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  Yesterdays video: Taco Bell is a secret to winning people to Christ. Sly of WIBA   HOSPITALITY: the practice of extending love, generosity, and kindness to others, especially strangers, as an expression of faith and a reflection of God's love THE GOAL: Strangers, into acquaintances into friends into people who feel like family into the family of God.     Sinners felt comfortable enough to be around Jesus.  He did not condone their behavior, but they felt his love regardless of their sinfulness.  Tax collectors felt comfortable around Jesus. Prostitutes felt comfortable around Jesus.  Lepers felt comfortable around Jesus.  Children felt comfortable around Jesus.  Women felt comfortable around Jesus.  Roman army commanders felt comfortable  The disciples felt comfortable   Hospitality - Hospital - Hospes = guest or stranger in need.  IF SOMEONE IS IN NEED PHYSICALLY WE SEND THEM TO A HOSPITAL. IF THEY ARE IN NEED SPIRITUALLY WE SHOULD SEND THEM TO HOSPITALITY.

Garth Heckman The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com    George Eliot the celebrated novelist from the 18th century was quoted as saying about a man “He was like a cock who thought the sun had risen to hear him crow”. Don't you hate people with pride… unless pride is a good thing… can pride be a good thing?? Well thats where were going today!      Yesterday afternoon my grandkids came over to the house. My son told me I needed to go up to find my grandson and ask him about his day… My grandson was telling me a story but did not want to sound proud… I assured him - sometimes pride is a good thing - and thats where were going today.    Grandson story… led a boy to Christ. “In God we trust”.    While the Bible overwhelmingly condemns "pride" in the sense of arrogance, haughtiness, self-exaltation, and a defiant attitude towards God, there are a few instances where a concept akin to "pride" or "boasting" carries a more positive, or at least neutral, connotation. However, it's crucial to understand the nuance, as these are generally not referring to the sinful "pride" that God opposes.     Here's a breakdown: 1. Boasting in the Lord/God's Work: The New Testament, particularly the Apostle Paul's writings, speaks of a "boasting" that is acceptable and even encouraged. This isn't about exalting oneself, but rather about exalting God and what He has done. 2 Corinthians 10:17: "But 'let the one who boasts boast in the Lord.'" This verse, echoing Jeremiah 9:23-24, emphasizes that any true "boasting" or "pride" should be in God's wisdom, might, and righteousness, not our own. Romans 15:1: Paul says, "Therefore I have reason to be proud of my work for God in Christ Jesus." Here, the "pride" is in the work God has enabled him to do, giving credit to God. 2 Corinthians 7:4: Paul states, "I have the highest confidence in you, and I take great pride in you. You have greatly encouraged me and made me happy despite all our troubles." This is a sense of satisfaction and joy in the spiritual growth and faith of the Corinthian believers, which is ultimately attributed to God's work in them. I have a friend I boast in all the time… and he boasts about himself as well - as he should. He was a raging porn addict, alcoholic, anger, demon possessed and a terrible father and husband… and literally almost over night God changed him… He is now one of my elders in my church… I Love when this man brags about all that God has done in him. I brag about the fact that God can use a knuckle dragger like me to win people to Christ. God is a pretty cool God… there I am bragging again.  2. Healthy Self-Assessment (without comparison or self-exaltation): Some interpretations suggest that there can be a sense of satisfaction in one's own efforts or accomplishments, as long as it's not rooted in comparison with others or a spirit of self-sufficiency apart from God. Galatians 6:4: "Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else." This verse can be understood as encouraging a healthy self-evaluation and satisfaction in one's own diligent work, without falling into the trap of comparing oneself to others, which often leads to either sinful pride or discouragement. Last year I won about 200 people to Christ. This year I am shooting for more than 200… I am not sure but would like to hit 300. I am also shooting to hit 1000 people in the next year in church attendance. I am planning on starting a Saturday night service and we will have 3 services total. I am bragging at what God has done in me and through me… and I am comparing myself to where I was at a year ago. It does two things… it helps me remember what is possible - so I will continue to push harder and take greater steps of faith. And secondly, it helps me speak into other peoples lives and let them know if God can use me… he can use anybody.  In essence, the Bible strongly warns against pride that elevates self and opposes God. However, it allows for a sense of positive satisfaction or "boasting" when it is rooted in humility and directed towards acknowledging God's grace, power, and accomplishments through us or in others. The key is where the focus lies – on oneself or on God.

Garth Heckman The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com    I spoke in a boys prison… these were boys who didn't just steal a car or beat up someone or rob someone. These were boys who murdered, raped and bombed people. A few different people got up to speak to them before me… none had very little success in getting them to listen… I was praying God what should I say. And he gave me these words… You are not here because you are tough kids, you are not here because you did bad things, stupid things or dumb things… you are here because you did the easy thing. You all think you are all so bad and tough… but you all sit here in the prison because you chose the EASY way….    What is the easy way? Well it comes in many forms… one form is going along with the crowd, falling into peer pressure. Those boys could have done the hard thing… study, go to school, got a job…but they chose the easy things… steal, murder, rape, kill… anyone can do that. One of the other easy things we all do is procrastinate.  While the Bible doesn't use the specific word "procrastination," it strongly addresses the concepts of diligence, idleness, slothfulness, and the wise use of time. These teachings offer clear guidance on how to avoid delaying important tasks and responsibilities. Here are some key themes and verses related to procrastination: 1. Condemnation of Sloth and Laziness: The book of Proverbs, in particular, has a lot to say about the "sluggard" or lazy person, and the negative consequences of their inaction. Proverbs 6:6-11: "Go to the ant, you sluggard; consider its ways and be wise! It has no commander, no overseer or ruler, yet it stores its provisions in summer and gathers its food at harvest. How long will you lie there, you sluggard? When will you get up from your sleep? A little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest—and poverty will come on you like a thief and scarcity like an armed man." (This is a vivid picture of the consequences of delaying necessary work.) Scripture points out an amazing insight… you can learn from anyone or anything that practices hard work? You can see it in an ant, a beaver, a Female bald eagle, a Mother who is 8 months pregnant, a start up business owner, a young kid trying to make the team. Point is- what are you focusing on. If you focus on what you don't want to do… you won't do it. If you focus on what you need to do and how you see others tackling the same daily grind, it can help push you into that first step.  Proverbs 10:4: "Lazy hands make for poverty, but diligent hands bring wealth." Proverbs 12:24: "Diligent hands will rule, but laziness ends in forced labor." Proverbs 20:4: "Sluggards do not plow in season; so at harvest time they look but find nothing.” Right now You are either eating what you planted or starving from what you did not plant. If you practice your seasons you always have something to eat - even in the winter. But there are seasons that are made for growth, planting, investing. I used to sleep only 4 hours a day from my 20's through my early 40's… I had energy for days… but I can't say I always used it for the best.  Proverbs 24:30-34: Describes the ruin of a lazy person's field and house, emphasizing how "a little sleep, a little slumber, a a little folding of the hands to rest" leads to poverty. Again the point here is not a few days and life falls apart, it is stating a few days and all of a sudden a habit is formed, then a lifestyle and then a culture and finally a destiny… its not worth it.  2. Emphasis on Diligence and Hard Work: The Bible consistently promotes diligence, industry, and working with all your might.   Colossians 3:23: "Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters." (This verse provides a strong motivation: doing your best for God's glory.) What does a person who procrastinates really need? Motivation. A father is trying to get his son to mow the lawn. He keeps nagging at him and finally the wife ways to her husband I will get him to mow the lawn… good luck the father cackles… but when the father comes home from work that night his son is feverishly mowing the lawn… he walks in and asks his wife… how did you get him to mow the lawn- I tried everything. Simple she said “he has a date tonight and I told him I lost the keys in the laws today chasing the dog”.  YEP motivation comes in all forms… what you need is simply something that is motivating… and it starts by asking God why should I take this on - Now thats working for the Lord.  3. The Importance of Timeliness and Seizing Opportunity: Several passages highlight the fleeting nature of time and the importance of acting when the opportunity arises. Ecclesiastes 11:4: "Whoever watches the wind will not plant; whoever looks at the clouds will not reap." (This speaks to paralysis by analysis or waiting for perfect conditions.) You know what the say… when is the best time to plant a tree? A hundred years ago. The second best time is today. Invest money today. Look for a new job today? Tell someone about Jesus Today. Tell your kids you love them today. Plan a family vacation today. Go join the gym today. Rate my podcast today… sorry a shameless plug. One thing the Bible is clear on is not living by feelings… so if you are waiting for the procrastination to leave… it won't. You have to create your own feelings by what you believe in scripture and what you tell yourself. Motivation starts first with what you tell yourself… and in time you will believe it and act on it. 

Garth Heckman The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com    Don't feed the animals… you ever see that video where a guy gets out of his car to feed a bear, all the while his wife is video taping it. The bear seems harmless enough… he's been around people at Yellowstone for years… should be ok… He fed the bear alright… yea, he fed the bear.     Words are animals… some animals are good, some are bad and some are like cats they don't much care on way or the other… but mostly they are good or bad.  Here is a line you should memorize.  Don't speak it unless you want to give it power. Words are food…  If you are feeling down, doubtful, lonely, depressed, ashamed, like a loser whatever it is… if you speak those feelings you feed those feelings and they get stronger and overtake you… in fact they are faith filled words of defeat. Or if you feel any of those things but you instead speak words of faith, financial gain, hope, life, love, passion, dreams, you are starving your feelings and feeding faith filled words to your victory.    If you learn to feed the right words you will starve the doubts and feed the power of faith.    Here are some key biblical teachings on the power of the tongue: 1. Life and Death: Proverbs 18:21: "Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits." This verse powerfully summarizes the dual nature of words, indicating that our speech can literally bring about positive or negative outcomes in our lives and the lives of others. If words have the power of life and death… don't you think they also have the power of success, health and wealth. They have the power to motivate you to action… Look life and death are pretty heavy hitters, but if words can handle them, then words can handle just about anything.  2. A Small Spark, A Great Fire: James 3:5-6: "So also the tongue is a small member, yet it boasts of great things. How great a forest is set ablaze by such a small fire! And the tongue is a fire, a world of unrighteousness." This passage uses the vivid imagery of a small spark igniting a massive forest fire to illustrate how a seemingly insignificant tongue can cause widespread destruction and harm. But lets look at it in a different light. What if words destroy doubt, pain, hopelessness, loneliness… words can destroy good things, but they can also destroy bad things… it is up to you to speak the right words according to scripture and not your circumstances.  3. Healing and Hurting: Proverbs 12:18: "There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing." This proverb contrasts the pain inflicted by thoughtless or angry words with the restorative power of wise and gentle speech. Proverbs 15:4: "A gentle tongue is a tree of life, but perverseness in it breaks the spirit." A gentle and kind tongue provides nourishment and encouragement, while harsh or corrupting speech can crush someone's spirit. Again the point here is sometimes missed - you can heal or hurt yourself according to your words… who needs anyone else's words… why are you waiting for someone else to speak love life and Gods word over your life… you speak it!  4. Building Up or Tearing Down: Ephesians 4:29: "Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear." This verse encourages believers to use their words constructively, to edify and support others, rather than engaging in destructive or unwholesome talk. The message is clear ONLY SPEAK WORDS THAT BUILD UP!  5. Accountability for Every Word: Matthew 12:36-37: "I tell you, on the day of judgment people will give account for every careless word they speak, for by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned." Jesus himself warns of the serious accountability we have for our words, even those spoken carelessly, highlighting their eternal consequences. I THINK ACCOUNTABLILITY FOR OUR WORDS WILL SIMPLY BE US STANDING THERE AND GOD LOOKING OVER OUR LIFE… IT WILL SHOW PLAINLY AND CLEARLY THE WORDS THAT CAME OUT OF OUR MOUTH.  **Check it out. Words created our life…. Its not life that created our words. Chew on that skippy!    In all of these verses one thing is abundantly clear- it is our words that have the most power over our life… not anyone else's. So meditate on Gods word and speak it over your life. 

Garth Heckman The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com    Mark was probably a little spoiled, a little soft, and a little privileged… I have a hard time around people like that. But Mark learned a very hard but good lesson in his life simply by hanging around with the right people. And many times the right people feel like the wrong people… until the end of your life.  Quick question: are you hanging around the right people? Are they the people that will call you on your excuses, your mistakes, your rebellion and your apathy? I hope you have those friends around you… if not you may never experience what Mark experienced.  You can run from the rub… but it will cost you.      Marks life had what I call the rub…. The rub… deadlift bars can teach you a lot…  The gnurl… it rips your hands up… people want the smooth bar, but you can't life heavy weights with the smooth bar… it will slip out of your hands. The gnurl builds callouses and allows you to have it stick in your hand… the more aggressive he gnurl the better it is for a deadlifter … yes a soft gnurl is easy on the hands and it does not give you callouses, but you will only be able to lift so much weight… you won't reach your potential.    God has put people in our lives to be the rub, to be the gnurl. Don't over look this. It is actually a blessing. The longer you have people in your life who rub you the wrong way, the more you will grow spiritually. If you run from the rub you rob yourself from the Rich spiritual life.    If you asked me 35 years ago about the people in my life who were really hard to be around, the ones who just had something against me, they pushed my buttons… If I had to name them back then it would have been super easy… but today at 60, Those people are still in my life, but I see them in a different point of view - as a blessing - so it would be hard to say I don't like them or want them in my life like I would have said back then.  There is no doubt in my mind that early in John Marks life he would have been willing to be a martyr for Jesus - but after the rub… he planted a church in Etheopia and was martyred there for his faith. He learned to toughen up and live straight for Jesus. So embrace those who rub you the wrong way… they are probably went there by God… and if they were sent by satan… then what a fool he is to give you such a blessing! 

Garth Heckman The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com  2004 a movie came out called Miracle on ice. The story of the 1980 US Hockey team that beat the Soviets to win Gold. Herb Brooks was the COACH… NORWAY TIE Again… Again… Again… BLUE LINE, RED LINE, BLUE LINE, TO THE WALL AND BACK They were nicknamed “Herbies”  It was to demand the most out of his players and find out which ones had it emotionally and mentally not just physically.  He wanted to find the right players and not the best players….  What many of the players did not realize was Herb had a degree in Psychology… he understood what it took to get the most out of his players… HE PERFECTED HIS COACHING STYLE FROM HIS OWN PAIN - he was the last one cut from the roster to make the 1960 Olympic team which won a gold. He was thought to be not as gifted, fast, conditioned  or experienced as the others on the team.    During the season of prep for the Olympics the team hated Herb. He was their enemy…  NOT REALIZING THAT THIS WAS ON PURPOSE TO BRING OUT THE BEST IN HIS PLAYERS.  He had players from Boston who hated the skaters from ND and the like…    TODAY WE SEE THE LIFE OF MARK OR JOHN MARK  He was surrounded by some Herb Brooks By the names of the Apostle Paul and Peter… not easy guys to be around… especially for Mark or John Mark as he was actually called. John Mark was educated, came from a wealthy family, had privilege and was probably a little bit of a whiner. Paul had a falling out with Barnabas because he did not want to travel with Mark… BTW Mark and Barnabas were cousins…   

Garth Heckman The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com    When people are asked… if you could do it over again would you… and they say “no, I love my mistakes and its what made me who I am today”. That sounds great right, even manly… but I truly doubt it. If I could go back and do things differently would I? ABSOLUTELY 100% - so what would I do differently? Thats where were going today!    It's impossible to provide a definitive "five biggest mistakes" for every man in every decade of his life, as experiences and priorities vary greatly. However, based on common life challenges, regrets, and advice, here are some generally observed mistakes men often make at different ages: Under 20: Neglecting Education and Skill Development: Not taking school seriously, failing to explore passions, or not investing in skills that will be valuable later. This can limit future career and financial opportunities. I would imagine most boys are not realizing that High School is the last free education you will get… use it up as much as you can. And more than that, learn skills from other men, its free education. Welding, automotive, investing, carpentry, cooking, baking, relationship advice, boxing, Balancing your checking account, talking to women, handling conflict… Just about anybody can teach you something for free.    Poor Financial Habits: Not learning about budgeting, saving, or investing, and instead falling into debt (e.g., credit card debt, unnecessary loans) or wasteful spending. Here is a lesson I learned early on in life. And I will admit, that early on in life I liked to spend money on stupid stuff… or at least over spend on my hobbies. But I learned two huge pieces of advice. One give yourself a raise every year…i.e. shop for lower insurance, cable, internet, cheaper place to buy groceries etc… 2ndly I sell stuff I have not used for a year and I invest it into my 401k. Also I don't do my own investing other then crypto. And I do not touch my investments… early on I did, but I learned the hardware. If I had kept my Amazon stock I would have a few million dollars still in my portfolio.    Ignoring Health: Believing they're invincible and adopting unhealthy habits (poor diet, lack of exercise, insufficient sleep, substance abuse) that will have repercussions later. Not just ignoring health - but ignoring healthy habits. Build into your life a regular weekly exercise plan. Healthy eating and sleep habits. Look I get it, when I was under 20 years old I drank a 12 pack of Mt. Dew a day and ate a full bag of double stuff Oreos - now I was waterskiing and barefooting all day long so I was burning it off and I was also a competitive powerlifter… but the habit was hard to break even though I was not putting on weight.  Back to working out… most guys say they don't have time, but if you get up at 5am you will have time, not only that you will be more energetic during the day but when it comes to sleep you won't be able to stay up late watching stupid TV or computer or phone… so it all balances out.    Lack of Self-Awareness/Identity: Not taking the time to understand their values, goals, and who they are as individuals, often leading to being swayed by peer pressure or societal expectations. Know your weaknesses and box them in, and know your strengths and double down on those. I am not going to spend time working on becoming more detailed and OCD… it aint' me. I will work on being a leader, communicator, preacher, teacher, vision caster, motivator and risk taker.  I won't allow myself to work in my weaknesses - I will let others work in those areas…and if I absolutely have to I will first build a detailed system to do it.  Taking Relationships for Granted: Neglecting friendships or not learning healthy communication and respect in romantic relationships, which can lead to isolation or repeated relationship issues. Most men under 40 are only practicing divorce in their relationship habits. You make out, you have sex, you break up and move on. THIS IS THE PERFECT PRACTICE FOR A ruined marriage. Most guys under 20 are 100% motivated in relationships from a selfish foundation. They only give to get, they never learn to give just to give. They never learn to sacrifice in order to create a better version of the women they are dating.  Under 30: Not Investing Early: Missing out on the power of compound interest by delaying retirement savings or other long-term investments. If you are 25 and you invest $12 a day into an account reaping basically between 6-8% return you will have a million dollars by the time you retire. That is only $360 a month. That is nothing… if you think its a lot add up how much you spend at the convenience store, on clothes you don't wear, on tickets, on junk food and fast food and maybe even online gambling or girls… its peanuts.  Staying in Unfulfilling Jobs/Careers: Remaining in a job or industry solely for the paycheck, without pursuing opportunities that align with their passions or offer growth, leading to stagnation. Here is a secret. There is someone out there willing to pay you for what you want to do if you are good at it. You want to just play guitar all day? Learn to read music, join a musicians union, hang out with other musicians and producers… it is not that hard. You may not make millions, but you will earn a living doing what you love. I have quite a few friends who do it full time and part time and make decent money.    Prioritizing Work Over Relationships: Sacrificing personal connections, family time, and mental well-being for career advancement, leading to regret and strained relationships later. I know you are under 30… you have a lifetime ahead of you… but actually you are just about in midlife. If you live to 75 you are only a few years out from reaching that half way mark.. and trust me the next 35 will fly buy 3 times as fast!  So focus on relationships.. your parents, your spouse, your brothers and sisters, your childhood friends, men at church etc… make that a solid priority!    Failing to Address Mental Health: Ignoring or suppressing mental health issues, such as anxiety or depression, due to societal pressures or a "man up" mentality, preventing them from seeking necessary help. Look its no secret that a lot and I mean most of 30 and under came from dysfunctional families. From No dads to 4 dads… It can cause a lot of stress, mental baggage and a lack of skill in dealing with it. The internet, phone and social media pressure does not help. One of the greatest manly things you can do is go in for counseling and mental health screenings. Get the help you need and don't ever be embarrassed about it. You would not be embarrassed by going in for a broken arm… mental health is no different. And you are truly doing if for your current or future family.    Making Major Financial Commitments Without a Plan: Taking on significant debt (e.g., for an expensive car or a house they can barely afford) without a solid financial foundation or emergency fund. Nothing wrong with buying a new car… but that doesn't mean it has to be the brand-new or the best or even middle of the road. My car is 25 years old with 200,000 miles on it…and that car has not had a payment for 22 years.  If you are going to purchase a house, car of boat or motorcycle… talk to a legit financial counselor. You might be surprised at how much they can help you. There is nothing wrong with spending money, there are only wrong things to spend money on.    I will say this, I do see a lot of 30 and under young men who are really on the right track. They have learned the hard way from watching their parents make all the wrong and stupid decisions. Good for you! It will be worth it!    Under 40: Neglecting Physical Health: Continuing unhealthy habits from earlier decades, leading to the onset of chronic health problems (e.g., heart disease, obesity, diabetes) that could have been prevented or managed earlier. Here is a little bit of controversy…. And BTW I am working on attaining my certification in nutrition. You can get away with an ok diet if you are physically active. But even if you eat healthy and are not physically active - it will hurt you.  Build a system in place to do something you like to do a few times a week. Volleyball, racquet ball, jump rope, lift weights, karate, pickle ball, hot yoga… I don't care, just do it 3-4 times a week for at least 45 minutes and your life will improve miraculously. Most people hate exercise because they choose exercise they hate. Choose something you love.  Becoming Stagnant in Career: Not continuing to learn, adapt, or seek new challenges in their career, leading to being passed over for promotions or feeling stuck. Two things you can do to grow in your position… proven strategies. #1 learn how to get along with people. Most people are promoted first and foremost because others like them. #2 Continue to ask to learn new things at your job. Have you ever wondered what your boss would say if you asked him “what can I learn in order to help you and your business succeed.  If you are not growing you are dying. Every year you should try to learn something new. Get a certificate in basket weaving… it does not matter. Stay sharp.  Ignoring Relationship Issues: Allowing resentments or communication problems to fester in their primary relationships, rather than actively working on them, potentially leading to divorce or emotional distance. You have not repaired family relationships and now they seem irreparable… until someone is lying on their deathbed… Now is the time.  Secondly you realize that between you and your spouse… that little issue did not go away. Now it is a monster. It could be how you flirt with other women, your anger issues, your over spending, your lack of communication…. Here is the crazy and astounding FACT - your marriage can get better and better and more amazing if you put in the hard work, or you can do nothing… simply nothing and it will suck. You don't have to put in the hard work for it to suck… just do nothing and it will happen all on its own. Ignorance starts out as bliss but soon turns into bitterness. Lack of Financial Planning for the Future: Not adequately saving for retirement, their children's education, or other significant future expenses, despite increased earning potential. We covered this before but for the sake of redundancy - If you have not started a healthy aggressive retirement plan by the time you are 40, you can plan to live poor when you retire or plan on working until you are in your late 70's. Don't be that guy.  Failing to Cultivate a Strong Support System: Losing touch with friends and neglecting to build new connections outside of work, leading to potential isolation. Point 2 today was ignoring relationship issues… but along with that is not taking time to build a support system. The old adage “the best way to have a friend is to be a friend”.  It has stood the test of time. This week I am helping a friend move.. why? Because he has been there for me numerous times.  Who do you call in a pinch, a bind, an emergency? I can call Ty, Tim, Scott, Allan and they will help no matter what. And they have called me… and I will help no matter what!  Under 50: Not Prioritizing Health Screenings: Skipping regular doctor's visits and necessary health screenings (e.g., prostate exams, cholesterol checks), which can delay early detection of serious illnesses. Becoming Complacent: Settling into a routine and resisting change, whether in their career, personal growth, or relationships, which can lead to a sense of unfulfillment or "mid-life crisis." Ignoring Work-Life Balance: Continuing to overwork at the expense of family, hobbies, and personal well-being, leading to burnout and regret. Failing to Update Skills or keep with the times: Not adapting to new technologies or industry changes, potentially making them less competitive in the job market. Right now you should be learning AI, crypto, Blockchain, Analytical and Critical Thinking: The ability to evaluate information objectively, question assumptions, ESPECIALLY IN TODAYS MEDIA -  and solve complex problems by breaking them down and finding innovative solutions is paramount. Even advanced AI can't replicate human critical analysis. And you don't have to be a nuts'O prepare but how do you live off the grid or what do you do what grocery stores are out of food? You have to protect yourself… as we get older many of us have become so dependent on technology that if we had to live out in the sticks we would die.  Its never been easier and more important to update your skills in every facet of life.  Lack of Estate Planning: Not putting a will, trusts, or other estate planning documents in place, leaving their loved ones in a difficult position later. The worst moments in life that I have seen personally is when someone dies and the family tears into each other because of a lack of planning on the part of the deceased. Everything from what you want in the funeral to who gets what.  Under 60: Regretting Not Living Authentically: Realizing they spent too much time trying to meet others' expectations rather than pursuing their own dreams and desires. Insufficient Retirement Savings: Facing the reality of retirement without adequate funds, potentially forcing them to work longer than desired or significantly alter their lifestyle. Losing Connection with Family/Friends: Realizing they neglected important relationships over the years and now struggle to reconnect or feel isolated. Ignoring Emotional Well-being: Not addressing long-standing emotional issues or seeking support for mental health, which can impact their quality of life in retirement. Failing to Maintain Physical Activity: Allowing a sedentary lifestyle to take over, leading to decreased mobility, chronic pain, and a lower quality of life in their later years. Not sharing Christ with those who have past on before you.  Not risking enough in your spiritual walk. Faith is spelled R.I.S.K. Have you ever prayed for a dead person to rise up? Have you ever prayed for a person with cancer? A headache? Have you ever spoken to someone a word that you feel God has given you for them? Have you called a friend out on a sin? Have you ever stood up for your biblical values at work or your network… I am pro-life. I do not agree with Transgenderism or homosexuality? I am pro Israel. I believe Jesus is coming back and you will spend eternity in Hell if you do not accept him as your Lord and Savior…  These are general observations, and every individual's journey is unique. The key takeaway is often the importance of proactive health, financial planning, continuous personal growth, and nurturing relationships throughout all stages of life.    

Garth Heckman The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com    When people are asked… if you could do it over again would you… and they say “no, I love my mistakes and its what made me who I am today”. That sounds great right, even manly… but I truly doubt it. If I could go back and do things differently would I? ABSOLUTELY 100% - so what would I do differently? Thats where were going today!    It's impossible to provide a definitive "five biggest mistakes" for every man in every decade of his life, as experiences and priorities vary greatly. However, based on common life challenges, regrets, and advice, here are some generally observed mistakes men often make at different ages: Under 20: Neglecting Education and Skill Development: Not taking school seriously, failing to explore passions, or not investing in skills that will be valuable later. This can limit future career and financial opportunities. I would imagine most boys are not realizing that High School is the last free education you will get… use it up as much as you can. And more than that, learn skills from other men, its free education. Welding, automotive, investing, carpentry, cooking, baking, relationship advice, boxing, Balancing your checking account, talking to women, handling conflict… Just about anybody can teach you something for free.    Poor Financial Habits: Not learning about budgeting, saving, or investing, and instead falling into debt (e.g., credit card debt, unnecessary loans) or wasteful spending. Here is a lesson I learned early on in life. And I will admit, that early on in life I liked to spend money on stupid stuff… or at least over spend on my hobbies. But I learned two huge pieces of advice. One give yourself a raise every year…i.e. shop for lower insurance, cable, internet, cheaper place to buy groceries etc… 2ndly I sell stuff I have not used for a year and I invest it into my 401k. Also I don't do my own investing other then crypto. And I do not touch my investments… early on I did, but I learned the hardware. If I had kept my Amazon stock I would have a few million dollars still in my portfolio.    Ignoring Health: Believing they're invincible and adopting unhealthy habits (poor diet, lack of exercise, insufficient sleep, substance abuse) that will have repercussions later. Not just ignoring health - but ignoring healthy habits. Build into your life a regular weekly exercise plan. Healthy eating and sleep habits. Look I get it, when I was under 20 years old I drank a 12 pack of Mt. Dew a day and ate a full bag of double stuff Oreos - now I was waterskiing and barefooting all day long so I was burning it off and I was also a competitive powerlifter… but the habit was hard to break even though I was not putting on weight.  Back to working out… most guys say they don't have time, but if you get up at 5am you will have time, not only that you will be more energetic during the day but when it comes to sleep you won't be able to stay up late watching stupid TV or computer or phone… so it all balances out.    Lack of Self-Awareness/Identity: Not taking the time to understand their values, goals, and who they are as individuals, often leading to being swayed by peer pressure or societal expectations. Know your weaknesses and box them in, and know your strengths and double down on those. I am not going to spend time working on becoming more detailed and OCD… it aint' me. I will work on being a leader, communicator, preacher, teacher, vision caster, motivator and risk taker.  I won't allow myself to work in my weaknesses - I will let others work in those areas…and if I absolutely have to I will first build a detailed system to do it.  Taking Relationships for Granted: Neglecting friendships or not learning healthy communication and respect in romantic relationships, which can lead to isolation or repeated relationship issues. Most men under 40 are only practicing divorce in their relationship habits. You make out, you have sex, you break up and move on. THIS IS THE PERFECT PRACTICE FOR A ruined marriage. Most guys under 20 are 100% motivated in relationships from a selfish foundation. They only give to get, they never learn to give just to give. They never learn to sacrifice in order to create a better version of the women they are dating.  Under 30: Not Investing Early: Missing out on the power of compound interest by delaying retirement savings or other long-term investments. If you are 25 and you invest $12 a day into an account reaping basically between 6-8% return you will have a million dollars by the time you retire. That is only $360 a month. That is nothing… if you think its a lot add up how much you spend at the convenience store, on clothes you don't wear, on tickets, on junk food and fast food and maybe even online gambling or girls… its peanuts.  Staying in Unfulfilling Jobs/Careers: Remaining in a job or industry solely for the paycheck, without pursuing opportunities that align with their passions or offer growth, leading to stagnation. Here is a secret. There is someone out there willing to pay you for what you want to do if you are good at it. You want to just play guitar all day? Learn to read music, join a musicians union, hang out with other musicians and producers… it is not that hard. You may not make millions, but you will earn a living doing what you love. I have quite a few friends who do it full time and part time and make decent money.    Prioritizing Work Over Relationships: Sacrificing personal connections, family time, and mental well-being for career advancement, leading to regret and strained relationships later. I know you are under 30… you have a lifetime ahead of you… but actually you are just about in midlife. If you live to 75 you are only a few years out from reaching that half way mark.. and trust me the next 35 will fly buy 3 times as fast!  So focus on relationships.. your parents, your spouse, your brothers and sisters, your childhood friends, men at church etc… make that a solid priority!    Failing to Address Mental Health: Ignoring or suppressing mental health issues, such as anxiety or depression, due to societal pressures or a "man up" mentality, preventing them from seeking necessary help. Look its no secret that a lot and I mean most of 30 and under came from dysfunctional families. From No dads to 4 dads… It can cause a lot of stress, mental baggage and a lack of skill in dealing with it. The internet, phone and social media pressure does not help. One of the greatest manly things you can do is go in for counseling and mental health screenings. Get the help you need and don't ever be embarrassed about it. You would not be embarrassed by going in for a broken arm… mental health is no different. And you are truly doing if for your current or future family.    Making Major Financial Commitments Without a Plan: Taking on significant debt (e.g., for an expensive car or a house they can barely afford) without a solid financial foundation or emergency fund. Nothing wrong with buying a new car… but that doesn't mean it has to be the brand-new or the best or even middle of the road. My car is 25 years old with 200,000 miles on it…and that car has not had a payment for 22 years.  If you are going to purchase a house, car of boat or motorcycle… talk to a legit financial counselor. You might be surprised at how much they can help you. There is nothing wrong with spending money, there are only wrong things to spend money on.    I will say this, I do see a lot of 30 and under young men who are really on the right track. They have learned the hard way from watching their parents make all the wrong and stupid decisions. Good for you! It will be worth it!    Under 40: Neglecting Physical Health: Continuing unhealthy habits from earlier decades, leading to the onset of chronic health problems (e.g., heart disease, obesity, diabetes) that could have been prevented or managed earlier. Here is a little bit of controversy…. And BTW I am working on attaining my certification in nutrition. You can get away with an ok diet if you are physically active. But even if you eat healthy and are not physically active - it will hurt you.  Build a system in place to do something you like to do a few times a week. Volleyball, racquet ball, jump rope, lift weights, karate, pickle ball, hot yoga… I don't care, just do it 3-4 times a week for at least 45 minutes and your life will improve miraculously. Most people hate exercise because they choose exercise they hate. Choose something you love.  Becoming Stagnant in Career: Not continuing to learn, adapt, or seek new challenges in their career, leading to being passed over for promotions or feeling stuck. Two things you can do to grow in your position… proven strategies. #1 learn how to get along with people. Most people are promoted first and foremost because others like them. #2 Continue to ask to learn new things at your job. Have you ever wondered what your boss would say if you asked him “what can I learn in order to help you and your business succeed.  If you are not growing you are dying. Every year you should try to learn something new. Get a certificate in basket weaving… it does not matter. Stay sharp.  Ignoring Relationship Issues: Allowing resentments or communication problems to fester in their primary relationships, rather than actively working on them, potentially leading to divorce or emotional distance. You have not repaired family relationships and now they seem irreparable… until someone is lying on their deathbed… Now is the time.  Secondly you realize that between you and your spouse… that little issue did not go away. Now it is a monster. It could be how you flirt with other women, your anger issues, your over spending, your lack of communication…. Here is the crazy and astounding FACT - your marriage can get better and better and more amazing if you put in the hard work, or you can do nothing… simply nothing and it will suck. You don't have to put in the hard work for it to suck… just do nothing and it will happen all on its own. Ignorance starts out as bliss but soon turns into bitterness. Lack of Financial Planning for the Future: Not adequately saving for retirement, their children's education, or other significant future expenses, despite increased earning potential. We covered this before but for the sake of redundancy - If you have not started a healthy aggressive retirement plan by the time you are 40, you can plan to live poor when you retire or plan on working until you are in your late 70's. Don't be that guy.  Failing to Cultivate a Strong Support System: Losing touch with friends and neglecting to build new connections outside of work, leading to potential isolation. Point 2 today was ignoring relationship issues… but along with that is not taking time to build a support system. The old adage “the best way to have a friend is to be a friend”.  It has stood the test of time. This week I am helping a friend move.. why? Because he has been there for me numerous times.  Who do you call in a pinch, a bind, an emergency? I can call Ty, Tim, Scott, Allan and they will help no matter what. And they have called me… and I will help no matter what! 

Garth Heckman The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com  Under 30: Not Investing Early: Missing out on the power of compound interest by delaying retirement savings or other long-term investments. If you are 25 and you invest $12 a day into an account reaping basically between 6-8% return you will have a million dollars by the time you retire. That is only $360 a month. That is nothing… if you think its a lot add up how much you spend at the convenience store, on clothes you don't wear, on tickets, on junk food and fast food and maybe even online gambling or girls… its peanuts.  Staying in Unfulfilling Jobs/Careers: Remaining in a job or industry solely for the paycheck, without pursuing opportunities that align with their passions or offer growth, leading to stagnation. Here is a secret. There is someone out there willing to pay you for what you want to do if you are good at it. You want to just play guitar all day? Learn to read music, join a musicians union, hang out with other musicians and producers… it is not that hard. You may not make millions, but you will earn a living doing what you love. I have quite a few friends who do it full time and part time and make decent money.    Prioritizing Work Over Relationships: Sacrificing personal connections, family time, and mental well-being for career advancement, leading to regret and strained relationships later. I know you are under 30… you have a lifetime ahead of you… but actually you are just about in midlife. If you live to 75 you are only a few years out from reaching that half way mark.. and trust me the next 35 will fly buy 3 times as fast!  So focus on relationships.. your parents, your spouse, your brothers and sisters, your childhood friends, men at church etc… make that a solid priority!    Failing to Address Mental Health: Ignoring or suppressing mental health issues, such as anxiety or depression, due to societal pressures or a "man up" mentality, preventing them from seeking necessary help. Look its no secret that a lot and I mean most of 30 and under came from dysfunctional families. From No dads to 4 dads… It can cause a lot of stress, mental baggage and a lack of skill in dealing with it. The internet, phone and social media pressure does not help. One of the greatest manly things you can do is go in for counseling and mental health screenings. Get the help you need and don't ever be embarrassed about it. You would not be embarrassed by going in for a broken arm… mental health is no different. And you are truly doing if for your current or future family.    Making Major Financial Commitments Without a Plan: Taking on significant debt (e.g., for an expensive car or a house they can barely afford) without a solid financial foundation or emergency fund. Nothing wrong with buying a new car… but that doesn't mean it has to be the brand-new or the best or even middle of the road. My car is 25 years old with 200,000 miles on it…and that car has not had a payment for 22 years.  If you are going to purchase a house, car of boat or motorcycle… talk to a legit financial counselor. You might be surprised at how much they can help you. There is nothing wrong with spending money, there are only wrong things to spend money on.    I will say this, I do see a lot of 30 and under young men who are really on the right track. They have learned the hard way from watching their parents make all the wrong and stupid decisions. Good for you! It will be worth it! 

Garth Heckman The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com    When people are asked… if you could do it over again would you… and they say “no, I love my mistakes and its what made me who I am today”. That sounds great right, even manly… but I truly doubt it. If I could go back and do things differently would I? ABSOLUTELY 100% - so what would I do differently? Thats where were going today!    It's impossible to provide a definitive "five biggest mistakes" for every man in every decade of his life, as experiences and priorities vary greatly. However, based on common life challenges, regrets, and advice, here are some generally observed mistakes men often make at different ages: Under 20: Neglecting Education and Skill Development: Not taking school seriously, failing to explore passions, or not investing in skills that will be valuable later. This can limit future career and financial opportunities. I would imagine most boys are not realizing that High School is the last free education you will get… use it up as much as you can. And more than that, learn skills from other men, its free education. Welding, automotive, investing, carpentry, cooking, baking, relationship advice, boxing, Balancing your checking account, talking to women, handling conflict… Just about anybody can teach you something for free.    Poor Financial Habits: Not learning about budgeting, saving, or investing, and instead falling into debt (e.g., credit card debt, unnecessary loans) or wasteful spending. Here is a lesson I learned early on in life. And I will admit, that early on in life I liked to spend money on stupid stuff… or at least over spend on my hobbies. But I learned two huge pieces of advice. One give yourself a raise every year…i.e. shop for lower insurance, cable, internet, cheaper place to buy groceries etc… 2ndly I sell stuff I have not used for a year and I invest it into my 401k. Also I don't do my own investing other then crypto. And I do not touch my investments… early on I did, but I learned the hardware. If I had kept my Amazon stock I would have a few million dollars still in my portfolio.    Ignoring Health: Believing they're invincible and adopting unhealthy habits (poor diet, lack of exercise, insufficient sleep, substance abuse) that will have repercussions later. Not just ignoring health - but ignoring healthy habits. Build into your life a regular weekly exercise plan. Healthy eating and sleep habits. Look I get it, when I was under 20 years old I drank a 12 pack of Mt. Dew a day and ate a full bag of double stuff Oreos - now I was waterskiing and barefooting all day long so I was burning it off and I was also a competitive powerlifter… but the habit was hard to break even though I was not putting on weight.  Back to working out… most guys say they don't have time, but if you get up at 5am you will have time, not only that you will be more energetic during the day but when it comes to sleep you won't be able to stay up late watching stupid TV or computer or phone… so it all balances out.    Lack of Self-Awareness/Identity: Not taking the time to understand their values, goals, and who they are as individuals, often leading to being swayed by peer pressure or societal expectations. Know your weaknesses and box them in, and know your strengths and double down on those. I am not going to spend time working on becoming more detailed and OCD… it aint' me. I will work on being a leader, communicator, preacher, teacher, vision caster, motivator and risk taker.  I won't allow myself to work in my weaknesses - I will let others work in those areas…and if I absolutely have to I will first build a detailed system to do it.  Taking Relationships for Granted: Neglecting friendships or not learning healthy communication and respect in romantic relationships, which can lead to isolation or repeated relationship issues. Most men under 40 are only practicing divorce in their relationship habits. You make out, you have sex, you break up and move on. THIS IS THE PERFECT PRACTICE FOR A ruined marriage. Most guys under 20 are 100% motivated in relationships from a selfish foundation. They only give to get, they never learn to give just to give. They never learn to sacrifice in order to create a better version of the women they are dating. 

Garth Heckman The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com    Is it hard for you to share Christ? Is it hard for you to say thank you? Is it hard for you to walk away? Is it hard for you to walk back? What does this have to do with anything? Well thats where we are going today.   LUKE 17 11 As Jesus continued on toward Jerusalem, he reached the border between Galilee and Samaria. 12 As he entered a village there, ten men with leprosy stood at a distance, 13 crying out, “Jesus, Master, have mercy on us!” 14 He looked at them and said, “Go show yourselves to the priests.” And as they went, they were cleansed of their leprosy. 15 One of them, when he saw that he was healed, came back to Jesus, shouting, “Praise God!” 16 He fell to the ground at Jesus' feet, thanking him for what he had done. This man was a Samaritan. 17 Jesus asked, “Didn't I heal ten men? Where are the other nine? 18 Has no one returned to give glory to God except this foreigner?” 19 And Jesus said to the man, “Stand up and go. Your faith has healed you.” Healed GK sozo - salvation 

Garth Heckman The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com  Do you want to change the world? Heck if you just want to change yourself… It doesn't take much actually, all you gotta do… all you gotta do is simply be willing to tick people off - pretty much every day. If you can handle that you are on your way…. And thats where were going today.  World-changing leaders, by their very nature, disrupt the status quo and challenge existing norms. This often leads to strong reactions, and anger can be a common response. Here are five main reasons why world-changing leaders make people mad: Threat to the Status Quo and Established Power: World-changing leaders often advocate for radical shifts in societal structures, economic systems, or deeply ingrained beliefs. This directly threatens individuals and groups who benefit from the current system, hold power within it, or are comfortable with the familiar. Their anger stems from a perceived loss of control, privilege, or stability. Who was most mad at Jesus? The pharisees… and they had the power. They made the money, they called the shots. Jesus wasn't just a threat to their Judean belief system, he was a threat to their power. They could no longer make money at the temple courts if Jesus keeps tipping over tables. The pharisees no longer had sway over the people as long as they were enamored by Christ teaching… the status quo had to go if you were a follower of Christ.  Uncertainty and Fear of the Unknown: Change, especially on a grand scale, inherently brings uncertainty. People are often resistant to change because it pushes them out of their comfort zones and into unfamiliar territory. The visions of world-changing leaders can seem daunting, unrealistic, or even dangerous to those who prefer predictability and fear the potential negative consequences of such profound shifts. This fear can easily manifest as anger or resentment. When a husband becomes sober all to many times the wife leaves him and marry's another alcoholic… why? She doesn't know how to live with a sober husband and the fear is to much to handle.  Challenge to Personal Beliefs and Values: Many world-changing leaders challenge deeply held cultural, religious, or personal values. When a leader proposes ideas that contradict what people believe to be fundamentally right or true, it can feel like a personal attack. This can provoke a strong emotional response, including anger, as individuals feel their identity and moral framework are being undermined. You may be to young to remember this, but when drums were introduced into the church worship service it split congregations. People would comment that if they wanted drums they would go to the bar… The values and beliefs were that this is corrupt music, it is sinful. But many pastors knew that to reach the lost they needed more contemporary music… HOW RADICAL RIGHT?    Disruption of Personal Comfort and Routine: Even for those who might agree with the ultimate goals, the process of world-changing transformation can be disruptive to daily life and established routines. It might require significant personal sacrifice, adaptation, or a re-evaluation of how things are done. This inconvenience and the effort required can lead to frustration and anger, especially if people feel the change is being imposed upon them without their full consent or understanding of the immediate personal cost. Lets say you are 50 years old and you really have not done anything to prepare financially to retire… but now you are. You put your wife and yourself on a strict budget and you start investing monthly… but your wife is used to shopping, and spending and getting what she wants… its a disruption to her normal life.  Or a wife wants to grow spiritually with her husband. She wants him to be the spiritual leader… she wants to get up early and read and pray with him… uhm… can anyone say disruption?  Perceived Arrogance or Unrealistic Expectations: Visionary leaders often possess immense self-belief and an unwavering commitment to their goals. While this can be inspiring to some, it can also be perceived as arrogance or a disregard for practical realities by others. When their ambitious visions face setbacks or prove difficult to implement, those who were skeptical can become angry, viewing the leader as detached from reality or overpromising. Furthermore, if the leader pushes people too hard or has unrealistic timelines, it can lead to burnout and resentment among followers. One of the most arrogant things Jesus said to the pharisees was if you destroy this temple I will rebuild it in 3 days. John 2:19.  How cocky… how ridiculous and how Right he was.  But not everyone will see it.  Look if you want to change the world or again just yourself - ask God to give you the strength to do just that regardless of what people think. 

Garth Heckman The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com    Matthew the first book of the Bible… The Book: One of the most important books of the New Testament, widely read and influential throughout Christian history.   * Provides a comprehensive account of Jesus' life, teachings, death, and resurrection   IT WAS WRITTEN BY LEVI (MATTHEW)    * Matthew was a beautifully crafted book written to the Jews. It is foundational to the other gospels.   *  He quotes the old Testament over 100 times and eludes to it another 50.     *- He mentions the Kingdom 55 times      * - He mentions Kingdom of heaven 32 times    - - - Matthew was never mentioned after Acts 2? History records that he was martyred in Ethiopia by sword.   His Social Standing: Wealthy due to his profession, but socially ostracized. Likely literate and skilled in record-keeping, essential for his work.   *and this is a good thing. He gives us the clearest historical picture of who Jesus is - which is what the Jews needed.   But he was a tax collector… they were hated by the jews. Many times you see in scripture where it says Jesus was with sinners and publicans which is a tax collector. This the scriptures way of telling us how the jews saw tax collectors…it would be like saying “this guy is bad, he is a sinner… but this guy… he is a tax collector… NOW THATS A SINNER!    But here is the twist…     - * History points to the belief that Matthew was the cousin of Jesus. Matthews father “Alphaeus Cephus” was the brother of Joseph- Jesus stepfather.    How hard is it for us to forgive people… pretty hard. But how hard is it for us to forgive family? EVEN HARDER…  Matthew obviously knew who Jesus was and now who he claimed to be. Jesus of course knew who Matthew was…    Jesus nicknames Levi “Matthew” which means gift from God. No one at that time looked at Levi and thought “gift of god” but rather curse from man or the roman government…. But Jesus saw who he could be….   Matthew was a tax collector - which meant He was a copius note taker Extremely educated and literate Gifted in negotiation Gift in debate and defense Handling disputes Detailed record keeping ALL OF THIS REFLECTS HIS WRITING IN THE BOOK OF MATTHEW! See when you come to Christ- he uses your past to be the framework for your future in faith. 

Garth Heckman The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com    What do you love the most? A certain type of food? Your spouses hips or lips? Your job? The money you make? Your biceps? Your ministry? Your 1953 corvette? Your brand-new Mercedes? Your girlfriend? Alcohol? Drugs? Your phone?  Or maybe it is far worse than that? Maybe you are in love with…. Thats where we are going today!   What are you in love with… a lot of answers come to mind… but I believe they all stem from one basic foundation. We love to be approved by others. We love others approval. And we are willing to do just about anything to get it.    The approval of other people is so important to most because it's deeply rooted in fundamental human psychological and evolutionary needs. Here's a breakdown of the key reasons: 1. Evolutionary and Survival Instincts: Historical Necessity: For much of human history, belonging to a group or tribe was essential for survival. Being accepted meant access to resources, protection from threats, and the ability to find a mate and raise offspring. Rejection from the group could be a death sentence. This deep-seated fear of rejection and need for acceptance has been passed down through generations. Social Connection: Humans are inherently social creatures. Our brains are wired for connection, and social interaction plays a crucial role in our well-being. Approval from others reinforces our sense of belonging and validates our place within a community. 2. Psychological Needs: Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs: The need for belongingness and love, and then esteem, are fundamental human needs in Maslow's hierarchy, ranking above basic physiological and safety needs. Approval from others contributes directly to these levels, making us feel loved, accepted, and valued. Self-Esteem and Self-Worth: For many, external validation acts as a mirror, reflecting back a sense of their own worth. When we receive approval, compliments, or praise, it can boost our confidence and reaffirm our abilities. Conversely, a lack of approval or criticism can lead to feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem. Fear of Rejection and Judgment: This is a powerful motivator. Many people seek approval to avoid the pain of being rejected, criticized, or judged. This fear can stem from childhood experiences where acceptance felt conditional. Dopamine Release: Receiving external validation, like likes on social media or compliments, can trigger the release of dopamine, a "feel-good" neurotransmitter in the brain. This creates a temporary sense of pleasure and satisfaction, which can lead to a desire to repeat behaviors that elicit this response. Social Comparison: We often compare ourselves to others to gauge our own performance, appearance, and social standing. Seeking approval can be a way to ensure we measure up favorably in these comparisons. 3. Childhood Experiences: Early Conditioning: Our early experiences, particularly with caregivers, heavily influence our need for approval. Children who receive consistent approval and validation tend to develop a stronger internal sense of self-worth. Those who experience neglect, criticism, or conditional acceptance may grow up with a persistent need for external validation. Learning Behavior: As children, we naturally look to our parents for recognition and validation when we accomplish something. This teaches us that external feedback is a way to understand if we've done "a good thing." 4. Societal and Cultural Factors: Social Norms: Society often has unspoken rules and expectations. Conforming to these norms can lead to increased social acceptance. Deviating from them can result in social exclusion. Social Media: The digital age has intensified the pursuit of approval. Platforms that revolve around "likes," "shares," and comments provide constant opportunities for external validation, which can become addictive and lead to an unhealthy reliance on others' opinions for self-worth.   Botton line is this - you seek peoples approval because you don't know you you have Gods approval.  Look one of my favorite memories is competing as a powerlifter and pulling 670 in Masters division one - it was a grind… drug free, no suit, just me and the iron - and when I was done I had Donnie Thompson who was at the judges table taking numbers call me over and tell me that it was a great lift. Donnie thompson is on the mount Rushmore of powerlifters. The first one ever to hit a 3000 pound total. When he says Great lift - it doens't really matter what anyone else thinks. He is the king of powerlifting. Well we serve another king who is the King of the world, the universe… and when we know we have his approval - nothing else matters.  Galatians 1:10 Obviously, I'm not trying to win the approval of people, but of God. If pleasing people were my goal, I would not be Christ's servant. OOOHhhhh this is sooo good. Did you catch it? You serve the one who's approval you seek. So whomever you are hoping to be approved by - you will do whatever it takes to show them you are their servant. The world loves suckers like you.  I live my life on one simple rule… If I know my relationship with God is good… then I don't give two cats meows about what anyone else thinks about me, what I do, what I say, where I go, what I believe in, what I stand for or what I preach or post on social media. I don't care - because God approves of me.  How do you know God approves of you? Well you don't earn it. You don't have to be special, you don't have to be good enough… you simply trust in his grace and his work on the cross. And here is the real secret, when you know you have Gods approval, you are free to be exactly who he created you to be.

Garth Heckman The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com    Raffling off some cool gear You can bid on some cool guy art Great food Meet some cool men who love God Learn some great new skills and get to know Jesus more.    As I get older the best most enjoyable times in my life is not what I do, or what I say or where I go… it is simply sitting and watching…. And that is where we are gong today.   My favorite times right now are simply sitting around the table with all my kids, and all my grandkids and just watching and listening. They don't do anything for me, they don't wait on me, they don't talk about how cool I am or what a awesome Papa I am… they actually almost ignored me… but they are in my presence and I am in theirs and its so refreshing.    The enemy doesn't need to try to stop you if you're willing to live a life without intent. If you're a take it as it comes, Christian, trust me it will be taken from you. And you will never realize your God-given potential.   But there is a difference between living without intent and just resting in God. How many times I have had conversations with people who say they are in a dry spot. They are getting nothing out of their quiet times. I don't want to minimize this.. because I have been in some pretty dry times.. but what I have learned the past few years in my time with God and in my dry times with God is so simple it is profound. I don't need to feel God to be in his presence and even more shocking, he wants to be in my presence even I don't pray to him or read his word… If I simply just sit and reflect on who he is and what he has done for me while practicing being in his presence he is happy. I have never had my boys when they were little, come into my presence and want to just sit on my lap or hang on my arm or just snuggle and I got mad becasue they didn't talk to me, they didn't do something for me…  - it was simply enough for me to just have them in my presence.  And I would hate it if they felt like I was not enjoying that time simply because I did not say anything. My quiet time is not about getting anything from God, but rather it is simply about spending time in his presence.  In Luke 10:38 When Mary sat at Jesus feet, Martha got mad. Martha told Jesus there are things to do, there is a list that needs to be filled and taken care of and Mary is just sitting there at your feet… she is doing nothing but sitting in your presence… Martha was busy doing, Mary was busy waiting. Jesus gently rebukes Martha that Mary has got it right.  I love the way the NLT says it - Mary discovered what was right.  Again, she said nothing, she did nothing, she wasn't even supposed to be sitting at Jesus feet… but Jesus said “she is waiting in my presence and she's got it right. Next time you feel down, dry - as if God is not in the same room… maybe just wait… don't read more, don't pray more, just wait in his presence. It can be the sweetest most rewarding time of all. 

Garth Heckman The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com    Oli-go-pistis….  Losing confidence   If mustard seed-sized faith can save you, it can also bring you victory in every situation. Faith is not about volume—it is about trust. The same faith that moved you from Satan's kingdom to God's kingdom, from eternal death to eternal life, is the faith that can heal, deliver, and provide for you. Think about the story of Peter walking on water. When Peter stepped out of the boat and walked toward Jesus, he was operating in faith. But the moment he took his eyes off Jesus and focused on the wind and waves, he began to sink. Jesus immediately caught him and said, "O you of little faith, why did you doubt?" (Matthew 14:31).   The example of a mustard seed is profound. In the natural, a mustard seed is one of the smallest seeds, but it grows into a tree where birds can rest in its branches. Jesus used this comparison to show that faith, though small in appearance, holds great potential when planted and nurtured. Faith is not stagnant; it is active and dynamic when exercised. Unbelief: The Real Issue   In Matthew 17, Jesus' disciples tried to cast out a demon but failed. They were confused because they had cast out demons before. When they asked Jesus why they couldn't do it this time, He answered, "Because of your unbelief." Not because their faith was too small, but because unbelief was interfering with their faith. Faith and unbelief are in a constant battle. It is not about increasing faith but removing unbelief. Unbelief comes from fear, doubt, and over-reliance on our senses. This kind of unbelief is removed through prayer and fasting (Matthew 17:21). Fasting and prayer focus our attention on God, quiet our flesh, and strengthen our faith by eliminating distractions.   Unbelief Spend time in the Word – Romans 10:17 says, "Faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the Word of God." The more you immerse yourself in Scripture, the stronger your faith becomes. Pray and fast – Prayer strengthens our spiritual connection with God, and fasting helps eliminate distractions that fuel unbelief. Surround yourself with believers – Proverbs 27:17 says, "As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another." Fellowship with strong believers helps encourage and build your faith. Speak faith-filled words – Life and death are in the power of the tongue (Proverbs 18:21). Speak words that align with God's promises rather than words of doubt. Take action on your faith – James 2:26 says, "Faith without works is dead." Step out in faith and trust that God will honor His Word.

Garth Heckman The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com      Why should anyone make a million dollars. Jim Rohn used to ask his audience that… its a good question. His answer was not about what you could buy or the freedom it gave you… but rather something completely different… and thats where we are going today.    Thank you for listening around the world…   M3 Equipped conference September 6th. 8am - 5 and longer.  Speakers include Brandon LaRue of Well Built Body, Mike Kohnyu of Ageis Security, Mike Kirschbaum entrepreneur and pastor, yours truly Garth Heckman and a few guest speaker testimonies that will rock you like a hurricane.  Its great food, Its free Its for men We will have some great vendors and a kick butt time to challenge each other.      If the battle has already been won, then why do we have to go through the war or the fight? Simple, it teaches us how to walk in victory. People who win a million dollars fall apart compared to those who earn a million dollars. Earning a million dollars means you had to learn a million dollars. Make sense? People who never went through the war of earning do not have the skill to walk in that wealth and multiply it. So we have the victory, but we must go through the war so that we learn how to walk in it and not abuse it. Lets make it practical. God is in the middle of blessing me greatly, but I pray over my wife and kids that they go through the battle to learn how to walk in the financial blessing I pass on to them. They can't live as millionaires or billionaires unless they first battle like millionaires and billionaires.    Acts 4:23 the disciples got busted for preaching the gospel and healing people. They get thrown in jail and then released after being beaten. They go back home and pray thanking God they were worthy to be beaten and then they pray for more boldness to preach the gospel.  **We already know God has given them all power and authority Matt. 28:19-21, so now they are simply praying GOD TEACH ME HOW TO WALK IN THIS.  It is a mindset shift. From knowing what I have to knowing who I am. If I win a million dollars I have the mindset “I HAVE A MILLION DOLLARS. If I learn to earn a million dollars my mindset is “I am a millionaire”. That in itself says “I am a millionaire, meaning I know how to earn or make a million dollars”.  I am a farmer.. I know how to plant and grow a crop. It would be weird for a farmer to say I own a thousand ears of corn… no, he understands he knows how to grow a 1000 ears of corn. So he knows he is a farmer, not an owner of produce.    It may seem like I am splitting hairs here but until you realize that who we are in Christ is more than just knowing what we have in Christ - but rather believing and KNOWING who we are in Christ. We won't have this simple shift in our heads when life gets tough… When problems arise or prayers are unanswered we shift to this thought process… God what are you trying to reveal to me so that I know that I know that I know who I am. When that happens, you dig in and really begin to grow in Christ. 

Garth Heckman The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com      The most expensive Swiss knife The most expensive Swiss Army Knife ever made is a luxury model produced by Victorinox in collaboration with Swiss jeweler Bonfort, released in 2004. It is covered with nearly 800 diamonds, totaling close to 4 carats, and features platinum or gold shells. Only 40 pieces were made (20 in platinum, 20 in gold), each priced at over $100,000. The knife includes standard tools like a large blade, small blade, nail file, nail cleaner, scissors, orange peeler, screwdriver, and tweezers, with all tools except the tweezers encrusted with diamonds. It comes in a solid aluminum suitcase with a diamond authenticity certificate   If you don't need it, I don't got it, but if you need it, I got it.  Sounds corny but the truth is that is exactly what the word of God is like.    The Bible uses several vivid word pictures to describe God's Word, beyond the well-known metaphors of a lamp and a sword. Here are some key examples, drawn from Scripture:   Fire: God's Word is likened to a fire, symbolizing its power to purify, consume, and energize. Jeremiah 23:29 - "Is not my word like fire," declares the Lord, "and like a hammer that breaks a rock in pieces?" Hammer: In the same verse, God's Word is compared to a hammer, emphasizing its ability to break through hardness and resistance, such as stubborn hearts or false beliefs. Seed: The Word is depicted as a seed that, when planted in receptive hearts, grows and bears fruit. Mark 4:14 - In the Parable of the Sower, Jesus explains, "The sower sows the word." Water: The Word is described as water, cleansing and nourishing those who receive it. Ephesians 5:26 - Christ cleanses the church "by the washing with water through the word." Mirror: The Word acts as a mirror, revealing one's true spiritual condition and prompting self-examination. James 1:23-25 - It compares someone who hears the Word but doesn't act on it to a person who looks in a mirror and forgets their appearance. Bread/Food: God's Word is likened to sustenance, essential for spiritual life and growth. Matthew 4:4 - Jesus says, "Man shall not live on bread alone, but on every word that comes from the mouth of God." Honey: The Word is described as sweet, delightful, and desirable. Psalm 119:103 - "How sweet are your words to my taste, sweeter than honey to my mouth!" Light: Beyond a lamp, the Word is a broader source of light, illuminating truth and dispelling darkness. Psalm 119:105 - "Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path." Rain and Snow: The Word is compared to precipitation that nourishes the earth, ensuring growth and fruitfulness. Isaiah 55:10-11 - "As the rain and the snow come down from heaven... so is my word that goes out from my mouth: It will not return to me empty." Treasure/Gold: The Word is portrayed as precious and valuable, worth more than material wealth. Psalm 19:10 - "They are more precious than gold, than much pure gold; they are sweeter than honey, than honey from the comb."   Salt And a few more…    These metaphors collectively highlight the multifaceted nature of God's Word—its power, beauty, necessity, and transformative impact on those who engage with it. If you need it, Gods word provides it.

Garth Heckman The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com    Matthew 19:3 The Pharisees also came to Him, testing Him, and saying to Him, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason?” 4 And He answered and said to them, “Have you not read that He who [a]made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,' 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'? 6 So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.” NOW THE PHARISEES ARE DOING WHAT THE WORLD DOES RIGHT HERE… THEY WANT JESUS TO FOCUS ON TWO THOUGHTS.. ONE-DIVORCE IS ALLOWED FOR ANY REASON AND TWO DIVORCE IS ONLY ALLOWED FOR ADULTERY. **But Jesus flips the script and does not focus on Divorce but rather on marriage. He focuses on the covenant between God and Man and his wife. The term “whatsoever God has joined together” When you want to divorce your spouse for any reason you run the risk of divorcing God… when you lust you not only break a covenant with your spouse but with God, when a woman fantasizes about security in another man she breaks the covenant with God and her husband… this covenant makes marriage a whole new mindset.  7 They said to Him, “Why then did Moses command to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away?” 8 He said to them, “Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. 9 And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.” Moses allowed it due to hardness of heart. Meaning… your sin will justify your decisions. Rather then understand how marriage gives you a great grounds to practice Gods love (i.e. he loved us while we were sinners, he forgave us continually, he chose us as his bride knowing we would blow it) - we could practice this with our spouses… but we don't - we have hard hearts.  **hold the phone.. what is this saying: It is saying something profound so don't miss it. Gods permission is not his perfect will or desire. So don't confuse the two.  Just becasue God allows it, does not mean God ordains it or blesses it. Maybe thats why second marriages are higher in divorce than first marriages… just saying.  10 His disciples said to Him, “If such is the case of the man with his wife, it is better not to marry.” THE DISCIPLES REALIZED HOW HARD MARRIAGE WAS… AND IF THERE IS NO REAL WAY OUT OTHER THAN ADULTERY THEY KNEW THEY WOULD BE STUCK… UNABLE TO USE ANY EXCUSE TO DIVORCE. **AND LETS BE HONEST MOST DIVORCES ARE EXCUSES BASED ON OUR NEEDS NOT GETTING MET.  Biblically We don't marry for our needs to be met - but we do… smh. This is why divorce is so high in our world today. When we feel cheated, slighted, ripped off, - when we feel like our expectations are not being met we blame the other person and choose divorce.  But if God ordained it… then it must be good right? What does it mean ordained it. Simple. He ordained for marriage to be hard. Like somone once said “you don't get married for a good time, you get married for a long time”.  Marriage is the singe best way to be placed in a position where you absolutely need God in order to make it in life.  Not health issues, not money issues, not mindset or intelligence issues… NOPE, its marriage that will drive you mad unless you have Jesus on your side to help YOU - not your spouse, but you.  Marriage is the hardest and the best thing going for you if you truly want to be more like Jesus. Rely on him, seek him and know that he will use marriage to make you Christ like. 

Garth Heckman The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com    NO TDA over the 4th of July Weekend… But I will see you on Monday the 7th.    When did it happen? You thought you were good at something and then realized you had so much more growth ahead of you. When you had more questions than answers. When you realized this is the secret sauce to mastering something. When you understood you should have done this a long time ago.     When I was taking guitar my teacher Jeff Schroedl was amazing. He still is. His band Altered 5 is a blues band that has won numerous awards.    Matthew 28:18Then Jesus came to them and said, “All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to Me. 19Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit, 20and teaching them to obey all that I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, even to the end of the age.   *Key point: Great leaders don't create followers, they create leaders. Great Disciples don't create followers of Christ, they create people who create followers of Christ.    In these few simple verses we tend to focus in on Power and Authority, the Making of Disciples and even baptizing new converts and we even highlight that this is a command… but what do we miss. Well by logical conclusion one can determine that the key to all of these is Obedience.    Five key reasons you need to learn discipleship: Obedience to Jesus' Command: Jesus directly instructed his followers to "Go and make disciples of all nations...". Learning discipleship is an act of obedience to this fundamental command, demonstrating our willingness to follow his instructions. This obedience is a way of expressing our love for him…   Obedience is greater than sacrifice - thats what scripture says. Without obedience you are just like a non Christian except you will go to heaven… You will be judged for your disobedience and your lack of following through on his commands.    Spiritual Growth and Maturity: Discipleship is crucial for ongoing spiritual development. It's not about reaching a point of "knowing enough" but about continuously growing in Christ. It fosters a deeper understanding of biblical truths, the application of faith in daily life, and the development of Christ-like character.   You ask anyone who moved from student into the role of a teacher and ask them which was more challenging, which taught them more… without a doubt it is being a teacher. When you disciple someone that is when you really start to grow and mature in Christ.    Building Stronger Relationships: Discipleship creates opportunities to build deep, authentic relationships with other believers. These relationships provide a supportive environment for mutual encouragement, accountability, and the sharing of life experiences. This strengthens the Christian community and fosters a sense of belonging.   People who go through war together have an unbreakable bond. Discipleship is many times war… spiritual warfare, but war none the less.    Equipping and Empowering Others: Discipleship is a process of intentional mentorship where experienced believers guide and nurture newer ones in their spiritual journey. This empowers individuals to live out their faith authentically and to make a positive impact in the world around them. It also plays a vital role in carrying the gospel to others, even in least-reached communities. Living a Life Reflecting Christ: Discipleship involves imitating Jesus' example in our lives. This means not just hearing his teachings but also living them out through love, service, and sacrifice. It's a lifelong endeavor to become more like him in character and actions. This process includes cultivating a heart of love for God and others, actively serving those in need, and sharing the gospel with those who haven't heard. 

Garth Heckman The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com    Matthew 8:28 The demons went from screaming, to begging to pleading to fleeing   There are biblical principles and spiritual principles   *Becoming husband and wife is a Biblical principle The two shall become one is a spiritual principle *Tithing is a biblical principle (10%) Giving is a spiritual principle   DELIVERANCE IS A SPIRITUAL PRINCIPLE DISCIPLESHIP IS A BIBLICAL PRINCIPLE        ARE YOU TRACKING??? DEVOTION DELIVERANCE AND FINALLY  Discipleship  Matthew 28:18Then Jesus came to them and said, “All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to Me. 19Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit, 20and teaching them to obey all that I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, even to the end of the age.     Make Disciples GK Mathetoo-O Aorist tense - continually make disciples who make disciples, who make disciples who make disciples… etc…. Get it? Continual process!    Bible studies are not discipleship… Being a disciple is someone who makes disciples that make disciples. I would challenge most people in bible studies to show me how their bible study is producing disciples who make disciples who in turn make disciples.  

Garth Heckman The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com    QUESTION FOR YOU What is a church that is known for worship in our cities? What is a church that is known for great preaching? What is a church that is known for amazing youth ministry? What is a church that is known for fantastic Children's ministry? What is a church that is known for prayer?      My house shall be called a house of prayer. Matthew 21:13   Call GK Kah-le-O Call, invite/inviting, known as…   Ever see a really big plush comfy chair at a store and you just have to sit in it?    A friend… Eeyore  Blood alley… McStop…. PrayerSpring…. = HillSpring    Acts 2:42 and they devoted themselves to prayer Devoted GK Proskahtero = to attend assiduously all the exercises to a person in prayer   HillSpr!ng will be a house of devotion… it will be devoted to prayer.      Here are five biblical reasons a church should be based on prayer:  * Jesus's Example and Teaching: Jesus Himself consistently prioritized prayer. He withdrew to pray (Luke 5:16, Mark 1:35), taught His disciples to pray (Matthew 6:9-13, Luke 11:1-4), and declared His house to be "a house of prayer" (Matthew 21:13, Mark 11:17, Luke 19:46, quoting Isaiah 56:7). His life and words demonstrate that prayer is central to God's purpose for His people and His dwelling place. If the head of the church, Jesus, was devoted to prayer, so too should His body.     NOTHING SHOWS A Dependence on God MORE THAN A LIFE OF PRAYER.  As Jesus said, "Apart from me you can do nothing" (John 15:5).    * Spiritual Warfare: The Bible teaches that believers are engaged in spiritual warfare (Ephesians 6:12). Prayer is a primary weapon in this battle. A church committed to prayer understands that spiritual breakthroughs, deliverance from evil, and the advancement of God's kingdom are often achieved through fervent, corporate prayer. When the church prays, it actively resists the schemes of the enemy (James 4:7).  * Source of Power and Miracles: All throughout Acts and the epistles they prayed, they preached and they saw miracles.    Cultivating Intimacy with God and Unity within the Church: Prayer fosters a deeper relationship with God, both individually and corporately. AGAIN ACTS 2:42 - THEY PRAYED CORPORATELY. 

ARE YOU TRACKING??? DEVOTION DELIVERANCE AND FINALLY  Discipleship  Matthew 28:18Then Jesus came to them and said, “All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to Me. 19Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit, 20and teaching them to obey all that I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, even to the end of the age.   Gk: ENTEL-O-MY Commanded you - you are now held responsible until it comes to an end.   Your are responsible for what you know… if you don't act on what you know you will never understand or get the insight to the next level.    People run around looking for the next spiritual insight, tidbit and juicy greek insight… Well in the greek this word means this and its the 5th verse of the 6 chapter, and My brother is 5'6 and he quoted me this and now The spirit is moving me to command the heavenlies… blah blah blah You are trying to pretend like you are at a new level…but its just information. You will not know what you need to know until you do what you know to do. OR until you do what you know to do you will never know what is next for you to know!!   COMMAND = IF YOU DON'T FOLLOW THE FIRST COMMAND YOU WON'T GET THE NEXT ONE     Witnessing on bourbon street during Mardi Gras  The man goes ballistic… why did you tell me. WHY? Now I am responsible for what I know!      *I wish most Christians understood that.         Includes Evangelism Bible studies are good, but discipleship is best.  Discipleship that produces Disciples that produce Disciples… etc…     Matthew 25 the talents. You won't get more until you use what you have.     Mt. 25 The talents… you are stubborn man who expects THINGS to happen without apology me to make the most of my talent.

Garth Heckman The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com      Matthew 25 the parable of the talents   24 “Then he who had received the one talent came and said, ‘Lord, I knew you to be a hard man, reaping where you have not sown, and gathering where you have not scattered seed. 25 And I was afraid, and went and hid your talent in the ground. Look, there you have what is yours.' This servant makes up an excuse… he convinces himself that the master is a mean spirited man. Funny, in the greek this term actually means he is stubborn and expecting with out remorse. HE EXPECTS RESULTS. BUT IF YOUR GOD and you are in charge of the return… shouldn't you be stubborn and expecting results without remorse? Anyway…  You know when you tell a good story you should cover all the options… like one invested  and made money, one invested a little and made money… and one invested very little and broke even… but not in this story - because God is showing us a very important point - no one just simply breaks even when they use whatever they have NO MATTER HOW SMALL IT IS for God. Why do you think this dude makes this excuse?  Self-Protection (Protecting Ego/Self-Esteem): This is perhaps the most fundamental reason. Excuses serve as a defense mechanism to shield our ego and self-esteem from perceived threats like anxiety, shame, guilt, criticism, or blame. By shifting responsibility to external factors or downplaying the situation, we protect our self-image. For example, blaming a failed test on "an unfair test" rather than "lack of preparation" makes us feel less incompetent. This often falls under the umbrella of "self-handicapping," where we create obstacles to performance to have an excuse ready if we fail. Fear (of Failure, Rejection, Judgment): The fear of not succeeding, being rejected, or being judged by others can be a powerful motivator for making excuses. If we don't try, we can't fail. Excuses allow us to avoid situations where we might experience these uncomfortable emotions. For instance, someone might say they're "too busy" to pursue a dream job, when the underlying fear is of rejection or not being good enough. The kid in gym class who always has an excuse to not wrestle, run or compete… Avoiding Responsibility and Accountability: Excuses help us escape the consequences of our actions or inaction. If something goes wrong, an excuse can deflect blame and prevent us from having to "make it right." This can be a conscious or subconscious attempt to avoid personal responsibility and the discomfort that comes with it. But surprise surprise… God will hold us accountable even if we don't play the game. You don't want to use your gifts for God? He will still call you on it.  Or maybe its just  Lack of Motivation or Perceived Value: Sometimes, people make excuses because they genuinely don't see the value in a task, or they associate pain or difficulty with it. If the perceived effort outweighs the perceived reward, or if a task conflicts with our true priorities, our mind will find reasons (excuses) to avoid it. This can often manifest as procrastination.

Garth Heckman The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com    Why am I here? Who am I supposed to be? What is the point of life? These are great questions and I am sure we have all wrestled with them at some point, but they all come down to one main question… and that question is???? Thats where we are going today.    The question that answers every question…    Matt. 6:33 31 “Therefore do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?' or ‘What shall we drink?' or ‘What shall we wear?' 32 For after all these things the Gentiles seek. For your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things. 33 But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you. 34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.   Seek the kingdom of God… right up front Jesus is saying change your perspective. Look eternally…      No purpose Fall into petty fears, worries, troubles, poor choices, self pity,  Which leads to weakness Which leads to sins Which leads to a flat and void existence full of failure, unhappiness, and questions of doubt.   You can have energy, you can have brains, you can have God, you can have money, you can have friends, you can have good looks, you can have titles… but if you have no purpose it feels even more meaningless.    What happens when you have a purpose?  Goals start to align. Systems start to form. People start to show up. Steps start to be taken. Resources start to flow, new ideas start to grow… a purpose is the dirt inwich you grow everything else. I can grow anything, anywhere just about anytime if I have dirt… but without dirt it aint going to happen.    How do you find your purpose… Ok, we know our overall purpose is to seek the Kingdom of God (that is doing things Gods way, with his heart and his commands… reach the world for Christ)  Great Garth, but can you be a little more practical… I will tell you what works for many…  Combine your passions, your gifting and your highs and ask yourself what people group does this line up with up best.  My passion is winning people to Christ My gifting is speaking, leading and equipping My high comes from seeing other people win. When I see someone that I spoke into, taught, equipped, loved on, poured into… when I see them succeed in their purpose… it fires me up!  And finally All of this is best suited for men. So… again.  Passion winning people to Christ Gifting speaking, leading equipping My high seeing other succeed Who is my audience? Im drawn specifically to men

Garth Heckman The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com        Here are the key themes and teachings: 1. God's Impartiality as a Model: The Bible frequently states that God shows no favoritism or partiality. This is a foundational aspect of His character and justice. Deuteronomy 10:17: "For the Lord your God is God of gods and Lord of lords, the great, the mighty, and the awesome God, who shows no partiality and accepts no bribes." Romans 2:11: "For God does not show favoritism." Acts 10:34-35: Peter, recognizing a significant theological truth, declared, "Truly I understand that God shows no partiality, but in every nation anyone who fears him and does what is right is acceptable to him." Because God is impartial, His judgment is fair and applies to everyone equally, regardless of their background, status, or identity. 2. Condemnation of Favoritism and Partiality: The Bible explicitly condemns showing partiality, particularly based on wealth, social status, or outward appearance. James 2:1-4: This passage is a strong rebuke against favoritism within the church, illustrating the sin of giving preferential treatment to the rich over the poor. It states, "My brothers, as you hold out your faith in our glorious Lord Jesus Christ, do not show favoritism. For if a man wearing a gold ring and fine clothing comes into your assembly, and a poor man in shabby clothing also comes in, and if you pay attention to the one who wears the fine clothing and say, 'You sit here in a good place,' while you say to the poor man, 'You stand over there,' or, 'Sit down at my feet,' have you not discriminated among yourselves and become judges with evil thoughts?" James 2:9: "But if you show favoritism, you sin and are convicted by the law as lawbreakers." This verse elevates favoritism to the level of sin. Leviticus 19:15: "You shall do no injustice in court. You shall not be partial to the poor or defer to the great, but in righteousness shall you judge your neighbor." This Old Testament law highlights the importance of fairness in judgment. Proverbs 24:23: "These also are sayings of the wise: To show partiality in judgment is not good." 3. Call to Impartiality and Love for All: Believers are called to emulate God's impartiality in all their dealings. 1 Timothy 5:21: Paul charges Timothy, a church leader, "I solemnly charge you before God and Christ Jesus and the elect angels to maintain these principles without bias, doing nothing out of partiality." Galatians 3:28: "There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus." This verse emphasizes the unity and equality of all believers in Christ, transcending social and cultural distinctions. Matthew 7:1-3: While not using the word "bias" directly, Jesus warns against being a critic "full of bias toward others," emphasizing that we will be judged by the same standard we use for others. Love your neighbor: The "royal law" (James 2:8) to "love your neighbor as yourself" implicitly demands impartiality, as it means treating others with the same care and respect you desire for yourself, regardless of who they are. In essence, the Bible views bias, partiality, and favoritism as contrary to God's righteous character and a hinderance to justice, love, and unity among people. It calls believers to strive for impartiality, treating all individuals with fairness, dignity, and love, reflecting the nature of God.     mind like water-when you drop a pebble, stone or a boulder into a lake lt always responds appropriately.

Garth Heckman The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com  Fear is not hard Happiness is kind of hard (the fear of the unkown… when will it end) But what is really fearful is not knowing at all - the not knowing is what gets you.    My hardest test was not cancer… it was the waiting on the tests to see a. If I had cancer and then b. If had spread, and c. Is it stage I. II.  III or IV.    The mind, however finds it much harder to accept uncertainty.   I have no problem fearing what I know… get into a cage to fight or under a huge amount of weight… I know what is coming. But to get into a cage to fight and I don't know who it is… or getting under a bar and I don't know how much weight there is… that seems unfair. The mind fears change loss and death, but not when it knows it is certain - it is when it is uncertain that drives you crazy.  This resistance, the body translates into stress. By imposing mental resistance, you create a threat your body had to cope with.   Deepak Chopra explained it this way… Some people riding a roller coaster are screaming from excitement, others from terror.  The ride is the same but the ones who hold back and tense their bodies, generating a flood of stress hormones, experience terror.   The ones who let go and allow themselves to be carried by the ride experience exhilaration.  Ageless Body, Timeless Mind, Deepak Chopra p. 174   All through out the Bible we see people who were tested and had trials and even life and death moments… Stephen was the first martyr and died literally with a smile on his face.  Saul died in agony Paul looked forward to death Judas hung himself Peter asked to die upside down because he was not worthy to die the way his Messiah did Samson chose his death Look there are dozens of examples… the difference was some had complete faith in God and were able to let go and enjoy the ride. Others did not have that confidence in who God was. We speak a lot about how much faith a person has and how to use it… healing, giving, speaking out etc… but I believe the real mark of faith is your day to day reactions or response to what happens to you. If your faith and trust in God is great… the unknown is just the unknown… but if you lack that trust then the unknown is a daily minefield and battle.  So today choose to know God for who he is and not for insight into what is coming your way… trust me.. the not knowing can be extremely exciting when you know the one who dose in fact know. When your knower knows its all good. 

Garth Heckman The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com    Acts 12 6 The night before Peter was to be placed on trial, he was asleep, fastened with two chains between two soldiers. Others stood guard at the prison gate. 7 Suddenly, there was a bright light in the cell, and an angel of the Lord stood before Peter. The angel struck him on the side to awaken him and said, “Quick! Get up!” And the chains fell off his wrists. 8 Then the angel told him, “Get dressed and put on your sandals.” And he did. “Now put on your coat and follow me,” the angel ordered. 9 So Peter left the cell, following the angel. But all the time he thought it was a vision. He didn't realize it was actually happening. 10 They passed the first and second guard posts and came to the iron gate leading to the city, and this opened for them all by itself. So they passed through and started walking down the street, and then the angel suddenly left him. 11 Peter finally came to his senses. “It's really true!” he said. “The Lord has sent his angel and saved me from Herod and from what the Jewish leaders had planned to do to me!” 12 When he realized this, he went to the home of Mary, the mother of John Mark, where many were gathered for prayer. 13 He knocked at the door in the gate, and a servant girl named Rhoda came to open it. 14 When she recognized Peter's voice, she was so overjoyed that, instead of opening the door, she ran back inside and told everyone, “Peter is standing at the door!” 15 “You're out of your mind!” they said. When she insisted, they decided, “It must be his angel.” 16 Meanwhile, Peter continued knocking. When they finally opened the door and saw him, they were amazed. 17 He motioned for them to quiet down and told them how the Lord had led him out of prison. “Tell James and the other brothers what happened,” he said. And then he went to another place. 18 At dawn there was a great commotion among the soldiers about what had happened to Peter. 19 Herod Agrippa ordered a thorough search for him. When he couldn't be found, Herod interrogated the guards and sentenced them to death. Afterward Herod left Judea to stay in Caesarea for a while.   Gods ways are not our ways…   Peter is out cold waiting to be executed…   It took a group of people praying… how is your church at that? How are your friends at that?   God broke the law by breaking Peter out of Jail.   Rhoda was so awestruck that she left Peter in the dark.   Peter though freed was wise enough to tell everyone to be quiet…    He was free, but also smart enough to get out of town.   God's plan does not seem fair or make much sense and even might seem cruel. Herod had the guards all executed for their role in this… fair, unfair.. its up to God to decide… we just follow orders of the Holy Spirit.    Did you ever think that maybe we limit God moving in our life because we want answers that are supernatural, but safe and in order?  God is not like that.

Garth Heckman The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com    True story… my mom and Dad at walgreens, she drops her check card on the floor a young man grabs it and runs out the door… The clerk shouted at my mom- don't pursue him, just call the cops and cancel the card…        Today I will be posting my Birthday numbers… Squat over 600, deadlift over 600 and Bench over 600…. Just kidding… Maybe 350…? Maybe But look for me on my social media accounts…      Episode 1529… yes that is correct.. with over 130K listeners just that I can track and on over 10 different radio stations   Forgive our enemies is not natural… it has to be supernatural.  LOVE our Enemies is Transformational!    GOD PURSUED NINEVEH  AND… JONAH  He never quits pursuing us - but don't forget by pursuing us he is using it in the big picture to pursue others…. See once you completely surrender to Gods plan… then thousands of others will also be caused to surrender   The art of pursuing.    A young man steals a purse… the woman's husband runs after him… miles… he was a long distance runner… in fact an olympian.  God will run you down.        A young Christian… Tim, came to meet with me and was complaining about people in our church who were smoking during our break… he was being harsh… but the problem was he was talking to me with Chew stuck in his teeth.      You push my buttons. No one ever says “I have buttons” God take away my buttons. Jonah could not see he had buttons. Pastor Paul from Calvary Chapel Ontario JONAH DIDN'T PRAY - GOD SOFTEN MY HEART FOR THE PEOPLE… HE WHINED AGAINST GOD. 

Garth Heckman The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com    Tomorrow I will be posting my Birthday numbers… Squat over 600, deadlift over 600 and Bench over 600…. Just kidding… Maybe 350…? Maybe But look for me on my social media accounts…      Episode 1528… yes that is correct.. with over 130K listeners just that I can track and on over 10 different radio stations and heard in USA, United Kingdom, Canada, Poland, United Arabe Emirtes, Czech Republic, Denmark, Indonesia, Iraq, Netherlands, Russia, XK, Australia…    A lot of people have reached out and wanted me to give my take on the War in Israel with Iran… as far as hard and fast details that are not tainted by the US media go to Tipping Point USA with Jimmy Evans and also Amir Tsarfati on Telegram…and make sure it is the official one and not a fake account… BUT here is my take - We understand that from here on out Israel will not lose another war until the battle of Armageddon when the whole world comes against Israel… Israel will cry out to God and Jesus will return on a white horse and crush the enemy…   But what I do know more than ever is we should be praying for the salvation of all those involved… yes praying for the salvation of the jewish nation and all Jews around the world but also praying for people and countries. Including Iran, Iraq and all of the middle east. Praying for Muslims that they might come to the full knowledge  and understanding  of who Christ is. That is what is most important. Thats my take.   But with that… it reminds me of Jonah. You know the story… (tell story)   When Jonah does return he does not preach the full extent of scripture…. He only tells them they are doomed for their sin. The city of Nineveh figures it out themselves… they repent. But here is the kicker… Jonah's actions did not match his heart. In chapter 4 Jonah laments that his worst fear actually happened…  Chapter 4:1 This change of plans greatly upset Jonah, and he became very angry. 2 So he complained to the Lord about it: “Didn't I say before I left home that you would do this, Lord? That is why I ran away to Tarshish! I knew that you are a merciful and compassionate God, slow to get angry and filled with unfailing love. You are eager to turn back from destroying people. 3 Just kill me now, Lord! I'd rather be dead than alive if what I predicted will not happen.”   Jonah understood Gods Holiness, he understood the price of sin, he understood Gods mercy and grace… What he didn't understand was the cost and ramification of his own sin.    Forgive our enemies is not natural… it has to be supernatural.  LOVE our Enemies is Transformational! 

Garth Heckman The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com    Final thought… The lions den By the time Daniel got to the lions den, his life had been so cemented on who God is, the lions are almost circumstance… “The King said worship no one else but me… Oh I know where this is going”. Daniel ended up in the lions den… of course he did- we are talking about out Daniel - are we not?     Chapter 6:24 Then the king gave orders to arrest the men who had maliciously accused Daniel. He had them thrown into the lions' den, along with their wives and children. The lions leaped on them and tore them apart before they even hit the floor of the den.   The biblical account in the book of Daniel mentions different categories of these advisors, including:  Magicians - potentially interpreters of dreams Enchanters - possibly involved in incantations or conjuring Sorcerers - individuals practicing witchcraft or magic Chaldeans - a learned group, perhaps functioning as a class of "wise men" or astrologers Satraps - chief representatives or governors over regions Prefects - officials with authority over specific areas or functions Governors - regional leaders managing provincial affairs Treasurers - responsible for managing financial resources Judges - tasked with administering justice and resolving disputes Magistrates - local officials with judicial and administrative authority Counselors - including lawyers or guardians of the law    So even if half of these and their families were thrown into the lions den….    If they were eaten before they even hit the floor, and lions can only eat 75 pounds of meat at once…   This means that there were anywhere from 500-700 lions… AND IN THE FACE OF THAT DANILE WAS LIKE… NOPE I AINT WORSHIPING ANYBODY BUT GOD!    Rom. 12:19"Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, 'Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord   But he never wavered… he took God at his word.  Do we really live as Christians? Is there any compromise…

Garth Heckman The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com    A lot of stories in the book of Daniel… food, lions, fires, beheading, Idols, end times… But if you have to title the book of Daniel… as in pick a theme or a title… it would be easy for me…. It would be called 73 seconds.    73 seconds…    The Space shuttle had a 99.9999 perfection in its running parts. NEAR TOTAL PERFECTION. But in just 73 seconds due to the compromise of an O ring .0001 it imploded and millions watched 7 people die.   Daniel is about NO COMPROMISE.  NO COMPROMISE. Sermon, how did they overcome? They overcame by no compromise in any area for any reason and for anyone! As soon as you compromise even slightly, you have already lost for the slide slowly, but the end is destruction.   HOW? Daniel 1:8  But Daniel purposed in his heart that he would not defile himself with the portion of the king's delicacies, nor with the wine which he drank; HE WAS 15 WHEN HE SAID THIS!!!!!   WHAT DOES DEFILE ACTUALLY MEAN - simply live according to the culture. It was completely acceptable for everyone to live that way in Babylon.      One of my favorite quotes: if you want to be really successful, true successful… study people, watch them, at work at home, at church, at the mall… AND THEN DO THE OPPOSITE!      HE PURPOSED/RESOLVED IN HIS HEART AT 15… Remember Joash just 2 weeks ago… served God until his Father figure priest died and then he fell a part. BUT NOT DANIEL.      Purposed = Set aside… appoint as to bring notice to! NOT ONLY WILL I MAKE A DECISION TO FOLLOW GOD - I WILL MAKE IT STAND OUT… IT WILL BE FOR RELIGIOUS PURPOSES!  *If I might add as one of the biggest problems in todays Christians is they do not live any differently than the world. Sex, selfishness, jealousy, bitterness, excuses, work ethic, self centeredness… Christians don't stand out much any more. 

Garth Heckman The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com      3 Then the king instructed Ashpenaz, the master of his eunuchs, to bring some of the children of Israel and some of the king's descendants and some of the nobles, 4 young men in whom there was no blemish, but good-looking, gifted in all wisdom, possessing knowledge and quick to understand, who had ability to serve in the king's palace, and whom they might teach the language and literature of the Chaldeans.   NOTE…  They took the best of the best… not dummies. THATS WHY I WOULD BE SAFE… THATS A JOKE They would entertain them, feed them the best, meet their every need and put them with others who were also captured… take the best and the brightest, give them elite instructors, privileged education, New network and friends, New authorities over them, re-naming them… wearing them down. Many probably thought… … I deserve this …everyone is doing it … God has forgotten me … I will go back to God later … This is so much better than my previous life NOW IN A CULTURE THAT SERVED BAAL AND ASHERAH.   THE GOD OF MONEY and POWER AND SEX   - THEY ARE TEENAGERS!!!!   This sounds a lot like our universities.. take the best and the brightest, give them elite instructors, privileged education, New network and friends, New authorities over them, re-naming them…    V. 6 But even out of the best of Judah, only 4 boys are mentioned. Only four stood the test.    Remember… 3 Then the king instructed Ashpenaz, the master of his eunuchs, to bring some of the children of Israel and some of the king's descendants and some of the nobles, 4 young men in whom there was no blemish, but good-looking, gifted in all wisdom, possessing knowledge and quick to understand, who had ability to serve in the king's palace, and whom they might teach the language and literature of the Chaldeans.   The others must have caved. V.6 Now from among those of the sons of Judah were Daniel, Hananiah, Mishael, and Azariah who stood out   Train them for 3 years. Give them a royal role for service.   NOTE: The Assyrian nation dominated by fear and intimidation. They would skin their enemies alive and wall paper their houses with their skin…   BUT THE BABYLONIANS… They were far more subtle… Change your surroundings Change your diet - the best to eat Change your friends Change your role - you are important Change your name - identity Change your education - mindset FEED THE FLESHLY DESIRES FOR  3 YEARS   Be careful for the enemy prowls…. Seeking whom he may devour…. Prowling is sneaky… and then WHAM. You are dinner. Are you allowing satan to pull your strings subtly? 

Garth Heckman The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com    What do twirling a baton, turning handsprings, eating with chopsticks, spinning plates, playing the violin and Marriage all have in common?   Want to have a great life? Be more like Jesus… and have problems that make you want to pull your hair out? Get married. As they say…. Marriage isn't for a good time.. its for a long time.   But lets look beyond just marriage…  Relationships wether BF/GF Besties, Marriage, engagement Boss/employee Pastor/attender Neighbor… It does not matter - all relationships have one thing in common, one purpose. To cause you to grow. Bluntly - to push your buttons so God can reprogram you. Right, thats what you do in testing coding… you write it, you test it, you find the flaws and you rewrite it. Relationships push our buttons, that tests us, we see where we are lacking…where the bugs are in our software/brain and attitude and then ask God to rewire us… or transform our minds.    And if thats really the case… and it is  - why do we not look forward to it? My marriage many times in my own life was a draaaaaag. I hated it. It drained me… I have had friendships like that as well…  But why? Well because I thought that relationships were about what I got and rather than who I become. The single greatest factor in spiritual growth is tied to relationships and how we handle them. Imagine you want to get stronger in the gym but you don't want to lift weights… ain't gonna happen captain.  As someone said “we are designed to grind” or better yet Opposites attract, then attack, then hopefully act like Christ.    MARRIAGE EIGHT STAGES OF CHRISTIAN GROWTH -- Philip A. Captain (p 165) For example, in a marriage, we seem to assume that just because two people get married they must love each other. In reality, people do not get married because of love but in order to learn how to love. To have love in a marriage requires that the couple have intimacy and to have intimacy the two people must psychologically and spiritually grow up and quit being children. Most couples getting married today are doing so while still in states of emotional dependency, which means the marriage is based on neurotic need and not love. To have love and intimacy in a marriage requires that both people first must become adults.   Ahhh yes that whole become an adult thing… its hard adulting. But its even harder adulting as a follower of Christ… or maybe we should coin a new phrase “Christing… its tough Christing!” You've probably seen t shirts that say “not adulting today” if many were honest they would wear shirts that say Not Christing today… or most days.    So rather than complain about relationships… ask God what is THAT YOU need to learn in that grind?    Probably to me the most important thing I see in the counseling I do… and I don't do much any more.. is that most don't see relationships with a Growth Mindset (within relationships): This refers to the belief that relationships are not fixed entities but rather something that can be developed, morphed, evolve, shift and improved through effort and learning. Instead of viewing challenges as insurmountable obstacles, individuals with a growth mindset see them as opportunities for growth, understanding, and adaptation. They are willing to work through difficulties, learn from mistakes, and invest in developing communication skills, conflict resolution strategies, and mutual understanding. This contrasts with a "fixed mindset" where people might give up easily when faced with relationship issues, believing that compatibility is predetermined.

Garth Heckman The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com          ESTHER - SHE'S GOT THE LOOKS THAT KILL *Even your good looks are for Gods purpose. Don't hesitate to understand that your looks are God given and maybe not so much for your social media following, or landing the right husband, but for Gods purpose.  Supermodel Cameron Russel said she won the genetic lottery…  I believe there was a greater draw TO ESTHER beyond her beauty and virginity… there was a innocence to her.. the virgins from Persia were hardened by the lifestyle…They had a different mindset… Esther was not.  HOW DO YOU STAND OUT FROM HUNDREDS OF BEAUTIFUL WOMEN?  -  Esthers beauty went beyond just looks. There was a purity an innocence that is by far more attractive than just looks.  HER VIRGINITY YES BUT ALSO No bitterness  No fear   No mixed motives No World influence  No pride/arrogance   But how do you stand out if you are obese, deformed, or in your words “the wrong skin color”. Well very much the same way… A beautiful woman more than once has thought “I am not going to let my good looks get in the way of what I really want and deserve”. I want this because I am qualified, and not because I am a genetic freak. I am going to believe what I believe about myself because of who I am in Christ and not who I am in the mirror… you can tweet that. I BELIEVE WHAT I BELIEVE ABOUT MYSELF BECAUSE OF WHO I AM IN CHRIST, NOT WHO I AM IN THE MIRROR.    If you were obese and I called you a fat pig… you would get mad. If others heard me they would scold me, they would reprimand me and think I was a person full of hate… but the truth is that obese person gets up every morning and speaks those things over their life… and no one cares, no one gets upset… and why -simply because they say them in their head… but still because of what they see. Get your head in the Bible and out of the mirror. 

Garth Heckman The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com    Have you ever trusted someone, only to have that person turn in to someone you don't trust to someone you actually hate… so much so you even call them wicked… even wishing them to go to hell? Thats where were going today.    Matthew 25:24 “Then the servant with the one bag of silver came and said, ‘Master, I knew you were a harsh man, harvesting crops you didn't plant and gathering crops you didn't cultivate. 25 I was afraid I would lose your money, so I hid it in the earth. Look, here is your money back.' 26 “But the master replied, ‘You wicked and lazy servant! If you knew I harvested crops I didn't plant and gathered crops I didn't cultivate, 27 why didn't you deposit my money in the bank? At least I could have gotten some interest on it.' GK: Sklay Ros A Harsh man… A stubborn man who expects above and beyond without apology!  It can even be emphasized to mean “violently expects things to happen”.  But lets take a step back and look at this master… why was he so mad? Just because the servant didn't invest? I think it goes deeper than that. The Master gave the talents according to each servants ability.  V. 15 He gave five bags of silver to one, two bags of silver to another, and one bag of silver to the last—dividing it in proportion to their abilities. He then left on his trip. He would not have given this wicked servant talents if he had not known that he could yield a return. He is mad not just because he did nothing, he is mad because he (the servant) in doing nothing is calling the master a liar. The master believed in him… enough to give him not just talents… but the Master gave him HIS TALENTS. Can this thought shake you for a second.. the talents you have are not your talents. They have been given to you by God - they are actually his talents.  Now here is where I think it gets interesting.. he says to the servant “you could have at least put them in the bank”. What does this mean to us in todays world. God is saying… yes you could have used them with my gifting entwined with your work and the talents I gave you… but even if you didn't use those talents for me, you could have at least used them in the worlds system… but you didn't even do that. You didn't use them for God, you didn't use them for the world… YOU DID NOTHING! IT WASN'T JUST A SWING AND A MISS… NO IT WAS YOU NOT EVEN SWINGING AT ALL. That is a wicked servant.  But it also tells me that God talents that he gave us are just as powerful in the world as in the church. Lets not waste them.  GOD BELIEVES IN YOU. DO YOU BELIVE IN YOU? TRY HIM OUT FOR SIZE AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS. 

Garth Heckman The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com      Ever have a moment when you don't see it and then you see it? The classic picture of an old women or a young beautiful woman depending on what you see?    Here's a more detailed look at the reasons:    1. Lack of Historical Evidence: Missing Persian References: . Some scholars questioned the book's historical accuracy, pointing to the lack of mention of the characters and events described in Esther within Persian historical records.  Not Found at Qumran: . The Dead Sea Scrolls, a collection of Jewish texts dating back to the period when the Book of Esther was thought to have been written, did not include the Book of Esther, further fueling skepticism about its authenticity.  2. Theological Concerns: Absence of God's Name: . The most significant theological issue was the complete absence of God's name in the Book of Esther. This was seen as unusual compared to other books in the Old Testament.  Interpretations of Divine Providence: . While some argued that the book implicitly suggests divine providence through the actions of the characters, others felt the lack of explicit mention of God undermined its theological purpose.  3. Jewish Canon Formation: Delayed Inclusion: The Book of Esther was not included in the earliest forms of the Jewish canon, and it was debated whether it should even be included at all.  Nationalistic Pride: Some suggest that the book's inclusion in the Jewish canon was influenced by a desire to celebrate the Jewish people's triumph over Haman and to provide a sense of national identity.  4. Christian Canon Formation: Deuterocanonical Status: The Book of Esther was not universally accepted by Christians from the beginning. Some Christians, like Jerome, considered it canonical, while others, like Athanasius, classified it with the Apocrypha, a collection of books considered useful but not part of the official canon.  Influence of Jewish Canon: Ultimately, Christians largely adopted the Jewish canon, which included the Book of Esther, leading to its inclusion in Christian Bibles as well. 5. Additions to the Septuagint: Greek Version: An alternate version of the Book of Esther in Greek, which included references to God and additional passages, was also debated. The Eastern Orthodox Church uses the Septuagint version of Esther, while the Roman Catholic Church preserves the Greek additions as "Additions to Esther"   God is not mentioned in Esther ANYWHERE… SO WHERE IS HE? HE IS EVERYWHERE!     - Queen Vashti won't give it up From Vashti's defiance to Mordecai's sleepless night, seemingly random occurrences contribute to the ultimate deliverance of the Jews.     - Esthers beauty over 25 million women   - Jew chosen to be queen   - Mordecai hears about a plot   - King can't sleep and they read Mordecai's story   - Haman used like a puppet in Gods hand   - 2 parties to set up Haman's demise   - Haman's advance on queen Esther   - The Pole set up for Mordecai used for Haman   - The Jews enemies are identified and then killed due to the timing and they get the take of those they kill

Garth Heckman The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com      Years and years of bodybuilding and now look at you? What happened… more importantly how fast did it happen?    No matter how healthy you are… and BTW Bodybuilders are some of the most unhealthy people in the world. What they eat in nutrition is destroyed by the amount of drugs they put in their system…. Don't get me wrong, you can do steroids and other enhancers and still maintain a safe healthy physique if you are willing to cycle on and off with enough time in between - but most don't. Anyway…. You can be in the best health possible… eat, exercise, drink plenty of water, take supplements, cardio etc… and in only 2 short months lose it all and be extremely unhealthy… I have seen it happen… You have probably seen it happen.    Have you ever heard the saying…  “what have you done for me lately”  We usually use it in a negative way… like Man I have done so much for that guy the past 10 years… but it does not matter, its always what have you done for me lately….    BUT it is actually a biblical concept.   Your past will not make up for your present.    A good beginning is not a guarantee of good ending.    Ez. 18:23, 24 23 “Do you think that I like to see wicked people die? says the Sovereign Lord. Of course not! I want them to turn from their wicked ways and live. 24 However, if righteous people turn from their righteous behavior and start doing sinful things and act like other sinners, should they be allowed to live? No, of course not! All their righteous acts will be forgotten, and they will die for their sins. You do have a personal responsibility!  Your past will not make up for your present.    Its not about Loyalty or brownie points… or God owing you… it is about Holiness.    First lets get one thing straight… God only owes us one thing… judgement and death for being a sinner. We only get what we get because of what God did, not because of what we did.  Hebrews 6:4-6 and 10:26-27 speak of what have you done for me lately…  My point today is this… We see the weakened and sinful in scripture turning around from the disciples to the apostle Paul… they all had diverse sinful backgrounds… but were all marked by getting older and bolder and not older and colder.  What was their prescription for such a faith as this? Very simple, in fact John G Lake spoke of it often. 4 things: Constantly prayed Read Gods word Shared the gospel Prayed in tongues and prophesied over their own lives.    Listen I know we all are thankful for Gods grace and his mercy… I know I need it. But I don't want to casually assume a life based on that for entrance into heaven. I want to walk in Gods power over sin and evil. I want his grace to empower my life so that I can live above sin. 2 Cor. 12:9 God tells Paul his grace is sufficient to overcome his weakness and his suffering. That phrase there actually means more than enough. And we often forget that last sentence in that verse….  - Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.   What have I done today for Christ? I have rested in his power over my weakness. 

Garth Heckman The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com    Im gonna bring the Jesus Hammer! Garth Heckman Ryan     What do you put your stock in? Look if I knew back in 1983 that for every $1000 in Microsoft would end up being 3 million dollars… I would have put stock into Microsoft… but who would have believed in that years ago… I think I learned a lesson and I did put a chunk into Bitcoin and it is doing extremely well… but here is the point -  Some people put more stock in peoples rejection then in the affirmation of God in their life. That doesn't even make sense… but we do it. WE GIVE MORE CREDIT TO PEOPLES OPINIONS AND REJECTIONS THAT WE DO IN WHAT GOD SAYS IN HIS WORD. You know what that really is right? Its calling God a liar. You are saying… I don't believe you God, but I do believe the media, the work place, the current of peer pressure…      Faith comes by hearing so you if you fill your head with medical science or witch craft of whatever, then that is what you have faith in. Todays major obstacle is that we have non stop input from a thousand voices every day… every day… every day. Truly when I was a kid I had the voices of my teachers, my sisters, my parents and about 8 close friends… those were the only people I put some stock in… and not a lot of stock in my teachers as I got older. On my phone everyone is an expert… literally by education, resume, popularity - however you qualify it… experts everywhere buy the thousands.  I officiated a wedding 10 years ago… very wealthy couple… they had one reception for adults, with a live band that played at the Dakota club here in Twin Cities… amazing food, and beautiful decor…  But they had another whole reception for kids. Candy bar, ice cream bar, hot dogs, cheese burgers, Fries, chicken nuggets… milk shakes, rooter fountain… And basically no supervision. Just a band for kids… it was mayhem.  Thats what social media is like today… no supervision and nothing but crap.    Romans 10:17 faith cometh by hearing and by hearing the word of God… What is the key word in this verse? Faith? Word of God? Hearing? NOPE… its cometh… meaning it is a process over time. It doesn't just happen when you hear… you feed your mind again and again what ever you feed it… will surely come.    Every choice you make is making you! But way before that choice there was a voice. Be careful who you listen too… for it surely will cometh! 

Garth Heckman The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com    How do you get good at anything? You practice… that seems obvious. But how do you get really good at something… like expert level. Well you practice but you practice under duress.    Doctors who came back from war were far better at their jobs having practiced under war time conditions. The Benefits of Military Medical Experience include….  Trauma and Emergency Care Expertise: Military doctors, especially those who have served in combat zones, gain unparalleled experience in managing severe trauma, critical injuries, and mass casualty events under high-pressure, resource-limited conditions. This experience can be invaluable in civilian trauma centers and emergency departments. Adaptability and Resourcefulness: Military physicians are often trained to work in diverse and sometimes austere environments, using whatever resources are available. This fosters a high degree of adaptability, problem-solving skills, and the ability to remain calm in chaotic situations. Leadership and Teamwork: Military medicine emphasizes strong leadership, teamwork, and a clear chain of command. These skills are highly transferable to civilian healthcare settings, particularly in managing teams and coordinating care. Exposure to Diverse Patient Populations: Military physicians often change stations frequently and may be exposed to a wide variety of patient populations globally, broadening their clinical perspective. Focus on Pure Medicine (less administrative burden): In some military settings, doctors can focus more on patient care without the same concerns about insurance or billing that civilian doctors often face, allowing them to hone their clinical skills. Innovation: Many medical innovations and practices, such as triage systems and specialized surgical teams, have originated or been refined in military settings and have had a significant impact on civilian healthcare.     When you don't let anyone in your emotions, your faith or your mind… you build your Spiritual strength or should I say your spiritual armor.    Wether it is a person or a circumstance or even a physical health issue - these aren't just proving grounds, they are paving grounds for your life. You are learning to pave your walk in life in a straight and narrow.  When emotions, doubt, anger, bitterness… when these emotions attack you it can cause an uphill and uneven walk… with pitfalls and roadblocks… but they are of your making because you don't choose to the right response.    Silence is your Protection Scripture is your weapon Faith is your push back into the darkness   Silence protects you a few ways… You do not give your adversary any more ammo to pull your strings or trigger you. You keep them guessing You ultimately make them give up You create a sense that you know something they don't and it makes them feel vulnerable, more likely to expose their motives and their faults.   Scripture is your weapon. I just had a conversation with a young man who said he does not believe in speaking in tongues and the HS gifts for today… I said show me in scripture where it says that. He started to say “well I think… I cut him off immediately and told him he was either incredibly stupid, naive or arrogant or he was God. Because no one who serves God should care what another man thinks if it does not line up with scripture. My life is lived according to scripture… not my circumstances, not my upbringing, not what others think… even if they seem smarter than me… My life and how I view my life is totally based on scripture. If the rest of my life I pray for people to be healed and they are not… Im still believing God heals for today because that is what Gods word says.    My aikido sense was John Barr- I have talked about him a few times on my podcast. He was the best, well known, on magazine covers, fought with Steven Seagal… his wife tells a story of when they went to a restaurant that had a bar…. (Story)  No change in emotion, no anger, no change of demeanor… just a calm statement of faith.  John knew what he knew, he believed what he knew and he knew it was true. THATS FAITH. When you pray a prayer of faith or live a life of faith… you don't have to pray loud, live brash, but if you just know what you know, believe what scripture says, and live the truth. Thats faith.    Authority self esteem, self control, inner strength… self respect… its a muscle. And as they say… use it or lose it! 

Garth Heckman The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com    [Verse 1] What have I gotta do to make you love me? What have I gotta do to make you care? What do I do when lightning strikes me And I wake to find that you're not there? [Verse 2] What do I do to make you want me? What have I gotta do to be heard? What do I say when it's all over? And sorry seems to be the hardest word [Chorus] It's sad (So sad), so sad It's a sad, sad situation And it's gettin' more and more absurd It's sad (So sad), so sad Why can't we talk it over? Oh, it seems to me That sorry seems to be the hardest word     The life of Allan The life of Mitch The life of Bill The life of Lief The life of Connor The life of Londa The life of Dane The life of Shane The life of Chris And finally the life of Joash in 2 Chron. 22-24   He was the king of crash and burn… started out right but ran off the tracks in a hurry… Let me catch you up to speed.    Two kingdoms.  Judah   and             Israel Jehoshaphat Ahab and Jezebel Jehoram (reigned 8 yr) Marries Athaliah  Ahaziah - Murdered @ 1 yr Athaliah kills her grandsons and takes the throne   Joash is saved by Jehosheba (Ahaziah's sister) Wife of the priest Jehoiadah    Ahab and Jezebel had a daughter Athaliah She marries Jehoshappaht. Jehoshaphat dies and his son (Jehoram) becomes king (Athaliahs son) Jehoram gets killed So his mother kills all her grandsons and assumes the throne. BUT… one of the grandsons is spared - Joash!       2 Chronicles 24:Joash was seven years old when he became king, and he reigned in Jerusalem forty years. His mother was Zibiah from Beersheba. 2 Joash did what was pleasing in the Lord's sight throughout the lifetime of Jehoiada the priest.     17 But after Jehoiada's death, the leaders of Judah came and bowed before King Joash and persuaded him to listen to their advice   PERSAUDED HB Shaw-Maw Using the persons appetites and weaknesses they gave him consent to do what would be easiest and best for him.    A young girl or boy has appetites to be liked, to be loved, to be accepted… if you just go with the crowd, if you just give in to sexual urges or peer pressure to do what will make you liked… If you are told your parents don't understand… YOU CAN BE PERSUADED.  All of us have physical appetites/fleshly appetites Lust, sex, greed, apathy, laziness, anger, Gluttony    We have emotional appetites To be needed, feel wanted, accepted, loved, cared for. We also have emotional needs to want to hate, strike back, hurt those who hurt us, to distrust, to be and stay bitter.   There will always be people who will persuade or feed those desires… And if you listen you will cut short your blessings and maybe even your future in heaven.    2 Chron. 24: 20 Then the Spirit of God came upon Zechariah son of Jehoiada the priest. He stood before the people and said, “This is what God says: Why do you disobey the Lord's commands and keep yourselves from prospering? You have abandoned the Lord, and now he has abandoned you!”

Garth Heckman The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com    Medevil times had a torture where they tied each limb of a person to a horse. So there were four horses and each one had a rope tied from the horse to one of the arms or legs. Then they would command the horses to all run as fast as they could all in opposite directions. It was truly barbaric as arms and legs were ripped off.  What was the name of the torture called? It was called distraction.      Which distractions in your life have become disguised as priorities?   When was the last time you sat down next to someone or talking to someone at a party and asked them what they did and they said “Im a professional Bull rider”. I have never had it happen…. Now maybe if I lived in Texas, but still it would be rare!  Being a man of God is as about as rare today as being a professional bull rider.   Why? I believe the main reason is because of distraction. Sin isn't any more or less than any other time in todays world… Men didn't just recently start noticing beautiful women. Drugs have always been around. There are no new sins… Satan has always been around… but distractions are at an all time high.      The biggest danger in distractions is you don't see them as distractions.   Let me ask you a very simple question. If you took all the time you have spent on your phone in the past 2 years… and simply practiced the piano - how good would you be? I asked AI this and here is what they said.  You would likely reach an intermediate level much faster than 3-5 years, potentially within 6 months to a year, assuming quality, focused practice. In 3 to 3.5 years you would be an advanced pianist.    How long would it take to read the whole bible. If you read at an average pace or listened to it on an app… In summary: Non-stop reading: 2-3 days Daily reading (typical pace): 1 year Daily reading (fast pace): 3 months (90 days) Daily listening: 2 months Let me break it down into a realistic day to day… you would read 3.3 chapters a day.    So why are you not the man of God you want to be? Its not sin… its really not. Its distractions.    Being a man of God is as about as rare today as being a professional bull rider. Ride the Bull! Daily! 

Garth Heckman The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com    Mawage, that bwessed awangment, that dweam wifin a dweam … And wuv, tru wuv, will fowow you foweva … So tweasure your wuv.   God loves everyone…  True. However. Gods unconditional love is not Gods unconditional approval. So lets look at some scriptures that seem counterintuitive    John 3:16 for God so loved the world that he gave his only son…. Romans 2:6 God will judge the world 2 Peter 3:10 God will destroy the earth and its inhabitants    The problem lies within our twisted world/self centered view of what love is. Love is a feeling, it is something that always makes us happy, it always feels good and it is always in line with what we want. NO and DOUBLE NO!  Love is discipline, love is honesty when we don't want to hear what is right. Love is correction. Love is punishment. Love is not letting us get our own way. And thank God love is not a feeling or none of us would still have parents… im sure they would have all walked away at some point.    My parents loved me better than I could have ever expected.. but they did not always approve of what I did. When I wore 8 inch kiss boots to church… my Dad was none to happy, made me sit in the front row of Church… it was kind of embarrassing… did not feel loving at all - but it was.    Gods love will be responsible for all types of action on the earth… its not our job to try to figure it out or ask why. It is simply our job to trust him. There were a lot of things I did not understand as a kid that my parents did… but I understand now. What we need to understand in todays world is God is love. But love is not God. Do not worship love at the cost of watering down scripture, making excuses for going against his word or for excusing your behavior simply because …well… God loves us!    Division brings weakness. Separation brings power.    What do I mean. Well we think Love as a feeling (defined by what we want) is all inclusive. But it is actually divisive. Ever get a group of people together and tell them they all can have what ever they want? Its anarchy! It weakens humanity and our natural bond as people.  However if I understand that sometimes love seemingly separates us from what we want… but it is God keeping us from what is evil, bad, destructive… it is actually Gods power at its best. Again Division brings weakness… we are most divided when we all thing we can all get whatever we want.  Do not get fooled as to which is which… it will ruin your life in no time. 

Garth Heckman The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com    Talking to a young man lately who plays guitar and he plays on a worship team. I told him I was going to be teaching a short 2 hour class to the guitar players at our church… he interrupted me and said “I am a good guitar player… And they he said it again as if I did not believe him. I kindly nodded. Now he can play guitar and he can play some rock songs… but who knows if someone is good or not right? But when he asked me what exactly I was going to be teaching my guitar players on my worship team - the first thing I said was “Diatonic harmony”… which believe it or not if you are in fact a good guitar player you would know what that is. He stared at me blankly and asked what it was. I kindly assured him he was not in fact a good guitar player. Now I have told this young man as I tell many people - You may not like what I say to you, but I will never lie to you! EVER. I will try to say it nice… most of the time - but who else will be honest with you. And today what if you can't be honest with yourself because… well you just can't. Have you ever heard of the   The Dunning-Kruger Effect and the Blindness of the Incompetent Wheeler's lemon juice story inspired researchers David Dunning and Justin Kruger to study this phenomenon in greater detait. The research-ers were intrigued by the obvious difference in people's actual abilities and how they perceive these abilities. Dunning and Kruger hypothesized that incompetent people suffer from two types of problems · Due to their incompetence, they make flawed decisions (such as robbing a bank while covered in lemon juice). · They are unable to realize the fact that they make Flawed decisions. (Not even the video footage convinced wheeler of hjs inability to be invisible he claimed that it was faked ) The researchers tested the validity of these hypotheses on a sample of participants. First they laid out a test measuring their abilities in a certain domain (logical reasoning, grammar, and humor). Then, the par- ticipants were asked to assess how good their abilities were. The research- ers discovered two interesting findings The least competent people (labeled incompetent in the research) had a tendency to significantly overestimate their abilities. In fact, the less competent they were, the more they overestimated themselves. For example, the more painfully unfunny an individual was, the funnier they thought they were. this eftect was elegantly described by Charles Darwin years ago ignorance more frequently begets confidence than does knowledge' The second interesting finding was that the most competent participants had a tendency to underestimate their abilities. Their under- rated results can be explained by the fact that if a task seems easy to them, they will have the feeling that the task is easy even for other people. In another part of the experiment, participants had the possibility to review the test results of other people. They were subsequently asked to conduct a self assessment again. Competent participants realized that they were better off than they had thought. Thus, they modified their self assessments and began to evaluate themselves more objectively.     So where am I going with this… David says something profound in Psalm 139:23-24 KJV. Search me, O God, and know my heart: Try me, and know my thoughts: And see if there be any wicked way in me, And lead me in the way everlasting. David is not saying this as a type of challenge to God… ok, God see if you can find anything wrong in me. NO NO NO he is saying it as one who realizes he can't see everything in his life clearly.  He knows that he is blind to many of the sins, flaws, inconsistencies and choices he makes that are not Godly. WHAT A POWERFUL INSIGHT TO KNOW YOU DONT HAVE INSIGHT. RIGHT?  Meaning, how powerful it is to know that you don't know everything -especially about you. 

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Garth Heckman The David Alliance  TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com    James 3 Neither bitter water and sweet water should come out of your mouth as a believer.   More frequently, "πικρός" is employed metaphorically to describe a state of emotional or spiritual bitterness. This can refer to feelings of resentment, anger, or harshness that can take root in a person's heart. The New Testament warns against allowing such bitterness to grow, as it can lead to division and strife within the community of believers.         How do we deal with Bitterness?     - 1 Get rid of it. Eph. 4:32 31 Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. 32 Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.   Get rid of GK - to raise up your voice to deal with it.    YOU HAVE THE POWER OF YOUR OWN VOICE.  SPEAK IT OUT!       - 2 GO TO THE PERSON: Aaron stood before Moses. Peter Stood before Jesus.       - 3 Immediately deal with the root   Heb. 12:15  Deal with the root   This verse goes back to Deut. 29:18 which speaks of roots growing and causing a coldness of heart toward God.        - 4 Finally Don't react - Respond David Rostad - Bulls - overreacting, yelling or pushing the bulls would only cause greater injury to yourself.    The hound of heaven - Blue Heeler dog "Hound of Heaven" comes from the famous poem of the same name by Francis Thompson, published in 1893.       Harboring resentment, bitterness, anger, unforgiveness steals the joy of our salvation…  HOW?  Holding on to these is unbelief in what God has done for you -      -   forgive as God has forgiven you!       -  And what he can do through you, He can forgive through you.      -  He has the power to forgive anything!      Helmut Thelike - don't let misplaced resentment misplace you.  In a bitter cold winter nothing can grow A bitter cold heart is the same! 

Garth Heckman The David Alliance  TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com    Have you ever felt so bad over something you did that it affects even your appetite? You can't even enjoy your favorite food or activity or people? And why… who was responsible for this?    Based on the information available from the search results regarding Chase Hughes's views, here are some basic traits and indicators he suggests looking for when trying to spot deception: Changes in Behavior: A key principle is to establish a person's baseline behavior when they are likely telling the truth (e.g., answering simple, non-threatening questions) and then look for changes in their behavior when the topic shifts to something they might be lying about. These changes can include deviations in how they answer questions, their eye movements, hand gestures, and breathing patterns. Stress and Fear Indicators: Deception is often linked to increased stress and fear. Physical signs associated with this can include an increased breathing rate, increased blink rate, and facial touching. "Closed" Behavior: Actions that suggest fear or a need to protect oneself, such as crossing arms or bringing fingers together, can be indicators. Increased Need for Control: As someone engages in deception, their need to control the situation and their presentation may increase. Difficulty with Reverse Chronology: When asked to recount events in reverse order, a person who has fabricated a story in forward chronology may struggle significantly compared to someone recalling actual events. Reactions to "Bait" Questions: Vague, hypothetical questions designed to see if a person shows a reaction even if they don't know if evidence exists (e.g., "Is there any reason someone might have seen you at a certain place?") can elicit a nervous response from someone being deceptive. Cluster of Unusual Mannerisms: While a single behavior is rarely a definitive sign of lying, observing a cluster of unusual mannerisms that deviate from the established baseline can be a warning sign. Chase Hughes emphasizes that there is no single, universal body language signal for lying. Instead, the focus is on identifying deviations from a person's normal behavior and looking for clusters of indicators, particularly those related to stress and attempts to gain control. Raising the stakes of the conversation can also make deceptive behaviors more apparent.     Luke 22:62 Peter denies Jesus and goes out and weeps bitterly.    Bitter: GK Violently felt grief that leaves the soul and spirit tasting bitter.      Peter felt shame denying Christ… but shame is only the RED CARPET leading to bitterness.      Lets clear something up.  THIS IS A POWERFUL INSIGHT Peter did not weep bitterly because of what Christ had said or done…  Why was Peter bitter?  HE WAS BITTER Because he did not respond correctly.  We want to blame our bitterness, unforgiveness, hard heartedness on what others did - but it is actually because OF WHAT WE DID NOT DO!        We typically become bitter not because of what someone did to us but rather because of how we responded and we know it was not Christ like.    Peter denied Christ and wept bitterly? Why bitterness? What did Peter do that made him bitter? *He did not represent Jesus AND He did not love the way Jesus would have loved… and he became bitter because of what he had done.  WE THINK AND SAY: I am so bitter because of what they did. BUT THE TRUTH IS MORE ACCURATE: I am so bitter because of WHAT I DID - Because of the way I responded.      **The right response heals not only us but the other person. Armando- wrapping my arms around him and telling him I loved him and want Gods best for him. He calls me later that night and falls apart.

Garth Heckman The David Alliance  TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com    Have you ever felt so bad over something you did that it affects even your appetite? You can't even enjoy your favorite food or activity or people? And why… who was responsible for this?    Based on the information available from the search results regarding Chase Hughes's views, here are some basic traits and indicators he suggests looking for when trying to spot deception: Changes in Behavior: A key principle is to establish a person's baseline behavior when they are likely telling the truth (e.g., answering simple, non-threatening questions) and then look for changes in their behavior when the topic shifts to something they might be lying about. These changes can include deviations in how they answer questions, their eye movements, hand gestures, and breathing patterns. Stress and Fear Indicators: Deception is often linked to increased stress and fear. Physical signs associated with this can include an increased breathing rate, increased blink rate, and facial touching. "Closed" Behavior: Actions that suggest fear or a need to protect oneself, such as crossing arms or bringing fingers together, can be indicators. Increased Need for Control: As someone engages in deception, their need to control the situation and their presentation may increase. Difficulty with Reverse Chronology: When asked to recount events in reverse order, a person who has fabricated a story in forward chronology may struggle significantly compared to someone recalling actual events. Reactions to "Bait" Questions: Vague, hypothetical questions designed to see if a person shows a reaction even if they don't know if evidence exists (e.g., "Is there any reason someone might have seen you at a certain place?") can elicit a nervous response from someone being deceptive. Cluster of Unusual Mannerisms: While a single behavior is rarely a definitive sign of lying, observing a cluster of unusual mannerisms that deviate from the established baseline can be a warning sign. Chase Hughes emphasizes that there is no single, universal body language signal for lying. Instead, the focus is on identifying deviations from a person's normal behavior and looking for clusters of indicators, particularly those related to stress and attempts to gain control. Raising the stakes of the conversation can also make deceptive behaviors more apparent.     Luke 22:62 Peter denies Jesus and goes out and weeps bitterly.    Bitter: GK Violently felt grief that leaves the soul and spirit tasting bitter.      Peter felt shame denying Christ… but shame is only the RED CARPET leading to bitterness.      Lets clear something up.  THIS IS A POWERFUL INSIGHT Peter did not weep bitterly because of what Christ had said or done…  Why was Peter bitter?  HE WAS BITTER Because he did not respond correctly.  We want to blame our bitterness, unforgiveness, hard heartedness on what others did - but it is actually because OF WHAT WE DID NOT DO!        We typically become bitter not because of what someone did to us but rather because of how we responded and we know it was not Christ like.    Peter denied Christ and wept bitterly? Why bitterness? What did Peter do that made him bitter? *He did not represent Jesus AND He did not love the way Jesus would have loved… and he became bitter because of what he had done.  WE THINK AND SAY: I am so bitter because of what they did. BUT THE TRUTH IS MORE ACCURATE: I am so bitter because of WHAT I DID - Because of the way I responded.      **The right response heals not only us but the other person. Armando- wrapping my arms around him and telling him I loved him and want Gods best for him. He calls me later that night and falls apart.

Garth Heckman The David Alliance  TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com    Numbers 12 - someone gets offended. 12 Miriam and Aaron spoke against Moses because of the Cushite woman whom he had married, for he had married a Cushite woman; 2 and they said, “Has the Lord indeed spoken only through Moses? Has he not spoken through us also?” And the Lord heard it. 3 Now the man Moses was very meek, more than all men that were on the face of the earth. 4 And suddenly the Lord said to Moses and to Aaron and Miriam, “Come out, you three, to the tent of meeting.” And the three of them came out. 5 And the Lord came down in a pillar of cloud, and stood at the door of the tent, and called Aaron and Miriam; and they both came forward. 6 And he said, “Hear my words: If there is a prophet among you, I the Lord make myself known to him in a vision, I speak with him in a dream. 7 Not so with my servant Moses; he is entrusted with all my house. 8 With him I speak mouth to mouth, clearly, and not in dark speech; and he beholds the form of the Lord. Why then were you not afraid to speak against my servant Moses?” 9 And the anger of the Lord was kindled against them, and he departed; 10 and when the cloud removed from over the tent, behold, Miriam was leprous, as white as snow. And Aaron turned towards Miriam, and behold, she was leprous.   I want you to notice something here. Miriam is the culprit… she pushes Aarons buttons. “Has not God spoken through US also?”     -  Nope        -  and the offense is over another woman  WHO OR WHAT IS PUSHING YOU TO BE OFFENDED?  SUCH A GREAT LEADER MANIPULATED BY HIS WIFE! Who might be manipulating you?  What else do we see here?                          Jealousy and Envy: Miriam and Aaron's discontent arose from envy and a desire to usurp Moses's          -  leadership,    -  they questioned his authority  -  Him hearing God   -  His decisions    -  and challenged his position.    But none of that was the real issue… the real issue was Moses pick of a wife… but it was then the cause to every other attack by Aaron and Miriam. *This begins to stir up a seed of bitterness in them  **Don't be fooled by one of satans oldest tricks in the book Miriam got Aaron to speak up…. But who was really offended?     SO WHO GOT PUNISHED?  YOU MAY NOT HARBOR BITTERNESS - BUT IF YOU SPEAK IT ON BEHALF OF OTHERS…???   *When you speak words from God it has the same power as God speaking!     ** ** ** When you speak words from satan…. It is the same power as satan speaking. 

Garth Heckman The David Alliance  TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com  Five ways to tame a lion… you heard that right. Five ways to tame a lion… yep, I have been lion taming for quite sometime now and I am going to give you some insight over the next 7 minutes!    *When you wake up in the morning you are probably not thinking through the cautionary steps of dealing with 10,000 volts of electricity   -  being splattered with infectious blood   -  coming in contact with a huge anaconda   - Deactivating a bomb   - or worse yet, dealing with harboring bitterness.   All of those things can become dangerously habitual.    * Gunther Gabel Williams - BE THERE.    - YOU MEAN DON'T SHOW UP LATE FOR WORK??? DONT SKIP WORK?  After 10,000 performances you can tend to not be there in the cage with wild animals.    1 PETER 5:7Cast all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you. 8Be sober-minded and alert. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.…   When does a lion prowl looking for those whom he may devour? It's typically on Tuesday mornings, the reason is due to the weather patterns in the Svengali desert plains… you see the wind comes up form the south On Sunday and by Monday afternoon leading into the next day the lion… ARE YOU BELIEVING A WORD I SAY? Hey dumb dumb…lions are seeking whom they may devour EVERY DAY 24/7!    Every day the enemy prowls like a roaring lion seeking whom he may devour. IT IS YOUR JOB TO BE THERE! BE AWARE! EVERY DAY… EVERY DAY EVERY DAY       Key Verses: • Matthew 13:22 (BSB): "The seed sown among the thorns is the one who hears the word, but the worries of this life and the deceitfulness of wealth choke the word, and it becomes unfruitful." Here, μέριμνα is depicted as a force that can stifle spiritual growth. • Luke 21:34 (BSB): "But watch yourselves, or your hearts will be weighed down by dissipation, drunkenness, and the worries of life, and that day will spring upon you suddenly like a trap." This verse warns against being overwhelmed by life's anxieties, which can distract from spiritual vigilance. • 1 Peter 5:7 (BSB): "Cast all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you." This passage encourages believers to entrust their worries to God, emphasizing His care and provision. THERE ARE ACTION STEPS IN THE VERSES…  -1 BE WATCHFUL for the little things - seeds   - 2 Watch yourself. Its your responsibility to know what triggers you and to look for it.  -3 DO NOT BE OVERWHELMED KNOW THAT THEY ARE COMING.    - 4 AND CAST YOUR WORRIES ON GOD -     - 5 YOU GIVE THEM TO GOD BECAUSE YOU KNOW AND CAN TRUST THAT HE CARES FOR YOU. He wants to take your worries, troubles and anxieties.  • Theological Implications: The concept of μέριμνα underscores the biblical teaching that excessive worry can detract from faith and reliance on God. Believers are encouraged to seek first the kingdom of God and trust in His provision, rather than being consumed by temporal concerns. • Practical Application: Christians are called to live with a focus on eternal values, casting their cares upon God and finding peace in His sovereignty. This involves a conscious effort to prioritize spiritual growth over worldly anxieties.