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Jesse and Hunter look at the story of Balaam, the son of Beor and how he was hired to curse Israel. --contact@parableministries.comhttps://www.parableministries.comhttps://www.instagram.com/parable_ministries/--Music created by Chad HoffmanArtwork created by Anthony Kuenzi--Jesse Turkington is the executive director of Parable Ministries and has been a Bible teacher since 2014. When Jesse was just finishing high school, he started a little Bible study at his parent's house. Little did he know, this Bible study would change the direction of his life. He fell in love with the richness of the Bible and he wanted to pursue serious study. About 10 years later, Jesse still carries that passion for the Bible and from this passion was born Parable Ministries - a Bible teaching resource. -Hunter grew up in Montana and now serves the Church in Albany Oregon where he works as a youth and young adults pastor. He and his wife Ana stay busy with two kids. Hunter loves studying the Bible and communicating it in a way which encourages further exploration of others. Hunter enjoys listening and making podcasts for others to enjoy.

Jesse and Hunter look at the history and background to the founding of the Mormon church.--contact@parableministries.comhttps://www.parableministries.comhttps://www.instagram.com/parable_ministries/--Music created by Chad HoffmanArtwork created by Anthony Kuenzi--Jesse Turkington is the executive director of Parable Ministries and has been a Bible teacher since 2014. When Jesse was just finishing high school, he started a little Bible study at his parent's house. Little did he know, this Bible study would change the direction of his life. He fell in love with the richness of the Bible and he wanted to pursue serious study. About 10 years later, Jesse still carries that passion for the Bible and from this passion was born Parable Ministries - a Bible teaching resource. -Hunter grew up in Montana and now serves the Church in Albany Oregon where he works as a youth and young adults pastor. He and his wife Ana stay busy with two kids. Hunter loves studying the Bible and communicating it in a way which encourages further exploration of others. Hunter enjoys listening and making podcasts for others to enjoy.

Hunter brings the character of Sosthenes to discuss with Jesse in a reminder about how God redeems our past as well.--Passages explored: Acts 18; 1 Corinthians 1; Romans 8:28 --contact@parableministries.comhttps://www.parableministries.comhttps://www.instagram.com/parable_ministries/--Music created by Chad HoffmanArtwork created by Anthony Kuenzi--Jesse Turkington is the executive director of Parable Ministries and has been a Bible teacher for the last 9 years. When Jesse was just finishing high school, he started a little Bible study at his parent's house. Little did he know, this Bible study would change the direction of his life. He fell in love with the richness of the Bible and he wanted to pursue serious study. About 10 years later, Jesse still carries that passion for the Bible and from this passion was born Parable Ministries - a Bible teaching resource. Jesse believes that the Bible is a life changing book and that it can transform the way we view the world. The Bible presents a Creator God who desires intimate fellowship with us. His ways are not our ways and His thoughts are not our thoughts. Through study and thoughtful meditation, the Bible works to untangle our situational worldview and elevate our hopes and desires - we are encouraged to think on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Jesse is all about this book and he wants to share it with whoever will listen.-Hunter serves on the board of Parable Ministries and as podcast manager. He grew up in Montana and now serves the Church in Albany Oregon where he works as a youth and young adults pastor. He and his wife Ana stay busy with two kids. Hunter loves studying the Bible and communicating it in a way which encourages further exploration of others. Hunter enjoys listening and making podcasts for others to enjoy.

Jesse and Hunter discuss their experiences with and some beginning concerns about Mormonism.--contact@parableministries.comhttps://www.parableministries.comhttps://www.instagram.com/parable_ministries/--Music created by Chad HoffmanArtwork created by Anthony Kuenzi--Jesse Turkington is the executive director of Parable Ministries and has been a Bible teacher since 2014. When Jesse was just finishing high school, he started a little Bible study at his parent's house. Little did he know, this Bible study would change the direction of his life. He fell in love with the richness of the Bible and he wanted to pursue serious study. About 10 years later, Jesse still carries that passion for the Bible and from this passion was born Parable Ministries - a Bible teaching resource. -Hunter grew up in Montana and now serves the Church in Albany Oregon where he works as a youth and young adults pastor. He and his wife Ana stay busy with two kids. Hunter loves studying the Bible and communicating it in a way which encourages further exploration of others. Hunter enjoys listening and making podcasts for others to enjoy.

Hunter brings Nabal to discuss being the background character. Jesse brings the Bible's many mentions of magic to discuss the influence and far reach of the spiritual and the evil.--Passages explored: 1 Samuel 25:1-42; Acts 12; Exodus 7:8-13, 8:16-19; Acts 8:9-25; 1 Samuel 28; 2 Kings 21:1-9 --contact@parableministries.comhttps://www.parableministries.comhttps://www.instagram.com/parable_ministries/--Music created by Chad HoffmanArtwork created by Anthony Kuenzi--Jesse Turkington is the executive director of Parable Ministries and has been a Bible teacher for the last 9 years. When Jesse was just finishing high school, he started a little Bible study at his parent's house. Little did he know, this Bible study would change the direction of his life. He fell in love with the richness of the Bible and he wanted to pursue serious study. About 10 years later, Jesse still carries that passion for the Bible and from this passion was born Parable Ministries - a Bible teaching resource. Jesse believes that the Bible is a life changing book and that it can transform the way we view the world. The Bible presents a Creator God who desires intimate fellowship with us. His ways are not our ways and His thoughts are not our thoughts. Through study and thoughtful meditation, the Bible works to untangle our situational worldview and elevate our hopes and desires - we are encouraged to think on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Jesse is all about this book and he wants to share it with whoever will listen.-Hunter serves on the board of Parable Ministries and as podcast manager. He grew up in Montana and now serves the Church in Albany Oregon where he works as a youth and young adults pastor. He and his wife Ana stay busy with two kids. Hunter loves studying the Bible and communicating it in a way which encourages further exploration of others. Hunter enjoys listening and making podcasts for others to enjoy.

Something (rather than nothing) Podcast presents a special STRIKE episode from Albany, Oregon.SRTN gives you an up to the moment report on the brave educators of The Greater Albany Education Association (GAEA) who have been on strike for five (5) days as of this episode's release.GAEA is fighting for student safety, lower class size and a wage that recruits and retains high quality educators.The Mariana LinkClick here to support GAEA:WebsiteInstagram Facebook

Jesse and Hunter discuss the Reformation and the Catholic Church.--contact@parableministries.comhttps://www.parableministries.comhttps://www.instagram.com/parable_ministries/--Music created by Chad HoffmanArtwork created by Anthony Kuenzi--Jesse Turkington is the executive director of Parable Ministries and has been a Bible teacher since 2014. When Jesse was just finishing high school, he started a little Bible study at his parent's house. Little did he know, this Bible study would change the direction of his life. He fell in love with the richness of the Bible and he wanted to pursue serious study. About 10 years later, Jesse still carries that passion for the Bible and from this passion was born Parable Ministries - a Bible teaching resource. -Hunter grew up in Montana and now serves the Church in Albany Oregon where he works as a youth and young adults pastor. He and his wife Ana stay busy with two kids. Hunter loves studying the Bible and communicating it in a way which encourages further exploration of others. Hunter enjoys listening and making podcasts for others to enjoy.

Hunter brings Doeg the Edomite as a lesson about selfishness and God's justice. Jesse brings the Pharisees to talk about keeping the law and allowing tradition to take control.--Passages explored: 1 Samuel 21-22; Psalm 52; John 3 --contact@parableministries.comhttps://www.parableministries.comhttps://www.instagram.com/parable_ministries/--Music created by Chad HoffmanArtwork created by Anthony Kuenzi--Jesse Turkington is the executive director of Parable Ministries and has been a Bible teacher for the last 9 years. When Jesse was just finishing high school, he started a little Bible study at his parent's house. Little did he know, this Bible study would change the direction of his life. He fell in love with the richness of the Bible and he wanted to pursue serious study. About 10 years later, Jesse still carries that passion for the Bible and from this passion was born Parable Ministries - a Bible teaching resource. Jesse believes that the Bible is a life changing book and that it can transform the way we view the world. The Bible presents a Creator God who desires intimate fellowship with us. His ways are not our ways and His thoughts are not our thoughts. Through study and thoughtful meditation, the Bible works to untangle our situational worldview and elevate our hopes and desires - we are encouraged to think on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Jesse is all about this book and he wants to share it with whoever will listen.-Hunter serves on the board of Parable Ministries and as podcast manager. He grew up in Montana and now serves the Church in Albany Oregon where he works as a youth and young adults pastor. He and his wife Ana stay busy with two kids. Hunter loves studying the Bible and communicating it in a way which encourages further exploration of others. Hunter enjoys listening and making podcasts for others to enjoy.

123 John Part 1Hunter introduces the 3 letters written by John as an introduction to Parables Fall/Winter 24 series.--Scriptures Explored: 1 John 5:13; 1 John 1:1-2--Hunter grew up in Montana and now serves the Church in Albany Oregon where he works as a youth and young adults pastor. He and his wife Ana stay busy with two kids. Hunter loves studying the Bible and communicating it in a way which encourages further exploration of others.--contact@parableministries.comhttps://www.parableministries.comhttps://www.instagram.com/parable_ministries/--If you feel led, give to the work of Parable:https://www.parableministries.com/donate--Music created by Chad HoffmanArtwork created by Anthony Kuenzi

Jesse and Hunter discuss the purpose and value of denominations.--Passages explored: 1 Corinthians 1:10-17--contact@parableministries.comhttps://www.parableministries.comhttps://www.instagram.com/parable_ministries/--Music created by Chad HoffmanArtwork created by Anthony Kuenzi--Jesse Turkington is the executive director of Parable Ministries and has been a Bible teacher for the last 9 years. When Jesse was just finishing high school, he started a little Bible study at his parent's house. Little did he know, this Bible study would change the direction of his life. He fell in love with the richness of the Bible and he wanted to pursue serious study. About 10 years later, Jesse still carries that passion for the Bible and from this passion was born Parable Ministries - a Bible teaching resource. Jesse believes that the Bible is a life changing book and that it can transform the way we view the world. The Bible presents a Creator God who desires intimate fellowship with us. His ways are not our ways and His thoughts are not our thoughts. Through study and thoughtful meditation, the Bible works to untangle our situational worldview and elevate our hopes and desires - we are encouraged to think on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Jesse is all about this book and he wants to share it with whoever will listen.-Hunter grew up in Montana and now serves the Church in Albany Oregon where he works as a youth and young adults pastor. He and his wife Ana stay busy with two kids. Hunter loves studying the Bible and communicating it in a way which encourages further exploration of others. Hunter enjoys listening and making podcasts for others to enjoy.

Hunter brings Cain as a lesson about second chances and how sin propagates itself. Jesse brings the person of Gomer to talk about infidelity and how, in Hosea's case, God uses sin as an example to get the people's attention.--Passages explored: Genesis 4:6-7; Genesis 4:13; Genesis 5; Hosea 1-3 --contact@parableministries.comhttps://www.parableministries.comhttps://www.instagram.com/parable_ministries/--Music created by Chad HoffmanArtwork created by Anthony Kuenzi--Jesse Turkington is the executive director of Parable Ministries and has been a Bible teacher for the last 9 years. When Jesse was just finishing high school, he started a little Bible study at his parent's house. Little did he know, this Bible study would change the direction of his life. He fell in love with the richness of the Bible and he wanted to pursue serious study. About 10 years later, Jesse still carries that passion for the Bible and from this passion was born Parable Ministries - a Bible teaching resource. Jesse believes that the Bible is a life changing book and that it can transform the way we view the world. The Bible presents a Creator God who desires intimate fellowship with us. His ways are not our ways and His thoughts are not our thoughts. Through study and thoughtful meditation, the Bible works to untangle our situational worldview and elevate our hopes and desires - we are encouraged to think on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Jesse is all about this book and he wants to share it with whoever will listen.-Hunter grew up in Montana and now serves the Church in Albany Oregon where he works as a youth and young adults pastor. He and his wife Ana stay busy with two kids. Hunter loves studying the Bible and communicating it in a way which encourages further exploration of others. Hunter enjoys listening and making podcasts for others to enjoy.

Jesse and Hunter return to God and sinners for another look at God's goodness and sovereignty in working alongside and through the lives of sinners. Some of these sinners, are changed to newness of life. Others remain unmoved to their own downfall.--Passages explored: Genesis 50:20; John 6; Matthew 27; John 11:1-16; Zechariah 11:11-14; John 13:5; Matthew 26:23-24; Genesis 36:12; Genesis 36:16; 1 Samuel 15; 1 Samuel 30:16-31; 1 Chronicles 4--contact@parableministries.comhttps://www.parableministries.comhttps://www.instagram.com/parable_ministries/--Music created by Chad HoffmanArtwork created by Anthony Kuenzi--Jesse Turkington is the executive director of Parable Ministries and has been a Bible teacher for the last 9 years. When Jesse was just finishing high school, he started a little Bible study at his parent's house. Little did he know, this Bible study would change the direction of his life. He fell in love with the richness of the Bible and he wanted to pursue serious study. About 10 years later, Jesse still carries that passion for the Bible and from this passion was born Parable Ministries - a Bible teaching resource. Jesse believes that the Bible is a life changing book and that it can transform the way we view the world. The Bible presents a Creator God who desires intimate fellowship with us. His ways are not our ways and His thoughts are not our thoughts. Through study and thoughtful meditation, the Bible works to untangle our situational worldview and elevate our hopes and desires - we are encouraged to think on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Jesse is all about this book and he wants to share it with whoever will listen.-Hunter grew up in Montana and now serves the Church in Albany Oregon where he works as a youth and young adults pastor. He and his wife Ana stay busy with two kids. Hunter loves studying the Bible and communicating it in a way which encourages further exploration of others. Hunter enjoys listening and making podcasts for others to enjoy.

Jesse and Hunter return to God and sinners for another look at God's goodness and sovereignty in working alongside and through the lives of sinners. Some of these sinners, are changed to newness of life. Others remain unmoved to their own downfall.--Passages explored: Acts 7:54-60, Exodus 7:14-12:42, Daniel 4:34-37, Deuteronomy 10:12-22 --contact@parableministries.comhttps://www.parableministries.comhttps://www.instagram.com/parable_ministries/--Music created by Chad HoffmanArtwork created by Anthony Kuenzi--Jesse Turkington is the executive director of Parable Ministries and has been a Bible teacher for the last 9 years. When Jesse was just finishing high school, he started a little Bible study at his parent's house. Little did he know, this Bible study would change the direction of his life. He fell in love with the richness of the Bible and he wanted to pursue serious study. About 10 years later, Jesse still carries that passion for the Bible and from this passion was born Parable Ministries - a Bible teaching resource. Jesse believes that the Bible is a life changing book and that it can transform the way we view the world. The Bible presents a Creator God who desires intimate fellowship with us. His ways are not our ways and His thoughts are not our thoughts. Through study and thoughtful meditation, the Bible works to untangle our situational worldview and elevate our hopes and desires - we are encouraged to think on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Jesse is all about this book and he wants to share it with whoever will listen.-Hunter grew up in Montana and now serves the Church in Albany Oregon where he works as a youth and young adults pastor. He and his wife Ana stay busy with two kids. Hunter loves studying the Bible and communicating it in a way which encourages further exploration of others. Hunter enjoys listening and making podcasts for others to enjoy.

Dr. Ramycia McGhee is a keynote speaker, councilwoman, and educator. She is a Chicago native, a tenured professor of English & Literature at Linn-Benton Community College, and the first African American woman to serve on the Albany City Council. Since coming to Linn Benton Community College in 2017, she has inaugurated the Black History Month Essay Contest, coordinates Black History Month programming, serves as the departmental Writing 121 testing coordinator, and more at LBCC.  In addition, Dr. McGhee serves on the Oregon Humanities Board of Directors. She is a member of Oregon State University's Advisory Board for the Adult and Higher Education master's and doctoral programs and is a current board member for the League of Oregon Cities Women's Caucus. She is a contributing author to two books one is entitled Teaching Beautiful Brilliant Black Girls and the other Don't Forget About the Adjuncts!  Dr. McGhee is the Founder of the Valencia Cooper Second Chance Scholarship Opportunity Award which solely benefits Black students who are or want to attend a community college in the state of Oregon. She is also a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Inc.  Dr. McGhee is a 2019 recipient of the Oregon State University's Community Member Black Excellence Award. Dr. McGhee is also a 2020 nominee of the Analee Fuentes Unity Award. This award is presented annually to one employee in recognition of their commitment to diversity and social justice at LBCC. In 2021, Dr. McGhee was awarded a Faculty Fellowship from LBCC in which she peer-mentored and coached other faculty in creating Black Culturally Center Assignments across disciplines.  Dr. McGhee is a Barbie collector and enjoys traveling, reading, writing, dancing, and spending time with friends, family, and her Shi-Tzu Cupcake. DrRamycia.org AlbanyOregon.gov

Hunter and Jesse discuss the sovereignty of God and God's love and justice in working through and with sinful humans. To direct their discussion they observe the lives of Joseph's brothers and Jonah.--Scripture Explored: Genesis 37-50; Jonah 1-4; 2 Kings 14:21-28  --contact@parableministries.comhttps://www.parableministries.comhttps://www.instagram.com/parable_ministries/--If you feel led, give to the work of Parable:https://www.parableministries.com/donate--Music created by Chad HoffmanArtwork created by Anthony Kuenzi--Jesse Turkington is the executive director of Parable Ministries and has been a Bible teacher for the last 9 years. When Jesse was just finishing high school, he started a little Bible study at his parent's house. Little did he know, this Bible study would change the direction of his life. He fell in love with the richness of the Bible and he wanted to pursue serious study. About 10 years later, Jesse still carries that passion for the Bible and from this passion was born Parable Ministries - a Bible teaching resource. Jesse believes that the Bible is a life changing book and that it can transform the way we view the world. The Bible presents a Creator God who desires intimate fellowship with us. His ways are not our ways and His thoughts are not our thoughts. Through study and thoughtful meditation, the Bible works to untangle our situational worldview and elevate our hopes and desires - we are encouraged to think on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Jesse is all about this book and he wants to share it with whoever will listen.-Hunter grew up in Montana and now serves the Church in Albany Oregon where he works as a youth and young adults pastor. He and his wife Ana stay busy with two kids. Hunter loves studying the Bible and communicating it in a way which encourages further exploration of others. Hunter enjoys listening and making podcasts for others to enjoy.

Parable Ministries Presents: A Pickled Parables Study of James. Part 8: A Recap of James.In an outro to our study of James, Hunter highlights key points from the book, and discusses lasting application for Christian living.--Scriptures Explored: --Hunter grew up in Montana and now serves the Church in Albany Oregon where he works as a youth and young adults pastor. He and his wife Ana stay busy with two kids. Hunter loves studying the Bible and communicating it in a way which encourages further exploration of others.--contact@parableministries.comhttps://www.parableministries.comhttps://www.instagram.com/parable_ministries/--If you feel led, give to the work of Parable:https://www.parableministries.com/donate--Music created by Chad HoffmanArtwork created by Anthony Kuenzi

Jesse and Hunter discuss the qualifications of elders, and what, if anything should disqualify someone from public ministry.--contact@parableministries.comhttps://www.parableministries.comhttps://www.instagram.com/parable_ministries/--If you feel led, give to the work of Parable:https://www.parableministries.com/donate--Music created by Chad HoffmanArtwork created by Anthony Kuenzi--Jesse Turkington is the executive director of Parable Ministries and has been a Bible teacher for the last 9 years. When Jesse was just finishing high school, he started a little Bible study at his parent's house. Little did he know, this Bible study would change the direction of his life. He fell in love with the richness of the Bible and he wanted to pursue serious study. About 10 years later, Jesse still carries that passion for the Bible and from this passion was born Parable Ministries - a Bible teaching resource. Jesse believes that the Bible is a life changing book and that it can transform the way we view the world. The Bible presents a Creator God who desires intimate fellowship with us. His ways are not our ways and His thoughts are not our thoughts. Through study and thoughtful meditation, the Bible works to untangle our situational worldview and elevate our hopes and desires - we are encouraged to think on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Jesse is all about this book and he wants to share it with whoever will listen.-Hunter grew up in Montana and now serves the Church in Albany Oregon where he works as a youth and young adults pastor. He and his wife Ana stay busy with two kids. Hunter loves studying the Bible and communicating it in a way which encourages further exploration of others. Hunter enjoys listening and making podcasts for others to enjoy.

Jesse, Michael, and Hunter discuss what ministry is, what examples from Scripture have been important in informing their thinking about ministry, and explore whether Sloppy Wet Kiss or Unforeseen Kiss is more theologically sound.--contact@parableministries.comhttps://www.parableministries.comhttps://www.instagram.com/parable_ministries/--If you feel led, give to the work of Parable:https://www.parableministries.com/donate--Music created by Chad HoffmanArtwork created by Anthony Kuenzi--Jesse Turkington is the executive director of Parable Ministries and has been a Bible teacher for the last 9 years. When Jesse was just finishing high school, he started a little Bible study at his parent's house. Little did he know, this Bible study would change the direction of his life. He fell in love with the richness of the Bible and he wanted to pursue serious study. About 10 years later, Jesse still carries that passion for the Bible and from this passion was born Parable Ministries - a Bible teaching resource. Jesse believes that the Bible is a life changing book and that it can transform the way we view the world. The Bible presents a Creator God who desires intimate fellowship with us. His ways are not our ways and His thoughts are not our thoughts. Through study and thoughtful meditation, the Bible works to untangle our situational worldview and elevate our hopes and desires - we are encouraged to think on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Jesse is all about this book and he wants to share it with whoever will listen.-Michael Rogers is an Oregon native and Arizona resident. He is a husband to his amazing, spectacular, wonderful wife and a new father to his son. He spends the rest of his time working in landscaping as an irrigation technician, earning his M.Div at Phoenix Seminary, studying and sharing God's Word, and throwing Star Wars into all of it.-Hunter grew up in Montana and now serves the Church in Albany Oregon where he works as a youth and young adults pastor. He and his wife Ana stay busy with two kids. Hunter loves studying the Bible and communicating it in a way which encourages further exploration of others. Hunter enjoys listening and making podcasts for others to enjoy.

Jesse, Michael, and Hunter discuss the history of Parable, how they all got involved, and explore what ministry is and why we do it.--contact@parableministries.comhttps://www.parableministries.comhttps://www.instagram.com/parable_ministries/--If you feel led, give to the work of Parable:https://www.parableministries.com/donate--Music created by Chad HoffmanArtwork created by Anthony Kuenzi--Jesse Turkington is the executive director of Parable Ministries and has been a Bible teacher for the last 9 years. When Jesse was just finishing high school, he started a little Bible study at his parent's house. Little did he know, this Bible study would change the direction of his life. He fell in love with the richness of the Bible and he wanted to pursue serious study. About 10 years later, Jesse still carries that passion for the Bible and from this passion was born Parable Ministries - a Bible teaching resource. Jesse believes that the Bible is a life changing book and that it can transform the way we view the world. The Bible presents a Creator God who desires intimate fellowship with us. His ways are not our ways and His thoughts are not our thoughts. Through study and thoughtful meditation, the Bible works to untangle our situational worldview and elevate our hopes and desires - we are encouraged to think on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Jesse is all about this book and he wants to share it with whoever will listen.-Michael Rogers is an Oregon native and Arizona resident. He is a husband to his amazing, spectacular, wonderful wife and a new father to his son. He spends the rest of his time working in landscaping as an irrigation technician, earning his M.Div at Phoenix Seminary, studying and sharing God's Word, and throwing Star Wars into all of it.-Hunter grew up in Montana and now serves the Church in Albany Oregon where he works as a youth and young adults pastor. He and his wife Ana stay busy with two kids. Hunter loves studying the Bible and communicating it in a way which encourages further exploration of others. Hunter enjoys listening and making podcasts for others to enjoy.

Dr. Ramycia McGhee is a keynote speaker, councilwoman, and educator. She is a Chicago native, a tenured professor of English & Literature at Linn-Benton Community College, and the first African American woman to serve on the Albany City Council. Since coming to Linn Benton Community College in 2017, she has inaugurated the Black History Month Essay Contest, coordinates Black History Month programming, serves as the departmental Writing 121 testing coordinator, and more at LBCC.  In addition, Dr. McGhee serves on the Oregon Humanities Board of Directors. She is a member of Oregon State University's Advisory Board for the Adult and Higher Education master's and doctoral programs and is a current board member for the League of Oregon Cities Women's Caucus. She is a contributing author to two books one is entitled Teaching Beautiful Brilliant Black Girls and the other Don't Forget About the Adjuncts!  Dr. McGhee is the Founder of the Valencia Cooper Second Chance Scholarship Opportunity Award which solely benefits Black students who are or want to attend a community college in the state of Oregon. She is also a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Inc.  Dr. McGhee is a 2019 recipient of the Oregon State University's Community Member Black Excellence Award. Dr. McGhee is also a 2020 nominee of the Analee Fuentes Unity Award. This award is presented annually to one employee in recognition of their commitment to diversity and social justice at LBCC. In 2021, Dr. McGhee was awarded a Faculty Fellowship from LBCC in which she peer-mentored and coached other faculty in creating Black Culturally Center Assignments across disciplines.  Dr. McGhee is a Barbie collector and enjoys traveling, reading, writing, dancing, and spending time with friends, family, and her Shi-Tzu Cupcake. DrRamycia.org AlbanyOregon.gov

Parable Ministries Presents: A Pickled Parables Study of James. Part 1: An Introduction.The background of the book of James begins our study and understanding of this letter and reminds us of why the book of James is important to us today.--Scriptures Explored: James 1:1-4--Hunter grew up in Montana and now serves the Church in Albany Oregon where he works as a youth and young adults pastor. He and his wife Ana stay busy with two kids. Hunter loves studying the Bible and communicating it in a way which encourages further exploration of others.--contact@parableministries.comhttps://www.parableministries.comhttps://www.instagram.com/parable_ministries/--If you feel led, give to the work of Parable:https://www.parableministries.com/donate--Music created by Chad HoffmanArtwork created by Anthony Kuenzi

MERRY CHRISTMAS!To celebrate our Savior's birth, Hunter is reading the Christmas story.--Scriptures Explored: Luke 2; Matthew 2--Hunter grew up in Montana and now serves the Church in Albany Oregon where he works as a youth and young adults pastor. He and his wife Ana stay busy with two kids. Hunter loves studying the Bible and communicating it in a way which encourages further exploration of others.--contact@parableministries.comhttps://www.parableministries.comhttps://www.instagram.com/parable_ministries/--Music created by Chad HoffmanArtwork created by Anthony Kuenzi

Anxiety and worry can be prevalent in our day? But what do the words of Jesus speak to on this topic. Hunter looks at a section on the sermon on the mount to get footing on the subject.--Scriptures Explored: Matthew 6:25-34; Psalm 42:9-11 --Hunter grew up in Montana and now serves the Church in Albany Oregon where he works as a youth and young adults pastor. He and his wife Ana stay busy with two kids. Hunter loves studying the Bible and communicating it in a way which encourages further exploration of others.--contact@parableministries.comhttps://www.parableministries.comhttps://www.instagram.com/parable_ministries/--Music created by Chad HoffmanArtwork created by Anthony Kuenzi

Hunter reflects on the benefits of thankfulness and explores Paul's expression of thanksgiving in the book of Colossians--Hunter grew up in Montana and now serves the Church in Albany Oregon where he works as a youth and young adults pastor. He and his wife Ana stay busy with two kids. Hunter loves studying the Bible and communicating it in a way which encourages further exploration of others.--contact@parableministries.comhttps://www.parableministries.comhttps://www.instagram.com/parable_ministries/--Music created by Chad HoffmanArtwork created by Anthony Kuenzi

Pickled Parables Presents: A Study of 1 and 2 Peter. Part 14: Series Summary: Principles from Exile.Peter's 2 letters can be summarized as: trust God in the face of suffering, do good, and grow in your knowledge of Christ.--Scriptures Explored: 1 and 2 Peter; Daniel 3, 6--Hunter grew up in Montana and now serves the Church in Albany Oregon where he works as a youth and young adults pastor. He and his wife Ana stay busy with two kids. Hunter loves studying the Bible and communicating it in a way which encourages further exploration of others.--contact@parableministries.comhttps://www.parableministries.comhttps://www.instagram.com/parable_ministries/--Music created by Chad HoffmanArtwork created by Anthony Kuenzi

Episode #269 has Louie and Matt recording together in a meeting room in Albany Oregon! This week they talk about he people that got stuck on a roller coaster for more than 3 hours and the burger that's made with 20 slices of cheese!Odd News Stories CNN.com – Roller coaster riders stuck upside down for […] The post Episode #269 Coaster Captives and Tons of Cheese first appeared on Odd and Offbeat Podcast.

Pickled Parables Presents: A Study of 1 and 2 Peter. Part 11: Living Your Calling.Peter introduces his second letter to the dispersed believers by challenging them with 2 ideas. Live lives worthy of the Jesus who saved you. Cling to the credibility of the promises of God and his Scriptures.--Scriptures Explored: 2 Peter 1; Matthew 17:1-8; Psalm 119:105--Hunter grew up in Montana and now serves the Church in Albany Oregon where he works as a youth and young adults pastor. He and his wife Ana stay busy with two kids. Hunter loves studying the Bible and communicating it in a way which encourages further exploration of others.--contact@parableministries.comhttps://www.parableministries.comhttps://www.instagram.com/parable_ministries/--Music created by Chad HoffmanArtwork created by Anthony Kuenzi

Pickled Parables Presents: A Study of 1 and 2 Peter. Part 10: Peter Bids Farewell (For Now).As Peter closes his first letter, he leaves Christians with warnings. Elders are called to a higher standard, and their congregants are called to be watchful.--Scriptures Explored: 1 Peter 5; John 10:11-15; John 21:15-19--Hunter grew up in Montana and now serves the Church in Albany Oregon where he works as a youth and young adults pastor. He and his wife Ana stay busy with two kids. Hunter loves studying the Bible and communicating it in a way which encourages further exploration of others.--contact@parableministries.comhttps://www.parableministries.comhttps://www.instagram.com/parable_ministries/--Music created by Chad HoffmanArtwork created by Anthony Kuenzi

Pickled Parables Presents: A Study of 1 and 2 Peter. Part 9: Trust God, Do Good.When faced with suffering, all things considered, how does the Christian proceed?--Scriptures Explored: 1 Peter 4:12-19; Luke 9:23-24; Matthew 5:11; Matthew 10:20-22; Proverbs 11:31--Hunter grew up in Montana and now serves the Church in Albany Oregon where he works as a youth and young adults pastor. He and his wife Ana stay busy with two kids. Hunter loves studying the Bible and communicating it in a way which encourages further exploration of others.--contact@parableministries.comhttps://www.parableministries.comhttps://www.instagram.com/parable_ministries/--Music created by Chad HoffmanArtwork created by Anthony Kuenzi

Pickled Parables Presents: A Study of 1 and 2 Peter. Part 8: God Gives Grace, He Receives Glory.God gives believers grace to endure suffering, and in return, is brought glory through their testimony.--Scriptures Explored: 1 Peter 4:1-11; John 21:11-19; Romans 5:6-8--Hunter grew up in Montana and now serves the Church in Albany Oregon where he works as a youth and young adults pastor. He and his wife Ana stay busy with two kids. Hunter loves studying the Bible and communicating it in a way which encourages further exploration of others.--contact@parableministries.comhttps://www.parableministries.comhttps://www.instagram.com/parable_ministries/--Music created by Chad HoffmanArtwork created by Anthony Kuenzi

Pickled Parables Presents: A Study of 1 and 2 Peter. Part 7: Baptism as a Symbol for... SufferingOften when we think of baptism, we think of the victory we have in Jesus, but Peter suggests it has a lot to do with suffering as well.--Scriptures Explored: 1 Peter 3:18-22; Genesis 6-8--Hunter grew up in Montana and now serves the Church in Albany Oregon where he works as a youth and young adults pastor. He and his wife Ana stay busy with two kids. Hunter loves studying the Bible and communicating it in a way which encourages further exploration of others.--contact@parableministries.comhttps://www.parableministries.comhttps://www.instagram.com/parable_ministries/--Music created by Chad HoffmanArtwork created by Anthony Kuenzi

Pickled Parables Presents: A Study of 1 and 2 Peter. Part 6: Zealous for What is Good.Hunter continues to discuss the nature of suffering in the life of a Christian as it relates to their call to do what is right. In short, it both produces and requires zeal.--Scriptures Explored: 1 Peter 3:8-17; 1 Peter 2:20; Matthew 5:38-45; Psalm 34:12-16--Hunter grew up in Montana and now serves the Church in Albany Oregon where he works as a youth and young adults pastor. He and his wife Ana stay busy with two kids. Hunter loves studying the Bible and communicating it in a way which encourages further exploration of others.--contact@parableministries.comhttps://www.parableministries.comhttps://www.instagram.com/parable_ministries/--Music created by Chad HoffmanArtwork created by Anthony Kuenzi

Are you new to the fitness industry and looking for tips on how to be successful? Have you been running your fitness for years and love learning from industry leaders? Then this week's podcast episode is for you. Tune in as the CEO of UFC GYM, Adam Sedlack shares important insights he's learned over the years that will motivate you and help you get ahead in your career. Adam Sedlack grew up in Albany Oregon, and attended college at the University of Nebraska, He made his journey out west to San Diego California where he obtained a summer job at Family Fitness Center which was later acquired by 24 Hour Fitness. What started as a temporary ambition soon turned into a career as he experienced almost every job in a gym including but not limited to the front desk, trainer, salesperson, assistant general manager, and general manager. A fitness industry veteran, Adam has more than three decades of leadership expertise, with 12 of those years dedicated to his role as UFC GYM's president before becoming UFC GYM's CEO. He joined UFC GYM as a co-founder and helped build the concept from the ground up – it was the first major brand extension of UFC. Through Adam's vision and leadership, UFC GYM's footprint has grown to include more than 160 locations throughout 37 countries and continues to expand and evolve with new locations, the introduction of the company's new UFC FIT concept, new technology for group fitness and the gyms, a live streaming workout platform, domestic and international franchise growth, and more. Be sure to take notes as Adam shares the importance of: Keeping your eyes open for new opportunities Having people around you that pull you up rather than down Always being the least skilled person in the room Attention to detail and how when it is intersected with personality and passion it can create incredible results Remembering that everyone has their own story and they are writing their own book Get motivated to take your fitness career to the next level with Adam's wisdom and advice - let's get hacking! Follow the Local Business Hacks podcast for more inspiring interviews, hacks, and insider secrets to help grow your business.

Pickled Parables Presents: A Study of 1 and 2 Peter. Part 2: A Living Hope and Genuine FaithHunter Hoover shares regarding Peter's message about the hope we have in Jesus. If Jesus is living, then the hope we have in him is as well. Likewise, the living hope we have makes us able to endure many trials, resulting in a genuine faith.--Passages Explored: 1 Peter 1:13-2:12; John 20:3-10--Hunter grew up in Montana and now serves the Church in Albany Oregon where he works as a youth and young adults pastor. He and his wife Ana stay busy with two kids. Hunter loves studying the Bible and communicating it in a way which encourages further exploration of others.--contact@parableministries.comhttps://www.parableministries.comhttps://www.instagram.com/parable_ministries/--Music created by Chad HoffmanArtwork created by Anthony Kuenzi

Episode 295 - Session 3 Age Appropriate Conversations - OCEAN Homeschool Conference, Albany, OR - June 2022   Episode 295's video link: https://youtu.be/-1gIvvaeUmY     https://www.oceanetwork.org/    Welcome to healing Lives with Cory Gilbert, a podcast sponsored by the healing Lives center, discover how to love and lead your family well and biblically God created sex marriage and the family for our stewardship growth and benefit my heart and passion is to teach, train educate and disciple christians that want straw long marriages and families. The healing Life center has been serving christians since the year 2000. Its mission is to be a center for sex, trauma and marriage education and transformation where we offer counseling, coaching courses and speaking services to you, your church or ministry. Check us out at Healing lives dot com moms and dads, this is for you. This is a recording of a session I did at the home school conference in june 2022 in Albany Oregon, the ocean homeschool conference and this is session three age appropriate conversations. Alright welcome, welcome. So this session a little different than what we've done before today um the agent conversation we're gonna really literally focus on birth to 56 to 10, what do we talk about how and some of those kind of things so hopefully a very practical application QR code years to access the handouts that'll be later, they're not on there right now and then the record the video recording as well and some other stuff as I continue to do that. So welcome, welcome now, let me start with the story, these are my two boys of years ago Alex and blaze. Um most of us when we, when we go somewhere we tend to have an expectation about what's going to happen at a location. So I love to go skiing, this is who do one of our favorite places to go. It's the last day of the season. Um People were doing some crazy stuff, There's a few up top jumping off with hang gliders and doing some crazy stuff. People wearing um interesting clothes and outfits. Well there was a number of girls wearing um sports bras and my son was like, they're supposed to be wearing those, it's like wear whatever they want business, little kid. Um And so then he went up to one of the guys and said why is she wearing that? Because he's got no filter and he said because she's hot, he's like, so which one is it hot temperature or Anyway, so we went on the day or continued today and then all of a sudden down comes the girls topless, I'm like, oh great, this is gonna be fun, luckily Blaze was nowhere to be found. He did not see this because he would have had a heyday with that one. Instead it was Alex. So I chased after Alex and I get to the bottom of the slope and there's Alex just wide eyed because this was not a small young, small young lady, old lady was not a young lady um she was quite large and she had flown right past him so that I passed her back to him and it's like, so the first time he's like, yes, like how did you like it? I'm not gonna say that cancer. That just totally embarrassed just a horrible moment. He's just shocked. It's not what you expect if you think of what we do as parents, everything we're trying to do is trying to protect them from certain things. Did not expect to go skiing, that they have to have these conversations and what we're gonna see today is actually most everything that's gonna happen is gonna be almost happen outside of our purview or our ability to control, which is why we must be earlier rather than late. A lot of times what I'm seeing is most often we're airing on the side of too late. Even to this point to the point of that our Children will believe almost whatever they hear first. It's just scary to think about. So a number of years ago actually, it was two years ago, California mandated that all kindergartens have to teach all 15 genders. I'm not sure where they got 15 from because Facebook has 75-90 something and they're in California. So they haven't talked. I don't know if they haven't caught up yet, but parents are freaking out because if you live there, you kind of have to have six jobs to live. So you can't have a stay at home mom very easily or dad. So what do you do and then here's what I hear from parents? Well my child is too young for me to teach them but I'm gonna send them to school and they are so not too young for them, them whoever them is but they are too young to know. We need to reverse that. We need to be the ones if they're walking into that school or in that any situation we have prepared them um for what's what's next, Our experience influences our parenting, all of our experiences, do everything that we've been through for some of us, the reason why we actually homeschool, homeschool because of something that happened to us, things that actually harmed us and if we don't deal with those things we actually tend to pass that on in other ways of either over protection or other um setups that actually hurt that child as well. So we're literally today gonna talk through, what does God say about you and what does God say about others in the boundaries. Kind of looking at you and others in terms of these age appropriate conversations. Now I know some of you may not like movies may not like um you enjoy, I love movies, I love going to the movies, I love tv shows and you can't watch one nowadays, something it's really frustrating, so either inappropriate or something just downright wrong and almost everything and you have to make a decision as a family. So what do I do with that? How do I navigate that? I can either avoid it all all completely or there's lots of conversations that after we had the first time that we were watching The Voice. I love that tv show and these two kids get up to sing together and it was a guy and a girl except there were twin girls and one had transitioned and my son's like what we pause and have a conversation. Well, a number of years ago I took my kids to see this movie ready player one great movie. Really interesting movie. Um I have a I think it was like a 10 year old, eight year old and a six year old something around that age range two boys and a girl, like kids were watching this movie set in the future and basically people escape the crazy world they live in through VR so not too far away now where there another lovely Oculus, but there's this one scene that came in came on there that it's just like uncomfortable wasn't bad, but I'm uncomfortable as a dad sitting next to my two sons and my daughter. So after this was over, we get home, I asked them so separately, tell me about what you liked about this movie. And so this was the scene here is when she was there in the VR Personas and she's dressed in this really tight form dress really pretty well. My oldest son, he was just uncomfortable kind of like me. He was very aware that um and this is not, I'm not sure what to do with this, no place to put this in my head. Um My other son, there's a VR suits that they wear actually do pressure points on the body. So if you get hit somewhere you feel it in your body. So he just loved the scene with the guy kicked in the crotch and he got hurt through the R. And he just looked so funny. Just that was his, that's all he could think about. But my daughter was like, oh, what a beautiful dress. She just thought that was such a pretty dress. And to see all three of our kids are going to face these questions and these things at different ages when we talk as a family about these topics, we actually, we have a tend to have a room full of different age groups. You can't, you could, I guess if you have all sorts of time, segregate out, we're gonna talk to this age group here in the States group, then you have to keep notes by the way, records like a committee to know which kid if you talk to. What about No, we don't do that. What we do is we actually have conversations and the older kids tend to be the focus and the younger ones are kind of, there kind of like, even for today, when they're younger and they don't understand what's going on. They tend to just not understand what's going on. Like I really, we air on the other side, we're on the side of protecting them from versus preparing because when they're ready, they'll finally have a file folder to stick that information and it's like, it just kind of sits there waiting and they're not ready when I deal with kids who've been been sexually abused and I'm talking to the parents usually at this point it's preparing them for when their brain finally catches up to what actually happened to them physically. And when they finally come to an awareness, it's like, oh that's what that was. Oh, and then there's a 22 pathways, one of just going downhill introversion or acting out like crazy. It's like, it'd be nice to find either one of those and find a third alternative to what's gonna potentially happen. And so when we have these kinds of things, you and I all, we're all trying to navigate and decide what's the right thing I should do and what's, what's the wrong thing there, You can talk to our kids, you can talk to kelly and I so many examples where I can tell you, I probably do that different. We could all probably commit straight on the things that we would say, I would do different. But one thing I would say is critical is for you and I to see that a key responsibility is sex ed for our kids. It's way more than just sex ed is the whole idea of who you are, how you were made, how God made you the stuff we talked about earlier today. What does this include? This is what I why I wrote this. I can't say that book is really focusing on this is our responsibility. We need to learn about basic human sexuality, just how do things work. And most of us never learn this stuff I never did. And I got into this as I saw client after client not knowing what to do. And so I just kept studying and studying and studying and learning, saying for trauma, I don't have a history of trauma, became a passion because of so many clients with so much pain. And I'm going, I've got to learn to help and digging in and you each have your different areas of gifting and interest, but how can we come together as well and raise great Children. That actually key as an adult love the Lord in terms of who they are, we need to become a confident parent. But how do we do that is through knowledge is learning, we need to learn. So this, I can't say that book is actually about that. How do I as a parent know what I believe and then how do I then teach that age appropriate level, you know, a theology of Sex brain and sex brain and love theology of marriage, one of my favorite chapters in the book. My wife wanted me to delete. Um she was my editor is the one on the brain on sex and the brain of love. It's all these neuro, the neuroscience stuff, all the neurotransmitters and the hormones and it's like all of nerdy. Um and what does it show? It shows a beautiful design by incredible creator. That's what I love about that, why we do what we do is for a reason and because of the design when we understand it, it's like, oh, that makes sense why we do that example. Um we tend to say men are pigs when it comes to dating our affairs like acting out well yeah, more men in the past long time in the past would have affairs and less women accept who they were, they having it with another whole subject until the Industrial revolution happened as the woman left the farmhouse and she started going out to the workforce. The adultery rates for the wives increased as well. The truth is, we're all a mess. You need to be careful with some of these stereotypes even use um I have clients who have, he's had the affairs of clients where she has like it's an equal opportunity employer here. We need to understand how were made and then a belief system and that's a really important thing now for you and I and the point of this is either I do or someone else does you've got to make that decision. What I am seeing in my practice is the decision has been made. I'm gonna let the school, I'm gonna let the internet, I'm gonna let porn, I'm gonna let friends, I'm gonna let everyone else go there because my kids not a teenager yet, Like actually when your kid turns 11 or 12, we're pretty much done parenting. If you didn't know that In the way that you think of parenting. If you don't pivot at that 11 or 12 age you're now fighting against basically current. Sometimes if you don't change the way you approach them because you're releasing them little by little and they know it all. If you didn't know that they know it all. So you have to prepare them for that stage. And so when you prepare them it's in the single digits, it's gonna be when they're younger. So let's look through these these ages. So what does God say about you and I'm going to put this into two categories you and others. Um here, so birth to five, we're gonna kind of use that as the first category two of our kiddos. We like to cover the blood in the beginning. What do we talk to our kids about? They need to understand basic Anatomy. Basic Anatomy. And here's the piece without basic anatomy correct body part vocabulary. Why is this important? It's more important for later when there's trauma and the vocabulary has been taught, it's much easier to cut as much as understood when there's not the vocabulary, they're so much more gets actually missed as an adult because we don't understand what they're saying. My daughter one time was saying, my bottom hurts, my bottom hurts, my bottom hurts holding her front. She didn't have a word for it. And then my wife goes, why didn't know what to call it? It's a Volvo, you say vagina, but that's the inside. We need to know what to call it. And we get embarrassed by these words and said, no, we need to teach them at one and two. This is how you're made. This is a beautiful part of how you're made. And then there are boundaries around that. This is an interesting one. Be sure not to stereotype what is boy or girl but emphasized they are a boy or girl. A lot of our young people are growing up going, there's something broken with me because I'm not doing what other boys do or other girls do or because I like this, there's something wrong with me and because our culture is so good. It's saying then therefore you must be something you're not because there's no one, no man is trans, transition to a woman and no woman has transitioned to man that's impossible. Um, we don't, we aren't, we are a male or female by birth that can have very different ways to express who we are and how we live that out and that they were loved by God and their family. These are the key kind of foundations about them that we actually start with, Not when they're 6, 7, 8. This is the beginning now in that birth to five, what are some other key parts of this about others, recognizing that others and their bodies are different. You're gonna start helping them notice that you're gonna use shows and movies use friends, you're gonna use each other, but how, how to recognize that there's a difference there and then begin teaching of appropriate touch towards and from others. This is when the seeds are planted on this before age five. Why at 87 by age seven, they're full identity is in place, the full personality is replaced, which is crazy to think about by age seven. This is mark. This season is marked by curiosity and exploration, curiosity, exploration. This is what this is about. They're not broken when they're curious and exploring yet. I feel like what we do is we tend to think that interactions trying to correct them when it's like, no, they're being to there being four, there being five, so understanding what's even normal and appropriate. So this is just the beginning. This is the one I feel like you miss a lot, but the next one is where I feel like you missed the most. So this is that window where you're building a foundation as a mom and dad, as a leader as a parent for what needs to happen in 6-10. This is probably the most important category or space or time frame and in your child's development. So what happens here? More descriptive anatomy? You're upping the game about what kind of the way we talk about bodies understand the body. Um, we had a conversation recently where we're talking about, um, was it, um, circumcision, circumcision, circumcision. And so it was actually fun, pull out the anatomy book and here's what it is. You know, we didn't disrobe. We didn't do anything inappropriate. We used resources we have and talk through what is it why? And then talk about, hey, there's a debate about it and on and on and on. Your planting seeds. Some of you can probably give more data than others about what you've researched to learn about some of these things, depending on your field of expertise or passions or interests. This is a season where we're actually really gonna be talking about sexual identity and was noticed we aren't even an adolescent yet. We are not an adolescent ship. We're talking here about a foundation. We hear from young people at a time. I've always felt different since I was single digits. That's a very normal part of see people's story. Okay, so we need to go back there and talk about. So what is it that came out there And what we're really seeing is a lot of our struggle and sexual identity and Jordan Peterson recently really said it? Well, he said it's personality. We need to stop calling it, what they're calling it or what the culture is calling it, Its personality. I am a love, I crochet, cross stitch. I love music. I have a bachelor's of music, I'm very much that artsy kind of world and in the end I'm still the guy, I'm still the guy just like a woman who loves to hunt and loves to fish and loves to mud and love all that kind of stuff isn't because she likes that. Maybe she's in the wrong body. We need to be really careful because our culture is pushing something that is downright harmful. So how do we engage in that? We have to catch this earlier? We need to go into this other really, really hard conversation at this age. The N word, We need to talk about masturbation and how we actually talk about it really is important. If it's this is bad, this is simple. You're going to hell, I promise you, your kid will suffer, suffer in silence and they will not talk to you versus it. Being a conversation. I actually asked my sons about what their masturbation practices every few weeks or so. Do they answer me no, they did when they were younger, but what do they tell, what do I do by asking the question, It actually moves it out of their unconscious to the conscious and they have to decide, do I take my thoughts captive? Do I steward this or I just do something passively as a habit, it gives them a chance to steward something that really just tends to fly under the radar by asking these questions. You need a theology of this as part of what I have in my book, is both of them, Is this how do I talk through this? Really? How? It's a controversially tense topic. When I started teaching in Georgia, I had um the counselor was on stage doing Q and A the students, I'm like second year teacher and the question of masturbation came up and the counselor actually said this from stage in front of 1000 students, Oh ask dr Gilbert about that, he's an expert at that. So I had a lot of students going backward, which you're an expert in. Thanks. That's really embarrassing way. I think I was 30 actually 30 31. So it's like, wow, this is really not good. We need to know how to talk through this. And one of the kind of a simple summary of the way I talk through this is we need to stop, just say, hey, this is sin, stock your hand, move on, we need to help you Stuart what's happening in your head heart and the fantasy and when I engage in this practice and I actually growing closer to who I'm fantasizing about getting further away and when I start consciously thinking about this, I'm getting further away and now I have a choice. Do I want to get closer to this person or further away? And now I actually have the choice and I tend to hear from most of the guys and girls I talked to actually don't want to do it as much anymore. Like I actually, in stewarding now have choice now where it felt like it was some beast within that couldn't couldn't control. That's because it was in the unconscious and I just had it. And a lot of what's happening for us is just having the same for even pornography. This is a stage of talking about dignity and modesty. You each of your families are gonna outline what does that mean for your son or your daughter, how you dress and how you present yourself? My daughter gotta pack a whole bunch of hand me down clothes at one point and my wife pulls out this sports bra and she's like, so is this gonna be what what's the rule or a home and underclothes only or she can wear this around the house, which is fine when they're little. We're also planting seeds as they grow up. And so my comment was that under clothes and it becomes we set the tone. So do you, I feel like we don't tend to do it thoughtfully. We just kind of let it happen, but this is that stage prior to the fight later on about whether something is inappropriate or not. You're, you're planning seeds as to what our home expects if you will. And then it's a dialogue as they get older, especially past this age. Um, this is a time of negotiating back and forth as they have their own personality and opinion and you're wanting to relate to them. You have the veto card as a parent. But how do I draw them to their own? Um, not to believe what you believe exactly, but to think through what they're doing pornography, The average age that a kid sees porn is in the single digits. We don't wait til they're 10, 11, 12 to start talking about this. Now, many of our families, maybe that's not the case because of the way we've set up media at home or access to stuff. Great. It's gonna happen at some someplace. And actually most of the time it's somewhere outside the, the tight rained web of control that you've created as a parent, It's sitting in the hallway at youth group at church or at the pastor's house or somewhere. You never would have guessed that somebody pulls out a device and start looking at something and you need to have helped them think through that when that happens, their immediate response is, hey, we don't do that. It's not curiosity. It's not intensity, curiosity apparently discussed in the first time for many boys and girls, but then curiosity tends to trumpet help them see that no, we don't treat people that way. We have a boundary. Why you've already prepped them Talking through. This is something that is a misuse of people. Now, one of the places we're going in our culture with this is, I don't know if you've heard of ethically sourced pornography. So welcome to, I guess it's like free range chickens. I don't know. So it's not people who have been trafficked or abused or, but this is scary trying to normalize what even secular culture is saying. You know what, this is a health hazard. This is a bad thing for our world. Even secular researchers are saying this is a bad idea as they just keep getting pushed more and more and more and more. It's just normalized even and among our kids in the circle of friends that they have in ours, all of our kids, some of those kids because of where they have or haven't had these conversations. It's very much either normal if not pushed. So that's something we have to be preparing them for to think through to steward, even though we would really wish to say they're not old enough, they're not, you're not, we shouldn't have to deal with this, but it's the world we live in. So we need to prep them. Another one is periods and what dreams prep. It blows our mind. The amount of women I've talked to who they thought they were dying. No young lady should come to that age and think they're dying. They should have had conversations to know what's coming next, how my wife's in the bathroom on her period and my daughter is going, what is she doing? And my son is standing right there and it's, well, she's having her period and that's explaining what it's what happens and why and God's design and they go, they go through, they have the reactions, but it becomes something that's just a normal part, not an assault on myself. Whereas I've heard from so many. I literally found myself somewhere thinking I'm dying. That's not okay. Wet dreams. The young young men need to know what this is and have been explained and talked through it and helping normalize that. So they're prepared for what's going to happen. And they're also not messed up with that gender. You are a boy or a girl doesn't matter how many of you under your onesie doesn't mean your onesie. It doesn't matter if you want to dress a certain way. It doesn't matter what you wanna do. I love putting on my grandmother's house, the high heels and all that stuff with my million female cousins that whatever they did to dress me up as a little kid. That doesn't mean you're not a boy or a girl means you're playing a game. So be careful. But yet what I see is these families who have changed the decor of their home and their kids bedroom bought new clothes, bought toys and it's like that kid didn't have a job, mom and dad did that and they cater to something that's a lie. And now we got even a bigger problem we had before to be really careful to guide and lead them even though it sounds and feels unloving. We need to talk to each of our sons and daughters and how you are fearfully wonderfully made and how you live that out. It's gonna be different than maybe someone else because we're constantly comparison comparing. We begin this stage talking about sexual reproduction as well, how late out there, there's actually a box set and I'll have a link on my blog and my blog got messed up. So to redo it, but there's a box set of what we have, the books we had on our shelf, age appropriate kind of little picture book. It's a great set where the kids who just pulled off the shelf, start talking about it. Really, really good. And sometimes we would go find the book and pull up, pull off the shelf and talk to our kids. Remember the first time Alex came up asked a question, we pulled the book out actually, kelly said Corey Help and we pulled the book out, read it and he's like, okay, off the plane, like, but then the next time he asked the same question and he's like, oh like it's like it finally landed, you're, you're wanting to be ahead of that curve, not behind that curve where he said maybe asking questions where you shouldn't or google or Alexa or somewhere else. Um and the important thing about this stage is personality of sevens don't have age seven who they are and here's the even creepier thing. What is going to change that personality after the age of seven? Drama, trauma careful what you pray for and actually sometimes that is what we need to pray for. We need to pray for our son or daughter. Be broken to get it. I'd rather than break here to come to christ than to live a life apart from you. So it's like we should be careful what you pray for but be intentional by, by seven years old. Some parents are still trying to find sleep like it's an elusive thing and they're trying to, it's just survival, which is why we need one another. We need our churches, we need family relationships. We're not supposed to do this alone now the same stage. What about others? We need to be planting the seeds at this stage. What this whole boyfriend girlfriend thing is. What are your rules? What is your parameters for this when our kids were that young? Our conversation was you could start dating when you're a junior or senior in college at that age, they're like whatever. They don't know what that even means. And then our oldest gets 12, 13. He starts liking girls. And it's like okay, passport purity. What did that actually at nine did that with him. And we have these conversations and then he starts being interested in girls. And so how do you handle that? Well he knows it's not a rule but you can't it's careful expecting you have to and then when you do start actually being serious with someone and we're all going to differ on what that age should be. What's next? What are the boundaries? Can you only do? Only spend time at someone's house. You know? Can you go out by yourself when they turn 16 and they can drive what is it? You're planting these seeds? Not at 10, 11, 12, 13, 14 you're doing it and then single digits. So that when you get here you're having less of a battle because we are having for many of us our adolescent years or a battle of the will or because I'm the parent card between careful of. So at this point you need to be planting the seeds of what is our family's expectations of boyfriend girlfriend. That's a note that here the boundaries or this seems to be done. Um I if you have a daughter already ready to have my a r. table and tell the young man. Alright put it back together and see how that goes over. She's 11. So not there yet. Another one that we actually need to talk about the masturbation piece but from the others. What about other people? It's not just a personal thing and we need to externalize this that when you do this yourself, how did this impact? Because I kind of mentioned earlier other people in relationships and so this comes up here on the others because it's a boundary to need to see that my choice actually impacts how I relate to other people. I say I want to get closer to him or her. What I'm doing is actually making me go further and further away my heart. So when I'm aware that I'm more in control if you will trauma and abuse. Another really, really important area we talked about in the beginning an earlier age that we actually prepped in terms of vocabulary. It's for this every time my kids stayed with a babysitter when they left and I would tell my these were students in Georgia, they were students of mine. And so they knew that because I would say this in class that when they left I would ask my sons and daughter about anyone touch you didn't change your diaper? Did anyone at these earlier ages. I wasn't looking for them to tell me the truth. I knew that was far fetched. I was looking for them to change the way they were answering me because then I know something happened one day I came home. We came home and our lovely amazing babysitter was like freaked out. He's like your son, I deleted it already, but your son took my phone and took a picture of his penis. What in the world. So sometimes your kids would just be nuts but intended on that work. Anyway, she deleted the pictures supposedly. Um, that's gonna happen. You wanna prep even like my babysitters, our college students, they knew that I was gonna do that. It wasn't something covert, kind of like the teddy bear cam. It wasn't that they know and we have cameras around our house mainly aimed at screens so I can pull my phone out and check and see what's on the screen in our house. And that's what we've given us freedom to. We're here without our kids, which is kind of nice pornography is another one that also applies. What about others And these stages were preparing for what we also don't want to ever have to happen. I'd love for you never look at pornography. I'd love for you never have trauma. I would love for you to never be abused. But the reality is that many will we want to prepare them to not freeze. Fight flight is great. We don't want freeze. So we want to be able to prepare them by teaching some of these skills, which is really important When it comes to pornography. We Wanna teach about where, where this stuff is coming from and the human trafficking and things like that. Oh, they're too young. No, they're not when at this age they start connecting the little boys and little girls just like me gets Dolan off the I-5 corridor right here from parking lots along this. They start seeing the world a little different. You're not there to scare them and you be careful. Every kid's got a different sensitivity level. But helping them see that this is a world that we need to be smart to be wise to do things in twos to be in groups to be careful with that. How do I be a friend? What does that look like? This is again that stage where they're learning and they're, they're relating who first to mom and dad, who else siblings. And then it goes, it gets the circle gets bigger and bigger. We moved here to Oregon from Georgia. We realized like our kids, their whole world was that one little house in Georgia that we lived in. It's kind of neat and weird to think about their whole world was that house church, but they were so little. There's not much else that they did and to see that they not only drove across country, which we've done tons of times since, but their world was expanding and that's what we want. We want the world to expand. We want more control over it probably than um, than not. But another really important part of this section is they are under authority. This is so critical that these young men and young women actually really call them boys and girls that are rioting and throwing chairs through windows in Portland and Seattle places. They need spankings first of all, but they need parenting. What's missing is no, we don't do that basic stuff that shows where we have failed culturally where we can go, hey, we can really do a really good job of this. Um that they are under authority. All authority, how they treat a police officer, any anyone, their teachers, even a teacher, They disagree with how they treat authority And then it starts at home mom and dad that's a biblical mandate. This um stage is marked by experimentation and pushing of boundaries yet. We haven't even gotten down to lessons yet. So think about that. Those that have raised kids know very much what I'm talking about. Many of us, my mom and dad, we wouldn't even have these talks until after these ages. This is this ain't Kansas no more. It is time to really be intentional and prepare and protect, prepare them for what they're gonna face sometimes right around the corner. I've talked to young women who in their own parents house. Um, around the corner from mom and dad as in feet around the corner they were assaulted by your neighbor friend. This isn't they went to some far off place or was it some scary dark dark alley. It was right there in front of, around the corner from someone who thought they were, you can't be all eyes all there all the time protecting them. So at a young age we want to prepare them to be to make decisions, to make judgment calls even though in the end we would say, oh they're not ready. I agree yet. It's kind of funny to watch how they actually do step up and they do, which is really cool. Now we get into age 11-17. So now this is when we actually might start maybe thinking of considering having the talk uh and your kid goes so long and what do you want? What do you want to know? They're ready to tell us about sexting. We haven't heard of that before. Or mom, have you seen Tiktok and they're completely addicted to all sorts of crazy stuff and we're clueless if we haven't been monitoring those things and trying to stay on top of what our kids are facing. When I wrote this book to I I put micro conversations through the whole thing. I love that phrase and then I realized later a lot of them are conversations, There are many lectures so careful to not expect a dialogue. A lot of parents I talked to. This is why I kind of came to my mind was they they say well I try to engage and they would engage. Don't let that stop you. You telling them the truth or teaching them something. And they have zero response doesn't mean it didn't land. So plant the seeds, plant the seeds, have those little mini lecture conversations. If they talk, that's a bonus. Most of our kids when something goes wrong, they're probably not going to talk to us if yours is a kid that came to you and expressed someone touched me or someone did this, your anomaly. That's not normal that the kid goes and tells mom or dad. So be thankful for that. We need to prepare them to go talk to someone. Um, they might find they have a better relationship with their youth pastor or their small group leader in the youth group or their coach and you want to be able to curate and know who those people are when our, one of our sons at one point fessed up to having seen pornography. Um, he did it in a small group of church and what does most of his small group leader do, he said, so are you gonna tell them or am I? And it went up to change their, the youth pastor and the youth pastor to us. And he already told us. Um, but it was awesome. We're like, thank you those, thank you, thank you for loving our son enough to not just go, okay, this is private. Now we're gonna keep it, which is what I'm hearing from so many groups. Youth groups Now this age right here 11-17, this is the age you want to hang on for dear life. It shouldn't be. This is a young adult in a sense. But then five minutes later they're crying too. So it's kind of this maybe it's just bipolar, I don't know, were all diagnosed bipolar in this stage. Um, there's a really good book that talks about this stage of being the age of opportunity trip, maybe not such a great concept. This should be the time when you're building a relationship with them and helping them expand their tools and their experiences and their their set of skills and what they can do. This is a time of identity, but it's not just the sexual part. Who am I? How do I dress? How do I present myself? How tough am I? How sweet am I? How strong am I? How you name it? These are different struggles that our our teens are struggling with and trying to figure out that they are fearfully and wonderfully made to understand the bible and what it says and then how that applies to God did not make a mistake and put you in the wrong body at all. So what you gonna do with that very different message than what he's what he or she has been given elsewhere. That as a body, your body is a temple, as a believer. Every sin you commit is outside your body. You know what I just said? You're not a mistake. You're not trapped in their own body, but you have a personality. This is how God made you. What are you gonna do with that? And I feel like especially the last two years, there's so many young people who have no clue. I didn't take the next step because stuff has been stolen from them, ripped from them, taken from them more. I believe the pandemic is starting now. It's mental health, shake some bias there, look at the data, it's terrifying suicide. The amount of a s that never should have shut down because it was a choice between I'm going to die of Covid, I'm gonna die of my addiction and they died of their addiction. Like this is what's happened. We know that. How are we gonna fix that? It starts a lot with our home, but also then prepping our kids to maybe sometimes be the person someone else leans on, especially in this stage of life, which is really difficult. And we're continuing to develop that understanding of sexual reproduction. What does it mean when we talk about sex, it's all fun and games in a lot of the way it's sold and talked about every bit of it. It's all fun. It's like, no, sex is meant to make a baby every time by the way, every time we have intercourse. Now, thank goodness. It doesn't. We have a lot of babies, but the design is so then it blows my mind how many people are scratching their heads. I don't know how he got pregnant. So we need to be able to talk about this the way that the number one thing that comes out of this is a baby design but other benefits is it's supposed to be a fun time, supposed to be a good thing. It's supposed to be a beautiful thing and it has boundaries. It has a context. There's a place for this outside of that. It's actually I brace my heart to think of how many wonder how many kids they have or wonder what is happening. What scares me even more guys and girls, this is not an equal opportunity employer here. What is the most feared STD? Mhm. Hey, this is the first one that comes up is number nine on the list for eight other ones that are worse. Which is like that one cause it's hip and popular. Just kidding babies. Number one is babies. We treat them like they're just some accident. Oops, I have a script, scratch your itch. What's scary is some of those top ones media and things like that have zero symptoms. And when you finally find out when you're trying to have kids when you're married. If you have it more than once and again, this is women, your potential, your potential for being able to have a baby goes into like the 20% and a radical hysterectomy is next. This is not fair. So then I would say, guys, this is on men to step up and be the man and actually never, ever, ever, ever put a woman in that kind of position. Mhm. It's on them. And biblically, that's actually exactly the design of marriage. But the ownership of this is on the men. What actually is the reality? The man pushes and pushes and pushes and who's having to constantly say no and say no and say no. It's horrifying. So how we teach this, what kind of man are you gonna be is really, really critical? How do you refrain from sexual immorality? Does that look like temptation? Hey, that's normal desire. Yeah, that's, that's there no matter what age you are. How do you manage social media? There's a really easy way to manage social media by the way. It's called not having it. Um I used to get Corbin, I would always create a facebook group with our freshmen coming in. It's been actually really cool. The amount of freshmen coming in don't have facebook mainly to mom and dad around there. But um, it's changing. But what's scary is they're moving to probably worse places with Snapchat and Tiktok basically some of the most popular and what's happening. We're losing our kids. Actually, some of you are lost to your relationship with your phone is a little more intimate than your spouse. So just saying, we need to be careful and we're not always the best example of that. So managing social media what you do or don't do what you do and don't post some of you need to stop commenting on other people's stuff because you're just starting a fire and stop it and go play with the kids or something, go do something different. But we have become the example and we need to talk through this with them because at some point you're gonna have to probably let them have something. When is that? Well, here's what I'm seeing. I'm seeing a lot of homeschool families who is boundary boundary boundary there, 18. Alright, leave the house and now it's everything is available. I don't have mom and dad now so I can get a phone. Never had a phone before. Now I can get social media I never had before. Now I get and they're going crash in the brain because everything is fair game. We need to be careful how we navigate this to help them make decisions within our purview. So then we then take away those, they're actually making wise decisions. So how you manage that's really difficult. Who are their idols and who influences them. Really, really important. A lot of it, whether it's a movie star or whether it's a Tiktok performer or a youtuber. Um These these people are important. What do they represent? What are they teaching dating courting further defined boundaries at this point. What does that look like? The session I did before. We talked through kind of a design about? And again we have pornography. This doesn't change. This is something to steward and to understand the effects. And this stage is marked by experimentation and identity Erickson stages of development from psychobabble stuff. This is the stage of identity formation. What it is neat to see that way back when was still identified as that and we're still kind of in the same space although We create adolescence and that goes to what 17, 18, 19 maybe? Or does it go to 30? Like that's even changed where you think of a few generations ago, how many were married at 14 and running the household? And it was normal, It wasn't like an overburdened thing. So we've changed a lot and need to adapt to those changes. And there's some expectations to you probably can expect more out of your 12-13 year old than you realize chores that kind of stuff starts at home. How are you treating others? This is again how how did they live this out? What does the bible say not mom and dad and social media. So getting them back to the bible. What that what it says, deepening their identity? Are you kind respectable, respectful? What is your work ethic is being played out? How do you love and talk to have relationships with men and women who are L. G. B. T. Q. I. Plus something we never even conceived of when we were kids. How do you love? How do you? And love is not endorsed. Love has not become a ally. Love is not um, put a flag in front of your house, Love is not all these things that have become love is saying, I love you so much, I'm calling you to a higher basically level, but here's what scripture says and your life will be way better here, which is really important to be aware of decisions that cannot be unmade, supposedly our prefrontal cortex isn't developed till What age? 25. How many knuckleheaded stuff have we done in high school and college? It's like, that's scary where you go to school matters the kind of parties you do or don't go to matter the kind of relationships you make matter and there are some decisions you can make that you can't unmake and so being able to really intentional curating your life, being careful that and you're helping them do that maintain integrity of your convictions and what God is saying, we need to know God's word. This is really, really critical now today from this, I spent less time on scripture. I did more of that earlier in the two sessions today because today was more of these topics. What do we say, what we talk about? Um this is what we're seeing more of, this is the norm. My wife and I were at a restaurant not too long ago and we looked over and there was six or eight college students and they had a stack of iphones on the end of the table. It's awesome. There was one girl who was orchestrating this. So it shows you can, you can influence your friends when they went to the bathroom, she passed out all the phones because one of them makes a noise and they all look at them and they check their phones and they won. The last person came back from the bathroom that she's given back piled up on the end. Like we need friends like that, that's a leader of and they're leading in the right direction that too many of us are not present. And they've even shown research that your phone, if it's just sitting out in front of you, you're showing you're not present, it's more important than you are put it away. You know, you could also do what my wife doesn't just lose it all the time. But what do we do with this? So we can kind of give you three words and then kind of some list to kind of finish this here. Um put this together a couple years ago thinking about these the, I guess plan that I would want for you for your kids. The first is a vision. If we don't we don't have where we wanna go, it's kind of hard to make decisions today. We just kind of weakened kind of just going halfway and I want to focus in on a vision for growth and maturity. So what are those things that need to be given to our sons and daughters to help them navigate? They will make their decisions. But I want to plant these, It's a biblical picture of masculinity and femininity. What are their spousal standards, sexual boundaries And you know, this is one narrow path, there's lots of other ones. So I'm not talking about how you're gonna manage money or all that other stuff. This is really critical as the area. I spend most of my time in. What does it look like to be a man to be a woman, to be a husband, to be a wife. What do you expect? What are your absolutes? We would not do. And then where do we get this from? And this is where you and I come in as moms and dads, we develop a code at home. What does that? Family code in our home come look like? We need to have rites of passage, significant tasks, logical consequences into trace deposits are home needs to be a place where we actually helped celebrate the milestones that our kids are going through. We're one of the few countries that doesn't have some really serious you are now no longer a boy, you're a man, you're now no longer a girl, you're a woman. I remember being in seminary walking down the hall of the girls dorm. I was an electrician there and you're supposed to yell what man in the hall. And I was like boy on the whole, I didn't even say the word man because I was like, oh, I don't know. There needs to be logical consequences. Some of you are too soft, toughen up. There needs to be some natural consequences. Call the cops maybe, but maybe preferably you handle some things first now just let things happen. There needs to be things that they do. There needs to be actually Grace. Our pastor mentioned recently how we've done a really good job of moving more towards grace. We've also gotten away from obedience and years and years and years ago when he started, it was all about obedience and not a lot of grace pendulum and be careful with that. I don't know why I put this in here, but I thought it was really cool. Your son hates us. We won't let him play football, but we like his brain. So he decided to karate now and he's gonna say, so play in college. We'll see. And then the 3rd 1, cause what does this look like finding a cause to fight for, how are you going to impact or going or we're going to impact others for the better. It's really cool to look at a young person who knows they want to be a doctor, I wanna be this or want to be that. That's such a cool, it's so also cool to see how many don't become that. Um because God has a different plan. My goal was to be a missionary and go back to south America and work in the music and you have to have talent. So I didn't know that. I tried to go that direction. Um and I had passion and I see how God used that to turn corners and take me to the next step. The next step. You need to help your child find that. And it may not be you who's doing a lot of that navigating maybe actually other people you're curating, you're bringing into the fold if you will and you want to be the one that helps do that. Not kind of just whatever happens or whatever group they end up at. Um this also goes for us, Why are you doing what you're doing? Some of you have jobs, you hate some of you have jobs you hate but you love the job because it provides the money to do this stuff you love and you have a good balance there. Some of you just hate your job and your life and everything else. That's a problem. Like you created it. I see couples, it's like we hate each other. It's like great, you created this marriage blame who you, hey, how are we gonna fix this? We need to change our tactics and learn that. I can choose to love you or I can choose not to. That scares me. It scares me, I have that free will I choose to love you or I choose not to. This passage really hit me years ago and just keep coming back to the what is our call and then we're going to raise our sons hours to do teach the older men to be temperate, worthy of respect self control. Likewise teach the older women reverend in the way they live and then they can train the young women to love their husbands and Children and to be self controlled and pure, similarly encourage young men to be self controlled, live self controlled, upright and Godly lives in this present age. I think I sense a theme in that and I need to actually be in control of myself, not others do and I just react or I just am own have take responsibility become the young man, young woman that you choose to be and that's again when you get that vision and you have reasons to actually gets a lot easier to make decisions and to become the man or woman that God calls you to do and I just threw that in there because it's a cool picture now I did this session earlier but this is a created this seminar less sex dating and marriage and it goes through these four areas and it's for this purpose, it's about seven hours long, but it's looking at dating and then looking at questions to ask and things we talked about earlier. But then a picture of, so let me paint a picture of what marriage could be like and when I get that locked in, I actually look at my decisions today and realized I'm settling for playing with play doh versus actually having something amazing. I actually wait. I need to have a reason to and a lot of times we do is try to scare kids with pictures of stds in health class or you might get pregnant. But when you know everything and you're immune to any consequences. Adolescence then doesn't land. But when you develop a vision for yourself, it's funny how my decisions today, I own them And I'm actually a little more protective of that. And this last one, the number one area that we can predict the future marriages outcome, which is scary, John Gottman says with a 94% accuracy is how you handle conflict and they're learning it from us first by the way. So we're the first examples of that and so helping teach them how to engage in debate, engage in conflicts and disagree, but also be respectful and B is a critical skill to help them grow up into the mainland and that they, we want them to be. So the statement again that I'll keep saying either I do or someone else does just actually scary to think about or the weights on us are you gonna make mistakes? We all are actually. We get that out of the way. We can realize that I can choose to make the mistakes and give my kids probably the best gift I can give them. Say I'm sorry and ask ask for forgiveness and be teachable. We don't want to be some parent that seems to have it all together and the kid looks at and goes well, I can't be like them to forget everything. Them and their god, they show fallibility were much more real for them to actually listen to and watch because they are watching 12, that's my son blaze. Thank you very much. Thanks for having. Thank you for tuning in to the HealingLives with Corey Gilbert podcast. It has been an honor to serve if you're struggling have questions or in need. Dr Gilbert offers a free consultation for new clients. Check us out at healing lives dot com to book a call. 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Episode 294 - Session 2 Love Sex Dating and Marriage for Teens - OCEAN Homeschool Conference, Albany, OR - June 2022   Episode 294's video link: https://youtu.be/GMHLnvOL0jQ    https://www.oceanetwork.org/   Welcome to HealingLives with Corey Gilbert, a podcast sponsored by the HealingLives Center, discover how to love and lead your family well and biblically God created sex marriage and the family for our stewardship growth and benefit my heart and passion is to teach, train educate and disciple christians that want strong marriages and families. The HealingLives Center has been serving christians since the year 2000. Its mission is to be a center for sex, trauma and marriage education and transformation, where we offer counseling, coaching courses and speaking services to you, your church or ministry. Check us out at HealingLives.com. Today's session is geared towards teens and pre teens, so parents that are listening listen away, but this is for your teen or preteen. Um this is a recording of a seminar that I did Session two at the ocean homeschool conference in june 2022 in Albany Oregon called love sex dating and marriage for teens. Welcome Okay, so this QR code here will take you to the power point later. You wanna it's also the same one on the cards. Um and also the recordings and stuff like that and other things will have to be kind of for this conference. Mr reminder there, but let me start with kind of the elephant in the room in the sense of the title Love sex dating and marriage is kind of in the wrong order. If you haven't noticed, I had a lot of people over there has had this title for a long time. Um and they're like that's the wrong order. I know it sounds better that way. It's also the way we're doing things nowadays. It's messed up. So one of the goals today is to give you a framework that's different. Many of us have heard the word dating and heard the recording, but half of us use it in different ways than others. And so what do we do kind of talk to that? Um this website here, you can actually this, I have a seven hour version of this course. We're gonna cram into this next hour where I really talk through the book of world view and picture of marriage and dating to do this. Well, because I really do believe my heart's passion is that you marry. Well that you actually find someone that your partner, your best friend for life and that you want to do life with and this isn't something you want to come into with collateral damage galore. So how to do that. So teens I'm really gonna be talking to you by the way. So those in the room that are teens, you're my audience. The rest are just here because they thought they had to whatever. So, I'm gonna be talking to you mostly because to me again, this is such a passionate, important thing. Even the let's talk about sex part. Sex is the draw in some sense, but it's not the most important piece of this puzzle when it comes to marriage. I have a classy one that I have icing on the cakes. The sexual part should be a really good part of the US. It's not the most important part. But when I see a client see a couple struggling and they're struggling in their sex life, it's because it's the most important part of that moment. It becomes a deal breaker, which is heartbreaking that we let something so small in some sense, but so precious, hurt us harmless. Um, when you do this, by the way, when you do this whole marriage thing, this is what happens. It's pretty awesome. Best day of my life. I still can't believe it. We're in 19 years. So we're just barely getting started um, incredible what happens. But when this happens then this happens, they start coming like awesome. I think we have kids because the health issues I've had and it's been amazing to see these three experiments is what I call them grow up and realize that they have free will and I don't like that. I just don't. It's like I remind them, you don't have hate the free will you make your own decisions. Every one of your teams are gonna make your own decisions and you're gonna make decisions that are gonna have an impact on your life forever. So the picture for today is this one we're gonna talk about this bridge. Um, and I take this weird looking bridge because I was like, this is kind of what dating is like, it's a roller coaster type thing, but we're gonna go from connecting and friendship and what's the goal is to take someone across that bridge to covenant in marriage. That's the goal. I hope otherwise you're in the wrong place. Um and how many people do you want to go across that bridge and I hope it's just one and there's some steps in between. They want to talk about, we use again this, we're dating and courtship. Many of us want this, we want to, you know, the castle, we want the fracturing of kind of relationships. We want the love story and what's crazy is I know for my wife and I, we met I was in the hospital three times in our 10 months of dating. It was not some amazing story in that sense. We met online, which is kind of fun. She didn't like that part sharing that part of it um equally dot com that works. Uh but then we got married in 11 months of marriage. I ended up in the hospital and doctor said, I wasn't gonna make it, it's not what you signed up for. Some of you have been through that parents, you've been through stuff where it's like, this isn't what I signed up for. Exactly, Welcome to marriage, it's not. So we need to be careful about what Hollywood sells us and oh my gosh love songs are terrifying. That's all I used to listen to. So I realized how messed up they are. So I want to start with this in peace. This covenant marriage. What does that look like? We think of the beauty and purpose of marriage. We needed to go to scripture. What does the bible say about marriage? Give honor to marriage and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery. There is a standard and a definition of what marriage should be like and what we should come into it with and that should guide us sexually. Should guide us. Relations should put in boundaries. We can spend a lot of time right there and we'll we will come back to that. The man who finds a wife finds a treasure. He receives favor from the Lord. There's something beautiful about that. I honestly don't believe I'd be alive today if I had not married her, my wife um where she's sitting. But because of the stuff we've been through health issues and other things has been incredible to have someone so steadfast um in my my life it's better to live alone in the corner of an addict. A Tik. Anyway, then with a wholesome wife. And how many actually the phrase I use is how many didn't marry very well. So don't raise your hands. You don't want to be someone who doesn't very well like I found out later. I remember I had just one uncle and he was holding this bottle of what looked like you're into me. But it was alcohol and telling my dad, don't you ever trust that woman of yours? And he died an alcoholic then went to his funeral. His wife died an alcoholic. Kids were running from the law. They stole their kids from foster care. Just this horrible I found after his death he was a clinical psychologist and he married this very, very, very, very hurt woman that destroyed him in his whole life. And it's like who we marry actually matters. A worthy wife is a crown for her husband, but a disgraceful woman is like cancer in his bones. So true. Don't team up with those who are unbelievers, don't be unequally yoked. How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light be live in darkness? This is a critical, the bible is telling us what to do and what not to do, which is kind of important that maybe listen to her husband's this means love your wives just as christ loved the church and gave up his life for her. That's our calling men, which we should shake in our boots. The gravity and the weight of that. Haven't you read the scriptures? He replied, They record at the beginning. God made them male and female. And he said uh and he said, this explains why a man leaves his father and mother is the process and joins his wife and two are united into one since they're no longer two, but one let no one split apart. What God has joined together. Design is beautiful, it's covenant, it's coming together, it's not a contract, it's not just kind of we'll do this until something better comes along, or if things get rough, then we'll reevaluate. And I hear this from a lot of Christians, we gave it a good shot. It was a good run 10, 20 years or two or three. No, it's till death. Do us part. It's this that's just the beginning. And the thing is what I see is people preparing for this more than for what's next. And what's next is what you need preparing for. You need to take a Dave Ramsey money class, we did two or three times, it took us a while for it to take and still hasn't fully taken it hard. Um and you need to actually understand about sexuality and understand about that piece of the puzzle. Um You're gonna have two different worlds that are coming together in marriage. What is another critical piece of marriage? It's procreation just f y i babies were meant to come into this world in the context of a mom and dad in a covenant relationship, not outside of that. If we actually got this in order, right? We wouldn't be talking about and we have been pleasure. Pleasure. Pleasure sex is about pleasure. Pleasure. So we put it in our teen years and it's normal because procreation is almost an accident. It's fixable, which is heartbreaking because not design at all. It's meant to be for appropriation for pleasure. Yes. It's actually meant to be a beautiful thing and a great thing for protection, the sexual relationship, the covenant of marriage protects us from ourselves actually, and committing and honoring that commitment, it's partnership, it's companionship, it's someone to journey with and do life with its perseverance. That's what this is. In terms of what it's meant to be, that I hope you teams want. I want you to paint a picture and the longer class that I do on this, I really help you paint that picture. I want that so bad. I choose to not do certain things today. I choose to have boundaries today. So this connecting stage, This is all of our friendships, all of our relationships. Guys, girls doesn't matter who everyone we know and there's gonna be a few of these people they're gonna walk into that will take that step onto that bridge to go across towards towards marriage. And we'll talk about that in a second. But this first piece here, connecting what is this? We need to figure out who am I, the first step for you is figure out who you are, what you will and won't do what you want, what's your what's your goal? If you're not careful, it's purely hormonal, that's it. That's the only thing driving this question and this word attraction? It's purely attraction. Whatever. I think whoever I think is attractive in the moment, whether it's a guy or a girl or both or neither or and we then define that in a sexual or I'm gay or bi or heterosexual. It's so interesting and sad because we've almost taken it down to the lowest level possible. That breaks God's heart. Now, I want to give you a tool one that I actually used. That really helped me. And it's interesting to think some of you will not like it maybe, but I actually really like this this this book came out by Neil Clark Warren years ago called two days or less. I hated that title. Like how in the world can you know if someone's worth pursuing in two days or less later? He really re released his date or soul mate. And I was like, I don't like the word soul mates, I still don't like your title, but I like this book and I'm gonna give you the summary of kind of what I did with it. And when I started teaching, ironically, before I met my wife, um I was using this, I was applying this and talking about it and applying it. So it starts off with this this this is a list of the 25 most popular must haves this is your shopping list. What are the things that you would put on a list that you would not settle for not being on that list. And when you start realizing is for many of us we start filling in that blank the silhouette. No pun intended. Um the kind of girl or kind of guy I would be attracted to and I'm not talking about that, talk about who they are, what they represent, what they're willing to fight for. And so you start doing this, you start realizing there are some absolute non negotiables for you and so his his pushes in two dates. You should be able to find the answer to these these 10 things. You should be able to know which ironic. My wife found my list with other girls names right at the top. That was a fun conversation. So the rules here for this is to decide on what your, you would rank as your top 10 And they must be absolute like one of the ones that I had on my top my list, top 10 was actually that she had to like motorcycles. And then I realized that's not actually a dealbreaker had to realize that I need to take that off the list. And I still married someone who at least lets me ride one. But as long as I have life insurance, this becomes your shopping list of what you will not settle less for my wife and I don't drink. Never had a sip of alcohol that wasn't even on my list. But I realized how important that was to me because as a counselor, I've seen so much devastation. That one thing is it evil? No, just like money is not evil, what we do with it matters. I know I'm an awesome addict. I don't do things halfway. Like if you, your monster's the monster drinks eliminate t ones, I get them by the caseload from amazon every month, I would be an amazing alcoholic. I don't do things halfway that scares me to where I've never had a sip of alcohol to this day, except Michael. That's terrible. So, um, what about the other side of this? Top 10, Top 20 Top 10, 25 or any others Can't stand? What are those? Absolutely no way. And when you start thinking through this, by the way, teams, If you're dating someone or interest in someone, you can't do this list because you're gonna only make it fit, then you have to be completely unattached and single and be okay to really, truly, how do I know what I will not settle less for. I remember these different periods of my life where I would reevaluate that list and realized no, I was putting some person on this and I need to know that's not really true and what do I what am I looking for for a best friend, a partner, a life journey, er not just someone that you sleep with, someone you almost even tolerate because what's sad to me is the couples, I see many times, they just tolerate each other. They put up with each other and it's like, that's not it. Now, here are some really important list here. Seven things that are really important to be at least similar on no park or spiritual harmony, your faith and where that lies is critical. Your desire for verbal intimacy and ability to be intimate. Really important in terms of that level of that. And what does that look like? And when there's a mismatch here, there seems to be more stress. Is it doable? Absolutely. It's just gonna be a lot more difficult. It's just like two people marrying from two very different cultures like countries that's harder. This means not do, it's just gonna take a lot more work um level of energy level of ambition, expectations about roles, interest, personal habits. These become areas. When you think about it, you start realizing, I haven't really thought about it, but there are some pretty major preferences and or absolute deal breakers that are important to me. This is really, this is again for you guys teams, especially for you to think through what would I not settle this for? I would put this in such a high standard. That then in evaluating, I don't, you're a no, I don't care what I feel towards you like. And this is interesting if you found out that this guy or girl you liked was married, you should have a boundary there. But it's amazing how I've heard this from even some corbin students at one point, years ago they were like, yeah, this guy, this girl is dating some married guy. I'm like what she likes and shows their ethics, shows their moral. That actually shows a lot about their story and probably past trauma and so many other areas that God help. And so I've had conversations with the friend. How do you help point them to the cross doesn't mean they'll go, it's also not your job that's christ to do his work. How do you discern good character? How do you help someone or help know where a person's, I'm gonna give you some kind of ways to evaluate this further behavior in stressful conditions, reputation with others, talking to others and then obedient to authority. This is men and women. This is not her, This is our, can they listen to their boss? Are they respectful talk to their friends? Remember that one of the times Kelly and I were dating, we sat down with a couple and we actually asked the question about, we're kind of considering about marriage and their response mattered prior to her more than anyone else. And when they erupted excited. She, I guess she was okay. I guess I will. Um and it matters if there's a, if you're hearing rumors and in a day and age where we can look online and look people up that's important. Actually. Dad does it all the time with hiring people. It's like you need to use these resources for a reason. So how do you know when it's time to a good, good age or a good time to begin crossing that bridge? And the truth is that there's no magical age. It's an attitude or an attribute of the heart. Now, what I tell my kids is it's junior or senior year of college and they laugh and we have issues with our oldest, lots of issues with our oldest, 1916. Um, he likes to rescue people like his dad. So that's not a good characteristic necessary. But I say junior year of college. Why? Because the culture is pressuring 13, 14, 15, you're not okay if you're not dating someone, do you wanna date someone or you want to marry? You wanna just play or do you want to actually have the brass ring? Have the great relationship without all this baggage, you're gonna have to decide. 16, 17, 18. My personal belief is the day you start dating, you're now dealing with either a wedding or marriage or a baby within two years or less. So 16, okay. If you're getting married at 18, that's great. And some, some of our kids might, if you meet someone that this is the one that's a different trajectory than, hey, when we're in college, I have a colleague of Corbin, she'll run down the hall sometimes just fake tears, but mourning the loss of another girl because she's a biology teacher and she's like another one met some guy no longer going to be a doctor. And so funny. She's morning. It's like, and it's interesting because of many that don't go on to become a doctor there is because they, Someone guy and girl actually, ironically most of the girls. And so some of the trajectory of where you wanna go might be changed by who you meet and when you meet them, whether it's high school or college or beyond or as an adult, so this matters. And yes, some of our kids are more mature. A younger age by the way, the prefrontal cortex isn't brain development. Maybe it's 25. Um, well when you are willing to stay single rather than compromise your convictions. That's, if you're just wanting someone, you've probably met or been around people that have always had a boyfriend or girlfriend didn't get a single for a while. You know, you need to and others. And maybe moms and dads can even attested this went from living in mom and dad's house to straight to married and that's a, that's a struggle sometimes. Does everyone need to have that single time? No, no, no, no, but be careful with that prescription just like no one has to go to college and no one has to do this that or the other, but Biblically we need to go back to scripture. What does it say we need to do? So this middle stage is where I want to spend some time now coupling, that's what this middle stage is called coupling. We're gonna go from connecting lots of people, guys and girls to this. I'm gonna start pairing up heading towards marriage. Now what I see is I see couples all the time. We have no intention to head towards marriage dating to 34 years and was like, goodness gracious. And the longer you're dating, by the way, you're also probably being physically active, physically, sexually active. I've had a couple that I'm blown away six or seven years dating and still virgins and like you are a rare breed, bless you. Um, that's why this is not a long journey. We meet someone, we date for a long time and then we engaged for a long time. This is actually when I'm ready, it could be a rather short, My wife and I actually, we're late twenties. Um, 10 months from the day I met her to our wedding, it was a shorter, she owns her own house. We were in different life stages to, it's different when you're um in high school or in college, Even crazy kids think about this, this journey across this bridge, think about the idea of a backpack. Those backpacks were kind of heavy man after a few days carrying those backpacks. They were really heavy and then this really stressed my wife out. I think she says he's a little close. I don't know, I'm the dad, he falls to learn a just kidding. I was stressed a little bit of a fast water. But this is what happens for many of us in marriage. We're going across this, this is what we're walking into marriage with. Many of us are walking into marriage with a load of trauma, a load of hurt. That's that's what I wanted to help you prevent some of it. You can't, you've had things happen to you when you're a kid. That's a whole different story. There's things that happen to us. I want to help prevent some of the stuff that's actually your choices you're gonna make could make that actually could change your life because this stage here, you're going through these three stages. So and a couple in considering confirming committee and you'll recognize and I like these because first of all, it's like a good sermon that all seas so really good. But it's different than this dating courtship words and I'll get to that in a second. This process here. Look at the first one, considering this is still a connecting friendship, but this is where your prayerfully considering a person to go further than that separately. So talking to friends, talking to family, but also together. Again, another thing, I don't see we kind of like each other, let's hang out. There's not an intentionality with it and a lot of time is wasted. A lot of hurt happens during that stage. So this is an intentional heading towards covenant marriage. That's again a critical piece. So once a person has been considering the coupling, dating or dating process starts, the goal of a great date is to build respect for one another. That's another whole different anomaly from our world of Did you shave your legs today or did you prepare for sex basically, Which is a heartbreaking instruction from friends. Oftentimes, that's beyond biblical. It's not okay at all. A great date is not sending around entertainment alone. It's about quality time what you do this, what you do on these dates are important, how you spend time with this person is really important. And in a safe environment, we're gonna go meet up at a party and I'm gonna be in a place where I don't have a car. I don't have a way to get out or a place that I don't know goodness gracious. No. When I'm kelly, the first time we had talked for a week on email and phone and then she gave me her address. So show up at her house an hour early because I'm earliest early stalker. And the first thing I did was chew her out. Don't you ever, I never thought I'd see her again. Don't you ever get some strange guy, your address to single women living in the house. No, meet in a neutral location. So we went to cracker barrel had a great date took her home, shook hands and she thought we'd never see each other again. She said yes to a second date. Just to be nice because yeah, I mean yes, I told her my life story on the first date, I'm dying, I have health issues, I was walking with a cane, I have a mess, marry me not, I've got tons of death. Let me show you this. So many of us use this vocabulary, dating courtship and I want to give you kind of a way to think about these and then we're gonna get back to this other model which I like dating is observation, courtship is depth, meant to go deeper. Some of us have a model. Even if you don't do this alone, you go with people, there's different versions of what courtship could look like dating is no strings attached. The courtship is vulnerability, dating is actually we're on this, you know this time together, quality time, but you're not getting into these deep, deep conversations yet. What I see is a lot of people I just met you when recording tomorrow, If you go by these definitions we jumped way too far into the conversations, it's not um not ready for for that dating is time allotment versus purposeful. We're trying to head somewhere you're gonna date for dating sake. There is no goal. Courting is actually a picture of marriage ought to be at least dating isn't in itself. Courtship is moving towards marriage or I like this one, dating is marketing and courtship is the clothes like that, dating is actually one or more people in courtship is exclusive. Can you imagine you could go out with one person friday night, another saturday night, another sunday night, if you're actually not touching, you're not sharing the, that's what dating should be. I don't see that in our world anymore. You should be able to speak in more to college students. You should be able to go to the dining hall with a friend and not the whole place say, hey, they're dating now because you sat together and that's what happens in school is what happens college carefully. Think, spend time in your safe environment. But dating is just one or more people. Both of these ought to be filled with respect, but a bad date can cost you time money and be annoyance. A bad courtship can cost you a little piece of your soul. That's why we need to be careful what we're getting into. Why are we spending time with this person and spending time with this person? What do others have to say about them? Have I talked to others? Have I hold my committee that I have over here that I put together to help protect myself from myself, which, by the way, some of you need because you're attracted to the wrong people. Like some of you ladies, you're attracted to the kind of guy that no one would want you to bring home guys? You're trying to the wrong kind of girl? Usually because of heart hurt, trauma or things that have happened to us. We need to be able to have people we come to and say, hey, do you see something that I don't see and trust them enough to do what we would do as a break up if they said, I think this is not healthy. The problem is that you and I think we should just have this all together, we should know, I should just, I'm in charge of my life. Good luck with that, that thankful even a marriage, how much you then together, navigate through decisions as a team, you need that now as a single person, I believe that we would have better marriages if we did single life better, there wasn't all this hooking up and all this shacking up and all the other kind of stuff that we end up doing and over sharing and overly evolved, but you need good male friendships and female friendships, both all of you, which by the way, may be scary. Look at your moms and dads, some of them need that. Two dads are the worst who don't have male friendships, men, you need that something somewhere. Um three questions to ask at this stage, have you or do you have quiet time? What's your relationship with God? Are you involved in your christian church and bible believing church and then do you desire to pursue the same type of spiritual life ministry? Now, this is obviously for a believer. If you're not a believer then what you wanna do, but speaking to christians, this is really, really, really, really important. What is their relationship with God? What is the relationship with the church? What is their desire if they want to go on mission field and you want to build a business here in America, you got a problem if you're someone that is at the church every single time the doors are open and this person is kind of this hit or miss gonna have some major contention when it comes to, what should we do, how should we do, do life together and then, So this is that coupling stage. Considering we're just now, still considering now we're gonna move into this confirming stage, if someone passes those tests, if you will, they move into this confirming this is the engaged to be engaged, we're talking marriage, this is where I consider pre engagement counseling. Premarital counseling is a great idea, it works a lot better pre engagement by the way, because once you put that ring on it, there's only one thing I'm focused on the big party, I call it that day. I'm sorry. First, a bubble of it. Um no, I want to be so sure that you're the person, I want to spend the rest of my life with that. I really strongly strongly endorsed the pre engagement counseling at this point. This is also a stage is confirming stage where you're gonna do something really difficult, something that's very much debated and we probably, if we were to talk about it would not all agree. This is the airing of your dirty laundry. What does that mean? This is where you start telling people about your past, this person about your past, Not people, sorry. Um how many people do you want to cross that bridge where you've had to tell them your story? Hopefully, it's one at this point of this this journey, you're basically telling them the people you've been physically involved with the mistakes, you've made, things that you've done other areas of your life that maybe you got caught in this or you never told anyone this. This is a scary part of this journey. Why I don't want anyone to walk into my wife's life and tell her something. I haven't already told her. 5, 10 2030. Didn't matter how long. Now details. No highlights. Yes. Like newspaper article titles, you've shared that and there's gonna need to be questions and this is an area of critical area if they can't forgive you for you sharing with them about what you've done with or to another. They will not forgive you when you heard them period if they are unforgiving of your past run because they're not gonna forgive you when you hurt them. Not if when you hurt them, this is a really critical step that could be here in this, confirming your considering stage, right here on the edge, not okay, we're engaged. And now we're talking, I had this one couple where they were two weeks before the wedding and there were doing the last session of premarital and for some reason I asked a question, I said, so you're a virgin right to the guy? He goes, Well, no, they've been dating three years when they started dating. He lied to her because by omission she asked he lied because they're not really that committed yet. And then he just never fixed the lie. And now they're weeks away and all of a sudden she just dies in front of me. So I looked at him and said, get up, I'll deal with you later. I got up close to her and I was like, okay, you have a decision to make you hate him right now. You want to hurt him right now? Yes, me too. Let's do it together. I want you in two weeks to walk down that aisle. So sure that he's the man that you wanna spend your life with without a shadow of a doubt and not be wishy washy if you walk down that aisle, wishy washy, you're gonna doubt yourself the rest of your life. And I watched her calm and go, I choose I want to hurt him right now. And that decision was made. It was so critical to then pivot to choosing him being a forgiving, forgiving person which also shows us we can forgive pretty quick. We choose to the emotions catch up later. We want to do it the other way around. We want our emotions to be in line, then we'll forgive. Yeah, good luck with that. Not gonna work that way. This is a critical stage. One that doesn't get talked about enough. I don't believe which by the way for some of us would be nice to not have anything to share. Wouldn't that be great. I assume every couple is dating is having sex because I'm a counselor and see too much of the unhealthy stuff so I'm blown away when I see couples who are dating living together while aren't actually have boundaries and keeping those beautiful, it can be done this stage here now to continue this, you're continuing to evaluate your using wisdom here wasn't properly evaluate their character, standard herbal brightness um personality. What you see is what you get this is who you marry. They never change which we all change but they never change yes, yes or no versus this is my project, don't marry a project. My wife and I we got married what was scary as I found out she was talking to her mom while I'm in the hospital and her mom was saying, if you marry Corey, you're going to actually take care of him the rest of your life and work the rest of your life because the doctors were saying, I've never had a job and I've never worked um humbling to me. She said yes And she's been a stay at home mom for the last 14 years. So we need to evaluate with what we got if that had been our life. Okay, that's it. We don't know. The future holds. Another key is conflict resolution. Number one thing that we can actually look at prior to the wedding and predict the outcome of marriage is how you handle conflict number one thing. So pre marital pre engagement counseling, That's what I do. This is what we look at. How do you handle conflict? And that's a key area that if you it's a constant struggle, it's only gonna be worse than marriage when you're living together in the end, it should be easy and negotiable. It should be. It's always know we get into those, those seasons. You need to have the same standard of moral uprightness of your values. Need to line up. That's back to you in that faith piece which is really critical and this ties into communication. There needs to be sensitivity, honesty again, who we are, the ability to communicate, speaking up and telling them how you feel. But here's a really, really critical about the communication at this stage. Always give her an out and yes guys, I'm talking to you always give her an out. Let me give you an example of this. I use this actually with kelly. I was teaching this class by the way when we were dating kind of fun teaching this 12 week song of Solomon class, which I'm speaking for like three hours and then we're walking around this pond afterwards talking about what I just said. Um and so then I actually use this in the book of romance Tommy nelson, he states that I strongly encourage every young man who was in a dating relationship to say to a young woman after four or five days. This says, I don't know if you're the person god has for me to marry, but I want you to know that you're the type of woman I would enjoy spending my life with, I like being with you and I'm open to seeing if this relationship goes somewhere, if you want to back out of our relationship right now and that's all right. You owe me nothing but honesty. I said that to her multiple times. I don't want someone just to settle for me or to feel trapped now she's married, thank you. But there's another side of this too. If you discover after a few days that a young woman is not the type of person you want, don't just text her, be honest about your feelings and forthright about your intentions, but what do I see? I've been dating to three years with no absolutely no intent to be married and mess them around the body parts that they're not supposed to be playing with and they don't have clear boundaries. This is a problem. This is why this is so important to talk about by the way this conversation. So parents, this conversation starts when they're single digits, you're playing the seeds of what even dating looks like before 10 because then they know it all 10, 11, 12 when they know it all you're done. That's scary. I know, but anyway, when they know it all, you're not gonna listen to you. So you're planting the seeds early and then you're helping shape the guys that getting guardrails. Um be careful not to share too much. Too fast too soon. That's why this journey across the bridge is important. Hands careful, they bind. Don't kiss until you're willing to be responsible for their heart. This is not normal to hear. I don't understand why kissing seems to be something we can do with everybody dating wise, but a prostitute will say I'll do everything but that kissing is bonding. So think about that. Maybe there's some of the stuff making out isn't a great idea. We're gonna rev the engine up and get everything all sexually excited and go see you can I know it's meant to lead to the next step and the next step, the next step. So careful with these boundaries. They start now dating. So that actually, then in marriage, one of my boundaries gonna be in marriage. And really I work with too many affairs. Too much adultery, ironically one of my favorite areas to counseling and to see God do absolute miracles and families and keep families together. I love it. It's just heartbreaking. She walks me to come in the door, sometimes go straight to bed and go to sleep because I'm so exhausted and then a few weeks later, need to see what God does and I love that too much of a good thing. Those resentment. What happens with the physical and sharing too much is this bonding, but it's too premature careful with that. You're building towards a wedding. That's still just the beginning because there should be an excitement regarding the future. There should be if I have a picture of what the future is gonna be, I get excited about the marriage, I'm gonna have the relationship, going to have the adventures we're gonna have together. Um we didn't have a lot of excitement about the future. It was kind of, I don't know what the word is, it was scary because our doctors were not telling us good things, but it was wild to kind of go over linking arms together. We're doing whatever is next together. And then to see what did come was incredible why now we get to the committing stage here. This is a short engagement, Not 2, 3 years sometimes not six or 8 months short engagement. Get the bridal magazines. Look at the list of all you have to do for the wedding and you can cut that down to a quarter or less than what they say because it's all marketing. I'm a certified wedding planner. I did that before I met her. I was desperate. What I learned is this whole industry is whacked. No. And if you met someone, you can have an incredible wedding. You didn't have to cost you a fortune. It's just just the beginning of an incredible life together. Let me give you this is a really interesting, so Shaunti Feldhahn researcher, She actually had this question. She said, What's the divorce rate? Which is what you hear 50%, Where's that from? And she's like, I can't find the roots of that number. And so you start researching and she said, it's never been 50%. It was a made up number decades ago, which means people like me have actually scared couples and others, half of you are going to divorce. Good luck. No wonder we have such fear of marriage now. And she found that at the height of and she's got parameters that includes takes out widows. Um and even if you're living together, those that get married, it's been maybe in the 30, But there are some key factors that if these are in place that drops down to the teens. The teens now, I remember about probably 10 years ago, um hearing that, but in the church is like 60 plus percent. All made up. Not true. And that needs to be an encouragement, makes me mad. That needs to be an encouragement. There is hope to build an incredible marriage. So, let me give you some of these predictors of a healthy marriage that she found in this research. I love what she does. She's a Harvard trained researcher, solid believer. Just love her. Her work number. Not these aren't in order in terms of numbers, but one of them was church actively involved in the church. That's that changes the door straight, lowers the door straight relationship with the bible reading the bible together separate. How you see God's word lowers that divorce rate do not live together. All the data shows living together increases the divorce rate. You're more likely not to make it. Even secular research says, yeah, living together is not a good idea yet. That is on the rise right now. Especially if you think of what the cost of rent is, It just makes sense. We should move in together. No, we should get married tomorrow and then move in together, move the wedding up. And I've seen that I've seen couples who are like, we've met premarital and they come back a week later a few weeks later and like, yeah, we move the wedding up good if you know this is the person stop playing games move forward already if they're not run So crazy people. This is an interesting one though. This one was getting married after 24 actually decreases the divorce rate why Cortex development. There's some important factors by 245 you tend to know more where you're heading. Like when I met Kelly, she owned her own house, she had a great job. She wasn't trying to figure herself out. I was a mess, but I was in counseling practice and I was established, I was working on my doctorate at the time and we're in a different stage than high school or even college. We were trying to figure that out. So the divorce rate increases if you get married before the age of 24. But there's another interesting piece and some other research that has shown That getting right after 24 you're also walking with a lot more baggage. So you be careful with some of this, this isn't, you have to wait till after 24. I really, if you meet someone that you're now this is the person and you're in high school again, a wedding needs to happen and shorter years than longer. Not now you have to wait until after grad school and I see this with families. I've had couples come in my living room and make that call where he's gonna call the dad, but not to ask for her hand in marriage, but you tell him and has gone every which way possible wrong. It's usually because it's a very unhealthy dad, very unbiblical, ungodly dad, but he's going to follow that. It's so hard. It's messy. And at the weddings too. Another factor is first marriage, ironically, by the way, she also found second marriages aren't quite as like 70% of divorce rate. If you know, actually it's thirties, 40%. 2nd marriages can make it to um, you just have more baggage really sad, but you have less chance community of supportive friends and mentors who you have in your life. The key people I hear in stories is coaches, teachers and youth pastors. Also seeing those same three of the ones that hurt people. So it's hard to know who you put your kids around, you send them to. So and so group who that coaches or who that leader is actually matters. I've seen friends of ours put kids in scout groups that have a horrible leader and have abuse happening among the boys. Um, that's the leadership part of, I'm a scout master and our boy Scout troop. Part of the selling point to me is this is about building a band of brothers for our sons, but also for us dads, I need mine and those become fine. Those are the guys I call in a heartbeat. Um, the dads that I do scouts with, here's the last one she found was early is not the last, but um, college education, college education drops the divorce rate and I'm biased. I'm a college professor. Actually think it's important. Um, is it the only piece? No, look at all that I think one of the most important things here is a person of faith that shows that a person of faith through their actions can absolutely change the future when it comes to this process of connecting coupling covenant ng and changes the future of our kids and our ability to do this well. And I like that. I go from connecting. I have friends to pairing up and I don't want a lot of people crossing this bridge to covenant marriage, which is actually meant to be one person for life. There shouldn't be a second chance, praise God for grace, but there's, it's not meant to be, what I tell my college students all the time is be careful. You don't have a divorce card in your back pocket. Kind of like the red and yellow card, soccer. Then when things get tough, you're like, oh man, I gotta stick it out and you're gonna stick it out. But if you have that card, you will play it, there will be something you'll go through that will be hard that you want to play on out. Remember the day I was sick, I was 100 and £1015 stuck in bed. We had an old house built in 18 93. We were restoring two toddlers and she's has our third baby and no showers. I haven't finished the shower yet, so there's a claw foot tub. I tried so hard and um, she had a crisis moment. So she's in the laundry room, she's doing something and she's like, you know what if I left Corey, no one would fault me. And then the next thought was that stupid, then not do it all alone and she was done with it. Problem is she comes around the corner and tells me this and I'm mortified my wife because I was, I felt like an absolute loser because I could not do anything. My kids have memories of my kids trying to pull me off the couch to play and then crying and crying and I can't um, that's the beginning. That's part of why it's been amazing to go backpacking and do the things snow skiing and snowboarding and things I never thought I could do because we've actually created a different life than we thought we had kind of in the beginning and there's been stages, so we connect this, the couples that I work with who have gone through affairs and come out to the other side tend to have really strong marriages. Beautiful marriages that I actually envy. I'm not gonna go that route and then one day I realized we've been that route trauma hard times creates a bond and that's actually what's scary and sad some of your parents, you've been through that, you know what it's like teens preteens in some sense. I don't wish it on you, but that's what's gonna have to happen. What are the hard things you're gonna go to, it's gonna make you into the man or woman that God's gonna use, not only out there another jobs or the kind of stuff, but inside as a husband, as a wife, as a mom and a dad, as I look back at that season and it blows my mind where we've come from, how we've come from that and where we're at in our journey, May you marry? Well, as to me, the most important piece of this, May you marry well, a best friend, a person that you would be so proud to show is yours to do life with. You don't know what's around the corner because for us it could have gone very different. I could still be in bed, I could still be stuck. We would have a very different life. And so evaluating that future and evaluating these things go back to those top 10 must have can't stand, it's kind of cheesy actually, but it's not when you really think, through I want to use wisdom and God I don't know the kind of women that I was attracted to or I wanted to date or all opposite her. It's so funny to think about that And then I meet her through this dating thing and it's like she don't want my age. It was really and she actually emailed me first, which after all would remind her she's the one that made the first move it. And then 10 months later we're walking down the aisle. She's walking just beautiful. But that's just the beginning. This is still just gets us into the marriage. We haven't even really spent that time. So then what is marriage? That's that's where the rubber meets the road. How do we do life? You teens by the way? You're watching your moms and dads and hopefully others, hopefully others in your church or others around you. You're watching other parents evaluating I would love to have a wife like that. A husband like that. I'd love to be someone like that. The more people you can kind of have in your circle you're watching helps you evaluate because you're not your mom and dad. But if you're not careful, you'll become your mom and dad. So have these people in your life, get involved. If you're involved in some kind of support, watch your coach, watch different people and consciously do this. You're doing this unconsciously. You're taking in all this stuff unconsciously. I want you to do this consciously very intentionally go, you know what the way he treated her, the way she treated him. Yes, I want that put that away. Follow it away. What that's gonna do is protect you from yourself because you're your worst enemy because you're gonna want to settle for something else and not have the most amazing relationship that God would actually want for you. I don't mean perfect and I don't mean easy in the end life will happen. But best friends that when I look back at that time with my wife, it was hard but we don't have ill feelings through that because we were journeying, journeying through that together as a team which now makes decisions today a lot, a lot easier to make as a team, which is really important. So if you need anything from me, you can go there. Thank you so much for coming. This leaks to this power point. I'll have it up later today and then video stuff as well. And it's been an honor to come and be a part of the blessings.   Thank you for tuning in to the HealingLives with Corey Gilbert podcast. It has been an honor to serve if you're struggling have questions or in need. Dr Gilbert offers a free consultation for new clients. Check us out at healing lives dot com to book a call. If this has been helpful to you, please share it, leave a review and help us get the word out so that we can see lives changed marriage is transformed and more people come into our life changing relationship with Jesus christ. The HealingLives Center offers online courses, programs, books intensive and other services to help you live biblically and well, discover more resources on Youtube. And in Dr Gilbert's healing marriage facebook group, The Healing Marriage.

The Old Testament closed out with Malachi's prophecy of the Day of the LORD and a coming prophet. Then, Israel experienced an extended period of waiting. When God breaks his silence, he announces that he is coming in the form of a baby. Merry Christmas!--Scripture Explored: Haggai 1:2-9; Haggai 2:3-9; Malachi 4:1-6; Luke 1:5-45, 57-79--Hunter grew up in Montana and now serves the Church in Albany Oregon where he works as a youth and young adults pastor. He and his wife Ana stay busy with two kids. Hunter loves studying the Bible and communicating it in a way which encourages further exploration of others.--contact@parableministries.comhttps://www.parableministries.comhttps://www.instagram.com/parable_ministries/--Music created by Chad HoffmanArtwork created by Anthony Kuenzi

Today, we’re sharing more insight about one of the themes of the 2022 Slow Flowers Floral Insights & Industry Forecast, released last month.  Our second insight is Plant Your Own Bouquet and today’s guest, Jen Healy, is one of the people who helped me realize this important shift in the marketplace. When Jen first joined […] The post Episode 544: Growing Nursery Customers with a Flower Shop and Cutting Garden Program, with Jen Healy of J&B Garden Center in Albany, Oregon appeared first on Slow Flowers Podcast with Debra Prinzing.

In the Zone with Verone presented by High on the Hog BBQ of Eugene and Albany: Oregon safety Verone McKinley III recaps his fifth interception of the season and the Ducks' win over Washington State and previews the matchup with Utah

Pastor Alexander Lange is pastor of Holy Cross Lutheran Church in Albany, Oregon. Church's website: http://www.holycrosslutheranalbany.org/ (http://www.holycrosslutheranalbany.org)/ Church's Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/HCLCAlbany (https://www.facebook.com/HCLCAlbany) Pastor Lange's recommended things to check out: Albany Carousel and Museum: https://albanycarousel.com/ (https://albanycarousel.com) Check out the wineries in the area, they're known for their Pinot noir Calapooia Brewing: https://www.calapooiabrewing.com/ (https://www.calapooiabrewing.com) Northwest Art and Air Festival: http://nwartandair.org/ (http://nwartandair.org) Christmas Storybook Land: https://www.facebook.com/ChristmasStorybook.AlbanyOR (https://www.facebook.com/ChristmasStorybook.AlbanyOR) Please fill out the survey about the last year of The Lutheran Cartographer: https://lutherancartographer.com/2020survey (https://LutheranCartographer.com/2020survey) If you enjoy the show, please take a moment to rate and review the show on iTunes so that more people will see and listen!

In this episode I talk with Ty, a 22 year old College Student from Albany, Oregon where we discuss living away from home and the alone time during a pandemic.

Chief Marcia Harnden discusses the challenges and benefits of investing in her team at the City of Albany, Oregon and as they lean into the new year.

To buy or not to buy deal analysis of an 18-unit apartment building in Albany, Oregon.

Our culture in America is built on busyness and many of us forget to simply slow down. When being busy is a cultural value, how do we remind ourselves of the importance of the pause? That's our discussion at the table with Pastor Andrea Mendenhall of Hope Church in Albany Oregon.  Enjoy this two-part conversation.  Follow us on https://www.instagram.com/wtttpodcast/ (Instagram)

Show Notes: https://wetflyswing.com/155 Dave McNeese tells his stories of a life in fly fishing, fly tying and dyeing feathers.  Dave is working on the book on Syd Glasso’s life and has been an expert material dying all star for 5 decades.  Dave has done a little bit of everything in fly fishing including building custom rods, custom reels, flies and a fly shop. We connect the dots even more today as we hear about the life of one of the really interesting guys in fly fishing.  We also hear the story of the felony conviction that Dave received for trading animals but as you hear this was a bad rap sheet on Dave. Click here –>>>  for the full transcript or scroll down to the bottom to read the transcript. Show Notes with Dave McNeese 09:30 - Dave attended the 1975 McKenzie fly fishers conclave where Lee Wulff and Ernie where there.  Here's a little history on the conclave. - The Master fly tying guide by Art Flick - Dave notes the Fly Fishing and Tying Journal and the dying articles he has written at FTJ. - John Shewey was on the podcast in episode 16 and talked about the old shop “My Flies” which was located in Salem Oregon. - Paul Jorgensen was a big part of Dave’s growth in fly fishing. - Twin River Fly Shop is the local store in Albany Oregon. - The Blue Heron spey hooks were Dave’s line of hooks. - Trey’s first book Steelhead Trout came up again here. - The Atherton Painting - The Orange Heron tied by Syd Glasso is in Trey’s 1976 book - Preston Jennings was noted.  Here's a summary of some of his work. - Rube Cross was noted by dave as one of the Tyers everyone tried to copy. - The McNeese Madness is a great pattern for the Deschutes. - Joseph Rossano was on the podcast in episode 136 and is helping Dave with the Syd Glasso book. - Steve Gobin bamboo fly rods.   You can find Dave McNeese here Resources Noted in the Show Master Fly Tying by Art Flick Moscow Hide and Fur to grab a skunk Videos Noted in the Show Paul Jorgensen Video Orange Heren Syd Glasso Conclusion with Dave McNeese Dave Mcneese shares his story of how he started his fly shop and became a material dying master.  We find out how he connected to many of the old timers including Syd Glasso.  Dave shares some of the story of who Syd Glasso was and how he got ahold of some of We hear how Dave started his fly shop based on a mail order business and expanded it out until he ran into trouble with the Federal government in relation to some illegal game that was sent to him. Show Notes: https://wetflyswing.com/155

Our culture in America is built on busyness and many of us forget to simply slow down. When being busy is a cultural value, how do we remind ourselves of the importance of the pause? That's our discussion at the table with Pastor Andrea Mendenhall of Hope Church in Albany Oregon. Enjoy this two-part conversation. Follow us on https://www.instagram.com/wtttpodcast/ (Instagram)

In the pilot episode, we'll introduce ourselves a little, talk about the racist history of our hometown and reflect on how that shaped us both consciously and subconsciously. Email us at mashpotatoespod@gmail.com​ with questions/topics you want covered/corrections to help us continue learning. http://blogs.oregonstate.edu/oregonmulticulturalarchives/2019/06/05/sundown-towns-20 19/​ Sources on South Albany High School: https://democratherald.com/news/local/south-albany-high-leave-rebel-flag-insignia-at-home/artic le_46fb0b4a-3a60-11e0-b147-001cc4c03286.html ; https://www.oregonlive.com/pacific-northwest-news/2015/07/south_albany_rebel_mascot.htm ; https://www.kptv.com/news/south-albany-hs-picks-new-mascot/article_08c6c5f3-0d2f-5072-b91 1-ce1a60e398b4.html#:~:text=South%20Albany%20High%20School%20students,become%20t he%20%E2%80%9CRed%20Hawks.%E2%80%9D ; Albany and Oregon history: https://mailtribune.com/archive/oregon-s-racial-history-diversity-explored ; https://oregonhumanities.org/rll/magazine/root-spring-2016/just-people-like-us/#:~:text=The%20 Ku%20Klux%20Klan%20was,sunset%20or%20face%20dire%20consequences ; https://www.backstoryradio.org/blog/dont-let-the-sun-go-down-on-you/ https://blogs.oregonstate.edu/oregonsocialjustice/oregon-black-laws/​ ; http://blogs.oregonstate.edu/oregonmulticulturalarchives/2019/06/05/sundown-towns-20 19/​

Cory Ann and Andy are tasting two very unique but awesomely delicious products today! The Rolling Thunder Stout Whiskey is an all time favorite coming from Rogue Brewing and Distilling, and the Anchor Rose Rum is from Sinister Distilling, right here in Albany Oregon! Pour yourself a drink and join us as we dive head first into these too amazing products!

Singer and songwriter Trevor Tagle sits down in studio to discuss his journey as a promising musician and the struggles of trying to make it in the music business. Trevor has opened for country legends like Toby Keith, Mark Chestnutt, the Oak Ridge Boys, and Tracy Lawrence, to name a few. Jason asks about Trevor's musical beginnings like teaching himself to play the guitar in college, before diving into the future of his music career which includes a move to Nashville to make a serious run at a record deal. Trevor talks about his passion for music and how he views his career as a community-based success, thanks to the immense support for his music at the local level. Jason asks Trevor to play a song in studio, and Trevor surprises Jason with an impromptu theme song for The Fire Inside written the night before his interview. 

What does it look like to live generously in all facets of life and how do you go to the next level? That's what we're discussing around the table this month with Pastor Brian Eno of Hope Church in Albany Oregon. Notable Mentions from this Episode: Rick Warren's https://amzn.to/3p5n00n (Purpose Driven Life) https://www.freeshapetest.com/ (S.H.A.P.E Assessment) Spiritual gifts | what Gifts has God given you? Heart | what gets your heart pumping? Abilities | what natural strengths do you possess? Personality | what makes you, you? Experiences | what in your past has shaped who you are today? Time, Talent, Treasure Closed handed vs. Open-handed living Follow us on https://www.instagram.com/wtttpodcast/ (Instagram)

     Agricultural events - one of Elara's favorite things to do.  Big or little, all shapes and sizes, there is usually no shortage of things to do, see, smell, pet, ride, eat and buy (but not necessarily in that order).     A smaller fair of 10,000 to 40,000 people is a much difference experience than a large, elbow-crowding, junk food bonanza of 500,000 to 2 million.  Both types of experiences have something wonderful to offer, but at a smaller fair you can actually get a bit more hands-on with just about everything.  A great representation of that concept is the Mother Earth News Fair series, which is held at various places around the country, and usually around five locations per year.  The one we're going to share with you was held this last weekend in Albany, Oregon.     With this episode of the podcast, we thought we would bring you something a little more experiential, since that's what a fair is all about.  You might periodically hear background noise of kids (human and goat), sheep, workshop speakers (and audience participation), log splitters, straw bale construction, food grilling, and the many other sounds of a lively event such as this.  You will not hear the alpaca, as he didn't feel the need to contribute anything at all.     For our interviews, we took a tiny slice of the types of people you might meet here.  We spoke with Janice Cox, author of books on beauty recipes you can make at home.  Jim Reiland of the California Straw Bale Building Association.  Joe Putnam of Premiere One farm supplies (and a visit with Bill Marion of Shasta Ranch for a fencing and "sheep chair" discussion), and Charlene Couch of the Livestock Conservancy.  And of course, a very tired but happy Elara, obviously excited to see and hear it all.  Until you hit the next agricultural event, hopefully this will help you feel like you were there.Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/agriCulturePodcast)

Test: on an average Sunday morning what percentage of your audience is 13-19? Got the number? Good. How well are you crafting and connecting your messages with teenagers in mind? Dr. Sean Silverii, from Hope Church in Albany Oregon, gives us insight in this episode to help preachers from the main stage keep ALL the audience in mind. Sean will also give us some tips on connecting teens to the teaching.

The Ewes are back to regular episodes with prize drawings, weaving, a couple stories and, of course, our knitting.  The weave along ended with some prizes.  One of the prizes is a Sweetheart Loom from Hazel Rose Looms. The Sheep Thrills KAL prize was also drawn in this episode. Marsha made good progress on her Little Wave cardigan by Gudrun Johnston. She has knit the body up to the armholes and has finished the first sleeve. When the second sleeve is completed both will be attached to the body and the yoke and saddle shoulders worked. This is the first sweater Marsha has made with this technique. Marsha cast on for the Summer Fjord by Trin-Annelie. This is the same Tee Kelly is making and like Kelly, Masha is using a different weight of yarn. She is going up to DK with Fibra Natura Flax (100% linen) and Kelly is going down with lace weight Sincere Sheep Linen. Lots of swatching, washing, measuring, and math went into the decision of sizes to make. There was pronounced biasing on Marsha's swatch so the Summer Fjord seemed a good choice with the different stitch patterns breaking up the stockinette.  Kelly's Summer Fjord has the body finished and is waiting for some work on the neckline and sleeve caps to be finished. Kelly has been a little slow on her projects, although she did finish the Christmas dishtowels that she recently put on the LeClerc floor loom.  The towels are all variations of Swiss Twill from the Marguerite P. Davison weaving book.   Kelly has also cast on the Sommer tank by Mari Chiba.  The yarn is some of her oldest stash, purchased in 2007 for a tank top shown in a magazine in May of that year. That sweater never got made and the yarn has narrowly escaped destash for a few years.  Once again some math and pattern adjustment was required since the gauge of the pattern isn't the gauge Kelly got in her swatch. She is "test knitting" this for a friend who might also want to make it.  Marsha's has completed three skeins of her Combo Spin #3. Kelly and Marsha have a discussion on the math required to determine the final percentages of fiber in the finished yarn from the various fibers that were used. Marsha was unusually restrained in the destash room at the NoCKRs retreat in April with the exception of a large "friend" that drove home with Marsha. Kelly and Marsha tell the story of  "Blithe Spirit" and her impact when was discovered napping at the NoCKRs retreat.  Marsha tells the story of a very strange coincidence. Her son's girlfriend needed a bookcase so Ben and her dad went to the ReStore to look for recycled materials to build a bookcase. They came back with a chest that unbelievably had belonged to Marsha's mother Podie! The chest had been left in the house by the previous owners and Podie had used it in her sewing room for notions for over 50 years. They added the bookcase to the top, painted it green, and added the bead board to the back. Marsha had given the chest to the Goodwill over a year ago and the universe sent it back for Ben's girlfriend! Events on the horizon: Spinning at the Winery, Retzlaff Winery in Livermore, May 19 from 10-4 Black Sheep Gathering in Albany Oregon, June 29-July 1.  Listener meet-up on Saturday, June 30. Monterey County Fair Fleece Judging, August 11 at 9 am with meet-up event after (Wool show information on page 58 of link)

Dr. V. Kim Kutsch received his undergraduate degree from Westminster College in Utah and then completed his DMD at University of Oregon School of Dentistry in 1979. He is an inventor holding numerous patents in dentistry, product consultant, internationally recognized speaker, is past president of the Academy of Laser Dentistry, and the World Congress of Minimally Invasive Dentistry. He also has served on the board of directors for the World Clinical Laser Institute and the American Academy of Cosmetic Dentistry. As an author, Dr. Kutsch has published over 100 articles and abstracts on minimally invasive dentistry, caries risk assessment, digital radiography and other technologies in both dental and medical journals and contributed chapters to numerous textbooks. He coauthored Balance, a textbook on dental decay with 100,000 copies in print, and wrote the Rough World series, a young adult science fiction trilogy. He acts as a reviewer for several journals including the Journal of the American Dental Association and Compendium. Dr. Kutsch also serves as CEO of Dental Alliance Holdings LLC, manufacturer of the Carifree system, and Remin Media. As a clinician he is a Graduate, Mentor and Scientific Advisor of Dental Caries at the prestigious Kois Center. Dr. Kutsch maintains a private practice in Albany Oregon.   www.carifree.com

Hear about the unique First Fish Native American Dinner in Albany, Oregon with: Matt Bennett - Chef/Owner of Sybaris Bistro in historic downtown Albany; Jimmie Lucht - Executive Director of Albany Visitors Association; travel writer Linda Kissam – President of the International Food Wine & Travel Writers Association. See Chef Bennett's recipes here: http://blendradioandtv.com/listing/first-fish-native-dinner-albany-or/

This episode of Big Blend Radio's Happy Hour variety show, aired live on May 31, 2017. Chef Mike Fisher, Dick & Bonnie Swank of Swank Farms, and Juli Vieira of San Benito County Chamber of Commerce & Visitors Bureau discuss the Farm-to-Table movement in San Benito County, CA. Travel writer Linda Kissam shares her small town adventures in Albany, Oregon. www.BigBlendRadio.com

From restaurants and breweries to parks and historic sites, travel writer Linda Kissam ‘Food, Wine & Shopping Diva’ shares her adventures exploring Albany, Oregon, including Albany Historic District, Albany Historic Carousel and Museum, and Thompson’s Mills State Heritage Park. Read Linda's travel stories here: http://blendradioandtv.com/listing/linda-kissam/

September 2015 - We have a super show for you this month. We traveled to Albany, Oregon and stopped by SilverLeaf Electronics. We visit with Martin Perlot, President and Founder of SilverLeaf. His company specializes in instrumentation that monitors diesel engines. The more you know about your engine, the better fuel mileage you will get and the less chance a breakdown will occur. Martin shows us some of his cool digital dash displays and his virtual instrument panel software running on a laptop. This is a must see show!

September 2015 - We have a super show for you this month. We traveled to Albany, Oregon and stopped by SilverLeaf Electronics. We visit with Martin Perlot, President and Founder of SilverLeaf. His company specializes in instrumentation that monitors diesel engines. The more you know about your engine, the better fuel mileage you will get and the less chance a breakdown will occur. Martin shows us some of his cool digital dash displays and his virtual instrument panel software running on a laptop. This is a must see show!

September 2015 - We have a super show for you this month. We traveled to Albany, Oregon and stopped by SilverLeaf Electronics. We visit with Martin Perlot, President and Founder of SilverLeaf. His company specializes in instrumentation that monitors diesel engines. The more you know about your engine, the better fuel mileage you will get and the less chance a breakdown will occur. Martin shows us some of his cool digital dash displays and his virtual instrument panel software running on a laptop. This is a must see show!

He hails from Albany Oregon!  He is a musical force from the Eastern Part of Washington State and his musical influences include Bob Seger and Metallica.  He recently rocked at the Goodwill Industries Tri-Cities Bennefit.  But his passion is not limited to music.  He is a big fan of WWE and he will fill you in on some of the action that he keeps up with in the IWF!  He would be the first to tell you that..."It's a long way to the top, if ya wanna Rock n Roll.