Podcasts about sensitive strivers

Hard work alone won't get you ahead—your success depends on how well you navigate workplace dynamics and communicate with decision-makers. That's where Managing Up comes in.In this episode of This Is My Silver Lining, I sit down with Melody Wilding, executive coach and bestselling author of Managing Up: How to Get What You Need from the People in Charge, to break down the essential skills for building better relationships with your boss, advocating for yourself, and taking control of your career—without stress or burnout.We also touch on Melody's previous book, Trust Yourself, which empowers Sensitive Strivers—high-achievers who feel deeply—to set boundaries, overcome self-doubt, and thrive at work.If you've ever felt overworked, overlooked, or unsure how to move forward in your career, this episode is packed with practical, actionable advice to help you take back your power.Episode Links and ResourcesMelody WildingMelody Wilding - LinkedInManaging Up:  How to Get What You Need From the People in ChargeTrust Yourself:  Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at WorkSupport this podcast by subscribing and reviewing.Music is considered “royalty-free” and discovered on Audio Blocks.Technical Podcast Support by: Jon Keur at Wayfare Recording Co.© 2025 Silver Linings Media LLC. All Rights Reserved.Support this podcast by subscribing and reviewing. Music is considered “royalty-free” and discovered on Audio Blocks. Technical Podcast Support by: Jon Keur at Wayfare Recording Co. © 2025 Silver Linings Media LLC. All Rights Reserved.

I'm excited to sit down with the incredible Melody Wilding. As the best-selling author of Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work, she's been recognized as one of Business Insider's Most Innovative Coaches for her work with Sensitive Strivers.With an impressive client list that includes CEOs and executives from Fortune 500 giants like Google and Amazon, Melody truly understands workplace dynamics. Her insights have been featured in The New York Times, Wall Street Journal, and beyond. Plus, she brings a wealth of experience as a licensed social worker and professor of Human Behavior at Hunter College.In our conversation, we dive into the unique strengths introverts can leverage, showing how sensitivity can become a powerful asset instead of a hindrance. Melody shares invaluable advice on managing emotions, setting boundaries, and advocating for yourself authentically. Plus, she gives us an exclusive sneak peek into her upcoming book, Managing Up: How to Get What You Need From the People In Charge.If you want to navigate your career in an introvert-friendly way, this episode is packed with subtle yet powerful strategies to help you shine while staying true to yourself.Tune in now and share with a fellow introvert or sensitive striver who needs to hear this!Melody Wilding (Guest):Follow Melody on LinkedIn & InstagramPre-order Melody's NEW book: Managing Up: How to Get What You Need from the People in ChargeHannah Šoša (Host):Awfully Quiet PodcastSubtle Careers

In our episode 177 we covered the book, Worthy by Jamie Kern Lima. I'd mentioned my interest in a distinction she covered: Toxic Positivity. When I saw that part in her book I had visions of the Disney Pixar film Inside Out (2015) which did a fantastic job illustrating the dangers of being so over-positive that it can be damaging. I could totally relate to the character! Can you? Topics Covered: Defining “toxic positivity” Signs and problems with “toxic positivity” Melody Wilding's Sensitive Strivers and positivity Gabby Bernsten's view on “manic manifesting” Research findings   Here are 3 takeaways:   1.   “Toxic Positivity” is common and often a response to some underlying beliefs. 2.    Thinking positive 24/7 can be stressful and deny our humanity. 3.    Accepting our full range of emotions benefits us and some ways to do this include practices like mindful meditation and learning to take other perspectives. Mentioned in the Episode:   Ep. 177, Worthy: Self-Confidence, Self-Worth, and Insights from Jamie Kern Lima's Book https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/GZYYyKutwLb   Ep. 179, Trauma, Control, and the Journey to Vulnerability, Trust – Insights from Gabor Maté, Daniel Goleman, Brené Brown. https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/HZPBY7uQELb   https://melodywilding.com/positive-thinking-doesnt-work/ Ep. 82, Book discussion: Trust Yourself, Stop Overthinking and channel Your Emotions for Success at Work by Melody Wilding https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/02oDM21lyLb https://content.mycareersfuture.gov.sg/toxic-positivity-being-too-positive-causes-more-harm/   Ep. 80, Book discussion: Emotional Agility by Susan David PhD with Help From the Velveteen Rabbit https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/uHvgcP8lyLb   Ep. 41, A Discussion about Mindfulness with Cynde Denson and the book, Ditching Imposter Syndrome by Clare Josa https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/kaIC5JamyLb   Byron Katie The Work https://thework.com/   Ep. 38, Ugh…Let's take on the Emotion of Envy with Byron Katie's Help – Brené Brown would be proud! https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/QTiCFEiQELb   Meditation Resources   Cynde Denson https://cyndedenson.com/ Whitney Baker FREE 5-Min Guided Meditation https://icy-queen-56311.myflodesk.com   Mesha McKittrick https://myfriendmesha.com    Melissa Brunetti SMGI https://www.somatichealingjourneys.com/     Next Episode Topic Ep. 181 Embracing Vulnerability and Courage: Crafting New Identities with Creativity and Care – Let's Toot Our Own Horn!   How to reach Yo Canny:    Our website: www.girltaketheleadpod.com  You can send a message or voicemail there. We'd love to hear from you!   email: yo@yocanny.com   FB group: Girl, Take the Lead https://www.facebook.com/groups/272025931481748/?ref=share   IG: yocanny (Yo)   YouTube   LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/yocanny/

Do you feel overwhelmed and underappreciated at work?  In this episode, I talk with Melody Wilding, LMSW about trusting yourself at work and: • Balancing the strengths and liabilities of being what Melody calls a “Sensitive Striver”  • Trusting your intuition as a valuable source of information  • The key to speaking up in meetings starts by building relationships and taking care of your nervous system before the meeting  • Living with an honor roll hangover from your school days and how that could be contributing to burnout as an adult in the workplace  • Why overperforming and perfectionism often harm your chances of advancement at work • Strategies for setting boundaries at work and what to say when you've overcommitted  • Creating a “me manual” to help you communicate how you work best while establishing reciprocal relationships with your supervisors Melody is the best-selling author of Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work. Named one of Business Insider's Most Innovative Coaches for her groundbreaking work on “Sensitive Strivers,” her clients include CEOs, C-level executives, and managers at top Fortune 500 companies such as Google, Amazon, and JP Morgan, among others. Melody has been featured in The New York Times and Wall Street Journal and is a contributor to Harvard Business Review, Fast Company, Psychology Today, and Forbes. Melody is a licensed social worker with a masters from Columbia University and a professor of Human Behavior at Hunter College.  Keep in touch with Melody: • Website: https://melodywilding.com/  • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melodywilding/  • LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melodywilding/  • Facebook Community: https://melodywilding.com/community  Resources Mentioned: • Get a free chapter from Melody's book, Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work, here: https://melodywilding.com/chapter  • Trust Yourself Book by Melody Wilding: https://bookshop.org/a/63892/9781797201962Thanks for listening! You can read the full show notes and sign up for my email list to get new episode announcements and other resources at: https://www.sensitivestories.comYou can also follow "SensitiveStrengths" for behind-the-scenes content plus more educational and inspirational HSP resources: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sensitivestrengths TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sensitivestrengths Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@sensitivestrengths If you have a moment, please rate and review the podcast, it helps Sensitive Stories reach more HSPs! This episode is for educational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment with a mental health or medical professional. Some links are affiliate links. You are under no obligation to purchase any book, product or service. I am not responsible for the quality or satisfaction of any purchase.

Welcome to another exciting episode of Lessons from a Quitter. I'm thrilled to have you tuning in today because we've got a special guest, Melody Wilding, joining us. Melody, a licensed social worker and professor at Hunter College, dives deep into the world of Sensitive Strivers–individuals who feel things intensely, often grappling with criticism, the need for validation, and more. Melody shows us how these qualities can be superpowers, not weaknesses. Listen for her insights on leveraging our sensitivity and overachieving nature to thrive in the corporate world and banish imposter syndrome along the way.  To learn more about Melody's work and read her book, you can visit: www.melodywilding.com/book

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 Reserve a spot for The American Negotiation Institute's NYC workshop with Kwame Christian in a $27M luxury residence. https://www.eventbrite.com/e/negotiate-anything-how-to-get-the-best-deal-in-your-next-negotiation-registration-692511178577?aff=oddtdtcreator Request A Customized Workshop For Your Company: https://www.americannegotiationinstitute.com/services/workshops/ In this episode, Melody Wilding, Executive & Leadership Coach to Sensitive Strivers, Author of TRUST YOURSELF, Keynote Speaker, Imposter Syndrome Expert, and Contributor to Harvard Business Review discusses the STRIVE qualities, tips for overcoming... Melody's Website https://melodywilding.com/what-is-a-sensitive-striver/ Trust Yourself Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work Book https://www.amazon.com/Trust-Yourself-Overthinking-Channel-Emotions/dp/1797201964 Follow Melody on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/melodywilding/ Contact ANI Request A Customized Workshop For Your Company: https://www.americannegotiationinstitute.com/services/workshops/ Follow Kwame Christian on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kwamechristian/ The Ultimate Negotiation Guide: https://www.americannegotiationinstitute.com/guides/ultimate-negotiation-guide/ Click here to buy your copy of How To Have Difficult Conversations About Race!: https://www.amazon.com/Have-Difficult-Conversations-About-Race/dp/1637741308/ref=pd_%5B%E2%80%A6%5Df0bc9774-7975-448b-bde1-094cab455adb&pd_rd_i=1637741308&psc=1 Click here to buy your copy of Finding Confidence in Conflict: How to Negotiate Anything and Live Your Best Life!: https://www.amazon.com/Finding-Confidence-Conflict-Negotiate-Anything/dp/0578413736/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2PSW69L6ABTK&keywords=finding+confidence+in+conflict&qid=1667317257&qu=eyJxc2MiOiIwLjQyIiwicXNhIjoiMC4xNCIsInFzcCI6IjAuMjMifQ%3D%3D&sprefix=finding+confidence+in+conflic%2Caps%2C69&sr=8-1

Welcome to this empowering episode where we talk with Melody Wilding about the transformative journey of building self-trust, setting boundaries, and finding balance in life.In this episode, we highlight the significance of starting small and keeping promises to oneself, along with the power of celebrating small wins and broadening the definition of success. We also explore the importance of using emotions as signals for necessary actions. With valuable insights and practical strategies, this episode will inspire you to prioritize your well-being, cultivate self-trust, and create a life that aligns with your values and aspirations. Get ready to unlock your potential and thrive.About Melody:Melody Wilding is the best-selling author of Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work. Named one of Business Insider's Most Innovative Coaches for her groundbreaking work on “Sensitive Strivers”, her clients include CEOs, C-level executives, and managers at top Fortune 500 companies such as Google, Amazon, and JP Morgan, among others. Key Take Aways:Making small promises to yourself and keeping commitments to yourself and prioritizing your own needs.Practicing self-compassion and forgiveness when things don't go as planned. Letting go of perfectionism and learning to forgive yourself for any perceived failures or shortcomings!Prioritizing meaningful experiences and moments in your life over work and embracing the present to make space for memorable experiences that bring joy and fulfillment.Understanding how your strengths serve you when balanced and used appropriately.Resources Mentioned:Website - https://melodywilding.comLinkedIn - https://linkedin.com/in/melodywilding Instagram - https://instagram.com/melodywildingBook Recommendations:Nonviolent CommunicationTrust Yourself Get Your Copy of my NEW BOOK - LeadHership Reloaded (Special Rate applied for listeners of the show)Work With Me: Complimentary DiscoveryMy Gifts To You: FREE ResourcesConnect With Your Peers: Get on the waitlist to be notified when doors reopen to SheLeads Network

Do you see yourself as a high achiever and who happens to be really sensitive to things? If so, this is the episode for you! We dig into Melody Wilding's book, Trust Yourself, Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions at Work. She uses the term “Sensitive Strivers” for those of us that are high achieving sensitives and it describes Yo to a T. We'll explore when our sensitive traits can be a liability and also what it means to overthink things. Enjoy the listen. Here are the episode take-aways: 1. STRIVE (sensitivity, thoughtfulness, responsibility, inner-drive, emotionality) taken to an extreme can be a liability. 2. The best way to address overthinking is by naming and reframing. 4. Being a sensitive striver can be a real competitive advantage. As mentioned in the episode: Trust Yourself by Melody Wilding, LMSW Melody Wilding Free Quiz Ep. 48, Name, Claim, Reframe with Andrea Mein DeWitt Ep. 41, Imposter Syndrome Discussion with Cynde Denson Ways to reach Yo: eMail  yo@yocanny.com  Public FB group: Girl, Take the Lead! https://www.facebook.com/groups/272025931481748/?ref=share Linktr.ee/yocanny IG: https://www.instagram.com/yocannyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/yocanny/

Are you looking to grow awareness of brand through media exposure and increase your brand recognition? My guest, Melody Wilding, is an Executive Coach and Leadership Coach, and owner of her own business helping CEOs, C-level executives, and managers at top Fortune 500 companies. Melody is the best-selling author of Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work. She has been named one of Business Insider's Most Innovative Coaches for her groundbreaking work on “Sensitive Strivers”. She has worked with some big names including Google, Amazon, and JP Morgan, and has been featured in The New York Times, Business Insider, Wall Street Journal and Forbes.   In this week's episode you'll learn: What HARO is and how to use it to grow your business How to overcome impostor syndrome How to connect with journalists and grow your PR exposure through awareness of brand   Check out the episode now! And subscribe to get more episodes like this one!

Melody Wilding is the best-selling author of Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work. Named one of Business Insider's Most Innovative Coaches for her groundbreaking work on “Sensitive Strivers”, her clients include CEOs, C-level executives, and managers at top Fortune 500 companies such as Google, Amazon, and JP Morgan, among others. Melody has been featured in The New York Times and Wall Street Journal and is a contributor to Harvard Business Review, Fast Company, Psychology Today, and Forbes. Melody is a licensed social worker with a masters from Columbia University and a professor of Human Behavior at Hunter College. Learn more at melodywilding.com

Are you more perceptive of your environment and the people around you, tending to notice subtleties and details that other people miss? And are you driven to achieve, not necessarily because you want to climb to the top of the ladder & make all the money, but because you have a deep yearning to constantly be better? To learn more? To grow? If so, you might be what this week's guest Melody Wilding calls a “Sensitive Striver®”. Unfortunately, being someone who feels so deeply and is so sensitive to the world can often leave you feeling depleted if you don't have self-protective mechanisms in place to keep you safe. The good news? Sensitivity – the thing you likely have perceived as a weakness your entire life – can actually be YOUR GREATEST STRENGTH. Today on The Bridge to Fulfillment, Blake welcomes Melody Wilding, the best-selling author of Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work. Recently named one of Business Insider's “Most Innovative Coaches” for her groundbreaking work on “Sensitive Strivers,” her clients include CEOs, C-level executives, and managers at top Fortune 500 companies such as Google, Amazon, and JP Morgan, among others.  In this episode, you'll learn how to harness your sensitivity as a superpower, using your finely tuned emotions to achieve more success in the workplace. You'll hear about the patterns that “sensitive strivers” tend to experience and why those experiences ultimately lead to breakdown moments.  Are you ready to learn how to allow your emotions to work for you? Rather than accepting things that don't feel good, your emotions can help guide you toward a future that's better aligned with your values.   What You'll Learn: The familiar emotional patterns of career women trying to do it all (2:51)
 Recognizing the power you have to create change (8:56)
 What it means to be a “Sensitive Striver” (12:45)
 What to do if early conditioning is negatively impacting your career (18:33)
 Harnessing emotion as your superpower (24:58)
 Favorite Quotes: I still am constantly working on trying to relax trying to enjoy my downtime, just because I've been so conditioned that that is not okay that I'm not doing enough. And it's been a lot of unlearning to realize that that is exactly what I need to do to take care of myself. –Melody Wilding
 I think it's a really important thing for people to understand is that very few things in your life are unchangeable. –Blake
 As strivers or high achievers, we struggle to give ourselves grace, and it's the very thing that will enable us to be even more successful. –Blake
 Resentment is a very strong emotional signal that you have overextended yourself. You have agreed to something that is no longer aligned with your values or your energy. –Melody Wilding
 Sensitivity, when leveraged, can be your biggest superpower.  –Melody Wilding
 Additional Resources:  Connect with Melody: Website: melodywilding.comFree chapter from her book, Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work: https://melodywilding.com/chapter -------------------- Rather than hoping the grass will be greener, identify what the RIGHT next step is.  We can help you do just that.  Get clarity on where you are on your journey to career fulfillment, where you're headed, optional paths to get there, and the right next step to take. Start your complimentary, Personalized Career Fulfillment Plan by going to www.thebridgetofulfillment.com/plan Want free resources to set your job search up for success? You can get them by going to: http://www.thebridgetofulfillment.com/mistakes

William Corless is joined by author Melody Wilding in this episode about how to channel your emotions for success at work.     Melody Wilding is the best-selling author of Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work. Named one of Business Insider's Most Innovative Coaches for her ground-breaking work on “Sensitive Strivers”, her clients include CEOs, C-level executives, and managers at top Fortune 500 companies such as Google, Amazon, and JP Morgan. Melody has been featured in The New York Times and Wall Street Journal and is a contributor to Harvard Business Review, Fast Company, Psychology Today, and Forbes. Melody is a licensed social worker with a masters from Columbia University and a professor of Human Behaviour at Hunter College. Listeners will gain many valuable insights from this episode as William and Melody chat through her book and discuss important topics such as:   ➢ Setting boundaries ➢ The neuroscience behind high sensitivity ➢ The meaning of true confidence     Learn more about the work Melody does at melodywilding.com

You've most likely heard of “imposter syndrome” and perhaps you've experienced it yourself. If so, you're not alone! I hear from women we work with that they sometimes suffer from imposter syndrome, especially as they think about putting themselves out there in a bigger way. You're going to learn a lot in my conversation with Melody Wilding, who has an impressive background as a best-selling author, a contributor to places like Harvard Business Review, and a LinkedIn Learning instructor.  Melody and I talk about: What imposter syndrome is The various ways it can show up (one of these surprised me) How imposter syndrome has shown up for both of us Specific techniques we can use to lessen it How Melody was selected to be a LinkedIn Learning instructor and her tips for creating engaging video content About My Guest: Melody Wilding is the best-selling author of Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work. Recently named one of Business Insider's Most Innovative Coaches for her groundbreaking work on “Sensitive Strivers”, her clients include CEOs, C-level executives, and managers at top Fortune 500 companies such as Google, Amazon, and JP Morgan, among others. Melody has been featured in The New York Times and Wall Street Journal and is a contributor to Harvard Business Review, Fast Company, Psychology Today, and Forbes. Melody is a licensed social worker with a masters from Columbia University and a professor of Human Behavior at Hunter College. Learn more at melodywilding.com About Us: The Speaking Your Brand podcast is hosted by Carol Cox. At Speaking Your Brand, we help women entrepreneurs and professionals clarify their brand message and story, create their signature talks, and develop their thought leadership platforms. Our mission is to get more women in positions of influence and power because it's through women's stories, voices, and visibility that we challenge the status quo and change existing systems. Check out our coaching programs at https://www.speakingyourbrand.com.  Links: Show notes at https://www.speakingyourbrand.com/301 Melody's website: https://melodywilding.com/ Melody's LinkedIn Learning courses: https://melodywilding.com/courses/  Discover your Speaker Archetype by taking our free quiz: https://www.speakingyourbrand.com/quiz/  Join our Thought Leader Academy: https://www.speakingyourbrand.com/academy/    Connect on LinkedIn: Carol = https://www.linkedin.com/in/carolcox Melody (guest) =  https://www.linkedin.com/in/melodywilding/ Related Podcast Episodes: Episode 298: Women in STEM Panel: Ways to Use Your Voice and Build Thought Leadership Episode 289: Less Free, More Paid: How to Increase Your Speaker Fees with Carol Cox Episode 260: Self-Doubt Happens: Here's What I Do with Carol Cox  

Melody Wilding is an executive coach for Sensitive Strivers - smart, sensitive high-achievers who are tired of getting in their own way. Melody is a Sensitive Striver herself, a licensed social worker, professor of Human Behavior and a contributor to Harvard Business Review, Forbes, and Business Insider. She's also the author of Trust Yourself, described by Susan Cain as “essential reading for every introverted, sensitive professional”. Listen in is as Melody and Traci take us on a tour of what it means to be a Sensitive Striver, the constellation of challenges facing sensitive people, and how the characteristics of Sensitive Strivers make them the leaders of the future.   Episode Timeline [00:09] Intro  [2:20] Melody shares the personal and clinical experiences that led her to the work she does now, including her experience of extreme burnout [9:32] The constellation of challenges Melody sees facing sensitive, Type A people [13:22] Melody's wake-up call moment [16:42] The Honorable Hangover (a form of achievement addiction) [19:30] The 3 characteristics of the Honorable Hangover (perfectionism, people-pleasing and over-functioning) [24:43] The mindset shift needed for success as a Sensitive Striver [27:27] Melody's own experiences of being a Sensitive Striver [29:53] Creating intuitive flow (and leaving behind “butt in chair” time) [30:31] Why Sensitive Strivers need processing space and time [31:00] Behind the scenes of Melody's book-writing process [33:14] How Sensitive Strivers are perfectly placed for leadership and the future demands of workplaces [35:12] Is Sensitive Striving a Millennial thing?  [39:22] Melody's message to you, if you're a Sensitive Striver [39:50] Closing [41:10] Outro   Resources Mentioned Trust Yourself - Stop Overthinking and Channel Emotions for success at work (You can download a free chapter of Melody's book)     Standout Quotes “I was working with very high achieving, career-driven people and saw this constellation of challenges imposter syndrome, self-doubt, the people pleasing, perfectionism, over-functioning, and really came to see that it fell into two patterns. It fell into a profound sensitivity towards the world, as well as this striving side, this high achiever, pushing, want to be the best and grow yourself sort of side.” (Melody) “The Honor Roll Hangover is usually one of the biggest blockers to trusting yourself and to really becoming a more empowered, balanced, sensitive driver. And with it, some signs of it. You are fixated on goal setting. You set a lot of goals, you enjoy hitting them. But if you don't have something that you're moving towards, you feel like you're worthless, you're never doing enough.” (Melody) “So that's what I would offer people is to think about how you might see those three elements of the honor roll hangover, perfectionism, people pleasing, over functioning coming up in your life. Because really being able to shake that to put in its place is really key to moving on and getting the best out of your qualities as a sensitive driver.” (Melody) “And so the work isn't “butt in chair” time. It's the time that we create so that we can be more intuitive.” (Traci) “(Sensitive Strivers are…) highly empathetic, and that is classic because we need processing time. We need processing space and time. And neurologically speaking, we're wired differently. If you look at research on the highly sensitive brain, we have more activation in areas related to mental processing. So our brains make novel connections. We see nuances, we spot opportunities that other people miss. We synthesize and are able to take in and process complex information more deeply, which is why on your run you're having those great insights.” (Melody) “30% of the population that has this genetic trait difference that leads to a highly attuned nervous system, which is basically all sensitivity is.” (Melody) “you are not crazy for being so affected by everything around you. The fact that you are doing this work, that you are receptive and perceptive and empathetic to other people's needs is your superpower and find other ways to lean into that fully and let that be your greatest strength because it's a gift to yourself and a gift to the world.” (Melody)   Connect: Find | Sidewalk Talk  At sidewalk-talk.org On Instagram: @sidewalktalkorg On Twitter: @sidewalktalkorg   Find | Traci Ruble At Traciruble.com On Instagram: @TraciRubleMFT On Twitter: @TraciRubleMFT On Facebook: @TraciRubleMFT   Find | Melody Wilding At https://melodywilding.com/  On Medium  On Instagram: @melodywilding       SUBSCRIBE TO THIS PODCAST On Apple Podcasts On Google Podcasts On Spotify On YouTube  

In this Better@Work episode we explore with Melody Wilding how some of us sense and feel more than our colleagues at work and this can actually be a superpower instead of a liability. Being a driven but sensitive individual is an interesting mix. You have all the desire for high achievement and go-getting but can also overthink everything, which slows you down. This overthinking can lead to putting too much pressure on yourself, experiencing imposter syndrome, having trouble “turning off” at the end of the day, overworking, and on your way to burnout. Building on the work of Dr. Elaine Aron around highly sensitive people (HSPs), Melody shares how Sensitive Strivers are high-achievers who are also biologically and genetically different in being more sensitive to emotions and the world around them, because they process information more deeply than others, are often more susceptible to stress, emotional overwhelm, and overthinking. The good news is that sensitivity, combined with a strong desire to be the best version of ourselves, can make Sensitive Strivers powerhouse performers. Melody's research found managers consistently rate people with higher sensitivity as their top contributors. The key is learning to manage your mind and emotional responses in more productive ways. Melody is a Human Behaviour Professor, Executive coach and Author of “Trust Yourself, Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work”, who was recently named one of Business Insiders Most Innovative Coaches. This episode with Melody is insightful and informative in understanding sensitivity, how to harness it and also protect and channel your deep empathy into opportunities. Melody makes this super actionable and practical, and it was a true joy to have this conversation with her.   Quick episode breakdown: We learn one in five people are sensitive strivers, how they are highly empathetic and emotionally intelligent and how to identify if you, a friend or a colleague have this super power We discuss how Melody's personal experience of severe burnout inspired her work and research Melody talks us through how we can stop taking work so personally, diversifying your identity for your own psychological safety We outline how to detox ourselves from “Honour Roll Hangover” of Perfectionism, People Pleasing and Over-functioning Melody explains the biological trait of sensitivity, the link to socialisation and imposter syndrome We unpack the guidance on how to counter sensitivity by taking action to build confidence, along with work-place people pleaser solutions of process and structure, strategic silence, celebrating small successes and not putting off life for work that can wait until tomorrow.   Let's Take This offline In our “Let's take this offline” segment I debrief on Melody's key insights with my friend Annette and answer a question from our listener Karina, who is struggling with a passive aggressive team member.   Get in touch: Cathal@betteratwork.com.au or betteratwork.com.au Get in touch on Instagram: @betteratwork_ Get in touch on LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/cathal-quinlan/ Send us a question or leave us a voicemail: betteratwork.com.au/contact-us/   About Melody Learn more about Melody on her website melodywilding.com/about/ Her book, Trust Yourself, Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work melodywilding.com/book/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Join me and Melody Wilding, the author of Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work, to talk about her beautiful daily habit of Walking. Learn how this habit has lead to her own balance and success, and how it can help you, too! Melody was recently named one of Business Insider's Most Innovative Coaches for her groundbreaking work on “Sensitive Strivers”, her clients include CEOs, C-level executives, and managers at top Fortune 500 companies such as Google, Amazon, and JP Morgan, among others. Melody has been featured in The New York Times and Wall Street Journal and is a contributor to Harvard Business Review, Fast Company, Psychology Today, and Forbes. Melody is a licensed social worker with a masters from Columbia University and a professor of Human Behavior at Hunter College. Learn more at melodywilding.com

Join me and Melody Wilding, the author of Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work, to talk about her beautiful daily habit of Walking. Learn how this habit has lead to her own balance and success, and how it can help you, too! Melody was recently named one of Business Insider's Most Innovative Coaches for her groundbreaking work on “Sensitive Strivers”, her clients include CEOs, C-level executives, and managers at top Fortune 500 companies such as Google, Amazon, and JP Morgan, among others. Melody has been featured in The New York Times and Wall Street Journal and is a contributor to Harvard Business Review, Fast Company, Psychology Today, and Forbes. Melody is a licensed social worker with a masters from Columbia University and a professor of Human Behavior at Hunter College. Learn more at melodywilding.com

In this episode, Melody Wilding, Executive & Leadership Coach to Sensitive Strivers, Author of TRUST YOURSELF, Keynote Speaker, Imposter Syndrome Expert, and Contributor to Harvard Business Review discusses the STRIVE qualities, tips for overcoming overthinking, and ways to speak up and be more assertive as someone who is sensitive. Request a Custom Workshop For Your Company Get Free Access to Over 15 Negotiation Guides Melody's Website Trust Yourself Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work Book Follow Melody on LinkedIn Follow Kwame on LinkedIn If you've been a listener of the show and you've gotten a lot out of our programming, you can click here to Support Negotiate Anything. Kwame Christian with Melody Wilding

As far back as she can recall, Melody Wilding remembers feeling different. She was always very observant and tuned into her environment, feeling affected by all the stimuli around her while other kids seemed unfazed by most of it. Melody was an excellent student all the way through to college where she was valedictorian of her class, yet she still felt disconnected most of the time. As a corporate working professional, she pushed herself so hard that in her late 20s she experienced a serious period of burnout. As Melody took the time to recover, she began writing, discovering more about herself and how she could help others who had similar struggles.  Today, she is an author, speaker, and coach who helps her clients to deal with their inner critics, overthinking, and impostor syndrome so that they can enjoy life more. Personally and professionally, I am a big fan of her book, Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work. Melody was recently named one of Business Insider's Most Innovative Coaches for her groundbreaking work on “Sensitive Strivers”. Melody is a licensed social worker with a Masters's from Columbia University and a professor of Human Behavior at Hunter College. In this week's Work From The Inside Out podcast, learn more about Melody's journey:   Melody has been featured in The New York Times and Wall Street Journal and is a contributor to Harvard Business Review, Fast Company, Psychology Today, and Forbes.    Her clients include CEOs, C-level executives, and managers at top Fortune 500 companies such as Google, Amazon, and JP Morgan, among others. Learn more and connect with Melody here: https://www.facebook.com/melodywildinglmsw https://www.linkedin.com/in/melodywilding/ https://www.facebook.com/melodyjwilding https://twitter.com/melodywilding.com https://melodywilding.com My book: https://melodywilding.com/book

In this episode, Melody Wilding, Executive & Leadership Coach to Sensitive Strivers, Author of TRUST YOURSELF, Keynote Speaker, Imposter Syndrome Expert, and Contributor to Harvard Business Review discusses the STRIVE qualities, tips for overcoming overthinking, and ways to speak up and be more assertive as someone who is sensitive.Request a Custom Workshop For Your CompanyGet Free Access to Over 15 Negotiation GuidesMelody's WebsiteTrust Yourself Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work BookFollow Melody on LinkedInFollow Kwame on LinkedInIf you've been a listener of the show and you've gotten a lot out of our programming, you can click here to Support Negotiate Anything.Kwame Christian with Melody Wilding Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/negotiate-anything. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Do you struggle with making progress or being ambitious when you're overwhelmed?  Tired of getting in your own way?  Today on the Club Capital Leadership Podcast, Melody Wilding joins us to share powerful tools from her new book, “Trust Yourself.” Melody is a therapist turned executive & leadership coach to Sensitive Strivers.  This term applies to top performers who also think and feel everything more deeply. She was named one of Business Insider's "Most Innovative Coaches."  Her workplace advice has been featured in The New York Times, Oprah Magazine, NBC News, and more. I'm a professor of Human Behavior and a contributor to Harvard Business Review, Fast Company, Forbes, and Business Insider. Her new book covers topics such as overthinking, people pleasing, trusting your gut, boundaries, overwhelm, and imposter syndrome. In the podcast, she shares more about types of overthinking, rumination, obsession over future, and analysis paralysis.  Melody employs a technique to avoid overthinking that uses constraints.  For example, when planning a wedding, cap yourself to getting quotes from five planners.  This will keep you from getting lost in too many options and variables. She also provides some techniques on making decisions when overwhelmed with emotions.  The first step is to not make it emotion-based.  Instead, start with calming your body through a breathing exercise.  Then, make sure you give yourself physical space.  This could look like sleeping on it, taking the weekend, before making the decision, etc. Finally, she discussed how to have boundaries with your team.  The biggest way to see where you may need different boundaries is to assess where you may feel resentment toward your team or clients.  Once you identify that, begin considering how you can establish different boundaries. You can learn more about Melody Wilding when you visit her website,  https://melodywilding.com (https://melodywilding.com).  You can also find her new book, “Trust Yourself,” at https://melodywilding.com/book (https://melodywilding.com/book).

Do you consider yourself a sensitive person? Do you feel everything very deeply? Do you find criticism, feedback, and conflict very difficult? Learn how you can master your emotions and deal with your sensitivity as I chat with Melody Wilding, author of Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work. We talk about how Sensitive Strivers® can manage their mental health and achieve success in life and in the workplace.   “Managing your emotions needs to start through managing your physiology so that you can manage your psychology.” - Melody Wilding “Trusting yourself really comes down to believing in your own resourcefulness and resilience.” - Melody Wilding What You Will Learn From This Episode Who may be considered as Sensitive Strivers® - are you one of them? How being a Sensitive Striver® affects your mental health and money Grounding techniques you can use if you're feeling hijacked by your emotions How to deal with constructive feedback especially at work The 4 types of overthinking and how to move away from it What is a ‘brag file' and how it can help with imposter syndrome The connection between being a Sensitive Striver® and anxiety How to trust yourself more and avoid jumping to conclusions and/or catastrophizing How Sensitive Strivers® can be successful in the workplace About Melody Wilding: Melody Wilding is the author of Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work. Recently named one of Business Insider's Most Innovative Coaches for her groundbreaking work on “Sensitive Strivers”, her clients include CEOs, C-level executives, and managers at top Fortune 500 companies such as Google, Amazon, and JP Morgan, among others. She has been featured in The New York Times and Wall Street Journal and is a contributor to Harvard Business Review, Fast Company, Psychology Today, and Forbes. Melody is a licensed social worker with a master's from Columbia University and a professor of Human Behavior at Hunter College. Resources: Resources include affiliate links which support the website and podcast. Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work by Melody Wilding Connect with Melody melodywilding.com Instagram Twitter Connect with Melanie mentalhealthandwealth.com melanielockert.com Instagram Contact: mentalhealthandwealthshow@gmail.com   Want more content and support? Sign up for the Mental Hump Newsletter and get our free Mental Health and Money inventory worksheet. You can sign up at MentalHealthandWealth.com. If you'd like to support the podcast, you can do so here: https://ko-fi.com/melanielockert Follow us on Apple Podcast or Libsyn! Love the podcast? Leave a review on iTunes!

In this episode of the Impostor Syndrome Files, my special guest, Melody Wilding, shares insights and strategies for “Sensitive Strivers.” Melody coined this term to describe high-achievers with high levels of sensitivity to their own and others' emotions. In this discussion, we explore a variety of powerful topics, such as regulating emotions, listening to our intuition and setting boundaries in order to manage Impostor Syndrome and build our confidence.To join the free Impostor Syndrome Challenge, visit:https://yourcareersuccess.com/impostor-syndrome-challenge/To learn more about the Leading Women discussion group, visit:https://yourcareersuccess.com/leading-women-discussion-group/To schedule time to speak with me directly about your questions/challenges, visit:https://yourcareersuccess.com/contact/About My GuestMelody Wilding is the author of TRUST YOURSELF: STOP OVERTHINKING AND CHANNEL YOUR EMOTIONS FOR SUCCESS AT WORK. Recently named one of Business Insider's Most Innovative Coaches for her groundbreaking work on “Sensitive Strivers”, her clients include CEOs, C-level executives, and managers at top Fortune 500 companies such as Google, Amazon, and JP Morgan, among others. Melody has been featured in The New York Times and Wall Street Journal and is a contributor to Harvard Business Review, Fast Company, Psychology Today, and Forbes. Melody is a licensed social worker with a master's from Columbia University and a professor of Human Behavior at Hunter College. Learn more at melodywilding.comBook: https://melodywilding.com/book Free Quiz: https://melodywilding.com/quiz

Welcome to the #SPAITGIRL Talk Show with Yvette Le Blowitz EP.135 - Trust Yourself with Melody Wilding, Executive Coach, Author  Melody Wilding is an executive and leadership coach for smart, sensitive high-achievers who are tired of getting in their own way. Through her coaching programs, talks, small-group workshops, and articles, she's here to help you break free from self-doubt and overwhelm, master your emotions and use your sensitivity as the superpower that it is. Recently named one of Business Insider's "Most Innovative Coaches", Melody coined the groundbreaking idea of  "sensitive striving". She has helped CEOs, Fortune 500 executives to top performers at the world's most successful companies including Google, Facebook, JP Morgan, Verizon, and more. Her work has been featured in The New York Times, The Oprah Magazine, NBC News and dozens of other high-profile publications. Melody Wilding is a Sensitive Striver herself, a licensed social worker with a Masters Degree from Columbia University, and a former researcher at Rutgers University. She is a professor of Human Behaviour at Hunter College and is a contributor to Harvard Business Review, Forbes and Business Insider. As an Executive Coach she helps Sensitive Strivers to break free from imposter syndrome and overthinking so they can find the confidence to lead effectively. After working with her coaching clients she discovered that many others struggle with problems like overthinking, emotional reactivity, perfectionism and poor boundaries to name a few. Now a decade later Melody Wilding has helped thousands of sensitive high-achievers to get out of their own way, master their sensitivity and discover ways to enjoy success however they define it without self-doubt, stress and emotional overwhelm. Melody Wilding, LMSW is the Author of Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work.  In this groundbreaking book, she draws on decades of research and client work to examine the intersection of sensitivity and achievement in the workplace and offer neuroscience-based strategies that you can use to reclaim control of your life and reach your full potential. Trust Yourself offers concrete steps to help you break free from stress, perfectionism, and self-doubt so you can find the confidence to work and lead effectively. In Episode 135 - Podcast Guest  Melody Wilding shares: - a little bit about herself - what inspired her to write her book - Trust Yourself - what a Sensitive Striver is - how to rediscover your sensitivity as a superpower - how to achieve confidence and overcome imposter syndrome - how to build resilience and bounce back from setbacks - how to overcome Self-Doubt - how to enjoy your success without sacrificing your well-being - how to trust yourself - how to develop a growth mindset - what is imposter syndrome and how to overcome it - people pleasing - the spotlight effect - how to switch off your overthinking mind especially at night - setting boundaries - how to find your voice and speak with confidence - what her self-care rituals are Plus we talk about so much more of course - because it's a TALK SHOW...... 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Executive and Leadership Coach and Author Melody Wilding joins The Accidental Trainer podcast for a captivating discussion on sensitive strivers and leaders. What are sensitive strivers? How do you know if you are one? What sort of things can be a benefit and a hindrance to being a sensitive striver? Learn all this and more in this episode. Resources Sensitive Strivers Melody's book, Trust Yourself Melody's website Overcome Imposter Syndrome The New Power Skill: Empathy, from ATD

Welcome back to Therapy Chat! In this week's episode host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C interviews author and coach Melody Wilding, LMSW about her new book, "Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success At Work." You will hear Melody explain the concept of sensitive striving and how Sensitive Strivers can harness their superpowers to achieve success.  Melody Wilding, LMSW is an executive coach for smart, sensitive high-achievers and author of TRUST YOURSELF: STOP OVERTHINKING AND CHANNEL YOUR EMOTIONS FOR SUCCESS AT WORK. Recently named one of Business Insider's Most Innovative Coaches for her groundbreaking work on “Sensitive Strivers”, her clients include CEOs, C-level executives, and managers at top Fortune 500 companies such as Google, HP, Facebook, Netflix, Twitter, IBM, Citibank, JP Morgan, and others. Melody has been featured on The New York Times, The Oprah Magazine, NBC News, and spoken at Stanford University, Walmart, Adweek, Burberry and more. She's here to help you break free from self-doubt and imposter syndrome so you can use your sensitivity as the superpower that it is. Melody is a licensed social worker with a Masters degree from Columbia University, and a former researcher at Rutgers University. She is a professor of Human Behavior at Hunter College and is a contributor to Harvard Business Review, Fast Company, Forbes, and Business Insider. Resources Learn more about Melody at www.melodywilding.com. Thank you to Sunset Lake CBD for sponsoring this week's episode! Sunset Lake CBD is created on a small farm outside of Burlington, Vermont that is a producer for Ben & Jerry's Ice Cream.  Sunset Lake CBD customers support regenerative agriculture that preserves the health of the land and creates meaningful employment in the community. Farm workers are paid a living wage, and employees own the majority of the company. Therapy Chat listeners, get 20% off your entire order of Sunset Lake CBD products using promo code CHAT at www.sunsetlakecbd.com.  Thank you also to Sensorimotor Psychotherapy Institute for sponsoring this week's episode! Therapists, if you feel stuck when working with clients who feel numb and disconnected from their emotions or have difficulty accessing their inner experience, learn a comprehensive approach to conceptualize your clients' concerns. Sensorimotor Psychotherapy uniquely includes the body in therapy as both a source of information and target for intervention…because words are not enough. Go beyond theories and gain practical ways to open a new dimension for effective therapy. Visit Sensorimotor Psychotherapy Institute online at sensorimotor.org today!  To be in the know about Laura's new podcast, Trauma Chat, which is now live,  go to www.traumachatpod.com and sign up for the email list! You'll receive a free gift for signing up! New website coming soon: www.traumatherapistnetwork.com - a community for finding information, resources and help for trauma, launching August 1, 2021. Sign up for the email list to be notified when the website goes live and receive a free gift! Podcast produced by Pete Bailey - https://petebailey.net/audio

Today I talked to Melody Wilding about her new book Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work (Chronicle Prism, 2021). Are you what Wilding calls a Sensitive Striver like herself, somebody who indexes high on the personality traits of conscientiousness, neuroticism, and agreeableness? If so, this episode is for you. The dilemma of doubting yourself at the same time that everybody depends on you to do great work and likely carry more than your fair share of the workload is the dilemma Sensitive Strivers know all too well. What's the way out? Wilding takes listeners through steps like recognizing your core values and overcoming what she calls the Honor Roll Hangover. Getting “unstuck” is a process that can benefit from Wilding's tips, like those captured in Speak Up Shortcuts and her Four Feelings Test. Become your own hero, and in the process of self-discovery you may join the 60-80% of Wilding's clients who have made a major career shift since the onset of Covid-19. Melody Wilding has been named one of Business Insider's “Most Innovative Coaches,” with clients that range from Fortune 500 companies to the United Nations. Her work has been featured in The New York times, Oprah Magazine, The Washington Post, Fast Company, and on NBC News. A licensed social worker, Wilding received a master's degree from Columbia University. Dan Hill, PhD, is the author of eight books and leads Sensory Logic, Inc. (https://www.sensorylogic.com). To check out his related “Dan Hill's EQ Spotlight” blog, visit https://emotionswizard.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I talked to Melody Wilding about her new book Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work (Chronicle Prism, 2021). Are you what Wilding calls a Sensitive Striver like herself, somebody who indexes high on the personality traits of conscientiousness, neuroticism, and agreeableness? If so, this episode is for you. The dilemma of doubting yourself at the same time that everybody depends on you to do great work and likely carry more than your fair share of the workload is the dilemma Sensitive Strivers know all too well. What's the way out? Wilding takes listeners through steps like recognizing your core values and overcoming what she calls the Honor Roll Hangover. Getting “unstuck” is a process that can benefit from Wilding's tips, like those captured in Speak Up Shortcuts and her Four Feelings Test. Become your own hero, and in the process of self-discovery you may join the 60-80% of Wilding's clients who have made a major career shift since the onset of Covid-19. Melody Wilding has been named one of Business Insider's “Most Innovative Coaches,” with clients that range from Fortune 500 companies to the United Nations. Her work has been featured in The New York times, Oprah Magazine, The Washington Post, Fast Company, and on NBC News. A licensed social worker, Wilding received a master's degree from Columbia University. Dan Hill, PhD, is the author of eight books and leads Sensory Logic, Inc. (https://www.sensorylogic.com). To check out his related “Dan Hill's EQ Spotlight” blog, visit https://emotionswizard.com. Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/dan-hills-eq-spotlight

Today I talked to Melody Wilding about her new book Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work (Chronicle Prism, 2021). Are you what Wilding calls a Sensitive Striver like herself, somebody who indexes high on the personality traits of conscientiousness, neuroticism, and agreeableness? If so, this episode is for you. The dilemma of doubting yourself at the same time that everybody depends on you to do great work and likely carry more than your fair share of the workload is the dilemma Sensitive Strivers know all too well. What's the way out? Wilding takes listeners through steps like recognizing your core values and overcoming what she calls the Honor Roll Hangover. Getting “unstuck” is a process that can benefit from Wilding's tips, like those captured in Speak Up Shortcuts and her Four Feelings Test. Become your own hero, and in the process of self-discovery you may join the 60-80% of Wilding's clients who have made a major career shift since the onset of Covid-19. Melody Wilding has been named one of Business Insider's “Most Innovative Coaches,” with clients that range from Fortune 500 companies to the United Nations. Her work has been featured in The New York times, Oprah Magazine, The Washington Post, Fast Company, and on NBC News. A licensed social worker, Wilding received a master's degree from Columbia University. Dan Hill, PhD, is the author of eight books and leads Sensory Logic, Inc. (https://www.sensorylogic.com). To check out his related “Dan Hill's EQ Spotlight” blog, visit https://emotionswizard.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/new-books-network

Today I talked to Melody Wilding about her new book Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work (Chronicle Prism, 2021). Are you what Wilding calls a Sensitive Striver like herself, somebody who indexes high on the personality traits of conscientiousness, neuroticism, and agreeableness? If so, this episode is for you. The dilemma of doubting yourself at the same time that everybody depends on you to do great work and likely carry more than your fair share of the workload is the dilemma Sensitive Strivers know all too well. What's the way out? Wilding takes listeners through steps like recognizing your core values and overcoming what she calls the Honor Roll Hangover. Getting “unstuck” is a process that can benefit from Wilding's tips, like those captured in Speak Up Shortcuts and her Four Feelings Test. Become your own hero, and in the process of self-discovery you may join the 60-80% of Wilding's clients who have made a major career shift since the onset of Covid-19. Melody Wilding has been named one of Business Insider's “Most Innovative Coaches,” with clients that range from Fortune 500 companies to the United Nations. Her work has been featured in The New York times, Oprah Magazine, The Washington Post, Fast Company, and on NBC News. A licensed social worker, Wilding received a master's degree from Columbia University. Dan Hill, PhD, is the author of eight books and leads Sensory Logic, Inc. (https://www.sensorylogic.com). To check out his related “Dan Hill's EQ Spotlight” blog, visit https://emotionswizard.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/psychology

Guest: Melody Wilding, LMSW is an executive coach, human behavior expert, and author of “Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work.” She has coached hundreds of private clients, from CEOs and Fortune 500 executives to leaders from the US Department of Education, the Federal Reserve, and the United Nations. She teaches graduate-level human behavior and psychology at the Silberman School of Social Work at Hunter College in New York. Her writing is regularly featured on Medium and in Harvard Business Review, Fast Company, Forbes, Business Insider, and Quartz. Her advice has been featured in the New York Times, The Cut, Oprah Magazine, NBC News, US News and World Report, and more Episode in a Tweet: Melody Wilding turns the conventional approach to finding personal and professional fulfillment on its head, arguing that sensitivity is not a hindrance but a superpower—if managed correctly. Quick Background: Melody Wilding is the author of “Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work.” She draws on decades of research and client work to examine the intersection of sensitivity and achievement in the workplace. Melody offers neuroscience-based strategies to break free from stress and self-doubt to find the confidence to work and lead effectively. “Sensitive Strivers” is what Melody calls individuals who are both highly sensitive and high performing. These folks are often so influenced and worried by how they appear to others. They struggle with overthinking, emotional reactivity, perfectionism, and an inability to set clear boundaries—which can hold them back from reaching their full potential as leaders and professionals. In this interview, Melody provides concrete steps to channel these qualities in constructive ways, overcome inadequacy, and thrive in the workplace, combining cognitive behavior, mindfulness, and neuroscience with communications, leadership, and career development skills.

KL112 Melody Wilding Executive Coach to Sensitive Strivers® and HBR Contributor Trust Yourself as a Leader Episode Summary Brene Brown gave readers the courage to be vulnerable. Susan Cain reminded introverts of the power of being quiet. In 2021, Melody Wilding has emerged as the expert reframing the intersection of ambition and sensitivity as a strength! Listen to this episode to learn how to Trust yourself! Bio Melody Wilding, LMSW, is an executive coach, human behavior expert, and author of Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work. She has coached hundreds of private clients, from CEOs and Fortune 500 executives to leaders from the US Department of Education, the Federal Reserve, and the United Nations. She teaches graduate-level human behavior and psychology at the Silberman School of Social Work at Hunter College in New York. Her writing is regularly featured on Medium and in Harvard Business Review, Fast Company, Forbes, Business Insider, and Quartz. Her advice has been featured in the New York Times, The Cut, Oprah Magazine, NBC News, US News, and World Report, and more. Website https://melodywilding.com/ LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/melodywilding/ Twitter https://twitter.com/MelodyWilding   Facebook https://www.facebook.com/melodywildinglmsw   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/melodywilding/   Leadership Quote “Don't wait to be praised, anointed, or validated. Don't wait for someone to give you permission to lead.” –– Tara Mohr Get Your Copy of Melody's Book! https://melodywilding.com/book/ Subscribe, share and review on Apple Podcasts! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/keep-leading/id1461490512 Full Episode Transcripts and Detailed Guest Information www.KeepLeadingPodcast.com   Keep Leading LIVE (Live Recordings of the Keep Leading!® Podcast) www.KeepLeadingLive.com The Keep Leading!® podcast is for people passionate about leadership. It is dedicated to leadership development and insights. Join your host Eddie Turner, The Leadership Excelerator® as he speaks with accomplished leaders and people of influence across the globe as they share their journey to leadership excellence. Listen as they share leadership strategies, techniques, and insights. For more information visit https://eddieturnerllc.com or follow Eddie Turner on Twitter and Instagram at @eddieturnerjr. Like Eddie Turner LLC on Facebook. Connect with Eddie Turner on LinkedIn. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Melody Wilding, LMSW is an executive coach for smart, sensitive high-achievers and author of "Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work." Recently named one of Business Insider's Most Innovative Coaches for her groundbreaking work on "Sensitive Strivers," her clients include CEOs, C-level executives, and managers at top Fortune 500 companies such as Google, HP, Facebook, Netflix, Twitter, IBM, Citibank, JP Morgan, and others.  Melody has been featured in the New York Times, O Magazine, NBC News, and spoken at Stanford University, Walmart, Adweek, Burberry and more. She's here to help you break free from self-doubt and imposter syndrome so you can use your sensitivity as the superpower that it is.  Melody is a licensed social worker with a Masters degree from Columbia University, and a former researcher at Rutgers University. She is a professor of Human Behavior at Hunter College and is a contributor to Harvard Business Review, Fast Company, Forbes, and Business Insider.   Inside This Episode What are Sensitive Strivers? How Social Awareness is Changing Corporate Culture The Neuro Science of Higher Sensitivity The Nature of Being an Empathic Leader Developing Your Internal Compass The #1 Thing that Holds Back Sensitive Strivers Dealing with Imposter Syndrome How We Hold Ourselves Back from Success The Danger of Over-Apologizing Leading a Team as a Sensitive Striver The Dynamic of Over-Functioning Creating Interdependent Teams Links: Website: www.melodywilding.com LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/melodywilding/ Twitter: www.twitter.com/MelodyWilding Trust Yourself Book: www.melodywilding.com/book

Melody Wilding is a human behaviour expert and executive coach whose recently published book TRUST YOURSELF: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work draws on decades of research and client work to examine the intersection of sensitivity and achievement in the workplace and offers neuroscience-based strategies to break free from stress and self-doubt, to find the confidence to work and lead effectively. We talk about Melody's book and how “Sensitive Strivers” (what Melody calls individuals who are both highly sensitive and high performing) are often so influenced and worried by how they appear to others, they struggle with overthinking, emotional reactivity, perfectionism, and an inability to set clear boundaries—which can hold them back from reaching their full potential as leaders and professionals. A reported 70% of introverts are sensitive strivers. She also shares how her previous experience of not setting boundaries and saying no led to burnout. About Melody Melody Wilding, LMSW is an executive coach, human behavior expert, and author of Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work. She has coached hundreds of private clients, from CEOs and Fortune 500 executives to leaders from the US Department of Education, the Federal Reserve, and the United Nations. She teaches graduate-level human behavior and psychology at the Silberman School of Social Work at Hunter College in New York. Her writing is regularly featured on Medium and in Harvard Business Review, Fast Company, Forbes, Business Insider, and Quartz. Her advice has been featured in the New York Times, The Cut, Oprah Magazine, NBC News, US News and World Report, and more.

In today's episode, we welcome to the show Melody Wilding, executive coach, human behavior expert, and author of Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work. Melody helps sensitive leaders escape self-doubt and overcome impostor syndrome and, in this conversation, she shares that, while being highly attuned to your emotions, your environment, and the behavior of others can be the keys to success, it can also lead to overthinking and burnout, as it does for so many sensitive strivers who have not yet learned how to mange and leverage their unique gifts. As we dive into Melody's book during the course of the episode, you'll discover that Trust Yourself offers concrete steps to help you break free from stress and perfectionism so that you can find the confidence to work and lead effectively as well as the mindset and tools to set you on the path to personal and professional fulfillment. Make sure to tune in today for an insightful discussion about identifying sensitive strivers, setting better boundaries, and preventing burnout! Key Points From This Episode: How Melody became a coach in this niche space thanks to her personal experience. Learn more about the genetic trait that sensitive strivers possess. How perceptions of sensitivity plays into gender stereotypes, for both women and men. Melody defines a sensitive striver as a high-achiever who is also highly sensitive. Find out what the differences are between introverts and sensitive strivers. How to identify sensitive strivers, including deeply-felt emotions, a strong inner critic, and poorly held boundaries. Signs of burnout to look out for, like heightened emotional reactivity or overcompensation. Types of boundaries, from rigid to porous, and where sensitive strivers tend to struggle most. Where Melody sees leaders acting most effectively in helping teams set better boundaries. The role that self-advocacy plays in helping her clients stop undermining themselves. How Melody suggests leaders can provide extra support, including celebrating small wins. What is means to rebalance your inner drive and how it helps with preventing burnout. The importance of connecting your work to something meaningful. Sharing Melody's book with sensitive strivers can provide them with a powerful tool. Other resources she recommends, such as the DISC and KOLBE assessments.

Sensitivity isn't a flaw. It's a superpower. In this episode, Melody explores how "sensitive strivers" -- high achievers who are highly reflective and emotionally earnest -- can impact the workplace and how leaders can set the conditions for people to disclose, rather than disguise, these sensitive strengths. * * * ABOUT MELODY: Melody Wilding, LMSW is an executive coach for smart, sensitive high-achievers and author of TRUST YOURSELF: STOP OVERTHINKING AND CHANNEL YOUR EMOTIONS FOR SUCCESS AT WORK. Recently named one of Business Insider's Most Innovative Coaches for her groundbreaking work on “Sensitive Strivers”, her clients include CEOs, C-level executives, and managers at top Fortune 500 companies such as Google, HP, Facebook, Netflix, Twitter, IBM, Citibank, JP Morgan, and others. Melody has been featured on The New York Times, The Oprah Magazine, NBC News, and spoken at Stanford University, Walmart, Adweek, Burberry and more. She's here to help you break free from self-doubt and imposter syndrome so you can use your sensitivity as the superpower that it is. Melody is a licensed social worker with a Masters degree from Columbia University, and a former researcher at Rutgers University. She is a professor of Human Behavior at Hunter College and is a contributor to Harvard Business Review, Fast Company, Forbes, and Business Insider. LINKS: Book: Trust Yourself Website LinkedIn

It's important to understand who you are before getting to the why. Some of us are more logical and task oriented. Others of us focus on our emotions, our environment, and the behavior of others to guide our success. Melody Wilding suggests these “Sensitive Strivers” can anticipate the needs of the team because they are aware of how others are feeling. This empathy can also preclude them from making decisions because they are worried about what others will think. Melody is the author of Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work and draws on decades of research and client work to examine the intersection of sensitivity and achievement in the workplace. She and Kevin discuss the journey of professional and personal development starting at self-awareness and moving to self-growth. This episode is brought to you by… Unleashing Your Remarkable Potential, Kevin's free weekly e-newsletter. It's full of articles and resources to help you become a more confident and successful leader. Additional Leadership Resources Book Recommendations: Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work by Melody Wilding/li> Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It by Ethan Kross Connect with Melody Wilding: Website Related Podcast Episodes: Bringing the Art of Reflection into Your Busy Life with Joseph Badaracco. Love Your Imposter with Rita Clifton. Follow the Podcast Don't miss an episode! Follow this podcast through the options below. iTunes Stitcher TuneIn Soundcloud RSS Or your favorite podcast app. Join Our Facebook Group Join our Facebook community to network with like-minded leaders, ask us questions, suggest guests and more. We welcome your wealth of experience and hope you will join us in sharing it with others on their leadership journey. You can join the group here: facebook.com/groups/RemarkableLeadershipPodcast/

Are you sensitive and ambitious? Do you go through life and work battling with what you "should" do/say versus what feels more natural? Do you hate the idea of office politics? Well, get ready to feel seen ... Melody Wilding is with us to discuss her new book, TRUST YOURSELF: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions at Work. Melody is a Licensed Master Social Worker, and executive coach, who has coached hundreds of private clients, from CEOs and Fortune 500 execs to leaders from the US Dept of Education, the Federal Reserve and the United Nations. Being highly attuned to your emotions, your environment, and the behavior of others can be the keys to success, but they can also lead to overthinking everything and burnout. In her new book, Melody examines the intersection of sensitivity and achievement in the workplace and offers neuroscience-based strategies you can use to reclaim control of your life and reach your full potential. Trust Yourself offers concrete steps to help what Wilding calls “sensitive strivers” – empathetic, driven individuals—break free from stress, perfectionism, and self-doubt to achieve confidence, overcome imposter syndrome, speak and act with assertiveness, build resilience, and find the confidence to work and lead effectively. Sound good? Listen in and feel seen through this incredibly insightful and validating conversation with Melody Wilding! You can learn more via Melodywilding.com and connect with Melody at @melodywilding on Instagram & Twitter.

Are you one of those ladies who find themselves a little emotional at work? Maybe some would even say over-sensitive? We understand and we know exactly what that’s like. Did you know there is actually a percentage of women and men that have a gene that makes you more sensitive? I didn’t. Today’s guest, Melody Wilding, author of the new book Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work is going to talk all about that and so much more. Melody Wilding, is an executive coach for smart, sensitive high-achievers and author of TRUST YOURSELF: STOP OVERTHINKING AND CHANNEL YOUR EMOTIONS FOR SUCCESS AT WORK. Recently named one of Business Insider’s Most Innovative Coaches for her groundbreaking work on “Sensitive Strivers”, her clients include CEOs, C-level executives, and managers at top Fortune 500 companies such as Google, HP, Facebook, Netflix, Twitter, IBM, Citibank, JP Morgan, and others. Melody has been featured on The New York Times, The Oprah Magazine, NBC News, and spoken at Stanford University, Walmart, Adweek, Burberry and more. She’s here to help you break free from self-doubt and imposter syndrome so you can use your sensitivity as the superpower that it is. Strive Qualities to detect if you’re a Sensitive Striver:Sensitivity: Heightened response to situationsThoughtfulness: Highly reflective, self-aware and intuitiveResponsibility: Never let people down, dependable, hard-working people pleaserInner Drive: Look to exceed expectations in every aspect of life Vigilance: Always on high alert, attune to changes, highly observantEmotionality: Sincere and empathetic, feeling things with complex emotions attachedWe, as humans, need to process. We need time to think and absorb what we are intaking around us and yet we find ourselves running from task to task. Sit with what you are learning or doing and decide what you want to take from it instead of running to the next task.Physiological ways calm your central nervous system when stressed: Box Breathing:Breath in for 4 seconds, hold your breath for 4 seconds, breath out for 4 seconds, hold the exhale for 4 seconds.THINK Technique: Targeting thoughts behind the emotions.True: Is your thought true, do you have evidence or is this an opinionHelpful: Move towards my goalsInspiring: Does it move me positivelyNecessary: Is it important that I focus on this right now?Kind: Is it kind or is it harmfulResources:Melody Wilding’s Book:TRUST YOURSELF: STOP OVERTHINKING AND CHANNEL YOUR EMOTIONS FOR SUCCESS AT WORK. Get Unstuck:  Instead of waking up every day feeling unfulfilled and thinking, “I should make this change,” take this one action to start you on the right path. Do you want to understand why you are stuck and then get the framework to get unstuck? Download our online course Get Unstuck so your tomorrow can look different than today. Don’t wait. Just $29.Why I was Crying in the Middle of the Night

Are you sensitive? Well then guess what - you have a superpower, says guest Melody Wilding, author of the new book Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions at Work. Wilding draws on decades of research and client work to examine the intersection of sensitivity and achievement in the workplace and offers neuroscience-based strategies you can use to reclaim control of your life and reach your full potential. Trust Yourself offers concrete steps to help what Wilding calls “Sensitive Strivers” – empathetic, driven individuals—break free from stress, perfectionism, and self-doubt to achieve confidence, overcome imposter syndrome, speak and act with assertiveness, build resilience, and find the confidence to work and lead effectively. Learn more at MelodyWilding.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Episode #172. Could you be a sensitive striver? For those that feel everything deeply, yet still want to make a positive impact on the world, the term ‘sensitive striver’ might just describe you perfectly. To dive into this fascinating personality profile, I’m chatting with Melody Wilding. Melody has coined the term ‘sensitive striver’ and in this conversation, we talk about what it means to run a business with this personality and what you can do to best manage your energy when the world feels overwhelming.  In This Episode You’ll Learn:What it means to be a ‘sensitive striver’ How to manage your energy when running a businessThe surprising science behind empathyWhy ‘good girl’ conditioning leads to a major mindset trap Melody’s repurposing trick for saving energyHow to cultivate your intuition muscleFavorite Quotes“Your empathy is your greatest strength in your business. But if it's unmanaged or unprotected, there can really quickly become a lack of both internal and external boundaries around it.”“If you're not using your time wisely, you're not moving your business ahead. Even during those low-energy days, it’s not beating yourself up, not kind of chucking the whole day away, just because you don't feel great. Making small, incremental progress on things is really crucial to your own well-being.”“We want to check all the boxes and do everything right. Because of that conditioning, we have this all-or-nothing mentality, that there is one right way to do business and we need to figure it out.”  More About Melody:  Melody Wilding, LMSW is an executive coach for smart, sensitive high-achievers and author of Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Sucess at Work. Recently named one of Business Insider’s Most Innovative Coaches for her groundbreaking work on “Sensitive Strivers”, her clients include CEOs, C-level executives, and managers at top Fortune 500 companies such as Google, HP, Facebook, Netflix, Twitter, IBM, Citibank, JP Morgan, and others. Melody has been featured on The New York Times, The Oprah Magazine, NBC News, and spoken at Stanford University, Walmart, Adweek, Burberry, and more. She’s here to help you break free from self-doubt and imposter syndrome so you can use your sensitivity as the superpower that it is. Melody is a licensed social worker with a Masters's degree from Columbia University and a former researcher at Rutgers University. She is a professor of Human Behavior at Hunter College and is a contributor to Harvard Business Review, Fast Company, Forbes, and Business Insider. Find Melody:WebsiteFacebook

Melody Wilding, author of TRUST YOURSELF: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work Bill Ringle and Melody Wilding discuss the duality and depths of people who have both high-ambition and high-sensitivity in their personality, woking and leading in small and mid-sized businesses. >>> Visit MyQuestforTheBest.com  for complete show notes and more expert advice and inspiring stories to propel your small business growth. My Quest for the Best is a top-rated small business podcast with over 300 episodes of thought-provoking and insightful interviews with today's top thought leaders and business experts. Host Bill Ringle's mission with this show is to provide the strategies, insights, and resources that will unlock the growth potential of your business through these powerful conversations. body .audioplayer.skin-wave.playerid-35765225:not(.a) .ap-controls .con-playpause .playbtn , body .audioplayer.skin-wave.playerid-35765225:not(.a) .ap-controls .con-playpause .pausebtn { background-color: #111111;} jQuery(document).ready(function ($){var settings_ap35765225 = { design_skin: "skin-wave" ,autoplay: "off",disable_volume:"default" ,loop:"off" ,cue: "on" ,embedded: "off" ,preload_method:"metadata" ,design_animateplaypause:"default" ,skinwave_dynamicwaves:"off" ,skinwave_enableSpectrum:"off" ,skinwave_enableReflect:"on",settings_backup_type:"full",playfrom:"off",disable_scrub:"off",soundcloud_apikey:"" ,skinwave_comments_enable:"on",settings_php_handler:window.ajaxurl,skinwave_mode:"normal",skinwave_wave_mode:"canvas",pcm_data_try_to_generate: "on","pcm_notice": "off","notice_no_media": "on",design_color_bg: "111111",design_color_highlight: "ef6b13",skinwave_wave_mode_canvas_waves_number: "3",skinwave_wave_mode_canvas_waves_padding: "1",skinwave_wave_mode_canvas_reflection_size: "0.25",skinwave_wave_mode_canvas_mode:"normal",preview_on_hover:"off",skinwave_comments_playerid:"35765225",php_retriever:"https://myquestforthebest.com/wp-content/plugins/dzs-zoomsounds/soundcloudretriever.php" }; try{ dzsap_init(".ap_idx_23987_48",settings_ap35765225); }catch(err){ console.warn("cannot init player", err); } }); Interview Insights Top 3 Takeaways from this Interview It is essential for leaders to check the emotional and mental state of their teams. This can create psychological safety and better engagement that can help the team adjust to and navigate the new challenges that come with a new working environment. Leaders should believe in their judgments, and that this confidence in trusting their own abilities and what they can contribute is something they need to pass down to their teams. Resentment is an urgent issue that can be avoided by having an open conversation. Leaders must promote a culture where employees are not afraid to air their concerns. Read the Show Notes from this Episode Melody describes how her parents – entrepreneurs and music lovers alike – inspired her with their examples of hard work and caring for their customers. [01:04]Where Melody began her personal empowerment approach to coaching business leaders while attending Columbia University, which lead her to meet and work with highly-driven people.  [03:37]The importance of being observant, perceptive and empathetic.  [05:45]What makes the biggest difference for sensitive strivers is having the tools and skills to maximize your strengths. [6:06]Sensitive strivers may be your greatest untapped advantage during the pandemic lockdown (or anytime you're bringing a remote team together). [7:55]Asking the right question helps to know the team, their abilities, and the best way to lead and delegate. [09:53]How remote leaders can best keep engaged with their remote teams. [13:53]Case study with Travis:  the unfortunate dynamic of being consumed with 'I should be' when deciding. [16:49]Melody's personal wake up call took place when she chose work over a dear friend's wedding early on in her career.

Melody Wilding is an executive coach and an author. Being a driven but sensitive individual is a fairly interesting blend. You have all the desire for high achievement and go-getting but also overthink pretty much everything which slows you down. Thankfully, Melody is a specialist at coaching what she calls Sensitive Strivers. Expect to learn how to channel your emotions into an advantage, why trusting your gut is a skill, how to let go of being a perfectionist, how to stop over-thinking, why empathy can help you to beat the competition and much more... Sponsors: Get 10% discount on your first month from BetterHelp at https://betterhelp.com/modernwisdom (discount automatically applied) Get 20% discount on all pillows at https://thehybridpillow.com (use code: MW20) Extra Stuff: Buy Trust Yourself - https://amzn.to/3gJnOHk Check out Melody's website - https://melodywilding.com/ Get my free Ultimate Life Hacks List to 10x your daily productivity → https://chriswillx.com/lifehacks/ To support me on Patreon (thank you): https://www.patreon.com/modernwisdom - Get in touch. Join the discussion with me and other like minded listeners in the episode comments on the MW YouTube Channel or message me... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/ModernWisdomPodcast Email: modernwisdompodcast@gmail.com

Creating the right situation in your work life to set you up for success can be challenging. Human behavior expert, Melody Wilding, stops by the show to talk about her new book Trust Yourself. We have a discussion about being a sensitive striver and finding success in the workplace.~ ~ ~Melody Wilding, LMSW is a  human behavior expert, executive coach, and author of the forthcoming book, TRUST YOURSELF: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work (Chronicle Prism; May 4, 2021).In it, Wilding draws on decades of research and client work to examine the intersection of sensitivity and achievement in the workplace and offers neuroscience-based strategies you can use to reclaim control of your life and reach your full potential. Trust Yourself offers concrete steps to help what Wilding calls “Sensitive Strivers” – empathetic, driven individuals—break free from stress, perfectionism, and self-doubt to achieve confidence, overcome imposter syndrome, speak and act with assertiveness, build resilience, and find the confidence to work and lead effectively.~ ~ ~Support the show on Patreon @norlundCheck out more details about the show at https://www.chrisnorlund.com/podcastFollow on Twitter @chris_norlundFollow on Instagram @norlundStay positive and thank you so much for listening!

Leadership coach Melody Wilding joins Nick to talk about overcoming imposter syndrome and how to thrive as a sensitive striver.

Today we bring you Melody Wilding, an executive and leadership coach for smart, sensitive high-achievers who are tired of getting in their own way.  Through her private one-on-one coaching program, talks, small-group workshops, and articles, she helps you break free from self-doubt and overwhelm, master your emotions, and use your sensitivity as the superpower that it is. Recently named one of Business Insider's “Most Innovative Coaches”, Melody coined the groundbreaking idea of “sensitive striving.” She has helped CEOs, leaders, and top-performers at the world's most successful companies including Google, Facebook, JP Morgan, Verizon and more. Her work has been featured on The New York Times, The Oprah Magazine, NBC News, and dozens of other high-profile publications. She currently teaches Human Behavior at Hunter College and is a columnist for magazines such as Inc. and Forbes. Time Stamps: 2:50 Melody explains what it means to be a Sensitive Striver  12:18 Melody shares the 1st of 6 key qualities that make up being a Sensitive Striver: Sensitivity  17:02 Melody shares the 2nd key quality of a Sensitive Striver: Thoughtfulness  17:57 Shelley relates the 2nd key quality of thoughtfulness to her Enneagram type  20:00 We discuss the 3rd quality of a Sensitive Striver: Responsibility  21:40 Inner Drive as the 4th quality of a Sensitive Striver  24:19 Vigilance as the 5th quality of a Sensitive Striver  27:13 Melody shares the 6th and final quality of a Sensitive Striver: Emotionality  28:39 The number one challenge Melody sees in her client: Imposter Syndrome  30:35 Melody discusses how she coaches someone to step into their power  31:42 Melody shares her hack for dealing with negative self-talk  33:51 The discussion dives deeper into Imposter Syndrome 37:25 Melody shares how her practices of theming her days, limiting decision fatigue and doing a weekly CEO report  help her flourish as a Sensitive Striver 41:05 Melody shares about her upcoming book: Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work  42:00 Where to find Melody Leave us a review and https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-big-self-podcast/id1485907203 (subscribe on Apple iTunes). https://open.spotify.com/show/1yx9VzUCRcYezd7cUlSRn4?si=Xygeo5a7T0ePnX7IaHu0AQ (Subscribe on Spotify). Find us at the Big Self Community on Facebook.

For full show notes, go to GetCareerClarity.com/Episode56. If you've ever felt like you just don't quite *fit* with everyone else at work, this episode of the podcast is going to rock your world. Building on the work of Dr. Elaine Aron around highly sensitive people (HSPs), Melody Wilding is on the show today talking about how your ability to sense and feel more than your peers can be a superpower instead of a liability.    This episode is for you if you think you might feel more sensitive than your coworkers (or know someone else who is), you'd like to be able to channel your deep empathy into opportunities to advance in your field, or if you want to understand how to better manage Sensitive Strivers on your team. Melody makes this incredibly actionable and practical, and it was a true joy to record and share this conversation with you!     SHOW NOTES:  Email Lisa at Lisa@GetCareerClarity.com Melody Wilding The Haven Community Roadmap to a Fulfilling Career eBook