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Rich in Relationship
Breaking Out of The Man Box with John Schinnerer

Rich in Relationship

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 3, 2025 37:03


What is the "Man Box"—and how is it quietly sabotaging modern men, their relationships, and their happiness?In this powerful and eye-opening episode of Rich in Relationship, host Rich Heller sits down with Dr. John Schinnerer—psychologist, anger expert, and host of The Evolved Caveman Podcast—to dismantle the outdated rules of masculinity that keep men stuck, reactive, and emotionally disconnected.Together, they explore:The origins of the Man Box and why it once served a purpose—but now holds men backWhy anger is the most socially “acceptable” emotion for men—and how it distorts all othersHow cultural shifts in relationships have left men without a roadmap for connection at homeThe neurological and emotional cost of staying stuck in the boxTools for breaking out: mindfulness, emotional literacy, attachment awareness, and moreThe transformative power of grief, vulnerability, and modeling emotional health—for our kids, our partners, and ourselvesJohn also shares his personal journey of losing his son—and how choosing not to "man up" but to feel and heal changed his life and his daughter's.This is a must-listen for any man (or woman) who wants to better understand how men are wired—and how we can rewire for deeper connection, emotional strength, and purpose.

Rich in Relationship
Breaking Out of The Man Box with John Schinnerer

Rich in Relationship

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 3, 2025 37:03


What is the "Man Box"—and how is it quietly sabotaging modern men, their relationships, and their happiness?In this powerful and eye-opening episode of Rich in Relationship, host Rich Heller sits down with Dr. John Schinnerer—psychologist, anger expert, and host of The Evolved Caveman Podcast—to dismantle the outdated rules of masculinity that keep men stuck, reactive, and emotionally disconnected.Together, they explore:The origins of the Man Box and why it once served a purpose—but now holds men backWhy anger is the most socially “acceptable” emotion for men—and how it distorts all othersHow cultural shifts in relationships have left men without a roadmap for connection at homeThe neurological and emotional cost of staying stuck in the boxTools for breaking out: mindfulness, emotional literacy, attachment awareness, and moreThe transformative power of grief, vulnerability, and modeling emotional health—for our kids, our partners, and ourselvesJohn also shares his personal journey of losing his son—and how choosing not to "man up" but to feel and heal changed his life and his daughter's.This is a must-listen for any man (or woman) who wants to better understand how men are wired—and how we can rewire for deeper connection, emotional strength, and purpose.

Evolved Caveman
Episode 17: Navigating Anger in Relationships: Expert Advice with Dr. John Schinnerer

Evolved Caveman

Play Episode Listen Later May 5, 2025 46:04


Ready for a no-holds-barred chat on anger management, male irritability and their impact on relationships? We've got Dr. John Schinnerer—yes, his last name is a mouthful—dropping some serious self-awareness bombs. Trina Glines interviews Dr. John to help you discover your authentic self and stop life's challenges from becoming roadblocks. Dr. John breaks down how anger actually works (hint: it's not just a secondary emotion) and gives four killer components: emotional, cognitive, physiological, and attentional. He even dishes on living with an angry ex-spouse and references John Gottman's 'four horsemen' that predict relationship doom. But hey, it's not all bad news! Dr. John's got the top tools to begin your transformation into Phil Jackson, aka the zen master. You'll learn how to keep your cool, stop fights, and maybe even enjoy life a bit more. Don't worry about long therapy sessions—his coaching style makes this stuff accessible. Whether you're an executive with an irritability issue, in a relationship with an testy twat, or just someone who's aware of their own anger issues, you're in the right place. So breathe, grab your journal, and get ready to take some notes. You're about to transform your anger into strength.Wanna Go Deeper Down the Rabbit Hole? Here's Where to Find Us):

Evolved Caveman
Episode 15: Unlocking Strength with Heart: A Man's Guide to Self-Compassion and Resilience w/ Daniel Ellenberg, Ph.D.

Evolved Caveman

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 28, 2025 58:25


Buckle up, intrepid listeners! Dr. John kicks off the latest episode of the Evolve Caveman Podcast with a bang, bringing on the illustrious Daniel Ellenberg, Ph.D. This dude isn't just any therapist; he's a leadership coach, founder of Strength with Heart men's groups, and past president of the APA's division on Men and Masculinities. Oh, and did I mention he co-developed training for NASA? Yeah, the guy's got creds. John and Daniel dive into the intricacies of male relationships, the importance of play, and why guys need to stop being such jackasses about vulnerability and self-compassion. They riff on everything from the significance of boundaries to the irony of male loneliness, all while making sure to keep things breezy and sarcastic. Ever wonder why men are so scared of the word 'compassion'? You're about to find out. Daniel's current passion project: helping men balance strength with heart through the Men and Boys Compassion Coalition. A must-listen for anyone trying to upgrade their male operating system without losing their edge.About Dr. John's Esteemed Guest, Daniel Ellenberg, Ph.D.:Daniel Ellenberg, PhD, is a licensed therapist, leadership coach, and the founder of Strength with Heart men's groups and workshops. He is a past president of American Psychological Association (APA) division on men and masculinities and the founder/director of the Men and Boys Compassion Coalition through the Global Compassion Coalition (GCC). He is currently co-writing a book for men called Strength with Heart and contributed a chapter in A Global Dialogue on Masculinity. He has spent his entire career helping people, particularly men, navigate their lives more mindfully, skillfully, and compassionately. He co-developed and delivered training at several NASA space centers—including Resilience Dynamics, Introspection for Leadership Excellence, and The Neuroscience of Teams. Wanna Go Deeper Down the Rabbit Hole? Here's Where to Stalk Us (Respectfully):

Evolved Caveman
Episode 11: *Mud, Meaning & Masculinity — w/ Author & Positive Psych Star John Sean Doyle**

Evolved Caveman

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 17, 2025 38:55


*Mud, Meaning & Masculinity — with Poet & Positive Psych Star John Sean Doyle**  What if embracing pain was the key to more joy, connection, and purpose?In this thought-provoking convo, Dr. John sits down with **John Sean Doyle** — poet, lawyer, and “the poetic voice of positive psychology” — to talk about how to stay grounded in a chaotic world and live with more reverence, resilience, and kindness.We cover:- The beauty of *both/and* — joy and pain, awe and grief  - How to raise kinder kids (and better men)  - Why meaning and poetry are essential for a well-lived life  - Lessons from working with drill sergeants, judges, monks, and more  - His powerful book, *Mud and Dreams***About John Sean Doyle:**  Sean is a poet, lawyer, and former positive psych professor. His writing and workshops help people recover reverence for life and create a culture of compassion — from the courtroom to the classroom to the dinner table.

Evolved Caveman
Episode 9: Healing Men: The Unseen Battle with Trauma

Evolved Caveman

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 24, 2025 50:03


THE UNSEEN BATTLE: WHY MEN SUCK AT HEALING FROM TRAUMALet's get real. Men don't talk about trauma. We barely talk about emotions at all, so why the hell would we open up about the stuff that actually messed us up? Instead, we do what we've been trained to do—bury it, numb it, ignore it, and hope it just goes away. Spoiler alert: It doesn't.  In this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast, Dr. John Schinnerer sits down with Malachi Gillihan, a PhD candidate and men's trauma specialist who's making it his mission to help men face their demons instead of running from them. Malachi knows what he's talking about, because he's been there. As a survivor of child sexual trauma, he understands firsthand how trauma rewires the brain, hijacks emotions, and shapes how men show up (or don't) in relationships, work, and life.  We explore the messy, uncomfortable, and absolutely necessary conversation about men and trauma—why we avoid it, how it impacts us in ways we don't even realize, and what the hell to do about it.  THE UNCOMFORTABLE TOPICS WE'RE DIVING INTO  - What trauma actually is (hint: it's not just war vets and car crashes)  - The helplessness factor and why it screws men up more than we think  - Clinical vs. subclinical PTSD and why so many guys are walking around with undiagnosed trauma  - How gender socialization makes healing harder (because apparently, “suck it up” isn't great medical advice)  - Why co-regulation matters in recovery and why going it alone is the worst plan ever  - How the rugged individualism myth keeps men stuck in cycles of pain  - The power of group therapy and why healing happens faster when you stop trying to tough it out solo  ABOUT MALACHI GILLIHAN  Malachi is not your typical trauma expert. He's a yogi, spiritual counselor, and trauma specialist who blends Eastern and Western approaches to recovery. He's taught over 1,000 classes on trauma, meditation, and healing, runs a private practice, and leads retreats designed to help men break free from the weight of their past. With a Master's in East-West Psychology and a PhD in progress focused on group-based interventions for survivors of sexual trauma, he's spent years studying how trauma rewires the brain and how men can reclaim their emotional health.  If you've ever thought, “I don't have trauma," or "That stuff doesn't affect me," this episode might just prove you wrong. And if you've been carrying something heavy for way too long, this conversation could be the first step toward finally putting it down.

Evolved Caveman
Episode 5: Navigating Emotions: The Art of Non-Judgmental Awareness

Evolved Caveman

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 23, 2024 44:08


How to take a look at your emotions without labeling them as right or wrong while also reflecting on personal experiences. Dr. John discusses this approach with respect to a frightening recent incident where he lost sight in his left eye while in Portugal (then got e.coli two days later and had to be taken off the plane by ambulance!). The key to being resilient and bouncing with life's challenges hinges on one's ability  on one's ability to look at their emotions without judgment. The Buddhist notion of two darts applies well here. Life is guaranteed to cause pain at times. Pain is the first dart. It is inevitable. The second dart is suffering. And we have the ability to minimize the suffering that we experience as a result of our pain.This episode shares a personal experience involving eye issues, expressing feelings of fear, anger, sadness, and fatigue due to repeated medical treatments. Happiness is about relationships and connections. It is also about the ability to manage our emotions well. Join in the conversation with Mark Ellenshon, an acclaimed filmmaker who worked on classics such as Terminator. Mark is seeking to support men over 50 to age gracefully. Sign up NOW for his free web summit, I Got You Man, and sign up at I Got You Man.  Dr. John Schinnerer has a great interview with him that you won't want to miss!Guest Bio:Mark Ellenshon is a seasoned filmmaker with an early start at 17, starting by himself and climbing his way to films, such as The Terminator “Department Head” (1984) at 24 and Back to the Future 2 and 3 at 29. Moving on to his goal as a professional Director/Cameraman. Now, with over 35 years of experience in the industry. He is known for awards globally, including Cannes, Europe, and Nationally. As the founder of Marrick Production Services in 1984. Cinevision Camera Company Inc.1995. His expertise spanned cutting-edge film boundaries and what's possible in filmmaking, shooting out of jets, helicopters, race cars, underwater, and extreme working conditions to create the latest production value.Mark's work has taken him to over 36 countries and 6 continents. His deep knowledge of both the creative and technical sides of filmmaking made him a sought-after Director/Cameraman and leader in the industry, known for his ability to inspire and guide teams to deliver exceptional results.Now, as a speaker for the Live Your Best Life After 50 Summit, Mark is eager to share his journey of adapting, evolving, and finding purpose beyond the career he spent decades building. As someone who has navigated the challenges of aging while staying active in a fast-paced industry, Mark offers a unique perspective on living fully, staying mentally and physically engaged, and embracing new opportunities in the later stages of life.His own experiences have taught him the importance of maintaining a sense of adventure and creativity, even as life changes. Mark's story is one of resilience, innovation, and a relentless pursuit of excellence—qualities that continue to drive him forward, both professionally and personally. At the summit, he aims to inspire other men over 50 to explore new passions, stay curious, and keep pushing boundaries, no matter their age.In addition to his extensive film and life experience, Mark is a firm believer in personal learning and growth, making him the perfect fit for this summit dedicated to empowering men to live their best lives after 50.

The Dude Therapist
Is Love Enough? W/ Dr. John Schinnerer + Joree Rose, MA, LMFT

The Dude Therapist

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 20, 2024 44:17


In this enlightening episode of The Dude Therapist, Eli Weinstein is joined by the incredible duo, Joree Rose, LMFT, and Dr. John Schinnerer. As partners in both life and love, Joree and John have dedicated over five years to guiding couples toward deeper, more fulfilling relationships. Their expertise shines as they share insights from their groundbreaking work in couples therapy and their podcast, Love Isn't Enough. Together, they discuss the transformative power of couples work, emphasizing that while love is a foundation, it's not always sufficient to sustain a healthy, lasting partnership. They delve into the critical importance of individual growth within relationships and how understanding core wounds and triggers can lead to more empathetic and connected interactions. You'll hear about the impact of societal expectations around masculinity on emotional regulation and why cultivating self-awareness is crucial for both partners. Joree and John also reveal practical strategies, such as non-defensive listening, the power of weekly check-ins, and techniques to break cycles of conflict. Plus, they introduce their innovative year-long Master Class series, which focuses on the 12 key areas affecting couples' connections, along with their unique and highly effective couples therapy model. What makes their approach stand out is the humility and vulnerability they bring by sharing their own relationship challenges—and how they've grown stronger through them. Whether you're in a relationship or working to better understand your partner, this episode is packed with wisdom, actionable advice, and heartfelt moments that will leave you inspired to invest in the connection you share. Resources Mentioned: Learn more about Joree and John's work and their Master Class series at www.loveisntenough.net Follow their podcast, Love Isn't Enough, for more relationship insights Connect with Eli: Follow Eli Weinstein on Instagram, TikTok, and Threads Visit The Dude Therapist for more episodes on mental health, relationships, and personal growth Tune in and discover why love, while essential, truly isn't enough—and what you can do to build a thriving relationship beyond it! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

Evolved Caveman
Episode 4: How to Build a Happier Relationship w/ Dr. John & Joree

Evolved Caveman

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 21, 2024 51:12


Welcome to The Evolved Caveman Podcast. In this episode we tackle what it truly takes to build and maintain a happy, thriving relationship. Whether you're in the honeymoon phase or navigating the ups and downs of long-term commitment, this show is for anyone looking to deepen their connection with their partner and cultivate lasting joy.We often hear that love is a feeling, but a great relationship goes beyond emotions—it's built on trust, communication, respect, and a willingness to grow together. In this podcast, we'll dive into the real-life strategies, habits, and mindsets that couples use to keep their relationships strong. From overcoming conflict to nurturing intimacy and balancing personal growth with partnership, we'll uncover the keys to sustaining love over the long haul.So, whether you're tuning in with your partner or on your own, join Joree Rose, LMFT, & Dr. John Schinnerer as they explore what it really takes to not just survive—but thrive—together.And tune in for the premiere episode of our new podcast, Love Isn't Enough which drops tomorrow on all major podcasting platforms.  It's all you need to know to create the happy, thriving relationship you so richly deserve! 

Evolved Caveman
Episode 1: Why Masculinity Is Now A Central Theme In Politics

Evolved Caveman

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 9, 2024 61:44


Millions of men are tired of the way in which MAGA Republicans have defined masculinity in the traditional, restrictive fashion - emphasizing the “hard” side of men and shaming the “soft” side. This includes prioritizing independence over interdependence, thinking over feeling, autonomy over connection, and emotional suppression over vulnerability.  The old view is “power over” others rather than “power with”. The old view is to exert control over women which is demonstrated by MAGA's views on abortion and birth control. The solution is not to prioritize the hard side of masculinity over the soft side. Nor is it to prioritize the soft side over the hard side. The solution is to create a climate which values all sides of masculinity (or even better, humanity!), so that we may bring the best aspects of ourselves to any situation as needed. The solution is to stop shaming men when they feel natural, healthy human emotions (think of how Gus Walz was treated when he displayed love, connection and pride over his father at the DNC). What is the Man Box?  It's the rules you absorbed as a boy about what it means to be a “real man”; rules that have made you emotionally constipated, caused conflict in your romantic relationship, encouraged you to chase material things, and caught up in a hyper-competitive rat race. The rules include such classics as be tough, hide your feelings, dominate women, be self-reliant, don't be feminine, and don't be homosexual. Research shows that this restrictive, tired view of masculinity has negative effects on us. The more we subscribe to traditional Man Box beliefs, the lower our self-esteem (Cournoyer & Mahalik, 1995), the more difficulties we have in romantic relationships and friendships (Fischer & Good, 1997; Sharpe & Heppner, 1991), the more we act in violence (Franchina, Eisler, & Moore, 2001), and the more depressed and anxious we feel (Cournoyer & Mahalik, 1995; Hayes & Mahalik, 2000).Join Dr. John Schinnerer and Mark Greene in a fascinating conversation about the Man Box culture, and how it's playing out in politics right now. The solution is not to flip the script so that we overvalue the soft aspects of men over the harder aspects.  The goal is to honor both the hard and the soft sides of our humanity equally. It's giving men permission to tap into all aspects of their humanity so that they are comfortable bringing the best parts of themselves to a particular situation.This is not a problem at an individual level. It is a cultural issue, a culture in which the full spectrum of our humanity has yet to be valued fully. The thing I love about the Man Box idea is that none of this is your fault. You didn't ask to be socialized like this. You had no control over it. It just happens. So keep in mind that while this is not your fault, it is your responsibility to evolve beyond the Man Box. And that's what we are seeking to do in this election, discover more ways to evolve our masculinity.About Dr. John's Esteemed Guest, Mark Greene:Mark Greene works to engage men in creating diverse, equitable, and inclusive workplace cultures. Co-Author with Dr. Saliha Bava of The Relational Workplace. Mark works with organizations and individuals to overcome the challenges created by retrogressive workplace cultures through his Man Box Choice Point trainings.Mark is the author of The Little #MeToo Book for Men, Remaking Manhood, and co-author, along with Dr. Saliha Bava, of the Relational Book for Parenting. Mark's newest book, co-authored with Dr. Bava, is The Relational Workplace. Available now: https://a.co/d/1PcuEsn Mark is co-host of Remaking Manhood, the Healthy Masculinity Podcast. All of Remaking Manhood's healthy masculinity resources are here: https://linktr.ee/RemakingManhood

Evolved Caveman
Episode 32: The Top Tools For A Loving, Thriving Relationship Dr. John Schinnerer & Joree Rose, LMFT

Evolved Caveman

Play Episode Listen Later May 21, 2024 40:18


Love isn't enough for a thriving relationship. That's merely the starting point. What do you do when life gets in the way? When things get stressful? How do you keep your relationship positive when you are pushed and pulled on all sides?Join me, Dr. John, and my partner Joree Rose as we discuss the best tools we know of to maintain that positive, supportive, loving feeling in your relationship. These most powerful tools are backed by science and include:The softened start upValidating your partner's feelingsListen, fix, hug?Invitation, request, demand framework of communicationCuriosity and compassionNon-violent communicationNonjudgmental listening And more!By the end of this podcast, you'll have a more thorough understanding of 8 new tools which you can begin to practice today to improve the emotional connection of your romantic relationship. These proven tools are invaluable. After all, you're only as happy as you are in your relationship! Join us as we guide you up the path to a healthier, happier partnership.Find out more about our monthly Master Class on Relationships and about our couples coaching packages at LoveIsntEnough.net. 

Evolved Caveman
Episode 29: Navigating Your Core Wounds In Relationship Dr. John Schinnerer & Joree Rose, LMFT

Evolved Caveman

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 16, 2024 40:21


What's the best way to strengthen your connection in your romantic relationship and navigate through the complexities of your deepest core emotional wounds?Join me, Dr. John, and my partner Joree Rose as we dive into the essential understanding of core wounds in relationships, shedding light on how these deep-seated emotional injuries can impact our interactions and connections with our partners. One of Joree's favorite questions in couples therapy is “What is your partner's deepest core wound?” More than half of people don't even know their own core wound. But how can we expect to master the complexities of romance if we aren't the expert on ourself and our partner? We explore the significance of self-awareness, the power of navigating triggers with compassion. We provide a beginning list of some of the deepest wounds we've seen in both the anxious and the avoidant attachment styles. We discuss the role of curiosity and compassion as fundamental tools for healing and understanding. We offer insights into effective communication and the importance of honoring each other's triggers to foster a nurturing, supportive bond.By the end of this podcast, you'll gain a deeper understanding of yourself and your partner, what your core wounds are, how to work with them gently, thus empowering both of you to create a more resilient and loving connection. Whether you're looking to heal old wounds or build a stronger foundation in your current relationship, these insights are invaluable. Join us as we explore the path to a healthier, happier partnership.If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnerer

Evolved Caveman
Episode 28: Love Isn’t Enough: Is Intensive Couples Therapy Right For You? Dr. John Schinnerer & Joree Rose, LMFT

Evolved Caveman

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 8, 2024 52:11


Love Isn't Enough: Is Intensive Couples Therapy Right For You?Dr. John Schinnerer & Joree Rose, LMFTJoin Joree and I in an in-depth conversation about our experience in intensive couples therapy (i.e., 2 six-hour days of therapy with Charlie & Linda Bloom!). We also go into our belief that intensives are a much more effective means to create positive, lasting change than the traditional 1 hour, once-a-week sessions.If you are someone that: recognizes the distressing accumulation of hurts, annoyances & frustrations in your relationship,  has found traditional couples therapy to be less than effective, or  has never even considered couples therapy but desire a loving, supportive, thriving relationship,…then this episode is for you.  Questions addressed in this one:After significant relationship issues arise, how long do people typically wait before trying couples counseling?What are some of the differences between traditional one-hour-a-week couples therapy vs. intensive couples therapy?How to be clear on what is your individual work and what is your relational work?How do we get men more comfortable with entering into couples counseling?How can we make therapy more effective for men?What is the role of curiosity and nonjudgmentalness in effective arguing?How can effective couples therapy lead to the secure attachment you've always wanted?All this and more, in this episode of The Evolved Caveman podcast!Please like, rate, review and share if you find this show meaningful to you! I'm trying to counterbalance a couple of bad reviews by my ex-wife! 

Evolved Caveman
Episode 27: Stop Striving for Happiness (And How To Accept ALL Your Emotions)

Evolved Caveman

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 2, 2024 58:38


One of the biggest sources of human suffering comes from our tendency to avoid uncomfortable emotions. We are not taught how to face these unpleasant, somewhat frequent experiences. Our first (and sometimes only) strategy is to suppress them, ignore them, or become overwhelmed by them. Yet how we meet and greet these difficult emotions with curiosity has everything to do with our well-being, resilience, and ability to connect with ourselves and others. Instinctually, we fight against our uncomfortable emotions. In doing so, we reinforce messages of “not good enough” or “I'm not supposed to feel this way.”In this  poignant & actionable conversation with Dr. Beth Kurland, the author of You Don't Have to Change to Change Everything, we learn that, instead of forcing ourselves to feel “happy” and burying what is unpleasant, or instead of getting hooked by intense emotions, we can change our perspective. Dr. Beth offers six vantage points to shift to when difficult emotions arise. They include: ·      The Anchor View: Finding Stable Ground ·      The Child View: Curiosity Is Your Superpower ·      The Audience View: Learn to Zoom Out·      The Compassionate Parent View: How to Become Your Own Ally ·      The Mirror View: Your Strengths and Imperfections Are Welcome Here·      The Ocean View: We're All in This Together Being aware from each of these six vantage points allows us to cultivate inner stability, greater awareness of our internal strengths and inner resources, interconnection with the world around us and, perhaps most importantly, self-compassion. In this way, Dr. Beth provides a uniquely doable approach to healing that emphasizes changing our perspective instead of changing ourselves.About Dr. John's Esteemed Guest:Beth Kurland, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist with three decades of experience.  She is also a TEDx and public speaker, a mind-body coach, and an author of three award-winning books: Dancing on The Tightrope: Transcending the Habits of Your Mind and Awakening to Your Fullest Life; The Transformative Power of Ten Minutes: An Eight Week Guide to Reducing Stress and Cultivating Well-Being. Beth blogs for Psychology Today and is the creator of the Well-Being Toolkit online program. She lives in the Boston area. For more, visit BethKurland.com.If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Editing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

Evolved Caveman
Episode 26: The People Pleaser’s Plight: How To Stop Feeling Too Guilty Dr. John Schinnerer & Joree Rose, LMFT

Evolved Caveman

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 25, 2024 57:10


Anyone who has ever been a people-pleaser can know how hard it is to be in relationships that don't have reciprocity. It can feel like we give and give and give, and just because we are connected in the relationship, can think it's enough, when in reality, we end up feeling depleted and resentful. In this joint episode, with my partner in life and love, Joree Rose, LMFT, we talk about 6 areas that people-pleasers can get stuck in or struggle with, along with some of the context that may lead you to becoming a people-pleaser. The 6 areas that we go in depth into are: difficulty drawing boundaries, feeling an overactive sense of guilt, being conflict avoidant, having a fear of loneliness, building anger & resentment and not knowing what your needs are. If you are someone that feels an imbalance in your relationships, and wants greater insight into why you may be doing what you're doing, and have the tools to shift into healthier relationship patterns, then this episode is for you. Questions addressed in this one:What does it mean to be a “people-pleaser”?What are some of the main issues involved in people pleasing?How does one become a “people-pleaser”?How does boundary setting figure into people pleasing?What about the gradual accumulation of anger and resentment?Where does the heightened sense of guilt come from?How comfortable are people-pleasers with conflict?How does a fear of loneliness enter into the picture?All this and more, in this episode of The Evolved Caveman podcast!Please like, rate, review and share if you find this show meaningful to you!If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnerer

Evolved Caveman
Episode 23: The Sacred Psychedelic Ceremony: All You Wanted To Know

Evolved Caveman

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 19, 2024 53:53


Psychedelics have been described as “the mind revealing itself to itself.” Recent research backs this notion up, showing the profound healing impact of psychedelics such as psilocybin (magic mushrooms), MDMA, and more. MDMA has been deemed “breakthrough status” by the FDA for folks struggling with PTSD. Psilocybin has been given “breakthrough status” by the FDA for its positive results for individuals with depression, anxiety and substance abuse disorders. There are a variety of ways to access such medicines. Some of them are legal. Some take place in the “underground.” One of the underground ways is via a psychedelic journey led by a shaman  and/or medicine woman. Yet, what does a group psychedelic journey look like? What should one expect?  What is helpful to do prior to a journey? What are the safeguards needed to ensure a positive, healing experience? How does one create a safe container for a journey? Why is integration so important following the journey? About Dr. John's Guest:Formerly known as Lois Koffi, now her ceremonial spiritual name is Misty Magdalena Grace (Magdalena for short). She is a plant medicine woman/spiritual teacher & microdosing coach, focused on mental/physical/spiritual health.  She has been a coach for 23 years, coaching 20,000 plus people in both health and fitness, as well as business/sales. She has seen so so many people focus on the external DOING of goal setting, new year's resolutions and intention setting and realized that most of our success lies WITHIN. She has had her own awakening journey of working through addictive behaviors, depression/anxiety and struggles as well as many victories and successes.  She has lost 12 friends to suicide and many to addiction and has a huge vision/mission to help people safely with sacred plants.  She has trained with several plant medicine women and shamans through initiations and deep dive healing over 50 times.  Find Out More About Microdosing:https://microdosingforhealth.now.site/homeSubscribe To Her Newsletter:https://loiskoffi.lpages.co/healthy-n-wealthy-n-wise-subscription/Check Out Her Podcast:https://loiskoffi.com/podcast/If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

Networking Rx
Savor Positive Emotions (683)

Networking Rx

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 18, 2024 1:21


This episode of the Networking Rx Minute with Frank Agin (http://frankagin.com) poses a question and an answer from Dr. John Schinnerer (@johnschin) regarding the role of positive emotions in your life.   For more great insight on professional relationships and business networking visit https://www.amspirit.com/blog/networking-rx or contact Frank Agin at frankagin@amspirit.com.    

Evolved Caveman
Episode 22: Fight Well w/ Your Loved One: New Tools For Arguments

Evolved Caveman

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 12, 2024 51:12


Let's face it: couples argue. Disagreements are inevitable. Arguing is not a problem; in fact, there's a lot of authenticity & freedom in being able to express yourself fully, even when you're angry. The problem is when arguing is ineffective, or when anger & insults erode the safety & security of your relationship. However, there are proven ways that you can argue better; ways that actually benefit your partnership. Learn the scientifically-proven rules to fight fair, argue well, repair quickly & ultimately resolve those long-standing disagreements with Dr. John & Joree Rose, LMFT. If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnerer

Evolved Caveman
Episode 21: Sexuality and Yoga for Men

Evolved Caveman

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 5, 2024 51:12


Yoga is a group of physical, mental, energetic and spiritual practices which originated in ancient India, aim to still the mind and reduce human suffering (Duḥkha). Yoga can even include sexual energy in its practices. Yoga-like practices were first mentioned in the ancient Hindu text known as Rigveda. Yoga is referred to in a number of the Upanishads.The first known appearance of the word "yoga" with the same meaning as the modern term is in the Katha Upanishad, which was probably composed between the fifth and third centuries BCE. The Bhagavad Gita describes yoga as “skill in action.” It has to do with the raising of consciousness, the discovery of dysfunctional thoughts and perceptions, the reduction of suffering, and the discovery of inner peace. One of the keys to healthy aging, peace of mind and terrific sexuality for men is yoga, partly as it aids in maintaining muscle strength, flexibility and balance. Join Dr. John in an arousing conversation with Thomas Gloor, a yoga teacher for men. He has taught for several decades and his wisdom is inspiring. Some topics covered include:The difference between the energetic body and the physical body.Tantric yoga and sexuality.The difference between orgasm and ejaculation.Transforming emotional energy into spiritual energy.If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnerer

Evolved Caveman
Episode 16: Universal Dating Truths Per A Top 10 Comedian

Evolved Caveman

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 29, 2023 51:50


2023 was a rough year for me. And I suspect it may have been rough for you too. In hopes of lightening things up as we head into a more peaceful and productive 2024, I interview Alli Goldberg, an up and coming comedian who, among other things, hosts a live dating show, Love Isn't Blind, in which the men cannot speak. Alli and I talk about what she has found out about dating given her unique perspective as one who is currently dating and who MCs a dating show. She is funny, insightful and illuminating. It is truly an enjoyable conversation. Listen now, as I ask a question I've never uttered before, “If you were a sex toy, which one would you be?” Allison Goldberg is a creator whose work has been covered by LA Magazine, Good Morning America, The Savage Lovecast, WIRED, NPR, The LA Times, and more. Most recently, she sold her live comedy show How To Break Up By Text to a well-known podcasting platform (releasing in Feb 2024). In that show and format, celebrities perform your break-up texts and then an expert joins as we break down your break up. For the past year, she's been hosting her newest creation, Love Isn't Blind, which is a comedy/dating show where the men can't speak. Alli was recently named one of the top 10 funniest women in NYC. Alli is a graduate of Yale University.If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnerer

Evolved Caveman
Episode 16: How Can Men Be Simultaneously Powerful and Powerless?

Evolved Caveman

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 18, 2023 54:38


Even though men as a group have power, individual men often feel powerless. These contradictory experiences contribute to men's hurting—hurting others and being hurt. Depression has risen to unprecedented highs in men. Loneliness among men is an epidemic. How do we reconcile these disparate truths?Based on more than fifteen years of research, Keith E. Edwards, PhD, illuminates men's masking, unmasking, and becoming to help men develop their own authentic masculinity. He also shares strategies to help us all better engage the men in our lives with empathy, reach them with compassion, effectively hold them accountable, and help them to become the men they aspire to be. The men in his study thought they had a unique secret, but they all shared the same secret. They each wore masks to hide their insecurities and portray an image that would be seen as “man enough” according to the external expectations of them as men. These external expectations oppress women and transgender people, place some men above other men, and limit all men. Men struggle with their unmasking. Too often, as soon as their insecurities reemerge, the mask snaps back into place as though attached with an elastic cord. With mask consciousness, men can engage in their own process of becoming by exploring their identity and practicing aligning their actions with integrity. About Keith Edwards:Keith helps transformational leaders make the complex uncomplicated for leadership, learning, and equity. His research, writing, and speaking have received national awards and recognition. Keith is the author of the book Unmasking: Toward Authentic Masculinity, which based on more than fifteen years of research. Keith illuminates men's masking, unmasking, and becoming to help men develop their own authentic masculinity. Even though men as a group have power, individual men often feel powerless. These contradictory experiences contribute to men's hurting—hurting others and being hurt. Keith shares strategies to help us all better engage the men in our lives with empathy, reach them with compassion, effectively hold them accountable, and help them to become the men they aspire to be.Keith co-edited the book Addressing Sexual Violence in Higher Education and co-authored the chapter on Comprehensive Sexual Violence Prevention in this book. His TEDx Talk on preventing sexual violence has been viewed around the world.He is co-host of Student Affairs NOW, the premier podcast for student affairs.Find out more about Keith:KeithEdwards.com  If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnerer

Evolved Caveman
Episode 15: A Fulfilling Relationship Is All About Connection

Evolved Caveman

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 11, 2023 49:16


At the root of all happy and fulfilled relationships are deep connections - emotional, spiritual, intellectual, and sexual. Connection is something we all say we want and yet not many of us know how to actually achieve it in a way that is truly sustainable. In this episode, Joree and I share some stories from our recent trip to Africa that highlight the importance and value of human connection. We also share personal anecdotes from our own relationship, in our journey to develop deeper connection with one another, as well as some patterns and experiences that we see with clients, in which connection is not achieved, compromised, or simply nonexistent. The good news is that the tools to achieve deeply connected relationships are all learnable. And, to this end, Joree and I are really excited to be offering new ways to learn more about yourself, the barriers to your own ability to connect vulnerably and authentically with others, as well as relational tools to strengthen any partnership that has the desire to grow. Reserve your space in our new monthly Master Class to learn new ways to cultivate more connection & intimacy with your loved one!To join our new monthly Master Class Series: https://joreerose.com/theawaremethodmasterclass/ If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

Networking Rx
Invest In Happiness (612)

Networking Rx

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 7, 2023 1:13


This episode of the Networking Rx Minute with Frank Agin (http://frankagin.com) uses a quote from positive psychology specialist Dr. John Schinnerer (@johnschin) to encourage you to devote energy to happiness.   For more great insight on professional relationships and business networking visit https://www.amspirit.com/blog/networking-rx or contact Frank Agin at frankagin@amspirit.com.    

Evolved Caveman
Episode 14: Best Ways To Deal With A Romantic Breakup

Evolved Caveman

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 4, 2023 64:57


Earlier this year, I went through a breakup with my partner, Joree. It was bruuuuutal. Fortunately, we reconciled after two months and now are stronger than ever. Yet, it raises a critical question: How do you BEST deal with the painful breakup from a loved one? We know that love is addictive. So breakups are a lot like kicking a substance abuse problem. But why do some people get addicted to their ex while others don't? And how can we best manage the painful emotions involved in a breakup?Join Dr. John for an amazing conversation with Dr. Cortney Warren, a psychologist and professor specializing in how to let go of your ex (among other things!). Topics covered:How to survive a tough breakup?What are the differences when you break it off vs. being on the receiving end of the break up?How is love addictive?Why do some lovers get addicted to their ex while others don't ? How does this relate to obsessive or stalking behavior?What can family and friends do to help a loved one who is addicted to an ex? About Dr. John's Esteemed Guest:Dr. Cortney S. Warren is a Board Certified Clinical Psychologist and Adjunct Clinical Professor in the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Health at the Kirk Kerkorian School of Medicine at University of Nevada, Las Vegas (UNLV). Having won numerous professional awards for her research, Cortney is an expert on addictions, self-deception, romantic relationships, among other things. Her newest work is a self-help book that explores breakups through an addictive framework called Letting Go of Your Ex: CBT Skills to Heal the Pain of a Breakup and Overcome Love Addiction (2023) Her earlier book is Lies We Tell Ourselves: The Psychology of Self-Deception (2014).If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

Evolved Caveman
Episode 13: Release Your Inner Passion & Level Up Your Sex Life

Evolved Caveman

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 27, 2023 58:11


 To what extent are you sexually repressed? Do you have a hard time talking about sex? Body parts? Can you ask for what you want in bed? Do you even know what you want? Great sex is an important part of a satisfying relationship. Find out more about how to level up the sexual part of your relationship in this episode of The Evolved Caveman. Topics covered:How to bring playfulness into your sex life.Sex Outside the Lines: How we can explore all that is possible in the bedroom.The blocks that prevent us from exploring sexually.How to turn shame into the erotic.The importance of consent in sex and how to do so.The difference between erotic energy and sexual energy. Why sex is such a taboo topic and how to overcome the discomfort in speaking about it.How to develop greater intimacy with your partner.About Dr. John's Guest:Are you looking to unleash your inner passion and take your relationships to the next level? Look no further than Court Vox, a certified sex and intimacy coach and surrogate partner intern. His work as a Sacred Intimate is based in Los Angeles and he is a member of the World Association of Sex Coaches. As a founder of The Body Vox and co-founder of SQUIRM, Court is dedicated to helping individuals discover and explore their sexuality in a safe and healthy manner. He is also part of a team of sex educators who have created the renowned program for women, Back to the Body, which runs retreats worldwide.If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word!  

Evolved Caveman
Episode 12: Looking Backwards: Life Hacks From The Wisdom of Elders

Evolved Caveman

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 20, 2023 57:15


The Wisdom of Elders. What can we learn from the wisdom of men who have suffered trauma, made mistakes & risen above it all? As it turns out, we can learn an incredible amount.  Don St John's life has been nothing short of miraculous. He suffered abuse in childhood—violent beatings & constant verbal abuse. In his early twenties, he was incapable of feeling human connection, had poor impulse control, drank excessively & had poor physical health. By age 35, he had gone through 3 marriages & 3 divorces. He had very little, if any, sense of connection to his body or to his emotions. His life trajectory looked bleak indeed.Today, psychologist & author of the award winning book, Healing the Wounds of Childhood: A Psychologist's Journey And Discoveries From Wretched Beginnings To A Thriving Life, shares & teaches about the work he has done and how he transformed his life from the inside out. He offers ways for others to do the same, no matter what the age or what their beginnings.Topics covered:Trauma is a vague & overused word. How do we define trauma?How does trauma impact us?Trauma largely operates outside of conscious awareness. How do we begin to become aware of our own trauma?How can we begin to heal from our various traumas?How are vibrant health, high quality intimate relationships & a good relationship with your body all inter-related?What are some key insights and practices to build extraordinary relationships?The Loneliness Epidemic and it's consequencesWhere to reach Dr. Donwww.pathsofconnection.com don@st-jon.comIf you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

Evolved Caveman
Episode 11: Archetypes, Heroic Journeys and Anti-heroes In Men

Evolved Caveman

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 13, 2023 55:48


Star Wars. Lord Of The Rings. Call Of Duty.  Homer's Odyssey. Spiderman. All are examples of the Hero's Journey. Popularized by the famed mythologist Joseph Campbell, this story arc is etched into our minds and hearts as what we are to do if we are to succeed as men. Yet, what happens if our lives are merely ordinary? What if we never get the chance to be a hero? Do we matter any less? Find out more in this week's episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast. Topics covered: What are archetypes and why should you care?What is the Hero's Journey? What is the Anti-hero's Journey?How can the Hero's Journey be damaging to boys?The archetypes we normally hear about in men's work are the king, the magician, the warrior and lover. What are some of the other archetypes that have something important to teach us?Why is it so important to create space between clients' selves and their culture?How has the trope of the bromance damaged men?About Dr. John's Esteemed Guest:Dr. Jason Frishman is a psychologist who has been working for over 20 years to support individuals, groups, families, organizations and businesses. He holds degrees in adventure therapy and narrative psychology. Jason is excited to bring over two decades of work in offices, institutions, kitchens, farmers' markets, woodlots and boardrooms to wild new environments. Whether as a psychotherapist, the creator and founder of JourneyMen, public speaker, thought leader or narrative consultant, Jason believes that our lives are adventurous, and we can and should be an active, engaged author of our own adventure stories.Resources:Email Jason at jason@JourneyMenFoundation.com Visit his site at JourneyMenFoundation.orgIf you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

Evolved Caveman
Episode 9: Mindfulness To Manage Your Manic Monkey Mind

Evolved Caveman

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 30, 2023 48:01


The cliche' that happiness is an inside job is true. Jon Kabat-Zinn said, “wherever you go, there you are.” The foundational step to a happier, more fulfilling life is self-awareness. And 95% of us will quickly self-report that we are highly self-aware. In truth, it's about 12% of us. One of the most powerful ways to increase self-awareness is meditation. It allows us to turn inwards and explore the inner landscape to gain greater awareness of our thoughts, feelings, motivations and values. It enables you to become the captain of your own destiny, so that you are in control rather than typical mindless negative habits. Find out more in this enlightening conversation with Chris Cirak.About Dr. John's Peaceful Warrior Guest, Chris Cirak:Chris has been practicing meditation since 2015. He came to it because all the things society says lead to happiness (i.e., the bullshit story we are all fed from youth), didn't. Chasing outcome after outcome left him feeling empty and burnt out. He sought a better way to live life.After exploring many forms of meditation, he settled on what he found to be the most effective method of getting to the root of our mind's conditioned reactivity. His book, Be You – The Journey of Self-Realization, lays the foundation for his courses and teachings. He has studied with and learned from many of the luminaries of our time, including Eckhart Tolle, Deepak Chopra, Dr. Brian Weiss, Joseph Campbell, A Course in Miracles, and many others.If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

Networking Rx
Build A Mental Scrapbook (573)

Networking Rx

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 28, 2023 1:14


This episode of the Networking Rx Minute with Frank Agin (http://frankagin.com) shares advice from Dr. John Schinnerer (@johnschin) on using memories to drive happiness.   For more great insight on professional relationships and business networking visit https://www.amspirit.com/blog/networking-rx or contact Frank Agin at frankagin@amspirit.com.    

Evolved Caveman
Episode 8: How To Increase Employee Engagement & Reduce Quiet Quitting

Evolved Caveman

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 23, 2023 51:26


Research from Gallup Organization has shown for decades that employee engagement is minimal. Gallup defines employee engagement as the involvement and enthusiasm of employees in both their work and workplace. Yet, only 23% of the workforce is actively engaged in their job, while 25% is actively disengaged. This bottom quartile has been shown to have 81% more absenteeism, 43% higher turnover, 28% more shrinkage, and 64% more accidents. COVID did not help these dynamics. So how do we create more employee engagement? How do we effectively increase employee motivation? How can we inspire purpose & meaning in our employees?Topics covered in this one:What is the biggest challenge today's organizations are seeking to solve concerning employee and workforce success?How does employee happiness lead to high performance in organizations?How do you solve these challenges?What's the science behind how happiness leads to greater performance?About Dr. John's Guest:Dr. Pelè is an educator, musician, bestselling author, and the Founder of Profitable Happiness®. Through books, software, training, and music, he seeks to change the world by helping organizations build cultures of high employee engagement, experience, and performance.To find out more, visit www.drpele.com.If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

Evolved Caveman
Episode 6: Are You Addicted?!

Evolved Caveman

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 9, 2023 54:21


What Aren't We Addicted To?! We can be addicted to alcohol, nicotine, marijuana, narcotics, exercise, sex, shopping, social media, gaming and more. What is addiction? And how do you know if you are addicted? Most importantly, what do you do about it?Join Dr. John for a penetrating interview with clinical social worker and substance abuse counselor, Steve Peterson. Steve has been doing this work since 1986.  He has worked in inpatient and outpatient treatment centers, in private practice settings and on large research outcome studies. Most of his clients have co-existing mental health and substance abuse disorders. Topics covered include:What makes addiction a disease and not simply a failure of will?How is addiction defined?Why do some people get addicted while others don't?How can you tell when use becomes addiction?What are some of the less well known addictions?Why do addicts act irrationally?What is the range of treatment options for addiction?Why is relapse so common? What are some of the triggers for relapse?What can family and friends do to help a loved one who is addicted?To find out more about Steve Peterson, email him at AODAGuy62@gmail.com. If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

Networking Rx
Rekindle Your Sense of Humor (549)

Networking Rx

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 3, 2023 1:13


This episode of the Networking Rx Minute with Frank Agin (http://frankagin.com) shares relationship expert John Schinnerer's (@JohnSchin) thoughts on how a sense of humor can help you personally & professionally.   For more great insight on professional relationships and business networking visit https://www.amspirit.com/blog/networking-rx or contact Frank Agin at frankagin@amspirit.com.    

Evolved Caveman
Episode 5: Relationship Tools That Strengthened Us After A Break Up

Evolved Caveman

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 2, 2023 61:26


After coming back together after a short, but painful breakup, Joree and I consciously adopted daily and weekly habits and tools to strengthen our relationship. While we had always put time and attention into our relationship, it didn't always result in the connection or alignment that we both needed to feel seen, heard, validated or fulfilled. In this episode, we go into detail, sharing what we did differently than before to consciously step towards one another in an effort to demonstrate our love, commitment, and dedication to the relationship. Once again (as in Season 5, Episode 1), we share very vulnerable & honest examples & insights into how we healed in the hopes that we can inspire you to create shifts in your relationship. We know that strong relationships are foundational to your happiness & health so we invite you to adopt some of what we have embodied so that you can thrive in your partnership.If this conversation inspires you, then join Joree and I in Costa Rica  in Sept. 2024 for a week-long relationship retreat in which you'll gain the insights & tools to heal what is standing in the way of the fulfilling relationship you desire. Click here to secure your spot; space is limited. Early bird discounts until the end of 2023.Here is another link for Costa Rica retreat: https://joreerose.com/retreats/costa-rica/If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

Evolved Caveman
Episode 4: What If The Worst Part Of You Isn't A Part Of You? Unattached Burdens & Spiritual Possession

Evolved Caveman

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 26, 2023 54:03


“Kill yourself.” “The world would be better off without you.” This is the inner voice of a client of mine. This voice has been existent within him for over a decade. I always assumed this was simply extreme depression. But what if it's not? What if this voice originates from someone other than his true self? What is the brain is porous and can absorb energies from outside? What if spiritual possession (i.e., unattached burdens) isn't just in the movies? This is the compelling topic discussed today with Bob Falconer, author & long-time IFS practitioner. Topics Covered In This Spine-tingling Episode:What is Internal Family Systems (IFS)? What is an Unattached Burden (UB)?How are UBs seen by other cultures around the world?How do you differentiate between a real part of a person and an unattached burden?How do you best respond to an unattached burden?How do you send a UB on their merry way?What makes us more vulnerable to Unattached Burdens?How do you think of self at this point? To what extent do you agree with Dick Schwartz that self is both a particle and a wave  (in quantum physics terms). In other words, does the self simultaneously extend beyond one's self to others as well as is contained within the mind and body?What are some of the positives that emerge from Unattached Burdens?About Dr. John's Guest:Robert Falconer is an Internal Family Systems therapy practitioner, teacher, and writer. Bob has devoted himself full-time to IFS work since training in IFS with Richard Schwartz more than a decade ago, and assisting Dr, Schwartz in many trainings and workshops. During the earlier part of his career, before discovering IFS, Bob worked with survivors of major trauma.  His focus now is on the study and treatment of the others within us, also known as unattached burdens in IFS, or UBs for short. His new book, The Others Within Us: Internal Family Systems, Porous Mind, and Spirit Possession, a work of more than 10 years of research, was published in April, 2023. Resources:For more info on Bob, visit RobertFalconer.us. For Bob's book, visit The Others Within Us: Internal Family Systems, Porous Mind, and Spirit Possession at Amazon.If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!

Evolved Caveman
Episode 3: Maneuvering Online Dating In Today’s World

Evolved Caveman

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 18, 2023 68:46


Lying. Ghosting. Stalking. Sexual assault. Bread crumbing. There is a lot that has changed in today's dating world. The vast majority of people now meet their partner via online dating sites (e.g., OKCupid, Match, Tinder, Bumble, etc.). What are the best ideas about how to expertly maneuver this ever-changing landscape? Join Dr. John with Irina Manta (Law School Professor) and Michelle Lange (Psychologist), both of whom have both had recent dating experience and whom host Strangers On The Internet, a podcast focused on online dating. Topics Covered In This Episode:What is it like being on dating apps for women?How present is the threat of sexual violence for women when dating in person?Some men get offended because they know they aren't a physical threat yet sometimes women have to entertain the possibility that they are. What would you say to them?Deceit and lying on the dating appsHow to form a connection with a woman via online dating?To what extent is there a difference between asynchronous (or DM'ing) and synchronous communications (i.e., in person)?How can women create a safe space for men in terms of embracing the man's full emotional spectrum? How to improve your dating profile for greater success?Some people play games in dating — Don't text too often; Don't respond too quickly. What are your thoughts on strategy and game playing in dating?The difficulties that women with children go through in order to arrange for a date.ResourcesCheck out Strangers On The Internet on all the major podcasting platforms.If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

Evolved Caveman
Episode 1: From Break Up To Better Than Ever

Evolved Caveman

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 4, 2023 58:34


Here's the true story of two therapists who fell in love, then struggled in their relationship with some repetitive, seemingly unbreakable patterns that lead to a painful breakup and how they eventually healed to be better than ever. In my Season 5 premiere, me and my now-again fiancee, Joree Rose, LMFT, share our very vulnerable journey over the past year of what led to our breakup and how we were able to come back together. We have always known love isn't enough, and our love for one another was never in question. However, an accumulation of small hurts, combined with wounds and traumas from our past and childhood got in the way of us being able to be fully authentic, vulnerable and ultimately able to hear one another. Despite our education, training and careers, we found ourselves in the painful (and common!) anxious-avoidant trap that many couples get into. And after 2 months apart, realizing that we were the only ones for each other, we committed to doing the deep work of healing, which has led us to being better than ever, along with the ability to have created new patterns that reflect our love and devotion to growth and a healthy partnership. It is our hope that our honesty inspires other couples to courageously embark on the journey of healing so that you can have the fulfilling and connected relationship you desire.If this conversation inspires you, then join Joree and I in Costa Rica for a relationship retreat in which you'll gain the insights and tools to heal what is standing in the way of the fulfilling relationship you desire. Click here to secure your spot; space is limited. Early bird discounts until the end of 2023.Here is another link for Costa Rica retreat: https://joreerose.com/retreats/costa-rica/If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

Networking Rx
Go Take A Hike (513)

Networking Rx

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 27, 2023 1:07


This episode of the Networking Rx Minute with Frank Agin (http://frankagin.com) shares an insight from Dr. John Schinnerer (@johnschin) on how taking a simple walk outside can increase your happiness.   For more great insight on professional relationships and business networking visit https://www.networking-rx.com or contact Frank Agin at frankagin@amspirit.com    

Networking Rx
The Blessings Exercise (486)

Networking Rx

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 31, 2023 1:18


This episode of the Networking Rx Minute with Frank Agin (http://frankagin.com) shares simple advise from Dr. John Schinnerer (@johnschin) on how an exercise to count your blessings can create happiness.   For more great insight on professional relationships and business networking visit https://www.networking-rx.com or contact Frank Agin at frankagin@amspirit.com    

Evolved Caveman
Episode 196: Overcoming Suicidality, Depression & Anxiety - My Daughter’s Journey

Evolved Caveman

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 12, 2023 58:36


Bonus Summer Episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast! Trigger alert! This episode discusses the topics of suicide, self-harm, depression, narcissistic parental abuse & anxiety. This is a deeply personal, difficult & revealing interview WITH MY DAUGHTER! In the hour long interview, Molly bravely shares her story beginning with her junior year in high school which she absolutely crushed with straight A's, placed 5th at State in Speech, doing Improv comedy, winning a place at Girls State this summer, Youth In Government, Model UN, Mock Trial & more. Then we go back a couple years to when she was splitting time 50-50 between my place and her mom's, her descent into depression, self-harm & suicidality. Both of us firmly believe in the importance of sharing stories of our struggles & mental illness to normalize them for others. We also want to show that people who may look good on the outside (at times) also struggle internally with pain & suffering. I am so proud of her ability to be able to put her experiences into words!  It's critical that we be able to talk about these issues. Tune in and take a listen! This is an incredibly mature, poised, vulnerable & courageous share by a 17 year old! If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

Strangers on the Internet
Guest Chat: Evolving out of the Man Box with Dr. John Schinnerer

Strangers on the Internet

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 3, 2023 43:53


On this episode, executive and relationship coach Dr. John Schinnerer tells us what we need to know about how men can achieve true emotional growth and meaningful lives. An educational psychologist and expert consultant for the Pixar movie "Inside Out," John first made a name for himself in the area of anger management; he later expanded his work into high performance, stress management, positive psychology, and the creation of happy relationships. John helps men step out of the "man box" that society has created for them and that prevents them for fulfilling their potential as human beings. Why do many men act irritable in romantic relationships but don't want to discuss what's wrong? Is it true that women want long-term relationships more often than men do? Come hear also what lessons John has learned from his own romantic past and what he believes people should look out for on the dating market! John Schinnerer's website John's IGJohn's book “How Can I be Happy?”John's "The Evolved Caveman" podcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Networking Rx
Become A Capitalizer (453)

Networking Rx

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 28, 2023 1:19


This episode of the Networking Rx Minute with Frank Agin (http://frankagin.com) shares information from Dr. John Schinnerer (@johnschin) on how you can build relationships by celebrating the success of others.   For more great insight on professional relationships and business networking visit https://www.networking-rx.com or contact Frank Agin at frankagin@amspirit.com    

Evolved Caveman
Episode 195: Reconciling Science and Spirituality

Evolved Caveman

Play Episode Listen Later May 30, 2023 61:52


When I was a graduate student back in the 1990's, it was a career killer for scientists to admit to believing in God, Source or something larger than self. Much has changed since then. Despite my strong scientific training at UC Berkeley, the older I've gotten the more I lean into spirituality. Science is one lens through which I view the world, but it is limited. Not everything can be explained via the scientific lens. Spirituality is one more lens through which we may make sense of reality. And we know from research that believing in something larger than self is a foundational belief for a happier, thriving life. Join me for a fascinating conversation with a former physician who left medicine to become a writer and student of consciousness and spirituality. Some topics covered:How do we begin to reconcile science and spirituality?Hegel's idea of thesis vs. antithesis. What are we evolving towards? Personal evolution and the idea of horizontal vs. vertical evolution.What is unhappiness?What is happiness?What are the barriers to our personal evolution?Our tendency to be passive in approaching transformation & evolution. Better to be active in promoting change by being proactive in questioning our beliefs & roles by paying attention to what we are thinking & feeling and why we think & feel that way.You write about living authentically. What is your idea of the alignment of heart-head-hands  which allows us to live authentically?Dr. Victor Acquista has become a successful international author and speaker following careers as a primary-care physician and medical executive. He is known for "Writing to Raise Consciousness." His current focus is on embodying a soul-centered presence and awareness in daily life.  His non-fiction and his workshops focus on personal growth and transformation, especially as pertains to health and wellness. His fiction includes social messaging intended to get the reader engaged in thought-provoking themes. He is the creator and narrator/host of a podcast series, Podfobler Productions. Dr. Acquista has a longstanding interest in consciousness studies, is a student of Integral Theory, and strives to do his part to make our planet a wee bit better. He lives with his wife in Florida. He is a member of the Authors Guild, the Mystery Writers of America, the International Thriller Writers, and the Florida Writers Association.Dr. Acquista's links: https://victoracquista.com/ https://www.facebook.com/victoracquistaauthor/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/victor-acquista-md-bb540917/ All his books are available on Amazon, Barnes and Noble, Apple, and most other platforms. If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

Evolved Caveman
Episode 194: How An Army Ranger Intentionally Designs The Man Within

Evolved Caveman

Play Episode Listen Later May 22, 2023 58:54


Personal development isn't for just the spiritual or effeminate man.  It's for every man. It is a necessary and courageous journey into your inner world. It takes balls. It requires stepping into your fear of the unknown. This is where the real treasure can be found - contentment, happiness, satisfaction, purpose and fulfilling relationships.  After all, all the other realms have been explored - the surface of the planet Earth, the oceans, and outer space. The only heroic journey that remains is the internal journey - the spelunking of the shadow and soul. Taking an honest look at our internal conversations, struggles, and traumas is what is needed to truly evolve to your next level. And this brave journey ultimately allows us to positively impact our external environment and relationships to reflect the happiness and satisfaction you so richly deserve. Some Of The Topics Covered: Why men need to learn to wave the white flag of humility?Why do we need to stop searching for purpose?Why are the 3 Horsemen of Death, guilt, shame and regret, so devastating for us?Are there truly “alpha” and “beta” males? Join Dr. John in a poignant and informative conversation with Johnny Elsasser, former Army Ranger, who served 4 combat tours between Iraq & Afghanistan & another 5 years protecting the U.S. Ambassador to Iraq in Baghdad. He is a badass evolved man. Dr. John's Guest:Johnny Elsasser is a former Special Operations U.S. Army Ranger with four combat tours between Iraq and Afghanistan and another 5 years protecting the U.S. Ambassador to Iraq in Baghdad. Johnny has seen the field of masculinity through extreme alpha perspectives and knows the trials and tribulations all men deal with in society today. Johnny's mission is to help men find strength in developing their authentic masculinity to be consistent with who they are and not what society expects them to be. Johnny has shifted his fight to advocating and supporting men in finding their own masculine blueprint and cultivating their purpose as positive men in this world today. You can check him out on his excellent podcast The Art of Masculinity. He just completed his first book, Design the Man Within.For more info on Johnny:IG: johnny.elsasserWeb: johnnyelsasser.com If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

Evolved Caveman
Episode 193: Damnit, Stop Living For The Approval Of Others. Start Living For Internal Validation Instead.

Evolved Caveman

Play Episode Listen Later May 15, 2023 55:34


What happens when you walk away from the pinnacle of success? What happens when you walk away from the traditional path to success? If it's not just wealth & power, what does success truly mean? Where is the room in “success” for happiness? Why is looking inward to critical for success & happiness? How does authenticity enter into the equation of a successful life? What happens when we stop living for the validation of others & begin living for internal validation? How do attachment & non attachment figure in to a good life?Some of the topics covered in this otherworldly conversation:Attachment & non attachment to the material world…“A being whose awareness is totally free, who does not cling to anything, is liberated.” Ram DassThe following is perhaps the most important question for all of us. How can we a) believe change is possible and b) encourage such change?What is the massive difference between knowing a truth & having a visceral bodily feeling of such a truth?Imagine your life as it would be if were less afraid.  How is fear holding us back from our own evolution & growth?If “We aren't who we think we are,” then, who are we? Authenticity & how to practice it.The power of slowing down and how it speeds up the journey of getting where we truly want to go. How to become more self-confident. About My Unusually Wise Guest:Danielle Sunberg left her law firm after winning a $6B judgment to travel the world and study how to create a fulfilling life. As an authentic leadership expert, author, and speaker, and coach, she walks leaders on the path that our society doesn't teach us how to navigate: our inward path. This is the journey we must take to cultivate powerful leadership to transform our lives, businesses, and the world. She is the author of Atlas of Being.Danielle helps leaders navigate:  Building mental wellness and emotional agility amidst intense pressure and stress  Creating joy, peace, and connectedness at work and at home  Connecting to deep purpose and values (“North Stars”) to expedite effectiveness  Why do these things matter? Why should we invest in personal development?  Well, according to McKinsey, professionals who feel fulfilled report: 6.5 times higher resilience 4 times better physical health 1.5 times greater likelihood to go above & beyond at work If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

Evolved Caveman
Episode 192: Multiple Personality Disorder - Are We All A Bit MPD?

Evolved Caveman

Play Episode Listen Later May 8, 2023 62:27


The old term is Multiple Personality Disorder. (MPD) The new term is Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID). Different terms for the same psychological condition - a core self surrounded by a myriad of other personalities that vary in age, personality, sex, and temperament. Normally, MPD develops as a result of severe and repeated trauma at a young age. This trauma causes the core personality to split and develop a second personality to protect the core self and absorb the abuse. This pattern continues depending on the individual and the type of abuse suffered. In my career, I have interviewed Pastor Michael Chalmberg who specialized in the area of MPD due to ritualistic satanic abuse. One of his clients developed 47 personalities, or alters. In this interview, I speak with Rebecca Chandler who developed several alters as a result of ongoing sexual abuse at the hands of her grandfather. Most of us look at people with MPD as mentally ill. And it's true, there is some psychological healing to be done there. BUT, what if we are ALL a little bit multiple personality disordered? That is the premise of a relatively new psychological approach known as Internal Family Systems. Tune in now to find out more about all of this incredibly fascinating psychological phenomena! Some of the Topics Covered…How do DID and chronic PTSD develop?How many personalities did Rebecca develop? What were their characteristics? How did they relate to Rebecca's core self?How did having MPD play out in her professional life?Which alter was her biggest challenge?How does MPD relate to Internal Family Systems?When Rebecca was finally free of her alters, she encountered a new challenge, “Without trauma, who am I?”What role can men play in supporting sexual abuse survivors?About My Courageous Guest:Rebecca E Chandler is an author, survivor, and advocate. Her memoir "It Won't Hurt None - A Story Of Courage, Healing, & A Return To Wholeness” details her journey from the depths of trauma to a place of hope a&nd healing, offering a roadmap for others who are struggling with similar issues. Rebecca lived with Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) and complex PTSD (c-PTSD) for most of her life & was often misdiagnosed by medical professionals. However, through therapy & self-reflection, Rebecca was able to heal & reclaim her voice and power. Rebecca's story is a testament to the human spirit & its ability to overcome even the most devastating of circumstances.Please also Rebecca on the web at: Author Website FacebookTikTokInstagramYouTube If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

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Episode 191: Reinventing Masculinity For Greater Happiness

Evolved Caveman

Play Episode Listen Later May 1, 2023 54:39


In a recent FiveThirtyEight poll, 60 percent of men surveyed said society puts pressure on men to behave in a way that is unhealthy or bad. Men account for 80 percent of suicides in the United States, and 3 in 10 men have suffered from depression. Ed Adams and Ed Frauenheim say a big part of the problem is a model of masculinity that's become outmoded and even dangerous, to both men and women.The conventional notion of what it means to be a man--what Adams and Frauenheim call "Confined Masculinity"--traps men in an emotional straitjacket; steers them toward selfishness, misogyny, and violence; and severely limits their possibilities. As an antidote, they propose a new paradigm: Liberating Masculinity. It builds on traditional masculine roles like the protector and provider, expanding men's options to include caring, collaboration, emotional expressivity, an inclusive spirit, and environmental stewardship.Some of the topics covered in this one:A better definition of masculinity to better serve men and womenBetter ways to show up a manThe top commonalities among great leadersThe future direction of masculinity Surviving growing up as a male in societyThe damage done to young men growing up in the Man BoxAbout My Esteemed Guest, Ed Frauenheim:Ed Frauenheim was senior director of content at Great Place to Work--the research organization behind Fortune's "100 Best Companies to Work For" list. He has written or cowritten articles for Fortune, Inc., and Wired and is the coauthor of three books.Ed Frauenheim has wrestled with what it means to be a man for four decades. In his personal and professional lives. As a young man, an adult, a father. As an observer of the best workplaces in the world. As cofounder of a group trying to reinvent organizations.The traditional male obsessions with winning, with brute strength, with becoming king of the corporate hill haunted Ed for much of his life. But through personal reflection, mindful practices, and plenty of help, he has come to redefine as worthy traits like emotional sensitivity, exuberance, and camaraderie. He's living a fuller life as a result.Ed has cowritten three other books, including A Great Place to Work for All: Better for Business, Better for People, Better for the World. In that book and other content, Ed has explored how our more-complex, interconnected economy is calling on men to break free of a narrow version of masculinity. If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

Evolved Caveman
Episode 190: When It’s Time To Get Divorced…

Evolved Caveman

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 27, 2023 60:22


We often make the mistake of equating longevity with success when it comes to marriage. “Wow! You've been married 30 years? Congratulations!” “Well, we've been miserable for the last 10.”  Longevity does not equal success in relationship. Were we living back in tribal times, a marriage of 15 years would have been a massive success since we would be dead at 30. Now, for the first time in human history, the success of the family hinges on the happiness of the couple. Roughly 50% of marriages will end in divorce. Sometimes you have to give yourself permission to discover who are going to become and who you are going to love next. And, after all, relationships don't run on potential! I'm not pro-divorce. I'm pro-happiness. So what do you do when it's time to get divorced and end your marriage? Listen in to this divorce attorney and find out!Some topics covered:What happens when you need to extricate yourself from your marriage? Who is initiating more divorces these days - husbands or wives?What are some of the most common issues leading to divorce? When you've decided to get divorced, should you find the most aggressive lawyer to destroy your spouse and win you lots of money?How do you get past your anger and hurt to have an amicable divorce? Listen in to this fantastic interview with an old friend of mine, Patrick Cook, who is now an esteemed divorce attorney.If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

Evolved Caveman
Episode 189: Instilling Meaning In Employees Makes Good Business Sense (i.e., $$$)

Evolved Caveman

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 17, 2023 52:39


Studies have shown that meaning is an integral part of a happy, thriving life. Meaning gives us passion and motivation and creativity. It buoys our mood when things get tough. I've known this personally during my divorce. My personal life was in tatters yet my work, which I find intensely meaningful, kept me afloat emotionally. We know that our happiness and life satisfaction dip during our years of parenting. After all, who can stay happy in the midst of screaming children, a messy home, constant work at home and at the office? Yet parenting is incredibly meaningful which, to a degree, offsets the loss of satisfaction. So, what is meaning? How do we discover what is meaningful to us? What does meaning do for us? Listen in and find out now!Some topics covered:What is meaning? What are the 3 sources of meaning?The connection between meaning and motivationHow does activating meaning and purpose make good business sense?What do you say to CEOs or leaders who are still embracing the sorely outdated fear-based command and control style of leadership?In your book, The Great Revitalization, you have a framework for the what and the how of meaning…PART 1: What?G – Gumption (what)U – Urgency (when and where) S – Sustainability (why)T – Therapy (how)O – Ownership (who) PART 2: How? N – Nurture (IQ) O – Open (EQ) W – Wake (SQ) What traits go into an inspirational leader?How do we get more meaning in our lives?About My Guest, Dr. Alise Cortez:Dr. Alise Cortez is the chief purpose officer at Alise Cortez and Associates, a management consulting firm specializing in the activation of meaning and purpose. She is also an inspirational speaker, social scientist, author, and host of the Working on Purpose radio show. She is the author of several books including ·      Purpose Ignited: How Inspiring Leaders Unleash Passion and Elevate Cause (2020)·      The Great Revitalization: How Activating Meaning and Purpose Can Radically Enliven Your Business (2023)Having developed her expertise within the human capital / organizational excellence industry over the last 25 years, she is focused on helping companies, leaders, and individuals across the globe to live with “gusto” and make the most of their one, precious life. Today Dr. Cortez is focused on enabling organizations to lead from purpose and create cultures that inspire impassioned performance, meaningful engagement and fulfillment. For individuals, Dr. Cortez facilitates an online global community and various retreats to enable people hungry for a more meaningful and purposeful life to create it for themselves. For more information about Dr. Alise:Email: alise@alisecortez.com   Website: www.alisecortez.com  Phone: 214-597-6463If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

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Episode 188: Why My Relationships Suck! Or How To Be Better In Relationship

Evolved Caveman

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 3, 2023 54:14


Wow! What a talk! Vulnerability. Honesty. It does not get a whole lot deeper or more helpful than this one. What an absolutely amazing man Bob Conlin is!How we experience ourselves as men largely through our body and our ability to be active and strong.  And what happens when that goes away (temporarily or permanently)? A frank talk about how physical limitations (e.g., surgery, back pain, vasectomy, etc.) impacts our perception of our own masculinity.  What else do you have to hold on to when your physical body begins to deteriorate (e.g., wisdom, emotional awareness, communication skills, empathy, integrity, values, spirituality, full spectrum humanity, etc.)?The difference between the first voice and second voice in your head and which voice is the wise, adult version of “you.”The power in being vulnerable and the importance of sharing your shit with other men. The idea that your shame doesn't stand up to the light of day.What is YOUR definition of a “man?” What is YOUR definition of “masculinity?”The critical importance of integrity for men. To what extent are you a safe, grounding force for the people you love?The idea of full spectrum masculinity as lifelong growth and evolution. How much Bob can bench (Spoiler alert: It's impressive!).The critical idea that our relationships act purely as mirrors to reflect back our own psychological and emotional shit. The seminal thought that the very traits that we initially are attracted to in our partner later become the same things that annoy the crap out of us. To what extent is masculinity about attacking and policing other men to make them feel “less than”? Or is real masculinity about radical acceptance of other men's masculinities to allow them to feel accepted and encourage true growth?To what extent is masculinity about the egocentric pursuit of wealth and power? Or is real masculinity about something more than those simple ideas which we've been force fed in our youth? Studies show that ideals such as self-transcendent values like serving others lead to much more happiness and fulfillment. The importance of intellectual humility for lifelong learning and evolution of men. And how the lack of humility truly blocks our development. A honest conversation about the need for us to learn to receive and take in the love of others. About My Guest:Bob Conlin is a men's alchemist, coach, author, leader, husband, and father. Bob believes the relationships we have with ourselves, those we love, and those we lead have the greatest impact on our life experiences. Powerful and fulfilling relationships are created once we get connected to, and responsible for, our generational traumas, triggers, and limiting beliefs about what is actually possible in our lives. Bob's unique and courageous approach to creating relationships has been featured on ABC World News Tonight, CBS, NBC, Good Morning America, and most popular social media outlets. Bob has extensive training as an ontological coach, Gottman Institute trained, is a Master Certified Coach with the International Coaching Federation, President of the ICF Chicago Chapter, Co-Founder of The Alchemy of Men, and the Co-Founder of the Living In Love Incubator program. Bob's latest book “Why my relationships suck: Create Strong Relationships with Courage and Heart” can be found at Barnes and Noble.Find Out More About Bob Conlin:Men's Retreats: www.alchemyofmenretreat.comCoaching: www.conlincoaching.comCouples Coaching: www.wemeetagaincoaching.comBook: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/why-my-relationships-suck-bob-conlin/1142986312Instagram: @relationship_alchemistFacebook https://www.facebook.com/bob.conlin.779/LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/conlin-coach-pcc/If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

Evolved Caveman
Episode 187: What Is The Driving Force Behind ALL Our Negative Emotions?

Evolved Caveman

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 27, 2023 59:19


Shame is the dominatrix of the other emotions. It dresses in a leather suit with a zippered mouth, armed with a cat o' nine tails. It can outlast and overpower any other emotion. Shame makes other emotions get on their knees and lick it's high-heeled shoes.  Shame is the quiet belief, in our darkest moments, that we are unworthy of love, connection and belonging. So what if shame is actually the fuel for all other uncomfortable emotions such as anger, anxiety and depression? What if shame is like a parasite that gloms onto us like the Marvel anti-hero Venom and makes us believe that we are unlovable and unworthy?Shame is the emotion you never knew you were struggling with. The first step is always awareness. With awareness, you can begin to get curious, look for it and challenge it. Find out more in this fascinating conversation!My Guest, Lois HollisLois Hollis RN, BSN, REV, at age 12, entered healthcare as a nurse's aide. Her desire to understand and heal the body continues today at 79 as a Shame And Guilt Educator, Counselor, and now Filmmaker. She discovered that shame guilt join forces to create 24-hour negativity that causes emotional and physical illnesses. Shame talks in our sleep, and guilt talks in our waking moments, telling us we are powerless and bad.Once Lois discovered that shame guilt were responsible for her anxiety, depression, and life-threatening illnesses, she healed from childhood traumas and 30 yrs. of migraine headaches. She shepherds others out of crisis, seeking success, or spiritual growth with her knowledge of how to identify, release, and avoid shame guilt.She authored three books. Lois aspires to use the magic of film to make shame guilt visual. Her documentary series, “I'm Good”, will illustrate the shame guilt dangers and how to avoid them.Find out more about Lois Website: www.loishollis.com Films:  https://www.imgoodfilm.com/·       ”Out of Discord Into Harmony”  20 minutes - Communicating with your emotions and inner critic             ·       “IM Good Film”   Shame Guilt becomes visible -15 min.·      IM Good Film Song - 3 min.   If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word!