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2 episodes with harness it
Is self-control something you're born with—or something you can teach your kids, starting today? Psychologist and bestselling author Ethan Kross takes us into the science of the inner voice, revealing how our thoughts shape our behaviour—and how we can shape our thoughts. From powerful tools that help children talk to themselves like a friend to simple mindset shifts that build long-term resilience, this conversation is packed with practical wisdom for raising emotionally intelligent, self-regulated kids. KEY POINTS: Self-control is a skill that can be taught and strengthened. The inner voice is a powerful tool in navigating emotions and decision-making. Kids benefit from learning how to create psychological distance during challenges. Techniques like mental time travel and third-person self-talk are effective at all ages. Parents have a unique opportunity to guide how children learn to speak to themselves. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:“We’re not born with self-control; we learn it. And the tools we use to manage our mind are like muscles—we can train them.” KEY INSIGHTS FOR PARENTS: Help your child shift perspective by asking, “What would you say to a friend?” Build emotional resilience by teaching kids to recall times they’ve overcome obstacles. Model calm and constructive self-talk in your own moments of stress—kids are watching. Introduce the idea of an “inner coach” who can guide them through tough situations. RESOURCES MENTIONED: Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It by Ethan Kross University of Michigan’s Emotion & Self-Control Lab Techniques such as self-distancing, visualisation, and reflective self-talk ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Be intentional with your own self-talk—your children are learning from you. Use playful, imaginative language to teach kids how to create emotional distance. Encourage children to reflect on past successes to fuel future confidence. Practice third-person self-talk together to turn overwhelming moments into teachable ones. Keep emotional regulation tools simple, visual, and consistent. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Let's be honest — most speakers spend a lot of time crafting their talk, but when it comes to what they wear on stage? That's often a rushed afterthought… or a full-blown panic. Are you second-guessing whether your outfit actually helps or hinders your message? Ever watched back your talk and thought, “What was I thinking with that jacket?” Or maybe you've stuck to the same ‘safe' outfit for years, even though it doesn't really feel like you anymore? Well, this episode is for you. Because how you show up visually matters. Not in a “fashion week” kind of way, but in a connection, confidence and credibility kind of way. And to help us nail that balance between comfort, authenticity and speaker presence, I've brought in stylist to the speakers — Kay Korsh. Kay's not your average personal stylist. She's dressed A-list celebrities, worked with luxury magazines, and now she's on a mission to help speakers look the part, feel amazing, and avoid wardrobe disasters that distract from their message. She's the real deal — equal parts savvy, stylish and strategic. What you'll discover: The #1 thing your outfit might be silently saying about you (and how to fix it) Why you ‘shouldn't' dress like a model... and who you should model instead How to develop a signature style that makes you stand out — without feeling uncomfortable A simple way to stop your outfit undermining you on stage How to travel without looking like you slept in your suitcase (yes, even in linen) Why certain colours can drain you on stage — and how to make them work with your brand Plus… how Kay helped one client land her biggest gig just by changing her outfit (it's a cracking story). How styling for speakers differs from people in the entertainment industry. How speakers get the balance right between sharing their authentic self and personality, whilst still meeting event and audience expectations when it comes to their wardrobe choices. Cost-effective ways to elevate your professional appearance, if you're on a budget So whether you're a keynote pro or just starting to get your message out there, this episode will help you sharpen your image, simplify your wardrobe, and show up with more power on stage — without losing your personality. Enjoy! If you'd like to watch the interview on YouTube, you can do that here>> All things Kay: Website: https://www.mindoverfashion.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kay-korsh/ Books & Resources*: The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown Chatter: The Voice in Our Head and How to Harness It by Ethan Kross Colour Quiz for Professional Speakers: Interactive Calculators & Quizzes Ultimate step-by-step guide to looking great on stage: https://outfit.mindoverfashion.com/look-great-on-stage-as-a-professional-speaker Speaking Resources: Grab Your From Blank Page to Stage Guide and Nail the Topic for a Client Winning Talk Want to get better at finding and sharing your stories then check out our FREE Five Day Snackable Story Challenge Thanks for listening! To share your thoughts: Share this show on X, Facebook or LinkedIn. To help the show out: Leave an honest review at https://www.ratethispodcast.com/tsc Your ratings and reviews really help get the word out and I read each one. Subscribe on iTunes. *(please note if you use my link I get a small commission, but this does not affect your payment)
Can self-control be taught? In this episode, Justin and Kylie explore the science of self-regulation and how parents can help their kids—and themselves—build better habits. Drawing on an insightful interview with Professor Ethan Kross, author of Chatter, the conversation highlights strategies for boosting motivation, building emotional resilience, and taking control in those tricky moments where willpower fails. KEY POINTS: Self-control is not an innate trait—it's a skill that can be learned and strengthened. Motivation plays a crucial role in our capacity for self-control. External factors like being hungry, angry, lonely, tired, or stressed (HALTS) reduce our ability to regulate ourselves. Self-distancing, including the “Batman Effect,” can help children and adults manage strong emotions and make better decisions. People who appear to have strong self-control often just design their environments to avoid temptation. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:“People who seem to have the most self-control often set up their environments in such a way that they don’t need to exercise it at all.” KEY INSIGHTS FOR PARENTS: Teaching kids self-control starts with helping them understand triggers and setting up supportive environments. Self-control can be undermined by stress and unmet needs—parents should be compassionate, not critical. The “Batman Effect” (asking “What would Batman do?”) helps kids take a step back from their impulses and act with intention. Modelling healthy responses and acknowledging your own challenges shows kids that emotional regulation is a lifelong practice. RESOURCES MENTIONED: Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It by Ethan Kross HALTS acronym (Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired, Stressed) Ethan Kross’s full interview (to be aired Saturday) happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Teach kids about HALTS—help them recognise when their emotional state is affecting behaviour. Use the “Batman Effect” or similar strategies to encourage self-distancing during challenging moments. Model self-control by setting up environments that reduce temptation (e.g., not keeping junk food at home). Have regular conversations about motivation and how it supports goals and values. Tune in to the full interview with Ethan Kross for deeper insights and practical tools. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Today's episode walks us through this week's astrology + practical and magical tactics to help ua harness and navigate the energetics April 7th - 13th 2025. Last week the cosmos were quieter and allowed us some time to integrate and settle the big shifts of the weeks prior. They still carried some big feels, mostly frustration and agitation because the focus on Aries energy. Did you pause to get curious as to why big feelings were rolling through? Did you learn a little deeper into yourself to make your way forward easier? New paths forward can only be walked successfully if you're not carrying old baggage. This week has a few shifts, but in terms of late, they're lower key and offer blessings and breakthroughs...with a little bit of turbulence. Venus is our star this week (isn't she always, tho?
Welcome to another enlightening episode of Unmistakable Creative, where we delve into the mind's intricacies with our esteemed guest, Ethan Kross. A renowned psychologist and author, Ethan Kross, is a leading expert in controlling the inner voice that often leads us astray. In this episode, titled 'Ethan Kross | How to Deal With The Voice in Your Head,' we explore the science behind self-talk and how it influences our emotions and decisions.Ethan Kross shares his profound insights on how we can harness the power of our inner voice to improve our mental health and overall well-being. He presents fascinating research findings from his book, 'Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It.' This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to understand their inner dialogue and use it as a tool for personal growth.Join us on this enlightening journey with Ethan Kross and learn how to master your inner voice. Discover the strategies to transform your self-talk from a source of stress into a valuable tool for problem-solving and emotional management. Don't miss out on this opportunity to gain a deeper understanding of your mind and unlock your potential. Tune in to 'Ethan Kross | How to Deal With The Voice in Your Head' on Unmistakable Creative. Subscribe for ad-free interviews and bonus episodes https://plus.acast.com/s/the-unmistakable-creative-podcast. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
As we continue this great week of episodes, I'm delighted today to welcome Dr. Ethan Kross to the show to talk about his latest book Shift: Managing Your Emotions So They Don't Manage You, which is out February 4. Shift follows the success of Ethan's 2021 book Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It, which was an international bestseller. In Shift, we're talking all about emotions — and how they can be our superpower if we can learn how to regulate and manage them. How do we make our emotions work for us, rather than against us? Ethan is helping us find that answer. Ethan is a psychologist, neuroscientist, writer, and one of the world's leading experts on emotion regulation and is an award-winning professor in the University of Michigan's top-ranked psychology department and its Ross School of Business. He is also the director of the Emotion and Self-Control Laboratory. In addition to appearing on CBS Evening News, Good Morning America, Anderson Cooper Full Circle, and NPR's Morning Edition, he has participated in policy discussion at the White House and has had his research featured in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, The New Yorker, The New England Journal of Medicine, USA Today, and more. He is a graduate of Penn and Columbia and has spoken at TED, SXSW, and consulted with some of the world's top executives and organizations. From Shift's opening pages, it's a power punch, and I'm excited for you to hear what he has to say. Shift: Managing Your Emotions So They Don't Manage You by Dr. Ethan Kross
As the year comes to a close, taking time to reflect on 2024 can be a wonderful way to celebrate your successes and uncover inspiration for your goals in 2025.It's so easy to fall into the trap of focusing on what didn't go to plan or overlooking achievements, thanks to the negativity bias we all experience. Add to that the recency bias—where only the most recent events stick in our minds—and it's no wonder we often lose sight of the bigger picture.In this episode, I'll guide you through 10 powerful reflection questions from The Essential HR Planner to help you push past these biases, recognise all you've accomplished this year, and approach 2025 with confidence and clarity. And to show that I'm right there with you, I'll share my own answers to the questions too.Whether you're using The Essential HR Planner or simply jotting down notes as you listen, this episode of HR Coffee Time is your chance to pause, reflect, and start shaping the year ahead with purpose and positivity.Key Chapters[00:00] Introduction[03:10] Question 1: What did you achieve? - Small wins are just as noteworthy as big ones[09:06] Question 2: What did you do to help others?[11:35] Question 3: What are you proudest of from 2024?[13:02] Question 4: What did you do for your wellbeing during the past year?[15:50] Question 5: What did you learn during 2024?[21:35] Question 6: Which relationships did you develop and build?[23:22] Question 7: What are you grateful for?[24:22] Question 8: What did you find challenging this year?[27:10] Question 9: What insights do you have from reading through your answers to questions 1-8?[29:32] Question 10: How can these insights influence your goals for 2025?[32:51] ConclusionUseful LinksThe Essential HR Planner websiteConnect with Fay on LinkedInFay's website: Bright Sky Career CoachingFay's blog post: Reflecting on 2024 - looking back to look forwardFay's YouTube channelBook Recommendations(Disclosure: book links are affiliate links which means Fay will earn a small commission from Amazon if you make a purchase through them)Neuroscience for Learning and Development: How to Apply Neuroscience and Psychology for Improved Learning and Training, by Stella CollinsThink Like a Coach: Empower Your Team Through Everyday Conversations, by Jude SclaterChatter: The Voice in Our Head and How to Harness It, by Ethan KrossRate and Review the PodcastIf you found this episode of HR Coffee Time helpful, please rate and review it on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. This video shows you how to rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts (because it isn't very intuitive). If you're kind enough to leave a review, let Fay know so she can say thank you. You can always reach her at:
Humans are noisy. The National Park Service estimates that all of our whirring, grinding, and revving machines are doubling or even tripling global noise pollution every 30 years. A lot of that noise is negatively affecting wildlife and human health. Maybe that's why we're so consumed with managing our sonic environments, with noise-cancelling headphones and white noise machines — and sometimes, we get into spats with our neighbors, as one of our guests did…So for this episode, producer Jeongyoon Han takes us on an exploration of three sonic landscapes: noise, silence, and something in between. Featuring Rachel Buxton, Jim Connell, Stan Ellis, Mercede Erfanian, Nora Ma, and Rob Steadman.This episode originally aired in July, 2023.SUPPORTOutside/In is made possible with listener support. Click here to become a sustaining member. Subscribe to our newsletter to get occasional emails about new show swag, call-outs for listener submissions, and other announcements.Follow Outside/In on Instagram or X, or join our private discussion group on Facebook. LINKSBehavioral ecologist Miya Warrington and her colleagues found that Savannah sparrows changed the tune of their love songs as a result of noisy oil fields in Alberta, Canada (The New York Times)Bats have changed their day-to-day habits because of traffic noise, according to research conducted in the U.K.Natural sounds are proven to improve health, lower stress, and have positive effects on humans. Rachel Buxton and her colleagues wrote about that in their study from 2021.Erica Walker's organization, the Community Noise Lab, monitors noise levels in Boston, Providence, and Jackson, Mississippi. You can read more about her work in this article from Harvard Magazine.Are you interested in going to a Quiet Parks International-designated quiet park? The organization has a list of spaces across the world that they've certified. Here's a radio story from NPR that serves as an homage to John Cage's 4'33”. If you were ever curious about why bird songs are good for you… This article from the Washington Post should be on the top of your reading list!This New Yorker piece from 2019 outlines how noise pollution might be the next public health crisis. Since that article, there's been even more research showing that noise can take years off of our lives. So, you've heard lots of sounds in this episode. But do you want to see what sounds look like? Click here — and this is not clickbait!Ethan Kross, who is a psychologist and neuroscientist, wrote a whole book about noise — the noise in your head, to be precise. It's called Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It.Mercede Erfanian's research into misophonia and soundscapes is fascinating. You can hear her speak on the subject of different kinds of sounds in a show aired from 1A, or watch her presentation on the effects that soundscapes have on humans. CREDITSHost: Nate HegyiReported and produced by Jeongyoon HanMixed by Jeongyoon Han and Taylor QuimbyEdited by Taylor Quimby, with help from Nate Hegyi, Jessica Hunt, and Felix PoonExecutive producer: Rebecca LavoieSpecial thanks toMusic by Blue Dot Sessions, Edvard Grieg, and Mike Franklyn.Our theme music is by Breakmaster Cylinder.Outside/In is a production of New Hampshire Public Radio.If you've got a question for the Outside/Inbox hotline, give us a call! We're always looking for rabbit holes to dive down into. Leave us a voicemail at: 1-844-GO-OTTER (844-466-8837). Don't forget to leave a number so we can call you back.
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Join Our Spam Free Newsletter: https://restorativefamilyservices.com/ Episode Introduction: You're indestructible when you're in your power — tune in to find out more! Episode Summary: In this week's episode of the Rise Station Podcast, we're continuing our previous episode on how to stand in your power. Tune in as we discuss 10 additional tips to help you ensure you're staying true to yourself. Rise Tribe Takeaways: How to Stand In Your Power: [Check episode 174 for tips 1-10] 11. Be selective. 12. Never allow people to convince you that your goals are not realistic. 13. Give compliments from a place of wholeness and admiration, not lack. 14. Be curious. 15. Understand that every individual has their own journey. 16. Protect and celebrate your uniqueness. 17. Understand that people will try to disrupt your journey, don't let that impact your focus. 18. Allow people to win or lose you. 19. Understand the importance of a good fit. 20. Be patient — there's a right time for everything. Help us grow and reach out to more amazing individuals such as yourself by leaving a positive rating + review on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/rise-station/id1565362467 Connect With Us: Email: media@restorativefamilyservices.com Website: https://restorativefamilyservices.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/restorativefamily/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RestorativeFS Stand In Your Power, Personal Empowerment, Self-Empowerment, Confidence Building, Inner Strength, Assertiveness Skills, Self-Confidence, Overcoming Self-Doubt, Self-Worth, Emotional Resilience, Mindset Shift, Personal Growth, Empowerment Podcast, Self-Care Practices, Authenticity, How to Stand in Your Power and Live Authentically, Tips for Building Self-Confidence and Personal Empowerment, How to Overcome Self-Doubt and Embrace Inner Strength, The Power of Self-Worth and How to Harness It, Transform Your Mindset to Boost Confidence and Resilience, Personal Growth Strategies for Stepping Into Your Power, Unlock Your True Potential and Live a More Empowered Life, Empowerment Tips for Women, Learn How to Develop Emotional Resilience and Self-Confidence, Rise Station Podcast
TRIGGER WARNING: SEXUAL ASSAULT Join Our Spam Free Newsletter: https://restorativefamilyservices.com/ Episode Introduction: In a world of power dynamics, it's time to stand in your own — tune in to find out more! Episode Summary: In this week's episode of the Rise Station Podcast, we're talking about the importance of standing in your power. We start by discussing the latest case of P Diddy's abuse victims and how power dynamics are at play in such a situation. We then go on to discuss 10 tips on how to stand in your power and be assertive. This episode discusses some really heavy themes with a practical action-based approach. Rise Tribe Takeaways: How to Stand In Your Power: Understand that you are the expert on you. No one can make you do anything. Build mental muscles. Be willing to do without or delay gratification. Listen to your inner knowing. Turn your pain into purpose. Set healthy boundaries. Spend time alone. Create a routine that balances leisure and goal attainment. Communicate consistently and assertively. Help us grow and reach out to more amazing individuals such as yourself by leaving a positive rating + review on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/rise-station/id1565362467 Connect With Us: Email: media@restorativefamilyservices.com Website: https://restorativefamilyservices.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/restorativefamily/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RestorativeFS Stand In Your Power, Personal Empowerment, Self-Empowerment, Confidence Building, Inner Strength, Assertiveness Skills, Self-Confidence, Overcoming Self-Doubt, Self-Worth, Emotional Resilience, Mindset Shift, Personal Growth, Empowerment Podcast, Self-Care Practices, Authenticity, How to Stand in Your Power and Live Authentically, Tips for Building Self-Confidence and Personal Empowerment, How to Overcome Self-Doubt and Embrace Inner Strength, The Power of Self-Worth and How to Harness It, Transform Your Mindset to Boost Confidence and Resilience, Personal Growth Strategies for Stepping Into Your Power, Unlock Your True Potential and Live a More Empowered Life, Empowerment Tips for Women, Learn How to Develop Emotional Resilience and Self-Confidence, Rise Station Podcast
In this episode of The 1000 Hours Outside Podcast, host Ginny Yurich sits down with Ethan Kross, author of the bestselling book Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why it Matters and How to Harness It. Together, they delve into the powerful role of our inner voice, offering practical tools like distant self-talk to manage negative thought loops. They explore the profound impact of nature on mental well-being, the nuances of social relationships and venting, and even touch on strategies for parents and individuals to navigate life's stressors. With additional insights from his upcoming book, Shift, Ethan Kross also provides listeners with actionable ways to manage their emotions and foster resilience. ** Purchase your copy of Chatter here. Pre-order Ethan's book Shift here. ** Download your free 1000 Hours Outside tracker here >> https://www.1000hoursoutside.com/trackers Find everything you need to kick off your 1000 Hours Outside Journey here >> https://www.1000hoursoutside.com/blog/allthethings Order of copy of Ginny's newest book, Until the Streetlights Come On here >> https://amzn.to/3RXjBlN Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ever wrestled with the relentless voice in your head that magnifies every slip-up and whispers doubts at the worst possible moments? I had the privilege of sitting down with Ethan Kross, an acclaimed authority on controlling the conscious mind and the inner mechanisms that govern our self-talk. Together, we dissect the phenomenon of ‘chatter', those pesky negative thought loops that can ambush our emotional equilibrium. With a blend of personal insights and evidence-based strategies, this episode will you with the arsenal you need to tame these internal foes and lead a more poised, positive life We start by dissecting some common misunderstandings, shedding light on the importance of balancing emotional expression with solution-focused problem-solving when engaging with our own or other's personal or professional challenges. Also, learn how to navigate the intricate dance of giving and receiving support with the finesse that builds true connections and effective leadership. Next, we delve into the advent of the digital age, which has woven social media so intimately into our lives that it's become a double-edged sword; capable of slicing through our confidence or defending our sense of community. Later in our conversation, we navigate the intricacies of how these platforms can amplify our internal chatter or, conversely, serve as lifelines of support and understanding. Finally, we explore the transformative role of your environment on your mental chatter as we discuss how external factors can become critical allies in your quest for tranquility. From the calming influence of nature to the orderliness of your living and working space, discover how your surroundings can contribute to a more harmonious inner life. Join us for this immersive episode and leave feeling empowered to optimize the emotional tools at your disposal for a life with less chatter and more clarity. What You'll learn - The link between emotional and social pain - The pros and cons of social media in managing our inner monologue - The transformative role of rituals and structured behavior in managing our chatter - How to give and receive emotional support. - The answers lie within – why we hold the key to our chatter Podcast Timestamps (00:00) – An Introduction to Chatter (14:15) - Understanding the Impact of Social Media (25:45) – The Power of Rituals (30:01) – How to Effectively Give and Receive Support (33:07) – Our Environment Shapes Our Chatter (44:51) –On the Importance of Negative Emotions and the Perils of Toxic Positivity Key Topics Discussed: Self-Leadership, Self-Awareness, Negative Thought Spirals, Emotional Well-Being, Rituals, Emotional Expression, Inner Critic, Self-Talk, Mental Mastery, Emotional Intelligence, Emotional Mastery, Resilience, Personal Growth More of Ethan: Ethan Kross is a renowned expert on controlling the conscious mind, an award-winning professor, and a bestselling author at the University of Michigan's top-ranked Psychology Department and Ross School of Business. He investigates how self-talk impacts health, performance, decisions, and relationships. Born and raised in Brooklyn, he graduated magna cum laude from the University of Pennsylvania and earned his PhD in Psychology from Columbia University, followed by a postdoctoral fellowship in social-affective neuroscience. Kross's research is widely published and has garnered significant media attention. He is the author of the national bestseller "Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why it Matters and How to Harness It," and resides in Ann Arbor with his family. LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ekross/ More of Do Good to Lead Well: Website: https://craigdowden.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/craigdowden/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/craig-dowden/message
In today's episode, I share some advice I absolutely LOVED from Ethan Kross's book Chatter: The Voice in our Head and How to Harness It about the importance of using our own name to pull ourselves out of our unhelpful thoughts. The Language Confidence Project is back! AND we're now on YouTube! Find me at https://youtube.com/@thelangconprojectpodcast for daily, colourful and face to face messages of encouragement on your language journey! Read the full podcast transcript at www.languageconfidenceproject.com/podcast/s6e3 Come and say hi! Book a 100 Conversations Project call with me: https://calendly.com/teawithemily/100conversations Get access to the weekly Creative Space for group work and study, a monthly Q&A, and discounted workshops: patreon.com/TheLanguageConfidenceProject Join your host, Emily Richardson, every weekday for a short and snappy dose of language courage to get you unstuck, whether you love languages or whether you really don't, but need to learn one anyway. Emily is the tiny and colourful creator of The Language Confidence Project, formerly Tea with Me, a platform to help multi-passionate and unconventional language learners splash language into every part of their lives. She is also the author of the How to Be Me series of language journals to help you to tell the stories that really matter in your new language. Join her on Instagram at @teawithemily or visit her website at www.languageconfidenceproject.com A huge thank you to Samuel Peter Davies for the happiest music in the world, and to Anna Bovi Diamond for using every colour in the box on the cover art.
In this episode, Sarah highlights the amazing realities of our inner voice, as described by Ethan Kross in his book "Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It". Learn the truth behind why, we as humans, evolved to have an inner voice and what its original use was. And be introduced to the seven methods Kross suggests we use to distance ourselves from our inner voice to help us become more calm, centered, and fulfilled. Buy Chatter by Ethan Kross on AmazonTSD Mindfulness Virtual Meditation Center FREE monthly meditation group meets the third Saturday of each month at 10:00 AM New York Time/3:00 PM London Time. Third Saturday of each month. Join us, April 20, 2024. Register at https://www.tsdmind.org/groupImportant links:TSD Mindfulness Virtual Meditation Center https://www.tsdmind.orgSarah's Mindfulness Coaching website: https://www.sarahvallely.comThe Aware Mind on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/TSD_Mindfulness/This episode is a meditation for beginners, and mindfulness for beginners resource. Intermediate and advanced meditators will also benefit. The Aware Mind produces content that supports stress reduction, anxiety relief, better concentration and focus, and trauma healing.The Aware Mind is produced by TSD Mindfulness, a virtual meditation center, offering mindfulness classes, certifications and private coaching for people with past trauma, anxiety and depression disorders, business leaders, and people who work in the helping professions (i.e. counselors, healers and yoga and meditation teachers).
In this episode, Professor Ethan Kross, author of "Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It," explores the pervasive issue of chatter in human life. Defined as the negative aspect of our inner voice, chatter often leads to rumination and worry instead of problem-solving. Professor Kross delves into the evolutionary purpose of the inner voice, highlighting its role in language use for navigation and survival. He explains the inner voice's functions, from being part of the 'Verbal Working Memory System' to aiding in simulation, planning, self-control, and creating life narratives. Despite its benefits, chatter presents challenges such as difficulty focusing, relationship friction, irritability, and health issues associated with chronic stress. Professor Kross reveals the science-based toolkit available to regain control of the inner voice, emphasizing the effectiveness of rituals in creating order and control. Drawing on examples like tennis great Rafael Nadal, who uses rituals to manage inner voices during play, Professor Kross encourages individuals to find unique combinations of tools that work best for them. He reassures listeners that experiencing chatter is a universal aspect of being human and introduces the episode's central theme: understanding and managing the human condition of chatter. Half our day is spent not living in the moment. Here's how to change that. Your inner voice isn't always very nice or helpful. When we turn our attention inward, we tend to focus on problems rather than solutions. This causes us to worry, ruminate, and catastrophize, which traps us in a negative thought cycle. The good news is that there is a science-based toolkit that can help you regain control of your inner voice. To learn even more from the world's biggest thinkers, get Big Think+ for your business: https://bigthink.com/plus/ ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- chapters:- 0:00 intro about our inner voice, chatter. 1:04 purpose, advantages and benefits of the inner voice 2:43 negative implications (lack of focus, friction in relationships, health, etc) 4:17 how to regain control and manage our inner voice. 6:14 are you weaker for experiencing chatter? is it natural to experience chatter? ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- About Big Think | Smarter Faster™ ► Big Think The leading source of expert-driven, educational content. With thousands of videos, featuring experts ranging from Bill Clinton to Bill Nye, Big Think helps you get smarter, faster by exploring the big ideas and core skills that define knowledge in the 21st century. Get Smarter, Faster. With Episodes From The Worlds Biggest Thinkers. Follow The Podcast And Turn On The Notifications!! Share This Episode If You Found It Valuable Leave A 5 Star Review... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this compilation episode I want to share three helpful practices from previous episodes to help you overcome negative thinking, silence the chatter in your mind, deal with ruminations, catastrophizing, and intrusive thoughts. FEATURED EPISODES Ep. 386 Mindwandering with Moshe Bar Ep. 148 The Upside of Your Dark Side with Todd Kashdan, PhD Ep. 324 Developing Psychological Flexibility with Diana Hill, PhD Ep. 294 The Voice in Your Head and How to Harness It with Ethan Kross SUPPORT THE SHOW, SHOW YOUR LOVE Become a patron on Patreon.com Make a one-time donation in any amount to say “Thank you!” Rate or write a review FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast HOW TO WORK WITH ANNA I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! All listeners get 10% off on my services. Private Coaching GET IN TOUCH Comments, questions, feedback, and love notes USA listeners call 732-763-2576 and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website Email: info@authenticparenting.com STAY CONNECTED Instagram Facebook Group-Authentic Parenting Community Thank you for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com
Have you ever wondered why we have an inner voice? Today, I talk to Ethan Kross, an award-winning psychologist and author of the national bestseller, Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It. In our conversation, we discuss the benefits and pitfalls of having an inner voice. He also shares some tools on how to harness your inner voice to combat anxiety, improve physical and mental health, and deepen your relationships with others. ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is the host Mindful Parenting Podcast (Top 0.5% podcast ), global speaker, number 1 bestselling author of “Raising Good Humans” and “Raising Good Humans Every Day,” Mindfulness Meditation teacher and creator of the Mindful Parenting Course and Teacher Training. Find more podcasts, Hunter's books, blog posts, free resources, and more at MindfulMamaMentor.com. Discover your Unique-To-You Podcast Playlist at mindfulmamamentor.com/quiz/ We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: /mindfulmamamentor.com/mindful-mama-podcast-sponsors/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Some of the most profound feedback I have received over the four seasons of The Mojo Sessions from listeners worldwide is people wanting to find a sense of peace, contentment and ultimate happiness... finding a sense of self. This Megamix is a series of 5 episodes that get to the heart of this subject... How do we feel good about ourselves and our lives? As we close the season, it seemed appropriate to reflect on one of the biggest issues facing us: who we are, what makes us happy, and how we find peace, contentment, and personal fulfilment. It's one free-flowing mega episode, five conversations so that you can listen to them back to back. The beauty of the podcast is that the sessions live on and many people who recently have found the sessions may not go back to session 1 2 or 3 to see what's there. So we pick the theme, select some gold and put it together into a megamix. Ethan Kross - Ethan is the author of "Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It". How do we control our spirally inner narrative, the monkey mind, that chatter we all have that can be so disempowering? Starts - 00:07:30 Laura Gassner Otting - I have included this conversation because so many people said that they related such a lot to Wonderhell, that place between having success and thinking, "Oh... Can I do that again? Was it a one-off? Was I just lucky?"... that's Wonderhell. Starts - 01:33:14 Dr Amy Silver - Amy is a psychologist and author who discusses the management of emotions for high performance and well-being. Her book, 'The Loudest Guest: How to Change and Control Your Relationship with Fear, ' is about managing our fears- what they are, how they impact us, and what the key steps are to change our relationship with fear. To find peace, we need to control the loudest guest, fear. Starts- 02:47:26 Beth Kempton - Early in The Mojo Session series, we met the beautiful Beth Kempton, author of Wabi Sabi. Wabi Sabi is a Japanese term for finding perfection in our imperfections. This is a profound conversation for anyone wanting to be in the moment, find peace, notice our surroundings and be genuinely present. Often, I get comments from people who took a great deal from this conversation. Starts - 03:51:45 Matthew Dicks - Matthew has an extraordinary backstory and is arguably one of the world's great storytellers. This conversation covers not only how to build and tell a great story but also, essentially, how we can slow time. Matthew shows us that by being conscious of moments, we can start to take back the hands of time. A lot here can apply to our business world, particularly for our brand. Starts at - 05:10:36
Welcome to another enlightening episode of Unmistakable Creative, where we delve into the mind's intricacies with our esteemed guest, Ethan Kross. A renowned psychologist and author, Ethan Kross, is a leading expert in controlling the inner voice that often leads us astray. In this episode, titled 'Ethan Kross | How to Deal With The Voice in Your Head,' we explore the science behind self-talk and how it influences our emotions and decisions.Ethan Kross shares his profound insights on how we can harness the power of our inner voice to improve our mental health and overall well-being. He presents fascinating research findings from his book, 'Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It.' This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to understand their inner dialogue and use it as a tool for personal growth.Join us on this enlightening journey with Ethan Kross and learn how to master your inner voice. Discover the strategies to transform your self-talk from a source of stress into a valuable tool for problem-solving and emotional management. Don't miss out on this opportunity to gain a deeper understanding of your mind and unlock your potential. Tune in to 'Ethan Kross | How to Deal With The Voice in Your Head' on Unmistakable Creative. Subscribe for ad-free interviews and bonus episodes https://plus.acast.com/s/the-unmistakable-creative-podcast. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
In this episode of The Human Upgrade you'll find out how to harness the power of your inner voice to ease anxiety, improve physical and mental health, and deepen your relationship with others. “The mind is flexible, if we know how to bend it,” says psychologist and award-winning professor Ethan Kross, Ph.D., founder of the Emotion & Self Control Laboratory at the University of Michigan.He's one of the world's leading experts in controlling the conscious mind. He studies the ways in which your inner voice impacts your health, performance, decisions and relationships. He explores how people manage their emotions in order to better understand self-control. In particular, the conversations you have with yourself directly impact every part of your health and life.He explain that your inner voice functions to do things like this:Keep information active in your mindCoach you through problemsSimulate and plan aheadTell you storiesThat inner voice can be a powerful tool, giving you creativity, connection and definition. However, when the voice turns to negative and disorienting self-talk (chatter), it can create chaos and overwhelm by zooming into our problems, making you lose perspective.Ethan's pioneering research mixes behavioral and brain research to get at the “why” behind human nature. He uses insights from his research to give people science-based tools they can use to change their behavior, be used in relationships, support a career move, improve physical performance, decrease stress, increase productivity and be used to reach life goals. You'll use new tools like mental time travel, tough love and introspection.In this conversation about his book, “CHATTER: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It,” you'll learn: How social media plays a part in our chatterHow to zoom out with a flexible mind, changing thoughts and distancing ourselvesHow to use tough loveHow to teach your kids about chatter from a young ageHow to help your friends with their own chatter (and what makes it worse)With Ethan's experience studying the conscious mind for 20 years, you can learn how to turn negativity into an awesome tool that helps you master your own self-talk.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Dr. Ethan Kross is a psychologist, author, and professor at the University of Michigan, where he is the founder and director of the Emotion & Self Control Laboratory. His research focuses on emotional regulation and the benefits of mastering one's inner voice. Ethan is the author of international bestseller Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It. Ethan joins the podcast to discuss the advantages and potential pitfalls of introspection, the relationship between goal-setting and self-control, and why all emotions are useful if experienced in the right dosages.
Humans are noisy. The National Park Service estimates that all of our whirring, grinding, and revving machines are doubling or even tripling global noise pollution every 30 years. A lot of that noise is negatively affecting wildlife and human health. Maybe that's why we're so consumed with managing our sonic environments, with noise-cancelling headphones and white noise machines — and sometimes, we get into spats with our neighbors, as one of our guests did…So for this episode, producer Jeongyoon Han takes us on an exploration of three sonic landscapes: noise, silence, and something in between. Featuring Rachel Buxton, Jim Connell, Stan Ellis, Mercede Erfanian, Nora Ma, and Rob Steadman. SUPPORTOutside/In is made possible with listener support. Click here to become a sustaining member of Outside/In. Subscribe to our newsletter (it's free!).Follow Outside/In on Instagram or join our private discussion group on Facebook.Submit a question to the “Outside/Inbox.” We answer queries about the natural world, climate change, sustainability, and human evolution. You can send a voice memo to outsidein@nhpr.org or leave a message on our hotline, 1-844-GO-OTTER (844-466-8837). LINKSBehavioral ecologist Miya Warrington and her colleagues found that Savannah sparrows changed the tune of their love songs as a result of noisy oil fields in Alberta, Canada (The New York Times)Bats have changed their day-to-day habits because of traffic noise, according to research conducted in the U.K.Natural sounds are proven to improve health, lower stress, and have positive effects on humans. Rachel Buxton and her colleagues wrote about that in their study from 2021.Erica Walker's organization, the Community Noise Lab, monitors noise levels in Boston, Providence, and Jackson, Mississippi. You can read more about her work in this article from Harvard Magazine.Are you interested in going to a Quiet Parks International-designated quiet park? The organization has a list of spaces across the world that they've certified. Here's a radio story from NPR that serves as an homage to John Cage's 4'33”. If you were ever curious about why bird songs are good for you… This article from the Washington Post should be on the top of your reading list!This New Yorker piece from 2019 outlines how noise pollution might be the next public health crisis. Since that article, there's been even more research showing that noise can take years off of our lives. So, you've heard lots of sounds in this episode. But do you want to see what sounds look like? Click here — and this is not clickbait!Ethan Kross, who is a psychologist and neuroscientist, wrote a whole book about noise — the noise in your head, to be precise. It's called Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It.Mercede Erfanian's research into misophonia and soundscapes is fascinating. You can hear her speak on the subject of different kinds of sounds in a show aired from 1A, or watch her presentation on the effects that soundscapes have on humans. CREDITSHost: Nate HegyiReported and produced by Jeongyoon HanMixed by Jeongyoon Han and Taylor QuimbyEditing by Taylor Quimby, with help from Nate Hegyi, Jessica Hunt, and Felix PoonExecutive producer: Rebecca LavoieMusic from Blue Dot Sessions, Edvard Greeg, and Mike Franklyn.Our theme music is by Breakmaster Cylinder.Outside/In is a production of New Hampshire Public Radio
Steve & Mark answer your listener questions. They discuss... - How much did Kyle's helicopter rescue cost? (Kyle SOS and rescue story is in Episode 389) - Does the wider K4 Hipbelt cause any pinching or limit mobility? - Where is the line between staying tough and staying safe when solo hunting in difficult conditions? - How is the K4 Load Shelf accessed, and how does it function compared to K3 Packs? - What are some book recommendations for hunting, training, mindset, and becoming a better man in general? (See the links below for some suggestions from Mark.) - What does the "K" in K4 stand for? - How do you change the frame height on the K4 Frame? K4 Updates & Giveaway: https://exomtngear.com/K4 // Mark's Reading Recommendations // There is a lot of variety in this list. Also, there are a lot of good "classics" and currently "popular" books that hunters may like, which Mark did not include, such as those from O'Connor, Rinella, Goggins, Hanes, etc. The goal of this list is to share books that Mark has found helpful on a variety of topics — from hunting, to business, to personal development, to history, and more... - Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones (https://amzn.to/3EEjKDt) - The Daily Stoic: 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and the Art of Living (https://amzn.to/3IPdiMw) - Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World (https://amzn.to/3J00G5n) - Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less (https://amzn.to/3StXQIE) - Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It (https://amzn.to/41sfGA3) - Resilience: Hard-Won Wisdom for Living a Better Life (https://amzn.to/3IwwvBh) - Building a StoryBrand: Clarify Your Message So Customers Will Listen (https://amzn.to/3ImfmKg) - Undaunted Courage: Meriwether Lewis, Thomas Jefferson and the Opening of the American West (https://amzn.to/3YZPsDq) - The Principle of the Path: How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be (https://amzn.to/3YQypUd) - The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: 30th Anniversary Edition (https://amzn.to/3ZlUGt1) - Move Devotional: A Guide for Men to Get Up and Go Forward (https://amzn.to/3Su6Ld7) - A Beast the Color of Winter: The Mountain Goat Observed (https://amzn.to/3Sznxb6) - Life on the Rocks: A Portrait of the American Mountain Goat (https://amzn.to/3knYDP1) - An Archer's Inner Life: A Collection of Essays on the Wood Bow (https://amzn.to/3YXigMB) - Hunting Big Mule Deer: How to Take the Best Buck of Your Life (https://amzn.to/3KAsdLB) - Long Range Shooting Handbook: Complete Beginner's Guide to Long Range Shooting (https://amzn.to/3m6NVwA) - Becoming a Backpack Hunter: A Beginner's Guide to Hunting the Backcountry (https://amzn.to/41sEeJo) - Vintage Hunting Album: A Photographic Collection of Days Gone By (https://amzn.to/3ECz3fQ) - A Hunter's Heart: Honest Essays on Blood Sport (https://amzn.to/3xOmeeD) - Campfires in the Canadian Rockies (https://www.boone-crockett.org/camp-fires-canadian-rockies) Share your question: https://speakpipe.com/huntbackcountry or podcast@exomtngear.com View & Search the Podcast Archive: https://exomtngear.com/podcast
Today I am joined on the Pasion Struck podcast by the award-winning psychologist and author Dr. Ethan Kross, who reveals the hidden power of our inner voice and how we can harness it to live healthier, more satisfying, and more productive lives. Dr. Kross is the author of "Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It." What We Discuss About The Power of Our Inner Voice Ethan Kross delves into the inner dialogue we engage in with ourselves. Through research from his lab and real-world examples, such as a struggling pitcher and a spy balancing her dual identities, Kross demonstrates how these internal conversations shape our lives, careers, and relationships. He cautions that succumbing to negative self-talk, referred to as "chatter" by Kross, can harm our physical and mental health, undermine our mood, damage our social connections, and make us falter under stress. Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://passionstruck.com/ethan-kross-power-of-our-inner-voice/ Brought to you by Policygenius. --► For information about advertisers and promo codes, go to: https://passionstruck.com/deals/ --► Prefer to watch this interview: https://youtu.be/i_Qwtwcv0yg Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter or Instagram handle so we can thank you personally! --► Subscribe to Our YouTube Channel Here: https://www.youtube.com/c/JohnRMiles Want to find your purpose in life? I provide my six simple steps to achieving it - passionstruck.com/5-simple-steps-to-find-your-passion-in-life/ Want to hear my best interviews from 2022? Check out episode 233 on intentional greatness and episode 234 on intentional behavior change. ===== FOLLOW ON THE SOCIALS ===== * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/passion_struck_podcast * Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/johnrmiles.c0m Learn more about John: https://johnrmiles.com/
No matter how good you are at giving advice to others, it is always difficult to follow your own advice. Since you're able to provide solid advice to your friends and colleagues, it's clear that the advice you need for yourself is lurking somewhere inside of you. How do we access that information and then start to use it in our own professional and personal lives? In this episode, we tackle the negative mindsets that are blocking your progress.First, Michael Hyatt and Megan Hyatt Miller provide three steps to coach your thinking so you can get better results. The insights come from their new book Mind Your Mindset: The Science That Shows Success Starts With Your Thinking. Pre-order the book today at www.mindyourmindsetbook.com.After that, Joel Miller speaks with author Ethan Kross about some of the findings in his book, Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It.For more podcasts, visit www.businessaccelerator.com/podcast.The Business Accelerator podcast is a reflection of the values and processes inside the BusinessAccelerator coaching program. If you want a free Business Growth Coaching Call, visit www.businessaccelerator.com/coach.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
No matter how good you are at giving advice to others, it is always difficult to follow your own advice. Since you're able to provide solid advice to your friends and colleagues, it's clear that the advice you need for yourself is lurking somewhere inside of you. How do we access that information and then start to use it in our own professional and personal lives? In this episode, we tackle the negative mindsets that are blocking your progress.First, Michael Hyatt and Megan Hyatt Miller provide three steps to coach your thinking so you can get better results. The insights come from their new book Mind Your Mindset: The Science That Shows Success Starts With Your Thinking. Pre-order the book today at www.mindyourmindsetbook.com.After that, Joel Miller speaks with author Ethan Kross about some of the findings in his book, Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It.For more podcasts, visit www.businessaccelerator.com/podcast.The Business Accelerator podcast is a reflection of the values and processes inside the BusinessAccelerator coaching program. If you want a free Business Growth Coaching Call, visit www.businessaccelerator.com/coach.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
When you see a construction site where there is sandblasting going on, you probably shouldn't hang around. This episode begins with an explanation of the problem sandblasting poses to anyone nearby. Source: Dr. Paul Blanc author of “How Everyday Products Make People Sick” (https://amzn.to/3iug5Me) You have a voice inside your head. It talks to you all the time and tells you good things and bad things. It can be a positive coach or a negative critic. Where does that voice come from? How can you use that voice to your advantage? Find out by listening to my guest Ethan Kross. He is an award-winning psychologist, professor at the University of Michigan and author of the book Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It (https://amzn.to/38XXEwa) While meetings can be good and are often necessary, it does seem that a lot of meetings are a big waste of time. Wouldn't it be great if you could make meetings better? You absolutely can according to my guest Mamie Kanfer Stewart. She is founder of a company called Meeteor (www.meeteor.com) which helps businesses improve the quality of meetings. Marnie is coauthor of the book Momentum: Creating Effective, Engaging and Enjoyable Meetings (https://amzn.to/2XXL2yT). Listen as she offers some easy ways to make your meeting more productive and engaging. When was the last time you checked your tires – REALLY checked them? You may not realize it, but your tires can lose half of the air in them before they even start to look flat. Having underinflated tires can cause all kinds of problems and cost a lot of money. Listen as I explain those problems and how to prevent them. Source: https://bit.ly/3oYpjmj PLEASE SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS! To match with a licensed therapist today, go to https://TalkSpace.com and use the promo code SYSK to get $100 off of your first month and show your support for the show! TurboTax experts can relieve you from the stress of taxes and file for you so you can do… not taxes! Come to TurboTax and don't do your taxes. Visit https://TurboTax.com to learn more. Intuit TurboTax. Did you know you could reduce the number of unwanted calls & emails with Online Privacy Protection from Discover? - And it's FREE! Just activate it in the Discover App. See terms & learn more at https://Discover.com/Online Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Today we are talking with Katie Bean. Author& Director of Prevention and Advocacy at Ursinus College With a mission to Be the Change she wants to see in the world, Katie Bean empowers individuals and teams to focus inward to increase happiness and sustain satisfying and productive lives. Katie works to improve campus well-being as the Director of Prevention and Advocacy at Ursinus College. With over 15 years of teaching in various settings, Katie felt called to become a Yoga Teacher in 2017 to share with others the healing power of yoga that she experienced in her own life. Her first book, Fragile Thoughts: a healing memoir will be out May, 2023 with New Degree Press. My Website: beanagent4change.com Learning Circles: book club with a self-study twist meets twice a month: Tuesdays from 745pm-9pm on Zoom Participants receive a curated list of podcasts and videos to further delve into the content of the month. Sign up via Nectar Yoga Studio https://nectaryogastudio.com/?page_id=36 January: Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It by Ethan Cross February: Educated by Tara Westover March: When the Body Says No: Understanding the Stress-Disease Connection by Gabor Mate April: Between Two Kingdoms:A Memoir of Life Interrupted by Suleika Jaouad Every day, tune in to the "Daily Shot of Inspiration" podcast for a quick, uplifting dose of motivation and positivity. Our host, Joe Longo, a certified life coach, will share inspiring stories, practical tips, and helpful advice to help you overcome challenges, pursue your goals, and live your best life. Whether you're feeling stuck, stressed, or just in need of a little inspiration, the "Daily Shot of Inspiration" podcast has something for everyone. Join us for a daily dose of motivation, positivity, and inspiration – and start living your best life today! Now you can become a subscriber; you'll get access to ad-free episodes and exclusive bonus content, including oracle card readings and meditations. CLICK HERE TO SUBSCRIBE Join the New Year Five Day Mindfulness Challange CLICK HERE Work with Joe CLICK HERE Join The Monday Night Manifestation Mastermind Group CLICK HERE Download a FREE Gratitude Meditation - CLICK HERE Join me in StudioBe for Kundalini Yoga every Wednesday from 7-8 PM EST and Get your FREE 14 DAY TRIAL HERE Follow Joe on Instagram Follow Joe on TikTok Music by Aiyo provided from EPIDEMIC SOUND Need Music for your creative projects check our Epidemic Sound --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/dailyshotofinspiration/message
Happy New Year!! My guest is here to help us start the year in a healthier head space. Dr. Ethan Kross is one of the world's leading experts on controlling the conscious mind. An award-winning professor and bestselling author in the University of Michigan's top-ranked Psychology Department and its Ross School of Business, he studies how the conversations people have with themselves impact their health, performance, decisions, and relationships. We cover it all. He is the author of the National Bestseller "CHATTER: The Voice in Our Head, Why it Matters and How to Harness It." He explores the silent conversations we have with ourselves while interweaving groundbreaking behavioral and brain research from his lab with real-world case studies. He warns that giving in to negative and disorienting self-talk—what he calls "chatter"—can tank our health, sink our moods, strain our social connections, and cause us to fold under pressure. Produced by Dear Media This episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode.
In this episode, enjoy Lee's hugely popular monthly Energy Update where he takes the pulse of what's going on energetically, emotionally, and psychologically.Read the full text of this update here: https://www.leeharrisenergy.com/december-euSubscribe to Lee's channel so you can always stay up to date on his latest free videos: https://youtube.com/subscription_cent...Timestamps:01:30 - The Energetic LEAP (Dec 2022-April 2023) - A time of high transformation - HARNESS IT!05:16 - Staying quiet (internally and externally) is a powerful place to be right now07:20 - Underneath the chaos, seeds are being sown…which are yours?10:13 - Psychic overload needs grounding - be aware if you are newly getting connected to your spirit13:48 - Allowing trust to return - post trauma healing and a tender time of clearing, trusting again16:18 - Sobering truths that empower change - internal and external18:17 - Exhaustion and struggle becoming the anger + fire of change (positive or challenging depending on the event)20:55 - Where is the heart magic found and created and where it isn't
Oftentimes, it is our inner voice that gives us clarity and power — or then takes it all away without notice, leading us to tumble and fall from grace, into the rabbit hole of rumination and worry.How can we master the silent conversations we have with ourselves, and turn our inner voice from a critic to a coach? Why is empathic leadership much more than just creating the space for sharing and listening with intent? What can we do to covertly support others in managing their inner voice better without taking away their agency or shining a spotlight on their vulnerabilities?Listen to some cutting-edge scientific insights from Ethan Kross on how to tame our inner world, in an exclusive conversation with Prof. Hitendra Wadhwa, on Intersections Podcast.Ethan Kross is one of the world's leading experts on controlling the conscious mind. An award-winning professor and bestselling author in the University of Michigan's top ranked Psychology Department and its Ross School of Business, he has founded the Emotion & Self Control Laboratory and studies how the conversations people have with themselves impact their health, performance, decisions and relationships. Ethan is the author of the National Bestseller CHATTER: The Voice in Our Head, Why it Matters and How to Harness It, scheduled to be translated into 35+ languages. His research has been featured in leading platforms including Science, The New England Journal of Medicine, CBS Evening News, The New Yorker, Harvard Business Review, The Economist, The Atlantic, Forbes, and Time.In this Intersections episode, Ethan reveals:How our life's three most important domains can be severely compromised by our own inner voiceTwo ways our internal chatter can lead to disastrous interpersonal outcomes, and push those away who genuinely care about usHow we can recruit our minds to solve our problems at hand without falling down the rabbit hole of rumination and worryTwo key principles of empathic leadership that can help us curate a support network of people, both at work and in lifeThree ways to offer invisible chatter support to others without taking away their agency or shining a spotlight on their vulnerabilitiesTwo powerful tools that can help us become our own chatter coach, in both everyday and high-stakes situations
In This Episode: The difference between Reassurance seeking vs. holding in emotions Why Reassurance seeking OCD is problematic and keeps you stuch What tools you can use to help you manage emotions with OCD Links To Things I Talk About: ERP School: https://www.cbtschool.com/erp-school-lphttps://kimberleyquinlan-lmft.com/32-reduce-reassurance-seeking-behaviorscompulsions/ Newsletter https://www.cbtschool.com/newsletter Chatter Book:https://www.amazon.com/Chatter-Voice-Head-Matters-Harness/dp/0525575235 Episode Sponsor:This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety...If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 306. Welcome back, everybody. We are well and truly into OCD Awareness Week, and I have been so excited to be a part of some amazing awareness projects, being an advocate for the International OCD Foundation, doing a lot of social media on self-compassion this week. It's been such a treat. This week, I actually wanted to discuss a concept that I-- actually, I say this often these days, but I get asked this question a lot in some various forms by my clients, so I wanted to address this question that I got with you. This is actually a question from one of the people in ERP School, which is our online course for OCD. If you click the link here in the bio or you can go to CBTSchool.com, we have a course called ERP School where we teach, or I teach step by steps that I take with my patients on how to set up an ERP plan so that you can slowly face your fear and reduce your compulsions and take your life back from OCD. Reassurance Vs Holding In Emotions One of the members asked a question, and there's a whole portal in there where you can ask questions to me directly, and they asked: “I have a question to you regarding reassurance seeking.” They said, “I've been trying to stop doing my compulsions and my go-to is reassurance seeking.” “What is the difference between Reassurance vs holding in emotions?” Reassurance Seeking OCD Reassurance seeking is a type of compulsion where you usually go to Google or you go to a loved one or another person and you ask for reassurance on your fear or your uncertainty. They go on to say, “One thing I do understand about is why it's bad and how it keeps the cycle going.” So, they do understand that reassurance seeking OCD is a problem. They do understand how it keeps the OCD cycle going. We talk a lot in ERP School about this OCD cycle. It's a huge component of the treatment. We have to first understand the cycle so that we can then know how to stop the cycle. And they go on to say, “I know that I have to learn to rely on myself to manage my anxiety and seeking reassurance makes me dependent on others for my relief, which can increase my anxiety when they're not around. But I've always been told by friends and family that talking about things that are bothering you is healthy because that way you get it out as opposed to bottling it in. When I don't seek reassurance, I worry that I'm bottling it in and that the only way to feel better is to let it out by talking to others. How do I join these two seemingly healthy ideas?” This is such a core component of all the work that we do. And so, I really want to go deep into this with you here in just a sec. Now, before we move on, if you aren't quite sure about reassurance seeking yet, you can go back and listen to a previous podcast we did, Number 32, which is called How to Reduce Reassurance Seeking Behaviors. It's an amazing podcast episode that really goes deep into what is a reassurance compulsion. You can click that there. But let's talk more about this specific question. Before we do that, let's quickly do the review of the week. This is from Isha.Isha and they said: “An invaluable resource. I have read many books on anxiety and OCD, and yet I am continuously surprised to learn new things with this podcast. It is thought-provoking and brings forward new, helpful, and interesting content.” She went on to say: “Kimberly, your 6 Part series on Mental Compulsions has truly been life-changing for me. Despite reading dozens of books on OCD and Anxiety, including yours, I was astounded to realize how many mental compulsions I actually have. The approaches to dealing with them, suggested by a few of the guests (thank you, Hershfield, Nicely, and Reid), have been nothing short of miraculous for me. Thank you for your hard work here! It is deeply appreciated!” Again, you guys, if you go to CBT School and you sign up for our newsletter, you will be given a gift from me, which is a link where I have put all of those six-part mental compulsion audio files together and we've thrown in a whole bunch of PDFs that will help you really strategize your own way of managing mental compulsions. So, go sign up for the newsletter. If you go to CBTSchool.com, you'll be able to get access to it there. And then one more thing before we move on, let's quickly do the “I did a hard thing” segment. It sounds like this person who asked the question is doing hard things too, but this one was so fun, I wanted to share it with you. Anonymous says: “Having OCD has made wedding planning and the wedding process in general challenging for me. But this weekend, I made it to my bridal shower and I had the best time, even despite my OCD being along for the ride. I actually took the day as an opportunity to face the disorder head-on. I left feeling empowered as F***.” Amazing, Anonymous. I'm so happy and congratulations on your bridal shower. I hope you had the most incredible time. All right, so let's look at this question. Let's break it down. Okay. So, yes, this person has already shared they understand that reassurance-seeking keeps us in the OCD cycle, keeps the fear going strong, and only makes more problems. It makes problems for the person with OCD, but it also impacts the relationship. In fact, I would go as far as to say, those who engage in reassurance-seeking behaviors tend to have a bigger impact on their family members because they're constantly going to their family members saying, “Would this happen? Could it happen? Do you think it could happen? What would happen?” And that person, because they're not trained as a clinician, they don't know how to respond. They haven't been trained. Usually, they try many different ideas and it actually ends up making the person with OCD even more confused. And then that can create conflict in the relationship. We know this. We know that reassurance-seeking can be very, very problematic and we want to slowly reduce it. It sounds like this person is doing amazing work, but they've got this dilemma in saying, “But I thought I was supposed to let things out.” Let's take a look here. Managing emotions with OCD When you have an obsession, naturally, your instincts are, “How can I make this fear go away or this discomfort or feeling go away?” You're going to want to do a compulsion. The goal of ERP is to reduce those compulsions. So, now what are you doing? So, you're reducing the compulsion, you're not trying to get reassurance, and now you're handling a large degree of anxiety and stress. Yeah, that's true. You will have to rise and fall in discomfort. Absolutely. We know that that's a part of the work. Willingly, ride the wave of discomfort. So, what I want to say to you here is you have some choices. You could ride that wave on your own. Let it go high, let it go low, let it go up and down, do what it wants, and you can practice actually allowing that discomfort and really building a resilience to that as you go. Similar to what Anonymous said in “I did a hard thing” is they left feeling empowered. When we do it on our own, we can actually feel incredibly empowered. Now, that is one option. That doesn't mean to say that when things are really hard, naturally, we do want connection. That's what human beings want. So, sometimes we do want to go to our loved one and say, “I'm having a hard time.” But there's a really big difference between going to a loved one and saying, “I'm having a hard time. Will this bad thing happen? Or do you think it will happen?” and saying to your partner, “I'm going through some stuff right now, would you sit with me?” One is very compulsive and one is not. But this is where OCD can be very, very tricky. Sometimes, just having a partner there forms reassurance. If your fear is like, “Well, what if I'm going to go harm someone?” keeping them in the room, even though you're not talking, that can still serve as a reassurance because you're like, “Okay, they're here. They'll stop me if I'm going to do something bad and I snap.” So, we want to keep an eye out for how reassurance seeking doesn't have to be just verbal, it can be physical, it could be us just looking at them to see their face and go, “Okay, they look fine, they don't look stressed. Okay, that gives me the reassurance that nothing bad is happening.” Catch the little nuances that can happen here because as we know, OCD can be very, very sneaky. Again, we can use the option and it is healthy to go to your partner and say, “Hey, I'm really dealing with something. This is really hard. I'm riding a wave of discomfort.” But you're doing that without getting any reassurance, without seeking any reassurance, without them reducing or removing your uncertainty or anxiety. So, you can do that. There are ways to do it. But the main thing to remember here is, are you doing this with urgency? Because that's usually a very good sign that you're doing something compulsive. Are you doing it in attempt to reduce or remove your discomfort? If you're able to be in conversation with them and discuss and seek support from them without seeking it in an urgent way or trying to reduce or remove your discomfort, well then that's fine. But here is what I want you to consider just to start, is I am all for support. In fact, it is a human need to have support. But what I'm going to offer you is an idea, which is, when it comes to OCD, if you're going to them for support because of this discomfort, there is a chance you're still treating the fear like it's important, and you will suffer. I get that. You're going to have a lot of emotions. But if you have the emotions and you're like, “Oh my God, I feel so bad, I just have these thoughts, or having this anxiety,” and you're giving that too much attention by saying, “I need your support, I'm really, really suffering,” sometimes that in and of itself can actually reinforce the anxiety. I guess you're still probably thinking, well, what's the balance? And there is no perfect answer. I'm sorry, I can't give you a yes or a no. What I can say is, when it comes to OCD or anxiety, I personally am always going to encourage that you do it yourself as much as you can because that's where you actually learn how much you can actually tolerate. Remember here, anxiety is always going to be sneaky and say in the back of your mind, “Kimberley, just in case, just so you know, my anxiety is high, but I can really turn it up and freak you out, so you better be careful. Do your best to avoid me.” That's what anxiety says in some way or form. So, if we still treat ourselves as if we're really fragile, we can actually reinforce that belief in that thought or intrusive thought. So, I personally am always for myself going to say, “Okay, fear is here, how can I ride this one out 100% by myself?” and this is the key point to remember. Ask yourself in that moment, because you're probably having some pretty strong reactions right now. Ask yourself in this moment if you are having a strong reaction, “What is my strong reaction to that?” Is it “it's not fair”? Is it “that's uncool, that's too much to handle”? That just shows you where our work is and here is the key point. What is it that you want them to provide you? Is it warmth? Is it compassion? Is it relief from the shame you feel? Is it to know that they won't leave you or they're not judging you? What is it that they're, this one particular person in that moment, what is it that they can provide you? And now, can you provide it for yourself? Or, is this thing you're looking for even really that helpful? So if you're like, “Oh my gosh, I just need a safe place to land right now,” I beg for you to practice being the safe place to land. Not your partner, not your family, not your friends. You be that for you. You deserve to be the safe place to land. If there's a sneaky part of this where you're like, “No, I just want them to tell me that I'm good and not a terrible human being,” well, that is in fact still reassurance. Yes, we're all allowed to get that reassurance, but you have to ask yourself, is that reassurance a healthy reassurance or is it something keeping you stuck in the cycle? You get to choose. I'm not saying what's right or wrong here because each person is different. If I'm with a patient, we will look at this and go, “Okay, let's talk about why you want your partner to provide you support. What is it that the partner support provides you?” And we pull apart whether that support is in fact benefiting their long-term resilience and success in treatment or actually slowing them down. There's nothing wrong with getting support at all, but is this an opportunity where you can show up and be your best person? Be the first person that's standing there going, “I got you.” Mindfulness & Self Compassion For Reassurance Seeking Now here is the other piece of this, which is they're talking about bottling it in. Let's say you decide, “Kimberley, I'm on with this idea and I am going to commit to 30 days or seven days or one day or 10 minutes where I'm actually going to be the support for myself. I am going to practice my self-compassion skills, my mindfulness skills, my radical acceptance skills, and I'm going to be it for myself.” That doesn't mean you're technically bottling it in. Bottling it in is when you have the emotion and you shut it down and you refuse to let it pass through you and you hold it in and you pretend it's not there and you're faking your way through it. If sometimes you need to do that, that's still fine. But this question is around saying that's a problem. Now here's what I'm going to say. There's really no scientific evidence to say that bottling things in is particularly bad, because how do we know what's bottled in really? We can't really measure what's being bottled in, but we do know that if you don't talk to people and you aren't processing stuff that, yeah, it can create some problems. So, this again is, how can we be healthy in our expression and effective in our expression of what's going on for us? Can you journal? For me, this might sound a little weird, but I am a little weird, is when I really have something I've got to get off my chest, I record an audio, I take a walk. I leave my kids and my husband and I take a walk and I record an audio of me just venting it out because, the truth is – this was particularly true during covid – me venting it out to my partner when he's got his own stuff he's working on, he's also going through some things as well. It's not helpful for me to dump it on him, so I would audio it into myself and listen back and listen for things that I could maybe work on. So, there are ways. Another way is to practice just feeling your feelings. That's probably the most important thing I want to mention here and which is why I wanted to really report it, is feel your feelings instead of bottling them in. Now, we recently did an episode about this and how this idea of sitting with your emotions. Go back and listen to that because that's important. When we talk about feeling your feelings, it doesn't mean lashing out and having them all over the place and being really unskilled in how you manage them, and it also doesn't mean having your feelings and staring at the wall and just being like, “Oh my God, I'm just so overwhelmed with this feeling, but I'm sitting with it.” It's saying, while you go and engage with your life, you allow and embrace whatever emotions to come up. That's not bottling it in. You saying them out loud is not what's preventing you from bottling it in. They're two completely different concepts. Let's finish up by really talking about what is a healthy way to ride a wave of discomfort instead of having reassurance-seeking compulsions play out. You could journal, you could feel your feelings while you engage with your life, and use skills that you have, mindfulness skills, skills from this podcast. Go all the way back to the beginning. We've got tons of good stuff at the beginning of the podcast episodes where you can actually mindfully experience your emotions while also engaging in life. You could do those. You could also go and ask for support and say, “Hey, it's a really hard time. I just did a really hard exposure. My anxiety is really high. I don't want you to try and reduce or remove my anxiety, but your presence here is really wonderful. Thank you.” You could be the one who shows up for you radically so hard. You could be like, “Hey Kimberley, what do I need? What do you need right now? How can I show up for you? Do you need my fear support? Do you need my nurturing support? Do you need my champion support? What do you need? And I'm here for you, sister.” That's what I really want you to practice. You could also find an OCD therapist who's trained in ERP and say, “Hey, I'm working through some things. Can we talk about it in a way that doesn't provide me reassurance?” Because you trust that they understand how to not provide reassurance. And that can be a really helpful way. But there's one thing I want you to remember here at the very end. The reason I'm saying it at the very end is I think this is probably one of the most groundbreaking things that I learned just this year, and this has changed my marriage. I'm not going to lie, it's changed my marriage, which is this: At the beginning of this year, I read a book called Chatter. I will link it in the show notes. The book is-- let me pull it up really quick. The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It by Ethan Kross. It is an amazing book. One of the things that blew my mind was the research that venting actually increases a person's distress and does not benefit them. What? That is the opposite of what I have been trained in my career. I was trained that venting is a really healthy thing. I know some of you may be like, “Well, duh, I've had issues with this in my past.” But the truth is, it really showed the data on why venting actually makes us feel worse. It actually has a negative impact and there's no benefit to venting. So, I'm going to leave you to think about that because for me, when I read that, I can be-- I'm not going to lie, one of my not-so-great traits is I can be a little bit of a ventor. A ventor? Is that a thing? I can be a person who vents and unfortunately, my husband is the one who has to hear me process stuff. I'm a real process kind of person. What I realized when I learned this is, holy moly, I've been thinking that this is important and this keeps us connected, but the truth is, it doesn't. It doesn't impact me positively. It doesn't impact him positively, even though he is the most kind, supportive man in the history of the world. This is actually not a good behavior and I got to stop it. So, what I did is I called my best friend and I called my husband and I said, “From now on, I'm going to be much more mindful around venting. There will be times when I'm really struggling where I'm actually going to choose not to share about it in that moment. You might see that I'm spiraling on something.” I'm going to say, listen, now is not the time because I now understand the science that venting is not in fact beneficial. It just makes me feel worse and works me up more. So, I use all my tools and I double down and I ride the wave and I journal and I audio in and I ride the wave on my own. So, here are some ideas you take and choose what you want, but that's the main concepts I want you to consider. And there's your answer, is this whole idea of holding it in is not the only option. You can, in a healthy way, ride your emotions and your wave of anxiety and you can do it in a way that actually is very effective that doesn't require anybody else. However, if you require somebody, no problem. That's wonderful. I hope that you have the most amazing, supportive people in your life and it's all good. So, that is it. I hope that is helpful for you guys. We did go around and around into all of the little cracks and crevices of this topic. If you've got any questions, you can always let me know. Please do leave a review because I hope this is helpful for you. I will see you next week. Next week, I'm actually doing a little bit of a personal episode, talking about a few shifts that I've had with my own chronic illness and how it's impacted my own anxiety. All fun and games. Not really. No fun and games is what I should say. All right, my loves, have a wonderful day. Please do remember it is a beautiful day to do really freaking hard things. You're not alone because I'm doing the hard things and your friends are doing the hard things and all the people listening here, thousands and thousands of people are doing the hard things too. Have a wonderful day, everybody.
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Do ruminating thoughts regularly disrupt your sleep and keep you awake at night? In this episode of the Align podcast, Dr. Ethan Kross and I chat about how to effectively deal with chatter, and self-criticism. We also talk about high individualism as well as our relationship with others and our thoughts towards them. Lastly, we also touch on having internal dialogues to switch our overall perspective in life. Ethan Kross, PhD, is one of the world's leading experts on controlling the conscious mind. He is an award-winning professor at the University of Michigan and the Ross School of Business, and is the director of the Emotion & Self Control Laboratory. He has also participated in policy discussion at the White House and has been interviewed on CBS Evening News, Good Morning America, Anderson Cooper Full Circle, and NPR's Morning Edition. Ethan Kross, PhD, wrote a book called Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It 3:50: What are the physical toggles to change our state of mind? 6:33: How do we find our awe triggers? 8:25: Paradox of high individualism 11:52: When is self-criticism a good thing? 14:00: How can "splitting oneself" help in overcoming struggles? 16:00: How congruent is our relationship with ourselves and others? 18:23: Should we be held accountable for EVERY thought we have? 23:20: What is the value of shame? 29:10: Does our brain have sovereignty over life occurrences? 35:10: Can stillness help us perceive things more? 40:10: What are tools that we can use to lessen chatter? 48:07: Affectionate touch as another chatter fighting tool 56:49: Distanced self-talk and temporal distancing 1:02:46: How can we optimally show gratitude? To learn more about Ethan: Website: https://www.ethankross.com/ Thank you to our Sponsors: Ketone IQ: Use code ALIGN20 to save 20% (100 FIRST people ONLY): ketone-iq.com Kion: To save 20% on monthly deliveries or 10% on one time purchases go to: getkion.com/align Organifi: Use ALIGN during checkout to receive 20%: www.organifi.com/align BiOptimizers: Use code ALIGN10 during checkout to save 10% on Magnesium Breakthrough + FREE bottle of Masszymes (1000 FIRST people ONLY): magbreakthrough.com/alignpodcast
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If you like SelfWork because we talk about "what you can do about it," this interview will be incredibly helpful to you! As a therapist who focuses a lot on how to move from negative, destructive thinking to much more positive, motivating self-talk - I've learned that HOW you talk to yourself highly influences what you actually do. I've asked people who are fighting viciously with one another to imagine what they want their relationship to look like in five years - and all of a sudden, their communication improves or is less vitriolic. In order to distance from pain, someone will move from saying "I feel..," into referring to themselves in second tense. "When something like this happens, you feel...". It's good emotional management. It turns out these "techniques" have names or labels! Ethan Kross is a highly respected researcher from the University of Michigan - and his new book Chatter; The Voice In Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It identifies, verifies, and organizes these techniques for you! He's one of the world's leading experts on controlling the conscious mind and as an award-winning professor in the University of Michigan's top ranked Psychology Department and its Ross School of Business, he's the director of the Emotion & Self Control Laboratory. His research and teachings can show you how you can very purposefully change the way you talk to yourself so that you find more calm, resolution, creativity, and empowerment. And he tells animated stories of how that chatter can lead to struggle, giving Simone Biles as a recent example. She opted out of the last Olympics due to her awareness that her own thinking was negatively influencing her performance and in so doing, honored the idea that your mental well-being and inner life has to be considered when making decisions. So in this episode, sponsored by Athletic Greens or AG1, I know you'll be fascinated by his inspiring and useful ways of changing your inner conversation! Click Here for the fabulous offer from Athletic Greens - now AG1 - with bonus product with your subscription! You can hear more about this and many other topics by listening to my podcast, SelfWork with Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Subscribe to my website and receive my weekly newsletter including a blog post and podcast! If you'd like to join my FaceBook closed group, then click here and answer the membership questions! Welcome! My book entitled Perfectly Hidden Depression has been published and you can order here! Its message is specifically for those with a struggle with strong perfectionism which acts to mask underlying emotional pain. But the many self-help techniques described can be used by everyone who chooses to begin to address emotions long hidden away that are clouding and sabotaging your current life. And it's available in paperback, eBook or as an audiobook! And there's another way to send me a message! You can record by clicking below and ask your question or make a comment. You'll have 90 seconds to do so and that time goes quickly. By recording, you're giving SelfWork (and me) permission to use your voice on the podcast. I'll look forward to hearing from you!
Mindset has a lot more to do with just feelings and thoughts, it comes down to a science. Engage with Brad and LL as they recap psychologist, Kasey Jo Ordivas and her insights to overcoming fixed vs growth mindset and how it impacts seemingly small thoughts…like cooking;)If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co . And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:Fixed vs growth mindset Researching your thoughts The seven whysWriting out the feelings around imposter syndrome Episode References/Links:Kasey's Free Growth Journal promptsEthan Kross: Chatter The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox.ResourcesWatch the Be It Till You See It podcast on YouTube!Lesley Logan websiteBe It Till You See It PodcastOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley LoganOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley Logan on YouTubeProfitable PilatesSocial MediaInstagramFacebookLinkedInEpisode Transcript:Lesley Logan 0:01 Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast, where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guests will bring Bold, Executable, Intrinsic and Targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started.Brad Crowell 0:46 Hello!Lesley Logan 0:47 Welcome back to the Be It Till You See It interview recap where my co host in life Brad Crowell and I are going to talk about the shifting convo I had with Kasey Jo Orvidas in our last episode. If you haven't yet listened to that episode, go back, listen to that one, and then come back to this one, or listen to this one and listen to that one, or listen to this one and another one and then come back to that one. You get to do whatever order of podcasts as you want to do. And I'm really excited because if it sounds like we're in a different room, or if you're watching this on YouTube, and you're like, "Whose five year old bedroom are you in?"Brad Crowell 1:17 Yeah, that sort of feels like, definitely. And it also may sound different than normal because we are not at home.Lesley Logan 1:26 No, actually. So here's the deal. I was supposed to be there, there's so many things that are happening in the world right now. Right? That it's like you want to do all and I believe in pauses, we believe in the power of the pause and a girlfriend of mine, Kareen Walsh, who was actually and Dr. Kelly Bender, who are both have been guests on this podcast. They were both going to be in Scottsdale while they were both in Scottsdale, Arizona for different conferences at the same time. It's a 45... (Brad: I didn't know that.) Yeah. (Brad: Oh) So yeah. So I they're at different conferences at the same time. And so they're like, "Hey, do you want to come to Arizona and hang with us?" And I was like, "Yeah, I do." So I was like, I was like, "Okay, I'm gonna go there." But then Barely Canadian was supposed to have a fashion show. And they're like, "Hey, are you gonna be able to come our fashion show?" And I was like, "I think I can do that." And then you're like, "I'm so, we're supposed to go camping." I was like, "Well, I can do all the things." So let me just tell you, if you really want to do things, you probably can make it happen. So what was the original plan was I was gonna fly to Arizona, I was gonna hang with Kareen and Kelly, which I did do. But then the fashion show got moved to June 5th, which is my Dad's birthday, so I can't do that. However, when we planned this I was like flying from Arizona to LA then taking an Amtrak train to Josh... to Palm Springs where Brad was gonna pick me up in Palm Springs to go to Joshua Tree. Anyways, then this incredible thing happened which was have an amazing phone call interview with this incredible magazine. I didn't want to miss. So then we had to like add a hotel into there. And then the fashion show got moved. So anyways, fast forward, rewind. I flew from Arizona to hang out with my girlfriends. Then I flew to Palm Springs. I'm in this pretty pretty princess room because it's the only room available in Palm Springs on a Sunday during all these festivals. And Brad is here. We're recording these podcasts before we go to Joshua Tree. (Brad: Yeah) Hang out in his cactus garden. (Brad: Heck yeah.) Anyway, (Brad: I'm so excited.) that is not what I was super excited about. (Brad and Lesley laughs) But Brad wanted to make sure, we all wanted...Brad Crowell 3:21 A little side note. (Lesley: Yeah) Little side note.Lesley Logan 3:22 We just wanted to make sure that you knew why we're in a weird space and it's not a five year old room. This is a hotel room you can you can get this but they didn't pay me for this podcast, so I'm not telling you who it is. Okay, coming up in a couple of weeks, I am going to be with Erika Quest teaching a six hour pre con at Momentum Fest, if you don't remember Jessica Valant. She was on our show last year. (Brad: Yeah) She's incredible. Brad and I love Momentum Fest and Brad's gonna be there with our booth. I'm teaching at the festival all weekend long. So if you live in Denver, if you can get yourself to Denver, you need to be going to Momentum Fest. So check that out. And ...Brad Crowell 3:57 It's a movement festival. So it's not just Pilates. They have all sorts of (Lesley: Yoga ... medication) modalities there. Yeah. And and it's also just a great time. It's just great people. It's a really fun vibe. And we've we. The first year we did it because our our friends were doing it, hosting it. And we were like, "Oh, well, of course we'll come in and support you." (Lesley: Yeah) And it was so much fun. We were like, "Well, you're gonna do it again next year. Right? Because we're coming."Lesley Logan 4:22 Yeah. And then and then we actually didn't do the next one.Brad Crowell 4:26 Well, then the next one we were out of the country.Lesley Logan 4:29 Yeah, anyways, but we believe in it so much. We sent everyone there and we have gone back every year since (Brad: Yeah) we're really excited about it. We'll have the flashcards there, we've got the book there. It's just a lot of fun. There's a solstice party. You can buy one day tickets today tickets, you can buy the pre con without coming or you can come to the whole thing. Just get your Thass two at Momentum Fest. Okay. And then one more thing I'm super excited about because it's coming up quick. I can't believe how fast this summer is going, Brad. (Brad: Yeah, I know.) So (Brad: It's already May.) eLevate if you remember if you've been listening for a long time 'eLevate' is my mentorship program for Pilates instructors who are wanting to elevate their practice, their connection to the method and how they teach the method. And our first round sold out. It's been incredible to nine month program. Anyways, we're about to open up the doors for the second round. Yes, I said second round, I'm going to do it after all, we are just confirming all the dates around the retreats, but we're taking fewer people this time. So if you are wanting to be on invited to that mentorship, you actually need to do need to get on to the waitlist, because we are going to invite those people first. First come, first serve applications. So you need to go to um, where did they need to go, Brad?Brad Crowell 5:38 lesleylogan.co/elevateLesley Logan 5:43 Great, great, so you're gonna go there to get on the waitlist? Okay. We have an audience question, I think. (Brad: Yeah) This is funny. This one made me laugh.Brad Crowell 5:52 Well, I'll, I will let you read it because (Lesley: Okay) it's about me.Lesley Logan 5:56 Yeah. So I got a question. Did I see that Brad does have an Instagram account. And it's been kind of funny, because the whole time it's like Brad's not on Instagram. He's not on social. He's not on social but Brad, did you, did you?Brad Crowell 6:09 I totally did. I was I was inspired by our publicist. She said, "Brad, you talk about cactuses so much. You should have an Instagram about that." And I was like, "I would totally do that. I'm totally doing that." And so we brainstormed a lot of different names and ultimately got cactus daddie, that's @cactus_daddie, d a d d i e. (Lesley: Yeah) And so if you love seeing plants that somehow magically survive in jungles and deserts, cactus, cacti, they all, they do, succulents as well. I'm infatuated with them. And everywhere I go, now, they just kind of jump out at me and I take pictures of them. And it's just a lot of fun. (Lesley: Yeah) So come join me.Lesley Logan 6:58 Come join him. If you want to see the cactuses. He's already been getting feedback on on his account. So (Brad and Lesley laughs) (Brad: I have.) So you know, what? Every... no one is immune to feedback on their social media. All right.Brad Crowell 7:14 All right. Let's talk about Kasey Jo Orvidas. Obsessed with the connection between mindset and health behaviors. Kasey Jo went and got a Ph.D in Psychology to study growth versus the fixed mindset. Okay. Growth versus fixed. And that's key. It was a great conversation. She then developed her own program, health mindset, coaching certification, and started her health and fitness coaching business, KJO coaching. She's a determined woman working to blend psychology and health to help her clients develop lasting change. (Lesley: Yeah) And I just wanted to say, first off, I had no idea that like, mindset wasn't just a concept, but it was a science. There's science behind mindset.Lesley Logan 8:01 I know. Everyone thinks, it's o, it's a woowoo. But it's it's actually completely scientifically based. SoBrad Crowell 8:06 Yeah, so like this, you know, I guess it made sense to me that she studied Psychology, of course. But then after getting the the foundation her... you know, in psychology, then went on to do her study and mindset. And so that found that really, really surprising. (Lesley: Yeah) I didn't know that.Lesley Logan 8:24 I love it. I love it. Well, you mentioned this already in her bio. So I'm gonna start with it. One thing I love that she talked about, is the growth versus six fixed mindset. And I think this is really a cool topic. It's, I find that when we can, we can actually like, label something, it makes it easier for us to understand what's happening. So I this weekend had a completely, a complete moment of a fixed mindset. And so just so you know, I think we talked about this in the podcast interview, you don't just like, you don't just like get a growth mindset and like, you're done. Like, nailed it, right? Like, you actually have to keep working at that. So, so just so you know, if you have days where you like, are like abundance, like I can do it all and like, like, you don't see things as holding you back, or like you don't see someone else's success as a reason you can't have it. That doesn't mean you're never going to have those moments where you're like, "I can't, you know, or this isn't working. I'm not good enough." Like you're gonna have you're a human being. But ...Brad Crowell 9:23 Well also too, there's more than it's not like you're not like chasing the the the mindset unicorn and once you've caught the unicorn, you're good for the rest of your life. (Lesley: Right) It's also like spread out across different topics, too. Right? You may have really worked on your money mindset, let's say (Lesley: Yeah) but your you know, your confidence in yourself in dating, maybe isn't there right so you're ... it's it's not like once you got it one place. You nailed it everywhere, either.Lesley Logan 9:56 Yeah, yeah. And I think that's really important, because I think that's where like, we're gonna talk about this later on the episode but like, I think that's where impostor syndrome comes in, because you like, you feel like you're good here, but you're not good there. I see this with our Agency members all the time. They're like, "Give it, I got it here. And now I don't have it here." And it's like, right, because it's ...Brad Crowell 10:11 I mean, Kasey talked about that, (Lesley: Yeah) too. She, she's, like, you know, even after five years of studying mindset, and understanding, you know, everything behind it, the foundation of it and why it happens. She said, she still catches herself, limiting herself and creating these limiting beliefs of like, "I always. I can't. Not that's not for me," like these kinds of words that are associated with (Lesley: Yeah) a fixed (Lesley: Yeah) mindset as opposed to a growth mindset. And, and I ...Lesley Logan 10:40 Oh, I think we talked about this on Michael Unbroken's episode, like, the worst thing you can say is, that's just who I am.Brad Crowell 10:44 Yes, that's the worst thing you could say. That was the episode, that was a great episode.Lesley Logan 10:48 That's a fixed mindset. So, (Brad: Right) I highly recommend, you know, think about listen to the words you're saying, if it's can't, not good enough. I'm not, I don't know enough or (Brad: That's not for me.) That's, um, that's just who I am. (Brad: Yeah) Just explore those. It's okay to like, look, there's like, I'm not like, not a lot of foods are for me, but... Right? So like, that's fine. But, but like this, be mindful of what you're saying about yourself because that fixed mindset could be like, literally starts to limit you. And like limit you in other areas.Brad Crowell 11:23 I think this is a great opportunity to talk about the 'why'. (Lesley: The 'why'?) Yeah, you know, the whys of... Asking yourself the seven why's, (Lesley: Oh yeah) you know, like that this is ...Lesley Logan 11:38 So funny, I just saw him. (Brad: Oh, really?) (Lesley laughs) Yeah. So, so the Seven Layers to Why is from Dean Graziosi. And the most hilarious thing is I just tell Brad, "Hey, I just saw him while I was having breakfast with Kareen in Arizona." (Brad: Ha!) So like, so speaking of Dean, you weren't in that part of the conversation but now you are. It's just like, why do, his is more like, "Why do you wanted this?" Like, "Why do I want to write a book?" "Because I want to get my message out there." "Why don't we get your message out there?" "Because my message can change lives." "Why do you want to change lives?" "Because I grew up with people who told me I couldn't do anything." Like, "Why is that important to you? Why, why?" Why until you get to the whole thing, (Lesley: Yeah) which is like, I don't ever want anyone to ever live in a world where they can't believe in what they do. Like or I don't (Brad: Yeah) like it's not, you know, soBrad Crowell 12:27 It's a fascinating dive into your own thinking and this is actually something that we didn't pick as a talking point but Kasey Jo was talking about researching your own mind and listening to the words that circulate in your own thoughts and then you know, but this researching your own mind that is a great tool, the 'whys' is a great tool to to (Lesley: Yeah) understanding yourself.Lesley Logan 12:56 And you can also go, you can also do the, "Why do I think that? Who told me that?" And that goes (Brad: Yeah) like Thor. Right? When we have that guests Thor, (Brad: Sure) he says, "I can't do that." And and you know, Byron Katie talks about this a lot, where just like, it's like, "Who would you be if you didn't have this fixed mindset? Who would you be if you didn't have the thought you couldn't do the thing?" You'd be the (Brad: Or) person you can do the thing.Brad Crowell 13:14 Or what would the person who could do that thing? What would they be doing? (Lesley: Yeah) Or how would they be thinking?Lesley Logan 13:20 Oh, hey, be it till you see it. (Brad: Hey) I said hey. (Brad laughs) We can just go on and on about this whole thing. It could be, I mean, it should be its own episode, we just had it with Kasey. So at any rate, I think it's a wrap this up a little bow and it kind of leads into your thing. It is okay, if you have a fixed mindset moment, it's going to, you're human being. (Brad: Yeah) What you then need to do is explore that in your mind, in an, in writing, in conversation with others around it so that you can pull it into, so you can pull yourself into a growth mindset aspect. And what will happen is you'll get faster and faster at doing this you're fixed mindset. (Brad: Right. You'll identify it.) might take you six months to get over them but then after that you were able to in six weeks and then in six days and then it's in six minutes. You're like, "Oh what is that thought? Oh hello old thought coming back in. Nice to see you. We don't agree with that anymore." You know, like you get to there's the author of Chatter like people use their own name to talk though to themselves when they were trying to like train a thought over and it you might think a crazy person but you're not like it was actually science around that. So anyways, I'm obsessed. I'm obsessed with it. Anyways, what did you love?Brad Crowell 14:28 Well, I am so I'm glad we're we're digging into growth versus fixed mindset because I know that's one of the things we talked about so much on the show and in our webinars with Profitable Pilates. But one of the consistently recurring struggles that we've been told people are really digging into is imposter syndrome. And also, I mean or experiencing, not necessarily digging into but experiencing. And I know this is something that I also deal with, you also deal with impostor syndrome. (Lesley: Oh) Right. (Lesley: Yeah) And when we when we talk about impostor syndrome. I know it makes me feel small. Like, it makes me feel like like, "Oh, yeah, you know, like, I'm just not good enough for the thing, or I, why am I? How, why are people listening to me? How (Lesley: Yeah) do I have the authority to do all this kind of stuff?" And one, I want to kind of flip this, the perspective of it. Typically, we associated with fear, negativity. Right?Lesley Logan 15:37 How about we go in, people go into I see it all the time, the people we coach, or even in our OPC group, where they feel like an impostor, they go into like a shame spiral. And then it goes into a fixed mindset. And then it's (Brad: Right) like this whole thing. And it's like, yeah,Brad Crowell 15:47 Well, so I want to flip it, though, because one thing that Kasey Jo mentioned, was having imposter syndrome definitely means you're not a narcissist. (Lesley: Right. So it's not a bad thing.) So it doesn't necessarily have to be a bad thing. Like (Lesley: Yeah) sometimes, I think it's helpful to acknowledge that, you know, we really do care about our work, we do care that we're conveying a message that is going to be helpful for people and beneficial for people. You know, so it's funny, because everything has a plus and a minus even impostor syndrome.Lesley Logan 16:23 Well, I also think like, it shows you care. (Brad: Yeah) It just shows you care. And also, it might even show you that you know, more because when you know more than you know, you don't know, you don't know. (Brad: Oh, yeah.) Do you know what I mean?Brad Crowell 16:35 That's another that's another thing that two of you talked about.Lesley Logan 16:37 The more that you know, the more you learn what you don't know, and that like (Brad: Yeah) creates his own impo... Like, yeah. It is, like new level, new devil. So you know, I think I love that you brought this up, because I think it's just, it's okay to just call it out. I'm feeling or we do this all the time in the house. (Brad: Yeah) It's like, I'm feeling impostor syndrome around this right now. And then when you pull it out of your head, it's all of a sudden, like, it doesn't actually have the power anymore, doesn't mean you don't have the feelings anymore. But it doesn't have that power. And then you can actually talk about it. And sometimes it can feel really silly, or sometimes it can go, "Oh, it's because I'm not doing this thing over here. Because I'm not doing this thing over here. I have impostor syndrome about this because I don't feel authentic. Okay, so know I know what I need to work on."Brad Crowell 17:21 Yeah, yeah, I mean, and, and one thing you can do is actually write this down. Because I find it a lot easier when I'm looking at something is, then I can, kind of analyze it from the other side. But this is all mindset, right? Like, when you when you're receiving something in and it's negative, well, how do we from an objective perspective, like third party? What if you could stand on the side of yourself and look at this happening to you? How do you look at it and see what could be positive about that? Right? So if you're experiencing impostor syndrome, in a way of like, "I don't know why I'm the one that was picked to teach this class" or something like that, write that down. And then I think that will allow you like, "I don't know why I was picked for this," you know, then it will allow you to go, "Maybe I was picked for this for something else." And you can kind of see that. (Lesley: Yeah) When I'm, when you're looking at it, I find it's easier. And it's this is a very strange internal dialogue. And it's only really started to be available since I started doing journaling. Because I've never really written things down, especially my feelings in that way. Or like what I'm struggling with or worried about. And you know, it when you're just writing it out, suddenly, you can can say, "Alright, well, what if, what if this was a positive for me instead of a negative? How does that look? What is that actually?" (Lesley: Yeah) And then you can focus on that.Lesley Logan 18:52 Yeah, and maybe, maybe write down the questions you're gonna ask yourself, when you're having impostor syndrome, when you're not having it so that you have this list next to your desk. So it's like I don't like then you can like go through the questions that work for you. I really liked that.Cool!All right. So finally, let's talk about those BE IT action items that you covered with Kasey Jo Orvidas. What bold, executable, intrinsic or targeted action items can we take away from your convo? I will jump in right here. And we, I kind of already hit hinted at this actually looks like I ended up both of ours. But researching your thoughts. We were talking about those seven why's. Where did this thought come from? So if you this is the fixed versus open growth, sorry, growth mindsets, right? Where did that thought come from? Was that like something you inherited from a family member or from a teacher from another friend of yours, from an experience that personally happened to you? Why is that thought there? Is that thought really true? What is the evidence for that thought being true? What is the evidence against that thought? And then, you know, be basically like, a researcher of your own mindset, your own mentality. You know, why are you doing the things that you're doing and, and be willing to actually look at it?Yeah, I really love that. I mean, we did this when we were doing the Artist's Way. And like, (Brad: Yeah) I like was like, "Oh, I don't cook." Because of this one time, my grandfather yelled at me about how I made a grilled cheese sandwich. Is that really like, what stopped me from learning how to cook?Brad Crowell 20:34 And also, (Lesley: Like so silly.) Well, it's also, you know, funny, because I think that is a fascinating example. In that you never told me that story before. (Lesley: I know.) And we'd been married for a long time. And I never heard that. And suddenly, through the process of journaling, you were like, "I just remembered something. (Lesley: Yeah) And I wonder, I wonder if this is part of my mindset (Lesley: Yeah) around cooking."Lesley Logan 21:03 Yeah. And you know, I mean, like, and I know that sounds like the Lesley it's just cooking. It's like, yeah, but that stop, that has stopped me from cooking for years, y'all. Like, we're talking Brad goes away. And I'm like, "I think I'm have some almonds for dinner. I think that's good. That's good." (Brad and Lesley laughs) Thank God for Postmates. Okay, here's me ...Brad Crowell 21:23 Well, I just want to give you to a little shout out since discovering that. What were the action items that you took?Lesley Logan 21:31 Oh, I started cooking a new recipe a week from this new co... from this cookbook from a restaurant that I love in Siem Reap. And I would have cooked a new recipe this week. But Brad cooked my cauliflower. And that was supposed to be for cauliflower bites. So we will we will start that when we get back. We will, I will put all of a big fat post it note, "Don't cook this head of cauliflower. It's for my new experiment."Brad Crowell 21:53 That's so funny. I didn't know that. But but but the reason I wanted to keep talking about this is because you identified it. Right? And then you talked about it. And then you made a, you made a decision. (Lesley: Yeah) And you took action and ...Lesley Logan 22:10 Well, it goes into my my BE IT action item. It says, "Write it out. What can you start today?" (Brad: There you go.) And thank you for setting me up for that. (Brad laughs) And so what, that's what I did, like I was like, "Okay, how.." Like, "How can I start something small today?" I don't want to take a cooking class, you all. Like I know I'm on a hobby hunt. That is not something I want. I don't want that kind of pressure. I just wanted it to be fun and easy. And so the first thing I made were these like fudge brownie, there's suppose to be balls, but I made them bites and they are amazing. And so it was like what I looked at all the recipes that I looked at which one would be the easiest one to start with. I did not take on, there was this one that I was like, "I love that recipe." But I didn't take it on because it was like a little bit outside my element. So I took on what I could and so I did write it out. I did look at it. And I thought about like, "Okay, what are some ways I can make this happen?" And you know, we have a lot of people who talk about writing things out in their BE IT action items. And this one was really specific. What can you literally do starting today? And so I feel like that's an even better BE IT action item then just to write it out. It's like, what is it that you can do right now? (Brad: Yeah) Because if you start writing out like, "Oh, I actually could start that one." And like you keep going, you end up getting a step that you can take. And it's going to actually tell your brain, "Oh, growth mindset. I'm taking a step forward in this." (Brad: Right) It's going to be the antidote to fear we talk about in every one of these episodes ...You got the micro win (Lesley: Yeah) that helps you celebrate, (Lesley: Yeah) that helps your mindset. (Lesley: Yeah) Gives you confidence.Yeah, so I've actually like I have I have also been making my own lunch now. Like every like Brad is not (Brad: Yeah) watching me go.Brad Crowell 23:46 And it's actually a real lunch.Lesley Logan 23:47 It is a real lunch. It is, we have more dishes to do every day now. So anyways, that's the other side of that. Well, I'm Lesley Logan.Brad Crowell 23:56 And I'm Brad Crowell.Lesley Logan 23:57 How are we going to use these tips in your life? Let us know. I want you to screenshot this episode, tag the @be_it_pod, you can now tag @cactus_daddie, can also tag @coachkaseyjo with your takeaways. Please do this. So we know what you're doing. We want to celebrate you. We want to be cheerleaders for you and your DMs because we know how much you need that. I need that. We're all human beings. It's okay to need people to high five you for what you're doing. So tag us and let us know how you're gonna do this and share it with someone else who needs this. If you have a friend in your life who's like, "Ooh, we got to fix mindset that's driving me nuts." Just send them this episode and it'll just you don't have to say anything. It'll just nudge him right along. So thank you so much. And until next time, Be It Till You See It.Brad Crowell 24:36 Bye for now.Lesley Logan 24:39 That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review. And follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcasts. Also, make sure to introduce yourself over at the @be_it_pod on Instagram. I would love to know more about you. Share this episode with whoever you think needs to hear it. Help us and others Be It Till You See It. Have an awesome day!'Be It Till You See It' is a production of 'As The Crows Fly Media'.Brad Crowell 25:12 It's written, produced, filmed and recorded by your host Lesley Logan and me, Brad Crowell. Our Associate Producer is Amanda Frattarelli.Lesley Logan 25:23 Kevin Perez at Disenyo handles all of our audio editing.Brad Crowell 25:28 Our theme music is by Ali at APEX Production Music. And our branding by designer and artist, Gianfranco Cioffi.Lesley Logan 25:36 Special thanks to our designer Jaira Mandal for creating all of our visuals (which you can't see because this is a podcast) and our digital producer, Jay Pedroso for editing all video each week so you can. Brad Crowell 25:49 And to Angelina Herico for transcribing each of our episodes so you can find them on our website. And, finally to Meridith Crowell for keeping us all on point and on time. 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In episode #179 of the Glass and Out podcast, we're joined by Dr. Ethan Kross, who is one of the world's leading experts on controlling the conscious mind. An award-winning professor and bestselling author in the University of Michigan's top ranked Psychology Department and its Ross School of Business, he studies how the conversations people have with themselves impact their health, performance, decisions and relationships. Dr. Kross is the author of the National Bestseller Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why it Matters and How to Harness It, which was chosen as one of the best new books of the year by the Washington Post, CNN and USA Today. He will be going into further detail on the topic of his book at next month's TCS Live. If you haven't already bought your ticket, you can still register. You definitely don't want to miss it. Kross' research has been published in Science, The New England Journal of Medicine, and The Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, among other peer-reviewed journals. He has participated in policy discussion at the White House and has been interviewed on CBS Evening News, Good Morning America, Anderson Cooper Full Circle, and NPR's Morning Edition. His pioneering research has been featured in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, The New Yorker, Harvard Business Review, USA Today, The Economist, The Atlantic, Forbes, and Time. Legit. In this week's podcast, he shares how we can all improve our mental skills, regardless of what stage of life we're in, why it's important to embrace stress, and the problems with over venting.
Watch the full video interview on YouTube here: https://bit.ly/drethankross472 Dr. Ethan Kross (IG: @ethankross) is one of the world's leading experts on controlling the conscious mind. An award-winning professor at the University of Michigan and the Ross School of Business, he is the director of the Emotion & Self Control Laboratory. Ethan is the author of Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It. If you're someone who's struggling with controlling the negative thoughts circling your mind - this conversation is going to give you the tools you need to take back control. In this episode, we discuss: What it means to control your mind The ability to experience negative thoughts & emotions The importance of our inner voice Animals experience learned helplessness Useful tools to help shift your internal chatter Practicing distanced self-talk Normalizing the experience of chatter The ability to time travel in our minds How to feel without becoming overwhelmed What happens when we overthink our problems? The process of getting and providing support Finding the right therapist for you Teaching kids how to deal with their chatter Forms of invisible support Seeking out awe-inspiring experiences Performing rituals helps us quiet chatter Savouring positive experiences Ethan's father taught him to focus inward How Ethan coached himself through a threatening situation Tools you can use during extreme moments of stress Social media's impact on wellbeing What makes someone a good chat advisor? Show sponsors: Oura Ring
Have you ever wondered why we have an inner voice? Today, I talk to Ethan Kross, an award-winning psychologist and author of the national bestseller, Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It. In our conversation, we discuss the benefits and pitfalls of having an inner voice. He also shares some tools on how to harness your inner voice to combat anxiety, improve physical and mental health, and deepen your relationships with others. *New!* Watch video clips from this episode on the Mindful Mama Youtube channel! If you enjoyed this episode, and it inspired you in some way, I'd love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram stories, and tag me @mindfulmamamentor. Have you left a review yet? All you have to do is go to Apple Podcasts or Stitcher (or wherever you listen), and thanks for your support of the show! 3 Takeaways: Why we talk to ourselves Using our inner voice to ease anxiety, improve health, and deepen relationships with others Tools for avoiding the “dark side” of our inner voice Ethan Kross, author of the National Bestseller Chatter The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It, and Professor of Psychology and Management & Organizations at the University of Michigan, he is the director of the Emotion & Self Control Laboratory. Get Hunter's book, Raising Good Humans now! Click here to order and get book bonuses! ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is a mindful mama mentor. She coaches smart, thoughtful parents on how to create calm and cooperation in their daily lives. Hunter has over 20 years of experience in mindfulness practices. She has taught thousands worldwide. Be a part of the tribe—we're over 25 thousand strong! Join the Mindful Parenting membership. Take your learning further! Get my Top 2 Best Tools to Stop Yelling AND the Mindful Parenting Roadmap for FREE at: mindfulmamamentor.com/stopyelling/ Want to teach Mindful Parenting? Learn more about the Mindful Parenting Teacher Training program here: mindfulparentingcourse.com/teach/ Find more podcasts, blog posts, free resources, and how to work with Hunter at MindfulMamaMentor.com. Be sure to check out this deal from this week's sponsor: Find amazing, beautiful one-of-a-kind designs in minutes – for free! Head over to Evite.com/HUNTER
Learning how to regulate my inner voice and shift into positive self-talk has been one of the greatest tools that I've learned in my entrepreneurial journey. I'm joined by Dr. Ethan Kross, who is a leading expert on training the voice inside your head. He's an experimental psychologist, neuroscientist, and writer who specializes in emotion regulation, and he recently published a book all about how to transform the chatter in your head so that it works for you instead of against you. We discuss how to tune in and listen to your subconscious, rewire those thought patterns, and use your inner voice as an ally. Ethan shares his top tips for managing performance anxiety and what to do if you're stuck in an anxious cycle. IN THIS EPISODE, WE TALK ABOUT: What inspired Ethan to hone in on this topic Four things that chatter is good for Reframing the physiological symptoms of anxiety Ethan's ‘2AM chatter' strategy Advice for how to coach yourself on controlling your conscious mind The art of being an advisor The intersection of positive self talk and the law of attraction Why walking is such a powerful tool for managing chatter RESOURCES Thanks to Splendid Spoon for sponsoring Earn Your Happy. Go to splendidspoon.com/lori for $50 off your first box when you subscribe to the Breakfast, Lunch + Reset Plan, or the Breakfast, Lunch, Dinner + Reset Plan. Sign up for The Spritz newsletter at litepink.com! Text PODCAST to 310-496-8363 for updates and a chance to be featured on the show! CONNECT WITH DR. ETHAN KROSS Buy his book: Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It Visit his website: ethankross.com Follow him: @ethankross CONNECT WITH LORI Follow me: @loriharder Follow Lite Pink: @drinklitepink Follow Earn Your Happy: @earnyourhappy Follow Girlfriends & Business: @girlfriendsandbusiness Listen to Girlfriends & Business ABOUT DR. ETHAN KROSS Ethan Kross, PhD, is one of the world's leading experts on controlling the conscious mind. An award-winning professor at the University of Michigan and the Ross School of Business, he is the director of the Emotion & Self Control Laboratory. He has participated in policy discussion at the White House and has been interviewed on CBS Evening News, Good Morning America, Anderson Cooper Full Circle, and NPR's Morning Edition. His pioneering research has been featured in The New York Times, The New Yorker, The Wall Street Journal, USA Today, The New England Journal of Medicine, and Science. He completed his BA at the University of Pennsylvania and his PhD at Columbia University.
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We will learn: The costs of negative inner dialogue that go far beyond our ability to focus our attention. Surprising negative effects of sharing emotions. How our inner voice guides the mind and how to be more intentional about it. Did you know, we spend one-third to one-half of our waking life not living in the present? We humans have a hard time being present. We have the habit of rumination. Thinking about things that can't be changed or that haven't happened yet. So that's what we're talking about today: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It. Our guest is Ethan Kross, PhD, one of the world's leading experts on controlling the conscious mind, award-winning professor at the University of Michigan and the Ross School of Business, director of the Emotion & Self Control Laboratory, and author of Chatter: The Voice In Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It. Links from the episode: Show Notes: https://mindlove.com/224 Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes from your highest self. Get Mind Love Premium for exclusive ad-free episodes and monthly meditations. Support Mind Love Sponsors See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
#979: I'm back with Ethan Kross, author of Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It. Ethan is a PhD and one of the world's leading experts on controlling the conscious mind which we discussed in episode 977. Here we walk through his personal habits for success and as all of our habits are generally achieved, or not, as a result of the winning voices in our heads, Ethan has some profound perspectives on how to achieve his habits. Perspectives you'll be able to harness for yourself after listening to this show. Connect with Ethan at Ethankross.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Ethan Kross says the human ability to be introspective is a super power. We can time travel in our heads. We can be excited about planning the future, and look back on our lives in nostalgia. But what happens when that time machine gets stuck? And you're only focused the negative. Here is where the ability to harness that inner voice becomes key. Ethan is a professor of psychology at the University of Michigan, and the author of “Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It.”In this episode he shares some tips on wrangling negative thoughts, some benefits of not being in the moment, paralysis by analysis, and zooming in vs zooming out.Episode QuotesThe cost of depression in the workplace:The World Health Organization recently put a price tag on this, for the US global economy. They looked at what the cost to the economy is of anxiety and depression in the workplace. And we know that chatter fuels those conditions. The number was $1 trillion for, I think it was 2020. And that's a number that was predicted to rise exponentially over the next 10 years. Benefits of the inner voice:It allows you to do many different things. It's a really flexible tool. It lets you keep information active in your head. You go to the grocery store, you forgot what to buy, you remind yourself, what's on your list in your head: ketchup, tomato sauce, pasta. You can use your inner voice to simulate and plan, like before presentations I'll go over the talking points, what I'm going to say. I do that in my head. You can use your voice to control yourselves. Like when you're working out: “come on four more sets and then I get to take a break.” And this is one of my favorite features just because I think it's so cool. We use our inner voice to create stories that give shape to our sense of who we are.Being in the moment:The human mind was not designed to be in the moment at all times. And that's okay, actually. The ability to travel in time in our mind is another one of these amazing capacities that we possess. Show Links:Guest Profile:Faculty Profile at University of MichiganProfessional Profile at Emotion & Self-Control LabEthan Kross WebsiteEthan Kross on TwitterEthan Kross on LinkedinEthan Kross on InstagramEthan Kross on TEDxGatewayHis work:Ethan Kross on Google ScholarChatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It
#977: It's no secret we all have an inner voice, whether you speak it out loud, write letters in your head like I do, or it's just the constant stream of thoughts and feelings running amok at all times. A frequent directive is to shut the voice up or ignore it. One this is impossible, and two, that voice is there for a reason and the opportunity we all have is to harness it for our personal success. Ethan Kross is a PhD and one of the world's leading experts on controlling the conscious mind. Which I start the show pushing back on a bit…can we really do this? Ethan is an award-winning professor at the University of Michigan and its Ross School of Business and is the director of the Emotion & Self Control Laboratory. Ethan has participated in policy discussion at the White House and has been interviewed on CBS Evening News, Good Morning America, Anderson Cooper Full Circle, and NPR's Morning Edition. I brought him on the show because I got a hold of his new book, Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It. That tagline is the hook…why it matters and how to harness it. Not shut it up or out. Connect with Ethan at Ethankross.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Do you want to learn more about that voice in your head? Then you'll love this episode. Ethan Kross, PhD, is one of the world's leading experts on controlling the conscious mind. An award-winning professor at the University of Michigan and the Ross School of Business, he is the director of the Emotion & Self Control Laboratory. He has participated in policy discussion at the White House and has been interviewed on CBS EveningNews, Good Morning America, Anderson Cooper Full Circle,and NPR's Morning Edition. He is the bestselling author of CHATTER: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It
We are always interested in engaging with the world and our coaching clients in the best way. Today's show covers how to apply a positive mindset to healthy leadership principles. Join us to learn actionable strategies from today's expert guest! Julie Davis-Colan is the co-founder of The L Group, Inc., a management consulting firm that has served leaders since 1999. Julie is a business advisor and peak performance coach who has authored six books, including Stick with It, Getting the BEST of Yourself and Others, and The Power of Positive Coaching. She was on the show over a year ago talking about her most recent book, and I'm thrilled to have her join us again. We will be diving into Julie's healthy leadership model, specifically the piece around a positive mindset. She will help us understand how a shift from a negativity bias to a positive mindset can increase productivity, effectiveness, relationships, and more. Show Highlights: ● Catching up with Julie's professional life since COVID has hit ● How positive psychology became an umbrella that provides valuable tools in addressing mindset ● How positive mindset can change everything through brain science and breaking down thoughts, words, and actions ● The basics of brain science, “the most amazing network on earth” ● Positive and negative action ratios ● How to change your language around the words “yet, get to, and not” ● How we talk to ourselves vs. how we talk to close friends ● A sample exercise Julie uses to brainstorm emotional words, showing that most people choose negative words over positive ones ● The feedback Julie has received from clients about positive mindset ● How Julie uses affirming language with herself ● The components of healthy growth: compelling purpose and plan, aligned culture, engaged hearts and minds, positive coaching, and excellent execution ● Why healthy leadership is a multiplier in healthy growth ● Why “multitasking is to the brain as cigarette smoking is to the heart” in creating deterioration--along with a 40% decrease in productivity! Resources: Connect with Julie: http://www.leadershipexperts.com/ (Leadership Experts) https://starcoachshow.com/120-julie-davis-colan-the-power-of-positive-coaching/ (Julie's first episode) Mentioned in this episode: https://www.amazon.com/Chatter-Voice-Head-Matters-Harness-ebook/dp/B087PL8YVQ (Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It by Ethan Kross)
Ever find yourself in an anxiety spiral, ruminating over things that stress you out? If so, you're in luck because this week we're learning how to better control that voice in our heads with help from psychologist Ethan Kross. Ethan is a professor at the University of Michigan's Psychology Department and Ross School of Business, and is one of the world's leading experts on controlling the conscious mind. His book is called Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It.Have an idea for a future episode? Call us at 347-687-8109 and leave a voicemail, or write to us at upgrade@lifehacker.com. We want to hear from you!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Cathy and Todd discuss Chatter: The Voice in our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It by Ethan Cross and how our capacity for introspection can morph into a cycle of negative thinking. They discuss some of his suggested tools for self-regulation and real-world examples of taming our inner voice.
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