On this episode of The First 30 podcast, your hosts Chadd Callahan, Tim Harris & David Moreno play through the first 30 minutes of Food Truck Simulator. This Simulation game is brought to us by the same makers of Gas Station Simulator. As we customize our truck and food, we learn that the Food Truck world is a dangerous place and we must fight the stress of it all and become the best Food Truck around! Can they get the orders done in time? Let's play Food Truck Simulator and find out now on The First 30!Watch the Food Truck Simulator gameplay on The Chestery YouTube channel.
Dan Lesniak is a billion-dollar real estate agent, best-selling author, investor, developer, and coach. He launched his real estate career after completing successful careers both as a Naval submarine officer and defense contractor. Dan's HyperLocal strategy led to one of the fastest starts in real estate with over $22 million in sales in his first year. Since 2012, Dan has gone on to create the Orange Line Living Team, a premier real estate group in the Washington, DC area. The team merged with the Keri Shull Team in 2013, and The Wall Street Journal quickly ranked their team among the top 50 in the nation. Since then, Dan and Keri's combined team has grown to 120+ members and sells over $800 million in volume annually. REAL Trends ranks their mega team #1 in the competitive DC Metro Area. Dan has been coached by some of the world's top coaches including Tony Robbins and Grant Cardone. Dan has helped start, invest in, and fund numerous businesses and real estate projects. He's contributed to features by CNBC, Money, Business Insider, and Forbes on the topics of real estate, entrepreneurship, and productivity. Listen now to this interview as Dan Lesniak and Tim Harris discuss: How to be successful even when you are an introvert, and how to build your business to last, fast. How to create and scale a real estate sales team that closes 100s of millions per year in real estate and perhaps most importantly why Dan recently partnered with Tim and Julie Harris at EXP Realty. If you love this interview let us know, we are scheudling Dan for additional interviews along with his wife and business partner Keri Shull. Join Tim and Julie Harris's Exclusive PREMIER COACHING 100% FREE: https://members.timandjulieharris.com LIKE and SUBSCRIBE AND PLEASE LEAVE A COMMENT: https://bit.ly/3NXGxNb FREE REAL ESTATE SALES TRAINING AND COACHING: Enroll NOW, FREE Real Estate Coaching and Training: https://bit.ly/3aUimkh LATEST REAL ESTATE NEWS: https://bit.ly/3Obuhs2 EXP REALTY EXPLAINED: Tim and Julie Harris are one of the TOP EXP REALTY Sponsors in the world. Tim and Julie are honored to be your sponsor at eXp Realty. Text TIM HARRIS directly to be sponsored by Tim and Julie Harris 512-758-0206. Tim and Julie's EXP Realty site: https://bit.ly/3NJTPwB * Completing the EXP Realty application now? Name JULIE HARRIS from Georgetown Texas as your sponsor! Watch this video: https://bit.ly/3QjYJCo and here is the application: https://bit.ly/3MKPw35 WHO ARE TIM AND JULIE HARRIS?: https://bit.ly/3mGOWbU
On this episode of The First 30 podcast, your hosts Chadd Callahan, Tim Harris & David Moreno play the early access game Gloomwood. This stealth horror FPS follows your mysterious abduction to a forgotten, twisted Victorian metropolis in the midst of a horrifying transformation. But will we be able to sneak our way and survive? Let's play Gloomwood and find out now on The First 30!Watch the Gloomwood gameplay on The Chestery YouTube channel.
It's finally here...the 2022 NFL Season kicks off against the hated Minnesota Vikings in Week 1, and Matt LaFleur and the Packers look ready to go! The CHR gang takes you through the latest news, including Tim Harris and Greg Jennings making the PHOF, the Z'Darius Smith kerfuffle, the injury situation, and prep you for the big game on Sunday! Plus, we offer our game predictions...you'll never guess who picks against the Pack...again. CD Angeli, Jersey Al Bracco, and Kelly Hodgson are back again for their 13th season of Packers podcasting here on the Packers Talk Network. Don't miss an episode of Cheesehead Radio! Cheesehead Radio is a part of the Packers Talk family of podcasts, serving up enough weekly podcasts to satisfy the most fervent of Packer fans. Follow Packers Talk on Twitter, Facebook, and subscribe over at iTunes.
67, My Twin Flame Jordyn Hakes, host of The Horny Housewife Podcast, shares her precious mom, Tami, with us. Tami passed away in her sleep when she was 57 and Jordyn was 30. Jordyn describes her mom as a Charismatic Christian and a Christian version of herself. Tami was a badass mom and loved listening to Kiss and Tom Petty. Jordyn grew up in Texas, and now lives on the West coast. She speaks of the shift in the relationship with her mom when she became a mom herself, and all those times when she heard of other people losing a loved one, just how unfathomable the loss and experience is until you know. Sometimes you don't know until you know... Jordyn flips the script a few times and asks about my parents. And I unintentionally gave Jordyn the chance to discuss what it's like when someone compares their grief to yours. All grief is unique and there is no comparison. There are some things that you don't do until after your parent dies. Starting her podcast was one of those things for Jordyn. She doesn't think her mom would be ashamed of her work, however she doesn't feel like she would have started it if Tami were still around. If you do not live close to your loved one and you want to see their grave, you may want to check out www.findagrave.com . If you find that your person does not have a picture of their grave stone listed, you can send a picture in to be added. Podcast Spotlight: The Horny Housewife is the couples locker room talk, take notes. Your host Jordyn Hakes is raw, unfiltered and a bit salacious, discussing all things sex, the realities of marriage, & answering YOUR burning questions while always protecting anonymity. From mismatched libidos, the male g-spot, backdoor entry, how-to's for both men and women, no topic is off limits. Buckle up freaky fam I'm mentioning it all, tune in to learn how to be better in bed, more intentional in your relationships, and explore the unknown. Join me every Monday for some guaranteed laughs, no sugarcoating, sexy tips, story times and the occasional jaw dropping question. Instagram: @_thehornyhousewifepodcast Website: https://www.thehornyhousewifepodcast.com Email: email@example.com If you'd like to donate to Tim Harris' project of providing free therapy to at least one person for one year, please visit www.grievingisbreathing.com/donate Instagram: @grievingisbreathing Website: www.grievingisbreathing.com If you'd like to help donate to Tim Harris' project while becoming a part of the Parentless Podcast Patreon crew, visit here: https://www.patreon.com/parentlesspodcast This is a Back Home Media production, recorded and produced in Phoenix, AZ. Additional production and music by Ian Releford. Music by Colen Lococo and The Revolving Birds. Like what you hear? Helped by what you heard? Have something to share? Email: firstname.lastname@example.org Instagram: @parentlesspodcast Voicemail: 623.396.6069 You are not alone.
67, My Twin FlameJordyn Hakes, host of The Horny Housewife Podcast, shares her precious mom, Tami, with us. Tami passed away in her sleep when she was 57 and Jordyn was 30. Jordyn describes her mom as a Charismatic Christian and a Christian version of herself. Tami was a badass mom and loved listening to Kiss and Tom Petty. Jordyn grew up in Texas, and now lives on the West coast. She speaks of the shift in the relationship with her mom when she became a mom herself, and all those times when she heard of other people losing a loved one, just how unfathomable the loss and experience is until you know. Sometimes you don't know until you know...Jordyn flips the script a few times and asks about my parents. And I unintentionally gave Jordyn the chance to discuss what it's like when someone compares their grief to yours. All grief is unique and there is no comparison.There are some things that you don't do until after your parent dies. Starting her podcast was one of those things for Jordyn. She doesn't think her mom would be ashamed of her work, however she doesn't feel like she would have started it if Tami were still around.If you do not live close to your loved one and you want to see their grave, you may want to check out www.findagrave.com . If you find that your person does not have a picture of their grave stone listed, you can send a picture in to be added. Podcast Spotlight: The Horny Housewife is the couples locker room talk, take notes. Your host Jordyn Hakes is raw, unfiltered and a bit salacious, discussing all things sex, the realities of marriage, & answering YOUR burning questions while always protecting anonymity. From mismatched libidos, the male g-spot, backdoor entry, how-to's for both men and women, no topic is off limits. Buckle up freaky fam I'm mentioning it all, tune in to learn how to be better in bed, more intentional in your relationships, and explore the unknown. Join me every Monday for some guaranteed laughs, no sugarcoating, sexy tips, story times and the occasional jaw dropping question.Instagram: @_thehornyhousewifepodcastWebsite: https://www.thehornyhousewifepodcast.comEmail: email@example.comIf you'd like to donate to Tim Harris' project of providing free therapy to at least one person for one year, please visit www.grievingisbreathing.com/donateInstagram: @grievingisbreathing Website: www.grievingisbreathing.com If you'd like to help donate to Tim Harris' project while becoming a part of the Parentless Podcast Patreon crew, visit here: https://www.patreon.com/parentlesspodcastThis is a Back Home Media production, recorded and produced in Phoenix, AZ.Additional production and music by Ian Releford. Music by Colen Lococo and The Revolving Birds.Like what you hear? Helped by what you heard? Have something to share? Email: firstname.lastname@example.orgInstagram: @parentlesspodcastVoicemail: 623.396.6069You are not alone.
66, They Called Her Mama CassJanet's mom died the day Janet graduated high school. If that doesn't set the tone for your life, followed directly by some shitty treatment by your remaining family which heavily impacts your future, I'm not sure what does. Janet lives in Canada and is a "badass boss lady" just like her mama, Cass. She is proud to be a public servant. Janet has come a long way from the 18 year old girl whose life blew up in her face when her mother died. She now has her own family, and has used her experiences to better prepare for her children and their future. Janet wanted to remember the 25th anniversary of her mother's death in June 2020. She created the Motherlove Project, where she shares written stories and pictures of other women who have lost their mothers. True to her life's design, she created a medium where others can write their own stories, just like Janet realized she could do with her own life. "My mom's story is not mine. I get to write a different story." Instagram: @janetgwilliamwright and @motherloveprojectWebsite: https://www.motherloveproject.com/Email: email@example.comIf you'd like to donate to Tim Harris' project of providing free therapy to at least one person for one year, please visit www.grievingisbreathing.com/donateInstagram: @grievingisbreathing Website: www.grievingisbreathing.com If you'd like to help donate to Tim Harri's project while becoming a part of the Parentless Podcast Patreon crew, visit here: https://www.patreon.com/parentlesspodcastThis is a Back Home Media production, recorded and produced in Phoenix, AZ.Additional production and music by Ian Releford. Music by Colen Lococo and The Revolving Birds.Like what you hear? Helped by what you heard? Have something to share? Email: firstname.lastname@example.orgInstagram: @parentlesspodcastVoicemail: 623.396.6069You are not alone.
66, They Called Her Mama Cass Janet's mom died the day Janet graduated high school. If that doesn't set the tone for your life, followed directly by some shitty treatment by your remaining family which heavily impacts your future, I'm not sure what does. Janet lives in Canada and is a "badass boss lady" just like her mama, Cass. She is proud to be a public servant. Janet has come a long way from the 18 year old girl whose life blew up in her face when her mother died. She now has her own family, and has used her experiences to better prepare for her children and their future. Janet wanted to remember the 25th anniversary of her mother's death in June 2020. She created the Motherlove Project, where she shares written stories and pictures of other women who have lost their mothers. True to her life's design, she created a medium where others can write their own stories, just like Janet realized she could do with her own life. "My mom's story is not mine. I get to write a different story." Instagram: @janetgwilliamwright and @motherloveproject Website: https://www.motherloveproject.com/ Email: email@example.com If you'd like to donate to Tim Harris' project of providing free therapy to at least one person for one year, please visit www.grievingisbreathing.com/donate Instagram: @grievingisbreathing Website: www.grievingisbreathing.com If you'd like to help donate to Tim Harri's project while becoming a part of the Parentless Podcast Patreon crew, visit here: https://www.patreon.com/parentlesspodcast This is a Back Home Media production, recorded and produced in Phoenix, AZ. Additional production and music by Ian Releford. Music by Colen Lococo and The Revolving Birds. Like what you hear? Helped by what you heard? Have something to share? Email: firstname.lastname@example.org Instagram: @parentlesspodcast Voicemail: 623.396.6069 You are not alone.
The Buffalo Bills are in training camp at St. John Fisher University, and there have been a number of spirited practices--and even some scuffles as players fight to make the final roster. Jamie D'Amico and big Chris Newton take a look at the camp battles and predict who will make the final 53-person roster. Unlike years past, the hosts feel that the majority of the roster spots are spoken for, but there remains some great competition for key backups. Can Tommy Sweeney convince the coaching staff to keep three tight ends? With the poor play thus far in training camp at cornerback, will players like Olijah Griffin, Cam Lewis, or Tim Harris show enough in preseason games to make the 53? What about wide receiver? The Bills have a deep group with players like Marquez Stevenson, Trayvon Austin, and Jake Kumerow trying to impress both on the offense and on the special teams units. But the roster competition that seems to be intriguing fans the most is the Matt Haak vs. Matt Araiza at punter. Haak gets hang time, while Araiza gets distance. Hear about these, and all of the other Buffalo Bills roster predictions on this episode of Jamie D & Big Newt. Jamie D & Big Newt is a podcast that discusses Buffalo Bills football every week. You're invited to get involved by contacting the hosts on Twitter at @TheJamieDamico and @Big_Newt. Subscribe to the Buffalo Rumblings podcast channel featuring Billieve, Buffalo Rumblings Q&A, Breaking Buffalo Rumblings, Code of Conduct with J. Spence, The Bruce Exclusive, The Buff Hub, Jamie D. & Big Newt, The Overreaction Podcast, Food For Thought, The Chop Up, Hump Day Hotline, Off Tackle with John Fina, Bills Mafia Time 2 Shine, Intentional Grounding, Not Another Buffalo Podcast, Buffalo Nerd Sports Podcast and Circling the Wagons: Apple Podcasts | Stitcher | Google Play | Spotify | Podbean | iHeartRadio | TuneIn | Megaphone | YouTube Ask Alexa or Google Home to play the Buffalo Rumblings podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
We have yet another guest! Our guy Tim Harris joined us in a discussion about manhood that you should hear! During this recording, Tim and the fellas discuss issues facing men today. When it comes to distractions, self-identity, purpose, and spiritual health, we believe that everyone will have something to gain by hearing this dialogue. Also, Tim's story on how he became the leader of a lending division of a bank is a story that is set to inspire! We appreciate your consideration of our podcast, and we ask that you share our podcast with one ☝️ person. Your willingness to do this has been a key factor in our growth, and we just want to keep the momentum going. Do not forget to check us out on YouTube where you can find the video version of this recording and much more content.
Annemiek Van Vleuten @annemiekvanvleuten becomes the first winner of the Tour de France Femmes Avec Zwift and we look at the final stage of the race and talk to Demi Vollering @demivollering, who took second place, about their the battle to the end. Lia Hervey @liahervey and Hannah Walker @spannawalker review the race and the highlights and examine why Annemiek is so good. Marianne Vos @mariannevosofficial won the green jersey and talks about the impact of the race. We also ask her Sport Director - what's next? We speak to the Liv @livcycling sponsored white jersey winner Shirin Van Androoij @shirinvananrooij, and we see what is next for womens cycling with Team Directors Ina Yoko Teutenberg of Trek Segafredo and Tim Harris of EDF Education.
Alufi and Sylas have a relaxing day-cruise atop a Lyrandar Airship, all while watching the Owl Windchasers do their training. Cyopilia Fetera, a human jockey, and Tyluan, the Giant Owl mount, take time to talk with the Sivis Broad Casting Guild about their feelings about the upcoming race. We greatly thank our two amazing voice actors for this interview: Tim Harris as Tyluan. Tim is the host of a podcast called "Bastard Tapes: The Worst and Weirdest Audio of all Time" go check it out! Ian Brewis as Cyopilia. Ian is a really fun fellow who doesn't have any current projects, but everyone should check him out on Twitter and keep him in mind if they need any VAs in the future! https://twitter.com/IanBrewis3 Get more content from our Website -- https://www.sivisechoerstation.com/ Become a Patron! -- https://www.patreon.com/sivisechoerstation Buy some merch! -- https://sivisechoerstation.threadless.com/ Join our Discord! -- https://discord.gg/7ueChNpG8Z This is an unofficial Dungeons and Dragons podcast based on the Eberron Campaign setting. Check us out: Spotify -- https://open.spotify.com/show/591UUMewhViu1eahz0OGM4?si=gl5e2ODSSd6xSEfDGygMtA Apple Podcasts -- https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/eberron-a-chronicle-of-echoes/id1517517905 Twitter -- https://twitter.com/SivisEchoers Logo artist -- https://www.instagram.com/fumonero.art/?hl=en Intro/outro composer -- https://www.instagram.com/brandonmaahs/?hl=en Interim composer -- https://www.instagram.com/thebardicinspiration/ Sound effects obtained from https://www.zapsplat.com
In this episode, we hear about the confession, the arrest, the SANE exam, and the year April spent in jail in pre-trial detention. Even though she was presumed innocent, she was required to stay in jail on no bond due to the seriousness of her charge. We also hear about the politics playing out at the Tulsa County District Attorney's Office in the years leading up to the shooting, and what might've made DA Tim Harris hungry for a conviction in his first big murder case as DA. ___________________ Resources: For crime scene photos entered at trial, supplemental info, and to see Lynda Driskell's letter to the parole board, visit okappleseed.org/episode-4-show-notes To learn more about voir dire, jury selection, & potential policy solutions, check out this article: https://www.ncsc-jurystudies.org/__data/assets/pdf_file/0026/6839/buildgbettervoirdire_000.pdf Detailed Timeline of Events in April's Case compiled by April herself with help from her niece, Amanda: https://aprilwilkensblog.wordpress.com/2022/02/12/timeline-of-events/ Sign the Change.org petition to support April's release: https://www.change.org/p/oklahoma-pardon-parole-board-commute-the-life-sentence-of-abuse-survivor-april-wilkens?signed=true Donate to keep our work going!: neappleseed.org/okappleseed Learn more about Oklahoma Appleseed: okappleseed.org If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse, use a safe computer and contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at www.thehotline.org or call 1-800-799-7233. You can also search for a local domestic violence shelter at www.domesticshelters.org/. If you have experienced sexual assault and need support, visit the Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network (RAINN) at www.rainn.org or call 1-800-656-HOPE. Have questions about consent? Take a look at this guide from RAINN at www.rainn.org/articles/what-is-consent. Learn more about criminalized survival at www.survivedandpunishedny.org/. Learn more about the Domestic Violence Survivors Justice Act at www.nysda.org/page/DVSJA. Follow the #freeaprilwilkens campaign on Instagram at @freeaprilwilkens, on Twitter and on their webpage at https://aprilwilkensblog.wordpress.com/. Colleen McCarty is one of the hosts, executive director of Oklahoma Appleseed, and producer. Leslie Briggs is the other host who is a civil rights and immigration attorney, and producer. Rusty Rowe provides additional production support. We're recorded at Bison and Bean Studios in Tulsa. Additional support from Amanda Ross and Ashlyn Faulkner. Our theme music is Velvet Rope by Gyom. Panic Button is created in partnership with Oklahoma Appleseed Center for Law and Justice and Leslie Briggs. Follow OK Appleseed on Twitter and Instagram at @ok_appleseed. If you want to continue the conversation with other listeners, please join our Panic Button podcast community on Bookclubz at bit.ly/3NRHO8C. TRANSCRIPT: Leslie Briggs 00:00 If you're just tuning in, I suggest you go back and start listening from chapter one. Before we start a content warning: this episode contains accounts of domestic and sexual violence. This episode is going to be a little different than our previous three. This episode is being released in two parts. In part one of this episode, we'll detail April's arrest and her time spent in County lockup, and preview what the jury selection process is like, some global issues we see with the process, and summarize some of the more poignant and glaring juror stories that illuminate those global issues. In the second part, we take a break from the rigorous storytelling to offer our insights, analysis and commentary into the jury selection process. We hope to show you two things with this two part episode: one, how lawyers for both sides in this case attempt to use the jury selection to begin to manipulate the jurors and two, how prevalent domestic violence was in Tulsa in 1999... This is Panic Button: chapter four, Setting the Tone. I'm Leslie Briggs. Colleen McCarty 01:52 And I'm Colleen McCarty. Leslie Briggs 01:54 We need to get into everything that happened from the arrest to the trial. But if you've ever spent time in a jail or a prison, you'll know not much happens in there. April spent a year in pretrial detention after the shooting and before the trial. She was presumed innocent, but most murder defendants are held on no bond, meaning they would not have the chance to be out in the community before the trial. We told you in episode one that four officers responded to the shooting call at 38th and Lewis and Tulsa on the morning of April 28, 1998. Those four officers were Laura Fadem, H. G. Lawson, Officer Forester, and Officer Gann. April told them immediately what had happened. Officer Lawson testifies the April looked quote, "Like she had been up all night, just kind of bedraggled looking." Officer Lawson went to the basement to check on the victim of the shooting and to make sure there was no one else in the house who could be armed. Officer Gann went with him. They see a blue Navajo-style blanket covering a body with blood coming out from where the head would be. And the blood pools all the way to the baseboards of the wall. On a cluttered table near the door, there's a gun, a walkie talkie and lots of drug paraphernalia. And there are handcuffs covered and a dried white liquid. Officer Lawson checks the body for a pulse. He states it's ice cold to the touch and that there are no signs of life. He notices the body is riddled with holes. There are shell casings all around him. The police department calls in their homicide detectives to process the scene and they send April back to the station with Officer Fadem. April had been telling officer Faden the whole story, both before and after being read her Miranda rights. When they got in the car, this is what officer Fadem says happened. Quote, "Yes. When we got in the patrol car, we started towards the Detective Division. I remember she asked me if I would turn on a certain radio channel on the radio. And I said sure, you know, she - it was - it was rock and roll channel. None of the buttons on my radio were rock n roll. So I had to tune it in. I remember it was like 10 Maybe 104. Something like that. So I tuned the Rock n Roll channel for her. And she wanted it turned up a little louder. So I turned it up a little louder. And that seemed to kind of - she enjoyed that. I guess it kind of relaxed her a little bit." When they arrived at the station. April goes with Officer Fadem into an interview room. She told the officer at the house that she had been raped and that Terry had beaten her and tried to break her neck. Even still, Officer Fadem won't say on the stand that April had been raped or injured. Officer Fadem does say there's a red mark developing on April's face as the day goes on. On cross examination, officer Fadem continues to say that April was quote excitable. Like she had something to tell everyone and she just couldn't hold it in. Officer Fadem tells April's attorney that she finds us excitable demeanor to be inappropriate to the situation. I just want to interject also here that Officer Fadem's testimony is almost comical in the fact that she uses the word "consent" wherever possible and avoids the word "rape" wherever possible. She'll say things in her testimony like "she consented to going upstairs," implying to the jury, I think, that April was consenting to some of the things that happened to her that night. I think it's just a curious way that she chose to testify. Once they get back to the station, in the interview room, the officers set up audio and video recording equipment. We hope to be able to have some of these pieces of evidence for you but as of yet we still don't have access to it. Detective Makinson who is at Terry's house processing the scene leaves and heads towards the station once he learns that Officer Fadem is interviewing a murder suspect, potentially on her own. Even though April has told all the officers at this point that Terry had forcible sex with her and tried to break her neck before the shooting, they're insisting that she go to the station and make a statement before she can be treated for her injuries or be given a SANE exam. You'll remember saying as the Sexual Assault Nurse exam. Detective Makinson takes a taped statement with April. April again tells the story as it happened. She never wavers. Finally, after concluding this interview, April is allowed to go to Hillcrest and receive a SANE exam for her internal and her external injuries. They collect her clothes, hair samples, scrape underneath her nails and gather potential DNA. Sidenote, that at trial when Assistant District Attorney Rebecca Knight and Gail asks, Detective Makinson, if he tested the rape kit, he responds, "In fact, I thought that Kathy Bell, the SANE nurse was going to do that. And you pointed out to me that it needed to be done. And I think you did it. So I didn't do that, no." Yes, that is the ADA asking the homicide detective at trial if you tested the defendant's rape kit, and the homicide detective is responding in front of the jury that no, he didn't test it because he thought she had done it. The question of who tests the rape kit is never answered. That evening after the SANE exam April goes to the station and gets booked into the jail. By this time it's 10pm. The shooting happened around 8am. April's case begins to wind its way through the analysis of our justice system. She is appointed a public defender a young lawyer named Daman Cantrell. Mr. Cantrell worked for the Tulsa County Public Defender's office at the time, but, now, he as well as Assistant District Attorney Rebecca Nightengale serves on the bench as a Tulsa County District Judge. He works on civil cases now and still remembers this case as one he, quote, "really would have liked to try himself." I am sure April and everyone who knows her wishes that too. When Mr. Cantrell was her attorney, he worked hard to make sure that April got the mental health treatment she needed in the jail. He gets another, female attorney, Lynn Worley involved in the case, she is able to gain admittance to visit April and she is able to bring Licensed Professional Counselor Lynda Driskell in with her. The two of them visited April for a total of 40 hours of therapy during the year she served in the county jail. Here's an excerpt of a letter from Lynda to the parole board in 2009: "I met April in July of 1998, when I became involved in her case as an advocate and counselor with domestic violence intervention services in Tulsa, Oklahoma. At the request of the national clearinghouse for the defense of battered women, April's case was referred to DVIS so that she would have access to counseling during her trial. April was initially held in the Tulsa County Adult Detention Center in Tulsa while she awaited trial. I met with her there for approximately 40 hours of face-to-face counseling sessions and wrote a pre-sentence investigative assessment report on her behalf. Since she has been incarcerated at Mabel Bassett Correctional Facility, I have maintained contact with April for the past 11 years. Her parents, Rex and Louise Fitchue, have also kept me apprised of the outcome of April's appeals. My first impression of April as a sensitive, compassionate young woman has not changed since I met her all those years ago. At that time, her story of domestic violence paralleled the hundreds of stories I had heard from other women who were battered. However, the outcome of her circumstances was the most tragic of any case in which I have been involved. The photographs and forensic documentation of the brutal injuries April sustained from Terry's acts of physical and sexual violence, strengthened my belief that she acted in self-defense. I sincerely believed then, as I do now, that April did what she had to do to survive. April acknowledges that Terry Carlton's death was a horrible loss for his family. And, at the same time, April has always maintained that she would have died if she had not defended herself against Terry's brutal assaults and threats to kill her. April also acknowledges the pain that Terry's family has endured. And I believe for that she is truly remorseful." Lynda was actually an expert on battered woman syndrome. And she's who April's defense attorney should have called it trial, but didn't. We'll talk about that more in a few episodes. A few months before trial, April's parents began to grow uneasy at the thought of leaving their daughter's fate to a public defender. An insider tip: if you're ever entitled to a public defender, you should take it because a, they absolutely know what they are doing. And b, oftentimes have better relationships with judges and prosecutors because they're around them so much. So her parents get the money together to hire a private attorney, and they choose a man named Chris Lyons. You're going to hear a lot about Chris Lyons on this podcast. I think it's worth saying here that hindsight is 2020. And there are always things that you wish you would have done differently, especially in a murder trial. And also a lot has changed in the last 20 years around how we talk about domestic violence, how we think about drug addiction, and how we go about defending a murder case like this, as well as how April would have been seen by her peers. Nonetheless, it's unavoidable. We will be talking about Mr. Lyons and some of the choices he did and didn't make in defense of his client. And as of the time of this recording, we have reached out to Chris Lyons office trying to start a dialogue with him about this case, but we have not yet heard back. If that changes, we'll be sure to update you. A year goes by mostly without incident as April languishes in the county jail. Outside the jail, there's some big drama going on in the Tulsa County District Attorney's office. Longtime top Tulsa cop and elected District Attorney David L. Moss died of a heart attack in 1995, just one year after being elected to his final term. His first assistant, Tim Harris was appointed interim District Attorney until then-Governor Keating appointed former mayor Bill LaFortune to the role. In May 1998, a month after April shot Terry in self-defense, LaFortune announced that he was resigning and Governor Keating was faced with another tough appointment. Just six months before the next DA election. Keating chose Chuck Richardson, who Keating describes to the Tulsa World at the time as a nail-chewing, anti-crook aggressive prosecutor. Governor Keating stated that that was the kind of prosecutor Tulsans wanted. He chose Richardson even though public records showed that Richardson's father, Gary, had donated 1000s to Keating's campaign. In addition, Richardson did not have the support of the Tulsa police department. Years prior, Richardson had defended a murder case, quote "a little too zealously," according to police, who said that he browbeat them on the stand. You can imagine, once TPD realized that Richardson was going to mount a full-on campaign for DA that fall of 1998, they needed to come up with a challenger who they could fully support. Former first assistant district attorney Tim Harris filed in the race to run against Richardson. Even though Harris only raised $30,000 compared to Richardson's $117,000 (and those are 1998 dollars), he won the seat in November '98 to take office in January 1999, just four months before April's trial. It's worth noting that the Tulsa World actually calls out Harris's two largest donations that are in the $2,000 range, and one of them is from his mother. The 1998 race was the first one in a long time to break campaign donation records. Harris would go on to collect thousands in donations over the years, and he would be reelected three more times until he chose not to run again in 2013. We're obviously going to talk a lot more about Mr. Harris as we go on. But for now, let's look at the landscape right before trial. Tim was a big underdog to a very moneyed candidate who had the backing of Oklahoma's tough-on-crime governor. And yet, Tim won. And now he has to prove himself. He has to show the people of Tulsa County that he can deliver. April's case is one of the biggest cases to go at that time. And it's one of the first big murder cases Tim Harris will try as elected prosecutor. It's also one of the first cases to officially use battered women's syndrome as a defense after it was certified as admissible by the Oklahoma Court of Criminal Appeals in a 1995 case called Bechtel v. State. On April 5, 1999, April's murder trial officially began. Chris Lyons and his legal assistant Ed Clark, who had just graduated with an Associate of Applied Science degree in Paralegal Studies the year before, were sitting at the Feds table with April. At the prosecutors tablem were newly-seated district attorney Tim Harris and his first chair, Rebecca Brett-Nightengale. Ms. Brett-Nightengale also goes on to run for district judge and wins the seat in 2003. She still sits on the bench today, and is one of the longest standing judges in the district. April's father came to every day of the trial and her sister, Mary, took detailed notes each day to report back to their mother. In Tulsa, Jurors are pulled from a cross section of the population that have driver's licenses. Everyone who gets assigned to jury duty that week shows up Monday morning and they sit in the basement of the courthouse until their name is called. And they're sent to a courtroom where a jury trial is about to happen. Then the lawyers commence a process called voir dire. Voir Dire is French for "to speak the truth." This is the process of making sure your jury panel is truly impartial to both sides, and that each juror understands a few critical things. One, the defendant is presumed innocent of the charges presented and, two, the state has the burden of proving every element of the crime charged. The defense does not have to prove anything. Voir dire, or voe dy-er if you're an Oklahoma State Court attorney, is the literal most boring part of a criminal trial. However, it's also one of the most important things and you can win or lose cases on voir dire. The goal is to choose 12 impartial jurors and one alternate in case someone gets sick or cannot make it back to the court for some excusable reason. Each attorney's side gets nine peremptory strikes. A peremptory strike, just as a side note, for the non-attorneys listening is an opportunity to strike a juror to get rid of them with - without reason. You don't have to have cause. But, and this is important, if an attorney can get someone to say that they cannot be fair or if the court gets them to say it, then they must be struck for cause. So that's the difference peremptory you strike them. You don't have to have a reason. Except you can't be discriminatory based on race. If you testify during voir dire as a juror, that you can't be fair, impartial, you'll be stricken for cause. And this makes sense if you think about it, because it's in the interest of both sides that anyone be removed, who says they cannot be fair, if an attorney believes someone might be able to be fair, but they just don't like the perspective that person brings to the trial, then they can use one of their peremptory strikes, it ends up being a big strategy piece - how you use your strikes on who how to see what the other side is striking. So naturally, if you can get one of the jurors you don't like stricken for cause, that it's more peremptory strikes for you to exercise on people who clearly favor one side or the other. But they won't come out and say, "Look, I can't be impartial." So yeah, it starts getting heady really quick. But another way attorneys use voir dire is to begin to create a narrative and set the tone for their case. And a really masterful attorney can pique the curiosity of jurors with the types of questions that they ask. And if they traverse the landscape carefully enough, they can begin to prejudice jurors against the defendant or against the state subliminally. We see this happen in April's case almost immediately. First, it's a huge advantage, but the state gets to go first and talk to potential jurors. So Tim Harris, the one we just talked about a little bit ago who just got elected, he gets to go up in front of the potential jury pool. There are 12 jurors in the box and probably 20 people sitting out in the gallery of the courtroom. But the people sitting out in the gallery have to pay just as close attention to the questions as everyone in the box because when someone gets stricken from the box, they randomly call someone out of the gallery to come and fill that spot. So, the process takes a long time. In April's case it took five whole days to pick the jury. Tim Harris talks to the folks in the box for a long time and his primary focus being the fact that they were going to hear things about intravenous drug use and quote, "violent relationships that would be completely foreign to them and foreign to their ways of life." What this does is immediately begins to other April as someone foreign to the jury, she is someone that they can never understand or get behind. She's dirty, she uses drugs and she fights. She's one of those women who can really antagonize you if you know what I mean. He asked the jurors if they have ever experienced abuse, if they know any police officers if they would be biased against April or for April because she is moderately - yes, he said moderately - attractive. The questions go on for what seem like ages. By the time Chris Lyons the defense attorney is able to get up and speak to jurors, they are completely worn down and intellectually exhausted. And they view Tim Harris as their faithful guide through this extremely confusing and exasperating legal process. So as you can see, this trial gets complicated fast. Once the jury is chosen, things really get up and running, and we can see two sides emerging. One is clearly gaining more traction in the room, and the two sides are, one: April was a poor, dirty drug addict who needed to get her fix. She was a gold digger. She used Terry for money, and vacations and ultimately went to his house that night to kill him and rob him. Two, the other side: April was a battered woman who had tried to call the police and file protective orders but to no avail. And because the system abandoned her, she had to take matters into her own hands to protect yourself. Voir dire is a necessary and important part of the entire trial process. In theory, it keeps us from devolving into blood feuds when a conflict arises amongst members of our society, calling 12 people from the community at large to decide what is fair and just is a poetic way to keep the peace. Jurors are some of the most powerful people in our society. They decide the norms we must abide by within the bounds of the law. So who makes it onto a jury is important for how our communities dole out justice... In part two of this week's episode, Colleen and I will be exchanging stories to highlight just some of the curious, upsetting and strange ways both the State and Defense go about selecting the jury. This jury pool has a very high number of potential jurors who have experienced domestic violence or mental health issues. There are stories that illuminate the problems of disproportionate dismissals of black and brown jurors, female jurors, jurors who have documented mental health diagnoses that are completely managed, among others. We hope you'll find our analysis of the jury selection process insightful before we return to storytelling next week. So check out part two of this week's episode to hear jury selection analysis in detail. In next week's episode, we'll be taking a deep dive look at one of the state's witnesses who offers particularly damaging testimony against April. Panic Button is a co-production of Oklahoma Appleseed Center for Law and Justice and Leslie Briggs. We're your hosts Colleen McCarty and Leslie Briggs. Our theme music is Velvet Rope by GYOM. The production team is Leslie Briggs and Rusty Rowe. We're recorded at Bison and Bean studio in Tulsa. Special thanks to Lynn Worley, Amanda Ross, and Ashlyn Faulkner for their work on this case. If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse, use a safe computer and contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at thehotline.org or call 1-800-799-7233. Help others find our show by leaving us a rating and writing a review. 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In the ongoing nightmare of April and Terry's relationship, the event that catapults them into pure chaos starts on the night of December 6th, 1997. April has been staying away from Terry, but ends up going to his house to ask for the money he owes her. His place is wrecked and he doesn't look so good. What happens next launches Terry and April into an unbreakable cycle of violence that no one was able to stop--except April herself. ___________________ Resources: For pictures of exhibits introduced at trial of the scene of the rape, April's injuries, and more visit okappleseed.org/episode-3-show-notes LA Times article about Don Carlton's bribery scandal: https://web.archive.org/web/20211117194929/https://www.latimes.com/archives/la-xpm-1994-03-16-fi-34784-story.html%C2%A0 TIME Magazine story on Honda scams: http://content.time.com/time/nation/article/0,8599,3976,00.html Instagram post containing the Affidavit of Federal Judge Claire Egan: https://www.instagram.com/p/CQWQJrUDy-m/ Detailed Timeline of Events in April's Case: https://aprilwilkensblog.wordpress.com/2022/02/12/timeline-of-events/ Sign the Change.org petition to support April's release: https://www.change.org/p/oklahoma-pardon-parole-board-commute-the-life-sentence-of-abuse-survivor-april-wilkens?signed=true Donate to keep our work going!: neappleseed.org/okappleseed Learn more about Oklahoma Appleseed: okappleseed.org If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse, use a safe computer and contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at www.thehotline.org or call 1-800-799-7233. You can also search for a local domestic violence shelter at www.domesticshelters.org/. If you have experienced sexual assault and need support, visit the Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network (RAINN) at www.rainn.org or call 1-800-656-HOPE. Have questions about consent? Take a look at this guide from RAINN at www.rainn.org/articles/what-is-consent. Learn more about criminalized survival at www.survivedandpunishedny.org/. Learn more about the Domestic Violence Survivors Justice Act at www.nysda.org/page/DVSJA. Follow the #freeaprilwilkens campaign on Instagram at @freeaprilwilkens, on Twitter and on their webpage at https://aprilwilkensblog.wordpress.com/. Colleen McCarty is one of the hosts, executive director of Oklahoma Appleseed, and producer. Leslie Briggs is the other host who is a civil rights and immigration attorney, and producer. Rusty Rowe provides additional production support. We're recorded at Bison and Bean Studios in Tulsa. Additional support from Amanda Ross and Ashlyn Faulkner. Our theme music is Velvet Rope by Gyom. Panic Button is created in partnership with Oklahoma Appleseed Center for Law and Justice and Leslie Briggs. Follow OK Appleseed on Twitter and Instagram at @ok_appleseed. If you want to continue the conversation with other listeners, please join our Panic Button podcast community on Bookclubz at bit.ly/3NRHO8C. TRANSCRIPT: Colleen McCarty 00:01 If you're just tuning in, I suggest you go back and start listening from chapter one. Before we start a content warning: this episode contains accounts of domestic and sexual violence. Today's episode is a little longer than usual, we hope you'll stick with us. It's better for the story. If we tell you this chunk all together, the amount of violence, abuse, and frankly astounding acts of coercive control detailed in this episode are overwhelming. So take breaks when you need to. In early December of 1997, April's childhood friend Carrie was struggling. She had an infant child, and she was about to lose her house if she couldn't make the mortgage. April and Carrie had known each other since the eighth grade. When Carrie called April that night near Christmas in 1997, she was in tears. She was going to lose the house; she could lose the baby. Carrie wanted to know if April could loan her some money, just this once, to help her get out of this financial crisis. April's business had been going through bankruptcy. She'd struggled to show up to work the past few months because of everything that had been happening in her personal life. She was in no position to loan her old high school friend any money. But there was one person that owed April money. If she could get the money from him, she could give it to Carrie. The person who owed April money was Terry Carlton. This is Panic Button, Chapter Three: Hostile State. I'm Colleen McCarty, Leslie Briggs 01:45 and I'm Leslie Briggs. In this episode, we're detailing the months of December 1997 to the night of the murder on April 28, 1998. It's hard to comprehend the chaos that April's life had become by this point. So there may be some skipping around in this episode because there's just so much that's going on. April had been doing her best to stay away from Terry after what had happened with the guitar neck. She was avoiding his calls, refusing to see him. But ever since April had stopped talking to Terry, unsettling things began happening around her house. April was being stalked. She had a prowler. Prowler was visiting her house multiple nights out of the week. There was often evidence of someone inside the house. At night, April would catch the shadow of a man lurking outside her windows. She even heard someone on the roof a few times. Throughout the fall and early spring, she was reporting the Prowler to the Tulsa police constantly. Curiously, the police would arrive mere moments after the Prowler had run off. April was also having problems with her door locks. Of course April suspects the Prowler was Terry, but the police were never able to catch him. And even though the police never managed to catch the Prowler, April's neighbor, Glinda McCarley, testifies about seeing Terry constantly speeding away from April's home in the spring of 1998. Quote, "It was just uncanny. How, when the police were called, his timing was impeccable. He could be in his car and gone just as they rounded the corner and only on one occasion do I know that they got there before we left." But back to December 1997. April, in her desire to help Carrie, reaches out to Terry about money for her friend's family. Terry agrees to pay April some money he owed her and April would give the money to Carrie. So, Carrie, her husband Alan, and April all go over to Terry's house in early December 1997 to get the money. Once at Terry's house, April notices that he's not looking so good. It looked like he hadn't left the house in a while. He had not been taking care of himself. He had no groceries. He looked like a wreck. In any event, Terry writes April a check and tacts on an additional $2,000. Terry asks April to cash the check and bring him that extra $2,000 in cash. He also gave April his credit card and the keys to his car. He asked her to go to Walmart to get him some things - some groceries, bring him some supplies. Bring back the cash, the credit card, and the car. So April leaves with Carrie and Alan and the three of them cash the check. April gives the rest of the money to Carrie and Alan and keeps the $2,000 for Terry. Then they part ways. Then, as instructed, April goes to Walmart at at first and Louis in Tulsa. As April goes into the Walmart, she actually sees an old high school friend of hers, Shannon Broyles, and that's just classic Tulsa. I mean, everybody knows everybody here. It's a big little city. Colleen McCarty 04:39 It's actually not clear from the testimony if Shannon saw April heading into the store, or when she was at the checkout. April buys all the items that Terry had requested and heads to the checkout stand. The credit card didn't match April's signature, so the clerk asked to call Terry to make sure April had permission to use the card. April gave the clerk his number and then Terry got on the phone. April testifies the conversation went something like this. Clerk, quote, "Are you allowing a miss April Wilkins to use your card today Mr. Carlton?" Terry, quote, "No." Terry told the clerk "No." Even after he had given April the check to cash, the card to buy groceries and his car to transport everything. Terry tells the clerk to hold April there until he can come get his belongings. Shannon remembered that April seemed scared. To quote Shannon's testimony at trial, quote, "It was in the early morning hours and she - she said she couldn't even talk to me after not seeing me a long time. She couldn't stop and talk to me. Because she had to get out of there. She was afraid. She said she needed to leave. Question. All right. Did she say what she was afraid of? Answer from Shannon. Yes, sir. Question from the attorney. Okay. And what was that please? Answer from Shannon. She was afraid that Terry Carlton, she said, her boyfriend, said his name was going to come up there because he was mad at her for I believe it was using a card and for being gone too long." Leslie Briggs 06:13 So, Terry shows up at Walmart and who drives him there? The Tulsa police officers walk Terry inside and he stirs up a confrontation. He's belligerently saying she's not supposed to be doing this. Despite the fact that Terry is alleging that April has committed the crimes of credit card fraud and auto theft, he tells the officers he doesn't want to press charges and he just he's going to take her home. So the officers leave, and Terry takes April back to his car and drives her to his house. No one in this situation seems to have thought it was odd that the victim of credit card and auto theft by his crazy ex-girlfriend just takes the thief with him to his car, and the two of them leave together. The police simply take Terry at his word. There's no effort on their part to find out if that his report has been made in good faith or if it's utterly false, which if he had made a false report would be a crime on Terry's part. But no, his word is taken at face value by the police. Now on the car ride home, Terry's mood has shifted wildly. April, looking back now, believes he must have been running out of drugs. He had asked her to make a large cash withdrawal while she was cashing that check for Carrie. And she knew the cash would be used to replenish his stash. Here's April talking about what happened at Walmart. April Wilkens 07:35 He shows up with the police. All I remember is him telling them you know, "I'll take her . I don't want to press charges. I'll take her in." He probably neglected to tell them hey, I wrote her this $2,000 check -or I mean I - it was more than that. I don't remember how much we got for Carrie off hand right now. And tells them, "You know, I'll take her in." I'm just still kind of stunned by it all. I'm like, "Here is your money. Here's your $2,000. It's right there. You know, you asked me to do this." I remember the $2,000, as I remembered and I and I knew he wanted it for drugs. I was drug money cash, right. So. So we got that. And I remember when I got back to his house, that's when I just took off running, you know? And that's when I locked myself in that upstairs room. And it has a - it's an old house and it has a - you can lock it from the inside or the outside. So he locked me in the room and I had the room locked from the inside. It kind of goes blank from there. And I remember - it's - I don't know how long it was in there and that he - might have to go - I may have testified to it. I don't remember how long I was in there. At some point he tries to get in and he can't because I've got it locked from the inside. And that's when he kicks it - kicks it in and comes in. And that's when he yeah raped me at his house. Colleen McCarty 09:03 As a small aside April and Shannon's relationship seems to be rekindled after they saw each other in Walmart. April begins to reach out to Shannon and tell her about the terror she's been going through. At one point, Shannon drops by April's house to show it to her boyfriend, a former police officer. Shannon rings April's doorbell but there's no answer. Quote, "April didn't answer the door at that time," end quote, Shannon later testifies. She goes to the back of the house and April tells her to come in through the backyard. Shannon, who lived with April their senior year of high school, knew that April was a neat freak. She was shocked to see the state of April's house. The door to April's bedroom had been kicked in and there was broken glass everywhere. And remember in episode one, when we told you that April called someone from her neighbor's house the night of the murder to ask if she could borrow a guard dog? That was Shannon Shannon had a doberman.... Leslie Briggs 10:02 Let's go back to the aftermath from the Walmart incident. Terry is driving April to his house and April and has a hard time remembering all of the details. But she knows that as soon as she was able to she was running. And she was running up the stairs and into the guest bedroom of Terry's house because it has a lock both a key lock and a deadbolt. And the room could be locked from either the inside or the outside. April is utterly terrified. And she knows that Terry's going to hurt her. And for some time, he has her locked inside the guest room from the outside. As soon as he unlocks it to come in, she locks it from the inside. Here's April at trial, quote, "I remember being locked in the room for a very long time. And then I remember you know, I had locked - I had locked him out. And then he locked me in I guess, and then I was there for quite some time. At some point he beat the door and kicked it in and attacked me. He tried to unlock it to come in and when he saw that I had locked it too, he - so he attacked me." Again, just a quick warning that this portion of the episode details another rape. So if you want to skip ahead, now's the time... So Terry is furious and breaks down the door to his own guestroom. He comes in shoves a valium pill wrapped in bread down April's throat. At trial, April's attorney had introduced photos of the doorframe and the door that Terry had broken down and we'll probably drop those in the show notes if we can get them. Colleen McCarty 11:41 Terry violently raped April and caused vaginal injuries as well as injuries to her lower back. Her neck was also injured. She was drugged, she blacked out. And the next thing she remembers is waking up in the guest bed completely unable to move. She was terrified thinking that she had been paralyzed. She cried and screamed for Terry to call 911. "Please call 911." Terry must have been alarmed because he actually did call. When they arrived, April tells police that she was raped. Terry told the female officer at the scene that April was just one big bruise. The officers handcuffed Terry. So here we are: a critical moment where things might have gone differently. Terry's in handcuffs for the first time after all of April's reporting to the police. He's going to be taken in and booked for raping April. Finally, the system is going to work for her. Finally, law enforcement have the bad guy. Finally, April is going to get some distance and time between her and Terry and maybe she's going to get away, get help, and get out. Except. That's not what happens. Over the radio comes Sergeant Rick Hellberg and order for this officers to quote Uncuff him and just make a report. Terry is released and the officers do make a report. Officers documented the scene taking pictures of the bedroom and of April's injuries to her chin and neck. They drove her to Hillcrest hospital where she got a SANE exam. SANE stands for Sexual Assault Nurse exam. The exam showed signs of rape and sexual abuse including bruising, redness and a laceration. A female officer from the scene followed after to be with April at Hillcrest and then drove her home. April realized that her purse was still at Terry's. April tells us that she asked the officer, quote, "Can you go get my purse and bring it to me?" end quote. She obviously didn't feel safe going to her rapist's house, understandably. According to April, the female officer refuses. She apparently tells April that she will not go back to Terry's house for her purse because, quote, "Terry creeps her out." Leslie Briggs 14:06 Later that week, Terry showed up at April's house. April testified at trial quote, "He was very concerned about rape charges being filed and my cooperation. He was very interested that I not cooperate. So he was staying very close to me." April Wilkens 14:21 And that's when Tim Harris makes a big deal out of "Well you were with him." He came and got me; he had this form on supposed to sign this form that it was not rape, that it was consensual sex and, you know, and like and "I'm not signing this." It wasn't consensual and so he was keeping me with him then till I was signing this form, right? Here we go. Leslie Briggs 14:41 So Terry intimidates April with a form that he's had drawn up. He wants her to sign it saying that the rape was actually consensual. And until she signed the form, April would not be allowed to leave Terry's sight. Ultimately, April was able to convince Terry that she would not cooperate with authorities and that she would not let the rape case go forward. But she could not get away from Terry. He was coming by he was stealing her mail. We find out later that he was tapping her phones with a small bugging device that he bought at RadioShack. Colleen McCarty 15:12 Also in the spring of 1998, April begins to spend time with a friend, Luke Draffin. I feel the need to mention that his middle name is Leonidas. Luke Leonidas Draffin. Refined. We heard about him a little bit in episode one, and we may do a bonus episode about him if we have time because he is truly a perplexing engyma in this story. When April is with Luke, Terry leaves her alone. It's been posited that Luke was a criminal informant or an undercover cop. He had connections to an UnderSheriff in Creek County, which is a neighboring county to Tulsa, and he was always packing both guns and drugs. Terry is unusually wary about Luke. When Luke is around, Terry backs off. One might wonder if Luke was supplying Terry with drugs. Despite claiming to be an undercover cop by the time of trial, Luke has been arrested and charged with several felonies. In the spring of 1999, at the same time, April is being tried for shooting Terry, Luke was facing four felony charges: unlawful possession of a controlled substance, possession of a firearm while committing a felony, unlawful possession of paraphernalia, and unlawful possession of marijuana. By the time he testifies at trial in 1999, he's in custody. When he comes to testify, he's been rented over from jail, and he appears in court in handcuffs. Leslie Briggs 16:42 But back in the spring of 1998, as things progressed with Luke and April starts to feel like she has someone to rely on, Terry's obsession and desire to control April is reaching a fever pitch. April had a set of French doors that open to her backyard from the master bedroom. Terry had broken in through this set of doors numerous times. The doorframe is broken, the locks don't work. April put a bungee cord around the handles on the inside to keep them closed. Then, Terry busted them in so hard that the bungee cord broke and the door handles went flying. She had to stack furniture against the door and boxes of books in hopes that she could sleep without fear of Terry breaking in. Except when he couldn't get in the French doors, he just came bursting in through the front and then April would be trapped. When April's neighbor Glenda McCarley talked to the police, she told them that she would frequently hear Terry's car engine. And, as a reminder, Terry's father owned one of the few Acura car dealerships in Tulsa and so Terry had an Acura NSX that had a unique sound. In any event, Glenda McCarley would frequently hear Terry's car out front of April's house at least five nights a week in the middle of the night. When Terry found out that April was spending time with Luke, he became obsessive and jealous. In the early months of 1998, Terry begins offering Luke money to stay away from April. There's some dispute as we mentioned in episode one as to whether Terry also gave Luke his Harley Davidson motorcycle. April had heard that Luke was riding the motorcycle around town. Regardless, Terry manages to insert himself between Luke and April. The one person April can rely on to keep her physical person safe. We will come to find out that unfortunately, Luke and Terry are more alike than different. Even though Luke was not physically abusive to April he was supplying her with drugs. And, Luke eventually strikes a deal with Terry to stay away from April. Here's how Luke testifies at trial for the state: The district attorney Tim Harris asks, 'Defense counsel asked you why you didn't want to have anything to do with her when she was at the executive Inn on the night of the murder. Could you clarify that? What was it about a person you had seen the one - one time a week for five months that you didn't want to have anything to do with?' Luke answers, "Well, I you know, made the deal with Terry, you know, it was between me and him and it was late at night and I didn't feel like messing with it. You know, I was in bed. I was asleep." Tim Harris says, "the offer for Mr. Carlton to you to stay away. How much were you offered?" Luke testifies "About 5,000." Colleen McCarty 19:24 It is around this time that April continues to tell Terry she wants to break up. She says she can never be with him because she has a son and Hunter will never be safe with Terry around. Once Terry realizes that it's Hunter standing in the way of them being together, he begins to threaten Hunter and frightened April about the security of her son. She's so afraid that she calls her ex-husband Eric and asks him to file for sole custody. Up until this time, April had been a devoted mother. She didn't even believe in spaking her child. Hunter had lived the majority of his life with April. For her to give up custody was a shock and should have signaled to everyone in her life that something was very wrong. Hunter 20:10 So she's with Terry, and all of a sudden, I stopped going over to my mom's house for, I don't know, I - I think we skipped two weeks. I didn't say anything. And then the third week, I asked my dad, I was like, the hell are we doing, man? Like, why am I not going over to mom's house? Like, you're pissing me off. I don't want to be over here anymore. She's told me that she kept - she called my dad like, "No, I can't take him right now. Because Terry's is being fucking insane. And we can't have Hunter anywhere near because I think he might hurt him." Colleen McCarty 20:47 We spoke with a law professor at Wake Forest, who's an expert in criminalized survivorship. Her name is Jane Aiken, and she said that many women will not protect themselves, but a switch flips when they realize their children could be hurt. April told us when we visited that this was true for her. Luke in April of 38 for protection. She remembers having a phone conversation with someone and telling them that even if Terry did break into her house, she would be too effing nice to use the gun on him. But if she did it, it would be justifiable homicide, due to Terry's numerous assaults on her and the fact that he would be entering in her house. Sidenote, April gave up swearing several years ago, so she refused to say the actual f-word when retelling us this conversation. The conversation about her not being able to shoot Terry was recorded on the tapping device that Terry had installed. However, according to Don Carlton's pre-sentencing letter to the court, due to some technical difficulty, Tim Harris was unable to introduce this recording at trial. As Don Carlton, Terry's dad, describes the recording it irrefutably establishes premeditative intent on April's part. Let's stop for a second and consider that proposition. Newly elected district attorney Tim Harris was unable to play evidence that would irrefutably establish an essential element of his case. That is pretty stunning. We've been unable to find that recording it yet but if we do, we'll play it here. Leslie Briggs 22:28 In early February 1998, Terry comes to April's house, armed with a glock nine millimeter, a billy club, tear gas, and a stun gun. April was in the back of the house and Luke was there. Luke actually lets Terry in the front door. Terry went to the back of the house, into April's bedroom and wanted to talk. When he sat down on one of the chairs April heard a thump. She demanded to know what the thump was. At first Terry refused to tell her but she said the conversation would go no further until she knew what he had in his pocket. Terry pulled out the glock and slid it out the bedroom door before closing it again. At this point April starts calling out to Luke that Terry's in the back, he's got a gun, but there's no answer. April tells Terry he's not to be at her house. She doesn't want to see him. He immediately flies into a rage charging at her with the stun gun. Terry kept saying that April owed him a fuck, and he was going to take it. He rips off her clothes and he has her on the bed threatening her with the stun gun. She's calling out desperately for help. But apparently Luke had walked out when Terry arrived, abandoning April to whatever fate awaited her. April used the only defense that she had that sometimes worked against Terry: words. She said, "If you're going to take your fuck anyway, just back up a minute. Let me relax and get to where I can try to enjoy it." April manages to wiggle out from underneath him as she tries to talk him into stopping. She's able to reach the 38 pistol that Luke had given her, which She's hidden at the head of her bed. Terry is standing up beside the bed at this point and April points the gun at Terry's head. He's enraged and starts to grab the gun. April pulls the trigger but the gun doesn't fire. Terry actually tells April at this time, "I'm God and I am Satan." And April is frankly starting to believe it. Terry is furious, and he attacks April again, then abruptly stops when he hears Luke come back into the house. Terry runs off and flees from April's home. Later after breaking into April's home again Terry steals the gun that Luke has given her. Small reminder at this point. Most legal scholars agree that the law of self defense allows you to use deadly force to protect your life or to protect yourself from being raped. A potential rape victim can use deadly force if she reasonably believes her rapist will cause great bodily injury or death, you can check out 21 OS section 733 to fact check me. Colleen McCarty 25:06 During this time period April notices that Terry has a police scanner and that anytime she calls police, he is easily able to evade them by listening to their responses on the scanner. On February 21, 1998, the abuse and stalking had culminated to an almost daily terror. Terry had stolen April's keys to her house, the remote to her gate and the garage door opener. Terry called April in the middle of the night, and she said she did not want to see him. "I'm coming over," he spits into the phone and hangs up. April immediately calls 911. Terry pulls into April's driveway and runs up to her side garage door. April can hear him beating on the door with something metal. She's terrified because the last time she saw Terry she'd pointed a gun at him and she knew she wouldn't get away with that. Officer Troy DeWitt of the Tulsa police department pulls in behind Terry's car as he is trying to get in to escape. For the first time since April began calling police after the trip to Rome in 1996, Terry Carlton is arrested and booked in the Tulsa County Jail in the early morning hours of February 21, 1998. Even though stalking was a misdemeanor crime at this point in Oklahoma history, Terry is only booked into the jail for the misdemeanor of transporting a loaded firearm. This is what officer DeWitt wrote in his police report the night he arrested Terry, quote,"On 2-21-98 at 0304 hours, I was radio assigned to 1341 East 35th Street in Tulsa in reference to a domestic with a gun call. Upon arrival, I could hear the suspect, Terry Carlton, yelling behind a large eight-foot fence. As officers approached the residence, I hear a car motor start and a black accurate quickly backed out into the street. Carlton was told to stop and complied. Officials observed a stun gun and part of a Glock pistol that was in a white bag. Officer Anison retrieved the nine millimeter Glock pistol from the passenger side floorboard. And it was chamber loaded and was fully loaded with ammunition. Carlton stated, quote, "I was bringing it" and there's a blank here because it's hard to tell what the officer wrote down on that word. So I'm sorry, but then he keeps going "for her the other day and I just forgot it was there." This residence has a history of domestic violence and threats. Although April Wilkens could not say whether he had threatened her tonight, Wilkens said he had in the past and she felt very threatened. Officers contacted judge Hogshead and an emergency protective order was issued. Carlton was arrested and booked, evidence was turned in on property receipt #A3-2. Before he left officer DeWitt reminded April that even a simple phone call from Terry was a violation of the emergency protective order. Leslie Briggs 28:13 Officer DeWitt is the only police officer who ever really takes decisive action against Terry Carlton on behalf of April. I know we've been really critical to the police throughout this podcast and I think we have good reason to. But officer DeWitt really is a true hero in this story. Colleen McCarty 28:29 The next morning, April began receiving phone calls from the Tulsa County Jail. It was Terry, brazenly violating the emergency protective order. April remembered what officer DeWitt said and she called the police again to report the EPO violation. At this time in Oklahoma, someone stalking another person while on a protective order was a felony that could serve up to five years in prison. You can find that at 21 OS 1173, the 1998 version. Still violation of a protective order at all was a felony. Leslie Briggs 29:07 Officer Aaron Tallman responds to the call. "We just keep expecting to find you dead," he tells April. April shows him the caller ID which shows the Tulsa County Jail and tells officer Tolman about the emergency protective order. Officer Tallman tells April that she's annoying him. He claims that her emergency protective order doesn't say that Terry can't call her. This is of course the opposite of the information that officer DeWitt told her the night before. Nothing is done. And Terry is right back on April's doorstep after he bonds out of jail. April's neighbor, Glenda McCarley testifies about officer Thompson's behavior because she was there to witness it. She describes it as infuriating when he responded to April's 911 call. Here's Geldna McCarley's testimony at trial. Question: "All right, and if you will miss McCarley, tell us what occurred when the police arrived." Miss McCarthy's answer, "Usually, nothing." On the 25th of March 1998, Terry fails to appear in court on his misdemeanor loaded firearm charge. The judge issued a bench warrant for Terry's arrest. And kind of a funny quirk of constitutional law at the time, anytime officers came into contact with Terry, that misdemeanor warrant would have allowed them to arrest him. Except, weirdly, between the hours of 10pm and 6am. Colleen McCarty 30:30 We have a sight on that it's 22 OS 189 in effect in Oklahoma since 1990. Things are really escalating in the spring of '98. The major episode in the saga starts on April 2, about nine days after Terry's warrant is issued by the court for failing to appear. Terry's just pulled up to April's house. April is running. She runs from 35th N Quincy, west toward Peoria. She crosses Peoria, she's in a church parking lot. She can look across Peoria and see her driveway and see her house and she can see Terry sitting on the road in the street in his car in front of her house. April has absolutely no one else to turn to at this point. Remember, this was before cell phones. And not to mention Terry told April during this time period that he had cut her phone lines. She realized the lines were dead during an altercation with Terry, during which she went to call the police and Terry tells her, "I cut the line. Call them again." Officers later confirmed that her phone lines were indeed cut. Leslie Briggs 31:44 Also, it's worth noting that around the same time, Terry makes this allegation to April that "It's 500 bucks, baby. That's all it costs to buy a police officer." Colleen McCarty 31:55 So she's standing there, desperate, in a church parking lot. And she's talking to God. She's asking God to protect her and to please keep her safe. God is her last resort. A small side note here. For those listening who aren't from Oklahoma, we are a reliably Christian state. Oklahoma's religious profile varies markedly from national norms. The state residents identify themselves as Southern Baptist almost seven times more often than other Americans, but Churches of Christ, Methodist, Pentecostal and holiness groups are also much more common in Oklahoma than elsewhere. We also have a high propensity of churches in Oklahoma that encouraged parishioners to pray aloud or even in tongues. Prayer is a powerful medium for change here, and local leaders often asked for prayers when making difficult decisions. I say this to note that talking aloud to God is a common occurrence here. In more religious areas, people often pray over each other aloud before meals, before meetings or before major family functions or difficult conversations. Leslie Briggs 33:04 And of course, the Supreme Court agrees that this is normal and acceptable and appropriate behavior, even if you're a public school coach. So the religious context here is important because of what happens next. Officer Aaron Tallman Yes, the same Aaron Tallman from before, approaches April in the church parking lot and he witnesses her talking to God. Tallman uses April's behavior as a pretext to search her. In a wrist guard that she wears while rollerblading he finds a syringe. Later at trial when he's testifying. Officer Tollman states that he could have arrested April on a paraphernalia charge even though he could look across Peoria and see Terry parked outside her house waiting for her to return. And I think it's worth reminding everyone that Tallman knew about her history of domestic violence with Terry. He had responded to her house on several occasions, including in February, just two months prior when Terry had violated the emergency protective orde. When Tallman picks April up from the church parking lot. Instead of hitting her with a paraphernalia charge, Officer Tallman calls EOD, which is like a mental health crisis response team. They come out, they check April out, and essentially as I gather from reading the testimony, it's like a paddy wagon that takes April to Parkside Mental Health Institute. So Parkside is an acute mental health facility here in Tulsa. It's around 11th and Utica, about four miles from April's house. So officer Tallman from the Tulsa Police Department had called in what's called a 5150, claiming that April was a danger to herself or to others and he has her involuntarily civilly committed. April was held at Parkside for six days. And during that time, she refuses to let Terry visit her and will not let him attend the civil commitment hearing. On the sixth today, April is able to squirrel the keys to the unit away from the head psychiatric nurse while she's playing Uno. She escapes and heads home. The day she arrives home, she is surprised to find Terry coming in the front door with keys to her house. Terry was armed again with a 38 pistol that Luke had given her. The one that she'd aimed his head back in February. Terry is pissed again. He's upset that she wouldn't let him see her at Parkside and that he wasn't allowed to come to the commitment hearing. Terry's narrative now is that April is sick. And Terry is the only one standing by her to make sure that she's okay. He's telling her friends to call him to check on her. April finds this out later when she would occasionally answer the phone at his house, including on the morning of the shooting, to find her childhood friends on the other side of the line. Colleen McCarty 35:49 Terry takes April to his house at gunpoint with a 38 he holds her hostage there. We don't have a lot of detail about what happened while Terry was keeping April as a prisoner during this time. We know she could not leave and that he was repeatedly attacking her. She remembers him attacking her on the kitchen floor and attempting to rape her again. Then Terry moves her to the basement and thrusts her onto the couch. Continuing to say he wants to take that buck that she owes him. There was something sharp on the couch - she refers to it as an icepick or a guitar piece. Something that had a sharp end. She landed on it and it stabbed her in the left buttock. April screamed and got up. In the tussle, the remote to the television must have gotten pressed because the TV turns on by itself. Terry is very freaked out by this. Small aside if your people you know use drugs this will sound a lot like the behavior of addicts. April describes Terry as deranged during this time, seeing things that weren't there, somewhat fading in and out of reality. April knows that he told her he was going to take his fuck and then slit her throat and kill himself. While Terry's distracted by the TV coming on, April runs upstairs and puts three of the guns in a black bag. She carries the bag outside and runs across the street to Terry's neighbor, Dr. Laughlin's house. She gets there. And Dr. Dr. Laughlin's wife is home but Dr. Laughlin is not. And she asks Dr. Dr. Laughlin's wife to please help her find the number for Domestic Violence Intervention Services here in Tulsa. She refuses to call the police because of how they had reacted in the past and she was scared that she would get taken back to Parkside. She called Domestic Violence Intervention Services and tells the operator that Terry is suicidal. She was worried he was going to hurt himself or someone else. Because a threat to someone's life is alleged the DV operator had to send the police. When they arrive, they don't just take Terry to Parkside for being suicidal. They take both Terry and April to Parkside and they civilly commit both of them for being dangerous to themselves and others. Terry was released a few hours later, but they hold April at Parkside until April 23. Leslie Briggs 38:12 On April 23, April is transferred to Eastern State Hospital. This is where she meets a true hero in this story, nurse Betty Cantrell. Betty Cantrell seems to be the first person that April encounters in the mental health system, who doesn't believe she is a danger or psychotic but that she's afraid and suffering from PTSD. What happens at Eastern State is truly a trip. Terry has previously indicated to April that he's the one who had her committed at Parkside, and he's the one who had her committed at Eastern State. We're going to call it ESH for short. Her first call when she gets to ESH is to Terry. She's pleading with him to make them let her go. She truly believes at this point, he's pulling the strings and having hospital staff hold her there so he can teach her a lesson. April stays at ESH from April 23 until the 26th. And during those three days, Carrie tries to visit her three times. Venita is a 45 minute drive from Tulsa and that's where Eastern State is located. April rejects his visits the first two times. On the third time, she lets him come in, and he is absolutely insistent that he sees her. But first let's talk about how he shows up. He arrives in a brand new red Acura with balloons tied to it. He's saying it's her birthday present. He's offering this gift, but only if April will come clean with him about if she's fallen in love with someone else. Colleen McCarty 39:44 Here's April testifying about this. Quote, "He had been pressuring me. I had, excuse me, I could not have visitors at Parkside. So there was relief there. But he did come see me at Eastern State. I was reluctant to see him but when I did, he began to pressure me into saying I was in love with someone else. And I had told him all along that my feelings for him were independent of my feelings for anyone else. And I didn't want to hurt his feelings. And I didn't want to aggravate him because I - And finally on Sunday, he was very insistent in front of a group of people and also several nurses, he had to have an answer. And I had not said anything to him. And finally, I said - I hadn't said this to him before, because I did not want to hurt his feelings. And I did not want to endanger anyone else. And because I did not want to endanger myself more. And that was I finally said, Okay, I'm in love with someone else, you know? If that's what you need to hear to understand that we're not going to be together." Question, "Was there really someone else?" Answer, "I cared about Luke. I don't know if I was in love with him. But I would never say like I said, Luke, or no, Luke. I was not going to be with Terry. I just wasn't." Leslie Briggs 41:07 And here's the testimony of the ESH nurse Betty Cantrell, talking about the time that Terry visited April on Sunday afternoon, April 26, 1998, two days before the shooting. Question, "What if anything, did he say or do when he walked up?" Answer from Betty Cantrell, "He asked - told, more - basically told her to come out to the car. He wanted to talk to her. And she kind of nudged me and I said, I'm sorry. She can't go out to the car." Question, "Okay, when you say that he more or less told her to come out to the car. Describe for the court and jury what you observed." And here's nurse Cantrell again. "He was very I mean, he was, he was like a hostile state. He said, 'I want to talk to you privately. I want to talk to you now.' And I said, 'I'm sorry, she cannot go to the car.' And he kept on at her. And I said, 'You can sit right here on this bench with us and talk to her. But I'm sorry, she cannot leave here.'" Question, "What was April's reaction?" Answer, Nurse Cantrell testifies. "She didn't say anything against me telling her to sit down. She sat down. Never had no, she just said, Thank you. That was all she ever said." Question, "How long did this go on?" Answer, "I would say we probably sit there for a good 10 to 15 minutes, maybe?" Question, "All right. And what was Mr. Carlton doing during this period of time?" and nurse Cantrell testifies, "He had cursed at her several different times, telling her that he wanted to talk to her away from where he could talk to her personally. And privately. He did not want anybody present. And every time he would say it, he would kind of curse at her. I tell him no, I'm sorry. She can't." Question "When you say he cursed at her. Do you recall specifically what he said?" Here's nurse Cantrell. "He said at one point, he said, listen, goddamnit I said, I want to talk to you privately. I don't want out in front of everybody else. And I again cautioned him, you know, that she's not going." Question, "All right, what ultimately transpired?" "He started to walk away. And it's an area that from the back of the building where we were sitting, I would say it's farther from here to that wall. It's a little farther than that to the parking area where his car was parked. And at one point, she told me, when he started to walk off, she said, I'm sure glad you didn't let me go with him. And I said, 'Well, why why would you? You know,' I said, 'you can't take off, you know, you got to try to get things taken care of.' She said, 'I understand that. But she said he usually carries a gun with him all the time.' And I said, 'You're not going down to that car.'" So small. Sidenote here after this testimony, Tim Harris, the district attorney asks for a conference at the bench and accuses April's defense of violating the Allen Rule. Colleen, do you want to give us a quick synopsis of the Allen Rule? Colleen McCarty 44:07 An Allen hearing happens when one side of a case doesn't disclose everything that they have in discovery and when district attorney Tim Harris accuses April's defense attorney, Chris Lyons, of an Allen violation, he's essentially saying that Chris Lyons knew he was going to introduce this fact about the gun, and he withheld it intentionally and that it's an Allen violation. Leslie Briggs 44:32 Thank you. Harris is very upset about the comment about Terry carrying a gun. Apparently he was never notified by the defense that Betty Cantrell would testify about Terry carrying a gun. Harris is reportedly livid and would like the court to admonish the defense because he finds the fact that Terry carried a firearm to ESH, extremely prejudicial to his case. Colleen McCarty 45:07 So to close out today's episode, ESH kept April for one more day until Monday, April 27, 1998. They determined she was primarily in need of substance use treatment and that she could seek that help in the community. They sent her to 12 & 12 in Tulsa in a van. As we know from episode one, she ran away from that program and hitchhiked home, which began the final hours of her life before everything changed. Next week on Panic Button, we'll talk about the arrest, the confession, the year April spends in jail. And we'll come through highlights of the lawyers selecting the jury, or as we say in Oklahoma, voir dire. Panic Button is a co-production with Oklahoma Appleseed Center for Law and Justice and Leslie Briggs. We're your hosts, Colleen McCarty and Leslie Briggs 46:04 Leslie Briggs. Colleen McCarty 46:05 Our theme music is Velvet Rope by Guillaume. The production team, Leslie Briggs and Rusty Rowe. We're recorded at Bison and Bean studio in Tulsa. Special thanks to Lynn Worely, Amanda Ross, and Ashlynn Faulkner for their work on this case. 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In this episode we go back in time to 1980's Kellyville, Oklahoma where April grew up. Then we follow her to the car lot where she met Terry. We will hear the tape that April recorded of a fight between she and Terry after their trip to Italy. On the trip he beat her threatened to and throw her out of their hotel room naked, only to be caught by one of his fellow travelers on the trip. We are trying to categorize the time and place of April and Terry's relationship, and look for patterns of abuse, which escalated as law enforcement continued to turn a blind eye. Resources: For pictures of April as a kid, her wedding, the early years with Hunter, and pictures introduced at trial of April and Terry's international trips, visit okappleseed.org/episode-2-show-notes LA Times article about Don Carlton's bribery scandal: https://web.archive.org/web/20211117194929/https://www.latimes.com/archives/la-xpm-1994-03-16-fi-34784-story.html%C2%A0 TIME Magazine story on Honda scams: http://content.time.com/time/nation/article/0,8599,3976,00.html Instagram post containing the Affidavit of Federal Judge Claire Egan: https://www.instagram.com/p/CQWQJrUDy-m/ Detailed Timeline of Events in April's Case: https://aprilwilkensblog.wordpress.com/2022/02/12/timeline-of-events/ Sign the Change.org petition to support April's release: https://www.change.org/p/oklahoma-pardon-parole-board-commute-the-life-sentence-of-abuse-survivor-april-wilkens?signed=true Donate to keep our work going!: neappleseed.org/okappleseed Learn more about Oklahoma Appleseed: okappleseed.org If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse, use a safe computer and contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at www.thehotline.org or call 1-800-799-7233. You can also search for a local domestic violence shelter at www.domesticshelters.org/. If you have experienced sexual assault and need support, visit the Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network (RAINN) at www.rainn.org or call 1-800-656-HOPE. Have questions about consent? Take a look at this guide from RAINN at www.rainn.org/articles/what-is-consent. Learn more about criminalized survival at www.survivedandpunishedny.org/. Learn more about the Domestic Violence Survivors Justice Act at www.nysda.org/page/DVSJA. Follow the #freeaprilwilkens campaign on Instagram at @freeaprilwilkens, on Twitter and on their webpage at https://aprilwilkensblog.wordpress.com/. Colleen McCarty is one of the hosts, executive director of Oklahoma Appleseed, and producer. Leslie Briggs is the other host who is a civil rights and immigration attorney, and producer. Rusty Rowe provides additional production support. We're recorded at Bison and Bean Studios in Tulsa. Additional support from Amanda Ross and Ashlyn Faulkner. Our theme music is Velvet Rope by Gyom. Panic Button is created in partnership with Oklahoma Appleseed Center for Law and Justice and Leslie Briggs. Follow OK Appleseed on Twitter and Instagram at @ok_appleseed. If you want to continue the conversation with other listeners, please join our Panic Button podcast community on Bookclubz at bit.ly/3NRHO8C. TRANSCRIPT Leslie Briggs 00:00 Glenda McCarley had tried to get the badge number of Officer Aaron Tallman just a few months before the shooting of Terry Carlton. She said his response to April Wilkens, her neighbor across the street on Quincy, was, quote, "infuriating." Glenda had seen numerous times Terry stalking around April's house in the late winter of 1997 and early spring of 1998. She said quote, "it was almost a joke, I think, among the neighbors, how he had the timing down so that he could always just leave and two seconds later, they'd round the corner." The he that the neighbors joked about was of course the decedent in this case, Terry Carlton. Regardless, when Officer Tallman arrived to find April sitting on Glenda's porch in the spring of 1998, waiting for help from yet another violent encounter, he walked up to the porch, looked at April and said, "You're beginning to annoy me." This is Panic Button. I'm Leslie Briggs. Colleen McCarty 01:05 And I'm Colleen McCarty. Leslie Briggs 01:06 And this is episode 2: Small Town Girl Living in a Violent World. Colleen McCarty 01:14 Many years before Glenda McCarley asked for Officer Tallman's badge number, April was just a kid from Kellyville, Oklahoma, a small town southwest of Tulsa on the I-44 Turnpike. The town had a population of 960 in 1980 when April was 10. Kellyville is on old route 66. Local landmarks include a cotton gin and oil derricks dotting the town's main street. The cotton gin has since been demolished. Local high schoolers would go out to Cry Baby Bridge, which was ironically rumored to be haunted by the ghosts of a woman who was fleeing her abusive husband and her baby. The two wrecked and the baby's body was never recovered. So the legend goes, you can hear the baby crying from the bridge late at night. April was an average teenager in Kellyville. Her parents worked at a local orthotics and prosthetics clinic. Her father, Rex, was an amputee himself and had learned the business due to necessity. April was a cheerleader. But even though everything looked perfect from the outside, like most Oklahoma homes during this period, there was strong discipline. And like any family, some dysfunction. April Wilkens 02:26 My upbringing made me susceptible. And I know my parents just did what they knew. They grew up in abusive childhoods. So I know, my dad, he had a tough upbringing. You know, his dad - his dad used to beat his family. And, you know, he was a preacher and my dad felt that was very hypocritical. And, you know, my mom, dad leaving the family. And she grew up being abused. That influences children. And I want to honor their memory. Because even though, yes, there was violence and abuse, I know that they did what they knew. That's how it is. And my sister, she's always - she wanted to write a letter talking about the abuse and all of that. And my mom got mad, and then she didn't put it in there. But she's always encouraged me to talk about it. So, I'm really talking about it for the first time. Terry Carlton 03:23 April and Mary are actually half sisters. They share the same mom and Mary spent a little bit of time talking with us about her mother's history of domestic abuse with her biological father. And then of course with Mary stepfather April's biological father, Rex. April and Mary's mother often played out these cycles of abuse that we see repeating themselves in April's relationship with Terry. She would leave and return and leave and return and get hooked in with an abusive partner until it got to be unbearable, and she would flee. Mary gave us a little glimpse into what it was like growing up with both her biological father and then with April and Rex and her mother. Mary 04:07 He grabbed us and my grandmother - I did not know my grandmother called him at work. He worked right down from the house, and she called him. My mother was trying to leave with us. We lived with them. And he threw us in the bathroom. And he had a gun and he said he would shoot us before he'd let her have us. He didn't want us. I know that, you know, as an adult. He just thought she would stay if he did that. Leslie Briggs 04:29 Eventually, Mary's mother left for good leaving her and her little brother behind with their biological father, who was an alcoholic, extremely physically and emotionally abusive. Mary didn't see her mom for about two years. When she did, she learned she had a little sister. April. Mary 04:46 She was two, actually, when I met her. My mother had left my father again. I didn't even know I had a two-year-old sister. Like me having a live doll. Leslie Briggs 04:54 Here's how Mary describes the car ride home after meeting her stepfather, Rex, for the first time. Mary 04:59 He hit my brother in the mouth on the way to their home, in the car. They just showed up to pick us up. We didn't have any warning or anything whatsoever. And it was so cool to see my mom again. You know, I had nothing but good memories of my mother or love for my mother and I was just, like, so excited. Yes, he hit my brother in the mouth. My brother answered my mother. She asked him something and he simply answered her. I don't remember it being snarky or anything when he ?? He said, "Don't talk to your mother that way," turned around and smacked him in the mouth that made his lip - hit his lip up against his teeth, I guess, and because his mouth bled. I never stood up to him. I was too afraid of him. And he made me kind of crazy. And I stood up to him as an adult, but on the way home, I was just like, really, this cannot be happening again. But it was. Colleen McCarty 05:45 Throughout the trial, April was hesitant to reveal her childhood. She didn't want to shame her parents. Even though her childhood had episodes of violence, there was a lot of happy memories too. She remembered both her parents standing by her throughout the entire trial and supporting her in the years afterwards. Even though her sister wanted to write a letter to the parole board much later detailing the family abuse, April refused. Leslie Briggs 06:11 There's even a moment on the stand when the district attorney Tim Harris alleges that April was hospitalized for drug abuse when she was 15. April, in her testimony, does not do a good job of refuting this simply because she was balancing the fact that her parents were in the courtroom listening and she didn't want to make them look bad. The truth was, she had stayed out all night with her friends and her mother had dropped her off at St. John's to get a drug test. Her mother could only conclude that April must have used drugs with her friends. There were of course no drugs in her system. But the doctors asked to keep April overnight due to suspicions of anorexia. Here's how Mary remembers April's eating disorder. Mary 06:49 No, we all knew something was going on. And I think it was something she could control. Forgive me, but I learned in psychology - now, remember I'm gone and I only come back and visit once in a while and why I can back to visit who knows - but she would go to the strangest phases, bless her heart. She would eat - buy a whole loaf of bread and eat the hearts out of the bread and leave the crust. And then the next week she might just eat the crust and not eat the hearts of the bread. It was just so - the things she would do are so strange, honey. But it was something I think that she could have control over. Leslie Briggs 07:20 Now of course, April told us that the anorexia was really a function of her home life. Mary shared with us just a small story about how Rex, her stepfather and April's biological father, would speak to them about their eating habits. Mary 07:36 I never hardly ever brought friends home. But I brought a friend home one time that down the road who was in an abused home just like I was. Some - we attracked each other you know how that is, I'm sure, somehow. But I went in the kitchen and made us some peanut butter and honey was - we were gonna eat it on crackers. And I made enough for two people because I had a friend there with me. And he came into the kitchen, and I was a pig and I was never going to get married. No man was ever going to look at me. How could I eat that much? And I was skinny - I mean, I was so skinny it was ridiculous. Because I could - I could eat whatever I wanted you know what I mean? And not get - Anyway, I stood there and took it. Went into the bedroom, sat down, ate that. She said, "So this is why you don't ever ask me over?" I said "Uhuh." I just didn't. Why would you? I was humiliated. You can only imagine - Leslie Briggs 08:25 Ultimately, they diagnosed April as anorexic at 15 and sent her home with little information or treatment resources. But April was always incredibly intelligent. She graduated high school two years early, went on to Oklahoma State University for undergraduate studies, where she majored in clinical dietetics. She later attended an accelerated program in orthotics and prosthetics at Northwestern University in Chicago. She graduated with her Master's in 1991 when she was just 21 years old. Colleen McCarty 08:55 In 1990, when she was 20, she met Eric Wilkens and got pregnant with Hunter. She was attending her Master's program in Chicago while Eric went to undergrad at the University of Oklahoma. They were married. Eric and April then divorced in 1993 after the long distance relationship had taken a toll. They'd grown apart. And April would later say that she was too young to appreciate a good man like Eric. We talked with Hunter, April's son, recently about the divorce and what he remembers about his mom in those early years. Hunter 09:28 I was five years old. And you know, it was a clean split up. I think they had joint custody at the time. So I was spending a week at my dad's, a week at my mom's. Completely normal. My mom's house was awesome. I had the entire upstairs to myself. I had a TV hooked up to an N64. I had a computer in the mid 90s, which was awesome. I don't even think there was internet to it. It was just a computer that you could do things with. I think there was sometimes you'd get internet to it or not. I had a Batcave and I red racecar bed, which was super cool. The Batcave had a zipline, where Batman could slide through. Living at my mom's house was really nice. Like, it was really cool that she was - she was - she spoiled me rotten. My dad did not like it at all. The only thing I did not like about my mom's house is that she made me eat healthy and soy stuff. Colleen McCarty 10:48 Hunter remembers that April was a good mom. Hunter 10:50 She was a parents. She was good parents. She - she told me to do everything that I needed to do. I did everything she that she told me to do. And she you know she - we had a good time. She she took me out places and I mean we had a good time. It was it was it was great. Colleen McCarty 11:06 During the early 1990s April was a working single mom with not too much drama in her life. As you can see, April is not the typical criminal defendant in a murder case. She's a woman. She's white, and she's highly educated. This demographic is not typically who you would see sitting behind the defendant's table. By the nature of the system, most defendants are impoverished with a high percentage being people of color. Most defendants have not completed any college, most prosecutors would not want to prosecute someone like April. She is what we would call sympathetic to an extreme degree. Leslie Briggs 11:44 Which is a whole separate level of fucked up that we're going to get into throughout this podcast, but it's the truth. Interestingly enough, Terry was also growing up in Tulsa, about 20 miles away from Kellyville. In 1989, the year of his first stint in drug rehab, he was 31. And there's a 12-year age difference between Terry and April that doesn't get discussed much but it's certainly an element to issues of power and control and abuse in this relationship. Terry had gone to the University of Oklahoma, and he was described as a good athlete and a talented musician. Terry's father, Don Carlton gained some notoriety, or infamy depending on how you look at it, for offering a Honda executive and briefcase with $250,000 in cash in 1983 in order to secure the rights to his own dealership. Now ultimately, Don Carlton was not prosecuted in that matter, but the man who took the bribe was. And the scandal was profiled and Time Magazine as well as the LA Times and we're going to drop links to those articles in the show notes. So, from 1991 to 1995, April and Terry are just living their lives separately unaware of each other's existence. Also in the late 80s and early 90s, Terry's ex wife Sherry Blanton and another ex-girlfriend, Melinda Wallace, would go on to make police reports about Terry getting abusive with them toward the end of their relationships. Colleen McCarty 13:01 In September ish of 1995, April goes shopping for a car. She winds up at Don Carlton Acura of Tulsa. This is at about 47th and memorial. She meets with the sales guy and ends up leasing an Acura Integra. On her second or third visit to the dealership, April sees Terry for the first time in passing. We actually spoke to one of the jurors on the case recently who noted it was revealed at trial that Terry actually had a policy in the workplace. Juror 13:29 And that is there was one of the salesmen from the car dealership who testified that the guys on the floor were instructed to bring any pretty girls in to visit him if they were single, pretty, looking for a car. And so she was really like in a flytrap. Colleen McCarty 13:51 He doesn't speak to her. But we can only assume he noticed her because she begins to get phone calls from him on the number she had left with the salesman. Terry calls her, presenting himself as the owner of the dealership. He pretends to be following up about the lease of her vehicle. But April could tell it was more than that, and that he was interested in dating her and she began looking forward to the calls. Quote, "I remember thinking that he was attractive and charming. He seemed real. Beautiful smile, you know? And all it was, was 'This is Terry, this is April. Hello.' And we shook hands. But I remember those were my first impressions of him based on that," end quote. On one of her last visits to the dealership, Terry takes her to lunch to find out if she's interested in him. She was. She wanted to keep seeing him and perhaps go on a date. Later that week, she went over to Terry's house for drinks. Leslie Briggs 14:44 Their first real date was on a private plane to Dallas to visit Terry's friend Robert Martin. They met up with several friends and stayed at Martin's place in Dallas for the weekend. Terry paid for a limo to drive the group around town to go to some nightclubs and some restaurants. April admitted she'd never went on a date like that before, and it made her feel special. April and Terry fell for each other fast. He acted like a total gentleman during those early months. He took her to Jamaica and then on Christmas Eve of 1995, he proposed. He gave April a $25,000 engagement ring and they set the date to marry in April of 1996, just eight months after meeting for the first time. Colleen McCarty 15:22 Here's Hunter on his early memories of Terry. Hunter 15:27 He's the kind of guy that like will buy you whatever you want, you know? But I remember he bought me a little, like, tiny - tiny person guitar, like, for children with an acoustic. It was pretty cool. I didn't know how to play the guitar. But any toy I wanted, he could do that because he had the money. He just would just buy you stuff. Leslie Briggs 15:48 The couple traveled to Dallas frequently after that Christmas and to the Bahamas. However, April remembers after the engagement that things began to change. She saw big areas of incompatibility with Terry and it was ultimately her decision not to go through with the wedding. April said, quote, "I began to see unpredictable fits of anger. I went from being nothing wrong, and being on a pedestal to where he would become very critical of me and everything I did. Not always, not always just times." To April, she could see the charming, affable person that Terry could be, but also saw that he was battling himself a lot of the time. He was unpredictable, angry for no real reason. And he seemed to be looking for things to get onto her about. Colleen McCarty 16:37 During this time, April had majority custody of her son, Hunter. His father, Eric, would take him every other weekend, so April would only see Terry during those weekends when Hunter was with his dad. And, she would sometimes see Terry on weeknights, but not as often. The first time Terry hurt April was on her birthday, April 25, 1996. The month their wedding was supposed to have occurred. April remembers they were fighting verbally, but she can't remember what it was about. Then all of a sudden, Terry became enraged and he flew at her with his hands out reaching for her neck. He grabbed her throat and started squeezing. April ran from the house back home to Brookside. By the time she got there, her house one was already ringing. It was Terry. "I can't believe that happened. I'm not like that. It's your birthday. Let's start over." April accepted the apology and saw him again that night. Leslie Briggs 17:32 The next major incident that April remembers is a harrowing event that happened in Amsterdam. April and Terry were on a two-week vacation, just the two of them, for the first week in Amsterdam, and then the second week in Paris. On the second to last day in Amsterdam, April was sleeping in. Around 10am, Terry began yelling at April to get out of bed. She was not getting up fast enough for Terry. She said she began crying and saying that she couldn't do anything right. Terry had been very critical during the time that they were traveling and he was on edge. He came around to her side of the bed and he hit her with his baseball cap. And she was stunned. He pushed her down on the bed and they began having sex with her very roughly. I think it's important to talk about this incident in terms of how sexual assault was viewed in the 90s. When April testifies at trial, she speaks in terms of "I didn't say yes, but I didn't say no. I was crying the whole time. And it hurt." Terry kept going for almost five minutes until he finished, then he slammed around the hotel room and left. The rest of the trip was uneventful, but April was an emotional wreck. It was the first time anyone had ever done anything like that to her. Colleen McCarty 18:47 April and Terry have gone to an on-again, off-again status during this time. The engagement was on when they went to Rome in November of 1996. But there was no wedding date set. April kept thinking Terry would get better, that he would be the charming man she'd met just a year prior. Terry frequently got invited on trips with Tulsa-area media because of the amount of money the dealerships spent on marketing - both print and TV news. The Rome trip was one of those. They went with what was then called Great Empire broadcasting, or KVOO. Terry asked April to accompany him to Rome, and their hotel overlooked the Vatican. There hadn't been any violent incidents with Terry since the early summer, and April felt that the worst of their relationship was behind them. They traveled to Rome with Terry's parents and a few other community business owners. One of them, a car dealer from Wichita named Steve Hatchet. Once they got there, April realized that Terry had brought cocaine. Up until this period, April did not know that Terry did hard drugs. On one of the first days in Rome, Terry convinced April to try cocaine with him. She tried it and had a bad reaction. That night in the hotel room, Terry was trying to sleep. April could not sleep, due to her reaction to the drugs. They had just gotten back from a day trip to Sorento, and everyone had been drinking heavily. She just couldn't sleep. She wanted to call her son, Hunter. Terry was awoken by April on the phone and he flew into a rage. Terry told April that everyone on the trip saw how she was, that his parents thought she was rude and unbecoming. He made sure she knew everyone noticed that she didn't belong there. Terry hated that April had talked to a college friend who was on the trip about things they had in common. In fact, that friend was Michelle Hardesty. Miss Hardesty now runs the Hardesty Family Foundation in Tulsa, which focuses on efforts to provide addiction treatment. She's a major funder of 12&12, where April would later escape in 1998. Leslie Briggs 20:54 The thing is, Terry had felt excluded. And he was in a rage. Terry attacked April on the bed saying "All right, bitch, this is Italy. They don't look at wife beating the same way they do in America. I can do whatever I want to you over here." He began pouncing on her, putting his elbow in her eye socket and punching her in the sides. He twisted her arms behind her and that's when someone began pounding on the hotel room door. It was Steve Hatchet, one of the other people on the trip. April got up and ran to lock herself in the bathroom. She could hear Steve say "Terry, I know all about you. Come out and fight someone your own size." After this incident, April stayed in their room, and Terry went to stay in his father's room. They didn't see much of each other for the rest of the trip. Steve Hatchet would later testify at trial that quote, "I put my arm in between the door so he couldn't close it. He was very, very emotional. I was mad at him and he was mad at me." Hatchet told the court he could hear the sounds of someone being hit from the room next door. When April got back to the US, she attempted to file a protective order against Terry using the police report she made in Rome. She hired then-attorney Claire Egan. At this time, Claire Egan was an attorney at a major firm here in Tulsa called Hall Estill. But in the early 2000s, Claire Egan would be appointed as a federal magistrate judge. And now today, Judge Egan is a United States District Court judge for the Northern District of Oklahoma. You can see Egan's affidavit of her representation of April in the show notes, as well as what she felt went wrong at trial April calls Terry as soon as they returned from Italy. She records this phone call. Here is that recording. April Wilkens 22:11 But I don't understand what drives you to the point where, like you said, you want to strangle live and shit out of me. Terry Carlton 22:18 Well, if you're intereted I'll tell yah. When you do things that you know will piss me off, you do them on purpose. You know, to me, that's provoking somebody. You know, I took you to Europe, you know? I was in bed. We had an argument and I did the right thing. I got up and I left and I removed myself from it. April Wilkens 23:04 But you hit me as you went - Terry Carlton 23:06 Oh that was an accident I did not mean to - April Wilkens 23:08 You didn't mean to flilp me with your napkin and shove and push me aside Terry Carlton 23:13 Just tryin' to leave... So, you know, then, I'm in bed. So what do you do? Instead of trying to make the situation better by just going to bed, you know? You deliberately aggravate the situation becuase you do something that you know is going to really piss me off. And that is a wake me up call - calling Hunter and talking to Hunter knowing that you're going to keep me up when all I want to do is go to bed, April. April Wilkens 23:47 Do you not see how maybe it's a little drastic to pounce on someone and choke them and throw them out on their ass - threaten to throw them out on their ass naked? You know? I mean, does that not seem a little drastic and - and - Terry Carlton 24:01 Yes, you're right it is drastic and I admitted it. April Wilkens 24:06 I just don't understand the need for physical violence. Terry Carlton 24:09 I see. So it's okay for you to do - to pull out the stops, and do everything that you can do to piss me off but, you know, as soon as I, you know, react in the same way and pull out the stops and do the things that I can do to hurt you, what's the difference, April? You know, what's the difference? You're fucking with me, I'm fucking with you. You understand? You know, that's the big fucking lie that if, you know, it's okay to do whatever the fuck you want to but it's not okay for me to do whatever I feel like doing. I lose my temper - you lose your temper. You're mad at me. So you fuck with me. You bust my balls and you try to egg - egg - egg on the fight aggravate me. And play some good ol' head games. But, then, whenever I, just, you know, I lose my temper and I go to throw you outside the room naked - Oh that's when you started resisting but... Is one any better than the other? I mean, seems like you think it's okay to do those things. I mean, that's what you're telling me, "Oh well I suppose we all fuck with each other every once in a while but - April Wilkens 25:16 and choke me Terry Carlton 25:41 you broke the rule, you went over the - you stepped over the line. You got physical, and you're gonna have to do something" - I'm not, I'm not satified with this. Because what you're gonna do is go to a victim's group, okay, and you're all gonna sit there and tell each other how it's not your fault that this happened to you to pat each other on the back and feel sorry for each other and, you know, it's gonna be what a bastard I am. Okay? You're not gonna be any working on your own problem. If I didn't do the violence - if the violence thing, you know, was not even a factor - you would still do those things because that's your way of controlling. April Wilkens 26:19 I mean, I don't remember hearing "April, I raped you. I know that must have really upset you and I'm sorry." Or "April, I know that I, you know, slammed you against the ground and I know that must have been really dramatic for you and I'm sorry." Terry Carlton 26:35 I've said those things. I've said those things. You just want toto hear them over and over again... I'll apologize once but I'm not going to sit there and just have to apologize every fucking day in my life. You either accept the apology or you don't. Sounds to me like you don't. April Wilkens 26:53 Do you think the alcohol or the drugs or anything like that have anything to do with it? Terry Carlton 27:03 Well I'm sure that, I mean, yeah, it has something to do with it. But I don't remember taking any drugs so I don't know. But the alcohol is an inhibitor so it makes you do things that you normally wouldn't do, without seducing [inaudible]. But mainly the thing is the inhibitors allow myself - I don't know, it's a complicated thing but I think mainly these things build up. They build up, these things build up inside. You know what I'm saying? It just builds and builds till it's explosive. April Wilkens 27:38 Yeah. But when you said, you know, "Hey, this is Europe and I can do what I want to here," I just thought that was kinda scary, like, premeditated or something. Terry Carlton 27:51 Yeah. [Inaudible] It was just meant to scare you...So dramatic, you know, I just get the feeling that all this is on me and that I'm just this horrible fucking mutant that. You don't think about my feelings. Like today and tonight you haven't thought about my feelings. What about - I wasn't ready to talk about this, huh? What about my feelings? My feelings count for nothing with you and until they do all this just bullshit. So, goodbye. Leslie Briggs 28:36 For reasons we still don't understand that tape never made it into the trial. The jury never got to hear it. Colleen McCarty 28:42 During this time after they returned, Terry begins to tell April that he's suffering from severe depression and that he's suicidal. In retrospect, it looks like this was a way to keep April from going through with the protective order. April takes him to her doctor, Dr. Teter, for treatment. April is a helper. She wants to heal people. It was her chosen profession. When Terry begins to seem sick and needy, she is triggered to come take care of him. This occurs during December of 1996. We can see a pattern forming but we can also see some escalation. The pattern is very typical of domestic violence relationships. There's a honeymoon period, then an abuse incident. And then apologies and neediness. The extraordinary thing about April and Terry's relationship is how documented and witnessed it is. In most cases like this. There's no evidence to support the abuse because it was so covert. However, that is not the case with this couple. Terry Carlton 28:42 So let's jump now to Valentine's Day of 1997. Terry calls April to tell her that he has a Valentine's gift for her and at this time, they're still in an on-again, off-again phase. She stops by Terry's house with Hunter, her son, to grab the gift. The couple had been trying to work things out after Terry was getting treatment from Dr. Teter. April goes upstairs and she can tell that Terry is on the phone with his ex girlfriend Melinda Wallace. April had told Terry previously that she thinks it's rude and inconsiderate to have Melinda call him while April's at his house. She's upset about this and she turns to leave. She hears Terry drop the phone and come after her. She turns around and throws the water in her hand in his face. This whole time, they're on the second floor and Hunter is downstairs. He's about six, maybe seven, at the time. Terry charges at April, grabs her, pins her to the bedroom floor by the shoulders. She was twisting to get away and screaming and she could hear Hunter coming up the stairs towards them. April remembers being shocked by Terry's strength because he had recently been diagnosed with Guillain-Barré Syndrome, getting treatment from Dr. Tedder for this condition. Terry is spewing vile threats at April and berating her. However, when Terry hears Hunter coming up the stairs he stops and he gets up. April calls 911 from Terry's house to report the incident. And, as she's about to leave the house, the police arrive. Colleen McCarty 31:04 The summer of 1997 is chaotic. April and Terry are on and off. She learns that Terry is taking IV drugs, mostly methamphetamine. He has his housekeeper bring the drugs and leave them in a bedroom drawer where he would leave the cash. April remembers that he would sometimes spend $2,000 a day on drugs. And that's in 1998 dollars, as Lesley likes to say. Leslie Briggs 31:29 Ddjusted for inflation, that's about $3,500 today. Colleen McCarty 31:32 At this point, April gives Terry an ultimatum. It's the drugs or me. Unequivocally, Terry chooses the drugs. April's devastated, heartbroken. She cannot psychologically understand how someone could choose a drug that hurts them and ruins their life over someone that loves them. No one would believe April that Terry was using again. So several times during the summer, April steals syringes from Terry's house to show his parents or the police. She was trying to get him some help or stage some kind of intervention. These efforts go absolutely nowhere. We haven't talked much about this, but April's been running her business that she inherited from her parents, Schneider orthotics. She's struggling from the trauma and the constant issues with Terry and her business starts to go downhill. She begins to get loans from Terry and ask for his business advice. This is ultimately what pulls her back in to begin spending more time with him. Leslie Briggs 32:34 So now we're in August of 1997. And April is at one of her lowest points yet. Terry had taken a lot of pictures of April and him having sex and April in various compromising positions, pictures of her body. He was threatening her to release them if she ever left him. This was also in 1998 and, not that releasing nudes or revenge porn is in any way acceptable today, but the concept of nudes and the concept of ownership over your body and having naked pictures of yourself, I think that dynamic is, at least I would argue, starting to change a little bit in society. It's really not the case in 1998. I mean, this would absolutely positively ruin her. Perhaps that's still true today, but it's just different in 1998. You don't have the same sense of I can take this photo, delete this photo, share it with whoever I want. After wondering for so long what Terry found in the drug, she agrees to use methamphetamine with him for the first time. After they used, Terry left the house and April was staying with him. When he comes home, he flies into a rage, yelling in April that she had stolen one of his guitar necks. Terry was a guitar collector and he liked to rebuild vintage guitars. This was a very rare guitar neck that he was screaming at April about having stolen. Now April was actually supposed to leave Terry's house to go pick up Hunter for her weekend with him. Instead, Terry held her in his house at gunpoint all weekend. He told her if she produced the guitar neck, she would just get a beating. But if she didn't produce it, he was going to kill her. Throughout the weekend he raped, her beat her, and continued to just spin out about this guitar neck. Colleen McCarty 34:11 He told her he wanted to be compensated. So he forced her to write a $7,000 check. That's money she didn't have. Later in the week, his housekeeper finds the guitar neck. Terry ended up allowing April to stop payment on the check and the check was not introduced at trial. The craziest thing about this altercation is that Terry called the police on April for stealing. When the police arrived, she reported to them that he had been holding her hostage with a Glock pistol and had raped her all weekend. The police told her she wasn't making sense and she needed to go home. She said she didn't feel safe at home. And the officers told her that it's not their job to babysit her. Leslie Briggs 35:12 So this episode has taken us from April's childhood in Kellyville all the way up to August of 1997. To date, Terry had raped and beaten April on several occasions with no formative police action and no consequences. We see Terry's violence escalate and escalate as he's not held accountable again and again. He begins to become obsessed with April. And the thought that he's above the law next week on panic button, we'll talk about the incident that causes Terry to fall over the edge into extreme violence, stalking, compulsive breaking and entering and the incident that precipitates the four months leading up to the shooting. Colleen McCarty 35:50 Panic Button is a co-production of Oklahoma Appleseed Center for Law injustice and Leslie Briggs. We're your hosts Colleen McCarty. Leslie Briggs 36:01 and Leslie Briggs. Colleen McCarty 36:02 Our theme music is velvet rope by GYOM. The production team is Leslie Briggs and Rusty Rowe. We recorded at Bison and Bean Studio in Tulsa. Special thanks to Lynn Worley, Amanda Ross, and Ashlyn Faulkner for their work on this case. 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65, Thank God for Jesus Christ Thank God for Jesus Christ. Those were Deborah Ann Mays' last words. Her daughter, Andrea Powell, will never forget hearing her mother speak those words. Andrea shares those memories with us, along with the everlasting impression that Deborah Ann left on the earth and those that knew her. Andrea grew up being the only girl amongst her brothers, so the bond between mother and daughter was close. Andrea's parents never divorced, but eventually her father left their family after years of adversity. Andrea shares about Edward, also known as "Black Rambo" in the neighborhood. Andrea discusses life with her dad, along with the lessons she learned from him. And we can't forget the ever important saying from grandfather JP! Andrea is a leader in her church, and enjoys using her spare time to hold a Prayer Boot Camp for those interested in increasing their praying habits. Andrea has also written a daily devotional and is the host of her own podcast, We Are Not So Different. Podcast Spotlight We Are Not So Different "This podcast will draw and unite people from different walks of life by highlighting the similarities in the sum total of our life experiences as opposed to pointing out the glaring differences that often separate us." Instagram: @wearenotsodifferent_ @mays2powell Website: https://www.wearenotsodifferent.com/ Daily Devotions from the Heart of an Encourager by Andrea Powell is available here: https://www.amazon.com/Daily-Devotions-Encourager-Andrea-Powell-ebook/dp/B087JFHSNH/ref=sr_1_2?crid=1AX4739CO6AUW&keywords=daily+devotional+andrea+powell&qid=1655169232&sprefix=daily+devotion+andrea+powell%2Caps%2C116&sr=8-2 If you'd like to donate to Tim Harris' project of providing free therapy to at least one person for one year, please visit www.grievingisbreathing.com/donate Instagram: @grievingisbreathing Website: www.grievingisbreathing.com This is a Back Home Media production, recorded and produced in Phoenix, AZ. Additional production and music by Ian Releford. Music by Colen Lococo and The Revolving Birds. Like what you hear? Helped by what you heard? Have something to share? https://www.patreon.com/parentlesspodcast Email: email@example.com Instagram: @parentlesspodcast Voicemail: 623.396.6069 You are not alone.
65, Thank God for Jesus Christ Thank God for Jesus Christ. Those were Deborah Ann Mays' last words. Her daughter, Andrea Powell, will never forget hearing her mother speak those words. Andrea shares those memories with us, along with the everlasting impression that Deborah Ann left on the earth and those that knew her. Andrea grew up being the only girl amongst her brothers, so the bond between mother and daughter was close. Andrea's parents divorced, and Andrea shares about her father, Edward, also known as "Black Rambo." Andrea discusses the adversity that occurred and the lessons she learned from her father. And we can't forget the ever important lesson from grandfather JP! Andrea is a leader in her church, and enjoys using her spare time to hold a Prayer Boot Camp for those interested in increasing their praying habits. Andrea has also written a daily devotional and is the host of her own podcast, We Are Not So Different. Podcast SpotlightWe Are Not So Different"This podcast will draw and unite people from different walks of life by highlighting the similarities in the sum total of our life experiences as opposed to pointing out the glaring differences that often separate us."Instagram: @wearenotsodifferent_ @mays2powellWebsite: https://www.wearenotsodifferent.com/Daily Devotions from the Heart of an Encourager by Andrea Powell is available here: https://www.amazon.com/Daily-Devotions-Encourager-Andrea-Powell-ebook/dp/B087JFHSNH/ref=sr_1_2?crid=1AX4739CO6AUW&keywords=daily+devotional+andrea+powell&qid=1655169232&sprefix=daily+devotion+andrea+powell%2Caps%2C116&sr=8-2 If you'd like to donate to Tim Harris' project of providing free therapy to at least one person for one year, please visit www.grievingisbreathing.com/donateInstagram: @grievingisbreathing Website: www.grievingisbreathing.com This is a Back Home Media production, recorded and produced in Phoenix, AZ.Additional production and music by Ian Releford. Music by Colen Lococo and The Revolving Birds.Like what you hear? Helped by what you heard? Have something to share? https://www.patreon.com/parentlesspodcastEmail: firstname.lastname@example.orgInstagram: @parentlesspodcastVoicemail: 623.396.6069You are not alone.
64, Grieving Is Breathing If you've listened to more than one episode in the last several months, you have heard me talking about Tim and his great idea. You know. The one where he wants to raise enough money to help put at least one person through therapy for one year. That's right. We have arrived. It's time for you to meet Tim Harris. Generally I have a lot of words to insert here, but Tim tells it best as he shares about his beautiful mama, Darlene. Tim's Recommendations: Instagram: @girl.grief and @dosgriefsupport If you'd like to donate to Tim Harris' project of providing free therapy to at least one person for one year, please visit www.grievingisbreathing.com/donate Instagram: @grievingisbreathing Website: www.grievingisbreathing.com This is a Back Home Media production, recorded and produced in Phoenix, AZ. Additional production and music by Ian Releford. Music by Colen Lococo and The Revolving Birds. Like what you hear? Helped by what you heard? Have something to share? https://www.patreon.com/parentlesspodcast Email: email@example.com Instagram: @parentlesspodcast Voicemail: 623.396.6069 You are not alone.
64, Grieving Is Breathing If you've listened to more than one episode in the last several months, you have heard me talking about Tim and his great idea. You know. The one where he wants to raise enough money to help put at least one person through therapy for one year. That's right. We have arrived. It's time for you to meet Tim Harris. Generally I have a lot of words to insert here, but Tim tells it best as he shares about his beautiful mama, Darlene. Tim's Recommendations: Instagram: @girl.grief and @dosgriefsupport If you'd like to donate to Tim Harris' project of providing free therapy to at least one person for one year, please visit www.grievingisbreathing.com/donateInstagram: @grievingisbreathing Website: www.grievingisbreathing.com This is a Back Home Media production, recorded and produced in Phoenix, AZ.Additional production and music by Ian Releford. Music by Colen Lococo and The Revolving Birds.Like what you hear? Helped by what you heard? Have something to share? https://www.patreon.com/parentlesspodcastEmail: firstname.lastname@example.orgInstagram: @parentlesspodcastVoicemail: 623.396.6069You are not alone.
63, Patience Is a Virtue Kyndra Crump often finds herself making jokes - she's more of the laugh instead of cry type. She comes to us from Atlanta. She has worked on building herself as a comedian and she hosts The Kyndra Crump Show. Kyndra is currently earning her PhD in Child Psychology. Kyndra and her father, Trupiedo Crump, did not always have a smooth relationship, and Kyndra has not had a chance to grieve the loss of her father at this point, 4.5 years after his death. She had to learn to forgive him while he was alive, but is waiting for the grief to hit her, when/if that may occur. Kyndra's advice: This is how I get through day to day: I stay prayed up, I do my yoga, I think of happy thoughts. Drink water, eat vegetables, get some sleep. Kyndra's Recommendations: The BibleThe Kyndra Crump Show Instagram: @thekyndracrumpshowYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCcfWwPo89i3frdSOsTV-jUQThis show was recorded in January 2022 and released on 5.17.22 - Kyndra's birthday. Every year, she celebrates this day just six days after her late father's birthday. If you'd like to donate to Tim Harris' project of providing free therapy to at least one person for one year, please visit www.grievingisbreath.com/donateThis is a Back Home Media production, recorded and produced in Phoenix, AZ.Additional production and music by Ian Releford. Music by Colen Lococo and The Revolving Birds.Like what you hear? Helped by what you heard? Have something to share? https://www.patreon.com/parentlesspodcastEmail: email@example.comInstagram: @parentlesspodcastVoicemail: 623.396.6069You are not alone.
Amy Deem, who has spent the previous 31 seasons coaching the Hurricanes, is the Director of Track and Field/Cross Country at the University of Miami. Deem was promoted to her current position in 2008 after serving as the head women's coach since June 1990. At the time of her promotion, she became just the sixth woman to oversee both the men's and women's track and cross country programs at a Division I school. In her 29th year with the Canes, Deem coached the women's team to a second-place finish in the ACC indoor Championships, featuring Debbie Ajagbe who won both the women's weight throw and shot put to earn ACC Field MVP honors. It's the second time in two years Miami earned the award. Freshman Jacious Sears earned 14 points for the Canes in her first ever conference meet finishing second in the 60 and third in the 200. The Canes sent three women to the 60m finals, and three to the shot put finals, which scored 21 points. Deem coached Miami's 17th national track and field champion as Michelle Atherley claimed the NCAA Indoor Pentathlon title with a program record and ACC record point total at 4,547. Miami earned its fourth title in four years at the ACC Indoor Championships, with the likes of Brittny Ellis, Kayla Johnson, Debbie Ajagbe, Selina Dantzler, Tiara McMinn and the 4×400 all taking the podium. Atherely was also named ACC Field MVP of the Indoor Championships. Later in the season, Atherley went on to defend her outdoor ACC heptathlon title and finished third at Nationals in the event. Debbie Ajagbe, Tiara McMinn, the 4×400, Kevin Arreaga, Raheem Chambers, Samantha Gonzalez all made their way to Nationals for the outdoor season to close out yet another successful track campaign under Deem. Deem guided a youthful team to the 2018 ACC Women's Outdoor Championship, Miami's first since 2006. This was the third conference title in three years after claiming the Indoor Championship in both 2016 and 2017. She was named the 2018 ACC Women's Outdoor Track and Field Coach of the year for the third time, her seventh overall ACC coaching honor. Under Deem's guidance, Symone Mason was named the 2018 ACC Women's Track MVP, while Michelle Atherley was named the ACC Women's Field MVP for 2018. The pair won six of Miami's seven individual events conference titles at the 2018 ACC Outdoor Championships. Miami totaled 11 total medals at the Outdoor Championships: seven gold, one silver and three bronze. The Canes also picked up 21 All-ACC awards, including 17 spots on the All-ACC first team and saw eight Canes make their way to the NCAA Outdoor Track and Field Championships. The Canes women were ranked as high as No. 15 nationally during the season and earned nine USTFCCCA All-American honors. The Indoor season also produced 12 different student-athletes earning 13 All-ACC honors. Atherley finished sixth at the NCAA Indoor Championship in the pentathlon and was named a first team All American. The indoor season saw Kayla Johnson break the Top 5 list in UM history in both the 600 meters and 800 meters, while Anne den Otter broke Latrice Shaw's 1000m time set in 1998. Amy Taintor finished her final season with the Canes' third-best Pentathlon finish with 3,967 points. The 2016 track and field season was monumental in Hurricanes history, as the Miami women won their third ACC Indoor Championship. Deem was named ACC Coach of the Year and USTFCCCA Regional Coach of the Year for the 2016 indoor season. The Canes had six women qualify for the 2016 NCAA Indoor Championships, with Alysha Newman and Dakota Dailey-Harris earning First Team All-America honors and four other Canes being named to the second team. Shakima Wimbley was named ACC Women's Indoor Track Most Outstanding Performer after winning the 200m, 400m and 4x400m at the ACC Indoor Championships. Dailey-Harris was one of several ACC Champions during the indoor season, winning the high jump title. She was joined by Wimbley (200m and 400m) and the 4x400m relay team of Wimbley, Aiyanna Stiverne, Brittny Ellis and Destiny Washington. There was more success outdoors for Miami's women, as they finished second at the ACC Outdoor Championships, securing a top three finish for the third consecutive year. Wimbley was named ACC Women's Outdoor Track MVP after winning the 200m, 400m, 4x100m and 4x400m conference titles. She was joined by Stiverne, Ebony Morrison and Carolyn Brown on the 4x100m, and Stiverne, Washington and Ellis on the 4x400m. Newman was the ACC women's pole vault champion for the 2016 outdoor season. Fourteen women qualified for the NCAA East Preliminary, with 11 advancing to the NCAA Outdoor Championships. Newman was the national runner-up in the pole vault, while Wimbley finished third in the 400m. The women's 4x400m relay placed seventh to round out Miami's First Team All-America performers. Miami earned three First Team All-America honors, four Second Team All-America honors and one All-America honorable mention after its performance at the NCAA Outdoor Championships. Miami's men also had a stellar 2016 season, scoring the most points at both the ACC Indoor and Outdoor Championships since joining the conference in 2004-05. Freshman Andreas Christodoulou won the men's decathlon at the ACC Outdoor Championships. Carlos Mangum qualified for the NCAA Indoor Championships in the weight throw. The ACC runner-up in the weight throw placed 14th, earning Second Team All-America honors. The Hurricanes had three men qualify for the NCAA Outdoor Championships: Isaiah Simmons and Gian Piero Ragonesi in the shot put and John-Patrick Friday in the triple jump. Ragonesi and Friday earned Second Team All-America honors. Six men competed at the NCAA East Preliminary: Simmons, Ragonesi, Friday, Mangum, Jaalen Jones and Henri Delauze. In 2015, Deem's Hurricanes thrived as Miami had 19 student-athletes competed at the NCAA East Preliminary and 11 advanced to the NCAA Outdoor Championships, while seven Canes qualified for the NCAA Indoor Championships. In recognition of Miami's success in 2015, Deem was named the USTFCCCA South Region Women's Head Coach of the Year. The Hurricane women had an impressive showing in 2015, led by two-time First Team Outdoor All-American Shakima Wimbley. The sophomore, who ran the fastest 400m time in the NCAA in 2015, was named USTFCCCA South Region Women's Track Athlete of the Year. Wimbley also earned First Team All-America honors with the 4x400m relay. Wimbley was named the ACC Women's Outdoor Track MVP after an outstanding showing at the ACC Championships. The sophomore won the 200m and 400m individual titles and set ACC records in both events, while helping the 4x400m relay place third. The stellar sophomore also was a star during the indoor season, qualifying for nationals in the 400m and as a member of the 4x400m relay. She also set an ACC Championship records in the 200m, running a time of 23.08 seconds to win gold. Hurdler Kelsey Balkwill also qualified for the NCAA Outdoor Championships, placing ninth in the women's 400m hurdles to earn Second Team All-America honors. Pole vaulter Alysha Newman, thrower Precious Ogunleye and the women's 4x400m relay rounded out Miami's competitors at the NCAA Outdoor Championships. The women's team also had a stellar showing at the ACC Outdoor Championships, placing third with 93 points. In addition to Wimbley's outstanding showing at the conference meet, Precious Ogunleye earned an ACC title in the women's hammer. On the men's side, Artie Burns and Christian Cook qualified for the NCAA Outdoor Championships in the 110m hurdles, while John-Patrick Friday represented Miami in the triple jump. Cook ran a personal-best 13.78 at the NCAA Outdoor Championships and was the ACC Indoor Champion in the men's 60m hurdles, earning First Team All-ACC honors. Burns earned a silver medal at the ACC Outdoor Championships in the men's 110m hurdles, running a time of 13.70 seconds that ranks third in school history. The standout hurdler earned First Team All-ACC honors, while Cook was named to the second team after placing fourth in the 110m hurdles and scoring in the 400m hurdles. Sprinters Henri Delauze, Jaalen Jones and Josh Johnson all scored at the ACC Indoor Championships, while the men's 4x400m relay scored at both the indoor and outdoor conference meets. The men's 4x100m relay of Burns, Cook, Johnson and Robert Grant earned a bronze medal at the ACC Outdoor Championships. The 2014 season was filled with success for the Canes as Miami had 20 student-athletes compete at the NCAA East Preliminary and 10 advance to the NCAA Outdoor Championships, while five Hurricanes represented UM at the NCAA Indoor Championships. The Canes won six ACC outdoor individual titles and picked up another six individual championships at the ACC Indoor Championships. Ten student-athletes earned All-ACC honors in 13 outdoor events, while 11 were named All-ACC during the indoor season. Alysha Newman was a two-time All-America, first team honoree. The pole vaulter earned her spot among the best in the country after finishing fifth at the NCAA Indoor Championships and seventh at the NCAA Outdoor Championships. Other notable performers in 2014 include Shakima Wimbley, who was named the ACC Freshman of the Year for both the indoor and outdoor seasons, and Isaiah Simmons, who claimed his second straight Field MVP at the ACC Outdoor Championships. In 2013, Miami had 13 different student-athletes qualify for the 2013 NCAA Division I Men's and Women's Outdoor Track and Field Preliminary Championships. On the women's side, Samantha Williams (triple jump) and Amber Monroe (discus) qualified for the NCAA East Preliminary for the second consecutive year. Alyssa McClure (100m), Alaine Tate (800m), Taneisha Cordell (800m), Lea Johnson (hammer) and the women's 4×100 relay team of McClure, Jokira Jiles, Jasmyne King and Kelsey Balkwill also qualified for the NCAA East Preliminary. The men had four student-athletes qualify in six events. Isaiah Simmons (shot put and discus), Christian Cook (110m hurdles and 400m hurdles), Timothy Richardson (long jump) and John-Patrick Friday (triple jump) combined to form the largest group of males to qualify for an NCAA Regional in program history. Prior to the 2013 track and field season, Deem helped guide the women's track and field team to one of the most dominating performances in USA Olympic track and field history. The team won 14 medals, including six gold, four silver and four bronze. Overall, she was part of Team USA who won more medals and gold medals than any other nation at the Games. Three of her former athletes – Murielle Ahoure, T'erea Brown and Lauryn Williams – competed in the Games. Ahoure (100m, 200m) and Brown (400m hurdles) reached the finals of their events, while Williams earned gold as part of the 4x100m relay pool. In June 2012, Thandi Stewart (400m hurdles) and Samantha Williams (triple jump) both earned All-America status at the NCAA Championships under the direction of the veteran mentor. It was the 21st season in a row in which one of her student-athletes received All-America honors. Deem, elected to the UM Sports Hall of Fame in 2006, has been responsible for building the women's track and field program from very modest beginnings into an NCAA powerhouse. Prior to her being named head coach in 1990, the Hurricanes had never had an athlete record an NCAA qualifying mark. Since then, Deem has guided 57 student-athletes to a combined 173 First Team All-America honors and 14 national championships. Behind Deem, Miami proved its national dominance in the hurdle events in 2010. At the NCAA Outdoor National Championships the Hurricanes became the first program in history to have three women compete in a 400m hurdle championship race. T'erea Brown placed second, while twin sisters Tameka and Takecia Jameson placed third and eighth, respectively. Each woman earned All-America accolades. As a team, the Miami women finished the championship in 11th-place – the highest result for UM since a seventh-place outcome in 2006. Brown earned a total of three All-America distinctions on the year – increasing her career total to five – with her runner-up performance in the 100m hurdles and a third-place showing in the 60m hurdles at the NCAA Indoor Championships. Brown also did something that no student-athlete had ever done at Miami. She became the first to win a U.S. Championship when she won the 400m hurdles in 54.84 seconds on June 27, 2010. Tameka Jameson also competed in the race – placing fifth. The 2009 track season brought a total of six individual All-America honors and an indoor national title. Sprinter Murielle Ahoure came to Miami for her senior season to train under Deem and was rewarded greatly for her decision. Under Deem, Ahoure raced to the Indoor 200-meter National Championships and earned All-America honors in the indoor 60-meter dash and the outdoor 100 and 200-meter dashes. In addition Ahoure broke UM legend, Lauryn Williams' indoor 60-meter dash record, was a four-time ACC Champion and earned the ACC's Indoor Track Performer of the Year Award. As in years past, the Hurricanes hurdlers had a stellar season under Deem's direction. Sophomores Takecia Jameson and T'erea Brown advanced to the finals of the 400-meter hurdles, with Brown crossing the finish line as the national runner-up. In her first season at the helm of the men's program in 2009, Deem saw Mikese Morse claim All-American status in the indoor long jump with his fifth-place finish at the national championships. Also, junior Cory Nelms (indoor 60-meter hurdles) was the first male track athlete to claim an ACC Title that wasn't named Tim Harris since Lance Leggett in the 400-meter hurdles in 2006. In 2008, Deem saw Krista Simkins win a NCAA National Title in the indoor 400-meters. Also, during the indoor season, Viktoria Andonova took home All-American honors as she tied for ninth in the high jump at the Indoor NCAA National Championships. During the outdoor season, freshmen hurdlers, Takecia Jameson and T'erea Brown finished third and eighth respectively to earn All-American accolades in the 400-meter hurdles. In July of 2008, Jameson ran for the United States in the Junior World Championships in Poland, where she claimed two world titles, in the 400-meter hurdles and the 4×100-relay. The Hurricanes have had at least one student-athlete earn All-America honors in each of her 21 seasons and are perennial contenders for conference championships and top-10 national finishes. In Miami's first two seasons in the ACC (2004-05 and 2005-06), Deem led the Hurricanes to consecutive indoor and outdoor conference titles. In addition, she was honored as the league's indoor and outdoor Coach of the Year both seasons. Miami finished tied for fifth at the 2006 NCAA Indoor Track and Field Championships marking the program's second consecutive top five finish while the team placed seventh at the NCAA Outdoor Championships marking the highest outdoor finish in school history. The 2005 season saw Miami reach unprecedented heights. The Hurricanes finished a program-best third at the 2005 NCAA Indoor Championships, which included a school-record 12 All-America honors. Miami finished ninth at the 2005 NCAA Outdoor Championships, also the highest finish at the time in school history, notching another 14 All-America honors. The Hurricanes placed second at the 2005 NCAA East Regional Championships marking the highest finish and most points scored (81) in the program's history. In 2004, the Hurricanes concluded their final season of BIG EAST competition by posting one of the best seasons in school history. Miami recorded 17 All-America honors, won both the BIG EAST Indoor and Outdoor Championships for the second consecutive season, including the school's sixth BIG EAST Outdoor Championship, and placed 10th at both the NCAA Indoor Championships and NCAA Outdoor Championships. That season, Miami recorded 12 All-America honors at the NCAA Outdoor Championships including Lauryn Williams' NCAA National Championship in the 100-meters. Williams posted a winning time of 10.97 seconds, the fifth-fastest time in NCAA history. In three seasons under Deem, Williams developed into one the top sprinters in the world. For most of 2004, Williams had the top time in the world in both the 100-meter and 200-meters. She went on to win a silver medal in the 100-meters at the Olympic Games in Athens, and at just 20 years of age became the youngest sprinter in 32 years to medal in the event. Williams competed in the 2008 Beijing Olympics and continues to train under Deem. In 2005 Williams captured the gold medal in the 100-meters and also anchored the USA 4×100-meter relay to the gold medal at the IAAF World Championships in Helsinki, Finland. During Deem's tenure the Hurricanes developed into the premier track and field program in the BIG EAST winning a combined 79 BIG EAST individual and relay titles. Miami's team title at the 2004 BIG EAST Outdoor Championship marked the fourth consecutive for Deem's Hurricanes making UM the only program in BIG EAST history to win four straight outdoor team titles. Under Deem the Hurricanes have become a fixture at the NCAA Championships scoring at 14 of 15 NCAA Indoor and Outdoor Track and Field Championships since 1992. Both in the state of Florida and around the nation Deem is recognized as one of the best developers of talent in the coaching ranks. Deem, who served as President of the United States Track Coaches Association from 2003-05, has won numerous coaching awards and been appointed to various national coaching positions. In 2007, she served as the Head Coach of the United States team at the World Championships in Osaka, Japan where the Americans won the 4×100 and 4×400-meter relays Deem has been honored four times as the USTCA South District Coach of the Year (2001, 2002, 2004, 2005), and in 1998 was named the USA Track and Field Florida Coach of the Year. In 2002 she was honored as the United States Olympic Committee Developmental Coach of the Year for Track and Field. In addition, Deem served three seasons (1998-2000) as the Event Coordinator for Sprints and Hurdles for the USA Track and Field Coaches Education Program, and in 2001 served as head coach of the USATF Junior National team that competed in England and Scotland. In the summer of 2003, Deem served as the Explosive Events Coach (sprints and hurdles) for the United States at the Pan American games in Santo Domingo, Dominican Republic guiding Lauryn Williams to the gold medal in the 100-meters. In addition the United States swept the gold medals in the 4×100-meter relay and 4×400-meter relay for the first time since 1987. In 2002 Deem guided Williams to the gold medal at the World Junior Championships in Kingston, Jamaica. In addition to Williams, Deem has coached numerous other top sprinters and hurdlers including five-time NCAA Champion Gillian Russell, 1999 NCAA Champion Yolanda McCray, two-time Olympian Patrina Allen, and Debbie Ferguson, a two-time Olympic medalist. Russell, who competed for the Hurricanes from 1992-95, won the NCAA National Indoor title in the 55-meter hurdles in 1992 and 1995, as well as the NCAA 100-meter hurdle championship in 1993, 1994 and 1995. Russell is a two-time Olympian having competed for Jamaica in 1992 and 1996. Russell was ranked among the World's top-10 in the 100-meter hurdles from 1995-1998 reaching a career-best ranking of sixth in 1998. McCray, a six-time All-American, won the 100-meter hurdles at the 1999 NCAA Championship and, in 1997 and in 1999 was ranked as high as sixth in the United States in the event. Allen, a teammate of McCray, was also a six-time All-American. She competed for Jamaica at the 2000 and 2004 Olympic Games in the 400-meter hurdles. In 2002, Deem began coaching Bahamian sprinter Debbie Ferguson. Ferguson went on to post one of the best seasons of her career winning gold medals in the 100-meters, 200-meters and 4×100-meter relay at the 2002 Commonwealth Games, setting meet records in all three events. She went on to win championships in the 200-meters and 4×100-meter relay at the 2002 World Cup, and ended the season ranked second in the world in the 200-meters and fifth in the world in the 100-meters. At the 2004 Olympic Games in Athens, Ferguson captured the bronze medal in the 200-meters and reached the final of the 100-meters where she placed seventh. She competed in the 200-meter event at the 2008 Olympics and again be coached by Deem. Originally from Parkersburg, West Virginia, Deem first came to Miami in 1988 as an intern in the Compliance Department to complete her degree at Ohio University. While fulfilling her internship she simultaneously served as assistant track coach. In what could be termed as perfect timing, in the Spring of 1990, Deem decided to stay in the Miami area and the head women's track coach position opened up. Deem, who is a Level III coach and instructor as certified by USA Track and Field, was hired as the head women's track coach on June 26, 1990.
63, Patience Is a Virtue Kyndra Crump often finds herself making jokes - she's more of the laugh instead of cry type. She comes to us from Atlanta. She has worked on building herself as a comedian and she hosts The Kyndra Crump Show. Kyndra is currently earning her PhD in Child Psychology. Kyndra and her father, Trupiedo Crump, did not always have a smooth relationship, and Kyndra has not had a chance to grieve the loss of her father at this point, 4.5 years after his death. She had to learn to forgive him while he was alive, but is waiting for the grief to hit her, when/if that may occur. Kyndra's advice: This is how I get through day to day: I stay prayed up, I do my yoga, I think of happy thoughts. Drink water, eat vegetables, get some sleep. Kyndra's Recommendations: The Bible The Kyndra Crump Show Instagram: @thekyndracrumpshow YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCcfWwPo89i3frdSOsTV-jUQ This show was recorded in January 2022 and released on 5.17.22 - Kyndra's birthday. Every year, she celebrates this day just six days after her late father's birthday. If you'd like to donate to Tim Harris' project of providing free therapy to at least one person for one year, please visit www.grievingisbreath.com/donate This is a Back Home Media production, recorded and produced in Phoenix, AZ. Additional production and music by Ian Releford. Music by Colen Lococo and The Revolving Birds. Like what you hear? Helped by what you heard? Have something to share? https://www.patreon.com/parentlesspodcast Email: firstname.lastname@example.org Instagram: @parentlesspodcast Voicemail: 623.396.6069 You are not alone.
One of the best consistent sources of real estate leads is your centers of influence and past client list. On today's podcast, Tim and Julie Harris will help you to create and expand your centers of influence and past client list so that it will become a consistent incredibly profitable source of REFERRAL FEE FREE real estate leads. Remember, it is incredibly important that you understand the most powerful form of contacting someone is PROACTIVELY. Proactive communication: - Video call. - A phone call. - Face to face. Passive Communication: - SMS/ Text. - Email. - Drip campaigns. - Watch only videos. etc. Tip: Most people will deprioritize passive digital communication in favor of face-to-face or direct calls. Think about your own behavior, you chat with someone at the gym you remember that conversation....our brains are hard-wired towards person to person, face to face, voice to voice communication. Tip: You can reinforce proactive communication with passive but you can't replace proactive communication with passive. Step #1: Be of service Inflation, interest rates, war, and fear-filled media seem to be everywhere. Most people don't know how to emotionally filter fear from their mindsets. Your mission is to contact your centers of influence and past with energy and enthusiasm and give them great news about the value of their home. Hint: Using this script will result in a very high level of appreciation directed towards you. Your call to them sharing with them the value of their home could be the best news they have heard in a long time. Mentally and emotionally prepare yourself for their appreciation and not rejection. "Hi, this is Tim Harris with EXP Realty....so listen, I am getting a ton of folks expressing concerns, and fears about the economy and housing market. I am calling all of my friends, family...people I know, love and care for....to give them the real bottom-line update of their home's value so they don't have to worry....I have this month's update for you now!.....oh, and the best part is that it's all great news!" Next, give them an update. You can simply give them the average year-over-year appreciation rate. "Mr. Owner, in the last 12 months homes in your market have increased by 20%! WOW, congratulations. Would you like me to do a personalized drill down on the value of your home in this market, I can email it to you later today..." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
62, Clemmie and the Octopus of Grief December in Thailand. Christmas. Family and friends brought together for a holiday at the beach. The last Christmas before everything would change unexpectedly the next day. Clemmie Clough, 31, recalls her mother saying, "remember to take the cushions inside," when they saw something strange happening with the sea. Clemmie was 13. She was swept away, along with her mother, sister, and others who were with them. Clemmie shares where she is now in her grief journey. She also tells us about the present that everyone gets when their person leaves this earth. A present that must be cared for, or it can make your life a mess. Clemmie's advice: It's really shit some days and some days it's less shit. It does get better. Keep talking to your friends because they're there to help you. Podcast Spotlight: How Is Today? Hosted by Clemmie & Alby, the "How Is Today?" podcast shows you how to break the silence around grief, one curious question at a time.Each episode, they're joined by an expert in their field with real grief experience, to help show us how to have a good conversation about grief (season 1 guests are Sir Andrew Strauss, Dr Leyla Hussein, Zak Williams, Nathalie Clough and Benj Pasek).Hosted by Alby Shale and Clemmie Clough and recorded by Message Heard. Follow the show and keep up with the community on Twitter and Instagram, and listen on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. The above information can be found on the website, listed below.website: https://www.howistoday.com/Instagram: @how.is.todayTwitter: @how_is_todaylinktr.ee/howistodayIf you'd like to donate to Tim Harris' project of providing free therapy to at least one person for one year, please visit www.grievingisbreath.com/donateThis is a Back Home Media production, recorded and produced in Phoenix, AZ.Additional production and music by Ian Releford. Music by Colen Lococo and The Revolving Birds.Like what you hear? Helped by what you heard? Have something to share? https://www.patreon.com/parentlesspodcastEmail: email@example.comInstagram: @parentlesspodcastVoicemail: 623.396.6069You are not alone.
On this episode of the Real Estate Fight Club Podcast, Jenn and Monica are going to talk to Tim Harris. Many might know him from Real Estate training and Coaching School Podcasts and his wildly popular book Harris Rules. They discuss how to be successful in business in general and in real estate, there are many rules to be successful, and there are all some rules that Tim Harris narrowed down to simple steps in his book. Tune in for the best ones! Episode Highlights: 95% of all transactions in 60 months are going to be done by agents or people who do not yet have real estate licenses. There has always been a high failure rate in any business, and 24 months is the average amount of time that any business, according to SBA, stays in business. Tim and his wife knew each other in high school, and they have been married for 31 years. They bought their first investment property when they were right out of college. One of the things Tim has learned is that very few people are willing to do what they don't want to do when they don't want to do it at the highest level. Very few people are willing to learn the necessary skills, and very few are willing to stay the course even when they don't have passion. Most people have an impossible time seeing what their future selves will be like, and that is the reason that the average American only has $400 saved or something like that. In the third year of their business, Julie and Tim hired a buyer's agent, and they started doing some marketing and branding. Tim quickly realized that he needed to stay on the path where they are going to be able to have enough income coming from passive income sources because they can't be transactional for their entire lives. It's almost impossible for rates to go up meaningfully. So, for agents to be having any over-emotional reaction to rates is unfounded. The demographics are so strong for home buying and transacting right now, and it's never been like this in history before. If you start thinking about the negative, you start having negative headlines swimming around your head, and you are going to stop. You are going to manifest negatively in your life. Reputation is something you earn, and a brand is something that people will tell you, and you can buy, so you will have a reputation. 3 Key Points: Tim shares his top one or two mistakes that he had made as he fumbled through his early years. The average cost to build a new home has gone up 30% and is increasing. Your passive income goal should be to have enough money coming in every month that covers all your personal overhead. Tweetable Quotes: “When you profit from your real estate business by what you did and then invest it in something as simple as the S&P 500 index fund from Vanguard, it will double every seven or eight years.” - Tim “The branding and marketing stuff that everyone frankly was wasting a lot of money on was started back in the 90s.” – Tim “All our goals should be to help as many people to buy homes as possible because real estate is consistently the best wealth creator, at least in the past many years.” – Tim “We also have to not allow agents to point at everything in the market as to why they're not having success because the market doesn't dictate our success. It just dictates the strategy.” – Monica “You can spend as much money as you want to fool the world into thinking that you're successful, but you're not in reality.” - Tim Resources Mentioned: Jenn Murtland LinkedIn | Facebook | (513) 400-1691 | Website | Instagram https://jennifermurtland.com/Vault/ Monica Weakley website | LinkedIn | Facebook Real Estate Fight Club Podcast Facebook page | Instagram | YouTube Tim Harris 512-758-0206 | Instagram | Podcast Thank You To Our Incredible Sponsor Partners (Get Great Discounts with these links) Coach John Kitchens - Go To trial.coachcode.com and put Coach Code sponsor FightClub Ghostpostr - https://www.ghostpostr.com/ (Get It For FREE!) Cyberbacker - https://cyberbacker.com/ (Get a FREE gift by simply saying you heard it on Real Estate Fight Club) Pipeline Pro Tools - https://pipelineprotools.com/fightclub/
61, Homicide Loss - LVM ADVNTGE Don't let the LOSS take over your MIND, use it to your ADVNTGE.Rebecca Benny was 17 and in high school the day she had to gather her friends and tell them her mom had been killed. She was closer to her father than her mother at the time, and she has been left with the task of figuring out her complicated relationship with her mother now as a motherless daughter. Besides gathering her friends that day to tell them the news, it wasn't typical of Rebecca to speak about her mother, Luz V Minda. Today she's 24 and has started a podcast in order to voice her own story and to be a voice for others experiencing homicide grief. Join Rebecca in her very first episodes and travel with her on her literal journey from the dark to the light. Rebecca began sharing her story from a couch in a dark room. 13 episodes later, she has started to show her face and has just released her first True Survivor Series sharing other homicide loss survivor's stories.Rebecca's Advice: That guilt should be on the person that committed the crime. Not us, because we didn't do anything wrong. It is important to keep their name going. Don't stop talking about them. Book Recommendation: Healing Your Traumatized Heart: 100 Practical Ideas After Someone You Love Dies a Sudden, Violent Death (Healing a Grieving Heart series) by Alan D Wolfelthttps://www.amazon.com/Healing-Your-Traumatized-Heart-Practical/dp/1879651327Podcast Spotlight: LVM Podcast - LMV ADVNTGEJoin Rebecca Benny as she shares her journey of losing her mother to homicide. As we live in a world where people would rather listen to true crime stories, survivors are the only ones that are able to share the life their loved ones lived. Rebecca not only talks about her grief, but also provides a safe place for other survivors to talk about their grief. Let's Raise Homicide Awareness Together.YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCtMsEZTsPyPU6Q3FTT3yBCQInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/lvmadvntge/Twitter: https://mobile.twitter.com/lvmadvntgeFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/lvmadvntge/If you'd like to donate to Tim Harris' project of providing free therapy to at least one person for one year, please visit www.grievingisbreath.com/donateThis is a Back Home Media production, recorded and produced in Phoenix, AZ.Additional production and music by Ian Releford. Music by Colen Lococo and The Revolving Birds.Like what you hear? Helped by what you heard? Have something to share? https://www.patreon.com/parentlesspodcastEmail: firstname.lastname@example.orgInstagram: @parentlesspodcastVoicemail: 623.396.6069You are not alone.