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In this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast, Dr. John sits down with Rich Heller—a marriage whisperer with two decades of experience and the brains behind the *Rich in Relationship* podcast. Think of Rich as a relationship mechanic who helps couples stop setting emotional fires and start building actual connection (without needing a fire extinguisher or a therapist on speed dial).They dig into the juicy stuff: Rich's own WTF moments that shaped his career, how generational trauma likes to crash your relationship uninvited, and why shame is the sneaky gremlin screwing things up behind the scenes without your knowledge or permission. They also take a sledgehammer to outdated ideas of masculinity (spoiler: being emotionally clueless isn't sexy), and explore how to create relationships that don't suck—with actual tools, not just good vibes.This one's for anyone who wants less drama and more connection—minus the woo-woo fluff.01:32 Rich Heller's Journey to Marriage Coaching04:16 Personal Reflections on Divorce05:08 Managing Anger and Emotional Triggers11:33 Conflict Resolution in Relationships17:22 Understanding and Releasing Trauma30:05 The Metaphor of Cleaning the House30:49 Exploring Masculinity Myths31:43 The High Plains Drifter and Masculine Myths32:48 Replacing Outdated Masculine Myths35:39 The Importance of Connection and Vulnerability36:16 From Fixer to Feeler: Helping Men Connect39:48 Understanding Men's Root Fears in Relationships42:41 The Role of Shame in Men's Lives47:55 The Difference Between Shame and Guilt53:08 Relational Wealth and Personal FulfillmentAbout Dr. John's Cool Guest;Rich Heller, MSW, PCC, ELI-MP, Rich is the podcast host of Rich in Relationship, and Marriage Transformation Coach. He helps couples move from conflict to synergy, from parallel lives to true connection, and from routine to transformation.Rich holds a BA from Vassar College in sustainable social change and an MSW from Hunter School of Social Work, specializing in relational dynamics. He is a Professional Certified Coach (PCC), Master Practitioner of MER and NLP, and a trained mediator and parent coordinator.  Rich has helped thousands of couples break free from old patterns and build relationships rooted in love, partnership, and prosperity—including his own marriage of 20+ years.

Welcome back to a special joint episode of The Evolved Caveman andLove Isn't Enough podcasts, where your favorite therapist power couple,Dr. John and Joree, lovingly drag your toxic relationship habits into thedaylight. This week? We're tackling the last two horsemen of your relationalapocalypse: Contempt and Stonewalling. (Because your love life wasn'talready teetering on the edge after Criticism and Defensiveness lastweek.)First up: Contempt — the "I'm better than you" flavor of loathing that turnsevery dishwasher squabble into a power play. It's got everything: eye-rolls,sneers, and the emotional subtlety of a flamethrower. According to theGottmans, contempt is basically the kiss of death. Spot it in the first 5minutes of a fight? That relationship's got the lifespan of a mayfly (that is,breakup is around the corner!).Then there's Stonewalling, the cold shoulder's evil twin. It's when onepartner shuts down, checks out, and basically becomes a decorative plantduring conflict. Spoiler: that's not sexy. Or helpful. Or sustainable. It's also aharbinger of breakup.John and Joree keep it real by admitting they used to suck at this stuff too.But they've done the work — and now they're here to help you recognizethese behaviors before your relationship flatlines.So if you're tired of feeling unheard, judged, or like you're arguing with abrick wall (or *being* one), tune in. You might cringe a little, but hey —growth isn't supposed to be comfy.Wanna Climb Higher Up The Happiness Hill ? Here's Where To Begin YourAscent:�� For info on Dr. John's Ultimate Online Anger Management Class (which hasover 20,000 graduates!), visit his High Performer Shop.�� Top tools for emotional mastery and high tech execs from the best executivecoach in the San Francisco Bay Area:�� GuideToSelf.com�� The best podcast for relationships and those who want to create a happier,safer love life:��️ Love Isn't Enough Podcast�� For the tremendous work Dr. John & Joree are doing to heal relationships,visit their top couples counseling site:��  LoveIsntEnough.net��️ Straight talk on evolution, masculinity & growth on the best podcast for men:�� TheEvolvedCaveman.com�� Joree's expert work on mindfulness, therapy & transformation from the besttherapist for women near you:�� JoreeRose.com�� For more info on the superb counseling Joree is doing with women who arestuck in their lives, visit her site at�� MindfulnessAndTherapyCenter.com�� The best podcast for women who seek to get unstuck in live and make thenext 30 years better than the last 30:��️ Journey Forward with Joree Rose Podcast

Welcome back to a special joint episode of  The Evolved Caveman and Love Isn't Enough, where Joree and John lovingly drag your relationship habits into the light—so you can stop sabotaging your love life one passive-aggressive comment at a time.In this episode, we're saddling up with the Four Horsemen of the (Relationship) Apocalypse, straight from the research of the OG love nerds, Drs. John and Julie Gottman. These four bad boys—criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling—aren't just annoying. They're *statistically proven* to predict divorce with a freaky 92% accuracy rate.That's right. If these habits are riding around unchecked in your relationship, you're not just arguing over the dishwasher—you might be headed for Splitsville.Today, we're going deep on the first two horsemen: Criticism (AKA “Let me tell you why you suck”) and Defensiveness (AKA “Oh really? Well what about YOU?”). Joree and John keep it real with personal stories, hilarious moments of self-awareness, and insight from working with clients who, let's just say, *learned the hard way*.What You'll Learn (Besides How to Stop Arguing Like 5-Year-Olds):* Why your nervous system flips out in the middle of a fight* How criticism is NOT the same as feedback (and why one will wreck your weekend)* The sneaky ways defensiveness kills emotional safety* How to stop being a porcupine when your partner needs a hug* Simple ways to shift from reaction to curiosity (yes, even mid-argument)* The absolute magic of non-defensive listening (hint: your partner might cry happy tears)* And how to actually connect—even when you're pissedBecause the goal isn't just to stop fighting. It's to fight smarter, love deeper, and maybe—just maybe—not feel like you're stuck in a never-ending episode of *Who's the Bigger Jerk?*Bottom Line?You don't need to be perfect—you just need to show up, own your sh*t, and stop letting bad habits ride roughshod over your connection. With curiosity, compassion, and a little non-defensive magic, you can actually make your relationship feel less like a battlefield and more like, well, love.Want more tough love with tools?

Ready for a no-holds-barred chat on anger management, male irritability and their impact on relationships? We've got Dr. John Schinnerer—yes, his last name is a mouthful—dropping some serious self-awareness bombs. Trina Glines interviews Dr. John to help you discover your authentic self and stop life's challenges from becoming roadblocks. Dr. John breaks down how anger actually works (hint: it's not just a secondary emotion) and gives four killer components: emotional, cognitive, physiological, and attentional. He even dishes on living with an angry ex-spouse and references John Gottman's 'four horsemen' that predict relationship doom. But hey, it's not all bad news! Dr. John's got the top tools to begin your transformation into Phil Jackson, aka the zen master. You'll learn how to keep your cool, stop fights, and maybe even enjoy life a bit more. Don't worry about long therapy sessions—his coaching style makes this stuff accessible. Whether you're an executive with an irritability issue, in a relationship with an testy twat, or just someone who's aware of their own anger issues, you're in the right place. So breathe, grab your journal, and get ready to take some notes. You're about to transform your anger into strength.Wanna Go Deeper Down the Rabbit Hole? Here's Where to Find Us):

Buckle up, intrepid listeners! Dr. John kicks off the latest episode of the Evolve Caveman Podcast with a bang, bringing on the illustrious Daniel Ellenberg, Ph.D. This dude isn't just any therapist; he's a leadership coach, founder of Strength with Heart men's groups, and past president of the APA's division on Men and Masculinities. Oh, and did I mention he co-developed training for NASA? Yeah, the guy's got creds. John and Daniel dive into the intricacies of male relationships, the importance of play, and why guys need to stop being such jackasses about vulnerability and self-compassion. They riff on everything from the significance of boundaries to the irony of male loneliness, all while making sure to keep things breezy and sarcastic. Ever wonder why men are so scared of the word 'compassion'? You're about to find out. Daniel's current passion project: helping men balance strength with heart through the Men and Boys Compassion Coalition. A must-listen for anyone trying to upgrade their male operating system without losing their edge.About Dr. John's Esteemed Guest, Daniel Ellenberg, Ph.D.:Daniel Ellenberg, PhD, is a licensed therapist, leadership coach, and the founder of Strength with Heart men's groups and workshops. He is a past president of American Psychological Association (APA) division on men and masculinities and the founder/director of the Men and Boys Compassion Coalition through the Global Compassion Coalition (GCC). He is currently co-writing a book for men called Strength with Heart and contributed a chapter in A Global Dialogue on Masculinity. He has spent his entire career helping people, particularly men, navigate their lives more mindfully, skillfully, and compassionately. He co-developed and delivered training at several NASA space centers—including Resilience Dynamics, Introspection for Leadership Excellence, and The Neuroscience of Teams. Wanna Go Deeper Down the Rabbit Hole? Here's Where to Stalk Us (Respectfully):

**Ego Death & Psychedelic Rebirth — with AJ Murillo**Here is another mind-bending episode of *The Evolved Caveman Podcast*. This week, Dr. John sits down with AJ Murillo — author, psychonaut, and expert navigator of the inner cosmos — to talk all things *ego death*.What the hell *is* ego death? And why should you care? Because it might just be the wake-up call your soul, your heart and your mind have been begging for.AJ takes us through her deeply personal journey — from divine moments as a kid to full-on ego obliteration via psychedelics as an adult. We talk about prepping your mind and spirit for the plunge, managing emotional chaos mid-trip, and dodging the landmines on the path to inner transformation.We also dive into:- What happens *after* ego death — and why reintegration is the real test  - How psychedelics can amplify self-awareness (if you're ready to face the truth)  - Why the mind-body connection is your best ally — or your worst enemy  And how letting go of who you *think* you are can lead to who you *actually* areWhy Ego Death Matters To You 1. Insecurity and Fear of Failure – When identity is tied to achievements or external validation, failure feels like a personal attack rather than a learning experience. 2. Relationship Struggles – A strong ego can lead to defensiveness, an inability to admit mistakes, and difficulty empathizing with others, causing conflict in romantic and social relationships. 3. Lack of Growth – Over-identification with a fixed self-image makes it hard to embrace change, take risks, or learn from feedback. 4. Perfectionism and Stress – A fragile ego fears imperfection, leading to anxiety, burnout, and chronic dissatisfaction. 5. Inauthenticity – The need to maintain an idealized self-image can cause people to suppress their true thoughts, emotions, or desires. 6. Victim Mentality – An ego that feels attacked easily can lead to blame-shifting and a refusal to take responsibility for personal actions. 7. Resistance to Vulnerability – Overattachment to ego creates a fear of being seen as weak, making emotional intimacy difficult. 8. Spiritual and Existential Disconnection – When the ego dominates, people may struggle to find deeper meaning, purpose, or a sense of interconnectedness.This episode is part mystical download, part grounded coaching, and 100% real. So if you're ready to challenge your identity, expand your consciousness, and explore the cosmic ballet that is *you* — buckle up.Let's crack the shell of the ego and see what's on the other side.Wanna Go Deeper Down the Rabbit Hole? Here's Where to Stalk Us (Respectfully):

*Mud, Meaning & Masculinity — with Poet & Positive Psych Star John Sean Doyle**  What if embracing pain was the key to more joy, connection, and purpose?In this thought-provoking convo, Dr. John sits down with **John Sean Doyle** — poet, lawyer, and “the poetic voice of positive psychology” — to talk about how to stay grounded in a chaotic world and live with more reverence, resilience, and kindness.We cover:- The beauty of *both/and* — joy and pain, awe and grief  - How to raise kinder kids (and better men)  - Why meaning and poetry are essential for a well-lived life  - Lessons from working with drill sergeants, judges, monks, and more  - His powerful book, *Mud and Dreams***About John Sean Doyle:**  Sean is a poet, lawyer, and former positive psych professor. His writing and workshops help people recover reverence for life and create a culture of compassion — from the courtroom to the classroom to the dinner table.

Heart Surgeries, Health Bombs & Why Men Are Too Dumb to See a Doctor – with Dr. Jacob KendallHey degenerates, seekers, and emotionally constipated warriors—Dr. John here with another no-BS episode of *The Evolved Caveman Podcast*.This time? We're going deep with Dr. Jacob Kendall, a man who's basically stared death in the face (twice), wiped someone else's ass for a living (caregiving, people—keep up), and still thought, “You know what? I should get *another* advanced degree.” Because apparently two heart surgeries and three fields of study (biology, social work, public health) weren't challenging enough.And now? He's working on a Master's in Divinity. Yeah, seriously. This man's brain is playing 4D chess while the rest of us are still trying to spell “healthcare.”We dig into:- Why your health isn't just physical—it's mental, emotional, social, and maybe even spiritual (yeah, I said it)- Why men suck at going to the doctor (hint: it's not bravery, it's stupidity)- How America's obsession with *rugged individualism* is basically a slow-motion death cult  - Hot takes on masculinity, male fragility, and why women outlive us by years (pro tip: it's not because of kale)  - Why the U.S. healthcare system is like trying to fix a bullet wound with duct tape and a WebMD article  - What the hell it means to *age well* without turning into a cranky, isolated shadow of your former selfThis episode is jam-packed with real talk, brilliant insights, and a healthy dose of “WTF are we even doing with our lives?”So pour a (healthy) drink, drop the ego, and press play.  Because staying healthy shouldn't require divine intervention—but honestly, it might help.

Join Dr. John on a sunny day in Danville as he dives deep into mastering stress and anxiety. With a blend of personal stories, practical tools, and a touch of humor, Dr. John explains what stress and anxiety are, why we experience them, and how to manage them effectively. Discover scientifically proven strategies such as mindful breathing, physical exercise, gratitude practices, and mindful self-talk. Learn to reset your mental state and regain control over your life while keeping your edge. Tune in for actionable insights and become your own stress-busting superhero.00:00 Introduction and Purpose01:17 Understanding Stress and Anxiety01:42 Personal Story: Overcoming Anxiety05:28 Defining Stress and Anxiety08:24 Top 12 Tools to Manage Stress and Anxiety28:45 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsFor more info on Dr. John's work with men, visit GuideToSelf.com. For more on the podcast, visit TheEvolvedCaveman.com. For more details on the couples counseling work John does with Joree, visit LoveIsntEnough.net. 

THE UNSEEN BATTLE: WHY MEN SUCK AT HEALING FROM TRAUMALet's get real. Men don't talk about trauma. We barely talk about emotions at all, so why the hell would we open up about the stuff that actually messed us up? Instead, we do what we've been trained to do—bury it, numb it, ignore it, and hope it just goes away. Spoiler alert: It doesn't.  In this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast, Dr. John Schinnerer sits down with Malachi Gillihan, a PhD candidate and men's trauma specialist who's making it his mission to help men face their demons instead of running from them. Malachi knows what he's talking about, because he's been there. As a survivor of child sexual trauma, he understands firsthand how trauma rewires the brain, hijacks emotions, and shapes how men show up (or don't) in relationships, work, and life.  We explore the messy, uncomfortable, and absolutely necessary conversation about men and trauma—why we avoid it, how it impacts us in ways we don't even realize, and what the hell to do about it.  THE UNCOMFORTABLE TOPICS WE'RE DIVING INTO  - What trauma actually is (hint: it's not just war vets and car crashes)  - The helplessness factor and why it screws men up more than we think  - Clinical vs. subclinical PTSD and why so many guys are walking around with undiagnosed trauma  - How gender socialization makes healing harder (because apparently, “suck it up” isn't great medical advice)  - Why co-regulation matters in recovery and why going it alone is the worst plan ever  - How the rugged individualism myth keeps men stuck in cycles of pain  - The power of group therapy and why healing happens faster when you stop trying to tough it out solo  ABOUT MALACHI GILLIHAN  Malachi is not your typical trauma expert. He's a yogi, spiritual counselor, and trauma specialist who blends Eastern and Western approaches to recovery. He's taught over 1,000 classes on trauma, meditation, and healing, runs a private practice, and leads retreats designed to help men break free from the weight of their past. With a Master's in East-West Psychology and a PhD in progress focused on group-based interventions for survivors of sexual trauma, he's spent years studying how trauma rewires the brain and how men can reclaim their emotional health.  If you've ever thought, “I don't have trauma," or "That stuff doesn't affect me," this episode might just prove you wrong. And if you've been carrying something heavy for way too long, this conversation could be the first step toward finally putting it down.

In this episode of the Evolved Caveman and Love Isn't Enough podcasts, Dr. John and Jory interview Shana James, a relationship coach with 20 years of experience who specializes in helping men with their love and sex lives. Shana discusses her work, including insights from her podcast, 'Man Alive,' and her book, 'Honest Sex.' Topics covered include the importance of vulnerability, relational healing, honest communication, and overcoming attachment wounds. The conversation also dives into how to build intimacy, the impact of social conditioning, the challenges of modern relationships, and practical tips for improving connection and trust within partnerships.Timestamps:03:22 Playing and Experimenting in Relationships05:06 Honest Conversations and Deep Connection08:23 Navigating Disappointment and Building Trust09:33 Understanding and Healing Attachment Wounds16:07 Practicing Vulnerability and Self-Awareness24:55 Exploring Honest Sex25:45 The Importance of Vulnerability in Sexual Relationships26:46 Being Present During Intimacy28:25 Communicating Desires and Needs29:33 Mindfulness and Sexual Arousal33:09 Redefining Intimacy Beyond Physical Acts38:12 Building Trust and Security in Relationships39:00 Practical Tips for Enhancing IntimacyOur Guest, Shana James:As a relationship coach for 20 years, Shana James has humbly discovered the causes of disconnection and distrust in relationships, as well as how to build trust and keep passion alive. She has specialized in supporting men who are frustrated with their love and sex lives, both in dating and long term relationships. Shana is the creator and host of the Man Alive podcast, with 300 episodes. She has a TEDx Talk, 'What 1000 Men's Tears Reveal About the Crisis Between Men and Women.' Her most recent book is: Honest Sex: A Passionate Path to Deepen Connection and Keep Relationships Alive. Shana has a Master's in psychology. She has facilitated decades of workshops based on her training in communication, mindfulness, psychology and sensuality.

Warrior Compassion: Healing Men and Mending SocietyIn this episode of the Evolved Caveman podcast, Dr. John Beck hosts Sean Harvey, CEO of Warrior Compassion Institute and author of 'Warrior Compassion.' They discuss Sean's extensive work in men's healing and leadership within hypermasculine, paramilitary organizations. The conversation delves into topics like inner work, personal transformation, shame, the impact of attachment styles, and the dynamics of hatred and extremism. Sean shares his approach to engaging men in healing through adventure, play, and safe spaces. He also discusses the importance of balancing masculine and feminine energies and the challenges of addressing issues like white supremacy and radicalization.00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction01:12 Sean Harvey's Work in Paramilitary Organizations02:50 Men's Healing and Personal Transformation03:44 Addressing Shame and Attachment in Men06:52 Engaging Men in Personal Growth11:24 Vulnerability and Authentic Connection20:27 Dismantling White Supremacy30:25 Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energies35:42 Building Self-Worth and Compassion41:08 Conclusion and Final About Dr. John's Guest:Sean Harvey is CEO and Senior Strategic Advisor of Warrior Compassion Institute, author of Warrior Compassion: Unleashing the Healing Power of Men, and a TEDx speaker (Compassion Makes the Warrior). He co-founded Project Compassion, a national initiative to deepen compassion in police departments, federal law enforcement, and the military, which now extends to firefighters, paramedics, veterans, and sectors such as defense and energy. Sean's work addresses hate, polarization, and extremism through innovative leadership and engagement strategies. With over 25 years of Leadership and Organization Development experience, Sean has also served on the faculties of Cornell, NYU, and Baruch College CUNY.

In this episode of the Evolved Caveman podcast, Dr. John welcomes leadership and empowerment coach Dr. Benjamin Ritter, founder of Live for Yourself Consulting. They discuss Ben's journey from an overworked healthcare executive to a passionate guide for others seeking greater meaning in work and life. Ben shares insights from his new book, Becoming Fearless, and highlights strategies for overcoming self-doubt. Dr. John recounts a challenging vacation that tested his resilience and mindfulness. The conversation covers the importance of self-leadership, crafting meaningful work, and addressing fears in pursuit of personal and professional growth.00:00 Introduction to Dr. Benjamin Ritter01:28 A Challenging Vacation Story04:39 Dealing with Adversity and Mindfulness08:37 The Importance of Asking for Help17:57 Ben's New Book and Personal Updates20:04 Facing and Overcoming Fears24:06 Building Tools for Growth and Accountability24:23 The Power of a Growth Mindset24:53 Overcoming Excuses and Embracing Responsibility25:37 Learning and Practicing Leadership Skills26:25 Understanding Different Levels of Learning28:21 Building Confidence and Self-Worth30:32 The Role of Self-Belief in Personal Growth33:17 Managing Inner Critic and Voices in Your Head40:10 Finding Meaning and Satisfaction in Work41:45 Promoting Self-Leadership in the Workplace42:29 Exploring Job Crafting for Fulfillment44:53 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsAbout Our Esteemed Guest:Dr. Benjamin Ritter, founder of Live for Yourself (LFY) Consulting, is a Chicago based leadership and empowerment coach, national speaker, consultant, mentor, teacher, and passionate about guiding others in finding, creating, and sustaining greater meaning at work and in life. During his time as a healthcare executive and side hustling entrepreneur he was over worked and under-utilized, and despite his professional success didn't feel successful. After much introspection he pivoted professionally and started crafting a more effective, efficient, and aligned life. As he was creating this new life he realized that his process was a process, and that he could coach others how to do the same for themselves. Ben is the author of the book, Becoming Fearless: 65 Strategies To Journey From Self-Doubt To Self-Mastery.Links:benjamin-ritter.comLinkedin.com/in/ritterbenj Youtube.com/c/benjaminritter

How to take a look at your emotions without labeling them as right or wrong while also reflecting on personal experiences. Dr. John discusses this approach with respect to a frightening recent incident where he lost sight in his left eye while in Portugal (then got e.coli two days later and had to be taken off the plane by ambulance!). The key to being resilient and bouncing with life's challenges hinges on one's ability  on one's ability to look at their emotions without judgment. The Buddhist notion of two darts applies well here. Life is guaranteed to cause pain at times. Pain is the first dart. It is inevitable. The second dart is suffering. And we have the ability to minimize the suffering that we experience as a result of our pain.This episode shares a personal experience involving eye issues, expressing feelings of fear, anger, sadness, and fatigue due to repeated medical treatments. Happiness is about relationships and connections. It is also about the ability to manage our emotions well. Join in the conversation with Mark Ellenshon, an acclaimed filmmaker who worked on classics such as Terminator. Mark is seeking to support men over 50 to age gracefully. Sign up NOW for his free web summit, I Got You Man, and sign up at I Got You Man.  Dr. John Schinnerer has a great interview with him that you won't want to miss!Guest Bio:Mark Ellenshon is a seasoned filmmaker with an early start at 17, starting by himself and climbing his way to films, such as The Terminator “Department Head” (1984) at 24 and Back to the Future 2 and 3 at 29. Moving on to his goal as a professional Director/Cameraman. Now, with over 35 years of experience in the industry. He is known for awards globally, including Cannes, Europe, and Nationally. As the founder of Marrick Production Services in 1984. Cinevision Camera Company Inc.1995. His expertise spanned cutting-edge film boundaries and what's possible in filmmaking, shooting out of jets, helicopters, race cars, underwater, and extreme working conditions to create the latest production value.Mark's work has taken him to over 36 countries and 6 continents. His deep knowledge of both the creative and technical sides of filmmaking made him a sought-after Director/Cameraman and leader in the industry, known for his ability to inspire and guide teams to deliver exceptional results.Now, as a speaker for the Live Your Best Life After 50 Summit, Mark is eager to share his journey of adapting, evolving, and finding purpose beyond the career he spent decades building. As someone who has navigated the challenges of aging while staying active in a fast-paced industry, Mark offers a unique perspective on living fully, staying mentally and physically engaged, and embracing new opportunities in the later stages of life.His own experiences have taught him the importance of maintaining a sense of adventure and creativity, even as life changes. Mark's story is one of resilience, innovation, and a relentless pursuit of excellence—qualities that continue to drive him forward, both professionally and personally. At the summit, he aims to inspire other men over 50 to explore new passions, stay curious, and keep pushing boundaries, no matter their age.In addition to his extensive film and life experience, Mark is a firm believer in personal learning and growth, making him the perfect fit for this summit dedicated to empowering men to live their best lives after 50.

Welcome to The Evolved Caveman Podcast. In this episode we tackle what it truly takes to build and maintain a happy, thriving relationship. Whether you're in the honeymoon phase or navigating the ups and downs of long-term commitment, this show is for anyone looking to deepen their connection with their partner and cultivate lasting joy.We often hear that love is a feeling, but a great relationship goes beyond emotions—it's built on trust, communication, respect, and a willingness to grow together. In this podcast, we'll dive into the real-life strategies, habits, and mindsets that couples use to keep their relationships strong. From overcoming conflict to nurturing intimacy and balancing personal growth with partnership, we'll uncover the keys to sustaining love over the long haul.So, whether you're tuning in with your partner or on your own, join Joree Rose, LMFT, & Dr. John Schinnerer as they explore what it really takes to not just survive—but thrive—together.And tune in for the premiere episode of our new podcast, Love Isn't Enough which drops tomorrow on all major podcasting platforms.  It's all you need to know to create the happy, thriving relationship you so richly deserve! 

Why is anger so rampant? What if you could stop anger in your relationships? What would that be worth to you? Think of the possibilities. Greater happiness. Less divorce. Fewer kids growing up in single family homes. More functional adults. Greater productivity. What if we could stop anger in its tracks? Join Dr. John in this eye-opening talk with Rod Jeter, the creator of WBAngry and find out! About Dr. John's Guest:Rod Jeter is a navy veteran and married father of 5 adult children. His career spans from real estate broker to entrepreneur, and he has a master's degree in software engineering. Married for 12 years, Rod and his wife were kicked out of marriage counseling on the fifth of what was supposed to be twelve sessions. It was according to Rod, his doing, nevertheless, he was moved to find a way to help couples see results faster than traditional counseling. Rod created a game to help couples resolve their disagreements in just minutes. Rod's goal is to create happier homes and help as many couples as possible solve conflicts and disagreements with less drama and more fun through the YBAngry relationship tool. https://ybangry.com. 

When I went through divorce after a 16 year marriage, I was devastated, depressed and angry. My ex-wife (unnecessarily) initiated litigation that lasted 3.5 years and cost hundreds of thousands of dollars in legal fees.  It took me months, if not years, to fully recover, both emotionally and financially. So how can we do divorce better? How do we recover more quickly? How do we bounce forward with greater energy and purpose? How do we begin to trust the other sex after an ex has treated us poorly (in a variety of ways) for years? Tune in to find out.About Dr. John's Guest, Nigel Smart:Nigel is a serial entrepreneur that has spent a large part of his career building high performance systems in both operating and consulting companies. He holds multiple degrees including his Ph.D. in biochemical sciences from Manchester University. He has established several companies including his current venture which assists industry in establishing systems and leadership for high performance results. His goal is to find elegant solutions that define a different path.As an International speaker he uses stories around his personal and professional experiences to drive new approaches and strategies to develop new levels of success.As a second career he has written a best selling book entitled Bouncing Back From Divorce With Vitality & Purpose; A Strategy for Dads, and coaches fathers emerging from divorce to regain their self respect and rebuild their lives to once more be productive members of society and their families.

Millions of men are tired of the way in which MAGA Republicans have defined masculinity in the traditional, restrictive fashion - emphasizing the “hard” side of men and shaming the “soft” side. This includes prioritizing independence over interdependence, thinking over feeling, autonomy over connection, and emotional suppression over vulnerability.  The old view is “power over” others rather than “power with”. The old view is to exert control over women which is demonstrated by MAGA's views on abortion and birth control. The solution is not to prioritize the hard side of masculinity over the soft side. Nor is it to prioritize the soft side over the hard side. The solution is to create a climate which values all sides of masculinity (or even better, humanity!), so that we may bring the best aspects of ourselves to any situation as needed. The solution is to stop shaming men when they feel natural, healthy human emotions (think of how Gus Walz was treated when he displayed love, connection and pride over his father at the DNC). What is the Man Box?  It's the rules you absorbed as a boy about what it means to be a “real man”; rules that have made you emotionally constipated, caused conflict in your romantic relationship, encouraged you to chase material things, and caught up in a hyper-competitive rat race. The rules include such classics as be tough, hide your feelings, dominate women, be self-reliant, don't be feminine, and don't be homosexual. Research shows that this restrictive, tired view of masculinity has negative effects on us. The more we subscribe to traditional Man Box beliefs, the lower our self-esteem (Cournoyer & Mahalik, 1995), the more difficulties we have in romantic relationships and friendships (Fischer & Good, 1997; Sharpe & Heppner, 1991), the more we act in violence (Franchina, Eisler, & Moore, 2001), and the more depressed and anxious we feel (Cournoyer & Mahalik, 1995; Hayes & Mahalik, 2000).Join Dr. John Schinnerer and Mark Greene in a fascinating conversation about the Man Box culture, and how it's playing out in politics right now. The solution is not to flip the script so that we overvalue the soft aspects of men over the harder aspects.  The goal is to honor both the hard and the soft sides of our humanity equally. It's giving men permission to tap into all aspects of their humanity so that they are comfortable bringing the best parts of themselves to a particular situation.This is not a problem at an individual level. It is a cultural issue, a culture in which the full spectrum of our humanity has yet to be valued fully. The thing I love about the Man Box idea is that none of this is your fault. You didn't ask to be socialized like this. You had no control over it. It just happens. So keep in mind that while this is not your fault, it is your responsibility to evolve beyond the Man Box. And that's what we are seeking to do in this election, discover more ways to evolve our masculinity.About Dr. John's Esteemed Guest, Mark Greene:Mark Greene works to engage men in creating diverse, equitable, and inclusive workplace cultures. Co-Author with Dr. Saliha Bava of The Relational Workplace. Mark works with organizations and individuals to overcome the challenges created by retrogressive workplace cultures through his Man Box Choice Point trainings.Mark is the author of The Little #MeToo Book for Men, Remaking Manhood, and co-author, along with Dr. Saliha Bava, of the Relational Book for Parenting. Mark's newest book, co-authored with Dr. Bava, is The Relational Workplace. Available now: https://a.co/d/1PcuEsn Mark is co-host of Remaking Manhood, the Healthy Masculinity Podcast. All of Remaking Manhood's healthy masculinity resources are here: https://linktr.ee/RemakingManhood

It's time to check back in with one of my favorite guys doing men's work - Alex Terranova. Alex just published a book of the top 100 things he's learned in doing over 500 podcasts and was kind enough to include me in it!  But the book barely gets a mention as there are so may other things to discuss. How does a “recovering asshole” come to be a reputed men's coach and Coach of the Year? How do we evolve as men? What are Alex's men's retreats like? Is there one best version of masculinity towards which we are all striving?About My Esteemed Guest and Good Friend:Alex Terranova is an Executive and Leadership Coach, Performance and Success Alchemist, and Sacred Guide for men. Alex's training and essence are steeped in ontological principles, which focus on the nature of being and reality, ancient rituals that promote personal growth and transformation, integrity that underpins all his actions, and somatic practices that involve the integration of mind and body for holistic healing and expansion. With a commitment to love and support and a willingness to tell the hard truth, Alex Terranova fearlessly guides individuals and organizations to transcend mental barriers and unlock their boundless potential. His transformative coaching has led to tangible results, such as businesses growing from 6 to 7 figures, healed relationships, improved parenting, reduced employee turnover, and enhanced happiness, peace, job satisfaction, relationships, and overall life fulfillment.Alex's coaching is a unique blend of integrity, boldness, trust, and love. His expertise spans a wide spectrum, from Business Coaching for owners and leaders striving to grow sales and scale their companies to Mindset and Performance Coaching for athletes seeking high level results to Leadership Coaching for those aiming to elevate every aspect of their lives. His clients share a common desire to grow, improve, succeed, and deepen their relationships. Alex's unique approach, grounded in integrity, boldness, trust, and love, empowers his clients to thrive in all aspects of their lives. Alex's journey towards mastery began in 2015 when he was certified by the esteemed Accomplishment Coaching. His relentless pursuit of excellence led him to earn his PCC, Professional Certified Coach Certification from the International Coach Federation, and his MPM, Mental Performance Mastery Certification from Top Mental & Peak Performance Coach Brian Cain. He has trained and worked with Shamans, Indigenous Leaders, and Psychological and Spiritual Leaders from Eastern and Western Traditions. Recognized by Yahoo Finance as 'The Anti-Excuses Coach,' and MSN, who called the Alchemy of Men Retreat "Best Retreats for Men 2024,"  Alex Terranova is a trusted authority in his field. Through one-on-one and Corporate Coaching, as well as leading Retreats, he has transformed the lives of hundreds of people. He has also trained over 100 other coaches, led men's groups, hosted a top 2% podcast, authored best-selling books, and spoken internationally.Where to reach Alex Terranova: AlexTerranovaCoaching.comFor more on Alex's upcoming Men's Retreats:AlchemyOfMenRetreat.com

Love isn't enough for a thriving relationship. That's merely the starting point. What do you do when life gets in the way? When things get stressful? How do you keep your relationship positive when you are pushed and pulled on all sides?Join me, Dr. John, and my partner Joree Rose as we discuss the best tools we know of to maintain that positive, supportive, loving feeling in your relationship. These most powerful tools are backed by science and include:The softened start upValidating your partner's feelingsListen, fix, hug?Invitation, request, demand framework of communicationCuriosity and compassionNon-violent communicationNonjudgmental listening And more!By the end of this podcast, you'll have a more thorough understanding of 8 new tools which you can begin to practice today to improve the emotional connection of your romantic relationship. These proven tools are invaluable. After all, you're only as happy as you are in your relationship! Join us as we guide you up the path to a healthier, happier partnership.Find out more about our monthly Master Class on Relationships and about our couples coaching packages at LoveIsntEnough.net. 

"The biggest barrier to success is not that others are unwilling to give but that we are afraid to ask.” - Adam Grant, NY Times bestselling authorI love it when, the most powerful ideas are the simplest. Find out how you can begin to master the one tool that stands between you and your success: the ability to ask for what you need to succeed and be happy. The Man Box culture teaches the value of self-reliance. 85% of Americans agree that “I would rather depend on myself than others.” But, as always, you can take things too far. If you don't ask for advice, you may miss out on valuable opportunities. Failure to seek early treatment for depression and/or anxiety prolongs the length of the issue. And trying to do it all can lead to stress and burnout. Discover what keeps you from asking for what you need and how to get better at this invaluable skill.Dr. Wayne E. Baker Wayne Baker is the author of the book All You Have To Do Is Ask, and the Robert P. Thome (“Toe-May”) Professor of Business Administration and Professor of Management & Organizations at the University of Michigan Ross School of Business. He currently serves as Faculty Director of the Center for Positive Organizations. His teaching and research focus on social capital, social networks, generosity, positive organizational scholarship, and values. His management and leadership articles appear in venues such as Harvard Business Review, Chief Executive Magazine, and Sloan Management Review. He puts his knowledge into practice as a frequent guest speaker, management consultant, and as an advisor and board member of Give and Take Inc., developers of the Givitas collaborative technology platform. He has won various awards, including the Senior Faculty Research Award from the Ross School of Business and the Best Article Published in 2014 – 2016 from the American Sociological Association Section on Altruism, Morality, and Social Solidarity.

One of the biggest factors in a happy, thriving life is meaning. Knowing your ‘why', you can get through any ‘how.' This show was previously aired in 2022, however it's one of my all-time favorite episodes as the content is simple, actionable & significant. Topics covered…Why is meaning so important for us?How do you discover your meaning in life?Are there individual differences in terms of how much we need meaning?Why is it important to be aware of your core beliefs or ‘givens'?What are the 3 levels of core beliefs?How do you identify your core beliefs? Which core beliefs serve us best for success? For happiness?Bio:Dr. Michael F. Steger is Professor of Psychology and the Director for the Center for Meaning and Purpose at Colorado State University. He is an internationally recognized authority on the benefits of finding meaning in one's life and in one's work. Dr. Steger is a sought after speaker and enjoys providing keynotes, workshops, and retreats around the world on topics ranging from meaning and purpose, flourishing at work, positive education, effective leadership, expanding clinical practice by incorporating meaning and purpose assessment and interventions. He is the developer of the most widely-used measures of meaning and purpose in the world, including the Meaning in Life Questionnaire and the Work and Meaning Inventory. He has written three books, including Designing Positive Psychology, Purpose and Meaning in the Workplace, and the Handbook of Positivity and Strengths-Based Approaches at Work. Dr. Steger offers a number of online courses on elevating success in work and life, including his newest course, Meaning in the Moment, taught through the Wholebeing Institute.Here is the course description of Meaning in the Moment…Crafting a meaningful life doesn't have to be a philosophical chore, it can be lived one vivid and enjoyable moment at a time. This on-demand online course is focused on practical exercises that help people use the power of now to create lives rich in meaning. Each session offers two or more exercises that you can learn to use one at a time, in an array of combinations, and even all together in a coherent program on meaning in the moment. Mike shows how people can get unstuck and move forward with a lighter heart toward greater meaning and purpose.https://wholebeinginstitute.com/meaning-in-the-moment/

What's the best way to strengthen your connection in your romantic relationship and navigate through the complexities of your deepest core emotional wounds?Join me, Dr. John, and my partner Joree Rose as we dive into the essential understanding of core wounds in relationships, shedding light on how these deep-seated emotional injuries can impact our interactions and connections with our partners. One of Joree's favorite questions in couples therapy is “What is your partner's deepest core wound?” More than half of people don't even know their own core wound. But how can we expect to master the complexities of romance if we aren't the expert on ourself and our partner? We explore the significance of self-awareness, the power of navigating triggers with compassion. We provide a beginning list of some of the deepest wounds we've seen in both the anxious and the avoidant attachment styles. We discuss the role of curiosity and compassion as fundamental tools for healing and understanding. We offer insights into effective communication and the importance of honoring each other's triggers to foster a nurturing, supportive bond.By the end of this podcast, you'll gain a deeper understanding of yourself and your partner, what your core wounds are, how to work with them gently, thus empowering both of you to create a more resilient and loving connection. Whether you're looking to heal old wounds or build a stronger foundation in your current relationship, these insights are invaluable. Join us as we explore the path to a healthier, happier partnership.If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnerer

Love Isn't Enough: Is Intensive Couples Therapy Right For You?Dr. John Schinnerer & Joree Rose, LMFTJoin Joree and I in an in-depth conversation about our experience in intensive couples therapy (i.e., 2 six-hour days of therapy with Charlie & Linda Bloom!). We also go into our belief that intensives are a much more effective means to create positive, lasting change than the traditional 1 hour, once-a-week sessions.If you are someone that: recognizes the distressing accumulation of hurts, annoyances & frustrations in your relationship,  has found traditional couples therapy to be less than effective, or  has never even considered couples therapy but desire a loving, supportive, thriving relationship,…then this episode is for you.  Questions addressed in this one:After significant relationship issues arise, how long do people typically wait before trying couples counseling?What are some of the differences between traditional one-hour-a-week couples therapy vs. intensive couples therapy?How to be clear on what is your individual work and what is your relational work?How do we get men more comfortable with entering into couples counseling?How can we make therapy more effective for men?What is the role of curiosity and nonjudgmentalness in effective arguing?How can effective couples therapy lead to the secure attachment you've always wanted?All this and more, in this episode of The Evolved Caveman podcast!Please like, rate, review and share if you find this show meaningful to you! I'm trying to counterbalance a couple of bad reviews by my ex-wife! 

One of the biggest sources of human suffering comes from our tendency to avoid uncomfortable emotions. We are not taught how to face these unpleasant, somewhat frequent experiences. Our first (and sometimes only) strategy is to suppress them, ignore them, or become overwhelmed by them. Yet how we meet and greet these difficult emotions with curiosity has everything to do with our well-being, resilience, and ability to connect with ourselves and others. Instinctually, we fight against our uncomfortable emotions. In doing so, we reinforce messages of “not good enough” or “I'm not supposed to feel this way.”In this  poignant & actionable conversation with Dr. Beth Kurland, the author of You Don't Have to Change to Change Everything, we learn that, instead of forcing ourselves to feel “happy” and burying what is unpleasant, or instead of getting hooked by intense emotions, we can change our perspective. Dr. Beth offers six vantage points to shift to when difficult emotions arise. They include: ·      The Anchor View: Finding Stable Ground ·      The Child View: Curiosity Is Your Superpower ·      The Audience View: Learn to Zoom Out·      The Compassionate Parent View: How to Become Your Own Ally ·      The Mirror View: Your Strengths and Imperfections Are Welcome Here·      The Ocean View: We're All in This Together Being aware from each of these six vantage points allows us to cultivate inner stability, greater awareness of our internal strengths and inner resources, interconnection with the world around us and, perhaps most importantly, self-compassion. In this way, Dr. Beth provides a uniquely doable approach to healing that emphasizes changing our perspective instead of changing ourselves.About Dr. John's Esteemed Guest:Beth Kurland, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist with three decades of experience.  She is also a TEDx and public speaker, a mind-body coach, and an author of three award-winning books: Dancing on The Tightrope: Transcending the Habits of Your Mind and Awakening to Your Fullest Life; The Transformative Power of Ten Minutes: An Eight Week Guide to Reducing Stress and Cultivating Well-Being. Beth blogs for Psychology Today and is the creator of the Well-Being Toolkit online program. She lives in the Boston area. For more, visit BethKurland.com.If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Editing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

Anyone who has ever been a people-pleaser can know how hard it is to be in relationships that don't have reciprocity. It can feel like we give and give and give, and just because we are connected in the relationship, can think it's enough, when in reality, we end up feeling depleted and resentful. In this joint episode, with my partner in life and love, Joree Rose, LMFT, we talk about 6 areas that people-pleasers can get stuck in or struggle with, along with some of the context that may lead you to becoming a people-pleaser. The 6 areas that we go in depth into are: difficulty drawing boundaries, feeling an overactive sense of guilt, being conflict avoidant, having a fear of loneliness, building anger & resentment and not knowing what your needs are. If you are someone that feels an imbalance in your relationships, and wants greater insight into why you may be doing what you're doing, and have the tools to shift into healthier relationship patterns, then this episode is for you. Questions addressed in this one:What does it mean to be a “people-pleaser”?What are some of the main issues involved in people pleasing?How does one become a “people-pleaser”?How does boundary setting figure into people pleasing?What about the gradual accumulation of anger and resentment?Where does the heightened sense of guilt come from?How comfortable are people-pleasers with conflict?How does a fear of loneliness enter into the picture?All this and more, in this episode of The Evolved Caveman podcast!Please like, rate, review and share if you find this show meaningful to you!If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnerer

One partner has an anxious attachment style and gets triggered by her partner needing a time out during an argument, or threatening to leave. The other partner has an avoidant attachment style and gets emotionally flooded during disagreements. During these challenging moments, the anxious partner seeks to turn towards their partner, needing to reconnect in order to calm their physiology. The avoidant person turns away from the relationship, seeking time and space to calm themselves. The anxious partner pursues the avoidant partner verbally and physically, resulting in neither person getting their needs met. This is one of the most common relational dynamics we have seen in our private practice assisting couples to rekindle their passion and connection. Even Joree and John struggled with it! Listen in as they explain what this dynamic is and, more importantly, how to break out of it for a happier and more connected relationship. Here's a hint: It takes a combination of individual work and relational work to evolve beyond it! To find out more about our upcoming monthly Relationship Master Classes, please visit https://joreerose.com/loveisntenoughmasterclass/.To find out more about our Fulfilling Relationships Retreat in Costa Rica September 28 – October 5, 2024 at Pura Vida Resort, please visit https://loveisntenough.net/costa-rica/For information on our Ultimate Relationship Coaching Package, visit https://loveisntenough.net/the-ultimate-relationship-coaching-package/ 

Psychedelics have been described as “the mind revealing itself to itself.” Recent research backs this notion up, showing the profound healing impact of psychedelics such as psilocybin (magic mushrooms), MDMA, and more. MDMA has been deemed “breakthrough status” by the FDA for folks struggling with PTSD. Psilocybin has been given “breakthrough status” by the FDA for its positive results for individuals with depression, anxiety and substance abuse disorders. There are a variety of ways to access such medicines. Some of them are legal. Some take place in the “underground.” One of the underground ways is via a psychedelic journey led by a shaman  and/or medicine woman. Yet, what does a group psychedelic journey look like? What should one expect?  What is helpful to do prior to a journey? What are the safeguards needed to ensure a positive, healing experience? How does one create a safe container for a journey? Why is integration so important following the journey? About Dr. John's Guest:Formerly known as Lois Koffi, now her ceremonial spiritual name is Misty Magdalena Grace (Magdalena for short). She is a plant medicine woman/spiritual teacher & microdosing coach, focused on mental/physical/spiritual health.  She has been a coach for 23 years, coaching 20,000 plus people in both health and fitness, as well as business/sales. She has seen so so many people focus on the external DOING of goal setting, new year's resolutions and intention setting and realized that most of our success lies WITHIN. She has had her own awakening journey of working through addictive behaviors, depression/anxiety and struggles as well as many victories and successes.  She has lost 12 friends to suicide and many to addiction and has a huge vision/mission to help people safely with sacred plants.  She has trained with several plant medicine women and shamans through initiations and deep dive healing over 50 times.  Find Out More About Microdosing:https://microdosingforhealth.now.site/homeSubscribe To Her Newsletter:https://loiskoffi.lpages.co/healthy-n-wealthy-n-wise-subscription/Check Out Her Podcast:https://loiskoffi.com/podcast/If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

Let's face it: couples argue. Disagreements are inevitable. Arguing is not a problem; in fact, there's a lot of authenticity & freedom in being able to express yourself fully, even when you're angry. The problem is when arguing is ineffective, or when anger & insults erode the safety & security of your relationship. However, there are proven ways that you can argue better; ways that actually benefit your partnership. Learn the scientifically-proven rules to fight fair, argue well, repair quickly & ultimately resolve those long-standing disagreements with Dr. John & Joree Rose, LMFT. If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnerer

Yoga is a group of physical, mental, energetic and spiritual practices which originated in ancient India, aim to still the mind and reduce human suffering (Duḥkha). Yoga can even include sexual energy in its practices. Yoga-like practices were first mentioned in the ancient Hindu text known as Rigveda. Yoga is referred to in a number of the Upanishads.The first known appearance of the word "yoga" with the same meaning as the modern term is in the Katha Upanishad, which was probably composed between the fifth and third centuries BCE. The Bhagavad Gita describes yoga as “skill in action.” It has to do with the raising of consciousness, the discovery of dysfunctional thoughts and perceptions, the reduction of suffering, and the discovery of inner peace. One of the keys to healthy aging, peace of mind and terrific sexuality for men is yoga, partly as it aids in maintaining muscle strength, flexibility and balance. Join Dr. John in an arousing conversation with Thomas Gloor, a yoga teacher for men. He has taught for several decades and his wisdom is inspiring. Some topics covered include:The difference between the energetic body and the physical body.Tantric yoga and sexuality.The difference between orgasm and ejaculation.Transforming emotional energy into spiritual energy.If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnerer

One of the most important pillars of a happy, thriving life is your relationship with your partner. Yet, so many of us struggle in this area. What do you need to be more satisfied in your relationship? How do you get your needs met? How do you put an end to having the same frikkin' arguments over and over?  How do you get a handle on your anger so your partner feels safe and secure in the relationship?Listen in on the first Master Class on Relationships and find out! This is the overview of all the skills and tools you need to create a loving, fulfilling, positive relationship. Joree and I were so excited about our first Master Class we wanted to share it with you as a gift. To find out about the upcoming monthly Master Classes, please visit JoreeRose.com

In an epoch of disconnection, alienation, loneliness and lack of meaning, how do we begin to tap into happiness? How might we start to cultivate personal power and self-confidence? How can the challenges we face ignite and illuminate our gifts to the world? Join Dr. John as he chats with Stephanie James, a psychotherapist, author & filmmaker on these topics and many more, such as…How does a therapist deal with grief?What beliefs about the after life serve you best?How do the worst challenges in your life become a gift? The rift between science and spiritualityA seasoned psychotherapist and transformation coach, a dynamic public speaker, published author and filmmaker, Stephanie James delivers her message in a powerful way to help others find their own internal sparks, break through limiting beliefs and create an empowered life full of passion and possibility. Her new film, When Sparks Ignite, hosts a highly reputable cast of international thought leaders and changemakers.  Its powerful message is about how the challenges we face can actually become the match point that ignites something within us that becomes our gift to the world. Her latest book, Becoming Fierce, takes the reader through a compelling and dynamic journey to expand personal power, purge what doesn't serve, and design an authentic life that is deeply fulfilling.Igniting the Spark with Stephanie James is a world-wide weekly podcast created to help you live your best life.Stephanie has an unrelenting commitment and personal mission to bring as much love and healing to the world as possible. Her message is clear: “Your. Healing. Matters.”  For more information go to:https://www.stephaniejames.world/For trailer of When Sparks Ignite visit:https://vimeo.com/705531723/7a12f0449dIf you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.

Join Joree and I in our new monthly Master Class series on Relationships: https://joreerose.com/theawaremethodmasterclass/And join us in Costa Rica Sept 28-Oct. 5, 2024: https://joreerose.com/retreats/costa-rica/In this joint episode with my partner Joree Rose, LMFT,, we talk with esteemed therapists, Charlie and Linda Bloom, who were an integral part of our healing after our breakup. Married for over 54 years, they have been doing joint couples work for over 40 years, leading workshops and courses all over the world, and are the authors of 5 books; the most recent is An End To Arguing, which we talk about in this episode. Charlie and Linda share valuable, insightful and practical tools for how couples can work towards and maintain a strong relationship, despite hardships, of which they have survived many. Beginning with a shared value of being lifelong learners, they have always taken the time for personal growth which has served as the foundation for their relationship, as they've always been inspired to aim higher. In this episode we talk about the 3 words you should never say to your partner in an argument, how you can have a breakdown become a breakthrough instead of a breakup, and how relationships are spiritual practices. When you can self-reflect and take responsibility for your emotions and experience, reveal with vulnerability what you are feeling rather than conceal it, and continue to communicate until you are feeling complete after an argument, then you can truly reside in the safety of a secure relationship. If you are someone who is interested in building an extraordinary relationship, then this episode is for you.Find out more about two upcoming relationship classes taught by Charlie and Linda!Esalen workshop from May 24-26.   Esalen.org/workshops/secrets-of-great-relationships-for-individuals-and-couples-052424Kripalu workshops from Feb 9-11 Kripalu.org/presenters-programs/secrets-great-relationshipsAbout Linda & Charlie: Linda Bloom, LCSW and Charlie Bloom, MSW:Charlie and Linda have been married since 1972. Trained as psychotherapists and relationship counselors, they have worked with individuals, couples, groups, and organizations since 1975 and have lectured and taught at learning institutes throughout the USA and internationally, including the Esalen Institute, the Kripalu Center for Yoga and Health, and The Northern California Mindfulness Institute. They have authored five books, including the best seller, 101 Things I Wish I Knew When I Got Married: Simple Lessons to Make Love Last (over 100,000 sold), Secrets of Great Marriages, Happily Ever After... and 39 Other Myths about Love, That which Doesn't Kill Us: How One Couple Became Stronger at the Broken Places, and An End to Arguing: 101 Valuable Lessons for All Relationships. They are founders and co-directors of Bloomwork, based in Santa Cruz, California. Their website is www.bloomwork.comIf you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.

At the root of all happy and fulfilled relationships are deep connections - emotional, spiritual, intellectual, and physical. Connection is something we all say we want and yet not many know how to actually achieve it in a sustainable way. In this episode, Joree and I share some far out stories about our plunge into spirituality, owl familiars, psychedelics and healing our relationship following our break up. To assist you in deepening your own soul connections, Joree and I are excited to offer the latest ways to learn more about yourself, the barriers to your own ability to connect vulnerably and authentically with others, as well as relational tools to strengthen your partnership. Reserve your space in our new monthly Master Class to learn new ways to cultivate more connection & intimacy with your loved one!To join our new monthly Master Class Series: https://joreerose.com/theawaremethodmasterclass/ It is being offered right now at a silly low cost!

2023 was a rough year for me. And I suspect it may have been rough for you too. In hopes of lightening things up as we head into a more peaceful and productive 2024, I interview Alli Goldberg, an up and coming comedian who, among other things, hosts a live dating show, Love Isn't Blind, in which the men cannot speak. Alli and I talk about what she has found out about dating given her unique perspective as one who is currently dating and who MCs a dating show. She is funny, insightful and illuminating. It is truly an enjoyable conversation. Listen now, as I ask a question I've never uttered before, “If you were a sex toy, which one would you be?” Allison Goldberg is a creator whose work has been covered by LA Magazine, Good Morning America, The Savage Lovecast, WIRED, NPR, The LA Times, and more. Most recently, she sold her live comedy show How To Break Up By Text to a well-known podcasting platform (releasing in Feb 2024). In that show and format, celebrities perform your break-up texts and then an expert joins as we break down your break up. For the past year, she's been hosting her newest creation, Love Isn't Blind, which is a comedy/dating show where the men can't speak. Alli was recently named one of the top 10 funniest women in NYC. Alli is a graduate of Yale University.If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnerer

Even though men as a group have power, individual men often feel powerless. These contradictory experiences contribute to men's hurting—hurting others and being hurt. Depression has risen to unprecedented highs in men. Loneliness among men is an epidemic. How do we reconcile these disparate truths?Based on more than fifteen years of research, Keith E. Edwards, PhD, illuminates men's masking, unmasking, and becoming to help men develop their own authentic masculinity. He also shares strategies to help us all better engage the men in our lives with empathy, reach them with compassion, effectively hold them accountable, and help them to become the men they aspire to be. The men in his study thought they had a unique secret, but they all shared the same secret. They each wore masks to hide their insecurities and portray an image that would be seen as “man enough” according to the external expectations of them as men. These external expectations oppress women and transgender people, place some men above other men, and limit all men. Men struggle with their unmasking. Too often, as soon as their insecurities reemerge, the mask snaps back into place as though attached with an elastic cord. With mask consciousness, men can engage in their own process of becoming by exploring their identity and practicing aligning their actions with integrity. About Keith Edwards:Keith helps transformational leaders make the complex uncomplicated for leadership, learning, and equity. His research, writing, and speaking have received national awards and recognition. Keith is the author of the book Unmasking: Toward Authentic Masculinity, which based on more than fifteen years of research. Keith illuminates men's masking, unmasking, and becoming to help men develop their own authentic masculinity. Even though men as a group have power, individual men often feel powerless. These contradictory experiences contribute to men's hurting—hurting others and being hurt. Keith shares strategies to help us all better engage the men in our lives with empathy, reach them with compassion, effectively hold them accountable, and help them to become the men they aspire to be.Keith co-edited the book Addressing Sexual Violence in Higher Education and co-authored the chapter on Comprehensive Sexual Violence Prevention in this book. His TEDx Talk on preventing sexual violence has been viewed around the world.He is co-host of Student Affairs NOW, the premier podcast for student affairs.Find out more about Keith:KeithEdwards.com  If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnerer

At the root of all happy and fulfilled relationships are deep connections - emotional, spiritual, intellectual, and sexual. Connection is something we all say we want and yet not many of us know how to actually achieve it in a way that is truly sustainable. In this episode, Joree and I share some stories from our recent trip to Africa that highlight the importance and value of human connection. We also share personal anecdotes from our own relationship, in our journey to develop deeper connection with one another, as well as some patterns and experiences that we see with clients, in which connection is not achieved, compromised, or simply nonexistent. The good news is that the tools to achieve deeply connected relationships are all learnable. And, to this end, Joree and I are really excited to be offering new ways to learn more about yourself, the barriers to your own ability to connect vulnerably and authentically with others, as well as relational tools to strengthen any partnership that has the desire to grow. Reserve your space in our new monthly Master Class to learn new ways to cultivate more connection & intimacy with your loved one!To join our new monthly Master Class Series: https://joreerose.com/theawaremethodmasterclass/ If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

Earlier this year, I went through a breakup with my partner, Joree. It was bruuuuutal. Fortunately, we reconciled after two months and now are stronger than ever. Yet, it raises a critical question: How do you BEST deal with the painful breakup from a loved one? We know that love is addictive. So breakups are a lot like kicking a substance abuse problem. But why do some people get addicted to their ex while others don't? And how can we best manage the painful emotions involved in a breakup?Join Dr. John for an amazing conversation with Dr. Cortney Warren, a psychologist and professor specializing in how to let go of your ex (among other things!). Topics covered:How to survive a tough breakup?What are the differences when you break it off vs. being on the receiving end of the break up?How is love addictive?Why do some lovers get addicted to their ex while others don't ? How does this relate to obsessive or stalking behavior?What can family and friends do to help a loved one who is addicted to an ex? About Dr. John's Esteemed Guest:Dr. Cortney S. Warren is a Board Certified Clinical Psychologist and Adjunct Clinical Professor in the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Health at the Kirk Kerkorian School of Medicine at University of Nevada, Las Vegas (UNLV). Having won numerous professional awards for her research, Cortney is an expert on addictions, self-deception, romantic relationships, among other things. Her newest work is a self-help book that explores breakups through an addictive framework called Letting Go of Your Ex: CBT Skills to Heal the Pain of a Breakup and Overcome Love Addiction (2023) Her earlier book is Lies We Tell Ourselves: The Psychology of Self-Deception (2014).If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

 To what extent are you sexually repressed? Do you have a hard time talking about sex? Body parts? Can you ask for what you want in bed? Do you even know what you want? Great sex is an important part of a satisfying relationship. Find out more about how to level up the sexual part of your relationship in this episode of The Evolved Caveman. Topics covered:How to bring playfulness into your sex life.Sex Outside the Lines: How we can explore all that is possible in the bedroom.The blocks that prevent us from exploring sexually.How to turn shame into the erotic.The importance of consent in sex and how to do so.The difference between erotic energy and sexual energy. Why sex is such a taboo topic and how to overcome the discomfort in speaking about it.How to develop greater intimacy with your partner.About Dr. John's Guest:Are you looking to unleash your inner passion and take your relationships to the next level? Look no further than Court Vox, a certified sex and intimacy coach and surrogate partner intern. His work as a Sacred Intimate is based in Los Angeles and he is a member of the World Association of Sex Coaches. As a founder of The Body Vox and co-founder of SQUIRM, Court is dedicated to helping individuals discover and explore their sexuality in a safe and healthy manner. He is also part of a team of sex educators who have created the renowned program for women, Back to the Body, which runs retreats worldwide.If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word!  

The Wisdom of Elders. What can we learn from the wisdom of men who have suffered trauma, made mistakes & risen above it all? As it turns out, we can learn an incredible amount.  Don St John's life has been nothing short of miraculous. He suffered abuse in childhood—violent beatings & constant verbal abuse. In his early twenties, he was incapable of feeling human connection, had poor impulse control, drank excessively & had poor physical health. By age 35, he had gone through 3 marriages & 3 divorces. He had very little, if any, sense of connection to his body or to his emotions. His life trajectory looked bleak indeed.Today, psychologist & author of the award winning book, Healing the Wounds of Childhood: A Psychologist's Journey And Discoveries From Wretched Beginnings To A Thriving Life, shares & teaches about the work he has done and how he transformed his life from the inside out. He offers ways for others to do the same, no matter what the age or what their beginnings.Topics covered:Trauma is a vague & overused word. How do we define trauma?How does trauma impact us?Trauma largely operates outside of conscious awareness. How do we begin to become aware of our own trauma?How can we begin to heal from our various traumas?How are vibrant health, high quality intimate relationships & a good relationship with your body all inter-related?What are some key insights and practices to build extraordinary relationships?The Loneliness Epidemic and it's consequencesWhere to reach Dr. Donwww.pathsofconnection.com don@st-jon.comIf you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

Star Wars. Lord Of The Rings. Call Of Duty.  Homer's Odyssey. Spiderman. All are examples of the Hero's Journey. Popularized by the famed mythologist Joseph Campbell, this story arc is etched into our minds and hearts as what we are to do if we are to succeed as men. Yet, what happens if our lives are merely ordinary? What if we never get the chance to be a hero? Do we matter any less? Find out more in this week's episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast. Topics covered: What are archetypes and why should you care?What is the Hero's Journey? What is the Anti-hero's Journey?How can the Hero's Journey be damaging to boys?The archetypes we normally hear about in men's work are the king, the magician, the warrior and lover. What are some of the other archetypes that have something important to teach us?Why is it so important to create space between clients' selves and their culture?How has the trope of the bromance damaged men?About Dr. John's Esteemed Guest:Dr. Jason Frishman is a psychologist who has been working for over 20 years to support individuals, groups, families, organizations and businesses. He holds degrees in adventure therapy and narrative psychology. Jason is excited to bring over two decades of work in offices, institutions, kitchens, farmers' markets, woodlots and boardrooms to wild new environments. Whether as a psychotherapist, the creator and founder of JourneyMen, public speaker, thought leader or narrative consultant, Jason believes that our lives are adventurous, and we can and should be an active, engaged author of our own adventure stories.Resources:Email Jason at jason@JourneyMenFoundation.com Visit his site at JourneyMenFoundation.orgIf you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

Slightly over two weeks ago, Joree and I came home from an epic Africa trip. The following day, the police came to my door to tell me my 23-year-old son, Brett, was dead. As always, I try to use experiences in my life to authentically and honestly teach others - how to feel, how to cope, how to make meaning, and how to rejuvenate and re-open the heart after loss. Trigger warning: This one is raw, emotional, and contains discussion about death and grieving. What emotions show up in the emotional turmoil that is grief?How does grief show up in the body?How do you make sense of a tragic death afterwards?What are some of the best things you can say to someone in grief?What are some best practices to re-engage with life and routine after a death?Thank you for your support during this difficult time. Thank you for listening. Thank you for the love. Thank you for being you. You matter to me. You are important to me. You are why I do what I do. Please share with others if you feel they might benefit from this episode on loss, death and grief. 

The cliche' that happiness is an inside job is true. Jon Kabat-Zinn said, “wherever you go, there you are.” The foundational step to a happier, more fulfilling life is self-awareness. And 95% of us will quickly self-report that we are highly self-aware. In truth, it's about 12% of us. One of the most powerful ways to increase self-awareness is meditation. It allows us to turn inwards and explore the inner landscape to gain greater awareness of our thoughts, feelings, motivations and values. It enables you to become the captain of your own destiny, so that you are in control rather than typical mindless negative habits. Find out more in this enlightening conversation with Chris Cirak.About Dr. John's Peaceful Warrior Guest, Chris Cirak:Chris has been practicing meditation since 2015. He came to it because all the things society says lead to happiness (i.e., the bullshit story we are all fed from youth), didn't. Chasing outcome after outcome left him feeling empty and burnt out. He sought a better way to live life.After exploring many forms of meditation, he settled on what he found to be the most effective method of getting to the root of our mind's conditioned reactivity. His book, Be You – The Journey of Self-Realization, lays the foundation for his courses and teachings. He has studied with and learned from many of the luminaries of our time, including Eckhart Tolle, Deepak Chopra, Dr. Brian Weiss, Joseph Campbell, A Course in Miracles, and many others.If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

Research from Gallup Organization has shown for decades that employee engagement is minimal. Gallup defines employee engagement as the involvement and enthusiasm of employees in both their work and workplace. Yet, only 23% of the workforce is actively engaged in their job, while 25% is actively disengaged. This bottom quartile has been shown to have 81% more absenteeism, 43% higher turnover, 28% more shrinkage, and 64% more accidents. COVID did not help these dynamics. So how do we create more employee engagement? How do we effectively increase employee motivation? How can we inspire purpose & meaning in our employees?Topics covered in this one:What is the biggest challenge today's organizations are seeking to solve concerning employee and workforce success?How does employee happiness lead to high performance in organizations?How do you solve these challenges?What's the science behind how happiness leads to greater performance?About Dr. John's Guest:Dr. Pelè is an educator, musician, bestselling author, and the Founder of Profitable Happiness®. Through books, software, training, and music, he seeks to change the world by helping organizations build cultures of high employee engagement, experience, and performance.To find out more, visit www.drpele.com.If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

New developments in the treatment of mental health challenges have been painfully slow to arrive. Talk therapy, lithium, prozac, electroshock therapy have all developed in the past 150 years. There have been a number of new medications developed but each has its own profile of positive and negative benefits. And few are highly effective (i.e., help more than 50% of the population they are intended to serve). In the past 10 years, however, there have been some noticeable improvements from some unsuspecting sources. These include psilocybin, ketamine, vagal nerve stimulation, Transcranial magnetic stimulation (TMS), Electroconvulsive therapy (ECT) and MDMA. Tune in to this fascinating conversation with Dr. Rebecca Allen, who heads up the Seattle Neuropsychiatric Treatment Center which is comprised of 5 treatment centers throughout Washington. Recent research out of Johns Hopkins, published in the prestigious journal Nature, found that critical windows of learning were re-opened in mice for 2,3 and 4 weeks depending on which psychedelic drug they were administered (and no, I have no idea how you discover the proper dosage of psilocybin for a mouse!). The mice were given either ketamine, MDMA, psilocybin, LSD or ibogaine. Ketamine kept the social reward learning period active for 48 hours, psilocybin and MDMA opened the critical learning window for two weeks, LSD for 3 weeks and ibogaine opened it for four weeks. This duration aligns loosely with the self-reported after effects of each psychedelic drug in humans. This post-treatment period could offer a valuable window of opportunity for maintaining the learning state. It appears that these drugs impact the RNA and thus, the genetic level, turning on or off genes associated with social learning. So these drugs seem to be impacting at a spiritual level, an interpersonal level, a cognitive level, a neurological level and at a genetic level. It is research such as this (as well as research in larger mammals, i.e., humans) that has heralded a new age in the treatment now called the Psychedelic Renaissance. Topics Covered In This Episode:Transcranial magnetic stimulation (TMS). For which mental health diagnoses is this treatment used? What is its efficacy?Electroconvulsive therapy (ECT). For which mental health disorders is this prescribed? What is its rate of success?Ketamine therapy. For what has it been shown to be helpful? Effectiveness rates?Psilocybin (magic mushrooms). What disorders show promising results here? What percentage of the population responds positively to them?Vagal nerve stimulation (VNS). What does this help?MDMA (Street names: ecstasy or molly). What about the recent excitement around MDMA for healing? What disorders are responsive to MDMA? About Dr. John's Esteemed Guest - Dr. Rebecca Allen:Dr. Allen is, among many other things,…Partner & Director of Neuropsychiatry and Research at the Seattle Neuropsychiatric Treatment Center Clinical Assistant Professor at the University of Washington Vice President of the Clinical TMS Society and Past President of theWashington State Psychiatric AssociationFind out more at https://seattlentc.com.If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues. 

What Aren't We Addicted To?! We can be addicted to alcohol, nicotine, marijuana, narcotics, exercise, sex, shopping, social media, gaming and more. What is addiction? And how do you know if you are addicted? Most importantly, what do you do about it?Join Dr. John for a penetrating interview with clinical social worker and substance abuse counselor, Steve Peterson. Steve has been doing this work since 1986.  He has worked in inpatient and outpatient treatment centers, in private practice settings and on large research outcome studies. Most of his clients have co-existing mental health and substance abuse disorders. Topics covered include:What makes addiction a disease and not simply a failure of will?How is addiction defined?Why do some people get addicted while others don't?How can you tell when use becomes addiction?What are some of the less well known addictions?Why do addicts act irrationally?What is the range of treatment options for addiction?Why is relapse so common? What are some of the triggers for relapse?What can family and friends do to help a loved one who is addicted?To find out more about Steve Peterson, email him at AODAGuy62@gmail.com. If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

After coming back together after a short, but painful breakup, Joree and I consciously adopted daily and weekly habits and tools to strengthen our relationship. While we had always put time and attention into our relationship, it didn't always result in the connection or alignment that we both needed to feel seen, heard, validated or fulfilled. In this episode, we go into detail, sharing what we did differently than before to consciously step towards one another in an effort to demonstrate our love, commitment, and dedication to the relationship. Once again (as in Season 5, Episode 1), we share very vulnerable & honest examples & insights into how we healed in the hopes that we can inspire you to create shifts in your relationship. We know that strong relationships are foundational to your happiness & health so we invite you to adopt some of what we have embodied so that you can thrive in your partnership.If this conversation inspires you, then join Joree and I in Costa Rica  in Sept. 2024 for a week-long relationship retreat in which you'll gain the insights & tools to heal what is standing in the way of the fulfilling relationship you desire. Click here to secure your spot; space is limited. Early bird discounts until the end of 2023.Here is another link for Costa Rica retreat: https://joreerose.com/retreats/costa-rica/If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

“Kill yourself.” “The world would be better off without you.” This is the inner voice of a client of mine. This voice has been existent within him for over a decade. I always assumed this was simply extreme depression. But what if it's not? What if this voice originates from someone other than his true self? What is the brain is porous and can absorb energies from outside? What if spiritual possession (i.e., unattached burdens) isn't just in the movies? This is the compelling topic discussed today with Bob Falconer, author & long-time IFS practitioner. Topics Covered In This Spine-tingling Episode:What is Internal Family Systems (IFS)? What is an Unattached Burden (UB)?How are UBs seen by other cultures around the world?How do you differentiate between a real part of a person and an unattached burden?How do you best respond to an unattached burden?How do you send a UB on their merry way?What makes us more vulnerable to Unattached Burdens?How do you think of self at this point? To what extent do you agree with Dick Schwartz that self is both a particle and a wave  (in quantum physics terms). In other words, does the self simultaneously extend beyond one's self to others as well as is contained within the mind and body?What are some of the positives that emerge from Unattached Burdens?About Dr. John's Guest:Robert Falconer is an Internal Family Systems therapy practitioner, teacher, and writer. Bob has devoted himself full-time to IFS work since training in IFS with Richard Schwartz more than a decade ago, and assisting Dr, Schwartz in many trainings and workshops. During the earlier part of his career, before discovering IFS, Bob worked with survivors of major trauma.  His focus now is on the study and treatment of the others within us, also known as unattached burdens in IFS, or UBs for short. His new book, The Others Within Us: Internal Family Systems, Porous Mind, and Spirit Possession, a work of more than 10 years of research, was published in April, 2023. Resources:For more info on Bob, visit RobertFalconer.us. For Bob's book, visit The Others Within Us: Internal Family Systems, Porous Mind, and Spirit Possession at Amazon.If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!

Lying. Ghosting. Stalking. Sexual assault. Bread crumbing. There is a lot that has changed in today's dating world. The vast majority of people now meet their partner via online dating sites (e.g., OKCupid, Match, Tinder, Bumble, etc.). What are the best ideas about how to expertly maneuver this ever-changing landscape? Join Dr. John with Irina Manta (Law School Professor) and Michelle Lange (Psychologist), both of whom have both had recent dating experience and whom host Strangers On The Internet, a podcast focused on online dating. Topics Covered In This Episode:What is it like being on dating apps for women?How present is the threat of sexual violence for women when dating in person?Some men get offended because they know they aren't a physical threat yet sometimes women have to entertain the possibility that they are. What would you say to them?Deceit and lying on the dating appsHow to form a connection with a woman via online dating?To what extent is there a difference between asynchronous (or DM'ing) and synchronous communications (i.e., in person)?How can women create a safe space for men in terms of embracing the man's full emotional spectrum? How to improve your dating profile for greater success?Some people play games in dating — Don't text too often; Don't respond too quickly. What are your thoughts on strategy and game playing in dating?The difficulties that women with children go through in order to arrange for a date.ResourcesCheck out Strangers On The Internet on all the major podcasting platforms.If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

Paraphrasing Tim Ferris, “I don't know any billionaires who don't do psychedelics.”  Why is this the case? What do they know that you don't?The field of psychedelics is undergoing a renaissance. It has been called the 5th wave of psychotherapy. The research results are impressive. The FDA has fast-tracked both MDMA and psilocybin as break through treatments. It is expected that MDMA will be legalized for therapeutic use with PTSD and trauma in 2024. And psilocybin (aka, magic mushrooms) will be legalized for therapeutic use in 2026. Why is there such a resurgence of interest in these compounds, some of which have been around for thousands of years in indigenous cultures (i.e., ayahuasca, psilocybin, ibogaine, peyote and more). Join Dr. John for a mesmerizing conversation with Matt Zemon, author & psychedelic evangelist. Topics Covered…• How might psychedelics help you to reclaim your true self? • Psychedelics as healing mental illness vs. expanding human potential• The myths and rumors around psychedelics • The bio-psycho-social-spiritual model of psychedelic medicine  Microdosing  Psychedelic medical treatments vs. ceremonies  Can psychedelics be used instead of antidepressants? What are the differences?  How is psychedelic medicine (or ketamine) being used legally for depression? Anxiety? Trauma? Optimization?  How is psychedelic medicine being used for substance use disorders?  What are best practices for preparing for a psychedelic session?  About Dr. John's GuestMatt Zemon, MSc, is a dedicated explorer of the inner world, and a passionate advocate for the thoughtful and responsible use of psychedelics. With a Master of Science in Psychology and Neuroscience of Mental Health with honors from King's College London, Matt has studied the effects of psychedelics on the mind and the potential for these experiences to serve as a catalyst for positive transformations. Matt is the author of the Amazon Best-Seller, Psychedelics for Everyone: A Beginner's Guide to these Powerful Medicines for Anxiety, Depression, Addiction, PTSD, and Expanding Consciousness. As an entrepreneur in the wellbeing sector, Matt has co-founded various companies, including HAPPŸŸ, a mental wellness company specializing in psychedelic-assisted ketamine therapy, PSYCHABLE, an online community connecting people who would like to explore the healing power of psychedelics with a network of practitioners and psychedelic-based treatments.Resources mentioned in this episode SpiritPharmacist.com DanceSafe.org Psychedelics For Everyone (Matt's book on Amazon)

Here's the true story of two therapists who fell in love, then struggled in their relationship with some repetitive, seemingly unbreakable patterns that lead to a painful breakup and how they eventually healed to be better than ever. In my Season 5 premiere, me and my now-again fiancee, Joree Rose, LMFT, share our very vulnerable journey over the past year of what led to our breakup and how we were able to come back together. We have always known love isn't enough, and our love for one another was never in question. However, an accumulation of small hurts, combined with wounds and traumas from our past and childhood got in the way of us being able to be fully authentic, vulnerable and ultimately able to hear one another. Despite our education, training and careers, we found ourselves in the painful (and common!) anxious-avoidant trap that many couples get into. And after 2 months apart, realizing that we were the only ones for each other, we committed to doing the deep work of healing, which has led us to being better than ever, along with the ability to have created new patterns that reflect our love and devotion to growth and a healthy partnership. It is our hope that our honesty inspires other couples to courageously embark on the journey of healing so that you can have the fulfilling and connected relationship you desire.If this conversation inspires you, then join Joree and I in Costa Rica for a relationship retreat in which you'll gain the insights and tools to heal what is standing in the way of the fulfilling relationship you desire. Click here to secure your spot; space is limited. Early bird discounts until the end of 2023.Here is another link for Costa Rica retreat: https://joreerose.com/retreats/costa-rica/If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word!