heart's content. But, for the rest of us mere mortals, we need to seriously re-think some habits and approaches to our work. Here are several suggestions for reducing multitasking. Block out specific time for single activities. Spend a specific amount of time on one task. Be ruthless. Do whatever you need to do to not switch tasks. This will be really tough, but, it does get easier with practice. Batch process activities. Rather than return phone calls as they happen, set aside time to do them all at once. Rather than choose your meals for the week during each day, choose all your meals for the week at a specific time on Sunday evening. This is an efficiency practice. A productivity hack. But, the relationship to today's topic is that you're doing only that thing at that time. By batching them together you don't have the start-stop time that your brain needs to end one task and start another. You don't incur the productivity losses that switching tasks causes. Do not leave your inbox open all the time. Choose a twenty-minute window to do all your email. This is batch processing and blocked out time all at once, but email is such a major offender in the realm of multitasking, that it's worth calling it out. Eliminate your phone and laptop notifications. Turn the sounds off. Wean yourself from those little red circles or the sounds that trigger a reach for the phone every single time someone wants to share a piano-playing cat video with you. And lastly, let's talk about driving for just a moment. I could spend an entire episode here, but I'm not, You already know this. I'm just going to remind you and point a few things out. Distracted driving is deadly. If you wouldn't drive drunk, don't drive distracted. From distraction.gov comes this statistic: Five seconds is the average time your eyes are off the road while texting. When traveling at 55mph, that's enough time to cover the length of a football field essentially blindfolded. It's not just texting, being on social media, or checking email. It's talking on the phone as well. The University of Utah published a statistic that says that “Using a cell phone while driving, whether it's hand-held or hands-free, delays a driver's reactions as much as having a blood alcohol concentration at the legal limit of .08 percent” If you're like me and have said that talking on a cell phone is no different than talking to passengers, well, we're wrong. Studies show that conversations with people in the same vehicle are markedly different and less distracting than cell phone conversations due to the behavior of both the passengers and the drivers in those conversations. You might be thinking right now, “This whole episode doesn't apply to me. I'm really good at multitasking.” I'm here to burst your bubble. Are you Ready? The Stanford psychologist I quoted earlier, Dr. Clifford Nass, says, The research is almost unanimous, which is very rare in social science, and it says that people who chronically multitask show an enormous range of deficits. They're basically terrible at all sorts of cognitive tasks, including multitasking…we have scales that allow us to divide up people into people who multitask all the time and people who rarely do, and the differences are remarkable. People who multitask all the time can't filter out irrelevancy. They can't manage a working memory. They're chronically distracted. Plus, people who think they are good at multitasking generally have a lower capacity for simultaneous thought. They're actually less good at it than people who consider themselves less skilled. So, if you've been thinking all along that you're the exception, the odds are overwhelming that you're not. I wish I'd done this experiment last week, but I didn't. I ran across an article by Peter Bregman in The Harvard Business Review detailing a week-long experiment on himself. He tried to completely eliminate multitasking and see what happened. I'm going to quickly summarize the six things he says he learned. It was delightful. He was surprised at how much more deeply engaged he became with the people and surroundings in his life. He made significant progress on challenging projects. Instead of distracting himself when things got hard, he persisted and experienced breakthroughs. His stress level dropped significantly. He lost all patience for things he felt were not a good use of his time. He had no tolerance for wasted time because he wasn't distracting himself during it. He had tremendous patience for things he found worthwhile and enjoyable. Like family and relationships. There was no downside. He lost nothing by not multitasking. I think that's really interesting. It's not a generic study. It's a real guy with a real family and real work projects who surprised himself by bearing out the results of the science. Could you do it? Could you go a whole week without multitasking? Could you go a day? One car trip? I challenge you to try.

Peter Bregman consults with CEOs and their leadership teams to achieve high performance. He's been doing this work in a deep way since 1989, and I've been fortunate enough to observe and sometimes assist him as he's developed and delivered his methodology.