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In this soul-rooted conversation of the Heal with Kat Podcast, Kat sits down with psychologist Betsy Holmberg to explore the deeper layers of negative self-talk, the neuroscience behind our inner world, and how shifting from the Default Mode Network (DMN) to the Central Executive Network (CEN) can transform our mental and emotional well-being. We dive into parts work, mindfulness, ancestral healing, and the tender complexity of the teenage mind—offering practical tools for navigating the voices within and coming back to a more compassionate, connected self.Time Stamps: 00:00 Introduction08:56 The Science Behind Our Thoughts09:06 The Default Mode Network Explained12:01 Control Issues and the DMN14:55 Ancestral Connections and Healing24:10 Practical Steps to Shift from DMN to CEN36:09 Voices in Our Heads: Understanding Inner Dialogue40:04 The Power of Parts Work in Healing57:00 Finding Stillness: The Balance Between DMN and CENConnect with Kat:

Hey friend! Ever spiral into negative self-talk and wonder why your brain just won't chill? You're not alone—and you're definitely not broken. In this episode of Adulting with Autism, I sit down with award-winning psychologist Dr. Betsy Holmberg, author of the upcoming book The Unkind Mind (releasing June 1 from New Harbinger Publications). But this isn't your typical therapy chat. Betsy's story starts with her own depression after divorce—and a turning point that didn't come from traditional talk therapy, but from neuroscience.

Send us a textMy guest Dr. Betsy Holmberg, is a joy to have had on my Podcast.  Author of Unkind Mind, and an award-winning psychologist and author specializing in overthinking and negative self-talk. She writes for Psychology Today and has been featured on radio, television, and podcasts. Her first book, Unkind Mind, comes out June 1 by New Harbinger Publications. Before settling into writing and therapy, Betsy ran the global behavioral health service line at McKinsey & Company, a premier consulting firm, where she ranked in the top 5% of all consultants. She also worked at Harvard and co-authored several peer-reviewed academic journal articles on non-suicidal self-injury and suicidal thoughts. She is trained in Cognitive-Behavioral and Dialectical Behavioral therapies, and has treated clients of various ages and presentations. Betsy received her doctorate, master's, and B.A. in Psychology from Duke University.It was a joy to have her on as a guest and learn about DMN and CEN.  CEN - Central Executive Network.  And the DMN is the Default Mode Network.  Are you intrigued?  I was.  In the days that followed this podcast, I was more aware of the DMN.  I am an overthinker.  She will reveal the difference in this Podcast.I love that Dr. Betsy brings up that an eating disorder, and so too alcoholism, or any addiction, is a "coping mechanism".  She didn't minimize this as just a problem. She clearly states that it is a "coping mechanism", without any judgment, yet with a solution.   I highly recommend you learn more about her and her book, which will be available starting June 1st, by visiting https://betsyholmberg.com/.  And you can pre-order!  I already did.  Available on Amazon and Barnes and Noble. The Unkind Mind.  What a great title.  Thank you, Dr. Betsy, for your time and for sharing your stories, your achievements, and your purpose from someone who overthinks even after recovering from bulimia.  This was truly insightful.Links:https://betsyholmberg.com/Unkind Mind Support the show

Send us a text! (add your email to get a response)Are your parents bad at dealing with difficult emotions? Do they fall apart, ignore, criticize or withdraw when you need them the most? Emotional immaturity in parents causes profound ripple effects through generations, creating patterns many of us don't recognize until we're deep into adulthood. Based on Dr. Lindsay Gibson's model of emotional immaturity, we describe the four distinct types of emotionally immature parents —emotional, driven, passive, and rejecting—and how each type uniquely shapes their children's development.We explore why this topic has exploded in popularity, tracing it back to historical contexts that shaped how each generation views parenting. When survival is the primary goal, emotional complexity takes a back seat, creating generations of parents who never developed the skills to handle their own emotions, let alone support their children's emotional growth.When children's own personal growth is stunted by a dysfunctional family,  they adopt specific roles as survival mechanisms that often persist into adulthood, limiting their full expression and causing recurring relationship challenges.Whether you're struggling with an emotionally immature parent or recognizing these patterns in yourself as a parent, we suggest a path toward healing. This path includes awareness, grieving what you didn't receive, exploring yourself beyond your family role, and developing boundaries based on mutual respect rather than obligation.If you're ready to break free from toxic dynamics with immature parents and discover your authentic self outside of these roles, book a free call with Dr. Kibby to learn how she can guide you through your healing journey.Resources:Gibson, L. C. (2015). Adult children of emotionally immature parents: How to heal from distant, rejecting, or self-involved parents. New Harbinger Publications.Support the showIf you have a loved one with mental or emotional problems, join KulaMind, our community and support platform. In KulaMind, work one on one with Dr. Kibby on learning how to set healthy boundaries, advocate for yourself, and support your loved one. *We only have a few spots left, so apply here if you're interested. Follow @kulamind on Instagram for science-backed insights on staying sane while loving someone emotionally explosive. For more info about this podcast, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.com Follow us on Instagram: @ALittleHelpForOurFriends

Alex, un chemsexeur en rétablissement, raconte en monologue et en chansons ses expériences des plus sombres aux plus lumineuses. Il dévoile son univers de consommation, depuis les premiers moments d'évasions à l'adolescence qui ont initié une quête d'identité où la et la sexualité ont occupé une grande place. Après avoir vécu une agression sexuelle et une psychose, Alex réalise que ces plaisirs extatiques peuvent parfois laisser des blessures profondes... Il raconte aussi avec beaucoup d'humilité comment sa découverte de la spiritualité, du retour à soi-même et de la méditation se sont dressés pour lui comme des phares d'espoir. Son récit, à la croisée de la résilience et l'acceptation de soi, se veut une invitation à SE choisir, d'abord et avant tout. Un balado proposé par Alex Avertissement : Dans cet épisode, il sera question de harcèlement psychologique et d'agression sexuelle. De plus, cet balado relate une relation abusive dans un contexte BDSM, spécifiquement de type maître-esclave. L'auteur tient à souligner que les relations de nature BDSM devraient être basées sur des fondements de respect et de consentement mutuel. Son expérience personnelle ne reflète pas les valeurs et principes partagés par les communautés BDSM.  Contient des extraits des chansons : «Tina, ma sirène mon doux crime», «Zoom ! Zoom! Tina!», «Mais il y a une étincelle» et «Incassables guerriers» crées par Wako disponibles sur Suno. https://suno.com/@woka888 Si vous souhaitez obtenir du soutien en lien avec le chemsex, consultez la liste de ressources et de services disponibles sur la page : Ressources / services chemsex. https://qollab.ca/ressources-services-chemsex/ Suggestions de lectures :  Stahl, B. (with Goldstein, E., Kabat-zinn, J., & Santorelli, S.). (2019). A Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Workbook (2nd ed). New Harbinger Publications.  Williams, R. E. (with Kraft, J. S.). (2022). The Mindfulness Workbook for Addiction: A Guide to Coping with the Grief, Stress, and Anger That Trigger Addictive Behaviors (2nd ed). New Harbinger Publications.

— It is believed that humans have been using psychedelic drugs since the dawn of civilization. In Western culture, however, only recently has science begun to understand how psychedelics may aid trauma healing. Whenever something terrible happens to you or you're in a harmful place for a long time, you are traumatized. Trauma can occur when you experience something terrible. In some cases, trauma develops when you are subjected to an extended period of harmful circumstances. It affects both the mind and body. Traditionally, mental health treatment has focused on talk therapy and medication, interventions that are often quite effective at relieving psychological distress. However, many mental health practitioners are now working with psychedelics and transforming their perspective on healing trauma. As a result, psychedelic treatment may provide a less painful means of accessing the interface between the unconscious and the body.  Valeria interviews Megan Salar  — She is the author of  “EMDR For Dummies and The EMDR Workbook for Trauma and PTSD: Skills to Manage Triggers, Move Beyond Traumatic Memories, and Take Back Your Life. Megan Salar, MSW, ACADC, is an EMDR Clinician, Trainer and Author who earned her Master's Degree in Clinical Social Work from Northwest Nazarene University in 2011. She has extensively been trained on the use of EMDR and other trauma based interventions and specializes in the areas of trauma, abuse, attachment and substance abuse. Megan has trained thousands of clinicians across the U.S. as well as internationally to get the most out of EMDR, trauma and addiction-based skills and practices. Megan previously owned/operated an intensive outpatient treatment center that was voted best in practice in 2019. She currently owns and operates her own Coaching, Consulting, and Training Business and is passionate about genuinely changing the landscape of mental health and trauma treatment through an authentic hands-on perspective that is uniquely her own. Megan is the author of the EMDR Workbook for Trauma and PTSD: Skills to Manage Triggers, Move Beyond Traumatic Memories; and Take Back Your Life released by New Harbinger Publications in May of 2023 and EMDR for Dummies  with Wiley Publishing set to release in June 2024.  To learn more about Megan Salar and her work, please visit: https://thementalsurvivalist.com

Craving Certainty? That need to be absolutely, undeniably, 100% sure before making a move? You're not alone. In this episode, I unravel why the struggle of dealing with uncertainty holds high performance perfectionists back, how to recognize it in your own life and take control of the fear uncertainty and doubt (so it stops controlling you!). You'll discover practical strategies to break free from the cage of high uncertainty avoidance and gain the confidence to move forward, even before every detail is known. Ready to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to create? Waiting for the right time won't get you there. Uncover how to joyfully play in the arena of your life by rewiring your perfectionistic tendencies inside  Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching that gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized TIMESTAMPS:00:00-High Uncertainty Avoidance
00:40-What Perfectionists ARE Secretly in Control Of
01:36-Why Perfectionists Crave Certainty
02:21-Examples of Uncertainty
03:39-The Myth of Ironclad Certainty
04:47-Uncertainty Tolerance is a Learnable Skill
05:34-Making Good Decisions
06:50-Moving Forward Even When You Don't Know The Outcome
07:27-Rewiring Perfectionism from the Inside Out Resources Mentioned In Episode 243:Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 Private CoachingImpeccable Boundaries Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 239Fixed Mindset Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 234Unlearning Learned Helplessness Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 202 Citations/Sources:Anderson, E. C., R. Nicholas Carleton, Diefenbach, M., & Paul. (2019). The Relationship Between Uncertainty and Affect. Frontiers in Psychology, 10. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2019.02504Reis-Dennis, S., Gerrity, M. S., & Geller, G. (2021). Tolerance for Uncertainty and Professional Development: a Normative Analysis. Journal of General Internal Medicine, 36(8), 2408–2413. https://doi.org/10.1007/s11606-020-06538-ySeif, M. N., & Winston, S. M. (2019). Needing to Know For Sure: A CBT-Based Guide to Overcoming Compulsive Checking and Reassurance Seeking . New Harbinger Publications.‌

You will walk away from this episode knowing how to relieve yourself of pain. Amber Davies is a board-certified myofascial trigger point therapist and Kentucky-licensed massage therapist. She has been using problem-solving massage techniques to treat people with chronic and acute pain conditions professionally since 2001. In addition to treating clients hands-on, Amber also teaches simple self-treatment techniques as part of their routine home care. Amber co-authored the best-selling book The Trigger Point Therapy Workbook: Your Self-Treatment Guide for Pain Relief with her late father, Clair Davies. While Clair is still listed as the lead author, Amber revised the book for a third edition after his death. The Trigger Point Therapy Workbook is published in the US by New Harbinger Publications and is available internationally in over 20 languages. Amber Davies has extensive experience teaching problem-solving massage in continuing education courses for manual therapists and trigger point self-care to chronic and acute pain patients. She brings her wisdom and DIY teachings to this episode of the podcast!   Buy The Trigger Point Therapy Workbook here: https://www.amazon.com/shop/paulaswope/list/PJ5UZ28B5BE3?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_aipsflist_aipsfpaulaswope_BVZK5QNZ8F23X8TTQVTJ   To contact Amber Davies, visit: www.NewDayMyopain.com

Dr Alice Bennett is a Registered Psychologist at HMP Frankland and has worked in the Prison Service since 2006, mainly within discrete units for those who are considered high-risk in high secure prisons. Outside of the prison walls, Alice engages in research and is a journal reviewer. She advocates practitioners publishing work as well as promoting co-working between academia and practice. Dr Rachel Worthington is a Registered Psychologist and a Senior Lecturer at Manchester Metropolitan University. Rachel has with over 20 years' experience of working with clients inprisons, secure psychiatric hospitals and in the community. Her clinical work focuses on assessment and delivery of therapy for adult and adolescent clients with personality difficulties, mental illness, intellectual disabilities and acquired brain injury. More recently, she has developed a tool (the ‘Brain Friendly Passport') to support people with neurodiversity to access more tailored support. Rachel has published widely onneurodiversity, and improving pedagogical approaches in Forensic Psychology. Key references: Dawson, P., & Guare, R. (2016). The smart but scattered guide to success: How to use your brain's executive skills to keep up, stay calm, and get organized at work and at home. Guilford Publications. Honos-Webb, L. (2010). The gift of ADHD: How to transform your child's problems into strengths. New Harbinger Publications. Ramsay, J. R., & Rostain, A. L. (2014). The adult ADHD tool kit: Using CBT to facilitate coping inside and out. Routledge. Sedgwick, J.A., Merwood, A. & Asherson, P. (2019). The positive aspects of attention deficit hyperactivity disorder: a qualitative investigation of successful adults with ADHD. ADHD Attention Deficit and Hyperactivity Disorders, 11(3), 241–253. Solanto, M. V. (2011). Cognitive-behavioral therapy for adult ADHD: Targeting executive dysfunction. Guilford Press. Worthington, R. E., & Bennett, A. (2023). Improving access to forensic psychology education and training for learners with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). Forensic Update, 144, 32-39.

EPISODE #1070 LESSONS FROM THE AFTERLIFE Richard speaks with psychologist Matthew McKay who reveals how he began Channeling his late son, Jordan, a discarnate soul who has lived hundreds of lives. McKay shares Jordan's lessons on the mysteries of human existence, including what the divine or god is, the nature of a soul, the nature of matter and energy, the role of love in our lives, and the origin of the universe. GUEST: Matthew McKay, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist, professor of psychology at the Wright Institute, founder of the Berkeley CBT Clinic, and co-founder of the Bay Area Trauma Recovery Clinic, which serves low-income clients. He has authored and co-authored more than 40 books, including Seeking Jordan, The Luminous Landscape of the Afterlife, and Love in the Time of Impermanence. The retired publisher of New Harbinger Publications, he lives in Berkeley, California. WEBSITE: https://seekingjordan.com BOOKS: Seeking Jordan: How I Learned the Truth about Death and the Invisible Universe The Luminous Landscape of the Afterlife: Jordan's Message to the Living on What to Expect after Death Lessons from the Afterlife: A Deep Knowledge Meditation Guidebook SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS!!! BIRCH GOLD GROUP - The Precious Metal IRA Specialists Diversify a portion of your savings into GOLD with Birch Gold Group. Gold is your hedge against inflation, and Birch Gold makes it EASY to own. Text STRANGE to 989898 and get your free info-kit on gold, then talk to a precious metals specialist on how to protect your savings from persistent inflation with gold. Text STRANGE to 989898 now. THE WELLNESS COMPANY - Own Your Wellness, Own Your Health, Own Your Freedom The comprehensive Med Kit is meticulously stocked with 8 potentially life saving medicines to address injuries and emergencies. It's your safety net for the unexpected. Visit https://www.twc.health/strangeplanet and secure your Emergency MED Kit. Use CODE STRANGEPLANET to receive 10% off BECOME A PREMIUM SUBSCRIBER!!! https://strangeplanet.supportingcast.fm Three monthly subscriptions to choose from. Commercial Free Listening, Bonus Episodes and a Subscription to my monthly newsletter, InnerSanctum. We and our partners use cookies to personalize your experience, to show you ads based on your interests, and for measurement and analytics purposes. By using our website and services, you agree to our use of cookies as described in our Cookie Policy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://strangeplanet.supportingcast.fm/

In this week's episode we speak start with a few reflections on NAIDOC Week and how Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander ways of knowing, being, and doing add to our profession. Next, we speak with Dr Alice Hart from Curtin University about an approach for stuttering that includes both fluency and cognitive/behavioural supports. She discusses elements of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and the role that mindfulness and acceptance/values-focus can play in the fluency, communication, and quality of life for people who stutter. Resources: ACT Mindfully. (2024). Free resources. https://www.actmindfully.com.au/free-stuff/ Beilby, J., & Yaruss, J. S. (2018). Acceptance and Commitment Therapy for stuttering disorders. In B. J. Amster & E. R. Klein (Eds.), More than fluency: The social, emotional, and cognitive dimensions of stuttering (pp. 111-130). Plural Publishing, Inc. Harris, R. (2019). ACT Made Simple (2nd ed.). New Harbinger Publications, Inc. Hart, A. K., Breen, L. J., & Beilby, J. M. (2021). Evaluation of an integrated fluency and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy intervention for adolescents and adults who stutter: Participant perspectives. Journal of Fluency Disorders, 69, 105852. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jfludis.2021.105852 Hart, A. K., Breen, L. J., Hennessey, N. W., & Beilby, J. M. (2024). Evaluation of an integrated fluency and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy intervention for adolescents and adults who stutter. Journal of Speech, Language, and Hearing Research, 67, 1003-1019. https://doi.org/10.1044/2023_JSLHR-23-00252 Speak-Up S05 E36: Stutter-affirming approaches and positive stuttering identity with Dr Christopher Constantino: https://soundcloud.com/speechpathologyaustralia/stutter-affirming-approaches-and-positive-stuttering-identity-s05e36 NAIDOC week resources: NAIDOC: https://www.naidoc.org.au/ Fed square flag raising: https://fedsquare.com/events/naidoc-week-2023-flag-raising NAIDOC week events: https://www.naidoc.org.au/local-events/local-naidoc-week-events First Nations Classic books series one: https://www.uqp.com.au/books/pack-of-eight-first-nations-classics First Nations Classic books series two: https://www.uqp.com.au/books/pack-of-eight-first-nations-classics-series-two SPA Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander Culturally Responsive Capability Framework: https://www.speechpathologyaustralia.org.au/public/libraryviewer?ResourceID=884

A guided journey to discover your soul's answers to life's great questions• Offers a step-by-step process to unleash the unconscious and intuitive wisdom held in the awareness of your soul: Deep Knowledge Meditation• Includes guided journal prompts to help you listen to your heart and shine a light on your own deepest wisdom and soul knowledge• Shares channeled lessons from the author's late son Jordan on the mysteries of human existence, including what the divine or god is, the nature of a soul, the nature of matter and energy, the role of love in our lives, and the origin of the universeHuman life is surrounded by mystery. At the center of this mystery are the questions: Why are we here? Is there a purpose to our existence, a reason why we're experiencing the beauty and pain of physical life? There is also the mystery of the universe itself. What is it and where did it come from? Religious and spiritual traditions have created complex cosmologies to answer these questions, but each tradition has a different answer, and we are left with profound uncertainty about deeper reality. As psychologist Matthew McKay reveals, we can each discover our own answers to these questions, our own inner truth, by connecting with the wisdom of our souls.In this guided workbook, McKay offers a step-by-step process to unleash the unconscious and intuitive wisdom held in the awareness of your soul. He explains how to use Deep Knowledge Meditation to access all of your soul's accumulated knowledge, everything you have learned across all of your incarnations. Channeling his late son, Jordan, a discarnate soul who has lived hundreds of lives, McKay shares Jordan's lessons on the mysteries of human existence, including what the Divine or God is, the nature of a soul, the nature of matter and energy, the role of love in our lives, and the origin of the universe. Accompanying these channeled teachings are journal prompts to be used with Deep Knowledge Meditation to help you listen to your heart and shine a light on your own deepest wisdom and soul knowledge.Guiding you on a journey of self-discovery, this book offers the opportunity to find your soul's truth about your life's purpose and the nature of physical reality.Matthew McKay, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist, professor of psychology at the Wright Institute, founder of the Berkeley CBT Clinic, and cofounder of the Bay Area Trauma Recovery Clinic, which serves low-income clients. He has authored and coauthored more than 40 books, including Seeking Jordan, The Luminous Landscape of the Afterlife, and Love in the Time of Impermanence. The retired publisher of New Harbinger Publications, he lives in Berkeley, California.https://seekingjordan.com/Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/earth-ancients--2790919/support.

In this episode, I speak with Dr. Matthew McKay about his most recent book... 'Lessons form the Afterlife: A Deep Knowledge Meditation Guidebook'. This fantastic book breaks down with the journey Dr. McKay took from dealing with the tragedy of the murder of his son Jordan, to the triumph of connecting with him in the afterlife. From there, Matthew talks about the dialogues that he and his son have, which through Jordan, have outlined some of the deepest mysteries of the universe. We also talk about how the books shows the you the concept of 'Deep Knowledge Meditation', and Matt teaches us a technique on how to effectively channel! An amazing episode.. Drop in!www.seekingjordan.comDr. Mathew McKay Bio:Matthew McKay, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist, professor of psychology at the Wright Institute, founder of the Berkeley CBT Clinic, and cofounder of the Bay Area Trauma Recovery Clinic, which serves low-income clients. He has authored and co-authored more than 40 books, including Seeking Jordan, The Luminous Landscape of the Afterlife, and Love in the Time of Impermanence. He lives in Berkeley, California, the retired publisher of New Harbinger Publications. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Matthew McKay, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist, professor of psychology atthe Wright Institute, cofounder of Haight Ashbury Psychological Services,founder of the Berkeley CBT Clinic, and cofounder of the Bay Area TraumaRecovery Clinic, which serves low-income clients. He has authored andcoauthored more than 40 books, including The Relaxation and Stress ReductionWorkbook and Seeking Jordan. The publisher of New Harbinger Publications,he lives in Berkeley, California --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theanthonyrogersshow/message

For episode 236, Sharon is in conversation with Sameet Kumar, Ph.D. Sameet is the clinical psychologist for the Memorial Cancer Institute.Sameet specializes in working with cancer patients and their caregivers. He is the author of Grieving Mindfully, The Mindful Path Through Worry and Rumination. He is part of a new anthology, coming out in May of 2024 from New Harbinger Publications, How to Grieve What We've Lost.In this episode, Sharon and Sameet discuss:How Sameet came to grief counselingAmerican culture's denial of the first noble truthThe human experience of pain/pleasureGrief is whatever it is to youThe non-existent timeline for griefWidening the scope of what losses affect usThe tools of ACT, CBT and Mindfulness for griefSameet's new anthology bookDampening the grief stress response Sameet's support of COVID front-line workersWorking with add-ons The role of Ram Dass in Sameet's lifeSameet closes the conversation with a guided meditation on the refuge tree. You can learn more about Sameet's work right here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Join Dr. Tim Fuller in this enlightening episode of "ABA On Call" as we break down the fundamentals of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and its practical applications in behavior analysis. To earn CEUs for listening, click here, log in or sign up, pay the CEU fee, + take the attendance verification to generate your certificate! Don't forget to subscribe and follow and leave us a rating and review.   Show Notes References 1. Harris, R. (2019). ACT made simple: An easy-to-read primer on acceptance and commitment therapy (2nd ed.). New Harbinger Publications.  2. Hayes, S. C. (2004). Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Relational Frame Theory, and the third wave of behavior therapy. Behavior Therapy, 35 , 639-665.  3. Hayes, S. C., Barnes-Holmes, D., & Roche, B. (2001). Relational frame theory: A post-Skinnerian account of human language and cognition . Springer Science & Business Media.  4. Association for Contextual Behavioral Science (ACBS). (n.d.). Retrieved from [https://contextualscience.org/]       

In this episode of The Behavioral View, Dr. Lori Ochoa joins us to talk about the application of ACT principles to our daily lives. Whether integrating it into work with children and families or guiding our personal experience of the environment, the session offers a refreshing perspective on personal and professional growth. The content takes a deeper dive into the concepts of acceptance and self-as-context, shedding light on the transformative potential of ACT in behavior training.    To earn CEUs for listening, click here, log in or sign up, pay the CEU fee, + take the attendance verification to generate your certificate! Don't forget to subscribe and follow and leave us a rating and review.   Show Notes References: Partington, J. W. (2006). Assessment of Basic Language and Learning Skills-Revised (ABLLS-R). Behavior Analysts Inc. Partington, J. W., & Mueller, M. M. (2012). Assessment of Functional Living Skills (AFLS). Behavior Analysts Inc. Hayes, S.C. (2004). Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life: The New Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. New Harbinger Publications. Resources: ACT Bootcamp CR Assessments Website

#103-Ever wondered if older people get anxious just like young folks do?  Turns out, older adults can get anxious too, but it might look a bit different than what younger people experience. In this episode, we explore the questions:1. How does anxiety manifest differently in older adults compared to younger individuals?2. What biological, psychological, and social factors contribute to anxiety in seniors?3. What is the difference between everyday stress and an anxiety disorder in an older individual?4. What strengths and resiliencies do older adults bring with them to help them cope with anxiety?5. What is an effective CBT tool that can assist older adults in managing their anxiety?6. What can healthcare providers do to better support older adults who are experiencing anxiety?7. What can family caregivers do to better support older adults who are experiencing anxiety?About today's guest: Dr. Julie Erickson is a clinical psychologist in private practice and adjunct faculty member in the Department of Applied Psychology and Human Development at the University of Toronto in Toronto, Canada. Dr. Erickson is interested in optimizing evidence-based psychological treatment for older adults and reducing their barriers to treatment-seeking. She maintains an active clinical practice with adults across the lifespan and provides education to the public and mental health professionals on aging and mental health. Her book, The Aging Well Workbook for Anxiety and Depression, was released on October 1, 2023 by New Harbinger Publications. Link to show notes here. Stop feeling ineffective and stuck when working with older adults with memory loss in your therapy practice. Click here to get access to my free 10-minute training and bonus workbook. Attention Social Workers, Therapists, Counselors, Psychologists, Aging Life Care Experts... Click here to get Continuing Education Credits

In this episode we speak with Dr. Keith McCormick about the functional management of osteoporosis. Dr. McCormick is a board-certified chiropractic physician in the states of Massachusetts, Colorado, and California, and has been in clinical practice since 1982. He is passionate about helping individuals with osteoporosis regain their skeletal health through a functional medicine approach. In 2011 he founded Osteo Naturals, LLC, a company dedicated to providing information and quality nutrition products to individuals with bone loss. Dr. McCormick earned his bachelor's degree in Human Biology at Stanford University and his doctorate at the National College of Chiropractic. He is an instrument-rated commercial pilot and a U.S. Army Veteran. Sports have always played a vital part in Dr. McCormick's life. At Stanford, he competed on the varsity cross-country and fencing teams. As a junior, he was the silver medalist in the 1973 Modern Pentathlon World Championships. Then in 1975 he won the North American Championship and the following year was a member of the United States Olympic Modern Pentathlon Team that competed in the XXI Olympiad in Montreal. He is the former U.S. record holder (1976) for most points scored in a pentathlon competition. Dr. McCormick continues to compete in triathlons of all distances and has completed six Ironman competitions – five of them after recovering from multiple osteoporosis-related fractures. He is the author of: Osteoporosis: Integrating Biomarkers and Other Diagnostic Correlates into the Management of Bone Fragility published in Alternative Medicine Review, June 2007. The Whole-Body Approach to Osteoporosis released by New Harbinger Publications in May 2009. And his newest book, Great Bones – Taking Control of Your Osteoporosis, published March 2023. Learning Points: -The role of inflammation in osteoporosis -Fatty bone marrow & osteoporosis. -Key laboratory testing for patients with osteoporosis -Essential dietary & lifestyle interventions to manage osteoporosis Websites: https://www.osteonaturals.com/

Drama queens, crybabies, whiners, wet blankets – Highly Sensitive People (HSP) have been labelled all of these things and more, when the truth is, there's a lot of things most people fail to understand about the concept. HSP was originated by Dr. Elaine N. Aron (1996), and it refers to an inherent, biological predisposition some people have to process and perceive information on a much deeper level. If you're an HSP, then you think and feel things with greater intensity, in a way that many others can't understand. Sometimes, HSP are mistaken as empaths. Do you know someone who might be an HSP? Do you agree with these signs? #hsp #highlysensitivepeson #psych2go Join Our Psych2Go Premium Podcast Now! https://psych2go.supercast.com Credits Script Writer: Chloe Avanasa Script Editor: Rida Batool & Kelly Soong VO: Amanda Silvera Animator: Winshard - https://www.youtube.com/user/NathanShawnRockheart YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong Special Thanks: WeTheKim https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCU0tDOJ1f_eV6E67_WfDjEQ References and sources: Aron, E. N. (1996). Counseling the highly sensitive person. Counseling and Human Development, 28, 1-7. Piechowski, M. M. (1997). Emotional giftedness: The measure of intrapersonal intelligence. Handbook of gifted education, 2, 366-381. Aron, E. (2013). The highly sensitive person. Kensington Publishing Corp.. Sand, I. (2016). Highly Sensitive People in an Insensitive World: How to Create a Happy Life. Jessica Kingsley Publishers. Zeff, T. (2004). The Highly Sensitive Person's Survival Guide: Essential Skills for Living Well in an Overstimulating World. New Harbinger Publications. Aron, A., Aron, E., Jagiellowicz, J., Xu, X., Cao, G., Feng, T., & Weng, X. (2010) The trait of sensory processing sensitivity and neural responses to changes in visual scenes. Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience, 6, 38-47. Interested in animating for Psych2Go, contact editorial@psych2go.net

Highly Sensitive Person (or HSP for short) is someone who is born with an innate disposition of processing and understanding information on a much deeper level than most. This makes HSPs more perceptive, self-aware, intuitive, and observant because of their deep-thinking and empathetic nature. Recent surveys show that up to 15-20% of the global population are Highly Sensitive People – that's as many as 1 in every 5 people all over the world! Still, even with so many of us experiencing the same thing, Highly Sensitive People remain misunderstood by those around them. So many HSPs don't even realize that they're HSPs because there is so little awareness about the matter. So, we made a list of things HSPs do differently from others to help you understand more about how HSPs think. If you think you're an HSP but still not entirely sure yet, we have a video on signs you're a highly sensitive person: https://youtu.be/zP1Ac8fXBjE Writer: Chloe Avenasa Script Editor: Rida Batool Script Manager: Kelly Soong VO: Amanda Silvera Animator: Karen Fong YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong Aron, E. N. (1996). Counseling the highly sensitive person. Counseling and Human Development, 28, 1-7. Aron, E. (2013). The highly sensitive person. Kensington Publishing Corp. Cooper, T. (2015). The Ordinary Magic of Resilience and the Highly Sensitive Person. The Guilford Press, New York: NY. Greven, C., Lionetti, F., Boothe, C., Aron, E., Fox. E., Schendang, H., Pluess, M., Bruining, H., Acevedo, B., Bijttebier, P., and Homberga, J. (2019), Sensory Processing Sensitivity in the context of Environmental Sensitivity: A critical review and development of research agenda. Neuroscience & Biobehavioral Reviews. Volume 98, March 2019, 287-305.Piechowski, M. M. (2017). Emotional giftedness: The measure of intrapersonal intelligence. Handbook of gifted education, 2, 366-381. Zeff, T. (2004). The Highly Sensitive Person's Survival Guide: Essential Skills for Living Well in an Overstimulating World. New Harbinger Publications. If you have any personal stories and video requests you would like to share with us, please email us at editorial@psych2go.net

It is the start of the summer slowdown where I'll post less often as I try to catch up on my sleep and elocution skills. I've been talking a lot lately and I can hear multiple imperfections.  Really a bad idea to do five things at the same time.    Anyway, last week's error has created this episode. As a standing warning. Never upgrade as you are working on a project. I've gotten away with it before but not last week. It destroyed my audio file. Totally my fault. I knew better but didn't do better.   This week is the definition of PTSD and some but not all of the accessible resources you might want to check out if you don't know about the condition. If you need support contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988 or 1-800-273-8255, the Trevor Project at 1-866-488-7386 or text “START” to 741-741. Resources Mentioned:  Mending the Line  Blue Sky Entertainment official movie trailer on YouTube.   Field and Stream interview with director Joshua Caldwell about the movie and the challenges in bring it to the screen. PTSD Resources Books   For African Americans, there is a book called The Pain We Carry, Healing from Complex PTSD for People of Color. by Natalie Y. Gutierrez and published by New Harbinger Publications.   Very Well Mind List of Books About PTSD   National Institute of Mental Health information page about PTSD, you can download the NIH booklet. The Center has podcast called PTSD Bytes where you can get small audio chunks of information about the condition and tips for handling it.    Audio/Video   The Veterans Administration has a short whiteboard video that explains the basics of PTSD for military folk.  Psych2Go has an explainer video on Complex PTSD or C-PTSD.   This is a link to the Audible.com search page on audiobooks that deal with PTSD topics.   The podcast Talking Later Veteran Stories of Late Life PTSD. You can listen via Spreaker or Apple Podcast   Informational   What are the symptoms of PSTD from ADAA.org. There is also a ADAA.org PTSD support group that you can join to ask questions or share concerns.    Helpguide.org page on what is Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and your treatment options. This site also has veteran specific information and has info on the various types of PTSD.  Psychology Today post on Conquer Anxiety, One Small Step at a Time, A solution-focused approach to overcoming fear, worry, and stress. Disclaimer:  Links to other sites are provided for information purposes only and do not constitute endorsements.  Always seek the advice of a qualified health provider with questions you may have regarding a medical or mental health disorder. This blog and podcast is intended for informational and educational purposes only. Nothing in this program is intended to be a substitute for professional psychological, psychiatric or medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.  

Join us as we explore the complex relationship and differences between choice, freedom, and agency in animal training; and delve into whether our current discussions surrounding agency are truly reaping the benefits described in the current literature to empower animals. The science is clear, agency isn't an aspiration, it's a prerequisite and fundamental component of instructional design. Don't miss out on this thought-provoking journey! Click here for a transcript of this episode. References:  Bandura, A. (n.d.). Agency. Albert Bandura Social Psychology. https://albertbandura.com/albert-bandura-agency.html  Bandura, A. (1977). Self-efficacy: Toward a unifying theory of behavioral change. Psychological Review, 84, 191-215. Desnoyer, Brittany & Liu, Kimy. (2022). Personal Agency as a Component of Applied Behavior Analysis. Intervention in School and Clinic. 105345122211405. 10.1177/10534512221140529.  Hebert, Emmie & Flynn, Maureen & Wilson, Kelly & Kellum, Karen. (2021). Values Intervention as an Establishing Operation for Approach in the Presence of Aversive Stimuli. Journal of Contextual Behavioral Science. 20. 10.1016/j.jcbs.2021.04.001.  Maier SF, Seligman ME. Learned helplessness at fifty: Insights from neuroscience. Psychol Rev. 2016 Jul;123(4):349-67. doi: 10.1037/rev0000033. PMID: 27337390; PMCID: PMC4920136. Ming, S., Gould, E., & Fiebig, J. H. (2023). Understanding and applying relational frame theory: Mastering the foundations of complex language in our work and lives as behavior analysts. Context Press, New Harbinger Publications, Inc.  Veilleux, J. C. (2023). A Theory of Momentary Distress Tolerance: Toward Understanding Contextually Situated Choices to Engage With or Avoid Distress. Clinical Psychological Science, 11(2), 357–380. https://doi.org/10.1177/21677026221118327 Wilson, K. G., & DuFrene, T. (2009). Mindfulness for Two: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Approach to Mindfulness in Psychotherapy. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger.

Love in the Time of Impermanence – How to Continue When Everything You Love is Lost with Matt McKayLivestreaming Thursday, 25 May 2023 at 7:00 AM PST/10:00 AM EST on OMTimes Magazine Facebook, OMTimes Radio & TV Facebook, OMTimesTV Youtube and the Sandie Sedgbeer Facebook PageWe live in a world where nothing lasts. Everything we love—the relationships, places, and things we most count on, even our own bodies—will change or be lost. But, as psychologist Matthew McKay shows, the certainty of change and loss can support rather than diminish love. For at the heart of pain and loss is love.In his latest book, Love in the Time of Impermanence, Matthew McKay in collaboration with his late son, Jordan, discusses:• Why, according to his son Jordan, there so much pain in life• How pain and loss can be pathways to love• How to maintain loving relationships to souls in spirit?• How we can love what we don't like• Practices and meditations to help love endure in the face of loss, disappointment, change, or any of the ways relationships and circumstances are altered by time… and moreMATTHEW MCKAY, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist, professor of psychology at the Wright Institute, founder of the Berkeley CBT Clinic, cofounder of the Bay Area Trauma Recovery Clinic, which serves low-income clients, and the founder of New Harbinger Publications. He has authored and co-authored more than 40 books, including The Relaxations and Stress Reduction Workbook, Seeking Jordan, and The Luminous Landscape of the Afterlife.#MattMcKay #SandieSedgbeer #WhatIsGoingOMVisit the What Is Going OM show page https://omtimes.com/iom/shows/what-is-going-omConnect with Sandie Sedgbeer at https://www.sedgbeer.comSubscribe to our Newsletter https://omtimes.com/subscribe-omtimes-magazine/Connect with OMTimes on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/Omtimes.Magazine/ and OMTimes Radio https://www.facebook.com/ConsciousRadiowebtv.OMTimes/Twitter: https://twitter.com/OmTimes/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/omtimes/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/c/OMTimesTVLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/2798417/Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/omtimes/

Las relaciones familiares no son fáciles, todos somos seres imperfectos y en nuestras interacciones podemos lastimar sin darnos cuenta y salir lastimados. En este episodio hablamos de ciertos comportamientos tóxicos por parte de los abuelos que pueden contaminar la armonía entre los familiares. Hablamos de cómo podemos cambiar patrones disfuncionales que tal vez llevamos años repitiendo para construir ambientes familiares más sanos. Referencias:Gibson. L. (2015). Niños adultos de padres emocionalmente inmaduros: Cómo curar de padres distantes, rechazados o autoinvolucrados. New Harbinger Publications. Gibson. L. (2021). Self-Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: Honor Your Emotions, Nurture Your Self, and Live with Confidence. New Harbinger Publications. Mathews, A. (2017). Letting Go of Good: Dispel the Myth of Goodness to Find Your Genuine Self. Llewellyn Publications.

Event Objectives:Understand the factors that maintain anxiety disorders and OCD.Identify cognitive behavioral interventions in the treatment of anxiety disorders and OCD.Understand the impact of family accommodation on anxiety and OCD.Mentioned Resources:https://instituteofliving.org/programs-services/center-for-school-engagement/attendance-tipsRapee, R., Wignall, A., Spence, S., Cobham, V., & Lyneham, H. (2022). Helping your anxious child: A step-by-step guide for parents. New Harbinger Publications.https://www.amazon.com/Helping-Anxious-Child-Step-Step/dp/1684039916Lebowitz, E. R. (2020). Breaking free of child anxiety and OCD: A scientifically proven program for parents. Oxford University Press.https://www.amazon.com/Breaking-Free-Child-Anxiety-Scientifically/dp/0190883529

Join Chaz as he dives deep into Matt's story, learning about his initial aspirations to become a professional guitar player and his path through law school and private practice before catching the entrepreneurial bug. Discover how Matt's love for craft beer and his unique vision for Bauhaus Brew Labs, inspired by the Bauhaus school's tenant of intertwining work, play, and celebration, led him to create a welcoming and communal space focused on lighter beer styles to bring people together.Matt shares valuable insights on the importance of reflecting core values in every aspect of a business, like Bauhaus' focus on celebration, and the benefits of implementing systems and processes like Traction EOS for growth and alignment within the company.During this episode, you will learn about;[01:57] Intro to Matt and his business[03:49] Matt's Why[06:04] The reality of living out your childhood dream[09:24] Matt's journey from law to founding a brewery[12:38] Businesses don't fail, entrepreneurs quit[23:02] How Matt moved the business past COVID into more enjoyable times[26:26] A good decision Matt made in his business[28:35] A bad decision Matt made in his business[32:04] Matt's #1 KPI[35:16] Matt's opinion on networking and masterminding[40:23] Matt's experience with managing marriage, life, and business[43:25] If he could speak to his younger self, what would Matt say?[44:10] How to connect with Matt[45:00] Info on Gathering The Kings Mastermind Notable Quotes"You can either quit or persist." - Matt Schwandt"Most entrepreneurs, um," (This quote is incomplete, please provide the complete quote.)"Many entrepreneurs don't realize the importance of becoming marketing experts." - Matt Schwandt"You can either quit or persist." - Chaz Wolfe (Host)"Many entrepreneurs don't realize the importance of becoming marketing experts." - Chaz Wolfe (Host)Books and Resources Recommended:Wrigley, J.A. (2021). The Culture Climb. Independently Published.Purchase on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1737631200/Miller, D. (2017). Building A StoryBrand: Clarify Your Message So Customers Will Listen. HarperCollins Leadership.Purchase on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0718033329/Miller, D., & Mask, J. (2020). Marketing Made Simple: A Step-by-Step StoryBrand Guide for Any Business. HarperCollins Leadership.Purchase on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1400215349/Wickman, G. (2011). Traction: Get a Grip on Your Business. BenBella Books.Purchase on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1936661837/Coyle, D. (2018). The Culture Code: The Secrets of Highly Successful Groups. Bantam Books.Purchase on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0804176981/Singer, M.A. (2007). The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself. New Harbinger Publications.Purchase on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1572245379/Singer, M.A. (2015). The Surrender Experiment: My Journey into Life's Perfection. Harmony.Purchase on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/080414110X/Let's Connect!Matt Schwandt:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/matt-schwandt-360aba243/Instagram:

I freely admit that I mentioned can soda too many times in this episode. But it had a profound effect on my body and parts of my brain.    There are folks that use other substances in excess to deal with their symptoms or whatever else is going on with them. For me, it was sugar drinks and pastries.    Almost never met a donut I didn't like.   I no longer beat myself up on wanting to scarf up a sweet treat.  I do get pissed at myself when I do eat a problem food. There are repercussions.     Messed myself up on a piece of pie.  There are always repercussions when you do something you should not do.    It is important to understand that we as human beings tend to look for relief when we are in discomfort.  It is what we do.   In this episode, a look at a book from New Harbinger Publications on just in time help for anxiety.   If you need support contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988 or 1-800-273-8255, the Trevor Project at 1-866-488-7386 or text “START” to 741-741. Resources Mentioned:  The Anxiety First Aid Kit, Quick Tools for Extreme, Uncertain Times by Rick Hansen, et al.   New Harbinger Publications search results for Anxiety Books. Dr. Ali Mattu has a YouTube video on 10 quick anxiety relief techniques. Dr. Mattu has a bunch of videos on a variety of mental health and psychology topics on his channel.   Disclaimer:  Links to other sites are provided for information purposes only and do not constitute endorsements.  Always seek the advice of a qualified health provider with questions you may have regarding a medical or mental health disorder. This blog and podcast is intended for informational and educational purposes only. Nothing in this program is intended to be a substitute for professional psychological, psychiatric or medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

Woher kommt das Bedürfnis zu kontrollieren? Können wir lernen, die Dinge etwas mehr loszulassen? Wie helfen unsere Werte, den Balanceakt aus Steuern und Laufenlassen zu meistern? Und was haben diese Fragen mit einer Schnecke zu tun? Unsicherheit ist anstrengend für den Menschen und löst das Bedürfnis aus, zu kontrollieren und Stabilität zu schaffen. Gleichzeitig gewöhnt sich der Mensch schnell an Zustände und beginnt sich zu langweilen. Eine Dynamik, die dafür sorgt, dass es keinen äußeren Zustand gibt, der für immer glücklich macht.In der ersten Folge in diesem Jahr sprechen Boris und Sinja über Möglichkeiten und Wege, mit den teils widerstreitenden Kräften in uns zu tanzen. Sie erkunden, wie es gelingt, unsere Bedürfnisse nach Abenteuer und nach Sicherheit gleichermaßen zu berücksichtigen.Show Notes:Hayes, S. C. (2005). Get out of your mind and into your life: The new acceptance and commitment therapy. New Harbinger Publications. Unsere allgemeinen Datenschutzrichtlinien finden Sie unter https://art19.com/privacy. Die Datenschutzrichtlinien für Kalifornien sind unter https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info abrufbar.

Why are women judged for their size? What if you decided that you had the right to remain fat? This episode explores: Our born desire to like ourselves as we are. How we get shamed out of that at such a young age, and so very quickly. How hard it is to re-learn how to like yourself. Why our cultural commitment to fat-phobia harms us all. A Discussion of the book You Have the Right To Remain Fat. Our guest is: Virgie Tovar, who is an author, activist, and a lecturer on weight-based discrimination and body image. She holds a Master's degree in Sexuality Studies with a focus on the intersections of body size, race and gender. She edited the anthology Hot & Heavy: Fierce Fat Girls on Life, Love and Fashion (Seal Press, November 2012), is the author of You Have the Right to Remain Fat (Feminist Press August 2018), The Self-Love Revolution: Radical Body Positivity for Girls of Color (New Harbinger Publications 2020), and The Body Positive Journal (Chronicle Books 2022). She has received three San Francisco Arts Commission Individual Artist Commissions as well as Yale's Poynter Fellowship in Journalism. Our host is: Dr. Christina Gessler, a historian of women and gender. Listeners to this episode may also be interested in: Fatty Fatty Boom Boom, by Rabia Chaudry What We Don't Talk About When We Talk About Fat, by Aubrey Gordon Belly of the Beast: The Politics of Anti-Fatness, by Da'Shaun L. Harrison Fearing the Black Body: The Racial Origins of Fat Phobia, by Sabrina Strings The Body is Not An Apology, Second Edition, by Sonya Renee Taylor Welcome to The Academic Life! On the Academic Life channel we embrace a broad definition of what it means to lead an academic life. We view education as a transformative human endeavor and are inspired by today's knowledge-producers working inside and outside the academy. Find us on Twitter: @AcademicLifeNBN. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/politics-and-polemics

Michael A. Tompkins, PhD has just published the anxiety & depression workbook for teens: simple cbt skills to help you deal with anxiety, worry, and sadness with New Harbinger Publications. He a cofounder of the San Francisco Bay Area Center for Cognitive Therapy, an Assistant Clinical Professor at the Universtiy of California at Berkleley and an adjunt faculty at the Beck Institute for Cognitve Therapy. Among his other publications relevant to this podcast are My Anxious Mind: A Teens Guide to Managing Anxiety and Panic and Zero to 60: A Teen's Guide to Manage Frustration, Anger and Everyday Irritations. Given the documented increase in the prevalence of depression and anxiety in teens, this is a timely and important topic that I was fortunate to talk with Dr Tompkins about.  

In This Episode: Amy Mariaskin, PhD shares her new book, Thriving in relationships when you have ocd What is Family accommodation and how does it apply to ocd Ocd family accommodation vs family support,  What is OCD reassurance and how it can creep into one's relationship Relationship ocd, also known as rOCD Relationship issues with ocd and how to manage them Sexual orientation OCD, Gender related OCD, and Harm OCD and the impact this has on relationships Attachment styles in ocd and how to understand them to help you navigate communication.  Links To Things I Talk About: Thriving in Relationships When You Have OCD: How to Keep Obsessions and Compulsions from Sabotaging Love, Friendship, and Family Connections Amy's Instagram https://www.instagram.com/ocdnashville/?hl=en ERP School: https://www.cbtschool.com/erp-school-lp Episode Sponsor:This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com.  CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors.  Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety...If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 312.  Welcome back, everybody. This is going to be a really important episode for you to listen to. Today, we have the amazing Dr. Amy Mariaskin, who is what I consider to be a very dear friend, someone I very much respect. She has written a book about relationships and OCD, and we talk all about it. We go deep into some of the core skills and discussions she has in her upcoming book. And this is just going to be an episode I really feel like you could take away and put some skills together right away. I'm so thrilled. So, thank you, Amy, for coming on this show.  But before we do that, I would like to do the review of the week, and I really hope you listen carefully to this. Not because it's reviewing the podcast, but because I actually think the person who wrote this, who put in this review, is following some key points that I want you to consider. And this is what I encourage a lot of people to do. So, let's go.  This is from Detroitreview and they said: “Thank you, I just started listening today after having a few weeks of anxiety and irregular thoughts that I never experienced. I randomly chose your podcast and am thankful for your experience, knowledge and personal and situations. As a 46-year-old father of two boys and loving wife, your podcast gives me a sense of calming. I'm taking notes on each cast.” Guys, I encourage you to do this. This is a free resource. It is jam packed full of skills. I encourage you to take notes. So, I love that you're doing that Detroitreview. “While I started with the most recent, I have listened to #301/302/303.” And then they went on to say: “And they've already given me strategies that I'm using. I decided to start from your first podcast in 2016.” And that is what I encourage you all to do, mainly because those first 11 episodes are core content. I want you to take the content I talk with my patients about all the time. He went on to say, “I have been so impressed. I've listened to 1-2 daily. I'm up to 10 and 11. There's so many things to listen to and I'm so grateful for you. The meditations are amazing. Keep up the great work.” Thank you so much for that review, Detroitreview. That is exactly my intention. This is a free resource, you guys. I want you to take advantage of the skills and tools so that you can have a toolkit for yourself. And so, I'm so thrilled for that review. It just makes me feel like, yes, that's exactly what I want you guys to take from this podcast. Okay, before we get over to the show, let's talk about the “I did a hard thing” segment. This one is from Kelly, and they said: “I recently faced one of my biggest fears – general anesthesia.” Holy moly, Kelly, I feel you on so many levels with this. “I started struggling with some gallbladder issues and was told I needed to have it removed. I was terrified, and I didn't think I could go through with it. Thoughts were racing out of control. I sought help with therapy and your podcast. Thoughts are thoughts and not facts was huge for me. It was calm the day of the surgery, and I did it. Thank you.” That is amazing. You guys, listen, thoughts are thoughts. Just because you have them doesn't mean they're facts. I love that they're bringing in that key concept as well.  Alright, let's go over to the show. This is the amazing Dr. Amy Mariaskin. She's an OCD therapist. She's an advocate. She's an author of an upcoming book. You must go and check it out. I'll leave the link in the show notes. I am so, so honored to have you on the show, Amy. Let's get over to the episode. Kimberley: Welcome, Amy Mariaskin. I am so excited for this episode today. Can you do a little introduction of who you are and all the good things about you? Amy: Yes. Thank you so much. I'm excited to be here. I'm Dr. Amy Mariaskin. I'm a licensed clinical psychologist and owner and director of the Nashville OCD and Anxiety Treatment Center in Brentwood, Tennessee. I've been working with OCD and anxiety for over 15 years now, and I just absolutely love it. Kimberley: And you wrote a book? Amy: And I wrote a book. I know I need to get better about that. I was like, “Oh, do I say it now or do I say it later?” Kimberley: You say it all the way. Amy: All the time. I wrote a book. It was fun and not fun and everything in between. And I think we'll be talking quite a bit about it. It's called Thriving in Relationships When You Have OCD. Kimberley: Right. Now, when you told me that you were going to write this book, I was so excited because I feel like at the crux of everything we do, a lot of the time, the reason people with OCD want to get better or the thing that propels them is how much their OCD impacts relationships. Not always, but I feel like that's such a huge piece of the work. So, I am so grateful for you for writing this book, and it is an amazing book. I've read it myself. You did a beautiful job. And I want to cover some of the main pieces that you cover in your book today and go from there. So, first of all, congratulations. I know writing a book is not easy. Amy: Thank you. Yeah, it's been a dream for a long time. So, I'm excited about the accomplishment and I'm ready to figure out the next topic. When Ocd Is The Third Wheel Kimberley: Yeah. I love it. I love it. Okay. So, Chapter 1, I think it's funny. I'll have to tell you how, when I was reading your book, I was lucky enough to get an early manuscript. I remember sitting, it was with my kids at track and they were running. And I opened the book and the first chapter said, “The Third Wheel: Understanding OCD's Role in Relationships.” And I was like, “That's exactly it.” So, I was excited right off the bat. Tell me, what do you mean by the third wheel? Tell me a little bit about that. Amy: Yeah. First, I should also thank you for writing the wonderful foreword for the book. So, if anybody is a fan of Kimberley, yet another reason that you might be interested in this book. Well, let me think. So, yeah, the third wheel analogy, it felt very apt because when I work with couples, I often imagine, and sometimes I'll have couples imagine that the OCD is like this other presence in the room sitting there with us. Not physically, but in all the things that are important for relationships, all the ways that we develop intimacy, and that we even structure our time or the activities we choose to do together that OCD can wiggle right in there and can be this like third presence. And the thing is, it's really easy, I think, for somebody without OCD if they don't have good education or they don't understand it, to get that third wheel confused with the person with OCD itself. So, like, “Well, you never want to go out,” as opposed to saying, “We both want to go out.” And here's this other guy, OCD, really bossy, really pushy, really oppressive, who's also coming along with us. And even when you do the things that you love, OCD can come along.  So, it felt to me like this sense of something in the relationship that makes it both unbalanced and is this separate component and that both people, in coming together, have to find creative ways to connect around it or eventually connect and evict it more and more. And so, that's why I chose that metaphor. Kimberley: Yeah, I love that. And it's funny because I remember when I was an intern and I was seeing a family or perhaps the wife who had OCD, what was interesting is I'm sitting in my chair and I noticed that the family members always sat across from her as if it was like her versus them, like who's on which side of the team. And a big part of it was like, all you guys need to be over on that side of the room. You're the team. I'll be over here with OCD and we'll work this out. But I think that that, even metaphorically, is such an important part of how OCD can turn everyone against each other. Is that how you've experienced it? Amy: Yeah, I think at times there are a lot of conversations about how everybody has a common goal to figure out how to live with one another, develop intimacy, connections, be they friendships, parenting relationships, romantic relationships, even work relationships, and things like that, how to form those and how to come together around common goals. And sometimes OCD can be, again, confused as a goal that one person in the relationship has. And the truth is, everybody's suffering in a way, and that everybody can be a part of that process of, again, reducing symptoms or evicting it, things like that.  I do the thing as well when I have people in my office to just look at where are they sitting or when OCD comes up, what is the body language? Are both people really like arms crossed? Is the person with OCD hanging their head in shame, which we know could be such a powerful emotion and such an inhibitor of connection and vulnerability. So, I look for some of those and I remind them, “Head up, we're all talking to OCD right now, and we're all working with that, and we're all on the same team.”  Family Accommodation & Ocd Kimberley: Such an important message. Thank you for that. I think that's beautiful. So, let's say the third wheel, I always think of like you go on a date and the third wheel shows up. And we know that definitely happens with OCD. You addressed a lot in your book about family accommodation. Can you share what that means and how that can impact a relationship? Amy: Yeah, absolutely. Accommodation is this thing where we're extending this metaphor. You're on a date, you're with somebody, and the third wheel rolls on up. It's, “Hey, my buddy from college is here, what's up?” Essentially, accommodation is like, “Hey, why don't you have a seat right here? Here's the menu, here's a place mat.” It is anything that the person in the relationship without OCD is doing to make OCD have a comfortable place at the table. So, that's the metaphorical way. That's abstract, but bringing it down to practically what it looks like, it means doing things generally in the service of what feels comfortable in the moment for the person with OCD. We're going on a trip and I have concerns about contamination and I really want you to check all the hotels, do all this research to make sure that none of these places have ever had bedbugs or things like that. Then when we get there, we're dirty from traveling, so I'm going to need you to take a shower. And so, the person, the spouse is taking showers and doing research and perhaps taking over responsibilities from the person with the OCD in order to provide that short-term relief. But it ends up, again, making a place for OCD in the relationship. And it reduces that motivation for the person with OCD to change.  Family Accommodation is tricky. There are a lot of ways that it can happen. I think reassurance-seeking is certainly one that I think we'll talk about, but providing excessive reassurance about things to the person with OCD in a way to keep them comfortable but keep them caught up in compulsions. And I think it's important to note that a lot of times, partners will hear about accommodation. And just as much as we think being apprised of accommodation and looking out for it is important, it's also, I think, really important that partners understand that that's nuanced and that they don't take it to like, “Well, I'm not going to do that for you. That might be accommodation,” or, “I'm not going to reassure you about anything,” or “Is that your OCD?” I guess I say that to say that it's a little tricky, but it's really anything that is preventing the person with OCD from experiencing discomfort and thereby strengthening the cycle. Kimberley: Right. No, I'm grateful that you bring that up actually, because probably the one that I get asked the most from parents, and this not in every relationship, but with parents, is like, okay, my child is having a really hard time getting homework done, their OCD is impacting them. So, if I don't help accommodate them, if I don't do some compulsions for them, read for them or so forth, they won't do their homework. And then there's an additional consequence. So, they'll say like, “I feel like that's too risky. I could actually be letting my kid fall behind, so I can't stop doing this accommodation.” What are your thoughts on that? Again, how would you approach that type of situation? I mean, there's many examples. Amy: Sure. I think with a situation like that, first, I would validate the parents' love and desire for their child to do as well as possible. Most accommodation is coming from a place of love and not a deliberate enabling or anything like that. Of course not. So, I really provide a lot of validation there. And then I help them reframe it as, “One way to be loving and supportive in the long run is to really cheer your child on in taking over, taking on more and more ownership of that.” So, does that mean, “I know that I've been reading. Right now, I've been reading for you, and that makes it easier to do your homework. We also know that you have OCD and we know that your brain tells you, you've got to reread and reread and reread. So, can we be on the same team together, fight that rereading? I'm not going to read it for you because I love you, because I know you can do this. Boy, is it going to be hard at first and I'm going to be there to cheer you on and motivate you.” I sit with kids, I'm always about gamifying it. “Do we want to just race through this? We don't have to be perfect.” Again, it depends on the symptoms, if it's perfectionism or what's getting in the way.  And then what I say is, if a parent says, “Well, then they're really just not going to get their schoolwork done,” sometimes then I'll say, “Well, if it gets to the point where it is interfering with things like that, then it may be that they need a little bit more support.” Because it's like, with kids, your job is school and with the adults, your job can be a job or it can be care taking. It can be a lot of different things. But if one of those major domains of living is affected, then it may just mean that you need more support. So, we might up the number of sessions per week or refer out to another program or things like that.  But those kinds of things would be the same things I would say in any kind of relationship where there's an accommodator, which is, wow, you love your friend or partner or coworker so much that you're willing to do this stuff for them so that they're not suffering or so that they can demonstrate their potential as in the case of the kid with homework. But here's why that's not the loving response in the long run. Ocd Family Accommodation Vs Ocd Support  Kimberley: Right. You're right. I mean, you mentioned like, then we have the complete other end of the spectrum where people are going, “No, I'm cutting you off completely.” And I think too, I think it's important, as you said. Some accommodation happens in every relationship. I don't particularly like cleaning hair out of the sink drain. That's not my favorite. So, I'm going to ask my husband to do it, knowing that I take the trash out or whatever. We trade-off. So, how might people identify accommodation through the lens of OCD compared to loving exchanges of acts of service?  Amy: Right. Oh, I love that question, because essentially, what we call compromise in relationships could be called accommodation – accommodation by a gentler name. And I think part of that has to do with, what's the motivation there? You do such a wonderful job in your podcasts and online and everything of talking about how doing the hard things are important, and how if you're not doing the hard things and you're avoiding difficult things that can really shrink your world over time and put anxiety or OCD in the driver's seat. So, if the motivation, if a child or a spouse or a friend is asking-- well, if you are asking a child or a friend or a spouse, if you're saying, “Hey, can you do this for me,” or “I'd feel a lot more comfortable if you did this,” thinking about, is it a compulsion or a preference to me? There are so many different ways that we can look into that, but is it in the service of just like, I could, but I prefer not to? Or is it, I feel like if I do that, I'm going to be too anxious or I'm going to do too many compulsions, or something bad is going to happen? So, I think if the motivation there is more avoidance due to anxiety as opposed to just preferences, I think that's helpful.  Sometimes I'll say to people when they'll say to me like, “Well--” and I think division of labor in the house is such a good example. When people say, “Well, I don't ever take the trash out,” I will often ask, “Well, what happens when your roommates are out of town?” Let's say they're living in a roommate situation. And if they say, “Well, it just piles up and I can't deal with it,” then I say, “Aha, this might be a place that we need to work on and chip away.” And again, reducing accommodations doesn't mean like all of a sudden, I'm a garbage master and I'm the only one doing it. It might mean that I'm doing some exposures to get up to the point where I can have that role in the household.  So, I love that question of like, well, what if you had to do it? What would that be like? And if it's really hard, then hey, let's help break down some of those barriers and reduce accommodation. OCD Reassurance Kimberley: Yeah. I usually tell clients like, “Okay, let's just do it so that we know you can, and then you can move on to the next exposure.” Tell us about reassurance. You talked about it a little bit. And in your book, actually, the thing I highlighted, because I read it in Kindle, that I love the most is your reassurance tracking. Tell us a little about that.  Amy: Yes. Because again, I love that you're highlighting this because reassurance is something that is okay. Reassurance happens in all relationships. Again, we might call it by different names. It might just be checking in. It might be clarification. It might be getting information from one another. So, I developed a worksheet that's also available with the book that allows for people to track when they're asking for reassurance from loved ones, and to answer a series of questions that aren't going to give you a 100% certain answer of whether or not it's compulsive, but are going to give you some clues. So, on the worksheet, it says, people write down the situation. So, for example, I was asking my friend if she was mad at me. That might be the situation. And then there's a column that says, what were your emotions?  Again, if we're seeing anxiety, guilt, shame, some of those words might be a clue that our OCD is at play, but not always. And then people track, did you ask only once? Because we also know if it's truly the type of reassurance, “Oh, I just need to know. I'm having a vulnerable moment. I just need to know, is this okay with you? Are you upset?” Then asking once and accepting the answer is generally how it goes. So, if you're asking more than once, if you answer no to that, it's a clue that it could be compulsive reassurance. And then also, was the source credible?  I feel like I talk about this example a lot, but I just love it so much, which is that I worked with a little girl who was really worried about getting strep throat. She would ask everybody for reassurance about her tonsils. I mean, anybody and everyone. At one point, she took a picture and she was just old enough that she got social media. She put it on her Instagram and she was like, “Do you guys think I have a strep throat?” That was the caption. That was the little caption, which is like, she was laughing about it afterwards, but that's not a credible source. I mean, she wasn't even friends with all the docs in town or anything, or ear, nose, and throat specialist. So, was the source credible?  Now, often if it's social reassurance, it is a credible source. If I ask you, if I say, “Kimberley, was I too long-winded,” you're going to be able to tell me. So, you would be a credible source. If I leave this room right now after doing this podcast and I ask somebody, “Do you think I was long-winded? Do you think I was?” and they're like, “Well, we weren't there,” that's that answer. That's that question about credibility.  And then the last one is, did you accept the answer? Anxiety and OCD have this way of undermining. Well, pretty much everything, but undermining any answer we get and countering with it. ‘What if,' or ‘Are you sure?' ‘But I think...' So, if it's starting with a ‘but,' a ‘maybe,' a ‘what-if,' then again, it may not be that helpful reassurance-seeking. Relationship Ocd (Rocd) Vs Relationship Issues With Ocd Kimberley: Yeah, I love that. And thank you for adding that because I just love that template so much. That is just like gold. I love it so much. Alright. So, as you move into Chapter 4, I believe it is, you talk about specific subtypes of OCD that are commonly impacted in relationships. Can you share just briefly what your thoughts are around that? Amy: Yeah. I love this question too because as I've been talking about the book, a lot of people are like, “Oh, great, a book about ROCD, or relationship OCD.” And my answer to that, or my response to that is, “Yes, and...” Just a step back, any subtype of OCD can affect and often does affect relationships. Why? Because OCD goes after what's important to us. And for many of us, our connectedness with one another is just so important. That being said, there are subtypes of OCD that are relational in nature. And so, I do have a chapter that is more devoted to these types, and one of which is relationship OCD. This is a passion of mine. I've done now a few iterations of an ROCD treatment group at my clinic, and I have other plans to expand that group and do some cool programming around that.  But relationship OCD, it's basically when OCD symptoms are about the relationship itself or about the person with whom you're in relationship. So, it could be about-- we think about it a lot of times with romantic relationships, but it could be any relationship. To use a different one, it could be, am I a loving enough parent? Do I love my kids enough? How do I know? Do other parents have these thoughts? So, it could be about the relationship or it can be about the individual. Like, my spouse doesn't like the same music that I do, and are we ever going to get past this? And so, something that might be seen as, yes, it's an actual difference, but then there's all this story making around the difference and how the difference is going to be the demise of the relationship. Those are the two flavors of ROCD, relationship and partner-focused.  I also want to pause here and say that oftentimes when people talk about ROCD, I feel like there's this pull to say, “Well, if you know you have ROCD, if relationship issues come up in your relationship, it's probably your ROCD.” And that's just like another backdoor to the certainty that we all want. I think all relationships have some crunchy bits and some edges that chafe. And so, I want the people with ROCD to feel empowered to also develop the relationships that they want and then notice that maybe the ROCD turns up the volume on some of their concerns, if that makes sense.  Kimberley: It's hard, isn't it? Because so many times a patient will say, “But I don't know if I really love-- is he the one?” And we're like, “Well, we'll never know.” There's no way to objectively define that. And then someone, a friend is like, “Well, if you don't know, it must be a problem.” It's so hard for those people because people without OCD also don't know all the time either, so it's a common concern. Sexual Orientation Ocd & Gender Related Ocd Amy: Right. No, that's a great point. So, I have some stuff about relationship OCD in there and then the identity subtypes of OCD as well. So, sexual orientation OCD and gender-related OCD. I put those in there because oftentimes our identity is the foundation from which we interact with others and create relationships and things like that. So, I talk a little bit about sexual orientation OCD, not just even in dating, but in finding a community and friendship and things like that. SOOCD can rear up and lead to lots of social comparisons or it can just really try to sabotage certain relationships, and with gender-related OCD as well, be it somebody who is cisgender and wondering if they are transgender or vice versa. I've worked with people in the transgender community who have OCD and have these unwanted thoughts about like, “Well, what if this is not who I am? What if I've been doing this for attention?” And then, therefore, are wanting to compulsively disengage from their community because of the feeling of like, “Well, I don't feel authentic enough.” So, that's a way in which that can root in relationally. Kimberley: Right. So, we've got relationship OCD and identity. What are the other ones?  Harm Ocd & Its Impact On Relationships Amy: Yeah. And then the last one that I highlighted in here in that section is harm OCD. And I put that in there because harm OCD, which again is a huge category, which I would say under that are anything that's violent. That could be sexual as well. So, sexual violence toward others or sexual intrusive-- obviously, all intrusive thoughts, but intrusive thoughts about being sexual with children. I would roll all that into the harm OCD category. And this one is just, it's always so striking to me the ways in which OCD can take something that's really important. Like, I want to be a good person, I want to be a kind person and then undermine it. So, the amount of people I've worked with harm OCD who are experiencing isolation and really the self-imposed isolation, the irony of which is “I'm isolating myself because I don't want to harm others,” but then they're withholding themselves as this fantastic person to be out in the world. And so, that's what I always say, is you're doing more harm isolating, but sort of. Get out there. You have so much to offer and in fact, your OCD has attacked this area because it's important for you generally to have relations with others. Kimberley: Yeah, I love that. So, I love how you've given us a way, and as you said, it can impact any relationship outside of those subtypes as well. What I'd love to do is give you the mic and tell us just now, in general, give us your best relationship ideas, advice, tips, tools, whatever you want to call them, for the person with OCD and the loved ones of people with OCD. Amy: Yeah. Thank you. I feel like that's a dangerous thing to be giving me the mic. Kimberley: It's all yours. Go for it. What's the main thing you want people to know? Amy: I think I want for people to be able to-- number one, there's no right or wrong way to have a relationship provided that everything is consensual and respectful. And so, taking a step back-- and actually Russ Harris just put out this. I don't know if you saw this, but this incredible list of relational values words. So, there's an activity where-- or I don't know if it's new, it's new to me. That's clarifying what are your relational values and what are they with different relationships? Is it playfulness? Is it intimacy? And so, figuring out what you want and having your spouse do the same. In our relationship OCD group, most recently, we had people and their significant others, I shouldn't say spouse, do this and figuring out ways to connect around those things. I think it comes down to connection and to supporting each person, like supporting each other's goals.  I think I'm bringing this up in part because I think sometimes there are these narratives out there about like, we have to have all the same interests or opposites attract. And again, to that, I say yes, and... For some people, they want people with really similar interests and for others, they want somebody who's going to be different. But I think what we can do is support each other and try to see the world through your loved one's eyes and try to celebrate when they're celebrating.  I think part of this is like, I'm married to somebody who's a huge thrill seeker. He's paragliding. He just got his private pilot's license. He does things that are not in my nature. If he's gone out and he's done some sort of paragliding trip in a different country, and he'll come back and he'll say, “I found a lift here and there were thermals,” in my head, I'm like, “You didn't die. You didn't die. Yeah, you didn't die.” And I have to stop my own anxious story about it or my own interpretation of “I wouldn't like that” and just be there with him in that moment of sharing his joy. It's finding joy in others' joy. It's being there with other people's emotions about whatever they are. Because I think with anxiety and OCD, it can always be this upper-level analytical process of like, “Oof, I don't like that. Is that okay?” or things like that. I know a lot of the Gottman's research will talk as well about how very important it is to just support one another, be cheerleaders, et cetera.  Attachment Style & Ocd  I think too, knowing your attachment style. And this is a whole topic that we could spend forever on, but knowing if you're somebody who-- when you get close to others, do you feel more resistance in getting closer or do you feel worries about like, “Ugh, I don't want to lose myself by merging with someone else”? Or do you have more resistance around, “I'm worried they'll abandon me, I'm worried they won't love me enough?” And that's a very, very, very rudimentary look at two of the concepts of attachment, that more avoidant attachment where it's, “I'm worried I'll be subsumed by the other person and I value independence,” or more anxious attachment, which is, “I'm worried they won't love me enough or I'll be abandoned.” Knowing that and knowing when those thoughts come up, take a pause, take a step back and check in with yourself and your body and the facts and things like that, instead of reacting in that moment. When anxiety is there, it wants us to just react to every alarming or provocative thought that we have. So, yeah, those are some things. I know that I had them scrolling through because I know I had more in the book from the Gottman. They're top of mind. Kimberley: I think back to when I was first married, I was so young. So, if someone had explained to me attachment styles, it would've made the first five years so much easier. You know what I mean? My husband would go away. He's actually away right now. He would go away because he loves to fly fish. And for me, I would feel anxiety because he would leave and I would interpret, because I'm anxious, and I was like, “No, this isn't hard for me to be alone.” It would quickly turn to anger towards him for having a hobby. I'm totally fine to say this too. I'm feeling anxious here by myself. He's off doing something fun for him. So then I got angry that he's doing fun things and leaving me to have my anxiety. He would come home not to a happy wife. He would come home to wife with her hands on her hips. You know what I mean? And I think that that is so common for people with anxiety. When you're feeling anxious, you feel like they're doing it to you like, “Why are you doing this to me?” And then that can create a whole narrative that can interfere in relationship. So, that's just a personal example of how, if I had have known my anxious attachment early in our marriage, I think that would've saved us a lot of fights. Amy: Yeah. Oh, I love that example. And I feel like for me, as somebody who tends toward the other side, I tend to feel more worried about being stifled by relationships. I want to be fully seen and encouraged. And so, sometimes, in particular with friendships, if I've had people who are like, “I've felt exactly the same way,” or “I had the same experience,” or “We should do this all together. Let's get matching jackets,” I'm like, “I am an individual.” I get really threatened because my feeling is-- my brain's automatic interpretation is they don't see you because they think that you are just-- they assume like we're all the same, whereas they're just like, “We want to affiliate.” So, I've had to do some work there as well, even with friendships, to know like it's not-- people aren't trying to kidnap my identity and merge it with theirs. They're actually just being loving.  Kimberley: Right. But it feels threatening. Yeah, absolutely. I think the last question I have for you is, it goes back to that accommodation reassurance piece, particularly related to these dynamics. And maybe this is just my experience, I'd actually love to hear yours. What I do find is, when the person with OCD is coming from an anxious place, like often overanalyzing things, hyper-attending hyperawareness of things, their need for reassurance or their need for everyone to follow what OCD tells the family to do, I have found that the partner, because it's so overwhelming for them, tends to flip to the other end of the spectrum where they don't worry about anything or they're like, “It's fine.” Or maybe even they're frustrated of like, “It's fine, it's fine.” Have you noticed that as a trend in dynamics of a relationship? Amy: Yeah. Sometimes almost like there's a dismissiveness. Yes, I have noticed that and I think that there are so many reasons why that can happen. And I think for the partner and their experience, getting at what that is and what's motivating that is so interesting because, to the person with anxiety or OCD, it can feel really invalidating, or it can feel very comforting. But I think a lot of the times, it can feel invalidating and the partner might be doing it because they might be having their own feelings come up about, “I don't know what to say.” I've tried to use facts and sometimes facts can bounce right off of OCD if you're not in the mindset to accept them. OCD is skeptical about everything. So, I've tried everything and I'm really now at this place of like, “I am so tired.” And it'll come out. “I'm so tired of hearing you talk about this.” And that's when, as a clinician, I see time out. I think you're both really tired of this cycle that OCD has you both in.  So, yeah, I will see that. And I think sometimes when that's the pattern as opposed to a lot of overly accommodating, I think when that's the pattern, the element for me in working with couples to inject back in there is the validation of, “This is really hard.” And also for them to take a step back and realize, well, not everything is going to be OCD either. Sometimes if there is reassurance-- I mean, again, the irony is sometimes this pattern can lead to more reassurance because then it's like, “Well, you just dismissed me. You said that there's nothing wrong in our relationship that you did it in a manner that felt dismissive. And so, now I'm going to ask again.”  So, yeah, deconstructing that pattern. Does the partner feel angry? If so, you're angry at this pattern, not your partner. Does the partner feel helpless, hopeless? Did they feel scared? Are they grasping at straws? So, yeah, that would be how I would look at that when I see it come up. Kimberley: Oh, thank you. I'm so grateful that you shared all that because I think they are all great questions that need to be addressed within the relationship. Thank you. So good. Okay, tell us about your book. I want to be respectful of your time. Tell us about your amazing book, which I think every family that has members should read. Tell us about it. Amy: It's called Thriving in Relationships When You Have OCD: How to Keep Obsessions and Compulsions from Sabotaging Love, Friendship, and Family Connections. It's available for pre-order as of the recording of this, which is in October, but I think this is going to come out later. It will be hot off the presses December 1st from New Harbinger Publications, available on Amazon, available through New Harbinger, I think available on other websites. People keep sending me links and I'm like, “Wow, that's really cool.”  So, yeah, I tried to cover all different kinds of relationships. We talk about family relationships, parenting, romantic relationships, sex and intimacy and those kinds of relationships, friendships, work, and really just a relational lens to what can be a very isolating and security disorder. And I don't want anyone to feel like they have to go at it alone. Kimberley: Thank you. Again, hats off to you. Much respect. You did a beautiful job writing the book. It's an honor. I was so honored to write the foreword. And I think, again, it's like a handbook I think everybody needs to have on the onset of being diagnosed. Here's the book to make sure you can protect your relationship and nurture the relationship outside of OCD. So, thank you. Amy: Well, thank you for having me.

Jon Hershfield, MFT is the Director of The Center for OCD and Anxiety at Sheppard Pratt in Baltimore Maryland. He is the author of several books on OCD and is prominent figure in the world of OCD treatment. In this interview, we talk about his book for teens the ocd workbook for teens: mindfulness & cbt skills to help you overcome unwanted thoughts & compulsions  with illustrations by Sean Shinnock, New Harbinger Publications.  Jon Hershfield has provided a workbook that provides both an explanation of  the treatment of OCD and relevant exercises presented in a very adolescent friendly fashion. This is a valuable resort for clinician, parent and teen. 

Matthew McKay, PhD, cofounder of New Harbinger Publications, joins us to talk about evidence-based resources and the ever-changing landscape of therapy. McKay is a professor at the Wright Institute in Berkeley, CA. He has authored and coauthored numerous books, including The Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook, The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook, Self-Esteem, and Couple Skills, which have sold more than four million copies combined. He received his PhD in clinical psychology from the California School of Professional Psychology, and specializes in the cognitive behavioral treatment of anxiety and depression. Buy the DBT Skills Mega Bundle—only available at newharbinger.com: https://bit.ly/37GAvAl

Most people believe the loss of the body is the loss of life, but when Matthew McKay's 23-year-old son Jordan was suddenly shot and killed, for Matthew, it was not the end of Jordan's life. It was the beginning of a quest to penetrate the veil of death through some extraordinary communications. These virtual conversations led Matthew to co-author a book, with his son. Matthew McKay, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist and professor at The Wright Institute in Berkeley, CA. The Wright Institute offers Masters and Ph.D. programs to psychologists and provides support and evaluation for the research needs of its students. McKay is also the founder and publisher at New Harbinger Publications. He is the author and co-author of many books, including: The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook: Practical DBT Exercises for Learning Mindfulness, Interpersonal Effectiveness, Emotion Regulation ^ Tolerance (coauthor Jeffrey Brantley) (New Harbinger Publications 2007) and Seeking Jordan: How I Learned the Truth about Death and the Invisible Universe (New World Library 2016).Interview Date: 4/28/2016 Tags: Matthew McKay, hypnosis, Michael Newton, Allan Botkin, Ralph Metzner, channeled writing, past life regression, Akashic records, reincarnation, afterlife, consciousness, God, time, broken vase Wabi Sabi, post traumatic growth, Death & Dying, Parapsychology/Paranormal, Intuition/Psychic, Personal Transformation

Most people believe the loss of the body is the loss of life, but when Matthew McKay's 23-year-old son Jordan was suddenly shot and killed, for Matthew, it was not the end of Jordan's life. It was the beginning of a quest to penetrate the veil of death through some extraordinary communications. These virtual conversations led Matthew to co-author a book, with his son. Matthew McKay, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist and professor at The Wright Institute in Berkeley, CA. The Wright Institute offers Masters and Ph.D. programs to psychologists and provides support and evaluation for the research needs of its students. McKay is also the founder and publisher at New Harbinger Publications. He is the author and co-author of many books, including: The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook: Practical DBT Exercises for Learning Mindfulness, Interpersonal Effectiveness, Emotion Regulation ^ Tolerance (coauthor Jeffrey Brantley) (New Harbinger Publications 2007) and Seeking Jordan: How I Learned the Truth about Death and the Invisible Universe (New World Library 2016).Interview Date: 4/28/2016 Tags: Matthew McKay, hypnosis, Michael Newton, Allan Botkin, Ralph Metzner, channeled writing, past life regression, Akashic records, reincarnation, afterlife, consciousness, God, time, broken vase Wabi Sabi, post traumatic growth, Death & Dying, Parapsychology/Paranormal, Intuition/Psychic, Personal Transformation

Emily Sandoz, Evelyn Gould, and Troy Dufrene join us to talk about their paper, Ongoing, Explicit and Direct Functional Assessment is a Necessary Component of ACT as Behavior Analysis: A Response to Tarbox et al.    Show Notes   Remember to join us on Facebook to suggest articles to review and questions for authors. https://www.facebook.com/BApractice Acknowledgments Host and Executive Producer: Cody Morris, Ph.D., BCBA-D, LBA https://salve.edu/users/dr-cody-morris Assistant Producers Elizabeth Narvaez Jesse Perrin Organizational Support ABAI https://www.abainternational.org/welcome.aspx Behavior Analysis in Practice Editor, Stephanie Peterson, Ph.D., BCBA-D, LBA https://www.abainternational.org/journals/bap.aspx Music Cruising Altitude by Jim Carr and his band New Latitude http://www.newlatitudemusic.com Link to Article https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s40617-021-00607-2 Links from Talk https://books.google.com/books/about/Mindfulness_for_Two.html?id=zL0wr19xkdEC&source=kp_book_description https://books.google.com/books/about/Applied_Behavior_Analysis_of_Language_an.html?id=6s_ODwAAQBAJ&source=kp_book_description References Fryling, M., Rehfeldt, R. A., Tarbox, J., & Hayes, L. J. (2020) Applied Behavior Analysis of Language and Cognition: Core Concepts and Principles for Practitioners. New Harbinger Publications Sandoz, Emily. (2020). Interbehavior as a clinical focus in CBS: A response to Hayes and Fryling (2019). Journal of Contextual Behavioral Science. 18. 273-275. 10.1016/j.jcbs.2020.10.006. Ming, S., Gould, E., Fiebig, J. (In press). Understanding and Applying Relational Frame Theory: Mastering the Foundations of Complex Language in Our Work and Lives as Behavior Analysts. Oakland, CA: Context Press/New Harbinger Wilson, K. G., & Dufrene, T. (2009). Mindfulness for Two: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Approach to Mindfulness in Psychotherapy. New Harbinger Publications

About the book:• Shows how the certainty of change and loss can support rather than diminish love• Shares practices and meditations to help love endure in the face of loss, disappointment, change, or any of the ways relationships and circumstances are altered by time• Explores how to cultivate gratitude for every expression of love we encounter, strengthen compassion for others, and recognize the power of love after lifeCollaborating with his late son, Jordan, psychologist Matthew McKay offers five ways to keep love alive in a world of impermanence. He explores how to see and know what we love, how to actively care for what we love, how to have compassion for the suffering of others, how to set the daily intention to act with love, and how to turn toward rather than away from the pain of impermanence. McKay shares practices and meditations to help love endure in the face of loss, disappointment, change, or any of the ways relationships and circumstances are altered by time. He examines what love is and is not, including how not to mistake yearning and neediness for love, sex for love, and attraction to beauty for love. He shows how to cultivate gratitude for every expression of love we encounter, learn to care for things we don't like, and recognize the power of love after life--a love that reaches beyond death. He also provides concrete exercises for communicating with and channeling messages from loved ones who have crossed over.Ultimately, McKay shows that, by running from pain, we run from love. By avoiding pain, we lose the pathway to connection. Yet, by recognizing love in the heart of pain and loss, by knowing that change and impermanence are inevitable, we can navigate life with a compass pointing to love as true north, learning to love more deeply and making what we love more cherished.Matthew McKay, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist, professor of psychology at the Wright Institute, founder of the Berkeley CBT Clinic, and cofounder of the Bay Area Trauma Recovery Clinic, which serves low-income clients. He has authored and coauthored more than 40 books, including The Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook, Seeking Jordan, and The Luminous Landscape of the Afterlife. The publisher of New Harbinger Publications, he lives in Berkeley, California.

Amanda and Michelle Kelly join us to talk about their paper, Acceptance and Commitment Training in Applied Behavior Analysis: Where Have You Been All My Life?   Show Notes Remember to join us on Facebook to suggest articles to review and questions for authors. https://www.facebook.com/BApractice Acknowledgments Host and Executive Producer: Cody Morris, Ph.D., BCBA-D, LBA https://salve.edu/users/dr-cody-morris Assistant Producers Elizabeth Narvaez Jesse Perrin Organizational Support ABAI https://www.abainternational.org/welcome.aspx Behavior Analysis in Practice Editor, Stephanie Peterson, Ph.D., BCBA-D, LBA https://www.abainternational.org/journals/bap.aspx Music Cruising Altitude by Jim Carr and his band New Latitude http://www.newlatitudemusic.com Link to Article https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s40617-021-00587-3 Links from Talk https://www.facebook.com/groups/1429925357078709/about/ https://www.facebook.com/groups/1632453700219502/about/ https://www.abainternational.org/events/annual-2022.aspx https://www.abainternational.org/events/international/dublin-2022/conference-home.aspx References Barnes-Holmes, D. & Harte, C. (2022). Relational frame theory 20 years on: The Odysseus voyage and beyond. Journal of the Experimental Analysis of Behavior. 117(2). https://doi.org/10.1002/jeab.733 Dymond, S. & Roche, B. (2013). Advances in relational frame theory: Research and application. New Harbinger Publications. Tarbox, J., Szabo, T. J., & Aclan, M. (2020). Acceptance and commitment training within the scope of practice of applied behavior analysis. Behavior Analysis in Practice. https://doi.org/10.1007/s40617-020-00466-3

Have you ever felt like there were invisible barriers preventing you from achieving your goals or getting to where you wanted to be in life? For many of us, these barriers are the result of traumatic experiences that have negatively impacted the way we view ourselves, others, and the world around us.  While various therapeutic modalities seek to help individuals overcome trauma, a technique called Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) may deliver powerful and efficient results. In Episode 93 of The MINDSet Game® podcast, Megan McQuary – a Certified EMDR Clinician and Trainer, as well as a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional and an Advanced Certified Alcohol and Drug Counselor – shares the following: The goals of EMDR and an overview of how it works, including the key things that Megan focuses on when conducting an EMDR session A metaphor to help understand how your brain operates, and why it can be difficult to think logically or make decisions effectively when you are overwhelmed by stress or other negative emotions  The power of bilateral stimulation and how it is used in EMDR At the end of the episode, Megan guides us through a guided visualization using bilateral stimulation. This empowering session is designed to help you reflect on how far you've come in life and discover where you are in relation to the achievement of your goals.  Megan McQuary formerly owned and operated one of the largest treatment centers for substance abuse and trauma in Southeast Idaho, which was voted best in practice for 2019. Her trainings have helped thousands of clinicians across the U.S. get the most out of EMDR, trauma and addiction based skills and practices. She has been invited to train internationally at the International Society of Addiction Medicine in India, the International Conference on Addiction Research and Therapy in Amsterdam and at the Psicologia Institute of Italy. Megan has extensively been trained on the use of EMDR as a treatment protocol and uses EMDR in her practice to achieve improved outcomes with a broad spectrum of clients in the areas of trauma, abuse, attachment and substance abuse. She is an expert witness at the State and Federal level for her expertise in areas surrounding trauma. Megan is the author of EMDR Workbook for Trauma and PTSD: Skills to Manage Triggers, Move Beyond Traumatic Memories, and Take Back Your Life set to be released by New Harbinger Publications in late 2022. She earned her master's in Clinical Social Work from Northwest Nazarene University in 2011 and is an active member of the International Society of Addiction Medicine and the National Association of Social Workers. She currently owns and operates her own Counseling, Consulting and Training Business and is passionate about genuinely changing the landscape of trauma treatment through an authentic, hands on perspective, that she has uniquely made her own.   To learn more about Megan and EMDR, visit her website at https://thementalsurvivalist.com.  To subscribe to The MINDset Game® podcast, visit www.TheMINDsetGame.com.

Our stories provide a shorthand self, which gives us focus while the stories make sense, but they put our happiness at risk. If we imagine them to be complete and permanent we are doomed to suffer. When we release our attachment to our stories, we create freedom. Only through our actions will we transform ourselves and our world. The stories are only decorative.We talk with Noah Rasheta about the stories around him, as he lives a life with fewer attachments. We find out how we can avoid those attachments by doing things, but not being things.Noah Rasheta is the host of the Secular Buddhism podcast and author of three books on Buddhism.LinksMindful Agility Web Site, for links to the Mindful Agility podcast, resources, and blogSecular Buddhism Web Site, for links to the Secular Buddhism podcast, books, and resourcesStephen Batchelor Web Site, for books and coursesRick Hansen, Buddha's Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love & Wisdom, New Harbinger Publications, 2009.CreditsPhoto of PT Barnum and Tom Thumb, Smithsonian National Portrait Gallery, circa 1840.The sting separator sound used in this episode is a derivative of Swing beat 120 xylophone side-chained by Casonika used under license CC BY by Daniel Greening.

Coming to your favorite podcast platform on May 3. Evidence-Based is the official podcast of New Harbinger Publications—an independent, employee-owned publisher of books on psychology and self-help. In each episode, hosts Cassie and Kendall join leading mental health experts to explore the latest psychological interventions, as well as topics related to mental health and personal growth. Visit us at www.newharbinger.com/podcast to learn more.

In this modern world of endless social media scrolling and heightened divisions, have you ever found yourself intentionally looking for something to be angry about? This episode is for you if you've ever wondered why.Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and does not substitute individual professional psychological advice.REFERENCESBrown-Iannuzzi, J. L., Lundberg, K. B., Kay, A. C., & Payne, B. K. (2020). A Privileged Point of View: Effects of Subjective Socioeconomic Status on Naïve Realism and Political Division. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 47(2), 241–256.Chien, Y., Wegener, D., Petty, R., & Hsiao, C. (2014). The Flexible Correction Model: Bias Correction Guided by Naïve Theories of Bias. Social and Personality Psychology Compass, 8(6), 275-286. Esses, V. M., Veenvliet, S., Hodson, G., & Mihic, L. (2008). Justice, morality, and the dehumanization of refugees. Social Justice Research, 21, 4–25. Gilbert, D. T., Lieberman, M. D., Morewedge, C. K. & Wilson, T. D. (2004). The peculiar longevity of things not so bad. Psychological Science, 15(1), 14–19.Hawkins, D. R. (2002). Power vs. force: The hidden determinants of human behavior. Carlsbad, Calif: Hay House.Ito, T. A., Larsen, J. T., Smith, N. K., & Cacioppo, J. T. (1998). Negative information weighs more heavily on the brain: The negativity bias in evaluative categorizations. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 75(4), 887–900. Lisitsa, E. (2012, December 3). The Positive Perspective: Dr. Gottman's Magic Ratio! [blog post]. Retrieved from http://www.gottmanblog.com/2012/12/the-positive-perspective-dr-gottmans.htmlLópez-Rodriguez, L., Halperin, E., Vázquez, A., Cuadrado, I., Navas, M., & Gómez, A. (2021). Awareness of the Psychological Bias of Naïve Realism Can Increase Acceptance of Cultural Differences. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin. Martin, R. C., Coyier, K. R., VanSistine, L. M., & Schroeder, K. L. (2013). Anger on the Internet: The Perceived Value of Rant-Sites. Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking, 16(2), 119–122. Merritt, A., Effron, D., & Monin, B. (2010). Moral Self‐Licensing: When Being Good Frees Us to Be Bad. Social and Personality Psychology Compass, 4(5)Pronin, E., Gilovich, T., & Ross, L. (2004). Objectivity in the eye of the beholder: Divergent perceptions of bias in self versus others. Psychological Review, 111, 781–799.Puryear, C. (2020). The threat to virality: Digital outrage combats the spread of opposing ideas.Rathje, S., Van Bavel, J. J. & van der Linden, S. (2021). Out-group animosity drives engagement on social media. The Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, 118(26).Ross, L., & Ward, A. (1995). Psychological barriers to dispute resolution. Advances in experimental social psychology, 27, 255–304. Rothschild, Z. K. & Keefer, L. A. (2017). A cleansing fire: moral outrage alleviates guilt and buffers threats to one's moral identity. Motivation and Emotion, 41(2), 209–229.Sapolsky, R. M. (2017). Behave: The Biology of Humans at Our Best and Worst. Penguin Books.Singer, M. A. (2007). The Untethered Soul. New Harbinger Publications.Tong, E., & Yang, Z. (2011). Moral Hypocrisy. Social Psychological and Personality Science, 2(2), 159-165.Your Brain on Drama

Get .1 ASHA CEU hereEpisode SummaryHey overworked SLP - feeling like you want to find a rock to crawl under for a minute or two? Burnout is a topic that hits close to home for me as an SLP of 15 years. In some ways, I think I started to feel that burn even before I got my CCC's. Why are we and others in the “helping professions” so much more likely to experience burnout than others braving the workforce? This week, burnout expert, Dr. Julie Slowiak, shares her own personal experience with overwhelm and under-joy in the workplace, and offers SLP's the strategies we need to recognize burnout and to address it head on. Do you find yourself critical or cynical at work? Perhaps you're not looking forward to your day-to-day grind, or you are consistently not meeting expectations (your own or those placed upon you). Whatever the sign, you might be experiencing or rapidly approaching burnout, which not only negatively impacts your personal health and happiness, but also your professional performance. Tune in to learn how to spot burnout and to learn why it might be happening. You'll also gain some mindful self-care practices to deal with burnout as Dr. Slowiak challenges the misconceived notion of self-care as just a manicure and bubble bath. Pause today, tune it, and take an hour to discover how you can hit that optimal work life flow, feel better, and be the SLP you want to be for those students and clients you hold so dear.Course AccommodationsThe transcript for this course is provided below. You can also email us at ceu@slpnerdcast.comLearning OutcomesDefine the concept of burnout and give at least 3 examples of signs and symptoms of burnout. Describe why the “helping professions” are more susceptible to burnout. Give at least 1 example related to the 5 professional self-care strategies that can be used to prevent burnout. Describe how engaging in self-care practices supports ethical practice.ReferencesBrown, T. J. (2021). Ethics, burnout, and reported life and job attitudes among board-certified behavior analysts. Behavior Analysis: Research and Practice, 21(4), 364-375. doi:10.1037/bar0000219David, S. (2017). Emotional agility: Get unstuck, embrace change, and thrive in work and life. Penguin Life.Demerouti, E., Bakker, A. B., Nachreiner, F., & Schaufeli, W. B. (2001). The job demands-resources model of burnout. Journal of Applied Psychology, 86(3), 499-512. doi:10.1037/0021-9010.86.3.499Flaxman, P. E., Bond, F. W., & Livheim, F. (2013). The mindful and effective employee an acceptance and commitment therapy training manual for improving well-being and performance. New Harbinger Publications, Incorporated.HARRIS, R. (2022). HAPPINESS TRAP: How to stop struggling and start living. SHAMBHALA.Lee, J. J., & Miller, S. E. (2013). A Self-Care Framework for Social Workers: Building a Strong Foundation for Practice. Families in Society: The Journal of Contemporary Social Services, 94(2), 96-103. doi:10.1606/1044-3894.4289Morse, G., Salyers, M. P., Rollins, A. L., Monroe-Devita, M., & Pfahler, C. (2011). Burnout in Mental Health Services: A Review of the Problem and Its Remediation. Administration and Policy in Mental Health and Mental Health Services Research, 39(5), 341-352. doi:10.1007/s10488-011-0352-1Online ResourcesThe Self Care Forum The Wellbeing Model The Happiness Trap The Happiness Trap Illustrated Version The Oldenburg Burnout Inventory Calculator Maslach Burnout Inventory (tm) (MBI) Speaker Disclosures:Julie Slowiak financial disclosures: Julie is employed by the University of Minnesota Duluth and the Owner / Founder of InJewel LLC, a coaching and consulting business. Julie Slowiak non-financial disclosures: Julie is the Executive Director of the Behavior Analysis in Health, Sport, and Fitness Special Interest Group, a 501(c)(3) not for profit organization and a special interest group of the Association for Behavior Analysis International (ABAI). Julie is also a current member of ABAI, the OBM Network, the Association for Contextual Behavioral Science (ACBS), the American Psychological Association (APA), and the Society for Occupational and Health Psychology (SOHP).Kate Grandbois financial disclosures: Kate is the owner / founder of Grandbois Therapy + Consulting, LLC and co-founder of SLP Nerdcast. Kate Grandbois non-financial disclosures: Kate is a member of ASHA, SIG 12, and serves on the AAC Advisory Group for Massachusetts Advocates for Children. She is also a member of the Berkshire Association for Behavior Analysis and Therapy (BABAT), MassABA, the Association for Behavior Analysis International (ABAI) and the corresponding Speech Pathology and Applied Behavior Analysis SIG. Amy Wonkka financial disclosures: Amy is an employee of a public school system and co-founder for SLP Nerdcast. Amy Wonkka non-financial disclosures: Amy is a member of ASHA, SIG 12, and serves on the AAC Advisory Group for Massachusetts Advocates for Children.Time Ordered Agenda:15 minutes: Introduction, Disclaimers and Disclosures10 minutes: Descriptions of the concept of and examples of burnout15 minutes: Descriptions of why the “helping professions” are more susceptible to burnout10 minutes: Descriptions of professional self-care strategies and how engaging in self-care practices supports ethical practice.5 minutes: Summary and ClosingDisclaimerThe contents of this episode are not meant to replace clinical advice. SLP Nerdcast, its hosts and guests do not represent or endorse specific products or procedures mentioned during our episodes unless otherwise stated. We are NOT PhDs, but we do research our material. We do our best to provide a thorough review and fair representation of each topic that we tackle. That being said, it is always likely that there is an article we've missed, or another perspective that isn't shared. If you have something to add to the conversation, please email us! Wed love to hear from you!__SLP Nerdcast is a podcast for busy SLPs and teachers who need ASHA continuing education credits, CMHs, or professional development. We do the reading so you don't have to! Leave us a review if you feel so inclined!We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at info@slpnerdcast.com anytime! You can find our complaint policy here. You can also:Follow us on instagramFollow us on facebookWe are thrilled to be listed in the Top 25 SLP Podcasts!Thank you FeedSpot!

Our two guests Dr. Lorie Teagno and Dr. Steven D. Solomon will speak of the secrets that empower couples to thrive over the long-term, secrets they have gleaned from working with couples for almost 40 years. Lorie Teagno is a licensed clinical psychologist who has been in practice for 30+ years. She was educated on the East Coast where received her Bachelor of Arts and Master of Arts degrees in Psychology from George Mason University in Fairfax, Virginia and earned her Ph.D. in Human Development at the University of Maryland, College Park. She received her early clinical training on the East Coast and has been in private practice in the La Jolla area for more since the 1980's. Her specialty is relationships whether couples, families, parents and children or siblings assisting them in creating intimate, resilient and satisfying relationships they desire and deserve. She uses a Differentiation approach in therapy and incorporates Attachment theory, the Eriksonian developmental model and concepts like integrity and redefining one's life story. Lorie has worked with Steve Solomon for 29+ years and together they have created The Relationship Institute and their unique approach to couples therapy and infidelity work. She and Dr. Solomon have co-authored the book, “Intimacy after Infidelity” (2006, New Harbinger Publications) and two chapters in Sperry & Carlson's clinicians guide entitled, “Recovering Intimacy in Love Relationships (2010). Besides maintaining a private practice and writing, Lorie and Steve have been training mental health professionals in their powerful and unique approach to relationship struggles for almost two decades. Dr. Teagno is married and has two daughters, two step sons, and five fabulous grandchildren – so far! Steven D. Solomon, Ph.D. is Co-Director of The Relationship Institute (TheRelationshipInstitute.org) in La Jolla, California. He is a licensed clinical psychologist in private practice for over 35 years in the San Diego area. Dr. Solomon specializes in working with couples and has developed a subspecialty in the treatment of infidelity. He and his colleague at The Relationship Institute, Lorie J. Teagno, Ph.D., have developed a powerful new approach to helping couples in relationship distress: Intimate Love Therapy. He and Dr. Teagno are co-authors of Intimacy after Infidelity (New Harbinger Publications, 2006), a book written for the general public, and wrote two chapters for Carlson & Sperry's latest edition of Recovering Intimacy in Love Relationships: A Clinician's Guide, (Routledge, 2010), a book written for psychotherapists. Drs. Solomon and Teagno also have collaborated on numerous articles on couples therapy, infidelity, and Long-Term Love Relationship dynamics. For more than a decade they have trained therapists in Intimate Love Therapy theory and practice. Dr. Solomon is a past president of the San Diego Psychological Association. https://therelationshipinstitute.org/resources-marriage-counseling-information/

Matthew McKay s many things - a poet, a publisher, a professor of psychology, the author of more than 40 books... and (perhaps most importantly) a father who embarked on a long journey in search of ways to communicate with his murdered son, Jordan. In his book, "Seeking Jordan - How I learned the Truth About Death and the Invisible Universe,: Matthew McKay recounts his efforts, which included past-life and between-life hypnotic regressions, a technique called induced after-death communication, channeled writing, and more. And ultimately, Matthew learned how to reach his son, and was able to record extraordinary revelations - direct from Jordan - about the soul's life after death, how karma works, why we incarnate, why there is so much pain in the world, the single force that connects us, and our future as souls. Matthew also co-founded the independent self-help publishing house, New Harbinger Publications. So, I think we can safely say that when it comes to books, Matthew definitely "knows his onions!" And I'm thrilled that he will be the first guest to join us on our new public Facebook weekly live streaming episodes of the No BS Spiritual Book Club's 10 Best Spiritual Books Face to Face with... interviews. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sandie-sedgbeer/support

 On today's episode we are unpacking the concept of body food choice congruence, a component of gentle nutrition.  This concept is all about making food choices based on health and body functioning, as well as pleasure.  Something that can feel especially nuanced when living with diabetes, and learning to disentangle diet culture influences, and pressures of the numbers in making your food choices. On this episode you'll learn:What is body food choice congruenceHow blood sugars bring this principle to the forefront for those of us living with diabetesHow to mindfully and gently navigate this as you work to increase interoceptive awareness and the external diet culture disruptions5 wide lens questions to consider in creating body food choice congruence7 narrow lens questions to consider when navigating individual food experiencesMentioned in the show:Tribole, E & Resch, E (2017).  Th Intuitive Eating Workbook: 10 Principles for Nourishing a Healthy Relationship with Food.  New Harbinger Publications, Inc., Oakland, CA.Lindsay's Instagram:https://instagram.com/theintuitivediabetic/Lindsay's Website:https://www.lindsaysarson.comIntuitive Eating with Diabetes 1:1 Coaching Program:https://www.lindsaysarson.com/intuitive-eating-programWork with Lindsay:https://www.lindsaysarson.com/work-with-me

In this episode, I speak with Dr. Robyn Walser, a warm-hearted soul with so much wisdom to share, about ways we can change our relationship to painful life experiences in order to move more freely in our lives. We talk about how living life with vitality, rather than focusing primarily on getting rid of certain symptoms, can help us meet painful emotions like anxiety and grief without shame and self-blame. We also discuss how mindfulness and compassion can help us meet human experiences with acceptance, so that we can still go on to create meaning and value in our lives even with significant stress, trauma, and loss. Importantly, we talk about ways we can not only clarify our own values and distinguish which values are truly ours from those that we've been conditioned to uphold, but also navigate conflicts in values, especially in the context of relationships and the broader systems in which we operate. We end with a brief mindfulness exercise, illustrating one way our joy can help connect us to the core values that matter to us most. To connect more with Dr. Foynes: Check out the free 4-part video series on building resilience: https://melissafoynes.com/free-series 1:1 Coaching Program: https://melissafoynes.com/1-1-program Follow @drfoynes on Instagram. About Dr. Robyn Walser: Dr. Robin Walser is the director of TL consultation services (http://www.tlconsultationservices.com) and co-director of the Bay Area Trauma Recovery Center (https://www.traumarecoveryclinic.org). She is also staff at the National Center for Posttraumatic Stress Disorder in the Dissemination and Training Division (https://www.ptsd.va.gov/about/divisions/dissemination/walser_r.asp). She is also a licensed psychologist, and maintains an international training, consulting and therapy practice. She is an expert in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy or ACT, and has co-authored five books on ACT and a sixth book, which has recently been published, called "The Heart of ACT," which she has authored on her own. Some of her other books include ACT for moral injury, ACT for anger (a self-help book soon to be released), as well as a book on Learning ACT. Dr. Walser also has expertise in traumatic stress and substance abuse and has authored a number of articles and chapters and books on these topics. Please see below for a selection of Dr. Walser's incredible books.   My FREE 4-part video series called "The Science & Soul of Building Resilience" can be found here(https://unique-trader-1040.ck.page/0a3a623dbd). This series is meant to help you enhance key pillars of resilience that can help us all navigate inevitable life stress with more ease and skill. I chose to focus on these specific pillars of resilience because they can help us address some of the most common struggles I see in my clients – anxiety, self-doubt, lack of direction or sense of self, disconnection from larger meaning & purpose, and self-criticism. Similar to the spirit of this podcast, this series integrates science-backed strategies from psychology with tools from ancient wisdom like yoga and meditation, to present skills over the course of this series that can be used and integrated into daily life. I hope you check it out and please share it with others as you feel inspired. For more information, tools, and strategies, please follow @drfoynes on Instagram. References & Additional Resources Walser, R. D. & O'Connell, M. (2021). The ACT Workbook for Anger: Manage Emotions and Take Back Your Life with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. New Harbinger Publications. Walser, R. D. (2019). The Heart of ACT: Developing a Flexible, Process-Based, and Client-Centered Practice Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. New Harbinger Publications. Evans, W. R., Walser, R. D., Drescher, K. D., & Farnsworth, J. K. (2020). The Moral Injury Workbook: Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Skills for Moving Beyond Shame, Anger, and Trauma to Reclaim Your Values. New Harbinger Publications. Nieuwsma, J. A, Walser, R. D., Hayes, S. C. (2016). ACT for Clergy and Pastoral Counselors Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to Bridge Psychological and Spiritual Care. New Harbinger Publications. Walser, R. D., & Westrup, D. (2009). The mindful couple: How acceptance and mindfulness can lead you to the love you want. New Harbinger Publication Luoma, J. B., Hayes, S. C., & Walser, R. D. (2007). Learning ACT: An acceptance & commitment therapy skills-training manual for therapists. New Harbinger Publications. Walser, R. D., & Westrup, D. (2007). Acceptance and commitment therapy for the treatment of post-traumatic stress disorder and trauma-related problems: A practitioner's guide to using mindfulness and acceptance strategies. New Harbinger Publications. Please note that the information provided in this episode does not constitute professional advice or therapy, mental health services, or health care services, and is not intended to serve as a substitute for professional advice or services. If you are struggling with a mental health crisis or need immediate assistance, please call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.

In today's episode, I discuss two sets of relationship and communication patterns that have been identified by scientific research to have a harmful effect. I also share 6 key strategies that can be used not only to skillfully respond to these patterns, but also to change them in meaningful ways. Enhancing the quality of our relationships involves both identifying these patterns more clearly in the moment and having a concrete sense of how to effectively respond when they do arise. To connect more with Dr. Foynes: Check out the free 4-part video series on building resilience: https://melissafoynes.com/free-series 1:1 Coaching Program: https://melissafoynes.com/1-1-program Follow @drfoynes on Instagram. References & Additional Resources Fruzzetti, A. (2006). The high-conflict couple: A dialectical behavior therapy guide to finding peace, intimacy, and validation. New Harbinger Publications. Gottman, J. M. (2011). The science of trust: Emotional attunement for couples. WW Norton & Company. Johnson, S. (2008). Hold me tight: Seven conversations for a lifetime of love. Little, Brown Spark. Please note that the information provided in this episode does not constitute professional advice or therapy, mental health services, or health care services, and is not intended to serve as a substitue for professional advice or services. If you are struggling with a mental health crisis or need immediate assistance, please call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.