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Want to know what it takes to feel more connected to yourself and in your relationships? Fiachra "Figs" O'Sullivan, a  psychotherapist, counselor, and entrepreneur, joins us today to discuss his commitment to helping individuals and couples feel more connected in their relationships. Figs is the Founder of Empathi, a therapy resource that provides personalized relationship guidance for individuals and couples of all demographics. With a distinct approach to counseling services, Figs and his team at Empathi have helped countless clients find the support they need…  Listen now to explore: The importance of pursuing self-development.  The biggest problems that people think they have when they start therapy.  Why letting your partner be themselves can promote further connectivity.  Transformational experiences that can occur during couples counseling sessions.  To learn more about Figs and his work with Empathi, click here now! Episode also available on Apple Podcast: http://apple.co/30PvU9C

In this episode, I have the pleasure of interviewing LMFT Figs O'Sullivan. In his practice, Figs focuses on three pillars for relationship work: Attachment Theory, Systems Theory, and Transformational Experiences. Figs teaches us that understanding that people's actions are driven by their own insecurities and fears is fundamental. Instead of fixating on the flaws of our partner/ex-partner, it's more beneficial to study one's own emotional responses and vulnerabilities and how to feel our feelings better. By becoming an expert on oneself and the system, one can be and attract a more emotionally evolved partner, and fight less! So many gems in this episode - dive in! Fiachra "Figs'' O'Sullivan is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, certified in Emotionally-Focused Therapy, and the founder of Empathi. He strives to interact with his clients as fellow travelers on life's journey, allowing them to easily dive deeper into their “stuff” with his down-to-earth philosophy.  Figs has spent years working with frustrated couples at a crossroads in their relationship—they want to make things work but are stuck in what Figs calls their “Waltz of Pain”—which is what led him to create Empathi! Inspired by attachment theory, improvisational dance and theater, experiential psychotherapy, and EFT, Empathi provides fun, effective, and simple solutions to help couples stop fighting and snuggle more. —Website: https://empathi.com —Empathi Quiz for Couples: https://empathi.com/quiz/ —Empathi Courses: https://get.empathi.com/ —YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Empathinow —Media Page: https://empathi.com/figs-osullivan Themes: Relationships, Boundaries, Self-Worth, Self-Love, Codependency, Dating, Attachment Theory, Transformation, Conflict, Grief, Communication, Psychology 0:00:00 Intro 0:04:11 Who's the problem in the relationship? 0:08:10 How communication can be threatening 0:11:30 Three Pillars for Relationship Work: Attachment Theory, Systems Theory, and Transformational Experiences 0:18:46 The reason people get together 0:28:21 Confronted with grief - now what? 0:28:55 Changing perspective 0:37:12 Importance of using attachment theory responsibly 0:40:14 Tips for a successful relationship 0:43:37 Counterintuitive concepts in self-development and attachment theory 0:48:12 The line between personal boundaries and relationship deal-breakers 0:54:21 Opening up about feelings and concerns 1:03:08 The Complexity of Attachment and Relationships 1:06:47 The Pain of Disappointing a Loved One 1:10:16 Helping People Feel Their Feelings Better 1:13:16 Becoming an Expert for Future Relationships This episode is sponsored by: —Open: Get 30 days free by visiting https://withopen.com/CREATETHELOVE —Organifi: Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off sitewide at http://www.organifi.com/createthelove Contact us at podcast@markgroves.com for sponsor product support, questions, comments, or just to say hello! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ready to end the cycle of negativity in your relationship? Figs O'Sullivan shows you the way on this episode of the Manlihood ManCast Figs O'Sullivan, a distinguished Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and an unwavering advocate for Emotionally-Focused Therapy, stands at the forefront of esteemed therapists in San Francisco. Hailing from the vibrant landscapes of Ireland, Figs has traversed a remarkable path, from the ancient Emerald Isle to the sun-kissed shores of Hawaii, where he now resides with his cherished wife, Teale, and their two children. In his quest to unravel the mysteries of human healing, Figs bypasses the complexities of traditional therapy, offering a straightforward and often elusive route to personal growth. His mission is to empower men, providing accessible guidance on the challenging journey of emotional development. Beyond his therapeutic prowess, Figs embodies the qualities of a loving father, a dependable friend, and a trusted confidant, underscoring the principles of manhood and empathy. His remarkable expertise has earned him a reputation as the go-to couples therapist for the influential figures of Silicon Valley. Figs is no stranger to assisting the world's brightest and most creative minds in forging resilient and loving partnerships. What sets Figs apart is his captivating, quick-witted, and relatable speaking style, inviting his male audience into insightful, and at times, humorous discussions. His ability to decipher human emotions has even drawn comparisons to the formidable IBM Watson, as noted by NPR. Figs O'Sullivan's impact transcends his therapy room. With over 1,500 course participants and a community of more than 16,000 Empathi users, his wisdom reaches far and wide. A dedicated community of 20,000 email subscribers eagerly awaits his insights and guidance. Figs dives into a range of thought-provoking subjects, addressing questions that resonate with men. He demystifies the enigma of recurring relationship conflicts, explores the essence of love, and demystifies the intricacies of human connection. Figs imparts valuable perspectives and practical steps to make love work, emphasizing the importance of recognizing the rational basis behind everyone's actions. He sheds light on the complexities of building enduring relationships, breaking free from negative patterns, and forging the emotional bonds that define true manhood. With an abundance of experience and a heartfelt commitment to helping men navigate the intricate landscape of emotions and relationships, Figs O'Sullivan stands as a guiding light for those seeking love and healing. His insights are transformative and deeply resonant, making him an indispensable resource for men on their journey to healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Discover the wisdom of Figs O'Sullivan at https://empathi.com/ and join the Manlihood ManCast community in the pursuit of authentic manhood and meaningful connections. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/manlihood/message

In this episode of Saving With Steve, host Steve Sexton is joined by Figs O'Sullivan, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, well-known relationship expert, commander-in-chief to the top-rated therapists in San Francisco, and founder of Empathi.com. They discuss how to manage financial expectations with your family.     Learn more about the show at www.SavingWithSteve.us

 Summary:In this episode, Figs O'Sullivan, a licensed marriage and family therapist, shares his expertise on how to make long-term relationships work. He explains that the key to a successful relationship is to shift from a perspective of blame and criticism to one of empathy and understanding. Figs emphasizes the importance of recognizing that both partners are hurting and that their actions are a result of their own pain. He also discusses the three common patterns of conflict in relationships and how to break free from them. Figs provides practical advice on how to create a connection vacuum and foster a deeper emotional bond with your partner. He concludes by highlighting the transformative power of empathy and the importance of experiencing it in order to create lasting change in a relationship.About The Guest Bio Figs O'Sullivan is a licensed marriage and family therapist, certified in emotionally focused therapy and the founder of Empathi. He is passionate about helping couples create happy and healthy relationships and has spent years working with couples at crossroads in their relationships. Figs combines his background in attachment theory, improvisational dance and theater, and experimental psychotherapy to provide effective and simple solutions for couples.Key Takeaways:Shift from blame and criticism to empathy and understanding in your relationship.Recognize that both partners are hurting and their actions are a result of their own pain.Break free from the three common patterns of conflict in relationships: protest polka, mutual criticism, and silent suffering.Create a connection vacuum by sharing your feelings and needs with your partner in a vulnerable and non-blaming way.Foster a deeper emotional bond with your partner by experiencing empathy and understanding for each other's pain.Connect with Figs on the web @ https://empathi.com/Thanks to Shopify for sponsoring this episode Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/ transform Go to SHOPIFY. COM/ transform to take your business to the next level today. See this video on The Transform Your Mind YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/@MyhelpsUs/videosTo see a transcripts of this audio as well as links to all the advertisers on the show page https://blog.myhelps.us/Follow Transform Your Mind on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/myrnamyoung/Follow Transform Your mind on Facebookhttps://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100063738390977Please leave a rating and review on iTunes https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/transform-your-mind/id1144973094

Have you considered the difference between what people want versus what they truly need in relationships, and how does this understanding impact your approach to forming connections? This introspective exploration can have a profound influence on how you approach building meaningful bonds. Today's guest is Fiachra "Figs" O'Sullivan. Figs is the creator of the Empathi method and the certification process for Empathi coaches. His life's mission is to help couples feel more connected.Violetta and Figs unveil the impact of childhood experiences on your ability to love and how self-sabotaging patterns might be holding you back and decode your attachment style and learn how taking responsibility for your actions and emotions can transform your connections. Whether you're seeking self-growth or hoping to form healthier bonds, don't miss out on this empowering conversation that peels back the layers of love, relationships, and healing. What to Listen For:00:00 Intro02:14 Are you in a toxic relationship?04:15 What can we do about a toxic partner?06:23 When you're in a threatened vulnerable state08:02 Are you in a system together?13:36 When in your reality your partner is hurting you16:14 How childhood experiences affect our ability to love17:56 Self-sabotaging patterns 19:49 The natural fear to fall in love23:31 Struggling to open up 25:25 Know what's your attachment style29:18 Taking responsibility of our actions and emotions33:21 Both need to show up for each other36:28 Foster empathy for yourself and others42:31 The gray area on first dates47:36 Here's what you should focus on when dating50:07 Finding healing through forming relationships55:31 What is a co-dependent relationship?01:00:48 Doing self work to not attract what you lack01:04:19 Glorification of people protecting themselves from getting hurt01:07:29 What people really need is not what they wantConnect with Figs on:https://empathi.com/ https://www.tiktok.com/@empathinow https://www.facebook.com/EmpathiNow/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnPbjlO6Q0KBXVHXeGyivlw https://www.instagram.com/empathinow/ Get more content on:https://www.instagram.com/almostadulting/https://www.instagram.com/violetbenson/https://www.instagram.com/daddyissues_/https://www.youtube.com/c/daddyissuesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode marriage therapist Figs O'Sullivan discusses how Figs' work in couples' relationships can be applicable to business. Figs shares his challenges in building a sustainable business and the value of having smart people around. Listen in as Deborah and Figs then delve into Figs' work in couples' relationships and the importance of constantly evaluating and maintaining the commitment in long-term relationships.   Fiachra "Figs'' O'Sullivan is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, certified in Emotionally-Focused Therapy, and the founder of Empathi. Figs is a passionate entrepreneur, driven to change lives for the better. He strives to interact with the clients as fellow travelers on life's journey, allowing them to easily dive deeper into their “stuff” with his down-to-earth philosophy.Figs has spent years working with frustrated couples at a crossroads in their relationship—they want to make things work but are stuck in what Figs calls their “Waltz of Pain”—which is what led him to create Empathi! Inspired by attachment theory, improvisational dance and theater, experiential psychotherapy, and EFT, Empathi provides fun, effective, and simple solutions to help couples stop fighting and snuggle more.   You connect with Figs in the following ways: Website: https://empathi.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnPbjlO6Q0KBXVHXeGyivlw Instagram: @empathinow   Whether you are a C-Suite Leader of today or tomorrow, take charge of your career with confidence and leverage the insights of The CEO's Compass: Your Guide to Get Back on Track.  To learn more about The CEO's Compass, you can get your copy here: https://amzn.to/3AKiflR See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode of Saving With Steve, host Steve Sexton is joined by Figs O'Sullivan, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, well-known relationship expert, commander-in-chief to the top-rated therapists in San Francisco, and founder of Empathi.com. They discuss how to manage financial expectations with your family.     Learn more about the show at www.SavingWithSteve.us

Figs O'Sullivan has spent years working with frustrated couples at a crossroads in their relationship—they want to make things work but are stuck in what he calls their “Waltz of Pain”. This is what led him to create Empathi. Inspired by attachment theory, improvisational dance and theater, experiential psychotherapy, and EFT, Empathi provides fun, effective, and simple solutions to help couples stop fighting and snuggle more. In this episode of Last First Date Radio: The only relationship problem there is The keys to making a long-term relationship work How to reconnect when feeling disconnected from a partner https://empathi.com/figs-osullivan ►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio  ►If you're feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application  ►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate  ►Get Sandy's books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook  and Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9  ►Get FREE coaching on the podcast! https://bit.ly/LFDradiocoaching  ►FREE download: “Top 10 Reasons Why Men Suddenly Pull Away” http://bit.ly/whymendisappear  ►Group Coaching: https://lastfirstdate.com/the-woman-of-value-club/  ►Website → https://lastfirstdate.com/  ► Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/lastfirstdate1/  ►Get Amazon Music Unlimited FREE for 30 days at getamazonmusic.com/lastfirstdate  --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/sandy-weiner9/message

Fiachra “Figs” O'Sullivan is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, certified in Emotionally-Focused Therapy, and the founder of Empathi. Figs is a passionate entrepreneur, driven to change lives for the better. He strives to interact with the clients as fellow travelers on life's journey, allowing them to easily dive deeper into their “stuff” with his down-to-earth philosophy.Figsall has spent years working with frustrated couples at a crossroads in their relationship—they want to make things work but are stuck in what Figs call their “Waltz of Pain”—which is what led him to create Empathi! Inspired by attachment theory, improvisational dance and theater, experiential psychotherapy, and EFT, Empathi provides fun, effective, and simple solutions to help couples stop fighting and snuggle more.Learn more: https://empathi.com/Influential Entrepreneurs with Mike Saundershttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/influential-entrepreneurs-with-mike-saunders/Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/interview-with-fiachra-figs-osullivan-founder-of-empathi

Fiachra “Figs” O'Sullivan is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, certified in Emotionally-Focused Therapy, and the founder of Empathi. Figs is a passionate entrepreneur, driven to change lives for the better. He strives to interact with the clients as fellow travelers on life's journey, allowing them to easily dive deeper into their “stuff” with his down-to-earth philosophy.Figsall has spent years working with frustrated couples at a crossroads in their relationship—they want to make things work but are stuck in what Figs call their “Waltz of Pain”—which is what led him to create Empathi! Inspired by attachment theory, improvisational dance and theater, experiential psychotherapy, and EFT, Empathi provides fun, effective, and simple solutions to help couples stop fighting and snuggle more.Learn more: https://empathi.com/Influential Entrepreneurs with Mike Saundershttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/influential-entrepreneurs-with-mike-saunders/Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/interview-with-fiachra-figs-osullivan-founder-of-empathi

Fiachra "Figs'' O'Sullivan is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, certified in Emotionally-Focused Therapy, and the founder of Empathi. Figs is a passionate entrepreneur, driven to change lives for the better. He strives to interact with the clients as fellow travelers on life's journey, allowing them to easily dive deeper into their “stuff” with his down-to-earth philosophy. Figs has spent years working with frustrated couples at a crossroads in their relationship, e.g., they want to make things work but are stuck in what Figs calls their “Waltz of Pain” - which is what led him to create Empathi! Inspired by attachment theory, improvisational dance and theater, experiential psychotherapy, and EFT, Empathi provides fun, effective, and simple solutions to help couples stop fighting and snuggle more. Follow his Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/EmpathiNow Follow his Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empathinow Check out his website: https://empathi.com Listen to his podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/come-here-to-me-relationship-experts-walk-the-talk/id1563275102 ___________________________________ Follow Jeremy on Instagram @LongDistanceLoveBombs: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/longdistancelovebombs⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Looking for a heartfelt gift? Visit Jeremy's print shop here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.longdistancelovebombs.com/theshop⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Sign up for Jeremy's weekly newsletter! Each week, I share a personal story and my favorite books, tunes, articles, and ideas. Click here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://longdistancelovebombs.mykajabi.com/email⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. It's easy and takes five seconds. Check out a list of 100 of Jeremy's favorite books here, including many his guests have written and recommend reading: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.amazon.com/shop/longdistancelovebombs⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Here is all of Jeremy's favorite stuff on the planet: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.longdistancelovebombs.com/favorites --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/longdistancelovebombs/message

On today’s episode I have Figs O’Sullivan. Figs is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist that has spent years working with frustrated couples at a crossroads in their relationship. He is the founder of Empathi which provides fun, effective, and simple solutions to help couples see their relationship in a new light, communicate better, and experience greater emotional and physical intimacy. Topics covered: When couples aren’t intimate anymore what has broken down in the relationship? Is it true that opposites attract? How to work through an infidelity. What to do if only 1 of you wants to go to therapy? How do you build a good foundation in your relationship? Book Recommendations: Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love Attachment Theory in Practice: Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with Individuals, Couples, and Families Fig's Podcast: Come Here To Me To visit Fig's Website: Empathi To visit Fig's Instagram To contact Amy Stuttle email podcast@amystuttle.com To visit Victory Men's Health This podcast is not medical advice.

Fiachra "Figs" O'Sullivan joins the podcast today to discuss his commitment to helping couples feel more connected. Figs is a psychotherapist, counselor, and entrepreneur that specializes in helping individuals and couples feel more connected in their relationships. Figs is the Founder of Empathi, an online counseling resource that focuses on cultivating healthy relationships. He is also the creator of the Empathi method and the certification process for Empathi coaches – elements that set their therapeutic approach apart from other counselors… In this episode, we cover: Fundamental principles that make a marriage work. What led Figs to pursue his role as a therapist.  Parts of yourself that can hold you back.  The importance of understanding where your partner is coming from.  To learn more about Figs and his work with Empathi, click here now! Episode also available on Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/38oMlMr

In "Behind the Therapists" Karen and Figs use the feeling of being overextended to explore 3 "roses" and 1 "thorn" about being a couples therapist, each.Karen finds it rewarding to… Take desperate and confused couples and organize what is really happening for them.Help others (thereby feeling valuable as a person enough to "exist for today.")Experience couples on the edge of giving up on the relationship become open-hearted.Karen finds it most difficult to bear the moments when a couple is stuck and she has a hard time holding them in a frame of hope.Figs is fulfilled by…How alive couples therapy is—he has to show up for the couple in the moment, no matter what.Going deeper and deeper into sadness, hopelessness, and despair with a couple, trusting that they'll come through closer.The performance and artistry of a session.The most difficult sessions for Figs are when a couple doesn't trust him yet—they're not in alliance. "Research has shown that a simple act of kindness directed toward another improves the functioning of the immune system and stimulates production of serotonin in both the recipient of the kindness and the person extending the kindness. Even more amazing is that persons observing the act of kindness have similar beneficial results. Imagine this: kindness extended, received, or observed beneficially impacts the physical health and feelings of everyone involved.” — Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

FIGS & TEALE'S STORY: a podcast about love, marriage & relationships by relationship experts Dr. Ray & Jean offering relationship advice for couples, we talk with couples therapists, Figs & Teale about how meeting at a food buffet set their relationship & work with couples in motion To Learn More About the Work That Figs & Teale do, visit: https://empathi.com/ Please subscribe to our podcast and leave us a comment and review. If you have questions, topic suggestions or would like to be considered as guests, email us at contact@couplessynergy.com. For more information about Couples Synergy, look us up online at Couplessynergy.com

Want to know what it takes to feel more connected to yourself and in your relationships? Fiachra "Figs" O'Sullivan, a  psychotherapist, counselor, and entrepreneur, joins us today to discuss his commitment to helping individuals and couples feel more connected in their relationships. Figs is the Founder of Empathi, a therapy resource that provides personalized relationship guidance for individuals and couples of all demographics. With a distinct approach to counseling services, Figs and his team at Empathi have helped countless clients find the support they need…  Listen now to explore: The importance of pursuing self-development.  The biggest problems that people think they have when they start therapy.  Why letting your partner be themselves can promote further connectivity.  Transformational experiences that can occur during couples counseling sessions.  To learn more about Figs and his work with Empathi, click here now! Episode also available on Apple Podcast: http://apple.co/30PvU9C

What do you do when there are no moves left?In "Impossible Moments" Figs and Karen discuss a moment every couple will experience throughout their relationship—being so reactive and so hurt they are simply unable to move forward.This can show up as a conflict in the course of a normal day, such as Figs and Teale experienced in the example Figs shared, or it can show up when two people are very close to ending things, as was the case with Karen's clients.Figs explains that because couples are experiencing emotional bonding trauma very deeply in those moments, if a therapist can hold them in their feelings of abandonment or rejection, they will reach for each other from that place of vulnerability and be able to have a transformational experience.Figs and Karen also discuss the value of "meta-processing" for integrating moments of healing in a couple's relationship—for impossible moments, and in relation to the last Relationship Experts episode with Teale.Couples Therapy Works is a new series from the Come Here To Me team delving into the complex work of couples therapy from the ground up. Each episode will feature one or more of Empathi's own counselors as they examine the truths and challenges of relationship repair.To submit a question for Figs and Karen to answer, email figs@empathi.com or leave a comment on YouTube, Instagram, or Apple Podcasts.If you or someone you love are struggling in your relationship, visit empathi.com for counseling, quizzes, and courses.

The balancing act of couples therapy takes center stage in "Back From Betrayal" as Figs and Karen break down the process of bringing couples who are grappling with a betrayal to repairing and strengthening their relationship.As compassionate witnesses, Empathi couples therapists guide couples toward "all needs met" moments, which means exploring their vulnerable perspectives in a way so that each member feels understood and is able to empathetically hear what the other partner is sharing.With a betrayal such as an affair, the "betrayer" often wants to "get back to good" as soon as possible. In this case, Figs and Karen emphasize experiencing and exploring the negative feelings resulting from the betrayal which the "betrayer" is trying to avoid.As couples therapists, they will explore deeply the many different kinds of betrayal that the "betrayed" has felt for their benefit, but also so that the "betrayer" can recognize it and emulate that empathetic support.Then, there is space to explore the "betrayer"'s pain in the present moment and what they were seeking through the affair or other betrayal.Couples Therapy Works is a new series from the Come Here To Me team delving into the complex work of couples therapy from the ground up. Each episode will feature one or more of Empathi's own counselors as they examine the truths and challenges of relationship repair.To submit a question for Figs and Karen to answer, email figs@empathi.com or leave a comment on YouTube, Instagram, or Apple Podcasts.If you or someone you love are struggling in your relationship, visit empathi.com for counseling, quizzes, and courses.

In "Breakup Empathy" Figs and Karen examine why empathy is the essential ingredient in their work with couples, even when they part ways."Empathy" in this case is not just a person feeling compassion and understanding their partner, it's the ability for both partners to see the relationship as a whole and experience empathy for each person in the system, together.But before it can be experienced, couples will have, say, six beats of time—minutes, hours, days—wherein they cannot control their reactivity and reliance on "the story of other." Even for experienced couples therapists in relationship, the moment is lost.It's important for couples to not try and prevent those six beats of reactivity, but to work on reaching "beat seven"—that moment of empathy for themselves, their partner, and both of them together.Even when couples therapy clients decide to sever their bond, this empathy is essential for each partner's healthy understanding of relationships and themselves. Otherwise, not only can they carry resentment which negatively affects their future relationships, they may harbor negative core beliefs about themselves such as "I'm too much" and "I'm not enough."Couples Therapy Works is a new series from the Come Here To Me team delving into the complex work of couples therapy from the ground up. Each episode will feature one or more of Empathi's own counselors as they examine the truths and challenges of relationship repair.To submit a question for Figs and Karen to answer, email figs@empathi.com or leave a comment on YouTube, Instagram, or Apple Podcasts.If you or someone you love are struggling in your relationship, visit empathi.com for counseling, quizzes, and courses.

If you are struggling with conflict in your relationship Figs provide insight into how couples get into fights, and how come it's hard to get out of the conflict. Topics covered in the podcast: - Couples conflict - Changing from a me vs. you to us vs. the problem - Raw feelings that lie beneath the conflicts - Attachment - Wounds in relationships To learn more about Figs: www.Empathi.com Link for course: empathi.com/psych To get the course: Create an empathi.com account and visit to redeem our flagship Conflict Solution course, free of charge This podcast is for informational purposes only.

"Disconnection is not a "bug," but a feature of all relationships." -Figs O'SullivanFigs O'Sullivan is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, certified in Emotionally-Focused Therapy, and the founder of Empathi. Figs is a passionate entrepreneur, driven to change lives for the better. He strives to interact with the clients as fellow travelers on life's journey, allowing them to easily dive deeper into their “stuff” with his down-to-earth philosophy. Figs has spent years working with frustrated couples at a crossroads in their relationship—they want to make things work but are stuck in what Figs calls their “Waltz of Pain”—which is what led him to create Empathi! Inspired by attachment theory, improvisational dance and theater, experiential psychotherapy, and EFT, Empathi provides fun, effective, and simple solutions to help couples stop fighting and snuggle more.Today we discuss:Emotional bonding as a primary needAll couples' work is trauma workWhat is the "Waltz of Pain" that exists in all relationshipsTransition of "I" consciousness to "WE" consciousnessWhere to spend your energy in relationshipsWe're all dogs from the poundHow do you know when the relationship is over?How Figs relates to his clientsHow/why to celebrate the disconnectionCONNECT WITH FIGS: FREE Conflict Resolution Course // Website // IGOUR LINKS + DISCOUNTSMushyLove Latte (discount: MEDICIN)Immune Intel AHCCOur favorite Reishi KING CoffeeOrganifi (20% discount: MIMIFIT)See all our favorite products on The Medicin CabinetCONNECT WITH USOur websiteMimi's IG // Chase's IG // The Medicin IGSound from Zapsplat.com

"Empathy is seeing the eyes of another, listening with the ears of another, and feeling with the heart of another." - Alfred Adler  Episode Highlights: How we can streghthen our relationships and deepen our connection The superpower of empathy About Figs O'Sullivan Figs is a couples therapist and the creator of the Empathi method and the certification process for Empathy coaches. He's also Chief Empathy Officer, husband, dad, wounded-healer and was featured on NPR's All Things Considered as a champion for healthy relationships. Figs' life's mission is to help couples feel more connected. Show Notes: www.thedadedge.com/friday88

A listener's relationship issue is highlighted in "Married to a Workaholic" as Figs and Karen take a nuanced look at a system they've seen hundreds of times in couples.In this case, the listener's husband is prone to answering work texts while they are spending quality time together, resulting in painful disconnection and conflict.Figs and Karen carefully break down each perspective within this system—the listener Pursuer ("Are you there for me?") and the "texter" Withdrawer ("Am I enough for you?)—using systems theory and attachment theory.Throughout the episode they do deeper and deeper into the experience of the listener and the "texter," accessing their negative judgments of each other, the ways they protest not feeling loved, and their unmet love needs.Couples Therapy Works is a new series from the Come Here To Me team delving into the complex work of couples therapy from the ground up. Each episode will feature one or more of Empathi's own counselors as they examine the truths and challenges of relationship repair.To submit a question for Figs and Karen to answer, email figs@empathi.com or leave a comment on YouTube, Instagram, or Apple Podcasts.If you or someone you love are struggling in your relationship, visit empathi.com for counseling, quizzes, and courses.

Every parent grew up in a different family culture. We have different opinions and values on how we will raise our kids. Our parenting style may differ from our spouse. So, how can parents with different values and styles learn to work together in raising their kids? Relationship expert, Figs O'Sullivan talks about how our family relationships growing up, impact how we parent or set our triggers. He also dives into how parents can use empathy to connect with their kids. We should not let our differences confuse and stress out our kids. We should work together and make our kids feel sure and secure. “I encourage parents to be cultural anthropologists.. Study your own family culture, understand what those values were and see that they're not universally true…One isn't necessarily right or wrong, they just come from different cultures. You're going to get together, and create your own culture.” - Figs O'Sullivan About the Guest:Fiachra “Figs” O'Sullivan is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, well-known relationship expert and commander-in-chief to the top rated therapists in San Francisco. As founder of Empathi, Figs' proprietary process provides relationship support and guidance to tens of thousands couples and individuals who care about the quality of their relationships.Website: https://empathi.com/Connect with Blissful Parenting:Free Workshop ► https://www.BlissfulParentingWorkshop.com Website ► http://www.TheBlissfulParent.com/ Blog ► http://www.TheBlissfulParent.com/blog Podcast ► http://www.TheBlissfulParent.com/podcast/ Contact ►http://www.BlissfulParenting.com/contact Follow Us On Social Media:Youtube ► https://www.youtube.com/theblissfulparent Facebook ► https://www.facebook.com/theblissfulparent Instagram ► https://www.instagram.com/theblissfulparent/ Twitter ►https://twitter.com/blissfulparent Thanks for listening!Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page.Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a note in the comment section below! Subscribe to the podcastIf you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes or Stitcher. You can also subscribe to the podcast app on your mobile device.

Couples Therapy Works is a new series from the Come Here To Me team delving into the complex work of couples therapy from the ground up. Each episode will feature one or more of Empathi's own counselors as they examine the truths and challenges of relationship repair.This week, Empathi veteran Karen Gordon joins Figs to discuss the inner workings of relationship systems: The Cycle. Explore how everything two partners are doing can make sense, even as they make things worse for themselves, and discover how a simple (and deceptively hard to reach) shift in perspective can change every part in your relationship.Physicist Michio Kaku's "Hyperspace and a Theory of Everything" (the fish story): https://mkaku.org/home/articles/hyperspace-and-a-theory-of-everything/Check out Karen and Figs' live episode here on 01/18/23, 12 PM PST:  https://youtu.be/RnzpLTgfvGoTo leave feedback, email figs@empathi.com or leave a comment on YouTube, Instagram, or Apple Podcasts.If you or someone you love are struggling in your relationship, visit empathi.com for quizzes, courses, and consultations.

Couples Therapy Works is a new series from the Come Here To Me team delving into the complex work of couples therapy from the ground up. Each episode will feature one or more of Empathi's own counselors as they examine the truths and challenges of relationship repair.In this episode, Figs and the Empathi team explore the topic of attachment as the pillar on which all relationship systems and behaviors stand. Follow human attachment from the cradle to the grave with Good Enough Parenting, struggling with dependence, enmeshment and codependency, and the two types of pain lovers have the most access to.Therapists who appear in this episode: Fiachra "Figs" O'Sullivan, Alissa Gibbins, Max DeFrain, and Raphael Barker.Parents are typically only fully attuned to their infants emotional needs 20 to 30 percent of the time: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/pbss-this-emotional-life_b_568178Eventual secure base provision in infants—not moment-to-moment attunement—also need only occur 50% of the time to predict better outcomes: https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2019/05/190508134511.htmEmail figs@empathi.com with feedback or leave a comment on YouTube, Instagram, or Apple Podcasts.If you or someone you love are struggling in your relationship, visit empathi.com for quizzes, courses, and consultations.

Most therapists start out as solo practitioners. But the journey to group practice owner can feel daunting and uncertain. In this special interview, join me as Figs O'Sullivan - creator of the Empathi group psychotherapy practice - takes us on his journey from solo therapist to successful group practice owner. Click to listen now!

In this episode of Saving With Steve, host Steve Sexton is joined by Figs O'Sullivan, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, well-known relationship expert, commander-in-chief to the top-rated therapists in San Francisco, and founder of Empathi.com. They discuss:   - How to manage financial expectations with the family during the holiday season   Learn more about the show at www.SavingWithSteve.us

Nicht selten werde ich von Teilnehmenden in Trainings oder im Coaching gefragt, wie das denn wohl gehen könne: klare Grenzen zu setzen und dabei auch noch empathisch zu sein. Mich überrascht diese Frage immer wieder, denn für mich gehört beides unabdingbar zusammen. Das eine - Empathie - braucht das andere - Grenzen setzen. Wie das konkret aussieht, kannst Du in diesem Podcast erfahren. Dabei verrate ich Dir auch, was meines Erachtens nach eigentlich wirklich hinter dieser Gegenüberstellung steht und was Du in Deiner Führungsverantwortung tun kannst, um klar, empathisch und souverän zu bleiben. Viel Spaß beim reinhören.

WELCOME TO VAULT ARCHIVES EVERY OTHER TUESDAY!! Where I share previous episodes or never before aired episodes from the vault that never made it on the show. Good or bad, you decide!Your toxic relationsh*t may actually have a chance IF you listen to this episodeToday I have Empathy therapist Figs on the podcast where we discuss, Types of empathy, the importance of having empathy for yourself, becoming the one you've been waiting for, our coping mechanisms, what your partner is really feeling but not saying when you fight.We then dive into turning your toxic relationship back into love, attachment styles, being emotionally unavailable, self sabotaging, reaching true intimacy, and why it's so hard letting go of a relationship where the other person has moved on.For more information on licensed therapist Fiachra "Figs" O'Sullivan, his free quiz, courses, or therapy, VISIT: WWW.EMPATHI.COMThank you for listening besties! To support this podcast make sure to subscribe, write a 5 star review and follow the podcast Youtube channel!! Also check out our sponsors for the week :)Follow me on Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/c/daddyissues/videosSubscribe to my other show - Hey Besties on Spotify Live every Thursday at 7pm pt - https://spotifylive.link/gVAWrZtn0qbSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

If you love our podcast and wish your partner would give it a listen... today might be the episode for them to join the ride! Join us as we sit down with Figs O'Sullivan, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples. Fig is the creator of the Empathi method and the certification process for Empathi coaches. Fig has a unique way of simplifying the day to day challenges we all face when dealing with our partners; particularly during an argument. Connect with Fig: IG Website This Podcast is brought to you by our sponsors: kiwico.com - Code: TLC - Get 30% off your first month plus FREE shipping on ANY crate line vionicshoes.com Enjoy FREE SHIPPING with promo code: LAUGH Nuuly.com -Code LAUGH10 - Get $10 off your first month Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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In this episode, we talk about the different skills you need to know to improve your relationship. And one of the best ways, no matter what state it's in, is through couples therapy. Listen to today's show to learn what goes on during couples therapy and why you should start going! In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn the importance of going to therapy before things are 'bad' How to work up the courage to start going to therapy or tell your partner that you want to start going What to do if your partner won't go to therapy Common misconceptions about couples therapy The main goal of couples counseling And much more! Fiachra “Figs” O’Sullivan, is the Founder and Chief Empathy at Empathi, which provides step-by-step guidance for couples and individuals who care about their relationships. He is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, who is certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples and individuals, and a passionate entrepreneur, driven to change lives for the better. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/252 Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. MANSCAPED: Get 20% Off and Free Shipping with the code IDO at Manscaped.com. It’s spring cleaning baby and your balls will thank you! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah

ABOUT: Fiachra “Figs” O’Sullivan, is the Founder and Chief Empathy Officer at Empathi, which provides step-by-step guidance for couples and individuals who care about their relationships. He is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, who is certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples and individuals, and a passionate entrepreneur, driven to change lives for the better. Figs has spent years working with frustrated couples at a crossroads in their relationship; they want to make things work but are stuck in what Figs calls their “Waltz of Pain”, which led him to create Empathi. Inspired by attachment theory, improvisational dance and theatre, experiential psychotherapy, and Emotionally Focused Therapy, Empathi provides fun, effective, and simple solutions to help couples stop fighting and snuggle more. Figs designed Empathi to be available for everyone, no matter their socio-economic status, orientation or station in life. Having been heard on NPR “All Things Considered” as a Relationship Expert, Figs is the most sought-after and highly-rated couples counselor in Silicon Valley! Figs is funny, engaging, opinionated, quick-witted, and sometimes irreverent—delivering it all with a charming Irish brogue. Connect: https://empathi.com/ figs@empathi.com __________________ Thank you again for joining us today! If you know anybody that would benefit from this episode please share it with them and help spread the knowledge and motivation. Don’t forget to show your support for the Rise Up For You Podcast by writing a review on iTunes. Your feedback helps the success of our show and pushes us to continuously be better! Check out www.riseupforyou.com for more podcast episodes, webinars, events, and more to help you get to the next level in your personal and professional life! You can also follow us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, and Youtube @riseupforyou

Humans are social beings. The relationships that we create allow us to grow individually. However, building a long-term relationship with someone, be it romantic or not, inevitably comes with obstacles and challenges. When do we push for it to work, and when do we accept that it is not for us? In today's episode, relationship expert Fiachara 'Figs' O'Sullivan joins us to discuss the basics of relationship building therapy. He explains how personal development is deeply connected to how we act in our relationship with other people. We also talk about the ways we can make our relationships work through practicing empathy. If you've been looking for a sign on how to manage your relationships, then this episode will be insightful for you. Tune in to this podcast and start creating better relationships with yourself and your loved ones!   5 Powerful Quotes from This Episode “People's worst fights, people's biggest disconnection, (and) ongoing repetitive arguments are actually evidence of just how important they are to each other, not evidence that there's something fundamentally wrong with us.” “Are we coming to the end of this relationship? Or is this another growth opportunity?” “If you really love each other, you're going to get to a place where you scare each other.” “At the end of the day, it's not a sustainable way for the course of an entire lifetime to be beating ourselves up so that we perform our maximum capacity.” On living a life Ever Forward: “What it means to me is to continue to be honest with myself, be curious about myself, look inside, find what the real vulnerability is underneath whatever actions I'm taking, and then be willing and brave and courageous enough to share that vulnerability with the world.”   About the Guest Figs O'Sullivan is a certified emotionally focused couples therapist and counselor. He is the founder of Empathi.com, which is an engaging online relationship coaching program for couples. As a relationship expert, he acts as a “reflector” during therapy processes to help clients access their inner healing and solutions.  You can reach Figs on his website. Head over to Empathi.com to know more about their programs. Connect w/ Figs @fiacharafigs Connect w/ Chase @chase_chewning   Ever Forward Radio is made possible by our proud partners! Shop using the link/code below to save you money and to further support the show - THANK YOU!  Save 15% on FOUR SIGMATIC lion's mane coffee at https://www.foursigmatic.com/everforward or use code "EVERFORWARD" at checkout    Episode resources: How The Industrial Revolution Ended Naps The Place I'll Go Before I Die by Figs O'Sullivan Learn more about starting your own podcast in the free "Ultimate Beginner's Guide to Podcasting" at OperationPodcast.com Join the EF Nation private Facebook group! Connect and engage with other listeners, expand upon this episode and more at https://www.facebook.com/everforwardradio   For any other questions about how to live a life EVER FORWARD through our coaching services at EF Coach, podcasting consulting and production services, EF Radio guest requests or to have Chase as a guest on your podcast please email him directly at chase@everforwardradio.com.

When a relationship begins it's exciting and new; but when the honeymoon is over and you add children into the mix, the pressures of parenting can take its toll on your relationship. Today we are joined by Figs O’Sullivan, a licensed Family and Marriage Therapist and founder of Empathi who has made it his life’s mission to help couples become more connected. In today’s episode, we’ll discuss the two main types of people in every relationship, how parenting has affected your marriage, and how you can balance kids and your spouse to maintain healthy and happy relationships. Show highlights include: How to turn your own pain into your power (10:50) How you are biologically driven to find a relationship and how that drive could be harming your significant other (14:13) How you’re acting like a baby in your relationship and why that’s ok (18:51) The two main types of people in every relationship and how they hurt each other and don’t even realize it. Which one are you? (20:11) Why fighting with your spouse is a good thing! (24:02) The one thing you must have before you can have a loving and connected relationship (27:50)  Why your solutions won’t work and how to find something that will (28:11) How shifting this one view can completely change your world (31:26) Take the Relationship Assessment Quiz at https://empathi.com/pre-quiz  Check out the Conflict Solution Course at https://courses.empathi.com/courses/the-conflict-solution-empathi-exclusive?ref=fca763  Use code BEBRILLIANT for a 50% discount!   Follow Figs on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fiachrafigs/  Post on Instagram with #letsbebrilliant and tag @cskolnicki Join the Brilliant Balance Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/281949848958057/ Learn more about Cherylanne’s work:  https://cherylanneskolnicki.com Find out more about Brilliant Balance Breakthrough: https://cherylanneskolnicki.com/brilliant-balance/

This week Liza and Kimmy discuss whether a boyfriend looking at other girls on Facebook is a deal breaker. They also discuss digital detoxes, and The Circle. They are then joined by FIGS O'SULLIVAN, marriage and family therapist, relationship expert, and founder of Empathi. They discuss how to have empathy for others, but mainly how to have it for yourself. Check out Figs' company at Empathi.com. Or find Empathi on Insta/Facebook/Twitter @empathinow. Follow us @51FirstDates on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com. And don't forget to join our secret Facebook group!

Today on the podcast, Julianne is speaking with Fiachra “Figs” O'Sullivan, the Founder and Chief Empathy Officer at Empathi, which provides step-by-step guidance for couples and individuals who care about their relationships. He is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, who is certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples and individuals, and a passionate entrepreneur, driven to change lives for the better. He strives to interact with clients as a fellow traveler on life's journey, allowing them to easily dive deeper into their “stuff” with his down-to-earth philosophy. Constantly working on his skills and psychotherapeutic approach, Figs is passionate about helping couples love each other and feel more connected.   Figs has spent years working with frustrated couples at a cross-roads in their relationship; they want to make things work but are stuck in what Figs calls their “Waltz of Pain”, which led him to create Empathi. Inspired by attachment theory, improvisational dance and theatre, experiential psychotherapy, and Emotionally Focused Therapy, Empathi provides fun, effective, and simple solutions to help couples stop fighting and snuggle more. Figs designed Empathi to be available for everyone, no matter their socio-economic status, orientation or station in life.   In the episode, Figs talks about his own family history and personal work around love for himself, which led to helping others. He then dives a bit deeper into why we react the way we do in relationships and how to begin to navigate the real root issue.    Key topics: Being a wounded healer How there's really only one relationship problem The need we all have to be emotionally bonded How we get stuck in a negative, reactionary system with each other The need to get to a place of empathy which each other Good vs bad couples therapists   “If one person doesn't feel met or loved, then the way that person looks in turn to their partner is going to make the partner not seem loved or met, and then they're going to keep passing that unmetness back and forth like a game of hot potato and they're going to get more and more stuck.” Connect with Figs Instagram: @fiachrafigs and @empathinow Twitter: @fiachrafigs and @empathinow On the web: empathi.com and therapywithfigs.com   ----------------------------------------- THE GODDESS EXPERIENCE: 1-day experience tickets still available Though the 3-day immersion packages are sold out, you can still join us Saturday, December 7th, 2019, in a cozy cabin tucked in the foothills outside of Denver. You will be guided through sacred embodiment practices that have changed dozens of women's lives.  We will be gathering together in a supported & sacred container with other sisters to be seen, held, + celebrated. This work will be centered around heart, body, mind, & spiritual healing to initiate profound levels of upleveling in all areas of your life. Featuring: sound healing, sacred embodiment practices, sharing circles, ecstatic dance, fire ceremonies, yoga, energy healing, talk & discussion from industry experts, & so much more magic!   FREE GUIDE: 'GUT ED: 3 Holistic Gut Healing Hacks For Amazing Digestion, Clear Skin & A Happy Mind'   GUT ED, the 6 week Gut Healing Group Program to reset your metabolism & give you clarity + confidence on what works for your body, is now ALWAYS OPEN - Join GUT ED here.   For a COMPLIMENTARY 30 MIN COACHING session with Julianne, leave The Reclamation Project a 5 star iTunes review. Screenshot & send it to @juliannevaccaro or juliannevaccaro@gmail.com to schedule!    Let's connect: IG: @juliannevaccaro The Reclamation Project IG: @therppodcast  Twitter www.juliannevaccaro.com  juliannevaccaro@gmail.com

Figs O’Sullivan helps couples study their moment to moment experience and understand the dynamic they create together to help them be more present with self and each other. He is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and is a passionate entrepreneur, driven to change lives for the better. Figs is constantly working on his psychotherapeutic approach and is passionate about helping couples love each other and feel more connected using his program, The Mindful Approach To Helping Couples Connect. Listen & Subscribe on: iTunes / Stitcher / Podbean / Overcast / Spotify Contact Info Company: Empathi Website: Empathi.com Most Influential Person Christine Price Effect on Emotions “It helps me feel like I have some autonomy and control in my life. “Be aware of what's happening inside you and make choices and decisions that are empowered through your awareness.” Thoughts on Breathing “How I inhabit my own body is through breath.” Suggested Resources Book: Radical Acceptance App: empathi.com, Headspace, Simple Habit, Calm Bullying Story I was the leader of this group of friends. When they knew I was leaving, they rejected me. There were rumors spread about me. It was so shameful for me to be disowned.

Fiachra “Figs” O'Sullivan, is the Founder and Chief Empathy Officer at Empathi, which provides step-by-step guidance for couples and individuals who care about their relationships. He is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, who is certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples and individuals, and a passionate entrepreneur, driven to change lives for the better. He strives to interact with clients as a fellow traveler on life's journey, allowing them to easily dive deeper into their “stuff” with his down-to-earth philosophy. Constantly working on his skills and psychotherapeutic approach, Figs is passionate about helping couples love each other and feel more connected. Figs designed Empathi to be available for everyone, no matter their socio-economic status, orientation or station in life.

“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom” Aristotle once said, and it’s one of the reasons that I brought our next guest on our show. The episode we have got for you today will have you turning the mirror on yourself over and over, so that you can better understand your own reactions to loved ones in your life, and have you taking responsibility instead of pointing the finger, which is what most of us do when faced with a situation that has us thinking “why did they do that ME?” Our guest today, Figs O’Sullivan, who is the leading Relationship Therapist in San Francisco and the Bay Area, will help everyone realize that your reactions are actually not at all about the other person, they’re all about you... and that is a constant for everyone. This episode is going to change your relationship with yourself and help you reflect on what’s really happening when someone lashes out at you, or you break down and feel helpless, or a loved one gets angry and takes it out on you. About Figs O’Sullivan Fiachra “Figs” O’Sullivan, is the Founder and Chief Empathy Officer at Empathi, which provides step-by-step guidance for couples and individuals who care about their relationships. He is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, who is certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples and individuals, and a passionate entrepreneur, driven to change lives for the better. He strives to interact with clients as a fellow traveler on life’s journey, allowing them to easily dive deeper into their “stuff” with his down-to-earth philosophy. Constantly working on his skills and psychotherapeutic approach, Figs is passionate about helping couples love each other and feel more connected. Figs has spent years working with frustrated couples at a crossroads in their relationship; they want to make things work but are stuck in what Figs calls their “Waltz of Pain”, which led him to create Empathi. Inspired by attachment theory, improvisational dance and theatre, experiential psychotherapy, and Emotionally Focused Therapy, Empathi provides fun, effective, and simple solutions to help couples stop fighting and snuggle more. Figs designed Empathi to be available for everyone, no matter their socio-economic status, orientation or station in life. Having been heard on NPR “All Things Considered” as a Relationship Expert, Figs is the most sought-after and highly-rated couples counselor in Silicon Valley! Figs is funny, engaging, opinionated, quick-witted, and sometimes irreverent—delivering it all with a charming Irish brogue. www.empathi.com Before we get to our interview with Figs, we wanted to invite you all into the Backstage Pass Goal Magic Community Group on Facebook. We know that some of you may be thinking “another facebook group to keep track of” but our group is a very dynamic, supportive, and creative bunch who is full of awesome ideas, is always willing to help, and has already had some amazing conversations about our struggles, our goals, and some laughs about a YouTube video gone wrong. We’d love to meet you, and so would our community, so click on the link in our show notes and drop us a note to say hi once you’re in! Meanwhile, we want to invite you into the Backstage Pass Goal Magic Community Group on Facebook. Our group is a very dynamic, supportive, and creative bunch who is full of awesome ideas, is always willing to help, and has already had some amazing conversations about our struggles and goals. We’d love to meet you, and so would our community, so drop us a note to say hi once you’re in! Here’s to Getting Unstuck, Cynthia & Brennen

For all the parents out there! Have you ever thought it was too difficult to balance being a great parent and a great partner to your spouse? Do you feel this is a season that you have to sacrifice some areas of your own life or relationship to ‘make it all work’?    If so this is THE episode for you as you introduce you to Figs and Teale O’Sullivan are a powerful couple, both of whom are marriage and family EFT certified therapists from SF, CA. They are the founders of Empathi, a company that provides affordable and convenient relationship support for both individuals and couples. Empathi offers online courses as well as live support from a whole team of licensed and certified therapists; through fun, effective, and simple solutions to help couples stop fighting, stop suffering, and snuggle more. Figs designed Empathi to be available for everyone, no matter their socio-economic status, orientation or station in life. So all couples can “Love better with Empathi”!    In this episode you will: know that even as you enter into more demanding seasons of life as a parent, that you can truly be a strong individual and strong spouse. You will have ways to create intentional time for you and your spouse, no matter how little time you really have and tools to have arguments in a way that actually benefits your own kids. So that you can feel connection, compassion, and empathy in your relationship no matter how busy (or dirty with kids) your life feels.   Questions asked in this interview What is the biggest challenge for couples to maintain connection and a strong relationship with each other when they are raising kids?  Is any parenting season more difficult than others?  Have you found that most couples experience being limited in their time and focus toward each other, or to things they want to experience, when they are parents?  Since family dynamics have evolved and many more women are working or starting businesses AND wanting to be a mother, are you noticing any new levels of ‘overwhelm’? And what can do about that What are some ways couples can still connect when they have young children?  Should a couple argue in front of their kids or shelter them from disagreements? Traditional parenting roles were seen in a hierarchy (patriarchy) model. In modern parenting, is there a better model to follow that empowers the entire family to contribute? Why is it important to have empathy and what is it in practice anyway?  What is Emotionally Focused Therapy and how can parents best use it to lead and connect with both their spouse and children?     Connect More With The Guests: As mentioned in the episode, you can take your own Relationship Empathi Quiz Here   Other resources: Follow us on Instagram Book a Relationship Breakthrough Session with us PS. Because of demand the call is a $97 placeholder to book your breakthrough session. 

Fiachra "Figs" O'Sullivan is a 5-star licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in San Francisco. He is a certified EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) Couples Therapist, the creator of the Empathi Method, and the certification process for Empathi coaches. His life's mission is to help couples feel more connected.   Connect with Figs on Facebook and Instagram Learn to more skillfully navigate your relationship! Take this short, confidential quiz to receive an insightful personalized report from Empathi. Empathi.com/pre-quiz >>Get 50% "Learning to Love Better: The Conflict Solution" with this link: http://bit.ly/empathipodcast using the code: lessstressed    www.christabiegler.com Connect with Christa on Facebook and Instagram The Less Stressed Life Podcast Listen to the podcast on Stitcher and Google Play

Do you ever feel disconnected from your partner? Well, don't worry — at one point, all relationships will face various levels of disconnect. Listen to today's show to learn how to reconnect with your partner, and get through what might feel like an impossible relationship moment. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include:  Learn how attachment theory helps explain some of the relationship stress we experience when we become parents How to go from threatened to empathetic in our relationship conflicts Dealing with the feeling of being in an 'impossible place' in a relationship Sharing your vulnerability with your partner And much more! Fiachra “Figs” O’Sullivan, is the Founder and Chief Empathy at Empathi, which provides step-by-step guidance for couples and individuals who care about their relationships. He is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, who is certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples an dindividuals, and a passionate entrepreneur, driven to change lives for the better. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/216 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Zola: Zola is the wedding company that will do anything for love. They are reinventing the wedding planning and registry experience to make the happiest moment in our couples’ lives even happier. To get 30% off your invites and paper order visit ZOLA.com/ido. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners!

As heard on NPR's All Things Considered, Fiachra Figs O'Sullivan is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, certified in EFT for couples. He's the creator of the Empathi method and the certification process for Empathi coaches. His life's mission is to help couples feel more connected. Listen in as 'Figs' O'Sullivan helps us increase our empathy, our Superpower in dating and relationships!

In this episode, Emotionally Focused Therapist, Figs O'Sullivan, conceptualizes a case from the standpoint of working from the EFT perspective. Relational Life Therapist, Shane Birkel, talks about how an RLT therapist would work with the same couple. Figs and Shane talk through some of the similarities and differences in the two approaches and how they view couples cases that come in for therapy. Figs is a Couples Therapist in San Francisco and the creator of the relationship quiz, Empathi. He has studied various couples therapy modalities, but is particularly dedicated to Emotionally Focused Therapy. The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy. Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes. Get your free copy of The Comparison of 7 different Models of Couples Therapy. Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group. Check out Figs's practice website at therapywithfigs.com Check out the relationship quiz Figs created at Emaphi.com

All couples get stuck in emotional interactions and patterns that lead to them feeling hurt and wanting to be loved at the same time. It can feel very confusing when the person who we feel is hurting us is also the one who we want to love us. Figs O'Sullivan talks about getting beyond the content of these couples interactions to guide couples to be more understanding and feel more connected. Figs is a Couples Therapist in San Francisco and the creator of the relationship quiz, Empathi. He has studied various couples therapy modalities, but is particularly dedicated to Emotionally Focused Therapy.  The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy. Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes! Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group. Check out Figs's practice website at therapywithfigs.com Check out the relationship quiz Figs created at Emaphi.com  

Figs returns with his third installment of the “Who Are You in Love Series”. This time, he is joined by couple “Ben and Jen” and their 4 week old baby in arms.  Together they vulnerably open up to the deep and important questions about love.   “Is there a moment that stands out for you when you felt really connected and in love?”   Figs reminds all of us that each one of those moments is a “strengthening and increasing of togetherness” and that “even the best relationships have moments of disconnection.”   In love, Figs urges his listeners and guests to try to understand the realities of what’s happening deep down inside of us, instead of trying not to hurt each other’s feelings. Because when it comes to love, we’re still little babies. And we have to recognize that little child in all of us.   “Who Are You in Love” is a recurring interview series in the Empathi with Figs podcast that features a variety of real people sharing their stories of love, conflict, and repair. With humor, compassion and authenticity, Figs and his guests dive deeply together into the struggles and joys of navigating relationship and conflict all while highlighting our universal need for love and connection. If you’d like to be interviewed, or have someone you think would be great for the show please email Figs.  

Tune in to the 116th episode of The Couples Expert Podcast! Stuart's guest is Fig's O'Sullivan, an emotionally focused therapist. He's created an app for couples (see Empathi.com) to have a deep and authentic vulnerable love together. It's a coaching program that helps couples get closer together. There is science that has informed us about how to have a healthy and more satisfying relationship by re-training your brain to be more loving together. This podcast is reaching all around the world and the conversations that we have are very genuine and authentic. Technology has allowed The Couples Expert to reach out to experts like Figs O'Sullivan and we're so happy to have him with us on the podcast today. Listen as Stuart and Figs discuss Empathi and how the website and app help couples improve their relationships. What you'll learn from today's podcast: How Figs became involved in relationship counseling at 7:10 How EFT Works when you're in training to be a therapist at 10:58 What is Empathi? At 14:06 Who are you in love at 18:30 When you don't know what to say at 19:57 The quiz results are only the beginning of a process at 24:01 12 questions at Empathi.com and how they change perspective at 26:27 An online course for those who want to dig deeper and creatures who represent emotions at 30:30 Take the quiz alone, and as your partner. What a perspective! At 34:39 Other applications for the applications  at 38:16 The cognitive piece and how it fits at 40:19   You can view the full show notes here!

“In short, love is an emotional bond. It’s not optional; it’s part of our biology,” affirms Figs in today’s episode about Attachment Styles. Have you ever thought about how we’re “useless” when we’re born? We can’t do anything for ourselves. Our ability to be emotionally bonded is an essential evolutionary solution to our need for relationship and connection for survival from our first day to our last. Our body is built to react if it seems like the person we’re bonded with is not available - Don’t fight your biology!   Usually people try to pathologize and find what’s wrong with themselves, or their partner in relationship. But the whole point is to learn how to love yourself...and to love your partner as you are. “You make sense. Your partner make sense. And all the people around you make sense.”   Figs explains one can divide most wounding in love into two sides of the same coin: Ability to feel abandoned Ability to feel rejected   If you didn’t have the ability to feel these two things, there would be something wrong!   He also covers the different emotional bonding styles which are a direct result of our biology. Ultimately, we’re all yearning for and deserve a “yummy, scrumptious, snuggly securely attached connection.”   Curious to learn who you are in love?  Check out Figs’ free relationship quiz at Empathi.com.   And remember: don’t use this information to beat yourself up! Listen and enjoy to find out what Figs means when he describes his own relationship with Teale as the “Dueling Geminis” and his thoughts on the phrase “happy wife, happy life.”

“Shame really biologically is this momentary message that you have to stop paying attention to what you’re paying attention to.” -  Fiachra ‘Figs’ O’Sullivan   Portland based naturopathic doctor, Ben Reebs, joins Figs as the second guest in the “Who Are you in Love” series. As a fellow healer, Ben helps his patients restore their bodies, awakening them to the “innate healing mechanism that we all have.”     In this episode, Ben shares his most vulnerable moments and mistakes in love, from the “trail of wreckage” behind him, to the “beautiful sky” that awaits ahead. The conversion runs deep, acknowledging the dark and light of intimacy in all relationships.   Figs asks a couple of key questions that are worth exploring in your own relationship:   “Is there an image or place that captures love for you?” “Do you have a sense of your go-to judgements in relationship?”     Ben answers with an honesty and authenticity that all listeners can relate to and encourages everyone to share by admitting that “expressing vulnerability inspires.”   Reminder from Figs: No one said it would be easy to be someone’s primary attachment figure. So have some empathy for yourself.   Curious to learn more about Who You are in Love? Take the free quiz at Empathi.com. Everyone needs help and guidance.  In Fig’s words, “empathi.com is my attempt to get that out there to everybody not just people that are willing to access psychotherapy.” Access to help is our birthright and should not be “limited by location or money or stigma.”   “Who Are You in Love” is a recurring interview series in the Empathi with Figs podcast that features a variety of real people sharing their stories of love, conflict, and repair. With humor, compassion and authenticity, Figs and his guests dive deeply together into the struggles and joys of navigating relationship and conflict all while highlighting our universal need for love and connection. If you’d like to be interviewed, or have someone you think would be great for the show please email Figs.

  Today, Figs goes back to the basics and answers the question what is love? Certified in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (a clinical approach founded by Dr. Sue Johnson), Figs shares the Attachment Theory perspective on this big question. Love is an emotional bond that we all need. Simply put, we are biologically wired for connection. Figs also references John Bowlby the father of attachment theory to emphasize this very important fact: “When it comes to love, you’re still a baby and your partner is still a baby because this need for emotional bonding with a primary other is a ‘cradle to the grave’ experience.” Figs kindly cautions us from confusing the idea of being childlike in love with being childish. “Don’t use the information to judge yourself or your partner.” Fighting in relationships is really just protest behavior against feeling disconnected from the one we love. Parking tickets, sex, money….these aren’t the real problems in relationship. We fight because our connection matters. Find out who you are in love by taking the free Empathi quiz.  

Relationship expert and couples therapist Figs O'Sullivan gives husbands and wives a resource to feel more connected in their marriage on Empathi with Figs. No matter how strong we are, when it comes to love there is a part of all of us that can feel rejected or ashamed. Figs teaches you how you can be the one you've been waiting for.

Relationships are hard work -- love and connection matters so much that you are guaranteed to have conflict in your relationship. In this episode of Empathi with Figs, psychotherapist and couples counselor, Figs O’Sullivan invites Teale, his wife and fellow therapist, to discuss their daily conflict triggers and walk you through why the magic in relationships lies in the repair of these everyday moments of disconnection.

Fiachra “Figs” O’Sullivan, an Irish born San Francisco-based dad, husband, and psychotherapist, gets real with us about the fears of showing up, being vulnerable, talking politics, and having fun - even when you have no idea how people will receive you.   “Being real” with clients in a healing environment is one thing, but what does it mean to bring  who you really are to the greater, public online space? Figs helps us understand that this isn’t a modern, online phenomenon: we all take these risks in our relationships when we ask others to really see who we are.   Couples therapy helps individuals see and understand that they both play a role in the relationship story. Together, they can begin to create a new narrative of love and belonging.   All relationships are on a continuum and we move between moments of connection and disconnection and we spend much of our time in the messy middle. Through experiences of disconnecting and reconnecting, you start to see that you fight because you mean so much to each other. The magic is in the repair, not in making sure you never fight.   This is especially important for parents… What would it mean for your children to see you go from fighting to being sad to comforting each other to reconnecting each other? What an amazing way to prepare your children to have a healthy emotional life.   Figs shares insights he’s gained through marriage and parenting, through poetry (you must hear him recite David Whyte’s poem “Self Portrait”), and by tuning into what really ticks him off… like people who chose “neutrality” over authenticity. We need stillness, not silence. We need people to trust to hold their stories. We build that trust when we’re able to honestly reveal what we stand for.   Much of the conversation is focused on the marriage and the family, but then we look to the wider stage… How are the disconnects at the larger political level starting to influence couples? How can the work we do on our own relationships affect the wider world?   We explore three main archetypes that are emerging in response to the current political climate:   Bridge builders who help people with different perspectives connect so they understand that both perspectives make sense Fierce warriors ready to name injustice from whatever their perspective on what they think is right Helpers are those who will be there to care for those who are suffering   Learn more about Figs' counseling and coaching practice at www.therapywithfigs.com and read his personal writing at https://medium.com/@figlet   Figs is creating a new resource called Empathi.com - an online process that introduces individuals and couples to the wisdom of attachment. It’s possible to change the world by helping individuals have empathy for themselves,the people they love, and everyone they meet.

Fiachra O'Sullivan is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a practice in in San Francisco. Couple’s counseling is tough – a lot of therapists shy away from it – but Fiachra loves it. Fiachra is also launching Empathi.com, a free tool for couples to learn about who they are, and who they are together, from an attachment perspective. Couples will receive daily reminders or prompts that will help them continue to tend to their love and relationships. “Love matters, and because it matters so much you’re going to feel threatened in moments where it looks like that love isn’t present.” He is using a digital platform to share this information for free because he doesn't believe people should have to spend hundreds of dollars if they want to work towards greater understanding and healthier relationships. As a couples therapist, Fiachra has to do all of the things an experiential therapist does, but he also has to match people’s energy and actively become a part of the session. “There is nothing I will be able to do with a couple unless we have an alliance.” Fiachra describes himself as the typical psychotherapist cliché in that he was drawn to the field by a desire to heal his own emotional pain and suffering – he also considers this one of his greatest strengths as a psychotherapist. “The number one qualification I have to do this work is I am another wounded human being that has managed to do my own personal work so I can help other people.” Fiachra believes it is unbelievably powerful to be comfortable with who you are, warts and all, but it has taken him a long time to achieve that comfort. It helps people feel safe and contained. “The most important rule for me is that nobody gets shamed. No one will ever leave my office having felt shamed.” Fiachra is hugely influenced by Sue Johnson – the creator of Emotionally Focused Couples Training (EFT). There’s a map that allows him to keep track of where they are at nearly every moment, and “the moments where I’m not sure where we are? That’s where there’s potential magic that can happen.” Fiachra does really important work and I appreciate having the opportunity to talk about the challenges of couples therapy, why he is launching Empathi.com, and the journey that he took to discover his True Calling. Check out Empathi.com to see what Fiachra is building and head over to TherapyWithFigs.com to learn more about his practice and read his blog.   Resources: Learn more about Fiachra: TherapyWithFigs.com | Fig’s Blog Empathi.com – A FREE tool for couples to learn about who they are from an attachment perspective Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach   Interested in learning more about how I can help you through coaching?  Find out more at www.johnharrisoncounseling.com/individual-coaching/   Production & Development for True Calling Project by Podcast Masters

In this episode, I have the pleasure of interviewing LMFT Figs O'Sullivan. In his practice, Figs focuses on three pillars for relationship work: Attachment Theory, Systems Theory, and Transformational Experiences. Figs teaches us that understanding that people's actions are driven by their own insecurities and fears is fundamental. Instead of fixating on the flaws of our partner/ex-partner, it's more beneficial to study one's own emotional responses and vulnerabilities and how to feel our feelings better. By becoming an expert on oneself and the system, one can be and attract a more emotionally evolved partner, and fight less! So many gems in this episode - dive in! Fiachra "Figs'' O'Sullivan is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, certified in Emotionally-Focused Therapy, and the founder of Empathi. He strives to interact with his clients as fellow travelers on life's journey, allowing them to easily dive deeper into their “stuff” with his down-to-earth philosophy.  Figs has spent years working with frustrated couples at a crossroads in their relationship—they want to make things work but are stuck in what Figs calls their “Waltz of Pain”—which is what led him to create Empathi! Inspired by attachment theory, improvisational dance and theater, experiential psychotherapy, and EFT, Empathi provides fun, effective, and simple solutions to help couples stop fighting and snuggle more. —Website: https://empathi.com —Empathi Quiz for Couples: https://empathi.com/quiz/ —Empathi Courses: https://get.empathi.com/ —YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Empathinow —Media Page: https://empathi.com/figs-osullivan Themes: Relationships, Boundaries, Self-Worth, Self-Love, Codependency, Dating, Attachment Theory, Transformation, Conflict, Grief, Communication, Psychology 0:00:00 Intro 0:04:11 Who's the problem in the relationship? 0:08:10 How communication can be threatening 0:11:30 Three Pillars for Relationship Work: Attachment Theory, Systems Theory, and Transformational Experiences 0:18:46 The reason people get together 0:28:21 Confronted with grief - now what? 0:28:55 Changing perspective 0:37:12 Importance of using attachment theory responsibly 0:40:14 Tips for a successful relationship 0:43:37 Counterintuitive concepts in self-development and attachment theory 0:48:12 The line between personal boundaries and relationship deal-breakers 0:54:21 Opening up about feelings and concerns 1:03:08 The Complexity of Attachment and Relationships 1:06:47 The Pain of Disappointing a Loved One 1:10:16 Helping People Feel Their Feelings Better 1:13:16 Becoming an Expert for Future Relationships This episode is sponsored by: —Open: Get 30 days free by visiting https://withopen.com/CREATETHELOVE —Organifi: Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off sitewide at http://www.organifi.com/createthelove Contact us at podcast@markgroves.com for sponsor product support, questions, comments, or just to say hello!

Figs O'Sullivan is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples. He's the creator of the Empathi method and the certification process for Empathi coaches. His life's mission is to help couples feel more connected. Learning to Love Better: The Conflict Solution Course: empathi.com/go Take the Empath Quiz: https://empathi.com/pre-quiz (I got the RELENTLESS LOVER... shoot me a message over on instagram and let me know what you got!) This episode was brought to you by Beekeeper's Naturals! To save 15% on your first order go to https://beekeepersnaturals.com/healinguncensored or enter code: HEALINGUNCENSORED at checkout!    Connect with Sarah Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_empowered_empath/  Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1477095185932809/  Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/theempoweredempath/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9uTdMPMbtbs0jfNwdfo97w/    Work with Sarah Online courses: http://autoimmunetribecourses.com 1:1 coaching: https://autoimmunetribe.com/services    Send show requests to sarah@autoimmunetribe.com!