Podcasts about strong like water

Janell welcomes Aundi Kolber, a Licensed Professional Counselor and author, to explore how the flow of strength helps us move beyond trauma to true flourishing. Aundi reminds us "that seeing resurrection is no small thing."• Aundi explains the "window of tolerance" – the optimal zone where we can feel emotions without being overwhelmed.• Trauma can narrow our window of tolerance, making us feel unsafe even when we're secure.• The "flow of strength" moves us from situational survival responses to integrated strength that combines fierceness with tenderness.• Our nervous systems need "metabolization" to process difficult experiences into long-term memory rather than fragmented triggers.• Practical grounding techniques help orient us to present safety when we feel activated by past trauma.• Practicing simple awareness techniques, such as "I am aware of the light coming through my room," helps regulate our nervous system.• True strength is "the capacity to meet life's challenges," not suppressing emotions or white-knuckling through difficulty.• "We work FROM love, not FOR love" – our value doesn't come from how well we heal.• Self-compassion practices might need to start with small steps if safety feels threatening after prolonged trauma.Explore more through Aundi's books "Try Softer," "Strong Like Water," and "Take What You Need: Soft Words for Hard Days." Order them here.Watch Aundi as she describes what it means "to try softer." Aundi on YouTube.Support the showBegin Your Heartlifter's Journey: Visit and subscribe to Heartlift Central on Substack. This is our new online coaching center and meeting place for Heartlifters worldwide. Download the "Overcoming Hurtful Words" Study Guide PDF: BECOMING EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY Meet me on Instagram: @janellrardon Leave a review and rate the podcast: WRITE A REVIEW Learn more about my books and work: Janell Rardon Make a tax-deductible donation through Heartlift International

What do you really need? And what would it look like to engage life with a deeper sense of agency and self-compassion? Today on Unhurried Living Podcast, Gem is joined by professional counselor and best-selling author Aundi Kolber, whose new book, Take What You Need: Soft Words for Hard Days, invites us to embrace the transformative power of kindness toward ourselves. We’ll explore how early experiences shape the way we suppress our needs, why it’s so hard to name and honor what we truly feel, and how practicing softness can actually make us stronger. In this conversation, you’ll learn: ✨ How our past experiences shape the way we engage with our needs and emotions ✨ Why self-compassion is a powerful (and often overlooked) tool for transformation ✨ A simple prayer or body practice you can use in moments of stress Join us as we dive deep into what it means to cultivate resilience, trust, and a deeper friendship with God—even in the hard places. ________________________________ Aundi Kolber is a licensed professional counselor (LPC), trauma-informed therapist, and best-selling author of Try Softer and Strong Like Water. With a compassionate and holistic approach, Aundi integrates psychology, faith, and neuroscience to help individuals experience emotional healing and resilience. She is passionate about empowering people to move toward wholeness by learning to honor their needs, trust their inner wisdom, and cultivate a life of deep compassion. Through her writing, speaking, and therapeutic work, Aundi offers a refreshing invitation to wholeness—one that prioritizes gentleness, self-compassion, and deep connection with God. ______________________________________________________ Connect with Gem on Instagram and learn more on the Unhurried Living website and her new book, Hold That Thought: Sorting Through the Voices in Our Heads Learn about PACE: Certificate in Leadership and Soul Care Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Sarah talks with Aundi Kolber (therapist and author of Try Softer™ and Strong Like Water) about the interplay between authenticity and attachment. They talk about how our sense of belonging and ability to connect is affected when we carry unrepaired relational wounds. Aundi also offers some hard-earned wisdom on how we can take small steps toward healing while still honoring the experiences that have brought us where we are.Find episode notes and ways to connect with Sarah at sarahewestfall.comDiscover more about Aundi and her work at AundiKolber.comHuman Together is written and recorded by Sarah E. Westfall and is produced and edited by Ben Westfall. Theme music is “Sit with Me” by Sarah Scharbrough.

Tammy McDaniel is no stranger to struggles with mental health. What started with a dark season of battling postpartum depression has turned into over 20 years of Tammy learning how to manage and care for her mental health through many different seasons of life. In the last few years especially, Tammy has taken intentional steps towards being mentally healthy, and she has learned about the interplay between spiritual and mental health – as well as emotional and physical health – that have helped her to understand how depression and faith can coexist, and how she can partner with God in seeking to be healthy in all areas of life. Resources mentioned in this episode include: Strong Like Water by Aundi Kolber Try Softer by Aundi Kolber The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk M.D. The Place We Find Ourselves Podcast with Adam Young, LCSW, DMiv

On this episode: Aaron is tired and cleans the fridge. Nate talks about the dragon of our age. Our Guest: Aundi Kolber - licensed professional counselor, author, speaker, wife, and mom. She shares her journey of being raised in the Catholic church and complex trauma. She encourages us to be present, loving, honoring, and respecting ourselves along the journey as she discusses her books Strong Like Water and Try Softer. Links:   Aundi's Website Aundi's Instagram Psychology Today Aundi's Books: Try Softer Try Softer Guided Journey Strong Like Water Strong Like Water Guided Journey Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

The Walk A Little Slower Podcast with Tanner Olson A conversation with Aundi Kolber Aundi Kolber is an author and trauma therapist living in Michigan. Grab Aundi's Books! Strong Like Water Try Softer Find Aundi online Support the podcast ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon.com/writtentospeak⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Substack ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tannerolson.substack.com/⁠⁠⁠ Walk A Little Slower (book) ⁠https://amzn.to/3DTDD6C⁠ Continue: Poems and Prayers of Hope ⁠⁠⁠https://amzn.to/371HByQ

Author and therapist Aundi Kolber joins Deedra and Megan today for a beautiful and compassionate conversation about healing from trauma. Aundi's new book, Strong Like Water Guided Journey, is available for pre-order and releases March 26! You can connect further with Aundi on Instagram, and don't forget that our DG Community members can see a bonus interview where Aundi answers the question, "What's been left unsaid?" Aundi Kolber is a licensed professional counselor (MA, LPC) and the best selling author of the critically acclaimed "Try Softer” and her newest book "Strong like Water." She has received additional training in her specialization of trauma- and body-centered therapies and is passionate about the integration of faith and psychology. Aundi has appeared on Good Morning America, regularly speaks at national events, and is a frequent guest on podcasts such as The Lazy Genius, Typology, and The Rise and Fall of Mars Hill. As a survivor of trauma, Aundi brings hard-won knowledge about the work of change, the power of redemption, and the beauty of experiencing God with us in our pain. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/dauntless-grace-exchange/message

Today I am joined by a remarkable woman. Aundi Kolber is an author, speaker, and therapist, and her books Try Softer and Strong Like Water are insightful, kind, compassionate and so wise. Aundi is a trauma expert and a trauma survivor, and I trust her so profoundly to give sound counsel on a really difficult subject. This conversation is for you if you have been through or are going through trauma, or you know someone who has or is surviving something traumatic. Pretty sure that covers all of us. Listen in as Aundi beautifully reminds us we are not alone and that we are made to be free, whole and flourishing.  Aundi Kolber is a licensed professional counselor (MA, LPC) and the author of the critically acclaimed Try Softer and her best-selling book Strong like Water. She has received additional training in her specialization of trauma- and body-centered therapies and is passionate about the integration of faith and psychology. Aundi has appeared on Good Morning America, regularly speaks at national events, and is a frequent guest on podcasts such as The Lazy Genius, Typology, and The Rise and Fall of Mars Hill. As a survivor of trauma, Aundi brings hard-won knowledge about the work of change, the power of redemption, and the beauty of experiencing God with us in our pain. Find her on Instagram @aundikolber. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠KimberlyStuart.com/podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for more from this episode.

Ever feel like you need a label across your forehead that reads FRAGILE: HANDLE WITH CARE! In big read letters? It's hard to imagine that we can be strong enough to handle all the suffering around us. In this heartening and thought-provoking conversation, Katherine sits down with therapist and author Aundi Kolber to reimagine what it means to be strong and understand how God made our bodies to adapt to heartbreak, hardship, and hurt. What We'll Cover: - What the incarnation of Christ in a human body tells us about God's design for our own bodies - Just how far we can expand our definitions of “strength” - Healthy ways to process our own trauma responses without being defined by them Show Notes: Aundi Kolber: https://aundikolber.com/ Strong Like Water: https://aundikolber.com/strong-like-water/ Try Softer: https://aundikolber.com/trysofter/ Suffer Strong by Katherine & Jay Wolf: https://hopeheals.com/books The Window of Tolerance from Dr. Dan Siegel, MD: https://www.psychologytools.com/resource/window-of-tolerance/ Gabor Maté on trading belonging for authenticity: https://youtu.be/l3bynimi8HQ?feature=shared Heather Avis: https://www.heatheravis.com/ *** Want a little hope in your inbox? ⁠⁠Sign up for the Hope Note⁠⁠, our twice-a-month digest of only the good stuff, like reflections from Katherine and a curated digest of the Internet's most redemptive content: https://hopeheals.com/hopenote Get to know us: ⁠⁠Hope Heals⁠⁠: https://hopeheals.com/ ⁠⁠Hope Heals Camp⁠⁠: https://hopeheals.com/camp ⁠⁠Mend Coffee⁠⁠: https://www.mendcoffee.org/ Instagram⁠: https://www.instagram.com/hopeheals/

Welcome to another episode of Restoring the Soul with Michael John Cusick. Today, we dive into the depths of emotional and psychological healing with Aundi Kolber as we explore the intricate interplay between somatic experiences, Internal Family Systems, and the transformative power of embracing our emotions with grace and strength.In this episode, we delve into Aundi's remarkable insights on somatic awareness, the body's intuitive sense of safety, and navigating challenging emotions with curiosity rather than criticism. Aundi shares how her bestselling book, "Try Softer," has influenced the lives of many and how her journey continues in her latest work, "Strong Like Water," an exploration of strength as a dynamic and adaptable force, much like the nature of water itself.Join us as Aundi takes us through a compelling conversation about validating emotions, employing grounding techniques, and understanding trauma's impact on our perception of safety. Together, Michael and Aundi discuss how podcasts like ours serve as a beacon of connection and healing, how faith intertwines with psychological well-being, and the importance of integrating our whole selves for a compelling journey toward healing.CONTACT RESTORING THE SOUL:- Tweet us at @michaeljcusick and @PodcastRTS- Like us on Facebook- Follow us on Instagram & Twitter- Follow Michael on Twitter- Email us at info@restoringthesoul.com Thanks for listening!

We're so pleased to be joined by therapist and author Aundi Kolber, known for her acclaimed works "Try Softer" and, most recently, "Strong Like Water." As a licensed professional counselor specializing in trauma- and body-centered therapies, Aundi's expertise is deeply informed by her personal journey of healing from complex childhood trauma.  Aundi candidly shares her personal journey of healing, from confronting the profound extent of her past trauma and discovering healing methods that nurture a sense of safety, self-care, and self-compassion. She shares: “Part of my own journey, and I think my writing, I hope, I pray, that the trajectory of my writing is about that to live into these values actually has required me to get softer so I could get stronger.” We invite you to join Dan, Rachael, and Aundi on this week's episode of the Allender Center Podcast, available on your favorite listening platform. 

Our emotions and feelings can take up a lot of space at the table. There may have been times we've gotten in trouble for them, either because we've shared too much and regretted it later, or we've been scolded or blamed for being too sensitive or too much or too something. That's when we've tended to label our feelings as not okay. But this is not the only story there is. How do our feelings impact our ability to make wise decisions and what good role can they play? Listen in. LINKS + RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE: Subscribe to The Soul Minimalist on Substack The Journey Toward Wholeness by Suzanne Stabile Try Softer and Strong Like Water by Aundi Kolber Episode 170: Try Softer with Aundi Kolber Episode 213: How to Make Embodied Decisions with Dr. Hillary L. McBride The Quiet Collection app Order The Next Right Thing Guided Journal Grab a copy of my book The Next Right Thing Find me on Instagram @emilypfreeman Download the transcript

Today's episode is dedicated to my daughter, Ella.God orchestrated the reading of a passage from Strong Like Water by Aundi Kolber, a sunrise, an anniversary of a loss, and the 100th episode to intersect here with appropriate fear.Listen in to hear how September 11 brings it all together.Bible verses referred to in this episode:1 John 4:18John 1:1-5Find me on Instagram @HLynnPierce  or at hlynnpierce.comSign up for my E-mail list here!

Join Amy and therapist and author of “Try Softer” and “Strong Like Water,” Aundi Kolber, as they delve into the concept of "try softer," the idea of giving compassion to navigate the challenges of parenting children with complex medical or emotional issues. They recognize the validity of responding from a place of danger or crisis while also exploring the transformative power of paying compassionate attention to our own experiences. By turning towards reality with compassion, we can process and move on from threats, accurately assess our own needs, and create practices for healing. Discover the importance of acknowledging pain, finding support, and ultimately experiencing goodness and healing simultaneously in this illuminating episode. Ep,137; July 18, 2023Key Moments:[2:48] Honor the reality, respond with compassion. [9:15] Importance of grounding and connecting with your support people[21:15] Moving beyond your crisis/situational strength[33:29] How to help siblings work through situations without trauma themselvesResources:Try SofterStrong Like Water Aundi's Website IG: @aundikolber If you enjoyed the show:Have you purchased our new book, The Other Side of Special? Subscribe to our newsletter on the Take Heart WebsiteGet our free resource on finding Gratitude, Peace, and HopeReview and like us on Apple Podcasts Share us with others from wherever you listen to podcastsFollow us on Instagram @takeheartspecialmomsFind Amy at www.amyjbrown.com/  or on Instagram @amyjbrown_writerFind Carrie at www.carriemholt.com or on Instagram @carriemholtFind Sara at www.saraclime.com or on Instagram @saraclimeSupport the show

Could there be another way to be strong, something different from bearing every burden on our own? This week, writer, speaker, and licensed professional counselor Aundi Kolber has offered a prayer for those of us who are parenting while healing from our own trauma. We pray these words meet you and feel like a balm in the tenderest places of your heart.   You can order Aundi's book, Strong Like Water, here. Follow her and her work through her website and on Instagram at @aundikolber.   Kayla has a new book coming this September! Every Season Sacred is an invitation to ask big questions, embrace faithful rhythms, and experience God's mysterious, loving presence together. You don't have to have all the answers—and if we're honest, many answers aren't ours to have. This is the beauty of faith. To learn more and preorder your copy, visit kaylacraig.com/newbook.   You can check out Liturgies for Parents on Instagram for more prayers and encouragement and pick up your own copy of To Light Their Way wherever books are sold. For glimpses of Kayla's experiences with parenting and faith, find her on Instagram at @kayla_craig.   Subscribe to us on your favorite podcast app so you never miss an episode. You can also help others find us by subscribing and leaving an honest review.   This podcast is made possible by our sponsor, Bethany Christian Services. Learn more about how—together—we can change the world through family by visiting bethany.org/kayla.   The Liturgies for Parents Podcast is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual guidance to help you grow into the perfectly imperfect parent you want to be, visit www.ChristianParenting.org.

Do you feel like you have to stay strong to survive? Aundi Kolber, a licensed professional counselor and author, talks with Amy Julia Becker about her latest book, Strong Like Water. They discuss how to:become strong in new waysreceive and participate in healinglive with compassion towards ourselves and carry love in our bodies__Guest Bio“Aundi Kolber is a licensed professional counselor (MA, LPC) and author of the critically acclaimed Try Softer. She has received additional training in her specialization of trauma- and body-centered therapies and is passionate about the integration of faith and psychology. Aundi regularly speaks at local and national events, and she has appeared on podcasts such as The Lazy Genius with Kendra Adachi, Typology, Go and Tell Gals, and The Next Right Thing with Emily P. Freeman. As a survivor of trauma, Aundi brings hard-won knowledge about the work of change, the power of redemption, and the beauty of experiencing God with us in our pain.”__Connect Online:Aundi's websiteAundi on InstagramAundi on Twitter__On the Podcast:Small Talk AudiobookBook: Strong like Water: Finding the Freedom, Safety, and Compassion to Move through Hard Things--and Experience True Flourishing Dr. Gabor Maté__Transcript:For transcript and more, go to: amyjuliabecker.com/aundi-kolber/__Season 6 of the Love Is Stronger Than Fear podcast connects to themes in my latest book, To Be Made Well, which you can order here! Learn more about my writing and speaking at amyjuliabecker.com.*A transcript of this episode will be available within one business day on my website, and a video with closed captions will be available on my YouTube Channel.Connect with me: Instagram Facebook Twitter Website Thanks for listening!

In this conversation with author, counselor and trauma survivor, Aundi Kolber, we learn new and more expansive definitions of strength. In her latest book, Strong Like Water, Aundi combines science, psychology, some hard fought knowledge, and the love of God to show us that while there's no way through but through, healing is available to us. Aundi is knowledgeable and compassionate, tender and fierce, humble and bold. With vast knowledge and a talent for teaching, she gives us compassionate language for understanding our responses, which responses serve us best and how all of our responses— whether a raging rapid or a gentle trickle— can be strong like water. Connect with Aundi here: https://aundikolber.com/ Subscribe/Rate Never miss out on an episode by subscribing to our channel here (https://m.youtube.com/c/AllisonSullivan?sub_confirmation) Help other people find the show by sharing this video on your social media. Thanks! Connect with Allison:

Deedra and Megan have a conversation about the relationship between fear and disconnection and how connection is the remedy for... everything. In Aundi Kolber's new book Strong Like Water, she explains how co-regulation keeps us steady, and how we can find that in the with-ness of God, our self, and others. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/dauntless-grace-exchange/message

Aundi Kolber is a licensed professional counselor (LPC), speaker, and author of the groundbreaking book Try Softer and its companion, The Try Softer Guided Journey. Aundi is the owner of Kolber Counseling, LLC, established in 2009. In addition to her MA in community counseling, she has received additional training in her specialization of trauma- and body-centered therapies, including the highly researched and regarded eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) therapy.As a survivor of trauma and a lifelong learner, Aundi brings hard-won knowledge around the work of change, the power of redemption, and the beauty of experiencing God with us in our pain.In This EpisodeAundi's websiteStrong like Water. Finding the Freedom, Safety, and Compassion to Move through Hard Things—and Experience True Flourishing.---What's new with The Trauma Therapist Project!The Trauma 5: gold nuggets from my 700+ interviewsThe Trauma Therapist Newsletter: a monthly resource of information and inspiration dedicated to trauma therapists.This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5739761/advertisement

Aundi Kolber is a trusted friend here at Revelation Wellness who speaks such truth for us as we walk through the healing process in our bodies. This episode is for those who want to grow or want deeper freedom but still carry pain that hasn't been resolved. Aundi not only shares her own traumatic journey, but she speaks real hope for our bodies to be able to move through the pain and into deeper healing. This episode is like hanging out with two of the wisest women who carry the biggest banners for freedom! You're going to want to get under this piñata! Aundi is a licensed therapist and author of the beautiful new book, Strong Like Water, and one of our favorites, Try Softer (you can listen to that episode here,  #421). You can connect with Aundi at aundikolber.com. We are so EXCITED that The Body Revelation launch season is here! That's right! Alisa's new book, The Body Revelation, is available for pre-order now! Each pre-order gives you exclusive content and offers, such as the audiobook narrated by Alisa, discounts on The Body Revelation clothing line, and so much more! Click here to pre-order and learn more!  Have you downloaded the RW App yet? Before you hit play, go to the app store and download the free RW App. You can also check out our exclusive REVING the Word episodes for RW+ subscribers! Try RW+ out free for seven days and press play on our brand new workout, RevXing the Word.  We love our Rev community and think you will too! Be sure to get connected with us at: The Official Revelation Wellness Facebook / Instagram / RevWell TV / Youtube   Your reviews matter to us and help spread the good news, so please leave us one where you listen to your podcast! If we read your review on our show, we'll send you a gift from the Revelation Wellness Store!   We'd also love to hear from you! So leave us a VOICE MESSAGE here!  Tell us what you thought about this episode and how God met you in this episode.  

Aundi Kolber is a trusted friend here at Revelation Wellness who speaks such truth for us as we walk through the healing process in our bodies. This episode is for those who want to grow or want deeper freedom but still carry pain that hasn't been resolved. Aundi not only shares her own traumatic journey, but she speaks real hope for our bodies to be able to move through the pain and into deeper healing. This episode is like hanging out with two of the wisest women who carry the biggest banners for freedom! You're going to want to get under this piñata! Aundi is a licensed therapist and author of the beautiful new book, Strong Like Water, and one of our favorites, Try Softer (you can listen to that episode here,  #421). You can connect with Aundi at aundikolber.com. We are so EXCITED that The Body Revelation launch season is here! That's right! Alisa's new book, The Body Revelation, is available for pre-order now! Each pre-order gives you exclusive content and offers, such as the audiobook narrated by Alisa, discounts on The Body Revelation clothing line, and so much more! Click here to pre-order and learn more!  Have you downloaded the RW App yet? Before you hit play, go to the app store and download the free RW App. You can also check out our exclusive REVING the Word episodes for RW+ subscribers! Try RW+ out free for seven days and press play on our brand new workout, RevXing the Word.  We love our Rev community and think you will too! Be sure to get connected with us at: The Official Revelation Wellness Facebook / Instagram / RevWell TV / Youtube   Your reviews matter to us and help spread the good news, so please leave us one where you listen to your podcast! If we read your review on our show, we'll send you a gift from the Revelation Wellness Store!   We'd also love to hear from you! So leave us a VOICE MESSAGE here!  Tell us what you thought about this episode and how God met you in this episode.  

Do you catastrophize? struggle with taking a compliment? Are you a mind reader? A minimizer? Or do you tend to take things personally? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you do not want to miss today's episode. We're discussing 12 common thinking traps, what psychologists call cognitive distortions. These are ways of thinking that trip up every single one of us. The messages you tell yourself have a direct impact on the health of your relationships, so this is a great one to share with your family or friends. Here's what we cover: 1. 12 common thinking traps 2. How to avoid toxic shame spirals 3. The problem with mind reading 4. How to stop taking things personally 5. The trap of emotional reasoning 6. Why we all need to learn how to take a compliment Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here. Do you have questions for Dr. Alison?⁠ Leave them here. Want to receive free bonus content? ⁠⁠Sign up for my free weekly email here. Thanks to our sponsors: Go to ⁠www.organifi.com/bestofyou⁠ today and use code BESTOFYOU for 20% off your order today. Order Aundi Kolber's new book, Strong Like Water today! Check out Nuts.com/bestofyou. You'll receive a free gift and free shipping when you spend $29 or more! Visit hiyahealth.com/BESTOFYOU and get your kids the full-body nourishment they need to grow into healthy adults. Music by Andy Luiten Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.

This week we're digging into intelligence. And believe me, it's not what you were taught! If you've struggled with comparing yourself to others, feeling inadequate, or unsure of your unique gifts (and that's pretty much all of us), you don't want to miss this episode! Here's what we cover: 1. What is intelligence? 2. Why it's different than what you were taught 3. 9 different types of intelligence 4. 2 toxic consequences of comparing ourselves to others 5. 9 ways to connect with God Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here Do you have questions for Dr. Alison?⁠ Leave them here Want to receive free bonus content? ⁠⁠Sign up for my free weekly email here Thanks to our sponsors: Go to ⁠www.organifi.com/bestofyou⁠ today and use code BESTOFYOU for 20% off your order today. Get 35% off your first order of Sundays. Go to SundaysForDogs.com/BESTOFYOU or use code BESTOFYOU at checkout. Order Aundi Kolber's new book, Strong Like Water today! Music by Andy Luiten Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.

On today's episode podcast I am releasing one of the past most listened to episode. Podcast host Monique Koven is talking to trauma expert Kathy Steele about Trauma-Related Dissociation. Kathy Steel is a psychotherapist, consultant, trainer and author. She has co authored numerous books including Coping With Trauma- related Dissociation: Skills For Training Patients and Therapists & Treating Trauma - Related Dissociation. https://www.Kathy-steele.com www.isst-d.org Thank you to sponsor Tyndale House Publishers. Strong Like Water https://aundikolber.com/strong-like-water/?utm_source=healingtrauma&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=stronglikewater&utm_id=stronglikewater Meet with Monique www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com

When it comes to difficult circumstances, we've all heard the platitudes: “No pain, no gain.” “What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.” But if we spend our lives trying to be “the strong one,” we become exhausted, burned-out, and disconnected from our truest selves.What if it were different? Could there be a different way to be strong? Could strength mean more than pushing on and pushing through pain, bearing every heavy burden on our own? What if, instead, true strength were more like the tide: soft and bold, fierce and gentle, moving together as one powerful force? Today I am talking with Aundi Kolber on her latest book, Strong Like Water as we look at strength and pain and where our strength truly comes from. Follow Gem on Instagram and grab a copy of her new book Hold That Thought. You can also join her in the Replenish Community.

When it comes to difficult circumstances, we've all heard the platitudes: “No pain, no gain.” “What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.” But if we spend our lives trying to be “the strong one,” we become exhausted, burned-out, and disconnected from our truest selves.What if it were different? Could there be a different way to be strong? Could strength mean more than pushing on and pushing through pain, bearing every heavy burden on our own? What if, instead, true strength were more like the tide: soft and bold, fierce and gentle, moving together as one powerful force? Today I am talking with Aundi Kolber on her latest book, Strong Like Water as we look at strength and pain and where our strength truly comes from. Follow Gem on Instagram and grab a copy of her new book Hold That Thought. You can also join her in the Replenish Community.

Gosh, it can be hard to live in a body, let alone learn to love it. We have so many demands that compete for our attention, not to mention all the mixed up messages we get as women— how in the world are we supposed to honor these bodies God has given us? In today's episode, we're honoring these long-suffering bodies of ours. Here's what we cover: 1. Why so many of us bypass the body 2. 4 insights from psychology about the body 3. 3 ancient heresies that sneak into our modern thinking 4. The difference between what the Bible calls "flesh" and "body" 5. How to honor your body as part of spiritual practice 6. Why I am learning to dance again (but definitely not in public) Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here Want to receive free bonus content? ⁠⁠Sign up for my free weekly email here Thanks to our sponsors:     This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/ BESTOFYOU and get on your way to being your best self. Go to ⁠www.organifi.com/bestofyou⁠ today and use code BESTOFYOU for 20% off your order today.   Order Aundi Kolber's new book, Strong Like Water today! Related episodes: ⁠Episode 11⁠ How to Start Loving Your body with Christy Joy ⁠Episode 19⁠ My Stroke and a Process of Healing ⁠Episode 36⁠ How to Create Boundaries with Toxic Distractions ⁠Episode 44⁠ Befriending Anger with Rowena Day ⁠Episode 45⁠ and ⁠Episode 46⁠ Strong Like Water with Aundi Kolber Get 46% off Boundaries for Your Soul & The Best of You.   Music by Andy Luiten     Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and  any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content  and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.

Have you ever wondered what it actually means to be strong? Or how we are to love the Lord with all our strength? In today's episode, I am joined by author and trauma therapist on the Aundi Kolber, LPC, to explore the final element of integrated self series. I In her latest book, Strong Like Water, Aundi explores a new kind of strong and shares clinical and personal insight on the healing journey. Together we explore what integrated strength is and the process of the flow of strength. Additionally, we outline the importance of honoring our pain and engaging in compassionate resourcing to strengthen our awareness of self and of God.  BOOKS BY AUNDI: Try Softer: A Fresh Approach to Move Us out of Anxiety, Stress, and Survival Mode--and into a Life of Connection and Joy Strong like Water: Finding the Freedom, Safety, and Compassion to Move through Hard Things--and Experience True Flourishing FOLLOW AUNDI: https://aundikolber.com/On Instagram ASK CARLEY!Do you have a question or topic you want to be discussed on a future Q+A episode? Carley would love to hear from you! Record your message here, and Carley just might answer it on the next episode! https://www.speakpipe.com/therapyandtheology FOLLOW T+T on Instagram!https://www.instagram.com/therapyandtheologypodcast/FOLLOW CARLEY:Website: https://www.carleymarcouillier.com/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Whether you're hypervigilant or you tend to become withdrawn in the aftermath of trauma, there are certain costs to being strong - we were made well and we can live in survival mode for a long time. However, walking to freedom and safety on the other side is not only the goal, but it's accessible and present. Today we are grateful to have acclaimed trauma specialist and author Aundi Kolber, LMHC of Try Softer sharing her brand new book, Strong Like Water as we learn the way to more fluidly and safely process trauma. She offers us tips for individuals and couples as we learn the way to resiliency and ultimately to becoming strong like water together. Show Links: Get Aundi's brand new book Strong Like Water here!  Visit Aundi's website here! Meet Aundi on her Instagram here! Sign up for the Gospel for Enneagram Conference Free Registration  here! Sign up for the All-Access Pass to the conference with speaker bonuses and recordings here! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage   Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here!

“Healing requires fierceness and tenderness.” - Aundi KolberMany of us don't realize that just as God is profoundly kind and compassionate to us; we are invited to steward that compassion toward ourselves in the form of self-compassion. How do we do this? We begin to practice gentleness and attentiveness toward our wounds in the same way that God is already kind to us.On this edition, we're featuring a discussion Michael had with our good friend Aundi Kolber, congratulating her on the recent publishing of Strong Like Water on March 21st. Today, Michael and Aundi will devote their time together discussing what it means to discover self-compassion. If you're not familiar with Aundi, she is a Licensed Professional Counselor, writer, and speaker from Castle Rock, Colorado, who specializes in trauma- and body-centered therapies. As a trauma survivor, Aundi brings what she has learned about the work of change, the power of redemption, and the beauty of experiencing God in our pain. Connect with Aundi at aundikolber.com, on Facebook, and Instagram.Helpful Resources:Bonus content from AundiPrevious episodes with Aundi:Episode 110 - Aundi Kolber, "Try Softer, Part 1"Episode 111 - Aundi Kolber, "Try Softer, Part 2"Episode 70 - Aundi Kolber Part 1, “Healing Trauma: Getting Unstuck and Becoming Whole”Episode 71 - Aundi Kolber Part 2, “Healing Trauma: Getting Unstuck and Becoming Whole”Episode 199 - Aundi Kolber, "Understanding Attunement"Episode 251 - Aundi Kolber, "Strong Like Water"Discover how the barrier built by porn addiction can become a bridge to abundant life.What if lust for porn is really a search for true passion?In a world where there are 68 million searches for pornography every day and where over 70 percent of Christian men report viewing porn in the last year, it's no surprise that more and more men struggle with an addiction to this false fantasy. Common wisdom says if they just had more willpower or more faith, their fight would be over. Contact Restoring the Soul:- Tweet us at @michaeljcusick and @PodcastRTS- Like us on Facebook- Email us at info@restoringthesoul.comThanks for listening!

On today's episode I had the joy of welcoming back trauma therapist and author Aundi Kolber.  Our conversation focused around her brand new book, Strong like Water: Finding the Freedom, Safety, and Compassion to Move through Hard Things--and Experience True Flourishing . Connect with Aundi Kolber at www.aundikolber.com or on Instagram or TwitterFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/aundikolberwrites Strong Like WaterBUY ON AMAZON Thank you Tyndale House Publishers for sponsoring this episode. To meet with Monique :https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com

Trauma therapist Aundi Kolber is a guest on Spark My Muse with host Lisa Colon DeLay. With her book Strong Like Water, Kolber builds on her critically-acclaimed and much-beloved first book called Try Softer.

This episode features an interview with Laila Tarraf, author of Strong Like Water. After losing her parents and husband, Laila learned that compassion was essential in her personal and professional life. Prior to writing her book, Laila served as the Chief People Officer for Allbirds and Peet's Coffee, and was the Vice President of HR for Walmart.com. In this episode, Amanda sits down with Laila to discuss leading with love, harmony between company values and felt experience, and psychological safety.-------------------“It matters more that what your stated values are mirror the felt experience, than what those stated values are. There's a cognitive culture, which is what you say your values are and the stated words. And then there's the emotional culture. It's like, ‘Okay, but how does it feel? How are people talking to me? How are we relating to each other?' And the greater the dissonance between those two things, that's where you run into issues because then, employees are like, ‘Well, we say it's this, but what I'm seeing is this.' And that's where trust breaks down. And so it actually hurts you to have these beautifully well-articulated values and the accouterments that come with whatever you think employees are looking for; free lunches or workout rooms, but you're not able to talk to your manager. You're not clear on what your role is. Conflict is swept under the rug, So, it becomes passive aggressive. It's all of those things. It's your felt experience really, that is the true culture and the other things become like window washing and that actually ends up hurting you because then you lose the trust.” – Laila Tarraf-------------------Episode Timestamps:*(01:52): Laila's background*(05:58): Segment: Story Time*(06:14): Laila discusses her book Strong Like Water*(17:17): Laila's advice for leading with courage and love*(27:49): Segment: Ripped From The Headlines*(28:29): Skills leaders need to have to guide employees through challenging times*(31:24): Segment: Asking For a Friend*(31:49): What future changes in leadership Laila expects-------------------Links:Visit Laila's WebsiteFollow Laila on InstagramConnect with Laila on LinkedInConnect with Amanda on LinkedInwww.simpplr.com/podcast

“We are worthy to be listened to and attuned to. That is a valid and necessary human need. And the beauty is that it actually makes us able to love our neighbor as we love ourselves.” — Aundi Kolber Therapist Aundi Kolber returns to talk with us about cultivating inner strength, paying attention to our needs, and ways to stay grounded in God's love. Many of us have been raised with the idea that strength means pushing your own limits in order to achieve your goals. But what if there was another way? A way that honored your needs while also cultivating strength? In this conversation, author and therapist Aundi Kolber walks us through a fresh vision of strength as we discuss her book Strong like Water: Finding the Freedom, Safety, and Compassion to Move through Hard Things — and Experience True Flourishing. This is Aundi's third time on the podcast and I'm so glad she is back with us. Aundi's deep faith informs her understanding of strength, and the tools she suggests for growth are very relevant for anyone facing hard things while also desiring to stay grounded in God's love. Our conversation takes a deep dive into psychology as Aundi describes three types of strength and their roles in the context of healing from trauma. We touch on the concept of comparative suffering and we also discuss the way our nervous systems affect our bodily responses. Aundi generously shares a few strategies to use as “compassionate resources” — the term she uses for those practical tools that help us care for our emotional needs. And if you listen to the end of the podcast, I've included a bonus from our conversation in which Aundi talks with us about how to distinguish between self-care behaviors and numbing behaviors in ourselves. So jump right in! We're so glad you're here. — Ann Boyd For show notes or more information please visit our article at The Well. If you'd like to support the work of InterVarsity's Women Scholars and Professionals, including future podcasts such as this episode, you can do so at givetoiv.org/wsap. Thank you for listening!

Settle in for this one, friends. Aundi Kolber is one of the wisest women I know and we are going to talk deep quick about carrying the death and the life of Jesus in our bodies, different attachment theories, and building safety with God, ourselves, and others. This one is powerful. Aundi's equally beautiful and timely book, Strong Like Water is so healing. This is a great show for our married friends, our single friends, and all of us looking to be strong and soft and loved and loving. . . . .  Go to hereforyoutour.com to get your tickets to our upcoming tour this June! Want to gift a ticket to a friend? Go to anniefdowns.com/events for a printable Here For You gift ticket. . . . . Subscribe to Let's Read the Gospels with Annie F. Downs HERE. Go to https://anniefdowns.com/gospels to purchase your March Reading Plan or Let's Read the Gospels Guidebook. . . . . . Head to anniefdowns.com/books for more information and to sign up for the AFD Book of the Month. . . . . . Sign up to receive the AFD Week In Review email and ask questions to future guests! #thatsoundsfunpodcast . . . . . Thank you to our sponsors! BetterHelp Online Therapy: Visit betterhelp.com/THATSOUNDSFUN  today to get 10% off your first month. Hallow App: Get an extended 3-month trial of all 10,000 plus prayers and meditations at hallow.com/thatsoundsfun. Rothy's: Get $20 off your first purchase at rothys.com/SOUNDSFUN. Indeed: Visit Indeed.com/SOUNDSFUN to start hiring now. ThirdLove: Get 20% off your first order at THIRDLOVE.com/SOUNDSFUN. . . . . . If you'd like to partner with Annie as a sponsor for the That Sounds Fun podcast, fill out our Advertise With Us form! . . . . . NYTimes bestselling Christian author, speaker, and host of the That Sounds Fun Podcast, Annie F. Downs shares with you some of her favorite things: new books, faith conversations, entertainers not to miss, and interviews with friends.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What does strength look like to you? Does it look like white knuckling it, holding your breath? Or does it look like putting your oxygen mask on first, and then attending to the needs of others?  We all want to, need to be strong for those around us. But my guest this week reminds us there is a cost to being certain kinds of strong. Aundi Kolber is an author and therapist and her new book, Strong Like Water, helps unpack what true strength looks like and feels like and how to get there. In our conversation she encourages us in the practices of self-compassion and grounding and helps us see how white knuckling it is actually detrimental to our relationships and if we will pay attention to ourselves we can show up better for the people we hold dear.  Connect with Aundi Kolber:  Website:  https://aundikolber.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/aundikolberwrites  Instagram:  @aundikolber  Twitter: @aundikolber    Links Mentioned:   Strong Like Water: Finding the Freedom, Safety, and Compassion to Move Through Hard Things – And Experience True Flourishing by Aundi Kolber  Try Softer: A Fresh Approach to Move Us Out of Anxiety, Stress, and Survival Mode –and into a Life of Connection and Joy by Aundi Kolber    Exclusive Pre-Order:  Pre-Order Right Where You Belong: How to Identify and Fully Occupy Your God-Given Space and receive a FREE audiobook copy, narrated by Heather MacFadyen Related Episodes: The Window of Tolerance :: Charissa Fry [Ep 260] True Intimacy with God :: Mo Isom Aiken [Ep 318] Quiet Your Inner Critic and Practice Self-Compassion :: Kim Frederickson [Ep 188] Walking Through Seasons of Unbelonging :: Shauna Niequist [Ep 362] Featured Sponsors:  Find links to this week's sponsors and unique promo codes at dontmomalone.com/sponsors.   

Hey friend! Does it ever feel like you're living in survival mode? You know that feeling where you find yourself constantly saying, “if I can just get through one more day, things will be better”? I know I have! But what does it really take to move out of survival mode? How do we find a place a safety and compassion for ourselves (and others) as we process and move past what we've been through? Trauma-informed therapist Aundi Kolber joins me on the show today to tackle those questions and more!  Aundi is a licensed professional counselor, and while we can't all be her clients, we can all access the wisdom she shares in her two books, Try Softer and Strong Like Water.  This is a rich conversation about emotional health, and I'm so excited to share it with you.  Join in as we talk about:  How the last three years have affected all of us (and why it makes sense if you're not “over it”) Steps we can take to build safety in ourselves, with each other, and in our spaces like churches and schools The surprising way compassion impacts our nervous system The different styles of attachment, and why “good enough” parenting really is good enough  Aundi Kolber is a licensed professional counselor and author of two books, including her most recent, Strong Like Water: Finding the Freedom, Safety, and Compassion to Move through Hard Things–and Experience True Flourishing. Aundi lives with her family in Castle Rock, CO.  Favorite quotes: ~“Trauma is anything that overwhelms our nervous system's capacity to cope.” ~“How we experience is something at least as important as the event itself.” ~“Getting yourself outside is a great place to do grounding. Nature is so soothing to us and really regulating to our nervous system.” ~“We are designed for more. Both our fierceness and softness are God-given.” ~“Our relationship with ourselves is influenced by our attachment style.” ~“Secure relationships have an internal sense of predictability that when you have needs others around who care for you will do their best to meet their needs to the extent they are able.” ~“One way to begin is to become aware of our attachment style.” Coaching this week:  1. Bundling Friend Time: Getting enough friend time, especially during busy seasons. (38:15) Links to great things we discussed:  Aundi Kolber Website  Strong Like Water: Finding the Freedom, Safety, and Compassion to Move through Hard Things–and Experience True Flourishing Aundi Kolber Instagram Aundi Kolber Twitter Slow - JOHNNYSWIM Ted Lasso How to Keep House While Drowning - KC Davis Creed 3 Benefit Fluff Up Brow Wax Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli

Aundi Kolber talks to us about her new book "Strong Like Water" and offers a framework for flourishing by teaching us how to move through pain instead of being stuck in it and exploring powerful tools to help us heal.

Author and trauma therapist- Aundi Kobler - joins the podcast today.Aundi visits the podcast again and discusses her most recent book, "Strong Like Water", where she  discusses how we survive by being "the strong one".  She  shares  how hard it was to receive support when everyone recognizes that she “has it all together".Aundi describes three types of strength and talks about the “flow of strength".  She helps us to understand the fluidity of strength and how all these parts are valid and accessible to us.  Aundi describes discomfort being a holy thing; helping us to understand the difference between discomfort and harm.  There has to be some disruption for there to be growth.Tune in to this episode to  hear Aundi guide us through hard things to true flourishing. Information for Aundi Kobler:https://aundikolber.com/https://instagram.com/aundikolber?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=https://twitter.com/aundikolber?s=21https://www.amazon.com/Strong-like-Water-Things-Flourishing/dp/1496454715/ref=sr_1_1?crid=27DFTUYCLJYIP&keywords=strong+like+water+aundi+kolber&qid=1679245979&sprefix=Strong+like+wa%2Caps%2C334&sr=8-1Information for Dr. Gadson https://www.drmoniquesmithgadson.com/Link to order “Session Notes:  Intimate Times with God":https://www.drmoniquesmithgadson.com/store/p/k8psfln7jh72diw8i36txniwi2e05xLink to order “Finding Hope in A Dark Place”:https://lexhampress.com/search?query=Finding%20Hope%20in%20a%20Dark%20Place%3A%20Facing%20Loneliness%2C%20Depression%2C%20and%20Anxiety%20with%20the%20Power%20of%20Grace&sortBy=Relevance&limit=30&page=1&ownership=all&geographicAvailability=allhttps://www.amazon.com/Finding-Hope-Dark-Place-Loneliness/dp/1683596358/ref=rvi_sccl_7/138-1785751-1148333?pd_rd_w=decCb&content-id=amzn1.sym.f5690a4d-f2bb-45d9-9d1b-736fee412437&pf_rd_p=f5690a4d-f2bb-45d9-9d1b-736fee412437&pf_rd_r=GMEBCA5ZB54MM98HHN5F&pd_rd_wg=pwctW&pd_rd_r=0cf054c6-aedd-427d-ac2a-563757407228&pd_rd_i=1683596358&psc=1Follow us on social media: https://www.facebook.com/And-The-Church-Said-Podcast-106848090932637https://instagram.com/drmoniquesmithgadson?igshid=1bmt2hei1j6i8https://twitter.com/DrMoSmithGadsonSupport And The Church Said:Cash App:  https://cash.

What an honor to have my friend and fellow therapist, Aundi Kolber on the podcast today! You do not want to miss Part 1 of our two-part conversation on her brand new book, Strong like Water: Finding the Freedom, Safety, and Compassion to Move through Hard Things--and Experience True Flourishing Aundi and I connected through social media, and she has become the dearest real life friend. It was my absolute honor to have this conversation with her about her personal story and her new book, Strong Like Water, available for pre-order now. Here's what we cover. . . 1. Why it's unsustainable to always be the "strong one" 2. The brave decision that led to her to reimagine strength 3. 3 different types of strength and how to move between them 4. How to find safety when you need it the most 5. The difference between information and whole body transformation 6. How Aundi has come to understand strength now Preorder Strong Like Water here Want free bonus content? Sign up for my free weekly email Related Resources: Episode 15: CPTSD—The Pain of a Million Paper Cuts Episode 4: What Do I Need to Know About Trauma? How to Reclaim Your Inner Alert System Find a list of resources and the full transcript for this episode here Thanks to our sponsors: Go to www.organifi.com/bestofyou and use code BESTOFYOU for 20% off your order today. Visit hiyahealth.com/BESTOFYOU and get your kids the full-body nourishment they need to grow into healthy adults. Music by Andy Luiten Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.

Back by popular demand, author and therapist Aundi Kolber shares about her forthcoming book, Strong Like Water. This book debunks stoic, soul-depleting platitudes like “No pain, no gain,” instead showing that healing from trauma is only possible through freedom, safety, and compassion. Aundi masterfully integrates psychology, neurology, and theology, and explains to Steve Carter three categories of strength: situational, transitional, and integrated. Steve and Aundi also reflect on how Jesus dignified pain一and entered into it himself一rather than denying it. If God himself engaged with the full spectrum of human emotion, as the church we must follow his example. Whether navigating your own trauma, or as someone who longs to love people more deeply, Aundi is a seasoned guide who offers brilliant insights, along with practical resources and rhythms to implement in everyday life. EPISODE LINKS Aundi's new book: Strong Like Water Other books: Try Softer Website: aundikolber.com @aundikolber @steveryancarter @craft_character Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

“Compassion and gentleness create something in us that is very solid and strong.” - Aundi KolberHow do you define strength? And does the phrase, “what doesn't kill you make you stronger,” really true? On today's edition of Restoring the Soul, Michael welcomes back Aundi Kolber to the podcast, and they're going to unpack the essence of true strength and discover that God has, and always will be with us on our journey of becoming more beautifully human in the midst of adversity.Aundi's latest book, “Strong Like Water” releases on March 21st. The following links will offer you an opportunity to pre-order the book. Aundi has also made available some bonus content via her website, and we've provided that link below.Aundi is a frequent guest of Restoring the Soul; in fact, her “Try Softer” interview with Michael was the most downloaded podcast of ours to date. She is a licensed professional counselor from Castle Rock, CO; her work has been featured on Relevant, CT Women,  The Huffington Post, The Mudroom, Happy Sonship, and Circling the Story. We're always thrilled when Aundi can join us for the discussion - you're in for a real treat today.Helpful Resources:Bonus content from AundiPre-order Strong Like WaterBaker BooksTyndaleAmazonBarnes & NoblePrevious episodes with AundiEpisode 110 - Aundi Kolber, "Try Softer, Part 1"Episode 111 - Aundi Kolber, "Try Softer, Part 2"Episode 70 - Aundi Kolber Part 1, “Healing Trauma: Getting Unstuck and Becoming Whole”Episode 71 - Aundi Kolber Part 2, “Healing Trauma: Getting Unstuck and Becoming Whole”Episode 199 - Aundi Kolber, "Understanding Attunement"Episode 200 - Aundi Kolber, "Discovering Self Compassion"Contact Restoring the Soul:- Tweet us at @michaeljcusick and @PodcastRTS- Like us on Facebook- Email us at info@restoringthesoul.comThanks for listening!

Do you struggle to really change? Do you feel like the trauma from your story weighs on you heavily? Beth and Jeff interview Aundi Kolber about her new book, Strong Like Water, and how we can use tools like the Enneagram, through the lens of the gospel, to find comfort and strength to move forward through the hard things.   Chapter Markings: 00:00 - Introduction 03:10 - Meet Aundi 07:03 - Our Trauma Creates Strengths 17:31 - Aundi and Countertype 4s 21:37-  Aundi's New Book - Strong Like Water 30:30 - Beth's Strength's in Fawning 40:24 - When We Use Our Strength   Aundi Kolber's new book, Strong Like Water, provides a unique approach to true flourishing. Through the gospel and the help of tools like the Enneagram, she encourages readers to find strength and comfort during difficult times. This process of transformation aided by the gospel allows individuals to work through their trauma and ultimately achieve lasting change. Meet Aundi (Type 4): Social: @aundikolber Website: https://aundikolber.com/  New Book:https://amzn.to/3HpRogU Try Softer: https://amzn.to/3WXdDAw    Order Beth and Jeff's new book, More Than Your Number: https://amzn.to/3z9OZ7e    Discover your Type, learn what it means, and transform your life with the Discovering You course: https://www.yourenneagramcoach.com/discoveringyou    Learn how your Enneagram Type affects your marriage with Beth and Jeff's book, Becoming Us: https://amzn.to/3vEhyrh    Accelerate your personal growth and spiritual renewal with The Enneagram Collection Journals: https://www.yourenneagramcoach.com/journals     #Enneagram #Trauma #PersonalityType

Aundi Kolber is a licensed professional counselor and author of the critically acclaimed Try Softer. She specializes in trauma- and body-centered therapies and is passionate about the integration of faith and psychology. In this episode Stephen talks with Aundi about her latest book Strong Like Water and how we can move through pain into the expansiveness of our deeper yearnings for transcendence, beauty, and wonder. Music for this episode is provided by Nashville singer/songwriter Lynn Marie. Patrons of the podcast can listen to a special Meet The Artist interview with Lynn on our Patreon. Episode Sponsor: Hope Words Writer's ConferenceUse this link with the code “MANDMHW10” to receive a special Makers and Mystics listener discount.

Laila Tarraf is a senior human resource executive with over 25 years of professional experience. After graduating with her MBA from the Haas School of Business at the University of California at Berkeley, she became one of the founding team members at Walmart.com. She then served as Chief People Officer at Peet's Coffee and Tea, an iconic Bay Area premium coffee company. Currently, Laila is the Chief People Officer at Allbirds, a sustainable footwear and apparel brand. She is also a trusted advisor to entrepreneurs and investors and is a guest lecturer at Berkeley Law School. Her journey and hard-won insights are what she shares in her debut book, Strong Like Water. Conversations with Extraordinary People A monthly FB Live/podcast based on my book The Magical Guide to Bliss. It takes the listener through the year with empowering conversations from January and Carpe Diem- Seize the Day to December, Awe-inspiring Magic and Miracles. Start the year empowered with The Magical Guide to Bliss - get your copy on Amazon.com or order a signed magical copy at megnocero.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/meg-nocero/support

People working in a culture with a balance of boundaries and empathy are more motivated to perform well. That's what Laila Tarraf realized in her decades of experience as a recruitment and business leader. She carried this realization and successfully developed a work culture that effectively combines high-performance growth and caring culture.Laila is the Chief People Officer at Allbirds, where she is responsible for guiding and strengthening the company's unique, mission-based culture. She wrote Strong Like Water: How I Found the Courage to Lead with Love in Business and in Life at a time when she experienced the grief of losing loved ones yet gained powerful realizations as a mother and business leader. In her view, connecting to our common humanity and bringing hearts to the workplace is the key to creating exceptional organizations.Listen to this episode as Sean and Laila exchange inspiring thoughts on recruitment and its changes from the industrial to the information age, holistic leadership, and emotional resilience.Episode quotesOn creating the post-pandemic hybrid workplace[00:15:05] I think a post-pandemic hybrid workplace and meeting greater flexibility in work is all about a very integrated holistic leadership style that can balance being empathetic and caring— compassionate while at the same time focusing on growing the business and holding people accountable. And while the two might seem like they're on opposite ends of the spectrum, they're really not. They're more like the DNA strands of a helix that are intertwined. I'm always drawing these two intersecting circles where I have business on one side and people on the other, and so there's an overlap, and that's the sweet spot. And for all of us, it's finding that mix, that alchemy that works for us, given our personal style, we all have it. It's just figuring out how to play in the middle. On treating employees as a team, rather than as a family[00:18:24] While you may have made great friends that you think of as family, we're not a family because you can't quit your family. You can't leave your family. We're really a team, and not to denigrate the connections and relationships because being a high-performing team, when you ask people, what are the most inspirational times in their life where they have the greatest connections, it's usually when they're part of a team where they're trying to tackle a really tough challenge, whether it's in sports or business, and they came together and were able to overcome whatever this thing was. And that's beautiful.On creating a balance between caring for people and communicating their areas for improvement[00:19:46] The challenge is the counterbalance to being empathetic and being able to hold your boundaries. Because if you don't, then you're merging. I think there is a way that you can care for the person and keep your connection to the person while at the same time delivering a message that they're not meeting expectations or that something needs to improve. It really is as much an art as it is a science to drop into connection and show that you care.On how she picked the title for her book[00:24:43] I chose the title Strong Like Water after Lao Tzu's The Tao Te Ching it's verse 78, right? Be like water. Be like water is really about how water is actually very powerful, but in a gentle way. And in it, he says water is fluid, soft, and yielding, but water will wear away rock, which is rigid and cannot yield. As a rule, water is fluid, soft, and yielding, which will overcome whatever is rigid and hard. And he said that this is a paradox that what is soft is strong. And when I read that, I thought that's it. And I realized that really life, in general, is all about reconciling these dualities, where we fall into these false paradoxes where we think I'm either weak or I'm strong. But the reality is like the yin yang symbol; there is no hard, there is no soft. It just depends on your viewpoint. We are all both. Show Links:Laila Tarraf on LinkedInLaila Tarraf Official WebsiteStrong Like Water™ How I Found the Courage to Lead with Love in Business and in LifeSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/onehaas/donations

Welcome friends to Episode #87 of the Own Your Best Life Podcast. Sometimes, events happen in our lives that shake everything up. This happened with today's guest, Laila Tarraf. LEARN MORE ABOUT COACHING: https://mayempson.com/contact MAY EMPSON INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/mayempson OWN YOUR BEST LIFE SHOWNOTES: https://mayempson.com/87-strong-like-water-with-laila-tarraf/

Laila Tarraf is a senior human resource executive with over 25 years of professional experience. After graduating with her MBA from the Haas School of Business at the University of California at Berkeley, she became one of the founding team members at Walmart.com. She then served as Chief People Officer at Peet's Coffee and Tea, an iconic Bay Area premium coffee company. Currently, Laila is the Chief People Officer at Allbirds, a sustainable footwear and apparel brand. She is also a trusted advisor to entrepreneurs and investors and is a guest lecturer at Berkeley Law School. Her debut novel, Strong Like Water, shares her hard-won insights on the importance of balancing courage and compassion, and infusing power with tenderness in business and in life.

Laila's husband died of an accidental overdose, within a few weeks her father died, and shortly after her mother.  In this discussion we talk about compound loss, avoiding feelings and what it looks and feels like to honor them. Strong Like Water:  Lessons Learned From Leading With Love  https://shewritespress.com/portfolio/laila-tarraf/ https://www.lailatarraf.com  

Looking for inspiring reading this summer? My next guest has written a deeply moving and insightful book that I know you're going to love!Laila Tarraf, is author of Strong Like Water: How I Found the Courage to Lead with Love in Business and in Life.  Laila offers us insights and inspiration for finding a natural balance and leading as a whole person—with compassion, courage, intellect and empathy. In this conversation Laila shares her deeply personal stories of what motived this book, and what can help you too!(Guest Bio)After graduating with an MBA from the Haas School of Business at the University of California at Berkeley, Laila Tarraf became one of the founding team members at Walmart.com. She then served as Chief People Officer at Peet's Coffee and Tea, an iconic San Francisco Bay Area premium coffee company. Currently, Laila is the Chief People Officer at AllBirds- the sustainable shoes and clothing company whose products are made with natural materials like merino wool and eucalyptus.Find Laila Tarraf on:LinkedInFacebookInstagram-----------------Check out the book! - Fearless: Girls with Dreams, Women with VisionThe Fearless Women Podcastfearlesswomenpodcast@gmail.comThe Beacon AgencySponsors:BDCLockheed MartinExport Development Canada 

To paraphrase the ancient Chinese philosopher Lao Tzu, people must be strong like water, yet we must also be gentle like soft flowing streams. This means finding the right balance between courage and compassion, power and tenderness, be it in your personal or professional life. In this episode, our host Emi Kirschner is joined by the Chief People Officer of Allbirds, Laila Tarraf. Laila shares her experiences growing and learning how to gain balance in her life. She discusses sustainability, balancing your personal and work life, what she learned during the time she was writing her book, and dealing with grief.

Laila Tarraf was the Chief People Officer for Peet's Coffee and Tea, the iconic Berkeley coffee roaster that launched the craft coffee movement in America, but she had a secret: she was failing in the most important relationships in her life. Yes, she was a strong and effective business leader, the successful daughter of immigrants, and the mother of a toddler, but she was disconnected from her own feelings and had little patience for the feelings of others. All that changed when life handed her a trifecta of losses: her husband died of an accidental drug overdose, and her parents' deaths followed in quick succession. Laila had spent her life leading from the head, convinced that any display of vulnerability would make her soft. And it did, but soft turned out to be strong. As she reconnected to her heart, one painful step at a time, something remarkable happened: she became a better leader, a better mother, and a better person. Her heart turned out to be the true source of her power, at home and at work. Strong Like Water is a book about healing, about waking up, about learning who you are -- who you really, truly are at the core -- and reclaiming and embracing all the pieces of yourself you had long abandoned in the name of survival. For women longing for balance, this is a path to opening our hearts and infusing our leadership and relationships with love, compassion, and authenticity. Website: www.lailatarraf.com Instagram: @laila.tarraf Facebook Page : www.facebook.com/lailtarrafauthor LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lailatarraf/ Book: https://www.lailatarraf.com/my-new-book ======================  Buy Meredith's Books: The Year of No Nonsense https://amzn.to/3su5qWp Triathlon for the Every Woman: https://amzn.to/3nOkjiH =======================   Follow Meredith Atwood & The Podcast on Social: Web: MeredithAtwood.com Instagram: https://instagram.com/meredith.atwood   =======================  Want to Connect?  Email: same24hourspodcast@gmail.com =======================  Credits: Host & Production: Meredith Atwood Copyright 2017-2020, 2021 All Rights Reserved, Meredith Atwood, LLC

Zibby is joined by Chief People Officer for Allbirds Laila Tarraf to discuss how three significant losses made her reconcile the tenderness of her personal life with the strength she had acquired in the business world. Laila shares the most valuable lessons she's learned from her bosses through the years, and how combining courage and compassion may be the most advantageous thing you can do for both your personal and professional personas.Purchase a copy on Amazon or Bookshop:Amazon: https://amzn.to/3xrzZ1uBookshop: https://bit.ly/2S3sEF7 See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

We're talking about Books That Make You Become Strong Like Water In leadership books, we are so frequently advised on how to take charge, to lead groups, to be inspirational, productive, strong and indestructible. Especially as women, we are often conditioned to be tough in order to compete with male counterparts. What if we could take the advice of successful business woman Laila Tarraf and discover a way to manage courage, compassion, flexibility and intensity in order to be respected as well as liable? How can we find the courage to lead with love in business and in life? It took a series of three crushing losses for Laila to finally unlock decades of suppressed emotions, to integrate the parts of herself that render her both sensitive and strong. She is the author of “Strong Like Water: How I Found the Courage to Lead with Love in Business and in Life”. Find out more on Books That Make You. You can also follow us on Facebook and Instagram.

In this episode, I'm joined by Laila Tarraf, a senior human resource executive who is currently the Chief People Officer of Allbirds, a sustainable footwear and apparel brand, and the author of the recently released book, “Strong Like Water: How I found the Courage to Lead with Love in Business and in Life.” In this beautifully written book, Laila is generous with her own vulnerability in sharing her personal story so that we all can learn through her experiences of both loss and growth.Together we talk about becoming a heart-based leader, what being “soft but strong” and “firm yet kind” looks like, and the power of leaning into discomfort. Laila shares what she learned at Peet's Coffee about what it takes to create an environment where employees feel like they can bring their full selves to work and offers tips on both how to strengthen one's heart as a leader and how to build Sustainable Ambition for oneself. We close by talking about the power of taking pauses, and Laila shares a favorite quote by Brother David Steindl-Rast (which I loved, too!): “You know the antidote to stress is not necessarily rest.... The antidote to stress is wholehearted living.” Amen!I encourage you to pick up Laila's beautiful book. Not only is it a wonderful read, it will leave you feeling inspired to lean into your own growth journey.Thank you so much for being in conversation with me, Laila!Thanks for Listening!If you liked this episode, please rate, review, and share the episode. Thank you so much!Get show notes for this episode at https://sustainableambition.com/podcast I'd love to hear what's on your mind! Take the Sustainable Ambition Listener Survey: http://bit.ly/sapodcast-survey Submit a question or comment for future episodes at podcast@SustainableAmbition.com Get my curated bi-weekly Sustainable Ambition Forum newsletter. Sign up https://sustainableambition.com/subscribe

Choose Positive Living with Sara Troy and her guest Laila Tarraf, on air from May 11th Laila Tarraf, author of Strong Like Water: How I Found the Courage to Lead with Love in Business and in Life. As women increasingly claim leadership roles in business and politics, and at a time in our nation when people are seeking authentic leaders, Laila Tarraf offers insights and inspiration for finding a natural balance and leading as a whole person—with compassion and courage, intellect and empathy. https://selfdiscoverymedia.com/?p=94700

Laila Tarraf, the Chief People Officer at Allbirds tells the story of how her new book, "Strong Like Water" came to be a reality. She shares how to lead with love through heartbreaks and successes ultimately (after a lot of work) landing in a place that is honest, integrated, and powerful. Her story is soul food for anyone who believes in the power of love and compassionate leadership.

The old models of leadership no longer serve organizations well. Those models expected leaders to be superhuman. But that kind of strength entirely misses the mark; it doesn't serve the needs of those we lead. Today, we need a leadership model that embraces vulnerability, along with service, humility, kindness, and love. We talked with Laila Tarraf, Chief People Officer at Allbirds, about her new book on leading with love in business and in life. We also talked about: -The old view of HR vs the new view of HR. -The difference between enabling and protecting your people. -How to help leaders find a deeper level of empathy. -Why love is a strength, not a weakness. For the entire interview, subscribe to HR Superstars on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or Stitcher. Or tune in on our website. Get Laila's book, Strong Like Water.

Join us as we speak to author and HR executive, Laila Tarraf, to hear about her amazing journey of self discovery.  Through a series of  painful life experiences, Laila learned how important it is to let her whole self be seen, to allow for the vulnerability that she had pushed away her whole life, and to give herself time to pause and reflect.  One of the beautiful things about what Laila shares with us is that this was not only a personal journey, but it transformed the way she leads at work.  This podcast is full of insight and deeply moving reflection and fully embodies the flow between eastern and western philosophies.   Laila's growth and her modeling of a new way of being remind us of the Mariann Williamson quote: “...And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” Laila Tarraf is a senior human resource executive with over 25 years of professional experience.  After graduating with her MBA from the Haas School of Business at the University of California at Berkeley, she became one of the founding team members at Walmart.com.  She then served as Chief People Officer at Peet's Coffee and Tea, an iconic Bay Area premium coffee company. Currently, Laila is currently the Chief People Officer at Allbirds focused on leading through a global pandemic and broad social unrest. She is also a trusted advisor to entrepreneurs and investors and is a regular guest lecturer at Berkeley Law School.   Laila's book: https://www.amazon.com/Strong-Like-Water-Lessons-Learned-ebook/dp/B08F2CC76F Laila's website:  https://www.lailatarraf.com/  LinkedIn:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/lailatarraf/ Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/laila.tarraf/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lailatarrafauthor/  

SUMMARY “Strong Like Water: How I Found the Courage to Lead with Love in Business and in Life,” by new author Laila Tarraf chronicles one woman’s painful struggle with emotional trauma. The eldest of three children of Lebanese immigrant parents, Tarraf takes on the dual role of mediator between a warring mother and father and bridge between two cultures and languages. Finally, in her forties, when life serves up the crushing loss of her husband and both parents in quick succession, Tarraf can no longer ignore her own powerful emotions. In this “leader-sort of business book disguised as a memoir,” Tarraf tells her story with both brutal honesty and tender vulnerability. Her eventual transformation comes when she learns to strengthen her heart while giving it “equal playing time” alongside her head. Connecting the two becomes the key to unlocking both personal and professional growth. KEY IDENTIFIERS OF PEOPLE SUFFERING FROM EMOTIONAL TRAUMA Taking on the hero, helper, or fixer persona Disconnecting Overachieving Becoming self-reliant prematurely Keeping relationships at a distance; lacking intimacy and trust Pretending to not need comfort and nurturing QUOTES FROM TARRAF “Overachieving is the probably the most acceptable and respectable coping mechanism there is.” “There was no room for pain in my world…I had to keep moving mentally, emotionally, and physically to avoid the inevitable hardships in life.” “I kept on pushing down my disappointment, one swallow at a time, until I actually forgot that I possessed the very basic need of wanting to be cared for by my parents—or anyone for that matter.” “We all need space to know how we feel.” “True power comes from connecting your head to your heart.” “When a leader shows vulnerability…[she] normalizes it for everyone around [her].” BUY Strong Like Water: How I Found the Courage to Lead with Love in Business and in Life RECOMMENDATION Check out She Writes Press, an award-winning publisher for women authors. Connect with us! Facebook Instagram Twitter YouTube  Website Special thanks… Music Credit Sound Editing Credit

First up is Laila Tarraf, author of Strong Like Water: How I Found the Courage to Lead with Love in Business and in Life. This is a memoir of healing and learning from emotional trauma. https://www.lailatarraf.com/Then Doug Tallamy is a professor in the Department of Entomology and Wildlife Ecology at the University of Delaware, where he has authored 95 research publications and has taught insect related courses for 39 years.https://www.nytimes.com/2021/03/31/realestate/oak-trees-why-you-should-plant.html

Laila Tarraf is a talent management and leadership development executive with over 25 years of experience building teams and advising companies across many industries and stages of growth. She was a founding member of Walmart.com at the height of the first internet bubble, and the Chief People Officer at Peet's Coffee and Tea as it was redefining its values as a national brand. She then spent seven years working in private equity as the Director of Human Capital at GI Partners and a Human Capital Advisor with Altamont Capital. Currently, as Chief People Officer for AllBirds, she is focused on building a high performance, human-centered organization capable of driving for results while at the same time nurturing a culture of connection and belonging as it grows into a global, sustainable consumer brand. Over the years, through professional achievements and personal accomplishments alongside professional setbacks and personal tragedies, Laila has evolved her leadership and life philosophy into one that embraces the inherent duality of life -- balancing courage with compassion, integrating head with heart, infusing power with tenderness. Her journey and hard-won insights are what she shares in her debut book, Strong Like Water. Laila is a graduate of the Berkeley Haas School of Business and is also a guest lecturer at Berkeley Law School. She is Lebanese and American, an avid traveler and world explorer, and a proud mom to her teenage daughter, Nadia and her 8-pound Yorkie, Max.   You can find me online at: My website: www.lailatarraf.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lailatarraf/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/laila.tarraf/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lailatarrafauthor