Podcasts about how we talk

Today we're talking about the reality of parenting while disabled. My guest is Jessica Slice, the author of the new book Unfit Parent: A Disabled Mother Challenges an Inaccessible World. A writer, advocate, and disabled mother who challenges the way society defines “fit” parenting, Jessica's work has appeared in The New York Times, The Washington Post, and Disability Visibility.  In this episode, Jessica opens up about the unique challenges disabled parents face, from the obstacles within the process of becoming parents to navigating a world that often feels inaccessible. We also talk about how disabled parents are often excluded from mainstream parenting conversations and why they face heightened scrutiny from Child Protective Services. Jessica shares her powerful perspective on creative adaptation — a mindset that empowers disabled parents to create a parenting approach that works for them, rather than trying to conform to systems that weren't built with their needs in mind. Whether you're a disabled parent, raising a disabled child, or just wanting to learn how to be a more informed and supportive ally, this episode is filled with Jessica's honest insights and practical wisdom that challenge outdated ideas of what makes a “good” parent.   About Jessica Slice Jessica Slice is a disabled mom and author of Unfit Parent: A Disabled Mother Challenges an Inaccessible World. She is also the co-author of Dateable: Swiping Right, Hooking Up, and Settling Down and This is How We Play, as well as the forthcoming This is How We Talk and We Belong, which was co-authored with the late Judy Heumann. She has been published in Modern Love, the New York Times, the Washington Post, Alice Wong's bestselling Disability Visibility, Glamour, Cosmopolitan, and more. She lives in Toronto with her family.   Things you'll learn from this episode Why disabled parents are not often part of the mainstream parenting conversations What are the challenges that disabled parents face when they're starting the process of becoming parents Why disabled parents face more threats from Child Protective Services, and why demanding that someone parent without help can be considered discriminatory How being disabled prepares potential parents for the parenting journey What creative adaptation is and how it can give disabled parents the freedom to build their life from scratch How non-disabled parents can support the disabled parents in their communities   Resources mentioned Unfit Parent: A Disabled Mother Challenges an Inaccessible World by Jessica Slice Jessica Slice's website Jessica Slice writes about disability, parenting, and poems Jessica on Instagram Demystifying Disability: What to Know, What to Say, and How to be an Ally by Emily Ladau Emily Ladau on Demystifying Disability: What to Know, What to Say, and How to be an Ally (Tilt Parenting Podcast) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ever think about how powerful asking questions can be? It's kinda mind-blowing when you think about all the insights, knowledge, and experiences we can tap into just by asking. So in this episode, we've got Jeff Welzer on board to talk about his book ASK: Tap Into the Hidden Wisdom of People Around You for Unexpected Breakthroughs in Leadership and Life. Jeff enlightens us on how asking thoughtful and well-crafted questions that seek to learn can unlock a treasure trove of wisdom, ideas, and deep understanding. And it can even help you achieve your goals in both your personal and professional lives! You have to check out this awesome chat! Trust us, it's packed with gems that'll shift how you connect with others and enable you to grow as a person! Listen and Learn:  Are you missing out on valuable insights and hidden wisdom by not asking questions? How asking well-crafted questions can help you achieve your goals and benefit you both in your personal and professional lives Why do we withhold information?  Tips to navigate speaking up when you might fear the reaction you could get How Jeff's ASK Approach can help you tap into other people's knowledge, thoughts, wisdom, and ideas Ways you can make it safer for someone to open up more  Transforming crummy questions into quality questions that promote meaningful discussion and insight How you can get better at listening to learn How can we pass the skillset of curiosity onto our kids  Resources:  Jeff's website: https://www.askapproach.com/ https://transcendeducation.org/ ASK: Tap Into the Hidden Wisdom of People Around You for Unexpected Breakthroughs in Leadership and Life: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780306832697 Radical Candor: Be a Kick-Ass Boss Without Losing Your Humanity: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781250235374 About Jeff Wetzler  JEFF WETZLER is co-CEO of Transcend, a nationally recognized innovation organization, and an expert in learning and human potential. Wetzler combines unique leadership experiences spanning more than 25 years in business and education, as a management consultant to the world's top corporations, a learning facilitator for leaders around the world, and as Chief Learning Officer at Teach For America. Jeff earned a Doctorate in Adult Learning and Leadership from Columbia University and a bachelor's in psychology from Brown University. Based in New York, he is a member of the Aspen Global Leadership Network and is an Edmund Hillary Fellow. https://www.askapproach.com/ Book: ASK: Tap Into the Hidden Wisdom of People Around You for Unexpected Breakthroughs in Leadership and Life  Related Episodes:  329. The Power of Curiosity with Scott Shigeoka 281. Belonging Uncertainty and Bridging Divides with Geoffrey Cohen  276. Assertive Communication Skills with Randy Paterson 255. Influence is Your Superpower with Zoe Chance 165. How We Talk and Why It Matters with Katherine Kinzler 96. Effective Conversations About Diversity with Anatasia Kim and Alicia del Prado  302. Say the Right Thing with David Glasgow  185. Good Guys: Allies in the Workplace with Brad Johnson and David Smith  299. Leadership and the Changing Workplace with Chris Shipley  168. Everyday Conversations: How Conversational Style Impacts Relationships with Deborah Tannen Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you looking for a breakthrough for your communications skills - transforming how you talk, listen, and interact? Join Chuck Wisner and me on Wednesday, February 14th, from 10 - 11 A.M. Central Time U.S. Our conversation is about his remarkable life journey and his latest book, The Art of Conscious Conversations - Transforming How We Talk, Listen, and Interact. Chuck is the president of Wisner Consulting. He is a thinker, a coach, and a teacher in organizational strategy, human dynamics, and leadership excellence. For the past twenty-five years, he has served as a business and personal consultant and advisor to leaders in high-profile companies in several industries. Chuck's client list includes companies such as Google, Rivian, Apple, Tesla, Harvard Business School, Ford, and Chrysler. He was a senior affiliated mediator with the Harvard Mediation Program and was among the first to be certified through the Mastering the Art of Professional Coaching program at the Newfield Institute. Chuck was also an organizational learning and leadership specialist affiliated with MIT's Center for Organizational Learning. The Art Of Conscious Conversations takes a deep dive into the DNA of conversations, exploring the components and complexities of talking with others. With new insights, we can positively transform our interactions and relationships in our professional and personal lives. The book examines the how and the why of conversations and explores how we can reframe our thoughts, emotions, reactions, and interactions, increasing our awareness and improving the quality of our interactions at work and at home.

Fr. Bill continues his interviews with James Ryan, PhD author of a new book titled Recovery Writing. The series explores effective writing techniques used in 12 Step and other recovery modalities. James is in long term recovery with a strong interest in spirituality and in the Pioneer program of Alcoholics Anonymous. His website  www.StepStudy.org provides links to books and articles helpful for those ready to go deeper into AA history and recovery spiritually. James worked for several years in the addiction treatment field and now teaches writing at the University of Alaska. In this fourth episode, James shares from his research how writing can aid in connecting an addict with the realm of the divine.  Show Notes: Recovery Writing: Discovery and Healing in the Twelve Steps by James Ryan Step Study website: www.StepStudy.org The Voices Within and How We Talk to Ourselves by Charles Fernyhough (Lots of used copies available) More than Real: A History of the Imagination in South India  by David Shulman  (Worth reseaching sources – this book is pricey)  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/fatherbillw/support

Today on the Intuitive Eating for Christian Women podcast our guest Zoë Bisbing shares her professional experience as a licensed psychotherapist with specialties in eating disorders and body image concerns as we discuss how we talk to our kids about food and bodies. In this episode we dig into: - The family work that is essential in eating disorder treatment - Her work with the The Full Bloom Project and the mission to help parents prevent eating disorders and nurture embodiment in the next generation - The 5 fundamentals of body-positive parenting - The importance of Ellyn Satter's Division of Responsibility in Feeding: the job of the parent and the job of the child - How to talk to our kids about food and nutrition - Modeling intuitive eating as best we can for our kids - How kids need to be reminded their worth is not their body - How to be a cycle-breaker parent: change the environment in your home to nurture your child - Fostering critical thinking skills to respond to diet culture - Helping your kids navigate aesthetic sports and identity issues RESOURCES FOR EPISODE 51 - How We Talk to our Kids about Food and Bodies with Zoë Bisbing Access the Show Notes on the Intuitive Eating for Christian Women website: ⁠https://intuitiveeatingforchristianwomen.com/episodes/⁠ MORE RESOURCES FOR INTUITIVE EATING FOR CHRISTIAN WOMEN If you're ready to take your own faith-based intuitive eating journey, start here: STEP 1: Listen to Season 1 with our $7 Podcast Workbook to learn the basics ⁠https://intuitivewellnessprograms.mykajabi.com/IEforChristianWomenCourse⁠ STEP 2: Get in community! Join our FREE Facebook Community or Paid Membership Program Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/intuitiveeatingforchristianwomen/ Membership: ⁠ https://intuitivewellnessprograms.mykajabi.com/ie4cw-membership⁠ STEP 3: Go deeper in your journey with an Online Course. ⁠https://intuitiveeatingforchristianwomen.com/online-courses/⁠ Find out more about Char-Lee Cassel:⁠ https://charleecassel.com/⁠ Find out more about Erin Todd:⁠ https://erinltodd.com/⁠ Get Erin's Free Guide: ⁠Intuitive Eating Starter Kit for Christian Women⁠ Get Char-Lee's Free Study: ⁠10 day Intuitive Eating Bible Study⁠ For a chance to have your question answered, or if we said something that needs correcting, you can email us at: info@intuitiveeatingforchristianwomen.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/intuitiveeating/message

¿Conoces Nuestra Escuela de Ansiedad? https://escuelaansiedad.com/escuela-de-ansiedad-landing-page/ Web: http://www.amadag.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Asociacion.Agorafobia/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amadag.psico/ Youtube Amadag TV: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC22fPGPhEhgiXCM7PGl68rw A menudo se nos hace muy difícil explicar a otras personas nuestros estados mentales o cómo pensamos. No todo el mundo cuando piensa lo hace desde una voz interior, por ejemplo, existen personas cuya experiencia mental es más visual. Esto lo explica el psicólogo y ensayista inglés Charles Fernyhough en su libro The Voices Within: The History and Science of How We Talk to Ourselves (“Las voces de nuestro interior: la historia y la ciencia de cómo hablamos con nosotros mismos”). En él recoge los estudios que se han hecho sobre esa voz interior que todos más o menos reconocemos, y asegura que es un fenómeno muy frecuente a la hora de pensar, pero que existen diferencias entre personas: algunas recurriendo a ese monólogo interior constantemente, otras que sólo a veces, y otras que nunca o casi nunca acuden a lo verbal, pero sí a través de imágenes. La verdad es que, por lo general, pensamos mucho con palabras. Durante gran parte del tiempo, utilizamos el lenguaje como una herramienta que nos ayuda a estructurar lo que pensamos, y nos ayuda a crear nuestra narrativa autobiográfica, es decir, a contarnos lo que nos ha pasado. Esos diálogos internos, son una especie de voz en off de nuestras vidas, gracias a los que podemos evaluar y dar contexto a nuestros recuerdos, ideas y planes de futuro. Pensar, entendiéndolo como el dialogando interno que llevamos con nosotros mismos, conlleva ciertas características: Ser conscientes, en el sentido de que sabemos lo que pensamos. Es dependiente del lenguaje que hemos aprendido (con las facilidades y dificultades que ello implique a la hora de simbolizar y fijar conceptos, sobre todo los que nos resultan menos familiares o abstractos). Es un acontecimiento privado, ya que los otros no acceden a él. Es coherente, en el sentido de que encaja en un flujo de ideas. Es activo, ya que es algo que se hace y uno reconoce como propio.

In today's episode of the Gentle Parenting Show, Kim is joined by Nadine Levitt. Nadine is the leading Glocal Education Expert specializing in emotional intelligence, feelings, and inspiring the complete reimagination of the educational system. Nadine is revolutionizing the way children are educated through creativity, music, artistry, and entrepreneurship. Today Kim and Nadine talk about emotional toolkits to deal with big emotions that young children may have. The discuss: How We Talk to Children About Big Emotions  Breaking Down Big Feelings and Emotions  Understanding the Stories Our Emotions Tell Us  Teaching Emotional Intelligence with Big Emotions    Our favorite quotes from this episode are: “understanding your emotions are one thing, and your actions and thought patterns are something completely different.” and “all of life's conflict comes from unmet expectations.”    Connect with Nadine Connect with Nadine and her company, WURRLYedu on their website. Follow on Instagram for more tips from Nadine. 

Charles Fernyhough, Psychologist and author of The Voices Within: The History and Science of How We Talk to Ourselves, joined Sean on the show. Listen and subscribe to Moncrieff on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts or Spotify.    Download, listen and subscribe on the Newstalk App.     You can also listen to Newstalk live on newstalk.com or on Alexa, by adding the Newstalk skill and asking: 'Alexa, play Newstalk'.

Jennifer Lehr, author of ParentSpeak. Topic: What’s wrong with how we talk to our children—and what to say instead. Issues: Despite our best intentions, a lot of things we tell our kids does more harm than good; how to avoid words and phrases that manipulate, objectify, micro-manage, distress, invalidate, and threaten. The post What’s Wrong with How We Talk to Our Children—and What to Say Instead appeared first on Mr. Dad.

My guest today is Phillip Hunter. Phillip is a strategy and innovation consultant focused on conversational systems. He has a long trajectory working on such systems; among other roles, he was head of user experience for Amazon Alexa Skills. In this conversation, we focus on conversation itself, and how to design systems that converse. Listen to the show Download episode 49   Show notes Phillip Hunter on LinkedIn Phillip Hunter on Twitter Conversational Collaborative AI Services (Phillip's consultancy) Brenda Laurel Don Norman Google Assistant Amazon Alexa HomePod Because Internet: Understanding the New Rules of Language by Gretchen McCullough Wizard-of-Oz testing Adobe XD Voiceflow Botmock Google Dialogflow CX Alexa Skills Kit How We Talk: The Inner Workings of Conversation by N.J. Enfield Some show notes may include Amazon affiliate links. I get a small commissions for purchases made through these links. Read the transcript Jorge: Phillip, welcome to the show. Phillip: Oh, thank you. So great to be here. So great to be with you. Jorge: I'm excited to have you. For folks who might not know you, can you please tell us about yourself? About Phillip Phillip: Sure. So, I've been doing many sorts of design activities and jobs and things over the course of about 25 years. I actually started my career as a developer, but quickly learned the difference between building computer programs as a hobby versus work. I enjoy one of them! So, I ended up getting into design interestingly, just because I complained so much about the applications that we were building at the company I was with, and how they just didn't make sense to me. And all of a sudden, someone hands me a book from Brenda Laurel and says, you need to read this. And that literally changed my life. I got to meet her one day and tell her that. But that was about the same time the company I was with, which was building interactive voice response started as those touchtone systems that everybody hates for your bank or airlines insurance companies. We started adopting speech recognition as part of the platform. And to me, that opened up so many new possibilities. I learned some really interesting things from the get-go about how designing for that was so different from the things I had been used to before. Now, this was around when Don Norman coined the term “user experience design,” and so it wasn't well-known. But while everyone was also getting used to designing for the web and designing then later for mobile, I was in that, but I was also getting used to designing for conversation: what does it mean to exchange things by voice that's different from how we think about information being presented on screens. So, to speed things up a little bit, I've done that sort of work in startups and then in big companies like Microsoft and Amazon. I was around for the early days of Cortana, before it was public. And I've worked on Alexa as part of their developer third-party focused team. But along the way, I've always also been fascinated by large systems. So I worked at Amazon Web Services for a while where, at the time I started, there were about 35 different offerings that they had, and now it's somewhere around 150. It's just amazing growth over the past 10 years for them. And this idea of how these — all of these — services would come together in different permutations based on who was using it and what they were using it for just really fascinated me as, you know, beyond the Lego-block metaphor into each of these things are by themselves an advanced technology, and then, how do you use all these things to run a business or create a product or serve customers or all the things that we normally do in business, nut now we're doing them with these really amazing technologies. And so, conversation itself is also a system. And so, it was interesting to me to get into the systems thinking from a pure technology standpoint. I've read other things about human systems and economies and healthcare and physiology and things like that. But I'm in tech and I soon began seeing in a different way some of the systemic elements of conversation. And so, for me, the past four, five years has really been amazing in terms of my own personal growth around what it means to interact with machines, including by voice and text, as well as just starting to see the power of systems in our lives. And you know, with technologies like Google Assistant and Alexa, now infrastructure — technology infrastructure — along with our mobile phones, along with our laptops and ways we interact with the worldwide web, all of these things are now very much in our homes every day for many of us. So, they've started to cross some interesting boundaries, that make everything that I've talked about way more interesting and way more pervasive. So, today I'm consulting in that, I've got some product ideas that I'm working on as well to explore where things go now that machine learning is really a big component, and artificial intelligence, whatever phrase you want to put on it, is now a real factor in the mix. 10 years ago, it was still sort of, you know, science fiction more than a daily practice. But now we have… well, for a number of reasons, we have these things, and we have to say, “okay, what's the impact here? What does this mean for our lives too?” So, That's the kind of thing I'm working on and, it's really exciting. Conversation as a system Jorge: You said, “conversation is a system.” What do you mean by that? Phillip: So, most of us who speak, no matter what age, we started learning how to speak and interpret speech very early on. Certainly, before we started reading, some of us start reading, two to three years later after we learned how to interact by voice. And by then, interestingly, we are ready experts at conversation, which raises the question of what are we experts at? Well, so it turns out through the study of things like conversational analysis or through practices like that and linguistics and psycholinguistics… it turns out that language is not just a bunch of sounds that we make spontaneously. In our minds and between each other, we are actually doing some really intricate dancing and processing of emotions, information, contextual settings, history, all of these things that you know are part of our daily lives, and to process those effectively with each other and, some would say for ourselves even, we have developed this system of how conversation works. And the way I think about it in my current work — and this is not a re-statement of anything that I've read necessarily — but there are essentially three levels of where a system is operative. One is types of conversations we have. So, you and I are having a sort of conversation, call it an interview, or a structured discussion, things like that. There are casual, “how are you doing?” You mentioned teaching earlier, lecture as a type of conversation, usually followed by questions and answers. And so, there are types of conversations and at the opposite end of that, there are the linguistic structures that help us understand: this is a noun, this is a verb, this is a modifier. Most of us probably hated studying those sorts of things in school, but we learned them, and we understand the basics there. And we know how to use them. We're experts in them, even if we don't necessarily like to study how it works. In the middle, there's something we don't typically think about, which is how conversations have a structure on an individual level. And so… I'll just use, what you and I did. We joined this Zoom call and we started exchanging words that we both probably could have predicted we were going to exchange: ‘how are you, how is life? What are you doing these days?' All of these things are, some would call it chit chat, some would call it small talk, some people would call it, social niceties but it's also giving us time to understand where each other is currently in our lives. Like I can… you know, especially if you're meeting a friend, let's say you can see, is this person in the usual mood? You know, are they presenting to me how they usually come across? Is something different? Why is it different? How is it different? So maybe think about a loved one. You come home from – back in the day when we came home from work – you come home from work and you see a concerned look on your partner's face and right away you start to pick up something is going on. But maybe you start with a greeting, “hey, how are you?” But at some point, you're going to probably say something like, “what's going on? Is there something…” So, there's these elements of conversation where we connect, we survey, we assess, then we get into things like, a section called negotiation. What are we going to talk about? How do we know what each other means? Do we need to clarify something? So, for us, for you and I today, you know, at some point you said, “hey, here's how this is going to work.” Which is a statement again that I expected but it doesn't mean I know the answer. So, you gave me an outline of how we would use our time today, and now we're doing it, right? Now you're asking me questions, I'm giving you thoughts and answers, and at some point, we'll move — and you said it yourself — we'll move to close out the interview. And almost all conversations have a closure. One of the things I like to point out to people is how often do you…. again, when we would run into someone in the hall at work and we'd say, “hey! Oh, I've been meaning to talk to you about this.” And now you raised a topic, maybe you talk about a few specific items and you say, “okay, great. You know what? Let's catch up on that next week.” “Sure. I'll put some time on your calendar.” “Oh! Hey, by the way, how did that thing go?” And so, you have this other… you have this transition. You're talking about another subject. Then you both start to feel like, okay, we spend enough time doing this. And what do you do? You returned to the first topic and you say, “it'll be great to talk to you next week when we meet about such and such.” And you're like, “sure, looking forward to it.” And that's your signal that it's over. So, all of these are well-documented, and for people who study this, fairly well-understood components of conversations. They're not the types of conversations because they occur across many different types of conversations. They're not the linguistic elements of what sounds and what are the individual meanings of those sounds and how they work together. It's somewhere in the middle around how does a conversation work and these systems are actually incredibly important, for reasons that I can go into in a minute, but that's what I mean about conversation: conversation is a system or more accurately, as is the case with many systems, a collection of systems that's at work. And part of our skill at being able to converse well is a tacit understanding that there are those systems and that we can and should use them to be effective in our day-to-day lives with other people. Protocols Jorge: The word that came to my mind when you were describing this middle between those two extremes is the word “protocol.” It's like, well, we're establishing a protocol, right? Phillip: Yes! Jorge: And the image that came to my mind, I think that you and I are both of the vintage where we remember these modems where you would connect to the phone line and you would hear this awful screeching noise as the modems were trying to figure out if they were compatible. Phillip: Right, right, right. Yes! It's a connection in negotiation which is for nearly every conversation we have, a crucial step, even when it's someone who we talk to on a frequent basis. Now, it will adapt based on who you are talking to. And certainly, for meeting someone new for the first time, it's a very different feel to it; it has a very different feel to it than if it's somebody you talk to multiple times a day. But yeah, it's really important. And I'm really glad you said the word protocol too, because we can breach it. And it causes something else to happen. It may not be a problem. But it almost always is a signal that you have to adapt. The direction you thought it was going to go is not how it's going to go, and you need to figure out what is happening. And that's again, where negotiation becomes a key part of the conversational ability that we have. Jorge: When you breach the subject of conversation in the context of user experience design, I think of two things. One, I think of the “assistant in a cylinder” that you've touched on earlier, right? We have a HomePod here at home, so, we have the Apple variant of that. And I also think of chatbots, which are not oral, but they're text based. Phillip: Yes! Jorge: And I'm getting the sense from hearing you that the type of protocol that you're talking about is mostly the verbal one, the one when we speak to each other. Phillip: Right. Channels Jorge: Do we have different protocols for chatting via text versus talking? Phillip: We do, we do. And I'll mention several books as we go along. And the first one I mention is Because Internet, the author is Gretchen McCulloch and she has studied the evolution of language on the internet, going back to the sixties and seventies, when some of the first chat systems, text-chat systems, were being created and all the way up through modern texting and messaging platforms. So, the difference between how we converse verbally and how we converse via text is a long-standing thing…. And so, like even if you go back to like, when we wrote letters and things like that, conversational protocols were different then, but written was still very clearly different from verbal. So, there are some different protocols and some of them are different because the establishment of context is clearer from the get-go. Meaning that, if I go to someone's website and then I look for this chatbot thing, and I open it. Well, I've already sort of taken a step into a context, right? I've visited a website. I know it's a company. I don't want to do any of the other stuff. I'm making this implicit statement of, “I don't want that stuff,” by choosing this other thing explicitly. But with many chatbots, you still see a greeting, “hi, this is Jojo-bot. I'm here to help you with your questions about X, Y, Z company.” So, the idea is there's still some semblance of this because it's about acknowledgement, a statement of presence; here I am. You can even say things to me. And then the added protocol differences. We have no emotional context, right? And now emojis are a valid expression of emotion and conversational meaning, but we can't appreciate them with the nuance and the subtlety that we can by viewing another human's face and hearing their tone of voice. So, as we all know, when you go to text, like… first of all, when we go from visibility to invisibility. So, if you and I weren't looking at each other during this podcast, we would be having a channel, a signal, that is no longer available to us, right? And then in texts, it's the same thing. But now we also don't have some of the audio signals that we can get from somebody's voice. So, we replace some of these by emojis in some cases, but we also tend to read a lot into certain ways of phrasing. One of the fascinating things that's going on right now in the world of text messaging is periods or full stops, indicate to teenagers — or maybe even into the 20- and maybe 30-year-olds — they indicate a different emotional tone than the lack of periods or full stops. And, you know this becomes just… for me, somebody like me, extremely fascinating to think about that the incredible subtlety that that brings. Part of the problem is like… I mean, one of my kids said this to me. I typed a period in a text message and the question was, “are you upset?” I was like, “No! I just typed a period!” He was like, “oh, well, periods usually mean that somebody is upset.” Like, oh! Okay. Not upset! Also, ignorant! So please, excuse me! So, it's not so much that we… well, yeah, I think you said it: we had different protocols. And we do adjust our protocols based on the channel and what signals are available to us, because at some point, there may be some information we need that might've come in through… as a signal through a different channel of visual tone of voice, and now we're just a text, so we might need to be more explicit. This becomes a problem because — and we all know this, those of us who've been working in tech for a long time — we've known how we can misread emails, right? You see an email and you think, “Oh man, there is something wrong here.” And you go talk to the person and they're like, “no, everything's great.” “Well, your email just made it sound like…” and we use those phrases “made it sound like.” There was no sound involved in this. So, we have some understanding intuitively that the different channels mean different things for us, and if we are missing some, then we have to adapt. But we aren't necessarily good at that. We don't necessarily think — and this is one of the downfalls of conversational technology right now — we think that it's the words alone that matter the most. And I won't quote the stats about like how much of meaning comes across in other channels but suffice it to say that when we have sort of full bandwidth conversations, we are actively using all of the channels available to us. But it doesn't mean that we understand that we're using them or that we are necessarily capable of adapting well to the channel loss or the signal loss. So long-winded answer, sorry about that! But yeah, it's quite different. Jorge: One of the things that I'm hearing there is that there are at least two dimensions that you can use to think about a channel. One dimension has to do with the bandwidth that is available to communicate these nuances that we're talking about. And what I'm getting from what you're saying there is that text — something like a chatbot — is a fairly low bandwidth channel, right? Phillip: Yes. Jorge: Like, we lose a lot of nuance. And another dimension has to do with context, with the amount of context that you have when engaging in that channel. And I'm saying this because, the way I envisioned it when you were talking about it, was that the mere fact that the chatbot is popping up in this website already sets boundaries for what you're expected to deal with, right? Like you don't come to it expecting that it will play your favorite song. Phillip: Right. That's right. Jorge: It's going to be a conversation related to that thing, right? Phillip: Right. And nor do we — for those of us who've used or worked in customer service over the telephone — sometimes where we have these little conversations about, “Oh, where are you? How's the weather, how are you?” So, we incorporate some of these things. You don't see that as much in text-only chatbots. And the other thing, that's a challenge there is the fact that we communicate at very different rates of speed verbally than we do typing and reading. We're much faster verbally. And the other thing is we are much more tolerant verbally of rambling and sort of things that would show up as incoherence if it were typed out. We repeat words, we pause in funny places, we gather our thoughts in the middle of a sentence and take a turn on a dime. And we keep up with that, verbally. Like we're really, really, really good at it! We don't understand how good we are, but we are really good at it. And translating that into text sometimes is just a trainwreck, even if we're doing almost the exact same behaviors. Jorge: Yeah, I can relate to that, having to go through the transcripts for this show and make them legible. It's like, “Wow! There's a lot of repetition happening here.” Phillip: Yeah! And I can almost guarantee you that I'm going to be a tough one for you, even though I do this for a living. Sorry about that! Jorge: No, it's fascinating. And it's inherent in the… I suspect that it's inherent in the channel, right? Like you're, it's almost like you're down sampling to a different channel. Phillip: Yeah! That's an excellent way to think about it. Exactly. And to get techie for a second, when I first dealt with speech recognition, over the telephone… the telephone because of economics is a tremendously downsampled version of audio. You can ask anybody who works in music or who's an audiophile. It's just the telephone bandwidth is terrible when it comes to the higher and lower frequencies. So, it's just a squished down to this middle. And yeah, it's very similar to that. And so, in speech recognition technology, we just lost all of the signal that was available for processing. If you recorded something into a microphone, we had that nice 44K bandwidth, it's so much richer than something that comes out of the telephone. And so, yeah. It's very similar, just that signal compression, the signal loss. And our brains are, again, just really, really expert at doing things with it that we don't understand that it's doing. And so, because we don't understand it, we don't necessarily notice the loss of it, but part of our brain does. And it's like, “but I don't know what to do now because I'm so used to that being there.” Designing for conversation Jorge: We've been talking about protocols and we've been talking about the signal and there's all these different aspects to this, and it also sounds like the channels are quite different. I'm wondering how one goes about designing for conversation. How do you prototype this stuff? How do you model it? Phillip: Yeah! Right, right. Well, this is great. To start this, I'll touch on something, that I think you asked, and I'm not sure I addressed earlier. But when we think about these systems, conversational systems, whether it's the cylindrical devices that we have, or whatever shape they are, how those are different from what we have available to us in human-to-human conversation. Well, a lot of it is that we focused on sort of the nugget of action. So, that's why a lot of these systems, what are they used mostly for? For playing music, getting weather, news, maybe opening an audiobook or listening to a podcast, or turning on lights. You know, all these sorts of things. To do that, the command sequence is all fairly straightforward, right? It's, “whatever-the-name-is, turn on this light” or “play this station or artists” or “start reading my book”. And then whatever audiobook it was last reading will open up. And so, what we're not designing currently, and what is not designed into any of these systems is really anything about that middle structure of conversation. We have different types of conversation. You can play a game. You can do this command kind of interaction. You know, there are ways to simulate interviews and things like that. And certainly, there's this undergirding of linguistic information, right? You have to know what the words are and what roles they usually play in a conversation. This is an interesting experiment: If you take the words in a sentence that makes sense in the normal order, standard order, and then you mix them around, it's interesting to see what these assistants understand and don't. I'll tell you that most of them don't pay a lot of attention to the order of words, but the order does also matter somewhat. But what they don't have is this like clear establishment of contexts and negotiation ability, where you can clarify or correct. The interactions really just sort of jump right to what we consider the meat of a conversation. And then we don't really… closure isn't really part of this either. You can see a little bit more of it in customer service type applications where someone dials a phone number and there's a greeting like, “hi, you've reached such as such, what can I do for you?' There's a… like you said, a minute ago, chatbots have a limited range of things that are expected or understood. Mental model mismatch is a thing, but for the sake of this, we'll just keep it narrow. So, there's just a little bit of this sort of… we're giving some lip service to the greeting — pun intended. We're giving some negotiation, you know, of what's available and what's desired. And then it moves very quickly into action. And then at the end of the action, it might… the closure might be, “is there anything else I could do for you? If not, you know, have a great day.” But with our virtual assistants, that shows up very rarely. It is there in some cases, but it's very rare. So, I say all that to say, one of the first big steps in designing is — like with all other design — is really understanding what's the context, what's the goal, who's participating, what knowledge might they have? What knowledge do we expect them not to have? What do they want? Why do they want it? All of these sorts of questions that are fundamental to any sort of true design activity that we're doing, are still important. The thing now though, is instead of saying, “Okay, well that means we're going to have certain kinds of boxes or certain content on our screen,” we're saying, “How do we translate all of that into words that we can exchange fairly easily?” And right now, I've got to say, we're mostly doing a really terrible job of it. But your question was about prototyping. So, first of all, fundamentally we can prototype very simply. I'm a big, big fan of doing basically the equivalent of conversational sketching, which looks like a screenplay. And it doesn't matter if you write this out by hand — and there's some benefits to that — or for speed, you can write it out. You could type it up. But it basically looks like a back and forth of a screenplay and then you go try it with someone — ideally several someones. Someone who might know the technology and help give you some pointers from that angle, but also people who don't care or don't know about the technology. What you're looking for is how quickly can you come to that establishment of sort of clarity of context and purpose and meaning, so that you can proceed into the conversation. That's what those upfront sections are about. The early prototyping is just simulating this conversation with another human. You can expand that into running that in a way, we call “Wizard of Oz” testing, which is where I'm pretending to be the system, and people are going to interact with me, but they don't know it's me and they can't see me. So, whether it's picking up a telephone that's connected to a different phone in the next room and, you know, pretending to talk to the phone or whether it's, you know, pretending to talk to the cylinder and I can pipe something back into the room… the idea is now you're simulating more of the end context, which is a person and a machine or a device. And there's a couple of different ways we can do that. We used to do that in some ways involving Keynote and PowerPoint and recordings and things like that. But today, there are also some tools that we can use that are prototyping tools for voice. Adobe XD has some of that built-in or tools like Voiceflow and Botmock, that are available to do some of this as well. And they… they're a little bit more system centric in the idea of that they're representing capabilities of the end of the system where you might deploy this. So, they have some built-in constraints. And then like all tools, they have, philosophies and other things built into the tool that when you're an experienced designer, you have to learn how to see, or how to work around, those things. So, around those limitations, the tool designer doesn't necessarily understand all the situations you're going to use the tool for. But those tools are available and some of them can be ported directly to one of these devices, in a private setting, so you can test them yourself. You can interact with them. They use text-to-speech technology to give the audio although you can do human recordings with some of them as well. And really that's sort of the… that's where prototyping ends. There are other tools out there. Google has Dialogue Flow and there's the Alexa skills kit tools, which I helped create. All of those are much more system-centric because you're starting to access the assets of those technologies and platforms. But they also have some level of simulation. They have beta modes where you can release it to a certain number of people to interact with it and get feedback on it, so you can make some changes before it goes live. And then they also have some amount of automated testing available too, where you can start to see holes in the application because you didn't specify some sort of action or maybe you didn't take care of a certain condition that might arise, but, you know, that's getting further into the end stage of development, away from prototyping. Closing Jorge: Well, this is all so fascinating. It feels like there's material here for us to go on, but unfortunately, we need to wrap things up. Phillip: Right, right! Sure! Jorge: Where can folks follow up with you, Phillip? Phillip: Well, my consultancy is called Conversational Collaborative AI Services. Clearly, I am focused on some of the underlying artificial intelligence machine learning things, and that's at ccaiservices.com and I am Phillip with two L's, at ccaiservices.com. And I'm also on Twitter as designoutloud, no hyphens or anything, just all one word, and I'm always happy to connect and discuss things on LinkedIn. So pretty easy to find there. I think I was lucky enough to get Phillip Hunter as my LinkedIn URL so you can find me there, and I love to talk about this stuff! Also, my, site has… I've got a fair amount of content out there about these topics, where I go much deeper on… okay, once you understand these principles, how do you really start to apply them and how do you, have an iterative and thoughtful design approach to writing for voice and text interaction. So yeah, so any of those ways be great. Jorge: Well, this is fantastic. Thank you so much for this conversation about conversation! Phillip: Well, it's my pleasure. And obviously I have a lot to say! And yes, we could go on for quite a while. In fact, I might even forget you're there and just keep talking while you're, while you're sleeping or, you know, petting your cat or whatever I saw…. Jorge: Maybe we need to do a part two. Phillip: Well, maybe so! Let's see what kind of response we get, but I'd be happy to, and you know, it is a fascinating thing to think about and analyze. And if anyone wants to dive in, I have some great resources. There's a book called How We Talk by N.J. Enfield, that is also just really, really fascinating. And I'm currently reading another book, that so far, it's very promising, but I'd want to finish it before I recommend it. But I guess the other thing is, I want to say here to people is, don't just study the tools and the technology. You need to study people and conversation to really be good at this, if you want to get into it. It's way more sophisticated than anything we have done for standard web and mobile design. As important, and as difficult as that work is, conversation has some really special and deep challenges. So, don't limit yourself to just understanding the technology and how to apply it. Jorge: That seems like a great admonition and a good place to end it. Thank you so much! Phillip: Oh, you're very welcome.

Welcome back to the Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning podcast, episode #92 with neuroscience educator, author and trainer, Sarah Peyton[i].You can watch the interview on YouTube here. My name is Andrea Samadi,  and if you are new here, I’m a former educator who created this podcast to bring the most current neuroscience research, along with high performing experts who have risen to the top of their field, with specific strategies or ideas that you can implement immediately, whether you are an educator, or in the corporate space, to take your results to the next level. If we want to improve our social, emotional and cognitive abilities, it all starts with an understanding of our brain. I’m so grateful to have been introduced to Sarah Peyton, a neuroscience educator, and author of the book, Your Resonant Self: Guided Meditations and Exercises to Engage Your Brain’s Capacity for Healing[ii].  I took one look at Sarah’s work and website, and immediately had 100 questions for her. She also does have a workbook coming out to accompany this book, this summer. I will put the links in the show notes to learn more.[iii]Welcome Sarah, thank you so much for your time today, to share your knowledge and resources with us.Q1: Sarah, Brain Network Theory is now being talked about all over the place, listeners of this podcast, who follow the most current neuroscience research, will have heard about it. There are many books being written on this NEW Brain Network Theory (I’ve mentioned Dr. Srini Pillay and his book about the power of the unfocused mind in past episodes). I’ve been working closely with Mark Waldman (from EPISODE 30)[iv] this past year and know that applying Brain Network Theory to our life can be powerful.Just as a reminder of what Brain Network Theory is all about, if you were to go to www.pubmed.gov  and search for the most recent studies on the brain, instead of looking at different parts of the brain, like we used to do, we now know and study different networks in the brain to gain understanding, and we can measure and see the activity in each of these brain networks. This is a fascinating discovery that comes to life with these images that we’ve all seen with different regions of our brain lighting up.Sarah, can you go over some of the brain function networks you cover in the beginning of your book and how an understanding of these networks can help us with our understanding of the world, and our perhaps ways we can improve our results? (seeing the world, decision-making, discerning importance, dorsal attention, listening, sensing and moving)?Q2: How does trauma show up in the brain?Q3:  I did cover the Default Mode Network in EPISODE #48[iv] and mention the fact that this Default Mode Network involves those thought processes that can include worry, doubts and fears like “don’t try that, it didn’t work out last time” and so on. Swiss Psychologist Piaget called this “inner speech” that can be positive or negative, depending on what you are thinking.  Chapter 1 of your book begins with “How We Talk to Ourselves: The Default Mode Network” that talks about our beliefs, our self-talk and strategies to overcome some of these limiting beliefs. How would you suggest we first of all identify, and then eliminate limiting beliefs from our brain to improve our results?Q4: The Default Mode Network has also been linked to the Imagination. Marty Seligman, the founder of positive psychology calls the DMN the Imagination Network and my mentor, Mark Waldman created a diagram which he refers to as a map to simplify the 5 major brain networks, and he intentionally put the DMN or Imagination as the largest area, possibly because it develops so early in life and plays such an important role in child and brain development. How would you explain the Default Mode Network and why is it so important for us to understand this network in our brain with our early years of development in mind?Q5: On EPISODE #53[v], we dive deep into self-regulation, and why it’s so important. This is such an important topic and one I’m always looking for new ideas with, especially these days, as the event in the world keep most of us on our toes. How do you suggest we stay emotionally regulated?Q6: With anxiety being at an all-time high for many of our students these days, as well as everyone else, with the looming effects of the pandemic this year, what are your best tips for understanding anxiety and the brain, and what are you telling those you are working with, on how to reduce anxiety?Q7: Sarah, I could keep asking you another 10 questions but do know that our time is limited. In closing, I wonder what the most important concept is, that you think everyone should know, whether we are educators in the workplace, or parents, with children we are raising, or if we are just trying to find our place in the world and make an impact. How can we best use our brain, and guide others to do the same?Thank you so much for your time today, Sarah. For those who want to learn more about you, they can go to www.empathybrain.com and sign up for your newsletter and free meditations to help improve brain health and resiliency.   https://empathybrain.com/newsletter/They can follow you on Twitter @empathybrainhttps://www.facebook.com/empathybrain@yourresonantself on IGThanks Sarah!RESOURCES:Dr. Srini Pillay Tinker, Dabble, Doodle, Try: The Power of the Unfocused Mind (May 2017) https://www.amazon.com/Tinker-Dabble-Doodle-Try-Unfocused/dp/1101883650Know Your Brain: The Default Mode Network June 16, 2015 by https://www.neuroscientificallychallenged.com/blog/know-your-brain-default-mode-networkA Brief Introduction to the Default Mode Network YouTube Published May, 2011  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6A-RqZzd2JURuth Lanius Neuroscientist and Professor of Psychiatry, University of Western, Ontario, Canada https://www.thetraumatherapistproject.com/podcast/ruth-lanius-phd/Joseph LeDoux, author of The Emotional Brain, on Trauma, Fear and Memory Consolidation YouTube Published Dec. 2012 “Can Memories be Erased” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=km_unuMr-l8 Avoiding the Sickening Effects of Stress (July 2016) https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2016/07/how-to-prevent-stress-from-sickening-the-body/490841/Matthew Lieberman, Social: Why our brains are wired to connect (July 2015) https://www.amazon.com/Social-Why-brains-wired-connect/dp/0198743815Beatrice Beebe https://www.beatricebeebe.com/Jaak Panksepp and his discovery on human emotions https://www.discovermagazine.com/mind/discover-interview-jaak-panksepp-pinned-down-humanitys-7-primal-emotionsREFERENCES:[i] https://empathybrain.com/ Sarah Peyton’s Website[ii] Your Resonant Self by Sarah Peyton https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B074WBVG42/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_bibl_vppi_i0[iii] Your Resonant Self Workbook by Sarah Peyton https://www.amazon.com/Your-Resonant-Self-Workbook-Self-sabotage/dp/0393714640/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=your+resonant+self&qid=1602474119&sr=8-2[iv] Neuroscience Meets SEL Podcast EPISODE #48 “Brain Network Theory” https://www.achieveit360.com/brain-network-theory-using-neuroscience-to-stay-productive-during-times-of-change-and-chaos/[v] Neuroscience Meets SEL Podcast EPISODE #53 on “Self-Regulation and Your Brain” https://www.achieveit360.com/self-regulation-the-foundational-learning-skill-for-future-success/

A great wizard once said, “Words are, in my not-so-humble opinion, our most inexhaustible source of magic. Capable of both inflicting injury, and remedying it." Humans are social animals who thrive on effective communication. However, each of us has a different communication style, and sometimes, differences in those communication styles inflict injury. In today's world, where communication looks very different than it used to, understanding differences in communication styles and learning to remedy word-inflicted wounds is of utmost importance. In this timely episode, Dr. Deborah Tannen talks with Jill about how communication styles affect our everyday relationships. Join us to learn more on the ‘best' way to talk in different contexts, gender differences in communication styles, saying what you mean, meaning what you say, and much more! Listen and Learn: Dr. Tannen's definition of conversational styleWhy communication style is important in various domains including intimate relationships, workplace relations, and difficult conversations Saying what you mean and meaning what you sayJill and Dr. Tannen's account of gender differences in communication stylesDr. Tannen's wisdom on the ‘best way to talk'What a double bind is and how it affects women Questions and phrases you can use to improve your communication style right nowHow different communication platforms change the intent of your words Resources Link to our sponsorship pageGary Chapman's five love languagesVisit Yael's website to find out more on her work with couples Dr. Tannen's memoir and where you can purchase itInformation on Dr. Arlie Hochschild Dr. Tannen's books, That's Not What I Meant! and Talking from 9 to 5Alicia Menendez's book, The Likeability Trap Dr. Tannen's training video on women's language in the workplace The New York Times' article, It's Not Just You: In Online Meetings, Many Women Can't Get a Word In  About Dr. Deborah Tannen Dr. Tannen is a University Professor and Professor Linguistics at Georgetown University and author of many books and articles about how the language of everyday conversation affects relationships. She is best known as the author of You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation, a book that has brought gender differences in communication style to the forefront of public awareness as a New York Times best seller. Her collected works include eight books for general audiences as well as sixteen books and over one hundred articles for scholarly audiences.  Dr. Tannen is one of only six in Georgetown University's College of Arts and Sciences who hold the distinguished rank of University Professor. She has been McGraw Distinguished Lecturer at Princeton University and spent a term in residence at the Institute for Advanced Study in Princeton, New Jersey. She has twice been a fellow at the Center for Advanced Study in the Behavioral Sciences at Stanford in Palo Alto, California. The recipient of five honorary doctorates, she is a member of the PEN/Faulkner Foundation Board of Directors. Read her recent essays in The New York Times and The Forward or view a full list of her articles for general audiences here. To learn more about what Dr. Tannen is up to, visit her website at deborahtannen.com. Related episodes Episode 163: The Likeability Trap with Alicia MenendezEpisode 165: How We Talk and Why It Matters with Katherine KinzlerEpisode 62: Language, Suffering, and Meaning with Dr. Matthieu VillatteEpisode 104: You're Doing it Wrong with Professors Bethany Johnson and Margaret QuinlanEpisode 121: Be Mighty: An Episode for Stressed Out, Worried Women with Dr. Jill StoddardEpisode 28: Maintaining And Healing Romantic Bonds With R... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Oh my, you are going to WANT to watch this interview. In this episode, I talk to Samara Bay about the practice of how we SPEAK and how we get HEARD (with sprinkles of pronunciation). Samara is a Hollywood dialect coach for actors in television and film; among the actors she coached are Gal Gadot, Rachel McAdams, Pierce Brosnan, Penelope Cruz. And she is also the host of the wonderful podcast ‘Permission to Speak’, which explores the power of voice and strives to change what power sounds like. In this interview you’ll hear us talk about public speaking, feeling authentic, using your voice to speak up, and about breathing. She will also show you a fantastic method to learn the pronunciation of vowels using body movements. I hope you’ll love this episode as much as I do! Subscribe to Permission to Speak https://www.permissiontospeakpod.com/ Samara’s Website https://www.ladialectcoach.com/ Samara’s Instagram https://www.instagram.com/samarabay/ Bill Bryson’s Book | The mother tongue: English and how it got that way https://amzn.to/2AWz0gT Did you like this conversation? I’m sure you’re going to like these lessons: Do you change your voice when you speak English? Here’s why: https://theaccentsway.com/change-your-voice-in-english/ Improve Your Speaking Voice in ENGLISH to Sound Powerful and Confident: https://theaccentsway.com/improve-your-speaking-voice-in-english/ American INTONATION – What They don’t Teach You in School | The Secrets of Native Speakers: https://theaccentsway.com/american-intonation/ How to Practice Your Intonation In English [Podcast]: https://hadarshemesh.com/podcast/13/ Join our Facebook community to connect with non-native English learners from all over the world: https://theaccentsway.com/influency-community/

Todos nós temos aquela voz na cabeça que conversa com a gente. Mas todos mesmo? Ou alguns não têm? Confira no papo entre o leigo curioso, Ken Fujioka, e o cientista PhD, Altay de Souza. OUÇA (51min 13s) Naruhodo! é o podcast pra quem tem fome de aprender. Ciência, senso comum, curiosidades, desafios e muito mais. Com o leigo curioso, Ken Fujioka, e o cientista PhD, Altay de Souza. Edição: Reginaldo Cursino. http://naruhodo.b9.com.br PARCERIA: ALURA A Alura tem mais de 1.000 cursos de diversas áreas e é a maior plataforma de cursos online da América Latina -- e você tem acesso a todos com uma só mensalidade. Aproveite o desconto de R$100 para ouvintes Naruhodo no link: https://www.alura.com.br/promocao/naruhodo APOIO NESTE EPISÓDIO: KOPENHAGEN Chegou Keep Kop: é gostoso, é crocante e é uma mão na roda. Vem numa embalagem fáceis de manusear e práticas para levar para qualquer lugar: é só puxar, abrir, comer e guardar de volta na mochila. Em vários sabores: tem o nano lajotinha, o caramelo flor de sal, flocos de arroz, o de cookie rum e até pipoca com cobertura de chocolate. Experimente Keep Kop! https://www.kopenhagen.com.br/keep-kop REFERÊNCIAS Today I Learned That Not Everyone Has An Internal Monologue And It Has Ruined My Day https://ryanandrewlangdon.wordpress.com/2020/01/28/today-i-learned-that-not-everyone-has-an-internal-monologue-and-it-has-ruined-my-day/ Vygotsky - Thinking and Speech https://www.marxists.org/archive/vygotsky/works/words/Thinking-and-Speech.pdf Thought as action: Inner speech, self-monitoring, and auditory verbal hallucinations http://community.dur.ac.uk/c.p.fernyhough/papers/J&FC&C.pdf The Voices Within: The History and Science of How We Talk to Ourselves https://books.google.co.uk/books?id=0XT3CgAAQBAJ&q=if%20children%20lack%20inner%20speech#v=snippet&q=if%20children%20lack%20inner%20speech&f=false The phenomena of inner experience https://www.sciencedirect.com.sci-hub.tw/science/article/abs/pii/S1053810008000032?via%3Dihub Self‐understanding and social cognitive development https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/0300443880400102 Introjection: A form of Social Learning https://pdfs.semanticscholar.org/14f3/b86f4d038400430162186eb33c16bac43837.pdf The voice of self-control: Blocking the inner voice increases impulsive responding https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0001691810001368 Self‐understanding and social cognitive development. https://www.tandfonline.com.sci-hub.tw/doi/abs/10.1080/0300443880400102 The inner voice https://aeon.co/essays/our-inner-narrator-gives-us-continuity-and-a-sense-of-self Neurons along the auditory pathway exhibit a hierarchical organization of prediction error https://www.nature.com/articles/s41467-017-02038-6 How Brain Reveals Mind https://pdfs.semanticscholar.org/14f3/b86f4d038400430162186eb33c16bac43837.pdf Naruhodo #67 - Como funciona o cérebro quando conversamos com nós mesmos? https://www.b9.com.br/shows/naruhodo/naruhodo-67-como-funciona-o-cerebro-quando-conversamos-com-nos-mesmos/ Naruhodo #177 - Por que criamos amigos imaginários? https://www.b9.com.br/shows/naruhodo/naruhodo-177-por-que-criamos-amigos-imaginarios/ Naruhodo #196 - Por que colecionamos coisas? https://www.b9.com.br/shows/naruhodo/naruhodo-196-por-que-colecionamos-coisas/ Podcasts das #Minas: DICIONÁRIO FEMINISTA #MulheresPodcasters https://open.spotify.com/show/6gS3V1exKZBt3f4QqxKkcj APOIE O NARUHODO! Você sabia que pode ajudar a manter o Naruhodo no ar? Ao contribuir, você pode ter acesso ao grupo fechado no Telegram, receber conteúdos exclusivos e ter vantagens especiais. Assine o apoio mensal pelo PicPay: https://picpay.me/naruhodopodcast

Fiddy & Izzy talk about Tiger Woods amazing 5th Masters! Will Tiger go out on top or continue this epic career? Speaking of monumental moments, The Lakers are out of Magic as they part ways with their Head Coach, Luke Walton. Could this be rock bottom for the Purple & Gold...? Well, how about them Dodgers! The guys end this podcast with some traffic tickets talk. Not sure how they got to this topic but then again this is HOW WE TALK!   Subscribe, rate & review to help support the show!Follow us: https://www.instagram.com/howwetalkpodcast/ https://www.facebook.com/howwetalkpodcast/ https://twitter.com/HowWeTalkPod www.HowWeTalkPodcast.com https://www.youtube.com/HowWeTalkPodcast

GET OVER HERE!!! That's right, the Scorpion himself dropped by the How We Talk studio, not to FINISH HIM!!! but to finish... it. In addition to discussing his early martial arts days to his role as Mortal Kombat's Scorpion and WMAC Masters Red Dragon, Chris battles one of life's greatest opponents. The it I am referring to is BULLYING. With his new book & program, Bully Proof Fitness, he set his goal to get one million kids #BullyProof by 2025. Please help by sharing the ultimate guide for parents against bullies. For more information visit www.bullyprooffitness.com. Help us help them! Thank you Chris Casamassa.https://www.instagram.com/chriscasamassa/https://www.facebook.com/chriscasamassa117http://www.chriscasamassa.com/   https://www.stopbullying.gov/   Subscribe, rate & review to help support the show!Follow us:https://www.instagram.com/howwetalkpodcast/https://www.facebook.com/howwetalkpodcast/https://twitter.com/HowWeTalkPodwww.HowWeTalkPodcast.comhttps://www.youtube.com/HowWeTalkPodcastAlso listen & download the audio on YouTubeSearch HowWeTalkPodcast (all one word)

In the spirit of giving during the Thanksgiving holidays we give thanks to all our previous guest and with the upcoming soft opening of Up N Smoke Tacos here in our every own Covina we thought to replay our interview with Jimmy Sauces, owner of Up N Smoke Tacos and Sauces, he went from operating a semi-truck to now operating a taco truck. As CEO of a rising small business, Jimmy has sauced his way through all challenges thrown at him. Tune in as we taco-bout-it here on How We Talk! Follow Jimmy...https://upnsmoketacosandsauces.com/https://www.facebook.com/upinsmoketacos/https://www.instagram.com/upnsmoketacos/https://twitter.com/UpnSmoketacos_ Subscribe, rate & review to help support the show!Follow us:www.HowWeTalkPodcast.comhttps://www.instagram.com/howwetalkpodcast/https://www.facebook.com/howwetalkpodcast/https://twitter.com/HowWeTalkPodhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCH9lI_EF2RrCXf-IxZ8VAsgAlso listen & download the audio on YouTube search HowWeTalkPodcast (all one word)

Whoa, that's How We Talk!Family man, Andres Castaneda sits in the studio to discuss the importance of service within the community and how it ties into civic engagement but most importantly that SERVICE starts at home. "It's important to lead by example!" Enjoy the show and serve your community! To support Andres in all his noble deeds...Give him a follow him: https://www.facebook.com/bigandreschttps://www.instagram.com/acastanedalife/https://www.instagram.com/wckiwanis/http://www.westcovinakiwanis.com/christmas-parade.html Subscribe, rate & review to help support the show!Follow us:www.HowWeTalkPodcast.comhttps://www.instagram.com/howwetalkpodcast/https://www.facebook.com/howwetalkpodcast/https://twitter.com/HowWeTalkPodhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCH9lI_EF2RrCXf-IxZ8VAsgAlso listen & download the audio on YouTube, search HowWeTalkPodcast (all one word)

We sat down for an exclusive conversation with John "The Gladiator" Molina Jr. He gives us a small taste of what goes on in the life of a boxer! https://www.instagram.com/johnmolinajr135/https://www.facebook.com/johnmolinajrhttps://twitter.com/johnmolinajr135 Follow us subscribe, rate & review to help support the show!How We Talk...www.HowWeTalkPodcast.comhttps://www.instagram.com/howwetalkpodcast/https://www.facebook.com/howwetalkpodcast/https://twitter.com/HowWeTalkPod https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCH9lI_EF2RrCXf-IxZ8VAsgAlso listen & download the audio on YouTube search HowWeTalkPodcast (all one word)

Brenda Villanueva better known as Troquera_B  is a young woman in a man driven industry (no pun intended). She continues to face many obstacles in her journey and with her relentless spirit there is no stop in her. Watch to learn Troquera_B's story and find out where or who she gets her strong will from. Also, a special friend of the show, Laura Machuca, joins in to discuss the outcome of her latest truck show here on How We Talk.   Troquera Bhttps://www.instagram.com/troquera_b/https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100009391618918   Laura Machucahttps://www.instagram.com/truck_club_publishing/www.truckclubmagazine.com   Subscribe, rate & review to help support the show!   Follow How We Talk...www.HowWeTalkPodcast.comhttps://www.instagram.com/howwetalkpodcast/https://www.facebook.com/howwetalkpodcast/https://twitter.com/HowWeTalkPod

What’s up everybody! Not only did we create this platform to showcase our local community but also to listen, learn & talk with our loved ones. This is a special podcast for us. We get to talk to 4 boys, our sons Vincent & Levi with Noah & Ben give us an exclusive behind-the-scenes look into the mind of an 8yr old. A child’s mind is like a blank book - Walt Disney Our adult minds are overloaded with data and we are so busy trying to pass over our knowledge that we forget to listen to these kids. We can all learn a thing or two from an innocent child’s point of view. So please tune in to get a sample of what we get when we listen & learn... on How We Talk! Disclaimer: they're 8 years old, lol 100% suitable for children.   Follow How We Talk...www.HowWeTalkPodcast.comhttps://www.instagram.com/howwetalkpodcast/https://www.facebook.com/howwetalkpodcast/https://twitter.com/HowWeTalkPodhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCH9lI_EF2RrCXf-IxZ8VAsg

July 30, 2018 Discussion on the book "How We Talk," Filling the Emptiness Within, Addiction by Dr. Farid Holakouee

Jimmy Sauces, owner of Up N Smoke Tacos and Sauces, went from operating a semi-truck to now operating a taco truck. As CEO of a rising small business, Jimmy has sauced his way through all challenges thrown at him. Tune in as we taco-bout-it here on the How We Talk shop!  Follow Jimmy... https://upnsmoketacosandsauces.com/ https://www.facebook.com/upinsmoketacos/ https://www.instagram.com/upnsmoketacos/ https://twitter.com/UpnSmoketacos_   Follow How We Talk... www.HowWeTalkPodcast.com https://www.instagram.com/howwetalkpodcast/ https://www.facebook.com/howwetalkpodcast/ https://twitter.com/HowWeTalkPod https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCH9lI_EF2RrCXf-IxZ8VAsg      

  Nick Enfield is a professor of linguistics at the University of Sydney and author of "How We Talk." In the book, Nick explains the real inner workings and science of a conversation based on his research on language, culture, cognition and social life. Often we take our words, dialogue and communication for granted and in this show we dig into the fascinating topic of how we can draw the best out of ourselves and others in the discussions we have in and out of work.      See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Video games are a great activity for kids out of school for the summer. But is it rude to play video games while the maid is cleaning? Today on Ask a House Cleaner you'll find out what to do when the maid is trying to clean around a kid playing video games. Whether it's expected for the kid to acknowledge the maid while he or she is cleaning your room. Is your maid interrupting video games at your house? Angela Brown, The House Cleaning Guru says "come clean with me", or at least let me know what not to unplug or move. It's all about communication and being a savvy cleaner. THIS SHOW WAS SPONSORED BY SAVVY CLEANER - House Cleaner Training and Certification. COMPLETE SHOW NOTES for this episode found at http://askahousecleaner.com/video-games/ RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE: What Do You Stand For? For Kids: A Guide to Building Character - http://amzn.to/2v6mODw  Teaching Kids Respect - http://amzn.to/2vAxFIX  Raising Respectful Kids in a Rude World: Teaching Your Children the Power of Mutual Respect and Consideration - http://amzn.to/2us0ZMx  ParentSpeak: What's Wrong with How We Talk to Our Children--and What to Say Instead - http://amzn.to/2fgoMgv  You Can't Make Me (But I Can Be Persuaded), Revised and Updated Edition: Strategies for Bringing Out the Best in Your Strong-Willed Child - http://amzn.to/2ffE9WM  Do Unto Otters: A Book About Manners - http://amzn.to/2vAAr0z  Modern Manners: Tools to Take You to the Top - http://amzn.to/2hw6SXO  Everyday Etiquette: How to Navigate 101 Common and Uncommon Social Situations - http://amzn.to/2hvlxTf  DID YOU KNOW YOU CAN WATCH THIS EPISODE ON YOUTUBE? https://youtu.be/EMqbEGfJzuI  GOT A QUESTION for the show? There is a microphone at http://askahousecleaner.com/show click on the blue button and record. HOUSE CLEANING TIPS VAULT (VIP Premium Tips – Free) https://savvycleaner.com/tips  FOLLOW SAVVY CLEANER FOR TIPS AND TRAINING ON SOCIAL MEDIA https://Facebook.com/SavvyCleaner https://Twitter.com/SavvyCleaner https://Instagram.com/SavvyCleaner https://Pinterest.com/SavvyCleaner https://Linkedin.com/in/SavvyCleaner Ask a House Cleaner is a daily show where you get to ask your house cleaning questions and we provide answers. Learn how to clean and what chemicals to use on various surfaces. Learn the fastest way to start a cleaning business as well as marketing and advertising tips to grow your cleaning service. Ever wonder how to find top quality house cleaners, housekeepers, and maids? We’ve got you covered from recruiting to employee motivation and retention tactics. Discover strategies to boost your cleaning clientele and how to provide outstanding customer service. And we’ve got time-saving hacks for DIY home cleaners and more. Hosted by Angela Brown, 25-year house cleaning expert and founder of Savvy Cleaner Training for House Cleaners and Maids. DISCLAIMER: During the shows we recommend services, sites, and products to help you improve your cleaning and grow your cleaning business. We have partnerships or sponsorships with these companies to provide you with discounts, and savings. By clicking on and buying from these links we may receive a commission which helps pay for the production costs of the show. Support the show so we can continue to bring you free tips and strategies to improve your cleaning and help you grow your cleaning business. THANK YOU! SPONSORSHIPS & BRANDS: We do work with sponsors and brands. If you are interested in working with us and you have a product or service that is cohesive to the cleaning industry reach out to our promotional department info[at]AskaHouseCleaner.com

Paul Charney Chair of the Zionist Federation on the relevance of Yom Ha'atzmaut, Author Julian Furman talks about his new novel ‘This is How We Talk', Daniel Burger tells us how the organization has benefitted from a new ambulance bought with British fundraisers money, David Gould of NW London tells us why he is raising awareness for stem cell donation and on the Schmooze we discuss what Yom Ha'atzmaut means to British Jews.

  Please Support The Show With a Donation   This week we talk to Charles Fernyhough about the voices in our heads Charles Fernyhough is a writer and psychologist. His non-fiction book about his daughter’s psychological development, A Thousand Days of Wonder, was translated into eight languages. His book on autobiographical memory, Pieces of Light was shortlisted for the 2013 Royal Society Winton Prize for Science Books.  His latest non-fiction book is called The Voices Within. He is the author of two novels, The Auctioneer and A Box Of Birds. He has written for TIME Ideas, Nature, New Scientist, BBC Focus, Guardian, Observer, Financial Times, Literary Review, Sunday Telegraph, Lancet, Scotland on Sunday, Huffington Post, Daily Beast and Sydney Morning Herald. He blogs for the US magazine Psychology Today and has made numerous radio appearances in the UK and US. He has acted as consultant on theatre productions on Broadway and the West End (‘The River’, Royal Court, 2012, and The Circle in the Square, 2014; ‘Old Times’, Harold Pinter Theatre, 2013), numerous TV (BBC1 and Channel 4) and radio documentaries and several other artistic projects.  He was shortlisted for the 2015 Transmission Prize for the communication of ideas. He is a part-time chair in psychology at Durham University, UK, where he leads the interdisciplinary Hearing the Voice project, investigating the phenomenon of auditory verbal hallucinations.   In This Interview, Charles Fernyhough and I Discuss... His new book, The Voices Within: The History and Science of How We Talk to Ourselves The stages of speech in childhood development and how it relates to our inner voice in life The theory that says that our internal speech comes from external speech that we hear/the dialogue we hear as a child which we eventually move inward and it becomes our internal speech Vygotsky's theory What inner speech does for us Inner speech plays a role in regulating behavior It has a role in imagination and creativity It has a role in creating a self That the fact that we create and construct a self, doesn't mean that it is an illusion The theory that says that inner speech is how we bring different parts of our brain together into a coherent narrative How using inner speech skillfully can give us significant advantages in life That talking out loud to yourself actually probably serves some useful function Social speech - private speech - inner speech As the task gets more difficult, children and adults move from inner speech to more private speech How difficult it is to study inner speech The dialogic thinking model How his research that shows it can be helpful to teach mentally ill people who hear voices in their head to think differently about this form of inner speech Theories about why people hear different voices in their head That there is a strong correlation between childhood trauma and hearing voices in one's head as an adult That people hear the voices of the people in books that they've read Experiential crossing How to work with your inner speech to improve the quality of the experience of your life How difficult it is to silence your inner voice so it's better to learn how to productively interact with it, even dialogue with it     Please Support The Show with a Donation      

"Be a good girl!" "Do you need a time-out?" Make sure you say thank you!" The way we talk to our kids is so generic, it could be coming from a handbook. We tell them to behave responsibly, to be considerate of others, and to be mindful of their actions, but is the message we're trying to communicate the one they're receiving? My guest today, Jennifer Lehr, is the author of ParentSpeak: What's Wrong with How We Talk to Our Children--and What to Say Instead, and she's sharing her thoughts on the traditional approaches to communicating with kids, how kids actually interpret them, and how we can improve our communication tools to be more respectful and effective in talking to our children.

This week on Mom Talk Radio, Jennifer Lehr, author of PARENTSPEAK: What’s Wrong with How We Talk to Our Children- and What to Say Instead, deconstructs “Parentspeak”  and the disconnect between messages parents think they are sending and ones the children are actually receiving. Spotlight on Moms features Melissa Garcia of ConsumerQueen.com. Dr. Martha Cortes, dental-sleep medicine expert, shares how sleep apnea can have behavioral symptoms like ADHD. Dr. Joe Dilley, talks managing kids screen time. Jennie Allen, author of Nothing to Prove: Why We Can Stop Trying So Hard, shares why in her newest book, she urges women to stop striving.

Interview with Jennifer Lehr, author of "ParentSpeak," about what’s wrong with how we talk to our children—and what to say instead. The post What’s Wrong with How We Talk to Our Children appeared first on Mr. Dad.

Jennifer Lehr, author of ParentSpeak: What's Wrong with How We Talk to Our Children--and What to Say Instead is the featured guest this week. In our conversation, Jennifer will explain what "parentspeak" is and why we should change some of the common phrases we use with our kids. Many of the common phrases Jennifer says not to use are phrases I say to my kids all the time, including "You're so cute," "Be careful," and "Can you say thank you?" These are phrases I'll probably continue to use, for better or worse, but I do think Jennifer makes some good points about how they have the potential to send a different message than what was intended. Listen to the episode and you be the judge of whether "parentspeak" is a problem, too politically correct or somewhere in between.