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Gabby Reece sits down with William von Hempel to explore the essential role of human connection in our happiness and overall well-being. Together, they unpack the ongoing tension between our craving for independence and our deep need for community—highlighting how modern life often pushes us toward isolation. The conversation spans gender differences in how we connect, the effects of technology on our relationships, and actionable ways to build real community in today's world. They also dive into parenting in the digital age, the pressure of social comparison, and how to stay present in a fast-paced, screen-heavy culture. From shifting gender roles to leadership, social anxiety, and the art of reinventing oneself with age, this wide-ranging dialogue underscores one central truth: connection isn't just helpful—it's foundational to a fulfilling life. SPONSORS There's a completely new way to optimize your health. Give it a try at troscriptions.com/GABBY or enter GABBY at checkout for 10% off your first order. CHAPTERS 00:00 The Importance of Connection 10:12 Navigating Autonomy and Community 19:54 Gender Differences in Connection 29:53 Technology's Impact on Relationships 42:45 Navigating Parenting in the Age of Social Media 44:52 The Challenges of Balancing Autonomy and Connection 48:51 The Evolution of Gender Roles and Autonomy 51:52 The Importance of Being Present in Parenting 53:59 Embracing Change and Uncertainty in Life 57:09 The Role of Social Comparison in Happiness 01:01:01 Leadership and the Balance of Connection 01:06:06 Overcoming Social Anxiety and Building Connections 01:09:01 The Journey of Reinvention and Self-Improvement 01:12:13 Thriving Through Change and Uncertainty 01:13:57 Aging, Wisdom, and the Value of Connection For more Gabby: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gabbyreece/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@gabbyreeceofficial The Gabby Reece Show Podcast on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeEINLNlGvIceFOP7aAZk5A KEYWORDS connection, autonomy, happiness, social support, gender differences, technology, community, emotional well-being, evolutionary psychology, social isolation, parenting, social media, autonomy, connection, gender roles, presence, change, social comparison, leadership, social anxiety, self-improvement, aging Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Elmar mit einem letzten Blick aufs Meer, Flo mit Blick auf einen mallorquinischen Golfplatz erfordern besondere Umstände. Dafür bald mit einer umso längeren Podcast-Aftershow-Party, mindestens so hart wie bei den Playoffs der Premier League in der Londoner O2-Arena! Während Flo (noch) nicht über eine Golf-Profikarriere nachdenkt, braucht Elmar nach wochenlanger Nachtschicht Urlaub vom Nicht-Urlaub. Sportlich kann man über die erfolgreichen Kämpfe von Nathan Aspinall und die Erwartungen von und an Martin Schindler philosophieren. Davon lang und schmutzig live am Samstag! "Game on! Der Darts Podcast" ist eine Produktion der Podcastbande. Neue Folgen gibt's immer dienstags - überall, wo es Podcasts gibt

Bei karibischen Nachtschichten kann der Folgenstart schon mal holprig ablaufen, inklusive Störgeräusche, sobald es um den Gossip rund um Michael van Gerwen geht. Elmar und Flo fragen sich vor den Playoffs der Premier League und PDC-Kritik: Was macht eigentlich die PDPA mit so viel Geld? Dazu hat Flo gehört, was ein anderer hörte: „We moved the World Championship.“ Elmar hofft aus Gründen, dass diese Aussage nicht stimmt und thematisiert das (jetzt endgültige) Karriereende von Phil Taylor, garniert mit exklusiven Geschichten. "Game on! Der Darts Podcast" ist eine Produktion der Podcastbande. Neue Folgen gibt's immer dienstags - überall, wo es Podcasts gibt

Wer denkt, Elmar würde nur in der Hängematte liegen und Mangos essen, sieht sich bei Arbeitszeiten von 5 Uhr morgens getäuscht, inklusive Stromausfällen während Podcastaufnahmen! Er fängt schon an, nicht vom Ally Pally, sondern von Parkouren zu träumen. Kein Traum war es, dass Ross Smith ganz „Tayloresk“ zwei 9-Darter in einem Turnier warf, während Flo frustriert aus Hildesheim abgereist ist und im „Hempel-Tempel“ die „Hong-Soh-Atmung“ erklärt. Dazu die Erkenntnis: Auch Nathan Aspinall und Michael van Gerwen haben ihr Päckchen zu tragen. "Game on! Der Darts Podcast" ist eine Produktion der Podcastbande. Neue Folgen gibt's immer dienstags - überall, wo es Podcasts gibt

Dan and Ellen talk with Carlene Hempel and Harrison Zuritsky. Carlene, a journalism professor at Northeastern, recently led a reporting trip to Flint, Michigan. Harrison and other students produced a stunning internet magazine called Flint Unfiltered that takes a deep dive into the causes and effects of Flint's economic downturn and toxic water crisis. Since 2009, Carlene has been leading students on reporting trips, where they work as part of a traveling press corps. She has taken groups to many countries, including Egypt, Syria, Cuba and Panama. Harrison, a second-year student with concentrations in journalism and data science, joined her on the Flint trip.  Like so many at Northeastern, Carlene has a background that includes academic achievement as well as wide-ranging professional experience. She has been a professor for 20 years and holds a PhD from Northeastern. She also started her career writing for The Middlesex News in Framingham, now The MetroWest Daily News, and The Boston Globe. She then moved to North Carolina, where she worked for MSNBC and The Raleigh News & Observer. Dan has Quick Take from Maine. The former owner of the Portland Press Herald is going to have three of his weekly papers printed at the Press Herald's facility in South Portland, giving a boost to the National Trust for Local News. And he's also followed through on a plan to open a café at one of his weeklies in a unique effort to boost civic engagement. Ellen weighs in on a new study of local news by our friend of the pod, Professor Joshua Darr at Syracuse University. Darr teamed up with three other researchers to do a meta analysis of surveys on media trust. They made a number of findings, but the headline is that Americans trust local newsrooms more than national news outlets. This is especially true if the local news outlet has the actual name of the community in its title. But there's a downside: that automatic trust also allows pink slime sites to take hold.

Nieuwe opnamen van middeleeuws tot minimal, en natuurlijk ook 'De Vergelijking', waarin een nieuwe uitvoering de strijd aangaat met twee ‘concurrenten'. Met vandaag in het panel: hoornist Hanna Guirten en dirigent Jurjen Hempel.

So musikalisch waren wir selten. Filmkomponist Lars Hempel spielt uns die bekanntesten Film-Soundtracks vor und erklärt uns, wieso welche Terz so richtig fickt. Wir sammeln außerdem spannende Geschichten rund um die Noten, die die Filme erst so richtig schön machen. - - - zu Gast: Lars Hempel https://www.hempel-firmont.com/ https://www.instagram.com/larsi.pilami - - - LINKTREE Alle wichtigen Links zu uns findet ihr hier: https://bit.ly/kussponsored - - - Playlist: Kack & Sach Filmmusik https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4Kj177jfdtkCPQJPlMyDiO?si=5204549e198a4f6e - - - PODCAST KAPITEL (00:03:27) Vorstellung Lars Hempel (larsipilami) (00:05:18) Jurassic Park (00:27:26) Interstellar (00:49:39) Der Weiße Hai (00:59:45) Der Pate (01:13:11) James Bond (01:25:02) Halloween - - - Kack & Sachgeschichten - Der Podcast mit Klugschiss: https://www.kackundsachgeschichten.de/ Bleib auf dem Laufenden mit dem Kacki WhatsApp Kanal: https://bit.ly/kuswhatsapp

Auch wenn sich Flo bald auf hoher See befindet und sich auf dem Sonnendeck zeigen kann, macht er noch einen Abstecher in die neue Folge. Da werden glatt Erinnerungen an eine Zeit in Zypern wach. Genauso lebhaft wird neben dem baldigen „quasi“-Heimspiel im Saarland auch eine knallharte Exhibition bei Union Berlin in Erinnerung bleiben! Nicht erst nach seinem Titel in München macht sich Elmar Gedanken zum schwächelnden Michael van Gerwen. Liegt es an fehlendem Biss oder wie im Hempel-Tempel an fehlender Ausdauer?

Betrachter können sich in den Bildern von William Turner verlieren. Er brachte bedrohliche Schneegestöber, glühende Sonnenuntergänge und tosende Stürme in leuchtenden Farben auf die Leinwand. Vor 250 Jahren wurde der britische Künstler geboren. Hempel, Berit www.deutschlandfunk.de, Kalenderblatt

9-Darter ohne René oder 9-Darter ohne Elmar ist die Frage zum Osterwochenende, egal ob mit oder ohne Golfrunde! Genauso wenig kommen Elmar und „Raupe Nimmersatt“ Flo um die Diskussion über das WM-Preisgeld herum. Befeuert von Michael van Gerwen, dem im Gegensatz zu Rory Mcllroy eine besondere Ehre nicht zu Teil wird. Während Dominik Grüllich einen Sahnetag erwischte, hatte „Thomas“ Flo mal wieder Darts, die nur gefühlt drin waren – dafür garantiert ohne langsamen Wurf und Arroganz, aber mit dem bestmöglichen Stand!

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Josephine Baker ist 19, als sie wegen der strikten Rassentrennung in den USA nach Paris flieht. Sie tanzt, kämpft im Widerstand, fordert Gleichheit und wird zur Ikone. Die Lange Nacht erinnert an ihr Wirken und ihre Stimme, die bis heute nachhallt. Hempel, Berit www.deutschlandfunkkultur.de, Lange Nacht

Ëmmer manner Leit kënne sech den Dram vun enger eegener Wunneng erfëllen. An déi, déi mengen, et gepackt ze hunn, kënnen op de leschte Meteren nach eng béis Iwwerraschung erliewen. Dozou eng Carte blanche vum Gilles Hempel.

Auch wenn es nicht mit dem Laster nach Leicester geht und Luke Littler in dieser Folge KEINE Rolle spielt, schwärmt Flo vom „Köllepally“, während Elmar etwas in die Folge hineinstolpert. Beide machen sich Gedanken um die Belastung der Topspieler und um die offenen Worte von Luke Humphries. Natürlich wird auch die (kontroverse) Preisgeld- und Teilnehmererhöhung der WM nicht vergessen und Stephen Bunting nach den Tagen von Berlin und Riesa abgefeiert. Außerdem wird mit einem ordentlichen „Gong“ Einlass in den Hempel-Tempel gewährt.

Während sich Flo aus dem „Kabuff“ meldet und schon vorher weiß, wer an der Tür klingelt, muss Elmar zunächst mit einem Irrtum über alkoholfreies Bier aufräumen. Dazu macht er gerade ordentlich Gewicht, um gewisse Kochkünste zu testen – und räumt mit alten und peinlichen Jugendsünden auf. Natürlich darf nach der Premier League der neue Walk On von Gerwyn Price nicht fehlen. Und was ist eigentlich mit der (nicht vorhandenen) Magie des Rob Cross und den Planungen zur kommenden Weltmeisterschaft?

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We hope you have a blessed Sunday. Here is the sermon audio from our guest preacher, Pastor Gary Hempel. Like our Facebook page: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/ubconfacebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow us on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/ubconinstagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit our website for more information: https://⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.uitenhagebaptistchurch.co.za⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ All rights reserved to Uitenhage Baptist Church

Question: I am a registered psychotherapist and I reject Freudian and Jungian beliefs. However, I did find that when you remove these demonic influences and stick with the "science" behind psychology and filter it through the Bible that it's a powerful tool. Proverbs in particular along with New Testament scriptures encourage us to guard our heart and mind, renew our mind with God's Word, and find peace of mind. The Bible is actually the BASIS of TRUE Psychotherapy if you study the subject biblically. What do you say?Response: It's instructive that just in the last week we have been contacted by Christian psychologists who insist that "psychotherapy" by name has been discarded by Christians who limit themselves to being called Biblical Counselors. Further, secular psychologists have also gone down this path. We appreciate your "rejection" of Freudian and Jungian beliefs. It is clear that your heart is for those you seek to help. With that in mind, the pertinent question to ask, however, is how thorough that process has been? We say that because some of these counselors are still using the teachings of those you correctly label as "demonic influences."Other psychologists have "come out" with the same concern for how they have been trained, and what they have learned in practices that span several decades.More recently, the Transgender movement has shown that "science" has very little to do with an utterly emotional, anti-science practice. So, we have to make sure we've gutted the structure of psychology/psychotherapy.There is, however, the often seen reference to the “Science” of psychology. There's a fascinating article entitled The Puzzle of Paul Meehl: An intellectual history of research criticism in psychology (i.e., checking them out from the perspective of real science [https://bit.ly/4ihy1qX]).Professor Andrew Gelman writes, "There's nothing wrong with Meehl. He's great. The Puzzle of Paul Meehl is that everything we're saying now, all this stuff about the problems with Psychological Science and PPNAS and Ted Talks and all that, Paul Meehl was saying 50 years ago. And it was no secret. So how is it that all this was happening, in plain sight, and now here we are?"Meehl concluded his 1967 article by saying, "Some of the more horrible examples of this process would require the combined analytic and reconstructive efforts of Carnap, Hempel, and Popper to unscramble the logical relationships of theories and hypotheses to evidence. Meanwhile our eager-beaver researcher, undismayed by logic-of-science considerations and relying blissfully on the ‘exactitude' of modem statistical hypothesis-testing, has produced a long publication list and been promoted to a full professorship. In terms of his contribution to the enduring body of psychological knowledge, he has done hardly anything."We will pray that as you devise your way, the Lord will direct your steps further.

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Zwei Minuten länger auf dem Spinning Bike und immer noch mit Nachwehen vom Rosenmontagszug ist Flo kurz vor seiner Reise nach Leicester zugeschaltet, ob mit oder ohne Flughafenstreik. Derweil schließt sich bei Elmar im Zusammenhang mit der Konstanz des James Wade mal wieder ein Kreis, während Flo erstmals den prunkvollen „Hempel-Tempel“ betritt und im Gegensatz zu manch anderen immer ein Ersatzset Darts einpackt! Elmar entlockt mit fünf Fragen „den verrückten Weg des Florian Hempel“ und die Idee einer Darts-Doku. "Game on! Der Darts Podcast" ist eine Produktion der Podcastbande. Neue Folgen gibt's immer dienstags - überall, wo es Podcasts gibt

Auch an Karneval, sogar unmittelbar vor dem Rosenmontagszug ist Flo fit für die neue Folge, egal welche Uhrzeit! Auf eine frühe Rückreise von den UK Open hätte er aber verzichten können. Dank Jermaine Wattimena hat Flo pünktlich zum Rosenmontag nun keine Schnapszahl mehr in der Order of Merit. Elmar weiß nicht erst seit einem Bouncer von Martin Schindler, dass festes Schuhwerk beim Darts ratsam ist und beleuchtet mit Flo die Eigenheiten der Wurftechniken. Gibt es eigentlich den perfekten Wurf?

Der eine im Urlaub aus dem Wellnessbereich, der andere von Termin zu Termin hetzend – die perfekte Rollenverteilung für die neue Folge! Da darf man sich sogar ein Glas Weißwein an Loch 7 gönnen, wenn die Golfrunde mal nicht läuft, auch mit hochwertigem Equipment. Flo, der in der „Lachenden Sporthalle“ war und vielleicht bald Coach von „Game On“ wird, blickt derweil auf einen ebenso mittelmäßigen Players Championship Block zurück, was er nicht auf die schwierigen Catering-Bedingungen vor Ort schiebt.

Wie könnte es einen verdienteren Experten geben, nachdem Flo der erfolgreichste Deutsche im ersten Players Championship Block war? Insbesondere dann, wenn man bei einem Rückstand Elmar Paulke als Inspirationsquelle nutzt. Nach Wigan geht es jetzt nach Rosmalen – ein Ort mit einem Automobilmuseum und Teppichböden in Hotels. Da muss auch die Ausdauer leiden, obwohl Elmar im Fitnessstudio schon Nathan Aspinall Trikots wahrnimmt. Nachdem der „Paulke der Woche“ einem Knipser zu Teil wird, will er sich auf einen Walk On Song nicht festlegen.

Ohne Gucci oder Louis Vuitton, dafür mit einer 500 Meter „King Street“ geht es in Wigan mit den ersten Players Championships zur Sache. Flo erinnert sich an ein spezielles Wigan-Erlebnis mit Joe Cullen, während Elmar an ein geschlossenes Flughafen-Gate denken muss und den ersten Premier League Spieltag aufarbeitet. Flo, der frisch zum „Hardest Worker“ gekrönt wird und nicht in der Südkurve des 1. FC Köln steht, können noch nicht mal fünf „andere“ Fragen seines Angstgegners aus der Fassung bringen, trotz Rekordlänge!

Nicht minder motiviert als in der ersten Folge, dafür mit dem ersten Major des Jahres! Flo weiß nun aus eigener Erfahrung, auch mit 111er Average, dass der Modus des World Masters brutal ist, während Elmar am Mikro kaum Zeit für Anekdoten blieben. Ein Turnier mit einer so langen Historie, dass sich selbst Muhammad Ali gegen einen Turniersieger zum Champion krönte. Neben geworfenen Darts am Kilimandscharo muss noch über die Krankenakten einiger Spieler gesprochen werden sowie über Flos und Elmars Fitnessprogramm.

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Welcome to PsychEd, the psychiatry podcast for medical learners, by medical learners. This episode covers ADHD in youth with Dr. Daniel Gorman, an Associate Professor in the Department of Psychiatry at the University of Toronto and a Staff Psychiatrist at The Hospital for Sick Children. Dr Gorman's clinical and academic interests include ADHD, Tourette syndrome, obsessive-compulsive disorder, child psychopharmacology, psychiatric education, and narrative medicine. He is highly involved in resident teaching and clinical supervision, and from 2014 to 2022 he was the Program Director for the Child and Adolescent Psychiatry subspecialty program at the University of Toronto. Dr. Gorman has given over 85 invited presentations and authored or co-authored over 35 peer-reviewed articles and book chapters, mainly related to childhood neuropsychiatric disorders and their pharmacological management. He also contributed to several Canadian guidelines, including guidelines on cardiac risk assessment before the use of stimulants, management of tic disorders, pharmacotherapy for childhood disruptive and aggressive behaviour, and pharmacogenetic testing for children treated with psychiatric medications. The learning objectives for this episode are as follows: By the end of this episode, the listener will be able to… Review diagnostic criteria for ADHD Describe important considerations in making the diagnosis of ADHD Describe psychosocial aspects of management of ADHD Outline the pharmacological management of ADHD Guest: Dr. Daniel Gorman Hosts: Dr. Kate Braithwaite, Dr. Shaoyuan Wang (PGY-4), Matthew Cho (MS-4) Audio editing by: Dr. Angad Singh (PGY-1) Resources: CADDRA - Canadian ADHD Resource Alliance: Canadian ADHD Practice Guidelines, 4.1 Edition, Toronto ON; CADDRA, 2020. References: American Psychiatric Association. (2013). Diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders (5th ed.). https://doi.org/10.1176/appi.books.9780890425596 Biederman, J., DiSalvo, M., Fried, R., Woodworth, K. Y., Biederman, I., & Faraone, S. V. (2019). Quantifying the protective effects of stimulants on functional outcomes in attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder: A focus on number needed to treat statistic and sex effects. Journal of Adolescent Health, 65(6), 784–789. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jadohealth.2019.06.016 Peterson, B. S., Trampush, J., Brown, M., Maglione, M., Bolshakova, M., Rozelle, M., Miles, J., Pakdaman, S., Yagyu, S., Motala, A., & Hempel, S. (2024). Tools for the diagnosis of ADHD in children and adolescents: A systematic review. Pediatrics, 153(4), e2024065854. https://doi.org/10.1542/peds.2024-065854 Fedder, D., Patel, H., & Saadabadi, A. (2018). Atomoxetine. StatPearls. Retrieved January 31, 2025, from https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK493234/ Canadian Pediatric Society. (2022). Mental health: Screening tools and rating scales. Canadian Pediatric Society. Retrieved January 31, 2025, from https://cps.ca/mental-health-screening-tools For more PsychEd, follow us on Instagram (@psyched.podcast), X (@psychedpodcast), and Facebook (PsychEd Podcast). You can provide feedback by email at psychedpodcast@gmail.com. For more information, visit our website at psychedpodcast.org.

Frohes neues JA! Auch wenn der Podcast ein paar Veränderungen erfährt, ging es für Elmar zunächst noch „back to the roots“ - zum Tennis, obwohl die Sonntagspläne eigentlich andere waren. Mit Flo Hempel geht's dann nicht nur um neue Regeln für die European Tour, ein riesiges Qualifikationsturnier und fünf (harte) Fragen, sondern auch um das Leben abseits der großen Bühnen. Da kann sich der Freundeskreis schon mal verschieben. Was sich wohl für einen Weltmeister ändert? Fakt ist: Es ist nicht nur der Kontostand und der Terminkalender.

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What do you do when one of your intellectual idols comes on the podcast? Bombard them disagreements of course. We were thrilled to have David Deutsch on the podcast to discuss whether the concept of belief is a useful lens on human cognition, when probability and statistics should be deployed, and whether he disagrees with Karl Popper on abstractions, the truth, and nothing but the truth. Follow David on Twitter (@DavidDeutschOxf) or find his website here (https://www.daviddeutsch.org.uk/). We discuss Whether belief is a fruitful lens through which to analyze ideas Whether a non-quantitative form of belief can be defended How does belief bottom out epistemologically? Whether statistics and probability are useful Where should statistics and probability be used in practice? The Popper-Miller theorem Statements vs propositions and their relevance for truth Whether Popper and Deutsch disagree about truth References The Popper-Miller theorem. See the original paper (https://www.nature.com/articles/302687a0) David's 2021 talk on the correspondence theory of truth (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DZ-opI-jghs) David's talk on physics without probability (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wfzSE4Hoxbc). Hempel's paradox (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Raven_paradox) The Beginning of Infinity (https://www.amazon.com/Beginning-Infinity-Explanations-Transform-World/dp/0143121359) Knowledge and the Body-Mind Problem (https://www.amazon.ca/Knowledge-Body-Mind-Problem-Defence-Interaction/dp/0415135567) Socials Follow us on Twitter at @IncrementsPod, @BennyChugg, @VadenMasrani, @DavidDeutschOxf Come join our discord server! DM us on twitter or send us an email to get a supersecret link Believe in us and get exclusive bonus content by becoming a patreon subscriber here (https://www.patreon.com/Increments). Or give us one-time cash donations to help cover our lack of cash donations here (https://ko-fi.com/increments). Click dem like buttons on youtube (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC_4wZzQyoW4s4ZuE4FY9DQQ) What's the truth about your belief on the probability of useful statistics? Tell us over at incrementspodcast@gmail.com. Special Guest: David Deutsch.

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Hempel owns many paint brands around the world, including for example Crown Paints and Farrow & Ball. Introducing its structure, with majority ownership by the Hempel Foundation, Pernille shares the story of origin and the social and environmental change that takes place when you buy a pot of their paint, from childrens' education to regenerating biodiversity.   Pernille shares her personal journey and learning in understanding the scope of diversity, equity and inclusion and the impacts for creating the best teams at work. Discussing her leadership approach and HR's role enhancing business value, Pernille reflects on how HR can support people to feel liberated by being comfortable with who they are. How HR Leaders Change the World - Live! 13 November 2024 Our sell out conference is back! In London and on Live Stream. Click here to secure your place today, we can't wait to see you there!  The role of HR in ESG and Sustainability is rising up the agenda.  What brilliant opportunities ahead for you and your teams to create even more business value and positive change. And so, if you'd like to build your influence and impact, if you'd like to spend a day with pioneering CHROs and fellow HR Changemakers, come and join us! You'll leave with knowledge and actionable ideas that you can implement too, and, for even more inspiration – we're so excited to share this - our keynote this year is acclaimed Swazi-British actor, Richard E Grant. Speaking on the topic, 'From global perspectives to daily to do lists'… we can't wait…   Remember, this is a sell-out conference, so you need to grab your place now – and as a thank you we've got an Early Bird offer on in person tickets. Enter code HRCHANGEMAKER24 to get a brilliant 20% off. Our EarlyBird offer closes on 31 July, T&C's apply.  Topics in this episode:          A personal journey in understanding the scope of DE&I         Diversity and leadership         A business model that educates children and regenerates biodiversity         Being brave, feeling liberated         Saying I don't know and asking for help.

Also, nennt doch mal ein paar berühmte Filmkomponisten! Hans Zimmer, Harold Faltermeyer… und klar: Larsi Pilami! Mein heutiger Gast, der bürgerlich Lars Hempel heißt, wird den meisten Hörern wahrscheinlich nicht sofort etwas sagen. Es sei denn, man ist auf TikTok, Instagram und YouTube zuhause und liebt großartige, sehr lustige Unterhaltung. Hier nämlich hat der Hamburger Filmkomponist sein Fenster zur Welt und erfreut seine Fans mit Videos, in denen er (meist) (sehr) verpeilte Gen-Z-Gören in vermeintlich schwierigen Lebenslagen mit Impromptu Musik-Unterlegungen quasi unter die Arme greift und der Verzweiflung in akuten Lagen mehr Dramatik verleiht. Denn wenn der Freund erstmal das ganze Pesto allein aufgegessen hat, dann können bittere Tränen fließen und zarte Herzen bersten. Das Ganze ist schwer an Komik zu überbieten - und kann (Vorsicht!) eventuell süchtig machen. Es gibt also viel zu besprechen über das Leben und den Beruf eines leidenschaftlichen Künstlers, der die moderne, mediale Welt ohne Vorbehalte umarmt und sich dadurch viele Türen in einem von außen betrachtet schwierigen Business geöffnet hat. Lars Hempel auf Social Media: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCjXpkVFcvLOnnJND6WDpC5w Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/larsi.pilami/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@larsi.pilami Diese Folge wird präsentiert von: **RABOT Charge** Erlass der Servicegebühr von Rabot Charge in Höhe von 4,99€/pro Monat für die ersten 6 Monaten mit dem Code: RABOTxDASZIEL https://t1p.de/rabotxdasziel Mehr über den Podcast: FB: https://www.facebook.com/daszielistimweg Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andreas.loff

El enclave fundado por el ex millitar nazi, Paul Schaffer y funcionó hasta el retorno de la democracia en Chile. RFI habló con uno de los abogados de las víctimas de Colonia Dignidad, Winfried Hempel.  “Hoy puedo informar al país que esta semana hemos dado inicio al proceso”, dijo en su rendición pública a la nación, el presidente chileno, Gabriel Boric, al anunciar la expropiación de los terrenos de la ex Colonia Dignidad, una secta en donde se obligó a colonos alemanes y chilenos a trabajo forzado, se abusó sexualmente de algunos de ellos y que también sirvió como centro de detención durante la dictadura de Augusto Pinochet.  El Gobierno chileno pretende convertir el lugar en un Memorial.“Saludamos esa iniciativa. Nos satisface enormemente, sin perjuicio del otro gran tema que surge inmediatamente, que es el tema del destino de la plata. La verdad. La expropiación es una venta forzosa jurídicamente hablando, y una venta forzosa significa que va a correr plata por el valor comercial de la parte expropiada. Esa plata legalmente correspondería a los hijos de los ex jerarcas. No puede ser que el Estado, por un lado, con la derecha, esté expropiando, instaurando un centro de memoria en el fondo reparando y materialmente, pero con la izquierda esté dando esa plata a quien no hay que darle ni un solo peso”, denuncia Winfried Hempel es un ex colono alemán y ahora es el abogado de las víctimas de Colonia Dignidad.Colonia Dignidad fue fundada en 1961, en el sur de Chile, por el alemán Paul Schafer y fue desmantelada solo en 1991. Todavía viven en el lugar decenas de colonos y parte de ellos denuncian que aún se mantiene la estructura económica que creó el fallecido líder, que alcanzó a cumplir condena en Chile, acusado por abusos sexuales, condena que las víctimas piden para otros dirigentes del ex enclave alemán.“Dos generaciones de culpables. Unos son los jerarcas históricos, quienes en su mayoría cumplieron condena de cárcel y murieron. Y después hay jerarcas de una segunda línea, un poquito más jóvenes que se han fugado todos a Alemania y viven en tranquilamente porque en Alemania no son juzgables y no son extraditados a Chile. Estamos frente a un caso de impunidad en esa segunda generación de jerarcas. Es bastante frustrante esa situación, sobre todo porque Alemania en ese sentido, no colabora en nada”, afirma Hempel a RFI.Un tema que el presidente Boric podría volver a tratar esta semana cuando se reúna nuevamente con el canciller Scholz durante su visita oficial a Alemania.

Dagens erhvervsoverblik: Maling-producenten Hempel får CVC med ombord i kæmpehandel. Novo Nordisk får adgang til ny fedmemedicin i ny amerikansk aftale, Corporate America på storindkøb i  egne aktier. Vært: Sofie Rud (soru@borsen.dk)

Monika Hempel in conversation with David Eastaugh https://www.verlag-reiffer.de/produkt/nomi/v Singing space robot. Galactic Pierrot. The thing from the other planet. To put the phenomenon of Klaus Nomi into words, the media prefers to stylize him as an alien. In fact, the artist cannot be classified into gender or genre categories and appears to be a hybrid creature of human, machine and Martian.  He effortlessly bridges the gap from baroque opera to 1960s pop to new wave, from the frosty “Cold Song” to the ironic, infernal “Total Eclipse”. Despite a narrow oeuvre of two albums released during his lifetime, Nomi's influence is present not only in the world of music, but in all areas of art, forty years after his untimely death from AIDS. How did this ongoing fascination come about?  Monika Hempel went looking for clues, spoke to friends and companions, looked through archives and Nomi's personal legacy. It tells the extraordinary life story of the singer born Klaus Sperber and explains why his voice still speaks to us after countless revolutions in orbit

Cécile Huijnen bespreekt nieuwe releases met een panel van deskundigen en liefhebbers van klassieke muziek. Nieuwe opnamen van middeleeuws tot minimal, en natuurlijk ook 'De Vergelijking', waarin een nieuwe uitvoering de strijd aangaat met twee ‘concurrenten'. Vandaag in het panel: mezzosopraan, harpist, performer Ekaterina Levental en dirigent Jurjen Hempel.

In Episode 48 Mary and her guest Meghann Hempel cover some of the dumb stuff influencers say about food addiction. You can find Meghann on Instagram at www.instagram.com/meghann.alice Instagram: www.instagram.com/ketomary71 Facebook: www.Facebook.com/ketomary71 YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ketomary7114 Website: www.foodfreedomwithmary.com Join the email list. Email: ketomary71@gmail.com Join my Food Freedom Tribe! An online community of support, eduction, inspiration, accountability….. Learn more here: https://www.foodfreedomwithmary.com/782045b4 Do you need private coaching? Book a free 15 minute discovery call with Mary to talk about her 12 week private coaching and to see if you are a good fit to work together. https://calendly.com/ketomary71/discovery-call Read here to find out what private coaching is all about: https://www.foodfreedomwithmary.com/6de28017-f45024cf Food Freedom Self Paced E-book program Option 1: E-book only Option 2: E-book plus private consult https://www.foodfreedomwithmary.com/782045b4-95b876fd Download my FREE 30 Day Food Sobriety Challenge https://www.foodfreedomwithmary.com/79a2d9cd Recovery Nutrition Consult https://www.foodfreedomwithmary.com/6de28017 Low Carb High Protein Bundle 8 PDF's Recipe e-book 4 Week Meal Plan Protein Portion Guide Protein Shopping Guide Protein Snack Ideas Portion Size Guide Healthy Sauces & Condiments Guide Carbs Healthy Sides & Snacks Entire Bundle only $22 https://www.foodfreedomwithmary.com/6de28017-36038353 28 Day Keto Jumpstart (PDF) For people returning to Keto or new to Keto. The 28 Day Keto Jumpstart is a four week meal plan with recipes and shopping list included. This plan is appropriate for anyone new to Keto or someone returning and needing a reboot. Includes easy recipes with macros for each and a simple to follow meal plan. Only $14 https://www.foodfreedomwithmary.com/6de28017-36038353-b4115b63

Jessi Hempel is many things: an award-winning journalist, podcaster, author, and senior editor-at-large at LinkedIn. But despite her myriad accomplishments, she shies away from labeling herself as ‘successful'. For Jessi, her illustrious career as a technology and business journalist was always a stepping stone on the path to her childhood dream of writing a book. However, after the publication of her memoir, "The Family Outing," Jessi found herself facing an existential quandary: what comes next after you achieve your ultimate goal?In this episode, Jessi takes the helm as we navigate through diverse topics, from the uncertainty of charting a new career trajectory post-success, to the poignant journey of motherhood and the heart-wrenching experience of loss. Together, we delve into the complexities of gender and sexuality, drawing from Jessi's personal narrative, including the remarkable tale of her transgender brother who embarked on a unique journey of pregnancy. Here's what's on the agenda:The challenges women face in defining success and navigating career milestonesWhat to do when you fall out of love with your careerUnpacking societal expectations and pressures surrounding motherhoodThe profound joys and challenges of parenting, including Jessi's unexpected journey into parenthood and coping with lossHow experiences of loss can instill a "f*ck it" attitude, reshaping perspectives on life's brevity, and pursing meaningJessi's journey to writing her memoir and the liberation found in giving yourself permission to explore personal narrativesWhy we need more nuance when it comes to speaking about and understanding gender and sexual identityThe ongoing struggle of asserting boundaries and saying no, even as you ageOUR GUEST: Jessi Hempel, a seasoned tech journalist and host of the acclaimed podcast Hello Monday, serves as senior editor-at-large at LinkedIn. With over two decades of experience, she has crafted compelling features and cover stories on prominent figures and companies in the tech sphere. Previously, Hempel held editorial leadership roles at Backchannel and Wired, and her insights have been featured on major news networks. She is also the esteemed author of The Family Outing, recognized by Time as one of the 100 Must-Read Books of 2022, now available in paperback. Hempel holds degrees from Brown University and U.C. Berkeley, residing in New York City.Want more Jessi? Find her online at https://www.jessijhempel.com/ and listen to her podcast, Hello Monday, at https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/hello-monday-with-jessi-hempel/id1453893304 Follow Jessi on: LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessihempel/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/jessiwrites/ Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us and episode transcripts online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090728330453 Follow...

When Jessi Hempel came out of the closet she had no idea her whole church-going family had been hiding in there with her. And things got complicated fast when the closet door kept swinging open.  Jessi Hempel is author of The Family Outing: A Memoir. She is also host of the award-winning podcast Hello Monday, and a senior editor-at-large at LinkedIn. Her features and cover stories have appeared in Wired, Fortune, and TIME. She has appeared on CNN, PBS, MSNBC, Fox, and CNBC, addressing the culture and business of technology. Hempel is a graduate of Brown University and received a master's in journalism from UC Berkeley. She lives in Brooklyn with her wife and children. REFERENCES Jessi Hempel, "My Brother's Pregnancy and the Making of a New American Family," TIME (Sept. 12, 2016).   Transcript   JESSI HEMPEL: I started reading the section about homosexuality and I was like, "Oh dear, oh dear, oh dear!" Then I thought, "Oh my goodness, they're gonna come home and see me reading it and they're gonna know." Now I'm, you know, fourteen or fifteen years old. I was so nervous they would discover what I was researching, that I was reading for personal gain, that I was trying to figure something out. So, I immediately turned to the section on menopause because I think, "Well then they'll just think I'm reading for curiosity because there's no way I'm going through menopause." BLAIR HODGES: Jessi Hempel wasn't going through menopause. She was figuring out she was gay in the late 80s in a family where that wasn't particularly safe. She could keep it hidden for a while, but she knew that someday it wouldn't be a secret anymore, and she was afraid. So, Jessi managed to stretch the secret out. Then one day, her sister discovers something on their father's computer that will turn the whole family on its head. There was more than one secret closet in this family, and the closet doors would swing open again and again. In this episode, Jessi joins us to talk about her incredible memoir, The Family Outing. There's no one right way to be a family, and every kind of family has something we can learn from. I'm Blair Hodges, and this is Family Proclamations.   THE FAMILY LEAST LIKELY TO KEEP IN TOUCH (1:38)   BLAIR HODGES: Jessi Hempel, welcome to Family Proclamations. JESSI HEMPEL: Well, thank you so much for having me, Blair. I love what you're doing with the show. BLAIR HODGES: I'm excited to talk to you about this book, The Family Outing. You're a professional writer, you didn't just write a book because of your amazing experiences. You also have technical skills with this, so people might not think twice about the fact that you've published a book. But I do think this particular book is sort of surprising if we look at your other professional stuff. Like your career focuses on tech reporting, and this is a really personal memoir. Talk about what it was like to kind of transition to a different mode of writing to get this book done. JESSI HEMPEL: You're very correct, Blair. For the first 25 years of my life as a writer—and that's a lot of years, by the way, I had been writing for a long time—I thought that if I ever wrote a book it would be about technology, artificial intelligence, or the rise of social networks, or any of the myriad things I geeked out on related to business and tech. I had spent my entire career until that point writing for magazines like Business Week, and Fortune, and Wired about the kinds of things that kept me up at night, which were and are things having to do with things like the evolution of new technology. And that was my identity. And I start there, Blair, because I think what happened to me actually happened to a lot of people. In March of 2020—and I should start by saying, if you just say “March of 2020” most people get this dour look on their face, right? Yeah, we can all think about where we might have been. And for me, I was living in Brooklyn, New York. And I was this technology writer, and I was a fairly new parent, my wife and I had a baby, he had just turned a year old, and I had a real strong sense of my identity, right? I traveled all the time, I was out in the world, career focused. And then overnight all of that changed. My job was thankfully safe, but there was a question as to whether it would continue. And suddenly, there was no traveling. In fact, there was no office to go to. There was no daycare, which meant that I was home with my child all day. And New York was a particularly scary place to be. My wife and I finally got to a point where we said we gotta get out of here. Bear with me, because this does have to do with the book. I know, Blair, right here that you're like, this not the question that I asked. [laughter] BLAIR HODGES: I'm following, I'm following! JESSI HEMPEL: Okay! So, my wife and I put the baby and the dog in the back of the Subaru—because those are the lesbians that we are—and we hit the gas and started driving south. Her parents lived in Tupelo, Mississippi, and we drove all the way to their house, which was 18 hours. And when we got there, we thought we'd stay for 10 days, and—you know where the story is going—we stayed for months. Those first couple of weeks that I was living in my wife's childhood bedroom, you know, I did the things that we did at the very beginning of the pandemic. Like I got Zoom-crazy, right? I did Zoom happy hours and Zoom yoga and I Zoomed with friends I hadn't talked to in a while. And then very quickly, I just grew so tired of Zoom and really tired of talking to anyone. I was depressed. I was super down. And while I was so down, I discovered that there were just a few people I wanted to talk to. And I wanted to talk to them every single day. And that was my brother, my sister, and my mom, and my dad. And I thought that was pretty wild because if you had known us in our youth you would have voted us the family least likely to keep in touch with each other. We were just a hot mess, right? But here we were in the middle of this global emergency, and these were the people I was reaching for. And we were quarantining in five different houses in four different states. And we were texting and in touch with each other every day. So all that was going on, Blair. Back in New York, I had this very commercial literary agent who kept calling me and saying, "Jessi, now is a great time to write a book." And I would say, "Have you seen my life? There is nothing great about this moment. I'm kind of busy trying to keep my head above water. It's not a good time.” And she kept saying, “No, no, this is a great time. There are not a lot of writers bringing books to market.” She was right about that. “And so if there was ever a moment when you had a real dream, like the dream project, this is the moment you could get that project done.” And so I said, "Okay, I'll think about it." And I came back to her, and I said, "Well, how about I write a tech book about the business of tech?" and she said, "Boring." She said, "Go back and bring me the book that you would be most afraid to write." So I thought about it. Then I came back to her. And I said, "Well, what if I interviewed everybody in my family and wrote the story of how we all came out? Because here's the thing, I think the reason why we like each other so much right now, and why we depend on each other so much emotionally, and why we are close, is because things were so hard and broken. And we all did this internal work of coming out. And that work—not only did it help us each to realize ourselves, but it helped us to realize something about each other.” And she said, "Perfect, we'll call it The Family Outing." And literally, from there I was writing the book.   FRAMING THE STORY (6:44)   BLAIR HODGES: And it was in the course of starting those interviews that you started to wrap your head around the story of your family, because the easy story to tell, which you say in the introduction is, we had this family, there was all this dysfunction, and then we all came out of the closet, and now we're all okay. And that's an interesting story in and of itself, but you weren't entirely satisfied with it. Why wasn't it satisfying when thought about framing your book and the story you wanted to tell? JESSI HEMPEL: I love that sort of overview of it, because that is how I kind of have been telling it my whole life and it was a great cocktail party story. Like, "Hey, I've got the gayest family. My family can out-gay your family. Listen to how gay we are. We all came out of the closet.” And I should say when I say that, Blair, I came out of the closet first. I came out at 19. Just straight up gay. I would even call myself a little bit of a boring gay. I'm very in the box, like, you know, fairly heteronormative in presentation, like, just discovered Ani DiFranco at 19 and was like, "Yeah, there we go." [laughter] Shortly after, my dad came out as gay, which forced him to leave his marriage. My sister came out as bisexual, my brother came out as transgender, and later went on to carry a child. And that whole process caused us to do a great deal of self-reflection. And my mother came out as a survivor of a series of crimes so heinous, I could really only learn about them in little bits over time. And all of this change happened over the course of three and a half, four years, a very short period of time. And while it was happening, I've got to say, it was terrible. It was terrible. And it was hard. And terrible and hard—once you get to the other side of them—forge character, right? And so what I was interested in was, I wanted to figure out not just what my version of the story was, but what every member of my family thought happened. I wanted to see if I could get to one common narrative that we all agreed upon, like, "Hey, here's what happened." So I kind of pitched the story to everybody. I was like, "Hey, you know what we could do is, I could interview you, we could do a whole lot of interviews, you could tell me your side of the story. I could figure out where they line up. And then I could just come up with one common narrative." And everybody agreed to it, which, God bless them that they all agreed to it because, especially for my parents, it was a huge leap of faith. They were essentially agreeing to allow me to air all my family's dirty laundry, and to live through that. BLAIR HODGES: Because for interviews they have to be involved with it, right? Like not just your parents telling you, but they have to dig— JESSI HEMPEL: Right. I mean, there was so much digging, and subsequently so much healing in the writing of the story. And I should say, by the way we're talking about it you would think this is like an encyclopedia about my family. But I also endeavored to write a beach read. I wanted to write something that would move so fast you would sit down and start to read it, and if it was a book that spoke to you—and I will say books are very personal, not every book speaks to every person—but if those books spoke to you, that you would sit down, open it, and want to finish it right away and just fly through it. But you know, when I started to try to get all of our stories to line up, the only thing I really learned, Blair, is that even when five people endeavor in good faith to tell one story, memory is really crappy. And people remember things differently and nobody could get the details right.   JESSI'S FATHER (10:17)   BLAIR HODGES: Part of your project, then, was to get a narrative thread that worked, but also that would be satisfactory and representative of the perspectives of your family. You were juggling a lot of different stories here. One of the most interesting for me was about your father. He was a young man in the 1970s. He was the son of a very religiously devout minister. And he's thinking about maybe entering the ministry himself. But things aren't really clicking, his mission work gets cut short, he finds himself in this meeting with a psychiatrist and a psychoanalyst, and he's listing off all these ways he feels lost in his life. And then he just tosses out, "Oh, also, I think I might be gay." Tell us a little bit more about your dad in this moment and what that must have been like for him to be a gay young man in the seventies from this devout family. JESSI HEMPEL: I mean, I think so much about this. Because if you had met my dad as a 10-year-old child, you would probably have identified him—especially in our contemporary culture, maybe not back then—but even from his youngest years, he was somebody who people probably identified as, "Oh, that kid's probably gonna grow up to be gay." He just had a manner about him. And I think that really scared his parents. My grandfather was a German Methodist minister who even felt like the Methodist Church wasn't quite strict enough. So he would bring his family for extra churching on Wednesdays to the Baptist church down the street. He really took his relationship with God seriously, and was somewhat panicked you know, he had three children, he had two daughters, and then he had this son, and in their family, I mean, everything was about the son. They just really wanted the son to accurately represent the family and take on the tradition, which was a religious tradition, whatever that was. And there was my dad, this young gay kid, and they became so worried about him being—I mean, they never used the word “gay.” Let me be really clear, Blair. But you know, even in middle school, they had a couple of experiences where—and this isn't in the book, but just from my dad talking to me, you know, his parents found him like trying on his big sisters' petticoats. And they just were concerned enough that they figured out how to get him into a rigorous Christian boys boarding school. And all that time, my dad knew in his heart that he was gay, or that he liked boys. I don't think he had a word for it. BLAIR HODGES: I think that's a really important point, too, that it wouldn't have been thought of in terms of an identity, but rather as sinful inclinations, or temptations he was supposed to fight. So it wouldn't have been, “Oh no, my son's gay.” It's, “Oh no, he's going to struggle with these temptations. How are we going to Christianize them out of him? How are we gonna fix that pathology?” One of those solutions then was to get married, like, "This'll fix it." JESSI HEMPEL: Super interesting, right? My father didn't really know what he wanted to do with his life. He's a very bright guy. He graduated top of his class at his Christian boarding school. He went off to Middlebury College and he got a scholarship. His family had no money. He finished Middlebury College a semester early and he had no career path, no idea what he wanted to do. He was kind of like, as bright as he was intellectually, he was kind of a dud socially. Couldn't figure out dating, couldn't figure out anything, and so his parents really kind of pushed him into the mission. And that seemed like a thing to do. His older sister had become a missionary. And by the way, it was a great lifestyle for her. It worked really, really well for her. She has continued this lifestyle for her entire life. I mean, she eventually got married and had children. But this lifestyle did not work for my dad. And here's where I have to give the Methodist Church some credit. It seems from what I could figure out—and again, I wasn't able to talk to any of these people personally—but just from reading diaries of my father and picking up stories and reading my grandfather's notes. You know, my grandfather pushed the Methodist ministry to invite my father into the mission. I think that they knew he didn't want to be a missionary, and they knew that he was a really lost kid, and that he needed some guidance. And so they finally said to him, "Look, we're just going to let you out of this commitment and we're also going to pay for counseling for you. So go get yourself settled somewhere. And we the church are then going to pick up therapy for you." And that's really cool. The other side of that was that when my father finally got himself settled somewhere, he went off to live with his sister for a couple months, he got a Christian therapist who listened to him and assured him when he mentioned that maybe he could be possibly, I mean, there's a potential that he could be gay—you know, mumbled the word, didn't even say it loudly—they said, "No, no, no, no,” you know, “a lot of young adolescent men feel this way during one stage of growth and adolescence, and you just need to get married. Just get married, that'll take care of it."   JESSI'S MOTHER (15:11)   BLAIR HODGES: And so then he does. He meets your mom. And your mother—you found out in the course of writing the book, and throughout your life, your mom had experienced some trauma around the time she met your dad. She was going through some things. So your dad's sort of trying to find his way, deciding to get married and this and that, and your mom was trying to figure out her future family life at this time, too. She was working at this department store. And she had a coworker there that she kind of had a crush on, who was actually revealed to be a friend, and maybe even an accomplice of a serial killer in Michigan. I didn't expect this in The Family Outing. Talk about that for a sec.   JESSI HEMPEL: In the late 60s, in Ypsilanti, Michigan, there was a man who preyed upon women in my mom's community. And it was still the early sixties you know, this was before the heyday of serial killers in our culture, back when that was still sort of a new idea. But women started disappearing, probably when my mom was in about ninth or tenth grade. And, you know, there would be women that my mom knew. It would be like the assistant art teacher at the high school, or the church deacon's secretary, and they'd be people that were about my mom's age and that looked a lot like my mom. And the town became increasingly fearful as these disappearances and subsequent murders happened at a cadence of like once a year, and then once every six months, and then moved into a cadence of happening quite frequently. And all of the men in town became volunteer neighborhood watch folks, including my grandfather, and all the young girls were put on curfews. And this was the backdrop against which my mom attempted to live her adolescence. I think it's probably true when anybody experiences something as persistently scary as that, you become immune to the fear, and you just have to live your life. And my mom did that. She worked at a department store downtown, and she developed a crush on a guy. And there was actually a moment when that guy scared the bejesus out of her in a way that suddenly— BLAIR HODGES: Yeah, he corners her in a back room. JESSI HEMPEL: And he throttles her throat, and he threatens her! And she was looking at him and she was trying to get him to stop. And then she realized, "Oh, my goodness, I actually don't know anything about this man." And then he lets go. And he's like, "I'm only joking. But, like, what would you do if I were the killer?" And my mom goes home with this information. She's trying to process it. And she doesn't even have time to process it because that's when this man and his best friend are arrested for the murders. And he later gets off in exchange for testifying against his best friend. BLAIR HODGES: Right, which is kind of sketchy because he could have been more involved. But he's the one who talked to the cops, basically. JESSI HEMPEL: That's exactly right. And most people in Ypsilanti, Michigan who were alive at that time and paying attention believe that he was, if not in on the murders, he certainly knew about the murders. And so my mom lived with this. And this shaped her. Her parents loved her very much. But in our popular culture in, you know, the late sixties and early seventies, I think what love looked like in white middle class American families was, “Hey, we're not going to talk about this. We're just going to try to put this behind us. We're going to focus on something else.” And so my grandparents encouraged my mom, “Hey, let's not talk about this.” Then the guy was arrested, he was taken away. There was never any further discussion about it. My mom continues to work at this department store, her life goes back to some semblance of something like normal, whatever normal is. And a year later, maybe a year and a half later, she meets this effeminate son of a minister who wants to get married right away. And he's safe and lovely. And it's no surprise to me that they found each other in that moment.   FAMILY UNHAPPINESS (19:07)   BLAIR HODGES: And so they do. They get married, and they have three kids—you and two younger siblings. It seems like your classic American family at this point. You've got two churchgoing parents, you got Dad as the breadwinner, Mom is the primary caregiver to the kids. And in fact, Dad's actually sometimes a bit too distant because of his work obligations. And that's how their relationship actually starts to fray. JESSI HEMPEL: They're trying so hard, right? And they're trying to check off the list of things you check off in order to qualify for the Olin Mills picture in like the eighties that would go on the Christmas card, and they're doing a great job at it on the surface. And here I think it's important to remember that at the beginning, my parents really were in love, and I think when one tells these kinds of stories and the end of the stories is that a marriage dissolves, we forget that before there was bad, there was a lot of history in the good that is worth considering. It wasn't like my parents lied to themselves in any overt way when they fell for each other. They actually did fall for each other in a moment. But, you know, as life went on, my father—it becomes harder and harder for him to bury this truth about himself. So he just becomes more and more distant. He just checks out. And my mother then is in a marriage that on the surface looks like everybody else's, and she thinks she should feel happy. But truthfully, she's so lonely because she's trying to raise these three children kind of all on her own. And then her own flashbacks and memories start to come up and she becomes extremely depressed. And I think about this long period—ultimately my adolescence, right? For me, it was age ten to twenty or so—as the closeted period in my family's life. And we were all pretty miserable and pretty unhappy and often emotionally violent to each other, and my parents in particular to us, and sometimes even physically violent. And that is the product of living in the closet. That is what it means to have to hide yourself. You become your worst version of yourself.   JESSI'S CHILDHOOD SECRET (21:11)   BLAIR HODGES: Seeing you grow up in the book, I love this. I loved reading about little Jessi. You start getting called “Jessica” in the third grade. This Jessica seems so precocious, and that she really needs to be seen in some ways. But also, she says she couldn't be seen. Here's something you write: "When I was a child, I believed there were things I couldn't reveal about myself, things that made me despicable, unlovable." So on the one hand, you wanted to connect, you wanted to be seen. And on the other hand, you had what you felt like was this dark secret about yourself. Talk about what that was like for you. JESSI HEMPEL: Well, you know, I was gay, and by that, I mean, I also didn't have a word for it. But I knew by the time I was in early elementary school that my desire was programmed differently than other people's desire. And that this was something I needed to hide. I don't even know exactly how I knew that. But I knew that. And that if anybody ever found out, that would be bad for me. I think one thing about the eighties and into the early nineties was that this was a time when maybe you could be gay, but you just didn't talk about it. And none of the people we knew on television came out on television. You know, Ellen DeGeneres didn't come out of the closet on TV until 1996. BLAIR HODGES: Yeah, I was in high school. JESSI HEMPEL: You probably remember it. Do you remember it, Blair? BLAIR HODGES: I do! I do. And at the time, I was in a place where I thought something was very wrong with that. I was unsettled by it. But I think I didn't know much about what it meant. And the thing is that growing up, we would say all the slurs, we would say “queer” and stuff like this without really even thinking about what it meant. I did get the sense that I was expected to become a man, I always had heteronormative cultural expectations, but I didn't know that I knew any gay people. So Ellen was one of the first people where I was like, oh, there's gay people. Okay, there's one in real life. JESSI HEMPEL: Completely. And that was so profoundly important. It started a cultural change that grew into the movement that we have today, right? But, you know, before all that happened, I was like, "Queer" was the word we use to describe things that were strange and not cool in high school. And I used it all the time before it became the word that was my identity. But I knew I also had these crushes on girls starting in middle school and into high school that I could kind of get away with because I think this kind of friendship is more sanctioned between women than it is between men. BLAIR HODGES: Can we read about one of these? There's an excerpt on page 80 I thought would really speak to that. Just to the end of the page there. JESSI HEMPEL: Okay. Yeah, awesome. "In sixth grade, I love Becky Orr. She's my best friend. She has long brown curly hair that she parts in the middle and pins back with two barrettes, and a face like a Cabbage Patch Kid doll, round with dimples on her cheeks. We spend our time doing things that border on little kid, like running through the sprinkler and watching the Mickey Mouse Club. Then we go to our respective homes and talk on the phone. “When we're not talking, I'm thinking about talking to her. I can find a way to weave Becky into any conversation. For instance, if Dad mentions going to the beach next summer, I might say, 'You know who loves the beach?' 'Who?' he'll say, even though he knows the answer: Becky Orr. “Being a closeted gay girl in the 1980s involves hiding out in the open. It's constantly declaring your feelings to the object of your affection and getting away with it because girls are allowed to love each other. Loving is entirely condoned. Lusting is something of which we don't speak. “I don't have a name for this way that I'm drawn to Becky, I always longed to be closer to my best friends, but I don't even know what I'm longing for. To feel more? To merge into them more? To crawl inside their heads? This merging desire feels most possible when a friend is most vulnerable, such as when she is falling in love with someone else. In this way, I learn to lie to myself. When Becky calls to tell me David kissed her at the St. John's Dance, I feel the universe cleave into sections, see her spinning backward from me. She'll like David better than me, differently than me. But just now, it's me for whom she reaches to share this new experience and I want to hold onto her attention. 'I'm so excited for you, Becky,' I say, 'Tell me everything.' It's always this way for me with a best friend. For a brief period, I will inhabit them, and then I'll lose them." BLAIR HODGES: We get to see more of that as you tell more of your story. A couple of years after this, you still haven't really got a word for it, you haven't really nailed it down for yourself. But a couple years later, you're babysitting for some neighbors a few houses down. And there's a book they have there. And I recognize the title of this. It's called Our Bodies, Ourselves, this book is on the shelf there and you're curious. So you pick it up and you start to read it. And this book really brings some things home. JESSI HEMPEL: It really does. And I just remember, Blair, I was so nervous they would discover I was researching, that I was reading for personal gain, that I was trying to figure something out, I started reading the section about homosexuality. And I was like, "Oh, dear, oh, dear. Oh, dear! Wow, that really..." And then I thought, "Oh, my goodness, they're gonna come home and see me reading it. And they're gonna know." Now I'm, you know, fifteen years old, fourteen years old. So I immediately turn to the section on menopause because I think well, then they'll just think I'm reading for curiosity, because there's no way I'm going through menopause! [laughter] BLAIR HODGES: But you knew then, right? You say you knew. In fact, read the end of that chapter there. JESSI HEMPEL: "From this point on, I know the thing about myself I have been trying not to know. I understand that it cannot be changed, that it is innate, like my eye color. “I'm gay. “One day I will need to accept this, and I believe it will end the good part of my life. It will end my ability to get along with the people I know and love. I am gay. I will spend my adult years in a dirty city living with men I do not like. I won't have kids. But hopefully also, I'll know women that look like the women in this book. Would that be so bad? “Maybe, I think, I can stave this off until after high school. Maybe I can buy myself a few more years of the good life in which I think I can be like everyone else. Maybe no one else has to know."   KICKED OUT OF THE CLOSET (27:42)   BLAIR HODGES: And as you're dealing with all that, your relationship with your mother is deteriorating. People who read the book will see how that plays out. You're struggling, things in your family feel disconnected, and things are going to come to a head eventually here. Chapter 14, I think, was probably one of the most painful chapters to read. This is when your sister makes a discovery on your dad's computer. JESSI HEMPEL: My dad was outed. We like to say that he was kicked out of the closet more than he came out of the closet. I was just out of college. My sister, who's four years younger than me, had just finished her first year of college and she was home for the summer. And things were not great between my parents by this point. Years and years of not taking care of their relationship had led to a situation where, you know, Mom watched TV all evening long and Dad disappeared into the den and they didn't really talk to each other. And Dad would get on his computer. So my sister is in her bedroom. And she is IM'ing—one of those early chat programs, with her boyfriend. They're sort of newly in love. And then her computer dies. It runs out of batteries. It's an early laptop. And so she gets frustrated with it. And she goes into the den to use the family computer to pick up the conversation. And when she goes on the computer, somebody she doesn't know pings her back. And she quickly discovers this person she doesn't know seems to be a man involved with my father. And she puts it together very quickly that this person messaging her is some man that my dad is having an affair with. And then everything blows up, Blair. In that particular moment, my dad and my mom were hosting visiting relatives— BLAIR HODGES: I know. It was such a bad moment!— JESSI HEMPEL: I mean, is there ever a good moment, though? Could you ever plan, could you ever be like, you know, "On July 20th—" [laughter] BLAIR HODGES: No, but maybe on a quiet weekend, though, with no visitors! JESSI HEMPEL: That would've been better, but no. [laughter] They were just waiting for my aunt and uncle to arrive. They were driving home from, I think, shopping for furniture, and my sister calls my dad—we had one of those early car phones, it was sort of a bit before cell phones, and they were like these big bricks, and you didn't really want to use them because it was super expensive, but for emergencies, right? So my sister calls and wants to talk to my dad, my mom picks up and my sister basically intimates to my mom, she says, "Tell Dad that So-and-So says hi." And in that moment my dad knows exactly what has happened. And he panics, and he just thinks, “I can undo this, I can fix this, I can fix this.” So he races home, he tries to get time with my sister, but my sister's not having it. And she leaves. She goes to her boyfriend's house, he lives in Vermont. She basically says, you know, “You tell Mom, or I will.” And so my dad has to tell my mom, you know, “Hey, I've been doing these,” you know—his understanding of what's happening at this point too is really important. Because I think it is like the process of coming out of the closet is not a light switch that you flip on and off. It's a gradual awakening or awareness. And so his thought at this point is that he has been afflicted by something, rather like he might be afflicted by some form of cancer that's surely curable if you get the right treatments. And so his first sort of revelation to my mom is like, "I've been afflicted by these unhealthy desires, and I've acted upon them and broken the covenant of our marriage. And I'm going to fix this. And we can fix this. And I'm so sorry that I'm sick." Luckily, for everybody involved, that's not where his emotional work ended. But that's where it started. BLAIR HODGES: And Mom wanted to hang in there for a minute, like they really thought they could figure this out. She became invested in making this work, and it sort of starts getting drawn out, and you're seeing your parents try to make what is appearing increasingly to be a sham, they're trying so hard to make it work, and your dad is experiencing what you call the "Rainbow Phase." He's kind of finally started to embrace his gay self, but he's also trying to not be gay. He's also trying to maintain this mixed-orientation marriage at the same time, which is so strange. JESSI HEMPEL: I mean, imagine it, though, because he loves my mom, and he loves this family we have created. He also has a pretty intact relationship with his religion and with God at this point. And stepping outside of the framework of those things is completely unknown to him. This is also the summer of his fiftieth birthday. He turns fifty about two weeks after all of this happens. So imagine if you live the first fifty years of your life with one identity and then you are called to ask to rethink it. It seems impossible. You think you know who you are. How could you also be this other person? BLAIR HODGES: Do you think there was some excitement in it, too? Like the Rainbow Phase part of it? JESSI HEMPEL: Coming out is great, okay? Blair, let me tell you, coming out involves coming into a community of people who have been waiting for you, many of whom have also experienced rejection and hurt and hardship from their families of origin. And when you finally get brave enough to figure out how to bring a dish of macaroni to the potluck at the LGBT center, what you discover is a whole lot of people who are like, I want to be your friend. You want to go to the theater with me? You want to join my biking club? He joined a church for a little while that was composed of people who had left their churches because they couldn't be a part of it. He walked into opportunities for belonging. And I think it's such an important distinction, Blair, because when you are the spouse being left in that situation, you don't walk into belonging. You have to rethink everything, you have to reconstitute your identity, and there's no flag waving for you. BLAIR HODGES: No. Your mother had such difficulty and talked about a suicide attempt even. She came to the point where that was on the table for her. What was it like writing about that? And how did she feel about that being part of the book? JESSI HEMPEL: It was really hard to figure out how to write about it. She was pretty unhappy at first with that being part of the book. She felt, you know, she is a mental health practitioner. And she worried that— BLAIR HODGES: Yeah. That's a community she fell into, like, figuring out mental health and becoming a therapist and all that, so to speak, she needed a place to fall. But we're talking about what happened before that. Sorry, just wanted to interject that— JESSI HEMPEL: Right. But in her moment of crisis, and you asked specifically about how she felt about me writing about it, she was scared that if she revealed exactly how vulnerable she was, people would think less of her. And so that was her fear in the book. And yet, she was really honest with me about what that moment of crisis felt like. And I was able to really reflect both how she thought and felt about that moment of crisis, but also how it affected my brother who was still in high school, and my sister who was at college. When an event like that happens in a family system, it happens differently to everyone, and hopefully the book sort of captures that.   SIBLING RIVALRY (34:53)   BLAIR HODGES: Oh, it sure does. I think this is one of the main strengths of your book, because it shows how coming out can be such an involved and connected and networked process, that it's not an isolated thing. And people that experience it, there are shockwaves—there's joy, there's grief, there's so many different emotions. And it's not an isolated individual experience. It has repercussions for everybody around. We certainly get to witness that with you, and your siblings, and your mom, and how it impacted your dad, and how it impacted their religious faith and their connection to different religious communities, and how it connected your mom to communities of therapy and research and how to be in therapeutic relationship with others. I think that's such a central strength of The Family Outing, that we get to witness how that felt. With that in mind, let's take a second to talk about your siblings. So Katja is the middle child. And then the youngest is Evan. Evan was assigned female at birth. And Katja comes out as bisexual. It was interesting, your reaction to that. Because you had come out as gay. And when your sister came out as bi, you seem sort of like, "Oh, okay." Maybe talk a little bit about the bi erasure that kind of happens, right? Bi people often talk about bi erasure, that they're sort of dismissed, or that it's sort of looked sideways at, like, "Oh, okay, interesting…" JESSI HEMPEL: I'm so glad you brought that up. You know, my wife identifies as bisexual, and people can be somewhat callous of that being like, "Well, you and Jessi have been together for twelve years. Why do we have to call you bisexual?" BLAIR HODGES: Yeah, I hear this with people that are married, too. I know a woman who's married to a guy, she gets the exact same question a lot, and she came out as bi later in life, and they're like, "But you're already married, and you have kids and stuff. Like, what's the point?" So that bi erasure is real. JESSI HEMPEL: One hundred percent. The other piece there that I really wanted to figure out how to highlight is that this book is about coming out, but it's also about how to receive people who come out to you. I wanted to call attention to the fact that, you know, I came out first. I thought I knew a thing or two about what it was to be queer and who got to be queer. And I actually, unfortunately, I thought I kind of owned it in my family. And I was not great to my sister or my brother when they came out. In both situations my first response was to belittle the experience, to say some version of, "Well, I mean, you know, okay, fine." Like with my sister, "Oh, you just want to be like the rest of us. Sure, you're bisexual, like you were the popular girl in school, you always had a boyfriend, like, I know, this is a passing fad." And with my brother, you know, a couple years later, I did the exact same thing. He said, "My pronouns are going to be he and him, the name I choose is Evan. Please call me that when I come to visit you." And my first response was like, "But you just wore that beautiful dress at Christmas. I'm sure this is a passing thing. Like, what's that about?" I think, you know, having some compassion for myself and for anyone in that situation, what's true is that when the people we love most, who are closest to us, family members in particular, but also good friends, reveal something about themselves that is so outside of what we think we know about them, it threatens our own identity. And sometimes our immediate first reaction is to get so wrapped up in the threat to our own identity that we can't receive what they have to tell us. BLAIR HODGES: We might even think like, how could they not have told me? There's perhaps also a trust thing, too, not honoring the reasons why people come out when they do. I also think this sort of a cultural experience might become less common, right, the more acceptable it is, the more people are coming out. Some people don't even need to come out. They're growing up in a family or culture system where like, that's just the thing. But as long as there are people coming out, the ways that they're received, especially by the people that love them the most, matters the most, and you're vulnerable in the way you talk about your own missteps and things you wish you could have done differently. You straightforwardly tell us those reactions. Like when Evan comes out and says he's trans, like you just described it, you're kind of like, “Okay…” and coming to grips with that yourself and being able to talk about it, again, I think it speaks to the strength of your book. I want to remind people, the book is called The Family Outing, and we're talking to Jessi Hempel. She's host of an award-winning podcast called Hello Monday, and also a senior editor at large at LinkedIn. Her writing usually focuses on work and meaning in the digital age. And you might have seen her on CNN, PBS, MSNBC, or CNBC, talking about culture and business of technology. She graduated from Brown University, got a Master of Journalism from UC—Berkeley, lots of education, lots of experience, a lot of writing. And you've got this whole family background behind all that, too.   SEEKING A CURE FOR THE EMOTIONAL FLU (39:30)   BLAIR HODGES: One of my favorite scenes, by the way, was when you were talking about being on CNN at one point, and you just went blank in the mind at this point. I can't believe it. You talk about the dead air. And that was kind of a crisis point for you, right? What were you doing there?   JESSI HEMPEL: In my late twenties I was always very career-forward. And in my early adulthood, I just really wanted to be a business writer. I started writing and I got a job at Businessweek, and I became a TV commentator. And I learned, Blair, that you don't actually need to know very much about whatever they're asking you on TV to be pretty good at this job. All you have to do for the most part is master the art of the bridge. So whatever question you ask, no matter how hard it is, or how little I know about it, what I can say is, "Blair, it's so interesting, you would ask that, but what people really want to know about is—" whatever I want to talk about, and then I started talking, and the TV viewers never even really put it together if I'm confident enough. And this was my trick for actually talking about a lot of things I really didn't know much about in my twenties on television. BLAIR HODGES: Yeah, I would always call it “the pivot.” [laughter] JESSI HEMPEL: The pivot. But also during this period, I really hadn't dealt with a lot of the trauma that had happened in my family. And what would happen is that just every once in a while it would catch up with me. And I had a name for this, I think the modern-day version of it would be something like a panic attack, but I called it the emotional flu. And I would literally just check out for some period of time and be completely unable to manage. The way out of this, by the way, was therapy—a really great therapist that I saw weekly for nine years. But we're before that here. And this happened to me, this set of panic attacks that landed me in a place where I suddenly checked out, didn't show up for work for a day and didn't prepare for anything. And then I needed to go in to CNN, I was booked on CNN. So I put my makeup on and went into the studio, the car came and picked me up and brought me in, and they put me in the chair. And I kind of was like, I was so fragile. But I thought the question they were going to ask me was, “what did we do when we learned that the Olympics are,” wherever they were, I think I believed at the time that they were going to be in London. I was ready to talk about that. I had, like, one thing to say. And then it turned out that the Olympics were in Paris, and they asked me the question, you know, what do you think? What does it mean for Paris that the Olympics are going to be there and, Blair, I said, nothing. Just looked at the screen, panicked. And there's nothing more terrifying than silence, like, dead air on television. BLAIR HODGES: Yeah, everybody probably panicked right then. JESSI HEMPEL: Yeah, they made a little note in the book that said, “Don't book her again.” [laughter] It was probably four years before I went on CNN again. But that also was the moment when I realized if I didn't turn my attention to this, it was going to take something really important from my future. And so it was the reason why I think I finally got into therapy. BLAIR HODGES: And that made a profound difference for you. We also see you just trying to find meaning and connection, too. You got kind of wrapped up in these sort of personal improvement groups, people might be familiar with these like, I don't know, I won't say cult, some people would, but there are these groups you get involved with, and you have to pay money to do these levels of trainings. And so you're also trying to find connections, it seemed like, beyond your family, to just have your feet on the ground and also feel empowered yourself. We see you searching a lot. And that's another vulnerable part of the book, is where you talk about sort of getting connected to some of these self-improvement groups. JESSI HEMPEL: Yeah, I mean, I think the most notable group like this is Landmark, people may be familiar with it. The group I did was sort of a radical offshoot of Landmark. And what's true about these groups is they can be really problematic in the way they build, but they also contain really great learning. And for me—and I hope I conveyed this in the book—it was a little bit of both. In the end, I got so wrapped up in these that I needed somebody to step in and help me get out. But I also learned a lot about the idea that I could be responsible for my own happiness, and that I could make things happen for myself in my life. I took so much self-agency from this experience. And I'm grateful for that. BLAIR HODGES: It was nice to see you talk about the importance of “found family,” the people you connected with. There's a group, an organization called COLAGE—Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere—that you were connected to in some ways, but also that group can be kind of challenging, too, because you didn't necessarily see your own experience there. JESSI HEMPEL: That group is a great group that still exists and is a pretty wonderful resource for any child whose parents have come out. I stumbled upon it in my early twenties. It was wonderful to be part of a community of other people whose parents were also queer. The thing I found confusing at that point was that in those years I wasn't proud of my parents. Their marriage was coming apart. They were a mess. They were not in good shape. And I would be part of this group where a lot of the children in this group came from families more like the family I have gone on to create, where both parents were queer at the origination of the children, and they'd sort of grown up with queer parents. And it was hard to figure out how to be truthful about my own family in the smaller community, when also the public narrative I felt compelled to uphold was that gay families are great. We've got everything figured out, we raise good kids, because there's so much vitriol directed toward families with same-sex parents that I felt compelled to be defensive of them in public. Does that make sense? BLAIR HODGES: It certainly does. Your parents end up separating and your father has relationships—he finally kind of embraces that side of himself and meets a man to share his life with. And your mom gets into therapy and begins helping others. And then you came around to having kids through your connection to your partner, Francis. It didn't seem like something you were super excited to do throughout your life. But then through this partnership, you decided, "Oh, this could work for us." Do you think that's in part because you didn't have a lot of models to look at? Like, there weren't a lot of lesbian women obviously having kids. You didn't get to see families that look like that. So did you sort of just grow up thinking, "Well, I'm just not going to have that. It's just not really a thing”? JESSI HEMPEL: Yes, and I think it wasn't so much because I was gay that I thought, "Oh, I don't want to have children." But because I didn't trust myself to be a good parent because I did not feel I had been parented well. And I worried I would parent a child like I had been parented. And so rather than even creating the possibility that that might happen, I just moved right to "I don't want kids. I'm a person who doesn't want kids." And it wasn't until I had been in my relationship with my partner, Francis, for many years, that I came around, and even when she told me, "Hey, I'm ready to have kids," I still was like, "Oh, no, I guess we have to break up because I would be a horrible parent." And she had to really press me and say, "Well, are you saying you don't want kids?" And it was like, "No, I'm not saying I want them or don't want them. I'm saying I would be bad at it." And it caused a sort of crisis of my sense of self. I ended up writing to the woman who had really helped me in high school, the assistant principal of my high school. She'd known me since my youth. And I wrote to her and just basically said, do you think I can do this? Is this a really bad idea? And she was the one who wrote to me and said, "You don't have to be your history. You can be a new version of yourself. You have learned what you need to learn in life, and you can be good at this."   EVAN'S STORY (47:38)   BLAIR HODGES: I was also really moved by your brother Evan's story. There's a conversation you had with Evan at one point where he pointed out that your parents' secrets and your secrets were a little bit different. Evan was talking about how your parents' generation and your generation experience secrets differently. He said they are fundamentally different because your secrets aren't secret from yourselves. Like with your parents, they kind of had to keep it—especially your father—had to keep that from himself. For you all, it was more about keeping that secret just from your family. You actually kind of knew and were more ready to embrace it than the family was. And perhaps that's a different thing to experience. JESSI HEMPEL: Yeah, I think that's right. And I think what my brother was really trying to push me to think about was how this might impact our kids. Because, you know, when my brother and I had this conversation, we were both new parents. He had two little kids at home, and we had just had our second baby. And we were talking about what this might mean for our kids and what we hope for our kids. And he was saying, "Well, look, we've made it this far. But they're gonna have to do the work of figuring out what their secrets mean to them, and what their truths are. We can't do that work for them." BLAIR HODGES: And for Evan, I also enjoyed reading about his experience being pregnant and having children as a trans man. It's not terribly common. There aren't a lot of people who have written about it or spoken about it publicly. There's still plenty of prejudice and misunderstanding about trans folks today. So it was nice to see in your book an example of a trans man who went through that and gave birth to kids and wanted to have this family and has this family. So that's a story... I mean, your book obviously wasn't the Book of Evan, so you didn't get into it a ton. But I loved learning the little bit I learned about him. JESSI HEMPEL: I so appreciate that. And you know, the whole book owes itself to a story I wrote about my brother's pregnancy for Time Magazine, about his decision to get pregnant, what that experience was like for him carrying the baby, what the rest of the world thought as he did it. So if you're curious about it, also, if you Google my brother's name and the word "Time," I guarantee you it will be the first five things that pop up.   REGRETS, CHALLENGES, AND SURPRISES (49:47)   BLAIR HODGES: Perfect. I'll put a link to the show notes too, so people can check that out, and that'll fit well with some other episodes in the show as well. All right. That's Jessi Hempel, and we're talking about the book, The Family Outing: A Memoir. I wanted to conclude, Jessi, with regrets, challenges, and surprises. This is the part of the show where you get to talk about any of these things, or all three—something you regret or that you would change about the book now that it's out, what you would say was maybe the most challenging thing about writing it, or something that was revealed to you—a surprise you discovered along the way. JESSI HEMPEL: I love this question. And you know, Blair, I feel very complete in this book. I feel like it was the best story I could tell. The surprise, and the challenge, was in publishing. I thought once I sold the book, you know, I had the good fortune of selling this book before I wrote it, and then I had to go write it. And I thought, well, the hard part will be writing it. And then it will go out into the world, and I'll get to talk about it and that will be great. And in fact, I loved every day of writing it. It was the biggest gift of my life. And then it was published, and I found the process of publication very disorienting. And it's only now, about a year after publication, that I feel like I have my footing again and have a relationship with the book again. BLAIR HODGES: What do you think that vertigo came from? What happened? JESSI HEMPEL: Well, you know, the publishing industry is made up of people who dearly love books. And that is the best thing about it. But it's pretty broken. And so you know, even for me, my book came out from HarperCollins. It had an editor who loved it and was consistently the editor the whole way through. And it had a marketing team who were just spot on. But they had so many books to represent, and my book got a little sliver of attention, and then the attention meter moved on. And when it didn't become a bestseller in the first seven days it was out, the resources to promote it immediately went down. And it was hard not to take that personally because it was my family's story that was selling or not selling. And I managed that, Blair, proactively in advance by doing two things. One is I decided before I began that I never wanted to know the sales numbers, because writing this book for me was not about sales numbers. And so I don't even have the login to the portal that would tell me how well it sold. If you asked me, I could guess but like my guess and your guess would be about equivalent. I don't know. And that felt important. But then the most important thing I told myself then, and that has proven out now, is getting to have conversations like this. Individual people who respond to the book. Because the book is helpful. That's the point. But it's taken me a year to pull back enough from the process to connect deeply to that. BLAIR HODGES: That's hard. As you said, there's a lot of different pieces, not just the writing of it, but pitching it, selling it, going through the editing process, going through the promotional process. It's something we don't talk about often. I don't really dig into this part of it a lot in the interviews, but I think it's a really important aspect of what it's like to be vulnerable like you were in writing this book and navigating the emotions that it all brings. JESSI HEMPEL: Well, thank you, Blair. This was such a joy of an interview. I don't take it for granted when people really spend time with work, and I just appreciate it. So thank you. BLAIR HODGES: Thank you. It was such an easy book to spend that time with and I really strongly recommend it. I hope everybody checks this book out: The Family Outing by Jessi Hempel, and checks out your podcast as well: Hello, Monday. I'm glad you took the time to join us, Jessi. This has been really fun. JESSI HEMPEL: Take good care, Blair, I look forward to talking again sometime. BLAIR HODGES: There's much more to come on Family Proclamations. If you're enjoying the show, why not take a second to rate and review it? Go to Apple Podcasts and let me know your thoughts. And please just take a second to recommend the show to a friend. The more the merrier. Thanks to Mates of State for providing our theme song. Family Proclamations is part of the Dialogue Podcast Network. I'm Blair Hodges, and I'll see you next time. [END]   NOTE: Transcripts have been lightly edited for readability.

En su serie de historias de la medicina, Cancho narra la historia de las gemelas Hempel, que sufrieron una enfermedad rara y hereditaria llamada Niemann-Pick.

A wealthy man is poisoned in 1830s England, and there are many suspects, including several heirs. Would coffee grounds prove to be crucial evidence in a murder case that helped change forensics? Sandra Hempel in her book, The Inheritor's Powder, tells us the story of a determined chemist who shifted the outcome of a historic case. Buy my books: katewinklerdawson.com     If you have suggestions for historical crimes that could use some attention, email me: info@tenfoldmorewicked.com     Follow me on social: @tenfoldmore (Twitter) / @tenfoldmorewicked (Facebook and Instagram)      2023 All Rights ReservedSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Eliza Fenning worked as a cook in a London household until she found herself in the middle of a poisoning accusation. Her controversial trial brought the bias of the 19th-century British criminal justice system into focus.  Research: “Circumstantial Evidence.” The Abilene Gazette. June 23, 1876. https://www.newspapers.com/image/367010505/?terms=eliza%20fenning&match=1 Hempel, Sarah. “The Inheritor's Powder.”  W. W. Norton & Company. 2013. Hempel, Sarah. “Eliza Fenning: the case of the poisoned dumplings.” The Telegraph. June 17, 2013. https://web.archive.org/web/20130620172222/http://www.telegraph.co.uk/history/10117903/Eliza-Fenning-the-case-of-the-poisoned-dumplings.html Clarke, Kate. “Trial of Eliza Fenning.” Mango Books. May 2021. “Circumstantial evidence : The extraordinary case of Eliza Fenning, who was executed in 1815, for attempting to poison the family of Orlibar Turner, by mixing arsenic in yeast dumplings. With a statement of facts, since developed tending to prove her innocence of the crime.” https://iiif.wellcomecollection.org/pdf/b21051732 Watkins, John. “The important results of an elaborate investigation into the mysterious case of Elizabeth Fenning: being a detail of extraordinary facts discovered since her execution, including the official report of her singular trial, now first published, and copious notes thereon.” London. William Hone. 1815. Accessed online: https://iiif.wellcomecollection.org/pdf/b2840807x MARSHALL, TIM. “Not Forgotten: Eliza Fenning, ‘Frankenstein', and Victorian Chivalry.” Critical Survey, vol. 13, no. 2, 2001, pp. 98–114. JSTOR, http://www.jstor.org/stable/41557107 “The Story of Eliza Fenning.” The Wells Journal. August 8, 1857. https://www.newspapers.com/image/812381127/?terms=eliza%20fenning&match=1  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.