Podcast appearances and mentions of bonnie badenoch

How can we navigate parenting, relationships, and emotional growth in a world filled with challenges? In this heartfelt episode of Father and Joe, Joe Rockey and Father Boniface Hicks dive deep into the art of parenting, emotional resilience, and building meaningful relationships. Drawing from personal experiences, psychological insights, and spiritual perspectives, they discuss topics that resonate with parents, couples, and anyone seeking to strengthen their connections with loved ones and with God.Joe begins with a personal parenting story about his son, who experienced a small but meaningful injury, sparking reflections on the importance of communication and emotional understanding in relationships. “A lot of times we don't know the right question to ask,” Joe observes, echoing a theme we all face in our daily interactions. How do we truly understand others, or even teach our children to ask the right questions? Joe's story sets the stage for Father Boniface to offer wisdom on navigating life's challenges with empathy and faith.Father Boniface shares a powerful insight: “Trauma happens not so much from the pain itself, but from being alone in the pain.” Using an example from Bonnie Badenoch's The Heart of Trauma, he illustrates the crucial role of secure relationships in helping children—and adults—process difficult emotions. Whether it's a preschooler overwhelmed by the world or an adult navigating relational pain, the message is clear: connection and validation are key to healing.Joe and Father Boniface also explore the delicate balance of parenting. Joe reflects on the fear many parents feel: “What if I mess up when it matters most?” Father Boniface reassures listeners with the concept of “good enough parenting,” emphasizing the importance of building resilience and secure attachments. “It's not about getting everything perfect,” Father Boniface explains, “but about teaching repair mechanisms and showing your children they're never alone.”From parenting challenges to fostering emotional curiosity in relationships, the conversation expands to explore the universal desire for better connections. “Relationships thrive when we seek to understand, not just to answer,” says Father Boniface, encouraging us all to develop empathy and wisdom in our interactions.Whether you're a parent worried about making the "right" decisions, a spouse striving to improve communication, or simply someone seeking more fulfillment in relationships, this episode offers invaluable insights rooted in faith and humanity.As always, Joe and Father Boniface invite listeners to join the conversation:

In this third episode of Being and Becoming, Dawn Morningstar and Ellen Slater explore the importance of slowing down and tending to our inner landscape - all of the parts inside of us - as tempting as it is to stay away from it. What are the nutrients that offer our inner world a sense of steadiness and rootedness? Ellen read John O'Donohue's poem “Blessing.”  Ellen references the amazing work of her teacher Dr. Bonnie Badenoch. To learn more about Bonnie's work and the inner community, check out The Heart of Trauma and Being a Brain Wise Therapist.  Ellen has focused much of her training in Interpersonal Neurobiology, founded by Dr. Daniel Siegel. She recommends all of his books and trainings. Welcome to these authentic, informed, and heartfelt conversations between two women (New World Women Co-Founder Dawn Morningstar and Therapist and LICSW Ellen Slater), at different crossroads of life, sharing perspective and wisdom on some of life's greatest lessons. Covering topics such as Compassion/Self-Compassion, Ecology, Death & Rebirth, Aging, Grief and Trauma, you will surely leave this listening experience with new insights, connection and likely a smile in your heart. If you're a fan of New World Women's other podcast “Collaboration is Queen,” we invite you to go deeper into your sacred self in this new series: Being & Becoming. You can visit us on NewWorldWomen.com and suggest topics you're interested in. We'd really love to hear from you! Our special guest for this 12-part series is Ellen Slater. Ellen is a therapist, yoga instructor and mindfulness teacher with 20 years of experience working with adults, couples, children and families. Ellen's Website: HeadandHeartwise.com NewWorldWomen.com New World Women, a women's organization that helps women move beyond an old system built on separation, competition, exclusion, haves and have-nots and women settling for less (or nothing). New World Women co-founders Dawn Morningstar (founder of Venerable Women), Shawn Vougeot (founder of Empowering Women) and Mecca Page (founder of BreakAway Arts) collaborated to create a unique business model that shares profits with women to reward them for expanding their consciousness and nurturing themselves. The three are often overheard saying, “Collaboration is queen!' Sponsored by New World Women - http://www.NewWorldWomen.com

Abby and Kellee get brave and venture into a topic that doesn't seem openly talked about, feeling attraction to our clients. They share their own experience of this happening, normalize this experience, and explore the neuroscience that is happening when attraction happens. Topics Touched on:Bonnie Badenoch:  https://www.nurturingtheheart.comThe Whole Therapist Consultation Group: $50 per group. Capped at 8 participants each month.   Follow us: https://www.instagram.com/the_whole_therapist/https://www.facebook.com/TWTPodcasters/ Visit our website:https://wholetherapistinstitute.com Email us: wholetherapistinstitute@gmail.com

Kellee and Abby are back from their holiday break! Join them for the Season 5 in another conversation, all about looooooove

Original Air Date: October 25, 2022 The one-and-only Bonnie Badenoch* joins Lisa for this beautiful conversation about non-judgmental presence and how this is so critical in our role as therapists.  In this episode, you'll hear: How, as a profession, we've become concretized into the left hemisphere (e.g., in a movement toward protocols, interventions, and evidence-based therapies) and how this has pulled us more into the role of experts trying to "fix" people; What holding a “non-judgement” presence means;  What the “inner community” is, how to be aware and work with our inner community in order to be present with our clients;   How to return to a non-judgmental presence in moments when we experience judgment (and how to even recognize when we're in a place of judgment); The 2 pillars of non-judgmental presence and the importance of this in our work; and How to engage in our own reflective processes and having supportive others who can truly hold a nonjudgmental space for you.   Listen to this beautiful conversation that gets us back into the right hemisphere in our work as therapists and back to trusting the wisdom of the client in their own healing process. Discover how to bring more non-judgmental presence in your clinical work and how to offer this same space for yourself. Bonnie is moving toward retirement, and we're so grateful that she could join. Thank you Bonnie and much love on the journey

To access our conference library of 200+ fascinating psychology talks and interviews (with certification), please visit: https://twumembers.com In this interview, I'm joined by Dr Bonnie Badenoch. Bonnie is an author, therapist, mentor, and the co-founder of the nonprofit agency: Nurturing the Heart with the Brain in Mind. This is Bonnie's second appearance on the show, and in this conversation we dive deeper into her unique concept of “Inner Community” and how it can be applied to heal deep-seated wounds from the past, and create a felt-sense of safety in the body. You'll learn: — How our neurobiology and mirror neurons put us “within each other” — How Bonnie's unique approach to psychotherapy offers a powerful modality for healing intergenerational trauma — Why “self regulation” is a myth and how we're built for co-regulation instead — How to apply “radical inclusiveness” to heal the negative parts of ourselves that we have “imported” from others. And more. If you found this interesting, I highly recommend picking up a copy of Bonnie's book: The Heart of Trauma, and you can learn more about her work by going to https://nurturingtheheart.com. --- To access the full conference package, as well as supporting materials, quizzes, and certification, please visit: https://twumembers.com --- Bonnie Badenoch, Ph.D., LMFT is the co-founder of the Center for Brain-Wise Living, a nonprofit organization dedicated to fostering awareness of the brain, mind, and relationships in the service of creating a more awake and compassionate world. She is the author of Being a Brain-Wise Therapist: A Practical Guide to Interpersonal Neurobiology (W. W. Norton, 2008), and is an active member of the Global Association for Interpersonal Neurobiology Studies (GAINS). You can learn more about her work at http://www.brainwisetherapist.org. --- Interview Links: — Dr Badenoch's website: https://www.nurturingtheheart.com — Dr Badenoch's books: https://amzn.to/47Rbn4C

Get early access to our latest psychology lectures: http://bit.ly/new-talks5 Unlock the secrets of the mind with Bonnie Badenoch, a renowned trauma therapist and author with a unique blend of expertise in literature and mysticism. In this insightful talk, Bonnie delves into the profound impact of fear on our ability to focus and learn, underscoring the critical importance of safety and connection in our lives. Explore the fascinating connection between brain hemispheres, as she discusses Iain McGilchrist's groundbreaking work and how it shapes human connection. Bonnie introduces the concept of the "inner community," shedding light on the significance of embracing the various facets within ourselves and others. Join her in advocating for more empathetic and holistic approaches to therapy and education, ushering in a new era of improved connections and healing. Don't miss this opportunity to expand your understanding of the mind and its potential for growth. Bonnie Badenoch is the author of several books, including: The Heart of Trauma, The Brain-Savvy Therapist's Workbook, and Being a Brain-Wise Therapist. In this free flowing conversation, we discuss: — Iain McGilchrist's hemisphere hypothesis and its relevance for therapeutic practice — Interpersonal neurobiology, social baseline theory, and the research underpinning Bonnie's radical approach to healing — The power of having a “listening partner” and how you can set one up to foster more secure attachment in your world And more. You can learn more about Bonnie's work by going to https://www.nurturingtheheart.com. --- Bonnie Badenoch, Ph.D., LMFT is the co-founder of the Center for Brain-Wise Living, a nonprofit organization dedicated to fostering awareness of the brain, mind, and relationships in the service of creating a more awake and compassionate world. She is the author of Being a Brain-Wise Therapist: A Practical Guide to Interpersonal Neurobiology (W. W. Norton, 2008), and is an active member of the Global Association for Interpersonal Neurobiology Studies (GAINS). You can learn more about her work at www.brainwisetherapist.org. Interview Links: — Dr Badenoch's website: https://www.nurturingtheheart.com/ —Dr Badenoch's books: https://amzn.to/47Rbn4C

Abby and Kellee spend time wandering through this episode exploring patience with parts of self for our clients, and for ourselves. They untangle the definition of patience, and what this really means in our work with clients. The two name the wandering that happens in this episode and explore what it feels like to be at the edge of their own work to help listeners begin to recognize when they too are at the edge of their work.  Topics Touched on:Bonnie Badenoch: https://www.nurturingtheheart.comRobyn Gobbel- https://robyngobbel.comCircle of Security: https://www.circleofsecurityinternational.com Follow us: https://www.instagram.com/the_whole_therapist/https://www.facebook.com/TWTPodcasters/ Visit our website:https://wholetherapistinstitute.com Email us: wholetherapistinstitute@gmail.com

Have you ever been struck by someone's depth of presence? Like when you meet a wise, holy person. The depth of their presence overwhelms us, floods our body with their peace.Have you ever wondered what's going on on a biological level when this happens?Or, wondered why it's so much easier to feel grounded when we meditate with others vs. on our own?Or maybe been curious about how life's traumas impact the contemplative life?Get ready, everyone - this is one of my FAVORITE intersections.

Abby and Kellee spend time exploring how important the context of our client's lives are. They discuss being attuned with that context versus pushing feelings away, offering coping skills and offering quick fixes. Being with is identified as the most important thing therapists can do first. Topics Touched on:Bonnie Badenoch: https://www.nurturingtheheart.comRobyn Gobbel- https://robyngobbel.comCircle of Security: https://www.circleofsecurityinternational.comMarshall Lyles: https://www.marshalllyles.comDr. Iain McGilchrist: https://channelmcgilchrist.com/IntraConnecte: https://drdansiegel.com/book/intraconnected-mwe-me-we-as-the-integration-of-self-identity-and-belonging/Follow us: https://www.instagram.com/the_whole_therapist/https://www.facebook.com/TWTPodcasters/ Visit our website:https://wholetherapistinstitute.com Email us: wholetherapistinstitute@gmail.com

Join Julie as she unpacks The Heart of Trauma by Bonnie Badenoch. How are your body and mind connected? How do your conscious and unconscious interact? What does it feel like to live with trauma and how do we heal? Learn about "right brained questions" to tap into your body's answer. Julie drops a lot more on this Unpack That! Follow Bonnie's work here. --- Our links: https://linktr.ee/communityroutes Please rate us on iTunes and Spotify! We need all the help we can get to spread the word about mental health. Reach out and start a conversation with us! We would love to hear from you on Facebook or Instagram or you can email us at communityroutes.pod@gmail.com Special Thanks to Julie Richards for hosting, Steve Dodge for the theme song, and Alexander Wells for the logo. Can't get enough? Support the show through our Patreon.

I'm addressing my inner skeptics with gratitude and farewells as I reconnect with forgotten ways of caring for myself. I'm also exploring how to honor my inner work while stepping into more outer work: expressing, collaborating, connecting, expanding, engaging, impacting, and making bold moves. We all have so much beauty, love, and creativity to share with the world. What happens when we set it free? My question for you: What love are you keeping to yourself? How can you give it form, let it be known, set it free? Love and gratitude for Grandma Judie and Bonnie Badenoch. Special thanks to Marie Kondo. __ Instagram: @un.fiving Music by Sleeping at Last

The one-and-only Bonnie Badenoch* joins Lisa for this beautiful conversation about non-judgmental presence and how this is so critical in our role as therapists.  In this episode, you'll hear: How, as a profession, we've become concretized into the left hemisphere (e.g., in a movement toward protocols, interventions, and evidence-based therapies) and how this has pulled us more into the role of experts trying to "fix" people; What holding a “non-judgement” presence means;  What the “inner community” is, how to be aware and work with our inner community in order to be present with our clients;   How to return to a non-judgmental presence in moments when we experience judgment (and how to even recognize when we're in a place of judgment); The 2 pillars of non-judgmental presence and the importance of this in our work; and How to engage in our own reflective processes and having supportive others who can truly hold a nonjudgmental space for you.   Listen to this beautiful conversation that gets us back into the right hemisphere in our work as therapists and back to trusting the wisdom of the client in their own healing process. Discover how to bring more non-judgmental presence in your clinical work and how to offer this same space for yourself. Bonnie is moving toward retirement, and we're so grateful that she could join. Thank you Bonnie and much love on the journey

Abby and Kellee continue the multi-seasonal book series and  explore Chapter Four: Surface Level and Deep Level Narratives  in  “The Development of a Therapist.” by Louis Cozolino. They use chapter four to explore the beauty in sitting with deeper client narratives and the need for family of origin work.Topics Touched on:The Development of a Therapist: Healing Others- Healing Self: https://www.amazon.com/Development-Therapist-Healing-Others-Self/dp/0393713954/ref=sr_1_5?keywords=louis+cozolino&qid=1655085804&s=books&sprefix=Louis+co%2Cstripbooks%2C192&sr=1-5Bonnie Badenoch: https://www.nurturingtheheart.comPlayful Listening Article:https://emergencemagazine.org/practice/playful-listening/  Upcoming Offerings:Summer Book Series! Buy the book and join Kellee and Abby over the next several episodes as they explore Louis Cozolino's book, The Development of a Therapist: Healing Others- Healing SelfTraining in Texas- Honoring Cellular Stories: An Expressive Deep-Dive into Epigenetics: https://wholetherapistinstitute.com/store/Follow us: https://www.instagram.com/the_whole_therapist/https://www.facebook.com/TWTPodcasters/Visit our website:https://wholetherapistinstitute.com Email us: wholetherapistinstitute@gmail.com

Abby and Kellee continue the summer book series and  explore Chapter Two: Therapist Imagination  in  “The Development of a Therapist.” by Louis Cozolino. They use chapter two to explore "shuttling," the need for ongoing consultation, and laughter around engrained assumptions like wearing headphones to record.  Kellee and Abby share the felt sense behind 'trusting the process.' Topics Touched on:The Development of a Therapist: Healing Others- Healing Self: https://www.amazon.com/Development-Therapist-Healing-Others-Self/dp/0393713954/ref=sr_1_5?keywords=louis+cozolino&qid=1655085804&s=books&sprefix=Louis+co%2Cstripbooks%2C192&sr=1-5Bonnie Badenoch: https://www.nurturingtheheart.com  Upcoming Offerings:Summer Book Series! Buy the book and join Kellee and Abby over the next several episodes as they explore Louis Cozolino's book, The Development of a Therapist: Healing Others- Healing SelfTraining in Texas- Honoring Cellular Stories: An Expressive Deep-Dive into Epigenetics: https://wholetherapistinstitute.com/store/Follow us: https://www.instagram.com/the_whole_therapist/https://www.facebook.com/TWTPodcasters/Visit our website:https://wholetherapistinstitute.com Email us: wholetherapistinstitute@gmail.com

Abby and Kellee begin to explore chapter one of their summer book series using, “The Development of a Therapist.” They use chapter one to explore how therapists' and clients' left and right brain show up in the therapy space. Kellee and Abby share what it means and feels like to use and blend poetry and science for healing purposes. Topics Touched on:On Being with Krista Tippett: https://onbeing.org/series/podcast/The Development of a Therapist: Healing Others- Healing Self: https://www.amazon.com/Development-Therapist-Healing-Others-Self/dp/0393713954/ref=sr_1_5?keywords=louis+cozolino&qid=1655085804&s=books&sprefix=Louis+co%2Cstripbooks%2C192&sr=1-5Bonnie Badenoch: https://www.nurturingtheheart.comDavid Whyte: https://davidwhyte.com  Upcoming Offerings:Summer Book Series! Buy the book and join Kellee and Abby over the next several episodes as they explore Louis Cozolino's book, The Development of a Therapist: Healing Others- Healing SelfTraining in Texas- Honoring Cellular Stories: An Expressive Deep-Dive into Epigenetics: https://wholetherapistinstitute.com/store/Follow us: https://www.instagram.com/the_whole_therapist/https://www.facebook.com/TWTPodcasters/Visit our website:https://wholetherapistinstitute.com Email us: wholetherapistinstitute@gmail.com

Abby and Kellee explore making mistakes in the therapy room, and the shame that becomes very alive and present for therapists. They share their own stories of mistakes with clients, the shame they felt, and ways they have learned to regulated through these moments. They also include an audio clip from a professor at a local university who shares his own mistake as an intern therapist and the shame that followed. Abby and Kellee use an IPNB lens to offer compassion to themselves and all therapists regarding the responses to clients that turn into mistakes. Topics Touched on:Bonnie Badenoch: https://www.nurturingtheheart.comTimothy Wienecke: https://empoweredchangece.com/contact-me/The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows: https://www.amazon.com/Dictionary-Obscure-Sorrows-John-Koenig/dp/1501153641Practicing Mindfulness: https://www.amazon.com/Practicing-Mindfulness-Essential-Meditations-Everyday/dp/1641521716Richard Powers: http://www.richardpowers.net Follow us: https://www.instagram.com/the_whole_therapist/https://www.facebook.com/TWTPodcasters/Visit our website:https://wholetherapistinstitute.com Email us: wholetherapistinstitute@gmail.com 

Today we wrap up this month's focus on attachment with my dear mentor and friend, Bonnie Badenoch.  Bonnie Badenoch, PhD, LMFT is a thought-leader in the relational neurosciences.  When I think about her contribution to this emerging field of study, I think ‘integrator.'  Bonnie has helped us all feel into the many different strands that are woven together to become what we now call relational neuroscience- interpersonal neurobiology, affect regulation theory, polyvagal theory, memory reconsolidation theory, attachment theory, and more.  Bonnie has taken the science and created space for clinicians to make meaning of how the science comes alive in us and in our work with clients.  Bonnie knows the science of relationships better than anyone I know, but more than that she knows relationships.  She's been an integral part of my own journey- without Bonnie there certainly would not have been this attachment series or the Brilliance of Attachment eBook. Bonnie is the author of three books- Bing a Brain Wise Therapist, The Brain-Savvy Therapist's Work Book, and her newest book, Heart of Trauma.  If you want to learn more about the amazing work Bonnie does in the world, head over to the website www.NurturingtheHeart.com If you'd rather read a summary of the interview instead of listening on the podcast, you can head over to my blog https://robyngobbel.com/bonniebadenochYou can download the F R E E eBook "The Brilliance of Attachment" at https://robyngobbel.com/ebookOver on my website you can find:Masterclass on What Behavior Really Is (FREE)eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)In depth parent course: Parenting after Trauma: Minding the Heart and BrainOngoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club************If you're loving this replay of the attachment series, head over to my website to download the F R E E ebook, The Brilliance of Attachment.Folks are saying that not only does it reframe attachment in a hopeful and inspiring way, but it's also beautiful!https://robyngobbel.com/ebook

A podcast about factors that influence behaviour in education, all in handy 15 minute (ish) bite sized chunks. Each week a different guest chats about a different aspect of behaviour and leaves you with three handy tips on behaviour. This Podcast is brought to you by Changing Behaviour UK LTD changing-behaviour.co.uk/ who you can follow on Twitter @change_behIf you enjoy an episode don't forget to subscribe to the podcast to receive updates on new episodes. This week Clare Edmondson (founder of Changing Behaviour UK LTD, SEMH/SEN specialist, leader and teacher) chats to Ali Martin. Ali, in her words is, "a freelance trainer for Thrive approach.com and provide support to schools around SEMH and understanding the communication behind a behaviour. I previously led an alternative provision for 5 years following many years as SENCO in primary settings." Ali is reading: the Heart of Trauma by Bonnie Badenoch and The Power of Showing up by Daniel Seigal Ali's top tips are: Remain curious - look for the communication behind the behaviour Become aware of your own hooks and triggers so you can stay steady. Remember when we are distressed and dysregulated we no longer have access to our thinking brain.

- Why going it alone in burnout doesn't work.- How to tap in to generosity and crowdsource ever more success.- Developing your Big Potential via leadership and teamwork.- The many upsides of connection-building in your career.RefsEp#6 Feeling Out of Control.The Heart of Trauma, Bonnie Badenoch.The Polyvagal Theory, Dr Stephen Porges.Big Potential, Shawn Achor. Good to Great, Jim Collins. 

Bonnie Badenoch is a therapist, mentor, teacher, author, and has spent the last fifteen years integrating the discoveries of relational neuroscience into her therapy practice. She's the co-founder of the nonprofit agency Nurturing the Heart with the Brain in Mind. For twenty-five years, she has worked with trauma survivors to reshape their neural landscape to support a life of meaning and resilience.  Through exploration of her own developmental trauma, Bonnie was able to receive the support that she needed and was inspired to help others.  Bonnie reflects on the importance of true safety, true presence, and connection as essential elements for healing — and she believes it's vital for therapists to do their own work in order for them to be healthy enough to be present, safe, and connected to themselves and their clients in the therapeutic space.   Bonnie's approach, similar to NARM, is grounded in a therapist's capacity for humility, which has to do with the way therapists meet their clients with openness and curiosity, and not as experts or being focused on “fixing their clients”.  Bonnie gives a couple examples of clients and the growth that they have experienced due to the relational focus in their therapy. Safety, curiosity, and space for clients to connect to their own inner wisdom - which in NARM is part of the agency process - can lead to profound healing and transformation. Bonnie reflects on the power of the therapist “really respecting space and trusting the wisdom inside the person — and if we can just sit together and keep holding space, what needs to come forward will come forward, and it'll come forward at a pace that's manageable for the person.”  Bonnie reflects on what gives her hope amidst all the fear and devastation that goes on in the world and between one another. She believes that who we are inherently yearns to orient towards connection and health. To read the full show notes and discover more resources visit http://www.narmtraining.com/podcast *** NARM Training Institute http://www.NARMtraining.com View upcoming Online Basics Trainings: http://www.narmtraining.com/onlinebasics *** The NARM Training Institute provides tools for transforming complex trauma through: in-person and online trainings for mental health care professionals; in-person and online workshops on complex trauma and how it interplays with areas like addiction, parenting, and cultural trauma; an online self-paced learning program, the NARM Inner Circle; and other trauma-informed learning resources.   We want to connect with you! Facebook @NARMtraining Twitter @NARMtraining YouTube Instagram @thenarmtraininginstitute

I am excited to share this conversation with you as I interview Bonnie Badenoch on healing and the heart of trauma.  Bonnie has been a huge influence in the field of psychotherapy and the power of brain/body based approaches within the all important relational attunement.  We discuss the fundamentals of compassionate healing and how approaches including the revolutionary Brainspotting Therapy (Dr David Grand) shift the therapeutic paradigm in an attempt to fully realise the massive potential of human healing through the power of appreciating uncertainty and trusting the immensity of the deeper inter-relational dynamic.  For more information on Bonnie's work go to:https://nurturingtheheart.orgFor more information on Brainspotting and to train with Dr Grixti go to:https://www.bspuk.co.ukhttps://www.facebook.com/brainspottingukhttps://twitter.com/BrainspottingUKhttps://www.instagram.com/brainspotting_uk/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-wfQEAwQX3qr36zkhh9J0g

Working with your Inner Child can be a game changer!  Your inner child is the feelings you had in times of distress that you weren't allowed to express.  There were all these needs you may have had at that time, but didn't feel safe or allowed to have them met.  They live inside you today.  In fact, they are running the show!  The more you connect with your Inner Child and let them feel and express what has been suppressed this whole time, the healthier you are going to be!I pull from Polyvagal theory, as taught to my by Bonnie Badenoch, as well as the Emotion code (an energy healing method) to inform my understanding of Inner Child work.  I know it comes in many form and with many names.  My words and understandings are just one perception.  Have you ever done Inner Child work?  Do you want to?Contact Me or Consume My Stuff Here:Sign up for my NEW Transforming Your Codependency Text messages!  I can be in your texts messages every Monday, Wednesday and Friday.  I'll be giving advice, loving reminders and information to help you love yourself and heal that codependency NOW. Sign up by texting the word PEACE to 877-338-0875 or visit this web site:  https://slkt.io/xlBeIt's time for the next round of The People Pleaser Recovery Roadmap!  Do you want a complete codependency overhaul, where in 9 months you could state your needs without guilt, easily set boundaries and let go of the suffering that so many nuances of codependency causes?  Well then it's time for a Curiosity Call to learn if this is the right program for you!  Click here to set up a Curiosity Call (or DM me) to learn more about the People Pleaser Recovery Roadmap and get signed up to start August 2021!https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=18953727&appointmentType=19164977Instagram:  @SoulAmplifiede-mail me about coaching, The People Pleaser Recovery Roadmap Course, or other questions:  Vanessa@soulamplified.org

Today we wrap up this month's focus on attachment with my dear mentor and friend, Bonnie Badenoch.  Bonnie Badenoch, PhD, LMFT is a thought-leader in the relational neurosciences.  When I think about her contribution to this emerging field of study, I think ‘integrator.'  Bonnie has helped us all feel into the many different strands that are woven together to become what we now call relational neuroscience- interpersonal neurobiology, affect regulation theory, polyvagal theory, memory reconsolidation theory, attachment theory, and more.  Bonnie has taken the science and created space for clinicians to make meaning of how the science comes alive in us and in our work with clients.  Bonnie knows the science of relationships better than anyone I know, but more than that she knows relationships.  She's been an integral part of my own journey- without Bonnie there certainly would not have been this attachment series or the Brilliance of Attachment eBook.  Bonnie is the author of three books- Bing a Brain Wise Therapist, The Brain-Savvy Therapist's Work Book, and her newest book, Heart of Trauma.  If you want to learn more about the amazing work Bonnie does in the world, head over to the website www.NurturingtheHeart.com If you'd rather read a summary of the interview instead of listening on the podcast, you can head over to my blog https://robyngobbel.com/bonniebadenochYou can download the F R E E eBook "The Brilliance of Attachment" at https://robyngobbel.com/ebookAnd while you're on my website-  be sure to check out The Club! Doors open for new members from June 29 - July 6, 2021  https://robyngobbel.com/theclubIn July, August, and September in The Club, we are going to be exploring the neurobiology of attachment, allowing us to embody attachment and bring healing to the parts of ourselves, and our children, that didn't get what they needed when they were young.**********There are so many benefits (and no drawbacks!) to teaching kids and teens about the brain. I'll give you simple, fun ways to Teach Kids about their Awesome Brain. This 1.5 hour webinar airs live on Wed Oct 20. Everyone who registers will receive the recording so you don't have to attend live! CLICK HERE.

What an episode this was with Julia Alexander. After reading one of Julia's blog posts, I knew that I needed to speak with her about her work at the intersection of horses and systemic oppression, and her ideas on how to start to change the unhealthy systems that we exist in, and the foundation of much of our horse work (and how we have been taught to be). I'm so grateful to her for doing this work, exploring my many questions, and opening up about this challenging topic. Julia (she, her, hers) is a fellow traveler for those seeking healing, an advocate of love in action, and a connector of dots. She believes that meaningful relationships, where people are seen and heard in the reality of their lived experiences, are essential to healing. For 15 years, Julia has worked to advance social justice in education, therapy, and work with non-human animals. She has designed social justice curriculum for colleges and universities, taught courses, and facilitated dialogues on privilege and oppression, racism, sexism, and heterosexism. Julia is also a long-life horsewoman with 20 years of experience in the horse industry. From 4-h to classical dressage in Spain to Equine-assisted mental health- she is passionate about promoting kind, ethical horse-human relationships that truly embody socially just practices. Julia is learning from several horse trainers and animal behaviorists exploring positive-based learning/training methods and seeks to combine all of her experiences to support others in developing compassionate, safe, embodied relationships and communities that reunite us with our interconnectedness. Julia studied the psychology of colorblind racism and white identity development as an undergrad at Mount Holyoke College. She earned a Masters of Social Justice Education at UMass Amherst, where she discovered the art of dialogue facilitation across differences. She received her MSW from Smith College and currently works as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for Colors of Austin Counseling in Austin TX.  Julia is a Certified Daring Way Facilitator, a Circle of Security Parent Facilitator, a Trained Intergroup Dialogue Facilitator, a graduate of Leif Hallberg's year-long Master Class on Equine Assisted Mental Health and Equine Assisted Learning and is currently participating in a year-long Interpersonal Neurobiology course with Bonnie Badenoch. Learn more about Julia and her work at https://www.juliaalexandercounseling.com/ Find the resources shared in this podcast at http://wholehorse.ca/episode-74

Having trouble navigating your relationships with others and healing from traumas in your life? Diane Poole Heller shares her expertise in child and adult attachment styles so you can begin to live a fuller, more loving life in this very connective Living 4D conversation.Learn more about attachment styles by taking this free test on Diane’s website. Access Diane’s five-part video series on attachment styles by texting your phone number to 720.548.2229.Living 4D listeners: Receive a $50 discount on Diane’s DARe Module 1 and 2 online training sessions in 2021 by using the code CHEK50 at checkout.Find Diane via social media on Facebook.A BIG REQUEST: Please review and fill out our Living 4D Podcast survey. Complete it by Jan. 10, 2021 and you’ll be entered in a drawing to win a bundle of products from our awesome sponsors.Show NotesDiane wrestled with deeper questions — the differences between necessary and unnecessary suffering and the inhumanity of man — as a child. (8:22)The wound of self-love. (16:14)Secure attachment skills and styles. (25:08)Are you available for a repair attempt? (36:07)Avoidant, insecure, attachment adaptations. (52:00)Even people with avoidant attachment styles need and want to feel connections. (1:06:32)Having a transition ritual is important for avoidant attachment types. (1:14:08)Ambivalent attachment styles: Overfocused on relationships. (1:22:58)Disorganized, disoriented attachment adaptations and the possibility of avoidant and ambivalent extremes. (1:50:07)Healing emotional wounds can affect families seven generations backward and forward. (2:01:13)ResourcesThe development of attachment theory by John Bowlby and Mary AinsworthThe Power of Attachment: How to Create Deep and Lasting Intimate Relationships and Healing Your Attachment Wounds by Diane Poole HellerThe work of Fritz Perls, George Gurdjieff, Bonnie Badenoch and Mark WolynnMore resources for this episode are available on our website.Thanks to our awesome sponsors: Organifi (save 20 percent on your purchase by using the code CHEK20 at checkout), Paleovalley (save 15 percent on your purchase by using the code chek15 at checkout), BiOptimizers (save 10 percent on your purchase by using the code paul10 at checkout), Cymbiotika (save 15 percent on your purchase by using the code CHEK15 at checkout), One Farm CBD Oils (save 15 percent on your purchase by using the code CHEK at checkout) and Essential Oil Wizardry (save 10 percent on your purchase by using the code living4d at checkout).As an Amazon Associate, we earn commissions from qualifying purchases.

Abby and Kellee introduce self-care to the listener and promise to make the conversation around this sometimes-dreaded topic different than what is talked about in the “Top 10 Self-Care,” articles most of us read. They begin by exploring where self-care starts (in the therapy room with the clients), and touch on how taking care of our human and therapist selves must change DC (During COVID). Topics Touched On: Marshall Lyles- https://www.marshalllyles.comRobyn Gobbel- https://robyngobbel.comLisa Dion- https://lisa-dion.comEMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing)- https://www.emdria.orgDC- During COVIDBC- Before COVIDAC- After COVID Taking in 174 Newspapers a day- Bonnie Badenoch."The Heart of Trauma." FOLLOW Abby and Kellee: https://www.instagram.com/the_whole_therapist/    

The Power of Co-Regulation Explore the myth of self-regulation, the natural neurobiology of co-regulation and it’s capacity to engage safety and heal trauma. Learn about using interpersonal neurobiology (IPNB) and Polyvagal Theory to establish safety and security in therapy and in relationships. Therapist Uncensored co-host Sue Marriott LCSW CGP talks with author and therapist Bonnie Badenoch about the concept of using safety to reshape your neural landscape through authentic relationships. Badenoch guides us through her progression of building a bridge between science and practice to cultivate the best therapeutic mind. You’ll learn how exercising “happy humility” and compassion can allow for an ideal presence in our day-to-day life using our autonomic nervous system. Also, special hats off to Steve Porges and polyvagal theory. 0:00-30:00 What creates safety? How do our internal systems want us to be received? Sympathetic activation happens when there’s a need to control something in light of an obstacle. Internal systems challenge to remain in an open and receptive state. Polyvagal theory and Steve Porges. How can we explore the relationship between safety and curiosity and best use the language of “safety,” versus “comfort” and “discomfort”, especially towards the beginning of therapy and in new relationships? Badenoch contends that there’s no such thing as a maladaptive experience; that humans are always adaptive and require co-regulation. What’s the difference between co-regulation and auto-regulation? Is there a “myth” of self-regulation? Discussion of ideal parent figure protocol. Badenoch explores the connection between co-regulation, neural circuitry and forging relationships in your life. 30:00-60:00 Social Baseline Theory is what happens to our perceptions when someone we trust is with us. The difficulty and pain of tasks is always reduced when we’re with a trusted beloved and this relaxes our amygdala response. Badenoch walks us through her experience of feeling safe during and between client sessions. It’s key to have mutual, caring, receptive relationships with people who are willing to listen rather than jump in and try to offer advice. Young therapists. Everyone’s doing the best they can with what they have in their neural make up but how can we embody a therapeutic presence in the world through compassion or a “happy humility”? Resources: A Symphony of Gifts From Relational Neuroscience (1) Excellent PDF from Bonnie Badenoch Being a Brain-Wise Therapist: A Practical Guide to Interpersonal Neurobiology [2008] Badenoch  The Brain-Savvy Therapist’s Workbook [2011] Badenoch  The Heart of Trauma: Healing the Embodied Brain in the Context of Relationships [2017] Badenoch The Heart of Trauma Healing the Embodied Brain in the Context of Relationships by Steve Porges!   For our listeners! Our long-awaited Advanced Course is launching soon! Purchase today for the lowest price possible. Pre-sale pricing ends September 18.  CLICK HERE TO PURCHASE   Join Us On Patreon For as little as $5 a month you can join our exclusive community of Therapist Uncensored Neuronerds to gain private, more in-depth episodes AND to support production of this podcast to provide access to the science of relationships across the globe.   YES SIGN ME UP FOR PATREON, OR FIND OUT MORE, click here! THANK YOU to all of our current Patrons!! Tweet

Explore the myth of self-regulation, the natural neurobiology of co-regulation and it’s capacity to engage safety and heal trauma. Learn about using interpersonal neurobiology (IPNB) and Polyvagal Theory to establish safety and security in therapy and in relationships. Therapist Uncensored co-host Sue Marriott LCSW CGP talks with author and therapist Bonnie Badenoch about the concept of using safety to reshape your neural landscape through authentic relationships. Badenoch guides us through her progression of building a bridge between science and practice to cultivate the best therapeutic mind. You’ll learn how exercising “happy humility” and compassion can allow for an ideal presence in our day-to-day life using our autonomic nervous system. Also, special hats off to Steve Porges and polyvagal theory. 0:00-30:00  What creates safety? How do our internal systems want us to be received?  Sympathetic activation happens when there’s a need to control something in light of an obstacle. Internal systems challenge to remain in an open and receptive state. Polyvagal theory and Steve Porges. How can we explore the relationship between safety and curiosity and best use the language of “safety,” versus “comfort” and “discomfort”, especially towards the beginning of therapy and in new relationships? Badenoch contends that there’s no such thing as a maladaptive experience; that humans are always adaptive and require co-regulation.  What’s the difference between co-regulation and auto-regulation? Is there a “myth” of self-regulation? Discussion of ideal parent figure protocol.  Badenoch explores the connection between co-regulation, neural circuitry and forging relationships in your life.  30:00-60:00  Social Baseline Theory is what happens to our perceptions when someone we trust is with us. The difficulty and pain of tasks is always reduced when we’re with a trusted beloved and this relaxes our amygdala response.   Badenoch walks us through her experience of feeling safe during and between client sessions.  It’s key to have mutual, caring, receptive relationships with people who are willing to listen rather than jump in and try to offer advice. Young therapists. Everyone’s doing the best they can with what they have in their neural make up but how can we embody a therapeutic presence in the world through compassion or a “happy humility”?  Resources: A Symphony of Gifts From Relational Neuroscience (1) (https://www.therapistuncensored.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/11/A-Symphony-of-Gifts-From-Relational-Neuroscience-1-1.pdf)  Excellent PDF from Bonnie Badenoch  [2008] Badenoch  (https://amzn.to/2SPvObv)  [2011] Badenoch  (https://amzn.to/2Dr7iZW)  [2017] Badenoch (https://amzn.to/2SStd0k) The Heart of Trauma Healing the Embodied Brain in the Context of Relationships by Steve Porges (https://amzn.to/2PEzI8v) !   For our listeners! CLICK HERE TO PURCHASE (https://www.therapistuncensored.com/course/)   Join Us On Patreon For as little as $5 a month you can join our exclusive community of (http://www.patreon.com/therapistuncensored) to gain private, more in-depth episodes AND to support production of this podcast to provide access to the science of relationships across the globe.   (https://www.patreon.com/therapistuncensored) THANK YOU to all of our current Patrons!! Tweet... Support this podcast

Relationships change the brain. The good news from the science and research on brain development is that while our earliest interpersonal experiences may have created unhelpful patterns, new patterns are formed as children develop into adults. Today we speak with Bonnie Badenoch. Bonnie is a master therapist, supervisor, teacher and author who has spent the last 15 years integrating the discoveries of neuroscience into practice. To get access to the links and resources mentioned in the interview, please visit www.tipbs.com.

Welcome to Attachment Theory in Action! Our podcast is dedicated to therapists, social workers, counselors and psychologists who are working with clients from an attachment-based perspective. Interviews are conducted with individuals who are doing clinical work as well as leading attachment theory researchers. Your host, Karen Doyle Buckwalter will introduce you to Bonnie Badenoch, who will explore the myth of self-regulation. This week's episode is the first in a two-part series with Ms Badenoch, so be sure to tune in next week for part two! Bonnie Badenoch, LMFT, therapist, mentor, teacher, and author, has spent the last 15 years integrating the discoveries of relational neuroscience into the art of therapy. In 2008, she co-founded the nonprofit agency Nurturing the Heart with the Brain in Mind to offer this work to the community of therapists, healthcare providers, and others interested in becoming therapeutic presences in the world. For 25 years, she has supported trauma survivors and those with significant attachment wounds to reshape their neural landscapes for a life of meaning, resilience, and warm relationships. These days, Bonnie takes joy in offering immersion trainings for therapists and others. These year-long groups cultivate the capacity for presence through the development of deep listening and the embodiment of the principles of interpersonal neurobiology. Her conviction that wisdom about the relational brain can support healing experiences for people at every age led to the publication of Being a Brain-Wise Therapist: A Practical Guide to Interpersonal Neurobiology in 2008 and The Brain-Savvy Therapist’s Workbook in 2011. Bonnie’s latest writing is The Heart of Trauma: Healing the Embodied Brain in the Context of Relationships (2017). These books seek to build a bridge between science and practice with clarity, compassion, and heart.

Welcome to Attachment Theory in Action! Our podcast is dedicated to therapists, social workers, counselors and psychologists who are working with clients from an attachment-based perspective. Interviews are conducted with individuals who are doing clinical work as well as leading attachment theory researchers. Your host, Karen Doyle Buckwalter will introduce you to Bonnie Badenoch, who will explore the myth of self-regulation. This week's episode is the first in a two-part series with Ms Badenoch, so be sure to tune in next week for part two! Bonnie Badenoch, LMFT, therapist, mentor, teacher, and author, has spent the last 15 years integrating the discoveries of relational neuroscience into the art of therapy. In 2008, she co-founded the nonprofit agency Nurturing the Heart with the Brain in Mind to offer this work to the community of therapists, healthcare providers, and others interested in becoming therapeutic presences in the world. For 25 years, she has supported trauma survivors and those with significant attachment wounds to reshape their neural landscapes for a life of meaning, resilience, and warm relationships. These days, Bonnie takes joy in offering immersion trainings for therapists and others. These year-long groups cultivate the capacity for presence through the development of deep listening and the embodiment of the principles of interpersonal neurobiology. Her conviction that wisdom about the relational brain can support healing experiences for people at every age led to the publication of Being a Brain-Wise Therapist: A Practical Guide to Interpersonal Neurobiology in 2008 and The Brain-Savvy Therapist’s Workbook in 2011. Bonnie’s latest writing is The Heart of Trauma: Healing the Embodied Brain in the Context of Relationships (2017). These books seek to build a bridge between science and practice with clarity, compassion, and heart.

Troubled attachment is a natural outcome of challenging life experiences or trauma. But, there’s another outcome that we want to talk about: intimacy avoidance. It’s hard enough to open up in relationships. However, when your life experience has challenged you, avoidance is sure to follow. You may have found safety in hiding (a.k.a. cloaking). Yet, that cloak can clog up our current adult relationships. Dang it! Sorry to tell you what we imagine you already know – 

Melissa Tiers is the Founder of The Center for Integrative Hypnosis and has a hypnosis practice in New York. She is an educator in Neuro-Linguistic Psychology and Integrative Hypnosis and a teacher for The International Association of Counselors and Therapists. Melissa was a recipient of NGH’s 2014 President’s Award for her excellence in the field. She Is also the author of several books such as Keeping the Brain and Mind: Practical Neuroscience for Coaches, Therapists and Hypnosis Practitioners and Integrative Hypnosis: A Comprehensive Course in Change.   Melissa joins me today to share her views on the value of curiosity and the framework that forms Therapeutic Memory Reconsolidation. She reveals how hypnotherapists can better serve their clients and how they can resolve the internal wars of becoming a hypnotic professional. She also shares the two elements that determine the success of any talk therapy and how dramatic shifts in the mind occur.     “Once Therapeutic Memory Reconsolidation trickles down in a significant way, from the laboratory to the clinician’s office, that is when the entire field of talk therapy will be turned on its head.” - Melissa Tiers       How the Integrative Hypnosis book demonstrates how quickly hypnosis techniques and understanding are advancing. The updates that Melissa has found to influence her work better, including the framework and levels. How the Self-Direction Neuroplasticity Frame helps clients get out of anxiety and a craving state. How the Therapeutic Memory Reconsolidation neutralizes triggers. How memory reconsolidation affects neural networks and updates and shifts ideas, beliefs, and values. How Looping attacks the client’s problem from different angles to compound the desired change. Why hypnotherapists need to sell the change and recognize that hypnotic suggestions are more than just a series of words. The importance of the client’s conscious buy-in, coaching the unconscious mind and having a compassionate listener. The two main things that predict the success of any therapeutic intervention. How dramatic shifts occur and problems get solved during the Default Mode Network; when people are doing something else. How to use the hypnotic phenomenon to show the client that they can unlock the power of the mind.     Resources Mentioned:   Books by Jeffrey Schwartz Coherence Therapy by Bruce Ecker Being a Brain-wise Therapist by Bonnie Badenoch     Connect with Melissa Tiers:   The Center for Integrative Hypnosis Melissa Tiers on Facebook Integrative Hypnosis by Melissa Tiers           Learn the skills, strategies, and systems to grow your hypnosis business so you can work smarter, not harder! Grab your copy of my latest book, Work Smart Business, today!   worksmartbusiness.com/     Are you ready to scale your hypnosis practice to the next level? Join us for three days of training, seminars, and presentations at the HPTI Winter Hypnosis Convention on February 25 - 27 at the Orleans Hotel and Casino in Las Vegas!   hypnosistraininginstitute.org/hpti-winter-hypnosis-convention/     Ready for your hypnosis script troubles to be solved? Scriptnosis is a platform that allows you to access a catalog of hypnosis scripts and customize them based on the needs of you and your client. To learn more, visit: com   Get an all-access pass to Jason’s digital library to help you grow your hypnosis business for only $47: HypnoticBusinessSystems.com   Get instant access to Jason Linett’s entire hypnotherapeutic training library: HypnoticWorkers.com   If you enjoyed today’s episode, please send us your valuable feedback! WorkSmartHypnosis.com/itunes https://www.facebook.com/worksmarthypnosis/  

Learn about the natural neurobiology of co-regulation and it’s capacity to engage safety and heal trauma. In addition, this episode addresses the myth of self-regulation and how to re-engage interpersonal relationships if they’ve been neglected. Therapist Uncensored co-host Sue Marriott LCSW CGP chats with author and therapist Bonnie Badenoch about the concept of using safety to reshape your neural landscape through authentic relationships. Badenoch guides us through her progression of building a bridge between science and practice to cultivate the best therapeutic mind. You’ll learn how exercising “happy humility” and compassion can allow for an ideal presence in our day-to-day life using our autonomic nervous system. Also, special hats off to Steve Porges and polyvagal theory. 0:00-30:00 What creates safety? How do our internal systems want us to be received? Sympathetic activation happens when there’s a need to control something in light of an obstacle. Internal systems challenge to remain in an open and receptive state. Polyvagal theory and Steve Porges. How can we explore the relationship between safety and curiosity and best use the language of “safety,” versus “comfort” and “discomfort”, especially towards the beginning of therapy and in new relationships? Badenoch contends that there’s no such thing as a maladaptive experience; that humans are always adaptive and require co-regulation. What’s the difference between co-regulation and auto-regulation? Is there a “myth” of self-regulation? Discussion of ideal parent figure protocol. Badenoch explores the connection between co-regulation, neural circuitry and forging relationships in your life. 30:00-60:00 Social Baseline Theory is what happens to our perceptions when someone we trust is with us. The difficulty and pain of tasks is always reduced when we’re with a trusted beloved and this relaxes our amygdala response. Badenoch walks us through her experience of feeling safe during and between client sessions. It’s key to have mutual, caring, receptive relationships with people who are willing to listen rather than jump in and try to offer advice. Young therapists. Everyone’s doing the best they can with what they have in their neural make up but how can we embody a therapeutic presence in the world through compassion or a “happy humility”? Resources: A Symphony of Gifts From Relational Neuroscience (1) Excellent PDF from Bonnie Badenoch Being a Brain-Wise Therapist: A Practical Guide to Interpersonal Neurobiology [2008] Badenoch  The Brain-Savvy Therapist’s Workbook [2011] Badenoch  The Heart of Trauma: Healing the Embodied Brain in the Context of Relationships [2017] Badenoch The Heart of Trauma Healing the Embodied Brain in the Context of Relationships by Steve Porges!   For our listeners! We’ve partnered with Audible so that our listeners get a free audio book and 30 days free membership, cancel at anytime! GET MY FREE BOOK HERE We are now part of Patreon! Become a Supernerd, an Out and Proud Supernerd or become a Platinum Neuronerd!

Learn about the natural neurobiology of co-regulation and it’s capacity to engage safety and heal trauma. In addition, this episode addresses the myth of self-regulation and how to re-engage interpersonal relationships if they’ve been neglected. Therapist Uncensored co-host Sue Marriott LCSW CGP chats with author and therapist Bonnie Badenoch about the concept of using safety to reshape your neural landscape through authentic relationships. Badenoch guides us through her progression of building a bridge between science and practice to cultivate the best therapeutic mind. You’ll learn how exercising “happy humility” and compassion can allow for an ideal presence in our day-to-day life using our autonomic nervous system. Also, special hats off to Steve Porges and polyvagal theory. 0:00-30:00  What creates safety? How do our internal systems want us to be received?  Sympathetic activation happens when there’s a need to control something in light of an obstacle. Internal systems challenge to remain in an open and receptive state. Polyvagal theory and Steve Porges. How can we explore the relationship between safety and curiosity and best use the language of “safety,” versus “comfort” and “discomfort”, especially towards the beginning of therapy and in new relationships? Badenoch contends that there’s no such thing as a maladaptive experience; that humans are always adaptive and require co-regulation.  What’s the difference between co-regulation and auto-regulation? Is there a “myth” of self-regulation? Discussion of ideal parent figure protocol.  Badenoch explores the connection between co-regulation, neural circuitry and forging relationships in your life.  30:00-60:00  Social Baseline Theory is what happens to our perceptions when someone we trust is with us. The difficulty and pain of tasks is always reduced when we’re with a trusted beloved and this relaxes our amygdala response.   Badenoch walks us through her experience of feeling safe during and between client sessions.  It’s key to have mutual, caring, receptive relationships with people who are willing to listen rather than jump in and try to offer advice. Young therapists. Everyone’s doing the best they can with what they have in their neural make up but how can we embody a therapeutic presence in the world through compassion or a “happy humility”?  Resources: A Symphony of Gifts From Relational Neuroscience (1) (https://www.therapistuncensored.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/11/A-Symphony-of-Gifts-From-Relational-Neuroscience-1-1.pdf)  Excellent PDF from Bonnie Badenoch  [2008] Badenoch  (https://amzn.to/2SPvObv)  [2011] Badenoch  (https://amzn.to/2Dr7iZW)  [2017] Badenoch (https://amzn.to/2SStd0k) The Heart of Trauma Healing the Embodied Brain in the Context of Relationships by Steve Porges (https://amzn.to/2PEzI8v) !   For our listeners!We’ve partnered with Audible so that our listeners get a free audio book and 30 days free membership, cancel at anytime! GET MY FREE BOOK HERE (https://www.audible.com/therapistuncensored) We are now part of Patreon! Become a Supernerd, an Out and Proud Supernerd or become a Platinum Neuronerd!

IN THIS EPISODE: Meditation And Neuroplasticity Provide a Path To Healing: An Interview With Sarah Peyton Show Notes Patty Olwell interviews Sarah Peyton, author of Your Resonant Self: Guided Meditations & Exercises to Engage Your Brain’s Capacity for Healing on the neuroscience of language and emotions. Their discussion covers Sarah’s background in non-violent communication and her more recent work with the impact of specific interventions and meditations to foster brain plasticity and empathy towards ourselves and others. They explore what kinds of language can we use that lets brains relax and move into a space of fluidity? How does this relate to healing from trauma? What kind of language do we use with ourselves to develop empathy? How do we develop an inner voice of understanding rather than self-criticism?   Timeline 0:00 Intro 1:44 – What drew Sarah Peyton to this work – First non-violent communication (Marshall Rosenberg) Rosenberg weekend – first time hearing that use of language 3:51 – How non-violent communication works like therapy – a place where people listen rather than just try to problem solve – what happens when you use feeling words & how it changes the activity of the amygdala – (Matthew Lieberman) 4:40 – Matthew Lieberman study of facial expressions –when you accurately name the facial expression/emotions you’re seeing, the activity in the amygdala falls by half- people using language differently put Peyton into a space of fluidity (there is always an amygdala response to intense facial expressions) 5:29 – Daniel Siegel – Name it to tame it – Why does this work? 6:02 – What kinds of language do we use that lets brains relax and move into a space of fluidity? How does this relate to healing from trauma? How are brains impacted by trauma? Language as the neurotransmitters of human-ness – Verbal & nonverbal communication between two people 8:45 – Shift of focus from communication to brains – Daniel Siegel’s The Developing Mind, The Neurobiology of We 10:30 – How are we moved & changed by the words we use with one another? 12:00 – Dan Siegel’s contingent communication – how do our words reflect that we actually heard the other person? This quality comes through very subtly even in written communication 14:37 – Study of how Sarah Peyton used words with her children revealed the breaks & chasms between getting business of life done and having a relational connection 15:52 – What kind of language do we use with ourselves? Matthew Lieberman’s work with the default mode network. How do our minds think when there’s nothing else to process? When the brain is not directed towards something in particular, it reverses to default network. 18:07 – What is the automatic voice of our brain and can it be changed? 19:32 – Your Resonant Self: Guided Meditations & Exercises to Engage Your Brain’s Capacity for Healing – Speaking unkindly to yourself – Importance of warmth in language – Trauma impacts the default network – experiences of being alone create default networks that are trying to help us – How do we turn towards voice of understanding rather than self-critical voice? 22:31 – How to be precise with language: To be precise with what the feeling tone is. To be precise with what the deep longing is: survival, thriving, peace, room to grow, capacity to have your own timing, etc. Precision with what the timing of the trauma is – that the trauma is no longer happening – By using the past tense, the brain is using precision – What’s so upsetting is in the past and getting acknowledgment 25:01 – People often say yes most often when asked if they’re seeking acknowledgment for what happened in the past. Bonnie Badenoch’s study of Nepalese boy soldiers All boy soldiers had the same experience but the boys who went home to environments where they were received with welcome had much lower rates of PTSD than environment where they were excluded.

IN THIS EPISODE:Meditation And Neuroplasticity Provide a Path To Healing: An Interview With Sarah PeytonShow NotesPatty Olwell interviews Sarah Peyton, author of Your Resonant Self: Guided Meditations & Exercises to Engage Your Brain’s Capacity for Healing on the neuroscience of language and emotions. Their discussion covers Sarah’s background in non-violent communication and her more recent work with the impact of specific interventions and meditations to foster brain plasticity and empathy towards ourselves and others. They explore what kinds of language can we use that lets brains relax and move into a space of fluidity? How does this relate to healing from trauma? What kind of language do we use with ourselves to develop empathy? How do we develop an inner voice of understanding rather than self-criticism?   Timeline0:00 Intro 1:44 – What drew Sarah Peyton to this work – First non-violent communication (Marshall Rosenberg) Rosenberg weekend – first time hearing that use of language 3:51 – How non-violent communication works like therapy – a place where people listen rather than just try to problem solve – what happens when you use feeling words & how it changes the activity of the amygdala – (Matthew Lieberman) 4:40 – Matthew Lieberman study of facial expressions –when you accurately name the facial expression/emotions you’re seeing, the activity in the amygdala falls by half- people using language differently put Peyton into a space of fluidity (there is always an amygdala response to intense facial expressions) 5:29 – Daniel Siegel – Name it to tame it – Why does this work? 6:02 – What kinds of language do we use that lets brains relax and move into a space of fluidity? How does this relate to healing from trauma? How are brains impacted by trauma? Language as the neurotransmitters of human-ness – Verbal & nonverbal communication between two people 8:45 – Shift of focus from communication to brains – Daniel Siegel’s The Developing Mind, The Neurobiology of We 10:30 – How are we moved & changed by the words we use with one another? 12:00 – Dan Siegel’s contingent communication – how do our words reflect that we actually heard the other person? This quality comes through very subtly even in written communication 14:37 – Study of how Sarah Peyton used words with her children revealed the breaks & chasms between getting business of life done and having a relational connection 15:52 – What kind of language do we use with ourselves? Matthew Lieberman’s work with the default mode network. How do our minds think when there’s nothing else to process? When the brain is not directed towards something in particular, it reverses to default network. 18:07 – What is the automatic voice of our brain and can it be changed? 19:32 – Your Resonant Self: Guided Meditations & Exercises to Engage Your Brain’s Capacity for Healing – Speaking unkindly to yourself – Importance of warmth in language – Trauma impacts the default network – experiences of being alone create default networks that are trying to help us – How do we turn towards voice of understanding rather than self-critical voice? 22:31 – How to be precise with language: To be precise with what the feeling tone is. To be precise with what the deep longing is: survival, thriving, peace, room to grow, capacity to have your own timing, etc. Precision with what the timing of the trauma is – that the trauma is no longer happening – By using the past tense, the brain is using precision – What’s so upsetting is in the past and getting acknowledgment 25:01 – People often say yes most often when asked if they’re seeking acknowledgment for what happened in the past. Bonnie Badenoch’s study of Nepalese boy soldiers All boy soldiers had the same experience but the boys who went home to environments where they were received with welcome had much lower rates of PTSD than environment where they were... Support this podcast

What is co-regulation and how do I feel safe in my relationship? In this episode my guest Bonnie Badenoch goes deep into the co-regulatory nervous system. We discuss the importance of interpersonal neurobiology and how we can regulate each other. She covers the myth and limitations of self-regulation and what we must learn instead. Bonnie is a psychotherapist and healer devoted to helping people feel safe in their own skin. We cover a lot of ground in this one, and I recommend going slow and maybe even listening twice. The myth of 'self-regulation' [13:00] What happens when we're co-disregulated [15:00] How we can feel safe by using a third person [20:00] Why co-regulation is so vital to our sense of safety and security [25:00] If you think your partner is  in their 'left-brain' too often, they might be experiencing this type of acute pain [36:00] The little-known third branch of the autonomic nervous system [41:00] How feeling helpless can mimic death in the body [46:00] jaysongaddis.com/attachment

Bonnie Badenoch is a therapist, teacher, and author who has devoted much of her career to helping trauma survivors and those with attachment wounds to rediscover balance and resilience in their lives. With Sounds True, Bonnie has created the online course Trauma and the Embodied Brain, which is the first eight-week module in a yearlong curriculum called Leading Edge of Psychotherapy. In this episode of Insights at the Edge, Bonnie and Tami Simon speak on the modern understanding of how traumatic wounds often arise from a sense of isolation and helplessness rather than the traumatic event itself. They discuss the recent research supporting this view and how a therapeutic environment of nonjudgmental presence is essential to begin the healing process. Finally, Tami and Bonnie talk about different kinds of trauma and what it means to be a source of therapy and healing. (60 minutes)

Dr Dave is a psychologist and host of the leading psychology podcast Shrink Rap Radio. Shrink Rap Radio is an in depth interview series where Dr Dave speaks to leaders in the field on a broad array of psychology related topics such as psychotherapy, dreams, consciousness, business psychology, developmental psychology, mind/body psychology, social issues and spirituality. Some of his world class guests have included Philip Zimbardo, Irvin Yalom, Bonnie Badenoch and David Barlow. Dr Dave is a pioneer in the podcasting arena having recently released his 487th episode and he continues to educate and inspire listeners across the globe. Dr Dave was my inspiration for starting We All Wear it Differently. When outside of the pod, “Dr. Dave” is also known as David Van Nuys, Ph.D. He is Emeritus Professor of Psychology at Sonoma State University and served as that department’s Chair for seven years. The department has a longstanding reputation for its commitment to humanistic, transpersonal, and existential approaches to psychology. He has also taught psychology at the University of Montana, the University of Michigan, and the University of New Hampshire. He has served as a dissertation advisor for doctoral students at Saybrook Institute and the Institute for Integral Studies, among others. David also runs a market research consulting business www.e-focusgroups.com which has served a distinguished list of clients, including The New York Times, Apple Computer, IBM, Hewlett Packard, and QuickenLoans, among others. David received his doctorate in clinical psychology from the University of Michigan and has worked as a licensed psychotherapist in both California and New Hampshire. He has led and/or co-led personal growth workshops at various growth centers around the U.S. and abroad including Ireland, Kauai, Mallorca, Switzerland, and Sweden. David has written scores of articles and reviews for a variety of professional and popular publications. At one time, he wrote a nationally syndicated newspaper column. In 2001, he co-authored the book, This is the Zodiac Speaking: Into the mind of a serial killer, in which he profiles the murderer in this famous, unsolved case. HBO picked up an option on the book with the idea of possibly using it as the basis for a mini-series. David also periodically posts to his blog, “The Happiness Dispatch,” for the Psychology Today magazine. In 2012, David joined the advisory board of the online journal, The International Journal of Neuropsychotherapy. David describes himself as someone who has always had a wide range of hobbies and passions, the latest of which is Podcasting (as in Shrink Rap Radio). Dr Dave sees podcasting as “The Next Big Thing.” I think he was right! Visit the website to check out helpful links and Dr Dave's tip for early career psychologists!

Bonnie Badenoch, PhD, LMFT is a therapist, mentor, and author who delights in integrating the discoveries of relational neuroscience into the art of therapy. For 28 years, her work has focused on supporting trauma survivors and those with significant attachment wounds reshape their neural landscape to support a life of meaning, resilience, and warm relationships. A giant thank-you to my sponsors who help me keep this podcast going: *CPTSD Foundation* CPTSD Foundation provides live, daily, peer-led, interactive group calls, in a safe atmosphere for survivors of complex trauma, equipping them with skills and information they can use every single day in their healing journey. Receive 50% off the first month when you join at: http://bit.ly/2MEbBqc *Brighter Vision* When you’re in private practice it can be tough just to find the time to review your marketing efforts, let alone make improvements where they're needed. Whether you are a seasoned clinician who’s current website needs revamped, or a new therapist building a website for the first time, Brighter Vision is here to help. By first understanding your business and what makes it unique, Brighter Vision’s team of developers then uses this information to create you a custom website catered to your specific marketing goals. And the best news of all? You can get your first month entirely free just for listening to The Trauma Therapist | Podcast.. To get started, just head on over to brightervision.com/guy ( http://brightervision.com/guy ). At this stage of life, Bonnie enjoys mentoring those in the helping professions through offering longer-term immersion trainings in the embodiment of interpersonal neurobiology principles. Her books include Being a Brain-Wise Therapist ( https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0393705544/ref=as_li_qf_asin_il_tl?creative=9325&creativeASIN=0393705544&ie=UTF8&linkCode=as2&linkId=ba678b3c921eb78920c194e8b160b849&tag=wescoatrapro-20 ) ; The Brain-Savvy Therapist’s Workbook ( https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0393706397/ref=as_li_qf_asin_il_tl?creative=9325&creativeASIN=0393706397&ie=UTF8&linkCode=as2&linkId=28a2c96027c305be0ce348b6ac92d90b&tag=wescoatrapro-20 ) ; The Interpersonal Neurobiology of Group Psychotherapy and Group Process ( https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1780491778/ref=as_li_qf_asin_il_tl?creative=9325&creativeASIN=1780491778&ie=UTF8&linkCode=as2&linkId=cbb7b8b9d6c01b70353d592bf0b200d8&tag=wescoatrapro-20 ) (co-edited with Susan Gantt), and The Heart of Trauma ( https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0393710483/ref=as_li_qf_asin_il_tl?creative=9325&creativeASIN=0393710483&ie=UTF8&linkCode=as2&linkId=0cb16e55a20290a040c3bb2b6cc19c3c&tag=wescoatrapro-20 ). People are saying that these books fill the gap between science and practice with clarity, compassion, and heart. ** ** *In This Episode* * Bonnie’s website ( https://www.nurturingtheheart.com/ ) * Bonnie’s Trainings ( https://www.facebook.com/bonnie.badenoch ) * Bonnie on Facebook ( https://www.facebook.com/bonnie.badenoch ) Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-trauma-therapist-podcast-with-guy-macpherson-phd-inspiring-interviews-with-thought-leaders-in-the-field-of-trauma/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands