Dem Bois Podcast

Send us a textThe anxiety we are collectively feeling in this post-election climate is real! That's why it's so important to ground yourself and be kind to yourself. And, in this episode of Dem Bois Podcast, my guest, Dr. Van Bailey and I discuss grounding practices, mental health, and the impact of kindness. The discussion also covers the challenges and triumphs of modeling as a trans person, advocating for greater representation in the fashion industry. And, we explore themes of queerness, self-expression, and the importance of community support for trans youth.We talk:09:56 - Dr. Van's journey of identity and transition20:07 - Modeling as a trans person30:03 - Understanding non-binary identity and gender dynamics40:05 - Navigating barbershop conversations51:06 - The importance of self-care and grooming01:05:12 - Navigating political challenges for trans rightsEpisode References:Dapper QThe AggressivesCampaign for Southern Equality - IGPLFAGRead more about Dr. Van in their bio below:Dr. Van Bailey (they/them/theirs) is an award-winning educator and consultant. Their speeches, content, and workshops relate to LGBTQ+ equity, mental health, and belonging in the workplace. They have experience overseeing offices that address implicit bias, LGBTQ+ equity, and diversity and inclusion. As a past director for diversity and inclusion, they have spoken on the importance of gender equity, authenticity, and belonging in the workplace. Dr. Bailey was listed in the Out 100 and Business Equality Magazine's 40 under 40. Dr. Bailey holds a BA from Denison University in English and Black Studies, an MA from Ohio State University in Higher Education and Student Affairs, and a Doctorate in Educational Leadership from California State University - Northridge. IG: @drvanbaileyTikTok: dr__handsomeLinkedIn: Dr. Van BaileyDonate today to support Transmasc Gender Affirming Grants and Community Wellness Packages for Trans Men of Color! The Visibility = Possibility™️ Merch is here! Introducing a groundbreaking collaboration crafted by Emilio Perdomo (featured on episode 37). This isn't just merch--it's a movement! We're empowering trans men of color with creative freedom to design their interpretation of Visibility = Possibility™. Think of it like major brands collaborating with athletes, but this time, our community takes center stage. Every purchase supports our vital programs! Craving more Connection? Dem Bois Community Voices Facebook Group is a safe, moderated sanctuary where trans men of color can connect authentically, discuss podcast episodes, share powerful experiences, and build support networks. Dem Bois YouTube Channel! - @demboisinc Exclusive content you won't find anywhere else: Behind-the-scenes magic, engaging YouTube shorts, and insider perspectives.

Send us a textIn this episode of Dem Bois Podcast, we get to talk about the impact of visibility equalling possibility and the significance of building technology for social good. Today I sit down with Dr. Kortney Ziegler, a serial social entrepreneur, and we discuss the importance of community and compassion, grief after losing a parent, and cultural dynamics of living in South Africa. The conversation touches on themes of aging, representation in media, and the complexities of identity within the diaspora.We talk:06:14 Embracing aging and wisdom17:59 Visibility and representation in media24:33 Life in South Africa from a trans perspective37:21 Cultural displacement and loneliness46:52 Grief and loss55:44 Building technology for social goodEpisode References:Still Black: A Portrait of Black Transmen (2008)The Changemakers Guide - preorderRead more about Kortney in his bio below:Kortney Ziegler, PhD, is the founder and CEO of WellMoney, a money-sharing community that enables members to both receive and provide monetary aid during times of financial emergencies. Kortney is a serial social entrepreneur who previously co-founded a crowdfunding platform—Appolition—that raised over $1 million to pay bail for people who couldn't afford it and Trans*H4CK, a nonprofit that creates tech for the transgender community and visibility for trans technologists and entrepreneurs.Donate today to support Transmasc Gender Affirming Grants and Community Wellness Packages for Trans Men of Color! The Visibility = Possibility™️ Merch is here! Introducing a groundbreaking collaboration crafted by Emilio Perdomo (featured on episode 37). This isn't just merch--it's a movement! We're empowering trans men of color with creative freedom to design their interpretation of Visibility = Possibility™. Think of it like major brands collaborating with athletes, but this time, our community takes center stage. Every purchase supports our vital programs! Craving more Connection? Dem Bois Community Voices Facebook Group is a safe, moderated sanctuary where trans men of color can connect authentically, discuss podcast episodes, share powerful experiences, and build support networks. Dem Bois YouTube Channel! - @demboisinc Exclusive content you won't find anywhere else: Behind-the-scenes magic, engaging YouTube shorts, and insider perspectives.

Send us a textHow do you foster community and collaboration? One way is through art and activism. And, we dive into that in this episode of Dem Bois Podcast. Today I sit down with rommy torico, a formerly undocumented queer, trans, non-binary visual artist, and they share their experiences navigating identity, survival, and self-discovery. We also discuss the impact of being undocumented on their gender journey, the importance of college as a space for exploration, the complexities of family dynamics during the coming out process, and the significance of mental health support. We talk:11:22 The Impact of Survival on Self-Discovery20:10 The Role of Chosen Family and Community24:19 Navigating Relationships and Trauma39:34 Art as a Medium for Social Justice49:31 Future Aspirations and UncertaintiesEpisode References:Past Lives (2023)Titanic (1997)Love Jones (1997)Read more about rommy in their bio below:rommy torrico is a formerly undocumented, queer, trans nonbinary visual artist born in Iquique, Chile and raised in Florida. They have been involved in social movement spaces encompassing (im)migrant, queer and trans rights struggles for over a decade and infuse much of their work with personal experience and the stories their communities share. Over the years, Torrico's work has been included in several publications and exhibited at the Getty Museum, the Smithsonian Museum, the Library of Congress and the Museo Nacional Centro de Arte Reina Sofía as well as many galleries and museums throughout the Americas and internationally.IG: @rommyyy123Donate today to support Transmasc Gender Affirming Grants and Community Wellness Packages for Trans Men of Color! The Visibility = Possibility™️ Merch is here! Introducing a groundbreaking collaboration crafted by Emilio Perdomo (featured on episode 37). This isn't just merch--it's a movement! We're empowering trans men of color with creative freedom to design their interpretation of Visibility = Possibility™. Think of it like major brands collaborating with athletes, but this time, our community takes center stage. Every purchase supports our vital programs! Craving more Connection? Dem Bois Community Voices Facebook Group is a safe, moderated sanctuary where trans men of color can connect authentically, discuss podcast episodes, share powerful experiences, and build support networks. Dem Bois YouTube Channel! - @demboisinc Exclusive content you won't find anywhere else: Behind-the-scenes magic, engaging YouTube shorts, and insider perspectives.

Send us a textMany times when we hear or read the phrase soul mate, we think of it in a very romantic way. But, soul mate relationships can be platonic. They can be found in friendships that love us down and encourage us to be our full selves. And, in this Dem Bois Podcast first, I sit down with Kelz and we discuss what that term actually means. In this conversation, we dive into critical analysis, identity, and the significance of friendship and community. And, Kelz emphasizes the importance of visibility in queer narratives and the personal nature of identity language. They also recite a really great poem at the end of the episode, so be sure to listen!We talk:09:07 Exploring gender identity and fluidity18:04 The significance of the term 'stud' and class privilege26:08 Understanding non-binary identities34:58 Kelz work, 'we was boys together'45:55 Rekindling friendship and identity01:00:55 Kelz' poetryEpisode ReferencesCriminal Intimacy: Prison and the Uneven History of Modern American Sexuality by Regina Kunzel (Book 2008)The Aggressives (Documentary 2005) Between Women (TV Series 2011-2013) Sula (Novel 1973) we was bois together by Kelsey L. SmootRead more about Kelz in thier bio below:Kelsey L. Smoot (They/Them/He/Him) is a full-time PhD student in the interdisciplinary social sciences and humanities, as well as a poet, advocate, and frequent writer of critical analysis. They are the author of a chapbook titled We Was Bois Together (CLASH! an Imprint of Mouthfeel Press).Instagram.com/nonbinarypapiDonate today to support Transmasc Gender Affirming Grants and Community Wellness Packages for Trans Men of Color! The Visibility = Possibility™️ Merch is here! Introducing a groundbreaking collaboration crafted by Emilio Perdomo (featured on episode 37). This isn't just merch--it's a movement! We're empowering trans men of color with creative freedom to design their interpretation of Visibility = Possibility™. Think of it like major brands collaborating with athletes, but this time, our community takes center stage. Every purchase supports our vital programs! Craving more Connection? Dem Bois Community Voices Facebook Group is a safe, moderated sanctuary where trans men of color can connect authentically, discuss podcast episodes, share powerful experiences, and build support networks. Dem Bois YouTube Channel! - @demboisinc Exclusive content you won't find anywhere else: Behind-the-scenes magic, engaging YouTube shorts, and insider perspectives.

Send us a textSelf-affirmation has become a buzzword in this day and age, but its power isn't debatable. When you are consistently affirming yourself, words from others won't affect you as much. We talk about that in this episode of Dem Bois Podcast. Today I sit down with Monroe, a model, author, and influencer, and we discuss challenges of name changes, gender expression, and the evolving landscape of social media. Monroe also shares his journey of self-discovery, including his transition, the importance of self-care, and the significance of visibility in the trans community. We talk:05:07 The importance of self-care during transition15:13 Understanding gender expression 24:38 The power of digital reach31:36 Mental health and social media42:16 Creating for the communityEpisode References:Beyond the Veil Tarot Read more about Monroe in his bio below:Monroe Banuelos is a transgender man, best known for his influence on Instagram and TikTok. Aside from that, Monroe is also known for modeling, his ebook for trans men, and his clothing brand 'Lucky Ba$tard'.Instagram.com/monroe.banuelos TikTok.com/monroe.banuelosDonate today to support Transmasc Gender Affirming Grants and Community Wellness Packages for Trans Men of Color! The Visibility = Possibility™️ Merch is here! Introducing a groundbreaking collaboration crafted by Emilio Perdomo (featured on episode 37). This isn't just merch--it's a movement! We're empowering trans men of color with creative freedom to design their interpretation of Visibility = Possibility™. Think of it like major brands collaborating with athletes, but this time, our community takes center stage. Every purchase supports our vital programs! Craving more Connection? Dem Bois Community Voices Facebook Group is a safe, moderated sanctuary where trans men of color can connect authentically, discuss podcast episodes, share powerful experiences, and build support networks. Dem Bois YouTube Channel! - @demboisinc Exclusive content you won't find anywhere else: Behind-the-scenes magic, engaging YouTube shorts, and insider perspectives.

Send us a textIn this episode of Dem Bois Podcast, I get the chance to sit down with someone who is just starting out on their gender journey, Tommy Colby McCray. Tommy is a serial writer and uses writing as a therapeutic outlet for stabilizing their mental health. They share their journey of self-discovery, navigating gender dysphoria, and the complexities of choosing a name that resonates with their identity. We also discuss family dynamics, personal loss, and the impact of these experiences on mental health. Please note: Tommy changed his name after this recording.We talk:10:01 Navigating gender identity and name selection19:58 Family dynamics and personal loss29:51 Creative aspirations and Tommy's writing process40:06 Finding community and support50:53 Reflections on loss and regretEpisode References:The Aggressives Read more about Tommy in his bio below:I am just learning myself as not only a serial tv writer but as a person who's just been diagnosed with gender dysphoriaTwitter @xander_gabriel7 IG: @theoshilohmccray  Email: gabriellemccray91@gmail.comDonate today to support Transmasc Gender Affirming Grants and Community Wellness Packages for Trans Men of Color! The Visibility = Possibility™️ Merch is here! Introducing a groundbreaking collaboration crafted by Emilio Perdomo (featured on episode 37). This isn't just merch--it's a movement! We're empowering trans men of color with creative freedom to design their interpretation of Visibility = Possibility™. Think of it like major brands collaborating with athletes, but this time, our community takes center stage. Every purchase supports our vital programs! Craving more Connection? Dem Bois Community Voices Facebook Group is a safe, moderated sanctuary where trans men of color can connect authentically, discuss podcast episodes, share powerful experiences, and build support networks. Dem Bois YouTube Channel! - @demboisinc Exclusive content you won't find anywhere else: Behind-the-scenes magic, engaging YouTube shorts, and insider perspectives.

Send us a textMany people have a bad relationship with money. There is shame and guilt surrounding income and spending, and we don't talk about it enough. So, in this episode of Dem Bois Podcast, we share some advice from financial coach Leo Aquino. Leo discusses their journey of self-discovery, the importance of financial literacy, especially within the queer and trans community, and the founding of Queer and Trans Wealth, an organization that provides financial coaching and education focused on the needs of queer & trans communities across the US. We talk:08:24 Understanding Leo's non-binary identity20:15 The birth of Queer and Trans Wealth31:02 Practical advice for managing debt41:42 The Pay It Forward Fund49:15 Building financial literacy for future generationsEpisode References:The Pay It Forward FundRead more about Leo in their bio below:Leo Aquino is a financial coach, multidisciplinary artist, and award-winning journalist. Leo is the founder of Queer & Trans Wealth, an organization that provides financial coaching and education focused on the needs of queer & trans communities across the US.IG: @queerandtranswealth www.queerandtranswealth.orgDonate today to support Transmasc Gender Affirming Grants and Community Wellness Packages for Trans Men of Color! The Visibility = Possibility™️ Merch is here! Introducing a groundbreaking collaboration crafted by Emilio Perdomo (featured on episode 37). This isn't just merch--it's a movement! We're empowering trans men of color with creative freedom to design their interpretation of Visibility = Possibility™. Think of it like major brands collaborating with athletes, but this time, our community takes center stage. Every purchase supports our vital programs! Craving more Connection? Dem Bois Community Voices Facebook Group is a safe, moderated sanctuary where trans men of color can connect authentically, discuss podcast episodes, share powerful experiences, and build support networks. Dem Bois YouTube Channel! - @demboisinc Exclusive content you won't find anywhere else: Behind-the-scenes magic, engaging YouTube shorts, and insider perspectives.

Send us a textHow important is personal growth in your life? This is not a topic we cover much on Dem Bois Podcast, but today we are diving in! In this episode, I sit down with LaShaun Noel and we discusshis transition, the challenges he faced, and the importance of self-acceptance. LaShaun reflects on his identity, family dynamics, and the evolving relationship with his mother, emphasizing the significance of support and understanding in his journey. He also shares his journey as a social media influencer focused on fitness and mental health.We talk:05:46 - LaShaun's transition journey19:55 - Understanding identity and self-expression28:57 - Navigating relationships and family dynamics35:18 - Going to therapy and growing through adversity44:44 - LaShaun's role as a Social Media InfluencerEpisode References:Dem Bois Pod Ep. 21Dem Bois Pod Ep. 22Actively BlackGym SharkRead more about LaShaun in his bio below:My name Is LaShaun Noel and I am a transgender social media influencer who loves to promote fitness and influence others to be the best version one's self no matter how they see fit.IG: @Lashaunno3lYouTube: Lashaunno3lTikTok: Lashaunno3lDonate today to support Transmasc Gender Affirming Grants and Community Wellness Packages for Trans Men of Color! The Visibility = Possibility™️ Merch is here! Introducing a groundbreaking collaboration crafted by Emilio Perdomo (featured on episode 37). This isn't just merch--it's a movement! We're empowering trans men of color with creative freedom to design their interpretation of Visibility = Possibility™. Think of it like major brands collaborating with athletes, but this time, our community takes center stage. Every purchase supports our vital programs! Craving more Connection? Dem Bois Community Voices Facebook Group is a safe, moderated sanctuary where trans men of color can connect authentically, discuss podcast episodes, share powerful experiences, and build support networks. Dem Bois YouTube Channel! - @demboisinc Exclusive content you won't find anywhere else: Behind-the-scenes magic, engaging YouTube shorts, and insider perspectives.

Send us a textSomething we always say on Dem Bois Podcast is that visibility = possibility, and in this episode, I get to speak with someone whose visibility showed my possibility and gave me the permission to show up as my authentic self, Tiq Milan. Tiq is a trans rights advocate, speaker, father, teacher, and leadership development strategist, and I am very excited to share this episode. We discuss the challenges of fatherhood, emphasizing the need for legal protections and the impact of his daughter's mother on their relationship. And, Tiq gives us advice on self-love and the power of chosen family.We talk: How Tiq's family support affected him - 10:55Trying to find other Black trans men online - 20:58Tiq's spirituality - 28:40The Moth - 40:49His experience with fatherhood - 48:58Episode References:The MothMiddle Church Read more about Tiq in his bio below:Tiq Milan is a leadership development strategist, trans rights advocate and speaker. He shares his inspiring story about his experience in the world as a Black transgender man of faith who is also a father, teacher, and world traveler.IG: @themrmilanDonate today to support Transmasc Gender Affirming Grants and Community Wellness Packages for Trans Men of Color!The  Visibility = Possibility™️ Merch is here!Introducing a groundbreaking collaboration crafted by Emilio Perdomo (featured on Dem Bois Podcast episode 37). This isn't just merch--it's a movement! We're empowering trans men of color with creative freedom to design their interpretation of Visibility = Possibility™. Think of it like major brands collaborating with athletes, but this time, our community takes center stage. It will be great to have TMOC designing products that represents their community and that folks will feel proud to put on. Every purchase supports our vital programs!Craving more Connection?Dem Bois Community Voices Facebook Group is a safe, moderated sanctuary where trans men of color can connect authentically, discuss podcast episodes, share powerful experiences, and build support networks. Dem Bois YouTube Channel! @demboisincExclusive content you won't find anywhere else: Behind-the-scenes magic, engaging YouTube shorts, and insider perspectives.Are you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!

Send us a textPeople have all these rules for how trans masc folks should think, act, and feel, but the truth is that we are all different. So, instead of following "rules" set for us, we should explore what feels right for us. We talk about that more in this episode of Dem Bois Podcast. Today I sit down with E.C. Pizarro III, and we discuss his transition, the challenges of being a Black trans man, and his work in tech. He highlights the importance of visibility and representation, mentioning his 2024 awards and his role in the trans community. We talk:E.C.'s gender journey - 8:36The gender journey for youth - 19:09Going stealth - 31:29His career in tech - 49:58Marsha's Web - 54:35Episode References:The Aggressives (2005) The L Word (TV Series 2004–2009)TRANSworld AtlantaEdens GardenMarsha's WebRead more about E.C in his bio below:E.C. Pizarro III is a technology experience strategist, owner of 1Z2R, and founder of Marsha's Web, a resource for TLGBQIA+ communities focused on BIPOC Transgender, Intersex, and GNC business owners. He led TransTech Social from 2021-2024 and has been honored with the 2024 Pioneer of Technology Award, 2024 Change Agent Award, the 2023 Marsha P. Johnson Institute Legacy Award, and was named one of the Out100 LGBTQ+ Policy Makers in 2022. E.C. is dedicated to empowering clients and communities for long-term success through strategic growth.www.ecpizarro.comIG: @ec.the.tird LinkedIn: ecthethird Facebook: ec.the.thirdDonate today to support Transmasc Gender Affirming Grants and Community Wellness Packages for Trans Men of Color!The  Visibility = Possibility™️ Merch is here!Introducing a groundbreaking collaboration crafted by Emilio Perdomo (featured on Dem Bois Podcast episode 37). This isn't just merch--it's a movement! We're empowering trans men of color with creative freedom to design their interpretation of Visibility = Possibility™. Think of it like major brands collaborating with athletes, but this time, our community takes center stage. It will be great to have TMOC designing products that represents their community and that folks will feel proud to put on. Every purchase supports our vital programs!Craving more Connection?Dem Bois Community Voices Facebook Group is a safe, moderated sanctuary where trans men of color can connect authentically, discuss podcast episodes, share powerful experiences, and build support networks. Dem Bois YouTube Channel! - @demboisincExclusiAre you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!

Send us a textE.L. Winston is a father, husband, minister, advocate, and today's guest on Dem Bois Podcast. In this episode he discusses his journey of transitioning later in life and the challenges he faced, including pushback from the trans community for not medically transitioning and not changing his name. He emphasizes the importance of service, hope, and helping others. And he puts his words into action by running his nonprofit, Transformation in Seat, which provides gender-affirming care. We talk:Transitioning later in life - 6:29The Old Man's Corner in Blaqueout Magazine - 13:46His career as a minister - 29:49Putting help and hope into action - 38:23Book therapy - 44:53Episode References:Dem Bois Pod Ep. 18Dem Bois Pod Ep. 19Blaqueout MagazineTranZformation Center for SpiritMonica Roberts Freedom SchoolMahogany BooksRivers SolomonKB BrookinsLambda Nu DynastyRead more about E.L. in his bio below:E.L. Winston is a father, husband, minister and friend his heart for service fuels his advocacy  to bring help and hope to his community he lives by the motto if you can look up you can get up! FB: E.L.Winston IG: @booktherapywitheelwinstonTikTok: @booktherapywitheelwinstonDonate today to support the care and visibility for trans men of color! The  Visibility = Possibility™️ Merch is here!Introducing a groundbreaking collaboration crafted by Emilio Perdomo (featured on Dem Bois Podcast episode 37). This isn't just merch--it's a movement! We're empowering trans men of color with creative freedom to design their interpretation of Visibility = Possibility™. Think of it like major brands collaborating with athletes, but this time, our community takes center stage. It will be great to have TMOC designing products that represents their community and that folks will feel proud to put on. Every purchase supports our vital programs!Craving more Connection?Dem Bois Community Voices Facebook Group is a safe, moderated sanctuary where trans men of color can connect authentically, discuss podcast episodes, share powerful experiences, and build support networks. Dem Bois YouTube Channel!@demboisincExclusive content you won't fiAre you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!

Send us a textJoël Simeu is one of Dem Bois 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Awardees and he is the production assistant for the Dem Bois Podcast. He is also today's guest and we discuss his role in the organization and what he plans to contribute. Joël shares his journey, emphasizing the importance of community and storytelling. We highlight the significance of visibility, especially amidst political uncertainties. We talk:What the organization's mission means to Joël - 3:01What he wants to contribute - 12:07Words of love to the audience - 18:22Episode References:2023 Grant AwardeeDem Bois Podcast Ep. 69Read more about Joël in his bio below:Joël is a writer from Douala, Cameroon, currently based in Ithaca, NY, where he is completing his English PhD at Cornell University. His writing is grounded in a poetics of Black & queer futurity. Joël believes in the pursuit of liberation, justice, freedom, and love for all oppressed people. He enjoys going on walks and listening to jazz music. He's an aspiring saxophonist and loves his friends. https://www.instagram.com/jojosim27Donate today to support the care and visibility for trans men of color! The  Visibility = Possibility™️ Merch is here!Introducing a groundbreaking collaboration crafted by Emilio Perdomo (featured on Dem Bois Podcast episode 37). This isn't just merch--it's a movement! We're empowering trans men of color with creative freedom to design their interpretation of Visibility = Possibility™. Think of it like major brands collaborating with athletes, but this time, our community takes center stage. It will be great to have TMOC designing products that represents their community and that folks will feel proud to put on. Every purchase supports our vital programs!Craving more Connection?Dem Bois Community Voices Facebook Group is a safe, moderated sanctuary where trans men of color can connect authentically, discuss podcast episodes, share powerful experiences, and build support networks. Dem Bois YouTube Channel!@demboisincExclusive content you won't find anywhere else: Behind-the-scenes magic, engaging YouTube shorts, and insider perspectives.Are you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!

Send us a textMost of us only think about death when someone close to us meets that fate. But, it's important to prepare for death because it is a natural part of life. In this episode of Dem Bois Podcast, I sit down with Patrick Cornelius, and we discuss his career shift from brain injury rehabilitation to becoming a funeral director and embalmer, emphasizing the importance of visibility and preparation for death. Patrick also talks about the challenges of navigating new identities and the significance of living authentically and planning for the future.We talk:Patrick's gender identity journey - 11:50Always having an attraction to gay men - 19:30Advice for listeners wanting to explore their sexuality - 33:21Patrick's career transition - 41:20The importance of living authentically - 53:34References:Stone Butch BluesStealth: A Transmasculine Podcast S5 E4 with Patrick Stealth: A Transmasculine Podcast S5 E1 with Shawn Aaron Read more about Patrick in his bio below:Patrick is a 55-year-old black, gay, trans man who began socially transitioning around 2009 and medically transitioned in 2012. Originally from Southeastern PA, he's called Portland, OR home for the last 11 years. He enjoys discovering the many plant-based restaurants the Pacific NW has to offer, weightlifting, the theater and traveling with his husband. After spending 20+ years working in community-based brain injury rehabilitation, disability sport and the Paralympic movement, he changed careers to follow his dream of becoming a funeral director and embalmer in 2013. @patcornDonate today to support the care and visibility for trans men of color! The  Visibility = Possibility™️ Merch is here!Introducing a groundbreaking collaboration crafted by Emilio Perdomo (featured on Dem Bois Podcast episode 37). This isn't just merch--it's a movement! We're empowering trans men of color with creative freedom to design their interpretation of Visibility = Possibility™. Think of it like major brands collaborating with athletes, but this time, our community takes center stage. It will be great to have TMOC designing products that represents their community and that folks will feel proud to put on. Every purchase supports our vital programs!Craving more Connection?Dem Bois Community Voices Facebook Group is a safe, moderated sanctuary where trans men of color can connect authentically, discuss podcast episodes, share powerful experiences, and build support networks. Dem Bois YouTube Channel!@demboisincExclusive content you won't find anywhere else: Behind-the-scenes magic, engaging YouTube shorts, and insider perspectives.Are you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!

Send us a textIn this episode of Dem Bois Podcast, I sit down with Kwasi Johnson, best known as Kwasi Raheem for our next installment of our Board Member Highlight Series. Kwasi shares his career journey from finance to IT and his role as a senior IT engineer. He discusses his transition to our board treasurer, emphasizing his commitment to resource allocation, community support, and amplifying trans men of color voices. He also stresses the significance of voting and encourages community engagement. We talk:What Dem Bois mission means to Kwasi - 6:32What he would like to contribute as a board member - 8:40What he does as a treasurer - 11:49References:Dem Bois Podcast Ep. 60Read more about Kwasi in his bio below:Kwasi was one of Dem Bois 2022 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Awardees. Kwasi has been welcomed to join the Board as the Treasurer. Kwasi brings his extensive knowledge of financial planning, budgeting and project management to Dem Bois as a way help shape the lives and futures for trans men of color“Peace, love, and light to you. My name is Kwasi-Raheem. I'm a fun, loving, and hilarious plant & animal dad. When I'm not working 1 of my 2 IT related daytime gigs; you can catch me photographing, walking my dogs, and or in your local Home Goods. I also keep a number of reptiles and am a budding "Lego-Brick Architect.”kwasi.raheem@dembois.orgWould you like to make a difference in the lives of trans men of color? Are you or someone you know interested in serving on a non-profit board?We are looking for one individual who is committed to supporting trans men of color.Dem Bois seeks a trans leader of color, or other queer folks of color, along with allies who understand the importance of accessing medical transition-related care, and other trans related issues to join our Board.We are looking for someone who would like to become our Vice-Chair to work alongside the other dynamic leaders of the board to help support the mission and vision of the organization.What does board membership mean? What does a Vice-Chair of a non-profit board actually do? Are you interested in being a part of Dem Bois board, but would like to learn more before applying? Schedule a 15-minute meeting to learn more about board service. Learn how you can use your skills and talents to support the mission and vision of Dem Bois Inc.Link to application to Join Dem Bois Board of DirectorsAre you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!

Send us a textDem Bois Inc. is an organization dedicated to amplifying trans men of color voices, and today on Dem Bois Podcast, we are continuing our Board Member Highlight Series with Tiana Moon, our board secretary. Tiana shares their background, including their mixed-race heritage, queer identity, and extensive experience in training and community education. And, they emphasize the importance of financial support for gender-affirming procedures, recounting their own experience with top surgery in Tijuana. We talk:Tiana's career and personal life - 1:21Dem Bois Inc mission - 5:17Their hopes for the future of Dem Bois - 8:10Read more about Tiana in their bio below:Tiana grew up in Kumeyaay territory, living on both sides of the U.S/Mexico border in San Diego, CA and Tijuana, MX. They are a mixed race Chicano of Indigenous and Jewish ancestry. They are also queer, polyamorous, trans, nonbinary, and disabled. All experiences that shape their sense of community and commitment to care work.They are a Co-Director at Brown Boi Project, an organization dedicated to Gender Justice and leadership development with a focus on how Black, Indigenous, and other people of color experience masculinity. They are also a facilitator and logistics nerd. In addition to formal training and curriculum design, their facilitation includes holding other dynamic spaces like support groups, retreats and gatherings, repair processes, community building events and action planning. Most recently they presented at the Caring Futures conference at The American University of Paris to present on mutual aid, building community care projects and decreasing reliance on violent state systems.Furthermore, they have a decade of experience providing trauma informed direct services and mentorship to LGBTQ2S+ youth and families experiencing homelessness, incarceration, and co-occurring psychiatric disability and substance use dependence. Both in professional capacities represented by organizations and informally through community relationships and activist care spaces.They are excited to bring these experiences to their role and honored to support the work of Dem Bois through service as a board member!tiana@dembois.org Dem Bois seeks a trans leader of color, or other queer folks of color, along with allies who understand the importance of accessing medical transition-related care, and other trans related issues to join our Board.We are looking for someone who would like to become our Vice-Chair to work alongside the other dynamic leaders of the board to help support the mission and vision of the organization.What does board membership mean? What does a Vice-Chair of a non-profit board actually do? Are you interested in being a part of Dem Bois board, but would like to learn more before applying? Schedule a 15-minute meeting to learn more about board service. Learn how you can use your skills and talents to support the mission and vision of Dem Bois Inc.Link to application to join Dem Bois Board - Join Dem Bois Board of DirectorsAre you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!

Send us a textWith everything going on in the world today, it's especially important for he LGBQ and Trans community to learn to shut out the noise so that we can focus on what is actually important. But how? Today on Dem Bois Podcast, Ja'Mel Ashely Ware gives advice on how to do just that. Ja'Mel discusses his transition, the impact of his mother's early death, and his experiences with grief and anger. He emphasizes the importance of mental health support for trans men of color. And, he recounts his decision to become a birthing parent, the challenges of public backlash, and the significance of creating a loving, supportive family environment. We talk:Backlash from first pregnancy - 16:26The importance of therapy - 24:19Being born with HIV - 31:59Recognizing how your actions impact your children - 45:10References:Living Untethered, book by Michael A. SingerEmory University Hospital MidtownRead more about Ja'Mel in his bio below:Ja'Mel Ashely Ware is a visionary leader known for his impact as an entertainer, entrepreneur, and educator. Beginning as an HIV advocate at age 7, Ja'Mel has passionately championed HIV awareness, reproductive health, and entrepreneurship within the LGBQ and Trans community. He holds a degree in Social Work from the University of Wisconsin-Madison and is pursuing an MBA at Emory University. As founder of The IR Agency, Ja'Mel merges business acumen with social responsibility, empowering organizations to embrace diversity and inclusivity. His work has earned numerous accolades, and he is the proud father of Sea Cannon and Heir Enéz.@sirjamelashely on all platformswww.jamelashelyware.comwww.theiragency.orgDonate today to support the care and visibility for trans men of color! The  Visibility = Possibility™️ Merch is here! Introducing a groundbreaking collaboration crafted by Emilio Perdomo (featured on Dem Bois Podcast episode 37). This isn't just merch--it's a movement! We're empowering trans men of color with creative freedom to design their interpretation of Visibility = Possibility™. Think of it like major brands collaborating with athletes, but this time, our community takes center stage. It will be great to have TMOC designing products that represents their community and that folks will feel proud to put on. Every purchase supports our vital programs!Craving more Connection? Dem Bois Community Voices Facebook Group is a safe, moderated sanctuary where trans men of color can connect authentically, discuss podcast episodes, share powerful experiences, and build support networks. Dem Bois YouTube Channel! @demboisinc - Exclusive content you wonAre you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!

Send us a textToday on Dem Bois Podcast, I get to sit down with Schereéya, who discusses his journey, including the challenges of navigating gender identity, the intersectionality of being autistic and trans, and the importance of visibility and representation. Schereéya also shares his positive experience with top surgery and the ongoing process of transitioning while co-parenting. He advises parents to be honest and open about their transition with their children and to seek support from trans-friendly communities.We talk:How the name Schereéya chose him - 4:06The intersectionality of being autistic and trans - 16:01How he feels one year after top surgery - 26:40Transitioning with a family - 33:00Talking to children about transitioning - 45:45Episode References:Start with Why, book by Simon Sinek Read more about Schereéya in his bio below:Schereéya (He/Him/Fae/Faer) is a multi-disciplinary artist and outspoken advocate for building equity through representation of Blackness, Indigeneity, neurodiversity and queerness. Currently based in Pittsburgh, PA, Schereéya's practice focuses on freedom: Freedom of Play, of Joy, of Magic and Whimsy, of the mandate to Know oneself. “The act of Knowing myself helps me liberate myself from others' expectations. Knowing is an ongoing process, and it takes practice and exploration. That's what my work is- the practice of self-exploration as a method for understanding the condition of humankind.”Buy Schereéya's poetry collection Prayers & Pixies at https://redhawkpublications.com/Poetry-c120141004Instagram: @schereeya Tiktok: @studios.pghAre you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!

Send us a text“Doing the inner work,” has become a popular phrase, but what does it mean? In this episode of Dem Bois Podcast, Dr. Liam Johnson explains that a big part of “the work,” is self-reflection, shadow-work, journaling, and setting boundaries for personal growth. Dr. Liam discusses his journey and transition experience, highlighting the challenges he faced. He also describes his work with marginalized groups, particularly focusing on trans and non-binary individuals. And, he emphasizes the importance of specialized healthcare for the trans community, noting the lack of information in medical journals. We talk:How the name Liam chose him - 5:32The internal work that you should focus on - 14:27Setting boundaries with your family - 23:06Disassociating with your body - 31:26HIV prevention and advocacy work - 48:04Episode References:Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself (book by Melody Beattie)Read more about Dr. Liam in his bio below:Dr. Liam Johnson (He/Him) is a Clinical Exercise Physiologist and Research Scientist specializing in epidemiology, with a focus on special population diseases. As a Level 5 Master Trainer, he is dedicated to improving communal health in the African American and LGBTQ communities.Dr. Liam focuses his scope of work on special population diseases, developing tailored interventions that enhance health outcomes for marginalized communities, like African American and LGBTQ populations." This approach demonstrates his diverse level of expertise and dedication to improving health equity for his communities through academically justified research. With over 15 years of experience, Dr. Liam combines his passions for research and helping others, creating educational prototypes for marginalized groups and developing life plans for patients. His work is driven by the joy of facilitating understanding and empowerment, leaving behind tangible knowledge. Recognized as one of the Best in Texas in Clinical Physiology, Dr. Liam continues to strive for excellence in all his endeavors.Link to Shadow Work Journal for Black Men: A Guided Mental Health Journal for Healing, Self-Discovery, Growth & Self-Awareness With Prompts to Work Through...Manifestation & Spirituality for Black MenTikTok: @affordably.affirmed1; @affirmedworkouts; @affirmednutrition IG: _affordably.affirmed_; _drliam.phys_specialistFB: Hellome R&R; Liam Johnson (no shirt) LinkedIn: Dr. Liam Johnson PhD., EdD., Doc.Sci. YOUTUBE: @AffordablyAffirmedAre you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!

Send us a textIf you are wondering how to be a better ally to trans men of color then this one's for you! In this episode of Dem Bois Podcast, I sit down with Nasir Young. Nasir shares his experience of transitioning at work, including the challenges of changing his name and navigating workplace dynamics. He emphasizes the importance of allyship and authentic support from colleagues. He also discusses the emotional impact of transitioning, including moments of missing his former identity. We talk:The meaning of “Nasir” - 5:57His transition journey - 12:28Seeing the queer community expand - 21:28Allyship in the workplace - 35:51Missing former identities - 48:54Episode References:Ep. 7 - Transitioning at WorkRead more about Nasir in his bio below:Nasir Young is a dedicated leader committed to driving economic growth in underserved communities. Originally from Washington, D.C., and now based in New York City, Nasir has a strong passion for advocating social inclusivity and economic justice. His work focuses on creating opportunities and fostering development in areas that need it most, embodying a deep commitment to making a positive impact in the lives of others.Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nasiry IG: @thedcmaticAre you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!

Send us a textWhat is family? Is it the people related to you by blood or by love? In this episode of Dem Bois Podcast, we question the idea of “family,” and what it really means. Today I sit down with Joël Simeu, a writer and poet from Cameroon now residing in New York, who is pursuing his PhD at Cornell University. Joel discusses his journey of self-discovery, transitioning to his chosen name Joel, and the challenges of “coming out” to a traditional Cameroonian family. He emphasizes the importance of self-love, gratitude, and community support. Joel also reflects on the impact of religious teachings and cultural expectations on his identity. Despite facing rejection from his family, he finds solace in friends and the freedom of living authentically. We talk:Joël's transition journey - 8:11His “traditional” upbringing - 19:51“Coming out” to his family - 29:53Questioning what family actually is - 37:57Advice for listeners - 46:16Click here for transcription!Episode References:Dem Bois Pod Ep. 3 - Surviving homelessnessRead more about Joël in his bio below:Joël is a writer from Douala, Cameroon, currently based in Ithaca, NY, where he is completing his English PhD at Cornell University. His writing is grounded in a poetics of Black & queer futurity. Joël believes in the pursuit of liberation, justice, freedom, and love for all oppressed people. He enjoys going on walks and listening to jazz music. He's an aspiring saxophonist and loves his friends. https://www.instagram.com/jojosim27Are you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!

Send us a textThe phrase “mental health” has become very popular in recent years. We hear speeches and podcast episodes devoted to it and we discuss it amongst ourselves, but how seriously do we really take it? This episode of Dem Bois Podcast is part 2 of my conversation with Micah Roldan and he highlights the lack of resources and support for mental health, particularly for trans men. Micah also advocates for increased awareness for men's mental health, noting the higher suicide rates among men. So if you don't gain anything else from this episode, at least receive that! Start taking your mental health seriously today! We talk:What had to shift within Micah's relationship with his wife - 7:44Advice on navigating transitioning with your partner - 14:05Micah's advocacy work - 20:36Not taking mental health seriously - 35:10Micah's nonprofit - 41:38Episode References:Mental Health AmericaThe Trevor ProjectSuicide and Crisis Lifeline - 988 (call or text) Band of the Hand (movie 1986)Pitch Black (movie 2000)The Chronicles of Riddick (movie 2004)Love Jones (movie 1997)Read more about Micah in his bio below:Hi! I'm Micah. I'm a 30 year old transgender man. I have a passion for discussing mental and emotional health within masc spaces. After the passing of my brother Jeffrey in June of 2023 who died by suicide I advocate even harder for IVP against men and men's mental health. Connect with MicahAre you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!

Send us a textWhat is it like to be a true ally for trans men of color? That is what this episode of Dem Bois Podcast is all about. Today I interview another board member, Beauty Wright, spiritual coach and chaplain, and we discuss her journey to leadership and her role on the board. Beauty emphasizes the importance of empathy and compassion, sharing her personal experiences and the impact of her support on her family and community. She also highlights the significance of authenticity and unconditional love in allyship, and advocating for visibility and representation of marginalized groups.We talk:Why it's important for Beauty to show up for trans men of color - 4:22Her duties as a board member - 8:38What lead her to this moment - 11:22Beauty's last words of love - 15:57Click here for transcription!Read more about Beauty in her bio below:I am a motivated Black woman, who is the CEO/Founder of Loving Your Crown LLC, and an Interfaith Chaplain at a local hospital. This has guided me with a life purpose of building up all persons by supporting them as they learn to love and embrace their crown which is inclusive to members of the POC Trans in my community. My educational background includes; AA in Sociology to understand the demographics in which I can better assess all persons who have been marginalized by their demographic locations. BA and MA in Communication Studies to be able to articulate in a relatable manner with everyone I come into contact with As I believe in meeting people where they are and not where you expect them to be. MDiv (Masters in Divinity) as spirituality is at the core of all things we encounter throughout life. “I am a board member of Dem Bois Inc., because I support its mission and important presence for trans men of color. I am a firm believer in everyone living their life in an authentic way, so they can love their crown genuinely on the outside, ensuring it aligns with the crown in their heart - reminding them they are loved, heard and visible. Being a board member of Dem Bois organization gives me the outlet to do this meaningful work.”beauty@dembois.orgWould you like to make a difference in the lives of trans men of color? Are you or someone you know interested in serving on a non-profit board?We are looking for one individual who is committed to supporting trans men of color.Dem Bois seeks a trans leader of color, or other queer folks of color, along with allies who understand the importance of accessing medical transition-related care, and other trans related issues to join our Board.We are looking for someone who would like to become our Vice-Chair to work alongside the other dynamic leaders of the board to help support the mission and vision of the organization.What does board membership mean? What does a Vice-Chair of a non-profit board actually do? Are you interested in being a part of Dem Bois board, but would like to learn more before applying? Schedule a 15-minute meeting to learn more about board service. Learn how you can use your skills and talents to sAre you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!

Send us a textIn this season of Dem Bois Podcast, we will be giving you a behind the scenes look into Dem Bois, Inc. I want to introduce you to the board members that make everything possible and show you that I do not do everything on my own, hence: this Board Member Highlight Series. Today I sit down with Board Chair, Boo McCaleb, and we talk about his life, career, and what led him to this leadership position. We also discuss what he does in his role as board chair, and his vision and goals for Dem Bois' future.We talk:Boo's life journey so far - 2:42What Dem Bois, Inc. means to him - 4:49His roles and responsibilities - 9:06What is next for Boo - 11:44Click here for transcription!Read more about Boo in his bio below:Boo McCaleb, aka Booscapes, is a Minneapolis-based Projection Artist, Filmmaker, and Public Arts Consultant. Grounded in Justice, community equity, and care, Boo blends sensory experiences and creative technology to foster holistic wellness and pathways to community. A graduate of Macalester College in Media and Cultural Studies, Boo is driven by a passion for public art, community engagement, and entrepreneurship. As a Black Trans, and Native artist, Boo brings unique perspectives to his work, believing in its power to promote wellness, joy, and healing for all Black and brown trans folx.boomccaleb@dembois.orgWould you like to make a difference in the lives of trans men of color? Are you or someone you know interested in serving on a non-profit board?We are looking for one individual who is committed to supporting trans men of color.Dem Bois seeks a trans leader of color, or other queer folks of color, along with allies who understand the importance of accessing medical transition-related care, and other trans related issues to join our Board.We are looking for someone who would like to become our Vice-Chair to work alongside the other dynamic leaders of the board to help support the mission and vision of the organization.What does board membership mean? What does a Vice-Chair of a non-profit board actually do? Are you interested in being a part of Dem Bois board, but would like to learn more before applying? Schedule a 15-minute meeting to learn more about board service. Learn how you can use your skills and talents to support the mission and vision of Dem Bois Inc.Link to application to join Dem Bois BoardJoin Dem Bois Board of DirectorsAre you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!

Send us a textCheck out the full version of the new Dem Bois Podcast Intro and Outro!Are you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!

Send us a textWelcome to season 3 of Dem Bois Podcast! This is a very special episode because we have a returning guest, Marz Turner, aka MoLa Flo, independent artist from Tucson. Marz is responsible for the new sound you will be hearing on Dem Bois Podcast, so I wanted to sit down with him and talk about his creative process. In this episode we also discuss our favorite lyrics, his personal journey and how it relates to the lyrics, and more. Marz also announces his upcoming acapella EP, "Mantras," out now!NOTE: There will be a BONUS episode right after this one where you can hear the full version of the song. Be sure to check it out!We talk:Marz's creative process - 4:36The importance of amplifying trans voices - 8:42Respecting each other's choices - 16:56What's next for Marz - 24:30Click here for transcription!Episode References:Dem Bois Podcast Ep. 49Marz EP “MantrasRead more about Marz in his bio below:Mo LaFlo is a Tucson-based artist from Winter Park, Florida, whose sound has traveled the ears of many listeners all over the world. Mo LaFlo's sound is transformative, exuding emotion and a climate of reverence. His sound captures the essence of R&B, Hip Hop, and Neo Soul. Outside of the booth, he enjoys mentoring youth and helping them find their voice and tap into their creativity. https://www.instagram.com/laflo_444/ molaflo.music@gmail.com Are you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!

Send us a Text Message.We hear about finding our purpose all the time. But what does that actually mean and how do we find it? If you've ever wondered that then this is the episode for you! Today on Dem Bois Podcast, I sit down with writer Avery Campbell, and we have a beautiful discussion around finding your purpose, living in your purpose, false purpose, and more! We also discuss bridging the gap between older and younger folks, and the positives and negatives of binding.We talk:Advice for listeners who want to legally change their name - 9:12Avery's transition journey - 15:03His upcoming surgery - 27:56His new book - 38:12How Avery found his purpose - 43:24Advice for finding your purpose - 51:34Episode References:Caitlin Clarkgc2bYour Life, Your Way, Your Purpose - Self Help Book by Avery Campbellfeel. forgive. Forget. - Poetry Book by Avery CampbellRead more about Avery in his bio below:Avery Campbell lives to change the status quo. He's been writing professionally since 2018. His writing expands beyond genres as he has written poetry, self-help books, and now working on a sci-fi novel. Through his writing, Avery wants to help people feel seen and heard, and live life on their terms.https://msha.ke/averykane https://www.twitter.com/kanewriting https://www.instagram.com//thekaneavenueAre you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!

Send us a Text Message.If you've ever listened to the podcast then you've heard me talk about the importance of loving your children. If a child has the love of their parents, it doesn't matter what the world thinks, they can still conquer! In this episode of Dem Bois Podcast, Krow sends out a PSA to all parents, telling you to love your children, no matter what. We also discuss the importance of good community and energy, finding yourself within your career and more.We talk:Krow's transition journey - 6:55Coming out to his mother - 16:49Allowing some relationships to start over - 21:25Krow's experience with homelessness - 31:26How his career helped him find himself - 42:35Episode References:Three 6 MafiaMetal Gear 2: Solid SnakeIroquois PeopleIroquois MythologyDem Bois Podcast Ep 3. Surviving HomelessnessRead more about Krow in his bio below:Krow Iroquois is a black & androgynous transgender man that specializes in arts such as literature, sketching, graphic design, and website design. He also enjoys speaking and sharing his story with other people, in hopes that anyone who hears his voice may be inspired by his perseverance to be their best selves. He is the graphic design artist for Montgomery Pride United, a queer-led organization in his hometown, and also the Youth Coordinator for Montgomery's only active LGBT+ youth group, COLORS.https://www.instagram/krowiroquoishttps://www.facebook.com/KrowIroquois Tiktok: @grimoire777Are you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!

Send us a Text Message.Trans people are not monolithic. We don't all have the same story. But, if you choose to medically transition, this is a great episode for you because we talk about the best way to prepare for it. According to today's guest BeyonD Sevright, it's all about, first, being kind to yourself and realizing that you are not alone, and second, checking in with yourself to see how you feel. BeyonD is a 2023 Dem Bois Grant Awardee and in this episode of Dem Bois Podcast, we discuss the complexity of identity, his transition story, feeling disconnected from his caribbean roots, and much more!We talk:BeyonD's transition journey - 7:51Dem Bois care packages - 18:07His family's reaction to transition - 21:41Advice to mentally prepare for surgery - 29:45Honoring his identity while upholding his Jamaican heritage - 36:15His spiritual practice - 48:17Read more about BeyonD is his bio below:Growing up as the eldest of eight siblings, BeyonD learned early on the value of resilience and strength, shaped by their family's disciplined approach to life. As a first-generation Jamaican immigrant, they've tackled life's challenges with determination. Their journey includes significant milestones like gender-affirming surgery and a comprehensive three-year medical transition. More than self-realization, it's breaking free from long-standing cycles and embracing their true self. Their story demonstrates the courage to transform life while honoring their identity and heritage. By sharing these experiences, BeyonD sheds light on the complexity of identity and the profound journey of living authentically.https://www.instagram.com/Sundriedjamhttps://www/facebook.com/BeyondSeivrightAre you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!

Send us a Text Message.We've talked a lot about medically transitioning on this podcast. We've talked about what our parents thought and how our children felt, but very rarely have we talked about how our spouses or significant others made the transition with us. In this episode of Dem Bois Podcast, that is a huge part of the conversation. We also discuss Micah's adopted children choosing him as a parent, going against what society and religion say we should do, seeing your perception of yourself, and more!We talk:Becoming a parent - 4:23How the name Micah chose him - 14:27Taking his wife's last name - 23:05Not having the language to identify yourself - 36:59Having the transition conversation with his wife - 43:28Read more about Micah in his bio below:Hi! I'm Micah. I'm a 30 year old transgender man. I have a passion for discussing mental and emotional health within masc spaces. After the passing of my brother Jeffrey in June of 2023 who died by suicide I advocate even harder for IVP against men and men's mental health. Connect with MicahAre you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!

Send us a Text Message.“What qualifies or quantifies, what is a man?” Kwasi Johnson asks that question in this episode of Dem Bois Podcast and it really made me think! Where do we get all these ideas of what a man should and shouldn't be? Why can't we define manhood for ourselves? Kwasi is a plant and animal dad, photographer, and Senior IT engineer, and we discuss masculine ideologies, the importance of duality, being a blessing to others, and more!We talk:The importance of duality - 8:03How the name Kwasi chose him - 12:38Advocating for yourself - 25:02His transition journey - 31:03What is a man? - 41:08 Advice for listeners - 55:39Read more about Kwasi in his bio below:Peace, love, and light to you. My name is Kwasi-Raheem. I'm a fun, loving, and hilarious plant & animal dad. When I'm not working 1 of my 2 IT related daytime gigs; you can catch me photographing, walking my dogs, and or in your local Home Goods. I also keep a number of reptiles and am a budding "Lego-Brick Architect."https://www.instagram.com/kwasi.raheemAre you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!

Send us a Text Message.Am I enough? This is a question that many people struggle with, but the answer is always the same. Yes! You are enough! You are exactly who you're supposed to be, even if the world tells you differently. That is the message in this episode of Dem Bois Podcast. Today I sit down with Human Rights defender, Wegner Wilma, and we discuss the constant struggle between being who you are, losing the acceptance of loved ones, and finding others to replace those lost loved ones. Wegner is also a writer and he is our second guest from Uganda.We talk:How Wegner's name was chosen - 4:31Struggling with the question: am I enough? - 19:44The Antihomosexuality Act in Uganda - 35:06Safety for trans and queer folks in Uganda - 53:59Wegner's message to listeners - 1:00:02Episode References:Ep. #47 HIV Activism and Trans Advocacy in Uganda with Ruthra LubegaRead more about Wegner in his bio below:Wegner is my name. I am a Trans Non binary Ugandan citizen. My pronouns are they/them and a dedicated Human Rights defender, great writer and a champion for the rights of queer individuals living in Uganda. I have actively participated in a number of Digital Safety and Security initiatives under Queer Women Leaders Uganda where I am currently working as a Finance Officer. Considering the Anti-Homosexuality Act 2023 passing in Uganda, queer advocacy is safest online and I commend QWLU's commitment in fostering secure online spaces for the queer community.https://www.twitter.com/Closeted_AfricaAre you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!

Send us a Text Message.How many black men do you think are in the medical cannabis space? I'll even take it a step further. How many trans black men do you think are in the medical cannabis space? I'll wait… It's unfortunately no surprise that trans black men are lacking in this industry, especially at the executive level. So, in this episode of Dem Bois Podcast, I sit down with pioneer and advocate, Shawn Williams, and we discuss it. We also discuss black culture and differences in experiences between cis men and trans men.We talk:How the name Shawn chose him - 4:01Cis vs trans identity - 16:18Lack of education on ftm transition - 26:06Living by morals and values instead of tradition - 35:52Shawn's work in the legal cannabis space - 47:20Advice for those looking to get into the legal cannabis space - 1:01:11Episode References:Ep. 30 Creating Your Best Life Holistically with Bobby WalkerEp. #47 HIV Activism and Trans Advocacy in Uganda with Ruthra LubegaThe Village (movie) 365 RecreationalBurners Block on InstagramBurners Block websiteThe Grove (dispensary)UMD Graduate Studies in Medical CannabisDutchieCannabist (formerly Columbia Care)Read more about Shawn in his bio below:Born and raised in North Carolina, residing in Maryland. Shawn is a pioneer in the legal cannabis space. Shawn advocates for the rights of Black trans men in cannabis.https://www.instagram.com/Dr.biglungsAre you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!

Send us a Text Message.People use anything as an excuse to be transphobic. They don't want Drag Queens reading to children, or trans folks using their preferred bathrooms, or whatever else is the topic of the moment. And it feels like we have to work harder to amplify our voices and our joy, but that is what this episode is all about! Today on Dem Bois Podcast, I sit down with Cuee, recording artist, activist, and influencer, who embodies black trans joy! We discuss his music career, his coming out story, his relationship with his mom, and more. We talk:How the name Cuee chose him - 5:13His relationship with his mom - 16:42Becoming aware of himself in the body he was in - 27:44How Cuee was introduced to music - 42:28The dream retreat that he is creating - 55:46Click here for transcript!Read more about Cuee is his bio below:Cuee, from Chicago, IL is a Black Trans Recording Artist, Activist and Influencer who embodies Black Trans Joy. His mission is to spread it across the world through his activism and music. His message is spreading across the world with the goal of reaching 100K LGBTQ+ / Allies that he calls, "Cueeties". https://www.twitter.com/cueemusichttps://www.instagram.com/cueemusicSign-up to receive Dem Bois bi-weekly newsletter hereAre you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!

Send us a Text Message.What happens when we don't share our own stories? They get told by non-trans, non-people of color who want to advocate for us, but don't necessarily understand how to. This is why diversity and inclusion is so important, especially in spaces that can control narratives like media and entertainment. In this episode of Dem Bos Podcast, I continue the conversation with Sydney Baloue and we discuss the importance of storytelling, the fluidity of gender, the truth of “American culture,” and more!We talk:The importance of storytelling in the trans community - 3:48Sydney's experience challenging the “gender is a fact' rhetoric - 14:40How the gender binary shifts with time - 23:50Sydney's favorite childhood cartoons - 30:07Advice from Sydney Baloue - 40:04Click here for transcript!References:Moi ReneeMiss Honey by Moir ReneeKylian Mbappe“HIM” from PowerPuff GirlsDexter's LaboratorySailor MoonLooney TunesFrom Kalulu the Hare to Bugs Bunny: Trickster Lagomorph Legends“What's Opera, Doc”Little Richard - DocumentaryTina - DocumentaryScooby-DooRead more about Sydnes in his bio below:Sydney Baloue is a TV writer/producer, dancer, archivist and journalist. He is in the House of Xtravaganza and he was Co-Executive Producer on HBOMax's LEGENDARY Seasons 1 and 2. In 2022, he was the first Black trans man in the Writers Guild of America after working as a staff writer in scripted TV on The Vanishing Half at HBO and Tom Swift at the CW. Sydney is the author of Undeniable: A History of Voguing, Ballroom and How it Changed My Life (And the World). He was the first trans man to solely win Grand Prize for “Old Way” at the Latex Ball in 2019.www.sydneybaloue.comhttps://www.instagram.com/sydneybalouehttps://www.twitter.com/sydneybaloueAre you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!

Send us a Text Message.If you've ever wondered about Ballroom, then this episode is for you! Today on Dem Bois Podcast, I sit down with my friend, Sydney Baloue, TV writer/producer, dancer, archivist and journalist. Sydney is an expert on Ballroom culture and he breaks down its history and the role it has played in his life. We discuss how we met, his transition journey, his career in TV, and much more!We talk:How the name Sydney chose him - 4:37Going deeper into the Ballroom scene - 16:13Ballroom culture for those who don't know it - 27:55Sydney's travel and studies abroad - 35:17His work on HBO's Legendary - 45:08References:Edens GardenCliniQCallen-LordeApichaLos Angeles LGBTQ CenterTiq MilanParis is BurningLegendarySara AhmedMaking Gay History Harper CollinsLSERead more about Sydnes in his bio below:Sydney Baloue is a TV writer/producer, dancer, archivist and journalist. He is in the House of Xtravaganza and he was Co-Executive Producer on HBOMax's LEGENDARY Seasons 1 and 2. In 2022, he was the first Black trans man in the Writers Guild of America after working as a staff writer in scripted TV on The Vanishing Half at HBO and Tom Swift at the CW. Sydney is the author of Undeniable: A History of Voguing, Ballroom and How it Changed My Life (And the World). He was the first trans man to solely win Grand Prize for “Old Way” at the Latex Ball in 2019.www.sydneybaloue.comhttps://www.instagram.com/sydneybalouehttps://www.twitter.com/sydneybaloueAre you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!

Send us a Text Message.When many people think about creativity, they automatically think arts or tech, but there's so much more to it. Creativity is about solving a problem; more specifically, how you go about solving a specific problem. As today's guest says, “Parenting is creative… cooking is creative.” He challenges us to think about how we use creativity in our daily lives. In this episode of Dem Bois Podcast, I sit down with El a.k.a Uppercutt and we discuss the many ways he uses creativity in his life.We talk:El's transition journey - 4:36How colonization affects “gender” - 11:13Being born and raised, and returning to Florida - 20:41An awful high school experience - 32:58Advice for listeners in Florida who don't feel safe or have community - 42:07El's career as a creator - 54:54How his road trip to California changed his life - 1:08:01References:Trans Florida Resources IG - @transfloridaresources Trans Empowerment Project  Discord Signal Messenger (Groups)PFLAGEvelyn From the InternetsThe Fitzlane Project IG - @thefitzlaneprojectCamp Out FloridaQueer Expressions St. Pete IG - @queerexpressionsstpeteRose Dynasty FoundationFound Family Collective IG - @foundfamcollectiveKaon City Medics IG - @kaoncitymedix Read more about El in his bio below:El is a born, raised, and returned Floridian currently creating wearable and shareable Queer Anarchist work for his Trans community under the brand Uppercutt. Through his (discontinued yet still available,) Youtube channel All of El, he is well-versed in shamelessly speaking about issues surrounding race, identity, sexuality, gender, social justice, trauma, and silly shenanigans.He is an arts creator, educator, facilitator, and advocate working at the intersections of mental health, accessibility, and sustainability. When not teaching through local facilities or organizations, he works 1:1 with other creatives to uncover, unpack, discover, and inspire their personal projects through virtual consultations.https://www.instagram.com/all.of.el  https://www.instagram.com/_uppercutt_  https://eltapiakwan.com/ 14uppercutts.myshopify.comAre you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!

I had a conversation with a friend recently about raising children. The person I was talking to didn't think it was possible to raise a child as nonbinary. In fact, they believed that it was impossible to raise a child without gender norms. Well, allow this interview to be an example for anyone out there who shares that belief. In this episode of Dem Bois Podcast, I sit down with Zyon Aijon and he tells us what it was like to be raised without limitations and expectations and encouraged to be exactly who he was. We also discuss his artistic career, his transition journey, and much more!We talk:Dealing with discrimination in the south - 5:59Zyon's transition journey - 13:31Being raised without gender norms - 21:34Zyon's musical career - 32:15His other artistic ventures - 41:04Finding spiritual balance - 52:52Episode References:OSCARVILLE & LAKE LANIERRead more about Zyon in his bio below:Zyon Lewis is a black trans artist born in Bridgeport, CT and raised between there and the south. He is a Vegan, Artist, Leader, activist and Innovator. He is a music artist, making music under the alias “1000 Percent”. He also produces gaming, lifestyle, creative and motivational content. He has been a digital artist/graphic designer since age 13 and now at 25 he continues to create. Zyon started his medical transition (HRT) August 19th, 2021 and he had top surgery in March of 2022. He continues to live his truth daily, by finding balance and peace in his daily experience.Connect with ZyonAre you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!

Today's guest is not new to the show, and in fact, this will be his fourth time. He's already shared his story with us in episode 31, “Speaking Truth to Power Leading Up to Knowing Your Worth,” and he participated in our Love, Sex, and Relationships conversation back in season one. But Mr. Amari Leach always brings the good vibes and deep conversation, so you already know what to expect. In this episode of Dem Bois Podcast, Amari and I discuss unity in the Black community, anti-trans bills, advice for parents of queer youth, and much more!We talk:Why he wanted to come back on the show - 5:14What Amari does for self-care - 21:59The “protecting the youth” lie from government - 33:50Shawn's philosophy on minding your own business - 43:17Continuing the work to save lives - 1:03:10Episode References:Season 1, Episode 31: Speaking Truth to Power Leading Up to Knowing Your Worth with Amari LeachSeason 1, Episode 18: Love, Sex, and Relationships Part 1Season 1, Episode 19: Love, Sex, and Relationships Part 2Caste: THE ORIGINS OF OUR DISCONTENTS - Book by Isabel WilkersonRead more about Amari in his bio below:Mr. Amari Leach (He/Him) Is Strong Black Man born & raised in Louisville Ky & now resides in Seattle WA. He is Passionate about using his voice to help others Fight For Our Rights & Having a Safe Affirming Communities & Our Basic Human Rights Respected.  He is a Human Rights Advocate, Youth/Trans Youth Advocate, Spiritual Energy Raiser, Educator On Real Black History(Black Excellence) & Real Issues In Our Community, Animal Rights Advocate & Disability Rights Advocate. He Stands For Truth, Unity & The Power Of Helping Each Other Grow & Learn. Through His Powerful Voice He Is Able To Help Shift Mindsets & Share Perspectives Of Folks Who Are Often Overlooked, His Main Goals Are Helping Our Youth Find Their Voices Protect It & KEEPING IT! Helping Them Utilize It With Their Parents & In Life, While Also Helping Parents Understand The Importance Of Creating A Safe Space For Their Children To Be Able To Speak Their Truth With Love & Acceptance Being Returned,Our wonderful youth are the leaders of our future and we have to lead the way correctly! He Also Is A Podcast Host Of His Own Show Tea With T™Talks With Mr. Amari Leach Where He Sheds Awareness On Real Issues & Advocates For Important Social Issues , Award Winning Graphic Designer Artist ( Mother George's Brew-Lavender Rights Project x Metier Brewing CO), Panel/Keynote Speaker, Mentor/Teacher & Business Owner, Songwriter & Author.  ☕"I am changing the world one sip at a time"-Mr. Amari Leachhttps://www.instagram.com/teawithtllchttps://www.twitter.com/teawithtllcAre you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!

The concept of visibility is about being able to see yourself, in other people, in the workforce, in the media, etc. But visibility can be dangerous, especially depending on where you live. So how do you find the courage to be visible, when it's  especially dangerous? My guest, Mikail Khan, and I discuss that in this episode of Dem Bois Podcast. We also talk about transness in Bangladesh, discrimination in South Asia vs America, the effects of Islamophobia, and much more.We talk:Mikail's love for the Bronx - 5:49Their transition journey - 16:31The concept of abolition - 29:52What Mikail's mom would say today - 42:14Advice for Muslim's to gain courage to be visible - 50:23Read more about Mikail in their bio below:Mikail Khan (they, he) is a Bangladeshi transmasculine queer Muslim media maker, communications specialist, writer, organizer, & film curator. They grew up in Dhaka for 19 years and are currently based in Lenape and Wappinger land (Central Bronx, NY). Mikail is invested in advocating for the liberation of trans and gender-expansive people of color through an abolitionist perspective. Their creative pursuits are driven by interrogations on gender, queerness, geography and religion, and they organize with a few NYC-based grassroots groups to counter Brahminism, Islamophobia, and white supremacy.https://www.instagram.com/banglatheyshiAre you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!

If you've listened to any guest episode of Dem Bois Podcast, you've heard me ask the question, “how did your name choose you?” I believe that our names choose us for a reason and I enjoy learning about these journeys from my guests. And, today you'll get to hear another Dem Bois first: the beautiful village naming process for Kaneon Hammock. In this episode we also talk about why and how they are fighting generational curses, advice for living in truth and being authentic, and much more.We talk:How Kaneon's name found him - 4:57The acceptance he felt from his mother - 16:08Advice for anyone wanting to transition - 24:43How working at a bar encourage his sobriety - 33:33His relationship with his nephews - 40:18Read more about Kaneon in their bio below:I am 30, I'm an IT technician  who has found himself driving trucks as well lol ! I am a living version of what I live by “Be yourself and live in your truth” Always be the man you wanna be! Nothing in life is unattainable!https://www.instagram.com/__smmkd__Are you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!

There are always pivotal moments in our lives that put us on a path to discovery or point us in the right direction. They can be positive or negative, but they always have an impact on how we view life. For Marz T, that pivotal moment was the passing of his mother. It awakened his passion for music, which pushed him to find his voice and discover himself. In this episode of Dem Bois Podcast, I sit down with Marz T aka Mo LaFlo and we discuss his transition journey, his mom's passing, his music career, and much more!We talk:How the name “Marz” chose him - 8:38His sense of self and identity - 18:40The passing of his mother - 26:43His relationship with his mom - 38:09The stage name Mo LaFlo and his music career - 53:27Advice for listeners who want to get into music - 58:44Click here for transcript!Read more about Mo in his bio below:Mo LaFlo is a Tucson-based artist from Winter Park, Florida, whose sound has traveled the ears of many listeners all over the world. Mo LaFlo's sound is transformative, exuding emotion and a climate of reverence. His sound captures the essence of R&B, Hip Hop, and Neo Soul. Outside of the booth, he enjoys mentoring youth and helping them find their voice and tap into their creativity.https://www.instagram.com/mo_laflo444 https://www.tiktok.com/@mo_lafloQuestion from listener Ozziel Inzunza to Marz:What are your biggest inspirations and role models for your artist expression: personal and professional role models?Marz Response:Great question Ozzie. I would have to say my biggest inspirations/role models that inspire my artistry are Tupac, Chris Brown, Rhapsody, J Cole and Kendrick Lamar. I love lyricists & storytellers, as well as great entertainers when it comes to performing live. I would say those for professional. As far as personal, I lived say Maya Angelou, Nina Simone, because they lived and loved boldly and unapologetically! Thank you for asking!Are you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!

Losing a parent is hard. It can feel like losing a part of yourself, leaving a space that will never be filled… or so it seems. In this episode of Dem Bois Podcast, I share my experience with the death of my chosen mother. While her health was in decline, my birth mother's behavior toward me completely shifted. It felt like that motherly love just flowed. I haven't recorded a solo episode in almost a year and in this episode I discuss that too. But, this topic weighed heavily on my heart, so I hope you enjoy it.I talk:A quick rundown of solo episodes from season 1 - 2:32Things I learned from my birth mother - 7:41Sharing the podcast with my family - 20:36My birth mother's shift in behavior - 29:54How I met my chosen mother - 39:34Being at peace with the passing of my chosen mother - 50:16Read more about Shawn in his bio below:Shawn Aaron is the Founder and Executive Director of Dem Bois Inc. Shawn is a strong believer that trans men of color should have access to gender-affirming care and surgeries regardless of their economical status. Shawn is passionate about addressing intersectionality when it comes to one's gender identity and access to non-bias healthcare. Shawn identifies as trans-masculine and understands the importance of accessing transition related care. “I podcast to share stories and experiences of gender expansive leaders within my community. This allows me to build connections across different communities of color and people spanning multiple generations. From the rising generation of queer and trans folks of colors to the elders who paved the way for me and others. There are few storytellers that document the lives of trans men of color. As the host and creator of the Dem Bois Podcast, it is imperative that I continue to amplify and highlight the lives of trans men of color. Visibility = PossibilityTMThrough my storytelling, I demonstrate that:- Trans lives are not monolithic. - Trans men of color have always existed in society. - Trans men of color elders exist and represent possibility for the next generation. - Young trans men of color now have a point of reference of what they can become since our stories are often underrepresented.”  Connect with ShawnAre you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!

Imagine being unhoused at a young age, disowned by your family because of who you are. Imagine having to stay indoors all day and all night because if you leave your home you could be imprisoned for life. In another Dem Bois Podcast first, today's guest, Ruthra Lubega doesn't have to imagine any of these things. Ruthra is an HIV/AIDS and executive director of Positive People Initiative Uganda, and in this episode we talk about what it's like for trans and gender non-coforming folks living there.We talk:Being disowned by your parents at a young age - 5:23Contracting HIV - 14:32Ruthra's belief in God - 22:36Building community with like-minded people - 28:15Ruthra's number one fear - 32:55Click here for transcript!Read more about our guest in their bio below:Ruthra Lubega Is an HIV activist who has lived with HIV/AIDS for the past 12 years and advocates for the rights of HIV positive persons, more so the trans gender persons and gender non conforming persons. Ruthra is the Executive Director of Positive People Initiative Uganda an organization that supports people living with HIV/AIDS in Uganda. Ruthra operates a transitional shelter that provides a diverse space for marginalized persons to socialize and also provides a robust advocate journey for shelter inclusion for people living with HIV/AIDS.https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100064311236900 https://instagram.com/positive.transug?igshid=NzZlODBkYWE4Ng== https://instagram.com/ruth_lubegahttps://twitter.com/ruth_lubega?t=sCJBIYkhCHNTQlnx0UYCEg&s=08Are you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!

Transitioning shouldn't be for anyone else but yourself. It's not about the person you're in a relationship with. It's not about your parents. It's not about your children. It's about you taking charge of your life and being your authentic self. That is the message I want you to take from this episode of Dem Bois Podcast! Today I sit down with Cameron Bostic and he shares about how his life mentally prepared him for his transition.We talk:Cameron's transition journey - 5:43Advice for mentally preparing to transition - 17:29His relationship before and after his transition - 25:20Cameron's career as a DJ - 34:40Last bit of advice for listeners - 44:21Click here for transcript!ReferencesThe AggressivesDem Bois Podcast Ep. 3 - Surviving HomelessnessRead more about our guest in his bio below:I am a transman dj, living in South Florida. I am also an ambassador for the South Florida black pride organization.www.instagram.com/djladieslovecamAre you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!

Moving to a new city can be challenging. And, moving to a new city where no one like you really exists, that's damn-near impossible. But today's guest, Mia Obiekwe overcame that challenge and rediscovered themself in the process. Mia is a veteran, activist, model, and drag king, and in this episode of Dem Bois Podcast, we talk about all of those things. They also give advice for trans masc folks who are looking for support.We talk:Mia's transition journey - 8:25Their genderqueer identity - 18:51Mia's hope for Black queer people to be authentic - 25:59Their former business and why it ended - 35:39Rediscovering themself in a new environment - 41:44What Mia's support system looks like - 50:55Click here for transcript!Referencesthem magazineRuPaul's Drag RaceDem Bois Podcast Ep. 6 Transforming Your Mindset with Zeke WilliamsRead more about our guest in their bio below: Mia-Obie is a trans masculine individual from Cincinnati, Ohio. They Spent most of their adult life in Atlanta, GA where they learned to hustle as a business owner in the cleaning industry. Within the past year they recently moved to Santa Fe, NM where they have had to rediscover themself in an environment where black trans people don't really exist, as well as, grieving the closure of their cleaning business. https://www.instagram.com/miaobie.benbanjeeAre you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!

How do we learn gender roles? They are taught to us by society, our families, our teachers, our peers, our bosses, etc. They tell us who we are supposed to be and how we should behave. But we get to decide who we are and who we will become. In this episode of Dem Bois Podcast, my guest Father Venus shares how his gender journey sparked his artistic journey and how he incorporates the two.We talk:Father Venus' love for being an Aries - 8:40His career change because of his transition - 22:32Message to former students - 32:59Incorporating gender within artistry - 45:13His goal with his music and business - 55:44Click here for transcript!ReferencesPilot Frixion PensSaturn Says StudiosDem Bois Podcast, Ep. 7 - Transitioning at WorkAlexes Hazen, M.D.Callen-Lorde Community Health Center, BrooklynRead more about our guest in his bio below:Father Venus is an artist who centers pleasure, justice, and magic through hip-hop music & visuals. Born & raised in Harlem, NY they now reside in Detroit where they independently craft their own style of hip-hop from their home base, Saturn Says Studios--AN ARTIST-OWNED PRODUCTION HOUSE & CREATIVE COMMUNITY FOR AND BY BLACK + BROWN, TRANS + QUEER ARTISTS, CREATIVES, AND ENTREPRENEURS. https://www.saturnsays.comhttps://www.instagram.com/fathervenusmusichttps://beacons.ai/fathervenusAre you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!

It's true. Your transition never really ends. As you age, grow, and learn, you will continue to transform and transition. In this episode of Dem Bois Podcast I had the privilege to sit down with actor, writer, producer, and editor, Shaan Dasani. Shaan discusses his career and how his Trans identity is integrated into his work. He also shares some advice for Trans actors. There are just so many good topics within this episode so I hope you enjoy it!We talk:How the name Shaan chose him - 7:01Cultural narratives in having sons vs daughters - 14:15Acceptance from grandparents - 22:29How Shaan's Trans identity is integrated into his work - 34:51Advice for Trans actors - 51:34Click here for transcript!ReferencesAgents of Change FilmEp. #33 Why It's Important For Us to Tell Our Own Stories with D'LoUN Climate Change Conference - United Arab EmiratesOTVRead more about our guest in his bio below:Shaan Dasani is a multifaceted actor, writer, producer & director. With an MFA in Film Production from Chapman University, he has produced over 30 short films and music videos. As an actor, he has starred in commercials for Google, Uber, and on TV in shows like Criminal Minds and Fox's 9-1-1. His current penned project in which he also stars - AGENTS OF CHANGE - is a spy genre film about secret agents who fight environmental crime and showcases a queer and trans cast in a film that goes beyond identity to address broader social and political issues of our time.https://instagram.com/shaandasanihttps://instagram.com/agentsofchangemovie https://www.ShaanDasani.comAre you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!

“The parent's role is to guide and to nourish. Not to dictate or tell them how they should be, how they [should] live their life.” - Gabriel VidalThis quote really sets the tone for what you can expect in this episode of Dem Bois Podcast. This episode's guest is one of my favorite people and once you hear the interview you will see why. Gabe is the Director of Youth Organizing for the GSA (Gender/Sexuality Alliance). He is also a Queer and Trans DJ. And, I am so excited to introduce you to him in this episode of Dem Bois Podcast.We talk:Gabe's transition journey - 7:31How he experimented with gender identity - 13:07Having parents who are allies - 24:53Advice for queer youth without that strong foundation - 30:43Advice for parents of queer youth - 35:57Music as a creative outlet - 43:59Click here for transcript!ReferencesGender/Sexuality AllianceRead more about our guest in his bio below:Gabriel (he/him/Gabe) is a queer trans DJ, record collector and community organizer born and raised in Los Angeles. His approach to music has been shaped by his family, community organizing and underground music communities. Collecting records has been an outlet of his own transformation and a way to celebrate the experiences of his communities and others. Additionally, Gabriel is the Director of Youth Organizing for Genders & Sexualities Alliance Network and spends his extra free time DJing in local venues and community events in the Los Angeles area. https://mixcloud.com/gfunktrecehttps://www.instagram.com/gfunktreceAre you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!

If you know anything about the podcast, then you know that we are all about amplifying trans voices, so today we have another Dem Bois Podcast first. This episode won't only be hosted by me. It will also be co-hosted by Vee Martin, and we will be interviewing our guest Ray Adens. I interviewed Vee back in season one and we had a great conversation about building confidence, going to therapy, and transitioning with children. In this episode, Vee is back and Ray is ready to share. We discuss family, mental health, battling with faith, and much more!We talk:Ray's transition journey - 7:10His faith - 15:26Getting back in touch with his mom - 28:51Learning to be a man without a “father-figure” - 37:07Being kind and polite - 46:23Bromance and competition - 50:44ReferencesEp. 11 - Building Confidence to Become Your True Self with Vee MartinEp. 14 - Discovering New Life Through Grief and Healing with Mely Anais QuirozRead more about our guest and co-host in their bios below:Ray - Humble in heart, wise in response (motto)Vee - Vee is a father, husband, friend and overall a simple family man. He is on a journey of self love, understanding and exploring what his future holds.Are you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!

Today we have another Dem Bois Podcast First! In this episode, my guest TJ Jourian shares a difficult time in his life where he had to revert back to his previous gender and how that affected his mental health. And, I want to give an emotional warning, because we do discuss suicide ideation. We also discuss masculinity, being trans identified vs. being a man, cultivating healthy higher education environments, and much more! We talk:TJ's transition journey - 5:48How his family accepts his identity now - 15:50How reverting back to his previous gender affected his mental health - 24:42TJ's higher education and how he navigated those spaces - 34:47The importance of community in higher education -  47:10How you can work with TJ - 54:12Click here for transcript!ReferencesBoys Don't Cry (movie) Brown Boi ProjectEmergent Strategy by adrienne marie brownRead more about our guest in his bio below:T.J. Jourian is a scholar, consultant, and coach with Trans*Formational Change. He helps changemakers – diversity workers, activists, creatives, scholars, and leaders – reclaim and transform their energy, as they transform the world. T.J. partners with colleges, companies, conferences, and community-based organizations across Turtle Island in their efforts towards equity and inclusion. His research examines race, gender, and sexuality in higher education; masculinity, transness, and racialization; and campus gender and sexuality practitioners. T.J. has published extensively, including the co-edited books Queerness as Being in Higher Education: and Queerness as Doing in Higher Education: Narrating the Insider/Outsider Paradox as LGBTQ+ Scholars and Practitioners.http://www.tjjourian.net/https://www.instagram.com/tjjourian/https://twitter.com/tjjourianhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/tjjourian/Are you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!

There are so many people out there who aren't getting the care they need or deserve, especially trans people. We are met with ignorance and incompetence, and today's guest, Dr. Julius Weaver wants to change that! Dr. Julius is a board-certified family physician who has been practicing for 20+ years and they are promoting Black and trans visibility through their medical expertise. In this episode of Dem Bois Podcast, we discuss transitioning late in life, being stealth vs. being visible, transitioning with children, and much more.We talk:How the name Julius chose him - 2:55His relationship with his ex-husband now - 9:44Advice to trans parents navigating societal norms - 20:36Transitioning while working in the medical field - 30:24Being a doctor and providing that competent care to trans folks - 39:16Where the name “Dem Bois” came from - 48:00Click here for transcript!Read more about our guest in their bio below:Dr. Julius Weaver (he/they) is a black transgender board-certified family physician who has been practicing for over 20+ years. Julius is a busy, protective mother of three teens and in their downtime enjoys sports, gardening and being by any picturesque body of water they can find.  Dr Weaver recently started their most exciting venture, RMD Proud. RMD Proud is a direct pay, virtual, gender affirming care program for transgender and gender-diverse individuals. Julius Weaver is a late blooming non-binary trans guy. Their gender journey has certainly been lifelong but he started socially transitioning when he came out a few years ago to his family. Currently, Julius loves to promote black and trans visibility through their own medical expertise and also by talking about their personal transition journey. http://www.resolvemd.org/gender-carehttp://www.instagram.com/thetransmdhttp://www.instagram.com/rmd_proudAre you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here! Donate to support our 2023 Gender Affirming Surgery Grant Fund here!