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After 34 years of teaching, Tami-Adrian George knows what it takes to build a business that supports both your schedule and your sanity. In this episode, Lesley Logan and Tami talk about how she stumbled into Pilates, why she chose mobile teaching, and what it really looks like to run a thriving in-home fitness business. You'll hear about the mindset shifts that helped her get unstuck, the systems she uses to stay grounded, and how her Have Skills Will Travel method empowers teachers to build flexible businesses with purpose.If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co .And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast https://lesleylogan.co/podcast/. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co mailto:beit@lesleylogan.co. And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe https://lesleylogan.co/podcast/#follow-subscribe-free.Guest Bio:Tami-Adrian George is a multi-talented mobile Pilates instructor, rehabilitation specialist, and business coach, best known for her Have Skills, Will Travel method. She began her career as a competitive dancer and NFL cheerleader, even performing at a Super Bowl. Transitioning into acting and modeling, Tami appeared in Starship Troopers, General Hospital, and more than 50 national commercials. The demands of the entertainment industry led her to Pilates, which became a transformative and sustainable approach to health and well-being. Pilates provided her with the stability to make empowered choices and redefine her career path. Embracing the freedom of mobile teaching, Tami built a thriving practice serving high-profile clients in private settings. Through her signature method, she now coaches service professionals to grow premium mobile businesses without the overhead of a studio—helping them create lives of flexibility, connection, and success. If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox. https://lovethepodcast.com/BITYSIDEALS! DEALS! DEALS! 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We all have limitations we're holding on to, and sometimes you just need that one on one, eyes on you to say, great where you are you're doing fantastic. Please, let's not measure you against the 19-year-old on the mat next to you. Let's measure you against you.Lesley Logan 0:24  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started.Lesley Logan 1:07  Hi, Be It babe, oh my God, oh my God, oh my God. So excited. We've been saying we're gonna have her on the pod, OPC teacher and truly expert in teaching your service in people's homes. Tami-Adrian George the one and only. Truly, truly, truly, so excited. She is here at the house filming for OPC, and we have exciting thing coming out with her. But I really wanted you to hear like, how your life can have so many chapters, and they all can layer upon themselves. I think sometimes we're so hard on ourselves about like, oh, I went over here, I took this detour, and I, what you're gonna hear in her story is like, how everything just layers upon itself, and how you can utilize these gifts that you have to do the thing that you want and it can fulfill you. You can be fulfilled, right? Instead of, like trying always to do the next thing. So here's Tami-Adrian George. I'm so excited that she's on the pod. Thank you so much for being here. Lesley Logan 1:55  All right, Be It babe. Guess what? We are doing things differently today. Our guest is in the house. Our guest is Tami-Adrian George. She is like, the one and only, most fabulous, most amazing. Can't believe the lives this woman has lived. I have been, Brad and I have been so honored tonight. I don't know that Tami knows this, but we met Tami through Agency Mini, many, many years ago. Brad did a call with you, and he got off, he's like, I really want to help her. She is amazing. She is such a go-getter. We could do so much with her. And here we are, I don't know, five years later, four years later, at least, I think it's five, and you have done so much. So Tami, will you tell everyone who you are and what you rock at? Tami-Adrian George 2:35  Well, hey there, yes, it's me, Tami-Adrian George, and it's been quite the adventure. I came into Pilates quite by accident. This was something that was going to save my brain, because before that, I had been in high school, competitive dancer, competitive cheerleader, choreographing, competitive competitions for other teams. I danced at the Super Bowl, things like that. Then I get out of there, get into college. Decide, let's, let's act while we're in the middle of college. Okay, let's do that. So I start modeling and acting. Almost miss my college graduation because I was working so much that I was never in town. I did the entire last year of university via fax. That's how old I am.Lesley Logan 3:32  Can you believe it that they did that? I'm impressed that they did that.Tami-Adrian George 3:35  My professors are really great. So by the time I got to the end, you know, they were willing to sit and talk with me and say, okay, why is it that you're never in class? Have you been to the movie theater lately? Then I realized this time that I was on different sets, especially photo shoots in particular. But any set, there is this weird dichotomy that goes on where they want you to fit into the wardrobe, but they have this thing called the craft service table, which is a giant table laden with every food you could ever want that will knock you on your butt with fatigue and sleep, will make you bloat instantly, and you're not allowed to eat any of it.  Lesley Logan 4:20  Right. But it's there. It's there. They fed you. They gave you the opportunity to eat, but they really you're not supposed to do it. Tami-Adrian George 4:29  And I was around people with some really terrible eating habits, some really disturbing and dangerous habits, and I realized I need to figure out something to do that I can do while I'm traveling. There's not always a gym available. I can't always go for a run. Sometimes I'm in a country or a state that I've never been in before by myself, and I can't just go for an hour run. And I stumbled into Pilates, and the instructor that I was working with this wonderful woman named Jacqueline Potter said I really think you need to become an instructor. And I'm thinking, My life is so full I don't have time. But I went ahead and kept doing it. Started, oh, this is kind of cool. Oh, I could do this. I could do that. And I realized that by becoming an instructor, I got to learn more, and I got to do more. And it was, it was always the thing that kept me grounded. So no matter what set I was on, no matter where I was traveling in the world, I always had Pilates. I always had a stable of clients at places that I was teaching around town, private sessions that I was doing in people's homes. And it gave me the freedom to turn down jobs. I didn't want to do a lot of nudity. I didn't want to do a lot of sex scenes. There were things that I just knew weren't right for me at the time. This is, you know, the 90s, early 2000s every person of color was stripper, sex worker, girlfriend of drug dealer, dead.Lesley Logan 5:57  You'd be dead girl number two.Tami-Adrian George 6:00  Yeah, that's what happened. You get this, this great character, and you do all this character development, but you're really still secondary. And I was fighting for every part, because it wasn't like it is now. And there came a point once I got married and once I had a son and actually killed my husband in a movie. That's how we met. My husband had some serious health issues going on, and I realized I wasn't getting the joy from acting that I was getting from Pilates, from my clients, from helping them get to their goals. When an audition would come through, or sometimes even a booking would come through, I would get this tightness in my chest, like I don't want to do this job. I just got this particular person through a hip replacement. We're not done yet, and you want me to go sit in hair and makeup for three hours. Are you kidding? So eventually the pandemic hit. And I think that's how I found you and Brad, the Agency is, I'm home by with my husband and my child, but I'm alone, and I need connection. Lesley Logan 7:10  Yeah, yeah. We all find ourselves in a place where it's kind of like, not a fork in the road, but just like I can't keep going the way it's going, and I've gone as far as I can go on my own, and I need help, and I just so, you know, know, like, I go every few years. I'm like, okay, I've gone as far as I can with the knowledge that I have. Changes have to be made, shifts, and it's interesting. Thank you for taking us on the journey. Of like, the pendulum swinging. Of like, first Pilates was there to support you. Then Pilates became something that you did in between jobs, then it became like, oh, actually, I'm enjoying this more. And how, how interesting that you're so connected to yourself because of who of all the work you did, that you could feel like, oh, I'm not getting excited about a booking. Like I should be excited about a booking.Tami-Adrian George 7:54  Exactly. And I left out the years that I worked at an urgent care that also had a family practice and a workers comp suite attached to the medical complex, and I was always hanging out in the physical therapy workers comp area, looking to see what they were doing. What are you doing now? Why are you doing that? And to see that oh my gosh. Pilates is physical therapy. It all comes full circle. The exercises that they're teaching are some of the things that I'm learning over here. I don't know about the rest of the country, but I can say in California, physical therapists are not allowed to work on a part of your body that is not in your doctor's prescription. Lesley Logan 8:40  That's definitely in the States, yes. Tami-Adrian George 8:42  Period. But the body heals as a unit. The body compensated for your injury, your surgery, whatever you were going through as a whole. So that's why, even though you got your knee replaced on the left, your right shoulder is killing you, because we're doing these things to balance through the body when we're in pain. So it was interesting for me to see these amazing physical therapists whose hands were tied, and now they were starting to reach out to Pilates instructors and say, I'm doing this with my patient. Can you supplement them and get them back to whole. So that's a whole nother part of you know what you're doing in your life starts to come in every, you're doing everything for a reason. You don't know what it is, yet. Lesley Logan 9:33  I love this. I actually do. I, you're kind of on the same mindset as I just been hearing that, like, I think it's really easy for us to go, oh my God, I wish I'd known this then, or I wish I'd done this now. Or I wish, I feel like I wasted my time there. And it's like, actually, y'all, if you just take a look at your whole resume, not just the resume you put out for the job that you want, where you like, you know, let's move with this thing, and let's adjust this thing. But if you look at your whole resume, everything you've done has assisted in getting you to where you are and what you liked about those things, there's commonalities that you can like, you can actually borrow from to help you figure out, like, what, where do you want to go? Because, as Pilates instructors, you and I have had very different careers. You know, I did have some in-person clients. It did not fill my cup, it did not fill my joy. But it feels yours like, it's like, literally, the thing that you do. And I think, like, had I not ever done in person, I couldn't actually help people who are like, oh my gosh, go teach in someone's house. I'm like, okay, hold on. Hold on. Because I had to go into someone's house where I definitely it was at the top of, like, it was in L.A., it's like, the top of Hillcrest, the last house on the top of Hillcrest. You guys, I'm driving my Mini Cooper, and I'm going there. And the security is like, okay, you can come in here. You can go here. You know, the ambassador will meet you in here. And I'm like, what is he the ambassador of? And no one would give me his name. And then, like, damn it. Then one day, the sheriff, literal, the sheriff, was just sitting there watching me teach him. And I'm like, I'm sorry, this isn't a viewing show. You can work out too. Like you're just gonna work out because I'm not gonna be watched by the sheriff. And then the mayor, the fucking mayor, shows up. You guys also, they were not exactly the cleanest sheriff or the cleanest mayor. So I'm like, now, like, who is this guy? I'm always getting paid in cash. And then I was like, one day, I was like, leaving. I was like, there's always a car inside this house. It's always watching this house. I'm gonna be questioned. I'm gonna be interrogated. I was like, I can no longer teach in person. I was like, I just thought myself them going, you, you know information, you're gonna be like, microphoned or something. And all I could hear is this man, belp and fart. But, like, you know, anyways. But I think, like, it was never a waste of my time, because it really allowed me to go hold on, like, let me understand that part of the business, so that when you came in to Agency, we could really see, like, what a gold mine and what a great thing you had going, and how you could elevate that.Tami-Adrian George 11:55  I started, like, all Pilates instructors start, right? You have to do the observation hours, and you have to do the practice hours, and then you have to do some apprenticeship. So I feel like I've been in all of the parts except for actual studio owner. I have managed, I have supervised, I've trained other instructors. I've been the employee, I've been the independent contractor, I've been the person who rents studio space. I've been in all of the situations, and it's so funny what you're saying about you know, these people, I have a file, not a digital file, an actual file folder filled with NDAs, of things I have had to sign for, the various people I have worked with over the last 34 years. I always used to think, well, okay, I have to tell somebody where I'm at, because if I disappear, no one will know.Lesley Logan 12:53  Yes, yes, yes. Thank God for location services on the phones now, because now that's a thing, but that wasn't a thing when I was teaching at home. So it's like, okay, you couldn't even, there wasn't even a signal up there, so I couldn't call for help if I wanted to, yeah. Tami-Adrian George 13:11  Totally. Lesley Logan 13:12  Well, okay, so Tami, I mean, Tami-Adrian, we know you as an OPC teacher, and we know you have, like, what's been really cool in watching you the last five years is that you have been really not just solidifying your business, but, like, truly enjoying the business that you've created. I think that that's really unique. A lot of teachers keep thinking that, oh, I've reached this peak. Now I gotta find another goal. I gotta find I gotta find another goal. Can you tell us, like, a little bit about what you do as a day to day gig, and then also, like, how you came to go, wow, I really, like, this is really for me, because I think a lot of people listening, even if they're not a Pilates instructor, can actually learn from like, oh, what maybe are the signs or the the qualities or the feelings that make me go, oh, I'm actually fulfilled. Tami-Adrian George 13:56  Oh, yeah, yeah. Okay, so my let's start with the day-to-day, and then I want to tell you about like working with you and Brad and how that helped me come into just a completely different feeling about what I was doing. So a typical day to day for me is I will start the morning with my virtual private clients, some of whom are back east, so the timing works out perfectly for me. So once I finish those sessions, then I pack up the lunch bag. It literally looks like I'm going on a picnic. You're with me. You and Brad are with me. You know, I eat every five minutes. I take little, tiny bites. I'm like a tiny bison. I graze all morning long, and I start heading out for the day to which client is on the roster for that day. And we have different things we might be working on. So sometimes I might have my golfers, my pickleball players, who have very particular goals. There are things that we are trying to do. So I have been trained in both classical and contemporary Pilates, because I need to be able to spin on a dime to what someone is telling me at that moment. And I'm very big on what is your ultimate goal? If your ultimate goal is I'm going to my sister's wedding. I want to look great. I'm not the person for you, and I will find you an amazing person who will make that happen for you. I'm the person who when you say, I need to get my handicap down, I need to be able to play a full 18 holes without my back hurting, and I'm going on a golf trip where I'm going to play five days in a row. Oh, now I have a vision. Let's do this. Let's go. Then I make sure I have breaks throughout the day. I'm very particular about where I'm teaching, the distance I'm teaching, because it can't be be bopping all over town all day. And there are times that I book into my day so that I can go for a walk. I teach in really beautiful parts of the Los Angeles Westside beach communities. So there's time to go for a walk, there's time to get my own workout in, there's time to sit down and eat real food, and I'm usually done by a fairly early part of the day. I don't actually work that many hours a week. And then maybe there's a beach walk with my husband or my son's in universities, so there's a phone call or FaceTime with him, and then there's my time where, what's the thing that fills me today? Do I want to do a meditation? It turns out I'm not the morning meditation person. I, it's not my jam at all. Lesley Logan 16:33  To me, the morning is like, okay, the morning has started, and I want to start with it. I am. I find I have it better at the afternoon going, okay, well, I don't actually want to do anything, so I'm gonna procrastinate with meditation.Tami-Adrian George 16:42  Exactly and then two hours have passed. Yes, I have reached all the masters in the universe, but now I don't want to do anything and, and I believe very strongly that your great day starts the night before. So there's always a part of my afternoon and evening where I am prepping for the next day. Either it's the food I'm preparing or it's looking over who's on the schedule for the next day and where are we in progressing them to their goal. So I'm thinking ahead of what exercises I want to do, things like that. And then I also coach, so I have other instructors, and also people who aren't Pilates instructors, massage therapists, you know, anything you have that is a service that helps someone can be mobile. And I might be on a coaching call, speaking with someone about where they're at in their business and helping them get to their call. Lesley Logan 17:38  Yeah. So because can you, since you have done everything but own a studio, I've done similar, I've done all of it but work at a franchise. So like, I, can you talk about, like, how did you decide, or know that, like, going into homes actually is how you wanted to teach, versus, like, having people come to you because we sit on opposite sides. I'm like, you can come to me. You know, but like, you're like, no, I liked, I can go here and I go, is it just the beach walk? Like, what made it so that you really like to go into people's homes?Tami-Adrian George 18:10  So the first studio I ever taught at, Pilates Studio Pasadena, doesn't exist anymore because the parent company went bankrupt. And what we didn't know was it was a, it was like a a compound of fitness. There was a private workout place here, and a this, and a that, and a yoga student, all these things that were in Old Town, Pasadena, right where the Rose Bowl comes down the street, not the Rose Bowl, the Rose Parade comes down the street. What we didn't know was that the Pilates Studio was who was making money, and we were covering the payroll for all of the other workout facilities, and sometimes our checks would bounce. And one day, we found out doors are closed, we are done, but we all had keys, so I know that the statute of limitations have passed until we find talking about it. So who got together? We unlocked the studio at night, we unloaded all of the Pilates equipment, put it on the trucks and drove it to someone who had just bought a home they didn't have any furniture yet. And we put it like, okay, the dining room has all the Wunda Chairs, and the living room is going to have the Cadi and a couple of Reformers, and the back patio put this, and there was literally something like a click, oh, I'm in a house. I'm in a house doing Pilates. Now I'm doing it with five other instructors, and we worked for free, because right before that company went out of business, we were selling packages.Lesley Logan 19:46  Right. So all these people had paid. Tami-Adrian George 19:47  We'd had a big drive and all these people had just bought packages, and then the door shut, and we didn't know that that big drive was their way of getting cash to cover the businesses. They knew they were gonna go bankrupt. They just didn't tell us. So then I had to work for free to train out all of those packages that I had personally sold, because now my reputation was on the line. And as we got into studios and got the people would always say, can you come? Could you come to my house? Could you do this at my house? Could you do this? And it started with one person, and then another and another. And I realized there is a connection that you get to make in that private in-home setting, people will tell me things that they will never tell me in the studio, because there are other people in the studio, or if I was teaching a large group class, even a small, let's say, a foursome or a trio, there's no time to talk. We are here because the entire group is trying to move. So I didn't always get to understand their history, their surgeries, their injuries, whatever it was they were working towards, and also, too, their blocks. We all have blocks of what we think we cannot do. We all have limitations we're holding onto, and sometimes you just need that one on one, eyes on you to say, great, where you are you're doing fantastic. Please. Let's not measure you against the 19-year-old on the mat next to you. Let's measure you against you.Lesley Logan 21:22  Yes, oh, I do love that. I mean, I agree. Like people are a little more comfortable in their homes. You can also then and actually see like their setups. And you go, okay, so you said it was the Pilates last week that hurt your back. But do you see like this slope that you, you know, or like, can I look at this chair that you're sitting on at your desk? Like, that's not helpful, you know what I mean. So you do get more insight, but also they do have a bit more focus, because they're not distracted by the person and the other performer who's talking too loudly or who's doing crazy things, and they think they should be doing crazy things. It is more it's more personalized in that way as well. I love that. That's so cool. What a funny way of getting into like, knowing, like, oh, I could teach at a house. And then, because you had kept up with those sessions, that they're like, oh, can you teach me at my home? Because now they're seeing, Oh, I'm in a home. I could do this at my home. Tami-Adrian George 22:12  Yeah, they're like, wait, you can fit a Reformer here/ Yes, absolutely. You can fit a Reformer here. And you know what? You don't even need the reformer. Honestly, everything we're doing on the Reformer, I'm telling you, if I put you on the mat, you're going to shake like a leaf in the wind. You do not know how hard it is once we got to that point, too, of sharing that. And here's the other thing I find that is really interesting. Yes, the personalized attention. There is nothing like it. But the biggest problem I solve for my clients is time and convenience, there are certain people I tend to have CEOs, chairman of the boards and their families. For them to spend an hour in traffic trying to get to a studio, then circle around looking for parking, then finally do their workout and have to repeat the drive back home. It's hours of their time that they just do not have available. Lesley Logan 23:07  Well, they're not, then they can't be consistent, because then they're only can do it on a good week and and then they're frustrated because they yeah, all of those things. So like people, like them, they they're gonna have to pay for that time and convenient miss of you coming to their home, but now they can be consistent.Tami-Adrian George 23:22  Exactly. And, really, that's the secret, isn't it? That's the secret sauce. If you want to get results in what you're doing, it's the consistency.Lesley Logan 23:30  Yeah, yeah. I, you know, it made me think, like, as you were talking, when I, I always thought you had to have a big studio. Probably, it's very similar to you, like you work about I have the first show I ever worked at was a big studio. The first time I went to a Pilates studio with equipment, had multiple Reformers and all the things. And so I just thought, Oh, you have to have all of that, and all the in L.A., all the famous teachers were famous studios all had multiple of everything. And I'm like, I'll never own a studio because I have student loans. I have all this. I need all these things. And it was when I had put myself in a group of people, the community that I saw, one of my friends had made a private space for herself where there was just one of everything. I was like, oh, I could have, I could have a private studio. I could have, like, just, I could just teach the private because I only teach privates in a couple semi-private so, like, I could just do this. So I think it's really important for anyone, no matter who you are, listening like, it's important that we are inspired by other people sometimes, because we get blinders on of like, this is my experience. This is the only way that works. This is a way I've seen that work. So I have to do it this way. And when we're exposed to other environments or other ways of people doing it, then we can go, oh, I'm not gonna do it just like her, but I could do it like this, or I could do it like that, right? Like we, we kind of need that. We need that in the community that we're in.Tami-Adrian George 24:48  Exactly. I love what you're saying. It's making me think of the the other thing I wanted to mention when I started working with you and Brad, I didn't realize that what I was doing had a system. It was just what I was doing, because nobody else was really doing it in this manner, and to then have support of someone saying, no, what you're doing is actually a thing.Tami-Adrian George 25:11  Yeah. It's a thing that you're doing. Tami-Adrian George 25:14  You're doing a thing, and there seems to be a way that you're doing the thing, and we're going to help you do the thing better, and we're going to teach you how to structure it so that it's repeatable, and that you can take pressure off of yourself and that you can have support, and that we're here when you need us. And you know, there was a guy who used to always say, you're trying to have the panoramic view, but you're at the foothill of the mountain, so you have to climb a little and then you'll see a little more. And then you enjoy the view. You celebrate the view, do a little dance, and now climb higher. And each time that you climb and hold at that level for just a moment, just to enjoy it. You see more you see more possibilities. And eventually you start having a wider view, and you start seeing, oh my gosh, I can do this with that. During the pandemic, talking about that time, one of my favorite, favorite people to work with, had a stroke. So, I can't get to him. We've rehabbed him virtually because, oh, this online thing really works. And it was a little bit of convincing me and convincing him, but, guess what? He was back out there playing golf, doing all the things, no problem. You know, the deficits were seriously down. Yeah. And I needed that view. I needed that lift to view, lift to view, repeat.Lesley Logan 26:55  Well, and what I'm hearing you're saying is, like, we all need someone to go, oh, you're doing a really great job here. And if we do this now you've got a system, and now it's repeatable, and you're not wasting your time, or you also even need to see like from other people's perspective. Oh, what they're doing. Oh, I love that for them. And then that also helps you solidify like you like what you're doing. Like, we all need it wherever we are, because we can get so closed off, and then we, running a business is hard. The business is hard. I've said this a few times now, like, and I will keep repeating it because it it really blessed my heart, like when someone in our Agency asked the Pocket Lesley, which is like a bot of me train 10 million of my words, you know, 10 years of coaching.Tami-Adrian George 27:36  I love Pocket Lesley, because she's my size.Lesley Logan 27:40  She's, she's like, have you ever had an obstacle in your business? And it's like, yeah, daily.Tami-Adrian George 27:46  Like, you mean this last hour? Lesley Logan 27:47  Yeah, daily. And so when you have someone to go, oh my God, what you're doing here is really amazing. It helps you go, oh, okay, it is, it is amazing. I just am having a hard time right now. I'm, I'm at the foothills, and I can't get to the panoramic view, where other people are right now, and so, you know, we at agency are so excited, because we have helped thousands of businesses in this industry run things the way that they want to. And one of the things we've celebrated along the way is like, each year that we've known you, we've watched you run your business so it supports you and your family. And I think that's what's so cool, because it's not just because you go into people's homes that your business supports your families, because you are intentional about what your goals are and how your business need to support that, and then we could support you in doing that, and year after year. And now here you are, only in five years you put systems together, you have a very thriving business, and like you mentioned, now you get to coach other service people, to have a business that does it the way that you do it. Tami-Adrian George 28:45  Absolutely. Lesley Logan 28:46  That hat, like, you know, can we talk about the be it till you see it for that like, what would, what were the what was there was there mental hurdles you had to do? Was it just like, because, because I was so excited, when you're like, I'm doing this. I'm like, yeah, you should. Tami-Adrian George 29:01  The hurdles were, oh my God, the hurdles were real. Remember, you should do the videos, The Struggle is Real? Oh, the hurdles are real. It's, it's, you were talking about being in the tunnel. We're working so hard towards something that we believe is the only thing. And I don't, actually, I don't think I have anyone right now who is exclusively mobile teaching. They are either business owners, they own a gym, they own a studio, they are also teaching like community classes, say, at the Y or at a gym someplace, or they're renting studio space, and now they're adding mobile training as an extension, as another service, I mean, and that's the thing, I think, for people to understand, you're providing a service. You're not just teaching a class. You are a service provider. So you can provide as many services as your heart dreams up. Let's make that happen for you. And there's a gentleman that I'm working with right now, and he had become almost exclusively online in big, big, big classes, and he hadn't had the one-on-one connection with his students in a long time, because everything was far away. And when I say online, not live, I mean, pre-recorded classes. And he was so burnt, so burnt out. I don't like this. I don't want to record any more classes. I don't want to walk into a room of 30 people anymore. And I said, you know, you're the reason it's not in your heart is because your heart is not reaching anyone. So we took starting one day, one day of your schedule. We're gonna make this your mobile training day. This is your I'm out in the field, and we're gonna start letting people know. Just pick amongst your favorites. We're gonna start letting people know you're available. He's now having to hire another trainer because he has this established brand. But now people are like, oh, you can come to me, too? And you have a kind of a signature thing that you do, and you can do it in my home with me? Let's do this. So it's how you would like your business to be. It's not give up your studio, give up your gym. Never book massages at the hotels ever again. It's how can we incorporate this into what you're doing so that you can expand. You also get to charge more, just saying.Lesley Logan 31:31  I was gonna ask you, the number, the number one thing that we see people do wrong when they go into people's homes is discount the price. Yeah, you are, yeah. And if you're, like, how do I know what to charge? Well, guess we'll have, stay tuned. We have, we have help for you there. But like, yeah, you it's convenient for them. It is not necessarily convenient for you, for so many reasons, because booking back-to-back doesn't exist. Like in my studio, in my home, like, people can come every hour on the hour, and I can fit four people in four hours and be done, right? You do not fit four people in four hours, you know? So that is so when you are working with people in their home, you have to charge. There is a higher cost to that, because they are paying for convenience, just like when I order food to be delivered, it is more expensive than when I order it at the restaurant.Tami-Adrian George 32:23  It's a premium it's a premium service and you are bringing your knowledge to someone. So yes, now the premium is even higher because you actually know what you're doing. Of course, anybody can take, my gosh, I call them the Pinterest workout plan.Lesley Logan 32:42  Oh, okay, I call them Instagram workout plans. But yes, anyone can do that. Tami-Adrian George 32:46  They start culling and culling exercises from all these different places, and they put them together, and then they wonder why they're not getting the results, or now they've injured themselves, or they're burnt out and they don't want to do it. And there's a reason for that. People, it's like New Year's resolutions, any promise you make to yourself that is a promise broken. Lesley Logan 33:07  Yeah, because you need the accountability of someone else, and you also need their guidance. You know, we all need it. I mean, I say I pay a Pilates instructor to teach me. I can teach myself, and I do multiple days a week, and two days a week, I'm held accountable to a full hour with someone watching me to give me feedback, because left to my own devices. I'm going to check my oh, I'm going to change this podcast. Oh, look at that full hour outside. We all need it, right? We all need it. We all we're laughing because we all need it. Even coaches like you and I have coaches for things that we do, because we all kind of need this. And there is an investment there. And yes, it does mean, like, some things can be inaccessible to people, but also for every single one of you listening, no matter what your business is, you're not you cannot solve the world's problems. You can solve a problem for someone that feels like it's their whole world. You can do that, but you gotta, like, really dial it in. And I think, like, what you do so well, Tami, is there is a slice of of the pie that of people who would prefer to be convenient for them so they can be consistent and and you can, if you're a teacher, a massage therapist, whatever, you could be the person who does that. That's your expertise. So Tami, we're super, super excited. We're gonna let the cat out of the bag a little bit of what we're doing here. So, so we, at Profitable Pilates, truly love being able to help teachers of any background, true like run a business that works for them. Like we do not do templates. We have a formula. I should say we have two. We have a scheduling formula, and we have a pricing formula, but all of those require your goals to go into the top for it to filter through, so there is not a single and even if the price answer is the same as someone else's, like, what went through and all the different ways you get there is very, very different. So we're super excited, because you do what you do so well, and the world is missing an expert like you. So tell everyone what we what we've got going on, we've got planned. Tami-Adrian George 34:58  So, I have a method called the have skills will travel method, yes, because really, that's what you need to be a mobile instructor, the skill set you already have and some gas in your car. Let's go. In between those two things are a whole list of things you need to know and need to be doing to make sure that it is indeed profitable and that you are safe, and that you are happy and your client is happy. So I'm taking my one-on-one three-month coaching program, and we are creating a special group coaching program that is just for Profitable Pilates, just for, well, we'll have Agency members there too, and it will live in the Profitable Pilates universe, so excited, and we're going to do this as an eight-week program.Lesley Logan 35:57  Oh, I love this, because it's any we all have eight weeks we can dedicate to doing a dream. We all have it because every dream takes a long time. Anyways, eight weeks is like a fraction. Tami-Adrian George 36:04  And it doesn't matter where you're starting from, wherever you are in your business and thinking about doing this, or you're already doing this. It works where you're at, jump in, where you're at.Lesley Logan 36:18  Yeah, and I just want to say, like, if you're like, you're like, oh my gosh, you guys, I can just make sure I charge more, and I can just go, yes, you could. And then you get to learn a lot of weird things the hard way. I'm sure Tami was like, oh my God, Lesley, you went into some random house on the top of Hillcrest. My heart. Tami-Adrian George 36:34  As soon as you were telling me that. And I was like, oh my God, Did you have a safety buddy?Lesley Logan 36:41  People knew where I was going. And I did tell the ambassador's team. Okay, my people know where I'm going. I mean, to hear, however I will say, like I did listen to, like, murder in the Hollywood Hills, the dateline, and I was like, oh my God, that is like, I can't believe that doesn't happen more often, because, like, so many women are offered, oh, there's a modeling gig and at the top of this house, because everything happens and people so anyways, there are so many different things, not just safety, but also not just pricing, that you have to be thinking about and when it comes to doing this. So that one, it still works for you. And two, everyone wins. The clients win, but your business wins because you are allowed to be successful in your business and achieve wins for other people. So if you are someone in the service based business, or a Pilates instructor who's interested in seeing how this service can be added to your business, you might even decide you don't want to do it afterwards. And that's fine too, because now you solve that without having to sell a package and then go fulfill it. So, so you can go to Profitable Pilates website. We have P it's prfit.biz/events and you can get on the wait list for this. But we're going to take a brief break and then find out Tami-Adrian's Be It Action Items. And also, where else you can, just like, kind of stalk her in a good way. Tami-Adrian George 37:50  Absolutely. Lesley Logan 37:50  All right, Tami-Adrian, where do you hang out? Because you also do give out great advice, you know, for free on things that you hang out on.Tami-Adrian George 38:04  I hang out on Instagram. That is my jam. I am @Tami.Pilates.rehab and it's T-A-M-I and then you can also find me at T.A.G., my name, Tami-Adrian George, tagpilates.com head over to the website, links, move around, dance around in there and sign up on the waitlist. We're so excited to have this group together so that we can be learning and growing together.Lesley Logan 38:33  Yeah, I mean, it's going to be so, so amazing. And I just want to say, just like you could, if you need to, because I've been in a place where I've had to call free advice together, absolutely you can, but at some point, if all you've ever done is call, just pull it together and bounce around from free advice to free advice. I would say that investing in something like it's an eight-week program is so it's a risk-free type of environment, because it's you're not committing for longer than that. You know, at Agency, we do make people commit for six months, and the reason is, it's like, it does take time. But for this particular topic, you can, eight weeks, get your systems in place and really understand, like, is this the thing I want to do, and how do I do it right. So from the beginning, you don't have, like, oh, I'm undercharging that person. So now I've got to go back and tell them a new rate, even though I've been, you know, like we want to, we want to make sure it's, it's it's beneficial for everyone. So get on the waitlist, either on Tami's website or on prfit.biz/events. We'll get that taken care of. Tami, you are so wonderful. I mean, I'm so Brad and I just adore getting to spend time with you. We always learn new things. Your life is its own adventure. So I really hope, like, at some point you'll be a child author, which is like, The Adventures of Tami. You know what I mean? Like, I just feel like there's so many different things you could do, but can you give everyone some Be It Action Items, bold, executable, intrinsic or targeted, steps they can take to be it till they see it. Tami-Adrian George 39:50  Okay, this is one of my favorite things. And before I say, have to say, I love you and Brad so much. It has been the best adventure I have been on with the two of you, and I'm so glad. I'm so glad we're still having more adventures together. It's just fantastic. Okay, everyone has their phone and you set alarms on your phone for things that you don't particularly want to do. I set alarms on my phone randomly throughout the day that pump me back up. So where it says label, instead of putting wake up, walk dog, things like that. I put, how are you so amazing? I put, congratulations. You are crushing it. How are you doing this? That's what's on my alarm system. Oh, my God. I'm obsessed.Lesley Logan 40:37  I'm changing all I'm gonna have alarms just for no reason whatsoever. I don't even like being disturbed, but I'm gonna be it myself disturbed.Tami-Adrian George 40:44  Now, if I have to set an alarm because I have to wake up early I'm catching a flight, something like that, I will say, woo-hoo you're traveling today. Let's go. That's what it says while the alarm is going off. So when it goes off on your phone, instead of, oh my God, I have to be up and get on the flight. I'm like, oh yeah, I'm traveling. Let's go. Oh myLesley Logan 41:05  god, this is going to change my whole life, because I often wake up going, I don't know where I am and what day today is, but if my alarm didn't say wake up, it would say I could have it say something else, you know, like. Tami-Adrian George 41:14  You are in Singapore, aren't you lucky?Lesley Logan 41:20  Go get that coffee, babe. Go get it. I, this is a wonderful, wonderful because, you know, there's so many different things you want to remind themselves up. And if you're unable to have Post-Its all over your house, it could be alarms. What a cool way to do it.Tami-Adrian George 41:35  Because the reminders, if I set a reminder on my phone, I don't do it. Yeah, I don't. No.Lesley Logan 41:41  No, it's in my work or it doesn't get done. I don't need an alarm going. It's time to do this. Be like, ignore. Yeah, oh, I love, Tami, I love that. That's so everyone can do that right now. Okay, we ought screenshots of the alarm going off. We want them to send it to tami.pilates.rehab. We want you to send it to the Be It Pod. We want you to share this with a friend who needs to hear it. Maybe, if you are not a Pilates instructor who wants to go in-home, but you know someone who does, they need to hear this. Because, here is the deal, when your friends complain about how their life sucks, you have to listen. And you know those people, they repeat it. And what if? What if you could, you could change that. So then you guys could talk about what's exciting. Tami-Adrian George 41:42  I'll listen for you. Yeah, I'll listen to the complaints for you. Lesley Logan 42:03  Tami will listen. That's why we have people who are, like, in Agency, they're like, oh, my friends are with this. I'm like, why are you helping them? Not that I don't want you to be a generous person, but you invested in this. So you can focus on you. If they are unwilling to invest in themselves, in their business, you can be a great friend. You can be a great friend. And so, oh, it sounds like you've been working on that for a long time. Have you thought about getting help? Like, that's still helpful, that's still listening, but y'all, we have all been trained that, oh, we're not a good friend if we don't just like, do every like, give all the advice, no, you have to at sometimes, focus on you and be like, I'm here for you. And here are some resources that have helped me. Tami-Adrian George 42:59  I think you're being a better friend by saying, okay, you have to take action. I want you to take a step that is truly for you. I'm investing in me, and, God, I want to see you invest in you. Let's do that.Lesley Logan 43:11  Yeah. Oh, I love that. I love that. Obviously we could talk forever, because we do. We have so much fun. So, Tami-Adrian George, OPC teacher, incredible coach for in-service home, have skills, well-travel people and top, best of the game when it comes to helping people reach their goals and all that you do with your teaching. So thank you for being here. Everyone, how are you going to use these tips in your life? We want to know. Tell us and until next time, Be It Till You See It. Lesley Logan 43:39  That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It Podcast. 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Is like, what can you do? Do you need to sit down and write down all the things that you know throughout realize you're worthy of asking for that pay raise? What is it going to take? But you can't ask other people for why you're worthy. You have to sit down and do some digging on yourself. Lesley Logan 0:16  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started.Lesley Logan 0:59  Welcome back to the Be It Till You See It interview recap where my co host in life, Brad, and I are going to dig into the worthwhile convo I had with Margot McNaull in our last episode. I mean, also like glitter, like sparkle, like legacy, worthiness, worthwhile in our last episode, if you haven't yet listened to that interview, feel free to pause us now and listen to that one, then come back and listen this one, or listen to this one as a cliff notes, and then see if you like what we like, and listen to that one. You're gonna want to listen to it that's pretty cool. Okay, today. Brad Crowell 1:22  Actually, it's quite interesting. Lesley Logan 1:24  Oh yeah, it's a fun it was a fun episode. Who would have thought that we would have that episode but we did. Now, people like, what is the episode? Anyways. So today is, so today is July 24th 2025 and it's International Self-Care Day.Brad Crowell 1:44  Kind of poignant topic. Lesley Logan 1:45  Yeah, it really is. This is something I literally every single morning when I go on a walk. I shouldn't say every single morning, because, like with this sinus infection, if you haven't heard it yet, it'll pick up on it a little bit. I just don't think I look amazing in the morning, nor do I sound great. So I haven't been like all my you need to go on a walk. But if there's something I preach about every single day, it is self-care. So this is your day. This is your holiday. Brad Crowell 2:09  To buy yourself a ring. What? Lesley Logan 2:11  Yeah, what? Brad Crowell 2:11  What? Oh, I mean, it's your day to self-care.Lesley Logan 2:14  Self-Care, International Self-Care Day is celebrated on July 24th and I would actually call a getting yourself a ring, just like a reward and or something worth doing. But self-care is actually free usually. It stresses the importance of self-care as a cornerstone of wellness. On this day, individuals throughout the world are encouraged to make self-care as part of their day everyday routines entered into a priority is a milestone and an opportunity to raise further awareness of the benefits and effectiveness of self management of health. That's what self-care is, self-management of health. I love that. That is so great as opposed to like self-care isn't selfish care. Self-care, it's literally self-management of your fucking health. Oh, my God, my mind is blown. Self-care has always been incredibly important, but especially now, as people realize they need to take care of themselves and put themselves first. This has made people talk about and it increased the interest of others to take control of their health and wellness by prioritizing themselves. Today, we urge you to practice self-care, even if all you do is take a walk. Self-care, the reason I say it's mostly free because most of the things you can do for self-care is prioritize your sleep, your water intake, how you fuel yourself, that you that drunk food? Are you giving yourself food that makes you feel really awesome, giving yourself food that makes you feel like shit, right, every time? And I'm not saying food is good or bad, like when we have the Anthony episode, like we talked about that, but like, there are foods that aren't serving you, whether or not they're considered healthy or unhealthy, I don't care, whether they're not serving you. So are you fueling yourself, right? Are you surrounding yourself with people who make you feel better about yourself? That's self-care, right? Like, literally say no to a friend, an Eeyore friend, just throwback from last week, like or not, that's self-care, right? So maybe you have to put your phone on Do Not Disturb that's self-care. You know, so tons of things that are self-care, that are free. Spa days, not self-care. That is just something you get to do because it feels good and you deserve it. But it, to me.Brad Crowell 2:14  I like that distinction, because I think most of I mean for me too, I've thought about like, oh, self-care, I gotta go do something for myself, which means spending money. And it doesn't necessarily have to be that way. Lesley Logan 4:13  No, going for a walk around the block is self-care. Brad Crowell 4:21  Or, you know when, when you're feeling that afternoon slump, go do a handstand for four seconds at the wall and get some blood flow to your head. Yeah, that's self-care. You know, getting some vitamin D by sitting in the sun in the morning, that's self-care. Yeah. So doesn't have to involve spending money. All right. Well, here's what we got coming up. Agency Mini from Profitable Pilates just closed in the last couple of days. What an amazing event. I'm not gonna lie. Lesley Logan 4:46  It's a really great people. Brad Crowell 4:48  Well, I like that we changed it and it was shorter.Lesley Logan 4:51  Yeah. I mean, I think for everyone, because the biggest problem we have with and this is, like, why you know at the Be It Till You See It podcast, we talk about, like, you get better every time you do something. And so Agency Mini. Brad Crowell 5:03  It's our 11th time doing it, 11th. Lesley Logan 5:05  Yeah. It evolved. Every single time it evolved. And then the last three or four times, we're like, we have it dialed in. We have it nailed down. Everything is good. But the one piece of feedback that we used to get that we could never solve was like, the overwhelm. And we'd always tell people, don't take in everything, like, just take in what you need. But the problem is, is people have FOMO and we are perfectionist and, like. Brad Crowell 5:26  Don't worry. Agency isn't like Agency Mini. Agency Mini was chaos and, like, a whirlwind, and Agency actually, you know? But like, we still have to say that. So we were like, this is, there's, it's not aligned.Lesley Logan 5:36  Yeah, it's not aligned. So because of our new tools, we have in Agency, because of our new app, all these different things. Yeah, we have an app. It made it easier for us to make Agency Mini a mini version of Agency, without the overwhelm. And it was super fun to help people and now we have a bunch of Agency members, and it's just super great. So I'm excited for you guys. Can't wait to work with you guys, and we literally leave tomorrow. Brad Crowell 5:57  We're going on tour y'all. Lesley Logan 5:59  Are we leaving today? No, we leave now. Yeah, we're leaving today. Brad Crowell 6:03  Oh yeah, we're leaving tonight. You're totally right. I'd have 25th as the first class but, but we actually drive out tonight. Lesley Logan 6:11  Clearly, we recorded this early. We're on the road. Brad Crowell 6:14  We're on the road. No, no, we're not on the road just yet, because this drops in the morning, we'll be leaving tonight.Lesley Logan 6:14  They could be listening to it at night. So if you're listening tonight, we're on the road. So anyway, opc.me/tours, where you can get tickets because it's not too late, some cities are too late, but it's not too late to sign up. You can, as long as there's room you can sign up. And also, the Calgary stop is a virtual stop so.Brad Crowell 6:36  There are two virtual workshops in Calgary go to opc.me/calgary for that.Lesley Logan 6:40  Yeah, but opc.me/tours such tours, all 15 cities. It's really going quite amazing. We have three cities in Canada. Of course, Vancouver is way sold out. At the time recording this, Kamloops only has space in the workshop and not a lot. And Calgary has room in all of its goodness. I'm including the virtual spots. We did limit how many people could be at the virtual as well. So just because it's virtual doesn't mean everyone can attend. We we kept it quiet, kept it small, so you have a great experience. So go to opc.me/tour. Want to see you. And then we come home, unpack and change out the suitcases because now, and clean out the van. Brad Crowell 7:14  Because we're home for like, a week and a half. Lesley Logan 7:16  Week and a half, and then we go to the U.K. yeah, we're going to the U.K. Brad Crowell 7:22  Yeah we're gonna go to Scotland. Lesley Logan 7:26  We're gonna leave my dad in Scotland. We're gonna head down into the into Britain, and we're going to teach in Essex and Leeds in England, I guess. Brad Crowell 7:29  I mean I guess we'll call it Britain but I think Great Britain is all of it, and England is.Lesley Logan 7:34  You know, it's really quite complicated. It's really annoying. Let's say England is correct. You're absolutely right. I got little stuck. I was watching the Hamilton King George Sing a Song, and I think I just got stuck. You know, I love. It's one of the best songs. It's too bad it's about him. Yes, you'll be back. So anyways, so anyways, we'll go down into England. Excuse me, somehow I'm supposed to drive on the opposite side of the road that I'm used to, and we'll see how that goes. Brad Crowell 7:59  You're gonna do great, babe. Lesley Logan 8:06  Do great. No one. No turns, please. So we're gonna go to Essex. We have a Tuesday and a Wednesday workshop and workout situation going on. So go by day passes or two-day pass, you'll save money if it's two-day pass, and then we're gonna go up to Leeds. That's our second time in Leeds. We only have a couple spots left there. And then we're gonna hit back up to Scotland, grab my dad for his like, I don't know, adventures he's going on himself, and fly home.Brad Crowell 8:35  There's a coffee shop in Leeds that I'm very excited.Lesley Logan 8:38  Oh, the guy who makes a seven minute long latte. Brad Crowell 8:38  Yes, the guy. Lesley Logan 8:41  Yeah, the guy. Brad Crowell 8:42  I really hope he's still there. Lesley Logan 8:44  I think he is. According to Claire, he still is. Brad Crowell 8:47  Okay, good. Well, I'm very excited, because that's gonna be awesome. Lesley Logan 8:50  It is. Okay, you guys. Is one of the best lattes. It is the smallest cup I have ever seen. Have espresso and milk in it, and it.Brad Crowell 8:50  It's just like scientific coffee. Lesley Logan 8:58  It took them so long. I was like, I need a cup of coffee. Brad Crowell 9:00  He made one, tasted it and dumped it and started over for me. I was like, what was wrong with that one? He's like, it was, it didn't it didn't settle. It wasn't the right flavor. It was burnt, so whatever the heck it was he was like, no, I'm not serving you this.Lesley Logan 9:14  We're not even doing a great job, because we don't even know the name of the place. But you know what? If you come to Leeds, Brad will take you. Brad Crowell 9:22  I'll take you. Lesley Logan 9:22  Okay, so opc.me/uk, to snag your spots there. Then we come home. Our besties are visiting us from Florida. Yeah, we're gonna unpack the cold weather clothes we took and put hot weather clothes back in a suitcase and be in Cambodia. Oh, my God, I can't wait for the humidity to be on this skin after all of the Summer Tour and and U.K. like, no offense, but like, I I live for humidity. Like I am. Everyone's like, I love a dry heat. You have no idea what you're talking about. Humid heat is way better for your skin, for the youthfulness, for your hair. Everything is better. So crowsnestretreats.com if you would like to have humidity on your skin and spend time with us in an epic place, see the temples, come to our house, do Pilates. Brad Crowell 10:06  Take a break from all the chaos. Lesley Logan 10:07  Figure out your self-care routine. I will help you with that. I will help you bring out your dream schedule. Anyways, before we get into the amazing episode with Margot, we have an audience question. Brad Crowell 10:18  We sure do, two questions, actually, from Caroline on IG, thank you, Caroline for asking. Number one is, hi, can you recommend a great pair of undies for Pilates or leggings? I read this before and forgot. I always notice a print when I get off my reformer. Lesley Logan 10:37  Yeah. Brad Crowell 10:37  Okay. Lesley Logan 10:38  Yeah. Brad Crowell 10:38  I can't, Caroline but, I know someone who can. Lesley Logan 10:42  Okay, we, remember when we got this question on YouTube. We're like, do we go live about this? I'm like, oh my God, what weirdos are gonna show up for the live? It's like, my favorite underwear for Pilates. So here's the thing. I like, EBY they're they have a type of of of underwear that is (inaudible). We have, right? We have a video.Brad Crowell 11:07  I didn't know how to find it, so I just went to YouTube and I searched Lesley Logan underwear, and the video comes up.Lesley Logan 11:13  Perfect, perfect, perfect. I wish they had millions of views. It probably doesn't, but anyways, so I like those because they're nice and thin under my leggings, so they don't leave a mark. Like when I'm walking around, you can't see my underwear, which is like a big deal to me. I don't know why we are obsessed with this, but I'm obsessed with people not seeing the outline of my underwear, probably from purity culture life. I have no idea. Anyways, the other reason I like it is if, ladies, you don't know this, but if your underwear covers your butt and then you put leggings on it, that is why you're losing your pants on stomach massage. So I like that also, you know the reason, another reason I like EBY is because I'm I am a sweater, and I don't really like when your like underwear doesn't keep you dry from and so otherwise, like your pants are wet, where your underwear is. I like my underwear keep me dry as much as possible, so that I have like, sweat, like on my thighs, but not in my crotch. So anyways, that's my favorite for that. Otherwise. Brad Crowell 12:12  What did you say it is? Lesley Logan 12:14  Think they're called EBY. Brad Crowell 12:15  And they're from. Lesley Logan 12:17  EBY underwear. Brad Crowell 12:18  Oh, that's the company. Lesley Logan 12:19  Yeah, yeah, it's EBY women seamless yeah, that's the one I like. Brad Crowell 12:24  All right, we're gonna put a link in the show notes for that.Lesley Logan 12:27  Yeah, yeah. So anyway, oh, they're having a sale. I should get some more. Brad Crowell 12:30  Thanks, Caroline. Lesley Logan 12:31  Thanks, Caroline. She had another question, though.Brad Crowell 12:34  Yes. Caroline had a second question. She said hey, do you have a shake plate that you recommend? Lesley Logan 12:40  I do. we'll put. Brad Crowell 12:41  I had a feeling,Lesley Logan 12:42  We'll put a link in the show notes, because I don't know the brand name, to be honest, but I love this thing I get on mine.Brad Crowell 12:51  It also wasn't, like, outrageously expensive. It wasn't nothing but it wasn't like a million dollars. Lesley Logan 12:51  It's like, it ranges from like, a little over 100 to about 150 and I think depends on the color or the time of year. But, like, honestly, it, it's something that, if I'm like, oh. Brad Crowell 13:08  Well, let's talk about what, what is a shake plate and why do you do it? Lesley Logan 13:12  Okay, so it kind of is a shake plate is kind of like a spin on the power plate. Power plate would be the brand and Power Plates I have experienced. Brad Crowell 13:19  Those big metal silver-looking ones that are, like, you know, two and a half feet wide. You can do a handstand on those. Lesley Logan 13:19  Oh, yeah, you can do some great stretches on those. My trainers at Equinox will, like, go here and do your pigeon stretch. And it, like, would really help with my running, help with my hips. I mean, I don't know all this. Here's thing, you guys, I don't know all the scientific facts are on it. But, like, I can say that Power Plates are really, really epic. And they can, like, turn your muscles on and off in such a way that it's like a full workout. In fact, in Vegas, there's a place called Vibe 28 that's literally workouts on a Power Plate. Brad Crowell 13:52  I didn't know that. Lesley Logan 13:52  And it's like they even do like, like a meditation class on them. So you like, just do different stretches on them. It's really quite cool. I will say they made me put a like, a band, a booty band, around my legs, and do squats on that thing. And I was like, oh my God, I thought I was in shape. No, no, no, no. It's like, what? It's like intense. And you that's, there's a reason why it's like only 28 minutes. You definitely don't want to work out longer than that. So it can be really effective but the reason I got one is because it can also be really good for lymphatic drainage, and it really good for balance and stability. And so I have my ankles are really hyper mobile, and my muscles around my knees have been really hard for me to, like turn on. And so I got one because you can just stand on it, and I swear, I swear it's doing something for lymphatic drainage, like my girlfriends and I just like, live by that. I have another girlfriend who, like, had some back stuff, and she just put it on, like, the lowest level and sat on it and her back felt better. So, like, that, that's amazing. So anyways, I get on mine, and I literally will, like, do Slack for 15 minutes, or I'll read a book. Yes, I can read a book while shaking. I'm also very tall. I could like my arms aren't shaking. The rest of me is. I play a video game on there. On my days where I don't want to work out, but I've got time on my hands, I get on there and I do it. Sometimes I just put my legs on it, and it feels really good. I have literally Googled multiple times, is standing on my shake plate at all beneficial? And the answer is yes. Now, of course, it's more beneficial if you do like a plank or a squat, but I play around my different foot positions, and my ankles are much more stable. My medial quad is actually turning on. I think it's been really fun for my lymphatic drainage around my center. So I love my shake plate. Big fan, yeah, total, yeah. So anyways, and it doesn't take a lot of space. One of my girlfriends lives in like, a tiny, like, studio apartment. My got one, and she's like, I do it twice a day, every day. So some of us now, like, do, like, we like, take pictures of ourselves send to each other, like, I'm on mine. Oh, I'm on mine. So now it's for like, a little club. Brad Crowell 16:00  That's funny. That's fun. I've even done it, too. I do enjoy it. It definitely first time you do it, you're gonna feel a little bit like, numb getting off of it afterwards. Don't turn it up that high your first time.Lesley Logan 16:12  There's programs and literally, start with the first program. And also a little side note that I would do, I was like, oh, every day I'm just gonna do the next program up. No, that is not how you get used to it. I recommend like doing program one for a few days and program two for a few days because I made my psoas so fucking sore, I had to stretch, so.Brad Crowell 16:12  Well, anyway, Caroline, we'll put that link in the show notes so you can check it out. Hey, look, if you have a question at all for anything, or about anything or whatever go to beitpod.com/questions, beitpod.com/questions and you can leave us a question or a win. So if you want to be featured on the FYFs for Friday's episodes.Lesley Logan 16:55  Your win could be that you bought yourself a shake plate and you did your first 15 minutes of self-care on it. Brad Crowell 17:01  All right. Well, stick around. We'll be right back. We're going to talk to talk about Margot McNaull in just a minute. Brad Crowell 17:09  All right, welcome back. Let's talk about Margot McNaull. Margot is the founder of Stór by Margot, a bespoke fine jewelry company born from her own journey of designing her engagement ring in India. With no formal background in jewelry design, she turned her natural eye and personal experience into a thriving business helping women create meaningful, deeply personal pieces today, her work centers around empowering women to own their worth, often through designing their own legacy jewelry that tells their story, and that's what most of the episode was actually about. Was about worth and worthiness, and, you know why you would buy a ring for yourself, and conversations that happen in the home, you know, in a family, usually a married couple. You know, it was interesting. It was interesting. I, you know, I, I thought, I don't know. I've never really, I'm not really the guy that's out there trying to buy myself a ring, but if I wanted to buy a ring, I would probably save up the money and go buy the ring. But that's not how the conversation traditionally goes. Lesley Logan 18:14  No. I mean, also, like, even while the ring, that the beautiful ring I have, I literally told someone to tell you. Brad Crowell 18:20  I have no idea what you just said. Lesley Logan 18:24  My engagement ring that you got me, I made sure people in my life knew what I wanted, because we well, because you had said, don't talk to me about getting married. So I was like, well, how am I going to tell him about the ring I want if I don't can't talk about getting married. So I just made sure all of my friends who you knew knew which ring I wanted. Brad Crowell 18:40  I don't remember that that's how the story went.Lesley Logan 18:42  No. The story goes, you asked my friend for my ring size. He said, oh, I can tell you what ring she wants. Brad Crowell 18:46  Yes, because he had it from, like, a year before.Lesley Logan 18:48  Yeah, yeah, yeah, it was before, yeah. So anyways, I knew what I wanted. The point is, around here, we just buy that ourselves, the thing we want, but I do have tons of friends who won't put a ring on their their wedding ring finger, because they that's saving of her then. Or they, they they want something, but then they they compromise, or they don't have the it's a whole thing. And so she's just a big person like, buy the thing that you want and buy the ring that you want, and that because you're worthy of it, and not waiting for a partner or waiting for external people to tell other people outside of you, to tell you what what ring you should have, or what you're worth, or things like that. I think it's really cool. And I also she said she was observing that women often struggle to buy fine jewelry for themselves, not because of money, but because they don't feel like they're worthy of it. Because, like you said, I would just save up the money and go get it. A lot of people will save up the money and then feel bad about like that. They're not like, oh, I shouldn't have spent all that money on that thing this, like, like.Brad Crowell 19:47  I mean, I get that, you know. Like, I definitely understand that, you know, I saved up money for a pair of glasses that I was like, wow, these are really expensive, and I literally wear them every day now, and I'm like, proud of myself for doing it.Lesley Logan 19:59  Yeah, don't you feel you feel good. Brad Crowell 20:01  I like them. Lesley Logan 20:01  Yeah. I mean, I love our car. It feels really cool to be in that car. I feel very worthy of that car, you know, like, now we had to save up for it. We have to wait, like, it's it was an expense, but, like, I think.Brad Crowell 20:12  We waited 10 fucking years. Lesley Logan 20:14  I fucking did, yeah, I did, but I, I wanted to have her on because I actually feel like we have a lot of listeners who are that person who has, has saved up the money, or does have it and and maybe feels a little guilty, like, oh, I shouldn't be spending on me. It should be spent on the kids, or I should be I should be doing X, or should be doing y. And it's like, you know, if you saved up that money one time, you probably could do it again, and you could probably spend it on them then that time. But so she she reflects on her own deeper journey, and that she even like while she was running her business, she was going through her own journey of self-doubt and realizing of self-worth. And so she had to go into it and realize, where do I feel like how do I feel about my worth? And so I also thought that this is really cool, because oftentimes it doesn't have to do with the ring. If you don't feel worthy, it's going to translate in other areas of your life.Brad Crowell 21:03  Yeah. And had nothing to do with the ring, nothing to do with the ring. Well, you know, when she's talking about, I think the conclusion of the worthy conversation was, it was it was an interesting back and forth between you and her about your experience working in retail and jewelry and seeing how couples would come in, and obviously they influence each other, but not just couples, like, friends, and then the person who wanted the, the one was doing the shopping would be influenced by the friend, and maybe the thing like and the friend might not have self-worth. So then they're, you know, projecting their insecurity on the decision-making process. And it could talk someone out of doing something that they were trying to do for themselves. And so what I thought was neat about her thing was she said, you know, the only person that's gonna make you feel worthy is you, yeah, that's interesting, but it also makes me, you know, like, is there an exercise? How do we do that? How do we feel worthy? How do we help ourselves feel worthy? Lesley Logan 21:52  I think that's a really interesting question. I think, like, also part of it is going back to, like a Nikole Mitchell, you know, like it's like putting Post-Its around your your your house, like, I am worthy of liking things. I am worthy of having this. I am worthy of reaching the goals that I want to have. Like it doesn't have to be I'm worthy of the stuff I want to buy, put it on. I'm worthy of get seven hours of sleep. I'm worthy of 100 grams of protein. I'm worthy of saying no to people coming over on a Tuesday night. I'm worthy of my time. So start with there.Brad Crowell 22:49  So we're not having dinner with them? Just kidding. Lesley Logan 22:50  Yeah. But like, I think, I think it comes from actually saying it out loud and saying it around things you can't have cognitive dissonance around. So like, if buying yourself expensive sunglasses or car or whatever is feels a dissonance to you, you have stuff that you still have to unpack and work through, then start with something smaller. I'm worthy of eight glasses of water a day, right? I am worthy.Brad Crowell 23:18  Or I'm worthy of a pay raise. You know, like, this is actually, you know, one of the things that that I really that resonated a lot with me is a topic that I get the chance to talk about a lot, which is money, right, and money when, especially with Pilates instructors, there's this weird stigma that Pilates is expensive, so you must be taking advantage of people when you're teaching. And then we shame ourselves into being like, oh, you know, I only teach a few hours a week, you know, so it's not that much money I'm making. And we have this weird, upside down perspective of, you know, the industry that we're in, the people that we serve, what we're doing, how much time and money we invested in getting trained, all this stuff, and then we adopt this, this like, strange mindset around the income that we're making, yeah, and so I've had this really interesting opportunity over the last year to talk about money on a consistent basis through a webinar that I've been hosting. And, you know, unabashedly talk about the desire to get more money, to make more money, and and but not be weird about it, right? We're not out there, like, championing, like, money for the sake of money. That's not the point. One of the things that I've really enjoyed is, in this the webinar is actually future-casting. Right? So taking a moment closing our eyes and actually thinking down the road, right? When we talk about money in these webinars, I actually talk about something that's like, scarily, like, almost like, it feels scary to even be willing to dream about it. It's about doubling your money, doubling your income. So, like, let's say you're making $35,000 a year. Could you make $70,000 a year with Pilates, you know? And. And the answer is, yes, you could. But why? Why would you want to do that, right? And I think the glib and obvious answer is, because I can get more money. But that's not the point. The point is, what are you going to do with that money? And then what are we doing with that? Like, how is that helping us shift our life to be better and more enjoyable? Easier, like, we it puts us in a position to go do something else that we want to do.Lesley Logan 25:25  Yeah, I mean, like, because, if you I mean to go back to that, the worthiness of it's like, okay, I want to make $70,000 because, but why? So I want to be able to pay for my kid to go to summer camp. I want to be able to have money in savings. I want to be able to do X, Y and Z. I want to donate to this thing. I want to do this thing right. Okay, so then it's not that. Brad Crowell 25:48  Or even it could be I want to create a life for myself that allows me a breather, a break, so I don't have to be going 90 miles an hour.Lesley Logan 25:58  And I think if we were all to say I am worthy of having a life that gives me a break. What selfish is about that? So, like. Brad Crowell 26:06  In the same vein, you know, let's translate that over to buying things. Yeah, why do we buy things, right? Why do we buy a nice car? Why do we, you know, I don't know, put in a pool? Why do we buy fancy sunglasses that cost $500 you know, which seems like absurd, you can buy a same pair of sunglasses for $12. Why do we do that? Like, like, how do we do that and justify that without, you know, feeling like an asshole, right? Lesley Logan 26:33  Well, I think the interesting word there is justify. I don't think anyone I think that.Brad Crowell 26:37  Well, there's a story we tell ourselves in our head, right? And I think that it's like, if, especially if we don't feel worthy of it, then we're justified, then we're justified.Lesley Logan 26:45  Yeah. But if you feel worthy, you don't have to justify anything, because it's it goes to the person who goes, oh, it must be nice. And the response, the only response, to it must be nice is it really is. It is. Thank you. It is because we have to. We, that has been trained into people for years and years to keep you poor. That's what it is every time someone has told their kids that money doesn't grow on trees, putting the same as point earned, you know, you, like, the justification of things that is to keep youth playing small. If you play small, then there, then the rich can keep getting richer off of you playing small, of you not demanding the pay raise, of you not charging your actual worth. Because, by the way, for the Pilates instructors who are listening, I just had a huge talk on both an AR Agency office hours and the next day instead of eLevate and I was like, on a pedestal, I couldn't get off of it. And I was like, y'all have to have some courage and conviction. Like most of the problems that this goes for anyone you don't have to be a Pilates instructor, is you don't realize all the hours you haven't sat down and counted all the hours of all the time you spent learning what you do, train on what you do, practicing what you do, teaching what you do. And you're thinking, oh, I'm pricing something for the 55 minutes I'm teaching them. No, you're not. That price is based on your entire past building up to it. And by the way, the future you're giving them, that's what that session, that the present that they're paying for, it's for your expertise and what they get in the future. And I think that's where worthiness comes in, is like, what can you do? Do you need to sit down and write down all the things that you know throughout realize you're worthy of asking for that pay raise? What is it going to take? But you can't ask other people for why you're worthy. You have to sit down and do some digging on yourself. This has to come from inside you, and it has and and the external stuff and the ring or the car, whatever. That's later, because some people like material things and some people don't. According to my astrology signs, I like material things, and I don't disagree with that.Brad Crowell 28:51  I could have told you that the day I met you. Yeah, but, but honestly, that's the thing. Here's the thing, it's okay to like material things. It's okay. We're allowed to do it. I don't know, you know, we feel guilty about it because of, for me, it was the way I was raised. Right? Is, is that, you know, the the money mindset element of it, and so, like, buying something really expensive was always out of the question. It was never even considered, right, ever, but, but like with, with the ring, like, if you want, if it's like, something that is going that means something to you, it's kind of like we were talking about tattoos, right. Like, if, if there is a sentimental association with it, you know, and you it's a goal you achieved in your life. Like, we've, we've, we've a friend we've mentioned before, when she wins a case, she buys a purse, or she buys the glasses, or she buys the thing, and she says, you know? And here's ironically, ironically, her dad not shaming him, but his response is always like, you still spent the money to buy the thing. Lesley Logan 29:56  And also, she doesn't get a pay raise when she wins. Brad Crowell 29:56  Right. It's not like she's getting a pay raise. Lesley Logan 29:57  No, she get the same amount whether she wins or loses.Brad Crowell 30:01  She, like, she's like, when I when this case goes, when it when the case concludes, then I get to buy the thing, right. And I think it's great. They're like, they're like, milestones of her life, you know.Lesley Logan 30:12  Yeah, yeah. I really agree. And I just want to, like, go on this one thing when it comes to some of the material possessions, especially a piece of jewelry that is something that one you wearing every day, so it's a physical reminder of of why you thought you're worthy of that. And then two, and Margot talked about this, you do often give it to someone, like, we don't have children, but I imagine Ella will like all of my jewelry. If Meredith has a daughter, we'll have to figure it out. But like, I imagine that like our niece Ella, she likes to wear pretty princess stuff. I imagine she'll like my things.Brad Crowell 30:51  I'm sure she will. Well, thanks for going down that journey with us here. Stick around. We'll be right back. We're gonna dig into some Be It Action Items that you discussed with Margot McNaull. Brad Crowell 30:58  All right here let's talk about those Be It Action Items, what bold, executable, intrinsic or targeted action items can we take away from your convo with Margot McNaull? Don't give up on yourself, she said, right? To go through what you need to go through, to go through to be that strong, that's successful, that whatever you have to go through some pretty dark valleys, right? It's not just like it's just kind of inherently built into life. We all know this, right? But don't give up. Don't give up on yourself. She said, look at things in a way that other people maybe they don't want to. It's easier not to dig into these things, to look at these things, then you're gonna, you're gonna come out. And if you, if you, if you give up, right, you're gonna come out with a less powerful message, okay, let's put some actual context into what this vagueness that we're talking about here, don't give up on yourself, right? If you, you're allowed to fail, okay, but if you fail, let's keep going. So for example, maybe it is going to bed earlier or just getting up earlier, or maybe it is, you know, eating food, that is, you know, like, maybe you may always skip breakfast, and you're like, I want us to eat breakfast because I know it's going to jump start my metabolism, whatever, right, you know, like, like, okay, like, how do we how do we do this? How do we actually make this habit, create this habit? And we could talk about habit-building later, but, you know, it doesn't have to be this huge, epic goal. It can be these smaller things, and that's such a great place to start to build that, that habit. Lesley Logan 32:33  Yeah. And if you miss a day, it's not failure. You start, you drink, eat your breakfast later, start again. Celebrate that you thought about it. Brad Crowell 32:41  Yeah. What about you? Lesley Logan 32:42  Okay, so this is really cool. This made me think of Joanna, whose last name is escaping me, but she was in the second year the podcast was out, and she had to be an action about wearing the shoes, just like buy the shoes.Brad Crowell 32:55  Johanna White. Johanna White. Episode 171.Lesley Logan 33:00  Nailed it. She always said, buy the shoes and wear them, right? And so this particular Be It Action Item makes me think of that. She said, you can take your old jewelry and have it revamped and have it transformed and and sometimes that's like the permission that a lot of us need. It's like, oh, we're not buying a new thing because we have these old things, but we're not wearing the old things. Are we not as proud of old things? And you can actually just revamp the old things and now it's new again. And so if you have an old an old thing, you know, like, consider revamping it because you are worthy of it, yeah.Brad Crowell 33:35  Or maybe it was at a family heirloom that's like, you know, cool and amazing and sentimental, but not hip and fun and funky that you'd wear all the time. Maybe you could have something tweaked on that, and it would all sudden fit your personality today. So love that you have our permission to make changes to things.Lesley Logan 33:53  And walk around. I am worthy of, I'm worthy of, I'm worthy of, fill in the blank for yourself. I'm Lesley Logan. Brad Crowell 33:58  And I'm Brad Crowell. Lesley Logan 33:59  Thank you so much for listening to our amazing podcast. Yes, I said our podcast is amazing because it fucking is. Brad Crowell 34:05  We're worthy of it being amazing. Lesley Logan 34:06  I'm so proud of it. This is episode 554, you guys. Holy mackerel. So do me a huge favor and share one of your favorite episodes with a friend who needs to hear it. It's how this podcast gets out. It means the world to me. It is the like a great gift to me and Brad. And a review goes a long way, because words of affirmation are my love language. So I've asked for two things. Thank you so much, asked for three, actually. And you know, just do one of them. You don't have to be an overachiever. Until next time, Be It Till You See It. Brad Crowell 34:36  Bye for now.Lesley Logan 34:38  That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It Podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review and follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcast. Also, make sure to introduce yourself over at the Be It Pod on Instagram. I would love to know more about you. Share this episode with whoever you think needs to hear it. Help us and others Be It Till You See It. Have an awesome day. Be It Till You See It is a production of The Bloom Podcast Network. 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If you are currently surrounded by Post-Its or sticky notes, you're going to want to hang out through this whole episode because this one is for you. We are talking about some of the best practices for planning, especially in the workplace and how to select a planner that works with you and for you. There are many working parts to productivity and one of them is planning. Some of us are good at planning and then do not execute. Some of us execute without planning. If we slow down and plan out several aspects of our career and home life, it's going to make life much easier for us. And as is common in the ADHD world, what works for you may not work for others. Such as the type of planner you use. Grace Koelma is the author of the ADHD Focus Friend, the future ADHD digital planner and she is the host of the podcast your ADHD besties. Grace and Dave start with one of the biggest challenges for adults with ADHD and that is our struggle with planning. That is planning simple tasks or planning more long term projects. ***Other questions that Grace and Dave discuss during the podcast: Is there some resistance to structure when it comes to effective planners, journals and even task management systems? Does the interesting thing… take control over the important thing? Why do we abandon planners and journals? Are we impatient, get frustrated easily? Do many just not work with our brain? How do we get ourselves to slow down to plan appropriately? Learn more about Grace's planners, podcast and more at her website. https://futureadhd.com/ **Do you want to work with Dave one-on-one? Go to www.overcomingdistractions.com and book an introductory Zoom chat. Or go directly to Dave's calendar; https://calendly.com/davidgreenwood1/15min  

Grab your Post-Its and pastel suits because Lisa Kudrow and Mira Sorvino are bringing their cult-classic comedy Romy and Michele's High School Reunion back to life! The duo is in final talks to reprise their quirky roles, with Tim Federle (Better Nate Than Ever) directing. Robin Schiff, the original writer, has penned the sequel script, and filming is set to begin in Los Angeles this June. From inventing Post-Its to redefining friendship goals, the original movie became a home-video darling. Expect big laughs, 1980s nostalgia, and a reunion we've all been waiting for—stay tuned for updates!

What do Post-Its, Spanx, Telfar's Shopping Bag, and the Accessible Icon symbol have in common? Their revolutionary design. MoMA has organized a new exhibition, Pirouette: Turning Points in Design, which displays products from the museum's collection with unique and memorable design that forever changed our culture. Curator Paola Antonelli discusses the show, on view through October 18.

Lesley Logan chats with Mark Collins, author of Life Mastery, on why success alone never silences imposter syndrome. They explore how to shift from life “management” to true life “mastery” by discovering who you really are apart from your titles and achievements. Mark reveals how reframing your identity ignites confidence and frees you from fear. If you're ready for practical steps to live from your true worth, this episode is a must-hear.If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co. And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:Why success alone cannot end imposter syndrome.The power of forming "I am" statements for stronger identity.How life mastery outperforms simple habit management.How daily affirmations rewire thoughts.Practical tactics to affirm worth over old limiting labels.Episode References/Links:Mark Collins Website - https://www.freedom-for-life.netLife Mastery - Life by Design by Mark Collins - https://a.co/d/bf0KDuoMark Collins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/FreedForLifeMark Collins Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_freedomforlifeMark Collins YouTube: https://beitpod.com/markyoutubeMark Collins LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/mark-collins-freedom-for-lifeGuest Bio:Mark Collins is a personal success strategist and author of the book Life Mastery: Living Life by Design, Not by Default, known for helping business professionals and entrepreneurs unlock their “hero in hiding.” Drawing from over 500 client engagements and his own journey of overcoming imposter syndrome, Mark teaches that success alone cannot substitute for a strong sense of identity. Through his Life Mastery program—a comprehensive course rooted in practical tools and mindset shifts—he guides individuals to master their thoughts, words, and actions so they can break free from fear of failure and self-doubt. Mark's approach centers on clarifying one's “I am” statements, ensuring people live from who they are truly created to be, rather than from past labels or limiting beliefs. By emphasizing transformation over mere habit management, he enables clients to excel across all areas of life—professionally and personally—through genuine, identity-based change. If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox. DEALS! DEALS! DEALS! DEALS!Check out all our Preferred Vendors & Special Deals from Clair Sparrow, Sensate, Lyfefuel BeeKeeper's Naturals, Sauna Space, HigherDose, AG1 and ToeSox Be in the know with all the workshops at OPCBe It Till You See It Podcast SurveyBe a part of Lesley's Pilates MentorshipFREE Ditching Busy Webinar Resources:Watch the Be It Till You See It podcast on YouTube!Lesley Logan websiteBe It Till You See It PodcastOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley LoganOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley Logan on YouTubeProfitable Pilates Follow Us on Social Media:InstagramThe Be It Till You See It Podcast YouTube channelFacebookLinkedInThe OPC YouTube Channel Episode Transcript:Mark Collins 0:00  No, there is no healthy imposter syndrome, because at the end of the day, what imposter syndrome says is I'm not qualified for where I'm at.Lesley Logan 0:07  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started.Lesley Logan 0:50  Okay, Be It babe. Here's the deal. This episode is gonna be one you listen to multiple times. I wanted to, in real time, rewind and relisten. It's so good. Our guest is Mark Collins. He's the author of Life Mastery and I really am obsessed with there's always a lot of people who want to talk about imposter syndrome, and this is the first time I've been like, yes, this guy, this guy actually really understands imposter syndrome and how to not let it master your life or take over like, he's so good, and he's got some great phrases that you will want to put on Post-Its and read every day to remind yourself how freaking amazing you are and what you're here on this planet to do. So I am just fired up. I'll also just be really honest, he's, this was the last Zoom call of a day where I started on Zoom at 6 am and I was like, okay, who am I interviewing? Oh, I'm interviewing Mark Collins. Oh, I really like this guy. The interview does not disappoint. I'm so excited. Now, I will also say this, I'm a fast talker. If you already aren't good at listening to me at 1.5 speed, good job. But you may want to slow this down to one because Mark Collins also can meet me at my speed. And so I recognize we're both fast talkers. We both recognize we're fast talkers. We could work on that. But also, I think our brains are just going a little too fast, so you might want to put us on one or point seven five. You can do that in your app. But also feel free to rewind. And then also on our website, we have the transcripts of the show, so you can also go back, read what any of the parts are that you loved. And I can't wait to hear how this helps you. Please let us know. Please tag Mark. Please tag the Be It Pod. And here is Mark Collins.Lesley Logan 2:25  All right, Be It babe. I am super excited because our guest today caught my attention when he talked about imposter syndrome. And you know how we can actually not deal with that, and we can redesign our life. And as many times as I talk about like we have imposter syndrome, and often it's because we're new at something, so you're gonna be an imposter. A lot of times we feel imposter syndrome when we're not new. And so I'm just excited for Mark Collins to join us today. Mark, can you tell everyone who you are and what you rock at?Mark Collins 2:50  Thanks, Lesley, and thanks for the conversation. I'm excited to be here. So I was to give somebody a one-sentence scenario about what I tried to do. What I tell them is that I help people to unlock and unleash their hero in hiding in their business relationships in life. We have strategies and tools to do that, but at the end of the day, my desire is to see the best of you come out and be the person you're supposed to be in all areas.Lesley Logan 3:13  I love that and that one sentence is like, just really great words in there. How did you get into this? Though? I think before we get into how to unlock that and unleash that and all that stuff, what made you go down this path?Mark Collins 3:26  Yeah, that's a great question. You know, people ask that usually about my book Life Mastery, or the course that's titled the same as well. And I tell people this, Lesley, that I didn't do it because I thought I had great ideas for other people to live out to be able to do those things to maximize their life, or whatever the thing is that there is their goal, but it really was something I desired for myself. In walking through, you know, my own personal development and trying to succeed in business or athletics or academics, what I found was some of those things you talked about, that imposter syndrome that came along for the ride. And what I found was you can't success away fear of failure or imposter syndrome, they just come along. And so when you're at that mountain top and you've had that success, if it's a challenge that you've dealt with, and just to be honest, Lesley, I haven't met a person yet who hasn't had something apart from a transformational journey. I've and a lot of people, a lot of them have had the same issues that I had. So for me, it came from a place of finding transformational tools, being able to have more than just habits that I maintain, but a lifestyle that I could live, you know, when you do that, you want to share it with people, you know. And so it started informally and sharing with friends and having thoughts and ideas and telling them, hey, I've tried this at you and really started to formalize it in a system, instead of giving them little nuggets here and there and to say, okay, well, how do I help somebody get from A to Z, from bound to healed, or from stress to set free? And so that's where the course in the systems came from. It came from my own life first, and then the opportunity to work with so many others afterwards.Lesley Logan 4:53  That's so cool. You just said you can't out success your imposter syndrome. What'd you say? Mark Collins 4:59  You can't success away imposter syndrome or fear or anxiety or any of the other things that we do.Lesley Logan 5:04  You are correct. You cannot. You're totally correct. In fact, the more you try, the more it's almost like you have more imposter syndrome or more anxiety.Mark Collins 5:12  Yeah. Well and the interesting thing, Lesley, is a lot of times we think you can, you know, we look for those people that are on our pedestals, whatever those are in your life, and we think, oh, he or she, they've got it all together. They can't have the issues and the struggles and things that I have, and I just need to get where they're at, and all of a sudden, I'll be that person as well. Everything will work out, won't have any anxiety, won't wake up at three in the morning like I've had in my past. And you find out that that's not the case. And it's interesting when I'm always surprised at the clients that I work with that have those levels of success, right? Their name plate's on the door. They're the person who's doing great things, but it's the person that you don't know. It's the person like I said, waking up at three in the morning. So, yeah, success is amazing. It's a poor substitute for identity, and it's never a place where you can overcome issues that are standing in the way.Lesley Logan 6:02  Yeah, yeah, you're so correct. First of all, I find it interesting. You said something like, we all like, okay, if I'm just like this person, then I'm going to be like this. Once I get to their level, then I'm going to feel free. And that is actually kind of the impetus of be it till you see it. Because I hate, I can't stand hearing when I have this, then I will. When this happens, then I will. It's, I don't want to wait for that to happen. A lot of those things can are like, kind of outsourced to other people. A lot of those things are like other people discovering you at the same time you're promoting it and also deciding to buy the thing that you have at the same, there's a lot of things in there. And so I'm like, how can I live like that right now? What if I was that person today? That's what be it till you see it is. And that's kind of where it came from. And so I just had to bring that up, because I was, oh, that's exactly what everyone does. Everyone was like, when I have this. I want to kind of go into, for the person who feels imposter syndrome on a regular basis, most of my listeners, hi guys, I see you. Is there any imposter syndrome that is healthy, or are there signs of imposter syndrome they may not know? Two questions there.Mark Collins 7:06  Yeah, that's a great couple of questions. And I think, is there imposter syndrome that is healthy? And I would, to be totally honest, and of course, I will be honest, because that's who you're clientele and the people listening want me to be. No. No, there is no healthy imposter syndrome, because at the end of the day, what imposter syndrome says is I'm not qualified for where I'm at, whether it's in your business or relationship, you're in the boardroom, you're creating something on your own, you're a creative individual, or you're just in a relationship, or you're a new parent, right? One of the moments of imposter syndrome for me was having my daughter placed into my hands when she was born, and knowing I'm not qualified. Well, unfortunately, in many cases, imposter syndrome is me saying I'm not qualified for this. Whatever it is. You know? Whatever you've got as your item, that's what it is. And the truth of the matter is, as I talk to the people that I work with, it's in the thing that we talked about, your hero in hiding. I believe everybody has a hero in hiding. You have the person you're created to be, that be it person that you're talking about, and you have the person that shows up. And it's either coming from who you're, what I say, who you're created to be, or your life has told you. Well, imposter syndrome is me looking at my past and having informed my present and creating my future and saying that, well, because I wasn't able to last time, I can't do it this time, or because I didn't succeed in that business, I won't be able to do it this time. It's those thoughts that try and sabotage you, stop you and control the outcomes that you have in your life. So is it ever positive? Absolutely not. But congratulations if you have it. Because at the end of the day, I love people who do because those are the people who are really reaching for something in their life. When I'm comfortable and I've got all the answers and everything's working and I'm not too stressed, I'm not really trying very hard, well, imposter syndrome isn't coming up because it's just me being chill, but it's in those times and places, right, that man and woman who is reaching for higher ground, they're looking for that amazing goal, those wonderful things that they want to do in their life, that it comes up. But what we try to do is help them to understand. The one thing I tell you is, you're the answer to the circumstance you're walking into. You're not the question to be figured out.Lesley Logan 7:08  Thank you for that. I really enjoyed that. The whole answer. I mean, it's true. When, I just had the moment of imposter syndrome earlier, before this call, and it was absolutely because I was thinking, what if this doesn't work? And I was basing it off of the things that haven't worked in the past, I totally did it. I used the past to direct the present. Instead of going actually, like, this is going to work because of all these different reasons. And also, if it doesn't work, I will absolutely take the steps to figure out why it didn't work and do it again. I know that about myself, so it's really funny how it can sneak up upon us. And it's also because I really care. I really care about what this thing is going to be and what it can do for people. So you talked about becoming a dad, but can you share any other instances where imposter syndrome kind of affected you and how you handled that?Mark Collins 9:49  Yeah, absolutely. In business, right? So my wife and I, we've been successful entrepreneurs, and I'm sure, like in everybody else's business, there's those times when your output of finances don't equal your income coming in the door where, you know it was a client-based business. And so your bills are static. They happen every month, whether you have clients or not, whether they make their payments or not, whether they're late or not. And so, of course, there were those circumstances where, you know clientele would dip because of the recession issues challenges with whatever, right? Everybody has challenges in their life, but the bills are still coming in. And in those places, for me, it was that point of saying, I don't know if this was the right decision. Those things, when things aren't going well, then all of a sudden you question whether you're making the right choices. And if I can unpack something really quickly. So what I tell again, like I said before, if, what I tell people is that you learn from who you're created to be or what your life has told you. Well, we all have a past and a life that's told us something, many somethings in our life, and what we talked about as a foundation of Life Mastery is starting from identity. Who you're created to be. And in that place, you start to unpack and see some things in your life. Well, this guy who's got financial challenges, right? Like with every business, it's not all roses and sunshine. And in that place, you hearken back to understand who you are. And that, for me, was a young man who was struggling in school and having challenges with mathematics, and you know, some of the things that you're doing academically well, that young man at five, six, seven, eight, nine years old, who was struggling in one of his classes. Well, there's an identity statement that comes along with your experiences. It's never just your experience, but what's the experience tells you about you? Because we all have good and bad that we walk through. But the challenge is, what does it say about you? What's the identity statement that you're taking from it? So that young man who's struggling in school, believe it or not, I don't know about the schools you went to, but the ones that I went to, they didn't look too kindly on you if you couldn't cut it academically, and certainly your friends and the people around you let you know that. Well, that young man felt like he wasn't as smart as everybody else. So fast forward. Identity statement. When you're an adult, still succeeding, still doing great things, right, got my bachelor's degree, have a successful business, but then there's a financial downturn, and what happens is those thoughts come in your head. Imposter syndrome is another form of identity sabotage. It's saying this, you're not good enough. And in that place, what do you go back to? Oh, okay, well, it's because you're not as smart as, you're not as qualified as, you're not as good as, or whatever the thing is you're telling yourself. And so for us, it's understanding. How do you unpack it so you understand the truth? See, the truth of that young man was he was temporarily academically challenged. He wasn't somebody that was defective. He wasn't somebody that wasn't as good as. Come to find out, when I went to college, I took mathematics all the way up and passed all the way through calculus, which at that time was the highest level of math you could qualify for. Well, certainly I wasn't somebody who wasn't as smart as everybody else, even though you succeed afterwards, those identity statements come along. And you know this, Lesley, right? Because you know people in your own life, or people in the TMZs and all of the people that are famous where they try and overcome who they believe they are, but the success they have, but they sabotage themselves and ruin everything.Lesley Logan 12:54  Yes. Mark Collins 12:54  So it's always you showing up as who you are, and success, as I said before, is just a poor substitute for identity. But when you start to live from who you are instead of what your life has told you now, all of a sudden, you're unleashed into the world as a person you're created to be.Lesley Logan 13:09  Yeah, I want to live more like that all the time. Is that even, is that possible? Is it possible to live a life without imposter syndrome and fully as who I am and not what I, what my past is?Mark Collins 13:21  Yes, absolutely. Lesley Logan 13:23  Is it something that takes a long time to de- as a deprogramming? How does someone kind of identify those situations, of what stories are being living themselves by? And also, it sounds like there's coping mechanisms, like, it sounds like success is a coping mechanism for the thing that they're trying to deal with.Mark Collins 13:40  Yeah, absolutely. And so I'll take the last one first, and what it is is really what we've all been taught, or we all have assumed, right? So whether it's media or family or experiences that we've walked through, we've all assumed that when I've, whatever, gotten that trophy or got that level of income or have that amazing car in my driveway, well now all of a sudden, everything else is gravy. Everything works out. We look at the outside of somebody without understanding the inside. And so it's not any harm or foul by anybody. It's just this is kind of the system, which is why, you know, by the way, my book is called Life Mastery: Living Life By Design, Not By Default.Lesley Logan 14:13  Yes.Mark Collins 14:13  What I tell people is that everybody I know, apart from a transformational journey, is living from default. And it's that place of understanding that if I change my outward, it'll change my inward. When the opposite is true when I change my inward, everything outside of me changes. Another way of putting it, that I tell people is when I understand who I'm created to be, my world lines up. When I don't know who I'm created to be, my world has to make up the difference, and so I have to succeed to feel worthy. I have to have a relationship to feel loved. I have to have income to feel like I'm a person of value. (inaudible)Lesley Logan 14:46  I would have to rewind what you just said, because you just said something the way that we are wanting the world to see us like if we're waiting for the world to (inaudible) in us, that's, that is, I think, how a lot of people are feeling right now, like I've had so many people who are reacting to so many different things that are outside of their control, and they're like, this is gonna affect me this way, and this is gonna affect me this way. And I think that's human nature. But what you just said that if we actually come from ourselves, then we don't feel that way, don't fall out of that control. Am I right?Mark Collins 15:15  Exactly. So if I don't understand who I'm created, if I don't understand my identity, then my world has to make up the difference.Lesley Logan 15:21  Yes. Mark Collins 15:22  And it is that place of default, which is what we've always been shown. It's what is highlighted on social media. And you know, I mean, there's no harm or foul in any of it, and certainly not for us in trying to use it. But what we find, as you found as well, and I know in my life also is it doesn't work. Success is great, right? But at the end of the day, if success is all I have, then it's empty when I get there.Lesley Logan 15:43  Yeah. Mark Collins 15:43  And it lasts for about 10 minutes and then I have to do it again. Lesley Logan 15:46  Yeah. Mark Collins 15:46  I think of a client of mine who had and is having multimillion-dollar transactions in the real estate and business development field. And for him, it was that thing where success was a relief, it wasn't a celebration. Because again, those thought patterns, the imposter syndrome, the fear of failure, those things that come along with it, really, every success was just a momentary ability to prove that you weren't somebody who was going to fail at it. The problem is it never changes you. It just gives you a momentary satisfaction that you have to repeat over and over again, the hamster wheel of success. And so if I could talk to your first question, can you get over imposter syndrome? Can it be something that you don't struggle with? Absolutely. That's actually the goal that we have in our course. A lot of the systems that we use are to give you the transformation. And I make the designation of change versus transformation.Lesley Logan 15:46  Okay. Mark Collins 15:46  Because when I was trying to figure it out my own life, trying to become the person, right, that man on the inside that I believed I could be, that wasn't always showing up, and I didn't plan on being the guy that was stressed out, sweating through my pajamas at three in the morning. It was just part of the anxiety and issues that came along with it. But I always believed there was somebody more. Tried personal development in a lot of ways and the problem with many of the programs that I did, they all give you results, and they all have benefits. The challenge is that many of them give you habits to manage your life, manage your anxiety, anger management. Say these mantras, bludgeon your thoughts over until they come into alignment with what you want to be. The problem is they never work. And here's the reason why, Lesley, because the habit I use to get there is the habit I have to maintain to stay there. And that doesn't sound like transformation or freedom. What it sounds like is exhaustion, because I don't believe that we have to maintain habits to again, bludgeon my thoughts into aligning with what I'm trying to believe I am. But what I do believe is, when you live from who you're created tobe, when you know who you are, then that's the easiest life possible. What I tell people is this, it's the easiest life ever living from a place of life mastery, because it's literally me just living from who I'm created to be at the highest level I'm created for in every area of life. What's exhausting is life management, which is me trying to attack my thoughts when they happen. It's that life by default, right? It's trying to attack them when they happen, expect that they'll always be there, you know, even to the point where I had this conversation with somebody who was eight or nine figure, multimillionaire, amazing person, and he said this. He said, with every business transaction, fear of failure comes in, and I have to wrestle with it. He says I guess that's just part of the process. It just drove me crazy, because the truth of the matter is that we're not meant to deal with fear of failure, and again, if you understand who you're created to be and live from that place, it's the easiest thing. I don't have to measure up to be who I am. I don't have to prove myself. I don't have to accomplish things to be who I am. I actually have accomplishment because of who I am, not to prove it. And in those places, you can have tools and strategies. We can talk about some of them, but the truth of the matter is, there's a better life.Lesley Logan 18:41  Okay, so I wanted to go into, I mean, I got really intrigued with Life Mastery and you kind of covered that a little bit, but I wanted to go into a couple more stories, because I think, I know my listeners, they see themselves in other people. And some of the things you brought up, I've seen myself, and I'm like, oh yeah, I definitely have been life managing. I want to life master. This sounds so much more fun. You've coached over 500 people, so I feel like you have to have a couple other transformative stories for us to hear about.Mark Collins 19:05  Yeah, absolutely. I think of a young man who highly successful in business, working within the government, and he was doing great in his job. The problem is he wasn't showing up at home. And so here's the interesting thing that you and I know, Lesley, it's that we think we can compartmentalize our emotions. And when I have stress at work, man, I'll just compartmentalize it. When I get home, I can be that bubbly personality that I'm supposed to be. The only person who thinks that is the person who's trying to do it. All the rest of us realize that. And so for this guy, he was having success in business, but with him again, living from who you're created to be or what your past has told you. For him, it was having a past that told him that relationships aren't safe. I can't trust other people, which is fine when you're single, but when you're married, it really doesn't lead to a great relationship.Lesley Logan 19:46  I'm like surprised he got married.Mark Collins 19:47  Yeah, well, you know, you do these things that you believe you're supposed to do, and it's the things that you're trying to do, and you, even in business, the interesting thing is, with people who are highly successful, the people I work with want more, they just don't know how to get there. They're like, this can't be everything. But the challenge is, so even in relationships, specifically, he wanted more in his relationship, he just didn't know how to get there. And so part of it was unpacking some of those lies and the issues that you've had of not being able to trust and therefore not being able to give, and in that place, showing up as a provider in his household, but not engaging emotionally, relationally or substantially within his household, it's that person you talk to which you can't really read, you can't really understand. And so for him, it was unpacking those things. It's starting to understand when I can show up as who I am. Well, I tell people this Lesley, when I understand who I'm created to be, my wife doesn't have to make up the difference. When I don't understand my identity, she does, and it's in every relationship, in all times, which means we need to be good, for me to be good, and there can't be stressor issues or challenges. I can't feel, you know? We can't have a hard conversation, because that could affect me, right? It's in business as well, in boardrooms and relationships with superiors and people that you have overseeing or business and trying to deal with clients the offense of other people in relationships can undermine you when you don't know who you are, when I know who I am, then I don't need you to prove it to me.Lesley Logan 21:09  Yeah. Mark Collins 21:10  And so for him, it was that place of being able to say, No, there's whatever the relationship is, I'm a person of worth and value. And in that place, you can give more of who you are when you're not worried about the results.Lesley Logan 21:24  I, there's so many good things in there. I think that, especially the couple thing like though, we have to be good for me to be good. Embarrassingly, I'm going to admit you guys, I have been binging out on some dating shows because they're not stressful for me. I'm not dating. I love my husband. We're good and we have a really lovely, healthy relationship. I don't need him to be good for me to be good.Mark Collins 21:44  That's awesome. Lesley Logan 21:45  But what you just said there, I watched and I'm like, oh, that's how I can tell who's gonna make it and who's not. Because I'm like, that person needs this person to complete them, and these people are just awesome on their own. You can see it, right? So I agree with everything you're saying there. I want to talk to the person who's kind of just beginning to recognize their battles with imposter syndrome. I think that a lot of people can get pretty far in life just dealing with it. Because, you know, especially if you put yourself in the right place, like you get a job, you do the thing, you can kind of not skate through because it's not going to be fun, but they're just beginning to deal with it, and now they're feeling it. And once you feel it, it's kind of hard to not feel it anymore. Is there anything that's in your book, or any tools that you have that could help them start their journey to the Life Mastery that you've been talking about?Mark Collins 22:27  Yeah, I love that. So the book is a mirror of my course called Life Mastery. And so the tools are in bulk. What I tell people about my book is it, I call it the Quick Start Guide to Life Mastery. So where the course is all the bells and whistles, the one-on-one coaching, and some of the other things that we have, you're able to take some nuggets in each of the chapters of the book and apply them. And what I tell people is, you can read something today, apply it this week, and find transformation this month. And so in that area, it all starts with this, Lesley, it starts with identity, who you're created to be. And so very early on, we're going to start to unpack understanding who are you apart from your things. And those things that we're talking about is your position, it's your title, it's your income, it's your possessions, it's the things that we believe make us we don't really say that they do until they're taken away. And all of a sudden it's, oh, okay, I lost my job, or my business is failing, or whatever the thing is, right? In many times we think that because I am okay on the outside, I'm okay on the inside, like I said. So the very first thing we do is say, okay, well, let's take away all of that and find out what's left, your character, your value, your worth. And for us, we tell people to write an "I Am" statement. Statement starts with "I am" everything else you fill in the blank. I am a person of character and worth. I'm a person of strength and value. I'm a person who finds answers to challenges. I'm a person who overcomes every problem that I face, or whatever the things are that are yours. Those are some of mine. It's the person that you are showing up. As I told you earlier, the thing I said was, you're the answer to the circumstance you're walking into. You're not the question to be figured out. When I understand who I am, I realize I'm the answer, which means that I'm fully capable in every circumstance. Doesn't mean every circumstance is amazing. Doesn't mean I have answers to every question that's going to come up. It means that I'm confident that I'm able and fully able to do everything I need to become and create a positive outcome to that situation.Lesley Logan 24:13  Oh my God, Mark. Oh my God. I want a thousand Post-Its, put "I Am" statements all over my office because I just want to see them all, and I want to read the transcripts of my own podcast, because you have way too many good quotes in there. You have such good things for like, there's a nugget for every person who's listening. You guys, you can rewind this and listen again. There's just so many good little nuggets you can chew on and think about. So thank you for that.Mark Collins 24:39  Absolutely. So what's the outcome of that when I start to show up and start to believe I'm that person, what people don't realize is not just this cool mindset hack and this positive affirmation that I'm telling myself when I'm speaking from the truth of who I am. Then now, all of a sudden, we could get to the neuroscience of it, and I don't need to. I'm a little bit nerdy sometimes. But here's the truth of the matter. Or I tell people this, and it's one of the strategies we use as well, which is mastering your thoughts. I tell them, Lesley, who you think you are, you'll become. And so what happens is, when I come in as the person who's the answer to the circumstance, not the question to be figured out. Now all of a sudden you have those empowering emotions like confidence and assurance and all the things that will bring answers. And so cognitively, you start to get answers. You start to find ideas. You start to get these solutions that may happen and the things you can do, and strategies and ways to navigate and to do those things. When you come as a person who's like, I don't know what's going to happen here. I'm not sure what's going to happen. Oh, this is a huge problem. I don't know how we're going to. Now, all of a sudden, you get disempowering emotions like anxiety and fear and worry and stress. And again, speaking about neuroplasticity, you have those chemicals that come into your body. You know, it's the fight or flight or freeze scenario where you're like, okay, well, stress happens. Or when I was walking through my Life Mastery journey, early on, anger would come up because, you know, oh, I can't believe whatever the things that are happening, none of them is leading you towards solutions. All of them are focusing on a problem. But again, when you show up as you understand that you're the answer. Now, biochemically, neurologically, you actually have answers. So it's not just some fluff and some pat on your back mindset information. It's actually showing up and giving yourself the best capability to be the best you in all circumstances.Lesley Logan 26:19  Yes, yes. That is so good. I mean, like, just even the idea of coming into the room knowing who you are, versus being a question to be solved, you guys, that's being it till you see it. Coming into the room as, like, that's just what it is.Mark Collins 26:32  Exactly. Lesley Logan 26:33  This is amazing. This is so good. Because I think I get really good at catching the imposter syndrome when it's happening, you know, like, I'm like, oh, I'm feeling the fear. This is a worry. This is me upper limiting. I'm sabotaging this right now. I actually know the answer. I kind of like talk myself through it, and I have told myself that that is fine and normal and wonderful. Am I wrong? And is overcoming imposter syndrome mean I don't even have the moments like that or that I actually recognize them and understand them to be false and can move forward with what I know?Mark Collins 27:02  That is a huge victory. That's a huge victory. So, so if you were to look back on our lives right, yourself, myself, anybody who's listening or watching, there's a time when that wasn't happening, there's a time when you would spiral into negativity and worry and stress and whatever the things are. So I tell people this Life Mastery isn't a moment. It's a journey, but it's a journey that has moments, and so in those times like that, I would invite my people to invest in is recognize those moments and celebrate the fact that, wow, I'm changing, I'm transforming, I'm growing. And it's those times when you recognize it, where you're like, what I tell people is this, it's not that negative emotions aren't happening or those thoughts won't come in, but they have no place to land, and they don't get to manipulate your life anymore. That's a huge victory. And then they'll become far and far in between, and then you'll find there's greater and greater levels of stress and challenge you can walk into without even having them show up, and you find out about it afterwards, you're like, I just locked into what I needed to do and got this thing done. I didn't even think about it. So it comes in stages, but every one of them is a celebration, because every one of them is, you know, Lesley or Mark or whoever the person is listening, it's you, transforming and changing, becoming that person. Again, that hero in hiding, showing up.Lesley Logan 28:13  Oh, I love that. Thank you for that compliment. Now I'm doing a great job and.Mark Collins 28:17  You are, though. That's amazing.Lesley Logan 28:19  Yeah, yeah, no. And I also like, what's really cool is they are fewer and farther. They don't happen next to each other, which is really great. And when they do, it's usually the same one twice. I was like, okay, hold on. You didn't really stop and think about that. Yes, listen, I have lots of conversations with myself. I'm an Aquarius. We're in our head a lot. You are a wealth of knowledge. I feel like we could all take weekend courses, but we're gonna take a brief break and find out how we can take your course, read your amazing book and learn more from you.Lesley Logan 28:45  All right, Mark, so you said you got a book, and a course, they kind of go together, but I can read the book if I'm wanting to do the light version, or if I need to go all in. Tell me more about where I can find these things and which one I need.Mark Collins 28:56  Yeah, absolutely. So first off, where can you find them? I try and be a one-stop shop. So everything is on my website, which is freedom-for-life.net freedom-for-life.net. What's the difference between the two? Well, there's those folks who are like myself, and maybe you, Lesley, you seem to be that type that you know I don't want. I don't want the appetizer. I want the whole meal. I want that one-on-one coaching. I want everything so that I know I have those things, right? It's the all in one process. So that's the course. The course has all of those in there. But the book has value, and it has value in that those folks who are like, I want to find some nuggets. I want to do some things that are really changing my life. I want to engage in this. I really don't know where to start. The book is a great way to do that. I have it as a eBook version on my website, and the reason for that is, I have hard copy. You can get those at Amazon, but I love the fact that you can carry it around on your phone, because it's an eBook. So you can have it anywhere that you're at, so at any time you have so I know you're working with, you're having a lot of business professionals that don't have a lot of time. You always have it available.Lesley Logan 29:54  That's cool. I like what you even said about the book. You can learn something today, use it this week and transform in a month, or I'm misquoting you, but that's what it felt like, and I experienced in the month and I actually think that that's really cool. And so if even people are like, I'm not sure I can trust myself, I think you could start there, and then you can always go to the course. You can do whatever you want, guys like, whatever you've been called to. But I really like this. And also, thanks for having a one-stop shop. Makes it really easy on where everyone can click. It's in the show notes, guys. Lesley Logan 30:18  All right, you have literally given so much. I think there's so many different parts we can go back and re-listen, but, we cannot end without our bold, executable, intrinsic, targeted steps to be it till you see it. What do you have for us?Mark Collins 30:32  Yeah, so the first thing is the one that we talked about. It the "I Am" statement, do not move past that until you do that. Anything you do to try and create mantras and things that you tell yourself, affirmations, if they're not tied to who you are, then they're really you becoming an imitation of somebody else. So start with that "I Am" statement, who you are, apart from your things. The reason why that's important is one of our, we have a three-step transformational process mastering your thoughts, words and actions. I'll unpack thoughts really quickly, and that is this, who you think you are, you'll become. You know, Lesley, you're as successful as you are because you believed at some level you'd be that person someday. Well, for all of us here, you're not going to be that person you're created to be in every area until you believe it, until you think it. And so that starts with thoughts. Well, what do those thoughts do? They allow you to have actions towards the person you're created to be. What thoughts should you align with? Well, start with your "I Am" statement. I do affirmations, and I tell everybody to do affirmations multiple times a day, because life happens multiple times a day. Thoughts happen multiple times a day. And so I remind myself of who I'm created to be with my "I Am" statement, again, that's the affirmation you're going to use aligned with who you are. The second thing, and this will be the last for us right now, what are the words that you're saying? Interesting things about vocalization and words, they do two things. They confirm who you believe you are, and they give you instructions to live out. Cognitively, your brain listens to what you're saying, and it finds ways of aligning with that. So when you're minimizing who you are, when you're maximizing the issues and challenges in your life, you're focusing on the things you can't control and the ones that hold you back. When I continue to speak towards the things that I am and who I am, and those same vocalizations are in the things that I'm going to do. I am a person of solutions and answers. I find quality answers for every problem that I walk through. You're going to give yourself instructions to live them out. They align with your thoughts, align with who you're created to be. Your "I Am" statement, and now that man or woman starts to show up in every area of your life. What's your "I Am" statement? What are you telling yourself, your thoughts are either aligning with who you're created to be, or they're lying to you, and it's the same with your words. What actions are you giving yourself to live out? What confirmation have you given of who you believe you are? They're either aligned with your "I Am" statement and who you're created to be, or they're lying to you. The more you tell yourself the truth, the more you see yourself show up as a hero that you're created to be.Lesley Logan 32:51  Oh, my freaking goodness, so good. I love all these I'm really into it. We just had someone, I just interviewed who actually was talking about, we have to redefine words we're saying to ourselves, because oftentimes we'll say something, it's like rephrase it or redefine it, because the words you say matter and they make a big difference. So this is a double dose. It's a sign everyone that you have, that we all need to be doing this.Lesley Logan 33:13  So Mark Collins, thank you so much. You guys, the book is Life Mastery. So is the course. Please take a look at his amazing work, re-listen to this. And I think we all have a friend who needs to hear this. I think we all do. I already can't wait for Brad to hear it. So please share this with a friend, because and only will that change their life. And here's the thing, when your friends' lives change, and they start to be more positive and they don't have imposter syndrome, you do too. We are the average of people we hang out with, so it's really important that we help other people be it till they see it. So thank you all so very much, and until next time, Be It Till You See It. Bye.Lesley Logan 33:48  That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It Podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review and follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcast. Also, make sure to introduce yourself over at the Be It Pod on Instagram. I would love to know more about you. Share this episode with whoever you think needs to hear it. Help us and others Be It Till You See It. Have an awesome day. 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Her roles span from being a playwright, a producer, to a lifestyle expert, each showcasing her diverse skills and expertise. As a playwright, Malone crafts compelling stories, dialogues, and characters for theatrical productions, demonstrating her creativity, storytelling prowess, and understanding of dramatic structure and audience engagement. In her role as a producer, Malone oversees various aspects of bringing a creative project to fruition, whether it's a play, film, or television show. This includes securing funding, assembling talent and crew, managing budgets and schedules, and ensuring the production's overall success. Beyond theater and production, Malone also shines as a lifestyle expert, offering advice and insights into various aspects of living well. This could encompass fashion, beauty, health, wellness, and personal development, leveraging her experience and knowledge to help others enhance their lifestyles. One of her latest and most exciting projects is "The Bucket Wish. This documentary follows her personal quest to live the life she always imagined. It captures her journey and is meant to inspire others to chase their dreams. This project is a testament to her versatility, adaptability, and comprehensive understanding of the entertainment industry. Her multidisciplinary approach allows her to pursue her creative passions and leverage her skills and expertise across various domains, maximizing her impact and success as an entrepreneur in the entertainment field. If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox. DEALS! DEALS! DEALS! DEALS!Check out all our Preferred Vendors & Special Deals from Clair Sparrow, Sensate, Lyfefuel BeeKeeper's Naturals, Sauna Space, HigherDose, AG1 and ToeSox Be in the know with all the workshops at OPCBe It Till You See It Podcast SurveyBe a part of Lesley's Pilates MentorshipFREE Ditching Busy Webinar Resources:Watch the Be It Till You See It podcast on YouTube!Lesley Logan websiteBe It Till You See It PodcastOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley LoganOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley Logan on YouTubeProfitable Pilates Follow Us on Social Media:InstagramThe Be It Till You See It Podcast YouTube channelFacebookLinkedInThe OPC YouTube Channel Episode Transcript:Ericka Nicole Malone 0:00  It's just jumping into it, right? Sometimes you don't know that if you just jump into something new what will be on the other side? And how many people have died never tapping, never looking behind the curtain. At the end of it, you may not hold the trophy, you may not get the Oscar, but you tried and there's beauty in it.Lesley Logan 0:24  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started.  Lesley Logan 1:05  All right, Be It babe. I am so excited for this episode to be in your ears today, and if you're watching on YouTube, you're gonna see that I'm in a different place in the pod room, because our guest is in my seat. Ericka Nicole Malone is our guest today. She is multifaceted. We can add so many different titles to her, but she's a writer, director, producer, executive producer. She is also a singer songwriter. She's doing a lot of amazing things. She's got incredible series out on Hulu right now, and then she's also going to be releasing an incredible documentary called The Bucket Wish. And we talked about confidence and negative people and getting your ideas out in the world and doing things for you. It was just really beautiful and authentic and really fun. I'm excited for you, not only to hear this amazing interview, I'm also excited to watch her girl documentary, which will be out this fall. I hope that you write down your own quotables. You know, we put them on the podcast interview Instagram, and hopefully you save those and share those. But seriously, grab a stack of Post-Its, and every time she says something you want to remember write it down, because you're going to have a bunch of little Post-Its you can put around your room to remind you that you're doing beautiful things in this world and the world needs to see your beautiful things. And that is what Ericka Nicole Malone is here to tell you. Lesley Logan 2:18  All right, Be It babe, I'm really excited. I have a guest in the house today. This is so fun. It's so fun when there's a guest that's local. And I can't believe our paths haven't crossed before. But thank goodness for our dear friend Allison, who made sure I heard all about Ericka Nicole Malone and what she is up to does nothing short of kind of amazing. She is a multifaceted human, singer, writer, director. Forgive me if I put a title in there, you're not doing but I'm sure youre gonna do it soon. Ericka Nicole Malone, will you tell everyone who you are and what you're rocking at?Ericka Nicole Malone 2:48  Yeah. My name is Ericka Nicole Malone. I am a writer, a playwright, a screenwriter, author. I am a woman who is always about reinventing herself and inspiring others to reinvent themselves. And I am also an executive director, executive producer, and just full of life and wanting to live life and wanting other people to live theirs.Lesley Logan 3:12  Yeah. Okay, so you said I want to inspire people to live their life, and we're helping people with that. Where did that kind of come from? Is that something you want to do always? Is that, was there something that happened in your life, and then you're like, I've got to help other people. What's that impetus? What was that beginning? Ericka Nicole Malone 3:27  I feel like it's kind of innate. I remember being little and just really caring about other people. It was. I remember being six or seven and going to the bank with my mother, and they'd hand out these suckers, which I think they still do. So this has been going on a minute, and I just remember they say here honey, here's a sucker, you're so cute. And I was like, but can I have a sucker for my brother? And they were like they give me a sucker. I was like, but I have two brothers. They give me, you know, two suckers. They're like, oh my gosh. You just, you don't care about just getting a sucker for yourself. You care about your brother getting a sucker. And I've always been concerned about other people making it too. And the world and people hurting and just people in bathrooms. Whenever there's a housekeeper or maid in the bathroom, I'm always tipping them. I always, I'm always concerned about people being looked over and forgotten and it's just so important to me that people find I get so shocked when people don't realize when they don't see people, they don't see homeless people, or they don't see people who are around them, or shoe shine man, that I'm always wondering how he's feeling throughout his day. And so yeah, it's always a big part of who I am.Lesley Logan 4:42  Yeah, I understand that we were talking about before we hit record, and it's like, it's really easy for people to put themselves in places where they don't have to see anybody. Yeah, I'm so used to having all the different types of people around that it would make me uncomfortable to not see them. I have this funny story. My dad is really funny. He'll say, I don't want to talk to anybody. I don't wanna go there. I have to talk to people. And the first thing we do when we're out of the car, he talks to everybody. He talks to every, we go to the gym at the Plaza Hotel and Casino, and we park in VIP, and he talks to every security guard always, even if he just said hello to them, because they let us through the gate, he still makes sure to talk to them. And I just laugh so hard because he's always like, I don't want to talk to people. But then he talks to everybody, to everyone, and I but I love it, because he sees everybody. And I think that that's something that like it's hard, it's not hard to do. It's actually quite something we could all do. But we get so busy in our phones and things like that, we don't see every people. And we also get really concerned with what's going on with ourselves that we forget to be concerned with others. You have been, you mentioned all these different amazing things. I also saw that you are learning to play the flute. So I guess what I think a lot of people will wonder when they heard all these things that you do is, how do you have, how did you have the time? Are you doing or are you learning different things at the same time? How did you go from producer, director, executive director, like, what was that line? What was that journey? Ericka Nicole Malone 6:01  Well, when I wrote Remember Me: The Mahalia Jackson Story, my business partner and I, I'm the executive producer of that, along with my business partner, we wanted to finance it ourselves, and so that people could see the story. It's now on Hulu, but at the time, we worked with amazing director her name is Denise Dowse, but at the time we produced it and it was done, it was an amazing feat to see something that you created come to life, but it was like, now, after I did that, before I wrote another script, I've kind of felt in my spirit I needed to create something else, and it was to push the limits within myself. What are some of the things that I could have done that I didn't finish, or things that I did try and I failed at? What are some of the things and as I started writing the documentary for The Bucket Wish and creating the documentary, I realized that even though I have these huge feats that I have accomplished, there were things in my past that I quit on, like playing the flute, and when I was 10, or swimming, when I was around, I think it was eight or nine. What are some of the things that I didn't succeed? And something I realized that when I failed at something, I just pushed it to the side. And I really wanted to explore that. Writing is something I excel in, right? So, of course, I'm not going to push that to the side, because I can do that in my sleep, right? So I'm gonna, I can write something, you know? What do you want? I can get that done tomorrow, but something that you don't do well, you know what I mean, and part of that is where your confidence is, things that you, I'm saying, not everyone's meant to be a botanist. That's not what I'm saying. But I'm saying, if it's something that you yearn to do, say, you yearn to play the guitar, or you yearn to play drums or something, right? It's in your spirit, and it's calling out to you, and maybe you just don't do it as well, it doesn't mean you should stop doing it all together. Right? And I would just stop doing it all together and just focus on what I was good at. And that's not necessarily what builds your confidence. I think what builds your confidence is you have a yearning and a sense of wonder, and you're thinking, I want to try this or that, but maybe you fail, but you get back up and you keep trying. That is what builds your confidence. Doesn't mean you're going to do it as a career. It just means that you're living.Lesley Logan 8:20  Yeah. I think this is really beautiful, because one of the things this podcast is about is ditching perfection. And I think we expect ourselves, we have to be good at the thing we said we're gonna do. We don't allow us to be beginners anymore. Ericka Nicole Malone 8:32  Exactly.Lesley Logan 8:34  And so people. Ericka Nicole Malone 8:35  Or look silly. Lesley Logan 8:36  Look silly. Exactly. So we were, we weren't good at something. And I also think even kids today, they're like, in one sport their whole lives, and I remember playing seven sports, and my dad's like, it's okay that you're not good. You're gonna keep going to practice, and you don't quit until the end of the season, and if you don't like it, (inaudible) you don't have to do it again. So I love what you're talking about, because confidence really is kind of it's about following through. It's not necessarily doing it for your work. And also, since when do we have to make everything we do make money, right? We could just go swimming.Ericka Nicole Malone 9:06  You can just go swimming. And, you know, I use this as a, I don't know if you saw Willy Wonka when it came out. I'm a big Willy Wonka fan from the very first inception, but also the new Wonka. But what I love about Wonka is it's just jumping into it, right? Sometimes you don't know that if you just jump into something new, what will be on the other side. And how many people have died never tapping, never looking behind the curtain. At the end of it, you may not hold the trophy, you may not get the Oscar, but you tried and there's beauty in it.Lesley Logan 9:44  Yeah. Okay, so Bucket Wish is this, is the documentary of you trying things out? Ericka Nicole Malone 9:48  Trying things, you know, the flute, I don't know. And so funny is there's different nuances of flute I don't like, specifically spitting. But, I hate germs and so it's a lot for me, but I'm gonna, I'm gonna finish the lessons, right? Because that's the whole point. But I don't know if I'll do it, but I'm going to finish the lessons, but I might be a drummer. Doesn't seem like there's as much spitting with drums. I'm not sure. There's that and there's swimming. I need to learn to swim, all those kinds of things, photography, I'm really attracted to taking pictures, and so I bought the camera. And so it's just different things. I'm gonna try and hopefully inspire people who have thought about giving up on their life, taking their life, that there's more out there. Don't quit. There's more. Keep walking.Lesley Logan 10:39  Yeah. What is it like to kind of put yourself to be a beginner over and over again, though, because I think that's a special I mean, it does build confidence. But also it's like to be a beginner at swimming, to be a beginner at playing the flute, to do these different things that are in your Bucket Wish. What was that like?Ericka Nicole Malone 10:55  You know, it was, it was scary. That's the best word I can say. I had gotten into The Groundlings in Los Angeles when I auditioned, and I didn't finish. This was about six years ago, but I was, I was like, this is gonna be hard. I'm gonna have to come to class every day and they do these little projects and they, they do experiments. I'm like, this sounds like forever. I just don't have it. And so I did, but I, so I did comedy in the The Bucket Wish because I was like, there was obviously a yearning for me. I graduated from youth performing arts high school in theater. So theater has always been a huge talent of me. So to do the comedy and do stand up was pretty scary to say the least, but because I'm a huge comedy fan. I love Tina Fey, I love all of those people, but I can tell you, it grew my confidence. And again, I thought I was confident because I'm a writer. I have a movie on Hulu. But I wasn't as confident as I thought I was. And that was shocking, because I'm like, I did modeling. What do you mean? I've some passions. What? But I wasn't and it wasn't until I did The Bucket Wish that I really became as confident as I know I could be. And now I'm shooting a new series. It's a lifestyle series I'm the host of, and I don't think I would have been as confident to do this had I not did The Bucket Wish.Lesley Logan 12:18  It's really funny. You may remember that I didn't finish a comedy class. I signed up for one in LA called Pretty Funny Women. Ericka Nicole Malone 12:25  Didn't know that. Lesley Logan 12:26  Uh huh, yeah. So Pretty Funny Women, if you, I mean, you're back and forth in LA, that woman, you have to know her, like, I will find her email and connect to she is amazing. And I went to the comedy class. I was on Monday nights, and I was late. It was, like, at eight something at night, which means, and I was in the valley, so I had to drive. But you know what I mean? Ericka Nicole Malone 12:42  It's such a track. Lesley Logan 12:43  Such a track, right? Which is the thing about trying new things, it's getting the routine around it. Anyways, she was like, yeah, you guys have to go to open mics. And I was like, that's fine. I'm okay because they won't know who I am anyway, so it doesn't really matter to me, but open mics are like, one in the morning, guys, 11 o'clock at night. I'm like, I'm in bed. (inaudible) Yeah. So then I was just like, are there lunchtime comedians? Is this like a thing?Ericka Nicole Malone 13:07  Cafe comedian? It's like, we're drinking morning coffee. Lesley Logan 13:11  Yeah, yeah. I think that maybe this is not the vocation for me. I know because I was just like, I can't even do the homework. And she really, bless her soul, she really, really, really tried to get me come back. She's like, you're really funny, I think you've got some great experiences to share. And I was like, I agree with you, and I'm grateful that you saw that in me. Is there like an 8pm open mic?Ericka Nicole Malone 13:33  I totally, I totally need an 8 pm.Lesley Logan 13:35  I don't care if there's one person in that room, I just can't do two in the morning. I'm not that person. Ericka Nicole Malone 13:42  Yeah, like, what are we doing up? Let's laugh about that. Why are you still up at one in the morning? So it's, you know, but comedy was fun. I mean, I always knew I was funny, but I'm like, bougie funny, you know? Like, I'll be funny depending on how I feel or something. But it was great. That was the hardest thing. Swimming was actually the hardest, but comedy was pretty amazing. Yes, please keep me in contact with that lady. I'll try, I'll try it and finish it. Maybe, maybe.Lesley Logan 14:08  I mean, sounds like you already did, but swimming, I think swimming is really hard, depending on how you were your experience was, if I remember you had a kind of a traumatic swimming experience. Ericka Nicole Malone 14:18  Yeah, it was someone who pushed me in the water, and you just find (inaudible). I gotta tell you, when I was shot at the swimming, it's still hard. You're immersing yourself and it's what it says I have a huge pool in my backyard. I just look at like, I look at it like it's a lake. I enjoy it like a resort, but I don't get in it. It's just like the water is just like you feel like you're, you have no control. I feel like I'm drowning even though I'm not. So it's so definitely psychosomatic. But I am going to keep doing swimming because it's life or death. You know, you have to learn how to swim. Lesley Logan 14:52  Yeah, it's a good skill to have. Okay, so I mentioned a few times, but can you tell everyone a little bit more about Bucket Wish? I mean, it's you trying out new things. What can people expect from it? Are you hoping they try like they start their own Bucket Wish? How do we write a Bucket Wish?Ericka Nicole Malone 15:07  I'm just basically using myself, you know? Because when you think of the bucket list, it's like, here's my last list before God takes me out of here. I'm gonna do all these things, God, I'm gonna jump. But this is not, this is what are your wishes? What are the wishes for your life while you're living? These are wishes for you to complete while you're living. It's a whole other dynamic, because you're gonna live say, I want you to be 20 and do a bucket wish. What are some of the things that you've always imagined you could do? Maybe it's animation. Maybe you want to write a children's book, I don't know, but I want you to believe that you can do it, and I want you to try, yeah, I want you to try, even if you have to put a little pin it, put a little note card in and say okay, I'm gonna need a little break. I'm gonna come back here. Follow through. Follow through on your wishes for you.Lesley Logan 15:59  Okay I really love the way you describe that, because I think it's true. There's the bucket list, which is, like, I want to do this before I die, which means you can kind of postpone it till forever (inaudible).Ericka Nicole Malone 16:08  Yeah. I will be 80, like, I must do my bucket wish. Lesley Logan 16:11  I know people are always people are surprised, because I haven't been to a lot of places in Europe, and I'm like, guys, I've not been to Paris, it looks beautiful. It's on my list. Ericka Nicole Malone 16:19  It's on my list. It's our bucket wish. Lesley Logan 16:22  Yeah. But we, I think if I put it on a bucket wish, it becomes something that's a little bit more like, it's not gonna happen now and I gotta be thinking about it.Ericka Nicole Malone 16:29  Yeah and it's shocking, because when I had those in front of me, by the way, that I was fresh off, I mean, I had no idea what my wishes were. It's like, oh, my God, do I have to do these things? And you're gonna tape them.Lesley Logan 16:43  Yeah. So, okay, so you had people. So here's the thing, because everyone listening here is like, okay, I wanna write my Bucket Wish. You not only wrote The Bucket Wish, you actually then did it, but you had to let people watch you do it, which means you had to do, you couldn't back out. Ericka Nicole Malone 16:56  It was like, it was trauma. And I'm telling you when I was gonna do the comedy in front of that microphone or in the back, I'm in the back dressing room with hair and makeup, and I'm like, I just hope this inspires people. You know, I had no idea how emotional I was because I was so afraid of being you have no idea how private I am. I am so private. So for me to do this, it's my love of humanity that wants to inspire people to jump. I mean, as just so many people, they were like, I feel like taking my life during COVID. I don't know what to do and I didn't recognize people really just don't know what to do. And even now, after the strikes, you had COVID in the strikes in LA, a lot of people are just trying to recapitulate. A lot of crew people trying to recapitulate. It's not the easiest thing to do is to, you know, so make some wishes, and you might not know that in that wish is a career or a path. Yeah, you know the way it is. You never and for me, it's God. For someone else, it might be something else, but for me, it's like you won't know until you take the step, as Dr. King said, take the step and the staircase will appear. Lesley Logan 18:06  Yeah, yeah. I think you're, I think that's true. So many people just do what they did before and then it's scary when there's time on our hands. We don't know what to do with time on our hands, you know. And so. Ericka Nicole Malone 18:17  What do we do? Lesley Logan 18:18  But if you had tried out different things, even if you weren't good at them, even the act of the connections, like my husband, I, everyone's like, how did you raise me? And I'm like, we're in just by a mutual friend, and that friend is not even in our lives now. And she's like, and it wasn't even a bad thing. Nothing bad happened. She was kind of just like in for the season of one summer.  Ericka Nicole Malone 18:38  And then, and then she drifted away. Lesley Logan 18:39  And she drifted away, and I still see what she's doing on Instagram. She got married. Congratulations. It's really funny, but I put myself in a different position, and that year to meet a new friend, and I was trying out new things with her, and that's how I met him. It's just you never not saying you're all gonna meet your husband, but you might meet a future business partner or a best friend, or no. You just don't know. But you have to try out things that are a little scary and a little bit like, what am I doing this for? What's the purpose behind this? Because it helps you find more purpose. Ericka Nicole Malone 19:07  It really does. And so much of my life, I tell people all the time, everybody's like when am I gonna make it? I'm gonna, I just don't know. I don't know if it's gonna happen for me. And no big signs are coming, big movements, but all of my biggest blessings have come in small things. It's the small things that you're like, I don't know, just something like, it's worth my time. I don't know if I'm gonna do this. And you turn things, you turn your nose up, and then wrapped up in that is this big, precious jewel that you'd never see had you not taken a step so just be open to the small things. Don't always think hmm, this, I'm too good for this, because maybe it's not the person, but maybe it's two degrees of separation from this person and the next. Lesley Logan 19:55  Yeah, yeah. So okay, I kind of want to go back to before the Sun Dance before the Hulu story that you wrote, what was it like to try to get your dreams that you had on paper out into the world? Because I think I know from living in LA it is not. There are so many scripts that so many people are going to say, oh, I want to do that. I want to do that, and it can get shelved. All these things would happen. How did you keep going? What was that journey like? And what was, what were you telling yourself to just keep putting one step in front of the other, like you were saying? Ericka Nicole Malone 20:26  I feel like I'm a great manifester. I think it has a lot to do with the fact that I'm from Louisville, Kentucky, originally, and I lived in Los Angeles for a little bit, in Burbank in Glendale when I was selling the sitcom pilot. But I always get my house in Kentucky up till about five years ago. But when you're a black woman writer in Kentucky, so it does kind of help you to be really mentally tough and definitely, when I grew up, there weren't, you know, it's a sports town, and I'm like, yeah, I'm a writer. And they're like, okay, she's strange. Yeah, I mean, that's good, you know, I went to performing arts high school, but I think everyone kind of just thought I had a lot of lofty goals, and they thought I was delusional, I would say, but I just believed it was going to happen. So, you know, after I wrote Remember Me: The Mahalia Jackson Story, my business partner and I, you know, I shopped around Hollywood honestly, and another movie came out. It was in similar vein, but we just believed that it was going to happen, and we would put it in film festivals. It just took off and we ended up winning 40 film festivals, 58, 60 nominations. And from that, then I was able, we were able to get it licensed on Hulu, because it had already gained traction for itself. So I think it's just the belief in your own project and belief in your vision and film festivals are always a plus, especially if you're a new writer, burgeoning writer. For me, I wasn't new, but a lot of people hadn't heard of me. But, you know, I wrote plays to pay for tuition in college, and I believe that people would show up. And they did. I'd have 800 students in college when I was, like, 17 years old, $2 a ticket, and in my 20s, thousands of people would come to the plays. I just believe they would. I guess I just always believe it's gonna happen. And I believe that if I create a project, someone's going to buy it. It just depends on your perspective. I think if you're like, oh God, this is I'm gonna create this I wrote this magazine, or I did this animation, nobody's gonna buy this comic book you know, I'm just wasting my time. I should. Nobody's gonna buy it. Why should I buy your comic book? If you don't like your comic book or your animation or your children's book, you have to believe oh, my God, I wrote something. You just did not understand how amazing this is going to be. It's going to be really earth shattering. It is, and you're gonna love it. And they're like, Well, I mean, I don't know I wish I was gonna be if it's really good. Now, here's the thing, you have to have the quality. You can't over promote and under produce. I'll say that. But if it's really good, you have to believe that what is meant to be will happen for you because it will happen. It is possible. And so I tell people who don't have the money, they're like, I don't have the money. I want to, I'm a writer. I don't have the money. How do I do it? But do you have a phone? Do you have people that are actors that you can produce something on your phone? People have won awards for their phone movies. Then you put it in festivals, and then it'd be all of a sudden, next thing you know, this happens and that happens. Believe it's possible. So my next thing was, like, The Bucket Wish. I'm just gonna do a documentary. Never done one. Let's do it. I want to do it. I want to have this idea about wishes. If it comes to me, I believe it's supposed to manifest. I just believe it. I don't ever not believe it. And something else I don't do is talk to naysayers. If you know your cousin Trudy is always negative. Why are you calling Trudy? Trudy is gonna say the same negative thing no matter how good the idea is. It's okay to believe in your own vision and talk to people who will get behind you because they believe in you. And a lot of times, if those one people who say something negative that are stopping that seed from growing that could be the one they say in everyone's life you come up with 15 million, a million dollar ideas in every single person's life. But what happens to them? And you say, I have had your videos, and nobody's gonna buy that. Nobody's gonna buy that. Lesley Logan 24:44  I mean, everyone needs to rewind that and hear that twice, because it's so true. First of all, the idea came to you because it wants to be born, and, it wants to be born, so in Big Magic, which I've read several times, she, Olivia Gilbert, talks about how ideas come to you because they want to be born, and she shares a story about how an idea came to her, and she did all the research, all the things, and she put it aside. You're a writer, you know, like you can talk about some of the stuff you do, but you keep a lot of the parts that you're writing close to your vest, because you're still writing it, and you're figuring it out. She met this other writer, and she didn't tell her what she was writing on, and the other writer didn't tell her what she was working on. And then eventually, months, months go down the road, and she finally says what are you working on? Just tell me, I'm, you know, whatever it is. And the woman tells her what she's working on. And it's the exact book that Elizabeth Gilbert was writing and had stopped writing because she had other stuff going on. It was to the T every single thing, and she's like do you want my research? Because she didn't steal my idea. The idea was like, I'm jumping from you to her because I want to be born. And so I just want to highlight that, because I fully believe that you're 100% correct. If an idea comes to you, you are meant to make it happen. And also, there was a podcaster who said 98% of people will not act on any idea. So you can actually even tell people your ideas, because only 2% of them will have, people will take action on that, which is so small.Ericka Nicole Malone 26:02  Really, I mean, and, you know, and also, an idea can't be copyright and only the expression of the idea, and they do that because of exactly what you said. A lot of times where you're thinking that someone's took your idea, it's really, is coincidental, believe it or not. But I have had things that I'm like, okay, this is too much like what I created, because it was so new. But you know, the best thing to do is it's okay to not tell everyone your idea, too. But it is okay, like you said, if you don't tell anybody, then at least do yours. Because if you don't gotta give the seed to somebody else, somebody else will think of that idea. So it's really important to, to that's what the Bucket Wish is about, like you said, it's very immediate. I have went ahead and forward and put down payment on all of these things. I've done 12 things in this movie, and I've put a down payment on all these things. Still making payments, still making payments.Lesley Logan 26:06  The documentary is going to be out, y'all can watch it this fall and she's still finishing out these. Ericka Nicole Malone 26:57  I'm still finishing out, because people are holding me to it. What's going on with the flute? I'm like, I'm still doing the flute. What's going on with the photography? Did you finish swimming? I mean, now you got people wanting receipts on things, you know, so it's forcing you. I have people inviting me to comedy clubs now. I mean, I'm like, okay, I said I have a single that's out now. And they're like, so we keep performing. Like, wait a minute. Hold on. Let me just put that (inaudible). It's grew my confidence because I honestly didn't think I was as multi-talented as I think I am. Lesley Logan 27:29  Oh, we, I think we are all creatives. And you got, you get to, you got to test all those different craze and see what you could do. I watched your music video. It's amazing. I was like, she sings too. I remember Alvin telling me she's got a music video. I'm like, as you've done films and shows you already have filmed things before, but filming a music video is a whole different experience.Ericka Nicole Malone 27:49  It's a whole different dynamic. And I honestly it's dope. And it's just, it's performance driven. And there's so many singers I've talked to, and they sound like, Midler and Celine Dion, and they sound amazing. And they're like, yeah, I'm just gonna get out and just sing at home. I'm like, if you don't put this album out so the world can be blessed by your voice. I was like, kind of using myself as a way to inspire all these amazing people to get out there and get back up and sing.Lesley Logan 28:16  Yeah. I want to highlight one more thing that you said. You said you have to believe in your idea, and you can't do that. So it's gonna it's this little thing. It's like, not this big deal, because it is true. We have to believe in our own ideas, because we are the ones. We're gonna fight for them the most. The best. And if you do, then there are other people who will spearhead and make connections because of your excitement. You're so excited about it. People are like, oh my God, so and so has to do that thing. If you keep it to yourself, you're just like, oh, it's this, this little thing I'm working on on the side, no one's gonna take you seriously. So no one's going to tell their friend about it, because why would they make that connection or talk about a thing that you're not excited about?Ericka Nicole Malone 28:57  Yeah, and I honestly, I'm not arrogant or anything, but I always knew I was special, and I think that's okay. I always knew I was different. I wasn't like everyone else in my class. I think people had that. They're like, I'm just like everybody. I don't think I am just like everybody else. I think I'm different. I think everyone's special in their own way, but I think I'm definitely special my way. So I think having the confidence to believe that you have something special, and I want to also say this, because a lot of people deal with depression, you have to stop talking to negative people. If, if you don't stop talking to negative people, you might as well just tell your dreams, just be honest with your dreams, and just tell them, look, we're not going to, we're not going to do anything, because I got to talk to Trudy, and Trudy has gossip, so I got to hear gossip. So I mean, it's more important than my dreams. And also fall to the middle. Don't fall all the way down, because in that it's time, if you are dealing with depression, try to fall to the middle. And tell people fall to the middle. That means it's okay. You're gonna have bad days, but just fall only so much. Don't go all the way down where it takes you don't get out of bed for two weeks and crying for three and. Don't do that because time is our most valuable asset. It wouldn't, money, you can let somebody have every bit of money you have, but just really time and your health. You have those two things you're all right.Lesley Logan 30:12  Oh my gosh. Ericka Nicole Malone, you have so many gems. You have these little quoting moments that I want to like just put on Post-Its to remind myself, because we all will have some bad days, but just fall in the middle.Ericka Nicole Malone 30:23  Fall to the middle. That's it. Don't fall all the way down. You don't belong there. There's nothing down there. Lesley Logan 30:28  Yeah. And I know you're all listening and saying, oh, but it's my mom who's a negative one. I can just not talk to my mom. You can. You can also just not tell her the dream you're working on. Dreams are precious. Tell it to the people who get excited for you and let mom talk to you about the weather.Ericka Nicole Malone 30:42  It's okay to have conversations that you're not giving all of yourself into. Yes, we have to check on our parents and everything, but you don't have to go so deep and tell every emotion just like, good morning, okay, have a good day. All right. Well, I'll talk to you later. Okay. Save the people for the safe space. Be careful on those. Don't tell safe dreams to unsafe people. Be very, very careful. You are your most valued treasure you have. Protect yourself. Protect your heart. Lesley Logan 31:12  Yeah, okay, we are gonna take a brief break, and we're going to come back and find out where people can find you, follow you, watch The Bucket Wish, and your Be It Action Items. Lesley Logan 31:21  All right, Ericka Nicole Malone, where can people follow what you're working on, watch your stuff, where can we send them?Ericka Nicole Malone 31:28  Please follow me in all my grandmother's wisdom, @ErickaNicoleMalone on Instagram and @ErickaNicoleMalone on Facebook, @ErickaNicoleMalone on TikTok, ErickaNicoleMalone on Twitter. You can follow me @ErickaNicoleMalone, that's E-R-I-C-K-A Nicole Malone.Lesley Logan 31:46  I love it. We'll have all those links in the show notes. You can follow her on your favorite social platform. You can watch The Bucket Wish this fall, yes? Ericka Nicole Malone 31:54  Yes. Lesley Logan 31:55  Awesome.Ericka Nicole Malone 31:55  I'm very excited. Lesley Logan 31:56  And do you know which platform it's on yet? Ericka Nicole Malone 31:57  I do not know yet, but it's going to be starting out in film festivals around the world. Lesley Logan 32:01  Perfect. You guys. Go see a film festival. They look so fun, like.Ericka Nicole Malone 32:05  They are amazing. They are blessings. Blessings to creatives. Thank you. Thank you, Film Festival. Lesley Logan 32:10  Go see a film festival. Put that on your Bucket Wish. Ericka Nicole Malone 32:13  That's right. Lesley Logan 32:13  Well, so okay, we always like to tell the listeners, because you gave us so many gems. But just in case they're like the overachiever, perfectionist, they need the action item, bold, executable, intrinsic or targeted steps they can take to be it till they see it. What do you have for us?Ericka Nicole Malone 32:26  Number one, I'm gonna say, be kind to yourself. Start with that. Stop beating yourself up. You are a good person, and you are trying, and you woke up this morning. So start with that. Make clear goals for your life, and don't give up. Don't give up. You do those three things and you'll be on your way. Lesley Logan 32:47  Yeah, yeah. And then they should make a Bucket Wish. Ericka Nicole Malone 32:50  Make a bucket wish. Make a bucket wish today. Lesley Logan 32:53  And tag Ericka Nicole Malone in when you're doing your Bucket Wish, so she can celebrate you. We can celebrate you. Tag the Be It Pod. You guys, share this with a friend who needs it. Share it with a friend who's been saying they want to do something and like, oh, I wish I'm gonna do that thing. Get this to them, because maybe this is a reminder that they need, that they can go try new things, and that's where their confidence is gonna come from. And leave us a review. 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Wenn Du auf eine Phishing-Mail hereingefallen bist, dir einen PC-Schädling eingefangen hast oder wenn Bösewichte sonstwie wichtige Login-Daten oder Kontozugänge erbeuten konnten: Tritt die Angreifer so richtig in den Ar***! Hol Dir Deine Accounts und vor allem Dein Geld zurück! Dir braucht nichts peinlich zu sein, schäme Dich nicht – die Angriffe werden immer ausgefeilter, sodass wir alle hereinfallen können. Christopher Kunz von heise security und Markus Montz von der c't geben Tipps zur Soforthilfe: Zuerst solltest Du etwaige betroffene Banken benachrichtigen, entweder per Telefon (116 116) oder in der jeweiligen App. Dann überlegst Du, welches Deiner Geräte (PC, Smartphone, Tablet) sicher sauber ist für die weiteren Maßnahmen oder welche anderen Geräte Du temporär nutzen könntest. Im Podcast erklären wir, warum Du als nächstes Anzeige bei der Polizei erstatten solltest, online oder auf der Wache. Und dann kann die mühselige Arbeit beginnen, Deine Online-Accounts aufzuräumen und abzusichern. Anfangen solltest Du mit Deinem primären E-Mail-Konto. Christopher und Markus erklären die wichtigen Einstellungen und auch welche versteckten Stellen Du im Auge behalten musst. Im zweiten Teil geben wir Tipps, wie man sich schützen kann. Zuerst durch Backups und Updates, und dann dadurch, für alle Dienste unterschiedliche Passwörter zu nutzen. Idealerweise erzeugt und speichert die sich ein separater Passwortmanager. Aber auch die Passwordmanager der Browser, ein selbstausgedachtes Schema oder notfalls die Schreibkladde oder die Post-Its am Monitor sind besser als mehrfach genutzte Passwörter. Zudem hilft, den Spam- und Phishing-Schutz des E-Mail-Providers zu aktivieren und auch die ähnlichen Funktionen von iOS und Android bezüglich SMS- und Anruf-Spam zu nutzen. SperrApp, Onlinewachen: https://www.heise.de/select/ct/2024/24/softlinks/yj52 Schutz-Tools: https://www.heise.de/select/ct/2024/24/softlinks/ytu4 Mit dabei: Christopher Kunz, Markus Montz Moderation: Jörg Wirtgen Produktion: Ralf Taschke ► Der c't-Artikel zum Thema (Paywall): So wehren Sie sich gegen Cyberkriminelle https://www.heise.de/select/ct/2024/24/2426218565017512852 Sie wurden gehackt: Das ist jetzt zu tun https://www.heise.de/select/ct/2024/24/2427409360385206853 So werden Sie nicht gehackt: Präventiver Schutz https://www.heise.de/select/ct/2024/24/2427409370036706473

Wenn Du auf eine Phishing-Mail hereingefallen bist, dir einen PC-Schädling eingefangen hast oder wenn Bösewichte sonstwie wichtige Login-Daten oder Kontozugänge erbeuten konnten: Tritt die Angreifer so richtig in den Ar***! Hol Dir Deine Accounts und vor allem Dein Geld zurück! Dir braucht nichts peinlich zu sein, schäme Dich nicht – die Angriffe werden immer ausgefeilter, sodass wir alle hereinfallen können. Christopher Kunz von heise security und Markus Montz von der c't geben Tipps zur Soforthilfe: Zuerst solltest Du etwaige betroffene Banken benachrichtigen, entweder per Telefon (116 116) oder in der jeweiligen App. Dann überlegst Du, welches Deiner Geräte (PC, Smartphone, Tablet) sicher sauber ist für die weiteren Maßnahmen oder welche anderen Geräte Du temporär nutzen könntest. Im Podcast erklären wir, warum Du als nächstes Anzeige bei der Polizei erstatten solltest, online oder auf der Wache. Und dann kann die mühselige Arbeit beginnen, Deine Online-Accounts aufzuräumen und abzusichern. Anfangen solltest Du mit Deinem primären E-Mail-Konto. Christopher und Markus erklären die wichtigen Einstellungen und auch welche versteckten Stellen Du im Auge behalten musst. Im zweiten Teil geben wir Tipps, wie man sich schützen kann. Zuerst durch Backups und Updates, und dann dadurch, für alle Dienste unterschiedliche Passwörter zu nutzen. Idealerweise erzeugt und speichert die sich ein separater Passwortmanager. Aber auch die Passwordmanager der Browser, ein selbstausgedachtes Schema oder notfalls die Schreibkladde oder die Post-Its am Monitor sind besser als mehrfach genutzte Passwörter. Zudem hilft, den Spam- und Phishing-Schutz des E-Mail-Providers zu aktivieren und auch die ähnlichen Funktionen von iOS und Android bezüglich SMS- und Anruf-Spam zu nutzen. SperrApp, Onlinewachen: https://www.heise.de/select/ct/2024/24/softlinks/yj52 Schutz-Tools: https://www.heise.de/select/ct/2024/24/softlinks/ytu4 ► Der c't-Artikel zum Thema (Paywall): So wehren Sie sich gegen Cyberkriminelle https://www.heise.de/select/ct/2024/24/2426218565017512852 Sie wurden gehackt: Das ist jetzt zu tun https://www.heise.de/select/ct/2024/24/2427409360385206853 So werden Sie nicht gehackt: Präventiver Schutz https://www.heise.de/select/ct/2024/24/2427409370036706473

Wenn Du auf eine Phishing-Mail hereingefallen bist, dir einen PC-Schädling eingefangen hast oder wenn Bösewichte sonstwie wichtige Login-Daten oder Kontozugänge erbeuten konnten: Tritt die Angreifer so richtig in den Ar***! Hol Dir Deine Accounts und vor allem Dein Geld zurück! Dir braucht nichts peinlich zu sein, schäme Dich nicht – die Angriffe werden immer ausgefeilter, sodass wir alle hereinfallen können. Christopher Kunz von heise security und Markus Montz von der c't geben Tipps zur Soforthilfe: Zuerst solltest Du etwaige betroffene Banken benachrichtigen, entweder per Telefon (116 116) oder in der jeweiligen App. Dann überlegst Du, welches Deiner Geräte (PC, Smartphone, Tablet) sicher sauber ist für die weiteren Maßnahmen oder welche anderen Geräte Du temporär nutzen könntest. Im Podcast erklären wir, warum Du als nächstes Anzeige bei der Polizei erstatten solltest, online oder auf der Wache. Und dann kann die mühselige Arbeit beginnen, Deine Online-Accounts aufzuräumen und abzusichern. Anfangen solltest Du mit Deinem primären E-Mail-Konto. Christopher und Markus erklären die wichtigen Einstellungen und auch welche versteckten Stellen Du im Auge behalten musst. Im zweiten Teil geben wir Tipps, wie man sich schützen kann. Zuerst durch Backups und Updates, und dann dadurch, für alle Dienste unterschiedliche Passwörter zu nutzen. Idealerweise erzeugt und speichert die sich ein separater Passwortmanager. Aber auch die Passwordmanager der Browser, ein selbstausgedachtes Schema oder notfalls die Schreibkladde oder die Post-Its am Monitor sind besser als mehrfach genutzte Passwörter. Zudem hilft, den Spam- und Phishing-Schutz des E-Mail-Providers zu aktivieren und auch die ähnlichen Funktionen von iOS und Android bezüglich SMS- und Anruf-Spam zu nutzen. SperrApp, Onlinewachen: https://www.heise.de/select/ct/2024/24/softlinks/yj52 Schutz-Tools: https://www.heise.de/select/ct/2024/24/softlinks/ytu4 Mit dabei: Christopher Kunz, Markus Montz Moderation: Jörg Wirtgen Produktion: Ralf Taschke ► Der c't-Artikel zum Thema (Paywall): So wehren Sie sich gegen Cyberkriminelle https://www.heise.de/select/ct/2024/24/2426218565017512852 Sie wurden gehackt: Das ist jetzt zu tun https://www.heise.de/select/ct/2024/24/2427409360385206853 So werden Sie nicht gehackt: Präventiver Schutz https://www.heise.de/select/ct/2024/24/2427409370036706473

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Episode 73: Renato hat Angst vor Online-Meetings, Jane klebt sich mit Post-Its zu und niemand hat sein*ihr*their Leben im Griff und damit herzlich willkommen zur Life-Coach-Folge von MUMFORD & KAISER. Aber Vorsicht: Wer nach jahrelanger Tastaturabhängigkeit von null auf hundert, ganz Daphnes-Diary-romantisch mit handgeschriebenen Merkzetteln arbeitet, verendet früher oder später an einer Sehnenscheidenentzündung. Vor allem Menschen mit Hang zum Exzess wie Renato („WARUM MUSS ICH IMMER SOFORT JOGGEN!?“), der sich nach der Stressphase direkt ins Rennen stürzt oder ins Tattoostudio, wo er sich so lange an der Achsel stechen lässt, bis er die rechte Hand nicht mehr heben kann (insert Hitler-joke). Ansonsten schaut jede*r auf sich selbst, der Individualisierungsfetisch ist im Endstadium, Jane war krank, kam zurück und hat gemerkt: Die Welt ist immer noch so scheisse wie zuvor. Ja schade. Da hilft nur manifestieren. Eine Freundin von Renato ist Lehrerin und geht immer, wenn es kalt ist, ein halbes Jahr nach Australien, feuert damit den Lehrer*innenmangel in der Schweiz weiter an und findet dadurch bei der Rückkehr immer sofort wieder einen Job. Self-fulfilling Professur. Boom! Renato wollte in der 4. Klasse Schauspieler werden, hat dann gemerkt, dass das zu unrealistisch ist und gesagt: Dann werd ich halt Lehrer. Jetzt ist er Komiker und wartet darauf, dass ihm jemand in einem Film die Rolle eines Lehrers anbietet. Full Circle, der Kreis schliesst sich, der Verschleiss kriegt dich, ausser du nimmst dir die eine oder andere Auszeit und platzierst dein Buch direkt neben dem von Kim de l'Horizon und tust so, als hätte das die Buchhandlung selbst so gemacht (looking at you, Jane). (Damnit it was NOT me, Renato!) Das ist sehr aktives Manifestieren. Aber solange Väter sich als zusätzlichen Bonustitel auch noch FaMiLiEnVäTeR nennen dürfen, soll mensch sich die Welt gefälligst so machen, widdewidde wie sie mensch gefällt. Alles in allem praktisch nur nützliche Life Hacks von Euren zwei lieblings live hacks MUMFORD & KAISER. Und wer dieses word play nicht verstanden hat, soll am 16. Juli ins Kir Royal zu Jane in die Nachhilfe, wenn sie ihr englisches Try Out macht. You will feel like you were hit in the head by a Jane Mumford.

Japan has a lot of wisdom to share and one of my favourites is to not start with the solution to a problem.  In Japan, the idea is to start with making sure you have the right problem to solve.  This is not easy, because often we are super busy and moving at warp speed all the time, so just jumping in to fix a problem sounds like the best approach.  There is a follow-on metaphor of the scaling of the wall. We work hard and progress rung by rung up the ladder, getting us to the top - the solution – only to find our ladder is up against the wrong wall.  We don't want that, do we? Problem definition is sometimes obscured by having a number of factors to confront and not enough insight into which are the priority items.  This might be for a lack of a data or from conflicting opinions. The issue remains a large one, though, which we must deal with at the very start of the process.  Here are some steps to consider in problem definition. Step One: Silence Is Our Super Power Once we get into an open discussion about identifying the problem, we can find we waste a lot of time and basically get no progress. We argue the toss on what to solve and can get stuck.  Instead, have around six people in a team and have them all sit in silence and think.  Now thinking is seriously hard work.  It is particularly difficult for us today, because we are being corralled by algorithms spewing out one minute videos, fostering shorter and shorter concentration spans. Ask the team to sit there for fifteen minutes in Round One and do nothing but think and write their issues on Post-It notes. This will be torture for some and very challenging for most.  Nevertheless, as the organiser, we have to have guts to ignore the fervent and persistent impatient glancing at watches, head shaking, eyes rolling, yawning, etc., that will go on, as the team is possessed by a wave of boredom. Step Two: Prioritise Issues After the first fifteen minutes, everyone stays in silence and now we spend 3 minutes to arrange what we have come up with into a broad priority listing of where to start. Step Three: Share Together - Round One Now we start putting our ideas up on a chart or a wall.  We attach the Post Its in priority order to the wall and explain our thinking to our colleagues.  There is no judgement allowed at this point, because we are still on the journey and we don't need any decision being taken yet. Step Four: Whole Team Sharing Once we get our teams idea's out, we share it with the other teams and they do the same for us. We try to cross pollinate the thinking going on.  There is no evaluation of what has been produced at this point. Step Five: Think and Prioritise After that stimulation, again, in silence, we keep thinking for another ten minutes.  This is very hard because all the easy ideas have been tapped. Now we have to really dig to find the gold.  We will adjust our previous priorities based on our new ideas. Step Six: Share Together - Round Two We bring our Post-It notes and add to what we came up with in the first thinking bracket.  Again, we share the content with our teammates. Step Seven: Whole Team Sharing Round Two Again, each team presents what they have come up with, so that all the teams can share in the ideas. Step Eight: Each Team Makes Selections By this stage, we will have had a lot of information shared and we will have a pretty good idea of where everyone has placed their priorities.  Now we have to make some decisions about which will be the issues which we will take forward to solve.  Each team will coalesce the possibilities into a short list. Step Nine: Whole Team Makes The Final Selections Each team presents their selections and then decisions are taken on which issues are going to be picked up to work on. There is usually a strong raft of similar issues which will have been highlighted.  These commonalities make it easy to drive decisions about the final problems to work on.  Remember, we are not after perfection here, so if we get good selections, then we are on the right track.  We have created a hierarchy of issues to work with and we can get to them all over time.  We start with what we consider the most burning issues. The next stage is to use creative thinking to work on how to solve the issues once clarified and we covered that in a recent episode already.    

If you've ever wanted to crawl inside my brain to have a conversation on special education advocacy, law, and practice, here's your chance. Amy Bonn, consulting attorney, with COPAA, speaks. my. language. Amy and I have a hearty conversation about our jobs as special education attorneys, and it's just too good! Sometimes while I record with guests, I write down the time that a particular quote happens or a quote itself. I had to stop writing on this one, because I'd filled two big Post Its!!!! Tune in for All Things SPED Law and Advocacy today! Transcript: https://share.descript.com/view/LBuZb8GKRdHAmy Bonn, Esq. - Amy is a Nebraska attorney providing legal representation to families of children with disabilities in special education matters. Amy is a summa cum laude graduate of Creighton University School of Law, where she was a member of the board of editors of the Creighton Law Review. She is licensed to practice in state and federal courts in Nebraska.Amy is also a proud parent of children with developmental disabilities. She completed a ten-month traineeship in disability advocacy and leadership at the University Center for Excellence in Developmental Disabilities at the Munroe-Meyer Institute, University of Nebraska Medical Center, where her research focus was on parental advocacy in special education.

Lesley Logan hosts Simone Knego for an in-depth discussion on the often-overlooked impact of societal pressures on self-esteem and how to counteract these negative influences. She delves into the importance of embracing failures as growth opportunities, utilizing positive affirmations to bolster self-worth and the crucial practice of loving oneself. Simone also highlights the importance of regularly questioning personal desires to truly understand one's needs, offering strategies for listeners to build a resilient, confident identity amidst external expectations.If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co. And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:How to view failures not as setbacks but as essential growth opportunities.Strategies for shifting your mindset to overcome negative talk and self-doubt.The role of positive affirmations in strengthening self-esteem and confidence.Simone's 3 tools that can help build and sustain inner confidence every day.How respecting your own reflections can enhance self-awareness and acceptance. Episode References/Links:Simone Knego InstagramSimone Knego WebsiteDaughter Dearest PodcastThe Extraordinary Unordinary YouChelsea Peitz InstagramGuest Bio:Simone Knego is an international speaker and award-winning author of the best-selling book, "The Extraordinary UnOrdinary You." She is a two-time TEDx Speaker, and her work has been featured on ABC, NBC, and CBS and in Entrepreneur Magazine and Yahoo News. Her literary contributions have been honored by the National Indie Excellence Award and the NYC Big Book Award. Simone has not only summited Mt. Kilimanjaro, but she is also the heart of a bustling household with six children, three dogs, and one husband of 30 years. As the creator of the REAL Method, Simone continues to inspire and impact teams, fostering growth, and promoting self-discovery.   If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox. DEALS! 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They celebrate their victories but they also celebrate when they figured out that they did something wrong and they can fix it. Lesley Logan 0:22  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started.  All right, Be It Babe. Hello, welcome back. Thank you for being here. Thank you for being awesome. My goodness, I can't believe how long we've been doing this podcast and the time of recording this intro I just recently saw several of you listeners in real life. And I got to hear your favorite takeaways in person. Also, like the quotes you were saying. And some of you have listened to the episodes two times, and I just want to say like that means so much to me. When I started this podcast, because I really wanted to help women really, truly understand how amazing you already are. And for you to find that inner confidence. And so what I'm so excited about with today's guest is she really is going to help you tap into your bold confidence. And she hasn't the most interesting take on it that I have not heard. And so her name is Simone Knego. I happen to know her in real life. And she's just amazing. And when I, when I am with her in person, like there's just something about her that like you're drawn to listening to her. She's so thoughtful and insightful. As you will listen to her on this podcast, I think you will also get that as well. She's got some amazing tips for helping you find your inner confidence, which is like the true confidence. Talk about like, confidence on the outside, confidence on the inside. And I just think this is gonna be a really wonderful conversation for you to listen to, and probably save it and listen to it again. So Simone, thank you for being here. Y'all, here she is. And I can't wait to hear your favorite takeaways. All right, Be It babe. I'm so excited because I have a wonderful woman here. I remember, when I first met her, we actually hadn't met yet. I heard her introduce herself. I was like, this woman is a badass, she is doing amazing things. And I really was excited to get to know her more. And I've been lucky enough to see her in person a couple of times and also be on her amazing podcast. Simone Knego, thank you so much for being here. Can you tell everyone who you are and what you rock at?Simone Knego 3:07  Absolutely. First, thank you so much for having me here today. I'm excited to be here. And same thing I when I first heard you speak, I was like, okay, this woman is amazing. Want to get to know her better. First and foremost, I'm a mom of six. I have been married to my husband for almost 31 years. I am a keynote speaker, author and podcast host and I love what I'm doing.Lesley Logan 3:22  Oh my gosh, 30 years of marriage and six kids and a podcast host, and I mean, you've also like climbed Mount Kilimanjaro, you've written books like you've been on TEDx twice. So we can go a lot of different ways, I guess. I'd love to hear like, what got you started in doing what you're doing to do always work for yourself? Are you always interested in helping people? Or did you do something before this and it kind of led to what you're doing now?Simone Knego 3:51  So I'm a big believer that it's okay to change your mind. I have tried many things over my life. I started out as a certified public accountant. That was what I got my degree in. And the reason I got an accounting degree, I have a Bachelor's and Master's in accounting was because I failed organic chemistry and then got us D at the second time, and that was the end of like med school. So I had to move on and so.Lesley Logan 4:18  Med school drop out to CPA. Simone Knego 4:21  Yes. And I really wanted to act. But the words of my dad were while you live under my roof and I'm paying for your education, you're gonna get a real education, which means you're going to be an accountant because you're really good at math. Okay, great. Thank you. And realized quickly that I did not love accounting, so worked at it for a couple of years, had a horse farm, taught horseback riding lessons were at a summer camp, I did all kinds of stuff. And then I had kids. I went back to school to be a teacher because I figured I have six kids. I kind of have my own classroom might as well, put it to work in the real world. And unfortunately, as we know, teachers don't get paid enough for what they do. And I was paying my babysitter more than I was making. So that's when I went into medical sales. And then from there, I started speaking because I was asked to speak at some volunteer events through charitable organizations, and I fell in love with it. And that's when I realized I had a story.Lesley Logan 5:28  That's cool. Yeah, teachers don't get paid enough. We say this a lot. And also, like, I was also thinking, like, my goodness, you could go you take care of other people's kids all day long, and then you have a sick one at home, you're never getting a break so.Simone Knego 5:44  There was definitely no breaks happening there. But you know what, I love kids. So obviously I better, right? So it was fine. Lesley Logan 5:51  Yeah, I think thank you for sharing like it's okay to change your mind. It's also okay to like dabble in things. I think so often people go, oh, that didn't work out. So I failed at that. And that didn't work out. I failed at that. And it's like, actually, you know, you get to know yourself. And I imagine that you use different skill sets from each, each different stint you had in what you're doing. Simone Knego 6:12  I learned so much about myself by trying all these different things. And by failing at some of them, I mean, I think failure is actually an important part of how we grow. It's not a stop sign it is. Okay, try this next time. So, sometimes easier said than done, right? When you're in the moment of failure, it's a little bit difficult. But it's so important that we realize that it isn't something that should stop us forever. It should just say, Okay, that didn't work. What's next? Lesley Logan 6:40  Yeah, I know, I it is very difficult when you're in it, like, you need someone around you, who also has that same mentality, to remind you that this is going to be a lesson that you're gonna learn from, it might be the best thing that ever happened to you. Doesn't feel good when you hear it, either, but like to get a reminder. Okay, so you got into speaking and you found you had a story to tell. I feel like a lot of people that first of all, their biggest fear is speaking in public. I know you had that acting love, but also like, was it easy for you to get into speaking? How did you take your story and put that out there because I feel like there's a big journey between like speaking efforts in charities and then doing TEDx. Simone Knego 7:19  I think the more you do it, the more comfort just like anything, the more you do it, the more comfortable you feel, the more you're willing to put yourself out there. And really realizing that if my story can impact one person, it's worth it, it's worth standing on a stage and telling it and I've, I've changed even what I'm doing now. So now my speaking is really for women, women's groups all about overcoming self-doubt, building bold confidence from the inside out. Which, when we think of confidence, I think a lot of people will look at someone say, oh, my gosh, they're so confident, but are they really on the inside? Right? Is it just how they're portraying themselves? Or do they really feel good about themselves all the time? And it was a learning process to get up on that stage and just be okay with, you know, still gonna make mistakes on stage. I mean, that's life. And I'm big on just putting it out there. And I think it's good for people to see other people get up and try something that they maybe want to try. But they're too afraid to do it and then say, Oh, wait, they're human. It was still fine. It was great. I learned a lot. And yeah, they still messed up. They're great. Lesley Logan 8:26  Yeah, there's a law that I'm forgetting. But Chelsea Peitz, a mutual friend of ours, she posted it. She did it in a speech. And it's like, actually, when people see someone, they look up to make a mistake, they don't go, oh, they're, they're a terrible person. They made a mistake. They actually go, oh, my God, they're human. And they trust you more. It's like this really interesting thing. Okay, so. So I want to dive into this bold confidence. And like, what is driving you to do this venture that you're working on, because you could do anything, and you could still have stuck with any of the things you've already done. So what made you want to dive into helping women specifically, have bold confidence?Simone Knego 9:05  So it really started with my journey to Kilimanjaro? Because I was someone who struggled for years to believe in myself, I really struggled with self-doubt. And looking back and I talk about this now and I write about this now, I had a really, mentally and physically abusive boyfriend when I was a teenager actually just did a podcast episode earlier this morning with my daughter about dating culture and what's okay and what's not okay, and the things that we don't talk about. But when I realized that that was really, it killed my self-esteem that it just brought me to the lowest levels. I didn't respect myself, I needed to build myself back up and it took years for me to talk about it for me to realize what had happened to me. And when I was asked to climb Kilimanjaro, it totally out of my wheelhouse. It's not something that was a bucket list item, but it was raising money for the Livestrong Foundation. So the philanthropic part made me very happy. And I was like, you know what, I'm going to do this, I'm going to do this and I'm going to put everything in, I'm going to change my mindset, I'm going to believe in myself. And that change kind of started so many different things for me. Lesley Logan 10:19  Thank you for sharing about your dating history. It's really interesting. Like, I think so many people, so many women get into relationships, and they do end up losing themselves because of it's embarrassing to talk about it, you're not really sure it was a red flag is that like, you know, there's all these different things. I have a beautiful girlfriend who's, who just recently went through a breakup and I was like, I was like, fully supportive. I was like, oh my gosh, whatever happened, like on your side. And then she told me all these things when I'm away. I'm like, I had no, I had no idea. If you'd told me one of these things had happened. I would have been like, girl, you okay? You know what, I think it's so easy. So I love that you and your daughter have this conversation because it's, they're needed to have. So I think that that's really cool. Also, like I've, I've never wanted to climb Mount Kilimanjaro. I've met many people who have most of them have done it to raising money. You know, after you climb that mountain, you know? And did it was, during the mountain, you were like reflecting like, what was like, was there a change and you came down at the high of the elevation?Simone Knego 11:22  All of the above. Get, so the really getting to the summit, it wasn't even getting to the summit, I've had people ask me, okay, if you didn't make it, would you still feel the same? Well, I don't know, because I did so, but hopefully, I would. Because again, I'm not a believer that failure stops you, it kind of opens the next door. But really, when I had to talk myself up, not down, I had to talk myself up so many times on the mountain thinking that, hey, what are you doing here, you have six kids at home, this is not in your wheelhouse, you're not capable of this. And the whole time, I had to say to myself, you can do this, you put in the work, you set the goal, you put in the work, you are going to accomplish this, like you are absolutely going to accomplish this. And I have a bad knee. So that didn't help with things. But it was really that change of mindset. And when I got to the summit was when I really kind of put it all together where I said that all these things, all of these negative thoughts that I have all the time, right, we have 6200 thoughts a day, and 80% of them are negative, that those aren't what I'm going to let control how I move forward, it's the positive ones and making more of the positive ones. And it really has made a difference for me and self-respect, self-worth, self-love. All of it is all part of that moment. And so I like to tell women, find your Kilimanjaro I'm not saying the specifically Kilimanjaro, but find that one thing that will kind of pull you out to where you want to be. Lesley Logan 13:02  I agree with that I just heard, I was listening to some podcast. And this girl was like, so excited, cuz she ran a 5k. And she's like, I never thought I would run like I never could run around the block without like being out of breath. And she was so excited and so proud of herself for like this 5k that she ran. And I think that to her could have been Kilimanjaro, because like that just seemed like so she's like I hear about these people just go for a couple mile run. And I'm like, I can't go for a couple mile, couple block run. So I think it's true. We have to figure out what it is and also put you out of that comfort zone makes you challenge yourself. And you do have to change the story. So like I could hear, you know, it'd be so easy to oh, got this bad knee, I'm just not gonna go all the way to the top, or I'm actually gonna, I'll raise the money, but I'm not gonna go like there's so many different things you could do takes a whole superhuman level of finding yourself to do something that's outside of your comfort zone. Can we talk a bit about the difference between like the confidence that we see outside from people and then that bold confidence that comes from inside? Like, can we talk about what those two things look like or feel like?Simone Knego 14:09  So I think I see a lot of people who seem to be confident and then they go home and they struggle looking at themselves in the mirror. It's kind of like what they put on for everybody else to feel like they're that they're strong and they're and a lot of times when someone is confident on the outside and not on the inside, they tend to be a little bit rough around the edges with conversations. And basically, if you don't agree with them, then you're wrong. I mean, that's how what I see a lot of the time. I think people who are confident from the inside out, they are able to compromise they are able to see when they've made mistakes. They're able to admit when they've made mistakes. They celebrate their victories but they also celebrate when they figure out that they did something wrong and they can fix it. So there's four things that I like to talk about when it comes to confidence from the inside out is really your respecting your reflection, embracing your failures, asking yourself what you want, and loving the woman in the mirror. Because I think all those pieces together really, it covers everything that has to do with self-esteem. And when you look at statistics that eight, almost 85% of people will say that they struggle with self-esteem. That's a lot of people. That's a lot of people that are struggling. And my daughter was asking me the other day, so why do you think it is I was like, it's called society, we have these pressures that are put on us by society, to behave a certain way to look a certain way to have a certain job to drive a certain car. And that's not real. It's just like body image. When we talked about, on our podcast, she was talking about when you said, how every woman has a different body, there's, you don't have to be the super skinny person to be really strong with Pilates. She was like, I really never thought about it like that. We always think about that, if you're super skinny, that means like, you're super fit. And that's not how it works. Lesley Logan 16:12  No, no, I,um, I think that you're correct. Society puts us pressures on us it affects, it affects the compass that we're working from, you know, like, I feel like when you're I watch my girlfriend's as a little, little girl, and she posts these videos, and I just like, watch her like, this little girl has like, not really experienced the pressure of society, yet. She just hasn't. She is just like, walking around doing her own thing, like smelling a rock, like just all these things. And then at some point, you know, you learn that you have to conform in a different way, and you have to mask certain things. And my husband, he is not diagnosed, but pretty confident he has ADHD. So he taps his feet all the time, they're always shaking, he'll start whistling and like doesn't even realize it, like he's got this, like, just these interesting things. And in school, he would have to, like, keep his leg still and not whistle and like that is kind of masking of like a personality, just so we can all conform. It can change didn't change him. He is resilient in that way. But like, I think for me, like I definitely as a child go, okay, well, I have to do it like this. And if I do it like this, then I get the affirmation stuff, I get the affirmation that I did a good job, but I must feel good. And it was so interesting. Like, I went to college. And I still did all the things, and I was like, I don't actually feel very good. I don't really know why I'm here. Why am I studying this major? What am I doing? And I think it's, it's a very difficult place to be when you're like, okay, now I'm gonna pivot, I'm gonna change these things. You have to figure out that inner confidence because the outside world's like, why did you do that? How the work and it's also the outside world, like, I'm just thinking of some other times where you go through a breakup, and people like, oh, but you guys were so great together, or you decide like, one of my girlfriend's posted on Instagram, like, just being okay with people who decide to be child-free. And she's like, you don't know why they're being child-free. Like, you don't have to tell them anything. And I jokingly wrote like, oh, yeah, people will say, but she would have the most beautiful children as if that's the thing the world needs more of. And it's an interesting thing, when you make a decision in your life, and then the society, what they come out, you have to find that inner confidence, otherwise, you're going to end up doing things for the wrong reasons.Simone Knego 18:29  Absolutely. And I love that you brought up that, that part about when you make a choice for as a couple, as a woman as a man that you don't want to have children. How that is seen as an outlier, which is so ridiculous, right? Like everybody chooses what they want to do. And people just assume something has to be wrong. It's not like, hey, wait, we just didn't want to have children or for us, they assume because we have six children and we adopted our youngest three that we're super religious, that's the thing that we get is thatLesley Logan 19:03  You be your own version of suicidal.Simone Knego 19:06  So no matter what you do, you get some weird ideas that our people have in their heads of this isn't what you're supposed to be doing like two kids, house with a picket fence, or 2.2 kids, I forget what it is now. But six kids is way out of the norm. And so there has to be a reason there has to be an issue that you're solving in that moment or your problem that you have and that's why you have six kids now that's we just like kids and we wanted to adopt and it worked out great.Lesley Logan 19:38  Yeah. Well, I mean, also like, people like you and your husband should, if you love kids, should have all the kids you want because you're raising these beautiful people from, with inner confidence. I always joke when I meet people with six I'm like, great, thanks for keeping the average up for me. But obviously, you have six kids, so I'm sure you can see the differences from your boys and your girls, but also like, I do think that it's, it can tell us particularly interesting pressure for women to have that inner, bold confidence you talk about and stick with the choice that they've made for themselves, whether it's their career or whether they want to stay at home or go to like, all these different things. There's these different pressures. And so to keep that compass steady, I mean, I feel like it's not perfect. I feel like it's a pendulum and you have to be aware of when you're kind of getting out of that bold confidence. Simone Knego 20:30  Yeah, I, and even yesterday, I was having a moment where I was frustrated about something, I'm late for my doctor's appointment, and all these things are happening at once. And I was like, why do you always do this? Why are you making yourself wait, why are you doing and I was like, okay, hello, take a breath. These are such minor things like, just push it aside, you'll get there when you get there. You can't change that, you've already started this process, you can't change the past. So next time you leave a little earlier and stop driving yourself crazy. I mean, just those kind of little things. I think sometimes like I call them our daily doubts, like the little things that creep up on us that we're not allowed, you know, we're not good enough to go to this party because all these women will be dressed a certain way. And I'm a jeans and T-shirt kind of girl. So when I go somewhere, I still, unless it's truly like a formal event, I wear what I wear. And what's really interesting about that, and I know I'm kind of random here, but when I go to something like that, in jeans and a T-shirt and it's a nice cheap T-shirt, I mean, I still look nice, but I'll have multiple women come up to me and they'll say, I didn't know we were allowed to wear jeans. I was like, I don't think it's about being allowed. I think it's what you want. They're like, oh, gosh, I wish I would have known I would have dressed like that you look so comfortable. And I am wearing these heels and they're killing me. And so that's part of the inner confidence is being able to show up as yourself and not worry about what anybody else is thinking of you. Because a lot of times what they're thinking is I wish I would have done that. Lesley Logan 22:04  Yeah, okay. Okay, first of all, love the daily doubts. And also, the conversation you just have with yourself in the car, it's like, it's a daily thing. I'm like, why did I do this? Why did I put these things back to back? Why didn't I give myself 15 minutes in between what like all these things, and then it's just like, then if you don't stop it, it goes into a whole spiral that by the end, you're like, I made the worst mistake of doing this.Simone Knego 22:30  It becomes like Doomsday, and you're like, wait, I was just going to be five minutes late to the appointment. And I turned it into this ridiculous cycle. Lesley Logan 22:36  Yes, I mean, it's also a pressure we can throw ourselves, my husband is late to everything and I don't mean that in like a rude way. He's like, Lesley, we can be five minutes late, like, it's not the end of the world. It's just a dinner, it's going to be okay. And I am like, we should be early, you should be 10 minutes early, people should not be expecting that, like worried that you're late or wondering if you're gonna be respectful of people's time. And he's like, it's a coffee, it's gonna be okay. And so we have like, I was like, okay, well then, there's, we had to negotiate. Like, if it's something that's really important to me, then it's on me to say, I want to be here on time, because this is really important to me. And if it's not, then I will do my very, very best to just chill out in the car and not worry about being late. I'm not perfect at it at all. But it's helped me because this weird pressure that I put on myself, and it puts me in a doubt, a daily doubt. And then almost a doomsday so. So I love that. I also love that you brought up like inner confidence that can be just like showing up as you are and not waiting for the permission to be like, how can I show up? Like how should I, how should I show up versus like, how do I want to show up? I think that's really beautiful. And I feel like it's really cool because you can be this like little example, giving into your inner confidence and showing up as yourself and wearing the jeans and a nice shirt. Oh, my goodness, I went up T-shirt shopping the other day. I was like, are you kidding? Why are these T-shirts? $200? I'm like, okay, I'm going to Target. I will get there. I will look around and I see people in there they're showing off in their style like when you can see that they have their own. This is like this is their brand is (inaudible) wear but like that's how they are, like I wear tennis shoes with dresses because I just, I can't wear heels. I just don't feel good in them. So I always wear tennis shoes with dresses, and people are like oh my god that's so funny. Like Punky Brewster. I'm like the adult version. Here she is. And you do give people permission. But I also just want to say to the people listening if that sounds like something you do, that's a checkbox for this inner confidence and I think we sometimes don't realize because that might come easier for us to just do that than we might not realize we have more inner confidence than we think we're not maybe not giving ourselves credit for it. Simone Knego 24:47  Absolutely. And then the sneaker thing I love as well. So I say that I gave up heels for (inaudible), for my birthday last week my girls bought me a really fun pair of sneakers because that's what I want to wear. I want to wear stuff that's comfortable. But that's kind of my style that I don't feel like I have to dress up for anyone else. Whatever I do, and this is I think a really important thing that I would love for your audience to take away is that what we do we need to do for ourselves. So the way we dress, it should be for ourselves, it shouldn't be that we're worried that the woman down the street is going to judge us if we don't wear something that she wears, the way we show up at something, it should be about us. You want to get Botox? That's about you. It's how you feel good in your skin and not what anybody else tells you. Going back real quick to Kilimanjaro, when I first told people that I was going to climb it. I will tell you, my close friends were like, okay, that is amazing. And then the people that I didn't know very well, you know, kind of gave me the ones over and we're like, do you really think you're going to make it to the top? No, no, I think I'm going to make it halfway. That's why I'm doing it. So these pressures that we put on ourselves, when you hear negative things enough times from other people, you can understand why these thoughts will creep into our head because people will say ridiculous stuff to us all the time.Lesley Logan 26:16  Oh, my gosh. I've told the story before but I'll tell you, I, Brad and I signed up for like an artist's way. It was a group that all the artists were together. And so we all were on week one together, week two together, I forget which week it is, I think it's week two or three, but there are some questions that she asked you to journal about. And this memory came up of when I was really young. And I felt like eight years old. And I had made myself a grilled cheese sandwich. But I didn't know how to turn on the stove at my grandparents' house. So I grabbed my grandfather, I said hey, had like a plate with like butter on the outside, cheese on the inside sandwich. And I was like, hey, Papa, can you turn on, can you turn on the stove so I can make this grilled cheese sandwich? Many of you are probably stuck on the eight-year-old at the stove. I just want you to know like that was really normal for me. I'm just, that's its own childhood trauma. He was like, are you an idiot? What is on their sandwich? Like he called me stupid for putting butter on the outside of my sandwich. I was like, well, I'm making a grilled cheese sandwich. And you put that's how you butter on it to like go I don't know, maybe people do oil. I don't know. But that's how I was raised. Right? And so my grandmother said, oh, Jake, just turn on the stove. She's got it right, it's fine. But I'll tell you this, I actually never cooked. Like I, like my dad would, I would cook with stuff that my dad had prepared from like pancakes and French toast. But I never cooked at that house again. And then when I left my dad's house, I never cooked again. Like it's just so rare. It's very, very rare from and I'll just say I don't, I can't cook, I can't cook. So I'm doing the artist's way. And I'm like writing these different memories that I have. And I was like, oh my God, that's why I can cook. I (inaudible) I can't from someone else's negative thing. And it's so easy for those daily doubts that you're talking about. They're not really our voice. They're just other people's doubts that we've like, absorbed like a sponge and put on (inaudible).Simone Knego 28:16  Yeah, we put all those upon ourselves and but yeah, you hear things enough time. And this is why I think it's so important that so one of the things I love to do are positive affirmations. And if you would have asked me 15 years ago, I would have said, that doesn't work. That would not work for me. I'm not talking to myself. I talked to myself all the time now. And it really does work. But when you see how people can absorb all the negative stuff, think about it, it makes sense that we can absorb the positive stuff, too. So if we're constantly telling ourselves that we can't do something, or that we're not enough, why can't we flip it and say, yes, you can do this. And you are more than enough. And if you say it enough times you do believe it, it really is about that mindset shift. And when you think about it that way that if we can believe all the crap, then we should be able to believe the good stuff as well.Lesley Logan 29:11  Yeah. Yeah, I was gonna ask you like, is that, is that the only tool that you use to like flip the script or to stop your daily doubts? Or do you have other tools that you use to kind of build this inner confidence? Simone Knego 29:24  I have other other tools as well. So that, that one I like to do. I do evening gratitudes so like a gratitude journal or and I remember my daughter said I have nothing to be thankful about today. I was like, Hello. Yes, you do. Let me tell you all the things and she was like, Okay, I'm never gonna say that in front of you again. No, you won't know. So really, if I go through like the the different steps like embracing your failures, it's really about understanding that your failures don't equal your worth. Right so it's all a stepping stone to the next, next section of your life and asking yourself what you want, I think is such an important thing, especially as women, I think that we forget to do that, that we either we've done the same thing for so long, we don't actually know what we want. Or we have to do this because we're in this part of our lives, right? We have to have this job, we have to do this work, we have to raise the kids, it's all about everyone else. It's all about our spouse, whatever it is. And we don't ask ourselves what we want. So I have the, it's really like a compass that you go through the different parts of the compass, asking yourself what you want, and that kind of, like, do I want to do I want to wake up negative in the morning, right? I mean, you have a choice every day. So it's really looking at that compass of where your direction is going. And kind of following a bunch of questions to say, okay, yeah, no, I mean, I have a choice when I wake up in the morning, do I want to be negative? Do I want to be positive? Do I want to be happy, do I want and I know, there's external factors. But it's really important that we constantly ask ourselves what we want, so that we can get what we need. Lesley Logan 31:06  Yeah, I think that's a really beautiful, it's very important because especially the longer you go, without asking yourself that the harder you have to spend more time thinking about it, and almost like, it's like the Runaway Bride sitting where she's like, trying out all the eggs, you know, it's like, she doesn't know what her favorite way of having eggs is. And it's a simple, funny story, but also like, just reality, if like, if you just are doing so much for so many other people, you start to forget what you want. And then it's going to take time to really go through that. I love it. It's a compass. I don't know, I didn't know that. And I just like for whatever reason, like this felt like there's a compass measurement for like keeping ourselves on this path. Simone, I could talk, we could go in more things, because I just think confidence is something that so many of my listeners are always how do you have it? How do you get it? What is it and it's like, there's, I love the way that you're talking about it. Because it's different than it's different than the other ways I've heard it, which is like, just keep doing, just keep doing the things. You said you'd do. Then you'll have confidence. And it's like, yes, and that gets the perfectionist overachiever in trouble. That's a really great tool for the person who is not perfect. We're not looking for perfection or overachiever awards. We're gonna take a brief break, and then find out how people can find you, follow you, listen to you. All right, Simone, where can people work with you? How can they study your real method? What do you got for us?Simone Knego 32:24  That's where to find me is my website, Simoneknego.com. I have a new downloadable, which is the first step of my real method, all about respecting your reflection and tools and everything that goes along with it the work that we need to be doing, because like anything else, you're building a muscle and you have to work on it. I'm also Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, you can find me, Simone Knego, K-N-E-G-O because I am the only one in the world with that name.Lesley Logan 32:59  That's awesome. That's actually awesome. And you never have to regain your handle anywhere. And you have a podcast. Simone Knego 33:06  Yes. So I have a podcast with my daughter called The Daughter Dearest Podcast. And it's really so much fun. You can find it anywhere you listen to podcasts. And I also, I have a book and I'm working on my second book. My first book is called The extraordinary Unordinary You. And you can read more about my Kilimanjaro story, my children, it's all about realizing what you're capable of. And recognizing that the little things you do everyday matter.Lesley Logan 33:32  I love it so much good stuff, I'll have all those links in the show notes. Before I let you go, I mean, you gave us some really good action steps already. So but just in case you will skip to the end for the too long, (inaudible) action steps of bold, executable, intrinsic or targeted steps we can take to be it till you see it, what do you have?Simone Knego 33:48  So I think the first step is really goes back to the respecting your reflection using positive affirmations on a regular basis. Don't be afraid of them. Don't, like, okay, so maybe they're silly, right? But they work like keep doing it. Whatever you do. It just doesn't happen overnight. You have to keep working on yourself. And again, if we want to say build bold confidence from the inside out, it really is you have to work at it doesn't just happen. You're not born with confidence. It's like 20% of people are born with confidence okay, so the 80% of us, we got to work. And I would say the other thing is really learning to love the woman in the mirror. We have to stop comparing ourselves to others, we have to realize what we're capable of put the work into our ourselves and really be proud of who we are so that when we look in the mirror, the first thing that we see isn't what we don't like, but the first thing that we see is what we actually love and that, that's us and I think that is such an important thing for women to remind ourselves of. Lesley Logan 34:46  Oh, I love that. That is beautiful. Okay, well, yes, because it's so easy. The first thing I look at was like, oh gosh, my, I have a puffy eye. I've got this like you just like pick yourself apart and you're like, okay, I'm gonna have a good day. Simone Knego 34:58  Yeah, have a good day. Lesley Logan 35:01  I love it also, here on the pod on Fridays, y'all, we do the Fuck Yeah Fridays, which is like just I celebrate the wins of our listeners and I share a win of mine, it's mostly so people can hear, like, different ways that you could have a win. They don't always have to be like, I climbed Mount Kilimanjaro, which is a win, but also like, there was a little parts along the way that are wins as well. And so I started doing affirmations at the end. And I said, I hope people like these, because they can seem really like cheesy, cliche. Yes. But you know what, like, I whenever I read them, I repeat, I read them three times for the podcast. I go through my day, and I'm like, oh, look, I am pacing myself. Look at that. I'm sorry to find it. One of our other guests we've had on. She even shared, you guys, she used to put these affirmations on Post Its it's all around her house and then but she was so nervous that people will make fun of her that she would pull them all down when people come over and then she put them all up when they would leave. And she's like, now I just leave a lot because now I have the confidence to do that. But it's a, there's different ways to find those affirmations. And I think that's a great way to remind yourself of awesome things if it's not a natural phrase for you to say to yourself. So, Simone, thank you so much for being here. I really enjoy our talks and I can't wait to see you in person again soon I hope. You all, how are you going to use these tips in your life? Let Simone know, let us know in the Be It pod. Share this with a friend who is needing some inner confidence and you just know they need it. This could be a nice little nudge. You don't have to tell them why you could just send them the episode. 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Explore the fundamentals of manifesting your desires in this engaging recap episode with Lesley and Brad. They revisit the most compelling advice from Clare Solly, including her approach to reading and the impact of the pandemic on her career priorities. This episode is filled with anecdotes and strategies that will inspire you to take bold steps toward your aspirations. Whether you're a creative professional or looking to reinvent your career, this is your guide to implementing a Marie Kondo-like approach to your professional life. If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co. And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:The essential equipment for a functional Pilates home studio.The community of people behind the niche #bookstagram.The importance of leveraging and highlighting your unique creative strengths. Solly‘s Marie Kondo-like approach to focus on what brings you the most joy.Ways to implement Clare Solly's BE IT methods to set achievable life goals.Episode References/Links:Arizona Get Published Live with James PatrickOPC Summer CampOPC Summer tourCambodia WaitlistBarrels FlashcardsContrology PerksClare Solly WebsiteClare Solly InstagramClare Solly Episode 19Rise of the Reader by Nick Hutchison  If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox. DEALS! Check out all our Preferred Vendors & Special Deals from Clair Sparrow, Sensate, Lyfefuel BeeKeeper's Naturals, Sauna Space, HigherDose, AG1 and ToeSox Be in the know with all the workshops at OPCBe It Till You See It Podcast SurveyBe a part of Lesley's Pilates MentorshipFREE Ditching Busy Webinar  Resources:Watch the Be It Till You See It podcast on YouTube!Lesley Logan websiteBe It Till You See It PodcastOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley LoganOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley Logan on YouTubeProfitable Pilates Follow Us on Social Media:InstagramFacebookLinkedIn  Episode Transcript:Brad Crowell 0:00  She said she took the Marie Kondo approach. She kind of took a step back and was like, Is this bringing me joy? Yeah, like, Is this really going where I wanted to go? And she said pandemic allowed her that reflection to identify what truly mattered to her. And then she said she stumbled upon the Bookstagram thing, kind of by accident. Yeah. And now it's shifting to become a major part of our life.Lesley Logan 0:24  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started.  Lesley Logan 1:06  Welcome back to the Be It Till You See It interview recap where my co-host in life, Brad, and I are going to dig into the gratifying convo I had with Clare Solly in our last episode. If you haven't yet listened to that interview, feel free to pause this now and go back and join that one. And then come back and join this one. You also can go to Episode 19 and 20 and really get to know Clare. And then we also had her on as a recap host because Brad got stuck in Cambodia. Brad Crowell 1:32  I did. It's true. Lesley Logan 1:34  So Clare has been a fan favorite. Today is May 2nd and it's World Password Day, Brad.Brad Crowell 1:39  It is World Password Day. First off, I just wanted to say that this episode with Clare was super fun. And Clare, this is for you. I'm really impressed by your Be It Action Item. You're amazing. Okay, today's World Password Day, May 2nd. About this day, are you still using your cat's name followed by an “&” for your 401(k) account password? Sorry, but that is not enough to protect your life savings in 2024. Here's a term you need to know on World Password Day hashtag layer up. This refers to adding strong authentication to your important passwords to prevent identity theft, and other cyber crimes. Brad Crowell 2:24  Intel created world password day. Thank you, Intel. The first Thursday of May, May 2nd, to address the critical need for solid passwords. It's simple, really, ironically, most operating systems offer an easy way to create and store passwords, such as Apple's Keychain Access, right? Safari uses that, all that kind of stuff. If you use cross device like cross manufacturer, so if you've got a Google phone and an Apple device, you can use other password storage platforms called, like we use one called LastPass. It's really convenient if you Lesley Logan 2:55  They don't sponsor the show, guys. Brad Crowell 2:24  They don't sponsor the show. I wish they did. But yeah, it allows me to put the same password I have, I have the same password tool on both of my devices on my phone on my laptop. And if I sign up for something on my laptop, I can easily log into it on my phone. And it allows you to make like complex passwords like crazy complex passwords. And you never actually have to remember them because you're only logging into one platform. And then your passwords are saved in there. And they're super hardcore about, you know, security and stuff. So, good things. Good things. You should definitely not get hacked. It's a real thing. Yeah. All right. Upcoming events and travel. It's May. Lesley Logan 3:40  It's May. We're doing a little bit of travel, but nothing that you can, you can join us on. Oh, I guess there's Get Published Live, you could do? Yeah, that is Brad Crowell 3:50  We're gonna be speaking at an event down in Arizona Get Published Live with James Patrick. And you can, what is it, getpublishedlive.com? Brad Crowell 4:02  Yes and use code Logan 20. Brad Crowell 4:02  Yeah, Logan 20 to get 20% off if you want to join us down there. That'll be super fun. It's a, it's an event about literally getting published. And there's some panels we're speaking on a panel. It's gonna be great. Lesley Logan 4:13  Yeah, you'll be in front of all these people. That's really great. Okay, then we come back and it's OPC Summer Camp Brad Crowell 4:18  In June. In June.Lesley Logan 4:19  This is virtual. First weekend of June. And if you can't join us live, you'll want to still buy things on the early bird because you get the access to them for life and we will have seven classes and workshops a day for two days. That's 14 events. And you'll be able to buy ala cart or you'll be able to buy a whole day pass which is really exciting. You want to go to opc.me/events to get on the waitlist for that because those on the waitlist will get the early bird. Now here's the deal. We're recording this a little bit early. And by now early bird should have happened. That being said, we'll still email you but it might be just be the regular public early bird which is still a great price. Brad Crowell 4:28  Well, the best, the best deal is the day pass. Hands down, there's no question about it. So, pick up a day pass, you'll get everything for the day. And that's going to be I mean, that's gonna be some great stuff. I'm really fired up. We've got a bunch of guest teachers, it's going to be a lot of fun. And y'all, here's the deal. We're trying to make this a thing. We did it last summer. We met, we're doing it this summer. And we're going to do it again. Like for as long as we can plan ahead here where we're thinking we're gonna do a summer camp every year. Lesley Logan 5:26  And there's different teachers, different instructors, different topics. I'm really excited. Some of these topics include, we have pre/postnatal workouts, as a workshop, and I learned so much I didn't even expect to learn it was so great. I've learned it because we already got to work with the instructor on it. I'm teaching a ladder barrel workout. It's literally 15 minutes on your ladder barrel, get ready, gonna be great.Brad Crowell 5:49  I'm teaching a REM cycles sleep class, not at all. Lesley Logan 5:54  But all your OPC teachers are teaching something. And then we have guest teachers as well. So I'm really excited. So, opc.me/events to get more information on that, then the Summer Tour is around the corner, it's going to be in August, we are locking in as Brad and I record this we're locking in the cities for that and also sponsors for that. So if you know people who want to sponsor the tour, please reach out to us but I'm really, really, really excited that we'll already have summer and winter tour cities picked in the Brad Crowell 6:25  By the end of April. Lesley Logan 6:26  Yeah, by the end of April (inaudible).Brad Crowell 6:29  So like, a tentative potential route that we're going to go on here for the summer tour is going to take us from Vegas up through like to the to the northern Midwest. So we're trying to get up in through Iowa up into Minnesota, hopefully, and then over into Wisconsin and then down to Chicago. We think we'll probably go as far east as like Ohio, but no, no further east for the Summer Tour then we're going to scoot back around through the middle of the country and come along Route 70. So we're pretty sure we're going to be you know, like Indianapolis, then St. Louis, Kansas City, etc. on the way home, if you're going to be anywhere within a couple hours drive, come hang out with us, the actual dates and all the things we'll be releasing, you know, at this point, hopefully they're released, to be honest so but then the Winter Tour we're going to shift it here and we're going to start in the south and we're gonna go along through Oklahoma, Tennessee, North Carolina and then we're gonna go up the coast and then back down the coast and scoot back along Texas and stuff. Lesley Logan 7:34  It's gonna be the longest tour we have ever done. Lesley Logan 7:36  Yeah, geez, the winter tour this year could turn into like 8000 miles.Lesley Logan 7:40  So anyways, we'll announce all those things soon but just be waiting for us on (inaudible). Brad Crowell 7:45  Yeah, get on the waitlist, go to opc.me/events. By the way, for all of you who are wondering what waitlist to get on we're consolidating the waitlists here, trying to keep everybody's life a little easier.Lesley Logan 7:55  As we say that I'm going to change the waitlist up right now. So the Cambodia, Brad Crowell 7:58  Yeah, we're about to change this waitlist. Lesley Logan 8:00  So the earlybird for Cambodia might still be going on when this comes out.Brad Crowell 8:05  Yeah, actually, it'll be Lesley Logan 8:07  Right in the middle of it.Brad Crowell 8:07  It'll be closing the end of May. Yeah.Lesley Logan 8:10  So if you go to lesleylogan.co/retreats you will be getting the Cambodia retreat earlybird that's going on right now.Brad Crowell 8:19  Only waitlist people will know about the dates so go to lesleylogan.co/retreats that's plural.Lesley Logan 8:26  And that one is only about Cambodia. You only hear updates about Cambodia. And then barrels, because we just got back from LA shooting the deck, we did a whole photo shoot for the deck.Brad Crowell 8:36  It's super awesome y'all.Lesley Logan 8:38  Oh my God it was hence why I keep yawning, you guys, I did five hours of Pilates like nobody's so tired butBrad Crowell 8:44  Yeah, literally yesterday it was the day that we did the eclipse, too. Lesley Logan 8:47  Yeah, we saw the eclipse then we discovered we didn't have one of the pieces that we needed to have. Brad Crowell 8:54  Oops. Lesley Logan 8:54  We had to Uber it. Brad Crowell 8:55  Brad's fired. Lesley Logan 8:57  Brad is not getting hired for that job ever again and the next time he's like yes Lesley I packed it I'm like well just remember we had Uber or something, so I'm gonna forever Brad Crowell 9:06  She's going to lord this over me. Lesley Logan 9:08  Forever double check you at forever. But barrels flashcards. That presale is going to happen in the next few weeks. So you do need to be on the waitlist at opc.me/flashcardwaitlist Brad Crowell 9:14  opc.me/flashcardwaitlist that's singular. Lesley Logan 9:24  Yeah, so both words because only the people on the waitlist are going to get the presale price.Brad Crowell 9:30  And that is a big deal. Lesley Logan 9:31  And we do have a couple of retailers in, we have someone in Australia and we have someone in Canada. Now here's the deal, you guys. They basically take on the entire shipping cost so you have reasonable shipping, but they are not honoring presale prices. Brad Crowell 9:46  Yeah, they, it's just not really feasible. Lesley Logan 9:48  It's not feasible for them to do that and also cover all the shipping. So you can either pay a (inaudible) shipping on your own and get presale price or you can tell them that you want a deck from them. And so that's gonna be Claire ARB Plaza and under and the Melissa guy. Is B Pilates in Canada. Okay, before we get into Clare, we have an audience question. Brad Crowell 10:11  We sure do. This is from Caroline. And she is asking, hello I'm looking for advice for the best home studio. Please keep in mind that it's small and has low ceilings and I already have these things. I have one ad is reformer, one baby chair, one Wunda chair, one pedi pull, one foot corrector, two toe correctors, two small barrels, two spine correctors, and I want to buy a Cadillac next, I have space for one more piece of equipment. What would you choose from the following? A high chair, ceiling height is low, can stand on caddy, but not sure about the high chair. Would you choose the Wunda chair offer duets? Or would you choose a ladder barrel which, I think, it takes up a lot of room?Lesley Logan 10:54  Girl I got two ladder barrels in one room.Brad Crowell 10:57  She does. Lesley Logan 10:57  So what I would say, first of all, this is a full studio as it is. Brad Crowell 11:02  Yeah, I mean, if you have a small space. I'm impressed. You're like playing Tetris here.Lesley Logan 11:07  Yeah, well, probably using the wall like we do for the barrels and stuff. But, but I would just personally say like, get the Cadi. And if you do have room for something else, I would actually get the ladder barrel. Just because the high chair, there's one exercise you can do it, there's like literally two, it's the press ups front and press ups back. So one exercise that you can't do on a Wunda chair, everything else you could do on the Wunda chair. So to me, if you had more space and you already had a ladder barrel, then I would say get the high chair. But that's not the case here. So I'm gonna say no on that, because you'll have a Cadillac to do the pull up stuff that's going to get you that shape that you're looking for. And then, as far as getting another Wunda chair, I also wouldn't because you have enough equipment here that you could have one person on a reformer and one person on a Cadillac, one person on the chair, you could have three or four people I'm just gonna say. But like, I don't actually think that's gonna be the best part of your worth your money, because the ladder barrel is actually quite unique. And as we mentioned, at the top of this, I'm doing a 50 minute workout on it. So there's a lot you can do on it. And while it can take up all that space, it also can just be shoved in a corner like it really, there's a lot of amazing tools that you can use or stretches you can do on it. There's things that are great for beginners also people learning swan on a ladder barrel, it's so much better than on a reformer. And so I would just say get the ladder barrel, and I don't believe it takes that much room. So that is my vote. If you want to use my Contrology link for any of the things you're buying, feel free to look up our perks page.Brad Crowell 12:40  Go to opc.me/perks Oh, yeah, great question (inaudible). Lesley Logan 12:44  We're adding more perks to that because I've just interviewed two companies who have great things. And I'll be sharing with you on my socials what those are and we'll add them to the perks but I am super excited. People are really excited to get me off my current collagen and onto their collagen. So that's just a hint on one of those and then we got coffee coming.Brad Crowell 13:04  Oh yeah, we got coffee coming, y'all. Yeah, I'm excited about that. Lesley Logan 13:07  Stay tuned. Brad Crowell 13:08  It tastes good. I've been drinking it. Okay, now let's talk about Clare Solly. Claire is an executive assistant in New York City known for her work as an actress, producer, singer and founder of two theatre companies. She has gained more than 11,000 Bookstagram followers in the last six months and is a published author of three novels. What fills her cup aside from reading includes promoting books and authors and following people with similar interests. Clare is impressive.Lesley Logan 13:39  I know. She's so good at everything that she does. She's like, really, really quite amazing at it. And I am so impressed with all the things that she's able to balance at one time. But one of the things that I love to highlight about her is she said, I'm a storyteller first. That's a gift that I give to myself in this in this world. I think it's also the gift you give to other people, Clare, but you know, I think the world needs storytellers. And, you know, when we first had her on, she was like, helping people get their books published and things like that. But really, that turned into people just wanting help with the marketing. And it's that's not the side of it that she really enjoyed. And she ended up like just being a storyteller having this like, incredible, incredible following on a Bookstagram in such a short period of time.Brad Crowell 14:24  So if you all don't know, have any idea what Bookstagram is, like, I didn't.Lesley Logan 14:24  I know, we now know, we know two Bookstagramers. Brad Crowell 14:26  Okay, so it's Instagram. But there's a hashtag Bookstagram. It's like a niche of Instagram, right? So what this means it's a cult following. It's a community of people. It's a great way to discover new books and whatnot. They're very communicative, you know, in this channel, as it were. Lesley Logan 14:49  It's like it's a hashtag that they all use and you can find the Bookstagramer that like kind of suits your needs if you're in fiction or nonfiction we have do we do we already recapped Nick Hutchison or is he coming out? (Inaudible) So he's a Bookstagramer as well but he's a nonfiction one so like where and so just very fascinating so anyways, what I what I do love though is that like she has found something that is a lot of fun for her and she can monetize it she hasn't yet but and you know it may be that she needs someone to tell her how to do that so she can stick in the part which is her creative strength which is telling the stories and highlighting the books and not doing the logistical about it. Brad Crowell 15:33  Well, she has plus one follower from this guy right here as of today. You won't be Solly. Heck yeah. I'm excited. I was looking because she was describing like, the wall and how people make it look so pretty. And all this stuff. I was like, what the hell is she talking about? So I had to go check it out. Lesley Logan 15:57  Oh, they do incredible. Some of them have like, it's kind of crazy what they, the efforts and the lengths they go through to highlight a book.Brad Crowell 16:05  Yeah, it was definitely impressive. And I was, I was just like, flipping through her page. It was, it was fun. And also I'm like, I'm incredibly impressed at the amount that she reads. I can't even understand how you can read these many books. Lesley Logan 16:21  You just have to sit down and read, Brad. Brad Crowell 16:22  Yeah. But this is another level of reading. I mean, we're talking. Lesley Logan 16:27  Well, but if you, if you read the book that Nick sent you, it would teach you how to read faster.Brad Crowell 16:33  No, his book is on retention, not about reading faster. Lesley Logan 16:36  That's true, but also how to retain what you're reading. But it does tell you that if you read for 15 minutes a day, you'll read 20 books in a year. Brad Crowell 16:42  Yeah, well, I read 20 books a year, but Clare reads like 10 times that. Lesley Logan 16:48  She's fast. Brad Crowell 16:49  Yeah, it's impressive. Lesley Logan 16:50  You too, could be fast. Brad Crowell 16:52  You too, could be fast. You could be a fast reader. Well, I'll tell you what I loved that she was talking about. She believes that for her, the pandemic was a gift. And I know that for many it was not a gift. And I also know that being in New York City, it was a tough, tough thing to go through. Especially there, there was a ton of death and a lot of isolation. But she said it forced her to pause and reconsider her priorities. She said before that she was working 80 hours a week. I think that's amazing. I think I remember doing that when I was, when I first moved to Los Angeles. Being in the creatives, you know, myself doing music, but I didn't really consider it work, right. But if you step back and look at it, I would go, I would work at a restaurant from like, all day, you know, and then I would leave and I would go to rehearsal. And then from rehearsal I would go play a show or I would go out to a show to network, right? So even though I was having fun, I was still like intentionally trying to be there. And if you add all those things up, like she was working a full-time job, but then working in theater at night, still going on auditions, writing on the side, and all this kind of stuff. And it's like, yeah, you add all these things up, and suddenly like, Whoa, I actually I never stopped, you know. And so she said, if you remember back from Episode 19, and 20, she was coaching people on how to publish a book. And she was coaching people on money mindset. And she, those were in addition to working and doing theater still. And so the pandemic really shifted all that for her. And she said she, she, you know, she, you actually asked her like, how did you let go of these things you started because she had started them well, you know, you start anything, you know, you want it to succeed. Right? So, you know, you asked her she said she took the Marie Kondo approach, she kind of took a step back and was like, Is this bringing me joy? Like, Is this really going where I want it to go? And she said, pandemic allowed her that reflection, to identify what truly mattered to her. And then she said she stumbled upon the Bookstagram thing, kind of by accident. And now it's shifting to become a major part of her life. Lesley Logan 16:52  Yeah, I mean, well, because she's an author and she writes books and the reality is to get the deals and to get your, sell your books, you have to have an audience. So she kind of was like doing it for her own books. And now she's like, because she's like promoting all these other people's books, now people are sending her books to do it. Like it's a whole thing. Brad Crowell 19:20  So and if you all like rom-coms, that's her like jam. So that's, that's her genre. She really digs and she's, so she's constantly reviewing these kinds of books. And if that's up your alley, then you should follow her on the IGs (inaudible) show but she ultimately said, you know, she took a look at what, at her life and what she was doing and you know, and was like, what, what's making me smile? What's making me happy? And she shifted because of that. So good for her. That's cool.Lesley Logan 19:49  GO Claie.Brad Crowell 19:50  Go Clare. All right. So finally, let's talk about those Be It Action Items, what bold, executable, intrinsic or targeted action items can we take away from your convo with Clare Solly? This is where I was talking about Clare, I'm really impressed by you because I think very, I think you might be one of two guests who have brought four items, like one for each of the B, E and I and T. XLesley Logan 20:16  There's gotta be like, a mug for that. Brad Crowell 20:19  We're gonna, we're gonna mail you a sticker. Yeah. This is really cool. So she said, hey, listen, this all flows together. So look at what you're obsessed with. Right? Use your comparisons and judgments, then build your confidence and manifest the shit out of it. But let's actually break this down. Let's talk about this. Look at what you're obsessed with. What things are reaching out to you, or what is calling to you, right? And spend your free time on that thing, right? For her it was reading, right? Use your comparisons and judgments, meaning use comparisons constructively. She said, like people's posts or of other people's lives, instead of going, oh my gosh, they're just so much better than me, I'm never going to be as good as them, turn it around and look at it as what is possible. That's amazing that it's possible that this person has, you know, all these things going on in their life. And then see that as possibility for you then use that to build confidence, let your interest and let that encouragement point the way for you in direction. And then manifest the shit out of it. You know, so keep focusing on it. Love this.Lesley Logan 21:32  She said your approach to manifesting has to be the right way. So she said recognize everything is energy. And so you have to get clear on your desires and visualize that desired outcome. But then you have to employ the tools for the focus of it. So like, if you want something but your energy around that is negative, you're never going to have it you're always going to repelling of it. So she said to get clear on those desires, visualize the outcome, and then employ the tools like journaling and meditation. But she also said be intentional and deep dive on the why. Why do you want this thing? Why do you want this to happen? What like, what is it about that makes and it doesn't have to be like brilliant Mother Teresa why but like, you know, like, why do I want to do and I've always wanted one period, end of story. I want, I want it. I want, I want it. I want to be in really cool color, I want everyone to know it's me. Like, that's what I want. And I've wanted it for over 13 years now. So I still want it.Brad Crowell 22:21  Why do I want a black cape? Because I've always wanted to be Darth Vader.Lesley Logan 22:25  Yeah, so there you go. But then Brad, you have to journal and meditate on that cape, I hope you never have. Then you want to detail desires and get clear. She says do that go as many details of it as you can like really like you ABCD all the way through Z are just like however many come up. But then she says you need to use physical reminders. So play sticky notes or other reminders around to keep your goals in mind. Because if you want to manifest something to think about you have to be, and then thinking about is not like the secret like if once I thought it now it's happening. No, you are when you keep it fresh top of mind, you start to use your RAS system to actually see opportunities for that to happen. The RAS system is particularly an activating system. So I basically (inaudible).Brad Crowell 23:10  It totally is. I'm impressed. Reticular activating system. Yes. Lesley Logan 23:14  What did I call it?Brad Crowell 23:15  I don't know. But yes, reticular activating system.Lesley Logan 23:18  I made a new word. I think. Guys, I am so tired, love you. So get as clear as you can on what you want, like and distill things down until you can't get down any further. And I love the idea of Post Its because Post Its can be mantra, they can be affirmations. They can be things you want. So I just think it's great. All right, I'm Lesley Logan. Brad Crowell 23:37  And I'm Brad Cromwell. Lesley Logan 23:38  Thank you so much for being here. You are amazing. I just adore you. 362 episodes. Here we are. Brad Crowell 23:45  Oh my gosh.Lesley Logan 23:46  Because of you.Brad Crowell 23:47  Incredible.Lesley Logan 23:47  So, keep send your questions in. Thank you for all of your reviews. Thank you for sharing this podcast with someone who needs it. And until next time, Be It Till You See It.Brad Crowell 23:54  Bye for now.Lesley Logan 23:57  That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It Podcast. 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Dive into the world of manifestation with Nikole Mitchell, who narrates her transition from living on food stamps to achieving a seven-figure income. This episode breaks down the practical strategies and mindset shifts necessary for manifesting financial freedom and personal success. Explore the role of integrity in your aspirations, the importance of believing in your vision.   If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co. And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:Misconceptions when it comes to manifesting your dreams.Why calling in requires clarity, belief, and consistent action.The power of visualizing your success in detail. Why you should cling to the voice that resonates with you.The importance of owning the audacity and size of your dreamsWhy there is no one-size-fits-all solution in coaching.Episode References/Links:Nikole Mitchell's WebsiteNikole Mitchell's TwitterNikole Mitchell's FacebookNikole Mitchell's InstagramNikole Mitchell's YoutubeNikole Mitchell's TiktokGuest Bio:She is known as the pastor-turned-stripper. She left a religious community for the adult industry and has never been happier, healthier, or wealthier. She transitioned from food stamps to 7 figures by embracing the truest version of herself, even if it meant being misunderstood. She is an expert in pleasure, power, and profit, as well as self-expression and being an online sex worker.  If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox. Get your free Athletic Greens 1 year supply of Vitamin D3+K2 and 5 free travel packsGet your discount for some Toe Sox using the code: LESLEY Be It Till You See It Podcast SurveyBe in the know with all the workshops at OPCBe a part of Lesley's Pilates MentorshipFREE Ditching Busy Webinar  Resources:Watch the Be It Till You See It podcast on YouTube!Lesley Logan websiteBe It Till You See It PodcastOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley LoganOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley Logan on YouTubeProfitable Pilates Follow Us on Social Media:InstagramFacebookLinkedIn  Episode Transcript:Nikole M. Mitchell 0:00  People get really frustrated and they burn out and they say it's all a hoax. But really when it comes to the art of manifestation, there's a lot of grit and tenacity that is required like you absolutely have to have a vision. You absolutely have to believe like the loose stuff is real, but it has to be backed up and substantiated with action, and ongoing action, especially when it looks like it's not working.Lesley Logan 0:20  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started. Lesley Logan 1:02  Hi, hi. Okay, you guys. This woman needs no introduction. You've already heard her on the podcast before but we're already having her back because she's phenomenal and multifaceted in so many ways. Nikole Mitchell, thank you so much for being here. One, we had the best time in person with you last time and we talked about so many things. So if you missed that episode, it's linked in the show notes go listen to it. However, one of the things that I have been following you and just loving you talk about is manifestation like making our visions happen. And so I wanted to bring you back and I wanted to like nerd out and go deep because I think people can get a little woowoo on the manifestation thing. But I guess before we go right into that, maybe just a quick little two-second, two-minute intro like who you are and what you rock at. Just in case you haven't listened to the last one. Nikole M. Mitchell 1:49  Yes. So thank you, Lesley, for having me. I'm Nikole Mitchell. I'm known as many things one of those things is past return stripper. I'm a life coach. I've gone from food stamps to seven figures, and I'm really good at helping people unlock their power, their pleasure and their profit.Lesley Logan 2:04  Yeah, I I love how concise all that is. And like each one has its own like life story. I guess like, the I feel like the only way any of those could have happened was because of visualization and true, like clarity around what you want. So maybe, I hear people say I'm manifesting this. They throw that word around a lot. What are some, like myths around manifesting that you hear are some misconceptions about it? Nikole M. Mitchell 2:33  Yes. I think one of the biggest one is like if you just say it, it'll happen. If you think it once, it will happen. Yes, it's just like a one and done kind of thing. And people get really frustrated. And then they burn out. And they say it's all a hoax. But really, when it comes to the art of manifestation, there's a lot of grit and tenacity that is required, like you absolutely have to have a vision, you absolutely have to believe like the woowoo stuff is real. But it has to be backed up and substantiated with action, and ongoing action, especially when it looks like it's not working. That to me, I found my own personal journey the manifestation is right when everything looks like it's falling apart. That has always been my catalyst to the greater things. But most people freak out, everything's falling apart, you're thinking this doesn't work. Not only does it work, it's made everything worse. And that's when they bail. It's literally three feet from the goal. They're right for like right there. And they quit right before the finish line. And it kills me every time. So like I've seen this happen so many times that shift that rearranging that feels like a disaster. It's a divine rearranging means you're right there, stay the course.Lesley Logan 3:35  Yeah, I can I like so when we, this house that we're sitting in, when I like I spent time in April with one of my coaches and when she had this whole, like quantifying your vision, so it wasn't just enough to like have a vision like she had all these questions. All these prompts. We're to quantify it, we had actually go How much does all these things that we want in this dream life cost? Because not to scare you to be like you can't ever afford that. But to like, have clear goals around what that is you can actually say yes to that. And so I was very clear on this, like five bedroom house, I had this yard like I would be had it all pictured and Brad and I were on the same page and we came to Vegas, you guys and the real estate agents took all these houses and I was like none of these are the vision and how did I get this so wrong? Like I felt like I was so wrong about it. And we got in the car kind of bummed because we first we rented a car to come to Vegas to see these houses cuz we didn't have a car. And we got in the car we're like, let's just drive to where we fell in love with Vegas first and then like drive around until we find something. And I remember being on the phone with someone and I was just kind of like at a loss. We came back to LA we hadn't found anything but I just hadn't couldn't give up on this goal. And I wanted to move by June 1st and this is like nine days before June 1st and I'm on the phone with her I'm like I can't be wrong about this. Like I know I have had the vision I'm so clear and I know everything that I it's going to cost we can afford all of this like everything is ready. But I didn't find it and I don't understand. And I got off the phone with her. And I was like, I just can't be wrong. I know I'm not wrong about this. I opened my phone and there was an email from a real estate agent like, I think I found this one house for you. And you guys there were staying in the house. And you know, no one was everyone said, you can't move in nine days. I'm like, no one moved in nine days, we moved in nine days. But I think there was that moment where I could have just given up and we we did not we like we kind of get through so I feel like that is the heart that is the hardest part. What do you do when you are like in everything is a mess and like you're like, you I mean, you're, you're so equipped that you know that it's going to work out but like what did what are some tools that you use to like, when everything feels like it's falling apart? Nikole M. Mitchell 5:42  I still panic. Like, as a professional manifester I do feel like I've really nailed the art of it. I still panic. I call it my holy tantrums. Like I throw divine fits where I like, I'll punch pillows, I'll curse the universe. I'll be so mad. I was like I know these laws. I know how this works, why the f this is not happening yet? Why the f does it look like everything's falling apart? Why do things have to fall apart like I am so like, direct with the divine because I know the universe can handle it first of all. And second of all, it does something in me when I can get all that rage out and not have to pretend like I'm okay with it. It does something to me, once I get it out. I come back. But I found when I tried to keep in to be proper and to be appropriate and to like be a person of faith and trust, like it would just boil under my skin. So I've really found that having a tantrum really helps me get it out of my system without letting me quit.Lesley Logan 6:36  Okay, thank you for saying that, I have I have to throw the tantrum. And then sometimes I'm like, why do I throw tantrums all the time? Like why can I just like, get to the point where it's after the tantrum. But there's something about like, if you're not going to fight for it, you know, like Nikole M. Mitchell 6:53  It shows how much you care about it. It's like we have this idea like Zen, like I'm just always gonna be at peace, and it's totally fine. But when you really care about something, and you're so passionate about it, and your your heart is screaming, that this is meant for you. It doesn't make sense that you'd be calm, it makes sense that you would panic and be mad and fret because you care so deeply. And this is what I love about it. It just that tantrum communicates how committed you are to that vision. And it's it's, it's really is a genuine spot of misery to know what it's meant for you and to not be there yet. And it's in that state of misery. It's temporary, but gosh, it feels eternal. When you're in it. Can you stay the course long enough to not quit nine days before that house showed up or whatever the goal you're calling in? Because it is temporary, but it's because you care so much, you know that is meant for you. It's gonna cause you to throw some tantrums.Lesley Logan 7:44  Yeah. I love that. Okay, you said this calling in? Yeah. Can you explain what you mean by that? Because I think that that's probably a part of manifestation most people don't do.Nikole M. Mitchell 7:55  So for me. So I think we're maybe a little different. I do way better manifesting things, I don't know the logistics around things I don't know the numbers like I like to get so dreamy in my head that I have no idea how on earth this could ever happen. And the more I try to figure out the how the more I go crazy. So then my goal is to be like such a magnet that it just it is forced to shoot my reality like literally pulls it in. And I almost view it as like the split through fabric in time like this whole visualize it. And like my hand grabbing the future and pulling it for like it gets to be mine now. It was interesting, when I was flying into Vegas, today, I always journal on my flights, or I read old journals. It's like my time like as I'm elevating literally, I elevate energetically. Lesley Logan 8:38  Oh, that's so fun. Nikole M. Mitchell 8:39  It's my favorite ritual. So like, I'm very careful as like, as I'm with you rise up higher and like I am rising higher my life and making more money, having more success, I'm having more fun, like it is such a symbol for me like what's coming my way. So it says reading an old journal and I read what I'd written in 2021. I'm like in 2021, I'm going to be a million dollar woman. And it was in 2022 that I became a million dollar woman. But I was like, Oh my gosh, like back then I had no concept of how I'd make a million dollars. I just knew I was meant to make a million dollars, I had a heart for it. I had a vision for it. And I declared it and over time as you take inspired action and you try different things and you put yourself out there like it will find its way to you so for me it's less about me trying to chase it down and force it to happen. It's more of like I surrender to this desire. I show the f up for it. And then I let the universe surprise me with how it shows up.Lesley Logan 9:29  Yeah, I think I'm I definitely do the big picture vision. And the only that quantify was the first time I ever did it. The only reason that helped me is because I actually grew up since I grew up with no money. I've never had money and actually six so this year was my 10th year anniversary when I was homeless for the third and last time. So like I actually was just like you know when you like I'll buy a house like I never even knew like how much money one would need for that. So doing that has allowed me to know, okay, I have to make X number of dollars. And y'all, we made it the next weekend. So like, but like, I didn't go into that with the I'm gonna make this like I was like, we have this thing and it can do that, and I'm gonna keep that vision in life. So I think, but I do, but I do like that youI like that elevating up, I've got this new, I got a new remarkable tablet guys here to hear me talking about all the time because I can't read my own writing, which is why I've had I've stopped journaling because I can't read it. But I hate that I've stopped journaling, because that's when I have been the most clear about what I want. So my we had (inaudible) on the show, and she has one I was at her house in the UK. And she's I was like, Can I just try it? You guys, it can read my own horrible writing. I'm lefty, itcan read it. So it's on its way to this house right now. And I'm like, good. That's what I mean. I knew ritual on planes because I love that. Nikole M. Mitchell 10:50  Do you know, the reason I actually started this is back. So I was on food stamps for nine years. And I made this intention that because traveling, I couldn't afford it. And I was afraid that when I would travel, I was losing money, right? This was my mindset back then very traditional, very lack based. And I want to believe the principle right of the law of multiplication, that anytime you circulate, spend or invest money, it always comes back to multiply so very much direct that towards travel. So I very intentionally said whenever I travel, I always make more money, I have money making ideas, I make connections clients hire me like so I very intentionally every time I feel I'm journaling and I'm journaling kind of saved my life because I'm like, I'm spending this money. I'm on food stamps. This is so irresponsible. My heart says this is what I'm meant to do. So I'm journaling like, I'm a wealthy woman, I make millions of dollars, massive success, like massive fame, like almost as like a plea to God. Like I'm doing this as a commitment to my future self into who I'm becoming I refuse to stay where I am. And that ritual is now carried on for five years. Like it's become my most sacred time to remember who I am as I elevate as a reminder that we are always evolving and transforming and I've only just gotten started.Lesley Logan 11:57  I love that. Okay, so I want to know how what, because I feel like I can picture you there and I am because I've had similar situations. How do you write I am this when you're not that yet? Like what is the what is what do you have to tell yourself or believe like, what's that? Because I feel like that's being it until you see it. And that's my manifestation like so many people like I believe I am a million dollar person. But if you are on food stamps, like there is there's dissonance there that the brain is you know, there's a brain there that means like you're not so how did you how do you overcome that?Nikole M. Mitchell 12:30  So for me for my truth, let me know if this resonates with you, Lesley and those of you listening? I actually find when I get still and I declare these statements. They feel like the truth is truth I could speak me on food stamps felt like a fraud. That actually felt like a fraud me wanting a million dollars did not like when I got really still since I was a young girl. I've wanted to be famous, I wanted to be rich, I've wanted to be successful, it was never allowed in the spaces I grew up in that was never looked up when I was very much looked down upon very much shamed and shunned and so I quickly and quietly stuffed those desires down. So when I got older and started learning manifestation, and owning these desires have always had it felt like coming home. And sure this was your brains like you're not that but more than not it was like It felt good to breathe until breathe life into and speak into existence what I've always wanted. And the frustration the frustration was, why am I this when I meant to be that? Why am I in food stamps when I meant to be a millionaire? Why? Why am I struggling at home when I am meant to be a CEO? Like this. this is the fraud. This is truth. And so it became easier like to really own it. And I think that's what people need is permission to own the audacity and the size of your dreams. Because we're always taught to shrink to make it palatable for me to be like I want to be a millionaire would never have flown in my family, in my circles or in my church. So I keep that quiet. But what would it look like for us to believe in each other's size of our dreams and our audacity and ability to manifest it to become it to achieve it? It would make it so much easier for people to speak it aloud own it and I think call it in.Lesley Logan 14:06  Okay. So many just different gems. Everyone has to rewind and go back because I want to listen, I love all of it. But I love that you share what it is that the life you're living was actually the fraud. That I think is actually most people's existence, but they don't they think it's real. Nikole M. Mitchell 14:23  Yes. And this is the power of the illusion. Like it's strongest fog. It's like when you're on food stamps and you can't pay your bills and you're crying I would cry myself to sleep I'm starving except such severe anxiety from not able to provide for our family like it feels as real as anything. And so this is where I had to work really hard at finding two minutes of peace to find the the teeny tiny kernel of truth and my soul. Where like that whisper that would not go away that said you were meant for more than this, Nicole. This is not all there is but it was quiet enough to where I think a lot of people stuffed it down, ignore it and convincing them selves. This is as far as they're gonna get. This is how it's always going to be. But for those of us brave enough to water, that kernel to water, that seed to let it grow a little sprouts within you, and you're going to feel crazy, people are going to tell you like, don't don't raise your hopes be willing to lose them. Like, be realistic. Yeah, I don't want to be realistic. Because at the end of the day, I don't want to realistic life. I want a mind-blowing life. So I'd have mind-blowing beliefs about mind-blowing possibilities, if that's what I actually want. So the more I watered it, the more I started to feel it, the more I started to identify it, the more I started to experience it. But you have to intentionally cultivate that, because it will not happen on its own with all the odds you're facing. Lesley Logan 15:37  Yeah, because your internal voice is just yours and every other voice around you of all the people and all their fears and all the protection all those people who haven't listened to their voice and generation. Telling you something (inaudible) I think that's so cool. Okay, so how did you listen to your voice? Did you know it was your voice like this might sound crazy, but like, I feel like when I first heard my own voice, I remember who is that? You guys, I remember driving on the one on one freeway, as in my last relationship. And I heard myself say, Dear God, can you just have him break up with me because I don't actually know how to get out of this. And I'm going who is talking?Nikole M. Mitchell 16:20  But it's so true. Like, we've become so disconnected from our own truth and our own voice that it does feel foreign. And then we've been taught to not especially as women, and if especially if you're from a marginalized community, if you're a person of color, if you're queer, if you're disabled, like you've been taught to not trust your body, you've been taught to not trust your desires, you've been taught to not trust your intuition. So when you're working, you're trying to find your voice again, there is a lot of doubt, and there is a lot of confusion. But the more you just practice and try it will become clearer and clearer. So what I did in the beginning, when I didn't have my voice, I clung on to the person whose voice resonated with me. And that like kind of woke up my voice the more I heard them speak the more I read what they wrote, the more I listened to their live streams on like, I could feel her coming alive in me. And then back then I had my kids were really little have three kids and I was exhausted, and I'm still nursing and all were so broken, everything's so stressful. And I'm not a morning person. So the only time I could afford peace and sanity in my life, I would set my alarm two minutes, literally two minutes before my kids got up. I couldn't do five I couldn't do 30 minutes, but I'm not I'm not that extreme. I'm, I need my sleep. But then I laid two minutes. And I would just I would visualize being a wealthy woman, I would visualize the big home I would have I'd visualize living in the state of my dreams. And it felt crazy considering my circumstances. But those two minutes eventually became five minutes eventually became my tradition back then was every time I was at a red light, because driving all the time, I would stop and I'd visualize and I would start crying because I could see it and feel it and smell it and taste it so clearly, the light would turn green, I'd snap back to reality and go so I would incorporate these moments is trigger it's like a red light or flying on a plane. Who are you really Nikole? What is your truth? What do you want? Remember that above all the noise that you're facing right now.Lesley Logan 18:07  Okay, so some of the things I love about this first of all, y'all, when you if you do this right before you wake up, there's a reason why morning pages are called morning pages and you're supposed to do them as soon as you wake up. And I have people go, what can I do after I have coffee? No, you're because it says in the morning, why? Your theta it's like there's a wave. It's the it's you're almost still in hypnosis. So it's actually when the best time to do meditation, visualization, journaling, because there's just the the part of your brain that's actually still kind of doing the work is the one that's in that's I'm gonna be wrong. But I had a hypnotherapist on here. It's it. It's like almost hypnotic. And so you can actually really retrain your brain rewire your brain to what it is you want to see. The other thing I love about it is you're doing small doses, so it's not, you're not changing your entire life. 30 minutes is way too much. Y'all retiming habits, he will even tell you, you cannot go from zero to 30 minutes on anything, no matter how much you want it. The other thing I love is that like you're spending more and more time trying to hear your voice and see your thing and it throughout the day because that's the only way to find the evidence that the universe is out there. So you can be the magnet that you're saying and like to go back to manifestation the only way you can magnet anything in is if you can actually see that oh, that's that's the turn I'm supposed to make. And you can only trust that turn because you've seen it so many times in your in your visions.Nikole M. Mitchell 18:07  I would write affirmations down on sticky notes and plastered them all over my kitchen, my bathroom, my hallways my bedroom literally everywhere I walked because I just I had to inundate my psyche that was convinced I would be poor for the rest of my life that possibilities exist up leveling exists. Manifestation exists. Wealth exists for Nicole not just I felt like it existed for everyone but me and then friends would come over and I'd tear through my house to tear all the sticky notes down because I couldn't afford anyone's kickback. I couldn't afford anyone making fun of me because I was so fragile at this and I was such a baby like it not an insult like a beginner. And so I would take them all down and no one's ever left I've classroom backup like I was very protective myself the first year when I was learning how to manifest and visualize a different future for myself. So anything you can do count every small thing and I teach to my clients it will compound like your cup is going to fill fill, fill, fill fill, and then it's going to spill over into up on it. So if you do those sticky notes, you take two minutes here a minute at the stoplight, it all adds up and it will help you get where you're meant to be.Lesley Logan 20:26  Yeah. Thank you for bringing back up and we talked about this more in the first episode we had you on was just like protecting you have to you have to protect this beginner this new version of you, whatever it is, because you we are you don't have the muscle to like articulate always, like, why you're doing what you're doing. And anyone who could act like even if it was a simple question, like why do you do this and it doesn't even have to have the tone of negativity. It could just be curiosity. But if you're if you don't feel like you have the words to say it in a way that feels confident that could actually keep you from putting them back up. So I love that brought that back up. Okay. So manifesting. Obviously you do visualize there's that but like, it can't just be okay speak into existence like the secret which everybody was like all in I think my own family gotten to the secret which I thought was very interesting for a moment there like speak it out, guys speak it out. But what, but it's also combined with as you said, grit and tenacity. So how do you do you you write these things down? Do you put them somewhere? And then you call them in? Like, what are those looking like.Nikole M. Mitchell 21:32  So it's easier to call something and the more it's normalized in your brain in your body. So when I was poor, I wanted I had no idea what wealth was like. And so I started going to like fancy cafes just to sit and I'd order the cheapest thing on their menu and then I remember one time, like I'm going to order the most expensive and is a latte that had gold flakes on it, like 24 karat flakes. I sat there I'm like, I'm so rich right now but like just to normalize oh, people do this every day. I can afford one latte a month people do this everyday. I go to the lobbies of super rich hotels. I felt like such a fraud. I was like waiting to get caught like you miss what are you doing here? Like I no one cares. It's a freaking hotel. But it just showed what an outsider I felt like when it came to beautiful things to wealth to elegance to glamour. And so like I started to expose myself, I would make vision boards right literally like old school sky. I'm like printing off million dollar homes from California and printed off beach sunsets and plenty off dollar signs and productive number of money I want to make some day. I started like, one time to my girlfriend. I'm like, I want to meet a millionaire. I never met one before and that felt like an alien from space. Like there's so few and far between. They probably don't exist. I hear they exist. I've never seen one in my real life. And now, almost everyone I know in my life is a millionaire. It is crazy. Lesley Logan 22:44  It's crazy. Y'all it is insane. How many millionaires are out there? In fact, now it's like that's not even enough. Like the billionaires like,Nikole M. Mitchell 22:52  Yeah, millionaires. I'm like, that's cute. Before it was like, woahLesley Logan 22:56  No, but, if you haven't like I only got it. You're taking me back in time because I there's certain things I would do to like, make sure that I could tell myself I was wealthy like even when I was homeless. I ate at Whole Foods. Yeah. And I went to the I went to the salad bar guys, and I have no idea how much it was gonna cost. But like I was like, nope, I am not. I am not someone who is going to have ramen. I don't even know how I get gluten-free ramen. But I'm not going to have ramen for lunch. Like, I'm going to have a regular meal. I'm going to sit out here in Brentwood, while celebrities walk out of that Whole Foods. Not because I wanted to be that was I wasn't actually manifesting being famous, but I wanted to live and be welcomed in that neighborhood. And I wanted to stop like my manifestation was like, I will no longer get an apartment somewhere because that's what I can afford. I will get an apartment somewhere because that's where I want to live. And that was like my thing and I would so I would sit there and it was this way of taking action in like, action towards the vision like this is going to be comfortable. In fact, it'd be so normal for me to park and this Whole Foods it's not gonna go like who is this person here? Is she selling like signatures on the front of the Whole Foods? No, I don't work here. This is where I shop. This is where I eat. There was somebody who used to write their scripts I think at it wasn't the Waldorf. There's a very famous hotel that's escaping me over on Sunset Boulevard. It's a, if Brad was here he could tell he's like probably he's trying to tell me what it is to my brain but like where script writers would go to write their scripts because they wanted to someday be staying be famous enough and rich enough to stay at that hotel. All I can think about you guys if you're trying to like which hotel? It is the one Lindsay Lohan was at there's been other famous people I just can't think of it right now. Nikole M. Mitchell 24:39  I love it. The other thing that's really helped me manifest and normalize my goals is hiring those who already have it. So hiring mentors or coaches or guides, people who have the lifestyle you want them when you want, the business you want. Even today I was interviewing a business owner. He's been a restaurant and gambling owner for 20 years and I'm like If you need to mentor people that like opening a restaurant, a brick and mortar business is absolutely terrifying, huge risk lots people don't make it, you've had a massively successful for 2020 years, you need to mentor he is like I want to mentor people. So you want to gravitate towards those who have what you want. If you can't afford them at first, read everything you can on them online, watch their podcasts interviews, like do everything to be in their energy. And if there's ever an opportunity to take a free masterclass or a small price best, like, do whatever you can to learn from them. I would say that's been one of my biggest hacks isn't trying to fumble along and figure it on my own. I hire people who are already where I want to be like, Tell me everything you know, and then being in their energy being in that like being learning their understanding how they approach things. makes it so much faster for me to get there. Lesley Logan 25:45  Okay. Yes. Okay, that is awesome. Because you are skipping the line. You're not because also when you're especially when you're new to manifesting, you're, especially when you're new to like calling in what you want and haven't gotten tenacity. Nothing sucks more than trying to like fumble along, and then realize you've been going down the wrong road this whole time. It is and if you don't have the strength and that muscle believing like no, I do believe this, it could be a setback that just takes you out. So I do love that I um, the first time I hired a business coach, and people are like, why do you need to hire a business coach? I'm like, I'm taking my business to private school. And they're like, What am I? Why does everyone pay for private school for their kids? It's not like they're learning anything different. They're learning the same things that every other kid is learning. It's just that they have smaller class sizes. And what a network. And so that is what happens and I need my business to be in private school because you get to skip the line. You get more connections and and, yes, I everything I did before I hired a business coach, I learned from a podcast and I like I treat a podcast like I paid for that education I'm like, I had a notepad out every time I listen to certain podcasts. I was like, what are my three takeaways? In fact, I found a podcast where the host actually goes, here's my takeaways. And I was like, great, I'll just write yours down. That sounds great. Thank you. But like so that's what's so crazy in the world that we live today that there's actually so much that you can do if you can't afford to hire anyone. In fact, every, every single one of these multi-figure coaches out there have podcasts or have free content. I'm gonna tell you right now, I promise you, they're giving their best stuff away for free. If they're doing it right. It's just out of order. So if you can take the time to reorder it, you you can get an MIT to education without paying for MIT. Now, as all their education is free, the only way you get the degree is if you pay them. So if you want the certificate, you pay them but like, it's all out there, it goes back to that grit and tenacity like are you going to be willing to like, stop just thinking about it and actually, like, take some action towards what you're thinking about.Nikole M. Mitchell 27:43   I will give that feedback once awhile, like, why do you charge for this, this should be free. If it's if it matters so much you shouldn't make it available to the masses. So a couple of thoughts on that, like I put out so much free content that if you if you consume my free content and implement it in your life, it will change your life period. Second, we take for granted things that are free. If advice worked, the coaching business wouldn't exist. Obviously taking free advice does not have the same impact as hiring a mentor who can guide you through real real shit in real time. So just trusting that there is enough information for you to get started. And then I will say this because it's really important because woo and manifestation and personal love is so popular right now. Don't let yourself get scammed. There's a lot of people who can make you big, lofty promises, you're gonna make $7 million in seven weeks, it's like, and it gets you excited because you feel like anything's possible. But if your gut is saying something feels off, your gut is always telling you the truth. So I would much rather start with someone smaller, someone more grounded, someone who's not as big because it's like, there's something I can relate to this and I can connect to so really trust your intuition. Don't get caught up on the gimmicks and the bells and whistles of people trying to like dazzle you into the program. Hire the person or the people that you really resonate with. You can tell they have integrity. You can tell they're legit. Those are the people to learn from.Lesley Logan 28:58  Oh, yes. Yes. Because I mean, even some of the really big name coaches out there that you know, everyone knows who these guys are they have they sell people courses, but if you don't actually have an idea, if you don't know how to, even if you can buy it, it doesn't mean it's gonna make you money. In fact, there's like a shout out to this podcast it's my favorite I listen to Queen of the Con Season Four is all about the real housewife from Salt Lake City. And she had these companies that would, they look legit, you would like Google like work from home course. And then you know they had all this stuff but they were like oh well if you want that, buy this. Oh, that only works if you buy this and it was like all these things. It's truly like as a business coach, we're very honest. We'll tell you what's right for you. What's wrong for you. Like oh, actually, this is not gonna be the best thing for you. You go do these things. Here's why we think your ideas amazing. Here's what it's gonna take to get there. Super, super honest. Even in the 15 minute consultation call with Brad does you'll get coaching because we'll be like, I love that idea. Here's why you need to have anan assistant to do that. Like just really honest information you got to find coach like that because you can get you can buy the wrong course or be scammed or also, you got to know yourself do you need like I, I bought a course recently and I'm halfway through it and I have six more months to finish it. And I had to make appointments of myself to do it because I actually show up better when it's live.Nikole M. Mitchell 30:26  I'm so that is gonna say the exact same thing. And like you have to know what kind of learner you are. I will ship something live, I will not ship something pre recorded. I just know myself and the only way I will ship something pre recorded is just like you said, I literally put my calendar 4pm on Tuesday watching module ones program, otherwise I never get around to it, but live in it. Which is why to this day even though I've been in business for five years, I could automate and sell all my programs forever and ever never teach live again. I teach every single one live, because I know I'm a better learner when it's live energy, I love be able to like meet you in real time. Like talk to me. Where are you at? I'll give you feedback right now. Like, yeah, there's benefits to both. So I have people who thrive in courses, and I'm the kind of person who thrives on live energy. So just know your style and support yourself in that direction.Lesley Logan 31:05  Yeah, and like, and then also, it's okay to be where you are like, yeah, for example, the particular course I bought, the reason I bought it was I was like, I liked this idea. I've listened to a podcast, issue is valid information. I don't want to spend, like I love spending money but I was like, I don't want to spend that money on that thing. What I think I just want this module. So I've had to go, Okay, it's in my calendar, I had to literally tell Brad, okay, this is Mondays at 10am. I'm going to watch the thing, I'm going to do the thing. And then I'm going to do these things. And so I've had to do it and tell them every Monday, okay, here's what I learned today on this course. Because otherwise I know myself, but if I, if I can I love a live event, I love being in a room with people, even if it's a Zoom Room. And even as a presenter, like, one of the things we did this year was were we a bunch of courses, they're not outdated, but like the technology is better. And so it was like, you know, I want to update the content, we're filming them live. And we're selling the tickets to come live for like nothing 25 bucks. So if I can give this information away, but I know that the recorded content will have the energy of how I show up when it's live. Because if I if I pre-record stuff, it's like you're like talking to a white wall in this room. So it's not fun. So that but I I would prefer more people to come to the live one, and pay less amount and get all that information. It's just how I am. So I began to do you have to like a learner and you have to know what you have access, what's accessible and what you're valuing right now. And it's okay to go. Oh my god, I would love to spend that. But this is all I have who does that? But there's a couple people who are into the coaching industry who are like, well, why don't you just spend the money if this is like the the new secret where it's like you say it out loud. Now there's people who are like, just once you invest the money, that's the same, like you basically have done it. It's like, no, you should get coaching for the money that you're investing. Like, yeah, there should be calls, there should be some sort of something that's going to help you it can't just be like putting the money out there. It's like those old church shows of like, send your money and we'll pray your bills away. That's the same thing. It's still not going to work. Their bills are still there. Nikole M. Mitchell 33:10  Totally. Yeah. I love that you said that. Like you just start where you are. I know we all wish we're further down the road and we wish you can do this and I want to give you this piece of wisdom is like you are the only one who can save you. And that's like both good and bad. It's bad because we want someone else to save us it just feels easier if I can throw money at you and Lesley can save me hallelujah. That's not how it works. I'm the only person who can save me at the end of the day so if there's a mentor or guide or coach who's like if you don't hire me you're not going to make it, run. You are so brilliant, you're so capable, you come from the Divine, you've got this, you're gonna make it and it might take a little bit longer but you you've got this on your own you only want to hire someone not because you need to need them not because you're pressuring you not because they save you don't buy the highest ticket you're not actually committed I see all this kind of bogus stuff on the internet is like you want to hire someone because there's there's there's no electric charge there there's an alignment they're not because they're gonna save you but they represent who you can become. They've saved themselves and us now see oh, I can save myself so just be aware of any coach or leader who's like well if you don't hire me or if you don't buy my highest ticket you can't make it that's all BS you'll make it and just you're going to hire the right person the right amount the right price for you. Lesley Logan 34:18  Yeah, there's something to every level there because there's just always is and I love that you brought that up because it's it is all in you like the coach the coach is a thing that people I think fig get wrong with coaches, they are a guide they're not the hero. Nikole M. Mitchell 34:32  Yes. You're the here in your own story. Lesley Logan 34:34  Yes, yes. Yes. And like I think that's what a lot of people if you're listening if you are in the service industry of some kind whether you're a coach or a teacher, whatever that we also get wrong. We think I like as a Pilates instructor I used to think I have to be the one that helps them get that exercise. No, they have to show up. They have to do their part they have to, they have to get their mind in the moment. All I can all I can do is choose the exercise I think are the best for them. But they have to do the work. And once you can change that, it helps you have so much ownership nothing. It's, it's not happening to you, it's happening for you. And then you can also go okay, what am I supposed to learn from this? And how do I grow from this and you I don't know, it's very more empowering to figure out like you have it all in you, and this person can help you because it's a nice reminder, like my most recent coach, she was not even that many steps ahead of us, she was just enough ahead of us that I could learn a lot. She had grit and tenacity. And she, she pushed me to dream even bigger. And then she showed me how she was even doing it in that moment. And I loved that because it was this, it was, it was helpful. And it has accountability. And I couldn't let the old stories ever show up, because I kept surrounding myself with her. So I just think that it's really, really important. But she always reminded me, she's like, you are the one doing the work. All I can do here are the tools and tips. If I was in your shoes, here's what I would do. But you have to show up and do it, you have to believe that you're going to do it. And I think that's where a lot of people get it wrong, because they they either hire a person who tells them it's my way. And that's the only way you can make it or they stop believing and they stopped doing it. They think that if I spent the money it's going to happen because I I put the money over here.Nikole M. Mitchell 36:17  It drives me crazy crazy when I see coaches promote that. And it makes me so mad because like you said, it's the same message just wrapped in different clothing or you know, it's like, just give me your money. And you'll somehow miraculously make it it's not that simple. Like if it I'm like run, run run because you have to show up and you have to save yourself and I think a really good coach or guide like, reflects back to your greatness and also like I can, you've learned things about business, I learned things about this, I've so much business sage and wisdom I can give you that I knew nothing about a few years ago. So we have a lot of practical stuff. We have a lot of energetic stuff that I tell my clients, you're gonna think long term, when they first start we're gonna be there's a lot of information, there's a lot of knowledge, and then it elevates and evolves into energetic transmissions, and then it evolves into vibration. So now people come to me further along in their journey less for the information and more for the vibration. Like when they come into my world, they feel me they feel and they they feel them shifting. And then when situations come through in their life or their business or finances, they show up differently because of this vibration, they feel so big, it becomes more woo and it becomes incredibly effective. But it can be different for you along your journey if you're in a journey of like you need lots of information you're going to hire coaching give me a lot of information if you're in a season of like I just need you to infuse my days with like energetic laws then do that. I see you crushing it I want to be a mentee under you're watching you live your life absorbing the way you do life because that's going to meet you and serve you massively so there's like different phases you're going to find yourself in, which is why there is no like just pay here and you'll you'll be saved. Where are you? What do you need? What do you desire? Hire based on that.Lesley Logan 37:46  Yeah. Okay, so something that like there's a I'm one of those people who's like, I love to know a little bit more about the manifestation to you. So you journal and you you elevate, you elevate on the plane all that stuff. Do you vision board? Do you like vision board? Do you think that's part of it? Like what are some tools and tips that people who are wanting to make manifestation because I, I'm like, I feel like that is anytime I've ever had gotten what I wanted. It's because I was I got clarity, I had the division and I took the action. And then anytime I'm not where I want to be I'm like oh, when's the last time you actually thought about that? When's the last time you actually took some time to to remind yourself of why you're doing what you're doing what you want, and maybe even dream a little bigger because sometimes we get we get a little small on that and then call it in. I I'm very clear. I'm like, Oh, we're we're not happy because we didn't do the vision mark. So what are what are your tools?Nikole M. Mitchell 38:43  I do all the things so I journal. I used to not be a journaler. It's annoying. I don't have time what my hand gets cramped rather tight, but I am just, I'm left-handed so when you said that I was like she's left-handed, too.Lesley Logan 38:54  I just watched her do it with her hand. It crimps because no one taught us how to hold a pencil. And also if you're using the pin, you can just smear it or a pencil like you can't read it.Nikole M. Mitchell 39:02  And because you're not, we're raised in a right hand society, you're you use your hand right hand for almost everything. So you just don't utilize your left hand as the same amount like you. Yeah, yeah, I feel you. So for those of you who are not journalers there's hope for you is what I'm saying because I was not a journaler but now I'm very intentional about it. I did sticky notes. I definitely believe in vision boards. Like when I was living in Midwest and the food stamps and we're struggling to make our 700-dollar mortgage payment. I didn't know how on earth you're gonna move to California that has $5,000 lease payments, and like so I printed like these gorgeous, huge California homes to start normalizing my psyche. I'd watch YouTube videos of the ocean crashing because I so badly want to get out of the frigid weather for warm weather I'm like I'm gonna be selling beach every day like this is gonna be my norm someday. I make playlists of music that makes me feel so alive and powerful. I have a money playlist and I have an unleashed playlist the money's about all about becoming rich. And then my unleash is like feeling expressed, empowered. I say what I want I do what I want I wear when I would listen to that. Working out used to be a big component. My first a few years ago, whenever I work out, I'd feel so powerful and as often when I'd go live on my Facebook sweaty, no makeup, gross and so fucking charged and alive and like that's how I started joining some of my clients because there's no pretense there's no perfection, there's no perfect post, it's just like real-time to call in the flow and in the zone. And that helps call in. The last thing I will say in addition to visualization. So back in the day when I was poor, and I was like, someday I'm only going to fly first class, like that is a dream. Well, it's one thing to say that visualize it, it is another thing to fork over the money for it. And so I remember the first time I paid for first-class ticket was like, Oh my gosh, oh my gosh, oh, my gosh, this is irresponsible. Because I'm, I'm on food stamps. But it was such an expander for me. So I flew the first flight that offers first-class, totally life-changing. A month or two later on my next flight, and I was like, oh, gosh, and this one I went to look at the first class, it was four times the price of the economy. So it wasn't even double. My last one was double. This is four times the price. I'm like, oh, no, that I can't. So I chickened out, bought the economy. I could not sleep that night, because I was out of integrity with my identity. My identity says I'm a first class woman then why on earth did you buckle because I believed I couldn't make it like what if I pay for it, and then the money doesn't show up is all fear based and lack-based. The next morning, I called the airline and like, I need to upgrade to first class like good, you called within 24 hours, we can upgrade you. I paid four times the price for it. It's freaking out. I'm like, how can I say I'm gonna become a woman who flies first class, who only buys it once and never buys it again. You have to have integrity. And so even now, this iteration of my journey, I want to fly private. And so I just bought a month ago my first ever private jet plane ticket for me, my partner, mind you, which is so amazing to be able to pay for two people. And I had like it was a chance to normalize my nervous system like this is this is safe. This is allowed. It's more than I pay for a regular ticket. But like, this is the life I want to be and have and like came out here today, I bought another private jet ticket just like I have to be integrity with what I say I wantLesley Logan 41:59  So I just wanted to know, on your suitcases, the house, I looked and saw the JSX and I was like, yes, she did. I love you. I love that you're in my life so much because like it's so there's, I think there's there's different each person in our life gives us a little nugget of something right? Our mutual friend Michael like he's, he's like, the drive he has like he is like, I feel he's a hummingbird. He just doesn't stop. But there's a couple things about you that remind me of things that like sometimes in my busyness, I can forget the manifestation, the showing up, getting dressed up, like planning an outfit, I'm like, look at her earrings, they change every time I see her, they're a different pair. Like there's just certain things I know I don't I don't want to be able to (inaudible) earrings, but like, there are things about people that are reminders of like the things that we want. And just to go back to manifesting like putting people in our lives that are reminders of like, that's who I am. That's actually who I am. This this person over here I'm not a fraud, but I'm just saying like the like when like going back to like when you are living in a place where you're like nothing about this makes sense. Nothing about this is the life I want to live, like putting those people in your life. And I'm just so glad you got into like you came into ours. Because you're there's so many things about your love. And I just I love that you have a different you have different things, you have sound, you have pictures, you have things you can touch, all of that. That is so cool. And then yes with the action and I think like you guys it is it is really true, like putting the money putting on the line. It does come back because there's a part of you that like will fight to make sure that happens you will look for the evidence to make sure that happens. Because you won't if you just bought the economy ticket you actually wouldn't probably worry about making sure you can pay for that. But holy fuck you spent four times the price you better put out the email or go meet the person or go to that networking event or or do the buy the domain you might as well do the thing to like actually get that money back. I love that.Nikole M. Mitchell 44:12  It makes me want to read something I read yes so this is one of my old journal entries and I'm like this is so appropriate because it's about this next version of ourselves and having integrity and alignment and acting as though you're already her. This is another key part of manifestation is like there's this idea like oh, I'll act like an actor once I win an Oscar. Well how the f you begin to win an Oscar you first have to identify as an actor, you have to show up as an actor even before you get your first acting gig you have to show up in the identity before the thing is ever here. Right. So when I was flying here, I was reading my old like, when I money's my big thing right I am. I was so familiar with poverty. I only want to know well from now on. And because there's a lot of people in poverty. There's a lot of people I want to help so it's really important for me that I stay connected to my desire for why I want more money. So this is just one of my journal entries and I hope it like serves everyone and blesses anyone who's listening, I wrote, I am a mother fucking queen. I am a child of the Divine who is worthy of all her desires, who is supported in all of her desires, who receives all of her desires, because she is open to receiving, open to having open to more, she knows she is safe in her spending and safe in her having. And anytime she spends money, she makes more money every damn time. Any feelings of loss or lack or not being able to finish pain is just an illusion. Fear trying to convince that it's real. When only love is real, and love leads, guides and provides always love is infinite. Money is infinite. I'm infinite. I can afford anything and everything and always have extra surplus excess always. That was me manifesting calling it in before I even had it trying to imagine what would it look like to live in a world where every time I spend money, it always comes back to me multiplied, where I identify as a queen who receives everything she wants, because she feels worthy of it. And now I feel like I'm there and I'm now taking it to the next level.Lesley Logan 46:04  Yeah. Oh my god, I love that. And I like it thing is like I'm gonna I think I would transcribe the podcast because y'all it's on you can just likeNikole M. Mitchell 46:12  Copy, paste it, paste it.Lesley Logan 46:14  Put it up, put on little Post Its around where you need it. There's a Abraham Hicks has a money rampage on YouTube. And whenever I'm feeling a little lack, I play it. It's five minutes long, you guys, I'll put it in the show notes. It is it literally, I can't not think about how wealthy we are. As soon as I'm done listening to it, because I just like it like it's like, she's, it's just so it's so good. When it comes on. I can actually quote it. I can't quote it in this moment. But like it's so good. And I light the money candle.Lesley Logan 46:43  Yeah, I light the money candle.Lesley Logan 46:45  I love it. Oh my God, I love my money candle. And it's, and it's because I really, I think a lot of people can listen to this. And they might be like we've said many, many times you guys money is the is energy that allows us to not only show up more fully as ourselves, but allows us to be there to give to the people that we love around us. I love when I can hire someone whose strength is a weakness of mine. And I love when that they're when I get to pay them. And that strength they have allows them to support their family. Like I believe so fully in that. I love that. One of our assistants has been with us, she built a fucking house, you guys, she built a house, she's having her second kid, like she can do this one of our other people where he lives. He is upper middle class where he lives because he works for us and I get to pay him. And you know what, when he got sick, he didn't go where people who are poverished go he got to go to an actual doctor and get seen. And that is a difference between life and death sometimes and so like I make I love making money because I can then give it away to these people who who's who get to do their thing that they love so much. And and it just makes me feel really good. So if you are listening to this and still at this point, after we said money all the time, and you're like I don't know, try to hope find other reasons to don't like us, I'm gonna tell you right now. You you need to understand that you deserve all the money you want. It's not a bad thing. And someone told you a story a long time ago and you can do really amazing things. We coach a lot of women whose partners make a lot of money and so that sometimes they're like, oh, I don't really need to make any money. And there's so many things I just say that one you don't know what's gonna happen to your partner. So you just Nikole M. Mitchell 48:29  Death, divorce, disability happens all the time. Lesley Logan 48:32  All the time. So unless your life insurance policy for that person is going to afford you the life you're accustomed to for many, many years. You you need to make money. Second, then make a money goal to give away just like, what if you could give away $100,000 this year? What if you can give away a million dollars this year? What would that look like? Well, how could you show up? Because you know what? It is really fun. Like we give to the cupcake girls, I fucking love seeing that money leave. I love it. I love giving it away. I wish we can give more away. I'm always looking for different charities. I'm like, oh, what can I how much have we give them? I love it. So it's you can also have a money goal that gives things away that you deserve. You don't have to like you don't have to be barely like okay, I'm fine with all this. You don't have to and go well, I'm lucky my partner makes a lot so I don't, you're not taking you are not taking money away from people because you made it so just because you're living the fine life doesn't mean that you you don't have to you can't want more or you can't want to do something to provide for your children in a different way.Nikole M. Mitchell 49:37  Yes, ultimately money doesn't come from people it comes through people. So like that can just eliminate guilt because if it doesn't come to that person the Divine is gonna find another way to get that money to me but it doesn't come from them. It comes through them their channels or portals from the Divine to give me my birthright which is abundance. I always tell my people if you have a good heart you actually have a responsibility to get rich. Might be offensive or polarizing but it's like the amount of good you can do if you have a good heart is more is exponentially more when you have resources. And so when I first started wanting to make money, I the only way I felt worthy of it was knowing I would give it away. I didn't feel worthy of it, but I felt worthy of passing it on. So if that becomes your only way to feel connected to money, let that become your portal for now. And then my hope is over time, you directly feel worthy of it, whether or not you give it away, because eventually wants you to feel so worthy that you have as much money as you desire that you can do whatever you want with, you can invest it, you can give it, you can build a company with it, you can hire employees with it, like you can do so many things with it. But sometimes, especially for women, I find, they first have to justify, they're gonna give a lot away to be able to call it in, which is great. But I don't want you to stop there, I want you to get a point where you can be like, I'm a motherfucking, queen, I deserve all the money, I'm going to make millions of dollars. And then I will decide how I'm going to use tha

We are often told that if we accomplish as much as possible in a day's time we'll feel fulfilled come day's end. Enter to-do lists, which provide focus, direction, and purpose. But action doesn't always equal progress; it's no surprise, then, that so many of us feel drained and dissatisfied once the sun goes down.On today's show: how to find freedom in your to-do list and (finally!) make room for peace, connection, and fulfillment. Here's a preview:[4:00] Your daily to-do list should have 7 items or less, and here's why[8:30] Exactly how to focus less on efficiency and more on intentionality[15:00] Time Boxing, Post-Its, and more: 4 research-backed ways to make your to-do list work for you[29:00] The Number One way to ensure you're spending your precious finite resource (ahem ... your TIME) on the right things  Resources mentioned:18 Minutes: Find Your Focus, Master Distraction, and Get the Right Things Done (by Peter Bregnan)Fat And The Moon deodorant--Join our (free!) community here.Find your tribe. Sustainable Minimalists are on Facebook, Instagram + Youtube.Say hello! MamaMinimalistBoston@gmail.com.Our Sponsors:* Thank you to LifeStraw Home! Use code SUSTAINABLE for 20% off. https://lifestraw.com/* Thank you to our sponsor, Armoire! Use code SUSTAINABLE for up to $125 off your first month. http://www.armoire.style/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sustainable-minimalists/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Annabelle has returned from her multi-country tour that took her to Singapore, Tel Aviv and Uganda. In this episode, she'll tell us about her plans for the Uganda trip that were thwarted almost immediately, and how she learned how to let it go, and accept life on life's terms. Plus, Lisa from Raleigh calls in with what Laura House describes as “an office supply victory”.Mentioned in the episodeThe Campfire ProjectThings You Should Stop Worrying About This WeekGiraffe poop necklaceEd Sheeran's already-dug graveThis episode is sponsored by…Microdose GummiesMicrodose Gummies deliver perfect, entry-level doses of THC that help you feel just the right amount of good. To get free shipping & 30% off your first order, go to Microdose.com, and use code TINY Do YOU have a tiny victory to share? Call the Tiny Victories Hotline: (323) 285-1675We want folks to share their tiny victories on our hotline because, frankly, we'll assume we're just talking into the void every week and nothing matters. Prove us wrong. Did you finally do that thing you were putting off? Tiny victory! Reconnect with someone you haven't been in touch with for ages? Victory! We only ask that you try to keep messages to under a minute so we're able to play it on the show.If you prefer, you can record a tiny victory on your phone and then email us the audio. Email: TinyVictories@maximumfun.orgHOW TO @ USTwitter@GetTinyPod@LAGurwitch@ImLauraHouse@Swish (producer Laura Swisher)Instagram@GetTinyPod

The nineties, baby. We're getting into it over Romy & Michele's High School Reunion (1997), which sees Lisa Kudrow and Mira Sorvino as the attractive women version of Beavis and Butt-Head trying to persuade their former high school classmates that they invented Post-Its. But beneath this sweet and pleasant comedy lurks something far more sinister. Is this actually a toxic, co-dependant friendship that's imprisoning both Romy and Michele? Would their lives be better if they actually stayed split up after their Tucson road trip? And why would anybody ever want to go to their high school reunion? Content warning: We discuss the sexual abuse allegations against both Woody Allen and Harvey Weinstein.  Much of the history we cover in this episode is sourced from Vogue's 2022 oral history of "Romy & Michele's High School Reunion" by Keaton Bell, which you can read here: https://www.vogue.com/article/an-oral-history-of-romy-and-micheles-high-school-reunion Want to watch our show on YouTube? Head to https://www.youtube.com/@loadbearingbeamspod to watch new, full video episodes every week. Artwork by Laci Roth. Music by Rural Route Nine (https://open.spotify.com/album/3oj7ZSGqfnZTtTlXa1fyeo?si=fZxDj8ZWT-2SpxhTUIdxow). 

Wow, what a week, you can tell when Steve and Marijn have had a busy week because you get this very laid-back podcast where they discuss their Trips... and start with a Whisky Chat before moving on to talk about 70% of the project failing and deciding if it is Fake News.In this Podcast, we look at the truth behind the common assumption that 70% of projects fail and analyse if it is accurate and how you can take MS Viva and ensure that it is successful. https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/do-70-change-management-projects-really-fail-simon-lewington/Simon does a great review and background on the statement... worth a read.The Forgetting list... CooperKing.... Not CastleKing is the name of the new Distillery Steve visited and the boys tasted their new make spirit which is full of promise.  Matt Wade is the producer of the M365 Periodic Table.   Steve and Marijn are both simply getting old and forgetful... we did however remember Dylan's name!!Steve's Golden Nugget is about Monopoly Money used to set priorities in workshops instead of dots on Post-Its. And then they discuss how impossible it is to roll out Viva in a quantifiable wayIn essence, this Third Sponsored podcast from CloudALLY www.cloudally.com looks at why projects fail and how to create success.I don't want to ruin a great podcast with spoilers but check out the 7 reasons why projects fail and 5 Golden Nuggets to put your project on the proper foundation for success.  XLA is the secret sauce in the process... work to be completed to resolve exactly how you and your organisation will  design these.The boys drink the last CloudALLY provided whisky a Tomatin Decades 2 that is comprised of barrels Matured across 5 decades... a genuinely awesome dram. 

Boyd Bradshaw, the inaugural Vice President for Enrollment Management at Towson University (MD), discusses Towson's new comprehensive and integrated approach to enrollment—from recruitment to graduation—and what it has been like organizing the institution  around that work. We also learn Boyd's secret and surprising skill that he carries with him to this day. Rapid DescentWalkout songs: Eye of the Tiger by SurvivorBest recent read: A Profession on the Edge by Eric HooverEager to read next: "the next thing to come into my inbox" Favorite podcast: Best Podcast in Baseball (much to the chagrin of Ken, a lifelong Milwaukee Brewers fan, it's about the St. Louis Cardinals)Favorite thing to make in the kitchen: Grilling out is his jam, especially potato, onion, peppers and butter in foil.What he uses to take and keep notes: old fashioned notebook and Post-Its.Memorable bit of advice: "Focus on the positive."Bucket list: To be working for a college that gets an automatic bid to the NCAA tournament while he is the VP for Enrollment.Theme music arranged by Ryan Anselment.Many thanks to the National Association for College Admission Counseling for supporting this podcast through the NACAC Podcast Network.

Wenn Du Dich an Dinge gewöhnt hast, neigst Du dazu, sie zu ignorieren und sie nicht mehr zu beachten. Aber das kann zu unangenehmen Folgen führen, wie beispielsweise überfällige Aufgaben oder unordentliche Ablagesystem, die Staub ansetzen. Um dem Chaos frühzeitig entgegenzuwirken, musst Du Deinen Blick schärfen und Dich den Dingen stellen, die Du ignoriert hast.Wie das geht, erfährst Du in dieser Folge.Sie dazu auch Folge 90: So benutzt du Post-Its optimalhttps://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/OINGWkSdCyb --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/nebenbei-produktiv/message

"Jeder von uns hat Zeitfresser. Die sind wie Hausstaub", das hat Steffi auf meinen Newsletter Anfang des Jahres geantwortet. Und: "Ich habe dazu mal eine Schulung gemacht." Da bin ich hellhörig geworden. Steffi und ich sind nämlich gute Freundinnen und wir hatten schon länger mal laut darüber nachgedacht, gemeinsam eine Podcast-Folge zu machen. Steffi war früher auch selbstständig und hat sich deshalb mit vielen Themen beschäftigt, die uns im Alltag interessieren. In dieser Folge hörst du: - was typische Zeitfresser sind - wie du deine persönlichen Zeitfresser ertappst und - wie du sie auf Diät setzt In der Folge teilt Steffi mit dir auch einen Tipp, wie du sofort produktiver und effizienter arbeitest - und das auch wirklich durchziehst. (Kleiner Spoiler: Leg dir schon mal ein paar Post-Its parat!) Ressourcen: Meinen Content-Planer 2023 kannst du dir für 0 Euro hier herunterladen:https://www.subscribepage.com/contentplaner2023 Im Moment läuft mein Kurs "Social Media als Selbstläufer" in der Beta-Runde mit rund 150 Teilnehmer:innen. Wenn du auch selbstständig bist und verlässlich Kund:innen mit Sozialen Medien gewinnen möchtest, dann komm auf die Warteliste! Du erfährst dann zuerst, wenn der Kurs in die nächste Runde geht: https://www.subscribepage.com/selbstlaeufersocialmedia_warteliste

Eine der größten Herausforderungen, wenn dein Business wächst!? - Alle Infos, die auf Post-ITs, in Excel-Listen, in verschiedenen Tools und in deinem Kopf "abgelegt” sind, zentral zu speichern.  Dabei ist das super wichtig, damit du  ➡️ den Platz in deinem Kopf für wichtigere Themen nutzen kannst  ➡️ du nicht das Bottleneck in deinem Business bist, von dem alles abhängt  ➡️ deine (zukünftigen) Teammitglieder wissen, was wie zu tun ist.    Notion ist ein super Tool dafür, denn es ist ein wahres Multitalent. Mit Notion kannst du  ✔️ deine To Dos managen  ✔️ die Infos deiner Kund:innen übersichtlich verwalten  ✔️ deine gesamte Social Media Planung abbilden  ✔️ deine Verkaufsroutine unterstützen  ✔️ deine Prozesse dokumentieren  Und keine liebt Notion so sehr wie Taina Pereeniemi. Die sympathische Finnin hat für Laura und Gretel in 2022 einen eigenen Notion Workspace aufgesetzt. Game Changer, sagen wir mal.  Wann der richtige Zeitpunkt ist, um mit Notion zu starten, warum Prozesse so wichtig sind und warum Notion besser ist als andere Business Tools, das erzählt uns Taina in der neuen Folge MOIN um NEUN. Aus Tainas Sicht gibt es nämlich eigentlich nur eine Sache, die Notion nicht kann. Was das ist? - Hör dir die Folge an und du erfährst es. (Premiere übrigens: Das ist die erste Folge auf Englisch!)

Do you feel like a mad scientist every day? You have minimum 12 tabs open at all times. You have Post-Its everywhere. A bunch of different notebooks are strewn along your desk and bedside, as well as digital sticky notes, half-used paper planners, and a white board that has an old quote from 3 months ago. You SWEAR the white board was going to help you become a master planner! You, my friend, may be a Chaotic Creative. Which is one of the best kinds of creatives to be - your big ideas will change the world. But first, you need to know how to organize them to execute! In this solo episode, Chelsea shares her top 10 tips for getting organized and maximizing productivity. If you're on the ADHD spectrum, neurodivergent, or generally operate with a squiggly brain, this episode is for you. Her 10 tips include: Understanding your energy and cycles Batching tasks Understanding your motivational style Color-coding your cal and evaluating your time Delegating or automating Eliminating distractions Deep work blocks Inbox Zero Monday Hour One Intentional scheduling Pssst - this is the exact type of info that Chelsea will teach inside AMPLIFY, the mastermind. Register by Dec. 30, 2022 - class starts mid-January! CONNECT WITH CHELSEA: www.chelseariffe.com @chelseariffe on Instagram 1:1 Coaching Application AMPLIFY Mastermind Mic Drop Waitlist For a full transcript and resources mentioned, click HERE.

The first step in book marketing has nothing to do with marketing; it has everything to do with creating a great product. Write a book that actually helps people, or entertains them, or inspires them. Write the truth. Write honestly. Write with passion.If you want to see how to do this, check out the Real World Edition of 1001 Ways to Market Your Books.Listen in to this review. You want reviews like the following:I've been reading the ebook edition and enjoying the way you write……and eagerly awaiting the paperback so I can flip pages and pepper it with Post-Its and all the other things one does with such a useful, helpful book.I especially like what you say at the end……about how you've learned that what you do doesn't matter as much as how what you do makes people feel…You make me feel very happy.Very few authors do.Especially on the subject of selling more books.When I read their stuff, I get the oddest feeling that they're not telling me the whole story.You, on the other hand, recommend taking a 3-year approach to selling more books… and that's just the minimum!In all the books I've read on the subject of selling more books, not once have I come across that recommendation……but as soon as I saw it, I knew I could trust you.warmest regards…Elizabeth Adams, a true fanWrite the book you love, not the one you think you should write. If you're creating something you aren't head-over-heels in love with, you'll peter out before page 50. Make something you'll be proud of for a lifetime. — Nathan Bransford, authorBook me as a podcast guest or be a guest for my podcast. Connect here: https://www.matchmaker.fm/podcast-guest/john-kremer-bd46ecAsk me a question and I'll answer back with a video: https://snipfeed.co/bookmarketing/shoutouts/U2hvdXRvdXQ6NjIxZjBmNDFkNTVjODUwMDIzZWQxMzk5SnipFeed: https://snipfeed.co/bookmarketingOr just buy me a cup of coffee! - https://www.buymeacoffee.com/BookMarketing This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bookmarketing.substack.com/subscribe

“A gathering is a moment of time that has the potential to alter many other moments of time.” - Priya Parker, The Art of Gathering Jenn David-Lang returns to the podcast, and we're discussing how to maximize the power and significance of meetings. When most of us plan staff agendas or lessons, we tend to focus more on the logistics (PPTs, refreshments, Post-Its, etc.), rather than the people, because those are the items we can control. What if we think about how we want gatherings to make people feel? We can build connection and a sense of belonging in our schools and teams right now. By taking lessons from Priya Parker's The Art of Gathering, she shares four tips for educators that help us rethink the way we gather to make our gatherings unforgettable, meaningful, and centered around people. 1. Find a specific purpose for the meeting. 2. Be an active facilitator. 3. Give it some spice. 4. Get beyond a “culture of nice.” Resources: www.themainidea.net The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters

Thanks for tuning in to the Activated Authors podcast. If you're ready to ACTIVATE your author career, head on over to https://activatedauthors.com/ On today's episode, Dan and Sam dive into their top tools and resources for drafting, writing, editing, publishing and marketing your book. Watch the show: https://youtu.be/qiKiIIEqIGQ Recommended Resources Writing Plot Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.co.uk/ Scrivener: https://www.literatureandlatte.com/scrivener/overview Notion: https://notion.so World Anvil: https://www.worldanvil.com/ Post Its: https://www.3m.co.uk/3M/en_GB/post-it-notes/ Write Word: https://www.microsoft.com/en-us/microsoft-365/word Notes Apple Pages Edit Pro writing aid: https://prowritingaid.com/ Grammarly: https://www.grammarly.com/ Publishing Formatting Vellum: https://vellum.pub/ Atticus: https://www.atticus.io/ Marketing Canva: https://www.canva.com/ Mojo: https://www.mojo-app.com/ Newsletter provider: https://www.mailerlite.com/a/audqxwo3ulal Publisher rocket: https://publisherrocket.com/ Claim your FREE 30 days of Activated Authors! https://activatedauthors.com/ Find out more about Daniel Willcocks https://www.danielwillcocks.com/ IG: @willcockswriter Twitter: @willcockswriter Find out more about Samantha Frost https://www.mastressofnone.com IG: @mastressofnone Special thanks to: Show theme: Karl Hughes Show editing: Sam Frost

Receipts. Legal documents. Paper bills. Magazines. Work papers. Random notes you wrote on Post-Its. Grocery lists. To-do lists. All. The. Paper. With these ongoing incoming papers, it can really become frustrating when they pile up and you hardly know what to do with them. We then stash them away while we hope they would disappear on their own, except, they don't and they leave us frustrated and overwhelmed. Can you relate? I've been there too! Join me and my guest, friend, and fellow professional organizer, Emily Lowry, as she walks us through how to tackle these papers so that you no longer have to feel stressed out, especially when you can't find that one piece of paper that you need right away. More about Emily: As a professional organizer, wife, and mom, Emily is here to help. She knows what it's like because she's been there too. Emily understands the mass amount of papers that enter our homes and she also has a solution that will not only bring you order and organization, but it will also help you become more purposeful, peaceful, and productive.    For over 10 years, Organizing with Emily has helped busy, overwhelmed women, just like you, reclaim their homes, gain confidence, increase productivity, find peace and learn the skill of organizing.    Click HERE and snag Emily's amazing (and free) paper-organizing guide Click HERE to connect with Emily Loving the podcast? Let me know at hello@organizewithgrace.com       

A second grade teacher in Eastern Kentucky has been lifting spirits by creating amazing window masterpieces using colorful Post-Its! SOURCE: https://www.wymt.com/2021/10/05/letcher-county-man-creates-artwork-out-post-it-notes/

Post-Its, diese kleinen gelben Klebezettel sollten eigentlich die Organisation vereinfachen. Bei den meisten Menschen erreichen sie leider genau das Gegenteil. In Büros sind Post-Its allgegenwärtig: an Monitoren, auf Dokumenten, an Pinnwänden, Schränken von Kaffeeküchen und auf Joghurts im Kühlschrank. Vor allem an Monitoren, also dort, wo sich Menschen individuell mit ihnen organisieren, trainiert man sich - unbewusst - darauf, sie zu ignorieren. Das erste Zettelchen in Signalfarbe wurde nicht zeitnah erledigt, und schreit seitdem im Augenwinkel weiter. Mit jedem Zettel, der jetzt dazu kommt und hängen bleibt, wird der leise schreiende Chor lauter. Das erinnert mich an die eingeschlagenen Fensterscheiben von leerstehenden Fabriken und Häusern (https://sascha-feth.de/repariere-eingeschlagene-fensterscheiben-sofort/). Wie du das künftig vermeidest, in dem du Post-Its nur noch in den richtigen beiden Situationen sinnvoll einsetzt, erfährst du in der aktuellen Folge. Bleibt nur eine Frage offen: Was tun mit all dem Zeug, die du früher auf Klebezettel geschrieben hättest? Das lernst du in meinem 1:1-Coaching, oder natürlich hier im Podcast. Damit du dir nicht die letzten 89 Podcastfolgen von nebenbei produktiv anhören musst, kannst du dir jetzt kostenfrei 5 Coaching-Briefe per E-Mail zusenden lassen: www.sascha-feth.de --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/nebenbei-produktiv/message

Ellen Wagner ist Diversity-Coach und arbeitet in den USA und Deutschland. Die 41-Jährige spricht im Podcast über die Suche nach ihren leiblichen Eltern, Rassismus in queeren Spaces und Homophobie in der Schwarzen Community – und darüber, warum sie sich bei Workshops manchmal auf den Boden schmeißt. https://ellen-wagner.com/ (04:30) Passkontrolle (08:55) Bewerbungsgespräch (Rubrik) (12:25) Klischee-Check (15:20) Wurzellosigkeit & Paradiesvogel im Senegal (31:25) Anderssein: Homophobie in Schwarzen und Rassismus in queeren Communities (49:05) Suche nach den Eltern: Gentest und Halbgeschwister (1:01:00) Diversity-Coaching: Hilfe zur Selbsthilfe und Heilen (1:17:40) Wie man mit Post-Its auf Rassismus reagiert Diese Folge ist Teil der "Work-Edition" mit dem Schwerpunkt Arbeit. Sie wird unterstützt von LinkedIn. Hört auch rein in die Work-Edition des Kopfsalat-Podcasts: https://www.frnd.de/kopfsalat/ Der Halbe Katoffl Podcast ist eine Gesprächsreihe mit Deutschen, die nicht deutsche Wurzeln haben. Moderator ist der Berliner Journalist Frank Joung, dessen Eltern aus Korea kommen. Es geht um Themen wie Integration (gähn), Identität (ah ja) und Stereotypisierungen (oha) – aber eben lustig, unterhaltsam und kurzweilig. Anekdoten aus dem Leben statt Theorien aus dem Lehrbuch. Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/frank-joung-76-fjo/ Website: https://halbekatoffl.de Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/halbekatoffl/ Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/HalbeKatoffl Twitter: https://twitter.com/HalbeKatoffl

Did you know you can train your brain to see the good in your life?  And when you start looking for it, it increases?  Master Certified Life Coach Melissa Wiggins shares a simple way to celebrate and grow the wins in your life.  Grab a cuppa and your Post-Its and listen in.Learn more about Melissa's Fall 2022 RetreatRead Melissa's blogEmpoweredLife Mastermind Round 2 begins soon - Learn MoreFollow Melissa @coachmummabear_Remember to leave an honest review and subscribe to “Coaching and a Cup of Tea with Mummabear”#lifecoach #beliefs #masterlifecoach #postit

Two Cents Plus Tax co-host Krystal Farmer came by to talk about The Endgame, an overstuffed and underwhelming procedural that tries to do too much and is assembled from the spare parts of too many early-aughts shows. Why do networks still make shows like this? Do we need The Endgame if we still (seriously!) have The Blacklist? And how is Fedorova writing on the sticky side of Post-Its? We fared better going Around The Dial with Severance, a Married At First Sight update, Creamerie, Inventing Anna, Inside The Mind Of A Con Artist, 9-1-1: Lone Star, and Reacher, and gave TV characters (and hosts) some drugs for Extra Credit. Listener Michael hoped we'd visit Cougar Town with a Canon election before Dickens won, Erika Jayne lost (...again), and we answered the door to a hell of a season-clinching Game Time. No need to blackmail the Homeland Secretary -- an all-new Extra Hot Great is all yours. GUESTS

Romy White and Michele Weinberger are ready for their triumphant return to their high school as the inventors* of Post-Its and to show everyone what they're made of! But we knew the truth and so did Heather Mooney LOL meanwhile who actually went to/had a high school reunion? Not us! Let's head on back to 1997 to chat about these badasses navigating their way through a little quarter life crisis and learn what it means to be successful. If you like the show, please subscribe and leave us a review! 5 stars please :) If you're on Anchor, leave us a voice message with your favourite nostalgic.. anything! We want to hear from you! Hit us up in the DMs @warmandfuzzy_podcast Connect with Amelia @ameliasingson Connect with Shane @shanino

Amy Kaske Berger, a Chicago-based PR pro, tells Caroline a story about youthful foibles in New York City involving a U-Haul, Post-Its, and a surprise run-in with the law!Find Amy Kaske Berger:https://www.amykaskeberger.com/You can find Caroline on Instagram, YouTube, and even join her facebook group Good Wine, Good People. Don't forget to check out her Wine Mood Quiz!Find Us OnlineWebsite: https://www.parisundergroundradio.com/winedinecarolineshappyhourFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/parisundergroundradioInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/parisundergroundradio/Credits Host: Caroline Conner, https://www.parisundergroundradio.com/carolineconner; https://www.instagram.com/winedinecaroline/, www.winedinecaroline.com; www.lyonwinetastings.comProducer: Jennifer Geraghty, https://www.parisundergroundradio.com/jenniferfoxgeraghty; @jennyphoria; Website: http://jennyphoria.comAbout UsJoin expert wine teacher Caroline Conner, otherwise known as Wine Dine Caroline, as she laughs along with her friends for Happy Hour. This isn't your average wine podcast. It's a celebration of fun, friendship, and joy! 
In each episode, Caroline will chat with a friend, they'll share a stupid, funny, or all-out ridiculous story, and Caroline will pair a wine with it. Cheers to Happy Hour!

In this Podcast, I am sharing some simple tools on how we can simplify the tasks and make the day a productive one. Start with small and important tasks. Classify your tasks with To-do list, Must do list and like-to-do list. It helps in a breakdown of the priority. Write the list down on the night before or the evening before you plan to log out so when you come on the next day rather than looking for all over the place you know where to start with and also helps in taking the stress away when you start your day. Makes it an easier and achievable way Break the task into minimal and achievable. Be reasonable and considerate to yourself. Once you complete small steps it gives momentum to do the rest of them. Focus on one task at a time rather than rushing to social media or other mails etc. Switch off all gadgets. So attention is not diverted. Total attention and focus given on one task will help ease the work being done sooner and more productive. Take a 5min breathing break and get up and moving and get a deep breath done. Use the Gadgets to set alarm if need be for breathing and relaxing I love Post – ITs. Great invention. Use them to remind you everywhere. Don't be afraid of being caught by your family and friends, on this change you are converting them to be productive as well. To know current offerings check - https://linktr.ee/srimanju You can purchase my book here - https://bit.ly/2PoCmAz . . . . Looking to book Akashic Records Reading visit - https://bit.ly/3jZtTiD Namasté & Angel Blessings Srimanju Katragadda (Pronounced S-ri-manju Ka-tra-gadda) www.srimanju.com | https://linktr.ee/srimanju Subscribe to my Youtube channel - https://bit.ly/2WyxWJl Instagram @srimanjuexphealing To receive Free Distance Healings every Full moon and New moon with a forecasted Akashic Records message, enroll below. FREE!!!! http://eepurl.com/gzWW4P #podcast #Prodcutivetools #simpletask #lifeismagical #epidose17 #experiencehealing #connecttoyourinnerguide #srimanju #soul

On this episode, Jedi Master Silent Koda is back from training and has some discussions with the boys. They talk about inhibitor chips, IG 88 head dispensers, Koda's fear of the hallway and his nonused Post Its. Join us! On the Discords! https://discord.gg/WyRcK5cf6F and the Facebooks! https://www.facebook.com/EGTNerdom/ Or the Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/egtnerdom/ Everything will be fiiiiiiiiinnnneeee

Amy Armstrong and Dr Becky Sage discuss a series of top tips that we were given by Joyann Boyce, founder of The Social Detail⁠She keeps a wall of Post Its to remind her of her own top tips and motivational quotes including: ✴️ What does DONE look like?✴️ Consistency is the key to success✴️ Done is better than perfect✴️ Everyone online is lazy ✴️ People Thrive HereWant to understand how those things work for us? As "recovering" perfectionists we had a thing or two to say.Join us on social media to let us know how Joyann's Top Tip worked for you. About The MindStyling PodcastWebsite: mindstyling.groupInstagram: www.instagram.com/mindstylingpodcast Twitter:   www.twitter.com/mindstylingpod Facebook:  www.facebook.com/mindstylingpodcast Host Amy Armstrong: Website: https://amyarmstrongcoaching.com Instagram:  www.instagram.com/amyarmstrongcoaching Host: Dr Becky SageInstagram:  www.instagram.com/drbeckysage Twitter:  www.twitter.com/becky_sage Website:  www.beckysage.com Connect with Joyann BoyceLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joyannboyce/Twitter: https://twitter.com/joyannboyce Connect with The Social Detail Making inclusive marketing the industry standardWebsite: https://www.thesocialdetail.com/Twitter: @thesocialdetailInstagram: @thesocialdetailLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thesocialdetail/

On this week's episode, Alana and her guest Lisa Gilroy (Brooklyn 99) discuss being ignored by her husband, her hot new nickname for Post-Its and the fear of career. Brought to you By: The Sonar Network https://thesonarnetwork.com/

“We believe that racism and inequity have been designed and thus can be redesigned.” Our guest this week is Tania Anaissie, a founding creator of Liberatory Design which is a new practice of human centered design driving innovation for equity. As the Founder and CEO of Beytna Design, she works with social sector leaders to bring their visions to life. In our episode today we talk to Tania about becoming a design activist, the nuances of interviewing marginalized communities, and our mutual love of Post-Its. Beytna Design is on Instagram @beytnadesign Tania is on Twitter @anaissie Episode Webpage Highland is a digital experience agency with a fierce commitment to keeping people at the center of our work. Connect with us: Website LinkedIn Twitter

[Ep 198] Some people love to sit down and just start writing with no worries whether or not the work is moving them toward their goals. Others love to spend time making lists, making plans, setting everything up, scheduling down to the minute—devoting so much time to those tasks that they struggle to get around to the actual work of writing. Let's figure out how to do both. Let's find a balance. Let's set ourselves up with a plan that helps us truly move toward goals and level up, and then commit to the work, so we can meet deadlines, accomplish tasks, and make progress. There are three things we need to do: we need to organize ourselves, schedule the work, and enact the plan. Organize, schedule, enact. Each takes a slightly different mindset and represents a slightly different role. It's as if you're three people at the same time. Organize As you organize yourself, you're like a project manager and you'll need a project management setup. Project Management Tasks You'll want to make checklists to create repeatable processes and routines that fit into your days. Say no to things holding you back, so you can simplify and prune to focus and level up. Make sure the plan you're organizing supports your primary goals—that one-year and the three-month goal, but you'll also want to break down big projects into smaller tasks and schedule those, as well. This is part of the reverse engineering I've talked about in the past. Take all of that—the one-year goal, the three-month goal, and all the ways you've broken it down into—and back up. What tasks need to be done in each of the three months of the three-month goal? Then move to the month ahead of you and break that into two-week chunks. Move down to the week ahead, then, finally, break down your tasks and goals into days so you know what you're doing today on any given day—always knowing you are steadily, intentionally moving toward goals. Project Management Systems To organize all of this, you need some kind of system. It can be as complex or simple, or digital or analog as you like. Some people use Trello, Evernote, Google Docs, spreadsheets, bullet journals, or a three-ring binder. It's up to you. Use what works for you. And stick with it, because you'll invest time into organizing all these projects and all this content, goals, and tasks. You'll input a lot of information into your system. To repeat that in a different system because you abandoned the first one after a week will simply delay the work of writing. Set up a system and stick with it for at least a month. Don't give up too soon. Schedule After you organize all of your tasks and goals, it's time to actually schedule. This represents another role: the scheduler who does the admin work. Choose Your Calendar Pick a calendar that suits you just as you picked a project management system that suited you. Ideally, this calendar will weave together your personal appointments to accurately reflect your availability. Plus, you're already using that calendar and you'll have it with you at all times. Many people like the visual effect of huge wall calendars, hanging a poster-size calendar for every month and filling a whole wall. They use Post-Its for projects, tasks, and goals, because the Post-Its can be color-coded to represent each item and can move around as needed if something in your life needs to be moved around and adjusted. You might consider a digital calendar option, however, because most will sync with multiple devices and you'll always have this pocket assistant wherever you are: at your desk or out and about. With it comes the power of notifications to keep you on task. When a digital calendar notification alerts you to do something, it feels like an outside entity, like an assistant, is nudging you to get to the work based on decisions made by a supervisor. All three of those roles were you at a previous time,

In today's episode, we discuss one decision you can make that will help you achieve incredible success in 2019. FULL TRANSCRIPT Jocelyn Sams: Hey y'all. On today's podcast we'll discuss one decision you can make that will help you achieve incredible success in 2019. Shane Sams: Welcome to the Flipped Lifestyle podcast where life always comes before work. We're your hosts, Shane and Jocelyn Sams. We're a real family that figured out how to make our entire living online. And now we help other families do the same. Are you ready to flip your life? All right, let's get started. Shane Sams: What's going on everybody? Welcome back to the Flipped Lifestyle podcast. It is great to be back with you again today. We've got a special edition for you guys this week. A lot of people ask us, "What's the secret to your success? What's the one big thing you guys did, or have done, or continue to do to move the needle and achieve all of the things you've done online?" Shane Sams: And while there are a lot of things that we could point to, one of the biggest catalysts for us both in the beginning and still to this day for achieving online success for being able to make enough money online to quit our jobs and build this life that we dreamed up a few years ago is attending live events. Jocelyn Sams: Live events have definitely always been a huge catalyst for us just throughout the journey. Even at the beginning when we were really scared to death to go to one because it is a big investment in both time and money. But going to them, putting ourselves out there and deciding to do it has been huge for us many, many times over the years. Shane Sams: In fact, if we had not started going to live events, I'm not even sure one that we would be here right now doing Flipped Lifestyle. But two, that our business even would have made it. You know, after we quit our job back in September 2013, things went pretty good for the first few months. Shane Sams: But then as the spring hit, and our niche kind of dried up a little bit, our revenue dropped dramatically. We had achieved a huge amount of success in the fall of 2013 and we had created kind of an emergency fund in case the business didn't work later. Shane Sams: But after we quit our jobs, we were on our own, no paychecks. And all we had was the money that was coming in each month, and this little kind of nest egg that we had set aside and saved after our big August, this big launch that we had in case something went wrong. Well, things went wrong, dramatically wrong. Shane Sams: Like, we were really were not making enough each month in February of like 2014 to really even pay the bills. And it looked like we were gonna need to dust off our resumes and go look for jobs again in the summer because revenue kept dropping. Shane Sams: We didn't know what was wrong. We didn't know why our marketing wasn't working. We didn't know why our list had suddenly dried up. And we were all alone. It was just me and Jocelyn trying to figure this out. And it was a really, really scary period in our business. Shane Sams: At that point I knew we needed some kind of help. But we didn't know where to reach out to. There was nobody around us that really got what we did. Nobody that we knew was doing anything online. And we were totally unconnected to the industry save for listening to podcasts and hearing about other people who were doing what we were trying to do. Shane Sams: So one night I saw that Pat Flynn was going to have a live event in San Diego, California and it was gonna be in June. And there was only a very limited amount of spots to get into this event. But it was gonna be really, really strategic, really tactical. Shane Sams: It was gonna be other entrepreneurs flying in from all over the country. And there were gonna be experts there with Pat. And they were gonna talk about your business and teach you strategies to kind of take your business to the next level. Shane Sams: And I knew this had to be the next step for us. This had to be what we could do next was to go find someone that knew what in the world to do next, to show us what we were doing wrong so that we could take our business to the next level. Shane Sams: The problem was, we already weren't covering expenses good enough. Our nest egg was kind of dipping down. And this was gonna be a really expensive trip. I mean, we were gonna have to fly across the country. Shane Sams: We were gonna have to get a hotel. We were gonna have to pay for the event itself. And you know, it was gonna take time away. We were gonna have to find someone to watch our kids. But I knew this had to be what we did. Shane Sams: So I took this to Jocelyn. And not for the first time in our relationship she looked at me like I was crazy. Jocelyn Sams: Guys on paper this was not a good idea. So I look at it. I see how expensive it is. You know, we're gonna have to fly. We're going to have to stay in a hotel. We're going to have to eat meals there, and all these types of things. Jocelyn Sams: And you know, we've never been to San Diego before so I want to see a couple of things. And if we're gonna go I maybe want to stay like one extra day and do a couple things. Jocelyn Sams: So I was like, there's no way we can do this. Like, this cannot happen. And Shane's like, "Oh no, we're doing it." Shane Sams: It was a blanket No. I mean it's one of those times where Jocelyn's like, "No. We're gonna have to figure something out. Maybe we can buy a course. Maybe we can do something." But I just really felt like we were at a brick wall. And we couldn't get to the next level alone. Shane Sams: I knew there would be benefits for going to the event afterwards. We would meet more people. We could connect. Maybe we could form a mastermind. Maybe we could build relationships, other opportunities would open up. But the bad part was, if none of that happened, we would probably run out of money. Jocelyn Sams: Yeah. So in the end I did what I do a lot of times. And I said, "You know what? This is crazy but you're driving me crazy trying to talk me into it. So let's do it. And if it is a complete disaster, it's going to be your fault." Shane Sams: So we buy the ticket. We get the plane tickets. We get the hotel ready. And we go to San Diego, and we attend this event. And I have to say it was the opposite of a disaster. You know, anytime we think about doing something new, fears are gonna creep in, obstacles are gonna appear in our way. And we start telling ourself all these ghost stories about the worst possible things that can happen. Shane Sams: But when you take action, when you put yourself out there, good things happen. When we went to this event, we got to meet Pat. We got to meet experts that helped us exactly where we were. We actually took advice that we learned at that live event, came back, took action, and implemented it. Shane Sams: And we blew our business into a place that we didn't even know it could go to. We had a six figure month right after we came back from this event just on the stuff that we learned while we were there. We met some of our dearest friends in the industry that we still talk to, to this day. Shane Sams: And we formed masterminds. And just so many good things came from this live event. It really was one of those catalyst points, a turning point in our business. And it really got us kind of hooked on going to other live events. Shane Sams: We made it a point to start going to three or four live events every single year as a part of our growth, as a part of our development, as a part of our business to make sure we were always taking those next steps. Shane Sams: And every single time that we have ever went to a live event, we've learned something or met someone, and came back and took action on that thing we learned, or on that relationship. And we've taken our life and our business to the next level. Shane Sams: Live events affected our business in such a positive way, we knew when we started Flipped Lifestyle that eventually we would start having live events of our own because we wanted to give our listeners, we wanted to give you an opportunity to attend these live events. And we didn't like some of the things that were happening at the live events that we went to. We thought that we could do it better. Jocelyn Sams: Over the years we've done a series of smaller events. We did one out in San Diego where we met with people and talked about their business there. We've done one in Tampa, Florida. And we also did one in Chicago not long ago. Jocelyn Sams: But I had gone to another event of a friend of mine in late 2017. And this was sort of a larger scale event. And I started looking around, and I knew that this person had a similar sized audience. And I thought, you know what? If she put this many people in a room, we could probably do that too. Jocelyn Sams: And I guess to that point, it had never really occurred to me to do that. And when I was there, and I saw the interaction of all the different people who were at that event, I was like, "Wow this is really cool. We need to do this. And we need to get our people together." Shane Sams: When Jocelyn came back from this event she was really excited about doing a larger scale event. And as we talked about it, we realized that we could probably even improve on all of the live events that we had went to. Shane Sams: We felt like some of the content wasn't actionable at some of these events. And we felt like some of them were more like cheerleading pep rallies than they were actually getting into the trenches with people and helping them make their dreams come true, move their business forward, and take their life to the next level. Shane Sams: So on a whim we decided that we would do our own huge live event in Nashville, Tennessee. And before we had even signed contracts, before we had even paid any of the bills, we did what we usually do. We created an order form and we told you guys about it last year. Jocelyn Sams: And we said, "Do you want this or not?" Shane Sams: Prove it. Jocelyn Sams: Yes. Shane Sams: Buy it with your wallet. Get your wallet out and pay for it. Jocelyn Sams: And people did. Shane Sams: People did. We had over 100 tickets sold. People from 30 states, over five countries came to Nashville for Flip Your Life Live 2018. And it was one of the greatest experiences of our life. We had three days to spend together building our businesses, sharing moments, talking about our families. And really just building deep connections with all the people there. Shane Sams: So many success stories happened from Flip Your Life LIVE 2018. We had people blow their businesses up from 100 members to 500 members. From zero emails to 400 or 500 emails on their list. To having no product to launching a product. We actually had people launch products during the event and make their first sales while we were sitting there in the room together. Shane Sams: And it was a lot of work. It was a lot of effort behind the scenes to pull something like this off. You know, we had no idea how much goes on to put on a live event for 100, 200, 300 people. We had no idea how much it cost to do this. Shane Sams: But when we saw all of these success stories happening, we knew we had done the right thing. We knew that we had to keep creating experiences like this for the people in our audience and in our community so that we could see these people keep succeeding in their online business. Jocelyn Sams: Leading up to last year's event, there were times that we definitely looked at each other and said, "Okay this is not happening again next year." Shane Sams: What have we gotten ourselves into? Jocelyn Sams: It was stressful. We made zero dollars off ticket sales. We actually lost money last year. And we just kind of looked at each other and we were like, "This is a lot of work. Like, this is intense. Are we going to do this again next year?" And honestly, before the event we were kind of like, "I don't know. I don't know if this is gonna happen again." Jocelyn Sams: But then after we got there, after we saw everybody, we saw the types of connections that were being made. We have talked to people on the podcast the past few weeks. I think just about everyone on the podcast has been someone who attended the live event. Shane Sams: And had a success story from it. Jocelyn Sams: And just seeing what these people have been able to do before the event, leading up to it, at the event, after the event, all of those things together, we just kind of looked at each other again and said, "You know what? We have to do this again. We can't not do this again." And like I said, it's not a money thing for us. We are not making money off this. Or very little if we do. Shane Sams: We actually as we were starting to plan for Flip Your Life Live 2019, we really wanted to even lower the ticket price. We wanted to make it more accessible to more people because we know how much this has impacted dozens of peoples lives. And we want Flip Your Life Live to be the event that impacts your life. And impacts hundreds of other lives. Shane Sams: So after many conversations, and many meetings with our live event team, we are proud to announce that Flip Your Life Live 2019 is happening again. And it will be in Lexington, Kentucky on September 19 through the 21st 2019. And we want you to be there. Shane Sams: We have launched ticket sales. They are available right now at early bird pricing until March 1st. And we do have payment plans available so you can kind of put it on layaway guys. You can put some money down now, pay it off between now and the event. You don't have to come up with the entire amount all up front. But if you do it will save you a little money. Shane Sams: And to get your ticket all you have to do is go to flippedlifestyle.com/live. That's, F-L-I-P-P-E-D lifestyle.com/L-I-V-E. Flippedlifestyle.com/live. And you can get your ticket to Flip Your Life Live 2019 before they sell out and before the price goes up. Shane Sams: Now we have already announced this to the people who came here last year to Flip Your Life Live. And over half of them have already bought tickets to the event. So we are not going to have a lot of tickets available when you hear this podcast. Shane Sams: This is a limited seating event. We kind of call this the Flipped Lifestyle family reunion. But we don't have room for everybody in the family, in the venue hall. So once tickets do sell out we are not gonna be able to add anymore. Shane Sams: We have limited space for the event. So if you're planning on attending you really need to do it right now. You need to go get your ticket at flippedlifestyle.com/live as soon as you hear this podcast. Shane Sams: Flip Your Life Live is a unique and amazing experience in this industry guys. You know, it's how we bring our members and podcast audience together each year to meet each other in real life, to meet us in real life. Shane Sams: You know Jocelyn and I go down into the audience and we work with the people who are there. We answer questions after every single session to make sure that you get the exact information and training you need to take your business to the next level. Jocelyn Sams: Guys we even have a photo booth. We will take a picture with you in the photo booth. We'll hold up a sign. You can make Shane say something crazy. You can make him wear a hat. I don't know. Shane Sams: It's all recorded on video. Jocelyn Sams: But it's really fun. We get down in there. We really participate with the audience. We have opportunities to learn not only in the information sessions, but we also do a night of working. Jocelyn Sams: So it's like a working session where we get together at night. People go to tables. They get their laptops out. They get out some big Post Its or those big pieces of paper you stick on the wall. Whatever you want to write on. You get together. You hang out with people. We have snacks. It's an amazing event. Shane Sams: It's not just sit and soak. It's not just preach and teach. It's interactive. It's working together to figure out exactly what you need to move your life forward. Last year we watched in the working session as masterminds formed. Shane Sams: I can't tell you how many stories that we've got of people that send us emails saying, "I met these five ladies." Or, "I met these four or five men." Or, "We met these other couples and we still talk to each other every single day since the event. They've become some of our best friends in our mastermind. And these people have really rallied around us and helped us achieve all this success." Shane Sams: We want you to go there. We want you to meet people. We want you to form masterminds so that you can not only get what you need there. But you can take it with you after the event. Shane Sams: Another reason you really need to get your ticket right now is because Flip Your Life Live is not just a weekend event. It's not just three days on your calendar. It is a year long experience. Shane Sams: One of the things that frustrated us about every other live event we had ever attended is after we bought our ticket, we felt like the event coordinators kind of just dropped us. Nobody told us what to do to prepare for the event. Nobody told us how to meet people or interact with other individuals who were actually going to the event. Shane Sams: And that's something that we solved when we planned Flip Your Life Live. We do monthly trainings every single month, all year long leading to the event. We help you with prerequisite trainings. We tell you exactly what you need to take action on, what you need to finish before you come to the event so that you can get the most out of the event while you're there. Jocelyn Sams: So in other words, that's means if you don't have a single thing done, and this is a question we get all the time. "Can I come if I don't have anything done yet." Of course you can. We want you to be there. The whole reason that we do this is to get you started, to kind of push that domino over so that you guys will start realizing that you can do this. Jocelyn Sams: That's the reason that we do this event. That's why it's so important to us that people sign up. Like I said before, we are not really making money off this thing. We do this because we want to help you succeed. Shane Sams: So if you don't even have an idea yet don't worry. I'm gonna train you how to get your idea ready before you come to Flip Your Life Live on these monthly trainings. If you don't have a product yet, we're gonna talk about that. We're gonna fix that. We're gonna start outlining that, and maybe even create that before you come to the event. Shane Sams: Maybe you've not launched yet. We can help you launch your product before the event. We had people last year use the event as a motivator, as an anchor on their calendar, as their goal to say, "I'm getting this thing done before I show up so I at least have some data and I can talk to some people when I come." Shane Sams: And heres the deal, these prerequisite trainings are starting now. You need to go get your tickets so you don't miss a single one of these trainings in the exclusive Flip Your Life Live private Facebook group. Shane Sams: Make no mistake this is a beginner friendly event. We are gonna help you take action and move past that beginner stage, so that you're ready to take your steps into online business. Shane Sams: Another big problem that we have with live events is, we just felt alone. We didn't know who was going. We didn't know anybody when we got there. It was really nerve wracking for us to just show up and see a bunch of strangers sitting in the room. So that was one problem we really needed to address with Flip Your Life Live. Shane Sams: We do that with icebreaker sessions. Last year Jocelyn and I hosted multiple icebreaker sessions on Zoom, on a big conference call for all the people that were coming to the event. So what we did was, Jocelyn and I got on a Zoom call, everybody connected. Shane Sams: You could see 50 or 60 people in the room each call. And you could see everybody's picture and everybody was laughing and having a good time. And Jocelyn and I went around the room and talked to every single person that showed up on an icebreaker call. And we introduced them. Shane Sams: We said, "Hey what's your name? Where are you from?" We could ask them funny questions like, tell us your favorite job, or the worst job you ever had. And we all had an amazing time, laughed. And got to know each other before the event. Shane Sams: Jocelyn and I also facilitated connecting people who we thought would be good to meet each other at the event. So this is not an event where you sign up and you show up, and you don't know anybody. Shane Sams: You're gonna feel like you know people as soon as you walk in the room. You're gonna feel like you have relationships as soon as you get to Flip Your Life Live in Lexington, Kentucky. And it's gonna be an amazing, comfortable experience right when you walk in the door. Shane Sams: Jocelyn and I last year as people were registering, we were like on the eighth floor looking down and nobody knew where we were so we could spy on people as they were signing up. Shane Sams: And it was so awesome to watch people hug, people see each other and smile and go, "Hey Jim. Hey Sally." Or whatever your names were. And they started hugging and they had a good time. And you know, they were meeting and already talking before they even registered. Shane Sams: I've been to so many events where I felt like a number in a line. And I didn't know anybody. And there was nobody helping me. But our event really felt like old friends seeing each other again. And that's what we do for Flip Your Life Live attendees. Jocelyn Sams: You guys don't want to miss these icebreakers. They are a lot of fun. We did them usually on like Friday nights. We'd pour a glass of wine, and just sit down and just talk to everyone, get to know them. People have some crazy stories and you do not want to miss out on those. It's so funny. And you'll have a major case of FOMO if you don't show up at the icebreakers because we had that happen last year. People were like, "I can't believe I missed it." Shane Sams: And they were so successful. And that was probably the highlight of the pre live event, events, was getting people connected together. And I've even added an additional icebreaker session to make sure that we get through everybody that's gonna come to the event, and everybody that wants to has a chance not only to talk to me and Jocelyn, but to get to know all of their other fellow attendees. Shane Sams: Nobody else, there's no other live event in the industry that you can possibly attend guys that is going to prepare you with monthly trainings leading up to the event. Is gonna help you meet people before you even show up to the event. And not some nameless, faceless, Facebook group. I mean, actually connect you with people and help you meet us and them before you even get to the show. Shane Sams: Another big problem we had with live events was a lot of the attendees there just weren't our people you know? A lot of events we went to they were just full of single millennials with not a care in the world, and no real responsibilities except keeping themselves alive every day. Shane Sams: We went to some that were really stuffy and very business like. And everyone was really professional. We want to make sure that we're connecting you with like minded people. People that get you, get your life experience, get where you are so that you can build those real authentic relationships. Shane Sams: When you attend Flip Your Life Live 2019, you're gonna be surrounded by people that understand you, people that are going through a lot of the same things that you're going through, real families. Shane Sams: Maybe people that are working full time, people who really want this online thing to be their families future. People that have kids and understand real responsibilities and all of the things that we're juggling while we're trying to build a successful business. Shane Sams: Our audience is really curated guys with a lot of people just like you. And they're all going to be at Flip Your Life Live. Jocelyn Sams: And this event is for people at all stages of business. So we mentioned before that if you don't have a single thing done, this event is for you. If you are a seven, eight, nine figure business owner, this event is for you. Jocelyn Sams: We will have people in the room at all different income levels, all different stages of business, and we're going to really make an effort this year to do a good job of like segmenting people. Jocelyn Sams: So when we have our work sessions we're going to have beginner tables. We'll have intermediate tables. We'll have advanced tables. So there's going to be something for everyone at this event. Jocelyn Sams: So I don't want you to think that because you're an advanced person, maybe you've been doing this for a few years, that this event is not for you because it is. Shane Sams: And some of y'all out there think you're advanced but you're not. We had some people last year that were like, "You know, I think this event might be too beginner for me. I don't know if I'm gonna really come." And I like, "Well one, no it's not. This is gonna be an actionable audit of your business. And we're take massive action on your next steps while we're there." Shane Sams: But then I said, "Well what do you thinks high level?" And they're like, "Well you know, I've got 50 members. I've launched my product." I'm like, "No, that's not advanced." And some people were like, "Well I've got 200. I've got 300 members." And we're like, "What about 500 or 1000? Let's get you to the next level." Shane Sams: That's the whole point of Flip Your Life Live. We didn't want it to be cookie cutter content. This is exactly what happens. No. It's supposed to be like a checklist where you can look into a mirror through the entire event and say, "Is my marketing where it needs to be? Is my content where it needs to be? What's the next step for me in my marketing, in my content?" Shane Sams: That's the kind of things we do at the event. We're not just rah rah. We're not just motivational speaking. We're really looking deep into where you are right now, and figuring out your next step. Shane Sams: We had a Flip Your Life community member last year that was making around $4000 a month. And she was kind of stuck there. But she was "Not a beginner" right? Not an intermediate even. She was making money online. She was doing it full time. Had a decent membership base. Not bad. Shane Sams: She signs up for the event. She learns something on one of our prerequisite trainings. We talked to her in the icebreaker session. She gets inspired. She takes action right before the event. And she blew her business from $4000 up to $17,000 a month. And now she's approaching $30,000 a month in her business. Shane Sams: And if she had just blew this off as oh well these events they're just catering to the beginner, they're just gonna be a bunch of motivational speakers, she never would have had that aha moment. She never would have had that epiphany. She never would have been motivated and held accountable to take action. Shane Sams: And she sent me a message just the other day and she said, "This is getting into I can't believe it money." Right? And that never would have happened if she had blew this event off and said, "This is just like the other events. This isn't for me. I'm not gonna go. I'm not gonna do it. It's all beginners." Blah, blah, blah. Shane Sams: That's not true. It's designed to help you where you are. We have helped thousands of people guys. Everybody from I don't have an idea, to how do I become a millionaire. We've helped so many people. Shane Sams: And we are really, really good at helping you figure out what you need to do next to go to the next level. And you need to be a part of this so you can have that same kind of aha moment that she did. Jocelyn Sams: One of the things that I am really proud of from last year is that some of the top earners that were in that room, they have already purchased their tickets for this year. So that just goes to show you that those people are finding value in what we did last year. Jocelyn Sams: And they can't wait to get here again this year because they know that what is going to happen at that event is going to continue to change their business. So don't let this opportunity pass you by. It is a really good event no matter what level you're at. Shane Sams: As we've kind of slowly rolled this out to our audience, we allowed the people who came last year to go ahead and buy their tickets first. And then we rolled it out to parts of our email list who were already on the waiting list for this year's event. It was fun to watch those first people buy. Shane Sams: One of the first people who bought was one of our more advanced members you would say. Her name is Jennifer. And she bought her ticket. I saw her come through as soon as the tickets were available. Shane Sams: She came last year, had some massive growth in her business. We added 200 people to her membership after the event within a couple of months. And now she's just killing it. She's getting over 500 members. She's marching towards a thousand. She's already launched a new product. And right after she joined, I saw her name come through again. Jocelyn Sams: And we're like, "Oh no we got a double payment." Shane Sams: Double purchase. Jocelyn Sams: How did we screw this up? Shane Sams: She clicked the button twice. So I send her a message. I'm like, "Jennifer did you know you bought two tickets?" And she said, "Oh yeah I did. It was so awesome, I'm making my husband come this year. He's got nothing done. He's just starting out. But I'm making him go so that he can launch his own online business in 2019 with that event on his calendar to work toward." Shane Sams: And then right after she joined, we got one of our most advanced people. She's forcing her husband to come who's never done anything. And then I see a guys name that I know. He's a guy I actually grew up with. His name is Fred. And I see a message. Shane Sams: And right when I was going to send him a message I saw him post on Facebook, "I don't have anything. I have not even started. But I've been kicking around this dream for a year and a half. And I'm sick of hoping and wishing for something to change. I'm gonna make it happen. So I bought my ticket to Flip Your Life Live. I don't even know what's gonna happen next but I'm going. And I'm starting my online business." Shane Sams: And he's been crushing it watching courses in the community. He was at our first prerequisite training. And man he's just been really killing it. So it's amazing to see the span of people who come to this event and how that they do and get out of it afterwards. Shane Sams: If you're one of those people, go to flippedlifestyle.com/live as soon as you hear this. Pull over on the side of the road if you're in your car. If you're in the gym, get off the treadmill, go in the locker room and order your ticket. If you're at home go get your ticket so that they don't sell out before you have a chance to attend. Jocelyn Sams: Okay, so at this point you may be asking some questions. So we're gonna try to address some of the questions that we've had so far in the next parts of this podcast. The first question that we want to talk about is why Lexington? So a lot of people want to know why aren't you doing this in Nashville again? Was it something that happened? Or what's going on? Jocelyn Sams: So there are actually a few different reasons that we decided to do it in Lexington. First of all, you guys know that we are from Kentucky. We have an extreme fondness in our hearts for Kentucky. Shane and I met there in 1998 at the University Of Kentucky. Shane Sams: Which is in Lexington, Kentucky. Jocelyn Sams: Yes. It is so beautiful. If you've never been to Kentucky before, Lexington is just fantastic. You are going to love it. There are three airports nearby. There's the Lexington Airport with the code LEX. There's the Louisville, Kentucky airport which is about an hour away. It's code is SDF. And there is the Cincinnati Airport which is about 90 minutes away. And it's code is CVG. Jocelyn Sams: So as you're looking for flights, kind of pricing things out, I would definitely recommend checking out those three different airports. Totally aside but there's also an app called HOPPER, H-O-P-P-E-R. And you can put those flights in. And based on historical flight data, it will compare the prices of booking it now. Or it will tell you to wait and book it later. Shane Sams: So this is another good reason to get your ticket right away because if you go ahead and get your flights booked, it's gonna save you a ton of money doing it ahead of time than waiting until the last minute and seeing everybody going to the event and saying, "Man I wish I went. Okay I'm going." And getting your ticket and then you have to order a plane ticket at the last second. Shane Sams: Also, Lexington, Kentucky is within driving distance I think of like 70% of the US population. Jocelyn Sams: Yeah, like 2/3. Shane Sams: Yeah you can get there within like 10 hours from anywhere. So if you're anywhere in one of the surrounding states, I think more states touch Kentucky than any other state. Like we're land locked or surrounded. But for all of you people who are around us you can just drive there. Shane Sams: It's a really easy drive. I-75 runs right through Lexington, Kentucky. And it's just one of the most gorgeous cities you've ever seen guys. It feels like a small town. It's modern. It's new. There's so much going on around the city that it's just an incredible place to have an event. Jocelyn Sams: The weather is pretty much perfect in Kentucky in September. There are tons of things to do outside the event. You can take a bourbon distillery tour. You can visit a horse farm. There's a shaker village nearby. There's a ton of shopping. That's one really good thing about Lexington. Shane Sams: Lots of shopping. Jocelyn Sams: There are stores everywhere. Very, very affluent area for the most part. It is just an incredible place to visit if you've never been there before. And pretty much everything is less expensive than it was in Nashville. And that includes the ticket prices for this year. That includes your hotel. Shane Sams: Flights. Jocelyn Sams: Things like parking. If you stay in the event hotel, which we highly recommend, I believe that the parking is free to park in the garage. So just all of those little things add up over time. And we really wanted it to be an affordable event for everyone. And we wanted people to be able to come to our home state and see where we really live. Shane Sams: You know as we looked around the industry, to kind of compare our event to other events and see what the costs were for attending these events for people, we started seeing a trend of all of the major events in the industry their prices keep going up. Shane Sams: I looked at Social Media Marketing World, almost all of their tickets were over a thousand dollars. Funnel Hacking Live which has become one of the biggest events in the online business industry over a thousand dollars. Some of their ticket packages were in the multiple thousands of dollars. Shane Sams: Even the less expensive events they just were giving no value. Sometimes it was just to get into the conference hall for keynotes. You didn't even get to do the side events. And when we were meeting about Flip Your Life Live 2019, we said, "How can we bring the cost down a little bit? How can we help our members get there for less so that they can do more at and after the event?" Shane Sams: And we're really proud to say that because we moved it to Lexington, Kentucky, because we did a lot of other things, we think we're gonna have a bigger and better experience. And we were able to actually get your costs down. We've lowered ticket prices over a hundred dollars this year. Shane Sams: The hotel is less expensive than last year. And all of the other expenses that people had for coming to the event whether it was eating out with friends, or going to a local attraction, all of those were going to be a lot less expensive in Lexington. Shane Sams: The city itself is just as easy to get to as Nashville. And it's going to be a unique experience that you cannot get anywhere else, any other trip that you take in the industry. Shane Sams: All right. We've talked a lot about before the event. What we're gonna do leading up to the event. How this event becomes an anchor on your calendar to give you the accountability and motivation you need to succeed this year. Shane Sams: But let's talk about what happens at the event, all right? Now we wanted this event to be really, really different than other events. So when we looked at other events what we noticed was, most of the other events in the industry they hire a bunch of "Keynote speakers, experts in their field." Shane Sams: They get on stage. They give the same speech they give at every other event. And then they pitch you something at the end of almost every session right? Nobody went deep into what the topic was that was being covered. And we didn't want this to be that way. Shane Sams: So we decided when we started Flip Your Life Live, that it would be us leading the sessions on stage. And we are going to do deep dive content sessions that really audit your business, audit your life, audit everything you're doing. And we help you identify what you need next. Jocelyn Sams: And the best part about it is that if you go ahead and purchase your ticket now, you can actually influence that content. So we don't decide, we're going to do A, B, and C content. We ask our attendees, "Hey, what do you guys need help with?" And based on those responses, that's how we develop the content for the event. So as of right now, as of this recording in February, we don't even have the content 100% nailed down. Shane Sams: We just have an outline basically set up and now we need you the attendee to tell us what you need. And we will look at the group, and we will pick the topics that we think will help everyone in that room succeed. Shane Sams: Our event is also set up in a way where you can take action immediately on what you learn. We don't want you just filling up a notebook and going home with a bunch of great ideas. We want you to sit through a content session, be able to get your questions answered. And then take action. Shane Sams: So that's exactly how we built every session of Flip Your Life Live. We come in, in 90 minute blocks. The first 30 minutes is content. Jocelyn and I go deep into a specific area of your business and we talk about it in our content session. Shane Sams: Next we come off the stage, down into the crowd and we answer as many questions as we can get to in that 30 minute Q&A session. If you've got a question you'll be able to ask it at the event. Shane Sams: And then after that, we break down into 30 minute masterminds so that you can take action on the answers you just got. You can take action on the content you just learned. You can open your computer. Shane Sams: You can sit with your friends and family members in the Flip Your Life community. And you can actually do the thing. You don't have to wait until you get home. You do it right there in that session. Shane Sams: Not only that, but Friday night we have a working session. Basically after dinner we open up the ballroom for everybody to come back in. We've got internet. We've got power cords ready to go. And we work into the late night on your business. Shane Sams: Everybody comes in mastermind, sits down. We take all the stuff that we learned that day, all of the stuff that we couldn't quite get finished in the mastermind sessions. And we do it together, right there in that room. Shane Sams: Last year we saw people launch products. We saw people start sales. We saw people fix sales pages. We saw people come up with new ideas for their business. And they implemented them and took action. Shane Sams: One of the most hilarious stories that we saw last year was a member named Brenda. I was walking back to the room. It was almost midnight. And there was like five of us that had just shut down the place basically. And she came up to me with another member named Kathy. And she just was shaking her head. And I'm like, "What's going on?" Shane Sams: And she goes, "Well I realized today during one of the content sessions that I was doing something wrong in my membership. And basically all my content was basically out there for free. And luckily my friend that I met at this event helped me figure it out. And they just rallied around me for the past two hours and helped me fix my entire website. So now I'm gonna be able to move forward and actually be able to sell this thing. And that was the reason I wasn't making any sales because people were finding it for free." Shane Sams: So if she had never come to the event, and she had never went to the working session, and never had those people rallied around her, she may have never even figured out that there was a problem. But that came out of the working session. Shane Sams: So Friday night the working session. And on Thursday we have this huge party for everybody at the event. Jocelyn Sams: Yeah, so this year it's really exciting. It's going to be a dessert social. So we're going to have all kinds of different desserts on Thursday night. There will be a bar there. There may or may not be some live music. You never can tell. There's always surprises around every corner at our event. So we can't wait to just hang out with you there. Jocelyn Sams: We will be there on Thursday night. We will be there on Friday night. And it's just really exciting. I mean I get so excited just even thinking about this because last year was so amazing and I just know this year is going to be even better. So you need to be in the room. Shane Sams: It's going to be a three day working party basically from Thursday to Saturday night. And it's just gonna be so much fun. One of the highlights of my life last year was just being able to experience all the little things that happened at Flip Your Life Live. Shane Sams: And I cannot wait to experience it again this year. We're gonna have more people at the event. And we've learned so many lessons from doing this once that we're really gonna take it to the next level the second time. Shane Sams: All right, so we're gonna lightening round a few of these other frequently asked questions that we've been getting from the people who have already seen the ticket page for Flip Your Life Live 2019. Shane Sams: One of the biggest questions that we've gotten so far is, "What if I came last year, should I come again?" And the answer is, emphatically, 100% Yes. One of the biggest problems that we saw going to all of these live events, and we've spent literally almost probably over $100,000 going to live events in our career so far. Shane Sams: And one of the biggest things that we saw is we started hitting the circuit and seeing different people and different speakers, at different events is, we noticed that everywhere we went and saw the same speaker, they gave the same speech. And they gave the same pitch. So it wasn't really anything new that they were teaching on stage. Shane Sams: And that's one thing that we said we will not do at our event. We are going to evaluate the content, tailor it to all the people who are coming based on what they ask for and they need. And this will be a completely different content experience from the stage of Flip Your Life Live. Jocelyn Sams: And if for no other reason, come to experience Kentucky because it is amazing. We are going to be doing different food and beverage. And there will be different experiences than what we had last year. Shane Sams: The theme will be a little bit different this year for sure. Jocelyn Sams: And you just need to be there. It is going to be so fun. And I don't want you to miss out. So if you were there last year, get your ticket while you still have the opportunity. Shane Sams: There will also be a lot of new people at the event that you can make more connections with. You can use the event like that family reunion and make deeper connections with the people that you met last year. Shane Sams: And again if you want to be a person that's influencing the actual content of the event, and telling us what you need, you need to go ahead and get your ticket right now at, flippedlifestyle.com/live. Shane Sams: Another big question that we've been getting in our email inbox lately is, can anyone come to this event? Or is it only for people who are in the Flip Your Life community?" Flip Your Life community members did get first dibs at the tickets okay? So some of them have already bought their tickets. Shane Sams: But this is an open event for everybody. This is for everyone who listens to the Flipped Lifestyle podcast. Everyone who's a fan of Jocelyn and myself, and what we stand for. It's for anyone who wants to put an anchor on their calendar that they can strive toward to change their life and their families future. Shane Sams: This is an open event. You don't have to be in the Flip Your Life community. It would be better if you were a member in the Flip Your Life community because you can go ahead and work in the forums. You can work through courses. Shane Sams: And you can enhance all those prerequisite trainings that we do in the private Facebook group. But by no means do we force everyone to show their Flip Your Life membership card if there was such a thing. Jocelyn Sams: There totally should be. Shane Sams: There totally should be a Flip Your Life membership card. We need to send everybody one of those. But you don't have to be a member of the Flip Your Life community to attend this event. This event is for anybody who wants to start building, grow an online business, change their life, and change their families future. Shane Sams: So even if you're not in the community, go get a ticket to Flip Your Life Live. If you are in the community, you really should be there to take that experience to the next level. And anyone who came last year you really need to be at this event. It's gonna be bigger. It's gonna be better. And it's gonna be even more tailored to the exact things you need. Shane Sams: The next big question that we've been getting is, what's included with my ticket price? And what's not included? As soon as you order your ticket to Flip Your Life Live, you will be added to our exclusive, private Facebook community. Shane Sams: That's where we talk to our attendees, where we poll them and ask them what they need. That's where we do all of our live trainings. And that's where we do our icebreaker sessions. So you really want to be in that group as soon as possible. Shane Sams: There's already dozens and dozens of people in that community right now. And we really want you in there as soon as possible so you don't miss any of the extra stuff that you get for buying a ticket to Flip Your Life Live. Shane Sams: Your ticket price also includes all of those monthly trainings. These are exclusive trainings that will only be available to Flip Your Life Live attendees. We do not take these courses down. We do not put them anywhere inside the community. They're only for Flip Your Life Live alumni. Shane Sams: Your ticket price includes all the virtual meetups and icebreaker opportunities to connect with me and Jocelyn, and other attendees before the event. Jocelyn Sams: Your ticket also includes your Thursday night entry into our party, our welcome reception that we are going to have. And there will be all kinds of Kentucky related desserts there. They are going to be super tasty so you don't want to miss out on that. Shane Sams: Your ticket price includes all event sessions, all Q&A's, all mastermind sessions. It also includes lunch. We think it's really important that we all break bread and eat a good meal together. And we will have all day beverage service in the event for Friday and Saturday. That's gonna include soft drinks, water, coffee, things like that. Jocelyn Sams: And if you take our VIP option, we have a very few VIP tickets still available. Shane Sams: I think there's like two left. Jocelyn Sams: If you are interested in that, you need to book it immediately. But if you have taken that offer we're gonna have a couple of surprises for you. And possibly some extra meals and things like that. We're still in the process of working all that out. And we will get those details finalized as soon as possible. But just know that if you buy VIP ticket, there may be even some more bonuses thrown into that. Shane Sams: And there's also a general admission plus option for the tickets that will include recordings of every video session, and every Q&A at the event. Last year we sold those for about $500. Shane Sams: But you can get a huge discount on the videos upfront if you order now. But that ticket option will go away before the event. So you want to grab that ticket now if you want to grab those video options too. Shane Sams: So you might be asking, "Wow this is a huge deal. There's a lot of stuff included. How did you guys come up with the price?" Well it's really simple. We basically estimated the cost for a certain number of people that we want to attend the event guys, and we divided it by that number. Shane Sams: We want this event to be as close as cost for you as possible to make sure that you can attend the event. We're not trying to make a huge profit off live events. For anyone who has ever hosted a live event, you know it is not a huge profitable exchange. This is our celebration for our community to get everyone together in the same room. Shane Sams: So we've done our best not only to get that as close to cost as possible for you, but to lower the cost over last year. Early bird pricing right now is $100 cheaper than it was last year. And the payment plans are divided over more months and a little bit cheaper as well because of that. So if you really want to get in at a great price, now is the best time to do it. Jocelyn Sams: And I want to speak just a little bit to the cost of the ticket because I know there's some people out there that are like, "Wow this is really expensive. You're telling me you're not making money off this?" We really don't because everything at a hotel is super expensive. Jocelyn Sams: What you have to remember about hotels is there are a lot of benefits to having events there. But there are some drawbacks as well. And one of those is that every price that they give you, you have to also pay a service charge plus tax. Shane Sams: And you have to buy everything from the hotel. We have food and beverage minimums that we have to meet. We have to pay multiple tens of thousands of dollars just to be in the building. We have room allotments that we have to fill. Shane Sams: There's a lot of things going on in the back end to come to that exact price point. And we basically estimated the cost and divided it by the number of people that we think are gonna attend. Jocelyn Sams: And it's crazy what all you have to pay for. I mean we have to pay for a stage to be built. We have to pay for music in the venues. Shane Sams: Projectors. Jocelyn Sams: We have to pay for lighting. Like all of these little things start adding up. And we just took what we did last year. We made some changes to it. And that's basically how we came up with the pricing for this year. And there's certainly ways that we can make it super cheap. But we don't want to do that. We want our attendees to have a particular type of experience. Jocelyn Sams: And I think if you would talk to anyone from last year, they would say that it is well worth it considering all the time that we put in ahead of time. Everything that we do at the event. And things that happen after the event, just the relationships that they have I don't think you will talk to a single person from last year that said, "Oh it was way too expensive." Shane Sams: Yeah everything Jocelyn and I do, we try to do it world class. And we try to do it better than anybody else. And I am proud to say that our event was the best event that I've ever been to for sure. Shane Sams: And somehow this year we got it cheaper than the first live event that we ever went to when we went to San Diego. It's not even in the ballpark of what we paid for that. So we're really proud of this event. We're really excited about this event. And we really want you to be at the event. Jocelyn Sams: Okay, now some of you guys are sitting here listening and you have already written us off because you went to the page, you saw the price, and you said to yourself, "Nope, can't do it. Can't afford it." Shane Sams: I can't do that. Jocelyn Sams: Guys that is a fixed mindset. We have been talking about this some on the podcast recently. That means that you say, "These are my circumstances. My circumstances cannot change. And I'm not going to this event for sure." Jocelyn Sams: Okay, I want to talk to you right now. And I just want to say that if you've been listening to this podcast, maybe you've been listening for years. We've been doing this podcast I think for almost five years now. Jocelyn Sams: Maybe you've been listening for five years. Maybe you've been listening for five months. Maybe this is your first episode, and you're still sitting at your nine to five. And you're wondering when things are gonna change. 2019 is your time. Jocelyn Sams: What I want you to do, is I want you to do what you have to do to make this happen. I want you to stop making excuses. And I want you to make it happen. You can do this. Jocelyn Sams: So I want to tell you a story from not too long ago of something that I did because I wanted to have my house decorated for Christmas. Shane said- Shane Sams: We're being frugal. I don't want to pay someone to decorate a Christmas tree. I don't understand why we need to do that. Jocelyn Sams: Because this kind of decorating that I was wanting done you know it's- Shane Sams: It was a fancy tree. Jocelyn Sams: It's not like 50 or 60 dollars okay? It's alot more expensive than that. And Shane said, "Absolutely not. We are not doing that this year." Shane Sams: I just didn't see the value in decorating a fancy, tall Christmas tree. Jocelyn Sams: However, I did. So what I did, I said, "You know what? If you are not going to say, okay let's do this, I'm going to find a way to make it happen." Shane Sams: Because we like to agree when we spend money. Jocelyn and I we're very conservative, frugal people at times. Jocelyn Sams: At times. Shane Sams: Except for trips, when we go out of town. But other than that- Jocelyn Sams: So I said, "You know what? I'm going to make this happen. I will show you. I will raise the money to make it happen." And he was like, "Okay whatever." Shane Sams: What are you gonna do a Go Fund Me to have a Christmas tree? Like, what's gonna go on? Jocelyn Sams: No. So I got into my closet. I started digging around into my kids closets. And I found enough stuff to sell on Facebook to make really more than enough money that I needed get my house decorated for Christmas. Shane Sams: Hundreds of dollars. I don't know where she was pulling stuff out of to get this thing to happen. And I'll tell you what, when I walked in and saw this ... How tall is that tree? Jocelyn Sams: Like nine feet. Shane Sams: Nine feet tall. It looked like something out of a Macy's catalog or something. I was like, wow that was really worth doing that. That was pretty awesome. So she made it happen. And she just said, "I'll go do it." And I think back to the first live event that we went to. Shane Sams: And when we signed up for the tickets we spent the money. And we looked at our bank account and we said, "What did we just do?" But we've got to make that back. We weren't getting a lot of sales online. Shane Sams: Things weren't going as good as we'd hoped they were in the spring of that year. But when it warmed up a little bit ... We lived on this big hill in our old house. And it was like, what do you think, 50 yards, 50 feet? I don't even know how long it was. Jocelyn Sams: Something like that. Shane Sams: It was a long walk down to the bottom of that hill. And I remember one day we just started taking everything we had and putting it down at the bottom of our driveway and putting prices on it. And we had a yard sale to just sell everything that we truly didn't need. Shane Sams: I mean we just purged our entire house to make back the money to pay for that live event. And it has paid us back in spades hundreds of times over because we took that risk and we made it happen. Shane Sams: And we tell people this all the time in the community. Successful people don't say I can't do that. Successful people say, "How can I do that? Because if they did it, then it's possible. And if it's possible, that means its possible for me too." Shane Sams: And that's what we're really telling you guys for this, make it possible. Find a way to make it happen. You can do this. It won't be easy. And it might take sacrifice but you can do it if you want to. Jocelyn Sams: Look at that treadmill that's sitting there collecting dust, or collecting laundry. Can you sell it? What about that elliptical machine? Can you cancel cable for a few months to make this happen? It's not for us. It's for you. We want this to happen for you. We want you to be one of our success stories in 2020. Jocelyn Sams: Don't let time keep slipping away. This is your opportunity. We do a lead up to the event. We hang out at the event. And you will come back so energized. We want this for you, not for us. We want it for you. Shane Sams: Yeah if this was for us, we would just do virtual memberships and not show up live anywhere. Like I'm not saying that to be spiteful about it. I'm just saying, it's not about just making money, or growing the business, or doing X, Y, or Z. It's what can we do to make sure more people have the opportunity to find the freedom that we did through online business? Shane Sams: And we think this is the biggest possible thing we can do. We have thousands and thousands of people that listen to the podcast. Hundreds, and hundreds of people in our community. But we can get 200 people or so in a room and really drop that nuclear bomb on their life and their business. And make things change. And that's what Flip Your Life Live 2019 is gonna be. Shane Sams: So if you want to get your ticket right now, go to flippedlifestyle.com/live. That's, F-L-I-P-P-E-D lifestyle.com/live. And get one of the tickets. This is the lowest price it's gonna be all year. Shane Sams: Ticket prices go up on March 1st. And the payment plan ticket options also increase because as we get closer to the event there's less months to divide the total by. So ticket prices are gonna go up. The payment plan prices are gonna go up. This is the best price you're gonna get. Shane Sams: You can go out and start planning the trip. You can get that hotel room. The block filled last year as soon as the podcast came out. And we had to add a few more rooms. We're not gonna be adding a ton of rooms this time. Shane Sams: So if you don't want the hotel to sell out on you, if you want to make sure you can get the best possible price on the ticket, on your flights, you need to get that right now. So go to flippedlifestyle.com/live and get your ticket. Shane Sams: We cannot wait to work with you in the private Facebook group. We cannot wait to see you on one of our icebreaker sessions. And most importantly, we cannot wait to meet you in person, to hug you, to shake your hand, and see you at Flip Your Life Live 2019 in Lexington, Kentucky on September 19th through the 21st. Jocelyn Sams: Okay guys, that is all the time that we have for today. We cannot wait to see your name on our guest list for Flip Your Life Live 2019. Remember, head over to flippedlifestyle.com/live to join us. Jocelyn Sams: VIP tickets are almost sold out so run, run, run if you want one of those. And we are just waiting to see your name come across that general admission list. You've got this. We want you to be there. We want you to change your life forever. Shane Sams: All right guys. That's all we've got for the podcast for today. Until next time, do whatever it takes. Get out there. Take action. Buy your ticket. Flip Your Life. We'll see you then. Jocelyn Sams: Bye. Links and resources mentioned on today's show: Flip Your Life LIVE 2019 Tickets & Registration Information Flip Your Life community Enjoy the podcast; we hope it inspires you to explore what's possible for your family! Join the Flip Your Life Community NOW for as little as $19 per month! – https://flippedlifestyle.com/flipyourlife

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The Busy Creator Podcast episode 10, with guest Web Designer Erica Heinz Erica Heinz (@ericaheinz) is a web designer in Brooklyn, NY. As a veteran freelancer, she's work for a variety of clients and sectors, lately focusing on fast development around humanitarian and public sector projects. She's also a teacher of web design, and of yoga. Together, Prescott and Erica discuss tools of the trade, best practices for web designers, how to continue to learn, and how to avoid becoming overwhelmed by systems. This episode features the most in-depth show notes to date, with a ton of links to websites, tools, and tips. Show Notes & Links Previous web designers on The Busy Creator Podcast, Niki Brown Erica does Humanitarian Work and Rapid-Responce work Occupy Sandy, built in 6 Days Peace Talks in Ireland for the Council on Foreign Relations A microsite for Richard Branson's B Team, done in 3 weeks Prototyping Prescott hates the term “Product Designer” in the realm of Web Design “Visual Designer” is a term that was fast outdated Description vs. Rank in terms of job titles Erica started in illustration, switched to design for the problem-solving Terms like “New Media” for early Internet instruction From fashion to packaging to software, Erica's freelance career Erica is an early adopter, but not bleeding edge Studiomates, bunch of smart people Using SASS to streamline a web workflow BusyCreator.com is really just the basics A Book Apart‘s books Parsons, The New School for Design ADOCHD (ADHD with OCD thrown in there) “I have CDO …” Blister pack of pills … for OCD “The Self-Licking Ice Cream Cone“ Not everything is a checkbox (I'm looking at you, Basecamp.) Getting Things Done philosophy “GitHub is the new View Source.” “HTML elements are like the alphabet.” Jen Simmons on Drupal.org Jonnie Hallman on Ruby on Rails “Do things the long, hard, stupid way.“ So-called “Hacker/Garage Culture” “A really good website lasts two years, and then it's gone.” Agile development EricaHeinz.com Tools SASS Digital Typography on the web: Adobe Typekit, @font-face, etc. HTML5 (with fallbacks) Codekit, a way to compile code locally on your Mac Coda, a text editor SublimeText, another text editor Emmet, CSS shorthand Chrome, and its extensions Safari, fewer extensions but many the same Awesome Screenshot, extensions 1Password, a Mac/iOS utility to store passwords Pinboard, social bookmarking for introverts Instapaper Dropmark, quick-saving of images, links Pocket, formerly Read It Later Stylebot, add a new CSS Bit.ly, for shortening Gimme Bar, for random stuff Browser Resize, for viewing your site in multiple sizes Pepperplate, for recipes Momentum, for new tabs Basecamp Kanban Flow Dragdis, a browser add-on to quick-save items Sprint.ly, collaboration for development Waffle.io, a Kanban board for GitHub issues TeuxDeux Multiple Inboxes for Gmail Coloured Stars add-on Pivotal Tracker (which Erica refuses to use) Slack, combines IRC and file changes, great for team communication Subversion LayerVault, version control for Photoshop Editorial.ly, collaborative writing Dropbox, with previous revisions Google Drive Skillshare Bourbon/Bourbon Neat CSS Mixins Code Academy Techniques Clarify team roles as to who does what (e.g. UX, front-end design, back-end dev.) Stay ahead of the curve to avoid headache later Use Post-Its on a wall; colour-code for different aspects Keep a postcard wall (outside of the computer) Rearrange your Top 3 on the board, use small Post-Its on top of the index cards Find a set of tools that work for you. You don't have to be up-to-date on everything. Go for 80%; let go of the compulsive tweaking of the last bit. Use three-letter client codes Use bullets to indicate time requirements (e.g. •••big effort, •not so much) Learn how to build stuff from scratch Be honest about what you should be doing in each moment Try yoga or breathing techniques Habits Systematize your projects for sharing and collaborating. Maintain the system, but not to a crippling degree. Keep email separated by inboxes Keep learning. Keep updating your workflows and skills. Erica's workflow Phase 1. Content and Site Map, Brand Erica's workflow Phase 2. Visual expression, typography, and details Erica's workflow Phase 3. Development, frameworks Comment your own HTML and CSS code (e.g. “// Trust me, keep this.”) Change your routines every once in a while Erica is a night owl, enjoys being “out of sync” Break your day into 2- or 3-hour chunks Keep “busy” work for later in the day, when your brain is tired