ELITE PerforMENce with Dr. Brad

Men,  Your ability to master your emotions will determine your destiny. Decisions are extremely important. Wherever you are or wherever you will be are a result of the decisions you have made and are making right no. Decisions determine our destiny.   Our challenge is to make decision the line up with who we want to be or who we are called to be. How to we make decisions that we are consist with who we are called to be. If logic isn't driving our decision making, that means it is emotions that are driving our decision making. It is our thought and feelings that determine our decisions. We do what we do because we feel like it. We need to stop chasing apples and receive what God has already placed in us. You already have everything in you to make you who you want to be, God has already placed that in you, but you must receive it. Three  things you need to do: Read the word. Receive the word Reminded of the word consistently You already walk in the image and the likeness of God. If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com Talk to you soon,  

Men, If you knew for sure that you were guaranteed success you wouldn't have any problem taking action to start something new. We get stuck trying to make the ‘right' next step, but the only wrong step is the step not taken. Making a turn in the wrong direction doesn't matter because it is part of your journey and the end doesn't change, you still get to where you are going. Do not let analysis paralysis stop you from taking the next step Let's talk about the power you have to :  Increase your belief in the end result Do some research and make a plan Take the step Let's ELEVATE OUR FAITH!  Dr. B 

  Men, having a drive at work often comes at a sacrifice in our personal lives. How do you succeed at work and win in life? What is the key to discovering the often deeply desired "Work - Life Balance? The Truth is: Balance doesn't exist, and it's chase leaves us stressed and nonproductive. Our problem is not really not a time increase issue…it's a lack of time inventory and time intention!  Question: How do you become intentional with your time? Gentlemen, it's time to  Eliminate Regulate Delegate and Concentrate! Let's talk about it! If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com Talk to you soon, Dr. Brad

I know your prayer life has felt like a struggle lately. You've been asking for something for so long, but it hasn't happened—or if it did happen, you don't feel like God was involved in the process at all.     **But here's the thing...**   **God is not a vending machine.**     When we pray, he doesn't dispense our requests like snacks or drinks—he cares about us and wants what's best for us.  In this podcast episode, you'll discover how your prayers are really being answered. It's common for us to pray for things that aren't what God wants—so we never see Him answering our requests the way He intends.  Instead, He's planting seeds and waiting for His perfect timing to bring those seeds to life. It may take longer than we expect, but this also means that we don't have to worry about asking God for things that aren't meant for us or praying for the wrong things.  If this sounds like something that would be helpful or interesting to you or someone else in your life, check out the episode If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com Talk to you soon, Dr. Brad

Men, if we are honest , the thing that keeps us up at night is…”Will I fulfill my potential as a man? Will I do enough?” One of the struggles with succeeding in anything is consistency and motivation…they go hand in hand. If I'm motivated…I can be consistent. If I'm consistent, it will motivate me. But what is the backbone of true fulfillment and potential?  Gentlemen, it's Love! Let's talk about how instead taking in a of a self-directed motivation we can walk in  a service-directed motivation.  If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com Talk to you soon, Dr. Brad

STUCK!  Have you ever felt stuck?  You are out there working hard every day, you have achieved the success you worked so hard for, but at the end of the day you think is this all there is?  Your work is not fulfilling you and you are wondering if you made the right career choice?   If this is you, I know how you feel, I have been there.  But my lack of fulfillment had little to do with the actual work.   If work was not going well, then I was not going well.  It was my relationship with work that was the problem.  In this week's podcast I discuss three things you can do to be fulfilled at work!   If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com Talk to you soon, Dr. Brad

Best Selling Author, Speaker, and Financial Expert Ash Exantus aka “ASH CASH” is here to talk about the importance of not only personal finances but what it takes to go from having a mindset of mediocrity to abundance! As Founder and CEO of Mindright Money Management, he knows what it takes to help people maximize their fullest potential so that they can be an asset to the world!   Connect with Ash Cash : https://www.iamashcash.com/main IG : https://www.instagram.com/iamashcash/ If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com Talk to you soon, Dr. Brad

The hustle, grind, and major leverage isn't the only way to massive success. We have an alternative .... service!  Let's talk about how to Serve Your Way To Success. This is a throwback from 2020 and a great reminder for us all.  If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com Talk to you soon, Dr. Brad Dr. Brad

Everyone wants to progress in life but often what stops us is our ability to understand what progress means for us personally and assessing our life goals.    Men, taking massive imperfect action is similar to putting a bandaid on a major bleed…it's not fixing the underlying problem...which is a mindset issue.   We will be unpacking the difference between perfectionism and high standard of excellence as our solution to overthinking, over-exhausting our energy, and throwing our centered spirit out of alignment.    After this episode you'll have more insight on how to move quicker , course correct faster, forgive others sooner, and  become a better leader.   Let's win together!   If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com Talk to you soon, Dr. Brad Dr. Brad    

Men, we all desire to have clarity in our lives! In our health, wealth, and relationships.    However, we don't spend enough time THINKING about what this means as we live in a world of “just get it done” or accept “ I don't know as the answer.”    What if “ I don't know “ is unacceptable ?    Let's challenge our current direction and way of thinking.    When we get clarity on what we want we will be unstoppable!    This requires :    Thinking time.  Reading time.  Relationship time.    But we have to think!   If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com Talk to you soon, Dr. Brad

Men, the challenge is that we all want to win.  But how do we know when we are winning? Not all success is sustainable.  Not at all success is healthy. You can be winning and losing at the same time.  You can be winning in at work but losing at life. We define success by Material, Money, Media (social), Merit (what you do).  When we define success by these things there is no end. You can succeed in a healthy way. Winning is: Selfless, Service, and  Simultaneously Rewarding. Why are you going after your goals? What is the direction?  Become satisfied (fulfilled) then you can serve.  When you serve you succeed. What is the subtraction?  What is the success costing you? If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com Talk to you soon, Dr. Brad

It's not hard to start a new habit, but it is hard to STICK a new habit!  The reality can be very hard to start a new habit.  You need to develop a level of consistency to build a new habit. The biggest issue to sustain a new habit is implementing methods only.  We even try to schedule the new method to make it stick.    But the formula is new method plus mindset to make it the new habit stick.  You cannot not consistently behave in a way that is incongruent with who you believe yourself to be. You cannot out method a poor mindset!   You need clarification! You need io identify the behaviors. You need to have imagination, envision you doing the new habit. You need to participate!   let's talk about it !   If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com Talk to you soon, Dr. Brad  

Men, on this week's epiosde , I've got something you need to hear.️ Have you ever felt like you're working hard but it's not getting you anywhere? You're spending all your time getting things done, but it seems like there's never enough time in the day to do everything you want to do. You feel the work you are doing is not in line with the results that are being produced. Trust me — I know how you feel. The truth is that we all have a lot of goals in all areas of life—at work, at home, and everywhere in between.    The key is not working harder—it's working smarter!   let's talk about it !   If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com Talk to you soon, Dr. Brad        

Men in this episode we will unpack the truth behind what it takes to build successful business relationships. If we had to lock it down to 3 nuggets, here's what they would be!  Person over Performance:  Having a genuine interest in the person…not their performance. Operating with a heart of service over being selfish. and remembering... If it doesn't fit, don't force it.    Let's unpack these truths and so much more! Let's win!   Let's talk about it!  If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com Talk to you soon, Dr. Brad

If you are experiencing the gravity of being stuck or seem to be experiencing a slow transformation in the areas that you seek to grow, this is the podcast episode for you!  Let's talk about the challenges of inconsistency, independence, and inaction.  Men, what is great is that you have the ability to activate the solution and today could be your day!   Let's talk about it!  If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com Talk to you soon, Dr. Brad

How do we know if our decisions are in alignment with God's will?  If we take an inventory of our work or business, relationships, and health, how do we know that we are where God wants us to be in these areas?   On today's podcast let's unpack the blessing of God and his promises. When we ask the right questions, lean into his stretching, and listen for his confirmation, we will experience the clarity we are looking for!  Let's talk about it!  If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com Talk to you soon, Dr. Brad

If you receive what I discuss today it will be transformative to your life…A commonly held belief that holds believers back! Most believers identify ourselves by our behavior and justify continued struggle.. leaving us stuck.    In today's episode we will unpack :    Receiving…not resisting.  Embracing that we are powerful, purposeful, free and in control.  Believing what God says about us.  and so much more!   Let's talk about it!  If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com Talk to you soon, Dr. Brad  

In life , we don't only want the best for ourselves but we want the best for those closest to us. We want to see them:  - Happy, Healthy , & Wealthy We often think, why don't they just get their act together? It is difficult for us to believe in an ideal situation for them, when we don't believe in an ideal situation for ourselves.   Truth: We can have a dramatic influence on the lives & results of others! But it begins with our self perception: self-perception provides direction for circumstances. When you change, the world around you can't help but change! Imagine that! Let's talk about it!  If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com Talk to you soon, Dr. Brad

Our goals can come to a screeching halt if you don't learn how to avoid this massive distraction that most high-achieving individuals are unaware of. Goals seem to move slow and distractions and interruptions make them move slower.   There are both uncontrolled and controlled distractions so how do we navigate through them?  What is the one distraction that can help you move faster?  Let's talk about it today! If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com Talk to you soon, Dr. Brad  

Men, your identity and how you view it through the lens of your business, body, and ability to build healthy relationships is crucial. In this episode we will unpack the power of    Our behavior following our belief.  The power of working smarter and not harder.  Finding purpose through our true identity. and so much more!    Lock in with me to uncover how to Plant some new seeds, Ponder the word, and walk in the power of Personal Development.  If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com Talk to you soon, Dr. Brad

What do your desires and dreams look like? How would life look if you could experience your greatest desires and dreams? In the hit documentary Jeen-Yus , Kanye West chronicles his rise to stardom and there are plenty of incredible takeaways.    In this episode we will discuss : Why faith is connected to Clarity, Connection, and Concentration.  The power and definition of faith.    and so much more!   Lock in with me to uncover how to Plant some new seeds, Ponder the word, and walk in the power of Personal Development.  If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com Talk to you soon, Dr. Brad  

Today I discuss the science of struggle and how you can begin to achieve your greatest goals and overcome your greatest struggles, once you can understand how the mind works.   If you are struggling in your :  Health Wealth Relationships  or feel :  Like a failure Defeated  Hopeless Frustrated Lock in with me to uncover how to Plant some new seeds, Ponder the word, and walk in the power of Personal Development.  If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com Talk to you soon, Dr. Brad

Are you feeling like you don't have time to do the things you are designed to do? Do you have a constant feeling of stress and overwhelm? Does it seem like you don't have enough hours in the day to be productive?    Tune in to this episode as we unpack :  Why time is so important.  How we need to SEE our time so we don't sacrifice the three most important things : faith, family and financial opportunity.  The power you have to get your time back.  How you can create the time, space, and attention to achieve your goals.  and so much more!    If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com Talk to you soon, Dr. Brad

How are your 2022 goals going? We are almost through Quarter one and there are a few reasons why people fail to reach their goals. Let's talk about the One overlooked reason why your goals may be slipping further away from you and how to regain the power to pursure them with intentinality, focus, and consistency!  If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com Talk to you soon, Dr. Brad

Men, in our desire to be successful and elite  in our respective areas we also want to experience being owerful, in control, accomplished, important and significant.  In this episde we will unpack How To Succeed In Your Business Without Sacrificing the areas that matter most : faith, family, and fitness.  At one time i too felt unfulfilled, lacking  meaning, and knew I was failing but I lacked one word : consistency.  Let's talk about how you will succeed more consistently by implementing a few principles to gain clarity and a greater capacity to move foward!  If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com Talk to you soon, Dr. Brad  

Men, what is the key ingredient to changing yoru habits? Your Decisions! Bad habits and making decisions that you know are not in your best interest and don't make the decisions that you know are in your best interest is chasm one most cross in order to establish more consistent habits.  We don't want what we pursue…we want the feeling & emotion of what we pursue gives us!  Examples of this are : we don't want success…we want the emotion of accomplishment We don't want the relationship…we want how she can make me feel validated We don't want to get fit, we want the feeling of being value. When we get our Hunger In Check, our HABITS WILL CHANGE.  When you do this you perform better! If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com Talk to you soon, Dr. Brad

One of the more important issues that many men struggle with, and something I've struggled with in my past, is being inconsistent in practicing our faith. How does this look? Well, this looks like not spending time with God…not reading the Word…not slowing down long enough to get clarity in our lives. This inconsistency of faith shows up in other areas of our lives in the form of less peace, more stress, greater distractions and being more susceptible to the temptations, including…Getting caught up in focusing on Women, Wealth, and Winning too much. Ultimately, as a result of our inconsistency…we stray away from him and stray away from peaceful and productivity. We end up frustrated at ourselves for cyclically straying away and feel too ashamed to return to relationship with him. We end up thinking…”I really ought to be more consistent. Will this viscous cycle of going to God, and going away from God ever change?”     Listen brother…I get it. I've been there. For the longest, this was the story of my relationship with God. About the only thing that was consistent was just how inconsistent I was.   Here's a breakdown of how we think and what happens…   We definitely our faith and relationship with God is important enough to address and pay some level of attention to, but not important enough to prioritize.   We believe… “I'm so busy…I don't have time to commit to developing my faith.” Therefore, Life gets busy…spiritual life gets edged out Next thing you know…you are feeling far from God Then we end up living in such a way that is opposite of the man we desire to be   As a result: Our faith becomes a part of life instead of the foundation our work and lives should reflect Relationship with God becomes convenient and comfortable instead of consistent     HOWEVER, here is what I've found… Our relationship with God is not just A PART of our lives…but our lives fall APART without a consistent relationship with God. Greater the Cost = Greater the consistency. What I mean is this. What matters the most to us is…guess what? US!!! We were born and have always been selfish. We eat, breath, and sleep thinking about us and our problems. God asks for the exact thing we care about the most…which is us. Once we pay up…once we pay with ourselves, we WITH NO DOUBT become more consistent in our relationship with God. I can prove it! I paid almost $200K to go to medical school. And guess what…I CONSISTENTLY SHOWED UP. When we pay a significant cost for something, we will consistently show up. God is asking us to yield our lives, ourselves to him. I get it's scary…but you have no idea the greatness that awaits on the other side of that cost! Better said…that investment of yourself to him!     Which leads me to the #1 reason why men struggle with consistency in their faith:   PRIDE!!   We fail to see or accept, that we really ain't running things We fail to accept help around us We fail to follow something greater We fail to yield to God as the only one who sits on the throne of our lives   Since we believe these things…then our behavior reflects it. When we know we don't know something…we are more willing to follow someone's lead. Think about it: When we lost, we ask for directions (at least I hope you do…lol) and yield to help from someone who knows more than us. When we need expert advice, like from a doctor or a lawyer, we again yield to someone who knows more than us   Not until (1) you willingly admit you can't do it on your own, OR (2) it hurts bad enough to ask for help, do we conclude that we need God.   That was my story. I tried to work on my actions…change my decisions…work harder…tried to focus more. It wasn't until I finally said…”God, I need your help, and I can't do life without you”, that things changed!   So how can we be more consistent in our relationship with God.   Cost: We must pay the cost. We must INVEST in our relationship with God. We must continually invest more and more of ourselves. And as we do, we will experience more and more consistency. The greater the cost (aka investment), the greater the consistency. Therefore, we must yield. Community: When we surround ourselves with other ELITE MEN…men who desire to walk with God and value the importance of prioritizing a relationship with him, then we can improve our consistency with God. Chronicle: What I mean by ‘Chronicle' is we must understand ‘The story of God'. Read the Bible and understand it is NOT a religious book. It is a great instruction manual on how to be effective in life   So, question…Are you willing to yield?   I want you to imagine a life of being the man you've desired and dreamed of being. It awaits on the other side of investing in your relationship with God, by yielding.   If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com Talk to you soon, Dr. Brad

3 Critical Mistakes That Prevent Men from Reaching Their Full Potential   Truth be told, one of my greatest fears is that I will not reach the potential that God me put on this earth for. That I won't complete my assignment. That I will fall short of what he's asked me to do. This has kept me up many of nights…A fear and deep concern of not fulfilling my potential while here on earth.   And for many men it's the same fear. However, it is a real thing that we are not currently fulfilling our potential. We are not showing up as the husband, father, business owner as we can be. We are allowing the ‘3 Killer S's' to destroy our life: Sex, Status, and Salary to destroy us. We are not optimizing our health, wealth, and have a distant relationship with God that is better described as convenient or have completely left him out of our work and lives. This causes us to feel frustrated, stuck and unfulfilled. We are left wondering, “Is this it?” “How did I succeed professionally but fall short in every other area of life?”   Listen though man…I've been there! I know exactly how you feel! There was a time in my life where I was successful, but stuck & unfulfilled. My life was burdened by painful & sinful decisions that, little did I know, was destroying my work and my life. Today I'll share how I went from successful yet stuck to mastery of work and life.   We often think…if I can only succeed at my goals, then I will be fulfilled. So we attack our goals with relentless pursuit And we do it at the cost of our faith, our family, our fitness and overall wellbeing And we become stuck! Stuck in our goals…Stuck in life. …Ultimately living in fear of mediocrity. Living in fear of the constant cycle of staying stuck and wondering if we will ever advance past our demon of being stagnation: Being better than most, but not what we know we are capable of as men.   However, this is what I've discovered to be 3 critical mistakes we make that keep us stuck and failing to get to the next level in our work and life:   Isolation: We hide when we are struggling This is exactly what Adam did in the Bible. Made a mistake…led to shame…and then hid. We do the same thing. Solution: Community. Once I got around a community of like-minded men that were where I wanted to be in life…I began to get unstuck. Ignorance: We fail to seek knowledge that can get us to the next level OR we look for knowledge in the wrong places We lack knowledge of Mindset We lack knowledge of Identity We lack knowledge of Purpose and Influence This knowledge is ALL in the greatest peak performance guide ever: The Bible Solution: Curriculum…Biblical knowledge. Once I did this, I began to have practical ways to tap into my potential as a man. Inflation: Pride. The unwillingness to ask for help. Think we know it or can figure it out on our own This is the biggest killer!! Definition of inflation: a persistent, substantial rise in the general level of prices related to an increase in the volume of money and resulting in the loss of value of currency. Basically, the more inflation and pride we have the less value we provide as husbands, fathers, business owners, entrepreneurs, and leaders! Solution: Coaching and Mentorship…ASK FOR HELP!!!! GET HELP!! This will accelerate your results!! Every area where I have eventually received help and coaching has had exponential growth in the shortest possible time. This is the secret to success…but really isn't a secret at all.     Action: Here is what I want you to do…choose 1 of the 3 above to work on. Either community, curriculum, or coaching. But remember, seeking help will ACCELERATE your results.   Imagine what it would be like to reach the level of performance in your work and life that you've dreamed of. Imagine fulfilling your potential…and having the income, impact, influence you've always imagined. Imagine becoming the ELITE MAN that you desire to be, that God made you to be, and that I know is inside of you! It's closer than you think…but you must give up isolation, ignorance, and inflation…and seek help!   If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com   Talk to you soon, Dr. Brad

“We seek the approval of other people at the demise of our soul…” Pastor Vincent Campbell   Ain't that the truth!!   Pastor Vincent Campbell is a BEAST when it comes to leading and mentoring men! I've had the privilege to see him speak live at multiple men's conferences and after hearing his personal story and the impact he's had on other men (including myself)…I HAD to interview him. He is the lead pastor at The Faith Center in Atlanta and an author, successful entrepreneur of multiple businesses, and national speaker.   In this interview we discuss why men prioritize our success in our career and business over our success in other areas of life (i.e. faith, family, health, etc.). He talks about the difference between ‘success vs pseudosuccess' and how pseudosuccess is destroying our lives. He believes one of our problems is that we seek to be validated as men in all the wrong places.   We then talk about the tips and strategies that he believes we should apply to begin to live like ELITE MEN…by succeeding at work AND winning in life. He talks about the 3 H's men need to address in order for us to overcome the problems preventing us from being ELITE. We also discuss two (2) ways men can learn…either by (1) mistakes or (2) mentors. We both agreed that mentorship is a much better way to learn because it limits mistakes.   Make sure you follow Pastor Vincent Campbell @pastorvincentcampbell on Facebook and Instagram Enjoy! See you soon, Dr. Brad

A Key To Overcome Inconsistency   Have you ever known you are supposed to doing a certain action but you still don't do it? Have you ever been inconsistent at something…are aware of it…but still choose not to do it?   I understand. I've been there before…many of times. Too many to count.   Why is it important? Consistency is required for lasting results. Without consistency…we can kiss our results goodbye.   How it manifests It shows up in every aspect of life Faith: Not spending time with God and the Word Family & Relationships: Not spending time with family and wife Health: Not working out Wealth: Not saving money Career: Not advancing in career or business   We often think this way to attempt to be more consistent… “I just need to work harder, focus more, and/or take it more serious” This turns into temporary motivation And ends up leading right back to where you started Now you become afraid to set a goal again because of fear of failure and lack of commitment and consistency   7 Reasons why we are inconsistent: Why are we inconsistent? Why do we lack commitment?   We fail to understand the cost of inconsistency. It costs us more than we think by not being consistent. The commitment to our goal doesn't cost us enough. The greater investment, the greater commitment. We don't understand our identity, and our gifts and talents. We were not made as inconsistent beings. But we will be more consistent with tasks that employ our God-given gifts and talents. Distraction: We allow ourselves to do things that don't optimize the efficiency of our time. We are typically consistent in things we enjoy doing or that bring us joy. And inconsistent toward things we are not excited about. Lack of clarity on what we want. Lack of clarity leads to doing tasks that are not congruent with what we really want. Low capacity: Our mindset doesn't allow us to operate at a higher capacity Pride & Selfishness: Trying to do it all on our own     What I've found is that consistency and commitment has nothing to do with working harder. It has everything to do with investment and cost.   “Your Level of Commitment and Consistency toward a goal is equal to the level of Investment or Cost of Inconsistency”     The way to accelerate results is to get help. Period! This costs you your pride and selfishness because you have to be willing to do things their way. The reason why you are consistent is because you've been attempting to do it your way this whole time…that's why it's not working.     It doesn't matter the goal…Commitment & Consistency is equal to investment of acceleration or cost of inconsistency Health: Money for personal trainer…or heartattack Marriage: Counseling…or potential divorce Career/Business: Money for leadership training…or fledgling business Finances: Money for financial expert/education…lack of wealth Faith: Costs you your pride and selfishness…or death   The reason investment works: We show up when we invest a lot of resources. We justify the cost when we invest. We look for the positive things in whatever we invest in. You cannot place a monetary gain on what happens from the investment   Things to do: Pay someone Make the investment an uncomfortable investment toward yourself so that you show up. Similar to the way I showed up for medical school because it was an investment of $200,000. This level of investment created consistency and commitment on my part Fast forward the end Think about all the consequences that will happen if you remain inconsistent. Play it forward. You can avoid those outcomes and lack of results by being consistent now.   God is proof and the perfect example of this idea. The reason he is so committed to us is because our salvation cost God the life of his son. Jesus is committed to us because our salvation cost him his life! Thank God!   If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com   Talk to you soon, Dr. Brad

I know we all want to succeed. But for many of us the question is…how do we simultaneously succeed AND maintain our faith and relationship with God? Is it really possible to succeed professionally without sacrificing your faith?   For many of us success has come at a great sacrifice. It has come at the cost of… Our faith Our family and marriage Our Personal relationships Our Health   For many of us we believe that you must choose between one or the other…Choose between success OR faith and fulfillment. We've been lead to believe that success and a strong faith and walk with God cannot happen at the same time.   Since we accept this belief as truth, we end up choosing success…but success that comes at a great cost. Also, since all we see are examples of success costing people their personal lives…then we feel that there's really no other way.   Therefore, we hunt success and justify not being close to God, not spending time with our spouse and children, and not prioritizing our health. Eventually, we achieve but we look at what it cost us… Feeling far away from God Marriage that feels more like having a roommate Children wish you spent more time with them Relationships that are transactional Health is not optimal…high stress and high blood pressure   And we justify our actions by saying…”I'm busy….busy building my dream”. We say “once I achieve” or “when I have more time”, then I will… spend more time with God spend more time with family and do all the things that matter   We edge God out of our lives saying we don't have the time to spend more time with Him and wonder why our lives aren't working. The reason our lives aren't working is because we aren't working with God.     Here's what I found…   Faith must come first, if I want to succeed without it costing your  life and fulfillment.   Your personal relationship with God MUST come above all if I want everything you've ever dreamed of.   You don't have to choose between success and faith. As a matter of fact…your level of success IN ANYTHING is completely dependent on your level of personal relationship with God and the faith that comes from that. Personal relationship with God is the path to peak performance. Personal relationship with God is the path to success and being highly effective in what you do.   There are 2 different ways to achieve your goals:   Without God: When we try to succeed without God, it costs us our sweat, and sorrow from the relationships we sacrifice to achieve our goals.   With God: When we try to succeed by prioritizing our faith and personal relationship with God, the currency is faith…the currency is letting go of how you want to do it. The currency is surrendering.   My story: I tried to succeed without God and it nearly cost me my marriage, my family, and certainly cost me my fulfillment. It wasn't until I started working WITH God, that I experienced my work & life being more effective than it ever had working alone.   Having it ALL…which is the ability to achieve at a high-level, and have great integrity, and great relationships and get it all done, is contingent upon a strong relationship with God.   One of the main reasons why faith must come first in order for you to succeed is because your relationship with God will serve as your primary means of fulfillment, instead of trying to replace the incomparable lasting fulfillment from God, with temporary fulfillment from your achievements. Being fulfilled by God will cause you to live life from a place of abundance and eagerness to serve others from your filled cup.   So here is the challenge: Live out Matthew 6:33   “Seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all these things will be added to you”   Believe it, and trust it.   If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com   Talk to you soon, Dr. Brad

The CHALLENGE:   We have multiple responsibilities in our work, businesses, and personal lives and it is often times struggle to get everything done. More often than not, we are only getting a portion of our tasks done…and many times it's coming at the cost of… Overwhelmed Stressed Being busy but not much to show for it Sacrificing our family and personal lives   I've been there before and know what it feels like to work really hard, and really busy, but at the end of the day seems like not much actually got done.     The SOLUTION:   Here is the simple key to greater productivity in work & life:   SLOW DOWN & PLAN   I'm talking about taking the time to think about your next best step. We often times are moving too fast to stop and think. We are running so fast that we are slowing down long enough to see if we are running in the wrong direction. What's the benefit of speed if it's only getting me to the wrong place faster?   Here are the steps to slowing down and planning:   Take time daily to plan: Think about the area of life that needs the most attention (i.e. faith, family/marriage, health, wealth, career, calling) Daily: Look at that area of life and figure out what needs to be addressed daily in order to achieve your goal Weekly: Take time weekly to reflect on how the prior week went and what needs to be done or tweaked this week to improve toward your goal in that area of work or life.   Ask yourself questions: “What is the most effective use of my time?” “What's the best next step I need to take to make my next step easier?” Example “What worked/didn't work last week? How can I improve?   Execute Take action after slowing down and planning Implement what you've discovered needs to be adjusted.     THE RESULT:   Here's what you'll experience if you regularly slow down and plan: Less stress Less overwhelmed More effectiveness leading to productivity If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com Talk to you soon, Dr. Brad

“Our fulfillment is rooted in clarity of our identity”   Hold on to your seats!!! This interview is REAL, RAW, AND RELEVANT to you and your life!!   WOW! This was one of the most energetic and also one of my favorite interviews! Myron Edmonds is a pastor, leadership consultant, author and Founder of The Winning Circle coaching for men.   So many nuggets & bombs dropped in this interview! Myron talks about how we as men ‘don't have to have it all together'…yet this stereotype we continue to fulfill is one in which we hide behind trying to be perfect in the world. When we feel like we have to have it all together…we fall victim to not being authentic and vulnerable, which causes us to lead these secret lives filled with distractions and devices that draw us farther and farther away from our full potential. Vulnerability and authenticity is the cure for this…which are IMPERATIVE traits to being an ELITE MAN.   He talks about the difference between the ‘persona' vs the ‘person' and the problems we create for ourselves when these two ideas become disconnected…which leads to what he describes as a ‘Crisis of Faith'.   The good news is he gives us some GREAT practical things we can do as men to eliminate this ‘Toxic Masculinity' from our lives and how we can become the men we've all envisioned for ourselves.   Be sure to follow him @itsmyronlive on Instagram and Myron Edmonds on Facebook   Enjoy!   See you soon, Dr. Brad

How do you feel about yourself when you don't succeed at something? How do you feel about yourself when you fail to reach your goal?  Do you define your identity, self-worth, and value based on your results?   For example, do you self-identify with being of value and worthy only once you succeed at something? Do you beat yourself up if you fail to accomplish something?   A ‘success mindset' can be very helpful in our ability to achieve, but if we become dependent on success for our self-worth…it can go from helpful to hindering our effectiveness and fulfillment.   Don't beat yourself up when you don't succeed at something!! Don't go down the self-destructive mindset of becoming dependent upon success to have a sense of worth and value.   I've experienced this self-destructive success mindset before. I only saw myself as accepted and validated once I accomplished something…and if I didn't, I would feel really bad about myself. I needed to succeed primarily to MAKE ME FEEL BETTER ABOUT ME!!   Many of us are striving to achieve something to help us have a sense of value, worth and significance…feel validated. Often times it is success!! Achievement!! Once we achieve something or succeed at something it brings us a sense of worth and value as a man. Once I earn the money, I will have made it…I'll feel better about myself Once I lose the weight, I will have made it…I'll feel better about myself Once I launch that next project……I'll feel better about myself Once I succeed at the next thing……I'll feel better about myself   We become dependent on success and achievement to validate us…to feel worthy…to feel valuable.   Definition of dependence: relying on or being controlled by someone or something else A synonym for dependence is…addiction! We often rely and become controlled by success…it becomes an addiction.   The self-destructive success mindset poses a challenge in 2 ways: When you don't achieve…you feel inadequate. Because your value is tied directly to your success No amount of success ever becomes enough. Just like any addiction…what satisfied before, won't continue to satisfy. Now it becomes a viscous cycle of shame and guilt and feeling less than, because of a constant chase for something you feel you need but can't ever get to.   When we become dependent on something external from us (success, money, titles, what others say, etc.)…aka things we cannot control…to provide validation and fulfillment, we set up an addictive relationship with whatever the outcome is that we want. For example: Money Titles Status   Here's a good way to check if you may be affected from the self-destructive success mindset. Ask yourself these questions:   “How would you feel about yourself if success in your career or business completely stopped?” “How have you felt about yourself in the past whenever you failed to accomplish a goal?” Do you take it really hard? Beat yourself up? “Would you feel inadequate? Like a failure?”     It's ok to feel disappointed, but you can't stay in those emotions. You can't turn your mistakes and failures into what defines you.   How do you avoid becoming dependent on success for your validation?   3 things to understand:   Your validation MUST come from INTERNAL, not EXTERNAL from you! You cannot completely control external circumstances If you rely on external circumstances to define you, then your emotions and self-worth will be defined by things you cannot fully control You will become your mistakes For example: If you failed as a business owner, you cannot define yourself as a person who's not good at business. It was simply a mistake to learn from…not to self-identify with Your validation MUST come from who God says you are! This is validation from INTERNAL, not EXTERNAL This validation doesn't change. This validation is consistent. This validation is the truth of who you are You are fearfully and wonderfully made You are made in the image and likeness of God You are more than a conqueror You will safely experience more success once you depend on your identity in God, than your identity in yourself by your results.   Once you see yourself as God sees you…WATCH OUT!! Similar to basketball, a mistake is no more than a missed shot. Just because Steph Curry misses a shot, he doesn't self-identify himself as a bad shooter...it's simply a missed shot. A missed shot doesn't define who he is as a basketball player. Part of why he's a good shooter is because he believes himself to be before he ever picks up a ball.   Once you see yourself as God sees you, you won't be a slave to time and circumstances…you'll rest in the inevitability of your results, because you'll know who you are…an ELITE MAN!   If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com Talk to you soon, Dr. Brad

Have you ever been in a season of consistent challenges? Where it seems like you can't catch a break?   Recently I've been navigating a season where I've been faced with challenges in multiple areas of life, including… Major transitions within in my career Unexpected Financial dilemmas Fatherhood challenges of an adolescent daughter Health & Fitness challenges   In the past…this is type of stressful season would be a prime setup for me making horrible decisions. Stress is a trigger for poor decision making. Stress is a trigger to develop ‘escapes' from negative emotions of adverse circumstances. Escapes are defined as poor decisions, bad habits, and vices take away value from your life or adversely affect the well-being of others.   This leads to potential bad decisions in any area of life including… Poor health decisions Poor marital decisions Poor financial decisions Neglecting faith & Family…just to name a few   Here is the typical sequence when we face significant stress: Stress -> Negative emotions -> Bad decisions -> More stress -> on and on…   In the past, I would also would get in the habit of working harder during this time. It was easier to work harder and neglect the poor decisions being made, instead of slowing down to stop the cycle of stress and poor decisions.   This can become really discouraging. So, How do you successfully navigate this season of consistent challenges?   What I've found is that in the midst of challenges and stress, it is not the time to just put your head down and keep on working. That's a setup for neglect and snowballing problems.   There are 2 strategies I've found that have been gamechangers when it comes to successfully navigating the valleys along the way to future victory:   Slow down Share your thoughts   First let's discuss Slowing down: Definition: Taking dedicated time to THINK! “What is my greatest challenge right now?” “What's the best next step for me to take?” Allows you to work smarter, not harder Allows you to be reassured that everything will be ok Puts things in right perspective and limits worry Allows you to get clarity Action item: Prayer and silent time in the morning! This time will allow you to gather your thoughts and have clarity on what's the best next step to take.   Second, Share your thoughts: Definition: Sharing your challenges with someone you know and trust Allows for clarity also Allows for release of the weight of overwhelm…it's therapeutic! Action: Choose someone who is close to you that you trust to be transparent with (i.e. spouse, brother, friend, etc) Call them and ask if they would be willing to lend an ear simply so you can get your emotions off of your chest.   Remember this: These seasons are important…very important! Because how we navigate these valleys determines how we navigate the future victories. This adversity is a precursor to future achievement.   Therefore, Slow down & Share your thoughts   If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com Talk to you soon, Dr. Brad  

The best gameplan for results in your work and life, is dependent on how solid your God-Plan is for building a personal relationship with God.   We need to get used to expecting the unexpected. Unexpected adverse circumstances (aka. crisis & challenges) are going to happen…it's a guarantee. When it comes to dealing with these adversities…How we respond will determine our results.   Much of success and fulfillment is related not so much on what you do at the mountaintop of life but how you manage the valleys of adversity.   We are pretty good at setting goals for the different areas in our lives where we want to see results. We then set a gameplan in order to hit the goal. However, it's not uncommon that an unexpected adverse outcome/crisis/challenge will force you to change the gameplan. (i.e. covid pandemic, job loss, decreased business, relationships challenges, etc.) And how you respond to that crisis and challenge will determine your results: Responses to unexpected crisis/challenge that ruin our future results consist of: Panic Fear Lack of Action/Stuck Depression Focusing on the problem Negativity   However, a God-plan can handle ANY challenge and adverse outcome…PERIOD!! You don't have to change the God-Plan!   Gameplans change. Godplans don't. Godplans work when gameplans won't. Your gameplan for results, should be a GodPlan for relationship.     What is a God plan? A personal plan to build a strong relationship with God A schedule to spend time in prayer A Bible plan The more you practice a plan for God, the more God can share his plan for you!   Why a God-plan? God-Plan establishes the right belief that leads to the results you desire. Belief -> Thoughts -> Feelings -> Behaviors -> Results Defines your TRUE identity: You cannot outperform your self-perception Example: If you drive a Ferrari but believe you have the equivalent of a Ford Focus, then you won't get out of the Ferrari it's true potential. Therefore, you cannot outperform how you perceive who you are or what you have. God-Plan provides confidence to have more faith than fear Isaiah 41:10: “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand” God-Plan provides redemption Turns past wrong into right; Past pain into future purpose; past trial into triumph Genesis says what the enemy meant for evil God turns into good God is the ONLY way our permanent poor past, can be changed into future purpose and triumph Example: Despite my past pain and bad decisions in marriage, fatherhood, career, finances, and business…God continues to redeem prior poor decisions into future good. God-Plan helps you avoid getting stuck & helps you take ACCURATE action! It is a fact that what you focus on expands. Therefore, if you focus on your problems and stuckness, it will get bigger. However, a God-Plan will help you focus on God and his Power in you…and HE gets BIGGER!! Example: When golfing, it is taught not to focus on the trees or sand traps, because you'll hit them. Instead, focus on the fairway and you will be more successful. God-Plan provides fulfillment Fact: We cannot have true sustaining fulfillment outside of God…he's our creator. Therefore, closer connection with Him will make you whole and fill your cup. Outside of relationship with God, lasting & sustainable fulfillment cannot happen God plan allows us to get our personal cup FULL, and then FILL the cups of others. Therefore, we become FUL-FILLED. But we can't do it with an empty cup. We need relationship with God to fill our cup.   So, what is your God plan? What are you going to do to ensure that you build a consistent relationship with God so that no matter the circumstance…you can still see results because of how you respond to crisis?   If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com   Talk to you soon, Dr. Brad

Living Legendary: Combining Success & Fulfillment with Tommy Breedlove   “If we are not growing…we are dying.”   Tommy Breedlove   Have you ever felt like there is more to life than what you are currently experiencing? Do you feel like despite your current success…you aren't nearly as fulfilled as you want to be?   If that's the case…this interview with Tommy Breedlove is a MUST LISTEN to interview!!   Tommy is a Wall Street Journal & USA Today bestselling author of the book, Legendary, and a business, relationship, and mindset coach who is a regular featured keynote speaker at global events.   He shares his story of how he went from very SUCCESSFUL in his career, yet STUCK in his life to eventually turning his life around and becoming even more successful and simultaneously fulfilled! This is a very tactical interview with tips, tools, and strategies that will help you follow steps to get you unstuck and start living legendary.   One of my favorite parts of the interview is when he is breaks down exactly what he did to turn his life around including what he calls ‘making me a fulltime job'….which includes his daily routine of taking care of himself so he can be the best man in all areas of life! This part of the interview is very helpful and provides a plan for a outlining a great morning routine.   I hope this interview inspires you and blesses you as much as it did me. TONS of nuggets and tools to apply to your work and life in this episode.   Be sure to follow him on social media @tommybreedlove   Happy to be walking with you on this journey of growth and fulfillment, Enjoy!   See you soon, Dr. Brad

Succeed in Your Goals Without Neglecting What Matters   Fulfillment is the precursor to success, not the product of success   Many of us are stuck & unfulfilled…despite our success. Despite the goals we've achieved and the material things we've accumulated we still feel like, “there's GOT to be more to life than this”. We often ask…”Is this it?”.     It is not uncommon for high-achieving men to think…”If I can succeed at the next goal, then I'll be fulfilled”. Our fulfillment is directly tied to some achievement or measurable success.   This way of thinking fuels a drive to succeed at our goals in order to soothe an underlying lack of fulfillment in our lives…and are completely unaware of it. Our lack of fulfillment becomes our motivation to succeed….because if we ‘can just achieve our goal, then we will be fulfilled'.   This results in achieving the goal, but still feeling stuck, and your goals coming at the COST of your fulfillment, instead of your fulfillment being the CATALYST for your goals.   Here is what I've learned…   Fulfillment is what you are REALLY looking for…not success. You just believe success is going to fulfill you.   Ultimately, we are looking for lasting fulfillment in all the places that only provide temporary satisfaction.   What I've learned is that in order to succeed at your goals, without it costing you your fulfillment…we must flip the current way of thinking…   Fulfillment is the PRECURSOR to success, not the product of success! Fulfillment First, Success Second!!   We have it backwards…it's not success first, fulfillment second. It's fulfillment 1st, Success 2nd .   The goal is to attach your fulfillment to something that will not be affected by circumstances out of your control. Unfortunately, we place our primary source of fulfillment in things external from us that we have little control over including… Our work Our success Our status Our relationships Our health Our wealth   The goal is to be 100% fulfilled before you ever set foot in your building for work, before you ever get the promotion, before you ever earn a certain amount of money, before you engage within a relationship. To have your cup full, before you ever have to fill the cups of others.   The only thing that is NEVER going to move or change due to the circumstances of life is God. We have complete control over this relationship because God is ALWAYS there and available and willing to build this relationship. However, we are in control of whether we engage in his invitation for the relationship.   For example: It's like grocery shopping when you are hungry. When I grocery shop while I'm hungry (aka, not full), I continue to make poor choices of what I'm purchasing because I'm looking for things to fill my appetite and quench my hunger. However, when I grocery shop and I'm full already, I don't make poor choices because I'm not purchasing things based on a need to satisfy my hunger. Life is very similar. If we are unfulfilled, we look for things that will satisfy our hunger that is only temporarily filling. However, when our cup is perpetually filled by God, then I make better choices, because now I'm not making decisions to satisfy an underlying lack of fulfillment.   Benefits of fulfillment first: Emotional stability: You don't experience the rollercoaster of emotions associated not succeeding Peace of mind = Better decision making: We don't make decisions that compromise our character No pressure!: We have no added pressure to succeed because we are already fulfilled. Pressure produces added stress, and stress is NOT consistent with peak performance.   How to build this relationship with God Reserve time & space: Create consistent daily time and space both in your schedule and a physical space at home where you'll invest in building your relationship with God. For me it's first thing every morning in my office. Open your heart Any meaningful relationship requires us to open our hearts and be vulnerable and transparent. This relationship with God is no different. Daily time This MUST be practiced daily. I can't say this enough. Consistency of this daily practice will dramatically create change in your life in the form of greater fulfillment and sustainable success that doesn't come at the cost of what really matters! If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com Talk to you soon, Dr. Brad

Don't let going in the wrong direction, take you off of the right path!   Our pain: We often get discouraged when going after our goals. It's easy to get discouraged when pursuing our goals. We lose hope because we meet resistance or feel like we are going in the opposite direction of our goal. Family/Relationships goals: Goals to become closer with our spouses and children…but seems like relationship is getting farther apart Health goals: Goal to lose weight but seems like scale is going in the wrong direction Wealth/Financial goals: Goal to get out of debt or earn a certain amount but income, are going in the wrong direction Careers goals: promotion or elevated income but it's not happening     Our aspiration: We want the straight line approach when pursuing our goals. The shortest path between 2 points is a straight line…and that's exactly what we want. We don't want obstacles or resistance. We want to achieve our goals without: Resistance Challenge Obstacles Detours Without the scenic route     Our challenge: The challenge we have is that we look at resistance, challenges, obstacles, detours, and the scenic route as BAD!   However, what I've learned is that resistance is not all bad. Challenge is not bad. Obstacles are not bad. They are opportunities to learn and grow. Relationship: Marriage challenges turn into marriage triumphs Relationship: Child challenges turn into child triumphs Health: Physical health challenges lead to health triumphs Financial challenges lead to financial freedom   Our lives are filled with different dichotomies: No freedom without restraint No triumph without trials No light without darkness We often want the triumph without challenge, but the challenge is necessary for the triumph!       In every challenge, obstacle or opposite-direction type situation…no matter what the situation…there is an opportunity to do 2 things: “Learn and/or Lead!”   This is what I've learned…Life is about staying on Right path, even though it may be riddled with wrong/opposite directions.   For example, this is very similar to driving to a destination that has detours. Sometimes along the way, you may be driving east, when you destination is west. However, just because you are going the opposite or wrong direction, doesn't mean you are on the wrong path.     Action Step: How do you ensure that you are on the right path, despite it seemingly going in the opposite direction? Ask yourself these questions:   Do I have a solid personal relationship with God? Do you trust him? Ensures that you are on the path he wants you on…even if it seems like the wrong direction Nobody knows better than God, what's best for you Sometimes it's a holding pattern…sometimes it's the opposite direction Do you know someone who has successfully gotten to where you are trying to go? Can accelerate your progress along the path Can help you avoid some of the potholes along the way Are you more dependent on the “future” or your “faith” for your fulfillment? If fulfillment is dependent upon your future success, it will make for an emotional rollercoaster ride along your path Are you seeing obstacles along your journey as opportunities to either learn or lead? Sometimes we don't know what to do in a season…we don't have clarity where are next step to take is. This is on purpose. But you can ALWAYS lead or learn at this point in your path. Lead: Either by example or help someone else out Learn: Self explanatory Do you have clarity of the end goal? What does the destination look like? Why am I doing this? Clarity on your destination is MUCH more important than clarity of your path to get there   I can guarantee that any goal that is worth going for, will have its fair share of. But it's about mentally managing the turns along the path. If you do this…you'll enjoy the journey instead of fighting through it.   If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com Talk to you soon, Dr. Brad

This ONE DECISION Can Lead To Breakthrough Success & Fulfillment   Ever feel like you've tried everything in your power to succeed or achieve a goal and you are still not where you want to be…either in your career or life? Maybe you've tried the ‘secrets' that others talk about but it doesn't work.    I call this place in life “The Crossroad”, because you have to make a decision to do something different so you can get something different. If you continue to do the same thing over and over again and expect a different result, then that's insanity.   That crossroad often comes down to this question…   “Am I going to continue to do things my way and in my own power OR submit to God's way with God's power??” It's either your way OR Gods way   MY STORY: After doing everything I could possibly do to succeed in my home-based business and take my practice to the next level…I found myself getting the same results. In addition, my pursuits were coming at the cost of everything that mattered in my life…my faith, family, physical health, and overall fulfillment. The things that worked in the past to achieve my goals weren't working anymore. I tried “the secrets” the gurus talk about for business…I tried conferences…I tried just about everything and nothing turned into results for me. The proverbial “well ran dry” after trying everything I could do...went through every option…and it cost me important relationships. Until I finally took the option I'd avoided the whole time…God's option.   After I finally submitted to God's way and God's option of success and fulfillment in my work and life…everything changed! I started experiencing peace of mind, fulfillment, and clarity in both work, business, and life.   OUR PROBLEM: We believe our way is the right way…or better put, we believe our way is superior to God's way. As crazy as this sounds when you read this out loud…it's true. If we believed God's way was better we would have been doing it a long time ago. We believe we are completely in control of our results. We believe that our results are 100% dependent on ourselves and our decisions. In reality, the ONLY thing we are in control of on this life IS OUR DECISIONS…but we ARE NOT 100% IN CONTROL OF OUR RESULTS! We can decide to plant a seed, but we aren't guaranteed that because we plant it, that it will grow. We are not in control of the weather or the elements. This is the same for our businesses and relationships. All we can do is try to make decisions that will hopefully put us in the best place to succeed…but it's not guaranteed. We are stubborn and selfish. We want things to happen our own way. We don't want obstacles or challenges along the way.   If you are at a crossroads regarding some area of your life, here are 3 questions you can ask yourself to help you decide on what direction you should go (your way OR God's way): Do I believe God knows better than I do about my current situation? Why am I REALLY going after this goal I'm struggling with? (be honest with yourself) Do I trust God?   Consider this… Sometimes I have patients that come to see me in my clinic for a certain pain…knee pain for example. They have sought me out as an expert to help them with this problem of knee pain. However, they currently have a treatment plan that they have been doing, that isn't completely working out for their pain. They often time will share that plan with me, hoping that if they continue doing that plan, that the pain will improve…despite the fact that I'm the expert and recommend doing something else that will work. We do the same thing with God…the expert of ALL things. We come to him with a problem but try to convince him of our plan and not accept his plan.   THE SOLUTION: Accept that you are not in control God controls everything The only thing you can control are the decisions you make. The choices we make. Accept that God is the expert Accept God's help   THIS ACCEPTANCE REQUIRES TRUST!! TRUST REQUIRES RELATIONSHIP!   ACTION PLAN: Build a relationship with God that will reinforce trust in him Decide to trust in God's plan more than you trust in your plan. Difference between belief and trust. Story of tightrope walker   Here is what you can expect as a result of building a relationship with God, trusting Him, and choosing God's way… Clarity on your “Why” Your Purpose Clarity Peace Patience Fulfillment   If you don't…you will continue to struggle, stress, and strangle your future success and fulfillment.   If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com Talk to you soon, Dr. Brad

Gain Clarity on Your Calling with Seth Yelorda   “We end up chasing the wrong rabbit, until it's too late” Seth Yelorda   If you have ever had a question of what your calling is or wanted to find your purpose, let me make this clear…THIS IS A MUST LISTEN TO EPISODE!!   Seth Yelorda is founder and director of Vision Clarity 360, a leadership development and strategic planning consultancy located in Riverside, CA. Seth has served as a Vision Strategist for both churches and schools by helping them bridge the gap between where they are and where they want to be. Seth also serves as the lead pastor of the Relove SDA Church in Garden Grove, CA. His life mission is to help leaders to discover their Kingdom contribution.   This interview was absolutely phenomenal! Seth talks about the ‘internal regulator' that we all have that stops us from achieving greater things and the glass ceiling we place on ourselves that holds us from reaching our full potential.   He talks about the Value Vitality Map, which is a tool used to find where you are in the discovery of your vocation.   We discuss how men can end up chasing the ‘wrong rabbit' in our lives and end up with regret and remaining in our comfort zone and the value of how coaching can help find clarity on 3 things that you'll need to discover your calling including your (1) passion, (2) abilities, (3) context in which you thrive.   You can learn more about Seth on social media and at his website: Visionclarity360.com   Enjoy!   See you soon, Dr. Brad

We all have big hopes and big dreams and big goals. Sometimes so big that they are scary! Not only do I want to reach my goals but I want you to reach yours as well.   With that said, the key to every goal or dream becoming reality is TAKING ACTION (aka. the ‘behaviors') toward it. There are certain actions & behaviors that must be taken in order to… Strengthen your faith Have a happy marriage Earn a certain level of income     However, every behavior we take OR don't take…is attached to some underlying belief.    I'll prove it…   My story: I once thought that my level of success was dependent on how hard I worked. My formula for success was: Hard work = Success. Therefore, I worked hard and became a doctor. However, my hard work was completely influenced by how I thought…my beliefs. The reason I worked so hard was completely dependent on my underlying thoughts & beliefs. If I didn't believe I could become a doctor…I would have never worked hard enough to excel in school If I didn't believe becoming a doctor was possible…I would have never considered applying to medical school Therefore, your beliefs influence your behavior. Your attitude toward an idea determines your action!   Therefore, the hard part of achieving your goal is not the doing…it's the believing!   Once I figured this out it changed the game for me…because I then knew what to work on in order to get a desired result.   But the question is…   What must you believe in order to achieve??   The 5 things to believe in in order to achieve:   Belief in the inevitability of the goal There is absolute certainty in its future reality Time is the only separator between you and your goal Circumstances don't matter Think about driving to a predetermined destination such as work. Detours, traffic, and construction don't stop you from reaching your destination. It is certain and inevitable that you'll get there. This is faith! Certainty and expectation of your goals no matter what the obstacles. Belief in the possibility of the goal It can actually happen…FOR YOU! It's impossible until someone does it. The story of Roger Bannister (1954) No one prior to 1954 ran below a 4 minute mile because of the belief that one's heart would be damaged. He was the first to do it. After he did it, others found it possible FOR THEMSELVES and now a sub-4 minute mile is standard in high-level running You MUST believe that ‘All things are possible with God' (Matthew 19:26) Belief in your ability You are capable. You are able! There are countless stories of people who have been able to achieve amazing things with less resources…even significant handicaps What you MUST believe: You can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens you (Phil 4:13) Belief that your goal is worth it The end goal must be something that MATTERS to you! It must mean something to you For example, I believe I could be an amazing figure skater…however, that doesn't matter to me at all. Therefore, I don't take action to become a figure skater. Belief that you are worthy of it This is a test of Self-value and how you view yourself ”Who am I?” “Am I worthy of what I'm capable of?” “Am I worthy of an unbelievable life?” We pursue what we feel worthy of You can believe in all the above 4, but if you don't believe you are worthy of different, you'll continue to get more of the same Someone can be royalty, but if they don't feel worthy of the title, then it's no different as not having the title at all We are children of God and citizens of the Kingdom of God…which means we have all the rights and privileges that come with it. However, if we don't feel worthy of that inheritance…then it's just as if we don't believe we are God's children or part of his kingdom!   Always remember this…   You get what you believe!!   Whether we want to admit it or not, both you and I, are currently achieving to the level that we believe those 5 ideas above. Therefore, we must work on our belief to change the trajectory of our lives and impact on the world!   And THE BEST way to increase all 5 of those beliefs is to increase your faith and belief in God. By working on your belief in God alone, will fuels the beliefs in everything you do and dramatically positively transform your life to greatness!   If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com Talk to you soon, Dr. Brad

Have you ever felt like you are trying to juggle everything in life and it's become stressful and overwhelming? If you desire to have less stress, more peace, and more fulfillment…today I'm going to discuss the right order of life's priorities in order to perform at a higher level with less stress   THE CHALLENGE: We are stressed and overwhelmed. Work and life are disorganized. With the juggling of work and life it feels like a ball is always dropping or we are scrambling to try and prevent it from dropping. It seems like we can't catch up with life.   Stress is a killer! Stress causes us to live in a ‘survival mode' as opposed to ‘thriving mode'. This stressful survival mode expends a lot of energy to maintain, and unfortunately, it doesn't leave enough energy for recovery and sustaining life. Ultimately, this stress can influence issues such as… Digestion issues Chest pain & Heart issues Cancer, etc. Just to name a few physical characteristics of stress.     THE PROBLEM: We have poor ways of managing stress and lack a framework or ‘order of living' that can ultimately help us prevent stress…instead of reacting to it.   There was a time in my life when I was very stressed and overwhelmed and it seemed like no matter how much daily work I did…it seemed like not a whole lot got done. I had no order…no structure to my work and life. Life was very reactive instead of prepared and organized.   However, I eventually learned that much of my stress was because of a lack of a framework or structured order for how to prioritize all the aspects of my life that matter. Once I learned the combination of “STRUCTURE & SPACE” in my life…I began to get more done daily, weekly, and monthly in every area of my life. My faith, fatherhood, marriage, work, health,…everything improved.   THE SOLUTION: Non-negotiable Order of life's Priorities: 1. God, 2. Marriage, 3. Children, 4. Work (Others), God first: Why? We are designed to perform at our best, as men, by being in direct relationship with God Success in ALL other areas of life are contingent upon this relationship and your spiritual growth 2 Ideas Prevent us from prioritizing God 1st We don't connect our relationship with God with our performance in work and life God provides clarity!! Spiritual Growth = Greater Work/Life Performance We believe if we put God 1st, that somehow we will sacrifice our quality of life This couldn't be any further from the truth! Relationship with God = Results in HIS WAY! My Story: Once I began to place God as the #1 priority in my life…EVERYTHING got better! However, it took me surrendering to his will and not my own. Action Item: Create Time & Space for God INVEST Daily time with God. Start building and cultivating that relationship Marriage second: Why? An unhealthy marriage is a setup for stress and draining energy, which translates into poor performance in other areas of life Problem: We don't see our marriage as a part of our performance but it is. We see time spent with our spouse as pulling us away from our work…instead of helping it. Happy marriage = Greater Performance My Story: Once I began to invest quality time toward my spouse and marriage…I noticed my work life was better, because I didn't have personal stress distracting my focus on my work and business Action Item: Create Time & Space within your marriage: INVEST in time with your spouse Weekly talk time Monthly date night Children Why after marriage? If mamma ain't happy…the kids ain't happy Problem: Similar to marriage…we think time with our children takes away from our work. However, we work better when relationships at home are healthy My Story: I once thought that time with my children was drawing me away from work and preventing me from work tasks. However, once I created a routine of quality time invested in this relationship…my entire life got better! Action Item: Invest consistent Space & Time with your children   The Reason this works: We can NEVER see or measure the magnitude of neglect of our personal life!! We are BLIND to the magnitude of neglect on both our personal and professional lives!   This way of thinking prevents neglect Neglect = Eventual Disaster It reinforces and FEEDS the things that matter Prioritizing my faith and personal life made all of life better If forces you to be more efficient and effective with your professional tasks It may give you less time to do work, but we typically give ourselves too much time to do work that actually takes less time. Give yourself 6 hours to do an 8 hour task and you'll find you can do it in 6 hours. It puts life into perspective God is in control no matter what you think. We aren't making things happen nearly as much as we think we are     RESULTS? Go from stressful to stress less. Go from no peace to peaceful. Go from empty to fulfilled…and more results in work and life!   If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com Talk to you soon, Dr. Brad

THE CHALLENGE: Inconsistent Action We want to live amazing lives…crush it at work, achieve our goals, and live fulfilling lives. The results we are looking for is entirely based on the actions and behaviors we habitually do. Our Actions = Our Results. Unfortunately, we aren't achieving our goals and living the lives we desire because we aren't consistently taking the actions that lead to the results we want. We get stuck because of a lack of consistent action.   THE PROBLEM: We believe working harder on the ‘behaviors' is the answer We believe if we just work harder…put in more reps…do more work and, just do more actions that we will reach our goals.   We believe we need more self-discipline, more will power, and even accountability. We just need to ‘get our act together' and  ‘do the work'. ‘Just do it'.   I once thought the same way. I would think… Just lift more weights and do more cardio…to get in shape Just see more patients and work harder to achieve my career goals Just try harder at loving my wife and do more for her to be a better husband Just be a better father Just see more clients for my business to grow   This lead to temporary and inconsistent results. It seemed no matter how good I would do in a certain area of life…I would always do something OR something would always ‘happen' that would prevent me from leveling up and sustaining new results. Some people refer to this as self-sabotage. It was like basically a lid over the level of success and fulfillment I had in my work and life.   Now don't get me wrong…Taking more action and doing more work isn't entirely wrong. But HOW you go about doing the action is where most people fall short.   THE SOLUTION: Here is what I found…no matter how hard I worked, even if I hit my goal…I didn't sustain it. I discovered that my success wasn't determined by how hard I worked, but by what I was actually working on! I needed to work on my mindset in order to get the results. I needed to work on my self-development to get the success. I needed to personally grow and develop.   Here's a reminder about The Success Sequence: IDENTITY/BELIEFS…lead to… THOUGHTS…which lead to…FEELINGS…which lead to…the ACTIONS/BEHAVIORS …that lead to RESULTS   Which means that every action/behavior is rooted in a certain belief. It wasn't my behavior that was stopping me…it was my beliefs! Work should be done more on BELIEF vs BEHAVIOR!   For example…consider planting seeds that grow fruit. The belief is like the seed and the results are the fruit. Many of us are trying to grow fruit (aka get results) by planting a branch…instead of planting seeds of belief that lead to new grow of it's respective fruit.   You cannot outperform the level of your mindset and identity   Consider how your cruise control in your car works. If it's set to 70mph it won't let you go much faster or slower than that speed. Even if you drive downhill or uphill, the car may temporarily go faster or slower but will always go back to the speed it's set at. The mindset/identity and beliefs you have is what sets the speed! The only way to level up the speed…aka the results…you have to level up the mind!   Beliefs determine Behaviors.   Your beliefs determine your behavior…which determine your results!   To change your beliefs you must work on it. You must have a personal development plan…a way to develop, grow and strengthen your mindset.   You have to change the story you tell yourself about you…in order for you to write a different story in the future!   My Question to you…   Do you have a personal development plan?   You change your beliefs with what you consistently input into your head. What do you consistently listen to? What do you consistently read? What do you consistently watch?   When you change your mind, you will change your life…but if you don't believe this concept of person development…then it will never work!   ACTION PLAN: Develop a personal growth plan: Consistency: Needs to be daily. Pour into yourself (i.e. read, listen, or watch) daily in order to help you move the results cruise control speed. Comprehensive Look at each area of life and determine where you need the most growth and development in You can never go wrong with mindset and identity development/discovery Christ-influenced The Bible is the best personal growth and development book that exists Build a personal relationship with God and believe what he says about you. You then actually behave in such a way that you CAN do all things, because the God of all things lives within you! Your potential becomes limitless…since God has no limits!   If you believe what I'm discussing…your life will change. But you have to believe it. If you don't believe it, your behavior will show it. BELIEVE what I'm telling you. The reason why most people don't consistently stick with it is because they don't get immediate results. This is why it's called FAITH!!!! Faith is your biggest contributor to your results!!   If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com   Talk to you soon, Dr. Brad

THE CHALLENGE: Have you ever struggled with perfectionism or feeling like no matter how well you do something…it seems like it's not quite good enough? Do you ever place a large amount of pressure and stress on yourself to perform at a high level and you find yourself beating yourself up when you don't achieve?? Do you ever feel that you can never meet a certain standard you've set for yourself?   I've struggled with this idea of self-doubt, feeling like I'm not good enough, and having to achieve more in order to prove my worth and value as a man…and beating myself up when I don't achieve “up to par”.   As men we all have a need for validation. The definition of validation is…”the act of affirming a person, or their ideas, feelings, actions, as acceptable and worthy”. Every man, including you desires to be affirmed and to feel as acceptable and worthy. Validation is what defines our self-worth and value.   THE PROBLEM: “External Validation” (aka Kryptonite)   Validation is needed and good, but only if it is coming from the right place and is not dependent on something external from us or outside of our control.   More often than not, we seek validation from and depend on validation from the wrong places…from things that are external from us. -This becomes a setup for dependence on something (similar to an addict dependent on drugs or alcohol)             - This becomes a setup for future crisis. If we become dependent on the validation, and it leaves, then so does our value & worth   -Top 3 things men receive external validation from: Success Success becomes a way to soothe our own underlying insecurities. We strive for success in order to validate our worth and value instead of knowing our own intrinsic value and creating success from it. If we don't achieve our goal or fall short, we end up feeling shame and self-doubt which shows up by beating ourselves up. Status Status and influence becomes something we chase in order to feel better about ourselves. The titles and followers, and likes we use to help define our significance. If we don't get the status, again we will often beat ourselves up OR do anything to get more status…even compromising our character. Sex We often times use sex as a way to be validated. We unfortunately feel like ‘conquering another woman' or performing well in bed will contribute to our feeling of worth and being masculine. This leads to troubled relationships and adultery, because you continue to use what should be an intimate experience as a way to soothe insecurities.   Our identity (how we define ourselves) is closely linked to what we get validated by most!!   For example, If you are dependent on success as a means of validation, then you will self-identify as a success ONLY IF you succeed at your goal. Unfortunately, the opposite will destroy your self-perception. Meaning, if you don't succeed or not actively succeeding…then you'll identify yourself as a failure.     Ways to determine if you are becoming addicted/dependent on some external validation You beat yourself up Feel like a failure if you aren't succeeding at something Succeed at any cost Compromise your character in order to get the success, status, or sex Perfectionism Feel like things have to be perfect, and if they aren't you take mistakes very personal   How to Turn Kryptonite into Cure   SOLUTION: RECOGNIZE the things you are dependent on for validation: Ask yourself: “Do I get caught up more with how this makes ME feel or how it will help someone else feel??” Success: Are you more focused on what you receive from success, as opposed to the service others recieve? Sex: Are you focused more on how it will make you feel vs how it will make your spouse feel Status: Are you more focused on achieving the title and influence vs. the people that you help to earn the status? RECEIVE validation PRIMARILY FROM YOUR IDENTITY as a Son of God What does God say about you? Made in the image and likeness of God Fearfully & Wonderfully made More than a conquer Able to do all things through Christ's strength This doesn't change!! This is truth This sets you up to CREATE success, elevate influence, and improve relationships (fruit) instead of CRAVING those things to prove you have value…because you now KNOW who you are! Remind others of the same thing Help others see the same in themselves and it will be reinforced in you.     ACTION ITEM: Daily remind yourself of who God says you are. His creation and your identity in him validates you!   The result? There will be no circumstance that can stop you! You'll become unstoppable and unbreakable!   If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com

“The success of a person's frontstage, requires internal health on the backstage” Johnny Parker   This interview right here!!! If you are ready to learn how to go from unfulfilled à to living a fulfilling AND successful life…this is the interview for you!    Dr. Johnny Parker is an executive coach, leadership consultant, author, and speaker. He is also founder of the ‘10X Better Man' platform, which helps men win in multiple areas of life. He is the former life coach for the Washington Redskins and Pittsburgh Steelers. In this interview he breaks down what a ‘10X Better Man' is and how men can win at work and thrive in life!   He discusses the difference between the ‘Front Stage' of a man, which includes our career, our businesses, and material things we often display to the world…and the ‘Back Stage' of a man including our core values, beliefs, and foundational principles which we often neglect. He gives practical step by step guidance on how to find clarity and fulfillment while maintaining a successful ‘Front Stage'. GREAT INTERVIEW!! And full of wisdom!   My favorite part of the interview is when we discuss how our ‘Front Stage' is dependent on our ‘Back Stage' and how often there is an incongruence between the front and back stages of our lives and how it creates friction and turmoil in our lives.   I hope this interview inspires you and blesses you as much as it did me. Lots of nuggets and tools to apply to your work and life in this episode.   Be sure to follow him on social media @ Dr Johnny Parker and his website: https://drjohnnyparker.com   Enjoy!   See you soon, Dr. Brad

THE CHALLENGE: We don't have enough time in our day to get the tasks done that we want to in order to achieve our goals. It seems as though we just don't have enough time to get things done. Ultimately, we are trying to maximize our time to get as much done as we can in our day. The more we get done, the sooner we can achieve our goals.   But, we only get 24hrs in our day, and much of it is accounted for… Sleep accounts for some of it (approx. 6-8 hours) Getting ready, showering, bathroom Eating Family time Working out   And the remainder of the time we have is working on our professional goals within our career or business.   Ideally, we are trying to be efficient AND effective…that's the formula for productivity.   Productivity = Efficiency + Effectiveness   Being efficient is doing a lot of work in a short period of time.   Being effective is working on the right task that will bring about the greatest result.   Efficiency often requires more work…AND…Effectiveness often requires more thought.   For example… Being efficient is being able to read a lot in a short period of time. Being Effective is reading the right book for what you are trying to learn.   Being efficient is running really fast Being effective is running in the right lane or the right direction   We all get the same 24 hours. But some individuals who are high performers can get A WHOLE LOT more done with their 24hrs than others…and make it seem effortless.   So it begs the questions… How do we get more done in our day? How do we maximize the time we have to get the most out of our 24hrs?   THE PROBLEM: Most of us believe that if we work harder we will get more done in our day. Basically, in regards to the formula for productivity we focus on efficiency. I once thought the same way. This is how we think…”How can I get more work done in less time?” The reason we like focusing on efficiency is because we like getting stuff done. It makes us feel better about ourselves. We feel accomplished when we do work. We like the feeling of doing something. That turns into less sleep, and stealing away time from things that matter…faith, family time, fitness Therefore we end up tired and frustrated, but we got more done…but it came at too much of a cost   Does this sound familiar? This was exactly how I once thought and performed.   However…I learned one of THE MOST IMPORTANT keys to being more productive in my day and life…   THE SOLUTION: I learned that even though efficiency is the more glamorous & glorious part of the equation to productivity…but it's not the greatest part of the equation.   Effectiveness is greater than Efficiency   I'm all about working and getting a lot done…but the question is, “Am I working on the right thing?” “Are YOU working on the right thing?” “Are YOU running in the right direction??”   For example… You might be doing a lot of networking, but are you meeting the right people? You might be working out a lot, but are you doing the right exercises? You might be working hard on your business, but are you working on the right thing for your business?   Effectiveness requires less doing…and more thinking. But thinking isn't glamorous! Nike says “Just do it” not “Just think about it”   The world would have you believe that you have to grind and hustle your way to the top…which is only part of the equation for productivity and success. If you are a high-achiever…typically your problem is not doing…it's not thinking enough!   Abraham Lincoln summed it up perfect in this quote: “Give me 6 hrs to chop down a tree and I'll spend the first 4 hrs sharpening the axe”   Thinking means… Slowing down Sitting down long enough to ask the right questions Setting aside/Scheduling time to think Stop DOING long enough to see if you are still heading in the right direction   Here's why people don't think more… It means they have to actually slow down…We don't like slowing down It means facing your fear, swallowing your pride and humbling your ego, coming to a conclusion that you may actually be going in the wrong direction It doesn't seem cool or glamorous Seems like nothing is getting done. It challenges our patience.   Benefits of thinking before doing: Less Mistakes Sooner wins You get better at it!! You'll get better at asking the right questions and get more efficient at being effective!!   My Story: When I started creating daily and weekly space and time to thinking more…I was able to get more done, with less effort in each area of my life…by simply asking myself the right questions.   It was scary and nerve racking at first…but priceless and beneficial in its results.   Here's the action I want you to take… Spend time daily trying to figure out what's the best step to take toward achieving your goal Ask the same question once a week   Ultimately, here is what I want you to understand…   Think More, Do Less, Get More Done!

This is a topic I've been meaning to address for awhile. However, I have recently been very convicted to share, due to an overwhelming concern we may be placing our focus, and more importantly our dependence, on something that could be ultimately hindering our growth & development in our work and lives.   The reality is that we ALL want to live amazing lives…but I believe we are relying and depending on the wrong things and are ultimately going in the opposite direction of what will allow us to experience the amazing life we envision.   Here is what I know, and believe, beyond a shadow of a doubt, because it is true…   Consistent & Close Relationship with God will make EVERY AREA of life better!   Relationship with God Will make you a better man and the man you are looking to be. Psalms 37:4 makes it very clear…   “Delight yourself in the Lord; And He will give you the desires of your heart”   Very simply put…'delighting in the Lord', means to build a healthy delightful relationship with the Lord…and you can expect life to get better (aka. the desires of your heart).   However, my concern is that people are NOT seeking RELATIONSHIP because they may be distracted by religion!!   I define religion as ‘the set of rules and regulations' one must follow to be in ‘right standing'.   Example: Because I know how powerful relationship with God is…when I ask someone to describe their personal relationship with to me…they immediately reply with something related to their attendance to up church.    MY CONCERNS: People(including us men) are relying more on religion than we are relationship with God People(including us men) are missing out on the real transformative power of a close relationship with God There is a misconception, within many that believe in God, that in order to live a life of success, significance, impact, fulfillment and meaning, that it you find this outside of relationship with God Let me make this clear. When you have a consistent and close relationship with God, he becomes your… Source of strength, energy, & fulfillment (providing endurance and happiness) Secret to peak performance in your work and life (providing more productivity) Solution to any problem or challenge you face (providing peace of mind) People live like their faith is a part or aspect of their life…instead of a way of life.   Therefore, this results in… Many church goers…not a lot of Christ followers Not enough examples of real men Christ followers for other men to model after   This idea of religion and traditional church vs relationship with God, what brought to my attention as a result of my personal story during the peak of the Covid pandemic in 2020. I noticed when the churches shut down, one of 2 things happened to peoples' faith: It decreased because their faith was dependent on ‘traditional church' It increased because they learned how to build a more personal relationship with God that was NOT dependent on traditional church. I experienced #2. And the more I developed a more personal relationship with God, I saw every area of my life (family, marriage, work, business, health) improve, including my ability to handle conflict and crisis.   THE CHALLENGE: Many are depending on church more than they are God Traditionally we have associated our faith with (1)church attendance, (2)serving in the church, and (3)tithing to the church. Therefore… Church has traditionally been perceived as the place where you go to worship God Many believers view service as primarily taking place within the walls of the church Tithing is associated with being a good ‘church goer' We feel like we are doing what we need to do for the ‘faith part of our lives', by checking those 3 boxes off of the list…and therefore believe we are doing what we need to do for our faith.   Yet unfortunately, many people still feel stress, depressed, unhappy, unfulfilled, life lacking meaning, don't know our purpose, making bad decisions, can't hit our goals, etc DESPITE checking off all the boxes of faith.   I once thought this exact same way…but here is what I discovered…   We often depend on religion and traditional church to replace the relationship God is seeking with us in order to transform us. Relationship is the answer…not religion and traditional church!   Don't get me wrong...i'm not saying church is bad! However, what I am saying is that it doesn't replace the thing that actually transforms you…it doesn't replace what you are ultimately looking for and need!   Example: Imagine being dehydrated. Water is what you need…water is what will rehydrate…water is the solution. However, if someone gave you orange juice instead…it would give you hydration, and maybe even some good flavor…but it IS NOT WATER! Don't get it confused…relationship with God is the water you need for the dehydration of your spiritual life. And dehydration looks like stress, unfulfillment, vices, bad habits, etc.   Church as we know it…is supplement, not sustenance! Relationship with God is sustenance! Nothing replaces it!   MY STORY: Once I realized this…my life drastically changed! I was no longer dependent on any place, event, or deed for a connected spiritual life. I became personally responsible for my faith and building this relationship as the foundation and sustenance for my life. This translated into showing up as a great husband to my wife, father to my children, leader at work, clarity in business & life…aka REAL LIFE CHANGE!   Nothing replaces relationship with God…not even church!   Spend DAILY TIME with God that is NOT DEPENDENT on anything but you and your time with Him. Build an actual relationship…I Dare you!! Watch what happens!     If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com

How to Make Your Success INEVITABLE!   Do you ever get frustrated when going after your dreams? Have you ever felt like your goals and dreams just won't happen and consider giving up on them?   I've been there! And I get it! Sometimes we can get pretty frustrated and disappointed on our road to our dreams.   However, I've discovered something VERY UNIQUE that gave me confidence to achieve my goals. As a matter of fact…there is almost an inevitability and predictability to your success. Yes…I said the word ‘Inevitable'! There is a way to nearly guarantee and secure the accomplishment of your future goal!   OUR CHALLENGE: Typically, the way many of us see our goals as being far away, far removed, and separate from us. Therefore, we ‘go after' our goals. It becomes an arduous struggle to get to a place or become a person that we don't ultimately believe is who we are. So the pursuit of our goals includes a lot of stress and struggle because the internal belief of who we believe we are is completely different that who we want to become. Therefore, any challenge along the way toward our goal, actually confirms in our own mind that we ARE who we currently are, and NOT who we want to become.   The Result? Stress and a lack of achievement of our goals.   OUR SOLUTION: However, what I've seen is that it's actually more of a difference in mindset and perception that prevents us from achievement. The reality is that it's not so much that we are far from our goals but that the way we see ourselves relative to the goals doesn't help us achieve it.   There is a difference between…   Working FROM Success vs Working FOR Success   Working from Success says… I AM, therefore it's simply a matter of time I AM an expression of who I believe I am, which is the person that is connected to the achievement of my goal IT IS inevitable…I just have to continue working   You have to BE it…before you SEE it!   Working for Success says… I'm not, I'm trying to become I need to achieve the goal to prove and validate that I am the person I'm trying to become I don't know if it's really going to happen   Think about a seed of an apple, and it's inevitable future…an apple. The seed of an apple…when planted will inevitably be an apple Think about a caterpillar, and it's inevitable future…a butterfly. The caterpillar…when in the right environment will inevitably be a butterfly THIS IS WORKING FROM SUCCESS!   Working FOR success is taking an unknown seed….planting it and hoping it turns into an apple. Working FOR success is taking an inchworm and hoping it turns eventually into a butterfly   You inevitably develop into who you believe yourself to be!!   ACTION STEPS: How to work FROM Success: (Think about a planting a seed) Define the seed. Who are you? Connect ‘who you are' to your person who is connected to the achievement of your goal. You ARE NOW CURRENTLY MENTALLY the person who has accomplished your goal. Cultivate the seed. Place it in good soil. Place yourself in the right environment People: What kind of people are around you to help you be your best self. Encouraging and supportive people. People who can coach and guide you. Settings: Are you in the right places that are putting you in position to succeed? Water the seed. Consistent watering: Active pouring into yourself! Audios and Books: What books and audios are you consistently listening to?? I encourage you to ALWAYS be reading or listening to something that is strengthening your mind, faith, or knowledge. Expose it to the light. Expose that goal to God, aka…The Light Bring your goal to God! Discuss it with him. Include him into your goals and dreams This provides discernment and clarity on what decisions to make Relationship with God provides fulfillment. This way you don't feel like you are IN NEED of your goal to be happy. You can pursue it with no pressure. Believe & Trust in God for the transformation & increase We can only plant the seed, cultivate, water it and put it into the light. However, the actual transformation is up to God…not YOU! Do what you can do, and let God do the rest! You are NOT responsible for the transformation…you are responsible for being obedient to YOUR PART (Steps 1-4 above) If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com Talk to you soon, Dr. Brad

“You end up chasing the high you imagine, instead of the fulfillment you actually need” -Fredrick Bussey   Whaaaat?!?! Wow! This is SO true for so many of us!   One of our BIGGEST problems as men, is we have THE WRONG DEFINITION of success and a POOR MEASURING STICK for how we determine whether we are successful.     In this bonus podcast episode, I interview executive leadership coach, speaker, and author of the book Breaking Orbit: Rip Out the Regular by Unearthing the Power Within, Fredrick Douglas Bussey. I had the privilege of interviewing Fredrick during the virtual ELITE MEN Summit event, that I hosted back in December of 2020. In this interview he helps to redefine for us what success REALLY is!   Fredrick is one of the wisest men I know and he drops a TON of knowledge on this interview!   He breaks down why we, as high-achieving men, struggle with being successful in one area such as our business or career, but struggle in other areas of life and end up unfulfilled. He talks about how the ‘Definition of Manhood' that many of us learn when we are younger is false, and how this false understanding of manhood puts us at great risk for unfulfillment and the overall neglect and poor relationships we see as fathers, husbands, and friends.   Fredrick says we end up “chasing the high we imagine, instead of the fulfillment we need”…SO GOOD, and SO TRUE!   One of my biggest takeaways from this interview was the 3 Laws of Giftedness. You've gotta hear his framework for your gifts! It will help you in ALL areas of life! Number 3 was my favorite!   Be sure to follow him on social media on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn: Fredrick Douglas Bussey   Enjoy!   Blessings, Dr. Brad

Let me make this clear…   You are more than what you do for a living!!   Your identity is more and deeper than what you do for your career or business!   Fellas, ultimately, we are destroying ourselves because we are defining ourselves primarily by what we do for a living…instead of by the TRUTH OF WHO WE ARE!   Our identity is HOW we see and perceive ourselves…how we define ourselves. How we perceive  ourselves has great impact on whether we have positive or negative self-esteem toward ourselves. This identity dictates how we show up in the world.   PROBLEM: WE IDENTIFY OURSELVES BASED ON OUR CAREER   We often identify & define ourselves by what we do (i.e. doctor, lawyer, business owner, etc.), and how well we do it. If you were asked…”Who are you?” How would you answer? Often times our professional title is used to answer that question. When first meeting someone we often immediately talk about what we do. The first question after greeting someone and sharing our name is the question, “What do you do?” We connect our WORTH and VALUE to what we do and how well we do it We often automatically translate our level of success or failure within our career or business, to a measure of what our personal value and worth is. We often think…”Once I achieve this next career goal…then I'll be happy”. This in essence is saying, “I will feel better about myself…I will feel of value and worth only AFTER I achieve this professional goal”.   Unfortunately, this dependence of our identity on our career is a setup for… Perpetual failure: In essence we never believe we are good enough because our worth will always be connected to the next goal we are in pursuit of and therefore only happy and fulfilled once we achieve it. That means the rest of the time while in pursuit of achieving the goal, you feel ‘less than'. An emotional rollercoaster: If (and only when) we achieve, then we are happy about ourselves. But if we don't achieve, then we feel horrible about ourselves. Conditional self-worth: Your self-worth and self-esteem is completely conditional upon performance…which is false!! Your self-worth and value has NOTHING TO DO with your performance or achievement! You have intrinsic value that fuels your ability to achieve…not that achievement fuels your value. A lack of self-control: We can NOT control many circumstances that influence our results in life. Therefore, when we connect our value to our results, we are in essence connecting our value to things we have zero control over.   What I've found is that when our identity and value is tied to influences that are external from us, such as our job or titles, it creates what I call a conditional performance identity: If I perform well…then I have a temporary positive self-esteem and value If I don't perform well…then I have a constant negative self-esteem and value   The challenge with this way of thinking is that our career, jobs, and businesses can change based on circumstances we have no control over (i.e. market changes, Covid, etc.) And if circumstances change the results within our career…then so does our identity and self-value.   Examples: Professional sports Post retirement identity issues: Athletes struggle with retirement because their identity was primarily defined by their career as an athlete. As the career retires, so does their identity and feeling of self-worth. Career Anxiety & depression: When they don't perform at a certain level, they will struggle mentally because their value and identity is tied to their level of performance.   This happens within our careers as well…but it just more on full display with professional sports.   SOLUTION: ANCHOR OUR IDENTITY ON SOMETHING FOUNDATIONAL THAT WILL NEVER CHANGE   Your identity is WHO YOU ARE…not What you do!!   Your identity should help you in ALL areas of life! Not just for your career!   Who you are is based on THE TRUTH who YOUR CREATOR says you are and the INTRINSIC UNIQUENESS AND VALUE YOU WERE BORN WITH. You ARE… A child of God: Therefore by definition you are Royalty: You are a chosen child of The King Capable: Made in the image and likeness of God himself A Citizen of heaven: You are a representative of The Kingdom of Heaven Great: God is great, and the Spirit of God is IN YOU…therefore you are great Complete: You are already equipped with greateness. You don't NEED anything to be great.   Therefore, you show up great, because your intrinsic value is great! You don't need to prove your value by performing because you ALREADY ARE GREAT!   I envision God asking…”Who told you, that you were just a doctor…lawyer…business owner?”   When you come from this place of known intrinsic value and greatness…the pressure is off! You don't have to perform to prove your worth or value. You can now create to the level of who your TRUE identity is, based off of who your creator says you are.   ACTION: DISCOVER WHO GOD SAYS YOU ARE   Do some simple research. Google this phrase: “What does God say about who I am in the bible?” Write down your top 3 things of what God says about who you are. Start telling yourself this daily to remind yourself about who you really are and your true identity!   If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com   Talk to you soon, Dr. Brad