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In this special episode of IFS Talks, we welcome Richard C. Schwartz, Martha Sweezy, David Lovas, and Sunny Strasburg, authors of Psychedelic Medicine and Internal Family Systems Therapy: A Clinical Skills Manual.Together, we explore why IFS and psychedelic-assisted therapy can be naturally complementary, and why the medicine itself is only one part of the therapeutic process. Our guests discuss the importance of preparation, respect for protectors, internal consent, careful pacing, therapeutic presence, clinical safety, and ethical practice.The conversation examines how therapists can distinguish Self-energy from altered or dissociative states, decide when to intervene during challenging experiences, and respond to fear, overwhelm, shutdown, and protector backlash. We also consider sensitive questions concerning touch, boundaries, therapist readiness, personal experience with psychedelic medicines, and the assessment of clients for whom this work may not yet be safe.Finally, we turn to integration: how IFS can help people make sense of psychedelic experiences, reconnect with every part of their system, and translate insight into meaningful and sustainable change.We believe this is a thoughtful and clinically grounded conversation about the possibilities of bringing IFS and psychedelic medicine together, without losing sight of humility, consent, safety, and respect for the client's inner healing intelligence.This episode is intended for educational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice or encourage the use of psychedelic substances outside appropriately qualified, ethical, and legal settings.We are excited to celebrate the launch of IFS Collected Wisdom: Conversations with Experienced Voices in Internal Family Systems a book that brings together voices, reflections, and lived experience from across the IFS community. This book was created from a desire to honor those voices, and to acknowledge that wisdom in IFS doesn't live in one place or one person. It lives in relationship, in experience, and in the field as it evolves. Thank you for being a listener, for being part of this community,  and for continuing to explore what becomes possible when Self leads. We hope that IFS Collected Wisdom can become a companion in your IFS journey. Here is a link to the IFS Collected Wisdom book contents. 

On today's episode we welcome Bob Falconer back to the podcast. Bob is an IFS teacher, consultant, and author who has devoted decades to trauma healing and the study of mind and spirit. He co-authored Many Minds, One Self with Dick Schwartz and wrote The Others Within Us. His memoir, Self Unbroken, is out now. It's hard to pick a favorite "Bob" episode, but this one might be my favorite so far. We talk about his daily practice of dialoguing with Spirit, the sewer path to wisdom, what skeptical parts need, and the monk who changed everything for him Takeaways Self may be less like a particle and more like a field.  The high road to wisdom is lined with people waving shiny objects. Bob suggests trudging through the sewer instead. Skeptical parts don't need to be shut down, they need to be invited in. Not knowing is the beginning of knowledge  When a spirit dialogue starts making you feel superior to others, it's your clue the signal has been hijacked Understanding a past life isn't what heals it. Witnessing and unburdening the emotional charge is what changes things Use your client's language instead of imposing yours Here's a link to The One Inside Audio Guides I mentioned in the intro. About Bob A dedicated therapist and teacher of the IFS model, Robert Falconer has contributed significantly to the field through his research and writings. His work focuses on how our minds are not just multiple, but also porous. He brings this lens to IFS, especially in the context of trauma and spiritual experiences. Episode Sponsor This episode is sponsored by Souliology. Souliology offers retreats and immersive learning experiences for IFS professionals, many led by IFS Senior Lead Trainers and eligible for continuing education credits. Their programs support deep professional and personal growth, offering space to step away from the demands of daily life so you can return to your practice more present and resourced for the clients you serve. Souliology: Where growth meets depth. Learn more at souliology.com The Others Within Us: A four-day online experiential workshop with Bob Falconer, March 2027. Learn more and register at Souliology.com About The One Inside I started this podcast to help spread IFS out into the world and make the model more accessible to everyone. Seven years later, that's still at the heart of all we do.  Join The One Inside Substack community for bonus conversations, extended interviews, meditations, and more. Find Self-Led merch at The One Inside store. Listen to episodes and watch clips on YouTube. Follow me on Instagram @ifstammy or on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger. I co-create The One Inside with Jeff Schrum, a Level 2 IFS practitioner and coach. Resources New to IFS? My book, The One Inside: Thirty Days to Your Authentic Self, is a great place to start. Want a free meditation? Sign up for my email list and get "Get to Know a Should Part" right away. Sponsorship Want to sponsor an episode of The One Inside? Email Tammy. 

Turning 40 inspired me to stop and reflect in a deeper way. In that reflection, I asked a question I hadn't asked in a while: which ideas have actually changed the way I live? Four rose above the rest (convenient since it was my 40th!), and one thing that surprised me is how they build on each other, almost like a manual for how to live. In this solo reflection, I walk through all four, along with the single thread that connects them: awareness/mindfulness comes before change, every time. Key insights include: Why alignment, not achievement, has been the biggest unlock for me, and ways to know when something is truly aligned.  How meditation became less about reaching some blissful end state and more about being still enough to hear what's actually true (with a nod to "self vs. parts" from Internal Family Systems). Why identity is built through repetition, and how treating life as an ongoing experiment turns results into feedback instead of judgment. How your standards, what you're willing to tolerate on your lowest day, quietly shape your health, relationships, business, and even the standards your team accepts. The balancing act of not postponing your life for a "someday" that may never come, and why success should expand your life rather than delay it. Tune in for an honest look at how a decade of small shifts, and one big birthday, changed the way I make decisions - plus a simple one-question challenge to carry into your week.   TRANSCRIPT: Garrett Salpeter (00:00.974) Hello, New Fit Nation. Welcome back to the Undercurrent Podcast. This is the first episode that I am recording in my 40s. I just turned 40, and that is actually the theme of today's episode because it certainly feels like a milestone. It has caused me to stop and reflect, and I'm going to share some of those reflections with you here today. In the recent years of Gone through periods of transition in business, in life, my kids have hit new milestones. This year, my daughter, older daughter started high school. I've also gone through some personal transitions with a separation and divorce. And all of this has caused me, especially in combination with with a significant birthday like this, caused me to look up from the day to day and ask some bigger questions and wonder if I'm living my life in the way that I wish to be living my life. I I look at and I think about. How I'm responsible for what has happened and is happening in my life. The one that immediately led to this episode, I also thought about and asked myself what ideas and principles have influenced me and actually changed the way that I live? And when I sat with that question, there's four principles that rose above the rest. So I was, as you can imagine, I was very excited to see that having four corresponds well with a 40th birthday. I'm glad the numbers work out. I also saw a common thread and realized that they're not necessarily four separate lessons, but that they build on each other. And there's almost a sequence that for me is like a manual for how to live. And that is what I want to share with you today. And before I get into that, a couple notes. One is that if you're familiar with me, with our work at Newfit, you know that for nearly 20 years now, for me it's it's all come back to one thing, which is the nervous system. And when we're Talking about the new fit method and the newbie, it all comes down to helping people retrain their nervous system. It's the operating system of the body. We want the whole system to be running better. And I, in reflection on these, I see how I've been doing the same type of thing with myself, trying to get my operating system to work better. And one of the biggest things that, as you know, the nervous system does it's to make us aware, aware of our internal and external. Garrett Salpeter (02:22.486) environments and so awareness is a thread that also ties together these four lessons that I'm going to share with you because each one of them is preceded by or begins with awareness with noticing noticing where I am where I'm not in alignment noticing what my habits are and how they're influencing my life noticing what I'm accepting or tolerating in my life and also noticing for me areas in which I've been postponing my life and waiting for something to happen so I could achieve something and then feel a certain way, things like that that that I'll get into here. So these are the four, I don't necessarily want to say lessons, but I'd say the four biggest shifts in how I've lived that really stand out to me as being very impactful. And my intention here and sharing them with you is that they'll also be worthwhile to you in some way. So on to the first shift. For me, it's all about alignment. This is number one, I'm choosing this first because choosing to share this first because I feel like alignment has been the biggest unlock for me in the sense that finding where I feel aligned or where I haven't felt aligned and how the decisions I made from that, I can see how things play out. And one of the first times where I really realized the the dark side of this of acting out of alignment was an issue with a a person I had worked with and I knew deep down inside that there wasn't alignment. It wasn't a good cultural fit. And I overrided or overrode that in part because of people pleasing tendencies, because it was difficult for me to have hard conversations and and let this person know what was problematic, what was not working, what needed to change, difficulty for me setting boundaries. And I also had this, this was very early on in my career, also had this sort of scarcity mindset as opposed to abundance mindset of like, gosh, can I ever find anyone else to work with me? You know, so there's this feeling of not being worthy, not being good enough, noticing these things certainly all influenced it. But in overriding that, I allowed to continue Garrett Salpeter (04:49.91) situations and dynamics that ended up costing far more in the long run, emotionally and monetarily, costing a lot more than the initial pain and cost or the immediate pain and cost would have been having a hard conversation up front or getting rid of a person, you know, who wasn't a good fit years ahead of when I finally found the courage and clarity to do it. And when I Look at at other times where I've made decisions that have come out of alignment. Like, for example, coming out of college, I had a physics undergraduate degree, and I was set to go to engineering graduate school at the University of Texas here in Austin, which is how I got down here. And it was a fabulous experience, and I'm so glad I did it. And I had options to take jobs. I had a job offer with a big consulting firm out of college. I had an opportunity to interview with a large, very well-known investment bank, which I may or may not have gotten a job, but I decided that I wanted to pursue this because it felt more aligned with who I was and what I was interested in doing. And that ended up being a great decision. And that engineering background ultimately gave me the the experience and the perspective to be able to lead the team that ultimately created the newbie device and do the things that I'm doing now. It was a big part of that journey. So I'm I'm so glad that I did it. Also early on in my career back when I was working in a clinic and I had this hundred and twenty square foot office in the chiropractic office, chiropractic clinic of the guy who was the U T Longhorns chiropractor, his private practice. I was using older versions of electrical stimulation. That's part of what led me to ultimately creating the newbie. And I you know, very young doing this, it wasn't sure no one was really sure where this was gonna go. Me l me most of all. but I I knew that I really want to do it. And there was a moment there when when Brianna and I, my former wife, got pregnant with our first daughter. And I was still in my early twenties and I was honestly scared. And there were some suggestions, like my father, for example, very reasonably and lovingly encouraged me to take my master's degree in engineering and go get a stable. Garrett Salpeter (07:13.814) job so I can provide for my family. And I understand and appreciate why he said that. And for me, I sat with that and realized that what I really wanted to do was to follow my heart and pursue this work, doing this clinic and this type of work that led to new fit and everything that that we're doing now. And I'm so glad I did it. And it came from alignment. So those are some examples of acting from alignment or overriding the internal knowing. and acting from a place of misalignment. So that to me, that really is the f foundational framework. And a big catalyst for me understanding this has been my experience in meditation over the last couple years. I probably first got interested in meditation From listening to and reading Sam Harris's work and conversations with my friend Wesley Cress, who's been on this podcast, and hearing his experiences and his his explanations of meditation really helped it resonate with me in a way that it got me interested in pursuing it. And I've done more formal work both with Shauna Shapiro and Corey Muscara. Shauna's been on the podcast as well. And I highly recommend both of their books and their online work and courses or in-person work and courses because For me, meditation has been the way to really clarify and crystallize this concept or operationalize this and bring it into my daily life, where a lot of times we think that meditation is about sitting still until we get to a place of bliss or happiness where nothing bothers us. But what it's really about, as I've learned from people like Corey and Shauna, what it's really about is Have being still enough so that we can be aware enough or mindfulness, right? Mindful enough to be aware of what's going on in our own experience. So that I can actually feel when something I'm contemplating doing is aligned or is not aligned. And the the framework that I really love here that I have started using w whenever I can is understanding when I'm making a decision. Garrett Salpeter (09:28.44) From a place of self or parts, using the language of internal family systems. Another great book recommendation is No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz, Dick Schwartz, that describes this concept of internal family systems. When I'm making decisions from my true self, which you have a true self, I have a true self. We all have this true self, this place within us that is our deepest truth, where we feel clear and calm and confident and courageous and creative. And connected. There's these different C words that describe this state. Even just hearing those, you may feel some energy resonating. And the the parts are the different different patterns within ourselves that I alluded to earlier in my own experience, where I learned to act a certain way, you know, in people pleasing, difficulty setting boundaries. I had also learned that I felt like I had to achieve something in order to be worthy of love. And so these are the patterns. These patterns are parts. Of me and different parts can be online at different times and they can interact in certain ways, and I can be acting from certain parts or acting from self, those different places. And so meditation for me allows me to have the opportunity to slow down enough to drop in deeply enough to get clearer on what is my true motivation for doing something and making a decision. Is it aligned? Is it coming from a place of self or is it coming from a place of parts? And so the the question I really love to ask myself, which I got from Corey Muscara and his teaching is am I doing this? Am I considering doing this thing because I already feel complete as a person and it's aligned with my true desires? Or am I feeling empty inside and I'm choosing this thing as an attempt to grasp at something that might fill me up? Because we all know that that you know, getting past a certain point at least getting more money or getting a nicer house or a nicer watch or a nicer car, you know, we feel like that's gonna that's gonna be the thing that finally gets us happy. And we know that it doesn't work that way. But there's these patterns that I even will notice sometimes that I fall into. And it's the kind of underlying awareness of this alignment dynamic that helps me navigate this. And there's a few examples where I've seen my ego that Garrett Salpeter (11:50.307) that that part many many examples where I've seen that you know I was I was just reflecting in preparation for this like one for example doing what I do for work I I admittedly take a lot of pride in helping people get get results in sports medicine and rehabilitation and things like that and and with myself I put off for many years getting a hip surgery that I likely should have gotten earlier, and that I finally did get, and that was helpful. I got bone shaved down, bone spurs shaved down off the neck of my femur where I had a femoral acetabular impingement FAI. And I you know, I'm so glad I did it. But I put it off for a long time. I also noticed really interesting, after my first meditation retreat. I, as you likely can tell, you know, I read a ton of books, and I think a lot of the the where I am and what I've learned and who I've become is positively influenced by the books that I've read. And so I think that's wonderful. And I also at the same time observed that a lot of that came from a place of feeling somewhat empty or incomplete and thinking that if I was just a little bit smarter, If I knew a little bit more, then I'd be better, then I'd finally be worthy of some sort of status or love or belonging, some sort of internal drive like that. And I learned that some of that consumption of you know books, podcasts, etc., was some of that grasping trying to fill me up inside. And it was so interesting that after my first meditation retreat with Corey Muscara for a couple months. I I noticed that desire was significantly diminished. Where I you know, instead of always wanting to listen to a podcast or a book on tape audio book when I'm in the car, book on tape, they're not on tape anymore, but when I noticed that I would actually just enjoy sort of doing a breathing exercise or sitting and listening to music, things like that. It was it was an interesting shift. And so now I still read. Garrett Salpeter (13:59.679) And I ask myself if I'm doing it from some sort of compulsive desire to fill a perceived void, or if I'm doing it from a place of true interest and alignment. And it often is from a place of interest and alignment, but I really like that framework, and I felt compelled to share that with you. So I think the big, the big question that I would ask, and that I encourage everyone listening to this to ask, is It's not necessarily about following your passion, but following your alignments. I would ask you if what you're contemplating doing is truly aligned. And one exercise that that I have done in the past is actually close my eyes and consider a path A, consider a path B, and see how they feel in my nervous system. Because that often will give us a clue. It'll, you know, sometimes it's as dramatic as one path. will feel very constricting energetically and one will feel expansive, like it's giving us energy. And I've that's one thing that I've found is that if I'm doing things that could be objectively hard, even if it even if it is hard, it feels somewhat easier to me because that sense of alignment gives me energy and and it doesn't feel as hard. It makes makes having a going through difficult times in business or having a a a workout program sustainable. So I would ask myself and encourage you to ask yourself, where in my life am I choosing from emptiness rather than from fullness? Whatever, whatever that means to you. So that's the first the first one is is understanding alignment. And we really have to understand our identity, our true selves, who we are, what is most important to us, what we value, what what is in alignment with us at that deepest level. And then This second shift principle that I want to wanna share is how our identity is built through repetitions, how we are a culmination of our habits. And I think a lot about my life as an ongoing experiment. I think about my inputs that I do in my in my training and lifestyle, in my business, how I show up with my family and what you know what I do with my kids. And I look at the results that that come out of that. Think about it as as sort of one big ongoing experiment. There's also this great quote. Garrett Salpeter (16:25.578) Of attributed to Aristotle of we are what we repeatedly do. He talks about excellence is not an act, but it's a habit, because what we repeatedly do adds up to who we are. And so I think also in this sort of scientific ongoing experiment, results are feedback. They're not necessarily judgment. We don't fail, we gather information. I think that's a good mindset shift. I also think a lot about this in terms of Fitness and and health, which I think is a great metaphor for anything, because in fitness there is this balance of of work and and recovery and rest and regeneration. There's this this balance of delayed gratification of having to work for a period of time to see a result that comes later, of having to have faith in the process of of getting help and support and coaching and learning and and finding the most effective way, not the shortcut, but the most effective and direct path to your goal. So there's all these different lessons that I think extrapolate beautifully to all areas of life. And I I think a lot about the the way that what how what I do every day, how to have a daily routine. That helps me get to the levels of health and fitness and physical and mental performance and vitality that I wish to achieve for myself. So one thing that I'm working on is I'm generally very stiff. I have a background of ice hockey. As Greg Cook says, I was was one of these examples of someone building fitness on top of dysfunction. I didn't have my core movement fundamentals down, and yet I built a fair amount of size and strength and speed on top of that. And so couple that with playing ice hockey and being locked in that kind of half squat position with hips and external rotation, very little foot and ankle movement because the feet are locked in a in boots, you know, ice hockey boots, the skates, and all that leads to significant mobility restrictions that now I want to work on. And so I think about how my habits influence that. And there's things that I do to work on hip internal rotation. Garrett Salpeter (18:38.638) And I do those six or seven days a week. I work it into my plan. And over time, it's been so cool to see my hip internal rotation go from generously zero degrees to you know 15, 20 degrees. It's still not, you know, anatomically ideal, but it's gotten a lot better. And it's cool to see the progress, even in something that's as slow to change as structural remodeling of joint capsules. And I think this is a great. prompt for us all to look at our habits. You know, if someone all also going back to fitness, there's a great a great quote that the body you have is the body you've earned. So how if we're if we're not as strong in a certain area or we're several pounds overweight or you know, there's there's likely some reason for it. And it's sometimes not the individual's fault. Sometimes there's there's toxic exposure or things like that that's out of their control that's causing more inflammation that That throws things off or some disease state. And oftentimes once once we know about it, then there's things that we can do about it. So there's certainly the I think a lot of value in understanding that our life now is the culmination of our habits and really examining and evaluating those and making sure that yes, they are aligned. So we have number one being alignment, number two being habits, repetition, how that how that builds upon and cements our identity. And then related is number three, which is the standards. There's this great saying that we get what we tolerate. There's there's our our standards really shape our lives. And so for me right now, I actually just keeping on the fitness metaphor, one of my standards is being able to to sprint all out. And I'm dealing with an Achilles injury that is very frustrating to me because I'm currently not able to meet my own standard. And because I take that standard seriously, it creates within me a sense of urgency where I'm rehabbing my Achilles very diligently. And it's difficult for me to be patient and understand that it can take, you know, several months for tendon tissue to remodel. And that's actually the subject of what will probably be the next podcast we release. a little bit of a foreshadowing there. Garrett Salpeter (21:02.536) on on Achilles tendon injuries and recovery from surgery and that whole topic. That's something that I'm diving into, trying to l really learn as much about as I can, both out of interest and a desire to share it and this personal desire to get back to my standard, where by the end of this summer, I intend to be able to get back to at least my weekly sprinting. So that's something that I I I think a lot about and that is is very important to me in terms of what we tolerate there that's both within ourselves and it's with you know the people that work within our businesses. It's fit within family members and friends and things like that. It's sort of this not just what we do on our best day or when we hit our stretch goal, but it's what do we tolerate on the the floor on our the lowest day. And it's important in in business. You know, we're not going to hit our stretch goal every every week, every month, every quarter, every year, but if there's a minimum number of calls that we're going to make or if there's a minimum number of some effort that we're going to make. If we hold ourselves to that, chances are we're going to better over time. Same thing in the gym. If you you're not going to set a PR every day, but if you're going to continue working and getting better and following the program, that often leads to a great place in the long term. for me, one one standard is my bedtime. I will occasionally occasionally stay out late for a special event or something like that. If I really feel like and this plays into number four where I I'm I'm focusing on yes, delayed gratification is important, but I don't want to delay everything for a someday that may never come. So every once in a while I'll do this. But generally speaking, I'm very diligent about my bedtime because I know that if I if I don't go to bed on time, I'm not gonna be as effective the next day. It's gonna throw off different aspects of my vitality and energy and and mental and physical ability. And so if I have something to do, one, having a being more strict with my bedtime, it forces me to prioritize getting shit done during the day, pardon my language. And it also, you know, it makes it clear for me if I have something that I need to work on, I I will choose to to go to bed earlier and then work get up earlier and work on it in the morning rather than stay up and and do it that night. Garrett Salpeter (23:25.196) because that will I know that the outcome is gonna be better if I go to bed now and get up and do it in the morning in in in many ways. So there's a lot a lot of ways that That affects me. And that's one that's important for me. You know, for some people, it's a minimum number of pages that they're going to read in a book per day or whatever it might be. People have a devotional or they just want to read different different things. Or meditation. For me, I think about the minimum number of minutes per day or days per year that I'm going to meditate. But the standards that we hold ourselves to apply everywhere in health and recovery, in relationships, in our self-talk, in our environment and our finances and our businesses and the standards that I as a leader accept from myself become the standards that our team accepts too. So especially for those of you who are leading teams and businesses or leading leading within your family and home life, this is this is very important as well. So I think it's best summed up in that the the quote that I've heard many places, I don't know where it originally came from, but we don't get what we want, we get what we tolerate. So I encourage you to ask what what you and I will ask myself, what have I quietly or not so quietly started to tolerate that I never used to or that is not in alignment with who I wish to be and how I wish to live my life and how I wish my business to be and how I wish my family to be, et cetera. And that segues into the fourth shift. And this is, you know, if we talk about alignment with our identity, we talk about reinforcing that identity and number two, through our habits. We talk about preserving that through the standards and what we're willing to accept. Number four is about rounding out that identity because I know that I was, especially in the early New Fit years, I was very much in this trap of optimizing everything for later. Garrett Salpeter (25:23.31) Putting off most of everything now, thinking that once this business grows, once I achieve a certain level of success, then I'll be able to enjoy my life, then I'll be happy, then this, then that. So it's this notion of journey over destination, process over outcome, or something like that. So I I just I want to also frame this up as a continuum, because on one hand, there's what I just described, there's putting off entirely putting off the future, d entirely delayed gratification, and not enjoying anything right now. And then on the other end, there's like total nihilism or or not caring about later and just wanting just enjoying today and not planning for the future at all. And so what I'm proposing where I've settled on this balance for myself and it can be personal for everybody, where I've settled on this is is somewhere in between. Where I do I do work hard now for where That will bring our business and and my family in the future. I work hard now for where my that will bring my health in the future, right? I want to be healthy and vital in my next decade, in the decade after that, and the decade after that, which God willing I will live to see. And I I so I wanna I want to strike that balancing act. But there's there's a great book that I highly recommend called The Happiness Advantage by sh I believe it's Sean Acor. and it it talks about how many of us fall into this same trap of thinking that if I if I achieve this now, this promotion or make this amount of money or have this or that, then I'll be happy. And it's so amazing that he shifts that on his head. He talks about the r how the research says quite the opposite. How if if we're happy now, we're actually more likely to achieve the thing that we wish to achieve. Because Generally speaking, happiness makes people healthier, more resistant to getting sick, more effective, more creative, gives them more energy, more health and vitality. And that, of course, makes it more likely that they will achieve the thing that they're setting out to achieve, assuming it is back to number one, assuming it is aligned with their true selves and deepest desires and and all that. And so for me, this has really Garrett Salpeter (27:50.669) manifested in a couple of ways. It's something that I I read about and I I I was aware of this notion and it just sort of gradually hit me that I was putting off so much of my life for later. And so I I finally just somehow, some way crossed over that threshold where I realized that I do need to make time to enjoy life now. along the way, even as I'm practicing delayed gratification in certain important areas. And so taking my kids several years ago on a trip to Spain over the summer for a week and a half was an amazing memory. Taking them this year to Disney World, you know, creating these memories while my kids are still young enough to to make these memories, there's a great concept of memory dividends. I forget the I think I first heard about this from the guy who wrote Die with Zero. I've gosh, I can see his face. I forget his name now. He's here in Austin. Cool, really cool guy. And he talks about this notion of Die with Zero being that if we accumulate all this money, we should actually enjoy it in this life. You should give it away because that will create joy. We should also invest in experiences because it creates these memory dividends. You know, having the memories from these different trips with my kids is worth is worth so much more. I'm getting a return on that investment, more than if it was sitting an account earning interest somewhere. Also for me, I joined EO and and a forum. EO is an entrepreneurs organization, similar to YPO if you're familiar that. And it's all all founders, all business owners. And so I'm in this forum with anywhere from seven to nine other guys. And we do these adventure trips every year. And that was something that I sort of I realized along the way that I just wasn't I was putting off for later the idea of having you know friendships and social relationships. And I finally realized, you know what, I I would like to have more of that in my life now. I would like to prioritize and make some time for that. And we've done these amazing adventure trips. We've gone hiking twenty miles through the narrows in Zion National Park and kayaking and fishing in the San Juan Islands between Seattle and Vancouver. And just this year, camping and fishing and Garrett Salpeter (30:05.624) Hiking in Colorado along the Gunnison River. You know, my first time I was kind of a city kid. these trips allowed me to go camping for the first time in my life, which was amazing. And so I I encourage you to consider what this right balance is for you. Again, it's very individual. Consider where this where this where you fall along that spectrum. And if if it falls into wanting to play more golf now rather than waiting until you're retired, give me a call and play a r play around of golf. So again, it's not not about like being anti discipline or being reckless. There are areas where we still have to sacrifice. It is it is a balancing act. And I think there's there's this sense that success should expand our lives, not necessarily postpone it. So I will Ask you, what are you postponing in your life that you actually could start living now? And as we wrap this up here, I will end where I started with talking about turning 40. And when I was younger, I was so focused on on life and on focusing my life on becoming successful, whatever that meant at the time. And I really believe that if I just worked hard enough, sacrificed enough, delayed enough that Everything else, the happiness, relationships with life, would it would all sort itself out later. Now I I I'm grateful that that younger version of me put so much time and effort into learning and and beginning, building the early stages of new fit and all that. And now I I am grateful for the added perspective and experience too, where I realize that it's not it's not just about becoming more. accomplished and achieving more, it's also about alignment. And when I think about alignment, that actually helps produce more success than than some of the other tactics and strategies and and mindsets too. So it's interesting how these four can also interact as well. And again, this was Garrett Salpeter (32:28.576) not necessarily a a dramatic overhaul, but it came from noticing from awareness. And so I I hope that you can have some sort of practice, and perhaps you already do, that has been as meaningful to me as this meditation practice in in becoming aware of these different dynamics in my own life. And in closing, I'd like to leave you with one small challenge. Pick one of these four that hit you the hardest, whether it be focusing on alignment, your habits, your standards, and what you tolerate, and or balancing. work now sacrificing now for something later figure out which of those four hit you the hardest and this week ask yourself the question where are you choosing from act from empty instead of full? What are your daily inputs building you into? What have you started to tolerate that you no longer intend to tolerate? Or finally, what are you putting off? that you feel like deep inside you really would be better served by doing now. So I I really appreciate you spending this time with me. If this one resonated, I'd love to hear your comments on the social media or direct message, anything like that. And I look forward to seeing you on the next episode of the Undercurrent podcast.  

This episode didn't go as planned, and I'm grateful it didn't. I invited Liz Brenner on the podcast to talk about the Family Process article on the family systems roots of IFS she co-authored with Dick Schwartz and Carol Becker in 2023. Instead, we found ourselves talking about grief. A month before we recorded, my dad died unexpectedly. Liz lost her partner, Dan, in 2018, just six weeks after his cancer diagnosis. We both came into the conversation still processing our losses, and grief was the conversation we needed to have.  Takeaways Grief can break you, and it can also heal you. Both can be true at once A felt connection to someone who has died can be a real and ongoing relationship When the spiritual dimension of Self gets left out, the Self-to-part relationship can feel smaller than it actually is Constraint release, an idea from family systems therapy, asks what pattern isn't working rather than what's broken Meaning-making is an often-overlooked stage of grief A part that's afraid of losing connection to someone you love can be asked to step back (Liz learned that during a session with Dick Schwartz) Family systems theory shaped IFS more than we realize We'll have Liz back on to finish the conversation about the family systems article.  About Liz Brenner Liz Brenner, LICSW, is the director of Therapy Training Boston, the continuing legacy of the Family Institute of Cambridge. She is the primary instructor of their Intensive Certification Program in Couples and Family Therapy and co-author, with Richard Schwartz and Carol Becker, of the 2023 Family Process article on the development of the IFS model (email Liz for access to the article). Follow Therapy Training Boston on Facebook or Instagram. Links: Therapy Training Boston Courses and Workshops Episode Sponsor This episode is sponsored by Souliology. Souliology offers retreats and immersive learning experiences for IFS professionals, many led by IFS Senior Lead Trainers and eligible for continuing education credits. Their programs support deep professional and personal growth, offering space to step away from the demands of daily life so you can return to your practice more present and resourced for the clients you serve. Souliology: Where growth meets depth. Learn more at souliology.com About The One Inside I started this podcast to help spread IFS out into the world and make the model more accessible to everyone. Seven years later, that's still at the heart of all we do.  Join The One Inside Substack community for bonus conversations, extended interviews, meditations, and more. Find Self-Led merch at The One Inside store. Listen to episodes and watch clips on YouTube. Follow me on Instagram @ifstammy or on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger. I co-create The One Inside with Jeff Schrum, a Level 2 IFS practitioner and coach. Resources New to IFS? My book, The One Inside: Thirty Days to Your Authentic Self, is a great place to start. Want a free meditation? Sign up for my email list and get "Get to Know a Should Part" right away. Sponsorship Want to sponsor an episode of The One Inside? Email Tammy. 

If ever felt overwhelmed, stuck, or disconnected and wondered what's actually going on in your body—this episode is for you. Physiotherapist Jessica Maguire on what the nervous system actually is, what the vagus nerve does, and why things like heart rate variability matter more than we might realize. Get her book: The Nervous System Reset: Heal Trauma, Resolve Chronic Pain, and Regulate Your Emotions with the Power of the Vagus Nerve If you are new to this podcast and don't know where to start, download my free trauma kit, a curated playlist to help you understand trauma how trauma impacts your body, brain, nervous system, and relationships — and what supports real healing It includes 10 handpicked conversations with experts like Dr. Gabor Maté, Deb Dana, Dr. Paul Conti, and Dick Schwartz. Download it and start listening today at authenticparenting.com/traumakit  OTHER EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE How to Recover from Burnout by Regulating Your Emotions and Nervous System  Befriending Your Nervous System with Deb Dana How to Regulate Your Nervous System How Trauma Gets " Stuck" in Your Nervous System with Irene Lyon Mind-Body Tools to Develop Stress Resilience LINKS AND RESOURCES Support the podcast by making a donation (suggested amount $15) 732-763-2576 call to leave a voicemail.  info@authenticparenting.com Send audio messages using Speakpipe. Join the Authentic Parenting Community on Facebook. Work w/Anna. Listeners get 10% off her services.  Podcast Production by Aminur  

In this episode, Dick Schwartz and Toni Herbine -Blank join Eli to discuss the future of Internal Family Systems therapy. This conversation will explore how the model continues to evolve—shaping trauma treatment, couples work, and the broader psychotherapy landscape.

In this episode of The All-Star Panel Series, our host Eli is joined by Dr. Dick Schwartz and Toni Herbine-Blank to explore the role of compassion, curiosity, and self-leadership in helping individuals and couples move beyond protective patterns toward deeper connection.Listen wherever you get your podcasts or at aamft.org/podcast#AAMFT #Clinician #Mentalhealth #Counseling #MFT

On today's episode I welcome Nitsan Joy Gordon, a dance movement therapist, IFS practitioner, and peacebuilder who lives in Israel. Nitsan shares about growing up in Israel, living near the border, and what it's like to live in a place where war and trauma have been part of daily life for generations. She also tells the story of how Internal Family Systems changed her own life. A powerful experience at Esalen with Dick Schwartz inspired her to use IFS in her work back home. Nitsan leads Together Beyond Words, an organization bringing Israelis and Palestinians together to transform pain through deep listening and connection. Her work is guided by the belief that pain that is not transformed is transmitted. After the attacks of October 7 and the immense grief and trauma that followed, Nitsan realized the need for healing had grown beyond what her organization had been doing. Today nearly 80 volunteers are offering ongoing support, and dozens of groups have been created where Israelis and Palestinians can process trauma, grief, and fear together. As you listen, I invite you to notice your own parts. What comes up for you as you hear these stories? What do you feel in your body? For me, this conversation was a reminder of the power of curiosity, one-on-one connection, and the courage it takes to stay present and open in our divided world. In This Episode We Talk About: • What it's like living in Israel today. • Nitsan's organization Together Beyond Words, which brings Israelis and Palestinians together to transform pain through shared healing. • The idea that "pain that is not transformed is transmitted." • A powerful IFS session she had with Dick Schwartz. • How the events of October 7 changed her work. • Why people need separate spaces to grieve before they can reunite. • When she realized the level of trauma requires an "army of healers." • How the Healing for Peace initiative grew from a handful of volunteers to nearly 80. • Why facilitators working in conflict zones are learning IFS tools like unblending and working with polarizations. About Nitsan Joy Gordon Nitsan Joy Gordon is a Dance/Movement Therapist, IFS therapist, and peacebuilder who has been working in Israel/Palestine for over three decades. Her work lives at the meeting point of movement, deep listening, and compassionate presence, creating spaces where pain shaped by conflict can be felt, witnessed, and transformed. She is the author of Together Beyond Words: Women on a Quest for Peace in the Middle East and the initiator of Army of Healers, an offering of safe spaces to feel and heal across deep divides. Learn more at: Together Beyond Words. About The One Inside I started this podcast to help spread IFS out into the world and make the model more accessible to everyone. Seven years later, that's still at the heart of all we do.  Join The One Inside Substack community for bonus conversations, extended interviews, meditations, and more. Find Self-Led merch at The One Inside store. Listen to episodes and watch clips on YouTube. Follow me on Instagram @ifstammy or on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger. I co-create The One Inside with Jeff Schrum, a Level 2 IFS practitioner and coach. Resources New to IFS? My book, The One Inside: Thirty Days to Your Authentic Self, is a great place to start. Want a free meditation? Sign up for my email list and get "Get to Know a Should Part" right away. Sponsorship Want to sponsor an episode of The One Inside? Email Tammy. 

Internal family systems Founder Richard Schwartz does an IFS therapy session with Emma McAdam, we work with her inner critic and Self in IFS Learn the skills to Regulate your Emotions, join the membership: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/membership In this conversation, Emma McAdam interviews Dick Schwartz, the creator of Internal Family Systems (IFS), a therapeutic approach that emphasizes understanding the mind as composed of multiple parts. Schwartz explains how these parts can be influenced by trauma and how IFS helps individuals connect with their true Self to facilitate healing. The discussion covers the roles of different parts, the impact of trauma, and practical applications of IFS in daily life. Schwartz also shares insights on how individuals can access their Self without a therapist and the importance of addressing legacy burdens that may affect one's mental health. The conversation concludes with a focus on the goals of IFS therapy and the transformative potential of this approach. Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell FREE Mental Health Resources: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/free-resources Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

Today's episode is a little different, in a really wonderful way. I sit down with Dick Schwartz and Jeanne Catanzaro, President and Vice President of the IFS Institute, and partners in both leadership and life. This isn't a traditional interview; it's more like listening in on friends and colleagues talking about the things they care about, the serious, the personal, and the very human. I've been feeling curious about what's happening inside IFS leadership right now. The model keeps growing, reaching more people, and carrying more responsibility with it. I wanted to hear directly from Dick and Jeanne about what that growth and momentum have been like for them, not just in terms of roles and plans, but personally and as partners. In this candid conversation, we explore questions many of you have been holding. What happens as the Institute grows? Is Dick going to retire? What does transition even look like? We talk about all of that, but in a funny, sometimes ridiculous, and very real way. What I hope you hear is the care, thoughtfulness, and humanity behind the scenes of both the IFS Institute and the IFS model. We talk about: Jeanne stepping into leadership and visibility over time What it means to steward a model that's bigger than any one person Succession, responsibility, and caring for the future of IFS Collaboration and "sharing the stage" Knowing when to take a break from "parts talk" Bringing IFS beyond the therapy room and into the wider world Holding research, spirituality, and accessibility at the same time Finding balance between work, partnership, family, and rest Favorite shows, hobbies, and Firefighter behaviors There's a lot of warmth here, some laughter, a little potty talk, and plenty of insight. Links: IFS Institute Jeanne Catanzaro Dick Schwartz Word of the Year on Substack Episode Sponsor This episode is sponsored by the Unblend.me web app. You know those moments between sessions when something comes up and you need a gentle nudge to pause, slow down and go inside? The Unblend app helps you do just that. It's IFS informed, HIPAA compliant, and guides you through checking in with your parts to calm your nervous system. Learn more and try it for free at Unblend.me About The One Inside I started this podcast to help spread IFS out into the world and make the model more accessible to everyone. Seven years later, that's still at the heart of all we do.  Join The One Inside Substack community for bonus conversations, extended interviews, meditations, and more. Find Self-Led merch at The One Inside store. Listen to episodes and watch clips on YouTube. Follow me on Instagram @ifstammy or on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger. I co-create The One Inside with Jeff Schrum, a Level 2 IFS practitioner and coach. Resources New to IFS? My book, The One Inside: Thirty Days to Your Authentic Self, is a great place to start. Want a free meditation? Sign up for my email list and get "Get to Know a Should Part" right away. Sponsorship Want to sponsor an episode of The One Inside? Email Tammy. 

In this episode, I chat with Caitlan Siegenthaler, a Level 2 IFS licensed therapist and podcast host who specializes in IFS and Human Design. What I love about Caitlan's work is how she treats both frameworks as paths home to Self. She shares how Human Design entered her life and how she integrates it with IFS to help clients befriend their parts. She recently led a Human Design reading session with Dick Schwartz, founder of IFS.  In this conversation, we explore: How IFS and Human Design work together to help us return to our authentic Self How understanding your Human Design chart can help you connect with your internal system in a whole new way The five Human Design energy types and what they can teach us about our systems How Human Design mirrors IFS as a spiral — a way of returning, again and again, to Self Why curiosity matters more than mastery when exploring new systems We also recorded an extended interview with Caitlan for our paid Substack community about supervision and consultation — why it matters, how to find it, and how it helps therapists bring more of themselves into the room.  You can connecct with Caitlan at caitlansiegenthaler.com, listen to her Return podcast, and check out her free five-episode series on navigating indecision using Human Design and IFS. Episode Sponsor This episode is sponsored by Pisgah Coaching Institute: Founded by IFS-trained master coach Brian Jaudon, a pioneer in the integration of IFS and coaching for more than two decades. Brian and his faculty teach a blended methodology for clarifying and living into a vision of any kind. pisgahcoaching.com About The One Inside I started this podcast to help spread IFS out into the world and make the model more accessible to everyone. Seven years later, that's still at the heart of all we do.  Join The One Inside Substack community for bonus conversations, live events, meditations, and extended interviews. Find merch at The One Inside store. Listen to episodes and watch clips on YouTube. Follow me on Instagram @ifstammy or on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger. I co-create The One Inside with my colleague and friend, Jeff Schrum, a Level 2 IFS practitioner and creative collaborator. Resources New to IFS? My book, The One Inside: Thirty Days to Your Authentic Self, is a great place to start. Want a free meditation? Sign up for my email list and get “Get to Know a Should Part” right away. Sponsorship Want to sponsor an episode of The One Inside? Email Tammy. 

In today's episode, I sit down with the actual founder of Internal Family Systems, Dr. Dick Schwartz. IFS isn't just another therapeutic tool or model – it's a whole new lens through which to see ourselves. One that says we're not broken, or bad, or beyond help – but actually, beautifully complex. That all these parts of us – the inner critic, the perfectionist, the compulsive exerciser, the overachiever, even the saboteur – are just trying, in their own often misguided ways, to protect us.And as you'll hear, I didn't just interview Dick... I sort of unintentionally did a live therapy session. We went there – deep into my own OCD patterns, back to my four-year-old self, and through to a place I hadn't allowed myself to revisit in decades.There are uncomfortable moments. There are some very big emotions. But please stick with it – because what unfolds is something quietly powerful. Healing doesn't always come with fireworks. Sometimes it's the quiet relief of simply being seen.If you've ever felt like your behaviours are betraying you – or like you've lost your sense of self beneath the weight of coping mechanisms – I think you'll find something in this. Maybe even a softening. I certainly did.Try Bettervits for yourself, head on over to bettervits.co.uk and get 15% off your 1st order with my code PANDORA15.Find Dick:Website: https://ifs-institute.com/about-us/richard-c-schwartz-phdStay Connected with Hurt to Healing:Instagram: instagram.com/hurttohealingpodTikTok: tiktok.com/@hurttohealingpodLinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/hurt-to-healingSubstack: substack.com/@hurttohealingWebsite: hurttohealing.co.uk Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

#237: In this follow-up conversation, Dick Schwartz, founder of Internal Family Systems therapy, speaks with Dave about how IFS applies far beyond the therapy room. Together, they explore the “middle way” in activism - finding courage and clarity without being consumed by rage or fear. From conflicts in the Middle East to economic inequality and corporate power, Schwartz explains how healing our inner parts can ripple outward to transform politics, community, and the planet.https://realorganicproject.org/dick-schwartz-ifs-middle-way-237The Real Organic Podcast is hosted by Dave Chapman and Linley Dixon, engineered by Brandon StCyr, and edited and produced by Jenny Prince.The Real Organic Project is a farmer-led movement working towards certifying 1,000 farms across the United States this year. Our add-on food label distinguishes soil-grown fruits and vegetables from hydroponically-raised produce, and pasture-raised meat, milk, and eggs from products harvested from animals in horrific confinement (CAFOs - confined animal feeding operations).To find a Real Organic farm near you, please visit:https://www.realorganicproject.org/directoryWe believe that the organic standards, with their focus on soil health, biodiversity, and animal welfare were written as they should be, but that the current lack of enforcement of those standards is jeopardizing the ability for small farms who adhere to the law to stay in business. The lack of enforcement is also jeopardizing the overall health of the customers who support the organic movement; customers who are not getting what they pay for at market but still paying a premium price. And the lack of enforcement is jeopardizing the very cycles (water, air, nutrients) that Earth relies upon to provide us all with a place to live, by pushing extractive, chemical agriculture to the forefront.If you like what you hear and are feeling inspired, we would love for you to join our movement by becoming one of our 1,000  Real Friends:https://www.realorganicproject.org/real-organic-friends/To read our weekly newsletter (which might just be the most forwarded newsletter on the internet!) and get firsthand news about what's happening with organic food, farming and policy, please subscribe here:https://www.realorganicproject.org/email/

Today Luis chats with Dick Schwartz, developer of Internal Family Systems (I.F.S.). Dick started his career as a family therapist. Upon asking the question, "why isn't family therapy working?" he began to develop what has become I.F.S. He learned from being in the field, and from making mistakes, how to tend to the parts of us that are usually frozen in the past. Dick found that when we talk to the inner critic with compassion, the deep healing work unfolds.Luis asks if Dick's work sprang from a spiritual or clinical place, and how he feels about it now. They discuss their views of "self sabotage", and they delve into the intersection of psychedelics and I.F.S. The cherry on top of this black bean brownie is the journey Dick guides Luis on to tend to his own inner critic. If you follow alongside Luis on your own journey, please drop us a comment below and let us know what, or who, you find. You can read more about Dick Schwartz, and the IRF Institute, here: https://ifs-institute.com/about-us/richard-c-schwartz-phdYou can register for the FREE Food Therapy session here: https://www.holisticlifenavigation.com/events/food-therapy-supporting-adhd-with-nutrition Join Luis for a three-day in-person workshop connecting whole foods nutrition, somatic wisdom, and stress recovery at Kripalu. You can read more about, and register, here. Sign up for our 6-month Embodied Relationships group, beginning in October: https://www.holisticlifenavigation.com/relationship-groupUse the discount code QJSVR73G to save 10% if you register before August 31st.----You can learn more on the website: https://www.holisticlifenavigation.com/ Learn more about the self-led course here: https://www.holisticlifenavigation.com/self-led-new Join the waitlist to pre-order Luis' book here: https://www.holisticlifenavigation.com/the-book You can follow Luis on Instagram @holistic.life.navigationQuestions? You can email us at info@holisticlifenavigation.com

In today's episode, I chat with David Hoffman, a lawyer, mediator, and a founding member of Boston Law Collaborative. David was named "Lawyer of the Year" in Boston, and he even teaches at Harvard! I love how he's using IFS to help people with conflict. We talk about how IFS has shifted his focus from getting people to settle, to helping them make Self-led choices. We discuss: How does a lawyer and mediator bring the language of parts into a legal setting? What is the "reasonable reason" behind "unreasonable behavior" in conflict? How can we make decisions from a place of "Self-led" wisdom rather than from our "gladiator parts?" How can simply naming a part change the dynamic of a conversation? David shares an example of how saying "there's a greedy part" shifted a negotiation for the better. How does the IFS model help us understand ambivalence and the "negotiation within" that happens before we even enter a conflict? "There's something we can do here to enable people to manage their conflicts more successfully and to be less fearful and less hateful in the world." —David Hoffman I absolutely loved getting to know David and I'm so glad he's bringing the IFS model to a new audience. He's also offering a new six-week IFS training for lawyers and mediators this fall through the IFS Institute with guest appearances by Dick Schwartz, Mke Elkin, and Fatimah Finney. Episode Sponsor: This episode is sponsored by the Internal Family Systems institute. Join renowned attorney and mediator David Hoffman for a six-week live workshop starting this October. Explore how the IFS model can support lawyers, mediators, and conflict professionals to lead with more clarity, compassion, and Self — with special guest appearances by Dick Schwartz, Mike Elkin, and Fatimah Finney, this program offers practical tools for navigating client engagement, negotiation, and ethical decision-making. Space is limited and live attendance is required. Learn more and register now at ifs-institute.com. About David Hoffman David Hoffman, a mediator, arbitrator, and founding member of Boston Law Collaborative, has been a leading voice in bringing the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model to the legal community since 2010. He holds Level One IFS training and has co-presented with IFS founder Dr. Richard Schwartz. A plenary speaker at the 2022 IFSI Conference, his work has been featured in the Harvard Negotiation Law Review, where he authored a seminal article on "Mediation, Multiple Minds, and Managing the Negotiation Within." In addition to his private practice, he serves as the John H. Watson, Jr. Lecturer on Law at Harvard Law School, where he integrates the IFS model into his courses. About The One Inside: Check out The One Inside Substack community to access all episodes, exclusive extended interviews, replays of live events, meditations, and more.  Find The One Inside Self-Led merch at The One Inside store Watch video clips from select episodes on  The One Inside on YouTube Follow Tammy on Instagram @ifstammy and on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger. Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside. He's a writer and IFS Level 2 practitioner who helps therapists create with clarity and confidence. Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start.  Sign up for Tammy's email list and get a free "Get to know a Should part of you" meditation on her website Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast.  To learn more about sponsorship opportunties on The One Inside Podcast, email Tammy  

We're bringing you some of our favorite gems from the archives, as chosen by our staff. This week, we're hearing from therapist Dick Schwartz, as chosen by Mani Chandy from our Substack team. Schwartz is the founder of Internal Family Systems, a way of looking at all of the various “parts” that we have inside ourselves, and how they can work together or make things harder for us.  Full Episodes: How to Handle Your Demons | Richard SchwartzHow (and Why) To Hug Your Inner Dragons | Richard Schwartz Get ready for another Meditation Party at Omega Institute! This in-person workshop brings together Dan with his friends and meditation teachers, Sebene Selassie, Jeff Warren, and for the first time, Ofosu Jones-Quartey. The event runs October 24th-26th. Sign up and learn more here! Join Dan's online community here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Channel To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris

Join Andrew Holecek for a conversation with Dr. Richard "Dick" Schwartz, the pioneering creator of Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, in this Edge of Mind podcast episode. This deep dive explores the understanding that we all naturally contain multiple "parts" within ourselves - and that's not only normal, it's valuable. Dr. Schwartz reveals how IFS transforms our relationship with our inner landscape, showing that even our most challenging parts can become allies when approached with curiosity and compassion. The conversation illuminates the profound connection between IFS and non-dual wisdom traditions, particularly Tibetan Buddhism, demonstrating how ancient spiritual insights and modern therapeutic breakthroughs can mutually enhance each other. Discover how the essence of confidence, openness, and compassion - emerges naturally when our parts feel safe to relax. Learn about the practical applications of IFS in addressing everything from personal trauma to collective healing, including Dr. Schwartz's work with legacy burdens that affect entire cultures. This episode challenges common misconceptions about meditation and spirituality, exploring how some practitioners use spiritual practices to avoid rather than address their inner work. Andrew and Dick discuss the integration of embodied awareness, dream work, and somatic approaches within the IFS framework. Whether you're a seasoned meditator, therapist, or simply curious about the nature of consciousness and healing, this conversation offers insights into the multiplicity of mind and the path to authentic self-compassion.

Internal Family Systems, for which Dr. Dick Schwartz is the legendary founder, is undoubtedly the most powerful form of therapy I have ever encountered. Instead of just talking about this type of therapy, you'll get to witness it in action: demonstrating the efficacy and intricacy of the process in real time. Coming on the heels of the hardest month of my life, this session was nothing short of life changing. We also got to discuss a recent evolution of his model which now includes the recognition of the presence of dark entities, what Schwartz calls “unattached burdens” which are not “parts” of the self, but something quite other entirely.  For anyone who is interested in therapy, to heal past wounds, or simply to access your fullest potential of SELF, this is an extremely important podcast. | Dr. Richard Schwartz |Website: https://ifs-institute.com/Instagram @internalfamilysystems/  YouTube @InternalFamilySystems  X @IFS_Model  Facebook @InternalFamilySystemsThis episode is sponsored by►Metal Mark Golden Collectable Art |  https://mtlmrk.com/►Hone Health | https://shorturl.at/JvhAJ►Korrect Fuel | ⁠https://korrectlife.com/⁠| Aubrey Marcus |Website | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://bit.ly/2GesYqi ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://bit.ly/2BlfCEO ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://bit.ly/2F4nBZk ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠X |  ⁠⁠⁠http://bit.ly/2BlGBAdAd⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe to the Aubrey Marcus newsletter:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.aubreymarcus.com/pages/email⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠To partner with the Aubrey Marcus Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe to the Aubrey Marcus podcast:iTunes | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://apple.co/2lMZRCn ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify |⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://spoti.fi/2EaELZO ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Stitcher | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://bit.ly/2G8ccJt ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠IHeartRadio | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://ihr.fm/3CiV4x3 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Is there just one “you”? This evocative question lies at at the heart of Dr. Richard Schwartz's groundbreaking work as both a therapist, and a researcher.Over 40 years he's pushed back against conventionChallenging what so many of us have been taught to believe - That we have a single identity.And to feel fear or shame when we can't control the inner voices that don't match the ideal of who we think we should be. Rather than accept this well adopted theory of the “mono-mind.”Dr. Schwartz developed the Internal Family Systems model (IFS) in response to clients' descriptions of various parts within themselves, which has been transforming psychology for decades and is outlined in his profound bestselling book, No Bad PartsHe says:“All of us are born with many sub-minds - or parts,” “These parts are not imaginary or symbolic. They are individuals who exist as an internal family within us - and the key to health and happiness is to honor, understand, and love every part.”Today, we will take an experiential dive into IFS - As Dick shares more of his story, how he came to this approach, the role of curiosity and love in healing,and ultimately will offer a glimpse of what's possible when we engage in parts work as he generously agreed to conduct an IFS therapy session with me in real time. What unfolded turned out to be extraordinary experience. One that left me changed.The session itself increased my belief in Dick's hopeful and inspiring sentiment:“When we learn to love all our parts, we can learn to love all people - and that will contribute to healing the world.”For more on Dick Schwartz, his books, IFS, and a directory of IFS trained therapists please visit ifs-institute.comEnjoying the show? Please rate it wherever you listen to your podcasts!Did you find this conversation inspiring? Here are other conversations we think you'll love:On Honoring the Soul (pt. 1) | Parker J. PalmerOn Heartbreak, Healing, and Transformation | Sara Avant StoverThanks for listening!Support the show

Our world is more magical than we know - more than we can know.  Increasing numbers of us are realising that the 'citadel theory of mind' where we see ourselves as isolated units within the boundaries of our own skulls is not how the world works.  But if it isn't, then how do we make sense of the worlds beyond consensus reality? How do we engage with the web of life and all that's around it in ways that are respect, reciprocal and generative? Robert (Bob) Falconer is a long time IFS practitioner and trainer.  He is the author or co-author of many books, including Many Minds, One Self which he co-wrote with Dick Schwartz, who is credited with founding Internal Family Systems Therapy. For me, this is the form of therapy that leans closest into spiritual work, particularly into shamanic work, and Bob's book, The Others Within Us: Internal Family Systems, Porous Mind and Spirit Possession is a ground-breaking work that blows open the fallacies of the citadel mind model and opens us to a wide spectrum of other realities in other cultures, all of which acknowledge the existence of non-human, non-embodied energies that have at least a degree of agency and that can interact with human beings in ways that are either to our benefit or our detriment. Very few are neutral. So as we hurtle towards the edge of a cliff, pushed by our culture's endemic inability to engage with our own traumas, talking to Bob seemed pretty much essential.  We talk quite a lot about IFS, which is Internal Family Systems therapy and at the start, we open up more of what that's about, though I do encourage you to read the book Bob co-wrote with Dick Schwartz.  We also - and this is a trigger warning - explore some of Bob's own life history of harrowing sexual and physical abuse so if this is likely to trigger parts of you, then please only listen when you're feeling grounded and well resourced.  Beyond that, we range far, wide and deep across the boundaries where science meets spirituality and philosophy meets psychotherapy, all of which is squarely in the area that I think needs most work, for all of us.  Bob's website: https://robertfalconer.us/Bob on YouTube https://robertfalconer.us/youtube-channel/Bob's Books: Out now: The Others Within Us: Internal Family Systems, Porous Mind, and Spirit PossessionOUT ON 22nd MAY 2025 - Opening the Inner World: Spiritual Healing, Internal Family Systems and Emanuel Swedenborg Co-written with Dick Schwartz: Many Minds, One Self by Richard Schwartz and Robert Falconer Other books Thomas Zinser Soul-Centered Healing Lloyd DeMause The History of Childhood  David Gordon White - Daemons are ForeverDreaming Awake Contemporary Shamanic Training: https://dreamingawake.co.uk Accidental Gods Membership https://accidentalgods.life/join-us/Accidental Gods Gatherings https://accidentalgods.life/gatherings-2025/

In this episode of The Psychedelic Podcast, Paul F. Austin welcomes Dr. Richard Schwartz, creator of the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model of psychotherapy. Dick shares how he discovered that psychedelics naturally facilitate access to what IFS calls "Self energy" - the compassionate core within everyone that can heal wounded parts. He explains how medicines like ketamine and MDMA help relax protective parts of our psyche, revealing both Self energy and exiled parts that need healing. Dick reveals his personal journey with psychedelics, including his work with ketamine-assisted IFS therapy, and discusses the relationship between psychedelic experiences and spiritual guides. He emphasizes how reframing "bad trips" as opportunities for exiled parts to be witnessed can transform challenging experiences into profound healing moments. Dick Schwartz began his career as a family therapist and academic at the University of Illinois at Chicago. There he discovered that family therapy alone did not achieve full symptom relief. His patients became his teachers as they described their inner "parts," which formed networks resembling the families he had been working with. He found that when patients separated from these parts, they shifted into a state of curiosity, calm, confidence, and compassion—what he called the Self. From these explorations, the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model was born in the early 1980s. Now evidence-based, IFS has become widely used, particularly for trauma work, offering non-pathologizing techniques for individuals, couples, families, corporations, and classrooms. Dick lives with his wife Jeanne near Chicago. Highlights:  The natural synergy between psychedelics and IFS therapy How psychedelics temporarily quiet protective "manager" parts Understanding how there are “no bad parts” of the psyche The difference between Self and parts in IFS Reconceptualizing "bad trips" as healing opportunities IFS and shadow work How psychedelics accelerate access to exiled parts Moving IFS beyond therapy into leadership and systemic change Legacy burdens: healing inherited trauma collectively Episode Sponsors:  Golden Rule Mushrooms - Get a lifetime discount of 10% with code THIRDWAVE at checkout

I'm so thrilled to welcome Dick Schwartz, the founder of Internal Family Systems (IFS), back to the podcast, as well as my friend Ocean, who brings her voice and lived experience to this important conversation. Today, we explore the intersection between IFS and the plural community--those living with DID (Dissociative Identity Disorder) and OSDD (Other Specified Dissociative Disorders). What's the difference between DI parts and the IFS parts many of us talk about? How can we bridge misunderstandings between the IFS community and those living with more distinct parts?  This conversation was deeply moving and healing. I'm so grateful to both Dick and Ocean for their honesty, wisdom, and compassion. In this episode, we explore: The differences and overlap between DI parts and IFS parts Why the plural community has sometimes felt unseen and misunderstood by IFS The harm in labeling parts as managers, firefightes and exiles The complicated relationship many survivors have with Self Energy Strategies for working with systems shaped by deep trauma Why trust, patience, and honoring every part is a prerequisite to healing   Be sure to watch the extended video interview with Dick and Ocean over on our Substack.    Favorite Quotes: “IFS was never meant to pathologize people. It was meant to honor the fact that all of us are multiple, and that those parts aren't what they seem.” — Dick Schwartz "There's a huge difference between saying, 'Your parts are managers, firefighters, and exiles,' and saying, 'I'm noticing some of your parts seem to be taking on these roles to protect you.'" — Ocean    About Tiffany "Ocean" Morgan Tiffany Morgan (Ocean) is a Certified IFS therapist, consultant, and educator with lived experience of OSDD (Otherwise Specified Dissociative Disorder). She specializes in eating disorders, complex PTSD, and dissociative disorders, and brings over 30 years of experience to her work supporting deep healing and system-wide trust. She is passionate about destigmatizing DID, neurodivergence, and the multiplicity of mind. She creates compassionate, inclusive spaces where all parts are welcome and seen. She also shares resources and reflections through her platform, tidesoftransformation.com, and co-sponsors the podcast A Couple of Multiples. About Richard "Dick" Schwartz Dr. Richard Schwartz is the founder of the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model of therapy., He is the author of several books, including No Bad Parts and You Are the One You've Been Waiting For, and continues to lead workshops and trainings worldwide through the IFS Institute. Episode Sponsors: Pisgah Coaching Institute Founded by IFS trained master coach Brian Jaudon, a pioneer in the integration of IFS and coaching for more than two decades. Brian and his faculty teach a blended methodology for clarifying and living into a vision of any kind. Enrollment is now open for his 2026 training. pisgahcoaching.com Cape Cod Institute This summer, deepen your practice with half-day CE courses at the Cape Cod Institute, offered in person on Cape Cod or live online from anywhere. Learn from IFS leaders Jeanne Catanzaro, Richard Schwartz, and Cece Sykes, or explore topics like mindfulness, couples therapy and leadership and many more with experts shaping the field. Celebrating 45 years, the 2025 season runs from June, 30 to August, 22. Start your day with interactive learning, then spend your afternoons applying new insights with clients, connecting with colleagues or exploring the cape. Learn more and register at www.cape.org Use Discount Code: theoneinside for $50 off.   About The One Inside: Check out The One Inside Substack community to access all episodes, exclusive extended interviews, meditations and exercises, and more.  Find The One Inside Self-Led merch at The One Inside store Watch video clips from select episodes on  The One Inside on YouTube Follow Tammy on Instagram @ifstammy and on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger. Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside. He's a writer and IFS Level 2 practitioner who specializes in helping therapists create with clarity and confidence. Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start.  Sign up for Tammy's email list and get a free "Get to know a Should part of you" meditation on her website Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast.  To learn more about sponsorship opportunties on The One Inside Podcast, email Tammy  

In this deeply honest episode, Cara and Rythea dive into the nuanced world of non-coercive parenting through the lens of Internal Family Systems, Parts Work Therapy, and Inner Bonding. They unpack what it means to parent in the moment while working with merged parts—protective internal voices that take over when we're triggered, especially by our kids.This episode explores the uncomfortable but powerful truth: sometimes we see our child as our abuser. Cara and Rythea get real about how this perception emerges, how it relates to unhealed trauma, and how those reactive parts are trying—however messily—to protect us.Cara and Rythea share real-life examples when their children activated them, and how they identified and engaged with the parts that took over. They talk about what it's like to notice in real time when you're not in your Self and how to compassionately return.Key TopicsUnderstanding merged parts and protectorsTools for recognizing when you're not in Self and how to returnProjecting past trauma onto your childThe healing potential of seeing your protectors as helpers, not enemiesCultivating Self-EnergyDismantling parental shame and reconnecting to our childrenThis work isn't about parenting perfectly. It's about parenting from presence, about having a relationship with yourself so that you can have an authentic connection with your child. By integrating your own protective parts, you make space for your Self-Energy to lead—and from there, all relationships, especially with your kids, become more truthful and safe.ResourcesMeditations by Dick Schwartz https://insighttimer.com/drrichardschwartzThe One Inside podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-one-inside-an-internal-family-systems-ifs-podcast/id1460334766Inner Bonding https://www.innerbonding.com/Book with Rythea calendly.com/rytheaBook with Cara calendly.com/caratedstonetherapySupport https://buymeacoffee.com/yourkidsdontsuck It's important and essential to put our voices (Rythea and Cara) in a context. We are two white, cis-gender, straight, middle-class women living with financial and societal privilege. Because of this, our perspectives are limited and do not reflect the realities of all our listeners. This podcast will feature guests with expertise around conscious parenting who differ in gender, race, class, abilities, sexual orientation, and histories from us, to broaden the conversation and reflect the lives of as many people as possible. 25% of the proceeds of this podcast will go to creators of color who have been mentors and influences on our work and in our growth as parents.Rate & ReviewShare your thoughts! Your feedback helps us reach more parents looking to embrace collaborative, non-coercive parenting.

“So if you pause and just get curious and say, Wait a minute, what's happening in my body? I'm feeling tense. I feel like I even want to fight like, maybe verbally. Some people might want to fight physically. But if you could pause in that moment and just notice what's happening and even ask yourself, like, who's like, what's happening here? Who's here.” Seth Kopald Top 5 Tips for Living a Self-Led Life 1. Realize that most of our emotions out our parts 2. Our parts invite parts in others3. When we are more Self-led others around us can too4. Pause when we are activated, and sense which part is here. 5. Speak for your parts, not from them.  TIME STAMP SUMMARY00:58  The concept of parts in internal family systems 06:34  Seth explains the difference between purposeful communication and agenda-driven communication, using examples of effective and ineffective sales interactions.12:04 The importance of being aware of parts and speaking respectfully to maintain smooth relationships.15:30 Speaking for your parts not from them  Where to find Seth?Website                            https://www.sethkopald.com/ LinkedIn                           https://www.linkedin.com/in/sethkopald  Seth Kopald BioSeth Kopald is a certified, level 3, Internal Family Systems (IFS) Practitioner. He holds a PhD in Organization Management with a Specialization in Leadership and a Masters in Education. Seth is an experienced IFS training Program Assistant for Levels 1, 2, and 3. He has also been on Dick Schwartz's staff for multiple retreats and Seth facilitates his own retreats and workshops. Seth is the author of the book Self-Led and his specialties include Self-led Parenting, Leadership, Parts Art, Spirituality, and creating spaces where people's parts feel safe and understood.

  Ever feel like you're at war with yourself? This might change everything… In this heartfelt and transformative episode, I had the honor of sitting down with Dr. Richard Schwartz, founder of Internal Family Systems (IFS), to explore how understanding and working with your “parts” can unlock profound healing and self-growth.

Episode Summary: On today's episode I welcome back to the podcast Dick Schwartz, founder of the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model. We had such an important conversation that I'm excited to share with you.  We begin remembering Derek Scott, who passed in February. Dick offers new details on the rupture and repair of their professional relationship over the years, and reflects on the moving final session they shared weeks before Derek's passing. (If you haven't watched the video yet, I highly recommend you do -- it's beautiful). Dick opened up about his concerns and the challenges of maintaining the integrity and safety of the IFS model while balancing the high demand for trainings. He also discussed his personal journey of integrating spirituality more into his writing and work. Dick shared his vision for the future of IFS, including continuing to expand its reach beyond traditional therapy and into leadership, education, politics, and articifical intelligence (AI). We ended on a fun and sweet note: he reminisced about meeting his wife, Jeanne, and the beginning of their relationship.  Key Takeaways: Derek Scott's passion for making IFS accessible left a lasting legacy. IFS continues expanding into non-clinical domains, including leadership training, educational systems, and AI-driven tools  How to maintain the "do no harm" ethos of IFS as it grows and evolves The difficult decision to tighten IFS training admissions requirements  Plans for brinigng IFS more into the public domain Dick discusses the potential of IFS to address legacy burdens collectively, envisioning a broader cultural impact. Spirituality in IFS: helping individuals connect to guides and Self Energy in deeper ways. Dick plans to be much more explicit about IFS in areas like spirituatlity and psychedlics The IFS model's potential to transform individuals and society--a ripple effect His version of the first meeting and long-distance courtship with his wife Jeanne (her version is here)  Favorite Quote: "How often do you get a chance to help somebody you care about transition like that?" – Dick Schwartz About Dr. Richard "Dick" Schwartz: Dick Schwartz is the founder of Internal Family Systems (IFS), a groundbreaking therapeutic model. He continues to innovate and expand the reach of IFS, working with leaders, educators, and therapists to bring its healing potential to a broader audience. Episode Sponsor: Michelle Glass and the Daily Part Meditation Practice®: a Journey of Embodied Integration for Clients and Therapists _______________________________________________________________________________ Check out our new merch at The One Inside store Watch video Clips from select episodes on  The One Inside on YouTube Follow Tammy on Instagram @ifstammy and on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger. Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He is a writer, counselor, and IFS Level 1 practitioner.   Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start.  Sign up for Tammy's email list and get a free "Get to know a Should part of you" meditation on her website Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott's IFS Stepping Stones Program.   If you are interested in sponsoring an episode or two of The One Inside Podcast please contact Tammy at tammysollenberger@comcast.net

Richard Schwartz began his career as a systemic family therapist and an academic. Grounded in systems thinking, Dr. Schwartz developed Internal Family Systems (IFS) in response to clients' descriptions of various parts within themselves.

Today on Men Talking Mindfulness, we explore self-discovery and the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model with Dr. Seth Kolpal, IFS practitioner and author of Self-Led: Living a Connected Life with Yourself and Others. Dr. Seth explains the idea of the self as a "sun" obscured by "cloud" parts, introducing the 13 key ingredients of self—including the eight C's (like compassion and clarity) and the five P's (such as patience and playfulness). Through a live demonstration, he guides Jon in connecting with his inner child, revealing insecurities behind his work ethic and the importance of approaching all parts with compassion. Dr. Seth highlights IFS as a framework for creating harmony within, rooted in ancient wisdom, and as a powerful tool for self-love, healing, and connection. Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction 00:22 - Know Thyself 01:20 - Microdose Series Announcement02:13 - Grounding Practice 03:39 - Understanding the Self 05:24 - The C's and P's of Self 08:24 - The Importance of Connectedness 10:44 - Removing Burdens 12:18 - The Role of Parts 13:30 - History of IFS 14:53 - Dick Schwartz's Contributions 18:10 - Experiencing Parts 23:46 - The Role of Self in Healing 26:05 - Experiential Exercise 30:18 - Validating the Younger Self 36:16 - Integrating Parts into Daily Life 43:12 - The Power of Vulnerability4 47:08 - The Role of Love in Healing --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/mentalkingmindfulness/support

On today's episode I chat with Sacha Mardou, a graphic novelist and artist, known in the IFS community for her IFS-inspired webcomics. In her new graphic memoir, Past Tense, Sacha brings readers along on her deeply personal, years-long journey to heal trauma, uncover legacy burdens, and connect to her true Self. She began illustrating her IFS and therapy experience privately in her sketchbooks. Those evolved into webcomics vividly depicting her inner system and healing process which she shared with the world through social media, and now in her new graphic memoir.  We discuss: How her private therapy session sketches grew into webcomics and a book How IFS can shift our inner world and multi-generational family dynamics Breaking the chain of legacy burdens for her daughter  Sharing her family members' private details and stories in her comics Using comics to visually represent the complexity of therapy and inner healing, making the IFS therapy process more tangible, relatable, and approachable for many people One of my favorite quotes from this episode: "How many of us carry shame or trauma that isn't even ours to begin with? Legacy burdens, passed down through generations, shape who we are until we take the courageous step to face them." – Sacha Mardou Sacha will join in a discussion hosted by Dick Schwartz and Jeanne Catanzaro at the 2024 IFS Annual Conference in a session called, Bringing IFS to Life, where they will discuss how Sacha's comics have helped demystify the IFS therapy process for clients. You can connect with Sacha on her website, on Facebook and Instagram @Mardou_Draws Learn more about her new book, Past Tense, here: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/714479/past-tense-by-sacha-mardou/ Watch video Clips from select episodes on  The One Inside on YouTube Follow Tammy on Instagram @ifstammy: Tammy Sollenberger (@ifs.tammy) • Instagram photos and videos and on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger. Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He is a writer, counselor, and IFS Level 1 practitioner.   Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start.  Sign up for Tammy's email list and get a free "Get to know a Should part of you" meditation on her website Do you want to befriend the parts of you who impede your meditation practice? Check out Loch Kelly's FREE workshop. Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott's IFS Stepping Stones Program.   If you are interested in sponsoring an episode or two of The One Inside Podcast please contact Tammy at tammysollenberger@comcast.net

This episode is a two-for-one, and that's because the podcast recently hit its 10-year anniversary and passed one billion downloads. To celebrate, I've curated some of the best of the best—some of my favorites—from more than 700 episodes over the last decade. I could not be more excited.The episode features segments from episode #133 "Edward Norton on Mastery, Must-Read Books, and The Future of Crowdfunding" and #732 "Martha Beck — The Amazing and Brutal Results of Zero Lies for 365 Days, How to Do a Beginner 'Integrity Cleanse,' Lessons from Lion Trackers, and Novel Tactics for Reducing Anxiety."Please enjoy!Sponsors:Momentous high-quality supplements: https://livemomentous.com/tim (code TIM for 20% off)ExpressVPN high-speed, secure, and anonymous VPN service: https://www.expressvpn.com/tim (Get 3 extra months free with a 12-month plan)AG1 all-in-one nutritional supplement: https://drinkag1.com/tim (1-year supply of Vitamin D (and 5 free AG1 travel packs) with your first subscription purchase.)Timestamps:[00:00] Start [05:45] Notes about this supercombo format.[06:48] Enter Edward Norton.[07:19] Edward's introduction to acting.[08:45] First theater mentors and what they instilled in Edward.[12:11] Who comes to mind when Edward hears the word "successful?"[13:18] Most gifted books.[14:28] Life-changing essays.[15:50] Favorite documentaries.[16:40] Underrated movies.[18:51] Edward's advice to his younger selves.[20:09] Community appreciation.[22:37] Enter Martha Beck.[23:08] My contribution to teen atrociousness.[23:40] Connecting with Boyd Varty.[29:28] The path of not here.[33:25] Finding joy in the body can save your life.[38:18] The pregnant pause that ended Martha's obsession with intellect.[43:52] Sensitivity and suffering.[47:38] The year of living lie-lessly.[52:37] An illuminating change of perspective.[1:02:08] The path to taking a black belt integrity cleanse.[1:05:36] Owning your right to say "No."[1:09:39] Alternatives to "No" that remain honest.[1:13:05] The language of candor.[1:15:24] Ending relationships that have run their course.[1:16:30] The Asian influence.[1:20:20] Sweet or savory?[1:21:30] Are you comfortable?[1:23:27] Want vs. yearning and jumping the track.[1:36:30] Rhino ruminations.[1:38:00] The Tao Te Ching, Stephen Mitchell, and Byron Katie.[1:49:13] America's Goethe?[1:52:15] Weighing kryptonite against superpowers.[2:00:09] Exploring the opposite of anxiety.[2:12:55] Dick Schwartz and Internal Family Systems.[2:17:46] Compassion even for the self's unwanted pieces.[2:20:14] Favorite animal.[2:24:52] Equine therapy.[2:31:00] Selling the ranch.[2:34:31] The monkey whisperer.[2:36:00] Parting thoughts.*For show notes and past guests on The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast.For deals from sponsors of The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast-sponsorsSign up for Tim's email newsletter (5-Bullet Friday) at tim.blog/friday.For transcripts of episodes, go to tim.blog/transcripts.Discover Tim's books: tim.blog/books.Follow Tim:Twitter: twitter.com/tferriss Instagram: instagram.com/timferrissYouTube: youtube.com/timferrissFacebook: facebook.com/timferriss LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/timferrissPast guests on The Tim Ferriss Show include Jerry Seinfeld, Hugh Jackman, Dr. Jane Goodall, LeBron James, Kevin Hart, Doris Kearns Goodwin, Jamie Foxx, Matthew McConaughey, Esther Perel, Elizabeth Gilbert, Terry Crews, Sia, Yuval Noah Harari, Malcolm Gladwell, Madeleine Albright, Cheryl Strayed, Jim Collins, Mary Karr, Maria Popova, Sam Harris, Michael Phelps, Bob Iger, Edward Norton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Neil Strauss, Ken Burns, Maria Sharapova, Marc Andreessen, Neil Gaiman, Neil de Grasse Tyson, Jocko Willink, Daniel Ek, Kelly Slater, Dr. Peter Attia, Seth Godin, Howard Marks, Dr. Brené Brown, Eric Schmidt, Michael Lewis, Joe Gebbia, Michael Pollan, Dr. Jordan Peterson, Vince Vaughn, Brian Koppelman, Ramit Sethi, Dax Shepard, Tony Robbins, Jim Dethmer, Dan Harris, Ray Dalio, Naval Ravikant, Vitalik Buterin, Elizabeth Lesser, Amanda Palmer, Katie Haun, Sir Richard Branson, Chuck Palahniuk, Arianna Huffington, Reid Hoffman, Bill Burr, Whitney Cummings, Rick Rubin, Dr. Vivek Murthy, Darren Aronofsky, Margaret Atwood, Mark Zuckerberg, Peter Thiel, Dr. Gabor Maté, Anne Lamott, Sarah Silverman, Dr. Andrew Huberman, and many more.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode I have a paradigm shift that will alter your drive. We are all raised in the mono-mind belief system, the idea that we have one mind, and from this one mind we have an infinite amount of differing thoughts and emotions and impulses and urges. That we often feel are competing against each other. We think of our good selves and our bad selves. Our healthy and unhealthy aspects. And we get frustrated and feel guilty that our one mind seems so schizophrenic. My guest today has a very different theory and perspective. From his research he believes we have a multiple personality, and all the parts are doing what they are supposed to. If we understand this, we can use them in harmony to help us be our best selves. Richard C. Schwartz, is an American systemic family therapist, academic, author, and creator of the Internal Family Systems branch of therapy. He developed his foundational work with IFS in the 1980s after noticing that his clients were made up of many different pieces or "parts" of their "Self.” Dick is currently on the faculty of Harvard Medical School, and his latest of five books is called, No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model. The forward is by renowned music artist, Alanis Morissette who credits Dick's work with IFS as revolutionizing her own therapy and life perspective and even bringing her to her core spirituality. Famed physician Gabor Maté and psychologist Bessel Van Der Kolk attest to IFS as one of the most innovative and transformational therapies to have emerged in the present century. I sat down with Dick to dig into Internal Family Systems and the message in his new book, No Bad Parts, to uncover how changing our paradigm on the different parts of our minds can significantly alter what drives us for the better. Got a comment or question about an episode? Want to ask a question about your drive? Email me. I don't want to just talk to you here, I want to talk with you. kmiller@kevinmiller.co. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Sign up for AromaTru's Insider Club and today you'll receive a FREE Waterless Oil Diffuser and a FREE lemon eucalyptus oil - that's over $200 in savings. Head to aromatruorganics.com/kevin to take advantage of this exclusive offer.   Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Get 20% off any AquaTru purifier today! Visit AquaTru.com and enter code "KEVIN" at checkout. Go to Quince.com/drives for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of YKDS, therapists Cara and Rythea delve into a powerful therapeutic process with Rythea, exploring how her triggers impact her parenting choices. Using the Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy modality as a guide, they help Rythea to identify and understand the different parts of herself that influence her feelings and behaviors and how they come into her parenting, particularly in relation to a painful experience she's currently facing. Rythea explores triggers around being an activist, keeping her and her daughter safe, and how that relates to her childhood.Rythea and Cara introduce working with inner parts, illustrating the deep feelings and beliefs that exist inside of our inner child parts. Through Rythea's process, they demonstrate how to identify different parts within oneself, discovering the reasons these parts emerge and how they influence our reactivity with our kids. This episode provides practical insights for parents, showing how IFS can be a valuable tool for understanding triggers, with examples of parts work in action to improve parenting and self-healing.This episode is particularly valuable for parents seeking to better understand their feelings and actions and to identify what they truly need to do for their internal and external family systems. An episode that directly addresses how our inner work impacts our children, it offers unique insights into improving family dynamics. It's a hopeful resource for parents looking to navigate their emotions and actions towards a more harmonious family life!Check out the book Cara and Rythea refer to on Internal Family Systems (IFS) - No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model by Dick Schwartz, Founder of IFS: https://ifs-institute.com/nobadparts--It's important and essential to put our voices (Rythea and Cara) in a context. We are two white, cis-gender, straight, middle-class women living with financial and societal privilege. Because of this, our perspectives are limited and do not reflect the realities of all our listeners. This podcast will feature guests with expertise around conscious parenting who differ in gender, race, class, abilities, sexual orientation, and histories from us, to broaden the conversation and reflect the lives of as many people as possible. 25% of the proceeds of this podcast will go to creators of color who have been mentors and influences on our work and in our growth as parents. You can donate to this podcast by going to https://linktr.ee/yourkidsdontsuck

For this special “Listen Again” episode of The Gathering Room, Martha is sharing her conversation with Dr. Richard Schwartz, the brilliant creator of Internal Family Systems (IFS), a wonderful therapeutic model that Martha loves using! IFS provides an optimistic, empowering framework to help us focus on the different “parts” of our personalities so that we can shift into a state characterized by curiosity, calm, confidence, and compassion. Tune in for their conversation about Richard's latest book, YOU ARE THE ONE YOU'VE BEEN WAITING FOR: APPLYING INTERNAL FAMILY SYSTEMS TO INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS, which is available at all major retailers.  If you're interested in learning more about IFS, you won't want to miss this one! CONNECT WITH US Follow Martha on Instagram The Gathering Room Show Notes Join Martha for a Live Episode of The Gathering Room via Facebook See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In today's episode our guest is Dr. Schwartz, the developer of the Internal Family Systems model. Among the topics we address are the Dual Nature of Self, Self's “Agenda,” IFS as a Constraint-Release Model, Self as the Agent of Healing, the wisdom of Self, Self's Development, Trauma and Self,  Self and the Body, Restoring Trust in Self, and Self and Vulnerability.

Derek Scott and I got to meet one last time here on the podcast. I want to share with you what I know because a lot of you have asked. You will find out a lot in this episode from Derek himself. I was among a small group who knew he was sick and when he was passing. After we recorded the episode I got to read his book and watch a session between him and Dick Schwartz, the founder of IFS. My understanding is you will be able to see this incredible session when you buy the book. His book will be available soon- sign up for the launch here: Dead (Spoiler Alert): a Psychotherapist's Journey With Cancer - Market - Webflow Ecommerce Website Template (healthible.co) If you haven't heard of Derek Scott, I invite you to go to YouTube and check out his channel. Many of us in the IFS community learned so much by watching his videos. He and I recorded a full IFS session on video three years ago. He would text me periodically and let me know how many people had watched it. I just looked -- it has 70,000 views! Derek ran an organization called IFSCA, based in Canada, which teach IFS courses. In all the years I've known Derek he is clear to honor Dick Schwartz, the founder of IFS. He makes it known that his courses are not IFS trainings. He was always careful to distinguish that and to be so respectful of Dick. If you go to the podcast page on my website and search for Derek Scott, you will see several episodes we did together. Over the years he would text me and say, "Hey do you wanna talk about such and such?" I'd always say yes. Here are all the links: Full episode between Derek as therapist and I as client: Complete IFS Session (youtube.com) Derek's youtube channel: (14) Derek IFSCA - YouTube Derek's organziation IFS in Canada: Home - IFSCA Other podcast episodes with Derek: You searched for derek scott - Tammy Sollenberger ----- He was a friend, and I am so grateful for his presence in my life. The last text I received from him was a week before he died, and it was just this emoji …

Therapy can be a big help for some people. But for stressed-out parents, healing our old wounds and stepping up for our kiddos often requires a different approach. One of my Masterminders, Dr. Shawn Hondorp, has experienced this disconnect from the inside. Shawn is an experienced clinical psychologist who isn't satisfied with the tools and techniques of the traditional diagnostic therapy methods. She's developing a new approach to improving mental health.Shawn's practices reject pathology and easy labels. Instead, they help you identify your old patterns of thoughts and feelings, understand why they were woven, and put them to work in ways that help rather than hinder your growth. I'm honored that working with me has helped her find the courage to share this new vision of what therapy can accomplish, and I can't wait for you to learn about it!In this episode, you'll learn:How a focus on efficiency and accomplishment can actually cost us - and our kiddos - more time and energy in the long run.The real reason why we struggle with negative self talk, and how that context can help you keep it from overwhelming you.Why pack leaders need other pack leaders they can lean on and grow with.And much more! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-280About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/About Our GuestDr. Shawn Hondorp is a clinical psychologist whose goal is to create safe learning environments for those who want to explore innovative approaches to healing, one authentic conversation at a time. Learn more about her work, and subscribe to The Innovative Therapist Podcast, at https://drshawnhondorp.com/ Resources Discussed/LinksNo Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model, by Dick Schwartz https://ifs-institute.com/store/419Decolonizing Therapy: Oppression, Historical Trauma & Politicizing Your Practice, by Dr. Jennifer Mullan https://www.decolonizingtherapy.com/book Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course!

In this episode of "Voices with Vervaeke," John Vervaeke and guest Seth Allison offer an insightful exploration into the depths of psychotherapy, focusing on internal family systems (IFS) and its connections with Jungian psychology and attachment theory. John and Seth delve into the theoretical and practical realms of IFS, as founded by Dick Schwartz, highlighting its transformative potential in clinical practice. The conversation traverses the historical development of psychological theories, the intricacies of the human psyche, and the therapeutic efficacy of blending IFS with emotional therapy (EFT). By weaving together theory and practice, Seth and John illuminate the path towards healing and wholeness.   Seth Allison is a renowned psychotherapist specializing in internal family systems (IFS) and its integration with traditional psychotherapy. With years of clinical practice, Seth brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to the conversation, offering valuable insights into the therapeutic journey.    Glossary of Terms   Internal Family Systems (IFS): A psychotherapy model that emphasizes the multiplicity of the mind, suggesting that the psyche is made up of subpersonalities or parts. Jungian Analysis: A psychotherapeutic approach based on the theories of Carl Jung, focusing on the integration of the conscious and unconscious aspects of the psyche.   John Vervaeke: Website: https://johnvervaeke.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@johnvervaeke  Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/johnvervaeke   X: https://twitter.com/vervaeke_john   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/VervaekeJohn/   Seth Allison: Website: Grow Collective - https://www.growcollective.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/seth-allison-13abb811b/ Join our new Patreon https://www.patreon.com/johnvervaeke   The Vervaeke Foundation - https://vervaekefoundation.org/   Awaken to Meaning - https://awakentomeaning.com/   John Vervaeke YouTube After Socrates: Episode 8 - The Socratic Shift | Dr. John Vervaeke https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AALyoLXE0AQ Books, Articles, and Publications   No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model - Richard Schwartz https://www.amazon.com/No-Bad-Parts-Restoring-Wholeness/dp/1683646681 Many Minds, One Self: Evidence for a Radical Shift in Paradigm - Richard C. Schwartz, Robert R. Falconer  https://www.amazon.com/Many-Minds-One-Self-Evidence/dp/0692957340/ The Theradelic Approach: Psychedelic Therapy. Perspective, Preparation, and Practice - Sunny Strasburg, Richard Schwartz https://www.amazon.com/Theradelic-Approach-Psychedelic-Perspective-Preparation/dp/B0C7JJB5WY In Midlife: A Jungian Perspective - Murray Stein https://www.amazon.com/Midlife-Jungian-Perspective-Murray-Stein/dp/1630510890/ Jung's Map of the Soul: An Introduction - Murray Stein  https://www.amazon.com/Jungs-Map-Soul-Murray-Stein/dp/0812693760/ A Spirit of Trust: A Reading of Hegel's Phenomenology - Robert B. Brandom https://www.amazon.com/Spirit-Trust-Reading-Hegels-Phenomenology/dp/0674976819/   Quotes   "The pursuit of wisdom and virtue from an attachment perspective could be framed as the pursuit of trust, learning of trust. It is a dangerous thing to trust, yet we can't really get to the next level without some risk. The connections we make externally and internally really are the key forward, the door to walk through." - Seth Allison [01:21:08] Chapters    [00:00:00] - Introduction to Seth Allison and Recap of Previous Discussions [00:05:00] - Exploring Internal Family Systems (IFS) [00:20:00] - Jungian Analysis and Its Intersection with IFS [00:35:00] - Practical Applications of IFS in Therapy [00:50:00] - The Interplay of Technique, Attachment, and Transformation in Psychotherapy [01:05:00] - Navigating the Liminal Spaces of the Psyche with Hermes [01:16:00] - Conclusion and Plans for Future Conversations  

This is a repeat of an earlier episode. We all have voices inside ourselves and while it might seem that some of these voices are trying to hold us back maybe they're actually trying to help us. By popular demand, on today's episode Dr. Becky sits down with the founder of Internal Family Systems, Dr. Dick Schwartz to help us learn to speak to the voices inside ourselves and become intentional rather than reactive parents.Join Good Inside Membership: https://bit.ly/42gT6uRFollow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinsideSign up for our weekly email, Good Insider: https://www.goodinside.com/newsletterOrder Dr. Becky's book, Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be, at goodinside.com/book or wherever you order your books.For a full transcript of the episode, go to goodinside.com/podcastTo listen to Dr. Becky's TED Talk on repair visit https://www.ted.com/talks/becky_kennedy_the_single_most_important_parenting_strategyToday's episode is brought to you by Garanimals: Garanimals is the original mix-and-match clothing brand for babies and toddlers in sizes newborn to 5T. Each Kid Pack contains carefully curated tops and bottoms that easily mix and match. Pick any top and any bottom, and voila! Instant outfit. And with up to a month's worth of outfits in just one box, Garanimals's Kid Packs take care of a whole lot of outfit planning. You can find all their fun mix-and-match styles from their new spring collection in Walmart stores and on Walmart.com.

Paul F. Austin welcomes Sunny Strasburg, LMFT, to discuss utilizing IFS & psychedelic-assisted psychotherapy through the Theradelic Approach. Find episode links, summary, and transcript here: https://thethirdwave.co/podcast/episode-232-sunny-strasburg-lmft/ Sunny discusses her multidisciplinary background and how she came to develop her unique therapeutic approach. She incorporates various modalities such as Internal Family Systems (IFS), Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), and the Gottman Method in her work. Sunny emphasizes the importance of personal psychedelic experience for therapists and the need for ethical and well-trained practitioners in the field. She also shares her vision for the future and the challenges of scaling psychedelic therapy while maintaining integrity and respect for the mystery of the psychedelic experience. Sunny Strasburg discusses the Theradelic Approach, which combines Internal Family Systems therapy and psychedelic-assisted therapy. She explains how working with internal parts can lead to self-compassion and coherence. Sunny also shares her experience facilitating Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy retreats with IFS founder Dick Schwartz, and how they help leaders in various industries lead with self-energy. The conversation then delves into the importance of ethics in artificial intelligence and the potential impact of psychedelics on the AI space. Sunny reflects on the lessons she has learned from plant medicine and emphasizes the importance of being in service and awe.   Sunny Strasburg, LMFT: Sunny Strasburg, LMFT plays a multifaceted role in the fields of psychology and psychedelic therapy, encompassing education, consultation, authorship, and licensed psychotherapy. Her notable literary achievement, "The Theradelic Approach: Psychedelic Therapy: Perspective, Preparation, and Practice," features a foreword by Dr. Richard Schwartz, the creator of the Internal Family Systems model. Through this work, Mrs. Strasburg distills insights drawn from her experiences as an educator, entrepreneur, and psychotherapist. Sunny's professional journey encompasses proficiency in Internal Family Systems and archetypal psychology, alongside certification in Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR). As a graduate of Pacifica Graduate Institute and the California Institute of Integral Studies, Mrs. Strasburg holds additional certifications in Psychedelic Assisted Therapy and Research, with specialized knowledge and training in Ketamine, MDMA, and Psilocybin Assisted Psychotherapies. Sunny is the originator and lead educator of The Theradelic Approach, a model of psychedelic-assisted psychotherapy. Her collaboration with Dr. Richard Schwartz and other prominent figures has led to impactful trainings and immersive retreats. Converging the domains of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy (KAP), Internal Family Systems (IFS), and Jungian psychology, Mrs. Strasburg has formulated innovative principles and methodologies that elevate therapeutic practices and the conscientious use of psychedelics within clinical frameworks. Sunny's expertise finds expression in prominent conferences like The Psychedelic Summit 2023, Psychedelic Science 2023, SXSW 2023, and the 2023 Expanded States of Consciousness Worldwide Summit. Moreover, her contributions extend to engagements with the 2021 EMDRIA Worldwide Virtual Conference, and her involvement spans diverse platforms, including The Theradelic Approach training, Three Cups Psychedelics, Journey Clinical, Inbodied Training, EMDRIA UK, and the Boston Trauma Conference.   Highlights: Introduction and background Exploring IFS, EMDR, the Gottman Method, & the Theradelic Approach Addressing gaps in psychedelic therapy training The importance of personal psychedelic experience for therapists Understanding trauma mapping Dosage and frequency in ketamine-assisted therapy Working with internal parts using IFS ketamine-assisted psychotherapy retreats for leaders Psychedelics, AI, and ethics Lessons from plant medicine Being in service and awe Resources and trainings   Links: Sunny's website: https://sunnystrasburgtherapy.com/    Sunny's book, “The Theradelic Approach”: https://thetheradelicapproach.com/ Sunny's retreats: https://www.sunnystrasburgretreats.com/   Episode Sponsors: Joyous microdose ketamine. Book your free consultation today! The Coaching Certification Program by Third Wave's Psychedelic Coaching Institute.

On today's podcast I talk with fellow author- and now fellow podcaster! Emma Redfern. Emma Redfern, BACP Snr-Accredited psychotherapist and supervisor is a certified Internal Family Systems therapist and approved IFS consultant working online from Devon in the Southwest of England. Emma has edited two multi-author books, one on IFS supervision/consultation, the other, Freeing Self: IFS Beyond the therapy room. She has authored a book for professionals about successfully transitioning to IFS therapy. We talk about: her story-trusting the inner Yes her writing journey Supervision- helping others create their own identity (we all can't be Dick Schwartz!) Not 'IFS-ing' away our parts "Self can Bare multiple realities" Current writing projects- cats and dogs and curiousity- so fun What is success? How showing up can also be success. It's so good. To learn more about Emma go to: https://emmaredfern.co.uk/ Enjoy! ------ Follow Tammy on Instagram @ifstammy here Tammy Sollenberger (@ifs.tammy) • Instagram photos and videos and on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger here The One Inside: Internal Family Systems with Tammy Sollenberger | Facebook. ----- Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start. You can purchase it here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books or wherever books are sold. Sign up for Tammy's email list and get a free "Get to know a Should part of you" meditation on her website: Home - Tammy Sollenberger ----- Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott's IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack at bonzemusic on Instagram.

If you haven't had the pleasure of seeing one of Flynn Skidmore's viral videos on social media or listening to his incredible podcast, let us introduce you: Flynn is a therapist trained in Internal Family Systems and somatic experiencing. And let's just say it like this, Flynn + TBM = total power couple. Today he and Jessica dive into so many compelling rabbit holes, like exploring your internal landscape in order to regulate your nervous system, becoming more emotionally “athletic,” and starting to get in tune with your body about what clues it may be giving you regarding your relationship dynamics. Also! if you've been manifesting a ticket to the LA stop of the TBM speaking tour, you might wanna listen in… Find the Complete Show Notes Here -> https://tobemagnetic.com/expanded-podcast In This Episode We Talk About:Narcissism and scarcity mindsets in relationshipsTapping into expressing feelings to navigate interpersonal relationships and process past woundsHow love, safety, and belonging are abundant and available and how to attain and cultivate the feelings you want in a relationshipReframing relationships to be “co-creative” dynamicsHow Flynn arrived at a place of joy and abundance from the inside out using energy and self-sufficiency.Building relationship foundations from the energy we want to ultimately experienceFlynn's perspective around ADHD and tailoring a helpful process in order to achieve goalsLearning to allow yourself to have the life you want and setting yourself up for the abundance available  THEMES / TIME STAMPS:Understanding narcissism and processing past wounds (00:17:50)Mindset shifts surrounding ADHD and using multiple tools and pathways to understanding ourselves (00:55:00)Self love, compassion, and choosing to give yourself the love you desire (01:08:10) Resources: Get your Tickets for The Magnetic Self Speaking Tour with Lacy & Jessica New York SEPT 16th   SOLD OUTVancouver BC NOV 4th  - more tickets added!Los Angeles DEC 2nd (Join the waitlist More tickets to be released!Take the Quiz to see what Manifestation phase you are in!BITE - 20% off your first order with code MAGNETICFresh mint toothpaste bits Seed - code TBM for 30% off your first month's supply of Seed's DS-01® and PDS-08™% off your first month's supply with code TBMSeed's DS-01® Daily Synbiotic (for adults ages 18+)Seed's PDS-08™Pediatric Daily Synbiotic - (for kids ages 3-17) No Bad Parts by Dick Schwartz, Ph.DFind our Reprogramming DIs mentioned in this episode inside our Daily Practice Library!Find all workshops mentioned inside our Pathway Membership! Where To Find Flynn!The Flynn Skidmore PodcastFlynn Skidmore's NewsletterConnect more with Flynn SkidmoreFlynn Skidmore IGFlynn Skidmore TikTokOther ResourcesSubmit to Be a Process GuestText Us: +1-213-423-5226 - (texting is only for US, Canada, & Puerto Rico)Alexis Smart x TBM EXPANDED Flower RemedyTBM Manifestation Journal Free Offerings to Get You StartedLearn the Process! Expanded Podcast - How to Manifest Anything You Desire Get Expanded! The Motivation - Testimonial LibraryUnblock with us! Wanna find out why you're not manifesting? Start our free mini- workshop!

Tonya Lester helps you if you're feeling confused, overwhelmed or lazy Episode 2934: Feeling Confused, Overwhelmed, or Lazy? by Tonya Lester on Pursuing Your Dreams and Getting Unstuck Tonya Lester, LCSW, is a psychotherapist in Brooklyn, NY. She graduated from New York University with a Master's degree in Social Work. Her post-graduate training includes a fellowship at Psychoanalytic Theory at the Institute for Psychoanalytic Theory and Research (IPTAR) and supervised practice in Psychodynamic Therapy under Drs. C.E. Robins and John Broughton. She completed training in IFS with Dick Schwartz, Nancy Sowell, and Pam Krause. Her training in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) was with John Forsyth, Ph.D. She studied RLT with its creator, Terry Real.  The original post is located here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog/feeling-confused-overwhelmed-or-lazy Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalLivingDaily Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tonya Lester shares productivity tips for busy people Episode 1105: Productivity Tips: Ideas For People With Too Many Things to Do by Tonya Lester on Creating More Time For Yourself Tonya Lester, LCSW, is a psychotherapist in Brooklyn, NY. She graduated from New York University with a Master's degree in Social Work. Her post-graduate training includes a fellowship at Psychoanalytic Theory at the Institute for Psychoanalytic Theory and Research (IPTAR) and supervised practice in Psychodynamic Therapy under Drs. C.E. Robins and John Broughton. She completed training in IFS with Dick Schwartz, Nancy Sowell, and Pam Krause. Her training in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) was with John Forsyth, Ph.D. She studied RLT with its creator, Terry Real.  The original post is located here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog/productivity-tips-for-poeple-with-more-than-one-things-to-do  Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalStartUpDaily Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tonya Lester shares productivity tips for busy people Episode 1105: Productivity Tips: Ideas For People With Too Many Things to Do by Tonya Lester on Creating More Time For Yourself Tonya Lester, LCSW, is a psychotherapist in Brooklyn, NY. She graduated from New York University with a Master's degree in Social Work. Her post-graduate training includes a fellowship at Psychoanalytic Theory at the Institute for Psychoanalytic Theory and Research (IPTAR) and supervised practice in Psychodynamic Therapy under Drs. C.E. Robins and John Broughton. She completed training in IFS with Dick Schwartz, Nancy Sowell, and Pam Krause. Her training in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) was with John Forsyth, Ph.D. She studied RLT with its creator, Terry Real.  The original post is located here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog/productivity-tips-for-poeple-with-more-than-one-things-to-do  Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalStartUpDaily Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Internal Family Systems is sweeping through psychedelic medicine as one of the preferred modalities to help heal and restructure the psyche. Renowned founder of the system, Dr. Dick Schwartz comes back and brings me through an emotional and vulnerable masterclass of healing for my parts. May my own transformation be a guide to your transformation. | Connect with Dick Schwartz | Get his book: You Are the One You've Been Waiting For Website | https://ifs-institute.com/about-us/richard-c-schwartz-phd YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@InternalFamilySystems Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/internalfamilysystems/ Facebook | ⁠https://www.facebook.com/InternalFamilySystems/ Twitter | https://twitter.com/IFS_Model ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠To partner with the Aubrey Marcus Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ | Connect with Aubrey | Website | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://bit.ly/2GesYqi ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://bit.ly/2BlfCEO ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://bit.ly/2F4nBZk ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Twitter |⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠http://bit.ly/2BlGBAdAd⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Check out "Own your Day, Own Your Life" by Aubrey Marcus | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://bit.ly/2vRz4so⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Subscribe to the Aubrey Marcus newsletter: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.aubreymarcus.com/pages/email⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Subscribe to the Aubrey Marcus podcast: iTunes | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://apple.co/2lMZRCn ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Spotify |⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://spoti.fi/2EaELZO ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Stitcher | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://bit.ly/2G8ccJt ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ IHeartRadio | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://ihr.fm/3CiV4x3 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Google Podcasts | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3nzCJEh ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Android | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/2OQeBQg⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Tonya Lester talks about time management Episode 2828: A Personal Perspective on Time Management by Tonya Lester on Making More Time For Yourself Tonya Lester, LCSW, is a psychotherapist in Brooklyn, NY. She graduated from New York University with a Master's degree in Social Work. Her post-graduate training includes a fellowship at Psychoanalytic Theory at the Institute for Psychoanalytic Theory and Research (IPTAR) and supervised practice in Psychodynamic Therapy under Drs. C.E. Robins and John Broughton. She completed training in IFS with Dick Schwartz, Nancy Sowell, and Pam Krause. Her training in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) was with John Forsyth, Ph.D. She studied RLT with its creator, Terry Real.  The original post is located here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog/a-personal-perspective-on-time-management Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalLivingDaily Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I got emotional at the end of this podcast episode because I am so grateful for my guest and the impact he's had on my life. Dick Schwartz is the founder of Internal Family Systems, or IFS, a transformative psychotherapy that is going to change the way you think about yourself. It's an honor to share this life-changing therapy with you.   Dr. Richard (Dick) Schwartz developed Internal Family Systems (IFS) in response to his therapy clients' descriptions of various parts within themselves. He noticed systemic patterns to the way these parts were organized across clients. He also found that when the clients' parts felt safe and were allowed to relax, the clients would spontaneously experience the qualities of confidence, openness, and compassion that Dr. Schwartz came to call the Self. He found that when in that state of Self, clients would know how to heal their parts.   A featured speaker for national professional organizations, Dr. Schwartz has published many books and over fifty articles about IFS. Learn more here.   Triggers and addictive cycles are a massive topic, and Dick and I could have talked about this for literally hours. If you want more, I encourage you to visit the IFS website where you can find more on Dick's work. You can also check out my book Happy Days, which has a wealth of information about IFS therapy as well as other strategies to truly take care of your whole Self.   If you feel you need additional support, please consult this list of safety, recovery and mental health resources. I'm proud of you for your commitment to self-care. bit.ly/3qHBLNh.    Want even more support? My NEW gabby™ coaching app makes personal growth easy to access. Get weekly lessons, guided meditations and proven manifesting methods to enhance every area of your life—on your own terms, at your own pace, all in one place. I'll be your coach to help you manifest your desires and live with an unshakeable sense of inner peace. Click here to join the waitlist. bit.ly/462r485   This podcast is intended to educate, inspire, and support you on your personal journey towards inner peace. I am not a psychologist or a medical doctor and do not offer any professional health or medical advice. If you are suffering from any psychological or medical conditions, please seek help from a qualified health professional     Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode.     For listeners of the show, Calm is offering an exclusive offer of 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription at CALM.COM/deargabby.   Leave summer stress behind and upgrade your CBD. Go to NextEvo.com/gabby to get 20% off your first order of $40 or more.   Let therapy be your map, with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/deargabby today to get 10% off your first month.   Give yourself the hair you never thought you could have with Vegamour. For a limited time, Dear Gabby listeners get twenty percent off their first order by going to VEGAMOUR.com/gabby and use code gabby at check out.     Produced by Dear Media. 

I have a gift for you today: It's a 7-minute meditation that will help the anxious, reactive parts of you relax, so you can let your highest Self take over. Is there a part of you that worries excessively, trying to outsmart the future? Maybe there's a part that overeats, trying to stuff down big feelings … or a controlling part that's addicted to work. If you can relate to any of this, you are not alone! Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy teaches us that we all have “protector” parts working valiantly to keep us safe. But true safety comes when we can help these parts relax. Today's Dear Gabby offers a beautiful guided meditation that will let you do just that.   The following are helpful resources and books I mention in the episode:  To learn more about IFS, listen to my Dear Gabby BIG TALK with IFS founder Dick Schwartz and my live talk about the Self-to-part connection. https://bit.ly/3xaDQkX Want even more support? I created the Miracle Membership to help you design a spiritual practice you can stick to—so you can feel connected, supported and inspired every day. Each week I deliver brand new workshops, guided meditations, community connection and so much more. Plus, I lead a different challenge each quarter to give you a spiritual jumpstart in every area of your life. The membership is easy to access on your phone, computer or tablet. Click here to join. https://bit.ly/3L2sy80 If you need additional support, please refer to this list of mental health resources. I'm proud of you for being here. https://bit.ly/3eBdFOb This podcast is intended to educate, inspire and support you on your personal journey toward inner peace. I am not a psychologist or a medical doctor and do not offer any professional health or medical advice. If you are suffering from any psychological or medical conditions, please seek help from a qualified health professional.   Produced by Dear Media.

Are negative or addictive patterns blocking you from becoming your highest self? Whether it's self-sabotaging behavior, destructive patterns or chronic fear that's holding you back, today's Dear Gabby will free you up to become the person you long to be. In this live talk, I'll explain how Internal Family Systems (IFS) parts work can help you honor your addictive patterns and experience transformational healing and growth.   The following are helpful resources and books I mention in the episode:  Want even more support? I created the Miracle Membership to help you design a spiritual practice you can stick to—so you can feel connected, supported and inspired every day. Each week I deliver lessons, guided meditations, community connection and so much more. Plus, I lead a different challenge each quarter to elevate every area of your life, and the BRAND NEW Relationship Challenge kicks off on October 1! Click here to join the Miracle Membership. https://bit.ly/3CUxsCi In my newest book, Happy Days: The Guided Path from Trauma to Profound Freedom and Inner Peace, I write about IFS therapy and parts work in depth. Chapter 7, “Love Every Part,” will be particularly helpful for you. https://bit.ly/3QdvG1O To learn more about IFS, you can listen to this Dear Gaby Big Talk with IFS founder Dick Schwartz. https://bit.ly/3TEvr2N In today's podcast I share about the deep healing that took place when I wrote The Universe Has Your Back. This book has touched countless lives, and I'm so grateful that its lessons have healed others as much as they've healed me. https://bit.ly/3xfH5YH If you need additional support, please refer to this list of mental health resources. I'm proud of you for being here. https://bit.ly/3wTHz6i This podcast is intended to educate, inspire and support you on your personal journey toward inner peace. I am not a psychologist or a medical doctor and do not offer any professional health or medical advice. If you are suffering from any psychological or medical conditions, please seek help from a qualified health professional.     Right now, you can get 15% off this dynamic duo when you go to JustThriveHealth.com and use code: GABBY at checkout   Go to perfectsnacks.com/gabby to get a FREE Perfect Bar today.   Use code GABBY on cymbiotika.com for 15% off site-wide or create your custom bundle and get up to 45% off. (code applies on top of custom bundle discount)   Produced by Dear Media.