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Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy! I am so excited to have you join me today to kick off this amazing journey and dive into how I got to this place in life. This show covers inspiring stories to help you uncover your worth. You are worthy because you were born. PERIOD.But this isn’t just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea and welcome to the first episode of OUR podcast.

Claire Fealy


    • Apr 29, 2025 LATEST EPISODE
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    You'll Never Be Happy With What You Have Until You're Happy With Who You Are

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 29, 2025 24:54 Transcription Available


    If you're exhausted from constantly worrying about what others think of you - you're not alone. For high achievers especially, external validation can become an all consuming addiction – the more you receive praise, the more you need. This relentless pursuit for more leaves you perpetually empty, no matter how much you achieve.I spent three decades trying to get others to like me, chasing validation through achievements and approval. Every time I reached a goal, I immediately needed something bigger – from teaching to department head, from my first 10K month to 20K. But with every achievement, the happiness was only ever fleeting, and I remained trapped in the belief that I simply wasn't enough exactly as I am.The breakthrough came when I realized a fundamental truth: until you're happy with who you are, you'll never be happy with what you have. True contentment isn't found in big achievements or others' approval – it's found in the present moment, in what I call "finding bliss in the basics."This episode explores the powerful shift from proving your worth to prioritizing your well-being. You'll discover why caring more about being respected than being liked changes everything, and how self-respect must come first. In this powerful episode, you'll learn:• The self-worth trap: why constantly proving your worth through achievements and approval only feeds feelings of not being enough• Why high achievers become addicted to praise and how this addiction is never satisfied• My three word mantra that helps you stay in your purpose, peace and power• Why happiness comes from who you are, not what you have or achieve• How to actually built self-trust and respect, simply and sustainably• Why self-acceptance beats self-improvement every day of the weekWhen you stop outsourcing your happiness, confidence, and self-worth and start living from the inside out, you experience freedom, confidence and peace that no achievement or validation could ever even come close to.Ready to live with less stress, more happiness and success? Let's dive in!PS: If you're a high achiever with outer success who wants the inner happiness to match, drop me a DM on IG @clairefealymindsetcoach or email claire.fealy@gmail.com for more information. Ready whenever you are!

    From Productivity Zombie to Peak Performance: The Less is More Solution

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 26, 2025 29:01 Transcription Available


    Click here to get into Pressure To Peace before doors close Friday 28th March (not opening again until Aug, sign up before Friday and save €1,000!). If you're ready to go from strategy to support and live, lead and achieve from a place of rest, not stress - this is the place to be! Become the radiant, relaxed and resilient woman you know you were born to be with my proven 5 step strategy for peak performance, happiness and success! If you find yourself functioning but feeling completely disconnected, getting through the day but not really feeling anything – like a robot on autopilot, today's episode is for you! That's what I call being a "productivity zombie," and it's the direct result of living too long in survival mode.The productivity paradox is real, and it's keeping you stuck in a cycle of stress, burnout, and diminishing returns. In today's episode we explore the productivity paradox and how to transform from a productivity zombie into someone who performs at their best by doing less. The conversation reveals how surviving in chronic stress leads to functional freeze and disconnection from joy, and provides a clear path to reclaiming energy, focus, and self-worth.In today's episode you'll learn:• The functions of the four stress responses: fight, flight, fawn, and freeze• How "flight mode" (constant busyness) leads to "functional freeze"• The ways you're treating yourself abusively through impossible standards• Break the cycle of swinging between perfectionism and procrastination• Separating your worth from your output by doing simple daily wins• How to create proactive systems with realistic expectations • Prioritizing intentional rest as a high-performance strategy, not just a reward• Learning to get your worth from within instead of external validationIf you enjoyed today's episode drop me a message over on Instagram or claire.fealy@gmail.com. I always love hearing from you. Feel free to share with a friend or fellow workaholic and help me help more women break free from the busy to burnout trap and rediscover balance, bliss and brilliance!PS: If you want to join Pressure to Peace, doors are closing March 28th and won't reopen for 4-5 months. When the program returns, the price will double. All the details are here or drop me an email DM to chat more.

    You Are Not Your To-Do List: Master The Less Is More Mindset For Less Overwhelm And Buckets More Overflow

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 19, 2025 35:41


    Click here to get into Pressure To Peace before doors close Friday 28th March (not opening again until Aug, sign up before next Friday and save €1,000!!!)After a transformative six-month break, I return with buckets more clarity and purpose, sharing my journey from exhausted to empowered following my live event last September. I'm now operating from overflow rather than depletion, having spent time healing, growing, and establishing sustainable practices that prioritize my wellbeing over work.In today's episode I talk about:• Busy is a drug and burnout is the comedown—we chase the high of productivity at the cost of our health• "Disordered doing" happens when productivity becomes compulsive, similar to other addictive behaviors• The benefit of busyness (feeling accomplished) doesn't outweigh the cost (exhaustion and burnout)• Life is not a to-do list—there's no award at the end for completing everything• Consistency is more important than intensity—one task completed daily beats sporadic bursts of productivity• Nothing is worth sacrificing your wellbeing—not your job, achievements, or relationships• True success comes from self-mastery (managing thoughts, emotions, actions) not self-sacrifice• The Three to Thrive method: three wellness rituals, three work priorities, three happiness habits daily• Productivity isn't about doing more—it's about doing the right things efficiently• Stop proving your worth and start prioritizing yourself—give from overflow, not overwhelmIf you enjoyed today's episode drop me a message over on Instagram or claire.fealy@gmail.com. I always love hearing from you. Feel free to share with a friend or fellow workaholic and help me help more women snap out of the busy to burnout trap and rediscover balance, bliss and brilliance!PS: If you want to join Pressure to Peace, doors are closing March 28th and won't reopen for 4-5 months. When the program returns, the price will double from €997 to €1997. All the details are here .

    The Power Of Identity Shifting

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 26, 2024 21:26


    Join next Monday's FREE Unleash Your Inner Queen afterparty hereIf you ever feel like you can never break your patterns and keep self-sabotaging yourself today's episode is for you.In today's episode we discuss the power of identity shifting and why changing how you see yourself changes everything!I also discuss how our identity drives our behaviour and why you need to stop relying on motivation and start focusing on inspiration.It's time to stop self-sabotaging and step into your highest self so you can live a life you love - without the burnout, overwhelm and guilt!Make this simple but powerful shift and build the kind of unshakeable confidence that people feel off you without you even saying a word.In today's episode I share examples of how I've overcome the powerlessness/lack  mindset to become empowered, energized and genuinely excited for my future. Use these examples to empower you to step into your power and live life to the fullest!Join me for an episode full of insights, inspiration and practical strategies to get started today. I promise you will feel instantly more empowered and energised!As always, I love hearing your takeaways, drop me a DM on IG or an email at claire.fealy@gmail.com and let me know your thoughts!PS: Don't forget to share the episode with somebody you love. Help me to help more women reclaim their power to do and feel their best every day! We heal by hearing the stories of others and feeling less alone in our struggles ❤️

    Releasing Shame and Self-Doubt And Stepping Into Your Power - with special guest Katie Mc Kenna

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 19, 2024 35:10


    Click here for Unleash Your Inner Queen live event tickets! *NOTE - doors close tomorrow and there are limited tickets available so get them before they're gone!)If you ever feel like a doormat that gets used and abused and feel like you have to bend over backwards for others to be liked today's episode is for you.In today's episode we discuss the systems and societal conditioning that keeps women stuck in shame, self-doubt, powerlessness and learned helplessness. We also discuss how we are born not being afraid to use our voice and how it becomes annihilated over time. It's time to stop outsourcing your confidence and happiness and reconnect to your voice, your power, your needs and your deepest desires so you can live life to the absolute fullest!When you are in your power you show up fully, speak up, shine your light and take up space. You stop settling and you start thriving! Make this simple but powerful shift and build the kind of unshakeable confidence that people feel off you without you even saying a word.In today's episode we share examples of how we've overcome the need to please and become more relaxed, regulated and resilient. Use these examples to empower you to step into your power and live life to the fullest!Highlights:- why you struggle to let in love and compliments (and why is it so common?)- confidence vs. arrogance- the two emotions that drive low self-worth and people pleasing - the messaging that makes you feel like a doormat for others- giving back unhealthy shame to where it belongs- the number one test for healthy relationships - the importance of having a healthy sense of self- surrounding yourself with women who support you to speak up for yourself- what Katie is most excited for next Sunday (and why!!!)Join me for an episode full of insights, inspiration and practical strategies to get started today. I promise you will feel instantly more empowered and energised!As always, I love hearing your takeaways, drop me a DM on IG or an email at claire.fealy@gmail.com and let me know your thoughts!You can also find more of Katie's work over on her Instagram and Tik Tok @katiemckennapsychotherapist. Her book 'You Are Not The Problem' is also an absolute must read if you struggle with people pleasing and self-doubt. PS: Don't forget to share the episode with somebody you love. Help me to help more women reclaim their power to do and feel their best every day! We heal by hearing the stories of others and feeling less alone in our struggles ❤️

    The Spotlight Effect And How To Overcome Self-Consciousness

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 28, 2024 25:41


    Click here for Unleash Your Inner Queen live event details! *NOTE - limited tickets available so get them before they're gone!)If you are always worrying what others think of you and trying to say the right thing today's episode is for you.It's time to stop living in the imaginary spotlight and become a lighthouse, from a place of self-worth, trust and leadership!Confident women care more about their inner light than outer likes. They know that those who need approval the most get it the least. They are a natural magnet for the approval of others because they don't need it (such a powerful paradox).   Make this simple but powerful mindset shift and build the kind of magnetic confidence that attracts miracles.In today's episode I share examples of how I've helped myself and so many clients overcome self-consciousness and become more relaxed, radiant and resilient. Use these examples to empower you to step into your power and shine your light!Highlights:- what is the spotlight effect (and why is it so common?) - why smart and successful women STILL struggle with self consciousness- how unmet childhood needs makes us so hungry for attention and approval- the high price you pay for staying in the 'spotlight' - the lighthouse effect - inner light over outer likes- powerful reminder of why having a strong sense of self is so important- steal my super simple strategies for radiating self-worth, without saying a wordJoin me for an episode full of insights, inspiration and practical strategies to get started today. I promise you will feel instantly more empowered and energised!As always, I love hearing your takeaways, drop me a DM on IG or an email at claire.fealy@gmail.com and let me know your thoughts!PS: Don't forget to share the episode with somebody you love. Help me to help more women reclaim their power to do and feel their best every day! We heal by hearing the stories of others and feeling less alone in our struggles ❤️

    How To Get Over The Need To Be Liked

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 14, 2024 27:10


    Click here for Unleash Your Inner Queen live event details! *NOTE - limited tickets available so get them before they're gone!)If you are always worrying what others are think of you and trying so hard to keep the peace, avoid conflict and stay silent, this episode is for you. It's time to stop letting people take out their unprocessed pain on you and PROTECT your peace, from a place of self-worth, trust and leadership!Confident women care more about being respected than being liked. They know that those who need approval the most get it the least. They are a natural magnet for the approval of others because they don't need it (such a powerful paradox).   Make this simple but powerful mindset shift and build the kind of magnetic confidence that attracts miracles.In today's episode I share examples of how I've helped myself and so many clients overcome the need to be liked and build their resilience. Use these examples to empower you to set the boundaries that set you free!Highlights:- wanting to be liked vs needing to be liked - why so many women stay silent and struggle to speak up- needing to be liked comes from unmet childhood needs- the high price you pay from prioritising the comfort of others over your own discomfort- the 'let them' theory - why it's ok for others to judge, misunderstand or label you- powerful reminder of why you are worthy of respect and being treated right- steal my simple but assertive mantras for not letting opinions define youJoin me for an episode full of insights, inspiration and practical strategies to get started today. I promise you will feel instantly more empowered and energised!As always, I love hearing your takeaways, drop me a DM on IG or an email at claire.fealy@gmail.com and let me know your thoughts!PS: Don't forget to share the episode with somebody you love. Help me to help more women reclaim their power to do and feel their best every day! We heal by hearing the stories of others and feeling less alone in our struggles ❤️

    The One Belief That Builds Magnetic Confidence

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 31, 2024 29:53


    Click here to join the Unleash Your Inner Queen live event waitlist tickets go on sale this Friday at 11am (only 70 tix avail so get on the waitlist and set your alarms!!) Soooo excited to meet some of you IRL!!!If you are always looking outside of yourself to feel ok, this episode is for you. It's time to stop outsourcing your confidence and OWN all parts of yourself to build real, genuine and unshakeable confidence! Take this one simple but powerful belief and build the kind of magnetic confidence that attracts miracles!In today's episode I share lots of examples of how I've helped myself and many of my clients overcome outsourcing their confidence and how to feel ok exactly as you are so you can feel free to just be, exist and enjoy life!Highlights:- why my easiest month in business brought the highest sales month this year- needing things outside of yourself to feel ok- false sense of safety vs real safety that comes from within- not letting your outer world control your inner world- making peace with all parts of you- you are 50% amazing and 50% a messy human being doing their best- one simple strategy I use daily to build confidence  that completely changed my lifeJoin me for an episode full of insights and practical strategies to get started today and a promise of feeling instantly more empowered and energised.As always, I love hearing your takeaways, drop me a DM on IG or an email at claire.fealy@gmail.com and let me know your thoughts! PS: Don't forget to share the episode with somebody you love. Help me to help more women reclaim their power to do and feel their best every day! We heal by hearing the stories of others and feeling less alone in our struggles ❤️

    Stop FAKING Confidence And Do This ONE Thing Instead

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 17, 2024 43:39


    If you are tired of always having to fake confidence and cover the inner chaos of fear, doubt and worry, today's episode is for you!!! It's time to stop chasing short term hits of confidence and start building real, genuine and unshakeable confidence today!  Learn what unshakeable confidence looks and feels like and break free from the need for external validation, approval and reassurance.I share lots of examples of how I've helped myself and many of my clients overcome their fake confidence persona and how to step into unshakeable confidence so you can feel free to just be, exist and enjoy life!!Join me for an episode full of insights and practical strategies to get started today and a promise of feeling instantly more empowered and energised. As always, I looove hearing your takeaways, drop me a DM on IG or an email at claire.fealy@gmail.com and let me know your thoughts!PS: Join the Unleash Your Inner Queen live event waitlist to be the first to get tickets when they go on sale, click here! This is a once in a life time, completely transformative event that you do not want to miss!!!! Soooo excited to meet some of you IRL!!!!! PPS: Don't forget to share the episode with somebody you love. Help me to help more women reclaim their power to do and feel their best every day! We heal by hearing the stories of others and feeling less alone in our struggles ❤️

    How The 'Powerless Princess' Mindset Keeps You Stuck, Stressed and Obsessed With Being Rescued!

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 3, 2024 32:14


    If you are feeling stuck, stressed and obsessed with the opinions/approval of others - this episode is for you!!Learn what Powerless Princess energy looks and feels like and how to break free from the prison of your old limiting beliefs and programming. I share lots of examples of how I've helped clients overcome their powerlessness programming and how to step into Iconic Queen Energy so you can become a magnet for all that you desire!!Join me for an episode full of insights, practical strategies to get started today and a promise of feeling instantly more empowered and energised. Would love to hear your takeaways, drop me a DM on IG or an email at claire.fealy@gmail.com. PS: Join the Unleash Your Inner Queen live event waitlist to be the first to know when tickets go on sale and to get the early bird price, click here! Soooo excited for the very first Women of Worth live event!! PPS: Don't forget to share the episode with somebody you love. Help me to help more people do and feel their best every day! We heal by hearing the stories of others and feeling less alone in our struggles. 

    How Perfectionism Often Drives Depression and 3 Steps To Stop Living in The Extremes

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 26, 2024 54:19


    Join the live event waitlist to be the first to know when tickets go on sale and to get the early bird price, click here! Soooo excited for the very first Women of Worth live event!! What if the cycle of perfectionism and depression could be broken? Join me after a three-month hiatus and tackle the challenging journey of overcoming severe depression and burnout. Today's episode covers the links between perfectionism, depression, and shame (*trigger warning: talk of suicide). Discover the powerful lessons found in the darkest times and the importance of gentle recovery, offering hope and practical advice for reclaiming your personal power.Learn how reading "Healing the Shame that Binds You" by John Bradshaw helped connect the dots between perfectionism and shame, allowing me to take back control of my out-of-control thoughts. You are not your patterns or coping strategies and it is ALWAYS possible to change them.Finally, we'll discuss the liberating experience of embracing self-compassion. We'll talk about the importance of breaking free from the 'happy friend' persona and fostering genuine connections. Plus, get excited for our first live event, "Brunch and Breakthroughs," aimed at empowering women through live coaching and inspiring speakers. Join me for an episode full of insights, massive vulnerabilities, and a promise of renewed hope. Would love to hear your takeaways, drop me a DM on IG or an email at claire.fealy@gmail.com. (00:01) Navigating Perfectionism, Depression, and Growth(16:08) Breaking the Perfectionism and Depression Cycle(27:04) Empowering Self-Mastery Through Reprogramming(34:39) Embracing Imperfection, Healing Together(43:49) Planning Brunch and Breakthroughs Event(51:53) Finding Freedom Through Self-AcceptancePS: Don't forget to share the episode with somebody you love. Help me to help more people do and feel their best every day! We heal by hearing the stories of others and feeling less alone in our struggles. 

    How To Create Unshakeable Confidence

    Play Episode Play 38 sec Highlight Listen Later Feb 14, 2024 29:07


    I'll never forget the day when I finally realized that the only validation I ever needed was staring back at me in the mirror. That breakthrough moment led me on a transformative journey toward true self-confidence, which I'll share with you in this ep. I talk about my own struggle with self-doubt, the rocky road to self-acceptance and the tools that helped me build a rock-solid relationship with myself. From the grips of past traumas to the liberation of self-trust, this is a candid conversation about the strategies that changed the game—not only for me but for numerous clients who have since found their own confidence and self-trust. We're not just talking about good vibes here; we're digging into practical, actionable techniques to tame the chaos of the mind and find peace within.Learn about the power of thought observation, emotional intelligence, and the daily practices like meditation and brain dumps that grant mastery over the whirlwind of thoughts and feelings. I'll also discuss the path to emotional safety and the inner strength that comes from validating oneself, rather than seeking it externally. This episode is more than just tips and tricks; it's a potent guide to nurturing that all-important friendship with yourself, which is the cornerstone of living with unwavering confidence. Whether you're riding high or trudging through a tough spot, this is the pep talk you need to embrace the fullness of who you are and let your inner confidence shine.Highlights:- life is 50% good, 50% bad- shaming yourself vs supporting yourself- If it's out of your control, it doesn't control your confidence- why unshakeable confidence comes from unconditional self-acceptance- building a really strong sense of self- why short term hits of confidence don't workStep 1: Thoughts - kill your confidence.  Observe your thoughts to own your confidence. How to overcome limiting beliefs creating a lack of confidence.Step 2: Emotions -  how to sit with emotional pain and not push down emotions. Stop gaslighting yourself, start validating yourself. Turn inwards and stop running away from yourself. How I created emotional safety, even with my Complex trauma.Step 3: Actions - consistency and keeping small promises to yourself!! So simple but so effective! Confidence comes from consistency - it is a skill. 

    Why You Don't FEEL Confident, Even If You Look It

    Play Episode Play 35 sec Highlight Listen Later Feb 7, 2024 28:46


    Ever wondered why a perfectly polished exterior doesn't always mean a peaceful interior? Prepare to unravel the complexities of authentic confidence as I share from real coaching experiences the stark contrast between the facade of the confident persona and the internal battle against anxiety and self-doubt. This episode explains why "fake it till you make it" doesn't work and why true confidence stems from self-acceptance and trust. Together, we'll uncover ways to transform not just your outward persona but also your inner peace - enabling you to move through life with less doubt and a more presence in every moment.This week,  we dissect the critical role past experiences play in shaping our self-esteem and future outlook. We'll navigate the challenging process of reinterpreting our personal narratives through compassion and understanding, breaking the chains of fear that hold us back. It's a journey to discover how to detach confidence from superficial measures of success and instead anchor it in a foundation of self-worth. By prioritizing health and happiness, we send the message that true achievement isn't about what you have or what others think, but about finding fulfillment and authenticity in your own story.Highlights:How avoiding pain and chasing pleasure creates problemsThe confidence persona covering the inner chaosWhy we all want to feel confidence How to not confuse confidence with arrogance3 main reasons why people stay stuck in low confidenceBad experiences and the beliefs that you create from them.How to stop using externals to feel better internally The easy vs hard way to go through lifeShadow work - what you don't own owns you!  The power and freedom of showing up as yourself and trusting yourself. 

    Why You Struggle With Consistency And 3 Simple Steps To Consistency Even When You're Busy

    Play Episode Play 50 sec Highlight Listen Later Jan 31, 2024 29:25


    If you're always breaking promises to yourself and wishing you could just be more consistent then today's episode is going to blow your mind

    How One Tiny Mindset Shift Took Ursula From Overwhelm To Zen- Client Success Story

    Play Episode Play 39 sec Highlight Listen Later Jan 24, 2024 40:13


    FREE Masterclass Own Your Overwhelm linked here.In today's episode, I am joined by my very first guest ever! Ursula is joining me to talk about her incredible story and journey. She is here to help and inspire you to seek out a positive mindset. We talk about her choice to join my coaching program, what it was like, and her biggest takeaways. This episode is an inside look into the work we do and a sneak peek of the results that everyone deserves!Why Coaching? [1:30]I was always attracted to the idea of being positive- I started reading books like The Secret and I was in such a good mindset. [2:20]During lockdown I had loads of time to work on myself, but when lockdown ended, it was the first time I was hit with anxiety. [3:30]I had a knot in my chest and stomach that wouldn't go away. [3:50]Before the lock down we were so go-go-go, and we didn't even know there was another way. In lock down, we worked on ourselves. When things started to reopen, we didn't want to go back to the way things were. [4:40]What is Coaching like? [6:00]I didn't let fear prevent my growth. [7:30]I was trying to be grateful for the all the opportunities I was given but I was exhausted. That's when overwhelm came in. That was where the work came in. [9:00]During our time, I connected with my feelings and connected with my true selves. [9:50]The biggest thing you taught me was to put myself first. [10:15]I noticed that you really started to take your power back and get clear on putting yourself first. [11:10]The only reason I ever did exercise was to lose the weight- it wasn't enjoyable. Now I do it for my mental health. I've enjoyed it, I won't look at exercise the same ever again. [12:00]When we do things from a place of fear and lack, it's not sustainable. When we do things because we love ourselves and our life, it's a different energy. [12:40]I have so much more time in the day since doing this. Before I didn't allow myself time for me. [15:40]I would be at home, waiting and resting to go back to work. That's not living. [16:00]What you don't own, owns you. When you don't own your emotions, they own you. [19:00]When you connect with your authentic self, you have more energy. [21:00]I'm really, really happy. For the first time in my life I feel so content going to work. I fell in love with it again. [23:15]Coaching is all about the small steps that you can take to become the healthiest and happiest version of yourself. [24:30]3 Steps Can Change Your Life [25:00]Number one: Give yourself more time and be more organized. [25:30]Number 2: Be grateful for the small things. [26:00]Number 3: Give away the tasks that others can do for you. [27:00]Find Your Blind Spots [27:30]Stress is created by the stories we tell ourselves. [28:00]I have started believing that I deserve a break and holiday. I am worthy of rest and deserve rest. I don't have to earn it. [29:00]Give yourself permission to live a stress free life without any of the guilt that goes with it. [30:10]Life is meant to be enjoyed, not endured. [31:00]Life is never going to be completely clear sailing, but knowing that I have the tools to deal with anything that may come up makes me free. [31:30]Coaching is the best investment you will give yourself-and definitely look no further than Claire.[32:00]Connect with Ursula@Ursula_hairstudio

    Why Overwhelm Kills Productivity And 60 Second Strategies To Overcome It

    Play Episode Play 55 sec Highlight Listen Later Jan 17, 2024 29:14


    ***FREE OWN YOUR OVERWHELM MASTERCLASS LINK HERE.  Ever feel like you're waging a war against the clock, where every tick tocks in tune with your rising stress levels? Overwhelm doesn't just kill your productivity - it kills your peace, joy, confidence, relationships, success, and so much more!But - here's the good news!! Overwhelm is actually a FEELING, NOT A FACT! It's less about time/tasks management and much more about stress management. Join me as I take you through the trenches of the tornado-to-potato (hyperactivity/burnout) cycle, sharing not only my own personal struggles with this painful pattern but also giving you 60-second strategies to reclaim your peace and skyrocket your productivity. This week's episode peels back the layers of overwhelm, a sensation often mistaken for an unchangeable reality, and guides you toward recognizing  the joy that awaits on the other side of stress. In today's episode I peel back the layers of overwhelm—helping you to see it as a feeling, not a fact—and guide you through my most powerful 60-second strategies that brought me back to a place of peace, joy and efficiency. We'll talk about the protective responses our bodies default to when faced with stress and how understanding this can free us from the debilitating 'tornado to potato' cycle that so many of us know all too well.This episode is about embracing single-task focus and engaging in brain dump exercises to reclaim control of your mind's chaos. At the end of the ep I invite you to my upcoming masterclass, where you will get the longer-term strategies to break the pattern of overwhelm - permananently. Highlights:Permanently breaking the perfection to depression cycle in 2023Why stress is out and simplicity is in for 2024What the overwhelm to shut down cycle looks likeWhy overwhelm causes you to want to escape or avoidHow to outsmart your survival brain and overwhelmHyperindependece and fear of asking for help or reaching outHow living in high stress becomes a very harmful habitWhy you react rather than respond when stressedWhat happens when your system is flooded with stress chemicals. 60 sec solutions that will give you instant relief. The smart way to organize your tasks

    3 Life-Changing Lessons of 2023

    Play Episode Play 57 sec Highlight Listen Later Jan 10, 2024 47:36


    2023 was a wild one, but I've come out the other side with insights that are absolutely invaluable, and I couldn't wait to share them here with you. Through this years challenges with depression, financial pressures and the general day to day ups and downs, I've discovered this unbelievable resilience that I'm ready to unpack in today's episode. I share the top life-changing lessons of the past year and how I'm emerging with a renewed sense of unshakeable self-belief and inner peace.Simplicity became my north star in 2023. Simplicity isn't just for minimalist lifestyles—it really is the cornerstone of success. I share with you the beauty of simplicity in setting and achieving our goals and the epiphany I had this year that a successful life, and business, thrives on simplicity.Narrowing my focus to three core priorities (daily, weekly, monthly and annualy) has revolutionized my life. Stripping back the clutter and embracing effective systems, rather than endless goal-setting, has paved the way for maximum productivity, peace and purpose.A simpler map leads to treasures far richer than a complicated quest ever could. Creating a less cluttered approach to life has brought a sense of calm to the tumultuous oceans of everyday life.Finally, I'll share the practical tools and templates that have guided me to such a place of profound peace and happiness.So, batten down the hatches and prepare to set sail into 2024, with an episode that's full of the power of self-compassion and courage in facing our imperfections with a heart full of fierce love.I hope you enjoy listening to this episode as much as I enjoyed creating it xPS: Last chance to join the early bird Pressure to Peace programme - stop stressing your way through life and start enjoying your life with infinitely more peace, productivity and purpose. Here's the link with all the info to sign up.

    Shrink Your Problems In Seconds

    Play Episode Play 35 sec Highlight Listen Later Dec 20, 2023 33:52


    Are you always going from problem to problem and putting out fires (that you didn't even start!!)? Today's episode is for you!!  This is a really powerful conversation about how our mind is addicted to problems and how to train your brain out of survival mode and into serenity!Christmas can be a really stressful time, especially when family dynamics come into play. But what if you could approach it from a higher and healthier perspective? This episode is all about transforming how we view life and dealing with the familiar stressors in a healthier, more empowering way. I'll also share practical strategies to help you stay grounded, so you're observing rather than absorbing, and ultimately experiencing more peace and contentment.The magic of perspective is life-changing, and we look at how this shift can help shrink problems and alleviate stress. You'll learn how to 'zoom out' and focus on the bigger picture.Life is not what happens to you, but how you handle it. It's not WHAT you see, but what you TELL yourself about what you see.You will recognize when your brain is in problem-solving mode, how it's a way of trying to protect you from painful past experiences that you probably haven't processed, and have the simple steps to shrinking your problems in seconds.You are not a victim of your circumstances but the creator of your life - and it all starts with the stories you tell yourself.  Get the inside right and the outside all falls into place.Whether you're addicted to stress or simply craving more peace , this episode is packed full of insights to guide you back towards you happiest and healthiest self!Highlights:(06:36) Staying Grounded During Christmas Stress (11:51) Processing Past Pain and Living in Fear (19:23 ) Living Life With a Long-Term Perspective(24:19) Creating Happiness Through Higher Self ConnectionMentioned in today's episode:Email list for all the exclusive bonuses: CLICK HERE Podcast Episode - 6 Ways To Stay Calm, Conscious and Content Christmas: CLICK HERE

    How To Stop Self-Abandoning

    Play Episode Play 54 sec Highlight Listen Later Dec 13, 2023 33:11


    Quick Links: Pressure To Peace Pre-Sale ENDS 13th December @ 11.11am - CLICK HERE Email List: CLICK HERE Know Your Worth: CLICK HEREAre you exhausted from always putting yourself last? Today's episode is for you!!  This is such an eye-opening conversation about where self-abandonment comes from and how to stop the destructive habit of running yourself into the ground!From my own personal and professional experiences, I want to help you recognize these subtle patterns, often rooted in childhood emotional neglect, and have the simple steps to start prioritizing your own health and happiness.We will look at how a lack of emotional validation in childhood, leads to emotional immaturity and these destructive habits. The absence of emotional validation during childhood leads to an assumption that one's emotions and needs are unimportant. This often results in seeking validation from external sources, leading to overcompensation and ultimately self-abandonment. I share my own journey with this and how learning to validate myself, even during the lowest lows, has increased my emotional maturity and overall health and happiness. Nobody is coming to save you. Making your needs your number one priority is not selfish, it's smart. And it's what healthy, emotionally mature adults do. Whether you're dealing with chronic self-abandonment or just want to improve your emotional maturity and overall wellbeing , this episode is packed full of insights and breakthroughs to guide you back towards you happiest and healthiest self!

    You Are NOT Broken Beyond Repair

    Play Episode Play 60 sec Highlight Listen Later Dec 6, 2023 38:48


    Join the Pressure To Peace Party Here: https://adept-trailblazer-5441.ck.page/a414bf82eb Are you really broken beyond repair? Or do you just have patterns that cause you to self-sabotage and feel like you are inherently damaged and unlovable? That question may seem provocative, but it's at the heart of our discussion in this transformative episode. In today's episode I take you on a journey through my own personal experiences with depression and learning to love the darkest parts of myself. We'll explore the belief of being broken and the role of learned helplessness in seeking support. Instead of hiding from your imperfections, I invite you to listen to them with compassion, curiosity and love.Self-improvement is important, but have you ever considered its downsides? In our quest for constant growth, we can face complete burnout.  Learn how to address the parts of yourself you fear most and learn to love them unconditionally. Instead of trying to eliminate these parts, let's integrate them and witness the quantum healing that happens when we do. Try this strategy for a week and prepare to be amazed by the positive impact.Remember, your body is designed to heal from low self-worth, so let's harness that power by practicing unconditional self-love. This path leads to inner peace and freedom. To help you on this journey, we're launching our new program, "Pressure to Peace," designed to help you simplify your life, self-regulate, and prioritize what truly matters. Don't forget to join the waitlist for early access and bonuses. Join the waitlist here: https://adept-trailblazer-5441.ck.page/a414bf82ebShare this podcast with others and spread love, light, and peace

    The Most Powerful Antidote To Perfectionism And People-Pleasing

    Play Episode Play 48 sec Highlight Listen Later Nov 29, 2023 45:37


    In this week's episode, we explore the impact of childhood trauma on our adult lives and the coping mechanisms we unconsciously adopt. I share some very personal stories that shed light on how unprocessed emotions can lead to perfectionism, and how it can massively impact our mental health. I also share insights from a powerful therapy session and provide some practical techniques to help process emotions and heal those deeply rooted wounds.We'll chat about the challenges faced by high achievers and the pitfalls of prioritizing work and others over self. I'll share the story of a client who felt overwhelmed and trapped by the pressures of life, which ultimately led to a breaking point and her big breakthrough. We'll tackle the unhealthy beliefs about productivity that are often deeply ingrained in us, and talk about the significance of addressing emotions in the body as a way to break the cycle and bring about real lasting change.Finally, we talk about the actual antidote to perfectionism - prioritizing self-care and simplifying our lives. I'll share some non-negotiable daily practices, which are key to building a strong sense of self. Finally we'll chat about my upcoming program "Pressure to Peace" that's designed to teach skills like simplifying, self-regulation and the art of truly switching off, guilt-free. This week's episode is a heartfelt conversation about healing, self-love, and happiness. Give it a listen and let me know your thoughts! Love hearing your biggest takeaways from the pod ❤️PS: Make sure you've joined my weekly newsletter to get my most up-to-date mindset strategies straight into your inbox! You'll also be the first to hear about new offers and enjoy the newsletter fam discounts and bonuses! It takes two seconds to sign up!! https://adept-trailblazer-5441.ck.page/1f64a58d44Highlights: (00:01) How Childhood Wounds Create Coping Strategies(15:52) Overcoming Workaholism and Prioritizing Yourself(26:47) The Real Antidote to Perfectionism(39:36) The Importance of Simplifying

    3 Hidden Traumas Driving Perfectionism (And How To Start Taking Your Power Back Today).

    Play Episode Play 43 sec Highlight Listen Later Nov 22, 2023 39:01


    ****Join the Pressure To Peace waitlist here!**** Could your relentless pursuit of perfection be a response to deeply subconscious psychological trauma? This week, we're unmasking the connection between perfectionism and childhood trauma and how, unbeknownst to many, it shapes our lives. Join me on this intimate journey as I talk about my own struggles with perfectionism, a journey sparked by a life-changing conversation in a café. We'll tackle how perfectionism manifests as an obsessive fear of flaws and an excessive need for control. We'll also talk about how it is often rooted in trauma that leads to a vicious cycle of stress and anxiety.However, there IS hope. Together, we're going to explore how understanding these traumas and developing psychological flexibility can liberate us from this exhausting cycle. You'll start to see why perfectionism is actually a SOLUTION and not a problem! We'll also delve into the impact of growing up in a chaotic environment, where praise was tied to performance, and how it results in an internalized obsession with achievement and the fear of never being good enough. We'll scrutinize how this fear translates into overthinking, overanalyzing, and an overwhelming responsibility for others.But this isn't just about understanding, it's also about empowerment. In this episode, I'll be sharing strategies to challenge limiting beliefs and build self-confidence - all aimed at empowering you to transform perfectionism into a tool for realizing your dreams. This is your call to rise above self-doubt and the fear of failure. Let's learn to set healthy boundaries with ourselves and others and create the life we truly want and deserve. Tune in, and let this be the start of your own journey of understanding and healing from perfectionism.Highlights:(01:16 ) Exploring Perfectionism With Compassion (11:31 ) Transformation and Breaking Patterns (19:15 ) Perfectionism's Impact and Hidden Traumas(22:14 ) Parental Involvement's Impact on Emotional Well-Being (27:58) Trauma's Impact on Mental Health

    How Perfectionism Holds You Back (And One Simple Strategy To Take Your Power Back)

    Play Episode Play 32 sec Highlight Listen Later Nov 15, 2023 49:12


    **CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE PRESSURE TO PEACE WAITLIST**Perfectionism is a wolf in sheep's clothing. It's not just about aiming for excellence, but rather a fear-driven state of hyper-arousal that can lead to a powerful sense of helplessness and hopelessness. So, how can we battle this beast? This episode is a personal journey through the ups and downs of of perfectionism and depression, where I unravel the roots of my perfectionism, understand it's triggers and what it sought to protect me from. Navigating perfectionism and depression hasn't been an easy journey for me. From the depths of my despair, I've uncovered the profound truth that depression is not simply sadness or an emotional low; it's a crippling sense of helplessness and hopelessness. Far from the common misconceptions, it engulfs your life with a darkness that's hard to come out of. This isn't just my story, but a reflection of the battles fought by many who struggle with perfectionism and any other mental health struggles. The paradox of being able to support others on their healing journey while struggling to keep my own head above water was something that I really struggled to understand. Peeling back the layers of perfectionism, I discovered a state of hyper-arousal fueled by fear, not ambition. Yet, it isn't all doom and gloom. The mantra 'imperfect is the new perfect' has been a game-changer, and the key to sustainable productivity by calming our perfectionist parts and learning to stay present. Together, we can flip the narrative, calm our anxieties, and celebrate the beauty of imperfection. Tune in for a deep, personal exploration and let's reframe our understanding of perfectionism together.Let me know your thoughts! Love hearing your biggest takeaways from the pod!If you haven't already signed up for Pressure To Peace where you will learn how to let go of perfectionism permanently and get better results without the burnout, make sure to join here! 0:00:44 - Perfectionism and Overcoming Depression 0:03:36 - Understanding the Biological Aspect of Perfectionism 0:09:47 - My Biggest Breakthrough Ever With Perfectionism0:18:06 - The Power of Coaching and Self-Awareness 0:24:08 - Understanding Patterns and Victim Mindset 0:27:42 - Understanding and Working With Perfectionism 0:32:48 - Managing Perfectionism and Overwhelm at Work 0:38:10 - Overcoming Perfectionism and Finding Safety 0:45:57 - Instagram Waitlist for Beta Round Program of Pressure To Peace

    What Is A High Achiever? And Why High Achievers Struggle With Happiness.

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 2, 2023 47:56


    CLICK HERE FOR THE Pressure To Peace WAITLISTEver wondered what drives high achievers and what lies beneath the surface of success? This episode of The Women of Worth podcast takes a deep dive into this enigma. Uncover the meaning of high achievement and how to identify a high achiever. Delve into the psychology behind this drive, and discover the dual faces of high achieving – the blessings and the burdens. We will also unravel the patterns of overthinking, overscheduling, and overfunctioning, and how these can often overshadow inner success.In the second half of our conversation, we transition towards the concept of being a conscious achiever. We illuminate the significance of aligning your identity with your purpose, setting intentions, and evading the trap of instant gratification. We guide you on a journey to achieve inner peace and contentment, asserting that happiness is not just a result of our circumstances but rather largely linked to our mindset. Prepare to embark on an exploration of the five steps of the permanent peace process and join us in our mission to understand the complexities of high achievement.(0:00:02) - Understanding High Achievers (16 Minutes)What does it mean to be a high achiever and how to spot one? We explore healthy and harmful high achieving, and why your ability to enjoy is more important than your ability to achieve. We discuss the theory of human motivation and the three needs that motivate people to do anything in life: the need for power, the need for affiliation, and the need for achievement and success. We also examine how success doesn't always equal inner success, and why it's important to understand what's underneath the surface.(0:16:33) - High Achiever (19 Minutes)We explore the psychology behind high achievers, and how it can be both a blessing and a burden. We discuss the dangers of overthinking, overscheduling, and overfunctioning, and how, when we are in alignment with our true selves, being a high achiever brings joy and fulfilment. We also examine why ambition is healthy in the right quantity, and how overachieving can lead to burnout and stress.(0:35:47) - Power in Being a Conscious Achiever (12 Minutes)We explore how to align who you are with what you're here to do. We discuss the importance of intentions and making the world a better place, and how to stay away from the need for instant gratification. We also examine how to achieve inner peace and contentment, and why happiness has little to do with our circumstances and more to do with our mindset. Finally, we discuss the five steps of the permanent peace process and invite you to sign up for the beta round.

    The 3 Productivity Myths Making You Miserable And How To Break Free From Toxic Productivity

    Play Episode Play 48 sec Highlight Listen Later Jul 26, 2023 49:55


    CLICK HERE FOR THE Pressure To Peace WAITLIST Are you constantly feeling like you're falling short, no matter how much you accomplish? Let's put an end to this unhealthy cycle. In this empowering episode of The Women of Worth podcast, we tackle the heavy concept of toxic productivity, the harmful myth that's driving us towards constant "doing" and making us miserable in the process. We'll discuss the detrimental effects of buying into these productivity falsehoods, and how they leave us feeling like we're constantly failing and not living up to expectations.But it's not all gloom and doom. Join me as we dive deep into the concept of mindful productivity, a kinder, healthier approach to our daily tasks. Hear about my personal experience of challenging and overcoming toxic productivity beliefs. Let's redefine productivity together, and learn how to find joy in what we're doing rather than just ticking off tasks. By the end of this episode, you'll be ready to reevaluate your productivity habits and take the first steps towards a healthier, happier life. Trust me, it's a journey worth taking.

    Understanding Self-Worth: A Guide to Loving Yourself at Your Lowest And Avoiding Shame Spirals

    Play Episode Play 56 sec Highlight Listen Later Jul 19, 2023 54:08


    In today's episode join me on a journey of deep self-discovery as we explore how to love ourselves at our lowest, without sinking into the quicksand of shame. From overcoming mental breakdowns, navigating self-love, understanding depression, to healing from self-abandonment and finding peace, this episode is a deep and honest look at the trials and tribulations that come with personal growth. Discover the strategies I've used to experience breakthroughs and how they can be adapted to your own personal journey. This podcast episode also includes a fascinating discussion on the concept of unconditional self-love and how powerful it can be in breaking down barriers of shame, guilt, and anxiety. I share personal stories and the experiences of my clients to demonstrate the transformative power of self-love. We'll explore how understanding our childhood needs can help unravel patterns of people-pleasing and perfectionism, and how trust in the universe can help us cope with difficult emotions. Listen in as we tackle the topic of healing from self-abandonment and the victim mindset. You'll hear about my personal journey of self-discovery, how I broke patterns of avoiding painful emotions, and how unconditional self-love brought me peace and joy. Plus, I'll share insights from a book that's been inspiring me and provide practical steps you can take to start your own journey of unconditional self-love. By the end of this episode, you'll have a newfound understanding of your self-worth and the tools to love yourself at your lowest.(0:00:02) - Loving Yourself at Your Lowest(0:11:07) - Navigating Breakdowns and Self-Love(0:21:26) - Understanding Depression and Overcoming Shame(0:37:13) - Healing From Self-Abandonment and Victim Mindset(0:41:25) - Overcoming Patterns and Finding Peace(0:46:08) - The Power of Unconditional Self-LoveEnjoy! And as always, please let me know your biggest takeaways. I love hearing from listeners, it really inspires me to create more episodes like today's. Also, share this with somebody you love, they might need it more than you know x

    Client Transformation - Alana Manderson - From Chasing Highs and Hitting Lows To Finding Peace, Purpose And People You Can Trust

    Play Episode Listen Later May 31, 2023 51:07


    FREE Better Work Boundaries masterclass link: https://adept-trailblazer-5441.ck.page/d72ffd3017 Alana's coaching journey will inspire you beyond words. In today's episode Alana talks about her journey From:-  starting her business at 18, buying a house and still not feeling good enough- looking to the big things for happiness- coping with shopping and spending £1k/month on clothes- never fully relaxing or letting her hair down- putting everyone else first, saying yes to everything and never listening to her gut- masking her emotions, always smiling and bottling everything up - feeling like you're at the bottom of the ocean and completely broken- rarely feeling present/fully connected with the people in her lifeTo:- feeling happy, whole and healthy without all of the external stuff- living from her heart, not her head- letting go of the past and getting into an upward spiral- putting her own happiness first and never disappointing herself- having zero self-doubt and fully trusting herself, even with big decisions- things falling into place and happening so easily- letting go of people who aren't really there for you- spending her energy and time wisely with the people who lift her up- feeling safe to feel her feelings- celebrating every single small winTo follow Alana's amazing journey, because I know this is just the beginning and great thing lie ahead of her, go check out her IG @alanamandersonxoA massive thank you to Alana for sharing her powerful, and unbelievably inspiring transformation. I know it's going to help so many people believe that getting out of a downward spiral and into an upward spiral is SO possible!

    Why You're Constantly Busy - And How To Take Back Control And Avoid Burnout

    Play Episode Listen Later May 25, 2023 40:08


    Being constantly busy is a sign of something much deeper. In today's episode I help you understand what's driving the never ending to-do lists, constant overwhelm and living life on the edge of exhaustion. Because when you get to the root cause, you get all of that sweet relief!Are you constantly busy to:Avoid emotions/numbingDistract from deep down fears of not being good enoughReceive the love you didn't receive in childhoodSpending too much time on sm and feeling less thanHere are three steps to break free from busy:Get clear on your fearsGet clear on your priorities. Protect your peace with better boundariesGive it a listen and let me know your thoughts! Love hearing your biggest takeaways from the pod ❤️PS: If you haven't already signed up for next week's FREE masterclass where you will learn how to set boundaries confidently without the guilt! In this brand new FREE- Better Work Boundaries in 90 Minutes Masterclass, you'll:Understand the importance and all of the amazing benefits that come from better boundariesSee how not setting boundaries massively impacts your self-worth and why you struggle to set themIdentify the four main types of work boundaries you need to be settingLet go of the 5 most common limiting beliefs that block you from setting healthy boundariesLearn the 5 simple steps I use to help my clients know when to say no, listen to their gut and ditch the guilt FOR GOOD!Where there is a lack of boundaries, there is a lack of peace. Learn how to protect your precious time, energy and peace in five simple steps! Join us on Thur 1st June @ 6.30pm - replay available after when you sign up. See you there

    How To Make Rest Part of Your Daily Routine - Do And Feel Your Best Every Day!

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 19, 2023 40:08


    Today's episode goes DEEP on what's holding you back from being your most rested, healthiest and happiest self (and how to finally take your power back and reclaim rest). In this episode we'll explore:- defining what rest actually means (and why it's not just a good nights sleep!)- signs you're not getting enough rest (some of these will definitely surprise you)- how to more proactive, rather than reactive, with your time- the fears that drive compulsive doing and never ending to-do lists- overworking as a trauma response and being stuck in flight mode- why learning how to rest effectively is a skill that takes practice- small simple steps that you can start TODAY to feel more rested, relaxed and rejuvenated. AND SO MUCH MORE!Grab a cuppa and enjoy today's episode. Don't forget to share with a friend who also needs some of these strategies. We are so much stronger together. Much love and happy resting x

    5 Reasons Why You Feel Guilty When Resting (and how to stop today!)

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 12, 2023 45:15


    If you feel guilty when resting, you're not getting real rest (and this episode is for YOU!). It's SO common but also SO unhealthy! The only way we know how to switch off is scrolling. Life is worth so much more than being busy all the time! In today's episode we talk about the signs of productivity anxiety or 'productivitis' as I sometimes call it with my clients, the root causes and how to start breaking free from it! The secret to being your best is a daily ritual of rest. Rest is not a reward. It is a daily retreat from the demands of doing non-stop. It is an act of courage in a society that sells success as non-stop doing. Rest is restoring order to your being. It must be a part of your daily to-do list free from all reward attachments to work well done.Settle in, grab a nice cuppa, and enjoy another episode of WOW!PS: Make sure you've joined my weekly newsletter to get all of the updates, mindset tips and special offers straight into your inbox! See you there: https://adept-trailblazer-5441.ck.page/1f64a58d44

    How to Fail Forward and Not Stay Down When You Fail

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 1, 2023 24:32


    In this episode, I delve into the topic of failing forward and not staying down when faced with failure. Failure is a natural part of the growth process and can often be an opportunity for learning and personal development. However, it can also be a source of discouragement and disappointment. In this episode, I aim to provide listeners with practical tips and strategies for bouncing back from failure, embracing it as a learning opportunity, and moving forward toward success.Key Topics Covered:The importance of taking risks and stepping outside of one's your comfort zoneUnderstanding failure as a natural part of the growth processDeveloping a growth mindset and embracing failures as opportunities for learning and personal growthImplementing strategies for bouncing back from failure, such as setting achievable goals, seeking support from others, and reframing failures as lessons learnedOvercoming self-doubt and negative self-talkKey Takeaways:Failure is not the end but rather a stepping stone toward success.Failing forward involves learning from failures and using that experience to move forward.Embracing a growth mindset can help overcome failures and encourage taking risks.Taking action, seeking support, and reframing failures are key strategies for bouncing back from failure.Join us as we discuss the topic of "How to Fail Forward and Not Stay Down When You Fail" and discover ways to turn failure into a powerful tool for growth and success.

    Why Shit Times Make You Stronger, Turning Pain Into Personal Growth And How To Release The Fear Of Rejection With Sinead Hegarty

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 25, 2023 66:32


    Sign up for our FREE Chaos To Clarity in 90 Minutes Masterclass. Connect with your purpose, create a 12-month plan and commit to becoming the healthiest happiest version of yourself this year: https://adept-trailblazer-5441.ck.page/886240a507In today's episode, Sinead Hegarty discusses her highs and lows of 2022. She shares her personal story of how she used pain as a catalyst for personal growth. She also talks about the power of beliefs and how they can shape our perception of pain.This episode is for anyone who has ever experienced pain and wants to learn more about how to use it as a tool for personal growth. Through Sinead's personal story and her insights, listeners will gain a deeper understanding of pain and how to use it as a valuable tool for self-improvement.We talked about:22 highlights - retreats, overcoming fear of public speaking and the importance of courage before confidence!22 lows - going through a public break up, receiving a life-changing diagnosis, moving countries and why she's feeling so grounded and happy despite all of these obstacles 22 biggest lessons - the importance of loving yourself, having friends who are like family, the power of vulnerability, rejection therapy, not valuing yourself and doing things for validationTherapy and how much it helps let go of shame that keeps you stuck in the pastWhy believing you deserve love and happiness is key, comparing and competing with others is the biggest waste of time and how she learnt to love her bodyFinally she answers some of your questions on manifestation and starting a business. She also talks about the power of clarity and finding what brings you joy and following it! Manifestation is not magic, thoughts create reality! In this episode Sinead shares practical advice and tips for listeners on how to use pain as a tool for personal growth. For more ways to work with Sinead and get her Braveway meditation course here's the link with everything you need: https://www.instagram.com/sineadheg/

    Replace People-Pleasing with purpose - How I Stopped Aligning With Approval and Aligned with My Authenticity For More Purpose, Peace and Power!

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 19, 2023 43:25


    Sign up for our FREE Chaos To Clarity in 90 Minutes Masterclass today, before it's full!! Connect with your purpose, create a 12-month plan and commit to becoming the healthiest happiest version of yourself this year - all in less than 90 minutes!Here's the link: https://adept-trailblazer-5441.ck.page/886240a507If you worry more about what others think of you than you do your own health and happiness then today's episode is for you! In today's episode, I dive deep into my journey from people-pleasing to purpose, peace and power! You'll learn how creating a vision for your life will make you value your life and time so much more. How you spend your most valuable resource, time, and who you spend it with will completely change!Finally, I share three steps to building a stronger sense of self so that you can  You don't need to take more action, you need to get into alignment with your authenticity. I promise you, as you start to do this you'll become 10 X more purposeful, peaceful and powerful!! So tune in and get ready to be inspired and let's make 2023 our best year yet together!As always, I love hearing your feedback. Leave a review below or drop me a DM over on IG. Don't forget to share this episode with somebody who needs this gentle reminder today. Help me to help more people take back their power and live life more fully!

    2022 Breakthroughs and 3 Steps To Make 2023 Your Best Year - Feel More Empowered, Energised and Excited!

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 12, 2023 48:45


    Master Your Mindset Self-Paced 60% off (save €365, valid until 31st Jan 2023) Pay In Full Link (€222): Payment Plan Link (2 X €111): Welcome to my first podcast of the year. In this episode, I will discuss the most significant breakthroughs of my 2022 and how you can make the coming year, 2023, your best year yet.In today's episode I highlight my top breakthroughs of 2022 and why it's so important to look back before taking a step into the new year. I  cover how to set meaningful goals, create a plan to achieve them, and take aligned action to stay committed to your plan. You will get my 3 Steps To Make 2023 Your Best Year. These are the steps I use in all of my coaching calls to help clients gain more clarity, confidence and contentment. With these steps, you will be able to make positive changes and start your year off feeling more excited, empowered and energized.So tune in and get ready to be inspired and lets make 2023 our best year yet together!

    6 Ways To Stay Calm, Conscious and Content Christmas (and avoid spiralling into stress and self-sabotage)

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 14, 2022 49:00


    How is this year almost over already?? In today's episode, I want to share some strategies I've been giving my clients to have a more calm, content and conscious Christmas. I'm super excited to share this episode! I've had a few coaching calls about triggers coming up to Christmas and toxic family members and all of those lovely things that Christmas brings. If that's you, I'm so glad that you're here!!!When times get hard we can get stuck in our heads and can make ourselves miserable with all of the very harsh and critical self-talk. Being your own worst enemy is just not an option this Christmas. Listen to these tips and let me know which one resonates best with you! I hope from the bottom of my heart that you have the most conscious, calm, and content Christmas ever this year. And if that's not the Christmas you have, that's ok too! Life is just a series of lessons disguised in the form of challenges. Find the blessings in each lesson and you're ahead of the game!! Settle in, grab a nice cup of tea, and welcome to another episode of WOW!PS: Make sure you've joined my weekly newsletter to get all of the updates, mindset tips, and special offers straight into your inbox!!See you there: https://adept-trailblazer-5441.ck.page/1f64a58d44

    5 Signs You're An Anxious Achiever (and how to start healing from it)

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 7, 2022 30:58


    Over the last two years I've coached a lot of anxious achievers - those who achieve outer success and appear to have it all! The confidence, financial freedom and massive success. But they struggle with inner peace and prioritising connection over achievement. In today's episode, I share with you 5 Signs You're An Anxious Achiever (and how to start healing from it).Anxiety and achievement are a deadly combination. Chasing success usually points to a deep down core believe that you don't deserve it.If you find yourself pushing, perfecting and people pleasing on your way to success you'll love this episode. Your only goal in life is to enjoy it. Don't just do work that you love, live a life that you love!! Don't forget to sign up to my weekly newsletter where I share more actionable advice strategies and mindset breakthroughs! Be the first to know when new offers come out and get your newsletter subscribers discount!! Sign up here, it takes two seconds!! https://adept-trailblazer-5441.ck.page/cfa79a741d

    5 Ways to Break Free From The Busy/Burnout Cycle

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 30, 2022 36:25


    Where are all my busy/burnout cycle huns?? Today's episode is for YOU!!Burnout is so common you wouldn't believe it. Typically people who struggle with burnout gaslight themselves into believing that it's just ‘normal stress'. Everyone experiences it, but no one wants to talk about it.I'm super excited to drop this episode where I talk about how normalized busyness and burnout culture is and how to break free from it.In today's episode you'll learn the five fundamental tips for breaking free from this cycle of burnout culture. Some of these you may already know but I am 100% certain you don't know all five!!Grab your pen and paper and don't just learn and listen but put these into practice! Information is not transformation, implementation is! Small steps lead to huge success!PS: Make sure you've joined my weekly newsletter to get my most up-to-date mindset strategies straight into your inbox! You'll also be the first to hear about new offers and enjoy the newsletter fam discounts and bonuses! It takes two seconds to sign up!! https://adept-trailblazer-5441.ck.page/1f64a58d44

    3 Things I'd Do Differently If I Started My Self-Worth Journey From Scratch

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 16, 2022 28:19


    Welcome to Season 2 of the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy!My 3-month break for the summer turned into 6 months! Whoops! I can't believe it's been 6 months since uploading a new episode and I really missed recording!In today's episode, I share 3 things I would do differently if I restarted my self-worth journey. I've learnt a lot of lessons this year and especially what "happiness" truly means to me. Self-worth really is at the core of success and happiness. I feel more passionate about that now than I ever have!!Self-worth is the foundation for a healthy and happy life. Without feeling a solid sense of worth or value it is difficult, if not impossible, to enjoy this beautiful journey that we came here to have. Instead we get stuck proving our worth and hustling for external validation and approval! Settle in, grab a nice cup of tea, and welcome to another episode of WOW!PS: Make sure you've joined my weekly newsletter to get your “9 Ways To Nourish Your Nervous System” tickets!! Can't wait to see you there:https://adept-trailblazer-5441.ck.page/1f64a58d44

    Episode 25: The Last One of the Season!

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 3, 2022 28:18


    Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy! In today's episode, we are celebrating 10,000 downloads, 25 amazing episodes, and the very last episode of season 1! I am so thankful for all of your support and I can't wait to join you soon for season 2.But, this isn't just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea, and welcome to another episode of OUR podcast.Thank YOU [1:00][1:00] Thank you so much for your support![2:15] Share your favorite episode so that we can reach and help more people.[3:30] Join my free Masterclass!Claire's Biggest Takeaways [2:31][7:00] The biggest myth is that we have to wait for self doubt to go away before we can start. When I started my business, I was full of self doubt. [8:00] I made my dreams bigger than my fear.[9:00] You are made for so much more than just the day to day.[9:15] Our biggest regrets in life are what we don't do. It's time to take action.[11:15] Tears are a sign of bravery.[12:00] Life is not a destination, it's a journey.[12:30] It's about enjoying where you are, but feeling excited about where you're going.[14:30] When you step into a new version of yourself, it's like a rebirth. It can bring up the sadness of realizing how long you've suffered.[15:30] More work does not mean more success.[17:00] When I put effort in, change is possible.You can change what you're not aware of [18:00][18:00] Journal Prompt: What do you say to yourself about yourself, whether it's consciously or subconsciously?[19:00] How you feel about yourself when you're by yourself is the secret to success.[20:00] It's so powerful to be in the energy of a coach and of supportive women.[25:30] Proximity is power. Being in the company of powerful people is lifechanging.Ways to work with Claire this summer:Masterclass: https://adept-trailblazer-5441.ck.page/c64b184b31Magnetic: https://claire-fealy.mykajabi.com/Magnetic-Confidence-MovementMaster Your Mindset (Group Coaching): https://claire-fealy.mykajabi.com/mindset-mastery-minimind1:1 Coaching: https://claire-fealy.mykajabi.com/Become-your-best-selfNewsletter: https://adept-trailblazer-5441.ck.page/1f64a58d44

    How to BACK yourself and stop caring what others think with Amy Guy - founder of Nail Tech Org.

    Play Episode Listen Later May 25, 2022 63:06


    Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy! In today's episode, we are joined by founder of The Nail Tech Org, Amy Guy! We are so excited to share tips on starting your own business, creating goals, how to let go of what others think of you, and how to embrace how incredible you truly are.But, this isn't just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea, and welcome to another episode of OUR podcast.Find what you love and do it!  [5:00][5:30] I was running my own business but I was still too scared to let go of that full time ‘good job' that I had.[6:00] Once I started doing what I love, I knew I wouldn't be going back.[8:30] What was important was people, and family, and knowing that you aren't going through this alone.[12:00] People always talk about how I've changed their life, but they've changed mine.Celebrate Success!  [13:00][13:00] Collaboration over competition. How can we help and support each other?[17:30] If there something you want to do or achieve or a place where you can make a difference, you have to just back yourself and go for it![19:30] You can't make a difference unless you take action.[21:00] Fail your way to success! There's no one who succeeded their way to success.[24:00]A lot of people ask what time is the right time to take the leap, but it's never the right time. Know that you will make it work because it's what you've been put on this Earth to do.[25:30] You think that people are judging you and not supporting you- prove them wrong.[26:00] There's nothing better than doing what you love. It's freedom.Focus on YOU [28:00] [28:00] When you're so focused on watering your own grass, and you're focused on your own interests and passions, you don't have time to sit and wonder what others are thinking.[31:00] It blows my mind that we aren't taught from a young age to sit down and figure out what you want within the next few days, weeks, months.[35:00] Understand what works for you and what motivates you![36:00] The most important lessons you can learn are the ones about yourself.[37:00] What one person's version of happiness is, is another person's version of hell. Don't look at other people online and think that's your path to happiness.[38:00] Find out what your version of happiness is.[40:00] Stop and be present in the moment. Celebrate everything you achieve.[42:00] Surround yourself with people that want you to do well. [48:00] Reach out and get the support! It makes such a difference.[51:00] Spending time on my own, just to be still and take in what's going around me, and actually think about how I feel is really powerful.[54:00] It's not good, it's not bad, it just is.[55:00] It's so important to not be hard on yourself. This is a journey- all you can do is your best. [55:30] The journey of life is all about understanding ourselves more and more.[56:00] Amy's book recommendation: Money by Rob Moore[57:00] Your net worth is tied to your self worth, but your net worth will never exceed your self worth.[59:00] Did you know butterflies can't see their own wings? We are just like them. We just can't see what we're doing, the difference we're making, and how amazing we are. Get in touch with Amy:Instagram: @amyguynailartistThe Nail Tech Instagram: @thenailtechorgWebsite: https://thenailtech.orgWork with Claire:Magnetic Confidence Movement: https://claire-fealy.mykajabi.com/Magnetic-Confidence-MovementGroup Coaching: https://claire-fealy.mykajabi.com/mindset-mastery-minimind

    Breath-work Coach Jamie Janko - Anxiety to Abundance - practical steps to get out of the overwhelm and into overflow.

    Play Episode Listen Later May 19, 2022 74:29


    Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy! In today's episode, we are joined by the incredible Jamie Janko. Jamie is here to share the power of breath work, how she has transformed her life,  and remind everyone to trust themselves every step of the way.But, this isn't just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea, and welcome to another episode of OUR podcast.What is Breathwork? [3:15][6:00] It's all about the mind, body, soul connection. If you don't have internal peace, your external is a reflection of your internal.[7:30] Breathwork is a very active energetic practice. It's meditation or a passive practice, you're in a conscious breath pattern that lets us slip into the subconscious mind.[10:00] Start slowly. Book a one-on-one practice. Know that you're in a very safe space.[10:30] Starting with embodiment practices is a great way to begin as well. [12:30] What really helped me was starting to spend time with myself.[14:00] You are your own greatest healer. The best book you'll ever read is the book you write yourself.Jamie's Message [17:30][18:00] I left my career when I should have been moving up in the company and I started something new.[18:45] You're never to old: to live you life, to live your dreams[19:00] Your worth is not defined by your ability to be loved by someone else. Your worth is in you and you're worthy because you are you.[20:00] When I focused less on how my life looked and more on how my life felt, I felt more present. [24:00] Health is a feeling, not a look![25:00] We think that happiness lies in looks, but it has nothing to do with the outside. It's created on the inside.Trusting Yourself [26:00][26:30] Find evidence of trusting yourself and build on evidence. [27:00] Make small decisions instead of making it something big. You can look back and say, ‘Oh I did that!'.[30:30] We all need to go through life knowing that we are the main character! We are not the side character for everyone else.[35:00] Can I be okay where I am? Can I love myself where I am? Can I accept myself where I am? Can I make one step to go to the next place?[37:30] Give yourself grace and separate yourself from the stories you're telling yourself.[43:00] The more we're able to live in our truest desire, the more radiant we become, the more our needs are met, the more abundance in every way comes in because we're in alignment.[48:00] Part of the human experience is struggle and mess. The more you can embrace that instead of making it something about you, that's when life gets so much easier.[51:00] You can be in paradise, but if your inner world isn't paradise you won't be able to enjoy it.[54:00] There's a difference between happiness and a distraction from sadness.[55:00]If you can't be grateful for a cup of coffee, how are you going to be grateful for anything else? If you aren't grateful for yourself or the people in your life, how can you be grateful for a partner or anyone else?[59:30] Things that happened yesterday don't control my peace today.[1:01:00] How am I going to get depth if I'm not willing to go deep? Jamie's Book Recommendations:Untethered Soul by Michael Singer and The New Earth by Eckhart tolleGet in touch with Jamie:Instagram: @jamiejankoWebsite: https://www.jamiejanko.comJoin  The Magnetic Community today: https://network-6974249.mn.co/landing?from=https%3A%2F%2Fnetwork-6974249.mn.co%2Ffeed

    Top 10 Strategies to Overcome Self-Doubt and get Unstuck

    Play Episode Listen Later May 11, 2022 41:26


    Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy! In today's episode we are taking a closer look at self doubt. Self doubt is not a “You” problem- we all deal with it.  I am giving you 3 signs that self doubt could be holding you back, 10 tips for overcoming it, and a few journal prompts you can start using today!But, this isn't just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea, and welcome to another episode of OUR podcast.What is Self-Doubt? [0:00][2:50] Self doubt is the anchor that keeps your ship from sailing.[3:30] We all have self doubt. Self doubt isn't the problem- it's your relationship with self doubt. [4:30] Make your dreams bigger than your doubts.3 Signs that Self Doubt is Holding You Back [8:00][9:30] The first sign: You worry about things you can't control.[10:00] The more fear you have, the more you try to control your future. You have to make peace with not being in control.[12:30] The second sign: Procrastination[13:00] Self doubt and procrastination go hand in hand- it all comes from that feeling of not being good enough. [14:30] The third sign: You care more about what others think than you care about yourself.[15:10] No amount of external validation or putting others first could compensate for self worth, self love, self acceptance or self compassion.[21:30] Women associate success with more negative consequences than men.Top Tips to Overcome Self Doubt [23:30][24:30] #1 I identified my core values. When we don't know who we are, we allow ourselves to be defined by others.[27:00] #2 Identify your limiting beliefs. Your beliefs drive you thoughts. Your thoughts drive your emotions. Your emotions drive your actions. Your actions drive your behaviors.[27:30] #3 Inner child healing. Self doubt is a sign of fear. A lot of times, it's the fear our inner child has.[29:00] #4 I detached my worth from approval, appearance, and achievements. [30:00] #5 Stop comparing yourself to strangers on the internet. Social media is one of the biggest killers of confidence because we're comparing our messy behind the scenes to everyone's highlight reel.[31:00] #6 Detach and diffuse from your thoughts: Catch, challenge, and change them.[31:40] Give me a better thought![32:30] #7 Action alleviates anxiety. Do not try to think your way into the perfect decision. There is no right or wrong decision- just a decision. [33:00]Decisiveness is an outcome of confidence. Start making more decisions and take action. [34:00] #8 Trust the universe. Trust that you're exactly where you're meant to be and that you're being guided and supported. Faith over fear.[35:00] #9 Build a toolbox with resources for yourself. Learn how to stop the spiral before you get into the spiral. In my tool box is to listen to a good podcast or Disney playlist, EFT, journaling, reaching out to a friend. [36:00] #10 Daily nervous system regulation. Our mind is controlled by our nervous system. Regulate your system with daily meditation, breathwork, movement, and mindset work(like listening to a podcast or reading).[37:30] Excessive self doubt comes from excessive fear. [38:00] Self doubt is normal- we all have it! The only time it's a problem is when we let it control us.[39:30] Learn to love all parts of yourself.Journal prompts [40:00]What would your life look like with less self doubt?If you got to turn the notch on your confidence from a 2 to a 7 or 8, how different would your life look? How different would you think, act, or feel?Join the Magnetic Confidence Movement: https://claire-fealy.mykajabi.com/Magnetic-Confidence-Movement

    The Fear of Not Fitting In (and other highs and lows of solo travel)

    Play Episode Listen Later May 4, 2022 48:52


    Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy! After a month off, I'm back! This special episode consists of 2 different podcasts- one from before my trip and one from after. Listening back to the first half of this episode made me a little emotional because I was truly so nervous about what would come up while I was away. What I didn't expect was how incredibly life changing traveling would be.But, this isn't just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea, and welcome to another episode of OUR podcast.Before the Trip [2:00][2:30] Your inner world is more important than your outer world.[6:00] When life feels hard, and things are coming up to the surface, stop resisting it.[7:00] When life is the hardest, we heal the most.[8:30] A lot of times, stress is self created. It's the stories we tell ourselves.[9:00] Stress is disempowering. It takes us out of our circle of control.[11:00]Sometimes your life needs to fall apart to fall back into place.[12:00] I found I was always putting other people ahead of me. I masked all of my feelings and acted happy-go-lucky.[15:00] When life feels hard, look for the lesson. What we don't repair, we repeat.[17:30] Feel the fear and do it anyways.[18:30] Be at peace in the present- you are free to just enjoy life.[20:00] There is nothing more powerful than a woman who knows her worth. Post Trip Updates! [22:00][23:30] You don't need a lot to be happy.[24:40] I got caught up in the consumerism-what did I need to be happy? I fell into the trap of chasing success.[25:00] I thought hitting certain numbers would make me feel better and solve all my problems- but it doesn't.[26:00] I want you to know that happiness and success does not lie on the top of the mountain. Once you get to the top, there's another mountain to climb.[29:00] I came to Bali to heal my mentality of not being good enough.[31:00] Your worth is not in your weight, your appearance, your achievements, or the approval of other people.[35:00] Nobody is better than you. Nobody is less than you. Everyone is at a different place in their journey.[36:30] Your weight will change, your worth will not. The people around you will change, your worth does not. Your results in life will change, your worth does not.[39:30] I don't need to travel to be happy. I can be happy with myself.[41:00] I am making more time for fun, rest, and sleep!Becoming Magnetic [42:00] [43:00] The Magnetic Confidence Movement created a community. It's like minded people in a safe space where we can open up and share our struggles.[44:00] Confidence is the belief that you are worthy, deserving, and capable.[46:00] Change doesn't have to be hard when you have support.Work with Claire!Join the Magnetic Confidence Movement Today: https://claire-fealy.mykajabi.com/Magnetic-Confidence-Movement Join the waitlist for Claire's Group Coaching Program: https://claire-fealy.mykajabi.com/mindset-mastery-minimindCheck out the Know Your Worth Mini Course for €9.99: https://claire-fealy.mykajabi.com/knowyourworth

    Releasing Shame, Love Languages and The Need For Approval with Relationship Coach Lisa

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 13, 2022 56:35


    Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy! This week we will be chatting with relationship coach Lisa! Lisa is a motivational speaker and a relationship coach. She will be sharing her own life journey and what she has overcome.She shares how she deals with guilt, shame, relationship building and adjustment to the pandemic. But, this isn't just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea, and welcome to another episode of OUR podcast. How do you help couples get back on track to seeing, hearing and validating each other? [3:40]We chat and break down defenses [3:55]Filling your own cup [4:00]Bringing experts in [4:50]Understanding love languages [5:30]Relationship coaching & counseling experiences [9:00]Regret and guilt around working on yourself [15:30]How did you deal with regret and self coaching after working on yourself?  [16:30]Happened last night [17:00]Shame and guilt cycle [17:20]I am not going to let fear guide me [18:20]We look at guilt and say “what can I change, what can I do and where can I forgive myself” [18:40]What if you didn't feel any guilt [19:15]The biggest block to self work is shame [19:50]My core beliefs (Lisa) [21:40]Seek to understand rather than judge [26:20]Learning that this has come for me at exactly the right time [27:00]Instagram Persona [28:00]The lockdown, grieving, thought process, adjustment [29:30]What advice do you give to people who have been struggling with being out the other side of the lockdown? [33:50]Have three statements in your back pocket [35:00]Come to events with a whole heart [35:50]I don't have time for that [36:00]Check what normal was before the pandemic and is that really what you want to go back to [37:00]It is the fear of the unknown [38:00]We come first and we serve from a place of fullness and love rather than a place of need and approval  [39:30]You are your greatest investment [49:00]Final Words of wisdom [49:20] Do your love language test with yourself, your person, your kids and speak to them in their love languages [49:50]Work on yourself and releasing attachment styles [51:30]If you are in a relationship and it is stressful, remember that it can get better [53:00]Think of the relationship as its own separate entity [53:20]Follow Lisa on Instagram and feel free to reach out to her through messenger with any questions! Instagram link: relationship.coaching.niWork with Claire:https://claire-fealy.mykajabi.com/https://claire-fealy.mykajabi.com/Magnetic-Confidence-Movement

    Inner Child Healing and the Fawn Trauma Response with Katie McKenna Part 2

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 6, 2022 35:18


    Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy! In today's episode, you are going to hear part 2 of the incredible episode I recorded with Katie McKenna about childhood and trauma responses. We dive into why having compassion is so important on your healing journey. We want you to know that you are enough and that you don't have to be anyone but YOURSELF!But, this isn't just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea, and welcome to another episode of OUR podcast.Bring Compassion [1:30]When you connect with your inner child, you can't not have compassion for a 5 year old you that was just trying to be seen, heard, and valued in the middle of chaos. [2:00]When clients hear their story as if it's someone else's, they have so much more compassion because it interrupts the pattern of dismissing your emotions and experiences. [2:40]You need to have a balanced scale. So here is one side- generous, kind, compassionate, loving, empathic, and interesting. And if that is balanced with boundaries and express and my own wants and needs having my own preferences and having a felt sense of self, if that is in balance, that is okay. [5:15]Childhood Development [5:50]There is absolutely no blame or accountability to you in childhood. This was something that was pushed on you. [6:00]It's up to the parents to set healthy boundaries. [6:15]These are survival responses. They served a purpose in childhood. You did exactly what you needed to do. [6:45]Kids will have emotional meltdowns and teenagers are so impulsive because they can't think of the logical consequences. [8:40]You are Enough [9:00]You never have to be anything but yourself. [9:45]You are your own greatest healer. [10:30]I went on a mission to rescue other people, but I ended up rescuing myself. [12:00]If you want to do something, don't do it for praise. [16:00]The most profound thing I did for my healing was sitting with myself. [17:00]The wounds of emotional neglect is the death of a thousand cuts. [18:40]Your core values are like your joy GPS. [22:30]When you're not being yourself, you don't feel seen, heard and valued. [28:40]Connect with Katie:Instagram:@ katiemckennapsychotherapistOnline: https://www.katiemckenna.ieTikTok: @katiemckennatherapistWork with Claire:https://claire-fealy.mykajabi.com/Ready to ditch the self-doubt and become so magnetically confident that you easily attract the results, relationship and life you deserve? Join the Magnetic Confidence Movement today! https://claire-fealy.mykajabi.com/Magnetic-Confidence-Movement

    Overcome People Pleasing and Understand the Fawn Trauma Response with Psychotherapist Katie Mc Kenna

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 30, 2022 43:27


    Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy! In today's special 2 part episode, I am joined by Katie Mc Kenna to get deep about our childhoods. In Part 1, we dive into the four responses, Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn, and how you can balance them to get rid of people-pleasing. We want you to know that you don't have to be anyone but YOURSELF!But, this isn't just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea, and welcome to another episode of OUR podcast.Fight , Flight, Freeze, and Fawn [4:00]Freeze is the first response to danger. We become still and quiet and assess the danger. [5:30]Flight is the second response where you disengage or retreat from the danger. [5:55]The third response, fight, ensures that we have good boundaries and can stand up for ourselves. [6:20]The Fawn response is when a person responds to threat by trying to be pleasing or helpful to stall the attacker. [6:35]We keep the past alive in our mind so vividly that we can get stuck in that state of survival and dysregulation.[7:40]These responses are not bad unless we become stuck in one of them. [8:30]How to Become Unstuck [12:00]We will all make mistakes as parents [13:30]I took accountability for my part of the issue- that's the repair. [15:00] Part of the healing journey is grieving those losses- it's okay to be sad. Feel it and release it. [17:00]Our most basic need as humans is to be heard, seen, and valued. That comes before anything else. [23:20]The first step to change is always awareness. [24:30]We have 2 fundamental needs as children: attachment and authenticity. [27:00]When our emotional intelligence is restricted we often don't know what we really want and consequently struggle with making decisions. [29:20]Abandonment  [31:00]All behavior is to meet a need. [35:30]Does it always have to go back to childhood? [37:00]Work with Claire:https://claire-fealy.mykajabi.com/ https://claire-fealy.mykajabi.com/Magnetic-Confidence-Movement

    Attachment Styles, Healthy Dating and Relationships in 2022 - Powerful Strategies to Improve Your Relationships with Annie Lavin

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 23, 2022 66:10


    Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy! In this week's bonus episode, I speak with Annie Lavin! She is a couples therapist, a singles coach, and a relationship educator! She has a wealth of information to share with us today! I ask questions and she answers! But, this isn't just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea, and welcome to another episode of OUR podcast.Being Single [5:21]People often think love can only be found externally outside of themselves [5:30]We often times glamourize intimate relationships [6:00]People start to blame themselves when it isn't working out like they thought [6:15]Overcoming “what's wrong with me”?[7:00]We have to understand each person's unique patterns [7:20] Bring compassion [7:40] Not overlook love is available now within me [8:10]Mindset of love and idea of eternal love [9:00]Attachment styles [14:00]Our relationships with our primary caregivers can have an impact on our daily life and relationships [14:30]A great place to start is the book Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller [15:50]Attachment styles are fluid and are not an identity [16:30]People believe they need to work to get love and that they are undeserving of it [19:30]Dating Apps [22:10]When you are fatigued and frustrated it is time to come off of them [22:50]I think the apps are a great place to practice relating skills [22:55]It is all about your intention online [23:20]Planning the Future [27:15]Yes, women in particular [27:25]We get to know people over time in a minimum of 0 to 3 months [27:30]We need to give one another time [28:30]It is all about your intention online [23:20]If your only mission in dating is being with your forever person your life would lack a little bit of color [29:30]People can lose sight of growth and transformation when they are in pursuit of a partner [33:30]How much do you think Disney has messed us all up? [37:05]Even when you think that pursuit and the energy involved [37:10]Awareness of old stories rather than basking in the amazing things happening in our lives [38:00]Triggers of not having that happily ever after [38:40]Coaching clients on Jealousy [39:30]We have to accept it [39:55]We have to find compassion for ourselves [40:10]Normalize the feelings of being happy for others and being jealous [40:30]Shifting focus on things going on in your life [41:00]Bring attention to the fact that we don't really ever know that much about other people's lives [41:20]Jealousy sometimes is pointing out what it is that you really want [43:05] Your feelings are feedback for your needs [43:30]Struggling to let go [43:50]Sit with how are you feeling with this person [45:20]We have to allow for all of the pain to be felt, to move, shift and be there [47:00]You also have to not feel shame in feeling the pain [48:30]I would encourage a break from communication [49:00]We are blaming and outsourcing our peace and ability to move one [50:30]Give ourselves time [51:50]Top Tips for dating in 2022 [57:40]Get to know yourself and do that work [57:50]Know what you need [59:00]Be okay with rejection and know you're worthy [1:01:20]Know your intention in online dating [1:01:30]There is nothing wrong with you and believe it [1:02:15]Learn more about Annie on Instagram therelationshipcoach.ie 

    4 Steps To Lifelong Magnetic Confidence (attract the results, relationships, and life you deserve)

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 16, 2022 46:00 Transcription Available


    Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy! In todays' episode we will talk about what a lack of confidence looks like, why confidence is so hard, and the confidence gap. I will be sharing with you a 4 step process that I have created to help people over the years of my work with clients and myself to build confidence. I want you to see that developing confidence is a skill and it is a process that is lifelong! I also want to discuss my NEW monthly group called Magnetic Confidence Movement!But, this isn't just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea, and welcome to another episode of OUR podcast.Confidence [3:00]You feel less than others. [3:10]You are not sure of what you think and believe. [3:20]You talk yourself in and out of things. [3:40]Untapped potential. [4:00]You go through life being shy, defensive, perfectionist, and/or people-pleasing. [4:20]Group Coaching (Master Your Mindset). [8:00]Confidence is a Skill. [9:30]Confidence is a positive feeling about yourself. [10:25]Nobody is above or below you or me. [10:50]Confidence is feeling pride about yourself and how you live your life. [11:15]When you have confidence you value your health and your happiness. [12:30]Studies show confidence is 50% genetics and 50% in your control. [12:40]There is such a big gap between knowing and doing. [14:00]Why is Confidence Hard [15:00]We are in a compare and despair trap in our society and our personal lives. [15:40]Luggage of Life. [17:45]Confirming limiting beliefs from our childhood. [20:00] Societal conditioning. [21:40]Confidence Gap: waiting for a feeling to come before taking action. [23:25]Wrong thought patterns. [25:00] 4 Steps to a More Confident You  [26:00]Identity: How you see yourself is how others see you! [27:15]Exercise:  Create/understand your core values. [28:10]Integrate: Ignoring your problems, numbing, and avoidance. [38:00]Exercise: Create space for your emotions to come through.  [33:00]Interrupting: Interrupting (your thoughts and fears) your 7 self-confidence saboteurs. [33:50]Exercise: Acknowledge that they are there but do not let them drive the car (your actions). [34:46] F.E.A.R. Acronym [35:20]I want to share a massive win of a client [35:40]Implement: We cannot think our way into confidence, we need to also take action  [39:50]Exercise: Keeping small promises to yourself every day [40:50]NEW Monthly Membership Group Info: The Magnetic Confidence Movement [41:00]Join HERE: The Magnetic Confidence MovementBook Recommendations The Confidence Gap - Russ Harris The Happiness Trap - Russ Harris 

    Less Stress More Success - how to get out of living life in survival mode

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 9, 2022 53:51 Transcription Available


    Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy! In this today's episode, I want to discuss the power of your nervous system. I want to talk about how you can regulate it and tap into the power of self-regulation. Having coached over 60 clients, I realized we all struggle with the same things and that is why I decided to do today's episode on stress regulation and your nervous system. By the end of the episode, you will be able to understand the importance of the nervous system, be able to identify the signs and symptoms of dysregulation. I will also leave you with simple strategies you can start today to self-regulate. There are also a few questions I will be answering from my followers at the end of the podcast. But, this isn't just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea, and welcome to another episode of OUR podcast.Master Your Mindset [1:55]Not everyone can commit to weekly group coaching but you can do self-paced with workbooks [2:50]The best book you will ever read is the one you wrote yourself about yourself  [3:05]There is a group set up with self-paced as a community, if you are interested there is a link in my bio and podcast [3:50]Nervous System [6:50]We do not choose anxiety or to live in fear [6:50]Self-regulation helps you from going down into the downwards spiral [8:00]What I did to self regulate after a bad night of anxiety and nightmares [8:30]When we don't have the tools for self-regulation, we self soothe (outside resources, to numb or distract) [9:55]The automatic nervous system is the unconscious control system of all of our bodily functions, systems, and organs  [11:25]The inner nervous system has two branches: Sympathetic & Parasympathetic [12:00]The 21st-century living sets our nervous system to be sympathetic dominant [15:35]Mental diet [16:30]Long term stress [17:50]Societal Values [18:50]Compare and Despair [19:20]Having a history of trauma, stress, heavy emotions [21:25]Where we want to spend our time is on our window of tolerance [24:30]We still feel stress we are just not overwhelmed by it [25:02]Disclaimer [27:40] Hyperarousal & Hypoarousal [28:30]Everything works better when you are in balance [34:20] 6 Lifestyle Changes for Homeostasis  [35:00]Meditation: We do have control over our breathing which connects to our nervous system. Create a daily breathing practice. [35:20]Guilt-free rest into your schedule: Get out of your to-do list because nothing is ever fully done. Schedule 2 hours a day of guilt-free rest. [36:30]Good Sleep: Your sleep is so important to regulate your moods and your life rhythm. Create a sleep time routine. [38:25]Movement: Movement keeps your energy inflow. Daily movement does not equal high-stress workouts. [39:40]Diet: Your diet can put your hormones out of balance and I struggled with sugar crashes. Focus on foods that nourish your nervous system.[41:30]EFT: Emotional Freedom Tapping. You can't always think your way out of stress. Your issues are in your tissues and EFT releases the body from the stress [43:40]BONUS: Check your Beliefs: Are you living by societal happiness standards or your own.  [45:30]Questions: [48:00]

    Client Interview - Overcoming Overwhelm - giving yourself permission to live stress and guilt free

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 4, 2022 35:24 Transcription Available


    Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy! In today's episode, I am joined by my first guest! Ursula is joining me to talk about her incredible story and journey. She is here to help and inspire you to seek out a positive mindset. We talk about her choice to join my coaching program, what it was like, and her biggest takeaways. This episode is an inside look into the work we do and a sneak peek of the results that you are worthy of.But, this isn't just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea, and welcome to another episode of OUR podcast.Why Coaching? [1:30]I was always attracted to the idea of being positive- I started reading books like The Secret and I was in such a good mindset. [2:20]During lockdown I had loads of time to work on myself, but when lockdown ended, it was the first time I was hit with anxiety. [3:30]I had a knot in my chest and stomach that wouldn't go away. [3:50]Before the lock down we were so go-go-go, and we didn't even know there was another way. In lock down, we worked on ourselves. When things started to reopen, we didn't want to go back to the way things were. [4:40]What is Coaching like? [6:00]I didn't let fear prevent my growth. [7:30]I was trying to be grateful for the all the opportunities I was given but I was exhausted. That's when overwhelm came in. That was where the work came in. [9:00]During our time, I connected with my feelings and connected with my true selves. [9:50]The biggest thing you taught me was to put myself first. [10:15]I noticed that you really started to take your power back and get clear on putting yourself first. [11:10]The only reason I ever did exercise was to lose the weight- it wasn't enjoyable. Now I do it for my mental health. I've enjoyed it, I won't look at exercise the same ever again. [12:00]When we do things from a place of fear and lack, it's not sustainable. When we do things because we love ourselves and our life, it's a different energy. [12:40]I have so much more time in the day since doing this. Before I didn't allow myself time for me. [15:40]I would be at home, waiting and resting to go back to work. That's not living. [16:00]What you don't own, owns you. When you don't own your emotions, they own you. [19:00]When you connect with your authentic self, you have more energy. [21:00]I'm really, really happy. For the first time in my life I feel so content going to work. I fell in love with it again. [23:15]Coaching is all about the small steps that you can take to become the healthiest and happiest version of yourself. [24:30]3 Steps Can Change Your Life [25:00]Number one: Give yourself more time and be more organized. [25:30]Number 2: Be grateful for the small things. [26:00]Number 3: Give away the tasks that others can do for you. [27:00]Find Your Blind Spots [27:30]Stress is created by the stories we tell ourselves. [28:00]I have started believing that I deserve a break and holiday. I am worthy of rest and deserve rest. I don't have to earn it. [29:00]Give yourself permission to live a stress free life without any of the guilt that goes with it. [30:10]Life is meant to be enjoyed, not endured. [31:00]Life is never going to be completely clear sailing, but knowing that I have the tools to deal with anything that may come up makes me free. [31:30]Coaching is the best investment you will give yourself-and definitely look no further than Claire.[32:00]Connect with Ursula@Ursula_hairstudioJoin the 5 Day Challenge! Register here: https://claire-fealy.mykajabi.com/5-Day-Challenge 

    Make Your Mornings Easier - how I learnt to love my mornings (join our 5 day challenge!!)

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 2, 2022 50:09 Transcription Available


    Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy! In today's episode, we are taking on morning routines! I'll be honest, I was not always a morning person, but as I began to work on my mindset I was able to transform from night owl to loving the morning! We are diving into why a great morning is more about mindset than mood. I'll show you my best tips and questions that will help you to start your morning routine as well as strategies you can start to use today!But, this isn't just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea, and welcome to another episode of OUR podcast.Master the Morning [2:10]“Tiny changes repeated daily lead to huge results and boosts in your energy and mood.” [2:50]“The purpose of life is to enjoy it! That's your biggest goal-everything else falls under it.” [3:15]“It's not laziness! Our body clocks are mismatched to the time that you need to sleep and get up at everyday.” [7:00]“A morning routine that you perform the same, basic tasks in the same order everyday.”  [7:35]“Having a morning routine gives you control of your day. When you have control of the morning, you feel like you have control of the rest of the day.” [12:04]“Having a morning routine isn't just about waking up earlier or self discipline, it's about mastering your self talk.” [14:20]“My only regret about getting help is not getting help sooner.” [19:00]“The signs you're not getting enough sleep are irritability, complete lack of motivation, fatigue, brain fog, increased appetite.” [20:30]“I thought a morning routine had to be this big thing- if I couldn't do everything in my morning routine, I wasn't going to do it at all. Who likes the feeling of failure?” [26:50]“Have a menu of things to do in your morning. What do I need this morning? What will make me feel great?” [27:30]“What is easy to do is also easy to not do.” [29:40]“Separate you from your thoughts. I'm having the thought that…I don't want to get up. I'm having the thought that…I'm exhausted.” [30:40]“Get clear on the benefits.” [31:15]“Switch from problem based thinking to solution based thinking.” [31:50]Favorite coaching questions and tips [33:30]“What if your mornings felt easy? What does that look like? What do you say to yourself? How do you feel? How are you acting?” [33:40]“The biggest takeaway from a morning routine is confidence and improved self esteem.” [35:40]“Tip #1 Stick to a sleep schedule.” [36:45]“Tip #2  Exercise! Be physically tired at night.“ [38:50]“Tip #3 Snooze you lose! When you snooze you teach your brain you don't want a big block of sleep at night.“ [39:30]“Tip #4 Have an evening routine.” [42:00]“Tip #5 Start small and easy. Break it down for yourself and start with just getting up at a set time.” [43:30]Perfection over Progress [44:00]“We aren't looking for perfection, we're looking for progress!” [44:00]“Bonus Tip! Morning mantras help to get rid of that bad mood.” [45:10]“Say to yourself, ‘I am relaxed and my day unfolds with ease. I breathe in love and exhale fear. I take the day one small step at a time. I focus on progress over perfection. It doesn't matter how slow I go, I don't stop.” [45:40]“A morning routine won't be effective unless it's consistent.” [48:30]“If you are serious about mastering your morning, join our challenge!!” [49:00]

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