The Power Couple Podcast

Wanting more of the Power Couple Podcast until Season 2 drops? Join the Legendary Love Academy HERE for weekly dating and relationship content exclusive to our community.Ready to meet and hang with other Legendary Lovers? Join our podcast afterparty club HEREJoin Kelsey's next drop in class: The Overfunctioners Guide to Optimal Functioning HERE **Be sure to use the promo code: PCP for $5 off registration!**

Wanting more of the Power Couple Podcast until Season 2 drops? Join the Legendary Love Academy HERE for weekly dating and relationship content exclusive to our community.Ready to meet and hang with other Legendary Lovers? Join our podcast afterparty club HEREJoin Kelsey's next drop in class: Rebuilding Relational Trust After It's Been Busted HERE

Wanting more of the Power Couple Podcast until Season 2 drops? Join the Legendary Love Academy HERE for weekly dating and relationship content exclusive to our community.Ready to meet and hang with other Legendary Lovers? Join our podcast afterparty club HEREJoin Kelsey's next drop in class: Rebuilding Relational Trust After It's Been Busted HERE

We have now come to the end of Season 1's regular scheduled episodes! March will have two bonus episodes including one community Q/A session. Season 2 of The Power Couple Podcast will return April 2020!*Looking for more love and relationship goodies? *HEAL YOUR HEARTBREAK SELF-STUDY PROGRAMIf you're currently going through a breakup and would like additional support, hop on over to our Heal Your Heartbreak program HERE. In this self-study program we guide you through a thorough process for healing your heartbreak in a way that honours your story, your pace and your heart. AFTER SHOW COMMUNITYLooking to connect with more cool cats who are speaking this language, doing the relational work and give a shit about growth? Ya we thought so. Come hang with us HEREUntil next episode lovers, K + J

To connect with Ryan:Website: The Intimate LifestyleSexual and Emotional Mastery for Men program: HEREThe Noble Lover program: HERE Ready for more relational education?Join the Legendary Love Academy HERE for weekly dating and relationship content exclusive to our community.Ready to meet and hang with other Legendary Lovers? Join our podcast afterparty club HERE

Within every relationship, there comes a point (when we're out of the honeymoon phase) where we settle into a more automated track of relating with one another. In this more emotionally bonded place, the sex life of a couple can and often does shift a little. This normal experience, is understood as abnormal because we compare the relationship now to the honeymoon phase and we compare our reality to what we see in movies, tv, social media or assumptions we make about other friends who are in relationships...can really mess with the flow of a connection and disconnect you from the unique truth of how much sex is normal for you as a couple. In this episode we cover: • Where the idea of "what is normal" comes from• Why we compare our relationship reality to a constructed fantasy• Your ideal sex life has everything to do with knowing yourself deeply and intimately on an EMOTIONAL level• Why it is NORMAL for your sex life to change and vary and how to discuss this without shaming yourself or your partner• Why couples get into obligatory sex and why that is damaging to the connection and a huge act of self-abandon• Using sex as the gateway to deeper emotional intimacy vs as a way to celebrate the emotional intimacy already present•  The importance of having sex from a connected INTERNAL place as a way to set the most honest agreements and practices around intimacy.Ready for more relational education?Join the Legendary Love Academy HERE for weekly dating and relationship content exclusive to our community.Ready to meet and hang with other Legendary Lovers? Join our podcast afterparty club HERE

In this Power-Couple pre-game we're going there, we're talking about the healthy role masturbation plays when it comes to properly vetting someone in the dating phase. We share personal stories about how we've both individually cultivated a more shame-free relationship to our own sexuality and how to generate a devotional "self-love" practice on the regular ;) In this episode we cover: • The timeline of sex and dating is a completely personal one and how to decide what is truly aligned for you• The difference between compulsively masturbating to AVOID reality and intentionally masturbating to CONNECT deeper and more devotionally to yourself, your body, your desires and your reality.• Why masturbating is a good addition to your vetting process and how it helps to reveal more information about alignment, respect, connection and trust.• Why being super horny might be working against you when it comes to solid relational decisions.• The direct correlation between intentional masturbation and romance in the dating and relating spaces. Resources cited in this episode: Your sexual blueprint quiz: HEREYour erotic menu (aka what to do with your blueprint + how to bring it forward with a partner): HEREReady for more relational education? Join the Legendary Love Academy HERE for weekly dating and relationship content exclusive to our community. Ready to meet and hang with other Legendary Lovers? Join our podcast afterparty club HERE

In the final episode in the month of commitment we're exploring the commitment to feeling your feelings when you're fresh into a breakup, in a later stage of an ending or you just plain and simple want to learn how to feel your feelings more fully, and in a safe container aka you're not getting overwhelmed or drowning in the sea of emotion. In this episode we cover: • The breakup is the shattering of a story, not the shattering of YOU• The ability to hold the reality that a breakup is both a death and a rebirth happening simultaneously• What the prerequisite is for feeling your feelings fully in a breakup• The layers of grief to process and why they are all important for your healing• Why feeling your feelings helps you to see more clearly, process more cleanly and create more potently• 11 practical steps/tools to explore to help unlock the emotions, process them effectively and build a more friendly relationship with feeling your feelings. *Looking for more love and relationship goodies? *HEAL YOUR HEARTBREAK SELF-STUDY PROGRAMIf you're currently going through a breakup and would like additional support, hop on over to our Heal Your Heartbreak program HERE. In this self-study program we guide you through a thorough process for healing your heartbreak in a way that honours your story, your pace and your heart. LIVE CLASS: Rebooting From RejectionIn Kelsey's upcoming webinar Feb 1st 2020, she'll be taking you through the relational guide to dealing with ghosting and rejection. Getting ghosted sucks, being rejected is the worst. And building the resilience and confidence from the inside out can be confusing when your self-worth has taken a few rejection blows. In this online class you'll receive the support to navigate rejection and ghosting with grace and confidence. As a podcast listener use the promo code: PCP15 for 15% off your registration, all details and registration can be found HEREAFTER SHOW COMMUNITYLooking to connect with more cool cats who are speaking this language, doing the relational work and give a shit about growth? Ya we thought so. Come hang with us HEREUntil next week lovers, K + J

Who we are when we first get together with someone can be very different than who we ultimately become. A wonderful example of this is our dear friends Ben and Renae Oosterveld. They've been together for 16 years, have 5 kids and have been through the wild world of personal and relational transformation in that time.In this interview we explore the world what it actually looks like behind the scenes of a long-term relationship, when it comes to remaining committed when both people are growing, changing and evolving. We also explore what its like when two people who are so different pair up in partnership and how to come together as a team, instead of opposing one another in a ego battleground. We loved these two and can't wait to have them back on! Connect With Ben and RenaeRenae's Instagram: Plugged In ParentBen's Instagram: HEREBen's Upcoming March 2020 Event (Kelsey is speaking at): HEREWant More Love Education? Kelsey's next online webinar class is FEB 1st 2020 and we're diving deep into GHOSTING and REJECTION. Grab your spot HERE and use the promocode: EARLYBIRD for $15 off (promo code ends Jan 26th)Join The Weekly Love ClubCan't get enough of the show? Us either...plus we just love kicking it with all ya'll, and we do that over in our after-show community.We have fun weekly mixers, win sharing, Kelsey does a relationship training every Tuesday paired with our Movie Club...it's a blast..and FREE to join!To get in on that goodness follow this link HERE (you will be prompted to answer 2 questions to get in- if you don't answer them we can't approve your request to join the love club. These answers aren't shared with the group, just for Jamie and I to make sure people who actually give a shit about great relationships and legendary love come through the doors).xo

If every couple is a unique pairing, why is it that we have on standard (and very vague) "understanding" of what commitment is in the context of a "committed relationship"?To have the most aligned partnership, every couple needs to explore their own personal understandings of commitment and then together come up with a united agreement about what commitment will mean to their unique relationship. *In this episode we cover: • Why shit comes up after we make bigger commitments.• When doubts, fears and insecurities about your commitment pop up, what to do with that material.• Why its normal to have doubts even in the most committed and aligned relationship.• Our personal examples of how doubts and resistance manifest for us in our relationship and what we do to clear them and stay connected.• What healthy commitment actually means and what it looks like. • Couple creation exercises to support you in being committed on purpose in your relationship.Looking for more relational education?Stay up to date on all upcoming trainings, webinars, classes and programs, along with all our weekly blogs and newsletters over at The Legendary Love Academy HERECan't get enough of the show? Us either...plus we just love kicking it with all ya'll, and we do that over in our after-show community.We have fun weekly mixers, win sharing, Kelsey does a relationship training every Tuesday paired with our Movie Club...it's a blast..and FREE to join!To get in on that goodness follow this link HERE (you will be prompted to answer 2 questions to get in- if you don't answer them we can't approve your request to join the love club. These answers aren't shared with the group, just for Jamie and I to make sure people who actually give a shit about great relationships and legendary love come through the doors).See ya there love buttons! xo

Commitment is one of those things we know we need to look for, we know we want it, but it's so nuanced that it can be difficult to define what we're really after when we're on the commitment hunt. In this episode we explore: • What you relationship to commitment is and how being single is a great time to re-evaluate your commitments and re-anchor into what is most important to you.• Why being in a committed relationship with yourself is a pre-req to TRUE LOVE• Are your commitments genuine soul commitments?• How you relate to yourself and your commitments in the presence of someone new can tell you very critical information about relational alignment.• Relationships can be containers of self-betrayal and self-abandonment and still be traditionally committed. • Aligned relational commitment requires your self-alignment. • The process of building up a healthy personal relationship to commitment and how to hold true to that dynamic in a new dating situation. Looking for more relational education? Stay up to date on all upcoming trainings, webinars, classes and programs, along with all our weekly blogs and newsletters over at The Legendary Love Academy HERECan't get enough of the show? Us either...plus we just love kicking it with all ya'll, and we do that over in our after-show community.We have fun weekly mixers, win sharing, Kelsey does a relationship training every Tuesday paired with our Movie Club...it's a blast..and FREE to join!To get in on that goodness follow this link HERE (you will be prompted to answer 2 questions to get in- if you don't answer them we can't approve your request to join the love club. These answers aren't shared with the group, just for Jamie and I to make sure people who actually give a shit about great relationships and legendary love come through the doors).See ya there love buttons! xo

We all know that unless you have a reason to be in communication with an ex (co-parenting, work together, or share a property or pet) that it really isn't the best idea if you're committed to healing and creating a more aligned love vision in the future. In this final episode for 2019 we dive into the world of how to not text your ex when you're feeling the impulse to, and how to be with the underlying emotions in a way that creates more alignment, clarity and power for your new decade ahead. In this episode: • Breakups are already destabilizing and over the holidays these feelings can get amplified. So your feelings to reach out are very normal and common. • What to do with the impulse and feelings in a way that doesn't reinforce more self-abandonment and internal rejection. • The shame that comes up in a breakup and is amplified with nosey relatives asking invasive questions or making of side comments can be a very valuable teacher if you know how to use it. • Looking back on the decade can help you heal your heart and create a new vision going forward. • The 2020 love vision reflection process.This will be the final episode until JANUARY 9th 2020!! Enjoy the holidays boos! And if you want to get in on our after-show hangout crew hop over HERE since we'll be connecting with every one there until the new 2020 episodes drop! Make sure you answer the 2 questions when you're prompted, it's the only way to quality control the group and keep it an emotionally safe space for everyone. Happy Holidays friends and all the best for a great start to 2020!! 

What an absolute honour to close out this decade with another Power Couple Double Date episode with our dear friends Kendra and Jeremy. Both Jamie and I were present upon the inception of their love story last year and it was a true delight to sit down with them and hear the full unfolding of their story, the edges they have both had to meet in their union and how their unique pairing has allowed for deep healing and exploration of old material in new and more effective and integrated ways. We loved every bit of this playful, silly, deep and inspiring conversation and we know you'll absolutely adore it too! •In this episode •• The infamous Instagram DM slide that started it all.• The willingness to lean in and explore without being super duper attached to a specific outcome and how that shaped their relational unfolding.• An unconventional conversation about poop real early in that set the tone of honesty, transparency and connection right away.• Real examples of why you don't have to have it all together, be totally happy or completely healed to call in and keep great love worth having. • Honest stories of triggering moments and how they have worked with those triggers to create more intimacy and a unified collaborative union. • The balance between influencing your partner in a proactive way and allowing for their free will choice to be who they are. To stay up to date with these two love nuggets: Follow them on Instagram: Kendra Adachi: HEREDr. Jeremy Goldberg: HERETo get in on all their upcoming goodness: Kendra's Coaching Program: HERESparta Retreat: HERE

We're BIG fans of keeping the couple bubble strong, thriving and inpenetrable to outside attacks. The holidays are a time when any cracks in the couple bubble are going to expand and stress the structural foundation of our connection if we don't put some collaborative (and fun) measures in place. In this episode we show you how to do it in our signature way...you know, practical AND fun! *In this episode: • What is a couple bubble and why is it important?• What are thirds and when we mismanage thirds the BIG (*hint* not good) impact on your relationship.• What holiday thirds tend to pose the biggest challenge and potential threat to your secure functioning as a couple? • How to rev up being teammates this holiday season.• How to prioritize quality time in your relationship when your schedule is bananas busy.• How to have your partners back when they need it. • Your holiday game-plan master plan. MORE LOVE ACTION FOR YOU!! This Sunday December 15th 2019, Kelsey will be offering an online workshop: Preventing Emotional Manipulation in Your Love Life. If you've been wanting a way to spot those pesky energy vampires, or prevent future woundmating, or just want a BADASS tool kit to get you through the holiday gauntlet of sarcastic comments, intrusive questions about your relationship or relationship status, guilt-trips, falling into old familial patterns (under-functioning, over-functioning, obligation, walking on eggshells, abandoning your truth)...well then this workshop is for you. It's virtual, which means you can join from anywhere and you'll get replay access if you're not free for the live session. As a listener to the pod you can get 15% off with the promo code: PCP15 when you register your spot HERECan't get enough of the show? Us either...plus we just love kicking it with all ya'll, and we do that over in our  after-show community.We have fun weekly mixers, win sharing, Kelsey does a relationship training every Tuesday paired with our Movie Club...it's a blast..and FREE to join!To get in on that goodness follow this link HERE (you will be prompted to answer 2 questions to get in- if you don't answer them we can't approve your request to join the love club. These answers aren't shared with the group, just for Jamie and I to make sure people who actually give a shit about great relationships and legendary love come through the doors).See ya there love buttons! xo

We hear this shit all the time "ugh, dating is just so hard" "it sucks out there" "people are the worst"....and you know what? We're so done with it. Yup. Those beliefs aren't coming through with us into this new decade. Nope. No room on the love bus for that baggage anymore. Here is the deal friends, when you don't like your life, dating is going to be a fucking drag. It's pretty hard to vet someone properly when we're too consumed with how shitty things are, how everyone lets you down and why there are no good humans in the dating pool. So, in this episode we tackle the importance of being in fabulous alignment with your life first....then stepping into dating. We cover: • The pathway to heartmate town and healthy partnership is designing your life in a way where you actually like being in your life day to day, FIRST• What is really under the behaviour pattern of finding fault with people, being overly "picky" aka critical of new people you meet. • Why learning to love your own life gives you an easier access point to cultivating more joy, gratitude and kindness with others. • Living a life of gratitude is a practice in presence which is ESSENTIAL when dating so you get to know the REALITY of someone instead of a projected FANTASY.Please excuse Jamie's sniffling...he had a legit sneezing attack mid-podcast and while we got the ahhhchooo's out, the sniffles couldn't be helped ;) OUR 12 DATES OF GRATITUDE CHALLENGEJust in time for the holiday season we have a 12 Dates of Gratitude Challenge! All of the details, downloads and materials will be available in our after-show community. To get in on that goodness follow this link HERE (you will be prompted to answer 2 questions to get in- if you don't answer them we can't approve your request to join the love club. These answers aren't shared with the group, just for Jamie and I to make sure people who actually give a shit about great relationships and legendary love come through the doors).See ya there love buttons! xo

As we have seen, woundmates are a doozy. They hook us in all sorts of unrelenting ways right on down to the end. The back and forth. The on again off again. The hot breakup sex. The unclear boundaries. The deep desire to keep the energetic "hit" going even as the relationship crumbles. Yup. Thats a woundmate breakup. In this episode we explore: • Why woundmates are so hard to break up with• Why woundmate breakups are highly dysfunctional, volatile and do a number on your system• What is actually behind the intense impulse to stay friends with an ex• What conditions make it appropriate to stay friends with an ex• How heartmate breakups look and feel and the process they willingly walk when it comes to healing and resetting• If you're going to be legit friends with a ex, an effective breakup-friends protocol to follow• If you're going through a woundmate breakup, the protocol to assist your healing and move you towards heartmate territory in the future. Are you in our Legendary Love Club?!? It's the after show hangout for all ya'll to meet, connect, jam about the episodes, get access to our movie club (think movies meets relational education training...ya it's a super funzie mashup, and it's FREE). The more the merrier!! To get into the group you have to answer the 2 questions (don't worry we don't share these) as a way to make sure all the peeps in the love club are there for similar and aligned reasons. Get into the FREE Love Club HERE

In this episode we dive more deeply into the complex nature of woundmating and trauma bonding. It can be scary to think we're stuck as a woundmate once we've had one or two woundmatey experiences. But good news, it's not a fixed identity, and the degree of woundmating or heartmating that comes through a unique relational pairing has loads to do with how two people's energies, stories, histories and personalities jive. ***In this episode we cover: • Why the labels of woundmate and heartmate are actually more fluid than you may think.• Having woundmate relationships doesn't doom you for your relational future and some proactive aspects to have on your radar to heal and integrate from these woundmate dynamics• Common characteristics that make woundmating appealing to have on your radar. • When we heartmate- what that looks like and common characteristics to have on your radar. • Our "Anti-Woundmate Diet" + Heartmate Manifesto***Mentioned in this episode: To download the FREE Anti-Woundmate Diet + Heartmate Manifesto click HEREIf you're not already over kicking it with us and all the other amazing love legends in our Podcast After Show Party Facebook Group, come join us!Every week we do a movie club which includes a LIVE session with Kelsey, plus other relational and podcast discussions!When you request access you'll be prompted with two questions to answer. We only accept requests from those who have answered them. These answers aren't shared anywhere in the group, but act as the door person to ensure the community remains energetically aligned, clear and a safe relational space for all the best kinda weirdo's ;)Get in on it HERE

Processing, processing, processing. If we're always processing, when are we actually living? Actually experiencing? Actually ENJOYING our relationship? Yup you guessed it. We're not. But that can change, first we must create more awareness around what is really going on, and we're here to help you do that this week! ***In this episode we cover: • When woundmates are actually aligned what that looks like.• How excess processing can be a bypass to true intimacy and being an active participant in our own lives. • Why conscious couples get all high and mighty about their non-stop processing parties, and what that actually *might* mean about the reality of the connection. • What to do if you and your partner are looping in processing processes and how to move towards repair more effectively. • The link between non-stop processors and woundmates• The link between conflict repair and heartmates• The difference between how woundmates and heartmates approach vulnerability, trauma and triggers.Mentioned in this episode:Ready to join our aftershow club? Next movie club session is Tuesday! Hop in there to be part of the magic!Get in on all the goodness HERE!

New Month: Woundmate vs Heartmate**In this episode we cover: • The green flags of a heartmate• The red flags of a woundmate• Why woundmate attractions can sneak up on us and how to prevent the ambush of a woundmate• The link between woundmates and energy vampires• The honest underlying feelings that are active in a woundmate connection• Why we all dream of a heartmate but fall for woundmates• The importance of understanding your love template when it comes to filtering out the woundmates and more importantly doing the healing to no longer find woundmates attractive• How to align within yourself for a heartmate connection• How to vet and align in the dating phase for a heartmate connectionMentioned in this episode: Ready to join our aftershow club? Next movie club session is Tuesday! Hop in there to be part of the magic! Get in on all the goodness HERE!  

Welcome to the absolute funniest dating episodes to date. In this show Jamie reads our communities real life dating stories, while providing his signature comedic flair, commentary and insights guaranteed to make you LOL (or legit pee your pants with deep belly laughter). From stories about a 69 tinder date/car hijacking, to a Target lover date gone real wrong, to a date with a virtual reality adult entertainer, to the forbidden teenage love car chase... all of these stories are beyond wild, hilarious and legit WTF moments. If you need a genuine laugh or want to hear other stories that make you feel less alone with some of your dating nightmares give this a listen.  Want more of Jamie and his brilliance? - Apply to work with Jamie HERE- Join the email list HERE (Early access to the Love Legends Membership will be shared exclusively to our newsletter posse).- Get in on the after-show Facebook group HERE (be sure to answer the preliminary questions when prompted to receive access to the love club) 

In this special community Q/A dating and relationship episode, Kelsey answers some of the community questions submitted. There were so many amazing ones, we couldn't get through all of them. All the questions we didn't get to will be answered in upcoming social media posts on Kelsey's Instagram page (@radicalselflove), our after show Facebook group, or in our newsletter, links are below for you! Some of the topics included in this episode are: • What it means when a partner asks for "space" and what to do about it. • The deal with dating apps• When your partner is insecure about your past (or if you're insecure about theirs, what is happening and how to navigate that as a united front).• How much time is healthy to spend apart when you're in a relationship. • Dating while feeling the pressure of the "biological clock"• How to set up a partner to support you if you're dealing with PTSD from a past relational trauma• The avoidant anxious dance in dating, how to unhook from the toxic tango. • How to get a partner to open up. • Dating, age differences, what is appropriate?• How to deal with having feelings for multiple people? Mentioned in the episode: - Apply for Kelsey's Year of Love Mastery Program HERE- Join the email list HERE  (Early access to the Love Legends Membership will be shared exclusively to our newsletter posse).- Get in on the after-show Facebook group HERE (be sure to answer the preliminary questions when prompted to receive access to the love club)

In this episode we cover: • The difference between your intuition and fear.• Some signs to consider when its actually misaligned vs aligned, if you're deciding whether to stay or to go in a relationship.• What an attachment attack feels like in the body and how to identify when you've been taken over by those inner child adaptations. • What really happens on a subconscious level when we make next level commitments in life and love (aka why shit hits the fan after you make a new level commitment ie. being exclusive, getting engaged, getting married, having a kid etc. • The things we refuse to deal with in the wake of a relationship ending we'll meet again in a future relationship, how to discern if the breakup is based on a power struggle you CAN work with to break through this material or a breakup when you've gone as far as you can go. • How to work with your attachment system so you're not completely taken over by an attachment attack. • How to generate more security within yourself and within a relationship. Ready to meet more Love Legends? Join our aftershow group: The Legendary Love Club HERE

We're thrilled to bring our friend Silvy to the show today to grace all of you Love Legends with her incredible wisdom, insight and knowledge on all things attachment theory. Silvy is a relationship coach who specializes in attachment theory work and boundaries. FRIENDS....she's THE BEST. We love her so much and were so honoured to have this time to showcase her brilliance, expertise and give you all a backstage pass to one of our favourite relationship educators, coaches and expert in this relational field.*Some of our favourite moments from this interview: • When your attachment system is stressed how that can play out and impact your relationship and relating experiences• Attachment flair ups can trick us into pre-maturely leaving a good relationship (and how to work with this so you don't)• How to deal if you or your partner's attachment styles activates an unconscious desire to threaten the relationship • The connection old childhood wounds/memories play in our attachment bonds in relationships• Tracking your common denominator patterns• Our attachment wounds are a result of relationship and so they are healed in the container of relationship (friendship counts too)• There is only a certain degree of self-awareness we can cultivate on our own and when in the container of relationship we get the opportunity to integrate and expand that awarenessSilvy Khoucasian earned her Master's Degree in Psychology from the MFT program at Phillips Graduate Institute, and her bachelor's degree in Sociology from the University of California, Santa Barbara. She has coached hundreds of people through Self-Discovery, Transformational, and Leadership programs. Her approach leaves her coaching clients feeling empowered, accountable, and ready to create meaningful changes in their lives.Connect with Silvy: Her website HERE Instagram HEREFacebook HEREReady to join our Legendary Love Club...aka our aftershow community hangout? Yes? Yes! Get into the group HERE

Every relationship pairing will bring forward different aspects of our attachment wiring, and we're setting you up to explore each unique relational attachment pairing and work with it effectively. In this episode: • Attachment wiring is fluid and each new pairing will activate different aspects of your attachment style. • In a poor attachment pairing we see both people's wiring combining in a way where it is difficult to advocate for their personal needs and boundaries. • We share our histories with different past partners and how it influenced our attachment activations. • We explore our personal relationship and the primary attachment wiring we experience with one another. • We out our secondary attachment wiring that comes out in times of extreme stress and what triggers our attachment flare ups. • How to understand your partners attachment needs in a way that is relationally supporting AND creates space for your attachment needs to be tended to as well. • Creating an attachment needs gameplan as a couple. • This week's MOVIE CLUB/STORY TIME: Forgetting Sarah Marshall Ready to join the FREE Legendary Love Club? aka our Podcast Afterparty Hangout group? We'll be doing weekly movie clubs to go along with the "Story Time" movie in each weekly episode + exclusive discussions about the monthly episodes + regular community Q/A's, opportunities to make connections with fellow poddies, AKA make aligned friends, meet amazing humans who not only are listening to this work too but VALUE growth and healthy relationships.... ;) and so much more...all for FREE. Read to join the community? Get in on that goodness HERE

This month we're exploring the very trendy and hot topic of attachment styles. You know the patterns you unconsciously have related to the way you bond emotionally within romantic relationships. A lot of dating and relating stresses can be connected to our attachment system going haywire and not having the tools and understanding to WORK WITH this part of ourselves. Here's the thing, your attachment wiring isn't going anywhere. You can't will it away. You can't hide it. You can't out run it. But you can create intimacy with it. Doing so helps you feel much more grounded in dating, aligned within yourself and connected to make the best relational (and attachment) choice possible. **In this episode we cover: ** • The basics of the four attachment styles in our signature comedic style. • How each style is instictively pulled to pace in the dating phase. • Why the Fantasy Bond is fucking up your dating, pacing and vetting and how to reign that sabotour in. • Taking inventory on ourselves in the most HONEST way- discerning the way you WANT to act vs the way you ACTUALLY act when it comes to your dating life. • Why humility and truth telling on yourself soothes and nourishes your attachment systems needs AND sets you up to date more congruently. • Our NEW PODCAST AFTERPARTY POSSE ANNOUNCEMENT • This week's MOVIE CLUB/STORY TIME: Runaway Bride **Mentioned in this episode: ** To take the best attachment quiz (in our humble opinion) click HERE Ready to join the FREE Legendary Love Club? aka our Podcast Afterparty Hangout group? We'll be doing weekly movie clubs to go along with the "Story Time" movie in each weekly episode + exclusive discussions about the monthly episodes + regular community Q/A's, opportunities to make connections with fellow poddies, AKA make aligned friends, meet amazing humans who not only are listening to this work too but VALUE growth and healthy relationships.... ;) and so much more...all for FREE. Read to join the community? Get in on that goodness HERE

Breakups obviously are never fun to navigate, but what if there was a HUGE piece of preventative relational medicine that so many people miss? Well good news, there is. It's called owning how you co-create your relational shit goggles. In this very open and vulnerable episode we "out" our shadow material and share with you the core negative images we hold about one another and how that gasp actually creates more rapport and closeness. Not a clue what we're on about? Well tune in for these nuggets: • The core negative image you hold of your partner, becomes the thing you're combating most. • When we exaggerate the negative aspects of a partner it's a way to create psychological and emotional distance (usually because we could use some sprucing up of our boundaries). • If we can't own up to the ways in which we're difficult, the ways we're difficult will own us (and sabotage our relationship). • The top ways Jamie is difficult. • The top ways Kelsey is difficult. • Jamie's core negative image of Kelsey • Kelsey's core negative image of Jamie. • How knowing and outing these pieces has and does impact our relationship. • How reparenting helps to calm down the core negative image, take responsibility for our annoying and difficult aspects, and ground into a much more emotionally intimate space within the relationship container. If you're currently struggling with a breakup, and need guided support through the process, you can access our Heal Your Heartbreak course HERE To make sure you're staying up to date on all things relational education that we don't cover on the podcast be sure to hop on our Legendary Love email list HERE P.s. The CNI concept was created by Terry Real, we're a big fan, you can check him out HERE P.s.s. The "how we're difficult" is a process used by Stan Tatkin, also huge fans, you can find him HERE

Overfunctioning is the other half of the dysfunctional dance so many couple's find themselves in. In this week's Powercouple Game Time episode we're exploring the in's and outs of overfunctioning. As a recovering overfunctioner, Kelsey is in the hot seat this week. Being interviewed by Jamie, she generously gives the audience access into the experience of the overfunctioner as well as some solid action steps to begin healing this pattern if you're (or someone you know) is overfunctioning and has the desire to become more optimal functioning in their life AND in their relationship. In this episode • What is an overfunctioner, and what is the relational and psychological definition? • Where the roots of overfunctioning often begin. • The internal anxieties that come with overfunctioning and the unconscious coping behaviours to minimize and numb the feelings we can't be with. • Overfunctioners while high performers have traded being loved for being needed. • The disjointed relationship to needs, boundaries and emotional regulation that overfunctioners experience. • The overfunctioners hidden need for control hides a very deep vulnerability. • The covert manipulations that go on underneath the conscious awareness of an overfunctioner and the impact this has on relationship safety, intimacy and fulfillment. • Overfunctioners over reliance on the inner masculine and the rejection of minimization of the inner feminine. • Reclaiming surrender, emotional safety and interal autonomy as the pathway to healing. Ready to join our academy and receive your weekly dose of relational education ONLY available to academy members? Ya of course you do! Get in on that goodness HERE

Underfunctioning is 1/2 of the dysfunctional dance so many couple's find themselves in. In this week's Powercouple Game Time episode we're exploring the in's and outs of underfunctioning. As a recovering underfunctioner, Jamie is in the hot seat this week. Being interviewed by Kelsey, he generously gives the audience access into the experience of the underfunctioner as well as some solid action steps to begin healing this pattern if you're (or someone you know) is underfunctioning and has the desire to become more optimal functioning in their life AND in their relationship. In this episode • What is an underfunctioner, and what is the relational and psychological definition? • Where the roots of underfunctioning often begin. • The internal stresses that come with underfunctioning and the unconscious coping behaviours to minimize and numb the anxiety. • The relationship between competency and underfunctioning. • The passivity, conflict avoidance and wounding patterns at play with underfunctioners. • The imbalance of space in an underfunctioner dynamic. • How to heal underfunctioning through reparenting. • The role of discipline, challenge and backbone when it comes to moving towards more optimal functioning. Ready to join our academy and receive your weekly dose of relational education ONLY available to academy members? Ya of course you do! Get in on that goodness HERE Traver Boehm's article we referenced can be read HERE

So many dating disasters can often be boiled down to a lack of reparenting on both people's parts. Without learning to reparent ourselves, we'll continue to dump our unresolved debris on every new love story we walk into- so one might say this is mighty important. **In this week's episode we break it down: ** • What reparenting is. • Why reparenting is essential regurdless of your age, experience or how much "work" you've done. • Whatever was missed in early childhood healthy development is your demon childs biggest power play AND your key to liberation from your toddler tyrants tyranny. • Why reparenting is a challenge and the normalcy of resisting this work. • The revelation of our biggest areas of reparenting individually and how this impacts our relationship. • The drama in dating and it's direct links to a lack of reparenting. • Our top 10 tips to begin your reparenting journey. If you want even more love and relationship education be sure to join our school! Each week we send out exclusive newsletters, content, exercises and offerings to our inner circle community at The Legendary Love Academy. Join the community HERE

You can't begin a healthy relationship until you know how to end a relationship with grace, honour and respect. So many people simply don't know how to end a relationship from a place of love. But here is the deal, if you loved each other at the start, to truly honour the essence of love, it is important we bring love into the ending. Even when it hurts, even when you're in pain, we have the choice to act with honour and love. But this is a skill, one that is rarely modeled. In this week's episode we give you the step by step to creating a breakup plan TOGETHER and the importance of ending relationships with more respect, consideration and kindness. Show Notes • Why breakup plans are important and why many people avoid operating at this level of intentionality and practicality. • How a breakup plan contributes to more integrity, intentionality and safety for the entirety of your relationship. • The play by play of our breakup plan that we co-created at the start of our relationship and what it entails. • The 10 Steps to support your breakup agreement co-creation. ** If you want to receive more weekly relational education nuggets, exclusive challenges and practices and first access to any new programs, retreats, events and announcements, join our relational education academy, Legendary Love Academy HERE If you're going through heartbreak right now and want support in healing and repairing your broken heart, you can grab our Heal Your Heartbreak self-study program HERE

The Power Couple Threesome episode with Raphel Cano is not one to be missed. Not only is Raphel and incredibly talented artist, who graces this world with his love infused advocacy, but his brilliant light shines through in this fun, playful and gigglefilled episode. Show Notes • How regular body movement is directly correlated with confidence in dating. • What dating from a place of mind, body and soul alignment looks like. • When you have filtering googles of sexy authenticity on, how it expands positive dating experiences. • When you live in a culture that prioritizes physical attractiveness as the main vetting filter, how to let the soul take the wheel to experience more fulfillment and success. • How to support men in getting out of their heads and into their body and experience embodiment more often. • How clarity of intentions in dating shifts depending on where you live, culturally and where you are in your journey. • The differences between dating in ee centred dating vs me centered dating experiences. • How to dial back desire for a specific outcome and dial up the allowance for space to enjoy the experience of healthy human connection. • What's behind forcing misaligned connections and how we can allow more aligned connections space to thrive. • The difference between needy dating and committed based dating. Raphael's Bio: Raphael Cano is a Vibrant Love & Soul Divine Shine Activist with the intention of spreading love around the world through many different mediums. His work comes alive through his actions of painting love murals, gifting love stickers, love letters, love conversations via his podcast ‘Love Is Our Truth', and a self love & healing book coming out within the year. He began his journey with #loveisourtruth murals and has quickly become one of our favorite soul shine humans that is planting seeds of vibrant love around the world. His Self awakening, healing, and empowerment through divine shine is really helping people remind them of their divine shine and our collective ability to elevate both our consciousness as well as our communities! His smile says it all. Connect with Raphael: WEBSITE INSTAGRAM

There is a big difference between understanding the theory of repair and actually practicing it in real time. While most people understand the value of relational repair and conflict resolution, many are also ill equipped to navigate these challenging pockets when they come. In this week's episode we share with you a recent challenge we encountered as a couple, the breakdown that ensued, how our tyrant toddlers attempted to take over, how we soothed those inner demon children so we could come back to a place of repair, understanding and moving powerfully through a conflict that was deeply triggering for both of us. Show Notes • Our 8 step process from breakdown to repair. • Why taking time outs is healthy and how to do that without rupturing connection even when you're pissed at each other. • How to own your triggers, unpack them and bring them to the repair conversation from a place of accountability and commitment to do better in the future. • Why the quickest way to implode your relationship and delay/destroy repair is to fight over text. • How to communicate your needs and boundaries around repairing and restoring connection. • The importance of face-to-face communication, the use of "I" statements and the revelation of vulnerability and appreciation, during repair. • The future game-plan is the indicator the repair conversation is complete. Stay up to date with all the magic we're up to including our upcoming Relational Repair webinar by joining the email list at our school: www.legendaryloveacademy.com

Welcome back to the Power Couple Pre-Game! All about dating, in this new month we'll be exploring quality communication and in this episode we tackle texting. Love it or hate it, it's part of the dating scene these days. In this episode we explore how to use texting as an authentic expression of you and have a ton of fun in the process. Not only can texting be a fun and enjoyable process we made sure this is absolutely the funniest episode we've done to date, so you have fun learning too. Show Notes • What texting is meant for. • What texting is often misused for. • How to effectively vet someone via text so you stop wasting time on dead end dates. • Navigating lame ass "rules" about communication and texting early on and why authenticity is always going to be the winning strategy. • The 13 Texting Types- which one are you? Want to figure out your texting type (or figure out how to navigate someone who has a different style than you)? Well then you're going to want to download our EPIC FREEBIE download HERE Happy Texting Friends!

In this week's Power Couple Post-Game episode we explore the final episode on High Quality Character by diving into the emotionality of a breakup, finding joy again and accessing deeper layers of healing. ***Episode Notes: ** • Healing isn't linear, getting to joy isn't immediate, it is normal to experience highs and lows. • The difference between immediate gratification and pure soulful joy. • Dealing with the very real grief that reflects the loss of the connection. • Giving yourself permission to slow down, feel so you can heal. • Pacing heartbreak 101. • Why breakups bring up old undigested pain, and how to navigate these choppy waters. • When you can't "get over it" there is a deeper layer of healing you're being invited to face and explore. • Rehabing your heart after heartbreak. • The importance of allowing others to support you through your tender moments. • How to maintain your connection to joy while your heart is hurting and you're healing from the loss of a relationship. Need a little more support in healing your heartbreak? Access your Heal Your Heartbreak Program HERE To stay up to date on all the magic we're cooking up at the Legendary Love Academy, including our upcoming Love Legend Membership, new programs, freebie content and so much more you can join the community HERE

In this week's episode we're rocking a Power Couple Podcast Threesome with our amazing friend, colleague and all around bad-ass Amy Young. Show Notes • The importance of taking ownership over our dating and love lives. • Navigating the discomfort of coming into full bodied alignment with what it is you're looking for in another person. • Accountability and sex appeal. • Giving up our dating victimhood mentalities and showing up more fully for ourselves first. • Why follow through boosts the healthy relationship you have with you. • Our love of Will Smith's wisdom and how it plays into high quality dating. • The link between intimacy and imperfection. When we're obsessed with perfection in relationships and dating there is no room for true intimacy. • Why "seeing the good ones" has everything to do with what you're actually intent on seeing. • The difference between discernment and picky judgment. • Just because someone is a good human doesn't make them a good partner for you. Pay attention to the full picture. • Attention isn't love. How to move from needy to honoring our needs. Looking for more Amy? Find her on instagram HERE More on her work HERE More love and relationship goodness can be found at our academy: www.legendaryloveacademy.com

This week's episode Power Couple Game Time (all about relationships) explores the inner workings of healthy relationships and the high quality character required to make them run smooth. Show Notes • The signs of low quality character to be on the look out for (in yourself and in others). • What happens when your toddler tyrant hijacks your relationship and how to regain control of the relational steering wheel. • The top signs of high quality character to strive to embody within your relationship. • Why mismanaging threats to your relationship is a sign of low quality character and how to protect the health of your dynamic duo. • The physical and relational benefits of developing high quality character. • A real life look into our relationship and how we navigate those times when we've been triggered and we co-regulate back to a state of alignment. • Why having guiding principals and agreements you co-create is critical to have a container of mutual growth, healthy connection and emotional attunement. • The inside scoop on your inner child and how to develop a special couple "code" to keep your connection vibrant, safe and protected. HERE is the link to download the FREE guide book to

New 4-week series theme starts today! This next month is focused on High Quality Character. In this week's Power Couple Pre-Game (Dating) we're exploring the critical piece to unlock success in dating! Show Notes • The absolute MOST important quality to look for when you're in the dating pool. • The role emotional safety, emotional availability, accountability and reliability play when it comes to vetting potential new loves. • The 20 High Quality Characteristics to keep an eye out for. • The ins and outs of testing for high quality character when you're dating someone new. • The inside scoop to fine tuning and refining your character to make you undeniable to the most aligned people. • The hidden blindspot that could be hijacking your high quality character and how to turn that blindspot into an asset. To grab a copy of the high quality characteristics and some bonus materials click HERE Work with Kelsey HERE Work with Jamie HERE To sign up for the next round of our Confident Dating Program waitlist HERE

Breakups are tough, and they are especially difficult when it comes to staying in alignment with ourselves. Show Notes: • Why when in heartbreak the rejection we experience can trigger deeper self-rejection- which only amplifies the pain and heartache we feel. • How to stop the self-abandonment and self-rejection in heartbreak. • How you can honor your hurt, honor your pain without losing yourself in it. • What alignment in a breakup really means. • Kicking the glamorization of the relationship and connecting to the reality of the situation. • How to continue to act congruently with the love dream in your heart. Keeping it together in our compassionate self-alignment when you're falling apart is an art that true love asks of us, and we're here to show you how it's done. To download the journaling questions HERE Need some support in navigating your heartbreak? Want to heal your heart properly and process the ending in a way that keeps you on the path to true love? Our Heal Your Heartbreak course is your access through. Get it HERE For more love support head on over to the Legendary Love Academy HERE Work With Jamie HERE Work With Kelsey HERE

In this first Power-Couple Double date we have our dear friends, and real-life power couple Kylie McBeath and Mark Groves on to have a dinner table chat about alignment, true love, what it takes to make partnership work and an inside look into the heart of their relationship. Show Notes • Is true love recognition of yourself in another? • The importance of co-creation in healthy partnership. • The link between freedom and true love...it's not what you might think. • The importance of alignment when co-creating a true love partnership. • Real life relationship boundaries, the cues partners are tuned into, connection to self-care routines that keep love thriving. • The import role sisterhood/brotherhood plays in breaking though relational upperlimits. • What creates emotional safety and security within both people. • Low negativity threshold/dealing with conflict as a gateway to deeper relational expansion. • Power couples depend and rely on one another, while still staying in their respective lanes. • True love and the revelation of imperfections. Low negativity threshold/dealing with conflict as a gateway to deeper relational expansion. • Power couples depend and rely on one another, while still staying in their respective lanes. • True love and the revelation of imperfections. • Re-parenting in partnership. • The unique gifts they have given to one another within the container of their partnership. More of Kylie's magic can be found HERE Kylie's Instagram: @beingisbeautiful More of Mark's magic can be found HERE Mark's Instagram: @createthelove

In this week's episode we explore the nuances of moving towards the "you complement me" model of relating from the out dated and dysfunctional "you complete me" model of relating. **Show Notes: ** • Why alignment matters in keeping a relationship healthy and thriving • Chameleon clinging vs owning your authentic expression • Alignment helps you to avoid "project" relationships • Alignment helps to expand your capacity to navigate conflict more effectively • How to maintain your personal alignment while in a relationship • Alignment is about harmony and complementary energies, skill-sets and strengths • How to get on the same team in your relationship • Guarding against unhealthy power dynamics in your relationship • Alignment is the secret key to expanding your "enoughness" in love • Common protest behaviours that signal being out of sync and out of alignment with our partners **Want to work with us? ** We're opening two couple's session spots! We'll be selecting two couples who are committed to generating aligned partnership and doing an exclusive couples session (90mins) to help them design their relationship on purpose. Offer expires May 31st. Apply HERE Check out our school: legendaryloveacademy.com for the Build-a-Bae: Visioning for Alignment not Infatuation (online self-study class) $29

We hear this all the time "where are the good guys at?" "where are the good women at? "where are the good PEOPLE at?" And we get you, it can be a gnarly crapshoot out in the world of dating these days. So, we're here to help you cut through the crap so you can enter into the VIP dating space where ALL the GOOD ONES are hanging out, ready to create something EPIC with someone EPIC! In the show we cover: • What living in alignment actually means. • Creating a life that feels good to YOU to be in first • Generating alignment in dating • Ditching the negativity and finding value in every date you go on • How to build the BEST Dating Filter • The importance of pre-date rituals Confident Dating Program Registration: HERE Build-a-Bae Virtual Workshop Registration: HERE

Episode Breakdown: • The initial boundaries you need post breakup • How to ensure your friends and family don't unintentionally make your healing process harder. • Navigating social media after a breakup • Why boundaries are harder after a breakup and how to make that process a little easier on your aching heart. • The 10 Breakup Boundary Commandments all healing hearts need to heal properly and stay open to the dream of love in their hearts. • How to source out additional support for your emotional healing. To download your copy of the 10 Breakup Boundary Commandments click HERE For additional support in healing your heartbreak properly, our Heal Your Heartbreak Program can be found HERE

The health of a relationship is reflected in a couple's ability to say no to one another respectfully, honour one another's no's and communicate these boundaries clearly, cleanly from a place of connection. It takes some practice and in this week's show we show you how it's done! In this episode we cover: • What tends to get in the way of people saying no and being honest about what is a no for them. • The link between saying no and increasing adoration and respect in your relationship. • How to say no in a way that INVITES more connection. • Why saying no creates more safety and security in your love life and how it's the hidden piece to long term success. • What to expect when you start saying no when you've "trained" people you're a yes person. • How to overcome any challenges to building your no habit. • 8 different boundaries you need to be aware of for relational success. Show PDF's: Boundaries and Saying No Scripts HERE Join our FREE 5 Day, Date Your Soulmate Challenge HERE Find us on instagram: @thelegendaryloveacademy @radicalselflove @jamie.n.rea

In episode 2 we dive into: • The benefits of setting boundaries in your relationship. • Why a lot of couples avoid setting boundaries. • Why many couples bomb at setting boundaries and how you can avoid these common pitfalls. • Why context to your boundaries is key. • Practical takeaways: getting to know your personal and relational needs, self-care + love bombing your partnership to set the tone for boundary badassery To download your copy of the Couple's Guide to Setting Boundaries click HERE To get on the list for our 5 Day Date Your Soulmate Challenge + information on the Confident Dating Program HERE

In this week's debut we dive into the fundamentals of: • What are boundaries and how to have clear and powerful boundaries with yourself. • The 5 essential boundaries you need to have when dating (if you are dating for the long-term/partnership). • How to strengthen your dating boundaries. • Better boundaries with yourself 101. • How to practice your boundaries on your friends. • Your practical implementation exercises for better personal and dating boundaries. Access to our upcoming Confident Dating 6 Week Virtual Group Coaching Program kicks off with our free dating challenge. For more details email us at @rsl@kelseygrant.com