Podcast appearances and mentions of melodie beattie

Have you ever found yourself constantly prioritizing the needs of others while neglecting your own? Do you get anxious when those you care about are anxious or angry? Do you find arguments leave you contorted, desperately seeking forgiveness and acceptance from your partner? If this sounds like you or someone you love, its time to confront the possibility that you may be trapped in the clutches of codependency.  This Language of Love Bite, I dive into the complex world of codependency, its roots, its effects on our relationships, and the path to healing. The origin of codependency can be traced back to traumatic childhood experiences, such as being raised by an addict, a narcissist, or enduring emotional or physical abuse. These early life challenges often lead to "parentification," where children assume the emotional and sometimes physical responsibilities of caring for their parents, setting the stage for codependent behaviors later in life. Despite the challenges, I acknowledge the positive aspects of codependency, such as the innate desire to give and receive love. Join me in exploring these insights further and taking the steps toward healing and growth. In this Bite, I explain: Codependency as an addiction and a lifetime of recovery The role of traumatic childhood experiences in developing codependency Codependents' fear of abandonment and susceptibility to toxic partners The struggle to discern authentic love from manipulation The positive and manipulative elements of codependency How to heal from codependency through inner child work and setting boundaries The challenges codependents may face when setting boundaries and standing up for themselves Remember, if you're looking to enhance both your love life and sex life, whether you're in a relationship or not, I highly recommend checking out my free course on Quantum Sex.  Additionally, if you're seeking to break free from codependency, there are some valuable resources I suggest exploring. Co-dependents Anonymous is a great program that can provide the guidance you need. Another excellent resource is Melodie Beattie's influential book, "Codependent No More."  These resources can offer invaluable insights and support on your journey towards personal growth and independence. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode #80: "Neediness" has come up in plenty of episodes, but this is the first one dedicated to that loaded word. The episode was inspired by a letter from a listener--author, Sally Vardaman, who found herself reacting to my mom's story in episode #72 about her decision to end a friendship over what she called, "neediness." Sally's letter was so reflective and insightful that I asked her to come on the show. We covered: feeling drained by a friend's needs.worrying you're overtaxing friends with your needs.eliminating the shame of having needs in the first place. We all have needs! They just rarely cannot be met by one particular friend.MEET SALLY VARDAMANSally Vardaman is a writer who believes in the power of stories to make us think, question our assumptions, and connect with each other despite our differences. She is the author of Shoot the Arrows, a new book of essays to her three teenage children on why honesty and self-reflection are the keys to a healthy and meaningful life. You can find more about her work at sallyvardaman.com. As well as on Facebook, Instagram, and Goodreads.The Books Sally has found helpful on the topic of neediness:Sally wrote, "There are no quick fixes and we need all the education we can get.  The great thing about books and learning is we always have the opportunity to understand ourselves better and change."Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, a great assessment on attachment issues with lots of practical suggestions for all attachment types.Platonic by Marisa Franco, a look at attachment specifically in friendships (pretty sure I heard about this one through Dear Nina :)How to Be Your Own Best Friend by Mildred Newman and Bernard Berkowitz (first published in 1971, thank you Nora Ephron!)Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melodie Beattie (first published in 1986)Lying by Sam Harris Let's connect over all things friendship! Here's my Substack newsletter about friendship & more Dear Nina website with show notes and a guide to pitching yourself as a guest Instagram & TikTok Twitter JOIN the Dear Nina Facebook group Ask an anonymous question

Going without close relationships is like going without water. It dehydrates our life and ultimately we'll die. A slow death of the soul. Yet when we rely on those relationships for our self worth we endure a similar death of the soul. It's like needing water for life, but drowning in it. This is part 3 of my focus on Melody Beattie, legendary author of Codependent No More. Here I'm with my frequent co-host and dear friend, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert and we get real with how to grapple with this tension in our actual lives. A common perspective in close relationships, especially marriages and significant others, is a literal joining of lives. Where “two become one.” But how do we translate this? Is it two separate lives joining to live a new life together, or do the individuals disappear and all that exists are the lives in union? That's one issue. Another is our self-worth, and the health and necessity to have it in and of ourselves. We naturally look to others to tell us of our worth, starting with our parents and early caregivers, then on to schoolmates, teachers and authority figures, but ultimately most of us land with a significant otherwise devote to and unfortunately, often rely on to give us all the affirmations, acceptance and approval we desire. And this is a recipe for failure. Then there is the issue of loving others. We all valiantly strive to serve and love others, yet generally miss loving ourselves. Can we truly love others more and beyond loving ourselves? It doesn't generally pan out. This is our discussion and grappling today. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

If you could choose right now what tomorrow would look like, if you had complete freedom, would you rather be consumed with something you are interested in, or be entertained? Really think about it. And you can take it further if you feel exhausted and would just love a day of entertainment. For how long? Two days? A week? A month? I ask because I'm back for part 2 with Melodie Beattie, legendary self-help pioneer and famed author of Codependent No More and we're talking through her personal Values, Motives & Habits. In regards to spirituality and her overall ethos and purpose of life she said, “My job is to make life interesting, not have life entertained.” Now, I like some good entertainment as much as anyone. I love getting into a great story in a fiction book or movie. Yet I'm aware that when I'm highly interested in something I have little time for entertainment, and when I do read or watch something entertaining, it's generally about people who are completely interested in something…a cause or mission or purpose. So would you rather voyeuristically watch people interested in something, or be the person interested in something? On a similar note, Melody shared how she keeps a barometer on herself regarding service to others and said, “If I get too selfish my life stops working well” and it showcases her primary interest in…people. I also appreciated her quip to me, saying, “You want the truth or want me to make something up?” She's as real as they come. Which is why at age 74 one of her personal joys is listening to the Rolling Stones. You can get her newly revised and updated Codependent No More book…anywhere, as it's currently at the  top of the bestseller charts. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

This week, Tex Ellis, psychotherapist at Changing Patterns Psychotherapy Services, LLC in Annapolis MD shares more resources that get his thumbs up on helping you with self-reflection and taking back control. Books recommended in this episode are: * 1-2-3 Magic: Training Your Children to Do What You Want! by Thomas W. Phelan, Ph.D available at https://amzn.to/3SpZ06t * How to Talk So Teens Will Listen and Listen So Teens Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish available at https://amzn.to/3NgH1i1 * Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melodie Beattie - https://amzn.to/3TWtizy * The Codependency Workbook: Simple Practices for Developing and Maintaining Your Independence - https://amzn.to/3DKHOod * How To Break Free of the Drama Triangle and Victim Consciousness - https://amzn.to/3SPLtWf * The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (A Toltec Wisdom Book) by Don Miguel Ruiz - https://amzn.to/3DJxsVr For more information: www.ChangingPatternsPsychotherapyServices.com (443) 261-5950 Office Telephone DISCLAIMER: Information contained in this video is for educational purposes only. It should not be perceived as a substitution for professional medical or psychological advice, diagnosis or treatment. It does not take the place of psychological or medical services. If you are experiencing any conditions or have specific symptoms and you might suspect that you are suffering from a mental or medical problem that would require mental health or medical services, please seek out the appropriate specialist for assistance. Changing Patterns Psychotherapy Services, LLC © 2022

The theme of this class was taken from Melodie Beattie's Journey To To The Heart: Make It A Labor Of Love Recorded live at All Y'All Yoga in Tampa, FL.

The theme of this class was taken from Melodie Beattie's Journey To To The Heart: Where Do You Get Your Energy From? Recorded live at All Y'All Yoga in Tampa, FL.

The theme of this class was taken from Melodie Beattie's Journey To To The Heart:  Let Your Storms Subside. Recorded live at All Y'All Yoga in Tampa, FL.

The theme of this class was taken from Melodie Beattie's Journey To To The Heart: First Heal Your Heart. Recorded live at All Y'All Yoga in Tampa, FL.

The theme of this class was taken from Melodie Beattie's Journey To To The Heart: Heal Your Resentments. Recorded live at All Y'All Yoga in Tampa, FL.

On today's episode, Ashley Lynn Hengst provides many ways for listeners to experience the "daily pause" - a daily time a of stillness with the Divine. In this episode, Ashley recommends the work of Dr. Joy Harden Bradford, Melodie Beattie's "The Language of Letting Go" and Ryan Holiday's "The Daily Stoic." For more information about Ashley's ministry, check out her website at ashleylhengst.com and connect with her on Instagram and Twitter at @ashleylhengst.

Amy shares a quote from Codependent No more author, Melodie Beattie for her Fireside Chat. Inspired by a recent parenting moment, Amy shares a universal truth for parents; you can't help yourself. Amy's guest Heidi Le knows a thing or two about codependency; in recovery for the same, she found inspiration as a singer/songwriter and author by sharing her experiences and learned resources with others. Amy and Heidi also explore how ADHD can impact mental health; from negative self-talk to forgetfulness to…wait, what were they saying again? The episode enlightens and entertains in a way that is, Eternally Amy.

Today Amy shares a passage from Melodie Beattie about being responsible first for yourself, before feeling obligated to manage others. Amy is joined by in-studio guest and friend Jayne and call-in guest and Jayne's sister, Julie. They talk about the baggage their faith upbringing added to their sense of responsibility for others and lack of control for themselves. Peppered with musical memories, 80's trivia, heartfelt connection, and laughs, the show is as always, Eternally Amy.

Amy is joined by longtime friend Marisa Butterworth. In her weekly “Fireside Chat,” Amy shares a passage by Melodie Beattie about having fun and finding joy even in the face of difficult circumstances. Using the example of a Disney World hotel transfer van-ride gone wrong, Amy and Marisa talk about the importance of finding your fun and allowing others to find theirs. In addition to telling stories from their shared past, they talk about surviving the pandemic, it's lasting impact and the power of the word AND.

Please share this podcast with your network and leave an Apple podcast Five-Star review! ....... James and Heather discuss how they each overcame personal struggles using life-coping strategies related to self-esteem, self-image, and goal-setting. Check James out on Instagram @realjpmentality ... James recommends two books for self-improvement, which are "How Successful People Think" by John C. Maxwell and "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People" by Stephen Covey. Additional book recommendations are "Failing Forward" by John C. Maxwell and "The Speed of Trust" by Stephen M. R. Covey. Also, for those struggling with codependent behavioral tendencies, check out "Codependent No More" by Melodie Beattie.

This week we speak with Beth Miller on the topic of spirituality. This episode is not about one particular religion, but rather about how spirituality is one important aspect of emotional well-being. Some of the important aspects of spirituality are faith, love, surrendering, and forgiveness. Beth shares about her new book, and how loss and anger can actually be healthy aspects of emotional well-being.Beth shares how being spiritually alive also means living in the present moment, and how there are many things that get in the way of this. She also addresses the importance of community on our spiritual journey. Whether you are exploring spirituality or have a deep rooted faith, this episode will take a look at how spirituality is an important component on your well-being journey.Key TakeawaysA little about herself and the work she’s doingWhat spirituality is exactlyWhat the ampersand represents for herSome examples of the ampersandWhat the word “surrender” means to herWhat love is for herA little bit about her bookWhat loss can teach people about spiritualityWhat post traumatic growth meansWhat “clean anger” meansHow anger and grief leads one to live a more authentic lifeOn the idea of welcoming “what is”What it means to be a spiritual person and have a spiritual practice todayHow the pandemic has affected spiritualityWhat it feels like to be spiritually aliveHow one begins the journey of healingWhat forgiveness looks likeWhat faith is for herHow people can find her online and get more informationLinksFaithful Counselling - https://www.faithfulcounseling.com/Thrive Resources Website - http://www.thriveresources.net/Sue Monk Kidd - https://suemonkkidd.com/BookCodependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melodie Beattie - https://www.amazon.com/Codependent-No-More-Controlling-Yourself/dp/0894864025Beth Miller Bio:Beth Miller is a pastoral counselor residing in the city of Chicago. Beth and her husband, Greg, founded Thrive Resources, an organization that helps support people in their journey of emotional and spiritual health through small groups, retreats and one on one connections. Beth is a graduate of Bethel Seminary where she received her Masters and North Park Theological Seminary where she was trained as a spiritual director. She has recently authored What Loss Can Teach Us: A Sacred Pathway to Growth and Healing, being released on 2/21. She is the mom of two great young adult guys, Jacob and Caleb, and a very goofy rescue dog, Lucy.

Podcast InfoA new podcast episode drops every Monday.  Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecoveryWant to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.---------Workbook + Community + Free ResourcesAre you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click here---------We Heal Together Zoom Book Club or We Heal Together Community HangsAll info can be found here--------CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODEDodes, L., M.D. (2013, August 28). Don't Stay Sober "One Day at a Time". Retrieved September 29, 2020, from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-heart-addiction/201308/dont-stay-sober-one-day-timeFerguson, P. L., Ph.D. (1999). What Does Recovery From Codependency Look Like? Retrieved October 3, 2020, from http://www.peggyferguson.com/userfiles/10846/file/NewPDFSw_CartButtons/recovery%20solutions%20for%20addicted%20families/What%20Does%20Recovery%20From%20Codependency%20Look%20Like.pdfSmith, A. (2010, December 01). How to Break the Pattern of Love Addiction. Retrieved September 29, 2020, from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/healthy-connections/201012/how-break-the-pattern-love-addictionPowerpoint: http://activerecoveryla.org/files/2016/07/Codependency.pdfhttps://static1.squarespace.com/static/57ec3df6f5e231ada41bb9cc/t/57ed53a537c58182f816d1cc/1475171237566/Dysfunctional+Families.pdf---------RESOURCES/EXERCISES FOR YOU TO DO ON YOUR OWNCordelia's Google Drive Folders with Worksheets:Access to worksheets on Google drive folder on Codependency: https://drive.google.com/drive/u/3/folders/1saTSJTr80Q14akn5Kq-49d8FOGg7efvLAccess to Google Drive folder on changing your thoughts: https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1c5y8L2ds_UQvojeAuwhdlPCCdkqAqlxW?usp=sharing Access to worksheets on Google drive folder on boundaries: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1-O0w6msiqSpsomkkcUu3VmZsFcKFTz36/view?usp=sharingRecommended Books & WorkbooksCodependent No More: How To Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melodie Beattie: order hereBoundaries by Drs. John Townsend and Henry Cloud: order hereFacing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives by Pia Mellody: order hereBreaking Free: A Recovery Workbook for Facing Codependence by Pia Mellody and Andrea Wells Miller: order hereLove is a Choice Workbook: Recovery for Codependent Relationships by Dr. Robert Hemfelt and Dr. Frank Minirth: order here

Podcast InfoA new podcast episode drops every Monday.  Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecoveryWant to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.---------Workbook + Community + Free ResourcesAre you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click here--------CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODECo-Dependency. (n.d.). Retrieved September 29, 2020, from https://www.mhanational.org/issues/co-dependencyCodependency. (2016, July 13). Retrieved October 03, 2020, from https://havenhelps.com/Post/CodependencyLancer, D. (n.d.). Codependency For Dummies Cheat Sheet. Retrieved October 03, 2020, from https://www.dummies.com/health/mental-health/codependency-for-dummies-cheat-sheet/Selva, J., Bc.S. (2020, September 01). Codependency: What Are The Signs & How To Overcome It. Retrieved September 29, 2020, from https://positivepsychology.com/codependency-definition-signs-worksheets/Smith, A. (2010, December 01). How to Break the Pattern of Love Addiction. Retrieved September 29, 2020, from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/healthy-connections/201012/how-break-the-pattern-love-addictionPowerpoint: http://activerecoveryla.org/files/2016/07/Codependency.pdfFamily History Exercise: Henley, J. M., MSW, LCSW, CEAP, SAP. (2013, December 18). Codependency Workbook Exercise One: Family History. Retrieved October 03, 2020, from https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/recovery-workbook-exercise-1-012412/Video on Karpman Triangle: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_keU0-F43hI https://static1.squarespace.com/static/57ec3df6f5e231ada41bb9cc/t/57ed53a537c58182f816d1cc/1475171237566/Dysfunctional+Families.pdf---------RESOURCES/EXERCISES FOR YOU TO DO ON YOUR OWNVideo on Karpman Triangle: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_keU0-F43hI Cordelia's Google Drive Folders with Worksheets:Access to worksheets on Google drive folder on Codependency: https://drive.google.com/drive/u/3/folders/1saTSJTr80Q14akn5Kq-49d8FOGg7efvLAccess to worksheets on Google drive folder on boundaries: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1-O0w6msiqSpsomkkcUu3VmZsFcKFTz36/view?usp=sharingAccess to worksheets on Google drive folder on dysfunctional families: https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/19AJtKS4rT2ghWMmUnjNZ6nq3c9KRwFh_?usp=sharingRecommended Books & WorkbooksCodependent No More: How To Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melodie Beattie: order hereBoundaries by Drs. John Townsend and Henry Cloud: order hereFacing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives by Pia Mellody: order hereBreaking Free: A Recovery Workbook for Facing Codependence by Pia Mellody and Andrea Wells Miller: order hereLove is a Choice Workbook: Recovery for Codependent Relationships by Dr. Robert Hemfelt and Dr. Frank Minirth: order here

We all hunger for love and approval. Many of us aren't getting the love and approval that we crave. What can we do about it? In this episode I'll give you a powerful way to get the love and approval you're craving. It's going to be easier than you think! To join my Facebook Group, Liberate Your People Pleaser, click HERE. To ask a question to be addressed on a future episode, click HERE.In this episode I mention the book, Codependent No More, by Melodie Beattie. Buy it HERE or your favorite book store! 

Wir schauen zu gerne auf das was wir nicht haben. Ja, manchmal sogar, was wir niemals haben können. Ob Toilettenpapier, Masken oder Hefe während der aktuellen Pandemie oder Smartphones, Urlaubsreisen oder Jobs in normalen Situationen. Menschen oder Dinge sind austauschbar wenn es um Mangel geht. Wir fokussieren uns darauf was wir nicht haben können und erzeuegen eine nie enden wollende Illusion des Mangels anstatt zu sehen was wir schon längst haben. Heute, 15. April 2020 liest Marc aus "Noch mehr Kraft zum loslassen" von Melodie Beattie vor.

Zur Zeit sind viele suchtkranke Menschen zuhause, suchtbelastete Familien sind auf sich selbst zurück geworfen und haben Angst, Angst was kommt. Wir von Freiheit ohne Druck möchte unseren "digitalen" Beitrag leisten und mit täglichen Podcast-Impulsen Mut machen. Marc liest jeden Tag aus verschiedenen suchtrelevanten Büchern unterschiedliche Passagen vor. Ganz simpel, ohne viel Kommentar und aktueller den je. --------------------------------------- Heute, 13. April 2020 liest Marc aus "Kraft zum Loslassen" von Melodie Beattie vor.

In today’s episode we explore how to make time for yourself when  your house is full of people who need you MORE. With a house full of family, it may be tricky to find time for your needs and desires, but it is possible. We also explore the importance of not “faking it” when you’re feeling sad, angry, or frustrated.   Divine Self-Care Circle : CLICK NOW TO GET ONE MONTH FREE TRIALhttp://bit.ly/2020DivineSelfCareCircle Book I mentioned:Journey To The Heart by Melodie Beattie   Get Your FREE GIFT → The Magic Morning Habit ™ http://bit.ly/MagicMorningHabit

You have the right to live your own life the way you want without anyone else's approval - this episode lists that and many of your other rights.

Many people in recovery don't even realize that they GET TO think their own thoughts, make their own decisions and focus on their own lives and not go by what others think, say or feel about them. Learning that we have the right to think, say, feel, believe and do whatever WE went can be a game changer for us in recovery. It was for me - I didn't even realize I was so profoundly influenced by others until I did the 12 steps and learned that I had to right to make my own determinations - like what music to listen to.★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Get ready to expand your capacity to receive more joy, more alignment and more presence in your life. This is a great guided meditation to listen to each morning when you wake up, or each night before sleep. Guided meditations are a great way to let yourself take a journey and make changes on a subconscious level.     If you’re ready to TAKE RECLAIM YOUR LIFE and REWRITE YOUR STORY,, you’re going to love this guided meditation. I’d love to hear your thoughts after you listen. Find me on Instagram and send me a message letting me know how this experience was for you. https://www.instagram.com/elena_lipson/ Don’t forget to grab your free gift - the 3-Step Magic Morning Practice here: http://elenalipson.com/gift The Dream Calendar Workshop:http://bit.ly/DreamCalendarForMoms   And if you want to take your Self-Care explorations deeper, find out about my Divine Self-Care Circle, a journey back home, visit my circle here -> https://www.instagram.com/elena_lipson/ The Book I mentioned: Meditations From The Heart by Melodie Beattie

“Instead of life dictating its terms, you are choosing what is remembered, what matters, and what will be attainable to future generations.” - The Brower Quadrant, pg. 55 "Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order, confusion into clarity… Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today and creates a vision for tomorrow."—Melodie Beattie

En este episodio hablamos acerca de el poder de la gratitud y cómo a través de pasos simples podemos apreciar la importancia de la gratitud y los magníficos resultados que podemos obtener con esta simple practica. Tomamos como ejemplo una frase de Melodie Beattie que describe la gratitud magníficamente. "La gratitud es la llave de la plenitud vital. Consigue que lo que tenemos nos baste y nos sobre. Convierte la negación en aceptación, el caos en orden, la confusión en claridad. Puede hace de una comida un festín, de una casa un hogar, y dé un desconocido un amigo.

Coffee Talk Topic: Breaking Barriers with Gratitude This episode's coffee talk topic encompasses Breaking Barriers with Gratitude, and celebrates Thanksgiving Holiday in the USA, as well as our two year anniversary as a podcast! Melodie Beattie said that “Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” Host Brandee Nielsen says "this powerful truth changed my life and helped me overcome a long, deep and dark oppression in codependency. Featured Guest: Brandee Nielsen Brandee Nielsen is our host of the Christian Coffee Talk podcast and Christian Coffee Talk for Women Online Community, which exists to encourage the power, hope, and purpose of Christ in everyday life. Brandee humbly embraces her conviction as a surrendered sister, worship leader, and author, with a great passion for fostering Revelation 12:11 among women. Her convictions include abortion awareness, human trafficking, abuse, neglect, agnosticism, codependency, and a host of other emotional dysfunctions. LINKS FROM THE SHOW Connect with Brandee at www.brandeenielsen.com/about Subscribe to the Christian Coffee Talk Podcast on iTunes Podcast, Google Play Podcast, iHeartRadio, TuneIn, and Stitcher. Join our growing Online Community to connect 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year! Check out our theme song, Jesus Kind Of Love by www.NateJacksonMusic.com.

Coffee Talk Topic: Breaking Barriers with Gratitude This episode’s coffee talk topic encompasses Breaking Barriers with Gratitude, and celebrates Thanksgiving Holiday in the USA, as well as our two year anniversary as a podcast! Melodie Beattie said that “Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” Host Brandee Nielsen says "this powerful truth changed my life and helped me overcome a long, deep and dark oppression in codependency. Featured Guest: Brandee Nielsen Brandee Nielsen is our host of the Christian Coffee Talk podcast and Christian Coffee Talk for Women Online Community, which exists to encourage the power, hope, and purpose of Christ in everyday life. Brandee humbly embraces her conviction as a surrendered sister, worship leader, and author, with a great passion for fostering Revelation 12:11 among women. Her convictions include abortion awareness, human trafficking, abuse, neglect, agnosticism, codependency, and a host of other emotional dysfunctions. LINKS FROM THE SHOW Connect with Brandee at www.brandeenielsen.com/about Subscribe to the Christian Coffee Talk Podcast on iTunes Podcast, Google Play Podcast, iHeartRadio, TuneIn, and Stitcher. Join our growing Online Community to connect 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year! Check out our theme song, Jesus Kind Of Love by www.NateJacksonMusic.com.

When your spouse or partner is struggling with addiction or mental illness, it affects the whole family. It creates toxic situations for all involved. When you’re the functioning partner, how do you deal? How do you navigate what comes next and how do you chart a new course for everyone involved? Links in this episode: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us Suggested Reading (Some affiliate links) When Your Partner is Depressed: https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/hlg-when-your-partner-is-depressed-5-truths/ Suggested for your partner: How to Be Depressed and Not Lose Your Marriage https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/how-to-be-depressed-and-not-wreck-your-marriage-bmartin/ How to Be Depressed, Part II: https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/how-to-be-depressed-and-not-lose-your-marriage-part-ii-bmartin/ Co-Dependent No More by Melodie Beattie: https://amzn.to/2n4RHF3 Addict in the House: https://amzn.to/2LXL19P

Hello & welcome to the Grief Unplugged podcast. I am your host, Heather D. Horton.  Grief Unplugged is a podcast that frees professional women from the blockages of unresolved grief so they are able to find purpose in their pain and embrace their new “normal” while sustaining productivity at work and in life. In episodes 1 & 2, I told my story about the event that changed the trajectory of my life and gave specific details of how I have navigated my 13-year grief journey.  In episodes 3 through 7, I provided you with a vast toolkit of resources to begin shifting you from grief to a place of gratitude when you are ready. Episode 3 explored giving yourself permission to grieve as one of the most fundamental ways to begin moving forward instead of remaining stuck in your grief. In episode 4, I showed how you can stand firm in your faith and face your fears because there is nothing wrong with you.  You are not inadequate as Marianne Williamson, Our Deepest Fear, describes in her poem but you are greater than you could ever imagine because of where you are right now and what you have gone through. I also talked about what therapeutic support means and how you have to be intentional about it to support you on this journey.  In episode 5, I showed you how to leverage your emotions, invite them to tea or your favorite non-alcoholic beverage and then escort them out the door and take back your power.  In episode 6, I showed you how to start to transition from focusing on the death/loss you experienced to remembering and honoring the life of the person you loved or the thing or situation that no longer exists.  In episode 7, we talked about the importance of Incorporating new traditions into old traditions as you navigate your grief journey.  The focus today is taking all the tools in the toolkit and beginning to embrace the gift of now. If you knew you could handle anything that could/would happen to you, what would you be afraid of?  Nothing.  That’s what Susan Jeffers says in her book Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway.  Remember that whatever happens, you can handle it.  If you need to, feel free to listen to episodes 3-7 again as many times as necessary.  You can handle it.  One way to maintain your momentum on your grief journey is to create a gratitude journal.  Every day for the next 30 days, I want you to write down 3-5 things for which you are grateful.  At the end of the 30 days, you could create an ebook to help others be able to find that same gratitude in their lives or even choose to live another day after experiencing loss.  I believe small gestures like this will help to empower individuals, impact communities and ultimately change the world.  I encourage you to be the change you want to see in the world.  You have an obligation to live your life for the rest of your life.  When you get to a state of being powerful, you begin to openly affirm what your legacy will be, what your life will look like in six months, one year from now.  What deferred or unfulfilled dream(s) are you ready to pursue now that you’ve begun to shift your grief to gratitude?  If you find it challenging to determine what your legacy will be, I want you to think about some causes/activities you were passionate about in the past.  What excited you about that cause/activity?  What have you done in your past that you think you could stick to now?  What will you celebrate in three months?  I encourage you to journal your answers to these questions to help you map out the future you.  I hope you realize that you are developing the blueprint for a successful journey to a place of peace, love, and gratitude.  Give yourself permission to move beyond grief.  Embrace the journey, embrace who you are, embrace all there is……  Melodie Beattie who wrote the book, The Grief Club, says “Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life.  It turns what we have into enough and more.  It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order, confusion into clarity.  It turns problems into gifts, failures into success, the unexpected into perfect timing, and mistakes into important events.  Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today and creates a vision for tomorrow.” Remember everything in life is temporary, including life itself.   Decide to Say Yes to the Gift of Now.  As renowned Certified Professional Coach Dora Carpenter says, when you decide to say yes to the gift of now, no one and nothing can shake your tree.  When you are ready, I want you to yield to the present, embrace the possibilities of your potential, and surrender to the outcome.  In August 2017, I decided to say yes to the gift of now.  I realized that my personal story of overcoming adversity had the ability to redirect the trajectory of individual lives, empower communities and change the world.   I accepted the call to action and decided to no longer keep my story to myself.  I resigned from my Federal government career after 18+ years to help professional women navigate through the wilderness of grief by leveraging their emotions to find purpose in their pain, to embrace their new normal and sustain productivity in their personal lives and their careers.  How did you wake up this morning?  If you didn’t wake up happy, why not?  When you wake up each morning, I want you to ask God four things before your feet hit the floor - What would you have me do, where would you have me go, what would you have me say and to whom would you have me say this.  Then take a moment to listen for the answers before starting your day.  I want you to stop existing and start living.  Friends, the best is yet to come when you are able to move from grief to gratitude and embrace the gift of now.  To further maintain that momentum, you need to create a personal power plan.  You need you to set powerful intentions for your life starting now.  At the beginning of each month, I want you to set powerful intentions as if it was the last day of the month and your intentions had already come true. Write your intentions in the present tense; I have, I am, not I will.  For example, I am 5 lbs lighter.  I have completed a 5K.  Use positive, inspiring, and concise language.  Be direct, strip away any doubt, worry or hesitation. Your words have power, they speak to your mind.  When you set powerful intentions, you create your own life and circumstances instead of settling for what someone hands to you or waiting for a handout.  If you are bold enough, I challenge you to also set three powerful intentions for your life.  Think about it as if it were the last day of your life and your intentions had already come true.  What would you family say about your legacy when making your final arrangements?  As part of your personal power plan, I need you to eliminate all excuses.  Know the obstacles that lie ahead for you and plan for them.  Also celebrate your wins, whether you make baby steps or huge leaps.  Always find something for which you are grateful.  And constantly evaluate your support system – your circle of influence.  Make sure your support system is always supporting you even when they don’t agree with you.  You see, you need the following people in your circle of influence:  Peers – those who are where you are and supporting you, your network of likeminded friends & associates; Mentors - those who are where you want to be, you look up to them; Those who you can mentor - you only want those that really want to give back and help – if you give 100% and they give you 100% - who appreciate your help.  The people that are the closest to you (your family) may not be as excited with you about this new journey you are on – it’s called innocent envy.  Instead of helping you, they may retreat or distance themselves from you.  I need you to be ready for that! Don’t be disappointed, don’t let anyone or anything steal your dream, let nothing or no one shake your tree.  Embrace the gift and possibilities of now!  Go in peace and prosper!  I want to thank you for listening to this episode. I hope you will join us for our next episode of the Grief Unplugged podcast.  I truly believe that community = strength.  So, if you are interested in engaging further with our community, you can join our private FB group, Professional Women Transcending Grief by searching for my FB business page -  @hortonheatherd, and click Visit Group right under my picture!  If you are interested in one-on-one grief support, access my website at www.heatherdhorton.com and click on GET SUPPORT to schedule your breakthrough session and learn more about my 90-day intensive grief coaching program, Reclaiming Your Power.   To stay engaged with the podcast, search for Grief Unplugged on iTunes, GooglePlay, SoundCloud or Libsyn.  Please subscribe to the podcast, so you know when the next episode is available and feel free to post a review, let me know what topics you want to hear discussed and share the podcast with your tribe.  Until next time, keep moving forward.

Lee Pycroft (@leepycroft) is a celebrity makeup artist, brand ambassador and business owner. She has been responsible for beautifying some of the world's most famous A-list talent for the red carpet, has made natural-born-supermodels look even more heavenly in front of the camera and is frequently quoted in the press for her incredible makeup skills and brand insight. Lee invited me round for a pot of Buddha Tears Tea and this podcast where we talk about working with celebrities, love, relationships, setting boundaries and how to stay grounded and find balance - and she shares her pursuit of personal betterment. Why should you listen to this podcast? If you've ever wanted to make changes, but haven't been sure how, Lee is the woman to listen to. She was perfectly placed, in the midst of Hollywood stars and personalities, to get drunk on the lifestyle that goes hand-in-hand with fame, but instead she gives back.  Books referenced in the show are: The Five People You Meet in Heaven, Mitch Albom. Co-Dependent No More, Melodie Beattie. Tuesdays with Morrie, Mitch Albom.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Ob Schule, Ausbildung, Beruf oder Beziehung... überall erschleicht sich die Kontrolle unser mangelndes Vertrauen. Melodie Beattie schreibt, man könne sich von der Haltung, sich als Opfer zu fühlen und schlussendlich auch als solches wahrgenommen zu werden, befreien. Durch eine schlichte Entscheidung. Ebenso schreibt sie, man könne durch einige Fragen die Kontrolle aufgeben lernen. Ist das so? Ich habe mir mal Gedanken zu meinen Kontrollmomenten gemacht, wann kontrolliere ich und andere. Ich kam zu einer tollen Erkenntnis. Hörts Euch an.

Melodie Beattie schreibt, man könne sich von der Haltung, sich als Opfer zu fühlen und schlussendlich auch als solches wahrgenommen zu werden, befreien. Durch eine schlichte Entscheidung. Ich habe mir mal Gedanken zu meinen Opferhaltungsmomenten gemacht, wann nerv ich mich und andere an und suche einen Schuldigen. Ich kam zu einer tollen Erkenntnis. Hörts Euch an. Diesmal mit neuem Soundlogo und neuem Introtext.