Podcasts about sacred intimate

Natasha is joined by Dr. Betty Martin to discuss consent on this episode of the Natasha Helfer Podcast.  The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent is based on the work of Betty Martin, over her 30+ years of working hands-on with patients, clients, and students. Over the last couple of years, she has been graciously assisted by Robyn Dalzen, who helped her get the book over the finish line.   Dr. Betty Martin has had her hands on people professionally for over 40 years, first as a Chiropractor and upon retiring from that practice,  as a certified Surrogate Partner, Sacred Intimate, and Somatic Sex Educator.  Her explorations in somatic-based therapy and practices informed her creation of the framework, The Wheel of Consent®. As part of her work with the School of Consent, Betty travels around the world teaching practitioners how to create empowered agreements in their client sessions, in her highly sought-after training “Like A Pro: The Wheel of Consent for Practitioners.”  Originally developed as an offering to teach much-needed consent skills to sex workers and touch providers, this training is now attended by somatic therapists, massage therapists, sexuality educators, medical and health care workers, activists, human resources folks and the spectrum of touch-based professional providers – all of whom complete the training with a clear understanding of how consent starts with our own bodies, and then expands outwards into all forms of human relating, with or without touch. To help keep this podcast going, please consider donating at natashahelfer.com and share this episode. To watch the video of this podcast, you can subscribe to Natasha's channel on Youtube and follow her professional Facebook page at natashahelfer LCMFT, CST-S. You can find all her cool resources at natashahelfer.com. This podcast addresses many topics around mental health and sexuality and may not be suitable for minors. Some topics may elicit a trigger or emotional response so please care for yourself accordingly. The views, thoughts and opinions expressed by our guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect the views or feelings of Natasha Helfer or the Natasha Helfer Podcast. We provide a platform for open and diverse discussions, and it is important to recognize that different perspectives may be shared. We encourage our listeners to engage in critical thinking and form their own opinions. The intro and outro music for these episodes is by Otter Creek. Thank you for listening. And remember: Symmetry is now offering Ketamine services. To find out more, go to symcounseling.com/ketamine-services.

Sex and religion. For many, especially gay men, and even more so for gay men who are religious leaders, the thought of erotic pleasure is a "No, no!" Really? Why is that and who made it that way? Exploring the concept that we are all erotic and spiritual beings who desire pleasure, turns the tables on this kind of archaic thinking. You can be erotic, sexual, have desires, and seek pleasure while still holding sacred your relationship with your faith and God. Repeat Guest Craig Cullinane, coach and Body Electric facilitator, guides us to find the intersectionality of sex and faith in this provocative conversation. In this episode: Learn how to make sex a sacred experience Uncover techniques for releasing religious shame around sex and sexuality Discover how opening the door to erotic pleasure can positively impact all areas of your life About Craig Craig Cullinane (He, Him) is a Body Electric facilitator, life coach, and Sacred Intimate focusing on embodiment, pleasure, and the awakening of the Sacred. You can learn more about Craig at craigcullinane.com. For 6 years, Craig was the Director of Programming for Rehabilitation Through The Arts (RTA), inviting incarcerated people into a process of growth and healing through artistic expression. Craig holds a Master's degree in Service, Leadership, and Management from the SIT Graduate Institute. Connect With Craig Body Electric 101 - Starts September 19th Healing the Sacred Erotic Connection - (in-person, Nov 19-22, outside Kansas City, MO) Website Body Electirc Website Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you're going to do, but never do? Then it's time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

*** We highly recommend you download and review The Wheel of Consent diagram as you listen to this episode. You can download it here for free: https://www.schoolofconsent.org/downloads OWNURSH!T together with Get Help Israel are happy to launch the Relational Aid series, a number of real and raw talks that seek to offer couples practical tools that will help them push past surviving into thriving through these trying times. Join us as we talk to Dr. Betty Martin, Chiropractor, intimacy coach and best selling author of The Wheel of Consent. We will explore how partners can update and renegotiate intimate boundaries in times of trauma. For more on Dr. Assael and Galit Romanelli: https://www.potentialstate.com https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationships https://open.spotify.com/show/2Z6xnOpBznX7Y9Tf5VMx2z https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uw Dr. Betty Martin started as a Chiropractor and upon retiring from that practice,  as a certified Surrogate Partner, Sacred Intimate, and Somatic Sex Educator.  Her explorations in somatic-based therapy and practices informed her creation of the framework, The Wheel of Consent®. As part of her work with the School of Consent, Betty travels around the world teaching practitioners how to create empowered agreements in their client sessions. https://bettymartin.org/ https://wheelofconsentbook.com/ To download the Wheel of Consent which Betty talk describes go here: https://www.schoolofconsent.org/downloads

In this week's episode we tap deep into the trust, desire, intimacy, and vulnerability that come from relationality. Betty Martin offers her vast knowledge of bodywork, somatics, and consent to give listeners insight into what she calls “The Wheel of Consent,” a quadrant that details a practice of giving and receiving. Betty reminds us that access is a gift. No one is born with the knowledge of how to give and receive in the “perfect” way, rather we must learn and feel together – navigating boundaries and allowing ourselves to find what feels right. Intimacy is a deeply vulnerable act, and Betty discusses how we can create a sense of acceptance and safety as we root in our bodies rather than societal expectations.Throughout the conversation, Betty emphasizes that consent should be the baseline for interaction, not just in intimate relationships but in the world writ large. The questions we ask and the people we include in conversations about consent matter. Only in knowing our limits as individuals, as a society, and as a part of the more-than-human world can we find the true meaning of trusting ourselves, of tapping into generosity, and of comfort. Dr. Betty Martin has had her hands on people professionally for over 40 years, first as a Chiropractor and upon retiring from that practice, as a certified Surrogate Partner, Sacred Intimate, and Somatic Sex Educator. Her explorations in somatic-based therapy and practices informed her creation of the framework, The Wheel of Consent®. She wrote a book about it, called "The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent", and travels the world teaching other practitioners how to use the practices and the model to keep their clients safe, and their sessions effective and satisfying.Music by Roehind and Vaughn Aed.Visit our website at forthewild.world for the full episode description, references, and action points.Support the show

Andre Lazarus is a Certified Sex & Intimacy Coach, Sacred Intimate & Certified Sacred Feminine Touch Practitioner. Learn more about him and his offerings at www.coming-closer.com Follow this link to access his upcoming online course for men - Talented Loverhttps://opentomore.mykajabi.com/talentedlover - and use this promo code RINA for a discount. ------------------Rina is a shibari artist, tantric bodyworker, former Dominatrix, and extreme sports athlete, learner of ancient traditions and intrepid explorer of consciousness. She guides people to their core, creating safe spaces for healing and self-discovery.This podcast is for courageous seekers like her, exploring meaning and spiritual illumination in the midst of life's intensity. Get ready to be inspired, amazed, and transformed!Get Access to Rina's Free meditations, Workshops, Shibari tutorials and morehttps://www.subscribepage.com/free-workshops-libraryIf you enjoy this episode, leave a 5-star rating and review the podcast on Apple Podcast and Spotify or send a DM to me on Instagram Rina TreviLet's Connect!Website: https://www.vulnerabilitycoaching.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rina_trevi/Tantric BDSM Online Course: https://underline.world/Why Sacred Feminine Touch Ceremony - Practitioner's Training https://www.suhai.world/Shibari Weekends - intimatelytied.com

 To what extent are you sexually repressed? Do you have a hard time talking about sex? Body parts? Can you ask for what you want in bed? Do you even know what you want? Great sex is an important part of a satisfying relationship. Find out more about how to level up the sexual part of your relationship in this episode of The Evolved Caveman. Topics covered:How to bring playfulness into your sex life.Sex Outside the Lines: How we can explore all that is possible in the bedroom.The blocks that prevent us from exploring sexually.How to turn shame into the erotic.The importance of consent in sex and how to do so.The difference between erotic energy and sexual energy. Why sex is such a taboo topic and how to overcome the discomfort in speaking about it.How to develop greater intimacy with your partner.About Dr. John's Guest:Are you looking to unleash your inner passion and take your relationships to the next level? Look no further than Court Vox, a certified sex and intimacy coach and surrogate partner intern. His work as a Sacred Intimate is based in Los Angeles and he is a member of the World Association of Sex Coaches. As a founder of The Body Vox and co-founder of SQUIRM, Court is dedicated to helping individuals discover and explore their sexuality in a safe and healthy manner. He is also part of a team of sex educators who have created the renowned program for women, Back to the Body, which runs retreats worldwide.If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word!  

Court Vox provides personal guidance and expertise in the unique and often ignored areas of sex. Court is a trained Sex and Intimacy Consultant, Surrogate Partner Intern and Sacred Intimate. His approach is personal and necessary.Founder of his practice, The Body Vox, he brings professional opportunities for his clients to learn about and embrace their bodies and those of others. Sex, the thing the world is now acknowledging as so important for our general wellness, mental health and indeed our lives is on the agenda. While much progress has been made it is still too often a taboo subject. Court serves as the counselor of our times breaking down the walls of shame and anxiety around intimacy and sex.In This EpisodeCourt's websiteSacred RetreatCourt's online community: Invitations to Intimacy---What's new with The Trauma Therapist Project!The Trauma 5: gold nuggets from my 700+ interviewsThe Trauma Therapist Newsletter: a monthly resource of information and inspiration dedicated to trauma therapists.This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5739761/advertisement

Normalizing Sex - Talking With a Sacred Intimate Practitioner How did he choose this career path – or did it choose him? From the military to tech to surrogate partner.   Thanks to our sponsor Sprout Pharmaceuticals addyi.com/notbroken   Thanks to our sponsor Uber Lube 10% off, Code NOTBROKEN  uberlube.com   What is the difference between Surrogate Partner Therapy and Sexological Bodywork? His approach uses the theory that sexual energy manifests in your body, not your mind – tips for people to access and be comfortable with their body. Tips for communicating. He discusses what a sacred intimate is. How he works with trauma. His definition of sex. The top reason men and women seek out his work.  How do people stay intimately connected when life gets busy? So many disempowered people – where do you start?  What is consensual non-monogamy and what does he wish people knew about it?  What he wishes doctors and therapists knew about his job?  www.instagram.com/comingcloserwithandre www.coming-closer.com   Did you get my “You Are Not Broken” Book Yet? https://amzn.to/3p18DfK Listen to my Tedx Talk: Why we need adult sex ed Join my NEW Adult Sex Ed Master Class: https://www.kellycaspersonmd.com/adult-sex-ed   Join my membership to get these episodes ASAP when they are created and without advertisement and even listen live to the interviews and episodes. www.kellycaspersonmd.com/membership --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message

Talking about flirting and creepiness with men can be challenging sometimes. I've heard folks literally say you can't even flirt anymore because it could lead to negative consequences. Today, I'm going to chat about the difference between flirting and creepiness. Spoilers: it's all about the dynamic between two people, not about what one person is communicating. Our guest today is Andre Lazarus, an Intimacy and Sex coach, a Surrogate Partner, and a Sacred Intimate with over 10 years of experience in non monogamy. His new project is the Open to More: How to Navigate Consensual Non-monogamy course at https://coming-closer.com/. You can find him @comingcloserwithandre on social media. Now let's talk about fragility, defensiveness, and creepiness - and best of all, how to do your best to avoid them and channel accountability, consent, and nurturance here on Intimate Interactions. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/intimate-interactions/message

Himeros.tv creator Davey Wavey is joined by sex and intimacy coach Finn Deerhart and drag queen Mossy Stone in a conversation about stolen cultural artefacts, male fragility, taking on the role of a sacred intimate, and more!

Court Vox is a trained Sex and Intimacy Consultant and Sacred Intimate. Founder of his practice The Body Vox, he brings opportunities for his clients to learn about and embrace their bodies and the bodies of others. Court's work breaks down the walls of shame and anxiety around intimacy and sex. Vox is a sex educator and is experienced working with clients of all sexualities and genders. He offers workshops around the world. In this interview we talk about Court's very diverse career path all leading up to becoming a sex coach. We explore the parallels of entering trance space while performing as a musician, and finding that same space while exploring eroticism and sexuality. We look at how we can use eros to connect with a bigger part of ourselves and show up in all our fullness. Next we get into some discussion on self-pleasure practices as a meditative practice to shut off the mind (and we even discuss where pornography fits in with all that). We end the interview diving into the power of group work (like at retreats) as a means to help folks see the truth of who they are and the impact they're making. Here's a link for the upcoming Prism festival: https://www.cielos.co/pryzmAnd for other ways to connect with Court check out: https://thebodyvox.com/To connect with Wil, click: https://www.wil-fullyliving.com/Support the show

Dr. betty martin has had her hands on people professionally for over 40 years, first as a Chiropractor and upon retiring from that practice, as a certified Surrogate Partner, Sacred Intimate, and Somatic Sex Educator. Her explorations in somatic-based therapy and practices informed her creation of the framework, The Wheel of Consent®. As part of her work with The School of Consent, betty travels around the world teaching practitioners how to create empowered agreements in their client sessions, in her highly sought-after training “Like A Pro: The Wheel of Consent for Practitioners.” Originally developed as an offering to teach much-needed consent skills to sex workers and touch providers, this training is now attended by somatic therapists, massage therapists, sexuality educators, medical and health care workers, activists, human resources folks and the spectrum of touch-based professional providers – all of whom complete the training with a clear understanding of how consent starts with our own bodies, and then expands outwards into all forms of human relating, with or without touch. Dr. Kate and Dr. betty talk about the 3 Minute Game: founded on two questions: "What do you want me to do to you?" and "What do you want to do to me?" which uncover so much, including how detached we are from knowing what we really want and what we are truly comfortable with. We learn that until we get in touch with what we want, it is difficult to give and receive authentically. And until that, we are potentially giving and receiving but actually getting resentful and angry, as we stand disconnected from our wants, and performing to what we believe our partner wants, acting as if it is all good. Learn tools to discover more about yourself and your sexual or non-sexual giving and receiving with a partner, co-worker, client, etc. It can be liberating step toward balanced relationships. __ Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ Visit www.modernintimacy.com

Today we're talking about sexual surrogacy: what is it, who does it, how does it work, and is it sex work. Andre Lazarus, a Surrogate Partner and Sacred Intimate himself with over 10 years of experience in non monogamy, joins us to give us the goods. His new project is the Open to More: How to Navigate Consensual Non-monogamy course at https://coming-closer.com/. You can find him @comingcloserwithandre on social media. Resources IPSA (International Professional Surrogacy Association) https://www.surrogatetherapy.org/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/intimate-interactions/message

Dr. Betty Martin joins the ladies to talk about BDSM consent and the conversation touches on so much more. Meet this fascinating person who has been a chiropractor for years and is now a sex and touch coach, certified Surrogate Partner, Sacred Intimate, Somatic Sex Educator and author of the book: The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent.The conversation includes:Issues of consent for sex workers and other touch professionalsWhy getting a “yes” isn't enough, consent needs to be about mutual agreementHow to apply to Wheel of Consent to Distance Domination and phone sexHow the role of context and meaning makes all the difference with experiences.Dr. Betty brings up the 3 minute game popular in the BDSM world. That's where 2 (or more) people take turns saying, “What do you want me to do to you for three minutes?” and “What do you want to do to me for 3 minutes?” Ms Erika asks how to use the Wheel of Consent with Distance Domination as an online Femdom Mistress.The ladies all talk about the value of working with a lot of clients as a sex worker. Experience and skill level really matters with all kinds of intimate experiences including distance domination and phone sex.Dr. Betty talks about her transition from chiropractor to sex coach to, now, self defined sex worker. Learn what a sacred intimate does. The ladies have a candid conversation about sex worker and who does sex work. Ms Erika tears up talking about her close relationship with a disabled man who thoroughly enjoys erotic humiliation at the hands of a Mean Mistress. Ms Olivia says she thinks of sex work as a calling and a passion.The ladies cover a lot of topics, have a bunch of laughs and, hopefully, inspire you to think about the role of sex workers in your own lives.

What if embracing your sexuality could lead to a happier, more fulfilling life? Join Heather as she explores this captivating topic with the amazing Court Vox, a Certified Sex & Intimacy Coach, who shares his journey from corporate life to a career in sex therapy and his current work with Back to the Body. Court's expertise in somatic practices and experiences navigating a field that's often shrouded in stigma will leave you with newfound insights on the importance of connecting with our bodies and sexuality.As parents, we're faced with unique challenges when it comes to discussing sex and drugs with our kids, and this episode delves into strategies for having these crucial conversations. They also examine the commonalities between straight women and queer men in conforming to a masculine cultural narrative, and the importance of self-care and self-growth as essential aspects of being a good parent. You'll even learn about the evolving concepts of gender and sexuality, and how creating more inclusive and expansive possibilities can benefit everyone.About our Guest:Court Vox is a Certified Sex & Intimacy Coach Surrogate Partner Intern, and Sacred Intimate based in Los Angeles CA . He is a member of the World Association of Sex Coaches, Founder of The Bodyvox, and Co-Founder of SQUIRM. He is a guide for a vast spectrum of individuals and those in relationship/s seeking more in their erotic and intimate lives. When it comes to human connection and sexuality, some are beginning their journey while others have been pursuing erotic education and experiences for years. Court works gently with first-timers, as well as offers uncommon experiences to some of the world's most well known sex educators and change-makers across multiple fields and disciplines. Court has become known for offering private, highly customized, exclusive experiences and travels extensively hosting and teaching workshops for all bodies, genders, and orientations. Court is also part of an elite team of sex educators that create the celebrated program for women, Back to the Body, which runs retreats all across the globe.https://thebodyvox.com/https://backtothebody.org/Connect with Heather:Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com/solutionsJoin the Just Breathe Community! https://member.chrysalismama.com/just-breathe-community-membershipText Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit!Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone!Learn how you can make an impact: https://linktr.ee/chrysalismama

What happens when you mix religious trauma, sexual trauma, and physical trauma that gets in the way of having great sex? A very expensive therapy bill. But when therapy just isn't enough, call on Court Vox, Certified Sex & Intimacy Coach, Surrogate Partner Intern, and Sacred Intimate to help you with you get back in touch with your cock. Coaching has never looked this sexy before.Follow Court's socials:InstagramCoachingWebsiteCourt's Intimacy ProgramCONTENT WARNING: mention of sexual assault______________________________________________________________________________How to support this show and help keep the show free!Use code SEX ED WITH TIM (no spaces) at any of the below sites for awesome discounts!Get 15% all regular priced items off when you shop at Love ShopKink closet need a glow up? Head to dalekuda.com for 25% off your entire purchase plus free shipping.And check the affiliates below!Fuck like a porn star with these PornHub Toys.Need a brand-spankin' new sex toy? Find your fun with Lovehoney.Want to enhance your oral sex experience? Naturally change the way you taste with Taste Vita.______________________________________________________________________________Email: timlagman@sexedwithtim.comFollow Tim on all social media!Instagram: @sexedwithtimFacebook: Sex Ed With TimTwitter: and @sexedwithtimVoicemail: SpeakpipeVisit my website Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today we're talking about expectations around strength, support, and staying composed. Join myself and Andre Lazarus as we chat about open communication, masculinity, and non monogamy. Andre is an Intimacy and Sex coach, a Surrogate Partner, and a Sacred Intimate with over 10 years of experience in non monogamy. His new project is the Open to More: How to Navigate Consensual Non-monogamy course at https://coming-closer.com/. You can find him @coming closerwithandre on social media. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/intimate-interactions/message

Court Vox's practice, The Body Vox, provides coaching for Sexual Wellness and Intimacy.He is a Certified Sex & Intimacy Coach Surrogate Partner Intern, and Sacred Intimate based in Los Angeles CA. He is a member of the World Association of Sex Coaches, Founder of The Bodyvox, and Co-Founder of SQUIRM. He is a guide for a vast spectrum of individuals and those in relationships seeking more in their erotic and intimate lives.  When it comes to human connection and sexuality, some are beginning their journey while others have been pursuing erotic education and experiences for years.Court works gently with first-timers, as well as offers uncommon experiences to some of the world's most well-known sex educators and change-makers across multiple fields and disciplines. Court has become known for offering private, highly customized, exclusive experiences and travels extensively hosting and teaching workshops for all bodies, genders, and orientations. Court is also part of an elite team of sex educators that create the celebrated program for women,  Back to the Body, which runs retreats all across the globe.Dr. Kate and Court talk about ways to awaken our sexual selves by breath, movement, and sound. And addressing concerns such as body shame & awareness, boundary-setting, communication, and feeling stuck in sexual roles and identities. They also address the importance of listening to your body to hear what it needs, as well as feeling empowered to say what you need to your partner.Court's website is: www.TheBodyvox.comWebsite: www.modernintimacy.com Dr. Kate Balestrieri Modern Intimacy

If you are tired of shoving your sexual curiosity into the closet, then today's podcast is for you. No more need for shame around being a sexualy, erotic, intimate being. Those are all elements of who we are as human beings and those beautiful characteristics show up for all of us in different ways. Guiding us to step out of our boxes of sex, intimacy and the erotic, Certified Sex and Intimacy Coach Court Vox invites all parts of our sexual selves to the table for a delicious buffet of being sexual human beings, regardless of age, race, gender, or sexual orientation. About Court Court Vox is a Certified Sex & Intimacy Coach, Surrogate Partner Intern, and Sacred Intimate based in Los Angeles CA . He is a member of the World Association of Sex Coaches, Founder of The Body Vox, and Co-Founder of SQUIRM. He is a guide for a vast spectrum of individuals and those in relationship's seeking more in their erotic and intimate lives. When it comes to human connection and sexuality, some are beginning their journey while others have been pursuing erotic education and experiences for years. Court works gently with first-timers, as well as offers uncommon experiences to some of the world's most well known sex educators and change-makers across multiple fields and disciplines. Court has become known for offering private, highly customized, exclusive experiences and travels extensively hosting and teaching workshops for all bodies, genders, and orientations. Court is also part of an elite team of sex educators that create the celebrated program for women, Back to the Body, which runs retreats all across the globe. Explore Courts Offerings Sacred: 6 night/5 Day Retreat in San Miguel de Allende, Mexico CONNECT San Francisco: 3 Day Workshop Prysm Festival - July 21-23 Get a 25% Discount on Sensation Toys Using MEN40 Discount Code Connect With Court Website Instagram Upcoming Events Sacred Men's Retreat, San Miguel de Allende, MX: Sept 17-23 Connect San Francisco Workshop: May 5-7 Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you're going to do, but never do? Then it's time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on…

Jaylala's story As a young girl, I always seemed to get unwanted attention from men, usually much older than myself. Over the years I married and divorced, with another 8-year relationship happening after that. When I decided to get back into the dating scene, it was the time that online dating was just beginning. I was impressed, wow! I thought of so many wonderful men to meet. HaHa. Little did I know the dating world had changed a great deal since my divorce. Online dating turned into a cesspool of shallow, ego-driven, manipulative men that were only interested in one-sided superficial encounters. Instead of getting to know me, the conversation would immediately turn to misogynistic, disparaging sexual remarks about my appearance or their expectations for a date. I am no prude, but a lack of respect and boundaries had me running for the hills. I knew that it was not for me and immediately shut down my accounts. I knew there had to be something better. Have any of you had the same encounters? Many women I know suffer the same experiences. That's when I learned about Tantra. As I dove more into this approach, I realized that sex was not just a physical act, but an emotional, spiritual, and sacred practice. I found there were men that were not closed off to their hearts and souls, respected women, and understood the importance of boundaries and consent. I now have an overall understanding that sex is something that is sacred and I have shut down my online accounts for good. I now practice Tantra as a way of life and teach others the same. Jaylala- Tantra Coach and Sacred Intimacy Educator Supporting men, women and couples unlocks the magic potential of their own sacred sexuality * Specializing in Spiritual growth, Self-love, Relationship development, Sacred Intimate connections, Sexual trauma, Sex, and Porn Addictions * Guidance for MEN negotiating the sometimes difficult dating and relationship paradigm, assistance with ED, premature ejaculation, healing of trauma, specializing in sexual and porn addictions. * Empowerment for WOMEN with direction to unlock the sensuality of their own bodies and arousal centers, help to heal sexual trauma, and effectively communicate around sex, boundaries, and consent. * Belly Dance instructor for 30+ years guiding women to love their bodies no matter age or size through dance and sensual movement. Connect with Jaylala Jaylala is located in Toronto, Ontario, Canadaphone number: +1 (289) 812-2338Hub: https://bio.link/jaylalaWebsite: http://www.torontotantra.ca/jaylala.htmlInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/consciousvibrationshealing/LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaylala-lee-05527732/Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/heartandsoultantraFacebook profile: https://www.facebook.com/janice.lee.9619Twitter: https://twitter.com/Conscious_vibeEmail: info@cvsoul.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@jaylala6338 Get full access to Gemma's Gem blog & Real Talk Real Women podcast at gemmasgem.substack.com/subscribe

I adored today's guest and the chat we had and I am sure you will too. Court Vox worked in creative development and editorial direction for big corporations like Yahoo! Maker Studios, and Disney. He made the leap five years ago to begin transitioning out of corporate and three years ago he become a sex and intimacy coach full time.As his bio states.... 'Let's talk about sex. Court Vox provides personal guidance and expertise in the unique and often ignored areas of sex. Vox is a trained Sex and Intimacy Consultant, Surrogate Partner Intern and Sacred Intimate. His approach is personal and necessary. Founder of his practice The Body Vox, he brings professional opportunities for his clients to learn about and embrace their bodies and those of others. Sex, the thing the world is now acknowledging as so important for our general wellness, mental health and indeed our lives is on the agenda. While much progress has been made it is still too often a taboo subject. Court serves as the counselor of our times breaking down the walls of shame and anxiety around intimacy and sex.'Hope you enjoy Courts story and end up with a skip in your step as I did! www.thebodyvox.comwww.backtothebody.orgInstagram @courtvox Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What is consensual nonmonogamy? What are the biggest mistakes people make when opening up their relationship? How can we handle the fear of losing our partner? Find out in this week's episode of The Learn to Love Podcast, where your host Zach Beach interviews Andre Lazarus and Susannah Rose For more on this episode click here: https://www.the-heart-center.com/ep-107-consensual-non-monogamy-with-andre-lazarus-and-susannah-rose/ Learn more about your guest below: SUSSANAH ROSE: After serving as a Marine Corps Officer through two combat tours in Afghanistan, Susannah experienced a profound spiritual awakening to find her flow. Now she serves as a dedicated "Warrior for Peace" and Embodied Consciousness Guide. She co-founded House of Metamorphosis, a 508(c)1a (pending) organization that offers healing retreats and transformative coaching programs. Through this work, she guides others in Sacred Medicine Ceremony to align their spiritual and human selves, so they may remember purpose and find deep connection with their Self and Others. ANDRE LAZARUS: Andre Lazarus is a Certified Intimacy, Sex and Relationship Guide, trained Surrogate Partner, as well as Sacred Intimate with 9+ years of experience helping individuals and couples discover their intimate and erotic power. As a multisexual being experienced in Consensual Non-Monogamous dynamics, Andre's unique approach to sexuality, sensuality and the bond people share make him a thought leader and knowledgeable practitioner. Andre specializes in erotic desire, sexless relationships, sexual trauma healing, erectile concerns, rapid ejaculation, bdsm, consensual non-monogamy, and more. Learn more at - www.coming-closer.com - https://opentomore.mykajabi.com/ - https://www.instagram.com/comingcloserwithandre/ - https://www.instagram.com/susannahroses/ Learn more about your host and the show at: www.zachbeach.com www.the-heart-center.com *****Support The Show****** If you like the show there are many ways you can support it, such as, - Join our IN PERSON Mindful Self Compassion Training starting April 12th in Berkeley: https://www.the-heart-center.com/programs/mindful-self-compassion-training-msc/ - Schedule a FREE love coaching session with Zach: https://www.zachbeach.com/coaching/ - Check out one of our sponsors, Listenable, and use the discount code “zachbeach” for the first seven days on the platform for free. There you can find Zach's How To Be a Better Partner Course: https://frstre.com/go/?a=76205-87a7d9&s=1256514-e13191&p_affiliate.referral_code=zachbeach - Purchase a book from our blossoming professional network: https://www.the-heart-center.com/books/ - Purchase one of Zach's books: https://www.amazon.com/author/zach_beach - Review, Like, and Subscribe to the show on iTunes. - Like us on Facebook facebook.com/learntolovenow - Join the Facebook Community Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1428012130828678/

Andre Lazarus is a Somatica Sex & Intimacy Coach, a Sexual Surrogate, and Sacred Intimate.  He shares the distinctions in -  scope of practice, boundaries, and common sexual issues resolved - that he facilitates in each of these roles.  It's a unique soul that's drawn to hold space for any one of these sexual healing modalities.  And an extraordinary life's purpose to develop a realm of expertise in all three.  

Sex isn't as straightforward as we might put pressure on ourselves to believe. Great sex takes time in demystifying + reconstructing concepts, narratives, + skills. Court Vox is a Certified Sex & Intimacy Coach Surrogate Partner Intern and Sacred Intimate based coach. He's the Founder of The Body Vox and Co-Founder of SQUIRM. Court works with individuals from all genders with somatics, teaching them to come back to the relationship with the body to understand the internal cues that make or break our experience. Like Damn, this conversation hit some nuances that might be what's affecting your sex life and you didn't even know it. In this episode, you'll hear: How to incorporate playfulness into your erotic states Approaching sex for many different reasons... “What do you want to feel in this experience?” Attuning yourself to the body's knowing - Discerning fear vs excitement Implied consent and direct consent, the discrepancy between mind and body Erotic endurance + multiple-hour erotic experiences Redefining orgasm, peak arousal, and ejaculation Edging, peaking, and pleasure potentials Does sex have to require a lot of energy? Redefining sex Unconscious power dynamics in sex Erotic games to play in the bedroom Court's journey of consciously exploring his shadow Vulnerable experiences from Dr. Cat's personal love life--lucky you Questions from our audience: My partner had an episiotomy… At times we struggle to feel each other during sex, advice? Healthiest condoms for women who experience UTIs? THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUESTS Court Vox is a Certified Sex & Intimacy Coach Surrogate Partner Intern, and Sacred Intimate based in Los Angeles CA. He is a member of the World Association of Sex Coaches, Founder of The Body Vox, and Co-Founder of SQUIRM. He is a guide for a vast spectrum of individuals and those in relationship/s seeking more in their erotic and intimate lives. When it comes to human connection and sexuality, some are beginning their journey while others have been pursuing erotic education and experiences for years. Court works gently with first-timers, as well as offers uncommon experiences to some of the world's most well-known sex educators and change-makers across multiple fields and disciplines. Court has become known for offering private, highly customized, exclusive experiences and travels extensively hosting and teaching workshops for all bodies, genders, and orientations. Court is also part of an elite team of sex educators that create the celebrated program for women, Back to the Body, which runs retreats all across the globe. WANT MORE? Sex Love Psychedelics Course: https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/SexLovePsychedelics Sex + Psychedelics survey link https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/Q9FDNM2 Guide for vetting your psychedelic practitioner: https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/Vetting%20Your%20Guide --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/sexlovepsychedelics/message

You know that feeling when you're out in the world, and you feel safe? You know what I mean, right? It's that feeling that lets you breathe a little easier, and allows you to be yourself and do whatever you want—the ones that make you feel like there's no way out.   And it's also that same feeling when you're in bed with your partner and do the intense moments the way you desire. We all want this kind of safety and power in our lives. But how often do we get it? How often do we ever feel truly safe?   In today's episode of The Better Sex Podcast, we are joined by Andre Lazarus. Andre is a Certified Intimacy, Sex, and Relationship Guide, Trained Surrogate Partner, as well as Sacred Intimate with 8+ years of experience helping individuals and couples discover their intimate and erotic power. As a multisexual being experienced in Consensual Non-Monogamous dynamics, Andre's unique approach to sexuality, sensuality and the bond people share make him a thought leader and knowledgeable practitioner. Andre is a Certified Sex and Relationship Coach through the Somatica Institute based out of San Francisco, CA, and specializes in erotic desire, sexless relationships, sexual trauma healing, erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, BDSM, consensual non-monogamy, and more.    Tune in to this episode as Andre unravels how to move forward from trauma so that you can get to your desires and that safe place as well! We'll be talking about what it takes to create a safe space for yourself during these intimate moments—and how to get them without having to sacrifice who YOU are.  Highlights:   (03:55) Andre's Story  (10:24) How Andre developed a level of attunement in his own being (14:21) The idea of older women going after what they want (16:09) What do female clients come to Andre for? (23:20) Allowing ourselves to follow our desires (24:49)  Realizing the power that we hold on intense and intimate moments (31:49) Andre's traumatic experiences + Becoming trauma-informed (37:09) How does taking people into the place where the trauma occurred and recreating it help them towards healing? (41:20) What is Andre working on these days? Links:   Connect with Andre:    Website: Coming Closer with Andre Lazarus Instagram: Coming Closer with Andre (@comingcloserwithandre) • Instagram photos and videos Deborah's Links:   Send your sex and relationship questions to DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com For a free Truth and Clarity Session Appointments 3 — Deborah Kat Coaching Website: https://www.deborahkat.com/ Email: deborahtantrakat@gmail.com Facebook: Events Near Me | Facebook Twitter: Deborah Kat (@TantraKat) / Twitter

Can sex facilitate transformation and healing? And what role do sex workers play in this dynamic? Join us as we discuss sexuality as a vehicle for personal growth and the role of the sacred intimate in creating safety and acceptance around sexual space.This week's guest, David Wichman, is an award winning author, speaker, sex, love & intimacy guide, soundbath practitioner, and lover of all things wild. Driven by his deep compassion for individuals seeking healing and human connection, David found a calling in sex work, and then saw his practice evolve through the integration of ritual and sound healing.While working with seniors, the differently abled, and those with severe intimacy issues, he discovered the profound transformational power that sex work creates for both client and provider. He joins us for this episode to share stories, insights, and wisdom around sacred sexuality and to discuss how we can leverage our sensual experience toward growth and healing."You can have the best diet. You can have all the exercise. You can be as healthy as you want. You can have a lot of money. And you can sit in meditation. And you can do all of the yoga... but if you're not being touched in a way that makes you feel fully and completely accepted, then there is a part that's missing." - David WichmanSetting up for Sacred SexualityRachel reads the story of Pass-a-Million, a prostitute and bodhisattva who lived during the Buddha's lifetime and used sex to healDavid's lifelong search for God and his underlying sense of brokennessThe book that brought David to tears and began a shift in awareness around his wholenessAaron and David discuss the concept of the essential self and “what if nothing needs to be fixed”David recounts his tumultuous upbringing and how he used to look for love outside of himself in God and religionSex Work and Sacred IntimatesHow David's preaching on the importance of sex and touch as a basic human need turned to a focus on intimate connectionShame, unacceptability, and the pitfalls of expressing a sense of freedom around sexualityHow sex can be a powerful tool for introspection and how sacred intimates guide people into this spaceDavid discusses the clients he sees and his role in showing up in complete acceptanceThe importance that touch and feeling accepted play in our whole healthDavid's Initiation into Sacred Sex WorkDavid teases how ayahuasca caused him to stop looking to be healed or fixed David's pandemic explorations into meditation, chakras, and sound healingDavid shares the story of his initiation as a sacred intimate and how it made him realize that he was doing the work he was meant to be doingCombining Sex and RitualHow ritual and flow states allow us to channel information for others David describes how introducing crystal bowls and sound healing modalities into his sessions transformed his workRachel gets real about her hesitance representing a podcast about sex drugs and spiritAaron explains why Tantric rituals are performed naked and how Vamachara Tantra differs from Neo-TantraBooks by David WichmanEvery Grain of Sand: a memoir

You may not have heard of the Wheel of Consent, but you really should. So much more than consent as a Yes / No transaction, "The Wheel" as its referred to in sexology circles, offers a frame work through which we can discuss sex , pleasure, power and so much more. This really is the sex education all of us should have received in high school, but I am certain none of us did. To me, the wheel is one of the most powerful revolutions in sex education in a generation and today's guest is te creator of that revolution. Dr. Betty Martin has had her hands on people professionally for over 40 years, first as a Chiropractor and upon retiring from that practice, as a certified Surrogate Partner, Sacred Intimate, and Somatic Sex Educator. Her explorations in somatic-based therapy and practices informed her creation of the framework, The Wheel of Consent®. https://bettymartin.org  IG @thewheelofconsent

LUI GERVAIS is the author of "The Nipple Whisperer and other erotic epiphanies". Here is the review that I wrote after reading his book:     "When Paul, my Seattle friend called and told me that he received Lui's new book, I immediately ordered a copy. I was familiar with Lui from some past experiences with him. Notably, he offered a portion of the material in this book to a group of men who gathered for a workshop at my place in Palm Springs pre-covid.     The workshop was only a few hours but I definitely "felt" what he was showing and teaching us at that time. I was excited to get the book because information from workshops (no matter how good they may have been) fades over time. And the book did not disappoint, because it fleshed out a lot more than he was able to present in those few hours, years ago.     I started reading and literally did not stop until I finished the book. To me, when I'm reading a book for the first time, I have to ask myself how many times I was prompted to grab my yellow pen and mark things that I wanted to remember. It's a good way to be able to go back and think a little deeper about something after that first "BAM"! as I'm reading the book. And trust me, I used a lot of yellow ink on this book!     A few of the lines in the book state "Nipple whispering itself is a form of intimate listening. It is a sensual communication of touch and sound born from the ecstasy of a thousand men". (Page 6). This book talks about a LOT more than merely how to connect and incorporate the nipples in one's intimate experiences. It encompasses the whole man, the whole couple and the whole experience. And as the lines quoted above reveal, it also connects the reader to the men who have lived and experienced their lives before us. Feeling grounded in that way felt really great!     As an English Literature major, I was constantly struck by the poetic beauty and flow in so many lines in this book. And I think that is also a reflection of what Lui is presenting here: As men, that we open up and let the poetic/energetic/spiritual flow happen IN US- in all aspects of the sexual-spiritual experience- connecting within ourselves and with any potential partner.     It's an easy read and I highly recommend it".FROM LUI IN HIS OWN WORDS: My Work"The Nipple Whisperer began as a blog more than ten years ago. Over the years of teaching and sharing sacred intimacy, I created and compiled these tools and exercises. As they piled up, it became clear I was writing a book but it took many years and the encouragement of friends and colleagues to bring it to life".  "I am not a prolific writer. I don't really see myself as a writer at all but as a mover, lover and artist who feels occasionally compelled to capture his ideas in words. The real mastery of my work remains in the body. In movement, touch, sound. Intimacy, sensuality and sexuality. As these embodied pleasures are impossible to transfer through a digital format, these words will have to do until we can be together in person".LINKS:http://TheNippleWhisperer.comhttp://MenBodiedInstitute.orgBuy the book on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Nipple-Whisperer-other-erotic-epiphanies/dp/0578388715/Photo: Copyright Wilkinson/2022Opening and closing music courtesy the very talented Zakhar Valaha via Pixabay.To contact Wilkinson- email him at BecomingWilkinson@gmail.com

On this week's episode, Christine and Shannon chat with Sex & Intimacy coach Court Vox (The Body Vox) about pleasure, sex, and intimacy for men and how to battle some of the myths and stereotypes around male sexuality to achieve more exploration and satisfaction. References The Body VoxSquirm Sensation Toys

On this episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat again with Dr. Betty Martin. Betty has had her hands on people professionally for over 40 years, first as a Chiropractor and upon retiring from that practice, as a certified Surrogate Partner, Sacred Intimate, and Somatic Sex Educator. Her explorations in somatic-based therapy and practices informed her creation of the framework, The Wheel of Consent®. As part of her work with the School of Consent, Betty travels around the world teaching practitioners how to create empowered agreements in their client sessions, in her highly sought-after training “Like A Pro: The Wheel of Consent for Practitioners.” Originally developed as an offering to teach much-needed consent skills to sex workers and touch providers, this training is now attended by somatic therapists, massage therapists, sexuality educators, medical and health care workers, activists, human resources folks and the spectrum of touch-based professional providers – all of whom complete the training with a clear understanding of how consent starts with our own bodies, and then expands outwards into all forms of human relating, with or without touch. Betty and I dive deeper into her Wheel of Consent framework, specifically regarding the observations she has made about men over the years she has done this work. We speak about some practical ways for men to explore particular quadrants of the Wheel of Consent. Key points: Betty re-introduces herself Betty's observations about men The Wheel of Consent quadrants The “Taking” quadrant Men's anxiety around taking pleasure Crossing boundaries vs having integrity The “Allowing” quadrant Surrender and submission Tips for men to learn how to take Relevant links: Betty's website: https://wheelofconsentbook.com/authors/ Betty's Instagram: @thewheelofconsent Betty's Instagram: @drbettymartin

I'm delighted to welcome Dr. Betty Martin to the show. She is a Chiropractor, a Body Electric School trained Sacred Intimate, Certified Sexological Bodyworker, Foundations of Facilitation trainer, and a self-propelled erotic adventurer and Intimacy Coach.  She is the author of "The Art of Receiving and Giving - The Wheel of Consent" and a massive inspiration for my own work. We had a fantastic conversation about consent. Betty masterfully explained her definition of consent and what it means to give and receive in a consensual sexual relationship. We also talk about BDSM, boundaries, pleasure and shame.  What You Will Learn In This Episode: - What kind of work Dr. Betty Martin goes through with her peers - What the three-minute game is and how it inspired the creation of the Wheel of Consent - Dr. Betty's definition of consent and why she believes there's a confusion about what giving and receiving really mean - What the Wheel of Consent is, how it works, and how we can use its language to redefine consent In her mid-40s, Dr. Betty Martin experienced an erotic awakening. She discovered there was a lot more about Eros than what she knew. After some years of intensive exploration and research, she decided to share her knowledge. She focused on teaching people how to be comfortable in their own skin, how to ask for and give what they want, and above all, express what they don't want to give or receive.  Resources: - Dr. Betty Martin website: https://bettymartin.org/  - Betty's book, The Art of Receiving and Giving - IG: @thewheelofconsent - Book: Dr. Betty Martin - The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent www.wheelofconsentbook.com - School of Consent www.schoolofconsent.com - Betty's YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/c/BettyMartin/videos  - Free Diagram of The Wheel of Consent http://bettymartin.org/download-wheel/  - Check out my FREE Training, Reclaiming Your Intuitive, Confident, and Sensual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-training - The Sexual Mastery Activation Cards for Men https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop - Sign up for bi-weekly(ish) Love Letters straight to your inbox https://self-alchemy.activehosted.com/f/11 - Free resources: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-resources/ - My book "101 Meditations for Life, Business and Bedroom Success" https://www.amazon.com/Meditations-Life-Business-Bedroom-Success/dp/0993207626/ - My website https://www.sexualalchemy.com/ - Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/s_xualalchemy/ - Find me on Twitter https://twitter.com/rebeccalowrie/  - Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/rebecca.lowrie1 - Find me on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccalowrie/

This week on The "It" Cast We will be talking about opening up to masculine vulnerability and what that makes available in breaking down societal gender norms. Our Guest this week is Andre Lazarus. Andre is an Intimacy Guide and Sacred Intimate. "I've felt connected to my sexual energy my whole life but didn't always understand my full sexual power. My work incorporates embodied empathy, intimate touch, BDSM, altered states of consciousness and spirituality to guide clients on a journey of sexual awakening. I am trained in the Somatic Sex and Intimacy Method and will begin Surrogate Partner training next year through the International Professional Surrogates Association (IPSA)" --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/nika-cherrelle/support

Court Vox Somatic sex educator and sex coach Court Vox helps his clients to find the ‘sweet spot' in their sex lives, and life in general. The sweet spot is a place that can be uncomfortable, but also exciting. This episode is all about pushing yourself to the limit, and calibrating the body in order to allow itself to reach the next level of experience. What is calibration? Calibration is developing an awareness of touch from the lowest point of sensation all the way to your threshold. It's finding that sweet spot, also called a yellow place, that can get you to the next level of pleasure. In life, it's always about going a little bit further than you otherwise would as our lives change. Is there value from being slightly outside of your comfort zone? Court elaborates how one can benefit from being in a yellow place, whether in sensation or actual pursuit of something that's not in the body. Being in a place that's a bit uncomfortable offers a lot of growth for people. If one is calibrating with a partner, then communication is key, because at the end of the day it's a very personal approach and all of us will have our own unique yellow spot. Is calibration better with a partner or solo? One can do both. Doing it with a partner can be valuable not just from a sensation perspective but from a communication perspective too. Beyond the Circuit Workshop Court Vox will hold a 3-day workshop in March 2022 with the intention to create new and alternative spaces for queer men. It is about finding a deeper sense of community not centered around drugs and alcohol and dark spaces. Aptly called Beyond the Circuit, it is a space where queer men can be vulnerable and be in a more intimate space. Biography: Court Vox provides personal guidance and expertise in the unique and often ignored areas of sex. Vox is a trained Sex and Intimacy Consultant, Surrogate Partner Intern and Sacred Intimate. His approach is personal and necessary. As the founder of his own practice, The Body Vox, he brings professional opportunities to his clients and teaches them to embrace their bodies, as well as the bodies of others. Vox is a sex educator who is experienced in working with clients of all sexualities and genders. He continues to collaborate with fellow sex educator Pamela Madsen for workshops around the country. Resources and links: Website: thebodyvox.com Instagram: @courtvox More info: Sex Health Quiz – https://www.sexhealthquiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: How to want more sex without it feeling like a chore: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass Better Sex with Jessa Zimmerman https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/ Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/209-right-outside-your-comfort-zone-court-voxMore info and resources: How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: How to make sex easy and fun for both of you: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast

Court VoxSomatic sex educator and sex coach Court Vox helps his clients to find the ‘sweet spot' in their sex lives, and life in general. The sweet spot is a place that can be uncomfortable, but also exciting. This episode is all about pushing yourself to the limit, and calibrating the body in order to allow itself to reach the next level of experience.What is calibration?Calibration is developing an awareness of touch from the lowest point of sensation all the way to your threshold. It's finding that sweet spot, also called a yellow place, that can get you to the next level of pleasure. In life, it's always about going a little bit further than you otherwise would as our lives change.Is there value from being slightly outside of your comfort zone?Court elaborates how one can benefit from being in a yellow place, whether in sensation or actual pursuit of something that's not in the body. Being in a place that's a bit uncomfortable offers a lot of growth for people. If one is calibrating with a partner, then communication is key, because at the end of the day it's a very personal approach and all of us will have our own unique yellow spot.Is calibration better with a partner or solo?One can do both. Doing it with a partner can be valuable not just from a sensation perspective but from a communication perspective too.Beyond the Circuit WorkshopCourt Vox will hold a 3-day workshop in March 2022 with the intention to create new and alternative spaces for queer men. It is about finding a deeper sense of community not centered around drugs and alcohol and dark spaces. Aptly called Beyond the Circuit, it is a space where queer men can be vulnerable and be in a more intimate space.Biography:Court Vox provides personal guidance and expertise in the unique and often ignored areas of sex. Vox is a trained Sex and Intimacy Consultant, Surrogate Partner Intern and Sacred Intimate. His approach is personal and necessary. As the founder of his own practice, The Body Vox, he brings professional opportunities to his clients and teaches them to embrace their bodies, as well as the bodies of others. Vox is a sex educator who is experienced in working with clients of all sexualities and genders. He continues to collaborate with fellow sex educator Pamela Madsen for workshops around the country.Resources and links:Website: thebodyvox.comInstagram: @courtvoxMore info:Sex Health Quiz – https://www.sexhealthquiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.comAccess the Free webinar: How to want more sex without it feeling like a chore: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclassBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/209-right-outside-your-comfort-zone-court-vox

Court VoxSomatic sex educator and sex coach Court Vox helps his clients to find the ‘sweet spot' in their sex lives, and life in general. The sweet spot is a place that can be uncomfortable, but also exciting. This episode is all about pushing yourself to the limit, and calibrating the body in order to allow itself to reach the next level of experience.What is calibration?Calibration is developing an awareness of touch from the lowest point of sensation all the way to your threshold. It's finding that sweet spot, also called a yellow place, that can get you to the next level of pleasure. In life, it's always about going a little bit further than you otherwise would as our lives change.Is there value from being slightly outside of your comfort zone?Court elaborates how one can benefit from being in a yellow place, whether in sensation or actual pursuit of something that's not in the body. Being in a place that's a bit uncomfortable offers a lot of growth for people. If one is calibrating with a partner, then communication is key, because at the end of the day it's a very personal approach and all of us will have our own unique yellow spot.Is calibration better with a partner or solo?One can do both. Doing it with a partner can be valuable not just from a sensation perspective but from a communication perspective too.Beyond the Circuit WorkshopCourt Vox will hold a 3-day workshop in March 2022 with the intention to create new and alternative spaces for queer men. It is about finding a deeper sense of community not centered around drugs and alcohol and dark spaces. Aptly called Beyond the Circuit, it is a space where queer men can be vulnerable and be in a more intimate space.Biography:Court Vox provides personal guidance and expertise in the unique and often ignored areas of sex. Vox is a trained Sex and Intimacy Consultant, Surrogate Partner Intern and Sacred Intimate. His approach is personal and necessary. As the founder of his own practice, The Body Vox, he brings professional opportunities to his clients and teaches them to embrace their bodies, as well as the bodies of others. Vox is a sex educator who is experienced in working with clients of all sexualities and genders. He continues to collaborate with fellow sex educator Pamela Madsen for workshops around the country.Resources and links:Website: thebodyvox.comInstagram: @courtvoxMore info:Sex Health Quiz – https://www.sexhealthquiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.comAccess the Free webinar: How to want more sex without it feeling like a chore: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclassBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/209-right-outside-your-comfort-zone-court-vox

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Court Vox. Court provides personal guidance and expertise in the unique and often ignored areas of sex. He is a trained Sex and Intimacy Consultant, Surrogate Partner Intern and Sacred Intimate. His approach is personal and necessary. Founder of his practice The Body Vox, he brings professional opportunities for his clients to learn about and embrace their bodies and those of others. Sex, the thing the world is now acknowledging as so important for our general wellness, mental health and indeed our lives is on the agenda. While much progress has been made it is still too often a taboo subject. Court serves as the counselor of our times breaking down the walls of shame and anxiety around intimacy and sex. Traditional forms of therapy are done through talk, the work of a somatic sex educator is to further this form of work via touch and body-based exercises in comfortable, judgment-free, and safe environments. Body acceptance, exploration of sensation and desires (and learning how to ask for what you want), boundary-setting and intimacy work are some of the many reasons clients seek this form of therapy. Court is a sex educator experienced working with clients of all sexualities and genders. He continues to collaborate with fellow sex educator Pamela Madsen for workshops around the country. The two of us talk about his work as a surrogate partner as well as what it means to be multi-orgasmic. Key points: - Court shares some of his story - Transitioning from corporate to sexuality work - The different modalities Court draws on - Self-pleasure rituals - What is surrogate partner therapy? - Surrogate partner therapy vs sex work - Client-centered approach - Sexual orientation and surrogate partner therapy - The many types of male orgasm - 31+ erogenous zones Relevant links: Court's Instagram: @courtvox Court's Website: thebodyvox.com Cam's Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thecamfraser

Sex and sexuality. These are part of the human experience.  Yet for so many, sex and sexualty brings up shame, insecurity and even painful memories.  It is possible to enjoy your sexual expression no matter what you have been through while empowering yourself by learning about your preferences and consent.   There is no one better to discuss these topics with me than. Dr. Betty Martin. She has had her hands on people professionally for over 40 years, first as a Chiropractor and upon retiring from that practice,  as a certified Surrogate Partner, Sacred Intimate, and Somatic Sex Educator.  Her explorations in somatic-based therapy and practices informed her creation of the framework, The Wheel of Consent®. As part of her work with the School of Consent, Betty travels around the world teaching practitioners how to create empowered agreements in their client sessions, in her highly sought-after training “Like A Pro: The Wheel of Consent for Practitioners.”  Wheel of consent videos: short: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7x2jAm3HxHM long; https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=auokDp_EA80

On today's episode of The Empowered Relationship Podcast, you'll hear Dr. Betty Martin really inviting the practice of slowing down and exploring not only our partner's needs, but equally as importantly, our own needs. We discuss how her work as a sex educator and her exploration of somatic-based therapy inspired her to create her Wheel of Consent framework, which illustrates that when we're sexual, we move between four different zones.  Dr. Betty will step us through the four zones of the wheel and gives examples to illustrate the practice of taking turns giving and receiving pleasure. She shares her insights into negotiating boundaries and sets the stage for having a productive conversation about your needs with your partner. Dr. Betty also explores why we start your experience outside the bedroom fully clothed rather than with genital touch and describes where to find additional resources that will help us open the gateway to emotional and spiritual fluency. Dr. Betty Martin has been working with people professionally for over 40 years. She was a Chiropractor for 30 years and upon retiring from that practice, became a certified Surrogate Partner, Sacred Intimate, and Somatic Sex Educator. Her explorations in somatic-based therapy and practices informed her creation of the framework, The Wheel of Consent®. Check out the transcript to this episode in Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode: 08:16 The framework of the Wheel of Consent and what got Dr. Betty interested in creating it 13:45 The practice of taking turns and respecting boundaries and how that helps you understand your own physical needs  16:22 Why it's so uncommon for couples to be connected into different roles and often forget to be explicit about wanting to make love 18:00 Tips on using the Wheel of Consent and laying the groundwork for giving your partner the gift of touch with a full heart  20:58 Unlike your regular sexual play, you should take time to negotiate what you need and incorporate pauses to ensure everyone is comfortable  22:16 This is a practice that you keep coming back to it over and over, but you start on the couch and don't include genital touch until you played it 20 or 30 times, or you'll get right back into the same habits that produced the same results before  24:06 Why saying no allows you to say yes 33:41 Dr. Betty explains things that see people typically work through that gives them some insight into current challenges  37:25 The model allows people to come in contact with their guilt and fear of rejection — Dr. Betty describes what she recommends for people as they confront their somatic pain 39:29 What you expect as an outcome of fully engaging with the Wheel of Consent process Mentioned Dr. Betty Martin Website  Dr. Betty Martin Instagram The Wheel of Consent Instagram Body Electric School The 3-Minute Game by Harry Faddis The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent by Dr. Betty Martin, with Robyn Dalzen * Amazon Link Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Dr. Betty Martin has had her hands on people professionally for over 40 years, first as a Chiropractor, and upon retiring from that practice, as a certified Surrogate Partner, Sacred Intimate, and Somatic Sex Educator. Today on The Soul of Life I speak with Betty about the importance of getting to know your own body and your own sexuality. “My sexuality and eroticism belongs to me. It was such a shock. It made me think, “Who did I think it belonged to [before]?” We talk about the rewards and controversy of sexual surrogacy. While it's not a mainstream intervention in sex therapy, its one that Betty says is widely misunderstood and can be highly valuable. Betty shares about one of her favorite exercises, called The Three Minute Game, that helps resolve confusion around giving and receiving pleasure. At first blush it sounds like something you'd hear about at a swing party. And Betty teaches about the power of slowing down your attention and learning how to trust your whole body's sensory experience. Betty Martin's new book is called The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent. Enter my current sweepstakes giveaway (https://swee.ps/lZirCOTlY): Win a Couples Vacation to the Caribbean ($1,299 Value!). Ends 10/15/21 1. All inclusive airfare for two 2. Two night stay included Check out my Mini-Course for couples: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLHjcz6Ly2y9gr2mtMHIxu-fXXl8rE_PYJ Learn more about my 7-week, live, online basic mindfulness and IFS course for couples: https://souloflifeshow.com/mindful-marriage Join my Facebook Group called "Bring Love Alive:" https://www.facebook.com/groups/601405257684922 My Book, Love Under Repair: How to Save Your Marriage and Survive Couples Therapy https://amzn.to/2X3kPBL My Counseling Practice: https://keithmillercounseling.com Follow us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SoulOfLifeShow or Twitter: https://twitter.com/SoulofLifeShow ​ Want to book Keith as a guest on your podcast? Contact him at keith@souloflifeshow.com.

Join the Waitlist for the Gay Men Going Deeper Membership coaching community! About Today's Show In this episode, Matt speaks with Sex and Intimacy Consultant Court Vox about sexual consent. The term “consent” is becoming a lot more common in the gay community as men learn to honour and value their need for safety within their sexual and intimate relationships. Come spend an hour with Matt and Court as they unpack the following questions: -What is consent? -Implied consent vs actual consent? -Why do many gay men struggle with consent? -How does the hyper-sexualized culture of the gay community impact consent? -How are gay men influenced by the heteronormative culture around consent? -How do drugs and alcohol influence consent? -How to properly ask for and give consent? -How to create a culture of consent in the gay community? Court Vox is a Sex and Intimacy Consultant, Surrogate Partner Intern, and Sacred Intimate. He is a member of the World Association of Sex Coaches, and the Founder of The Body Vox. He is a guide for a vast spectrum of individuals and those in relationship/s seeking more in their erotic and intimate lives. When it comes to human connection and sexuality, some are beginning their journey while others have been pursuing erotic education and experiences for years. Court works gently with first-timers, as well as offers uncommon experiences to some of the world's most well-known sex educators who seek him out when they are wanting a professional to work with. Court has become known for offering private, highly customized, exclusive experiences and travels extensively hosting and teaching workshops for all bodies, genders, and orientations. Court is also part of an elite team of sex educators that create the celebrated program for women, Back to the Body, which runs retreats all across the globe. Instagram: @courtvox Watch this ep on YouTube Give us a Review! --- - Connect with us - Join the private Facebook community Instagram GayMenGoingDeeper.com

On this episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Dr. Betty Martin. Betty has had her hands on people professionally for over 40 years, first as a Chiropractor and upon retiring from that practice, as a certified Surrogate Partner, Sacred Intimate, and Somatic Sex Educator. Her explorations in somatic-based therapy and practices informed her creation of the framework, The Wheel of Consent®. As part of her work with the School of Consent, Betty travels around the world teaching practitioners how to create empowered agreements in their client sessions, in her highly sought-after training “Like A Pro: The Wheel of Consent for Practitioners.” Originally developed as an offering to teach much-needed consent skills to sex workers and touch providers, this training is now attended by somatic therapists, massage therapists, sexuality educators, medical and health care workers, activists, human resources folks and the spectrum of touch-based professional providers – all of whom complete the training with a clear understanding of how consent starts with our own bodies, and then expands outwards into all forms of human relating, with or without touch. Betty and I talk about her amazing touch- and communication-based framework - The Wheel of Consent® - as well as discuss some specifics of the framework as it relates to men. Key Points: - Betty shares about her career - The inception of The Wheel of Consent - Giving/Receiving and Doing/Done-To - The four quadrants - The 3 Minute Game - Learning how to take pleasure - You can't make someone surrender - Practical advice for men using The Wheel Relevant links: Betty's website: bettymartin.org The Wheel of Consent website: wheelofconsentbook.com The Wheel of Consent Instagram: @thewheelofconsent

Dr. Betty Martin, the author of the new book, The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent, is highlighting the importance of giving and receiving and maintaining that balance in sexual relationships. Today, we get to hear about what it means to set boundaries, follow consent, and how all of that comes into play in terms of taking care of oneself. Why is it important to be selfish sometimes? While giving to your partner and thinking about their needs is an important part of the sexual relationship, being stuck in that position and being deprived of your own needs is not sustainable. It's an opportunity taken away from your partner to give, and an opportunity that you are missing to receive. The relationship becomes strained when your partner has to figure out what to give, and things only become worse when they do it wrong. There has to be a balance of giving and receiving. Dr. Betty's Wheel of Consent takes apart the acts of giving and receiving and allows each aspect to be examined individually. In real life, it is not necessary to do these things one at a time, but this practice allows you and your partner to understand each other's needs. Why are we so poorly equipped to receive? The reason that we're programmed to not receive touch as we are supposed to, is because we assume receiving to be ‘done to' us. Since touch is given to us, we assume that we're supposed to like it, and from that, confusion arises about what's wrong with us for not liking it. According to Dr Betty, this confusion began during our childhood when things happened that we didn't like. Things such as changing diapers, noses being wiped, being picked up, going to bed early; our bodies were taught that there was nothing that we could do about it. Since then, this dislike has been reinforced by things ‘being done to us against our will in ways that we didn't like or didn't want'. On the other hand, we keep giving ‘touch' in a way that we think other people like without ever asking how they'd like to be touched, either because it's an awkward conversation to have, or because the thought to ask has never occurred to us. How can people get better at giving and receiving? For one to get better at giving and receiving, Betty suggests going through her book and following the processes stated in the book, beginning with the 3-Minute Game. In this game, one must give to their partner for three minutes, and then their partner must give to them for three minutes. She suggests starting with areas that don't feel too sexy so that you can give yourself space to notice those areas and ask for what you want. Over time the game becomes more natural, and every time you play, you can discover something new about what you like or what you don't like. More than touching itself, observing what you want and asking for it is key. Negotiating Boundaries and Limits Dr. Betty urges people to say no without adding any polite justification if they don't feel comfortable doing something. If you're not entirely against the idea, she suggests negotiating the parts you want to do and the parts you don't want to with your partner, such as telling your partner to touch an area, but not tickle it. She emphasizes the importance of setting limits. By setting those limits, you can be playful within those limits without the worry that your partner is going to do something you don't like. She encourages people to listen for the ‘pull and not the push' while considering their partner's request. If they suggest something edgy, you can decide to try it if it feels like it could be fun, even though it's edgy. However, if you're telling yourself to do it simply because you don't want to let your partner down, then it's better to simply say no. Biography Dr. Betty Martin has had her hands on people professionally for over 40 years as a chiropractor, and upon retiring from that practice, became a certified Surrogate Partner, Sacred Intimate and Somatic Sex Educator. Her explorations in somatic-based therapy and practices informed her and allowed for her creation of the framework, The Wheel of Consent®. As part of her work with the School of Consent, Betty travels around the world, teaching practitioners how to create empowered agreements in their client sessions in her highly sought-after training, “Like A Pro: The Wheel of Consent for Practitioners.” Originally developed as an offering to teach much-needed consent skills to sex workers and touch providers, this training is now attended by somatic therapists, massage therapists, sexuality educators, medical and health care workers, activists, human resources folks, and the spectrum of touch-based professional providers – all of whom complete the training with a clear understanding of how consent starts with our own bodies, and then expands outwards into all forms of human relating, with or without touch. Resources and Links: Website: https://bettymartin.org/ Book (Get your free chapter!): https://wheelofconsentbook.com/ Workshops: https://www.schoolofconsent.org/ More info: Training video – https://jessazimmerman.mykajabi.com/video-choice Sex Health Quiz – https://www.sexhealthquiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywitheasemethod.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Access the Free webinar: How to help your partner want more sex without making them feel pressured or obligated: https://intimacywithease.com/free-webinar Better Sex with Jessa Zimmerman https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/ Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/180-wheel-of-consent-dr-betty-martinMore info and resources: How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: How to make sex easy and fun for both of you: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast

Dr. Betty Martin, the author of the new book, The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent, is highlighting the importance of giving and receiving and maintaining that balance in sexual relationships. Today, we get to hear about what it means to set boundaries, follow consent, and how all of that comes into play in terms of taking care of oneself.Why is it important to be selfish sometimes?While giving to your partner and thinking about their needs is an important part of the sexual relationship, being stuck in that position and being deprived of your own needs is not sustainable. It's an opportunity taken away from your partner to give, and an opportunity that you are missing to receive. The relationship becomes strained when your partner has to figure out what to give, and things only become worse when they do it wrong. There has to be a balance of giving and receiving.Dr. Betty's Wheel of Consent takes apart the acts of giving and receiving and allows each aspect to be examined individually. In real life, it is not necessary to do these things one at a time, but this practice allows you and your partner to understand each other's needs.Why are we so poorly equipped to receive?The reason that we're programmed to not receive touch as we are supposed to, is because we assume receiving to be ‘done to' us. Since touch is given to us, we assume that we're supposed to like it, and from that, confusion arises about what's wrong with us for not liking it. According to Dr Betty, this confusion began during our childhood when things happened that we didn't like. Things such as changing diapers, noses being wiped, being picked up, going to bed early; our bodies were taught that there was nothing that we could do about it.Since then, this dislike has been reinforced by things ‘being done to us against our will in ways that we didn't like or didn't want'. On the other hand, we keep giving ‘touch' in a way that we think other people like without ever asking how they'd like to be touched, either because it's an awkward conversation to have, or because the thought to ask has never occurred to us.How can people get better at giving and receiving?For one to get better at giving and receiving, Betty suggests going through her book and following the processes stated in the book, beginning with the 3-Minute Game. In this game, one must give to their partner for three minutes, and then their partner must give to them for three minutes. She suggests starting with areas that don't feel too sexy so that you can give yourself space to notice those areas and ask for what you want. Over time the game becomes more natural, and every time you play, you can discover something new about what you like or what you don't like. More than touching itself, observing what you want and asking for it is key.Negotiating Boundaries and LimitsDr. Betty urges people to say no without adding any polite justification if they don't feel comfortable doing something. If you're not entirely against the idea, she suggests negotiating the parts you want to do and the parts you don't want to with your partner, such as telling your partner to touch an area, but not tickle it. She emphasizes the importance of setting limits. By setting those limits, you can be playful within those limits without the worry that your partner is going to do something you don't like.She encourages people to listen for the ‘pull and not the push' while considering their partner's request. If they suggest something edgy, you can decide to try it if it feels like it could be fun, even though it's edgy. However, if you're telling yourself to do it simply because you don't want to let your partner down, then it's better to simply say no.BiographyDr. Betty Martin has had her hands on people professionally for over 40 years as a chiropractor, and upon retiring from that practice, became a certified Surrogate Partner, Sacred Intimate and Somatic Sex Educator. Her explorations in somatic-based therapy and practices informed her and allowed for her creation of the framework, The Wheel of Consent®.As part of her work with the School of Consent, Betty travels around the world, teaching practitioners how to create empowered agreements in their client sessions in her highly sought-after training, “Like A Pro: The Wheel of Consent for Practitioners.” Originally developed as an offering to teach much-needed consent skills to sex workers and touch providers, this training is now attended by somatic therapists, massage therapists, sexuality educators, medical and health care workers, activists, human resources folks, and the spectrum of touch-based professional providers – all of whom complete the training with a clear understanding of how consent starts with our own bodies, and then expands outwards into all forms of human relating, with or without touch.Resources and Links:Website: https://bettymartin.org/Book (Get your free chapter!): https://wheelofconsentbook.com/Workshops: https://www.schoolofconsent.org/More info:Training video – https://jessazimmerman.mykajabi.com/video-choiceSex Health Quiz – https://www.sexhealthquiz.comThe Course – https://www.intimacywitheasemethod.comThe Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.comAccess the Free webinar: How to help your partner want more sex without making them feel pressured or obligated: https://intimacywithease.com/free-webinarBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/180-wheel-of-consent-dr-betty-martin

Dr. Betty Martin, the author of the new book, The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent, is highlighting the importance of giving and receiving and maintaining that balance in sexual relationships. Today, we get to hear about what it means to set boundaries, follow consent, and how all of that comes into play in terms of taking care of oneself.Why is it important to be selfish sometimes?While giving to your partner and thinking about their needs is an important part of the sexual relationship, being stuck in that position and being deprived of your own needs is not sustainable. It's an opportunity taken away from your partner to give, and an opportunity that you are missing to receive. The relationship becomes strained when your partner has to figure out what to give, and things only become worse when they do it wrong. There has to be a balance of giving and receiving.Dr. Betty's Wheel of Consent takes apart the acts of giving and receiving and allows each aspect to be examined individually. In real life, it is not necessary to do these things one at a time, but this practice allows you and your partner to understand each other's needs.Why are we so poorly equipped to receive?The reason that we're programmed to not receive touch as we are supposed to, is because we assume receiving to be ‘done to' us. Since touch is given to us, we assume that we're supposed to like it, and from that, confusion arises about what's wrong with us for not liking it. According to Dr Betty, this confusion began during our childhood when things happened that we didn't like. Things such as changing diapers, noses being wiped, being picked up, going to bed early; our bodies were taught that there was nothing that we could do about it.Since then, this dislike has been reinforced by things ‘being done to us against our will in ways that we didn't like or didn't want'. On the other hand, we keep giving ‘touch' in a way that we think other people like without ever asking how they'd like to be touched, either because it's an awkward conversation to have, or because the thought to ask has never occurred to us.How can people get better at giving and receiving?For one to get better at giving and receiving, Betty suggests going through her book and following the processes stated in the book, beginning with the 3-Minute Game. In this game, one must give to their partner for three minutes, and then their partner must give to them for three minutes. She suggests starting with areas that don't feel too sexy so that you can give yourself space to notice those areas and ask for what you want. Over time the game becomes more natural, and every time you play, you can discover something new about what you like or what you don't like. More than touching itself, observing what you want and asking for it is key.Negotiating Boundaries and LimitsDr. Betty urges people to say no without adding any polite justification if they don't feel comfortable doing something. If you're not entirely against the idea, she suggests negotiating the parts you want to do and the parts you don't want to with your partner, such as telling your partner to touch an area, but not tickle it. She emphasizes the importance of setting limits. By setting those limits, you can be playful within those limits without the worry that your partner is going to do something you don't like.She encourages people to listen for the ‘pull and not the push' while considering their partner's request. If they suggest something edgy, you can decide to try it if it feels like it could be fun, even though it's edgy. However, if you're telling yourself to do it simply because you don't want to let your partner down, then it's better to simply say no.BiographyDr. Betty Martin has had her hands on people professionally for over 40 years as a chiropractor, and upon retiring from that practice, became a certified Surrogate Partner, Sacred Intimate and Somatic Sex Educator. Her explorations in somatic-based therapy and practices informed her and allowed for her creation of the framework, The Wheel of Consent®.As part of her work with the School of Consent, Betty travels around the world, teaching practitioners how to create empowered agreements in their client sessions in her highly sought-after training, “Like A Pro: The Wheel of Consent for Practitioners.” Originally developed as an offering to teach much-needed consent skills to sex workers and touch providers, this training is now attended by somatic therapists, massage therapists, sexuality educators, medical and health care workers, activists, human resources folks, and the spectrum of touch-based professional providers – all of whom complete the training with a clear understanding of how consent starts with our own bodies, and then expands outwards into all forms of human relating, with or without touch.Resources and Links:Website: https://bettymartin.org/Book (Get your free chapter!): https://wheelofconsentbook.com/Workshops: https://www.schoolofconsent.org/More info:Training video – https://jessazimmerman.mykajabi.com/video-choiceSex Health Quiz – https://www.sexhealthquiz.comThe Course – https://www.intimacywitheasemethod.comThe Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.comAccess the Free webinar: How to help your partner want more sex without making them feel pressured or obligated: https://intimacywithease.com/free-webinarBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/180-wheel-of-consent-dr-betty-martin

Dr. Betty Martin www.bettymartin.org has had her hands on people professionally for over 40 years, first as a Chiropractor and upon retiring from that practice, as a certified Surrogate Partner, Sacred Intimate, and Somatic Sex Educator. Her explorations in somatic-based therapy and practices informed her creation of the framework, The Wheel of Consent®.  website: www.bettymartin.org  FB: bettymartindc IG: @thewheelofconsent

In this episode, Victoria interviews Betty Martin. They talk about: - the wheel of consent - how sexuality work translates to other areas of our life - the vulnerability of asking for what you want - finding aliveness & empowerment on the edge - becoming acquainted with our bodies & minds for sexuality development Dr. Betty Martin has had her hands on people professionally for over 40 years, first as a Chiropractor and upon retiring from that practice, as a certified Surrogate Partner, Sacred Intimate, and Somatic Sex Educator. Her explorations in somatic-based therapy and practices informed her creation of the framework, The Wheel of Consent®. Betty co-founded the School of Consent in 2018, and has been traveling around the world teaching touch practitioners, therapists and professionals how to create empowered agreements in their client sessions. As part of her work with the School of Consent, Betty travels around the world teaching practitioners how to create empowered agreements in their client sessions, in her highly sought-after training “Like A Pro: The Wheel of Consent® for Practitioners.” Originally developed as an offering to teach much-needed consent skills to sex workers and touch providers, this training is now attended by somatic therapists, massage therapists, sexuality educators, medical and health care workers, activists, human resources folks and the spectrum of touch-based professional providers - all of whom complete the training with a clear understanding of how consent starts with our own bodies, and then expands outwards into all forms of human relating, with or without touch. Betty resides in the Pacific Northwest. Her long-awaited book, “The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent” debuts in Autumn 2020. FOLLOW BETTY MARTIN Sites: Dr. Betty Martin School of Consent Wheel of Consent Book site Instagram: @thewheelofconsent / @drbettymartin Facebook: Dr. Betty Martin Wheel of Consent - Book Wheel of Consent - public Facebook group FOLLOW THE INSTITUTE OF NEW PARADIGM INTIMACY Instagram: @newparadigmintimacy Facebook: Institute of New Paradigm Intimacy FOLLOW VICTORIA REDBARD Instagram: @victoriaredbard Facebook: Victoria Redbard Somatic Sexologist Website: www.victoriaredbard.com

In a very special bonus episode, Shelby has a gorgeous conversation with Dr Betty Martin, exploring what Revolutionary Love & Resilience means to her in her life and work. Betty also shares some of the deep wisdom from her NEW BOOK! ~ The Art of Receiving & Giving, which is out now. Here’s some more detail: Why would most people endure unwanted or unsatisfying touch, rather than speak up for their own boundaries and desires? This is the question that Betty Martin has explored in her 40+ years as a hands-on practitioner - first as a chiropractor and later as a Somatic Sex Educator, Certified Surrogate Partner and Sacred Intimate. In her framework, “The Wheel of Consent®”, Betty traces the fundamental roots of consent to our own bodies, how we learned to ignore our own desires and needs, and the harm caused when we do not honor our own limits or the limits of others. In a world where the #MeToo movement sheds light on boundary violations, the Wheel of Consent offers a deeply nuanced and precise way to practice consent as an agreement that brings integrity, responsibility, and joy into every interaction.

TT Baum is a Sacred Intimate, Sex Educator, and Bondassage Trainer based in San Francisco. He has been dubbed a pleasure activist and a warrior of love. TT's path to sexual awakening began over a decade ago. He has refined a powerful style of erotic facilitation that integrates his own sexual research in order to help his clients and student discover and integrate their own authentic sexual experiences. Since 2013 he has been teaching his own brand of adult focused sex education. He leads several Tantra based workshops across the United States. Episode Highlights TT shares what it means to be a sacred intimate and a pleasure activist, and how he helps others to explore their erotic and sexual selves. He discusses how he came to doing this work after being inspired by his husband when they first met and going to his first Body Electric workshop. TT defines the tradition of tantra he studies, and explains his way of working with it. Pleasure is a foundational principle for healing, and TT strives to bring mindfulness to pleasure in the day to day. We explore the relationships of pleasure and joy, versus seeking the highs of happiness. We also talk about practicing self-care through healthy levels of selfishness in order to get our needs met. TT shares about his workshops and group work he does through his Intimacy Academy, to help others explore their desires, while giving and receiving pleasure.   Web links Find TT at Integral-Eros.com You can also find him on Instagram & Twitter    Grab your FREE Guide - Needs, Boundaries & Self-Care for Queer Folks. Download it here. Join the Queer Spirit Community Facebook group to continue the conversation and stay up to date on new episodes.  And follow us on Instagram!  Join our mailing list  to get news and podcast updates sent directly to you.

The mere mention of the word sex immediately strikes shame in the hearts and souls of so many. This is particularly evident in the gay community. In this episode, Dr. Ortega and Jonathan have a very raw chat about sex. Jonathan talks about his travels into finding his purpose as a Sacred Intimate and how he wants to promote the healing of shame surrounding sex in the gay community. As you can imagine, the episode is filled with sex fueled discussions and probably more information that you were wanting to know.  Jonathan Winn is a Sex and Intimacy Coach for Men. With more than a decade experience in the wellness industry, he brings a depth of wisdom and experience to his work. His personal passion is to support the removal of shame from sex, especially within the queer community. He offers private sessions, personal retreats and international group retreats to explore intimacy and deeper connection. For more info, visit jonathandwinn.com

Dr. Betty Martin is a Chiropractor, a Body Electric School trained Sacred Intimate, Certified Sexological Bodyworker, Foundations of Facilitation trainer, and a self-propelled erotic adventurer and intimacy coach. The Madame sits down to chat with Betty about the Wheel of Consent, her School of Consent and various details around both. For more information, please visit our website and check out the show notes: www.bcbcpodcast.com And remember - you can like us on all the social media, subscribe to our channel, download our episodes, become a Patreon supporter and so much more! We are a 501(c)3 non-profit organization so you can also make a tax-deductible donation! Website: www.bcbpodcast.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BCBCPodcast/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/BCBCPodcast Instagram: https://twitter.com/BCBCPodcast

In this episode... TTBaum is a Sacred Intimate, Sex Educator, and Bondassage Trainer based in San Francisco. He has been dubbed a pleasure activist and a warrior of love. TT's path to sexual awakening began over a decade ago. We talk about the world of sex workers and get into the recent SESTA and FOSTA bills that recently became law, the future of sex education, and Virtual Reality. About TT Baum... He has refined a powerful style of erotic facilitation that integrates his own sexual research with the teachings of his mentors (among them, Joseph Kramer, PhD., Annie Sprinkle, PhD. and Barbara Carellas). Since 2013 he has been teaching his own brand of adult-focused sex education called 'How to F*ck Better'. He leads several Tantra based workshops that explore desire and touch. And beginning in 2016, TT was certified to train professionals in Bondassage and Elysium trademarked sequences, as well as signature Bondassage for Couples training with Pele. You can find out more about what he does at his website: www.integral­eros.com Want to show your appreciation to the BCBC Crew and Help BCBC Succeed?!?! Please help our podcast and support a great show and resource trying to make the world better one podcast at a time! First LIKE, Rate, and Subscribe to our podcast... Best done on iTunes and also give us 5 stars and also write a wonderful review! Then check out other ways you can support the show: Donate to the show and get stuff here: www.patreon.com/bcbcpodcast Please LIKE AND SHARE THE FACEBOOK PAGE with everyone... www.facebook.com/bcbcpodcast Read our blogs and leave us a message on our cool new website: www.bcbcpodcast.com You should also watch and subscribe to the video show!!! https://www.youtube.com/bcbcpodcast Would you like to donate to a non-profit education program? Contact us at bcbcpodcast@gmail.com

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A listener question sent me on a quest to find some folks who could share their coming out stories, specifically cis men, and that quest led me to TT Baum. Several colleagues had the most amazing things to say about him, and when we finally connected, I adored his calm energy and beautiful openness. This episode has so many tender moments - from his coming out story to his thoughts on sex education for youth to his journey to becoming a sacred intimate. I wanted to listen to him talk for hours. So, settle in and get ready for a great chat with TT Baum. Psst...did you know you can follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook? It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram. Resources discussed in this episode Bondassage The Body Electric School About TT Baum TTBaum is a Sacred Intimate and Sex Educator based in San Francisco. He has been dubbed a pleasure activist and a warrior of love. TT’s path to sexual awakening began over a decade ago. He has refined a powerful style of erotic facilitation that integrates his own sexual research with the teachings of his mentors (among them, Joseph Kramer, PhD., AnnieSprinkle, PhD. and Barbara Carrellas). TT has a unique approach to supporting clients mastering their own erotic energy. In his own words: “As a Sacred Intimate, I have been called to provide my clients with new tools and experiences to awaken into a more satisfying and intimate sexual existence. To this end I see my practice as a Sacred Intimate from a holistic place that requires me to consider the harmony of the entire being: physical, emotional, spiritual and mental.” Check out TT's website integral-eros.com and follow him on Twitter @integraleros. Hearing from you is the best, so here's how to contact the show: Contact form: Click here

Camping, public nudity, face licking, and more. This episode is definitely a rainbow of all the things. We've got some listener emails talking about the Hitachi Magic Wand, face licking, and a really deep question about a spouse who claims that being put up on a pedestal is killing her libido. Dawn reports back on Sex Geek Summer Camp and the interesting things that unfolded there.   Plus, Dawn recently visited a Sacred Intimate for some hands-on healing work. Hear all the details of what happened and how profound the experience was for her.  You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: info@sexgetsreal.com Contact form: Click here