Podcast appearances and mentions of ximena vengoechea

What does it really take to feel rested in a world that rewards burnout? In this powerful conversation, Karen Brody talks with Ximena Vengoechea—author of Rest Easy and The Life Audit—about cultivating a rest ethic, the barriers that keep us from true rest, and the liberating power of both active and passive rest. Together, they explore how rest can be deeply personal, radically political, and profoundly healing.   Resources for this episode can be found here: daringtorest.com/podcast/110

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 1632: Nir Eyal and Ximena Vengoechea explore the psychology behind effective notifications, explaining how they should be timely, relevant, and actionable to enhance user engagement without causing frustration. Learn the key principles that make notifications truly helpful rather than intrusive. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.nirandfar.com/2015/03/notifications-that-work.html Quotes to ponder: "Notifications succeed when they are timely, relevant, and actionable." "When apps send notifications at the wrong time or for the wrong reasons, they become nuisances rather than helpful prompts." "Effective notifications don't just demand attention; they deliver value." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 1632: Nir Eyal and Ximena Vengoechea explore the psychology behind effective notifications, explaining how they should be timely, relevant, and actionable to enhance user engagement without causing frustration. Learn the key principles that make notifications truly helpful rather than intrusive. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.nirandfar.com/2015/03/notifications-that-work.html Quotes to ponder: "Notifications succeed when they are timely, relevant, and actionable." "When apps send notifications at the wrong time or for the wrong reasons, they become nuisances rather than helpful prompts." "Effective notifications don't just demand attention; they deliver value." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm excited revisit this conversation with Ximena Vengoechea to the show to discuss her book, Listen Like You Mean It: Reclaiming the Lost Art of True Connection. Ximena is a user researcher, author, and expert in communication and active listening. Her book explores how we can deepen our conversations, overcome common listening mistakes, and foster meaningful connections in both personal and professional settings. In this conversation, we cover: The Art of Listening: Why many of us think we're listening when we're actually just waiting for our turn to speak. Levels of Listening: The difference between surface listening and empathetic listening, and why the latter is key to deeper relationships. Hidden Needs in Conversations: How both we and the person we're speaking with bring unspoken expectations into every interaction. The Role of Curiosity, Humility, and Empathy: How these three qualities shape more meaningful and engaged conversations. Avoiding Common Listening Mistakes: Why we often get distracted, how body language impacts connection, and how to stay present. Handling Difficult Conversations: Tips for navigating emotionally charged discussions while maintaining genuine understanding. The Impact of Technology on Communication: How devices can subtly diminish empathy and connection, and what to do about it. Ximena's insights will help you become a better listener, improve your relationships, and create more meaningful connections in every conversation. Learn more about Ximena and her work at ximenavengoechea.com/listenlikeyoumeanit. Connect with Erik: LinkedIn  Facebook  Bluesky This Podcast is Powered By: Descript Descript 101 Castmagic Ecamm Podpage Rodecaster Pro Top Productivity Books List Make sure to support the show by checking out the sponsors! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ximena Vengoechea has been UX researcher at companies like Twitter and Pinterest. She is the author of several books including the one we discuss today titled Listen Like You Mean It: Reclaiming the Lost Art of True Connection.  Her writing has been published in The Washington Post, Newsweek, Fast Company, CNBC, The Muse, among others. She writes a regular newsletter on personal growth and human behavior at ximena.substack.com. In this inteview we discuss: How to Listen Beyond Words - Discover techniques to understand the emotions and unspoken needs hiding beneath surface-level conversation. When to Switch Listening Modes - Learn to identify your default listening style and how to adapt it based on what others actually need from you. Turning Any Topic Into an Engaging Conversation - Find out how to remain genuinely curious about subjects that don't naturally interest you by focusing on the person sharing them. Setting Healthy Boundaries While Listening - Master the balance between empathetic listening and protecting yourself from carrying others' emotional burdens. The Power of Being Fully Present - Understand how mindfulness, reduced note-taking, and self-awareness create the foundation for meaningful connections. -- email questions to omaid@omaid.me

Do you feel overwhelmed by your dreams and goals, unsure of where to start? Today's guest, Ximena Vengoechea, is a user researcher, writer, and illustrator, known for her books on personal growth and well-being. Her concept of a life audit goes beyond organization—it's about reconnecting with your deepest desires, assessing where you are, and charting a clear path toward where you want to go.✨ From this episode, you'll learn:-How to conduct a life audit to uncover your true goals and wishes-The difference between true wishes and should wishes (and why it matters)-Why identifying core values helps you align your actions with your authentic self-Why analog tools are necessary to make your wishes come true & which are best to use-How to prioritize your wishes by categories and make timelines to go after themThis conversation is packed with practical insights and heartfelt wisdom to help you navigate your creative journey. Ximena's approach to self-discovery and creativity is as enriching as it is actionable—and I believe it can be instrumental in helping you take the next steps toward the life you've always imagined.

Ximena Vengoechea shares her viral three-phase life audit exercise for surfacing and achieving your most important goals. — YOU'LL LEARN — 1) How to transform your life with just Post-Its and a marker 2) How to turn fanciful wishes into actionable goals 3) How to stay motivated while pursuing hard goals Subscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep1018 for clickable versions of the links below. — ABOUT XIMENA — Ximena Vengoechea is a user experience researcher, writer, and illustrator whose work on personal and professional development has been published in Inc., the Washington Post, Newsweek, and Insider, among others. She is the author of Rest Easy and Listen Like You Mean It, and she writes a newsletter about personal growth and human behavior. She lives in New York. • Book: The Life Audit: A Step-by-Step Guide to Discovering Your Goals and Building the Life You Want • Blogpost: “How and Why to do a Life Audit” • Website: XimenaVengoechea.com — RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — • Notebook: Moleskine • Notebook: Leuchttrum1917 • Book: I Hope This Finds You Well: A Novel by Natalie Sue • Book: Tiny Habits: The Small Changes That Change Everything by BJ Fogg • Past episode: 317: How to Form Habits the Smart Way with BJ Fogg, PhD — THANK YOU SPONSORS! — • CleanMyMac. Use the promo code BEAWESOME for 10% off on any CleanMyMac subscription plan. • Lingoda. Visit try.lingoda.com/awesome and use the promo code 50AWESOME for up to 50% off until December 21! • Jenni Kayne. Use the code AWESOME15 to get 15% off your order!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode of the Functional Fertility Podcast, Dr. Kalea Wattles chats with Ximena Vengoechea, author of The Life Audit! In this episode, you'll learn:  - What is The Life Audit, and how can it benefit you on your fertility journey? - How performing a Life Audit help you to gain clarity, assemble a network, and take aligned action towards the life you've always wanted - What materials and tools you need to successfully conduct your own Life Audit    If you're working to gain clarity about what you want for your life, fertility journey, or parenthood experience - it's time for a Life Audit! Tune in to hear more about the process and to get the inside scoop (full of pro-tips) from Life Audit creator Ximena Vengoechea.    Thanks to NEEDED for sponsoring this episode! Use code FUNCTIONALFERTILITY for 20% of your purchase at thisisneeded.com. 

Are you longing for a life that feels more authentic and fulfilling? In this insightful conversation, Ximena Vengoechea, author of The Life Audit: A Step-by-Step Guide to Discovering Your Goals and Building the Life You Want, shares her powerful framework for gaining clarity on your deep desires and purposefully sculpting a life aligned with your core values. Through thought-provoking exercises like rapidly ideating 100 wishes and auditing your key relationships, Vengoechea provides a refreshingly practical roadmap to move from stuck and overwhelmed to confident and motivated action. If you're craving more authenticity, meaning and joy, this is a must-listen for learning how to embrace life as an iterative journey of experimentation and growth.You can find Ximena at: Website | Instagram | Letters from Ximena Substack | Episode TranscriptIf you LOVED this episode you'll also love our episodes on the Good Life Buckets.Check out our offerings & partners: Join My New Writing Project: Awake at the WheelVisit Our Sponsor Page For Great Resources & Discount Codes Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ximena Vengoechea has a new book 'Rest Easy: Discover Calm and Abundance through the Radical Power of Rest', that explores why we don't get enough rest and how we can get more of it at a time when so many of us are feeling burned out. Many of us ignore the signs that it's time to slow down. We keep going because we believe ourselves unstoppable or because life's responsibilities—work, rent, kids—make it feel impossible to stop. 'Rest Easy' is a practical guide on how to get the vital rest we need not just to survive, but to thrive.   LINKS   Website for Ximena https://www.ximenavengoechea.com   Book on Amazon Rest Easy: Discover Calm and Abundance through the Radical Power of Rest   The Mojo Sessions website www.themojosessions.com   The Mojo Sessions on Patreon www.patreon.com/TheMojoSessions Full transcripts of the show (plus time codes) are available on Patreon.   The Mojo Sessions on Facebook www.facebook.com/TheMojoSessions   Gary on LinkedIn www.linkedin.com/in/gary-bertwistle   Gary on Twitter www.twitter.com/GaryBertwistle   The Mojo Sessions on Instagram www.instagram.com/themojosessions   If you like what you hear, we'd be grateful for a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Happy listening!   © 2024 Gary Bertwistle.  All Rights Reserved.  

 In this WorkWell podcast by Deloitte, Jen Fisher, editor-at-large for Thrive and Deloitte's Human Sustainability Hub, sits down with user researcher, writer, illustrator, and consultant Ximena Vengoechea, author of Rest Easy: Discover Calm and Abundance through the Radical Power of Rest. In a wide-ranging conversation, Jen and Ximena talk about the importance of resting and recharging in order to lead a fulfilling and productive life. Ximena offers guidance on how to get the deep rest we need for our well-being, and explains how rest helps us reconnect with ourselves and improves every aspect of our lives, from work to relationships.  

 In this WorkWell podcast by Deloitte, Jen Fisher, editor-at-large for Thrive and Deloitte's Human Sustainability Hub, sits down with user researcher, writer, illustrator, and consultant Ximena Vengoechea, author of Rest Easy: Discover Calm and Abundance through the Radical Power of Rest. In a wide-ranging conversation, Jen and Ximena talk about the importance of resting and recharging in order to lead a fulfilling and productive life. Ximena offers guidance on how to get the deep rest we need for our well-being, and explains how rest helps us reconnect with ourselves and improves every aspect of our lives, from work to relationships.  

In this episode of 5to9, I had a chat with Ximena Vengoechea, a writer, speaker, illustrator, UX researcher, mother, and lover of fiction.Ximena has always loved bringing design thinking to our everyday world, which led her to spend a decade in the tech industry at companies like Linkedin, Twitter, and Pinterest as a user researcher. During that time she also manifested many side projects such as The Life Audit (which got written about on Life Hacker, CNBC, and INC), while contributing to articles in Fast Company, and many illustration projects. Her side projects led her to author two books - Listen Like You Mean It (which is about building better relationships through listening) and Rest Easy (a book that's about reclaiming rest in our work-obsessed culture.)We talked about her early career, why she's insistent on not picking a lane, the importance of side projects, her experience with burnout and how it led her to write a book, a deep dive into what is rest, why we need rest, how to rest and more!This is Ximena Vangoechea for 5to9.

What is your relationship to rest? How about your caretakers' relationship to rest while you were young? What examples did they set? What attitudes, beliefs, and behaviors did they hold, and how does that still influence you today? Today I'm talking with Ximena Vengoechea about the five rest profiles, productivity dysmorphia, “tiny transition time,” why paid work (no matter how much you love it) doesn't count as pure play, and how she designed the book to deliver a restful experience beyond just the words themselves. Listen to our previous conversation on the Pivot podcast, 263: Conduct a Relationship Audit with Ximena Vengoechea. More About Ximena: Ximena Vengoechea is a researcher, writer, and illustrator. She previously worked at Pinterest, LinkedIn, and Twitter, and currently advises select startups and executives on user research, executive communication, and resting well. She is the author of Listen Like You Mean it: Reclaiming the Lost Art of True Connection, and today we're talking about her new book, Rest Easy: Discover Calm and Abundance through the Radical Power of Rest.

What is the secret to good rest? Many of us push ourselves past the breaking point on a regular basis. The list of responsibilities can seem endless. When someone tells us to “slow down” or “relax” … what does that really mean? Is it even practical? Ximena Vengoechea is here to share practices and insights to help us tap into the restorative power of rest. ---------- Ximena Vengoechea is a user researcher, writer, and illustrator whose work has been featured in Inc., The Washington Post, Newsweek, Forbes, and Huffington Post, among others. Ximena is a contributor at Fast Company, and writes Letters from Ximena, a newsletter about staying curious, getting creative, and living well. She is also the creator of the popular project The Life Audit. Ximena is a keynote speaker on topics such as empathetic and inclusive listening, navigating difficult conversations, and preventing burnout. Her new book is Rest Easy: Discover Calm and Abundance through the Radical Power of Rest. Find out more at ximenavengoechea.com.

Ximena Vengoechea, an expert in all things rest, takes you on a journey through a treasure trove of relaxation techniques that have stood the test of time. Her new book, Rest Easy: Discover Calm and Abundance through the Radical Power of Rest, covers everything from  gentle movements, soothing sounds, imaginative visualizations to heartfelt journaling, quality time in nature, and calming meditative practices. Rest Easy is like an open invitation to discover how giving your mind, body, and spirit some well-deserved rest can truly transform your life.   Guest Bio Ximena Vengoechea is a user researcher, writer, and illustrator whose work on personal and professional development has been published in Inc., The Washington post, Newsweek, and Huffington Post. She is the author of the new book, Listen Like You Mean it: Reclaiming the Lost Art of True Connection (Portfolio/Penguin Random House). She is a contributor at Fast Company and The Muse, and writes Letters from Ximena, a newsletter on tech, culture, career, and creativity. An experienced manager, mentor, and researcher in the tech industry, she previously worked at Pinterest, LinkedIn, and Twitter. For episode homepage, resources and links, visit: https://kristenmanieri.com/episode263    Learn more about coaching: Kristen@kristenmanieri.com  Mentioned in this Episode Guest's book: Rest Easy: Discover Calm and Abundance through the Radical Power of Rest https://www.amazon.com/Rest-Easy-Discover-Abundance-through/dp/1797219472    Episode #125 with Ximena Vengoechea https://kristenmanieri.com/episode125/  Guest's website:  https://www.ximenavengoechea.com/      Host Bio Kristen Manieri is a coach who works with teams to increase both productivity and wellbeing. She also helps individuals navigate transition with clarity and confidence. Her areas of focus are: stress reduction, energy management, mindset, resilience, habit formation, rest rituals, and self-care. As the host of the weekly 60 Mindful Minutes podcast, an Apple top 100 social science podcast, Kristen has interviewed over 200 authors about what it means to live a more conscious, connected, intentional and joyful life. Learn more at kristenmanieri.com/work-with-me.    Learn more about coaching: Kristen@kristenmanieri.com  Connect with the 60 Mindful Minutes podcast   Web: https://kristenmanieri.com  Email: Kristen@kristenmanieri.com    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/60MindfulMinutes Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kristenmanieri_/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/kristenmanieri/

In her new book, Rest Easy, Ximena Vengoechea describes rest as “a state of being in which nothing is required of us. It's a time where we can just be.” For writers who are typing away in addition to holding down a day job and parenting, rest can feel illusive, but as it turns out, rest is an essential tool of any creative practice. In our modern world, accessing restorative rest requires awareness and intention alongside a healthy spirit of experimentation, which is exactly what we're talking about in this practical and empowering episode. Meet Ximena: Ximena Vengoechea is a user researcher, writer, and illustrator whose work on personal and professional development has been published in Inc., The Washington Post, Newsweek, Forbes, and Huffington Post. She is the author of the new book, Rest Easy: Discover Calm and Abundance through the Radical Power of Rest. Her previous book is Listen Like You Mean it: Reclaiming the Lost Art of True Connection (Penguin Random House). Ximena is a contributor at Fast Company and The Muse, and writes Letters from Ximena, a newsletter about staying curious, getting creative, and living well. She is also the creator of the popular project The Life Audit. Ximena is a keynote speaker on topics such as empathetic and inclusive listening, navigating difficult conversations, and preventing burnout. She previously worked at Pinterest, LinkedIn, and Twitter, and currently advises select startups and executives on user research, executive communication, and resting well.  Ximena's Website  Instagram Substack: Letters from Ximena Books:  Rest Easy Listen Like You Mean It A few highlights: The 3 types of rest (it's not just napping) Undoing the relationship between productivity and self-worth The unseen work of writing and how it informs our rest practice The false promise of multitasking  What happens to our brain when we take breaks How reading outside your genre can be restful 6 rest tips informed by the writer's life

Ximena Vengoechea is a user researcher, writer, illustrator, and the author of the new book, Rest Easy: Discover Calm and Abundance through the Radical Power of Rest. In this conversation, we dig into what rest really means and why it's not just napping, for example. We talk about her path to writing and her first book, Listen Like You Mean it: Reclaiming the Lost Art of True Connection. Ximena has worked at Pinterest, Linkedin, and Twitter. She's also a contributor at Fast Company and writes a newsletter, Letters from Ximena. I really loved hearing some of Ximena's insights about a perfectionist's journey to rest. There's something in here for all overthinkers.

Ximena Vengoechea listens for a living, as an expert in UX Research for Pinterest, and previously for Twitter and LinkedIn. She is also the author of Listen Like You Mean It: Reclaiming the Lost Art of True Connection. Her book is a practical and immediately-applicable guide to empathy and understanding of your fellow humans through conversation. Ximena and David sit down to discuss the United States's cultural hangups with listening as purely a means to an end, and how to transform this dynamic with just a little bit of effort and curiosity. Their conversation touches on tips for staying engaged with a topic that's not your strong suit, the subtle mastery of interruption in group settings, avoiding questions that begin with Do or Is, and more.Ranked as one of the top 25 CEO podcasts on Feedspot, Keep Connected with Meetup CEO David Siegel is a podcast about the power of community. For more details on other episodes, visit Keep Connected on the Meetup Community Matters blog.We hope you'll keep connected with us. Drop us a line at podcast@meetup.com. If you like the podcast, be sure to subscribe and leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts and Spotify!Learn more about Keep Connected host David Siegel's experience as a leader and decision maker in his book, Decide & Conquer. Order your copy today!

One of the biggest fears entrepreneurs face is that their offers won't sell, and it's not an entirely irrational fear. When your service, consulting or coaching offers aren't designed with users in mind, you can experience low to no sales, especially on group programs. This is where the discipline of user research comes in, and Eleanor's guest today is a legitimate pro.    Ximena Vengoechea was a UX researcher, mentor, and manager at LinkedIn, Twitter, and Pinterest. She shares the biggest mistakes entrepreneurs make when designing new offers and the kind of mistakes that result in low or no sales. Ximena walks you through a simple approach to conducting effective user research so you can speed up sales by tweaking or creating offers customers actually want, and the best practices when it comes to conducting user interviews.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://safimedia.co/ai2

Is there a way to transform the classical music world within its current structures? Is change even possible, and what does it look like?  This week, John and Natasha sit down with Kathleen Kelly to dig deeper into these questions. Kathleen is a seasoned conductor, pianist, educator, and mentor. Decades into her career, she has been reflecting on her path up to this point. What change has she seen, and what change still needs to happen? How do established artists turn around and help the next generation? How do we come to terms with our mistakes, and how do we begin to rectify them?Authors/Books mentioned in the podcast:Thich Nhat Hanh - https://www.goodreads.com/author/list/9074.Thich_Nhat_Hanh"Listen Like You Mean It" by Ximena Vengoechea - https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/54614554-listen-like-you-mean-itFollow us on social, and please RATE and REVIEW wherever you are listening!FB: The Offbeat Musician PodcastIG: @theoffbeatmusicianpodcast

Ximena Vengoechea describes to Carey why it's important to value silence during a conversation. Get more on this conversation by going to http://theartofleadershipdaily.com/. Brought to you by: The Art of Leadership Academy's Preaching Cheat Sheet You no longer need to worry if your sermon is going to connect or not. The Preaching Cheat Sheet is a 10-step checklist you can use to ensure your sermons are engaging, relevant, and memorable. To download your free copy, go to https://preachingcheatsheet.com/ and join 20,000 pastors who are using it too.

Today I talked to Ximena Vengoechea about Listen Like You Mean It: Reclaiming the Lost Art of True Connection (Portfolio, 2021). What's your default listening mode? Are you perhaps a pivoter, a distractor, a withdrawer, an explorer or, like today's guest, an innate problem-solver trying to find a solution to whatever is troubling the person you're having a conversation with? Three different kinds of difficult conversations get covered here: 1) an imbalance-of-power conversation between a boss and a subordinate; 2) a competitive-conversation between divorced parents navigating childcare; and 3) a regressive-conversation where an elderly parent and child can easily fall into roles they played years ago. In each case, Ximena Vengoechea offers sound, sympathetic advice on how to steer clear of the usual pitfalls. Ximena Vengoechea is a user researcher, writer, and illustrator whose work on personal and professional development has been published in Inc., The Washington Post, Newsweek, Fast Company, and elsewhere. Her career has included positions at Pinterest, LinkedIn, and Twitter. Dan Hill, PhD, is the author of nine books and leads Sensory Logic, Inc. (https://www.sensorylogic.com). His new book is Blah, Blah, Blah: A Snarky Guide to Office Lingo. To check out his related “Dan Hill's EQ Spotlight” blog, visit https://emotionswizard.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/new-books-network

Today I talked to Ximena Vengoechea about Listen Like You Mean It: Reclaiming the Lost Art of True Connection (Portfolio, 2021). What's your default listening mode? Are you perhaps a pivoter, a distractor, a withdrawer, an explorer or, like today's guest, an innate problem-solver trying to find a solution to whatever is troubling the person you're having a conversation with? Three different kinds of difficult conversations get covered here: 1) an imbalance-of-power conversation between a boss and a subordinate; 2) a competitive-conversation between divorced parents navigating childcare; and 3) a regressive-conversation where an elderly parent and child can easily fall into roles they played years ago. In each case, Ximena Vengoechea offers sound, sympathetic advice on how to steer clear of the usual pitfalls. Ximena Vengoechea is a user researcher, writer, and illustrator whose work on personal and professional development has been published in Inc., The Washington Post, Newsweek, Fast Company, and elsewhere. Her career has included positions at Pinterest, LinkedIn, and Twitter. Dan Hill, PhD, is the author of nine books and leads Sensory Logic, Inc. (https://www.sensorylogic.com). His new book is Blah, Blah, Blah: A Snarky Guide to Office Lingo. To check out his related “Dan Hill's EQ Spotlight” blog, visit https://emotionswizard.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/dan-hills-eq-spotlight

Today I talked to Ximena Vengoechea about Listen Like You Mean It: Reclaiming the Lost Art of True Connection (Portfolio, 2021). What's your default listening mode? Are you perhaps a pivoter, a distractor, a withdrawer, an explorer or, like today's guest, an innate problem-solver trying to find a solution to whatever is troubling the person you're having a conversation with? Three different kinds of difficult conversations get covered here: 1) an imbalance-of-power conversation between a boss and a subordinate; 2) a competitive-conversation between divorced parents navigating childcare; and 3) a regressive-conversation where an elderly parent and child can easily fall into roles they played years ago. In each case, Ximena Vengoechea offers sound, sympathetic advice on how to steer clear of the usual pitfalls. Ximena Vengoechea is a user researcher, writer, and illustrator whose work on personal and professional development has been published in Inc., The Washington Post, Newsweek, Fast Company, and elsewhere. Her career has included positions at Pinterest, LinkedIn, and Twitter. Dan Hill, PhD, is the author of nine books and leads Sensory Logic, Inc. (https://www.sensorylogic.com). His new book is Blah, Blah, Blah: A Snarky Guide to Office Lingo. To check out his related “Dan Hill's EQ Spotlight” blog, visit https://emotionswizard.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/sociology

Today I talked to Ximena Vengoechea about Listen Like You Mean It: Reclaiming the Lost Art of True Connection (Portfolio, 2021). What's your default listening mode? Are you perhaps a pivoter, a distractor, a withdrawer, an explorer or, like today's guest, an innate problem-solver trying to find a solution to whatever is troubling the person you're having a conversation with? Three different kinds of difficult conversations get covered here: 1) an imbalance-of-power conversation between a boss and a subordinate; 2) a competitive-conversation between divorced parents navigating childcare; and 3) a regressive-conversation where an elderly parent and child can easily fall into roles they played years ago. In each case, Ximena Vengoechea offers sound, sympathetic advice on how to steer clear of the usual pitfalls. Ximena Vengoechea is a user researcher, writer, and illustrator whose work on personal and professional development has been published in Inc., The Washington Post, Newsweek, Fast Company, and elsewhere. Her career has included positions at Pinterest, LinkedIn, and Twitter. Dan Hill, PhD, is the author of nine books and leads Sensory Logic, Inc. (https://www.sensorylogic.com). His new book is Blah, Blah, Blah: A Snarky Guide to Office Lingo. To check out his related “Dan Hill's EQ Spotlight” blog, visit https://emotionswizard.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/psychology

Today I talked to Ximena Vengoechea about Listen Like You Mean It: Reclaiming the Lost Art of True Connection (Portfolio, 2021). What's your default listening mode? Are you perhaps a pivoter, a distractor, a withdrawer, an explorer or, like today's guest, an innate problem-solver trying to find a solution to whatever is troubling the person you're having a conversation with? Three different kinds of difficult conversations get covered here: 1) an imbalance-of-power conversation between a boss and a subordinate; 2) a competitive-conversation between divorced parents navigating childcare; and 3) a regressive-conversation where an elderly parent and child can easily fall into roles they played years ago. In each case, Ximena Vengoechea offers sound, sympathetic advice on how to steer clear of the usual pitfalls. Ximena Vengoechea is a user researcher, writer, and illustrator whose work on personal and professional development has been published in Inc., The Washington Post, Newsweek, Fast Company, and elsewhere. Her career has included positions at Pinterest, LinkedIn, and Twitter. Dan Hill, PhD, is the author of nine books and leads Sensory Logic, Inc. (https://www.sensorylogic.com). His new book is Blah, Blah, Blah: A Snarky Guide to Office Lingo. To check out his related “Dan Hill's EQ Spotlight” blog, visit https://emotionswizard.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"Finally, a book that honors the many subtle and important cues we send each other every day. Van Edwards shares a detailed road map for understanding others and leveraging these powerful signals." -- Ximena Vengoechea, author of "Listen Like You Mean It"

In today's episode, I speak with Ximena Vengoechea. Ximena is a user researcher, writer, and illustrator whose work on personal and professional development has been published in Inc., The Washington Post, Newsweek, and Huffington Post. She is the author of the new book, Listen Like You Mean it: Reclaiming the Lost Art of True Connection (Portfolio/Penguin Random House). She is a contributor at Fast Company and The Muse, and writes Letters from Ximena, a newsletter on tech, culture, career, and creativity. She is best known for her project The Life Audit. An experienced manager, mentor, and researcher in the tech industry, she previously worked at Pinterest, LinkedIn, and Twitter. She is currently working on her second book, a guide to reclaiming rest.We dive into how to cultivate a listening mindset through humility, curiosity, and empathy; how to identify your own default listening mode; and ways to uncover hidden needs in a conversation.

This week Skye & Amanda read Listen Like You Mean It by Ximena Vengoechea and discuss the author's ultimate guide to becoming an empathetic listener. The two discuss Vengoechea's tips for cultivating a listening mindset, staying present in conversation, observing and taking cues from your conversation partner and deepening our understanding of others. The ladies break down the different default listening modes that exist and assess which ones they relate to. Learn where they find their strengths and areas for growth when it comes to making a safe and vulnerable space for communication and connection.  Books mentioned in this week's episode are linked to our Bookshop.org shopListen Like You Mean It: Reclaiming The Lost Art of True Connection by Ximena VengoecheaCheck out what Skye & Amanda have been loving this week:Nedra Tawabb's ‘Nedra Nuggets' Newsletter Doubling Down with the Derricos on TLCThe Last Days of Ptlomey Grey on Apple TVJerrod Carmichael: Rothaniel on HBOSupport Long Story Short and Local Bookstores: Libro.FM - get two audiobooks for the price of one when you use the code LSSPODCAST when signing up for your first month of membership. Long Story Short Hotline: (646) 543-6232Follow us online:Instagram: @LongStoryShortPodTwitter: @LSSpodcastFacebook: @LongStoryShortPodEmail: info.longstoryshortpod@gmail.com*Purchasing books through Bookshop.org earns Long Story Short a small commission.

"Finally, a book that honors the many subtle and important cues we send each other every day. Van Edwards shares a detailed road map for understanding others and leveraging these powerful signals." -- Ximena Vengoechea, author of "Listen Like You Mean It"

Ximena Vengoechea joins Greg Mckeown to discuss how to hear what really matters, the desire to be heard and the power of listening. What's Essential Podcast Twitter Facebook Greg McKeown Twitter LinkedIn Instagram Scratch Audiohouse Instagram LinkedIn Credits: Hosted by Greg McKeown Produced by Greg McKeown and Scratch Audiohouse Executive Produced by Greg McKeown, Brent Montgomery, Ed Simpson and Derrial Christon Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lesson 365: Have A Life Audit   It is a good idea to have a life audit. A life audit according to https://xsvengoechea.medium.com/how-and-why-to-do-a-life-audit-1d8bfbe1798 (Ximena Vengoechea) is an exercise in self-reflection that helps you clear the cobwebs of noisy, external goals and current distractions, and revisit or uncover the real themes & core values that drive & inspire you. Also known as spring cleaning for the soul. It is an involved process but it will take you to the next level.   PROMPT: When was the last time you did a life audit?   #LessonsWithAKing   https://www.instagram.com/israeliekanem/ (@israeliekanem)   https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=QN68BLL5D4552 (Support LWAK) Support this podcast

Listening. It's a skill that is hard to perfect in a world filled with distractions. But cultivating a satisfying life filled with rich relationships, growth, and connection requires this foundational skill. Getting good at listening to others can also help you tune into your own inner dialogue and emotional state. In this episode, Ximena Vengeochea, author of “Listen like you mean it” explains the art of listening and why it makes us better thought partners at work and at home, provide us with some tips for cultivating the listening mindset, and shares how we can become more empathetic listeners. We also talk about how listening can change the way we build lasting relationships—handy for many of us after a pandemic has stunted our social skills. Show notes and transcript: https://reconsidering.org/episodes/5

On this episode, Jen Fisher talks with Ximena Vengoechea, a user researcher, writer, and illustrator, about really listening to develop stronger relationships and how to train ourselves to be better listeners.

On this episode, Deloitte chief well-being officer Jen Fisher talks with Ximena Vengoechea, a user researcher, writer, and illustrator, about really listening to develop stronger relationships and how to train ourselves to be better listeners.

This week, we sit down with Ximena Vengoechea to discuss how she got her start in tech, the different modes of listening, and tips for holding better conversations. Tune in for a deep dive into how you can listen with intention!

This week, we sit down with Ximena Vengoechea to discuss how she got her start in tech, the different modes of listening, and tips for holding better conversations. Tune in for a deep dive into how you can listen with intention!

In Listen Like You Mean It, Ximena offers an essential listening guide for our times, revealing tried-and-true strategies honed in her own research sessions and drawn from interviews with marriage counselors, podcast hosts, life coaches, journalists, filmmakers, and other listening experts.

Learn how to listen like you mean it and get back the lost of true connection...with my guest today Ximena Vengoechea. The post 386: How to Listen Like You Mean It with Ximena Vengoechea first appeared on Read to Lead Podcast.

How can you listen like you mean it? The key is to adapt the listening mode to what's needed in a given conversation. Dr. Diane Hamilton's guest today is Ximena Vengoechea, the author of Listen Like You Mean It. Ximena talks with Dr. Diane about how there are 11 default listening modes. Each has its virtues and pitfalls. You need to practice the art of identifying which listening mode is most appropriate for each conversation. In doing so, you'll deeply and truly connect with the other person. Tune in to listen like you mean it! Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share!Here's How »Join the Take The Lead community today:DrDianeHamilton.comDr. Diane Hamilton FacebookDr. Diane Hamilton TwitterDr. Diane Hamilton LinkedInDr. Diane Hamilton YouTubeDr. Diane Hamilton Instagram

Do you consider yourself a good listener? Experts believe that many of us overestimate our listening abilities. There is an art to listening and perhaps why we are feeling so unheard is that it's a forgotten art. Ximena Vengoechea is a user researcher, writer, and illustrator who has worked at Pinterest, Twitter and LinkedIn. Ximena writes for Inc., The Washington Post, Newsweek, Huff Post, & Fast Company. Her valuable new book, Listen Like You Mean It is beautifully written and will change the way you listen. Ximena has been described as a professional listener. Is that how she would describe herself? Most people think they are listening but they're really not. Why? We prioritise presenting, not listening. Is this changing? Has being a researcher impacted conscious awareness of listening for Ximena? What was Ximena's parents approach to having four girls in the house in order to make sure they were all heard? Why do we need to be reminded of how to be a good conversationalist? Have we lost the ability to put ourselves in other people shoes? Was Ximena always heard in her family? Was there ever a time in her growing up where Ximena felt she wasn't heard? Is there a methodology to create an environment where people could be vulnerable? Ask yourself what's needed from me right now in this conversation? The How's and Whats to open conversations Why in a research session, everything a participant says is potentially important To cultivate a listening practice Ximena describes a true effective listening practice. To be a better listener we need to know about ourself. What do we need to know? What are the triggers to shut down and how do we control them? Surface listening - multitasking, interrupting others, mentally checking out We blame socials, we blame tech, but are they really to blame? What's Ximena's superpower? What are the payoffs to being a great listener?   LINKS Website for Ximena Vengoechea https://www.ximenavengoechea.com   The Mojo Sessions website https://www.themojosessions.com   The Mojo Sessions on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/TheMojoSessions   The Mojo Sessions on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/TheMojoSessions   Gary on Linked in https://www.linkedin.com/in/gary-bertwistle-helping-unlock-great-ideas-b5182011   Gary on Twitter https://twitter.com/GaryBertwistle   The Mojo Sessions on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/themojosessions   © 2021 Gary Bertwistle.  All Rights Reserved.

Ximena Vengoechea is a researcher, writer, and illustrator who works on personal and professional development. She has been published in Inc., The Washington Post, Newsweek, and Huffington Post. She is a contributor at Fast Company and The Muse and writes Letters from Ximena, a newsletter on tech, culture, career, and creativity. She is best known for her project The Life Audit. An experienced manager, mentor, and researcher in the tech industry, she previously worked at Pinterest, LinkedIn, and Twitter. She is also the author of ‘Listen Like You Mean It: Reclaiming the Lost Art of True Connection'. She and I spend some time in conversation about how to become a better listener.

Ximena Vengoechea is a UX researcher, people leader, writer, illustrator. She is a frequent contributor to Fast Company, The Muse, and other major publications.

Ximena Vengoechea breaks down the formula for effective listening. — YOU'LL LEARN — 1) The psychological trick to help you stay in the conversation 2) The questions that create better conversation 3) The cues to look out for in a conversation Subscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep691 for clickable versions of the links below. — ABOUT XIMENA — Ximena Vengoechea is a user researcher, writer, and illustrator whose work on personal and professional development has been published in Inc., The Washington Post, Newsweek, and Huffington Post. She is the author of Listen Like You Mean it: Reclaiming the Lost Art of True Connection (Portfolio/Penguin Random House). She is a contributor at Fast Company and The Muse, and writes Letters from Ximena, a newsletter on tech, culture, career, and creativity. She is best known for her project The Life Audit. An experienced manager, mentor, and researcher in the tech industry, she previously worked at Pinterest, LinkedIn, and Twitter. • Book: Listen Like You Mean It: Reclaiming the Lost Art of True Connection • Website: XimenaVengoechea.com — RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — • Book: Big Friendship: How We Keep Each Other Close by Aminatou Sow & Ann Friedman • Book: Reclaiming Conversation: The Power of Talk in a Digital Age by Sherry Turkle • Book: Walk Two Moons by Sharon Creech • Book: What Every Body Is Saying: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Speed-Reading People by Joe Navarro • Past episode: 341: Decoding Body Language with ex-FBI Special Agent Joe Navarro See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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I have long believed that the most powerful, useful, and underutilized skill we have at our disposal is the skill of listening. If you want to help heal the world and create peace on earth - learn to listen! Meet Ximena. She's brilliant, articulate, and passionate about helping others develop this powerful skill. We had such a rich conversation about how learning this skill can quite literally change everything for the better. Ximena Vengoechea is a user researcher, writer, and illustrator whose work on personal and professional development has been published in Inc., The Washington Post, Newsweek, and Huffington Post. She is the author of the new book, Listen Like You Mean It: Reclaiming the Lost Art of True Connection (from Portfolio Books/Penguin Random House). She is a contributor at Fast Company and The Muse and writes "Letters from Ximena," a newsletter on tech, culture, career, and creativity. She is best known for her project The Life Audit. An experienced manager, mentor, and researcher in the tech industry, Ximena previously worked at Pinterest, LinkedIn, and Twitter. In this episode: * Learn why listening is the key to intimacy and connection. * Why listening can be such a gift and such an act of generosity and love. * Why when people don't feel heard, they often escalate their behavior and lash out. * Why listening is a “slow” skill and how to bring more peace into our lives by learning to do it. * There are layers to listening, and often if we are paying attention, we can hear other important things that get revealed when we truly listen. * How to protect yourself from being a listening martyr and getting listening fatigue. In other words, how can empaths protect themselves when they are deeply listening to others? * Learn how to listen with compassion without taking on the emotional energy of someone else. * Why awkward silence is such an important part of the listening skill set. * Conduct a relationship audit to determine where you have energy leaks.

This week we're chatting with writer and user researcher Ximena Vengoechea about how to improve on our listening skills and have better, deeper conversations. Listen to hear Ximena give great tips on how to be more present in a conversation, how to set boundaries when you're someone's default listening ear, and the best kinds of questions to ask to prompt more interesting interactions. Ximena's new book is called, Listen Like You Mean It: Reclaiming the Lost Art of True Connection.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ximena Vengoechea, a user researcher, writer, and illustrator whose work on personal and professional development has been published in Inc., The Washington post, Newsweek, and Huffington Post. She is the author of Listen Like You Mean it: Reclaiming the Lost Art of True Connection, joins Sydney for a conversation on creating space for more meaningful conversations through listening. If post-pandemic socializing has felt a little more awkward than you anticipated, then this conversation is for you. We dive into what we need to know about having conversations after COVID, developing a listening mindset, qualities of a good listener, and identifying your default listening mode. Plus, we chat about creating space for others to feel safe, seen and heard, ways to support yourself on your listening journey, the role of boundaries in listening, and so much more! To connect with Ximena visit her website https://www.ximenavengoechea.com and on LinkedIn here Twitter @xsvengoechea Instagram @xsvengoechea and you can subscribe to her newsletter here Links & Sponsors:  Thank you to today's sponsor, Better Help. We want you to be able to live a happier, more joyful, and ease filled life, and I'm excited to share that as a listener of Seek The Joy Podcast, you will you get 10% off your first month by going to betterhelp.com/seekthejoy.  Seek The Joy MERCH is here! Check out our fav new designs here   Subscribe to our Newsletter! seekthejoypodcast.com/subscribe. You won't regret it.

There are times when I feel sad. My sadness is often accompanied by feelings of loneliness - I feel disconnected from people and what's really vital in my life. Perhaps, you also experience this. Today's guest is Ximena Vengoechea, someone with unique insights into connection. She works in the tech industry as a ‘user researcher,' but this is not Ximena's sole title; she is also an artist, a facilitator, and a writer. In this episode, she shares the essence of productive conversation and how to ensure that neither party is left feeling lonely. Get‌ ‌book‌ ‌links‌ ‌and‌ ‌resources‌ ‌at‌ https://www.mbs.works/2-pages-podcast/  Ximena reads two pages from ‘Reclaiming Conversation: The Power of Talk in a Digital Age' by Sherry Turkle. [reading begins at 16:02] Hear us talk about:  The importance of boredom. [21:12] | Navigating loneliness: “It's hard to feel lonely when you feel understood and seen in a conversation.” [25:35] | Becoming someone that others listen to: “Conversations come with needs.” [28:04]

Ximena Vengoechea wants to teach us how to listen again with her new book “Listen Like You Mean It,” but is that even possible in a capitalist world?

Nir Eyal & Ximena Vengoechea elaborate on the psychology of notifications. Episode 253: The Psychology of Notifications: How to Send Triggers that Work by Nir Eyal & Ximena Vengoechea with Nir And Far Nir Eyal writes, consults, and teaches about the intersection of psychology, technology, and business. The M.I.T. Technology Review dubbed Nir, “The Prophet of Habit-Forming Technology.” Nir founded two tech companies since 2003 and has taught at the Stanford Graduate School of Business and the Hasso Plattner Institute of Design at Stanford. He is the author of the bestselling book, Hooked: How to Build Habit-Forming Products. In addition to blogging at NirAndFar.com, Nir's writing has been featured in The Harvard Business Review, TechCrunch, and Psychology Today. Nir is also an active investor in habit-forming technologies. Some of his past investments include: Eventbrite, Product Hunt, Pantry, Marco Polo, Presence Learning, 7 Cups, Pana, Symphony Commerce, Worklife (acquired by Cisco) and Refresh.io (acquired by LinkedIn). Nir attended The Stanford Graduate School of Business and Emory University. The original post is located here: https://www.nirandfar.com/2015/03/notifications-that-work.html  With Netgear Business Solutions, you get the very best WiFi performance to keep you connected whether you're in the office, working from home, or on the go. Visit Netgear.com/business and use code OPTIMAL10 at checkout to save 10%! Please Rate & Review the Show!  Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com and in The O.L.D. Facebook Group  Join the Ol' Family to get your Free Gifts and join our online community: OLDPodcast.com/group   Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalStartUpDaily Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nir Eyal & Ximena Vengoechea elaborate on the psychology of notifications. Episode 253: The Psychology of Notifications: How to Send Triggers that Work by Nir Eyal & Ximena Vengoechea with Nir And Far Nir Eyal writes, consults, and teaches about the intersection of psychology, technology, and business. The M.I.T. Technology Review dubbed Nir, “The Prophet of Habit-Forming Technology.” Nir founded two tech companies since 2003 and has taught at the Stanford Graduate School of Business and the Hasso Plattner Institute of Design at Stanford. He is the author of the bestselling book, Hooked: How to Build Habit-Forming Products. In addition to blogging at NirAndFar.com, Nir's writing has been featured in The Harvard Business Review, TechCrunch, and Psychology Today. Nir is also an active investor in habit-forming technologies. Some of his past investments include: Eventbrite, Product Hunt, Pantry, Marco Polo, Presence Learning, 7 Cups, Pana, Symphony Commerce, Worklife (acquired by Cisco) and Refresh.io (acquired by LinkedIn). Nir attended The Stanford Graduate School of Business and Emory University. The original post is located here: https://www.nirandfar.com/2015/03/notifications-that-work.html  With Netgear Business Solutions, you get the very best WiFi performance to keep you connected whether you're in the office, working from home, or on the go. Visit Netgear.com/business and use code OPTIMAL10 at checkout to save 10%! Please Rate & Review the Show!  Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com and in The O.L.D. Facebook Group  Join the Ol' Family to get your Free Gifts and join our online community: OLDPodcast.com/group   Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalStartUpDaily

Nir Eyal & Ximena Vengoechea elaborate on the psychology of notifications. Episode 253: The Psychology of Notifications: How to Send Triggers that Work by Nir Eyal & Ximena Vengoechea with Nir And Far Nir Eyal writes, consults, and teaches about the intersection of psychology, technology, and business. The M.I.T. Technology Review dubbed Nir, “The Prophet of Habit-Forming Technology.” Nir founded two tech companies since 2003 and has taught at the Stanford Graduate School of Business and the Hasso Plattner Institute of Design at Stanford. He is the author of the bestselling book, Hooked: How to Build Habit-Forming Products. In addition to blogging at NirAndFar.com, Nir's writing has been featured in The Harvard Business Review, TechCrunch, and Psychology Today. Nir is also an active investor in habit-forming technologies. Some of his past investments include: Eventbrite, Product Hunt, Pantry, Marco Polo, Presence Learning, 7 Cups, Pana, Symphony Commerce, Worklife (acquired by Cisco) and Refresh.io (acquired by LinkedIn). Nir attended The Stanford Graduate School of Business and Emory University. The original post is located here: https://www.nirandfar.com/2015/03/notifications-that-work.html With Netgear Business Solutions, you get the very best WiFi performance to keep you connected whether you're in the office, working from home, or on the go. Visit Netgear.com/business and use code OPTIMAL10 at checkout to save 10%! Please Rate & Review the Show! Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com and in The O.L.D. Facebook Group Join the Ol' Family to get your Free Gifts and join our online community: OLDPodcast.com/group Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalStartUpDaily --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/optimal-startup-daily/support

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How are social media companies listening to improve their products? How can we switch listening "modes" to take go beyond being superficial listeners? Michelle Martin and Ximena Vengoechea, Author of Listen Like You Mean It: Reclaiming the Lost Art of True Connection discuss practical ways we can all connect better See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

With exhaustion and empathy fatigue encroaching upon so many of us, perhaps it's time to take a relationship audit: who are the takers in your life and work, and who are the energizers? Equally important, how are you showing up for others? In her new book, Listen Like You Mean it: Reclaiming the Lost Art of True Connection, and in this conversation, Ximena Vengoechea is helping us elevate our listening lenses so we can be more present with others, while still managing our own energy reserves. Ximena Vengoechea is a user researcher, writer, and illustrator whose work on personal and professional development has been published in Inc., The Washington post, Newsweek, and Huffington Post. She is the author of the new book, Listen Like You Mean it: Reclaiming the Lost Art of True Connection. Ximena is best known for her project The Life Audit. An experienced manager, mentor, and researcher in the tech industry, she previously worked at Pinterest, LinkedIn, and Twitter. ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to say thank you is leaving a rating or review. Free Time is listener supported—consider donating to become a podcast Insider and you’ll get access to a private monthly Q&A call:

Ximena Vengoechea is a user researcher, writer, and illustrator whose work on personal and professional development has been published in Inc., The Washington Post, Newsweek, and Huffington Post. She is a contributor at Fast Company and The Muse, and is best known for her project The Life Audit. An experienced manager, mentor, and researcher in the tech industry, she previously worked at Pinterest, LinkedIn, and Twitter.  Ximena joins us today to discuss the long lost art of listening as a means of connecting with others, including how to differentiate between what people say and what they actually do, how to get away from surface listening, and how to know when to follow-up or let the conversation flow. Ximena also shares how silence is often used as a tool in user research, and how we can all use silence to our advantage when it comes to connection. You can find show notes and more information by clicking here: https://bit.ly/2S279Vo

Ernest Hemingway said, “When people talk, listen completely. Most people never listen.” Ximena Vengoechea thinks Ernest may be on to something. She is the author of Listen Like You Mean It: Reclaiming the Lost Art of True Connection. As a user researcher, she understands the importance of listening for understanding. This is true for product research and organizational success. Often, we find ourselves default listening. We are sort of paying attention, yet we don't get the true experience or the emotions of the talker. Ximena tells Kevin we need to move to empathetic listening, which starts with the intention to listen. A listening mindset begins with humility, curiosity, and empathy. When we bring this to the table, not only are we better people, but we are also better leaders. This episode is brought to you by… From Manager to Remarkable Leader, Kevin's Flagship workshop based on his proven leadership model. Additional Leadership Resources Book Recommendations: Listen Like You Mean It: Reclaiming the Lost Art of True Connection by Ximena Vengoechea We Keep the Dead Close: A Murder at Harvard and a Half Century of Silence by Becky Cooper Connect with Ximena Vengoechea: Website | Twitter Related Podcast Episodes: Beautiful Questions with Warren Berger. The Laws of Trust with Joel Peterson. Leadership, Communication and Credibility with Jack Modzelewski. Follow the Podcast Don't miss an episode! Follow this podcast through the options below. iTunes Stitcher TuneIn Soundcloud RSS Or your favorite podcast app.

Ximena Vengoechea has a knack for writing the right thing at the right moment. From her first article that became an editor's pick on Medium to her widely heralded Life Audit, Ximena's ability to provide creative solutions to the hard problems of everyday living has earned her a devoted following. Her new book Listen Like You Mean It: Reclaiming the Lost Art of True Connection couldn't be more timely in a world where being in the physical presence of others feels like the exception rather than the norm.In her talk with Jesse, Ximena describes how she learned to harmonize her work as a user researcher with her writing. She describes how she created the Life Audit exercise, a unique blend of design thinking and introspection that has helped people all over the world manage their goals and aspirations in an extraordinarily organized way. And she shares insights from her new book about the importance of peer mentorship and the tactics we have to employ now if we want to listen well and build strong relationships with others.Guest BioXimena Vengoechea is a user researcher, writer, and illustrator whose work on personal and professional development has been published in Inc., The Washington Post, Newsweek, and Huffington Post. She is the author of the recently published book, Listen Like You Mean it: Reclaiming the Lost Art of True Connection.She is a contributor at Fast Company and The Muse, and writes Letters from Ximena, a newsletter on tech, culture, career, and creativity. She is best known for her project The Life Audit. An experienced manager, mentor, and researcher in the tech industry, she previously worked at Pinterest, LinkedIn, and Twitter.Helpful LinksListen Like You Mean It Ximena's websiteThe Life AuditXimena on Twitter and LinkedIn

Our guest today has had a fascinating career path. I could say that about all our guest, really. Who hasn't had a fascinating career path?   But that's some of what makes these conversations so important! It's rarely linear. It never looks the way you think it will.   But I digress.   When Ximena Vengoechea realized that the path she was on wasn't going to take her where she wanted to go, she started researching and exploring her curiosity around startups and tech. I love the process that she created for herself and where it took her.   I'll let her share that story and how you can apply a similar process to your work and any transition you may be considering.   Today Ximena is a user researcher, author, and illustrator. She's taken what she's learned about really listening and drawing out the essence of what someone is bringing into a conversation into her new book, Listen Like You Mean It — Reclaiming the Lost Art of True Connection.   In our conversation, we dig into her career journey, her current work, and some of the great takeaways from her new book. It's a blast. I think you'll really enjoy this one. In this episode you'll learn: What Ximena does How she got into her current work How she knew what next step to take What is her career transition was like What a User Experience Researcher does Where the idea for her book came from The advantage of learning to listen well Some practical steps to improving your listening skills How to engage in conversations that are difficult or uninteresting What is "projection" and how does it impact listening? What are the signs that you are listening well What are connecting questions and how to use them How to listen to when people see things differently from you What's the legacy she hope that her book will leave Why is it important to be seen and understood Show notes at: https://themeaningmovement.com/ximena

Ximena Vengochea is the author of Listen Like You Mean It: Reclaiming the Lost Art of True Connection (Portfolio). We talk about: Life audits Listening (duh) Interviewing And listener drain Follow the show on social media @CNFPod and consider being a member at patreon.com/cnfpod.