Thank You Heartbreak

In a world filled with uncertainty and challenges, finding happiness can often feel like an elusive goal. In this episode, Chelsea engages in a captivating conversation with author Beth Romero about her recently released book, Happy AF,  and her mission to prove that happiness is not just a fleeting emotion, but a choice that can be practiced and cultivated through consistent efforts. Beth addresses the incongruence between internal feelings and outward presentation and emphasizes the distinction between joy and happiness, positioning the latter as a consistent commitment and a lens through which to interpret life. Happy AF becomes a poignant life raft toward cultivating practices such as gratitude and affirmations, particularly during bouts of heartbreak and depression. Chelsea and Beth delve into the significance of maintaining consistency in happiness practices, encouraging listeners to experiment with different approaches. They touch on the transformative power of empathy in relationships and the potential for altering one's internal narrative to cultivate a more authentic, supportive, and positive existence.Beth Romero:Website: https://bethromeroauthor.comHappy AF via AmazonFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/bethromero12Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bethromeroauthor1Chelsea Leigh Trescott:Website: https://breakupward.comEmail: chelsea@breakupward.comAdvice Column: https://www.huffpost.comWriting: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescott

In this courageous episode, we explore the complex world of codependency, trauma, and the healing path towards self-sovereignty. Our guest speaker The Conscious Codependence Coach, Cheryl Fidelman, bravely shares how her own codependent patterns formed as a result of her early exposure to trauma and instability. At the tender age of 4, she was sexually molested and two years later her father left after a domestic violence dispute, leaving her to shoulder the weight and responsibility of managing her mother's mental health struggles.Throughout the conversation, Cheryl introduces her own unique methodology, Conscious Codependency Recovery, designed to guide individuals on their journey to overcoming codependency and becoming a sovereign being with boundaries and an open heart. She sheds light on the importance of recognizing the difference between true needs and codependent “illusions of needs,” our true selves and the "traumatic identity" we develop as a result of early life experiences, as well as the distinction between healthy intimacy and codependent intimacy. We also take a deep dive into forgiveness, emphasizing the significance of self-responsibility and healing the impact of past trauma rather than focusing on the story and assigning blame, as well as the idea of breaking one's own heart, as codependents often unconsciously create situations that lead to heartbreak.Join us in exploring how to break the cycle of codependency, find your true nature, access deep, healthy intimacy, and embody freedom through the healing process.Cheryl Fidelman:Website: https://cherylfidelman.comYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cherylfidelmanInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/cherylfidelman Book a call: https://cherylfidelman.com/connectChelsea Leigh Trescott:Website: https://breakupward.comEmail: chelsea@breakupward.comAdvice Column: https://www.huffpost.comWriting: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescott

Tune in as we sit down with the inspiring anti-bullying activist and author of "My Real-Life Rom Com," Carrie Berk. Together, we journey through the fascinating world of modern relationships, where the realms of dating apps, influencer status, and mental health intersect.Prepare to relate as we peel back the layers of our personal stories, revealing how our self-concept intricately weaves its threads into our love lives in this digital era. We'll challenge the notion that "people always leave" and explore why raising our expectations in relationships is not only possible but essential.Carrie Berk:Website: https://www.carrieberk.comMy Real-Life Rom Com: Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Target, Walmart, Bookshop.YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/carrieberkkTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@carrieberkkInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/carrieberkkPinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/carrieberkkChelsea Leigh Trescott:Website: https://breakupward.comEmail: chelsea@breakupward.comAdvice Column: https://www.huffpost.comWriting: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescott

Celebrated for her prominent role in As the World Turns, actress Melanie Smith has redirected her professional journey toward the exploration of heartache, grief, and reinvention. Her endeavors have encompassed guiding numerous individuals in breaking free from their past, unearthing their authentic identities, and masterminding profound shifts in their life trajectories.Joining Thank You Heartbreak at the 7-minute mark, Melanie provides an exclusive peek into the genesis of her inaugural book, "Unfinished Business: 8 Steps to Heal Your Trauma, Transcend Your Past, and Transform Your Life." She delves deeply into the intricate tapestry of emotions that propelled her research, recounting her personal odyssey of conquering childhood illness and subsequent solitude, debunking the illusion of an idealized existence, and embarking on the profound inner journey that facilitated her harmonious union with self and others.Within this emotionally charged narrative lies the poignant tale of her mother's untimely departure due to a rare form of cancer, the tragic death of her sister, the dissolution of her marital bond, and the dizzying relinquishment of her once-cherished dream home. These cascading adversities served as the impetus for her to confront a fundamental query: "Who would I be, could I be, if nothing or no one had ever gotten in my way?"Melanie's work surrounding Unfinished Business underscores the significance of addressing lingering unresolved issues, which have the potential to obstruct the path to self-discovery and self-fulfillment, ultimately preventing individuals from embracing their destined sense of self.Key episode themes:Trauma from being diverted from our perceived life purpose.Link between early validations and entrapment in adult obligations.Recovery as a vital life skill for inner peace and abundance through life's pain.Trust in oneself and a higher pattern.Value of charge-free and trigger-free dating.Body as a guide to finding our sweet spot of belonging.Girls abandon their bodies; boys abandon their hearts.Healing potential of relationships.Self-attunement for self-understanding.Distinguishing between the necessity for survival-driven special attention and ordinariness.Melanie Smith:Website: https://workwithmelaniesmith.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/melaniesmithofficialUnfinished Business: https://unfinishedbusinessthebook.comUnfinished Business via Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Unfinished-Business-Trauma-Transcend-TransformChelsea Leigh Trescott:Website: https://breakupward.comEmail: chelsea@breakupward.comAdvice Column: https://www.huffpost.comWriting: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-tresco

Clinical psychologist and author Dr. Cortney Warren is an expert on addictions, self-deception, romantic relationships, eating pathology, and the practice of psychology from a cross-cultural perspective. In today's episode, she joins Chelsea 9:45 minutes in to talk about her latest self-help book on breakups, Letting Go of Your Ex: CBT Skills to Heal the Pain of a Breakup and Overcome Love Addiction. Gems from this episode: overcoming love addiction with radical self-honesty, the skill of self-forgiveness, the courage to be honest with yourself and therein free to choose the life that aligns with who you really are, understanding why your own boundaries are so important to your own mental health, the power of the post-breakup pause, dating as an experiment and initiative of self-discovery, and why living and loving with your eyes wide open increases self-esteem and self-efficacy, decreases self-deception, and sets you up for a life of least regret.Dr. Cortney WarrenWebsite: https://drcortney.comLetting Go of Your Ex: via Amazon TEDx Talks: Honest Liars Psychology Today: BlogYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcortneywarrenTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@drcortneywarren Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CortneySWarrenContact: https://drcortney.com/contact-cortney-warren

Two-time guest, musician, beloved mindfulness writer, and author of Kickass Recovery, Billy Manas, joins Chelsea 9:30 minutes in for their yearly check-in about all the highs and lows they're recovering from. Billy Manas:Website: https://www.billymanas.comKickass Recovery: via AmazonSubstack: https://substack.com/profile/12500734-billy-manaselephant journal: https://www.elephantjournal.com/profile/billy-manasMusic Show Dates: https://www.billymanas.com/showsInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/billymanas2Twitter: https://twitter.com/billymanasChelsea Leigh Trescott:Website: https://breakupward.comEmail: chelsea@breakupward.comAdvice Column: https://www.huffpost.comWriting: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescottInstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/musings

Thought leader and author of The Power of Wonder: The Extraordinary Emotion That Will Change the Way You Live, Learn, and Lead Monica Parker shines a spotlight on the magical yet little-understood human emotion that is wonder, making a case for how cultivating openness, curiosity, and absorption in the midst of everyday setbacks, disappointments, and heartbreaks can help us breathe, believe, and breakupward. Monica Parker:Website: https://www.monica-parker.comThe Book: https://www.monica-parker.com/the-bookThe Power of Wonder via AmazonInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/monicacparkerTwitter: https://twitter.com/monicacparkerChelsea Leigh Trescott:Website: https://breakupward.comEmail: chelsea@breakupward.comAdvice Column: https://www.huffpost.comWriting: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescottInstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/musings

Keynote speaker, success coach, author, television host, and philanthropist, Simon T. Bailey's purpose in life is to help you discover your brilliance and increase psychological well-being. Today's guest helped me regain the strength, perspective, and incentive to bring myself back to life. It was a game changer and life saver. We discuss his book Ignite the Power of Women In Your Life—A Guide for Men, heartbreak of climbing the ladder of perceived success only to discover it was propped against the wrong wall, building a house but losing a home, chasing money but having no meaning, pursuing power without purpose and gaining status but having no satisfaction, the hopelessness that greets you and your relationship when you're focused on outward appearances more than internal connections, healing the mother wound, filling the hole within you in order to show up whole in relationships, latching onto relationships out of desperation versus inspiration, how cherishing goes steps beyond loving someone, dating with more intention and communication before even meeting, ego versus eco, igniting the power of women, affirming men, suicidal ideation, the power and encouragement of going "just a little bit more" and becoming who you're meant to be as you answer a problem connected to your unique wiring, and so much more poignant and life-enhancing insights.Forever grateful for Simon T. Bailey: Website: https://simontbailey.comBooks: https://simontbailey.com/booksIgnite the Power of Women in Your Life–A Guide for Men: https://www.amazon.com/Ignite-Power-Women-Your-LifeCourses: https://simontbailey.com/coursesSpeaking; https://simontbailey.com/speakingContact: hello@simontbailey.comChelsea Leigh Trescott:Website: https://breakupward.comEmail: chelsea@breakupward.comAdvice Column: https://www.huffpost.comWriting: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescottInstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/musings

Psychotherapist, Truth Teller, and advocate for being a "difficult" woman, Tonya Lester joins Chelsea 9:10 minutes in to talk about the upside of being difficult (the good kind of difficult, that is), what's worse than heartbreak (spoiler: it doesn't involve a relationship ending), the masks we wear and the self we forfeit in order to attract and keep partners, freeing ourselves from the spiral of "if-only" I had been/done/or behaved like XYZ, the healing powers of curiosity, self-compassion, and vowing to use our past to change our future, internal family systems methodology, the motive of the mean voice, how shock absorbers in relationships always finish last, the power of self-possession,  "kind narcissism," and why presenting ourselves as fully — vulnerably and accurately — as soon as possible is the best way to set ourselves up for a love that aligns with our true nature and intentions.Psst: I loved this episode!Tonya Lester:Website: https://www.tonyalester.comServices: https://www.tonyalester.com/servicesBlog: https://www.tonyalester.com/blogPsychology Today Articles: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/contributors/tonya-lester-lcswFree Quiz on Your Difficulty Level: https://assessments.catchengine.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyalesterpsychotherapyTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tonyalesterlcswChelsea Leigh Trescott:Website: https://breakupward.comEmail: chelsea@breakupward.comAdvice Column: https://www.huffpost.comWriting: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescottInstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/musings

As a pain avoidant culture, we've been taught to fix what hurts us. To rush to the solve. To make it go away. That something's wrong with us if we're not feeling lovable. In today's episode, transformational and potentiality coach and author of 911 From Your Soul, Jeanine Thompson provides us an alternative approach and her signature soul solution, encouraging us to surrender to the challenge, journey, or crisis and rest in the darkness until the next reveal illuminates. Jeanine Thompson:Website: https://www.jeaninethompson.netServices: https://www.jeaninethompson.net/potentiality-coaching911 From Your Soul: https://www.jeaninethompson.net/book-releaseInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/_jeaninethompson_Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jeaninethompsonllcChelsea Leigh Trescott:Website: https://breakupward.comEmail: chelsea@breakupward.comAdvice Column: https://www.huffpost.comWriting: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescottInstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/musings

Married since 1972 and trained as psychotherapists, relationship counselors, and seminar leaders, Linda and Charlie Bloom join Chelsea 10:30 minutes in to talk about their 5th book, An End to Arguing: 101 Valuable Lessons for All Relationships.We dive deep into preventing painful interpersonal conflict, dropping the mask and exposing the whole spectrum of who you are early, dating with the agreement that you're both practice partners who will do the best in this now moment while holding out the vision of where'd you'd like to go, the need to confront your partner about any misalignments before making the decision to leave, the importance of staying on the responsible side of a breakup, the vulnerability and threat that comes with caring, what drives us toward someone who is different than us, why there's no passion without authenticity, how to ignite closeness after times of separation, and how the value and pleasure of a relationship only comes once you've hung in through the times when many people call it quits. Linda and Charlie Bloom:Website: https://bloomwork.comServices: https://bloomwork.com/our-servicesLatest Book: An End to Arguing: 101 Valuable Lessons for All RelationshipsPsychology Today Blog: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/contributors/linda-and-charlie-bloomYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCV3lPZs0gRNYCTQ6vgz4Q6Q Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lindaandcharliebloomChelsea Leigh Trescott:Website: https://breakupward.comEmail: chelsea@breakupward.comAdvice Column: https://www.huffpost.comWriting: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescottInstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/musings

Author, poet, and advocate Lindsey Frazier joins Chelsea 7:45 minutes in to dive deeper into her memoir Oh Love, Come Close. We hit the bottom and bring up all the gold, like living with high-functioning depression, the stigma surrounding antidepressants and how taking medication isn't about surrendering to our weakness but rather choosing endurance, suicidal ideation and the desire to escape our inescapable madness, combating the shame voices by hitting them with self-belief, leading by the mantra that "vulnerability breeds vulnerability" in parenting, the consequences of meeting our partner when we are in total trauma and the all too relatable fantasy that marriage will save us from our core wound, coming face to face with our sexuality, a partner's indefinitely, and the stories raging within, the healing power of a couple breaking into their own humanness right in front of each other's eyes, the redemptive moment when you see something bigger than oneself at play, stepping back and letting God move us, and coming to the end of ourselves and realizing that is the best place we could be.Lindsey Frazier:Website: https://www.lindseyfrazier.me/Memoir: Oh Love, Come CloseInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/lindseyfrazierTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lindsey_frazierTwitter: https://twitter.com/lindseyfrazierChelsea Leigh Trescott:Website: https://breakupward.comEmail: chelsea@breakupward.comAdvice Column: https://www.huffpost.comWriting: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescottInstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/musings

Psychic therapist, medium, podcast host of The Genna Effect, and author of The Secret That's Holding You Back, Vincent Genna, joins Chelsea 5:30 minutes in to explain how we are always manifesting what we believe about ourselves — hence, why the most courageous work we can ever undergo is discovering (and changing!) what it is we actually believe. Standout takeaways: every hurt creates a scar which, left unhealed, can be inflamed by future painful events, all the “I'm nots” — I'm not smart enough, I'm not good enough, etc. — has a common denominator pain of “I'm not lovable,” as soon as we detach from source, we feel abandoned, neglected, jealous, and angry, coping mechanisms are in place so we survive not thrive which is why we must disempower our defense mechanisms as adults, the 3 R exercise for better beliefs: review, replace, reinforce, attraction has nothing to do with another person, and everything to do with our beliefs about ourselves, the healing part of us that is loving ourselves more is not going to choose partners out of desperation, discretion comes with true self-love, reparenting ourselves sounds like the adult version of ourselves reasoning with our inner child, the harming effects of relationships built on a sexual foundation versus an emotional foundation first, and the major reason for mindfulness is to hear and understand what we are thinking so we can change it and evolve beyond our habits and history. Vincent Genna:Website & Services: https://vincentgenna.comYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/vinnygennaTwitter: https://twitter.com/vgbelieveBook: The Secret That's Holding You BackPodcast: The Genna EffectChelsea Leigh TrescottWebsite: https://breakupward.comEmail: chelsea@breakupward.comAdvice Column: https://www.huffpost.comWriting: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescottInstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/musings

Child abuse and trauma recovery life coach and mentor, podcast host of Think Unbroken, speaker, and the author of Think Unbroken: Understanding and Overcoming Childhood Trauma, Michael Anthony joins Chelsea 12:30 minutes in to talk about hitting rock bottom multiple times, the price we pay for not looking in the mirror and healing, disarming vulnerability and honoring your gut instinct, the willingness and investment in betting on yourself and realizing your why, posting and sharing for attention versus connection, why you should only date if you know what you're getting into, acknowledging core values immediately, never leading with assumptions while dating but demanding clarity, closing the gap between who you are and who you aspire to be, and why you better pay the taxes now or suffer later, plus so much more brilliance.Michael AnthonyWebsite: (https://www.thinkunbroken.com) Email: michael@thinkunbroken.comThink Unbroken: Trauma Coaching & Mentorship (https://coaching.thinkunbroken.com)Think Unbroken: Book (https://book.thinkunbroken.com) (via Amazon)Think Unbroken: Podcast (https://www.thinkunbroken.com)Think Unbroken: Course (https://keys.thinkunbroken.com) Think Unbroken: Conference (https://unbrokencon.com) Think Unbroken: Academy (https://thinkunbrokenacademy.com) Think Unbroken: YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC95YX4cZdz39HHIaLZYFsGA) Instagram: (https://www.instagram.com/michaelunbroken) Twitter: (https://twitter.com/thinkunbroken) Facebook: (https://www.facebook.com/MichaelUnbroken)Chelsea Leigh TrescottWebsite: https://breakupward.comEmail: chelsea@breakupward.comAdvice Column: https://www.huffpost.comWriting: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescottInstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/musings

Sam Garrison, the Founder of Stackin, a revolutionary behavior-based financial wellness and coaching app, joins Chelsea 16:30 minutes in to talk about investing in ourselves and relationships, overcoming financial insecurity so you can date with confidence, the significance of establishing a financial framework within a loving relationship, how to actually build a life together that meets both partner's needs, the tug of war in dating between the head and heart, the allure (and torture) of ambiguity, charisma and flirtation being a celebrated form of manipulation, and the payoff of being spiky in life, fun in dating, and active in your decision-making. StackinWebsite: https://stackin.comDownload Stackin via the App StoreInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/stackinFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/startstackinChelsea Leigh TrescottWebsite: https://breakupward.comAdvice Column: https://www.huffpost.comWriting: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescottInstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/musingsEmail: chelsea@breakupward.com

Canadian-born artist, rapper, spoken-word poet, and international best-selling author, Humble the Poet aka Kanwer Singh, joins Chelsea 9 minutes in to talk in depth about the most expensive book he's ever written, his latest, How to Be Love(d): Simple Truths for Going Easier on Yourself, Embracing Imperfection & Loving Your Way to a Better Life. Leaving no stone unturned, Humble shares his notes from the trenches and leaves the key behind so we, too, can be a source of love and learn how to break free from the fences within.Topics discussed: performative humbleness versus quiet confidence, living beyond the binary mindset, the trap of likability, healing the inner child, being rooted in empathy, opting out of the fast food version of love, chasing pleasure to medicate a lack of peace, the mind of a fuck boy, in favor of women being easy to get and difficult to keep, performative sex versus selfish sex, prioritizing an exclusive relationship with a therapist, gratitude versus guilt, anxiety is the messenger, cheating on your partner with your partner, social media isn't a friend to love, and how to unlock pathways to authentic intimacy and self-advancement. Humble the PoetWebsite: https://www.humblethepoet.comPurchase How to Be Love(d): via Amazon and now available hereMusic: https://www.humblethepoet.com/pages/musicInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/humblethepoetTwitter: https://twitter.com/humblethepoet TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@humblethepoet Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HumbleThePoetYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/humblethepoetChelsea Leigh TrescottWebsite: https://breakupward.comAdvice Column: https://www.huffpost.comWriting: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescottInstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/musingsEmail: chelsea@breakupward.com

LA-based and Wisconsin-raised comic, actress, and author Brittany Schmitt needs everyone to get out of her way. Joining Chelsea 11:15 minutes in, she opens up about walking away from dependencies, starting with alcohol and her funny drunk chick persona to most recently her marriage. Where is she heading now? Toward the freest version of herself. We discuss humor being a defense mechanism, the usefulness of being taken down a notch, and drinking being a performance art piece, how there's no right time to quit but rather you stop when you want your life back, the universal concern that we are too much for others, 2020 being the year that relieved us of compare and despair, the channels that open up energetically when you move through a mighty depression, confronting the bully, criticism as preparation for living a life out loud, the consequences of falling in love when you're not in love with yourself, and how it's never too late to give yourself the chance you couldn't give yourself before.Brittany SchmittWebsite: https://www.brittanyschmitt.comComedy Special: From Ho to HousewifeBook: Stop Talking About Sex And Other Advice I Didn't TakeInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/brittanyschmittTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@brittanyschmittChelsea Leigh TrescottWebsite: https://breakupward.comAdvice Column: https://www.huffpost.comWriting: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescottInstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/musingsEmail: chelsea@breakupward.com

In this bonus episode, you'll hear me on Kind of an Expert, a podcast by Corey Tindall, where I land myself smack dab in the hot seat, sharing stories and my expertise on all things dating, relationships, and heartbreak. I loved every moment of it! You can hear both of us on Season 2, Episode 8 of The Queen of Hearts Podcast with Host Jujubee, a blind dating game show... that's fun, sexy, revealing, and quite entertaining. So dim the lights and grab the popcorn. 

Standup Comedian, Host of the podcast Kind of an Expert and the weekly comedy show “Ope!” in NYC, Corey Tindall joins Chelsea 15 minutes in after meeting and matching on Queen of Hearts, a dating gameshow podcast hosted by the one and only Jujuebee. Together they get deep on dating women with anxiety and depression, the consequences of not commanding emotional space within a relationship, clocking behavior rather than calling a person out, the natural tendency toward becoming jaded, demonstrating soft support in a relationship, no one is ever the perfect person, reaching a new baseline of happiness, the downside of being the stoic partner, when men take the team mentality of a relationship too fear and treat girlfriends like projects, leading by example instead of telling someone how to change their life, leaning into the 50% chance that we have no idea what and who will actually make us happy, and more gems of genius.Listen to Corey and Chelsea's racy meeting on the dating gameshow, Queen of Hearts Season 2 | Episode 8 on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Wondery, and everywhere else you stream.Corey TindallPodcast: Kind of an Expert via Apple Podcasts and SpotifyWeekly Comedy Show in NYC: "Ope!" A Comedy Show via EventbriteInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/coreytcomedyTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@coreytcomedyChelsea Leigh TrescottWebsite: https://breakupward.comAdvice Column: https://www.huffpost.comWriting: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescottInstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/musingsEmail: chelsea@breakupward.com

Coach Lee Hopkins, the founder of Patterns of Possibility and the podcast host of The Patterns of Possibility, joins Chelsea for a powerful conversation about coming out of hiding once and for all, vocalizing and embodying your truth, the origins of loneliness and the catalysts for joy, the boundaries framework of needs, negotiables, and nevers, the relationship between love and understanding, what it actually takes to choose someone confidently, how following your intuition will support you in not rejecting yourself in the next stage of your life, and so much more.Lee HopkinsWebsite: PatternsOfPossibility.comPodcast: The Patterns of PossibilityeBook: Flourishing Friendships: How To Make Friendships FastInstagram: www.instagram.com/patternsofpossibilityPlus: Courses, Coaching, Friendship ChallengeChelsea Leigh TrescottWebsite: https://breakupward.comAdvice Column: https://www.huffpost.comWriting: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescottInstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/musingsEmail: chelsea@breakupward.com

Heartbreak Coach, Inner Power Queen, and Author of Breakups, Healing, and Self-Love, Ohouo Goa joins Chelsea 10:30 minutes in for the most personal, vulnerable, and healing conversation yet. Together they discuss becoming that which pains us (for instance, the cheater), where the fear of intimacy originates from, cultivating body acceptance when your body carries the history of trauma, and empowering yourself to live beyond society's boxes and embody your entire range of self-expression. This episode is a lesson on teaching yourself to stay in the emotions, honoring where you stand in your journey, unlocking repressed experiences and pulling down all the walls on the road to self-intimacy.* I cried, I laughed, and I changed. Thank you, Ohouo.Ohouo GoaWEBSITE: https://ohouo.com INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/ohouo_heartbreakcoach AMAZON: Breakups, Healing, and Self-Love  Chelsea Leigh TrescottWEBSITE: https://breakupward.comADVICE COLUMN: https://www.huffpost.comWRITING: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescottINSTAGRAM:  https://www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakFACEBOOK:  https://www.facebook.com/musingsEMAIL: chelsea@breakupward.com

Sound Practitioner and Empowerment Coach at GetSoundRx Avi Sherbill joins Chelsea 5:30 minutes in to talk about healing from addiction and dependency, reckoning with the question who am I away from any one person, and coming off the pink cloud, breaking through the trance of unworthiness and codependent vortex of chaos, and fully experiencing the darkness for the intelligence it is.Avi SherbillWEBSITE: https://www.getsoundrx.comCOACHING: https://www.getsoundrx.com/you100HYHO SOUND HEALING CERTIFICATION: https://www.getsoundrx.com/hyhoSOUNDBATHS SOUNDRX: https://www.getsoundrx.com/soundbathsINSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/getsoundrxChelsea Leigh TrescottWEBSITE: https://breakupward.comADVICE COLUMN: https://www.huffpost.comWRITING: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescottINSTAGRAM:  https://www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakFACEBOOK:  https://www.facebook.com/musingsEMAIL: chelsea@breakupward.com

Host of the podcast Interstates & Heartbreak Leslie Grant joins Chelsea 7 minutes in to share her journey in letting her guard down and cultivating a committed relationship after multiple breaks with her now boyfriend. We get into dating burn out, how her idea of a successful date has evolved, the text that won her back, and keeping an open heart in today's modern, and often disappointing, dating world.Leslie GrantInterstates & Heartbreak on Apple Interstates & Heartbreak on Spotify Instates & Heartbreak Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/interstatesandheartbreakTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@interstatesandheartbreakTwitter: https://twitter.com/lesliegnopeInterstates & Heartbreak Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/interstatesandheartbreak Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lesliegnopeWebsite: https://interstatesandheartbreak.comChelsea Leigh TrescottWebsite: https://breakupward.comAdvice Column: https://www.huffpost.comWriting: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescottInstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/musingsEmail: chelsea@breakupward.com

At the end of March, in the midst of heartbreak and what felt like a personal falling out with myself, I set my Hinge to Los Angeles, a city I never spent one happy day in, where I lived out the most heartbreaking years and relationship of my life, a city that also just so happens to be the only place I'd ever consider leaving New York for — for the next chapter and stage and… for love. Maybe I was falling back on my oldest and truest pattern of all — pursue a long-distance relationship — or maybe my heart wanted to take me somewhere and, under the weight of heartbreak, I was desperate enough to listen and follow... a brave, new possibility... for the podcast, that is. ;) Or, like the guest I'm learning from today, maybe I, too, am full of contradictions. Joining me 11 minutes in, Santa Barbara native, Tucker Atterbury aka Mr. Logic, is the first Hinge connection I got to meet and record with in-person. Together, over the course of 2+ hours in May, I began fulfilling my original intention from back in March — in the midst of heartbreak, to let my creative passion lead me, to pause dating and heal... away from men, in front of men, and in thanks to men, to listen and learn from Cali guys, and slowly to begin to open my heart again... because I always take the scenic route... and maybe LA is the way or along it. In this episode, you'll hear us discuss the many crossroads of life and love… and, with Tucker's signature touch, philosophy will be woven throughout his perspective. I hope you learn with me... and that, just by listening to us, you'll begin to ask yourself new questions that liberate you, too.PS: As I release this, I'm wondering whether there aren't two types of online daters: those who are looking for their answer and those who are still asking the questions. If you had to choose, which are you?KEY TOPICS: the freedom in winging it and the romantic irony of settling down, being cheated on and not being a player, the anxiety of intimacy and exploring non-monogamy, the discomfort of being seen and drifting apart when you're loving on cruise control, manning up with stoicism and numbing oneself from the spectrum of vulnerability, trauma comes from two places and the quest to motivate oneself, the slippery slope of substance abuse and the shame of recognizing your own dependency, the dance between honoring one another's sovereign independence and inevitably objectifying each other, being bullied and gravitating toward female friendships, the fine line between friendship and romantic love, the problem of free will and the experience of choice, ADHD medication and cannabis use, not over identifying with our own consumptions and the pursuit of moderation, betting on yourself and the standstill of privilege, the ego is necessary and othering it for your own well-being.  Some References: Jean-Paul Sartre, objectification, anguish, being for itself vs. being for others; absurdism; free will vs determinism; Daniel Dennett, user-illusion; Albert Camus, An Absurd Reasoning; virtue ethics; Seneca, Stoic philosophy; Elizabeth Gilbert, Your Elusive Creative Genius, Socrates, the gadfly

Founder, Innovation Consultant, Data Scientist, and Executive and Career Coach, Yash Tekriwal went on 63 first dates in NYC, until determining dating apps leave a lot to be desired. Joining Chelsea 9:20 minutes in, he opens up about his controversial Tweet and dating journey, unpacking people's most common assumption: if you're still single, what went wrong? This episode is about how life and (self) love can actually go right.Topics explored within: love at first sight vs the X-Factor, intellectualizing our stories vs feeling our stories, fake vulnerability, the upside of meeting in community vs one-on-one with the expectations of online dating, swiping for validation while in a committed relationship, the difficulty of letting oneself be loved, the cruel side effect of projection, the fine China analogy of trauma, the little you vs big you in family systems theory, the lonely reality that life moves on with or without you, opening to love when you're healing vs healed, the moving target of success, leaning into strengths, and how aspirations and our own high standards can prevent us from letting love in today.To connect with:Yash TekriwalWebsite: https://yashtekriwal.comLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/yashtekriwalTwitter: https://twitter.com/yash_tekInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/tekhelpMedium: https://medium.com/@yashtekriwalChelsea Leigh TrescottWebsite: https://breakupward.comAdvice Column: https://www.huffpost.comWriting: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescottInstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/musingsEmail: chelsea@breakupward.com

Transformational Speaker and National Best-Selling Author of You.Are.The.One. and, most recently, The Magic of Surrender, Kute Blackson has been recognized as the mindfulness guru that billionaires go to for advice. Joining Chelsea 15 minutes in, Kute shines a light on surrendering, a topic that both rules and limits our lives but, with better understanding, can actually liberate us to our next level. We discuss surrendering to whatever life is currently trying to express through you, the evolutionary nature of goals, attracting our mirror manifestation in romance, understanding the protective intention of the ego, living with the impulse to impact, and relinquishing the master addiction better known as control in favor of magic. To connect with:Kute BlacksonBooks on Amazon Website: https://kuteblackson.comCoaching: https://kuteblackson.com/coaching Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kuteblacksonFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/kuteblacksonYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/KuteBlackson/videosPodcast: https://kuteblackson.com/soultalkThe Surrender Summit (July 12-July 16th): https://thesurrendersummit.comReinvent Seminar: https://kuteblackson.com/reinventseminarBoundless Bliss Bali: https://www.boundlessblissbali.comChelsea Leigh TrescottWebsite: https://breakupward.comAdvice Column: https://www.huffpost.comWriting: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescottInstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/musingsEmail: chelsea@breakupward.com

Transformative coach, mediator, creative consultant, and first time author of Carry Me: Stories of Pregnancy Loss, Frieda Hoffman joins Chelsea 10 minutes in to normalize the dialogue around death and desire and open up about the emotional seesaw of infertility and pregnancy loss, cycling between hope and disappointment, an all encompassing love and then estrangement, and learning to chart one's own path with a fiery feminist spirit in the midst of surrendering to the vulnerable space of partnership, the mystery of one's body, and the lurking sense that maybe this isn't meant for me. We talk about struggling with depression and suicidal ideations as a teenager, turning dark energy into a big energetic ball of human and creative potential, debunking the myth of needing to be fully healed to be worthy of a fulfilling and freeing partnership, and the beauty and bravery of gifting ourselves the possibility of love and more connection especially when we're not a finished masterpiece.To connect with,Frieda Hoffman:Website: http://friedahoffman.comBook: https://www.friedahoffman.com/bookAmazon: Carry Me: Stories of Pregnancy Loss Coaching: https://www.friedahoffman.com/coachingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/friedahoffmanwritesChelsea Leigh Trescott:Website: https://breakupward.comAdvice Column: https://www.huffpost.comWriting: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescottInstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/musingsEmail: chelsea@breakupward.com

International Mentor, Consultant, Depth Therapist, Writer, & the Founder of Promethean Men's Groups, an epicenter of continual development for men to rise out of confusion and Live Their Own Myth, Jordan Seth Kozey, joins Chelsea 14:00 minutes in for a poignant and mutually confronting conversation on the formidable experience of crying, of honoring one's life by not holding on to grief in total defeat, removing the obstacles of love and learning to bathe in the blessing of being loved, saying yes to the pain and no sooner and more efficiently in dating, the exhausting leak of compassion fatigue, over-identifying with roles, overextending ourselves with care and the frantic need to be somebody, and surrendering to the flow of life as well as the earnest and urgent voice that yearns to step away from doing it all in order to be a beautiful nobody for awhile.To connect with,Jordan Seth Kozey:Website: http://jordanseth.netMentorship: http://jordanseth.net/mentorshipPromethean Men's Group: https://prometheanmensgroups.comJordan's Article Discussed Within The Episode: What Happens When A Man Can't CryChelsea Leigh Trescott:Website: https://breakupward.comAdvice Column: https://www.huffpost.comWriting: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescottInstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/musingsEmail: chelsea@breakupward.com

Three-time guest Paul Ronto (ep. 172 & 191) joins Chelsea 12:15 minutes in to talk about the journey toward his most daring and earnest adventure yet, starting his company Type3Life, a facilitated curriculum designed to teach men to live a Type3Life through wilderness adventure trips targeting motivation, self-growth, leadership skills, confidence, community, and a way to get past what's holding them back. With radical introspection and his classic dose of charisma and candor, Paul dives heart first into how he confronted the darkness and division within through couples therapy and a life altering diagnosis of Traumatic Brain Injury, freed himself from the ethereal feeling of not yet arriving with the help of the Paterson Center's 2 day intensive LifePlan, and pivoted 180 degrees within a year starting with outsourcing the overwhelm and the motto Just Say No. The short of it is, there's no such thing as hoping to get better. You have to actively go do something to treat yourself and trust the people around you to help you—all of which requires talking about what's troubling you.We talk about All Of It. Following your passions is all about timing (15:00). Learning to be resourceful dumpster diving and living on $100/week (17:00—23:00). Dating with financial insecurity (28:45).  Marrying, spreadsheets, and budgeting every cent. Wealth, not measured by millions, but by free time. Intentional dating can be valuable without being expensive (31:00). To wear a ring or not to wear a ring (43:30). Therapy, treatment, and transcendence. CTE, TBI, and Lexapro (40:00—1:01:00). Breaking down men's mental barriers. First comes the physical challenge, then comes the bonding. The beer after the mountain bike ride. The car ride home after a hard day skiing. When you're happy where you are, giving yourself permission to coast. Letting the air out. Real winners celebrate small wins. Fun, freedom, and fearing less. Revamping your inner dialogue. The limiting beliefs within suicidal thoughts (1:07:00). Dropping the bright light to let the human side rush in. The relief in being relatable. When someone asks how you are, tell them (1:09:00). Tricking wives into believing you're never not winning (1:17:30). The journey is the goal (1:36:00). What it means to Breakupward (1:43:00) and live a Type3Life of fun (1:45:00).To connect with,Paul Ronto and Type3Life: Website: https://type3life.comTrips: https://type3life.com/tripsInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/type3lifeFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/type3lifeTwitter: https://twitter.com/type3lifeChelsea Leigh Trescott:Website: https://breakupward.comAdvice Column: https://www.huffpost.comWriting: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescottInstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/musingsEmail: chelsea@breakupward.com

When Laura Whitfield was fourteen, her extraordinary brother, Lawrence, was killed in a mountain climbing accident. That night she had an epiphany: Life is short. Dream big, even if it means taking risks. So, after graduating from high school, she set out on her own, prepared to do just that. Laura's stirring memoir, Untethered: Faith, Failure, and Finding Solid Ground, is about a young woman's seeking nature and the quest to fill the void left by her brother's death through complicated relationships, the demanding nature of New York City,  the chance to become a cover girl, returning to college, and more. Untethered is Laura's story of overcoming shame, embracing faith, and learning that taking risks—and failing—can lead to a bigger life than you've ever dared to imagine.Topics discussed within this episode: the self-sabotaging nature of self-criticism, the failure to launch, healing from comparison and perfectionism, extending yourself forgiveness and grace, disordered eating, being the other woman, nourishing the mind through self-care, the writer's life, learning to accept the skin you're in, the adventure of building a resume and coming both back to yourself and into yourself, and creating a life worth telling. Laura Whitfield:Website: https://laurawhitfield.comBlog: https://laurawhitfield.com/blogUntethered: Faith, Failure, and Finding Solid Ground via AmazonInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/laurawhitfieldwriterFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/laurawwriterChelsea Leigh Trescott:Website: https://breakupward.comAdvice Column: https://www.huffpost.comWriting: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescottInstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/musingsEmail: chelsea@breakupward.com

British-born empath, fear buster, and internationally acclaimed life advisor Suzannah Galland joins Chelsea 7:00 minutes in to talk about counteracting fear and tapping into your inner knowing and divine intelligence in moments when you feel deprived of certainty and connection. She shares insight on having the courage to opt out, why rejection leaves us helpless and recovery is so brutal, and offers post-heartbreak guidance in cultivating faith that something greater is coming versus self-criticism that something is wrong with us. Suzannah Galland:Website: https://suzannahgalland.comBlog: https://suzannahgalland.com/blogInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/suzannahgallandTwitter: https://twitter.com/suzannahgallandFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/suzannah.gallandChelsea Leigh Trescott:Website: https://breakupward.comAdvice Column: https://www.huffpost.comWriting: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescottInstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/musingsEmail: chelsea@breakupward.com

A world-renowned authority in self-mastery, Peter Sage is a 6X TEDx Speaker, international & serial entrepreneur, philosopher, teacher, and best-selling author. His most recent book, The Inside Track: An Inspirational Guide to Conquering Adversity, is the collection of 11 private letters that Peter sent to his elite coaching groups throughout his 6-month sentence in the most violent prison in the UK as the only non-criminal prisoner. Instead of playing the victim, he chose to identify as a ‘secret agent of change' and went from mentoring frustrated billionaires to transforming the lives of his prison inmates."You couldn't make that up," Peter explains, "which is why I knew it had to be engineered at a higher level of intelligence." Joining Chelsea 17:30 minutes in, Peter talks about disarming the narcissist and being the star of your own movie, life being a growth-centric experience not a comfort-centric experience, the day we finally decide to be okay with not being liked, how the language we put on heartbreak is a part of the issue most of the time, when you lower the importance, solutions present themselves, the experience of having no living parents and for the first time identifying as alone, the cathartic release of grief, and never being an unpaid extra in someone's film ever again. Plus, so many more gems. Peter Sage:A FREE (!!) copy of The Inside Track: https://go.petersage.comWebsite: https://www.petersage.comPrograms: https://www.petersage.com/programsYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channelInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/petersage007Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/PeterSageFan007Amazon: The Inside Track: An Inspirational Guide to Conquering Adversity Chelsea Leigh Trescott:Website: https://breakupward.comAdvice Column: https://www.huffpost.comWriting: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescottInstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/musingsEmail: chelsea@breakupward.com

“The day I ran away was the scariest day of my life but I did it,” says Dr. Heidi Brocke, a Toxic Relationship Awareness & Healing Specialist. After spending 14 years in an emotionally and narcissistically abusive marriage, Dr. Heidi did the impossible and fled her prison of toxicity. (Spoiler: it only feels impossible but, as Dr. Heidi will show you, it is possible to leave). Joining Chelsea 5:30 minutes in, Dr. Heidi opens up about starting over in a whole new city and in a whole new marriage, a rebirth that wouldn't liberate her overnight but which would eventually lead her to owning her story and starting a coaching practice that helps educate and empower anyone interested in healing or recovering from a toxic relationship. Topics discussed within:— the most heartbreaking decision of her life: being separated from her children for 5 years, after fleeing her toxic husband— why understanding a toxic person's motivations gives you your power back— the 4 reasons a toxic personality wants you in your life— how toxic personalities trap you early on — toxic identity theft— making yourself a priority and discovering who you are when a toxic partner isn't telling you who to beAnd, so much more.Dr. Heidi Brocke:Website: https://coachingwithdrheidi.comServices: https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/programsPodcast: It's Not Normal, It's ToxicTake the Toxic Profile Analysis: https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/toxicity-analysisInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachingwithdrheidiChelsea Leigh Trescott:Website: https://breakupward.comAdvice Column: https://www.huffpost.comWriting: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescottInstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/musingsEmail: chelsea@breakupward.com

Jenna Parkany, the Founder and CEO of JC Creative Media, a remote digital marketing business primarily focused on helping business owners find their "digital voice” and tell their story, opens up about losing her brother in a tragic fire and then losing her "dream" job during the pandemic. We dive into the heartbreak of discovering your dream job isn't a dream after all, the internal conflict of not being able to present as who you truly are at work, overcoming the crippling effect of imposture syndrome, the sequential order being put to a halt during COVID, using job loss as an opportunity to discover what it is you 100% want to do (people pleasing not included), empathizing with an ex even when your paths split into differing directions, continuing to cultivate connection with a lost one, the heartbreaking tension of knowing they aren't here but feeling them here nonetheless, and why tiptoeing around grief hurts more than it helps.Jenna Parkany:Instagram: @JennaParkany & @JC_CreativeMediaLinkedInChelsea Leigh Trescott:Website: https://breakupward.comAdvice Column: https://www.huffpost.comWriting: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescottInstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/musingsEmail: chelsea@breakupward.com

Tony Blankenship, the author of Self-Help Sucks: The Anti Self-Help Guide to Inner Peace and Contentment , joins Chelsea to shed light on the ways in which anger is fear, how the endless quest to get this, do this, and be that is inevitably a heartbreaking chase to close the gap between where I am and where I believe I need to be, prioritizing equanimity and contentment, the desire to fall out of love with one's exhausting ego, freedom is not being a slave to your demands, and why the spirituality of the 12-steps is possible for anyone. Tony Blankenship:Website: https://www.tonyblankenship.com Book via Amazon: Self-Help Sucks: The Anti Self-Help Guide to Inner Peace and ContentmentSocial: Facebook and TwitterChelsea Leigh Trescott:Website: https://breakupward.comAdvice Column: https://www.huffpost.comWriting: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescottInstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/musingsEmail: chelsea@breakupward.com

Relationship Coach, Speaker, and Author of Life Worth Living: A Practical & Compassionate Guide to Navigating Widowhood & Sole Parenting, Michelle Hoffmann joins Chelsea 5 minutes in to talk about finding what there is to honor in a traumatic and transitionary experience so grief can actually move you forward, the two primary reasons relationships are out of alignment, why seeking approval from someone outside your core value system is never going to garner authentic acceptance, and how to effectively navigate the three part process of every relationship from chemistry to casual to committed so you can go from lonely to love with confidence, competency, strength and orgasms.Michelle Hoffman:Set Up A Dating Strategy Call & Download Your Free Dating Guide: https://www.relationshipping101.comThe Widow Guide: https://thewidowguide.comLife Worth Living: A Practical Guide to Navigating Widowhood via AmazonChelsea Leigh Trescott:Website: https://breakupward.comAdvice Column: https://www.huffpost.comWriting: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescottInstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/musingsEmail: chelsea@breakupward.com

Sasha Nicole, the creator of Fearless Nfluence, a curation of digital experiences and content about mental health, motherhood, love, food and more, champions overcoming obstacles by embracing one's truth and identity fearlessly. She joins Chelsea 6:30 minutes in to talk about the heartbreak of invisibility, of being overlooked or made a joke of for being obese, and the power she's walking with as she lets go of who she used to be. She opens up about her weight loss journey, the grief of looking different but still expecting people to look at her the same, the trauma embedded in insults that are meant to isolate you, mental health and the stigma of anti-depressants, the scary and singular journey of postpartum depression, and yet the grace, compassion, and relatability that can become because when you've been exposed to the cruelty of a world that doesn't try to understand you, you have every reason in the world to dare to be different.Sasha Nicole:Website: https://fearlessnfluence.comBlog: https://fearlessnfluence.com/blogeBook: From Detour to Destination: Your Ultimate Guide to Navigating Obstacles and Overcoming FearInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/therealsashanicoleFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/fearlessnfluence YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/AmerikanTherapyPodcast: Amerikan Therapy Chelsea Leigh Trescott:Website: https://breakupward.comAdvice Column: https://www.huffpost.comWriting: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescottInstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/musingsEmail: chelsea@breakupward.com

Fashion designer and young visionary Blair Christopher joins Chelsea to talk about all the things including the advantages of shaking every hand and cutting the chit-chat, seeing the world from both sides and multiple rungs on the ladder, getting sturdy and being unforgivingly oneself, weeding out the weak and  regularly elevating your circle, owning our insecurities aloud and never settling, and how losing everything after the army and winding up in jail gave him the vision and conviction to go for everything because he no longer had anything to lose. Blair Christopher:Email: mrblairchristopher@gmail.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/blairchristopherChelsea Leigh Trescott:Website: https://breakupward.comAdvice Column: https://www.huffpost.comWriting: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescottInstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/musingsEmail: chelsea@breakupward.com

"My story was typical," Sex & Intimacy Coach Irene Fehr says describing her picture perfect marriage with her ex-husband. "We fell in love. Everything was wonderful in the beginning. We had amazing chemistry. We were the couple that everyone looked at and said, wow, we want to have what you're having. It looked great from the outside but, on the inside, just by getting married, it didn't make us experts in being married. It didn't all of a sudden make us know each other and know how to make a relationship work, how to make love and sex work, how to negotiate, how to take care of each other's emotional needs, how to even express our own emotional needs. So, the way I wasn't living my own life was because I was performing. When it came to sex, what was I reading? I was reading Cosmo and the different tips and how a woman is supposed to be. I also grew up on shows like Friends who showed me you're supposed to be nonchalant and easy about things. I couldn't fathom this idea that I could actually ask a man to do something different. I was just on this receiving end of what came. Of course I felt powerless, like I wasn't living my own life, because I had no agency."Thus begins, Irene's rolling awakening from closed eyes to eyes wide open, from friction sex to connection sex. Together we discuss the need to know what we want in order to truly consent to anything in a deep way and how exactly it's possible to finish sex feeling more open, more confident, more relaxed, and filled up with pleasure rather than empty and wanting.Irene Fehr:Website: https://www.irenefehr.comBlog: https://www.irenefehr.com/blog-and-writingTwitter: https://twitter.com/ignitedwomanYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channelEmail: https://www.irenefehr.com/contactChelsea Leigh Trescott:Website: https://breakupward.comAdvice Column: https://www.huffpost.comWriting: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescott Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/musingsEmail: chelsea@breakupward.com

In 2017, Cal-Rugby player Robert Paylor started the NCAA National Championship game as a sports star and left on a stretcher, a quadriplegic. His future was grim, his identity taken in an instant. Today he talks about death waiting for him to quit and the mission he's on to walk again, the universal experience of paralysis, dark nights with his thoughts, and the staying power of accountability. He gets real about his hardest heartbreak — losing his identity,  the times he'd see himself in the mirror and feel pity, and the pride that he's been able to reclaim through the experience of romantic love. Robert Paylor:Website: https://www.robertpaylor.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/rob.paylorFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/robertpaylor5LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robert-paylorEmail: rob@robertpaylor.comChelsea Leigh Trescott:Website: *undergoing facelift*Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/musingsEmail: chelsea@breakupward.com

Comedian, Podcast Host of Future Role Model, and CEO/Founder of My Breakup Registry, a community-driven platform that allows people to crowdfund their break-up or divorce and more, Natasha Pearl Hansen joins Chelsea 6 minutes in to talk about the choices leading up to calling off her wedding and deciding to record and self-produce her first comedy special titled “I Was Supposed To Get Married Today…” (Amazon Prime Video) at the venue instead, how dropping her ego and walking away from the “showy stuff” in the midst of heartbreak helped her figure out the most important question, what am I feeling?, and truly change, how her experience in therapy combined with being in a conscious relationship became a masterclass in knowing yourself, and what it feels like to learn, in your 30s, that the conversations you were having with partners in your 20s weren't that deep after all.Natasha Pearl HansenWEBSITE: https://www.nphcomedy.comMY BREAKUP REGISTRY: COMEDY SPECIAL via Apple:  "I Was Supposed To Get Married Today"COMEDY SPECIAL via Amazon Prime Video: "I Was Supposed To Get Married Today"PODCAST: Future Role ModelINSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/nphcomedyFACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/NPHcomedyTWITTER: https://twitter.com/nphcomedyCLUBHOUSE: https://www.clubhouse.com/@nphcomedyChelsea Leigh TrescottINSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakEMAIL: Chelsea@breakupward.com

"As adults, because we've experienced pain, a lot of what we go through in life is pain avoidance rather than truly living," Ruchika Lal, the Founder & CEO of Winked!, an app that aims to make adulting joyful, joins Chelsea 8 minutes in to advocate for embracing our inner child,  and with that our whole range of emotions, picking up the lesson and dropping the story, the opportunity in outgrowing ourselves, surrendering to helplessness rather than shunning it, and why the road to warriorhood is paved with feeling it all and letting transitions fill us with wonder.To connect with Ruchika Lal:Winked! via InstagramWinked! via The App StoreWinked! via FacebookWinked! via TwitterTo connect with Chelsea Leigh Trescott:Website: Leave your email at www.breakupward.com to be notified when the site relaunches.Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakEmail: Breakupward@icloud.com

The Founder of MensGroup.com Sean Galla joins Chelsea 9:30 minutes in and, through his own experiences and the wisdom that came with, is able to nudge her toward a massive wake up call before she falls too deep. Topics touched upon within: the healing balm of approachability, preserving your identity within relationships by honoring personal boundaries, there are no shortcuts towards inner validation, the harmful effect of choosing partners and careers that require us to perform outside of our nature, the anxiety of trying to make everything work in your life so you don't look like a failure, chasing activities in an effort to avoid feelings, setbacks forcing us to turn off, from Mr. Popular/one of Vancouver's Most Eligible Bachelors to isolated and sick for four years, losing friends when they can no longer relate to you, filling the void by rushing a relationship, not having the self-worth to say I deserve better than this, patterns come from wounding, the power of pacing in new relationships, the classic avoidant hero complex is portraying yourself as the caretaker, underestimating the opportunity cost of being in a mediocre relationship, the call for consistency in intimacy and communication is not a liability, and so much more.To connect with Sean, visit his:Website: https://mensgroup.comYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/mensgroup Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/seangallaFree men's self-improvement community & online men's groups: https://mensgroup.com/groupsTo connect with Chelsea, visit her:Website: Currently under construction. Leave your email at www.breakupward.com to be notified when it's back up.Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakEmail: Breakupward@icloud.com

Author of the memoir Available: A Memoir of Sex & Dating After a Marriage Ends, Laura Friedman Williams opens up about the loneliness of a stay-at-home mother, what her marriage—and life—looked like when she measured it by being happy enough, what it means to no longer be playing the supporting character in her own life, and the sexual liberation following her divorce that set her on a path of self-expression, self-enhancement, and self-sufficiency.——Laura Friedman WilliamsInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/laurafriedmanwilliamsTwitter: https://twitter.com/laurafwinnycFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/laura.f.williams.90Available: A Memoir of Sex & Dating After a Marriage Ends via AmazonChelsea Leigh TrescottWebsite: www.breakupward.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakEmail: Chelsea@breakupward.comHuffPo Advice Column: Advice Column

“That's literally what it is,” today's guest recording artist Lil Sebby tells Chelsea 57:25 minutes in. "Lazing loving. You're not fully committed. You're not ready to ride throughout the ups and downs. And there are going to be down times. It's inevitable. It's never just going to be perfect. But once it's not as fun anymore, they dip. They just dip. Ghost culture.”HIGHLIGHTS.2:35 — I don't even know if I should be comfortable being close to you. I'm just looking at you from a distance. You could have COVID. The trust for a common human being was gone.5:11 — You know how people say, start before you're ready? The next big shift I need to make is, start before I know. Start before knowing whether it is going to resonate or go in your favor.10:15 — You should never stop because you're not making money. Money is just the cherry on top of the cake. The passion is the cake.15:40 — Late in my twenties, I started to see that there was always something beautiful about everyone I looked at. I realized that most everyone we pass on the street has been loved before and I started to get curious about that. Someone has loved them, I wonder why.21:30 — Depending on Adderall to give us a false sense of interest in our lives.29:15 — Sometimes you don't really connect or click with someone when you want to. You may see they have their own thing going on outside of you that comes into play. And it shows, it radiates off them. They aren't ready for love and you don't want to force that.33:10 — I would never change who you are for nobody. Because when you're changing who you are for somebody else, are you truly happy or are you trying to impress and having to hold back? Because, then, you're in your head and that's the worst place to be.43:20  — Girls won't even give dudes a shot these days.59 — We don't need fans. We need believers. We need partners who believe in us.1:08:40 — I feel like if you want something, you can get there and get rejected but at least you tried and took the time to get there rather than not going to figure it out. You fail by not trying. You succeeded by trying. So, either way, you win. 1:16:00 — I'm more litty than ever. We're having a lit experience right now because we're expressing ourselves. ——Lil SebbyInstagram: www.instagram.com/lils3bbySpotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/3Ez3l65SieOJV8bxp2qlWzTwitter: https://twitter.com/lilsebby_Chelsea Leigh TrescottWebsite: www.breakupward.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakEmail: Chelsea@breakupward.comHuffPo Advice Column: Advice Column

A world leader in love, conflict resolution and interpersonal relationships, relationship expert and coach Jayson Gaddis is also the author of Getting To Zero: How to Work Through Conflict in Your High-Stakes Relationships and the podcast host of The Relationship School. He joins Chelsea 17 minutes in to talk about getting closer through conflict, softening our internal critic by finding its stories interesting rather than horrible, the vulnerability of being the learner and the shame of being a man who is scared, the two shitty choices that people frame conflict as and the choice to pursue instead, how the gap between our strategic self and true self creates a core inner conflict, what it means to be a warrior, and why parenting is one of the most confronting experiences in our lives. To connect with Jayson, visit his:Website: www.jaysongaddis.com https://www.jaysongaddis.com/Book: https://www.amazon.com/Getting-Zero-Conflict-High-Stakes-Relationships Podcast: The Relationship School Podcast Coaching: https://relationshipschool.com/myrelationshipcoach The Relationship School: https://relationshipschool.comBlog: https://www.jaysongaddis.com/blogInstagram: www.instagram.com/jaysongaddis Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jaysongaddisfanpageTwitter: https://twitter.com/jaygaddisYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/JaysongaddisWork with Chelsea: www.breakupward.com/shopChelsea's website: www.breakupward.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakEmail: Chelsea@breakupward.com

Relationship Dynamics Coach, Educator of Effective Communications Strategies, and Founder of Project Equinox, André Paradis and his wife, dancer, choreographer, and director Nancy Paradis join Chelsea 11:30 minutes in to sound the alarm on toxic masculinity and advocate for ballroom dancing in a world full of disco dancers. Topics explored within this episode: Women being stuck in man mode, the toxic belief that in order to be valuable a woman has to be everything, retaliating against perfectionism and lone wolf syndrome, the ultimate goal for man is freedom, sex too early is a kiss of death, femininity is a superpower, distinguishing boys (weakness) from men (strength), the critic in a woman's head versus the commentator in a man's, and why the lemon women have bought about men is making them more miserable than ever before. To connect with André, visit his:Website: ProjectEquinox.netServices:  https://www.projectequinox.net/contactInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/projectequinoxWork with Chelsea: www.breakupward.com/shopChelsea's website: www.breakupward.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakEmail: Chelsea@breakupward.com

Unexpectedly diagnosed with a severe case of Guillain-Barré Syndrome, Chris Maxwell joins Chelsea 5:45 minutes in to talk about having his ego stripped away while he was in the hands of everyone else, letting go of control and prioritizing connection by becoming relational about everything, how trauma is 1000 points of separation and recovery is 1000 points of reconnection, finding his way back to his wife and learning to spiral upward together as patient and caretaker, and why having our eyes raised to the horizon is essential for thriving not only together but separately. To connect with Chris, visit his:Website: https://www.maxwellstrat.comHis wife, Molly Weisgram's Website: https://mollyweisgram.squarespace.comThe memoir based on his and his wife's story: The Other Side of Us: A Memoir of Trauma, Truth, and Transformation

The author of The Other Side of Us: A Memoir of Trauma, Truth, and Transformation and a believer that life is about recovery, not disease, Molly Weisgram joins Chelsea 6:30 minutes in to discuss her husband's unexpected and severe case of Guillain-Barré Syndrome, a dangerous journey that forced the couple into roles as patient and caregiver. She talks about real education being new perspective, holding space for traumatic reverberations, finding your own voice, rejecting victim mentality, and looking at every crisis as an invitation to refine your soul. To connect with Molly, visit her:Website: https://mollyweisgram.squarespace.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mollyweisgramFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/AuthorMollyWeisgramTwitter: https://twitter.com/MollyWeisgramThe Other Side of Us via Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Other-Side-Us-Memoir-Transformation