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Visit us at shapedbydog.com Has there ever been a time when things didn't go as planned in dog training or in life? Or, not only that, but the outcome was the opposite of what you intended? We're going deep on how to handle these setbacks with resilience, grit, grace, and a solid Plan B in place. I'm also sharing my favorite books on boosting mental agility, reframing perceptions, letting go of outcomes, and turning obstacles in dog training to your advantage. In this episode you'll hear: • How to overcome adversity and use it to your advantage in dog training. • About This!'s setbacks that made us both better. • The importance of having a Plan B. • How self-talk influences our Belief Loops. • Examples of ego-driven dog trainers. • That dog training is not art, it's science. • The importance of being mentally agile. • How to reframe negative experiences into positive. • About Decaff and highlighting a dog's strengths. • About detaching from outcomes. • Why trophies are never my goal. • The importance of celebrations. • My 11 growth mindset book recommendations. • The 5 keys to Pivots, Plan A's and Plan B's in dog training. • The top 3 “big picture” goals for happy dogs. • Why I don't give extra energy to negative experiences. Susan's Recommended Reading: 1.*Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol S. Dweck - https://geni.us/mindset-book 2.*The Happiness Advantage: The Seven Principles of Positive Psychology That Fuel Success and Performance at Work by Shawn Achor - https://geni.us/happiness-shawn-achor 3.*The Obstacle Is the Way: The Timeless Art of Turning Trials into Triumph by Ryan Holiday - https://geni.us/the-obstacle-book 4.*The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tolle - https://geni.us/power-of-now-book 5.*Atomic Habits by James Clear - https://geni.us/atomic_habits 6.*The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg - https://geni.us/power-of-habit-book 7.*Man's Search For Meaning by Victor E Frankl - https://geni.us/search-meaning-book 8.*The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran - https://geni.us/the-prophet-book 9.*Choose Wonder Over Worry by Amber Rae - https://geni.us/wonder-over-worry 10.*Mastery: The Keys to Success and Long-Term Fulfillment by George Leonard - https://geni.us/mastery-keys-book 11.*Unbeatable Mind: Forge Resiliency and Mental Toughness to Succeed at an Elite Level by Mark Divine - https://geni.us/unbeatable-mind Resources: 1. Podcast Episode 203: Reactive, Unmotivated and Fearful: Finding Resiliency For This! Beyond Dog Training Part 1 - https://dogsthat.com/podcast/203/ 2. Podcast Episode 204: Dog Behavior And Diet: Recovery For This! Beyond Dog Training Part 2 - https://dogsthat.com/podcast/204/ 3. Podcast Episode 117: What's More Important Than Your Dog Training Sessions? - https://dogsthat.com/podcast/117/ 4. Podcast Episode 195: Making Your Mind Your Most Powerful Dog Training Tool - https://dogsthat.com/podcast/195/ 5. Podcast Episode 224: Unleashing Fluency In Dog Training: Cracking The Canine Communication Code - https://dogsthat.com/podcast/224/ 6. YouTube Playlist: Susan Garrett's Dog Training Philosophy and Training Processes - https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLphRRSxcMHy2An5_3KqDPqFVV6J6dYsYx&si=mBX_dTYLW-bOwZ4N 7. YouTube Playlist: Fearful Dogs Help with Susan Garrett - https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLphRRSxcMHy0KAsqgnkMWv0v-5JGjNQG_&si=lJEm5QEVKP6vj2lY 8. YouTube Playlist: Reactive or Aggressive Dogs: Key Insights with Susan Garrett - https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLphRRSxcMHy0Tbd6ZybIXgJk3mtpBLLk7&si=_ENedax59O8px3mY 9. Podcast Episode 147: Teach Your Dog To Listen Off Leash And Far Away - https://dogsthat.com/podcast/147/ 10. YouTube Video: Catch Your Runaway Dog! Stop Chasing And Do This In An Emergency - https://youtu.be/PLJoIAz9CeI?si=n4W8QTJptx_biv0P 11. Podcast Episode 41: Get a Behaved Dog by Celebrating Milestones! - https://dogsthat.com/podcast/41/ 12. Podcast Episode 58: How to Create Kid Friendly Dogs and Dog Friendly Kids - https://dogsthat.com/podcast/58/ 13. YouTube Video: Calm Your Reactive Or Anxious Dog And Reduce Your Stress About Lunging, Barking, Growling - https://youtu.be/TmaR58eVdEY?si=j0Z56e04RHU5AMiC 14. Podcast Episode 114: Dog Agility Training: 3 Big Mistakes All Dog Owners Should Avoid - https://dogsthat.com/podcast/114/ 15. YouTube Playlist: Exercising Your Dog's Body and Mind: Tips and Games with Susan Garrett - https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLphRRSxcMHy1ISzbaoCNh0NyLg3qgDG58&si=MVOTn0zwAi5P32BR 16. Podcast Episode 150: Adding Mindset To Your Dog Training Tools: Who Do You Become? - https://dogsthat.com/podcast/150/ 17. Podcast Episode 218: Puppy Development Stages And Your Dog's Behavior - https://dogsthat.com/podcast/218/ 18. Podcast Episode 78: How to Train a Rescue Dog with Behavior Problems - https://dogsthat.com/podcast/78/ 19. Podcast Episode 139: Remove Confusion And Build Your Dog's Confidence With One Simple Dog Training Habit - https://dogsthat.com/podcast/139/ 20. Podcast Episode 186: 2 Types Of Connection With Dogs: Dog Agility And Daily Life Case Studies - https://dogsthat.com/podcast/186/ 21. Podcast Episode 198: What Does “Positive Is Not Permissive” Really Mean In Dog Training? - https://dogsthat.com/podcast/198/ 22. Podcast Episode 71: Pro Dog Trainer's Secret to Help Your Naughty Dog - https://dogsthat.com/podcast/71/ 23. YouTube Playlist: The Heart / Mind Connection Side of Dog Training with Susan Garrett - https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLphRRSxcMHy1ruLW0CujlHgzCiTLK2Rfh&si=y6BTuGyLJMlUy72E 24. YouTube Playlist: Puppy Essentials with Susan Garrett Dog Training - https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLphRRSxcMHy2hywpv3Md3HbWWPPbVF8W5&si=sygo7WiU4QTO1tOd 25. Podcast Episode 227: My Foolproof Strategy To Overcoming Dog Training Challenges - https://dogsthat.com/podcast/227/ 26. Watch this Episode of Shaped by Dog on YouTube - https://youtu.be/cC6MXgZaGD0 *Amazon Links Disclosure: As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases. Susan only recommends products she uses herself, and all opinions expressed here are her own. The link above is an affiliate link that, at no additional cost to you, we may earn a small commission if you decide to buy from it. Thank you!
Worry is something we are all familiar with. It creates a certain degree of fear within us that keeps us from doing anything too risky or too uncomfortable. It's a blocking device that keeps us from experiencing the things in our lives that are glorious, meaningful, and worthwhile. It is the part of our brain that is trying to keep us safe from making the wrong choices, from being hurt, rejected or humiliated.There is another voice within that is much more gentle, kinder, and more compassionate. It is a curious voice that is called wonder and is the voice of reason that moves us towards the things that truly matter.If you are someone that worries often; a passenger on the "Worry Wagon" as I call it, then today's episode is for you. I'd love to continue the conversation on social media. Follow me on Instagram and Facebook: @jeanettemeliancoaching.Visit my website at: www.jeanettemelian.comWatch A Cup of Clarity interviews with my guests at my YouTube Channel: Jeanette Melianhttps://tinyurl.com/2kmv6jw7
Overcoming the barriers and the stories we are told as girls growing. Women can build wealth. Women can be in finance, women can be in tech, women can have knowledge of investing and stocks. Stop limiting your wealth potential from the lies you grew up to believe. Also ingrained in this episode is a whole list of books and resources around building a positive money mindset!If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co . And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:How hitting walls helps transform us into the people we are suppose to be What's the significance of 208? How we collapse the gender gap Where you can find resources to increase finance and money knowledgeCheck the data of how far you have come and how you want to feel moving forwardThe reflection of worth in your aspirations Making your worth reflected back in what your doingAnswer the question: i am the type of person who….What's stopping women from building wealth How money is used as energy in your biz BIOStef Caldwell is a Personal Development Author, Angel Investor and VP of Sales for Silicon Valley FinTech company. Passionate about closing the gender gap in half the time, she is an advocate for women's financial literacy and their participation in emerging industries wo we can realize gender equality, leading to more inclusion and profitability for all over time.Episode References/Links:Stef's websiteBOOK RECS: The Third Door by Alex BanayanChoose Wonder Over Worry: Move Beyond Fear and Doubt to Unlock Your Full PotentialF* Being HumbleYou Are A Badass at Making MoneyDo the Work: The Official Unrepentant, Ass-Kicking, No-Kidding, Change-Your-Life Sidekick to Unfu*k YourselfAtomic Habits, James ClearThe Source: The Secrets of the Universe, the Science of the Brain If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox.Be It Till You See It Podcast SurveyResourcesWatch the Be It Till You See It podcast on YouTube!Lesley Logan websiteBe It Till You See It PodcastOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley LoganOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley Logan on YouTubeProfitable PilatesSocial MediaInstagramFacebookLinkedInEpisode Transcript:Lesley Logan Alright, loves. So this episode, I'm really, truly grateful for our guest to be on because I have been wanting to talk more about money, money mindset building wealth. there's so much more I can go into this topic. So if you really love this topic, I do want to hear from you. You can go to the beitpod.com/tellme and fill out the survey and let us know or you can just DM me. But if you really are loving this topic, and if money is keeping you from being it till you see it, then we need to talk about it more. That's what this podcast is for. It's just bringing on experts that can help you be it till you see it. And so besides inspiring stories, I think it's just really important for you to hear information that helps you get out of your own way. And the reality is, is I talk a lot about this a lot with my Agency members, my coaching members, is that money is energy. And as a teacher, you are giving so much energy to your clients. You are pouring into them making sure that they get all the right exercises for their body. And then oftentimes under valuing yourself and under earning. And so therefore, people are paying you what you said, but you're not actually getting the energy back here because it doesn't it's not equal. They can't teach you by the way. I mean, so like they have to pay you for the energy so that you can keep doing what you're doing. And if you are under charging, then of course you're going to reach burnout, and of course exhaustion or just the resentfulness of like, people just not valuing you, but you're not giving them the opportunity to do that. So I'm really hope as you listen through this interview, as Stef and I have what I hope is a conversation that helps you understand not only wealth, why you need it, and how like things you could be doing right now to help you with those thoughts with that, with that mindset, and with the actual action steps to building it. I really hope you get all those. So bring out your notepad, this is gonna be one you want to save. I know I I actually like wrote notes, I you know, I can't read my writing. So I'm gonna have to re listen to see what notes I wrote down. But there's so many great books, you're gonna just like build your book list with this. And you're also gonna get some great quotes that you can remind yourself of just how fucking worthy you are. You are the only person who can do what you do the way that you do it, you're it. And if we do not make sure that you are getting paid the money you need to get paid, then how do we keep you showing up the next day? Like let's just be real, I don't care how amazing of a human you are. If you're not getting the energy repayment back, it's going to be really hard on those tough days to show up and do the thing that you know you're on this planet to do. And when you make money. Right. One of the coaches that I work with Chris Harder. He says "When good people make good money, they do great things." ... Like please remember that because if you are feeling guilty around the money that you're making, we have to shift that because you making good money and then putting it towards the things that matter the most to you. I know for a fact you're going to benefit the people around you. I know not a single person listening to this podcast is a selfish asshole who's just going to hoard it all for themselves. No, you wouldn't listen to this, you would not there's no way you listen to this because I'm all about abundance and that is not being abundant, like hoarding. Right. So, I really hope that this conversation, enlightens you, inspires you, helps you take action. And may we all be part of collapsing this massive gap in women having equal wealth to men. So, Stef Caldwell is our guest this week, take a listen and then please subscribe to her podcast because she's got a really awesome podcast that I'll let her tell you all about in this episode.Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guests will bring Bold, Executable, Intrinsic and Targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started.Okay, Be It listeners. So you know how I say, "Perfect is boring." It really, really is and it's also hilarious and embarrassing sometimes when you do it right in front of someone you're so excited to talk about. And I share all this because Stef Caldwell's here, and we got to talking and we got so excited. And then I looked at him as like, "You know, something doesn't feel right. Something's wrong. Oh, I didn't hit record." And I share that with you before I introduce Stef Caldwell. Well, because you're gonna make mistakes, you're gonna make mistakes. And you're gonna be like, "Oh, my God red in the face." And you know what I say just make them more often and it's really les... that's uncomfortable. So Stef Caldwell, is someone I had to have on the show and she's already heard. And now you're hearing. I was listening to her on the Laurie Harders podcast, I was getting in the shower. And I made the podcast stay on just on full blast. And I was agreeing with everything, loving everything, taking notes. And then I DM her. I was like, "You have to be on my show." I have to have you on here. And so Stef Caldwell, you are you are amazing at helping build women, helping women build wealth. And I actually want you to share everyone who you are and why you rock it that.Stef Caldwell Well, seriously, I'm so excited to be here. And for the listener, I mean like failure, failure of messing up, starting over. That is the point like if you think the point of any of this is anything different than that than the point that you think it is, is wrong. (Lesley: Yeah) So hello, everybody, I'm Stef Caldwell, Personal Development Author, Angel Investor, Tech Startup Operator and I like to say fun-haver because again, like you only live once. What is the point of any of this if it's not a total freakin blast along the way.Lesley Logan I, you know, you're exactly right. And thank you for also saying that because it's like, I think I know that everyone listening to this and maybe even I don't know about you. But for me, I grew up everything had to be perfect before I could even get started like it just had to be like this. And that is the opposite of having fun. You cannot (Stef: Absolutely.) you cannot perfect having the fun time. So you can't live in both places. So I've just I'm grateful for that. And also, what is your what's your favorite way to have fun?Stef Caldwell Oh my gosh. I mean, I love a good hike with a girlfriend. I love a good boating day. I love, like last night I went saw Joe Rogan stand up. I like I would see stand up every night if if I could (Lesley:same) laughing like just laughing for the sake of laughing and like scewing around. I was listening to another podcaster or some gal and she's like, "Never lose the art of just screwing off. Just to screw off." And like I that's you know what I typically do on a Sunday when I'm not doing this.Lesley Logan Well, first of all, I love that. Second, I would also I wanted to be in stand up. I really like thought like, "Oh my God, that's the thing I should be doing." But (Stef: Yeah) I can't stay up past 10 o'clock if like I really can't. I have like really try and there's occasional moments where it happens and like, "Wow, see, I could do it." I can't like I need to be a lunchtime comedian like people who want to be like 2 pm. (Lesley and Stef laughs)Stef Caldwell Can we normalize lunchtime comedians, (Lesley: Yes) because I will share this. When I was early in my career, I had read that learning improv and stand up can be really good for a sales career. So I went and I we've got in Chicago, this school called Second City, Tina Fey trained there. You know, I think like Bill Murray trained there, right, like notable comics have trained there. And went took lessons and everything was so late at night. I was like, "This crew is not going to be for me. I like bedtime by eight." You know, this is just (Lesley: Yeah) kind of the table this one for future life.Lesley Logan Yeah. No, same. So like, that's what happened. I was in a comedy class and I literally stopped going because I was like, I am falling asleep driving home like this (Stef: Right, right.) is not working for me. (Stef: Same.) So since we're not actually professional comedians, (Stef: Yeah) because clearly, we weren't born with that, that body clock. So when you're not ha... like the times that you are not having like the fun or hiking with a girlfriend like hopefully your work, it's fun. But what are you doing because you got your prof... your profes... Oh, my God. Hello, Lesley, Personal Development Author, like what made you get into these things and what are you doing on your daily basis?Stef Caldwell Yeah, yeah. So as in terms of my career, I have always worked in tech startups. And that's been, you know, a multi decade journey doing everything from selling products to marketing products, to working directly with customers to keep them around, to use those products to actually building the products themselves. And about six years ago, I woke up in a tech startup days after I didn't get this promotion that I had raised my hand for. And, of course, you know, like, if you work in tech startups, like they are traditionally run by white men and there's nothing wrong with my white men. I love them. I've got two white men brothers and a white dad. But I was like, "You got to be kidding me." Like the glass ceiling that everybody told me about. I finally ran smack into it and this really, really sucks and so I remember at the time, you know, reading reading some some quote that like, in terms of like, overall gender equality were 208 years away from like, when women will be equal with men. And I was just livid. (Lesley: Yeah) I was like, "What?" And so it really just set me on this journey to be the best that I could be to turn around and help other women, you know, be the best that they could be, and ultimately to, to write a personal development book while still kind of maintaining my career in technology, because I believe that women have a space there and, and that there's a lot we can do if we continue to participate in that environment.Lesley Logan Okay, so first, what's the book called? So, I can go read it..Stef Caldwell Yeah. The book is called ManifestHer. And there's a subtitle, which the essence of it is like, helping young women manifest their biggest dreams and lives.Lesley Logan I love that. I, you know, people hearing the part where you didn't get the promotion could get upset at that. And then there's like, obviously, like the looking back up, like, at least for me, I'm like, thank goodness, you didn't, because it made you go read this thing and go, "What the fuck like, like, I'm here." You know what I mean? Like, the frustration of that is what really put you on the path to where you are right now. And like the things that you're doing today. And so like, while I wish for you to always have the success you want, like, there's something about hitting those walls that really helped us become who we're supposed to be. (Stef: Yeah.) So for the, for the person who's listening to like, like, when you hear that number, 208 years, it feels like, it just it kind of can feel like an overwhelming and a little bit debilitating, like, what are, how are we supposed to get to 208 years to be now. (Stef: Yeah, yeah. I mean ...) I don't want to wait to 208 years. I'm not gonna live that long.Stef Caldwell Literally, I think every single day, how do we collapse that. And there's so many ways, I think the easiest ways are like looking inside of ourselves, and really getting a sense for our worth. And what that translates to in terms of our hourly rate, or annual salaries, and making sure that the worth that we feel is the worth that's reflected in the paychecks that we are, you know, either getting from our employers or getting, you know, by building building our businesses. I think the second thing that you can do is take that wealth and instead of spending it or giving it away is investing in it, or investing in your future investing in the markets. I joke oftentimes that like we can go and we can blow you know, 200 bucks at Target. But do you own $200 worth of target stock? My guess is that if you put the same amount of money that you're gonna go blow your favorite publicly traded company into their stock, that you would feel, feel and realize gains over time. And that's like a really specific example, don't go invest in target stock. There's definitely better mechanisms for you ...Lesley Logan Don't take stock advice from a podcast. (Stef: Right, right.) But particular with ones that we don't know what day you're listening to this. But okay, so first of all, like I'm like, yes. Okay, invest and then it's like, right, how, like, what, like, how do you know which, like, how, like, what's the first step to like doing that? Because I think that that's totally wise, because then every time you go and shop at said, Target, you are at least like benefiting your personal interests. But um, for the person who's like, "Yeah, but I don't actually even know how to do that." Like, where do they need to go to learn? Is there a class there supposed to take?Stef Caldwell Yeah, I mean, there certainly are classes that you can take, I think it just starts by getting curious. Asking, you know, "For every dollar that I'm earning, how can I put this dollar to work for me." And you'll find there's so many different thought leaders in the space that I've like, looked to over the course of my financial journey from I remember, like getting out of college, and like Suze Orman was like, the person that I've admired, recommended. And she's just like a women's kind of like, personal development meets money, money, you know, mindset guru, then there's like the Jen Sincero of the world that will really help you step into mindset, there's the Tony Robbins of the world that will help you, you know, build kind of some structure around how to treat and handle your wealth. And then there's also like people that you can pay that literally for a living can help you maximize your total earning potential over the course of your life.Lesley Logan Yeah, yeah, I mean, I highly recommend it. And also, like, Suze Orman helped me like, actually get out of credit card debt from after college, because like, who was charging her books on credit cards, that'd be me. I was like, "I need this book for this class." And so I like read her a little note about, like, how to pay off your credit cards faster. And it actually worked. Like it was like, take pay off the smallest one and then go on to the biggest one, you'll have more money. And I was like, "Oh." But I, I know that, you know, we're all I was often raised, like, just save the money and don't spend it and I love that you follow that up with like, invest it, because (Stef: Yeah) it's not about not buying the lattes, ladies. It's like, it's like, you know, using that money to go work for you. (Stef: Yeah) It's very different than just like holding on to it and not doing anything with it.Stef Caldwell Yeah. So I mean, there's, there's stats out there and I might butcher these a little bit, but we'll give you guys the essence. So right now, let's say you got $100 in a bank account inflation's at like 9% so that means you know you're from today. If that $100 is worth $90, you can put that in the markets and the markets, you know, don't don't you know, generate these returns always. But let's say that you generate it that same 9%. Now you have $109, or, you know, whatever the math on (Lesley: Yeah) that is. It's really important to be thinking about, like, by keeping this just as cash in the bank. Am I gaining money or am I losing money? And if you lose money every single year, for a lifetime, you're gonna wake up in a much different spot than if you gain money every single year for a lifetime.Lesley Logan Yeah, yeah. So I want to go back to what you were saying earlier, and there was a couple things you talked about there was investing. There's also your book ManifestHer. (Stef: Yeah) So um, and then there's a 208 years we're trying to collapse. There's a lot of things that you're doing and which I'm really obs... I'm obsessed with. When it comes to when it came to like writing your book and helping women manifest. What was the difference between like, just manifestation? Maybe this is in your book and like act... like the action towards getting the thing that you're manifesting? Is there steps for that? What do you normally do for that?Stef Caldwell Yeah. When I was graduating from undergrad, I remember waking up and for my entire life, I've been an athlete and being absolutely terrified about life after college, because all of my identity was tied up in like, the environment that is like the academic world. And this is so random, but my then boyfriend now husband bought me a purple Zippy from Lululemon. And I was like, "What is this Lululemon company?" Right. Like, at the time, I'd only wore Nike. And anyway, I went to their website, and I found this goal setting program manifestation program that they had at the time. And what they recommend you do in this program is a few things. First, is take stock of your life as it was 10 years ago, and show yourself, remind yourself how much growth you've experienced over the course of a decade. And it's actually mind blowing when you do that exercise. And then the second is to project out your life 10 years and envision yourself in the environment that you most desire to be in, if you could create everything in your life that you wanted. And again, you're reminding yourself of all the growth you've experienced in the past 10 years can really like an uninhibited you from envisioning where you could be in the next 10 years.Lesley Logan This is amazing. This is so cool. Because, you know, so many people are like, "Okay, what do I want to be in the next 10 years?" And that's like, I don't know, like, depending on the day, you might be like, I know where exactly where I'll be." (Stef: Right) And they're like, "Everything is against me, I don't trust me right now." But to actually take the data of how far you've come in the last 10 years, you probably wouldn't even have believed that you'd be where you are now 10 years ago. (Stef: Yeah) So that is really cool Stef. I am going to do this homework assignment when we're done.Stef Caldwell Well, let me let me raise you one. (Lesley: Okay.) So when they talk about the next 10 years, it can be really, really challenging to be like, this will be the job. And this will be the salary. And this will be you know where my house is like your address. But it's a lot easier when you abstract out that specifics, right. This is how I want to feel in my career, this is how I want to feel in my home, these are the types of things that I envision. And so they would recommend, and this is what I recommend in the book is that you kind of break down your life into three component parts, your personal life, so the relationships that you have, your health, you know, like literally your being and like how you're treating your body and your career, which I think you know, translates directly to financial, and then reverse engineer where you want to be when you're envisioning that 10 year you to where you need to be in five years to be on track, or you need to be in one year to be on track. And then my recommendation is like, keep pulling that back. What could you do in the next 30 days? What could you do tomorrow, and then you end up with a roadmap for everything that you need to accomplish in order to manifest that life.Lesley Logan I love that. I love that a lot. I I have done this. Well, this is how I do all my goals. Everything is a reverse reverse roadmap, something because I used to take a maze and like start at the end and like work my way backwards. I just my dad says is cheating. (Stef: Which is so smart. I love that.) Thank you. And he's like, you're, they're cheating. I'm like, why wouldn't you be ...Stef Caldwell Right. You're like "No dad. I'm just a manifester. Okay"?Lesley Logan I know it is preparing me for this. But it is true when you do it like that. It does feel like more tangible. And you can actually you can't, what it does make you do as you can't go, I don't know how to do that. I'm like, I've get to be stuck, you actually do know the next action step you can take and so it helps you like kind of get that ball rolling and get out of your own way. Sometimes, you know, because I think we can be the first person in our own way before other obstacles show up.Stef Caldwell Yeah. And I think oftentimes, like the first step is a conversation. Or it's like a Google search, right? It's the most simple things.Lesley Logan Yeah, yeah. Thank you for ... because it is it shouldn't be that simple. If your first step is not as simple as a Google search or conversation, you can break it down. Another a little bit, everyone. (Stef: Exactly.) Okay. you mentioned women, their you said 'worth' and making sure that like, if they're working for themselves, or they're working for someone like is their worth reflected in what, they're what they're getting back. I feel like, at least in the communities that I'm running, a lot of women can have a day where they feel like they are definitely worthy. And then they feel guilty of the work that they're demanding of that they make. Right? How do we, I feel like that is a big step that we need to figure out if we want to collapse the 208 year situation that we're in, because if like, when I coach, the male teachers, I coach, they have no problems. Like, I'm like, oh, yeah, that they want to make this much no problem. And they go ask, like, they don't actually ever feel guilty about that. And other people, like when I coach women, they're like, I know about, like, one of my clients gonna say, like, if I can't like that, like, I don't know why we're so concerned. Am I making sense? So like, what is it that you found and what can we do as women to kind of get the guilt and the worth to not be competing against each other?Stef Caldwell Yeah, I think it's, I mean, it's challenging, it's really challenging to step into the version of you that can demand that, because there's a lot of emotion and complexity tied up with money. So oftentimes, when I feel like emotionally tied to a situation, I try to be more objective, literally take a step back and look at the skills that you have, and how much the market pays for those skills, and how good you are at those skills. And that will show you that you're either on the bottom side of that market, or the top side of the market. And my guess is, if you're listening to this podcast, you really give a crap, you're probably doing a ton of self work, you create tremendous value for the people that you work with the organizations that you work in. And the the work that you do reflects that. And so, why why conflate how you feel about accepting money with the objective reality of your worth being being more and, and then try to expand your container to be able to receive that. And now that's, that's kind of it. I don't know how useful that is for somebody, but that's what's worked for me.Lesley Logan Yeah, I think like when you said, expand your container, it's almost like I had to like, I'm a visual person. So I like this close, like, think about like closing your eyes and like, like allowing yourself to be big enough to have to receive all of that. And I (Stef: Yeah) think sometimes we are so used to playing small, we've made our container so small that it gets filled up really quick before we've reached our worth.Stef Caldwell Yeah, yeah. James Clear, wrote a great book, Atomic Habits. And there's something that he says in the book that has really stuck with me, and that I constantly find myself going back to, and it's, I'm the type of person who, and then fill in the blank at the end of that. And I think it's like, I'm the type of person who makes half a million dollars a year or a million dollars a year, or $10 million per year. And then like, again, like envisioning and stepping into, like, who would I have to be to actually be able to receive $10 million a year? Like, what, like, I'd probably have to be a different person. Like, that's not my income level. Um, but again, like just going through those mental exercises, like who would I have to become to be able to receive in that capacity can really help you figure out like, where you need to do the work to be able to receive in that capacity?Lesley Logan Yeah, that couldn't be more be it till you see it if I you know, if I told you to say that. (Lesley and Stef laughs) But you know, what if so, I was talking to one of my friends who owns a business in town, and I was going to teach a workshop for her. And I just said to her, "I love you, I, I'm saying no, right now. And it's not you. It's just I need some more time to be with myself." And I said, and I ran into her person, I said, "Thank you for understanding most people be like, oh, when can you do it?" And she just was like, "No problem." That's so amazing. And she said, "Lesley, she's like, I am working on something right now. And so you saying that this gave me more time to work on that thing." But what it was, and this is where I'm gonna get your point is writing down like the person you want to be or the thing you want to have, and then making sure that the next thing that you write down or the next thing you think, isn't conflicting with that, so who like I'm the type of person makes half million dollars. The next thing is, like, you said, like, what would I have to do to to be someone who can make a half million dollars to someone who makes a half million dollars? And she says, oftentimes, we write down like, but I don't have that and I have a job that only pays me $115,000. You know, like, we start to like, we erode the manifest that we erode the vision and really what it's mostly is like, okay, if I may make a half million dollars, what is the person what makes a half million dollars do in the morning? Where does a person who makes half a million dollars go to work? Where do they work, right, like, (Stef: Yeah) that kind of thing. And so I I have been working on that, because I stopped doing one of my morning routines of journaling, because I was busy. I convinced myself, we're so good at this, even those of us who have like a really strong morning routine can convince ourselves like, I need that extra 15 minutes. And I remember I was at the bank yesterday. And as it was a little frustrating thing to do at the bank. And I was like, you know, people who don't have problems at the bank, probably also make time for journaling. And they don't feel guilty about it. And they don't like all these things, like as I made up my own version of it, but like, it's, we keep waiting until we have the thing to be the person want to be as opposed to like, who is that person and what are they have to do? And how do we add that in right now. And maybe you only are making $115,000. But if you start taking the steps that a half million dollar person is doing, you can have that life sooner. (Stef: Yeah, yeah.) You can have that million dollar life and working your way towards making it.Stef Caldwell Yeah, and I think two things to that. First is our de facto response to anything that feels uncomfortable is I can't and I would just encourage your listener every time like that thought comes up in your head like override doop, doop, doop, how can I? Right. And then 'how can I' is just more expansive question ask yourself. The second thing is know that there has been plenty of research executed that would indicate to you that just by having that goal of hitting that, you know, half million dollar per year mark or million dollar per year mark, or whatever it is for you. You are, I think it's like 10 times more likely to achieve it just by having that written. So there was like a Harvard Harvard research study done in the 80s. Look this up, it'll blow your frickin mind. But basically, like 3% of people graduating Harvard that year had both written goals, as well as plans for achieving them. And when they were revisited years later, they were making 10x those of their peers that have either, you know, written goals or no goals at all.Lesley Logan That is incredible. That, first of all, I love that. It's also so believable. I mean, maybe the listeners remember this story, but maybe not remind you. When Brad and I decided to move to Las Vegas. First, it was December 2019. We're like, "Hey, maybe we should maybe we should actually think about moving to Las Vegas." And Brad said like, "Yeah, like in 2022, or 2023." This is 2019, right? Because we had so many plans for 2020. And we had to like kind of change the life if you're gonna want to move and buy a house like we were living in California without the goal of buying a house. So, you have to make a lot of life decisions that are different everyone, when you're ready to buy a house, and you were living in California before. So fast forward March 2020, our entire count calendars, cancelled everything. Like I'm just like, literally refunding retreats and workshops and all this stuff. And I had a client who said, she worked at Google and she said, "We're going to be home until June of 2021," is what they said. This isn't April of 2020. And I was like, "If Google's going to be at home remote, every tech company is going to a remote and space is going to become a commodity." And so I told Brad, we need to move to Vegas now. And he's like, "Okay, well maybe like this, like later this year." And I'm like, "Nope, June 1st. We're moving June 1st." And so we did this whole thing we wrote down like how many rooms will the house have? How like how much will can we spent? Like, what how much we want to have a square footage, what does it have? We are very specific. And then we put that away, we started doing some stuff did a couple work things. And sure enough, when we found this house, it was all the things we wrote down. It was a better price point than we thought and we moved on June 1. Like it was all these things and so havin not written down having like, "Oh, we're gonna do that whatever." We're not like actually gotten specific about it. I don't I can tell you right now it probably wouldn't be here because I wouldn't have known what I was looking for. I wouldn't know I found it.Stef Caldwell Yeah,yeah. There's so there's so many things and that one is I have to reference a woman's work who I just adore Dr. Tara Suat Swart. She is like a neural manifestation guru. So she talks about like the brain science behind manifesting and then the second thing so go and read her book The Source (The Source? Yeah, The Source.) So go and read that if you like this conversation. Second thing is the universe loves clarity, the universe does not love wishy washy. Same exact thing happened to me and my husband. It was last Christmas, (unfortunately we didn't get the house which I'm still grieving) but we started asking ourselves if we left the city because we were city people. Then like what would the dream house look like for us? Number of rooms, walkout basement on a lake with a boats with all these things? Can I swear on this? (Lesley: You can totally. Yeah.) I shit you not I get on Zillow the very next day and I'm like, "Oh my God, this is the house in our price range." You know what all these elements it's like, by having that clarity you can attract and find that thing because you're aware that that's what you're looking for.Lesley Logan 100%. So you let I'm gonna put I put the source down because I got a I got a credit on my book thing to read. But I am rereading in paperback Pam, I think her name is Grout, Pam Grout's book E-Squared. And she also did some science behind things and everyone who's like, "Oh my God, these two girls are talking about manifesting and getting clar..." Do that, if you are a doubter. This is the book for you because she (Stef: Yeah) has nine experiments. All, seven of them only take 48 hours to do or less. And it's you have to be specific, but you are she literally has you test the universe to prove that it exists and that it brings you things. And I did this book, gosh, in 2013 20... No 2014, I did this book and I wanted to experiment I wrote Brad's name down and we were not dating and he was not calling me and nor was he texting me, but I wrote his name down as someone who's going to call me. And the rule was it had to be someone who knew your information, but you would not say, "Oh, call me later," like, couldn't be like, we hadn't talked in like three months. So I wrote his name down and within 48 hours, he had texted me and like the rest (Stef: Wow!) is history. So (Stef: Wow!) so like, I, I've been feeling a little bit like, I've been feeling a little unspecific and things and I'm just like, "I, want?" Like, insert generic goal here. And so I'm like," You know what, we have to get back on that book, we have to get back on the specific bandwagon." So so everyone two manifesting books with science behind it. (Stef: Yes) I feel like there's a better house for you, there was a thing, but but as a city person, you have to be specific if you're gonna leave.Stef Caldwell Yeah. I know. (Stef and Lesley laughs) I'm been checking out Zillow every day. So ...Lesley Logan My advice, because that was a really weird to leave the city of LA like, like in UCLA to like, Vegas, and I were we are by the Strip. So I'm like, "Oh, look, city skyline." (Stef: Yeah, yeah.) Okay, so back to women and building wealth, (Stef: Yeah) and feeling worthy. What, what do you say to the woman who, who may be like, oh, it will just use me as example because I know, we have a lot of listeners like this. I wasn't raised with money. I was raised with parents who like, well, one parent who would spend the money, lose the game. And I kind of felt like it's because I didn't feel worthy. And that's why the like getting rid of the money. (Stef: Yeah.) You know, sorry, Mom, if you're listening. But just an observation. And then you know, so no money is always gone. The answer to everything was no, we don't have any money. And then to fast forward, where I make way more money than I ever saw an adult member of my family make. What do you say to that person as they are trying to even build more wealth or feel more worthy of things like when around them, they never had that as a model? Is there, is there a mantra, is there something they could think of? Like, what is it because that is also stopping us from bridging that gap.Stef Caldwell Yeah, I think the first thing is, in any area of your life, when you start doing work, results come, right. And we have been trained in how to have relationships with the people that we work with, in our careers, we have been not trained in how to have a relationship with our money. And so there's tons of money experts out there, there's a woman that I really adore, whose work has really impacted my life, Jocelyn Kelly Reid, who teaches us to look at money, like a resource, just as air is a resource that is abundant that we breathe, and we don't think about, imagine money being the same, it can come into your life, it can exit your life, it's literally just kind of this ebb and flow of how you exist. And for me, you know, similar situation like middle middle class, you know, but but my parents didn't have tons of acculan... affilance, affluence.Lesley Logan It's okay, Sunday's bring on the worst words.Stef Caldwell Right, right. And so, um, you know, even just like getting around, getting centered around things like debt, right? Like, I think debt can like be this major shame spiral, especially for women, because we've been told it's bad. But in reality, like debt is just a means to afford a future that we may need to step into more soon than we're ready. My husband, I bought a home, you know, a number of years ago that we invested into as an Airbnb property. And I took on debt to make that investment. But that investment has paid back tenfold, maybe 30 fold at this point. And so while I had shame around the debt at the time, now I look at it and I'm like, "It was the best decision I ever made." And it accelerated the future that we're now living in. And so again, you know, there were you put forth effort results follow, I would encourage anybody listening to this, if you have money, shame issues, if you have a belief system that makes you feel like you're not worthy of accomplishing the financial success that is available to you, if you just simply want it, go and put in the work there.Lesley Logan Yeah, that is, I like that. I also I like the way you put that together, because it is where you put the effort, it does expand and (Stef: Yeah) you know, so and if that's where you need it, and, and thank you for bringing up the debt thing, because I do think there's a lot of shame around that kind of stuff. And one thing you'll that you don't know is like pretty much everyone has it. (Stef: Yeah) So you're not the only one. (Stef: Right, right.) And also something that I remember, because I would say this to my clients who like didn't like the number on the scale and I'm like, "Well, you're not walking around with your scale number on your shirt like no one actually knows what you weigh." (Stef: Yeah) The same really is for your bank account and you walk around thinking that everyone around you who looks like they have money has more than you, you don't know, they might have tons of debt that goes along (Stef: Right) with the money that they have. And so I think like, I remember, I heard a speaker, and oh my gosh, her name is escaping me. And y'all if I remember, I'll put in the shownotes, or we'll talk about in the recap, but she was very clear, like one, the energy of what you spend the money on your bills matters. So like when you like to have a lot of positivity around paying the taxes and paying the bills, and the word you use and then two like, credit is a good thing. (Stef: Yeah) Like having having that ability to use that to expand the business that you're growing or the the work that you're doing. It's very different than just like going to Target. (Lesley laughs) Again, there's a difference. So I really, really enjoyed that. Okay. So Stef, like with if somebody is wanting to start today to have more of an idea around welcoming wealth and I mean, obviously, we have your manifestation tips, and we can and wanting to get into the investment world, what what other things need to think about when it comes to building wealth? Is there like an obstacle or something we may not have discussed yet that could be like, hindering women from actually making the wealth they want to make?Stef Caldwell Yeah. So there's a book that I read a couple of years ago, that just the title alone is Epic. It's F word being humble. So being humble. (Stef and Lesley laughs) And I remember, I remember reading it and being like, "Who would I be, if I was the boss's version of me that had no humility whatsoever?" Right. Like, take all the humility that has been like entrained in you from being a woman and playing small and all these things that society kind of like forces on us. And just strip that away for a second. Don't gotta do it for a long time. Maybe just go get in the shower, and be the boss's version of yourself and talk about your accolades, and your accomplishments, and how far you've grown, and how incredible you are. And what a great you know partner you are and the people in your community, like literally go to the most expanded, pompous, like proud version of you. And just let that out. And now the next time you're going into any money related conversation, whether it's raising your rates, working with clients, whether it's raising your rates, you know, going into the next career opportunity, if it's right for you. I want you to remember, every single thing that you stated when you were being the least humble version of you, because that's who you really are. And like when you accept that, you'll realize that in many ways, like you are underpaid or undervalued or undervaluing yourself even. And so, yes, so much of how we are able to receive is based on like, what we are available for, and so just go increase your level of availability, and then you know, money will flow to you.Lesley Logan Oh, I really love that. I really love that. And I I was thinking as you're saying that, like no one has ever like said, "You know what, go see so and so they're the most humble, aka cheapest place in town." Like no one's saying that. (Lesley and Stef laughs)Stef Caldwell Yeah. Like, I imagined, like, going to, like work with, you know, fitness provider. And they're like, "You know, I'm like, actually not very good at helping you accomplished your goals. Like, I'm mediocre at best." Like, "No way." Are you gonna, like I want to go to the person to be like, "You're gonna leave your with a six pack, a totally new diet, and be absolutely ripped, just like you want." Like, that's who I'm gonna hire. (Lesley: Yeah) So be their version of you ...Lesley Logan Well, isn't it isn't it Tony Robbins is like the most certain person that wins. They win all the time. (Stef: Yeah) Like I'm most certain person wins. And I also think like, if you'd follow that up with like, "I'm going to do all this super, super confident. How much do you charge? Oh it's $50?" (Stef: Right) Like, with a question mark. They're be like, "Ah, wait, what? I was about to pay. That sounds like a $200 an hour thing. And now it's like, I'm gonna wonder what's wrong with it, it doesn't match. (Stef: Yeah) Like your most bosses, like badassary, doesn't matter the price you just told me?"Stef Caldwell Yeah, when people pay, they pay attention. And you're the price that you you request is more about the transformation that you provide your customer than it is about what you're able to receive. So like think about this, when you pay $50 for a service, you show up and you treat that $50 service those same way you treat a $50 service. We pay $5,000 for a service, you show up is a very different person. $20,000 $100,000 Right? Like know that your customers will get more value out of you when you you know demand a price point that forces them to show up as the best versions of themselves.Lesley Logan Yeah, yeah. And you also will like them more. You won't resent them for... (Stef: Yeah) Like because you know when we resent something's because we broke around with ourselves and if you're under charging, of course you're gonna resent that yourself or you're gonna be mad at you because you're, they're blowing off the thing that you think that they should be valuing but you didn't charge them enough for them to value it? And then you're pissed because you're also not making enough to do the thing, but they're not valuing.Stef Caldwell Yeah, yeah. And there's so much to unpack in our feelings around money too. Like, what revenue do you bring into your business that like, feels like hell yeah, revenue. And what revenue do you bring in that you're like, "Oh, I do not even like this." Then find ways to get more hell yeah revenue and less revenue, and ultimately, you'll grow over time.Lesley Logan Okay, well, that that is I can't, Brad's gonna love this. But I already know Brad's gonna love that because that is that is also the one of the most simple ways like I think some people can complicate it like, "Oh, this is the thing that I make the most money on, or this is the thing I sell the most." But it's like actually ask yourself like, which one is like hell yeah money, and which ones like uh money. And then how do you make more hell yeah money. (Stef: Yeah) And what do you have to change in your business or in your day or in your schedule or your life? Like that's oh, yes. Oh, I love. (Stef: Yeah) Okay. Well, Stef, I mean, I feel like it can keep talking to you forever. But we're gonna take a brief pause. And and after that, we'll find out where people can just hear more of your words.Alright, Stef, where are you hanging out? Where are you giving this amazing advice? Don't and you have a podcast coming out? Yeah.Stef Caldwell I do. I do. So because you've been listening, you know that my whole thing is how do we compress time? How can we help women have more wealth more quickly? There is an emerging economy and emerging industry that I'm really excited about. You may have heard the words Web3, you may have heard the words, Crypto. I'm really passionate about this space, as it's opening doors to new wealth creation for women and not enough women are leaning in. So where people can hang out with me. On September 7, my new podcast Allowlist is launching along with my co host shout out Lauren Tierney, you're amazing. It is a podcast focused all around Web3 and Crypto. I know you might be listening, and you're be like, "Oh, this is so weird. This took a left turn." Trust me. This is an incredible industry. And I would love to have you guys come and listen to that podcast.Lesley Logan Well, I think it could sound a left turn because when people hear Crypto. They think, "Oh, God, that's just like, I don't even understand stock markets. And I have to understand like that." And then also everything that they've heard about Crypto. But can you like in layman's terms describe what Web3 is? Because I think that that's a word that they've heard less.Stef Caldwell Yes. So if you think about the internet, something we all know and love. In the early 90s, the only thing you could do on the internet was read stuff. That's Web1. If you think about your experience with the internet, right now, you can both read things on the internet, as well as interact with people on the internet. So it's read and write. Web3 is a new iteration of the internet that allows you to read, write and own your experiences in your digital life. If you think about things that we've talked about on this podcast, envisioning where this world is 10 years from today, my guess is that we're spending even more time and digital lives than we have been historically. And Web3 really enables the ownership of our digital lives as opposed to being owned by the public utilities that are available to us. I ...Lesley Logan Are we talking about the metaverse? Are we talking about like living in a like a like a an like a what does that virtual reality is that what we're talking about?Stef Caldwell Metaverse is one component of Web3, but certainly not the whole story.Lesley Logan Thank God, thank God, there's another part of the story because I was like, I just not, I don't want to be part of that world as much. I'm already there. They already have three apps for me. (Lesley and Stef laughs) I thought you know what, first of all, like, I hope you all download it and go and listen, and at least at least listened to all their launch episodes. Because here's the deal, women historically, we've not been able to be part of the first steps of any creation, like this, even in the 90s. Like how many women were in tech companies, right. And now you are part of tech companies. You can tell people how few women are there. And this is like an opportunity for all of us to actually be part of it, be part of what's being curated. And we already know when women are at the top we do way better decisions. (Lesley laughs) (Stef: Which is completely true.) So there's science everyone. But I like I think that this is this is not something we should avoid because this is though an awesome opportunity. We could be part of it at the beginning and we should be. So I'm excited that y'all are doing it. I can't wait to tune in and actually learn about something I know this much about. And Brad is like, "Lesley you know," he he talks about it all the time but like I think I've been like you know, blinders on blah, blah, blah, but we can't do that anymore. We need to be part of it if we want to make the changes and we want to also be in charge of the experience we get to have which we all should want to do that. So thank you for sharing that podcast. It's Allowlist?Stef Caldwell Yeah, allowlist.vip is the website and @allowlist.vip is the Instagram, Twitter, TikTok you know all the places.Lesley Logan Wonderful. Okay, so we asked everyone and you've given so many great action steps already. So, I totally understand if you're highlighting the best ones, but Be It Till You It action items. Bold, executable, intrinsic or targeted steps women can do to be until they see it.Stef Caldwell Yeah, I was really excited about this question when I was preparing. So I wrote down four principles that guide my life. And these are quotes from other people that I've picked up and other personal development books along the way. The first is, there's a statute of limitations on all childhood traumas, I think in many ways we let trauma, hold us back, work, do the work, and then choose to hop, skip, jump past it. I think that that's just a choice we all make. I have my own trauma, you can hear about that on plenty of other podcasts. But that's a guiding principle for me. The second is that you have to say 'no' to what you want to do, in order to do what you really want to do. I think the power of 'no' is so undervalued. But the more you start saying 'no' to the things that you want to do, the more you can start saying 'hell yes' to the things that you really want to do. And sometimes it's harder, but it's better. (Lesley: I love that.) The third is you can have your excuses. You can have success, but you can't have both. So make a decision. Who do you want to be? And then the fourth is ask yourself every single day. Are you willing? Are you willing to be that person that person that takes action, the person that has the hard conversations with themselves and with others, the person that can step into the life that you most desire. And so that's it.Lesley Logan Oh my gosh, saving all those, saving and putting, I'm like gonna put them where I can read them from my desk. I'm one of those people who needs a little reminders all the time.Stef Caldwell And I will say this I have to give you the names of the people that said those ... (Lesley: Okay) because those are not my original words and I don't want anybody to think that they are. (Lesley and Stef laughs)Lesley Logan Let's give the credit and where are they from?Stef Caldwell Yeah. Statute of limitations is Alex Banayan, Third Door. Saying no to what you want for what you really want, Amber Amber Rae, Choose Wonder Over Worry. You can have your excuses, but you can have or success. That's Jen Sincero. And then are you willing is Gary John Bishop.Lesley Logan Okay, The Third Door book everyone that's an put that one on your list. That is a phenomenal book. That is such a good book. And it is, I think I can look back at my life and see that every success I've had is from the third door. (Stef: Yeah) Like it's never, it's never been the first door. It's always been this third door. And whenever I try to go the first or second I'm always rejected. I'm always like, "Oh."Stef Caldwell You're like, "These stupid doors."Lesley Logan Oh my God, these are, okay, I could have you on forever. You are amazing. You have such great advice. Thank you for being so willing to share it and and also, I hope to have you back. So if you all loved her, and you love what she said. Let us know screenshot this, tag her on Instagram, tag her podcast, go listen to it and say which part of this was your best takeaway? Which one of these things are you journaling about or thinking about or gonna do right now? Not only does it help the @be_it_pod, thank you, but it also helps Stef with her mission, which is really helping women build wealth and collapsing that gap. And I think that we we can do this together. So thank you so much for being here, everyone until next time, Be It Till You See It.That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review. And follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcasts. Also, make sure to introduce yourself over at the @be_it_pod on Instagram. I would love to know more about you. Share this episode with whoever you think needs to hear it. Help us and others BE IT TILL YOU SEE IT. Have an awesome day! 'Be It Till You See It' is a production of 'As The Crows Fly Media'. 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Let's have a serious conversation. Let's talk about the fear, doubt, and the impostor syndrome, something most new entrepreneurs feel in their business. In this episode, I shared excerpts from the book Choose Wonder Over Worry by Amber Rae. This will help shift your perspective and look at the other side of what you're feeling. When you can build self-esteem instead of looking to the outside environment when you can applaud yourself, when you can choose yourself, you can overcome your fear. What you're feeling inside of you, doesn't have to be negative. The fear, the worry, the doubt, doesn't have to mean don't, it doesn't have to mean stop. Listen to this episode to learn more. "There is not anyone on this planet that is immune to this ego voices, that is immune to fear and worry and that is afraid to step out of their comfort zone." - Shawn Mynar "We have to start looking at how can we use our emotion and thoughts that actually propel us forward." - Shawn Mynar "Self-love is important, is paramount, is critical to having the successful business that you want." - Shawn Mynar "It is your choice what you believe inside your head." - Shawn Mynar +++ Choose Wonder Over Worry by Amber Rae - https://amzn.to/2VEtKcL UNSTUCK BIZ UNSTUCK ENTREPRENEUR INSTAGRAM SHAWNMYNAR.COM - Get the latest scoop +++ Enjoying the podcast? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE + leave a REVIEW and tell me why! I appreciate your support. FULL EPISODE TRANSCRIPT BELOW: 0:00 Hey, Hey there friends, Shawn here. And this is a best of episode of The unstuck entrepreneur podcast, where I'm taking the most popular most talked about most important episodes of the past, and bringing them back for an encore presentation. So enjoy the replay of this episode, and I'll be back in a few weeks with another new episode and fresh topic. 0:28 I'm Shawn Mynar, and this is unstuck a space for heart centered entrepreneurs to implement both the inner work and outer strategies required to get unstuck and build the impactful profitable business of their dreams, no hustle, grind, or long hours required. Let's get into today's session. 0:54 Hey, hey there, friends. Welcome back to the unstuck podcast. Thank you all for joining me for tuning in for subscribing, for downloading for all those things that you do to help this show be what it is, I am so grateful for all of you. Today, we're going to do things again, a little bit different because I'm still on a little bit of a hiatus from content creation. Actually, when you're listening to this, when it airs, I'm on my first vacation in two years, because of course, the world's shut down. So vacations weren't really a thing for a long time. And so now I'm taking a little bit of a breather away from my computer with my family and just having a really good time. And I actually get to see the ocean, which I haven't in two years either. So really pumped for that, and still kind of unwinding from the launch a few weeks ago of unstuck entrepreneur, and all of the content creation that if you have done a launch, you know is part of that process. And so I wanted to take a little bit of a break from doing that. But in the process, what I want to do today is actually showcase a piece of content that I think you guys will absolutely love that you absolutely need in your life. And I just want to pull some some information from that and and speak about what comes up when I say those words to you. But first, let me give you a real life story. That is what brought about this podcast episode. I wasn't planning on recording this kind of episode, even a few days ago. But because of things that happen in my own life, I decided it was the time. So let me tell you, let me set the scene with that story. It was Saturday night, I was flipping through the abundance of cable channels that I have available to me right now. And most of you know and if you don't only fill you in, we are currently living temporarily with my mother in law in her lower level, she has an entire part of her house that she doesn't use at all. So we moved in a few months ago, because we sold our condo at the height of the craziness that is the real estate market right now and couldn't find a place to live. Just crazy low inventory, ridiculous price hikes just not a good situation that we wanted to put ourselves in. So we are waiting out. And things are definitely taking a turn lately and we're seeing some normalcy in the market. So we're getting close to being able to find our dream home just maybe a few more months that I think I think I can make it I think I can do it. But anyway, I haven't had access to cable I haven't it hasn't been something that is something I want. For many, many years. My mother in law does have cable, and there's so many channels available these days. But here I am off track. What I want you to know is I happen to find that the notebook was on one of these cable channels. So I caught the last 45 minutes of the notebook, which back in the day used to be one of my favorite movies. And so I'm watching it, my wife is in and out watching it kind of interested but kind of not not really her thing as much as mine. And if you're not familiar with a notebook, if you haven't ever seen it, I'm not going to explain the whole thing because it doesn't really matter. But the key point that is important to this story is that the man there is a man I don't want to give away who it is, is reading a story to a woman. And so they're reading the story in present day and then they go back and kind of play out the story as the movie. That's all you need to know. So anyway, then my wife and I go to bed and I'm like hey 5:00 Let me read to you, I'm a big reader, she has her moments sometimes is into it sometimes isn't. Let me, let me read to you, we've done it in the past, I actually really like reading out loud. And she likes listening. So it was, it's a good mix. So I start reading the book that I am currently reading, which is what is going to be the focus of our episode today. And it's called choose wonder over worry, by Amber Ray, we have had this book on the shelf for over a year, at least probably two or three years, whenever it came out. My wife is a fan of amber ray. So as soon as this book came out, she grabbed it, I don't know if she actually read the whole thing if I'm being totally honest. But for whatever reason, after looking at this book on the shelf, for years and years, I finally decided to pick it up and start reading it. So when it's time for me to read to her, I'm on the chapter about envy. And just to give you a little background of this book, it is probably the best book that I have read and I have read a lot, a lot of personal growth, self development types of books, like I love them, I think they're great. Obviously, they enhance the message that I'm able to share with you here. So it's almost like helping, it's almost like studying for what I'm interested in and what I'm doing in my business and in my career. But I love it too. And this book is the best, I just love how it is laid out. I love her personality and how and she infuses that in the book. It's just it's so good. It's casual, but it also is deep at the same time. I highly recommend it, which is why I'm spending a whole podcast episode talking about it. And why I will continue to encourage you to get your hands on this book. This is not sponsored, Amber Ray doesn't know I'm talking about this, I don't think she's gonna mind don't think I'm doing anything illegal here by talking about her book. She has no idea this is happening. But this is how much I love this book. So anyway, we're in bed Saturday night, and I start reading the chapter on envy, I get a few pages in and I stopped because you know, after a few pages, it's like I don't think I need to keep reading out loud. But this prompts and pretty emotional conversation between me and my wife, which I'm obviously not going to get into the details. That's personal stuff. But what you need to know is that she is in the process very, very close to like within a matter of weeks, launching a new business and new concept, something she's never done, just like everything about it is very new, very fresh, very scary. There's a lot of unknowns, she is starting from this kind of low point where she will have to develop her skills, develop her talent developed her knowledge as she goes. And there are people in this space who have been doing it for 10 plus years that she's kind of watching and seeing what they do. And of course in the process, comparing herself to those people. So since she is weeks out from launching this thing, and has been working for so long on getting it up to speed and getting everything ready. And all it has already had a ton of hurdles to go through. And she has gotten through them. Her voices in her head are getting louder and louder. And what is coming up the most from her and these voices is imposter syndrome, and fear and worry and all the things that we talked about here so much on unstuck, and the ego voice, that inner critic voice that does make itself known quite often in all of us. And it is so common to just something to just know is going to happen. As you get closer and closer and closer to doing something scary to putting yourself out there to getting out of your comfort zone. They get louder and louder and louder. And so this conversation I had with my wife led me to start thinking, Hey, maybe I should have a similar conversation on the podcast and just have this open dialogue, this open a message to all of you out there that are dealing with fear, myself included. There is not anyone on this planet that is immune to those ego voices that is immune to fear and worry and that is afraid to step out of their comfort zone to try something new to potentially fail at 10:00 this new thing. So this is a conversation about that. And I want to use this book choose wonder, over worry as a conduit to help along this conversation, because that's exactly what we did my wife and I, that prompted this really important conversation that we needed to have. And it really gave my wife the space to be able to talk about it to be able to put words to it, and and acknowledge what was really going on within her. So I'm going to take a few paragraphs of the book and read them to you here, and then just kind of pick out some of the key pieces that I really want to make sure to leave you with, and how they can show up and how they can look in your life. Okay, so I'm going to start with the chapter on envy. Like I mentioned, that was what I read to my wife. And this paragraph in particular, I think is really powerful and really got my wife thinking and may also do the same for you. 11:08 All right, what came next was the difficult work of learning to love and applaud and choose myself. It was only through doing this that I finally learned how to cultivate a sense of self esteem. And for me, that came when I showed up at the page, every single day, it came when I focus on the projects that lit me up, rather than where they would lead me. It came when I measured myself, not against them. But instead against where I was last week. It came when I learned to see my envy as inspiration of what's possible, and their success as a signal that there's room for us all. And when yet another person accomplished something that was still a seed inside of me, I learned to replace the worry voice that said, You're behind with just keep going. And eventually why not me became if they can do it. So can I. 12:06 So a few things I want to point out here. First of all, obviously, we're talking about a situation where she's comparing her work to others, she's feeling like she's behind. She's feeling like what's the point, this is very much typical imposter syndrome, that the vast, vast, vast majority of us go through and have those thoughts and emotions around our work, especially when we're just getting started and seeing and watching people that have been doing it for two 510 2030 years. And it ends up being this comparison trap that is just natural to get into. So please, if you are noticing that and yourself, don't feel like that is a bad thing, or that is abnormal, or trying to shut it down without actually looking into it. It is normal, it happens to most of us. And it's something that we have to start looking at in terms of how can we use that emotion and those thoughts to actually propel us forward. And so as Amber says, and this is what I love that most people don't talk about, especially in the business world, is finding love for yourself. Yes, self love is important is paramount is critical to having the successful business that you want. Because like Amber says, when you can build self esteem, instead of looking to the outside environment, where you can applaud yourself when you can choose yourself. 13:56 And we do that by putting our investment, time, energy, money, whatever it is, by investing in yourself. By doing the work by showing up every day, as Amber said, she's a writer, her big goal was to write this book that I now have in my hand. And it was something that was causing her to stumble quite a bit. It just was showing up to write every single day, page by page. For me, it is showing up for my business, figuring things out as I go. And that is how I now have gotten where I am in half now almost nine years into my business is just by showing up every day, little by little, not trying to look at the big picture and then looking at everyone else's big picture that doesn't look like mine yet and starting to compare starting to envy others it's by choosing myself 15:00 off, it's by you choosing yourself, it's by you cultivating a sense of a love for yourself. For the work you're doing for the impact, you want to make the income you want to make the life you want to provide for yourself, and whoever else you're providing for. That is you showing up for yourself, that is you turning the tables and taking your eyes back on your own paper back on your own work back on your own journey and yourself, instead of looking to the outside to determine what it should look like what you should be doing, where you should be at how it should be going. All these shoulds that make up imposter syndrome, turning it back on you. And then another key piece of this paragraph that shows a really good example of things we talk about here a lot, which is the fact that you have the ability, it is your choice, what you believe inside your head, if you believe those voices that tell you you can't, or if you believe the voices that tell you can which are also inside of you to just usually the voice that says that you can't is louder, and it's the one we listened to. But there is the other side, the truthful side as well. So as Amber says she was able to replace those voices that were saying that she's behind, we're saying that she can do this, why not me? Why am I not there yet? With the ones that say, just keep going? Just keep showing up. 16:39 And you have the ability, you have the power we all do to be able to do that for yourself. You are in charge here. What do you want to be saying to yourself every day when you show up for your business? 16:56 All right, next little paragraph that I want to share with you comes from the chapter on fear. It's a little long, so bear with me. But just remember, I'm like Noah, reading to ally in the notebook. We're doing that here on the unstuck podcast. Okay. It took me a long time to realize that when I'm afraid and when terror is pulsating through my veins, this is not a signal that something is wrong. Fear is not an enemy working against me, or a force that I need to go to war with and try to overcome. Fear has been wired in our systems for millions of years as a mechanism to keep us safe. The aim isn't to undo our response to fear or try to change it. It's to welcome it and learn how to have a relationship with it is to see fear as a reminder that we are alive. I just want to stop there real quick. I thought I was gonna read the whole thing. But let me just have a little intermission here. That is super important right here, we have to consider this. We are the ones determining that fear is this awful, scary enemy. But what if instead, fear is not a bad thing. Fear is just another signal. And maybe it could even be a signal that you are on the right path, that you are doing the right thing that something magical is on its way to you. So we have the power also to determine how we connect with fear what the translation is. And it doesn't have to be a bad thing. And Amer goes on to reinforce that. So now we'll get back into the paragraph. As a rule of thumb, the louder the voice in your head, the more you're moving toward something worthwhile. If you felt fully confident and comfortable, you wouldn't be stretching yourself and growing. You wouldn't be moving toward creating a life that reflects who you truly are. When I'm stepping outside my comfort zone, it doesn't feel very magical. At least not at first. It's messy, uncomfortable, terrifying. The worry voices in my head start going haywire and screaming for safety. It's when I second guessed myself, overthink everything, feel all the fields and want to run the other way. It's why after I started my own business, I kept looking for jobs. It's why a few pieces of harsh feedback caused me to put off pursuing a book for years. It's why when I made a serious commitment and love, I freaked out. Eventually I realized that my anxiety and very loud and urgent worry voice yelling danger is the very clear signal that I am leaving my comfort zone. The point is not to escape the discomfort silence the fear or make the feelings go away. It's to learn 20:00 To feel them, see them and move with them. And that is when the magic happens. The magic happens when we embrace and acknowledge all of our emotions, rather than try to push them away. The magic happens when we feel blindfolded and lost in the dark. And were just curious enough to see what lies a few steps farther, and a few steps farther. And a few more. The magic happens when we walk with fear, rather than flee from it, and see every moment of uncertainty and discomfort as an opportunity to explore the unconscious parts within us. As we learn to do this, the worthwhile vision tugging at our hearts will become real tangible, out from inside of us and into the world. And isn't that the whole point to express who we are, and what we have to give? Oh my gosh, does that not just give you chills? That is such a powerful message, I hope just that what I just read shows you the kind of book that it is and how real the stories are, and how relatable she makes it out to be, please, please go get this book choose wonder over worry by Amber Ray. What I really love about what I just shared is, again, this message that what you're feeling inside of you doesn't have to be something negative, the fear, the worry, that doubt, it doesn't have to mean don't, it doesn't have to mean stop. Instead, it actually means that you are in the right place that you are about to do something magical. And that you are about to share your gifts with the world in a brand new way in a way that is so powerful, and so needed. You are about to contribute to the world, what you have to offer, your purpose here, your passion, your experience, your expertise, your education, you as a business owner, whether you are just on the verge of starting your business and scared whether you have dipped your toe into building your business, but are still holding on to that safety net of a job you don't love. Or whether you are fully invested in your business, and are on the brink of taking it to the next level or trying something different or expanding your offerings. All of that comes with fear comes with worry comes with doubt comes with impostor syndrome. And that is normal. And that is expected. And you are exactly where you should be you are experiencing exactly what we expect you to experience. But it's how you translate that that makes the difference between whether you go after it and take the leap and do something magical. Or you stay stuck. You stay in your comfort zone. You keep telling yourself the stories that keep you from moving forward. And you believe those stories, 23:30 fear worry, impostor syndrome, and V. What if those feelings? What if those emotions? And what if the thoughts that are charged with those emotions aren't meant to keep you standing still? 23:48 What if they are there to keep you moving forward anyway? What if they are the signs and signals that you are doing something important that you are creating a different life for yourself that you are starting a business that will surely succeed? 24:06 We have the ability to determine what those feelings mean, and what power those thoughts have over us. And all it takes. We talk about it all the time is knowing that that's what's going on. And using that power that you have because this is your life. This is your mind. These are your thoughts. You get to decide 24:34 to move forward, instead of standing still to come to your business every day with the intention to move forward. That is all it takes. And you do that over and over and over again. And then you have a business that is thriving and impactful and successful. And yes, you 25:00 don't have fear almost every day, but you know what it means, you know, the message that it's really trying to get across to you, which is keep going, which is you are on the verge of creating something magical, where you are on the right path. That is what we can do with the fear that we all feel as entrepreneurs. And this is not even just for business, we feel fear in so many different areas of our lives. 25:30 We can apply this to every scenario, where we are on the verge of doing something great for ourselves. And that voice tries to keep us back. And it only tries to keep us back, because that's how you've interpreted it. So can it instead be something that propels you forward with even more passion, even more vigor? 25:57 I think it can. And this book is going to give you the tools to get you there. So once again, taking a backseat from my own content, and instead, guiding you to something I think would be really beneficial for every single one of you out there. If you are a reader, grab the book, choose wonder over worry by Amber Ray. If not, it's on audio, I'm sure you can get on Audible or something like that. Check that out, too. All right, my friends. With that I will leave you while I head on vacation and have a few days off. But don't worry, I will still be showing my dance moves over on my social media at unstuck Entrepreneur on Instagram. Yes, I have gotten to the point where not only am I loving creating reels, but I'm actually learning the trending dances on reels and doing them for public consumption. I don't know what it's gotten into me. But it's super fun. And I really love it. And it gives me a new way to recreate content where you know, some of the stuff that we're used to doing posting the pictures, posting the quotes, things like that, that we are used to doing on social media. Honestly, it's, I think it's gotten a little stale for all of us. And so for me, I just love that reels, give me a new way to share my work with the world in a really fun way. So that's what I'm doing over there. Please be sure to follow if you're not already at unstuck Entrepreneur on Instagram and send me a message while you're there. slide into my DMs and introduce yourself. Let me know who you are, what you're up to what kind of business you have or want to have. And we can chat about it. Alright, until next time, take care. If you're like most of my clients, you followed your passion for health, got your certifications did the trainings. And now you're excited to have your very own thriving impactful wellness business. But 28:00 how do you actually do that? It's a common position to be in, especially in the wellness space because no one teaches you this whole business thing along the way. This trend is exactly why I'm here a passionate nutritionists turn business coach for wellness professionals. Because I'm done seeing wellness practitioners continue to play small in their business, simply because they don't know the right steps to take. If you're like most wellness pros out there with a dream to start their own impactful freedom build business. You've probably spent hours trying to build your website, figure out what the heck to post on social media and taking all the courses to try to get competent in what you're doing. Or maybe just the thought of all that sends you into a puddle of stress and overwhelm 28:50 good news, you don't need a perfect website a killer Instagram strategy, or to be an expert to have an impactful and successful business. What you do need is a plan. The wellness business blueprint is the Jumpstart you need to plan prepare and execute on your passion for helping others without that sinking feeling of overwhelm. Because this isn't like the other stuffy, boring business plans out there. The wellness business blueprint is centered around you, what feels good to you, what's right for your business, your dreams and your lifestyle. What keeps you in alignment and your energy flowing? 29:35 What allows you to stay sane and stress free and excited in your business? Because building your dream wellness business starts with a plan that works for you. This free 15 Page printable workbook will take you through my signature flow and grow business framework so you can create your own business vision while gaining clarity structure and a solid 30:00 plan to move forward. Download it today and get started on your business blueprint head to Shawnmynar.com/WBB that stands for wellness business blueprint and get started building your dream wellness business today. Again, that's Shawnmynar.com/WBB
Nevertheless, She Persisted: Surviving Teen Depression and Anxiety
Today's guest is Paige Tonz—a former D1 athlete and coach helping transform girls into strong women beyond the playing field or court. Paige has worked with 1000+ athletes in her programs and workshops. She believes girls have so many opportunities to dream bigger than they ever imagined. Because sports was and still is such a big part of Paige's life, she has had a first-row ticket to see how the experiences from sports can be a vessel to success in life on and off the field. (bio via paigetonz.com) Paige's website: https://www.paigetonz.com/ (https://www.paigetonz.com/) Paige's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paigetonz/ (https://www.instagram.com/paigetonz/) TOPICS + Shifting your expectations to be process-based and about things you can control + Expectation hangover + Test anxiety + the difference between truly learning vs. trying to pass a test + The importance of asking those you look up to for advice and insight + Steps you can take today to improve your self-confidence + Paige's resource recommendations for teens looking to improve self-esteem + self-talk MENTIONED + https://tscpodcast.com/episodes/238-ed-mylett/ (Ed Mylett on TSC) + https://www.amazon.com/dp/1250175267?ref=exp_shepersistedpodcast_dp_vv_d (Choose Wonder Over Worry by Amber Rae) + https://www.alphagirlconfidence.com/podcasts/the-alpha-girl-confidence-podcast (Alpha Girl Confidence) + https://www.paigetonz.com/free (Paige's Self-Talk Practice) SHOP GUEST RECOMMENDATIONS: https://amzn.to/3A69GOC (https://amzn.to/3A69GOC) EPISODE SPONSOR ⚡️This week's episode is brought to you by https://my.captivate.fm/magicmind.co/persisted (MagicMind)! For 20% off MagicMind—an all-natural energy drink with adaptogens, nootropics, and matcha to boost productivity + focus while decreasing stress—use code 'persisted20' at https://my.captivate.fm/magicmind.co/persisted (magicmind.co/persisted) LET'S CONNECT + https://www.instagram.com/shepersistedpodcast/ (Instagram) (@shepersistedpodcast) + https://www.shepersistedpodcast.com/ (Website) (shepersistedpodcast.com) + https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs1GxrDGrl0TbcPrQWPYfIA (YouTube) (Sadie Sutton: She Persisted Podcast) + https://twitter.com/persistpodcast (Twitter) (@persistpodcast) + https://www.facebook.com/neverthelessshepersistedpodcastwithsadiesutton/ (Facebook) (@shepersistedpodcast) + https://www.tiktok.com/@shepersistedpodcast?_d=secCgsIARCbDRgBIAIoARI%2BCjzw4i2oMSVNjTvMxJHLc26CXY5TDAoHyub6fkDZ5XB%2BalsU71BJ7Ft5kmqASe3alPsKnVEJntFXSt%2BIgZIaAA%3D%3D&app=musically&language=en&sec_uid=MS4wLjABAAAAkLyrQ4eiZIGy4n_Wmhq5KvdITgfEwpQP5t4Zp_awHfWQvsIurmmOuInjap8Zq4hS&tt_from=copy&u_code=dagd398fd8j0a1&user_id=6787408588068815878&utm_campaign=client_share&utm_medium=ios&utm_source=copy&source=h5_m (TikTok) (@shepersistedpodcast) + inquiries@shepersistedpodcast.com © 2020 SHE PERSISTED LLC. This podcast is copyrighted subject matter owned by SHE PERSISTED LLC
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Let's have a serious conversation. Let's talk about the fear, doubt, and the impostor syndrome, something most new entrepreneurs feel in their business. In this episode, I shared excerpts from the book Choose Wonder Over Worry by Amber Rae. This will help shift your perspective and look at the other side of what you're feeling. When you can build self-esteem instead of looking to the outside environment when you can applaud yourself, when you can choose yourself, you can overcome your fear. What you're feeling inside of you, doesn't have to be negative. The fear, the worry, the doubt, doesn't have to mean don't, it doesn't have to mean stop. Listen to this episode to learn more. "There is not anyone on this planet that is immune to this ego voices, that is immune to fear and worry and that is afraid to step out of their comfort zone." - Shawn Mynar "We have to start looking at how can we use our emotion and thoughts that actually propel us forward." - Shawn Mynar "Self-love is important, is paramount, is critical to having the successful business that you want." - Shawn Mynar "It is your choice what you believe inside your head." - Shawn Mynar +++ Choose Wonder Over Worry by Amber Rae - https://amzn.to/2VEtKcL UNSTUCK BIZ UNSTUCK ENTREPRENEUR INSTAGRAM SHAWNMYNAR.COM - Get the latest scoop +++ Enjoying the podcast? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE + leave a REVIEW and tell me why! I appreciate your support.
Amber Rae came into the world with a lot of wonder. But that shifted into worry, which was influenced by the need for validation and approval from certain peers. After building a life and career that looked successful on paper, she decided to follow her curiosity, choose herself, and choose wonder.AMBER RAE is an author, artist, and speaker devoted to inspiring people to express the fullness of their gifts. Mind Body Green called her “The Brené Brown of Wonder.” Previously, Amber helped launch six best-selling books as Chief Evangelist of Seth Godin's publishing experiment and started an “accelerator for your life” called The Bold Academy. She lives in Brooklyn and around the world. She's the author of Choose Wonder Over Worry: Move Beyond Fear and Doubt to Unlock Your Full Potential.Listener TribeWe have our own private social network for listeners of the Unmistakable Creative podcast. You can meet other listeners, discuss episodes, and engage with the creative community! Just visit https://the-unmistakable-creative-podcast.mn.co/ to sign up. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Inspired by the book, Choose Wonder Over Worry by Amber Rae, we're discussing why it is important to understand and unpack your emotions.
‘You have the life you are willing to put up with' on the Daily Grind, your new weekly motivational podcast. This episode features Kelly Johnson and special guest Stef Caldwell! Caldwell specializes in customer experience at Narrative Science, founder of Manifest, a growing community of and for ambitious women, creating spaces for women to gather with like-minded women to have open dialogue about the challenges they face both personally and professionally. She lives and works in Chicago, IL. In today's episode, Caldwell shares her childhood background, overcoming anxiety about the future, and career motivation to later inspire her to create Manifest and how she expanded her mark and ultimately sharing her leadership skills, ambiguous goal-setting and confident mindset with others. Since then, she has truly developed a community of women who support each other's biggest ambitions (and challenge each other to take action) and recently published her first book, ManifestHer. She also teased our listeners that she is working on a second book, Manifest Her to Personal Finance so stay tuned! Besides checking out Manifest Her and the Data Storytelling Podcast and grabbing a copy of ManifestHer, she recommends 5 books: 1. A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder. 2. Choose Wonder Over Worry by Amber Rae. 3. The Third Door by Alex Banayan. 4. Atomic Habits by James Clear. 5. I Can't Make This Up by Kevin Hart. (Intro quote is by author Gary John Bishop). Audio Credit Intro: Draw The Line Mastered by Connor Christian Follow Our Podcast: Instagram: @kjfdailygrind Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kjfdailygrind Podcast Network: https://ambiguouspodcastsolutions.com/ Follow our Host: Twitter: @kellyjlefty Instagram: @kellyjlefty Follow our Special Guest: Instagram: @bystefcaldwell Manifest Instagram: @manifest.her ManifestHer Podcast: https://manifesther-podcast.simplecast.com/ The Data Storytelling Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-data-storytelling-podcast/id1513431423 Website: https://www.bystefcaldwell.com/ Manifest Website: https://manifest-her.com/ --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/dailygrindpod/support
Feeling a bit stuck? You're probably worrying a lot and that's causing you stress. Instead, choose worry and you will start to see the opportunities around you.
Feeling a bit stuck? You're probably worrying a lot and that's causing you stress. Instead, choose worry and you will start to see the opportunities around you.
In a time when fear, doubt, and uncertainty creep in, it’s more important than ever to tune into our emotional wellness and health. That’s why I’m excited to share my conversation with Amber Rae on the show today. Amber Rae has been called “The Brené Brown of Wonder.” She’s a multi-talented artist, entrepreneur, and author. Her work has been featured in The New York Times, NY Mag, TODAY, Self, Fortune, Forbes and Entrepreneur and collaborated with numerous big brands. She reaches over 2 million people per week with her words and art. Her book Choose Wonder Over Worry: Move Beyond Fear and Doubt to Unlock Your Full Potential is so timely right now and her art helps us explore, visualize, and bring our well-being to the forefront. In our conversation: We are not our feelings and some of our internal voices are not all ours. How family trauma and/or generational trauma can effect us Amber shares her personal experiments to explore inner healing, including naming her inner critics and how it allows her to be able to be more observant of what comes Addiction and how can we create “wake up” calls as a catalyst for change and much more. And BTW - Amber is launching a 30-day journaling journey called Journal Your Feelings, today. To follow along, go to journalyourfeelings.com Enjoy! Today's episode is brought to you by CreativeLive. CreativeLive is the world's largest hub for online creative education in photo/video, art/design, music/audio, craft/maker and the ability to make a living in any of those disciplines. They are high quality, highly curated classes taught by the world’s top experts -- Pulitzer, Oscar, Grammy Award winners, New York Times best selling authors and the best entrepreneurs of our times.
SHOW NOTES:Choose Wonder over WorryAmber Rae on InstagramSabbath resources:Garden City by John Mark ComerThat Sounds Fun Podcast January 2018 Rhythms: Sabbath + John Mark ComerPico Iyer // TED Talk + The Art of Stillness bookwhy I sabbathSabbath by Dan B. AllenderHow to Set Boundaries (and Why It Matters)Present over Perfect by Shauna NiequistEmail me to discuss your thoughts on “Is it real? Is it possible?”Music by Drew Dawson (my talented brother!) // Dawson Music on Twitter + InstagramRachel A. Dawson on Twitter + Instagram + bookstagram
In this episode of Fun Therapy, Mike talks with author Amber Rae ("Choose Wonder Over Worry") about the relationships we have with our thoughts and emotions. She shares about the limiting scripts she believed and how she chose to ignore her unprocessed grief. Through a creative practice of naming her critical voices, she is finding an inspiring pathway to healing and wholeness.Amber's Book: "Choose Wonder Over Worry"Amber's WebsiteGuided Meditation BundleMike's Website
Asking God and/or the Universe for a sign is a great way to know if you are on the right track. What really helps is actually opening your eyes and seeing the signs!!! Like grabbing the wrong book from a shelf or getting a video dropped into your email that answers your exact question! Thank you to Amber Rae for writing the amazing Choose Wonder Over Worry. It was exactly what I needed this week. Note if you use that link to buy this great book I might make a few pennies :-)
In this week’s episode A+D tackle the not so palatable topic of envy. One of the big things we wanted to be mindful of when beginning this podcast was to speak openly and honestly, even if it makes us uncomfortable. And as we discuss in this week’s episode, feeling uncomfortable means you are growing so…SLAAAAAY! We’ve all been there…someone is thriving and though you are happy for them it ignites a small fire inside of you that makes feel inadequate. Why? And more importantly, how do we shift envy from a monster too inspiration?We also chat about…NY (read: small space) livingVegan livingLoving the parts of yourself that people don’t applaud forBinge worthy Netflix showsThe “H” wordBoundaries“The Test”Resources…Goodbye New York by Sari Botton (book)Leader Shift by John C. Maxwell (book)Rise Together Podcast The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron (book)Choose Wonder Over Worry by Amber Rae (book)Sponsors…RealiTea Check - use code “TOGETHER” at checkout for 10% off your order of 2 boxes of teaSunday Scaries - use code “TOGETHER” at checkout for 10% off your entire orderConnect with us…Instagram: @pullittogetherpodA’s Instagram: @AlexandraMatteoD’s Instagram: @theveganroadieEmail: pullittogetherpod@gmail.com See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
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Amber Rae has been called a "Millennial Motivator" and the “Brene Brown of Wonder”. She is also an author, artist, and speaker that teaches creativity, personal growth, and emotional wellness. In this episode we talked about: How Amber chose wonder over worry and walked away from her career in the tech industry to follow a less traditional path. Taking risks and trying new things. The 3 Cs for facing discomfort or any negative emotions aka The Wonder Sidekicks: Courage, Curiosity, and Compassion. How to overcome the "I should be doing this..." concept and belief system. Her book "Choose Wonder Over Worry"and much more. Enter To Win “Wonder Over Worry” By Amber Rae here. Amber Rae Website Facebook Twitter Instagram Medium Ione Butler Website Facebook LinkedIn Instagram Twitter YouTube UpliftingContent
Each of us has gifts that we desire to bring to the world. What stops us tends to be our emotions -- the scary ones -- like fear, anger, judgement and shame. Amber Rae, speaker, artist and author of Choose Wonder Over Worry, comes on the podcast about how to create boundaries both with other people and with the scary emotions that visit us.
How do you tell the difference between worry that keeps you safe and worry that holds you back from growth and new experiences? Today’s guest, Amber Rae wrote “Choose Wonder Over Worry” to share how she tells the difference: a journey through the inner world to come out and live your truth. Aileen and Amber… The post LL 107: Choosing Wonder Over Worry w/ Amber Rae appeared first on Lavendaire.
Episode 240: Kelli Tennant is the host of The Platform Podcast, focused on merging Functional Medicine, Ayurveda and spirituality in service of women's healing journeys. As an autoimmune warrior, Kelli hosts private courses and events to teach others how to live intentionally, eliminate inflammation and detox every aspect of their lives. Show notes: How Kelli learned to be herself and why she's okay being an introvert. Two books that helped her on her journey to understanding herself more: The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron and Dodging Energy Vampires by Dr. Christiane Northrup M.D. JOMO vs FOMO Her background as a star volleyball athlete at the University of Southern California. Kelli’s painful health journey and being misdiagnosed with Fibromyalgia. How a functional medicine doctor in Los Angeles finally correctly diagnosed her with Epstein Barr, leaky gut and SIBO. How to be your own health advocate and navigating conflicting advice. Her brave decision to leave her broadcasting career so she could put her health first. The difficulty of going through the depths of illness while being in a relationship. “You have to teach your loved ones how you need to be supported.” How to allow yourself to receive help. Must-read book: Choose Wonder Over Worry by Amber Rae To get a list of my top 100 favorite books FOR FREE, go HERE To get a free 30-day trial of Audible + 1 free book, go HERE Learn more about how to connect to this sacred goddess energy at one of my retreats HERE Connect with Kelli: Website Instagram Podcast
Episode 240: Kelli Tennant is the host of The Platform Podcast, focused on merging Functional Medicine, Ayurveda and spirituality in service of women's healing journeys. As an autoimmune warrior, Kelli hosts private courses and events to teach others how to live intentionally, eliminate inflammation and detox every aspect of their lives. Show notes: How Kelli learned to be herself and why she's okay being an introvert. Two books that helped her on her journey to understanding herself more: The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron: https://amzn.to/2TqGltq Dodging Energy Vampires by Dr. Christiane Northrup M.D.: https://amzn.to/2TjiWKx JOMO vs FOMO Her background as a star volleyball athlete at the University of Southern California. Kelli’s painful health journey and being misdiagnosed with Fibromyalgia. How a functional medicine doctor in Los Angeles finally correctly diagnosed her with Epstein Barr, leaky gut and SIBO. How to be your own health advocate and navigating conflicting advice. Her brave decision to leave her broadcasting career so she could put her health first. The difficulty of going through the depths of illness while being in a relationship. “You have to teach your loved ones how you need to be supported.” How to allow yourself to receive help. Must-read book: Choose Wonder Over Worry by Amber Rae https://amzn.to/2TqGltq To get a list of my top 100 favorite books FOR FREE, go here: https://maddymoon.com/freegift To get a free 30-day trial of Audible + 1 free book, go here: http://audibletrial.com/mindbodymusings Learn more about how to connect to this sacred goddess energy at one of my retreats: https://maddymoon.com/events Connect with Kelli: Website: http://www.thisistheplatform.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thisistheplatform/ Podcast: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-platform/id1410824985?mt=2&ls=1 [Tweet "Have you ever been misdiagnosed with a disease? Listen to Kelli Tennant's story on the podcast. #mindbodymusings"] {RETREAT} The Feminine Surrender: A Weekend Haven for Restoring Trust, Love and Expression is approaching. Sign up to be notified of the next one here: https://maddymoon.com/events/
Amber Rae is an unstoppable force--she has been called a “Millennial Motivator” by Fortune and "The Brené Brown of Wonder” by Mind Body Green, featured in The New York Times, The CUT, TIME, TODAY, Fast Company, BBC, ABC World News, Tim Ferriss’ blog, and more, and is celebrated for her work as a speaker, artist, and the author of Choose Wonder Over Worry. Amber’s work is focused on normalizing the conversation around our emotions and allowing ourselves to be open to the full scope of the human experience. Join us for a conversation about rediscovering the wonder you had as a child, escaping the dangers of excessive positivity, and following your own voice while still learning the lessons of the people who came before you. In this episode, Amber shares how her relationship with her mother has influenced her life as an entrepreneur, her tips for connecting to Source and your intuition on a daily basis, and her advice for Girlskill listeners who are trying to find their purpose, wonder, and curiosity. Amber will also recommend: 7 people to follow to learn more about the connections between creativity, purpose, courage, and wonder 5 books to read that will inspire you to forge your own path and explore options you have never considered before Join us at www.girlskill.com/84 P. S. Sign up for the free, exclusive training from me on “The Lie of Female Success: How to Get Unstuck, Release Pressure & Stop Trying to Do It All” to find out: How to overcome the "Superwoman Syndrome" so you can start living in freedom, with ease, and owning your truth True feminine power and what you can do right now to begin feeling supported, stop pushing & controlling your life and men How to rediscover, embrace and cultivate feminine flow and become embodied so you can stop overthinking and start making decisions from the heart The essence of masculine/feminine polarity and how to attract and magnify the relationship you want And much more… Sign up at girlskill.com/webinar
Amber Rae (@heyamberrae) is an author and artist that teaches creativity and personal growth.WONDER is what we’re born with.WORRY is what we learn.NOW IS THE TIME TO RETURN TO WONDER.Why do we hold back from pursuing what matters most? Why do we listen to the voice inside our head that tells us we're not good enough, smart enough, or talented enough? How can we move beyond the fear and doubt that prevents us from creating a life that reflects who we truly are?CHOOSE WONDER OVER WORRY is your official invitation to face your fears, navigate your discomfort, and rewrite the "worry myths” in your mind that keep you from being your best and truest self.Journey with inspirational speaker and artist AMBER RAE as she connects you with your voice of worry and wonder, teaches you to listen to your emotions rather than silence them, and encourages you to seize your dreams. Through a thoughtful blend of vulnerability, soulfulness, and science, Amber Rae guides you in expressing the fullness of who you are and the gifts you’re here to give.You don’t have to be held back by Worry when Wonder awaits you every moment of every day.Worry or Wonder: which will you choose?Her writing blends raw, personal storytelling with psychology, and has reached over 5 million people in 195 countries. Her public art projects have spread to over twenty countries, and she's spoken to and collaborated with brands like Kate Spade, Apple, Amazon, and Unilever. Mind Body Green called her "The Brené Brown of Wonder," and Fortune said her work is "determined to help people tap into their creativity."Previously, she helped launch six best-selling books as Chief Evangelist of Seth Godin's publishing experiment, and started an "accelerator for your life" called The Bold Academy. She's been featured in The New York Times, TIME, Fast Company, BBC, ABC World News, Tim Ferriss's blog, and Forbes. She lives in Brooklyn, New York (and around the world) with her fiancé, Farhad.LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-metry/Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/markmetry/Twitter - https://twitter.com/markymetryMedium - https://medium.com/@markymetryFacebook - https://www.facebook.com/Humans.2.0.PodcastMark Metry - https://www.markmetry.com/Humans 2.0 Twitter - https://twitter.com/Humans2Podcast
Amber Rae (@heyamberrae) is an author and artist that teaches creativity and personal growth.WONDER is what we're born with.WORRY is what we learn.NOW IS THE TIME TO RETURN TO WONDER.Why do we hold back from pursuing what matters most? Why do we listen to the voice inside our head that tells us we're not good enough, smart enough, or talented enough? How can we move beyond the fear and doubt that prevents us from creating a life that reflects who we truly are?CHOOSE WONDER OVER WORRY is your official invitation to face your fears, navigate your discomfort, and rewrite the "worry myths” in your mind that keep you from being your best and truest self.Journey with inspirational speaker and artist AMBER RAE as she connects you with your voice of worry and wonder, teaches you to listen to your emotions rather than silence them, and encourages you to seize your dreams. Through a thoughtful blend of vulnerability, soulfulness, and science, Amber Rae guides you in expressing the fullness of who you are and the gifts you're here to give.You don't have to be held back by Worry when Wonder awaits you every moment of every day.Worry or Wonder: which will you choose?Her writing blends raw, personal storytelling with psychology, and has reached over 5 million people in 195 countries. Her public art projects have spread to over twenty countries, and she's spoken to and collaborated with brands like Kate Spade, Apple, Amazon, and Unilever. Mind Body Green called her "The Brené Brown of Wonder," and Fortune said her work is "determined to help people tap into their creativity."Previously, she helped launch six best-selling books as Chief Evangelist of Seth Godin's publishing experiment, and started an "accelerator for your life" called The Bold Academy. She's been featured in The New York Times, TIME, Fast Company, BBC, ABC World News, Tim Ferriss's blog, and Forbes. She lives in Brooklyn, New York (and around the world) with her fiancé, Farhad.LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-metry/Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/markmetry/Twitter - https://twitter.com/markymetryMedium - https://medium.com/@markymetryFacebook - https://www.facebook.com/Humans.2.0.PodcastMark Metry - https://www.markmetry.com/Humans 2.0 Twitter - https://twitter.com/Humans2Podcast
Amber Rae (@heyamberrae) is an author and artist that teaches creativity and personal growth.WONDER is what we’re born with.WORRY is what we learn.NOW IS THE TIME TO RETURN TO WONDER.Why do we hold back from pursuing what matters most? Why do we listen to the voice inside our head that tells us we're not good enough, smart enough, or talented enough? How can we move beyond the fear and doubt that prevents us from creating a life that reflects who we truly are?CHOOSE WONDER OVER WORRY is your official invitation to face your fears, navigate your discomfort, and rewrite the "worry myths” in your mind that keep you from being your best and truest self.Journey with inspirational speaker and artist AMBER RAE as she connects you with your voice of worry and wonder, teaches you to listen to your emotions rather than silence them, and encourages you to seize your dreams. Through a thoughtful blend of vulnerability, soulfulness, and science, Amber Rae guides you in expressing the fullness of who you are and the gifts you’re here to give.You don’t have to be held back by Worry when Wonder awaits you every moment of every day.Worry or Wonder: which will you choose?Her writing blends raw, personal storytelling with psychology, and has reached over 5 million people in 195 countries. Her public art projects have spread to over twenty countries, and she's spoken to and collaborated with brands like Kate Spade, Apple, Amazon, and Unilever. Mind Body Green called her "The Brené Brown of Wonder," and Fortune said her work is "determined to help people tap into their creativity."Previously, she helped launch six best-selling books as Chief Evangelist of Seth Godin's publishing experiment, and started an "accelerator for your life" called The Bold Academy. She's been featured in The New York Times, TIME, Fast Company, BBC, ABC World News, Tim Ferriss's blog, and Forbes. She lives in Brooklyn, New York (and around the world) with her fiancé, Farhad.LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-metry/Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/markmetry/Twitter - https://twitter.com/markymetryMedium - https://medium.com/@markymetryFacebook - https://www.facebook.com/Humans.2.0.PodcastMark Metry - https://www.markmetry.com/Humans 2.0 Twitter - https://twitter.com/Humans2Podcast
After we read Amber Rae's book “Choose Wonder Over Worry”, we had to have her on the podcast! On today's episode, we chat with Amber about worry and how that relates to our creative lives. If you have ever had a doubt or fear to work through, this episode is for you! About Amber: Called “A Millennial Motivator" by Fortune and "The Brené Brown of Wonder” by Mind Body Green, Amber Rae is an author and artist that advocates for creativity, personal growth, and emotional wellness. Her book, "Choose Wonder Over Worry: Move Beyond Fear and Doubt to Unlock Your Full Potential" (Macmillan) is a guide to navigate life’s challenges—projects that fail, imposter syndrome, feeling envious or anxious or stuck—all of those, “Am I good enough? Who am I to do this? What if I fail?” moments. Her writing and speaking blends raw and relatable stories with actionable aha! moments, and has reached over 5MM people in 195 countries. She’s motivated audience at companies like Kate Spade, Lululemon, and charity: water to create beyond fear, and she’s advised leaders at companies like Adobe, IDEO, Google, Facebook, and Apple. As an artist, she use art as a vehicle to normalize emotions and help us feel less alone. She’s created interactive and public art exhibitions in twenty countries across the globe. Formerly, as Seth Godin’s “Chief Evangelist,” she helped him launch six best-selling books, and worked with brands like Apple, Dove, and Kimberly-Clarke on their global marketing campaigns. Her work has been featured in The New York Times, NY Mag, ABC World News, Forbes, TIME, Fast Company, Fortune, Inc., BBC, Mind Body Green, and Tim Ferriss's blog. She lives in Brooklyn, New York (and around the world) with her fiancé, Farhad. Connect with Amber: Website | Book | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter Have you joined our Facebook group yet? We've worked hard to create an awesome space for Product Based Biz Owners who are ready to rock! We don't bite so come join us! Want to dive deeper? Head to creativerebelbase.com for workshops and much more! If you have a second please jump over to iTunes and leave us a review! Click on the link and then click on “view in iTunes” to leave us a review. We give you all the virtual fist bumps. Thank you! YOU CAN FIND KELLY ONLINE AT: www.helloworldpaperco.com www.kellyparkersmith.com www.helloworldstamps.etsy.com YOU CAN FIND CAROLINE ONLINE AT: www.carolinecreates.com www.carolinecreates.etsy.com * Some links may be affiliate links! Thank you!
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How do you transform your anxiety, your insecurity, your fears - and use these negative emotions to fuel the work you want to do? When best-selling author and artist Amber Rae realized her flashy Silicon Valley job was creating an unhealthy chaos in her life, she turned to wonder, uprooted her whole life, and gave her creative soul the freedom to explore. She shares why rejection is redirection, how to use envy as inspiration, how to invite your inner voices to a productive conversation, and why it's so crucial that we don't die with our gifts inside. Grab your seat to a live taping of the podcast! http://dontkeepyourdayjob.com/live Join a DKYDJ listening pod! https://cathyheller.lpages.co/meetup-groups/ Thanks Robinhood! Robinhood is giving listeners a FREE stock to help build your portfolio! Sign up at dreamjob.robinhood.com. Thanks Ring! Get your special offer on a Ring Starter Kit at ring.com/dreamjob Thanks BioClarity! Get 15% off your first purchase by going to bioclarity.com/dreamjob Thank you Skillshare! Go to Skillshare.com/DREAMJOB for 2 months of Skillshare for just 99 cents.
Choose Wonder Over Worry: Move Beyond Fear and Doubt to Unlock Your Full Potential SHOW GUEST: Amber Rae In CHOOSE WONDER OVER WORRY: Move Beyond Fear and Doubt to Unlock Your Full Potential, artist, speaker and “Millenial Motivator” Amber Rae uncovers how your relationship with your most uncomfortable emotions can either lead you to numb out and stay small, or guide you back to your center. Amber is no stranger to the consequences of ignoring her own emotions. As she rose through the ranks in the digital agency world, the gold rush of Silicon Valley, and her own foray into entrepreneurship, Amber was numbing her worry, fear, and doubts with alcohol, addiction, and by hustling for approval. It was only when she transformed her life into a laboratory for self-discovery—treating herself as a “guinea pig”— that Amber learned how to work with these emotions, instead of against them.
I don't think it's possible for me to be more excited to share today's Wonder-Woman extraordinaire (and all of her immense wisdom) with you... Amber Rae has been called "The Brené Brown of Wonder” by Mind Body Green and a “Millennial Motivator” by Fortune. Amber is an author, artist, and speaker whose work invites you to live your truth, befriend your emotions, and express your gifts. Her writing blends raw, personal storytelling with actionable aha! moments, and has reached over 5 million people in 195 countries. Her public art has spread to more than twenty countries, and she's spoken to and collaborated with brands like Kate Spade, Apple, Amazon, Lululemon, and Unilever. She's been featured in The New York Times, TIME, Fast Company, BBC, ABC World News, Tim Ferriss's blog, and more. I invite you to turn all distractions on “do not disturb” mode, grab a pen + paper, and get ready for some serious note taking (I took SIX pages!), while Amber and I go way beneath the surface to talk all things wonder, authenticity and the beautiful process of coming home to ourselves. In this episode: iTunes review of the week [ :40 ] Today's guest, Amber Rae [ 2:05 ] The story about how Amber Rae's name came to be [ 3:45 ] When Amber began writing her book Choose Wonder Over Worry [ 5:09 ] How to share our stories authentically [ 11:11 ] Detaching from our phones + social media, and getting back to living our lives [ 16:26 ] How Amber went from addiction + anxiety, to living + experiencing [ 24:39 ] How Amber allows her muse to influence and inspire her without losing her own unique voice [ 30:48 ] How to choose Wonder over Worry [ 38:45 ] How Amber integrates art in to her everyday life [ 44:28 ] Amber's favorites [ 49:15 ] Soul Shifting Quotes: “Writing is the vehicle in which I come home to myself.” “I really lost myself in trying to be who I thought others wanted me to be.” “All that life is, is a story that we're writing. So, how can I tell a better story?” “Have more fun, you might get more done.” “So many of the thoughts that we think we actually inherited from other people.” “In every moment of every day we get to choose whether we're buying in to the voice or worry, or buying in to the voice of wonder.” “How do we allow every part of ourselves to have a seat at the table of our hearts?” “My hope is to continue to wake up to my truth and, in doing that for myself, create the container for others to do the same.” Links Mentioned: Grab your FREE training, How to Call in Your Tribe + Create Content that Converts Purchase your copy of Choose Wonder Over Worry here! Follow Amber on Instagram: @heyamberrae, learn more about the book at ChooseWonder.com, and check out her beautiful website: www.AmberRae.com Be sure to tag me in your big shifts and takeaways: @amberlilyestrom Did you hear something you loved here today?! Leave a Review + Subscribe via iTunes
How do you deal with the roller-coaster of being a creative? In today's show, I talk to Amber Rae about self-doubt, worry, envy, ambition, comparisonitis and more. In the intro, I talk about Ready Player One (the movie), and the Exponential Wisdom podcast with Peter Diamandis about speaking in VR on High Fidelity, created by […] The post Author Mindset: Choose Wonder Over Worry With Amber Rae first appeared on The Creative Penn.
This is a fantastic episode that offers you practical tools for how to FEEL and DEAL with your emotions. Amber Rae is called a “Millennial Motivator” by Fortune and "The Brené Brown of Wonder” by Mind Body Green, Amber Rae is an author, artist, and speaker whose work invites you to live your truth, befriend your emotions, and express your gifts. Amber and Christine dive into how feelings are a messenger and will guide you through processes to make them your friends. To learn more about the Person
Are you constantly dealing with that voice in your head? Do you often feel anxious or afraid? You’re not alone, we all do. It’s normal and it means you’re alive! But the way you manage those emotions determines how happy you will be or if those emotions will take over. Overcoming these emotions is a skill, it’s something we need to practice and learn, yet often times don’t. Amber Rae, author of the book “Choose Wonder Over Worry” discusses practical and simple ways to better manage your emotions and the voice in your end. We talk specifically about anxiety as well as why you need to learn to love failure. This episode is a lot of laughs but really opens up to provide some useful insight into clearing your mind to live a much happier life. Enjoy episode 29 of The HealthSimple Show! Buy the book Choose Wonder Over Worry here: https://www.choosewonder.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heyamberrae/ Amber Rae: Called a “Millennial Motivator” by Fortune and "The Brené Brown of Wonder” by Mind Body Green, Amber Rae is an author, artist, and speaker that teaches creativity, personal growth, and emotional wellness. Her book, "Choose Wonder Over Worry: Move Beyond Fear and Doubt to Unlock Your Full Potential" (Macmillan) is a guide to navigate life’s challenges—projects that fail, imposter syndrome, feeling envious or anxious or stuck—all of those, “Am I good enough? Who am I to do this? What if I fail?” moments. Her writing blends raw, personal storytelling with actionable aha! moments and has reached more than 5 million people in 195 countries. Her public art has spread to more than 20 countries, and she's spoken to and collaborated with brands like Kate Spade, Apple, Amazon, and Unilever. Amber has been featured in The New York Times, TIME, NY Mag, Fast Company, BBC, ABC World News, Tim Ferriss's blog, and more. Previously, Amber helped launch six best-selling books as Chief Evangelist of Seth Godin's publishing experiment, started an "accelerator for your life" called The Bold Academy, and worked with brands like Apple and Dove on their global marketing campaigns.
Today I sat down with Amber Rae, an author, artist and speaker. Her recent book, Choose Wonder Over Worry invites you to live your truth, befriend your emotions, and express your gifts. Her writing has reached over 5 million people in 195 countries, her public art has spread to over twenty countries, and she's spoken to and collaborated with brands like Kate Spade, Apple, Amazon, and Unilever. She's been featured in The New York Times, TIME, Fast Company, BBC, ABC World News, Tim Ferriss's blog, and more. Previously, Amber helped launch six best-selling books as Chief Evangelist of Seth Godin's publishing experiment. On today’s episode, Amber shares strategies for combating worry, fear and anxiety and infusing more wonder and creativity into our days. ON TODAY’S EPISODE: A misconception that people have around the feelings of fear and doubt Her career path and what lead her to be an author, an artist, an inspirational speaker Amber’s experience working with Seth Godin What motivated her to write Choose Wonder Over Worry Her advice for working through imposter syndrome The two types of worry What wonder is and how it is a counterpart to worry How we can infuse more wonder into our lives and work The effect worry and fear have on us The importance of making friends with our feelings and questioning our feelings How we can infuse more positive feelings and more creativity in our day to day Amber’s advice for product-based business owners who have anxiety, worry, and fear What’s next for her KEY TAKE-AWAYS: “When I was able to detach it from being a reflection of my self-worth, whether or not things go how I wanted, but rather just a better story, that created so much more wonder, and fun, and freedom.” - Amber Rae “He [Seth Godin] wasn't going to hand us approval, but he was going to push us way pass what we thought we could do and show us that we were capable of much more.” - Amber Rae “I had all these limiting stories inside of my head about who I thought I was, and what I thought I was capable of that really paralyzed me creatively, and paralyzed what I decided to go after or whether or not I spoke up.” - Amber Rae “I'm the only one who thinks I'm not worthy enough. No, actually, most people struggle with that. That's actually what unites us as humans.” - Amber Rae “If the impostor syndrome is coming up for you, that means you're outside your comfort zone and growing.” - Amber Rae “Worry protects us, keeps us safe, keeps us accountable. Where it becomes toxic worry is when it says obsessive looping thoughts where we ruminate and ruminate and stay stuck on these thoughts that really hold us back and paralyze us.” - Amber Rae “Before we can step into really embody and embrace wonder, it's about really checking worry.” - Amber Rae “When we name it, we tame it. Name when that worry is showing up so that we can put it in its place, set a boundary and really create space for our creative artist to step up and thrive.” - Amber Rae “I literally think that the world will change when we can have a healthy relationship with our feelings and ourselves.” - Amber Rae “Infusing play and white space in our day also helps with addressing the feelings and also inspiring that creativity and the wonder.” - Katie Hunt CONNECT WITH AMBER RAE: Website: http://choosewonder.com Website: http://amberrae.com Instagram: http://instagram.com/heyamberrae Twitter http://twitter.com/heyamberrae LINKS:Choose Wonder Over Worry War of Art by Steven Pressfield Do the Work by Steven Pressfield Elizabeth Gilbert’s TED Talk IS WHOLESALE RIGHT FOR ME? Many of you are in the process of contemplating whether wholesale is the right next step for your business. I get it, I know that it feels like a big scary decision and there are lots of things to consider. 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Hosted by WeWork Soho in New York City, Founders Melissa and Stephanie Carcache have an open and honest discussion with the Millennial Women of New York City and Amber Rae, artist, speaker and author of the incredible book "Choose Wonder over Worry" for our second LIVE podcast meetup event MW Talk! We had the opportunity to speak about how to overcome those worry myths that cause some of our most self-limiting behaviors. Like fear, envy, worry, and anxiety It was an honor to have the author of the book Choose Wonder Over Worry, the inspiring Amber Rae to lead us in this conversation Let us know what you think about this episode using the hashtag #MWTalkPodcast on social media. Follow Amber Rae @heyamberrae on Instagram and you can find her book "Choose Wonder over Worry" on Amazon, Barnws and Noble and anywhere books are sold. For more info on Millennial Women, Inc. visit us at www.wearemillennialwomen.com and follow us @wearemillennialwomen on Instagram. Brand NEW episodes every Monday! Until next week MW!
At the Millennial Women Talk NYC, founders Melissa and Stephanie Carcache speak with thought leader Amber Rae, author of Choose Wonder Over Worry, and our live audience at WeWork Soho in New York City. The discussion revolved around tackling worry myths that cause self-limiting behaviors like fear, envy, worry, and anxiety. The talk kicks off with Amber Rae sharing her experiences with choosing wonder over worry and why she chose to write her book. Inturn, women in the audience stand up and share their experiences and moments of fear they have encountered throughout their life journey. Let us know what you think about this episode using the hashtag #MWTalkPodcast on social media.
Amber Rae, author of Choose Wonder Over Worry, joins us on Being Boss to talk about acting on your truth, finding internal awareness, learning from your emotions, identifying your priorities when you think you don't have enough time, and moving past your upper limits. This episode is sponsored by Freshbooks Cloud Accounting & Twenty20 Get full show notes for this episode here --- Follow Amber Rae on Instagram: @heyamberrae Follow Being Boss on Instagram: @beingbossclub Follow Being Boss on Twitter: @beingbossclub Follow Being Boss on Facebook: facebook.com/beingbossclub
Wonder is what we're born with. We come into this world so curious in a space of discovery and adventure but then that is socialized and conditioned out of us. Between the system of education, media advertisements, and who we think we're supposed to be, we believe we have to show up a certain way to feel worthy and be loved by others. As we see more information and the way that the world exists, we begin to question whether we're good enough just as we are. That's when the worry starts and the inner voice asks, 'Am I good enough?' 'Do I matter?' 'Do I fit in here?' The thing about worry is that our brain is wired to worry. That's when we have to start asking ourselves, 'How do I reclaim and rewire for wonder?' - Amber Rae Is there such a thing as a good kind of worry? What are the differences between experiencing useful worry and toxic worry? JOIN THE FACEBOOK GROUP | REVIEW THIS PODCAST 20% OFF ORGANIFI - USE CODE: WELLNESSFORCE On Wellness Force Radio episode 222, Speaker, Artist, Creator of The World We Want, and Author of Choose Wonder Over Worry, Amber Rae, explores and shares how you can create a space to create non-violent communication with yourself and your emotions, how to overcome the fearful mind, and how to move away from tension about money. Learn how Amber's 3 Cs - Curiosity, Courage, and Compassion can help you avoid anxious thoughts and become in tune with your natural wonder instead. "Not all worry is bad. Worry and fear are really here to protect us from danger. Worry is useful when we can take productive action and it's within our control." - Author of Choose Wonder Over Worry, @heyamberrae, on @WellnessForce Radio episode 222 http://bit.ly/wfpodcast Order your copy of Choose Wonder Over Worry From the powerhouse Mind Body Green calls "the Brené Brown of Wonder" comes a book that will shift the way we relate to ourselves and our emotions, and help us reach our full potential. "Amber Rae is the Elizabeth Gilbert of her generation." ―Stacy London, New York Times bestselling author of The Truth about Style WONDER is what we’re born with. WORRY is what we learn. NOW IS THE TIME TO RETURN TO WONDER. Why do we hold back from pursuing what matters most? Why do we listen to the voice inside our head that tells us we're not good enough, smart enough, or talented enough? How can we move beyond the fear and doubt that prevents us from creating a life that reflects who we truly are? CHOOSE WONDER OVER WORRY is your official invitation to face your fears, navigate your discomfort, and rewrite the "worry myths” in your mind that keep you from being your best and truest self. Journey with inspirational speaker and artist AMBER RAE as she connects you with your voice of worry and wonder, teaches you to listen to your emotions rather than silence them, and encourages you to seize your dreams. Through a thoughtful blend of vulnerability, soulfulness, and science, Amber Rae guides you in expressing the fullness of who you are and the gifts you’re here to give. You don’t have to be held back by Worry when Wonder awaits you every moment of every day. Worry or Wonder: which will you choose? Listen To Episode 222 As Amber Rae Uncovers: How you can go from worrying all the time to re-wiring your mind to wonder again. Her process of healing while struggling with her step-father wanting to really step into the role of her father. Her use of alcohol and Adderall while making her way through the music industry in Silicon Valley. Why she sought out approval, acceptance, and validation from men based on her relationship with her biological father and step-father. The demons her father faced during his lifetime and what similarities she has noticed between him and herself. The biggest lessons she has learned from her father both while he was alive and now thinking about how he lived. Why her book, Choose Wonder Over Worry, almost didn't get written. What questions you can start asking yourself when the sense of worrying creeps into your mind. Name It To Tame It - How naming the sensations you feel in our body and mind can help you stay present. Hellenism greek religion or idea that emotions visit you so that you can feel and then let them go. Why feelings are your friends that just come and visit you from time to time. The dangers of replacing a negative thought with a positive one without really creating the space to understand why it's there in the first place. The dangers of being the "Tone Police" and not allowing someone to fully feel and express their emotion even if it's a negative one like anger, stress, or frustration. How swapping and reframing from being the victim to taking responsibility can help let go of blame. How her inner intuition, wonder, and whispers led her to New York City and discover her artistic abilities. Why she began The World We Want and where she dreams of it going in the future. Why we don't have to suffer more than necessary to get things done that we want to accomplish. How you can shift away from worry and tension around money and recreate a new wonder, story, and belief about it. Her current favorite practices for physical intelligence and emotional intelligence. How creating characters for each of our emotions can help us have non-violent communication within ourselves. Power Quotes From The Show "Grief can show up in so many different ways; both small and big but it definitely marks a scar on our hearts. Particularly if we don't have the tools to understand it, process it, or sit with it and allow it to transform." - @heyamberrae on @WellnessForce http://bit.ly/wfpodcast "Name It To Tame It helps you vividly name the thoughts in your head as well as the sensations in your body. Worry is either living in the past or living in the future and it forces you to lose sight of you in this moment right now. So, when you can name anxious thoughts or tension in the body, that practice allows you to respond to those thoughts or feelings, come back into the present moment, and become aware of them." - Amber Rae "Our feelings are our friends. I used to repress and push away my emotions; particularly the negative ones because I thought that in order to be worthy and loved, I needed to be a positive, happy person all the time. There's so much danger in replacing a negative thought with a positive one if we don't create the space to first listen and understand why that thought or feeling is visiting us." - Amber Rae "We're not listening to the wonder often enough because we don't know how or we've been so conditioned and trained to listen and trust in the worry. We're not pausing to question our own stories. How we can get back into the state of wonder is through the 3 C's - Curiosity, Courage, and Compassion." - Amber Rae Links From Today's Show Amber Rae Facebook Medium Twitter Instagram YouTube LinkedIn The World We Want Facebook Instagram Choose Wonder Over Worry Why We Self-Sabotage (And How to Work Through It) Concentrate! How To Tame A Wandering Mind 16 Powerful Poems About Life By Rumi On How To Be Human Man's Search For Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl Brené Brown Carol Dweck Malcolm Gladwell Joseph Campbell Marie Forleo Gary Vaynerchuk WFR 055 Gay Hendricks WFR 078 Drew Canole WFR 079 Ryan Yokome About Amber Rae Amber Rae is an author, artist, and speaker devoted to inspiring people to express the fullness of their gifts. Her writing is reached over 5 million people in 195 countries, her public art has spread to over 20 countries, and has spoken to and collaborated with brands like Kate Spade, Apple, Amazon, and you know lever, she’s been featured in the New York Times, time, FastCompany, BBC, ABC world news, Tim Ferris’s blog, and more. She lives in Brooklyn and around the world. 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Today on the podcast we welcome Amber Rae. Amber is an author, artist and speaker and has been called the “Millennial Motivator” by Fortune and "The Brené Brown of Wonder” by Mind Body Green. Amber’s work invites the truth that lives within us and helps you befriend your emotions and express your gifts. In this episode, we find out more about Amber’s new book titled, Choose Wonder Over Worry, where you’ll get a sneak peek into the book and some of Amber’s practices. These include: The Break Down Panic Attack, the Moving Across the Country to Change Your Life and the How You Actually Feel Your Feelings. We uncover a lot of techniques on how to deal with anxiety, worry, perfectionism and everything in between. Amber is here to help us let all that self-sabotaging sh*t go to live a better life – possibly our best life! If you want some action steps on how to make that happen, then this, right here, is the episode for you. Thank you for listening! Please subscribe, rate and review The Strategy Hour Podcast on iTunes. Ratings and reviews are extremely helpful and greatly appreciated. For show notes go to thestrategyhour.com. To download the transcript of this episode head to: thestrategyhour.com.
Called "The Brené Brown of Wonder” by Mind Body Green and a “Millennial Motivator” by Fortune, Amber Rae is an author, artist, and speaker whose work invites you to live your truth, befriend your emotions, and express your gifts. Her writing blends raw, personal storytelling with actionable aha! moments, and has reached over 5 million people in 195 countries. Her public art has spread to more than twenty countries, and she's spoken to and collaborated with brands like Kate Spade, Apple, Amazon, Lululemon, and Unilever. She's been featured in The New York Times, TIME, Fast Company, BBC, ABC World News, Tim Ferriss's blog, and more. Previously, Amber helped launch six best-selling books as Chief Evangelist of Seth Godin's publishing experiment and started an "accelerator for your life" called The Bold Academy. She lives in Brooklyn and around the world with her fiancé, Farhad.
Today’s guest is someone I deeply admire for her creative and free spirited approach to life and business. Amber Rae is an author, artist and a speaker whose work invites you to live your truth, befriend your emotions and express your talents to the world in a bigger way. Her writing blends raw, personal storytelling with actionable “a-ha” moments and has reached more than 5 million people in 195 countries. Amber’s public art has spread to more than 20 countries and she has spoken at and collaborated with brands like Kate Spade, Apple and Amazon. In today’s episode we’re talking about some of the important lessons from her new book, Choose Wonder Over Worry. Amber opens up about her past relationships, her career and her desire to always achieve more, and she shares how this mentality never really seemed to bring her joy. She also gives special techniques that help her transcend her fears, feel more happy and not get so caught up in worry and anxious thoughts. If you are ready to transform your life, embrace your emotions and infuse more creativity into every day, then this episode is for you. I have some very special announcements to make! This podcast is a year old now, and to celebrate you have a chance to win amazing prizes such as a $100 Amazon gift car, a custom journal, Brain Dust (the super blend that I swear by!) and some bestselling books from past guests of Pursuit With Purpose, like Mark Manson, Nataly Kogan and Mastin Kipp. To enter all you have to do is go to iTunes, search for Pursuit With Purpose under “Podcasts”, and then subscribe to the show and leave a review (make sure to put your Instagram handle in your review so we can reach out to you if you’re a winner). This amazing giveaway is open until June 29th, 2018, so head over to iTunes right away and enter! But wait – I have more big news for you. We are launching a free Facebook group for listeners of the podcast, because community is so important in life. To join, head over to http://pursuitwithpurpose.com/community, where we’ll be diving deeper into each episode and I’ll be hosting Facebook Live classes to share more of the behind-the-scenes of the podcast, and much more. We’re also planning to host in-person meet ups for listeners around the world, and I can wait to meet you. If this episode resonated with you, it would make my day if you could take a screenshot of you listening on your device. Post it on your Instagram feed or stories, and tag me, @melyssa_griffin, and let me know how helped you. Knowing that people like you are listening to this podcast is honestly what keeps this show going!
In this episode, author, artist and speaker Amber Rae drops truth bombs left, right and center! Amber shares how she made the shift from living her life the way she was "supposed to" to finding her truth and purpose. She connects where worry, fear and panic were coming up for her and how she utilized those feelings and emotions to develop a deeper understanding of herself, and how you can too. Amber reflects on how she created a new relationship with worry, practiced compassion with herself, and chose wonder to set herself free. She teaches us her three steps to "worry better" so that you can start making your magic happen. For full show notes and episode resources head to http://stephaniekwong.com/EP18
Called "The Brené Brown of Wonder” by Mind Body Green and a “Millennial Motivator” by Fortune, Amber Rae is an author, artist, and speaker whose work invites you to live your truth, befriend your emotions, and express your gifts. Her writing blends raw, personal storytelling with psychology and neuroscience, and has reached over 5 million people in 195 countries. Her public art has spread to over twenty countries, and she's spoken to and collaborated with brands like Kate Spade, Apple, Amazon, and Unilever. In their second Sounds Good conversation together, Branden and Amber dive deep into the process of writing her newest book, Choose Wonder Over Worry, and why her life’s work has become about inviting others to face their fears, wake up to their truth, and get to the source of what's holding them back. soundsgoodpodcast.com/amber2
I got to chat with today's guest, Amber Rae right on the heels of her new book coming out. We explored a ton of things related to life and creativity. Her big truth was around the truths she doesn't want to look at. She asked the question, "Do you tell your journal the truth?" Which sparked a playful and deep conversation around our willingness to look at our shadows, anxieties and worries. From there we talked about: -Capitalism -How wonder is curiosity in action -Being slightly more curious than afraid -How wonder helps with negative emotions -The difference between fear and intuition -Developing characters to relate to yourself objectively -Identifying our "creative aches" and more... Whether you live a creative life or not, there are so many gems in this discussion about navigating the things that keep us from our fullest love, expression and joy everyday. Enjoy and share! xo, E About Amber Rae: Called a “Millennial Motivator” by Fortune and "The Brené Brown of Wonder” by Mind Body Green, Amber Rae is an author, artist, and speaker whose work invites you to live your truth, befriend your emotions, and express your gifts. Her writing blends raw, personal storytelling with actionable aha! moments and has reached more than 5 million people in 195 countries. Her public art has spread to more than 20 countries, and she's spoken to and collaborated with brands like Kate Spade, Apple, Amazon, and Unilever. Amber has been featured in The New York Times, TIME, Fast Company, BBC, ABC World News, Tim Ferriss's blog, and more. Previously, Amber helped launch six best-selling books as Chief Evangelist of Seth Godin's publishing experiment and started an "accelerator for your life" called The Bold Academy. She lives in Brooklyn and around the world with her fiancé, Farhad.
Amber Rae is an author, artist, and speaker. Amber is an inspiration in her ability to analyze her life, and realize just what she felt passionate about, that she wasn't doing it, and then set about making it happen. It's a process, for any of us, and Amber Rae did the absolute great work of documenting her experiences to share with the world, those of us desiring to live our passion as well. We can discover this in Amber's new book: Choose Wonder Over Worry....Move Beyond Fear and Doubt to Unlock Your Full Potential. www.amberrae.com
On this week’s episode of Conversations with Maria Menounos: The Podcast Edition, learn how to move beyond fear and doubt in order to unlock your full potential, how to worry usefully and get to the source of what’s holding you back in life and so much more from Amber Rae, author of ‘Choose Wonder Over Worry.’ Plus Dr. Jeremy Rudnick, director of the Brain Tumor Program at Cedar Sinai explains the warning signs and symptoms of brain tumors, treatment options such as surgery, chemotherapy, radiation & Optune and alternative therapies such as a Ketogenic diet. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Just a few months ago my life changed for the better when I did a simple exercise at my own Shine On Weekend Retreat. Ida Fields was the presenter. She's here today to do the Core Values Exercise with you. Find a Core Values Sheet at www.kacey.co - Amber Rae used to pop Adderall to keep up with the demands of Silicon Valley. Then she made a choice to get to know who she really is. Her book is called Choose Wonder Over Worry. And - Healers, Speakers and Coaches - head to NYC for a soulful business seminar with a Star Creator! It's all here. Thanks for listening!!!!! I really, really mean that...if you follow me and listen to these podcasts - I SO appreciate you!! Let me know what you think....xo KC
I LOVE this pairing. I just have to say that at the outset. Speaking with Amber Rae and Madeline Miller was an incredible privilege. I think you'll find this week's episode filled with Wonder, which is no surprise given the title of Amber Rae's book, Choose Wonder Over Worry. But this theme is woven through both conversations, from Amber's process surrendering to the way her book wanted to be written despite the outline she had carefully planned before starting. And Madeline Miller talks about the 5 year process she has learned it takes her to try everything out, hit the "trench of despair" and then let go to find the true voice. This became the book that is Circe. I doubt either of these guests would be disappointed to hear that I found them to be sorceresses like Circe in their own right, spinning gold onto paper, with Amber revealing dark parts of her life and how she came out the other side and Madeline going inside one of the most misunderstood characters in modern mythology and finding a heroine in the exiled goddess most famous for turning Odysseus's men into pigs. (Spoiler alert: they TOTALLY deserved it.) This episode is a knockout. Cannot wait for you to hear it. Happy listening! See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
In this episode we talk about: What comes to mind when Amber hears the label “Type A” How her Type A side impacted the process of writing her book The importance of physical environment and how it impacts Amber’s creativity Why her book almost didn’t get written What a “shadow artist” is and how it can cause you to hide from your own work The catalyst for writing her book, Choose Wonder Over Worry How the structure of her book was determined three weeks before her deadline and the way in which it makes the book unique The “worry voice” and the difference between toxic worry & useful worry Wonder being our curious inner guide The importance of having a healthy relationship with worry & wonder and how the thing that we often think is the problem is often not actually the problem Identifying “worry’s friends” and the importance of engaging with them Allowing all of our emotions a seat at the table instead of trying to confine certain emotions to certain boxes How Amber defines “union” in her book The concept of wisdom and how we can develop more discernment Amber’s tactics that creatives can use to get unstuck Her decision to write about her father’s death in the book and how she arrived at that decision How she wrote the book for herself first and then decided what she would share with the world Mentioned In This Episode: Creative Sunday Lab with Jenni Brown on May 20, 2018 in San Francisco The Artist Way by Julia Cameron Choose Wonder Over Worry by Amber Rae About Amber Rae: Amber Rae is an author, speaker, and artist who wants more people to live their truth, befriend their emotions, and express their gifts. She’s been featured in The New York Times, Forbes, and Fortune and called "The Brené Brown of Wonder." Her book Choose Wonder Over Worry hits shelves on May 15, which Seth Godin called "a gift" and Deepak Chopra called a guide "to unfold your infinite potential." As creatives, we have ALL experienced fear, self-doubt, and envy at some point. In this episode, Amber and I will be discussing how to stop the spiral of worry and comparison. By using our sense of wonder and exploring the wisdom hidden beneath our emotions, we can learn to transform it from something uncomfortable into something everyone wants more of -- inspiration. We'll also be jamming on differentiating between healthy striving and paralyzing perfectionism, how to follow the muse of wonder instead of the fear of worry, and why anxiety is our friend (not our foe!). You can get a preview of her story here with the book's introduction chapter. Connect with Amber Rae: On her website On Choose Wonder On Instagram On Twitter About The Type A Creative Podcast: The Type A Creative is for those of us who feel like walking juxtapositions. You know who you are. You can balance spreadsheets just as easily as you can design a logo. Sometimes it’s a little disorienting because you’re a left-brain / right-brain blend that doesn’t always fit into the labels of “artist” or “numbers person.” On the show we bring in fellow bosses, painters, creative directors, film makers, entrepreneurs, and writers — together we’re having conversations about what it is to be both Type A and Creative. Don’t forget to rate & review The Type A Creative on iTunes!
CHOOSE WONDER OVER WORRY is your invitation to take a journey within and to dialogue with the self saboteur that is worry, so you can access your inner wisdom and unleash your potential. Though raw yet relatable personal essays, aha moments and journaling prompts, Amber guides you to uncover the ways your unexplored emotions Wonder is what we’re born with; Worry is what we learn. ? Worry is the voice of our inner critic. It’s made up of the stories we inherited from family, society, and culture. ? Wonder is the voice of our truest truth. It urges us to listen to who we are, what we're capable of, and what we most desire. There are two kinds of worry – useful worry and toxic worry – and not all worry is bad. ? Worry is useful when you’re standing at the edge of a mountain or someone on Tinder is urging you to come over RIGHT AWAY. Worry says, “Danger, watch out, stay safe!” ? Worry is toxic when the ruminating thoughts (Am I good enough? What will they think of me?) become the story you tell yourself. Our feelings aren’t the problem; it’s our relationship to them. ? When we name our worry and talk to it, we create a distance between ourselves and the voice inside our head. This distance allows us to see the stories we tell ourselves objectively, and choose what we want to buy into. AMBER RAE is an author, artist, and speaker devoted to inspiring people to express the fullness of their gifts. Her writing has reached over 5 million people in 195 countries, her public art has spread to over 20 countries, and she’s spoken to and collaborated with brands like Kate Spade, Apple, Amazon, and Unilever.
Do you get anxious? Let’s get real. We all do. And we need tools to deal with the worrisome thoughts and the uncomfortable feelings that naturally come up from living life. We need tools to help us put worry aside and step into a more positive state, the state of childlike, exuberant wonder. Enter today’s guest, Amber Rae, who is a total badass and who Mind Body Green called her "The Brene Brown of Wonder."More about this episode: majomolfino.com/blog/2018/5/17/wonder-over-worry-with-amber-raeShe is an author of a book that was just released this week, Choose Wonder Over Worry: Move Beyond Fear and Doubt to Unlock Your Full Potential (Hello, who doesn’t want to do that? You can find out more about how to order the book in the show notes because honestly every woman needs to read this Now, ASAP). In addition to being an author, Amber is an artist and speaker who has been featured in The New York Times, TIME, Fast Company, BBC, ABC World News, Tim Ferriss's blog, and more. Previously, she helped launch six best-selling books with Seth Godin.Show Notes:-Amber shares about her childhood; how her mother has influenced her in so many ways and how she’s lost her father in a car accident at a very young age. [2:56]-Her very early interest in psychology and reading books related to the discovery of how the psyche works; her pre-puberty story and starting her own magazine. [8:01]-On dealing with the development of her physical body and her emotions; her high school life and the start of her wanting to be liked and approved by people. [10:53]-A brief description of her college experience and chosen course; her great dating relationships and her ending up with someone who broke her. [18:07]-Life after college; getting into tech; moving from San Francisco to New York upon the advice of her friend Ahmed Gupta. [24:19]-The high and low of her life; lowest was when she self-sabotaged her successful career/work; highest was when she met her soon-to-be-husband, Farhad. [36:56]-About her book, “Choose Wonder Over Worry.” [41:26]-About her reclaiming her truth and essence without denying any part of herself. [53:42]References:Majo's website – majomolfino.comLearn more about Choose Wonder Over Worry – choosewonder.com- LIVE Event w/ Majo & Amber: Book Passage Sunday, May, 20th @ 4pm in Corte Madera, CA --> bookpassage.com/event/amber-rae-majo-molfino-choose-wonder-over-worry-corte-madera-store- LIVE event w/ Amber: Women Catalysts Sunday, May 20th @ 7pm in San Francisco, CA --> wonderoverworrywithamberrae.splashthat.com/Music by Carolyn Pennypacker Riggs – carolynpennypackerriggs.comWant to support women's voices? Go to patreon.com/heroinefm & become a bigger part of the Heroine community. Check out our rewards for supporters.
Do you get anxious? Let’s get real. We all do. And we need tools to deal with the worrisome thoughts and the uncomfortable feelings that naturally come up from living life. We need tools to help us put worry aside and step into a more positive state, the state of childlike, exuberant wonder. Enter today’s guest, Amber Rae, who is a total badass and who Mind Body Green called her "The Brene Brown of Wonder."More about this episode: majomolfino.com/blog/2018/5/17/wonder-over-worry-with-amber-raeShe is an author of a book that was just released this week, Choose Wonder Over Worry: Move Beyond Fear and Doubt to Unlock Your Full Potential (Hello, who doesn’t want to do that? You can find out more about how to order the book in the show notes because honestly every woman needs to read this Now, ASAP). In addition to being an author, Amber is an artist and speaker who has been featured in The New York Times, TIME, Fast Company, BBC, ABC World News, Tim Ferriss's blog, and more. Previously, she helped launch six best-selling books with Seth Godin.Show Notes:-Amber shares about her childhood; how her mother has influenced her in so many ways and how she’s lost her father in a car accident at a very young age. [2:56]-Her very early interest in psychology and reading books related to the discovery of how the psyche works; her pre-puberty story and starting her own magazine. [8:01]-On dealing with the development of her physical body and her emotions; her high school life and the start of her wanting to be liked and approved by people. [10:53]-A brief description of her college experience and chosen course; her great dating relationships and her ending up with someone who broke her. [18:07]-Life after college; getting into tech; moving from San Francisco to New York upon the advice of her friend Ahmed Gupta. [24:19]-The high and low of her life; lowest was when she self-sabotaged her successful career/work; highest was when she met her soon-to-be-husband, Farhad. [36:56]-About her book, “Choose Wonder Over Worry.” [41:26]-About her reclaiming her truth and essence without denying any part of herself. [53:42]References:Majo's website – majomolfino.comLearn more about Choose Wonder Over Worry – choosewonder.com- LIVE Event w/ Majo & Amber: Book Passage Sunday, May, 20th @ 4pm in Corte Madera, CA --> bookpassage.com/event/amber-rae-majo-molfino-choose-wonder-over-worry-corte-madera-store- LIVE event w/ Amber: Women Catalysts Sunday, May 20th @ 7pm in San Francisco, CA --> wonderoverworrywithamberrae.splashthat.com/Music by Carolyn Pennypacker Riggs – carolynpennypackerriggs.comWant to support women's voices? Go to patreon.com/heroinefm & become a bigger part of the Heroine community. Check out our rewards for supporters.
Emotions, like worry and fear, aren't always toxic. They can actually be wiser than we think; however, we rarely take time to get to know them. Amber Rae seeks to change that in her new book, Choose Wonder Over Worry. Through the lens of Wonder, she introduces us to the different characters in our emotional world and empowers us to learn from them instead of running away. In this Words Matter conversation, Alex and Amber discuss how befriending your emotions can help you journey deeper into wonder. More: http://carwindowpoetry.com/wordsmatter/amber
Amber Rae is an author, speaker, and artist who has has a new book out called Choose Wonder Over Worry. It's all about creating a new relationship with that voice in our head, and it comes from Amber's personal journey after burning out from a career in the corporate world. "My focus on the inward journey is what catapulted my outward journey." - Amber Rae Learn more about The One & Only at AreYouBeingReal.com/169
Amber Rae is an author, speaker, artist, and wild truth teller. Amber’s new book, Choose Wonder Over Worry, is an invitation to face your fears, wake up your truth, and get to the source of what’s holding you back. In today’s episode Amber tells us about her own journey of self-discovery and what led her to write Choose Wonder Over Worry. Tune in for practical tips on how to see yourself more clearly, feel emotions without getting lost in a dramatic story, and open yourself up to wonder, while still heeding the valuable advice of worry. “I’m committed to living a life that is true over one that is comfortable.” - Amber Rae Learn more about this episode of Successfully NY at www.alexshalman.com/19
How much time do you spend worrying every day? For many of us, the answer is "too much". When you worry, you disengage parts of your mind and perspective that are necessary for creative brilliance. On this episode, Amber Raeshares how to identify those voices of worry in your head, and how to instead choose to focus on possibility. Her new book is called Choose Wonder Over Worry. == Today's episode is brought to you by Skillshare. To get 2 months of access for just 99 cents, visit Skillshare.com/creative. The intro music for the AC podcast is by Joshua Seurkamp. End remix is by DJ Z-Trip.
"How do we embrace all our messy and uncomfortable emotions and treat them as allies on our path rather than enemies that are trying to hurt us?" Today on the show we have returning guest Amber Rae, who has been one of our most listened to guests. It’s easy to see why: Amber is all about diving inward to find and express and develop your inner creativity. Amber has been on a journey since we last spoke with her. Her new book, Choose Wonder Over Worry, is a guide to diving within yourself and asking the right questions to propel yourself forward in the world of creativity. This book is so unique both in message and layout, and Amber’s words are incredibly inspiring. If you want a taste, head over to her amazing Instagram accounts, where she shares profound statements about her own journey that will catalyze you in yours. I’m excited to be giving away a signed copy of Choose Wonder Over Worry. To win it, listen to this episode, go over to the Nion Life Community, and post your biggest question about your creative journey! "Wisdom knows how to understand worry’s anxiety, see wonder’s curiosities, and say ‘what is the right next move?’" Some things we learn in this podcast: How her book came into being [4:25] How Elizabeth Gilbert has guided Amber’s path [5:50] The journey to finding the right book agent [9:50] Writing is like an onion [10:50] What it means to choose wonder over worry [13:50] Amber’s timeline got kind of mixed up and what it brought up for her [17:45] How a goddess emerged to Amber and helped her rethink her process [20:00] The importance of recognize and have dialogue with your worries [23:25] When to bring wisdom into your process [28:05] What happens when you’re struggling financially on your journey [31:35] How to listen to your intuition [34:50] What is next for Amber [37:25] Why you have to discover, design, and deliver [41:50] Links mentioned: Check out Amber's book Choose Wonder Over Worry and get a copy Read The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron Learn more about Marie Forleo Connect with Instagram | Twitter | Website
Amber Rae came into the world with a lot of wonder. But that shifted into worry, which was influenced by the need for validation and approval from certain peers. After building a life and career that looked successful on paper, she decided to follow her curiosity, choose herself, and choose wonder.AMBER RAE is an author, artist, and speaker devoted to inspiring people to express the fullness of their gifts. Mind Body Green called her “The Brené Brown of Wonder.” Previously, Amber helped launch six best-selling books as Chief Evangelist of Seth Godin's publishing experiment and started an “accelerator for your life” called The Bold Academy. She lives in Brooklyn and around the world. She's the author of Choose Wonder Over Worry: Move Beyond Fear and Doubt to Unlock Your Full Potential. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. Become a member at https://plus.acast.com/s/the-unmistakable-creative-podcast.
Choose Wonder Over Worry: Move Beyond Fear and Doubt to Unlock Your Full Potential From the powerhouse Mind Body Green calls "the Brené Brown of Wonder" comes a book that will shift the way we relate to ourselves and our emotions, and help us reach our full potential.Why do we hold back from pursuing what matters most? Why do we listen to the voice inside our head that tells us we're not good enough, smart enough, or talented enough? How can we move beyond the fear and doubt that prevents us from creating a life that reflects who we truly are?CHOOSE WONDER OVER WORRY (Wednesday Books, an imprint of Macmillan and St. Martin’s Press) is your official invitation to face your fears, wake up to your truth, and get to the source of what’s holding you back.In this episode we talk about:—Amber’s Personal Wonder Journey—How to embrace both wonder + worry—The difference between toxic + useful worry—How to name + tame your worry—Wonder’s 3 friends: Courage, Curiosity & Compassion—How the not-enough story plays into our worryJourney with inspirational speaker and artist Amber Rae as she connects you with your voice of worry and wonder, teaches you to listen to your emotions rather than silence them, and encourages you to seize your dreams. Through a thoughtful blend of vulnerability, soulfulness, and science, Amber Rae guides you in expressing the fullness of who you are and the gifts you’re here to give.Buy ‘Wonder Over Worry’ at https://amzn.to/2KkVMhU or your favorite bookstore!Listen to the end of the show for directions and email hello@rawandrevolution.com to get a free copy of Amber’s book!You can find Amber:On instagram at https://www.instagram.com/heyamberrae/Or at http://heyamberrae.com + https://www.choosewonder.com"Amber Rae's very personal journey of moving from a constructed identity of self limiting beliefs to her true self—in the domain of creativity, wonder, joy and higher consciousness—offers inspiring insights and lessons for anyone wanting to unfold their infinite potential." -- Deepak Chopra“Amber Rae is a thought leader on the rise. Choose Wonder Over Worry gives you tools, guidance, and life lessons to make powerful changes in your life!" -- Lewis Howes, New York Times bestselling author of The School of Greatness
Amber Rae is an author, artist, and speaker whose work invites you to live your truth, befriend your emotions, and express your gifts. Her writing blends raw, personal storytelling with actionable aha! moments and has reached more than 5 million people in 195 countries. Her public art has spread to more than 20 countries, and she's spoken to and collaborated with brands like Kate Spade, Apple, Amazon, and Unilever. Her book, Choose Wonder Over Worry: Move Beyond Fear and Doubt to Unlock Your Full Potential is your official invitation to face your fears, wake up to your truth, and get to the source of what’s holding you back. Full shownotes: http://yourcreativepush.com/amberrae In this episode, Amber discusses: -Her journey of self-discovery. -Always pushing herself to be honest and vulnerable in her book instead of being “safe.” -Choosing to focus on the people who love your work rather than the people who might not understand it. -Being told from a mentor that her story “didn’t matter” and how it affected her mindset and her output. -The difference between “toxic” worry and “useful” worry. -Using journaling to talk to your worries and other resistances. -How and when perfectionism can actually be a good thing. -How we stop ourselves from progressing or self-sabotage with upper limiting. -How we are often afraid to lose our suffering because we are afraid to lose our excuses. -Her suitcase analogy for people who say that they don’t have enough time. -How she felt while writing the book and how she feels now that the book is finished. Amber's Final Push will inspire you to give birth to the thing that is dying to come out of you! Quotes: “Am I going to write the safe book or am I going to write the true book?” “In order to be raw and vulnerable, that requires deep and profound honesty with yourself.” “You can think of worry as both an inner child throwing a tantrum as well as a parent trying to protect us at the same time.” “What are the excuses that you’re telling yourself and how do you face them?” “There is something inside of you dying to be born and you know it. You feel it.” “What is that thing that is dying to come through you and how will you spend five minutes with it today?” Links mentioned: Gay Hendricks: The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level Overcome Your Upper Limits (Article by Gay Hendricks) The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron Connect with Amber: Website / Book / Facebook / Instagram / Twitter On the next episode: Jan Urschel : Website / Instagram Join the discussion in the Facebook group!
Amber Rae came into the world with a lot of wonder. But that shifted into worry, which was influenced by the need for validation and approval from certain peers. After building a life and career that looked successful on paper, she decided to follow her curiosity, choose herself, and choose wonder.AMBER RAE is an author, artist, and speaker devoted to inspiring people to express the fullness of their gifts. Mind Body Green called her “The Brené Brown of Wonder.” Previously, Amber helped launch six best-selling books as Chief Evangelist of Seth Godin's publishing experiment and started an “accelerator for your life” called The Bold Academy. She lives in Brooklyn and around the world. She's the author of Choose Wonder Over Worry: Move Beyond Fear and Doubt to Unlock Your Full Potential. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Today we’re joining our Extraordinary Women Radio guest – Amber Rae – in celebration of her new book – Choose Wonder over Worry! Choose Wonder Over Worry is launching around the world today and I’m happy to be a part of this celebration! I invite YOU to jump out to Amazon today and order a copy of her book and perhaps gift a few to some extraordinary women friends! Amber has been called a “Millennial Motivator” by Fortune and "The Brené Brown of Wonder” by Mind Body Green. Her work invites you to live your truth, befriend your emotions, and express your gifts. Amber’s writing blends raw, personal storytelling with actionable aha-moments and has reached more than 5 million people in 195 countries. Her public art has spread to more than 20 countries, and she's spoken to and collaborated with brands like Kate Spade, Apple, Amazon, and Unilever. Amber has been featured in The New York Times, TIME, Fast Company, BBC, ABC World News, and more. She’s truly an extraordinary woman. This is a delightful interview with a woman is making ripples around the world. The stories she shares in this interview are funny and real and will inspire! We chat about the power of engaging our curiosity around 'what's possible' and making space to discover who you really are - yes, you can see why I love this woman! Everyone has worry in their life - and worry can be toxic. Since we can never rid ourselves entirely of worry, the goal isn’t to avoid it, suppress it, or run from it, but to learn from it, work with it, and use it to our advantage. Amber shares a simple process to connect and work with their more difficult emotions. She poses the question - "What if we chose wonder instead." I made a commitment to myself that I would always tell myself the wild and honest truth. ~Amber Rae Let’s meet Amber Rae – author of Choose Wonder Over Worry or follow Amber on Facebook or Twitter.
This week’s episode features an in-depth conversation with author, artist, and speaker Amber Rae. We discuss her incredible new book CHOOSE WONDER OVER WORRY, her unique way of handling anxiety, and how she got her very fitting name. We’re also giving away a copy of her book on the podcast! Listen to the episode to find out how to enter! Called a “Millennial Motivator” by Fortune and "The Brené Brown of Wonder” by Mind Body Green, Amber Rae is an author, artist, and speaker whose work invites you to live your truth, befriend your emotions, and express your gifts. Her writing blends raw, personal storytelling with actionable aha! moments and has reached more than 5 million people in 195 countries. Her public art has spread to more than 20 countries, and she's spoken to and collaborated with brands like Kate Spade, Apple, Amazon, and Unilever. Amber has been featured in The New York Times, TIME, Fast Company, BBC, ABC World News, Tim Ferriss's blog, and more. Previously, Amber helped launch six best-selling books as Chief Evangelist of Seth Godin's publishing experiment and started an "accelerator for your life" called The Bold Academy. She lives in Brooklyn and around the world with her fiancé, Farhad. She is the author of the forthcoming Choose Wonder Over Worry: Move Beyond Fear and Doubt to Unlock Your Full Potential, which is in stores everywhere May 15. You can find her at www.amberrae.com and www.choosewonder.com and follow her on Twitter @heyamberrae and Instagram @heyamberrae. Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed the podcast, please make sure you subscribe and take a moment to rate and review it on Apple Podcasts! You can find the podcast at www.anxietydiariespodcast.com or at imsoanxious.com, on Facebook and Instagram @anxietydiariespodcast and on Twitter @anxietydiarypod.
Amber Rae is a speaker, artist, and the author of Choose Wonder Over Worry. Her writing has reached over 5 million people in 195 countries and her intuition led her to create a global art movement. In this episode, Amber discusses how her entrepreneurial journey started as a child, why she believes tuning into your child-like curiosity and wonder is key to accessing your creativity, why she believes it’s so important to befriend all of your feelings and emotions, and so much more! To learn more about Amber Rea and the resources mentioned in this episode, visit the show notes. Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram
Amber Rae is the author of Choose Wonder Over Worry. She joins Charlie on the podcast today to talk about how worry shows up in our lives, and how we can convert our worry stories to wonder. This episode can be very helpful for creatives in the midst of finishing their best work, as they look at the patterns that come up when doing so, and how Amber herself worked through them as she was finishing her book. Key Takeaways: [3:40] - Worry seems to be our natural state - we spend so much of our lives worrying, and we often make our decisions from a place of worry. Amber experienced this with the start of her book; she put off her book for several years because of insecurities and fears and doubts, and one day she had a wake up call that it was time to go all in on the book. [7:50] - In their creative careers, many people reach a place that is really good, but there’s often fear that if you let go of the good things, that you either won’t replace them, or you have to face what you’ve been putting off. Amber was pursuing projects that she was good at, but they weren’t what she was here to do (write her book). She talks about the zone of excellence versus the zone of genius. [10:15] - Amber had an interesting experience during the course of writing her book. Rather than starting with a structure, she started with the stories she was aching to tell. Throughout the writing process, she had to cultivate awareness of when her thoughts were coming from a place of worry. She used her worries as fuel for what she wrote about and also reacted to her own stories and experiences during the writing process. [16:55] - The idea of choosing wonder over worry isn’t just about coming from worry, but there’s a deeper meaning of getting curious and wondering about your worries. When we engage with our worries, we can figure out if they will serve us or hold us back. [19:00] - Choose Wonder Over Worry talks about different kinds of worries, and the different ways that worry shows up. One of the big ways worry shows up is time. Instead of “I don’t have enough time,” it’s more about noticing what your priorities are. Another big way is “the myth of not enough,” where we feel we are not enough or don’t have enough to do what we want to do. [21:45] - Charlie talks about the difference between aspirations and priorities. Oftentimes, we think our aspirations are our priorities, when really our priorities lie elsewhere. Being aware of this difference can guide our actions. More often we find out that our actions don’t necessarily reflect our priorities, even if our talk does. Wondering about our actions is just as important as wondering about our worries. Understanding what’s motivating our actions provides an opportunity for self-compassion. [26:55] - The top three worries that require the most intentionality for Amber are 1. “I’m not good enough” 2. “Will they hate it?” and 3. “Can I handle how people respond to this?” The work is not to get rid of our worries, but to learn how to have a relationship with these things. Amber focuses her stories on some of the low points and the struggles, and with that comes a fear of vulnerability. [31:15] - Amber has also faced some rejection during this whole process. Rejection triggers a part of our brain that is responsible for physical pain. In any creative process, each stage is going to have that question of rejection. The question becomes how do we build resilience, and keep showing up when we hear “no?” [35:10] - We spend a lot of time trying to make our naysayers happy, and not focusing on the majority of people who support it (including ourselves). As artists, we need to get to the point where we can understand that sometimes our art may not reach certain people and that’s okay. There is also a balance where we can accept honest feedback about our work. As an artist, find people that you trust to give you honest feedback about how to make things better. [38:30] - Throughout her writing process, Amber had a set of friends that she trusted who she would give the work to to provide feedback. You have to find who these people are for you, and be open to what they have to say. Equally important is to take what resonates with you to make changes that fit the integrity of your project. [41:55] - Amber wrote her book in two and a half months. When she got the deal, they gave a deadline, and she went to Bali and shut out the world. The structure of the book emerged through characters she met herself as she was writing the book. [45:15] - For many creatives, their practices involve making concepts or ideas tangible and concrete in some way. Getting the stories out into the world and externalizing our ideas helps free up brain space. [47:18] - The sweet spot for Amber’s creative work is getting to a point where success or failure doesn’t matter, but it’s more about the focus on the journey of learning. This focus seems to be more productive rather than chasing a certain outcome. [48:00] - Right now, Amber’s biggest worry is that she will be abandoned, because she doesn’t have many successful models of relationships in her life, and she began to experience that with her fiance. She’s been working through this by realizing that she will never leave herself. So many of our fears and worries and doubts are like small children inside of us that are longing for our attention, compassion, and love. It is important to love these parts of ourselves and give ourselves comfort and compassion rather than shame. [51:25] - Amber’s invitation and challenge for listeners is to notice when you’re approaching a situation or opportunity with worry or wonder. Be aware of your story and the thoughts you’re having and where you’re coming from. Notice, and cultivate your awareness. Mentioned in This Episode: Productive Flourishing Amber Rae Amber Rae on Instagram Choose Wonder Over Worry, by Amber Rae The Artist’s Way, by Julia Cameron Results Resourcing (Use code: pfpod) SaneBox
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We are kicking off a new series on the Rebel Speaker podcast called, The Movement Makers Spotlight. A movement maker is a catalyst who uses their message to change the world for the better. Using the three-word rebellion framework, we dive deep into the change these movement makers want to create. Plus, it gives you an insight on how others crafted their own 3 Word Rebellion. I am so excited because our very first guest is Amber Rae. She is called a millennial motivator by Fortune and the Brené Brown of wonder by MindBodyGreen. Amber helped launch six bestselling books as chief evangelist of Seth Godin's publishing experiment and started an accelerator for your life called the Bold Academy. Her upcoming book, Choose Wonder Over Worry... well that title had me at hello. It’s an amazing example of a 3 Word Rebellion. Fun fact: I’m the Olympic Champion of worry. I’ve struggled for ages with quieting down my own brain so that I can sleep at night. Becoming an entrepreneur only worsened my non-stop worrying mind. Additionally, I see worry so much with my clients who are on the verge of becoming even more visible. They worry about being reject. They worry about landing the gig. They worry about never making it to the big stage. It’s time to stage a rebellion from worry. On this episode Amber and I talk about: What she’s really rebelling against (and it’s actually not worry) The one thing that ALL worry is rooted in The change she wants to create in the world and a few very actionable steps to deal with your worry What the world would be like if everyone Choose Wonder Over Worry And I 100% encourage you to pre-order her new book, Choose Wonder Over Worry.