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Helpful Support = 1. Increased Trajectory + 2. Increase Resilience Harmful Support = 1. No Improvement In Trajectory + 2. Lowered Resilience Support in Different Contexts - Workplace: Managers should focus on developing employees' skills and independence - Parenting: The goal is to raise independent adults, not perpetually dependent children - Friendships: There's a delicate balance between being supportive and becoming a "coach" - Addiction and mental health: Support should aim for long-term recovery and resilience, not enabling destructive behaviors Jon Haidt's Three Great Untruths: - "What doesn't kill you makes you weaker" => What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. - "always trust your feelings" => Feelings should be examined, sometimes immediate responses are counter productive and one should 'think slow, not think fast'. - "life is a battle between good people and evil people" => The world is not zero sum, most things are 'win-win'. Defining Effective Support - Support done well leads to independence and growth, not dependence - The goal is to "teach someone to fish" rather than continuously "giving them fish" - Good support maximizes the trajectory of someone's improvement over time - Effective support may involve allowing someone to struggle or fail in order to learn and grow Challenges in Providing Support - It can be difficult to let someone struggle or fail, especially in personal relationships - There's a balance between intervening and allowing natural consequences - The recipient's mindset (growth vs. fixed) impacts the effectiveness of support - Clear communication about the intention and reasoning behind support is crucial Reframing Support - Support should be viewed as increasing resilience and ability to handle future challenges - It's about being on the same "team" and working together for mutual growth and success - Good support acknowledges feelings without necessarily endorsing them - Support should aim for win-win outcomes rather than reinforcing a zero-sum mentality
The main points talked about are: - Teaching kids about the business world. For example, they could learn by trading shares. - Understanding how to build healthy relationships with themselves and others. A way to do this is by exploring philosophy. - Learning how to create things. Instead of focusing on music, we could emphasize entrepreneurship and building projects. If you want to contact us please do so at info@cloudstreaks.com
- A16Z on why they support Trump: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n_sNclEgQZQ - Tim Urban explaining social justice fundamentalist (wokeness): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ALdi_MX3bfQ - Nate Silver on election: https://www.natesilver.net/p/nate-silver-2024-president-election-polls-model If you want to contact us please do so at info@cloudstreaks.com
Jon Haidt's main points: - No smartphones before high school. Parents should delay children's entry into round-the-clock internet access by giving only basic phones (phones with limited apps and no internet browser) before ninth grade (roughly age 14). - No social media before 16. Let kids get through the most vulnerable period of brain development before connecting them to a firehose of social comparison and algorithmically chosen influencers. - Phone-free schools. In all schools from elementary through high school, students should store their phones, smartwatches, and any other personal devices that can send or receive texts in phone lockers or locked pouches during the school day. That is the only way to free up their attention for each other and for their teachers. - Far more unsupervised play and childhood independence. That's the way children naturally develop social skills, overcome anxiety, and become self-governing young adults. Arguments for and Against Banning Social Media Until 16: Arguments For Banning Social Media for 16-Year-Olds Mental Health Issues: Social media can cause anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem due to constant comparison and social pressure. Cyberbullying: Teenagers are vulnerable to online bullying and harassment, leading to severe emotional distress. Privacy Concerns: Teens might not understand privacy settings, risking exposure to personal information and online predators. Addiction and Distraction: Excessive use can lead to addiction, reducing time for studies, physical activities, and face-to-face interactions. Sleep Disruption: Social media use before bed can disrupt sleep patterns and lead to poor-quality sleep. Body Image Issues: Exposure to unrealistic body standards can lead to negative body image and eating disorders. Misinformation: Teens may be susceptible to fake news, affecting their understanding of the world. Arguments Against Banning Social Media for 16-Year-Olds Communication: Helps teens stay connected with friends and family, fostering social bonds. Educational Resources: Provides access to educational tools and resources. Skill Development: Develops digital literacy and communication skills. Self-Expression: Offers a platform for sharing interests and creativity. Awareness and Activism: Raises awareness about social issues and encourages civic engagement. Support Networks: Online communities provide support and a sense of belonging. Parental Supervision: With guidance, teens can learn to use social media responsibly. If you want to contact us please do so at info@cloudstreaks.com
http://nymag.com/intelligencer/2018/12/andrew-sullivan-americas-new-religions.html “Religion is an attempt to find meaning in events, not a theory that tries to explain the universe.” It exists because we humans are the only species, so far as we can know, who have evolved to know explicitly that, one day in the future, we will die. And this existential fact requires some way of reconciling us to it while we are alive. No meaning = Hopelessness. What is wokeness? https://boghossian.substack.com/p/woke-religion-a-taxonomy If you want to contact us please do so at info@cloudstreaks.com
"Free speech is the master value as it's the value that updates all othe values." “I'm worried that as technology gets more powerful that it'll be easier for the minorities who want to screw things up, to screw things up.” “Today it's possible for one person to derange the lives of million, even billions of people.” Sam Harris. Who is worse for free speech? The hard left or the hard right? IMO the hard left. Woke people. “Woke mind virus is the biggest threat to the civilization” IMO extremists on the left or the right are the problem. Extremists in general. The more annoyed they get about each other the worse. IMO wokeism is much more accepted in main stream than trumpism. Woke: a state of awareness only achieved by those dumb enough to find injustice in everythign exepct their own behaviour. It's interesting. This is causing the loss of free speech. And that is hard core problematic because handing power to governments who normally don't give it back. Power corrupts, and ultimate power corrupts ultimately. People stop telling you the truth, start pandering. Then you definitely get high on your own supply. Then people start to hate you but you can't see it and think they are stupid. If you want to contact us please do so at info@cloudstreaks.com
What is good parenting = 1. Like school + 2. Have good friends + 3. Good parent / child relationship + 4. Good academic outcomes (top 10%) + 5. Good extra curricula. Eastern and Western parenting. It's important to remember that parenting styles within any culture. 1. *Education Focus*: - Eastern: There's often a strong emphasis on academic achievement, discipline, and respect for authority. - Western: Education may be more balanced with extracurricular activities, encouraging creativity and individual interests. 2. *Discipline*: - Eastern: Discipline is generally more strict, with a greater emphasis on obedience and conformity to family and societal expectations. - Western: Discipline may be more flexible, focusing on reasoning with the child and understanding their perspective. 3. *Independence*: - Eastern: Independence is encouraged later, often after foundational values and behaviors are instilled. - Western: There's a strong emphasis on fostering independence from an early age, including encouraging children to make their own choices. 4. *Family Structure*: - Eastern: A greater emphasis on extended family, with respect for elders and filial piety being central values. - Western: A focus on the nuclear family, with a more egalitarian approach to family roles. 5. *Emotional Openness*: - Eastern: Emotional restraint is often valued, with less open verbal expression of love and affection. - Western: There's generally more open expression of emotions and affection, both verbally and physically. 6. *Decision Making*: - Eastern: Parents often make key decisions for their children, even into their adult lives. - Western: Children are encouraged to participate in decision-making processes, even from a young age. 7. *Risk and Failure*: - Eastern: There can be a high aversion to risk and failure, with a focus on avoiding loss of face and maintaining honor. - Western: Risk-taking is often encouraged as a part of learning, and failure can be seen as an opportunity for growth. Western parenting expectations across the 1950s, 1980s, and 2020s. 1. **Discipline**: - 1950s: Generally strict, with corporal punishment more accepted. - 1980s: Moving towards less physical discipline, with time-outs becoming more common. - 2020s: Emphasis on positive discipline, understanding child psychology, and avoiding physical punishment. 2. **Education**: - 1950s: Education was more formal, with a strong focus on foundational skills and respect for authority. - 1980s: Increasing emphasis on holistic education, including personal development and extracurricular activities. - 2020s: Focus on technology literacy, critical thinking, and personalized learning paths; homeschooling and alternative education models gain popularity. 3. **Gender Roles**: - 1950s: Traditional gender roles were predominant, influencing how children were raised and what was expected of them. - 1980s: Beginning to challenge traditional gender roles, with more encouragement for girls to pursue careers and boys to express emotions. - 2020s: Greater acceptance of diverse gender identities and roles, with emphasis on gender-neutral parenting. 4. **Technology and Media**: - 1950s: Limited impact, with radio and early television being the main technologies. - 1980s: Growing influence of television, video games, and early personal computers. - 2020s: Digital natives; heavy influence of the internet, social media, smartphones, and varied digital platforms. 5. **Parental Involvement**: - 1950s: More authoritative parenting with less involvement in children's play and exploration. - 1980s: Increasing parental involvement, with a shift towards more nurturing and supportive roles. - 2020s: Very high involvement in all aspects of children's lives, often termed as "helicopter" or "lawnmower" parenting.
- The Insidious Lie That We Can't Understand Each Other: https://jonathanhaidt.substack.com/p/identity-trap - A Case for Color Blindness | Coleman Hughes | TED: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QxB3b7fxMEA - Compelling case for our colourblind Constitution https://www.theaustralian.com.au/commentary/letters/compelling-case-for-our-colourblind-constitution/news-story/27c30802cc4fc971304b923db33f9ce1 If you want to contact us please do so at info@cloudstreaks.com
Podcast: - Marc Andreessen: How Risk Taking, Innovation & Artificial Intelligence Transform Human Experience - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yixIc1Ai6jM Big 5 personality traits: - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Big_Five_personality_traits - conscientiousness (efficient/organized vs. extravagant/careless) - agreeableness (friendly/compassionate vs. critical/rational) - neuroticism (sensitive/nervous vs. resilient/confident) - openness to experience (inventive/curious vs. consistent/cautious) - extraversion (outgoing/energetic vs. solitary/reserved) Andreessen summary on traits of an innovator: - **Trait Openness:** A crucial attribute which means they are receptive to new ideas across various domains. This openness isn't confined to just their field of expertise but spans across different aspects of life. - **Conscientiousness:** Merely being open to ideas isn't enough. Innovators must be committed, hardworking, and must be able to defer gratification to see their vision come to life. It's about consistently applying effort over years. - **Disagreeableness:** Innovators often need to be disagreeable to stand firm on their ideas. This trait ensures they aren't easily swayed by others' opinions. - **Intelligence:** Being smart is essential, especially in terms of synthesizing vast amounts of information quickly. - **Low Neuroticism:** Handling stress is crucial for innovators. Being too neurotic might hinder their ability to cope with the pressures of innovation. If you want to contact us please do so at info@cloudstreaks.com
Trust = Consistency * Time. Ray Dalio. Bad news early is good news as you have time to do something about it. Anything that isn't against the laws of physics can be invented. David Deutsch The job of a founder is to find solutions to impossible problems. Sam Altman. People like to talk about the importance of "vision," but ultimately running a startup is like doing science: you have to follow the truth wherever it leads. Vision is only valuable insofar as it predicts where you'll find truth. Paul Graham Cult leader vs Scientist. Zealot vs Scientist. Tim Urban. Facts vs opinions. - Facts you can be objective. - For opinions better to be use scientific language which is more 'probability based'. If you want to contact us please do so at info@cloudstreaks.com
Relevant links: - Mental abilities = 1. Quantity * 2. Quality - Link to what the most popular IQ test consists of. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wechsler_Adult_Intelligence_Scale - Intelligence continuum: inherited (born) built - Lex Fridman Podcast: Richard Haier: IQ Tests, Human Intelligence, and Group Differences | #302 | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hppbxV9C63g - Sam Harris Podcast: Forbidden Knowledge: A Conversation with Charles Murray. https://www.samharris.org/podcasts/making-sense-episodes/73-forbidden-knowledge - There are material quantity differences in the time students spend upgradings. If you want to contact us please do so at info@cloudstreaks.com
- Esther Perel: People used to leave relationships because they were unhappy, now people level them to because they want to be more happy. - Tim Urban: Happiness = Reality - Expectations - John Gottman relationship stages: Phase 1: Falling in Love – Limerence · Phase 2: Building Trust · Phase 3: Building Commitment and Loyalty. - Elon Musk: 'Who wrote the code running in your head?' Or are the values you have 'written by you', or by someone else. We think that it's better to understand what the values are, where they came from, and then to try and see what values you think make the most sense for you. That the world should 'pluralistic' in certain areas (ie many different types of values can be good) and uniform in others (eg no stealing). But that also you can and should update your values over time when you think it makes sense! A couple of blogs from Duncan that we feel are relevant: - https://www.cloudstreaks.com/blog/2019/4/23/default-vs-designed-expectations-write-your-own-stories - https://www.cloudstreaks.com/blog/2019/6/1/10x-work-goals-human-beings-not-human-doings-thoughts-on-how-epic-work-can-be-a-reason-for-being If you want to contact us please do so at info@cloudstreaks.com
Relevant links and ideas: - Purpose Vs Play Vs Peace: Plentiful Ingredients For A Pleasant Life. https://www.cloudstreaks.com/blog/2022/4/9/purpose-vs-play-vs-peace-plentiful-ingredients-for-a-pleasant-life - Satisfaction vs Happiness. - Maslow's heirarchy of needs. If you want to contact us please do so at info@cloudstreaks.com
Relevant articles. - Intellectual fragility: https://jonathanhaidt.substack.com/p/mental-health-liberal-girls - Exiting the Vampire Castle: https://www.opendemocracy.net/en/opendemocracyuk/exiting-vampire-castle/ - Naval: the the foundation morality is the creation of an environment that allows for error correction. - Good intentions don't necessarily lead to good outcomes. - Tim urban: Victim culture vs Dignity culture vs Honour culture. If you want to contact us please do so at info@cloudstreaks.com
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Outcome = 1. The issue you care about * 2. The strategy you have to improve things for the issue * 3. The way you interact with others to try and update their views to align more with your... or that you update your views based on interactions with othes. - The last part I think is where Cancel Culture is concerned. - You can agree with the issue being important, agree with the strategy someone has to make a difference about the issue, but disagree with how they interact with others. Often these three things are joined together. Contact us: info@cloudstreaks.com
System of justice or system of revenge. Rule of law or rule of power. "I disapprove of what you say, but I will defend to the death your right to say it." Voltaire. "I disapprove of what you say, and I will find to the death to get you cancelled." Woke culture. https://jonathanhaidt.substack.com/p/mental-health-liberal-girls They came to believe that they were fragile and would be harmed by books, speakers, and words, which they learned were forms of violence (Great Untruth #1). They came to believe that their emotions—especially their anxieties—were reliable guides to reality (Great Untruth #2). Feelings matter more than objective reality. They came to see society as comprised of victims and oppressors—good people and bad people (Great Untruth #3). “Those who cannot change their mind cannot change anything.” Churchill. Contact us: info@cloudstreaks.com
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AGI = Intelligence (can upgrade itself) * Sentience (is self aware) - Bing's A.I. Chat: ‘I Want to Be Alive.
Jo Boaler - Mindset are the biggest thing to help improve maths outcomes. Martin Seligman - You can build resiliance: https://hbr.org/2011/04/building-resilience Don't be bitter, be better. Post traumtic stress vs Post traumatic growth. Fixed mindset vs Growth mindset. Fictim mindset vs Innovator mindset Learned helplessness vs Learned help yourselfness I was either right, or I learned something. I'm not trying to raise a child, I'm trying to raise a future adult. Life outcome = Starting point + Effort Low expectations = Bad High expectations = Good. You rise to the level of your expectations. Unrealisticly high expectations = Bad. Instrinsic motivation vs Extrinsic motivation. Contact us at: info@cloudstreaks.com
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A core strategy for having a strong understanding of reality is having an objective measure for what progress is. We believe it's possible to have objective measures cover 80% or more of a subjective space. Some ideas discussed: - Diagnose before you prescribe: https://www.cloudstreaks.com/blog/2022/6/25/diagnose-before-you-prescribe-quality-diagnosis-100-coverage-problem-space-framework-building-a-framework-to-explain-100-of-the-problem-space - Don't get high on your supply: - Known, ego distortion, blind spot: https://www.cloudstreaks.com/blog/2022/1/19/ego-distortion-and-blind-spot-discovery-a-key-strategy-for-personal-upgrades - Success as intoxicant - Scott Galloway. - Humble mindset vs hubris mindset vs harmful mindset: https://www.cloudstreaks.com/blog/2022/10/10/humble-mindset-how-a-humble-mindset-leads-to-sustained-success Possible subjective measures for a personal life: - Saving money each year - ~10 close friends where the depth of your relationship improves each year - Helping your work move towards it's 'north star'. If you want to contact us: info@cloudstreaks.com
Levels of the political system: 1. Politicians. 2. The laws of democracy. 3. The media. 4. Voters. - I consider it easiest to make a difference in the short term through the media and specifically through Twitter. Freedom of speech is not freedom or reach. Free speech doesn't mean one can say anything one wants. - https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/United_States_free_speech_exceptions Ben Thompson, Stratechery and the 5th estate: - https://stratechery.com/2019/the-internet-and-the-third-estate/ - First three estates = three branches of government: the executive, legislative, and judicial. If you want to contact us please do so at info@cloudstreaks.com - Fourth Estate = The press - Fifth Estate = Social media
Levelling up = Quantity * Quality - Quality is normally a function of past quantity. Over time the quality should improves. Places with ceiling vs ceilingless places. - In ceilingless mental places we believe one can level up indefinitely. Discipline = freedom. Jocko Willink. Discipline = More discipline. - Routine is cruicial to being able to do what you want. - First you make your habits, then your habits make you. Average IQ goes up. - https://reason.com/2015/06/01/average-iq-scores-have-risen-30-points-d/ Dunning Kruger: - The more I know the less i know. - https://miro.medium.com/max/639/1*6ss9wuGIVSnPKOKmCeS3tA.jpeg Intrinsic vs extrinsic motivation. - Buffett and internal vs external score card. Passions can be built. - https://www.cloudstreaks.com/blog/2019/8/10/where-does-passion-come-from-you-can-create-grow-and-sustain-passion
https://www.cloudstreaks.com/blog/2022/4/9/purpose-vs-play-vs-peace-plentiful-ingredients-for-a-pleasant-life - Work can be fun. - Play can be fun. - Relaxing can be recharging, and a peaceful kind of fun. Progress can be happiness which can be fun. Writing can be fun.
The different types of work time: work from home, work from office, meetings, coffees, team lunch, company drinks, team offsite, company offsite. Some balance of all of them is optimal? Work from home is almost like having your own office. Sometimes you want to be in an open office, sometimes in a closed door office. With working from home and in the office you get both? Maker's Schedule, Manager's Schedule - Paul Graham http://www.paulgraham.com/makersschedule.html Some days working from home and some from the office means you can optimise for the different types of time? Building relations with coworkers is critical. See blog from Scott Galloway. https://www.profgalloway.com/notes-on-work/ Everytime you interact with someone you are either bulding or burning a unit of credibility. https://www.cloudstreaks.com/blog/2020/5/30/cultivating-credibility-positive-vs-negative-sentiment-override If you want to contact us please do so at info@cloudstreaks.com
In this episode we discuss if the US democracy is on track to break. In short we think yes. We discuss a history of governance systems and possible things that could be done to change the course. Here are some of the things mentioned: Transforming Power Relationships: Leadership, Risk, and Hope: https://www.jstor.org/stable/43654046 Stephen West and Philosophize this: https://www.philosophizethis.org/ The Open Society and Its Enemies - Book by Karl Popper: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Open_Society_and_Its_Enemies Contact us at info@cloudstreaks.com
Some interesting resources: - Baby on Board: Understand Your Baby's Needs in the First Twelve Months by Howard Chilton - Love Is Biological Bribery. Evolution uses all its tricks to make sure we procreate. But love in humans is a many-splendored thing. BY BRIAN GALLAGHER Outcome = 1. Category of caring * 2. Length of caring - Categories of caring: conditional, unconditional and earned, unconditional and given (children) - Time: life long or not life long. Children have the deepest story of care: unconditional and given * life long. So it's easier to love them? Some definitions: - Love = Something you care about more than yourself - Child = Something you help - Child = Something you are care about your entire life Contact us at info@cloudstreaks.com
Listen to: Brené Brown Says You're Doing Feelings Wrong - https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/brene-brown-436 Daniel Goleman's emotional intelligence framework: - Self-awareness – the ability to know one's emotions, strengths, weaknesses, drives, values and goals and recognize their impact on others while using gut feelings to guide decisions. - Self-regulation – involves controlling or redirecting one's disruptive emotions and impulses and adapting to changing circumstances. - Social skill – managing relationships to get along with others - Empathy – considering other people's feelings especially when making decisions - Motivation – being aware of what motivates them. Chip Conley emotional equations: https://miro.medium.com/max/494/0*q1fZlZu3ZdcYBhj_.jpg The limits of my language mean the limits of my world - Ludwig Wittgenstein -Language does not just communicate emotions, it shapes them. Contact us at info@cloudstreaks.com
Parenting Styles ≈ Management Styles - Neglectful, Permissive, Authoritarian, Authoritative and Helicopter. https://www.cloudstreaks.com/blog/2022/2/12/management-styles-be-authoritative-not-permissive-or-helicopter Permissive = High care & Low boundaries Neglectful = Low care & Low boundaries Authoritarian = Low care & High boundaries Authoritative = High care & High boundaries Helicopter = Authoritative + Don't allow people to make mistakes. Contact us at info@cloudstreaks.com
Attachment styles 1: Secure, Avoidant, Ambivalent, Disorganised. Attachment styles 2: Secure, Anxious, Dismissive, Fearful Attachment styles 3: Secure, Insecure, Dysfunction Attachment styles 4: Cool, Clingy, Stalker, Loner Variables that matter: - low vs high self esteem - low vs high trust Contact us at info@cloudstreaks.com
Joyce Newman - “Everyone can be charismatic. We are not born charismatic - we cultivate it in many ways. One way is by observing and learning from people who you think are charismatic. You don't need to copy them, but learn their secrets, try them on and fine-tune them until they fit you. It's a trial and error process. Bad news is that once you have your charismatic status, you can lose it. Just look at Mel Gibson and Lindsay Lohan. But here's the good news – if you lose it, with self awareness and effort, you can regain your charismatic ranking” Some links: - https://www.forbes.com/sites/deniserestauri/2012/05/03/5-qualities-of-charismatic-people-how-many-do-you-have/?sh=101fd1b42ea9 - https://blog.hubspot.com/sales/habits-of-likable-people - https://www.nytimes.com/2019/08/15/smarter-living/what-makes-people-charismatic-and-how-you-can-be-too.html - https://darwinianbusiness.com/2016/09/25/charismatic-leadership-through-the-lens-of-evolution/ Contact us at info@cloudstreaks.com
“The reasonable man adapts himself to the world; the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore, all progress depends on the unreasonable man.” George Bernard Shaw Leadership = 1. Vision for how to change the world + 2. Confidence + 3. Inspiring + 4. A source of challenge + 5. Confidence = Not knowing you are right, but that you could be wrong, however you are ok with it. "Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm." Churchill. Inspiring = Epic at what they do = Have built themselves to be the best. To be a good leader one should be a pragmatist, not an ideologue. Ideologues who are good leaders often become cult leaders. Effort = Crazy work ethic. Leadership = 1. Vision for change + 2. Ability to actualize it Manager = Helping organise to get things done Worker = Doing what they are told. Simon Sinek: why / what / how Contact us at info@cloudstreaks.com
“There is no "I" in team but there is in win.” Jordan "A champion team will beat a team of champions." John Mcgrath Outcome = 1. Value of input + 2. How easy you are to work with + 3. Energising / draining for yourself and others. Jordan = Win at all costs. It's not about life or death. Jordan = Win. Lasso = Belief. The best = 1. The most hours spent upgrading + 2. Will always get up after being knocked down = Often makes someone intense AF. Nice guys finish last… but they are nice because they are last. If they weren't nice no one would speak to them. We tend to equate niceness with weakness. "Kindness is my religion. Be kind to yourself and be kind to others." Dalai Lama To get things done with others you have three tools? Carrot, stick and inspiration. If you are the best then you can inspire. And often the more you can inspire the more you are able to use a stick. Jordan was lots inspiration and stick. Lasso is mainly carrot. Can you be the best of both Jordan and Lasso? I hope so! 'Play nice, but win'.... Ted + Jordan!
Automaticity: The ability to perform a task by automatic processing, independent of conscious control and attention. Strong automaticity is almost entirely automatic and can be carried out without attention. “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” - Carl Jung One lens: - Unconscious incompetence - Conscious incompetence - Conscious competence - Unconscious competence Another lens: - Biology - story of delta and spiders. With vertigo and horney, finding mothers brest. - Family history - story of the mice and raspberries - Sociocultural programming - Programming you do to yourself. And another: - Unconscious desires - Unconscious beliefs - Unconscious memories - Unconscious fears Contact us at info@cloudstreaks.com
Your profile is a tool and fame is a tool. Take care of your reputation, it's your most valuable asset. Credibility = Reputation. Is fame just your reputation on steroids? Contact us at info@cloudstreaks.com
The main article referred to is here: https://www.cloudstreaks.com/blog/2021/8/7/conversation-outcome-1-mindset-2-messaging-3-message 1. Positive Sum Conversation Mindset = 1.1 What did I learn? + 1.2 How does the other person feel? 2. Messaging = 2.1 Empathy * 2.2 Word choice * 2.3 Confidence 3. Message = 3.1 Quality ideas + 3.2 Ideas put forward ‘like a scientist' + 3.3 Not committing any logic fallacies Jingle: Getting good at conversations ≈ Getting good at life Tim Urban - Zealot ⇔ Scientist: https://waitbutwhy.com/2019/09/thinking-ladder.html Contact us at info@cloudstreaks.com
*So sorry, there is an echo in one of the recordings :(. Outcome = Message * Messaging. We've come to believe Messaging is more important than Message. Key questions to ask at the end of a conversation are 1. “What did I learn?” and 2. “How does the other person feel?” 1. “What did I learn?” Taxonomy -L1: Why i'm right and defend anything others say about me being wrong L1: Try to listen to the other party L2: What can I learn? 2. “How does the other person feel?” Taxonomy -L1: Told them they are wrong. Like you less. L1: Tried to have someone understand your view. Neutral, don't like more or less L2: Tried to understand their view, tried to help someone understand your view. Tried to show what you learned and show how your view changed because of this. Tried to help the other change their own mind with eg socratic questions. They like you more. Likability ≠ Value of input. - Likability = Messaging. Try for agreeable disagreement. - Value = Message. Could have totally opposite view. Likability uncorrelated to value of message? "Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you'll call it fate." Carl Jung Contact us at info@cloudstreaks.com
Biology vs Nature vs Self Authoring. Useful delusions. - Shankar Vedantam The difference between genius and insanity is success. Areas = 1. Biological programs you can't change + 2. Subconscious programs you can change + 3. Micro things like tired and hungry + 4. Subconscious + 5. Listening to your subconscious + 6. Willpower. The mind is a great servant, but a terrible master. Eliminate the need for willpower. Contact us at info@cloudstreaks.com
Leadership taxonomy: - L-100: 'Leading' through intimidation: - L1: 'Leading through information' - L10: 'Leading through inspiration' 1. Vision * 2. Communication (done well) = 3. Inspiration Inspiration = Vision * Communication * Levelling up * Credibility build through progress * Presentation skills Inspiration = Problem solving ability * Progress What makes the great great = 1. Ability to inspire to get past go + 2. Ability to inspire to go from small to large. Contact us at info@cloudstreaks.com
Partner types: Relax partner, Party partner, Activity partner, Best friend partner, Laugh partner, Sex partner, Parent partner, Self actualisation partner, etc Relationship activities: 1. stop me from being bored or lonely 2. entertainment / relax time 3. shared interests / passions 4. discussions with the purpose of learning. Eg talk about a article that someone has found, bookclub, etc 5. shoulder to cry on / reactive support 6. reactive problem solver. Eg a problem is brought to you with someone wanting to discuss something at work, or in a romantic relationship, etc 7. will provide unprompted feedback (radical candour). This should be both positive and constructive. Eg reality check when you are getting an ego. Eg did you know you are actually really quite a good public speaker. 8. counsellor - which is a problem uncoverer and solver (ie proactive problems vs reactive problems above) 9. builder - eg working to build something like a family, company, etc. You love what you have cared for - levels of relationships. - Fun - Fun + caring - Fun + caring + helping - Fun + caring + helping + unconditional love Health = 1. Physical health + 2. Mental health - A key part of '2. Mental health' is normally friendships Contact us at info@cloudstreaks.com
One lens you can look at life as: a series of games. Most of the modern world is positive sum. But most of history was zero sum. Do we do a good job at knowing games can be positive sum? How to create positive sum games? How to be a positive sum game player? The best thing in life get better because you make them better. In some respects friendships are games, businesses are games. How to plan infinite (vs finite) games in a positive sum way is much fun! Contact us at info@cloudstreaks.com
One lens I have for life - there are three types of time: purpose (serious), play and peace (rest). In a normal week I try to do 5 days of Purpose, 1 day of Play and 1 day of Peace. Purpose: 1. Find a way to make the world better => 2. Take on responsibility to make change => 3. Get meaning / purpose => 4. Happiness [4th order happiness] Play: no responsibility - Purpose = responsibility * fun - Play = no responsibility * fun [1st order happiness] Peace = just doing nothing [2nd order happiness. 1. Calm / rest => 2. peaceful happy] A life without seriousness is frivolousness. A life with only seriousness is silliness. Also referencing: https://www.cloudstreaks.com/blog/2020/11/27/serious-with-a-smile-humour-is-no-laughing-matter-and-a-lack-of-laughing-is-a-serious-matter Contact us at info@cloudstreaks.com
The inspiration for this episodes is an episode of the Knowledge Project called "Jeff Hunter: Embracing Confusion [The Knowledge Project Ep. #74]", https://fs.blog/knowledge-project/jeff-hunter/ Contact us at info@cloudstreaks.com
This podcast is about how social distancing has reduced the amount of 'nothing time' you have with others and as such the amount of friendliness built. Mentioning Patrick Lencioni and five dysfunctions of a team. Contact us at info@cloudstreaks.com
The seed article: - Coronavirus Responses Highlight How Humans Have Evolved to Dismiss Facts That Don’t Fit Their Worldview - https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/coronavirus-responses-highlight-how-humans-have-evolved-to-dismiss-facts-that-dont-fit-their-worldview/ Matt Taibbi and his book Hate Inc's 10 rules: 1. THERE ARE ONLY TWO IDEAS 2. THE TWO IDEAS ARE IN PERMANENT CONFLICT 3. HATE PEOPLE, NOT INSTITUTIONS 4. EVERYTHING IS SOMEONE ELSE’S FAULT 5. NOTHING IS EVERYONE’S FAULT 6. ROOT, DON’T THINK 7. NO SWITCHING TEAMS 8. THE OTHER SIDE IS LITERALLY HITLER 9. IN THE FIGHT AGAINST HITLER, EVERYTHING IS PERMITTED 10. FEEL SUPERIOR F. Scott Fitzgerald "The test of a first-rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposed ideas in the mind at the same time, and still retain the ability to function." Contact us at info@cloudstreaks.com
Model summary: Level 1 (Pre-Conventional) - 1. Obedience and punishment orientation (How can I avoid punishment?) - 2. Self-interest orientation (What's in it for me?) (Paying for a benefit) Level 2 (Conventional) - 3. Interpersonal accord and conformity (Social norms)(The good boy/girl attitude) - 4. Authority and social-order maintaining orientation (Law and order morality) Level 3 (Post-Conventional) - 5. Social contract orientation - 6. Universal ethical principles (Principled conscience) If you want more detail https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lawrence_Kohlberg%27s_stages_of_moral_development https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Heinz_dilemma Contact us at info@cloudstreaks.com https://ethics.org.au/ethics-explainer-deontology/
We discuss https://waitbutwhy.com/2020/01/sick-giant.html This series is epic, currently James and I think we'll discuss every chapter as a podcast episode. Tim Urban is awesome. We are big big fans. We'd like to chat with you Tim! Contact us at info@cloudstreaks.com
We discuss https://waitbutwhy.com/2019/12/political-disney-world.html This series is epic, currently James and I think we'll discuss every chapter as a podcast episode. - "I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." Maya Angelou - David McCandless & Stefanie Posavec. https://infobeautiful4.s3.amazonaws.com/2009/10/2552_IIB_Left_v_Right_World.png Tim Urban is awesome. We are big big fans. We'd like to chat with you Tim! Contact us at info@cloudstreaks.com
We discuss https://waitbutwhy.com/2019/10/idea-labs-echo-chambers.html This series is epic, currently James and I think we'll discuss every chapter as a podcast episode. - Adam Robinson and The Knowledge Project - Winning at the great game: https://fs.blog/knowledge-project/adam-robinson-pt1/ - The obstacle is the way - Ryan Holiday - Show me a good loser and i’ll show you a loser. - Jordan Peterson "Treat yourself as you treat your pets." Tim Urban is awesome. We are big big fans. We'd like to chat with you Tim! Contact us at info@cloudstreaks.com
We discuss https://waitbutwhy.com/2019/09/american-brain.html This series is epic, currently James and I think we'll discuss every chapter as a podcast episode. Tim Urban is awesome. We are big big fans. We'd like to chat with you Tim! Contact us at info@cloudstreaks.com
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