Podcasts about chatter the voice

Today's episode is a rebroadcast from February 4, 2022.  This was a unique episode, as Ms. Jaynes and Mr. Bradley interviewed special guest Dr. Ethan Kross.  He is an award-winning professor in the University of Michigan's top ranked Psychology Department and its Ross School of Business, he is the director of the Emotion & Self Control Laboratory. He is also the author of Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It (https://www.ethankross.com/chatter/).

We all know we have an inner voice, whether it speaks out loud, you write letters in your head like I do, or it's just the constant stream of thoughts and feelings running amok at all times. A frequent directive is to shut the voice up or ignore it. One this is impossible, and two, that voice is there for a reason and the opportunity we all have is to harness it for our personal success. Ethan Kross is a PhD and one of the world's leading experts on controlling the conscious mind. Ethan is an award-winning professor at the University of Michigan and its Ross School of Business and is the director of the Emotion & Self Control Laboratory. Ethan has participated in policy discussion at the White House and has been interviewed on CBS Evening News, Good Morning America, Anderson Cooper Full Circle, and NPR's Morning Edition. I brought him on the show after I got a hold of his new book, Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It. That tagline is the hook…why it matters and how to harness it. Not shut it up or out. Connect with Ethan at Ethankross.com Sign up for your $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to start your free trial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to another enlightening episode of Unmistakable Creative, where we delve into the mind's intricacies with our esteemed guest, Ethan Kross. A renowned psychologist and author, Ethan Kross, is a leading expert in controlling the inner voice that often leads us astray. In this episode, titled 'Ethan Kross | How to Deal With The Voice in Your Head,' we explore the science behind self-talk and how it influences our emotions and decisions.Ethan Kross shares his profound insights on how we can harness the power of our inner voice to improve our mental health and overall well-being. He presents fascinating research findings from his book, 'Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It.' This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to understand their inner dialogue and use it as a tool for personal growth.Join us on this enlightening journey with Ethan Kross and learn how to master your inner voice. Discover the strategies to transform your self-talk from a source of stress into a valuable tool for problem-solving and emotional management. Don't miss out on this opportunity to gain a deeper understanding of your mind and unlock your potential. Tune in to 'Ethan Kross | How to Deal With The Voice in Your Head' on Unmistakable Creative. Subscribe for ad-free interviews and bonus episodes https://plus.acast.com/s/the-unmistakable-creative-podcast. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

As we continue this great week of episodes, I'm delighted today to welcome Dr. Ethan Kross to the show to talk about his latest book Shift: Managing Your Emotions So They Don't Manage You, which is out February 4. Shift follows the success of Ethan's 2021 book Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It, which was an international bestseller. In Shift, we're talking all about emotions — and how they can be our superpower if we can learn how to regulate and manage them. How do we make our emotions work for us, rather than against us? Ethan is helping us find that answer. Ethan is a psychologist, neuroscientist, writer, and one of the world's leading experts on emotion regulation and is an award-winning professor in the University of Michigan's top-ranked psychology department and its Ross School of Business. He is also the director of the Emotion and Self-Control Laboratory. In addition to appearing on CBS Evening News, Good Morning America, Anderson Cooper Full Circle, and NPR's Morning Edition, he has participated in policy discussion at the White House and has had his research featured in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, The New Yorker, The New England Journal of Medicine, USA Today, and more. He is a graduate of Penn and Columbia and has spoken at TED, SXSW, and consulted with some of the world's top executives and organizations. From Shift's opening pages, it's a power punch, and I'm excited for you to hear what he has to say. Shift: Managing Your Emotions So They Don't Manage You by Dr. Ethan Kross

Humans are noisy. The National Park Service estimates that all of our whirring, grinding, and revving machines are doubling or even tripling global noise pollution every 30 years. A lot of that noise is negatively affecting wildlife and human health. Maybe that's why we're so consumed with managing our sonic environments, with noise-cancelling headphones and white noise machines — and sometimes, we get into spats with our neighbors, as one of our guests did…So for this episode, producer Jeongyoon Han takes us on an exploration of three sonic landscapes: noise, silence, and something in between. Featuring Rachel Buxton, Jim Connell, Stan Ellis, Mercede Erfanian, Nora Ma, and Rob Steadman.This episode originally aired  in July, 2023.SUPPORTOutside/In is made possible with listener support. Click here to become a sustaining member. Subscribe to our newsletter to get occasional emails about new show swag, call-outs for listener submissions, and other announcements.Follow Outside/In on Instagram or X, or join our private discussion group on Facebook. LINKSBehavioral ecologist Miya Warrington and her colleagues found that Savannah sparrows changed the tune of their love songs as a result of noisy oil fields in Alberta, Canada (The New York Times)Bats have changed their day-to-day habits because of traffic noise, according to research conducted in the U.K.Natural sounds are proven to improve health, lower stress, and have positive effects on humans. Rachel Buxton and her colleagues wrote about that in their study from 2021.Erica Walker's organization, the Community Noise Lab, monitors noise levels in Boston, Providence, and Jackson, Mississippi. You can read more about her work in this article from Harvard Magazine.Are you interested in going to a Quiet Parks International-designated quiet park? The organization has a list of spaces across the world that they've certified. Here's a radio story from NPR that serves as an homage to John Cage's 4'33”. If you were ever curious about why bird songs are good for you… This article from the Washington Post should be on the top of your reading list!This New Yorker piece from 2019 outlines how noise pollution might be the next public health crisis. Since that article, there's been even more research showing that noise can take years off of our lives. So, you've heard lots of sounds in this episode. But do you want to see what sounds look like? Click here — and this is not clickbait!Ethan Kross, who is a psychologist and neuroscientist, wrote a whole book about noise — the noise in your head, to be precise. It's called Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It.Mercede Erfanian's research into misophonia and soundscapes is fascinating. You can hear her speak on the subject of different kinds of sounds in a show aired from 1A, or watch her presentation on the effects that soundscapes have on humans. CREDITSHost: Nate HegyiReported and produced by Jeongyoon HanMixed by Jeongyoon Han and Taylor QuimbyEdited by Taylor Quimby, with help from Nate Hegyi, Jessica Hunt, and Felix PoonExecutive producer: Rebecca LavoieSpecial thanks toMusic by Blue Dot Sessions, Edvard Grieg, and Mike Franklyn.Our theme music is by Breakmaster Cylinder.Outside/In is a production of New Hampshire Public Radio.If you've got a question for the Outside/Inbox hotline, give us a call! We're always looking for rabbit holes to dive down into. Leave us a voicemail at: 1-844-GO-OTTER (844-466-8837). Don't forget to leave a number so we can call you back.

In this episode of The 1000 Hours Outside Podcast, host Ginny Yurich sits down with Ethan Kross, author of the bestselling book Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why it Matters and How to Harness It. Together, they delve into the powerful role of our inner voice, offering practical tools like distant self-talk to manage negative thought loops. They explore the profound impact of nature on mental well-being, the nuances of social relationships and venting, and even touch on strategies for parents and individuals to navigate life's stressors. With additional insights from his upcoming book, Shift, Ethan Kross also provides listeners with actionable ways to manage their emotions and foster resilience. ** Purchase your copy of Chatter here. Pre-order Ethan's book Shift here. ** Download your free 1000 Hours Outside tracker here >> https://www.1000hoursoutside.com/trackers Find everything you need to kick off your 1000 Hours Outside Journey here >> https://www.1000hoursoutside.com/blog/allthethings Order of copy of Ginny's newest book, Until the Streetlights Come On here >> https://amzn.to/3RXjBlN Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever wrestled with the relentless voice in your head that magnifies every slip-up and whispers doubts at the worst possible moments? I had the privilege of sitting down with Ethan Kross, an acclaimed authority on controlling the conscious mind and the inner mechanisms that govern our self-talk. Together, we dissect the phenomenon of ‘chatter', those pesky negative thought loops that can ambush our emotional equilibrium. With a blend of personal insights and evidence-based strategies, this episode will you with the arsenal you need to tame these internal foes and lead a more poised, positive life We start by dissecting some common misunderstandings, shedding light on the importance of balancing emotional expression with solution-focused problem-solving when engaging with our own or other's personal or professional challenges. Also, learn how to navigate the intricate dance of giving and receiving support with the finesse that builds true connections and effective leadership.  Next, we delve into the advent of the digital age, which has woven social media so intimately into our lives that it's become a double-edged sword; capable of slicing through our confidence or defending our sense of community. Later in our conversation, we navigate the intricacies of how these platforms can amplify our internal chatter or, conversely, serve as lifelines of support and understanding.  Finally, we explore the transformative role of your environment on your mental chatter as we discuss how external factors can become critical allies in your quest for tranquility. From the calming influence of nature to the orderliness of your living and working space, discover how your surroundings can contribute to a more harmonious inner life. Join us for this immersive episode and leave feeling empowered to optimize the emotional tools at your disposal for a life with less chatter and more clarity. What You'll learn - The link between emotional and social pain - The pros and cons of social media in managing our inner monologue - The transformative role of rituals and structured behavior in managing our chatter - How to give and receive emotional support. - The answers lie within – why we hold the key to our chatter Podcast Timestamps (00:00) – An Introduction to Chatter (14:15) - Understanding the Impact of Social Media (25:45) – The Power of Rituals (30:01) – How to Effectively Give and Receive Support (33:07) – Our Environment Shapes Our Chatter (44:51) –On the Importance of Negative Emotions and the Perils of Toxic Positivity Key Topics Discussed: Self-Leadership, Self-Awareness, Negative Thought Spirals, Emotional Well-Being, Rituals, Emotional Expression, Inner Critic, Self-Talk, Mental Mastery, Emotional Intelligence, Emotional Mastery, Resilience, Personal Growth More of Ethan: Ethan Kross is a renowned expert on controlling the conscious mind, an award-winning professor, and a bestselling author at the University of Michigan's top-ranked Psychology Department and Ross School of Business. He investigates how self-talk impacts health, performance, decisions, and relationships. Born and raised in Brooklyn, he graduated magna cum laude from the University of Pennsylvania and earned his PhD in Psychology from Columbia University, followed by a postdoctoral fellowship in social-affective neuroscience. Kross's research is widely published and has garnered significant media attention. He is the author of the national bestseller "Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why it Matters and How to Harness It," and resides in Ann Arbor with his family. LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ekross/  More of Do Good to Lead Well: Website: https://craigdowden.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/craigdowden/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/craig-dowden/message

In today's episode, I share some advice I absolutely LOVED from Ethan Kross's book Chatter: The Voice in our Head and How to Harness It about the importance of using our own name to pull ourselves out of our unhelpful thoughts. The Language Confidence Project is back! AND we're now on YouTube! Find me at https://youtube.com/@thelangconprojectpodcast for daily, colourful and face to face messages of encouragement on your language journey! Read the full podcast transcript at www.languageconfidenceproject.com/podcast/s6e3 Come and say hi! Book a 100 Conversations Project call with me: https://calendly.com/teawithemily/100conversations Get access to the weekly Creative Space for group work and study, a monthly Q&A, and discounted workshops: patreon.com/TheLanguageConfidenceProject Join your host, Emily Richardson, every weekday for a short and snappy dose of language courage to get you unstuck, whether you love languages or whether you really don't, but need to learn one anyway. Emily is the tiny and colourful creator of The Language Confidence Project, formerly Tea with Me, a platform to help multi-passionate and unconventional language learners splash language into every part of their lives. She is also the author of the How to Be Me series of language journals to help you to tell the stories that really matter in your new language. Join her on Instagram at @teawithemily or visit her website at www.languageconfidenceproject.com A huge thank you to Samuel Peter Davies for the happiest music in the world, and to Anna Bovi Diamond for using every colour in the box on the cover art.

In this episode, Sarah highlights the amazing realities of our inner voice, as described by Ethan Kross in his book "Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It".  Learn the truth behind why, we as humans, evolved to have an inner voice and what its original use was.  And be introduced to the seven methods Kross suggests we use to distance ourselves from our inner voice to help us become more calm, centered, and fulfilled. Buy Chatter by Ethan Kross on AmazonTSD Mindfulness Virtual Meditation Center FREE monthly meditation group meets the third Saturday of each month at 10:00 AM New York Time/3:00 PM London Time. Third Saturday of each month. Join us, April 20, 2024. Register at https://www.tsdmind.org/groupImportant links:TSD Mindfulness Virtual Meditation Center https://www.tsdmind.orgSarah's Mindfulness Coaching website: https://www.sarahvallely.comThe Aware Mind on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/TSD_Mindfulness/This episode is a meditation for beginners, and mindfulness for beginners resource. Intermediate and advanced meditators will also benefit. The Aware Mind produces content that supports stress reduction, anxiety relief, better concentration and focus, and trauma healing.The Aware Mind is produced by TSD Mindfulness, a virtual meditation center, offering mindfulness classes, certifications and private coaching for people with past trauma, anxiety and depression disorders, business leaders, and people who work in the helping professions (i.e. counselors, healers and yoga and meditation teachers).

In this episode, Professor Ethan Kross, author of "Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It," explores the pervasive issue of chatter in human life. Defined as the negative aspect of our inner voice, chatter often leads to rumination and worry instead of problem-solving. Professor Kross delves into the evolutionary purpose of the inner voice, highlighting its role in language use for navigation and survival. He explains the inner voice's functions, from being part of the 'Verbal Working Memory System' to aiding in simulation, planning, self-control, and creating life narratives. Despite its benefits, chatter presents challenges such as difficulty focusing, relationship friction, irritability, and health issues associated with chronic stress. Professor Kross reveals the science-based toolkit available to regain control of the inner voice, emphasizing the effectiveness of rituals in creating order and control. Drawing on examples like tennis great Rafael Nadal, who uses rituals to manage inner voices during play, Professor Kross encourages individuals to find unique combinations of tools that work best for them. He reassures listeners that experiencing chatter is a universal aspect of being human and introduces the episode's central theme: understanding and managing the human condition of chatter. Half our day is spent not living in the moment. Here's how to change that. Your inner voice isn't always very nice or helpful. When we turn our attention inward, we tend to focus on problems rather than solutions. This causes us to worry, ruminate, and catastrophize, which traps us in a negative thought cycle. The good news is that there is a science-based toolkit that can help you regain control of your inner voice. To learn even more from the world's biggest thinkers, get Big Think+ for your business: https://bigthink.com/plus/ ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- chapters:- 0:00 intro about our inner voice, chatter. 1:04 purpose, advantages and benefits of the inner voice 2:43 negative implications (lack of focus, friction in relationships, health, etc) 4:17 how to regain control and manage our inner voice. 6:14 are you weaker for experiencing chatter? is it natural to experience chatter? ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- About Big Think | Smarter Faster™ ► Big Think The leading source of expert-driven, educational content. With thousands of videos, featuring experts ranging from Bill Clinton to Bill Nye, Big Think helps you get smarter, faster by exploring the big ideas and core skills that define knowledge in the 21st century. Get Smarter, Faster. With Episodes From The Worlds Biggest Thinkers. Follow The Podcast And Turn On The Notifications!! Share This Episode If You Found It Valuable Leave A 5 Star Review... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered why we have an inner voice? Today, I talk to Ethan Kross, an award-winning psychologist and author of the national bestseller, Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It. In our conversation, we discuss the benefits and pitfalls of having an inner voice. He also shares some tools on how to harness your inner voice to combat anxiety, improve physical and mental health, and deepen your relationships with others. ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is the host Mindful Parenting Podcast (Top 0.5% podcast ), global speaker, number 1 bestselling author of “Raising Good Humans” and “Raising Good Humans Every Day,” Mindfulness Meditation teacher and creator of the Mindful Parenting Course and Teacher Training. Find more podcasts, Hunter's books, blog posts, free resources, and more at MindfulMamaMentor.com. Discover your Unique-To-You Podcast Playlist at mindfulmamamentor.com/quiz/ We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: /mindfulmamamentor.com/mindful-mama-podcast-sponsors/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Some of the most profound feedback I have received over the four seasons of The Mojo Sessions from listeners worldwide is people wanting to find a sense of peace, contentment and ultimate happiness... finding a sense of self. This Megamix is a series of 5 episodes that get to the heart of this subject... How do we feel good about ourselves and our lives? As we close the season, it seemed appropriate to reflect on one of the biggest issues facing us: who we are, what makes us happy, and how we find peace, contentment, and personal fulfilment. It's one free-flowing mega episode, five conversations so that you can listen to them back to back. The beauty of the podcast is that the sessions live on and many people who recently have found the sessions may not go back to session 1 2 or 3 to see what's there. So we pick the theme, select some gold and put it together into a megamix.   Ethan Kross - Ethan is the author of "Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It". How do we control our spirally inner narrative, the monkey mind, that chatter we all have that can be so disempowering? Starts - 00:07:30   Laura Gassner Otting - I have included this conversation because so many people said that they related such a lot to Wonderhell, that place between having success and thinking, "Oh... Can I do that again? Was it a one-off? Was I just lucky?"... that's Wonderhell. Starts - 01:33:14   Dr Amy Silver - Amy is a psychologist and author who discusses the management of emotions for high performance and well-being. Her book, 'The Loudest Guest: How to Change and Control Your Relationship with Fear, ' is about managing our fears- what they are, how they impact us, and what the key steps are to change our relationship with fear. To find peace, we need to control the loudest guest, fear. Starts- 02:47:26   Beth Kempton - Early in The Mojo Session series, we met the beautiful Beth Kempton, author of Wabi Sabi. Wabi Sabi is a Japanese term for finding perfection in our imperfections. This is a profound conversation for anyone wanting to be in the moment, find peace, notice our surroundings and be genuinely present. Often, I get comments from people who took a great deal from this conversation. Starts - 03:51:45   Matthew Dicks - Matthew has an extraordinary backstory and is arguably one of the world's great storytellers. This conversation covers not only how to build and tell a great story but also, essentially, how we can slow time. Matthew shows us that by being conscious of moments, we can start to take back the hands of time. A lot here can apply to our business world, particularly for our brand. Starts at - 05:10:36

In this episode of The Human Upgrade you'll find out how to harness the power of your inner voice to ease anxiety, improve physical and mental health, and deepen your relationship with others. “The mind is flexible, if we know how to bend it,” says psychologist and award-winning professor Ethan Kross, Ph.D., founder of the Emotion & Self Control Laboratory at the University of Michigan.He's one of the world's leading experts in controlling the conscious mind. He studies the ways in which your inner voice impacts your health, performance, decisions and relationships. He explores how people manage their emotions in order to better understand self-control. In particular, the conversations you have with yourself directly impact every part of your health and life.He explain that your inner voice functions to do things like this:Keep information active in your mindCoach you through problemsSimulate and plan aheadTell you storiesThat inner voice can be a powerful tool, giving you creativity, connection and definition. However, when the voice turns to negative and disorienting self-talk (chatter), it can create chaos and overwhelm by zooming into our problems, making you lose perspective.Ethan's pioneering research mixes behavioral and brain research to get at the “why” behind human nature. He uses insights from his research to give people science-based tools they can use to change their behavior, be used in relationships, support a career move, improve physical performance, decrease stress, increase productivity and be used to reach life goals. You'll use new tools like mental time travel, tough love and introspection.In this conversation about his book, “CHATTER: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It,” you'll learn: How social media plays a part in our chatterHow to zoom out with a flexible mind, changing thoughts and distancing ourselvesHow to use tough loveHow to teach your kids about chatter from a young ageHow to help your friends with their own chatter (and what makes it worse)With Ethan's experience studying the conscious mind for 20 years, you can learn how to turn negativity into an awesome tool that helps you master your own self-talk.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dr. Ethan Kross is a psychologist, author, and professor at the University of Michigan, where he is the founder and director of the Emotion & Self Control Laboratory. His research focuses on emotional regulation and the benefits of mastering one's inner voice. Ethan is the author of international bestseller Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It. Ethan joins the podcast to discuss the advantages and potential pitfalls of introspection, the relationship between goal-setting and self-control, and why all emotions are useful if experienced in the right dosages.

Humans are noisy. The National Park Service estimates that all of our whirring, grinding, and revving machines are doubling or even tripling global noise pollution every 30 years. A lot of that noise is negatively affecting wildlife and human health. Maybe that's why we're so consumed with managing our sonic environments, with noise-cancelling headphones and white noise machines — and sometimes, we get into spats with our neighbors, as one of our guests did…So for this episode, producer Jeongyoon Han takes us on an exploration of three sonic landscapes: noise, silence, and something in between. Featuring Rachel Buxton, Jim Connell, Stan Ellis, Mercede Erfanian, Nora Ma, and Rob Steadman. SUPPORTOutside/In is made possible with listener support. Click here to become a sustaining member of Outside/In. Subscribe to our newsletter (it's free!).Follow Outside/In on Instagram or join our private discussion group on Facebook.Submit a question to the “Outside/Inbox.” We answer queries about the natural world, climate change, sustainability, and human evolution. You can send a voice memo to outsidein@nhpr.org or leave a message on our hotline, 1-844-GO-OTTER (844-466-8837). LINKSBehavioral ecologist Miya Warrington and her colleagues found that Savannah sparrows changed the tune of their love songs as a result of noisy oil fields in Alberta, Canada (The New York Times)Bats have changed their day-to-day habits because of traffic noise, according to research conducted in the U.K.Natural sounds are proven to improve health, lower stress, and have positive effects on humans. Rachel Buxton and her colleagues wrote about that in their study from 2021.Erica Walker's organization, the Community Noise Lab, monitors noise levels in Boston, Providence, and Jackson, Mississippi. You can read more about her work in this article from Harvard Magazine.Are you interested in going to a Quiet Parks International-designated quiet park? The organization has a list of spaces across the world that they've certified. Here's a radio story from NPR that serves as an homage to John Cage's 4'33”. If you were ever curious about why bird songs are good for you… This article from the Washington Post should be on the top of your reading list!This New Yorker piece from 2019 outlines how noise pollution might be the next public health crisis. Since that article, there's been even more research showing that noise can take years off of our lives. So, you've heard lots of sounds in this episode. But do you want to see what sounds look like? Click here — and this is not clickbait!Ethan Kross, who is a psychologist and neuroscientist, wrote a whole book about noise — the noise in your head, to be precise. It's called Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It.Mercede Erfanian's research into misophonia and soundscapes is fascinating. You can hear her speak on the subject of different kinds of sounds in a show aired from 1A, or watch her presentation on the effects that soundscapes have on humans.  CREDITSHost: Nate HegyiReported and produced by Jeongyoon HanMixed by Jeongyoon Han and Taylor QuimbyEditing by Taylor Quimby, with help from Nate Hegyi, Jessica Hunt, and Felix PoonExecutive producer: Rebecca LavoieMusic from Blue Dot Sessions, Edvard Greeg, and Mike Franklyn.Our theme music is by Breakmaster Cylinder.Outside/In is a production of New Hampshire Public Radio

Ethan Kross (University of Michigan neuroscientist, author of bestseller Chatter) is one of the world's leading experts on controlling the mind. I came across his work while researching anxiety and found his perspectives on when and how to tame our relentless head chatter (or monkey mind) refreshing. And wild. Ethan is all about appreciating the “beast” that is the fretty voice in our head, while modulating it artfully. We chat through some seriously effective tools such as talking to ourselves in the second and third person, temporal distancing, sorting your sock drawer and, yep, going for a hike. A life-hack-ish episode, but with scientific grunt.Check out Ethan's new book Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why it Matters and How to Harness ItYou can catch up on his work hereIf you need to know a bit more about me… head to my "about" pageSubscribe to my Substack newsletter for more such conversationGet your copy of my book, This One Wild and Precious LifeLet's connect on Instagram! It's where I interact the most Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Is it just us, or does it feel like the last few years have been a particularly torrid time for managers? Managers have always been the interface between employees and their organisation. They act as a kind of translator between the two. In recent years there have been extraordinary challenges in both directions of those relationships. And all this against a backdrop of pandemics, social polarisation, economic uncertainty, tight labour markets and of course the remote work / back to office / hybrid merry-go-around. It's been a lot and managers have been caught in the middle time and again... 0:30 min We reference an article by Gallup showing +20% of all managers are experiencing burnout. 3:30 "Managers are constantly stuck between frustrated leaders and team members. They are the translators and scapegoats." 5:15 How can you lead effectively when you yourself feel detached from your organisation? 7:15 Experimenting with new practices like the 4-day work week can be an additional load for managers. 9:00 It's particularly difficult for managers who are tasked with addressing the symptoms of problems in their teams (e.g. burnout) but denied support in fixing the cause of those problems (e.g. unrealistic deadlines). 10:45 A lot of manager support was informal and linked to the "in-office" experience. In a remote or hybrid setup, what has taken it's place? 14:00 Going along with something that you disagree with can be really painful. 16:30 Sometimes as managers we have to "sell ourselves" on the story first so we can then deliver an effective message to our teams. But it can be a slippery slope. 18:15 We send our sympathy, support and solidarity to all those managers feeling tired and burnt out. Pilar references how our burden can be lightened just through knowing that we are not alone in our struggles (from the book Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness by Ethan Kross). What about you, dear listener? How are you coping? Have you been feeling burnt out? We'd love to hear about your experiences! Get in touch through our Contact Form https://managementcafepodcast.com/contact/  or tell us on Twitter - we are @managementcaf 

Today I am joined on the Pasion Struck podcast by the award-winning psychologist and author Dr. Ethan Kross, who reveals the hidden power of our inner voice and how we can harness it to live healthier, more satisfying, and more productive lives. Dr. Kross is the author of "Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It." What We Discuss About The Power of Our Inner Voice Ethan Kross delves into the inner dialogue we engage in with ourselves. Through research from his lab and real-world examples, such as a struggling pitcher and a spy balancing her dual identities, Kross demonstrates how these internal conversations shape our lives, careers, and relationships. He cautions that succumbing to negative self-talk, referred to as "chatter" by Kross, can harm our physical and mental health, undermine our mood, damage our social connections, and make us falter under stress. Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://passionstruck.com/ethan-kross-power-of-our-inner-voice/  Brought to you by Policygenius. --► For information about advertisers and promo codes, go to: https://passionstruck.com/deals/  --► Prefer to watch this interview:  https://youtu.be/i_Qwtwcv0yg  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter or Instagram handle so we can thank you personally! --► Subscribe to Our YouTube Channel Here: https://www.youtube.com/c/JohnRMiles Want to find your purpose in life? I provide my six simple steps to achieving it - passionstruck.com/5-simple-steps-to-find-your-passion-in-life/ Want to hear my best interviews from 2022? Check out episode 233 on intentional greatness and episode 234 on intentional behavior change. ===== FOLLOW ON THE SOCIALS ===== * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/passion_struck_podcast * Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/johnrmiles.c0m  Learn more about John: https://johnrmiles.com/ 

No matter how good you are at giving advice to others, it is always difficult to follow your own advice. Since you're able to provide solid advice to your friends and colleagues, it's clear that the advice you need for yourself is lurking somewhere inside of you. How do we access that information and then start to use it in our own professional and personal lives? In this episode, we tackle the negative mindsets that are blocking your progress.First, Michael Hyatt and Megan Hyatt Miller provide three steps to coach your thinking so you can get better results. The insights come from their new book Mind Your Mindset: The Science That Shows Success Starts With Your Thinking. Pre-order the book today at www.mindyourmindsetbook.com.After that, Joel Miller speaks with author Ethan Kross about some of the findings in his book, Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It.For more podcasts, visit www.businessaccelerator.com/podcast.The Business Accelerator podcast is a reflection of the values and processes inside the BusinessAccelerator coaching program. If you want a free Business Growth Coaching Call, visit www.businessaccelerator.com/coach.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

No matter how good you are at giving advice to others, it is always difficult to follow your own advice. Since you're able to provide solid advice to your friends and colleagues, it's clear that the advice you need for yourself is lurking somewhere inside of you. How do we access that information and then start to use it in our own professional and personal lives? In this episode, we tackle the negative mindsets that are blocking your progress.First, Michael Hyatt and Megan Hyatt Miller provide three steps to coach your thinking so you can get better results. The insights come from their new book Mind Your Mindset: The Science That Shows Success Starts With Your Thinking. Pre-order the book today at www.mindyourmindsetbook.com.After that, Joel Miller speaks with author Ethan Kross about some of the findings in his book, Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It.For more podcasts, visit www.businessaccelerator.com/podcast.The Business Accelerator podcast is a reflection of the values and processes inside the BusinessAccelerator coaching program. If you want a free Business Growth Coaching Call, visit www.businessaccelerator.com/coach.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

When you see a construction site where there is sandblasting going on, you probably shouldn't hang around. This episode begins with an explanation of the problem sandblasting poses to anyone nearby. Source: Dr. Paul Blanc author of “How Everyday Products Make People Sick” (https://amzn.to/3iug5Me) You have a voice inside your head. It talks to you all the time and tells you good things and bad things. It can be a positive coach or a negative critic. Where does that voice come from? How can you use that voice to your advantage? Find out by listening to my guest Ethan Kross. He is an award-winning psychologist, professor at the University of Michigan and author of the book Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It (https://amzn.to/38XXEwa) While meetings can be good and are often necessary, it does seem that a lot of meetings are a big waste of time. Wouldn't it be great if you could make meetings better? You absolutely can according to my guest Mamie Kanfer Stewart. She is founder of a company called Meeteor (www.meeteor.com) which helps businesses improve the quality of meetings. Marnie is coauthor of the book Momentum: Creating Effective, Engaging and Enjoyable Meetings (https://amzn.to/2XXL2yT). Listen as she offers some easy ways to make your meeting more productive and engaging. When was the last time you checked your tires – REALLY checked them? You may not realize it, but your tires can lose half of the air in them before they even start to look flat. Having underinflated tires can cause all kinds of problems and cost a lot of money. Listen as I explain those problems and how to prevent them. Source: https://bit.ly/3oYpjmj PLEASE SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS! To match with a licensed therapist today, go to https://TalkSpace.com and use the promo code SYSK to get $100 off of your first month and show your support for the show! TurboTax experts can relieve you from the stress of taxes and file for you so you can do… not taxes! Come to TurboTax and don't do your taxes. Visit https://TurboTax.com to learn more. Intuit TurboTax.  Did you know you could reduce the number of unwanted calls & emails with Online Privacy Protection from Discover? - And it's FREE! Just activate it in the Discover App. See terms & learn more at https://Discover.com/Online Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

GUEST Ethan is one of the world's leading experts on controlling the conscious mind. He is an award-winning professor in the University of Michigan's Psychology Department. His research has been featured in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, The New Yorker, The New England Journal of Medicine, and Science. He has recently published the book – Chatter. The book goes deep into talking about the voice in our heads and how we can harness it. Through the book he shows that instead of trying to silence your monkey mind, you can learn to educate it, motivate it, and even reason with it. All of us have experienced what Ethan calls "Chatter". A never-ending loop of negative thoughts that engulf us and paralyse us at certain periods of time. Ethan speaks about the criticality of how we can work with these emotions and harness them without getting stuck in a vicious loop in their grip. Some of the topics that we covered include: a) The role of rituals and how Rafael Nadal uses it in a tennis match b) The fine line between inner voice and inner chatter c) How we can use techniques like Time-travel, Distancing and Experiencing Awe to deal with Chatter d)Role of Journaling in reducing Chatter e) How we should balance out listening and allowing venting and providing coaching while engaging with someone experiencing Chatter Published in Nov 2022.  HOST Deepak is a Leadership Advisor and an Executive Coach. He works with leaders to improve their effectiveness and in helping them make better decisions specifically around organizational and career transitions. He currently runs Transition Insight (www.transitioninsight.com) and works with leaders to handle phases of transition thoughtfully. He has worked as an Operations Consultant with KPMG in UK, Strategy Consultant with McKinsey in the US and as a Leadership Consultant with EgonZehnder (a Swiss Leadership Advisory firm) where he helped companies recruit CEOs, CXOs and Board Members and worked on Leadership Development. Deepak is a certified CEO Coach and is an alumnus of IIT Madras, IIM Ahmedabad and London Business School. His detailed profile can be found at https://in.linkedin.com/in/djayaraman OTHER GUESTS 1.Vijay Amritraj 2.Amish Tripathi 3.Raghu Raman 4.Papa CJ 5.Kartik Hosanagar 6.Ravi Venkatesan 7.Abhijit Bhaduri 8.Viren Rasquinha 9.Prakash Iyer 10.Avnish Bajaj 11.Nandan Nilekani 12.Atul Kasbekar 13.Karthik Reddy 14.Pramath Sinha 15.Vedika Bhandarkar 16.Vinita Bali 17.Zia Mody 18.Rama Bijapurkar 19.Dheeraj Pandey 20.Anu Madgavkar 21.Vishy Anand 22. Meher Pudumjee 23.KV Shridhar (Pops) 24.Suresh Naraynan 25.Devdutt Pattanaik 26.Jay Panda 27.Amit Chandra 28.Chandramouli Venkatesan 29.Roopa Kudva 30.Vinay Sitapati 31.Neera Nundy. 32.Deepa Malik 33.Bombay Jayashri. 34.Arun Maira 35.Ambi Parameswaran 36.OP Bhaat 37.Indranil Chakraborty 38.Tarun Khanna 39. Ramachandra Guha 40. Stewart Friedman 41. Rich Fernandez 42. Falguni Nayar 43. Rajat Gupta 44. Kartik Hosanagar 45. Michael Watkins 46. Matt Dixon 47. Herminia Ibarra 48. Paddy Upton 49. Tasha Eurich 50. Alan Eagle 51. Sudhir Sitapati 52. James Clear 53. Lynda Gratton 54. Jennifer Petriglieri. 55. Matthew Walker 56. Raj Raghunathan 57. Jennifer Garvey Berger 58. BJ Fogg 59. R Gopolakrishnan 60. Sir Andrew Likierman. 61. Atul Khatri 62. Whitney Jonson 63. Venkat Krishnan 64. Marshall Goldsmith 65. Ashish Dhawan 66. Vinay Sitapati 67. Ashley Whillans 68. Tenzin Priyadarshi 69. Ramesh Srinivasan 70. Bruce Feiler 71. Sanjeev Aggarwal and T. N. Hari 72. Bill Carr 73. Jennifer Wetzler 74. Sally Helgesen 75. Dan Cable 76. Tom Vanderbilt 77. Darleen DeRosa 78. Amy Edmondson 79. Katy Milkman 80. Harish Bhatt 81. Lloyd Reeb 82. Sukhinder Cassidy 83. Harsh Mariwala 84. Rajiv Vij 85. Dorie Clark 86. Ayse Birsel 87. Ravi Venkatesan E2 88. Pradeep Chakravarthy 89. Dan Pink 90. Alisa Cohn 91. Ayelet Fishbach 92. Thomas Wedell-Wedellsborg 93. Raghu Ananthnarayanan 94. Tarun Khanna EP2 95. Manjari Jaruhar DISCLAIMER All content and opinions expressed in the podcast are that of the guests and are not necessarily the opinions of Deepak Jayaraman and Transition Insight Private Limited. Views expressed in comments to blog are the personal opinions of the author of the comment. They do not necessarily reflect the views of The Company or the author of the blog. Participants are responsible for the content of their comments and all comments that are posted are in the public domain. The Company reserves the right to monitor, edit, and/or publish any submitted comments. Not all comments may be published. Any third-party comments published are third party information and The Company takes no responsibility and disclaims all liability. The Company reserves the right, but is not obligated to monitor and delete any comments or postings at any time without notice.

She describes herself as a determined, outgoing, creative and driven artist, and I 100% agree. Alison Auditore and I sit down this week to talk about her side hustle as an artist. We also talk about how burnout is real and what we think about aliens! Through her artwork she wants to spread the message that you aren't alone, that its ok to feel all your feelings and that everything will pass!She is working at the Vision Gallery in Chandler as an art curator to help represent Black Artists so go check that out as well. It's a unique non-profit gallery that is always free but accepts donations! On another note, do you have any book recommendations? Let me know on Instagram! This is a great episode, go listen now!Connect with Alison!Website: https://www.alisonstillaround.com/Twitch: https://www.twitch.tv/possiblyanalienInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/stillaroundillustrations/Resources Mentioned in This Episode!The Vision Gallery: https://www.visiongallery.org/Pars Restaurant: http://www.parspersiancuisine.com/Books: “The Song of Achilles” and “Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It”Connect with Me!Website: https://www.jennextdoorpodcast.com/aboutInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/jennextdoorpodcast/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jennextdoorpodcastIt's OK To Feel Your Feelings, You Aren't Alone! 

Do ruminating thoughts regularly disrupt your sleep and keep you awake at night?   In this episode of the Align podcast, Dr. Ethan Kross and I chat about how to effectively deal with chatter, and self-criticism. We also talk about high individualism as well as our relationship with others and our thoughts towards them. Lastly, we also touch on having internal dialogues to switch our overall perspective in life.   Ethan Kross, PhD, is one of the world's leading experts on controlling the conscious mind. He is an award-winning professor at the University of Michigan and the Ross School of Business, and is the director of the Emotion & Self Control Laboratory. He has also participated in policy discussion at the White House and has been interviewed on CBS Evening News, Good Morning America, Anderson Cooper Full Circle, and NPR's Morning Edition.    Ethan Kross, PhD, wrote a book called Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It   3:50: What are the physical toggles to change our state of mind? 6:33: How do we find our awe triggers? 8:25: Paradox of high individualism 11:52: When is self-criticism a good thing? 14:00: How can "splitting oneself" help in overcoming struggles? 16:00: How congruent is our relationship with ourselves and others? 18:23: Should we be held accountable for EVERY thought we have? 23:20: What is the value of shame? 29:10:  Does our brain have sovereignty over life occurrences? 35:10: Can stillness help us perceive things more? 40:10: What are tools that we can use to lessen chatter? 48:07: Affectionate touch as another chatter fighting tool 56:49: Distanced self-talk and temporal distancing 1:02:46: How can we optimally show gratitude?   To learn more about Ethan:   Website: https://www.ethankross.com/   Thank you to our Sponsors:   Ketone IQ: Use code ALIGN20 to save 20% (100 FIRST people ONLY): ketone-iq.com     Kion: To save 20% on monthly deliveries or 10% on one time purchases go to: getkion.com/align   Organifi:  Use ALIGN during checkout to receive 20%: www.organifi.com/align   BiOptimizers: Use code ALIGN10 during checkout to save 10% on Magnesium Breakthrough + FREE bottle of Masszymes (1000 FIRST people ONLY): magbreakthrough.com/alignpodcast

Looking for your next beach read? Author, student, librarian, and momma joins the podcast to talk about her journey through sobriety, career changes, and the impact of gratitude. This conversation highlights the reality of how we can get stuck following the expectations of others leaving us unfulfilled and the freedom found in making a change. The end is full of great book recommendations to add to your reading list! If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co . And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:What we talk ourselves into The two secrets to success Who is Eliza DavidEmbracing uncertainty as the key to sanity Discerning the voice of fear vs the voice of reasonThe journey is not a wasteBook recommendations to add to your list Learn to say thank you for every part of the journey Episode References/Links:Follow Kellee on IGFollow Kellee on TwitterFollow Kellee on FacebookEliza David BooksEliza David WebsiteAlice Walker's: In Search of Our Mothers' GardensJudy Blume's: WifeySelena Montgomery's: Secrets and LiesEthan Kross': Chatter The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness ItGuest Bio:After twenty years of working in the private sector (and as many years drinking to excess), Kellee turned forty and decided to do the work to change her life. She quit her employer of a decade and joined her local library as an assistant. Within four months of employment, she was promoted to her current role as Public Services Librarian, serving as the community engagement liaison for the library and assisting with the management of the library's part-time staff.Kellee holds a Bachelor's in Marketing and is pursuing a Masters in LIS from the University of Iowa. She is active in her community, lending her service to the Iowa City Public Library Board of Trustees, Girls on the Run of Eastern Iowa, and as an Ambassador for the Iowa City Area Business Partnership.  If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox.ResourcesWatch the Be It Till You See It podcast on YouTube!Lesley Logan websiteBe It Till You See It PodcastOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley LoganOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley Logan on YouTubeProfitable PilatesSocial MediaInstagramFacebookLinkedInEpisode Transcript:Lesley Logan 0:00  Hey, Be It listener. How are you? How many times have you thought to yourself that it's too late for you to do something? How many times have you thought, "Oh, what will people think if I do that?" How many times have you maybe not even approached your partner or your family? Like, "Hey, I have this dream. I'm thinking of doing." How many times have we not done that? My guess is, it's probably more than you can count. Because I definitely have done it too. And, I'm sure something's come with age, for sure. But I wish they didn't have to. I wish we could maybe know about them sooner. And maybe if we met more people like this week's guest, we would, you know, and, and I know all of our parents did the best they could. So this is not a knock on anyone's parenting but it is something that I think happens. We, we talk ourselves into a career because it feels safe, because it looks a certain way, because we think it's going to give us what we wanted. And then we stay in it, maybe longer than we should. And everything happens the way it's supposed to. So if you are someone who is 25 years into something, and you're like just now getting the guts to want to change. Great, that's the exact right time. But my guest this week, is an incredible, incredible woman who has a lot to share. Her name is Kellee Forkenbrock and she is a, well, she has many things. She's a wife and a mother. She is a writer, she is a librarian. And she didn't start out with all those like things right, obviously, obviously, the wife and mother thing, but I can't wait for you to hear that her story of finding sobriety of changing career of how she's able to do so much in a day. And it is a couple things that, you know what they actually they don't cost any money. They just require communication, vulnerability, so I can't wait to hear those. And I have to say one of the most unique BE IT action items I've ever heard. We've heard a lot. And this one, this one, I mean, I'm already using. I'm already going to use because it's so beautiful and so special and life changing. So I can't wait for you to hear it this episode. Kellee came to me, as you'll hear in her intro, because I asked you listeners, who should I interview? Who do you want to, who do you want to hear on the pod? And if there are people that you want to hear on the pod? Just DM the @be_it_pod. Let us know, you know we'll reach out to them if they're aligned with the podcast and I am obsessed with getting to share amazing women, amazing humans with you and Kellee is just I'm really excited for you to dive into this episode. But I also would love to hear who you want to hear in your ears. So please let me know at the be at pop at the @be_it_pod. In the meantime, here is Kellee.Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast, where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guests will bring Bold, Executable, Intrinsic and Targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started.Alright Be It listeners, I have a very special woman here she was actually sent my way by one of our listeners and OPC instructor Rachel Piper. So, I am so grateful. In fact, if you are listening to this, and you're like, "Oh, I want Lesley to interview this person," you can tell me and I will happily look into them and see if we can put them on the pod. Kellee Forkenbrock is here. Oh my goodness, I this woman has done a lot in her life. And I'm really excited to share it with, share her with you. And also I kind of love as I will get into this in a second. But I feel like we put ages on things, we think we can't do something. And I remember hearing a lot of people think when they hit 40, they can't do something. And like the life is different. And Kellee is here to share that, "No, but life does not stop at any certain number and you can have a lot more to whatever it is you want to do." So Kellee, thanks for being here.Kellee Forkenbrock 4:34  Thank you so much, Lesley. I'm so happy to be on your platform.Lesley Logan 4:38  Oh, well. I'm really happy to hear your story and share it with all of our listeners. You are a force. So Kellee, can you tell us a little bit about who you are and what you're up to these days. I know you know, Rachel and I know you're in Iowa but you are doing a lot over there. So what are you up to right now?Kellee Forkenbrock 4:54  Well, so I'm Kellee Forkenbrock. I am a librarian, I am a wife and a mother. I'm a author, I am a yogi and Rachel is trying to get me to get closer to my Pilates. So I'm, I'm really stepping into my Pilates right now. And overall, I'm just, you know, a human. I love my life, I love where my life is going. And just as you said at the beginning, I'm in my 40s. And life for me really did begin at 40. It really sounds so cliche, but the amount of things that I've accomplished I'm 43, and the things that I've done over the past three, four years since I've entered my 40s, it's it's unexplainable, but I'm going to try my best to explain today but but yeah, that's just a little bit about me. I work at North Liberty library here in North Liberty, Iowa. If you're familiar with Iowa, we are just 15 minutes away from the University of Iowa in Iowa City. I am also an author, my author name is Eliza David, I have self published 12 titles. And I've been in several anthologies, my chosen genre is a romance, specifically romance with black characters feature prominently. I am working on my 13th novel right now, which I started in 2019. But then I decided to go to grad school. And now that I've finished my first year of grad school, I'm coming back to it. It is called Love in Reverse. It will be coming out this summer, it's going to be just a little short novella. I'm just trying to get my feet wet again, with fiction writing, because I've spent the past year doing academic writing and working. (Lesley: Oh my God.) So yeah, I'm really trying to ease myself back into the romance fiction arena. But yeah, that's just a little bit about me. I just, I love what I do. I've been a resident of Iowa for over 20 years, but I am born and bred from the south side of Chicago. That is my home. My mom and my brother are there. So I visit as frequently as I can. It's not too far from here but ...Lesley Logan 7:08  It's not. (Kellee: Yeah) I nev... like I'm from California, born and raised. And I just moved (Kellee: Right) to Las Vegas two years ago. And when I we've done for cross country trips now. And when I was driving through Iowa, and like Chicago is right there. It's like (Kellee: Yeah) it's you know, I don't know, it's like, you don't know the map anymore when you live in a state that you drive eight hours, and you're still in it. So it's really shocking to me. (Lesley and Kellee laughs) When you're like, "Oh, it's just like it's just right there." So this is Kellee, you're freaking, you are on your 13th romance novel. And you've gone to grad school and your library and you are a mom and a wife that I know our listeners are many of them are married, many of them are moms, many of them are trying or working for themselves or or work for someone for their work. And they're probably like, "How are you writing so many books and going to school and do all these things?" So do you have a secret of like, you know, maximizing time or do you bend time? Does time standstill? How do you do it? (Kellee laughs)Kellee Forkenbrock 7:13  Well, we all I know I hate to say it like this because this is so cliche, too, we all have the same 24 hours. But what I tried to do is and this is something that I've learned in my 40s. I really have to give myself grace, I'm very much a go getter, extroverted individual. So in my 20s, and 30s, I spent a lot of time just bop, bop, bop, trying to get work done. You know, this was before I became a librarian, I've only been a librarian for three years. But the first 20 years of my career was in the private sector. So I worked at companies in in the realm of sales and marketing and public relations and project management. So a lot of corporate duties. So I really got used to that nine to five, this is what I do from nine to five, this is what I can do after five. And when I started writing, I wrote my first book when I was 35 in 2014. And from there my first book, which is free on Amazon, it's called the Cougarette under my writer name Eliza David. And I just kept writing from there. But I guess if I, if I can save what helps is one, I have such a supportive family. My husband and I have literally been together half my life, we've been we are coming up on 18 years of marriage.Lesley Logan 9:21  Whoa, congratulations. (Lesley laughs)Kellee Forkenbrock 9:24  I know. Thank you. We're coming up on 18 years of marriage in October. And so he's known me since the beginning of my career before that when I was in college, so he's always known that I'm a go getter. He's a go getter. So we really try to support each other in that way to make sure that we have the space to do the things that we want to do. And in my case, really allowing myself to you know, allowing me to have that space to write and still care for the children and care for him and do my professional work that brings in the real money. That's been helpful. But again, I come back to just really giving myself grace, it was really hard for me to walk away from writing in 2019. I've started this novel that I'm currently working on. In 2019, I was about two months sober. And I still wasn't convinced that I was going to stay sober. And then the pandemic happened six months later and ...Lesley Logan 10:18  Can I just say, if you could stay sober through a pandemic, you (Kellee: Man)... you're gonna be fine. (Lesley laughs)Kellee Forkenbrock 10:24  I'm writing that on my tombstone, "Here she lies. She stayed sober through the pandemic." So whatever you else you have to say about me, ended with that because ... (Lesley and Kellee laughs)Lesley Logan 10:36  Because the reality is I don't I don't know the stats, but I feel like, like sales of alcohol went up.Kellee Forkenbrock 10:43  Oh, yeah, I'm sure because I know that if I hadn't started my sobriety journey, before the pandemic, I would have had a much harder bottom after the pandemic, if not during. (Lesley: Yeah) So I'm really thankful that I tapped into that part of my journey then. But tapping into my sobriety, so early in its infancy, really took a toll on my creativity. I didn't feel like writing, I don't think a lot of writers felt like writing, I was just talking with a writer, friend of mine yesterday, and we were talking about how while we're coming back to projects that we started three years ago, because it just that all the creative juices out of me I couldn't write. So, you know, I had to give myself grace in that moment to say, "Okay, writing is not the thing I want to do right now." And it took me a long time to get to that place. (Lesley: Yeah) And then once I started grad school, I really had to give myself grace. So I would say those are the two kind of secrets behind my success, if you will, (Lesley: Yeah) is a supportive family unit. And the ability to allow myself to not do everything on my to do list to say, "You know what, this is what I got done today. This is good. Let's rest now. Let's put this away now."Lesley Logan 11:58  That's beautiful. And I think like, I think a lot of people will be nodding along and it's like, and then it's like easier said than done, you know. (Kellee: It is.) I think ... Thank you for being so honest because I do think a lot of people look at someone who's writing, who's written, you're on your 13th novel, and you're going to grad school, and you're doing all these things. And it's like, "Oh, it must be so easy for her." And I, and I actually think it's like, (Kellee: Oh God) it just looks easy unless you're not doing it. If you're the one doing it ...Kellee Forkenbrock 12:24  Exactly. (Lesley: It's not easy.) Yeah, because it yeah, it looks it looks easy because I think another thing is that social media, which I'm a huge fan of social media, so you can always look me up under my writer name Eliza David on all the platforms, except Snapchat and TikTok because I refuse. My kids are obsessed with TikTok, I refuse. I get enough TikTok in my house. But I think that sometimes when we look at folks on social media, talking about their accolades, and what they're doing, what we what we don't see is the struggle, what we don't see is the work, you don't see the behind the scenes, you see what's on stage. And that's how social media set up to be.Lesley Logan 13:01  It set up to be because I was just telling someone I was coaching today, because she was, you know, upset that she was wanting to record and film and she had three hours set aside for it. And then there wasn't enough storage for the film. And then, like the lighting wasn't right, or then this happened. And I said, "Just so you know, I have to record 30 new tutorials because I record all of them and the audio didn't work." And (Kellee: Yeah) I said, "When I don't put it on there. I'm busy re recording. I'm not I don't have the time to tell you, (Kellee: Yeah) I have to re record these things. I've got to re record them." And also, I also think like you don't want to hear that because you don't want that negativity in your life. You don't, like I don't no one's wants to go, "Oh," or then it welcomes like, "Oh, I'm so sorry." I don't want to be sorry. This is not bad. This is like ya know...Kellee Forkenbrock 13:43  Yeah ... like, even when you try to be vulnerable on social media, it's always a double edged sword because people want you to be vulnerable and be like, "Okay, girl, tell us the real story." And then when you tell them the real story, then they say, "Oh, it's not so bad" and then it becomes the oppression Olympics. So you know, at the end of the day, you really have to be grounded in yourself and especially when it comes to how you portray yourself on social media for me you know there are you know, I use my platforms, I talk, I always say I talk about books. I talk about men and I talk about Mariah Carey that's really (Lesley laughs) the extent of what I have to contribute to social media and ...Lesley Logan 14:25  But we all need our pillars Kellee, we all need our pillars. (Kellee: We do, we do.) We are, these are our talking points. This is where I stand. (Kellee: Yeah) I love that you ... that convo is like better than like appetizer to the party um. Okay, so I have to ask this because you have you have a writer and name you write under and then that's what you are on social media. It can it can we talk about like, why did you come up with that name? Is there is there as a reason? And then also like, do you feel like you are a different person when you're her or like, is it just you with a different name?Kellee Forkenbrock 15:00  Okay, those are great questions. So, Eliza David is the combination of my two children's middle names. I have a teen son and a tween daughter. So Eliza is my daughter's middle name. David is my son's. And I just thought that that was such a homage to my children because, well, you know, my husband and I have known each other literally over almost 25 years. So he knows what it's like when I get into my busy mode, just like I know what he's like when he gets in his. But this was like new for my children when I started writing because now all of a sudden, Mommy has worked time but now there's this other element of writing and now that they're older, you know, and a little bit more self sufficient they understand but that was kind of my homage to my children to call myself Eliza David and as far as Eliza David like, is it a Beyonce, Sasha Fierce situation? Sometimes I think so. Because although what I write, I write what I would read. And I love right, I love steamy romance. I love rom coms. So that's what I write. So in a way, it's kind of still Kellee in there. But the creativity and the stories that I pull from, that's Eliza David really going in specilized, the David going into the minds going into the creative vault, to pull out these characters, to pull out these stories, to pull out the struggles. So it's kind of a combination of both I think.Lesley Logan 16:23  I love it. I love it so much. I think it's, I think it's great. And I think like, you know, there's a there's an author of the book Chatter and he talks about how a lot of people will you know, a lot of us actually have a Sasha Fierce of some kind, we might not call it a different name. But when we like go, "Okay Lesley, like you got this. Like that's like the same thing. It's like you being the other version of yourself that's, like, more organized, more confident reminding you to do something." So I think it's, I think it's really cool. And Stacey Abrams writes under a different name too, when I'm like, "Gosh..."Kellee Forkenbrock 16:55  Yes, I am reading, I am reading her books. I'm reading Secrets and Lies right now. I just finished Reckless. I am obsessed with the way she writes. I love that she writes like this romantic thriller stuff. So as Selena Montgomery is her writers name. So (Lesley: Yeah) highly recommended.Lesley Logan 17:11  Everyone you got to, I mean, I'm obsessed with her anyways. And then when I found and I was like, "Oh, I can I can take in more of her." (Lesley laughs)Kellee Forkenbrock 17:19  Mm-hmm. Yes. Highly recommended.Lesley Logan 17:21  Okay, so you had a private sector job. We made a decision to switch careers get sober, all these things. What was the impetus, was it slowly like, like over a years ago, and I need to change this? Was there like a moment? What made you do that? And also, like, why why a librarian? Like was that because you're writing?Kellee Forkenbrock 17:42  That's those are such a great questions. So my sober journey literally started from birth. I have in my family, alcohol was an issue. I grew up in a great family with people who loved and cared about me. But alcohol was an issue. And although I didn't start, I started drinking. I never touched any alcohol, literally until freshman orientation in college. And from then on, you know, I went to college in the late 90s. So from then on, it was just this binge drinking culture. Because people, at people who are younger than 40 really don't understand like, we were wild in the late 90s. We just didn't have social media and camera phones to catch it. So it was just really buck wild, like my college and and I went to college in a small town in, I will call Clinton Iowa, which is about 90 miles east of here. And, you know, I went into, I literally went from binge drinking culture and college, to Sex in the City, Martini culture in my 20s, to wine, mommy wine culture in my 30. So I hit all three of the phases of drinking. (Lesley laughs) And a part of that was because I grew up in an environment where alcohol was accessible, where it was considered just part of life. (Lesley: Yeah) And what hit for me was I always said to myself, especially as my kids got older, you know, I'm gonna stop drinking because, you know, when my daughter she's 10 now, but when she was a toddler, when I was still drinking, she would say, "Oh, it's mommy juice." You know, like, when I would pull out my wine, it was like she or if I was in a bad mood, if I was sitting down, if I was upset, she said, "Mommy, do you want some wine?" And it's like, wow, my child at a very young ages already acquainting me not in a good mood with needing wine. So I knew then that I needed to change but I wasn't ready. And during it was Labor Day, September 2nd 2019, was my first day of sobriety, I woke up it was Labor Day weekend, it was Sunday of the end of Labor Day weekend. And I looked in the mirror after two nights of binge drinking. And I just did not like the way I looked. And I told I said to myself, You know what, I just turned 46 months ago, my skin's a mess. I'm exhausted. And I was in Chicago at the time. So I had to drive me and my husband, my family back to Iowa City. And I just said, You know what, "I'm not going to drink" and on the ride back to Iowa City, my husband and I were talking. And I said, "You know, I think I'm gonna stop drinking." And I said, "You know, there's a bottle of Pinot Grigio in the back of my refrigerator, the refrigerator that's already opened, I should just finish that off." And I still come to finish them all. Came home and I saw it. And I thought, "No, I'm literally going to stop drinking right now." (Lesley: Wow!) And I have not had a drink since. And, for me, what really influences my journey is one, the health benefits, the you know, just, I lost eight pounds in my first month of sobriety, and I changed nothing else about my life, except not drinking. (Lesley: Wow!) That was, that was the only thing I changed, and I lost eight pounds. And it wasn't just the weight loss, but my skin looked better. I felt better. I had better sleep, I had a better attitude. And it really forced me because I was already doing therapy at the time. But it really, it made my therapy stick because now I really did the homework because I don't have the wine to, you know, help me work through life's problems. (Lesley: Yeah) I have to look my problems in the face stone sober, and figure out what my next plan of action is. And that has been one of the biggest benefits of sobriety for me thus far.Lesley Logan 21:27  I'm glad you said that because I've got to say, like, having having to work through the things. I think, if you can do it like that, if you can do it sober. If you can do it, there's so much more clarity. And also it makes you probably feel really unstoppable and stronger. Like you, I don't know, I'm maybe inferring. (Kellee: Yeah) I just feel like you, I think a lot of people's hang ups are because they don't do the work. And it's hard to do the work when there's a million things you're already doing. And then (Kellee: Yeah) there are many hours of some days that you are not really completely there because you've had something to drink. So you know,Kellee Forkenbrock 22:02  Yeah, it's incredible, like I would not have and then that leads me to your second question about becoming a librarian. So it was through getting sober, that during my third month of sobriety. I was done working at my employer, and I thought, "You know, what, what? I'm 40 years old, what is it that I really want to do with my life?" And I had already written several books by this time, and I thought, "Okay, I want to work with books." But I kept it just as at that, you know, I'd gone through my 20s and 30s, designing the career I wanted, and even saying, you know, counting out certain jobs because it didn't fit the exact picture I created in my mind. So this time, I took a minimalist approach, I said, "I just want to work with books." So if that means I'm working at Barnes and Noble, if that means I'm just going to be a writer for the rest of my life, if that means I'm going to work at RR Donnelley and make phone books for the rest of my life. That's what I'm going to do. And I saw there (Lesley laughs) was a part time job at the library.Lesley Logan 22:09  So glad you're not making phone books.Kellee Forkenbrock 22:59  I hope, I'm glad too because that would have been a short career. And I started part time at two libraries. Because I told my husband two part time, part time jobs equals one full time job, right, right. He didn't really believe that. But oh, well. Those two part time jobs, one of them turned into the full time job that I do today. And that's how I became a librarian. And at first I thought, you know, I've always loved libraries. I didn't know that I could be a librarian. If you asked me five years ago when they said, "No, I love libraries, but not so much." And here I am, I've just wrapped up my first year of grad school, I went back to school after 22 years away, I got my undergrad in 2000. So this was my, this has been my first time back in the classroom, in almost in over 21 years. So and now I'm heading into my second one, I, I couldn't have crafted a better I spent so many years, my 20s and 30s, in particular crafting my career. And this by far, has been the best professional decision of my life. I am just so glad. And I don't think I would have reached this conclusion if I wasn't sober.Lesley Logan 24:17  I also, I love the way you're saying this, though, because I think so many of us like you said, you're like I cry, I picked a job based on the picture that I thought it would be. And like we all I think, I think I think people in their 40s and 50s are still doing this. Like I think people ... (Kellee: Yeah) they want so much certainty. So they're like, "Okay, this person who is the CEO of this company, here's what they do before this, and then before that, and before that." And like I had a one of the girls I was teaching, she was 14 at the time and she's like, "I'm going to go to Stanford," and I said, "Okay, do we have any other options we want to apply to just like just as backups?" "No, I'm applying to Stanford." I'm like, "Okay." She's like, "This is how I'm going to do it." And she's like listing off all the extracurricular activities she's doing, all the clubs she's doing, all the classes she's taking, and then on this summer school to do this. And she's 14. And I was just like, I looked at her mom, "I really hope you have a backup plan."Kellee Forkenbrock 25:10  Yeah. You know it's uncertainty because groundlessness is scary. The ide... and Buddhist principles talk about groundlessness a lot, the ability to embrace uncertainty. And I think that especially after 2020, all of us have learned that embracing uncertainty is really the key to sanity. It truly is because you're going to drive yourself mad, trying to plan out every intricate part of your life. And that and just like that 14 year old girl, she's, she's a girl after my own heart, because that's what I did in my 20s. I said, "No." I even planned my children. Okay, my children are exactly five years apart. And I planned it that way because and, I planned ... I actually read one of those books about how to plan the gender of your child.Lesley Logan 25:59  Oh, did you do sex positions? Because there's ...Kellee Forkenbrock 26:01  Yeah, I did the I did the the ovulation. (Lesley: Okay) Because it's like if you have sex before ovulation versus after ovulation. And it worked (Lesley laughs) because I got my girl, but still, like, that's just how just analytical I was about it. And now in my 40s, I think the girl and the woman in my 20s would look at the woman in my 40s and be like, "Oh, you don't have a plan B?" "Oh wait a minute. What's the plan? Where are we going? What are we doing?" I have really did this and but I still I mean, I still have my moments. I mean, I have two children. So I have a teenage son, I have a tween daughter, I still have my moments of control. But I recognize that whenever I'm in those moods, that it's just about control. And what is control about, fear. You know? It's, those are interconnected. So being recognizing that, when you participate in it, is really key as well.Lesley Logan 26:55  Yeah. And like, it's hard to participate in that and have like, even a conversation with yourself about like, "Why am I having this? Why am I controlling this right now?" If you are not in tune with yourself in some way, whether it is through sobriety, or just even taking time to learn about who you are, and (Kellee: Yeah) what activates you, what makes you tick, like, and it's so interesting. I grew up going to the library, like we couldn't afford books, we couldn't buy or like we could go to the bookstore, and that we were allowed to read, but we didn't get to take them. (Kellee: Right right) So but we go to the library as much as we wanted. And, and I, I think that they're just such a special place. And the people who always work with them are such, they're always like such good hearted people like you don't go work at the library if you don't like books and people.Kellee Forkenbrock 27:43  Exactly, exactly. At least I hope not.Lesley Logan 27:46  I hope not. I hope... So you, you got this amazing promote, you're like you're the you're the head librarian now and you decided to go back to grad school. Is that something you've always wanted to do? Is it for your writing? Is it for, is it for your career as a librarian, like what made you decide to do that? Because I think a lot of people would have that on their list and then think because of their age or because of their kids or because of all the all the all the responsibilities, they can't do it. So what made you say, "I can do this."Kellee Forkenbrock 28:12  Well, when I when I became public services librarian, I thought to myself, "Let me see how this goes for the first year." You know, I really love the people that I work with. I love my director. And I love the environment, especially as an extrovert who loves being around people. And after a year, I started thinking, maybe I could go to grad school, and I talked to my husband about it, my husband, you know, he has his master's in his field. And, you know, he was completely on board. But then I started thinking, you know, the fear sets in. And I think that's what happens with a lot of us is that we think about these things that we want to do. And then that voice of fear cat... catches in and says, "Oh, no, no, no, you have this, you have that, you have this, you have that." And it's hard to discern between the voice of fear and the voice of reason. Because the voice of fear and the voice of reason can sound very much alike. And what I had to do is think, "Okay, why am I going to grad school? Why am I interested in going to grad school? Is it because I want to say that I have a master's? Is it because I feel like I'm not adequate enough in my job because I'm a librarian. Who has this is my first year of experience. Do I feel like I need to beef up my own experience? What are the reasons?" And and your 'why' can be valid because it's your 'why'. So I once I understood what my 'why' was, that's what fueled me to apply, to get the scholarships that I had got. I've gotten two scholarships, two academic scholarships as a result of my career. I'm doing my practicum with Iowa City poetry next fall, and it's really introduced me to so much, it's so much more than the classroom work. It's so much more than the academic side. It's been the connections I've been able to make since I started in grad school, and how I use those to fuel my career, so they're all interconnected. So knowing that my why is connected to my, to my sole purpose, which is to be of service, and to be around books all day. That is literally what I like, I love helping people and I love being around books. So that helped me fuel my decision to go to grad school. So I think for most of us, especially for women, we got to get out of them voice of you know, those voices of fear, and really get down to what your 'why' is like, "Why are you doing this?" And once you have that, that's going to be the fuel that content that takes you through your journey. Lesley Logan 30:40  You're you're spot on. And it's true, because because there's there's going to be a lot of different things that come up along the way. And if you are not clear on why you're doing it, you are not going to be able to face a fork in the road, you're gonna get stuck at it, you're going to, well you're not going to do the thing and you'll let fear win. Because you're you aren't were aware of your why and it's not strong enough to go, "Yeah, it's gonna be scary as fuck, but I'm going to do it anyways," you know. I applied to grad school when I was in college, and I had to write this 60 page paper. (Kellee: Ah, oh!) And I, like to graduate my, my college my degree and I and so the this letter came in the mail after I turned that paper and I had to pull two all nighters and it was horrible this thing, and I was like, "I don't even care this letter says I am not. I'm not going to another class. I am not writing another paper" because of course, my grad thing was in writing, it was in communications. And I was like, "No, I don't even care." And I just throw it away didn't even open it. I'm imagining it was a probably a, "No, not at this time anyways," becuase (Kellee: Right) like grad school taking, taking a girl just out of college hasn't worked anything. But I'm also so grateful because it led me into what I do now. And I think we it's like that being open to what what you can't, what you couldn't picture because when someone says I should be a Pilates instructor, I was like, "I could do that." It's kind of like when you would just that's what made me think, and (Kellee: Yeah) be like, "I could I'm going to be around books. Oh, I could be a librarian." Like, it's like, I it's like, it's like, I don't know, and maybe it's our generation. I mean, I'm, I'm an elder millennial, but, but like, I feel like I grew up with parents who like they did this job. And then they stayed in that job forever and ever and ever. And so you had to pick your career. And that was like your career. And so I went to college for communication. And I was like, "Oh, that's what I have to do." And it's like, so it's like, "You can be a Pilates instructor." And I'm like, "Really? I could?" (Lesley laughs)Yeah, it's weird, because we grow up with us, our parents mean well. I mean, I say this, from the seat of being a parent of a teen who is starting to look at what he wants to do with his life. And in the knee jerk reaction, even in my more enlightened state, my knee jerk reaction for my child is, "Go to college, pick a career, go to college get serious," like that is still my knee jerk reaction. And I know that when I say that, I mean well, and our parents meant well, too, because that's what they know. But I know I don't want my children to have to wait as long as I had to wait (Lesley: Mm-hmm) for the light bulb to come on and say, "Hey, no, no, no, do what it is that's in your heart to do." And, and I think that's sometimes in this very realistic concrete world, doing what's in your heart and soul. And what you're meant to do can be a little woowoo. And people think you're living in a fantasy land. And I probably would have, I know, I would have been that person 20 years ago, even 10 years ago, to be like, you're going to stop working at this nice corporate job?Kellee Forkenbrock 32:39  It's like all benefits (Kellee: to go) and all ... To go be with books, to do books all day. And the great thing is that I'm grateful. But then on the other hand, I'm grateful for that time, I'm grateful for the 20 plus years I spent, you know, climbing this, you know, corporate ladder, or what have you because those skills now helped me in my job, those management skills that I honed those marketing skills that I honed, I use those every day in my current position. The only difference is I'm doing something that is really from the heart. So I'm I'm taking all of those practical skills that I learned in my career and being grateful for that journey. Because if I didn't have that journey, I would not be in the position I was in today.Lesley Logan 34:37  You know, thank you for saying that because I think a lot of people go, "Gosh, I should have done that instead." And not like maybe like, "I shouldn't have wasted those years. I should have just done this thing." And it's like everything that you experienced all the jobs you did because you thought this is going to be the right job for me or this is going to be the most secure thing I can do. All those things even the people we dated that were like, "Gosh, that was a dumb decision." (Kellee: Oh, don't get me started.) (Lesley and Kellee laughs) I say all the time if I hadn't been my ex I never would be with my husband. Because if I hadn't met with like super secure lawyer person with all the check all the boxes, all the things I would never have been like, "Yeah, let me date a musician. That sounds like a good idea." (Lesley and Kellee laughs) I was like, "You know what, let me just tell you security and a good career doesn't mean anything. Give me the musician. Hold on, let me, let me check out him." (Kellee: Yeah) But um, but I think, you know, every experience we have sets us up for the next one. And it's like you, yeah, okay, maybe if your mom had told you, "You should be a librarian, Kellee. Like you love books." Maybe ... " (Kellee: Oh, I wish she did it.) It maybe you ... (Kellee: I wish she did.) and you wouldn't have but maybe wouldn't have been that where you are and doing the way you had. (Kellee: Yeah) Or maybe even like, "Oh, you know why, I really should try this corporate thing" because it feels like you pro... like now, you know, like, this is a job you want. (Kellee: Yeah) You know what I mean? Like, it's more, there's (Kellee: Yeah) more certainty and more in there. So I think, you know, we can't let we can't, we can't be sad about the experiences we didn't have earlier, because all the ones we (Kellee: Yeah) did have really do set us up to be where we are and have the experience we're having now. And, and so I'm glad you mentioned, like your past job has allowed you to be more successful and even have more probably more impact at your current job because of those leadership and management skills, you know.Kellee Forkenbrock 36:17  Yeah, absolutely. I mean, in my position as Public Services Librarian, one of the things I do is, you know, I do some community outreach. So I bring, I'm bringing with me 20 plus years of community experience throughout the corridor. 20 plus years of meeting and engaging business owners and creatives and, and cor... and organizations, I'm bringing those connections with me. And what's more, is that I'm using those previous connections to build new ones. So never ever discount your journey. And that's something I have to continue to remind myself of, like, even in my happiest days with my work. I'm always like, damn, I wish I had, you know, done this earlier. But then I have to catch myself and say, if I had done this earlier, you know, you know, I wouldn't have had that bulk of experience to buoy my career like I can now so (Lesley: Yeah) never ever discount your journey.Lesley Logan 37:13  Oh, I think I think that it's like, I think we should all put that on a bumper sticker. So on a t-shirt, on a book. So Okay, before we take a break, I feel like I have to ask a librarian. Favorite books like books that like that, like you're like, if someone's like, "I need to read something." Like what are your go to is right now aside from your own?Kellee Forkenbrock 37:34  Yeah. Well, I have to say, my favorite, favorite writer is Alice Walker. I had the privilege of watching her live via zoom, but she she just released a collection of her letters. But my favorite book from Alice Walker - Is In Our Mother's Gardens. And it is a collection of essays and letters that she wrote in the name of what what's coined as womanism, which is black feminism, but I invite everyone, especially every woman to read 'In Our Mother's Garden', and it is a fantastic, fantastic book, another book that I love. That always shocks people because they didn't know that this writer would write something racy, but it's the name of the book is called Wifey. And it's written by Judy Blume. Yes, that Judy Blume. So Judy Blume has, you know, this great career of, you know, Dear God, It's Me Margaret, and all of these wonderful children's books, but she also writes some adult books and Wifey is a fantastic book about a housewife, a disgruntled housewife whose husband is cheating on her. And she begins an affair with a motorcycle, a motorcycle man who just visits her home and (Lesley laughs) the untoward thing. And yes, it is written by the Judy Blume and I have contacted Judy Blume on Twitter and told her how much I love that book. And she tweeted me back it was like one of the best moments on social media but she's like, "Thank you. I don't care enough about Wifey. But thank you so very much that makes me feel so good." So I made Judy Blume feel great about that book. So Wifey by Judy Blume is like one of my favorite pieces of fiction that is ...Lesley Logan 39:26  I'm so excited, I'm so excited to read this because I miss Judy Blume. Like I like I read every I mean I've been sitting on the shelf, the library (Kellee: Yeah) and I'm like waiting for the book that I hadn't read to come back yet. (Lesley laughs)Kellee Forkenbrock 39:38  Yes, get you some Wifey. I would recommend all of her books. She also has a book called Summer Sisters that is an adult fiction novel. Her adult fiction is like it, so I would highly recommend you get some of that out of the box.Lesley Logan 39:53  All right. I'm excited Alice Walker and the adult versions every one of your very favorite author who helped you through your teenage years ... (Kellee: Yeah) She's back for all of us. Oh my gosh. Yeah, I you're amazing. I have to have you back. Okay, we're gonna take a quick break and we're gonna hear how we can read all your books and also your be it till you see it action items.All right, Kellee, what do you, where can people find you, follow you go to the library? (Lesley and Kellee laughs)Kellee Forkenbrock 40:22  Well, you can find me on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram. My Facebook and Twitter are both Eliza David. So you just look that up in the search bar. And you can find my author page there, as well as my Twitter, which is @elizadwrites. And then on Facebook, I mean on Instagram, I'm under the handle @writegirlproblems, write as a w r i t e girl problems. So you can find me there as well. You can also find my blog at elizadavid.com. And yeah, that's how you can get in touch with me. I am highly accessed a little too accessible online. But I love social media, I love you know, checking people out, I love checking, you know, posting about myself and what I'm doing. So feel free to contact me on all of those platforms.Lesley Logan 41:09  I love it. And are your books on your site? Or where do they find your books?Kellee Forkenbrock 41:14  Oh, yes, my books on Amazon. So if you just google Eliza David, right now all of my books except for my first book, which is free on Amazon. The rest of my Kindle books are all 99 cents each. If you love steamy romance, I've written, I have the Cougarette which is a six book series about a 43 year old woman falling in love with a 26 year old man. I have 'The Follow' which is a trio of books. And it is about an R&B star who is suffering from a sex addiction. And he falls in love with his social media manager. So it's about their relationship ... (Lesle: You really do love social.) I do, don't I? I'm ridiculous. And then I'm in several anthologies, which are also under my name. Those won't be 99 cents because those are published by other folks, but I'm in Best Women's Erotica, volume four. I'm in the naughty librarians of collections, (Lesley laughs) several collections. Yes, yes, I know right. So if you like this steamy romance with a side of great humor. Absolutely, look me up on Amazon at Eliza. Just look up Eliza David.Lesley Logan 42:25  Perfect. Okay, this is amazing. I can't wait. I read too many business books. So I'm like, very excited for those. (Kellee: Oh yeah.) I'm going to switch ...Kellee Forkenbrock 42:33  Give me that break. You deserve that break. Yeah.Lesley Logan 42:36  So we asked everybody this bold, executable, intrinsic or targeted steps people can take to be it till they see it. What do you have for us?Kellee Forkenbrock 42:44  All right. Number one, learn to say thank you. Learn to say thank you. I say it out loud. When I, if I see like, if I see like an ex, posting something that's just not cool. I say, "Thank you for delivering me from that relationship with that person." If I'm having a disagreement with my mother, "I say thank you for for allowing me the ability to even argue with my mama, that she is still here with me that I can have that dialogue. Even if it's if it's difficult in the moment." Just learn to say 'thank you'. That's, that will be my number one thing, just really practice gratitude and every step of your way, it's hard to practice gratitude, when we're in those tough times. But know that when you're in those tough times, the universe is trying to teach you something. God, whoever you believe in is trying to teach you something in that moment. Be grateful for that lesson. And be grateful for that breath that you're breathing that you can even engage that lesson because a lot of people can't right now. So say 'thank you', just say 'thank you' out loud, scare people. Say, 'thank you'. Thank you. Yes. Thank you. (Lesley and Kellee laughs)Lesley Logan 43:57  Oh my God. Thank you. Oh my, Kellee, thank you so much. This is a delight. I'm just I'm so glad we've met and I hope that my cross country tour friendly back through Iowa, have to see Rachel anyways. But I would love to meet you in real life because you are just (Kellee: Absolutely) your your energy and enthusiasm and love. Like, it's like, I know we're not in real life right now. But like it is contagious. I can't stop smiling like I've just really enjoyed an entire conversation. Everyone listening, how are you going to use these tips in your life? Let us know, tag @writegirlpilates and the @be_it_pod on Instagram. Screenshot this, send it to a friend like text a friend the link if you have no idea how to share from the podcast world, but let them know that they can, that they should listen to this if they are needing to hear that somebody else ... totally changed their career and change their life and got sober and whatever out of this that made me think of a friend just send it to them. You don't have to say 'hello', you could just send them the link and people know what to do with those. So, thank you Kellee for being here. Thank you everyone for listening. Until next time, Be It Till You See It.That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review. And follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcasts. Also, make sure to introduce yourself over at the @be_it_pod on Instagram. I would love to know more about you. Share this episode with whoever you think needs to hear it. Help us and others Be It Till You See It. Have an awesome day!'Be It Till You See It' is a production of 'As The Crows Fly Media'.Brad Crowell 45:37  It's written, produced, filmed and recorded by your host Lesley Logan and me, Brad Crowell. Our Associate Producer is Amanda Frattarelli.Lesley Logan 45:48  Kevin Perez at Disenyo handles all of our audio editing.Brad Crowell 45:52  Our theme music is by Ali at APEX Production Music. And our branding by designer and artist, Gianfranco Cioffi.Lesley Logan 46:01  Special thanks to our designer Jaira Mandal for creating all of our visuals (which you can't see because this is a podcast) and our digital producer, Jay Pedroso for editing all video each week so you can.Brad Crowell 46:13  And to Angelina Herico for transcribing each of our episodes so you can find them on our website. And, finally to Meridith Crowell for keeping us all on point and on time.Transcribed by https://otter.aiSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/be-it-till-you-see-it/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Do you hear voices ... inside your head? Well, we all do. The secret, according to Dr. Ethan Kross, is to manage the way we talk to ourselves. In this episode of Watching America, Kross discusses the research behind his bestselling book, "Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It." Kross is an experimental psychologist, neuroscientist, and founder of the Emotion & Self Control Laboratory. After listening to this enlightening conversation, your inner voice might learn to pause a moment before creating its next conversation. Learn more about Kross' work at ethankross.com. This episode first aired on May 14, 2021.

Watch the full video interview on YouTube here: https://bit.ly/drethankross472 Dr. Ethan Kross (IG: @ethankross) is one of the world's leading experts on controlling the conscious mind. An award-winning professor at the University of Michigan and the Ross School of Business, he is the director of the Emotion & Self Control Laboratory. Ethan is the author of Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It. If you're someone who's struggling with controlling the negative thoughts circling your mind - this conversation is going to give you the tools you need to take back control. In this episode, we discuss: What it means to control your mind The ability to experience negative thoughts & emotions The importance of our inner voice Animals experience learned helplessness Useful tools to help shift your internal chatter Practicing distanced self-talk Normalizing the experience of chatter The ability to time travel in our minds How to feel without becoming overwhelmed What happens when we overthink our problems? The process of getting and providing support Finding the right therapist for you Teaching kids how to deal with their chatter Forms of invisible support Seeking out awe-inspiring experiences Performing rituals helps us quiet chatter Savouring positive experiences Ethan's father taught him to focus inward How Ethan coached himself through a threatening situation Tools you can use during extreme moments of stress Social media's impact on wellbeing What makes someone a good chat advisor? Show sponsors: Oura Ring

หนังสือ Chatter: The Voice in Our Head and How to Harness It ของ Ethan Kross - เสียงในความคิด คือ เสียงที่จะเป็นคนบอกเราให้เราต้องรับฟัง มันหมายถึงอาการของสิ่งที่เราสะสมในทุกวัน แล้วเสียงนี้จะขึ้นอยู่กับความคิดมวลรวมเสมอ - หากเราไม่สามารถหลีกเลี่ยงเสียงในความคิดไปได้ เราก็มักจะต้องจมอยู่กับความฟุ้งซ่านอยู่แบบนั้นทั้งวัน ซึ่งมันยากมาก ๆ ที่เราจะหนีเสียงในสมองของเราเอง - การโฟกัสกับสิ่งใดสิ่งหนึ่ง หรือที่เรียกว่าการมีสมาธิในการทำงานจะช่วยให้เราเข้าใจชีวิตได้ว่า เราสามารถทำให้เสียงในความคิดสงบลงได้ จากการตั้งใจทำอะไรสักอย่างหนึ่ง - วิธีการรับมือกับความคิดของตัวเอง เป็นสิ่งที่ทำได้ยากยิ่ง แต่ถ้าเราฝึกที่จะคุยกับตัวเองเป็น ค่อย ๆ สนทนาภายในทีละน้อย ๆ แต่ทำนาน ๆ ท่าทีของความคิดเราจะอ่อนโยนมากขึ้น - ทั้งนี้ วิธีการรับมือกับตัวเองจำเป็นจะต้องอ่อนเข้าหา ไม่ใช่แข็งเข้าใส่ เพราะยิ่งเราแข็งกระด้างและมีอัตตาตัวตนสูง มันจะยิ่งทำให้เสียงในความคิดเราจะยิ่งโหมกระหน่ำมาก อ่อนดีกว่าแข็งเสมอ

Have you ever wondered why we have an inner voice? Today, I talk to Ethan Kross, an award-winning psychologist and author of the national bestseller, Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It. In our conversation, we discuss the benefits and pitfalls of having an inner voice. He also shares some tools on how to harness your inner voice to combat anxiety, improve physical and mental health, and deepen your relationships with others. *New!* Watch video clips from this episode on the Mindful Mama Youtube channel! If you enjoyed this episode, and it inspired you in some way, I'd love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram stories, and tag me @mindfulmamamentor. Have you left a review yet? All you have to do is go to  Apple Podcasts or  Stitcher (or wherever you listen), and thanks for your support of the show! 3 Takeaways: Why we talk to ourselves Using our inner voice to ease anxiety, improve health, and deepen relationships with others Tools for avoiding the “dark side” of our inner voice Ethan Kross, author of the National Bestseller Chatter The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It, and Professor of Psychology and Management & Organizations at the University of Michigan, he is the director of the Emotion & Self Control Laboratory. Get Hunter's book, Raising Good Humans now! Click here to order and get book bonuses! ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is a mindful mama mentor. She coaches smart, thoughtful parents on how to create calm and cooperation in their daily lives. Hunter has over 20 years of experience in mindfulness practices. She has taught thousands worldwide. Be a part of the tribe—we're over 25 thousand strong! Join the Mindful Parenting membership. Take your learning further! Get my Top 2 Best Tools to Stop Yelling AND the Mindful Parenting Roadmap for FREE at: mindfulmamamentor.com/stopyelling/ Want to teach Mindful Parenting? Learn more about the Mindful Parenting Teacher Training program here: mindfulparentingcourse.com/teach/ Find more podcasts, blog posts, free resources, and how to work with Hunter at MindfulMamaMentor.com. Be sure to check out this deal from this week's sponsor: Find amazing, beautiful one-of-a-kind designs in minutes – for free! Head over to Evite.com/HUNTER

Learning how to regulate my inner voice and shift into positive self-talk has been one of the greatest tools that I've learned in my entrepreneurial journey. I'm joined by Dr. Ethan Kross, who is a leading expert on training the voice inside your head. He's an experimental psychologist, neuroscientist, and writer who specializes in emotion regulation, and he recently published a book all about how to transform the chatter in your head so that it works for you instead of against you. We discuss how to tune in and listen to your subconscious, rewire those thought patterns, and use your inner voice as an ally. Ethan shares his top tips for managing performance anxiety and what to do if you're stuck in an anxious cycle.    IN THIS EPISODE, WE TALK ABOUT: What inspired Ethan to hone in on this topic  Four things that chatter is good for  Reframing the physiological symptoms of anxiety  Ethan's ‘2AM chatter' strategy Advice for how to coach yourself on controlling your conscious mind The art of being an advisor  The intersection of positive self talk and the law of attraction  Why walking is such a powerful tool for managing chatter    RESOURCES Thanks to Splendid Spoon for sponsoring Earn Your Happy. Go to splendidspoon.com/lori for $50 off your first box when you subscribe to the Breakfast, Lunch + Reset Plan, or the Breakfast, Lunch, Dinner + Reset Plan.  Sign up for The Spritz newsletter at litepink.com! Text PODCAST to 310-496-8363 for updates and a chance to be featured on the show!   CONNECT WITH DR. ETHAN KROSS Buy his book: Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It   Visit his website: ethankross.com  Follow him: @ethankross    CONNECT WITH LORI Follow me: @loriharder Follow Lite Pink: @drinklitepink Follow Earn Your Happy: @earnyourhappy Follow Girlfriends & Business: @girlfriendsandbusiness Listen to Girlfriends & Business   ABOUT DR. ETHAN KROSS Ethan Kross, PhD, is one of the world's leading experts on controlling the conscious mind. An award-winning professor at the University of Michigan and the Ross School of Business, he is the director of the Emotion & Self Control Laboratory. He has participated in policy discussion at the White House and has been interviewed on CBS Evening News, Good Morning America, Anderson Cooper Full Circle, and NPR's Morning Edition. His pioneering research has been featured in The New York Times, The New Yorker, The Wall Street Journal, USA Today, The New England Journal of Medicine, and Science. He completed his BA at the University of Pennsylvania and his PhD at Columbia University.

Some of the most powerful conversations we have everyday are with ourselves. But sometimes, your inner coach can sound a lot more like your inner critic.    In this episode, Google's Head of Global Resilience, Dr. Lauren Whitt, leads a discussion with Dr. Ethan Kross, author of the best-selling book “Chatter,” award-winning neuroscientist and experimental psychologist at the University of Michigan, and expert on controlling the conscious mind.    Together with Lauren Johnson, a mental performance coach and consultant for world-class athletes and corporate leaders, they discuss how to turn down the volume on distractions and tune into your peak performance.    Follow Ethan on Twitter at @ethan_kross, and get a copy of his book, Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It.   Follow Lauren on Twitter @_laurenjohnson.   Full Transcript: https://bit.ly/3EIcrK1 DISCLAIMER: The views or opinions expressed by the guest speakers are solely their own and do not necessarily represent the views or opinions of Google, Inc. Google does not endorse any products or technology presented by the guest speakers.

#979: I'm back with Ethan Kross, author of Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It. Ethan is a PhD and one of the world's leading experts on controlling the conscious mind which we discussed in episode 977. Here we walk through his personal habits for success and as all of our habits are generally achieved, or not, as a result of the winning voices in our heads, Ethan has some profound perspectives on how to achieve his habits. Perspectives you'll be able to harness for yourself after listening to this show. Connect with Ethan at Ethankross.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Ethan Kross says the human ability to be introspective is a super power. We can time travel in our heads. We can be excited about planning the future, and look back on our lives in nostalgia. But what happens when that time machine gets stuck? And you're only focused the negative. Here is where the ability to harness that inner voice becomes key. Ethan is a professor of psychology at the University of Michigan, and the author of “Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It.”In this episode he shares some tips on wrangling negative thoughts, some benefits of not being in the moment, paralysis by analysis, and zooming in vs zooming out.Episode QuotesThe cost of depression in the workplace:The World Health Organization recently put a price tag on this, for the US global economy. They looked at what the cost to the economy is of anxiety and depression in the workplace. And we know that chatter fuels those conditions. The number was $1 trillion for, I think it was 2020. And that's a number that was predicted to rise exponentially over the next 10 years. Benefits of the inner voice:It allows you to do many different things. It's a really flexible tool. It lets you keep information active in your head. You go to the grocery store, you forgot what to buy, you remind yourself, what's on your list in your head: ketchup, tomato sauce, pasta. You can use your inner voice to simulate and plan, like before presentations I'll go over the talking points, what I'm going to say. I do that in my head. You can use your voice to control yourselves. Like when you're working out: “come on four more sets and then I get to take a break.” And this is one of my favorite features just because I think it's so cool. We use our inner voice to create stories that give shape to our sense of who we are.Being in the moment:The human mind was not designed to be in the moment at all times. And that's okay, actually. The ability to travel in time in our mind is another one of these amazing capacities that we possess. Show Links:Guest Profile:Faculty Profile at University of MichiganProfessional Profile at Emotion & Self-Control LabEthan Kross WebsiteEthan Kross on TwitterEthan Kross on LinkedinEthan Kross on InstagramEthan Kross on TEDxGatewayHis work:Ethan Kross on Google ScholarChatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It

#977: It's no secret we all have an inner voice, whether you speak it out loud, write letters in your head like I do, or it's just the constant stream of thoughts and feelings running amok at all times. A frequent directive is to shut the voice up or ignore it. One this is impossible, and two, that voice is there for a reason and the opportunity we all have is to harness it for our personal success. Ethan Kross is a PhD and one of the world's leading experts on controlling the conscious mind. Which I start the show pushing back on a bit…can we really do this? Ethan is an award-winning professor at the University of Michigan and its Ross School of Business and is the director of the Emotion & Self Control Laboratory. Ethan has participated in policy discussion at the White House and has been interviewed on CBS Evening News, Good Morning America, Anderson Cooper Full Circle, and NPR's Morning Edition. I brought him on the show because I got a hold of his new book, Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It. That tagline is the hook…why it matters and how to harness it. Not shut it up or out. Connect with Ethan at Ethankross.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Kate chats with Ethan Kross, an award-winning professor of Psychology and Management & Organizations at the University of Michigan, and the director of the Emotion & Self Control Laboratory. Ethan's research focuses on the inner conversations people have with themselves and the impacts of such conversations on health and well-being. In this episode, Ethan shares insights from his best-selling book Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It. Ethan talks about the  reasons why we all silently talk to ourselves, explains how our inner conversations can go awry, and shines light on some of the powerful tools we can use to harness our inner voices.  Ethan also discusses a new project in which he partnered with curriculum experts to bring the science of the brain and mind into the classroom.Check out Chatter: https://www.ethankross.com/chatter/Learn more about Ethan and his work: https://www.ethankross.com

Do you want to learn more about that voice in your head? Then you'll love this episode.  Ethan Kross, PhD, is one of the world's leading experts on controlling the conscious mind. An award-winning professor at the University of Michigan and the Ross School of Business, he is the director of the Emotion & Self Control Laboratory. He has participated in policy discussion at the White House and has been interviewed on CBS EveningNews, Good Morning America, Anderson Cooper Full Circle,and NPR's Morning Edition. He is the bestselling author of CHATTER: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It

In this episode, Dustin talks with Ethan Kross about his book, Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It.You'll discover how introspection can be both good and bad, why living in the present runs counter to our biology, and how our inner voice can lead to chatter precisely when we need it most.Dr. Kross explains how working memory is connected to the inner voice and how powerful and influential our inner voice can be. He invites listeners to consider how our inner voice influences attention and sets us up for analysis paralysis. You'll discover how our inner voice influences gene expression, why it's important to zoom out or add distance, the impact of distanced self-talk and how sharing emotions with other people impacts how we feel over time.Ethan's book is filled with exciting research and excellent tools to help us harness chatter. ***This episode is brought to you by SmileStream Solutions. At Smile Stream, we charge you what others should, not what we can, so you can enjoy high quality and low cost. We think they were meant for each other. Visit SmileStreamSolutions.com***Resources Mentioned in the Episode with Ethan Kross:Jill Bolte TaylorSteve Cole's Research at UCLAThe University of Michigan – Emotion and Self Control LaboratoryChatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness ItEthan Kross***Go Premium: Members get early access, ad-free episodes, hand-edited transcripts, exclusive study guides, special edition books each quarter, powerpoint and keynote presentations and two tickets to Dustin Burleson's Annual Leadership Retreat.http://www.theburlesonbox.com/sign-up Stay Up to Date: Sign up for The Burleson Report, our weekly newsletter that is delivered each Sunday with timeless insight for life and private practice. Sign up here:http://www.theburlesonreport.com Follow Dustin Burleson, DDS, MBA at:http://www.theburlesonfiles.com

Ever find yourself in an anxiety spiral, ruminating over things that stress you out? If so, you're in luck because this week we're learning how to better control that voice in our heads with help from psychologist Ethan Kross. Ethan is a professor at the University of Michigan's Psychology Department and Ross School of Business, and is one of the world's leading experts on controlling the conscious mind. His book is called Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It.Have an idea for a future episode? Call us at 347-687-8109 and leave a voicemail, or write to us at upgrade@lifehacker.com. We want to hear from you!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you talk to yourself? Don't worry, we all do. In today's episode, Lisa speaks with Dr. Ethan Kross, an award-winning professor at the University of Michigan and author of the bestselling, Chatter: The Voice in Your Head and How to Harness It. Dr. Kross shares his research in the world of inner chatter and the ways it can be harmful to our relationships, our confidence, and even our creativity when it becomes part of an ongoing stress response to the outside world. As Dr. Kross says in the interview, “The stress response was not designed for long engagements, only short-term deployments.” Dr. Kross shares tools from his recent book for successfully navigating the inner world of your thoughts and harnessing your inner voice to your advantage.Links:Ethan Kross website: https://www.ethankross.com/Chatter Quiz - How well do you know your inner voice?GLO classes:Calm the Mind Through FlowSettle the Mind FlowMental Reset FlowMeditation for Focus and ClarityTonal Meditation

Ethan Kross steps into Carey's office this week. Ethan is an author, scientist, and teacher, and one of the world's leading experts on controlling the conscious mind. He's currently a professor at the University of Michigan and the author of the book, “Chatter: The Voice in Our Head and How to Harness It.” Ethan shares his inspiration for 'studying the voice in our head', the science behind the co-rumination trap, and tools for pandemic-induced ‘chatter'.

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Ethan Kross breaks down the science behind negative self-talk and how to change the way you engage with your inner voice. — YOU'LL LEARN — 1) How chatter takes over and undermines us 2) Four simple ways to put a stop to chatter 3) Why venting hurts more than helps Subscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep683 for clickable versions of the links below. — ABOUT ETHAN — Ethan Kross is one of the world's leading experts on controlling the conscious mind. An award-winning professor and bestselling author in the University of Michigan's top ranked Psychology Department and its Ross School of Business, he studies how the conversations people have with themselves impact their health, performance, decisions and relationships. Ethan's research has been published in Science, The New England Journal of Medicine, and The Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, among other peer-reviewed journals. He has participated in policy discussion at the White House and has been interviewed on CBS Evening News, Good Morning America, Anderson Cooper Full Circle, and NPR's Morning Edition. His pioneering research has been featured in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, The New Yorker, Harvard Business Review, USA Today, The Economist, The Atlantic, Forbes, and Time. Ethan lives in Ann Arbor with his wife and two daughters. • Ethan's book: Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It • Ethan's website: http://www.EthanKross.com • Ethan's study: “Social rejection shares somatosensory representations with physical pain” — RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — • Study: The Marshmallow Test • Coach: Michael Sorensen • Book: Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl — THANK YOU SPONSORS! — • Care.com. Find the perfect caregiver for your child, parents, and home.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Cathy and Todd discuss Chatter: The Voice in our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It by Ethan Cross and how our capacity for introspection can morph into a cycle of negative thinking. They discuss some of his suggested tools for self-regulation and real-world examples of taming our inner voice.

Cathy and Todd discuss Chatter: The Voice in our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It by Ethan Cross and how our capacity for introspection can morph into a cycle of negative thinking. They discuss some of his suggested tools for self-regulation and real-world examples of taming our inner voice.

Ethan Kross is one of the world's leading experts in controlling the conscious mind. He's a Professor at the University of Michigan psychology department and the Director of the Emotion and Self Control lab. He's the author of the phenomenal book Chatter-The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It. Buy it here. You can find more on Ethan here. His book choice was Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl. You can buy it here. His song choice was U2, A Beautiful Day

We all have an inner voice. Whether it is our inner critic or our inner coach our own self-talk can play a large role in our lives including tanking our health, wrecking our moods, straining our relationships, and even causing us to fold under pressure. And it can also be our greatest asset.In today's episode, host Jason Ramsden shares his experience with the book Chatter:The Voice in Our Head, Why it Matters, and How to Harness It and the profound effect it has had on his life in recent weeks.RATE & REVIEW THE SHOWReview us on Love the Podcast or Apple Podcasts -- reviews and ratings help others find us and we appreciate your support greatly.ENGAGE WITH THE SHOWSubscribe, Facebook, Twitter or LinkedInCONNECT WITH JAYEmail, LinkedIn, Instagram, TikTok, or TwitterRESOURCESApp LinksCalm App; Calm is the #1 app for sleep and meditation. Join the millions experiencing better sleep, lower stress, and less anxiety. (Apple, Android)Amazon Links**EP19: Chatter;The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness ItEP11: Give and Take by Adam GrantEP04: The 5 Second Rule: Transform your Life, Work, and Confidence with Everyday Courage by Mel RobbinsEP02: Find Your Why by Simon Sinek (audio version)**As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases

Dr. Ethan Kross is one of the world's leading experts on controlling the conscious mind and the author of his first ever book Chatter: The Voice in our head, why it matters, and how to harness it. He is an award-winning professor in the University of Michigan's top-ranked Psychology Department and Ross School of Business, Ethan utilizes and implements his research on how the conversations people have with themselves impacts their health, performance, decisions, and relationships. Ethan earned his Ph.D. in Psychology from Columbia University and completed a post-doctoral fellowship in social-affective neuroscience to learn about the neural systems that support self-control. He moved to the University of Michigan in 2008, where he founded the Emotion & Self Control Laboratory. We chatted about.... What chatter is and when it backfires The purpose of chatter and how it benefits you How you get stuck in chatter Why you don't want to rid yourself of negative emotions What to do if you're caught up in chatter The factors that can make you more vulnerable to chatter like experiences Whether or not you can control your thoughts What to do if a worrisome thought pops up How sharing your chatter with others can push others away Why you read and have no clue what you read How social media impacts your inner voice Whether or not chatter manifests in children Why engaging in introspection when distressed can contribute to mental disorders If auditory hallucinations are similar to chatter __________ ALL THE GOODIES FROM THIS EPISODE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-courageously-u-podcast/id1506417679 ____________________________ COURAGEOUSLY.U SHOWNOTES:  https://courageouslyu.com/ethan-kross/   COURAGEOUSLY.U FACEBOOK COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1416219115169393   COURAGEOUSLY.U INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/courageously.u/  

Timothy Maurice speaks to Dr Ethan Kross about managing and regulating the voice in your head. Dr Kross is one of the world’s leading experts on controlling the conscious mind. An award-winning professor at the University of Michigan and Ross School of Business, he’s a neuroscientist and the director of the Emotion & Self Control Laboratory... as well as the author of an exciting book called ‘Chatter - The Voice in our Head and How to Harness it’. Together they explore why the brain produces the voice in your head, and the tools of calming and regulating that voice in order to have more self control. cliffcentral.com

Timothy Maurice speaks to Dr Ethan Kross about managing and regulating the voice in your head. Dr Kross is one of the world's leading experts on controlling the conscious mind. An award-winning professor at the University of Michigan and Ross School of Business, he's a neuroscientist and the director of the Emotion & Self Control Laboratory... as well as the author of an exciting book called ‘Chatter - The Voice in our Head and How to Harness it'. Together they explore why the brain produces the voice in your head, and the tools of calming and regulating that voice in order to have more self control. cliffcentral.com

Ever find yourself in an anxiety spiral, ruminating over things that stress you out? If so, you're in luck because this week we're learning how to better control that voice in our heads with help from psychologist Ethan Kross. Ethan is a professor at the University of Michigan's Psychology Department and Ross School of Business, and is one of the world's leading experts on controlling the conscious mind. His book is called Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It.Have an idea for a future episode? Call us at 347-687-8109 and leave a voicemail, or write to us at upgrade@lifehacker.com. We want to hear from you!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.