The Edge of Fear Podcast

After a 7-month break.... What is necessary for happiness? Being yourself..  (not regurgitate words of others) Growth & challenges.. Not being a miserable fuck. Sense of personal responsibility Follow calls of own body, morals, values What are you doing to challenge you? To better you? ...Being happy matters so you may be in a better state of mind, bring a better you to contribute to community. References: The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin Do Less by Kate Northrup.

Melissa Mortimer is an intuitive healer, psychic medium and spiritual coach. She incorporates multiple modalities to provide an empowering space for healing, spiritual growth & sacred self-discovery. @mindfullymelissa shares her story on today's very Taurus ep about coming home to herself after taking leaps of faith & believing in what she wanted. Melissa explains how Reiki impacted her journey & how honored she is to guide others embodying what we uniquely are. Follow her on Instagram for access to her workshops + coaching.

Nicole talks with Liz about sobriety in her journey and how it impacted her confidence, ability to pay attention to herself and others and prosper in her business and life. Liz relates this to her own year of sobriety while deployed (how this catalyst self-awareness, social skills & coping without the crutch of weed and booze). We chat about how when you learn to love yourself and see the world through a new lens, people are naturally drawn in. Find Nicole on IG @thenicolevillani

Defining ourselves through external factors vs getting clear with our own wants and needs. Redefining our beliefs and values when they become limiting (all gained through self-awareness). Giving compassion to ourselves when things are difficult and accepting what is, acting on what we accept. Ana is a Speaker, a Clarity and Confidence Empowerment Coach, and the creator of Empowered by Self-Love. Find her @ana_merced_ on IG, FB, or her website, www.anamerced.com References: Edge of Fear Pod Ep 52: The Love Yourself Challenge. Book Kamal Ravikant - Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It

Being present (and facing your emotions instead of just numbing) even in the thick of it. Not waiting until next week, next year, the next season of life to be happy, because there will be hardships in that chapter too. Sharing vulnerably, especially when it's uncomfortable, and how exchanging ideas facilitates us thinking differently. Stop talking to shitty people. Be the light & love yourself, but you gotta put good stuff in your ears, or you become shitty.

How has dieting effected us as a society? "Compulsive eating... is a way we leave our self when life gets hard." If we've all hit this pandemic wall, and are still not sure when regular socializing will happen again, how can we connect more deeply within the constraints and activities of what we're already doing? Sit with it. Speak it. Feel it. References: Women, Food and God - by Geneen Roth The Edge of Fear, Ep. 75 - Moving the Needle Forward with Jennifer Watson

MUST LISTEN EPISODE. In this conversation, Jennifer Watson gives us evidence of times slowing down and becoming self-aware has helped to drive us forward. She gives us some of the tools to use those tactics to push our own needle forward in our dreams and purpose, and how to lead a life filled with more flow, ease, and joy. Go-go-go hasn't been working! It's time to try something new. Find her @jenniferwatsonleadership on IG or on LinkedIn

Abundance v scarcity mentality. Uncomfortable situations and conversations. Just exactly how MANY feelings there are, and how heavy. The female cycle and its alignment - empowering to learn about. Spark Joy - deciding anything = trusting intuition - Have practices and set boundaries to learn how. References: The Broken Brain Podcast @drstephanieestima Book: Taking Charge of Your Fertility The Edge of Fear Podcast: Ep34 - Daniela Arrango @iamdanielaarango Ep 63 - Sara Chizek @thesarachizek

The confidence that comes from committing to yourself and keeping the promise. Being kind and loving towards ourselves and others when it's the hardest to do so.  One size fits all mentality? Not really real. Everything (from skincare to relationships to how we learn), every single thing in our unique life is going to be individual to us. Listen to books and podcasts about what MIGHT work, but know you MUST try different things to find what works for you. It's hard to be an adult. But we can do it.

Pen to paper & keeping a notebook by your bed Keeping promises to ourselves (a 20-minutes-per-day challenge since the last ep and the results in just a week) Release the need for control - control is of a scarcity and fear mindset! Let whatever is in your life JUST BE. Let yourself be there instead of trying to control it. Pour love into our darkest spaces - The Insight Timer App- Practicing Gentle Kindness Towards Ourselves, meditation by Sarah Blondin Showing up for yourself for the sake of showing up, even when you don't feel like being good to yourself.

Welcome back for Season 3! Chaos isn't over because of inauguration day. The chaos is us. Consistency is the word. Let's show up for ourselves this year. W/ real, tangible change thru micro habits and work. Anger = fear/scarcity. We desire belonging! Having a shared enemy feels like purpose, but it's BS. Give people the benefit of the doubt. Give self more credit, love your people better. Show gratitude and love for what you have today - see if you show up differently. Love you - thanks for being here

Renee explains her recent work on roles, relationships, and rituals for women and explains what they mean based on her decades of experience in this arena. She defines how these elements either encourage us to step into our full power or prevent us from doing so, and she provides the path for us to get really clear on where we're at so that we may CHOOSE life.  Find Renee at .@reneendineen www.authenticinaction.com www.reneedineen.com

Liz tells about the 6 day giveaway happening on the show with guests from this season. Liz and Sammy chat about the importance of learning to accept your true self... with or without the help of editing and filters. We discuss the challenges posed by the year 2020 and how the strangeness of it all can be cause for introspection. How the right person brings out the best in you and encourages and supports you, wherever you are at any given moment.

5-minute daily meditation ritual to take on holiday stress: difference in patience, gratitude and overall clarity. Giving myself grace about caring about my diet in the way I currently am in this season of life. I want to fuel myself for a long and healthy life; it's okay to want to educate myself on that, and it's okay if I don't always apply it. Accepting myself in my current state, accepting my desire to learn more, and still listening to my inner knowing and intuition throughout. References: Superhuman by Dave Asprey; Limitless by Jim Kwik; Hyperfocus by Chris Bailey; Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It by Kamal Ravikant; Conversation with the great and wise Renee Dineem (see her TedX Talk here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aBzZ6rYDm2g&ab_channel=TEDxTalks )

Life doesn't always go as planned, but listening to your gut and going for what makes you happy - even when it feels selfish - is far more productive. The importance of being honest: if you don't know, ask. No shame in not understanding something, and people will help or mentor you when you come forth in honesty and willingness to learn. Whatever your differences are will be your superpower; every field is interdisciplinary, and your experiences and background make you an asset. On IG @nowickipedia23

Quick ep on clearing your mind during election week (and 2020, other weeks that are hard). References: Hyperfocus by Chris Bailey (Go back and listen to Episode 40 of this podcast, a book review ep from earlier this year on this book!); Limitless by Jim Kwik; The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks. Be in nature. Drink water. Put your phone down. Say nice things to yourself, and listen to words that support your highest vision of yourself. You can do it.

A NYC Certified KonMari Consultant and home-organizer shares some benefits of creating an orderly home as she has seen firsthand through her experience: improved time management and focus, reduced stress, improved mental and physical health, a greater sense of gratitude. The average American has over 300,000 items in their home, and wastes 12 days per year looking for things. You must hear this one. Find her on IG @LisaTselebidis and grab her free KonMari Category Checklist at https://www.lisatselebidis.com/

Christine & Liz discuss hope that can come in our darkest moments via movement. Connecting to the deeper “why” - how it helped Christine become aware of her behavior of binging. When she started to really do the work to remove this as a regular coping mechanism for stress, and the nonjudgmental curiosity into self that led to greater breakthroughs: nourishing herself, loving/caring for herself, and speaking openly about it all to connect more intimately with those in her life. @christine.coen to download a free workbook: Overcoming Nighttime Overeating

Sara talks about getting into alignment with herself and sacred and divine feminine. She highlights ignoring signs from the universe, feeling disconnected with self and physically ill, before learning to say YES to the inkling of desire and making pleasure a priority in her life through the work of John Wineland and Mama Gena. She found a community that lifted her, took a stand for her, and eventually, she got crystal clear on her own desire through connecting with her grief and accessing all her raw emotions to find her way out of her stuckness and ultimate liberation. Loved this conversation. Connect with Sara @thesarachizek and www.sarachizek.com

On today's episode, Jessica Wright (one half of the Atlas & Stone wedding photography husband-wife duo) shares with us the journey of how she got to where she is today, loving her job and working towards her dreams with her family. Jess shares some of the trials and insecurities of being a young mom, the importance of sticking to her values, and learning to cope with her own mental health struggles in an effective and proactive way, as best she can. Lots of happy little accidents in this grit-filled story. Find her at @jesswrightathome and @atlasandstone

Juliana shares with us her story of learning to pivot during the first financial crisis of her lifetime; how the job she had trained for (via multiple degrees) no longer being available provided an opportunity to rise to the occasion and learn new skills, as well as showing her the importance of mentorship. She shifts gears yet again when she decided to pursue her vision of helping people get in alignment with their own values and wake up with enthusiasm, ready to learn from every life lesson, and to stop holding ourselves back. Find her at @juliana_faus on IG or www.onpurposetalent.com for your free ebook to get started.

In this episode, Liz and her anonymous guest talk about being an inspiration to one another during times of hardship; how female comradery and support is so helpful (and even necessary)  in the military and in life. We speak of getting comfortable in "good enough" and how you become a shell of yourself when you settle for too long, and the courage it requires to face the discomfort of leaving something you thought you never could.

Kelly shares with us the story of her mom's cancer diagnosis, her father's work at Ground Zero, and the flexibility and resilience she was forced to learn throughout her mother's treatments, as well as lessons she continues to learn from her after her passing. Forgiving ourselves, choosing our own path (even when it looks different from the one we thought we'd go down) and learning to stop fighting life are some of the takeaways from today's Women's Empowerment Miniseries episode. Find her @kelly.rose13 on IG

In this ep, Liz explains the What and Why of the Women's Empowerment Miniseries happening on The Edge of Fear Podcast and why you should be here for it.

Sheri has over 13 years of experience in the health and wellness space. In this episode, she draws from her extensive background in wellness, her studies, and her life to share with us some of the lessons she's learned on human compassion, love, and stillness. Sheri stepped fully into her own self and spirituality and gives us permission today, as well as many of the tools, to find for ourselves that same level of power and certainty. You can find her at @sheriazhomayoon, or on her own podcast, The Quietest Moments.

Katie & Liz talk about the difficulties in confronting trauma, but why we must do the shadow work to learn more about ourselves and truly heal our childhood wounds. We are meant for more than just surviving, and there are so many modalities for holistic healing once we choose to love, care for, and parent ourselves. We discuss generational trauma, and Katie opens up about her own relationship with her family, as well as the spiritual journey she undertook after the passing of her boyfriend.

In this episode, Nicole Lombardo, a Doctor of Physical Therapy (and Liz's HS basketball teammate) gives us tips on listening to your body, using our workouts as “practice” for everyday life, a better desk set up to reduce back pain, and scaling it back. Anyone can do anything if you scale it back, but if you don't use the muscles at all, you will lose the ability and therefore the option to use those muscles. Movement is so important for your quality of life; let's move!

Liz and Vincenzo talk about traveling having been a wonderful tool to better understand themselves, how that grew them into better professionals, better partners to respective significant others, and an inspiring/comforting energy to be around. Vincenzo is an accomplished hair stylist on LI with mostly female clientele. @vincenzostylist has a beautiful perspective on life, and shares today some of how he and his wife @beautybylee are choosing to raise their children, look at their blossoming careers and family dreams.

This week, Craig and Liz discuss the story we tell ourselves vs reality, and the limiting beliefs that dictate our lives as a result. How forgiving yourself requires vulnerability and honesty. In order to release the shame, speak those truths out loud, connect with other humans, and choose to commit to yourself fully. After a lifetime of negative self-talk and not keeping promises to yourself, this commitment is hard to keep, but the process is the reward. Celebrate your wins and keep going.

After trauma, finding Kamal Ravikant's book, Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It, deciding to seek that love and live more fully. Zero people benefit from any of us wallowing in our own anger, sadness or self-pity. We've begun a 30-day self-love challenge on IG, because of the shift in perspective resulting from practicing the Self Love exercises outlined in the book. Go read it and let me know @lizwithoutapillow how forgiving yourself and committing to actively loving yourself turns out.

This week Liz chats with Jessie, @thatssoulastro, who gives some of the history of astrology and explains the language used in birth chart readings (like houses, aspects, elements, zodiac, etc.). Jessie reads Liz's birth chart, to exemplify how better understanding ourselves can EMPOWER the way we engage with the world. We'll learn that the earth is currently moving through a Saturn Return and into the Aquarius. Jessie gives her astrological interpretation of what this all could mean for the collective during the present state of unrest around us...

We are not simply an identity that we associate with. If you strip me of those attributes (what society deemed good and worthy, what makes me part of the team), then what is left? Who am I then? This was a lonely realization. But what about when I'm ready to let others in on this experience? Feeling. Reflecting. Authentically sharing with others, we become able to articulate it and grow. Then we see neither of us are perfect, and we're connected because we are in each others' worldview. Better understanding and accepting our differences, recognizing our common humanity. Feel the feelings.

Diving into the crisis of the week: change = bad. "this is how I am." The anxious need for control and wanting things to go back to 'normal,' and how that led to a deep reflection into the self and re-learning of so many old messages. Accept yourself, then do an honest evaluation. Love yourself more, and sit back and reflect on the moment. Adjust your direction if needed, and then step into that new self, if a new identity has been chosen to embody. This week's resources: AMP #255 How to Own the Day in the COVID-19 Era with Kyle Kingsbury;12 Rules for Life by Jordan Peterson, Rules 9 & 10; Atomic Habits by James Clear - Ch. 3. The Insight Timer app for guided meditations by Lucy Valnicek, Kate James.

This week, Liz reflects on the teachings of Ram Dass as they've impacted her through this season of Quarantine and inner conflict. Letting yourself feel whatever emotion you're experiencing. Whatever that is, it's okay.The physical manifestation of heavy emotions on your body and your relationships and your work - WHY it's important to process it as it comes up. Standing in your truth allows you to have unconditional love for yourself and for others. The ego keeps us from letting our truth shine and from loving fully. Letting go of “SHOULD” to free us from great suffering. Laughter + nonjudgment + forgiveness = love.  References: Being Nobody Documentary; AMP ep #265; Here and Now Podcast with Ram Dass on The Be Here Now Network

The existential crisis of the week: could Covid be an opportunity for us to examine what it is that we each individually value? Do we have a chance to potentially completely restructure existing systems? This is a FORCED slow down. Discover what it is that makes you feel fulfilled and purposeful. Ask yourself, how do I feel today, and can we set intentions that are aligned, instead of just keeping up with what our calendar says. Just because this is how it's been, doesn't mean it has to stay the same forever. Today's thought was inspired by Charles Eisenstein's "The Coronation" 

In this conversation, Natalie and Liz dive into the relationship we all have with food and with our bodies. Natalie points out many benefits to trusting that your body and your intuition know better than your brain; we discuss love, self-compassion, gratitude and nonjudgment vs trying to hate yourself into weightloss or feeling comfortable/confident in your own skin. The negative side effects of dieting, and figuring out your WHY. Natalie is a Binge & Diet Recovery Coach - follow her @nataliezises on Instagram

Feeling all the things in the past week - the rollercoaster of emotions that has been COVID 19... the pandemic of our lifetime and the many darknesses it can be dredging up for us. Not a "how to stay positive in quarantine" recording... a reminder to tell your truth, to connect with whoever you can. To feel what you're feeling and maybe even do some of that inner-work you've been avoiding.

Liz & Kathrine @passionforplants discuss how leaning into a more plant based diet can reduce your carbon footprint and how each of our contributions matter. Open your mind! Consider the way your diet impacts YOUR life and consider how you could possibly make an impact in a positive way with these choices. Explanation of HDL & LDL cholesterol/risks via the way we eat. Description of the Blue Zones and where/how people live comfortably until old age. Must Listen To's: The School of Greatness Podcast with Dr mark hyman - Build Your Health to Build Your Wealth & MindBodyGreen Podcast - Ep 121 How to Heal Yourself with Dr Kelly Turner

Amy and Liz talk about taking volunteer jobs while traveling, making friends with people who lift you up and make you feel comfortable, and how facing your feelings and your discomfort forces you to get confident in who you are and what you're about. Letting go of needing to look good to please others or to fit the norm, and embracing that your path might look different than those around you, and that's okay. How connecting with others will help you remember that you're not alone. @amykaranfilian 

Being present where you are. Working on it by actively connecting with the moment, with yourself and with those around you -- not living in the past or wishing for a better future, but working towards the better future, the 10k hours to mastery (referenced in Ep 40 and similar to theme of Ep 35: Start Small).

Josh and Liz talk about the guilt that keeps us holding on to old endeavors longer than we truly want or need to hold on. How opening up about mental health and hardship became freeing, and how it gets easier the more you do it. Being a positive influence on others (even when you're not sure why anyone would listen to you in the first place). Josh's dad is the chapter leader of Team Red, White & Blue for Vet activities in Pittsburgh - find more info at teamrwb.org or DM @josh_buzzard

This week we're taking a deep dive into the book Hyperfocus by Chris Bailey. Bailey gives us - and Liz summarizes - simple & actionable steps to improve our ability to focus longer and more efficiently, increasing our productivity significantly, and thus improving our fulfillment in life. Since implementing many of these tools in my own hyperfocus sessions, I'm getting done twice the work in half the time, and enjoying my down time more. Go buy the audiobook, and gather some starter tips in today's episode.

HOW to bring out your best self, and WHY it would benefit us to show up for ourselves. Liz shares four things that she has learned work for her specifically, and examples to help you figure out your own “must-do's” to be your best. Why doing things JUST for you, specifically for the sake of feeling GOOD inside for a few brief moments every day (or most days), has the power to revitalize your life.. Both the everyday mundane and your wildest, mf'in accomplishable dreams. Reflect on your own life and figure out YOUR recipe for functioning your best. Follow it mostly, and give yourself grace and love when you undoubtedly fuck it up and have to learn it again times infinity forever.

Liz shares tips on how to see people through a more neutral lens by imagining them being loved instead of as just a stranger. We talk about "phone dumps," communicating freely and truthfully, and how effective communication and supports breeds communication and support. Why we should show more love to one another, and how to do so from a place of compassion and love -- how it naturally leads to a reciprocation of the love we feel in return from friends and loved ones.

Dee and Liz talk about the natural progression of seasons we internally go through, and how once we've gotten what we're supposed to from a winter or darkness, we CHOOSE to come out of it when we're ready. How speaking authentically and being true to yourself is your therapy, how connecting with others can spark inspiration inside you, and how the way you act towards others is a reflection of your soul. We all have a voice that matters, and we all have to fight through fears and obstacles to show that vulnerable side of us, but how worth it it is.

In order to be truly, authentically happy, accept that you are imperfect. We all are. To love yourself and have real, genuine confidence, you've gotta believe you are worth taking care of... tell the truth enough to know you struggle, and are imperfect, and that's still totally fine. Check out ANY highlights on @lizwithoutapillow. Definitely go listen to Audrey Marcus Podcast #508 with Kamal Ravikant. Love yourself. Love others. Forgive yourself. Forgive others. Forget. Learn. Forget.

After an unannounced & necessary break from social, we're ready to start with big, vulnerable recognition of fears… by just getting on the court and facing it (see Episode 5). This is about short term plans and long term dreams; whatever you want to do or be, in whatever duration you'd like, it's totally possible through consistency, grace, and fearlessness. Monthly Challenges noted from @danikabrysha's #virtualbrunchseries - self-care checklist referenced in ep 26: Transformations and ep 28: Gifts

Liz opens up about her darkness in this season and how it's kept her from recording the last few weeks. Daniela, a Colombian mystic and energy healer recording from Sweden. Our emotional experience is our teacher. Intuition and trusting your gut is not a feeling, but a knowing. Our intuition is a muscle, and the more we exercise it, the stronger it becomes. Accessing this higher wisdom through playfulness and curiousity rather than pressure and expectation. The changing meaning of femininity, and changing the conversation around spirituality to be more approachable for all.

Josh and Liz discuss being introspective and the responsibility that comes with self-awareness. Josh finally allows gratitude in (after many great losses in his early adulthood) as a result of his first LSD experience. The opportunity to speak out loud of the deaths he'd experienced, paired with the drug, led to feeling the physical sensation of support by those he'd loved and lost -- and gratitude for getting to release the pain and accept those losses and what each had taught him. We can LEARN to operate in a different way, but it's on us to search for that knowledge. Josh summarizes use of the “wellness toolbox” to individualize our healing and growth during times of difficulty. Making amends and what that entails. Josh tells his story of 20 days in prison: choosing to “raise your hand to life” and to connect with those around you. How time to reflect is imperative for the journey and self-reflection. Liz shares the guilt from leaving her last relationship and how that was the beginning of her journey - the deployment, self-reflection that ensued as a result of time, and how it all led to this self. Liz & Josh connect over trauma, taking responsibility, guilt, and gratitude. @fireheartjmh

All the things! Natalie and Liz discuss getting aligned with ourselves and learning enough about ourselves so that we are able to be intuitively guided. The scale of peacefulness as we go through our experience and the language we use to describe our emotional responses to life. Standing in truth and articulating the experience -- feeling into the emotions, sitting with the emotions longer and appreciating the transitions and showing up more genuinely. Natalie recreates the ways in which she was able to connect to a God that serves her life and her truth - determining your own version of a higher power. Boundaries and conflict within : “Is it fun or is it free?” - question to check in with yourself before you make a choice, meditate and clear space for 5 minutes. You can have it all once you decide what is most important. Choosing to be present in your relationship and in life. Having a neutral 3rd party mentor to bring things to so that you're able to show up truly and authentically and each accept one another fully. Facing sober life head on. @iamnataliekristina

We're a generation of choice but we rarely actually step out with these choices or give them a chance to guide us. The transitions of roughly the 27th year, but that everyone goes through a series of changes at about quarter life. The “shoulds,” and how to change them into a to-do list, standing in the power of presence and being and doing the things you're afraid to do. Being in touch with and trusting yourself. Someday may never come. Whatever your dream is, just go do it. There's nothing weird about being afraid, we're all afraid - just embrace the fear and deal with it by DOING. Choosing a year of adventurous things and always accepting that there will be nonstop failures.. to learn from - asking for help and seeking support outside yourself. The beauty of getting older and showing up for yourself and choosing yourself. Starting with small healthy habits. The guilt we feel for doing what's in your own best interest when it's not in line with what you think people need of you. Alybird.com and @thealybird