Podcasts about banish your inner critic

Our guest for Ep. 9 is author Denise Jacobs. She highlights the damaging influence of the inner critic on one's psyche. The inner critic undermines one's confidence, spreading negative comments that discourage and demoralize. Jacobs delves into the brain's inner workings and explains how the inner critic is programmed to restrain us from pursuing our goals. By confronting the inner critic and developing self-compassion, we can break free of its self-destructive cycle and achieve our dreams.Denise Jacobs is a speaker, author, and creativity Evangelist who increases employee productivity and engagement by evangelizing leading-edge techniques for busting through creative blocks to help individuals be their brilliance, cultivate collaboration, and develop leadership skills.Email: denise@enisejacobs.comWebsite: https://denisejacobs.com/BANISH YOUR INNER CRITIC on Amazonhttps://amzn.to/46wvqUGLINKEDIN LEARNING: BANISH YOUR INNER CRITICTo reach our host Joia Jefferson Nuri, PCC https://inthepubliceyecoaching.com or LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joiajeffersonnuri/

Lois Hollis has accomplished many things in her 78 years on this Earth -- for over 30 years she worked as an RN with a focus on nephrology, helping establish the first dialysis clinic in the country. Despite a long and successful career in healthcare, however, the abusive traumas she suffered in childhood continued to weigh on her and her health began to decline. Eventually she left the field of traditional medicine, seeking holistic remedies and emotional counseling. After regaining her vitality she knew that she had to help others in their suffering.   Lois ascribes many problems of the mind and body to a force she calls "shame/guilt," two emotions that are typically separated but that she says are closely related. Learning to talk with these emotions, and especially for creatives, learning to engage and master your inner critic, can help heal childhood traumas and unwind creative blocks.   Lois offers emotional counseling, and has many artlcles and blogs on her website. She has also produced a film exploring the concept of shame/guilt in three parts.   https://www.loishollis.com   Eric M. Strong https://www.ericmstrong.com IG: @art4business

Dr. Cynthia talks with Denise Jacobs… speaker, author, creativity expert and founder and CEO of the Creative Dose. Denise helps people unblock creativity through silencing their inner critic. She talks about trusting yourself and following your gut in what you pursue.  Denise helps people identify the inner critic and the voice of self-doubt that hold you back from reaching your potential. Much of what she teaches is based specific techniques neuroscience studies. 

In this episode of Surfacing, Andy and Lisa talk to the speaker, author, and creativity evangelist Denise Jacobs. They discuss Denise's evolution from digital maker to becoming a creative support system for the digital maker community, her book Banish Your Inner Critic, and Denise's latest project focusing on leaders of digital makers. Episode Transcript   About Denise Jacobs Denise Jacobs’ expertise lies at the intersection of creativity, confidence, and achievement. Denise keynotes conferences and consults with tech companies worldwide, giving a Creative Dose™ – an injection of inspiration, relevant content, and immediately applicable tools to help people do their best work. Through her company, The Creative Dose, she helps individuals and teams to hack their creative brains, banish their inner critic, and develop powerful communication and speaking skills in order to enable them to unblock creativity, cultivate collaboration, and ignite innovation. Through working with Denise, employees become engaged contributors, synergistic collaborators, and authentic leaders. Denise has presented at events and organizations worldwide such as Google, Facebook, Automattic, GitHub, FastWeb.It, the BBC, South By Southwest Interactive, Brand Minds, Forbes8, Mind The Product, The Agile Alliance, NDC Oslo, UX Week, The Society for Technical Communications, various chapters of The American Marketing Association, Creative Mornings, The Future of Storytelling, The Future of Web Design, Inbound, and TEDxRheinMain. Denise is the author of Banish Your Inner Critic, the premier handbook on silencing self-doubt to unleash creativity and do your best work. A Web Design & Development industry veteran, Denise is also the author of The CSS Detective Guide, the principal book on troubleshooting CSS code, and is co-author to the Smashing Book #3: Redesign the Web, as well as the book, InterAct with Web Standards: A holistic guide to web design. Denise is an instructor for the Stanford Continuing Studies Program and has been a guest lecturer in courses at Stanford University‘s Design Program. She is also a  LinkedIn Learning course instructor, with two of her courses in the Microsoft and LinkedIn Global Skills Initiative’s Soft Skills and Graphic Design critical learning paths. Denise’s passion projects include Rawk The Web, a movement focused on changing the face of the tech industry by increasing the numbers of visible diverse tech experts, and The Creativity (R)Evolution, a movement to spread the force of creativity as a vehicle for personal transformation and world-wide positive change. Denise's website  Denise on Twitter Denise on Instagram  Denise on LinkedIn  Denise's Facebook fan page  Denise Book – Banish Your Inner Critic  Denise Book – The CSS Detective Guide  Denise’s LinkedIn Learning Courses: Banish Your Inner Critic  Creative Collaboration  Business Case for Creativity  Creativity for All – Hacking  Denise’s craft courses – bath product making, etc. Artist Hilma af Klint   James Altucher  on being an idea machine Dashner Design & Restoration on YouTube 

Hey friends,Are you stressed? Burnt out? Or on your way to burnout? Or do you just want to become healthier?My new course will teach you what stress is. How to recognize a burnout. And how to prevent it and recover from it, by working on the pillars of health (sleep, food, exercise, clean living, active relaxation) and by changing your life (work, relationships, environment). Even if you are not burnt out or stressed, you can use these tactics to become healthier and live a longer and happier life.Check it out at https://www.azurebarry.com/burnout/ Denise R. Jacobs is a Speaker + Author + Creativity Evangelist who speaks at conferences and consults with companies worldwide. As the Founder + CEO of The Creative Dose, she promotes techniques to unlock creativity and help people become engaged contributors, synergistic collaborators, and authentic leaders. Denise is the author of Banish Your Inner Critic, the premier handbook on silencing fears to unleash creativity. She is also the Head Instigator of The Creativity (R)Evolution, and the founder of Rawk The Web. Resources:Find Denise on her website and blog https://denisejacobs.com/Check out the book "Banish Your Inner Critic"Denise's courses on LinkedIn learning

According to Denise Jacobs, Author of Banish Your Inner Critic, one of the greatest ways to strengthen a hybrid or virtual team is to lower the fear of failure and encourage people to bring out their creativity. Everyone has their unique creative gifts and by supporting your team to unleash theirs. Denise's most powerful strategy to unleash creativity is to promote failure. In today's changing environment, perhaps building up a tolerance to try fail and try again is the best way for a team to achieve great results from anywhereMany people believe that they are not creative. This belief is a myth that is holding them back from leveraging the creative power that they really have. In fact, creativity is a top desired skill in the workplace. Creativity is a skill that only humans have. It’s one of the main skills that set us apart as humans. But how do you develop it? First, uncover what you love doing and can’t stand doing. Then, increase your awareness of what you enjoy, and see where you are the most creative. Lastly, take that and start to capitalize upon it. 7 Ways to Build a Creative Team1. Get in touch with your own creativityIf you don’t believe yourself to be a creative person, ask yourself, how are you creative? What part of your day do you identify yourself using your creativity? The first step in developing your own creativity starts with recognizing that you are creative.2. Role Model BehaviorsThe first thing you should do to spark creativity on your team is to role model behaviors.By role modeling the behaviors first, you give your team permission to take on behaviors they need to spark their own creativity. 3. Develop your curiosity & Pretend to Not Be The ExpertDenise explained the importance for you to pretend that you don’t know what you know. She calls this releasing the tyranny of the expert. Working through your entire day as “the expert” blocks you from receiving valuable input. If you want to be a more creative leader, pretend to not be the expert and see what you learn.4. Fail Failure is how we learn, and failure forces you to be creative. If you want to reframe failure, fail on purpose. Deliberately do something wrong or poorly. Denise has teams do an exercise where they write the worst poem that they can possibly write. Then they discover what they learned from it. 5. Seek SurpriseTo seek out surprise, make a surprise journal. Answer the questions located in our blog. Seeking out surprises helps us become more creative. 6. Understand the mechanics of flow so you can be in it.To develop your creativity, learn to lay the foundations and set the stage for flow. Look back to times where you’ve been in a creative flow state, and you've been in the zone, think about what was happening. What you didn't realize at the time, was that in that flow state, there’s an intersection of skill and challenge. When you are walking that fine line, you get into a flow state. The way you stay in that flow state is when your skills and the challenge are equal. 7. Leverage the Power of PlayToo many people take work too seriously, underestimating the value the role play has in effectiveness. When people play, they are more productive, and do things better.

Denise Jacobs is a keynote speaker, an instructor at Stanford University, and the author of the book Banish Your Inner Critic.   In this conversation, Denise details where our inner critic comes from and the damage our faulty inner narrator does to our emotions and psyche. Denise explains how an inner critic can lead to self-sabotage, and how we can become more aware of the power of our words to help us feel more deserving and confident.   Connect with Denise on her website at https://denisejacobs.com, or on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/denisejacobs) or Twitter (https://twitter.com/denisejacobs).   Sign up for my weekly newsletter at https://www.thefollowupquestion.com/newsletter, and connect with me on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/thefollowupquestion) and Twitter (https://twitter.com/mda9449).

We’re bringing Creativity Evangelist Denise Jacobs to our virtual workshop lineup this year! Here, she chats with Lou about how the current era of “doom-scrolling” means it’s more important than ever to unlock our creative minds and make meaningful connections. One challenge of working remotely is the loss of a sense of personal connection. Having tools that allow you to collaborate in a virtual environment and overcome isolation is a way to expand the collective creativity of the whole team. Her workshop (https://rosenfeldmedia.com/public-ux-workshops/master-creative-collaboration-and-communication/) is an opportunity to expand your knowledge base, skill set, and be inspired by creativity and collaboration using new and different tools to figure out how to add extra life to the work-from-home environment. Denise’s three day workshop this February (10 hours over 3 segments: February 2-4, 2021) will focus on leveraging collective brilliance, becoming confident in sharing your ideas, and learning to be an excellent listener. Next comes “the fun part” — how to use improvisation to make collaboration feel like a game, and not like work. Denise Recommends: ° Restore Yourself by Edy Greenblatt https://www.amazon.com/Restore-Yourself-Antidote-Professional-Exhaustion/dp/0981929915 ° Around the Writer’s Block by Rosanne Bane https://www.amazon.com/Around-Writers-Block-Science-Resistance-ebook/dp/B0085DP1LM About Denise Denise Jacobs is a Speaker + Author + Creativity Evangelist who speaks at conferences and consults with companies worldwide. As the Founder + CEO of The Creative Dose, keynote speaker, and trainer, she helps individuals in companies unleash their creativity through banishing their inner critic and hacking their creative brains. Denise’s keynotes and trainings give A Creative Dose™ – an injection of inspiration and immediately applicable tools to help people do their best work. Through working with Denise, people become engaged contributors, synergistic collaborators, and authentic leaders. Denise is the author of Banish Your Inner Critic, the premier handbook on silencing fears to unleash creativity. A web and tech industry veteran, Denise is also the author of The CSS Detective Guide and co-author of the Smashing Book #3 1/3 and Interact with Web Standards. She is also the founder of Rawk The Web and the Head Instigator of The Creativity (R)Evolution.

Have you got a voice inside your head, telling you that you’re not right for the job; you don’t have the skills; somebody else would do far better, and that you’re terrible at this? Today we sit with Denise R. Jacobs who tells us why this voice is real and more importantly, why it’s wrong about you. As a speaker, author, and creativity evangelist who speaks at conferences and consults with companies around the world, we open the show by exploring Denise’s professional background. We then chat about the inspirations behind her new book Banish Your Inner Critic. Denise explains that she was in a constant battle with a critical voice in her head, which told her she was a fraud and too inexperienced to write with authority. Stay tuned, and you’ll hear how that all changed for her, and how Denise managed to come to grips with negative self-talk. Deeper into the episode, we discuss the importance of creativity, what true genius is, and how successful companies are often the most creative, irrespective of their line of work. Together, we also discover the value of the inner critic, understand where it comes from, and why it’s impossible to rid it from your mind forever. Throughout the episode, Denise walks us through science-backed exercises designed to ease anxiety and tame your inner critic. These are techniques that you can do on your own, every day, and with ease. Be sure to tune in with us for this insightful and reassuring episode.   Key Points From This Episode: Introducing today’s guest, Denise R. Jacobs. Hear about Denise’s inspiration for writing Banish Your Inner Critic. How Denise grappled with self-doubt while writing her first book. What led Denise to realize that she was capable of more than she gave herself credit for. When Denise decided that she really wanted to be teaching people. Denise tells us why creativity is so important. How creativity can help companies solve problems. Where the inner critic came from and why it can be useful. How your inner critic lives in a part of your brain responsible for implicit memory. Exercises you can do to get in touch with your inner critic and understand it. Find out how the pandemic should be approached from a mental health point of view. Denise gives us a practical lesson on how to manage anxiety. Hear about how you can use something called a ‘swipe file.’ How Denise’s techniques are backed by science. Why the goal isn’t to completely rid yourself of your inner critic.   Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:  Denise Jacobs — https://denisejacobs.com/ Denise Jacobs on LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/deniserjacobs/ Denise Jacobs on Twitter — https://twitter.com/denisejacobs Brené Brown — https://brenebrown.com/ The Creative Dose — https://thecreativedose.com/ Banish Your Inner Critic on Amazon — https://www.amazon.com/Banish-Your-Inner-Critic-Self-Doubt/dp/1633534715 Creativity Revolution on Amazon — https://www.amazon.com/Creativity-Revolution-Reinvent-Creative-Prosper-ebook/dp/B00D7MQ2PU Rawk The Web — https://rawktheweb.com/ CSS Detective Guide on Amazon — https://www.amazon.com/CSS-Detective-Guide-solving-mysteries/dp/0321683943

My guest in this episode is speaker, author and creativity evangelist Denise Jacobs. She is author of Banish Your Inner Critic, the premier handbook on silencing fears to unleash creativity and Founder + CEO of The Creative Dose. We talk about the inner critic and imposter syndrome and how to tackle both of them and boost your creative life. Show Links Show notes and transcript (https://www.polaine.com/podcasts/power-of-ten/denise-jacobs/) Denise denisejacobs.com (https://denisejacobs.com/) Denise on Twitter (https://twitter.com/denisejacobs) Denise on LinkedIn (https://www.linkedin.com/in/deniserjacobs/) Denise on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/denisejacobsdotcom) Denise on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/denisejacobs/) Amplify U (https://amplify-u.com) Denise’s Rosenfeld Workshop -  (https://rosenfeldmedia.com/public-ux-workshops/master-creative-collaboration-and-communication/) Master Creative Collaboration and Communication (https://rosenfeldmedia.com/public-ux-workshops/master-creative-collaboration-and-communication/) Andy Doctor’s Note newsletter (https://pln.me/nws) Andy on Twitter (https://twitter.com/apolaine) Andy on LinkedIn (https://linkedin.com/in/andypolaine) Polaine.com (https://www.polaine.com/) Get in touch! (https://www.polaine.com/contact)

Banish Your Inner Critic

Books to Read Based on Your Enneagram Type Information doesn’t equal transformation.Sometimes we think there's something more we need to know before we take action. Although I’m usually a take-action kind of girl, when I’m stressed I can go into analysis paralysis mode.Remember: Integration of the information equals transformation. So if you’re struggling to take action, you need a guide. In this episode, I help you take the power tools you already have hanging in your metaphorical garage and use them to accelerate the transformation of your life.Why books As you’ve dug into the enneagram, you’ve learned that each type has core motives, fears and the hidden—or not so hidden—factor that holds each of us back. The books I talk about for each enneagram type will help you unpack that factor, better understand yourself, and start digging into the core motive behind everything you do. Books for all enneagram types Personal development books are my jam. The most important book that I’ve ever read was actually given to me in rehab. The key to this book and why it’s so powerful: It can be used as a workbook. What is it? The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown. The other book every enneagram type should read is The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks. This book is great for looking at what we’re most afraid of and considering our true motives.Books for each enneagram type Going further, I talk about each enneagram type briefly as well as the book I recommend for each one and why. Here’s a quick recap:Type 1: Banish Your Inner Critic by Denise JacobsType 2: Braving the Wilderness by Brene BrownType 3: How to Do Nothing: Resisting the Attention Economy by Jenny OdellType 4: Stop Doing That Sh*t: End Self-Sabotage and Demand Your Life Back by Gary John BishopType 5: Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking by Susan CainType 6: Blink: The Power of Thinking without Thinking by Malcolm GladwellType 7: The Untethered Soul by Michael A. SingerType 8: The Power of Vulnerability by Brene BrownType 9: You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life by Jen SinceroQuotes:1:40Integration of the information equals transformation.2:47The more that you desire to grow and level up your life, the more will be required.8:02“Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every single day.” —Brene Brown8:42You can’t have the beautiful transformation without demo day.10:26“Each of us has an inner thermostat setting that determines how much love, success, and creativity we allow ourselves to enjoy.” —Gay Hendricks13:10“By giving the inner critic less of your bandwidth, you access, express, and cultivate your creativity.” —Denise Jacobs16:02“The truth about who we are lives in our hearts.” —Brene Brown21:56“You got yourself to this point in your life and I’m going to show you how you subconsciously did it—how you fucked yourself and how to dig yourself out.” —Gary John Bishop25:00“Don’t think of introversion as something that needs to be cured.” —Susan Cain33:05“You can’t numb those hard feelings without numbing the other ones.” —Brene Brown36:35“If you base your self worth on what everyone else thinks of you, you hand all your power over to other people.” —Jen Sincero

Sara Wachter-Boettcher Sara Wachter-Boettcher helps design and content professionals discover and express their leadership ability. Leaders can come from anywhere. You don't have to be in a management role. With some personal work and a little courage, you can lead from wherever you are in the digital design and content world. Sara and I talked about: the difference between leadership and management her definition of leadership the importance of recognizing that you don't have to be in a management role to lead the need for leadership in our current world situation the many internal and external messages that can lead to impostor syndrome the many ways to beging developing the reflection and other inner skills that are the foundation of leadership how work culture and tech culture can suppress our humanness the importance of recognizing what you bring to the leadership game as you observe and model other leaders the very real and justified bases for having some fear around speaking up as a leader the importance of periodically taking a realistic assessment of the amount of risk you can take - identifying the times when it's OK to be bold how to recognize that you have grown and when to make choices that you might not have made a couple of years earlier her personal challenges with balancing her identity as a content strategist with her current focus on coaching (especially in 2020) the importance in challenging times of checking in with yourself and thinking about what you need to do - "Are you willing to pause and listen to your gut?" Sara's Bio Sara Wachter-Boettcher is an author, speaker, coach, and strategist dedicated to changing design and tech for good. She’s the founder of Active Voice, a coaching and training company helping organizations build radical, courageous leadership practices. Her most recent book, Technically Wrong: Sexist Apps, Biased Algorithms, and Other Threats of Toxic Tech, was named one of the best tech books of the year by Wired. She also wrote Design for Real Life (with Eric Meyer) and Content Everywhere, and has been published in The Washington Post, The Guardian, and McSweeney’s. Find her at home in Philly, on Twitter @sara_ann_marie, or at sarawb.com. Resources Mentioned in the Podcast Brené Brown's leadership website Denise Jacob's Banish Your Inner Critic book Video Here’s the video version of our conversation: https://youtu.be/gHa8rAb6lI4 Podcast Intro Transcript There's a clear distinction between management and leadership. The two practices are often conflated, but they're really quite different. Sara Wachter-Boettcher helps design and content professionals understand the differences and become effective leaders. You need to do some serious self assessment, and you'll probably need to take some risks, but the benefits of improving your leadership game can be enormous. At the very least, you'll grow as a person. At best, you can restore some humanity to a sometimes bleak digital work culture. Interview Transcript Larry: Hi, everyone. Welcome to episode number 82 of the Content Strategy Insights Podcast. I'm really happy to be welcoming back Sara Wachter-Boettcher. Sara was on the show, god, more than two years ago, way back in the early days. I'm really happy to have you back. Sara, for the two of you who don't know who she is, I'll just quickly talk about, Sara's a long time or a real content strategy pioneer, a UX practitioner, and she's moved on now, and that's what we're going to talk about today, into more leadership roles around content and design practice. She's really, I think, justifiably well known for the book she's done, Content Everywhere, Design for Real Life, and Technically Wrong. But anyhow, welcome to the show, Sara. Tell the folks a little bit more about what you're up to these days and welcome. Sara: Yeah, sure. Thank you, Larry, it's great to be back. So, yeah,

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Silencing Your Inner Critic In this episode James Taylor interviews Denise Jacobs and they talked about silencing your inner critic, dealing with imposter syndrome and Denise's journey from college teacher to speaker. In today's episode Denis Jacobs talks about silencing your inner critic, dealing with imposter syndrome and Denise's journey from college teacher to speaker. Denise Jacobs is a Speaker, Author and Creativity Evangelist who speaks at conferences and consults with companies worldwide. As the Founder and CEO of The Creative Dose, she promotes techniques to unlock creativity and spark innovation in people, teams, and workplaces, particularly those in the tech world. Denise is the author of Banish Your Inner Critic, the premier handbook on silencing fears to unleash creativity. She is also the founder of Rawk The Web and the Head Instigator of The Creativity (R)Evolution. What we cover: Silencing Your Inner Critic How Denise dealt with imposter syndrome Denise's journey from college teacher to keynote speaker Resources: Denise's Website Denise's Free Gift to you. Please SUBSCRIBE ►http://bit.ly/JTme-ytsub ♥️ Your Support Appreciated! If you enjoyed the show, please rate it on YouTube, iTunes or Stitcher and write a brief review. That would really help get the word out and raise the visibility of the Creative Life show. SUBSCRIBE TO THE SHOW Apple: http://bit.ly/TSL-apple Libsyn: http://bit.ly/TSL-libsyn Spotify: http://bit.ly/TSL-spotify Android: http://bit.ly/TSL-android Stitcher: http://bit.ly/TSL-stitcher CTA link: https://speakersu.com/the-speakers-life/ FOLLOW ME: Website: https://speakersu.com LinkedIn: http://bit.ly/JTme-linkedin Instagram: http://bit.ly/JTme-ig Twitter: http://bit.ly/JTme-twitter Facebook Group: http://bit.ly/IS-fbgroup Read full transcript at https://speakersu.com/silencing-your-inner-critic-sl077/ James Taylor Hi, it's James Taylor, founder of SpeakersU. Today's episode was first aired as part of International Speakers Summit the world's largest online event for professional speakers. And if you'd like to access the full video version, as well as in depth sessions with over 150 top speakers, then I've got a very special offer for you. Just go to InternationalSpeakersSummit.com, where you'll be able to register for a free pass for the summit. Yep, that's right 150 of the world's top speakers sharing their insights, strategies and tactics on how to launch grow and build a successful speaking business. So just go to InternationalSpeakersSummit.com but not before you listen to today's episode. Hey James Taylor here and I'm delighted today to be joined by my good friend Denise Jacobs. Denise is a speaker, author and creativity evangelist who speaks at conferences and consults with companies worldwide. As the founder and CEO of the creative dose she promotes techniques to unlock creativity and spark innovation and people teams and workplaces. Particularly those in the tech world. Denise is the author of banish your inner critic, the premier handbook on silencing fears to unleash your creativity which has just come out as well. She is also the founder of rock the web and the head instigator of the creativity revolution as my great pleasure to have her join us today. So welcome, Denise. Denise Jacobs Thank you so much for having me, James. It's such a pleasure and an honor. James Taylor So something happened for you this week, which I know the speakers is like, it's always a big deal. Your your new book came out and you would you did your book launch event as well. So how was that first of all? Denise Jacobs phenomenal so the book came out last last yesterday and it was wonderful because I was waking up in the morning with text messages from friends that are like, I got the Kindle. I got it dropped. I got it, which was really really nice. One friend sent me sent me a picture of the of the Kindle announcement, and then he sent a little gift that said, Hey, boo. And then I was getting like text messages and calls from friends that are just like I'm so proud of you this is great. But all of that I get I won't say his overshadow but I will have to say was even more enhanced by the book launch event that I had at my favorite local independent bookstore called books and books here in Miami, Florida, phenomenal bookstore. And it was great, you know, on Facebook, I think, like 74 people said they were going to attend in 259 people said that they were interested, which I was like, that's not that doesn't suck, right. So and then a friend of mine was like, well, it's Miami so you can count on like half the people who said that they're interested, you know who were going to come coming, but it doesn't matter. It was standing room only for the most part. All the chairs were filled. They didn't have enough chairs. Everybody We started on time, which is also uncharacteristic for Miami. Everybody was there by seven. And I had a panel. So it wasn't just me doing a standard reading. I had a panel of four friends of mine who were also like do amazing work in the community here. One friend is an author and a professor of creative writing at the University of Miami. And she does a lot of work activism with the Filipino community worldwide. And also with writers of color like mentoring and teaching writers of color for a program a fellowship program over the summer. Another friend started it was a co founder of a company that gives news and events and everything for local communities. There's one in Miami and they just launched one in Seattle, and then they're launching them all over the country. But she also does like entrepreneurship training and mentoring and stuff for the LGBTQ Another one started a startup here that has become incredibly successful doing face recognition. And then he also mentors, other entrepreneurs, young entrepreneurs pitching printers of color. And then finally, the last guy is a professional musician. He started an organization that helps keep at risk youth off of the street by teaching them music and giving them the ability to learn music and to become musicians and to perform phenomenal people. Right and but there are these phenomenal people who all deal with the inner critic, and I'll deal with self doubt. So we had this fantastic conversation based on the structure of the book about the ways that they experienced self judgment, high self criticism, compare themselves to others, denied you know, their creativity, and then how they've overcome all of that to contribute to the world meaningfully with their talents and gifts. It was insane. It was so good. James Taylor I didn't know that that whole process was speaking to you as you were going through a writing a book, very solitary process. And I know you're really excited now to kind of get on the road be keynoting about it, be speaking about it do book events about it as well. So before we kind of go into some of the things around the book and how it specifically how it relates to to authors, take us back. How did you get into the world of speaking? How did you start your career as a keynoter? Denise Jacobs So, I have a bit of a story, but the short version of it is, is that a long time ago, in a galaxy far, far away, I started making soap, herbal handmade soaps and people started asking me what's in the soap. And I said, it's super easy. I can teach you how to make it come over to my house. I'll show you how to make it. So I did that a couple times had like five, four or five, six people each time and I thought to myself, if I had like 20 people, that would be like, outstanding, and at the time, it wasn't making much money. So I was like, I could make like $800 in a day. When that becomes Back in the late 90s, and so I started teaching the soap making class. And so there were a couple of things that happened. The first one was that I had this very strong sense that it was going to be very popular. But the place that was going to be putting the class on said, you know, it's better instead of having like two sessions of the class, it's better to have one than have it be mostly filled then have two that are half filled or not much filled at all. And I was like, thinking to myself, but you don't understand this is gonna, like totally take off and I was like, Okay, okay, we can do that. So, three weeks after their fire had gone out into the mail, and it's like, you know, distribution of like, 30,000 units all over Seattle, where I used to live and everything. The director calls me up and she's like, hey, Denise, it's Tiffany. I was like, what's up tip? She says, your class is full headspace for 22 people who said it's full. And there's a waiting list of 16 people. Did you want to open up another session? And I was like, Yes. So when I did the class, I hadn't slept the whole night. I had worked so hard on the handout, I got to the venue probably 15 minutes before the class started, I was exhausted. I pulled boxes up three flights of stairs. I mean, it should have been an awful experience. It was one of the best experiences of my entire life up to that point. I was walking on air afterwards, I had an audience I had people who wanted to learn I, I talked for three hours, I led you know, the exercises and everything. And I got to crack jokes and I got to be informative, and I got to share you. It was just it was such a wonderful experience. And after that, I was I was hooked. I kept wanting to do the workshop and then, you know, I was also working in the web industry. And it finally occurred to me after being in a meeting where my man was a project manager, which is the worst thing for me to do ever in the history of ever on the planet. My manager had, like, totally dressed me down in front of like everybody on the team and the team meeting and I was in the room crying, just despondent and everything and I kind of picked myself up, it's okay. I have a, I have a soap making class tomorrow, it's all going to be okay. And that soap making class it was as normal. Amazing, right? Fantastic. But then at the end, you know, I just had the experience the day before of being completely and utterly criticized for my work, even though I was working my butt off, right. Then this day, this class, it's like, it's enjoyable. Everybody's enjoying it like everybody's having a good time. I'm having a good time. I love doing it. So in the class, everybody got to make a box. So, like they actually got to make it by hand, scented by hand and everything poured into a mold and then they take that home. So this woman has the boxes. So she has a handout, and she has her check, because I haven't pay at the end of the thing and she's standing there with everything in her hand and she comes up to me. As she's leaving. She was like, Oh my god, that was so much fun. That was such a great class. You are such a great teacher here and she gives me the check and she kind of flounces off. And I watched her go by and something in my brain said, this is how it's supposed to feel. This is what it's supposed to be like, you're supposed to be happy. You're supposed to enjoy it. And people are supposed to renumeration you for your skill and your talents and your gifts. And from that moment on, I thought maybe I should teach. I started teaching web design and web development classes at Seattle Central Community College. I did that for five years. Then after that, I went to my first conference. And I went to my first conference, after having taught the classes and loving teaching the classes, best job I ever had as a job job, right, like if somebody else paying me, I went to this conference and my mind was blown because the woman who I saw I went to the conference to see this woman I had been teaching from her books. I admired her tremendously. Her name's Molly coach leg, actually, she's like the fairy godmother of the web industry. Or she was because now she's decided to stop doing web stuff. But at the time, she was like, a huge name in the web industry. I went to the conference to see Molly speak. And I sat in the front like the geek that I am, and I was watching her and as I was watching her, basically I saw myself on the stage, she and I were so similar. We had similar content. We had similar deliveries. We made the same kind of jokes. And instead of me looking at her and thinking, that's something I could never do, I was like, that is totally accessible for me. Like the only difference between me and her is that she gets to go to all of these conferences all the time and stay in fancy hotels and get flown places, and I'm in a classroom. That's the only difference. I want to do that. And that's, that laid the whole foundation for me deciding to become a speaker. James Taylor So you you speak about what you speak about now well, if he will know you for is this idea of the inner critic and how dealing with the inner critic. So I'm, I'm wondering, you know, a lot of people go to those conferences and sit there and they see that person up on stage and they think, yeah, I could, you know, I want to do that. I love that and they can see the impact is having on others. It's how people are learning. They're being impacted on it. Then is a big jump from that point to the point of actually doing the work then to kind of even making that mental decision that I am going to do the work to do that and be that person on stage and, and and change the world in that way. So did you have any? Any doubts at that point? Or were you like, okay, now I'm just gonna do this? Denise Jacobs No. So I knew inside, I knew that that's what I wanted to do. I had absolutely no idea how I was going to do it, which was the big point of departure. Right? Like, I was like, what how do you? What do you do? How do you become a speaker? What I mean, like, what's the mechanism? And so, you know, I had started like telling people I wanted to speak, but it still wasn't really quite going anywhere. Like I still didn't know how to kind of crack the speaking code. And then I was at South by Southwest in 2009. And I was sharing a hotel room with a friend. And I was lamenting to her about how I really wanted to speak. And I was like, What do I have to do to become a speaker? Like I don't, is like, do you have to sell your soul to the devil like firstborn blood? What is it like, I, I just want to be a speaker. And she says to her, she says to me in her infinite amount of wisdom, well, the other people I know who have done it have written a book. And I was like, Girl, I was like, the only book that I feel qualified to write is a book on HTML. And Lord knows that the world doesn't need another book on HTML. There's plenty of them. Like how many more ways can you can't slice this up any other way? She's like, all I'm saying is, this is my observation. This is what I've seen. Take it or leave it and I was like, Okay. Long story short, couple of days later, I'm at a party and run into a friend who's there with his editor. She works for a technical publishing house. She says, We're Always looking for authors. And I had this idea about a book on troubleshooting CSS, I'm looking for somebody to write it. And I'm like, I could write it me right here. I used to teach that stuff for five years at a community college. And so let's talk. We talked, like, submitted a proposal, she pitched it, I got a book deal. And so I wrote the book. And when the book came out, all of a sudden, this, this thing that had been in my head as a barrier was gone. This thing of like, how do I establish myself as an expert? How do I get people to actually be interested in like, having me come and talk about something like all of a sudden, I that was not all of a sudden after nine months of writing, that was gone. And so then I started, like, I, I had this kind of self confidence and self assuredness that I hadn't had before I had this expert status. from having written a book behind me. And so I just started reaching out to people, I started reaching out to conferences, the frary first conference that I reached out to, to see if they would have me as a speaker. I saw that they had an announcement for this talk that I had just written my book on. And it said speaker to be determined. And I saw that and my stomach like, James, I'm telling you, my stomach flipped. You know, how your stomach flips when you Yeah, like almost butterflies or just kind of flips when you get excited about so my stomach went. And I was like, and so I actually talked to the conference organizer, the owner of a guy who ran the company that went to conferences like the year before, and they were like, We don't have enough female speakers. We don't have enough diversity, blah, blah, blah. And I was like, I want to speak at your conference. And he was like, what do you what are you talking about? And I was like, I'm, so I wrote him back. And then I also wrote the conference organizers said, Hey, I just wrote this book, it's about this thing that you've got on your website, I would love to do a talk on it. You know? Would you like me to come out and do that? And they were like, We would love that. And then it was like, from there on it was just on. Like after that like that just and that was a conference in London. You know, I'm based in Miami. I was like, what not only is it like my first bit by me after my book comes out my first speaking engagement, but internatia know what's James Taylor so funny that you say you see that? It's like it was the first gig I ever got was International. It wasn't in my home country. And I speak to so many speakers, they say that the biggest places that the speaking are not their home territory, you're I keep forgetting that phrase. And that phrase we say you never recognize in your own place, you know where we're from, isn't it and sometimes they could be your own cities and your own country as well. So you started getting on on the road of going and speaking speaking at conferences, but I'm guessing there's a there's quite a big jump from going from the person who's going in Speaking maybe in those kind of those rooms talking about something like, like CSS or HTML, more kind of almost like training going into speaking. And then the person that's up on there that's getting paid to be a keynote speaker, you know, either opening or closing. So talks about, where did that journey go? How did you kind of go get up to the point of actually going and being the person there, you know, you know, opening or closing or kind of keynote on the mainstage? Denise Jacobs Well, here's the thing. here's, here's what, at least this is the story that I tell myself and it's a good story, so I'm sticking with it. Um, so part of the story that I tell myself, I've been telling myself or what I've observed, is, when I first started speaking, even though I was talking about HTML, or CSS or whatever, usually CSS, I always told it within the context of a story or within the context of a theme, right? And then when I started going towards other like, you No other topics, but within still within kind of a technical realm, I still had this kind of tendency to do kind of have this like, kind of go through this journey and have like this home full note. When I started talking about creativity, that was even more pronounced that it was within the context of, you know, there was there was this contextualization, this kind of story, this kind of like, here's the problem. Here's the solution. Here's what we can do. Here's the new hope, as Nancy Duarte talks about in her book resonate, right when she talks about, I don't know if you've read this No. So this book by Nancy Duarte is called resonate, and it's about how to resonate with audiences. And she has this structure that she's talked about with speaking called a sparkline. And the sparkline basically looks a lot like basically if you start off kind of at a baseline and then you go up and she calls this kind of like that. area called the new home. And she goes, she actually tracked the most popular talks, the most moving and influential talks of all times, it'd be to perone Martin Luther King, you know, Kennedy, etc. And he said they all have the same structure start off with, here's the problem. Here's the issue. Here's the new hope. Here's the problem. Here's the issue. Here's the new hope. Here's the problem. Here's the issue, here's my hope. And then at the end, you go up kind of a higher level. Here's like, the whole brand new way kind of paradigm shift, paradigm shift, and boom, the end. I didn't realize it but that I was actually structuring my talks like that James Taylor even when you were talking about C CSS something which people think is a really like, quite, you know, very technical type of thing. You were still you you still had that kind of some you've got a story arc but you had that way, Denise Jacobs a bit. But when I started talking about creativity, like I was saying, it became even more pronounced. And so at the end it like ends up with this whole like kind of new paradigm new worldview. If you make these changes, you can get to this new, better higher place. So, interestingly enough, I spent probably two years talking about creativity. Am I in the inner critic within that and, you know, your brain hacking the creative brain and things like that. When I started doing keynotes. I was basically doing the same talks. And I realized, and this is, again, this is the story that I told myself, but what I realized is, is that I had always been doing keynotes. I just had been doing keynotes in a keynote venue, right, that my speaking style and my way of presenting information and my way of storytelling and everything and what I'm trying to achieve with my talks, right with my teachings with the lessons, is basically a keynote. Right that there that there is this whole thing About Okay, here's the issue, here's what we can do, here's some information to support it. The story are and here's what we can do to make it better we can create a better New World, like a new paradigm. So that's it's been how I how I spoke. James Taylor So going on to start speaking on those biggest stages as the keynote speaker, talk about your own inner critic. So you you that's your your subject, the book is around the inner critic as well. Did you was the inner critic there and what was it kind of going for you on? Is it was it going on copy your content? Was it good was it was it was attacking you? Denise Jacobs So when I very first started, especially when I was doing the technical stuff, my inner critic was really strong about imposter syndrome. And part of it had to do not. Part of it was I don't want to say circumstantial, I think part of it. I don't know if I want to say cultural I'm not quite sure what word to use to Describe it, but part of it was, because in the tech industry, as you probably are well aware, the tech industry is predominantly male and predominantly white. And I am neither of those things, right. And so, you growing up being a woman and being an African American woman, I've always been keenly aware of people's biases, and having to work to undermine and change those biases, even though they may be subconscious. They're there. I've had so many people say, oh, Mike, you're so articulate, oh my God, you're so well spoken. It's a joke in the black community that when somebody says to you, you're articulate and well spoken, it is actually really a jab, because the saying what they what they're saying is, I wasn't expecting you to be smart. I wasn't expecting you to be capable. I wasn't expecting you expecting you to be you know, An expert or have expertise, right? It's, it's like I said, it's like it's a joke. It's in movies and everything. But it's like, that's where it comes from. And so, I'm going into a situation I'm going into an industry where I know people can deny it backwards and forwards. But I know that that bias exists. For some people, it's stronger than others, but I know it's there. So I came in the door feeling like I had to prove that I was not I was not those things. And I also had to prove beyond a shadow of a doubt that my work and that might the things that I was presenting were solid, that I it wasn't that I wasn't smart enough to figure it out. It wasn't that I wasn't I couldn't do the research and stuff like that. I was like, Oh, no, you I, I probably done more research than everybody else, because I don't want anybody to try to, like, contest like, you know, challenged me on it. Yeah. And so my inner critic worked, I was really hard I worked really hard at trying like double checking and triple checking and trying to kept keep up with the most up to date accurate information because I didn't, I was terrified of somebody trying to challenging me. And, and saying, you know, basically saying, oh, you're not good enough and see this is this is this is what black people are, this is what women do, you know, women aren't as good at Tech, or people of color aren't as good as tech. And you know, and I was like, Nope, I'm not going to be the poster child for that I'm going to be the poster child for excellence. So my inner critic you work really really hard on that it actually burned me out. So you James Taylor can't you are constantly kind of like double you were you can double checking so often and all these things all the time and I don't know what that feels like. Less so from from the speaking side more. So when I create online courses, for example. I'm almost I'm almost thinking like I'll create them once like for myself. Because I thought if I don't like my course then no words are like very cool. So I create first myself. Then I created for my audience, my ad or reader, my angel person. And then I go back round again. And I read a check for my haters. figures, I know they're gonna be there so and as she was my wife is great at that she's very good at detail. She's my wife is a former lawyer is a lawyer and so she's she's the one that goes up. No, no. And I remember one of the first keynote she had asked me to do, she said, I've got you this booking. And I think you should do it. And she said, it's for some of the top judges and lawyers and advocates in Scotland where I'm from. So these are people that are paid very well. And a very, very gifted speaking and very gifted at my breaking someone down. And, and yeah, so it's like, okay, and I come from I don't come from a particularly, I come from pretty kind of humble background and there wasn't much money. I found everything so, so that's kind of there's there's also a class thing that gets going on there as well. And so I'm constantly thinking I'm double checking and double J. And then she said to me, at one point, she said, You got to remember the, you know, the, the people in the room, they're going to have those biases against you, they're going to say, He's too young to be saying this, he's gonna be saying, you didn't get to rate school. So these are the biases that I'm getting. And I'm, you know, that's from my side. So you kind of thinking through those things as well. But then at some point, you just have to go, listen, I know my stuff. Denise Jacobs You know, and I'm here to like, in a lot of ways, it's like, I'm here to serve, you know, like, I'm here to teach, I'm here to share this information. Like, I have a joy and especially, you know, when I got to the point of not doing the technical stuff anymore, and doing the, you know, really talking about creativity and productivity and the inner critic, and you know how to, like, you know, tweak your brain so that it gets into a creative state more easily and stuff like that. It was like I have, first of all, one of the things I liked about that I was like, nobody can challenge this. I mean, you can challenge this but like, all the research is out there, this is evergreen information, this is not going to change with a new trend or some new technology, like this is the information that's going to be here like all the time. So there's less kind of like, you know, people like checking in like, Well, you know, if you bring in neuroscience, maybe but it's like, you know, less of a place of being challenged. But then I also really was in a place of like, this is my joy, like, it's my joy to share this with you like this. And I'm, I'm like a kid in a candy store with this, like, I'm so excited. And I just can't wait to share with you all the things that I found because I think this is really going to help you you know, and getting to that place so so there was there's definitely there was definitely that element to it. But like I said at the beginning the inner critic imposter syndrome was really was really strong, comparing myself to Other people was really strong, feeling like I wasn't good enough I have for the longest time. So we're talking about humble beginnings and not a lot of money. I made like a major. It was a major learning, like, major learning event for me. But for the first two years, I didn't charge for my speaking. As a matter of fact, for the first three years, I didn't charge for my speaking because I had this unreasonable belief that I never challenged or checked with anybody that getting paid was kind of based on this merit system. That getting paid was based on if people thought you were good enough, then they would start to offer you money. I know it's silly, right? Because I didn't have anybody like mentoring me or anything to be like, Girl, you know, you need to ask to get paid, like quit playing like, you do something. And I actually did finally have a friend who was like, wait a minute, wait a minute. timeout, you're doing all of these speaking engagements and you're not getting paid. And I was like, No, cuz I thought and she was like, no, that's not how it works. You ask for money, they pay you, or they don't. But you always ask for money. So what James Taylor do you have, you can send to go get over that guy, Kevin pasta syndrome that was kind of one of the first kind of humps you had to kind of get over. And then you were kind of getting over the thing of not knowing enough and then starting to can, you know, maybe compare yourself to others are kind of getting over there. And then you're going another humps, like, I can charge for this and she's really starting to charge properly. You know, what, what you were you were worth as well, I'm right, I'm wondering, you know, what was what was the kind of language in your head? What were you able to say to yourself in those moments? You know, so you're you had some new mentors as well, but what was going on in your head? The things that you able to kind of say to yourself to say no, I am worth this and and and really, you take that next step up your speaking career. Denise Jacobs Well, part of it was you The numbers were kind of in my favor, in a lot of respects. So I, I kind of obsessively keep track of every single speaking engagement I've had, and I have it on my, on my speaking calendar, I have like, back from 2008 all the way to the present, right. And so unlike in 2008, there was one event and in 2009, there were two events. And in 2010, there were 15 events in 2011. There were 18 events, you know, and it's like, every year it gets more so by the time I got to 2015, and I was like, wow, you know, in 2010 I did, what 10 1215 events or something like that. And then in 2012, I did 20 Obviously, I'm doing something like, you know, like I'm doing something right. People are coming to me and asking me to come and speak. Obviously I have value and obviously then that means that I can I can ask for money. Now the funny thing is, is that my first amount of money was very low. And I found that out by my very first keynote talk, or actually, technically, it was the second. I had been booked for a talk in August. But then organization came to me, like at the end of May, and said, We want you to come and speak in July. And I was like, okay, so I had had this number in my head, and I, you know, tried it out with a few people, and they were like, Oh, we can't afford that. And I was just like, Okay, so this obviously is a number that's, quote, high unquote. So when I spoke to this thing, and they were like, we're so excited. We want you to PT No, we can't wait. We've got this other person for the opening. We want you to be closing, blah, blah, blah. And I was like, Okay, great. And they were like, Okay, so let's talk compensation. And then they're like, we can give you a pass and we can we'll do the hotel and just and I'm thinking to myself, Oh my God, oh, Okay, here we go. They don't have much budget that's like the way they're talking. And so then she was like, so I was like, so then I tried to play it cool. Well, for something like this, what I typically charge is this amount. And I'm telling you, James, it was like I said the number and then it was like, beat. Beat. Beat. Okay, well, great. So, listen to the stuff and we'll do this and we're so excited about and as soon as she responded, I was like, daggone it to level there. Yeah. They were like, quoting the breads, like, it's gonna be like, $20,000 Oh, my God, it's gonna be so expensive. And then I come down with this, like, cute little number. And they were, they were like, probably like, Oh, my God, Christmas came early this year. Right. James Taylor But it's so hard. I mean, it's especially when you get so you're going up, you're going up in different steps. I mean, there's, so we hear these different steps. You know, there's the 1500 and then there's the two 500 to 5000 7000 510,000 and 15,000 and 20,000 and 30,000 in your goes up from there. So you hear all these numbers all the time. But no one really tells you like what that like the the differences between and actually this we had one of our other guests named James who was great was just talking about the difference often from the someone that earns the seven and a half to cert and earns the 15,000. And a lot of that is because they have some intellectual property. They're really bringing some contextual models that they're bringing. So like the Stephen Covey that you know, the seven habits and the quadrants and things like that. So they're adding something more than just the speaking is really hard to nose early. I'm the advice I yeah, the advice I got was I got this my first inquiries, and I reached out to to speak a friend and I said, I have no idea what's charged here and it was it was in Middle East. No idea what's charged. What do you what do you suggest? I said, easiest way, just say to them, what do you charge? Listen, I usually charge this, but just pay me whatever you paid last year's keynoter. Anyway, anyway, so I said that anyway, okay, and that's fine. And then the fee was it was a very good fee. And it's like, that's, that's fine. I'll I'll do it until you get a bit of a feel about, you know, where things are sitting. Denise Jacobs Hmm. And I might try that. I'm just afraid that the last year's keener there was like, and like, James Taylor thankfully, I knew enough about last night's key. He knows that go is fine. I'm sure I think I'll be okay. Yeah. Denise Jacobs Yeah. Okay. So. So, after that, after that experience, I was lamenting to a friend of mine who was a very popular keynote and it has done a lot of work speaking and I was just like, Donna, this happened. And she was like, Okay, first of all, this is the amount that you should be charging for what you do. And I was like, that's a much better number and she was like, Okay, and then over the course of the hour, conversation that we had. She basically kind of subliminally coached me. And she kept like, we talked about something. And then she stopped. And she said, so if I were an event, an organization that wanted you have to have you come and keynote, what would you What would you charge? And I was like, that number you just said, and she was like, Okay, and then should we talk some more? And then she said, so I'm an organization, I'm having an internal event. I want you to come and like do a keynote and then maybe, like, do a training afterwards or something like that, you know, but so what's your day rate? And I was like, that number? And she was like, Okay, great. And then by the end of the conversation, she was like, so if I want you to do this, how much would it cost? And I was like, James Taylor it was just a repetition. It's like it like any sales thing. It's it's being able to be confident in the build to stand behind the number. And but balter, have said it enough times that you don't do that, and it's theirs. And I think kind of want to quickly say something in order to fill up the space. Denise Jacobs Right? It's like to say the number and then just be silent. Yeah, right. And I still I still have to practice that. So interestingly enough, the next place that I talked to, I said that number and they didn't blink. They're like, okay, ba ba, ba, ba, ba, ba. And I was like, Well, wait, that was too easy. Damn it. So it's been it's been interesting. And then every time I've kind of jumped up a number, interestingly enough, it's like, you know, I'll find like, I'll have like somebody who's like, Oh, great. That's exactly what we had budget for. And I'm like, Oh, okay. Okay. Okay. Okay, I'm not, I'm not fighting it. Yeah, you know, so, I've had good luck, but I you know, I think it's really good like you said to have, it's super important like, having my friend My having my friend Donna. Coach me through that was invaluable. Having somebody who knows better or knows more Or has a better idea of your value than you do is huge. So one thing that I, I warn people that I that I coach speaking with and stuff is that their information is only as good as their experience. Right? So there, there may be a point where they're doing that based on what they would charge. But as soon as you get to a point where you're on par with what they charge or beyond what they charge, then they're not going to be able to give you advice anymore, right? Like if you if you need to uplevel then you need to talk to people who are at a higher level than they can train you. Okay, great. You've got to this part, you know, this Echelon, you want to move up to the higher one. These are the things that you need, like your friend saying, okay, you know, the difference between 70 515,000 is intellectual property, the difference between 15,000 and 20,000 is so and so the difference between 20,020 5000 whatever and it It's always nice to like, be able to identify and connect with and talk to those people who can mentor you to help kind of pull you up to the next level if that's what you want to do. James Taylor So, when you you kind of getting into the world of keynoting we always be sure about your, your voice and your style. I mean, sounds like you kind of knew that the keynoting not the start, but you can quickly figured out that actually, I am a keynote I am that's that's that's the best platform for me to do. But as you start to do that was Did you feel you had to do a lot in terms of your your style, the craft or the you know all the things or did it just feel great? It was just been natural. You just happy being up there on stage and it just kind of flowed? Denise Jacobs For me. It was the ladder for sure. I felt like Like I said, I felt like I realized that when I had that first keynote. It was for that one was a little cute little keynote fee and stuff like that, but it was a fantastic experience. And it was the first time that I had, first of all keynoted. And it was actually the first time that I also had done a closing keynote. And I didn't realize at the time that what I was doing was, I won't say completely unusual. But I've heard from even speakers. I'm working with a speaker's bureau. And the woman that I worked with said, Yeah, like, not everybody does that even for closing keynote, that for closing keynote, I will go to the opening keynote, any other keynotes before me, I'll try to go to individual sessions and stuff like that. And I will take notes like a, like the geek that I am, I will take really copious notes. I'll take pictures of the slides and stuff like that. And then I will take that and I will incorporate that into my talk to connect with the points that are the similar points and stuff like that. So I've had people say a lot of times, like, not only was the talk itself good, but it also you know, or was it like really, like amazing but it also was like this kind of retrospective of the whole conference. And so it made me remember these different points of the conference that I had forgotten about and made me feel more connected to the event itself by the end. James Taylor That's not I mean, that's that that's a huge I mean, that is not common. I mean, obviously you get those keynotes are very good at kind of the end of getting the energy up, especially when people you know, had a couple of days of something and those kind of folks but to be able to do what you do there, which is going to bring all these different strands together and help help just kind of slowly solidify them so when people are leaving that room, it just kind of it brings a little bit together these different different strands, that that's great. That's a great skill to have. And and that is definitely not that not every keynote, including keynotes does, but I think that's great that you're able to do that because that's that's a real talent to do that. Denise Jacobs I love and I love doing it. Like for me it's it's um, you know, I study I have studied improv, I've done improv and for me, it is It's kind of like this active. No, really, first of all, it's like active listening. Like, I could go to a keynote, I could just sit there and hang out, but I'm really, really paying attention and really listening. And so it puts me into the conference, it puts me into the mind frame of a conference attendee. Right. And then it helps me deliver something that's really unique, and really valuable that other people don't do. And so I also feel like then I give the conference organizers something that they that is like, above and beyond what they even expected. And then, you know, hopefully then that will endear me to them, and you know, make them feel like wow, that was really something very special. Like I didn't even think it was going to be like that. And that was amazing. James Taylor As you start to finish up here, what is in your speaker bag, what is in that bag that you carry with you to all of your speaking engagements that you never leave home without? Denise Jacobs Wow, well, one of the things that I learned very early on is to always have the adapters for I have a Mac. And to always have an adapter and to not only have the adapter but make sure you like a kid with tags and your clothes for camp. Make sure that you personalize the adapter. I always have my my name and my address my phone number and my email on there so that if I lose it, people can find me and get it back to me. But I did a talk at South by Southwest. This was before I did the adapter thing. I did a talk at South by Southwest and I didn't have an adapter and I had to ask the audience if somebody had an adapter they didn't have one was in a small room and ask the audience if they had an adapter so I could connect my computer to the screen to the to the projector and I was like okay, I'm never doing that again. So I have one for an HDMI connection and I also have one for VGA connection and the other thing that I always come with that I know never rely on the conference for is a presenter. Here I have my own clicker that I really like I like the way it fits in my hand. It's a Kensington presenter, it's the one that's kind of shaped like a like an eight like a figure eight. It fits in your hand really well it's got really nice ergonomics and and it also comes with if you get the like higher end one It comes with a USB like thing that you can actually store on. So if you need to put your presentation on a USB and give it to the, the organizer of the conference, you can do that. So I feel like just having those kind of those little bits of those little gadgets just makes things a little bit a bit easier. And I think it also makes you look like you really know what you're doing. You're like I do this all the time. I got all my own gadgetry. If you if you guys have stuff that you want to use, that's fine, but I've got my own things you don't have to worry about it. James Taylor So do me a favor. Final question for you. Let's imagine you woke up tomorrow morning. And you had to start from scratch as a speaker. So you have all the skills or the knowledge or the information you have acquired over the years as a speaker as an expert in your field, but no one knows you, you know, no one. What would you How would you restart things? Denise Jacobs One of the things so this actually goes back to my the inner critic thing, which I didn't talk about before, but I want to mention really fast. One of the things that one of the ways my inner critic kind of held me back and a lot of ways is that I didn't ask for help. When I needed it, that I, I was so busy trying to look like I knew what I was doing, that I stumbled through things in ignorance, when I could have asked for help or I could have asked for guidance or mentorship. So if I were starting over again, I would suck it up and not try to look like I was super smart. And I would ask as many people for help and I would ask as many people for guidance and you know for help for how to structure things, how to structure my business, how to do outreach, all of that stuff the things that I I you know like I said I got lucky I chance happened chanced upon and all that stuff I would ask for help James Taylor desperate I mean it's a mental mentors are so important in this business aren't they? Because so, so much of this you can't go to college for this you can't go to there's not a course for obviously, doing things like this summit is going to we want to bring as many people together to people and get different ideas and things but there's not I think anything really beats having that mentor that person you can pick up a phone or Skype or you know, connect with in some way have a have a coffee with you can just ask all those those those unspoken questions about the speaking business. So yeah, Denise Jacobs and no judgement, you know, and that that person is genuinely interested and, you know, interested in potentially invested in helping you succeed and again, like helping you learn, you know, Avoid the hard things that they went had to go through so that you know that you can potentially go and that you can shine as well. I don't know if you've heard of this but a friend of mine last night in the panel was talking about shine theory and shine theory being that you know, when you're around other people and they're succeeding and stuff like that and they're shining, then that actually shines a positive light on you and it helps you shine as well. James Taylor I think today in his comments as you've had you have shine you shine your light on a lot of people and I think for many people are starting off in the speaking business. Just having that human comes on like yourself who is very successful as a keynote speaker and as an author as well, telling your story that you know, the imposter syndrome all those things, all those things that went through your head so thank you so much for coming on. Thank you for just making it okay for people to realize that there is this inner critic and and some giving some strategies and tactics or ways of dealing with it. Denise Jacobs Excellent. Thank you so much for having me. I really appreciate it. James Taylor Today's episode was sponsored by speakers you the online community for speakers and if you're serious about your speaking career then you can join us because you membership program. I'll speak as you members receive private one on one coaching with me hundreds of hours of training content access to a global community to help them launch and build a profitable business around their speaking message and expertise. So just head over to SpeakersU.com to learn more. #speakersU #speakerslife

Are you having paralyzing thoughts? It is time for you to rewire your brain and create stronger connections with positive thoughts. In this episode, Denise Jacobs, best-selling author and famous speaker, and I discuss: - How to remove that roadblock that stops people from living their best life- How to help people gain awareness and take their power back- How to get over self-doubtCheck out this episode to unlock the necessary tools to help you breakthrough your own inner critic!Connect with me: Facebook facebook.com/kmpijanowski/Instagram instagram.com/mindandbodystrong/Youtube youtube.com/channel/UCPdNFOCyXcz5Ga4pNSeBxmg?view_as=subscriber Pinterest pinterest.com/kmpijanowski/ Connect with Denise:Website: https://denisejacobs.com/ Subscribe to newsletter: https://denisejacobs.com/subscribe/ LinkedIn Learning author page: https://www.linkedin.com/learning/instructors/denise-jacobs LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/deniserjacobs Twitter: http://twitter.com/denisejacobs Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/denisejacobs/ Facebook: http://facebook.com/denisejacobsdotcom

Are you having paralyzing thoughts? It is time for you to rewire your brain and create stronger connections with positive thoughts. In this episode, Denise Jacobs, best-selling author and famous speaker, and I discuss: - How to remove that roadblock that stops people from living their best life- How to help people gain awareness and take their power back- How to get over self-doubtCheck out this episode to unlock the necessary tools to help you breakthrough your own inner critic!Connect with me: Facebook facebook.com/kmpijanowski/Instagram instagram.com/mindandbodystrong/Youtube youtube.com/channel/UCPdNFOCyXcz5Ga4pNSeBxmg?view_as=subscriber Pinterest pinterest.com/kmpijanowski/ Connect with Denise:Website: https://denisejacobs.com/ Subscribe to newsletter: https://denisejacobs.com/subscribe/ LinkedIn Learning author page: https://www.linkedin.com/learning/instructors/denise-jacobs LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/deniserjacobs Twitter: http://twitter.com/denisejacobs Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/denisejacobs/ Facebook: http://facebook.com/denisejacobsdotcom

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Health and wellness do not always have to be fitness and nutrition. What you whisper to yourself has influence. Banish your inner critic and let your well-being soar.  Have you ever been standing in the kitchen talking yourself into eating something you know isn't really good for you? Desire to be supported and encourage by other like-minded women? Join us at Women of IMPACT. http://facebook.com/groups/thewomenofimpact Or maybe you were sitting in the car convincing yourself that you have other priorities today than working out. Everything you are working toward regarding your health and wellness can be stopped by just a whisper. The whisper, though screams SO LOUDLY! It echoes in your mind. The words repeat themselves in long barbaric paragraphs basically telling you that what you are doing isn't working. Convincing? Well, you answer that question. How often do your whispers control your next action? The inner critic can halt all you have worked toward. 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Today's guest helps people unleash their creativity by banishing their inner critic and hacking their creative brains. She is a keynote speaker, author, and creativity evangelist who consults with companies worldwide. As the founder and CEO of The Creative Dose, she uses research-backed data, vivid storytelling, and experiential exercises to give people an injection of inspiration and immediately applicable tools to help them do their best work. Author of “Banish Your Inner Critic,” a premier handbook on silencing fears to unleash creativity,  she has presented at organizations like Google, Facebook, GitHub, the BBC, and TEDxRheinMain. In her previous life, she was in the Web Design and Development industry and is the author of “The CSS Detective Guide.” Please join me in welcoming Denise Jacobs. In this episode we discuss: her thoughts on leadership: “Being a leader and leadership is about having a vision, seeing what needs to be done, and understanding how to go about it. You won't always have all the answers but leaders have the clarity of seeing the path.” how she embraced being a leader when she was in high school and ran for student council. her experience with seeing women in leadership roles in college, and how that helped shape her view of leaders. how she got into computers and technology, learned them, and then discovered her passion for helping others. the journey that took her to establish herself as a sought-after speaker. how speaking has influenced her life, including giving her the opportunity to speak in place of Brené Brown. her methods for maintaining connections, using strategic serendipity. Listen, subscribe and read show notes at www.OnTheSchmooze.com - episode 163

Today’s guest helps people unleash their creativity by banishing their inner critic and hacking their creative brains. She is a keynote speaker, author, and creativity evangelist who consults with companies worldwide. As the founder and CEO of The Creative Dose, she uses research-backed data, vivid storytelling, and experiential exercises to give people an injection of inspiration and immediately applicable tools to help them do their best work. Author of “Banish Your Inner Critic,” a premier handbook on silencing fears to unleash creativity,  she has presented at organizations like Google, Facebook, GitHub, the BBC, and TEDxRheinMain. In her previous life, she was in the Web Design and Development industry and is the author of “The CSS Detective Guide.” Please join me in welcoming Denise Jacobs. Would you leave an honest rating and review on Apple Podcast? Or Stitcher? They are extremely helpful and I read each and every one of them. Thanks for the inspiration! In this episode we discuss: her thoughts on leadership: “Being a leader and leadership is about having a vision, seeing what needs to be done, and understanding how to go about it. You won’t always have all the answers but leaders have the clarity of seeing the path.” how she embraced being a leader when she was in high school and ran for student council. her experience with seeing women in leadership roles in college, and how that helped shape her view of leaders. how she got into computers and technology, learned them, and then discovered her passion for helping others. the journey that took her to establish herself as a sought-after speaker. how speaking has influenced her life, including giving her the opportunity to speak in place of Brené Brown. her methods for maintaining connections, using strategic serendipity. Links Denise Jacobs on LinkedIn and Twitter. www.denisejacobs.com Books mentioned in this episode: "Banish Your Inner Critic: Silence the Voice of Self-Doubt to Unleash Your Creativity and Do Your Best Work" by Denise Jacobs “The CSS Detective Guide: Tricks for solving tough CSS mysteries” by Denise Jacobs Other Resources: Learn more about Brené Brown. About Robbie: Robbie Samuels is a keynote speaker and relationship-based business strategist who has been recognized as a “networking expert” by both Inc. and Lifehacker. He works with associations to increase retention, engagement, and member value by creating more welcoming and inclusive conference experiences. He is the author of the best-selling business book Croissants vs. Bagels: Strategic, Effective, and Inclusive Networking at Conferences and has been profiled in the Harvard Business Review, Forbes, and Fast Company. He writes for Harvard Business Review Ascend. His clients include associations and corporations including Marriott, AmeriCorps, Hostelling International, and General Assembly. He has been featured in several books including Stand Out: How to Find Your Breakthrough Idea and Build a Following Around It by Dorie Clark and The Connector’s Advantage: 7 Mindsets to Grow Your Influence and Impact by Michelle Tillis Lederman. He has guest lectured at many leading educational institutions including Harvard University, Brown University, Cornell University, Brandeis University, and Northeastern University. Robbie is the host of On the Schmooze podcast which features his networking strategies and talented professionals sharing untold stories of leadership and networking. Keynote Speaker Interested in booking Robbie to speak? At www.robbiesamuels.com/speaking you'll find video clips and a description of his signature session, Art of the Schmooze. Call 617-600-8240 to speak directly with Robbie. Relationship-Based Business Strategist Are you ready to create a Relationship-Based Business Plan that will help you achieve greater impact (and income)? You want to have a greater impact and increase...

Denise R. Jacobs is a Speaker + Author + Creativity Evangelist who speaks at conferences and consults with companies worldwide. As the Founder + CEO of The Creative Dose, she promotes techniques to unlock creativity and help people become engaged contributors, synergistic collaborators, and authentic leaders. Denise is the author of Banish Your Inner Critic, the premier handbook on silencing fears to unleash creativity.  In this episode, Denise shares how to banish your inner critic so that you can unlock your creativity and live a life that is a full expression of who you really are! --- READY TO BECOME KNOWN?  Learn 5 Things You Must Master Before You Can Grow Your Influence And Build A Profitable Personal Brand. Grab Your Free Guide Here: https://www.candishickman.com/freeguide/ Join Becoming Known Academy for access to group coaching support for just $25 a month. Cancel anytime: https://www.becomingknownacademy.com/ Work 1:1 with Candis to help you differentiate yourself from the crowd using the power of personal branding: https://www.candishickman.com/start/ LET’S CONNECT ON SOCIAL MEDIA: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/candishickman/ https://www.instagram.com/becomingknownpodcast/ Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/candisahickman https://www.facebook.com/becomingknownpodcast/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/candisahickman  

The Inner Critic is the main source of our biggest blocks to perform at our best. Our inner critic is the force behind our fears of being judged and criticized, highly critical self-talk, feeling like our ideas aren't good enough, and committing “ideacide.” Fortunately, we possess three mental power tools that, in combination, help stop the inner critic in its tracks. Making a commitment to silencing your inner critic will help you to get unstuck, do your best work, and channel your creativity as a force for positive change in the world as a contributor, collaborator, and leader.  We'll talk about how to: Identify voice of self-sabotage in your head and learn where it comes from. Employ the 3 mental power tools that will enable you to silence your inner critic. Free yourself from comparisons, fear of being judged, high self-criticism, feeling like you're not enough, and release the habits of believing you're not creative and second-guessing and killing your ideas. Transform your self-talk into a tool for success. Start embracing your expertise and share your brilliance with the world. Denise Jacobs is a Speaker + Author who speaks at conferences and consults with companies worldwide. As the Founder + CEO of The Creative Dose, keynote speaker, and trainer, she helps individuals in companies unleash their creativity through banishing their inner critic and hacking their creative brains. Denise’s keynotes and trainings give A Creative Dose™ – an injection of inspiration and immediately applicable tools to help people do their best work. Through working with Denise, people become engaged contributors, synergistic collaborators, and authentic leaders. Denise is the author of Banish Your Inner Critic, the premier handbook on silencing fears to unleash creativity. A web and tech industry veteran, Denise is also the author of The CSS Detective Guide and co-author of the Smashing Book #3 1/3 and Interact with Web Standards. She is also the founder of Rawk The Web and the Head Instigator of The Creativity (R)Evolution. Visit DeniseJacobs.com for more information.  

We all experience the harshness of our inner critic and the struggle to sustain our creativity though the noise. From an early age we learn that we should be perfect and flawless. But the truth is our flaws make us human and whole. And in turn make our art more interesting. I am excited to talk to Denise Jacobs who is a guru on quieting your inner critic. A speaker, author and creativity evangelist, she speaks at conferences and consults with companies worldwide. She helps individuals and companies unleash their creativity by banishing their inner critic and hacking their creative minds. She is the author of the book Banish Your Inner Critic. Hear about what the inner critic is and why it is a universal struggle. We talk about the 3 tools we naturally have that can help, strategies to reduce the impact of the criticism and how sometimes the criticisms of others can unlock our secret superpowers. In this podcast, you will discover... (04:07) The moment Denise realized she was creative and establishing a career in graphic designers (06:23) How if you have a certain trait, people often have expectations of you (07:46) How sometimes Denise and I downplay our skills and experience (11:40) Defining what the inner critic is (15:25) That we naturally have tools which can help us handle the inner critic (15:54) The first tool: Neural Plasticity (16:57) The second tool: Mindfulness (18:39) The third tool: Self Compassion (19:20) Giving your inner critic a name (19:57) Giving your inner critic a backstory (23:41) How Denise sometimes gets people to draw their inner critic (25:14) The benefits to working with your non dominant handling (27:10) A story about uncovering your strengths by looking at your criticisms (31:35) How Denise put herself into environment where that trait that was viewed as an asset rather than a detriment (33:11) That it’s helpful to examine traits your are afraid of and find a place where they are an advantage (33:37) The idea of ‘Your Uniqueness Advantage’ (34:46) That you can get to a place where your inner critic is less loud For full show notes, go to schulmanart.com/26 ++++++++++++++++++++

In this episode, Alison Wade and Jessie Shternshus chat with Denise Jacobs, a Woman Who is Evangelizing Creativity in the Technology community. Denise is a speaker, author and creativity evangelist who speaks at conferences and consults with companies worldwide. She is the Founder and CEO of The Creative Dose, where she promotes techniques to unlock creativity while helping people become engaged contributors, synergistic collaborators, and authentic leaders. Denise is also the author of the inspiring book "Banish Your Inner Critic."

Denise Jacobs teaches us how to banish our inner critic. She motivates us to realize what we’re capable of creatively. She encourages us to overcome the fear of the unknown by turning that fear into curiosity. She also guides us into how to ask for feedback in a way that’s healthy and beneficial to us. Why do so many think they're not creative? (6:08) Name that inner critic! (28:13) Listener Question: (43:35) Best advice for imposter syndrome sufferers? (80:34) Check out the detailed show notes including mentioned links, transcript and Eli Jorgensen’s astonishing superhero artwork at userdefenders.com/innercritic-2 This episode is brought to you by Adobe, makers of XD. Try it free at userdefenders.com/xd Get your FREE audiobook from Audible at userdefenders.com/freebook. No commitment. Cancel in 30 days, and you won't be charged. The book is still yours to keep.

Denise Jacobs teaches us how to banish our inner critic. She motivates us to realize what we’re capable of creatively. She encourages us to overcome the fear of the unknown by turning that fear into curiosity. She also guides us into how to ask for feedback in a way that’s healthy and beneficial to us. Why did you write “Banish Your Inner Critic”? (8:27) We’re all born creative…what happens to us? (27:11) Creativity > public school (35:04) Do you have Dunning Kruger effect? (39:49) The value of a creativity cheerleader (49:25) Listener question: How can I assure my self worth is not dependent on external sources? (57:05) Check out the detailed show notes including mentioned links, transcript and Eli Jorgensen’s astonishing superhero artwork at userdefenders.com/innercritic-1 This episode is brought to you by Adobe, makers of XD. Try it free at userdefenders.com/xd Get your FREE audiobook from Audible at userdefenders.com/freebook. No commitment. Cancel in 30 days, and you won't be charged. The book is still yours to keep.

In this episode of FEAR NOT, author and creativity evangelist Denise Jacobs talks about how banish your inner critic and unleash your creativity.

Today’s episode features author, speaker, and creative evangelist Denise Jacobs. She’s spoken at Creative Mornings, Adaptive Path, TEDx, and more, and is the author of Banish Your Inner Critic, which dives into some of the most important subjects for creative women leaders today. More about this episode: majomolfino.com/blog/2018/1/28/creative-flow-with-denise-jacobsIn this episode, Denise breaks down creativity’s two opposing forces: creative flow and the inner critic. She shares her insights on how women are socialized to take on more than we need to, offers some of the most practical tips for producing and maintaining a state of creative flow, and provides an array of tools for managing your inner critic. Show Notes:-Denise’s self-consciousness about being extremely tall as a little girl, and how she found solace in reading stacks of books and developing a sense of humor. [1:36]-On being told by a teacher that she was a perfectionist (which she later realized was not a compliment), and becoming aware of her inner critic. [5:45]-The aha moment Denise had after swirling in self-doubt and fear while working on her last book. [9:38]-The teaching experience that helped her realize her passion for speaking to people and her gift for being on stage. [14:27]-Diving into her book: How creative flow and the inner critic interact, and practical tips for recognizing and dealing with the latter. [16:03]-How to train your inner critic and recognize when it’s showing up in subtle ways. [22:52]-On dealing with overwhelm, reframing situations in ways that empower us, and the importance of To-Don’t lists. [28:27]-On being aware of our comparison triggers in the age of social media, how women are socialized to take on more than they need to, and Denise’s final words of wisdom. [34:57]References:Majo's website – majomolfino.comDenise's website – denisejacobs.comFind her book, Banish Your Inner Critic – innercriticbook.comMusic by Carolyn Pennypacker Riggs – carolynpennypackerriggs.comWant to support women's voices? Go to patreon.com/heroinefm & become a bigger part of the Heroine community. Check out our rewards for supporters.

Today’s episode features author, speaker, and creative evangelist Denise Jacobs. She’s spoken at Creative Mornings, Adaptive Path, TEDx, and more, and is the author of Banish Your Inner Critic, which dives into some of the most important subjects for creative women leaders today. More about this episode: majomolfino.com/blog/2018/1/28/creative-flow-with-denise-jacobsIn this episode, Denise breaks down creativity’s two opposing forces: creative flow and the inner critic. She shares her insights on how women are socialized to take on more than we need to, offers some of the most practical tips for producing and maintaining a state of creative flow, and provides an array of tools for managing your inner critic. Show Notes:-Denise’s self-consciousness about being extremely tall as a little girl, and how she found solace in reading stacks of books and developing a sense of humor. [1:36]-On being told by a teacher that she was a perfectionist (which she later realized was not a compliment), and becoming aware of her inner critic. [5:45]-The aha moment Denise had after swirling in self-doubt and fear while working on her last book. [9:38]-The teaching experience that helped her realize her passion for speaking to people and her gift for being on stage. [14:27]-Diving into her book: How creative flow and the inner critic interact, and practical tips for recognizing and dealing with the latter. [16:03]-How to train your inner critic and recognize when it’s showing up in subtle ways. [22:52]-On dealing with overwhelm, reframing situations in ways that empower us, and the importance of To-Don’t lists. [28:27]-On being aware of our comparison triggers in the age of social media, how women are socialized to take on more than they need to, and Denise’s final words of wisdom. [34:57]References:Majo's website – majomolfino.comDenise's website – denisejacobs.comFind her book, Banish Your Inner Critic – innercriticbook.comMusic by Carolyn Pennypacker Riggs – carolynpennypackerriggs.comWant to support women's voices? Go to patreon.com/heroinefm & become a bigger part of the Heroine community. Check out our rewards for supporters.

(@msipala), Faye Thompson (@agilefaye), and Amitai Schleier (@schmonz) joined Ryan Ripley (@RyanRipley) to discuss their learnings from Agile 2017.Markus Silpala [featured-image single_newwindow=”false”]Markus Silpala and Amitai Schleier Hanging out at Agile Coach Camp[/featured-image] is a developer who enjoys close collaboration with both clients and teammates. He seeks work environments where his capabilities—both human and technical—will contribute to the production of high-quality, customer-pleasing software. Markus has a career that spans twenty years and excels as a developer, coach, or architect.Markus  Faye has more than eighteen years of project delivery experience and is currently a senior agile consultant with CareWorks Tech. Focusing on agile methodologies and continuous improvement, she has had a positive impact in the financial services, healthcare, advertising, and automotive industries. Faye is passionate about using innovative solutions to drive business value and helps work groups transform into highly engaged and energized teams. Amitai is a software development coach, speaker, legacy code wrestler, non-award-winning musician, award winning bad poet, and the creator of the Agile in 3 Minutes podcast. He blogs at schmonz.com and is a frequent guest on Agile for Humans. Amitai has published many of his agile observations and musings in his new book – Agile in 3 Minutes on Lean Pub. In this episode you'll discover: How Markus Used an Agile Mindset to Confront Cancer What we all learned at Agile 2017 Why it’s important to banish our inner critics Links from the show: Handling Cancer with an Agile Mindset Markus’s Blog Agile Coaching Summit – Chicago The Path to Agility Conference in Columbus, OH Agile 2017 Conference [callout]Denise Jacobs, Speaker, Author and Chief Creativity Evangelist of The Creative Dose, who speaks at web conferences and consults with tech companies worldwide, maps a way out in her latest work, Banish Your Inner Critic. This book is your manual and toolkit to help you not only reclaim your creativity and productivity, but bump it up to extreme productivity, clearing a path for you to find your zone more often – and stay in it longer. Click here to purchase on Amazon.[/callout] [reminder]Which topic resonated with you? Please leave your thoughts in the comment section below.[/reminder] Want to hear another podcast about the life of an agile coach? — Listen to my conversation with Zach Bonaker, Diane Zajac-Woodie, and Amitai Schlair on episode 39. We discuss growing an agile practice and how coaches help create the environments where agile ideas can flourish. One tiny favor.  — Please take 30 seconds now and leave a review on iTunes. This helps others learn about the show and grows our audience. It will help the show tremendously, including my ability to bring on more great guests for all of us to learn from. Thanks! Techwell's Agile Dev East is *the* premier event covering the latest advances in the agile community. Agile for Humans listeners can use the code AGILEDEV to receive up to $200 off any registration package over $800. Check out the entire program at adceast.techwell.com. You'll notice that I'm speaking there again this year. Attendees will have a chance to participate in my Aligning Toward Business Agility–360° of Freedom Leadership Summit presentation, along with my half day sessions on advanced scrum topics called Scrum: Answering the Tough Questions, as well as Rethinking Your Retrospectives. I hope to see many Agile for Humans listeners in Orlando – November 5-10, for this great event. The post AFH 076: Agile 2017 with Faye Thompson, Markus Silpala, and Amitai Schleier appeared first on Ryan Ripley.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Creativity evangelist Denise Jacobs returns to the show to illustrate how we can excel by banishing our inner critic! We discuss the real science with how we hold ourselves back, plus practical techniques that help you push through. We discuss comparisons and envy, define expertise and challenge perceptions of what self-esteem means. We share personal experiences but go beyond feel-good points as Denise shares actionable ways you can silence that inner critic today. < Download MP3 >      < Listen on ctrlclickcast.com > Show Notes: Demystifying the Web Series CSS Detective Guide Neuroplasticity Metacognitive strategies Self-Compassion by Dr. Kristin Neff Parks & Recreation James Clear Susan Goldin-Meadow Kinesthetic learning You’re The Average Of The Five People You Spend The Most Time With Her Wild American Self by M. Evelina Galang Fratellino innercriticbook.com Leave us a review on iTunes Review the show on Stitcher Sponsored By

Episode 10 Denise Jacobs This episode is on doing your best work and how creativity supports that. Really! My guest today is Denise Jacobs. Denise has her roots in Project Management and Software Development. Denise’ first book was a bestseller on CSS and she made a speaking career out that profession. But then, something happened, she got bored and was looking for a new challenge. Denise decided to become a public speaker and a „real“ book author on the topic of creativity. Until then, Denise spent years in teaching creativity techniques and exercises as well as giving keynotes on the topic. She discovered that there is an enemy to creativity in all of us: The inner critic. Following that insight, she focused on that topic and now, in June 2017, after years of research and practise, her new book will be published: „Banish your inner critic - Silence the Voice of Self-Doubt to unleash Creativity and do your best Work“ What I found extraordinary in this book is that it is not about some tree hugging might work fantasies, but that it is grounded in brain research and psychology. A book full of stories, exercises (creative doses and insights that will help you do your best work. Show Notes 0:00 Intro and the book will be published 9:09: „The matter of the fact is that nobody is going to be able to say what you have to say. … Nobody in the world has your experience, … your knowledge, your combination of experience and knowledge. … You are a unique confluence and expression of life. Past, present and future: Say it. Say what you gotta say!“ 13:15 „It’s better for something to be done and exist and to be something that you can put in front of people and take on a life of its own than to have something that is always in the state of you trying to make it perfect.“ 14:00 On the value of early feedback on imperfect work „I got to a point where I would share drafts that were like 55% with my editor, which was something I was extremely uncomfortable with. I didn’t even know you could do that“. „In many ways it was like a validation of my ideas. … It also helped me to see which parts were irrelevant and which parts were relevant.“ 22:56 Turning fear into curiosity to be more creative „Maybe there is a way that you can reframe it (feeling unprotected, feeling exposed) so that it’s more like curiosity.“ „I still think that if you can take it to a place where you’re doing something and you’re not attached to the outcome, you’re more curious about how you can make it better … and it’s more like a discovery process than a testimony of who you are or your skills and capabilities.“ 25:30 Creativity as a vehicle „Creativity is really just the vehicle, but the outcome is getting to that place where you really feel empowered in you work and other areas.“ „It’s about how to become a better contributor, a better collaborator and a better leader.“ 31:00 Researched foundations of the book „I don’t say you should practice mindfulness because mindfulness is a good idea. Mindfulness is a good idea, because all these studies have shown that mindfulness treats conditions like depression, it treats conditions like compulsive obsessive disorder and it actually helps people rewire their brains …“ 38:20 „I need more. I needed to know why this works. I knew this works. But I needed to go deeper. I needed to know why.“ 43:00 Ideas revealing themselves & Creative Doses „Good ideas fade into view“ -Steven Johnson, author of „Where good ideas come from“ On the importance of repetition of creative doses (creativity exercises): „Those thought patterns that for the inner critic, you have though them over and over and over again. And to change them, you have to practice.“ „The point of this book is for people to work better“ „And the porter interesting thing is that (in business) people try to act like business relationships and personal relationships are completely different“. „And I’m like: You are talking about people and you are talking about thoughts and you are talking about emotions and you are talking about people interacting. I don’t care what the context is. This is about people and relationships. Period.“ 1:04:50 Becoming Denise Johnson „Actually, it wasn’t ok!“ „And then I read „The Artists Way“ and that lead me to making soap. and then a coworker came and bought a bar of soap from me and I thought „I guess I’m selling soap“. And then people started asking me „how do you make soap?“ … and so I had a group of five people over at may house to show them how to make soap. and I did that a couple of times and I thought „What about when I teach 20 people how to make soap?“ „And after that (first soap workshop) I felt like 3 feet off the ground. It was THE BEST THREE HOURS!“ Getting there: Going through the experience of self doubt for years … and then a night of flow! „It was the first time I didn’t think this isn’t good enough. … It was the first time I just did it. …. and this was when I was thinking: it was because I didn’t have these thoughts that I was in this flow! And that was when I had the realisation that I want to help other people feeling like this.“ Links Denise Jacobs The book: „Banish Your Inner Critic“ Steven Johnson His book „Where good ideas come from“

Banish Your Inner Critic! Carl and Richard talk to Denise Jacobs about her new book on creativity. And yes, we're all creative, we just have to get that inner critic under control. Denise talks about her own battles with feeling good enough to actually do work well and share it with others. It comes down to a sense of self-compassion - often we are harder on ourselves than we are on others. Give yourself a break and have some fun - the creativity will come!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/net-rocks/donations

Banish Your Inner Critic! Carl and Richard talk to Denise Jacobs about her new book on creativity. And yes, we're all creative, we just have to get that inner critic under control. Denise talks about her own battles with feeling good enough to actually do work well and share it with others. It comes down to a sense of self-compassion - often we are harder on ourselves than we are on others. Give yourself a break and have some fun - the creativity will come!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/net-rocks/donations

Denise Jacobs is a woman who needs no introduction. Her work as a speaker, author, and creativity evangelist has her spreading the gospel of creativity at conferences and tech companies around the world, and has definitely made her a household name in the industry. We started off talking about how Denise first got started in the industry and later broke into the speaker circuit, as well as her career transition from CSS to creativity. Denise also shared some great information about how to find your strengths, as well as what gives her purpose to continue doing this important work. According to Denise, everyone is creative; they just need to figure out how. That's the kind of wisdom that's made her such a sought after expert! Denise Jacobs' Website Denise Jacobs on Twitter Denise Jacobs on Facebook Banish Your Inner Critic