Podcasts about kibby

Send us a text! (add your email to get a response)What happens when you can't understand what others are thinking or feeling? Why do some people constantly misinterpret your intentions? The answers lie in a fascinating psychological process called mentalization.Mentalization—our ability to understand the thoughts, feelings, and intentions of others and ourselves—forms the foundation of healthy relationships. When this process goes awry, as it often does in Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), relationships become minefields of misunderstandings, hurt feelings, and confusion.In this episode, we delve into Jacqueline's dissertation topic of how mentalization can go awry with deep shame and personality pathology.  Shame emerges as the critical factor that disrupts mentalization. Those with BPD often carry core beliefs about being defective or unlovable, coloring how they interpret others' thoughts about them. If you believe you're worthless, you'll likely assume others see you that way too, regardless of evidence. This creates patterns of negative assumptions without sufficient proof that can become self-fulfilling prophecies as relationships deteriorate.The social media landscape introduces new challenges, bombarding us with inconsistent feedback that mirrors the chaotic responses some experienced in childhood. When hundreds love you and hundreds hate you simultaneously, how do you form a coherent sense of self?Ready to learn more? Our community and group course launches July 14th—visit KulaMind.com to join the waitlist and gain the skills to navigate relationships with loved ones facing mental health challenges.Support the showIf you have a loved one with mental or emotional problems, join KulaMind, our community and support platform. In KulaMind, work one on one with Dr. Kibby on learning how to set healthy boundaries, advocate for yourself, and support your loved one. *We only have a few spots left, so apply here if you're interested. Follow @kulamind on Instagram for podcast updates and science-backed insights on staying sane while loving someone emotionally explosive. For more info about this podcast, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.com

Send us a text! (add your email to get a response)Ever wonder why holding your partner's hand during a stressful moment instantly calms you down? The answer lies in the fascinating neurobiological dance of co-regulation – when two nervous systems attune to and influence each other, creating safety, connection, and resilience that neither person could achieve alone.In this episode, we explore the multidimensional nature of co-regulation in romantic relationships, moving beyond the simplistic idea that partners merely "calm each other down." Through personal stories – including TWO exciting life updates for Jacqueline! – we unpack how healthy relationships support each other across three different levels of connection.The science is compelling. Research shows that a loving partner's touch literally reduces brain activity in regions associated with threat response. But we also tackle the shadow side: when does the need for co-regulation cross into dependency, control, or emotional manipulation? How do we balance healthy interdependence with personal responsibility for our emotional lives?Whether you're currently partnered or not, understanding co-regulation reveals profound truths about human connection. We're biologically wired to share emotional burdens, amplify each other's joy, and create meaning together. By developing awareness of our emotional patterns and protective mechanisms, we can transform relationships from battlegrounds into sanctuaries where both people feel safe enough to be fully themselves.***If you're like "wow that sounds good, but I have NO idea how to co-regulate with my partner," then you've come to the right place- that's what we teach at KulaMind. We're launching our exclusive KulaMind community July 14th, which we're not technically supposed to tell you yet...oh well. Support the showIf you have a loved one with mental or emotional problems, join KulaMind, our community and support platform. In KulaMind, work one on one with Dr. Kibby on learning how to set healthy boundaries, advocate for yourself, and support your loved one. *We only have a few spots left, so apply here if you're interested. Follow @kulamind on Instagram for science-backed insights on staying sane while loving someone emotionally explosive. For more info about this podcast, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.com Follow us on Instagram: @ALittleHelpForOurFriends

Send us a text! (add your email to get a response)Feeling stuck in the same arguments with your partner? Does it feel like a cycle of one of you is chasing and the other is running away? In this episode, we talk about the problematic cycle behind recurring relationship conflicts through the lens of Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT).We break down the pursuer-withdrawer dynamic: that frustrating cycle where one person pushes for connection while the other pulls away. What looks like rejection or criticism on the surface actually masks deeper attachment needs and fears. You may be the one desperately trying to get your partner to engage, or one who shuts down when emotions run high.We argue that pursuers and withdrawers are actually fighting for the relationship in their own ways. Drawing from recent EFT research and our personal experiences, these patterns develop from childhood experiences and attachment styles. We also talk about important strategies for breaking this pursue-withdrawal cycle of disconnection. For example, we cover TEMPO framework that helps couples identify what triggers their defensive reactions and how to communicate underlying needs more effectively. We also discuss how co-regulation and vulnerability can break destructive cycles and create deeper connection. **If you are in a relationship with someone struggling with explosive emotions, you may be caught in these destructive cycles. Book a free call with Dr. Kibby to learn about how the KulaMind program helps people like you break the cycle.Resources:Johnson, S. (2022). The hold me tight workbook: a couple's guide for a lifetime of love. Little, Brown Spark.Support the showIf you have a loved one with mental or emotional problems, join KulaMind, our community and support platform. In KulaMind, work one on one with Dr. Kibby on learning how to set healthy boundaries, advocate for yourself, and support your loved one. *We only have a few spots left, so apply here if you're interested. Follow @kulamind on Instagram for science-backed insights on staying sane while loving someone emotionally explosive. For more info about this podcast, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.com Follow us on Instagram: @ALittleHelpForOurFriends

Send us a text! (add your email to get a response)Have you ever had the unsettling realization that perhaps you don't like yourself very much? That underneath all your accomplishments, relationships, and hard work, there's a persistent voice whispering that you're somehow fundamentally flawed? In this very personal episode, we dive into the connection between childhood trauma and the development of negative core beliefs that can manifest as self-loathing. When children experience abuse or emotional neglect, especially from parents who refuse to acknowledge their harmful behavior, the child often internalizes the belief that they're inherently bad, broken, or unlovable.What makes this particularly painful is how these beliefs become woven into the fabric of our identity. The path toward healing begins with recognizing that self-hatred isn't your true voice—it's a protective strategy developed when you had no other options. By approaching these disowned parts with curiosity and compassion rather than fear, we can begin to release their grip on our lives. While we may never receive the validation and accountability we deserve from those who hurt us, we can find new ways to nurture and accept those wounded parts of ourselves.Whether you're struggling with self-criticism or supporting someone who is, this episode offers an intimate peek into understanding how early trauma shapes our relationship with ourselves and practical steps toward reclaiming the parts we've been taught to fear and hate. **If you or someone you love struggles with self hatred, book a call to see how Dr. Kibby with KulaMind can help. Support the showIf you have a loved one with mental or emotional problems, join KulaMind, our community and support platform. In KulaMind, work one on one with Dr. Kibby on learning how to set healthy boundaries, advocate for yourself, and support your loved one. *We only have a few spots left, so apply here if you're interested. Follow @kulamind on Instagram for science-backed insights on staying sane while loving someone emotionally explosive. For more info about this podcast, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.com Follow us on Instagram: @ALittleHelpForOurFriends

Send us a text! (add your email to get a response)The invisible connection between trauma and sexual intimacy affects countless relationships, yet remains largely hidden in silence and shame. In this episode, we dive deep into why PTSD creates significant barriers to healthy sexual function—even when the original trauma had nothing to do with sex.Sexual arousal shares remarkable physiological similarities with threat response, creating a devastating paradox for trauma survivors. The racing heart, flushed skin, and heightened sensitivity that should signal pleasure become warning signs of danger to a traumatized nervous system. Beyond the physiological responses, trauma rewires our capacity for connection.  Partners often interpret this withdrawal as personal rejection, creating a destructive cycle that leaves both feeling isolated and misunderstood.If you or someone you love struggles with trauma's impact on intimacy, know that recovery is possible. Effective trauma treatment can help break the association between arousal and threat. Partners play a crucial role by educating themselves about PTSD, creating safety without enabling avoidance, and maintaining patience through the healing process. Digital self-help resources and specialized trauma therapy can provide accessible starting points for reconnecting with your capacity for intimacy after trauma.**Have you noticed how trauma affects your relationships? Healing happens when we break the silence around these struggles. If you walk to talk through it and get help, book a call with Dr. Kibby.Resources:PTSD Coach Mobile appRebound HealthSupport the showIf you have a loved one with mental or emotional problems, join KulaMind, our community and support platform. In KulaMind, work one on one with Dr. Kibby on learning how to set healthy boundaries, advocate for yourself, and support your loved one. *We only have a few spots left, so apply here if you're interested. Follow @kulamind on Instagram for science-backed insights on staying sane while loving someone emotionally explosive. For more info about this podcast, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.com Follow us on Instagram: @ALittleHelpForOurFriends

Send us a text! (add your email to get a response)Do we always have to choose between caring for ourselves vs. caring for others? Nope! Dr. Jordan Quaglia, associate professor at Naropa University, introduces us to "We-Care" – a revolutionary approach to caring that blends self-care and caring for others into an integrated practice where they mutually reinforce each other.Drawing from over a decade of research in mindfulness, compassion, and boundaries, Dr. Quaglia explains how self-care has evolved from a medical term to today's ubiquitous wellness practice, but suggests we're now ready for something more interconnected. The conversation delves into "care blind spots" – patterns in how we approach care that remain invisible to us. Some people habitually prioritize others at their own expense, while others may emphasize self-care to the point of undermining their social connections. When discussing boundaries, Dr.  Quaglia challenges conventional wisdom. Rather than seeing boundaries merely as expressions of self-care, he reframes them as actions that modify social situations to better align with our needs, values, and goals – while remaining awake to how our boundaries affect others. Healthy boundaries, when rooted in We-Care, balance both protection and connection.At the end of the conversation, Dr. Quaglia leads us through a "reverse self-compassion" practice that embodies We-Care principles, showing us what Dr. Qualia calls an "undivided heart" – the capacity to hold both self-care and care for others simultaneously.***If you have a loved one with mental illness and struggle to set boundaries, take care of yourself AND them at the same time, book a call with Dr. Kibby to learn how the KulaMind program can help. Resources:Check out Dr. Quaglia's new book hot off the presses: "From Self-Care to WeCare: The New Science of Mindful Boundaries and Caring from an Undivided Heart"Dr. Quaglia's IG @mindfulboundariesSupport the showIf you have a loved one with mental or emotional problems, join KulaMind, our community and support platform. In KulaMind, work one on one with Dr. Kibby on learning how to set healthy boundaries, advocate for yourself, and support your loved one. *We only have a few spots left, so apply here if you're interested. Follow @kulamind on Instagram for science-backed insights on staying sane while loving someone emotionally explosive. For more info about this podcast, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.com Follow us on Instagram: @ALittleHelpForOurFriends

In this episode of "Women Creating Wealth," host Christine McCarron welcomes Lauri Kibby, a dedicated advocate for women's financial empowerment. Laurie emphasizes that while fix and flips can be creatively fulfilling, they are fundamentally a job with significant risks, unlike passive investing where money works for you. She cautions against the misconception that fix and flips are true investments for wealth building, highlighting the labor, stress, and market cycle vulnerabilities involved. Kibby, who runs the fund at Selene Brighthouse, advocates for real estate investments that offer both cash flow and long-term growth with moderate risk, allowing women to build their overall wealth without the hands-on work of flipping properties.

Send us a text! (add your email to get a response)Have you ever noticed a never-ending cycle of drama amongst your family or friend group? In this episode, we talk about how the Drama Triangle might be the hidden pattern keeping your relationships stuck in painful cycles. Whether you're supporting a loved one with mental illness or navigating difficult family dynamics, this pattern will keep you trapped in the pain instead of solving it.Stephen Karpman's Drama Triangle describes three roles that create and sustain relationship dysfunction: the Victim (feeling helpless and powerless), the Persecutor (critical and blaming), and the Rescuer (rushing to fix problems). What makes this pattern so challenging is how people shift between these roles, maintaining the pain while never actually resolving underlying issues.We identify places where we can spot the drama triangle in our own lives—from childhood experiences with divorced parents to adult relationships—showing how these patterns created confusion and heartache. These triangles often form because we're desperately trying to maintain stability, even when that stability is painful.The good news is that understanding these patterns gives you the power to break free. We explore practical ways to step outside your habitual role and ultimately break down the triangle entirely. Rather than seeing these behaviors as character flaws, we frame them as adaptations that once served a purpose but may now be limiting your growth and happiness.This conversation highlights how recognizing these patterns can help you create more authentic connections with loved ones struggling with mental health challenges. Check out KulaMind.com to learn more about our online platform designed to help you break toxic patterns and find peace while supporting someone with mental illness.Resources:https://karpmandramatriangle.com/dt_article_only.htmlSupport the showIf you have a loved one with mental or emotional problems, join KulaMind, our community and support platform. In KulaMind, work one on one with Dr. Kibby on learning how to set healthy boundaries, advocate for yourself, and support your loved one. *We only have a few spots left, so apply here if you're interested. Follow @kulamind on Instagram for science-backed insights on staying sane while loving someone emotionally explosive. For more info about this podcast, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.com Follow us on Instagram: @ALittleHelpForOurFriends

Send us a text! (add your email to get a response)What if we've been thinking about love all wrong? What if the idea that we must choose just one person to love deeply is simply a cultural construct rather than an inherent truth about human relationships? In this episode, we discuss with Paula Croxson, our friend and practicing polyamorist how we can challenge foundational assumptions about romantic love and connection. This discussion was inspired by reactions from our previous episodes on ethical non-monogamy as a lot of you Little Helpers were curious to hear more about how this actually works in real life. Paula shares her three-year journey into polyamory after spending most of her life in monogamous relationships, offering a thoughtful perspective on what it means to love multiple people simultaneously. We explore how polyamory creates space for radical honesty and communication unlike anything our guest had experienced in monogamous relationships. These conversations about boundaries, needs, and expectations aren't just helpful for polyamorous arrangements – they're valuable tools for any relationship. The polyamorous community's emphasis on transparency creates opportunities to discuss topics that might remain unaddressed in traditional partnerships.The discussion delves into complex emotional territory – examining jealousy not as something to eliminate but as information that helps identify unmet needs. We contrast this with compersion, the experience of finding joy in your partner's happiness with others. Our guest shares practical insights about navigating multiple partnerships, including scheduling challenges, communication practices, and managing new relationship energy while honoring established connections. Polyamory allows people to design relationships based on their authentic desires rather than societal expectations – creating connections that can be deeply meaningful without following conventional scripts.This interesting conversation makes us consider what aspects of polyamorous communication and boundary-setting might benefit any type of relationship – monogamous or not.Resources:Hardy, J. W., & Easton, D. (2017). The ethical slut: A practical guide to polyamory, open relationships, and other freSupport the showIf you have a loved one with mental or emotional problems, join KulaMind, our community and support platform. In KulaMind, work one on one with Dr. Kibby on learning how to set healthy boundaries, advocate for yourself, and support your loved one. *We only have a few spots left, so apply here if you're interested. Follow @kulamind on Instagram for science-backed insights on staying sane while loving someone emotionally explosive. For more info about this podcast, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.com Follow us on Instagram: @ALittleHelpForOurFriends

Send us a text! (add your email to get a response)Madison Errichiello steps out of the "Love is Blind" pods and into a raw, illuminating conversation about healing from trauma and finding strength in vulnerability. Known for her openness about mental health on the show, Madison joins us to reveal the deeper layers behind what viewers saw – and how reality TV editing shaped public perception of her journey."I don't wear this trauma as a coat," Madison explains, addressing misconceptions about her willingness to discuss her difficult past. Growing up between two drastically different households, Madison developed resilience alongside complex relationship patterns. She candidly explores how these experiences shaped her attachment style and the fear of being "too much" for partners.The conversation moves beyond labels as Madison unpacks what it means to be "avoidant" in relationships while actively working toward security. Through her experiences with sudden loss and grief, Madison offers powerful insights into why certain boundaries – like asking loved ones to text when they arrive safely – stem from a place of care rather than control.Perhaps most striking is Madison's approach to newfound fame and criticism. Rather than obsessively consuming public opinion, she's established healthy boundaries to protect her mental health. This self-assurance challenges the narrative that confident women need "humbling" and offers a masterclass in distinguishing between others' projections and personal truth.Whether you're healing from relational trauma, navigating attachment issues, or simply curious about the real person beyond reality TV editing, this conversation offers compassionate wisdom about holding life with "a looser grip" and finding peace through self-acceptance. **If you are dealing with the mental health or addiction problems of a partner, family member or friend, co-host Dr. Kibby can support you through KulaMind, a coaching program and community made just for you. Through KulaMind, she can help you make sense of the chaos, set healthy boundaries, and break toxic dynamics. Book a free call with her to learn more. Check out KulaMind.comResources:Follow Madison on Instagram @mads.err and Tik Tok @mads.errSupport the showIf you have a loved one with mental or emotional problems, join KulaMind, our community and support platform. In KulaMind, work one on one with Dr. Kibby on learning how to set healthy boundaries, advocate for yourself, and support your loved one. *We only have a few spots left, so apply here if you're interested. Follow @kulamind on Instagram for science-backed insights on staying sane while loving someone emotionally explosive. For more info about this podcast, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.com Follow us on Instagram: @ALittleHelpForOurFriends

Send us a text! (add your email to get a response)Ever found yourself wanting to scream when someone launches into their hundredth "woe is me" monologue? Yep, we've been there. In this episode, we talk about one of the more isolating coping mechanisms: self-pity.We break down exactly what makes self-pity so aggravating for loved ones—that toxic combination of helplessness, victim mentality, and emotional quicksand that seems to pull everyone down. Unlike genuine sadness or grief, self-pity comes with an external locus of control that rejects solutions while demanding endless reassurance. It's the "help me, help me, but don't help me" dynamic that leaves friends, partners, and even therapists feeling utterly powerless.We explore the psychology behind why people get stuck in self-pitying patterns, the difference between legitimate suffering and wallowing, and the crucial distinction between self-pity ("poor me") and self-compassion ("poor us"). For those drowning in self-pity, we offer actionable strategies to reconnect with agency and break free from the cycle. For the exhausted supporters, we provide practical tools like "dropping the rope" and setting boundaries without drowning in guilt.Whether you're dealing with a chronically self-pitying loved one or catching yourself falling into these patterns, the way out of self-pity isn't more reassurance—it's recognizing that even in our darkest moments, we always have a choice.**If you're struggling with a loved one consumed with self pity, book a free call with Dr. Kibby to see you can get expert insights and strategies through KulaMind.Support the showIf you have a loved one with mental or emotional problems, join KulaMind, our community and support platform. In KulaMind, work one on one with Dr. Kibby on learning how to set healthy boundaries, advocate for yourself, and support your loved one. *We only have a few spots left, so apply here if you're interested. Follow @kulamind on Instagram for science-backed insights on staying sane while loving someone emotionally explosive. For more info about this podcast, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.com Follow us on Instagram: @ALittleHelpForOurFriends

Send us a text! (add your email to get a response)The wounds of high school popularity - or lack thereof - run surprisingly deep. In this episode, we explore how our teenage and adolescent social status continues to shape our self-concept decades later, informing how we navigate relationships, perceive our value, and approach social hierarchies.We dive into research that reveals the complex relationship between adolescent popularity and adult personality traits, discovering if we have qualities that determine whether or not we're going to be "popular" throughout our life.The podcast gets personal as we share our own teenage experiences - from the notorious MySpace "Top 8" friendship rankings that could ruin a week, to the Valentine's Day carnation deliveries that made social hierarchies painfully visible. We talk about how these experiences become formative to our identities because adolescence represents our first real attachment to figures outside our families, creating patterns that can last a lifetime.For those still carrying these wounds, we offer science-backed perspectives for healing. Most importantly, recognizing that high school popularity often rewards conformity rather than originality allows us to reframe our experiences as badges of uniqueness rather than rejection.Whether you were a queen bee, completely overlooked, or somewhere in between, we offer validation, understanding, and a path toward finally healing those stubborn teenage wounds. Subscribe to explore more topics at the intersection of mental health, relationships, and personal growth that help us all become better supporters to those we love.Support the showIf you have a loved one with mental or emotional problems, join KulaMind, our community and support platform. In KulaMind, work one on one with Dr. Kibby on learning how to set healthy boundaries, advocate for yourself, and support your loved one. *We only have a few spots left, so apply here if you're interested. Follow @kulamind on Instagram for science-backed insights on staying sane while loving someone emotionally explosive. For more info about this podcast, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.com Follow us on Instagram: @ALittleHelpForOurFriends

Send us a text! (add your email to get a response)Distance makes the heart grow fonder—or does it? In this episode, we explore long-distance relationships and what the research actually shows about couples who love across miles. We share our own varied experiences with long-distance love—from casual dating situations to serious commitments. Different relationship styles and personal attachment patterns dramatically impact how well distance works. Low-jealousy partners may thrive while anxious attachment can transform distance from challenging to excruciating.Communication presents unique hurdles when you're apart—text messages lose tone, calls require scheduling, and the spontaneity of everyday connection disappears. We identify creative strategies that help bridge the gap. The ultimate question emerges: is long-distance simply pressing pause on your relationship, or can it actually strengthen your connection in ways proximity never could?Whether you're contemplating a period apart from your partner or currently navigating the challenges of loving from afar, w e explore how to maintain connection when miles separate you from the one you love—and when to know if the distance might actually be revealing deeper relationship incompatibilities.Support the showIf you have a loved one with mental or emotional problems, join KulaMind, our community and support platform. In KulaMind, work one on one with Dr. Kibby on learning how to set healthy boundaries, advocate for yourself, and support your loved one. *We only have a few spots left, so apply here if you're interested. Follow @kulamind on Instagram for science-backed insights on staying sane while loving someone emotionally explosive. For more info about this podcast, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.com Follow us on Instagram: @ALittleHelpForOurFriends

Episode Summary: What if you could confidently grow your wealth, invest in real estate, and leave a powerful legacy—without second-guessing yourself? In this episode, I sit down with Lauri Kibby, Managing Director of Selene Brighthouse, to discuss how women can step into financial empowerment, smart investing, and long-term wealth creation. Lauri shares her diverse experience in real estate, investing, and entrepreneurship, the biggest financial mistakes women make, and why trusting yourself is the key to success. We also dive into how to invest in real estate without making it a second job, how to recover from financial setbacks, and the bold questions every woman should ask about her financial future. If you've ever felt intimidated by investing or unsure about how to grow your wealth strategically, this episode is packed with actionable insights to get you started! What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✅ How Lauri built wealth across multiple industries (and how you can too!) ✅ Why women need to take charge of their financial future—now ✅ The biggest financial mistakes women make (and how to avoid them) ✅ How to invest in real estate without turning it into another full-time job ✅ The different real estate asset classes and which one might be right for you ✅ How to recover from a bad investment or financial loss ✅ The boldest financial question every woman should be asking Resources & Links:

In today's episode, I sit down with IFBB Bikini Pro Maria Giesey, a Coach with Pro Physique and Account Coordinator for a healthcare recruiting company. Maria started competing in 2019 and after 15 shows, she earned her Pro card at the 2023 NPC Universe. She recently married her partner of 10 years, and together they share their home with their fluffy cat, Kibby. We dive into the challenges of missing her Pro card multiple times, overcoming self-doubt, and the mindset shifts that kept her going. Maria shares how she uses yoga and meditation to combat anxiety, prioritizes gut health, and stays passionate about the sport while helping others through coaching.   TOPICS COVERED -Pushing through Pro card setbacks & staying resilient -Using yoga & meditation to manage anxiety -Struggles with self-confidence & building self-worth -Improving gut health & prioritizing overall wellness -Enjoying the process & falling in love with the journey -Balancing perfectionism with self-belief -Pursuing your passion in and out of bodybuilding   CONNECT WITH CELESTE: Website: http://www.celestial.fit Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/celestial_fit/ All Links: http://www.celestial.fit/links.html   CONNECT WITH MARIA: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maria_ifbbpro/   TIME STAMPS 1:00 introduction 3:03 experiencing nerves for the stage 5:49 lessons from Pro card misses 14:23 changes to support her mindset 19:08 working towards feedback and health 27:17 building the habit of meditation 33:07 how her journey informs her coaching 38:11 being a perfectionist 42:57 gaining self-belief 49:14 meeting her husband 57:35 advice for competitors   CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP FOR THE FREE FOOD RELATIONSHIP COACHING SERIES   CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP FOR THE FREE POST SHOW BLUES COACHING SERIES   LEARN MORE AND APPLY FOR MY 5 WEEK FOOD RELATIONSHIP HEALING & DISCOVERY COACHING PROGRAM   FOR OTHER FREE RESOURCES, LIVE EVENTS, AND WAYS TO WORK WITH CELESTE CLICK HERE

Send us a text! (add your email to get a response)We all know those moments—when everything feels either perfect or disastrous, when someone is either completely trustworthy or utterly toxic. "All-or-nothing," "black-and-white," or dichotomous thinking, shapes our relationships, political views, and self-perception in profound ways. But where does this all-or-nothing approach come from, and why is it so hard to escape?In this episode, we dive deep into the surprising evolutionary purpose behind rigid thinking patterns. Far from simply being a cognitive flaw, black and white thinking often emerges as a survival mechanism for those who've experienced trauma or instability. The problem arises when we carry these protective patterns into everyday life, relationships, and social media interactions where complexity is essential.We explore how dichotomous thinking manifests differently across various conditions—from personality disorders where it permeates every interaction to PTSD where it might remain confined to specific triggers. We share personal examples, research findings, and practical strategies for recognizing when you've fallen into extreme thinking. Then, we outline the evidence-based strategies for breaking free of the extremes of dichotomous thinking.Whether you're dealing with a loved one who sees the world in absolutes or noticing this pattern in yourself, we understand why our brains crave certainty and how embracing the gray areas might be the key to deeper connections and better mental health. We offer both compassion for why we develop these patterns and concrete tools for finding your way back to nuance.Resources:Bonfá‐Araujo, B., Oshio, A., & Hauck‐Filho, N. (2022). Seeing Things in Black‐and‐White: A Scoping Review on Dichotomous Thinking Style1. Japanese Psychological Research, 64(4), 461-472.Jonason, P. K., Oshio, A., Shimotsukasa, T., Mieda, T., Csathó, Á., & Sitnikova, M. (2018). Seeing the world in black or white: The Dark Triad traits and dichotomous thinking. Personality and Individual Differences, 120, 102-106.Support the showIf you have a loved one with mental or emotional problems, join KulaMind, our community and support platform. In KulaMind, work one on one with Dr. Kibby on learning how to set healthy boundaries, advocate for yourself, and support your loved one. *We only have a few spots left, so apply here if you're interested. Follow @kulamind on Instagram for science-backed insights on staying sane while loving someone emotionally explosive. For more info about this podcast, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.com Follow us on Instagram: @ALittleHelpForOurFriends

This week, Kirsty sits down with Chef Kibby, a biological, foster, and adoptive father with 25 years of culinary experience. Together, they talk about the parallels between hunger and attachment and how you can connect with your own children through food.   Show Notes:  chefkibby.com facebook.com/chefkibby instagram.com/chefkibby https://link.edgepilot.com/s/da007f99/D7b4OQpVNEyFVvBpRDPZvA?u=https://www.youtube.com/@chefkibby https://www.attachmenttheoryinaction.com/  https://www.tkcchaddock.org/events/atiawebinar/  https://shop.tkcchaddock.org/  https://www.facebook.com/share/g/19Xm5Nhk2K/  https://www.facebook.com/TKCChaddock https://www.linkedin.com/company/tkcchaddock/posts/?feedView=all https://www.instagram.com/tkcchaddock https://www.facebook.com/krugglesatchaddock https://www.linkedin.com/in/kirstynolan84/

Send us a text! (add your email to get a response)Are your parents bad at dealing with difficult emotions? Do they fall apart, ignore, criticize or withdraw when you need them the most? Emotional immaturity in parents causes profound ripple effects through generations, creating patterns many of us don't recognize until we're deep into adulthood. Based on Dr. Lindsay Gibson's model of emotional immaturity, we describe the four distinct types of emotionally immature parents —emotional, driven, passive, and rejecting—and how each type uniquely shapes their children's development.We explore why this topic has exploded in popularity, tracing it back to historical contexts that shaped how each generation views parenting. When survival is the primary goal, emotional complexity takes a back seat, creating generations of parents who never developed the skills to handle their own emotions, let alone support their children's emotional growth.When children's own personal growth is stunted by a dysfunctional family,  they adopt specific roles as survival mechanisms that often persist into adulthood, limiting their full expression and causing recurring relationship challenges.Whether you're struggling with an emotionally immature parent or recognizing these patterns in yourself as a parent, we suggest a path toward healing. This path includes awareness, grieving what you didn't receive, exploring yourself beyond your family role, and developing boundaries based on mutual respect rather than obligation.If you're ready to break free from toxic dynamics with immature parents and discover your authentic self outside of these roles, book a free call with Dr. Kibby to learn how she can guide you through your healing journey.Resources:Gibson, L. C. (2015). Adult children of emotionally immature parents: How to heal from distant, rejecting, or self-involved parents. New Harbinger Publications.Support the showIf you have a loved one with mental or emotional problems, join KulaMind, our community and support platform. In KulaMind, work one on one with Dr. Kibby on learning how to set healthy boundaries, advocate for yourself, and support your loved one. *We only have a few spots left, so apply here if you're interested. Follow @kulamind on Instagram for science-backed insights on staying sane while loving someone emotionally explosive. For more info about this podcast, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.com Follow us on Instagram: @ALittleHelpForOurFriends

Send us a text! (add your email to get a response)When your dating a guy who isn't ready to settle down or your friend whines for not getting what she wants, you roll your eyes and think "they're so immature." But what does being "mature" mean, exactly? In this episode, we nerd out over the concept of emotional immaturity, the developmental aspects that contribute to it, and how it manifests in adult interactions. From understanding the signs of immaturity to addressing the struggle of setting healthy boundaries, we figure out what's needed to navigate emotionally challenging relationships. This episode was inspired by one of our Little Helper fans who shared with us a story of questioning her relationship to her boyfriend who is kind, respectful and loving, but just felt like a "young soul." When she met a man who demonstrated emotional maturity and thoughtfulness, she could only describe it as "he made me feel like a woman." So we were excited to dissect what that line is between what makes someone feel like a "young" vs "old soul." Thank you for sharing!!We couldn't ignore the role of emotional regulation and empathy in our connections with others. We explored whether immaturity is a symptom of deeper issues like Cluster B personality disorders (borderline personality disorder (BPD), narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), histrionic personality disorder (HPD) and antisocial personality disorder (APD)). We'll also share personal anecdotes that highlight real struggles faced when dealing with emotionally immature individuals.**Want to share your story with us? Click the link at the top to send us a text. We can't respond directly to that text message for some reason, so leave your email address if you want us to write you back!Resources:Consedine, N. S., & Magai, C. (2006). Emotion development in adulthood: A developmental functionalist review and critique. The Oxford handbook of adult development and learning, 209-244.Support the showIf you have a loved one with mental or emotional problems, join KulaMind, our community and support platform. In KulaMind, work one on one with Dr. Kibby on learning how to set healthy boundaries, advocate for yourself, and support your loved one. *We only have a few spots left, so apply here if you're interested. Follow @kulamind on Instagram for science-backed insights on staying sane while loving someone emotionally explosive. For more info about this podcast, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.com Follow us on Instagram: @ALittleHelpForOurFriends

In this episode of the Foster Friendly podcast, Chef Kibby shares his unique journey as a foster adoptive parent and professional chef. He discusses how the pandemic forced him to confront personal challenges and discover the profound connection between food and emotional well-being. Chef Kibby emphasizes the importance of using food as a tool for building attachment and connection with children, especially those from difficult backgrounds. He provides practical steps for parents to foster connection through cooking and highlights the significance of understanding children's emotional needs. He also discusses the profound connection between food and relationships, emphasizing the importance of creating meaningful experiences in the kitchen with family. He shares practical tips for engaging children in cooking, the significance of understanding the needs of foster children, and his unique work in a women's correctional facility, where he helps incarcerated women gain skills in food service. The discussion highlights the emotional and psychological aspects of food, connection, and community.Checkout Chef Kibby's podcast "The Hunger for Connection" and his other AMAZING resources. 

Send us a text! (include your email if you want us to respond)Is plastic surgery a sign of self-improvement or a lack of self-love? In this episode, we reflect on this question after both of our (first?) major plastic surgery procedures: Kibby's double mastectomy for breast cancer treatment and Jacqueline's decision to undergo liposuction. We question societal standards and the stigma surrounding body modifications, challenging the notion that altering one's appearance is inherently negative.We address our evolution of body image as we age, where societal norms and personal perceptions often clash. Jacqueline opens up about her journey from being a reality TV star to and older woman as Kibby shares her major transitions from yoga teacher, to mom, to cancer patient. We reflect on the anxiety of maintaining attractiveness, the social capital tied to beauty, and the transformative periods of life, like pregnancy, that reshape self-identity. This conversation invites listeners to consider the profound impact of external pressures on our inner world.With insights into the correlation between self-esteem and the desire for cosmetic changes, we discuss the often misunderstood belief that altering appearances can reshape personal relationships. Sharing stories of mixed family reactions, the discussion touches on the insecurities and newfound confidence after surgery. We consider the authentic paths toward self-love in a world fixated on physical ideals.Resources:​Shridharani, S. M., Magarakis, M., Manson, P. N., & Rodriguez, E. D. (2010). Psychology of plastic and reconstructive surgery: a systematic clinical review. Plastic and reconstructive surgery, 126(6), 2243-2251.Support the showIf you have a loved one with mental or emotional problems, join KulaMind, our community and support platform. KulaMind teaches you how to cope with difficult relationships through one-on-one expert coaching, exclusive group support, and personalized digital resources. *We only take a select few clients at a time, so apply here if you're interested. Listeners of the podcast get a special discount! Follow @kulamind on Instagram for science-backed tips and resources for mental health and relationships. For more info about this podcast, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.com Follow us on Instagram: @ALittleHelpForOurFriends

Text Dr. Kibby and Jacqueline!When you grow up in a household where love feels conditional, and your sense of self-worth hinges on meeting impossibly high standards. In this episode, we discuss the challenges faced by those who have navigated life with narcissistic parents. We explore the emotional scars left by such upbringing, including struggles with low self-esteem and attachment issues. We also discuss how our personal and clinical experiences fueled our inspiration to build KulaMind, a community platform dedicated to helping people foster healthier relationships and developing a sense of self-worth coming from a family affected by mental illness. We discuss what narcissistic tendencies can look like in our parents, where societal pressures and a parent's unmet emotional needs often overshadow genuine concern.  highlight the universal healing fantasy—a deep-seated longing for unconditional love and understanding from emotionally unavailable parents. This narrative is interwoven with stories of past traumas passed down through generations, emphasizing the need to address these patterns to heal and move forward. With insights drawn from Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) principles, we offer practical advice for balancing power and connection in relationships, stressing the importance of vulnerability and empathy. Tune in to discover tools for healing from narcissistic abuse and reclaiming your self-worth. If you are struggling with this yourself, join KulaMind, a supportive community dedicated to guiding you on this transformative journey. *Book a free call with Dr. Kibby to learn more. Resources:Take this quiz to learn more about how narcissistic your parents were to you: Parent Narcissism Quiz Faraji, H., Bilğiş, C., & Darçın, Z. (2024). The Mediator Role of Rejection Sensitivity Between Perceived Maternal Narcissism and Self-disclosure in Romantic Relationship. Turkish Psychological Counseling and Guidance Journal, 14(72), 37-47.Support the showIf you have a loved one with mental or emotional problems, join KulaMind, our community and support platform. KulaMind teaches you how to cope with difficult relationships through one-on-one expert coaching, exclusive group support, and personalized digital resources. *We only take a select few clients at a time, so apply here if you're interested. Listeners of the podcast get a special discount! Follow @kulamind on Instagram for science-backed tips and resources for mental health and relationships. For more info about this podcast, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.com Follow us on Instagram: @ALittleHelpForOurFriends

Send us a textWhen faced with the heart-wrenching decision to set boundaries with a loved one battling mental health issues, the choice is never easy. Many of us choose to estrange ourselves and cut off contact with difficult parents for our own wellbeing, but we also risk losing them forever. In this special episode, psychotherapist Dr. Caitlin Fang returns to share her deeply personal experiences with her mother, who struggled with depression, substance abuse, and schizoaffective disorder. She takes us through the emotional labyrinth of setting boundaries to protect herself and her child, while navigating the turbulent waters of unresolved grief after her mother's passing.Dr. Fang's story sheds light on the complex dynamics of mental health within families. As she reflects on her upbringing, Caitlin shares insights into how her mother's mental health challenges shaped her resilience and empathy as a therapist. We explore the difficult balance between anger and forgiveness, the emotional tug-of-war of supporting a parent in crisis, and the profound realization of not being able to save a loved one from their struggles. ***Thinking of setting boundaries with a difficult family member or a loved one with mental illness? Book a free call with Dr. Kibby to get the support you needSupport the showIf you have a loved one with mental or emotional problems, we can help. Through KulaMind, we offer individual support on demand, skills and resources to help you care for loved ones with mental illness. We only take a select few clients at a time, so apply here if you're interested. Listeners of the podcast get a special discount! For more info about this podcast, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.com Follow us on Instagram: @ALittleHelpForOurFriends

In this episode, we sit down with Chef Kibby, a biological, foster, and adoptive dad who discovered a unique way to build trust and connection with his kids through the everyday act of cooking and sharing meals.At the start of 2020, Chef Kibby seemed to have it all—a thriving catering business, a new event space, a podcast, and a side gig teaching college courses. But at home, things were falling apart. Parenting children from outside their family of origin presented challenges he wasn't prepared for. His efforts to connect weren't working, behaviors weren't improving, and discipline felt futile. Feeling overwhelmed, he retreated into his work—until the pandemic forced him to pause and reevaluate.When his business closed and his escape was gone, Chef Kibby faced a parenting crisis head-on. In that struggle, he stumbled upon a transformative realization: food isn't just about nourishment—it's about connection. By focusing on the simple act of feeding and being fed, Chef Kibby found a way to build trust, create safety, and deepen relationships with his children. Now, he's on a mission to share this approach with other foster and adoptive parents, helping them find peace and connection through the language of the body.Episode Highlights: Introduction to Chef Kibby Foster Care How Food Connects UsBuilding Community through food Find more on Guest:Visit Chef Kibby's WebsiteThe Hunger for Connection Podcast Contact Chef KibbyChef Kibby's InstagramChef Kibby's FacebookChef Kibby's YouTubeFind More on Hope Bridge:Visit Our Website Follow us on InstagramFollow us on Facebook Foster Our Community Instagram This show has been produced by Adkins Media Co.

Send us a textTis the season to be overwhelmed by family dysfunction! The holidays often unravel unresolved family dynamics and we often have to balance time with loved ones and our own sanity. In this episode, we delve into the emotional triggers that resurface during festive gatherings, like feeling like a child again around older relatives. We highlight the contrast between the idealized holiday narrative and the complex reality, especially when trying to set boundaries or deal with family conflicts.  We share practical strategies for handling the post-New Year's blues and creating new traditions that embrace diversity and change. Resources:If you need support dealing with family dysfunction, book a free consultation call with cohost Dr. Kibby: https://kulamind.com/onboardingJoin the waitlist for our KulaMind community where Little Helpers can vent about toxic families, give each other sanity checks, and bond during the loneliest season: https://whop.com/kulamind/Schneider, E., Liwinski, T., Imfeld, L., Lang, U. E., & Brühl, A. B. (2023). Who is afraid of Christmas? The effect of Christmas and Easter holidays on psychiatric hospitalizations and emergencies—Systematic review and single center experience from 2012 to 2021. Frontiers in psychiatry, 13, 1049935.Support the showIf you have a loved one with mental or emotional problems, we can help. Through KulaMind, we offer individual support on demand, skills and resources to help you care for loved ones with mental illness. We only take a select few clients at a time, so apply here if you're interested. Listeners of the podcast get a special discount! For more info about this podcast, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.com Follow us on Instagram: @ALittleHelpForOurFriends

Welcome back to the first episode of our fifth season! Whether it's a temporary break or a permanent distance, many of us have cut off contact with a family member when the relationship has gotten too difficult. Estrangement is on the rise as more people are deciding to cut off contact with their parents to protect their mental health. In this episode, we discuss the different ways adult children become estranged from their parents and what strategies can support reconciliation. We draw from the teachings of Dr. Joshua Coleman, an expert in families dealing with estrangement. ***Listening to so many audience requests, Kibby and Jacqueline are coming out with something special to support you in loving someone with mental illness. Tap to join the waitlist and stay tuned!! Resources:Coleman, J. (2024). Rules of Estrangement: Why Adult Children Cut Ties & How to Heal the Conflict. Random House.Support the showIf you have a loved one with mental or emotional problems, we can help. Our online platform KulaMind offers individual support on demand, skills and resources to help you care for loved ones with mental illness. We only take a select few clients at a time, so apply here if you're interested. Listeners of the podcast get a special discount! For more info about this podcast, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.com Follow us on Instagram: @ALittleHelpForOurFriends

Well, this year has been trying, to say the least. From losing a beloved pet, coping with cancer, and career transitions, we open up about the challenges we've had to overcome throughout season 4. In this episode, we recap the season and reflect on the strategies we used to rebuild our resilience amidst turbulence. We also dive into how our struggles impacted our friendship, forcing us to face deeper questions about unconditional love. We also remember how much family, friends, and other loved ones play such a huge role in our wellbeing, the inspiration for Kibby's new venture KulaMind. We'll return for Season 5 in a few weeks after Jacqueline gets settled in her New York life!Resources:Dr. Kibby McMahon is opening a few spots for supporting loved ones of people with mental illness. Little Helper fans of this podcast will get a 20% discount. Apply hereSupport the Show.If you have a loved one with mental or emotional problems, co-host Dr. Kibby McMahon can help. Kibby's coaching program KulaMind offers individual support on demand, skills and resources to help people care for loved ones with mental illness. She only takes a select few clients at a time, so apply here if you're interested. Listeners of the podcast get a special discount! Contact her at kibby@kulamind.com to learn more. For more info about this podcast, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.com Follow us on Instagram: @ALittleHelpForOurFriends

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Love can feel "dysregulated" even in the best relationships with intense infatuation, disappointments, intimacy, and heartbreak. However, dating someone with borderline personality disorder (BPD) means these ups and downs can get extreme. In this episode, we talk about what it's like to be in a romantic relationship with BPD. We also give tips for people coping with a partner with BPD and other signs of emotion regulation problems.Resources:If you're dating someone with BPD and need support, check out KulaMind or fill out this interest form to learn how Kibby can help.Manning, S. Y. (2011). Loving someone with borderline personality disorder: How to keep out-of-control emotions from destroying your relationship. Guilford Press.Support the Show. If you have a loved one struggling with mental health and need support, Dr. Kibby McMahon can help. Join the waitlist or email her at kibby@kulamind.com to learn more. For more info about this podcast, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.com Follow us on Instagram: @ALittleHelpForOurFriends

Relationships with narcissists can be thrilling, consuming, and completely devastating. Narcissists try to fill the void of their own insecurities by controlling or exploiting their loved ones, creating patterns of narcissistic abuse. In this episode, we talk about how people can tell if they're a victim of narcissistic abuse and what this unhealthy relationship looks like according to Monique Dauphin. We also share tips about how to support a loved one who is being abused by a narcissist. Resources:If you or your loved one is a victim narcissistic abuse, submit this form to learn how Kibby can help.Marlow-MaCoy, A. (2020). The Gaslighting Recovery Workbook: Healing From Emotional Abuse. Rockridge Press.Support the Show. If you have a loved one struggling with mental health and need support, Dr. Kibby McMahon can help. Join the waitlist or email her at kibby@seonhealth.com to learn more. For more info about this podcast, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.com Follow us on Instagram: @ALittleHelpForOurFriends

In today's podcast episode, professional triathlete and coach Mitch Kibby shares his journey from having little swimming background as a child to becoming a front pack swimmer in the pro field. He is the head coach and founder of i4 Coaching and has worked with Effortless Swimming at our clinics and camps. Mitch discusses his strategies for improving swimming performance and offers valuable insights and tips for swimmers and triathletes looking to improve their skills. Tune in now! 00:00 Introduction 02:39 Swimming Background 07:51 Long Journey to Success 11:01 Lessons Learned from Early Days of Training 16:55 Refining Coaching Cues 17:51 Tips from Elite Triathletes 23:36 Front End Speed Training 27:55 The Power of Training in Challenging Environments 29:22 Shorter Sets, Greater Gains 34:12 Improving Performance through Specific Training 36:15 The Value of Training Partners and Squad Training 39:12 The Hardest and Best Things About Being a Pro Triathlete 42:23 The Benefits of a Flexible Lifestyle 44:00 Transforming Negative Self-Talk into Positive Motivation 49:04 Maintaining Emotional Stability and Setting Realistic Goals 52:06 What's next for Mitch Kibby?

In today's show we get some mashtags, hear about new rules for Valentine's Day in school, open the box of shame, Klein calls the cops, have a single spotlight, Kibby predicts the future and find out what Johnny knows about the law

Kibby has some unfortunate news to share: She has just been diagnosed with stage 2 breast cancer. As much of a shock as it is, cancer rates are on the rise in younger adults and no one knows why. Such a devastating illness can turn someone's life upside down in an instant- for the people diagnosed and also their loved ones. In this episode, Kibby and Jacqueline try to process this emotional rollercoaster and how can we support our loved ones living with cancer.Resources:Getting Things Off My Chest: A Survivor's Guide to Staying Fearless and Fabulous in the Face of Breast Cancer by Melanie Youngvan Eijk, M., de Vries, D. H., Sonke, G. S., & Buiting, H. M. (2022). Friendship during patients' stable and unstable phases of incurable cancer: a qualitative interview study. BMJ open, 12(11).Support the showFor more info about this podcast, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.comFollow us on Instagram: @ALittleHelpForOurFriends

It's an exciting time when entrepreneurs find the perfect business partner to co-found a new company. However, many don't realize that a staggering 65% of startups fail because of cofounder conflicts. Entrepreneurs who overlook the importance of their business partner relationships are at high risk of misunderstandings, strategy disagreements, or role confusion that can tear a venture apart. In this episode, Kibby talks about how her company Seon Health aims to address this crucial dynamic with evidence-based couples therapy and interpersonal  interventions. Special Offer:For entrepreneurs who need help with their toxic relationship with co-founders or business partners, apply for Co-Leader Coaching with Kibby. Anyone else interested in relationship coaching with Kibby, email her directly at kibby@seonhealth.com.Support the showFor more info about this podcast, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.comFollow us on Instagram: @ALittleHelpForOurFriends

We wrap up season 3 reflecting on this doozy of a year. Around a year ago, Jacqueline and Kibby were coming back from Portugal where Jacqueline was breaking off an engagement and Kibby was gestating a huge baby. We talk about the lessons learned during these major life changes, which inspired our episodes on healing from difficult relationships, postpartum depression, and men.Support the showFor more info about this podcast, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.comFollow us on Instagram: @ALittleHelpForOurFriends

In today's show we find out if Klein and Beermug are liars, Ally answers lesbian questions, Kibby almost gets eaten by a coyote, we see if Johnny knows anything about weddings and our friend Brad Williams stops by the studio 

Composer and producer Morgan Kibby joins us for an inspiring chat about her work on film and TV such as Amazon's recent series 'The Power', 'Tales Of The Walking Dead', and 'Mothering Sunday'. We also took a peek at her new album 'Rookie' as a singer/songwriter, which she released this month under the name Sue Clayton.

In every episode, we talk about people struggling with mental health, and we are no exception. Kibby has been dealing with postpartum depression (PPD), exacerbated by identity shifts and sleep deprivation that are common with new parents. In this episode, we talk about Kibby's personal experience with depression and how it directly affected her relationship with Jacqueline. We share what steps Kibby's taking to recovery that are often recommended to those with PPD. Check out: Sarah Bossio (www.yourzenbabysleep.com), the coach that helped Kibby sleep train her baby and saved her sanityFor more info about this podcast, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.comFollow us on Instagram: @ALittleHelpForOurFriends

The words of Thai Massage Master Pichest, we need to learn to "listen to body." Trauma and other emotions live in the body, sometimes sending us important signals through our physical sensations and physical health. In this episode, we talk about the magical connection between the mind and the body. Kibby also reminisces about her yoga teaching and Thai massage days when she learned the healing power of the body in the middle of a rice patty in Chiang Mai.Check out: Van der Kolk, B. (2014). The body keeps the score: Brain, mind, and body in the healing of trauma. New York.​Yehuda, R., & Lehrner, A. (2018). Intergenerational transmission of trauma effects: putative role of epigenetic mechanisms. World psychiatry, 17(3), 243-257.Kuhfuß, M., Maldei, T., Hetmanek, A., & Baumann, N. (2021). Somatic experiencing–effectiveness and key factors of a body-oriented trauma therapy: a scoping literature review. European journal of psychotraumatology, 12(1), 1929023.For more info about this podcast, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.comFollow us on Instagram: @ALittleHelpForOurFriends

Today on the podcast we welcome Jenni Quilter. Jenni teaches at New York University and is the author of New York School Painters & Poets: Neon in Daylight, for which she was a finalist for the 2014 AICA Award for Best Criticism. She has written for the Los Angeles Review of Books, The Times Literary Supplement (London), Poetry Review, and the London Review of Books. Her new book, Hatching, was recently released and is a provocative examination of reproductive technologies that questions our understanding of fertility, motherhood, and the female body.  In this conversation, we discuss Jenni's fertility journey, infertility, IVF, and have a detailed conversation about what it means to desire a child and how much freedom reproductive technologies actually offer. To learn more and purchase: "Hatching: Experiments in Motherhood and Technology” you can click here.  To listen to our conversation on fertility + egg freezing, mentioned in the episode, with Jaqueline and Kibby on Apple Podcasts click here. It is also available everywhere you listen to podcasts.  If you would like to work with us and receive a free health coaching consultation-- get in touch at courageouswellness.net or email aly@courageouswellness.net or erica@courageouswellness.net  Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Courageous Wellness! We release new episodes each #WellnessWednesday You can also follow us on instagram @CourageousWellness and visit our website: www.courageouswellness.net to get in touch.  Shop Vintners Daughter + Get 2-Day Free Shipping This episode is brought to you by Milk+Honey.  To receive 20% off your purchase visit www.milkandhoney.com and use code: CWPODCAST (all one word) at checkout! Milk+Honey is a line of non-toxic, effective, and safe bath, body, and skincare products made in small batches in Austin, Texas.  You can also save 20% on all spa treatments at Milk+Honey Spa locations in Los Angeles, Chicago, Texas, Miami and get a special rate on a curated Courageous Wellness Retreat Spa Package that includes a 60 minute massage and dry brushing. Book over the phone or online and visit: milkandhoneyspa.com  Meet NED: You can receive 15% off our favorite Ned CBD products, including the Hormone Balance Blend and the Full Spectrum Hemp Oil, go to www.helloned.com and enter the code CWPODCAST at checkout We are so excited to partner with Seed! You can save 15% on Seed Synbiotic by using code: courageous15 at checkout. Head to www.seed.com to learn more.  Save 20% on Sakara clean boutique and meal delivery with code: xocourageous at checkout!  Are you interested in becoming a health coach or furthering your nutrition education? We loved our program at the Institute for Integrative Nutrition and are happy to offer our listeners a discount on tuition! To receive up to $2000 off tuition (for payments in full and $1000 off tuition for payment plans) you can use our name Aly French or Erica Stein when you enroll. To learn more you can also take a Sample Class, check out the Curriculum Guide, or visit the application page to enroll.  This Episode is Sponsored by Sprout Living. To Save 20% on Our Favorite Plant Based Protein Powders by Sprout Living visit: http://www.sproutliving.com and use code CWPodcast at checkout.         

We begin 2023 with an energetic discussion about leadership and the importance of data literacy with the former CEO of Knewton and Modern Campus, Brian Kibby! We're thrilled to introduce you to Brian and certain you'll find his contributions to the show invaluable.

Do you have a loved one who is always the life of the party, everyone's best friend, and a "drama queen"? If so, they may have a touch of histrionic personality disorder! In this episode, we describe what histrionic personality disorder is and how it could be difficult for loved ones. Then, Kibby has a crushing realization about her own history with histrionic personality disorder and loses track of everything after that. Read more about HPD here: ​Pfohl, B. (1991). Histrionic personality disorder: A review of available data and recommendations for DSM-IV. Journal of Personality Disorders, 5(2), 150-166.and here: French, J. H., & Shrestha, S. (2021). Histrionic personality disorder. In StatPearls [Internet]. StatPearls Publishing.For more info, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.comFollow us on Instagram: @ALittleHelpForOurFriends

Baxie talks to Fishbone co-founder, horn player, and vocalist Dirty Walter Kibby! Walter not only talks about what's coming up for Fishbone in 2023--he also talks about his amazing side project, Year of the Dragon! A great chat with one of the most charismatic characters in music--ever! Also available on Apple Podcasts, SoundCloud, Spotify, and on the Rock102 website!

This week, we tackle a topic that doubles as a prerequisite at Nymphet Alumni University: beauty psuedosciences, from Kibby body typing to color seasons and seduction archetypes. We consider beauty as capital, how the rising popularity of these systems on social media represents a reaction to body positivity, and the dangers of masculine and feminine energy discourse on TikTok. ‿︵‿︵ʚ˚̣̣̣͙ɞ・❉・ ʚ˚̣̣̣͙ɞ‿︵‿︵‿︵‿︵ʚ˚̣̣̣͙ɞ・❉・ ʚ˚̣̣̣͙ɞ‿︵‿︵‿︵‿︵ʚ˚̣̣̣͙ɞ・❉・ ʚ˚̣̣̣͙ɞ‿︵‿︵ʚ˚̣̣̣͙ɞ・❉・ ʚ˚̣̣̣͙ɞ‿︵‿︵‿︵‿︵ʚ˚̣̣̣͙ɞ・❉・ ʚ˚̣̣̣͙ɞ‿︵‿︵‿Links:Image board (includes some relevant TikToks!): https://pin.it/12A4AzeCarole Jackson's Color Me Beautiful (1980): https://archive.org/details/colormebeautiful00jack/page/n1/mode/2upDavid Kibbe's unhinged website: http://davidkibbe.co/NYT on Kibbe Body Types: https://www.nytimes.com/2022/03/24/style/kibbe-body-types.html Robert Greene's seduction archetypes overview: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Art_of_Seduction QOVES Studio on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/QOVESStudio@claaaarke on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@claaaarke?lang=en

This week, I'm speaking with Chef Kibby, a foster dad who helps foster and adoptive parents create connection with their kids through the shared act of cooking and eating together. Chef Kibby joins me to talk about how you can create a powerful connection using food and how he got involved with foster care. Follow Chef Kibby on Instagram: @chefkibby

Make sure to fill out our listener survey! Find tons of cool gear and support the show at our storefront. Our guest for this week's bonus episode is Brian Kibby, CEO of Modern Campus. Brian shares his passion and optimism for this unique moment for higher education commenting on the need for investing in new tools as well as how mergers and acquisitions are impacting the sector. Subscribe and listen via Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Spotify. Find the full show notes at higheredgeek.com/podcast Music by pond5.com

"One evening, my child came up to me and asked, “Daddy, can I chop your vegetable scraps?”That one question opened my eyes to all the possibilities that exist for me - and for you - when we embrace the connecting power of cooking and eating together with our children."--Chef KibbyChef Kibby (Contact)Contact Amy--Summer fundraiser for counseling schloarships.The Wednesdays With Watson Podcast is proud to bring Chef Kibby to the podcast. Chef Kibby and his wife are foster parents as well as parents to their biological children. Like many of us, Chef Kibby faced losing his livelihood when the Covid 19 Pandemic swept the globe. It started with one question, and that question led him to evaluate the need behind that request, and thus was born his new passion of connecting with children in the kitchen.What are the felt needs behind a request from our children, regardless of trauma status? Why is it important to connect with them in the first place on practical levels--levels that we've not seen pre pandemic?  Now more than every our children need us, and we need them. This episode is rich with information that will help you connect with your kids over one of the very few common human needs--food. Listen as he tells his journey of this ministry and how he strongly encourages parents to get in the kitchen with their children, and you don't have to be a chef.Enjoy this episode as we near the end of our season on Trauma, Spaces, Places, and Aces. This one is definitely an ACE!

My guest this week is Chef Kibby In this episode, Chef Kibby and I discuss the power of food and connection. When the pandemic hit, his professional career drastically shifted, but what he didn't know was his lacking relationships with his biological, adopted, and fostered children would flourish. Whether you are a stranger in the kitchen or a trained chef, Chef Kibby will walk you through tips and strategies on how simple it can be to connect with your child through food and cooking together! Sharing experiences not just in cooking, but in and around the preparation of food can strengthen your relationship with your child while also improving mental health, coordination, patience, development and so much more.  Let's dive in to learn how to build lifelong skills and memories that will serve the whole family! Chef Kibby is a professional chef, parenting strategist, public speaker and online content creator. He has combined his 25 years of food experience with 14 years as a biological, foster and adoptive parent, to create a personal brand dedicated to demonstrating the connecting power of cooking and eating with our children, a mindset he calls “Cooking is connecting.” He has a YouTube channel, podcast, online courses, lots of other stuff we will get into.     Connect with Chef Kibby:Insta: @chefkibbyFacebook: facebook.com/cookinwithkibby Website: https://cookingisconnecting.com Twitter: @chef_kibby     Episode Timeline   Introduction to Chef Kibby … 00:01:20 Finding Connection for Families During Difficult Times … 00:7:55 Cooking is Connecting … 00:13:15 Meaning of Cooking Varies for Everyone … 00:18:20 Opportunities to Connect All Around the Kitchen & Table … 00:21:12 Strategies to Bring Kids in the Kitchen without Overwhelm … 00:25:42 Benefits of Learning Something New Together … 00:28:35 Resistance Around Participating in Things … 00:32:20 Developmental Challenges & Helping with Mealtime … 00:36:58 It's Never Too Early or Late for Getting them Involved … 00:40:58 Resources and Episode Wrap Up … 00:42:52       Need help with improving your child's behavior naturally? My book Life Will Get Better is available for purchase, click here to learn more. Looking for more? Check out my Blog and Workshops. Interested in becoming a patient? Contact us here. Instagram Facebook Drbeurkens.com

Setting boundaries can be difficult, but necessary. You may need to set boundaries in several different areas, friendships, work, family, partners, etc. and thankfully Kibby & Jacqueline are helping us cover all these areas on this episode!  Jacqueline Trumbull (Bachelor alum, Ph.D student) and Dr. Kibby McMahon (psychologist, Intent FitHouse owner) co-host a podcast called, A Little Help For Our Friends.  The podcast sheds light on the psychological issues your loved ones could be struggling with and provides scientifically-informed perspectives on various mental health topics.A Little Help For Our Friends Website:: https://www.alittlehelpforourfriends.com/A Little Help For Our Friends Instagram:: https://www.instagram.com/alittlehelpforourfriends/ Follow Jacqueline:: https://www.instagram.com/trumbullina/Follow Kibby:: https://www.instagram.com/kibbymcm/

Marni welcomes the hosts of the mental health podcast, A Little Help for Our Friends, Jaqueline Trumbull, and Kibby McMahon. Jaqueline is a member of Bachelor Nation, a Ph. D. student at Duke, who studies how interpersonal functioning is impacted by personality, and shame, and contempt. Kibby is a Clinical Psychologist and a Yogi whose passion is in helping people connect more deeply with themselves and others.   Key takeaways from this episode:   Why we do what we do Changing our narrative Managing emotions The importance of trying something new in dating Applying a growth mindset to life   How Jaqueline & Kibby Came Together [5:01]   Jaqueline and Kibby met at Duke University. They discovered they had stimulating conversations together. Jaqueline had been on the Bachelor which created a bit of a social media following. The duo decided to create a podcast to use their power for good. The podcast, A Little Help for Our Friends, focused on the mental health sphere of people who were suffering collateral damage from mental health issues and personality disorders.   Why We Do What We Do [8:32]   The love we receive as a child becomes our narrative for what love should look like. It can create definitive schemas, which are the way we perceive ourselves in the world. It may be that we develop a schema that we don't deserve love or that we are not important in a relationship. As we grow older and get into relationships, we attract people who make us feel like love made us feel when we were smaller. We stay in the pattern until we change it and we play out stories that don't feel resolved.   The love you received as a child becomes your narrative for what love looks like in your life going forward.   Our identities are flexible and can change over time. We have a choice in the identity we want to take on. Some people are afraid of what change will look like for them. We can change without destabilizing ourselves.   Becoming Emotionally Bonded & Regulating Emotions [19:15]   Marni asks the co-hosts of A Little Help for Our Friends what contributes to our emotional bonding. At certain times in our lives, we may emotionally bond with people who fill certain needs even though they may not be suitable for long-term commitments. It's important to ask ourselves what the relationship is serving. If it fills an unmet need from childhood it may not last.   Happiness and living a meaningful life are living in accordance with our values. But, to know our values we have to dig deep into what we want for ourselves. Emotions make us do things that may not be aligned with our values. Negative emotions aren't bad, they just direct us to do certain things.   Inaction is a choice.   Make a Connection: Visit Our Website Plug Into Your Superpower Retreat — Apply at DatingwithDignity.com/pluginform Join Our Dating Den Facebook Community Here! Learn how to attract your perfect equal...watch our latest training here! Interested in working with us? Book a Breakthrough session at DWDVIP Get a Free Coaching Session with Marni on Our Podcast - Sign up Here to Be a Guest On Our Show Download a Complimentary Copy of our Book - How to Find a Quality Guy Without Going on 200 Dates A Little Help for Our Friends