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Margaret and Amy explore the messy truths about jealousy—why moms feel it, how shame adds fuel to the fire, and what we can actually do about it. From parenting pressures to social comparisons, they discuss how jealousy is normal, but how we respond to feelings of envy can make all the difference. Margaret and Amy discuss:
Send us a textEpisode 183 - When It Comes Out of Nowhere: The Emotional Gut PunchWhat do you do when a family conflict hits you out of nowhere and leaves you reeling? In this episode, Tina Gosney shares how to navigate the emotional “gut punch” of sudden family hurt. You'll learn why these moments are so disorienting, how our reactions can intensify suffering, and how to begin responding with clarity, courage, and self-compassion.Tina explains the Buddhist teaching of the Two Arrows and the difference between clean pain and dirty pain—two powerful concepts that will change the way you process emotional pain. This episode is packed with validation, insight, and practical tools for anyone who feels blindsided by family conflict and doesn't know how to move forward.Episode OutlineThe “Gut Punch” of Sudden Family Conflict Tina introduces the metaphor of the emotional gut punch—how it feels, why it's so destabilizing, and why it's common in family relationships.The Two Arrows: Pain vs. Suffering Learn the Buddhist concept of the first and second arrow. Discover how we unintentionally add suffering to our pain by believing fearful or self-critical thoughts.Clean Pain vs. Dirty Pain Explore the difference between honest emotional pain and the reactive patterns that keep us stuck. Learn how to stay present with clean pain instead of spiraling into dirty pain.How to Stay Grounded After the Gut Punch Tina offers practical steps to care for yourself in the moment—naming the pain, noticing the second arrow, letting the emotions move, and finding compassion for yourself.Why These Moments Can Become Turning Points Hear how these painful moments, while difficult, can also be invitations to grow stronger, set new boundaries, and reconnect with your core self.Related Episodes & Additional Resources Download: Heal the Rift – 5 Steps to Reconnect with Your Adult Child – A free resource with simple, powerful steps to begin rebuilding connection CLICK HERE TO DOWNLOAD THE GUIDESet up a Connection Call with Tina: CLICK HERE TO SET UP YOUR FREE CALL Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Connect with us: Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/tinagosneycoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tinagosneycoaching ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.
This talk was given by Gil Fronsdal on 2025.07.09 at the Insight Meditation Center in Redwood City, CA. ******* A machine generated transcript of this talk is available. It has not been edited by a human, so errors will exist. Download Transcript: https://www.audiodharma.org/transcripts/23801/download ******* For more talks like this, visit AudioDharma.org ******* If you have enjoyed this talk, please consider supporting AudioDharma with a donation at https://www.audiodharma.org/donate/. ******* This talk is licensed by a Creative Commons Attribution-Noncommercial-No Derivative Works 4.0 License
This talk was given by Gil Fronsdal on 2025.07.09 at the Insight Meditation Center in Redwood City, CA. ******* A machine generated transcript of this talk is available. It has not been edited by a human, so errors will exist. Download Transcript: https://www.audiodharma.org/transcripts/23801/download ******* For more talks like this, visit AudioDharma.org ******* If you have enjoyed this talk, please consider supporting AudioDharma with a donation at https://www.audiodharma.org/donate/. ******* This talk is licensed by a Creative Commons Attribution-Noncommercial-No Derivative Works 4.0 License
When an adverse outcome occurs or treatment does not go to plan, our patients are often recognised as the only victim in these situations. But are they? In this episode of RiskBites, Senior Dentolegal consultant Dr Annalene Weston explores the concept of the second victim, and its correlation with the Buddhists parable of the second arrow.Annalene goes on to explain how this teaching essentially encompasses everything that a dentolegal consultant strives to impart when assisting members with a complaint or adverse outcome.
If you would like to join live, please visit: SIT CLUB If you would like to donate to Davin as an energetic exchange for these offerings, please do so here: DONATE -- Born out of the pandemic, Sit Club began in September of 2020 and continues every Sunday morning at 10am CT. Typically an hour in length, an intimate group of all ages, genders and races, from all over the world gathers on Zoom to sit in guided meditation, contemplate a reading and then share in conversation. Each gathering is centered around a spiritual theme chosen and guided by Davin. Youngs Buddhism is often the framework through which the readings and practices are approached, but no particular religious or philosophical ideology is subscribed to. There are no requirements, special skills or abilities that are necessary to attend. Just an open heart and a desire to connect with a community of seekers.
Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. In this episode, we explore a powerful Buddhist concept that mirrors Stoic wisdom: the Second Arrow. The first arrow is the pain life throws at us - rejection, loss, failure. The second arrow? That's the one we shoot at ourselves through our reactions, stories, and judgments. Michael Tremblay discusses the Buddhist parable of the second arrow and what it means for practicing Stoics.***Subscribe to The Stoa Letter for weekly meditations, actions, and links to the best Stoic resources: www.stoaletter.com/subscribeDownload the Stoa app (it's a free download): https://stoameditation.com/podIf you try the Stoa app and find it useful, but truly cannot afford it, email us and we'll set you up with a free account.Listen to more episodes and learn more here: https://stoameditation.com/blog/stoa-conversations/Thanks to Michael Levy for graciously letting us use his music in the conversations: https://ancientlyre.com/
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Reading from the Sallatha Sutta, or "The Arrow," from the Pali Canon, Margaret Meloni explores the intricate nature of suffering and how our responses to pain can significantly impact our mental well-being. By reviewing this essential Buddhist text, we unpack the distinction between the uninstructed ordinary person and the well-instructed disciple of the noble ones, revealing how each navigates the experience of pain and pleasure. Margaret reminds us of the concept of the "two arrows" that the Buddha speaks of—where the first arrow represents the initial physical pain we encounter, while the second arrow symbolizes the additional mental anguish we inflict upon ourselves through our reactions. Drawing on relatable examples and insights, she sheds light on how an uninstructed individual might spiral into sorrow and lamentation following an uncomfortable experience, thereby compounding their suffering. In contrast, the well-instructed disciple embraces a more skillful approach, acknowledging pain without layering it with unnecessary grief, confusion, or distraction. Listeners will gain a deeper understanding of how cultivating wisdom and non-attachment allows one to transcend the second arrow of self-inflicted anguish. Whether you're a longtime practitioner or just curious about Buddhist philosophy, this conversation offers valuable lessons on responding to life's inevitable challenges with grace and insight. Join us for a journey toward liberation from suffering, as we aim to embody the teachings of the Buddha in our everyday lives.
The years of pandemic and lockdown are still working powerfully on us from the inside. But we have trouble acknowledging this, much less metabolizing it. This conversation with Christine Runyan, which took place in the dark middle of those years, helps make sense of our present of still-unfolding epidemic distress — as individuals, as communities, as a species. She has cultivated a reverence for the human nervous system. She tells truths about our bodies that western medicine itself is only fitfully learning to see. This quiet conversation is not just revelatory, but healing and calming. It holds startling prescience about some of what we're navigating now. And it offers self-compassion and simple strategies for finding ease within ourselves — and with each other — as we live forward from here.Christine Runyan is a clinical psychologist and professor in the Department of Family Medicine and Community Health at UMass Chan Medical School. She is also a certified mindfulness teacher, and she co-founded and co-leads Tend Health, a clinical consulting practice focused on the mental well-being of medical and health care workers.Find the transcript for this show at onbeing.org.This show originally aired in March 2021.______Sign up for The Pause — a Saturday morning companion newsletter to the On Being podcast season, and our mailing list for news and invitations all year round. Be the first to know as tickets go on sale for the On Being 2025 live national conversation tour.
Episode 94: Let's Work On that MindsetThis episode explores your relationship with yourself, which sets the stage for your relationship with food and eating. I give you my personal story of when I didn't even approach The Land of Good Enough and teach you about the parable of Buddha's Second Arrow which tells us that pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. I explore what mistakes we dieters are making and, more importantly, why we make these mistakes. I give you advice on how to talk to yourself as well as helpful coaching advice that will set you well on your way to changing your self-talk into a positive road to get you to where you want to go. Get all my free guidesTake a look at three great new coursesJoin me on FacebookFollow me on InstagramCheck out PinterestAnd don't forget my book!
Life will shoot us with the first arrow - these are real injuries, setbacks, losses and pain. But the greater cause of our suffering comes form ‘the second arrow' - the fear, anxieties, ruminations, and other internal mechanisations that we dwell upon.In this episode I discuss the concept of the second arrow, as well as how we can use it to eliminate significant amounts of excess (and useless) suffering.Check out my Insight Timer Profile & the book ‘Reflections of the Self'
In today's episode, Gina discusses another key aspect of Claire Weekes' approach to overcoming anxiety: acceptance. In particular, acceptance can be an effective tool by which we can combat and avoid the second fear, an aspect of psychological functioning that can increase anxiety severely. Through accepting our anxiety, we make it much less debilitating. Listen in for more insight into how to use acceptance to your anxiety recovery journey!Please visit our Sponsor Page to find all the links and codes for our awesome sponsors!https://www.theanxietycoachespodcast.com/sponsors/Thank you for supporting The Anxiety Coaches Podcast.Find even more peace and calm with our Supercast premium access membership! https://anxietycoaches.supercast.com/Here's what's included for $5/month:❤ New Ad-Free episodes every Sunday and Wednesday❤ Access to the entire Ad-free back-catalog with over 600 episodes❤ Premium meditations recorded with you in mind❤ And more fun surprises along the way!All this in your favorite podcast app!To learn more go to:https://www.theanxietycoachespodcast.comJoin our Group Coaching Full or Mini Membership Program Learn more about our One-on-One CoachingWhat is anxiety?Quote:In the final count, it takes less effort, even less courage, to go forward with true acceptance than to go forward fighting grimly.-Claire WeekesChapters0:00:24 Introduction: Finding Peace and Calm Amidst Anxiety0:01:12 Overview of Claire Weeks' Four Essential Steps0:02:15 Part 1: The Importance of Acceptance in Anxiety Recovery0:04:04 Dr. Weeks' Emphasis on Acceptance as a Secret Weapon0:05:05 The Power of Knowledge in Confronting Anxiety0:06:33 The Concept of Acceptance as a Shield Against Second Fear0:08:29 Overcoming Difficulties in Acceptance: Wishing to be Unafraid0:09:59 Patience and Progress in the Journey of Acceptance0:11:17 Understanding Second Fear and Second Arrow in Anxiety0:12:49 The Connection Between Claire Weeks' Second Fear and Buddhist Second Arrow0:13:35 Challenging our Natural Instincts to Fight or Flee0:15:08 True Acceptance and Letting Go0:16:06 The Importance of Letting Go and Relaxing0:17:03 Patience and Persistence in the Recovery ProcessSummaryIn this episode of the Anxiety Coaches Podcast, we explore the teachings of Dr. Claire Weeks and her insights on acceptance in overcoming anxiety. Dr. Weeks emphasizes the importance of facing, accepting, floating, and letting time pass as essential steps in the journey towards overcoming anxiety. While some may find Dr. Weeks' approach harsh, her teachings resonate with many clients who have experienced anxiety. In this episode, we focus specifically on the first part of acceptance and will delve deeper into the topic in future episodes.When we refer to anxiety, we are specifically addressing the feeling of being stuck in a cycle where we can't escape feeling anxious, rather than normal stress or chronic stress. Our goal is to break the stress, adrenaline, fear cycle and handle stress in a way that prevents us from staying anxious. Dr. Weeks believed that education about the physiological process of anxiety is crucial in confronting fears and reducing uncertainty. Knowledge acts as a shield against anxiety and empowers individuals to take control of their symptoms. It is important for us to pay attention to the background factors that contribute to anxiety and utilize the tools and practices discussed in this podcast to guard against them.According to Dr. Weeks, one of the secret weapons against anxiety is acceptance, which involves welcoming and acknowledging anxious feelings instead of avoiding or suppressing them. Breaking the cycle of fear weakens anxiety and eventually leads to its end. While accepting anxiety can be challenging, it is an essential step towards recovery. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
In today's episode, Gina discusses another key aspect of Claire Weekes' approach to overcoming anxiety: acceptance. In particular, acceptance can be an effective tool by which we can combat and avoid the second fear, an aspect of psychological functioning that can increase anxiety severely. Through accepting our anxiety, we make it much less debilitating. Listen in for more insight into how to use acceptance to your anxiety recovery journey! Please visit our Sponsor Page to find all the links and codes for our awesome sponsors! https://www.theanxietycoachespodcast.com/sponsors/ Thank you for supporting The Anxiety Coaches Podcast. Find even more peace and calm with our Supercast premium access membership! https://anxietycoaches.supercast.com/ Here's what's included for $5/month: ❤ New Ad-Free episodes every Sunday and Wednesday ❤ Access to the entire Ad-free back-catalog with over 600 episodes ❤ Premium meditations recorded with you in mind ❤ And more fun surprises along the way! All this in your favorite podcast app! To learn more go to: https://www.theanxietycoachespodcast.com Join our Group Coaching Full or Mini Membership Program Learn more about our One-on-One Coaching What is anxiety? Quote: In the final count, it takes less effort, even less courage, to go forward with true acceptance than to go forward fighting grimly. -Claire Weekes Chapters 0:00:24 Introduction: Finding Peace and Calm Amidst Anxiety 0:01:12 Overview of Claire Weeks' Four Essential Steps 0:02:15 Part 1: The Importance of Acceptance in Anxiety Recovery 0:04:04 Dr. Weeks' Emphasis on Acceptance as a Secret Weapon 0:05:05 The Power of Knowledge in Confronting Anxiety 0:06:33 The Concept of Acceptance as a Shield Against Second Fear 0:08:29 Overcoming Difficulties in Acceptance: Wishing to be Unafraid 0:09:59 Patience and Progress in the Journey of Acceptance 0:11:17 Understanding Second Fear and Second Arrow in Anxiety 0:12:49 The Connection Between Claire Weeks' Second Fear and Buddhist Second Arrow 0:13:35 Challenging our Natural Instincts to Fight or Flee 0:15:08 True Acceptance and Letting Go 0:16:06 The Importance of Letting Go and Relaxing 0:17:03 Patience and Persistence in the Recovery Process Summary In this episode of the Anxiety Coaches Podcast, we explore the teachings of Dr. Claire Weeks and her insights on acceptance in overcoming anxiety. Dr. Weeks emphasizes the importance of facing, accepting, floating, and letting time pass as essential steps in the journey towards overcoming anxiety. While some may find Dr. Weeks' approach harsh, her teachings resonate with many clients who have experienced anxiety. In this episode, we focus specifically on the first part of acceptance and will delve deeper into the topic in future episodes. When we refer to anxiety, we are specifically addressing the feeling of being stuck in a cycle where we can't escape feeling anxious, rather than normal stress or chronic stress. Our goal is to break the stress, adrenaline, fear cycle and handle stress in a way that prevents us from staying anxious. Dr. Weeks believed that education about the physiological process of anxiety is crucial in confronting fears and reducing uncertainty. Knowledge acts as a shield against anxiety and empowers individuals to take control of their symptoms. It is important for us to pay attention to the background factors that contribute to anxiety and utilize the tools and practices discussed in this podcast to guard against them. According to Dr. Weeks, one of the secret weapons against anxiety is acceptance, which involves welcoming and acknowledging anxious feelings instead of avoiding or suppressing them. Breaking the cycle of fear weakens anxiety and eventually leads to its end. While accepting anxiety can be challenging, it is an essential step towards recovery. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Apologies for the audio! We'll have it cleaned up next time. In this episode, Andrew begins a series of talks that are centered around the Buddhist Suttas, which are the recorded teachings that were passed down by the Buddha 2600 years ago. He starts it off by talking about the popular teaching of "The Second Arrow". The summary of the lesson here is: pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. Enjoy!
Don't get hit by the SECOND arrow of suffering: the one you fire at yourself: Reverend Jon Turner discusses how we can be hurt by a second, self-imposed round of suffering. [Turner]
Join me on this episode to learn about the parable of the second arrow and what it means for you as an Autism mom. Hear how we unwittingly amplify the original pain life throws our way, what happens when we do so, and three simple steps to help you stop shooting the second arrow. Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/88
In this mini episode of ‘The Write Question,' Lauren speaks with the host and executive editor of ‘Hidden Brain,' Shankar Vedantam, about “Healing 2.0,” a month-long series that considers how we can change our lives—by taking a closer look at the stories we tell ourselves about our lives, the nature of loss, and whether we should try to do away with grief altogether.
In this mini episode of ‘The Write Question,' Lauren speaks with the host and executive editor of ‘Hidden Brain,' Shankar Vedantam, about “Healing 2.0,” a month-long series that considers how we can change our lives—by taking a closer look at the stories we tell ourselves about our lives, the nature of loss, and whether we should try to do away with grief altogether.
Myq Kaplan is a stand-up comedian who's been in the business for 20+ years and has done pretty much everything there is to do including appearances on the Tonight Show, Conan, Letterman, James Corden, Seth Meyers, Comedy Central, Last Comic Standing, and America's Got Talent. He has a half-hour special on Comedy Central, a one-hour standup special on Amazon called “Small, Dork, and Handsome,” and a new Dry Bar special called “Live From The Universe,” as well as two podcasts, “The Faucet” and “Broccoli and Ice Cream.” His debut album, “Vegan Mind Meld,” was one of iTunes' top 10 comedy albums of the year, and his newest album, “A.K.A.,” debuted at #1 and was called “invigoratingly funny” by the NY Times! He is also the author of Heart Brain Art Train – which is a collection of 75+ new pieces with jokes by Myq Kaplan and art by Ramin Nazer. This beautiful glossy hardcover book is filled with the most vibrant colors. We chat about his unique name, views on success and longevity, comparing, love of music and his journey with it, words and the second arrow concept. The video footage of this entire chat is now out as well (one day after release)! So check them out on YouTube under Michael Kahan Check Myq out on: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/myqkaplan Website: https://myqkaplan.com/ Heart Brain Art Train: https://raminnazer.com/products/heart-brain-art-train Substack: https://myqkaplan.substack.com/ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/5H1u3kcNM0d7DJlihbXvBp ------------------------------------------- Follow @Funny in Failure on Instagram and Facebook https://www.instagram.com/funnyinfailure/ https://www.facebook.com/funnyinfailure/ and @Michael_Kahan on Insta & Twitter to keep up to date with the latest info. https://www.instagram.com/michael_kahan/ https://twitter.com/Michael_Kahan
Jim carrey handled this metaphor perfectly in Ace Ventura II
Soothe your soul, find solace, and discover the power of transcending the "second arrow" and how it relates to our reactions in life. Through a powerful tale from Buddha, we learn that while pain is inevitable, suffering is optional.This bonus meditation #5 is an extension of my conversation with Antonia from episodes 30 and 31 and is purposely soft and subtle. Cuddle up in a safe space, as I share a tender meditation and invite you to the wisdom of holding space for practicing lovingkindness, and finding freedom from the complexities of our emotions. Namaste.Explore two magical retreats I am hosting. Experience of a LIFETIME - Sri Lanka Ayurveda Healing Retreat One Day Retreat - Joshua Creek Ontario, CanadaLinda's LinksMeditate With Me On A Call For LoveAbout Linda:Have you ever battled overwhelming anxiety, fear, self-limiting beliefs, soul fatigue or stress? It can leave you feeling so lonely and helpless. We've all been taught how to be courageous when we face physical threats but when it comes to matters of the heart and soul we are often left to learn, "the hard way."As a school teacher for over 30+ years, struggling with these very issues, my doctor suggested anti-anxiety medication but that didn't resonate with me so I sought the healing arts. I expanding my teaching skills and became a yoga, meditation, mindfulness, reiki and sound healer to step into my power and own my impact. A Call for Love will teach you how to find the courage to hold space for your fears and tears. To learn how to love and respect yourself and others more deeply. My mission is to guide you on your journey. I believe we can help transform the world around us by choosing love. If you don't love yourself, how can you love anyone else? Join a call for love. Website - Global Wellness Education LinksThank you for listening!Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode please spread the love by sharing it with others. Subscribe to the podcastPlease subscribe if you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes.Leave us an iTunes reviewRatings and reviews from our listeners are extremely valuable to us and greatly appreciated. They help our podcast rank higher on iTunes, which exposes our show to more awesome listeners like you. If you have a minute, please leave an honest review on iTunes.
In this week's episode, I explain and explore the Buddhist concept of The Second Arrow. Have you ever heard of it? Bad things happen to everyone, but it's how we respond to and meet those things that makes all the difference in the world. Schedule a Blue Skies call with Eva: https://calendly.com/evamiller/blueskies Email Eva here: eva@fracturedtofabulous.com Connect with Eva on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imevamiller/
Welcome to episode 51 of The Way Out Is In: The Zen Art of Living, a podcast series mirroring Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh's deep teachings of Buddhist philosophy: a simple yet profound methodology for dealing with our suffering, and for creating more happiness and joy in our lives.In the spirit of Plum Village and its Zen tradition of public question-and-answer sessions, this is the second time that Zen Buddhist monk Brother Phap Huu and leadership coach and journalist Jo Confino have responded to listeners' questions. We hope that the answers will help show how the teachings can help people who are in distress or are dealing with critical issues – but also simply how to find more joy in our lives. Because we have received so many questions – around 200! – further answers will be given in a second part, to be released next week. The presenters are joined by frequent podcast guest Sister True Dedication (Sister Hien Nghiem). Topics which they address cover a wide range, from how to be brave, to speaking your truth and being fully yourself, and handling strong emotions and dealing with hate. Responses include practical examples, draw on both personal experiences and Buddhist wisdom, and cover numerous other topics, such as: non-attachment and healthy attachments; getting in touch with our patterns; building inner confidence; working with our negative seeds; letting go of pain; practicing with impermanence; the energy of prayer and interbeing; the power and purpose of Thay's favorite chant, Namo Avalokiteshvara; and more. Plus: what is a mudra?The three presenters also share their favorite daily reminders, sayings, or mantras for bringing them back to the path when they get distracted. Thank you for listening, and for your questions!Tune in next week for part two.Enjoy! Co-produced by the Plum Village App:https://plumvillage.app/ And Global Optimism:https://globaloptimism.com/ With support from the Thich Nhat Hanh Foundation:https://thichnhathanhfoundation.org/ List of resourcesSister True Dedication https://plumvillage.org/people/dharma-teachers/sister-hien-nghiem/ The Four Noble Truthshttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dy-RI3FrdGADharma Talks: ‘True Love and the Four Noble Truths'https://plumvillage.org/library/dharma-talks/true-love-and-the-four-noble-truths/ Bodhisattvahttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bodhisattva ‘Breathing In, Breathing Out'https://plumvillage.org/library/songs/breathing-in-breathing-out/ Sister Jinahttps://plumvillage.org/people/dharma-teachers/sr-dieu-nghiem/ The Five Mindfulness Trainingshttps://plumvillage.org/mindfulness/the-5-mindfulness-trainings/ Pain, Despair, and the Second Arrow (a short Thich Nhat Hanh teaching video)https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MlLvjFPtFXw Sutras: ‘Discourse on the 5 Ways of Putting an End to Anger'https://plumvillage.org/library/sutras/discourse-on-the-five-ways-of-putting-an-end-to-anger/ Abrahamic religions https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Abrahamic_religions Avalokiteśvarahttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Avalokite%C5%9Bvara Introduction to Namo Avalokiteshvara (a short Thich Nhat Hanh teaching video)https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DjBUZrrqAVQ ‘Listening to Namo Avalokiteshvara'https://plumvillage.app/listening-to-namo-avalokiteshvara/ Dharma Talks: ‘Listening to the Chant'https://plumvillage.org/library/dharma-talks/listening-to-the-chant/ Namo'valokiteshvaraya Chanthttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IZkjX_c4hm4 Mudrahttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mudra Nāgārjunahttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/NagarjunaDharma Talks: ‘The Five Remembrances'https://plumvillage.org/library/dharma-talks/the-five-remembrances-sr-thuan-nghiem-spring-retreat-2018-05-17/ Quotes “Buddhism has a great lineage tradition of mentoring and guidance, and we are all seekers on the path. But some of us have had more years of experience and mistakes and getting awakened to our suffering, and can share from that experience to help others.” “Thay would always say a good question can help many of us who are listening in this moment, because a good question will allow a good answer to manifest.” “Each day that you have stillness, that you have well-being, acknowledge it; make it your moment of presence, of solidarity.” “In the spirit of Zen, we have the warrior, and how we bring that warrior out is, first of all, by really knowing how to be with oneself when the emotions and storms are present. How do we recognize that and not be a victim of it? Not allowing ourselves to be the anger when the energy of anger manifests, not to be the fear when fear is present, and turtle away.” “Thay teaches us that a mountain doesn’t move when there’s a storm. And that storm is the storm of our perceptions, our judgment. We’re not being carried away by what we see, what we hear, but we still have the insight of interbeing. Therefore we can still have right view and clarity.” “I will not spread news that I do not know to be certain.” “We are not our thoughts, we are not our speech; we are not defined by that. We are so much greater as a formation, as an entity, than all of these things. But we do want to be aware of our legacy in thinking, speech, and action.”“In Buddhism, our negative seeds are just part of the garden that we’re composting. They’re something we’re working with, they’re something to embrace. And the good news of Buddhism is that when you see these seeds, you can get an enlightenment about them. That is the compost that we’re going to practice with: each time these seeds come up, try to make ourselves a little daisy. I may not be a lotus, but maybe one daisy for each seed.” “Some non-attachments are more difficult than others.” “Attachment that brings suffering, let it go. The attachment that keeps you on the path: ‘I’m attached to my brown robe. I’m attached to my precepts. I’m attached to my sangha.' We have to also let go of this view that in Zen there’s no thinking, there’s no feelings, there’s no emotions, there’s no attachment.” “When the going gets tough, keep going.” “‘Thanks to impermanence, everything is possible' comes from a great teacher called Nagarjuna. It’s a Buddhist phrase. And it helps me trust that everything is evolving, everything is shifting. My internal landscape is shifting, the external landscape is shifting. And if it’s hard, it won’t last for long; it’s just a phase that we’re passing through.” “Awareness is a mirror reflecting the four elements. Beauty is a heart that generates love and a mind that is open.” “Life is too short for mirrors.” “Our true actions are our continuation.”
Julia reflects on The Weight of It All one year later with musician and breakup bestie Georgia Greene. Plus, we made you a breakup playlist. xoxoCheck out Georgia's band Trousdale here! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
In this episode of the Flourish Academy podcast, host Heather Lahtinen discusses the concept of the Second Arrow, a Buddhist parable about dealing with suffering more skillfully. She explains that anytime we suffer misfortune, two arrows fly our way. The first arrow represents the actual bad event or circumstance, which can cause pain, but the second arrow represents our reaction to the bad event. The second arrow is optional, and it's the manner in which we choose to respond emotionally. Heather shares a personal experience where she was presented with the opportunity to practice these new skills. Her son's school was locked down because of a call reporting an active shooter, which turned out to be a hoax. Heather processed her emotions and avoided the second arrow by refraining from letting her thoughts get away from her. She shares that we can avoid the second arrow by noticing our emotional reaction, catching ourselves adding more pain and suffering, and giving ourselves credit for recognizing and avoiding the second arrow. Finally, Heather encourages listeners to apply the concept of the Second Arrow to situations in their own lives and to avoid dwelling on things that aren't worthy of their attention or focus. This is the article referenced: https://grandrapidstherapygroup.com/second-arrow-of-suffering/ How to Support the Podcast: Subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, Stitcher, Google Play or wherever you listen to podcasts. Please like, share, and leave a review. If you like the content, please share with your friends by posting on social media so that we can reach and impact more people. If you want to purchase any of the books that we discuss, please use the link in the notes to shop on Amazon. In fact, if you shop on Amazon at all, then use our link to help support the podcast. https://www.amazon.com/?tag=weddbyheat-20 Connect: Heather Lahtinen: Website, Facebook, Instagram
In this week's episode, I explain and explore the Buddhist concept of The Second Arrow. Have you ever heard of it? Bad things happen to everyone, but it's how we respond to and meet those things that makes all the difference in the world. Schedule a Blue Skies call with Eva: https://calendly.com/evamiller/blueskies Email Eva here: eva@fracturedtofabulous.com Connect with Eva on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imevamiller/
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The Stoic Philosopher Epictetus said that “We suffer not from the events in our lives but from our judgements about them.” Today I am expanding on this concept through the lens of another ancient philosophy, and the ways we continue to hurt our own feelings.SUBSCRIBE | Join my Substack newsletterSUPPORT | Make a one-time donationSTA | Learn more about She Thrives Academy ****Did you enjoy this episode? Leaving a review is a totally free way to share the love and support the show. Thank you !
In this episode, WHMC facilitator Maddie Finn offers a talk on "The Second Arrow". A teaching that brings clarity to the ways we can cause extra suffering and pain for ourselves. She touches on not only the basics of this profound teaching, but also how to implement it into practice both on and off the meditation cushion.
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Hello to you listening in Tangerang, Banten, Indonesia!Coming to you from Whidbey Island, Washington this is Stories From Women Who Walk with 60 Seconds for Thoughts on Thursday and your host, Diane Wyzga.Recently I was in a situation where I felt like I was way out of my element. Not quite like a fish on a bicycle but certainly tongue-tied, feeling foolish, even stupid in a place I clearly did not belong. I should not have agreed to be there; but I did and that was the first arrow. For hours thereafter I churned my painful feelings over and over in my head. That was the second arrow.“If an arrow hits you, you will feel pain in that part of your body where the arrow hit; and then if a second arrow comes and strikes exactly at the same spot, the pain will not be only double, it will become at least ten times more intense. The unwelcome things that sometimes happen in life—being rejected, losing a valuable object, failing a test, getting injured in an accident—are analogous to the first arrow. They cause some pain. The second arrow, fired by our own selves, is our reaction, our story line, and our anxiety. All these things magnify the suffering. In life, we can't always control the first arrow. However, the second arrow is our reaction to the first. This second arrow is optional." - Thich Nhat HahnPractical Tip: When you have a strong response of pain or annoyance to a situation ask yourself, “What is my story line here? Does it deserve the pain of a second arrow or have I had enough?”CTA: "Come for the stories - Stay for the magic!" Speaking of magic, I hope you'll subscribe, follow, share a 5-star rating and nice review on your social media or podcast channel of choice, bring your friends and rellies, and join us! You will have wonderful company as we continue to walk our lives together.You're invited to stop by the website, check out the Services, arrange a Discovery Call, and Opt In to stay current with Diane and Quarter Moon Story Arts and on LinkedIn. Stories From Women Who Walk Production TeamPodcaster: Diane F Wyzga & Quarter Moon Story ArtsMusic: Mer's Waltz from Crossing the Waters by Steve Schuch & Night Heron MusicAll content and image © 2019 to Present: for credit & attribution Quarter Moon Story Arts
For the past almost 3 years, one of my greatest fears has been about what would happen to my parents if they got COVID. In our family, we pretty much have every single pre-existing condition risk factor on the health concern checklist. So, I have catastrophized a ton of horrific scenarios in my head over the last few years. But now, I know firsthand and no longer have to speculate...because over the Thanksgiving holiday, me, my brother, my nephew and BOTH my parents were stricken by the wretched COVID bug. For me, it was my second time around!! (Sheesh, I sure hope it's not turning into an annual holiday visitor!) Anyway, in this week's episode I share with you about my family's most recent COVID health challenge and the lessons I learned along the way. (And don't worry...we're all on the mend!) You can follow me on Instagram at: @karen.e.osborne Click on this link to join Club Sandwich (the LITSZ Private Facebook Group): LITSZ_Club_Sandwich --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/karen-osborne9/message
his episode of the Networking Rx Minute (with Frank Agin (http://frankagin.com)) reminds that In life, bad things are going to happen. Don't make it worse by blaming others or needlessly beating yourself up. For more great insight on professional relationships and business networking visit https://www.amspirit.com/blog/ or contact Frank Agin at frankagin@amspirit.com.
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In Part 1 of this conversation, Maalvika & Elissa chat about breakups leading to creative inspiration, perfectionism, shame, and accepting yourself. Elissa Bassist is an essayist, humor writer, and editor of the “Funny Women” column on The Rumpus. Now, she is releasing her first book, Hysterical. She writes to share the reclamation of her authentic voice in a culture that doesn't listen to women in this medical mystery, cultural criticism, and rallying cry. Pre-order now! Follow Maalvika's personal Instagram: @maalvikabhat and the Podcast Instagram: @showmehowgooditgetspodcast & feel free to shoot a DM if you have topics you'd like to see covered in an episode! Also, check out Maalvika's Tiktok: @maaltoks for even more content. Follow Elissa on Twitter at @ElissaBassist
This episode explores your relationship with yourself, which sets the stage for your relationship with food and eating. I give you my personal story of when I didn't even approach The Land of Good Enough and teach you about the parable of Buddha's Second Arrow which tells us that pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. I explore what mistakes we dieters are making and, more importantly, why we make these mistakes. I give you advice on how to talk to yourself as well as helpful coaching advice that will set you well on your way to changing your self-talk into a positive road to get you to where you want to go. Here is the link to the blog I wrote on having a mindset shift. I also invite you to download my free guide: The Good-Better-Best Method from www.miriamhatoum.com/gbb.1:14. Your relationship with yourself.6:33. Mindset is more important than the diet. What mistakes are we making?11:09. Why do we make these mistakes?14:35. Here is some advice in talking to yourself.17:39. This week's actionable coaching advice.21:13. Special Offers.23:15. Episode 3, coming up.
Hopestream for parenting kids through drug use and addiction
Host: Brenda Zane, www.brendazane.comShow notes: www.brendazane.com/hopestream/109Free e-book: www.brendazane.com/hindsightThe Stream, a community for moms: www.thestreamcommunity.comGet my weekly email: www.brendazane.com/emailThe emotional distress a parent feels when their child is struggling with or addicted to drugs or alcohol is incomprehensible to the average person. It can begin to debilitate you in ways that impact your day-to-day ability to cope, your health, career, friendships, and family relationships. Through the lens of the second arrow principal, I share ways that parents can minimize their suffering, anxiety, emotional anguish and isolation while their child is actively engaged in misusing substances, or in the early and sometimes fragile days of recovery. I share a recent experience where I used some emotional self-regulation tools to dodge the second arrow coming my way and give you 10+ simple and practical ideas for reducing your suffering.
The infinitely talented Nelson Sobral returns to the show this week, and I'm delighted to host him. His new record Second Arrow just dropped, featuring the single "Dancing Fool" and soon-to-be megahit "In The Middle Of The Night". Nelson shares the context behind the Buddha-inspired title of his new album, and we chat about the old blues greats, difficult times, and how bad I am at rolling the 'R' when pronouncing his surname. Sobral's playlist: The Rolling Stones – Rocks Off Bettye Swann – Don't Touch Me Ray Charles – A Song For You Mattie Leon – Boy Hank Williams – I'm So Lonely I Could Cry
I've aways loved the healing message of the Buddhist principle of the second arrow. The first arrow is unavoidable - our natural reaction to life. The second arrow is the way human beings perpetuate our own suffering - judgement of the first arrow, or expectations attached to it. Today we explore both! Join us, and perhaps find some peace around the ways in which life seems to be slinging arrows at us all the time. We have the power to make the whole process more gentle. XOOX n. APRIL RETREAT AT THE ART OF LIVING RETREAT CENTER 4/8-4/10 click below! https://artoflivingretreatcenter.org/event/faculty/nicole-sachs/freedom-from-chronic-pain/ Get 2 weeks free of the Curable App: www.getcurable.com/nicole My next VIRTUAL RETREAT WEEKEND is May 13-15, 2022. You will receive a copy of my FFCP Course and 4 original guided mediations FREE when you sign up (to use yourself or gift to another for the Holidays!) Click here to join us: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/freedom-from-chronic-pain-virtual-weekend-with-nicole-sachs-lcsw-tickets-210512597847 OMEGA 2022 is live and on sale for August 7 - 12th! Click here to join us for a week of total transformation! https://eomega.org/workshops/freedom-from-chronic-pain/freedom-chronic-pain?itm_source_h=search&itm_source_s=search&itm_medium_h=tile&itm_medium_s=tile&itm_campaign_h=searchcr&itm_campaign_s=searchcr Past virtual retreats recordings available for sale now on my website: https://www.thecureforchronicpain.com/buy-retreat-recordings FREEDOM FROM CHRONIC PAIN course: https://www.thecureforchronicpain.com/course FREEDOM FROM AN ANXIOUS LIFE course: Click here for all the details and to purchase! PLEASE RATE AND REVIEW THE PODCAST HERE TO HELP OTHERS FIND IT! If you are interested in supporting the many free resources I offer to get this message to the global community, please consider donating to my cause on my website, www.thecureforchronicpain.com. Look for the DONATE button on the home page. Thank you so much! ALL MY RESOURCES: Instagram: Follow me on insta @nicolesachslcsw for tons of new content Website: The Cure for Chronic Pain YouTube: The Cure for Chronic Pain with Nicole Sachs, LCSW Book: The Meaning of Truth Online Course: FREEDOM FROM CHRONIC PAIN FB Closed Group:JournalSpeak with Nicole Sachs, LCSW OMEGA General info: OMEGA INSTITUTE Subscribe Apple Podcasts Deezer iHeart RadioPublic RSS Spotify
Fed up of beating yourself up, criticising and judging yourself when something doesn't go as planned? Join me for the conversation around second arrow syndrome and how we can avoid it! ******* Join ELEVATE: The Course here - https://sjh.app/elevate-course As always, I'd love for you to connect with me on Insta - https://instagram.com/sarahjoycehindle
In this episode I talk about an old Buddhist parabole that helps limit the amount of suffering I experience and improve my resiliance in the world.
Controversy is a multimedia conversation about faith and feelings. The Podcast is hosted by author & artist, Brandon T. Bailey. It contains honest conversations about the tension between faith & mental health along with interviews with mental health professionals, pastors, people of faith, educators & regular people trying to answer the question, “What is the future of faith & feelings?” The 24 episode podcast season contains 2 bi-weekly episodes. The first episode is a topical conversation with Brandon T. Bailey. The other episode features an engaging interview with influential voices.
This Dhamma talk with questions and answers was given by Ajahn Amaro on 5 July 2020 at Amaravati Buddhist Monastery, UK. It's an audio version that was firstly live-streamed as a video on https://vimeo.com/amaravativideo, or 'videos' section at Amaravati website, during the time of the COVID-19 pandemic. The post Āsālhā Pūjā – Second Arrow Evasion appeared first on Amaravati Buddhist Monastery.
This Dhamma talk was given by Ajahn Nandiyo on 22 February 2020, new moon day, at Amaravati Buddhist Monastery, UK. The post Exploring the Second Arrow appeared first on Amaravati Buddhist Monastery.
In this Episode, I interviewed Eric Zimmer the host of the podcast “The One You Feed.” “The One You Feed” podcast was named Best of 2014 by iTunes, and it's an amazing collection of open minded discussions of habits, wisdom, psychology, philosophy, and motivation. Eric starts his episodes with a short story that explains the title of […] The post The Second Arrow – Stories We Tell Ourselves (with Eric Zimmer) appeared first on Ana Melikian, Ph.D..