Doing It! with Hannah Witton

Just a quick update to say - we're back! Hannah's back from maternity leave and new Doing It episodes will be coming your way from Wednesday 14 September! Here's a little preview of what to expect coming up in season 6 and a reminder of all the other places you can keep up to date with Doing It online.

In this casual end of season episode, Hannah has a good sit down chat about how season five went and what it was like being pregnant while recording, and then digs into some listener questions about pregnancy, parenting and maternity leave plans, and what you can expect from Doing It in the future! Thank you all for all your support this season, and we'll see you when Hannah's back from maternity leave!

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Kaz Lucus, a kink positive queer Kenyan sex educator who hosts The Spread podcast. Kaz talks to Hannah all about why she decided to create the Spread Podcast and her mission of helping fellow Kenyans be more open in discovering their sexuality, as well as how religion is the root of sexual taboo and stigma in Kenya today. Kaz explains how Kenyan culture was much more open towards gender and sexuality before colonialism, and why, although Kenya is still a polygamous country, she thinks polyamory is a more modern day and ethical practice. Finally, Kaz shares some of her own personal experiences of polyamory and the work and communication it involves.**MORE ABOUT KAZ LUCAS**Award winning musician and 2021 TED fellow/speaker Karen Kaz Lucas is an established leader in the Kenyan arts and culture ecosystem. Having begun her career in 1997 as a rapper/singer, she has gone on to run creative ventures and projects cutting across the performing arts, media production, digital marketing and innovative events that shape the industrial standard. Kaz has had a lifelong passion for changing the way sex education is taught to young people. Driven by this passion and enabled by her media experience, she started The Spread Podcast.The Spread is a sex positive podcast that only exists because there is no comprehensive sex education in Kenya. Information about sex is rooted in the negative consequences: HIV and AIDS and unwanted pregnancies. But while these are some real consequences, there's need to highlight all the positive things that can come out of healthy, informed and consensual sexual practices. The Spread provides a platform advocating for comprehensive sexuality and consent education in our academic institutions.- Website: https://www.kazentertainment.com/- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kazkarenlucas/- Twitter: https://twitter.com/karenkazlucas- The Spread: https://www.instagram.com/thespreadpod/

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Gabby Edlin, who is an activist campaigning to menstrual equity and the founder of the charity Bloody Good Period. Gabby discusses what led her to start Bloody Good Period, the work she does with the charity to provide asylum seekers with free and high quality period products, and her employment scheme that campaigns for period rights in workplaces. also TOPIC. Gabby and Hannah talk about why it's important to be able to talk about your period openly, how things have changed in the last few years, and how transphobia has no place in the feminist and period-equality movement. and TOPIC. Finally, Gabby discusses how difficult it's been to navigate charity and activist spaces as a Jewish person as well as the importance of Jewish joy and what that looks like for her.CW: antisemitism and transphobia throughout, brief mention of domestic violence✨MORE ABOUT GABBY EDLIN AND BLOODY GOOD PERIOD✨Gabby Edlin, 35, is an activist campaigning for menstrual equity, and the founder and CEO of charity, Bloody Good Period. Gabby was named as one of the Evening Standard's Progress 1000 Top Changemakers and Stylist's Woman of the Week.She started Bloody Good Period in 2016 when she was volunteering at the New London Synagogue asylum-seekers' drop-in centre, and discovered that period supplies were only provided for ‘in emergencies'. A whip around for donations of pads or tampons on Facebook turned into a charity which distributes period supplies for asylum seekers, refugees and anyone who can't afford them, all around the UK.Bloody Good Period also provides menstrual, sexual and reproductive health education within those communities. These products and sessions are currently distributed through over 100 drop-in services and groups in London and the UK.Gabby grew up in a Jewish community in Manchester and cites her Jewishness as a huge influence in her activism. She has a Masters in Applied Imagination from Central St Martins specialising in feminism and comedy. Before BGP, she worked in Arts Education for children and young people, and trained as an artist. She lives in North London.- Bloody Good Period: https://www.bloodygoodperiod.com/- BGP Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bloodygoodperiod/- Gabby's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gabbyedlin/

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Sophie Whitehead, who is a writer, researcher, and sex educator currently working on her PhD at King's College London about the nature of teen ‘rape culture' in the online era. Sophie speaks all about what rape culture in schools actually looks like and how teachers can counteract this by embedding principles of consent and empathy in all aspects of school. Hannah and Sophie discuss the delicate nuance of addressing instances of sexual violence in school in a way that takes care of the survivor, but also works towards educating and reintegrating the perpetrator. Finally, they also talk about how to avoid the trap of alienating LGBTQ+ students and reinforcing gender stereotypes when discussing sexual assault in sex ed, what Sophie thinks about single versus mixed sex education, and why assemblies are a terrible way to address sexual violence or any matters of sex ed!CW: rape culture and sexual violenceMORE ABOUT SOPHIE WHITEHEADSophie is a writer, researcher, and sex educator. She's currently halfway through her PhD at King's College London, where she's researching the nature of teen 'rape culture' in the online era.- Twitter: https://twitter.com/bonbourbons- School of Sex Ed Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/school_sexed/

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Freddy McConnell, a writer and journalist who recently became a solo dad as a trans man. Freddy talks all about what the experience of being pregnant and giving birth was like for him as a trans man in the UK, as well as the complexities of coming off testosterone to get pregnant and the challenge of body dysmorphia throughout the whole process. Freddy discusses how we need correct education and professional advice to be given to trans people about fertility, and his experience of health care professionals in general throughout his pregnancies. Finally, Hannah and Freddy chat about Freddy's choice to become a solo parent, gender neutral parenting, and how pregnancy spaces can be become more LGBTQ+ inclusive.CW: experiences of transphobia and misgenderingMORE ABOUT FREDDY MCCONNELLFreddy McConnell is a writer and journalist who began his career at The Guardian in London and Sydney.He became a solo dad via donor conception in 2018 and again in 2022. Freddy shared his first experience of pregnancy as a transgender man in the BIFA-nominated documentary *[Seahorse](https://urldefense.com/v3/__https:/vimeo.com/ondemand/seahorsefilm__;!!KEc8uF_xo8-al5zF!H8776FZAWLucW1qPggi-YSyHs17GbwkGEpMbWplxu92f394QY_Je3AhKcPFlky1P$)*. Wanting to tell more stories of queer parenthood, he then created the BBC podcast, *[Pride & Joy](https://urldefense.com/v3/__https:/www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p08ckm7w__;!!KEc8uF_xo8-al5zF!H8776FZAWLucW1qPggi-YSyHs17GbwkGEpMbWplxu92f394QY_Je3AhKcMbKIaAi$)*. His first picture book, *Little Seahorse and the Big Question*, will be published by Puffin in July 2022.Freddy is also an advocate for LGBTQ+ family equality. His fight to be recognised as his children's father or parent on their birth certificates is waiting to be heard by the European Court of Human Rights.- Twitter: https://twitter.com/freddymcconnell- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/freddy.mcconnell/- Seahorse film: https://seahorsefilm.com/watch

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Lolo Cynthia, a gender and sexuality activist and educator from Nigeria. Lolo discusses her own experiences of sexualization and grooming as a curvy woman with big breasts, the harmful stigma and myths in Nigeria around girls' bodies and sexuality and how that makes them more at risk to predatory behaviour. Lolo shares how she is working to empower young people and girls especially to reconnect with their bodies, trust their intuition and let this guide how they engage with sex. Hannah and Lolo chat about how interconnected alcohol and dating are and why Lolo feels bringing alcohol into dating prevents you from understanding how connected you actually feel to someone. Lolo also shares anecdotes about the different kinds of questions girls versus boys ask in her sex education classes, why she's not allowed to include LGBTQ+ themes in sex education but how she finds loop holes to teach students about understanding and accepting themselves. Finally, Lolo discusses how to talk about sexual pleasure that is more inclusive of people with vaginas who have been circumcised and how those in the sex positive world can be better allies to people who have experienced FGM.CW: grooming, sexual assault, and female genital mutilation✨MORE ABOUT LOLO CYNTHIA ✨Lolo started her own social enterprise, LoloTalks, to increase comprehensive sexuality education across Nigeria, with a special focus on people in underserved communities such as brothels and prisons. She created a sexuality toolkit – MyBodyIsMine- to use in schools and uses her various platforms to speak about the importance of sex education. Lolo's interest in sexual and reproductive health and rights was deepened when she moved to South Africa and saw how issues around sexuality, including access to legal and safe abortion, were treated differently than in her home country. Lolo strives to educate young men and women about sexuality, respect, and contraceptives. As a natural leader, with a passion to drive positive change, she joined Niyel - an impact-driven campaign agency to create campaigns that lead to positive change in Africa and beyond- Twitter: https://twitter.com/Lolo_cy- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lolo_cy/?hl=en- YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/LoloTalksInc

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Jessica and Claudia Kellgren-Fozard! Jessica is a YouTuber and content creator who shares her experiences as a chronically ill and disabled lesbian, often making videos with her wife, Claudia. Jessica discusses drawing on her knowledge of sign language as a deaf person to teach their baby, and how becoming a parent has helped Jessica with her disabilities through building physical strength. Jessica and Claudia chat about why Claudia had an elective caesarean to make it easier for Jessica to be able to be present at the birth and how the temporary disability of recovering from her caesarean gave Claudia a new perspective on the restrictions and frustrations Jessica experiences with her disabilities. They talk about how gender parenting roles don't come into play as a lesbian couple, why not to say “whose baby is it really?” to lesbian parents, and how ostracising it can be for Jessica when “mum” gatherings focus on breast feeding. Finally, Jessica and Claudia chat to Hannah about whether they felt the health care environments they visited during the pregnancy were inclusive to them as lesbians.✨MORE ABOUT JESSICA KELLGREN-FOZARD✨Jessica Kellgren-Fozard is a British Youtuber and Content Creator who shares her experiences as a chronically ill and disabled lesbian in a fun, uplifting and educational way. Since starting to make videos in 2016, Jessica's channel has grown to 902k subscribers and the success of her platform has led to her being named the top Online Influencer at the British LGBT Awards 2021. Jessica is an advocate for both the Disability and LGBTQ+ communities, often making videos with her wife Claudia, or about her daily experiences as a deaf person living with genetic disorders Hereditary Neuropathy with Liability to Pressure Palsies (HNPP) and Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome. Her amazing efforts in representing both communities have earned her places on the Shaw Trust Disability Power List and Lesbian Visibility Week's Visible 100 List.- Jessica's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/JessicaOutOfTheCloset/- Jessica and Claudia's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jessieandclaud/- YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/JessicaKellgrenFozard- Claudia' Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cloudfoz/

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Anna Lee (aka Anna the Average), who is the co-founder and head of engineering at Lioness, the women-led sexual health startup. Anna discusses her journey as a Korean American women in the sex tech world, how she overcame the conservatism of her family to found her own sex tech company, and how working in sex tech helped her reclaim ownership of her own body after trauma. She and Hannah talk about why Anna is feeling positive that the landscape of the sex tech industry is becoming more diverse despite having to navigate a lot of stereotypes and uncomfortable situations. Finally, Anna shares more about her motivation behind creating the Lioness, why she believes being able to measure your orgasms allows people to better understand how their bodies work, and gives advice on introducing using toys in partnered sex as well how to get into the sex tech industry!CW: mention of sexual assault✨ MORE ABOUT ANNA LEE ✨Anna Lee is a technical co-founder of Lioness, the women-led sexual health startup that built the world's first and only smart vibrator that improves understanding of sexual pleasure and body through biofeedback data. She is a Forbes 30 Under 30 alum and has been covered in numerous publications like Fast Company, Glamour, and Popular Science, as well as Paper Magazine's Asian Women Creators You Need to Know and Buzzfeed's 14 Sex Tech Founders Who Are Changing The Way The World Thinks About Sex. Anna is a prominent creator on TikTok with nearly 400,000 followers.Anna was previously a mechanical engineer at Amazon, launching the Amazon Dash Button's original concept and the Kindle Voyage Page Press Technology. She has spoken at top universities like UC Berkeley and Chalmers University, SXSW, and CYFY India. Lioness was featured at CES 2020, a finalist at Last Gadget Standing, Engadget Best of CES 2020, and Refinery29 Best of CES SexTech. She is a big advocate in Lioness' mission to expand understanding and research in sexual health, and destigmatize female sexuality.Lioness: https://lioness.io/Instagram: https://instagram.com/annaisaverageTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@annatheaverage

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Dr Emma Chan, who is a doctor working in mental health, the Reproductive & Sexual Health Lead at The School of Sexuality Education, and co-author of “Sex Ed: An Inclusive Guide to Relationships”. Emma discusses what current sex education neglects to mention about pregnancy, including fertility, miscarriage, and the experience of being pregnant. They and Hannah talk about reproductive rights, navigating the climate crisis while wanting to have a baby, and how to make pregnancy healthcare spaces more inclusive to trans people. Finally, Emma and Hannah discuss emotional vocabulary and the importance of teaching communication skills to help young people express themselves, as well as how we can work towards greater contraceptive equality.CW: miscarriageMORE ABOUT DR EMMA CHAN- Dr Emma Chan is a doctor working in mental health, and a workshop facilitator with the School of Sexuality Education. Emma is one of the co-creators of 'Sex Ed: An Inclusive Teenage Guide to Sex and Relationships' and also regularly writes about relationship and sex related content on the blog.- Twitter: https://twitter.com/squisquasque- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/squishsquashsquelch/- Blog: http://www.squishsquashsquelch.com

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Alison Wiggins, who is Subject Leader for the PGCE in Social Sciences and PGCE Psychology programmes at University College London. Alison discusses how she works with teachers to remove their own personal experiences and beliefs around sex when working with students, and the importance of listening to young people and providing what they themselves tell us that they need. Alison and Hannah talk about the crossover of anti-racism work and sex education, why Alison believes primary school isn't too early to talk about gender roles, and why Alison tells teachers to watch the Netflix show Sex Education! Hannah and Alison discuss how to create a more LGBTQ+ inclusive space in RSE for students and teachers, and why the RSE you deliver in your school won't have any impact unless the culture of your school as a whole reflects the values of equality and safety that you are teaching. Finally, they explain why we should centre pleasure (not just safety) in sex education and uphold it as an important valid reason why people have sex!CW: brief mention of suicide, mentions of sexual harassment and violenceMORE ABOUT ALISON WIGGINSAlison Wiggins is the Subject Leader for the PGCE in Social Sciences and PGCE Psychology programmes at IoE-UCL and leads work across ITE on PSHE, RSE and Anti-racism. She is also a tutor on the MA Education programme and contributes to the Understanding Research and Feminist Pedagogies and approaches to education modules.  Until earlier this academic year, she was also a part-time Psychology and Sociology teacher in a London Secondary school and sixth form and has been teaching for the last 14 years. She is vocal and active feminist and is passionate about building an equitable Education system and using Education and Social research as vehicles for Social Justice.  Her research interests are focused on issues of Race and Gender equity, and she is currently working with the Equality and Inclusion team in her department to develop our use of Anti-racist practice and pedagogy and is working on the creation of a new module for the MA Education focused on ‘Decolonialisation' in education through curriculum, assessment and pedagogy.  This year, she will also be working with colleagues on cross-institutional research projects focused on the racialised experiences of Minority Ethnic student teachers and is developing an RSE specialism for all PGCE students though her collaborative work with the School of Sexuality Education. She hopes that one day she will get around to beginning her PhD!- Twitter: https://twitter.com/ally_wiggins- School of Sexuality Education: https://www.instagram.com/school_sexed/?hl=en

In this episode, Hannah is joined by LalalaLetMeExplain, an anonymous sex, dating and relationships expert and a qualified social worker who has just released her first book: “Block, Delete, and Move On”. Lala and Hannah talk about what dating with self-love really looks like, why it's more important to look for green flags than red flags when it comes to getting to know someone, and why it's so common for there to be a disconnect between the advice we give other people and the advice we give ourselves. Lala discusses incorporating mindfulness in your approach to dating - and why you maybe shouldn't always listen to your vagina.CW: abusive relationshipsMORE ABOUT LALALALETMEEXPLAINLalalaLetMeExplain is Instagram sensation - an anonymous sex, dating and relationships expert who has amassed a staggering 175k followers! A qualified social worker and dating & relationships educator, she left her 15-year career in the public sector in 2018 to bring her professional knowledge to social media. This is a smart, aware, provocative and engaging debut which empowers women to tackle the pitfalls of modern dating and helps them to successfully navigate unsatisfactory relationships with a man, and Lala's personal experience and career as a trauma expert ensure she is uniquely positioned to write this book.You can follow Lalalaletmeexplain on Instagram @lalalaletmeexplain: https://instagram.com/lalalaletmeexplain

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Quinn Rhodes, who is a queer, disabled trans sex writer. They talk about why Quinn is reclaiming the words “transsexual” and “faggot,”, why he feels the word “pegging” has homophobic undertones, and how companies need to stop making masturbation all about capitalism. Quinn discusses how to queer up your sex life, what gender-affirming sex truly looks like, and gives advice on how to throw the cishetnormative sexual script out of the window and figure out what actually works for you (and why lists can really help!). Brownie points for anyone who can count the amount of times Hannah and Quinn say the phrase "fucked up the ass" in this episode!CW: mental illness, depression and suicidal thoughts**MORE ABOUT QUINN RHODES**Quinn Rhodes (he/him) is a queer, trans, and disabled sex writer. He's an inconvenient transsexual approaching faggotry and a sex nerd with vaginismus. Quinn writes about shame, queering sex, and his adventures in learning to fuck without fucking up. He can usually be found wearing stomp-on-the-cisheteropatriarchy boots and figuring out how to look more obviously queer. You can find his filthy and think-y writing about sex at onqueerstreet.com- Twitter: https://twitter.com/onqueerstreet- Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/onqueerstreet

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Melanie Murphy, an award winning lifestyle YouTuber, bestselling author and Hannah's good friend! Mel talks about how relationship with her bisexuality has changed since becoming a mum, being genderless blobs with her husband, and how she navigates creating parenting content whilst also maintaining boundaries for her and her family. Mel also opens up on the impact of giving birth on her body, as well as the miracle of the body and its capacity to heal. Melanie shares her advice on around navigating your sex life with your partner after you have a baby and learning to prioritise time and making extra effort as a couple after becoming parents, and Hannah and Melanie talked about how to cope with anxiety when you're pregnant and dealing with fears of miscarriage. Finally, Hannah shares why she didn't want to see the picture Melanie took of her vulva after giving birth!CW: discussion of miscarriage, mention of eating disordersMORE ABOUT MELANIE MURPHYMelanie Murphy is an award-winning lifestyle Youtuber and best-selling Irish author from Dublin, Ireland, where she lives with her husband and one year old son. Melanie's online content about creativity, relationships, motherhood, sexuality, confidence and mental health has attracted hundreds of thousands of followers across social media platforms and her YouTube videos have amassed over 72 million views to date. She was named Blogosphere's ‘Influencer of the Year' in 2018 and ‘Best Social Media Star' at the 2020 Gossies.- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melaniiemurphy/- YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/MelaNiie

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Sangeeta Pillai, a podcaster, activist, and speaker, and the founder of South Asian feminist network Soul Sutra. Sangeeta discusses the impact of colonisation on Indian sexuality, as well as the shame surrounding South Asian women's sexuality. She and Hannah also talk about what the Kama Sutra is really about, and how to own your sexuality yourself. CW: Shame, homophobia, and domestic abuse.MORE ABOUT SANGEETA PILLAIPodcaster, activist & speaker Sangeeta Pillai is the founder of the South Asian feminist network [Soul Sutras](https://soulsutras.co.uk/) which is all about tackling taboos within the culture.She's the creator of Masala Podcast silver winner at the British Podcast Awards 2021 & 2021 & also a winner at Spotify SoundUp 2018. Sangeeta is also the creator of the Masala Monologues series of writing workshops & theatre shows in the UK & the US. She has been featured on BBC Radio London, Evening Standard, Cosmpolitan, Eastern Eye, Huffington Post, BBC Asian Radio, Brown Girl Magazine and has been a writer for over 20 years.- Twitter: https://twitter.com/soul_sutras- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/soulsutras/- Website: https://www.soulsutras.co.uk/

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Ella Dawson, who is Ella is a sex and culture critic who digs into topics we usually avoid in polite company. Ella discusses herpes - how common herpes is, how recent the stigma around herpes is, and also how sex-positive sex education can talk about STIs in a way that doesn't exacerbate STI stigma. Ella and Hannah also talk about how talking to sexual partners about your herpes and STI status can create greater intimacy and vulnerability, leading to deeper connections and actually better sex, and how conversations that change how we think about herpes are crucial to end the stigma, shame, and fear.CW: discussion of toxic relationships and unhealthy power dynamicsMORE ABOUT ELLA DAWSONElla Dawson is a sex and culture critic who drinks too much Diet Coke. In her writing, Ella digs into topics we usually avoid in polite company: from our dehumanizing culture of casual sex, to how shame keeps us silent about our mental and sexual health. Her short fiction has been published in six erotica collections, and she is currently working on her first romance novel. Find her on Twitter, Instagram and Patreon as @brosandprose.- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brosandprose/- Twitter: https://twitter.com/brosandprose- Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/brosandprose

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Florence and Reed, the hosts of the Fucks Given podcast and co-founders of Come Curious, to talk all things fetishes and roleplay! Reed shares about her tickle fetish and her journey with acknowledging and accepting it and being more open about it, as well reducing the shame that she's felt for years because she has a tickle fetish. Florence also talks about her fascination with lactation and how it is such a turn on for her, and whether it's a kink or a fetish for her. This episode also gets into discussions about consensual non-consent fantasy and roleplay: what that is and, if it's something you're interested in, things to think about to do it safely and in a way that everybody is into. CW: discussions about consensual non-consent fantasy and roleplay throughout. Also emetophobia warning around 17 minutes.MORE ABOUT FLORENCE AND REED (COME CURIOUS)Ethical educational sex, porn, nudity & mental health advice for everyone, founded by Florence Bark and Reed Amber.- F**ks Given podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/4nQnVqQcEn4ptshlKjtdqo- Come Curious Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/comecurious- Come Curious Twitter: https://twitter.com/comecurious- YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/comecurious

In this end of year episode, Hannah and Moog, Hannah's assistant, reflect on working on the podcast this year, the rebrand, Hannah's pregnancy health break that put the podcast unexpectedly on pause for a while, plans for 2022 and what's going to happen with the podcast when Hannah's on maternity leave? They talk about their favourite episodes, if pregnancy has changed my perception on any topics we've covered, the controversy over the episode on sex addiction, Moog's experience doing Ev'Yan Whitney's Sensual Selfie Challenge, and lots lots more!CW: Brief abortion mention when we talk about Twilight, around 16 - 18 minutes. Eating disorder and body image when we talk about the Sensual Selfie Challenge at around 18 - 23 minutes.This episode is sponsored by Zencastr, the brilliant podcasting platform we use to record all our remote episodes! Follow this link and use code 'DoingIt' to get 30% off your first 3 months: http://zen.ai/doingit

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Paulita Pappel, who is a producer, director, and performer, and the co-founder of Lustery.com. Lustery is a platform for homemade porn from real couples and Hannah and Paulita talk about how that works, how they screen people and pay them for their work, and how the definition of amateur porn has changed. Paulita also discusses how she got into porn initially after having a very sex negative view of the world growing up, and answers your questions about consuming porn in a more ethical way, advice for making your own homemade or DIY porn safely, and introducing porn into your sex life. Hannah and Paulita also talk briefly about Pornhub and what happened after the New York Times Children of Pornhub article was published and the pattern of anti sex trafficking religious groups attacking porn sites. Finally, Hannah asks Paulita about the experience of curating the Berlin Porn Film Festival - what happens, what kind of films are shown, and why Hannah should go in 2022!CW: Content warning for mentions of child sexual abuse material during the PornHub discussionThis episode is sponsored by Zencastr, the brilliant podcasting platform we use to record all our remote episodes! Follow this link and use code 'DoingIt' to get 30% off your first 3 months: http://zen.ai/doingit✨MORE ABOUT PAULITA PAPPEL✨Paulita Pappel is a Spanish filmmaker and feminist pornographer. After studying comparative literature in Berlin, she worked both in front and behind the camera. She is the founder of Lustery, a platform dedicated to the sex lives of real-life couples from around the world. She also co-organizes and curates the Pornfilmfestival Berlin and directs and produces at HardWerk, a hardcore studio shooting cinematic gangbangs. Paulita works as a producer, director and intimacy coordinator, and is an advocate for a sex-positive, consent-based culture.- Lustery: https://lustery.com/- Paulita's website: https://www.paulitapappel.com/

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Scotty Unfamous, who is an award-winning erotic author and sexfluencer. Scotty talks about her work helping women live their best heaux life, and specifically what it means to be doing sex education for black women. As Scotty is an erotic writer, we had to ask her about her thoughts on 50 Shades of Grey and Hannah and Scotty get into the positive impact those books had on people's sex lives, and then get into a bunch of other films and TV shows too. Finally, Scotty discusses censorship on social media as a sex educator, getting comfortable and confident wearing sexy lingerie - and Scotty shares her favourite worst sex advice.This episode is sponsored by Zencastr, the brilliant podcasting platform we use to record all our remote episodes! Follow this link and use code 'DoingIt' to get 30% off your first 3 months: http://zen.ai/doingit✨MORE ABOUT SCOTTY UNFAMOUS✨Shakira ‘Scotty Unfamous' Scott is a UK based sexual wellness educator and content creator, and multi award-winning erotic romance author, on a mission to help women ‘live their best heaux life'. She runs ShakiraScott.com, a blog to help women explore and remove the stigma around their sexuality and has featured on media platforms such as Channel 4, BBC Woman's Hour, The Times and Dazed to name a few. She also runs sexual wellness workshops for adults and teaches sex ed to college students.- Twitter: https://twitter.com/ScottyUnfamous- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/scottyunfamous/?hl=en- Website: https://shakirascott.com/

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Silva Neves, who is a psychosexual and relationship psychotherapist and author, to dispel all the myths around sex addiction and give us a better framework to view sexual behaviour through. Silva talks about the difference between the public idea of sex addiction and the understanding of it in a sex therapy clinic, and gives us a rundown on the definition of addiction and so how sex and porn addictions don't fit into it. Hannah and Silva then discuss compulsive sexual behaviours, which is what someone who might think they are a porn addict could be experiencing, and the causes of these behaviours and the potential distress they can cause.CW: Discussion of sexual trauma. Main discussion begins at 40:11. Please skip this episode if you need to and look after yourself!This episode is sponsored by Zencastr, the brilliant podcasting platform we use to record all our remote episodes! Follow this link and use code 'DoingIt' to get 30% off your first 3 months: http://zen.ai/doingit✨MORE ABOUT SILVA NEVES✨Silva Neves is a COSRT-accredited and UKCP-registered psychosexual and relationshippsychotherapist, and a trauma psychotherapist. He is a Pink Therapy Clinical Associate. Hesees individuals and couples presenting with a wide range of sex and relationship issues.Silva specialises in working with sexual trauma and compulsive sexual behaviours.Silva is a Course Director for CICS (Contemporary Institute of Clinical Sexology) and speaksinternationally. Silva is the author of Compulsive Sexual Behaviours, A Psycho-Sexual Treatment Guide for Clinicians (2021, Routledge).Website: https://www.silvaneves.co.uk/Twitter: https://twitter.com/SilvaNeves3Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/silvanevespsychotherapy/

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Megan Jayne Crabbe, who is a creator, author, presenter, and body positive advocate. Megan and Hannah talk about when they first learned that our bodies could bring us pleasure instead of pain or just being about somebody else's pleasure, as well as dismantling internalised shame about experiencing pleasure. They chat about navigating relationships online and discovering what - and what not! - to share. Megan also discusses body image, the body positive movement, and mental health in relationships.CW: We discuss fatphobia, diet culture, and eating disorders. Please skip this episode if you need to and look after yourself.✨MORE ABOUT MEGAN JAYNE CRABBE✨Megan Jayne Crabbe is a bestselling author, award-winning digital creator and presenter with more than 1.3 million followers across her social channels. She built her online platform creating content around the topics of body positivity, eating disorder recovery, mental health and feminism. In 2017 she wrote her first book, *Body Positive Power,* a manifesto on all the reasons why we hate our bodies, and how to find peace in them instead, which has helped thousands of readers worldwide reclaim the bodies they're in. When she's pretending that the internet doesn't exist, you'll probably find her walking her dog or hanging out with her sister Gemma, who is much cooler than she is.- Twitter: https://twitter.com/meganjcrabbe- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meganjaynecrabbe/- Newsletter: https://meganjaynecrabbe.substack.com/

We're back! We took an unplanned break because... *drum roll* Hannah's pregnant!! And the first trimester was a rough time for her. But we're back, and in this special episode, Hannah and her husband Dan answer all your questions about the pregnancy, becoming parents, their relationship, and a whole bunch more. Don't forget to follow @doingitpodcast on Instagram to get your questions in for future q&a episodes, and welcome back to season 5!

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Amp Somers aka Pup Amp, who is a blogger, sex worker, and activist and creator of Watts the Safe Word. Amp and Hannah try to define kink and BDSM, talk about a lot of the misconceptions in a post 50 Shades world, and talk about animal play and the stigma surrounding it. They get into how kink isn't always sexual and Amp discusses his experience being kinky and demisexual. Hannah and Amp also dive into a bunch of other topics, including: how to discover what your kinks are, kink sex work, and the controversy of whether kink belongs at Pride events (spoiler: yes, it does)!MORE ABOUT AMP SOMERSPup Amp is a blogger, sex worker, activist and producer for "Watts The Safeword." Along with guests of all abilities, backgrounds, experiences and kinky lifestyles, he destigmatizes topics on sex, kink and other LGBTQ+ issues. From YouTube to Twitch to Podcasting he tries to make the world more sex positive one day at a time- Watts The Safe Word: https://www.youtube.com/WattsTheSafeword- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pupamp/- Twitter: https://twitter.com/pupamp

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Justine Ang Fonte, who is an intersectional sex educator. Justine talks about the recent backlash she experienced from conservative parents and the media about her sex education classes. She and Hannah talk about porn literacy, and how to talk about porn with young people. They also talk about the present state of lots of mainstream porn being incredibly misogynistic and racialized, healthy relationships and embracing awkwardness and vulnerability, and Justine shares some of her favourite TV shows that depict more realistic sex and relationships!MORE ABOUT JUSTINE ANG FONTEJustine Ang Fonte is a proud Filipina, health education consultant, and speaker on intersectional sexuality topics for for institutions across the United States on topics such as pornography literacy, consent, gender, and beauty standards. She received her Master's in Education in Teaching from the University of Hawai'i and her Master's in Public Health in Sexuality from Columbia University. You can learn more about her career on her website (justinefonte.com) or follow her at @ImJustineAF and @_good.byes_- Twitter: https://twitter.com/ImJustineAF- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imjustineaf/

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Ev'Yan Whitney, who is a sexuality doula and sex educator. Hannah and Ev'Yan jump around so many interesting topics this week, including sensuality: what is it? How do you incorporate it into your sex life and life in general? Why do we often neglect our sensuality? They talk about Ev'Yon's a new book, Sensual Self, which comes out later this year, and the relaunch of their podcast also called Sensual Self. Hannah and Ev'Yan also talk about breath and working on the relationship that you have with your body, and Ev'Yan talks about her experience of living apart together with her partner, and how to nourish individuality in a relationship. Finally, Hannah and Ev'Yan chat about about gender and Ev'Yan's experience of coming out as non binary and exploring their gender during lockdown.MORE ABOUT EV'YAN WHITNEYEv'Yan Whitney (they/she) is a Sexuality doula, somatic practitioner, and sensualist. Since 2011, Ev'Yan has been dedicated to sex education and sexual activism for women and non-binary folks, helping individuals reclaim their unique sexual expressions and reconnect to their sensual bodies. Ev'Yan's work focuses on decolonizing, unshaming, and liberating sexuality at the intersection of identity, pleasure, and embodiment. Ev'Yan is the author of Sensual Self, a forthcoming self-guided journal that will help you come home to yourself through your senses. She also hosts a podcast of the same name. For more about her work go to [evyanwhitney.com](http://evyanwhitney.com/) and follow her on Instagram @evyan.whitney.- Twitter: https://twitter.com/evyanwhitney- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/evyan.whitney/

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Laura Shipp, who is a doctoral researcher in cybersecurity and FemTech. Hannah and Laura talk about the FemTech industry, capitalism and healthcare, our thoughts on period tracking apps, what it means for our privacy and data when it comes to sensitive information, gender inclusivity with some of these apps and services, as well as who ultimately has access to them, and who is being left behind. CW: brief mention of sexual assaultMORE ABOUT LAURA SHIPPLAURA SHIPP is a doctoral researcher at Royal Holloway, University of London. Her research focuses on period-tracking apps, Femtech and the ways people are using these emerging technologies. It is based in the disciplines of cyber security and geography and asks questions about what a feminist version of cyber security could look like. She is a self-proclaimed period nerd and likes cycling and hunting for sea glass.- Twitter: https://twitter.com/shipplaura

We're kicking off season 5 with a real bang as Hannah is joined by Emily Nagoski, who is a sex educator and author of Come As You Are and Burnout. If you've been listening to this podcast for a while, you've absolutely heard Hannah fangirl about her before! Emily takes us through the very important differences between pleasure, arousal, desire, and consent and Hannah and Emily talk about responsive and spontaneous desire and how the model of responsive desire can be misunderstood and cause some ethical problems. They also get into stress and the impact of stress on sexual desire, what the stress cycle is and how you can complete it even if the thing that is stressing you out won't go away. Finally they chat about Emily's new book that she's writing currently, the world of sex research, and arousal non-concordance. Nerd out with us and welcome to season 5!!CW: rape culture, sexual assaultMORE ABOUT EMILY NAGOSKIEMILY NAGOSKI is the award-winning author of the New York Times bestselling Come As You Are and The Come As You Are Workbook, and coauthor, with her sister, Amelia, of New York Times bestseller Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle. She earned an M.S. in counseling and a Ph.D. in health behavior, both from Indiana University, with clinical and research training at the Kinsey Institute. Now she combines sex education and stress education to teach women to live with confidence and joy inside their bodies. She lives in Massachusetts with two dogs, a cat, and a cartoonist.- Twitter: https://twitter.com/emilynagoski- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enagoski/

We're back, baby!! Here's a little preview of what's coming up in the all new rebranded season 5 of Doing It and guest interviews will start again next week!

Welcome to the final episode of the Doing It agony aunts miniseries, where Hannah and her assistant Megan answer your questions with friendly advice! This week Hannah and Megan answer a listener question about recovering a great sex life after the pandemic and along the way they get into breaking the stress cycle and how to reconnect with your body during chronic illness.

Welcome back to the Doing It agony aunts miniseries, where Hannah and her assistant Megan answer your questions with friendly advice! This week: advice on planning a same sex wedding! Navigating family politics? Feeling comfortable on the day? Vibe check??? Hannah and Megan get into all of it, and chat a bit about Megan's and her wife's wedding and Hannah & Dan's mega het fest wedding too.

Welcome back to the Doing It agony aunts miniseries, where Hannah and her assistant Megan answer your questions with friendly advice! This week is all about feelings about porn - about your partner watching porn, examining discomfort about porn, and finding positive stories about porn. All the general narratives are either about conflict, secrecy, shame and, if you're lucky, maybe it's played for lols. But having examples of positive stories and interactions with porn can help us all build new frameworks in how we feel about it and hopefully have a positive impact on our relationships too.

Welcome back to the Doing It agony aunts miniseries, where Hannah and her assistant Megan answer your questions with friendly advice! This week: WTF is up with marriage laws? Can you annual a marriage if one of you has an STI? Join Hannah and Megan through the wild ride of learning the exact reasons why you can annul a marriage in the UK (seriously, strap in).

Welcome back to the Doing It agony aunts miniseries, where Hannah and her assistant Megan answer your questions with friendly advice! This week: what is demisexuality? How do you explore whether you're demisexual without sexual or romantic experience?

Welcome to the Doing It agony aunts miniseries, where Hannah and her assistant Megan answer your questions with friendly advice! This week: is emotional cheating a thing and what does it look like? Is it okay to have crushes on other people if you're in a relationship? Does your partner have to fulfil all your needs?

Welcome to the end of season 4 q&a! In this episode, Hannah answers your questions about sex and relationships, podcasting in general, and making this season in particular. She talks about the sex drive myth, how to make online dating less scary, and if it's ever too soon to introduce kink into your sex life. Also she talks about how long each Doing It episode takes to make and how she's feeling about virtual recording. Thank you for listening and we'll see you in season 5!

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Juno Dawson, who is a bestselling author, screenwriter and journalist. Juno discusses trans rights, and also transphobia in the British media. Her and Hannah talk about healthcare for trans youth, and her new book What's the T?. Finally, Hannah and Juno discuss the evolving nature of language, and how women with an x may not be as inclusive as it first seems.CW: Transphobia and JK Rowling.MORE ABOUT JUNO DAWSONJuno Dawson is a bestselling novelist, screenwriter, journalist, and a columnist for Attitude Magazine. Her writing has appeared in Glamour, The Pool, Dazed and the Guardian. She has appeared on Pointless Celebrities, BBC Women's Hour, Front Row, ITV News, Channel 5 News, This Morning and Newsnight.Juno's books include the global bestsellers, THIS BOOK IS GAY and CLEAN. She won the 2020 YA Book Prize for MEAT MARKET. She also writes for television and has multiple shows in development both in the UK and US. An occasional actress and model, Juno had a cameo in the BBC's I MAY DESTROY YOU (2020) and was the face of Jecca Cosmetics Play Pots campaign.Juno grew up in West Yorkshire, writing imaginary episodes of Doctor Who. She later turned her talent to journalism, interviewing luminaries such as Steps and Atomic Kitten, before writing a weekly serial in a Brighton newspaper.Juno lives in Brighton. She is a part of the queer cabaret collective known as CLUB SILENCIO. In 2014, Juno became a School Role Model for the charity STONEWALL.- Twitter: https://twitter.com/junodawson- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/junodawson/

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Dr Eleanor Janega, who is a historian specialising in sexuality, apocalyptic thought, society, propaganda, and the urban experience in the late medieval period. Eleanor discusses the origins of sex negative Christianity, and how people in medieval Europe perceived female sexuality, sodomy, sex work, and queer people. She and Hannah invent a gameshow called "what's the medieval deal with...", featuring the medieval deal with sexualising fruits, pubic hair, and oral sex, and finally Hannah and Eleanor discuss medieval conceptions of marriage and love, and medieval strap-ons and dildos!MORE ABOUT DR ELEANOR JANEGAEleanor Janega (she/her)is a historian specialising in sexuality, apocalyptic thought, society, propaganda, and the urban experience in the late medieval period. Her first book for a general audience The Middle Ages: A Graphic Guide is out in June. She blogs at [going-medieval.com](http://going-medieval.com/) and teaches at the London School of Economics.- Twitter: https://twitter.com/GoingMedieval- Blog: https://going-medieval.com/- The Middle Ages: A Graphic History: https://uk.bookshop.org/a/689/9781785785917)*

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Portia Brown from Froetic Sexology, who is a sex educator and sex coach. Portia discusses why she became a sex educator and also all things pleasure from porn to solo sex. Portia also talks about what it means to have mindful sex and how finding a pleasure practice is different from self-care. Finally, Hannah and Portia chat about how to bring up sex toys with a partner and their feelings on the sexual wellbeing industry in general.✨MORE ABOUT PORTIA BROWN✨Portia Brown is the founder of FroeticSexology.com, a blog and social media platform that helps women and femmes identify who they are as sexual beings. She primarily works as a sex educator and sex coach. Portia believes we are all divine + deserving of pleasure, and spends her days exposing her own truths and troubles as a means to help others. When she is not talking about sex, she is indulging in her own pleasure practices, cooking or watching Survivor with her boyfriend. She can be found most easily through her instagram account @FroeticSexology- Website: https://froeticsexology.com/- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/froeticsexology/

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Poppy Lepora, who is the founder of the independent sex toy boutique Self & More and a masturbation enthusiast. Poppy discusses discovering self-pleasure and we talk about lockdown masturbation habits (with data!). She and Hannah talk about the stigma around masturbation if you're in a relationship and really get into the theme of "messy masturbation" - the real, dirty, horny reality of wanking. Finally, Hannah and Poppy discuss what it's like running a sex-positive business using Instagram as a main platform and the difficulties with their sex-negative policies, AND, of course, Poppy gives us a whole bunch of sex toy recommendations.MORE ABOUT POPPY LEPORAPoppy Scarlett Lepora is the owner of Self & More sex toy boutique, a pleasure educator and female masturbation activist (aka a proud wanker). She launched Self & More because she was frustrated by the way that many sex toy retailers viewed female pleasure through the male gaze. She believes that shopping for sex toys should be as simple and shame-free as shopping for any other kind of self care items.Poppy is a polyamorous, bisexual woman who’s dedicated to helping people to speakmore honestly about their sexual desires and dismantling the stigma that still surrounds masturbation in the UK.- Self & More: https://www.selfandmore.co.uk/- Self & More Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/selfandmore/- Poppy's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/poppyscarlett_/

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Megan, who is Hannah's assistant working behind the scenes on her YouTube channels and the podcast. Megan discusses having ME/chronic fatigue syndrome, and also how she somehow escaped compulsory heterosexuality as a lesbian. Her and Hannah talk about biphobia in some lesbian communities, and dating with a chronic illness. Finally, Hannah and Megan discuss the intersection of Megan's ME and eating disorder, and if orgasms really do help with chronic pain.CW: eating disordersMegan Moore (she/her) has been Hannah's assistant for just over a year, working on everything from analytics to the newsletter to finding the right GIF for the situation. You can find her on Instagram (@moogflorin) where she talks more about living with ME, being super gay, and allll the queer book recommendations she can fit in a caption. She lives in London with her wife and the world's angriest cat, finds writing about herself in the third person very weird, and always wants to see pictures of your dog!Megan's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/moogflorin/Megan's Twitter: https://twitter.com/moogflorinMegan's blog: https://moogflorin.com/

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Katherine Angel, who is the author of Tomorrow Sex Will Be Good Again: Women and Desire in the Age of Consent. Katherine discusses consent culture and the pressure we put on women to know what we want sexually as a way of protecting us from sexual violence. She and Hannah talk about why bad sex happens and quickly dip into their thoughts on pickup artists. Finally, Hannah and Katherine discuss the social and political landscape of sex and the big V word: vulnerability.CW: Sexual assault, sexual violence, and a short discussion about the murder of Sarah Everard✨MORE ABOUT KATHERINE ANGEL✨Katherine Angel is the author of Tomorrow Sex Will Be Good Again, Daddy Issues, and Unmastered: A Book on Desire, Most Difficult to Tell. She directs the MA in Creative and Critical Writing at Birkbeck, University of London, and her writing has appeared in the Guardian, Granta, The White Review, and Los Angeles Review of Books amongst other places.- Twitter: https://twitter.com/KayEngels/- Tomorrow Sex Will Be Good Again: Women and Desire in the Age of Consent*: https://uk.bookshop.org/a/689/9781788739160 (aff link)

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Laura Clarke, who is the Stakeholder Engagement Officer for the LGBT National Partnership. Laura discusses some specific issues that affect the health and wellbeing of LGBTQ+ people, what services are available to them, and how our public services are failing this population. She and Hannah talk about data and monitoring of LGBTQ+ people in the recent 2021 census as well as the phrasing of the questions asked about gender. Finally, Hannah and Laura discuss trans men and non binary people accessing pregnancy and birth services, and how COVID and the pandemic has affected LGBTQ+ people.✨MORE ABOUT THE NATIONAL LGBT PARTNERSHIP✨The National LGBT Partnership was established in early 2010, in order reduce health inequalities and challenge homophobia, biphobia and transphobia within public services. The Partnership combines the expertise of a number of key LGBT organisations across England, and works closely with many more. The Partnership is a Sector Strategic Partner of the Department of Health, Public Health England and NHS England, collaborating with a wide range of organisations as part of the Health and Wellbeing Alliance. It has experience of successfully influencing policy, practice and actions of Government, statutory bodies, and othersThe partners have a long history of service delivery, working with LGBT people both locally and nationally. Services include 1-2-1 counselling, befriending, peer-support groups, helplines, community leader programmes, testing, advocacy, youth-work, HIV, housing support, drug and alcohol interventions, and much more. This enables the Partnership to act as a catalyst and connector, putting LGBT people and their issues firmly on the agenda of a wide range of decision makers.- http://twitter.com/LGBTPartnership- instagram](https://www.instagram.com/lgbtpartnership/✨MORE ABOUT LAURA CLARKE✨Laura is the Stakeholder Engagement Officer for the National LGBT Partnership. She works with the health and voluntary sector across England, bringing together services to increase the visibility of LGBT+ health inequalities and developing resources to increase awareness.Laura has vast experience of working in the charity sector and has previously worked with LGBT+ youth, mental health, loneliness and sexual violence projects.Laura is from Barry, South Wales (and is well used to the Gavin & Stacey references by now). She moved to Bath for her undergraduate degree and then resided for two years in Brighton, where she obtained her MA in Gender Studies. She is now lives in Bath again with her partner.Laura can often be found laughing at stand-up comedy or crying at musical theatre. She also enjoys poetry (both reading and writing) and has a borderline obsessive love of Taylor Swift. When taking a break from work, Laura is likely moseying around European cities, looking at art and struggling to find gluten-free food.- https://twitter.com/thelauraclarke- https://www.instagram.com/thelauraclarke/

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Erin Ekins, who is the author of Queerly Autistic: The Ultimate Guide for LGBTQIA+ Teens on the Spectrum. Erin discusses coming out as bisexual, being diagnosed with autism, and the combination of societal hypersexualization of bisexuality with the infantilization of autistic people. She and Hannah talk about the potential vulnerability of being autistic and the potential for abusive platonic or romantic relationships. They chat about Torchwood and how fandoms and fanfic can be a great way to explore your sexuality. Finally, Erin tells Hannah about the term "queerplatonic", gives advice for people in relationships with or friends with autistic people, and talks about the current poor state of research into autism.CW: abusive relationships (12:00 - 17:29; 4 minutes 30 seconds) and suicide (30:46 -31:59, 1 minute and 13 seconds). These timestamps are without ads: you may or may not be served ads whilst listening to the episode which may change the time stamps. If you hear a section start and don’t want to listen, just skip ahead the length of the section to avoid it.✨MORE ABOUT ERIN EKINS✨I am a queer, autistic woman who writes and advocates on issues surrounding being queer and autistic. I also work on wider disability justice and various other social justice topics. I have written for The Independent, Huck Magazine, and Neuroclastic, and have featured on Channel 4, The Victoria Derbyshire Show and BBC Radio 5 Live.My first book, Queerly Autistic: The Ultimate Guide for LGBTQIA+ Teens on the Spectrum was released by Jessica Kingsley Publishers in 2021. I run a YouTube channel called Queerly Autistic, and you can also find me on Twitter as @QueerlyAutistic- Queerly Autistic: The Ultimate Guide for LGBTQIA+ Teens on the Spectrum: https://blackwells.co.uk/bookshop/product/9781787751712- Twitter: https://twitter.com/queerlyautistic- YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCfOTz1cKoHxSieKCV_4p5UQ- Website: https://queerlyautistic.com/

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Millie Gooch, the founder of Sober Girl Society. Millie discusses why she went sober, and also forgiving yourself for past drunken mistakes. She and Hannah talk about drunk cheating, confidence, and sober sex and sober dating. Finally, Hannah and Millie discuss how to handle break-ups and heartbreak without alcohol, and how to support a partner who doesn't drink.MORE ABOUT MILLIE GOOCHMillie Gooch (she/her) is the founder of The Sober Girl Society, a hugely popular Instagram community (currently 100k followers and growing) and one of the leading voices pioneering the sobriety movement here in the UK. High-profile followers include Sam Smith, Bryony Gordon, Zoe Ball and Jameela Jamil's iWeigh. As a journalist, she has written for a range of publications, and her campaigning work has been featured everywhere from ELLE and Stylist to the BBC and Evening Standard.- Sober Girl Society: https://sobergirlsociety.com/- Sober Girl Society Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/milliegooch/?hl=en- Millie's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/milliegooch/?hl=en

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Jannette Davies, who is the founder of Sonder and Beam. Jannette discusses what led her to start Sonder and Beam, her African Christian upbringing, and how she went from learning about sex in a more conservative context to becoming someone whose job it is to encourage other people to talk more openly about sex. She and Hannah talk about the cultural differences around sex and dating between the western world and Sierra Leone, and inclusive sex positivity and having different sex positive values. Finally, Hannah and Jannette discuss how sex as a subject matter should be taken more seriously, as well as slut-shaming, the media, and Bridgerton. Hannah and Jannette also discuss FGM (female genital mutilation) - timestamps to skip this section if you need to are below.CW: female genital mutilation. Timestamps to skip: 25:04 - 30:00 (4 minutes 56 seconds). These timestamps are without ads: you may or may not be served ads whilst listening to the episode which may change the time stamps. If you hear a section start and don’t want to listen, just skip ahead the length of the section to avoid it.✨MORE ABOUT JANNETTE DAVIES✨Hi, I am Jannette. I founded Sonder and Beam because I believe that everyone around the world deserves to be educated about their body and given the free choice to do what they please with it.I love what the Sex Positive movement has achieved for women in the western world over the past few decades. Since ‘Me Too’, the conversation around female sex and sexuality has blown up and I am all for that. But there is so much more to do.My mission in life is to create a space where females can speak freely, learn to understand themselves and others, and make their own free choices when it comes to how they live, how they identify, and what they choose to do with their bodies: without fear of violence, stigma or shame. I have seen that the women who make the most change in this world are those who support other women: even simply by listening and being present for one another. I founded Sonder & Beam to give women a way to do exactly that. Together we can change the conversation. Together, we can make a better world for every woman, everywhere.- Website: https://sonderbeam.com/- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sonderandbeam/

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Zachi Brewster, who is an abortion doula and sex educator. Zachi discusses her miscarriage and abortion experience, and also her work supporting others through an abortion. Her and Hannah talk about the impact COVID has had on abortions, and reproductive health and sex education in general. Finally, Hannah and Zachi discuss the importance of activism and advocacy around abortion access and support, and how abortions are over regulated and over politicised.CW: abortion, miscarriageMORE ABOUT GUEST:Zachi is a Black, queer, abortion doula and sex and pleasure educator. She recently created Dopo, a community platform providing honest and inclusive abortion care and education. In short, she supports individuals through transitional experiences and builds communities around our shared stories. Her work aligns with her personal mission to improve reproductive and sexual health services for all.Zachi's Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/zaz.brw/Dopo: https://www.instagram.com/doposupport/

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Becky Lund-Harket, who is the Head of Public Engagement and a workshop facilitator at the School of Sexuality Education as well as the founder of the Candid Collective. Becky discusses why people feel dissatisfaction in sexual and romantic relationships (spoiler: it's because of poor communication!) and gets into why we find communication so difficult, as well as talking about some good and bad examples from TV. Becky and Hannah talk about the orgasm gap, how sex ed can help to close that gap, and why orgasms shouldn't be the main focus of pleasure. Finally, Hannah and Becky discuss the double standards involved with nudes and sexting.✨MORE ABOUT BECKY LUND-HARKET✨Becky Lund-Harket (she/her) is the Head of Public Engagement and a Workshop Facilitator at School of Sexuality Education. School of Sexuality Education deliver workshops for young people on topics ranging from porn, consent and healthy relationships to periods and genital anatomy. Their approach is intersectional, feminist, non-binary and sex positive. They support young people and those working with them to ensure everyone has access to a complete, inclusive and comprehensive sex and relationships education.Becky is also the Founder of The Candid Collective. Candid host fun and informative workshops for adults across London and online. Their discursive and research-led events focus on sex, bodies and relationships with the aim of starting open conversations. Becky strongly believes that the quality of the relationships we have, including with ourselves, determine the quality of our lives.- School of Sexuality Education: https://schoolofsexed.org/- The Candid Collective Website: https://www.thecandidcollective.com/

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Laura Whitmore, who is a broadcaster, presenter, and now author of her new book No One Can Change Your Life Except for You. Laura discusses being taught sex ed by a nun in Catholic school, the stories they were told, and the pressure around what you should be doing with your sex life, pregnancy, and parenting styles. She and Hannah talk about being pregnant in lockdown as well as relationships, break-ups, and break-up songs. Finally, Hannah and Laura answer some of your questions from Instagram!MORE ABOUT LAURA WHITMORE:Laura Whitmore (she/her) is an established and highly experienced TV presenter and radio broadcaster, known for her roles hosting Love Island, I'm a Celebrity Get Me Out Of Here Now!, MTV and much more, as well as her own BBC Radio 5 Live series, The Laura Whitmore Show. She hosts Castaway - the podcast about podcasts - and recently wrote and starred in the award winning short film, Sabhdh.With a degree in Journalism, Laura has always regarded writing as her first love. In 2018 her article expressing her views on Upskirting and the #MeToo and #TimesUp campaigns went viral after publication on The Huffington Post, being shared millions of times around the world. And she has written features on topics ranging from abortion to the effects of social media, for Grazia Magazine, Hot Press, Elle and Glamour. Her poem for International Women's Day, She, was shared all over social media in March 2020.- Twitter: https://twitter.com/thewhitmore- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thewhitmore/- TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thewhitmore

In this episode, Hannah chats to someone outside the sex ed and sex positivity bubble about their dating journey and experiences: Ali Abdaal, who is a doctor and YouTuber and makes content about productivity, tech, and living a healthy, happy life. Ali discusses the premium offerings from dating apps and what they actually give you, and also whether there's such a thing as being too independent to be able to fit a partner into your routine. He and Hannah talk about if we can learn anything from pick-up artists, and whether you can apply productivity theories to dating! Finally, Hannah asks whether Ali really does have a marriage folder in his email inbox to help him find a wife.✨MORE ABOUT ALI ABDAAL ✨Ali Abdaal is a doctor, YouTuber and podcaster who explores the strategies and tools that help us live happier, healthier, more productive lives.- YouTube: https://youtube.com/aliabdaal- Twitter: https://twitter.com/aliabdaal- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/AliAbdaal/- Website: https://aliabdaal.com/