Modern Parenting Solutions

Hey, Friend! It's been a few weeks since our last episode, and I've missed being here with you! But there's a reason I haven't been around—I've been busy creating something that so many of you have been asking for: new, court-approved online parenting skills classes designed just for you. These classes go way beyond the basics, diving deep into what it really takes to raise an exceptional young person in today's world. Now, with Thanksgiving and the holiday season just around the corner—and since I won't have new episodes out for a few weeks—I wanted to leave you with some inspiration and strategies to create the holiday season you and your child deserve. The power to have a wonderful, meaningful holiday full of memories is truly in your hands, and in today's episode, I'm giving you the blueprint to make it happen. This episode is all about my 5 Pillars of Modern Parenting—yes, the same pillars that guide everything I teach—and how you can use them to create a holiday season that's less about stress and more about real connection and joy. Whether you're a longtime listener or this is your first episode, I'm going to walk you through these pillars with a fresh holiday focus, so you'll come away with practical, easy-to-apply tips for making this season meaningful and memorable for both you and your family. This isn't about “perfect holidays” or “Instagram moments”—it's about real joy, true connection, and raising kids and teens who feel confident, secure, and motivated. So grab a cup of coffee (or tea!) and let's dive in. This season is going to be something special—together, we'll make sure of it.

Stop Jumping In! The Simple 3-Step Strategy That Will Transform How You Handle Your Child's Tough Moments Ever find yourself caught between trying to solve your child or teen's problems or pushing them to “toughen up”? You're not alone. Most parents struggle to find the right balance, especially when their young person is upset, stressed, or overwhelmed. The good news? There's a better way—and it's all backed by research. In this episode, we'll explore a proven 3-step strategy that will change the way you handle your young person's difficult emotions. Say goodbye to jumping in to solve everything or using tough love that doesn't work. This episode will give you the exact tools you need to help your child or teen develop emotional resilience, gain confidence in tough situations, and strengthen your relationship in the process. If you've ever asked yourself, “What can I do when my child just can't handle life's challenges?”—this episode is for you. Here's what you'll learn: The two common mistakes parents make when their child is in distress What the research says about validating your child's emotions The surprising power of simply being heard How to connect before you correct Your 3-step strategy for handling distress like a pro A real-life story of transformation The long-term benefits of validation By the end of this episode, you'll have a clear strategy to handle your child or teen's tough moments with confidence—building emotional strength, resilience, and trust along the way. Ready to stop jumping in and start seeing real change in how your child or teen handles life's challenges? Tune in now!   For more parenting support and resources tailored to your needs, check out these options:   Take My Court-Approved Online Parenting Classes Explore My Library of Free Parenting Resources Take My Quiz & Find Out If Your Parenting Style Leans More Traditional, Modern - Or Somewhere In Between!   Resources Mentioned In The Episode: Listen to Episode #72: "Stop Felling Manipulated By Your Child or Teen Using These 4 Proven Strategies"   Connect With Dr. B: Email: Podcast@ModernParentingSolutions.org Get Daily Education, Inspiration, and Support on Instagram

Does your child or teen seem perfectly fine on Saturday, only to become moody, anxious, or withdrawn by Sunday afternoon? Maybe they start complaining about school, feeling overwhelmed, or even develop those familiar headaches or stomachaches. Sound familiar? You're not alone. In this episode, we're tackling the Sunday Scaries head-on. Whether it's the pressure of looming homework, social anxiety, or the dread of early wake-ups, many young people struggle with the anxiety that creeps in as the weekend comes to an end—and as a parent, it's hard to watch. But here's the good news: it doesn't have to be this way. I'm going to give you the exact tools and strategies you need to transform those anxious Sundays into peaceful, confident family time. By the end of this episode, you'll go from feeling helpless and frustrated when these Sunday Scaries hit, to feeling empowered, prepared, and confident. Together, we'll build a game plan to help your child or teen manage their anxiety and start their week on the right foot. You'll learn: (3:47) The telltale signs of the Sunday Scaries—and why your child's anxiety isn't just about not wanting to go to school. (7:24) The fascinating science behind anticipatory anxiety and how your child's brain is reacting to Monday's stress before it even begins. (10:15) Why unstructured weekends can actually make Sunday anxiety worse—and the simple changes you can make to create a smoother transition. (12:30) The three most common triggers of Sunday anxiety—and how identifying them is the first step to easing your child's worries. (15:52) The power of empathetic, non-judgmental conversations—plus a simple script to help your child open up about what's really bothering them. (20:28) Why planning ahead on Friday can save your Sunday—and a step-by-step guide to setting up a weekend schoolwork strategy that works. (21:55) How creating a Sunday routine that balances relaxation and preparation can transform your family's weekend—and reduce those last-minute Sunday night meltdowns. (27:17) Do you feel the Sunday Scaries too? Why it's time to recognize and manage your own Sunday stress, so you don't pass it onto your family. (35:48) Your weekly challenge: One small action you can take today to help your child—and yourself—take control of Sunday anxiety for good. Ready to turn those chaotic, anxiety-filled Sundays into calm, intentional family time? By the end of this episode, you'll have a clear, actionable plan that will help you guide your child or teen through the Sunday Scaries—and, just as importantly, you'll know how to manage your own Sunday anxiety too.   For more parenting support and resources tailored to your needs, check out these options: Join the Modern Parenting Facebook Group Take My Court-Approved Online Parenting Classes Explore My Library of Free Parenting Resources Take My Quiz & Find Out If Your Parenting Style Leans More Traditional, Modern - Or Somewhere In Between!   Resources Mentioned In The Episode: Free PDF Guide: The Ultimate Guide To Making Better Parenting Decisions   Connect With Dr. B: Email: Podcast@ModernParentingSolutions.org Get Daily Education, Inspiration, and Support on Instagram

The Tool That Will Change How You and Your Child or Teen Handles Anxiety Does your young person's anxiety feel overwhelming, and you're not sure how to help them? You're not alone. Anxiety is becoming a bigger challenge for kids and teens every year, and as parents, we often wish we could wave a magic wand and just - poof! - make it disappear. Now, while we can't make the anxiety go away instantly, we can equip our young people with a powerful, science-backed tool to help them manage it in a healthy way—both in the moment and long-term. It's called the Catch-Cancel-Change tool, and it's a game-changer. In this episode, I'm sharing how this 3-step strategy works, why it's so effective, and how I used it to help my own daughter during one of her toughest struggles with anxiety. By the end of this episode, you'll not only have a proven method to help your young person manage their anxious thoughts, but you'll also have a way to help them build a life skill they can rely on for years to come. You'll learn: (4:07) Why anxiety in kids and teens is more common today and how you can be part of the solution to help them manage it. (5:47) The powerful psychological principle that makes this anxiety tool so powerful (7:41) The secret to stopping anxiety in its tracks—learn how anxious thoughts trigger negative emotions and unhelpful behaviors. (13:38) Step 1: Catching the Thought—how to help your child or teen recognize their unhelpful thoughts before they spiral into anxiety. (19:08) Step 2: Canceling the Thought—why teaching your young person to mentally reject anxious thoughts can break the cycle of anxiety. (26:23) Step 3: Changing the Thought—how to guide your young person to reframe negative thoughts into balanced, positive ones that reduce anxiety. (28:13) Practical examples of how to change anxious thoughts for elementary, middle, and high school students. (32:20) How Catch-Cancel-Change helped my daughter move from feeling stuck to finding balance, and how it can do the same for your young person. (38:38) This tool isn't just for kids—how you can use Catch-Cancel-Change to manage your own stress and anxiety as a parent. (39:42) Your weekly challenge: Use Catch-Cancel-Change with your child or teen this week and try it for yourself—experience the difference in real time. Stop letting anxiety control your household. By the end of this episode, you'll feel empowered with a practical tool that helps your young person manage their anxious thoughts and teaches them a skill that will serve them for life. You'll walk away feeling confident that you can guide them through their toughest moments and give them the emotional resilience they need to thrive. For more parenting support and resources tailored to your needs, check out these options: Join the Modern Parenting Facebook Group Take My Court-Approved Online Parenting Classes Explore My Library of Free Parenting Resources Take My Quiz & Find Out If Your Parenting Style Leans More Traditional, Modern - Or Somewhere In Between!   Resources Mentioned In The Episode: Free PDF Guide: The Ultimate Guide To Making Better Parenting Decisions   Connect With Dr. B: Email: Podcast@ModernParentingSolutions.org Get Daily Education, Inspiration, and Support on Instagram

Do you ever feel like social media influencers, peer groups, or the latest TikTok trends have more sway over your child or teen than you do? Are you worried that your young person's self-esteem, mental health, and habits are being shaped by the world outside your home? If you're nodding right now, friend, you're not alone. Here's the good news: By the end of this episode, you'll feel empowered when I describe a couple of new scientific research studies that prove YOU are your young person's most powerful influencer in their lives—no matter what social media is telling you. You'll walk away knowing exactly how to use that influence to guide your young person toward healthy habits, confidence, and emotional well-being. You'll learn: (3:58) The subtle but powerful ways you're already an influencer in your young person's life—even if you've never posted a TikTok video in your life. (7:54) Empowering research that proves parental influence outshines peer pressure and social media, even during the challenging teenage years. (13:04) Why your “posts” as a parent last longer than any viral video, and how they shape your child's values, self-esteem, and mental health in the long term. (16:00) How social media influencers use consistency to build trust—and how you can use the same strategy to strengthen your connection with your young person.   (22:09) Why it's not about being a perfect parent—but about the small, intentional actions you take daily that truly make a lasting impact. (27:58) Three powerful strategies to reclaim your role as the ultimate influencer—without taking away their phone or isolating them from friends. (36:02) Two Practical, real-life examples of how these strategies work with both young children and teens. (42:45) Your weekly challenge: How you can start strengthening your connection today and build the foundation your young person will rely on for years to come. By the end of this episode, you'll not only feel more confident about your influence as a parent, but you'll also walk away with clear, actionable steps to ensure your voice is the one that matters most. So, are you ready to become your young person's most powerful influencer? Let's get started! Remember: Your influence isn't measured by likes or shares—it's measured by the deep, lasting connection you build every day. Tune in now to reclaim your role as the ultimate influencer in your child or teen's life. For more parenting support and resources tailored to your needs, check out these options: Join the Modern Parenting Facebook Group Take My Court-Approved Online Parenting Classes Explore My Library of Free Parenting Resources Take My Quiz & Find Out If Your Parenting Style Leans More Traditional, Modern - Or Somewhere In Between! Resources Mentioned In The Episode: Free PDF Guide: The Ultimate Guide To Making Better Parenting Decisions Connect With Dr. B: Email: Podcast@ModernParentingSolutions.org Get Involved In The Modern Parenting Facebook Community Get Daily Education, Inspiration, and Support on Instagram

  Boy, I've seen it ALL when it comes to parents—and today, I'm sharing some truths that you NEED to hear! If you've ever felt like you're just not doing this parenting thing right, you're not alone. I get it—I hear this from parents all the time: “Just give me a playbook I can follow.” Well, Friend, that's exactly what I'm doing in this episode. I'm giving you 5 key habits that I've observed over the years—habits that successful parents consistently use to guide their kids and teens toward happy, healthy, motivated young adulthood. These aren't just tips, either; these are habits that will transform the way you parent, giving you a practical playbook to follow in those tough—but common—parenting situations. By the end of this episode, you'll feel empowered, confident, and ready to guide your child or teen through life's challenges with clarity and purpose. You'll walk away with a set of strategies that help you raise a young person who is not just successful but resilient, motivated, and self-assured. These habits work, and I'm excited to share them with you! For more parenting support and resources tailored to your needs, check out these options: Join the Modern Parenting Facebook Group Take My Court-Approved Online Parenting Classes Explore My Library of Free Parenting Resources Take My Quiz & Find Out If Your Parenting Style Leans More Traditional, Modern - Or Somewhere In Between! Connect With Dr. B: Email: Podcast@ModernParentingSolutions.org Get Involved In The Modern Parenting Facebook Community Get Daily Education, Inspiration, and Support on Instagram

You know your child or teen would benefit from an extracurricular—but they flat-out refuse to get involved. Now what? Don't worry, I've got you covered. In this episode, we're tackling one of the toughest parenting challenges: how to motivate a reluctant child or teen to join an extracurricular activity. Whether it's fear of failure, preferring to stay in their "comfort zone", or simply struggling to find their passion, we'll explore the real reasons behind their resistance. I'll also share 4 proven strategies that actually work to help your young person get excited about trying something new. By the end of this episode, you'll have a clear, actionable plan to help your child or teen find an activity they love, build friendships, and grow in confidence. If you're ready to see your child or teen get involved, build friendships, and grow in confidence, then this episode will give you the tools and strategies to make it happen. For more parenting support and resources tailored to your needs, check out these options: Join the Modern Parenting Facebook Group Download the Free Episode Guide Take My Court-Approved Online Parenting Classes Explore My Library of Free Parenting Resources What Kind of Parent Are You? Find Out If Your Parenting Style Leans More Traditional, Modern - Or Somewhere In Between! Connect With Dr. B: Email: Podcast@ModernParentingSolutions.org Get Involved In The Modern Parenting Facebook Community Get Daily Education, Inspiration, and Support on Instagram

  What if I told you that the secret to your child or teen's academic success, confidence, and overall happiness isn't just about their grades -- but about the quality of their friendships? That's right—this episode dives deep into the often-overlooked but absolutely crucial role that friendships play in your young person's school experience. It's easy to think of school as just a place for learning, but what about the social connections that can make or break that experience? If your child or teen has been struggling to find their place among their peers, then this episode is exactly what you've been looking for. Listen, I'm not here to sugarcoat things—there are a lot of reasons why your young person might be having a tough time making and keeping friends. Whether they're shy, dealing with low self-esteem, burned by past friendships, or they seem to make friends easily but can't seem to maintain those connections, there's something here for you. We're going to unpack what's really going on beneath the surface, so you can stop guessing and start knowing how to help. I'm bringing you practical, no-nonsense, research-backed strategies to help your child or teen develop the social skills they need to thrive in any situation. These are the tools that will set them up not just for a better school year, but for a lifetime of meaningful, fulfilling relationships. So, if you're ready to roll up your sleeves and turn things around for your young person, this episode is your roadmap. Let's get started. In This Episode: 2:05: Why your child or teen's social struggles at school might be more than just a phase. 4:30: The truth about online friendships and the real connections your young person needs. 7:12: The unexpected impact of extracurricular activities—why they're more than just hobbies. 10:45: Overcoming the barriers to getting involved: What every parent needs to know. 13:30: Emotional control: The secret to building stronger, lasting friendships. 16:25: How naming emotions can empower your young person socially. 19:05: The power of practice: Creating low-pressure social opportunities that work. 22:50: A simple change that can boost your young person's confidence in social settings. 25:30: Why small social gatherings can have a big impact on your young person's connections. 28:45: Start today: How to turn these ideas into action for a successful school year. Connect With Me: Daily Inspiration on Facebook and Instagram Online Courses: Court-Approved Co-Parenting and Parenting Skills Courses Email Me With Your Questions: Podcast@ModernParentingSolutions.org Take the Quiz: What Kind of Parent Are You? Find Out If Your Parenting Style Leans More Traditional, Modern - Or Somewhere In Between!

 Access The Back-To-School Prep Playlist 7 Resources By Clicking HERE  This episode is a game-changer for busy parents like you.  I know the start of the school year can feel like a whirlwind, but I've got you covered. This isn't just another podcast episode – it's a challenge. I've curated the ultimate back-to-school playlist and packed it with free resources designed to set your family up for success. Imagine a school year free from stress and chaos. Sounds impossible? Think again. Pop on your headphones, print out my specially selected PDFs, and let's transform this year together. This episode is shorter than usual because I want you to take action immediately. Dive in and discover the tools and strategies that will make this school year amazing for your child or teen. Don't miss out on these golden resources. Click play now and start your journey toward a smooth and successful school year. Resources Mentioned: Back-To-School: BTS Prep Playlist & Free Resources Online Courses: Court-Approved Co-Parenting and Parenting Skills Courses Email Me: Podcast@ModernParentingSolutions.org Take the Quiz: What Kind of Parent Are You? Find Out If Your Parenting Style Leans More Traditional, Modern - Or Somewhere In Between! Got back-to-school questions? Worried about your child or teen's lack of motivation for school and life? Email me your questions and I'll answer them. 

Are you experiencing “Back To School Dread”? You know, that sinking feeling that this year will be just a frustrating repeat of the last? This year CAN be different for your child or teen – and it's easier than you think. In this episode, I'll show you how three simple focus areas can transform your entire school year from chaos to calm, from stress to success. These strategies are not just about surviving the school year; they're about making it the best one yet for both you and your child. As a parent, I know you want the best for your kids, and that's why I'm here to share these game-changing tips with you. Trust me, they work. Episode Highlights: (03:12) The hidden secret: Why this time of year brings dread and how to flip the script. (07:25) The first focus area: Discover what every successful school year needs. (13:45) Storytime: How one simple change made a huge difference for a mom and her middle school twins. (21:10) Focus area two: This everyday habit can drastically reduce stress and arguments. (29:35) Real-life example: How a dad transformed his chaotic evenings into peaceful, productive time. (37:50) The final focus area: This often-overlooked step is a game-changer for academic success. Listen in if you're ready for the next chapter of your family's journey. I'm right here cheering you on! :) Resources Mentioned: Free Guide: Solve Your Child or Teen's Sleep Problem Free Resource: How To Help Your Anxious Child Start The New School Year  Online Courses: Court-Approved Co-Parenting and Parenting Skills Courses Email Me: Podcast@ModernParentingSolutions.org Next Episode Recommendation: Episode #25: Everything You Need To Know To Solve Your Child or Teen's Sleep Issues  Episode #42: How Establishing Family Routines and Rituals Can Help You Overcome Overwhelm, Stress, and Disconnection Episode #44: Unlock Your Child's Success: My Five Best Back-To-School Tips For Parents Episode #52: When Your Child or Teen Doesn't Want To Go To School Take the Quiz: What Kind of Parent Are You? Find Out If Your Parenting Style Leans More Traditional, Modern - Or Somewhere In Between! Don't miss this episode—it's the parenting tool you never knew you needed. Tune in now and start transforming your child's life!

What if I told you that you're missing out on a simple parenting hack that could skyrocket your child or teen's motivation, confidence, and mental health? This episode is about to blow your mind and change the way you think about creativity and curiosity in your young person's life. I used to think creativity was something you either had or didn't. I thought the creative genes had skipped me. But guess what? ALL brains are wired to be creative thinkers - and understanding this can transform your parenting game. Creativity isn't just about painting or drawing; it's about problem-solving, adapting to new situations, and thriving in life. In today's episode, I'm breaking down the science behind curiosity and creativity and showing you how these tools can unlock your young person's full potential. You'll learn how to turn everyday moments into opportunities for growth and learning. What You'll Learn: The Science of Curiosity: How curiosity works in the brain and why it's a game-changer. Easy Strategies: Simple, research-backed ways to foster curiosity and creativity at home. Real-Life Tips: Practical advice to create a curiosity-driven environment. In This Episode: 5:33: How the brain is hardwired to be creative. 6:40: Columbia University insights: The brain on curiosity. 8:23: The Duke University study: How Pretending To Be An Art Thief Taught Researchers About Creativity. 13:23: Why curiosity is crucial for your child or teen's development. 22:04: Easy ways to inspire curiosity at home. 28:45: Your weekly challenge—start creating curiosity now. Resources Mentioned: Free eBook: The Ultimate Guide To Igniting Independent Thinking Online Courses: Court-Approved Co-Parenting and Parenting Skills Courses Email Me: Podcast@ModernParentingSolutions.org Next Episode Recommendation: Episode #43: Teaching Your Child or Teen To Think For Themsleves: Cultivating Independent Thinkers Take the Quiz: What Kind of Parent Are You? Find Out If Your Parenting Style Leans More Traditional, Modern - Or Somewhere In Between! Don't miss this episode—it's the parenting tool you never knew you needed. Tune in now and start transforming your child's life!

Why Does My Teen Push Me Away? Do you feel like your tween or teen is pushing you away and you're left wondering why? You're not alone. In this episode, we're diving deep into why your young person might be creating distance and what you can do to rebuild your relationship. You'll feel better after listening to this episode because you'll realize that this situation isn't your fault—and I have the science to prove it! I'll share actionable strategies to help you reconnect with your tween or teen, supported by research and real-life examples. In this episode: 1:55: My personal story with my son Patrick and how our relationship has evolved. 8:29: Understanding why teens push parents away—scientific theories and research explained. 13:45: Common triggers of disconnection. 16:56: Common myths of why this dynamic happens between parent and tween/teen 20:04: Respecting their need for independence and why it's crucial for their development. 21:39: The importance of taking care of yourself during this stressful time. 24:18: Actionable Tips that you can use right NOW to eliminate disconnection 36:13: When to seek family therapy and how it can help rebuild your relationship. 39:44: Your weekly challenge—putting these tips into action and overcoming barriers. You have the power to improve your relationship with your young person. Small, consistent efforts can make a big difference. It might feel tough now, but your dedication and love will shine through! Resources Mentioned: Free eBook: How To Have Difficult Conversations With Your Teen So That You Get Your Point Across & Create a Close Parent-Child Bond Online Parenting Course: Modern Parenting Solutions Courses Next Episode Recommendation: Episode #62: The Secret to Being a Happy Parent: Why Embracing The ‘Gani'n Changes Everything Take the Quiz: What Kind of Parent Are You? Find out if you lean more traditional, modern, or in between by taking my online quiz. I'd love to hear about your experiences or any questions you might have. Share them with me via social media or email, and please share this episode with a parent who needs to hear it. The more we spread these messages, the more we can help other parents build stronger relationships with their kids. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a positive review so other parents can find it too. I would really apprecaite it!

Ever feel like your discipline strategies just aren't working, no matter how hard you try? If I had to guess, I'd say you've experienced moments where your child or teen's behavior seems to spiral out of control, despite your best efforts. Those times when the rules you set are ignored, the consequences don't seem to stick, and you're left feeling frustrated and unsure of what to do next. It's incredibly disheartening, and you might be tempted to throw in the towel or resort to harsher measures. But hold on! Before you do that, you need to listen to this episode! It's completely natural to feel overwhelmed when things don't go your way, but I'm here to tell you, my friend, you don't have to stay stuck in a cycle of ineffective discipline. In today's episode, I'm going to share the 10 crucial clues that your discipline strategy might not be hitting the mark and, more importantly, how to turn things around. In this episode, I'll cover: Why Understanding These Clues is Vital: Knowing what isn't working is the first step to making positive changes. The Common Pitfalls: We'll dive into why certain discipline methods fail and how they can negatively impact your young person's behavior - and your relationship with them. Actionable Tips for Improvement: You'll learn practical strategies to refine your approach and build a more effective discipline strategy. I know this episode is a bit longer than usual, but trust me, you'll want to stick around for the last few clues. We're in the home stretch now, and the insights you'll gain are worth it. Let's keep going and uncover how you can transform your discipline strategy and feel more confident, peaceful, and proud of your parenting journey.

Is your dream family vacation turning into a nightmare of sibling squabbles or teen moodiness? We've all been there – those vacations that were supposed to be great but ended up in misery. This episode is your ticket to transforming those potential disasters into unforgettable, joy-filled adventures. Join me as I share proven strategies to ensure your family vacation is more about bonding and exciting experiences than endless complaints. Discover how to set up this year's family vacation for success with actionable tips tailored for elementary schoolers, middle schoolers, and teens. Let's make this vacation season the best one yet! In today's episode, I'm diving into how to transform those endless days of potential summer slump into a season brimming with growth, connection, and involvement. Here's a sneak peek of what I'll cover: [8:36] Setting the Foundation for a Smooth Vacation: Kickstart your trip on the right foot with essential tips for preparation and setting expectations. [14:52] Tackling Common Vacation Challenges: Address the most frequent vacation hurdles with practical solutions to keep everyone happy. [20:09] Engaging Elementary School Kids: Learn how to make vacations magical and fun for your young children with specific, age-appropriate strategies. [28:26] Balancing Independence and Family Time for Middle Schoolers: Discover ways to give your tweens the independence they crave while ensuring quality family bonding. [36:51] Keeping Teens Invested and Engaged: Find out how to respect your teen's space and interests while encouraging their participation in family activities. [46:04] My Parent Coaching Challenge for You: Take on my special challenge designed to help you plan a successful, stress-free vacation. Tune in and turn your next family vacation into a memorable and positive experience for everyone! If you find this episode helpful, please follow The Modern Parenting Solutions Podcast on your favorite podcast app and share it with other parents. It could be just the resource they need. Got questions about parenting in this modern world? Reach out at podcast@modernparentingsolutions.org. I'm here to help, and your questions might just become the focus of a future episode! Connect with Dr. Becca Ballinger: Follow me on Instagram for daily parenting tips Browse my library of free parenting resources Gain skills by taking my court-approved parenting and co-parenting classes Sign up for my newsletter to get each episode—and its accompanying free guide—emailed directly to you each Monday morning And always remember, Friend, I believe in you. You've got this.  

Is your young person feeling lost, wondering what the point of it all is? In today's episode, we tackle a challenge many parents face: helping their child or teen find a sense of purpose in life. It's all too common for young people to feel like life is just an endless cycle of meaningless tasks: going to work, doing boring work, coming home to pay bills, and then doing it all over again. But it doesn't have to be that way! Many worried parents tell me they fear their child or teen might miss out on learning important morals and a purpose in life without a religious background. This episode will show you that plugging into a sense of purpose can be done with or without a religious framework. Whether your family is connected to a religious community or not, there are powerful, actionable strategies you can use to guide your young person toward a fulfilling and meaningful life. Join me as I share 8 impactful strategies to help your child or teen discover their unique strengths and passions, and learn to connect positively with their community and the world around them. We'll explore: [8:15] Understanding Purpose: Discover what true purpose means and why it's so vital for your young person's well-being. [13:00] The Disconnect: Learn the four key reasons why modern teens may feel disconnected from a sense of purpose and how to address these issues effectively. [19:28] Building Purpose: Dive into seven strategies designed to foster a sense of purpose in your child or teen, helping them see that life is more than just a monotonous routine. This episode is packed with practical advice, heartfelt insights, and encouraging support to help you empower your young person. Don't miss out on these valuable tools that can transform their outlook on life. Tune in now and take the first step towards helping your child or teen live a life full of meaning, joy, and purpose. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to listen to this one: [Episode #35] The Importance of Teaching Your Young Person To Live a Purposeful Life Connect with Dr. Becca Ballinger: Follow me on Instagram for daily parenting tips Browse my library of free parenting resources Gain skills by taking my court-approved parenting and co-parenting classes Sign up for my newsletter to get each episode—and its accompanying free guide—emailed directly to you each Monday morning And always remember, Friend, I believe in you. You've got this.

What if I told you that the reason you often give up on enforcing a household rule with your child or teen is because they're using science against you? And what if, by understanding this science, you could finally stop giving up RIGHT BEFORE they give in? In today's episode, I'll show you why you're giving up too soon when your child or teen pushes back on your rules or boundaries...and your young person was just moments away from complying. There's a game-changing concept that will help any parent successfully implement new boundaries and rules. Once you hear it, you'll wonder how you ever managed without it. This episode will explain why so many parents struggle to follow through with new rules and boundaries and provide the key to achieving lasting behavior change in your child or teen. By the end of today's episode, you'll: Understand the critical concept of the "extinction burst" Recognize the four stages of behavior change Have practical strategies to stay consistent and see positive results Imagine feeling like a confident parent when you know to expect pushback from your child or teen - AND you know how to deal with it in a way that makes it a non-issue. For more resources, including links to additional parenting tips and strategies, click here for the podcast episode page. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to listen to this one: [Episode #63] Redefining Obedience: How To Go From Blind Obedience To Mutual Trust Connect with Dr. Becca Ballinger: Follow me on Instagram for daily parenting tips Browse my library of free parenting resources Gain skills by taking my court-approved parenting and co-parenting classes Sign up for my newsletter to get each episode—and its accompanying free guide—emailed directly to you each Monday morning And always remember, Friend, I believe in you. You've got this.

Today, you'll discover how to stop feeling manipulated by your child or teen using four proven strategies. This episode is a masterclass in understanding and managing emotional manipulation. You'll learn about the science behind why parents get caught in these cycles and, most importantly, how to break free. Dr. Becca Ballinger shares the four key strategies you need to create a peaceful and connected family environment. After listening, you will know exactly what to do to handle your young person's intense emotions, foster better communication, and build a stronger, more supportive relationship. For more resources, click here for the podcast episode page and to download the episode guide. This guide includes a summary of the key points and a worksheet to help you implement the strategies discussed in the episode, making it easier for you to tackle emotional manipulation in your home. Connect with Dr. Becca Ballinger: Follow me on Instagram for daily parenting tips Browse my library of free parenting resources Gain skills by taking my court-approved parenting and co-parenting classes Sign up for my newsletter to get each episode—and its accompanying free guide—emailed directly to you each Monday morning And always remember, Friend, I believe in you. You've got this.

Summer's coming, and I know what you're thinking: How long until I'm secretly wishing for school to start again? This year, I want you to flip the script! Summer isn't just about avoiding the summer ‘brain drain' or surviving until fall—it's your golden opportunity to focus on your child or teen's natural strengths, deepen family bonds, and create those picture-perfect memories -- all while enjoying a well-earned break from academic pressures. If you're wondering how to keep your child or teen off their screens and engaged this summer, then this episode is for you! In today's episode, I'm diving into how to transform those endless days of potential summer slump into a season brimming with growth, connection, and involvement. Here's a sneak peek of what I'll cover: [9:24] Using Summer To Develop Natural Strengths and Interests: Find out how those lazy summer days can become the perfect backdrop for your young person's creativity and exploration. We're turning the dreaded summer slump into a season of growth and self-discovery. [22:46] Connect With Your Child or Teen This Summer: Dive into practical ways to deepen your connection with your child or teen this summer. Whether you're strengthening your connection or building bridges, we're all about making heartwarming memories and shared experiences. [29:54] Setting Up A Successful Summer Routine: Discover the secrets to creating a summer routine that's flexible enough to feel like a break, yet structured enough to keep everyone connected and engaged in worthwhile activities. It's all about balancing enriching activities with the chill vibes of summer. [40:44] Connect With Community This Summer: Learn why reaching out beyond your usual crew of close family and friends is crucial this summer. We'll discuss how fostering community connections and diverse friendships can enrich your young person's social skills and broaden their horizons. Ready to turn this summer from standard to stunning? Press play now, and let's kickstart a season you'll never forget! And if today's episode sparks joy or gives you that 'aha!' moment, consider spreading the love with a quick rating or review on your podcast app. Not only does it help our show, but it also helps other fabulous parents like you discover us. For a complete rundown of today's tips and links to all the resources, be sure to visit the show notes on my website at modernparentingsolutions.org/episode71. Free Guides: Summer Schedule Planner Guide Help Your Child Find Their Passions and Interests Blog Posts: Why Your Teen Needs a Summer Job 6 Steps to Encouraging a Resistant Teen to Get a Summer Job Yes! Your Child and Teen Needs a Summer Sleep Schedule! Here's Why and How To Create One Podcast Episodes: Episode #13: Why Your Teen Needs a Summer Job Episode #16: Yes! Your Child and Teen Needs a Summer Sleep Schedule! Here's Why and How To Create One Episode #17: Challenging Parent-Child Relationship? Try These 6 Strategies To Improve This Important Relationship In Just One Summer Episode #38: Stay Sane This Summer: Summer Strategies For Parents That Build Positive Parent-Child Relationships, Encourage Independence, and Create Lifelong Memories Episode #42: How Establishing Family Routines and Rituals Can Help Modern Parents Overcome Overwhelm, Stress, and Disconnection  

Ever feel like your discipline approach is more of a mess than a success? Let's flip that script! If you're worried about being ineffective, crushing your child or teen's incredible spirit, or if tensions are high - it's time to introduce some PEACE into your routine. My 5-point PEACE plan isn't just about keeping order; it's about empowering your young person with the tools they need to grow into an amazing adult. What if you could discipline in a way that not only promotes good behavior but also brings out your child or teen awesome potential AND strengthens your bond with them?  Here's a snapshot of today's episode: [9:42] Passions, Values, and Beliefs (P): Discover how your personal passions, values, and beliefs shape every parenting decision, acting as a moral compass to navigate parenting challenges with confidence. [20:09] Empathy (E): Learn how practicing empathy in discipline shows your young person their feelings matter, nurturing their growth and strengthening your bond, even in tough moments. [26:00] Autonomy (A): Explore how autonomy, backed by self-determination theory, empowers your young person to make decisions driven by internal motivation, seeing the value in their actions beyond mere compliance. [32:13] Consistency (C): Understand how consistency acts as the glue of your discipline strategy, providing security and clarity that builds trust and sets clear expectations for your child or teen. [36:15] Educating Life Lessons (E): Realize how transforming every disciplinary moment into a teaching opportunity can impart vital life lessons, making discipline a constructive and educational experience that extends beyond mere correction. The PEACE plan goes beyond traditional discipline. It's designed to ensure that your approach doesn't just demand respect but inspires it, cultivating a relationship where your young person feels valued and understood. To help you implement this transformative strategy, I've prepared two free resources: “Empower Your Parenting with PEACE: A Step-by-Step Guide to Effective and Loving Discipline” and the “50 Life Lessons Every Modern Kid Should Know by the Time They Graduate from High School” checklist. These guides are packed with actionable tips and insightful exercises tailored to fit your unique family dynamics. Join me as we explore each facet of the PEACE plan, giving you the tools to not only manage behavior effectively but to enhance your relationship with your child or teen. Remember, I believe in you. You've got this! FREE RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE: Empower Your Parenting with PEACE: A Step-by-Step Guide to Effective and Loving Discipline 50 Life Lessons Every Modern Kid Should Know by the Time They Graduate from High School CONTINUE YOUR PARENTING JOURNEY: Free Parenting Reseouce Library Court-Approved Parenting Classes Court-Approved Co-Parenting Classes

Think setting boundaries is just about laying down the law? Let's flip that idea on its head. In this episode, I'm diving into something truly eye-opening—the reciprocal nature of boundaries. This isn't your typical chat about rules and limits. It's about understanding that when you teach your child or teen to respect others' boundaries, you empower them to expect and receive the same respect in return. In this powerful episode, I unpack how recognizing and respecting boundaries can dramatically improve your child or teen's self-esteem, confidence, and their ability to forge strong, positive relationships. Here's what I've got lined up: [5:50] What Are Boundaries: We're going beyond the basics here. [8:54] The 5 Types of Boundaries: Some of these might really surprise you! [17:06] The Big Payoff: How respecting boundaries reshapes self-respect and why it's a game-changer for your child's development. [20:00] Where Parents Miss the Mark: It's easy to do—we'll tackle how to avoid common pitfalls. [24:28] Tips and Tactics: Straight-up strategies to effectively teach and uphold boundaries that work both ways. Ready to see boundaries in a whole new light? This episode is packed with actionable insights that can transform not just your approach to parenting but also improve how your family interacts every single day. Can I aks you for a favor? Make sure to follow The Modern Parenting Solutions Podcast on your favorite podcast app and share this episode with other parents—it might just be the breakthrough they need. And if you find today's tips helpful, I'd really appreciate a quick, positive review on your podcast app - that would be amazing, Friend :) Let me help you on your parenting journey: Got questions or want to share a win? Email me anytime at podcast@modernparentingsolutions.org—I love hearing from you and your story could inspire our next topic. Check out my court-appproved co-parenting and parenting skills online courses: https://modernparentingsolutions.org/courses/ I also have a free parent resource library that can answer a lot of your parenting questions: https://modernparentingsolutions.org/parentresources/

You asked...and I answered. After last week's episode, many of you wrote to me to tell me that you wanted to use the strategies discussed in the last episode, but you're dealing with a VERY unmotivated child or teen. Well...consider that problem solved! In today's episode, I dive deep into 4 strategies for igniting a lasting spark of motivation in your young person - helping them not just survive but thrive in these critical final weeks of the school year. This isn't just about pushing for better grades; it's about empowering your child or teen with confidence, resilience, and a sense of accomplishment. Join me as I guide you through actionable, engaging strategies that are easy to implement and designed to make an immediate impact: [6:08] Quick Overview of Motivation: Understand the crucial differences between internal and external motivation, and why knowing these can change how you approach motivating your young person. [13:00] Strategy #1: Strategize Together on What Needs To Be Done: Learn how collaborating with your child or teen on a game plan can make them feel invested and motivated. [17:05] Strategy #2: Make It A Joint Effort: Discover how actively participating in your young person's academic efforts can transform their motivation and deepen your relationship. [21:38] Strategy #3: Make It Fun: Find out how adding elements of fun to study sessions can dramatically improve your young person's attitude towards learning. [25:03] Strategy #4: Repeat Important Messages: See how consistent messages can build resilience and foster a mindset geared towards growth and success. And for those looking to dive even deeper, I've created 'The Comeback Kid Masterclass' – a comprehensive, two-hour course designed to provide you with all the tools you need to help your young person end the year on a high note. This masterclass includes bite-sized, enjoyable videos and personalized worksheets tailored to your family's needs. You can access this invaluable resource by visiting modernparentingsolutions.org/comebackkid. Let's tackle these final weeks with a strategy that not only boosts academic performance but also builds lasting life skills. Thank you for joining me today. If you find this episode useful, please follow The Modern Parenting Solutions Podcast on your favorite podcast app and share it with other parents. It could be just the resource they need. If you have any questions about parenting in this modern world, feel free to reach out at podcast@modernparentingsolutions.org. I'm here to help, and your questions might just become the focus of a future episode!

Feeling like it's too late to turn your child or teen's school year around? Think again! Discover the inspiring story of how I helped a family transform their sons' academic paths, boosting grades, confidence, and attitudes with only weeks to spare. In this episode, I weave the journey of working with this family into a powerful narrative, showing you why NOW is the perfect time to kick it into high gear and help your child or teen finish strong. Learn how taking action in these final weeks can not only give your young person the confidence boost they desperately need - but also set them on a trajectory that positively impacts their life for years to come. Don't miss this chance to turn the school year around and lay the groundwork for future success! Check out 'The Comeback Kid' Masterclass Here

If you were raised by a narcissist parent, then this episode is your key to breaking the cycle and forging a healthier, more joyful parenting path. In today's episode, I dive into a topic that hits close to home for many: overcoming the impact of being raised by a narcissistic parent. This journey is about more than understanding your past; it's about reshaping your future as a parent. Join me as I guide you through a powerful 10-step process (plus a bonus step) designed to help you move forward as a happier individual and a more effective parent. These steps aren't theoretical - they're actionable and rooted in real-life application. In this episode, I cover: [13:29] 4 Common Struggles: Uncover the often silent but profound challenges faced by those raised by narcissistic parents and how these 'battle wounds' might be affecting you - without your realizing it. [18:04] 5 Ways a Narcissistic Upbringing Shapes Your Parenting: Discover how the shadows of your past might be unconsciously influencing your approach to parenting -  and what you can do about it. [23:54] The 10 Steps: Join me in the heart of the episode where we'll walk together through the 10 steps of healing the past, savoring your present, and looking forward to a future you can be proud of because you broke the cycle of narcissism. It's a journey that ensures your child or teen will never have to endure what you did, setting the stage for a legacy of healthy, loving relationships. And here's something special for you - the Episode Guide: 'Reclaiming Parenthood After a Narcissistic Upbringing.' Download and print out the episode guide to use as your personal companion while you listen. This guide will help you organize the steps, take notes to personalize each one, and deeply engage with the reflection questions included. It's a valuable tool for thoroughly thinking through each aspect of your journey.  

You cannot afford to miss today's episode. I'm about to share insights that could dramatically shift your perspective on one of the biggest decisions facing your family: the journey to and through college for your teen. In a world where the value of a traditional college education is being questioned more than ever before, understanding the right path for your teen has never been more critical. Whether you're navigating the financial implications of student loans, considering the impact of chosen majors on future employment, or exploring alternatives to the conventional college route... This episode delivers the guidance and tools you need to support your teen in making decisions that align with their strengths, passions, and the realities of today's job market. If you're tired of the uncertainty and ready to take a proactive step towards planning your teen's future, this is the episode for you. And the time to listen is now. Show Notes with Time Stamps: [7:47] Unveiling the Study: Dive into the groundbreaking findings of the "Talent Disrupted" Report, which sheds light on the realities of underemployment among college graduates and the pivotal role of internships and major selection in shaping career paths. [21:18] The Evolution of College Conversations: Explore how dialogues around college have transformed. I'll dissect the shift from viewing college as the sole path to success to understanding it as one of many tools available to your teen as they carve out their future. [29:14] Four Actionable Tips: Equip yourself with four powerful strategies to help your teen make the most of their college experience—or decide if an alternative path might better serve their ambitions. From reverse engineering their career path to embracing real-world experiences, these tips are designed to prepare your teen for success, regardless of the route they choose. Take the Quiz: Is College The Right Path For Your Teen? Before you go, I highly encourage you to take our online quiz, "Is College The Right Path For Your Teen?" It's a thought-provoking tool designed to help you and your teen assess the best educational journey for them, based on their interests, strengths, and career aspirations. The insights you'll gain are invaluable in navigating this pivotal decision together. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Rate, Review, & Follow On Your Podcast Platform ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ Did today's episode open up new perspectives on navigating your teen's educational and career journey? If so, I'd deeply appreciate your feedback. Your reviews not only fill me with joy but also help connect more parents with the guidance and insights we share here. Simply click here, scroll to the bottom, tap those five stars, and let me know which part of today's discussion really resonated with you! Don't skip a beat on future episodes that promise more enlightening stories and strategies tailored for you and your teen's journey. Press 'Follow' on your podcast app to stay updated. Trust me, with what we have lined up, you'll want to tune in to every episode. Hit follow, and let's continue this journey of learning and growth together!

If you're a parent, you've likely pondered over how to best prepare your child or teen for the world beyond school walls. You might even feel the pressure mounting as you wonder how to tackle this monumental task. But what if I told you that embedding essential life skills for your child or teen into your daily routine could be straightforward, impactful, and might not require a complete overhaul of your family life? The secret? Integrating life skills education into everyday moments! I'm thrilled to have you join me as I dive into a topic close to every parent's heart: equipping kids and teens with the life skills they'll need to thrive once they graduate from high school. This isn't just about getting by; it's about setting them up for true success and independence. With the landscape of adulthood evolving rapidly, the traditional milestones for young adults are shifting. This episode is designed to light the way for parents navigating these changes, providing you with actionable strategies and insights to make life skills education an enriching part of your family's routine.

Ever found yourself at a loss when your tried-and-true phrase 'because I said so' falls flat with your child or teen? You're not alone. As parents, we've all been there, stuck in the cycle of demanding obedience without truly connecting with our young person. It's a frustrating, often ineffective method that leaves both parties feeling misunderstood. But what if I told you there's a better way? In today's episode, I unpack the shift from blind obedience to a more meaningful, trust-based approach to discipline—one that fosters critical thinking and genuine understanding between you and your young person. It's about moving beyond the surface-level commands and diving into the heart of what makes a respectful, cooperative family dynamic truly work.

Is that all the progress you've made? If you've sometimes had this thought about your child or teen, then today's episode is a must-listen! Today's episode is all about turning that thought on its head, using a concept called the Gap and the Gain. This is a mindset strategy that's easy to use - and packs a HUGE punch too! This strategy shows you how being in the 'Gap' mindset leads you to feeling frustrated with your young person's progress, while the 'Gain' mindset allows you to acknowledge their "small but mighty wins' -  relieving you of stress and frustration and SUPERSIZING your young person's motivation to succeed!

Navigating the journey of parenting a child or teen who feels "different" from their peers is a topic close to my heart. If you've ever found yourself wondering how to support your young person's unique qualities, or how to empower them to embrace their individuality - this episode is crafted especially for you. In today's heartfelt discussion, I'm opening up about my own experiences of feeling different and how those moments have shaped the person and parent I am today. Through sharing my story, I aim to inspire you and provide actionable strategies that can help your child or teen thrive in a world that often favors conformity.

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Click HERE to get the Episode Guide. Has a parenting mistake left you feeling guilty and unsure about how to move forward? You're not alone. This episode is all about understanding that mistakes are a part of the parenting journey. It's not about being perfect; it's about learning, growing, and recovering from those missteps. Today, we're focusing on how you can heal, forgive yourself, and improve your relationship with your young person after a mistake.

Transform Your Young Person's Motivation: The 4-Stage Journey to Self-Driven Success! Are you watching your child or teen meander through life with minimal drive? It's time to turn the tide! In this pivotal episode of The Modern Parenting Solutions Podcast, I unveil the final secret to unlocking your young person's independent self-motivation. Discover the science-backed 4-stage journey that promises not just a fleeting change, but a transformative shift in your young person's approach to life. Say goodbye to external incentives and welcome a new era of intrinsic drive. After this episode, you'll be equipped to guide your child or teen towards a future brimming with self-initiated success and fulfillment. In this episode, you'll learn: [5:22] Transformative Story: Dive into a real-life coaching success story demonstrating the life-changing impact of the 4-part self-motivation success journey. [9:10] Motivation Series Recap: A quick review of parts 1-2, laying the groundwork for today's deep dive. [13:45] Journey Overview: Grasp the essence of the self-motivation journey and its transformative potential. [16:44] Stage 1: Learn the initial steps to kindle your child or teen's motivation. [24:35] Stage 2: Discover how to evolve from external drivers to personal accountability and pride. [33:31] Stage 3: Unravel the shift towards aligning activities with personal values and passions. [40:39] Stage 4: Witness the culmination of the journey where your young person's motivation becomes a true reflection of their identity. Remember, you are not just a spectator in your young person's life - you're a catalyst for their growth and success. By understanding and applying the insights from today's episode, you can profoundly influence their journey towards self-motivation and achievement. Remember, every young person has a reservoir of untapped potential; it's time to unlock it!

Are you puzzled by what truly motivates your child or teen? This episode is a game-changer in understanding and harnessing their unique motivational powers! Discover the seven motivation personality types and identify which one resonates with your young person. This isn't just about learning these types; it's about transforming your approach to parenting. By recognizing your young person's motivation personality, you can apply effective, tailored strategies to strengthen their 'Motivation Muscle,' setting the stage for a happy and successful future.

Are you struggling with the challenge of motivating a child or teen who doesn't seem to respond to the traditional rewards, such as extra screen time or taking away their cell phone? You're not alone, and this episode is your guiding light to transform your approach to your child's motivation.

Feeling overwhelmed by your young person's lack of motivation? Struggling to inspire them to reach their full potential? If you're nodding along, desperate for a change, this episode is your beacon of hope! You're not alone, and today's episode is the first in a series dedicated to revolutionizing your approach to your child's motivation. Get ready to embark on a journey that promises to transform not just this semester, but potentially the entire academic trajectory of your young person.

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From School Refusal to Ready & Willing: Dive Deep into Why Some Young People Say 'No' and How You Can Guide Them to a Consistent 'Yes'!  Tired of the morning battles? Feeling defeated with every "I don't want to go to school"? Frustrated because it's been a recurring pattern? You're not alone. Whether it's a recent challenge or you've been facing it for years, this episode is for you. This week's episode will uncover the heart of school refusal and give you the tools you need to address it effectively.

Ready to feel like you're part of a supportive parenting community? This episode is like sitting down for coffee with me and other like-minded parents, all of us sharing our most pressing questions and finding real solutions together. Trust me, you're not alone on this journey, and today's episode proves it!

Feel like you're walking a tightrope between modern and traditional parenting? Maybe you're not even sure which side you lean towards? Well, hold onto your earbuds, because this episode is packed with the tools you need to nail parenting in the modern world—no matter what your style is!

Ever find yourself deep in the trenches, navigating the complicated world of your young person's mental health? Don't worry; you're not alone, and this episode is here to help you breathe easier! Join me in a groundbreaking episode where I crack open the lid on the recent surge of mental health self-diagnosis trends sweeping through social media platforms. Trust me, it's an eye-opener you won't want to miss!

Ever feel like you're constantly putting out fires at home because your young person struggles with self-control? You're not alone, and the good news is, there's a solution! In this episode, I dive deep into the transformative power of teaching self-control skills to your young person. And I'm not just talking about resisting a marshmallow here (remember the classic Stanford Marshmallow Experiment?); we're talking about life-changing benefits that will make your family environment happier, more peaceful, and yes, less stressful for you! Whether your young person is a toddler or a teen, or even if they struggle with attention issues like ADHD, this episode is packed with actionable tips and strategies to set them—and you—up for success. We'll cover different types of self-control, from impulse control to emotional regulation, and give you the tools to implement these lessons at home. And here's the cherry on top: To make it super easy for you to put these insights into action, I've created a FREE homework helper that complements this episode. It's designed to guide you through the journey of instilling self-control in your young person, complete with exercises tailored to your family's unique dynamics.

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Ever wondered if your child's stubborn streak could actually be a budding spark of independent thinking that, if nurtured correctly, could shape them into a confident, innovative adult? OR… Have you ever found yourself frustrated by your child's constant indecisiveness, questioning if this could impact their ability to navigate the world confidently and independently as they grow? In this episode, you'll learn why it's not only important – but essential – to cultivate independent thought processes in your child or teen from a young age. I'll debunk the common misconceptions that independent thinking equates to disobedience or rebellion, and instead, showcase how it's a key to success in the rapidly evolving modern world. Here's what's in store for you: Uncover the latest scientific insights into the positive impacts of independent thinking in young people. Learn the risks and repercussions if your young person doesn't develop this essential life skill. Understand the difference between independence and defiance – and why it matters. Get practical, science-backed strategies to foster your young person's natural curiosity and problem-solving abilities. But wait, there's more! To help you put these strategies into action, I've created a free resource called “The Ultimate Guide to Igniting Independent Thinking.” This guide complements this podcast episode and is designed to provide you with actionable steps to nurture your young person's independent thinking skills. Download your free copy today and join the ranks of other parents raising independent, forward-thinking young adults. Remember, you're not just raising a child; you're raising a future adult who will make meaningful contributions to the world. Let's do it right, together! A Small Favor To Ask If you find value in this episode or any of my previous episodes, could you take a quick moment to rate and review the show on the Apple Podcast app? Your feedback helps me reach more parents like you and to continuously provide quality content. Links Mentioned in This Episode: The Ultimate Guide to Igniting Independent Thinking – Your free resource to help your child embrace their independence. Want more info on Modern Parent? Check out the great resources below… FREE PARENT RESOURCE LIBRARY: Click HERE to download my free parenting resources NEWSLETTER: Click HERE to join my email newsletter and be the first to be notified of enrollment for the Self-Motivation Success Academy ONLINE PARENTING CLASSES: Check out our 100% court-approved classes by clicking HERE. Got a question for me? I'd love to answer it! Email me your question at podcast@ModernParentingSolutions.org *** Follow me on social media, where you get daily tips, inspiration, and connection.  Facebook | Instagram | Pinterest  

Parents confide in me all the time that they're tired, overwhelmed by all of the tasks screaming to get done on their to-do list -- and that they feel like they don't get enough time to be with their family. But what if I told you that there is ONE SIMPLE parenting strategy that could not only help you feel more peaceful and give you more time with your family, but it also makes your child or teen a better person too? You might be surprised to learn that all you have to do is to make sure you're using family routines and rituals. What are family routines and rituals? How EASY are they to create? And why are there so many benefits to using them? Listen to this episode to find out. Here's a snapshot of what you'll learn: [1:30] How my family routines and rituals (particularly two recent ones) have helped me stay close and connected with my family [4:38] What exactly a family routine is - and you'll get examples too! [9:38] How family rituals differ from routines — but they're just as important! Do I still need to convince you that you need family routines and rituals NOW? Ok. Let's explore what science says about them... [13:50] Research says that routines and rituals bring us closer as a family - they are associated with marital satisfaction, adolescents' sense of personal identity, and stronger family relationships [15:10] More research studies show that consistent routines and rituals help young people manage their day-to-day stress  [19:15] Got a child or teen with sleep issues? Research also says that young people with routines and rituals get more - and better quality - sleep [21:00] Got a child or teen with ADHD symptoms? Routines and rituals can help with that too! [24:10] Routines and rituals have also been shown to help young people navigate intense stressors (i.e. parental divorce, family or pet death, moving to a new city, etc.) a lot easier [27:10] Finally, my own observation: family routines and rituals are one of the best ways to teach -- and model -- important life lessons Now that you know you need some good family routines and rituals, how do you start them? [29:00] My 5 steps to creating GREAT family routines and rituals that bring peace, connection, and organization to the family Finally, I know you LOVE examples, so... [32:40} Example #1: creating a new family routine using all 5 steps [36:10] Example #2: Creating a "loose" and casual family routine                                                                         *** Want more info on Modern Parent? Check out the great resources below… FREE PARENT RESOURCE LIBRARY: Click HERE to download my free parenting resources NEWSLETTER: Click HERE to join my email newsletter and be the first to be notified of enrollment for the Self-Motivation Success Academy ONLINE PARENTING CLASSES: Check out our 100% court-approved classes by clicking HERE. Got a question for me? I'd love to answer it! Email me your question at podcast@ModernParentingSolutions.org *** Follow me on social media, where you get daily tips, inspiration, and connection.  Facebook | Instagram | Pinterest  

Here is part 2 of my series on parenting young people with anxiety. The previous episode and this episode gives you (in detail) my 4-step Anxiety Management Plan. I teach this plan to all the families that I work with in my private practice - so I know it works! Here's the plan: Step 1: Identify the anxiety triggers Step 2: Rate the anxiety Step 3: Use coping skills as necessary Step 4: Use cognitive reframe skills as necessary Confused? Need more detail on how to use coping skills and cognitive reframe skills? Then tune in to the episode to learn exactly how to coach your young person through each step of the plan so that they learn that they are in control of their anxiety - not the other way around. Timestamp: [1:31] Quick discussion on a new research study on kids, empathy...and art museums? [9:00] Overview of Step 2 - rate the anxiety [24:15] Overview of Step 3 - use coping skills as necessary [31:14] Overview of Step 4 - use cognitive reframe skills as necessary [38:40] TWO examples of how to coach a young person through all 4 steps of the anxiety management plan For an explanation of why some young people struggle with anxiety and an overview of step 1, tune into Episode #40. Got a question for me? I'd love to answer it! Email me your question at podcast@ModernParentingSolutions.org                                                                         *** Want more info on Modern Parent? Check out the great resources below… FREE RESOURCE: How To Talk To Your Child or Teen About Their Anxiety FREE RESOURCE: 50 Examples of Turning Common Negative Thoughts Into Positive Ones NEWSLETTER: Click HERE to join my email newsletter and be the first to be notified of enrollment for the Self-Motivation Success Academy ONLINE PARENTING CLASSES: Check out our 100% court-approved classes by clicking HERE. *** Follow me on social media, where you get daily tips, inspiration, and connection.  Facebook | Instagram | Pinterest    

Tired of feeling helpless when your young person experiences an anxious episode? Whether parenting a young child or teenager, the strategies I talk about today will help you feel confident in supporting your young person through their anxiety. It may not be possible to eliminate your young person's anxiety for them, but you can help them learn how to manage and take charge of it, rather than letting anxiety control their life. The topic of young people and anxiety is a BIG one - and I want to be as helpful as possible - so I've broken this topic into two different podcast episodes. Today's episode will give you the background knowledge about young people and anxiety that you'll need to be effective when working with your young person. You'll leave this episode with an understanding of WHY some young people struggle with anxiety - what causes it and why it's so hard to “fix” overnight. I'll also introduce you to my 4 step system for working with a young person during an anxious episode. Not only do I teach this system to the parents who come to me for help at my Southern California practice, but I've used it over and over again with my daughter when she struggled with anxiety. Then, this episode will end with talking about the first step in the system which is all about identifying - and working with - the triggers that cause your young person's anxiety. You'll definitely leave the episode feeling like you now have a game plan in helping your young person overcome their anxiety instead of helplessly watching them struggle each time they go through an anxious episode. [7:59] The reasons why some young people struggle with anxiety while others don't [9:38] The three factors that create anxiety [13:59] The four types of anxiety: which one describes your young person's anxiety the best? [20:14] The symptoms of anxiety in young children  [21:44] The symptoms of anxiety in tweens and teens [24:32] The 4-step anxiety action plan [25:58] Step 1: Identifying triggers (what are they anyway?) [27:17] The three types of triggers that you need to be aware of [29:12] Should your young person avoid their anxious triggers OR tackle them head-on? Then, in the next episode, I'll dive into steps 2-4 of the anxiety system, where I'll teach you about coping skills, reframing anxious thoughts into empowering thoughts, and everything else you'll need to teach your young person to take control over their anxiety instead of allowing their anxiety to control them. My primary objective while assisting young individuals with anxiety is to empower them with the knowledge that they hold the reins of control over their anxiety. This is contrary to the false belief that anxiety controls their lives. I think that you'll see how the plan that I give to you in this episode - and further discuss in the next episode - will give your young person the blueprint they need to take control over their emotions. And BONUS - you'll now know how to support and coach them into using the system when they experience anxiety. Got a question for me? I'd love to answer it! Email me your question at podcast@ModernParentingSolutions.org                                                                         *** Want more info on Modern Parent? Check out the great resources below… FREE RESOURCE: How To Talk To Your Child or Teen About Their Anxiety FREE RESOURCE: The Ultimate Guide To Making Better Parenting Decisions NEWSLETTER: Click HERE to join my email newsletter and be the first to be notified of enrollment for the Self-Motivation Success Academy ONLINE PARENTING CLASSES: Check out our 100% court-approved classes by clicking HERE. *** Follow me on social media, where you get daily tips, inspiration, and connection.  Facebook | Instagram | Pinterest    

Get ready for some parenting inspiration and support on today's Thursday Thoughts episode! As you know, my goal for the podcast is to provide education, inspiration, and support for all you Modern Parents out there (and...YES!...you are a Modern Parent if you are raising wonderful young people in today's modern world!).  My Sunday episodes are primarily used to provide specific education on a parenting strategy or technique, but my Thursday Thoughts episodes are all about the inspiration and support aspect of the work that I do with you. On today's episode: [0:00] Hello and a tidbit about my parenting [4:25] I review the report just released by the American Psychological Association (APA) that outlines 7 important recommendations to help parents raise young people with a healthy relationship with social media  [15:32] I answer a listener's question about teens and online romantic relationships  [21:42] I answer a listener's question about how to create a smart summertime schedule when the parents work outside the home (I have a lot of experience with this, as I was a working parent while my kids were young) [31:57] I let you in on my recent introspection on my own parenting. Because I've been talking about taking time to reflect on how I parented now that both my son and daughter are going through graduations, I received a listener question about what I would do over if I could. I open up and give you a specific instance with my son that I wish I had handled differently. OK...I hope this episode gives you the inspiration, validation, and support you need to be the best parent possible for your young person AND so that you feel like you are (mostly) doing this parenting thing right :) Got a question for me? I'd love to answer it! Email me your question at podcast@ModernParentingSolutions.org                                                                         *** Want more info on Modern Parent? Check out the great resources below… FREE RESOURCE: The Ultimate Guide To Making Better Parenting Decisions FREE RESOURCE: Contract Between Parent and Child For Social Media Use FREE RESOURCE: Summer Schedule Planner                                                                         *** THE SELF-MOTIVATION SUCCESS ACADEMY: Need more support in helping your child or teen master self-motivation? Then check out our online course for parents – The Self-Motivation Success Academy. NEWSLETTER: Click HERE to join my email newsletter and be the first to be notified of enrollment for the Self-Motivation Success Academy ONLINE PARENTING CLASSES: Check out our 100% court-approved classes by clicking HERE. PARENT COACHING: Want to work with me one-on-one? Click HERE to find out more. *** Follow me on social media where you get daily tips, inspiration, and connection.  Facebook | Instagram | Pinterest  

So last week I gave you strategies to help you create a great summer for your young person...but this week I'm giving you strategies to help YOU have a great summer. Yes! YOU MATTER TOO! My goal for this episode is to give you practical strategies to help you stay sane this summer - I don't want you counting down the weeks...days...hours...until it's time to send your young person off to school again. To do that,I go over 6 common misconceptions that I hear from parents every summer, and I address these misconceptions with strategies that will allow you to enjoy every minute of your summer with your family. I've found that parents experience unwanted frustration when their expectations for summer vacation don't match up with the reality of it. This can lead to disappointment and annoyance - as well as missed opportunities to create lasting memories and strengthen family relationships.  In today's episode, you'll discover: [0.00] A personal story about how I used the strategies discussed on my podcast to nurture and guide my own son and daughter [10:47] The main reason behind summer burnout for parents [15:09] Common Misconception #1: Your young person will independently choose to spend their time on worthwhile activities instead of screens [19:54] Common misconception #2: Your young person will be so happy and stress-free during the summer that they'll behave and not have any meltdowns, teenage tantrums, or any other annoying moody episodes. [25:40] Common Misconception #3: Your young person will be so happy that it's summertime that they'll never get bored. [31:45] Common Misconception #4: You have to spend ALL your free time being with your young person, entertaining them, or ensuring they have the perfect summer [34:41] Common Misconception #5: Summer is a waste of time for your young person - they become lazy slobs and forget everything they learned over the school year. [38:53] Common Misconception #6: Your summertime is characterized by stress, tension, and arguments between you and your young person Want more info on Modern Parent? Check out the great resources below… PAST PODCAST EPISODES: Episode #15 & Episode #16 BLOG POST: Hip Hip Hooray For Summertime Boredom FREE RESOURCE: Solve Your Child or Teen's Sleep Problems FREE RESOURCE: Summer Schedule Planner FREE RESOURCE: The Summer Sleep and Wake Routine Worksheet                                                                      *** THE SELF-MOTIVATION SUCCESS ACADEMY: Need more support in helping your child or teen master self-motivation? Then check out our online course for parents – The Self-Motivation Success Academy. NEWSLETTER: Click HERE to join my email newsletter and be the first to be notified of enrollment for the Self-Motivation Success Academy ASK ME A QUESTION OR BE ON THE SHOW: Send me an email at Podcast@ModernParentingSolutions.org and tell me about your Modern Parenting challenge. You might be a great fit for me to work with you on a future episode