Your ADHD Besties

Hello, stunning tiny little ND brains!

Hi Bestiessss – It's another SPECIAL throwback episode from the early days of our PATRE0N!This episode is juicy AF and is packed with friendship dilemmas and vulnerable conversations about ADHD that we know so many of you will relate to.First up, we answer a Patreon listener question: Grace shares a bit about her AuDHD diagnosis journey (and what that's looked like over time). Tara talks through her own exploration of neurodiversity and why she feels she sits more in the ADHD-only camp.DIVERGENT DILEMMAS:

Hiii neurodivergent dreamboats

Hiiiiiiii ADHD bestie BABES! Today we're sharing the recording of our VERY FIRST live podcast event (a few weeks ago) where we celebrated the launch of Grace's book The ADHD Focus Friend... AND reaching the amazing podcast milestone of 250K downloads! We had such a wonderful time meeting some of our gorgeous listeners in person and we can't wait to meet more of you in the near future!We discuss Grace's book The ADHD Focus Friend and why it's different to traditional productivity tools because it's designed for inconsistency, demand avoidance and messiness. Grace explains how the book design reduces the load on working memory and why productivity is connected emotional regulation and nervous system regulation.We get the tea on what she DIDN'T want to put in the book and why, as well as answer questions around PMDD, parenthood, working memory, RSD and so much more. RSD corner: Tara is RSDing that you can't see her making finger quotations when uses the phrase "acting normal" in reference to ND kids , but pls know she is.Sending you allll the love and if you RSD we will just be exceptionally mad so don't plzLots of loveeeee Tara and Grace! Xxx----------------------------

ADHD BABES! YOU ASKED, AND SO (AFTER 8 MONTHS, WHOOPS!

Hello tiniest ADHD babies

Hiiiii ADHD bestiesssss we're back with another symposium on why-ADHD-can-suck-but-it's-also-going-to-be-okay-we-promise!This time we're diving into the complexity of family relationships with ADHD and covering the best dilemmas from the last 40+ episodes on dynamics with parents, parents-in-law, partners etc *Dun dun duuun!*Dilemma 1 - Holly sends a voice message dilemma on sharing her diagnosis from family and friends and facing stigma and gaslighting. We discuss: ADHD's frequency and intensityThe invisible nature of ADHDCommon misconceptions and how to address themThe energy drain of ADHD advocacy—when and how to engageDilemma 2 - An anon listener asks about an offhand comment from a mother-in-law that made this listener feel lazyWe discuss: Stopping ADHD self-criticism spiralsHandling criticism & passive aggressionWhy parent comments trigger ADHDersRe-parenting your inner child with ADHDThe invisible emotional load in ADHD familiesDilemma 3 - Sarah asks: “My parents don't seem to acknowledge or understand my ADHD. I'm 27 and still living at home, and my mum is very critical of me and my anxiety.” We discuss: ADHD & setting boundaries with parentsUn-enmeshing from family dynamicsBuilding trust through neutral & fun connectionsDilemma 4 - A gorgeous neurotypical listener asks about how to support his ADHD girlfriend, especially with confidence, negative self talk and finding accommodations for her. We discuss: Overcoming ADHD self-criticismBreaking unconscious negative thought patternsSeparating thoughts from identity for self-awarenessDilemma 5 - “How do I get my Mum to understand I'm not lazy and it's not that I don't care - I'm trying my best” We discuss: Neurodivergent energy levels & the need for restADHD hyperfocus & losing track of timeSensory overwhelm & inconsistent behavior in ADHDParental guilt about late ADHD recognitionNavigating conversations with undiagnosed ADHD parentsWe love you 4evs and we will be back with a VERY SPECIAL episode next week with the one and only Emma from @emmasmindovermatter!!!RSDing is out of the question, as always!GB and Txxxxxxxxxx----------------------------

Hi besties! On the pod today:Our Second Official ADHD Besties Symposium is here and this time we're looking at ADHD and Friendships. Why? Because when you have ADHD they can be hard bby. ---

Hello tiny little ADHD besties, this episode is the official symposium on Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (see: don't RSD), that we have curated from our stunning back catalogue and put together for you to share with people that you might have RSD'd on or around or near so that they understand what it is and why it's the yuck.

Hello stunning little neurodivergent brains On the pod this week Grace is guilt peeing and panic flushing... meanwhile Tara is finally not bogarting the eventful weeks, and ALSO she does like musicals and needs everyone to know it.

Hi tiny little ADHD babes,In today's episode, Grace is forcing Tara to do her recommendation in a Kiwi accent even though she's in the throes of PMDD (cute). We discuss important subjects: like “what ARE the cakes in men's urinals made out of?”  and "public proposals, sweet or stressful?". Meanwhile, Grace shares an inattentive moment that she's still spiralling about (spoiler: her leather couch is NOT okay

Besties, we're popping into your feed with a special announcement, and if you're a Western Australian local, you do NOT want to miss this event!We're doing our very first LIVE ADHD Besties event to celebrate the launch of Grace's amazing book The ADHD Focus Friend

Hellloooo besties In today's ep Grace is doing unimportant author-y things like promoting her chart topping book while Tara is doing genuinely important things like avoiding washing her colander.Tara gives insight into why ADHD medication is very personal and specific to each person and why it's a journey not a destination for her.

Hi bestiessssOn todays episode, Tara's out of meltdown and is a bit more organised* *she's doing HIGHLY profound things like sewing pants and brandishing bobbins with Chloe Wilder (Listen to Chloe's ADHD island here),Meanwhile Grace is taking her journals on a little beach trip (don't worry she asked them first) in her bid to stay unperceived and allowing herself to be indulgent about meeting her needs.

Oh HIII, bestie babes!In today's episode, we're ADHD-ing all over each other, and Tara is sick of people feeling bad about oversharing. Oversharing is the new sharing. Okay??? Good.

Hi bestiesssssThis week Tara will apparently do anything for a Dorset accent and Grace is asking for advice on whether she needs new beauty products, however the only answer she will accept is a resounding and supportive yes. We have a lot of fun introducing our new segment

WE ARE BACK, BABY!

Hiii neurodivergent dreamboats! We are popping in with a little update on all the goodies we've been stashing in our Patreon lately because you do NOT want to be missing this... ❤️‍

Hello ADHD babes!

Hello, stunning ND brains! Ready to join us for some juicy ADHD dilem lems while sipping your metaphorical (or literal) white wine in the sun?In this week's dilemma, a newly diagnosed ADHD mum asks for help. She's trying to build her dream Etsy shop but keeps getting sucked into hyperfixation rabbit holes on her computer (cute), and is feeling frustrated at her lack of productivity. Sound familiar?We discuss:Unconscious Scrolling: It's not laziness; it's unmet needs tapping us on the shoulder.

Heyy besties!✨BIG NEWS!! WE LAUNCHED OUR PATREON SUBSCRIPTION CONTENT THIS WEEK! ✨ Sooo many of you have already signed up... our little happy hearts are split in two with love!

Hellooooo dopamine-deprived babeeeeesIn today's episode: We're recording from our new studio and we're very excited and so are the drunk rascals below us on the street!Tara admits to reading the end of books before she finishes them (only sometimes!) and hating hairdresser scalp massages - forward your hate mail to @adhdbestiespodcast on instagram, she is expecting it.Today we're doing a RAPID FIRE DILEMMA ROUND ❤️‍

Hi besties, we have something a little bit different for you this week!First up, we're struggggling to do admin tasks, but on the plus side we were so bored at the bank that we used the hand sanitiser 200 times so our hands are super dry

Hi gorgeous besties! In today's episode: Tara's suitcase game is stronggg, Grace is always real but is getting realllly real about her ADHD.DIVERGENT DILEMMA:A beautiful trans listener asks "I was wondering if being assigned female at birth is one of the reasons why I was diagnosed late? And if you think that transgender men usually have female ADHD?" We discuss ADHD intersectionality, the interplay between nature and nurtureWhether there any biological underpinnings of ADHD in women?Whether certain ADHD traits are more likely to appear in AFAB peopleHow to separate ADHD traits/symptoms from our personalities? "What is me and what is my ADHD?"IREGGY SEGGY:We try to alleviate our impulse purchase guilt by comparing reddit confessions

ADHD BABESSSS! We're back for Season 2! In today's episode Tara is joining us from East Java

Hi ADHD besties! This is our LAST episode of SEASON 1! After this ep, we are taking a teeny tiny break and will be back with our usual episode the Thursday after next... PLUS we have some very exciting news!

Oh hiiii, ADHD Bestie babes!

Hi very beautiful neurodivergent brains!This week, we're watering our fake plants and celebrating our birthdays like the indulgent little princes we are!Dilemma 1: Our lovely listener Kerri feels like she comes across as intimidating, and it's triggering her RSD. We chat about advocating for ADHD in the workplace and embracing your unique intensity while also showing your softer side. Remember, two things can be true: you can be passionate and intense and also a kind/gentle person!Dilemma 2: A cute little Bimbo Marshall comes out of the woodwork with a question about phone calls and the stress of feeling disconnected to the person on the other end, almost like she's talking to a disembodied voice. We discuss the challenges of emotional processing and body language on calls, and why many ADHDers find emailing and texting way easier than chatting on the phone.We dive into some practical tips for how to escape those moments when you're feeling “chat-trapped” and mananging the overwhelm of keeping the conversation going like  calming your nervous system right before the call, using social scripts—like chatting about the weather to ease into the conversation and Grace gives the 'untip' of calling when the background noise is terrible and just blaming it on that!Ireggy Seggy: It's time for “ADHD or NAYDHD: The Zoo Edition”! Expect possum testicles, kangaroo gazing, tortoise tickling, and our new obsession with the Aye-Aye!Recommendations:Grace recommends: MCo Beauty Grip Primer Link and Milk Makeup Hydro Grip Primer Link.Tara recommends: An insightful article by her hero Christy Harrison on evaluating the quality of science behind supplements Link.We will be back in your insanely gorgeous ears next THURSDAYand until then DON'T RSDLOVE!Tara and Grace xxx----------------------------Join us on socials (so it's not just our husbands commenting

Hi beautiful ADHD babes!On today's show:- Grace tries relaxed parenting but gets piggy-bocked in the face, and Tara is forced to admit her STEM job from when she was 14 years old.  • Divergent Dilemma - A gorgeous listener called Ashara asks whether late night productivity and sleep issues are linked to ADHD. Ooooofff, this is a biiig question!We asked our audience whether they were night owls or early birds (worms?) and the results were (not very) surprising.We talk about why the late night hours are so appealing for ADHDers and why decompressing at night is so important for our dysregulated nervous systems. Tara talks about the link between diet and sleep cycles for ADHDers and gives some helpful tips (more on eating in episodes 4, 8, 19 & 20) AND we hear from our listeners what sort of tasks are keeping you up late at night

BONJOUR cutest babes tuning in from what is now 126 countries!

BABESSSS! YOU DID IT! We just reached A HUNDRED THOUSAND downloads in 4 months for this podcast!!! Whaaat

Hi hiii ADHD loves!In today's episode we have another bestie guestie on the podcast, Jenna Free - ADHD coach and therapist (who you may know as @adhdwithjennafree on Instagram or TikTok). We chat through two dilemmas with Jenna:• Dilemma #1 - A cute listener called Em asks: "I told my partner that I have ADHD and struggle a lot with 'time blindness'. While he acknowledged I may have ADHD and wanted to support me, he said this trait was simply “poor time management skills” and encouraged me to learn to do better. How do I explain to people what I believe to be certain before I receive the medical certainty of a diagnosis?" • Dilemma #2 - A gorgeous name twin listener called 'Tara from Texas' asks: "My son just turned 4 and I find myself exploding with anger seemingly out of nowhere almost daily. He brings me so much joy, so it kills me when I go from 0 to 1000. The most frequent advice I get is to take care of myself first because unmet needs can manifest as anger. BUT having ADHD makes self care so HARD! What is that?!"• Ireggy Seggy - we play a fun new game that Jenna suggested called 'stick and twist', where we admit to hobbies we started and the others have to guess whether we stuck with them or jumped ship.

Hi cutest babes, In this week's episode, Tara has been stealthily avoiding sleep by hyperfixating on iPhone automations and she is now Elon Musk

Hi our fave ADHD dream boats! We finally got this bad boy uploaded 8 hours late

Hi bestie babessssIn today's episode:• Grace can't buy steak, we talk about  we need to take a break from acrylics, and how this is hard for our dermatillomania (skin picking).• Divergent Dilemma #1 - we answer Jemima's question about ADHD and eating, she struggles with binge eating and feeling self-conscious about her weight. We discuss weight stigma, separating self worth and weight, weight-science -using more clear measures of health. We also touch on restriction mentality and how this can so easily lead to binge eating in women with ADHD.IREGGY SEGGY:• We are still riding the high of reading ADHD reddit threads.We have dogs laughing at us, accidental DIY/accents, arms in bins and most importantly we ask the question: how many days is too many days to eat an errant hand bag donut?RECOMMENDATIONS:• Tara recommends hair skin and nail gummies to keep those nails strong and less likely to be picked at • Grace recommends a supermarket shopping hack for ADHD brains that even the most inattentive brains won't ‘rump'. We will be back in those stunning

Hi bestiesss! In today's episode:• Grace has ADHD amnesia, and we're normalising second takes at things because we aren't always prepared for what our mouths are going to say in social interactions. • Divergent Dilemma #1 - we answer a gorgeous listener question about motivating yourself for exercise when you have ADHD. We talk about the negative stigmas around the word exercise, why exercise often induces demand avoidance and how to find joyful movement, and immediate, non-appearance-based motivators for movement.• Divergent Dilemma #2 - We discuss time management with ADHD, how people with ADHD usually won't see time in a linear way, that we see it differently in our minds. How to be kind to ourselves around our inconsistency with time and some tips that sometimes help us to manage our time, like counting down from the LEAVE time not ARRIVAL times. IREGGY SEGGY:• A listener sent us the idea for our IREGGY SEGGY this week, it's called ‘Reddit Rants'  and we're obsessed

Aaaaloha faves! Today we're delighted to bring you another episode of our miniseries 'Your ADHD Island' ✨Your ADHD Island is a NEW series where our guests are asked to dream up their perfect, ADHD-friendly island paradise free from the burdens of this neuro-normative world.

Hiii cutest ADHD loves!In today's episode:• We talk about the highs of kid-free holidays with friends and the lows of losing your

Hiiii best besties!!On today's show, we have another amazing GUESTIE

Aaaaloha faves! Today we're delighted to bring you another episode of our bonus series 'Your ADHD Island' ✨Your ADHD Island is a NEW series where our guests are asked to dream up their perfect, ADHD-friendly island paradise free from the burdens of this neuro-normative world.

ALOHA BESTIES & WELCOME TO 'YOUR ADHD ISLAND'

Hiii ADHD cuties tuning in from what is now 104 countries!

Hiiiiii fave babes! ✨In today's episode we're in ADHD burnout mode but that's okayyy!• We ‘AB-SOLUTELY' discuss how Tara's inability to feel time had her believing she could go from running 0km to 42km in the space of 3 months

Hellooo dopamine-deficient dream boats

Hiii adorable ADHD brains In today's episode:• We share our most ADHD moment of the week (Grace is still stressing about hers!)• Divergent Dilemma #1 - a listener shares that she's embarrassed about her skin picking and feels she needs to hide her hands from her colleagues.  We discuss why skin picking and nail biting is an ADHD 'stim', and is very NORMAL and nothing to be ashamed about. Plus we give our tips on how to look after your nails, seek medical help to prevent things getting worse, and be kinder to your gorgeous self.• Divergent Dilemma #2 - a recently diagnosed AuDHDer (an autism & ADHD diagnosis) called "Lonewolf" shares that she has had trouble across her life making and keeping friends. RSD has been debilitating for her and means she can push people away and be sarcastic when she feels excluded. We unpack the big themes in this one, and our Autistic friend Nina, also offers a valuable perspective.• This week's Ireggy Seggy is a brand new one called 'ADHD or NayDHD: The Bird Edition'

Hellloooo gorgeous ADHD besties! On today's show:• Listener question: Tara and Grace share their ADHD late-diagnosis stories. They explain how they first learned about ADHD, why Tara got diagnosed twice almost a decade apart, stimulant meds and struggling with low self-esteem. • Dilemma: A cute listener shares that she regrets not taking her ADHD diagnosis more seriously in her 20s. She asks how to move past self-shaming and be kinder to herself.  • Ireggy Seggy with a Guestie: Grace's hubby Eric is here with a tongue-in-cheek quiz to determine once and for all "who is the most neurotypical"? The answer might (won't) surprise you! RECS• Tara recommends watching Alone while doing bed yoga.  • Grace recommends an episode on The Imperfects podcast: Fern Brady - autistic in a non-autistic world.• BOOKS: No Bad Parts, Different Not Less, ADHD 2.0 (see our IG for more!) @adhdbestiespodcastYour ADHD Besties,Grace & Tara xx----------------------------❗️ SUBMIT your Divergent Dilemma for us to read on the podcast: https://adhdbesties.com/dilemmas/Join us on socials (so it's not just our husbands commenting

Hiii besties! ✨On today's show:• Divergent dilemma #1 - Lilian asks if she should find a new hairstylist because she's got ADHD-related RSD (rejection sensitive dysphoria). Dw, we've got you covered bby!• Divergent dilemm #2 - A newly-diagnosed ADHDer is asking about hyperactivity, stimming and rumination. BABEEE you're asking the right girls! We're stimming QUEENS

Hiiiii ADHD besties! ✨On today's minisode:We talk for way too many minutes about Weetbix (sorry!)• Divergent dilemma - A cute listener asks 'my therapist suggested I do meditation while I wait for a diagnosis and access to ADHD medication but I find it impossible'. Grace (who is a qualified breathwork and nervous system educator) explains why meditation is hard for our brains and how to make it ADHD friendly.We also talk about our favourite disco fish and how cute and special she is.

Heyyyyy ADHD bestie babes! ✨On today's show:• Grace shares a drama from her week about how ADHD meds have led to appetite suppression/meal skipping, and how a perfect storm last Friday ended up with a little trip to the hospital.