Insights from the Couch - Mental Health at Midlife

In this episode, we're taking a closer look at the science (and soul) of happiness—not that shiny, fake, “good vibes only” stuff, but the real-deal, research-backed version. After attending a powerful talk by Harvard professor and happiness expert Arthur C. Brooks, we came back buzzing with insights, and we couldn't wait to break it all down for you.We're exploring what happiness actually means—spoiler: it's not just about smiling all the time—and how much of it is actually within our control. From the surprising role of genetics to the transformational power of habits, transcendence, relationships, and creative work, we're sharing key takeaways and offering practical, therapist-approved strategies to help you create a more meaningful, joyful, and resilient life. Episode Highlights:[0:47] - Our field trip to see Arthur C. Brooks live and why he's the happiness guy. [1:37] - The surprising science: 50% of happiness is genetic—wait, what?! [4:44] - Redefining happiness: Enjoyment, satisfaction, and meaning. [6:11] - The real meaning of pleasure (hint: not just wine and cheese nights). [9:10] - What satisfaction really means and why feeling effective is everything. [11:12] - Meaning-making as a mental health superpower. [13:06] - Resilience and post-traumatic growth: Turning lemons into lemonade. [16:46] - Grappling with life's big questions: “Why are you here?” and “What would you die for?” [19:20] - Transcendence: Spirituality beyond religion and finding awe in everyday moments. [22:27] - Flow state magic: What gets us into it (spoiler: puzzles and cleaning included!). [27:51] - The #1 predictor of happiness: Relationships and why they matter so much. [30:17] - The power of community and intentional connection. [31:25] - Finding purpose in your work—however you define it. [33:41] - The art of the “active dabble” and why it's okay to not know what lights you up (yet). [35:49] - Wrapping with wisdom: Radical responsibility and the risks of autonomy. Resources:Arthur C. BrooksDownload the “Risks of Autonomy” worksheet and other episode resources at insightsfromthecouch.orgMake sure to visit the “Resources” page on our website www.insightsfromthecouch.org to download the worksheet and take ways that accompany each episode. This is hugely important as we are now creating a download that is unique to each episode and working hard to create an email list to support our programming offerings moving forward.

How do we create deep, secure, and lasting relationships—not just in romance, but in parenting, friendships, and even with ourselves? In this episode, we sit down with Tara Boothby, psychologist, author of Love and Love's Energy, and expert in attachment science. She takes us on a journey into the heart of connection, breaking down the complexities of attachment styles, emotional safety, and the power of co-regulation.We explore the difference between being loved and lovable, how attachment wounds impact our relationships, and why true security is something we earn over time. Plus, Tara shares her own evolution from skepticism about attachment theory to fully embracing what she calls “love science.” Tara Boothby, Registered Psychologist, and Author of "Love and Love's Energy: How Attachment Science Proves That Love Nurtures Our Biological Nature, Impacts Our Positive View of Ourselves, of Others, and of God, and Teaches Us All How to Love." Episode Highlights:[00:03] - Welcome! Introducing Tara Boothby & the power of attachment science.[02:23] - How Tara went from doubting attachment theory to embracing “love science”.[04:26] - The truth about attachment styles: It's not as simple as you think. [06:36] - What it really means to be securely attached (hint: it's a process, not a label). [09:20] - The hidden fears behind our relationship struggles. [14:02] - Co-regulation vs. self-regulation: Why we heal faster in relationships. [19:25] - The importance of repair in relationships & why small moments matter most. [32:02] - “Earning” security: Can we heal from past attachment wounds? [40:26] - Knowing when to press pause (or end) on unhealthy relationships. [50:11] - Loving yourself: The foundation of all secure relationships. Resources:"Love and Love's Energy" can be found on Amazon worldwide, Kindle, and Barnes and Noble.Instagram:Tara Boothby: https://www.instagram.com/tara_boothby/profilecard/?igsh=anpwbGs1eXMwaHVl Sojourn Psychology: https://www.instagram.com/sojournpsychology/profilecard/?igsh=MTZ5azlsYjJjZG9sbg%3D%3D               Website: https://sojo.ca/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SojournPsychology 

Hey friends! We cannot believe we're saying this—but it's officially been ONE YEAR since we launched Insights from the Couch! Not only are we celebrating our podcast anniversary, but this is also our 50th episode, and we're taking a moment to reflect on the wild, messy, beautiful journey that brought us here. Spoiler alert: we had no idea what we were doing when we started, but we're proof that big things can happen when you leap before you feel "ready."In this episode, we open up about the highs, the facepalms, and everything in between—from our tech-challenged beginnings to what we've learned about confidence, commitment, distress tolerance, and doing the damn thing scared. Whether you're dreaming of launching your own podcast, writing a book, or finally going after that idea you've been sitting on, we promise this episode will light a fire under you. And yes, we get vulnerable about our own fears and insecurities—because that's just how we roll. Episode Highlights:[0:00] - Celebrating our one-year podcast anniversary and our 50th episode.[1:28] - The unexpected start and original podcast name that didn't make the cut.[3:06] - Why we felt called to fill a gap for midlife women's voices.[4:39] - Our “just go for it” launch story—no formal course, all in on action.[6:07] - Why starting before you're ready is the key to unlocking clarity.[7:50] - A powerful discussion on perfectionism and how it holds women back.[9:35] - The underrated magic of willingness and how it drives everything.[13:55] - Colette's wild Cornell summer and learning through discomfort.[16:00] - What distress tolerance really looks like in everyday life. [18:44] - Building confidence through action, not waiting to “feel ready”. [24:43] - Laura's real talk on growing your work capacity and attention. [26:58] - Colette's TEDx talk moment and learning to survive embarrassment. [31:48] - Riding the cringe: how to show up, even when it's uncomfortable. [33:07] - Behind the scenes of our partnership and working styles. [34:35] - Announcing our new Midlife Master Class group (coming soon!). [36:45] - The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying and why we're not waiting anymore. [38:00] - A call for listener questions—let us know how we can support YOU. Resources:Visit our website: https://www.insightsfromthecouch.orgSubmit your questions or topics for future episodes: info@insightsfromthecouch.orgWe're beyond grateful to each of you who has listened, shared, or supported Insights from the Couch over this past year. You've helped us build something truly special, and we can't wait to grow even more together. If you loved this episode, please take a moment to rate, follow, share, and review—it means the world to us.See you next week! 

What actually works for healthy, vibrant skin—and what's just hype? In this episode, we sit down with the brilliant and refreshingly honest Dr. Mary Alice Mina, Harvard-trained dermatologist and host of The Skin Real podcast. We dive deep into what midlife skin really needs, what treatments are worth the money, and how hormonal changes can shake up everything we thought we knew about our skincare routines.Together, we unpack skin minimalism, sunscreen truths (spoiler: it really matters), and the difference between aging gracefully and chasing the next trending procedure. We also get personal—sharing our own frustrations about neck bands, droopy brows, and that “face falling” feeling—and ask Dr. Mina everything from estrogen creams to slugging and Botox.  Episode Highlights:[0:02] - Welcoming Dr. Mary Alice Mina and diving into hormonal changes and midlife skin shifts.[3:38] - Our own candid stories about "face falling" and dry, aging skin.[5:00] - The psychological toll of aging and the importance of internal confidence.[8:10] - What “skin minimalism” actually means—and why less really can be more.[11:37] - Estrogen's role in skin hydration and how perimenopause changes everything.[13:53] - Sunscreen strategy: how often to reapply, the importance of hats, and Dr. Mina's favorite brands. [19:07] - Retinoids 101: how and when to use them for best results. [20:26] - All about neck bands: what works (and what doesn't). [26:09] - Estrogen creams for the face: what Dr. Mina prescribes and how it works. [28:58] - Why sleep is skin care and how sleep deprivation shows up on your face. [30:58] - Sunscreen myths, TikTok fads, and Dr. Mina's biggest dermatology pet peeves.[33:59] - Genetics vs. skincare habits—what really makes the difference.[40:16] - Starting or restarting retinoids without overwhelming your skin.[40:39] - Why annual skin checks are essential and how to talk to your dermatologist.[43:31] - How to connect with Dr. Mina and find your “skin style” through her quiz. Resources:Dr. Mary Alice Mina's Podcast: The Skin RealFind your skin style quiz: https://www.theskinreal.com/style Skincare Compounding: Skin Medicinals (estriol cream)Sunscreen favorites: EltaMD, La Roche-Posay, Neutrogena StickInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drminaskin  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drminaskinYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@drminaskinTitktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@drminaskinMedium: https://medium.com/@drminaskinLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drminaskin/Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ph/06k6qtsxj4uvtpulz6w5ghdc8l2gwo/Make sure to visit the “Resources” page on our website www.insightsfromthecouch.org to download the worksheet and take ways that accompany each episode. This is hugely important as we are now creating a download that is unique to each episode and working hard to create an email list to support our programming offerings moving forward.

What happens when you spend your whole life taking care of others, and suddenly realize you've lost yourself in the process? In this powerful episode, we sit down with Debbie R. Weiss, bestselling author, entrepreneur, and inspirational speaker, who shares how she spent decades as a family caregiver—first to her father, then to her son with autism, and later to her husband battling mental illness and cancer. At 50, she had an epiphany: if she didn't start prioritizing herself, she'd keep putting her own life on hold.Debbie opens up about her journey of shifting from a victim mentality to taking ownership of her life, making small mindset shifts that led to massive transformation. We dive into breaking limiting beliefs, overcoming life's toughest challenges, and chasing dreams—even when you're not sure what they are yet. If you've ever felt stuck in your circumstances, this conversation will leave you inspired and ready to take action. Episode Highlights:[0:02] – Meet Debbie R. Weiss: Author, speaker, and lifelong caregiver.[2:28] – Becoming a caregiver at 17: navigating life after her father's stroke.[5:41] – Running a business while balancing caregiving and family responsibilities.[9:39] – The devastating moment when her husband was diagnosed with terminal cancer.[12:12] – Breaking free from the victim mentality and taking responsibility.[17:43] – The mindset shift that finally led to lasting weight loss.[24:55] – How small, consistent actions can transform your life.[31:16] – What Debbie's life looks like now: embracing new possibilities.[38:35] – The power of saying yes and how it led her to writing. [41:22] – Debbie's best advice for women who feel stuck in their circumstances. Resources:Debbie Weiss's Website: https://www.debbierweiss.com Make sure to visit the “Resources” page on our website www.insightsfromthecouch.org to download the worksheet and take ways that accompany each episode. This is hugely important as we are now creating a download that is unique to each episode and working hard to create an email list to support our programming offerings moving forward.

In this heartfelt episode, we're joined by our dear friend and fellow therapist, Helen Keeling-Neal, as she bravely shares her journey through grief after the sudden loss of her husband. Helen opens up about the profound and unexpected challenges that come with navigating life as a young widow and single mom, all while finding ways to heal, grow, and embrace a new path forward. Whether you've experienced a similar loss or simply want to support a loved one going through grief, Helen's story is full of insights, compassion, and real-life wisdom.We explore the complexities of grief, from the early shock and survival mode to the ongoing journey of healing and finding purpose. Helen discusses the tools and support systems that helped her, including therapy and community, and she offers invaluable advice on how to be there for someone experiencing loss.  Episode Highlights:[0:00] - Introducing Helen Keeling-Neal and her story of sudden loss.[2:00] - The immediate impact of losing a spouse and going into “survival mode.”[3:26] - Dealing with the “business of death” and the logistics of loss.[6:54] - Finding support: How friends, family, and community showed up.[9:36] - Coping strategies: Therapy, EMDR, and the importance of avoiding quick fixes.[12:58] - Raising young children through grief and balancing career shifts.[17:51] - Understanding attachment and compound grief in the healing process.[23:31] - Moving forward in new relationships and dealing with fears of loss.[29:19] - Top tips for navigating grief and healing after losing a loved one. Resources:For EMDR therapy: https://www.emdria.org/For ART: https://acceleratedresolutiontherapy.com/To find a therapist for grief near you: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists

Do you find yourself saying “yes” when you really want to say “no”? Do you feel responsible for keeping the peace, even at your own expense? If any of that sounds familiar, this episode is for you. From childhood conditioning and gender expectations to how this behavior shows up in our adult relationships—romantic, professional, and personal—we're talking about it all.In this episode, we get real about our own struggles and growth around people pleasing. We explore the line between kindness and self-abandonment, how saying “no” can actually strengthen relationships, and the subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways we've learned to reclaim our voices. If you've ever wrestled with resentment, vagueness, or fear of being “the bad guy,” you're not alone—and there's a way out. Tune in as we share stories, insights, and actionable strategies for building healthier boundaries without losing your sense of connection. Episode Highlights:[0:00] - Why people pleasing hits so close to home for both of us.[1:14] - The difference between being genuinely kind vs. being "nice" to your own detriment.[3:49] - Laura's story: Growing up flanked by strong personalities and learning to placate.[6:46] - How family patterns condition our conflict tolerance in adulthood.[8:32] - Colette's evolution in romantic relationships and the fear of losing love.[10:11] - Assertiveness is a muscle: why it takes time and practice to break the habit.[11:02] - People pleasing ≠ being confident and kind. It often leads to resentment.[12:51] - Key signs of people pleasing from Psychology Today's checklist.[13:31] - Natural boundaries: how structure and routine can minimize people pleasing.[15:25] - Boundaries at work: why therapy helped us develop clear limits.[17:21] - Practicing assertiveness in safe relationships and why that matters.[22:08] - The real cost of people pleasing on your mental and emotional health.[23:17] - Gabor Maté and the connection between chronic niceness and physical illness.[26:06] - Practical tips: writing out your thoughts, using scripts, and buying time.[30:38] - Parenting and people pleasing: where we still struggle (and how we're working on it).[33:59] - The importance of learning to self-define, and why assertiveness isn't aggressiveness.[34:33] - The Giving Tree metaphor and recognizing when you've become the stump.[36:05] - Final tips: Practice, write it out, externalize, and invest in safe relationships.[37:12] - Where to take the “Are You a People Pleaser?” test and how to connect with us. Resources:Take the “Are You a People Pleaser?” quiz at: https://insightsfromthecouch.orgLearn more about the podcast and access show archives at: Insights From the CouchMake sure to visit the “Resources” page on our website www.insightsfromthecouch.org to download the worksheet and take ways that accompany each episode. This is hugely important as we are now creating a download that is unique to each episode and working hard to create an email list to support our programming offerings moving forward.

In this eye-opening episode, we sit down with Nicole Swartz, a licensed therapist specializing in helping people heal from the damaging effects of diet culture and generational body-image trauma. Nicole shares her personal story of overcoming an eating disorder, offers insights into her revolutionary coaching program, and explains how shifting mindsets around food and body image can create lasting, positive change for both individuals and families. This conversation dives into how diet culture infiltrates our lives, generational differences in attitudes toward body image, and the transformative power of self-compassion and acceptance.  Episode Highlights:[0:03] - Meet Nicole Swartz: Therapist, coach, and passionate advocate for breaking free from diet culture. [5:00] - Nicole's personal journey: From a childhood steeped in diet culture to finding healing and creating her coaching program. [8:35] - How generational differences shape body image and food habits. [13:28] - The rise of body positivity among Gen Z and its cultural impact. [18:24] - Navigating the fine line between self-acceptance and the desire for change. [25:52] - Addressing the challenges of an obesogenic culture and finding balance in food choices. [29:12] - Transforming inner dialogue: How to move from self-criticism to self-compassion. [34:00] - Teaching children a balanced approach to food and body acceptance. [47:51] - Letting go of the shame around food and embracing a healthier narrative. Resources:Connect with Nicole Swartz: https://www.instagram.com/antidiet_therapist Make sure to visit the “Resources” page on our website www.insightsfromthecouch.org to download the worksheet and take ways that accompany each episode. This is hugely important as we are now creating a download that is unique to each episode and working hard to create an email list to support our programming offerings moving forward.

Are you navigating the tricky world of dating after divorce? In this heartfelt and hilarious episode, we sit down with the incredible Andrea Baker, an actor, voiceover artist, and co-host of the pet-centric podcast Tales to Tell. Andrea opens up about her personal journey through divorce, the unexpected twists of dating midlife, and the surprising lessons learned along the way. Together, we explore the challenges of rediscovering yourself, setting boundaries, and embracing both independence and connection.Andrea's candid and relatable storytelling will leave you inspired and laughing, while her practical insights might just reshape how you think about love, self-worth, and new beginnings.  Episode Highlights:[0:01] - Welcoming Andrea Baker and diving into her unique journey post-divorce.[3:09] - The harsh realities of starting to date again after a major breakup.[8:55] - Andrea's wisdom on healing from infidelity and the importance of self-care.[14:25] - The lessons learned from dating younger men and embracing new experiences.[19:52] - Andrea's “onboarding process” for dating—grammar checks included![28:31] - How Andrea turned her divorce into an empowering “freedom tour.”[37:24] - The ultimate takeaway: love yourself first, and live your best life—partner or not.  Resources:Connect with Andrea on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@andreaebaker Listen to Andrea's podcast: Tales to Tell (For pet lovers and professionals alike!): https://open.spotify.com/show/099CknEDl92F3ANh9HFSrz For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Make sure to visit the “Resources” page on our website www.insightsfromthecouch.org to download the worksheet and take ways that accompany each episode. This is hugely important as we are now creating a download that is unique to each episode and working hard to create an email list to support our programming offerings moving forward.

Buckle up. In this episode, we get real about what it's like to raise kids between the ages of 10 to 18 in a world that looks nothing like the one we grew up in. From the emotional rollercoaster of middle school years to navigating social media, anxiety, and the constant pressure to be “on,” we break down the mental load parents are carrying—and what actually helps. Spoiler: It's not control, and it's definitely not panic.Join us as we unpack what long-leash parenting really looks like, why emotional regulation (yours and theirs) is key, and how to create that solid, secure attachment your kids need—without micromanaging them into dysfunction. Whether you're dealing with defiance, withdrawal, or just trying to keep your cool through the chaos, this episode will leave you feeling seen, supported, and maybe even a little more sane. Episode Highlights:[0:03] - Why parenting tweens and teens feels harder than ever. [1:43] - Understanding adolescent brain development and modern challenges. [4:35] - Colette shares her anxious “blue dot” tracking phase and why it's so relatable. [6:13] - The “long leash, large corral” approach to parenting. [10:29] - Replacing lectures with Socratic conversations to foster trust and independence. [13:49] - Colette's unforgettable car ride convo and why staying calm matters. [16:50] - How to view misbehavior as a lack of skills—not a reason to punish. [17:33] - Why regulating your emotions is the parenting superpower. [19:50] - The horse whisperer metaphor that'll change how you parent forever. [24:32] - Parenting the “Polaroid” child: Navigating confusing or unclear behavior. [26:35] - Laura's Life360 obsession and the new realities of teen safety. [30:18] - Why social kids might actually fare better than isolated ones. [33:41] - The dangerous rise of incel ideology and digital radicalization. [34:50] - The case for no phones in schools and delayed access to social media. [36:13] - Rejection in the age of Instagram: why it hits harder now. [38:59] - Talking to your teen about the long game and giving them vision. [40:50] - The crushing pressure of college admissions and why it's unsustainable. [41:41] - Final takeaways: connection over control, collaboration over lecturing. [44:32] - Letting go: Adolescence as labor and the importance of separation. [44:57] - One last reminder: regulate your emotions and help them learn to do the same. Resources:

In this episode of Insights from the Couch, we're joined by Dr. Kelly Kessler, a physical therapist and transformation coach, who's on a mission to help high-achieving women break free from self-abandonment and stress. Kelly shares her own journey of moving from a life of chronic self-sacrifice to one of self-honor and balance, offering strategies that can help you find your way back to yourself. She talks about nervous system regulation, the power of breath work, and why setting boundaries is essential to reclaiming your well-being. Together, we uncover why it's crucial for women to prioritize their emotional and physical health, even in the midst of busy, driven lives. From techniques like the physiological sigh to embracing your inner critic with compassion, Dr. Kessler's approach is both gentle and transformative. Tune in for practical tips, grounding insights, and actionable steps to start putting yourself first. Episode Highlights:[0:00] – Welcome and introduction to Dr. Kelly Kessler's background and mission.[1:14] – Kelly shares her journey from self-abandonment to self-care and transformation.[4:33] – Defining self-abandonment and how it impacts high-functioning women.[6:51] – Recognizing patterns of perfectionism and external validation in personal and professional lives.[9:48] – Breathwork as a gateway to slowing down and self-connection.[12:33] – Starting small: how breathwork and gentle exercise initiated Kelly's healing journey.[15:39] – Introducing the “physiological sigh” breath technique and its calming effects.[20:30] – Exploring the connection between body, mind, and anxiety management.[23:38] – Taming the inner critic and cultivating self-compassion through daily practices.[27:46] – The role of boundaries in self-care and why they're essential for personal peace.[34:08] – The grief of setting boundaries and the empowerment it brings.[38:27] – Final takeaways: honoring yourself as a non-negotiable priority. Resources:Dr. Kelly Kessler's Website – Optimal You Health and Wellness – Find resources, coaching, and programs for personal transformation.Free Guide: Eight Daily Practices for Self-Loyalty and Nervous System Harmony – Available on her website.Follow Dr. Kelly on Instagram: @drkellykessler

We're back for Season 4 of Insights From the Couch: Mental Health at Midlife, and we're kicking things off with a juicy deep dive into the twisted psychological underpinnings of HBO's The White Lotus. As therapists and mega-fans of the show, we couldn't resist unpacking the layers of sex, power, betrayal, and just downright messed-up family dynamics in this season. From the uncomfortably intimate Ratcliffe family to the passive-aggressive unraveling of a trio of longtime female friends, we're peeling back the layers and asking—what's really going on beneath the surface?In this episode, we explore themes of toxic relationships, sibling incest, sociopathy, competitive female dynamics, and intergenerational trauma—all through a therapist's lens. We're talking character analysis, psychological patterns, and the emotional truth hiding beneath the satire. Episode Highlights:[0:02] - Kicking off Season 4 and diving into the dark psychology of The White Lotus. [2:38] - Introducing the Ratcliffe family and the incest bombshell no one saw coming. [6:25] - Power, rivalry, and the emerging sociopathic traits in Lachlan. [11:15] - Southern charm, status obsession, and the mother's fragile identity. [14:21] - Over-the-top satire: suicide, wealth, and emotional unraveling. [16:19] - Incest in pop culture and real-world psychological roots. [19:58] - The intergenerational transmission of incest and suicidality. [21:46] - Capitalism and class anxiety: when status is life-or-death. [22:29] - The unraveling of female friendship: Lori, Kate, and Jacqueline. [27:57] - Confrontation, gaslighting, and covert female aggression. [30:58] - Who are these women now? Friendship vs. shared history. [33:17] - Jacqueline's betrayal: narcissism, jealousy, and dominance. [36:53] - Competition, attention-seeking, and the hunger for power. [38:16] - Amy Lou and Chelsea: emotional honesty and groundedness. [40:56] - Does Gary have an agenda? The mysterious billionaire's next move. [43:07] - Frank's dark monologue and Rick's wake-up call. [45:19] - Looking ahead to the finale and how it might all unfold. [47:01] - A toast to The White Lotus and a possible finale viewing party. Resources:

Let's get into one of our favorite topics—creativity and life force. Have you ever felt stuck or disconnected from your true self? In this episode, we explore how creativity can be a powerful tool to reconnect with your life force and live your best life. Whether it's through artistic practices, engaging with nature, or simply tuning into your surroundings, we discuss practical ways to awaken your creative energy and feel more alive.Join us as we share personal anecdotes, practical tips, and insights from influential books that have inspired us, including Rick Rubin's "The Creative Act: A Way of Being" and Julia Cameron's "The Artist's Way." Discover how small, intentional practices can help you access your creativity, overcome resistance, and embrace the full spectrum of your life force.Episode Highlights:[1:01] - Colette shares how life force impacts her energy and when she feels disconnected. [2:05] - Laura defines creativity as engagement with life, not just artistic skill. [3:43] - Colette talks about The Creative Act: A Way of Being by Rick Rubin and The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron. [5:33] - How low-level distractions like social media prevent us from tapping into higher creative energy. [8:38] - The power of boredom and stillness in unlocking new ideas and creativity. [10:09] - Numbing behaviors like TV, food, and social media, and why we turn to them when disconnected. [12:11] - Colette reflects on a “spring break” period of fun and the balance of creative engagement. [14:23] - Laura shares how engagement with the world boosts energy and life force. [19:15] - The importance of practices like the Artist Date and Morning Pages from Julia Cameron's The Artist's Way. [26:18] - How exercise and movement can open the mind and unlock creative potential. [30:19] - Colette and Laura discuss overcoming self-doubt and fear of failure in the creative process. [34:52] - Final reflections on life force and how creativity helps you live your best life.Resources:

Ever wondered how mindfulness, neuroscience, and therapy intersect to create profound healing? In this episode, we're thrilled to chat with Natalie Baker, a licensed psychotherapist, meditation teacher, and Neurofeedback expert. Natalie shares how her unique blend of Eastern and Western psychology—alongside cutting-edge brain training techniques—helps people overcome anxiety, trauma, and other challenges. From rewiring the brain for resilience to cultivating self-awareness, Natalie's holistic approach inspires balance and growth.We dive into fascinating topics like neuroplasticity, how neurofeedback taps into your brain's natural ability to reset, and why meditation is more than just a stress-relief tool.  Episode Highlights:[0:03] - Introducing Natalie Baker and her groundbreaking work in holistic healing. [2:30] - How Natalie's personal journey led her to integrate meditation and therapy. [7:08] - Neurofeedback 101: What it is, how it works, and why it's transformative. [13:39] - A powerful story of trauma healing through Neurofeedback on a limbic level. [20:52] - Breaking free from survival mode: practical applications of brain training. [30:53] - Tapping into intuition through “First Thought, Best Thought” exercises. [36:32] - Embracing meditation as a tool for self-awareness and emotional balance. Resources:Natalie's Neurofeedback Services: neurofeedbacktraining.comBuddhist Psychotherapy Practice: buddhistpsychotherapyny.comYouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@Neurofeedbacktraining 

In this episode, we tackle the challenging topic of the Sandwich Generation – those caught between raising children and caring for aging parents while managing their own careers and lives. Let's get into the emotional, financial, and physical toll this can take. We will offer practical advice on how to cope without losing oneself to help you navigate this demanding phase of life.We will discuss strategies for setting boundaries, asking for help, and maintaining your well-being. Whether in the thick of it or just preparing for what's ahead, this episode provides relatable experiences and actionable tips to help you find balance and support.Episode Highlights:[1:58] - Real-life client stories and the impact of teenage children and ill parents.[4:29] - Shocking statistics about the time demands on the Sandwich Generation.[6:07] - Emotional and financial burdens of caregiving, even with strained family dynamics.[8:55] - The pervasive guilt and resentment felt by many caregivers.[10:55] - Personal experiences and the challenges of asking for help.[15:25] - The Giving Tree analogy and the dangers of giving too much without receiving support.[18:30] - The importance of direct communication and setting boundaries.[20:30] - Healthy coping mechanisms and the importance of self-care.[30:01] - Recap key strategies and proactive self-care's importance.Resources:

In this episode, we're inviting you into a conversation that might just change the way you think about sexuality, agency, and self-discovery. We're joined by the incredible Dr. Juliana Hauser, a psychologist, sex educator, and thought leader in holistic sexuality. If you're wondering what that means, you're not alone! Dr. Juliana walks us through the nine pillars of holistic sexuality and why understanding ourselves as sexual beings is the "final frontier" of self-development.We explore everything from sexual agency and desire in midlife to the unspoken barriers that hold us back from fully embracing our sexuality. Plus, we tackle the cultural shame, myths, and misunderstandings that have shaped our sexual identities—and how to break free from them. Whether you're in a long-term relationship and struggling with intimacy, single and rediscovering yourself, or simply curious about what it means to live a more sexually confident life, this episode has value for you. Get ready for an open, honest, and sometimes hilarious conversation that will leave you with a whole new perspective on pleasure, connection, and self-expression. Episode Highlights:[00:03] - Introducing Dr. Juliana Hauser and what "holistic sexuality" really means.[01:23] - The nine pillars of holistic sexuality and why they matter in self-discovery.[06:49] - Why so many of us avoid thinking about our sexual selves—and how to start the journey.[12:23] - There are no wrong answers! How agency and consent play a role in shaping our sexual identity.[17:50] - The differences in how men and women experience sexual conversations and why men are "desperate" for safe spaces to talk.[24:31] - How couples can start talking about their sex lives without fear, shame, or defensiveness.[27:16] - Midlife sexual awakenings—what happens when someone truly embraces their desires?[34:31] - The "four quadrant" exercise: a simple yet powerful way to explore your yeses and nos.[42:38] - Why sex takes work—and how curiosity can completely transform your intimate life.[51:45] - A fun, hands-on (literally) way to understand your sensuality and personal touch preferences.[54:46] - How to learn more about Dr. Juliana's course Revealed and her upcoming book, A New Position on Sex. Resources:Dr. Juiliana's website: https://dr-juliana.com/ The Revealed Life: an evolved sex ed platform: https://therevealedlife.com/ Social Media: @drjulianahauserKeep an eye out for Dr. Juliana's upcoming book: A New Position on Sex: A Guide to Greater Sexual Confidence, Authenticity, and Pleasure (Coming Fall 2025)

Hey everyone, Colette and Laura here! This week, we're diving deep into one of the biggest, most emotionally loaded topics: What makes a good mother? If you're a parent (or ever had one), you've likely asked yourself this question in some form—whether it's self-reflection, societal pressure, or those internalized voices from childhood.We unpack the emotional complexities of motherhood, the impact of attachment, and how our childhood experiences shape the way we parent. Plus, we dive into the wild case of Ruby Franke—the “mommy blogger” turned convicted abuser—to contrast what real maternal love looks like versus performative parenting. We also get personal about our own mothering styles, the mistakes we've made, and the lessons we've learned. This episode is raw, honest, and full of insights that might just shift the way you think about motherhood. Episode Highlights:[0:02] – Kicking off the conversation: What really makes a “good mother”?[1:44] – The constant self-questioning of moms: Am I doing this right?[2:11] – The shocking case of Ruby Franke—what happens when motherhood is all about image and control.[6:37] – How we model (or reject) our own mothers' parenting styles.[10:14] – One of the most critical traits of a good mom: Knowing where you end and your child begins.[12:30] – The emotional burden some mothers put on their children (and how to break the cycle).[15:29] – The role of discipline: Leading with warmth vs. using shame and control.[21:10] – Parenting different personalities: How to adapt to your child's unique needs.[23:53] – Why the parent-child relationship is always top-down (yes, even when your kids are adults).[31:15] – What our own kids say makes a good mom (these answers might surprise you!).[36:35] – The lifelong impact of emotional safety and feeling unconditionally loved.[42:42] – Why telling kids an age-appropriate truth is crucial for their stability and trust.[46:24] – The viral “Door Holder #3” moment that perfectly captures great parenting.  Resources:Door Holder Number 3 Video: https://youtube.com/shorts/T8AlmEjmtLU?si=1-eDTo6MSAesGgkj For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more! 

Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) has long been misunderstood, especially in women and girls. In this episode, we're joined by Dr. Brady Bradshaw and Dr. Allison Brazendale, two experts in adolescent and adult mental health, to break down why ASD is often underdiagnosed in females. We dive into pink flags, the subtle signs that might indicate ASD, and discuss why so many girls and women go undiagnosed for years. Plus, we explore the overlap between ASD and ADHD, the role of sensory sensitivities, and how understanding ASD can lead to greater self-acceptance and connection. Episode Highlights:[00:03] – Welcome back! Introducing our expert guests, Dr. Brady Bradshaw and Dr. Allison Brazendale, and today's topic: ASD in women and girls.[01:55] – Why is autism so often underdiagnosed in females? Breaking down outdated stereotypes and the challenges of diagnosis.[04:18] – Pink flags: The subtle early signs of ASD in girls that are often overlooked.[06:50] – The effortful nature of social interactions and why masking can be exhausting.[09:56] – How girls on the spectrum struggle with friendships and group dynamics.[12:36] – The overlap between ADHD and autism—how to tell the difference.[14:45] – What's happening in the brain? Understanding the neurobiological differences of ASD.[23:37] – Sensory sensitivities: Why environments like grocery stores can feel overwhelming.[26:25] – Breaking the stigma: How the conversation around ASD is shifting, and why some are resistant to the diagnosis.[33:13] – Signs of ASD in adult women—what to look for if you suspect you or someone you know might be on the spectrum.[38:45] – ASD and relationships: Challenges in communication, perspective-taking, and emotional connection.[47:55] – The strengths of ASD: Deep focus, intelligence, and unique ways of seeing the world. Resources:Dr. Brady Bradshaw's website: https://www.bradybradshawmd.com/ Book: Is This Autism? https://www.amazon.com/This-Autism-Donna-Henderson/dp/103215022X/ref=asc_df_103215022X?mcid=c3343feccc2d380f97695f5d35  For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

In this week's episode, we take a deep dive into anxiety—something that affects nearly 20% of the population and twice as many women as men. We chat about the different ways anxiety can show up in your life, the underlying causes, and the tools you can use to cope. Whether it's hormonal fluctuations, past trauma, or just the demands of our fast-paced culture, anxiety can hit us all, but there's hope for healing and thriving.We also share our own experiences with anxiety (yep, even therapists feel it!) and discuss effective approaches like EMDR, exposure response prevention, and mindfulness. You'll walk away with a better understanding of anxiety and practical tips to help you or someone you care about take control. Episode Highlights:[00:00] - Reflecting on our personal experiences with anxiety.[02:56] - How anxiety manifests differently in women, from Type A tendencies to the effects of hormonal shifts.[07:18] - Exploring the “volcano metaphor” for anxiety and the hidden cultural, genetic, and environmental layers that contribute.[14:05] - Common triggers for anxiety, from childhood experiences to significant life events, and their impact on mental health.[21:27] - The role of fear and how it connects to anxiety, plus how to push through when it matters most.[28:49] - Simple yet powerful coping strategies like exercise, mindfulness, and being in nature.[39:36] - The importance of exposure therapy and facing fears gradually to build resilience.[45:20] - Why medication is a valuable option for managing clinical anxiety and overcoming stigma around it.[53:16] - Lifestyle strategies like diet, sleep, and relaxation techniques to ease everyday anxiety.[1:01:56] - Recommended books and resources for learning more about anxiety and effective treatments.Resources:Recommended reading:The Anatomy of Anxiety by Dr. Ellen VoraFeel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan JeffersMore book recommendations are listed on our website!For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

Today we sit down with the incredible Cait Flanders to explore what it really means to live an intentional life. Cait, author of The Year of Less and Adventures in Opting Out, shares her journey of opting out of societal norms, creating life on her own terms, and learning how to navigate her way through sobriety, minimalism, and self-compassion. Cait opens up about her decision to quit drinking, her shopping ban that led to a massive decluttering of her life—both physically and emotionally—and the tough but necessary journey of finding clarity through less. This is an episode about finding peace in simplicity, courage in self-awareness, and learning how to let go of what no longer serves us. Episode Highlights:[02:27] - Letting go of relationships and finding peace with personal boundaries.[06:12] - Societal pressure and opting out of the social “noise”.[06:30] - Welcoming Cait as she joins us to share her story firsthand.[07:55] - Cait's shopping ban: how decluttering and minimalism started her journey.[11:34] - Evolving from financial goals to a deeper emotional transformation.[15:37] - Navigating sobriety and finding healthy coping mechanisms.[18:26] - Facing raw emotions during the year of less and embracing vulnerability.[24:15] - Cait's dad on sobriety: “It's so much better on this side”.[26:35] - Self-compassion and letting go of shame for past choices.[31:20] - Cultivating resilience and self-trust through intentional change.[35:49] - Embracing emotional growth and self-connection to enrich relationships. Connect with Cait Flanders:Website: https://www.caitflanders.com/ Newsletter: https://caitflanders.substack.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/caitflanders  For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

In this heartfelt and inspiring episode, we sit down with the incredible Sandy Weiner, internationally recognized dating coach, TEDx speaker, best-selling author, and host of Last First Date Radio. Sandy shares her journey of rediscovering love at midlife and the empowering lessons she's learned about dating, self-knowledge, and personal growth. We dive into her holistic approach to dating and relationships, explore the surprising ways midlifers can find lasting love, and discuss what it really takes to build a meaningful relationship at this stage of life. Join us as we uncover the keys to finding—and keeping—a lasting love. Episode Highlights:[00:00] - Introduction to Sandy Weiner and her inspiring journey to becoming a dating and relationship coach.[05:25] - The influence of family dynamics on our approach to relationships.[07:22] - Coaching highlights and witnessing clients grow into fulfilling relationships.[13:05] - Staying open to unexpected romantic connections, even in unlikely places.[18:51] - The rise of self-sufficient women at midlife and the choice to remain single unless a partner adds genuine value.[20:48] - Overcoming the most common dating obstacles and the importance of a growth mindset.[29:38] - Knowing and respecting your “operating system” in relationships.[30:49] - Secrets to making love last, from self-improvement to embracing compatibility over chemistry.  Resources:Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate/  Website: http://lastfirstdate.com/  Last First Date Radio Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/last-first-date-radio/id586220219?mt=2 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lastfirstdate1/  YouTube Last First Date https://youtube.com/@Lastfirstdate  Free Gift: Book Bonuses for Love at Last:  https://lastfirstdate.com/love-at-last-book-bonuses-sign-up-page/  https://lastfirstdate.com/loveatlastbonus For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

In today's episode of Insights from the Couch, we discuss the evolving conversation around work, family, and redefining what it means to take a career pause. Joined by Neha Ruch, founder of the platform Mother Untitled, we explore the insights from her upcoming book, The Power Pause, and how it encourages women to embrace career downshifts or pauses with confidence and purpose. Neha shares her journey of moving from corporate ambition to an intentional family-focused life, challenging outdated beliefs that staying at home and career ambitions are mutually exclusive.Together, we explore the fluidity in women's career choices, discuss the economic and social shifts that allow flexibility in work-family balance, and the importance of owning your unique journey without shame or fear.  Episode Highlights:[0:00] – Introduction to the episode and welcoming Neha Ruch, founder of Mother Untitled.[1:34] – Neha shares her journey from corporate life to embracing a career pause.[4:47] – Discussing the cultural expectations and shifting narratives around motherhood and career.[7:26] – The pandemic's impact on work-life balance and caregiving in America.[11:16] – The real financial considerations in choosing to stay at home or pause a career.[13:36] – Maximizing a career pause: Personal growth and keeping the door open for future work.[18:15] – Why developing an “expansive identity” during family life stages can lead to a stronger career reentry.[23:10] – Addressing fears about a “resume gap” and reframing it as a “career portfolio.”[27:02] – What America can learn from other countries about family leave and healthcare.[29:23] – The role of social media in supporting flexible work and women-owned businesses.[32:08] – Tips for finding flexible work options that align with your family's needs. Resources:Neha's platform supporting women in family-focused career choices - https://www.motheruntitled.com/ This is a game-changing strategic guide for mothers in career shifts Amazon or Bookshop.org Follow on Instagram: @motheruntitledFor more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

This week, we're joined by the incredible Dr. Marnie Feuerman, a renowned couples therapist and author of Ghosted and Breadcrumbed. Together, we tackle the heart-wrenching question so many face: Should I stay in this relationship or should I leave? Dr. Marnie shares her wisdom on navigating divorce ambivalence, emotional disconnection, and the power of discernment counseling to find clarity and confidence. Are you in a “gray divorce” phase or just questioning your connection? The insights Dr. Marni Feuerman shares can help you move forward with intention.We talk about the importance of emotional availability, how systemic understanding can transform relational dynamics, and why some relationships struggle during midlife transitions. Dr. Marnie also unpacks the nuances of attachment styles and how they shape the way couples connect or disconnect. Don't miss this candid and compassionate conversation that may just help you find the clarity you've been searching for. Episode Highlights:[00:02] - Introducing Dr. Marnie Feuerman and her expertise in relationship counseling.[01:56] - Dr. Marnie shares her perspective on why divorce ambivalence is so common and the complexities behind such a monumental decision.[05:23] - Discussing "gray divorce" and how empty nest syndrome can magnify marital issues.[08:05] - The impact of menopause and hormonal changes on intimacy and connection in relationships.[11:39] - Emotional unavailability explained: What it looks like, how it affects relationships, and the role of attachment styles.[15:55] - Colette reflects on her own experience with emotional disconnection in a marriage.[20:23] - The "lottery test" question: A surprising way to explore how someone feels about staying in their marriage.[26:34] - The difference between being “in love” versus experiencing a deeper, companionate love.[30:48] - Dr. Marnie explains discernment counseling: What it is and how it helps couples clarify their next steps.[36:30] - Why couples therapy requires at least one “cheerleader” for the relationship to succeed.[41:22] - Final takeaways: Why seeking professional guidance with a systemic approach is essential when facing relationship crossroads. Resources:Dr. Marni Feuerman's Website: https://www.drmarnionline.com/ Dr. Marni Feuerman's Psychotherapy: https://thetalkingsolution.com/ Dr. Marni Feuerman's Book: Ghosted and Breadcrumbed: Stop Falling for Unavailable Men and Get Smart about Healthy RelationshipsFor more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

Welcome to season three of Insights From The Couch! We are kicking off 2025 with an inspiring discussion about creating real, meaningful change as we step into the New Year. Should you set resolutions or focus on intentions? Is there a "right" way to build habits? In this episode, we unpack the science of habit formation, the power of identity-based goals, and what it means to take radical responsibility for your life. You'll hear practical advice, motivational stories, and strategies to keep you inspired long after January ends.Join us as we explore how tiny, incremental changes can lead to monumental shifts in your life and why embracing both discipline and self-compassion is key to achieving your goals. Whether you're looking to tackle fitness, finances, or personal growth, this episode will leave you ready to take action—one small step at a time. Episode Highlights:[0:03] - Introducing season three and the concept of meaningful New Year's change. [2:34] - Exploring SMART goals vs. wildly improbable goals and why you need both vision and incremental action. [6:24] - The science of habit formation: Atomic Habits, tiny habits, and why small changes matter. [10:53] - Radical responsibility: owning your life and choices, and why this is the foundation for change. [16:17] - Reading “The Risks of Autonomy” and reflecting on its powerful message of personal accountability. [23:11] - Personal stories of significant life changes, from quitting smoking to overcoming financial struggles. [36:22] - The importance of discipline and consistency in creating lasting habits. [43:19] - Starting small: how a 2-minute habit can transform your life. [52:40] - Doubling down on your strengths and why change isn't just about fixing weaknesses. Resources:For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

The holidays can be stressful, but what if we shifted our focus to finding the little joys in life? In our final mini-episode of the season, we explore how to chase, find, and savor those joyful nuggets that make life sweeter—whether it's a perfectly brewed cup of coffee, a warm hug, or a deep connection with someone you love. Join us for an honest, playful, and heartwarming conversation about creating more joy, even when life feels heavy.Episode Highlights:  [1:43] - Why it's hard for some to find joy and how intentionality changes everything.  [2:31] - How small sensory pleasures like coffee, hot showers, and morning runs keep Laura grounded and joyful.  [5:21] - The power of meaningful relationships, deep conversations, and shared moments of vulnerability.  [10:09] - The importance of letting loose, embracing fun, and finding freedom in the little things.  [12:47] - How mindfulness, humor, and gratitude transform the mundane into magic.  [19:42] - A simple tool for keeping perspective and reducing frustration when life gets stressful.  [21:23] - A reminder to live true to yourself and prioritize what really matters.  Resources:For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Stay tuned—Season 3 launches on January 8, 2025!

The holiday season is here, and with it comes a whirlwind of emotions, from joy to exhaustion. In this episode, we share our personal takes on navigating holiday stress, family dynamics, and the pressure to meet societal expectations. Fresh off our podcast trip to Delray Beach, Florida, we reflect on the importance of bite-sized joy, balancing traditions, and the struggles of managing festive obligations. If you're feeling the weight of the season, this conversation will resonate deeply. Join us as we unpack everything from decorating woes to finding gratitude amidst the chaos.Expect laughter, honest moments, and practical tips to help you find peace and joy during the holidays. This episode is your guide to a more mindful and intentional season. Episode Highlights:[0:03] - Reminiscing about our recent podcast trip to Delray Beach.[3:13] - Holiday decorating dilemmas: Why putting up ornaments feels more like a chore this year.[7:09] - The pressures of "forced joy" during the holidays and longing for a reset.[16:04] - Dreaming of an ideal holiday getaway: Exploring the balance between relaxation and adventure.[27:07] - Alternate career dreams: From museum curator to Dateline investigator.[35:10] - Exploring societal anger and the intriguing case of the UnitedHealthcare CEO murder.[40:13] - How gratitude practices and "brain rot" TV marathons can coexist during the holidays. Resources:For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

We're back with a special holiday-themed minisode series! While today's conversation isn't centered on the holidays, we dive into meaningful topics that will resonate with anyone navigating midlife, health, and self-care. This week, we reflect on gratitude, personal growth, and takeaways from an incredible women's health summit we attended. Whether it's about dealing with holiday stress or embracing life's challenges, we're here to share insights and invite your questions. Plus, don't miss our discussion on perimenopause, menopause, and why understanding your health is the ultimate gift to yourself.Episode Highlights[0:59] - Colette and Laura share their Thanksgiving recaps and the art of embracing rejection.  [5:00] - How visualization and positive thinking can guide personal growth and resilience.  [10:43] - Key takeaways from the Women's Health Summit: the truth about menopause, hormone therapy, and why muscle mass matters.  [15:30] - The risks of ignoring perimenopause and why women's health research is so vital.  [21:40] - Building better fitness habits: heavy lifting, brisk walking, and redefining self-care.  [26:55] - How mindset can make midlife the most vibrant chapter of your life.  For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

The holiday season is here, and with it comes joy, challenges, and plenty of stress. In this special episode we tackle the big issues that make the holidays overwhelming—from managing expectations and setting boundaries to dealing with financial stress and navigating family dynamics. We share our candid personal stories and practical strategies to help you stay grounded, embrace self-care, and survive (or even thrive!) this holiday season.  Episode Highlights:[2:45] – Stressful moments as parents during the holidays: when the magic of Christmas becomes all work.[4:12] – Colette shares her story of a solo Christmas and the importance of reframing loneliness.[7:08] – Why opting out of traditional holiday expectations can be liberating.[9:16] – Handling family dynamics and setting boundaries for visits.[14:47] – Letting go of people-pleasing and prioritizing your own well-being.[20:47] – Parenting through the holidays: supporting grown kids without guilt or pressure.[24:13] – Navigating tricky family conversations around politics and other hot-button issues.[28:03] – How to balance indulgence with self-care during the holiday season. Resources:For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

In this episode of Insights from the Couch, we're thrilled to sit down with the amazing Jen Bisbee, Executive Producer of the upcoming documentary “What Hugh Knew” and owner of the renowned PR firm, Bisbee and Co. Jen shares her journey of discovering the profound importance of human connection, both through her film and personal experiences. We dive into how technology has shifted our relationships, especially for teens, and explore the balance between the digital and real world. Plus, we get an inside look at the inspiration behind her powerful documentary, which has been 40 years in the making and celebrates community, friendship, and living life authentically offline. Trust us, you'll want to hear Jen's insights on how to reconnect in today's tech-obsessed world.If you've ever felt the tug between staying connected online and nurturing real-life relationships, this episode will speak to you. Jen offers thoughtful tips on digital wellness and shares stories that remind us all of the joy that comes from simply being together. Whether you're raising teens in the social media age or just seeking more balance in your life, this conversation will inspire you to rethink how you connect. Episode Highlights:[00:00] - Introduction: Welcoming Jen Bisbee and the story behind her journey into filmmaking and PR.[1:43] - What “What Hugh Knew” is all about: Exploring human connection, friendship, and balance in the digital age.[5:25] - The lasting power of traditions: Celebrating 40 years of the Hugh Shaw Memorial Surf Classic.[7:27] - How technology is impacting teens: Jen shares alarming statistics about social media use and mental health in teens.[11:12] - Finding balance: The importance of digital wellness and setting boundaries with technology.[17:36] - Practical tips for reconnecting offline: Jen offers suggestions for disconnecting and finding real-life moments of joy.[25:14] - The impact of polarized media: How technology has shifted the way we consume news and connect with different viewpoints.[35:19] - The heart of What Hugh Knew: Jen reflects on the film's central message about community and human connection. Resources:For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

Hey, everyone! Welcome back to another episode of Insights from the Couch! We are thrilled to have the incredible Jacqueline Whitmore with us today. Jacqueline is America's foremost etiquette expert, author, and certified speaking professional. In this episode, we explore the importance of professional presence, intentionality in your career, and how to navigate pivotal transitions. Jacqueline shares her journey from hospitality marketing to becoming a leading voice in etiquette, offering valuable insights on building confidence, developing your personal brand, and mastering the art of making others feel comfortable. Tune in for a conversation that is as enlightening as it is empowering! Episode Highlights:[0:00] - Welcome and introduction of guest Jacqueline Whitmore, etiquette expert and author. [1:11] - Professional success must be intentional. Jacqueline shares why. [3:50] - The importance of planning and setting goals, especially for women moving into leadership roles. [5:48] - Defining etiquette and why it's about making others feel comfortable, not just manners. [8:10] - Transitioning careers and how to take those first steps, including finding a mentor and continuing education. [12:01] - Building confidence through trial and error, and why failure doesn't define you. [16:00] - The challenges women face with confidence, especially in high-paying jobs and leadership roles. [19:24] - Communicating assertively while staying poised and maintaining professionalism. [25:12] - How to control your emotions in high-pressure situations and become a respected leader. [30:12] - Breaking out of your comfort zone: Why you need to challenge yourself to grow. [31:20] - Acknowledging the importance of mentorship and relationship-building in your career. [34:49] - Networking tips: How introverts and ambiverts can excel at making meaningful connections. [38:38] - Final reflections on living "above the line" with intentionality in your professional life. Resources:Jacqueline Whitmore's website: https://etiquetteexpert.com/ For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

In this episode of Insights from the Couch, we are back with Vanessa Reiser for part two of our deep dive into narcissistic abuse. We continue unpacking the signs, behaviors, and long-term effects of dealing with narcissists, including the devastating post-separation abuse that often follows the end of these toxic relationships. Vanessa explains key terms like gaslighting, hoovering, and supply, providing listeners with practical tips on how to recognize and protect themselves from narcissistic behaviors.Vanessa also offers valuable insight into what recovery looks like—how to escape, heal, and rebuild your life after enduring this form of psychological manipulation. If you've ever struggled in a relationship with a narcissist or suspect someone in your life might be manipulating you, this episode is a must-listen. You'll walk away feeling empowered and ready to reclaim your life. Episode Highlights:[1:39] - Understanding key terms like gaslighting, hoovering, and narcissistic supply.[6:00] - What is hoovering? Why narcissists come back, and how to protect yourself.[7:45] - What happens when you cause "narcissistic injury"? The risks of confronting a narcissist.[10:40] - Can you neutralize a narcissist in a relationship if you can't leave? Practical advice.[12:01] - How to safely get out of a relationship with a narcissist: Tips for planning your exit.[14:01] - Minimizing contact and communication with a narcissist when planning to leave.[19:29] - Encouraging your children to think independently to avoid narcissistic relationships.[21:42] - First steps in emotional healing after leaving a narcissist.[24:13] - Finding the right therapist or coach for support and how to protect yourself legally. Resources:For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

In this episode of Insights from the Couch, we dive into the complex world of narcissistic abuse with the incredible Vanessa Reiser, a licensed clinical social worker specializing in narcissistic and cult abuse. Together, we explore what it's really like to experience this insidious form of domestic violence, how to identify narcissistic behaviors early on, and the warning signs that often go unnoticed until it's too late. Vanessa shares her personal story of surviving narcissistic abuse, shedding light on the psychological manipulation that victims face and the steps they can take to heal and escape.This episode is packed with insights on understanding narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), the difference between someone acting narcissistically versus having NPD, and the trauma bonds that make it so difficult for victims to break free. Whether you're dealing with a narcissist in your life or just curious about the subject, this episode will open your eyes to the tactics used by these master manipulators and the hope that lies in recovery. Episode Highlights:[3:10] - Vanessa's personal journey: From working in the Bronx to becoming an advocate for domestic violence survivors.[6:10] - What is narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) and how does it differ from narcissistic behavior?[9:22] - Red flags to watch for in a relationship: Love bombing, superficial charm, and fast-moving affection.[12:46] - How long can a narcissist hold their mask before revealing their true self?[15:33] - The dangerous cycle of abuse and why victims struggle to leave.[18:25] - The role of intermittent reinforcement and how victims become addicted to the narcissist's approval.[22:16] - The biological and psychological factors that drive narcissistic behavior. Resources:For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

In this eye-opening episode, we sit down with author and journalist Melissa Petro, whose new book, Shame on You: How to Be a Woman in the Age of Mortification, delves into the complex world of shame and societal judgment. Melissa brings her unique perspective, shaped by her own experiences in the sex trade and as a mother, to explore how shame affects women in both public and private spheres. We get into how women are often burdened with shame from a young age, and Melissa shares how she's navigated the harsh terrain of public shaming, including a scandal that nearly ended her career. She also offers practical insights on developing "shame resilience" and creating safe spaces for healing.We unpack everything from body image and motherhood to the cultural narratives that reinforce shame. Whether you've struggled with feelings of inadequacy or have felt judged for choices in your personal life, this episode offers a thoughtful and compassionate look at how we can break free from societal expectations and find strength in our authentic selves. Tune in to explore Melissa's journey and find out how we can all cultivate resilience against shame! Episode Highlights:[0:04] - Meet Melissa Petro: author, journalist, and advocate for women navigating shame and public scrutiny.[1:38] - The inspiration behind Shame on You and Melissa's personal journey from public scandal to resilience.[3:52] - The societal pressures on women around body image and motherhood, and how shame is often weaponized.[8:57] - Navigating the double bind of using sexuality as power while dealing with the shame that follows.[17:14] - The impact of mass media shaming and how Melissa coped with being in the public eye.[26:07] - Exploring the concept of "shame resilience" and why finding safe spaces is crucial for healing.[32:17] - Melissa's insights on body acceptance and how to challenge internalized shame in today's culture.[37:15] - The power of empathy and connecting with others as a path to overcoming shame. Links and Resources:Melissa Petro's Book: Shame on You: How to Be a Woman in the Age of MortificationMelissa's recent article in Time Magazine: Read Here For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

In this follow-up to last week's conversation on the emotional lives of men, we bring you a special “Men Tell All” episode with guests Josh Mora and Dennis Williams. Josh and Dennis, hosts of The Back 9 podcast, open up about what it's really like for men navigating relationships, dating, and personal growth in midlife. We get candid about the challenges and rewards of dating after divorce, the importance of male friendships, and how men process emotions in ways you might not expect. You'll hear honest takes on vulnerability, authenticity, and setting boundaries, plus some surprising insights into male sexuality and relationship expectations at this stage of life. Tune in to hear what men wish women knew, explore why male friendships are essential, and discuss the ups and downs of midlife dating.  Episode Highlights:[0:04] - We introduce Josh Mora and Dennis Williams, hosts of The Back 9 podcast.[1:08] - Josh and Dennis share their experiences dating after long marriages.[3:37] - The importance of self-confidence and setting boundaries in new relationships.[7:00] - What men really value in a partner: authenticity and direct communication.[15:21] - Talking about male sexuality and how it changes (or doesn't) in midlife.[20:01] - Josh and Dennis discuss dating age preferences and how they've evolved.[25:24] - Why male friendships matter and how they've maintained theirs for decades.[32:36] - Wrapping up with reflections on healing, growth, and moving past resentment. Resources:The Back 9 Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-back-9/id1717609674  For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

Welcome back to another insightful episode of "Insights from the Couch: Mental Health at Midlife." Today, we're diving deep into a topic that's both complex and essential—the emotional lives of men. We often hear that men are the strong, silent types, but what's really going on beneath that composed exterior? How do societal expectations and upbringing shape men's emotional expressions? We explore these questions and more, offering a compassionate look at the vulnerabilities men face and how they navigate their emotional landscapes.In this episode, we discuss the common challenges men encounter when trying to express their feelings, the impact of societal norms, and the crucial role partners play in fostering a supportive environment for emotional openness.  Episode Highlights:[00:37] - The Duck Analogy: smooth surface and frantic kicking below.[04:06] - The Three F's: Feed, F**k, Flatter—simplified emotional needs.[06:10] - The Bad Partner Communication Report Card: defensiveness, dismissiveness, distancing, and fixing.[07:40] - The Challenge of Vulnerability: men's emotional conditioning.[09:11] - Societal Expectations: how culture shapes male emotional expression.[15:35] - Coping Mechanisms: alcohol, workaholism, and disconnection.[19:58] - Emotional Connection: the role of partners in men's emotional lives.[23:51] - Practical Tips: inviting vulnerability without forcing it.[30:04] - Pursuer-Withdrawer Dynamic: understanding relationship patterns.[37:14] - Creating Emotional Safety: steps for building a supportive environment. Resources:For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

In this deeply moving episode of Insights from the Couch, we sit down with Simona Lazinsk, a powerhouse of resilience and grace. Simona shares her incredible journey from overcoming unimaginable loss and trauma to becoming a best-selling author and Mrs. Florida International 2023. Through her powerful story, we explore themes of survival, healing, and how to take control of your life even when it seems like everything is falling apart. This episode is a testament to the human spirit and is filled with inspiration for anyone who's ever felt lost or broken. Trust us, you'll want to hear Simona's journey and the wisdom she's gained along the way. Episode Highlights:[3:09] - Discussing the harsh realities of living in a new country and the impact of her father's descent into alcoholism.[8:14] - The emotional and financial stress that weighed heavily on her family and how it affected Simona as a young girl.[10:56] - A powerful reflection on how emotions were handled (or not) in her family, with a memorable quote from The Simpsons.[14:27] - Simona's mother's battle with pancreatic cancer and how it shaped Simona's perspective on life and health.[23:19] - How Simona coped with the compounded losses of both her parents and her sister within a short period.[31:11] - Turning point: How a breast cancer diagnosis became the catalyst for Simona to take radical responsibility for her life.[39:06] - The birth of the Bridge Method: Simona explains the steps she took to rebuild her life and how you can do the same.[56:44] - The importance of enjoying life and making every moment count, no matter what challenges come your way. Resources:For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

In this episode, we are thrilled to welcome the incredible Dr. Vonda Wright, a double board-certified orthopedic sports surgeon who specializes in working with athletes and active individuals. Dr. Wright shares her passion for empowering women, especially as they navigate perimenopause and menopause. We explore everything from hormone health to the importance of lifting weights, brain health, and how to thrive through midlife.Dr. Wright shares eye-opening insights about how estrogen impacts our bodies, the importance of understanding our hormonal changes, and the power of weight training to maintain bone density and overall health. We also chat about the societal pressures on women and how we can shift our mindset to not just survive but thrive during midlife. Trust us, you're going to walk away with practical tips and tons of motivation to embrace this next phase of life. Episode Highlights:[0:01] - Introduction to Dr. Vonda Wright and her unique expertise in women's health.[1:12] - Dr. Wright discusses her approach to treating the whole person.[5:26] - Midlife health journeys, hormonal changes, and challenges.[10:47] - Dr. Wright breaks down the biological changes that happen in midlife and the importance of menopause literacy.[17:59] - How hormone therapy can impact your long-term health and well-being.[21:26] - The crucial role of weight training in midlife and why it's a game-changer for women.[27:01] - Dr. Wright's perspective on alcohol in midlife: what the science really says.[30:20] - Laura asks about the impact of running on joint health—Dr. Wright's expert answer might surprise you![33:51] - Information about the upcoming Women's Health Conversation Summit and how to join. We will be there! Resources:Dr. Vonda Wright's website: https://www.speaker.drvondawright.com/ My Alloy: https://www.myalloy.com – Online menopause careMIDI Health: https://www.joinmidi.com – Menopause care platformOpt Health: OptHealth.com – Personalized menopause and hormone careWomen's Health Conversations Summit (November 8-9, 2024, Lake Nona, FL): https://www.drvondawright.net/summit2024  For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

In this empowering episode of Insights from the Couch, we continue our deep dive into women's sexuality with the incredible Dr. Laurie Watson. Together, we tackle the complexities of sexual desire, intimacy, and pleasure as women navigate through midlife and beyond. Dr. Laurie shares her wisdom on how to maintain a vibrant sex life despite the challenges of menopause, societal pressures, and the inevitable changes in our bodies. Whether you're in the midst of these changes or simply curious about what lies ahead, this conversation is packed with actionable insights that will leave you feeling inspired and more connected to your own erotic self. Episode Highlights:[00:18] - How virgins can ensure a positive first experience.[01:17] - Reflecting on the challenges of staying embodied during intimacy.[02:41] - Laurie explains why clitoral stimulation is key to most women's orgasms.[04:59] - Addressing the impact of menopause on sexual desire.[11:22] - Colette questions whether men really crave variety.[15:07] - Laurie debunks myths about menopause and sexuality.[19:34] - The importance of developing an “erotic core” and how it can transform your sexual experience at any age.[22:16] - Laurie shares how post-menopause sex can be the best of your life and invites listeners to her upcoming women's retreat. Resources:For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

Hey everyone! In this episode, we're diving into one of the most layered and intriguing topics: women's sexuality at midlife. We're joined by the incredible Dr. Lori Watson, a renowned sexologist and couples therapist, who brings her extensive expertise to help us unpack the complexities of sex and desire as we age. From dealing with low libido and the pressures of long-term relationships to navigating the challenges of erectile dysfunction and emotional disconnection, we explore it all. Whether you're grappling with the changes that come with midlife or looking to keep the spark alive in your relationship, this episode is packed with insights that you won't want to miss! Episode Highlights:[01:24] - Colette and Laura introduce Dr. Watson and set the stage for a deep dive into midlife sexuality.[03:02] - Exploring the common struggles of low desire in long-term relationships and the impact on self-esteem.[05:46] - Discussion on the expectations and realities of sex frequency in marriage, touching on the societal norms and pressures.[10:00] - Addressing the emotional and physical factors that affect sexual desire, including stress, body image, and the bristle effect.[17:33] - Dr. Watson discusses what's “normal” for sex in long-term marriages and how to maintain an erotic connection over the years.[20:58] - Insight into how couples can tackle the issue of a partner losing sexual interest and the underlying causes like health issues and emotional withdrawal.[36:43] - Understanding the life force of sexuality and how to reconnect with your own sensuality and desire for a fulfilling sex life. Resources:For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

In this heartfelt episode of Insights from the Couch, we're diving into a topic that hits home for so many of us—coping with the empty nest. We get real about the grief, the unexpected feelings, and how to move from sadness to embracing this new chapter in life.Join us as we share our own experiences of adjusting to an empty nest, the challenges that come with it, and the surprising positives that can emerge from this life phase. If you're feeling lost, uncertain, or just a bit overwhelmed by the quiet, this episode is for you. Let's navigate this journey together and find ways to make this time not just manageable, but truly fulfilling. Episode Highlights:[1:45] - Colette shares her summer of truly empty nesting, with both daughters away. [3:21] - The three stages of the empty nest: Grief, Relief, and Joy. [5:39] - The isolation of the empty nest and finding ways to fill the newfound free time.[11:47] - Moving from grief to joy: Embracing the new reality.[14:44] - The importance of allowing space for sadness.[19:45] - The impact of enmeshment and control.[27:36] - The freedom and personal development opportunities.[30:55] - How to navigate the empty nest with grace. Resources:For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

Are you just going through the motions, stuck in a mental rut? Or are you truly living with vitality, curiosity and psychological flexibility? In this insightful episode, we're discussing the core signifiers of authentic mental wellness. You'll gain perspective on whether you're just surviving or actually thriving psychologically and emotionally. Get ready to assess your own mental health in a holistic way!Episode Highlights:[3:35] - Psychological flexibility: Holding two truths. [9:46] - Allowing the full range of emotions. [14:39] - Knowing yourself: Beliefs, apologies, asking for help. [21:07] - Struggle with gifts and receiving appreciation. [23:04] - Being curious, open and engaged.[25:04] - Taking action to shift mental state.[29:57] - Small interactions spark big mindset shifts.Resources:For more on this topic visit our website at insightsfromthecouch.org.If you have questions, please email us at info@insightsfrothecouch.org. We would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

In this episode, we are joined by Abbe Barclay, a seasoned Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist. With over 30 years of experience, Abbe offers invaluable insights into the complex world of sexual addiction. We discuss the nuances of sex addiction, its impact on relationships, and effective paths to recovery. Whether you're personally affected or simply curious about the subject, this episode sheds light on a topic often shrouded in misunderstanding and stigma.Episode Highlights:[1:32] - Colette shares her personal connection to the topic.[3:47] - Abbe explains how she started working with sex addiction.[4:21] - Debunking common misconceptions about sex addiction.[5:52] - The psychological underpinnings of sex addiction.[7:42] - The cycle of addiction: preoccupation, ritual, acting out, and despair.[10:07] - Key signs and symptoms to look for in a sex addict.[12:57] - The importance of addressing underlying emotional and psychological issues.[18:36] - Differences in how sex addiction presents in men and women.[22:19] - The role of denial and the importance of trained therapists.[23:24] - The healing process: what it takes to recover.[25:13] - Resources and books recommended by Abbe for further education.[32:49] - Final thoughts on seeking appropriate help and setting boundaries.Resources:Abbe Barclay's private practice: Clarity Counseling CenterRecommended Reading: Sex Addiction 101 by Robert WeissMending a Shattered Heart by Stefanie CarnesCourageous Love: A Guide for Couples Conquering Betrayal by Stefanie CarnesScreening tests: Sexhelp.comFind a certified therapist: IITAPSeeking Integrity: https://seekingintegrity.com/ For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

In today's episode, we dive into a topic that hits close to home for many of us – overparenting. Are you the kind of parent who tends to hover, or maybe even bulldoze obstacles out of your child's way? Join us as we discuss the various forms overparenting can take, its root causes, and most importantly, how it impacts the mental and emotional well-being of our kids. We share personal anecdotes, clinical insights, and practical advice to help you strike the right balance between being supportive and overbearing.We also explore the broader implications of overparenting on societal norms and individual development, touching on how this trend affects not just kids but entire family dynamics. If you've ever found yourself questioning your parenting style or the cultural pressures driving you to be overly involved, this episode is a must-listen. Tune in and discover how to foster independence and resilience in your children without stepping over the line. Episode Highlights:[1:04] - Discussing the prevalence of overparenting and its impact on mental health.[2:19] - Different forms of overparenting and their origins in fear and protectiveness.[3:34] - The impact of special needs on parenting styles and the unique challenges it presents.[5:02] - Modern societal fears and their contribution to overparenting.[6:36] - Real-life examples of extreme overparenting and its consequences.[9:11] - The concept of "lawn mower parenting" and why it's detrimental.[11:02] - Enmeshment and the importance of allowing children to develop their own identities.[12:58] - Personal stories of the struggles and benefits of letting children face challenges.[16:55] - The importance of failure in learning and development.[18:06] - Balancing support with independence, especially for young adults.[19:27] - Strategies for parents to avoid overparenting and promote resilience.[21:45] - Addressing social pressures and the fear of judgment from others.[23:52] - Encouragement for parents to give their children space and the benefits it brings.[24:58] - The importance of frustration tolerance and resilience in children.[26:42] - Final thoughts on being supportive without overparenting. Resources:Dr. Becky Kennedy's Book: Good Inside and Podcast: Good InsideDr. Shefali Tsabary's Book: The Conscious ParentDr. Daniel Amen's Book: Raising Mentally Strong KidsFor more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue 

In this episode, we welcome Dr. Laura Meyers, a seasoned clinical psychologist specializing in anxiety-related disorders, PTSD, OCD, and high-risk populations. Dr. Meyers shares her profound insights on the impacts of menopause on mental health, drawing from her personal and professional experiences. We delve into the emotional upheavals that come with menopause, the societal stigmas surrounding it, and the importance of finding the right support. This conversation is packed with valuable information for anyone navigating this significant life transition.Episode Highlights:[01:32] The importance of specialization in therapy and Dr. Meyers' approach to high-risk populations.[06:04] Discussing effective therapy approaches for anxiety and depression.[14:31] Understanding the emotional functions of anxiety and depression.[22:35] Dr. Meyers shares her personal menopause experience and its emotional impact.[34:36] How menopause can change women's perceptions and life priorities.[41:33] The effectiveness of hormone replacement therapy and CBT techniques during menopause.[48:40] The empowering aftermath of menopause and finding balance in life. Resources:For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

In this compelling episode of Insights from the Couch, we discuss addiction and its impact on relationships. Our special guest, Aaron Moore, a licensed mental health counselor specializing in addiction and recovery, shares invaluable insights on navigating the choppy waters of substance abuse within marriages.We explore the cultural normalization of alcohol use, the subtle signs of problematic drinking, and the importance of compassionate honesty in addressing addiction. Aaron offers a unique perspective on the arrested emotional development often seen in long-term substance users and provides hope for those struggling to find connection in their relationships. Whether you're dealing with addiction personally or supporting a loved one, this episode offers a beacon of hope and practical advice for moving forward.Episode Highlights:[2:07] - Aaron's experience working with couples and addiction.[5:04] - Discussing the cultural acceptance of alcohol and its impact on recognizing problematic use.[7:04] - Signs of substance use disorder and the progressive nature of addiction.[9:54] - The role of denial in addiction and how it affects relationships.[15:29] - Laura shares her personal experience with alcohol issues in her marriage.[20:04] - The importance of individual work and setting boundaries in addiction recovery.[27:30] - How to approach conversations about substance use with your partner.[32:35] - The potential for a better relationship after working through addiction issues.[38:02] - Understanding arrested emotional development in long-term substance users.[43:18] - Balancing honesty and compassion when addressing addiction.[47:27] - The importance of seeking support and professional help.[53:48] - Aaron's inspiring thoughts on discovering one's inner emotional life in recovery.Resources:For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

We all need supportive, fulfilling friendships in our lives - but making new friends and sustaining existing bonds can be challenging, especially as we navigate the middle years. In this engaging conversation, we explore the dynamics of platonic female relationships, emphasizing vulnerability, shared experiences, and emotional intimacy as key ingredients. Discover strategies for overcoming obstacles like envy, differing attachment styles, and the distractions of family life to forge deeper connections that enrich your world.Episode Highlights:[0:32] - We set the stage on why relationships matter for happiness and longevity.[2:41] - The dangers of loneliness and appearance vs. true connectivity in social circles.[4:15] - Have you outgrown certain friendships? Nurturing real emotional bonds is key.[6:00] - Personality differences: Laura's more introverted while Colette is extraverted.[9:04] - The challenges of getting enough "exposure" to make new friends as adults.[10:48] - Colette's proactive approach leads to valuable new connections at an event.[13:48] - Laura's concern about emotional overwhelm from adding new friends.[16:36] - Navigating expectations in friendships - what's too much to ask?[19:12] - The toxic role envy can play, even among caring friends at different life stages.[22:01] - Handling feelings of jealousy and resilience from a secure self.[25:21] - Examples of when socioeconomic or fertility factors strain friendships.[27:20] - How attachment styles shape friendship patterns and boundaries.[30:52] - The lasting impact of "mean girl" trauma into adulthood.[32:57] - Earning trusted vulnerability and Colette's "cardboard box test" for quality friends.[35:37] - Editing draining friendships and ending unhealthy bonds when needed. Resources:For more on this topic visit our website at insightsfromthecouch.org.If you have questions, please email us at info@insightsfrothecouch.org. We would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

In this episode, we get into the complex world of body image and fitness with the inspiring Dena Pistor, a personal trainer and studio owner with over 25 years of experience. Dena shares her personal journey with body image, exercise addiction, and how she overcame these challenges to find a healthier balance. This conversation is essential for anyone looking to improve their relationship with their body and embrace fitness at midlife. Join us as we explore Dena's story, the impact of societal pressures, and practical tips for maintaining a healthy lifestyle without falling into the trap of comparison. Episode Highlights:[01:15] - Introduction to Dena Pistor and her background in fitness.[01:39] - Dena's journey into the fitness industry and her personal struggles with body image.[03:35] - The role of exercise addiction and how it affected Dena's life.[10:09] - How pregnancy changed Dena's perspective on fitness and health.[14:20] - The importance of finding balance in fitness routines, especially at midlife.[17:43] - Societal and social media pressures on body image and the challenge of embracing one's body.[25:39] - Practical advice for maintaining health and fitness at midlife.[30:50] - The significance of strength training and the benefits of a balanced fitness regimen.[35:53] - The mental and emotional benefits of exercise and the importance of self-acceptance. Resources:For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

Today we're breaking through the financial “tacky” taboos into the complex relationship between women and money at midlife. In this episode, we unpack the psychological roots of how women view and handle money, exploring personal stories and societal expectations that shape our financial lives. Join us as we discuss everything from inherited wealth to financial independence and the emotional hurdles that come with managing money.We candidly share our own journeys with money, the mistakes we've made, and the lessons we've learned (it's a little cringey). We explore how our backgrounds and experiences have influenced our financial mindsets and what we've done to gain control and confidence in our financial lives. This episode is all about normalizing the conversation around money among women and encouraging everyone to take charge of their financial future.Episode Highlights:[0:40] - Different experiences with money based on upbringing and life stages.[1:44] - Suze Orman and the surprising financial illiteracy among successful women.[3:06] - Laura's personal money story: Growing up financially uninformed.[4:30] - Colette's money story: Financial struggles and being forced to face it.[7:33] - The impact of generational wealth and the psychological development it hampers.[10:58] – Fear of money and the psychological issues surrounding financial independence.[14:03] - The role of women as spenders and the pressure to provide for the family.[17:42] - The antiquated belief that a husband's money is for the household and the wife's money is for personal use.[20:38] - Men's struggle with their role as financial providers and its impact on their self-worth.[23:28] - The rise of financial independence among older women and its effect on marriages.[25:14] - The importance of women developing a well-rounded relationship with money.[27:15] - Practical advice on saving, investing, and building financial confidence.[31:03] - Encouragement to discuss money openly and seek financial education.Resources:For a worksheet to guide you to begin your journey to an emotionally healthy relationship with money visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

In this must-listen episode, we get into the world of boundaries with Cherlette McCullough LMFT, a relationship therapist, author, and advocate specializing in helping women and couples take care of themselves emotionally and mentally. Cherlette shares her expertise on why setting boundaries is crucial for our well-being and how to navigate the challenges that come with asserting our needs, especially as women. She emphasizes the importance of self-connection, emotional awareness, and the power of saying "no" without guilt or shame.Join us as we explore the intricacies of boundary-setting, from identifying your core values and personal preferences to effectively communicating your limits in various relationships. Cherlette provides practical tips and real-life examples to help you build the emotional muscle needed to advocate for yourself and maintain healthy, reciprocal connections. Episode Highlights:[2:03] - Defining boundaries and their importance in relationships.[5:42] - The power of saying "no" as an act of self-care.[9:22] - Recognizing when a boundary needs to be set.[13:18] - Navigating the fear of risking relationships when setting boundaries.[18:15] - Cherlette shares her personal struggles with codependency.[21:19] - The need for flexibility in boundaries.[25:02] - Cherlette's process for creating and enforcing boundaries.[29:40] - The discomfort of boundary-setting and acknowledging emotions.[33:19] - Building the emotional muscle of boundary-setting.[36:34] - The role of conversation in setting and maintaining boundaries.[39:47] - Handling boundary violations and determining if a relationship is worth working through.[42:33] - The connection between having boundaries with yourself and with others.Resources:For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

In this insightful episode, we sit down with the brilliant Dr. Brady Bradshaw, a dual board-certified psychiatrist specializing in working with neurodiverse patients, including those with ADHD and autism spectrum disorder. Dr. Bradshaw shares her personal journey of being diagnosed with ADHD in her 30s and how it has shaped her understanding of the unique challenges faced by her patients. She delves into the often-overlooked emotional dysregulation aspect of ADHD and explains how the disorder manifests differently in women, leading to frequent underdiagnosis.Join us as we explore the complex interplay between hormones and ADHD symptoms, the importance of a collaborative approach between healthcare professionals, and the effectiveness of medication in managing ADHD. Dr. Bradshaw also shares valuable insights on the role of therapy and coaching in addressing the emotional and executive functioning challenges associated with the disorder. Whether you have ADHD, suspect you might have it, or have a loved one with the condition, this episode is a must-listen!Episode Highlights:[2:11] - Dr. Bradshaw shares what drew her to specialize in working with neurodiverse patients.[5:04] - The impact of being diagnosed with ADHD in her 30s and how it changed her life.[8:31] - Explaining what happens in the brain of someone with ADHD.[12:04] - The role of dopamine in ADHD and its relationship to reward-seeking behaviors.[14:52] - Addressing the misconception that ADHD is overdiagnosed, especially in boys.[17:17] - Recognizing the challenges of identifying ADHD in girls and the importance of a thorough evaluation.[19:53] - The complex relationship between ADHD and anxiety, particularly in girls and women.[22:23] - Rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD) and its impact on individuals with ADHD.[27:58] - Identifying potential markers of undiagnosed ADHD in women in their 40s and 50s.[32:17] - The standard treatment approach for ADHD and the importance of collaboration between healthcare professionals.[35:53] - The often-overlooked emotional dysregulation aspect of ADHD and its significance.[38:53] - Addressing concerns about the tolerability and safety of stimulant medications for ADHD.[42:07] - Understanding ADHD as an ego-syntonic disorder and the challenges it poses for self-recognition and treatment-seeking.[46:50] - Dr. Bradshaw's favorite behavioral hacks for managing ADHD symptoms. Resources:For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

Is the spark gone in your relationship? Don't panic - every couple hits a rut at some point after the intoxicating honeymoon phase ends. But that doesn't mean the fire has to die out completely! We're dishing out real-world tips and strategies to revive the intimacy and keep that flame burning bright. We start by introducing our mission to bring accessible therapy insights directly to you. Then we explore that inevitable transition all relationships go through once the infatuation stage winds down.Episode Highlights:[3:28] - Exploring the post-honeymoon transition. [4:28] - The Role of friendship in sustaining spark. [6:23] - Getting unstuck from resentment. [12:59] - How to start difficult conversations.[18:18] - Identifying and expressing vulnerable feelings. [21:50] - Importance of physical affection. [26:36] - Creating distraction-free couple time. [28:54] - Asking curious questions.[30:20] - Trying new activities together. [32:39] - Nurturing connection takes small efforts. [32:43] - Key takeaways to revive your relationship. Resources:For more on this topic visit our website at insightsfromthecouch.org.If you have questions, please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org. We would love to hear from you! If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!