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What separates a good manager from a great leader—and why does it matter for your career? The important difference between these two mindsets is often overlooked, but recognizing and honing a leadership approach can help land you the promotion, raise, or amazing new job you deserve.In this episode, I share three key dimensions where making the shift from a management to a leadership mindset really lets you shine. Through practical examples and workplace scenarios, I explore how leadership isn't about abandoning managerial skills and their inherent structure—it's about thinking more broadly, connecting more deeply, and pushing for change when it counts. From writing memos to preparing a presentation, anyone can start zooming out, questioning the status quo, and influencing outcomes at a higher level.Think big-picture with these little mindset shifts:The difference between being task-focused and people-focused;The benefits of shifting from execution to innovation;What it means to do the right thing, not just do things right;How to sharpen your leadership mentality in any situation.Related Links:Stanford Advancement of Women in Medicine - https://drive.google.com/file/d/19mNpvWVeiD6yWSZMf42deJqjvZoVqJKj/viewLeadership Development and DEI Training for Teams - https://www.bossedup.org/forteamsHerminia Ibarra on Women and Vision - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZBYTlKnLSMk&t=249sEpisode 308, How Women Leaders Can Win in Male-Dominated Workplaces - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode308Episode 344, What Confidence Really Is and How to Cultivate It - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode344Episode 356, How to Think Like a Leader Rather Than a Manager - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode356LEVEL UP: a Leadership Accelerator for Women on the Rise - https://www.bossedup.org/levelupBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

What can you or your organization do to make the workplace more inclusive for people with autism?Recently, RFK Jr., the U.S. Secretary of Health and Human Services, attracted considerable criticism following his disparagingly blanket statements about people with autism. Many people in the autism community lead fulfilling lives full of love, joy, and productive work—despite the hapless and hopeless depiction of this population that RFK shared. This is an excellent moment to draw attention to my conversation with Amanda Kelly, the president and CEO of Firefly Autism and one of the founders of the groundbreaking Colorado Neurodiversity Chamber of Commerce (CNDCC). It's impossible not to look at our growing talent shortage in this country and ask: why aren't we hiring neurodivergent and autistic people? In this episode, Amanda dives into how we can all make our workplaces more welcoming for neurodivergent individuals, who make up one-fifth of our population. Whether you're neurodiverse or neurotypical, Amanda's jaw-dropping stats and pursuit of equity will inspire you:Learn about the shocking lack of career resources for autistic adults;Discover how organizations can make their workplaces more inclusive, for neurodivergent people and beyond;Break down the ongoing issues of neurodiversity and inequities in diagnosis; Understand the unique gender component of autism and its impacts.Related Links:Firefly Autism - https://fireflyautism.org/Colorado Neurodiversity Chamber of Commerce - https://www.cndcc.org/Connect with Amanda on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/amanda-d-kelly-d-psych-2b5957a0/RFK Jr., “Autism destroys families” - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KPxTnX1sgJc“Addressing the ‘Cliff' for Adults With Autism Spectrum Disorder” - https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/33539916/NYT, “The Dangerous Race to Put More Children to Work” - https://www.nytimes.com/2023/03/24/opinion/editorials/arkansas-child-labor.htmlAutism Recovery Network, “Why Is the Autistic Unemployment Rate So High?” - https://autismrecovery.sg/why-is-the-autistic-unemployment-rate-so-high/Episode 390, How to Manage ADHD in the Workplace - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode390TAKE ACTION with Bossed Up - https://www.bossedup.org/takeactionBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

How could the SAVE Act send us tumbling back to the Suffragette era? This bill that's pending review in the Senate could jeopardize voting access for up to 69 million American women. It would require all voters to prove citizenship with a passport or birth certificate in order to register to vote, which is a big problem for anyone who's name has changed since birth—including through marriage—as well as anyone who doesn't have easy access to such documentation.In this episode, I take a closer look at whether the concern from women and voter rights activists across the country is legitimate or overblown. Spoiler alert: it's worse than I imagined.Make sure you're in the know about this major threat, including:The specifics of the SAVE Act;The challenges that make this legislation so alarming to women's and voter rights activists;How you can make your voice heard to prevent this bill from becoming law.Related Links:5 Calls, “Oppose the SAVE Act (H.R. 22) - A Voter Suppression Bill - Passed House” - https://5calls.org/issue/save-act-voter-suppression/Congress.Gov, Find Your Members - https://www.congress.gov/members/find-your-memberRead the Safeguard American Voter Eligibility Act - https://www.congress.gov/bill/119th-congress/house-bill/22Politico, “The House Passed the SAVE Act. What Comes Next?” - https://www.politico.com/newsletters/weekly-score/2025/04/14/the-house-passed-the-save-act-what-comes-next-00288458CAP, “The SAVE Act Would Disenfranchise Millions of Citizens” - https://www.americanprogress.org/article/the-save-act-would-disenfranchise-millions-of-citizens/YouGov, “Adults under 30 are more likely than older Americans to have a current U.S. passport” - https://today.yougov.com/travel/articles/46028-adults-under-30-more-likely-have-us-passportNPR, “Will the SAVE Act make it harder for married women to vote? We ask legal experts” - https://www.npr.org/2025/04/13/g-s1-59684/save-act-married-women-vote-rights-explainedCAWP, “Gender Gap: Voting Choices in Presidential Elections” - https://cawp.rutgers.edu/gender-gap-voting-choices-presidential-electionsKaroline Leavitt Defends GOP's SAVE Act Amid Uproar - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jZ_qkZdiBgkDemocratic Women's Caucus, Maxine Dexter discusses her amendment -  https://www.instagram.com/reel/DICD8rhRjEQ/TAKE ACTION with Bossed Up - https://www.bossedup.org/takeactionBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

How do you deal with feelings of betrayal and resentment in the workplace?Chances are, you have experienced hurt feelings at work. The problem is, much of the corporate world revolves around the idea that the office and boardroom are no place for feelings. So, what do you do when emotional wounds begin to impact your ability to even carry out your job?Tara Mohr has thought long and hard about this question. The author of Playing Big: Practical Wisdom for Women Who Want to Speak Up, Create, and Lead acknowledges that office tension can deeply affect our well-being. She joins me to delve into what her research and years of coaching have revealed about the best way to address hurt feelings honestly and professionally, so you can continue to cultivate holistic satisfaction in your work life and beyond.Discover how to navigate hurt feelings at work mindfully, including:How to accept the reality of hurt feelings, even in the workplace;The four-step framework Tara uses to help her clients address their sense of betrayal or hurt at work;Why we need to deal with hurt feelings before making significant career changes.Related Links:Download Tara's F.O.U.R. Process journaling worksheet - https://www.taramohr.com/four-process/Learn more about Tara and her work - https://www.taramohr.comConnect with Tara - https://www.linkedin.com/in/tarasmohr/Buy Playing Big: Practical Wisdom for Women Who Want to Speak Up, Create, and Lead - https://www.taramohr.com/the-playing-big-book/Permission To Feel: The Power of Emotional Intelligence to Achieve Well-Being and Success by Marc Brackett - https://bookshop.org/p/books/permission-to-feel-unlocking-the-power-of-emotions-to-help-our-kids-ourselves-and-our-society-thrive-marc-brackett/9879244?ean=9781250212832&next=tRadical Candor by Kim Scott - https://bookshop.org/p/books/radical-candor-be-a-kick-ass-boss-without-losing-your-humanity-kim-scott/8486942?ean=9781250235374&next=tEpisode 30, Coping with Your Inner Critic: https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode30Episode 323: How to Lead with Emotional Intelligence - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode323  Episode 394, How to Recover from Workplace Bullying -  https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode394LEVEL UP: a Leadership Accelerator for Women on the Rise - https://www.bossedup.org/levelupBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

How might public policy positively impact our drastically declining birth rate?President Trump has suggested that all new parents receive a one-time $5,000 payout in the hopes of encouraging people to have more children. You likely had some kind of strong reaction to this statement. Whether that was surprise at a Republican recommending a social support, concern about forcing people to have more kids, or annoyance at how insignificant an amount is on the table—you're definitely not alone. It's clear that people are having fewer babies these days. But it's the reasons behind this fact that are sometimes in question and need to be addressed. In this episode, I take a closer look at, and share my thoughts on, how policy has—and potentially could—impact plummeting birth rates in the U.S. and beyond. Consider the interplay between public policy and early childhood care, including:The statistical divide between how many kids women want and how many they're having;The glaring problems that get in the way of having children in today's economy;The family-friendly policies we've seen proposed, passed, and tabled til now;How far we need to take these initiatives if we want to reverse the birth rate decline.Related Links:Episode 479, America's Parents Are Not Okay - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode479Episode 489, How the Cost of Childcare Has Become a Workforce Issue - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode489Episode 495, New Prenatal Leave Law Benefits Pregnant Workers in New York - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode495Episode 451, The Impact of Return-To-Office Mandates on Working Moms - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode451Senior Living News, Help Address the Population's ‘Inverted Pyramid' - https://www.seniorlivingnews.com/help-address-the-populations-inverted-pyramid/New York Times, American Women Are Having Fewer Children Than They'd Like - https://www.nytimes.com/2018/02/13/upshot/american-fertility-is-falling-short-of-what-women-want.htmlNew York Times, Stay-at-Home Parents Work Hard. Should They Be Paid? - https://www.nytimes.com/2019/10/03/upshot/paying-for-parenting.htmlNew York Times, An Interview with Andrew Yang - https://www.nytimes.com/2019/09/12/podcasts/the-daily/andrew-yang-democratic-debate.htmlAbby Care, Get Paid to Care for Your Family in Colorado - https://www.abbycare.org/blog/get-paid-to-care-for-your-family-in-coloradoPopulation and Development Review, The Gender Revolution: A Framework for Understanding Changing Family and Demographic Behavior - https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1728-4457.2015.00045.xCompact Magazine, The Failure of Feminist Natalism by Darel E. Paul - https://www.compactmag.com/article/the-failure-of-feminist-natalism/TAKE ACTION with Bossed Up - https://www.bossedup.org/takeactionBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

Were the 1990s really the “girl power” era of women's empowerment we remember?If you were “coming of age” or raising young girls 30 years ago, you probably remember the tumult of scantily clad celebs and brand-backed messaging ostensibly celebrating women's empowerment. Sophie Gilbert, an author and The Atlantic staff writer, dives into just how empowering this period really was in her new book, Girl on Girl: How Pop Culture Turned a Generation of Women Against Themselves, which drops today.On today's episode, Sophie leads us through her lightbulb moments and research for the book, exploring the social messaging that planted some pretty problematic ideas in the minds of young and teenage girls and people of all genders. This is an important history to examine, as is the question of how we avoid the same missteps in the future.Start talking about the real past and critical future of feminism, including: How we were fooled into believing sexual power was the only kind we could possess;Why the goal of commercial feminism changed so drastically from the early to the late 90s;How we can start to claim the power we deserve (even when it feels like we don't have the time).Related Links:Order your copy of “Girl on Girl: How Pop Culture Turned a Generation of Women Against Themselves” - https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/738003/girl-on-girl-by-sophie-gilbert/Learn more about Sophie's work - https://www.theatlantic.com/author/sophie-gilbert/Follow Sophie on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sophiegilbertwrites/“Becoming the Third Wave” by Rebecca Walker - http://www.tonahangen.com/wsc/hi215/wp-content/uploads/2014/02/RW3rdWave-2.pdf“The End of Men” by Hanna Rosin - https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-end-of-men-and-the-rise-of-women-hanna-rosin/15539438“Backlash: The Undeclared War Against American Women” by Susan Faludi - https://bookshop.org/p/books/backlash-the-undeclared-war-against-american-women-susan-faludi/8728966“The Power” by Naomi Alderman -  https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-power-naomi-alderman/114254“Holding It Together: How Women Became America's Safety Net” by Jessica Calarco - https://bookshop.org/p/books/holding-it-together-how-women-became-america-s-social-safety-net-jessica-calarco/20583065TAKE ACTION with Bossed Up - https://www.bossedup.org/takeactionBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

How do you leverage your public sector experience to pivot into the private sector?More than 216,000 government employees were laid off last month. If you or someone you love was impacted, today's episode is for you. If you're ready to shift into the private sector rather than dive back into public service, press play now. Trust me: the transition isn't as daunting as it feels.Launch your job search with confidence with today's practical tips, including:Why you're not seeing your public sector skills in private sector job postings;How to emphasize your transferable skills so they shine;Why you shouldn't gloss over your public sector past;What to keep and what to pull for your private sector resume.Related Links:FREE Masterclass: How to Confidently Communicate Your Skills in the Job Search - https://www.bossedup.org/free-job-search-masterclassEpisode 501, “4 Best Practices to Navigate Layoff Anxiety & Uncertainty” - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode501Episode 239, “How to Format Your Resume for the Modern Job Search” - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode239Episode 391, “Four Resume Rules That No Longer Apply” - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode391Reuters, US announced job cuts surge in March on Doge hit, recruitment firm Challenger says - https://www.reuters.com/markets/us/us-announced-job-cuts-surge-march-doge-hit-recruitment-firm-challenger-says-2025-04-03/HIRED: our Job Search Accelerator - https://www.bossedup.org/gethiredBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

What happens when your career becomes your whole identity?Passion for our careers can drive us to achieve great things. But a laser focus on the job can become the only thing in our lives, edging out the personal goals, hobbies, and relationships that make us well-rounded human beings. My guest today, psychologist Dr. Janna Koretz, founded Azimuth Psychological to help individuals in high-pressure positions who experience career enmeshment: the complete entrenchment of their identities in their work. Dr. Koretz and I discuss the potential pitfalls of living for work and how recognizing and aligning with our values serves as a compass to help us remain passionate and committed without losing ourselves to our careers.Dive into Dr. Koretz's insightful take on career enmeshment, including:When single-minded passion for your work becomes problematic;What happens to your identity when your one-and-only focus is forced to shift;The inextricable interplay between values alignment and a satisfying career;Free tools that will help you name your values and start applying them purposefully.Related Links:Harvard Business Review, “What Happens When Your Career Becomes Your Whole Identity” by Dr. Janna Koretz - https://hbr.org/2019/12/what-happens-when-your-career-becomes-your-whole-identityHarvard Business Review, “New Mothers, Let's Talk About Your Professional Identity Crisis” by Dr. Janna Koretz - https://hbr.org/2020/08/new-mothers-lets-talk-about-professional-identity-crisisOSHA, Workplace Stress - https://www.osha.gov/workplace-stress“Working Identity” by Herminia Ibarra - https://bookshop.org/p/books/working-identity-unconventional-strategies-for-reinventing-your-career-revised-herminia-ibarra/10709209Connect with Dr. Janna Koretz - https://www.linkedin.com/in/drkoretz/Connect with Azimuth on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/azimuth_psychDownload Azimuth's mindful journaling app - https://azimuthpsych.com/clearlyTake Dr. Koretz's Values Navigator quiz - https://azimuthpsych.com/values-navigatorTake the Career Enmeshment Test - https://azimuthpsych.com/career-enmeshment-testLEVEL UP: a Leadership Accelerator for Women on the Rise - https://www.bossedup.org/levelupBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

How do you manage the stress of looming layoffs? Last month, layoffs across the U.S. rose an astonishing 205% compared to March of last year, for a total of 275,240 job cuts. Stats like these mean layoffs are top of mind for many people these days. You might be finding yourself in limbo right now, wondering if you're next on the list to receive a pink slip. There's no question that a concern like that is a major contributor to our overall stress and mental health. The psychological and emotional impact that comes with layoffs is huge, so today, I'm resharing a 2022 episode updated for 2025 with practical strategies for how to address the overall worry that your job is next on the chopping block.Keep your head on straight in this endlessly swerving era with concrete action steps, includingWhy planning ahead beats burying your head in the sand;The vital importance of prioritizing your mental health;How phoning a friend will help keep your feet on the ground;What your past resilience can teach you about your situation right now.Related Links:Episode 68, I Got Fired—Help! - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode68Episode 402, How to Financially Prepare for Layoffs - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode402Episode 457, How to Explain Your Layoff in a Job Interview - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode457Episode 500, How to Stand Out in a Competitive Job Market - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode500Working Identity: Unconventional Strategies for Reinventing Your Career by Herminia Ibarra - https://herminiaibarra.com/working-identity-book/Reuters, US announced job cuts surge in March on Doge hit, recruitment firm Challenger says - https://www.reuters.com/markets/us/us-announced-job-cuts-surge-march-doge-hit-recruitment-firm-challenger-says-2025-04-03/CNBC, U.S. payrolls rose by 228,000 in March, but unemployment rate increases to 4.2% - https://www.cnbc.com/2025/04/04/jobs-report-march-2025-.htmlHIRED: our Job Search Accelerator - https://www.bossedup.org/gethiredBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

Job searching in the current “white collar recession” can be truly daunting. Today, I'm joined by Dr. Kyle Elliott, a career coach and mental health expert who helps people “own their fabulousness” and elevate their careers. We cover some of our favorite tactics for focusing on what you can control during this tumultuous time so you can propel yourself into the next job opportunity without losing hope. Level up your search with Kyle's actionable strategies to land your next job:Why it's no longer enough to be qualified for a job;The drawbacks of the buckshot approach to job applications;What the right amount of resume and cover letter tailoring looks like;How to tactically approach your networking for real results.Related Links:S&P Global, Layoffs surge in US white collar jobs as rates, AI alter office work - https://www.spglobal.com/market-intelligence/en/news-insights/articles/2024/11/layoffs-surge-in-us-white-collar-jobs-as-rates-ai-alter-office-work-85986794Business Insider, Americans with a college degree say they'd need at least a $100K salary to change jobs. But roles that pay in that range are getting harder to find - https://www.businessinsider.com/100k-salary-jobs-hard-find-americans-with-college-degrees-2024-5Reuters, US job openings decline as labor market steadily slows - https://www.reuters.com/markets/us/us-job-openings-fall-sharply-december-layoffs-low-2025-02-04/Episode 453, Prioritizing Your Job Search While Holding Down a Full-Time Job - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode453Episode 452, Redefining Success: Women and the Fight for a Fair Economy - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode452Episode 455, How to Create a Sustainable Job Search Schedule When You're Unemployed - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode455Episode 449, Your Cover Letter is Better With Bullet Points - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode449Kyle Elliott Consulting - https://caffeinatedkyle.com/Connect with Kyle on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/kylecromerelliott/HIRED: A Job Search Accelerator to Land Your Dream Job - https://www.bossedup.org/gethiredBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

What can your workplace do to celebrate holidays like Women's History Month the “right” way? Whether you're proud of how your organization shows support for marginalized groups in the workplace or feel like it could be doing more, my conversation with DEI educator and Ampersand Workspace founder Veronique Porter is just as (if not more) relevant today as when it first aired in May of 2023. Veronique shares what her experience as a Black American woman, her education in international development and American studies and culture, and her work as a facilitator has taught her about the best way to approach this often fraught topic—a way to create company events and initiatives for heritage holidays that uphold both company and employee values and stand to make a real difference.Learn how your organization can host outstanding and inclusive cultural events:Why workplace wokeness doesn't detract from the financial bottom line (and actually does the opposite);The significance of spending money and resources on heritage events;Why it's vital to give every employee the chance to get involved;The importance of getting clear on the company's values before diving in.Related Links:McKinsey: These Women Experience the Highest Levels of Microaggressions - https://www.mckinsey.com/featured-insights/sustainable-inclusive-growth/chart-of-the-day/these-women-experience-the-highest-levels-of-workplace-microaggressionsNew York Times, “Google Calendar Deletes Women's History Month and Other Cultural Events” - https://www.nytimes.com/2025/02/12/technology/google-black-history-womens-history.htmlThe Art of Gathering by Priya Parker - https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-art-of-gathering-how-we-meet-and-why-it-matters-priya-parker/588739?ean=9781594634932&next=tThe Bossed Up Sports Reference case study - https://www.bossedup.org/forteamsMorgan Freeman on why he doesn't want a 'Black History Month' - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MpnpIhqSLtoEpisode 304, White Fragility, White Women's Tears, and Dismantling White Supremacy - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode304Connect with Veronique Porter on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/veroniqueporter/Learn more about Ampersand Workspace - https://ampersand-workspace.com/LEVEL UP: a Leadership Accelerator for Women on the Rise - https://www.bossedup.org/levelupBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

How can you reclaim your power in a job that's just “good enough”?It turns out The Perfect Job isn't nearly as common as the LinkedIn posts would have us believe. Most of us spend our working hours in a job that's okay but far from perfect. The good news is that you can thrive in a just-okay career if you embrace the art of “leading yourself.” In this episode, I sit down with Elizabeth Lotardo to talk about this very concept, which doubles as the title of her new book, Leading Yourself. Elizabeth has spent years helping people at all different stages of their careers discover the potential that awaits when they stop pursuing perfection and begin taking charge of the job they're already in.Learn to maximize the job you already have by uncovering:The reason we feel like we're failing if we aren't holding out for the perfect job;Why it can be empowering to “give up on the dream” of getting a paycheck from our passionHow small changes in your day-to-day can make a huge difference;And when you might need to phone it in before you fall apart.Related Links:Leading Yourself: Find More Joy, Meaning, and Opportunities in the Job You Already Have (Despite Imperfect Bosses, Weird Economies, Lethargic Coworkers, Annoying Systems, and Too Many Deliverables) - https://bookshop.org/p/books/leading-yourself-elizabeth-lotardo/20999467?ean=9781394238705&next=tElizabeth's website - https://www.elizabethlotardo.com/Follow Elizabeth on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/elizabethlotardoDrop the Ball: Achieving More by Doing Less by Tiffany Dufu - https://bookshop.org/p/books/drop-the-ball-achieving-more-by-doing-less-tiffany-dufu/8440970LEVEL UP: a Leadership Accelerator for Women on the Rise - https://www.bossedup.org/levelupBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

Feel like you're the only one keeping your friendships going? Recently, I received a letter from a listener about an extremely relatable issue: how to build or rebuild stronger friendships when it seems to be increasingly difficult to do so.You've probably experienced some shifts in friend frequency and intensity throughout your adult years. Making plans and finding the right people to share platonic relationships with gets harder as our priorities shift and our lives get more hectic. In this episode, I explore some of the ways I've dealt with this increasingly common and publicized problem myself.Spark some hope with these actionable approaches to fixing your friendships:Identify exactly what's missing from your relationships;Normalize and ritualize casual hosting;Keep resentment from curbing your call for companions.Related Links:I'm Starting to Think You Guys Don't Really Want a “Village” on Slate - https://slate.com/life/2024/11/parenting-advice-friends-loneliness-village.htmlStuff Mom Never Told You, Can We Be Friends? - https://www.iheart.com/podcast/105-stuff-mom-never-told-you-21123631/episode/can-we-be-friends-30231271/Americans Need to Party More on The Atlantic - https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2025/01/throw-more-parties-loneliness/681203/Bossed Up Episode 479: America's Parents Are Not Okay - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode479TAKE ACTION with Bossed Up - https://www.bossedup.org/takeactionBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

How do you get what you need from the people in charge?It's not just people managers who need to be good at influencing conversations; anyone who interacts with a supervisor or even a more dominant personality benefits from learning how to manage up. That's what I'm covering today with Melody Wilding, the author of a new book, “Managing Up: How to Get What You Need From the People in Charge.”The book combines Melody's work in emotion research and therapy with her professional development experience to teach everyone—from the new hire to the department director—how to communicate with confidence and comprehensive understanding, regardless of how different their and their boss's communication styles might be. Improving this skill set has huge positive effects on not just how we rise at work but also how much we enjoy our time there.Hear Melody's insights to expertly manage your workplace conversations, including:Why you need to get into your boss's head;How to set boundaries that ensure your time and expertise are respected; How to plant the seed for your next promotion;Where assertive communication and advocacy at work overlap.Related Links:Order “Managing Up: How to Get What You Need From the People in Charge” - https://melodywilding.com/managingup/Melody's website - https://melodywilding.com/Episode 218, “Managing Your Inner Critic” - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode218SPEAK UP: An Assertive Leadership Course for Women in the Workplace  - https://www.bossedup.org/speakupBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

You've heard of paid family leave—but what about paid prenatal leave? Today's episode highlights good news for women, workers, and families in the Empire State. As of January 1, 2025, New York enacted a first-of-its-kind new benefit that provides 20 hours of paid prenatal leave benefits to all pregnant private-sector workers.Learn more about this groundbreaking new law and what it could mean for the rest of us:What rights pregnant New York workers are now entitled to;How this benefit came to pass in the New York State House;And how we might advocate for similar legislation nationwide. Related Links:Episode 414, New Rights for Pregnant Workers - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode414Episode 311, How to Talk About Marital Status, Parental Status, and Pregnancy in the Interview - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode311Episode 494, Matrescence and the Transformation of Motherhood - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode494TAKE ACTION with Bossed Up - https://www.bossedup.org/takeactionBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

What do you know about matrescence? Most people will agree that everything changes with parenthood, and that's what this term covers: the process of becoming a mother. Yet, despite shared private understanding and a large body of recent research on all the physiological and mental effects, many policies and medical processes continue to ignore what mothers have always known.Lucy Jones is a journalist and the author of Matrescene: On The Metamorphosis of Pregnancy, Childbirth, and Motherhood. In this episode, we delve into what's lacking in support for matrescence and why, and how ongoing research, policy changes, and sharing information through resources like Lucy's book can help change the conversation. Whether you're already a mother, are considering becoming one, or support one in any way, Lucy's insights will be enlightening and empowering.Discover the details of matrescence and why we need to talk more about it:The origins and importance of having a word for this universal, natural experience;The impact of not having enough information in the early months and years of parenthood;The permanent changes the brain goes through during this period;The social disconnect between the expectation to give birth and the lack of support.Related Links:Matrescence: On Pregnancy, Childbirth, and Motherhood by Lucy Jones - https://bookshop.org/p/books/matrescence-on-the-mind-body-spirit-transformations-of-pregnancy-childbirth-and-motherhood-lucy-jones/20398692Lucy's website - https://lucyfjones.com/Discover all of Lucy's books: https://lucyfjones.com/books/Lucy on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/lucyfjones/Episode 333, An Honest Look Into Motherhood and Health - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode333Episode 488, Talking Menopause at Work - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode488Pregnancy leads to long-lasting changes in human brain structure, Nature Neuroscience - https://www.nature.com/articles/nn.4458The Birth Of A Mother by Alexandra Sacks - https://www.nytimes.com/2017/05/08/well/family/the-birth-of-a-mother.htmlOf Woman Born: Motherhood as Experience and Institution by Adrienne Rich - https://bookshop.org/p/books/of-woman-born-motherhood-as-experience-and-institution-adrienne-rich/8794956?ean=9780393541427LEVEL UP: a Leadership Accelerator for Women on the Rise - https://www.bossedup.org/levelupBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

Today's episode marks my return from maternity leave, and a lot has happened in the world since I was last behind the mic! I'm kicking off my return with a recap of the past few months and sharing my future vision for the Bossed Up podcast.Tune in to hear my thoughts on election 2024,  transitioning from one child to two, and how the many hats I wear will impact the conversations we cover here in the coming months.Tune in for some hot takes, reflections, and my vision for the future, including:Two observations that stuck out to me most during this campaign cycle;How becoming a “girl mom” has impacted my mindset;And a few experiments I'll be exploring with the podcast this year.Related Links:Episode 479: America's Parents Are Not Okay - http://bossedup.org/episode479Episode 477: The Impact of State Abortion Bans on HR Politics - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode477Episode 469: Surprising Trends Impacting Women At Work - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode469Episode 463: A Different Approach To My Second Maternity Leave - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode463Boy Mom: Reimagining Boyhood In The Age of Impossible Masculinity by Ruth Whippman - https://bookshop.org/p/books/boymom-reimagining-boyhood-in-the-age-of-impossible-masculinity-ruth-whippman/20583177?ean=9780593577639&next=t&next=tNYT: Masculinity is on the Ballot https://www.nytimes.com/2024/08/17/opinion/masculinity-liberal-conservative.htmlWTF Podcast with Marc Maron - https://www.wtfpod.com/podcastTAKE ACTION with Bossed Up - https://www.bossedup.org/takeactionBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

How can positive psychology help curb burnout? We're a bunch of overachievers here in the Bossed Up community, and burnout is a pretty common thread between us. Burnout is painful, frustrating, and—as my guest on this episode explains—more avoidable than we might think if we're willing to work on “working happier.”Stella Grizont was named the world's leading happiness expert by TIME Magazine. She uses her master's in Applied Positive Psychology to help leaders find career fulfillment and organizations engage their employees more deeply. We discuss her recent book and how her approach can help you help yourself, leading to more enjoyment in work and in life.Embrace Stella's thoughtful approach to positive psychology by uncovering:The impact of negativity bias and a play mindset when navigating uncertainty;How to practice self-compassion when waffling between anxiety and excitement;Learned optimism and the three Ps that can help you cultivate a brighter outlook;Why we should focus on “What do I want to be?” before “What do I want to do?”Related Links:The Work Happiness Method: Master the 8 Skills of Career Fulfillment - https://www.stellagrizont.com/work-happiness-method-bookDownload the Vision Generator - https://stellagrizont.mykajabi.com/visiongeneratorSign up for Stella's newsletter on her website - https://www.stellagrizont.com/Connect with Stella on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/stella-grizont-a4b7792/Connect with Stella on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/stellagrizont/Oprah speaks to finding your vision - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XfrOcfc8zNsLEVEL UP: a Leadership Accelerator for Women on the Rise - https://www.bossedup.org/levelupBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

When did you first experience imposter syndrome? So many people resonate with feeling like frauds who sweet-talked their way into their positions and could be found out, socially ostracized, and fired at any moment. Imposter syndrome or impostorism is often seen as a women's issue, and I am always quick to stress this isn't the case—it's a human issue. A recent report provides some new numbers that raise a different question: is impostorism a men's issue? In this episode, I break down what these findings really reveal.It's time to refocus the imposter syndrome conversation:Why this is so often considered a women's issue;What the research says about who really experiences impostorism;Which traits actually lead to feelings of ineptitude.Related Links:The original research on imposter syndrome - https://www.paulineroseclance.com/pdf/ip_high_achieving_women.pdfKorn Ferry's Workforce 2024 study - https://www.kornferry.com/content/dam/kornferry-v2/featured-topics/pdf/workforce-2024-report.pdfFortune, The Share of Fortune 500 Businesses Run By Women Can't Seem to Budge Beyond 10% - https://fortune.com/2024/06/04/share-of-fortune-500-businesses-run-by-women/Harvard Business Review, Women Rising: The Unseen Barriers - https://hbr.org/2013/09/women-rising-the-unseen-barriersEpisode 425, The Gender Confidence Gap Myth - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode425LEVEL UP: a Leadership Accelerator for Women on the Rise - https://www.bossedup.org/levelupEmilie's book, “Bossed Up” - https://www.bossedup.org/bookBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

Why is it so hard to remember that we deserve to be heard? Staying silent in our professional lives can feel like the safe choice, but it can have unintended consequences on our overall career trajectory. In this episode, Elaine Lin Hering shares what her research, experience in mediation and conflict management, and new book "Unlearning Silence" have to say about why so many of us—especially women—are reticent to raise our voices. She highlights the intrinsic connection between wielding our voices—both audibly and through our actions—and recognizing our self-worth. Examine the ways that silence impacts your own life, including:Where does our tendency toward silence stem from?;Why we need to question and dismantle the “babble hypothesis”;Why just talking more isn't the goal of unlearning silence;How leaders can actively push back against silencing team members.Related Links:Elaine's book, Unlearning Silence: How to Speak Your Mind, Unleash Talent, and Live More Fully - https://elainelinhering.com/book/Episode 428, Finding Your Voice at Work - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode428Episode 246, Lessons from Improv to Own Your Voice and Speak Up at Work - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode246Episode 377, What all women can learn from women of color in leadership with Deepa Purushothaman - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode377Episode 445, 3 Tips For Managing Too Many Meetings - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode445SPEAK UP: A Live Assertive Communication Course For Women In The Workplace - https://www.bossedup.org/speakupMicro Activism: How You Can Make a Difference in the World Without a Bullhorn by Omkari L. Williams - https://bookshop.org/p/books/micro-activism-how-to-use-your-unique-talents-to-make-a-difference-in-the-world-omkari-williams/19716521?ean=9781635866889Babble Hypothesis Research - https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1048984320300369Bossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

We need to talk about the impact of the childcare crisis on the workforce! Some people may wonder why this topic matters beyond its impact on families of young children. The truth is, this issue has wide-reaching ramifications for the nation's economy as a whole, and that deserves our attention whether we have children or not. In this episode, I share what the research and statistics reveal about the direct link between the exorbitant price of childcare and the labor shortage that's crunching companies across the U.S. Let's break down why this is a problem everyone should care about:The disproportionate impact of childcare costs on different demographics;The broader ramifications on the economy as a whole;What organizations can do to start making a difference.Related Links:Episode 424, The Jobs of America's Next Silicon Valley https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode424Episode 434, The Economic Imperative of Affordable Childcare - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode434EPIC- Executives Partnering To Invest In Children - https://www.coloradoepic.org/Episode 463, a Different Approach to My Second Maternity Leave - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode463Episode 479, America's Parents Are Not Okay - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode479Child Care and Development Fund (CCDF) Program - https://www.federalregister.gov/documents/2016/09/30/2016-22986/child-care-and-development-fund-ccdf-programHow Much Childcare Costs by State in the USA in 2024 - https://illumine.app/blog/how-much-childcare-costs-by-state-in-usa/Economic Data Underscores the Need for Significant, Sustained Investment in Child Care and Early Learning - https://www.ffyf.org/resources/2021/12/latest-economic-data-underscores-the-need-for-significant-sustained-investment-in-child-care-and-early-learning/Over Half of Families are Spending More Than 20% of Income on Child Care - https://www.ffyf.org/resources/2022/06/over-half-of-families-are-spending-more-than-20--on-child-care/How Child Care Disruptions Hurt Parents of Color Most - https://www.americanprogress.org/article/child-care-disruptions-hurt-parents-color/U.S. Child Care Crisis Is Holding Back The Workforce - https://www.forbes.com/sites/mariaflynn/2023/11/02/us-child-care-crisis-is-holding-back-the-workforce/U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics showing the labor force that is “Employed - With a job, not at work, Childcare problems” - https://data.bls.gov/timeseries/LNU02096055$122 Billion: The Growing, Annual Cost of the Infant-Toddler Child Care Crisis - https://strongnation.s3.amazonaws.com/documents/1598/05d917e2-9618-4648-a0ee-1b35d17e2a4d.pdf?1674854626&inline;%20filename=%22$122%20Billion:%20The%20Growing,%20Annual%20Cost%20of%20the%20Infant-Toddler%20Child%20Care%20Crisis.pdf%22UPS Expands Emergency Day Care After Pilot Program Cuts Turnover - https://www.hrdive.com/news/ups-emergency-day-care-pilot-program-cut-turnover/697205/Atlanta Mayor Andre Dickens Joins UPS CEO Carol B. Tomé at the 2023 UPS Impact Summit - https://about.ups.com/us/en/newsroom/press-releases/our-strategy/2023-ups-impact-summit.htmlTAKE ACTION with Bossed Up - https://www.bossedup.org/takeactionBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

How much do you know about menopause? Though it's as natural as puberty and affects almost everyone with a uterus, this life stage has long been a taboo subject in polite society. In recent years, though, the conversation has gotten a lot louder. Dr. Jen Gunter has been a leader in this conversation as an obstetrician and gynecologist with more than three decades of experience. Dr. Jen is the author of multiple bestsellers and a popular blog, and the host of the Body Stuff with Dr. Jen Gunter podcast. In our conversation, Dr. Jen and I dig into the myths and symptoms of menopause and how this transition affects women in the workplace.Learn more about this critical transition and its impacts in the workplace, including: Why we are only recently starting to talk about this stage of life;Some misconceptions debunked by the facts about menopause;The complicated history of menopausal hormone therapy; How changes in the workplace could improve this sometimes chaotic experience.Related Links:The Menopause Manifesto: Own Your Health with Facts and Feminism by Dr. Jen Gunter - https://bookshop.org/book/9780806540665Blood: The Science, Medicine, and Mythology of Menstruation by Dr. Jen Gunter - https://bookshop.org/book/9780806540689The Vagina Bible: The Vulva and the Vagina: Separating the Myth from the Medicine by Dr. Jen Gunter - https://bookshop.org/book/9780806539317The Vajenda, Dr. Jen's blog - https://vajenda.substack.com/Jensplaining with Dr. Jen Gunter - https://www.cbc.ca/mediacentre/program/jensplainingThe 2024 Deloitte Women @ Work Report - https://www.deloitte.com/content/dam/assets-shared/docs/collections/2024/deloitte-women-at-work-2024-a-global-outlook.pdf?dl=1Episode 469, Surprising Trends Impacting Women at Work - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode469Episode 414, New Rights for Pregnant Workers - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode414Dr. Jen on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/drjengunterDr. Jen on X - https://twitter.com/DrJenGunterDr. Jen on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/DrJGunter/Take Action with Bossed Up - https://www.bossedup.org/takeactionBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/emiliearies

What would change if you decentered your career from your identity? Decentering your work from your identity might seem a counterintuitive topic for a podcast about career development, but burnout and disillusionment are running rampant these days, so it's not too surprising this concept is getting a lot of airtime. Our work should be important and provide us with purpose, but it shouldn't become the only important and purposeful part of who we are. Taking the spotlight off the career part of your identity gives you space and permission to respect the role of work in your life without requiring you to relinquish every part of yourself to your job. In this episode, I outline three considerations to help you realize this shift.Consider a more balanced alternative to living for your job:How community involvement contributes to who you are and will be;Why passive rest and renewal don't cut it, and what to try instead;Why you need to get real about the divide between your work identity and the rest of your life.Related Links:Episode 456, How Connection Can Cure What Ails Us - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode456Mondo, “Tips To Keep Your Job From Becoming Your Identity” - https://mondo.com/insights/tips-to-keep-your-job-from-becoming-your-identity/“Working Identity: Unconventional Strategies for Reinventing Your Career,” by Herminia Ibarras - https://herminiaibarra.com/working-identity-book/The Ezra Klein Show, “Tired? Distracted? Burned Out? Listen to This” with Gloria Mark - https://www.nytimes.com/2024/01/05/opinion/ezra-klein-podcast-gloria-mark.html“Attention Span: A Groundbreaking Way to Restore Balance, Happiness and Productivity” by Gloria Mark - https://bookshop.org/p/books/attention-span-finding-focus-and-fighting-distraction-gloria-mark/18423478?ean=9781335449412LEVEL UP: a Leadership Accelerator for Women on the Rise - https://www.bossedup.org/levelupBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

How can you support the young adult in your life as they embark on the first steps of their career? Gen Z is coming of age in a strange new world, and that can make it tricky to figure out how to help them. My guest on this episode, Beth Hendler-Grunt, founded Next Great Step to help ease this transition. Using approaches grounded in psychology and her own background in sales, Beth and her team support thousands of young adults (and their parents!) to gain confidence in their skills and land their first jobs out of school.Uncover tools to help the young adult in your life through the modern job search process, including:How to understand the unique challenges this generation faces in today's job market;Modulate your expectations to balance patience, support, and trust;Understand the inextricable link between sales and the job search;And how to support a young adult whose career goals seem bound to fail.Related Links:Learn more about Beth's work - https://nextgreatstep.com/Connect with Beth on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/bethhendlergrunt/Connect with Beth on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/next_great_step/    The Next Great Step: The Parents' Guide to Launching Your New Grad into a Career - https://nextgreatstep.com/book/The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness by Johnathan Haidt - https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-anxious-generation-how-the-great-rewiring-of-childhood-is-causing-an-epidemic-of-mental-illness-jonathan-haidt/20144236?ean=9780593655030The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Empowering Our Children by Shefali Tsabary - https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-conscious-parent-transforming-ourselves-empowering-our-children-shefali-tsabary/6995894Episode 106, Supporting Your Partner's Career Conundrums - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode106HIRED: my Job Search Accelerator - https://www.bossedup.org/gethiredBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

How do you deal with a mistake or criticism at work? If you find yourself starting to spiral into anxiety, overthinking everything you've ever done that might have caused the current situation, you're far from alone. We're all human, and, unfortunately, that means when we screw up or receive less than glowing feedback at work, we have a tendency to take it personally. In this episode, I explore how we can move away from shame in these situations and shore up our self-worth so that we can resiliently and proactively deal with our mistakes in ways that empower positive change and set us up to be stronger in the future—both in and beyond our careers.Try these tricks for taking the personal out of professional missteps:How to make sure you're telling yourself the actual, objective story;Why it's essential to name, rather than negate, whatever you're feeling;How to use that unfortunate situation to plan your confident comeback.Related Links:Episode 323, How To Lead With Emotional Intelligence - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode323 book, “Permission to Feel” - https://marcbrackett.com/permission-to-feel/Episode 467, How To Handle Negative Reactions When You Speak Up - https://www.bossedup.com/podcast/episode467LEVEL UP: a Leadership Accelerator for Women on the Rise - https://www.bossedup.org/levelup“Bossed Up: A Grown Woman's Guide to Getting Your Sh*t Together” by Emilie Aries - https://www.bossedup.org/bookBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

Do you struggle with imposter syndrome, limiting beliefs, or self-sabotage? How can you rewire your subconscious to start seeing actual progress on your goals? Thais Gibson is a PhD-holding counselor, researcher, and the founder of the Personal Development School. She has answers to why so many of us find that our resolutions prove ineffective and our goals remain unmet despite our best efforts. This leading expert in attachment therapy shares her deep knowledge of how our brains form connections and pathways and how understanding why we self-sabotage can help us stop.Thais delves deep into the neuroscience behind why we struggle to achieve our goals:How the conscious and subconscious minds interact and who's in charge;The scientific explanation behind self-sabotage;The interplay between identity, beliefs, and our conscious goals;Your action plan for creating new neural pathways that will help you thrive.Related Links:Thais's website - https://university.personaldevelopmentschool.com/Watch Thais's daily YouTube videos - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHQ4lSaKRap5HyrpitrTOhQ/videosFollow Thais on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/?hl=enLevel Up: a Leadership Accelerator for Women on the Rise - https://www.bossedup.org/levelupBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/emiliearies

Where do you draw the line between work and play when it comes to office friendships? It's hard to make friends as adults, so it's no wonder we get excited when we discover a coworker we genuinely click with. Lots of research supports the benefits of workplace friendships. These relationships are key to job success, and employees with work friends are more likely to get engaged and innovate, be more productive, and genuinely enjoy their time. Most of us know that making friends at work also comes with unique challenges, and keeping those potential pitfalls in mind can help you build deeper friendships that last while also keeping your career on track. In this episode, I cover some issues that could crop up and explore how we can navigate them as we nurture those cherished office friendships.Check out these helpful tips for making the most of your workplace friendships:Two tips to keep your work friendships working;The research on the shifting power dynamics of being friends with your boss;How to maintain your integrity and your friendships as a leader, for the sake of your team, your organization, and your career.Related Links:Episode 329, Female Friendships: Why We Need Them and How to Keep Them - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode329Episode 458, Establishing Your Personal and Professional Network in a New City - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode458Stuff Mom Never Told You Episode 105, Can We Be Friends? - https://www.iheart.com/podcast/105-stuff-mom-never-told-you-21123631/episode/can-we-be-friends-30231271/That Moment When One Friend Is Promoted—And The Other Is Not, Forbes - https://www.forbes.com/sites/markcperna/2020/07/01/that-moment-when-one-friend-is-promoted-and-the-other-is-not/Does Organizational Cronyism Lead to Lower Employee Performance?, Frontiers in Psychology - https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7566910/Cronyism and Nepotism Are Bad for Everyone: The Research Evidence, Cambridge University - https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/industrial-and-organizational-psychology/article/abs/cronyism-and-nepotism-are-bad-for-everyone-the-research-evidence/7EED4D042812470B60D0312008DBA438Workplace Friendships: the Double-Edged Sword, London School of Economics - https://blogs.lse.ac.uk/businessreview/2023/02/13/workplace-friendships-the-double-edged-sword/What to Do When You Become Your Friend's Boss, Harvard Business Review - https://hbr.org/2020/09/what-to-do-when-you-become-your-friends-bossFriends Without Benefits: Understanding the Dark Sides of Workplace Friendship, Academy of Management Review - https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Julianna-Pillemer/publication/323220675_Friends_Without_Benefits_Understanding_the_Dark_Sides_of_Workplace_Friendship/links/5b79f5cb4585151fd121920c/Friends-Without-Benefits-Understanding-the-Dark-Sides-of-Workplace-Friendship.pdfThe Limits To Workplace Friendship: Managerialist HRM and Bystander Behaviour In the Context of Workplace Bullying, APA Psych Net - https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2011-09564-005Gossip in Evolutionary Perspective, Review of General Psychology - https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1037/1089-2680.8.2.100Are Workplace Friendships a Mixed Blessing? Exploring Tradeoffs of Multiplex Relationships and their Associations with Job Performance, Personnel Psychology - https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/peps.12109Social Undermining in the Workplace, Academy of Management Journal - https://www.researchgate.net/publication/257307370_Social_Undermining_in_the_WorkplaceCrossing The Line: Boundaries of Workplace Humour and Fun, Employee Relations - https://www.emerald.com/insight/content/doi/10.1108/01425450910991749/full/html?casa_token=CIojz70WmukAAAAA:3I1KGNeHRpiD8ugwn0KmCazvPn3zWPniNAUtGyOp_2F4xkU83TE-1u0c8-c3XKM63LealAcq7FBud5toouq88q6U2ehi3_m_iVitDbj1wZ0yDlbP0UD3Why work friendships are critical for long-term happiness, CNBC - https://www.cnbc.com/2018/11/13/why-work-friendships-are-critical-for-long-term-happiness.htmlShould You Be Friends With Your Boss?, Forbes - https://www.forbes.com/sites/juliawuench/2021/09/06/should-you-be-friends-with-your-boss/The Increasing Importance of a Best Friend at Work - https://www.gallup.com/workplace/397058/increasing-importance-best-friend-work.aspxFrom BFF to Your Boss, ResumeLab - https://resumelab.com/career-advice/from-friend-to-bossLEVEL UP: a Leadership Accelerator for Women on the Rise - https://www.bossedup.org/levelupBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

How do you ensure you get what you need when you're called to work in the nonprofit sector? Working for a nonprofit differs in many ways from the corporate world, but there's no reason your passion and your dream career trajectory can't go hand in hand. In this episode, I share my conversation with Jenny Mitchell, the chief visionary officer of Chavender, an organization that coaches mid-level to senior executives—particularly women who work in nonprofits—to help them build leadership skills. Find out what women need to know to navigate the nonprofit sector with ease:The differences between the nonprofit and corporate worlds;Why the likeability factor can be even trickier to navigate for women leaders in this area;How to balance the martyr mindset to set a good example and prevent burnout as a manager;Why celebrating achievements is a vital step in staying focused and hopeful in the nonprofit realm.Related Links:Jenny's book, Embracing Ambition: Empowering Women to Step Out, Be Seen, & Lead - https://www.amazon.ca/Embracing-Ambition-Empowering-Women-Step/dp/1958870110/ref=sr_1_1Explore Chevander's good work - https://chavender.com/Listen to Jenny's Podcast The Underdog Leadership Podcast - https://chavender.com/underdog-leadership-podcast/“More Women Work in Nonprofits. So Why Do Men End Up Leading Them?” on HBR - https://hbr.org/2024/04/more-women-work-in-nonprofits-so-why-do-men-end-up-leading-themBossed Up Ep 421: The Top Struggles of High Achievers - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode421LEVEL UP: a Leadership Accelerator for Women on the Rise - https://www.bossedup.org/levelupBook me to speak: www.emiliearies.comBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/emiliearies

How do you motivate yourself to start your job search? There are a lot of Bossed Up episodes about the job search process, but they all assume that you've already gotten started—and that can be the hardest part!When your current job no longer fulfills you, the first step is always to turn your analysis paralysis into forward momentum. In this episode, I share some tips to spark that motivation and get your job search rolling full steam ahead.Explore these strategies when you've put off getting started in your job search:Why you need to get clear on your vision and values first;How to create a realistic and attainable action plan;How to build your own unstoppable inertia.Related Links:Episode 2, When is it time to quit? - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode02Episode 453, Prioritizing Your Job Search While Holding Down a Full-Time Job - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode453Episode 455, How to Create a Sustainable Job Search Schedule When You're Unemployed - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode455The Four Tendencies by Gretchen Rubin - https://gretchenrubin.com/books/the-four-tendencies/Working Identity, Updated Edition, With a New Preface: Unconventional Strategies for Reinventing Your Career - https://bookshop.org/p/books/working-identity-updated-edition-with-a-new-preface-unconventional-strategies-for-reinventing-your-career-revised-herminia-ibarra/19691624?ean=9781647825560The Progress Principle: Using Small Wins to Ignite Joy, Engagement, and Creativity at Work by Teresa M. Amabile and Steve J. Kramer - https://www.hbs.edu/faculty/Pages/item.aspx?num=40692HIRED: my Job Search Accelerator - https://www.bossedup.org/gethiredBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

How do you create a practical plan for taking a career break? We talk a lot on this podcast about high achievers, burnout, and work/life balance because we're driven professionals striving to live our most fulfilling lives while also leveling up our careers. Chances are, the thought of taking a lengthy break from work has crossed your mind, but you might have been as skeptical as I was until I spoke with Laura Nguyen.The author of Career Break Compass, Laura is an executive coach who transitioned from a high-performance, high-stress marketing career to guiding high-achievers like herself in planning and pursuing career breaks that let them come back better than ever. She shares what brought her to this field and her four-step framework for making the most of your time off.Uncover her strategic process for making a career break a reality, including:How to strike a balance between career advancement and rest;The time off options available to American workers;Building a logical framework to guide your career break;How intentional time off can create holistic and long-lasting shifts in your career and life.Related Links:Laura's book, Career Break Compass: Navigating Your Path to a Balanced Life Through Intentional Time Off - https://www.lauranguyen.co/career-break-compassLearn more about Laura's work - https://www.lauranguyen.coConnect with Laura on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauran546/Episode 136, Is Job-Sharing the Secret to True Work/Life Balance - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode136   Episode 456, How Connection Can Cure What Ails Us - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode456A Better Balance, workers' legal advocacy organization - https://www.abetterbalance.org/The Effects of Decision Fatigue on Judicial Behavior - https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/journal-of-law-and-courts/article/abs/effects-of-decision-fatigue-on-judicial-behavior-a-study-of-arkansas-traffic-court-outcomes/8B7EB8735C10F7730FB402D6F2E80D70Play: How It Shapes the Brain, Opens the Imagination, and Invigorates the Soul by Dr. Stuart Brown - https://bookshop.org/p/books/play-how-it-shapes-the-brain-opens-the-imagination-and-invigorates-the-soul-stuart-brown/577397Take my LinkedIn course, Managing Career Burnout - https://www.linkedin.com/learning/managing-career-burnout/today-s-burnout-work-cultureBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

Caregivers: when's the last time you didn't feel stressed out? In August, the U.S. Surgeon General released an advisory, titled “Parents Under Pressure,” that identified parental mental health as an urgent public health issue. Nearly half of parent participants in the surveys confirm that “their stress is completely overwhelming.” The wellbeing of these adults is worrisome on its own, and research also shows a strong correlation between poor mental health in parents and poor physical and mental health in children. In other words: this public health issue impacts multiple generations and, by extension, our entire country. In this episode, I take a closer look at the advisory and what workplaces should be doing to mitigate this national crisis.Discover what the research says and what your workplace should be doing about it:Seven unavoidable causes of parental stress;The overt connection between parental mental health and talent retention;Specific steps organizations can take to help improve the wellbeing of employees who are also parents or caregivers.Related Links:U.S. Public Health Service “Parents Under Pressure Advisory” - https://www.hhs.gov/sites/default/files/parents-under-pressure.pdfEpisode 468, “Disrupting Elder Care: We Need to Talk More About Working Daughters” - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode468Episode 434, “The Economic Imperative of Affordable Childcare” - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode434Episode 472, “How We Get Over Overwork to Build a Better Life” - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode472TAKE ACTION with Bossed Up - https://www.bossedup.org/takeactionBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

How can managers navigate the ever-changing diversity, equity, inclusion, and belonging landscape? While most people grasp the overall intention of DEIB—fair and equitable treatment for all workers—the specifics are nuanced and easily misunderstood, and they can be difficult to implement, especially in the face of recent pushback.Alida Miranda-Wolff is a DEIB practitioner, author, and podcast host driven by a deep passion for cultivating belonging. In 2019, she launched Ethos Talent, a full-service DEIB and employee advocacy firm that serves companies all around the world. In this episode, she leverages her decade of expertise to explain how support for this field has fluctuated over the years and what leaders—and first-time managers in particular—can do to facilitate the day-to-day integration of these practices, which are deeply intertwined with basic human rights.Elevate DEIB in your own leadership practice with these takeaways:How managers can be inclusive and equitable in their day-to-day leadership;How to navigate difficult interpersonal situations through a DEIB lens;Why the current political climate is such a challenge for DEIB practitioners and managers;The problem with the segmentation of DEIB within organizations.Related Links:The First-Time Manager: DEI by Alida Miranda-Wolff - https://alidamirandawolff.com/book/“Care Work with Alida Miranda-Wolff” podcast - https://alidamirandawolff.com/podcast/Connect with Alida on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/alidamw/Learn more about Alida and her work - https://alidamirandawolff.comWork with Ethos - https://www.ethostalent.com/Bias in Feedback Decision Tree - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1C-HMz4RFwQNuIzMgS0wCmafQX09N81lp/viewEpisode 388, How To Leverage Your Power and Push For More Diversity, Equity, & Inclusion - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode388Episode 423, Being White and Latina - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode423Ezra Klein affordability crisis article, “The Economic Theory That Explains Why Americans Are So Mad” - https://www.nytimes.com/2024/06/07/opinion/ezra-klein-podcast-annie-lowrey.htmlIntercept diversity and social justice article, “the Evolution of Union Busting” - https://theintercept.com/2022/06/07/union-busting-tactics-diversity/Alida's interview with Truthout “Here's How Workers Can Build Power Amid Corporate Co-optation of DEI Programs” - https://truthout.org/articles/heres-how-workers-can-build-power-amid-corporate-co-optation-of-dei-programs/Philosopher and psychiatrist Frantz Fanon's work “Black Skin, White Masks” - https://monoskop.org/images/a/a5/Fanon_Frantz_Black_Skin_White_Masks_1986.pdfFrantz Fanon's other work “the Wretched of the Earth” - https://monoskop.org/images/6/6b/Fanon_Frantz_The_Wretched_of_the_Earth_1963.pdfElite Capture: How the Powerful Took Over Identity Politics (And Everything Else) by Olúfẹ́mi O. Táíwò - https://bookshop.org/p/books/elite-capture-how-the-powerful-took-over-identity-politics-and-everything-else-oluf-7865-769-mi-o-taiwo/17984390?ean=9781642596885LEVEL UP: A Leadership Accelerator for Women on the Rise - https://www.bossedup.org/levelupBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

How will the various abortion bans across the U.S. affect HR policies? When Roe v. Wade was overturned in 2022, federal protections on abortion ceased, and states were suddenly free to make independent decisions about this essential healthcare issue. The new laws range from full allowance to complete bans and criminal charges for those who circumvent them. So how are employers and HR teams navigating the impacts of this change, and how are employees across the country reacting when it comes to travel and job change considerations?The consequences of how these new laws impact women and their careers—both in states with bans and those without—can't be overstated. In this episode, I examine some of the policies being discussed in regard to women's rights and safety and how these laws are impacting both organizations and employees.Find out how abortion ban HR policies are affecting our career decisions:Why announcing abortion travel accommodations is a questionable corporate decision;How companies might begin to develop truly beneficial travel policies;The impact of abortion bans on the entertainment and events industry;Survey says: recruitment is likely to feel the impacts of these shifting laws.Related Links:SHRM: Companies Are Announcing Abortion-Travel Benefits Following Dobbs Decision - https://www.shrm.org/topics-tools/news/benefits-compensation/employers-prepare-benefits-policy-responses-to-abortion-ruling-shrm-survey-findsSHRM: Companies Announcing Abortion Travel Benefits Following Dobbs Decision - https://www.shrm.org/topics-tools/news/benefits-compensation/companies-announcing-abortion-travel-benefits-following-dobbs-decisionNorthstar: How the Events Industry Is Responding to State Abortion Bans - https://www.northstarmeetingsgroup.com/state-abortion-bans-could-drive-event-planners-cancelPerry Undem: What Does "Top Talent" Think About Working in States that Ban Abortion? - https://perryundem.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/09/PerryUndem-TX-Abortion-Law_Survey-Findings_0901.pdfResume Builder Sruvey - https://www.resumebuilder.com/one-third-of-job-seekers-wont-work-in-states-with-abortion-bans/Stop congratulating companies for making abortion a corporate 'perk' by Ali Griswold - https://oversharing.substack.com/p/stop-congratulating-companies-for  Episode 357, How to Talk About Abortion at Work - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode357TAKE ACTION with Bossed Up - https://www.bossedup.org/takeactionBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

Men comprise over 90% of the CEOs in the U.S.—so how do we help them become allies in the vital pursuit of workplace equality? Rather than dismissing the defensiveness that sometimes arises in men who believe promoting more women to power means taking theirs away, Wendy Wallbridge uses her platform to change the narrative. She teaches tech companies how to create cultures of belonging and strategies for workplace equality, with a focus on equipping men as allies. Her strategies show next-generation business leaders that the right approach to equality lifts everyone up: the employee, the executive, and the company.Discover how both men and women leaders can pursue gender equality in the workplace, including:The very real benefits of gender equality for men in positions of power;Why emotional intelligence is the leadership skill of the future;The three biggest challenges facing women and non-binary people in the workplace;How to use micro-interventions to improve inequality in the corporate world.Related Links:Learn more about the Spiral Up program - https://spiralup.com/Order Spiraling Upward: The 5 Co-Creative Powers for Women on the Rise - https://spiralup.com/book/Read Invisible Women: Data Bias in a World Designed for Men by Caroline Criado Perez -https://bookshop.org/p/books/invisible-women-data-bias-in-a-world-designed-for-men-caroline-criado-perez/15136602Bossed Up Ep 452: Redefining Success: Women and the Fight for a Fair Economy - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode452Level Up: A Leadership Accelerator for Women on the Rise - https://www.bossedup.org/levelupBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

Earlier this year, the FTC put forth a ruling that would ban non-compete agreements nationwide. But last month, a Texas federal court blocked this endeavor, leaving workers in limbo while the Supreme Court considers taking up the issue next. In today's episode, I explore what's going on and why there is still hope for a new path forward to defeat non-compete agreements for good.Get the latest details on this recent workers' rights development:Why the lack of a federal ban isn't the end of the story;Where the power to prevent harmful non-competes lies now;What we as citizens can do to foster fair policies for workers.Related Links:Episode 459, Why Non-Compete Agreements Can No Longer Derail Your Career - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode459Economic Innovation Group's State Non-Compete Law Tracker - https://eig.org/state-noncompete-map/Axios: The Future Of The Noncompete Ban Isn't Totally Bleak - https://www.axios.com/2024/08/23/noncompete-ban-statesTAKE ACTION with Bossed Up - https://www.bossedup.org/takeactionBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

Growth mindset is a hot topic these days. We hear a lot about how important it is to approach life and work open to learning, changing, and growing. This concept is often focused on the individual, but my guest today centers her research on how to build a workplace culture that fosters a growth mindset for all.Mary C. Murphy is a professor of psychological and brain sciences at Indiana University and a protege of mindset scholar Carol Dweck. During her PhD, she began to explore the potential for cultures of growth to create learning organizations. Mary and I explore the research and practice behind how employees and leaders alike can start transforming their organizations with growth in mind.Discover how cultures of growth build better businesses for all, including:How to identify the current mindset culture of your workplace;The difference between cultures of growth and cultures of genius;How to circumvent mindset triggers with mindful feedback;The huge impact of cultures of growth on diversity and equity.Related Links:Mary's book “Cultures of Growth” - https://marycmurphy.com/cultures-of-growth/Take the Mindset Triggers Assessment - https://marycmurphy.com/resource/mindset-triggers-assessment/Take the Mindset Culture Assessment - https://marycmurphy.com/resource/mindset-culture-assessment/Connect with Mary on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/mary-murphy-2b4a70235/Episode 452, Women and the Fight for a Fair Economy -  https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode452LEVEL UP: a Leadership Accelerator for Women on the Rise - https://www.bossedup.org/levelupBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/ 

What do you think of when you hear the term “glass cliff”? I have been pondering this concept for a while, especially in light of the upcoming election. In today's episode, I share my thoughts on the problems, and potential opportunities, inherent in the social construct that so often presents women with their opportunity to lead only when the ship is sinking. If you have ever sought or been offered a promotion that seems a bit doomed to fail, this episode is for you.Consider the glass cliff on your way through the glass ceiling as we explore:The origin of this term and the research that backs it up;The potential dangers of accepting a leadership role in a crumbling company;The potential opportunity waiting within this gender-biased blind spot.Related Links:Episode 465, What Kamala's Candidacy Means for Women Leaders - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode465New York Times, When That Promotion is Really a ‘Glass Cliff' - https://www.nytimes.com/2024/07/12/business/glass-cliff-effect.htmlHarvard Business Review, How Women End Up on the “Glass Cliff” - https://hbr.org/2011/01/how-women-end-up-on-the-glass-cliffKathryn Kincaid's thesis, Why Can Why Can't a Woman Fail Like a Man? - https://digitalcommons.butler.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1401&context=ugthesesLEVEL UP: a Leadership Accelerator for Women on the Rise - https://www.bossedup.org/levelupBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/ 

What individual, organizational, and policy changes will help us transform the daily grind into the good life? The conversation around work-life balance and women in the workplace can feel stalled. You might speak out and speak up about the problems and inequity you see every day, yet insufficient individual solutions remain the most common recommendations. This lack of progress highlights a widespread systemic problem.Brigid Schulte has quite literally written the book on what's up with our ongoing struggle to balance a good life with a sustainable career. Her latest book, Over Work: Transforming the Daily Grind in the Quest for a Better Life, is available today! Brigid joins me to discuss what her research has revealed about our continuing struggle to make work actually work for us.Learn what needs to happen to transform our hustle culture into something healthier, including:The declining of the American Dream;Why we need to look beyond paid labor when we talk about “work”;The importance of good middle management;Where the U.S. should look for policy inspiration.Related Links:Over Work: Transforming the Daily Grind in the Quest for a Better Life - https://us.macmillan.com/books/9781250801722/overworkOverwhelmed: How to Work, Love, and Play When No One Has the Time - https://us.macmillan.com/books/9781250062383/overwhelmedDiscover More About Brigid - https://www.brigidschulte.com/Connect with Brigid on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/brigidschulteLearn More About the Better Life Lab - https://www.newamerica.org/better-life-lab/The Economic Policy Institute's Productivity Pay Gap - https://www.epi.org/productivity-pay-gap/Harvard Business School Study - https://www.hbs.edu/managing-the-future-of-work/Documents/The_Caring_Company.pdfThe Sum of Us: What Racism Costs Everyone and How We Can Prosper Together by Heather McGhee - https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-sum-of-us-what-racism-costs-everyone-and-how-we-can-prosper-together-heather-mcghee/14618549?ean=9780525509585Workism Is Making Americans Miserable by Derek Thompson - https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2019/02/religion-workism-making-americans-miserable/583441/The Story of Work: A New History of Humankind by Jan Lucassen - https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-story-of-work-a-new-history-of-humankind-jan-lucassen/18399262?ean=9780300267068Episode 452, Redefining Success: Women and the Fight for a Fair Economy - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode452Episode 440, The Problem With Self-Help - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode440Episode 468, Disrupting Elder Care: We Need To Talk More About Working Daughters - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode468Episode 456, How Connection Can Cure What Ails Us - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode456TAKE ACTION with Bossed Up - https://www.bossedup.org/takeactionBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/emiliearies

How do you handle the sting of being passed over for a promotion? Unfortunately, for ambitious women, this frustrating experience tends to be part of the package deal. We're always pushing ourselves outside our comfort zones—so, of course we won't get every opportunity we go after. In this episode, I share how to manage the emotional aftermath of this normal but distressing experience without losing your drive.Tackle these three tips for coming out on top after a promotion pass-over:Why you need to let yourself feel all the feelings;How to get clear on what your career future looks like now;When it's time to think about moving on.Related Links:Episode 323, How To Lead With Emotional Intelligence - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode323Episode 295, How to Make Career Progress in the New Year - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode295The Progress Principle, Harvard Business Review - https://www.hbs.edu/faculty/Pages/item.aspx?num=40692Permission To Feel: The Power Of Emotional Intelligence To Achieve Well-Being And Success by Marc Brackett, Ph.D. - https://bookshop.org/p/books/permission-to-feel-unlocking-the-power-of-emotions-to-help-our-kids-ourselves-and-our-society-thrive-marc-brackett/9879244?ean=9781250212832LEVEL UP: a Leadership Accelerator for Women on the Rise - https://www.bossedup.org/levelupBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

How do you navigate grief in the workplace in an empathic and supportive way? We all experience loss, and we might default to assuming the only place for grief is in the home. The truth is that a loss permeates every aspect of our lives, sometimes for years or even decades, and it certainly crosses into the workplace. Krista St-Germain experienced a devastating loss in 2016 when her husband was killed by an impaired driver. That trauma propelled her into grief, then therapy, then research. Today, she is the founder of the Mom Goes On group coaching program and the host of the Widowed Mom podcast. She shares her hard-won wisdom on what we need to know about grief and how to navigate it in the workplace, both for ourselves and in support of others.Question your assumptions about grief and learn to better support yourself or others who are navigating it, including:How we've come to misunderstand the grieving process;The role time plays when we are healing from a loss;How to navigate interactions with grieving coworkers;The possibilities of life beyond grieving and post-traumatic growth.Related Links:Learn more about Krista's work - https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/Follow Krista on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/lifecoachkrista/Connect with Krista on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/coachingwithkristaThe Widowed Mom Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-widowed-mom-podcast/id1468127632The Grieving Brain by Mary-Frances O'Connor - https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-grieving-brain-the-surprising-science-of-how-we-learn-from-love-and-loss-mary-frances-o-connor/16976128?ean=9780062946249Report from the Death Studies Journal on the Dual Process Model - https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/10848151/Brené Brown - Silver Linings Clip - https://brenebrown.com/videos/rsa-short-empathy/On Death & Dying: What the Dying Have to Teach Doctors, Nurses, Clergy & Their Own Families by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross - https://bookshop.org/p/books/on-death-dying-what-the-dying-have-to-teach-doctors-nurses-clergy-their-own-families-elisabeth-kubler-ross/9165298?ean=9781476775548On Grief & Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages of Loss by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross - https://bookshop.org/p/books/on-grief-grieving-finding-the-meaning-of-grief-through-the-five-stages-of-loss-david-kessler/6699869?ean=9781476775555Episode 468: Disrupting Elder Care: We Need To Talk More About Working Daughters - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode468LEVEL UP: a Leadership Accelerator for Women on the Rise - https://www.bossedup.org/levelupBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/emiliearies

Deloitte recently released their 2024 Women @ Work report, which surveyed 5,000 women across 10 countries. In this episode, I highlight three unexpected trends that warrant further discussion and that I plan to explore in upcoming episodes of this podcast. Explore the state of work for women around the world:What does the study have to say about women's rights overall?How does new intel about burnout reflect a change in workplace mental health programs?How are issues impacting older women at work finally getting long-overdue attention?Related Links:Read the Deloitte Women @ Work 2024 report - https://www.deloitte.com/content/dam/assets-shared/docs/collections/2024/deloitte-women-at-work-2024-a-global-outlook.pdfTake Action with Bossed Up - https://www.bossedup.org/takeactionBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

How do you balance caring for your aging parents and your career without burning out? We organize so much in our lives, from our workdays to our childcare. The care of our aging parents or other loved ones, however, can blindside the best of us. When this responsibility suddenly falls into your lap while you're in the thick of leveling up your career, staying on top of daily expectations, and maybe even raising young children, what do you do?Liz O'Donnell was faced with this situation, and after more than a decade in the field, she is a recognized expert on working while caregiving. She is the founder of Working Daughters, which supports women balancing elder care on top of their careers and all the other demands of adult life, and the author of Working Daughter: A Guide to Care for Your Aging Parents While Making a Living. In this episode, she shares her wealth of knowledge about navigating elder care without losing yourself.Discover what to expect if you find yourself caring for an aging loved one, including:Why we aren't talking more about this widespread issue;Where policy and workplace elder care support are lacking and how they could improve;How to integrate elder care into your life with compassion for yourself;Why a post-caregiving plan can give you back a sense of control and purpose.Related Links:Connect with Liz on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/liz3point0/Find resources on Working Daughter.com - https://workingdaughter.com/Implement the Caregiving Basics - https://workingdaughter.com/caregiving-basics/Order “Working Daughter: A Guide to Care for Your Aging Parents While Making a Living” - https://workingdaughter.com/book-2/U.S. Department of Labor, “Older Women and Unpaid Caregiving in the U.S.” - https://www.dol.gov/sites/dolgov/files/WB/WBIssueBrief-OlderWomenAndUnpaidCaregiving.pdfDeloitte “Women @ Work 2024” Study - https://www.deloitte.com/content/dam/assets-shared/docs/collections/2024/deloitte-women-at-work-2024-a-global-outlook.pdf?dl=1“The Crisis Facing America's Working Daughters” by Liz O'Donnell - https://www.theatlantic.com/business/archive/2016/02/working-daughters-eldercare/459249/The Wall Street Journal, “When Caring for Your Parents Comes at a Cost to Your Career” - https://www.wsj.com/health/wellness/elder-care-parents-workers-e1fa53f9?mod=world_whatsnews_pos3The Working Daughter Bill of Rights - https://workingdaughter.com/working-daughter-bill-rights/Episode 466, How Gen X Navigates Career Change -  https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode466McKinsey & Co. Women in the Workplace Report - https://www.mckinsey.com/featured-insights/diversity-and-inclusion/women-in-the-workplaceLevel Up: a Leadership Accelerator for Women on the Rise - https://www.bossedup.org/levelupBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

Our world is still conflicted about whether or not it likes assertive women. In recent months, I have received both positive and negative feedback about my outspokenness. When I'm confronted with the opinion that my assertive approach to communication might leave a poor taste in people's mouths, I still have to fight the urge to hide or get defensive, but I have developed a few skills that make these interactions more productive.The road to owning your voice and raising it confidently when you have something to say can be a long one, especially if you were raised to keep quiet. In this episode, I lay out three tips to help you navigate the situation the next time someone gives you negative feedback about your communication style.Challenge yourself to start putting these tips into action. Listen now to learn:Why it's better to ask for more information than to get defensive;How to decide whose feedback really matters;Why you don't have to act on all the feedback you receive.Related Links:Read “The Courage to Be Disliked: The Japanese Phenomenon That Shows You How to Change Your Life and Achieve Real Happiness” by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga - https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-courage-to-be-disliked-the-japanese-phenomenon-that-shows-you-how-to-change-your-life-and-achieve-real-happiness-ichiro-kishimi/6691584Get Emilie's book, “Bossed Up: A Grown Woman's Guide to Getting Your Sh*t Together” - https://www.bossedup.org/bookSPEAK UP: An Assertive Communication Course- https://www.bossedup.org/speakupBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

Gen Xers have a wealth of experience and talent to offer the workforce, and yet Millennials and Baby Boomers tend to receive the majority of the media focus and career advice available today. Even Bossed Up doesn't have as much information for this generation as it could.In doing my part to correct this oversight, I speak with Vince Chan, host of the Chief Change Officer podcast. A Gen Xer herself, Vince supports Gen X professionals as they traverse critical career crossroads. In this episode, Vince shares how the shared traits of this group result in a resilient generation with so much to offer—often more than even they realize.Discover how Gen X navigates career transformation, including:How Gen X's deep respect for institutions can help them and hold them back;The lifetime of technological shifts Gen Xers have navigatedWhy Gen X needs to set aside a fear of judgment and love themselves more.Related Links:Connect with Vince on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/thevincechan/Listen to the Chief Change Officer podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chief-change-officer/id1735006441Episode 176, Changing Careers After 40 - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode176Episode 64, A Feminist Take on F.I.R.E. - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode64Episode 456, How Connection Can Cure What Ails Us - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode456Episode 434, The Economic Imperative of Affordable Childcare - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode434HIRED: my Job Search Accelerator - https://www.bossedup.org/gethiredBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

The last week's historic political events warrant a totally new, unscripted episode. On July 21st, the news that President Biden would no longer pursue re-election and would endorse Vice President Kamala Harris left me excited and energized for the future, feelings that only grew as I spoke with so many women in the week following the announcement. Just imagine what this candidacy could mean for women, particularly women of color and those in leadership positions.In today's episode, I share my thoughts about what Kamala's candidacy means for women.Join me to consider the possibilities this election year, including:How we can  embrace the “audacity of hope” and not sit back in silence;How the words we choose when speaking about Kamala's candidacy - whether we support her or not - says more about how we view women and power overall;Why we should focus on electing the best future president, not the perfect one;And three ways you can join me to take meaningful action today.Related Links:Register to vote - https://vote.gov/Donate to the campaign - https://secure.actblue.com/donate/potuskamalaVolunteer to give support - https://kamalaharris.comLearn more about Rank Choice Voting - https://rcvforcolorado.org/The Audacity Of Hope by Barack Obama - https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-audacity-of-hope-barack-hussein-obama/12721004?ean=9781606860731Bossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/Follow Emilie on Instagram: www.instagram.com/emiliearies

Content warning: this episode briefly touches on alcoholism, substance abuse, and abusive relationships.Why does setting boundaries sound so simple, and yet is so hard to practice? My guests on this episode know that it takes practice to make any difficult communication practice permanent.Jan and Jillian Yuhas are twin relationship and conflict resolution specialists who help leaders, families, and organizations build stronger, growth-oriented relationships and set boundaries that stick. They're also the authors of a new book, Boundary Badass: A Powerful Method for Elevating Your Value and Relationships.Uncover the benefits of setting values-based boundaries at work and at home:Why it can be harder to set personal boundaries than professional, despite a lot of similarities;How to balance setting boundaries and remaining a high-value employee and leader;The importance of identifying values and boundaries from a place of logic, not emotion;Practicing assertive communication in a society where women's voices are often misconstrued.Related Links:Learn more about Jan and Jillian - https://www.janandjillian.com/Buy “Boundary Badass: A Powerful Method for Elevating Your Value and Relationships” - https://www.boundarybadass.com/Speak Up: An Assertive Communication Course- https://www.bossedup.org/speakupBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/Bossed Up EP 251: The Difference Between Assertive V. Aggressive Communication - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode251More Bossed Up Episodes on Assertive Communication - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/category/Assertive+Communication

What would you do differently the second time around? I'm getting the chance to dig deep into this question as I prepare for my second maternity leave this fall. As my due date crawls closer, I have been thinking a lot about what my family's lives will look like after the baby arrives. In this episode, I highlight three specific ways I'm adjusting my approach and the systemic and personal factors that affect these decisions.How would you navigate these second-baby considerations?What's changed with saving up for childcare (for me and for Americans everywhere);Why I'm fixating less on birth and more on what comes after;Where I've decided to focus my nesting instincts this time around.Related Links:Episode 434, The Economic Imperative of Affordable Childcare - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode434Episode 332, 5 Things to Keep In Mind When Financially Preparing For a Baby - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode332Economic Data Underscores the Need for Significant, Sustained Investment in Child Care and Early Learning - https://www.ffyf.org/resources/2021/12/latest-economic-data-underscores-the-need-for-significant-sustained-investment-in-child-care-and-early-learning/Bossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

Initiatives to address pay gaps are spreading across the country. My home state of Colorado is a trailblazer in this quest, and people like today's guest are spearheading policies that are changing the landscape nationwide. Louise Myrland, the VP of Programs for the Women's Foundation of Colorado, joins me today to discuss Colorado's historic pay transparency law, its nationwide impact, and new data showing the profound effects this groundbreaking legislation has had on the careers and lives of women in Colorado - as well as job-seekers everywhere.Leverage Louise's knowledge of this game-changing policy:Learn your rights as a job seeker;Discover how this legislation expands the rights of already-employed workers, too;Interview tips for navigating outlawed salary questions;The fascinating numbers behind our country's closing gender wage gap.Related Links:Learn more about The Women's Foundation of Colorado and access many helpful resources - https://www.wfco.orgExplore Colorado's Equal Pay for Equal Work Act - https://cdle.colorado.gov/dlss/equal-pay-for-equal-work-actThe Women's Foundation of Colorado Equal Pay for Equal Work 2023 report - https://www.wfco.org/equalpayLearn more about Colorado's Department of Labor and Employment - https://cdle.colorado.gov/labor-law-stats/demands-complaints-responses-and-settlementsPress release for Equal Pay Day News - https://www.wfco.org/file/Equal-Pay-Day-News-Release-2024-updated.pdfDownload the Bossed Up Negotiation Guide for job seekers - https://www.bossedup.org/negotiationListen to episode 444, Are Pay Transparency Laws Working? - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode444HIRED: my Job Search Accelerator - https://www.bossedup.org/gethiredFind forms for reporting employers on equal pay rights and more here - http://bosssedup.org/takeactionBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

What's the wildest thing that has happened to you at a presentation or workshop? Whether in the audience or on the stage, most of us have experienced something not going according to plan. I had my own experience with this a few weeks ago while giving a keynote in California, during which time a surprising disruption inspired the three tips I'm sharing today on how to keep calm and carry on when something goes awry. Learn from my experience to strengthen your own public speaking skills, including:Why you should address what happened, not ignore it;What to say once the moment has passed;How to empower your audience and yourself to move forward.Related Links:Book me to speak at your company or conference: www.emiliearies.comSpeak Up: A Live Assertive Communication Course for Women in the Workplace - https://www.bossedup.org/speakupBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

How do you manage a complex pregnancy while continuing to manage your career? Pregnancy can be complicated, and people who experienced prior reproductive challenges often anxiously wonder just how similar their next experience will be. When these stressors are piled on top of our day-to-day work challenges and the possibility of an unsupportive workplace, things get even more daunting.I'm thrilled to share that I am currently in my second trimester (!!) after past fertility challenges, so this is a topic close to my heart. This was the perfect time to talk with Dr. Nathan Fox about the premise of his new book, and how to manage pregnancy expectations and assertively communicate with both physicians and superiors in the workplace during this time.Dive into this discussion by learning more about:Embracing a joint decision-making approach to medicine that honors both doctor and patient expertise;Identifying the best OB/GYN for your unique health situation;Understanding the risk of recurrence of pregnancy complications;And advocating for your rights as a pregnant person in the workplace.Related Links:Episode 438, The Impact of Stress Reduction on Infertility - https://bossedup.org/podcast/episode438Episode 414, New Rights for Pregnant Workers  - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode414Episode 346, How to Advocate for a Better Work-Life Balance as a Working Parent - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode346Episode 311, How To Talk About Marital Status, Parental Status, And Pregnancy In The Interview - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode311Discover more about Nathan's Podcast - https://healthfulwoman.comLearn more about Nathan's practice - https://www.mfmnyc.com/team/nathan-fox/Buy “The Unexpected: Navigating Pregnancy During and After Complications by Emily Oster and Dr. Nathan Fox - https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/717163/the-unexpected-by-emily-oster-and-nathan-fox-md/Expecting Better by Emily Oster - https://bookshop.org/p/books/expecting-better-why-the-conventional-pregnancy-wisdom-is-wrong-and-what-you-really-need-to-know-emily-oster/15735353?ean=9780143125709Bossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

How has your life been affected by a non-compete agreement? Whether you're painfully familiar with these contract clauses, know someone who is, or just think our free market could be more free, the recent news that non-compete agreements are on their way out the door should give you a boost.Those who have been boxed in by an employer's non-compete agreement are absolutely not alone—they are baked into around 30 million Americans' employment contracts. In this episode and blog post, I break down where non-competes came from, the issues they cause, and explore what a future without them might look like.Find out what a world without non-compete agreements might look like:What are they are and how they constrain employees;The widespread impact of these contracts;How will these changes affect the labor market;How will employers protect their intellectual property from now on?Related Links:Statistics from the Federal Reserve Bank of Minneapolis - https://www.minneapolisfed.org/article/2023/new-data-on-non-compete-contracts-and-what-they-mean-for-workersNew York Times “The Great American Labor Trap” - https://www.nytimes.com/2023/04/11/opinion/ftc-noncompete-clause-rule.htmlJon Stewart's interview with Lina Khan - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oaDTiWaYfcMHIRED: my Job Search Accelerator - https://www.bossedup.org/gethiredBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/