Podcast appearances and mentions of pooja lakshmin

We've all been there: you're scrolling through your feed, watching someone bake sourdough from scratch in a pristine linen dress, and suddenly your own life feels incredibly messy and chaotic. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Debbie and Emily are pulling back the curtain on the hyper-curated worlds of social media influencers, reality TV, and the massive "tradwife" trend.Grab your headphones and get ready for a much-needed reality check on why we need to be way more skeptical of what we see on our screens.Listen and Learn: What happened when Debbie fell down a Ballerina Farm rabbit holeHow glamorous images of the past conveniently leave out the harsh realities of history, like poverty, oppression, and environmental harmHow reality shows feed us false ideals, driving us into a spiral of social comparison and reinforcing toxic, patriarchal beauty standardsWhy chasing these unrealistic lifestyles actually hurts our well-beingThe rise of fear-based pseudoscience, MLMs, and totally unqualified "mental health influencers" who are just looking for clicksResources: Debbie's recent Substack post on Tradwife Influencers: https://open.substack.com/pub/drdebbiesorensen/p/trad-wife-influencers-reflectionsThe critique Debbie mentioned about how making cereal from scratch is a leisure class activity: https://www.tiktok.com/@professorneil/video/7339254814578150661 Maintenance Phase podcast: https://www.maintenancephase.com/ The Dream podcast: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xc28XHKS2jYAbout Debbie SorensenDebbie (she/her) is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Denver, Colorado with a bachelor's degree in Psychology and Anthropology from the University of Colorado, Boulder, and a Ph.D. in Psychology from Harvard University. She is author of the book ACT for Burnout: Recharge, Reconnect, and Transform Burnout with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and co-author of ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. She loves living in Colorado, her home state, with her husband, two daughters, and dog. When she's not busy working or podcasting, she enjoys reading fiction, cooking, traveling, and getting outdoors in the beautiful Rocky Mountains! You can learn more about Debbie, read her blog, and find out about upcoming presentations and training events at her webpage, drdebbiesorensen.com.About Emily EdlynnEmily (she/her) is a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in pediatric health psychology who works in private practice with children, teens, and adults. She has a BA in English from Smith College, a PhD in clinical psychology from Loyola University Chicago, and completed postgraduate training at Stanford and Children's Hospital Orange County. Emily spent almost ten years working in children's hospitals before pivoting to private practice, which allowed her to start a writing career. Emily has written her blog, The Art and Science of Mom, since 2017 and a parenting advice column for Parents.com since 2019. Emily's writing has also appeared in the Washington Post, Scary Mommy, Good Housekeeping, Motherly, and more. She recently added author to her bio with her book, Autonomy-Supportive Parenting: Reduce Parental Burnout and Raise Competent Confident Children and has a Substack newsletter. Emily lives with her husband, three children, and two rescue dogs in Oak Park, IL where she can see Chicago's skyline from her attic window. Related Episodes: 295. Buyer Beware: Pseudoscience and the Wellness Industry, featuring Pooja Lakshmin 390. Raising Empowered Girls in a Sexist World with Jo-Ann Finkelstein 311. Nobody's Fool with Daniel Simons and Christopher Chabris – Psychologists Off the Clock307. Navigating Social Media As a Parent with Cara Goodwin 433. Rethinking Screens and Video Games with Ash Brandin 382. The Anxious Generation? The Conversation We Should Be Having About Kids, Technology, and Mental Health 429. May Contain Lies with Alex Edmans See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jess sits down with psychiatrist and self-care expert Dr. Pooja Lakshmin. They explore how self-care isn't about bubble baths or spa days, but rather about setting boundaries, exercising compassion, and stepping out of the chronic fight-or-flight mode of parenting. Listeners will gain practical insights to help them with burnout. Want to hear more from Dr. Pooja?Connect on InstagramSign up for her newsletterGet 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN.We'd love to hear from you! Have questions you want us to answer on Robot Unicorn? Send us an email: podcast@robotunicorn.net. Credits:Editing by The Pod Cabin Artwork by Wallflower Studio Production by Nurtured First  Head to nurturedfirst.com/bodysafety to learn more about our Body Safety & Consent course!

In this episode of Codependent Doctor, we unpack the emotional hangover that can show up after setting a boundary, especially when guilt, fear, or second-guessing rush in afterward. We explore why discomfort does not mean you did something wrong, how to stay grounded after protecting your needs, and how to build trust in yourself as you practice healthier patterns.Send me a message

In this episode, host Natalie sits down with board-certified psychiatrist Dr. Pooja Lakshman to dismantle the toxic "wellness" culture that leaves women feeling more exhausted than when they started. They explore the hidden architecture of burnout - moving past the superficial world of bubble baths and meditation apps to address the systemic pressures and internal "tiny dictators" that dictate our worth. This is a conversation about why "doing more" isn't the cure and how to reclaim your agency when life feels like a burden you're carrying alone. What You'll Learn: The critical neurobiological distinction between everyday stress and the psychological collapse of meaning found in true burnout. Why your inner critic might actually be a "tiny dictator" and the simple naming exercise that helps you reclaim your mental autonomy. The "Pause, Yes, No, or Negotiate" framework for setting boundaries that account for the real-world costs of saying no. How to use the "Check Engine Light" metaphor to separate structural guilt from your actual moral compass. Why psychological integrity is the only resource that truly matters when navigating high-stakes health journeys like infertility. Resources: Order The Fertility Formula! ⁠https://www.nataliecrawfordmd.com/book⁠ Newsletter: nataliecrawfordmd.com/newsletter Instagram: @nataliecrawfordmd Youtube Channel: Natalie Crawford MD Interested in becoming a patient?: Fora Fertility Earn FREE CE/CME: Learn at Pinnacle App This episode is brought to you by The Pinnacle Podcast Network.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why does rest feel so uncomfortable for so many people? In this episode, I explore the deeper reasons slowing down can feel harder than staying busy. I share a personal story from a time in my life when I realized I didn't know how to relax, and how hustle culture, nervous system conditioning, guilt, and identity can keep us stuck in constant productivity. We talk about why busyness can become a coping strategy, how avoiding rest impacts our mental and physical health, and why discomfort during rest doesn't mean you're doing it wrong. If slowing down makes you anxious, restless, or guilty, this episode will help you understand why—and how to begin creating a healthier relationship with rest.Send me a message

In this episode, I open up about something that shaped so many of my relationships — the belief that I had to earn my place in people's lives. We explore why being needed can feel safer than being loved, how codependency can show up in subtle ways like overgiving, people-pleasing, and always being “the strong one,” and the emotional cost of tying your worth to what you do for others. I share a personal story about burnout, resentment, and loneliness, and how setting boundaries initially felt uncomfortable… but ultimately created space for more genuine, reciprocal connections. If you've ever felt like you have to prove your worth to be loved, this episode will help you start shifting from being needed… to being truly seen.Send me a message

In this episode, we explore the pattern of the help rejecting complainer—the person who repeatedly vents about the same problems but resists every solution. If you've ever felt drained, frustrated, or responsible for fixing someone else's life, this conversation will likely resonate. We unpack why people stay stuck, including fear of change, low self-trust, and the hidden ways attention and connection can reinforce these patterns. We also look at the codependent role many of us fall into—over-giving, over-explaining, and trying harder when nothing changes. Most importantly, this episode offers a shift: how to stop fixing, set healthy boundaries, and support others without losing yourself.Send me a message This episode includes a paid partnership with BetterHelp. Click this link, betterhelp.com/drdowney, to get 10% off your first month.

In this episode of The Codependent Doctor Podcast, I'm joined by Phil Weiss for a conversation about women, money, and financial confidence. We talk about the patterns he often sees in women who are caregivers, people-pleasers, or overgivers, and how society has shaped so many women to seek security with money before ever feeling true freedom. Phil shares why women often know more than they think they do financially, but may struggle with confidence because they've been left out of the conversation for so long.This is an empowering and practical conversation for any woman who wants to feel more informed, more secure, and more confident with money.You can connect with Phil Weiss here:Instagram, Facebook, , LinkedInDownload Phil's free guide: 5 Things Every Woman Should Know About FinanceSend me a message This episode includes a paid partnership with BetterHelp. Click this link, betterhelp.com/drdowney, to get 10% off your first month.

In this episode of The Codependent Doctor, I'm joined by Relationship Grief Coach Terraine LeBeau, founder of Behind the Shades Coaching. We talk about the kind of grief that doesn't always get recognized—like breakups, identity loss, and the painful process of letting go. Terraine shares how people-pleasing, comparison, and childhood trauma can shape our relationships, and how his SOAR method helps clients heal and reconnect with themselves. Whether you're grieving a person, a role, or the life you thought you'd have, this episode will remind you that healing is possible—and self-worth begins from within.Don't forget to contact Terraine for your 1 hour free coaching sessionWebsite, Facebook, YouTube, Email: behindtheshadesinterviews@gmail.comSend me a message This episode includes a paid partnership with BetterHelp. Click this link, betterhelp.com/drdowney, to get 10% off your first month.

It feels like everyone is talking about self care these days. But what's it actually supposed to look like? If you ask the TikTok algorithm, you'll get a lot of 12-step skincare routines, bullet journals and red light masks. But is self care really just about what you buy? Today, our guest Dr. Pooja Lakshmin is going beyond consumerism to talk about how we can add value to our lives...without swiping our credit cards. She's unpacking key lessons from her bestselling book REAL Self Care—from effectively setting boundaries, letting go of self-judgement, and using gratitude to get through even the darkest times. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode of The Codependent Doctor, I'm joined by Daniel Ratner, relationship coach and author, to talk about Emotional Vampires, the people in our lives who leave us feeling drained, overwhelmed, or emotionally exhausted. We explore why we stay in unhealthy relationships, how self-esteem plays a role in who we attract, and what it actually takes to set boundaries without drowning in guilt. Daniel also shares practical tools for protecting your emotional energy, navigating difficult family and work relationships, and identifying the “keepers” , the people who bring peace, kindness, empathy, and respect into your life.Books mentioned from Daniel RatnerSunscreen LoveNever Feel Unloved AgainEmotional VampiresThese are affiliate links and I may earn a commission at no cost to youConnect with Daniel:Website: coachratner.comInstagram: thecoachratnerpodcastYouTubeSend me a message This episode includes a paid partnership with BetterHelp. Click this link, betterhelp.com/drdowney, to get 10% off your first month.

In today's episode of The Codependent Doctor Podcast, I'm joined by Jonathan McLean for a deep, grounding conversation about healing from the inside out. We talk about inner child work and why sitting with past versions of yourself can free up so much emotional and mental energy in your day-to-day life. Jonathan also breaks down Human Design in a way that feels accessible and practical, explaining how aligning with your strategy and authority can profoundly support healing, especially for people who tend to self-abandon or overgive. We explore mindset shifts, spirituality, and how even tiny changes in thought patterns can create meaningful transformation. This episode is especially powerful if you've been feeling disconnected from yourself or stuck in old patterns.During the episode I recommended checking out the book Dare to Lead by Brenee Brown. (I am an affiliate partner with Amazon and may make a commition on the purchase of this book at no cost to you)You can connect with Jonathan and learn more about his work here:Website,  Facebook, InstagramJonathan is also offering Codependent Doctor listeners a special discount on his courses. Use Codependent20 to receive 20% off any course for the first 20 people, and Codependent10 to receive 10% off any course for the next 100 people.Course sign-up linkSend me a message This episode includes a paid partnership with BetterHelp. Click this link, betterhelp.com/drdowney, to get 10% off your first month.

In this episode of The Codependent Doctor, I'm sitting down with Emotional Freedom & Transformation Coach Jason Johnson to talk about what he calls detrimental kindness, that sneaky pattern of being “too nice” at your own expense. We explore how overgiving, people-pleasing, and chronic guilt quietly erode your health, identity, and relationships, and how to begin practicing kindness in a way that actually includes you. Jason walks us through his RELEASE Framework™, a simple roadmap to recognize your patterns, let go of guilt, reclaim your voice, and start setting boundaries without feeling like a terrible person. He also shares honestly about his own journey with addiction, self-sabotage, and overgiving, and the turning point that helped him stop abandoning himself in the name of being “the good friend.” If you've ever felt resentful after saying yes, or afraid that saying no makes you selfish, this conversation will help you see that you're not broken—you're programmed, and you can be re-programmed.Connect with Jason:Instagram: @coachjasonjohnsonFacebook: @jasonjohnsonJason's book: Detrimental Kindness: How Not to Lose Yourself While Helping Others.  (As an Amazon affiliate, I may earn a small commission if you purchase through this link, at no extra cost to you.)Send me a message This episode includes a paid partnership with BetterHelp. Click this link, betterhelp.com/drdowney, to get 10% off your first month.

In this episode, we talk with Anne Sena, Director of Operations and Technology at St. David's School. Anne shares her compelling journey from a fast-paced corporate career at Cisco to impactful leadership in an independent school, offering key insights on managing institutional change, building trust with faculty, and navigating an expanding technology role.St. David's SchoolAnne's LinkedIn ProfileATLIS / NAIS AI Collaboration ResourcesBurnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle, book by sisters Emily and Amelia NagoskiOver Work: Transforming the Daily Grind in the Quest for a Better Life, book by Bridget SchultzATLIS Leadership Institute, education and networking program designed to prepare and support technology leaders in independent schools as they grow into their positions and expand their influence.Real Self-Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness (Crystals, Cleanses, and Bubble Baths Not Included), by Pooja Lakshmin, M.D.Overwhelmed: Work, Love, and Play When No One Has the Time, by Brigid SchulteThe Secret of My Success, 80's film with strong female character in corporate environment

If you're exhausted, barely keeping it together, and quietly wondering when you'll feel like yourself again… this episode is your lifeline. Maybe you're the one who keeps the house running. The one everyone calls in an emergency. The one who knows takes care of everyone including medications, the bills, doctor visits, and the schedules.The one who stays up late searching for answers, and gets up early to make sure everyone else is okay. You don't complain. You don't slow down. But you're running on fumes. And no one sees it. You feel invisible. Like you are losing yourself. Like you're going through the motions in a life that used to feel like yours. Mel is talking to you in this episode. Whether you're raising kids, managing a household, supporting aging parents, a sick family member, or all of the above, taking care of others can slowly wear you down and make you feel like you don't even know yourself anymore. In this powerful and deeply validating conversation, Mel sits down with three world-renowned experts, all of whom are doctors as well as caregivers,  to give you the truth, the tools, and the hope you need to finally come up for air. You'll hear from: -Dr. Aditi Nerurkar, Harvard physician and stress researcher, on why chronic caregiving stress is not your failure, it's a public health crisis -Dr. Pooja Lakshmin, psychiatrist and bestselling author, who'll teach you how to set guilt-free boundaries and reclaim a sense of control over your life -Dr. Rangan Chatterjee, physician and bestselling author, whose deeply personal story will show you how to stop disappearing into caregiving, and start living again This episode is not about pushing harder. It's about finally pulling back in a way that actually helps. You are not alone.You are not failing.And you are not here to disappear.So press play, and let this episode take care of you for once.For more resources, click here for the podcast episode page. If you liked the episode, you'll love the full episodes with each of the doctors interviewed today:Dr. Aditi Nerurkar: If You Struggle With Stress & Anxiety, This Will Change Your LifeDr. Pooja Lakshmin: Focus on Yourself: 3 Signs You're Giving Too Much & What to Do About It Right NowDr. Rangan Chatterjee: Change Your Body & Your Life in 1 Month: 4 Small Habits That Actually WorkConnect with Mel:  Get Mel's #1 bestselling book, The Let Them TheoryWatch the episodes on YouTubeFollow Mel on Instagram The Mel Robbins Podcast InstagramMel's TikTok Sign up for Mel's personal letter Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ to listen to new episodes ad-freeDisclaimer

“One of the metaphors that I use is imagining guilt is a faulty check engine light on your car dashboard.  Your car has just been serviced, the oil is changed, everything's fine, but the stupid light just keeps going off. It doesn't actually give you any meaningful information, so you can ignore it. You can just say it's broken. Guilt is not a moral compass.”Pooja Lakshmin MD is a clinical psychiatrist in Austin, Texas, specializing in women's health. She's also an assistant professor of psychiatry. During our discussion, we talked about how she differentiates between faux self-care and real self-care, including the obstacles women face internally and externally, and to overcome them. We also discuss how real self-care can help women live lives that are more authentic and more audacious. And Pooja shares her insights about how self-care can help women find their spark and protect it throughout their lives.To read more about inspiring stories about Firestarters like Pooja, grab a copy of my book Fired Up: How to Turn Your Spark Into a Flame and Come Alive at Any Age at firedupbook.com.Join me on my book tour! Get more information and tickets at firedupbook.comFor women ready to stop living on autopilot and playing it small, Fired Up will show you how to shatter your self imposed limitations and unleash your potential so you can finally start living the life you've always wanted. Click to order. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit shannonwatts.substack.com/subscribe

REAL Self-Care: Burnout Is Not Your Fault & the Way Out with Dr. Pooja Lakshmin Psychiatrist Dr. Pooja Lakshmin shows us how to tell the difference between the Faux Self-Care we've been sold versus the Real Self-Care we desperately need. Discover:  How to incorporate boundaries through the power of the pause and how to navigate the post-boundary ick with ease; A simple tool to know whether you are being driven by your goals or driven by your values (and how to find and start living by your values today); and Whether you might be in ‘martyr mode,' and the key to getting out of it.  About Pooja: ⁠Dr. Pooja Lakshmin⁠ is a board-certified psychiatrist, author, keynote speaker, and a contributor to The New York Times. Her debut book, ⁠REAL SELF-CARE: Crystals, Cleanses, and Bubble-Baths Not Included⁠, is an NPR Best Book of 2023 and a national best-seller. Pooja serves as a clinical assistant professor of psychiatry at George Washington University School of Medicine, and maintains an active private practice where she treats women struggling with burnout, perfectionism, and disillusionment, as well as clinical conditions like depression, anxiety and ADHD. She frequently speaks, advises and consults for organizations on mental health and well-being. Pooja writes the weekly Substack newsletter, ⁠Real Self-Care⁠.  IG: ⁠@poojalakshmin To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

A study released this month examined the state of mothers' mental health in the U.S. from 2016 to 2023. Using data from 200,000 mothers, the study reveals a "significant decline" in emotional and physical well-being for mothers in all age groups and demographics. Margaret and Amy break down the data, the implications, and the causes—which certainly include the pandemic, although there are many other social, economic, and cultural forces contributing to the stress of modern motherhood. Amy and Margaret discuss: What a major national study reveals about maternal mental health trends Why the decline in mental health extends far beyond the postpartum period The role of pandemic-related stress, financial pressures, and lack of support How parents can prioritize their own well-being—even in small, actionable ways Why maternal mental health impacts the whole family system Mothers' mental health is showing up as a true crisis, and not just in the postpartum months, but throughout the parenting journey. The clear connection between children's mental health and that of their caregivers makes maternal well-being an imperative public health priority. Here are links to some of the resources mentioned in the episode: Catherine Pearson for the New York Times: Study Finds a Steep Drop in Mothers' Mental Health Daw JR, MacCallum-Bridges CL, Admon LK: Trends and Disparities in Maternal Self-Reported Mental and Physical Health. JAMA Intern Med.  Sara Moniuszko for CBS News: Moms in the U.S. report large decline in mental health in recent years, study finds Elizabeth Tenety for Motherly: Just 1 in 4 moms say they're doing well mentally—new study reveals a growing crisis Reddit/Health: Moms in the U.S. report large decline in mental health in recent years, study finds Pooja Lakshmin MD on Substack: Mental health is personal — and political Our Fresh Take with Pooja Lakshmin on Burnout and Mom Guilt We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: ⁠⁠https://www.whatfreshhellpodcast.com/p/promo-codes/⁠⁠ mom friends, funny moms, parenting advice, parenting experts, parenting tips, mothers, families, parenting skills, parenting strategies, parenting styles, busy moms, self-help for moms, manage kid's behavior, teenager, tween, child development, family activities, family fun, parent child relationship, decluttering, kid-friendly, invisible workload, default parent, household equity, household equality, gender household equality, gender household equity, anxiety, maternal mental health, postpartum health, PPD, PPA, PPOCD Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The TikTok-ification of Self-Care (And How to Fix It) with Dr. Pooja LakshminIn this episode of The WorkWell Podcast™, Jen Fisher speaks with Dr. Pooja Lakshmin, psychiatrist, mental health advocate, and author of "Real Self Care." Together they unpack the commercialization of wellness and explore why so many women feel caught between achieving everything and finding time for authentic self-care. They navigate the complexities of caregiving, adult friendships, and finding hope in challenging times.Episode Highlights:The four principles of real self-care: boundaries, compassion, values, and powerWhy the "pause" is the true boundary - not simply saying noThe invisible burden of elder caregiving and why it's so difficult to discuss at workHow to maintain meaningful adult friendships when life gets overwhelmingUnderstanding hope as an active practice rather than wishful thinkingThe importance of finding small moments of joy and connection in daily lifeQuotable Moment:"Real self-care is an internal process. Boundaries, compassion, values, and power - those four internal principles, that's the work of real self-care. And then once you've done that, then you go to yoga, then you do your meditation. But if you're not using those internal principles and not doing that internal work first, then the external tools will be empty." - Dr. Pooja LakshminLyra Lens:In this edition, Dr. Kendall Browne, Clinical Psychologist and Director at Lyra Health, unpacks the concept of "the pause" that Dr. Lakshmin identified as crucial for boundary-setting. She explains that while pausing seems simple, implementing it proves challenging—especially for women who feel pressure to respond instantly. Dr. Browne offers practical strategies for habitualizing this pause and distinguishes between different boundary types: porous (saying yes too often), inflexible (saying no reflexively), and purposefully permeable (thoughtful decisions about when to engage).Resources:This episode of The WorkWell Podcast™ is made possible by Lyra Health, a premier global workforce mental health solution. Learn more at Lyrahealth.com/workwell.

The TikTok-ification of Self-Care (And How to Fix It) with Dr. Pooja LakshminIn this episode of The WorkWell Podcast™, Jen Fisher speaks with Dr. Pooja Lakshmin, psychiatrist, mental health advocate, and author of "Real Self Care." Together they unpack the commercialization of wellness and explore why so many women feel caught between achieving everything and finding time for authentic self-care. They navigate the complexities of caregiving, adult friendships, and finding hope in challenging times.Episode Highlights:The four principles of real self-care: boundaries, compassion, values, and powerWhy the "pause" is the true boundary - not simply saying noThe invisible burden of elder caregiving and why it's so difficult to discuss at workHow to maintain meaningful adult friendships when life gets overwhelmingUnderstanding hope as an active practice rather than wishful thinkingThe importance of finding small moments of joy and connection in daily lifeQuotable Moment:"Real self-care is an internal process. Boundaries, compassion, values, and power - those four internal principles, that's the work of real self-care. And then once you've done that, then you go to yoga, then you do your meditation. But if you're not using those internal principles and not doing that internal work first, then the external tools will be empty." - Dr. Pooja LakshminLyra Lens:In this edition, Dr. Kendall Browne, Clinical Psychologist and Director at Lyra Health, unpacks the concept of "the pause" that Dr. Lakshmin identified as crucial for boundary-setting. She explains that while pausing seems simple, implementing it proves challenging—especially for women who feel pressure to respond instantly. Dr. Browne offers practical strategies for habitualizing this pause and distinguishes between different boundary types: porous (saying yes too often), inflexible (saying no reflexively), and purposefully permeable (thoughtful decisions about when to engage).Resources:This episode of The WorkWell Podcast™ is made possible by Lyra Health, a premier global workforce mental health solution. Learn more at Lyrahealth.com/workwell.

In this episode of Making Good Book Club, Charelle and I dive into Real Self-Care by Dr. Pooja Lakshmin. We explore the difference between faux and real self-care, why setting boundaries is hard but necessary, and how true self-care is about reclaiming your time and energy.MAKING GOOD SHOW NOTES:https://makinggoodpodcast.com/289CONNECT WITH ME ON INSTAGRAM:https://instagram.com/laurentildenGET 100 MARKETING PROMPTS (free!):https://makinggoodpodcast.com/100prompts

For many people, when we start thinking about a family, we assume it'll just happen nine months from the moment we start trying. But that isn't the way it happens for all of us. And fertility can often be a journey that's more winding and more complicated and more confusing than we expected it to be. That's why ParentData has launched a new content vertical, Trying to Conceive (TTC), covering everything from ovulation windows to donor eggs to infertility treatments, along with a newsletter all about infertility treatment in particular, which aims to answer all of your questions with data. It's our mission to provide real evidence-based information so you can make the best decisions for your family.Today on ParentData, we're airing the audio from an event Emily did with three of the people who have contributed most to our new initiative: Dr. Breonna Slocum, a reproductive endocrinologist and fertility specialist, Marea Goodman, a licensed midwife and author, and Dr. Pooja Lakshmin, a perinatal psychiatrist. This roundtable of experts discuss about where to start with fertility, answer audience questions in real time, and consider what they all wish that they knew before starting the journey of trying to conceive.Explore to Trying to Conceive on ParentData.org, where you can also access new articles every week on data-driven pregnancy and parenting.This episode is generously supported by: Hatch LMNT StrollerCoaster Podcast

“Quyển sách này được viết cho những phụ nữ đang tự hỏi có phải mình đã làm sai mọi thứ, mình đã đủ tốt hay chưa, và mình có đang đòi hỏi quá nhiều hay không. Tôi đồng cảm với bạn, tôi từng là bạn. Cùng nhau, chúng ta sẽ tạo nên một con đường tốt đẹp hơn cho chính mình và thế hệ tiếp theo”.Bằng trải nghiệm sâu sắc của bản thân và với kiến thức, tâm huyết của một bác sĩ tâm thần, tác giả Pooja Lakshmin đã chia sẻ với người đọc như vậy trong quyển sách “Chăm sóc bản thân thật sự” của mình.Support the show

Send us a textSo many of us lead overly busy lives and often find ourselves consumed with caring for others, including our children. Self-care is often the last thing on our priority list. Perhaps the whole concept of self-care feels frivolous or trendy. In today's episode of In the Den, Sara sits down with Reverend Florence Caplow, a Zen priest and teacher, to discuss the reality of self-care and some very practical suggestions for prioritizing personal well-being so that we're better equipped to care for ourselves and those around us. Special Guest: Rev. Florence Caplow Rev. Florence Caplow is a queer UU minister and an ordained Soto Zen priest and teacher, as well as a climate change and social justice activist, writer, and change coach. She regularly leads classes at Zen Centers around the country, and she offers one-on-one coaching for big life changes/transitions. To learn more about her you can visit her website, www.cloudway.live.Links From the Show: The Greater Good Science Center https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/ Rest Is Resistance Tricia Hersey: https://www.hachettebookgroup.com/titles/tricia-hersey/rest-is-resistance/9780316365536/ The Nap Ministry Rest Deck: https://rep.club/products/nap-ministry-rest-deck?srsltid=AfmBOooY7EHhGScb4MXTpWDzEnCUr0CzyqMPb-QjbzOc6VR4q2kZ-DW4 The Contemplative Pastor: https://www.eerdmans.com/9781467418874/the-contemplative-pastor/ Rev. Caplow's website: www.cloudway.live Rev. Caplow offers coaching here: https://www.cloudway.live/change-coaching Real Self-Care by Pooja Lakshmin: https://www.poojalakshmin.com/realselfcare Join Mama Dragons today: www.mamadragons.org In the Den is made possible by generous donors like you. Help us continue to deliver quality content by becoming a donor today at www.mamadragons.org. Connect with Mama Dragons:WebsiteInstagramFacebookDonate to this podcast

In this episode, Pooja Lakshmin shares her expertise on the power of self-care. As a mental health practitioner, Pooja knows where many of us tend to fall flat and steer ourselves toward burnout. Here, she'll share tips for how to set meaningful boundaries at work, how to recognize what priorities really matter, and how to […] The post How To Practice Real Self-Care appeared first on The Conferences for Women.

In this episode, Pooja Lakshmin shares her expertise on the power of self-care. As a mental health practitioner, Pooja knows where many of us tend to fall flat and steer ourselves toward burnout. Here, she'll share tips for how to set meaningful boundaries at work, how to recognize what priorities really matter, and how to […]

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When was the last time you said "no" without feeling guilty? Or set a boundary and actually stuck to it? If you can't remember, today's episode is the wake-up call you need. Boundaries can protect your time, energy, and mental space, and yet for so many of us, boundaries are hard to make and almost impossible to keep.Renowned psychiatrist Dr. Pooja Lakshmin is sharing the 3 surprising signs that you lack boundaries and how to take control to reclaim your life. By the end of this conversation, you're not only going to know how to set them, you're going to realize that any single time you feel overwhelmed or overextended, you need to take her 3 simple yet powerful steps to taking your power back.If you liked this episode and want to learn exactly what to do to live a more peaceful and fulfilled life, listen to this episode next: 5 Things Only Fake Friends Do & How to Let Go of What No Longer Serves YouFor more resources, click here for the podcast episode page. Connect with Mel: Get Mel's new free 26-page workbook, What Do You Really Want, to finally answer that question and redefine your future. Watch the episodes on YouTubeFollow Mel on Instagram The Mel Robbins Podcast InstagramMel's TikTok Sign up for Mel's personal letter Disclaimer

Episode 201: Burnout with Morgan PotterHave you ever experienced burnout? Burnout is a deeper form of exhaustion caused by constantly feeling “swamped”, and it's not a badge of honor. Today my guest Morgan Potter and I dug into what it is, what it isn't, and how to set yourself up to not have it. Morgan shares her experience of it and what she is doing to change that. Get ready to be inspired because we get to live fully the best versions of ourselves, it's time!Highlights from this episode:(6:26) Finding harmony in life(9:58) Redefining success and work-life harmony(16:13) Burnout culture and the importance of self-care(30:37) Prioritizing life's "burners" for harmony and joy(39:37) Trusting intuition and lowering burnout(49:44) Living authentically and courageouslyReferenced on this Episode:Episode 197: Harnessing Your Energy with Morgan PotterReal Self Care by Pooja Lakshmin, MDEssentialism BookEffortless BookMorgan's Etsy ShopMy YouTube ChannelLeave Coach Kelly a Message HereLIFT(her) 6 Month Group Coaching Program for WomenImagine if you had the tools you require to create the transformation you desire personally and professionally. Imagine if you woke up each day feeling energized instead of overwhelmed. Imagine if you woke up each day knowing, in your gut, that you are enough.We open the doors again in September and BEGIN in October:Get on the waitlist to be the first to hear about Early Bird Pricing The 'Take the Lead Workshops' will help you stay unstuck & create the results & success you want. I've learned a few things along the way & created these workshops in order to help you move past being up against it & have focused action on what's important to you. Our next series starts in September 10th.SIGN UP HERE!Connect with Coach Kelly and for more resources please visit:

Episode 200: Completion Release EnergyEver feel behind, incomplete, that comes with a helping of heavy energy? Well look no further than today's topic about completion. We dive into what completion is, what it creates, and I share a personal story about the absolute difference it makes. Ready to be complete? Let's jump in!Do you want to master ENERGY? Are you curious about what can help shift in a great way in your life? Join me for our third quarter “Take the Lead in Your Life” Workshop series where we take a really deep dive into energy. Sign up here. We start 9/10! Highlights from this episode:(05:11) Completion and its physical and emotional releases(10:39) Releasing energy to make space for new things. (15:42) Persistence and discipline(25:25) My Fibromyalgia diagnosis, trauma, and healing.(31:12) Improve your well beingReferenced on this Episode:Real Self Care by Pooja Lakshmin, MDEpisode 196 Myth Busting – Energy Matters!Episode 197: Harnessing Your Energy with Morgan PotterEpisode 198: I Have ToEpisode 199: Choose Your ExperienceLeave Coach Kelly a Message HereLIFT(her) 6 Month Group Coaching Program for WomenImagine if you had the tools you require to create the transformation you desire personally and professionally. Imagine if you woke up each day feeling energized instead of overwhelmed. Imagine if you woke up each day knowing, in your gut, that you are enough.(Congratulations to Cohort 3 who just launched! Doors will open again in September!Get on the waitlist to be the first to hear about Early Bird Pricing )The 'Take the Lead Workshops' will help you stay unstuck & create the results & success you want. I've learned a few things along the way & created these workshops in order to help you move past being up against it & have focused action on what's important to you. Our next series starts in June!Get on the Workshop Waitlist to stay updated throughout the year.Connect with Coach Kelly and for more resources please visit: www.kellyjmobeck.com Let's Get Social, follow Coach Kelly:@KellyMobeck on LinkedIn@KellyMobeck on InstagramIf you enjoyed this episode please share it with a friend, and it would mean so much if you could take a quick moment to

June 24th marks the two-year anniversary of The Supreme Court's decision to overturn Roe v. Wade. Because Reimagining Love is a show devoted to relationships and helping people cultivate relationships founded in empowerment and care, Dr. Alexandra wanted to shine a light on the pervasive and pernicious impacts of the Supreme Court's decision on individuals, couples, and families in the United States. In fact, abortion has become virtually unavailable or significantly restricted in 21 states leaving pregnant people and their loved ones across the country facing the fears and roadblocks in their attempts to access reproductive healthcare. In this episode Dr. Alexandra facilitates a roundtable discussion with two strong voices in the field who help us better understand the mental health and the relational health effects of living in Post-Roe America– and how restriction of access to abortion exacerbates economic and racial inequality. Shefali Luthra is a health policy journalist who recently released her first book, Undue Burden: Life and Death Decisions in Post-Roe America, and Dr. Pooja Lakshmin is a perinatal psychiatrist and the author of Real Self Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness.Shefali and Dr. Pooja's powerful insights will resonate with listeners who have experienced these impacts firsthand as well as those watching the landscape unfold from afar.Relevant Links:Read Undue Burden: Life and Death Decisions in Post-Roe America by Shefali LuthraRead Real Self-Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness (Crystals,  Cleanses, and Bubble Baths Not Included) by Dr. Pooja LakshminThe UCSF Turnaway StudyTwo years after Roe's overturn, there are more abortions in America — but they're harder to get by Shefali Luthra on the 19th Connect with Shefali on X or through emailLearn more about Dr. Pooja's work, subscribe to her newsletter, and connect with her on InstagramOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Join Dr. Alexandra's five-day retreat with the Modern Elder Academy — Get 10% off with code 'GF10'Try Kion Aminos risk-free for 60-days with a money-back guarantee. Get 20% off https://www.getkion.com/OSLP - discount code is OSLP.

Dr. Pooja Lakshmin MD is a board-certified psychiatrist, author, keynote speaker, and a contributor to The New York Times. Her debut book, REAL SELF-CARE: Crystals, Cleanses, and Bubble-Baths Not Included, is an NPR Best Book of 2023 and a national best-seller. Real Self-Care has been featured by Good Morning America, NPR's Code Switch, The New York Times, The Ezra Klein Show, The Guardian, and translated into 10 languages. She lives in Austin with her partner Justin, their toddler, and their two cats, Kitty and Fifi. Topics Covered: • Growing up spending summers in India and navigating life as a "Good Indian Girl" • Becoming disillusioned with medicine and psychiatry and that journey that led her on• Her move to Austin since 2020 and how that experience has been • The growing interest in self-care and what the difference is between self-care and faux self-care• The nuances of holistic or integrative medicine and the barriers communities of people face in mainstream medicine • The differences between tools and principles in real self-care and how they can work together to help you make big decisions in life• How to apply real self-care to Asian American guilt • Disrupting intergenerational trauma • How to identify which boundaries are yours vs boundaries that may have been passed down by your culture or familyMaterials Referenced: REAL SELF-CARE: Crystals, Cleanses, and Bubble-Baths Not Included by Dr. Pooja Lakshmin MDDr. Pooja Lakshmin InstagramGood Morning America SegmentNPR's Code Switch: Real self-care takes real systemic change

In 1978, psychologists Pauline Rose Clance and Suzanne Imes published the first study on imposter syndrome—originally termed “imposter phenomenon”—about high-achieving women feeling like frauds at work… and it struck a major nerve. The study kicked off decades of frenzied discourse, programs, and merch aimed at curing women of this irrational feminine disease. Among the proposed treatments included professional development conferences, self-help books like The Imposter Cure, and power poses. Use of the term imposter syndrome has only increased, but I have questions. Like… why are these conversations so gendered? Does anyone NOT experience imposter syndrome? What if you don't even feel qualified to have imposter syndrome? Is it really a diagnosable “syndrome” in the first place? And either way, how can we stop feeling this way?? Psychiatrist and author of “Real Self Care” Dr. Pooja Lakshmin (@poojalakshmin) joins host Amanda (@amanda_montell) for this week's brain-soothing discussion. - Come get tickets to see Amanda on book tour in Chicago and Minneapolis!! amandamontell.com/events  - Join the "Magical Overthinkers Club" by following the pod on Instagram @magicaloverthinkers. - To access early, ad-free episodes and more, subscribe to the Magical Overthinkers Substack. - Pick up a hard copy of Amanda's book The Age of Magical Overthinking: Notes on Modern Irrationality, or listen to the audiobook. - Sources:  Stop Telling Women They Have Imposter Syndrome Prevalence, Predictors, and Treatment of Impostor Syndrome: a Systematic Review All Imposters Aren't Alike ‘Being delulu,' or delusional is the new Gen Z trend for hacking career success A Cultural Impostor? Native American Experiences of Impostor Phenomenon in STEM Follow Amanda: @amanda_montell Follow the show: @magicaloverthinkers To watch the podcast on YouTube: https://bit.ly/MagicalOverthinkersYouTube  Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast for free wherever you're listening, or by using this link: https://bit.ly/MagicalOverthinkers  If you like the show, telling a friend about it would be amazing! You can text, DM, email, or send this link to a friend: https://bit.ly/MagicalOverthinkers  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This month, we're doing a deep dive series into mom guilt—why it's so pervasive and what we can do about it. You can find the playlist with all of the episodes in the series here. Dr. Pooja Lakshmin, MD is a psychiatrist and author specializing in women's mental health. She is a frequent contributor to The New York Times and the founder of Gemma, the first digital education platform dedicated exclusively to women's mental health. Dr. Lakshmin is most passionate about empowering women and sees her clinical work as a perinatal psychiatrist as an extension of this mission. In this episode we discuss mom guilt, stress, self-care, the anxiety of this ongoing pandemic moment, and how we can reclaim ourselves amidst it all.  You can find Pooja on Instagram @poojalakshmin and at her website: poojalakshmin.com We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: https://www.whatfreshhellpodcast.com/p/promo-codes/ mom friends, funny moms, parenting advice, parenting experts, parenting tips, mothers, families, parenting skills, parenting strategies, parenting styles, busy moms, self-help for moms, manage kid's behavior, teenager, tween, child development, family activities, family fun, parent child relationship, decluttering, kid-friendly, invisible workload, default parent, Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever put on a face mask, expecting it to solve all your mental health problems?  That seems…unrealistic, but it's what self-care marketing tells us: get your self-care right, and all your difficulties will evaporate. This week on It's OK, Dr. Pooja Lakshmin, author of Real Self-Care, breaks down what “self-care” actually means when we're living in a complex, capitalistic world. It's an exploration of grief, burnout, and exhaustion, and what it takes to care for yourself inside systems that repeatedly ignore their part in your suffering.    In this episode we cover:  Why self-care doesn't work How hope is different than optimism Does looking for your own answers mean you have to do things alone? Accepting help as a bid for connection How Dr. Lakshmin's definition of boundaries can help you practice real self-care   We're re-releasing some of our favorite episodes from the first 3 seasons. This episode was originally recorded in 2023.   Looking for a creative exploration of grief? Check out the best selling Writing Your Grief course here.   Follow the show on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok @refugeingrief   Related episodes: Rage Becomes Her (and by “her” I mean US) with Soraya Chemaly   Living with Chronic Illness: A Conversation for Everyone with a Body with Sarah Ramey. About our guest: Dr. Pooja Lakshmin MD is a psychiatrist, a clinical assistant professor at George Washington University School of Medicine, and the founder and CEO of Gemma, the women's mental health community centering impact and equity. She has spent thousands of hours taking care of women struggling with burnout, despair, depression, and anxiety in her clinical practice. Her debut non-fiction book, Real Self-Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness (Crystals, Cleanses, and Bubble Baths Not Included), is available in e-book, hardcover, and audiobook narrated by Pooja.   About Megan:  Psychotherapist Megan Devine is one of today's leading experts on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. Get the best-selling book on grief in over a decade, It's Ok that You're Not OK, wherever you get books. Find Megan @refugeingrief   Additional Resources: Read “Hope is Not a Thing to Have – It's a Skill to Practice” at Oprah Daily   Read “How Society Has Turned Its Back on Mothers” at The New York Times   Read “Saying ‘No' Is Self-Care for Parents” at The New York Times   Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A grief clinics: your questions, answered. Want to speak to her privately? Apply for a 1:1 grief consultation here.    Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed Books and resources may contain affiliate links.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you feel stuck wondering if you will ever heal from betrayal trauma? In this powerful episode Amie and Alana share their own experiences grappling with that exact question. They provide wisdom and practical tools for aiding your healing process whether you are just starting out or are further along the path. You can and will heal - as you keep taking those crucial next steps. Listen to learn: How proper self-care can promote recovery The importance of somatic/body-based healing work How self-judgment and denial can hinder progress Referenced in this episode: REAL Self-Care: Burnout Is Not Your Fault & the Way Out with Dr. Pooja Lakshmin - episode on the We Can Do Hard Things Podcast What Does “Get In Your Body” Mean?” - past episode about somatic healing Two groups hosted by Morgan Ellsworth - Adult Children Uniting for Healing and Resilient Teens. These groups are for adult children and teens, respectively, to gain support as they navigate healing from parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage. Morgan has been there and is passionate about guiding others along their path to healing. Should I Stay or Go? - Amie's self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.  Wanting another podcast to listen to?  Subscribe to Luke Gordon's new podcast Beyond the Facade. Each week Luke will delve into topics such as authenticity, vulnerability, and integrity. Learn how to unmask your authentic self to deepen connections to yourself and others. Register Now! In-person Intensive: ⁠Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive for men led by Alana and Luke Gordon. This program is designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on May 16-18, 2024 and also July 17-19, 2024. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠. ⁠⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. New group beginning soon! More from Choose Recovery Services Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free! Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Healing Hearts - This group is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.  Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie. Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community. Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery. Choosing to Stay Webinar - Free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.  Connect with us on Social Media: Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee Choose Recovery Services

"Self-care" is exhausting. Go ahead and mash that Pause button. Dr. Pooja Lakshmin, author of Real Self-Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness, joins Biz to talk about the mental cost of saying no, the seduction of the wellness industry, and wine and cheese in Rome.Get your copy of Real Self-Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness (Crystals, Cleanses, and Bubble Baths Not Included) wherever books are sold. Learn more about Dr. Pooja Lakshmin and her work by visiting her website, www.PoojaLakshmin.com.Go to MaximumFun.org/join to support One Bad Mother in its final year! This week, we were sponsored by StoryWorth. Go to www.StoryWorth.com/BADMOTHER to save $10 off your first purchase.Share a personal or commercial message on the show! Details at MaximumFun.org/Jumbotron.Visit our Linktree for our website, merch, and more! https://linktr.ee/onebadmotherYou can suggest a topic or a guest for an upcoming show by sending an email to onebadmother@maximumfun.org.Show MusicSummon the Rawk, Kevin MacLeod (www.incompetech.com)Ones and Zeros, Awesome, Beehive SessionsMom Song, Adira Amram, Hot Jams For TeensTelephone, Awesome, Beehive SessionsMama Blues, Cornbread Ted and the ButterbeansMental Health Resources:Therapy for Black Girls – Therapyforblackgirls.comDr. Jessica Clemmens – https://www.askdrjess.comBLH Foundation – borislhensonfoundation.orgThe Postpartum Support International Warmline – 1-800-944-4773 (1-800-944-4PPD)The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) Helpline – 1-800-662-4357 (1-800-662-HELP)Suicide Prevention Hotline: Call or chat. They are here to help anyone in crisis. Dial 988 for https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org and there is a chat option on the website.Crisis Text Line: Text from anywhere in the USA (also Canada and the UK) to text with a trained counselor. A real human being.USA text 741741Canada text 686868UK text 85258Website: https://www.crisistextline.orgNational Sexual Assault: Call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area.https://www.rainn.orgNational Domestic Violence Hotline:https://www.thehotline.org/help/Our advocates are available 24/7 at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) in more than 200 languages. All calls are free and confidential.They suggest that if you are a victim and cannot seek help, ask a friend or family member to call for you.Teletherapy Search: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/online-counseling

297. REAL Self-Care: Burnout Is Not Your Fault & the Way Out with Dr. Pooja Lakshmin Psychiatrist Dr. Pooja Lakshmin shows us how to tell the difference between the Faux Self-Care we've been sold versus the Real Self-Care we desperately need. Discover:  How to incorporate boundaries through the power of the pause and how to navigate the post-boundary ick with ease; A simple tool to know whether you are being driven by your goals or driven by your values (and how to find and start living by your values today); and Whether you might be in ‘martyr mode,' and the key to getting out of it.  About Pooja: Dr. Pooja Lakshmin is a board-certified psychiatrist, author, keynote speaker, and a contributor to The New York Times. Her debut book, REAL SELF-CARE: Crystals, Cleanses, and Bubble-Baths Not Included, is an NPR Best Book of 2023 and a national best-seller. Pooja serves as a clinical assistant professor of psychiatry at George Washington University School of Medicine, and maintains an active private practice where she treats women struggling with burnout, perfectionism, and disillusionment, as well as clinical conditions like depression, anxiety and ADHD. She frequently speaks, advises and consults for organizations on mental health and well-being. Pooja writes the weekly Substack newsletter, Real Self-Care.  IG: @poojalakshmin To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This is a repeat of an earlier episode. Self-care is everywhere but what is it really? Real self-care is not a bubble bath or a massage or a yoga class. Real self-care is an inside job. Dr. Pooja Lakshmin, author of Real Self-Care, joins Dr. Becky to talk about how women and parents can discover what caring for yourself really looks like. Join Good Inside Membership: https://bit.ly/3UgYcp9Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinsideSign up for our weekly email, Good Insider: https://www.goodinside.com/newsletterOrder Dr. Becky's book, Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be, at goodinside.com/book or wherever you order your books.For a full transcript of the episode, go to goodinside.com/podcastTo listen to Dr. Becky's TED Talk on repair visit https://www.ted.com/talks/becky_kennedy_the_single_most_important_parenting_strategyOrder Dr. Lakshmin's book Real Self-Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness (Crystals, Cleanses, and Bubble Baths Not Included) at https://www.poojalakshmin.com/realselfcare or wherever you order your books.Today's episode is brought to you by Garanimals: Garanimals is the original mix-and-match clothing brand for babies and toddlers in sizes newborn to 5T. Each Kid Pack contains carefully curated tops and bottoms that easily mix and match. Pick any top and any bottom, and voila! Instant outfit. And with up to a month's worth of outfits in just one box, Garanimals's Kid Packs take care of a whole lot of outfit planning. You can find all their fun mix-and-match styles from their new spring collection in Walmart stores and on Walmart.com.

Dr. Pooja Lakshmin, a psychiatrist, shares her journey of discovering the true essence of self-care. Drawing from her experiences with patients feeling overwhelmed by the wellness industry's commodified approach, she unravels the concept of “faux self-care.” Pooja articulates the four principles of real self-care and the ever-changing nature of this internal process. In this episode, you will be able to: Define and discover the transformative power of real self-care Learn to set healthy boundaries for genuine self-care Overcome the societal challenges to prioritize your self-care Explore the intersection of self-care and activism for personal and social change Embrace the importance of values in nurturing authentic self-care practices To learn more, click here!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We're off this holiday week, but we thought it would be fun to share a rerun of our most anticipated books of 2023, which originally aired on December 27, 2022. This week, Liberty and Patricia discuss Big Swiss, Chain-Gang All-Stars, Real Self-Care, and more books they're excited to read in 2023! Give the gift of Tailored Book Recommendations! And follow All the Books! using RSS, Apple Podcasts, or Spotify and never miss a book. And sign up for the weekly New Books! newsletter for even more new book news. This content contains affiliate links. When you buy through these links, we may earn an affiliate commission. BOOKS DISCUSSED ON THE SHOW: Everybody Knows by Jordan Harper The Body Liberation Project: How Understanding Racism and Diet Culture Helps Cultivate Joy and Build Collective Freedom by Chrissy King Big Swiss by Jen Beagin Real Self-Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness (Crystals, Cleanses, and Bubble Baths Not Included) by Dr. Pooja Lakshmin, MD I Have Some Questions for You by Rebecca Makkai The Terraformers by Annalee Newitz Chain-Gang All-Stars by Nana Kwame Adjei-Brenyah “You Just Need to Lose Weight” and 19 Other Myths About Fat People by Aubrey Gordon House of Cotton by Monica Brashears Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships by Nedra Glover Tawwab Quietly Hostile: Essays by Samantha Irby Falling Back in Love with Being Human: Letters to Lost Souls by Kai Cheng Thom My Murder by Katie Williams Transitional: In One Way or Another, We All Transition by Munroe Bergdorf The Deep Sky by Yume Kitasei My Dear Henry: A Jekyll & Hyde Remix by Kalynn Bayron For a complete list of books discussed in this episode, visit our website. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"You can't meditate yourself out of a 40-hour work week with no childcare and no paid sick days," says Dr. Pooja Lakshmin. But when you're overworked and overwhelmed, what can you do? On this episode, host B.A. Parker asks: What are your options when a bubble bath won't cut it?

Self-care - it's both a profoundly important concept for our physical and mental well-being - a radical step in a culture that demands ever more of us, and it's a phenomenon that has been trivialized by the wellness world - and any number of influencers and companies that suggest a bubble bath and a candle is enough for what stresses us. But real self care is so much more - it's an inside job, as my guest  Pooja Lakshmin, MD, shares with us. A-psychiatrist, author, and the founder of Gemma Pooja shares her journey from disillusionment in mainstream medicine to a unique commune experience, leading to her mission of redefining self-care in her new book, "Real Self-Care.” In today's episode we discuss:  The turning point that led Pooja to drop out her medical residency training program and nd explore alternative paths. Pooja's surprising decision to join an orgasmic meditation commune in San Francisco, the eventual decision to leave, and the lessons she learned. Her personal mental health struggles, including depression and thoughts of suicide.  The pivotal moment that motivated her to return to residency and pursue her calling. The nuances between genuine self-care and the commodified wellness industry, clarifying that the book does not dismiss common self-care practices but challenges their commodification. The three common reasons people turn to self-care and how these dynamics manifest in her life and the lives of her patients. The principles of real self-care and the importance of internal processes, emphasizing the role of boundaries and their significance in fostering genuine well-being. The intersection of privilege and self-care, especially for mothers juggling multiple responsibilities. The systemic issues causing stress, reframing the conversation from burnout to betrayal and the societal pressures for perfection  The importance of embracing "good enough., balancing excellence with realistic expectations. How positive psychology methods contribute to individual change and reshape the wellness narrative The challenges of balancing motherhood, professional responsibilities, and real self care. Please share the love by sending this to someone in your life who could benefit from the kinds of things we talk about in this space. Make sure to follow me on Instagram @dr.avivaromm to join the conversation. Looking for supplements for yourself and your family, including some of those I talk about in episodes? You can find those - and your 15% discount on every order here: avivaromm.com/supplements Practitioners - you can also learn how to create your own accounts at https://us.fullscript.com/practitioner-signup/AVIVA

We're in Christmas/Hanukkah/Kwanzaa Countdown! To keep you company while you slowly lose your mind, we're re-running some of our favorite holiday episodes. This week we're revisiting "The Most Everything Time of the Year" and how the intensity really ratches up as soon as Thanksgiving is behind us. Are you juggling “dress as your favorite reindeer” day at preschool with frantic texts from your sister-in-law asking what your spouse wants for Christmas? Are you feeling like hiding under the covers instead of hitting the office holiday party?  It's the most everything time of the year, and women report the holidays as being far more stressful than men do.  In this episode we discuss how to manage the holiday stress, how to accept the non-cozy feelings that may arise, and why it's okay to dial back if you're really not feeling the holiday spirit.  Here are links to some of the writing on the topic that we discuss in this episode:  Pooja Lakshmin on Instagram @womensmentalhealthdoc Greenberg Quinlan Rosner Research: Holiday Stress Harvard Medical School: A holiday advisory for your emotions Cedars-Sinai Hospital: Depression and Anxiety Around the Holidays We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: https://www.whatfreshhellpodcast.com/p/promo-codes/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this latest installment of our For The Love of Therapy series, we delve into a timely discussion on mental wellness with a focus on genuine self-care. Our guest, Dr. Pooja Lakshmin, a renowned psychiatrist and advocate for women, offers fresh insights that urge listeners to break free from the superficial beauty and wellness industry's narrative that is steadily being pushed at us through all kinds of media, but in a dizzying fashion on social media, in particular. Steering the talk away from quick-fix solutions, Dr. Lakshmin illuminates the essence of true self-care, which, in her research, links to four major chambers rarely associated with this concept. From the importance of saying 'No' when overwhelmed, to understanding that self-care is more than just a beauty regimen, she reminds us that wellness comes from within. Dr. Lakshmin, an accomplished writer for the New York Times and founder of the Gemma community, also shares insights from her book, 'Real Self-Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness (Crystals, Cleanses, and Bubble Baths Not Included)'. Join us for this enlightening conversation and let's start redefining what wellness truly means.  * * * Thank you to our sponsors! Chime | Visit chime.com/forthelove to learn how you can benefit from using Chime! BetterHelp | Visit betterhelp.com/forthelove to save 10% on your first month! Thought-Provoking Quotes: “We have to talk about the systems, the social structures that have gotten us to this place where the expectation for a woman, a mom to feel better is this very condescending, ‘well just go to a yoga class, just pour your bubble bath and a glass of wine and there… you'll feel better.' I find that to be condescending at best, manipulative at worst.” - Dr. Pooja Lakshmin “Real self-care is an internal process. It brings you closer to yourself. It's a verb. It's not a noun.” - Dr. Pooja Lakshmin “Guilt is just there all the time when it comes to boundaries and when it comes to compassion too; how we talk to ourselves.“ - Dr. Pooja Lakshmin  “Therapy is this cozy little corner where you can be with yourself and be curious.” - Dr. Pooja Lakshmin  Resources Mentioned in This Episode: Real Self-Care: A  Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness (Crystals, Cleanses, and Bubble Baths Not Included) by Dr. Pooja Lakshmin Audre Lorde Bell Hooks Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself - by Melody Beattie For the Love Podcast episode featuring Brené Brown For the Love Premium Bonus Podcast episode featuring Melodie Beatty  Gemma Guest's Links: Dr. Pooja Lakshmin's Website Dr. Pooja Lakshmin's Twitter Dr. Pooja Lakshmin's Instagram Dr. Pooja Lakshmin's Facebook Connect with Jen! Jen's website Jen's InstagramJen's Twitter Jen's FacebookJen's YouTube

It's not that Dr. Pooja Lakshmin has something against scented candles. In fact, she thinks they can be quite pleasant. It's just that purchasing candles or bubble baths or winery tours are not really self-care, they're just consumerism. This is indicated in the title of her book, Real Self Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness (Crystals, Cleanses, and Bubble Baths Not Included). Dr. Lakshmin says a more satisfying and beneficial approach to self-care has four principles: boundaries, compassion, values, and power.Dr. Pooja LakshminThank you to all our listeners who support the show as monthly members of Maximum Fun.Check out our I'm Glad You're Here and Depresh Mode merchandise at the brand new merch website MaxFunStore.com!Hey, remember, you're part of Depresh Mode and we want to hear what you want to hear about. What guests and issues would you like to have covered in a future episode? Write us at depreshmode@maximumfun.org.Help is available right away.The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 988 or 1-800-273-8255, 1-800-273-TALKCrisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741.International suicide hotline numbers available here: https://www.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesThe Depresh Mode newsletter is available twice a week. Subscribe for free and stay up to date on the show and mental health issues. https://johnmoe.substack.com/John's acclaimed memoir, The Hilarious World of Depression, is now available in paperback. https://us.macmillan.com/books/9781250209566/thehilariousworldofdepressionFind the show on Twitter @depreshpod and Instagram @depreshpod.John is on Twitter @johnmoe.

Love it or hate it, self-care has transformed from a radical feminist concept into a multibillion-dollar industry. But the wellness boom doesn't seem to be making a dent in Americans' stress levels. In 2021, 34 percent of women reported feeling burned out at work, along with 26 percent of men.Dr. Pooja Lakshmin, a psychiatrist, has observed how wellness culture fails her patients, who she says are often burned out because of systemic failures, from the stresses that come with financial precariousness to the lack of paid family leave. In her book “Real Self-Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness (Crystals, Cleanses, and Bubble Baths Not Included),” she encourages people to look beyond superficial fixes — the latest juice cleanses, yoga workshops, luxury bamboo sheets — to feel better. Instead, she argues that real self-care requires embracing internal work, which she outlines as four practices: setting boundaries, practicing self-compassion, aligning your values and exercising power. Lakshmin argues that when you practice real self-care, you not only take care of yourself, but you can also plant the seeds for change in your community.In this conversation, the guest host, Tressie McMillan Cottom, and Lakshmin discuss how the pandemic opened up a larger conversation about parental burnout; how countries with more robust social safety nets frame care as a right, not a benefit; why it's fair to understand burnout as a type of societal “betrayal”; how to practice boundary-setting and why it can feel uncomfortable to do so; the convenient allure of “faux self-care”; and more.This episode was hosted by Tressie McMillan Cottom, a columnist for Times Opinion, a professor at the University of North Carolina, Chapel Hill, and the author of “Thick: And Other Essays.” Cottom also writes a newsletter for Times Opinion that offers a sociologist's perspective on culture, politics and the economics of our everyday lives.Mentioned:More information about Ezra's Jefferson Memorial Lecture“We Don't Need Self-Care; We Need Boundaries” by Pooja Lakshmin“How Society Has Turned Its Back on Mothers” by Pooja Lakshmin“Our Obsession With Wellness Is Hurting Teens — and Adults” by The Ezra Klein Show with Lisa Damour“A Legendary World Builder on Multiverses, Revolution and the ‘Souls' of Cities” by The Ezra Klein Show with N.K. JemisinBook Recommendations:Living Resistance by Kaitlin B. CurticeThe Emotional Lives of Teenagers by Lisa DamourThe Fifth Season by N.K. JemisinThoughts? Guest suggestions? Email us at ezrakleinshow@nytimes.com.You can find transcripts (posted midday) and more episodes of “The Ezra Klein Show” at nytimes.com/ezra-klein-podcast, and you can find Ezra on Twitter @ezraklein. Book recommendations from all our guests are listed at https://www.nytimes.com/article/ezra-klein-show-book-recs.This episode of “The Ezra Klein Show” was produced by Kristin Lin. Fact-checking by Michelle Harris. The senior engineer is Jeff Geld. The senior editor is Annie-Rose Strasser. The show's production team includes Emefa Agawu and Rollin Hu. Original music by Isaac Jones. Audience strategy by Kristina Samulewski and Shannon Busta. The executive producer of New York Times Opinion Audio is Annie-Rose Strasser. Special thanks to Sonia Herrero.

Self-care is everywhere but what is it really? Real self-care is not a bubble bath or a massage or a yoga class. Real self-care is an inside job. Dr. Pooja Lakshmin joins Dr. Becky to talk about how women and parents can discover what caring for yourself really looks like. Join Good Inside Membership: bit.ly/3NRXU3hFollow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinsideSign up for our weekly email, Good Insider: https://www.goodinside.com/newsletterOrder Dr. Becky's book, Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be, at goodinside.com/book or wherever you order your books.For a full transcript of the episode, go to goodinside.com/podcastOrder Dr. Lakshmin's book Real Self-Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness (Crystals, Cleanses, and Bubble Baths Not Included) at https://www.poojalakshmin.com/realselfcare or wherever you order your books.Today's episode is brought to you by Future: Future is a personal training app that matches you with a coach who is all about meeting YOUR needs, no matter where you are in your fitness journey. Future takes the work out of working out and the guilt out of missing a day. Right now Good Inside listeners receive 50% off their first month of Future—a $100 value. Sign up today at future.co/goodinside.

"You can't meditate yourself out of a 40-hour work week with no childcare and no paid sick days," says Dr. Pooja Lakshmin. But when you're overworked and overwhelmed, what actually can you do? On this episode, host B.A. Parker asks: What are your options when a bubble bath won't cut it?

We might call massages, face masks, and shopping sprees self-care, but often they're really just illusions of self-care. It looks like we're doing these things to take care of ourselves but we never really address the core issue of what's causing the stress. True self-care gets to the root of the problem and tackles it head on. And when you truly start taking care of yourself, that's when you start seeing big changes in your life. This week I'm joined by Dr. Pooja Lakshmin. We discuss what real self-care is, how to be proactive instead of reactive with your self-care, and how true self-care is a revolutionary movement.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/285