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Dr Bessel van der Kolk is a clinician, researcher, and teacher who has spent his professional life studying how children and adults adapt to traumatic experiences. He specialises in translating emerging findings from neuroscience and attachment research to develop and study a range of effective treatments for traumatic stress and developmental trauma in children and adults. He is the author of the New York Times Bestseller: The Body Keeps the Score, the Founder of Trauma Center in Boston, and currently serves as President of the Trauma Research Foundation. In this conversation, we explore: — The role that neurofeedback can play in healing developmental trauma — Dr van der Kolk's study examining the effects of MDMA on PTSD — The essential difference between those who were traumatised by the 9-11 attacks and those who weren't — How developmental trauma leads to deficits in sensory integration areas of the brain and the most effective treatments for addressing this. And more. You can learn more about Dr van der Kolk's work by going to: https://traumaresearchfoundation.org/ --- Bessel van der Kolk MD spends his career studying how children and adults adapt to traumatic experiences, and has translated emerging findings from neuroscience and attachment research to develop and study a range of treatments for traumatic stress in children and adults. In 1984, he set up one of the first clinical/research centers in the US dedicated to study and treatment of traumatic stress in civilian populations, which has trained numerous researchers and clinicians specializing in the study and treatment of traumatic stress, and which has been continually funded to research the impact of traumatic stress and effective treatment interventions. He has focused on studying treatments that stabilize physiology, increase executive functioning and help traumatized individuals to feel fully alert to the present. His efforts resulted in the establishment of Trauma Center (now the Trauma Research Foundation) that consisted of a well-trained clinical team specializing in the treatment of children and adults with histories of child maltreatment, that applied treatment models that are widely taught and implemented nationwide, a research lab that studied the effects of neurofeedback and MDMA on behavior, mood, and executive functioning, and numerous trainings nationwide to a variety of mental health professional, educators, parent groups, policy makers, and law enforcement personnel. --- 3 Books Dr van Der Kolk Recommends Every Therapist Should Read: — John Bowlby - Attachment and Loss - https://amzn.to/4bOd3NK — Daniel Stern - The Interpersonal World of the Infant - https://amzn.to/4e1aTf8 — Ed Tronick - The Neurobehavioral and Social-Emotional Development of Infants and Children (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology) - https://amzn.to/459qIwa
Bessel van der Kolk, legendary trauma expert and author of The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma reveals a revolutionary approach to healing trauma. Discover how trauma profoundly impacts the brain and body, making growth difficult by trapping us in past experiences. Explore potent mind-body practices like yoga, dance, and psychedelics that can unlock trauma's grip by igniting collective joy, self-compassion, and an expansive perspective on our vast human potential. Gain life-changing insights to feel truly alive again.You can find Bessel at: Website | Instagram | Episode TranscriptIf you LOVED this episode you'll also love the conversations we had with Ellen Hendrikson about social anxiety.Check out our offerings & partners: Join My New Writing Project: Awake at the WheelVisit Our Sponsor Page For Great Resources & Discount Codes Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Hey friend! It's Monday again, and I'm so excited to share this episode with you of my conversation with Aileen Orr! Aileen and I have been friends for years, and we love chatting about all things holistic and natural wellness, women's health, hormones- all the good stuff! So, we decided to make an official conversation of it and do an episode all about Aileen's experience with getting her period, working through depression, how that affected her premenstrual phase, what she did to help it and where she's at today! So, grab a coffee, tea- whatever is getting you warm and cozy these days- and have a listen! Lauren Aileen grew up on a farm near Brooks, Alberta. She spent the beginning of her adult life studying at the University of Lethbridge, where she got her degrees in English and Education. She's been fortunate enough to do a bit of traveling and living in other places, and has spent the last few years teaching mainly in junior high and upper elementary grades. Her favourite job she's ever had is a tie between working at various summer camps and being a story teller for the library one semester. Her dream job has always been to farm, and that's still the long term goal. She's married to Eric, and she is currently enjoying her first few weeks of Maternity leave before she gets promoted to being Little Sprout's mom! Links: Book: The Body Keeps the Score, by Bessel van der Kolk MD Next Steps: Join the Free Facebook Group Community: Want to carry on this conversation or do you have questions? Come join the Facebook Group, PMS Made Peaceful For Christian Women! Book a Discovery Call: Want to work together and get to the root issues of your PMS or PMDD symptoms? Let's jump on a quick call and we'll see if this could be the next step for you in your wellness journey towards more balance, emotional regulation and peace in your life. Become a PMS Made Peaceful Insider- Sign up to receive a weekly email about the latest episodes, workshops, special offers for coaching and all other updates about PMS Made Peaceful! Disclaimer: This podcast (PMS Made Peaceful) is not meant to take the place of professional medical help. It is for educational purposes only. Please always consult with your primary health care provider before implementing any of the solutions & topics discussed in this podcast (full disclaimer here: www.herbodysings.com/terms)
Acclaimed psychiatrist Bessel van der Kolk, author of “The Body Keeps The Score,” discusses the widespread existence of trauma and how it manifests in our bodies. Bessel van der Kolk also discusses the pervasive nature of trauma and its impact on individuals. He reflects on his experiences working with traumatized populations, particularly Vietnam veterans, and highlights the commonality of trauma in various forms, such as abuse and violence. Van der Kolk challenges traditional psychiatric approaches, emphasizing the importance of understanding and addressing trauma rather than merely trying to "fix" individuals. He explains the physiological and psychological effects of trauma, particularly in terms of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), and stresses the need for society to acknowledge and address the prevalence of trauma. The script underscores the significance of creating a safe space for individuals to share their experiences, fostering self-compassion, and working towards societal awareness and support for those who have endured trauma. ►Get Big Think+ for Business Guide, inspire and accelerate leaders at all levels of your company with the biggest minds in business. Bessel van der Kolk has studied trauma for 50 years. Though we once considered trauma exclusive to veterans and people growing up in extreme circumstances, we now know it is an extremely common experience. Van der Kolk discusses the impact of trauma and the pathway to healing. ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Go Deeper with Big Think: ►Become a Big Think Member Get exclusive access to full interviews, early access to new releases, Big Think merch and more. ------------------------------------------------------------------------ About Bessel van der Kolk: Bessel van der Kolk MD spends his career studying how children and adults adapt to traumatic experiences and has translated emerging findings from neuroscience and attachment research to develop and study a range of treatments for traumatic stress in children and adults. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bigthink/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode, Kyle interviews Bessel van der Kolk, MD: pioneer clinician, researcher, and educator on traumatic stress; Founder of the Trauma Research Foundation; Professor of Psychiatry at Boston University Medical School; Principal Investigator of the Boston site of MAPS' MDMA-assisted psychotherapy study; and author of the #1 New York Times Science best seller, The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Treatment of Trauma. As of this recording, van der Kolk was publishing his last paper and closing down his laboratory, so he looks back on his past: being part of the group who put together the first PTSD diagnosis in the 80s; the early days of psychedelic research and how he discouraged Rick Doblin and Michael Mithoefer from pursuing MDMA research; how the DSM has no scientific validity and was never meant for the diagnosing it's being used for; how science wasn't seeing the whole picture and pushing us mindlessly from medication to medication; and how trauma research has evolved over the years as society learned more about how the mind actually works. He discusses the struggle to validate “softer” sciences; the impracticality and price of the MAPS protocol and the need for more group and sitter/experiencer frameworks; the efficacy of psychodrama and how that plays out in group sessions; his interest in using the Rorschach test more; how rolfing helped him; the problem with diagnosis and people becoming their illnesses; bodywork, somatic literacy, and how disconnected most people are from their bodies; and how, in all the healing frameworks he's explored, he has never seen anything work as profoundly as psychedelic-assisted therapy. Click here to head to the show notes page.
Recent years have impacted our mental and physical health significantly. We are constantly faced with unsettling moments that leave a lasting impact, often unnoticed but affecting us all. The question is, how do we address this? My guest this week is renowned trauma researcher, psychiatrist, and author, Bessel van der Kolk, known for his New York Times bestseller, The Body Keeps the Score. In 1984, Bessel established one of the first centers in the US for traumatic stress research and treatment, pioneering the study of trauma's effects on the brain. His work gave rise to the Trauma Research Foundation, created new treatment models, studied neurofeedback and MDMA's effects, and facilitated numerous trainings across the nation.You can find Bessel at: Website | InstagramIf you LOVED this episode you'll also love the conversations we had with Ellen Hendrickson about social anxiety.Check out our offerings & partners: My New Book SparkedMy New Podcast SPARKED. To submit your “moment & question” for consideration to be on the show go to sparketype.com/submit. Visit Our Sponsor Page For Great Resources & Discount Codes Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Thomas interviews world-renowned trauma expert and the author of “The Body Keeps the Score,” Dr. Bessel van der Kolk. They discuss different approaches to healing trauma on individual and societal levels. Dr. Van der Kolk emphasizes the need for physical and relational safety in order to process trauma, and the difficulty of healing in environments that tend towards disembodiment. He explains that trauma causes us to become numb, withdrawn, and full of shame, and that we experience these sensations physically. But through collective and creative experiences, practicing self-compassion, and deepening our relationship with our physical bodies and the sensations we feel, we can reconnect to ourselves, re-discover our spirituality, and define our own identities. Key Points: 02:55 The importance of trauma awareness 06:21 Relational safety forms healthy societies 10:04 An interesting insight into generational trauma 15:10 How safety affects academic performance 18:15 Reigniting physical sensations for healing 23:32 What goes on in healing workshops 29:07 The cycle of trauma and how to break it 38:04 Experiencing healing in the collective 40:24 Being connected makes us Earth-conscious 42:55 MDMA-assisted trauma work 47:57 Spirituality as a healing resource 50:20 Do this daily grounding practice Bessel van der Kolk, MD is a psychiatrist, author, researcher, and educator based in Boston, United States. Since the 1970s, his research has been in the area of post-traumatic stress. He is the author of The New York Times best-seller, The Body Keeps the Score. Van der Kolk formerly served as president of the International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies and is a former co-director of the National Child Traumatic Stress Network. He is a professor of psychiatry at Boston University School of Medicine and president of the Trauma Research Foundation in Brookline, Massachusetts. Website: https://www.besselvanderkolk.com/ Facebook: https://web.facebook.com/thebodykeepsthescore?_rdc=1&_rdr LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/besselvanderkolk/ Instagram: @thebodykeepsthescore Sign up for updates by visiting our website:
THE BODY KEEPS THE SCORE is an intimate conversation with NYT bestselling author Dr. Bessel Van der Kolk about the connection between ADHD & Trauma and about the importance of helping our children co-regulate within their environment. A psychiatrist by training, Dr. Van Der Kolk has been a pioneer in trauma research for decades now and leads the Trauma Research Foundation. His 2014 book “The Body Keeps the Score,” quickly became a bestseller. And although the book was first released seven years ago, it currently sits at No. 1 on the New York Times best-seller list. Bessel van der Kolk MD spends his career studying how children and adults adapt to traumatic experiences, and he has translated emerging findings from neuroscience and attachment research to develop & study a range of treatments for traumatic stress in children and adults. He has focused on studying treatments that stabilize physiology, increase executive functioning and help traumatized individuals to feel fully alert to the present. This has included an National Institute of Mental Health funded study on EMDR and a National Center for Complimentary and Alternative Medicine funded study of yoga, and, in recent years, the study of neurofeedback to investigate whether attentional and perceptual systems - and the neural tracks responsible for them - can be altered by changing EEG patterns. For more information on Dr. Van der Kolk's work, visit https://www.besselvanderkolk.com For more information on this podcast, please visit www.adhdisover.com
Bessel van der Kolk MD spends his career studying how children and adults adapt to traumatic experiences and has translated emerging findings from neuroscience and attachment research to develop and study a range of treatments for traumatic stress in children and adults. Here he and Dawson discuss: * The psychological trauma as a physical not just a psychological condition * How after each war there has been an upsurge in interest in PTSD but it then dies down * Ways the body keeps the score * Exploration of how PTSD affects every system: hormones, brain function, immunity * Treatments such as EMDR and EFT Guest website: https://www.besselvanderkolk.com/ Host website: http://www.dawsongift.com/ #eft #eftuniverse #ptsd #mindtomatter #blissbrain #trauma
Bessel van der Kolk MD is author of the seminal book The Body Keeps The Score. He spends his career studying how children and adults adapt to traumatic experiences, and has translated emerging findings from neuroscience and attachment research to develop and study a range of treatments for traumatic stress in children and adults. In 1984, he set up one of the first clinical / research centers in the US dedicated to study and treatment of traumatic stress in civilian populations, which has trained numerous researchers and clinicians specializing in the study and treatment of traumatic stress, and which has been continually funded to research the impact of traumatic stress and effective treatment interventions. He did the first studies on the effects of SSRIs on PTSD; was a member of the first neuroimaging team to investigate how trauma changes brain processes, and did the first research linking BPD and deliberate self-injury to trauma and neglect in early childhood. Much of his research has focused on how trauma has a different impact at different stages of development, and that disruptions in care-giving systems have additional deleterious effects that need to be addressed for effective intervention. In order to promote a deeper understanding of the impact of childhood trauma and to foster the development and execution of effective treatment interventions, he initiated the process that led to the establishment of the National Child Traumatic Stress Network (NCTSN), a Congressionally mandated initiative that now funds approximately 150 centers specializing in developing effective treatment interventions, and implementing them in a wide array of settings, from juvenile detention centers to tribal agencies, nationwide. He has focused on studying treatments that stabilize physiology, increase executive functioning and help traumatized individuals to feel fully alert to the present. This has included an NIMH funded study on EMDR and NCCAM funded study of yoga, and, in recent years, the study of neurofeedback to investigate whether attentional and perceptual systems (and the neural tracks responsible for them) can be altered by changing EEG patterns. His efforts resulted in the establishment of Trauma Center (now the Trauma Research Foundation) that consisted of a well-trained clinical team specializing in the treatment of children and adults with histories of child maltreatment, that applied treatment models that are widely taught and implemented nationwide, a research lab that studied the effects of neurofeedback and MDMA on behavior, mood, and executive functioning, and numerous trainings nationwide to a variety of mental health professional, educators, parent groups, policy makers, and law enforcement personnel. You can find out more about him on his website here.
THE BODY KEEPS THE SCORE is an intimate conversation with NYT bestselling author Dr. Bessel Van der Kolk about the connection between ADHD & Trauma and about the importance of helping our children co-regulate within their environment. A psychiatrist by training, Dr. Van Der Kolk has been a pioneer in trauma research for decades now and leads the Trauma Research Foundation. His 2014 book “The Body Keeps the Score,” quickly became a bestseller. And although the book was first released seven years ago, it currently sits at No. 1 on the New York Times best-seller list. Bessel van der Kolk MD spends his career studying how children and adults adapt to traumatic experiences, and he has translated emerging findings from neuroscience and attachment research to develop & study a range of treatments for traumatic stress in children and adults. He has focused on studying treatments that stabilize physiology, increase executive functioning and help traumatized individuals to feel fully alert to the present. This has included an National Institute of Mental Health funded study on EMDR and a National Center for Complimentary and Alternative Medicine funded study of yoga, and, in recent years, the study of neurofeedback to investigate whether attentional and perceptual systems - and the neural tracks responsible for them - can be altered by changing EEG patterns. For more information on Dr. Van der Kolk's work, visit https://www.besselvanderkolk.com For more information on this podcast, please visit www.adhdisover.com
Bessel van der Kolk MD has spent his professional life studying how children and adults adapt to traumatic experiences. He translates emerging findings from neuroscience and attachment research to develop and study a range of effective treatments for traumatic stress and developmental trauma in children and adults.Integrating Therapy with ScienceIn the past 3 decades, we have learned an enormous amount about brain functions and interpersonal attachment systems. This new knowledge has not always been systematically applied to help traumatized children and adults heal from trauma. Dr. van der Kolk's work is focused on integrating therapy with science.Dr. van der Kolk has published over 150 peer-reviewed articles, diversely ranging from neuroimaging, self-injury, memory, neurofeedback, developmental trauma, yoga, and theater to EMDR.The Body Keeps The ScoreBRAIN, MIND, AND BODY IN THE HEALING OF TRAUMAThe Body Keeps the Score is the inspiring story of how a group of therapists and scientists— together with their courageous and memorable patients—has struggled to integrate recent advances in brain science, attachment research, and body awareness into treatments that can free trauma survivors from the tyranny of the past. These new paths to recovery activate the brain's natural neuroplasticity to rewire disturbed functioning and rebuild step by step the ability to “know what you know and feel what you feel.” They also offer experiences that directly counteract the helplessness and invisibility associated with trauma, enabling both adults and children to reclaim ownership of their bodies and their lives.4 week program with Bessel van der KolkIn this dynamic, interactive series, Bessel van der Kolk, M.D. expands on his groundbreaking work The Body Keeps the Score, where he synthesizes history, neurology, and trauma research to deepen our understanding of trauma and trauma treatment.We invite you to join us for this distinctive and exciting 4-week program where Dr. van der Kolk will begin with a lecture followed by an open dialogue session. This is an exciting opportunity to explore ideas, critically examine trauma and trauma treatments, and hear directly from Dr. van der Kolk about the things that most ignite your interests.Each of the 4 sessions are 1.5 hours, with the time divided between lecture and dialogue with Dr. van der Kolk. Questions can be submitted both in advance and live during the session. Your questions, thoughts, and ideas will help shape the series.USE CODE: storyboxcommunity for $100 off! Available until September 30th Course is Valued at $250! Course Link Here: https://www.besselvanderkolk.com/international-programs/english-community Connect with Bessel: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/thebodykeepsthescore/ Facebook - https://www.instagram.com/thebodykeepsthescore/ 'The Body Keeps The Score' - https://www.booktopia.com.au/the-body-keeps-the-score-bessel-van-der-kolk/book/9780143127741.html Follow The Story Box on Social MediaINSTAGRAM ► - https://www.instagram.com/thestoryboxpodcast/ TWITTER ► - https://twitter.com/jay_fantom FACEBOOK ► - https://www.facebook.com/thestoryboxpodcast WEBSITE ► - https://thestoryboxpodcast.com/SUBSCRIBE FOR MORE! Apple Podcast ► - https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-story-box/id1486295252 Spotify ► - https://open.spotify.com/show/7h8Qv3r2ZV29f7ktJOwmgM?si=FXxYC1JFSHesBv7_d1WtNQ WATCH HERE:YouTube ► - https://www.youtube.com/c/TheStoryBox If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe to YouTube & Apple Podcasts, and leave a 5-star positive rating and review over on Apple Podcasts. Share it around with your friends and family.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/thestorybox. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
In this video, my guest, Jeremy Fox dives into trauma and ADHD. He shares what is trauma, how does ADHD affect trauma, how do you know the signs of trauma, and how do you work through it. Jeremy is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC), Certified Professional Counselor Supervisor (CPCS) and EMDRIA Approved EMDR Consultant who specializes in treating trauma. He has practiced EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) since 2014 and has facilitated several presentations regarding its use in addressing dissociation, flashbacks, and other symptoms of post-traumatic stress. He was mentored by Dr. Arielle Schwartz and received his EMDRIA-Approved Consultant designation in 2019. His article “Recovery, Interrupted: The Zeigarnik Effect in EMDR Therapy and the Adaptive Information Processing Model” was published in the September 2020 issue of the Journal of EMDR Practice and Research. ■ His Resources: ■ Podcast – Fox Takes - Fox Takes Podcast ■ YouTube Channel: Fox Takes - Fox Takes - YT ■ Tiktok: Fox Therapist - Tiktok ■ Twitter: Fox Therapy - Twitter ■ Instagram: Fox Therapy - IG @foxtherapyllc ■ Clubhouse: @foxtherapy ■ Other Recommendations: ■ The Body Keeps the Score – Bessel Van der Kolk MD ■ Getting ahead of ADHD – Joel Nigg ■ Getting Unstuck: Unraveling the Knot of Depression, Attention and Trauma – Don Kerson ■ ADHD 2.0 – Home - Dr. Hallowell (drhallowell.com)
In this week’s episode, Amrit interviews Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, a psychiatrist, author, researcher and educator based in Boston, USA. He was previously the president for the International Society for Traumatic stress Studies, former co-director of the National Child Traumatic Stress Network, professor of Psychiatry at Boston University School of Medicine and president of the Trauma Research Foundation in Brookline, Massachusetts.Dr. Bessel has published over 150 peer reviewed scientific articles on trauma and how to heal from trauma. He is the author of “Post-traumatic Stress Disorder”, “Psychological Trauma”, Traumatic Stress with Alexander C. McFarlane and Lars Weisæth, and the New York Times best seller, The Body Keeps the Score. In this episode, Amrit and Dr. Bessel have a profound conversation about trauma and healing. They dive deep into what causes trauma, how and why it gets stored in the body, and effective healing modalities to recover from it.If you would like to have access to Dr. Bessel’s best seller “The Body Keeps the Score” and learn more about how to heal a body that stores trauma, please go to: https://amz.run/4I8M In the first part of this chapter, Amrit and Dr. Bessel talk about what is trauma, what goes on in our brain when we hold on to things that we can't let go of, how we navigate the world with stored traumatic experiences, experiences that can prevent you from living a life and the importance of having people around you when feeling overwhelmed. They converse about the changes in your brain when you go through a dramatic experience, different parts of the body related to traumatic experiences, the role of helplessness when trying to get out of a traumatic experience we can’t get out of and the role of our nervous system when processing trauma.They cave into a dialogue around the link between our rational mind and the trauma we experience and where the trauma is stored. In regards to this modern society in which people have in their heads what their bodies should look like; they talk about whether this is potentially creating more of a disconnection rather than a connection to their bodies.Furthermore, in the second half of the episode, they dive deep into healing with a short parable of the raft and how once helpful things can become a burden instead. They talk about how to begin with healing, how every culture has their own indigenous ways of dealing with trauma, the importance of some modalities of healing having someone around, modalities for healing with no one around, different healing therapies, western culture’s therapies, and promising neurofeedback and psychedelic therapy with it’s different perspectives.In this chapter you will discover what trauma is, how it makes you feel, how it is formed and created, how it changes your brain, why people experiencing trauma keep behaving and reacting as if they were stuck in that experience, why you get stuck in a state of hyper alertness and why your body, mind and entire system gets frozen or stuck in “fight or flight” mode.You will understand why people try to shut the feeling down and end up shutting down their ability to feel turning to drugs, alcohol, pharmaceuticals and compulsive behaviour. You also will have access to different modalities and therapies for healing trauma, promising research around psychotropics and psychedelic therapy and neurofeedback.You will learn the importance of taking care of your body, feeling safe and being surrounded by your loved ones.You will master the most effective healing modalities to recover from trauma!“Take care of your body”“Develop a loving relationship to take care of your body”About Dr. Bessel van der Kolk:Bessel van der Kolk MD spends his career studying how children and adults adapt to traumatic experiences, and has translated emerging findings from neuroscience and attachment research to develop and study a range of treatments for traumatic stress in children and adults.In 1984, he set up one of the first clinical/research centers in the US dedicated to study and treatment of traumatic stress in civilian populations, which has trained numerous researchers and clinicians specializing in the study and treatment of traumatic stress, and which has been continually funded to research the impact of traumatic stress and effective treatment interventions. He did the first studies on the effects of SSRIs on PTSD; was a member of the first neuroimaging team to investigate how trauma changes brain processes, and did the first research linking BPD and deliberate self-injury to trauma and neglect in early childhood.Much of his research has focused on how trauma has a different impact at different stages of development, and that disruptions in care-giving systems have additional deleterious effects that need to be addressed for effective intervention. In order to promote a deeper understanding of the impact of childhood trauma and to foster the development and execution of effective treatment interventions, he initiated the process that led to the establishment of the National Child Traumatic Stress Network (NCTSN), a Congressionally mandated initiative that now funds approximately 150 centers specializing in developing effective treatment interventions, and implementing them in a wide array of settings, from juvenile detention centers to tribal agencies, nationwide.He has focused on studying treatments that stabilize physiology, increase executive functioning and help traumatized individuals to feel fully alert to the present. This has included an NIMH funded study on EMDR and NCCAM funded study of yoga, and, in recent years, the study of neurofeedback to investigate whether attentional and perceptual systems (and the neural tracks responsible for them) can be altered by changing EEG patterns.His efforts resulted in the establishment of Trauma Center (now the Trauma Research Foundation) that consisted of a well-trained clinical team specializing in the treatment of children and adults with histories of child maltreatment, that applied treatment models that are widely taught and implemented nationwide, a research lab that studied the effects of neurofeedback and MDMA on behavior, mood, and executive functioning, and numerous trainings nationwide to a variety of mental health professional, educators, parent groups, policy makers, and law enforcement personnel.Tune In: Welcome Dr. Bessel van der Kolk to the Inspired Evolution!: (00:00)How Dr. Bessel defines Trauma: (02:59)“Trauma is an experience that overwhelms your system”Process in the brain when holding onto things and not letting go: (04:10) “We have systems in the brain that create the map of where we need to go”Navigating the world with traumatic experiences that drop in: (07:44)“What originally was protecting you becomes a deferment and prevents you from living”Traumatic experiences have to be extreme or can they be everyday experiences?: (08:41) “Humans need each other to make themselves feel safe”Community as an instrumental part of the coping system: (11:27)“The deepest hurt is to be brutalized by the people we love”About the brain having gone through a traumatic experience: (12:27)“If you cannot fight or flee, your system may get stuck and keep on producing stress hormones”Different parts of the body related to different traumatic experiences?: (13:55)The role of helplessness when trying to get out of traumatic experiences you can't get out of: (15:24)The role of the nervous system in processing trauma: (16:32)“The function of the brain is to have a functioning body”“Your body sends signals that need to be attended”The link between a rational mind and a traumatic experience. Is trauma rational: (19:27)“A rational brain explains things, your body speaks the truth”Parts of the head connected to the body responsible for storing trauma: (22:22) “You have to love the relationship to your body”Does worrying about the way we must look create more of a disconnection than a connection to our body?:(25:40)About a raft parable referring to the things we hold on to: (27:15)“People have been very ingenious in being able to survive horrendous situations but they have their draft on their shoulders”From trauma to healing: (31:06) “Healing trauma becomes helping people be insync with people around them”Research uncovering indigenous modalities for healing?: (37:46)“Research can do only what is socially acceptable”About collective trauma in modern society: (39:02)“You can make misery anywhere and you can make happiness anywhere, it all depends on how respectful, insync and how open people are to each other”Self healing modalities where others don't need to be involved: (40:58)“None of us do things by ourselves”About Psychedelic Therapy and it’s different perspective: (45:23)“You transport into a different reality where you see yourself in a much larger perspective”Dr. Bessel van der Kolk’s books and articles:“The body keeps the score: Brain, mind, and body in the healing of trauma” by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk: https://amz.run/4I8M “Traumatic Stress: The Effects of Overwhelming Experience on Mind, Body, and Society” by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk & Alexander C. McFarlane and Lars Weisaeth: https://amz.run/4I8O “Psychological Trauma” by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk: https://amz.run/4I8Q “Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder: Psychological and Biological Sequelae” (Clinical Insights) by Dr. Bessel van der KolkDr. van der Kolk’s Google Scholar: https://scholar.google.com/citations?user=1oHBFlMAAAAJ&hl=en Mentioned resources:Dave Asprey: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cS9MBM2rvA8&t=115s Connect with Dr. Bessel van der Kolk:Website: https://www.besselvanderkolk.com/ Facebook The Body Keeps The Score: https://www.facebook.com/thebodykeepsthescore/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bessel_van/ Instagram The Body Keeps The Score: https://www.instagram.com/thebodykeepsthescore/ Wiki page: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bessel_van_der_Kolk Join the Inspired Evolution Community:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InspiredEvolution/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/InspiredEvo/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/InspiredEvolution/ Website: https://inspiredevolution.com/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Bessel van der Kolk MD spends his career studying how children and adults adapt to traumatic experiences, and has translated emerging findings from neuroscience and attachment research to develop and study a range of treatments for traumatic stress in children and adults. In 1984, he set up one of the first clinical/research centers in the US dedicated to study and treatment of traumatic stress in civilian populations, which has trained numerous researchers and clinicians specializing in the study and treatment of traumatic stress, and which has been continually funded to research the impact of traumatic stress and effective treatment interventions. He did the first studies on the effects of SSRIs on PTSD; was a member of the first neuroimaging team to investigate how trauma changes brain processes, and did the first research linking BPD and deliberate self-injury to trauma and neglect in early childhood. Much of his research has focused on how trauma has a different impact at different stages of development, and that disruptions in care-giving systems have additional deleterious effects that need to be addressed for effective intervention. In order to promote a deeper understanding of the impact of childhood trauma and to foster the development and execution of effective treatment interventions, he initiated the process that led to the establishment of the National Child Traumatic Stress Network (NCTSN), a Congressionally mandated initiative that now funds approximately 150 centers specializing in developing effective treatment interventions, and implementing them in a wide array of settings, from juvenile detention centers to tribal agencies, nationwide. He has focused on studying treatments that stabilize physiology, increase executive functioning and help traumatized individuals to feel fully alert to the present. This has included an NIMH funded study on EMDR and NCCAM funded study of yoga, and, in recent years, the study of neurofeedback to investigate whether attentional and perceptual systems (and the neural tracks responsible for them) can be altered by changing EEG patterns. His efforts resulted in the establishment of Trauma Center that consisted of a well-trained clinical team specializing in the treatment of children and adults with histories of child maltreatment, that applied treatment models that are widely taught and implemented nationwide, a research lab that studied the effects of neurofeedback and MDMA on behavior, mood, and executive functioning, and numerous trainings nationwide to a variety of mental health professional, educators, parent groups, policy makers, and law enforcement personnel. Special Guest: Bessel van der Kolk MD.
We all have trauma. And this manifests in so many ways for everyone. Some people are loud, some people go introverted. There are those who are depressed, while others are managed. And sadly, sometimes the way we let our trauma or life circumstances mess with our heads can also mess with our growth. This leads to self-sabotage that tramps upon the confidence you were supposedly born with. My guest today is Rachel Luna. She is the founder and chief confidence creator at RachelLuna.biz. She's an in-demand speaker and author of the book Successful People are Full of Crap, and currently working on her next book, Girl, Confident. Today, Rachel talks about healing from trauma, how understanding the life circumstances of other people can change the way you approach business, and how to embody the confidence within you. In this episode, you will hear: Why cancer is not a death sentence How a good memory for one person can be a painful trigger for another person 3 different ways people react to situations Why you should buy VIP tickets at events and other stuff Subscribe and Review Have you subscribed to my podcast? If the answer is no, I’d love for you to subscribe. Diary of a Doer is full of stories of business, some behind the scenes, and freaking amazing guests. If you’re feeling really generous, I’d love for you to give me a review over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps me out a ton! Supporting Resources: Visit Rachel’s website RachelLuna.biz Get your tickets to Rachel’s live event, Confidence Activated on June 5-7, 2020 in Atlanta, GA Follow Rachel on Instagram @girlconfident Rachel Luna’s books: Successful People are Full of Crap Girl, Confident Chemo and Moving Toward Scary Things With Dina Cataldo (Episode 51) Tales from the Couch of a Sex Therapist: The Birds, Bees & Business with Dr. Cheryl Fraser (Episode 33) Suicide and Entrepreneurship, The Conversation We Need to Have, But Don’t with Dennis Gillan (Episode 25) The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk MD *** Episode Credits If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment. He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com
Welcome to The Resetter Podcast, where Dr. Mindy interviews experts on everything to do with a fasting lifestyle and beyond!Katie Wells of Wellness Mama has built an incredible platform to educate people on how to raise their family with as little environmental toxins as possible.She uses fasting not only for HEALTH reasons, but also for MENTAL reasons. You can’t heal a body that’s in fight or flight crisis!In this podcast we cover: Hormone fluctuations Mind/body connection being a two-way street Why your body holds on to weight in response to trauma How excess weight is armor When pushing harder doesn’t work Different kinds of therapy (talk therapy, tapping, rage therapy, bodywork like myofascial release and rolfing) Learning to magnify what you love about your body instead of what you hate about it Enjoying exercise Using DIY natural products that work BETTER than their synthetic versions Katie Wells can be found at wellnessmama.com/ More resources:The Body Keeps The Score by Bessel van der Kolk MD: https://amzn.to/3afwC1b The Tapping Solution App: https://www.thetapp
Those who have been affected by trauma are the people who truly understand the extent of the big emotions that come with trauma. It’s refreshing when someone uses their background of self-doubt and shame to help others heal. Such is the story of today’s amazing guest, so join us to learn more! Rayah Dickerson hosts the podcast, Depth of Echoes, which is a mental health podcast that is a wonderful resource for the mental health community. Rayah is the anxious, semi-depressed wife of a guy with schizoaffective PTSD, and she’s a trauma-informed mom, ally, researcher, writer, activist, and national speaker. I was privileged to be on her show this week as Rayah interviewed me; now I’m returning the favor. She was recently diagnosed with ADHD, which is a common experience for many creatives. Show Highlights: How Rayah is intensely passionate about learning, evolving, and finding the best ways to heal from the trauma that we face every day Rayah’s husband’s mental crisis which happened 3-4 years ago and awakened Rayah to a huge need Rayah’s personal brand of intensity, which is shown in love as she figures out how to heal each person Rayah’s recent ADHD diagnosis and how it manifests itself The common thread through many people with ADHD and how they can help each other The importance of using a planner How Rayah’s experiences in childhood created a lot of internal shame, manifested in sarcasm and making her afraid to get help How Rayah was affected by her religious background, which included many rules for women The shame Rayah felt when she was told to calm down and be likable and pleasant How Rayah’s intensity is out of control in dealing with her oldest son, who also has experienced trauma How Rayah shares with people around her and tries to utilize the benefits of community How to learn useful coping techniques from people in marginalized communities Rayah’s personal habits that help her deal with her intensity The best advice Rayah received was from a nurse who told her to be an advocate in the mental health community to help others Books that helped Rayah: Surviving Schizophrenia by E. Fuller Torrey MD, The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk MD, and True Inclusion by Brandan Robertson How Rayah helps others by giving them permission to talk about their issues How Rayah helps people see that life with mental illness can still be beautiful Parting words from Rayah: “You can change your internal dialogue, improve, and heal.” Resources: Depth Of Echoes Find Rayah and Depth of Echoes on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, Patreon, and YouTube
Neale is an energy therapist and healer. He is a part of the Urban Escape Healing studio in Chicago where you can find all kind of natural ways to heal your body, mind and deal with stress, including different types of massage, reiki, acupuncture, chakra cleaning, new paradigm MDT (tune in to find out what it is…) I’ve met Neale several months ago when I was looking for an energy therapist after reading incredible book recommended to me by my regular therapist: Body Keeps The Score by Bassel van der Kolk MD. Neale has incredible gifts and ability to work with energy to help process things stored in your body and make your energy flow better. (I know, but trust me.) I’m not a medical professional nor have any medical education but strongly believe that therapies provided by Neale and Urban Escape Healing are so needed and can help many to live better life just like they are helping me. Here are links, products and companies from this episode: Urban Escape Healing https://www.urbanescapehealing.com Urban Escape Healing Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/uehealing/ Urban Escape Healing Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/uehealing Book: “Body Keeps a Score” by Bessel van der Kolk MD https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma-ebook/dp/B00G3L1C2K Bullet Proof Podcast With Dave Asprey: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/bulletproof-radio/id451295014 Blue Blocking glasses: https://www.bulletproof.com/sleep/tech/blue-light-glasses-sleep/ BluBlox glasses: https://www.blublox.com Comosystems: https://www.comosystems.com/en/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/inthegoodcompany/support
Welcome to the 5th Episode of the Dr. J Show, where we bring the world's experts to talk about the issues that face families and the faithful. Dr. Rodriguez is a general pediatrician in Tacoma, WA who sees patients from birth to college. She has a special focus on working with children, families and adults who have experienced trauma in their lives. She is a member of the American Academy of Pediatrics Committee on Child Abuse and Neglect. She is a member of the Catholic Medical Society and the Christian Medical and Dental Associations. She works in ministry to adult survivors of abuse including survivors of human trafficking. She uses a model of long-term healing and restoration. She has given presentations to community and medical groups on the science of trauma and toxic stress and on human trafficking awareness and prevention. She also facilitates peer support groups for survivors of abuse through the Maria Goretti Network in the Seattle area. She is married, mother to three children, and serves her church as lector, catechist and mentor. She contributed two chapters to the book Abuse of Trust by Allen Hebert. Resources: www.hopefulheartsministry.org (any survivor of any abuse, how to contact me www.mgoretti.org (peer support group with chapters in the US) www.adornedingracetacoma.com (ministry to prevention and restoration of human trafficking survivors and any survivor of trauma/abuse) www.mendingthesoul.org (books, support groups, lots of educational material from a Christian perspective) www.jpiihealingcenter.org (resources, retreats, Catholic) Reading Recommendations Abuse of Trust by A. Hebert; The Body Keeps the Score by B. van der Kolk MD, Be Healed by B. Schuchts; and Mending the Soul book and ministry by S. Tracy Action Item: Buy the Book, Abuse of Trust: Read it! Give it to your pastor, school principal or anyone else involved in ministry. Give it a positive review on Amazon! Follow the guidelines I will give of Trauma-Informed Ministry Realize that trauma/abuse exist and is very common Recognize the signs of trauma Respond in a trauma-informed way (using the VEEL approach) Avoid re -traumatization consider setting up a trauma-informed church/school/family to create a safe place for survivors to begin to heal
This episode is a very interesting, unusual and deep experience, as we have a very special guests today, Tata and Marina from Mayan Elders. We have collected the most inspiring and sparkling insights from our conversation – such as facing death, facing fears, connecting to our inner child and living with love and peace. So, let's get into it. This episode is full of ancient wisdom and the ultimate trut. No matter who we are, how old we are, death is something we can't escape – everyone will face it. And the beauty of this subject, the beauty of life is that you need both. Life is so special because death exists. We also talked about gratitude and why this is one of the most important aspects of our lives. Our friend Lazo Freeman introduced us to Mayan Elders and they came with Tommy, one of their students and translator. Tommy was the conduit in this deep conversation, as we discussed a very uncomfortable topic – death. Our relationship with death is what we learn from our culture, so let's dive into this mystery and learn some wisdom from other cultures and see the other perspective that we need to value more. “Open your mind towards other nations and cultures – there is so much wisdom” – Alex Ikonn Why death is the transformation of spirit? The Mayan ancestors knew that they had to die. But death for them wasn't the end, the punishment. The day they died, the body and the spirit were being separated, the spirit was being reincarnated and found another body for another life. And life continued. Mayan Elders believe that the body is born here, it grows here and here it finishes its mission. From Mayan's cosmovision, death is one of the very important energies. That's why they believe that death is nothing more than a physical change, transmutation of the spirit that, once separated from the body, keeps moving on and doesn't die. For Mayans, the spirit isn't gone, the spirit is transformed into your light, into your guide, into your starts and will take care of you. “Today we need to eliminate this fear out of our heads, because not to have doubts means not to be worried, so we will be living in a happy life and will be happy with everything. When we are worried, it makes us sick, and sickness kills us. So, there would be a good life for all humanity if we could eliminate fear and live in peace, harmony and love” – Mayan Elders Why spirit and body have to walk together? In Mayan's culture, death is the duality of life. Everything is double: there exists day and night, there is a woman and man, so there exists death and life. But physical death isn't the actual death, because often we are alive, but are dead inside. That's why Mayan Elders teach that spirit and body have to walk together. We can be alive, but if we aren't walking together with our soul, then there is a disconnection in duality of our spirit and body. Then there is fear and doubts, sickness and depression. That's why death is a transformation – it's the change, the separation. Why do we fear death? Religion taught us that after death, our soul goes to a place where it gets purified and cleaned, the paradise. For the Mayan Elders, the paradise is here, in this life, so we have to live in peace and harmony. Inside their cosmovision, gratitude is the answer to how to live this life to the fullest and be connected to our own spirit. When we are grateful for what we have in our lives, when we are thankful for another breath of life in the morning, for everything that surrounds us, when we show and actually have this respect and gratitude, then we are connected to our spirit. “When we don't have all those fears that society or religion want to put over us, we understand that the paradise and hell are right here, on the Earth, and we create them by being connected to or disconnected from our spirit” – Mayan Elders Why there is a disconnection? Tommy shared a very interesting example – when we pray, we keep asking for something. And when we have it, we don't even notice that and don't show enough respect and appreciation. The reason there is a disconnection is because we have experienced a shocking experience, an accident, a deep suffer or fear. We surround ourselves with pain, depression, fear, anxiety, sickness, and disconnect from our inner child, losing the perspective of love, harmony and gratitude. That's why the Mayan Elders believe that, basically, the disconnection comes because of our own disconnection from gratitude. When we manage to do this reconnection, it all comes back. Where the fear comes from? Fear is like a shadow for humanity, they believe. We have to search for the root of our fear and our vicious circle. Very often it comes from mother's womb, when mother had a deep fear or a spiritual disconnection, then this fear comes to the child as well. We can go to any kind of psychologist and treatments, but if we don't have this connection, then the fear comes back. The Mayan ancestors have a ceremony of healing and negotiation with the spirit of fear, but the healing itself is in finding and identifying the root of the fear, they believe. “Gratitude is our tool to solve all the problems” – Alex Ikonn What are the suggestions for people to reconnect with themselves? You make a meditation and try to answer why you have some physical or emotional disconnection. You have to start working with your inner child. When your spirit is searching for body, this is the moment when you feel loneliness and a lot of sensitivity, and you feel like you're crying. It's important to go deep with yourself, in your thoughts, and come to your inner child and ask him or her to come back. “We want peace for humanity. The lesson we want to share with this world doesn't come from books, it comes from our wisdom, knowledge, experience and spirituality” – Mayan Elders For Mayans, the brain is the nest of the spirit, and heart is the throne of the spirit, and the spirit is God and it moves them. The Mayan communities are walking around the world and delivering the message of peace, unity, equality and love. They don't speak about God, they speak with him. And Dios – God from Spanish – means ‘Thank you' in their language. Right now Mayan Elders are planning to start a crowdfunding project to raise funds for creating a bridge between the Mayan world and the modern world. 22 different tribes will come together and will share their wisdom of life in one book and give it to humanity, to help people understand themselves better and bring all the knowledge that was damaged throughout the time. If you would like to support Mayan Elders, email Tommy directly: harevismusic@gmail.com Here is what else we have discussed: How death can make us be aware and appreciate life The importance of reconnecting with this planet Earth and with ourselves Life with love and peace Why we should reframe our fears The reason we are disconnected from our inner child Life in Mayan tribes Find the books and movies we mentioned in this episode here: Movie Coco Audiobook Fear: Essential Wisdom for Getting Through the Storm by Thich Nhat Hanh The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel Van der Kolk MD
In today's #WiseGirl video podcast, I speak with trauma expert Dr. Bessel Van der Kolk, author of The Body Keeps The Score. He talks about the physiology behind what transforms trauma in the brain and body, how modalities like yoga can help transform trauma, self-awareness and curiosity about noticing what we're experiencing, how oppressive, systemic societal structures influence the degree of trauma people experience, how systems (housing, healthcare) that support greater wellbeing can help prevent trauma, and we also address who often does -- and doesn't -- have access to the kinds modalities often helpful for trauma healing. *** http://besselvanderkolk.net/index.html *** Bessel van der Kolk MD has spent his career studying how children and adults adapt to traumatic experiences, and has translated emerging findings from neuroscience and attachment research to develop and study a range of potentially effective treatments for traumatic stress in children and adults. In 1984, he set up one of the first clinical/research centers in the US dedicated to study and treatment of traumatic stress in civilian populations, which has trained numerous researchers and clinicians specializing in the study and treatment of traumatic stress, and which has been continually funded to research the impact of traumatic stress and effective treatment interventions. He did the first studies on the effects of SSRIs on PTSD; was a member of the first neuroimaging team to investigate how trauma changes brain processes, and did the first research linking BPD and deliberate self-injury to trauma and neglect in early childhood. Much of his research has focused on how trauma has a different impact at different stages of development, and that disruptions in care-giving systems have additional deleterious effects that need to be addressed for effective intervention. In order to promote a deeper understanding of the impact of childhood trauma and to foster the development and execution of effective treatment interventions, he initiated the process that led to the establishment of the National Child Traumatic Stress Network (NCTSN), a Congressionally mandated initiative that now funds approximately 150 centers specializing in developing effective treatment interventions, and implementing them in a wide array of settings, from juvenile detention centers to tribal agencies, nationwide. He has focused on studying treatments that stabilize physiology, increase executive functioning and help traumatized individuals to feel fully alert to the present. This has included an NIMH funded study on EMDR and NCCAM funded study of yoga, and, in recent years, the study of neurofeedback to investigate whether attentional and perceptual systems (and the neural tracks responsible for them) can be altered by changing EEG patterns. His efforts resulted in the establishment of Trauma Center that consist of a well-trained clinical team specializing in the treatment of children and adults with histories of child maltreatment, that applies treatment models that are widely taught and implemented nationwide, a research lab that studies the effects of neurofeedback and MDMA on behavior, mood, and executive functioning, and numerous trainings nationwide to a variety of mental health professional, educators, parent groups, policy makers, and law enforcement personnel.
Amy Oestreicher shares an open and honest conversation about PTSD and living life with PTSD. She discusses the role of creativity in a way that is not often discussed. You’ll hear of some wonderful resources in books and more in this thoughtful and helpful discussion with host Mike Domitrz. Links to Amy's book are: https://www.amazon.com/My-Beautiful-Detour-Unthinkable-Grateful/dp/1733138811/ref=redir_mobile_desktop?_encoding=UTF8&ref_=dbs_a_w_dp_1733138811 And all ebook and paperback versions are available at https://www.amyoes.com/mbd * You are invited to join our community and conversations about each episode on FaceBook at https://www.facebook.com/MutuallyAmazingPodcast and join us on Twitter @CenterRespect or visit our website at http://www.MutuallyAmazingPodcast.com** BIO of Amy Oestreicher: Amy Oestreicher is an Audie Award-nominated PTSD peer-to-peer specialist, artist, author, writer for The Huffington Post, speaker for TEDx and RAINN, health advocate, award-winning actress, and playwright. As a survivor and “thriver” of multiple traumas, Amy eagerly shares the gifts of life’s “beautiful detours” her educational programming, writing, mixed media art, performance and inspirational speaking. Amy has headlined international conferences on leadership, entrepreneurship, women’s rights, mental health, disability, creativity, and domestic violence prevention. She is a SheSource Expert, a “Top Mental Health” writer for Medium, and a regular lifestyle, wellness, and arts contributor for over 70 notable online and print publications, and and her story has appeared on NBC’s TODAY, CBS, Cosmopolitan, Seventeen Magazine, Washington Post, Good Housekeeping, MSNBC, among others. To celebrate her own “beautiful detour”, Amy created the #LoveMyDetour campaign, to help others cope in the face of unexpected events. Her passion for inclusion, equity and amplifying marginalized voices has earned her various honors, including a scholarship from the Association for Applied and Therapeutic Humor Professionals, the first annual SHERocks Herstory National Performing Artist Honoree, a United Way Community Helper award, and a National Sexual Education Grant honor. To creatively engage student advocacy efforts, Amy developed a trauma-informed program combining mental health education, sexual assault prevention, and Broadway Theatre for college campuses, organizations and conferences. She has designed a creative curriculum for “Detourist Resiliency,” an outreach program taken to schools, hospitals, and at-risk youth. She also has launched Detourist peer-led chapters on college campuses, Detourist creative arts workshops, and an online community to creatively fight stigma in society through storytelling. “Detourism” is also the subject of her TEDx Talk and upcoming book, My Beautiful Detour, available December 2017. As the 2014 Eastern Regional Recipient of Convatec’s Great Comebacks Award and WEGO Health 2016 “Health Activist Hero” Finalist, and WeGO Health Expert, Amy is a passionate voice in the ostomy community, founding the online community Fearless Ostomates, speaking for National and Regional WOCN conferences, and writing for the official print publication of the UOAA. Her presentations on alternative medicine, and patient advocacy and healthcare have also been accepted to international conferences on patient care, internal medicine, medical trauma and therapeutic humor in hospitals. She has devised workshops for the Transformative Language Arts Network National Conference, the Eating Recovery Foundation, the 40th Anniversary New England Educational Opportunity Association Milestones Conference, the Annual National Mental Health America Conference,2016 American College of Surgeons Clinical Congress, and others. She was the 2016 keynote speaker for the Hawaii Pacific Rim International Conference on Diversity and Disability. and will be the featured keynote speaker at the 2018 International School of Social Work Conference in Ohio. As a playwright, Amy has received awards and accolades for engaging her audiences in dynamic conversation on trauma’s effects on society, including Women Around Town’s “Women to Celebrate” 2014, BroadwayWorld “Best Theatre Debut,” Bistro Awards “New York Top Pick, and the “Singular Award” at the Sarasolo Theatre Festival, presented annually for a “performance that is exceptionally uncommon, groundbreaking, original and inventive.” Amy has written, directed and starred in a one-woman musical about her life, Gutless & Grateful, touring theatres, schools, festivals, conventions and organizations since it’s 2012 New York debut. Gutless & Grateful is currently being licensed to students across the country for academic projects and competitions. Amy spent Fall of 2015 participating as a playwright and performance artist in the National Musical Theatre Institute at the world-renowned Eugene O’Neill Theater Center, where she helped to develop the full-length multimedia ensemble piece, The Greeks Are Trying to Tell Us Something, and was a writer, actress, composer and set designer for “Playwrights and Librettists” – a festival of 27 30-minute plays in five days. Her original, full-length drama, Imprints, exploring the physical and psychological impact of trauma, premiered at the Producer’s Club in 2016, and is currently in development for a full New York production as Flicker and a Firestarter. Her short plays have been published by the Eddy Theatre Company and finalists in Manhattan Repertory Theatre’s Short Play Festival, as well as NYC Playwright’s Women in the Age of Drumpf. Her theatre education essays and monologues have been published in Creative Pedagogy journals, as part of a theatre curriculum for high school students in the Philippines, and as a teaching artist, she is a strong advocate for arts integration and education. Amy’s collaboration with Beechwood Arts on the immersion salon, “Resilience and the Power of the Human Spirit”, has traveled around the world to health and arts facilities as a public installation, incorporating her monologues, art, writing and recipes to express the life-altering detours and ultimately the invaluable gifts of her resilient journey. Amy is also an active artist and teacher in the Jewish community, being honored by United Way in 2005 for her music programs at Hollander House, completing artist residencies at Art Kibbutz, and delivering “Hope, Resilience & Biblical Women” keynotes for synagogues and religious schools. After studying Theatre of the Oppressed in her studies at Hampshire College, she helped to train ACTSmart, a Playback Theatre troupe in Amherst, MA. She is also a passionate arts education advocate, a successful mixed media visual artist, a continuing education studio arts teacher, and an active member of the League of Professional Theatre Women, League for Advancement of New England Storytellers, Fairfield County Cultural Alliance, Alliance for Jewish Theatre, Theatre Artist Workshop, and several art guilds throughout Connecticut and New York. Amy is currently developing a multimedia performance project incorporate her original music compositions with the oral histories of her grandmother, a holocaust survivor with musical director David Brunetti, and developing a new multidisciplinary solo musical based on herthird TEDx Talk this year: healing from trauma through the archetypal hero’s journey. She is also working on a full-length play with music, LEFTOVERS with director and dramaturge Susan Einhorn, based on her life after the surgical ICU. She is leading mixed media creativity and solo performance workshops to promote creativity as a mindset, an essential survival skill. Amy also offers creative coaching and consulting services help others navigate their own “life detours,” and prides herself most on ending each night with a gratitude list. As the creator of Gutless & Grateful, her one-women autobiographical musical, Amy has toured theatres nationwide. She also premiered her drama, Imprints, at NYC Producers Club in May 2016, about how trauma affects the family as well as the victim. Her #LoveMyDetour campaign helps others cope with unexpected events. “Detourism” is also the subject of her upcoming TEDx talk and book My Beautiful Detour. LINKS: www.amyoes.com Amy's Social Media: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/amyoestr and facebook.com/lovemydetour Linkedin: linkedin.com/in/amyoes Or you can subscribe to G+: https://plus.google.com/u/0/106058010956085677457/posts Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/amyoes70/allspice-acrylics-a-celebration-of-life-and-beauti/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/AmyOes70 Tumblr: https://www.tumblr.com/blog/amyoes stumbleupon: http://www.stumbleupon.com/stumbler/amyoes700 Bloglovin: https://www.bloglovin.com/blogs/amyoes-14356407 Twitter: @amyoes Instagram: @amyoes70 Link to R.A.I.N.N. (Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network) at www.rainn.org Books Amy Recommends: Amy’s Book: My Beautiful Detour New World Theatre’s “Solitary Voice: A Collection of Epic Monologues” Nevertheless She Persusted by Tanya Eby & 8 Others The Hero’s Journey by Joseph Campbell Waking the Tiger by Peter Levine and Ann Frederick The Courage to Heal by Laura Davis and Ellen Bass The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van der Kolk MD and Sean Pratt READ THE FULL TRANSCRIPTION of the EPISODE HERE (or download the pdf): **IMPORTANT: This podcast episode was transcribed by a 3rd party service and so errors can occur throughout the following pages: Mike: Welcome to the respect podcast. I'm your host, Mike Domitrz from mikespeaks.com, where we help organizations of all sizes, educational institutions, and the U.S. military create a culture of respect, and respect is exactly what we discuss on this show. So let's get started. This week's episode, we want to get right into it here 'cause you're going to be incredibly inspired by our guest's journey back to wholeness and reclaiming her voice using creativity as her lifeline. She gratefully discovered the upside of obstacles. Today Amy is a PTSD specialist, artist, author, Tedx, and Rain speaker, award-winning actress, a playwright, and mental health advocate. That is Amy Oestreicher. Thank you, Amy, so much for joining us. Amy: Thank you for having me. I'm excited to be here. Mike: Absolutely. And so we want to dive right into this. The show, obviously, is all about respect, but you bring a different perspective in that you talk about PTSD and trauma. And let's get right into that. So when people hear trauma and PTSD, what form, or does it matter, that you're referring to? Amy: Well, what I'm referring to is, there's trauma that comes from many setbacks and many unexpected twists and turns in my life that I didn't expect, that really didn't come to my realization until years and years later. So for PTSD, something can impact us that can completely change our lives overnight, and we might sit with that for a bit, and slowly we feel that something isn't right. I don't feel the same. And slowly those memories come to surface, and I found my way through piecing together those memories and finding healing through creativity. PTSD, for me, started, with being sexually abused by a teacher that I trusted. And an example of a symptom of PTSD is the freeze response, where you don't think anything has happened, and you kind of wake up and go about your life, and think everything's as you were, and suddenly something is off, disassociation, meaning the world is around you, and you're somewhere apart from it wondering what's going on. Amy: I did not say no or fight back, although my mind was clearly thinking those things, but I just froze. I saw myself as somewhere separate. And years later it would take a lot of work to kind of bring those memories to light and start to heal through remembering all of that. Mike: Well, one, I want to thank you for sharing your journey, your strength, your courage as a survivor. And I think this is an important topic because a lot of times when people hear freeze, they think that the natural human response is freeze or flight or fight. They tend to think, oh, most people flight or fight. They think that, and they forget that freeze is actually the most natural human reaction under stress in our DNA system as human beings, because back in the times of cave people, you did not fight the creature there was 20 times larger than you. Amy: Right, right. Mike: You either played dead, freeze, or you ran. Fight was the last thing you did. So a lot of times people hear it and they go, "Why didn't you fight?" Because it's the last innate response that the human body is likely to have because naturally it's to freeze or to run. And in certain situations, running's not an option. Child teacher, you can definitely feel like, I don't have that option. So to freeze is the natural thing to occur, and I think too often people don't realize that. Amy: Exactly. Mike: And so I think for anybody listening, thinking that, saying, "Well, why didn't the person fighter? Or what ..." Those are not innately in our DNA. So the body reacts under stress to its most innate natural things that it thinks it should do, that saved it over thousands of years of human being in existence. And that's what can happen in that moment. Is that true? Amy: It's true, and I love to bring up an amazing resource that I found that, that changed my perspective on the freeze response. It's called ... It's a book called Waking the Tiger by Peter Levine. And what caught me, and what you brought up is, Peter Levine spent a lot of time just studying animals in the wild, and he saw that a gazelle when it's kind of running free it ... And a predator attacks it, it just plays dead. And then once the attack is over, it will just get up and just run and run and run and discharge that natural energy and restore its homeostasis and be back to normal. And Peter Levine was like, "Well, why can't humans do that? Why did we get stuck in that?" And, well, we have a brain, and we think ourselves, we overthink ourselves, and we stay frozen in that nestle, that bunches of energy, when really we just need to discharge that energy like the gazelle that is running through the wild. And we need to find a healthy container to get that capsulated energy out and bring it to light. Amy: Eventually through talking about it and sharing it or whatever feels like a release to you, but he really, Peter Levine really took his cues from these animals in the wild that have this freeze response in them, and they know how to know from it. And I think the community really needs to understand what goes on in the freeze response to really support survivors and understand that this may be all tucked in and it needs to be brought to light. Mike: Yeah. And one of the problems that communities can put on survivors at times is trying to understand why the survivor did what they did, instead of not understanding, the issue is what the predator did, not with the survivor did or did not do. To focus on whether the survivor fought back or run is missing the point. It's all about what the predator did. Now we need to be supportive of the survivor so that they can, like you said, be able to live that life, to be able to live a full life. Amy: Right. Or, "Why didn't you tell someone right away?" Your words often come last. Again, It's that you think of a kaleidoscope of ... I am an artist, so I've been creatively ... colors coming together, red anxiety or anger or fear, and the person just does not have those words. I mean, it takes time. But the, I think the important first step is the community needs to be so informed of what the freeze response is and be there for their survivors and believe them. Mike: Yes, well that's essential. And it is interesting because, depending on where PTSD has been discussed, people treat it differently. Military PTSD tends to be treated differently than sexual violence PTSD that's a result of sexual violence, because the military, and I get to work with the military all over the world, we thankfully are grateful from our military. Not everybody is, but a lot of people are. So when they look at the military, they go, "There's a hero who is struggling with something that happened because they sacrificed for our country." And so therefore there's empathy, there's understanding for that person. Yet there's not always the same toward sexual violence survivors. They don't have that same. Why do you think that is? Amy: Well, you have to remember, too, that it took a long time for those stories to be told as well. My grandmother was a Holocaust survivor, and I think about how she coped just coming right out of the war before PTSD was even a word. I think for survivors of sexual violence the encouraging part is it now is becoming talked about much more than when it happened to me. And I say keep going with that. But there are more blurry lines with that, especially with what's shown to us on the media, with messages we've gotten from the past from culture and things like that. And now we're all trying to kind of make a new game plan. But it is kind of a fuzzy area because things that have seemed okay to other people in the past, well, now these survivors' stories are being told, and we see that, you know when this happened, this was not okay. Amy: So I think it's our job, to be honest, everyone's job to make those boundaries just as clear that, just as PTSD is an atrocity with certain communities, it is an atrocity with survivors of sexual violence. I'm also a survivor of PTSD from almost 30 surgeries from another unexpected medical-related crisis. And I dealt with the same thing, that once I was done with all my surgeries and stitched up and ready to go, doctors thought, well, the physical part of me was healed, so why couldn't I just move on to the rest of my life? Whenever we encounter any kind of change in our life, where our life seems to just twist overnight, we need that support from those around us to know that it's going to take time for us to process that change, and we need to talk about it. Mike: Yeah. And that's so important. And that goes into you ... In your work you talk about sharing your story and why somebody sharing their story's so important. Can you share for our listeners, our viewers, why that is such an important journey? Amy: Yes. I didn't realize how important it was. My situation was very atypical, I guess. I guess unexpected, like anyone else would, but I was 18, and just a blood clot on caused me to go into many, many surgeries that changed my life overnight. And because of medical circumstances, I was very isolated for almost a decade. And so I didn't really have many people to talk to. I had my doctors, and I had my loving parents, and that's all. But slowly I started to write a little bit, and again, another book that inspired me was Joseph Campbell learning about, uh, the archetypal hero's journey, and I actually found my way through this dark, unanticipated chapter in my life through tracing Joseph Campbell's steps to what makes a hero in society and how they have to go away for a while and then come back transformed. I mean, it's in every Pixar movie, the heroes or in your Star Wars. And so I kind of used that as my own map. And so slowly I was typing. PART 1 OF 3 ENDS [00:12:04] Amy: Use that as my own map, and so, slowly, I was typing and typing to kind of uncover what I had been through for myself. That was only a very initial step because this was still all me realizing these things for myself. Then, years later, I finally was able to share it through theater, which I had always loved doing as a kid and which I thought was going to be my life. I ended up making that story arc into a one-woman musical that I've been touring since 2012, but it's very funny. That was the first time I'd ever shared anything about what I had been through, and in the very first opening venue in New York, I said one line about the sexual abuse. And it was very difficult for me. I didn't know whether it fit in with everything else, and then, over the years, as I became more and more comfortable with that, talking about it, more people that came to see my show came up to me and said, you know, "Something similar had happened to me." And I'd started the conversation. Amy: And now, I've expanded on the show, where I do go into that a lot and the healing that came come from it and the community that can come, so, I guess, writing my show and performing it was an example, for me, of how just planting the seed of just starting your story and getting to share it and share it and talk to other people, it can make you move on or go to the next step that you need to go to. Mike: And you're a big advocate of using creativity in that process, as you've explained. Amy: Yeah. Mike: So, yeah, you created the show, a one-woman, one-person show, that really has a powerful impact. If somebody's listening, going, "I'm just not creative. I am not an artist. I am not a performer- Amy: No, no, no- Mike: -I get- Amy: -don't say that. Mike: I know. I know, but that's what people are going to thing, so- Amy: I know. Mike: -we need to address that. I think there's a misunderstanding what creativity means, so can you explain what we mean by "creativity" and why- Amy: Totally. Mike: -it's so important and can be such a great resource in the process? Amy: Yes. Creativity is really just a mindset. I couldn't talk for many months after my surgeries because I had all these things going on, tubes in and out of me, and then I couldn't talk at times where I felt too shocked at everything going around me to even say a word. And I missed singing, and I wanted to go back to that. But that's when I started ... I picked up a paint brush by accident in one of the hospitals, started just painting, but by creativity is really just a way to see things differently. So, it means just taking a walk outside, taking a breath, looking at the tree and finding grounding by a tree in a new way. It means cooking a recipe you've always loved. It means putting a little bit of that locked-up energy that you'll ... that passion that was always there before all this that can never be taken away by any kind of trauma. It just gets frozen like a gazelle. You're playing dead. Amy: Creativity is a way to unlock that clenched-up energy and just bring it forward, and don't worry about the final steps of "Well, how am I gonna tell about what happened to me?" Just focus on that, those uncomfortable feelings you might feel in the freeze response, which is the anxiety, the pain, the fear. Feel that energy and see if there's a color. Start with that and see it in the sky or something and really just ... I got to say one more time, before you start working about how we're gonna show it to the community, just focus on getting out that energy for yourself and seeing that you were in there all along. You just got bring it to life somehow. Mike: Yeah. And you can choose to never share it with the community. It could be your process for your own journey. Amy: Exactly. Mike: And that's what I love about how you're describing creativity. I have always remembered. I was speaking to a doctor, and I work with a doctor who's both general practitioner and also holistic, so both sides of the equation. Mike: And he was once saying to me, "Hey, Mike, on a scale of one to three in how you feel the world [inaudible 00:16:49] the world, you're a three, very high, like, off-the-charts three. You feel everything in the world, which means you're a high creative," and I jumped back and went "Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. I don't do art. I don't write music. I love to sing, but I'm horrible at it. Like, I do not have artistic traits." And he went, "What? You get on stage and you share with people your thoughts and ideas. That's a very creative process in how that works and how you put the thoughts together and how you connect, and you're a massive problem-solver. That's what you love to do." So, that's all creativity, so I think- Amy: Oh, yeah. Mike: -for people listening, pause and go, "Are you a problem-solver? Because if you are, that's a high-level form of creativity. You're trying to creatively come up with a solution when you're problem-solving." Amy: Exactly. Yeah. It just means taking an unexpected turn and saying, "All right. I'll go with it and see what happens." And we never know what's coming next, so if you have creativity, that is your best resource because then you can just say, "Okay, unexpected twist, I'm gonna just follow you and use my magic reassembling creativity problem-solving skills to figure out whatever comes next." Mike: Yeah. And it's very natural, as a Buddhist approach, that we let go of the outcome, right, that we be present in the journey, let go of the outcome because when you're outcome-focused, it actually kills your creativity because- Amy: And [inaudible 00:18:11] the outcome. Mike: -you're creating pressure. Right. You're saying there has to be this end result versus actually just being free to the possibilities. That's creativity. Amy: Exactly. Mike: It is freedom of possibility, so I love that conversation. Amy: Open mind. Mike: Yes. Yeah, exactly. How do you think we help society as a whole have a universal empathy when we can't relate to what somebody else has been through? Somebody hears that and goes, "Well, why didn't they do this?" Or "Why didn't they do that?" And what's happening is they're watching through their lenses. They're thinking through their lenses and thinking, "I would've done this. At least, I think I would've. So, how in the world did they do that?" How do we help people understand that empathy means, "I don't think about it how I would've done it. I think about what they must have been going through, and I will never- Amy: Right. Mike: -fully understand it 'cause I wasn't there, but at least I'm trying to be compassionate from that viewpoint?" Amy: Right. I mean, I come from an acting background, and the first thing I remember learning is awareness without judgment. We're aware of everyone else around us, of everything else around us, but we don't judge. But, with these circumstances, I think, honestly, having been through it and now supporting other survivors of violence, I really think we all need to up our game and, again, be educated on PTSD and the various responses that can only not ... not only affect the survivors themselves, but the people that care about them. It can affect other communities and things they're going through. I mean, trauma both a universal and historical and ... we'll keep going because life changes. So, I think we're all better off if we understand what can happen, and we're ... as humans, we're all always going to think, "Well, I would've done this," or "I would've said 'No,'" or "I would've ...." Amy: I think, again, we can have those thoughts, but at the end of the day, we really have to understand that this is trauma. And I want to be open to whatever this person is sharing with me or chooses to share. Mike: Yeah. Amy: It's having respect. Mike: That's just it. It's treating everybody with respect and dignity, and in the wake of sexual violence, sometimes there's destructive coping strategies that show themselves- Amy: Exactly. Mike: -for a survivor and that can amplify symptoms of PTSD. And you used the word "victimization." Couple things. Those listening, when we say "destructive," what do we mean by that 'cause they might understand what that means and how do you help somebody who's experiencing that? Amy: So, destructive coping mechanisms. I'm gonna go back to that energy that survivors feel that has not been discharged. When we carry a secret, [inaudible 00:21:14] are like poison. They burdensome. They weigh down, and so those can often be coped with in anything from drugs and alcohol to other symptoms to any other way that we can find to become numb, whether it's scrolling up and down on Facebook all day. It's any way that we are trying to ignore that energy and kind of just close off and not deal with those things, and it takes a lot of bravery and a lot of courage to really look at that energy for what it is and maybe even remember a bit of what happened and how you felt. But it's a very important part of the process because all those destructive coping mechanisms ... really, it's about energy. Think of that energy that the gazelle wishes they could be running off and around with. It's that energy we need to get out, that we feel like we have to close down. Mike: Well, and I want to step in there because I, in this line of work ... and I'm sure you run into the same thing. People come up to me and go, "I have someone close to me in my life who either I know or I highly suspect is a survivor of sexual violence, but they have not told anyone. And I can see the destructive coping strategies in their life. How do I help them?" And what happens when they ask that question is there's two approaches. There's the "How do I help them? How do I support them?" And there's the "How do I fix them?" Which are two very different approaches. Amy: Yeah. [inaudible 00:23:02] true. Mike: Help and support is what people need. Being fixed is never gonna work with a human being. You don't fix people. I've made that mistake of trying to be a fixer in my life over [inaudible 00:23:12]. There were times, where I looked back, when I was trying to fix the person versus be supportive of the person, so how do we, instead of trying to fix them, how do we provide support when it's ... they're not asking for it? They have not come forward. I mean, verbally, asking for it. They're not outwardly saying, "Will you support me? Will you help me?" They haven't even told anyone that they are struggling with this. How do you help and support that person? Amy: And, honestly, they're role is very, very different because I think it's human instinct to want to fix people. When we see people struggling, we want to reach out, and we want to help them so badly. Surprisingly, the best way to help and support is not such a hands-on, fixing approach as you might have wanted. It's to really just ... being there as- PART 2 OF 3 ENDS [00:24:04] Amy: It's really just being there as a listener, as a gentle, compassionate listener. And if you need to say, "I believe you" ... It's taking in the words they're saying or whatever they're giving you. Mike: Yeah, because they might not tell you. They might not be in a believe you moment, because they might not tell you. And that's why saying that I'm here for you. If anything ever has happened or ever does, that's the language we teach our audiences. If anybody ever has or does. That way you're opening the door to possibilities of what could've already happened or what could happen in the future. It's so important for the person to understand, I'm here for you. And then the tough part is, you have to be patient. Amy: Right. Mike: Because they may not want to tell you for ten years, and that's their journey. It's not your right to invade and change their journey on them. Or ever. Or maybe they want to tell you right then, but it's their journey which means you have to be patient and understand this isn't about me finding out, or me being told. It's about them and being present for them. Amy: Yeah. And for those of you that are listening going, "That's it?" I get it, it's so simple and it's so difficult to just leave it at that, just be there. But it's that support. I always go back to theater and military veterans that the Greek plays of Sophocles about war and all those things. Those were originally meant for veterans of the war to come in and share their story to the community to get that community compassion, to have people know what they were going through. And there are other rituals that we still do today like dancing and group singing and all those things that show that our need for community is so important. So, survivors of sexual violence, if you feel kind of that no one in the community understands you, please know that coming back to the community is just such an important part of healing, even if it's scary. And for those that see these people struggling, just welcome them in and don't ask questions, don't demand answers. Just, we need to stay welcome with open arms. Mike: I love that you pointed out "Don't ask questions." Because that sounds like you're prying and you're investigating, which can very quickly turn into ... whether intentional or not, unintended victim-blaming is what can happen there. Amy: Right. Mike: So just listening is so important. Now, a great resource out there that you speak for, you're a RAINN speaker, is RAINN. Which for anybody listening is Rape Abuse and Incest National Network, RAINN.org. They also have an eight hundred number on their website, and you can call them and it's actually 656-HOPE, I think, is the eight hundred number. But you can call, you can email, and they'll hook you up with resources locally that are confidential and twenty-four seven. They can tell you what those are, but they can also just start by being there for you. It's a great organization. What are some additional resources that you feel are vital for survivors to know if somebody's listening right now and is experiencing PTSD? Amy: Right. So, first of all, I can't say enough good things about RAINN. They will connect you to anything ... and anonymously. I know a lot of people who are worried about saying who they are or saying who they feel the perpetrator was. You don't have to worry about that. They will take you wherever you are right now. Some books that really helped me again were Waking the Tiger by Peter Levine. He started this whole kind of therapy with the body called somatic experiencing, which is all about using breath work to really feel your body again. And another book that helped me understand is called The Body Keeps the Score by Dr. Bessel Van Der Kolk. But in terms of online resources, PTSD.org, there are so many resources there. Mike: So you just said that's PTSD.org? Amy: Yes. Mike: Okay, I just want to make sure we have all that on our show notes, for anybody who's listening so they can find that there. Amy: Right. And again, any of these places will connect you to someone ... Oh, no, that's not even there anymore. Oh my God. I will have to send you a new link for that. I'm sorry about that. Mike: Which link are you referring to? Amy: I was actually referring to PTS- Mike: Oh, yes, you're right, I see that now. There's nothing there. So that's okay, we'll have the link to RAINN- Amy: I will get you- Mike: -and we'll have links to all the books you've brought up, we'll have that in the show notes. Let's get into some more books here that you recommend for people. One is your own, your book, My Beautiful Detour. Another one is New World Theater Solitary Voice: A collection of epic monologues. And then you have Nevertheless We Persisted by Tanya Eby and others. If you want to dive in, why those three books? Obviously we'll start with yours, My Beautiful Detour. Amy: That's on pre-order now, I'm very excited for that because it is the whole story of a long-winded detour and lots of PTSD, where I felt very isolated and felt like no one understands me, I can't reach out for help, who would get this? But then how all this creativity ... and I say "creativity" in this general term of a mindset, kind of figuring this out as I went along ... how that really helped me along my journey. And eventually how I was able to reach out. I talk about being a detourist, where you see a detour in the path and you find a little creativity and find your way through. So besides talking about my story and how I healed, I also have a lot of really good plans for when life crashes over night and you need to find a way out again. So, I hope it's helpful. Mike: Absolutely. Well, I appreciate that. It's in a pre-order so it's still on its way, but people can get it now, so as soon as it comes out. And then, New World Theater Solitary Voice: A collection of epic monologues. What about that one? Amy: Well, again, I listed these because, again, the monologue that I wrote for this is actually how I originally discovered I was sexually abused, by picking up a book on a bookshelf, which is really the important resource that I wanted to bring up called The Courage to Heal, Laura Davis, and I'll have to ... The Courage to Heal really saved my life. It's a workbook for survivors of sexual violence and since then there have been editions for their caretakers to fill out with the survivors. There have been many recent versions, but I can't say enough about the book, The Courage to Heal. So, this book that just came out has a monologue where I talk about that first time that I take that up. Amy: And then this last, Nevertheless We Persisted, is actually a collection. It was nominated for an Audie Award this spring of monologues and stories about finding a voice in total darkness. So I hope those performances are very inspiring, as well. Mike: No, I appreciate that. And your book and your stories, you're getting the messages out there. Now, the one book that you just mentioned, The Courage to Heal, if somebody's looking for that, there's two different versions by completely different authors. There's How to Overcome Sexual Abuse and Childhood Trauma. There's also A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse. Which one were you referencing? Amy: Right. So I was referencing the one that originally changed my life by Laura Davis and Ellen Bass. Mike: Got it, the Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse, okay. Amy: Right. Mike: Just so our listeners are hearing, I want to make sure we give them the right one. And we'll have that in the show notes, we're going to have all these in the show notes. Amy: Yes. Mike: So I want to thank you so much, Amy. Amy: Thank you. Mike: For everyone listening, this is Amy Oestriecher. Amy: Hi. Mike: Our show notes will have all of the links to Amy, 'cause she gave us a lot for social media. All these books, I'm going to have it all there so you can find it all there. Remember you can also jump in this discussion on Facebook, we have a discussion group called The RESPECT Podcast discussion group, jump in there on the conversation, subscribe on iTunes. We love it if you leave a review, too, that always helps. So, Amy, thank you so much for joining us. Amy: Thank you. Thank you. Mike: Thank you for joining us for this episode of The RESPECT Podcast, which was sponsored by The DATE SAFE Project at datesafeproject.org. And remember, you can always find me at mikespeaks.com. PART 3 OF 3 ENDS [00:33:25]
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