Podcasts about enfjs

Send me a textIf you're new to Geek Psychology, my name is Matt Sherman. People call me Sherman. I'm a personality type expert, life coach, hypnotist, author, podcaster, and course creator. I help mainly INFPs embrace their unique strengths and navigate life's challenges. Through practical strategies and deep insights, I aim to help people like you live a more fulfilling and authentic live where you can wake up and feel good about who you are and your impact on the world. ENFJ: Exhausted?You're an ENFJ, which means you're always going to want to help others—and that's awesome! But what's not so awesome is when you burn out and forget to take care of yourself.That's why it's so important for you to develop a ritual for yourself that involves time for solitude, darkness, meditation, or whatever else helps you feel like the best version of yourself. When we have a set time every day where we're not doing anything but being present with ourselves and our thoughts, it helps us feel more grounded and connected with ourselves. This can be hard for ENFJs because they are often so focused on taking care of others that they neglect their own needs. But if you make this part of your routine and make sure it happens every day, even if it's just for five minutes at first, then over time it will become easier for you to fit into your day without feeling guilty about taking care of yourself!Original video: https://youtu.be/W1qMFxjZqm8?si=v4ODkgjliELCYz_QSupport the Show.

Enneagram type 1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8 & 9 ENFJs compare and contrast their experiences. ☆Check out Denzel  @DeezyRYG  !☆ ☆Check out what I'm up to!☆ Hi there! I'm Joyce, a certified MBTI® Master Practitioner, Enneagram Coach, Jungian Typology Expert, Master NLP Practitioner, and Gallup® CliftonStrengths Coach. WONDERING WHICH ONE OF THE 16 PERSONALITY TYPES YOU ARE? Book a session to get my take on your type. I'd love to help guide you on your type-discovery journey! Here is my scheduling link to arrange a time with me: https://calendly.com/joycemengcoaching I charge $85 for a typing session. Another colleague of mine certified by Personality Hacker will work alongside me and we will give you our independent assessments of you. Want to go deeper? For $97, you can purchase a typing session with 1 hour of additional coaching with me. Or maybe you know your personality type already and are seeking some type-based coaching? As a trained coach, I can help you apply type concepts to all areas of your life for lasting change. :) By purchasing a session, you will help support the Type Talks channel and gain personalized mentorship and guidance from an experienced industry expert with over 12 years of experience. If you'd like to get in touch, you can email me at joycemeng22@gmail.com For those of you who are interested, I am also launching a website and releasing a typology book next year! Here's a link to my coaching website if you'd like to learn more about me and the services I offer: https://www.joycemengcoaching.com/ Connect with me on Twitter: https://twitter.com/JoyceMeng22 Like the show? Buy me a coffee! (it means the world to me): https://ko-fi.com/joycemeng Show your support by becoming a monthly patron! https://ko-fi.com/joycemeng/tiers Want to know when the next Type Talks video is premiering? Join our Discord community for the latest updates! https://discord.gg/ksHb7fmMcm #ENFJ #16types #Enneagram #enneagram1 #enneagram2 #enneagram3 #enneagram4 #enneagram5 #enneagram6 #enneagram7 #enneagram8 #enneagram9 #enneagramtypes #mbti

On this episode of the Personality Hacker podcast, Joel and Antonia dive into how ENFJs can use personality know-how to embrace and love who they are. The conversation also touches on what the other 15 personality types can learn from ENFJs about self-love.   https://personalityhacker.com  

In this video, I explain the INFP and ENFP personality types, some stereotypes, and some obstacles in the relationship.Also, it's important to understand not just if these personality types mesh well, but if the people behind these labels form powerful connections. I talk about the dynamics of ENFJ-INFP relationships, the potential clashes, the unique expressions of affection, and some of the joys of being in such partnerships.00:00 Introduction to ENFJs and INFPs01:33 Understanding the Dynamics of ENFJs and INFPs02:13 Exploring the Personality Types: ENFJs03:22 Exploring the Personality Types: INFPs04:10 The Challenges and Miscommunications in ENFJ-INFP Relationships04:52 The Joy and Excitement in ENFJ-INFP Relationships05:28 Understanding the Obstacles in ENFJ-INFP Relationships05:47 The Importance of Balance in ENFJ-INFP Relationships07:23 Conflict Management in ENFJ-INFP Relationships09:36 Emanating Serenity in ENFJ-INFP Relationships11:49 Conclusion and Further ResourcesFREE 8 Hero Personality Assessment: http://geekpsychology.comFREE 5-Day INFP Soul Journey course: http://inowfeelpositive.comPath of Heroes Academy: http://poha.geekpsychology.comI Now Feel Positive Masterclass for INFPs: http://infp.geekpsychology.comPodcast: http://podcast.geekpsychology.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/geekpsychology/Find this video helpful? Leave a

S5E3 - This episode begins a series of interviews of various personality types in the 16 Types system. In this episode, we hear from an ENFJ who describes how struggles in one of her primary relationships motivated her to understand the differences between herself and others. She also shares some of her biggest motivations in life as we draw connections to the influence of her mental wiring on these motivations.Want to work together to find, understand, and apply knowledge of your type?Let's work together »

We discuss the differences and similarities between ENTJs and ENFJs. ☆Check out what I'm up to!☆ Hi there! I'm Joyce, a certified MBTI® Master Practitioner, Enneagram Coach, Jungian Typology Expert, Master NLP Practitioner, and Gallup® CliftonStrengths Coach. WONDERING WHICH ONE OF THE 16 PERSONALITY TYPES YOU ARE? Book a session to get my take on your type. I'd love to help guide you on your type-discovery journey! Here is my scheduling link to arrange a time with me: https://calendly.com/joycemengcoaching I charge $85 for a typing session. Another colleague of mine certified by Personality Hacker will work alongside me and we will give you our independent assessments of you. Want to go deeper? For $97, you can purchase a typing session with 1 hour of additional coaching with me. Or maybe you know your personality type already and are seeking some type-based coaching? As a trained coach, I can help you apply type concepts to all areas of your life for lasting change. :) By purchasing a session, you will help support the Type Talks channel and gain personalized mentorship and guidance from an experienced industry expert with over 12 years of experience. If you'd like to get in touch, you can email me at joycemeng22@gmail.com For those of you who are interested, I am also launching a website and releasing a typology book next year! Here's a link to my coaching website if you'd like to learn more about me and the services I offer: https://www.joycemengcoaching.com/ Connect with me on Twitter: https://twitter.com/JoyceMeng22 Like the show? Buy me a coffee! (it means the world to me): https://ko-fi.com/joycemeng Show your support by becoming a monthly patron! https://ko-fi.com/joycemeng/tiers Want to know when the next Type Talks video is premiering? Join our Discord community for the latest updates! https://discord.gg/ksHb7fmMcm#ENFJ #ENTJ #16types #personalitytypes #mbti #jungianpsychology #jungian #cognitivefunctions #cognitivefunction #personalityhacker ☆Check out Lisa O'Kane!☆ https://www.amazon.com/Essence-Lisa-Ann-OKane/dp/1499382669?fbclid=IwAR2e1z5gqEkdJHSfjDBBkZzSDvxW2dZ5T14Hh0ESakH35ufrG534I87U4YE ☆Check out Jeffrey!☆ www.automateyourmac.com

Get ready to meet the real-life supercharged caregivers of the world - the ENFJs! With their unparalleled empathy and dedication to serving others, ENFJs have a unique gift for bringing out the best in people. They're always eager to lend a helping hand and genuinely care about the well-being of others. With top-notch interpersonal skills, ENFJs are the life of any party or team. Despite all of their remarkable qualities, ENFJs - are just like all the other MBTI types! - can still struggle with Imposter Syndrome, doubting their abilities and worth. With their laser focus on others, ENFJs can easily forget about their own needs and goals, leading to feelings of inadequacy and unfulfillment. Their incredible sensitivity to others' emotions and knack for seeing people's potential can also make them susceptible to Imposter Syndrome. ENFJs have high standards for themselves and believe that everyone can achieve greatness, so they work tirelessly to help others reach their full potential. But when their advice goes unheeded, or their help isn't wanted, they start questioning whether they're good enough. In today's episode, we'll delve into three key reasons why ENFJs are plagued with the Imposter Syndrome – their tendency to neglect themselves, difficulty accepting praise, and overidentification with the supportive, teaching and guiding roles they tend to take on. We will also explore how the ‘untreated' Imposter Syndrome can lead to ENFJ's difficulty maintaining authentic relationships, stifled career growth and struggle to be an effective leader. Join us for an insightful episode on overcoming Imposter Syndrome as an ENFJ, filled with valuable advice to help you thrive both personally and professionally. If you want to know more about the Imposter Syndrome, check out our book: https://amzn.to/40P0GvX Sign up for our newsletters: https://bit.ly/dismantlingdysfunction IN THIS EPISODE: ●        [02:03] Episode Introduction  ●        [04:30] Why Does the ENFJ Experience Imposter Syndrome? ●        [18:14] Impact of Imposter Syndrome on ENFJs ●        [35:25] Episode Gem ●        [38:26] Episode Wrap Up KEY TAKEAWAYS: ·         ENFJs are driven by a genuine concern for others' well-being and prioritize the needs of others above their own. While this selflessness can have positive impacts on the lives of those they help, it can also lead to self-neglect and a feeling that they don't deserve any help for themselves. This self-neglect manifests in physical, emotional, and mental exhaustion. ·         ENFJs' idealistic nature and the Imposter Syndrome can create a barrier to forming deep, authentic connections with others. As they constantly feel that they are never good enough to achieve their ideals, they may hold themselves to unattainable standards, preventing them from fully opening up and being vulnerable with their partners, friends, or family members. ·         ENFJs with Imposter Syndrome often struggle in leadership roles, as they lead with their strengths: supporting and helping others. It doesn't come naturally for them to be directive or use their role of authority. ENFJs become overly cautious in their decision-making, second-guessing themselves and being hesitant to take decisive action. ·         Join us throughout our series on how the Imposter Syndrome shows up in the 16 MBTI types (or 8 Striving Styles). If you are not sure what your Striving Styles is, make sure to visit www.whoareyoumeanttobe.com to complete the assessment! Remember, if you need help dealing with dysfunctions at work or in your personal life, reach out to us.

Denzel talks about the dating life of ENFJs. ☆Check out what I'm up to!☆ Hi there! I'm Joyce, a certified MBTI® Master Practitioner, Enneagram Coach, Jungian Typology Expert, Master NLP Practitioner, and Gallup® CliftonStrengths Coach. WONDERING WHICH ONE OF THE 16 PERSONALITY TYPES YOU ARE? Book a session to get my take on your type. I'd love to help guide you on your type-discovery journey! Here is my scheduling link to arrange a time with me: https://calendly.com/joycemengcoaching I charge $85 for a typing session. Another colleague of mine certified by Personality Hacker will work alongside me and we will give you our independent assessments of you. Want to go deeper? For $97, you can purchase a typing session with 1 hour of additional coaching with me. Or maybe you know your personality type already and are seeking some type-based coaching? As a trained coach, I can help you apply type concepts to all areas of your life for lasting change. The coaching session rate is $49.99 per hour. :) If you'd like to get in touch, you can email me at joycemeng22@gmail.com For those of you who are interested, I am also launching a website and releasing a typology book next year! Here's a link to my coaching website if you'd like to learn more about me and the services I offer: https://www.joycemengcoaching.com/ Connect with me on Twitter: https://twitter.com/JoyceMeng22 Like the show? Buy me a coffee! (it means the world to me): https://ko-fi.com/joycemeng Show your support by becoming a monthly patron! https://ko-fi.com/joycemeng/tiers Want to know when the next Type Talks video is premiering? Join our Discord community for the latest updates! https://discord.gg/ksHb7fmMcm ☆Check out Denzel @DeezyRYG !☆ https://www.youtube.com/@DeezyRYG #ENFJ #16types #mbti #16personalities

Another episode, fresh out of the oven! This one is about the unknown, and it's a rambly one. I have the transcript below, if you prefer to read. But I'd recommend to sit back, relax, listen and reflect. Let me know how you have been handling the unknown lately by leaving a comment.Watch Psyche Design Season 2 Episode 3 on YouTube:Transcript:Hello. So today I'm going to be discussing the unknown. And one of the fun things about that topic is that I actually have no idea what I'm about to talk about. So, first of all, for those of you who follow the stars, Jupiter just went into Pisces this morning. So, I've been wanting to do this topic for a while, and I thought, why not right now? Because the energy of Pisces is a mutable water sign. So this energy now, in the collective is more focused on embracing the vastness in the chaoticness of every potential emotion that can ever be experienced is one way of putting it. When I think of Pisces, I often think about taking leaps of faith and marveling at the unknown, potentially.So my personality type pattern (most of you know this, because that's what my channel has been about) is my type preferences are ENFJ. And with that, J, the stereotype goes that, you know, the preference for judging can be a challenge for embracing the unknown, I have had such a hard time with the unknown, for as long as I can remember. In fact, I've been having some more discussions with my parents lately about what I was like, as a child, as I have been. I think it's been a year and a half ago, now that I have been diagnosed with ADHD. And I've been exploring my neurodivergent traits, reading things about that, and trying to connect some dots. Part of the reason why I've wanted to do that is because, you know, I discovered personality type theory, whatever I was 17, I'm now 28. This model of Personality Typing has been with me for over a decade now. And I definitely wouldn't be as confident as an adult and okay with myself if I didn't have it. Because so much of me even recognizing that I was an intuitive at a young age, validated a lot of the ways in which I felt outside the norm.And, anyway, I've been thinking about the ways in which I've always felt outside the norm in one of those ways. You guys are gonna just have to deal with me being rambly this time around, because I'm a little bit out of practice whenever it comes to talking to a camera. So um, for those of you who want to take the windy road with me, thank you so much. Anyway, um, what I was going to say with that is that I, my mom was, you know, sort of telling me how even as a young child, I would get into these outbursts. When things did not go according to plan. There was one time she told me about, that I was like five. And they, my mom, said that we had to leave the living room area, we were at my grandparents, because they were painting the walls and that it was going to be a different color, it was going to go from beige to peach. And apparently, whenever I got back, and I saw the colors, I freaked out and I was like, “They are not different colors! This is the same exact color as what it was before. You lied to me!” And I think that that is such a hilarious example of I think you could really see, like, the pitfalls of my psyche, even as a young child, it would be interesting to think about what things you used to have meltdowns about as a child in throw a fit about. And if you can notice any themes of how those things in a way, even if you aren't going to act out now, those things might still tell you something about your blind spots. Because in that as an example, not only was I not someone that was very aware of the differences between the colors, but I also had an idea in my mind of what I thought those colors would be. And whenever reality did not match up to what I had in my mind. It was very overwhelming for me and somy preference for Introverted Intuition as a function I think is sort of seen here. And that my default is to kind of envision an intuitive image or symbol or whatever, kind of envision something abstractly in my mind. That may or may not line up with reality. And I'm realizing that a big reason why I will try and spend the time to think about the future and envision it is because of how physically overwhelming it is, for me to make a decision on the spot, or to adjust to things not going according to plan.And I think that a lot of people who have a J in their type code, a lot of people who, who are that way, who are Js, you could say, we prefer to do that introverted perception ourselves beforehand — so that whenever life hits us in the face, it's not that much of a surprise. And I think that for the most part, doing that can save me some energy, but it also could be very draining. And so part of this has to do with having extroverted sensing as a valued but weaker function for me. Because it is very draining for me to use extroverted sensing, as much as I wish that I could use it.For me, in my type code, extroverted sensing is associated with the Forever child, the inner child as the tertiary third position, it's related to that archetype of almost like a Peter Pan-like kid who never wants to grow up. And I can very naively believe that I can just handle anything or push through anything to some extent, but I also could naively and almost childishly buckle under the pressure of a moment changing and me having to meet that moment. It could go one of two extremes. And this is kind of how it goes for a lot of people with their Tertiary function is that there's a childlike quality, both in the optimism and in the fear that you have around that thing.So for me, I can optimistically envision my life… if I want to make a video every single week, and I want to have a newsletter every single week. And I want to make an album this year, and I want to be in two improv classes. And I want to audition for this improv class and I want to be singing in this choir, and I want to work for myself. And I want to, you know, make new friends, move out, potentially move out of the state, and potentially start dating. So if you're overwhelmed listening to that, imagine I'm being inside my brain.So I, anyway, um, let's get back to the topic of unknown……and I will get back, I will connect all of these dots. So, this podcast Psyche Design has gone through many different renditions. This YouTube channel has gone through many different phases,seen me in many phases of growth. And part of what can be difficult is that once I get once you get into a routine of what works, and you follow these social scripts, of, okay, this is how I make my videos. This is how I use Twitter. This is how I, whatever… like I had everything all set up to where and what I need to do to conserve my energy is have everything all set up to where the moment I have an inspiration, the tools are there instantly — so that I don't have to make a big decision about it. So that kind of connects to what I was saying earlier, as I think as an NJ in the way that I use my introverted intuition is that I try and save energy for the in-the-moment, physical things by mapping it all out in my head before. SoI try and save energy because for example, let's say I want I feel like making music. If my MIDI keyboard is all in a box, and I don't know where the chord is, and I don't know where the speakers are. It's going to take me a lot of energy to actually get it set up. But if I've arranged my room where I have that station over there for making music and then this station over here for journaling, and then all of this that if …Another thing I did with this is that I now have this little wellness rack or I call it my wellness rack. It's just a rolling rack thing. But I, I was thinking like, whenever I'm triggered whenever I'm overstimulated or exhausted, what do I need? Sometimes, you know, the body will instinctively do what it has done in the past that might have made it feel more regulated… that could be tweet about your experience, tweet about your emotions, call a friend. And those things can work. But it could be taking an edible, it could be have a cup of tea.Anyway, I basically put together this little station in my room for everything that I know, for a fact, makes me feel more regulated whenever I'm overwhelmed.And I have only one place to reduce the amount of energy that it would take for me to make a decision in that exact moment of, what do I need to do to calm myself down? And so anyway, that's just one example of me deciding to do that took me about six months to probably even come to that conclusion. But now that I've made that one decision, it's like one decision that's kind of a one-and-done that it's going to work for me throughout many, hopefully, years.And a lot of the reason why NJ's are very slow whenever it comes to making decisions is because of how much energy it takes to engage with extroverted sensing Rome, of making a decision and responding to the moment in that moment. So anyway, I have been, I had my little systems for making YouTube and all of that to where my, my challenge in life has always been about figuring out how to channel my energy properly. Because I have a lot of it, I have a lot of inspiration. And there's nothing that makes me feel more frustrated than if I feel like doing something and then there's too much inertia or resistance between the idea and it actually being a reality. And so like I said, I try and set up systems to make it easy for me to enter that flow state because so much of my life is attempting to get into a flow state, and it taking longer than I thought and then I feel like I will just blow a fuse internally. And then I don't get anything done and there's no fruits of my labor and it's like I've literally just drained my energy. And I'm trying to avoid that so much.And one of my favorite ways of draining my energy in the past has been through relationships and through other people through prioritizing relationships at a higher value than what they should be. And one of the things I'm learning with that is that even though I personally think that on my deathbed, the relationships I have are going to be the number one most important thing in my life I also am realizing that even if I'm correct that you know relationships should be number one or can be number one, how much of a number one is it compared to the other things in your life that you need to do for you, in order to actually be the sort of friend that you want to be so um, ENFJs are not known for being the best at self-care, even though we might be a type to want to preach the importance of it to others. I saw a tweet the other day that was like my toxic to my toxic trait is I tell people to take care and yet I don't take care of something like that. And that is kind of been the story of my life to where…I guess um, what I was going okay, what I was gonna say earlier is that all of this process of figuring out so when am I going to make YouTube videos and how often and all of that like I've been dealing with a lot of creative blockages but I realized that the reason why that is is because I have changed and so the systems in my outlets need to change because I'm learning more about myself and I'm becoming more myself and I'm taking care of myself better. So the strategies I used in the past that worked for me then um.. it almost feels like a staircase.I, you know, I've said this before that sometimes seems like with NJ's that we grow in these quantum leaps where it feels like the staircase level things We're like, you're trying and trying, and it feels like you're plateauing. And then you hit a realization, and then it's like you're on to the next checkpoint. Like if you're in a game or something.And it's like “checkpoint reached, you've passed to the next level.” That's often how a lot of my growth feels. And whenever I'm in that Plateau State, it feels like nothing's happening. But the plateau is because what used to work doesn't work anymore. And so I'm kind of just waiting for the thing that is going to snap into place. And during that plateau, you have to be open for something new to come to you.So. So that kind of brings me to my point with the unknown, is that I think that collectively, we're going we're facing a lot of feelings of the unknown, for so many reasons, like the pandemic, the war. And I don't need to go into that, because I feel like there's everybody is just vaguely hinting at that of these crazy times. And I'm participating in that right now, right now. But my point with that unknown is kind of a big topic right now. But I was thinking about how a lot of the things I think about with this channel, and just in general, my obsessions about shadow work and about the shadow functions, and accepting your unconscious and all of that. It inherently brings up the unknown.And so I wanted to talk about how embracing your shadow is kind of the same thing as embracing the unknown.And how ignoring the shadow might feel like the safe thing to do, because it feels safe, because there are not as many unknowns coming up. But the more you're clinging to what you think you know, the more difficult it's going to be whenever the unknown eventually hits. Because if you are clinging to an idea of what you think is going to happen, your comfort zone, and the things that feel stable for you.It's like the more energy you put into clinging on to that, then the more of a surprise, and the darker the shadow, The Unknown is going to be whenever you eventually see it.And I've used the analogy before of like a seesaw to where ideally, the conscious and the unconscious should be going back and forth. Like a little seesaw, where I guess the goal, I think, is that the, our consciousness and our ego should not be so stubborn and so rigid that it is refusing to listen to any of the information that the unconscious might be having, might have to say, we don't need to become superhumans and perceive everything and have no shadows and darkness. But I think it's more of a matter of the attitude that you have toward those things that come up. And just a small shift in your attitude can allow you to start to take that information seriously, when it comes up. So. And part of that really is embracing the unknown. And if you think about it, the shadow or the parts you can't see the shadow is the unknown.So, and you could see it in society is if you pretend like those shadows, Aren't there some of those shadows being racism and sexism, and the negative effects of capitalism and consumerism. A lot of these things are shadows of the American Dream that we don't want to think about. Because it undermines the positive parts of thinking about things like we're the melting pot. We're all about freedom. We're all about innovation. All of these things are perhaps the ego or the consciousness of America. And if you're only looking at those things, and you're looking at those things so much to where you aren't able to acknowledge these shadowy parts, then it's going to create this effect where the shadow bounces back, where as opposed to being able to just have a call Um, conversation about our racist past and trying to turn a new leaf and trying to heal those things. What is often happening is white supremacy culture is being more and more in denial of these things that he doesn't want to see. And if you have that mindset, where, and you know, people who have this mindset, a lot of times don't even realize that they have the mindset, that's the… that's the thing about the shadow. And that's why a lot of people talk about the importance of critically analyzing your assumptions and your stereotypes. And because you're not a bad person for having the stereotype, but you might be a bad person, if you are so in denial of these prejudices that you might have, that you're afraid to even look at them and deal with them and sort them out and make sure that you are not going to be causing any harm.So anyway, um, the thing with that is that if you are not conflict occurs when you are dismissing any information from the shadow that your ego in the idea of yourself doesn't want to see. And it's happening on a collective scale. And it happens on a personal scale. And, you know, I have been talking about personality type theory, on this channel since 2015, I think was my first video and my ideas about personality have changed and evolved a lot. And also my self-concept has changed and evolved a lot. Because simply knowing that, I prefer that my best fit type is ENFJ.I don't even like to call myself “an ENFJ” anymore, because it's just a pattern. It's just a pattern of how the psyche orient itself, and the 16 types are all patterns. But nobody is chained to that pattern. And in fact, we can use that pattern as a way in which to reflect on the true self that's underneath, and our true individuality or individuality that nobody can take away from us. Knowing your type is like a stepping stone to being able to perceive all of the patterns in our life that we take on, unconsciously and socially, that are like these collective patterns that aren't bad. It's just that. So Carl Jung talked a lot about individuation, which is all about the path to the self with a capital S, the higher self, and the self is who you really are. And then, I mean, this idea has been around for so long that there's nothing really I could say about it. I just felt the need to sit on that as, who really am I who really are you? And that's a hard question to answer.But for whatever reason, a lot of us, as humans have this pull to figure out who we really are. And knowing your personality type can give you some information. And so that's why I think it has become so popular, especially online, especially during a time in which there is so much unknown. People want to know who they are. And sometimes if you're dealing with the unknown, knowing who you are, is at the very least a constant when you are dealing with an unpredictable world and people who you don't understand.So um I think that what can happen is that when people are wanting to understand their type, it's this fear of the unknown that can lead you to want to put a label on who you are, and figure yourself out I don't think I'm ever going to be done figuring myself out and getting to know myself. Because just as relationships are super important to life, as I mentioned before, that relationship you have with yourself is constant, constantly getting to know yourself just as you want probably to fall in love with a partner in which you are constantly unraveling and learning new things about them every day. You probably want it to feel fresh, even when you are retired, fresh and exciting no matter what it's like that relationship you have with yourself. Also should feel fresh and exciting.Because as much as we want to figure out who we really are, so that we can maybe have something stable in this chaotic world… we are mirrors of the world, the world mirrors us, we have just as much of an unknown contained within us.So the whole idea of embracing our personal shadows, um is inherently an act of embracing the unknown. And when that happens, things change. Now, all of this is very obvious. But to be literal, for me, my routines change, where I want to live, thinking about who I want to talk to. Because if you're in this cycle of thinking about your daily routines, what are your biggest fears? What are your goals, you're probably going to be talking to people either with similar goals, or who are doing similar things that you're doing. If you have certain hang-ups or fears, you might be having certain coping mechanisms for dealing with those. And so you get into these routines based on how you are responding to your fears, what coping mechanism mechanisms you're using, and what goals you're working toward. And so the entire fabric of your life is based on that.So what happens when you recognize or learn something new about yourself, is that that invites the very fabric of your life to change.One thing, as an example of this with me, is that talking to friends, is a major coping mechanism for me. And I'm not saying that it's bad to talk to friends. And I'm not saying a coping mechanism doesn't mean it's healthy. But for me, every single time, I did not feel 100%, I would reach to a friend to either distract me from the feeling to have to refocus my attention on something that is good that I am grateful for. So it's not like, it's not always like, “Oh, I'm just so like, running away from these dark feelings, and trying to ignore it so that I can talk to, you know, someone else to distract me.” That's not not true. But the experience of me doing it didn't feel like that.. it didn't feel like I was running away. It just felt like when I acknowledged that, when I acknowledged certain things, what were the responses I had, how did I respond to myself, whenever I wasn't in the place I wanted to be, and often that would be re-orienting my perspective, to be grateful for the things that I ought to be grateful for. And so I would try and, you know, enjoy life more fully. So as opposed to trying to solve a pattern. I would, you know, listen to music, and that's a perfectly fine response. Because the thing is, is that a lot of times, life is just hard, and there's nothing to solve. And there's nothing wrong with you.But people generally have a hard time soaking up all of the joy that life has to offer. And it is a challenge to soak up joy. And so sometimes it's a perfectly fine response to if you're not feeling well just turn up the volume of the in just start soaking up more joy. I mean, that's literally what I've done in order to cope. art, music, what have you. And a lot of that a lot of my way of turning up the joy has been through other people because I just think that connection is so magical and so beautiful. And I always find myself so moved deeply whenever I am having a genuine conversation. And so anyway, but here's the thing with that is that I was finding myself reaching for my phone for connection so often throughout the day that it didn't leave enough time For me to do other things, so if I was, if I had a realization, it didn't feel good enough to just have the realization on my own, I wanted to share it in case somebody else had also had that realization or to hear if there was a different perspective that challenged mine. I didn't care if everyone agreed with me 100%. But I would compulsively reach for that connection. By throwing it out there. Sometimes I would throw it out there on Twitter, I would do it on YouTube, I would think, you know, I don't have anyone to talk to about this. And so I'm going to put it out there and have that feeling of knowing that I'm not alone in having this thought. And there's somebody else who's now you know, sharing this with me, and I get to share with them.And you know, I've met a lot of friends online. And a lot of my closest friendships that I've had have been friends that wanted to discuss deeper topics, and wanted to have that back and forth of sharing our realizations in real-time. When the pandemic hit two, I started sending voice memos a lot. So anyway, my point with this is that I reached a point the past few months, where I've been realizing that I was throwing too much of myself in connections and not enough in creating art, or in decompressing. I barely ever watched TV. For one. I don't go to bed at a good enough time. One thing that I've been implementing in my life lately is trying to drink tea before bed, I also have an aromatherapy diffuser thing that I will turn on at about like 830 or nine, I will make myself some tea. And I will turn on the diffuser with like some lavender, and cedarwood or whatever essential oils in it. And I turn the overhead lights off and put on like a lava lamp or some crazy light or whatever. I will just whatever I feel like. And I intentionally set a mood.Setting moods has been so so impactful for me, and I think that part of it has to do with what I was saying earlier, whenever it comes to setting up stations of like, “this is my station for music. This is my station for journaling.” For my tertiary Se. I think that like I said, it's kind of childish, it's kind of… it doesn't have as much energy to exert. So I can't just create a new moment at a moment's notice, the way that perhaps an SP type could, where from my perspective, for the sensing preference people, it feels like you're moving mountains all the time, because in order to move material is very exhausting. And I would prefer to spend more time in the intuitive realm, thinking about the possibilities of what could or couldn't happen by moving material so that whenever I do move the material, my goal is to do it right the first time doesn't always happen. Because you need that trial and error need to get familiar with what you're doing, in order for it to be less energetically taxing.That's one thing I've realized from observing SJs I live right now with my parents, I'm saving up some money. My mom is an ESFJ and we both work from home and so kind of feels like we're little co-working buddies were I mean, just watching her routine. And talking to my ESF sister about her routine, it seems like for the SJs, they become these creatures of habits that become these creatures of habit because they're so good at listening to their bodies. It happens automatically. Like one time I asked my sister, how did you come up with your routine? Or she was talking about how every day when she wakes up, she First Things First she goes up and fills up her water bottle. And it's a reminder for her roommate, who is always snoozing to wake up because she hears her in the kitchen.And I was like “how did you come up with that?” And she was like, “What do you mean come up with it? When I wake up, I'm thirsty because I hadn't drank any water in eight hours.”And that right there is such a hilarious example of introverted intuition versus Introverted Sensing, in my opinion, because I'm over here thinking that in order to do anything physical, it first must start as is an idea that I came up with. But that's what's okay. That's what's so funny about it is that it doesn't have to. And I'm realizing that those routines kind of only come into play when you are listening to your body when you're relaxing, and when you're figuring out what you need, and when, and you're figuring out who you are.So I guess to be more explicit here. Shadow Work is embracing the unknown. And for me as an ENFJ, shadow work involves becoming more conscious of the sensing and the thinking sides to me. And so to improve my sensing and my thinking, I must embrace the unknown.Now, that is kind of a lightbulb, because I think that a lot of the time we think about intuition as the unknown. But I think that that's just semantics thing. Where it just depends on what you mean by unknown. And like, I get, I get why intuition is associated with unknown. But if you're thinking about it, in this context of someone who prefers intuition, over sensing, the ideas are what you know, what happens is not what you know. So in order to feel more stable, to feel more logical and sound, and more true to myself, it involves exploring, and there's a lot of trial and error associated here. And it throws you for a loop. So anyway, um, I'm kind of reaching a dead end here, I think. And I feel like I need to eat something. That's another thing is that I feel like I'm so used to ignoring my body signals that I'm trying to get back into it.Okay. Yeah, this is one thing I'll point out is that um, I was thinking about for the Inferior function, for me, that would be Introverted Thinking. I was thinking about how the problem isn't that I'm illogical. The problem isn't that I don't think the problem is I can't keep track of my thinking. The problem is, I'm not conscious of my thinking. And so to improve Introverted Thinking isn't be smarter, be more concise, or be more consistent. It is, remember what you think. And so hopefully, that makes sense.But what I was realizing with this is that the reason why it is so exhausting for me to access these lower functions, is inherently because I'm not conscious of them. So think back to what I was saying before. Why is it not exhausting for my ESFJ sister to have a routine in the morning and get all those things done? It's because she's conscious of the sensing, because her consciousness prefers sensing, she knows when she wakes up, she's thirsty. It's easier to get into an autopilot there. And know who you are in that area and have a stronger self-awareness in that area, if you're conscious of it.So for people who prefer feeling, it's easier to go through the motions with our emotions or feelings, because we know what we're feeling. So it becomes easier to make decisions based on that, because we know what we're feeling. And if you were a thinker, you would be aware of what you're thinking, therefore, it's easier and quicker to make a decision. That's logical. And based on your thoughts. It might be harder for a thinker to make a decision based on what they want, or based on their emotions, not because they don't feel not because they're not there, but because it is going to take time to uncover what those things are. And so the act of developing your lower functions is an act of uncovering what is already there. And unraveling the truth of it.And it reminds me of like, if something is already on the surface, you get to just enjoy it. But if you have to dig all the way down to something that is, like I'm thinking of like the roots of a plant, for some reason is the vision that came to me, if you have to dig all the way down, and you're like in the dark, it is a lot harder to complete the task or to make use of whatever tools are there. Because you can't, you can't see them.And so anyway, my process of developing sensing and thinking has been a process of just starting to notate what those things are. A couple examples I'll share is that... For one, I went down a rabbit hole a few months ago about smart thinking, and systems thinking and note-taking systems and I watched a few YouTube videos from people that were sharing how they do their own sort of personal project management systems, and how they collect their notes. Like with tools, like notion, and obsidian, and things like that. And one of the YouTubers that I found, actually had a couple of videos about MBTI, and said that they were an INTP. And I thought it made sense for them to be an INTP, even from just watching how they were talking. Because basically, they were explaining that it's easier to come up with really sharp new ideas, if you are collecting the thoughts you have and insights you have along the way. And she did a lot of stuff where she would allow the computer to help her by putting insights she had organizing them intentionally, so that she can kind of see her insights reflected back to her with like a visual. Like a visual interpretation of the data.So anyway, um, from watching that I realized, like, I was thinking, I have insights like this all the time. But what happens with me with my thoughts with my inferior Ti is I think it and then I forget it, which means that I don't get to use those thoughts as much. So that's where the inefficiency comes for feeling types is that it's not it's not that we aren't thinking correctly or that we're wrong or that we're dumb, it's that we don't always get to invest, and get the real value for the thoughts that we do have. Because we aren't focused on them, we are unconscious of them.And so I was I've been trying to figure out how can I rely on technological tools to give my thinking and sensing function some support, so that my consciousness doesn't have to be manually as aware of them because that's kind of how it is, is that we're kind of disabled in our lower functions to where we can do them, it's just more energetically consuming and so relying on something like a computer could potentially help (I'm not sure how it worked for feeling I'm not sure how it work in a lot of different cases..) But relying on some sort of technology even if the technology is a cup which is technically still a technology. I'm relying on anything to help support you in your ability to use your lower functions without shaming yourself without judging yourself and instead just being very curious about, “how can I be more conscious of these things that are already are happening already are going on?”So that's kind of an example with the thinking is that I'm… what I'm going to try and do is start I'm trying to archive like all of the videos I've done in the past all my tweets and like try and mine some mine them for key points so that I can put it into a book or something. So it's like I'm trying to actually get the getting more value out of the thoughts that I have, rather than just blasting them out and draining myself without ever getting anything back into return. And so right now I'm just very confused and in an unknown state because I'm I don't know what my routines look like that are going to exactly support me because I also don't actually know 100% what my goals are.And with the sensing side of things, I was listening to this audiobook called The Compound Effect. And I've heard people talk about the compound effect before where it's essentially. Um, it's essentially this idea that if you do some little thing every single day that you eventually can, the results of that could compound over time. And that's something that I'm really bad at to where I'm not very consistent, especially with my sensory behaviors. Um, and this guy was basically saying that if you work in bursts, every single time you start something after having stopped doing it for a long time, that takes a lot of energy. And I think that that's something that I've struggled with.But I still like working in bursts. So I'm not fully sure how that's gonna work out. But he was saying that, if you want to change anything in your life, whether that be how you eat your workout skills, or your.. you want to read more, or whatever it is, if you want to change anything, it starts with being aware of it. And now that's also a very obvious thing. But he was suggesting that you need to start tracking everything that you're doing. And I have resisted the idea of tracking, I hate I hate tracking. You know, some people do mood trackers, some people do sleep trackers. And it's so hard for me to get into the routine of doing those things. And anyway.But the past two weeks, I have been attempting to track my time, for whatever reasons like I couldn't pick… I couldn't figure out what thing I wanted to track. But then I realized that really what is frustrating to me is that I'm not quite sure if I'm making the best use of my time, because all year I felt like I've had these vague goals that I'm trying to figure out. And I think I might be getting closer. But I haven't really been seeing the effects of it yet. Not even realizing now as I've been talking this whole time that I think that I'm quicker at talking than I used to be in my previous videos, and that I think that my Introverted Thinking has come a long way because I read every day now.And I also don't, my instinct… Okay, so this is something I was gonna say earlier that I realized I didn't finish this point is that a coping mechanism for me was reaching out to people. That was like my number one thing, and I realized that I was doing it more than I actually had the time to. And so I wasn't doing things that would benefit me and my goals, a lot of that having to do with the inferior Ti. So for example, just sharing thoughts over text in a passing way, every single day versus what if I wrote a book, you know what I mean? Like, I want to create value. I don't want to be flippantly wasting my energy.'And I'm not even saying that friends are a waste. But what I started to realize was that the amount of time I was spending texting was stressing me out and causing overstimulation because it's exhausting to rehash everything..like you lived at once, and then now you're rehashing it to five people? Just because you want them to understand you. And I… Anyway, I feel very lonely right now. Because I feel like I have not been able to keep up with message messaging people back and the way that I used to, and I feel like people are taking it personally because it's such a change from how I've acted in the past. And I feel like people probably think that I have just completely moved on to other friends or something. And that's been really hard. But part of it is that I'm finding that I'm enjoying it. reading philosophy or reading Jung more than I am talking about it these days. And I think that I'm eventually going to find a balance. But right now, it felt like a huge shadow pull.So the compound effect, what I was saying earlier, this kind of reminded me of being more aware of my sensing is that I realized that overall, I just don't think my energy management is that great. My dad pointed this out to me, whenever I was applying for jobs at 7:30pm, on a Friday night, and I was stressing myself out. He was like, why are you applying for jobs at 7:30 on a Friday? And I'm like, well, because I want another job. And I don't often think about how the time and place is going to affect my mental state. And that I really, like I was saying earlier, I don't watch much TV, I don't really decompress. I haven't really decompressed. And so I am so one-track-minded with my goals that it's like I'm… if I'm not where I want to be, I don't give myself time to rest. And it's been a really hard pill to swallow that… in order for me to actually get where I want to be, I'm going to have to, like, just stop.And that goes back in with the title of embracing the unknown,is I have to accept the unknown. In order to go where I haven't gone before. So I have been tracking how I'm using my time because I'm, I guess I'm trying to look at it and be like, am I texting too much? Have I gone to the other stream to where I'm not reaching out to friends enough? Am I… one thing I realized from this is that I've been wasting too much time on dating apps, when I'm not even interested.And so that's one thing where I think sometimes we can do things automatically. Or even like our body, somehow we have learned a lesson in the past that reaching for something instinctually might be a good coping mechanism for whatever it is that we're craving in that moment. And then sometimes when our body will essentially do that, it doesn't actually give us the benefit that we are expecting or that we want. And so anyway, I'm trying to observe, you know, what are the things that are getting me caught up? Either in anxiety or in staring at the wall not sure what to do next, which is what happens to me all the time.So anyway, I'm just trying to start by surveying, how am I spending my time? What are the uses of time that make me feel more energy energized?And what are the uses of time that are exhausting for me? And maybe it's exhausting that I am this particular of a person that I feel such a need to scrutinize my every move? I don't, I don't f*****g know. Like, I feel like every time I've ever made a positive change in my life, it's come in an intense way. And I don't know if that's a good or a bad thing, or why that is. But like when I started this YouTube channel, for example, what really got me going was that I had to force myself into doing a 30-day challenge. Now, a lot of people especially using those earlier videos, whenever I was on this high, almost like an extroverted sensing high of I'm just going to make a video every day and I'm not going to care what it looks like. And a lot of those earlier videos, a lot of people were typing me as ESTP or ESFP, which I think is kind of funny, because it took me three to four years of thinking about making a YouTube channel and trying to think about exactly how it would look and how it would go. Before I eventually got so frustrated with myself that I was like, just do it you f*****g idiot. And so that's kind of the games that I play with myself a lot of the time. And I'm kind of getting there right now with this channel where I sometimes I need some new energy here and I need to figure out something maybe I'll do YouTube shorts. Maybe I'll get into Tik Tok. I have never really used Tik Tok. I think when it first got big, I felt like oh, this might not be good for my mental health. I was already addicted to Twitter. I don't know if I need more Are things to make me feel overstimulated. But I have been developing a lot more self-discipline. And so we'll see, maybe I'll be able to have a positive relationship with TikTok one day.But embracing the shadow is embracing the unknown. And part of Shadow Work is putting the unknown under a magnifying glass, even if it's uncomfortable, and part of that as examples could be, you know, tracking your time, or jotting down your thoughts.Make it easier for your future self.So it's like right now, for example, I don't know if I'm going to write a book, if I'm going to do a workshop. I don't know what I'm working on. But I'm basically treating it as though I have some sort of thesis I'm working on. And I'm just trying to gather the information now. So that eventually, what I know, if I want to write a book, or if I want to make a course, or whatever it is, I have that information there. Were as my patterns in the past with this YouTube channel, I have been sporadic, with my Introverted Thinking, not conscious of my Introverted Thinking to where I will have an introverted thinking thought that I want to share, make a video, never watch the video back again, forget what I said. Until next time, whenever it comes up, then I remember it again.But whenever it comes to having to sit down and write a thorough argument, I'm going to forget, like, I'm not going to be able to craft an argument that easily if I've forgotten what my supporting details are, for that persuasive argument. Whereas if someone preferred Introverted Thinking, it's going to be a lot easier to just sit down and craft the argument because, you know, you're already thinking about and conscious of what those pieces are, that will help you with your logic. Whereas for me, it often feels very sporadic, where that is kind of how the introverted or that is how the Inferior function works, is that it hold on, I hope you guys can't hear my mom talking. But um, um, we'll wrap this up soon.Um, so the Inferior function is almost always going to be tethered to, or it's always tethered to the unconscious. And so there's something primal about it, no matter how good you get at observing it, there's still this very uncontrollable nature to it. And so for me, it often comes in the form of Yes, I have a thought. I have a moment of clarity that, you know, hits me on the head. It wasn't because I was sitting around putting the boxes together, figuring it out, clarity, like, will arrive, like, just like, reminds me of some quote, I saw. More, it was like talking about happiness is like a butterfly. You can't like, trap it, but it will. If you are sitting softly, it can just land upon your shoulder. Truth often feels like it lands upon my shoulder. Even with this whole video, it's like I have no clue what I'm saying until I say it a lot of the time. I feel like, I feel when something makes sense. I feel it clicking. And it's a very, very strong emotional sensation of like, click, click, click, click click anyway, it just like, it's all like just clicking. And so whenever it clicks, I get so excited that I want to share it.And but then what what often can happen is that the clicking happened to where I might be still operating on that premise. The truth did its job, the click, the clicking has been clacked already, if you know what I mean.So then all of a sudden, I'm going around the world operating on that new premise. But if someone were to ask me what that was, I would not be able to conjure it up on the spot, which is why feelers can seem very illogical. Because then if you're like asking me on the spot to be in a debate or to explain why I think something, not going to know why, but the clicking has already been clacked, if that makes sense.“The clicking has been clacked already, if you know what I mean.”So anyway, um, I am trying to, when that happens, collect those moments collected. So I think that no matter what your Inferior function is, no matter what your shadow is that you're working on, how can you get so curious about those things? And can you try and make them physical in any way. Because if you can make it physical, it's then easier for you to never forget. And it's easier for you to be conscious of it. And it just causes less stress on you, if you ever come across a moment where you have to conjure that up, and so. But then when you start doing that, that's when I think the unknown possibilities from that can be very scary, you don't know what's going to emerge, you might find out things about yourself that you didn't realize. And you could have an identity crisis.Like for me, I am feeling more introverted than I've ever felt in my entire life, to where the more I reflect on a lot of these things, I'm seeing how having a quiet Friday night on my own reading something that I've been meaning to read, but I haven't been able to because I've been distracted from work, it feels so satisfying, and so fulfilling, to give to myself the things that I wanted to. And so but then that also that exert that takes a lot of energy, that makes it harder to then give energy somewhere else. So the more you start putting these things under a magnifying glass, you might find that there are things about you that you didn't know.And you might find that your vision of where you think you're going or what the future might be, could completely change. Because you're going to be noticing these components of you that have always been there. But now that you're taking them seriously, you get to plan for them. So part of that has been my self-care is that I kind of don't trust myself, to make any promises about how often I'm going to be uploading content, until I get better at understanding what I actually need to be at a physical baseline. Because I don't know how often I can exert myself until I know how much care I need in order to stay afloat. And I feel like I've reached this point where I'm sick of withholding, like peace and relaxation from myself.And I'm, like, slowly realizing how short a day is.And it's kind of freaking me out by how short a day is, if that makes sense, like, like, I'm finding that I love waking up at 545 Because I love when nobody's bothering me. And I get to just journal and read and play music, or watch YouTube videos, or just do whatever the f**k I want. Like before anyone has any demands on me and just like slowly sip my coffee. I love that more than anything. But in order to do that, I need to go to bed early. Which means maybe going to less concerts, which doesn't sound fun, then I have to then I start to then I have to start asking myself, How many concerts do I want to go to? When is a concert more important than waking up early. Or another thing is that if I don't bookend my days by saying at 530 “Okay, I'm done with work.” What I've been doing is, like, really make it easy for yourself. Treat yourself like an idiot in the area, but not like an idiot. But there are areas in life that are harder for you. And so give yourself the resources that you need.Um, for me, sensing and thinking are those things that they're hard for me. So make it easy on yourself. Don't make it hard, and then shame yourself for not getting it right the first time. So I am you know, kind of babying myself in those areas to where I make so many to-do lists. I'm starting to do this thing where at 530 I'm like Okay, tomorrow first thing in the morning these are the tasks that I have to do. Because if I don't do that and have it written down for myself, then it causes so much energy because I'm constantly forgetting what I need to do.Um and so I'm why It's like I keep at why, why would I have to keep conjuring up over and over and over again, the same task of, oh, I need to return these shoes, oh, I need to return these shoes. Oh, I'm out of milk, oh, I'm out of out of milk, oh, I'm out of milk. Like, that's how my brain feels a lot of the time is I'm just trying to relax. And then I remember, oh, there's this thing you have to do. But then it's like, oh, I don't have to do it for maybe two weeks, or I can wait or whatever. But like, um, it's not enough just have to-do lists, I'm also realizing that in order for me to actually relax after 530, I have to say, “these are all the things that have to get done tomorrow.” Or else, I won't be relaxing, because in the back of my mind, I'll be thinking about what I forgot. And I also won't be able to go to sleep, because I'll be thinking about it, I won't be feeling satisfied or fulfilled by my day, I'll still have this itch, that there's something else that I haven't done.And so and it's all because not conscious of the sensing, not conscious of the thinking. And so if you need a piece of paper, or a computer, to be your second brain, for your lower functions, then do it like make it easy on yourself. So anyway, I think that I'm going to end it here. But I guess my last point I wanted to make is that I'm trying to figure out this podcast, to be honest, because I think I've changed a lot. In the past two to three years, my values have changed a lot. And I'm just I'm trying to figure out what resonates with me.I'm trying to figure out how to make things feel professional, but also casual and real. Without it seeming so daunting that I then never pick up the tools I need to communicate. And you know, I am slowly working on trying to figure out some sort of thesis statement I want to like, make more educational sort of content in general. Whether that be like, because I recognize that I'm not very great at explaining the basics of, what is personality type theory? What is the shadow work? What is all these things, but it's like, what I want to talk about is my process with it, things that I've learned, I want to add to the philosophical conversation. And I want to start bringing in people that aren't just Jung I want to start talking about Plato and Nietzsche and like I want to just start having these conversations. But I feel like my I'm still working it out. And it's.. I'm not moving as quickly as I wish I was. But that's because I'm embracing the unknown. I'm trying to include my thinking and sensing. And because of that, there are these factors that I didn't realize were factors that are starting to come up. Because if you think about it, like with me waking up early, when would be a good time for me to work on a book, or a blog post, perhaps 545. In the morning when no one's bothering me, I've learned that it's really, really fun and easy to write, then it's not very easy to write at 2pm. So it's like, okay, if I want to write a book, is it working for me to wake up late and go to like, two concerts a week and be constantly catching up on sleep, and frustrated that I don't have enough me time. So I end up staying up until midnight. Because if I wake up and I roll out of bed and I go straight to work, and then I'm not done till 530 By the time it's 530, I'm angry, because I didn't have my day. So anyway, it's like, I'm having to be real with myself where it's like, okay, you want to do these things, but when are you going to do them? And when is the time in your schedule that makes sense for you? And are you even creating space for you to do the things that you claim to want to do?So um, and also, I set myself up for failure all the time, by putting unrealistic expectations on myself, there was a period when I did a Patreon group where it was like, I'm going to do a workshop once a month. That was really fun for three months, and then one month came up where I had a lot going on and it was a lot harder to do. And so I am trying to figure out how to make things more sustainable. And because I'm trying to figure that out. I don't know what to tell you guys. I don't know what to tell myself. I don't know what's going to happen because there are factors that are uncovered. I'm uncovering such as you know what sleep schedule I like, these factors that I'm uncovering are all pieces of the puzzle of what the answer would be.So that's another reason why, you know, Shadow Work is inherently embracing the unknown, because not only is it I don't know these things about me, but it's also, when you take it seriously, it ends up bleeding into your real life, your decisions end up changing because you have information at hand that you didn't have before.So anyway, this video, thank you, if you guys made it this far, you are a real one. And I love you.And I would love to hear. Or basically, this goes out to everyone who is dealing with the chaotic mess of the unknown right now, I'd love to hear if you have any thoughts on how it's been for you. Because it's, it's hard, it's messy, and it's very, very isolating.I think that's another aspect of the whole Shadow Work thing. It's very isolating to do because you end up I think, exerting a lot of energy, doing things that are harder for you, it might make you feel like you have less to give others… that's how I feel right now. And I have a lot of shame about that.Because I feel like the more I'm trying to get myself stable than the less, I feel like I can consistently be there for others, but clinging to my ego. And what I think is known over and over and over again, and might make me feel in the short term, like I'm able to be there for others consistently. But eventually, that runs dry. Because like I said before, if you're clinging to something like.. it's the act of clinging, and the act of control, that ends up causing this tsunami on the other side.But if you get comfortable in the unknown, and you stop feeling like you have to be super consistent with your ego and your persona, like, I'm no longer the “ENFJ reliable persona”, even though I still am an ENFJ, and that's my best fit type. I'm no longer performing that persona, in the same way. And it's very, very scary.And it's very shameful for me to be like, “Oh, my goodness, I can't believe that, you know, my sleep schedule is taking priority over, you know, me remembering to pick up the phone and call someone.” And you know, I'm very hard on myself because extroverted feeling is my Dominant function. Like, there's a good friend of mine who we've been trying to call each other for about three weeks, and they're not mad at me about it. And they also have been back and forth with me. But for whatever reason, I take those things personally, and I feel shame about them. And I'm hard on myself about them. Because I think that I should be performing this character, basically. Which any personality type is basically a caricature. It's a pattern, it's a social pattern, and it has a social value.Aand it has an evolutionary value for our psyche to adapt, and evolve to learn in this way to where we, you know, have our preferences and then we opened the door up for more and more, but anyway, um, I was going to have a point here but I can't remember. Um, anyway, yeah, I feel I feel shamed for not doing those things. It feels like I have, oh, that's supposed to say it feels like I have less to give. But over time, I'm going to end up having more to give because I'm going to be including all of myself and not just half of myself, not just part of myself.And I'm going to be not wasting my energy trying to hide my weaknesses and compensate for them. And I'm instead going to try and include the wealth of resources and the richness that the unconscious has……which I can make a whole other video on this. I can tell you so many different myths and stories behind the idea that the unconscious holds your hidden gem. And that, like what makes you special what makes you valuable, you know, um, I'm like, waiting in this unknown. And even if it like, like I said, it feels isolating for one, it feels like oh, I don't have as much to give as I used to, because I'm wasting, I'm using more energy on these things that are harder for me and take more of my energy. I could be thinking, I'm so mad at myself for not being able to keep up with the extroverted feeling that I used to, because Introverted Thinking is taking up so much time. And I feel like I can't even see if I'm getting anywhere because just doing one little thing with it can be so draining and exhausting. But the reaction, the chemical reaction that happens between both of the poles of your conscious and unconscious is creative in nature. And doing that ends up giving you a wealth of resources that you never would have had access to, to begin with. But it just takes some time getting comfortable there.And I'm trying to get comfortable. And I feel like I'm in a weird place where every single aspect of my life is not good, not where I want to be. I'm not happy at all, really. But I also feel more mentally stable than I've ever felt in my life and also happier than I've ever felt, even though I also am not, because it feels like I don't know, just like clearing a lot of gunk and like, I'm just so f*****g proud of myself. And I know that's like weird to say, but it's like, there's a sense of fulfillment that you can get when you are working on those parts of yourself that can't possibly be described because it's an internal experience. It's like you're feeling the chemistry between your conscious and your unconscious. And any observer can't really see that necessarily. And so sometimes it takes time to be able to see the fruits of that labor. It's almost like you're becoming a lightning rod yourself internally and that eventually being able to contain that you will be able to see the effects and your actions. But anyway, yeah, it takes a while. And it's the unknown. And I'm just going to listen to my body and realize that I need a snack. So thank you so much for watching, Psyche Design and are listening if you are listening, um, have a wonderful rest of your day. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit psychedesign.substack.com

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Personality tests can be a great way to gauge potential team members and ensure they are a great fit for your business. Myers Briggs is just one of the personality tests we use here at DoorGrow. Join Jason in this episode as he discusses and describes the Myers Briggs personality test and different personality types in depth.  You'll Learn… [01:30] What even is Myers Briggs? [03:28] How to Hire Correctly Based on Personality Fit [05:00] Going in Depth for all 4 Attributes in Myers Briggs Assessments [17:37] The Common Personality Types in Business [32:07] What to do After You Figure Out Your Personality Type Tweetables “Now there's a lot of people that would argue that personality is not always static. Personality is not like always defined and that you can have multiple personalities.” “People have a main sort of way that they show up in the world and that's probably their primary sort of personality type and getting people to operate outside of that, there's some friction, there's some challenge.” “One of the biggest, most important things to look at in hiring is personality fit.” “A lot of times sensors gravitate towards manual labor or doing physical things where they can see physical, tangible, real world results.” Resources DoorGrow and Scale Mastermind DoorGrow Academy DoorGrow on YouTube DoorGrowClub DoorGrowLive TalkRoute Referral Link Transcript [00:00:00] Personality fit dictates whether or not they will naturally be good at this job or whether you're going to have to micromanage them, push them and constantly overcome friction in relation to doing the job,    [00:00:11] All right, welcome DoorGrow Hackers to the #DoorGrowShow. If you are a property management entrepreneur that wants to add doors, make a difference, increase revenue, help others, impact lives, and you are interested in growing in business and life. And you are open to doing things a bit differently, then you are a DoorGrow Hacker. DoorGrow Hackers love the opportunities, daily variety, unique challenges, and freedom that property management brings. Many in real estate think you're crazy for doing it. You think they're crazy for not because you realize that property management is the ultimate, high trust gateway to real estate deals, relationships and residual income.   [00:00:48] At DoorGrow, we are on a mission to transform property management business owners and their businesses. We want to transform the industry, eliminate the BS, build awareness, change perception, expand the market, and help the best property management entrepreneurs win. I'm your host, property management growth expert Jason Hull, the founder and CEO of DoorGrow. Now let's get into the show.    [00:01:11] All right. So today what we're gonna be talking about is a tool that I use to look at personality types. Sometimes some people might view this as just looking at like the equivalent of looking at tea leaves, but we're gonna be talking about Myers Briggs and Myers Briggs assessments. So what is Myers Briggs? So Myers Briggs is a lens through which you can look at certain personality types and in Myers Briggs, there are 16 personality types that exist and a really great website you can go to, to do this testing is 16-- one and then the digit six-- so digits 16 --personalities dot com, so 16personalities.com. So if you go to this website, you can then take their assessment for free or have people on your team or people that you're hiring take this assessment for free. At the end of it, it will ask, "do you want these results emailed to you?" have them say yes, plug in their email address.   [00:02:11] They will get the email results. Have them forward those results to you, or copy the link from that email and give that to you, that shows their results. It's important because then you can see the ratio, the percentage amount on each attribute. There's four attributes to understand in Myers, Briggs. 16 personalities added a fifth attribute, so to speak, but there's four main attributes. So I'm going to teach you quickly on this recording how to quickly, rapidly type somebody in Myers Briggs so that you can get clear on how they show up in this world and what they're like.    [00:02:49] Now there's a lot of people that would argue that personality is not always static. Personality is not like always defined and that you can have multiple personalities. Todd Herman has a great book on that subject, which is about how he helps celebrity athletes and other celebrities come up with or create alternate egos. And it, I believe the book's called _The Alter Ego Effect_. Really cool book, really cool topic. So I highly recommend you check it out. I got to meet Todd in person, hear him speak in person at one of the masterminds I'm involved in as a student and it was really cool to meet him, ask him questions and get clarity on that, so it's worth checking out.    [00:03:28] People have a main sort of way that they show up in the world and that's probably their primary sort of personality type and getting people to operate outside of that, there's some friction, there's some challenge. One of the biggest, most important things to look at in hiring is personality fit. I've spoken about this on some lives and some events before, but really quickly, there are three fits you need when hiring. Personality fit is one of them, culture fit is another, and skill fit. Most people hire based on skill fit alone. Like, 'can they do this job?' Or 'can I teach them to do this job?' But more importantly, is personality fit. Personality fit dictates whether or not they will naturally be good at this job or whether you're going to have to micromanage them, push them and constantly overcome friction in relation to doing the job, right. Somebody's personality, if they're really introverted and shy and don't like talking to people might not be a great salesperson, for example. Somebody in customer service-- if you're putting somebody into customer service, but they're really cold, analytical, and harsh in the way that they do things, they might be terrible at customer service, but maybe they make an awesome operations person. And so we wanna make sure that we're clear on the personality that would be a good fit for a particular role, so that when hiring, we can identify: are these people probably going to be a natural personality fit? The other is cultural fit. Cultural fit, we will not get into on this conversation, but it's the most important of the three fits and that's whether or not you will be able to trust them in the long run, because whether or not they share your values and that sort of thing.   [00:05:00] So let's talk about Myers, Briggs, and how it can help you identify personality fit. You may want to type yourself, so let's go through and type you right now. So grab a pen or a paper or just something and write down there are four main attributes. So the first attribute you need to figure out is, are you an extrovert or an introvert? This is usually pretty obvious for most people. You can just ask people or you can just ask yourself if you know this person, "are they an extrovert, an introvert? Am I an extrovert or an introvert?" The main question I like to ask to figure out if somebody's an extrovert or an introvert, is do you get momentum and excitement from being around people? Or do you get momentum and need to recharge? Do you get recharged or more energy by being around people? Or do you need to be away from people in order to feel like yourself and recharge, and where do you like spending most of your time? Right. So some people are ambiverts, I'm an ambivert. In Myers Briggs, I tend to show up as an actual extrovert, but I have a lot of introvert tendencies.    [00:06:08] So that's important to figure out like which one are they? Because for example, I'm an ENTP typically is how I show up. INTPs from the INTPs that I've known are quite more dramatically introverted. ENTPs are the most extroverted of all of the E types in Myers Briggs, which is half of the 16 personality types. They are the most introverted of all of the extroverted types, so a lot of times they might show up on a test as an INTP, but INTPs, I find are the most introverted of the introverted types and they are extreme introverts and they can go weeks without human contact, and they're totally fine with that.   [00:06:49] A big differentiator there, if you're like me, confused about INTP or ENTP, like I have been in the past: are you charismatic and outgoing? You are probably not an INTP. You're probably not an extreme introvert. You're probably not super introverted if you have charisma and personality. I find INTPs, a lot of times are pretty deadpan, dry, and they're quite brilliant.   [00:07:14] Anyway, we won't go into every single type, but I'll throw examples out throughout the process here. So mark whether you're E or an I. I show up more as an E, but a lot of people might categorize me as an I. So I get that extroverted trait by connecting with clients, coaching clients. I like being on the stage as I am right now, so to speak, sharing ideas with others and benefiting other people, extroverted trait.   [00:07:39] So the next would be whether you are an intuitive or a sensor. So they categorize that letter instead of a E or an I, that next letter is an N for 'intuitive.' They use the second letter. I know it's confusing, but we've already used I in the first set, so they didn't wanna use it again. So it's an N for intuitive or S for a sensor. So how do we categorize these? So in general, my big question or differentiator that I'll ask between these is, "are you usually focused on high level theory, theoretical, big picture, which means you're more of an intuitive, or are you focused on more grounded, practical, real world, reality and your physical senses?"   [00:08:23] So I find sensors are those that like things to be tactile, like they can touch them. They can see real results. A lot of times sensors gravitate towards manual labor or doing physical things where they can see physical, tangible, real world results. A lot of sensors end up in careers or positions where they are doing really grounded, real world work. It could be like policemen, firefighters, plumbers, contractors, stuff like that. A lot of them are more on the sensor category, people that do physical art or do physical things, people that do like tiling floors or people that enjoy building statues or creating things like those a lot of times can be sensors. They're very focused on their physical senses of touch, taste, smell, sight, et cetera.    [00:09:17] Whereas intuitives go in-- a lot of times they're focused on theoretical, big pictures, big ideas, and thinking, and I'll point out that. There's no good or bad personality types necessarily. They're all needed. They're all good and useful in different things. So are you an intuitive or sensor? Another thing I look at with intuitive or sensors, I like to ask, what kind of TV shows are you into? Are you into shows that are very focused on grounded, practical things like crime dramas and historical period pieces and stuff like that (sensor) or are you focused more on, do you like the intuitive type of stuff, which could be more sci-fi or more fantasy based or some of these kind of things where you're getting exposed to potential ideas and big picture things.   [00:10:04] That might relate to the last attribute a little bit too. So that's could be a red herring, but we'll get to that. The next major attribute would be thinker versus feeler. This is usually pretty obvious for most people, and the way that you wanna look at this, everybody is a feeler to some degree, and everybody is a thinker to some degree. A lot of times, feelers mistakenly think they're thinkers because they over-- they tend to overthink things. They ruminate things. They get stuck on things in their head because they're not really good at logical, analytical thinking. They're feelers. And so they just overthink everything, like "how is this gonna impact everybody else from an emotional standpoint?" so that does not mean you are a thinker. That means you are a feeler.   [00:10:46] Thinkers, usually are very quick in their thinking and they approach things logically first. If you approach things from a feeling standpoint first, then you are probably more of a feeler. So if there's a problem and you're looking at this problem, would you use logic and reason first, or would you try and explore things emotionally and make sure people are okay? So another example I will give is if you saw somebody crying on a train that you were on or on a bus you were on or in a public place that you were at, and they were crying, would you naturally think: 'I'm gonna kind of give them their space and let them deal with their stuff,' or do you feel a natural need to immediately reach out and connect and maybe even touch them to communicate? Like, "are you okay? And can I help you with anything?" Thinker versus feeler, right? So, what is your go-to?    [00:11:39] Me? I'm more of a thinker. I'm sure many of you could guess, more on the analytical logical side. I approach things through logic first. One other thing you can look at is a lot of times thinkers when they are not really good at processing emotion or experiencing emotion and don't want to feel negative emotion and so they've gotten really good, as a strategy of leveraging their logic and reason to avoid uncomfortable feelings in the future. So when they experience something uncomfortable or painful emotionally, their go to is to think, "how can I avoid feeling this ever again in the future, and how do I solve this as quick as possible?" And "how do I stop feeling this as soon as possible?" Whereas feelers know that the most effective strategy is to feel that fully, feel through it because the only thing you logically can do with a feeling is to feel it, and once you've fully felt it, it no longer controls you.    [00:12:33] You can avoid a feeling indefinitely and it can constantly be affecting you for years and years to come. It can be a challenge for thinkers. Whereas if you fully feel through something, you cannot feel a feeling forever. You can't feel something forever you'll eventually just kind of get numb to it or get comfortable with it, get used to it, or have kind of processed it and worked through it, and then you can approach it logically and say, "all right, how can I view this in a healthy way? What good came from this? What could I get from that?" And go through maybe a positive focus exercise, so to speak. "Why is this positive?" Right. So thinker versus feeler. So which one are you? Do you approach things through logic and reason first, or do you approach things through feelings first?   [00:13:17] Neither of these are right or wrong. We need both. I like to bring feelers in for things where it's customer service or it's relating to clients or it's community managers or client success managers or roles where we need somebody to love on our clients and make them feel good. Thinkers: operators, logical roles, things like that. So we want thinkers.    [00:13:37] So moving beyond that. We get into the last of the four attributes, which is perceiving versus judging. So this is how you approach the observable world and how you approach learning and how you approach the world around you in your thinking and decision making, perceiving versus judging.   [00:13:57] So a lot of people get really judgemental about the word judging and they're like, "I'm not judging. I'm not judgemental." That's not what that means. And perceiving a lot of people think, "well, I wanna be perceiving." So let me explain this, and then it'll be very clear to you, which one you are. So people that are Ps, that are perceiving, I find to be very creative. They like to pull in lots of ideas from lots of sources. They're very open minded, but they're a bit chaotic and they tend to thrive effectively in chaotic environments, but they live a lot of times. In chaos, they have a messy desk as do I right now. It's a bit messy. You can see my bookshelf is a bit crazy, right?   [00:14:36] So these are, perceivers, they're really good at pulling in lots of ideas, and this is the advantage I have for my clients is I can pull in lots of ideas and create new ideas out of those ideas. And that's where the brilliance and genius comes out in these Ps and how I'm able to benefit clients and help them see things they couldn't see on their own or didn't see otherwise. And that's how we come up with new ideas in really ingenious acquisition strategies and growth strategies and things that are very counterintuitive to what they've been taught sometimes. And this is because Ps can see around the corner. They can see the bigger picture. They can see ideas that Js just cannot see. The problem with Ps though is sometimes they're a little too openminded, so open-minded they get diluted and distracted by too many different ideas. Sometimes Ps are very disorganized. They need support from their team members, from people that are Js. So my assistant is a J.   [00:15:29] They handle my schedule. They handle calendars. They like that kind of stuff. They like checklists and spreadsheets. Js, judging have a box. They have a lens through which they view the world. Anything outside of that box-- when people say, "live outside the box," they're talking to Js. These are Ps talking to Js.   [00:15:47] Js say, "this box keeps me safe. This box keeps the world moving forward. Everything outside of that, like woo woo stuff and maybe even Myers Briggs and aliens and conspiracy theories and all this stuff is complete bullshit, is BS, and is a waste of my time. So anything outside of my current worldview is a waste of my time and is not effective. Unless you can convince me logically otherwise, I'm not gonna waste time exploring all of this other stuff and looking at all this other stuff. This is what is necessary and needed." Right. And so Js are those that tend to move businesses forward as operators, as people that get stuff done. They are really good at calendars, spreadsheets, meticulous details, stuff like that because they will make a quick judgment and throw out anything that does not fit.    [00:16:42] Whereas Ps put everything on the shelf, look at the big picture and come up with some new ideas in putting these different Lego pieces together. And they build really cool shit, right? They build really cool stuff. So Js though are really brilliant at cutting out the fluff, the crap, getting to the point, and moving things forward. That judging box protects the business and protects people and creates really good boundaries and moves things forward. So we need both. So are you perceiving or are you judging?    [00:17:15] Usually if you need an operations person, you need a really good assistant. I do not recommend that they're a P typically. Some of you may, as entrepreneurs may be a P or perceiving, but if you are a J you will tend to want an assistant that is also a J, and if you are a P you'll tend to need an assistant that is a J, right?    [00:17:37] So let's talk about some different personality types. Gosh, I don't have all 16 listed in front of me, but let's talk about some different types, right. ENTPs like myself are often called the debater personality type. They're not really well liked a lot of times because they enjoy the friction and the conflict of debate. I love being wrong and I love being right. Like either one is fine for me because either way I win and I learn and that open-mindedness and being a thinker and having that extroverted intuition, which is the EN allows me to do really creative stuff. And I'm generally naturally good at most things that I apply to.   [00:18:17] I don't though, like to finish things. I love to start ideas, come up with creative ideas, and I have an entire mechanism and machine and team that I've creatively built around me that support me in getting stuff done. So having operators, having fulfillment team members, having client success managers, having sales and marketing manager, like I have a whole executive team and then I have layers underneath some of them. Now what are some good roles for, let's say operations, right? So operations. So Sarah, who is the operator on my team and also my fiance and is beautiful and who I love. She is an INTJ and generally is how she shows up on most tests. She is very introverted a lot of times. She can turn on the charm when she needs to, but she likes having a lot of space and a lot of time to herself, introverted intuition.   [00:19:08] So a lot of really intuitive aspects to her. She just seems to know things, her unconscious figures things out that she doesn't even consciously know. Sometimes she's like, "I feel like we're losing money somewhere here and I don't see it yet, but I just know something's off, and she's always right. Like almost always right. INTJs love being right. They're almost always right, but they are a little rigid because of that J, so they can't see creatively around certain ideas. And so the debator ENTPs sometimes are really good at helping expose them to some new ideas and beating them in the debate situation. But they're great debaters and they love being right and they hate being wrong.   [00:19:47] And they're sometimes very Spock-like Star Trek reference, but they can become so logical and sometimes so cold that emotionally, they will hurt people around them and hurt people from a feeling standpoint because they are thinkers. They are logical, analytical, intuitive thinkers, and they are Js. I find INTJs also really tend to always love animals sometimes, like pretty often, more than people. People drive them crazy because people are unreliable. People make like bad decisions and dumb decisions. They don't just do what they're supposed to do. INTJs are brilliant strategists. They make great operators.    [00:20:26] Other roles, we've got the ENTJ, they're kind of the entrepreneur type. They sort of have the benefits of both of these personality types, and they're usually viewed as the entrepreneur, very enterprising. They're good at scaling things. They can sell very well. They're logical thinkers, intuitive, extroverted, and they're Js, so they make really great business owners, entrepreneurs, sales people, and they can grow and scale things effectively. They're not usually as good with sometimes IP, like intellectual property or coming up with new ideas or creating new ideas, but they're great at taking good ideas and scaling and building these things out in a lot of situations, but they may also have really good ideas. So it just depends. Because of their drive and their tenacity and their ability to figure things out, a lot of times, they are pretty creative and they can gather really good ideas and put things together. But the J usually limits their creativity in that area, but they can recognize a good idea when they see one, right? So ENTJs can be very effective entrepreneurs.    [00:21:25] Other types of entrepreneurs that I'll see besides ENTP and ENTJ is I'll see ENFP. ENFPs are very interesting type of personality types. They are also quite introverted on the extroverted scale of the E types, but they love people. They like to analyze people. They like to figure people out. ENFPs are viewed almost as childlike or flirtatious by people when they're just trying to be friendly. And they're very friendly, but they come across very flirty with a lot of people. People always perceive them as flirts. They're great with other people. They love figuring out personality types. They love this kind of stuff. I learned this initially from, and was exposed to Myers Briggs by an ENFP, and they knew all the different types and they understood people. ENFPs love freedom and creativity.   [00:22:14] They don't have that J. They're feelers that are perceiving. They have F and P and they're intuitives and they're extroverted, so they do not wanna be corralled. They're not great in nine to five job situations, sitting behind a desk and a cubicle. They need to be out. They need to be creativity. They need different environments. So ENFPs, a lot of bartenders are ENFP. It's because they get to connect with a lot of people. It's always different. They can set weird schedules and different schedules. A lot of actors and actresses might be sometimes ENFPs. You get a lot of flight attendants that might be ENFPs. You get a lot of hairdressers, lots of connecting with people, or beauty salons or things like this, and there's also a lot of real estate agents. I believe ENFPs are just love and sunshine. My mother is an ENFP, I believe, and she was a real estate agent, and people just love her. She's like everybody's mom and connects with everybody and she understands people and she's really sharp.   [00:23:07] ENFPs are also really, really, almost religious. They have a deep spiritual sort of belief set internally. Whether they're part of a religion or not, they have really deep beliefs and they're really big advocates for that belief system. And so they like to almost campaign or push that belief out into the marketplace or into the world because they have deeply held beliefs. They're viewed very childlike on the surface and a lot of people don't realize this, but they are really deep, one of the deepest types. Even though they come across like loving, they love rainbows and unicorns and sunshine. A lot of 'em will dye their hair an interesting color and they love to connect with people. And so those are ENFPs. So, one of my daughters is ENFP.    [00:23:54] Another really interesting type is the. Counselor type and they're the INFJ. They're an interesting hybrid between the introvert and extroverted types, in between thinkers and feelers, they have a J but they're a feeler they're intuitive intuition. So INFJs often end up being counselors. They are calming presences in an organization. They tend to be therapists, counselors. INFJs are very-- they can be also very adaptable, but INFJs tend to ruminate a lot because they're feelers. They overthink everyth. And they think about a lot of things. A lot of people talk about the INFJ "door slam." INFJs once they decide they don't like a person or they cut somebody off, they do a door slam and they will cut that person off for life a lot of times. So INFJs also, I find, tend to attract narcissists or believe everybody out there is a narcissist.    [00:24:50] So INFJs because they have such a sensitive, intuitive feeling nature but they're also judging and they can be very, very judgemental. INFJs tend to be one of the most judgemental types towards other types. And they have a lot of judgements towards other types, but they also use that intuition to kind of feel out people and they're very feeling oriented. They're idealists in some ways. And they don't like when the world doesn't look a certain way and they're very intuitive feeling oriented. So INFJs can make really great counselors, therapists, you know, and social workers, stuff like this, where they're interacting with people on a one-on-one intimate, deep basis.    [00:25:31] And those are INFJs. And so a lot of times they'll attract people that are narcissists, or they will view others as a narcissist because they are sometimes self depreciating or allow their needs to kind of be subservient to others. In some instances, until they really become healthier and learn effective boundary setting. In INFJ groups on Facebook and whatever, they complain about a lot of different people about being narcissists. I don't believe that everybody out there that they think is a narcissist is a narcissist or is self-absorbed or selfish. I think that they just aren't really good at attracting good people and setting healthy boundaries. And then they view all these people as the bad guy. So a typical scenario in less healthy INFJs or less evolved or less mature.   [00:26:17] Let's see. What are other types? So the entertainer personality type is ESFP. They're very, openminded, very feeler oriented, very touch and sense oriented and extroverted. ESFPs. They're a lot of fun, sometimes a little bit too much fun. They're the ones that'll be dancing on the tabletop. They need to be the center of attention at all times, if there is a group and it's heightened and people are extrovert in getting attention, they will find a way to get more attention and get more extreme. So they will dance on the tabletop. They will like get everybody to pay attention to them. They will do things. They will be in charge of like getting the most attention sometimes, these ESFPs. They're the entertainer personality type. I sometimes joke that they are the NSFW types, not safe for work. In fact, I saw meme once it had all these hats, 16 hats with all the different types and one hat was missing and the person was putting on, it said not safe for work. The one that was missing was the ESFP, which I thought was funny. So they can be kind of a little bit, you know, extreme and so ESFJs, which I mentioned before, ESFJs are a bit more on the judging side. They're very practical because they're sensors.    [00:27:31] They're also feelers, but they're judging. And so ESFJs and ISFJs are very feeler oriented. ISFJs are more on the introverted side. So ISFJs are very supportive people. They do not want to be in the foreground. ISFJs are the people that want to at the party not be involved at the party. They're not gonna be on the tabletop. ISFJs are those that love being in a supportive role. Putting them into a leadership role is usually a very bad idea. It's very uncomfortable for them. They often are nurses. They often are caretakers. They often are great internal office staff. They have amazing, amazing memories. ISFJs have amazing memories. So do INTJs, but ISFJs have really great memories. They remember numbers, they remember details because they're watching everything and they want to make sure everybody's taken care of, everybody's happy.   [00:28:25] ISFJs often care more about other people than they do about themselves, and they expect everybody else to reciprocate and nobody ever will reciprocate at the level that they care and give to others, so they often feel sad or down that nobody cares for them the way that they wanna be cared for and the way they care for everybody else. That expectation that people will reciprocate is never at the level that they care. They're baking cakes for people. They're doing things for people. They're serving other people. Those are ISFJs, and they are great people to have as a support mechanism and a background support staff in a business.    [00:29:04] ESFJs are a little bit more like them, but they're a little bit more extroverted. They have better boundaries. They're more willing to be in the foreground a bit, and they also can be really good, taking care of people, but they're sensors so they're focused on the practical things.    [00:29:18] And then we've got ENFJs, which are similar. ENFJs are very extroverted intuition. They're great at being leaders of the community. They're really good at knowing who in the group is having a good time, who is not. I generally look for maybe like an ENFJ or ESFJ or somebody like that that's really organized to be a client success manager to take care of and love on our clients and make sure everybody's being dealt with because that extroverted intuition, they're able to perceive intuitively how everybody is receiving things, how they're doing. And they're feelers, so they care primarily about making sure everybody is having a good experience or feeling good about things and they're detail oriented because of that J and they make sure things get done.   [00:30:01] So I think I've covered several different types. What else could I cover? INFP. INFPs are interesting. These are some of the most woo woo of all the types. The most open-minded they're introverted, intuitive feelers that are perceiving. These are people that usually find they wear flowy clothing and they're very woo woo, and they're into all sorts of different ideas that are really sometimes out there, and they are not great at practical real world reality. That's a difficult thing for them. And so you'll find that a lot of people in spiritual, new agey things, a lot of them might be INFPs.    [00:30:41] I would not choose an INFP in my business to do anything that was like, think deadlines and timelines and getting things done efficiently, but they would be very good at like being very spiritual and intuitive and supporting clients through a process and, you know, stuff like that. INFPs are feelers. They have introverted intuition. So they are really focused on intuitively on themself a lot, and they go deep within and their processes. And then they perceive and pull everything in from the universe. And they're just so open minded, sometimes me being a bit more, you know, on the thinker side, feel like they're so open minded, maybe their brains have fallen out. Right. But INFPs have their place and they also can be really, really useful.    [00:31:26] So a little different than the INFJ, which I talked about before, which is a counselor type, which are a bit more on the judging side and making sure things get done, which balances out all that intuition and intuitive internal stuff and introverted stuff and all that feeling. So INFPs, everything's based on a feeling. It's " I feel this way because intuitively I feel like this is a good idea or emotionally, I feel like this is a good idea." So they're very feeling based, so it's very difficult for somebody like an INTJ or somebody like an ENTJ to deal with those people sometimes, because they're just too open-minded, or S types sometimes might find them difficult.   [00:32:01] So those are several different types. I can't think of any other of the 16 types that I might have missed, but one quick hack for anyone, once you get your Myers Briggs type or you get your team members' Myers Briggs type, I recommend that you don't listen to what I just said. You go and do a YouTube search on YouTube for that type. Put 'ENTP' or 'ISFJ' or 'ESFP' or 'INFP.' Put the four letters and then put 'in,' (I-N) 'in' and then 'minutes.' Write the word minutes on YouTube and you'll get these great cartoon explainer videos that some organizations have put out, which they'll show like ENTP in four minutes, or INTJ in five minutes or something. And these really describes for four to five minutes, that personality type in detail and even showing visual examples. And it really makes it clear. You can watch that and go, 'is that really me?' So if you do the 16 personalities test and you see any attributes that are close to 50%, it's like 53%, 54%. It might be a mistype. So you can go check out ENTP and ENFP in minutes and watch these videos and see: "which one really speaks to me?"    [00:33:10] Because any one attribute creates a completely different personality type and a different way of approaching the world. Even if it's very similar to the other type, they have a very different. Cognitive stack and order in which they process information and do things, right? Whether they're extroverted or introverted or whether they're sensor or intuitive, or whether they're a thinker or feeler, they have a different stack in order of what those priorities are as how they approach the world.   [00:33:34] So watch those videos and that will help you. Also, you can use those videos to get clarity on your team member and why you may have had frustrations or difficulties or challenges once you're aware of your type and aware of their type, you'll be able to better assess how can I better relate to them or communicate with them, or why are they the best fit, personality fit for this role? And if you watch that video and you're like, "I do not want this person as my operator," they shouldn't be your operator. Or, "I want this person as my client success manager," they could be your client success manager, and so that will help you assess whether they are the right personality fit for the role that you have them in.   [00:34:11] So I recommend you assess yourself and assess all your team. And I hope this was a really helpful deep dive into Myers Briggs. And as with anything, figure out their personality type, reflect it back to them, ask them questions to see: "is this really you? This is what this kind of says about you," and see what feedback they give you. Because really when you wanna get to know a team member or a person it's really about getting to know _them_. So just use this as a lens and as a tool for feedback and throw those things out at them, those noodles at the wall, and see which ones stick. So that you get a clear picture and they mirror back to you or reflect back to you, "yes, that's true," or "no, that's not really accurate for me. I think I'm more this way," and this will give you a much clearer picture of their personality and whether or not they're a good fit for the role or position. So I hope this is helpful for everybody until next time, to our mutual growth. Bye everyone.   [00:35:03] You just listened to the #DoorGrowShow. We are building a community of the savviest property management entrepreneurs on the planet in the DoorGrowClub. Join your fellow DoorGrow Hackers at doorgrowclub.com. Listen, everyone is doing the same stuff. 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In this episode Joel and Antonia answer a listener's question about their ENFJ balance of sensing vs intuition.   https://personalityhacker.com   

Welcome back to the Front Seat 16, our new series from the Front Seat Life podcast! I am your host Jessica Butts, and today Sara Dean joins me for probably my favorite episode of the series to talk about ENFJ! Why's it my favorite? Because it's my type too, haha! Sara is a dear friend, a podcasting genius, and the creator and host of The Shameless Mom Podcast.Overall ENFJs are extroverted, intuitive, feeling and judging which means they give their best selves to other people. They are big picture thinkers. They think outside the box, they're always thinking about what's next. It makes them great entrepreneurs. They are feelers, meaning they make decisions with their hearts and they are Js, which means they're normally pretty obsessive, highly organized, like to be on time, they are planners, and futuristic.And they pretty much have the horse blinders on, like, “Get out of my way, don't distract me, this is where I'm going.” The ENFJs and the ENFPs are interesting because they're very similar, but their front seats are different.An ENFJ is out in the world, giving, sharing, connecting in life and in business, right? We normally have a lot of friends. We have a lot of activities going on. People might think we're very social and, and extroverted and outgoing, which is true. But not the other half of us, the other 50% of us is inside in our hearts.In our mind, being intuitive, walking in silence, thinking in silence, journaling, having a morning practice, getting away by ourselves, taking solo trips, a weekend retreats by ourself, all a whole bunch of alone. And that my friends is where ENFJs get their ideas.Listen in to this episode to learn all about ENFJs, I'm sure you know some! Sara and I share some great stories and examples of life interactions where our type resonate, and where it clashes. I hope you enjoy today's episode. You are going to love this wonderful conversation!Much love, JessicaFor more about Jessica, additional episodes, and to schedule a call, visit https://jessicabutts.com/Follow Jessica on Instagram: @frontseatlifeSara's website: https://shamlelessmom.com/Sara's Facebook Group: https://shamlelessmom.com/facebookFollow Sara on Instagram: @shamelessmomacademyFront Seat Life Podcasthttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/front-seat-life-podcast/Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/91-fs16-enfj-with-sara-dean

Welcome back to the Front Seat 16, our new series from the Front Seat Life podcast! I am your host Jessica Butts, and today Sara Dean joins me for probably my favorite episode of the series to talk about ENFJ! Why's it my favorite? Because it's my type too, haha! Sara is a dear friend, a podcasting genius, and the creator and host of The Shameless Mom Podcast.Overall ENFJs are extroverted, intuitive, feeling and judging which means they give their best selves to other people. They are big picture thinkers. They think outside the box, they're always thinking about what's next. It makes them great entrepreneurs. They are feelers, meaning they make decisions with their hearts and they are Js, which means they're normally pretty obsessive, highly organized, like to be on time, they are planners, and futuristic.And they pretty much have the horse blinders on, like, “Get out of my way, don't distract me, this is where I'm going.” The ENFJs and the ENFPs are interesting because they're very similar, but their front seats are different.An ENFJ is out in the world, giving, sharing, connecting in life and in business, right? We normally have a lot of friends. We have a lot of activities going on. People might think we're very social and, and extroverted and outgoing, which is true. But not the other half of us, the other 50% of us is inside in our hearts.In our mind, being intuitive, walking in silence, thinking in silence, journaling, having a morning practice, getting away by ourselves, taking solo trips, a weekend retreats by ourself, all a whole bunch of alone. And that my friends is where ENFJs get their ideas.Listen in to this episode to learn all about ENFJs, I'm sure you know some! Sara and I share some great stories and examples of life interactions where our type resonate, and where it clashes. I hope you enjoy today's episode. You are going to love this wonderful conversation!Much love, JessicaFor more about Jessica, additional episodes, and to schedule a call, visit https://jessicabutts.com/Follow Jessica on Instagram: @frontseatlifeSara's website: https://shamlelessmom.com/Sara's Facebook Group: https://shamlelessmom.com/facebookFollow Sara on Instagram: @shamelessmomacademyFront Seat Life Podcasthttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/front-seat-life-podcast/Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/91-fs16-enfj-with-sara-dean

Four years ago, my ENFJ friend Emrys and I did a Deep Dive Interview video sharing our experiences as ENFJs and teaching about how we view the type and its functions. In this video, we follow up with each other and discuss many ENFJ Misconceptions and stereotypes! #ENFJ #16Personalities #MyersBriggs Emrys' New Mindset: 0:00-0:27:12 Fe Misconceptions: 027:13-0:39:19 Watered Down INFJs: 0:39:20-0:56:25 ENFJs and Physical Touch: 0:56:26-1:01:46 ENFJs and Intimacy: 1:01:47-1:10:11 ENFJs and Words of Affirmation: 1:10:12-1:19:31 ENFJs and Flirting: 1:19:32-1:32:40 How to be a Better Friend to ENFJs: 1:32::41-1:40:18 Disagreeing with ENFJs: 1:40:19-1:55:25 Telling ENFJs They're Talkative: 1:55:26-2:08:43 The Greatest High for ENFJs: 2:08:44-2:17:13 Where to Find Emrys and Outro: 2:17:14-2:26:45 Also feel free to contact me and/or check out my other platforms! For Coaching: Details here (https://deezy2blessed.wordpress.com/2016/10/07/awakening-and-then-empowering-the-gifted%f0%9f%92%aa%f0%9f%8f%be%f0%9f%98%bc%f0%9f%93%b6%f0%9f%92%ab/) Email me! Deezy2Blessed@iCloud.Com Podcast: Anchor.fm/CandidConcepts Me and Heidi Priebe's Live Streams: Facebook.com/SPAsigmapq Blog Site: Deezy2Blessed.WordPress.Com Business Facebook: Denzel Mensah (https://www.facebook.com/DenzelMensah94/) Personal Facebook: Deezy Mensah (https://www.facebook.com/Deezy2Cold) Twitter: @Deezy2_Blessed (https://twitter.com/Deezy2_Blessed) Instagram: @Deezy2Blessed Snap Chat: Deezy2Blessed --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

In this video, I am interviewed by Mindfulness Instructor and ENFJ Ilse Van Dalen about recent thoughts I have been having swirl in my mind, and naturally, the conversation took off from there. If you are interested in seeing the full interview, check out her YouTube channel "Triptych Lights" or her Instagram @Instructor_Ilse. She has a lot of great mindfulness content on her page as well! #ENFJ #Mindfulness #Spirituality Full Video Link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9xZzj6qzCCo Also feel free to contact me and/or check out my other platforms! For Coaching: Details here (https://deezy2blessed.wordpress.com/2016/10/07/awakening-and-then-empowering-the-gifted%f0%9f%92%aa%f0%9f%8f%be%f0%9f%98%bc%f0%9f%93%b6%f0%9f%92%ab/) Email me! Deezy2Blessed@iCloud.Com Podcast: Anchor.fm/CandidConcepts Me and Heidi Priebe's Live Streams: Facebook.com/SPAsigmapq Blog Site: Deezy2Blessed.WordPress.Com Business Facebook: Denzel Mensah (https://www.facebook.com/DenzelMensah94/) Personal Facebook: Deezy Mensah (https://www.facebook.com/Deezy2Cold) Twitter: @Deezy2_Blessed (https://twitter.com/Deezy2_Blessed) Instagram: @Deezy2Blessed Snap Chat: Deezy2Blessed --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

In this podcast I bring up the topic of being "emotional" and my thoughts on this concept pertaining to the ENFJ personality type. #ENFJ #MyersBriggs #16Personalities Also feel free to contact me and/or check out my other platforms! For Coaching: Details here (https://deezy2blessed.wordpress.com/2016/10/07/awakening-and-then-empowering-the-gifted%f0%9f%92%aa%f0%9f%8f%be%f0%9f%98%bc%f0%9f%93%b6%f0%9f%92%ab/) Email me! Deezy2Blessed@iCloud.Com Podcast: Anchor.fm/CandidConcepts Me and Heidi Priebe's Live Streams: Facebook.com/SPAsigmapq Blog Site: Deezy2Blessed.WordPress.Com Business Facebook: Denzel Mensah (https://www.facebook.com/DenzelMensah94/) Personal Facebook: Deezy Mensah (https://www.facebook.com/Deezy2Cold) Twitter: @Deezy2_Blessed (https://twitter.com/Deezy2_Blessed) Instagram: @Deezy2Blessed Snap Chat: Deezy2Blessed --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

What happens when two ENFJs come together for a light chat? An illuminating conversation about a life lived in the margins, creating spaces for genuine bodily autonomy, and engaging in revolutionary acts within the confines of the current therapeutic system.  Rahim Thawer, MSW RSW, is a queer Muslim social worker, psychotherapist, consultant, clinical supervisor, sessional lecturer and writer living, working, and organizing in Canada. He's especially interested in supporting communities or agencies that serve LGBTQ folks and people affected by HIV, groups that often overlap with newcomers to Canada.  Rahim is a natural at welcoming others and appreciating the right everyone has to express their individuality. Much of Rahim's work, whether that's in session with clients or alone at his laptop, working on multiple books simultaneously, is dedicated to exploring and centering experiences currently deemed outside the norm.  His desire to lend language to support those experiences extends beyond LGBTQIA+ issues to the complexities surrounding suicidality as it relates to chronic or terminal illness, to people's needs, and how to center their decision-making power around their bodies and their fate. His insight reminds me that if we were all to tune into these frequencies for ourselves - specifically instances where we might have considered suicide - we would be able to hold so much more space for others.  GUEST BIO Rahim Thawer MSW, RSW is a queer Muslim social worker, psychotherapist, consultant, clinical supervisor, sessional lecturer and writer. He is interested in the intersection of mental health and systemic oppression as well as innovation in queer men's relationships. For full show notes, resources, and links to connect with our guest, visit: http://www.headhearttherapy.com/podcast HEY THERAPISTS... You're invited to Head/Heart Conversations, our webinar series designed for psychotherapists who want to invite their inner healer to the forefront of both work life and personal life. In this four-part series, we will invite participants to learn about themselves as well as enhance their clinical skills. Details & Registration: http://tinyurl.com/hhconvos Promo Code for $20 off: podcast Friday, September 17, 2021 - Body Language by Joanna Taubeneck, LCPC, R-DMT, GL-CMA, E-RYT Friday, November 19, 2021 - Queering our Conversations by Benji Marton, LCSW *** Conversations with a Wounded Healer is a proud member of @mhnrnetwork. Let's be friends! You can find me in the following places... Website: www.headhearttherapy.com/podcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/WoundedHealr/ https://www.facebook.com/HeadHeartTherapy/ Instagram: @headhearttherapy Twitter: @WoundedHealr @HeadHeart_Chi

Let's get to know our beautiful ball of human light, Carly! In this episode we do a deeper dive into Carly's love of all things book-related, learn some important do's and don'ts for keeping your business's books, and discover just how passionate Carly really is about taxes. We talk personality tests and our Hogwarts Houses, make a pact to actually charge rush fees, then finally get our very first listener question and discover that we, uh, don't have the best strategies for work-life balance. We're working on it. Email us: freelancerwatercooler@gmail.com Carly Crawford: carlydoesbooks.com Carly on Instagram: @carlyisbooked Ansley Fones: ansleyfones.com Ansley's WordPress Crash Course: ansleyfones.com/webinar Caroline Fourmy: carolinefourmy.com

After reading a tweet in a thread a friend of mine posted about ENFJs and self-promotion being related to a god complex, I have pondered why that might be and finally not only concluded my thoughts, but decided to put it in a video form here. Also feel free to contact me and/or check out my other platforms! For Coaching: https://psychology-junkie.lpages.co/coaching/ Me and Heidi Priebe's Live Streams: Facebook.com/SPAsigmapq Blog Site: Deezy2Blessed.WordPress.Com Business Facebook: Denzel Mensah (https://www.facebook.com/DenzelMensah94/) Personal Facebook: Deezy Mensah (https://www.facebook.com/Deezy2Cold) Twitter: @Deezy2_Blessed (https://twitter.com/Deezy2_Blessed) Instagram: @Deezy2Blessed Snap Chat: Deezy2Blessed --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

This podcast episode kicks off a new series dedicated to breaking down the 16 personality types that make up the Myers-Briggs Type Indicators (MBTI). This episode will briefly explain the origins of MBTI and how the archetypes can serve as a way to systematically bring order in what may seem like chaos when defining psychological types. The second half of the episode will focus on the ENFJ personality type, also known as the Protagonist. Learn how ENFJs handle romantic relationships as well as the strength and weaknesses they possess. ---------- Official Website - TheDatingDoc.com Say hi on Instagram - TheDatingDoc YouTube Channel - TheDatingDoc Direct contact for dating questions and collabs - admin@thedatingdoc.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thedatingdoc/support

In this episode, I am joined again with my INTJ sister-in-law. However, this time we are also joined with Katrina and Austin who so happen to be both ENFJs. We talk through different scenarios and how each of us would react in that moment. You can tell from the first scenario how both personalities can be complete opposites. Let us know on social media how you felt about the episode and if you relate. https://www.16personalities.com/ Katrina's YT Channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/katrinalim28Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thetalkativeintrovertpodcast/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thetalkativeintrovert YouTube: https://bit.ly/3ebhDaVWebsite: https://thetalkativeintrovertpodcast.com/Email: thetalkativeintrovertpodcast@gmail.comTheme song: The Talkative Introvert Intro by Eugene (Mikie) Manalo https://soundcloud.com/mikieika

After three years of observing myself through the lens of MBTI and Jungian Typology Theory as well as reading books, watching certain shows and movies, observing other ENFJs in my life, and much more, I decided to collect and voice some thoughts and misconceptions about ENFJs that I noticed were swirling around the MBTI community. This is a Deep Dive Video of all my insights. I hope you guys enjoy and it starts a discussion that stops misconceptions from spreading. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

7 ENFJs talk about their experiences. Starts 6 minutes in!

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Does A Full Moon Affect Your Body? This episode mystically explores Taylor Swift’s music and ranking 1989, Devin’s personality type (ENFJ), and how a full moon affects Devin’s mind and body! This episode is all about Devin’s experiences. Instagram: drop.in.with.dev YouTube: Drop.In.With.Dev --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/devin-s/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/devin-s/support

Another podcast on the differences and similarities with just one letter. The two personalities hat most add voice to the under-represented in the world.

This episode is all about the ENFJ personality type. ENFJs are extroverted, intuitive, feelers, and judgers. Synchronic Saturdays is a podcast hosted by ENFJ Meghan and an ENFP Crystal. In this podcast, we discuss the 16 type patterns and the intricacies of their cognitive processes. We use Carl Jung's theory of psychological types as a tool to observe individuals and society at large. With this tool, we can better understand human nature and resolve conflict more effectively. We seek to create a world in which knowledge of functions can eliminate misunderstandings and spur humans to live with integrity. music by JeJune: https://soundcloud.com/jessica-heim-brouwer

HOW DARE THEY do this to me?! When someone didn't treat you the way you deserve, how do you pick yourself up, move on from the resentment, and keep going forward as your best self?  Whether you're wondering how to get over a breakup or how to move on from a bad job where you gave it your all and life slapped you in the face, this question that one of the members in my Dreamers community sent over might fully resonate. This split-up and breakup advice is especially helpful for idealists - ENFPs, INFPs, INFJs, and ENFJs, who have the best intentions giving their all in their relationships and might end up bitter and heartbroken when not reciprocated. Full question: "How do I get rid of old resentment from my previous job? I was overworked, underpaid, and underrecognized for my efforts for 3 and a half years. I left because there was no way around this. But instead of getting on with my life, I keep thinking about this a**holes and getting really angry at the way I was treated. This, of course, is filtering into my new job because I'm afraid to give my everything under the assumption that these people will do the same to me. I feel like this is holding me back and now I'm struggling to get things done." Don’t miss future episodes of this podcast, subscribe here: Apple Podcasts | Google Play Music | Stitcher | TuneIn | RSS/XML If you want to follow my travels or catch some shorter videos and updates I share, you can find me on Facebook (DreamsAroundTheWorldHQ) | and as TheDanJohnston on Instagram and Twitter | I publish new videos weekly on YouTube as well.  If you enjoy the podcast and would like to submit your own question for a future episode, you can do so here: www.DreamsAroundTheWorld.com/ask-dan/ And if you haven't already, be sure to check out my free training on turning your personality type into an incredible life, The Life Design Approach. Get it here: www.DreamsAroundTheWorld.com/freetraining/

In this episode, Naomi had the pleasure of interviewing Ella Tsang! Ella is an ENFJ in the Myers-Briggs Personality Type System. She also is the creator of P.S. I’m Ella! She used to work for L’Oréal Canada managing the digital marketing for Maybeline and Essie, and now she is a spiritual life and business coach living in Montreal, Canada. Ella is also a Master NLP, life, and success coach who has a personal mission to empower badass ambitious lightworkers to connect to soul, expand their consciousness, and to manifest their most lit up life and business. In this conversation, we talk about her coaching business and the modalities that she uses within her practice, such as Neurolinguistic programming, Kundalini Yoga, and Energetic Alchemy. We talk about ENFJs and how they make an impact in the world. Ella also shares her personal story with overcoming anxiety, leaving her corporate job, and creating her most lit up life and business as a lightworker. For more information, tune in to the episode! You can find out more about Ella and her coaching services online at psimella.com, on Instagram @psimella, on YouTube at P.s. I’m Ella, in her Facebook group The Badass Lightworker Tribe, and on her podcast The Badass Lightworker Podcast.

Typing Service Application + Pricing Information: https://forms.gle/83Hb3qNc3w4XwEnm71:1 Mentorship Application: https://forms.gle/p7bJ5msPb9WutPgW8 Ask me a consulting question: https://forms.gle/vves8StdP6z8rHh69————————My name is Meghan LeVota and I am an ENFJ, 2w3 sx/so, EIE-Ni, Leo sun, Aries moon, Cancer rising. I have been studying Jungian personality typology for more than 7 years.Your personality is your mind's filter, which reveals how you are cognitively wired. The majority of the world's miscommunications stem from personality differences. When we become aware of our natural cognitive functions, it becomes easier to communicate and collaborate with others. Understanding personality theory is a great tool for healing both personal and interpersonal suffering.You are unique and special. Yet, we all suffer from predictable problems. I believe that world peace starts within. I want to help you maximize your strengths and become even more the YOU that the world needs. Self-awareness brings self-understanding which leads to self-transformation, which will lead to a collective revolution. For business inquiries hello@meghanlevota.com————————Support me on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/meghanlevotaJOIN MY FREE FACEBOOK GROUP. Personality Typology for Personal Growth: https://www.facebook.com/groups/163957064358595/Join the Discord server - Transcendence is a community that focuses on MBTI, Enneagram, Socionics & other personality theory to incite personal growth and a better understanding of others: https://discord.gg/xR6wpX2Join my Astrology + Personality Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/258221994819597/————————Synchronic Saturdays is a podcast hosted by an ENFJ and an ENFP that explores Jungian theory, cognitive functions, personality typology, and interpersonal dynamics.Listen on iTunes: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/synch%E2%80%A6d1101615206?mt=2Listen on SoundCloud: https://soundcloud.com/meghan-levota/sets/synchronic-saturdaysListen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/1MOLIXpm4lK2NwstwTFPp5?si=KYmnU9plRZ-FiSFQPH-Itw————————Follow me on Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/LeVotaMeghan Twitter and Insta: @MeghanLeVota

The mindset shift you will experience after listening to this episode is especially powerful for us idealists (ENFPs, INFPs, INFJs, ENFJs) because we're usually future-focused people, yet we tend to miss this important thing... For me personally, this has been a very important insight into how our brain works. It helped me overcome fear and anxiety and changed my mindset very positively in a matter of a single day! Don’t miss future episodes of this podcast, subscribe here: iTunes | Google Play Music | Stitcher | TuneIn | RSS/XML If you want to follow my travels or catch some shorter videos and updates I share, you can find me on Facebook (DreamsAroundTheWorldHQ) | and as TheDanJohnston on Instagram and Twitter | I publish new videos weekly on YouTube as well.  Are you, or someone you know, suffering from ENFP?  If so, you should seek immediate non-medical attention. Introducing: ENFP Unleashed. Click here for more details. And if you haven't already, be sure to check out my free training on turning your personality type into an incredible life, The Life Design Approach. Get it here: www.DreamsAroundTheWorld.com/freetraining/ If you enjoy the podcast and would like to submit your own question for a future episode, you can do so here: www.DreamsAroundTheWorld.com/ask-dan/  

Jim's question I'm responding to today: What are some important things that an ambitious young person should consider when entering the real world? Are there things that less experienced people might brush over or miss? Want to join me and a few other ambitious idealists in Canada this year? You can learn more about the event here: https://www.dreamsaroundtheworld.com/dreambusinessvancouver/ Don’t miss future episodes of this podcast, subscribe here: iTunes | Google Play Music | Stitcher | TuneIn | RSS/XML If you want to follow my travels or catch some shorter videos and updates I share, you can find me on Facebook (DreamsAroundTheWorldHQ) | and as TheDanJohnston on Instagram and Twitter | I publish new videos weekly on YouTube as well.  Are you, or someone you know, suffering from ENFP?  If so, you should seek immediate non-medical attention. Introducing: ENFP Unleashed. Click here for more details. And if you haven't already, be sure to check out my free training on turning your personality type into an incredible life, The Life Design Approach. Get it here: www.DreamsAroundTheWorld.com/freetraining/ If you enjoy the podcast and would like to submit your own question for a future episode, you can do so here: www.DreamsAroundTheWorld.com/ask-dan/

Even more episodes specifically for ENFJs coming up this year so be sure to subscribe to the podcast or follow me on YouTube. Thanks again for listening and your support. If you have any questions about the ENFJ personality, about jobs, careers, or what major to choose, you can send me your question here: www.DreamsAroundTheWorld.com/ask-dan/ Don’t miss future episodes of this podcast, subscribe here: iTunes | Google Play Music | Stitcher | TuneIn | RSS/XML If you want to follow my travels or catch some shorter videos and updates I share, you can find me on Facebook (DreamsAroundTheWorldHQ) | and as TheDanJohnston on Instagram and Twitter | I publish new videos weekly on YouTube as well.  Are you, or someone you know, suffering from ENFP?  If so, you should seek immediate non-medical attention. Introducing: ENFP Unleashed. Click here for more details. And if you haven't already, be sure to check out my free training on turning your personality type into an incredible life, The Life Design Approach. Get it here: www.DreamsAroundTheWorld.com/freetraining/

In this episode, Crystal and Meghan compare and contrast how Fe looks differently when expressed as a valued function or an unvalued function. For example, how do ENFPs use Fe in the demonstrative, 6th position vs how do ENFJs use Fe as a valued function? Synchronic Saturdays is a podcast hosted by an ENFJ and an ENFP that explores Jungian theory, cognitive functions, personality typology, and interpersonal dynamics. In our opinion, cognitive functions are inherently spiritual, and an integral part of the human experience. Listen on iTunes: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/synchronic-saturdays-meghan-crystal/id1101615206

The theme of this episode is ENFJ strengths. I discuss ENFJ relationships and friendships (and their love to party), a sense of design and knowledge, and the ENFJ determination to reach their goals. It's quite common for ENFPs to test as an ENFJ, or for ENFJs to test as an ENFP so this episode may also provide a little more insight if you're wondering if you're an ENFP or ENFJ...although I will create a detailed episode on this in the future. Don’t miss future episodes of this podcast, subscribe here: iTunes | Google Play Music | Stitcher | TuneIn | RSS/XML If you want to follow my travels or catch some shorter videos and updates I share, you can find me on Facebook (DreamsAroundTheWorldHQ) | and as TheDanJohnston on Instagram and Twitter | I publish new videos weekly on YouTube as well.  Are you, or someone you know, suffering from ENFP?  If so, you should seek immediate non-medical attention. Introducing: ENFP Unleashed. Click here for more details. If you enjoy the podcast and would like to submit your own question for a future episode, you can do so here: www.DreamsAroundTheWorld.com/ask-dan/ And if you haven't already, be sure to check out my free training on turning your personality type into an incredible life, The Life Design Approach. Get it here: www.DreamsAroundTheWorld.com/freetraining/  

Follow my social media, join the Discord community, or join the MeetUp: csjoseph.life/social Support the channel to get exclusive videos and livestreams: patreon.com/csjoseph Video transcripts are available here: csjoseph.life/blog Need help achieving self-actualization? Schedule a coaching session: csjoseph.life/coaching --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/csjoseph/support

Let's explore some empowering beliefs ENFPs and other Idealist types can adopt to increase the chances of reaching your goals and creating the life you want. We're living in a time where a lot of people hate on "the 1%" and a lot of people like Jordan Peterson and Sam Harris calling our attention to inaccurate beliefs or even just the idea of how we define truth. I hate evil bankers as much as the next ENFP but what effect does a belief like "you get rich by stealing and cheating" have on your own life...and your own chance of succeeding as a freelancer or entrepreneur? As I said above, this episode is for all the Idealist types including INFPs, INFJs, and ENFJs in addition to my ENFP people. :) Don’t miss future episodes of this podcast, subscribe here: iTunes | Google Play Music | Stitcher | TuneIn | RSS/XML If you want to follow my travels or catch some shorter videos and updates I share, you can find me on Facebook (DreamsAroundTheWorldHQ) | and as TheDanJohnston on Instagram and Twitter | I publish new videos weekly on YouTube as well.  Are you, or someone you know, suffering from ENFP?  If so, you should seek immediate non-medical attention. Introducing: ENFP Unleashed. Click here for more details. If you enjoy the podcast and would like to submit your own question for a future episode, you can do so here: www.DreamsAroundTheWorld.com/ask-dan/ And if you haven't already, be sure to check out my free training on turning your personality type into an incredible life, The Life Design Approach. Get it here: www.DreamsAroundTheWorld.com/freetraining/

So you're an idealist and you want to accomplish something big...no surprise there! In this episode I'll reveal the best approach I've ever found to getting what you want...no matter how big you dream!  Whether you're an ENFP like me, or another one of the idealist types (INFP, INFJ, or ENFJ), there is a better way to get what you want! This approach to setting goals and making plans sets you up to succeed and turn your dreams into reality. This episode is focused on one piece of advice for ENFPs, INFPs, ENFJs and INFJs. Use this tip and you'll start to feel unstoppable when it comes to setting goals and going for what you want! Don’t miss future episodes of this podcast, subscribe here: iTunes | Google Play Music | Stitcher | TuneIn | RSS/XML If you want to follow my travels or catch some shorter videos and updates I share, you can find me on Facebook (DreamsAroundTheWorldHQ) | and as TheDanJohnston on Instagram and Twitter | I publish new videos weekly on YouTube as well.  Are you, or someone you know, suffering from ENFP?  If so, you should seek immediate non-medical attention. Introducing: ENFP Unleashed. Click here for more details. If you enjoy the podcast and would like to submit your own question for a future episode, you can do so here: www.DreamsAroundTheWorld.com/ask-dan/ And if you haven't already, be sure to check out my free training on turning your personality type into an incredible life, The Life Design Approach. Get it here: www.DreamsAroundTheWorld.com/freetraining/

Follow my social media, join the Discord community, or join the MeetUp: csjoseph.life/social Support the channel to get exclusive videos and livestreams: patreon.com/csjoseph Video transcripts are available here: csjoseph.life/blog Need help achieving self-actualization? Schedule a coaching session: csjoseph.life/coaching --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/csjoseph/support

This month, I'm talking about using critical information about yourself in your career choice. Last week, I talked about Motivated Skills; this week I want to talk about your personality. I am a Master Practitioner of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI), the world's most widely used personality assessment. It is a psychological tool designed to reveal your personality preferences…the ones you were born with. Here's the analogy I always use with my clients: I have them write their name. Whether they use their right hand as most people do or their left hand (like me), we identify that the hand they wrote their name with is their preferred hand. No one forced them use that hand; one day, they picked up a crayon and started drawing with that hand. That hand is their innate preference. Next, I have them write their name with their non-preferred hand. We talk about the fact that it was a much more conscious task with that hand…and that the results weren't nearly as good. The next step is to have them imagine their preferred arm is broken and it's in a cast for six months. During that time, they are forced to write exclusively with their non-preferred hand. They will no doubt get better at using that hand during those six months, right? I then have them imagine that a co-worker exclaims, “Oh my gosh…your arm is broken! Is that the arm you write with?” Of course, their answer is “Yes!” Even though they are using their non-preferred hand exclusively, it doesn't change the fact that that isn't their preferred hand. And, as soon as that cast comes off, they are back to their preferred hand. What's this have to do with personality type? The MBTI measures personality preferences on four scales and identifies one of 16 personality types based on your responses. The MBTI is identifying your innate preferences…the way you prefer to handle a situation or task if given the option. But here's the thing: All of us must access our non-preferred side of our personality. On a daily basis. The Introvert who has to go to a two-day team building event with coworkers and finds it incredibly draining. The Perceiver whose boss expects her to stick to a tight schedule. The Thinker whose coworker comes to him very emotional, with a personal problem. The Intuitive whose project assignment requires her to complete her tasks in a very sequential manner. Let's translate this into your career choice. As I said last week, career choice, and the role of your personality in that choice, is a macro- and micro-level decision. On a macro level, you are choosing a career field that meshes with your personality. On a micro level, you are evaluating job opportunities based on those same criteria. Because sometimes what holds true for the career as a whole doesn't hold true for a specific position. Here's an example: I once worked with a YMCA Assistant Director who was underperforming at work. Turned out (much to everyone's surprise) that he was an Extravert. You would think a job at the YMCA – specifically organizing the recreational sporting events for children – would be a great fit for an Extravert. And you would be right. HOWEVER, at this YMCA the Assistant Director's office was at the end of a dark hallway – isolated from the patrons coming in and out, and from the other employees. He hated that aspect of his job. So what are the preference pairs measured by the MBTI?   EXTRAVERSION – INTROVERSION This pair has to do with where you get your energy. Extraverts get their energy from the people and activities going on around them; Introverts get their energy from being by themselves. Extraverts are generally comfortable meeting, and speaking with, strangers; Introverts would rather not approach strangers and find it difficult to start a conversation with someone they don't know. Extraverts tend to be “open books,” meaning they freely share what they are thinking with those around them. Introverts are much more closed about what they share until they know someone well and feel they can trust them. SENSING – INTUITION This pair has to do with how you prefer to take in information. Sensers take in information by way of the 5 senses – sight, taste, touch, hearing, and smell. Intuitives take in information by way of their 6th sense – their intuition. Sensers prefer to deal with concrete information that has practical value; Intuitives prefer to deal with abstract ideas and concepts that involve creativity and imagination. Sensers tend to trust what has worked in the past and aren't likely to want to make changes to something if it's working okay. Intuitives want new and different and will make changes to things even if they are working okay as is. THINKING – FEELING The Thinking-Feeling pair address your preference for making decisions. Thinkers make decisions using cool, impersonal logic – they make their decisions with their head. Feelers make decisions using sympathy and values – they make their decisions with their heart. Thinkers tend to stick to established rules and regulations – treating everyone fairly by treating everyone the same. Feelers tend to consider the circumstances – treating everyone fairly by treating everyone differently. Thinkers will be brutally honest in evaluating work performance and can come across as harsh because they are telling you the unvarnished truth. Feelers will consider your feelings in giving you feedback; while the interaction may be more pleasant, you may not be given the information you need to improve. JUDGING – PERCEIVING Judging-Perceiving addresses how you organize your life. Judgers love planners, calendars, and systems that create a superstructure of organization in their lives. Perceivers want freedom to do what they feel like doing at any given time. Judgers avoid the pressure of last-minute work, whereas Perceivers do their best work at the last minute. Judgers want structure to their work and prefer jobs with schedules they can control. Perceivers like jobs that are unstructured, and they are at their best when responding to emergencies or changes in plan. Why Does This Matter? A lot of research has gone into career fields most frequently chosen by different personality types. I want to lay out just a couple of examples for you: ENFJ (Extraverted-Intuitive-Feeling-Judging) When you combine the four letters of your preference, you get a four-letter code that says volumes about your preferences. Here's a brief description of an ENFJ: Imaginative HARMONIZERS; at their best when winning people's cooperation with insight into their needs. They value: -Having a wide circle of relationships -Having a positive, enthusiastic view of life -Seeing subtleties in people and interactions -Understanding others' needs and concerns -An active, energizing social life -Seeing possibilities in people -Follow-through on important projects -Working on several projects at once -Caring and imaginative problem solving -Maintaining relationships to make things work -Shaping organizations to better serve members -Caring, compassion, and tactfulness What careers do you think ENFJs most frequently go into? Fields that involve helping others achieve their goals – looking toward the future to become what they want to become. Using their creativity is essential to ENFJ's job satisfaction. Public Relations Manager Social Worker Career Counselor Editor High School Teacher Human Resources Manager Advertising Manager Marriage & Family Therapist ISTP (Introverted-Sensing-Thinking-Perceiving) Here's a brief description of ISTP: Practical ANALYZERS; at their best when analyzing experience to find logic and underlying properties. They value: -A reserved outer life -Having a concrete, present-day view of life -Clear, exact facts -Looking for efficient, least-effort solutions -Knowing how mechanical things work -Pursuing interests in depth -Freedom from organizational constraints -Independence and self-management -Spontaneous hands-on learning -Having useful technical expertise -Critical analysis as a means to improve things -Solving problems with detached, sequential analysis What fields do ISTPs pursue? Those that allow for freedom…of schedule, or daily work…or setting in which the work is done. Variety is very important to ISTPs. They also like work that is hands-on and practical. Building Inspector Forester Chef Athletic Trainer Financial Manager Software Developer Mechanical Engineer Police Officer Using personality information in your career choice allows you to align your preferences with your work. Think of my analogy: if you don't do this, it will be like writing all day, every day, with your non-preferred hand. It will be tiring, less fulfilling…and you won't excel to the degree you could. A note about taking the MBTI: There are lots of on-line “knock offs” of the assessment. If you want to take the actual MBTI, I recommend doing so with a qualified professional who will interpret your results with you. Otherwise, you are left with information you won't know what to make of. The MBTI is a psychological assessment, and as such, and only be administered and interpreted by a qualified professional or Master Practitioner such as me.     To visit my website: www.exclusivecareercoaching.com Follow My YouTube channel (Lesa Edwards); it's chocked full of value career management content is easily digestible bites. Want to speak with an expert about your career/job search goals? Need help figuring out what's holding you back from achieving your dream career? Let's talk. Here's the link to schedule a 30-minute consult call with me:  www.timetrade.com/book/D6KLN. Hope to see you soon!    

This month, I'm talking about using critical information about yourself in your career choice. Last week, I talked about Motivated Skills; this week I want to talk about your personality. I am a Master Practitioner of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI), the world's most widely used personality assessment. It is a psychological tool designed to reveal your personality preferences…the ones you were born with. Here's the analogy I always use with my clients: I have them write their name. Whether they use their right hand as most people do or their left hand (like me), we identify that the hand they wrote their name with is their preferred hand. No one forced them use that hand; one day, they picked up a crayon and started drawing with that hand. That hand is their innate preference. Next, I have them write their name with their non-preferred hand. We talk about the fact that it was a much more conscious task with that hand…and that the results weren't nearly as good. The next step is to have them imagine their preferred arm is broken and it's in a cast for six months. During that time, they are forced to write exclusively with their non-preferred hand. They will no doubt get better at using that hand during those six months, right? I then have them imagine that a co-worker exclaims, “Oh my gosh…your arm is broken! Is that the arm you write with?” Of course, their answer is “Yes!” Even though they are using their non-preferred hand exclusively, it doesn't change the fact that that isn't their preferred hand. And, as soon as that cast comes off, they are back to their preferred hand. What's this have to do with personality type? The MBTI measures personality preferences on four scales and identifies one of 16 personality types based on your responses. The MBTI is identifying your innate preferences…the way you prefer to handle a situation or task if given the option. But here's the thing: All of us must access our non-preferred side of our personality. On a daily basis. The Introvert who has to go to a two-day team building event with coworkers and finds it incredibly draining. The Perceiver whose boss expects her to stick to a tight schedule. The Thinker whose coworker comes to him very emotional, with a personal problem. The Intuitive whose project assignment requires her to complete her tasks in a very sequential manner. Let's translate this into your career choice. As I said last week, career choice, and the role of your personality in that choice, is a macro- and micro-level decision. On a macro level, you are choosing a career field that meshes with your personality. On a micro level, you are evaluating job opportunities based on those same criteria. Because sometimes what holds true for the career as a whole doesn't hold true for a specific position. Here's an example: I once worked with a YMCA Assistant Director who was underperforming at work. Turned out (much to everyone's surprise) that he was an Extravert. You would think a job at the YMCA – specifically organizing the recreational sporting events for children – would be a great fit for an Extravert. And you would be right. HOWEVER, at this YMCA the Assistant Director's office was at the end of a dark hallway – isolated from the patrons coming in and out, and from the other employees. He hated that aspect of his job. So what are the preference pairs measured by the MBTI?   EXTRAVERSION – INTROVERSION This pair has to do with where you get your energy. Extraverts get their energy from the people and activities going on around them; Introverts get their energy from being by themselves. Extraverts are generally comfortable meeting, and speaking with, strangers; Introverts would rather not approach strangers and find it difficult to start a conversation with someone they don't know. Extraverts tend to be “open books,” meaning they freely share what they are thinking with those around them. Introverts are much more closed about what they share until they know someone well and feel they can trust them. SENSING – INTUITION This pair has to do with how you prefer to take in information. Sensers take in information by way of the 5 senses – sight, taste, touch, hearing, and smell. Intuitives take in information by way of their 6th sense – their intuition. Sensers prefer to deal with concrete information that has practical value; Intuitives prefer to deal with abstract ideas and concepts that involve creativity and imagination. Sensers tend to trust what has worked in the past and aren't likely to want to make changes to something if it's working okay. Intuitives want new and different and will make changes to things even if they are working okay as is. THINKING – FEELING The Thinking-Feeling pair address your preference for making decisions. Thinkers make decisions using cool, impersonal logic – they make their decisions with their head. Feelers make decisions using sympathy and values – they make their decisions with their heart. Thinkers tend to stick to established rules and regulations – treating everyone fairly by treating everyone the same. Feelers tend to consider the circumstances – treating everyone fairly by treating everyone differently. Thinkers will be brutally honest in evaluating work performance and can come across as harsh because they are telling you the unvarnished truth. Feelers will consider your feelings in giving you feedback; while the interaction may be more pleasant, you may not be given the information you need to improve. JUDGING – PERCEIVING Judging-Perceiving addresses how you organize your life. Judgers love planners, calendars, and systems that create a superstructure of organization in their lives. Perceivers want freedom to do what they feel like doing at any given time. Judgers avoid the pressure of last-minute work, whereas Perceivers do their best work at the last minute. Judgers want structure to their work and prefer jobs with schedules they can control. Perceivers like jobs that are unstructured, and they are at their best when responding to emergencies or changes in plan. Why Does This Matter? A lot of research has gone into career fields most frequently chosen by different personality types. I want to lay out just a couple of examples for you: ENFJ (Extraverted-Intuitive-Feeling-Judging) When you combine the four letters of your preference, you get a four-letter code that says volumes about your preferences. Here's a brief description of an ENFJ: Imaginative HARMONIZERS; at their best when winning people's cooperation with insight into their needs. They value: -Having a wide circle of relationships -Having a positive, enthusiastic view of life -Seeing subtleties in people and interactions -Understanding others' needs and concerns -An active, energizing social life -Seeing possibilities in people -Follow-through on important projects -Working on several projects at once -Caring and imaginative problem solving -Maintaining relationships to make things work -Shaping organizations to better serve members -Caring, compassion, and tactfulness What careers do you think ENFJs most frequently go into? Fields that involve helping others achieve their goals – looking toward the future to become what they want to become. Using their creativity is essential to ENFJ's job satisfaction. Public Relations Manager Social Worker Career Counselor Editor High School Teacher Human Resources Manager Advertising Manager Marriage & Family Therapist ISTP (Introverted-Sensing-Thinking-Perceiving) Here's a brief description of ISTP: Practical ANALYZERS; at their best when analyzing experience to find logic and underlying properties. They value: -A reserved outer life -Having a concrete, present-day view of life -Clear, exact facts -Looking for efficient, least-effort solutions -Knowing how mechanical things work -Pursuing interests in depth -Freedom from organizational constraints -Independence and self-management -Spontaneous hands-on learning -Having useful technical expertise -Critical analysis as a means to improve things -Solving problems with detached, sequential analysis What fields do ISTPs pursue? Those that allow for freedom…of schedule, or daily work…or setting in which the work is done. Variety is very important to ISTPs. They also like work that is hands-on and practical. Building Inspector Forester Chef Athletic Trainer Financial Manager Software Developer Mechanical Engineer Police Officer Using personality information in your career choice allows you to align your preferences with your work. Think of my analogy: if you don't do this, it will be like writing all day, every day, with your non-preferred hand. It will be tiring, less fulfilling…and you won't excel to the degree you could. A note about taking the MBTI: There are lots of on-line “knock offs” of the assessment. If you want to take the actual MBTI, I recommend doing so with a qualified professional who will interpret your results with you. Otherwise, you are left with information you won't know what to make of. The MBTI is a psychological assessment, and as such, and only be administered and interpreted by a qualified professional or Master Practitioner such as me.     To visit my website: www.exclusivecareercoaching.com Follow My YouTube channel (Lesa Edwards); it's chocked full of value career management content is easily digestible bites. Want to speak with an expert about your career/job search goals? Need help figuring out what's holding you back from achieving your dream career? Let's talk. Here's the link to schedule a 30-minute consult call with me:  www.timetrade.com/book/D6KLN. Hope to see you soon!    

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If you’re an idealist - ENFP, INFP, INFJ, ENFJ personality type – and you work for yourself, some clients are better for you than others.  Whether you're a freelancer or entrepreneur working for yourself, if you are an ENFP, INFP, INFJ, ENFJ idealist personality, your clients need to be a certain way so that you can feel motivated, get things done and constantly deliver good work. In this episode, I'm sharing some career advice about what ENFPs, INFPs, INFJs or ENFJs should be looking for in a client in order for both sides to be happy with work. Don’t miss future episodes of this podcast, subscribe here: iTunes | Google Play Music | Stitcher | TuneIn | RSS/XML I'm hosting an intimate event for 12 people in Prague this Summer, August 18th - 22nd. We will focus on self expression, turning your personality and creativity into more income, and seriously leveling up the amount of freedom and independence in your life. If you want to find out more, send me an email to: dan@dreamsaroundtheworld.com If you want to follow my travels or catch some shorter videos and updates I share, you can find me on Facebook (DreamsAroundTheWorldHQ) | and as TheDanJohnston on Instagram and Twitter | I publish new videos weekly on YouTube as well.  Are you, or someone you know, suffering from ENFP?  If so, you should seek immediate non-medical attention. Introducing: ENFP Unleashed. Click here for more details. If you enjoy the podcast and would like to submit your own question for a future episode, you can do so here: www.DreamsAroundTheWorld.com/ask-dan/ And if you haven't already, be sure to check out my free training on turning your personality type into an incredible life, The Life Design Approach. Get it here: www.DreamsAroundTheWorld.com/freetraining/

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Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it. ~~ Bruce Lee Click Below to Listen to Today's Show Insert Podcast Link Here   Don't go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it. Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself. . . . Who Do You Think You Are? Who are you? What is it to be yourself? About three years ago, I started wondering who I was, or more specifically I was looking for what my calling was. I wasn't happy with my current career choice. I had worked in the field for many years but wasn't feeling it any more. I had actually changed careers from that career about 5 years earlier, but went back into it after the mortgage crash. I had left IT and Enterprise Content Management and went into a sales role as a Loan Officer. I loved it, but the mortgage crash dashed that career.   At the end of that run, I also purchased a Coffee News franchise. I became a publisher of "Good News" and sold advertising to local businesses. I loved it, too.     While doing these two careers I started attending Business Networking International (BNI) and learned how to network.   I joined and worked in the local Chambers of Commerce. I loved it. I loved to network with the local business and community leaders. I loved helping businesses grow and build their business and networks. Unfortunately, the economy that was driven by the real estate and building market in the local areas I worked went down considerably and that business failed as well. I was unable to pay the bills, unable to afford insurance, etc. I found a part-time job working at a local grocery store bakery for a couple years and work my way to a Bakery Manager position. I always strive to be my best and excel. I couldn't just be a bakery clerk. But, this wasn't what I wanted to do forever. I started looking for something with my prior experience and skills that could bring in a good salary. I was offered a position in the field I had left before in Enterprise Content Management in Lending and moved to California. After a couple years I realized I wasn't happy doing this. It paid well. I was well respected among my peers, but I just didn't enjoy it anymore. I wasn't feeling like I was making an impact. I wasn't feeling satisfied or significant. I heard about and then read Jeff Goins' book, The Art Of Work. Jeff said to think about what you were doing when you were the happiest in your life. What were you doing when you loved going to work or what did you do when you weren't at work that made you the happiest? Pick up Jeff's book here: On GoalGettingBook.com / Audible or [amazon template=image&chan=goalgettingpodcast&asin=0718022076] I sat down one day when I went for an early morning walk in the East Bay hills near my house, which I loved to do. I started thinking about when i was happiest. I realized it was when i was when I was doing these things: meeting new people marketing business networking working with and building communities online and offline speaking at events training people motivating others to reach and achieve their goals social media writing I joined a new Toastmasters club our company started so I could improve my public speaking and start meeting new people in the company. I started taking marketing and social media classes at UC Berkeley Extension. I decided I wanted to start working towards a career in marketing, social media, public speaking. I realized that the type of career that would work well for what I wanted to do, what I wanted to be, what would make me happy and satisfied was something in the line of Community Management. I started researching and learning. This was who I was. This is what would make me happy. Really?  How did I know? This has been a long discourse to get to the point of this podcast episode, which is to talk about "Who Do You Think You Are?"  If, as Bruce Lee says, you should "be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself" then shouldn't you know who you really are? How the heck do you do that? I started by doing what Jeff Goins suggested. I did find my dream job as a Community Manager. One of the great benefits of our company is that they value their employees. One of the benefits is they often allow us to take personality tests. Yes, there are personality tests. I've taken a few over the years, but I never really took the results and looked at what they meant. They are developed to give you an idea of the strengths and weaknesses you have based on your personality. YOUR PERSONALITY, not someone else's. As Bruce said, "don't look for a successful personality and duplicate......" There are several of these types of tests: Gallup StrengthsFinder Myers-Briggs DISC 16 Personalities and more. . . . We have been given the opportunity to take a couple of these this year and I have been amazingly surprised how accurate they are. I took the Gallup StrengthsFinder and the 16 Personalities tests. Gallup StrengthsFinder The StrengthsFinder Test cost a few dollars to take, but it is well worth it. There are 34 Themes in this test. We signed up for the Top 5 Themes test that shows your 5 themes that define the majority of your personality. My top 5 are: Strategic Activator Self-Assurance Significance Futuristic These are my most dominant themes of the 34 the test shows. These are very important. The program also puts together an Action Plan for you to maximize these strengths. To help show what this means, here are the top 2 of 5: Strategic The Strategic theme enables you to sort through the clutter and find the best route. It is not a skill that can be taught. It is a distinct way of thinking, a special perspective on the world at large. This perspective allows you to see patterns where others simply see complexity. Mindful of these patterns, you play out alternative scenarios, always asking, “What if this happened? Okay, well what if this happened?” This recurring question helps you see around the next corner. There you can evaluate accurately the potential obstacles. Guided by where you see each path leading, you start to make selections. You discard the paths that lead nowhere. You discard the paths that lead straight into resistance. You discard the paths that lead into a fog of confusion. You cull and make selections until you arrive at the chosen path—your strategy. Armed with your strategy, you strike forward. This is your Strategic theme at work: “What if?” Select. Strike. Activator “When can we start?” This is a recurring question in your life. You are impatient for action. You may concede that analysis has its uses or that debate and discussion can occasionally yield some valuable insights, but deep down you know that only action is real. Only action can make things happen. Only action leads to performance. Once a decision is made, you cannot not act. Others may worry that “there are still some things we don’t know,” but this doesn’t seem to slow you. If the decision has been made to go across town, you know that the fastest way to get there is to go . . 16 Personalties When I took the 16 Personalities test, which is FREE, I find I am an ENFJ - The Protagonist. You can learn what each personality is and the characteristics of each. Like the StrengthsFinders test, I found the 16 Personalities test to be pretty accurate. Here are a couple of points from this test that I feel describe me: ENFJs are genuine, caring people who talk the talk and walk the walk, and nothing makes them happier than leading the charge, uniting and motivating their team with infectious enthusiasm. Charismatic – Charm and popularity are qualities ENFJs have in spades. They instinctively know how to capture an audience, and pick up on mood and motivation in ways that allow them to communicate with reason, emotion, passion, restraint – whatever the situation calls for. Talented imitators, ENFJs are able to shift their tone and manner to reflect the needs of the audience, while still maintaining their own voice. Altruistic – Uniting these qualities is ENFJs' unyielding desire to do good in and for their communities, be it in their own home or the global stage. Warm and selfless, ENFJs genuinely believe that if they can just bring people together, they can do a world of good. Natural Leaders – More than seeking authority themselves, ENFJs often end up in leadership roles at the request of others, cheered on by the many admirers of their strong personality and positive vision. Very interesting, and I have to agree they are fairly accurate as well. Essentially both tests say the same things about my personality. If you look at these traits and characteristics of my personality and the things that made me the happiest when I was doing them, you can see why. It is me. It is who I am.  What's the point of all of this? It's to understand what Bruce Lee is said, AND it is to understand YOU. If you want to be successful at your career, if you want to live a happy, satisfied, fulfilling life, then you need to be you. You need to be yourself, express yourself and have faith in yourself. Find your calling. If you are in your calling, live it with passion. Find these personality strengths and take the action needed to use them for your life. I have a career now doing what I am. I am a Community Manager for the company I work for. I am a Podcaster, helping people set and achieve their goals. I help people take action and Get The Goals They Set. I am the happiest I've been in a long time doing what I love and what I am. Are You?  Take one or many of these tests if you haven't. Be honest when taking them. Find out who you really are and then set your goals to be what you are.  If your goals are not in alignment with who you are, then you will have the hardest time achieving them. Your subconscious mind will work to sabotage you. Don't let your mind play goalie for the other team! Go Out Today - Be Yourself, Express Yourself, Have Faith in Yourself. Be You and Be Successful   I get a lot of my quotes from great books that I read. 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