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In this week's episode, Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy unpack the powerful topic of expectations—focusing on how to clearly express what you need from your spouse. With honest conversation, a willingness to listen, and an open heart, you can transform how you communicate and connect in your relationship.   Quotes from this episode: “I just thought you knew. And when you didn't I would go along and get resentful” “We were trying to fit each other in the mold.”  “Our first big argument scared the heck out of me. My unrealistic expectation was that we would never fight.”  “It's a good idea to have a signal or cue so that you make your spouse aware.”  Questions for Reflection: What are some expectations—spoken or unspoken—that we each bring into our marriage, and how well do we feel they've been understood by each other? When was a time we misunderstood one another because expectations weren't clearly communicated? What can we learn from that moment? How can we create more space in our relationship for honest, judgment-free conversations about what we each need or hope for? What's one expectation we can both express more clearly this week—and how can we support each other in meeting it with love and grace?   Mentioned in this Episode: Find Dr. Kim on Instagram This month's resource is for every couple. Love that Honors: A 13 Day Challenge for Couples. Honor and respect aren't always our first response or priority. This challenge will help you love your spouse the way the Lord has called you to love your spouse.   When you're frustrated, it's easy to let words fly out of your mouth. Our new FREE resource: 17 Unintentionally Disrespectful Phrases To Cut Out When Speaking To Your Spouse will help couples choose words that bring life instead of cause chaos. Awesome Marriage has a great Premarital course to help couples have important conversations before their big day. Communicate expectations effectively and be proactive in learning your future spouse with this great course. Already married? Share this course with a couple who's looking forward to their big day. Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word as you intentionally choose to puruse the marriage God intended, find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. Try this FREE YouVersion plan: 14 Keys to Lasting Love If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Sign up for Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips! Now is the perfect time to join our Marriage Changers program. Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy. 

In today's episode, we're diving into a powerful truth: the health of your marriage often comes down to what you choose to focus on. It's easy to fixate on what's not working, letting small annoyances grow into mountains of frustration. But what if the key to deeper connection and lasting joy is found in a simple but radical posture—gratitude? We'll explore how contentment isn't resignation, but an intentional choice to see the blessings amidst the imperfections. You'll hear honest reflections on prioritizing your spouse, the life-giving role of quality time, and how to navigate conflict in ways that build satisfaction, not resentment. Whether you're newly married or decades in, this conversation is a fresh reminder that gratitude, not settling, is the foundation of a thriving Christian marriage.   Episode highlights: Feeling content in marriage is different from settling. There's a way to work through conflict that makes both spouses feel more satisfied. Healthy conflict resolution is one of the strongest predictors of marriage satisfaction.  Silent discontentment leads to resentment that erodes at the foundation of your marriage.  The key is finding solutions that honor both spouses perspectives.   Questions to reflect: What are three things about our marriage that you're grateful for right now? Are there any small annoyances in our relationship that we've let build up? How can we address them gently and respectfully? How can we be more intentional about choosing each other—especially in the areas where our preferences or personalities differ?   Quotes from today's episode: “I found myself focusing on the things that weren't working in my marriage instead of thinking about the things that were.” “Small annoyances can grow into mountains of frustration” “Settling comes from a place of resignation” “Contentment flows from gratitude, an intentional choice we make.” “Contentment says I see the imperfections in our marriage but I choose to focus on the blessings.” “Nancy comes before my personal preferences.” “The key word is choice.” “Have a posture of gratitude while understanding there is room for growth.” “Quality time is oxygen for your marriage” "There's a way to work through conflict that makes both spouses feel more satisfied." Mentioned in this episode: Use our Marriage Reframing Challenge to change your perspective about your spouse and/or your marriage.  Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word as you intentionally choose to pursue the marriage God intended, find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. Try this FREE YouVersion plan: 5 Marriage Lies to Defeat with Biblical Truth If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Sign up for Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips! Now is the perfect time to join our Marriage Changers program. Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy.   

In this deeply honest and hope-filled conversation, Justin and Trisha Davis open up about their journey through love, ministry, and the real struggles that nearly tore their marriage apart—including infidelity and hidden personal battles. With vulnerability and wisdom, they share how counseling, truth-telling, and taking ownership became the turning points in their healing. Trisha shares what it looked like to face the pain of betrayal trauma, while Justin reflects on the overwhelming guilt and the hard road to forgiveness. Together, they unpack how our stories, the words spoken over us, and the lies we believe about our worth can deeply affect how we show up in relationships. But this isn't just a story about pain—it's a story about redemption. About the power of grace, the courage it takes to grieve and heal, and the choice to believe that real transformation is possible. More than behavior change, they point to the heart—the deep, inner work that allows us to discover who we really are and who God has created us to be. Their story is a beautiful reminder that no matter how broken things may feel, healing and hope are always within reach.   Episode highlights: Rock bottom is still a solid surface to stand when you come alongside Christ. Intimacy is to be fully known and know that we're fully loved. You never cause someone to have an affair. The truth sets you free because it doesn't give any room for the enemy. Excavating our past helps us understand our present. Redemptive pain can lead to growth. Healthy relationships require vulnerability and trust. Transformation comes from God's grace and our choices.   Questions for reflection: 1. What small, everyday choices are we making in our marriage that could either be building connection—or slowly creating distance? 2. Are there areas of hiddenness in our relationship—past wounds, unspoken frustrations, or shame—that we need to bring into the light? 3. What does forgiveness look like in our relationship right now?   Quotes from today's episode: "I had to choose to be a truth teller myself." "You never cause someone to have an affair." "I believed I have to be perfect to be loved." "You can't today, but God still has a plan." "Healing is hard, but then it's worth it." "You are not as stuck as you think you are." "You have to stop gaslighting yourself to grieve." "The heart of the book is about what God can do." Mentioned in this episode: Beyond Ordinary: When a Good Marriage Just Isn't Good Enough by Justin & Trisha Davis RefineUs Ministries Helping people experience transformation by building healthy, authentic relationships. Find Justin and Trisha on Instagram Use our Marriage Reframing Challenge to change your perspective about your spouse and/or your marriage.  Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word as you intentionally choose to pursue the marriage God intended, find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. Try this FREE YouVersion plan: 5 Marriage Lies to Defeat with Biblical Truth If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Sign up for Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips! Now is the perfect time to join our Marriage Changers program. Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy. Join now, just in time to . receive our May “7 Most Popular Resource Bundle.”

In this deeply honest and hope-filled conversation, Justin and Trisha Davis open up about their journey through love, ministry, and the real struggles that nearly tore their marriage apart—including infidelity and hidden personal battles. With vulnerability and wisdom, they share how counseling, truth-telling, and taking ownership became the turning points in their healing. Trisha shares what it looked like to face the pain of betrayal trauma, while Justin reflects on the overwhelming guilt and the hard road to forgiveness. Together, they unpack how our stories, the words spoken over us, and the lies we believe about our worth can deeply affect how we show up in relationships. But this isn't just a story about pain—it's a story about redemption. About the power of grace, the courage it takes to grieve and heal, and the choice to believe that real transformation is possible. More than behavior change, they point to the heart—the deep, inner work that allows us to discover who we really are and who God has created us to be. Their story is a beautiful reminder that no matter how broken things may feel, healing and hope are always within reach.   Episode highlights: Rock bottom is still a solid surface to stand when you come alongside Christ. Intimacy is to be fully known and know that we're fully loved. You never cause someone to have an affair. The truth sets you free because it doesn't give any room for the enemy. Excavating our past helps us understand our present. Redemptive pain can lead to growth. Healthy relationships require vulnerability and trust. Transformation comes from God's grace and our choices.   Questions for reflection: 1. What small, everyday choices are we making in our marriage that could either be building connection—or slowly creating distance? 2. Are there areas of hiddenness in our relationship—past wounds, unspoken frustrations, or shame—that we need to bring into the light? 3. What does forgiveness look like in our relationship right now?   Quotes from today's episode: "I had to choose to be a truth teller myself." "You never cause someone to have an affair." "I believed I have to be perfect to be loved." "You can't today, but God still has a plan." "Healing is hard, but then it's worth it." "You are not as stuck as you think you are." "You have to stop gaslighting yourself to grieve." "The heart of the book is about what God can do." Mentioned in this episode: Beyond Ordinary: When a Good Marriage Just Isn't Good Enough by Justin & Trisha Davis RefineUs Ministries Helping people experience transformation by building healthy, authentic relationships. Find Justin and Trisha on Instagram Use our Marriage Reframing Challenge to change your perspective about your spouse and/or your marriage.  Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word as you intentionally choose to pursue the marriage God intended, find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. Try this FREE YouVersion plan: 5 Marriage Lies to Defeat with Biblical Truth If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Sign up for Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips! Now is the perfect time to join our Marriage Changers program. Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy. Join now, just in time to . receive our May “7 Most Popular Resource Bundle.”

In this special Mother's Day episode, Dr. Kim Kimberling sits down with bestselling author Melanie Shankle to talk about her latest book, Here Be Dragons. Together, they unpack the complexities of generational trauma and explore what it means to break old cycles in order to build a new legacy of healthy relationships. It's a conversation that's honest, refreshing, and full of humor. Whether you're a mother or not, this episode has something for you! Episode highlights include:  Generational trauma affects emotional growth and relationships. Self-worth can be deeply impacted by parental relationships. Humor can be a coping mechanism for deeper issues. Recognizing unhealthy patterns is crucial for personal growth. Parenting requires intentionality and awareness of past traumas. Melanie embraced her daughter's individuality instead of molding her. Healing can come from being the parent you wished you had. True love is built on friendship and authenticity. Identifying generational trauma requires honest self-assessment. Creating a positive legacy is essential for future generations. God's timing is perfect in relationships. Healing is a journey that takes baby steps. There can be beauty in the ashes of our past. Couples Conversation Guide:    Main takeaway:  If you were raised in the midst of unhealthy relationships, take heart—there is hope in Christ for a better future. Healing from past wounds opens the door to the freedom and joy of healthy, life-giving relationships. Along the journey, boundaries will protect your peace, forgiveness will soften your heart, and Christ must remain the foundation of it all.   Questions to Discuss:  What messages or behaviors from our families growing up do we find ourselves repeating—intentionally or not—in our relationship or with our children?   When we face conflict or stress, do our reactions feel like our own—or do they echo how our parents or caregivers responded?   Are there parts of our past—such as experiences of neglect, abuse, shame, or loss—that we haven't fully processed and might be impacting how we show up for each other and our children?   What do you hope your legacy will be?   Quotes from today's episode: "It's okay to not be perfect." “You've gotta have your truthtellers” “There are things we may not see as big, but they become big.”  “I always deflected with humor because I didn't want to feel anything too deeply.”  “They've achieved all these things that the world says is success, but they're still empty.”  “It's so healing to be the thing in someone else's life that you wish you would have had in your own.”  “I didn't get to have that mother, but I get to be that mother.” “There is something so beneficial about having someone who's not your friend, validate some of the experiences you've been through.”  MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Use our Self Check Up Guide as an opportunity for honest self reflection.  Melanie Shankle's Here Be Dragons Listen to Melanie on her wildly popular podcast The Big Boo Cast If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Did you know we have resources for families- check those out HERE. Sign up for Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips!  

In this special Mother's Day episode, Dr. Kim Kimberling sits down with bestselling author Melanie Shankle to talk about her latest book, Here Be Dragons. Together, they unpack the complexities of generational trauma and explore what it means to break old cycles in order to build a new legacy of healthy relationships. It's a conversation that's honest, refreshing, and full of humor. Whether you're a mother or not, this episode has something for you! Episode highlights include:  Generational trauma affects emotional growth and relationships. Self-worth can be deeply impacted by parental relationships. Humor can be a coping mechanism for deeper issues. Recognizing unhealthy patterns is crucial for personal growth. Parenting requires intentionality and awareness of past traumas. Melanie embraced her daughter's individuality instead of molding her. Healing can come from being the parent you wished you had. True love is built on friendship and authenticity. Identifying generational trauma requires honest self-assessment. Creating a positive legacy is essential for future generations. God's timing is perfect in relationships. Healing is a journey that takes baby steps. There can be beauty in the ashes of our past. Couples Conversation Guide:    Main takeaway:  If you were raised in the midst of unhealthy relationships, take heart—there is hope in Christ for a better future. Healing from past wounds opens the door to the freedom and joy of healthy, life-giving relationships. Along the journey, boundaries will protect your peace, forgiveness will soften your heart, and Christ must remain the foundation of it all.   Questions to Discuss:  What messages or behaviors from our families growing up do we find ourselves repeating—intentionally or not—in our relationship or with our children?   When we face conflict or stress, do our reactions feel like our own—or do they echo how our parents or caregivers responded?   Are there parts of our past—such as experiences of neglect, abuse, shame, or loss—that we haven't fully processed and might be impacting how we show up for each other and our children?   What do you hope your legacy will be?   Quotes from today's episode: "It's okay to not be perfect." “You've gotta have your truthtellers” “There are things we may not see as big, but they become big.”  “I always deflected with humor because I didn't want to feel anything too deeply.”  “They've achieved all these things that the world says is success, but they're still empty.”  “It's so healing to be the thing in someone else's life that you wish you would have had in your own.”  “I didn't get to have that mother, but I get to be that mother.” “There is something so beneficial about having someone who's not your friend, validate some of the experiences you've been through.”  MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Use our Self Check Up Guide as an opportunity for honest self reflection.  Melanie Shankle's Here Be Dragons Listen to Melanie on her wildly popular podcast The Big Boo Cast If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Did you know we have resources for families- check those out HERE. Sign up for Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips!  

In this heartfelt and honest conversation, Dr. Kim sits down with Jimmy Rollins to unpack the real-life highs and lows of marriage. They dive into why communication, forgiveness, and a strong support system are so crucial—and how those things have played out in their own lives. From the power of simple daily appreciations to creating a safe space for open conversations, Jimmy and Dr. Kim get real about what it takes to build (and rebuild) a strong relationship. They also reflect on how easy it is to chase success in the wrong places—and how to shift the focus back to what matters most. Whether you're in a great season or struggling to find your footing, this episode is full of practical wisdom and encouragement to help you grow and heal in your marriage. Episode Takeaways: Every marriage is hard and requires effort. Forgiveness is a decision, while reconciliation is a process. Daily appreciation can reignite connection in marriage. Creating a safe space is essential for open communication. Winning at the wrong things can harm your marriage. Community support is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships. It's important to examine your own behavior in marriage. Practical steps can lead to significant changes in relationships. Couples should seek resources and mentorship for guidance. The goal in marriage is to think together, not alike.   Questions to Discuss:  Are there areas of your marriage you are trying to ignore? Are there areas you are trying to change your spouse? How would you rate the community you have to support your marriage? What one thing can you say “no” to today, so that you have more margin to say “yes”  in your marriage.    Quotes: "Forgiveness is a decision." "Community is what keeps us sober." "You're not in it by yourself." "Every marriage is hard." "The goal is not to think alike." "The best days are ahead of us."   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Use our FREE Weekly Marriage Check Up Guide to keep intentionally winning in your marriage! Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word as you prioritize your marriage. Try this Awesome Marriage YouVersion reading plan: Traffic Signs and Your Marriage: Part 1 If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Sign up for Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips! Now is the perfect time to join our Marriage Changers program. Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy. Join now, just in time to receive our May “7 Most Popular Resource Bundle.”

In this heartfelt and honest conversation, Dr. Kim sits down with Jimmy Rollins to unpack the real-life highs and lows of marriage. They dive into why communication, forgiveness, and a strong support system are so crucial—and how those things have played out in their own lives. From the power of simple daily appreciations to creating a safe space for open conversations, Jimmy and Dr. Kim get real about what it takes to build (and rebuild) a strong relationship. They also reflect on how easy it is to chase success in the wrong places—and how to shift the focus back to what matters most. Whether you're in a great season or struggling to find your footing, this episode is full of practical wisdom and encouragement to help you grow and heal in your marriage. Episode Takeaways: Every marriage is hard and requires effort. Forgiveness is a decision, while reconciliation is a process. Daily appreciation can reignite connection in marriage. Creating a safe space is essential for open communication. Winning at the wrong things can harm your marriage. Community support is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships. It's important to examine your own behavior in marriage. Practical steps can lead to significant changes in relationships. Couples should seek resources and mentorship for guidance. The goal in marriage is to think together, not alike.   Questions to Discuss:  Are there areas of your marriage you are trying to ignore? Are there areas you are trying to change your spouse? How would you rate the community you have to support your marriage? What one thing can you say “no” to today, so that you have more margin to say “yes”  in your marriage.    Quotes: "Forgiveness is a decision." "Community is what keeps us sober." "You're not in it by yourself." "Every marriage is hard." "The goal is not to think alike." "The best days are ahead of us."   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Use our FREE Weekly Marriage Check Up Guide to keep intentionally winning in your marriage! Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word as you prioritize your marriage. Try this Awesome Marriage YouVersion reading plan: Traffic Signs and Your Marriage: Part 1 If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Sign up for Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips! Now is the perfect time to join our Marriage Changers program. Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy. Join now, just in time to receive our May “7 Most Popular Resource Bundle.”

Main takeaway:  Every relationship can be prone to drifting if we aren't paying attention, and our marriage relationship is no exception. In this episode Dr. Kim and Lindsay talk about how easy it is to begin prioritizing good things over the best things, and how those small compromises lead to big disconnect in marriage.  This episode will help you recognize the signs of drift and begin to fight back against it! Recognizing the signs of drifting is crucial for couples. Prioritizing time together is essential to prevent drifting. Good things can distract from nurturing the marriage. Drifting can happen gradually without realization. Communication and emotional intimacy are key to a strong marriage. Common signs of drifting include changes in communication and intimacy. Non-sexual physical touch can enhance emotional intimacy. It's important to address issues early before they become entrenched patterns. Questions to Discuss:  Is your marriage reflected on your calendar? When's the last time you encouraged your spouse with your words? Do you feel pressure to say yes to things outside of your marriage that in turn forces you to say no to things that would grow your marriage? Are you protecting your energy so that you make the most of the time with your spouse? What's one thing you can do today to show your spouse you're pursuing your marriage? Quotes: “You drift without even realizing it.” “Sometimes good things get in the way of the most important things” “If you're drifting away you're more vulnerable to sin.” “You have to choose the best over the good.” “There are things I could have done different.” “In our culture, life gets in the way and we don't even think about it.” “I've always got to know that Nancy is a gift, and I have to embrace that gift, and treat her like a gift every day.” “Drifting happens gradually.” “Show me where you have your marriage on your calendar.” “It's on my calendar now.” “It's not going great, but everyone's just accepting it.” “You can do something!” “Make sure you go to somebody who can be objective and is for your marriage.” MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Use our FREE Weekly Marriage Check Up Guide to help keep the connection and fight the drift! Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word as you fight the drift in marriage? Try this Awesome Marriage YouVersion reading plan: Pursuing Your Spouse in Marriage Pt 1 If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Sign up for Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips! Now is the perfect time to join our Marriage Changers program. Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy. Join now, just in time to receive our May “7 Most Popular Resource Bundle.”

Main takeaway:  Every relationship can be prone to drifting if we aren't paying attention, and our marriage relationship is no exception. In this episode Dr. Kim and Lindsay talk about how easy it is to begin prioritizing good things over the best things, and how those small compromises lead to big disconnect in marriage.  This episode will help you recognize the signs of drift and begin to fight back against it! Recognizing the signs of drifting is crucial for couples. Prioritizing time together is essential to prevent drifting. Good things can distract from nurturing the marriage. Drifting can happen gradually without realization. Communication and emotional intimacy are key to a strong marriage. Common signs of drifting include changes in communication and intimacy. Non-sexual physical touch can enhance emotional intimacy. It's important to address issues early before they become entrenched patterns. Questions to Discuss:  Is your marriage reflected on your calendar? When's the last time you encouraged your spouse with your words? Do you feel pressure to say yes to things outside of your marriage that in turn forces you to say no to things that would grow your marriage? Are you protecting your energy so that you make the most of the time with your spouse? What's one thing you can do today to show your spouse you're pursuing your marriage? Quotes: “You drift without even realizing it.” “Sometimes good things get in the way of the most important things” “If you're drifting away you're more vulnerable to sin.” “You have to choose the best over the good.” “There are things I could have done different.” “In our culture, life gets in the way and we don't even think about it.” “I've always got to know that Nancy is a gift, and I have to embrace that gift, and treat her like a gift every day.” “Drifting happens gradually.” “Show me where you have your marriage on your calendar.” “It's on my calendar now.” “It's not going great, but everyone's just accepting it.” “You can do something!” “Make sure you go to somebody who can be objective and is for your marriage.” MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Use our FREE Weekly Marriage Check Up Guide to help keep the connection and fight the drift! Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word as you fight the drift in marriage? Try this Awesome Marriage YouVersion reading plan: Pursuing Your Spouse in Marriage Pt 1 If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Sign up for Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips! Now is the perfect time to join our Marriage Changers program. Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy. Join now, just in time to receive our May “7 Most Popular Resource Bundle.”

In this episode of the Awesome Marriage podcast, Lindsay and Dr. Kim discuss the importance of resolving conflict in a faith-centered, biblical way. They debunk the myth that Christian couples do not experience conflict and emphasize that conflict can lead to growth and deeper intimacy in relationships. Learn the biblical principles for handling conflict, practical steps for effective communication, and the significance of humility and selflessness in marriage.   Episode highlights include: Timeouts can help manage heated discussions. Keeping short accounts prevents resentment from building up. Using the silent treatment is a form of emotional manipulation. Bringing up past conflicts as weapons is unhealthy for marriage. Involving others in conflicts before addressing them with your spouse can create triangles of conflict. Taking responsibility for one's actions is crucial in resolving conflicts. Prayer is a powerful tool for maintaining a healthy marriage. Biblical principles provide a framework for resolving conflicts effectively.   Couples Conversation Guide:  Main takeaway:  You will experience conflict with your spouse, and when you do it's important to keep the Lord at the center of the conversation. Remember your spouse is not your enemy and words shouldn't be your weapon. Acknowledge your part and be quick to forgive.    Questions to Discuss:  Which area of conflict resolution do you need the most help in- bringing up the past, resorting to the silent treatment, or taking responsibility for your part? Have you brought that struggle to the Lord and invited Him into the conflict in your marriage?    QUOTES  Conflict is normal and if done right can help our marriage grow. Even though we are both seeking to follow Christ, we are human. If your kids see you doing that, they want that, and it gives them security. Having a marriage that's not life-giving, can drain you so quick. It zaps your energy. When a couple is able to get past the things keeping them at odds, it goes beyond the marriage too. I can't meet all her needs, but God can. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Use our Marriage Boundaries Workbook to navigate tough conversations and hard seasons.  Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word as you navigate conflict? Try this Awesome Marriage YouVersion reading plan: Fighting for Your Marriage If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Did you know we have resources just for handling conflict in your marriage?- check those out HERE. Sign up for Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips! Now is the perfect time to join our Marriage Changers program. Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy. Join now, just in time to receive our May “7 Most Popular Resource Bundle.”  

In this episode of the Awesome Marriage podcast, Lindsay and Dr. Kim discuss the importance of resolving conflict in a faith-centered, biblical way. They debunk the myth that Christian couples do not experience conflict and emphasize that conflict can lead to growth and deeper intimacy in relationships. Learn the biblical principles for handling conflict, practical steps for effective communication, and the significance of humility and selflessness in marriage.   Episode highlights include: Timeouts can help manage heated discussions. Keeping short accounts prevents resentment from building up. Using the silent treatment is a form of emotional manipulation. Bringing up past conflicts as weapons is unhealthy for marriage. Involving others in conflicts before addressing them with your spouse can create triangles of conflict. Taking responsibility for one's actions is crucial in resolving conflicts. Prayer is a powerful tool for maintaining a healthy marriage. Biblical principles provide a framework for resolving conflicts effectively.   Couples Conversation Guide:  Main takeaway:  You will experience conflict with your spouse, and when you do it's important to keep the Lord at the center of the conversation. Remember your spouse is not your enemy and words shouldn't be your weapon. Acknowledge your part and be quick to forgive.    Questions to Discuss:  Which area of conflict resolution do you need the most help in- bringing up the past, resorting to the silent treatment, or taking responsibility for your part? Have you brought that struggle to the Lord and invited Him into the conflict in your marriage?    QUOTES  Conflict is normal and if done right can help our marriage grow. Even though we are both seeking to follow Christ, we are human. If your kids see you doing that, they want that, and it gives them security. Having a marriage that's not life-giving, can drain you so quick. It zaps your energy. When a couple is able to get past the things keeping them at odds, it goes beyond the marriage too. I can't meet all her needs, but God can. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Use our Marriage Boundaries Workbook to navigate tough conversations and hard seasons.  Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word as you navigate conflict? Try this Awesome Marriage YouVersion reading plan: Fighting for Your Marriage If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Did you know we have resources just for handling conflict in your marriage?- check those out HERE. Sign up for Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips! Now is the perfect time to join our Marriage Changers program. Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy. Join now, just in time to receive our May “7 Most Popular Resource Bundle.”  

In this conversation, Lindsay and Dr. Kim discuss the concept of cultivating a servant-hearted marriage, emphasizing the importance of serving one another selflessly. They explore how serving each other can create a loving and respectful environment, reflecting God's design for marriage. The discussion includes practical ways to serve, the impact of a servant-hearted marriage on family dynamics, and the barriers that can hinder this service. They also highlight the significance of self-examination and seeking help when facing challenges in marriage.    Episode highlights include: Cultivating a servant-hearted marriage requires daily choices to act in love. Children benefit from witnessing a servant-hearted marriage. A servant-hearted marriage reflects God's design and glorifies Him. Serving one another should come from the heart, not a checklist. Counseling can help break negative patterns in marriage.   Couples Conversation Guide:  Main takeaway:  God's design for marriage goes far beyond just coexisting with your spouse. Serving one another, respecting their wants and needs, and creating a loving relationship reflect the heart of the Lord and His design for the marriage relationship.    Questions to Discuss:  What stands in the way of you selflessly serving your spouse? Has your relationship with your spouse become transactional?   QUOTES  "Serving is saying, sure, I can do that." "Don't stay stuck there." "You don't just grow better." "God sees you." "It's gonna make a difference." “If your kids see you doing that, they want that, and it gives them security.” “Having a marriage that's not life-giving, can drain you so quick. It zaps your energy.” “When a couple is able to get past the things keeping them at odds, it goes beyond the marriage too.” “I can't meet all her needs, but God can.”   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Use our Marriage Boundaries Workbook to navigate tough conversations and hard seasons.  Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word as you navigate boundaries? Try this Awesome Marriage YouVersion reading plan: Boundaries in Marriage If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Did you know we have resources for families- check those out HERE. Sign up for Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips!

In this conversation, Lindsay and Dr. Kim discuss the concept of cultivating a servant-hearted marriage, emphasizing the importance of serving one another selflessly. They explore how serving each other can create a loving and respectful environment, reflecting God's design for marriage. The discussion includes practical ways to serve, the impact of a servant-hearted marriage on family dynamics, and the barriers that can hinder this service. They also highlight the significance of self-examination and seeking help when facing challenges in marriage.    Episode highlights include: Cultivating a servant-hearted marriage requires daily choices to act in love. Children benefit from witnessing a servant-hearted marriage. A servant-hearted marriage reflects God's design and glorifies Him. Serving one another should come from the heart, not a checklist. Counseling can help break negative patterns in marriage.   Couples Conversation Guide:  Main takeaway:  God's design for marriage goes far beyond just coexisting with your spouse. Serving one another, respecting their wants and needs, and creating a loving relationship reflect the heart of the Lord and His design for the marriage relationship.    Questions to Discuss:  What stands in the way of you selflessly serving your spouse? Has your relationship with your spouse become transactional?   QUOTES  "Serving is saying, sure, I can do that." "Don't stay stuck there." "You don't just grow better." "God sees you." "It's gonna make a difference." “If your kids see you doing that, they want that, and it gives them security.” “Having a marriage that's not life-giving, can drain you so quick. It zaps your energy.” “When a couple is able to get past the things keeping them at odds, it goes beyond the marriage too.” “I can't meet all her needs, but God can.”   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Use our Marriage Boundaries Workbook to navigate tough conversations and hard seasons.  Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word as you navigate boundaries? Try this Awesome Marriage YouVersion reading plan: Boundaries in Marriage If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Did you know we have resources for families- check those out HERE. Sign up for Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips!

Dr. Kim and Lindsay dive into a heartfelt conversation about the power of communication and unity in parenting. They talk about why it's so important for parents to be on the same page when it comes to raising their kids, facing challenges as a team, and setting a strong example through their own decision-making. Along the way, they explore how to navigate differences in parenting styles, adapt to the ever-changing needs of children as they grow, and lean on prayer for guidance in tough decisions. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:  It's unrealistic to agree on everything in parenting. Children benefit from the security of united parents. It's important to filter parenting advice based on core beliefs. When you disagree, and you will, model respect for your spouse. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    Couples Conversation Guide:  Main takeaway:  Do you and your spouse struggle to stay on the same page while parenting your children? Are you handling disagreements in a way that adds to the chaos? In this episode, Dr. Kim and Lindsay discuss how to navigate the hard conversations, the power of differing perspectives, and the benefit of a strong relationship as an example to your children.    Questions to Discuss:  Are you and your spouse allowing parenting to divide or unite? In what ways can you better support your spouse in parenting? Have you and your spouse set aside time to discuss the goals you have for your children?    Quotes From this Episode: “There's no shortcut to communication." "Agreeing on core values is essential." "Set aside time to discuss your challenges." "Kids need security and stability."   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Use our Marriage Boundaries Workbook to navigate tough conversations and hard seasons.  Don't let porn teach your children about sex. Get equipped to have “The Sex Talk” If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Did you know we have resources for families- check those out HERE. Sign up for Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips!  

Dr. Kim and Lindsay dive into a heartfelt conversation about the power of communication and unity in parenting. They talk about why it's so important for parents to be on the same page when it comes to raising their kids, facing challenges as a team, and setting a strong example through their own decision-making. Along the way, they explore how to navigate differences in parenting styles, adapt to the ever-changing needs of children as they grow, and lean on prayer for guidance in tough decisions. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:  It's unrealistic to agree on everything in parenting. Children benefit from the security of united parents. It's important to filter parenting advice based on core beliefs. When you disagree, and you will, model respect for your spouse. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    Couples Conversation Guide:  Main takeaway:  Do you and your spouse struggle to stay on the same page while parenting your children? Are you handling disagreements in a way that adds to the chaos? In this episode, Dr. Kim and Lindsay discuss how to navigate the hard conversations, the power of differing perspectives, and the benefit of a strong relationship as an example to your children.    Questions to Discuss:  Are you and your spouse allowing parenting to divide or unite? In what ways can you better support your spouse in parenting? Have you and your spouse set aside time to discuss the goals you have for your children?    Quotes From this Episode: “There's no shortcut to communication." "Agreeing on core values is essential." "Set aside time to discuss your challenges." "Kids need security and stability."   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Use our Marriage Boundaries Workbook to navigate tough conversations and hard seasons.  Don't let porn teach your children about sex. Get equipped to have “The Sex Talk” If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Did you know we have resources for families- check those out HERE. Sign up for Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips!  

Dr. Kim and Camden Morgante explore how purity culture has shaped individuals' beliefs and relationships. They break down five harmful myths it promotes and examine how these misconceptions can impact a couple's sex life after marriage — including the unrealistic expectation of a fairy tale marriage as a reward for remaining pure. Dr. Morgante offers guidance to help couples move beyond the shame and guilt tied to these teachings, so they can embrace the beautiful gift God designed for marriage. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights: Our God isn't a transactional god. Purity culture has been compared to the sexual prosperity gospel. Many individuals only hear negative messages about sex before marriage. Reclaiming the beauty of sex involves holistic healing of mind, body, heart, and soul. Teaching children about sexuality should focus on values rather than rules. Purity culture can lead to feelings of being 'damaged goods'. Myths of purity culture can cause disillusionment in faith.   Couples Conversation Guide:  Main takeaway:  Our motivation for purity before marriage can serve as a stumbling block to intimacy within our marriage. Purity before and within marriage is important, but our relationship with God isn't transactional. We are missing the point of God's heart for sex when the focus is on a reward.  Questions to Discuss:  How was the conversation surrounding sex approached in your youth? Looking back, did you desire to stay pure before marriage and what was your motivation for purity? Did you believe one of the “5 lies” Dr. Morgante mentioned in this episode? What do you think Dr. Morgante means when she says that the lies of purity culture don't just live in our minds, they live in our bodies?    QUOTES: These myths didn't just live in our minds, they lived in our bodies. -Dr. Camden Morgante When you try to control people, it's really easy for shame and fear to become part of it. The end result may be good, but the way you get there can harm people. Shame and guilt is not from God. God wants us to experience healing. We have to have a deeper why for it.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Dr. Camden Morgante's Recovering from Purity Culture.   You can connect with Dr. Camden Morgante on Instagram Unlock True Intimacy: Become a couple who prays together.  We have several other AWESOME Resources on our website. Check those out HERE.   Check out our Bible Reading plans on YouVersion and make sure you're following us there to keep current on all our newest plans!   

Dr. Kim and Camden Morgante explore how purity culture has shaped individuals' beliefs and relationships. They break down five harmful myths it promotes and examine how these misconceptions can impact a couple's sex life after marriage — including the unrealistic expectation of a fairy tale marriage as a reward for remaining pure. Dr. Morgante offers guidance to help couples move beyond the shame and guilt tied to these teachings, so they can embrace the beautiful gift God designed for marriage. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights: Our God isn't a transactional god. Purity culture has been compared to the sexual prosperity gospel. Many individuals only hear negative messages about sex before marriage. Reclaiming the beauty of sex involves holistic healing of mind, body, heart, and soul. Teaching children about sexuality should focus on values rather than rules. Purity culture can lead to feelings of being 'damaged goods'. Myths of purity culture can cause disillusionment in faith.   Couples Conversation Guide:  Main takeaway:  Our motivation for purity before marriage can serve as a stumbling block to intimacy within our marriage. Purity before and within marriage is important, but our relationship with God isn't transactional. We are missing the point of God's heart for sex when the focus is on a reward.  Questions to Discuss:  How was the conversation surrounding sex approached in your youth? Looking back, did you desire to stay pure before marriage and what was your motivation for purity? Did you believe one of the “5 lies” Dr. Morgante mentioned in this episode? What do you think Dr. Morgante means when she says that the lies of purity culture don't just live in our minds, they live in our bodies?    QUOTES: These myths didn't just live in our minds, they lived in our bodies. -Dr. Camden Morgante When you try to control people, it's really easy for shame and fear to become part of it. The end result may be good, but the way you get there can harm people. Shame and guilt is not from God. God wants us to experience healing. We have to have a deeper why for it.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Dr. Camden Morgante's Recovering from Purity Culture.   You can connect with Dr. Camden Morgante on Instagram Unlock True Intimacy: Become a couple who prays together.  We have several other AWESOME Resources on our website. Check those out HERE.   Check out our Bible Reading plans on YouVersion and make sure you're following us there to keep current on all our newest plans!   

When Chad & Adaeze Brinkman met while serving together on the worship team at church, they didn't expect that they would one day get married. They also didn't expect what it would be like to navigate a new marriage while facing cultural pressures as an interracial couple. But learning to have the hard conversations about their differences ultimately led to deeper intimacy. Today, we're delighted to have Chad and Adaeze on the podcast to share their story, and equip you with practical ways to value different perspectives as a reflection of God's design. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:  Why listening to real stories of different experiences matters  How to become aware of your habitual assumptions  Realistic first steps to grow your perspective Why addressing our perspective on race is essential for the church  The relationship-building process of navigating tough conversations  How to repair the relationship after you've hurt your spouse    *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    Couples Conversation Guide:  Main takeaway: Not every couple is in an interracial marriage, but every couple deals with differences. We get a bigger picture of God's design when we stop fighting our differences and learn to value them.    Questions to Discuss:  What have you learned by listening to the diverse perspectives of others in your life?  Are there places in your life where you encounter differing life stories and experiences among fellow Christian believers?  How can you make room in your life for diversity that reflects the vision of God's kingdom?    QUOTES  “We will never know everything there is to know about the Lord, but the beauty is in the pursuit, the relationship and the discovery.” - Adaeze Brinkman “It's a very humbling lesson to let your spouse have their own perspective, and give room for that to be different than yours.” - Adaeze Brinkman “Everyone does what they do for a reason. They think what they think for a reason.” - Chad Brinkman When we dig in we realize how much we have in common.” - Chad Brinkman “When Jesus returns, it's not going to be a ‘White Heaven' or a ‘Black Heaven.' It's a diverse Heaven.” - Chad Brinkman “Listening is the most important thing.”  - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “Are you growing? A beautiful way to do that is to rub shoulders with people that are different from you.”  - Adaeze Brinkman “The enemy knows there's so much power in unity and diversity.”   - Adaeze Brinkman   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   We loved Chad and Adaeze's book, White Boy / Black Girl: What Our Differences Can Teach Us. Grab a copy to read their story! It's Spice things up in the bedroom with our limited-time ‘Break the Bedroom Rut' Sexy BUNDLE! Don't let negative assumptions tear you apart. Use our Free Printable 15 Better Assumptions to Make About Your Spouse to nurture a healthy mindset  Get Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips!

Wives, do you seem to be less interested in sex? It's a common issue, and so many factors affect female libido, from hormonal changes, and emotional disconnection to just plain busyness. Whether stemming from physical health or the health of your marriage, there are many ways you and your spouse can work together to bring back the passion and renew your sex drive.    Today, we're troubleshooting the issue with tips for wives with low libido, so you can bring back the passion in your marriage. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:  Tips on healthy communication about sex drive issues  Understanding the effects of stress on a wife's sex drive  How to work together to share the mental load Is lack of sex drive a sign of infidelity?  Building empathy to help reconnect and rekindle her passion    Sign up for Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email for quick weekly marriage tips!   *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    Couples Conversation Guide  Main takeaway: Ladies, don't let your sex life struggle! Learn to unpack the factors that impact your sex drive, so you can troubleshoot and get things back on track.    Questions to Discuss:  Are there any factors that you know are affecting your libido in this season? (Stress, exhaustion, depression, peri menopause, postpartum, etc.) Are there any relationship factors affecting your interest in sex right now?  What would help you to mitigate the effects of those things today?      QUOTES  “For guys, it's about how do I meet her where she is right now?” - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “If there's not full trust, it's going to be very hard to be interested in sex.” - Lindsay Few  “It's ok to talk about sex.”  - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “There are so many things that typically the wife does by default. Look at what is weighing on you that keeps you from even having time to be interested in sex.” - Lindsay Few  “The really good marriages I see are the ones committed to working through things. It doesn't come easy, but they're committed to work through it.”  - Dr. Kim Kimberling  MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Spice things up in the bedroom with our limited-time ‘Break the Bedroom Rut' Sexy Bundle! Some of our past episodes on Trust in Marriage:  Types of Trust Every Marriage Needs | Ep. 614 How to Heal and Rebuild After Trust is Broken | Ep. 616 Grab the free 15 Better Assumptions printable to start healing your perspective  Get Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips!    

Wives, do you seem to be less interested in sex? It's a common issue, and so many factors affect female libido, from hormonal changes, and emotional disconnection to just plain busyness. Whether stemming from physical health or the health of your marriage, there are many ways you and your spouse can work together to bring back the passion and renew your sex drive.    Today, we're troubleshooting the issue with tips for wives with low libido, so you can bring back the passion in your marriage. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:  Tips on healthy communication about sex drive issues  Understanding the effects of stress on a wife's sex drive  How to work together to share the mental load Is lack of sex drive a sign of infidelity?  Building empathy to help reconnect and rekindle her passion    Sign up for Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email for quick weekly marriage tips!   *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    Couples Conversation Guide  Main takeaway: Ladies, don't let your sex life struggle! Learn to unpack the factors that impact your sex drive, so you can troubleshoot and get things back on track.    Questions to Discuss:  Are there any factors that you know are affecting your libido in this season? (Stress, exhaustion, depression, peri menopause, postpartum, etc.) Are there any relationship factors affecting your interest in sex right now?  What would help you to mitigate the effects of those things today?      QUOTES  “For guys, it's about how do I meet her where she is right now?” - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “If there's not full trust, it's going to be very hard to be interested in sex.” - Lindsay Few  “It's ok to talk about sex.”  - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “There are so many things that typically the wife does by default. Look at what is weighing on you that keeps you from even having time to be interested in sex.” - Lindsay Few  “The really good marriages I see are the ones committed to working through things. It doesn't come easy, but they're committed to work through it.”  - Dr. Kim Kimberling  MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Spice things up in the bedroom with our limited-time ‘Break the Bedroom Rut' Sexy Bundle! Some of our past episodes on Trust in Marriage:  Types of Trust Every Marriage Needs | Ep. 614 How to Heal and Rebuild After Trust is Broken | Ep. 616 Grab the free 15 Better Assumptions printable to start healing your perspective  Get Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips!    

Lantz and Dr. Kim discussed their experiences and strategies for maintaining a strong marriage, emphasizing the importance of communication, fighting fair, and choosing battles wisely. They also shared their experiences of getting married young, having children, and the challenges of maintaining a healthy marriage amidst the pressures of modern family life. The conversation ended with a discussion on the importance of sexual intimacy in marriage, the need for emotional, intellectual, and sexual intimacy, and the importance of maintaining a strong marriage through the decades. Awesome Marriage Kim Kimberling Love Sex and Intimacy in the Second Half -- Lantz Howard is a professional coach for successful men who want to transform their marriage from good to great. www.lantzhoward.com

Conflict in marriage is inevitable: it's how you handle it that matters most. But what about couples who really never fight? What happens to conflict that is never addressed and only stays under the surface? Does it ever really go away?  Listen today to learn better ways to handle the issues you don't know how to deal with.   We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.  Episode highlights include:  Tips to initiate a hard conversation you've been avoiding How to stay grounded when you want to shut down  How conflict can actually lead to better intimacy and connection Helpful nonconfrontational ways to broach difficult topics    Sign up for Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email for quick weekly marriage tips!   *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    Couples Conversation Guide:  Main takeaway: Dealing with the important issues together paves the way for true peace, and learning effective conflict solving skills is a win for your marriage.  Questions to Discuss:  Some skills mentioned are: Intentionality - set up a good time to talk, use “I” statements, do not blame your spouse, focus on what you would like to achieve together through the conversation. Pick the one that would help you the most.  What is one easy issue you can tackle together to practice better resolution skills? Focus on using your chosen skill.  QUOTES  If a couple said they never had conflict, I would think they're not being completely honest with each other. - Dr. Kim Kimberling  I think the more you fear conflict, the less you're able to resolve it. - Lindsay Few  We want to equip couples to handle it in a healthy way. - Lindsay Few  Conflict is not bad in itself. It's how we handle conflict. - Dr. Kim Kimberling  Yes, we want peace in our homes. But you can't have it if you ignore things that need to be dealt with.  - Dr. Kim Kimberling  It's ok if you get stuck, just don't stay stuck. - Dr. Kim Kimberling    MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Do you want a better friendship with your spouse? Build your friendship with the 5 Day Friendship Challenge.   Have you lost the connection you once had? Rebuild friendship with your spouse using the 5 Day Rebuilding Friendship Challenge.  Our ministry is made possibly ONLY through our generous donors. Plus, they get each month's new marriage resource automatically, as well as some other exclusive perks! Learn more about Marriage Changers Membership here.  Sign up for Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email for quick weekly marriage tips!    

Are your kids protected from p*rn? Do they know how to fight back? What if they've already been exposed to it?  So many parents do not know how to protect their kids from porn, or how to equip them with what to do if they are exposed to it. We are so pleased to hear from Kristen Jenson today on the podcast with the answers to your questions. Equip yourself so that you can equip kids well.  We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:  The hidden mental health dangers of p*rn  The scripts parents need to discuss p*rn with their kids' Tips for digital safety in today's technology-driven world. When should you start talking to your kids about p*rn? Which phones are safer for kids?  Resources that will help you guide your kids or grandchildren  The need for open conversations that can protect children's innocence.   *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    Couples Conversation Guide:  Main takeaway:  Your kids & grandkids need a plan in place to protect them from the danger of porn exposure and addiction. Today's episode will equip you to make that plan.  Questions to Discuss:  Have you taken the time to equip your kids with what to do if they are exposed to porn?  Do you have a plan to resist the temptation of porn or explicit materials?  If not, use the resources below to develop a plan today.    QUOTES   “If you're worried about what to do with your kids about p*rn, this podcast is for you.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “P*rnography is fueling a huge rise in child-on-child harmful sexual behavior.” - Kristen Jenson  “How do you talk to kids about it in a way that doesn't scare them, doesn't scare the parents and gives them a real plan?”  - Kristen Jenson  “We all need scripts for certain life situations. There are no scripts passed down for this problem.” - Kristen Jenson  “We live in a world awash with addiction. We need to teach our kids how to protect their brains from addiction.” - Kristen Jenson  “P*rnography is the tool of choice. If kids know what to do, they're going to be that much safer.”  - Kristen Jenson  “We have an opportunity to say, no this isn't normal. No, this isn't healthy.”  - Kristen Jenson    MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Purchase Kristen's books: Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today's Young Kids, Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr., and the Guidebook for Counseling Kids Learn about our the brand new curriculum Brain Defense: Digital Safety Keep current with empowering articles From Defend Young Minds  Use the instantly-downloadable guides to help you teach your child  Follow Defend Young Minds on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, & LinkedIn  

Are your kids protected from p*rn? Do they know how to fight back? What if they've already been exposed to it?  So many parents do not know how to protect their kids from porn, or how to equip them with what to do if they are exposed to it. We are so pleased to hear from Kristen Jenson today on the podcast with the answers to your questions. Equip yourself so that you can equip kids well.  We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:  The hidden mental health dangers of p*rn  The scripts parents need to discuss p*rn with their kids' Tips for digital safety in today's technology-driven world. When should you start talking to your kids about p*rn? Which phones are safer for kids?  Resources that will help you guide your kids or grandchildren  The need for open conversations that can protect children's innocence.   *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    Couples Conversation Guide:  Main takeaway:  Your kids & grandkids need a plan in place to protect them from the danger of porn exposure and addiction. Today's episode will equip you to make that plan.  Questions to Discuss:  Have you taken the time to equip your kids with what to do if they are exposed to porn?  Do you have a plan to resist the temptation of porn or explicit materials?  If not, use the resources below to develop a plan today.    QUOTES   “If you're worried about what to do with your kids about p*rn, this podcast is for you.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “P*rnography is fueling a huge rise in child-on-child harmful sexual behavior.” - Kristen Jenson  “How do you talk to kids about it in a way that doesn't scare them, doesn't scare the parents and gives them a real plan?”  - Kristen Jenson  “We all need scripts for certain life situations. There are no scripts passed down for this problem.” - Kristen Jenson  “We live in a world awash with addiction. We need to teach our kids how to protect their brains from addiction.” - Kristen Jenson  “P*rnography is the tool of choice. If kids know what to do, they're going to be that much safer.”  - Kristen Jenson  “We have an opportunity to say, no this isn't normal. No, this isn't healthy.”  - Kristen Jenson    MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Purchase Kristen's books: Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today's Young Kids, Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr., and the Guidebook for Counseling Kids Learn about our the brand new curriculum Brain Defense: Digital Safety Keep current with empowering articles From Defend Young Minds  Use the instantly-downloadable guides to help you teach your child  Follow Defend Young Minds on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, & LinkedIn  

For this episode of A Dad's Path Podcast, we speak with Dr. Kim Kimberling, a counselor with 40 years of experience and the co-founder of Awesome Marriage. Dr. Kim shares valuable insights into building and maintaining a strong marriage, especially for parents. The conversation dives into the challenges couples face after having kids, how to stay connected through different seasons of life, and the importance of communication. Dr. Kim provides practical advice on fighting fairly, prioritizing your relationship, and creating a home that serves as a refuge for your family. If you're a dad looking to strengthen your marriage and improve your family life, this episode offers wisdom on navigating everything from raising children to finding time for your partner. Dr. Kim also touches on how faith can anchor marriage and how to avoid feeling disconnected when life gets busy. Tune in to learn strategies to maintain a healthy, long-lasting relationship and create a strong family legacy.

Do you feel like a team with your spouse in parenting or do you often turn on each other? Do you have different ideas about what is right for your kids? Have the teen years brought more conflict than unity?  Today Dr. Kim Kimberling, professional counselor and founder of Awesome Marriage, is here to share his years of wisdom on how to keep the marriage strong while parenting. Dr. Kim has been married to his wife for 53 years and the tips that flow from those years of experience are priceless.  He shares how to build in some one-on-one time, stay on the same page in the teen years, and how praying together allows the Holy Spirit to breathe creativity into your parenting. Dr. Kim also comforts those whose spouse may not currently be walking with the Lord and how to navigate that hard season. He reminds us that you can't put your marriage on the back burner for years and expect it to be the same when your kids are gone and gives us tools to make sure we are making our partner a priority. Be sure to check out his website that is full of resources.  Connect with Dr. Kim Kimberling:  Website:  Awesome Marriage — Marriage, Relationships, and Premarital Counseling Facebook: Awesome Marriage Instagram:  Marriage and Relationship Experts (@awesome_marriage) Links Mentioned:   Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find--and Keep--Love [BOOK on attachment] Podcast — Awesome Marriage 7 Secrets to an Awesome Marriage: by Dr. Kim Kimberling PhD Related Episodes: Building Strong Marriages :: Kimberly Beam Holmes [Ep 374] Nurturing Your Marriage :: Brent and Janis Sharpe [Ep 299] Habits of a Healthy Marriage :: Paul David Tripp [Ep 234] Featured Sponsors:  IXL Learning: Make an impact on your child's learning, get IXL now. And Don't Mom Alone listeners can get an exclusive 20% off IXL membership when they sign up today at IXL.com/DMA. Visit IXL.com/DMA to get the most effective learning program out there at the best price.  Wildgrain: Are you ready to bring all your favorite carbs right to your doorstep? Be sure to check out Wildgrain so you can begin building your own box of artisanal breads, pastas, and pastries. For a limited time, Wildgrain is offering our listeners $30 off the first box - PLUS free Croissants in every box - when you go to Wildgrain.com/DMA to start your subscription or you can use promo code DMA at checkout. Rhone: Upgrade your closet with Rhone and use DMA to save 20% at https://www.rhone.com/DMA Find links to this week's sponsors and unique promo codes at dontmomalone.com/sponsors. 

What do you picture your marriage looking like in ten years? What about twenty? Will it be better than it is today?  One thing is for sure: it will be different. The good news is there are some things you can start doing now and ensure your marriage makes it long-term and thrives. In this week's interview, author Dr. Kim Kimberling joins Jim Ramos to discuss his book, "Love, Intimacy, and Sex in the Second Half.”  Dr. Kim shares his experience from his 54 years of marriage on what we can do to bulletproof our marriages.  Here is the link to Dr. Kim's book:  (Using our link to check out the book helps support our ministry - thanks!) [Honor God through your fitness. Use code 'ARENA30' at for 6 weeks of free access to the MTNTOUGH fitness app.]

We've all wondered at some point … is everyone else living a better life? It looks like they might be, and social media only seems to confirm it!  That's why we're delighted to bring you Dr. Kim's conversation with today's guest, Sarah Bragg, of the Surviving Sarah podcast. In today's episode, we'll hear Sarah's take on feeling “stuck” in life, how to become happier, and steps to overcome the idea that someone else's life is better than yours.  We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.  Episode highlights include:   Why we face the questions that keep us up at night  Practical strategies for when you feel stuck in life How to deal with experiencing grief in midlife  Guardrails to protect yourself from the effects of comparison   Staving off the effects of unhappiness in your marriage    Our Couples Conversation Guide helps you apply each episode's content. Click here to get each week's guide! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    QUOTES  “We can look back and see where we've been. But when we look forward we don't know what it's going to look like.” - Sarah Bragg  “When we keep it inside, it grows. It feels bigger than it really is.”  - Sarah Bragg  “We all grieve in different ways, over different things.” Dr. Kim Kimberling   “It's okay to just keep showing up and trying.” - Sarah Bragg  “In this age of social media, it's nothing but compare and compete.”  - Sarah Bragg  “Connection is the root of happiness.” - Sarah Bragg  MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Order Sarah's book, Is Everyone Happier Than Me?  Listen to the Surviving Sarah podcast and find more from Sarah on her website &  @SarahWBragg on Instagram! Don't let screens come between you: Use our free 17 Questions Every Couple Should Ask About Tech printable to get on the same page!  Our Couples Conversation Guide helps you apply each episode's content. Click here to get each week's guide!

Does marriage still matter in this day and age? We say a resounding yes!    Marriage was designed by God, and there are several purposes the Bible gives for why marriage matters. Today we're digging into what Scripture says about the value of marriage. Tune in to learn God's purposes for the marriage relationship, and why they matter in your marriage! We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.  Episode highlights include:    Dr. Kim's list of biblical purposes for marriage Several ideas for what it means to “be fruitful” in marriage  The power of a marriage model - and tips on how to find one  The ripple effect of an intentional marriage Ways your marriage can be a light in our dark world    Our Couples Conversation Guide helps you apply each episode's content. To get each new guide, click here to subscribe!   *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    QUOTES  “No marriage is perfect. But if you're a couple steps ahead, you've navigated some things that others haven't.” - Lindsay Few   “My dream for the marriage changers is that they're learning, growing and passing that on.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “Prayer has had such an impact on our marriage. When God answers prayer like He does, we want to tell everybody what He's done!” - Dr. Kim Kimberling  The things God calls us to do bring glory to God. They bring us joy, life and peace, and they also bring light and encouragement to others.” - Lindsay Few  “Yes, it's hard at times. Yes, there are things you have to work through. But the big picture result is worth it.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:  Don't let screens come between you: Use our free 17 Questions Every Couple Should Ask About Tech printable to get on the same page!  Life's unpredictable. Build a solid foundation for your marriage with 21 Prayers to Build an Awesome Marriage  We are here to help! Email Info@awesomemarriage.com any time.  Are you ready to join the mission? Our Marriage Changers exist because a world full of awesome marriages can change the world! Learn more HERE  Our Couples Conversation Guide helps you apply each episode's content. You'll get each new guide when you click here to subscribe!  

Want better connection with your spouse? One thing we hear a lot from couples is that they don't feel close to each other or that their relationship feels like it's missing some depth. That's why today we're re-airing this episode from Dr. Kim and Christina that talks all about emotional intimacy and gives you ideas of practical ways to deepen the emotional intimacy in your marriage.  We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.  Episode highlights include:   What is emotional intimacy, and why does it matter?  Warning signs you need to grow in this area  Emotional intimacy killers to avoid   Tips to start working on this - alone, and together    *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    QUOTES  “It is hard work knowing someone. You have to pay attention. It takes work to be intimate.” - Christina Dodson  “Laziness and business are going to block your intimacy, so we have to fight against those things.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “Give yourself opportunities to connect.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “It adds value to my marriage for me to have a relationship with my friends, just like it benefits our marriage that he has guy friends.” - Christina Dodson  “You could have had the best childhood in the world and you still have baggage because we're human. That's okay, and you can deal with that.” - Christina Dodson  “You can't be emotionally intimate with your spouse if you aren't aware of your own emotions.” - Christina Dodson  MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:  Our 5 Days to Deeper Emotional Intimacy digital resource provides practical steps to understand and share your emotions, and to work together to grow your emotional intimacy…and it's our gift to you for your donation of any amount.  Your marriage can only be as healthy as the two of you are. The Bible says, “Let us examine our ways and test them and let us return to the Lord” (Lamentations 3:40). Our new Self Check-In Guide will help you do just that!  Print out this Feelings Chart and use it to help you talk about your emotions. Our Questions To Help Your Spouse Open Up resource is a simple way to help build the closeness between you and your spouseAccountability is a biblical and helpful tool for growing in holiness.  

C-Roc welcomes Dr. Kim Kimberling, co-founder of the online ministry Awesome Marriage, speaker, and author of numerous books including 14 Keys to Lasting Love and Love, Intimacy, and Sex in the Second Half. Dr. Kim shares his journey of helping others become who God created them to be, emphasizing the importance of purpose and the power of God's plan over worldly pursuits. The conversation delves into the challenges of parenting, balancing guidance and freedom, and the significance of allowing children to learn from their experiences. Dr. Kim also discusses the impact of Christian counseling, highlighting the hope and transformation that comes from aligning with God's purpose. Listeners will find valuable insights on maintaining a strong marriage, the importance of persistent faith, and navigating life's ups and downs with divine guidance. Tune in to hear Dr. Kim's story, his approach to marriage counseling, and the profound difference faith makes in our personal journeys. Website- https://awesomemarriage.com/dr-kim Social Media Links/Handles- https://www.facebook.com/drkimkimberling https://www.instagram.com/kimkimberling/ https://x.com/kimkimberling

We have gotten a lot of questions about gaslighting and narcissism, and today Dr. Kim is answering. This topic is layered and one podcast episode cannot take the place of more in-depth interventions, but we can offer helpful and hopeful next steps. In today's episode we're covering how to know what constitutes abuse versus the sin nature we all struggle with. Listen for    We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:   Marriage counseling doesn't work with abusers – So what does? Can a marriage recover after long-term gaslighting?  How to diagnose abuse using the power and control wheel Does the “gray rock” strategy work in marriage?   Reasons why emotional abuse is often dismissed    *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    QUOTES  “Narcissism is all about power and control. Neither of those have a place in marriage at all.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “I don't think God expects anyone to live in an abusive situation. In many ways, it's as much a violation of vows as adultery is to not take seriously your vow to love and cherish your spouse.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “You deserve to be safe.”  - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “If you look at the message of the BIble, you can't defend any type of abuse, for any person, ever.”  - Lindsay Few  “The goal would be repentance and reconciliation.” - Lindsay Few   “The reason a lot of people minimize emotional abuse because they haven't seen it.”  - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “I've seen people who gaslight and don't really understand what they've been doing.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “Nobody's uplifted or brought closer to Christ through manipulative behaviors.” - Lindsay Few    MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:  The Power and Control Wheel is helpful to understand what constitutes abuse  If your marriage is doing okay but could use a jumpstart, then this 5 Week Marriage Refresher Challenge is for you!  Past episodes on the topic:  Gaslighting in Marriage  Accidental Gaslighting  When is Enough Enough? With Dr. David E. Clarke  Recent series with Kathy's Story  Escaping an Emotionally Abusive Marriage: Kathy's Story | Ep. 608 Escaping an Emotionally Abusive Marriage Part 2: Seeking Church Support | Kathy's Story Ep. 609 Escaping an Emotionally Abusive Marriage Part 3: Help to Get Out and Get Safe | Ep. 610

Do you ever feel like you and your spouse are two ships passing in the night? Strangers living under the same roof? Business partners executing the plans you've made for your kids and household? Then you're in a disconnected marriage. The marriage relationship should nurture both spouses. If you've lost the connection in your marriage, or just want to step up from where you are right now, tune in today to learn the practical steps for reconnecting.  We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:   Why do couples disconnect?  The steps to reconnection A helpful source for fun marriage ideas and resources    *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!  QUOTES  “Little tweaks can make such a difference.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “Living separate lives is not going to get you a connected, fun marriage.” Christina Dodson  “We weren't always there but we chose to stay in the marriage and work through things. It's worth it.”  - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “You can continue to grow, but you have to work at it.”   - Dr. Kim Kimberling    MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:  Check in on your marriage each week with our Weekly Check In Guide to keep your connection strong Creative Questions Bundle Sign up here to get the Couple's Conversation Guide for each episode! The Sex Talk course equips you to teach your kids about sex in a biblical, God-honoring way  

I don't know where you are in your marriage today, but I believe God led you to this episode for a purpose. If we're honest, most married people have thought about divorce at some point in their relationship. Perhaps, right now, you might be about to file papers or maybe you desperately want to help a friend or loved one who is considering divorce.  Our culture says divorce is a necessary solution to a broken marriage. But what if it's not? What if restoration is easier than you think?  Our guest today is Dr. Kim Kimberling of the Awesome Marriage podcast, and he's going to walk us through a checklist of sorts . . . five critical things to do before you divorce.  Find the full show notes at rebuildinguspodcast.com   Links Mentioned in this Episode: 

When does an unhealthy marriage become an abusive marriage? Where can you go when you need to get out? In today's episode we hear part 1 of Kathy's real marriage story. Kathy shares how she came to believe that divorce was the most God-honoring option in her situation, and how she found safety after 30+ years in an emotionally abusive marriage.  We are so grateful to Kathy for generously sharing her story. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:   Dispelling myths about who falls into abuse  Why marriage counseling does not work in abusive marriages How Kathy learned her marriage was abusive Why she stayed as long as she did, and why she later divorced     *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:  This previous episode defines a clear Biblical perspective on abuse: Lies That Keep You With Your Abuser with Dr. David E Clarke | Ep. 541    QUOTES “I want to debunk the myth that abused women are poorly educated, lower income, women who can easily be taken advantage of. That's just not accurate.”  - Kathy McAtee Young  “Within the first year, I knew we had trouble…” - Kathy McAtee Young   “Marriage counseling does not work if there's abuse involved. I know that now.” - Kathy McAtee Young  “Most people who are narcissists are really good at it.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “You have this idea that, ‘If she could fix all these things, then I wouldn't be this way.' That's the blame shifting.” - Kathy McAtee Young  “The heart of abuse is power and control. Everything else is tactics.” - Kathy McAtee Young 

Learn how conflict can create a deeper connection between you and your spouse. Today's special guest, marriage coach Dana Che is very open about the struggles her marriage faced. In today's episode she shares her marriage story, what got them through, and how you can use the conflict you face in marriage to draw you toward deeper connection.    We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:   What we can learn from our conflict triggers How to deal with different conflict styles in marriage  Steps to break generational cycles in your marriage  The power of speaking life to our spouse and our marriage  How being emotionally unavailable tends to show up in husbands and in wives & what to do about it     *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!  QUOTES “As a wife, I knew I couldn't change my husband … but that didn'' keep me from trying.” Dana Che  “When you actually engage in conflict, you can start to learn more about your spouse, what's important to them.” -Dana Che   “You've got to feed the right things if you want to change the wrong things.” - Dana Che  “Just like you learned that bad behavior, you can unlearn it and learn something new.” Dana Che  “True repentance is visible.” Dana Che  “What we believe, we will begin to speak. What we speak, we will begin to behave.” Dana Che QUESTIONS FOR YOU What does your most recent marriage conflict reveal about what's most valuable to you?     MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:  Find more from Dana at DanaChe.com, where you can take her “Connection Check” quiz  Listen to the “Real Relationship Talk” podcast  Joining Marriage Changers now means you score a huge haul of marriage-building goods when our annual *7 Most-Popular Resource Bundle* goes live on April 2nd!   

Dr. Kim has said that prayer is the #1 most impactful thing you can do for your marriage. Today he explains why that is, and how to make it a habit in your marriage. Today we want to make praying with your spouse more approachable by sharing 4 biblical prayers to pray with your spouse that will grow your marriage.  The Bible lists a lot of reasons for marriage, and praying in line with God's purpose and intention for marriage is very powerful.  We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:   Why prayer is an essential act of spiritual protection against the enemy  Why it's so hard to get started, and how to overcome  Healthy perspective shifts praying will provide in your marriage  How to handle some of the uncomfortable realities of answered prayers  The power of prayer to help you take personal responsibility   *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    QUOTES “Praying together puts God where he wants to be in our marriage: Right in the center of it. - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “The enemy does not want Christian marriages to work.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “When you pray together you find that it unites you.”  - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “There's a ripple effect: It's not just about the couple, it's about the family; it's about the community.” - Lindsay Few  “I am more of who God created me to be after being married to Nancy all these years than I would have been without her.” -  Dr. Kim Kimberling  “God put us together. He's got some fun stuff for us to do. Let's look out and let's get this stuff going!” - Lindsay Few Blame is a very human response…but we all have a way we can influence the world. We do have control over how we're responding to God's call on us.” - Lindsay Few   QUESTIONS FOR YOU 4 Prayers to Pray together:  Protection from the enemy of our souls That your marriage will sharpen you Pray that your marriage be fruitful That your marriage will be a light    MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:  Our 21 Prayers for Building An Awesome Marriage makes it simple to make prayer a regular part of your marriage

Practically speaking, balance is hard to find, and even harder to maintain. While work-life balance is a very common issue, it IS possible to alleviate unnecessary stress and find better balance.    In today's episode Dr Kim will share practical tips to help you find that balance. Dr. Kim shares some of the common pain points that he sees couples facing, and some of the best ways he's seen to deal with those.    We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:   Tips to help you handle the stress between spouses so that your marriage tension doesn't add onto the stress of work-life balance  Some early signs of burnout you cannot afford to ignore  The importance of making peace with imperfection Helpful perspective tips for both career and extracurricular commitments  Practical tips for work-from-home balance    Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode. When you sign up, you will get our 4 Week Connection Challenge for free! Plus you will get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox.   *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    QUOTES “I was saying no to my family a lot because I was saying yes to all these other things.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “Figure out who you are, who you're working for, what do you really want, and what do you need to get there. Sometimes we get on that treadmill and we just keep going.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “I think it is changing, but there's still a culture that glorifies overwork, burnout and hustle. It can be hard to step out of that because it feels important to be in it.”  - Lindsay Few  “We have a God that is bigger than my mistakes and imperfections. If I really think the world depends on me being perfect, then I've got a problem.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “You don't just get balanced and stay balanced forever. It's a constant work in progress.” - Lindsay Few “We look around and everyone's dealing with this, so we just think this is normal. If something has resonated with you, it's okay to acknowledge that you want things to go better.” - Lindsay Few   QUESTIONS FOR YOU 4 reflection questions to help you move forward: What worked, what do I want to do more of, what didn't work, what do I want to do less of?   God wants you to thrive. Trust that when you seek these answers, He will answer.     MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:  We mentioned this podcast episode with Gary Thomas  Get all the details about our limited time Sexy Bundle HERE  Learn more about what makes expectations healthy in “Unpack Your Expectations, Unfrustrate Your Life” and try a week of Online Women's Bible Study, FREE!   

Does your home echo with the sounds of sibling squabbles? Do you wish for more connection with your kids? If so, today's episode is for you! Don & Suzanne Manning, the founders of Crazy Cool Family, are passionate about equipping Christian families with strategies to cultivate a family culture they ALL enjoy living with!  We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:   Effective ways to protect kids from screen & tech temptations Where to invest your time and energy for the best parenting outcomes - and where NOT to  The goal of disciplining our kids and how to work toward it    *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    QUOTES “Don't look at the outside and all the fearful things - don't waste your time and energy there: You're going after your kids' heart.” - Suzanne Manning “Kids are wired to want us on their team. They want our input. ”  - Suzanne Manning  “Control is based in fear, and connection is based in love.” - Don Manning  “Most people try to control, because we don't know what to do. But it doesn't work.” Dr Kim Kimberling   “We never tell parents they need to work harder. They need to work differently. Becoming an encourager and being a listener are two ways to do that.” - Don Manning   “Our children are going to go where the encouragement is.” - Suzanne Manning  “Because of technology and culture, connection today is more important than it's ever been.” - Don Manning  “The goal of discipline is self-control. When situations come up, they are opportunities to build self control in my kids. Opportunities to build them up for the next stage of life.” - Don Manning  QUESTIONS FOR YOU  Do you lean more toward connection, or control?   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:  Find more resources and info from Don & Suzanne at CrazyCoolFamily.com   Listen to the Crazy Cool Family Podcast    Reduce unnecessary arguments, decrease stress in your home, develop better understanding of your spouse, AND strengthen your bond as a couple with THIS: Our 30-Day Communication Challenge!    Need more communication help? Sign up here to save your spot for Dr. Kim's FREE webinar,  “7 Common Communication Mistakes Couples Make”   Questions about gaslighting, narcissism and blame? Submit them anonymously HERE or DM us on Instagram. Dr. Kim will answer them in an upcoming episode   

Holiday season is upon us, and with it all things festive! I'm guessing your schedule didn't have much extra space to begin with, so now there's a risk of becoming truly overbooked. How can your marriage be a priority, even with so much going on?  Today Dr. Kim is sharing several of his best tips for prioritizing your marriage, even in this busy season.  We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.  Episode highlights include:  Ways to share the load of holiday tasks & preparation better  How prioritizing your marriage this season can decrease your stress  Dr. Kim's 5 ways to prioritize your marriage this season  How to implement this if you aren't on the same page right now Tips to de-stress your holiday gatherings and enjoy them more    Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode. When you sign up, you will get our 4 Week Connection Challenge for free! Plus you will get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox.   *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    QUOTES:  “It doesn't have to be a whole evening, it doesn't even have to be a whole hour. It can be just 15 minutes, but you protect that time.”  - Dr. Kim Kimberling   “I think quality time is one of the most important things we do in a marriage, and it also seems to be one of the easiest to bump.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “Make sure you're on the same page together, then enjoy it together.”  - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “There's so much unnecessary tension you can eliminate if you can start to use team language and work together.” - Lindsay Few     QUESTIONS  What is one favorite Christmas tradition you and your spouse have, just for the two of you?    MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:  GIVEAWAY TIME! We are giving away a bundle of our Top 3 Resources of 2023: Our 44 Tips to Better Sex in Marriage, 21 Day Husband Encouragement Challenge, and 21 Day Wife Appreciation Challenge! To enter just leave an honest review of the podcast wherever you listen, screenshot it, send in to info@awesomemarriage.com. Giveaway ends 12/15 10am EST.  Dr. Kim's newest book, Love, Intimacy and Sex in the Second Half is now available as an eBook! Grab your copy here!  Related episode: “What is team Language? Ep. 501”  

This is the place for honest conversations and practical advice on how to have an awesome marriage. In this brief trailer, Dr. Kim Kimberling and co-host Lindsay Few share what you can expect to hear on the Awesome Marriage podcast each week.  If you enjoy the podcast, make sure to sign up for our Podcast Email. When you sign up, you will get each new episode, along with bonus content, delivered straight to your inbox each Tuesday. PLUS we will send you our 4 Week Connection Challenge for free as a thank you for signing up!  *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!  * You can find all of Awesome Marriage's helpful resources on our website. 

Dr Kim is back with us again! He has a new book coming out called Love, Intimacy and Sex in the Second Half. Of course we talked about tips for having and Awesome Marriage and why it is important to let your children see you modeling this so that your kids see it. His adult children are really good at the things they saw Dr Kim and Nancy do really well and his kids struggle in the areas that Dr Kim and Nancy struggled. Some questions that we talked about: How can us guys get the fire going in our marriage? How important is it to have fun with your wife? How many close guy friends does Dr Kim have that he can share everything with? What is a major red flag in marriage? What are some things that we should model for our kids? And how do you do it? Do you have a Covenant Marriage or a Contract Marriage? And Dr Kim shared some advice to have an Awesome Marriage now and also in the Second Half! Challenge: Pursue your wife everyday this week! There is an Online Marriage Retreat in a couple of weeks. I am blessed to be a speaker at the retreat. Below is info about the retreat, buying Dr Kim's new book and to join our Free Facebook Community. Register HERE for Dr Kim's Online Marriage Retreat: Refresh Break Through the Barriers To an Aweseome Marriage Buy Dr Kim and Nancy's book Love, Intimacy & Sex in the Second Half HERE Join our FREE Facebook Group The Journey of a Christian Dad HERE PLEASE rate this podcast and write a review on Apple Podcast, Spotify and Audible! Thank you for your help! Rating, reviewing, sharing with a friend and sharing a link on your social media are ways you can help me and also other guys around the world!

How should the rhythms of our child's season of life inform our parenting? How can your family rhythms and routines cultivate the kind of family atmosphere you are longing for in your household and set your child up for success? Today our special guest Nellie Harden helps you see where you are in this season of your child's growing up years and how to parent well in this time.     We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:  The perspective shift to more peaceful parenting  Why to number the days of your child's childhood  How our own perfectionism affects our kids and our parenting  The parenting shift we need in the second half of childhood  A practical way to reduce sibling strife     Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode. When you sign up, you will get our 4 Week Connection Challenge for free! Plus you will get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox.   *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    RESOURCES Find Nellie's book, learn more about the 6570 Family Project and more on her website   Here's the article Nellie wrote for Focus on The Family that we loved: “Family on the Rocks!” Taking a few minutes a week to check up on your marriage is simple and effective with the Weekly Marriage Check Up Guide Our 27 Scripture Prayer Cards are both beautiful AND powerful!   

This time of year, so many families are thinking about how to make this new school year go even better than the last. You may be wondering how you can possibly build in helpful, healthy rhythms when you're Already. So. Busy. If so, you do not want to miss this episode.  Today our guest Justin Earley shares how to build intentionality and meaning into your existing family habits.  We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:  What our messy attempts at forming good habits can communicate to our kids (you might be surprised!)  The perspective shift that lets you take advantage of your family's existing habits for good  What does it actually mean to be a spiritual leader?  Practical advice for wives who want their husband to lead spiritually    Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode. When you sign up, you will get our 4 Week Connection Challenge for free! Plus you will get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox.   *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    RESOURCES Hear more on these topics in Justin's books:  The Common Rule: Habits of Purpose for an Age of Distraction Habits of the Household: Practicing the Story of God in Everyday Family Rhythms Made for People: Why We Drift into Loneliness and How to Fight for a Life of Friendship Find resources, writing an more from Justin at Justinwhitmelearley.com The Weekly Marriage Check Up Guide makes it simple to check in with your spouse each week.  

The research is clear!  A happy marriage boosts health, vitality, and lifespan.  Married men have lower levels of stress hormones and married women experience less anxiety and conflict than do their single counterparts.  Today's guest and cofounder of Awesome Marriage Podcast, Dr. Kim Kimberling, is a wealth of knowledge and experience when it comes to marriage and healthy relationships.  He has been on the firing line with thousands of couples - both engaged and married - and shares his wisdom with us.You can find Dr. Kimberling's work at the following sites:AwesomeMarriage.comAwesome Marriage PodcastAwesomeMarriageUniversity.comOneThing.email

Can your marriage be happy, even after…? Our guest today said that, “About 70% of men in the church are struggling cyclically or addictively with pornography, and about 30% of women. It's time to stop giving the enemy the power of our silence.” We completely agree! While this story is not easy to tell, letting light into our darkest places is how we will experience the healing God wants for us. We are so thankful that Dannah shared her story with us this week. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.  Episode highlights include:   The antidote to “I don't even know what to do” about this  Does a porn addiction always escalate? And why?  Some of the science behind why this addiction is so hard to kick  The impact of betrayal trauma on a spouse    Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode. When you sign up, you will get our 4 Week Connection Challenge for free! Plus you will get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox.   RESOURCES  Order Dannah's book, Happily Even After, for more of her story and insights    Protect your kids from porn with the help of  https://protectyoungeyes.com/    Click HERE to preorder Dr. Kim's new book, Love, Intimacy and Sex in the Second Half. Use the code SECONDHALFPODCAST for $5 off at checkout! You don't have to settle for a struggling marriage. The 90 Days to Save Your Marriage plan starts right where your marriage is today and helps get it on the road to healing.

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When Eric and Erikah Rivera met and started dating as high school sweethearts, they sensed God's call on their lives. But they did not know how it would all unfold. Today they are church planters in their hometown of Chicago, and they graciously share their story of how God has met them in the midst of unexpected fear and pain, and the ways He has worked in each circumstance. Don't miss this encouraging conversation with the Riveras.    We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.  Episode highlights include:  How sharing their fears and grief with each other led to increased faith Unexpected ways God can use our trials when we invite Him to  Should the disciple be known as “Doubting Thomas” or “Ride-or-Die Thomas”?   When God doesn't answer our prayers the way we hope    Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode. When you sign up, you will get our 4 Week Connection Challenge for free! Plus you will get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox.   *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    Application Questions:    What fears are underlying in your heart and mind today? What prevents you from speaking them?  Where do you need to see Jesus show up in your life today? In your marriage?  How do you need support in those things in your marriage today?  How can you better support your spouse in the things they are dealing with today?  RESOURCES   You can find Eric and Erikah on Instagram Hear more on the Brook Church website and YouTube Channel  44 Tips to Better Sex in Marriage: Sexual Intimacy Cheat Sheet  

Several types of boundaries can help your marriage be healthy, and today we're talking about boundaries outside of marriage. That means with family, friends, and the opposite sex. We could probably devote an entire episode to each of these categories! We definitely can't cover every possibility, but we can get the conversation started.    Episode highlights include:  Boundaries with your in laws & adult married children Guidance on setting boundaries with your kids at any age Basic boundaries for co-parenting with an ex  Dr. Kim's recommendations for affair prevention boundaries    We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.    Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode. When you sign up, you will get our 4 Week Connection Challenge for free! Plus you will get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox.   *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    RESOURCES Get 25 of Dr Kim's best conflict resolution tips in our Conflict Resolution Cheat Sheet!  Our new Boundaries Guide helps you decide where and how to start applying this content to your marriage.   Our friends Dan & Kay at Centsei can help you set a budget and stick with good financial boundaries. We talk to a lot of couples who don't know what makes them a great team, so we created Team You & Me: A Guide to Approaching Your Marriage as a Team, to help you be more intentional to tap into all God has for you in the gift of your marriage.