Podcasts about courageous girls

Today Pastor Jon interviews our upcoming Equip Parenting Conference speaker, Terra Mattson. Terra is a licensed marriage and family therapist, licensed professional counselor, clinical supervisor, executive coach, social entrepreneur, and co-founder of Living Wholehearted and Courageous Girls alongside her husband, Jeff. We are thrilled she will be at Northbrook March 7/8 for our Equip parenting conference, and excited to let our audience get to know Terra a little bit before next month! Here is the link to register for the conference and Pastor Jon's email to be entered into a drawing to win a free ticket to the conference! Conference registration page (scroll to bottom of page) Pastor Jon's email Here is the link to Terra's book and website. Courageous book Terra's website

Two girls are traveling on a ship from Hawaii to America. What will happen when their ship starts to sink? Taken from the book Courageous Girls. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/miss-retro-reads/support

There's an old quote that still rings true today, “More than 70% of leaders do not finish well.” Unfortunately, we so often see those with big followings, platforms, and pedestals fall or stumble due to something being done in private. However, our guests today want to help each of us become the leader that we would want to follow - a leader that possesses a great work ethic, vulnerability, and integrity. Joining us today to help us learn how we can shrink the integrity gap within our own lives and become the leader who lives out what we preach are the married co-founders of Living Wholehearted, a professional counseling and organizational development firm, as well as the global Courageous Girls movement, a free online curriculum equipping moms for every stage of their daughter's growing years. After two decades in leadership and trauma-informed therapy, they are bridging the gap between Biblical, clinical, and relational wisdom to help leaders live with integrity in the home, workplace, and community. Our prayer is that through this conversation you would be educated, equipped, empowered, and encouraged to not just lead, but to lead well.

July's Theme is Raising Boys and Girls Encore Presentation It's challenging to raise confident girls in this social media age. What if you are struggling with confidence yourself as a mom? How can women and girls develop godly confidence and courage? In today's conversation with author and mom Terra Mattson, you'll learn: 2:50 What are you seeing repeated again and again in your counseling practice with girls? 4:50 Letting go of performance-based thinking 6:30 When a boy asks your daughter for an inappropriate photo…do this 9:00 Talking with your daughter about wanting to be liked and the fear of losing friends (negative peer pressure) 11:30 What are red light, yellow light, and green light friendships? 13:10 My struggle with bulimia and what I learned 16:30 The lost art of confession 17:45 How can we encourage our girl who is scared to go to school or scared to face a mean girl? 19:30 Going on dates with your daughter, having intentional time 23:00 What are some signs that my daughter needs extra help like counseling? Terra Mattson has 20-plus years of experience as a licensed professional counselor and marriage and family therapist. Terra and her husband Jeff founded Living Wholehearted, a counseling and organizational development firm helping people live and lead with integrity. Terra's book is Courageous: Raising Daughters Rooted in Grace. Learn more at her website. TerraMattson.com Terra also has a video course, Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters. Learn more here. Is your child getting too much screen time? Take the free quiz at HappyHomeUniversity.comThe Man in the Tree and the Brand New Start is available here. Save 25% by using code: Save25Wherever You Go I Want You To Know is available here. Save 25% by using code: Go25

Today we are continuing our conversation around friendship with an emphasis on boundaries, unhealthy friendships, and where counseling and coaching come in throughout the seasons of life. Every healthy leader has good friends. Our personal friendships help us sustain our integrity over the long-haul of life, so, it's worth spending two full episodes to unpack the healthy and unhealthy elements of friendship. Terra Mattson, co-host of the podcast and co-founder of Living Wholehearted, has a candid conversation with one of the Living Wholehearted Executive Coaches, Connie Armerding, about friendship; what it is and what it is not. Connie and Tera were friends before working together at Living Wholehearted, and they have genuine insights to offer about the myths that run interference, particularly with female leaders, and how we can move toward building healthy friendships.    Terra Mattson is co-founder of Living Wholehearted, a professional counseling, executive coaching, and organizational development firm outside Portland, Oregon, helping leaders live and lead with integrity. She is also the founder and executive director of the non-profit Courageous Girls.  She is co-author of Shrinking the Integrity Gap: Between What Leaders Preach and Live, and Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace, where she talks extensively about friendship (learn more at livingwholehearted.com  mycourageousgirls.com). Follow her on IG @terramattson    Connie Armerding is an Executive Coach & Leadership Consultant, Writer, Speaker, and Teacher. She is passionate about equipping ministry and marketplace leaders by creating spiritually and emotionally healthy cultures among leaders and their communities. Connie holds degrees from Wheaton College in Interpersonal Communication and a MA in Leadership. She's been published with Propel Women, Patheos, and the Redbud Post. She is a contributing writer of Friendzy and is currently working on a project with Nav Press as a contributor to Reflecting God's Nature, the Women's Devotional Bible based on The Message. Connie also leads conflict resolution training for organizational teams and teaches and preaches at churches and conferences across the Pacific Northwest. She has been married to her husband, Taylor, for twenty years, and they are raising four children here in Oregon. Want to work with Connie? Email her at connie@livingwholehearted.com.    To connect with Connie Armerding, visit:    EMAIL -  connie@livingwholehearted.com    ONLINE -  www.livingwholehearted.com   www.conniearmerding.com    SOCIAL -   Facebook - @connie.armerding  Instagram - @carmerding    =======================    We LOVE that you've decided to join us this week for the Living Wholehearted Podcast. We hope you enjoyed the conversation, tips, and resources to help you transform every relationship that matters most to you. If you think this will help someone you know, make sure you send it their way or share on socials. Tag us @living_wholehearted and @terramattson! Don't forget to FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss an episode and help spread the word by leaving us some stars on a review. Thanks for partnering with us to help more leaders, just like you, who want to live and lead with integrity at home, work and in the community.  Go to livingwholehearted.com and sign up to receive our free leadership tips and updates delivered to you in our monthly newsletter.     If you are a woman, and you are interested in monthly group coaching, we've got a fantastic opportunity for you! We're kicking off a new Women's Group Coaching six-month session in April! You can join anytime. Find out more at www.livingwholehearted.com/womens-group-coaching.    And, if you're a girl mom, check out mycourageousgirls.com.      Until next time, be the leader you would follow!    Grateful for you,  Jeff & Terra     To connect with Jeff & Terra Mattson and Living Wholehearted, go to:    INSTAGRAM  @TerraMattson  @Living_Wholehearted  @MyCourageousGirls    FACEBOOK  @WeAreLivingWholehearted  @MyCourageousGirls    WEBSITES  LivingWholehearted.com  TerraMattson.com   MyCourageousGirls.com    RESOURCES  Shrinking the Integrity Gap         https://davidccook.org/shrinking-integrity-gap-book/       https://www.livingwholehearted.com/store/books  Shrinking the Integrity Gap e-Course         https://www.livingwholehearted.com/e-courses  Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace        https://www.livingwholehearted.com/store/books  Dear Mattsons         https://www.christianparenting.org/dearmattsons/  Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters         http://cpguides.org    =======================    The Living Wholehearted Podcast is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org   

Every healthy leader has good friends. Our personal friendships help us sustain our integrity over the long-haul of life. So it's worth spending two full episodes to unpack the healthy and unhealthy elements of friendship. Terra Mattson, co-host of the podcast and co-founder of Living Wholehearted, has a candid conversation with one of the Living Wholehearted Executive Coaches, Connie Armerding, about friendship - what it is and what it is not. Connie and Terra were friends before working together at Living Wholehearted. They offer some genuine insights into the myths that run interference, particularly with female leaders, and how we can move toward building healthy friendships. Connie and Terra both coach women in leadership, do organizational development retreats, and love leading the Wholehearted Leadership Cohorts. Learn more at livingwholehearted.com    Terra Mattson is co-founder of Living Wholehearted, a professional counseling, executive coaching, and organizational development firm outside Portland, Oregon, helping leaders live and lead with integrity. She is also the founder and executive director of the non-profit Courageous Girls.  She is co-author of Shrinking the Integrity Gap: Between What Leaders Preach and Live, and Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace, where she talks extensively about friendship. (Learn more about Courageous Girls at www.mycourageousgirls.com, and follow Terra on Instagram @terramattson)   Connie Armerding is an Executive Coach & Leadership Consultant, Writer, Speaker, and Teacher. She is passionate about equipping ministry and marketplace leaders by creating spiritually and emotionally healthy cultures among leaders and their communities. Connie holds degrees from Wheaton College in Interpersonal Communication and a MA in Leadership. She's been published with Propel Women, Patheos, and the Redbud Post. She is a contributing writer of Friendzy and is currently working on a project with Nav Press as a contributor to Reflecting God's Nature, the Women's Devotional Bible based on The Message. Connie also leads conflict resolution training for organizational teams and teaches and preaches at churches and conferences across the Pacific Northwest. She has been married to her husband, Taylor, for twenty years, and they are raising four children here in Oregon. Want to work with Connie? Email her at connie@livingwholehearted.com.   To connect with Connie Armerding, visit:   EMAIL - connie@livingwholehearted.com   ONLINE - www.livingwholehearted.com  www.conniearmerding.com   SOCIAL -  Facebook - @connie.armerding Instagram - @carmerding   =======================   We LOVE that you've decided to join us this week for the Living Wholehearted Podcast. We hope you enjoyed the conversation, tips, and resources to help you transform every relationship that matters most to you. If you think this will help someone you know, make sure you send it their way or share on socials. Tag us @living_wholehearted and @terramattson! Don't forget to FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss an episode and help spread the word by leaving us some stars on a review. Thanks for partnering with us to help more leaders, just like you, who want to live and lead with integrity at home, work and in the community.  Go to livingwholehearted.com and sign up to receive our free leadership tips and updates delivered to you in our monthly newsletter.    Don't forget our unique Wholehearted Leadership Cohort opportunities. Applications are open for the next one-year and two-year cohorts. In fact, the Cohort experience might be the very thing that helps you see long-term shifts in your leadership at work and at home. We'd love to come alongside you! Learn more and apply today at www.livingwholehearted.com/cohort.   And, if you're a girl mom, check out mycourageousgirls.com.     Until next time, be the leader you would follow!   Grateful for you, Jeff & Terra   To connect with Jeff & Terra Mattson and Living Wholehearted, go to:   INSTAGRAM @TerraMattson @Living_Wholehearted @MyCourageousGirls   FACEBOOK @WeAreLivingWholehearted @MyCourageousGirls   WEBSITES LivingWholehearted.com TerraMattson.com  MyCourageousGirls.com   RESOURCES Shrinking the Integrity Gap        https://davidccook.org/shrinking-integrity-gap-book/       https://www.livingwholehearted.com/store/books Shrinking the Integrity Gap e-Course        https://www.livingwholehearted.com/e-courses Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace       https://www.livingwholehearted.com/store/books Dear Mattsons        https://www.christianparenting.org/dearmattsons/ Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters        http://cpguides.org   =======================   The Living Wholehearted Podcast is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org  

It's a new year and new year's resolutions are on the rise - while anxiety, business and lack of clarity are too. What if we committed our year to PEACE and PACE? What if wholehearted leaders took time to assess all of who they are and where they are going? What if we got less busy this year and created margin and white space in our times at work, home, and at play? What if?    Join us as we unpack why white space and boredom are essential to a healthy brain and wholehearted leadership. We also talk about the Core Values Index and how this shapes what our goal setting and pacinging looks like for the year. If you want more peace this year, and less anxiety, stress, and disappointment in what is NOT happening, then listen in. Whether you are a parent, a CEO, a ministry leader or all of the above, this conversation is for you.    And don't forget that our TWO-year Executive Wholehearted Leadership Cohort applications are NOW open for a March 2024 start date. In fact, the Cohort might be the very thing that helps you see long-term shifts in your leadership at work and at home, finding more peace and pace in your life. We'd love to come alongside you! Learn more and apply today at www.livingwholehearted.com/cohort    We are Jeff and Terra Mattson, a husband and wife team, and co-hosts of the Living Wholehearted Podcast. We are the founders of Living Wholehearted, a professional counseling, executive coaching, and organizational development firm outside Portland, Oregon, helping leaders live and lead with integrity. Our amazing team of professionals who have excellent character and competencies, are coming alongside leaders in the home, work and community, providing confidential and safe places for leaders, their families, and their teams. We co-authored the book, Shrinking the Integrity Gap: Between What Leaders Preach and Live, and are raising our two teen girls on 5 acres in the Willamette Valley of Oregon. We also founded Courageous Girls, a non-profit dedicated to helping moms walk alongside their daughters at every stage of their growing years (learn more at mycourageousgirls.com). Bridging the gap between Biblical truth, clinical expertise, and trauma-informed relational wisdom, we are currently engaged in executive coaching, organizational development, writing, speaking, and training pastors, counselors and leaders. We believe that when a leader lives and leads with integrity, everyone in their wake benefits. That's why we do what we do. Want to work with us or our team? Email Jeff at jeff@livingwholehearted.com or Terra at info@livingwholehearted.com.   We hope you'll stick around this year and spend some time with us. It's going to be a GOOD year.    =======================   We LOVE that you've decided to join us this week for the Living Wholehearted Podcast. We hope you enjoyed the conversation, tips, and resources to help you transform every relationship that matters most to you. If you think this will help someone you know, make sure you send it their way or share on socials. Tag us @living_wholehearted and @terramattson! Don't forget to FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss an episode and help spread the word by leaving us some stars on a review. Thanks for partnering with us to help more leaders, just like you, who want to live and lead with integrity at home, work and in the community.  Go to livingwholehearted.com and sign up to receive our free leadership tips and updates delivered to you in our monthly newsletter. And, if you're a girl mom, check out mycourageousgirls.com.     Until next time, be the leader you would follow!   Grateful for you, Jeff & Terra   To connect with Jeff & Terra Mattson and Living Wholehearted, go to:   INSTAGRAM @TerraMattson @Living_Wholehearted @MyCourageousGirls   FACEBOOK @WeAreLivingWholehearted @MyCourageousGirls   WEBSITES LivingWholehearted.com TerraMattson.com  MyCourageousGirls.com   RESOURCES Shrinking the Integrity Gap        https://davidccook.org/shrinking-integrity-gap-book/       https://www.livingwholehearted.com/store/books Shrinking the Integrity Gap e-Course        https://www.livingwholehearted.com/e-courses Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace       https://www.livingwholehearted.com/store/books Dear Mattsons        https://www.christianparenting.org/dearmattsons/ Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters        http://cpguides.org   =======================   The Living Wholehearted Podcast is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org

As we reflect on 2023, it's important to consider the fact that we've all picked up offenses over the past twelve months. One of the ways we stay healthy and wholehearted is doing our forgiveness work. The church isn't always clear about how to forgive, leaving many of us with the right motive, but not always the right methods. Sometimes we even confuse forgiveness with reconciliation, trust, or with forgetting. As you move through the rest of this year and into the next, keep in mind that becoming a wholehearted leader at home, work and in the community requires each of us to own what we can, forgive what we can, and reconcile where we can. Listen in to learn the difference and how to create a culture where forgiveness is as familiar as breathing. Combining mental health, spiritual formation, and trauma-informed abuse recovery, this conversation is complex, but vital to our health and wholeness.    Jeff and Terra Mattson are the co-hosts of the Living Wholehearted Podcast. They are also the founders of Living Wholehearted, a professional counseling, executive coaching, and organizational development firm outside Portland, Oregon, helping leaders live and lead with integrity. Their team of professionals are coming alongside leaders in the home, work and community, providing confidential and safe places for leaders, and their families and teams, to find healing, wholeness, and health. Jeff and Terra are also co-authors of the book Shrinking the Integrity Gap: Between What Leaders Preach and Live, co-founders of Courageous Girls, a non-profit dedicated to helping moms walk alongside their daughters at every stage of their growing years (learn more at mycourageousgirls.com), and parents of two teen girls. Bridging the gap between Biblical truth, clinical expertise, and trauma-informed relational wisdom, the Mattsons are writing, speaking, training, and coaching leaders in both sacred and secular spaces so there are more wholehearted leaders in a broken and hurting world.    =======================   We LOVE that you've decided to join us this week for the Living Wholehearted Podcast. We hope you enjoyed the conversation, tips, and resources to help you transform every relationship that matters most to you. If you think this will help someone you know, make sure you send it their way or share on socials. Tag us @living_wholehearted and @terramattson! Don't forget to FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss an episode and help spread the word by leaving us some stars on a review. Thanks for partnering with us to help more leaders, just like you, who want to live and lead with integrity at home, work and in the community.  Go to livingwholehearted.com and sign up to receive our free leadership tips and updates delivered to you in our monthly newsletter. And, if you're a girl mom, check out mycourageousgirls.com.     Until next time, be the leader you would follow!   Grateful for you, Jeff & Terra   To connect with Jeff & Terra Mattson and Living Wholehearted, go to:   INSTAGRAM @TerraMattson @Living_Wholehearted @MyCourageousGirls   FACEBOOK @WeAreLivingWholehearted @MyCourageousGirls   WEBSITES LivingWholehearted.com TerraMattson.com  MyCourageousGirls.com   RESOURCES Shrinking the Integrity Gap        https://davidccook.org/shrinking-integrity-gap-book/       https://www.livingwholehearted.com/store/books Shrinking the Integrity Gap e-Course        https://www.livingwholehearted.com/e-courses Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace       https://www.livingwholehearted.com/store/books Dear Mattsons        https://www.christianparenting.org/dearmattsons/ Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters        http://cpguides.org   =======================   The Living Wholehearted Podcast is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org

"Wherever you go, there you are." Whether you are a leader at home, in the workplace, in a faith community, or somewhere else, your individual story and wiring inform the type of person you are when you show up to lead. Today Terra and Jeff Mattson have a round table conversation with our guest, Connie Armerding, about how coming to the leadership table, as your most unique, integrated and healthy self, can ultimately lead to less stress and more peace for you and those within your circle.    If you are a leader looking for a space to invest in your own leadership growth, you're in luck! We have two Wholehearted Leadership Cohorts starting soon and applications are open! Our next one-year Women's Cohort begins in January 2024 and the next two-year co-ed Executive's Cohort begins in March 2024. To register, or for more information to help you discern which cohort is the best fit for you, visit www.livingwholehearted.com/cohort.  APPLY NOW!   Connie Armerding is an Executive Coach & Leadership Consultant, Writer, Speaker, and Teacher. She is passionate about equipping ministry and marketplace leaders by creating spiritually and emotionally healthy cultures among leaders and their communities. Connie holds degrees from Wheaton College in Interpersonal Communication and a MA in Leadership. She's been published with Propel Women, Patheos, and the Redbud Post. She is a contributing writer of Friendzy and is currently working on a project with Nav Press as a contributor to Reflecting God's Nature, the Women's Devotional Bible based on The Message. Connie also leads conflict resolution training for organizational teams and teaches and preaches at churches and conferences across the Pacific Northwest. She has been married to her husband, Taylor, for twenty years, and they are raising four children here in Oregon. Want to work with Connie? Email her at connie@livingwholehearted.com.   Jeff and Terra Mattson are the co-hosts of the Living Wholehearted Podcast. They are also the founders of Living Wholehearted, a professional counseling, executive coaching, and organizational development firm outside Portland, Oregon, helping leaders live and lead with integrity. Their team of professionals are coming alongside leaders in the home, work and community, providing confidential and safe places for leaders, and their families and teams, to find healing, wholeness, and health. Jeff and Terra are the co-hosts of the weekly Living Wholehearted Podcast, co-authors of the book, Shrinking the Integrity Gap: Between What Leaders Preach and Live, and are raising their two teen girls. They are also the founders of Courageous Girls, a non-profit dedicated to helping moms walk alongside their daughters at every stage of their growing years (learn more at mycourageousgirls.com). Bridging the gap between Biblical truth, clinical expertise, and trauma-informed relational wisdom, the Mattsons are writing, speaking, training, counseling and coaching leaders, knowing that when a leader lives and leads with integrity, everyone in their wake benefits. Want to work with the Mattsons? Email info@livingwholehearted.com.   To connect with Connie Armerding, visit:   WEBSITE - www.livingwholehearted.com/connie-armerding-bio www.conniearmerding.com SOCIAL -  Facebook - www.facebook.com/connie.armerding Instagram - www.instagram.com/carmerding   EMAIL-  connie@livingwholehearted.com   =======================   We LOVE that you've decided to join us this week for the Living Wholehearted Podcast. We hope you enjoyed the conversation, tips, and resources to help you transform every relationship that matters most to you. If you think this will help someone you know, make sure you send it their way or share on socials. Tag us @living_wholehearted and @terramattson! Don't forget to FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss an episode and help spread the word by leaving us some stars on a review. Thanks for partnering with us to help more leaders, just like you, who want to live and lead with integrity at home, work and in the community.  Go to livingwholehearted.com and sign up to receive our free leadership tips and updates delivered to you in our monthly newsletter. And, if you're a girl mom, check out mycourageousgirls.com.     Until next time, be the leader you would follow!   Grateful for you, Jeff & Terra   To connect with Jeff & Terra Mattson and Living Wholehearted, go to:   INSTAGRAM @TerraMattson @Living_Wholehearted @MyCourageousGirls   FACEBOOK @WeAreLivingWholehearted @MyCourageousGirls   WEBSITES LivingWholehearted.com TerraMattson.com  MyCourageousGirls.com   RESOURCES Shrinking the Integrity Gap        https://davidccook.org/shrinking-integrity-gap-book/       https://www.livingwholehearted.com/store/books Shrinking the Integrity Gap e-Course        https://www.livingwholehearted.com/e-courses Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace       https://www.livingwholehearted.com/store/books Dear Mattsons        https://www.christianparenting.org/dearmattsons/ Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters        http://cpguides.org   =======================   The Living Wholehearted Podcast is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org

It's NOVEMBER! The holidays are upon us. Some of you have already been watching Hallmark movies and others are in denial, as you anticipate being overwhelmed by all the extra things that will clamor for your time and attention…Christmas celebrations, children's choir concerts, office holiday parties, and complicated family dynamics. Listen in as we, Jeff and Terra, give you some real-time tips on how to move through the holidays with more joy, more peace, and more MARGIN! Get ahead of what's coming and prepare yourself well. We cover how to say "no" to all the offers, “no” to spending more than you have,  and “no” to unreasonable extended family expectations, so you can say “yes” to protecting your own personal and family needs, and “yes” to serving others. Anyone can benefit from this conversation.    Jeff and Terra Mattson are the co-hosts of the Living Wholehearted Podcast. They are also the founders of Living Wholehearted, a professional counseling, executive coaching, and organizational development firm outside Portland, Oregon, helping leaders live and lead with integrity. Their team of professionals are coming alongside leaders in the home, work and community, providing confidential and safe places for leaders, and their families and teams, to find healing, wholeness, and health. Jeff and Terra are the co-hosts of the weekly Living Wholehearted Podcast, co-authors of the book Shrinking the Integrity Gap: Between What Leaders Preach and Live, and are raising their two teen girls. They are also the founders of Courageous Girls, a non-profit dedicated to helping moms walk alongside their daughters at every stage of their growing years (learn more at mycourageousgirls.com). Bridging the gap between Biblical truth, clinical expertise, and trauma-informed relational wisdom, the Mattsons are writing, speaking, training, and coaching leaders in both sacred and secular spaces so there are more wholehearted leaders in a broken and hurting world.    =======================   We LOVE that you've decided to join us this week for the Living Wholehearted Podcast. We hope you enjoyed the conversation, tips, and resources to help you transform every relationship that matters most to you. If you think this will help someone you know, make sure you send it their way or share on socials. Tag us @living_wholehearted and @terramattson! Don't forget to FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss an episode and help spread the word by leaving us some stars on a review. Thanks for partnering with us to help more leaders, just like you, who want to live and lead with integrity at home, work and in the community.  Go to livingwholehearted.com and sign up to receive our free leadership tips and updates delivered to you in our monthly newsletter. And, if you're a girl mom, check out mycourageousgirls.com.     Until next time, be the leader you would follow!   Grateful for you, Jeff & Terra   To connect with Jeff & Terra Mattson and Living Wholehearted, go to:   INSTAGRAM @TerraMattson @Living_Wholehearted @MyCourageousGirls   FACEBOOK @WeAreLivingWholehearted @MyCourageousGirls   WEBSITES LivingWholehearted.com TerraMattson.com  MyCourageousGirls.com   RESOURCES Shrinking the Integrity Gap        https://davidccook.org/shrinking-integrity-gap-book/       https://www.livingwholehearted.com/store/books Shrinking the Integrity Gap e-Course        https://www.livingwholeheartedstore.com/e-courses Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace       https://mycourageousgirls.com/shop/p/book-courageous-being-daughters-rooted-in-grace Dear Mattsons        https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters        http://cpguides.org   =======================   The Living Wholehearted Podcast is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org  

Being a parent is not an easy leadership role. Parents lead families, one of the greatest organizations on the planet! We often feel equipped until we actually start raising children. Whether you are a parent needing some wisdom on perfectionism, anxiety, or raising girls, or you are interested in becoming a counselor and want to hear two seasoned clinicians talk about why they made that career choice, this conversation is for you.    Today, we have a guest who many of you may know well. Sissy Goff, LPC-MHSP, has worked as the director of child and adolescent counseling at Daystar Counseling Ministries since 1993. She speaks to parents and children's ministers across the country and is a frequent guest on media outlets like NBC Nightly News, CNN, Good Morning America, Focus on the Family, That Sounds Fun, Family Life Today, and many more. Sissy Goff is the author of 13 books including her latest, The Worry-Free Parent. She also co-hosts the chart-topping Raising Boys and Girls podcast, with fellow Daystar Counselor David Thomas. The podcast just celebrated more than 5 million downloads to date.   Raising girls is particularly tricky today. That's why we created Courageous Girls almost 12 years ago and have written close to 100 conversation guides for Courageous Girls groups. These small groups of moms and daughters are gathering all over the globe, creating opportunities for moms to have intentional conversations with their daughters about all things related to the development of  her mind, heart, soul and body.  Learn more at mycourageousgirls.com or check out Terra's book, Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace.   If you need support for your child or adolescent or are ready to do your own work as a parent, go to www.livingwholehearted.com and schedule with one of our counselors or coaches.   To connect with Sissy Goff, visit:   WEBSITE - raisingboysandgirls.com   INSTAGRAM -   @SissyGoff  @RaisingBoysandGirls   NEW BOOK -  The Worry-Free Parent: Living in Confidence So Your Kids Can Too, by Sissy Goff, LPC-MHSP   PODCAST -  Raising Boys and Girls Podcast   =======================   We LOVE that you've decided to join us this week for the Living Wholehearted Podcast. We hope you enjoyed the conversation, tips, and resources to help you transform every relationship that matters most to you. If you think this will help someone you know, make sure you send it their way or share on socials. Tag us @living_wholehearted and @terramattson! Don't forget to FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss an episode and help spread the word by leaving us some stars on a review. Thanks for partnering with us to help more leaders, just like you, who want to live and lead with integrity at home, work and in the community.  Go to livingwholehearted.com and sign up to receive our free leadership tips and updates delivered to you in our monthly newsletter. And, if you're a girl mom, check out mycourageousgirls.com.     You can catch Terra, a featured speaker, at Grace Story Women's Conference in Cincinnati, Ohio, November 3-4, 2023. Find more info at https://www.gracestoryministries.com/womens-conference.    Until next time, be the leader you would follow!   Grateful for you, Jeff & Terra   To connect with Jeff & Terra Mattson and Living Wholehearted, go to:   INSTAGRAM @TerraMattson @Living_Wholehearted @MyCourageousGirls   FACEBOOK @WeAreLivingWholehearted @MyCourageousGirls   WEBSITES LivingWholehearted.com TerraMattson.com  MyCourageousGirls.com   RESOURCES Shrinking the Integrity Gap        https://davidccook.org/shrinking-integrity-gap-book/       https://a.co/d/dRiP4Ii Shrinking the Integrity Gap e-Course        https://www.livingwholeheartedstore.com/e-courses Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace       https://mycourageousgirls.com/shop/p/book-courageous-being-daughters-rooted-in-grace Dear Mattsons        https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters        http://cpguides.org   =======================   The Living Wholehearted Podcast is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org  

Are you feeling discouraged by your life, leadership, or church? Are you frustrated with all the broken unhealthy systems? Are you losing hope as you struggle to serve, lead, and do what is right? We get it. There is a lot of hard in the world and it's difficult to finish the race well. You are not alone. But we have good news for you.    Our guest today is near and dear to our hearts. His children's book series, “You Are Special” has been a key part of our own family routine over the years, especially when our girls were younger. We even featured Punchinello and Lucia (characters from Max's book) in Terra's very first book, Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace, and the Courageous Girls curriculum. Max Lucado is here to bring you some much needed encouragement - wherever you are in your walk with God. Curious. Hungry. Disappointed. Angry. Burdened. Apathetic.    Max Lucado is a pastor, speaker, and bestselling author with more than 145 million products in print, which have been translated into 56 languages and distributed across 80 countries worldwide. Known for delivering timeless messages of hope and encouragement in his signature writing style, combining poetic storytelling and homespun humor, Lucado is America's favorite and most prolific inspirational author. Max's latest book is titled, God Never Gives Up on You.   And stick around after the interview, as we share our insights and impressions of Max's encouragement when it comes to healing church wounds and finishing your race well.      To connect with Max Lucado, visit:   ONLINE -  maxlucado.com   SOCIAL -  Facebook - @MaxLucado Twitter - @MaxLucado Instagram - @MaxLucado   NEW BOOK -  www.mmpublicrelations.com/#/god-never-gives-up-on-you/  God Never Gives Up on You: What Jacob's Story Teaches Us About Grace, Mercy and God's Relentless Love, by Max Lucado (Available on Sept 12th, 2023)   =======================   We LOVE that you've decided to join us this week for the Living Wholehearted Podcast. We hope you enjoyed the conversation, tips, and resources to help you transform every relationship that matters most to you. If you think this will help someone you know, make sure you send it their way or share on socials. Tag us @living_wholehearted and @terramattson! Don't forget to FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss an episode and help spread the word by leaving us some stars on a review. Thanks for partnering with us to help more leaders, just like you, who want to live and lead with integrity at home, work and in the community.  Go to livingwholehearted.com and sign up to receive our free leadership tips and updates delivered to you in our monthly newsletter. And, if you're a girl mom, check out mycourageousgirls.com.     Until next time, be the leader you would follow!   Grateful for you, Jeff & Terra   To connect with Jeff & Terra Mattson and Living Wholehearted, go to:   INSTAGRAM @TerraMattson @Living_Wholehearted @MyCourageousGirls   FACEBOOK @WeAreLivingWholehearted @MyCourageousGirls   WEBSITES LivingWholehearted.com TerraMattson.com  MyCourageousGirls.com   RESOURCES Shrinking the Integrity Gap        https://davidccook.org/shrinking-integrity-gap-book/       https://a.co/d/dRiP4Ii Shrinking the Integrity Gap e-Course        https://www.livingwholeheartedstore.com/e-courses Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace       https://mycourageousgirls.com/shop/p/book-courageous-being-daughters-rooted-in-grace Dear Mattsons        https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters        http://cpguides.org   =======================   The Living Wholehearted Podcast is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org  

Is it selfish or is it healthy to advocate for your needs?  In this episode, the first in our series, Healing From Church Wounds, we address the difference between grace-based systems, where imperfect people can safely express their needs, versus rigid and legalistic systems, often led by unhealthy toxic leaders, where individual needs are ignored or dismissed. How do we learn to honor our own needs and the needs of others at home, at work, and in our community? When do we go to God with our needs and when do we lean into relationships to help us? Join us as we dialogue and unpack this complicated, but important, topic together.    Jeff and Terra Mattson are the founders of Living Wholehearted, a professional counseling and executive coaching and organizational development firm outside Portland, Oregon, helping leaders live and lead with integrity. Their team of professionals are coming alongside leaders in the home, work, and community, providing confidential and safe places for leaders, their families, and their teams to find healing, wholeness, and health. Jeff and Terra are the co-hosts of the weekly Living Wholehearted Podcast, co-authors of the book, Shrinking the Integrity Gap: Between What Leaders Preach and Live, and are raising their two teen girls. They are also the founders of Courageous Girls, a non-profit dedicated to helping moms walk alongside their daughters at every stage of their growing years (learn more at mycourageousgirls.com). Bridging the gap between Biblical truth, clinical research, and trauma-informed relational wisdom, the Mattsons are writing, speaking, training, and coaching leaders in both sacred and secular spaces so that there are more wholehearted leaders in a broken and hurting world.    Check out more at livingwholeheated.com. We serve a global community through our Executive Coaching and Wholehearted Leadership Cohorts. Apply today! If you live in Oregon, you can take advantage of our professional counseling team. Consultations are free!   If you are a woman in the greater Portland, Oregon, area and you want a day to slow down, pause, and reconnect with God, join us for a contemplative prayer day at the Living Wholehearted Lodge & Retreat on September 22.  Learn more and register at www.livingwholehearted.com/prayer-retreat. Limited spots available.   =======================   We LOVE that you've decided to join us this week for the Living Wholehearted Podcast. We hope you enjoyed the conversation, tips, and resources to help you transform every relationship that matters most to you. If you think this will help someone you know, make sure you send it their way or share on socials. Tag us @living_wholehearted and @terramattson! Don't forget to FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss an episode and help spread the word by leaving us some stars on a review. Thanks for partnering with us to help more leaders, just like you, who want to live and lead with integrity at home, work and in the community.  Go to livingwholehearted.com and sign up to receive our free leadership tips and updates delivered to you in our monthly newsletter. And, if you're a girl mom, check out mycourageousgirls.com.     Until next time, be the leader you would follow!   Grateful for you, Jeff & Terra   To connect with Jeff & Terra Mattson and Living Wholehearted, go to:   INSTAGRAM @TerraMattson @Living_Wholehearted @MyCourageousGirls   FACEBOOK @WeAreLivingWholehearted @MyCourageousGirls   WEBSITES LivingWholehearted.com TerraMattson.com  MyCourageousGirls.com   RESOURCES Shrinking the Integrity Gap        https://davidccook.org/shrinking-integrity-gap-book/       https://a.co/d/dRiP4Ii Shrinking the Integrity Gap e-Course        https://www.livingwholeheartedstore.com/e-courses Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace       https://mycourageousgirls.com/shop/p/book-courageous-being-daughters-rooted-in-grace Dear Mattsons        https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters        http://cpguides.org   =======================   The Living Wholehearted Podcast is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org  

Living Wholehearted co-host, Terra Mattson, is a marriage and family therapist, executive coach, author and co-founder of Living Wholehearted and Courageous Girls. She knows what it's like to be busy - running companies and meeting with clients, while trying to raise two girls who love the Lord and know they are loved. Any parent knows the struggle. So this conversation between Terra and Crystal Paine, is about grace and learning to find the rhythms of joy, rest, and peace in the reality of living a full life. As a type A, very organized woman, Crystal shares her four steps to an organized and simpler life and shares her own journey of getting off the performance treadmill and her compulsion to strive. Want to avoid or recover from burnout? Join us for today's episode. It's for any leader, in the home or the community, who wants to find simplicity in the midst of juggling many important roles.    Crystal Paine is the founder of MoneySavingMom.com, host of The Crystal Paine Show podcast, and a New York Times bestselling author. Her desire is to help women across the globe live with more joy, purpose, and intention in their everyday lives. She lives with her husband and six kids in the Nashville, Tennessee, area, where she is actively involved in her local church. Her biggest passions are helping women understand how the gospel can radically transform their lives, raising awareness for foster care, going on adventures with her family (locally, domestically, and internationally), finding great deals at the grocery store, having heartfelt conversations, and trying to read too many books at one time!   Connect with Crystal online: Website: https://crystalpaine.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themoneysavingmom/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MoneySavingMom Twitter: https://twitter.com/moneysavingmom Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/msmblog/   For more help simplifying your life and learning to live from your  priorities, consider executive coaching with Jeff or Terra or their LW Coaching team. And women, you are invited to join the next Women's Wholehearted Leadership Cohort - scheduled to begin in September 2023. The application is open! Go to livingwholehearted.com/cohort.   =======================   We LOVE that you've decided to join us this week for the Living Wholehearted Podcast. We hope you enjoyed the conversation, tips, and resources to help you transform every relationship that matters most to you. If you think this will help someone you know, make sure you send it their way or share on socials. Tag us @living_wholehearted and @terramattson! Don't forget to FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss an episode and help spread the word by leaving us some stars on a review. Thanks for partnering with us to help more leaders, just like you, who want to live and lead with integrity at home, work and in the community.  Go to livingwholehearted.com and sign up to receive our free leadership tips and updates delivered to you in our monthly newsletter.    Until next time, be the leader you would follow!   Grateful for you, Jeff & Terra   To connect with Jeff & Terra Mattson and Living Wholehearted, go to:   INSTAGRAM @TerraMattson @Living_Wholehearted @MyCourageousGirls   FACEBOOK @WeAreLivingWholehearted @MyCourageousGirls   WEBSITES LivingWholehearted.com TerraMattson.com  MyCourageousGirls.com   RESOURCES Shrinking the Integrity Gap        https://davidccook.org/shrinking-integrity-gap-book/       https://a.co/d/dRiP4Ii Shrinking the Integrity Gap e-Course        https://www.livingwholeheartedstore.com/e-courses Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace       https://mycourageousgirls.com/shop/p/book-courageous-being-daughters-rooted-in-grace Dear Mattsons        https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters        http://cpguides.org   ======================= The Living Wholehearted Podcast is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org  

There is so much to do. Our kids need to be fed and driven to their activities. Bills need to be paid. Church is asking for volunteers. Friends and family want our time. Bible study. Work deadlines. There are expectations and demands everywhere we look no matter what stage of life we find ourselves in. As leaders in the home, at work, and in the community, we are modeling to everyone in our wake what is most important to us by the way we spend our time. We are also modeling boundaries (or lack of boundaries). The Mattsons share about the Concentric Circles tool found in their book, Shrinking the Integrity Gap: Between What Leaders Preach and Live, and how they have learned to live out their priorities. Whether it's finding time with God or tending to their own soul care, their marriage, or their kids - in the midst of running two organizations it isn't easy. Want to be a parent who matches your walk with your talk? Want to model to your staff how to live from the values you espouse? Want to have more time for the people, and the things, you say you love the most? This episode is for you.   Jeff Mattson (MA ORGL) and Terra Mattson (MA LPC, LMFT) are the husband and wife team who founded Living Wholehearted and Courageous Girls. Living Wholehearted is a professional counseling and organizational leadership development firm outside Portland, Oregon, and Courageous Girls is a global movement and curriculum helping moms walk with their daughters at every stage of their growing years. Terra is an Executive Coach, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Licensed Professional Counselor, speaker, and author of Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace (David C. Cook, 2020). Jeff is a former pastor, Executive Coach, organizational development consultant, and speaker. Together they co-authored Shrinking the Integrity Gap: Between What Leaders Preach and Live (David C. Cook, 2020). They are the co-hosts of the Living Wholehearted Podcast and the Dear Mattsons parenting advice series found on YouTube. Terra is the creator of the Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters guides found at cpguides.org.   For a free resource, go to livingwholehearted.com/links to get your Concentric Circles worksheet. To help you live from your priorities, consider executive coaching with Jeff or Terra or their LW team. Or join our next Women's Wholehearted Leadership Cohort - scheduled to start this fall. The application is open! Go to livingwholehearted.com/cohort.   =======================   We LOVE that you've decided to join us this week for the Living Wholehearted Podcast. We hope you enjoyed the conversation, tips, and resources to help you transform every relationship that matters most to you. If you think this will help someone you know, make sure you send it their way or share on socials. Tag us @living_wholehearted and @terramattson! Don't forget to FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss an episode and help spread the word by leaving us some stars on a review. Thanks for partnering with us to help more leaders, just like you, who want to live and lead with integrity at home, work and in the community.  Go to livingwholehearted.com and sign up to receive our free leadership tips and updates delivered to you in our monthly newsletter.    Until next time, be the leader you would follow!   Grateful for you, Jeff & Terra   To connect with Jeff & Terra Mattson and Living Wholehearted, go to:   INSTAGRAM @TerraMattson @Living_Wholehearted @MyCourageousGirls   FACEBOOK @WeAreLivingWholehearted @MyCourageousGirls   WEBSITES LivingWholehearted.com TerraMattson.com  MyCourageousGirls.com   RESOURCES Shrinking the Integrity Gap        https://davidccook.org/shrinking-integrity-gap-book/       https://a.co/d/dRiP4Ii Shrinking the Integrity Gap e-Course        https://www.livingwholeheartedstore.com/e-courses Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace       https://mycourageousgirls.com/shop/p/book-courageous-being-daughters-rooted-in-grace Dear Mattsons        https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters        http://cpguides.org   ======================= The Living Wholehearted Podcast is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org  

Being a girl can be hard - especially in a world of confusing messages. We wanted to jump onto today's episode to share some insights from years of raising our own two daughters, teaching others about raising girls, and the deeper needs all women have (young and old). Whether you are raising daughters or working with girls (of any age), this episode is for you. From anxiety and big emotions to changing bodies, healthy boundaries and more…we hope to give you some tools you can use today!    We are Jeff and Terra Mattson, a husband and wife team who co-founded Living Wholehearted, an professional counseling and executive development firm, and Courageous Girls, an online resource helping moms walk with their daughters at every stage of her growing years. We are the hosts of the weekly Living Wholehearted Podcast and the Dear Mattsons parenting advice series on Youtube. Jeff (MA ORGL) is an Organizational Development and Leadership Coach and Terra (LPC, LMFT) is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Executive Coach. As authors, speakers, and social-entrepreneurs, we have developed organizations that help leaders, like you, live and lead with integrity at work, home and in the community. We have each invested more than two decades in leadership coaching and trauma-informed therapy and have helped national organizations and churches navigate many difficult leadership crises from the ground up. Our professional experience and research have formed a unique perspective on the relationship between leadership, integrity and trauma. As parents of two teen daughters and twenty-plus years of marriage, we have skin in the game! Between our speaking, publishing, executive coaching, managing our team, our business and non-profit, we get what it's like to juggle the many aspects of a complex life!    We hope Terra's book, Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace, and our co-authored book, Shrinking the Integrity Gap: Between What Leaders Preach and Live (October 2020, David C Cook), will be an evergreen resource for you as you grow in bringing all of who you are before God and others. If you are a mom of daughters, make sure you visit mycourageousgirls.com to start your Courageous Girls group or cpguides.org to get the Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters Courses produced by Christian Parenting. If you are a leader looking for resources, go to livingwholehearted.com for all kinds of holistic ways to meet your needs. We are honored to serve thousands of you each month through this podcast and hope you'll stick around! If you like what you hear, leave us a review or share on your socials. Tag us @terramattson and @living_wholehearted when you do.     ==========   If you are a female leader and looking for a way to connect with us, our Executive Coaches, Connie Armerding, Rhonda Began and I, Terra Mattson, will be leading a 6-month group coaching series that will run from February through July 2023. It meets virtually on the 2nd Tuesday of the month, 9:00 - 10:00 a.m. Pacific Time. You can register anytime. It's only $45/month and we will be covering all those unique challenges women face as leaders. Find out more at livingwholehearted.com.   ==========   We LOVE that you have decided to join us this week for the Living Wholehearted Podcast. We hope you enjoyed the conversation, tips, and resources to help you transform every relationship that matters most to you. If you think this will help someone you know, make sure you send it their way or share on socials. Tag us @living_wholehearted and @terramattson! Don't forget to FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss an episode and help spread the word by leaving us some stars on a review. Thanks for partnering with us to help more leaders, just like you, who want to live and lead with Integrity at home, work and in the community.  You can always join our monthly newsletters at livingwholehearted.com. And, if you are a girl mom, check out mycourageousgirls.com.   Until next time, be the leader you would follow!   Grateful for you, Jeff & Terra   ===========    To connect with Jeff & Terra Mattson and Living Wholehearted, go to:   INSTAGRAM @TerraMattson @Living_Wholehearted @MyCourageousGirls   FACEBOOK @WeAreLivingWholehearted @MyCourageousGirls   WEBSITES LivingWholehearted.com TerraMattson.com  MyCourageousGirls.com   RESOURCES Shrinking the Integrity Gap        https://davidccook.org/shrinking-integrity-gap-book/ Shrinking the Integrity Gap e-Course        https://www.livingwholeheartedstore.com/e-courses Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace       https://mycourageousgirls.com/shop/p/book-courageous-being-daughters-rooted-in-grace Dear Mattsons        https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters        http://cpguides.org   The Living Wholehearted is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org

Marriage. Work. Life. It's hard to juggle it all, especially if you have chosen to work together as husband and wife. Today, we are unpacking some of the myths around being a husband and wife team and looking at the layers of a healthy marriage through the lens of the Gottman's Relationship Sound house. You want real insights about growing a healthy marriage?  Listen in to this episode and then choose one thing to take into your world this week.    We are Jeff and Terra Mattson, a husband and wife team who co-founded Living Wholehearted, an professional counseling and executive development firm, and Courageous Girls, an online resource helping moms walk with their daughters at every stage of her growing years. We are the hosts of the weekly Living Wholehearted Podcast and the Dear Mattsons parenting advice series on Youtube. Jeff (MA ORGL) is an Organizational Development and Leadership Coach and Terra (LPC, LMFT) is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Executive Coach. As authors, speakers, and social-entrepreneurs, we have developed organizations that help leaders, like you, live and lead with integrity at work, home and in the community. We have each invested more than two decades in leadership coaching and trauma-informed therapy and have helped national organizations and churches navigate many difficult leadership crises from the ground up. Our professional experience and research have formed a unique perspective on the relationship between leadership, integrity and trauma. As parents of two teen daughters and twenty-plus years of marriage, we have skin in the game! Between our speaking, publishing, executive coaching, managing our team, our business and non-profit, we get what it's like to juggle the many aspects of a complex life!    We hope Terra's book, Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace, and our co-authored book, Shrinking the Integrity Gap: Between What Leaders Preach and Live (October 2020, David C Cook), will be an evergreen resource for you as you grow in bringing all of who you are before God and others. If you are a mom of daughters, make sure you visit mycourageousgirls.com to start your Courageous Girls group or cpguides.org to get the Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters Courses produced by Christian Parenting. If you are a leader looking for resources, go to livingwholehearted.com for all kinds of holistic ways to meet your needs. We are honored to serve thousands of you each month through this podcast and hope you'll stick around! If you like what you hear, leave us a review or share on your socials. Tag us @terramattson and @living_wholehearted when you do.     ==========   If you are a female leader and looking for a way to connect with us, our Executive Coaches, Connie Armerding, Rhonda Began and I, Terra Mattson, will be leading a 6-month group coaching series that will run from February through July 2023. It meets virtually on the 2nd Tuesday of the month, 9:00 - 10:00 a.m. Pacific Time. You can register anytime. It's only $45/month and we will be covering all those unique challenges women face as leaders. Find out more at livingwholehearted.com.   ==========   We LOVE that you have decided to join us this week for the Living Wholehearted Podcast. We hope you enjoyed the conversation, tips, and resources to help you transform every relationship that matters most to you. If you think this will help someone you know, make sure you send it their way or share on socials. Tag us @living_wholehearted and @terramattson! Don't forget to FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss an episode and help spread the word by leaving us some stars on a review. Thanks for partnering with us to help more leaders, just like you, who want to live and lead with Integrity at home, work and in the community.  You can always join our monthly newsletters at livingwholehearted.com. And, if you are a girl mom, check out mycourageousgirls.com.   Until next time, be the leader you would follow!   Grateful for you,   Jeff & Terra   ===========    To connect with Jeff & Terra Mattson and Living Wholehearted, go to:   INSTAGRAM @TerraMattson @Living_Wholehearted @MyCourageousGirls   FACEBOOK @WeAreLivingWholehearted @MyCourageousGirls   WEBSITES LivingWholehearted.com TerraMattson.com  MyCourageousGirls.com   RESOURCES Shrinking the Integrity Gap        https://davidccook.org/shrinking-integrity-gap-book/ Shrinking the Integrity Gap e-Course        https://www.livingwholeheartedstore.com/e-courses Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace       https://mycourageousgirls.com/shop/p/book-courageous-being-daughters-rooted-in-grace Dear Mattsons        https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters        http://cpguides.org   Living Wholehearted is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org

Parenting is not easy. Let's just start there.    And yet, being a parent is one of the most important leadership roles we can have. Parents remain the most powerful and important influence in their kids' lives. Many parents lose sleep over their responsibility, wondering if they're providing the right boundaries, discipline, and examples to ensure their children have a bright future. Commonly known as the GIRL MOM with Courageous Girls and the Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters courses, the number one question I, Terra, get asked is, “Where are the resources for boys?” Well, good news…today we are talking about raising amazing kids with the official BOY MOM.    Yes, today we've got author and podcaster, Monica Swanson, as well as her husband, Dave.    Monica and Dave Swanson co-authored a book, Raising Amazing: Bringing Up Kids Who Love God, Like Their Family, and Do the Dishes WITHOUT BEING ASKED. They combined years of research with personal stories and step-by-step, practical advice to give parents the help they're looking for as they seek to raise amazing kids. They have been living their best Hawaiian life with their 4 sons for the last 22 years. Monica is the host of the Monica Swanson Podcast (previously the Boy Mom podcast) and author of, BOY MOM: What Your Son Needs Most from You.    Monica is passionate about cheering on parents to pour into their kids' lives in a way that inspires and shapes them into young adults they are proud to launch into the world.   To connect with Monica Swanson, visit:   ONLINE - monicaswanson.com   SOCIAL -  Facebook - Monica Swanson  Twitter - @thegrommom Instagram - monicaswanson_ Youtube - Monica Swanson   PODCAST -  The Monica Swanson Podcast   BOOKS -  Raising Amazing: Bringing Up Kids Who Love God, Like Their Family, and Do the Dishes WITHOUT BEING ASKED Boy Mom: What Your Son Needs Most from You   ==========   If you are a female leader and looking for a way to connect with us, our Executive Coaches, Connie Armerding, Rhonda Began and Terra Mattson, will be leading a 6 month group coaching session. It starts February 14th, 9:00 - 10:00 a.m. Pacific Time. Registration opens February 1. It's only $45/month and we will be covering all those unique challenges women face as leaders. Register at www.livingwholehearted.com.   We are so grateful you are joining us! We hope you enjoy what you hear and if you think this will help someone you know, make sure you send it their way or share on socials. Tag us @living_wholehearted! We love your reviews and appreciate the ways you are helping us share the message of Living Wholehearted. You can always join our monthly newsletters at livingwholehearted.com or if you are a girl mom, check out mycourageousgirls.com for more!    Until next time, be the leader you would follow!   ==========   We LOVE that you have decided to join us this week for the Living Wholehearted Podcast. We hope you enjoyed the conversation, tips, and resources to help you transform every relationship that matters to you. Don't forget to FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss an episode and help spread the word by leaving us some stars on a review. Thanks for partnering with us to help more leaders, just like you, who want to live and lead with Integrity at home, work and in the community. For more about our resources, visit www.livingwholehearted.com.    Grateful for you!   Jeff & Terra    To connect with Jeff & Terra Mattson and Living Wholehearted, go to:   INSTAGRAM @TerraMattson @Living_Wholehearted @MyCourageousGirls   FACEBOOK @WeAreLivingWholehearted @MyCourageousGirls   WEBSITES LivingWholehearted.com TerraMattson.com  MyCourageousGirls.com   RESOURCES Shrinking the Integrity Gap        https://davidccook.org/shrinking-integrity-gap-book/ Shrinking the Integrity Gap e-Course        https://www.livingwholeheartedstore.com/e-courses Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace       https://mycourageousgirls.com/shop/p/book-courageous-being-daughters-rooted-in-grace Dear Mattsons        https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters        http://cpguides.org   Living Wholehearted is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org

We are in the middle of a short series on detoxing. Today, we are talking about detoxing from the digital world. Don't worry, this is not a guilt-ridden episode on why all digital devices are bad and from the pit of hell. But it is timely as you consider what you are buying for your kids during the holiday season and as you think ahead about setting new healthy rhythms in your home for next year. We are personally still detoxing from habits we formed during the pandemic - hours of hallmark christmas movies, netflix series and yes, reruns of Survivor. So, no judgment from us. However, in all reality, in this digital age, children, with developing brains, are spending more time interacting with screens than ever before. There is less time playing outside, reading a book, or interacting with family. We have lost basic things like looking each other in the eye while we talk, and finishing a conversation about our days before we hit the pillow. Though technology has its benefits, it also has its harms. So we want to shore up some of our thinking and habits.   Arlene Pellican is a speaker, author and podcaster. Her latest book, Screen Kids: 5 Relational Skills Every Child Needs in a Tech-Driven World was co-authored with Gary Chapman. She's been honored to speak, write books (translated into over 10 languages), and appear on several media outlets like the Today Show, Wall Street Journal, Focus on the Family, Fox & Friends, TLC's Home Made Simple, FamilyLife Today, and The 700 Club. She hosts The Happy Home podcast.  She has been on the writing team for Proverbs 31 Ministries and Girlfriends in God. She earned a BA from Biola University and a MA from Regent University.    Her happy place is with her husband of more than 23 years, James, and their three children, Ethan, Noelle and Lucy. They live in San Diego with their Goldendoodle named Winston.   Learn more about Living Wholehearted at www.livingwholehearted.com and Courageous Girls at www.mycourageousgirls.com    To connect with Arlene Pellicane, visit: ONLINE - http://www.arlenepellicane.com/ https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/   BOOKS - Screen Kids - https://5lovelanguages.com/screenkids/ ​​https://arlenepellicane.com/books/   PODCAST -  The Happy Home https://www.accessmore.com/pd/https/arlenepellicanecom/podcasts/   RESOURCES -  https://gabbwireless.com/ Promo code ARLENE to save $50 on watch or phone If you want to know more about Living Wholehearted and the resources we offer, from our books and e-Courses, to our professional counseling and leadership development services, go to livingwholehearted.com and sign up for our monthly newsletters. Each month you will be connected with resources and on-going support for your journey toward living more wholehearted. The application process for our next wholehearted leadership cohort is coming soon. If you get our newsletter, you will be the first to know! That's www.livingwholehearted.com or follow us on instagram @living_wholehearted.   Subscribe to the #living_wholeheartedpodcast anywhere you find your podcasts   To connect with Jeff and Terra Mattson and Living Wholehearted, go to: Instagram @TerraMattson @Living_Wholehearted @MyCourageousGirls #living_wholeheartedpodcast  #shrinkingtheintegritygap Facebook @MyCourageousGirls @WeAreLivingWholehearted Websites LivingWholehearted.com TerraMattson.com MyCourageousGirls.com   Resources Shrinking the Integrity Gap  https://davidccook.org/shrinking-integrity-gap-book/ Shrinking the Integrity Gap e-Course  https://www.livingwholeheartedstore.com/e-courses Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace https://mycourageousgirls.com/shop/p/book-courageous-being-daughters-rooted-in-grace Dear Mattsons  https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters  http://cpguides.org/  

We are diving into an important topic today addressing abuse and how the church can grow in health and wholeness in our response to survivors. We talk about why victims do not speak up, helpful messages from the pulpit and not so helpful messages. We address how a person can find healing from their abuse and the compassion needed for the long journey. Listen to the first half of this vital conversation in last week's episode #62.   In part 2, we are talking specifically to leaders and how the church can better come alongside those who have been abused in the church. Joel and Kimberly Harris are transplants fromPortland, Oregon to South Dakota, where Joel is a pastor and worship leader. They have three girls, whom they homeschool. As a family, they value the power of music and storytelling and love to share good books with each other. Kimberly has written for various publications, including Christianity Today and Crosswalk, covering topics such as how abusers groom churches, biblical comfort in suffering, and empathy.   To Connect with Kimi or Joel visit:   ONLINE - https://www.kimiharris.com/ SOCIAL - Instagram - @kimi.n.harris Twitter - @joelharris411   To learn more about this topic, read our book, Shrinking the Integrity Gap: Between What Leaders Preach & Live (currently a steal at $4.99 on kindle) and Mending the Soul, by Steve Tracy.     Jeff and Terra love creating resources for leaders in the home, work, and community. Are you a woman who is leading and looking for a coaching community to help you live more fully into your design, your call, and your priorities? Email info@livingwholehearted.com and consider joining our first women's ONE-YEAR leadership cohort led by Terra Mattson and Connie Armerding. There is room for only 12 leaders and the cohort begins in January 2023.   To find more about all our services, from executive coaching and the Wholehearted Leadership Cohort, to professional counseling and Courageous Girls groups, sign up for the monthly newsletters at www.livingwholehearted.com or follow us on Instagram @living_wholehearted. You can also follow Terra on Instagram @terramattson. (Jeff isn't on social media for his own personal boundaries, but Terra shares once in a while about his fishing adventures and more.)   If you like what you are hearing and find this helpful in ANY WAY, please leave us a review and make sure you subscribe so you don't miss an episode. As mentioned in the episode, if you are a leader looking to know your story, wiring, and how to cultivate healthy relationships at home, at work and in your community, consider joining us for the 2023-2024 Wholehearted Leadership Cohort. Go to www.livingwholehearted.com to join the waitlist. Applications will open in January 2023.   To connect with Jeff and Terra Mattson and Living Wholehearted, go to: Instagram @TerraMattson @Living_Wholehearted @MyCourageousGirls #living_wholeheartedpodcast #shrinkingtheintegritygap Facebook @MyCourageousGirls @WeAreLivingWholehearted Websites LivingWholehearted.com TerraMattson.com MyCourageousGirls.com     Resources Shrinking the Integrity Gap https://davidccook.org/shrinking-integrity-gap-book/ Shrinking the Integrity Gap e-Course https://www.livingwholeheartedstore.com/e-courses Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace https://mycourageousgirls.com/shop/p/book-courageous-being-daughters-rooted-in-grace Dear Mattsons https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters http://cpguides.org/  

After launching the Living Wholehearted Podcast two years ago, the Mattsons are airing their first reruns. The Trauma-Informed Theology episodes from January 2021 were the most listened to podcasts of all time. It might seem odd, but the truth is, people are becoming more and more aware of how trauma is affecting all of who we are - even our understanding of God, the church, and our communities.   Our guests on this episode help us dive into an important discussion; How do we help sex abuse survivors, as well as prevent more abuse in the church? This is never an easy topic, but a vital one we are passionate about and think it's a key to shrinking all our integrity gaps. Today we have Joel and Kimberly Harris who are transplants from Portland, Oregon, to South Dakota, where Joel is a pastor and worship leader. They have three girls, whom they homeschool. As a family, they value the power of music and storytelling and love to share good books with each other. Kimberly has written for various publications, including Christianity Today and Crosswalk, covering topics such as how abusers groom churches, biblical comfort in suffering, and empathy. Through their own story of abuse and seeing the unraveling of larger systemic wreckage, they still love God and the Church. They are helping survivors find their voice and want to see more leaders (who may also be abuse survivors) learn how to respond in helpful and healing ways. Whether you are a parent, ministry leader, business leader, or anywhere in between, please listen in.   For more resources on this topic, read Shrinking the Integrity Gap: Between What Leaders Preach & Live by Jeff and Terra Mattson, and Mending the Soul by Steve Tracy.   To Connect with Kimi or Joel visit:   ONLINE - https://www.kimiharris.com/ SOCIAL - Instagram - @kimi.n.harris Twitter - @joelharris411   To find more about Living Wholehearted and our services, from executive coaching and the Wholehearted Leadership Cohort, to professional counseling and Courageous Girls groups, sign up for the monthly newsletters at www.livingwholehearted.com or follow us on Instagram @living_wholehearted. You can also follow Terra on Instagram @terramattson. (Jeff isn't on social media for his own personal boundaries, but Terra shares once in a while about his fishing adventures and more.)   To connect with Jeff and Terra Mattson and Living Wholehearted, go to: Instagram @TerraMattson @Living_Wholehearted @MyCourageousGirls #living_wholeheartedpodcast #shrinkingtheintegritygap Facebook @MyCourageousGirls @WeAreLivingWholehearted Websites LivingWholehearted.com TerraMattson.com MyCourageousGirls.com     Resources Shrinking the Integrity Gap https://davidccook.org/shrinking-integrity-gap-book/ Shrinking the Integrity Gap e-Course https://www.livingwholeheartedstore.com/e-courses Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace https://mycourageousgirls.com/shop/p/book-courageous-being-daughters-rooted-in-grace Dear Mattsons https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters http://cpguides.org/  

Do you ever wonder if boundaries are unloving or selfish? Do you have trouble deciding if it's time to bring closure or continue to work on a relationship? What does the Bible even say about relationships when they become unsafe or unsustainable? Then, once you discern it's time for change, how do you set boundaries? Based on our stories, our wirings, and our theology, we can get confused and stuck - and even lead others to paralysis.  Our guest today, Lysa TerKeurst, deeply understands these hard questions in the midst of relational struggles. But after thousands of hours of counseling intensives and extensive theological research that transformed the way she defines healthy relationships, Lysa is now more committed than ever to loving people well without losing the best of who she is.    Lysa TerKeurst is president of Proverbs 31 Ministries and the author of more than twenty-five books, including  It's Not Supposed to Be This Way and the #1 New York Times bestsellers Forgiving What You Can't Forget and Uninvited. Her new release, coming this month (Nov 2022) is titled, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes; Loving Others Without Losing The Best of Who You Are.  As president of Proverbs 31 Ministries, Lysa and her team have led millions to make their walk with God an invigorating journey through Encouragement For Today daily devotions, the First 5 Bible study app, online Bible studies, The Proverbs 31 Ministries Podcast, social media channels, speaker/writer training, and more. Each year, Lysa speaks at more than 40 events across North America. She has a passion for equipping women to share their stories for God's glory through Proverbs 31 Ministries' annual She Speaks Conference and through the ministry's membership site for writers, COMPEL Training.   Lysa has 5 grown kids with families of their own, and 3 beautiful grandchildren.    To connect with Lysa TerKeurst, visit: ONLINE  https://lysaterkeurst.com/   SOCIAL   Facebook - @LysaTerKeurst Twitter - @LysaTerKeurst Instagram - @LysaTerKeurst   BOOKS   New Release - Good Boundaries and Goodbyes; Loving Others Without Losing The Best of Who You Are (Nelson Books, imprint of Thomas Nelson, 11/8/2022) https://www.p31bookstore.com/collections/lysa-terkeurst-books-and-bible-studies Being a leader isn't easy. Being a wholehearted leader means learning how to have healthy boundaries and modeling that to all who follow you - from your kids, to employees, to your followers online. If you want to know more about how to grow as a wholehearted leader and learn more about our resources, check out www.livingwholehearted.com or follow us on instagram @living_wholehearted.   And for all you moms of daughters, this very topic is one of the reasons Terra started Courageous Girls. We have groups of moms and daughters gathering all over the world as moms are intentionally pursuing their daughter's heart and helping her understand God's word and how it applies to building healthy relationships with God, herself and others. This conversation is woven throughout those lessons starting from second grade through high school. You can learn more at www.mycourageousgirls.com.  Subscribe to the #living_wholeheartedpodcast anywhere you find your podcasts  To connect with Jeff and Terra Mattson and Living Wholehearted, go to: Instagram @TerraMattson @Living_Wholehearted @MyCourageousGirls #living_wholeheartedpodcast  #shrinkingtheintegritygap Facebook @MyCourageousGirls @WeAreLivingWholehearted Websites LivingWholehearted.com TerraMattson.com MyCourageousGirls.com MyCourageousBook.com   Resources Shrinking the Integrity Gap  https://davidccook.org/shrinking-integrity-gap-book/ Shrinking the Integrity Gap e-Course  https://www.livingwholeheartedstore.com/e-courses Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace https://mycourageousgirls.com/shop/p/book-courageous-being-daughters-rooted-in-grace Dear Mattsons  https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters  http://cpguides.org/

Is your soul dying to be fed, nurtured, and comforted? Are you facing fears, struggles or even triumphs? Is the news making you mad? Are you white-knuckling your way through the grind of every day? Consider listening to this podcast on the Psalms. Whether you've never read the Bible or you have every page memorized (that would be amazing!!), or like many of us, you are somewhere in between, this episode is for you. From the clinical applications of how reading the Psalms heals us, to some practical ways to dive deeper into its pages, our guest is gifted in capturing the heart of God and the Psalmists. Ignite your reading of the word today with this healthy dose of living hope.   This episode features author Laura L. Smith, who recently released Restore My Soul: The Power and Promise of 30 Psalms. This book is a powerful resource that comes out of Laura's own weary seasons. Her passion for the book of Psalms has grown out of her love for God's word, music, and helping others find balm for their souls. Terra enjoyed learning about the practical ways Laura uses the various Psalms to pray over her kids or to channel her unwanted emotions. Whether you are a weary parent, a leader, or someone who is just curious about how the Bible can relate to your own life, listen to this episode.   Laura Smith is a popular speaker and best-selling author who lives in the college town of Oxford, Ohio, with her husband and four kids. Her books have included nonfiction books for adults, pre-teens and kids, as well as the popular Status Updates fiction series for young adults. Her previous book, How Sweet the Sound: The Power and Promise of 30 Beloved Hymns, has sold more than 110,000 copies.   To connect with Laura Smith, visit: ONLINE - https://www.laurasmithauthor.com/   SOCIAL -  Facebook - @LauraLSmith, https://www.facebook.com/LauraLSmithAuthor/ Twitter - https://twitter.com/LauraLynnSmith Instagram - @laurasmithauthor https://www.instagram.com/laurasmithauthor/ Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/laurasmithbooks/   BOOKS -  https://www.laurasmithauthor.com/books.html New release - Restore My Soul: The Power and Promise of 30 Psalms   Jeff and Terra love creating resources for leaders in the home, work and community. Are you a woman who is leading and is looking for a coaching community to help you live more fully into your design, your call, and your priorities? Email info@livingwholehearted.com and consider joining our first women's ONE-YEAR leadership cohort led by Terra Mattson and Connie Armerding. There is room for only 12 leaders and starts January 2023.    To find more about all their services, from executive coaching and the Wholehearted Leadership Cohort, to professional counseling and Courageous Girls groups, sign up for the monthly newsletters at www.livingwholehearted.com or follow us on Instagram @living_wholehearted. You can also follow Terra on Instagram @terramattson (Jeff isn't on social media for his own personal boundaries, but Terra shares once in a while about his fishing adventures and more.) If you like what you are hearing and find this helpful in ANY WAY, please leave us a review and make sure you subscribe so you don't miss an episode. 

Jeff and Terra Mattson join Dr. Mark Turman to discuss the suicide epidemic, how to talk to children and teens about self-harm, suicide, and emotions, and how to navigate parenting through depression and anxiety.    Show notes:    Jeff and Terra Mattson begin by framing the suicide epidemic and mental health crisis (4:02). They discuss how to start early in parenting by putting language to different emotions, and why it's so important to put words to feelings (10:30). They specifically look at suicide and suicidal ideation, and when to have that conversation with kids (19:15). The Mattson's talk about the importance of vulnerability and relationships in parenting, and how technology can get in the way of healthy relationships (26:43). They consider when parents should be concerned about their child's emotional wellbeing (34:14). Dr. Turman asks directly about how to deal with teens who struggle with self-harm (45:15). To close, they discuss the problem of bullying and how to draw healthy boundaries with immature people (52:25).   Resources and further reading:   Dear Mattsons with Christian Parenting  “How do I protect my kids from school bullies?” - Dear Mattsons “How to talk to your kids about depression and suicide” - Dr. Matthew Sleeth “What does the Bible say about suicide?” - Dr. Jim Denison Shrinking the Integrity Gap - Jeff and Terra Mattson Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace - Terra Mattson 988 Lifeline   P.S. What are my Spiritual Gifts? by Ryan Denison Ph.D. is available now at Denison Forum. The book includes biblical examples of each gifting in action. We've also refreshed our free spiritual gifts test at whataremyspiritualgifts.org. If you don't know your spiritual gifts or are unsure how to use them, we encourage you to take the test and pick up a copy of What are my Spiritual Gifts? today.   About the hosts    Dr. Mark Turman is the executive director of Denison Forum. He received his DMin from Truett at Baylor and previously served as lead pastor of Crosspoint Church.    About the guests    Jeff holds a master's degree in organizational leadership and has decades of experience as a leader in startup companies, family businesses, and nonprofit organizations, which includes universities and ministry settings. Since 2011, he has worked with business and organizational leaders to develop their potential and solve people issues. Terra holds a master's degree in marriage and family therapy from George Fox University in Portland. She is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Licensed Professional Counselor, and now works as an executive coach. For the last 15 years, she has run a thriving private practice while speaking to women, couples, and leaders, including at the American Association of Christian Counselors conference. She is the founder and clinical director of Living Wholehearted counseling and has served as an adjunct professor at George Fox University's Graduate counseling department. She is the author of Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace.  Together, Jeff and Terra co-authored Shrinking the Integrity Gap: Between What Leaders Preach and Live. They founded a global movement called Courageous Girls, an online resource to help moms navigate the needs of their daughters through every season of their lives. They co-host the Living Wholehearted podcast and run the living wholehearted lodge and retreat, and co-host the Dear Mattsons podcast. They currently live just outside of Portland, Oregon, as they raise their two teenage daughters.

Jonathan interviews counselor, therapist and coach Terra Mattson on raising courageous and confident daughters. Terra, a mother of two girls and Jonathan, a father of four, discuss practical ways to grow your relationship with your daughter and her confidence in herself.   A Christian Parenting Guide: Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters   As a mom today, it's harder than ever to instill the godly confidence our daughters so desperately need.   And without that confidence, our daughters are left to navigate, on their own, the pressures and values of the world around them.   That's why we created a clear, credible, and biblical guide that gives moms like you what you really need to raise daughters who are empowered to face whatever life throws at them.   A Christian Parenting Guide: Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters is the resource you've been looking for to help you develop and keep a loving, secure connection with your daughter, while helping her to be confident in all that God has created her to be.     This course is just based on Terra Mattson's 20 years experience as a licensed professional counselor and marriage and family therapist, as well as her 16 years raising her two girls. Each video in Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters is designed to equip you for every age and stage of your daughter's journey.   Each course includes:   eight video lessons for moms like you, giving you behind-the-scenes coaching on the mental, emotional, and physical world of your girl;   conversation guides to foster deep discussions between you and your daughter; and   a downloadable journal to spark a more intimate connection between you, your girl, and God.     We hope you would be willing to get the word our the Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters courses  

It's challenging to raise confident girls in this social media age. What if you are struggling with confidence yourself as a mom? How can women and girls develop godly confidence and courage? In today's conversation with author and mom Terra Mattson, you'll learn: 2:50 What are you seeing repeated again and again in your counseling practice with girls? 4:50 Letting go of performance based thinking 6:30 When a boy asks your daughter for an inappropriate photo…do this 9:00 Talking with your daughter about wanting to be liked and the fear of losing friends (negative peer pressure) 11:30 What are red light, yellow light, green light friendships? 13:10 My struggle with bulimia and what I learned 16:30 The lost art of confession 17:45 How can we encourage our girl who is scared to go to school, or scared to face a mean girl? 19:30 Going on dates with your daughter, having intentional time 23:00 What are some signs that my daughter needs extra help like counseling? Terra Mattson has 20 plus years of experience as a licensed professional counselor and marriage and family therapist. Terra and her husband Jeff founded Living Wholehearted, a counseling and organizational development firm helping people live and lead with integrity. Terra's book is Courageous: Raising Daughters Rooted in Grace. Learn more at her website. TerraMattson.com Terra also has a video course, Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters. Learn more here. Is your child getting too much screen time? Take the free quiz at HappyHomeUniversity.comThe Happy Home is sponsored in part by Dwell Bible App. Save 30% off Dwell for Life at DwellApp.io/HappyHome.

It's challenging to raise confident girls in this social media age. What if you are struggling with confidence yourself as a mom? How can women and girls develop godly confidence and courage? In today's conversation with author and mom Terra Mattson, you'll learn: 2:50 What are you seeing repeated again and again in your counseling practice with girls? 4:50 Letting go of performance based thinking 6:30 When a boy asks your daughter for an inappropriate photo…do this 9:00 Talking with your daughter about wanting to be liked and the fear of losing friends (negative peer pressure) 11:30 What are red light, yellow light, green light friendships? 13:10 My struggle with bulimia and what I learned 16:30 The lost art of confession 17:45 How can we encourage our girl who is scared to go to school, or scared to face a mean girl? 19:30 Going on dates with your daughter, having intentional time 23:00 What are some signs that my daughter needs extra help like counseling? Terra Mattson has 20 plus years of experience as a licensed professional counselor and marriage and family therapist. Terra and her husband Jeff founded Living Wholehearted, a counseling and organizational development firm helping people live and lead with integrity. Terra's book is Courageous: Raising Daughters Rooted in Grace. Learn more at her website. TerraMattson.com Terra also has a video course, Helping Mom Raise Confident Daughters. Learn more here. Is your child getting too much screen time? Take the free quiz at HappyHomeUniversity.com

This second part of the Core Values Index series addresses the very heart of conflict. Did you know every wiring has a unique type of conflict strategy? Using the wisdom of the Core Values Index, Jeff and Terra explore how our unique wiring gives us clues about why we act the way we do and how we can better navigate our relationships - at home, at work and in the community. If you missed episode 140, make sure you listen before diving into this one.   If you are not familiar with the Core Values Index, the Mattsons have used this time-tested assessment for the last 12 years in their counseling and organizational development practices, helping parents, couples, families and organizational teams grow in their understanding of self and others. The CVI is over 97% reliable and helps us understand what motivates us and what brings anxiety. Listen in as Jeff and Terra share insight about how Merchants, Builders, Innovators and Bankers navigate conflict. This conversation is sure to help you understand your wiring and grow in compassion and empathy for yourself and others.   For more information about the Core Values Index, listen to episodes 2-5 of the Living Wholehearted Podcast   Jeff Mattson (MA ORGL) and Terra Mattson (MA LPC, LMFT) are the husband and wife team who co-founded Living Wholehearted and Courageous Girls. Living Wholehearted is a professional counseling and organizational leadership development firm outside Portland, Oregon, and Courageous Girls is a global movement and curriculum helping moms walk with their daughters at every stage of their growing years. Terra is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Licensed Professional Counselor, Executive Coach, speaker, and author of Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace (David C. Cook, 2020). Jeff is a former pastor, executive coach, organizational development consultant, and speaker. Together they co-authored Shrinking the Integrity Gap: Between What Leaders Preach and Live (David C. Cook, 2020).   As spokespeople for ChristianParenting.org and national speakers, they are now reaching millions of leaders and parents. Their audience is expanding daily with new initiatives like the American Association for Christian Counselors' Nathan Project, helping pastors live with integrity, and the Christian Parenting Dear Mattsons YouTube series, answering real parenting questions from real parents. With two decades of experience in leadership coaching and trauma-informed therapy, they have the privilege of training and equipping leaders in for-profit and not-for-profit spheres, helping them address the people-issues that keep them up at night. They believe that wherever you go, who you are matters more than your title.   Terra recently partnered with Christian Parenting to create one-to-one courses for moms to walk with her daughter at every stage of her growing years. It's called “A Christian Parenting Guide: Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters”. Go to CPGUIDES.ORG to learn more. To connect with Jeff & Terra Mattson and Living Wholehearted, go to: Instagram @TerraMattson @Living_Wholehearted @MyCourageousGirls Facebook @WeAreLivingWholehearted @MyCourageousGirls Websites LivingWholehearted.com MyCourageousGirls.com TerraMattson.com   Resources Shrinking the Integrity Gap Shrinking the Integrity Gap e-Course Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace Dear Mattsons Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters

Living with integrity is not just about living from the right motives. It's about living within one's design and learning to love your limits. Have you ever wondered how your wiring impacts the way you communicate, your energy levels, your passions, your anxieties and your greatest contributions to any community? This week, Jeff and Terra take time to share insights, based on their experience using the Core Values Index (CVI), that will impact every relationship that matters to you. If you are not familiar with the Core Values Index, the Mattsons have used this time-tested assessment for the last 12 years in their counseling and organizational development practices, helping parents, couples, families and organizational teams grow in their understanding of self and others. The CVI is over 97% reliable and helps us understand our innate wiring. Listen in as Jeff and Terra share a bit about the four CVI types: Merchants, Builders, Innovators and Bankers. Listen in on this two week series to help you better understand who you are, how you operate, and next week, how you can better navigate conflict!   For more information about the Core Values Index, listen to episodes 2-5 of the Living Wholehearted Podcast.   Jeff Mattson (MA ORGL) and Terra Mattson (MA LPC, LMFT) are the husband and wife team who co-founded Living Wholehearted and Courageous Girls. Living Wholehearted is a professional counseling and organizational leadership development firm outside Portland, Oregon, and Courageous Girls is a global movement and curriculum helping moms walk with their daughters at every stage of their growing years. Terra is an Executive Leadership Coach, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Licensed Professional Counselor, speaker, and author of Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace (David C. Cook, 2020). Jeff is a former pastor, executive coach, organizational development consultant, and speaker. Together they co-authored Shrinking the Integrity Gap: Between What Leaders Preach and Live (David C. Cook, 2020).   As spokespeople for ChristianParenting.org and national speakers, they are now reaching millions of leaders and parents. Their audience is expanding daily with new initiatives like the American Association for Christian Counselors' Nathan Project, helping pastors live with integrity, and the Christian Parenting Dear Mattsons YouTube series, answering real parenting questions from real parents. With two decades of experience in leadership coaching and trauma-informed marriage and family therapy, they have the privilege of training and equipping leaders in for-profit and not-for-profit spheres, helping them address the people-issues that keep them up at night. They believe that wherever you go, who you are matters more than your title.   Terra recently partnered with Christian Parenting to create one-to-one courses for moms to walk with her daughter at every stage of her growing years. It's called “A Christian Parenting Guide: Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters”. Go to CPGUIDES.ORG to learn more. To connect with Jeff & Terra Mattson and Living Wholehearted, go to: Instagram @TerraMattson @Living_Wholehearted @MyCourageousGirls Facebook @WeAreLivingWholehearted @MyCourageousGirls Websites LivingWholehearted.com MyCourageousGirls.com TerraMattson.com   Resources Shrinking the Integrity Gap Shrinking the Integrity Gap e-Course Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace Dear Mattsons Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters

Join Jeff and Terra for a conversation about why it's so hard for leaders to rest and play. They address two common lies leaders believe: The first, “If I don't do it, no one else will … do it, do it right, or do it well.” The second lie, “I am what I do” and playing and rest feels outside my sense of self or identity. Though it's common for leaders to regularly fire on all cylinders, to live in a constant state of busyness, the Mattsons are calling wholehearted leaders to LEARN how to rest and play. This is crucial not only for their own ability to lead well and finish the race set before them, but also so they can model healthy rhythms to those they lead. You'll hear practical tips as well as a behind-the-scenes glimpse into the Mattson's personal journey around enjoying rest and play. In light of practicing rhythms of rest and play, the Mattsons are taking the rest of July off from recording podcasts. There will be a short break and the next episode will air the first week in August. Take the time to visit our library of 138 podcast episodes already recorded. We are excited about what is ahead and we look forward to bringing you more incredible interviews and insights to help YOU be the leader you would follow.   Jeff Mattson (MA ORGL) and Terra Mattson (MA LPC, LMFT) are the husband and wife team who co-founded Living Wholehearted and Courageous Girls. Living Wholehearted is a professional counseling and organizational leadership development firm outside Portland, Oregon, and Courageous Girls is a global movement and curriculum helping moms walk with their daughters at every stage of their growing years. Terra is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Licensed Professional Counselor, Executive Coach, speaker, and author of Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace (David C. Cook, 2020). Jeff is a former pastor, executive coach, organizational development consultant, and speaker. Together they co-authored Shrinking the Integrity Gap: Between What Leaders Preach and Live (David C. Cook, 2020).   As spokespeople for ChristianParenting.org and national speakers, they are now reaching millions of leaders and parents. Their audience is expanding daily with new initiatives like the American Association for Christian Counselors' Nathan Project, helping pastors live with integrity, and the Christian Parenting Dear Mattsons YouTube series, answering real parenting questions from real parents. With two decades of experience in leadership coaching and trauma-informed therapy, they have the privilege of training and equipping leaders in for-profit and not-for-profit spheres, helping them address the people-issues that keep them up at night. They believe that wherever you go, who you are matters more than your title.   Terra recently partnered with Christian Parenting to create one-to-one courses for moms to walk with her daughter at every stage of her growing years. It's called “A Christian Parenting Guide: Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters”. Go to CPGUIDES.ORG to learn more. To connect with Jeff & Terra Mattson and Living Wholehearted, go to: Instagram @TerraMattson @Living_Wholehearted @MyCourageousGirls Facebook @WeAreLivingWholehearted @MyCourageousGirls Websites LivingWholehearted.com MyCourageousGirls.com TerraMattson.com   Resources Shrinking the Integrity Gap Shrinking the Integrity Gap e-Course Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace Dear Mattsons Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters  

"At the end of the day, it doesn't matter how old we are, we still all have that little child inside of us." Silvia Vasquez-Lavado, global explorer, activist, and founder of the non-profit Courageous Girls, joins Zibby to talk about her debut memoir, In the Shadow of the Mountain, which was recently optioned for film by Selena Gomez. The two discuss how Silvia got to a place where she could be so open about her experience with childhood sexual violence, as well as why she wants to break the stigma for others who have endured similar traumas. Silvia also shares what she plans to do on tour in her home country of Peru once the book is translated into Spanish.Purchase on Amazon or Bookshop.Amazon: https://amzn.to/3nFoIXHBookshop: https://bit.ly/3RaFMCmSubscribe to Zibby's weekly newsletter here.Purchase Moms Don't Have Time to Read Books merch here. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Adonia Mattson is Jeff and Terra Mattson's oldest daughter. She's 15 and just finishing her freshman year of public high school outside Portland, Oregon. Listen in as Terra interviews Adonia about the impact of their years having intentional conversations. She talks about confidence, identity, comparison, pressures, and she shares an inside peek at Jeff and Terra's marriage. Adonia leaves parents with a word of encouragement. Terra hopes that this open and honest conversation with Adonia will not only encourage your parenting journey today, but will inspire you to lead well and pursue your daughter's heart.   Terra is the author of Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace and the co-founder of Courageous Girls, providing free group curriculum for building intentional mom-daughter communities. If you are interested in starting a Courageous Girls group visit mycourageousgirls.com today! With the help of Christian Parenting, Terra also created courses just for moms, Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters, to help courageous mamas strengthen their one-to-one relationships with their daughters. Go to CPGUIDES.ORG to learn more.   If you are a mom raising girls, you know how hard it is in today's world to find a trusted guide. There are so many confusing messages. That's why Terra Mattson, host of the Living Wholehearted Podcast, co-founder of Living Wholehearted and Courageous Girls, created these resources: Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters. Go to CPGUIDES.ORG to learn more and get online access today!   To connect with Jeff & Terra Mattson and Living Wholehearted, go to: Instagram @TerraMattson @Living_Wholehearted @MyCourageousGirls Facebook @WeAreLivingWholehearted @MyCourageousGirls Websites LivingWholehearted.com MyCourageousGirls.com TerraMattson.com   Resources Shrinking the Integrity Gap Shrinking the Integrity Gap e-Course Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace Dear Mattsons Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters

My guest today is Terra Mattson, a licensed marriage and family therapist who has helped thousands of women, couples, and families at every stage of their journeys over the past two decades. She is also the visionary leader of a one-of-a-kind trauma-informed women's conference that addresses issues women face in the church today. Terra and her husband, Jeff, are the founders of Courageous Girls and the counseling and organizational development firm Living Wholehearted. Making their home just outside Portland, Ore., they are raising their two daughters to live courageously, rooted in grace. 5:09 – Terra 101 Terra wears a lot of hats, and it can sound overwhelming, but she doesn't do it all of it at the same time. Trauma informed counseling has been a passion of hers. 7:06 – Relationships Terra loves people and relationships, and people suggested she be a counselor. She loves helping leadership and doing ministry. 8:52 – Trauma impacts leadership There is a core issue with leaders not doing the work. Most high capacity leaders have past trauma. Trauma can impact the brain and shape leadership. 15:20 – Leaders in the home Terra worked with her daughters to teach them about the world and their bodies. She wanted to be their mentor and teacher. She now coaches other moms to help their daughters. 24:28 – Being tough Terra's father taught her to be tough and not cry. She grew up with a mental toughness, but she had no clue how to operate as a human with normal emotions. That caused problems as she got older. 31:15 – Helping children regulate emotions To help your children regulate their emotions, use a play therapy technique called ACT – Acknowledge the emotions, Communicate the limit and Target the alternative. Teach your kids healthy ways to deal with emotions, not to ignore their emotions. 46:50 – Pursue your daughter's heart Take time to intentionally pursue your daughter's heart. Let your daughters know you are a trusted and safe source. 51:12 – Get to know you Favorite TV show growing up? The Cosby Show Other career? Flip houses and interior design FEATURED QUOTES Teach your kids – someone sees my emotions, and they're OK. We define leaders as – if you have a following, you are a leader. And those kids are following us. So how we lead really matters. I grew up with a mental toughness, but I had no clue how to operate as a human with my normal emotions. Teach your kids healthy ways to deal with emotions, not to ignore their emotions. CONNECT: https://terramattson.com/ https://www.cpguides.org/ Thank you to our partner of the show! Are you looking to clean up your household cleaning products this year? MamaSuds would like to help! The best way is to simply start with one product. Every time you run out of a specific cleaning product, replace it with a non-toxic one. Another tip, purchase a product that has multiple uses. The MamaSuds Collection has many multiple use products (castile soap or the toilet bombs are just a few!). Their blog has lots of great tips and a castile soap recipe that you can print and make a lot of your own effective cleaners! Give them a try at www.mamasuds.com and don't forget to use the coupon code MOLLY for 15% off your order!

Jeff and Terra are co-founders, co-leaders, and co-laborers at Living Wholehearted working with many leaders who are married to their ministry or business partner. In other cases, leaders are married to a supportive spouse but they find themselves going in completely separate directions due to career choices or leadership demands. It can be hard to balance the daily grind, trying to balance the many hats leaders wear. From home life, to parenting, to work, friendships, extended family, and community efforts - who really has the time to sit down and look their spouse in the eyes and say hi? Well…wholehearted leaders do. The Mattsons have a dynamic couple in the studio today to help peel away the layers of what couples in leadership need to do and believe in order to keep their marriages, their families, and their souls healthy. You will love this conversion no matter where you are in your marriage journey. The Mahoney's are refreshingly honest. Andy and Audra share their personal story and offer insights from their professional expertise. They openly share a season when they were both working in a complex leadership situation and their marriage was crashing - fast. Listening to this candid conversation will not only normalize some of your own struggles in marriage, but will give you both a refreshing and challenging lift to keep running the race set before you. Take notice of what stands out to you personally and if you are married, consider one next step to help keep or increase the wholeness in your marriage today.   Andy and Audra Mahoney are seasoned pastors of a local church in Portland, Oregon. They've been married 18 years and are raising 3 kids. Audra is also one of our faithful counselors at Living Wholehearted, specializing in the recovery of trauma and abuse with individuals, teens and couples. Andy currently serves as the Lead Pastor at their church…and designed a game called Bodega Brawl, a fast-paced card game that emulates a martial arts brawl.   To connect with Audra Mahoney, or find out more about Andy's Bodega Brawl game, visit:   ONLINE - https://livingwholehearted.com/about/our-team/audra-mahoney/ SOCIAL - Facebook - @BodegaBrawl Instagram - @BodegaBrawl If you are a mom raising girls, you know how hard it is in today's world to find a trusted guide. There are so many confusing messages. That's why Terra Mattson, host of the Living Wholehearted Podcast, co-founder of Living Wholehearted and Courageous Girls, created these resources: Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters. Go to CPGUIDES.ORG to learn more.   To connect with Jeff & Terra Mattson and Living Wholehearted, go to:   Instagram @TerraMattson @Living_Wholehearted @MyCourageousGirls Facebook @MyCourageousGirls @WeAreLivingWholehearted Websites LivingWholehearted.com MyCourageousGirls.com TerraMattson.com   Resources Shrinking the Integrity Gap Shrinking the Integrity Gap e-Course Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace Dear Mattsons  

Do you enjoy the episodes when the Mattsons jump on the podcast to share their own insights and the principles they live and lead from? Well today is one of those days.   Terra and Jeff are honest about their own humanity as they come alongside leaders from all over the country. So, Terra thought it would be fun to interview Jeff about his own journey as a dad to their two daughters as well as the many struggles and triumphs he sees walking alongside men who are attempting to shrink their own integrity gaps at home. Jeff shares a bit of his own personal losses with his father and how that has shaped his view of fatherhood for the better. He also talks about the role dads can play in the global Courageous Girls movement Jeff and Terra founded years ago. Being a dad is one of the most significant leadership roles any man can have. If you are dad, want to be a dad, have a dad, or you are enjoying the role as a grandad these days, listen to this episode. You will be encouraged and you will learn some key principles about what it means to be a dad who lives and leads with integrity.    Jeff Mattson (MA ORGL) and Terra Mattson (MA LPC, LMFT) are the husband and wife team who co-founded Living Wholehearted and Courageous Girls. Living Wholehearted is a professional counseling and organizational leadership development firm outside Portland, Oregon, and Courageous Girls is a global movement and curriculum helping moms walk with their daughters at every stage of their growing years. Terra is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Licensed Professional Counselor, Executive Coach, speaker, and author of Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace (David C. Cook, 2020). Jeff is a former pastor, executive coach, organizational development consultant, and speaker. Together they co-authored Shrinking the Integrity Gap: Between What Leaders Preach and Live (David C. Cook, 2020).   As spokespeople for ChristianParenting.org and national speakers, they are now reaching millions of leaders and parents. Their audience is expanding daily with new initiatives like the American Association for Christian Counselors' Nathan Project, helping pastors live with integrity, and the Christian Parenting Dear Mattsons YouTube series, answering real parenting questions from real parents. With two decades of experience in leadership coaching and trauma-informed therapy, they have the privilege of training and equipping leaders in for-profit and not-for-profit spheres, helping them address the people-issues that keep them up at night. They believe that wherever you go, who you are matters more than your title.   Terra recently partnered with Christian Parenting to create one-to-one courses for moms to walk with her daughter at every stage of her growing years. It's called “A Christian Parenting Guide: Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters”. Go to CPGUIDES.ORG to learn more.   To connect with Jeff & Terra Mattson and Living Wholehearted, go to: Instagram @TerraMattson @Living_Wholehearted @MyCourageousGirls Facebook @MyCourageousGirls @WeAreLivingWholehearted Websites LivingWholehearted.com MyCourageousGirls.com TerraMattson.com   Resources Shrinking the Integrity Gap Shrinking the Integrity Gap e-Course Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace Dear Mattsons  

Today I have on author, licensed counselor, podcaster, and co-founder of Living Wholehearted, a professional counseling and organizational development firm, and Courageous Girls, an online curriculum equipping moms and daughters for every stage of their growing years.   Terra and I discuss the mother/daughter relationship, why it can be so tumultuous, and how we can connect throughout the years. We talk through some of the biggest fears parents have in raising their kids and how we can navigate these.   We also talk about one of the things I am learning a lot about, creating space for our own feelings and our kids' feelings. How to normalize emotions so our kids grow up with a healthy understanding of them.   Grab Terra's book Courageous Daughters: Rooted in Grace Get Terra's online courses for moms and daughters here; Get to know Terra better here:

In an increasingly secular society, those who have a biblical worldview are now a shrinking minority. As mainstream culture grows more hostile toward the Bible's truths and those who embrace them, how can Christians stand firm as they face the mounting pressures—from family, friends, media, academia, and government—to change or even abandon their beliefs? Today the Mattsons talk with Natasha Crain about leading well in the midst of our modern American culture, both in our homes and in our communities. Natasha Crain recently published a book, Faithfully Different: Regaining Biblical Clarity in a Secular Culture.   Make sure you listen to the full interview as Jeff and Terra take time at the very end to reflect on their conversation with Natasha, offering their own insights about faith in this changing culture.   Natasha Crain is a speaker, author, blogger and podcaster whose passion is to help Christians think more clearly about holding to a biblical worldview while navigating an increasingly challenging secular culture. A marketing executive and adjunct marketing professor before she transitioned to the full-time ministry of writing and speaking, Natasha holds an MBA in Marketing and Statistics from UCLA, a BA in Economics from USC and a certificate in Christian Apologetics from Biola University. She and her husband have been married 22 years and have three kids—a son and daughter who are 13 (twins) and a daughter who is 11. They live in southern California.   To connect with Natasha Crain, visit:   ONLINE - natashacrain.com SOCIAL - Facebook - @natashacrainauthor Instagram - @natasharcrain YouTube - @natashacrainauthor   If you are a mom raising girls, you know how hard it is in today's world to find a trusted guide. There are so many confusing messages. That's why Terra Mattson, host of the Living Wholehearted Podcast, co-founder of Living Wholehearted and Courageous Girls, created these resources: Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters. Go to CPGUIDES.ORG to learn more   To connect with Jeff & Terra Mattson and Living Wholehearted, go to:   Instagram @TerraMattson @Living_Wholehearted @MyCourageousGirls Facebook @MyCourageousGirls @WeAreLivingWholehearted Websites LivingWholehearted.com MyCourageousGirls.com Terramattson.com   Resources Shrinking the Integrity Gap Shrinking the Integrity Gap e-Course Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace Dear Mattsons

Your past does not define your present, and it certainly does not define your future. Today's guest is living proof of that. Silvia Vasquez-Lavado is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. She ultimately overcame her demons through mountaineering, and is the first openly gay woman to climb the Seven Summits. Her determination to overcome her trauma saw her first try to run away from it, before seeking solace in alcohol, becoming a functioning alcoholic:“And that's something that I've candidly shared in the book, that journey of how we fool ourselves, how we can pretend to appear something else.”Her mother persuaded her to take part in an ayahuasca retreat in Peru, and as she was high, she recalls her inner child grabbing her hand and pulling her into the mountains. “That was the most magical vision that I had from this powerful session of ayahuasca, which is what has led me to this incredible journey.”Without knowing what or how she was going to do it, she headed to the Himalayas to get to base camp on Mount Everest. “Instead of being afraid, there was this powerful reconnection, there was this sense of safety and security that I had never felt from any other human.”Sylvia's incredibly moving story demonstrates how resilient we truly are. So, if you're looking for a focus, for a purpose, let Sylvia's story inspire and encourage you. On today's podcast: Surviving sexual abuse The transformative power of psychedelics for trauma Finding courage through mountaineering Her foundation - Courageous Girls Links:https://www.silviavasla.com/

Co-host and founder of Living Wholehearted and Courageous Girls, Terra Mattson, is kicking off a March series focusing on women and leadership. Most of you listening this month are probably women, but if you are a man, don't turn this episode off! You will better understand your colleagues and bosses, your sisters and your wife, and be better equipped to raise healthy daughters if you keep listening this month!   Terra is excited to have Living Wholehearted teammates, Audra Mahoney, MA LPC Associate and Connie Armerding, MA on the podcast. Audra and Connie are both female leaders who walk with leaders and understand the unique challenges women face in both the home and workplace as they trust God to live out of the call on their life. In episode 120, these three women talk about the reality of juggling motherhood, marriage, and their responsibilities. They share about their own journey toward understanding healthy leadership as well as the common lies they have faced (and are facing) as they shrink their own integrity gaps.     Audra Mahoney has a Masters in Professional Counseling. She has worked in as a Child Protective Services Social Worker and she received certified training in domestic violence, substance abuse, child abuse, and addiction and taught human sexuality courses at a NW college. She is a certified Mending the Soul facilitator, passionate about spiritual formation, and one of our faithful counselors at LW. She is also a speaker and an ordained minister with the Foursquare Church and has served on the National Cabinet and Divisional Council Boards. She and her husband, Andy, are lead pastors of a local church in Portland, Oregon, and are raising 3 kids. We will have Andy and Audra coming back to talk about leading as a couple later this year.   Connie Armerding is on our LW team as Executive Coach & Leadership Consultant. She is a published writer, speaker, and Licensed Pastor. She has published with Propel Women, Patheos, and is a key contributor to the Friendzy Social Emotional Learning Curriculum produced by Joy of It. Her passion is for equipping ministry and marketplace leaders through creating spiritually and emotionally healthy cultures among leaders and in their communities. She holds degrees from Wheaton College in Interpersonal Communication (BA) and a Masters in Leadership (MA 2022). She is raising four children with her husband, Taylor, here in the greater Portland area.   You can find out more about Connie & Audra on our website, https://livingwholehearted.com/about/our-team/. You can also connect with Connie online at, https://www.conniearmerding.com.   Want to join our virtual group coaching sessions each month for female leaders? Check out more at www.livingwholehearted.com and find a group that is the right fit for you.   Subscribe to the #living_wholeheartedpodcast anywhere you find your podcasts (link in bio)   Instagram @TerraMattson @Living_Wholehearted @MyCourageousGirls #living_wholeheartedpodcast

Our culture is obsessed with influencers and leadership, but parents often forget that their primary opportunity for leadership and influence is in their own household. My guests Jeff and Terra Mattson talk with me about the distance between what we say and what we do in our families, and how that damages our credibility. We discuss the necessity to recognize the influence of our own childhood families, the importance of grieving trauma and loss, and empathizing even when we don't agree with the other side.   Jeff and Terra are a husband and wife team who co-founder of Living Wholehearted, LLC, a professional counseling and organizational consulting firm outside of Portland, Oregon and a global movement for moms and daughters called Courageous Girls. Terra is a licensed marriage & family therapist and executive coach with over twenty years of clinical and ministry experience. She is the author of Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace and the visionary and curriculum developer for Courageous Girls. Jeff serves as president of their organizations and leads the executive coaching and organizational development arm of the practice. Together they are the co-hosts of the weekly Living Wholehearted Podcast and Dear Mattsons YouTube series produced by Christian Parenting and the co-authors of Shrinking the Integrity Gap: Between What Leaders Preach and Live. Married just over twenty years and raising their two teen daughters, they integrate biblical, clinical, and relational wisdom to help leaders live and lead with integrity in the home, work and community.   Resources Mentioned: www.livingwholehearted.com www.mycourageousgirls.com www.terramattson.com   FB: wearelivingwholehearted mycourageousgirls jeffterramattson   IG: @terramattson @living_wholehearted @mycourageousgirls   Shrinking the Integrity Gap: Between What Leaders Preach and Live - https://amzn.to/3CA5qsF

It's the beginning of the year and as you are considering what goals to set or reset, the Mattsons thought it would be the perfect time to discuss the skill of TIME BUDGETING. In Part 2 of this conversation, Jeff and Terra explore the impact of one's Core Value Index on the way they view and steward time. If you are not familiar with the Core Values Index, the Mattsons use this time tested assessment in their twenty years of practice, helping parents, couples families and organizational teams grow in their understanding of self and others. The CVI is over 97% reliable and helps us understand what motivates and brings anxiety. Listen in as Jeff and Terra make some key connections between how we best manage our time as a Merchants, Builders, Innovators or Bankers and how one might lead or parent others who are different from them when it comes to their CVI.   Jeff Mattson (MA ORGL) and Terra Mattson (MA LPC, LMFT) are the married co-founders of Living Wholehearted LLC and the Courageous Girls movement and the weekly hosts of the Living Wholehearted Podcasts. Jeff is an Organizational Leadership Coach and Terra is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who is now solely working with executives. With a team of 11, Living Wholehearted helps leaders in a variety of settings, from corporate offices to leadership retreats and individual counseling. Jeff and Terra have each invested more than two decades in leadership coaching and trauma-informed therapy – and have helped national organizations and churches navigate difficult leadership crises. Their professional experience and research have formed their unique perspective on the relationship between leadership, integrity and trauma. They are parents to two teen daughters, speakers, authors, executive coaches, and business owners who get what it's like to juggle many aspects of one's lives.   With the help of Terra's book, Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace, and their co-authored book, Shrinking the Integrity Gap: Between What Leaders Preach and Live (October 2020, David C Cook), the Living Wholehearted Podcast is reaching a growing number of leaders in the home, at work, and in the community. The Mattsons are also spokespeople for Christian Parenting, which reaches 1 million parents and produces the Dear Mattsons youtube series. One of the Mattsons primary goals is to share Biblical, clinical and relational wisdom to help leaders live and lead with integrity, addressing the real struggles that keep people up at night. Jeff and Terra believe that when a leader shrinks the integrity gap between what they preach and how they actually live, everyone in their wake benefits. And when they don't, everyone in their wake pays. It's just a matter of time.

It's the beginning of the year and as you are considering what goals to set or reset, the Mattsons thought it would be the perfect time to discuss the skill of TIME BUDGETING. Like budgeting money, time is a resource we often believe we have little or none to give away. Leaders are at the top of the list, running ragged and sacrificing what they say they love the most at the end of each day. So in this episode, Jeff and Terra talk about the art of stewarding our calendars, giving practical tips to shrink the integrity gap when it comes to budgeting time. From day-to-day disciplines to planning out annual Big Rocks, the Mattsons believe that every wholehearted leader understands the value and stewardship of time.   Jeff Mattson (MA ORGL) and Terra Mattson (MA LPC, LMFT) are the married co-founders of Living Wholehearted LLC and the Courageous Girls movement and the weekly hosts of the Living Wholehearted Podcasts. Jeff is an Organizational Leadership Coach and Terra is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who is now solely working with executives. With a team of 11, Living Wholehearted helps leaders in a variety of settings, from corporate offices to leadership retreats and individual counseling. Jeff and Terra have each invested more than two decades in leadership coaching and trauma-informed therapy – and have helped national organizations and churches navigate difficult leadership crises. Their professional experience and research have formed their unique perspective on the relationship between leadership, integrity and trauma. They are parents to two teen daughters, speakers, authors, executive coaches, and business owners who get what it's like to juggle many aspects of one's lives.   With the help of Terra's book, Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace, and their co-authored book, Shrinking the Integrity Gap: Between What Leaders Preach and Live (October 2020, David C Cook), the Living Wholehearted Podcast is reaching a growing number of leaders in the home, at work, and in the community. The Mattsons are also spokespeople for Christian Parenting, which reaches 1 million parents and produces the Dear Mattsons youtube series. One of the Mattsons primary goals is to share Biblical, clinical and relational wisdom to help leaders live and lead with integrity, addressing the real struggles that keep people up at night. Jeff and Terra believe that when a leader shrinks the integrity gap between what they preach and how they actually live, everyone in their wake benefits. And when they don't, everyone in their wake pays. It's just a matter of time.

What is my purpose? How do I find it? Will it change? Can I live without a purpose and what are the effects? Can I miss my purpose? In this episode, Jeff and Terra share their personal stories and how they stumbled upon their unique purposes. They share how they then cultivated a shared meaning as a married couple. They have helped thousands understand their purpose through exploring wiring, story, and God-given talents. The Mattson simplify the common questions and help listeners find freedom and peace, rather than striving and FOMO (fear of missing out). Listen in to better understand your own purpose and how to help those you lead in the home, work, and community do the same!   Jeff and Terra, the hosts of the podcast, are co-founders and co-owners of Living Wholehearted and Courageous Girls. Just celebrating 20 years of marriage, they met with a vision to utilize their education, wirings, and resources to help people dive deeper into relationships with God and others. Whether it's marriage, parenting, friendships, or work, Jeff and Terra are passionate about connecting the dots between biblical, clinical, and relational wisdom.   If you do not know, Living Wholeheartedis a professional counseling and organizational development firm that helps leaders live and lead with integrity. Courageous Girls a global movement equipping moms to walk with their daughters at every stage of their growing years. Together, they are authors, national speakers, and executive coaches to leaders in a variety of sectors. They are also spokesperson for Christian Parenting and the hosts of the newDearMattsonvideo series. Terra is a licensed marriage and family therapist and licensed professional counselor and Jeff is an organizational consultant and leadership coach. You can read more in their books, Shrinking the Integrity Gap: Between What LeadersPreach and LiveandCourageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace, found anywhere you buy books. For more on-going resources from Living Wholehearted or courageous Girls, go to www.livingwholehearted.com or www.mycourageousgirls.com to sign up for our monthly newsletters.

Everything we do at Living Wholehearted and Courageous Girls is through the lens of trauma-informed theology. God draws near to the brokenhearted and wants to help those who are victimized. In episode 94, Terra talked with Rosie Rivera about her abusive trauma and her relationships with a God she so dearly loves. Rosia is the author of God Is Your Defender: Learning to Stand After Life Has Knocked You Down (Thomas Nelson, June 8, 2021). Through her own journey of trauma, she holds tight to the truth found in Exodus: “The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.” CEO of Jenni Rivera Enterprises, businesswoman, television personality, and social media influencer (with over a million followers on Instagram alone), Rosie is one of the most influential and inspirational Latinas in the world. In her new book, God Is Your Defender, Rivera openly shares about the tragic loss of her sister, internationally acclaimed singer Jenni Rivera, in a plane crash in 2012. This thrust Rosie into the spotlight and immediately subjected her to false accusations and lawsuits from people who were trying to take advantage of her in her time of grief and her new position as executor over her sister's estate and CEO of Jenni Rivera Enterprises. Rosie also opens up about her experience of childhood sexual abuse, being bullied on national television, and even reaching (and recovering from) the brink of divorce. Despite deep hurts like these, she has refused to be beaten down or silenced by the Enemy. Why? Because she knows God is her defender. Follow on Instagram @rosieriveria or pick up her book, God is Your Defender, anywhere books are sold. **Warning, this episode is graphic and may trigger anyone with a past history of abuse. Take your time pausing and grounding yourself as you listen and better understand the needs of survivors and the impact of trauma.

Are you raising a daughter or mentoring girls? This podcast is for you. Being a girl and a woman today is hard and the messages women are hearing are so confusing!   Join Terra Mattson, co-host of this podcast as well as licensed marriage and family therapist, co-founder of Courageous Girls and author of Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace, for a conversation with Bethany Beal on what girls need today. Bethany, along with her sister, Kristen, launched GirlDefined Ministries in 2014. GirlDefined is helping the modern girl understand and live out God's timeless truth for womanhood.    Take a deep breath, because we are diving into topics like; God's design for women, sexuality, identity, beauty, relationships, romance and more.    Bethany and Kristen have published a new devotional called Shine Bright: 60 Days to Becoming a Girl defined By God. They are also hosting an upcoming GirlDefined conference. Of course, you can find GirlDefined online and on social media. See the links below.    Website https://www.girldefined.com/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/girldefined/ YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/ UCww9VDOBh5hfnsN6pPE6NpA Facebook https://www.facebook.com/girldefined 

Jeff and Terra share the vision of the new Living Wholehearted Lodge and Retreat, coming Fall 2021. While they talk about their shared meaning as a couple, they discuss marriage principles based on the Gottman's “sound relationship house” model and what lies ahead for the LW Lodge & Retreat.   Jeff and Terra, the hosts of the podcast, are co-founders and co-owners of Living Wholehearted and Courageous Girls. Just celebrating 20 years of marriage, they met with a vision to utilize their education, wirings, and resources to help people dive deeper into relationships with God and others. Whether it's marriage, parenting, friendships, or work, Jeff and Terra are geeks for relationships and long to see more environments of grace and health. To help them achieve this, they created the Lodge & Retreat where couples, families, and leaders come to rest, restore, and rebuild what has been long lost from generations before.   If you do not know, Living Wholehearted is a professional counseling and organizational development firm that helps leaders live and lead with integrity. Courageous Girls is a global movement equipping moms with biblical, clinical, and relational wisdom to walk with their daughters at every stage of their growing years. Together, they are authors, speakers, and executive coaches to leaders in a variety of sectors. Terra is a licensed marriage and family therapist and licensed professional counselor and Jeff is an organizational consultant and leadership coach. You can read more in their books, Shrinking the Integrity Gap: Between What Leaders Preach and Live and Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace, found anywhere you buy books.   www.livingwholehearted.com or www.terramattson.com Follow on Instagram: Terra @terramattson LW @living_wholehearted CG @mycourageousgirls   Like on Facebook: Jeff Terra Mattson, Living Wholehearted, LLC My Courageous Girls 

In a world that determines the value of a person based on appearance, Terra exposes the subtle lies we've bought into regarding our body image, relationship with food, exercise and our emotions. In today's episode, following Dr. Rhona's episodes on food addiction, Terra shares her own story with her battle with bulimia as a teen. Her journey as a licensed marriage and family therapist and licensed professional counselor has led her to understand more of her own healing journey as she has walked with hundreds of men, women and teens over the years who have had similar struggles. At the root of all body image issues, Terra says, is a struggle to deal with and process our EMOTIONS.   Through the lens of trauma-informed neurobiology and healthy spiritual formation, she wrote the book Courageous: Being Daughter's Rooted in Grace and co-authored Shrinking the Integrity Gap: Between What Leaders Preach and Live with her husband, Jeff. Jeff and Terra are the co-founders/owners of Living Wholehearted and Courageous Girls. Jeff and Terra are the weekly hosts of the Living Wholehearted Podcast. Listen in for more insights into your own relationship with your body and how to help those you love, children, friends, and spouses find healing, compassion, and hope.   Now an executive coach, author, and national speaker, Terra is integrating her years as a therapist in helping executive leaders address the many issues keeping them from living with integrity, working from a grace-based trauma-informed foundation. To learn more, follow on instagram @terramattson or @living_wholehearted or terramattson.com, livingwholehearted.com or mycourageousgirls.com.

Growing up in Lima, Peru, life wasn't always easy for Silvia Vasquez Lavado. In fact, it was incredibly challenging and quite chaotic at times. Turbulent political groups and governmental change made it difficult for any consistency to develop. The environment was constantly changing and often unsafe.  Recently, on our Explorers podcast, our host Richard Wiese had an opportunity to sit in with Silvia and hear about her experiences as the first openly gay woman to climb the seven summits successfully.   At the age of eighteen, Silvia came to the United States on a college scholarship for academics. She moved from turbulent Peru to the Amish Country in Pennsylvania. Needless to say, there was a period of adapting to go through.   Although she comes from a tough background, Silvia comes across as open and friendly. She says that instead of imposing her beliefs on others, her philosophy is about respecting where she is and learning about other cultures.  She's written a book, In the Shadow of the Mountain, which comes out in Winter 2022. It's already in development as a movie, with Selena Gomez playing the role of Silvia.   Silvia reminds us that affecting change is often complicated. It's a case of finding out about local changemakers and local grassroots organizations that support your causes. It's important to her that she provides a platform that allows people to express themselves. Her nonprofit organization, Courageous Girls, helps victims of sexual violence in their recovery.  When asked about challenges as a gay woman, she reminds us that sometimes being a woman is scary enough. There are, however, many parts of the world where being gay is dangerous, and it's tough to impose western culture on the rest of the world. Bringing change and understanding will be a gradual process.  If she were given the opportunity to advise her younger self, she would say, “ You can do anything. You are not alone. There are lots of people here to help, support, and protect you.”  To learn more about explorer Silvia Vasquez Lavado and her observations as an extreme explorer, check here. Learn more about her nonprofit, Courageous Girls, here. Information about her upcoming book can be found here. To hear about other explorers, join us for new episodes of Life's Tough: Explorers are TOUGHER! At https://www.lifestough.com/podcast/explorers/.  Richard Wiese, the host of this podcast, is an American explorer. He is the author of the guidebook, Born to Explore: How to Be a Backyard Adventurer. He became the youngest person to become president of the Explorers Club in 2002. Richard is also Executive Producer and Host of the PBS weekly television series Born to Explore with Richard Wiese. 

Jeff Mattson and Terra Mattson have each invested more than two decades in leadership coaching and trauma-informed therapy – and have helped national organizations and churches navigate difficult leadership crises. The Mattsons bring their unique experience and wisdom to their first book together: Shrinking the Integrity Gap: Between What Leaders Preach and Live. Jeff and Terra are the married co-founders of Living Wholehearted and the Courageous Girls movement. They coach leaders in a variety of settings, from corporate offices to leadership retreats and individual counseling. Their professional experience and research have formed their unique perspective on the relationship between leadership and integrity. Jeff, an executive leadership coach, and Terra, a licensed therapist and author of Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace, are raising two daughters in Oregon. Jeff and Terra's podcast: https://terramattson.com/podcast Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/humbleandhonest anchor.fm --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/stephen675/support

In this episode, Jeff and Terra are going to share some of their core beliefs and the foundations of their organizations Living Wholehearted and Courageous Girls.   Bridging the gap between biblical, clinical and relational wisdom, they explore the connections between the mind, body, heart and soul and how mental health and the Bible go hand in hand. They discuss the connection between consulting and counseling, leadership and trauma, mental health and theology.   Terra shares how she decided to enter the mental health field (reluctantly) and why Jeff chose the coaching field, but how the two have become the front door and the back door to a leaders heart. Listen in as they ex-plain “trauma-informed theology,” the leader and trauma cycle, and the connection be-tween mental health and discipleship. They address common myth and answer some of your most common questions.   Follow Terra @terramattson and Jeff and Terra are on Facebook at jeffterramattson. You can learn more about what we do at livingwholehearted.com and mycourageousgirls.com or terramattson.com 

Join Susan as she speaks with Speaker, Author, and Family and Marriage Counselor, Terra Mattson. Terra and her husband, Jeff, founded  Living Wholehearted where they combine the disciplines of Counseling, coaching, and organizational development for men, women, children, and teens. Her work in counseling prompted her to start her Courageous Girls ministry bringing mothers and daughters together in community to strengthen their relationships with each other and cultivate a faith that is rooted in God's grace. God Girl NationGod Girl Nation Community Facebook Group

Our Verse: Hebrews 13:5,6 God has said, “I will never fail you, I will never abandon you.” So we can say with confidence, “The Lord is my helper, I will have no fear. Today we introduce Machmuda, a young Gypsy mother of 2 in Serbia, near Greece. Gypsies are a unique people group. Thought to have originated in India, they have migrated around the world and now live in many countries. We met Machmuda while traveling through Serbia. She had recently become a Christian, and shared an amazing story. Her father-in-law had repeatedly stolen food money meant for her children. He was too strong to oppose, so she cried out to Jesus to help her. One night, God sent a terrible nightmare to her father-in-law. The dream made it very clear that he was to give her the money. Trembling, he came the next morning and returned the money. As she told us this story, tears flowed, but then, she began to smile. Solemnly, she reached into her small purse and pulled out a few dinars, the local currency. She said, “I want to pay my first ever offering to God, I am thankful that He helped me and my children.” Her behavior was the farthest thing from normal Gypsy culture. Getting and holding wealth is everything for them. My friend, a pastor, was able to receive her small gift. It was all smiles and happiness as she honored God. Machmuda was growing into a beautiful Christian woman step-by-step, as she walked by faith obeying God. Here's the moral of the story: If you put God first, and cry out for His help He will take care of you. Pray for your sister Machmuda, that she will be blessed as a woman and a mom. She is truly a God honoring Determined Woman!

Our Verse: I John 5:5 And who can win this battle against the world? Only those who believe that Jesus is the Son of God. In our series, three young women stand strong for God, determined to do the right thing. Today meet Janette, from Eastern Europe. Her battle was different from Iqbal's. At an early age, she was discovered to be a musical genius. She blossomed into an outstanding professional violinist. She received many honors and became a star performer in her country's national orchestra. She traveled internationally as a performing artist. Through a dramatic chain of events, Janette accepted Christ as her Savior. She continued to receive benefits and accolades in her professional career, but deep down she felt her first priority was to serve Jesus. The day came when she told her father she must leave the orchestra and her career. She would be sell her expensive violin. That Janette was a professional violinist meant everything to her father. He became very angry and said “You are no longer my daughter, LEAVE!” It was a time of great sadness for Janette. She followed her conviction and sold that precious violin. In the following years, she served God. He brought her a strong godly husband and eventually gave back her music. Jesus said, “Everyone who has given up houses or brothers or sisters or father or mother or children or property, for my sake, will receive a hundred times as much in return and will inherit eternal life.” This verse became Janette's reality- she gave up all to serve Jesus, He gave back even more! He blessed her then...and He continues to bless her to this day. Oh..and a PS Her pop became a Christian, they were fully reconciled and now he waits in Heaven for her! Best ending you could have. God truly is good! Next: Machmuda's Miracle!

Our Verse: 1 John 5:5 Who can win this battle against the world? Only those who believe that Jesus is the Son of God. Here are 3 stories of modern day girls who fought battles. God helped them “win the battle against the world”. Iqbal, Janette and Machmuda. Iqbal lives in Serbia, near Greece. It's a place where ancient feuds don't die, they continue for many years. As a young girl, she was forbidden to walk on certain paths near her village. The people who traveled those paths were on the other side of a local feud involving her people. All of her people were under a terrible obligation called hak-marr-yah. This meant that when anyone in her family saw any member of the opposing family they were required to kill them! And... they were required to kill her! It sounds crazy, but that was the rule of the feud. The time came when the young people of Iqbal's village realized it was ridiculous to continue the feud. Iqbal and others said “We can't continue doing this. This is not pleasing to God. We need to change this.” So while the older people continued hak-marr-yah, the blood feud, Iqbal and her friends made a plan. They decided to declare a day called Pie-ah-teem, roughly translated forgiveness and redemption. On a certain day in the mid 90's,they declared “Pie-ah-teem- A day of forgiveness”. Young and old agreed to bring their feud to an end. No longer would Iqbal walk some paths and avoid others fearing for her life. A new peace and security came to her village. Sometimes it takes one or more people to stand for what's right and publicly proclaim it. Iqbal stood up and won her battle, let's follow her example, both men and women! Next time: Janette and the violin.

I have received a lot of feedback asking how the technical issues with the podcast are coming along.  So, in this podcast, I will touch on the challenges and hurdles of this week’s interview.  The reason for this is to give you a “behind the scenes” into my journey – and to demonstrate… it’s the journey that makes us better.  The only way to get where you want to go, requires starting.  A journey of 1,000 miles, starts with one step (sometimes that’s also a few trips and stumbles)…all of which make us better, wiser and stronger. The other common question is regarding my thoughts on this week’s interview.  I will share my thoughts as well as looking forward to yours, so that I can include them in the take-aways, lessons learned, and inspiration of the week. It is my hope that you find this mid-week podcast – even more inspiration to make your dream a reality, and to be inspired to make a difference.  As I have said many times, there are a lot of people who count on it! This week’s episode was my take on goal setting.  From a coaching perspective… what works and what doesn’t, as well as some things to consider that you may not have.   Please go to http://www.innernorthstar.com (www.innernorthstar.com) for more on my blog about what I consider the foundation of what it takes to start 2016 off righthttp://www.innernorthstar.com (.)  This episode covers honesty with yourself, being present, eliminating the spirit limiting emotion of worry, the value of challenges, and the power of gratitude. Also as I mention in this podcast, I tried very hard to connect with Sylivia Vasquez-Lavado who is the founder of http://www.courageousgirls.org (Courageous Girls.org)http://http://courageousgirls.org/ (.)  (Please check out the amazing work she is doing!)   She works with girls once they  have been rescued or escaped after being sold into human trafficking. We tried connecting while she was in Miami, Napal, and  finally talked while she was at the airport in Chile.  The sound quality was not what I wanted, as the topic of human trafficking is very important and I didn’t want to miss any of it due to a poor internet connection.  As this title says, everything happens for a reason and I am going to devote weeks to this topic from many different aspects.  So, I’m glad I had time to reflect on our conversation and the need to really cover it much more thoroughly.  You will be hearing from her and others, soon!  Once again… another unpredictable week! I hope you are enjoying the Holiday Season!  Thank you for taking the time to listen!   Thanks for Listening and Subscribing! Also, for my blogs (my take on every episode) go to: http://www.innernorthstar.com (www.innernorthstar.com) and receive my free eBook with my appreciation for joining the tribe! Thank you so much for joining me on this episode. If you have some feedback you'd like to share. Leave a note in the comment section below! If you enjoyed this episode, please share it using the social media buttons you see to the left of this post. Also, https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-game-changer-podcast/id1045184666?mt=2&ls=1 (please leave an honest review for The Game Changer Podcast on iTunes)! Ratings and reviews are extremely helpful and greatly appreciated! They do matter in the rankings of the show, and I read each and every one of them. And while you’re there, don't forget to https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-game-changer-podcast/id1045184666?mt=2&ls=1 (subscribe to the show on iTunes) to get automatic updates! Until next time! Support this podcast

Walking through conflict well is the topic of todays conversation. Listen in as we discuss the root of every conflict, tools for regulating, triggers, understanding your communication style and tips for what might help to solve 80% of your conflicts.By listening to one another, and seeking some sense of unity, you can have success in utilizing these skills in your workplace, friendships, while parenting, and in your marriage.If you are wanting to get ahead and learn how to move through conflict in a healthier way, or are experiencing unhealthy conflict and are ready to learn a different way, consider reaching out to our trusted marriage counselors. www.livingwholehearted.com. Dr. Michelle, Meghan, Heidi, Dana and Jessica are all passionate about working with couples. Feel free to contact our assistant, Amber, at info@livingwholehearted.com if you need a personalized recommendation. She will be happy to help!Jeff and I also do marriage coaching at this point in our careers. If you are interested in working with one of us or going through our leadership cohorts, freel free to contact jeff@livingwholehearted.comWe are Jeff and Terra Mattson, a husband and wife team, and co-hosts of the Living Wholehearted Podcast. We are the founders of Living Wholehearted, a professional counseling, executive coaching, and organizational development firm outside Portland, Oregon, helping leaders live and lead with integrity. Our amazing team of professionals who have excellent character and competencies, are coming alongside leaders in the home, work and community, providing confidential and safe places for leaders, their families, and their teams. We co-authored the book, Shrinking the Integrity Gap: Between What Leaders Preach and Live, and are raising our two teen girls on 5 acres in the Willamette Valley of Oregon. We also founded Courageous Girls, a non-profit dedicated to helping moms walk alongside their daughters at every stage of their growing years (learn more at mycourageousgirls.com). Bridging the gap between Biblical truth, clinical expertise, and trauma-informed relational wisdom, we are currently engaged in executive coaching, organizational development, writing, speaking, and training pastors, counselors and leaders. We believe that when a leader lives and leads with integrity, everyone in their wake benefits. That's why we do what we do. Want to work with us or our team?Email Jeff at jeff@livingwholehearted.com or Terra at info@livingwholehearted.com.Take the CVI here https://www.livingwholehearted.com/cvi and learn your communication and conflict styles.Email jeff@livingwholehearted.com directly if you want to schedule an individual or martial coaching session around your CVI.Join the movement and connect with us. Go to http://www.livingwholehearted.com/We LOVE that you've decided to join us this week for the Living Wholehearted Podcast. We hope you enjoyed the conversation, tips, and resources to help you transform every relationship that matters most to you. If you think this will help someone you know, make sure you send it their way or share on socials. Tag us @living_wholehearted and @terramattson! Don't forget to FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss an episode and help spread the word by leaving us some stars on a review. Thanks for partnering with us to help more leaders, just like you, who want to live and lead with integrity at home, work and in the community. Go to livingwholehearted.com and sign up to receive our free leadership tips and updates delivered to you in our monthly newsletter. And, if you're a girl mom, check out mycourageousgirls.com.   Until next time, be the leader you would follow! Grateful for you,Jeff & Terra To connect with Jeff & Terra Mattson and Living Wholehearted, go to: INSTAGRAM@TerraMattson@Living_Wholehearted@MyCourageousGirls FACEBOOK@WeAreLivingWholehearted@MyCourageousGirls WEBSITESLivingWholehearted.comTerraMattson.com MyCourageousGirls.com RESOURCESShrinking the Integrity Gap Shrinking the Integrity Gap e-Course Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in GraceDear Mattsons Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters

What do we know to be true about digital devices and social media? Today we are talking as clinicians, executive coaches and parents about what the research is showing with regard to the impact that the digital world is having on us, our children and our teens.We are Jeff and Terra Mattson, a husband and wife team, and co-hosts of the Living Wholehearted Podcast. We are the founders of Living Wholehearted, a professional counseling, executive coaching, and organizational development firm outside Portland, Oregon, helping leaders live and lead with integrity. Our amazing team of professionals who have excellent character and competencies, are coming alongside leaders in the home, work and community, providing confidential and safe places for leaders, their families, and their teams. We co-authored the book, Shrinking the Integrity Gap: Between What Leaders Preach and Live, and are raising our two teen girls on 5 acres in the Willamette Valley of Oregon. We also founded Courageous Girls, a non-profit dedicated to helping moms walk alongside their daughters at every stage of their growing years (learn more at mycourageousgirls.com). Bridging the gap between Biblical truth, clinical expertise, and trauma-informed relational wisdom, we are currently engaged in executive coaching, organizational development, writing, speaking, and training pastors, counselors and leaders. We believe that when a leader lives and leads with integrity, everyone in their wake benefits. That's why we do what we do. Want to work with us or our team? Email Jeff at jeff@livingwholehearted.com or Terra at info@livingwholehearted.com.========================================================We LOVE that you've decided to join us this week for the Living Wholehearted Podcast. We hope you enjoyed the conversation, tips, and resources to help you transform every relationship that matters most to you. If you think this will help someone you know, make sure you send it their way or share on socials. Tag us @living_wholehearted and @terramattson! Don't forget to FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss an episode and help spread the word by leaving us some stars on a review. Thanks for partnering with us to help more leaders, just like you, who want to live and lead with integrity at home, work and in the community. Go to livingwholehearted.com and sign up to receive our free leadership tips and updates delivered to you in our monthly newsletter. And, if you're a girl mom, check out mycourageousgirls.com.   Until next time, be the leader you would follow! Grateful for you,Jeff & Terra To connect with Jeff & Terra Mattson and Living Wholehearted, go to: INSTAGRAM@TerraMattson@Living_Wholehearted@MyCourageousGirls FACEBOOK@WeAreLivingWholehearted@MyCourageousGirls WEBSITESLivingWholehearted.comTerraMattson.com MyCourageousGirls.com RESOURCESShrinking the Integrity Gap Shrinking the Integrity Gap e-Course Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in GraceDear Mattsons Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters